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2024.05.20 05:04 Worldly-Pomelo1843 [general] Does anyone think there should have been a daughter of Neptune or Salacia?
I find it extremely weird that Rick never introduced a daughter or son of Neptune, when the BIg Three all have children on their Greek and Roman sides. Jason and Thalia, Biancia + Nico and Hazel, Percy and ???? Sure we got Tyson, but he doesn't count. I think that it would have been extremely interesting for Percy to go to Camp Jupiter and meet a daughter of Neptune who is just as good as him and has to prove herself 10x's as hard because children of Neptune are viewed as bad omens to the Romans.
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2024.05.20 05:03 Sad-Strike-4192 AITA for not blocking a guy on Facebook when I’m in a relationship
I (28F) and my boyfriend (28M) have had a rocky relationship to say the least. I have borderline personality disorder (in both CBT and DBT and on medication for almost 5 years) and an eating disorder (in outpatient treatment for nearly 3 years), so I am well aware that I am not always easy to be with and that I have done/said things that have hurt him. He is an addict, on the spectrum, and bipolar with MAYBE a year of treatment and a couple months of clean time under his belt.
In the past I’ve struggled in our relationship with the idea presented to me by friends (primarily mine), family (both his and mine), and my mental health professionals that the relationship is at best toxic and at worst abusive. He has left me a total of 5 times in the span of three years.
The first time he left was to go on a drug binge with a 19 year old coworker who he was cheating on me with in my own home. Girls have always been a problem in our relationship, but as far as I know he’s only physically cheated with one girl. Typically the issues would be talking to exs, talking to girls he never really dated but did have romantic or sexual history with, doing drugs with girls, or talking badly about me to another girl. With the long history of these issues, I’ve frequently been distant or cold towards him or did things to hide ED slip ups which he says had pushed him to the actual act of physically cheating.
He spent most of our relationship writing off my concerns about a couple girls because they were also long standing friends despite having a sexual or romantic history with them. Because of this, I (drunkenly) reached out to catch up with an old friend who I used to sleep with very casually when we were both single. I only spoke to him for one night and then never again because I knew my boyfriend would be mad and hurt. He found out and broke up with me.
We have since gotten back together, and my friends and family are sort of coming around- almost against their will. In an effort to be honest I told him that while we were broken up a guy friend of over 10 years asked me out (which I declined, and he was ok with).
Fast forward to a couple months later, I didn’t block that guy, and I shared something stupid on Facebook which that guy friend commented on. My boyfriend flipped out.
I asked him to bring up concerns in a more constructive and communicative way, but we spent two days being (as he put it) “not ok”. I had plans with my family that weekend and spent the whole time trying to hold it together while feeling sick and hurt and confused because of how the text/call exchanges ended up. He told me that having that guy trying to flirt with me online “looks shady” and that I always brush off his concerns. I kept asking what I did wrong and he’d tell me nothing. By the end of the weekend I left my family’s house early and had a panic attack on the phone while he yelled at me.
I pointed out that he still has girls that have been a concern for me on Facebook and currently works with someone that he says flirts with him on the clock but I’m trying to rebuild trust and communicate with I’m uncomfortable without blowing up. He said I was deflecting and invalidating his feelings.
I’m so confused how I ended up being the one begging for forgiveness, blocking and deleting people on social media, and asking him to point blank lay out how he would like me to act in the future.
This is the first time since getting back together that I see his old mask slipping back. I had to beg him to speak to me like a human being. I had to ask him to have empathy for me- in those words. I don’t feel like I can talk to my friends and family about this without them immediately hating him again. Now I have everyone blocked that I think he could possibly have a problem with, and he seems to have calmed down.
I guess what I’m wondering at this point is… AITA for not immediately blocking that guy, and am I being manipulative and invalidating?
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In the past I’ve struggled in our relationship with the idea presented to me by friends (primarily mine), family (both his and mine), and my mental health professionals that the relationship is at best toxic and at worst abusive. He has left me a total of 5 times in the span of three years.
The first time he left was to go on a drug binge with a 19 year old coworker who he was cheating on me with in my own home. Girls have always been a problem in our relationship, but as far as I know he’s only physically cheated with one girl. Typically the issues would be talking to exs, talking to girls he never really dated but did have romantic or sexual history with, doing drugs with girls, or talking badly about me to another girl. With the long history of these issues, I’ve frequently been distant or cold towards him or did things to hide ED slip ups which he says had pushed him to the actual act of physically cheating.
He spent most of our relationship writing off my concerns about a couple girls because they were also long standing friends despite having a sexual or romantic history with them. Because of this, I (drunkenly) reached out to catch up with an old friend who I used to sleep with very casually when we were both single. I only spoke to him for one night and then never again because I knew my boyfriend would be mad and hurt. He found out and broke up with me.
We have since gotten back together, and my friends and family are sort of coming around- almost against their will. In an effort to be honest I told him that while we were broken up a guy friend of over 10 years asked me out (which I declined, and he was ok with).
Fast forward to a couple months later, I didn’t block that guy, and I shared something stupid on Facebook which that guy friend commented on. My boyfriend flipped out.
I asked him to bring up concerns in a more constructive and communicative way, but we spent two days being (as he put it) “not ok”. I had plans with my family that weekend and spent the whole time trying to hold it together while feeling sick and hurt and confused because of how the text/call exchanges ended up. He told me that having that guy trying to flirt with me online “looks shady” and that I always brush off his concerns. I kept asking what I did wrong and he’d tell me nothing. By the end of the weekend I left my family’s house early and had a panic attack on the phone while he yelled at me.
I pointed out that he still has girls that have been a concern for me on Facebook and currently works with someone that he says flirts with him on the clock but I’m trying to rebuild trust and communicate with I’m uncomfortable without blowing up. He said I was deflecting and invalidating his feelings.
I’m so confused how I ended up being the one begging for forgiveness, blocking and deleting people on social media, and asking him to point blank lay out how he would like me to act in the future.
This is the first time since getting back together that I see his old mask slipping back. I had to beg him to speak to me like a human being. I had to ask him to have empathy for me- in those words. I don’t feel like I can talk to my friends and family about this without them immediately hating him again. Now I have everyone blocked that I think he could possibly have a problem with, and he seems to have calmed down.
