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2019.01.19 01:35 themanhimself2 ClassicSlicks: subreddit devoted to men’s vintage hairstyles.
Welcome to ClassicSlicks.This is a subreddit devoted to men’s classic/vintage hairstyles. We encourage you to post images of your hair and or old images of men with classic hairstyles. We also allow question or suggestions related to styling hair and hair products
2024.05.17 08:12 anonwantstobemore Worried about getting any kind of STD…please help if you can GRAPHIC
I’m writing this to hear if I should honestly be worried…let me get straight to the point…
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- I had unprotected oral sex with four men in my lifetime
- Been intimate and had relationships with 3 men in my lifetime
- When I’m intimate, I always have protected sex.
- I have a lot of pubic hair and get ingrown hairs a lot/they reappear because of it (I think). I now have two painless bumps/scars (they look like ingrown hairs and can possibly be ingrown hairs, boils, cysts, etc). one located outside on one of my vaginal lips and one inside the inner lip of my vagina near the opening (if you look at my post history I had one near my clitoris but it went away). Both I squeezed out puss and both ended up scaring.
- I bruise easily especially on my legs and arms. Don’t know if that has to do with any STDs. Probably just deficiency who knows.
- I have acne on my face, red patches that appear out of nowhere, and the skin on my face peels sometimes.
- I get anxious and always assume the worst case scenario when I feel something is off or I’m overthinking like I am now.
- Every time I poop, I stretch my anus to the point I open a cut (another thing that might have to do with deficiency) but better to ask just in case.
- Because I had sex today, I realized before my partner inserted himself into me that he might’ve rubbed the surface of my anus (the cut) before putting on the condom and I’m worried along with possibly getting pregnant as well (I asked on a different sub about the pregnancy).
2024.05.17 03:45 supercaloebarbadensi 2 questions for anyone who hijabs or wears headcover
salam
I want to start wearing hijab, but I have two questions:
Jazakallah
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I want to start wearing hijab, but I have two questions:
- What causes hijab hair loss? Is it the style of hair underneath? The hijab cap? A tight hijab style? Wearing hijab for too long?
- Is it safe wearing hijab in the US now? I live in a conservative city with some Zionists, and like 90% Christians. I am scared that I will be harassed, threatened, or attacked.
Jazakallah
2024.05.17 02:54 CrackleNP0p Tips on Styling Super Long Hair as a Trans Masc Person?
Hey! So I'm a gender-fluid trans-masc person. I was AFAB. I have a very complicated relationship with my gender as I am a very masculine personality but I am still very very attached to elements of my female identity and have even kept my very feminine birth name as I feel very connected to it.
I mention this because this has all led to me presenting in a rather androgynous way (which I'm very happy with). However, I have very long (about just below rib length) thick curly hair that places me more on the fem side (people are confident in assuming I use she/her because of it). I am super attached to my hair. It's really lovely and I've put a lot of effort into my curls and keeping it healthy. I've been growing it out for three years and it's grown to be a massive part of my identity.
I've had short hair in the past and I do not suit it. I have a very young face and shorter hair just highlights all of my young, feminine features. So I want to keep my hair long.
Onto the actual issue, I've scoured the internet and can't find anything on how to style hair as long as mine in a way that appears masculine. What men consider to be "long hair" is only about shoulder length and those styles just don't work on my hair. I know men with hair as long as mine with masculine hairstyles exist because I've seen them in person, but just can't find anything on the internet about it.
I know finding "more masculine styles" won't fix people assuming I use she/her pronouns. I've made my peace with the fact that if I insist on keeping my long hair and don't take T, people are going to assume I'm a woman. That's fine, I don't care. This is for me. So I can look in the mirror and just feel a little bit more masculine in the skin I've been given.
I know that was long-winded and it's probably a really niche issue but I thought if anyone is going to be lovely and helpful, it's the trans community.
Lots of love to you all!
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I mention this because this has all led to me presenting in a rather androgynous way (which I'm very happy with). However, I have very long (about just below rib length) thick curly hair that places me more on the fem side (people are confident in assuming I use she/her because of it). I am super attached to my hair. It's really lovely and I've put a lot of effort into my curls and keeping it healthy. I've been growing it out for three years and it's grown to be a massive part of my identity.
I've had short hair in the past and I do not suit it. I have a very young face and shorter hair just highlights all of my young, feminine features. So I want to keep my hair long.
Onto the actual issue, I've scoured the internet and can't find anything on how to style hair as long as mine in a way that appears masculine. What men consider to be "long hair" is only about shoulder length and those styles just don't work on my hair. I know men with hair as long as mine with masculine hairstyles exist because I've seen them in person, but just can't find anything on the internet about it.
I know finding "more masculine styles" won't fix people assuming I use she/her pronouns. I've made my peace with the fact that if I insist on keeping my long hair and don't take T, people are going to assume I'm a woman. That's fine, I don't care. This is for me. So I can look in the mirror and just feel a little bit more masculine in the skin I've been given.
I know that was long-winded and it's probably a really niche issue but I thought if anyone is going to be lovely and helpful, it's the trans community.
Lots of love to you all!
2024.05.17 02:27 MyLifeHurtsRightNow How to stay confident in dating world?
I spent over a year just working on myself. in that year i stopped shaving and stopped wearing a bra. both of these things have made me feel happier and more confident.
however, i’m hopping back into the dating world and i’m a little insecure. i only trim my pubic hair and don’t shave my legs nor armpits. i think a lot of the hairless rhetoric is founded in pornagraphy, an industry that disgusts me overall. i’m personally content with my body hair, but i’m nervous that others will find it disgusting. even some more “progressive” men, i’ve noticed, can be taken aback by it. what do i do to bolster my confidence, especially in the vulnerablility of sex. thanks all!
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however, i’m hopping back into the dating world and i’m a little insecure. i only trim my pubic hair and don’t shave my legs nor armpits. i think a lot of the hairless rhetoric is founded in pornagraphy, an industry that disgusts me overall. i’m personally content with my body hair, but i’m nervous that others will find it disgusting. even some more “progressive” men, i’ve noticed, can be taken aback by it. what do i do to bolster my confidence, especially in the vulnerablility of sex. thanks all!
2024.05.16 23:43 LordXamon Vanilla-friendly mod recommendations. QoL, performance, retextures, and more!
Let me share my 3000h of modded wisdom with you, my fellow vanilla comrades. My attempt here is to provide you with as many as possible improvements to the base game while keeping the style, balance, and content as vanilla as possible. As they say, when it works the best is when you don't realize it is there. I guarantee you that after playing for a while with these, you will no longer be able to tell what's from the base game and what's not.
You don't know how to mod? Maybe this very basic guide will help. Please, note that many mods come with options to tune up your experience. It is recommended you give them a look.
You can find the steam collection here. Be aware that some of these mods require the DLCs. You don't have the DLCs? Just don't use the mod.
Dependencies:
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You don't know how to mod? Maybe this very basic guide will help. Please, note that many mods come with options to tune up your experience. It is recommended you give them a look.
You can find the steam collection here. Be aware that some of these mods require the DLCs. You don't have the DLCs? Just don't use the mod.
Dependencies:
- Harmony + Huglibs. Required by so many mods, you may as well be done with it and always have them.
- Vanilla Expanded Framework. While not as radically necessary as the previous ones, it's still a dependency fairly common. And this one actually does cool things on its own, like loading new modded factions without having to start a new game.
- XML Extensions. You won't be able to access the options of some mods without this.
- Dub performance analyzer. Enable the optimizations and override options, you can ignore everything else. If you want to disable alerts, use rocketman.
- Rocketman. By default, it should be good enough. This mod also allows to disable alerts you may don't care about, like, dunno, tattered apparel or unhappy nudity. It is recommended to run adaptive move occasionally (in stat cache settings).
- Performance Optimizer. More hacker magic. If you don't like the UI changes, you can disable them in the options. This mod does more performance stuff aside from that, so use it anyway!
- Performance Fish. You will have to install this mod manually, since it's not available in the workshop. You will also need to install its dependencies, Fishery and Prepatcher. Please, be aware that at the present there's an issue in which linking storages crashes the game. However, this can be prevented by disabling "TryFindBestBetterStoreCellFor" in the options.
- Optimization Meats. Unless you really want dozens of different meat types for some weird role-play reason, this mod will reduce the bloat on your kitchens.
- Better Animal Tab
- Better Info Card
- Conduit Deconstruct. A button to exclusively dismantle power conduits.
- Disable Automatically Select Travel Supplies
- Improved Need Indicator
- Map Preview. You can reroll as well!
- Prepare Landing. You can search world tiles matching your conditions. Goes great with Map Preview.
- Medical Tab. An easy way to overview your colony health.
- More Harvest Designators! e.g. harvest only fully growth plants.
- ModDiff. Great improvement of the mod mismatch screen.
- Pharmacist Temporary Update. Instead of always using the best medicine, now your pawns can use the appropriate medicine for the situation. No longer will they spent glitterworld meds on scratches!
- Smart Turret Covering. Fixes an issue with turret covers.
- PawnTargetFix. So that the autotarget prioritizes the closest enemy.
- Poisoned Food Stack Fix (Fix). Fixes an issue with meal stacks.
- Priority Treatment Ressurected. Doctors will finally prioritize keeping your pawns alive over taking a nap. Disable the option that prevents injured pawns from performing surgery, it has issues.
- QualityBuilder. You can set up a target level for furniture, and your pawns will reconstruct it until it's achieved. If I remember correctly, it's enabled by default for all new furniture? You can turn that off in options.
- RPG Style Inventory Revamped. Much better looking inventory.
- Replace Stuff. Allows to directly replace buildings, without having to deconstruct first.
- Research Tree. A better research tree.
- RimHUD. The best mod of the whole list, it will save you A TON of clicks.
- RimSaves. Overhaul of the save menu.
- Show Known Techprints on the trade screen.
- Show mechanoid weapons on the info screen.
- Smarter Construction. No more babysitting pawns when building walls.
- Stack gap. By default, pawns constantly refill storages. With this mod, you can configure it so that storages are refiled only when they're empty.
- Sun Lamp Honesty. Fixes an issue with sun lamps
- Just Put It Over There. Traders will deliver the merchandise, instead of dropping it on the ground.
- Trade Ships Drop Spot. Mark the spot in which orbital traders will deliver the merchandise, instead on whenever they feel like it. Doesn't work inside animal pens.
