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[It] would remove no tissue, would not touch any significant organ but, rather [it] would be a small nick of the clitoral hood which is the equivalent of the male foreskin - nothing that would scar, nothing that would do damage... We’re talking about something far less extensive than the removal of foreskin in a male.

When people talk about ‘FGM’ they are usually thinking of the most severe forms of female genital cutting, done in the least sterile environments, with the most drastic consequences likeliest to follow – even though research suggests that these forms are the exception rather than the rule. When people talk about ‘male circumcision’, by contrast, they are (apparently) thinking of the least severe forms of male genital cutting, done in the most sterile environments, with the least drastic consequences likeliest to follow – perhaps because this is the form with which they are culturally familiar.

Introduction

• Media speculation in reaction to the redacted autopsy report.
  A partial autopsy report was released on February 14, 1997, with certain sections having been removed by the coroner. Most of the information detailing the vaginal trauma, for example, was purposefully held back. What did remain was a section that said there was chronic inflammation and epithelial erosion found in the vaginal mucosa. This detail sparked a lot of attention and debate in the media, with various experts weighing in with their opinions on what it could mean. In reaction to speculation from some doctors that the released autopsy report portions indicated chronic sexual abuse, the Ramsey's media consultant Pat Korten made statements such as:
  

  "It is my understanding that this (vaginal inflammation) is not uncommon among children of that age," Korten said.
  

  Child abuse experts were asked to join the fray with their own reactions. In a February 20 article, the Daily Camera reported this quote from Dr. Joan Slook, pediatrician with the Baylor College of Medicine in Houston:
  

  "Poor hygiene can cause chronic inflammation," Slook said. "Some little girls don't wash themselves properly." Improper wiping or washing in the vaginal area can introduce bacteria and produce inflammation, she said.
  "Some little girls can have asymptomatic bladder infections that can cause irritation in the vagina," Slook said. "Chronic inflammation is a pretty non-specific thing to say," she said, adding that epithelial erosion also is vague.
  

  In all this media commentary and premature speculation based on incomplete information, chronic inflammation became conflated with evidence of sexual abuse. Even after the full autopsy report was released and information about the evidence of prior abuse came out, Ramsey defense campaign representatives continued to respond to questions about prior sexual abuse with explanations involving poor wiping, bedwetting, and bubble baths. These sneaky answers did the trick — it convinced people who didn't know otherwise that the evidence was something it wasn't.
  
• The Ramseys' PR defense campaign efforts. It's not by accident or happenstance that there's a lot of confusion and conflicting information out there on this topic. It's what defense campaigns do — manufacture reasonable doubt and disseminate it in the media. Most of the misinformation in this case can be traced back to Ramseys, their attorneys, their private investigators, Lou Smit, and other defense campaign advocates. They have put out a lot of misleading information which has shaped and controlled the public narrative about this case.
  We know the Ramseys were not happy the police had evidence of prior sexual abuse and it was something they wanted to go away — this is mentioned in Steve Thomas's book. Clearly, this evidence is not in their best interest and is something they have actively tried to counter.
  
• The PBworks wiki page on the evidence of sexual assault. The 'JonBenet Ramsey Case Encyclopedia' is a popular resource online for those searching for information about the case. I've even see some mainstream media outlets use information from it in their articles. Its 'Evidence of Sexual Assault' entry gets referenced and linked online all the time. However, it is very misleading in the way it portrays the evidence and is a good example of false balance/bothsidesism.
  
• Lawrence Schiller's book. Perfect Murder, Perfect Town is another popular resource on this case. It is regarded as the 'bible' as far as books on this case go. In it, Schiller downplays the evidence of prior sexual abuse, presenting it as something that is wholly uncertain and over which expert opinion evenly divided. On whether JonBenet had been abused prior to her murder, Schiller says: "It was likely that the truth would never be known." That is not an accurate reflection of the value of this evidence in this criminal investigation. Law enforcement accepted that the balance of medical opinion did show JonBenet had been abused prior to her death and considered it a fact of the case. To portray the issue as if there was an equal lack of supporting evidence on both sides to where no conclusions could be drawn is disingenuous.
  
• Paula Woodward's book. In her book We Have Your Daughter, Woodward misportrays the evidence of prior sexual abuse as well as the opinions of the experts. I have written about this previously in this post.
  