I guess what I’m wondering at this point is… AITA for not immediately blocking that guy, and am I being manipulative and invalidating?
2024.05.20 05:03 Bigtownbananas Weird heartbeat, chest pains, and more.
Female, 20, 130lbs, white.
Hello! For the last couple of weeks, I’ve been experiencing the debilitating, sharp chest pains that make me dizzy and fatigued, as well as sharp pains in my flanks (kidneys I think, and mostly left side).
I went to the ER, as well as my primary doctor, who both ran urine, bloodwork, EKGs, and X-rays with no abnormalities found. Both visits ended in “you’re young so you’re fine”.
I started taking it into my own hands because the pain isn’t ceasing and is interfering with my life. I’ve been tracking my BPM, which shoots up to 150-160 during my chest pain “episodes” in which I get dizzy and my chest sends shooting pains when I move or breath. My resting heart rate is averaging 135, but as high as 155. However, tonight I went on a walk and jogged down the street to see what would happen and my BPM went DOWN to as low as 55 and as high as 70.
My whole life I’ve had perfect stats and am told I’m as healthy as can be. I’m moderately active (occasionally go to gym and on walks) and eat decently well. Don’t smoke or drink.
What does this mean!? Any ideas?! I am going to advocate to get a referral to a specialist (cardiologist) but am trying to gather as much info as possible so they take me seriously. I experience at least 10 chest pain “episodes” a day and they make me super tired and are VERY VERY painful.
Thank you in advanced.
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Hello! For the last couple of weeks, I’ve been experiencing the debilitating, sharp chest pains that make me dizzy and fatigued, as well as sharp pains in my flanks (kidneys I think, and mostly left side).
I went to the ER, as well as my primary doctor, who both ran urine, bloodwork, EKGs, and X-rays with no abnormalities found. Both visits ended in “you’re young so you’re fine”.
I started taking it into my own hands because the pain isn’t ceasing and is interfering with my life. I’ve been tracking my BPM, which shoots up to 150-160 during my chest pain “episodes” in which I get dizzy and my chest sends shooting pains when I move or breath. My resting heart rate is averaging 135, but as high as 155. However, tonight I went on a walk and jogged down the street to see what would happen and my BPM went DOWN to as low as 55 and as high as 70.
My whole life I’ve had perfect stats and am told I’m as healthy as can be. I’m moderately active (occasionally go to gym and on walks) and eat decently well. Don’t smoke or drink.
What does this mean!? Any ideas?! I am going to advocate to get a referral to a specialist (cardiologist) but am trying to gather as much info as possible so they take me seriously. I experience at least 10 chest pain “episodes” a day and they make me super tired and are VERY VERY painful.
Thank you in advanced.
2024.05.20 05:02 Daisy_Main Dead by Daylight X Inscryption (Concept)
Inscryption x Dead By Daylight
Just played Inscryption for the first time and thought it was an absolutely incredible game. If you haven’t played the game and you’re even slightly interested, do it right now and don’t read anything about this post, go in as blind as you can. If you don’t care, read up then.
Marking as spoiler since technically this spoils a lot of cool stuff about this game, seriously check it out if you’re interested
New killer - The Scrybes New Survivor - Luke Carder
Height - Tall Move speed - 4.6 Terror Radius - 32
Power - Methods of Inscryption Press the power button to equip a power wheel. Whatever power you select changes your current killer to the scrybe the power is associated with.
Up- Leshy’s camera Equip Leshy’s camera. The camera fires a large cone in a bright flash. Survivors hit by the flash are unable to drop pallets or vault windows and gain a stack of Inscribed.
CD - 15 seconds
Right - P03’s Particle scanner Equip P03’s Particle scanner. P03’s scanner creates an incredibly large field in front of you. The first healthy survivor caught in the field enters The Factory. The Factory is a small area with one window and a pallet gym. While in this area, all perks are disabled, they gain a stack of Inscribed, and P03 gains 20% increased lunge range while inside The Factory. If the survivor is downed, P03 gains the same buff for the next 45 seconds afterwards, and all generators lose 10% progress. If the survivor escapes, both players return to the initial position where the power began.
CD - 130 seconds
Down - Grimora’s quill Equip Grimora’s epitaph and quill. Summon a skeleton which will patrol the trial, and chase after the first survivor it sees. When it hits a survivor, it instantly perishes and takes a health state of that survivor. Survivors who have a Skeleton summoned within 16 meters of them gain the hindered status effect and gain a stack of Inscribed. The same effects are applied if a survivor is hit by a skeleton.
CD - 60 seconds
Left - Magicus’ brush Equip a paintbrush. While holding the power button, begin painting. Each stroke of the brush increases the brushes power. Each brush increases the range of the Paint Throw attack, to an eventual maximum. After releasing the button, 5 globs of paint is launched in a wave shape and injures survivors hit by the wave, and gives them the Inscribed status effect.
CD - 15 seconds
Inscribed status effect A survivor can have up to 5 stacks of the Inscribed effect. At 5 stacks, the killer is given a card of that survivor. The card reveals that survivors solo q icon to the killer, and shows their perk loadout on the UI. This effect cannot be removed by any means.