- Trading Options. Configure how frequent you want the traders to be.
- WVC. More work modes for the mechanitor.
- Save Settings. Allows you to save and load storage, production, and clothes settings. Works cross-save!
- No Max Bills. Removes the bill cap on workbenches.
- Better ground-penetrating scanner
- Colored deep resources
- Common Sense. Feel free to configure however you like it. I prefer it like this.
- Dubs Mint Menus. Improvements to a bunch of menus.
- Better Pawn Control. Improved management policies.
- Animals Logic. A lot of useful animal-related improvements. Disable the meat option if you're using Optimization Meats.
- Non uno Pinata. Pawns don't drop items when downed. Configurable.
- Bulk Smelting will save you precious time.
- Stonecutting Extended. The same as the previous mod, but for stones.
- Electric Stonecutting Table. To speed up the stonecutting even more.
- Faster Smoothing, a must for all mountain/underground out there.
- Do Your F****** Research. You can order pawns to research.
- Go the Fork to Sleep. You can order pawns to sleep.
- Meal Radius. Configure how far pawns will search for a table to eat.
- Home radius. Configure the size of the automatic home area.
- Smarter Visitors. Visitors will leave if things get dangerous.
- Custom Guilt Duration. Executions in vanilla are a pain because the guilty status goes away too fast. Now you can configure it.
- Dress Patients. Allows dressing of downed pawns.
- Way Better Romance
- Hunters Use Melee
- Injured Carry. Allows to rescue not downed pawns, no longer you have to wait for the bleeding to down them.
- Not My Fault. The player is no longer responsible for unrelated deaths on the map.
- Deep Storage + Simple Storage. Improves stockpile management.
- Pick Up And Haul. Improved hauling.
- While You're Up. Complement for the previous mod. Keep in mind that these two mods will trivialize part of the challenge by freeing a lot of time from your colonists. Just, dunno, turn up the difficulty a notch or something.
- Trading Spot. Marks where you want traders to stop on your map. It's a must if you use a desired path mod (I don't know if they have been updated to 1.5 yet).
- Vanilla Base Generation Expanded. Improved NPC base generation.
- Cut plants before building
- Psychic Harmonizer Lag Fix
- Fellow Ideology players, you're welcome.
- Dubs Bad Hygiene. Plumbing!
- Vanilla Temperature Expanded. Lot of useful temperature-related buildings, as well as proxy heat, a very cool mechanic. Some buildings are redundant with the previous mod, just don't research the ones that you don't want.
- Death Rattle + Biosculpter Patch + Life Support. Changes the behavior of mortal wounds so they're not instakills.
- Dynamic Flooding. Inundations!
- Some Things Float. I recommend disabling the chance of pawns loosing their footing.
- Layered Wall Destruction. Walls aren't just destroyed, they become debris. Note that there's an issue in which the debris will spawn home areas.
- Yayo's Combat. Combat overhaul. You can disable the ammunition system if it's not your thing.
- Character Editor. Allows you to edit and save/load pawns.
- RunAndGun. Allows to use guns while moving, with penalties to accuracy. Don't enable the dual wield or search and destroy modules, they won't work.
- EPOE Forked. Fills in the gaps of surgery content in the base game. I recommend disabling the additional workstations and enabling direct crafting only. Less micromanagement, more fun.
- Beautiful Jade
- Almostthere1.5. Caravans no longer go to sleep two hours away from their destination.
- Stepping Stones. A more reasonable research path.
- Dubs Break Mod makes it so that severe mental breaks require severe negative thoughts.
- Fists Aren't Made of Steel. Reduces the unarmed melee damage, making prison breaks and tantrums much less frustrating.
- No Burn Metal. Sets the flammability of metal buildings, and others, to zero.
- Prisoners Fear Turrets
- Realistic Rooms Rewritten. Allows to tweak how pawns perceive room sizes.
- Ugh You Got Me. Social fights stop when pawns are sufficiently hurt or in pain. Doesn't affect masochists or psychopaths.
- Better Pyromania. Way less frustrating.
- Mortar Accuracy. Improves mortar mechanics.
- Graze up. Grazing rebalanced.
- Better Camp Loot
- Snap Out! Wardens can try to calm down pawns on mental breaks. "Try" is the keyword here.
- Peer Pressure. Opinions matter when converting someone.
- Better Gene Inheritance
- Vanilla Genes Rebalanced
- Gene Trader. Getting xenogenes it's hard, this should easy the burden a bit.
- Sparkling Worlds. A bit of everything.
- Vanilla Traits Expanded. More traits.
- Vanilla Backstories Expanded. More backstories.
- Vanilla Chemfuel Expanded. Rimefeller but with less bloat.
- Vegetable Garden. More farmable plants.
- Vanilla Persona Weapons Expanded + More Persona Traits. More persona weapon variety.
- More Ideological Words + More Religious Origins. More ideology variety
- Events
- Buildings
- Blooming hedges
- Panels & Frames
- Simply More Bridges
- Thrones plus
- Tribal Crib
- Utility Columns
- Medieval deathrest coffin
- Metallic Batteries. You can ignore the error, it'll work anyway.
- Reinforced Walls
- ReSplice: Core
- Gear
- Interaction Bubbles + SpeakUp. Better social interactions.
- Enemy Self Preservation. Enemies severely hurt may try to flee.
- No One Left Behind. Fleeing enemies try to rescue their downed allies.
- Memorable Auroras. They now have a meaningful -if still small- impact.
- Sand Castles. The snowmen of the beaches. Or the deserts.
- Sandstorms
- Graying Hair. So that hair goes gray gradually with age.
- Childrens Drawings
- ReGrowth. Overhaul of biomes and much more!
- My Little Planet. If you're tired of supercontinents, but still want a smaller board, set planet coverage to 100%, and use the new planet size slider instead.
- Geological Landforms. New map shapes.
- Biome Transitions. More organic border biomes.
- Death Acidifiest. Vanilla death acidifier is lame, this is much cooler.
- Graphics
- Yayo's Animation
- Trait and Backstory Icons
- Vanilla Ideology Expanded - Icons and Symbols
- Vanilla Ideology Expanded - Relics and Artifacts
- Vanilla Races Expanded - Custom Icons
- Bionic icons
- Spectacular Skullspike. They're rotable now!
- Muzzle Flash
- More Mini-Horns
- Better Explosions
- Better Vanilla Masking
- Graphic Chair Overhaul 2
- Not Overhead Meal
- Graphics Settings+
- Show Hair With Hats or Hide All Hats. This one takes a while to set up to your preferences, but oh it's so worth it.
- Cuter Biotech Cat/Dog Ear Replacer. If you don't like the meat-colored animal ears from Biotech, this is for you!
- Blood Animations
- Gunplay. Trails can break some mods. If that happens, disable trails in options.
- Retextures
- Parka Retexture
- Retextured Apparel
- Retextured Sculptures
- Vanilla Beards Retextured
- Vanilla Hair Retextured
- Vanilla Pawns Retextured
- Marbled Marble
- Essentials: Stone (the stat changes won't work)
- Vanilla Textures Expanded - Variations
- Vanilla Textures Expanded
- I Hate Daylilies
- Biotech Mechanoid Retexture
- Tastier Vanilla Clothes
- Van's Steel
- Glowing Healroot
- More Vanilla Textures
- Audio
- Ambient Rim
- Realistic Human Sounds. Not very vanilla, but certainly very funny.