• Forum discussions. There's a tendency for online discussion on this case to be filled with recycled rumors, misconceptions, opinions, and beliefs which become repeated so often they eventually turn into forum cliches and factoids. I don't know how many times I have seen inaccurate statements like "For every expert that says there was prior sexual abuse, there's another that says there wasn't" get declared as if it were a fact.
  

The evolution of modern pediatric sexual abuse evaluations: A brief historical timeline

The evidence of prior sexual abuse in the JonBenet Ramsey case: What we know

• Dr. Meyer also observed signs of chronic inflammation around the vaginal orifice and believed that these injuries had been inflicted in the days or weeks before the acute injury that was responsible for causing the bleeding at the time of her death. This irritation appeared consistent with prior sexual contact.
  [Foreign Faction: Who Really Kidnapped JonBenet?, A. James Kolar, p. 58]
  
• Following the meeting, Dr. Meyer returned to the morgue with Dr. Andy Sirontak, Chief of Denver Children's Hospital Child Protection Team, so that a second opinion could be rendered on the injuries observed to the vaginal area of JonBenet. He would observe the same injuries that Dr. Meyer had noted during the autopsy protocol and concurred that a foreign object had been inserted into the opening of JonBenet's vaginal orifice and was responsible for the acute injury witnessed at the 7:00 o'clock position. Further inspection revealed that the hymen was shriveled and retracted, a sign that JonBenet had been subjected to some type of sexual contact prior to the date of her death. Dr. Sirontak could not provide an opinion as to how old those injuries were or how many times JonBenet may have been assaulted and would defer to the expert opinions of other medical examiners.
  [Kolar, p. 61]
  
• Dr. Meyer was concerned about JonBenet's vaginal injuries, and he, along with Boulder investigators, sought the opinions of a variety of other physicians in the days following her autopsy. Dr. Sirontak, a pediatrician with Denver Children's Hospital, had recognized signs of prior sexual trauma but neither he nor Dr. Meyer were able to say with any degree of certainty what period of time may have been involved in the abuse.
  [Kolar, p. 63]
  

In mid-September, a panel of pediatric experts from around the country reached one of the major conclusions of the investigation - that JonBenet had suffered vaginal trauma prior to the day she was killed.
There were no dissenting opinions among them on the issue, and they firmly rejected any possibility that the trauma to the hymen and chronic vaginal inflammation were caused by urination issues or masturbation. We gathered affidavits stating in clear language that there were injuries "consistent with prior trauma and sexual abuse"...."There was chronic abuse"..."Past violation of the vagina"...."Evidence of both acute injury and chronic sexual abuse." In other words, the doctors were saying it had happened before.
...
The results, however, were not what is known in the legal world as "conclusive" - which means that there can be no other interpretation - and I would fully expect defense lawyers to argue something different. Nevertheless, our highly qualified doctors had brought in a remarkable finding.
[JonBenet: Inside the Ramsey Murder Investigation, Steve Thomas & Don Davis, p. 253]

The physical findings explained

• Genital mutilation is unnecessary, painful, and causes physical and psychological harm. It can lead to death.
• Minors, who are incapable of providing informed consent, are usually the ones who are subject to it.
• People who support it are grossly ignorant of important facts pertaining to the genitalia. They believe that it has no significant adverse effects, and that it improves their sex lives.
• It is defended with reasons involving tradition, religion, aesthetics, conformity, health, and hygiene.
• Sexual repression is one of the motivations behind it.
• Many victims are in denial, and feel compelled to cut their children, repeating past trauma. Denial and repression make criticism difficult.
• Critics of genital mutilation are ostracized and ridiculed.
• The practice is supported with delusions of normality. The damage is minimized and ignored. The usage of the euphemism ‘circumcision’ is an example of this.
• Virtually every place that practises female genital mutilation also practises male genital mutilation, but not vice versa.

Female genital mutilation (FGM) comprises all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia, or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons.