Addons - Brown
Starving man card - Powers no longer give the Inscribed status effect. Gain 100% bonus bp for using powers
Gravedigger card - Increase the field of vision and detection range of the skeleton by 10%
Orange Mox Card - increases the spacing out of the Paint attack’s projectiles by 4 meters
Empty Cell Card - removes the brief move speed penalty after ending early or failing The Factory chase
Yellow
Geck Card - Leshy’s camera is instantly recharged if it doesn’t connect with a survivor
Necromancer Card - summoning a skeleton gives the Scrybes a 4% haste effect for 3 seconds
49er Card - Using the Particle Scanner causes all other survivors not brought to The Factory survivors to scream and gives them the blindness status effect for 60 seconds
Mage Knight Card - Paint from a paint attack bounces off the environment once
Squirrel Card - Hitting a Camera Flash reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15 %
Blue Mox Card - Hitting a Paint Attack reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15%
Green
Cockroach Card - Getting stunned by any means reduces all current power cooldowns by 50%
Double Gunner Card - the amount of time a survivor spends in the factory is increased by 3 seconds when they get hit with a basic attack
Bone Heap Card - Each time you down a survivor, instantly recharge the Quill and Epitaph
Green Mox Card - Paint attacks inflict Exhausted on survivors for 15 seconds
Strange Larvae Card - Survivors who complete a generator gain one stack of Inscribed “A largely unimpressive specimen” - Leshy
Purple
Urayuli Card - Flashes from Leshy’s camera deal one health state, and no longer removes the ability to vault pallets or windows
Increase the cooldown of Leshy’s camera by 15 seconds “The level of strength needs no explanation.” - Leshy
Stinkbug Card - When summoning a skeleton, spawn a second random skeleton at least 32 meters away from the killer “It’s me.” - Stinkbug
Stoat Card - Survivors have their aura revealed for the entire duration of the Factory chase “Bad move.” - Stoat
Stunted Wolf Card - after standing still for 3 and charging a Paint Attack, the Paint Attack ignores all walls for its entire duration. “Use me well.” - Stunted Wolf
Iridescent
Iridescent Inscryption Floppy Disk An entity created copy of the accursed game Inscryption
Flashes from Leshy’s camera briefly blind survivors Survivors who destroy a skeleton with a pallet lose a health state The Factory blocks all generators while in a chase in The Factory, but no longer regresses them upon downing the survivor Paint Attack projectiles pierce survivors
“I think I just beat him!” - Luke Carder
OLD_DATA Card - When a survivor reaches maximum stacks of Inscribed, their aura is revealed when not in chase until they are downed next. “Weak deck. Total lack of synergy.” - P03
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Just played Inscryption for the first time and thought it was an absolutely incredible game. If you haven’t played the game and you’re even slightly interested, do it right now and don’t read anything about this post, go in as blind as you can. If you don’t care, read up then.
Marking as spoiler since technically this spoils a lot of cool stuff about this game, seriously check it out if you’re interested
New killer - The Scrybes New Survivor - Luke Carder
Height - Tall Move speed - 4.6 Terror Radius - 32
Power - Methods of Inscryption Press the power button to equip a power wheel. Whatever power you select changes your current killer to the scrybe the power is associated with.
Up- Leshy’s camera Equip Leshy’s camera. The camera fires a large cone in a bright flash. Survivors hit by the flash are unable to drop pallets or vault windows and gain a stack of Inscribed.
CD - 15 seconds
Right - P03’s Particle scanner Equip P03’s Particle scanner. P03’s scanner creates an incredibly large field in front of you. The first healthy survivor caught in the field enters The Factory. The Factory is a small area with one window and a pallet gym. While in this area, all perks are disabled, they gain a stack of Inscribed, and P03 gains 20% increased lunge range while inside The Factory. If the survivor is downed, P03 gains the same buff for the next 45 seconds afterwards, and all generators lose 10% progress. If the survivor escapes, both players return to the initial position where the power began.
CD - 130 seconds
Down - Grimora’s quill Equip Grimora’s epitaph and quill. Summon a skeleton which will patrol the trial, and chase after the first survivor it sees. When it hits a survivor, it instantly perishes and takes a health state of that survivor. Survivors who have a Skeleton summoned within 16 meters of them gain the hindered status effect and gain a stack of Inscribed. The same effects are applied if a survivor is hit by a skeleton.
CD - 60 seconds
Left - Magicus’ brush Equip a paintbrush. While holding the power button, begin painting. Each stroke of the brush increases the brushes power. Each brush increases the range of the Paint Throw attack, to an eventual maximum. After releasing the button, 5 globs of paint is launched in a wave shape and injures survivors hit by the wave, and gives them the Inscribed status effect.
CD - 15 seconds
Inscribed status effect A survivor can have up to 5 stacks of the Inscribed effect. At 5 stacks, the killer is given a card of that survivor. The card reveals that survivors solo q icon to the killer, and shows their perk loadout on the UI. This effect cannot be removed by any means.
Addons - Brown
Starving man card - Powers no longer give the Inscribed status effect. Gain 100% bonus bp for using powers
Gravedigger card - Increase the field of vision and detection range of the skeleton by 10%
Orange Mox Card - increases the spacing out of the Paint attack’s projectiles by 4 meters
Empty Cell Card - removes the brief move speed penalty after ending early or failing The Factory chase
Yellow
Geck Card - Leshy’s camera is instantly recharged if it doesn’t connect with a survivor
Necromancer Card - summoning a skeleton gives the Scrybes a 4% haste effect for 3 seconds
49er Card - Using the Particle Scanner causes all other survivors not brought to The Factory survivors to scream and gives them the blindness status effect for 60 seconds
Mage Knight Card - Paint from a paint attack bounces off the environment once
Squirrel Card - Hitting a Camera Flash reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15 %
Blue Mox Card - Hitting a Paint Attack reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15%
Green
Cockroach Card - Getting stunned by any means reduces all current power cooldowns by 50%
Double Gunner Card - the amount of time a survivor spends in the factory is increased by 3 seconds when they get hit with a basic attack
Bone Heap Card - Each time you down a survivor, instantly recharge the Quill and Epitaph
Green Mox Card - Paint attacks inflict Exhausted on survivors for 15 seconds
Strange Larvae Card - Survivors who complete a generator gain one stack of Inscribed “A largely unimpressive specimen” - Leshy
Purple
Urayuli Card - Flashes from Leshy’s camera deal one health state, and no longer removes the ability to vault pallets or windows
Increase the cooldown of Leshy’s camera by 15 seconds “The level of strength needs no explanation.” - Leshy
Stinkbug Card - When summoning a skeleton, spawn a second random skeleton at least 32 meters away from the killer “It’s me.” - Stinkbug
Stoat Card - Survivors have their aura revealed for the entire duration of the Factory chase “Bad move.” - Stoat
Stunted Wolf Card - after standing still for 3 and charging a Paint Attack, the Paint Attack ignores all walls for its entire duration. “Use me well.” - Stunted Wolf
Iridescent
Iridescent Inscryption Floppy Disk An entity created copy of the accursed game Inscryption
Flashes from Leshy’s camera briefly blind survivors Survivors who destroy a skeleton with a pallet lose a health state The Factory blocks all generators while in a chase in The Factory, but no longer regresses them upon downing the survivor Paint Attack projectiles pierce survivors
“I think I just beat him!” - Luke Carder
OLD_DATA Card - When a survivor reaches maximum stacks of Inscribed, their aura is revealed when not in chase until they are downed next. “Weak deck. Total lack of synergy.” - P03
2024.05.20 05:01 JoeyGamePro I might have found a case of cheating and I'm not sure what to do
Long story but it is quite juicy, I left a TLDR but recommend reading the whole thing.