- Actually Vanilla Music Expansion
- P-Music
- Hairs
2024.05.16 14:53 No_Funny3533 Miyuki Miyamoto/ Yomi / Jeong Nahyeon Scam Network Sites JPNDATE CUDATE DATESTEADY SAYHIUP
 | UPDATED INFO throughout it. submitted by No_Funny3533 to Romance_Scamer [link] [comments] They have a new Scam Website: https://www.datesteady.com/ (Reuses JPNDATE assets even) I think she Chinese and Korean. They try to scam me a second time, her friend (I just wanted real love) Yomi/ Miyuki Miyamoto/ Jeong Nahyeon Written Before: There is this dangerous woman (same person) running many fake Chinese Romance scam websites, fake Instagram pages, tik tok, We chats, and many Chinese porn sites. It is the same person, she uses her looks with pictures and videos to steal money from men. She has many names she goes by, probably even more than I found. She also uses bots to get fake likes and weird Anime filters to try to look like an idol. She has scam artist female friends also I found. She the leader. I know a lot of scammers steal from other people's identities but that is not the case here. This is the same person as the scammer. My story will explain it. As well as this person has pictures of the same person you can’t find anywhere else on the Internet. Even if you do a Reverse Face image search. They said information that match to an unbelievable level. The person who Scammed me: Has Many names (Such As) And a talent for speaking many languages
https://www.instagram.com/gracegracemei/ Email: [miyukilovee@outlook.com](mailto:miyukilovee@outlook.com) (Something about BlessCeline Lovee) Skype ID: live:.cid.737fb9ac2ad5655c
(Make Sense) u/mingmei1344 https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ https://www.facebook.com/liuliu.meimingmei (Owner of aiu_agency since 2015) u/aiu_agency https://www.instagram.com/aiu_agency/
Hotel Connected: SHILLA STAY Gwanghwamun Her Scam Artist friends who work for both Ai_U Agency and JPNDATE CUDATE (That I found) Vynnie_nat : https://www.instagram.com/vynnie_nat/#jiejierui_ngc: https://www.instagram.com/jiejierui_ngc/Veravera_zhangg: https://www.instagram.com/veravera_zhangg/Elle_owo_elle : https://www.instagram.com/elle_owo_elle/Qiqi_shenglim : https://www.instagram.com/qiqi_shenglim/Myemye_owo_ : https://www.instagram.com/myemye_owo_/Her Friends that are connected somehow but not sure how yet. They appear everywhere with the fake accountsRiyandiwilliam : https://www.instagram.com/riyandiwilliam/https://preview.redd.it/2d0g7b2las0d1.jpg?width=400&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f25ee7d014b3ae338612c980a5db88eca5ef6cb5Summary: Jpndate.com is a dangerous Romance scam. All the women are paid actors for the website from China. They will try to get into a relationship with you very fast, don’t fall for it. They are milking you for money like if you're a cow. They will threaten to kill you or your family if you call out their scam. They might also say they will sue you. If you stop paying them, they will text you very little. They will never video call you face-to-face. Jpndate.com has a sister scam website from the same people called sayhiup.com. When you buy something on Jpndate the payment goes to Cudate Limited, so that site must be part of the scam also. There is a company in China doing all type of illegal and immoral practices. Their name is Zhengzhou Zhongzhiqi Technology Co., Ltd. / 郑州市中之祺科技有限公司 . They have their main technology business but they also run a list of many scam websites stealing money from American men, Asian, and European men. Such as Cudate, JPNDate, SayhiUp. These are romance scam sites where all the women work for the company. If you make a female account it will pend forever. Only men get approved. They claimed before to be an American-owned company then I exposed them now they claim to be Dutch. Their servers are all in China. They never filed paperwork with any foreign country. They are none of these the Chinese pretending to run many dating sites when in fact it’s all fake. They claim to be in nations their not. They have fake terms of service. I used PayPal before I didn't know it was a scam. I paid in dollars, but they refused to refund me till I told PayPal. PayPal made them. Then they refused to pay me the total amount they wanted to pay me on yuan when I paid dollars. I report them to FTC. They also try to hack my laptop for tell the government the truth about them. They probably get funds from the Communist Party government. They are very very bad people. Please look into it or forward this message somewhere where it can be looked into. Pretends to be a legit dating site but feel more like a pay-to-use website for fake love. All women here are paid actors for the site. The same few women have multiple profiles pretending to be different people. Funny part is anytime you call out JPNDate bs they change their terms of service. Screenshot everything people. They have a fake page saying their trying to stop scammers, it all bs they are the scammers. Host of JPNDate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) My Story: (Update): I know it is the same person, They told me in a text message. Do you like Asian women? Real Asian women? These ones are real! I know who they are. Hi! This is Mark Faraday talking to you. This is my story of how a website named JPNDate Idols scammed me out of 4000 American dollars. First, I was on Japan Cupid, a dating site. On Japan Cupid, no one can chat unless one of you has a membership. I bought a 1-week membership. Within 5 minutes to 10 minutes, a woman nicknamed Yomi from Japan messaged me; this should have been a red flag for me. We talked for a while. She said she was interested in me. She asked me if I could move over to the dating site JPNDate because she paid for membership there and not Japan Cupid. She also promised to delete her account on Japan Cupid after we changed sites. She does delete her account off Japan Cupid. Unlike a normal scam artist, who may only have 1 or 2 photos, she has several photos on her profile. My trust in her grows a bit seeing that. She then privately messaged me several more photos of her. She asked me for some photos, which I sent. She then sends back happy and heartfelt emojis. She told me she doesn’t date Asian men anymore because they were violent to her in the past and her last boyfriend cheated on her. She talked about how she didn’t want to fight with me. She also said we could talk about any topic. She would compliment me often, as I did for her. Of course, on my profile page, I try to post my best pictures. Throughout my life, I have had many different hairstyles. She even mentioned this and got very happy and asked if I was a hairstylist. The spam of talking between us was from January 20th, 2024, to March 24th, 2024. On JPNDate, there is an upgrade system. You need Blue Diamond to chat with others. Crown to send videos. Blue Diamond is 20 dollars per month, and Crown is 80 dollars per month. I got the Blue Diamond membership at first. It showed her with it too. After a day or two, she asked me to upgrade like she did to the Crown membership so she could send me a video. I upgraded it, and she did actually send me a video. All pictures and the video match the same person and the same face. Some pictures were in different locations, and some were like three different pictures in the same place. We then later buy a 6-month Crown membership for each other because it is cheaper than 1 month at a time. I bought it for her, and she bought it for me. At this point, I start to believe. This person was giving me all their time. They reply very often, and their texting time was the same as Japan timezones every single day. They spoke not only English but also Japanese almost fluently. However, they did let me know that they're still learning English and sometimes use a translator. She let me know that this website has something called a mall. This should have been red flag number 2. You pay 1 American dollar for each gold point. Paypal is the only thing that works. When we started dating, she said it was normal for couples in Japan to send each other gifts. It was a symbol of forever love in Japan, she claimed. As an American, I didn’t know if this was true. I googled it and couldn’t get a clear answer. She said whatever I bought her, she would buy me as well. She asked if I liked necklaces or charms. I said anything was fine. She wanted me to pick up a necklace. At first, she picked up a $1,000 necklace from the site mall and asked me. I said no; that's way too much money for that. She said how about a 300-dollar Jade Romance charm. She told me to get her white one; she would get me the green one. I questioned if she was legit. She started crying. She somehow convinced me at the time that she was legit again. I did buy it. A few weeks later, I did receive the overpriced Green Jade Romance love charm to my address from her. I never told her which day exactly my tracking information said it would come to my house, but I asked her, and her tracking date was the same week as mine. By the way something almost the same as this necklace is 12 dollars on Amazon. It also broke when I got it in the mail. Probably cost them 2 cent to make. For the next few days, we had a wonderful, happy conversation. It is late January, and I know Valentine's Day is coming. I offered to get her flowers. I got her flowers and chocolate at a very high price of multiple hundred dollars. She then gets so happy. She told me many times how she wanted to go to America and find me. We talked about many topics for several more days. She told me she worked in an office in Tokyo. Yomi told me her real name was Miyuki Miyamoto. Which is very funny because I told her before I was a Nintendo fan, and this is the same last name as Mario and Zelda Creator. She also said she had her apartment to herself, which is true; she does own an apartment. She talked about how life is stressful right now in Japan. She claimed to have grown up in the Japanese town of Nagano, Japan. She also said she had gone to a university in Tokyo with a major in computer science. She wanted to visit America in July for 15 days when she had her time off. July is a normal time for people to get off in Japan for vacation, so I thought nothing of it. I told her that I was from a smaller town in California, but I lived not far from San Francisco. I told her how my town is quiet and how I could see mountains outside my house. She said she wanted a peaceful life and that life in Tokyo is too fast. And she always had great things to say about every picture I sent. We also talk about going on dates. I asked most of the questions, but she did ask me questions as well. I started to ask her a lot of questions about Japan. Like if she visited Himeji Castle, she said no. However, I did say yes to visiting Mount Fuji. I should have asked for a photo of this, but I didn’t. She was very happy; she told me very many topics about Japan. We even briefly talked about anime. She told me she liked Digimon, Dragon Ball Z, One Piece, and Detective Conan. This information is important later. We also talked about how both of us were big Disney fans growing up. One day she told me, how work was busy today. I told her it was okay and we didn’t need to talk today. She did, however, still text me a little bit that day. This was the only day during our whole time talking when she was super busy. There is nothing wrong with this; all humans get busy. I decided to spend my evening drawing a picture of me and Yomi on a date to surprise her. When I sent it to her, she did not react. This was a red flag for me. I tried to convince myself that she just didn’t like drawings that much. I know I sound really dumb right here, but whoever I was talking to is very smart and knows a lot of things. We started talking a few days later about the idea of meeting and going on dates together. I know that the yen is weak against the American dollar right now. I told them I would pay for anything they wanted when they were in America because I was in love. This was a big, big, big mistake. They then asked if I could give them 1500 dollars to buy a plane ticket. Never give money to people you never meet in real life, folks. Don’t be dumb like me. Turns out the ticket was actually 2100, so they asked for another 500 dollars the next day, claiming their friend let them borrow the money, and they paid the difference. They did show me a picture of a plane ticket. With the name Yomi and the correct airports in Tokyo and San Francisco. This gave me more trust in them; I got a lot of photos, videos, and even a picture of a plane ticket. At some point, I talked to them about social media. They claim to only have Skype and Line. I found it very hard to believe a woman in her 20s wasn’t on Instagram or Tik Tok. I went on Instagram and typed Yomi, and I found a Yomi who looked just like her. This made me think: why did she lie? What confused me is that all the pictures on her Instagram were different from the ones she sent me, other than one image that was the same. Meaning that the images were not clearly stolen from there. I looked up JPNDate online; there isn’t much info on this website (Right Now), other than one reddit forum from 1 year ago. Someone said something about being scammed by an IDOL on this site. They also said the website wasn’t in Japan but in China. I was wondering why I never saw new females joining the website; it was the same 23 pages worth of them. I wanted to test the website to see if it was legit. I made another account, a fake male account with AI artwork. It was approved in one second. I then made a fake female account; it said pending approval. It has now been 2 weeks since I made that account, and it still says pending approval. This means all the women on this website have to be fake actors. There is also a setting on JPNDate to see who has been online last or which accounts are the oldest. When I asked weeks before, Yomi claimed she had been on this website only for a short time. Her oldest picture was dated October 20, 2023. Yet she has the sixth-oldest account on JPNDate, according to the website. The reddit forum I talked about before was over a year old. When I was on this website for a month, at least 10 other women tried to text me. There was this one profile of a woman from Taiwan, age 20. She texted me three times in one month. When I joined, her age was listed as 20, and at some point, she changed her age to 25 on her profile. I ignored all these women. This proves again that all these women are fake. I do think they are women based on how they type, but they are not truthful like they act like they are. As I write this, I just realized this is Yomi's sister; it matches the other Yomi account's sister tag. I knew this website wasn’t telling the truth. I found the JPNDate IP address and tracked it to a server in Hong Kong, China, hosted