FGM Type 1 – This refers to the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans (the part of the clitoris that is visible to the naked eye) and/or the clitoral prepuce (“hood”). This is sometimes called a “clitoridectomy,” although such a designation is misleading: the external clitoral glans is not always removed in this type of FGM, and in some versions of the procedure–such as with so-called “hoodectomies”–it is deliberately left untouched. There are two major sub-types. Type 1(a) is the partial or total removal of just the clitoral prepuce (ie, the fold of skin that covers the clitoral glans, much as the penile prepuce covers the penile glans in boys; in fact, the two structures are embryonically homologous). Type 1(b) is the same as Type 1(a), but includes the partial or total removal of the external clitoral glans. Note that two-thirds or more of the entire clitoris (including most of its erectile tissue) is internal to the body envelope, and is therefore not removed by this type, or any type, of FGM.
FGM Type 2 – This refers to the partial or total removal of the external clitoral glans and/or the clitoral hood (in the senses described above), and/or the labia minora, with or without removal of the labia majora. This form of FGM is sometimes termed “excision.” Type 2(a) is the “trimming” or removal of the labia minora only; this is also known as labiaplasty when it is performed in a Western context by a professional surgeon (in which case it is usually intended as a form of cosmetic “enhancement”). In this context, such an intervention is not typically regarded as being a form of “mutilation,” even though it formally fits the WHO definition. Moreover, even though such “enhancement” is most often carried out on consenting adult women in this cultural context, it is also sometimes performed on minors, apparently with the permission of their parents. There are two further subtypes of FGM Type 2, involving combinations of the above interventions.
FGM Type 3 – This refers to a narrowing of the vaginal orifice with the creation of a seal by cutting and repositioning the labia minora and/or the labia majora, with or without excision of the external clitoris. This is the most extreme type of FGM, although it is also one of the rarest, occurring in approximately 10% of cases. When the “seal” is left in place, there is only a very small hole to allow for the passage of urine and menstrual blood, and sexual intercourse is rendered essentially impossible. This type of FGM is commonly called “infibulation” or “pharaonic circumcision” and has two additional subtypes.
FGM Type 4 – This refers to “all other harmful procedures to the female genitalia for non-medical purposes” and includes such interventions as pricking, nicking, piercing, stretching, scraping, and cauterization. Counterintuitively for this final category – which one might expect to be even “worse” than the ones before it – several of the interventions just mentioned are among the least severe forms of FGM. Piercing, for example, is another instance of a procedure – along with labiaplasty (FGM Type 2) and “clitoral unhooding” (FGM Type 1) – that is popular in Western countries for “non-medical purposes,” and can be performed hygienically under appropriate conditions.

The group of 137 women, affected by different types of FGM/C, reported orgasm in almost 86%, always 69.23%; 58 mutilated young women reported orgasm in 91.43%, always 8.57%; after defibulation 14 out of 15 infibulated women reported orgasm; the group of 57 infibulated women investigated with the FSFI questionnaire showed significant differences between group of study and an equivalent group of control in desire, arousal, orgasm, and satisfaction with mean scores higher in the group of mutilated women. No significant differences were observed between the two groups in lubrication and pain."
"Embryology, anatomy, and physiology of female erectile organs are neglected in specialist textbooks. In infibulated women, some erectile structures fundamental for orgasm have not been excised. Cultural influence can change the perception of pleasure, as well as social acceptance. Every woman has the right to have sexual health and to feel sexual pleasure for full psychophysical well-being of the person. In accordance with other research, the present study reports that FGM/C women can also have the possibility of reaching an orgasm. Therefore, FGM/C women with sexual dysfunctions can and must be cured; they have the right to have an appropriate sexual therapy.

In this article, we describe and analyse how research participants would often reflexively, and without prompting, bring up the subject of ritual male circumcision (MC) during the first author’s fieldwork on perceptions of female genital cutting (FGC) among Kurdish-Norwegians. FGC is defined as the medically unnecessary cutting of female genitalia (World Health Organization (WHO), 2018). The ritual circumcision of boys refers to the cutting of male genitalia, usually also done for cultural or religious reasons rather than out of medical necessity (Denniston et al., 2007; WHO, 2007). FGC is commonly categorized into four types by the WHO (2018): type I – cutting of the outer clitoris; type II – the partial or total removal of the outer clitoris and the labia minora, with or without excision of the labia majora; type III/infibulation – narrowing the vaginal opening through the creation of a covering seal, with or without removal of the outer clitoris, and; type IV – all other harmful procedures to the female genitalia for non-medical reasons. Similarly, there is great variety in the practice of MC, ranging from removing parts of or the entire foreskin of the penis to a cutting in the urinary tube from the scrotum to the glans (Svoboda and Darby, 2008). The reasons for MC and FGC are dynamic, overlapping and multifarious. Cultural and religious rationales such as marriageability, perceptions of gender, coming-of-age rituals and religious texts are commonly put forward, and medical rationales such as hygiene are also made (e.g. Ahmadu, 2000; Darby and Svoboda, 2007).