TLDR: Girl I know has an active dating app profile and is also actively posting on kink personal subreddits looking for guys. Her boyfriend posted a picture of them together a few weeks ago after I had seen this, and I know they were dating beforehand.
So this situation involves two people who I don't talk to. They are both friends of friends and I have known them separate from one another, and for the most part I have had little to no interaction with both of them in the time that I have known them. (outside of the girl)
CONTEXT: It involves a girl, let's call her Marie, and a guy, let's call him James. One of the things that makes this situation even more sticky is that Marie is best friends with my ex-girlfriend which I broke up with over 2 months ago.
James and I share a common interest/activity together, and due to the close knit nature of our community/college we are in a Snapchat group chat together and are also friends on there, but we don't talk.
Anyways, about a month ago I downloaded dating apps again to get back in the game. After a few days of using it I came across Marie's profile on the 3 major apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge). I thought this was odd because I thought she was dating James, but figured they must have broken up. Also to note, her profile had NO mention of polygamy.
2 weeks ago, I see that James posted a story to his Snapchat, and it was him and Marie together, celebrating their 5 month anniversary. I thought about reaching out based on what I knew, but I didn't know what to do.
I didn't do anything right away, however this weekend I thought about it again and I decided to try and do a little detective work, admittedly probably overstepping some boundaries, because one of the things I did was look up her online/gaming alias on Google, as we did play some games together with my ex-girlfriend prior to breaking up.
And then I found her Reddit... and what I found made my heart sink. She had posts on kink personal subreddits looking for guys to do sexual acts with. Nothing in these posts mentioned that it would my polygamous, The information she provided, plus posts/comments in other subreddits were self identifying enough that I know with certainty it is her.
These posts are as recent as a few days ago and go back about 2 months. Well into when they were still dating (if they are broken up).
I know that none of this is my business, and it could very well be that they are in a polygamous relationship, but nothing that her profiles showed indicated that it is. I have no idea what to do, I feel like if I were to reach out that I would be seen as a creep/invading someone's personal life.
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TLDR: Girl I know has an active dating app profile and is also actively posting on kink personal subreddits looking for guys. Her boyfriend posted a picture of them together a few weeks ago after I had seen this, and I know they were dating beforehand.
So this situation involves two people who I don't talk to. They are both friends of friends and I have known them separate from one another, and for the most part I have had little to no interaction with both of them in the time that I have known them. (outside of the girl)
CONTEXT: It involves a girl, let's call her Marie, and a guy, let's call him James. One of the things that makes this situation even more sticky is that Marie is best friends with my ex-girlfriend which I broke up with over 2 months ago.
James and I share a common interest/activity together, and due to the close knit nature of our community/college we are in a Snapchat group chat together and are also friends on there, but we don't talk.
Anyways, about a month ago I downloaded dating apps again to get back in the game. After a few days of using it I came across Marie's profile on the 3 major apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge). I thought this was odd because I thought she was dating James, but figured they must have broken up. Also to note, her profile had NO mention of polygamy.
2 weeks ago, I see that James posted a story to his Snapchat, and it was him and Marie together, celebrating their 5 month anniversary. I thought about reaching out based on what I knew, but I didn't know what to do.
I didn't do anything right away, however this weekend I thought about it again and I decided to try and do a little detective work, admittedly probably overstepping some boundaries, because one of the things I did was look up her online/gaming alias on Google, as we did play some games together with my ex-girlfriend prior to breaking up.
And then I found her Reddit... and what I found made my heart sink. She had posts on kink personal subreddits looking for guys to do sexual acts with. Nothing in these posts mentioned that it would my polygamous, The information she provided, plus posts/comments in other subreddits were self identifying enough that I know with certainty it is her.
These posts are as recent as a few days ago and go back about 2 months. Well into when they were still dating (if they are broken up).
I know that none of this is my business, and it could very well be that they are in a polygamous relationship, but nothing that her profiles showed indicated that it is. I have no idea what to do, I feel like if I were to reach out that I would be seen as a creep/invading someone's personal life.
2024.05.20 05:01 BlytheVale Fillings done 4 days ago, pain when chewing tougher/harder food
I had two fillings done four days ago on my back left and right molars; they were the white fillings. Dentist seemed to struggle with doing the actual fillings and they took about an hour to complete. They also didn’t even buff out the filling material after either and I had to them it was still rough.
I know there can be some sensitivity but I’ve had fillings before and the pain isn’t this unmanageable. I can eat soft foods no problem. But I can’t eat meat, chips, etc without there being discomfort when food hits the teeth. I can’t even chew on the left side at all because it’s that bad.
Should I give it more time to see if it goes away? Or should I be calling them back by now? My issue if I wait is that I have new dental insurance kicking in the beginning of June so I worry by waiting they won’t be able to do anything or I’ll have to pay. Thanks!
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I know there can be some sensitivity but I’ve had fillings before and the pain isn’t this unmanageable. I can eat soft foods no problem. But I can’t eat meat, chips, etc without there being discomfort when food hits the teeth. I can’t even chew on the left side at all because it’s that bad.
Should I give it more time to see if it goes away? Or should I be calling them back by now? My issue if I wait is that I have new dental insurance kicking in the beginning of June so I worry by waiting they won’t be able to do anything or I’ll have to pay. Thanks!
2024.05.20 05:01 marywagnerlangford Letters Oppose the Dysfunctional Characterization of Langford Council
In this Letters to the Editor section of the Times Colonist there are a couple thoughtful submissions in support of our responsible approach to city finances Re: “B.C. is plagued by dysfunctional municipal councils,” commentary, May 15.
https://www.timescolonist.com/opinion/letters-may-18-skip-the-insulting-language-langford-council-is-not-dysfunctional-dont-subsidize-e-bikes-with-tax-dollars-8766472
Here are my thoughts:
A high percentage tax increase is not a sign of dysfunction. The tax increase requires context.