by Alibaba cloud servers. Reddit was right; the website is Chinese. I took pictures of the website code just in case. I asked Yomi if she knew Alibaba. Then she asked if I’m going to China—a very strange follow-up question. At this point, I was confused. Who is Yomi? I couldn’t find anything about Miyuki Miyamoto, only Yomi. On Yomi Instagram, she speaks Chinese, not Japanese. I started to think there are no Japanese women on this website like they claim to be. She does speak Japanese, though. I started using more than 10 different software programs to track who Yomi was. I found like 1000 pictures of an idol, WeChat model, singer, dancer, person on endless Chinese dating sites, and a valiant professional gamer part of the AI’U agency for over 8 years. I found two other Instagram accounts with Yomi's face. Another account in Chinese with an idol name other than Yomi also had a Facebook page. The Chinese account has a post about her going to Australia in early 2024, where she is typing in English words. I also found an account where she speaks only Korean on Instagram. I also found a tik-tok where someone dances and looks 100% the same as Yomi, to whom I’m talking. The part that is crazy is that none of the images are 100% the same, but the person is the same in all of them. This shocked me; I follow all the accounts. I saw the stories daily to see who this person was. Her Yomi account is just her normal pictures and atm company or something. Her Korean account is about traveling to Singapore, Spain, and South Korea. She also posts a lot about Disney toys here. When I talked to the scammer about Disney, I had no idea about this. At this point, I knew that many men had been scammed out of money for fake love, not just me. These women are real women. However, there are actors pretending to be in love. They will crush your heart and call you names after a few weeks if you don’t buy their stuff. It has to be from JPNdate Mall only, nowhere else. JPNdate Mall prices are crazy high. I am not sure if the point of the website is just for money or if it is actually for women to study English or what. Chinese women, pretending to be Japanese (most of them), that have connections to Korean music and gaming on professional teams. Man, what a hell of a story this is. This sounds like a Hollywood movie, but it's real, or at least partly. At this point, everything I say seems to be true based on what I know. Yomi told me early on that she had one older sister and one younger brother. It seems like she is actually a twin, and she is the younger sister. Yomi claims to be 25, but I think she is closer to 27 or 28 based on finding a listing of her work in 2015 at Twitch Gaming. You have to be 18 or older to work at Twitch gaming, unless your parents sign things. When I showed the pictures I found to Yomi on JPNdate, she played the victim card on me. Saying she thinks I’m a liar and she wants to break up. Then she gave me her Skype account to try to prove it was legit, and all the other images and accounts were stolen and fake. Her Skype name is Rose, with a One Piece picture. She sent me many voice clips, crying, trying to convince me that she was real. I put them in software, and the voice was 30% human, 70% AI. Clearly, a woman is changing her Chinese or Korean voice to sound Japanese. A PC gamer would know how to do this; they do it all the time to troll. Yomi told me she didn’t play video games anymore, but I found a picture that wasn’t that old of a woman who looked the same as her; she had a Nintendo Switch with a white OLED in it. Btw it’s a known fact that Yomi uses software to cheat in the Pc FPS games. I can’t let Yomi, her sister, and her idol friends scam men for their time and money. Yomi Chiense's name is Vera Yuanxin (维拉). Her twin sister goes by veravera_zhangg. Yomi “deleted her profile” when I exposed her. But Yomi is still there with no pictures. Two they clearly have other accounts with people who look like she just changed hairstyle, talking and trying to scam other men. Remember when I said the anime part was important? On Yomi's Korean account, she has a friend with whom she talks about Digimon. She gave him a Disney toy. She told me she wanted to cosplay a fox; his profile is a fox. There is just so much proof that these are the same people. Later someone hit me up on Reddit from the Phillippines and told me how the same person Yomi scammed them. How for months Yomi promise them so many things. Then when they said it came to going on the plane to visit him they said they were sick or dying or something. Yomi also made a fake Instagram pretending to be Joe Biden and sent me a friend invite. I messaged and it was so funny how bad it was on their part. I said “Yomi are you trolling me?” then they deleted their account. This was on April 6th, 2024. Yomi tries so hard but use a lot of cheap things that are clearly fake like ai artwork, bots for like at ai_u agency, and fake profiles where she comments herself and attacks anyone who calls her out fairly. After exposing Jpndate they Ip ban my address lol. Then on social media joke about attacking me. If you call out their BS they threaten your family and yourself. Just stay away from all these sites if you're going to date online use well-known legit sites. 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2024.05.16 09:14 not_so_lucky13 My (32f) coworker (34f) may like me, how do I tell?
I (32F) have a coworker (34F) and we have worked together for few years now. She has always been a very private, shy person and when I have invited to hang out one on one in the past she would nicely turn me down. She would agree to go places in a group of friends, but never just the two of us. Recently we have started spending more time together outside of work (just the two of us) because she seems suddenly interested in my hobbies. Anything I invite her to do she has been saying yes to. We do like to do some of the same things, but she is willing to also try hobbies that I just enjoy. I was so excited at first because I don't have many friends and it was a real confidence booster to have someone interested in me. Now, I am beginning to wonder if she has feelings for me because I am starting to pick up on a romantic vibe or if it is all just made up in my head. We have never talked about her preference for men/women and I don't feel comfortable just out right asking her about it. She has always dressed more on the masculine side and has a very short hairstyle, but I know that doesn't mean anything in terms of sexuality. I don't want to talk to anyone about this because I am so scared of it getting back to her somehow and ruining our friendship.
Some signs she gives me that make me think she might like me are: holding intense eye contact when we talk, wanting to spend more time together outside of work, really opening up to me about herself when we are alone (which she has previously never done), remembering small details about me and asking lots of questions about my life. She also asked me recently to go with her on hike that was 6 hours away so we spent nearly an entire day together (something we have never done outside of work). Those things might not mean anything other than she is trying to be a good friend, but in my mind I am starting to feel like they mean something else. Especially since our previous interactions have been limited to talking in a group setting. I need advice on how can I figure out if she likes me as more than a friend without completely ruining the friendship or is that even possible. Should I even try or just let it remain a mystery. I am hoping to find a stealthy way to figure it out without having to be so blunt about it.
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Some signs she gives me that make me think she might like me are: holding intense eye contact when we talk, wanting to spend more time together outside of work, really opening up to me about herself when we are alone (which she has previously never done), remembering small details about me and asking lots of questions about my life. She also asked me recently to go with her on hike that was 6 hours away so we spent nearly an entire day together (something we have never done outside of work). Those things might not mean anything other than she is trying to be a good friend, but in my mind I am starting to feel like they mean something else. Especially since our previous interactions have been limited to talking in a group setting. I need advice on how can I figure out if she likes me as more than a friend without completely ruining the friendship or is that even possible. Should I even try or just let it remain a mystery. I am hoping to find a stealthy way to figure it out without having to be so blunt about it.
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2024.05.16 01:15 lost_library_book (New update) I’m married to a woman who acts like a teenage girl [The Ballad of Bret Hart]
Originally chronicled here.
I am not the OOP. OOP is u/Lost_Beginning_2824
This was originally posted in TrueOffMyChest
2 updates
(recovered via pushpull)
Original post - February 6th, 2024
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
2nd Update - March 8th, 2024
Trigger warning: mention of domestic violence situation
I’m married to a woman who acts like a teenage girl – February 6th, 2024
My wife behaves like a teenage girl and I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
This is just a rant. Curious to know how many full grown adults behave the way my wife does. I’d say out of all of the adult women I know, like friends, relatives, wives of my friends, none of them behave this way unless they keep it a closely guarded secret.
Editing right here to add that my wife is in her 30s, for context.
My wife is always obsessed with somebody, a man or sometimes multiple men at one time. Usually there is one or two main focuses at a time. When I talk obsessed I mean obsessed like a teenage girl or maybe even preteen girl would be. I’ve seen pictures of her bedroom when she was that age and they were literally wallpapers in posters of her favorite guys. That’s totally normal for a 13 year old girl. She still behaves that way as a woman in her 30s. Granted, our bedroom walls aren’t wallpapered in posters but they probably would be if I allowed it.
Her obsessions have ranged from rock stars, actors, non-entertainment industry public figures. It’s like one day she hasn’t even heard of the guy in question and the next day she’s super fan #1 and knows just about everything there is to know about him. She will read and watch everything there is to watch about the man. She will bring him up in every conversation. She will adopt parts of him into her own personality. She will suggest things that make it clear to me that she wants me to adopt characteristics of these men as part of my appearance or personality. She will openly admit to me that she’s masturbated over the guy multiple times in one day.
When she finds a new man to obsess over, she puts the others in her little stable of men who she always has a place for in her heart and in her fantasies, so they never really go away. The new man just takes center stage and becomes the main focus of almost her entire life.
So the current obsession is so strange to me. Never saw this one coming, but leave it to her to always find somebody new to fall in love with. The intensity that she has during these periods - it’s honestly like she falls in love with these men.
I’m laughing so hard just typing this all. Her current obsession is Bret Hart, former pro wrestler. This woman had never watched wrestling before in her life. Always thought that stuff was below her. And now she’s obsessed with this former pro-wrestler. She watched one show about him, for reasons I’m not aware of, and I could tell almost instantly where it was headed. I thought “here we go…” So now the Bret Hart obsession is in full swing. Has she already dropped close to $1000 in vintage Bret Hart shirts on eBay? Of course. Bought all the stickers and magnets and all sorts of other stupid crap she can find? Yep. Does she send me Bret Hart YouTube clips all.day.long when she’s supposed to be working? Yes she does.
So, I better get to work brushing up on my Bret Hart knowledge and tag lines. This is the key to getting laid when it comes to her. I’m used to this by now. It’s just not something that I can easily explain to anyone I know.
I mean, there’s are things I’m a fan of, but she is next level. I can’t think of anyone I know who is her age and acts like this. She was voted most likely to grow up and become a groupie when she was in high school, so this is absolutely nothing new for her. Sigh.
Many are lighthearted in the comments
plastic_Schedule_891
I mean he's the best there is, was and ever will be so that one makes sense at least .
You don’t think I’m hearing that 10 times a day now?
I better start planning that trip to Calgary.
Limerence is mentioned
poopchutethemoon
Yeah my bouts of limerence have been with people I’ve dated but reading that made me realize that I was very much being obsessive and it was totally all consuming. Glad it’s over honestly. Those feelings are exhausting.
Very interesting to hear you say the feelings are exhausting. It’s like a full time job for my wife, so I could see that. She told me she’s at work with her door closed pretending to be working, but she’s really watching Bret Hart videos on YouTube. She can’t even focus on her job.
OOP reveals more of the life he’s signed up for in the comments
get-bread-not-head
You've pretended to act like other men for 20 years?!
Damn dude, I hope you're finding ways to accept it and cope. That sounds rough, having to be someone else to have sex... stay strong king
Nah, I just learn their catchphrases or gain some deep fan knowledge that’ll impress her or maybe perfect a vocal impersonation of them that I can drop at the opportune time. The vocal impersonations work the best as far as making her like me and being like “ok, wanna have sex now?”
another_canoe
But what do you guys actually share *together*? That's not related to the obsession of the season? (I'm not going to even bother asking if she's tried to learn about any of your hobbies/interests).
NGL, this is all pretty grim to me, my man....and I'm someone who loves having a partner who is passionate about things and nerds out.
I fear that you've spent so long with her infatuations steamrolling over your own interests and preferences that you have convinced yourself that getting attention-by-proxy as your main source of validation from your SPOUSE is a healthy way to live.
If I told you that I was big into anime and Japanese RPGs and the only way I get interested in doing it with my actual wife is if she adopts the catch phrases /personality characteristics of my latest "waifu", would you feel some concern for my wife's mental health?