Few parts of the human anatomy can compare to the incredibly multifaceted nature of the human foreskin. At times dismissed as “just skin,” the adult foreskin is, in fact, a highly vascularized and densely innervated bilayer tissue, with a surface area of up to 90 cm, and potentially larger. On average, the foreskin accounts for 51% of the total length of the penile shaft skin and serves a multitude of functions. The tissue is highly dynamic and biomechanically functions like a roller bearing; during intercourse, the foreskin “unfolds” and glides as abrasive friction is reduced and lubricating fluids are retained. The sensitive foreskin is considered to be the primary erogenous zone of the male penis and is divided into four subsections: inner mucosa, ridged band, frenulum, and outer foreskin; each section contributes to a vast spectrum of sensory pleasure through the gliding action of the foreskin, which mechanically stretches and stimulates the densely packed corpuscular receptors. Specialized immunological properties should be noted by the presence of Langerhans cells and other lytic materials, which defend against common microbes, and there is robust evidence supporting HIV protection. The glans and inner mucosa are physically protected against external irritation and contaminants while maintaining a healthy, moist surface. The foreskin is also immensely vascularized and acts as a conduit for essential blood vessels within the penis, such as supplying the glans via the frenular artery.

The amount of tissue loss estimated in the present study is more than most parents envisage from pre‐operative counselling. Circumcision also ablates junctional mucosa that appears to be an important component of the overall sensory mechanism of the human penis.

There are significant variations of appearance in circumcised boys; clinical findings are much more common in these boys than previously reported in retrospective studies. The circumcised penis requires more care than the intact penis during the first 3 years of life. Parents should be instructed to retract and clean any skin covering the glans in circumcised boys, to prevent adhesions forming and debris from accumulating. Penile inflammation (balanitis) may be more common in circumcised boys; preputial stenosis (phimosis) affects circumcised and intact boys with equal frequency. The revision of circumcision for purely cosmetic reasons should be discouraged on both medical and ethical grounds.

The prepuce is an integral, normal part of the external genitalia that forms the anatomical covering of the glans penis and clitoris. The outer epithelium has the protective function of internalising the glans (clitoris and penis), urethral meatus (in the male) and the inner preputial epithelium, thus decreasing external irritation or contamination. The prepuce is a specialized, junctional mucocutaneous tissue which marks the boundary between mucosa and skin; it is similar to the eyelids, labia minora, anus and lips. The male prepuce also provides adequate mucosa and skin to cover the entire penis during erection. The unique innervation of the prepuce establishes its function as an erogenous tissue.

There is strong evidence that circumcision is overwhelmingly painful and traumatic. Behavioural changes in circumcised infants have been observed 6 months after the circumcision. The physical and sexual loss resulting from circumcision is gaining recognition, and some men have strong feelings of dissatisfaction about being circumcised.
The potential negative impact of circumcision on the mother–child relationship is evident from some mothers’ distressed responses and from the infants’ behavioural changes. The disrupted mother–infant bond has far-reaching developmental implications and may be one of the most important adverse impacts of circumcision.
Long-term psychological effects associated with circumcision can be difficult to establish because the consequences of early trauma are only very rarely, and under special circumstances, recognizable to the person who experienced the trauma. However, lack of awareness does not necessarily mean that there has been no impact on thinking, feeling, attitude, behaviour and functioning, which are often closely connected. In this way, an early trauma can alter a whole life, whether or not the trauma is consciously remembered.
Defending circumcision requires minimizing or dismissing the harm and producing overstated medical claims about protection from future harm. The ongoing denial requires the acceptance of false beliefs and misunderstanding of facts. These psychological factors affect professionals, members of religious groups and parents involved in the practice. Cultural conformity is a major force perpetuating non-religious circumcision, and to a greater degree, religious circumcision. The avoidance of guilt and the reluctance to acknowledge the mistake and all that it implies help to explain the tenacity with which the practice is defended.
Whatever affects us psychologically also affects us socially. If a trauma is acted out on the next generation, it can alter countless generations until it is recognized and stopped. The potential social consequences of circumcision are profound. There has been no study of these issues perhaps because they are too disturbing to those in societies that do circumcise and of little interest to those in societies that do not. Close psychological and social examination could threaten personal, cultural and religious beliefs of circumcising societies. Consequently, circumcision has become a political issue in which the feelings of infants are unappreciated and secondary to the feelings of adults, who are emotionally invested in the practice.
Awareness about circumcision is changing, and investigation of the psychological and social effects of circumcision opens a valuable new area of inquiry. Researchers are encouraged to include circumcision status as part of the data to be collected for other studies and to explore a range of potential research topics. Examples of unexplored areas include testing male infants, older children and adults for changes in feelings, attitudes and behaviours (especially antisocial behaviour); physiological, neurological and neurochemical differences; and sexual and social functioning.