In Langford, the tax increase simply indicates that Langford Council approved a budget that is significantly higher than last year. The math shows that comparing us to other municipalities in the region, we went from 4th lowest in 2023 to 7th out of 13 in 2024.
Interestingly, if you only look at our tax increase percentage of 15.6% compared to Colwood at 4.9% it's not clear that, in fact, taxes for a representative house in Langford (~53,000 people) are still lower than in Colwood (~22,000) people in 2024. Esquimalt with ~20,000 people has much higher taxes by over $900.
There are lots of things to consider when comparing municipal budgets. Some of the major factors that affected the budget this year include:
Fire Department (additional 9 firefighters as per Master Plan) 2.31%
Debt payment (internal capital borrowing) 1.67%
Police (RCMP) for 5 additional officers + one ME 2.31%
CPI on wages 1.37%
Maintenance Contracts (i.e. roads and parks maintenance) 1.16%
General Staffing 1.12%
Repairs and maintenance 0.87%
Community Safety and Municipal (Bylaw) enforcement staffing 0.60%
Greater Victoria Regional Library 0.53%
Royal Roads University initiatives 0.50%
Utilities and insurance 0.50%
West Shore Parks and Recreation Society 0.30%
Miscellaneous (net effect of increases and decreases of revenues and expenses) 2.91%
Reduced contribution to Equipment Replacement Reserve -1.10%
Non-market change (helping offset additional costs of growth) -4.17%
Debt servicing costs - Westhills owned YMCA building purchase 1.75%
No longer using the amenity fees for tax reduction, but rather using them for tangible amenities like sidewalks ~3%
The budget was deliberated in public meetings and went through proper democratic process. There is a lot of value and need behind some of the numbers to support our rapidly growing community.
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https://www.timescolonist.com/opinion/letters-may-18-skip-the-insulting-language-langford-council-is-not-dysfunctional-dont-subsidize-e-bikes-with-tax-dollars-8766472
Here are my thoughts:
A high percentage tax increase is not a sign of dysfunction. The tax increase requires context.
In Langford, the tax increase simply indicates that Langford Council approved a budget that is significantly higher than last year. The math shows that comparing us to other municipalities in the region, we went from 4th lowest in 2023 to 7th out of 13 in 2024.
Interestingly, if you only look at our tax increase percentage of 15.6% compared to Colwood at 4.9% it's not clear that, in fact, taxes for a representative house in Langford (~53,000 people) are still lower than in Colwood (~22,000) people in 2024. Esquimalt with ~20,000 people has much higher taxes by over $900.
There are lots of things to consider when comparing municipal budgets. Some of the major factors that affected the budget this year include:
Fire Department (additional 9 firefighters as per Master Plan) 2.31%
Debt payment (internal capital borrowing) 1.67%
Police (RCMP) for 5 additional officers + one ME 2.31%
CPI on wages 1.37%
Maintenance Contracts (i.e. roads and parks maintenance) 1.16%
General Staffing 1.12%
Repairs and maintenance 0.87%
Community Safety and Municipal (Bylaw) enforcement staffing 0.60%
Greater Victoria Regional Library 0.53%
Royal Roads University initiatives 0.50%
Utilities and insurance 0.50%
West Shore Parks and Recreation Society 0.30%
Miscellaneous (net effect of increases and decreases of revenues and expenses) 2.91%
Reduced contribution to Equipment Replacement Reserve -1.10%
Non-market change (helping offset additional costs of growth) -4.17%
Debt servicing costs - Westhills owned YMCA building purchase 1.75%
No longer using the amenity fees for tax reduction, but rather using them for tangible amenities like sidewalks ~3%
The budget was deliberated in public meetings and went through proper democratic process. There is a lot of value and need behind some of the numbers to support our rapidly growing community.
2024.05.20 05:01 22lr_enjoyer I might be a pathological liar
In these days I left reddit I've had the time to reflect on myself
Among my findings is that I cant stop lying all the time. I lie to everyone, to my dad, family members, to college professors, to the few friends I have in uni, and to my old high-school friends, to neighbors, to uber drivers or any complete stranger
Might start the conversation as usual talking with the truth, then pull stuff out my ass sometimes without noticing. With no apparent reason i will start saying fake stuff
What I find kind of interesting is that I not only tell big lies to people I'll probably never see again but to people I may see everyday
Idk just a thought
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Among my findings is that I cant stop lying all the time. I lie to everyone, to my dad, family members, to college professors, to the few friends I have in uni, and to my old high-school friends, to neighbors, to uber drivers or any complete stranger
Might start the conversation as usual talking with the truth, then pull stuff out my ass sometimes without noticing. With no apparent reason i will start saying fake stuff
What I find kind of interesting is that I not only tell big lies to people I'll probably never see again but to people I may see everyday
Idk just a thought
2024.05.20 05:01 blueeyed_ranger Writing Clubs in LA?
Wondering if anyone knows of writer's clubs in Los Angeles?
Where people meet up in person and discuss and critique writing-
Mainly interested in people who write articles, non-fiction, philosophy/psychology, newsletters, and copy.
Not looking for poetry, screenwriting, or short stories.
Side note: Improv acting class has freshly renovated my social skills. In-person learning is amazing.
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Where people meet up in person and discuss and critique writing-
Mainly interested in people who write articles, non-fiction, philosophy/psychology, newsletters, and copy.
Not looking for poetry, screenwriting, or short stories.
Side note: Improv acting class has freshly renovated my social skills. In-person learning is amazing.
2024.05.20 05:01 Daisy_Main Inscryption x Dead By Daylight
Just played Inscryption for the first time and thought it was an absolutely incredible game. If you haven’t played the game and you’re even slightly interested, do it right now and don’t read anything about this post, go in as blind as you can. If you don’t care, read up then.
New killer - The Scrybes New Survivor - Luke Carder
Height - Tall Move speed - 4.6 Terror Radius - 32
Power - Methods of Inscryption Press the power button to equip a power wheel. Whatever power you select changes your current killer to the scrybe the power is associated with.