I'm also wondering about this spending....
She’s pretty dismissive of my interests and hobbies. I’ve told her I’d like her to try to pretend to show a little more interest sometimes. I make an effort to show real interest in her stuff and she does not do the same. I’m very into music and I do geek out over guitars and gear and things like that and she couldn’t tell you anything about any of the guitars I own other than “he has a blue one, he has a red one. “ We do love some of the same bands. Of course she wants to fuck the band members and I just want to talk about the chord progression on my favorite guitar tracks, but it’s close enough. We like a lot of the same movies and that sort of thing. We have the same sense of humor and can keep each other laughing for ages. We have a lot of the same views on life and on the world in general.
I don’t know, we just get each other I guess.
I would be concerned about the waifu thing, but I guess in my case she always likes guys who I think are pretty cool anyway. She has good taste, at least. If she has to be obsessing over some other guy constantly at least she does it over guys I can respect on some level.
Regarding the spending, I spend way more than she does. Only difference is it’s not usually fan merch I’m buying. But she tolerate my spending when it comes to stuff like guitar gear. She rolls her eyes and reprimands me but she tolerates it and just knows I won’t stop. I’m the same when it comes to her fan stuff. I get it, she wants the vintage 1993 Bret Hart shirt that costs hundreds…not a modern shirt that just anyone could go online and buy for $25 right now. She wants the cool, rare stuff. I’m the same with my guitars so I guess it’s like we understand each other in some way. I think it’s weird to become a fan of somebody and 2 days later drop thousands on them though. At least my money pit is consistent.
I think we both feel like we’re the only person who will semi understand and tolerate all of this stuff from each other
Not included here, but in several comments, OOP definitely brings up his wife’s looks as a positive in the relationship and he finds her antics at times amusing or even attractive.
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
I recently wrote about my wife suddenly discovering former pro-wrestler Bret “The Hitman” Hart one day after never even knowing of his existence, experienced love at first site, and is now even deeper than love with him then she was a month ago.
Tonight, I experienced a good hour of her sobbing, literal sobs, after watching the Bret Hart A&E biography. “I just love him so much. I love him with all my heart. I don’t want any more bad things to happen to him. Also, I’m very jealous he’s not my husband.”
She also went from not wanting any kids to suddenly wanting a baby so she can name it Bret (a girl or a boy, doesn’t matter…they will be named Bret). And she almost had me convinced, but I blame that on the heat of the moment.
She’s bought all sorts of clothes just like his. My wife now dresses like Bret Hart in and outside of the ring.
The past few days she’s been acting really annoyed with me. Finally I’m like “Wtf am I doing wrong?” I bought you Bret Hart stuff for your birthday! I call you Mrs. Bret Hart now, even though you’re my wife. I even sent you flowers at work from Bret. I mean that was supposed to get me points because she knew they were from me and I was playing into her obsession which she’s now apparently shared with everyone she works with. They’ve bought her a giant Bret Hart wall decal for her office.
Ok, so I did forget our anniversary which was very recently. Totally forgot it. Then again, so did she. She was too busy masturbating over Bret Hart to remember our wedding anniversary. I mean bad husband points for me obviously but all the birthday gifts had to have made up for it. I mean, I even ordered a Bret Hart birthday banner and got her a Bret Hart themed birthday cake as if she were a 7 year old boy in the year 1994.
So why is she acting so annoyed lately? Why does she act like she hates me and can’t stand to even be in the same room as me? She finally admits…I’m not Bret Hart. None of her obsession have ever been this bad. She’s seriously threatening me with divorce now because I’m not Bret Hart! She “just wants a guy like that.” She had to go walk the dog today and cry over it, how much she hates me and wishes she was married to Bret Hart. Oh fuck me you want a guy like your dad because that’s what Bret Hart is like…exactly like her dad, the same look, the same hair, the same damn age.
I told her I think she should get checked out for autism or some other sort of disorder. Her obsessions have never been this bad. She should make an appointment now because the waitlist is long. She just laughed. There’s nothing wrong with her. She just has different taste in men now, according to her.
Some comments
psychick
Therapist here - she needs to see a psychiatrist. This is mental illness to the extreme. Either she goes, or you leave. This is ultimatum territory. And, stop giving into her obsession. It makes it worse.
nualt42
Man, when she threatens divorce, take it. Jump at the chance.
Hell, sit, be a good boy and offer your fucking paw if that’s what it takes to get treated to an exit strategy. Don’t worry about dignity, sounds like you gave that up a long time ago.
She’s even looked up the divorce process for where we live and says we can be amicable about everything. She assures me she’s not looking to take any thing that is rightfully mine. She just wants a clean break.
Sophie3546
I’m surprised he even lasted this long. Calling her “Ms. Bret Hart” …..I can’t even fathom.
Excuse me, it’s MRS Bret Hart, not Ms.
NEW UPDATE - March 8th, 2024
Hi, you might remember me as the guy whose wife was obsessed with JFK (35th President of the United States), then experienced a world wind romance with former WWF pro-wrestler Bret Hart (the best there is, the best there was, and the best there ever will be), but now she’s met a new man. I thought the Bret Hart obsession was the worst one yet. Never has she threatened divorce or told me she hated me because I wasn’t the object of her desire. Luckily, that was a relatively quick love affair for her. 3-4 months is a short run for her and one of her men. But I should be careful what I wish for.
This new one is the first time I’ve felt that I should maybe, just possibly, feel legitimately scared. Her newly developing obsession is Patrick Bateman. Yep, the character from American Psycho. Specifically, the movie version played by Christian Bale.
It’s not like she’s just met the guy. She’s seen the movie before but it doesn’t appear that they hit it off initially. Now, she’s suddenly started making constant reference to him. Bret is gone and now it’s just Patrick Bateman and maniacal laughter and purchasing all of the items in his skin care routine. I’d like to see her do 1000 crunches though. That’ll be the day.
She has always admitted to living the 80s preppy/yuppie look. She loves assholes. Assholes are a weakness for her. Psychopaths? Hmm…that’s a new one, unless you count the time she was in love with the Menendez Brothers years ago. God, the pastel Ralph Lauren sweaters she used to try to make me wear. Pastels are just not my shades.
Now, there was a time many years ago where I did have to hide all the knives in our home. I was legitimately scared that she was going to murder me. I forget what she was upset about now. I am, after all, her type - an asshole. I did something that bothered her and she ran for the knives. I had to hide them and then lock myself in a bedroom because she was literally chasing me. That was before she decided that she’d be the female Patrick Bateman. Granted, she says “only mean in the looks and snob department-nothing else.”
She’s trying to determine what the female equivalent to a Patrick Bateman hairstyle would be right now. I’m just worried about the bank account with this obsession. The amount she’ll spend on business cards alone.
Comments
lemonade_sparkle
Your wife is severely mentally ill, and needs help quickly.
Is there no chance of persuading her to get help?
If not, what preparations have you made to leave her?
I’m a strange way, I think these obsessions are what keep her sane.
Her getting help is funny though. It’s not going to happen. Sure I’ve tried to persuade her to see a therapist but she just won’t.
ctIaTErA
I probably shouldn’t be laughing as hard as I am right now. This is truly bizarre. Does she narrate her morning routine in the mirror each day now?
But in all seriousness, she’s chased you with a knife? Thats far more concerning than any of the obsessions with these men, and yes I did read the post about the wrestler. I thought it was just very quirky behavior before, but she seems truly unhinged now.
It was years ago. Like 10+ years ago. I’m much stronger than her so it’s not hard to hold her down if need be.
I AM NOT OOP
NO BRIGADING, NO HARASSMENT
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I am not the OOP. OOP is u/Lost_Beginning_2824
This was originally posted in TrueOffMyChest
2 updates
(recovered via pushpull)
Original post - February 6th, 2024
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
2nd Update - March 8th, 2024
Trigger warning: mention of domestic violence situation
I’m married to a woman who acts like a teenage girl – February 6th, 2024
My wife behaves like a teenage girl and I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
This is just a rant. Curious to know how many full grown adults behave the way my wife does. I’d say out of all of the adult women I know, like friends, relatives, wives of my friends, none of them behave this way unless they keep it a closely guarded secret.
Editing right here to add that my wife is in her 30s, for context.
My wife is always obsessed with somebody, a man or sometimes multiple men at one time. Usually there is one or two main focuses at a time. When I talk obsessed I mean obsessed like a teenage girl or maybe even preteen girl would be. I’ve seen pictures of her bedroom when she was that age and they were literally wallpapers in posters of her favorite guys. That’s totally normal for a 13 year old girl. She still behaves that way as a woman in her 30s. Granted, our bedroom walls aren’t wallpapered in posters but they probably would be if I allowed it.
Her obsessions have ranged from rock stars, actors, non-entertainment industry public figures. It’s like one day she hasn’t even heard of the guy in question and the next day she’s super fan #1 and knows just about everything there is to know about him. She will read and watch everything there is to watch about the man. She will bring him up in every conversation. She will adopt parts of him into her own personality. She will suggest things that make it clear to me that she wants me to adopt characteristics of these men as part of my appearance or personality. She will openly admit to me that she’s masturbated over the guy multiple times in one day.
When she finds a new man to obsess over, she puts the others in her little stable of men who she always has a place for in her heart and in her fantasies, so they never really go away. The new man just takes center stage and becomes the main focus of almost her entire life.
So the current obsession is so strange to me. Never saw this one coming, but leave it to her to always find somebody new to fall in love with. The intensity that she has during these periods - it’s honestly like she falls in love with these men.
I’m laughing so hard just typing this all. Her current obsession is Bret Hart, former pro wrestler. This woman had never watched wrestling before in her life. Always thought that stuff was below her. And now she’s obsessed with this former pro-wrestler. She watched one show about him, for reasons I’m not aware of, and I could tell almost instantly where it was headed. I thought “here we go…” So now the Bret Hart obsession is in full swing. Has she already dropped close to $1000 in vintage Bret Hart shirts on eBay? Of course. Bought all the stickers and magnets and all sorts of other stupid crap she can find? Yep. Does she send me Bret Hart YouTube clips all.day.long when she’s supposed to be working? Yes she does.
So, I better get to work brushing up on my Bret Hart knowledge and tag lines. This is the key to getting laid when it comes to her. I’m used to this by now. It’s just not something that I can easily explain to anyone I know.