The prepuce provides a complete or partial covering of the glans clitoridis or penis. For over a hundred years, anatomical research has confirmed that both the penile and clitoral prepuce are richly innervated, specific erogenous tissue with specialised encapsulated (corpuscular) sensory receptors, such as Meissner's corpuscles, Pacinian corpuscles, genital corpuscles, Krause end bulbs, Ruffini corpuscles, and mucocutaneous corpuscles. These receptors transmit sensations of fine touch, pressure, proprioception, and temperature."
"In humans, however, the glans penis has few corpuscular receptors and predominant free nerve endings, consistent with protopathic sensibility. Protopathic simply refers to a low order of sensibility (consciousness of sensation), such as to deep pressure and pain, that is poorly localised. The cornea of the eye is also protopathic, since it can react to a very minute stimulus, such as a hair under the eyelid, but it can only localise which eye is affected and not the exact location of the hair within the conjunctival sac. As a result, the human glans penis has virtually no fine touch sensation and can only sense deep pressure and pain at a high threshold. This was first reported by the inventor of the aesthesiometer, and led Sir Henry Head to make his famous comparison with the back of the heel. While the human glans penis is protopathic, the prepuce contains a high concentration of touch receptors in the ridged band."
"The male and female prepuce has persisted in all primates, which strongly supports the contention that the prepuce is valuable genital sensory tissue."
"Some advocates of mass circumcision have, likewise, considered the prepuce to be a "mistake of nature", but this notion has no validity because the prepuce is ubiquitous in primates and because it provides functional advantages."
"The results of this study demonstrate that the human prepuce is not "vestigial" but is, in fact, an evolutionary advancement over the prepuce of other primates. This is most clearly seen in the evolutionary increase in corpuscular innervation of the human prepuce and the concomitant decrease in corpuscular receptors of the human glans relative to the innervation of the prepuce and glans of lower primates.

There was a decrease in masturbatory pleasure and sexual enjoyment after circumcision, indicating that adult circumcision adversely affects sexual function in many men, possibly because of complications of the surgery and a loss of nerve endings.

The glans of the circumcised penis is less sensitive to fine touch than the glans of the uncircumcised penis. The transitional region from the external to the internal prepuce is the most sensitive region of the uncircumcised penis and more sensitive than the most sensitive region of the circumcised penis. Circumcision ablates the most sensitive parts of the penis.

Circumcision was associated with frequent orgasm difficulties in Danish men and with a range of frequent sexual difficulties in women, notably orgasm difficulties, dyspareunia and a sense of incomplete sexual needs fulfilment. Thorough examination of these matters in areas where male circumcision is more common is warranted.

The study confirmed the lower clinical and similar neurophysiological elicitability of the penilo‐cavernosus reflex in circumcised men and in men with foreskin retraction. This finding needs to be taken into account by urologists and other clinicians in daily clinical practice.

This study confirms the importance of the foreskin for penile sensitivity, overall sexual satisfaction, and penile functioning. Furthermore, this study shows that a higher percentage of circumcised men experience discomfort or pain and unusual sensations as compared with the uncircumcised population. Before circumcision without medical indication, adult men, and parents considering circumcision of their sons, should be informed of the importance of the foreskin in male sexuality.

Our study provides population-based epidemiological evidence that circumcision removes the natural protection against meatal stenosis and, possibly, other USDs as well.

Increased pain sensitivity, decreased immune system functioning, increased avoidance behavior, and social hyper-vigilance are all possible outcomes of untreated pain in early infancy.
Although an individual may not preserve a conscious memory of an early painful event, it is recorded elsewhere in the body, as evidenced by the previously presented long-term outcomes. Multiple procedures in the preterm and low- to extremely low-birth-weight infant, as well as “routine” newborn medical procedures (from heel sticks to circumcision), may alter infant development.