Up- Leshy’s camera Equip Leshy’s camera. The camera fires a large cone in a bright flash. Survivors hit by the flash are unable to drop pallets or vault windows and gain a stack of Inscribed.
CD - 15 seconds
Right - P03’s Particle scanner Equip P03’s Particle scanner. P03’s scanner creates an incredibly large field in front of you. The first healthy survivor caught in the field enters The Factory. The Factory is a small area with one window and a pallet gym. While in this area, all perks are disabled, they gain a stack of Inscribed, and P03 gains 20% increased lunge range while inside The Factory. If the survivor is downed, P03 gains the same buff for the next 45 seconds afterwards, and all generators lose 10% progress. If the survivor escapes, both players return to the initial position where the power began.
CD - 130 seconds
Down - Grimora’s quill Equip Grimora’s epitaph and quill. Summon a skeleton which will patrol the trial, and chase after the first survivor it sees. When it hits a survivor, it instantly perishes and takes a health state of that survivor. Survivors who have a Skeleton summoned within 16 meters of them gain the hindered status effect and gain a stack of Inscribed. The same effects are applied if a survivor is hit by a skeleton.
CD - 60 seconds
Left - Magicus’ brush Equip a paintbrush. While holding the power button, begin painting. Each stroke of the brush increases the brushes power. Each brush increases the range of the Paint Throw attack, to an eventual maximum. After releasing the button, 5 globs of paint is launched in a wave shape and injures survivors hit by the wave, and gives them the Inscribed status effect.
CD - 15 seconds
Inscribed status effect A survivor can have up to 5 stacks of the Inscribed effect. At 5 stacks, the killer is given a card of that survivor. The card reveals that survivors solo q icon to the killer, and shows their perk loadout on the UI. This effect cannot be removed by any means.
Addons - Brown
Starving man card - Powers no longer give the Inscribed status effect. Gain 100% bonus bp for using powers
Gravedigger card - Increase the field of vision and detection range of the skeleton by 10%
Orange Mox Card - increases the spacing out of the Paint attack’s projectiles by 4 meters
Empty Cell Card - removes the brief move speed penalty after ending early or failing The Factory chase
Yellow
Geck Card - Leshy’s camera is instantly recharged if it doesn’t connect with a survivor
Necromancer Card - summoning a skeleton gives the Scrybes a 4% haste effect for 3 seconds
49er Card - Using the Particle Scanner causes all other survivors not brought to The Factory survivors to scream and gives them the blindness status effect for 60 seconds
Mage Knight Card - Paint from a paint attack bounces off the environment once
Squirrel Card - Hitting a Camera Flash reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15 %
Blue Mox Card - Hitting a Paint Attack reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15%
Green
Cockroach Card - Getting stunned by any means reduces all current power cooldowns by 50%
Double Gunner Card - the amount of time a survivor spends in the factory is increased by 3 seconds when they get hit with a basic attack
Bone Heap Card - Each time you down a survivor, instantly recharge the Quill and Epitaph
Green Mox Card - Paint attacks inflict Exhausted on survivors for 15 seconds
Strange Larvae Card - Survivors who complete a generator gain one stack of Inscribed “A largely unimpressive specimen” - Leshy
Purple
Urayuli Card - Flashes from Leshy’s camera deal one health state, and no longer removes the ability to vault pallets or windows
Increase the cooldown of Leshy’s camera by 15 seconds “The level of strength needs no explanation.” - Leshy
Stinkbug Card - When summoning a skeleton, spawn a second random skeleton at least 32 meters away from the killer “It’s me.” - Stinkbug
Stoat Card - Survivors have their aura revealed for the entire duration of the Factory chase “Bad move.” - Stoat
Stunted Wolf Card - after standing still for 3 and charging a Paint Attack, the Paint Attack ignores all walls for its entire duration. “Use me well.” - Stunted Wolf
Iridescent
Iridescent Inscryption Floppy Disk An entity created copy of the accursed game Inscryption
Flashes from Leshy’s camera briefly blind survivors Survivors who destroy a skeleton with a pallet lose a health state The Factory blocks all generators while in a chase in The Factory, but no longer regresses them upon downing the survivor Paint Attack projectiles pierce survivors
“I think I just beat him!” - Luke Carder
OLD_DATA Card - When a survivor reaches maximum stacks of Inscribed, their aura is revealed when not in chase until they are downed next. “Weak deck. Total lack of synergy.” - P03
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New killer - The Scrybes New Survivor - Luke Carder
Height - Tall Move speed - 4.6 Terror Radius - 32
Power - Methods of Inscryption Press the power button to equip a power wheel. Whatever power you select changes your current killer to the scrybe the power is associated with.
Up- Leshy’s camera Equip Leshy’s camera. The camera fires a large cone in a bright flash. Survivors hit by the flash are unable to drop pallets or vault windows and gain a stack of Inscribed.
CD - 15 seconds
Right - P03’s Particle scanner Equip P03’s Particle scanner. P03’s scanner creates an incredibly large field in front of you. The first healthy survivor caught in the field enters The Factory. The Factory is a small area with one window and a pallet gym. While in this area, all perks are disabled, they gain a stack of Inscribed, and P03 gains 20% increased lunge range while inside The Factory. If the survivor is downed, P03 gains the same buff for the next 45 seconds afterwards, and all generators lose 10% progress. If the survivor escapes, both players return to the initial position where the power began.
CD - 130 seconds
Down - Grimora’s quill Equip Grimora’s epitaph and quill. Summon a skeleton which will patrol the trial, and chase after the first survivor it sees. When it hits a survivor, it instantly perishes and takes a health state of that survivor. Survivors who have a Skeleton summoned within 16 meters of them gain the hindered status effect and gain a stack of Inscribed. The same effects are applied if a survivor is hit by a skeleton.
CD - 60 seconds
Left - Magicus’ brush Equip a paintbrush. While holding the power button, begin painting. Each stroke of the brush increases the brushes power. Each brush increases the range of the Paint Throw attack, to an eventual maximum. After releasing the button, 5 globs of paint is launched in a wave shape and injures survivors hit by the wave, and gives them the Inscribed status effect.
CD - 15 seconds
Inscribed status effect A survivor can have up to 5 stacks of the Inscribed effect. At 5 stacks, the killer is given a card of that survivor. The card reveals that survivors solo q icon to the killer, and shows their perk loadout on the UI. This effect cannot be removed by any means.