I mean, there’s are things I’m a fan of, but she is next level. I can’t think of anyone I know who is her age and acts like this. She was voted most likely to grow up and become a groupie when she was in high school, so this is absolutely nothing new for her. Sigh.
Many are lighthearted in the comments
plastic_Schedule_891
I mean he's the best there is, was and ever will be so that one makes sense at least .
You don’t think I’m hearing that 10 times a day now?
I better start planning that trip to Calgary.
Limerence is mentioned
poopchutethemoon
Yeah my bouts of limerence have been with people I’ve dated but reading that made me realize that I was very much being obsessive and it was totally all consuming. Glad it’s over honestly. Those feelings are exhausting.
Very interesting to hear you say the feelings are exhausting. It’s like a full time job for my wife, so I could see that. She told me she’s at work with her door closed pretending to be working, but she’s really watching Bret Hart videos on YouTube. She can’t even focus on her job.
OOP reveals more of the life he’s signed up for in the comments
get-bread-not-head
You've pretended to act like other men for 20 years?!
Damn dude, I hope you're finding ways to accept it and cope. That sounds rough, having to be someone else to have sex... stay strong king
Nah, I just learn their catchphrases or gain some deep fan knowledge that’ll impress her or maybe perfect a vocal impersonation of them that I can drop at the opportune time. The vocal impersonations work the best as far as making her like me and being like “ok, wanna have sex now?”
another_canoe
But what do you guys actually share *together*? That's not related to the obsession of the season? (I'm not going to even bother asking if she's tried to learn about any of your hobbies/interests).
NGL, this is all pretty grim to me, my man....and I'm someone who loves having a partner who is passionate about things and nerds out.
I fear that you've spent so long with her infatuations steamrolling over your own interests and preferences that you have convinced yourself that getting attention-by-proxy as your main source of validation from your SPOUSE is a healthy way to live.
If I told you that I was big into anime and Japanese RPGs and the only way I get interested in doing it with my actual wife is if she adopts the catch phrases /personality characteristics of my latest "waifu", would you feel some concern for my wife's mental health?
I'm also wondering about this spending....
She’s pretty dismissive of my interests and hobbies. I’ve told her I’d like her to try to pretend to show a little more interest sometimes. I make an effort to show real interest in her stuff and she does not do the same. I’m very into music and I do geek out over guitars and gear and things like that and she couldn’t tell you anything about any of the guitars I own other than “he has a blue one, he has a red one. “ We do love some of the same bands. Of course she wants to fuck the band members and I just want to talk about the chord progression on my favorite guitar tracks, but it’s close enough. We like a lot of the same movies and that sort of thing. We have the same sense of humor and can keep each other laughing for ages. We have a lot of the same views on life and on the world in general.
I don’t know, we just get each other I guess.
I would be concerned about the waifu thing, but I guess in my case she always likes guys who I think are pretty cool anyway. She has good taste, at least. If she has to be obsessing over some other guy constantly at least she does it over guys I can respect on some level.
Regarding the spending, I spend way more than she does. Only difference is it’s not usually fan merch I’m buying. But she tolerate my spending when it comes to stuff like guitar gear. She rolls her eyes and reprimands me but she tolerates it and just knows I won’t stop. I’m the same when it comes to her fan stuff. I get it, she wants the vintage 1993 Bret Hart shirt that costs hundreds…not a modern shirt that just anyone could go online and buy for $25 right now. She wants the cool, rare stuff. I’m the same with my guitars so I guess it’s like we understand each other in some way. I think it’s weird to become a fan of somebody and 2 days later drop thousands on them though. At least my money pit is consistent.
I think we both feel like we’re the only person who will semi understand and tolerate all of this stuff from each other
Not included here, but in several comments, OOP definitely brings up his wife’s looks as a positive in the relationship and he finds her antics at times amusing or even attractive.
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
I recently wrote about my wife suddenly discovering former pro-wrestler Bret “The Hitman” Hart one day after never even knowing of his existence, experienced love at first site, and is now even deeper than love with him then she was a month ago.
Tonight, I experienced a good hour of her sobbing, literal sobs, after watching the Bret Hart A&E biography. “I just love him so much. I love him with all my heart. I don’t want any more bad things to happen to him. Also, I’m very jealous he’s not my husband.”
She also went from not wanting any kids to suddenly wanting a baby so she can name it Bret (a girl or a boy, doesn’t matter…they will be named Bret). And she almost had me convinced, but I blame that on the heat of the moment.
She’s bought all sorts of clothes just like his. My wife now dresses like Bret Hart in and outside of the ring.
The past few days she’s been acting really annoyed with me. Finally I’m like “Wtf am I doing wrong?” I bought you Bret Hart stuff for your birthday! I call you Mrs. Bret Hart now, even though you’re my wife. I even sent you flowers at work from Bret. I mean that was supposed to get me points because she knew they were from me and I was playing into her obsession which she’s now apparently shared with everyone she works with. They’ve bought her a giant Bret Hart wall decal for her office.
Ok, so I did forget our anniversary which was very recently. Totally forgot it. Then again, so did she. She was too busy masturbating over Bret Hart to remember our wedding anniversary. I mean bad husband points for me obviously but all the birthday gifts had to have made up for it. I mean, I even ordered a Bret Hart birthday banner and got her a Bret Hart themed birthday cake as if she were a 7 year old boy in the year 1994.
So why is she acting so annoyed lately? Why does she act like she hates me and can’t stand to even be in the same room as me? She finally admits…I’m not Bret Hart. None of her obsession have ever been this bad. She’s seriously threatening me with divorce now because I’m not Bret Hart! She “just wants a guy like that.” She had to go walk the dog today and cry over it, how much she hates me and wishes she was married to Bret Hart. Oh fuck me you want a guy like your dad because that’s what Bret Hart is like…exactly like her dad, the same look, the same hair, the same damn age.
I told her I think she should get checked out for autism or some other sort of disorder. Her obsessions have never been this bad. She should make an appointment now because the waitlist is long. She just laughed. There’s nothing wrong with her. She just has different taste in men now, according to her.
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psychick
Therapist here - she needs to see a psychiatrist. This is mental illness to the extreme. Either she goes, or you leave. This is ultimatum territory. And, stop giving into her obsession. It makes it worse.
nualt42
Man, when she threatens divorce, take it. Jump at the chance.
Hell, sit, be a good boy and offer your fucking paw if that’s what it takes to get treated to an exit strategy. Don’t worry about dignity, sounds like you gave that up a long time ago.
She’s even looked up the divorce process for where we live and says we can be amicable about everything. She assures me she’s not looking to take any thing that is rightfully mine. She just wants a clean break.
Sophie3546
I’m surprised he even lasted this long. Calling her “Ms. Bret Hart” …..I can’t even fathom.
Excuse me, it’s MRS Bret Hart, not Ms.
NEW UPDATE - March 8th, 2024
Hi, you might remember me as the guy whose wife was obsessed with JFK (35th President of the United States), then experienced a world wind romance with former WWF pro-wrestler Bret Hart (the best there is, the best there was, and the best there ever will be), but now she’s met a new man. I thought the Bret Hart obsession was the worst one yet. Never has she threatened divorce or told me she hated me because I wasn’t the object of her desire. Luckily, that was a relatively quick love affair for her. 3-4 months is a short run for her and one of her men. But I should be careful what I wish for.
This new one is the first time I’ve felt that I should maybe, just possibly, feel legitimately scared. Her newly developing obsession is Patrick Bateman. Yep, the character from American Psycho. Specifically, the movie version played by Christian Bale.
It’s not like she’s just met the guy. She’s seen the movie before but it doesn’t appear that they hit it off initially. Now, she’s suddenly started making constant reference to him. Bret is gone and now it’s just Patrick Bateman and maniacal laughter and purchasing all of the items in his skin care routine. I’d like to see her do 1000 crunches though. That’ll be the day.
She has always admitted to living the 80s preppy/yuppie look. She loves assholes. Assholes are a weakness for her. Psychopaths? Hmm…that’s a new one, unless you count the time she was in love with the Menendez Brothers years ago. God, the pastel Ralph Lauren sweaters she used to try to make me wear. Pastels are just not my shades.
Now, there was a time many years ago where I did have to hide all the knives in our home. I was legitimately scared that she was going to murder me. I forget what she was upset about now. I am, after all, her type - an asshole. I did something that bothered her and she ran for the knives. I had to hide them and then lock myself in a bedroom because she was literally chasing me. That was before she decided that she’d be the female Patrick Bateman. Granted, she says “only mean in the looks and snob department-nothing else.”
She’s trying to determine what the female equivalent to a Patrick Bateman hairstyle would be right now. I’m just worried about the bank account with this obsession. The amount she’ll spend on business cards alone.
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lemonade_sparkle
Your wife is severely mentally ill, and needs help quickly.
Is there no chance of persuading her to get help?
If not, what preparations have you made to leave her?
I’m a strange way, I think these obsessions are what keep her sane.
Her getting help is funny though. It’s not going to happen. Sure I’ve tried to persuade her to see a therapist but she just won’t.
ctIaTErA
I probably shouldn’t be laughing as hard as I am right now. This is truly bizarre. Does she narrate her morning routine in the mirror each day now?
But in all seriousness, she’s chased you with a knife? Thats far more concerning than any of the obsessions with these men, and yes I did read the post about the wrestler. I thought it was just very quirky behavior before, but she seems truly unhinged now.
It was years ago. Like 10+ years ago. I’m much stronger than her so it’s not hard to hold her down if need be.
I AM NOT OOP
NO BRIGADING, NO HARASSMENT
2024.05.15 18:12 Existing_Crow_5730 Best Men’s barbers?
Looking for some good men’s barbers/barbershops in the area. Coming back from college for this summer and would like someone who can give good recommendations to switch up my hairstyle as well!
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2024.05.15 13:35 Call_Me_Aiden Having top surgery date sort of enforces my bottom dysphoria
TW: Internalized transphobia, sexism, dysphoria
While I was in the process of Hiding™ from me being trans, there was a time I very much focused on what I missed the most: Different genitals. It lead me to envision my body in a somewhat distorted way often: Mostly as it was, but with different genitals.
That, on top with some very distorted views on sexuality and the value of women that I had internalized, made it probably the thing I thought about most when thinking of my transition goals. I'm not going to go in detail exactly, but I think most can guess what I'm referring to exactly when the topic I'm discussing is top surgery. As a hint: Women often expressed some kind of envy to my uh... assets, and men were also often appreciative. There's still a lot more that happened that formed that unhealthy idea, but yeah.