These findings suggest that early exposure to noxious and/or stressful stimuli may induce long-lasting changes in pain behavior, perhaps mediated by alterations in the stress-axis and antinociceptive circuitry.

We report a novel consequence of early life nerve injury whereby mechanical hypersensitivity only emerges later in life. This delayed adolescent onset in mechanical pain thresholds is accompanied by neuroimmune activation and NMDA dependent central sensitization of spinal nociceptive circuits.

The evidence suggests that early experiences with pain are associated with altered pain responses later in infancy.

Collectively, these data show that early life pain alters neural circuits that regulate responses to and neuroendocrine recovery from stress, and suggest that pain experienced by infants in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit may permanently alter future responses to anxiety- and stress-provoking stimuli.

Adults who have experienced neonatal injury display increased pain and injury-induced hyperalgesia in the affected region but mild injury can also induce widespread baseline hyposensitivity across the rest of the body surface.

The altered sensory input from neonatal injury selectively modulates neuronal excitability within the spinal cord, disrupts inhibitory control, and primes the immune system, all of which contribute to the adverse long-term consequences of early pain exposure.

This study provides the first demonstration that many of the brain regions that encode pain in adults are also active in full-term newborn infants within the first 7 days of life. This strongly supports the hypothesis that infants are able to experience both sensory and affective aspects of pain, and emphasizes the importance of effective clinical pain management.

Some stuff you should have learned in school:

1. Masturbation is normal through out life. The right frequency also prevents testicular cancer in males.
2. Clitoral and vulvar orgasms are a skill. Especially for the person having them. Practice is required.
3. If your parents denied you the HPV vaccine, you can still get it up to age 26. HPV can cause cancer regardless of your sex, including in your throat.
4. There are many birth control options other than the pill. Hormonal birth control may effect your mental and physical health.
5. A condom that has been exposed to heat or friction is no longer sound. Glove boxes and wallets are not safe storage for barriers.
6. If you have ovaries, you should be tracking your cycle. It is important medical info regardless of sexual activity.
7. If you or someone you know is raped, regardless of gender, the first stop should be the ER. Emergency STI prevention like PEP can prevent HIV.
8. Anal sex requires substantial preparation to be safe. Do not try it with out a plan, a lubricant, and a barrier.
9. The morning after pill is most effective in the first 12 hours, but can be effective up to 5 days after intercourse. It can be bought over the counter, by men or women. In most places the purchasing age is 14.
10. People with ovaries need regular gynecological exams, even if they aren't sexually active.
11. Frequent use of porn or vibrators can decrease your enjoyment of partnered sex. Consider moderation.
12. Most penetrative sex lasts only a handful of minutes.
13. It should never hurt when you pee. Alway pee after sex, to help prevent a UTI.
14. Sex 'drive', gender, and sexuality are fluid and will change over time.
15. Soap can be used externally, but should never go inside you.
16. Most people who have an STI never show symptoms.
17. Waxing testicles is very dangerous. Go to a professional, or just don't do it.
18. If someone won't have sex with you because of pubic hair, maybe don't have sex with them. It's usually a sign of immaturity or controlling behavior.
19. Sex should feel good. If it hurts, stop. Even if it's your first time.
20. Very few women bleed their first time. Hymens are weird.
21. You can always say no, even if you've already said yes.
22. Sex should feel good. Seriously.
23. No partner should ever demand your passwords, bank details, keys, phone or other personal access. Information will not fix a distrusting partner because you are not the cause of their fear.
24. Throwing stuff is domestic violence. Even if it's not at you.
25. A healthy partnership feels like friendship, but better. They build you up, own their mistakes, respect your opinion, trust in your character, and continue to grow. Relationships aren't as scarce as they feel sometimes. Hold out for a good one.

Resources for further reading

Discussion Prompts

• There is a class put on by OHSU/Kaiser you are encouraged/required to go to to be able to get vaginoplasty and I found it to be worthless. There was data in it that was not recommended by the surgeon, they stated to get the discharge instructions and review before surgery, but that they would not give it until after surgery, along with a litany of other things.
• Dugi rocks. I like his confidence, beside manner and desire to help immensely. So glad I chose him.
• There should be more published data available to transwomen about the colonization of the neo-vagina. There's studies on what is in there and how to supplement it. I have a bunch of the journals in full if anyone wants them.