Addons - Brown
Starving man card - Powers no longer give the Inscribed status effect. Gain 100% bonus bp for using powers
Gravedigger card - Increase the field of vision and detection range of the skeleton by 10%
Orange Mox Card - increases the spacing out of the Paint attack’s projectiles by 4 meters
Empty Cell Card - removes the brief move speed penalty after ending early or failing The Factory chase
Yellow
Geck Card - Leshy’s camera is instantly recharged if it doesn’t connect with a survivor
Necromancer Card - summoning a skeleton gives the Scrybes a 4% haste effect for 3 seconds
49er Card - Using the Particle Scanner causes all other survivors not brought to The Factory survivors to scream and gives them the blindness status effect for 60 seconds
Mage Knight Card - Paint from a paint attack bounces off the environment once
Squirrel Card - Hitting a Camera Flash reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15 %
Blue Mox Card - Hitting a Paint Attack reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15%
Green
Cockroach Card - Getting stunned by any means reduces all current power cooldowns by 50%
Double Gunner Card - the amount of time a survivor spends in the factory is increased by 3 seconds when they get hit with a basic attack
Bone Heap Card - Each time you down a survivor, instantly recharge the Quill and Epitaph
Green Mox Card - Paint attacks inflict Exhausted on survivors for 15 seconds
Strange Larvae Card - Survivors who complete a generator gain one stack of Inscribed “A largely unimpressive specimen” - Leshy
Purple
Urayuli Card - Flashes from Leshy’s camera deal one health state, and no longer removes the ability to vault pallets or windows
Increase the cooldown of Leshy’s camera by 15 seconds “The level of strength needs no explanation.” - Leshy
Stinkbug Card - When summoning a skeleton, spawn a second random skeleton at least 32 meters away from the killer “It’s me.” - Stinkbug
Stoat Card - Survivors have their aura revealed for the entire duration of the Factory chase “Bad move.” - Stoat
Stunted Wolf Card - after standing still for 3 and charging a Paint Attack, the Paint Attack ignores all walls for its entire duration. “Use me well.” - Stunted Wolf
Iridescent
Iridescent Inscryption Floppy Disk An entity created copy of the accursed game Inscryption
Flashes from Leshy’s camera briefly blind survivors Survivors who destroy a skeleton with a pallet lose a health state The Factory blocks all generators while in a chase in The Factory, but no longer regresses them upon downing the survivor Paint Attack projectiles pierce survivors
“I think I just beat him!” - Luke Carder
OLD_DATA Card - When a survivor reaches maximum stacks of Inscribed, their aura is revealed when not in chase until they are downed next. “Weak deck. Total lack of synergy.” - P03
2024.05.20 05:00 ConflictAlternative5 AITAH if I get ghosted by several friends in a few months of each other?
Hey Everyone,
Recently, I (female, 30s) was ghosted by more than one friend. I feel like logically, I know I didn't deserve it but there is still this nagging feeling that I did. So I guess I'm just looking for outside opinions even if they are negative towards me.
To explain some of the situation, the first friend (Ghost #1) to ghost me was a female friend whom I was trying to have a heart to heart with. She was responding badly to what I was trying to talk about, so it wasn't a huge surprise when she ghosted. To summarize, basically I had introduced this friend to all of my other friends. Then surprise! They really liked her.
So she (Ghost #1) started getting invites to outings (by people I introduced her to) that even I wasn't getting. I tried telling her how this made me feel, that it made me feel used, left out, and that my friends (including her) didn't actually like me. I tried asking for her to include me more when these situations happened. So if she was invited out by people I introduced her to and she saw I wasn't included, for her to just include me and invite me. She didn't accept my feelings about the situation at all and she kept arguing, essentially telling me that my feelings were wrong. She also took it very badly, and said that I was being controlling and that I was accusing her of things. She also said that I should be taking up my issues with the people who weren't inviting me. She also didn't agree with me because according to her, I was only not getting invited because I could not go anyway (I work a lot of weekends and I don't have a car). For the record, there were some weekends where I could have joined but the only reason I didn't was because they didn't even try to invite me. I said back to her that it was invite that counted and that even if I could not go, the invite would make all the difference. But she just didn't agree or seem to want to understand.
I tried my best to understand her (Ghost #1) perspective, but because she wasn't trying to understand mine, it was really hard. But I did get what she meant about the accusations and the controlling aspect. I told her that I did not want to be that way but I was just hoping for some care and understanding. I also tried to get her to understand that I was only asking her to do what I had done for her. I just wanted her to include me the way that I had always included her. The only reason she met all of my friends was because I had always included her. Anyway, we were just not understanding each other and instead of continuing to try to talk it out, one day she just stopped responding entirely. I wasn't that surprised because it was obvious we had deep incompatibilities and she didn't seem to care much about my feelings. I was only surprised by the immaturity of her not being able to say something like "I need some time to think, so I need a break from responding" etc. But how she handled the rest of the conversation wasn't great either so that's why it wasn't that big of a surprise. She and I had been friends for 2 years.
Then something so horrible happened, I still can't even believe it and can barely type it out. My younger brother was killed by a truck over the winter holidays.
I had to tell all of my friends about this because they had to know why I wouldn't be responding for awhile. So I told everyone, except for Ghost #1 because at this point she had already stopped responding.
After telling people what happened to my brother, I didn't respond to any friends for about a month. After some time, I was able to start talking to people again. This was when I also realized that Ghost #1 had actually ghosted me. I didn't realise it before because I wasn't thinking about it. But after realising Ghost #1 had ghosted me, I was left with a difficult decision, should I tell people or not?
I decided to start telling people that Ghost #1 had ghosted me. The reason I chose to tell people was because as I said earlier, I had introduced her to all of my friends and she was apparently still socialising with them but not me. I wasn't sure if it was the right decision to tell others because I knew it would be involving them in drama they didn't ask for. But at the same time, when I introduced Ghost #1 to my other friends I was essentially "endorsing" her as a good friend but after her ghosting me I could no longer "endorse" her. Also, if my other friends didn't know that she had ghosted me they might inadvertently invite her or tell her things about me etc. Then the final reason was that if a friend had introduced me to a friend of theirs, I would want to know if they're a ghoster.