I thought I had worked through all those feelings. I was "okay" while I still had them, mostly feeling the dysphoria in a social way, as well as it truly standing in the way of not seeing myself as a fraud whenever I was just chilling at home without a binder. But I knew I wanted it, needed it, and that I actually hated them, and always had, and how I had just focused on things that made them seem impractical as to hide from the reality: I just don't want them, apart from a very specific sexual context - which is fully internalized - and even then, I don't really.
I explored the possibility of reduction even, small enough I could easily hide them but present that ~for certain purposes~ they would exist. I accepted any and every possibility, I feel no need to perform masculinity any certain way, I've become unapologetically myself, and the conclusion was: Yeet them.
When I finally got my top surgery date, all those old feelings resurfaced. It made me think I was making a mistake, like I might just be non-binary, or enjoying masculinity but in a butch way (absolutely false, mind you, I'd feel so unseen if I were to be seen as a very masc butch). Doesn't help I'm probably most attracted to a certain type of non-binary/androgynous expression, that combines beards with fem hairstyles and outfits. But those people aren't me (and often have flat chests so wtf). I like feminine expression (edit: on me, that is) only in so far it is performative, sexual and sensual, like some queer men would if that's their thing. :/
It made me realize this isn't about top, this is about the bottom department. That's where I've focused so long on, and I need to shift that image I had of myself moments before cracking. I knew twenty years ago already that I wanted all of it, that I just wanted to live my life as a guy and be left alone for the rest of it. That I wanted nothing, absolutely nothing, that hinted at the body that I was given, and that includes top surgery. And yet, for some reason, every step of the way I first need to go in full crazy doubt-mode before I can just... do it. But taking T was never so irreversible. At this point I think I'll have the same doubt about bottom surgery once that comes up despite that being the absolute most consistent of them all.
Has anyone else experienced anything similar? If you did, and you've gone through with the surgery, how was it waking up, did it hit you harder than you expected? Or was it randomly freeing?
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While I was in the process of Hiding™ from me being trans, there was a time I very much focused on what I missed the most: Different genitals. It lead me to envision my body in a somewhat distorted way often: Mostly as it was, but with different genitals.
That, on top with some very distorted views on sexuality and the value of women that I had internalized, made it probably the thing I thought about most when thinking of my transition goals. I'm not going to go in detail exactly, but I think most can guess what I'm referring to exactly when the topic I'm discussing is top surgery. As a hint: Women often expressed some kind of envy to my uh... assets, and men were also often appreciative. There's still a lot more that happened that formed that unhealthy idea, but yeah.
I thought I had worked through all those feelings. I was "okay" while I still had them, mostly feeling the dysphoria in a social way, as well as it truly standing in the way of not seeing myself as a fraud whenever I was just chilling at home without a binder. But I knew I wanted it, needed it, and that I actually hated them, and always had, and how I had just focused on things that made them seem impractical as to hide from the reality: I just don't want them, apart from a very specific sexual context - which is fully internalized - and even then, I don't really.
I explored the possibility of reduction even, small enough I could easily hide them but present that ~for certain purposes~ they would exist. I accepted any and every possibility, I feel no need to perform masculinity any certain way, I've become unapologetically myself, and the conclusion was: Yeet them.
When I finally got my top surgery date, all those old feelings resurfaced. It made me think I was making a mistake, like I might just be non-binary, or enjoying masculinity but in a butch way (absolutely false, mind you, I'd feel so unseen if I were to be seen as a very masc butch). Doesn't help I'm probably most attracted to a certain type of non-binary/androgynous expression, that combines beards with fem hairstyles and outfits. But those people aren't me (and often have flat chests so wtf). I like feminine expression (edit: on me, that is) only in so far it is performative, sexual and sensual, like some queer men would if that's their thing. :/
It made me realize this isn't about top, this is about the bottom department. That's where I've focused so long on, and I need to shift that image I had of myself moments before cracking. I knew twenty years ago already that I wanted all of it, that I just wanted to live my life as a guy and be left alone for the rest of it. That I wanted nothing, absolutely nothing, that hinted at the body that I was given, and that includes top surgery. And yet, for some reason, every step of the way I first need to go in full crazy doubt-mode before I can just... do it. But taking T was never so irreversible. At this point I think I'll have the same doubt about bottom surgery once that comes up despite that being the absolute most consistent of them all.
Has anyone else experienced anything similar? If you did, and you've gone through with the surgery, how was it waking up, did it hit you harder than you expected? Or was it randomly freeing?
2024.05.15 08:29 MenDeserve Wedding Hairstyle Trend For Men 2024
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2024.05.15 08:13 bobgoesmeh Terrible experience with ML Beauty Salon!!
Just came round to share my experience and prevent other people like me from the terrible experience :(
I did waxing at their salon a while back under a package and experienced redness and itchiness afterwards. Normal sign post waxing but even after a week there were still signs of redness and itchiness. Didn’t want to continue with them and told them I wanted a refund of my package balance. Note that no contracts were signed at the point of payment that gave them a no-waiver clause or no-refundability clause.
Salon quoted reasons such as “payments have been entered into their books and hence no refund can be given” and instead offered the alternative of asking me to try their other services. Valid but I was quite distressed about the whole adverse reaction and didn’t want to have anything to do with them in case I suffered another allergic rxn. Asked for refund again and they refused.
They then asked for proof of the redness and I sent over a dr’s memo explaining that it was indeed an allergic reaction. Salon actually questioned the validity of the memo, suggesting that I may have gotten my own friends and family to issue it. Then asked me to go down for them to see the red area (mind you, it’s the pubic area) so that they could prove it themselves?! This is the part that rly gets to me bc they were the ones that asked for the dr’s memo and yet refused to accept that afterwards.
All in all, terrible experience, unreasonable management and I really regret ever stepping foot into the salon. For all other ladies (or even men) considering services from ML, pls pls think twice if you don’t want to end up like me…
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I did waxing at their salon a while back under a package and experienced redness and itchiness afterwards. Normal sign post waxing but even after a week there were still signs of redness and itchiness. Didn’t want to continue with them and told them I wanted a refund of my package balance. Note that no contracts were signed at the point of payment that gave them a no-waiver clause or no-refundability clause.
Salon quoted reasons such as “payments have been entered into their books and hence no refund can be given” and instead offered the alternative of asking me to try their other services. Valid but I was quite distressed about the whole adverse reaction and didn’t want to have anything to do with them in case I suffered another allergic rxn. Asked for refund again and they refused.
They then asked for proof of the redness and I sent over a dr’s memo explaining that it was indeed an allergic reaction. Salon actually questioned the validity of the memo, suggesting that I may have gotten my own friends and family to issue it. Then asked me to go down for them to see the red area (mind you, it’s the pubic area) so that they could prove it themselves?! This is the part that rly gets to me bc they were the ones that asked for the dr’s memo and yet refused to accept that afterwards.
All in all, terrible experience, unreasonable management and I really regret ever stepping foot into the salon. For all other ladies (or even men) considering services from ML, pls pls think twice if you don’t want to end up like me…
2024.05.15 07:11 MenDeserve Men's Long Hairstyles: The Coolest Trends for 2024.
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The year 2024 is all about embracing natural texture and effortless style for men's long hair. Here are the top 15 trending cuts that combine laid back vibes with modern touch.
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2024.05.15 07:10 MenDeserve Men's Medium Length Hairstyles: The Hottest Trends for 2024.
Men with medium length hair have a range of stylish options to choose from. Whether it's a textured quiff, a messy tousle or a sleek side part, medium length hair allows for diverse and fashionable looks. These hairstyles strike a balance between short and long offering versatility for various preferences and personal styles. In this blog we will explore the top medium length haircuts for men which values fashion and functionality.
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Top 10 Hairstyles For Men l Haircuts For Medium Length Hair
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- The Classic Slick Back
2024.05.15 07:08 MenDeserve Men's Short Hairstyles: The Latest Trends for 2024.
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2024.05.15 01:13 samurai15070r Men need better hairstyles
 | Why are so many of the men's hairstyle in this game so bad? Every time time I try to make another diverse male human it just ends up noping back to other few good hair style options. Also I thought that some of the dlc hair would be good, but they somehow look worse and what is worse is that some of them are not even fitted correctly to the shape of the head and here is proof. All I'm saying is I'm just crossing my finger that one day they rework the hair options or give ones with better effort put into them for the guys. submitted by samurai15070r to swtor [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/bhydqqu65h0d1.png?width=603&format=png&auto=webp&s=eb07ef9dd8ecb0e49888733be45b6bfbffa4ba49 https://preview.redd.it/malwkucz4h0d1.png?width=603&format=png&auto=webp&s=cf327936e4023518bcd075d33289e0b45b72edeb |
2024.05.14 20:55 Lyricalhairinc The advantages of Thin Skin Toupee for Men?
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2024.05.14 19:15 cosmogyra ...which is it?
hi guys. i really, really need some advice about my gender identity so i am here. of course only i can know the true answer but please help me find it.
so, i am 22 years old afab and have never been dysphoric my whole life (except for my chest area), almost my whole life, until the pandemic. i remember choosing the male avatar in games i used to play sometimes, but i didn't hate the idea of choosing the girl option. i enjoyed playing games like stardoll, etc. i was also playing with cars, boyish things (?)... but i did not differentiate.
i was okay with being referred to as feminine pronouns or feminine things, again, until pandemic. in high school i did makeup, wear feminine-ish clothes, never doubted my identity. i kinda knew about lgbtq+ as a concept but never thought myself as one, or felt like i was 'one of them'.
then the pandemic hit and i had to sit at home. i met tiktok and all the kinds and teens and people that are not afraid of expressing themselves. they looked so sure of themselves that i got jealous. because until then, i always lived as default, never had my own beliefs or thoughts mostly, i was believing what my family believed as a religion, i was 'feeling' like how i was born, except i never question myself about that topic until then.
then i started to question myself about the things i never questioned myself about (?), which was literally everything. my religion, my sexuality, my personal beliefs, my gender... it was so overwhelming i got into a big depression. then i came out as non-binary. i realized being perceived as a female and feminine things mad me feel bad and gave me dysphoria. especially my chest. but then last year, i started to notice my inner thoughts about men and how i would like to born as one. i always caught myself thinking ''i wish i was born a cis boy and had his body...'' but i would not want to be a ''typical man'', if that is a thing. for example, i wouldn't want a beard or any overly masculine thing. but i really want to have a boy's physical body and his voice and his hair and... it goes on.
after that i tried masculine style as much as i could; a short mullet hairstyle, more baggy clothes, more clothes from men's section, having my friends calling me a boy or saying that i ''looked handsome''. these expressions made me so so happy. but at the same time, even though i was happy, i couldn't tell myself that i was fully a man, the thought scared me... idk if 'scared' is the right word but i thought i did not deserve getting called a 'man'. then on daily i kept getting misgendered from the people who don't know my gender identity because i don't pass irl and having a high voice doesn't really help. those made me really sad and i felt dysphoric.
so yeah, that's mostly it. i don't think i'm cis... but am i a man? am i something different? which is it? the thought scares me, honestly. i can't imagine myself being 40-50 and being a big man. not to mention my family and the people around me are mostly transphobic as far as i know. there's also the thought that what if i transition and i find myself 'hideous' and not happy? what if i end up regretting in the future? what would my family and the people around me think? they would think i am a disappointment, probably. getting those reactions probably would mess me up badly. so would it really worth it if it saddens me in the end, after all the blood, sweat and tears shed?
thank you so much if you read until the end. what do you think? did you experience something like this? i can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, sadly... i don't actually know if everything will be better for me. tell me if you need more context, i will provide you context happily if needed. have a good day!
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so, i am 22 years old afab and have never been dysphoric my whole life (except for my chest area), almost my whole life, until the pandemic. i remember choosing the male avatar in games i used to play sometimes, but i didn't hate the idea of choosing the girl option. i enjoyed playing games like stardoll, etc. i was also playing with cars, boyish things (?)... but i did not differentiate.
i was okay with being referred to as feminine pronouns or feminine things, again, until pandemic. in high school i did makeup, wear feminine-ish clothes, never doubted my identity. i kinda knew about lgbtq+ as a concept but never thought myself as one, or felt like i was 'one of them'.
then the pandemic hit and i had to sit at home. i met tiktok and all the kinds and teens and people that are not afraid of expressing themselves. they looked so sure of themselves that i got jealous. because until then, i always lived as default, never had my own beliefs or thoughts mostly, i was believing what my family believed as a religion, i was 'feeling' like how i was born, except i never question myself about that topic until then.
then i started to question myself about the things i never questioned myself about (?), which was literally everything. my religion, my sexuality, my personal beliefs, my gender... it was so overwhelming i got into a big depression. then i came out as non-binary. i realized being perceived as a female and feminine things mad me feel bad and gave me dysphoria. especially my chest. but then last year, i started to notice my inner thoughts about men and how i would like to born as one. i always caught myself thinking ''i wish i was born a cis boy and had his body...'' but i would not want to be a ''typical man'', if that is a thing. for example, i wouldn't want a beard or any overly masculine thing. but i really want to have a boy's physical body and his voice and his hair and... it goes on.
after that i tried masculine style as much as i could; a short mullet hairstyle, more baggy clothes, more clothes from men's section, having my friends calling me a boy or saying that i ''looked handsome''. these expressions made me so so happy. but at the same time, even though i was happy, i couldn't tell myself that i was fully a man, the thought scared me... idk if 'scared' is the right word but i thought i did not deserve getting called a 'man'. then on daily i kept getting misgendered from the people who don't know my gender identity because i don't pass irl and having a high voice doesn't really help. those made me really sad and i felt dysphoric.
so yeah, that's mostly it. i don't think i'm cis... but am i a man? am i something different? which is it? the thought scares me, honestly. i can't imagine myself being 40-50 and being a big man. not to mention my family and the people around me are mostly transphobic as far as i know. there's also the thought that what if i transition and i find myself 'hideous' and not happy? what if i end up regretting in the future? what would my family and the people around me think? they would think i am a disappointment, probably. getting those reactions probably would mess me up badly. so would it really worth it if it saddens me in the end, after all the blood, sweat and tears shed?
thank you so much if you read until the end. what do you think? did you experience something like this? i can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, sadly... i don't actually know if everything will be better for me. tell me if you need more context, i will provide you context happily if needed. have a good day!
2024.05.14 14:42 ChopSuey2 What men's hairstyle for thin dark blonde hair with a large cowlick at the front?
I've never seemed to have found a hairstyle I like with this hair.
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2024.05.14 05:01 simplyme773 Men, what hairstyle do you prefer on women with long hair?
All down, ponytail, half up/half down, messy bun.
The women at work wanna know men vs women opinions
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The women at work wanna know men vs women opinions
2024.05.14 00:59 _yaxxm Lets be real... Colin is in love with Pen before their kiss. He's just been delulu
It is entirely in the way he looks at her, all before their kiss where he has his "OH I AM IN LOVE WITH MY CLOSE FRIEND" moment lmao.
I mean exhibit A, Episode 1 Pen has just arrived at the first ball with her fancy new dress and new hairdo!:
https://preview.redd.it/h5cnrhuut90d1.png?width=585&format=png&auto=webp&s=4295118c80041197b3a8bb8c34c85c42e1a2604b
https://preview.redd.it/h17ve0vut90d1.png?width=553&format=png&auto=webp&s=3acf19187fc78279c3d53baf8c2066848f480bce
https://preview.redd.it/zrirlznxt90d1.png?width=679&format=png&auto=webp&s=4e23832b533b8fff8ea2761d93ab903fd5c4d424
This is episode 1. Penelope has not spoken to him all summer. She comes out in a different colour and a fresh hairstyle and he is ENCHANTED. This man is glancing up as he drinks to keep his eyes on her. Literally is so hyperfixated on her that he can't look away to take a sip of his drink? Now let's see what the other reactions are from the men of the marriage mart:
https://preview.redd.it/aseukw70v90d1.png?width=702&format=png&auto=webp&s=e68beea41abe6ec590256b36ad84ea1e736f0b5d
First of all, very lack luster and I must say these men are so wrong for this. How are you not absolutely enchanted by Pen, she is stunning. This man could not cae less, he is glancing because everyone else is. The other man beside him is literally glancing at Colin because his reaction is SO OBVIOUS LMAO!!! He looks baffled that this is the same man that uttered the words "I would not court Penelope Featherington in your wildest dreams".
Now exhibit B, Colin want to see how much rizz Pen has Ep 2, before they share their first kiss (most likely):
https://preview.redd.it/fr2ie7hov90d1.png?width=1206&format=png&auto=webp&s=ee99c08049a5377b8881cdc90035f20d8721bdae
Pen has 0 rizz it seems, she is nervous and awkward and can barely string together a sentence in front of the suitors. But here, Colin is smiling softly at her. He is endeared by her. Now let's see the other suitors:
https://preview.redd.it/27g41q2iw90d1.png?width=1345&format=png&auto=webp&s=5eba43eb175f76c48cf6a50dfd5fcc8f96179e50
Let's just start by saying these men are dumn. They're absolutely NOT VALID TO BE LOOKING AT HER THIS WAY because Pen is so cute and endearing even tho she is awkward but like they are so put off by the way she is acting. There is no endearment here. She is just some weird woman who is trying and failing to speak to them with Colin just watching and... smiling like a dork? lmao
I think there will be much more of this in the first 2 episodes, but it is just so clear how much he feels for her. He is always the one staring at her in happiness and wonder when everyone else is either uninterested, put off, or ignoring her outright. Colin has always seen her. I cannot WAIT to see him after their kiss absolutely going batshit crazy with longing and yearning for Pen while she is courting Lord Debling. We've already seen some of his stares and I am so here for it!
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I mean exhibit A, Episode 1 Pen has just arrived at the first ball with her fancy new dress and new hairdo!:
https://preview.redd.it/h5cnrhuut90d1.png?width=585&format=png&auto=webp&s=4295118c80041197b3a8bb8c34c85c42e1a2604b
https://preview.redd.it/h17ve0vut90d1.png?width=553&format=png&auto=webp&s=3acf19187fc78279c3d53baf8c2066848f480bce
https://preview.redd.it/zrirlznxt90d1.png?width=679&format=png&auto=webp&s=4e23832b533b8fff8ea2761d93ab903fd5c4d424
This is episode 1. Penelope has not spoken to him all summer. She comes out in a different colour and a fresh hairstyle and he is ENCHANTED. This man is glancing up as he drinks to keep his eyes on her. Literally is so hyperfixated on her that he can't look away to take a sip of his drink? Now let's see what the other reactions are from the men of the marriage mart:
https://preview.redd.it/aseukw70v90d1.png?width=702&format=png&auto=webp&s=e68beea41abe6ec590256b36ad84ea1e736f0b5d
First of all, very lack luster and I must say these men are so wrong for this. How are you not absolutely enchanted by Pen, she is stunning. This man could not cae less, he is glancing because everyone else is. The other man beside him is literally glancing at Colin because his reaction is SO OBVIOUS LMAO!!! He looks baffled that this is the same man that uttered the words "I would not court Penelope Featherington in your wildest dreams".
Now exhibit B, Colin want to see how much rizz Pen has Ep 2, before they share their first kiss (most likely):
https://preview.redd.it/fr2ie7hov90d1.png?width=1206&format=png&auto=webp&s=ee99c08049a5377b8881cdc90035f20d8721bdae
Pen has 0 rizz it seems, she is nervous and awkward and can barely string together a sentence in front of the suitors. But here, Colin is smiling softly at her. He is endeared by her. Now let's see the other suitors:
https://preview.redd.it/27g41q2iw90d1.png?width=1345&format=png&auto=webp&s=5eba43eb175f76c48cf6a50dfd5fcc8f96179e50
Let's just start by saying these men are dumn. They're absolutely NOT VALID TO BE LOOKING AT HER THIS WAY because Pen is so cute and endearing even tho she is awkward but like they are so put off by the way she is acting. There is no endearment here. She is just some weird woman who is trying and failing to speak to them with Colin just watching and... smiling like a dork? lmao
I think there will be much more of this in the first 2 episodes, but it is just so clear how much he feels for her. He is always the one staring at her in happiness and wonder when everyone else is either uninterested, put off, or ignoring her outright. Colin has always seen her. I cannot WAIT to see him after their kiss absolutely going batshit crazy with longing and yearning for Pen while she is courting Lord Debling. We've already seen some of his stares and I am so here for it!