Anyway, so I told the other friends. The other friends didn't seem to believe it and the reactions were mixed but it seemed like they understood me and why I told them. At least they didn't seem to think badly of me.
But then surprise! Shortly after telling others that Ghost #1 had ghosted me, she got back in touch with me. Basically, she (Ghost #1) didn't apologize at all for taking long to respond to me (2 months) and she just provided condolences about my brother and said that she was there for me if I needed to talk about him. At first when I got this message, I thought it was kind of her. But then I thought about it more and realized it was a very self-serving message. She was essentially saying that she would not take any responsibility for how she hurt me. I felt that she was just using my brother's death as a way to make herself look better and get rid of her own guilt. Since she had ghosted me for 2 months, she knew I wouldn't reach out to her for support regarding my brother. So it was a very empty offer. It also put me in yet another shit position because now I had to figure out how to handle her new response. I thought about trying to hold her accountable again for the cruelty in her lack of actions but I was so tired of it. I decided to just send her a single emoji as a response (hands shaped in heart emoji). Another hard decision was figuring out if now I should tell people that she didn't technically ghost me?
I decided not to tell people that she had eventually responded. The reason I chose not to was because like i said I was really tired of dealing with her and talking about her. I had so much weight on my shoulders already and I am grieving my brother. I decided that if someone asked me directly if she had ever gotten back to me, I would tell them that yes she had. I would tell them that even though she did eventually get back to me, she did not apologize for her own actions and the message she sent was self-serving. And that even though she did not technically ghost me, she did spiritually because she only did the barest minimum so that she would not look bad. That is why I still consider her as having ghosted me and she is still Ghost #1. But no one ever asked me about her again.
Anyway, so then not long after that I was talking to one of the friends that I had introduced to Ghost #1. We were talking about doing a boxing class and it was difficult to organise because she and I had different schedules. Eventually we decided on a day, and I was getting ready to meet her for the class and she texted me to say she was stuck at work and couldn't come. She used a lot of crying emojis and apologized a lot. It seemed like she was genuine about the situation. I texted her back to tell her not to worry about it and that I was nervous to go to the class anyway. Then I asked her if she would maybe like to just go to a regular gym and use the machines. I told her that this might be better because then we wouldn't be confined to a specific day/time. And then I haven't heard from her since then (3+ months). So she became Ghost #2.
For extra context Ghost #2 seemed to really like Ghost #1. Ghost #2 was actually one of the friends who was inviting Ghost #1 out when I wasn't included. However, when I talked to Ghost #2 how it was leaving me feeling excluded and uncomfortable, she responded really well and it seemed like she really understood. Ghost #2 even put my feelings into words I had not even thought of. She told me that she hadn't invited me because she thought I could not come for various reasons. And then she said that she now understands she should have left the decision with me instead. I felt like she really understood me. Ghost #2 seemed like such a kind and genuine person. So when Ghost #2 ghosted me it really surprised me. I had been friends with her for over a year.
I know that there is a strong possibility that Ghost #2 ghosted me because of something to do with Ghost #1. But I will never know for sure. If it had been just Ghost #1 then I could've brushed it off and said it was just her but adding Ghost #2 to the mix has really damaged me. I'm thinking that maybe I did deserve it. Maybe I was being "too much" for them. Or asking for too much. Or I just wasn't valuable. Or that I did something wrong by not telling everyone that Ghost #1 did not technically ghost me. As if I was spreading drama or bad mouthing or controlling or manipulating etc. Or that I did anything to deserve it. I don't know.
So this wasn't the end of my ghostings. Eventually another friend who wasn't super connected to Ghost #1 or Ghost #2, started to take longer and longer to respond to my messages. So she became Ghost #3. Now it's been over a month since I've heard from Ghost #3. Ghost #3 did not super ghost me, because my last message to Ghost #3 didn't have any specific questions in it. But Ghost #3 indicated that they were really interested in hearing about a trip I was going on. But now the trip has passed by many weeks. And Ghost #3 never got back in touch with me, even though I was the last to send a message. Ghost #3 may still get in touch with me but she has never taken this long to respond before.
So finally, I had yet another ghosting by yet another female friend, Ghost #4. So Ghost #4 wasn't a close friend of mine. I met Ghost #4 through Ghost #3, they were once roommates. As far as I know, Ghost #4 and Ghost #3 are still good friends because the last I heard they also work together. Ghost #4 reached out to me to find out how I was doing because she knew about my brother. I responded back to her and tried to keep the focus on her. I asked her about her job and etc. And then I never heard from her and it's been over a couple months. What upsets me about this, is that no one asked Ghost #4 to reach out to me. I didn't. She could've just never messaged me. But she did and at first I thought that was nice of her but then she ghosted me. And it's just so senseless, that she put me through a ghosting when she didn't even have to message me.
So those are the ghostings. Most days I can rationalise it, that these friendships had already run their course and the extra stress was enough to break the friendships. I also think that ghosting has nothing to do with how kind someone is but how brave they are. And you never know someone's level of bravery until something bad happens. So I didnt know I was friends with so many cowards.
And for extra context we're not young and we're all women.
The major lesson I learned is that you shouldn't introduce friends too early because then it complicates the dynamics. That was what really kickstarted my problems with Ghost #1. I shouldn't have introduced her to all my friends and should have been more careful. But I'm struggling to learn anything from all the ghostings. Because it was so many of them. I still have that feeling that I deserved it. Because how could 4 friends ghost me within a few months of each other, if I didn't deserve it?
Anyway, I guess I'm taking it to jury of the internet to see what everyone thinks.
AITAH?
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Recently, I (female, 30s) was ghosted by more than one friend. I feel like logically, I know I didn't deserve it but there is still this nagging feeling that I did. So I guess I'm just looking for outside opinions even if they are negative towards me.
To explain some of the situation, the first friend (Ghost #1) to ghost me was a female friend whom I was trying to have a heart to heart with. She was responding badly to what I was trying to talk about, so it wasn't a huge surprise when she ghosted. To summarize, basically I had introduced this friend to all of my other friends. Then surprise! They really liked her.
So she (Ghost #1) started getting invites to outings (by people I introduced her to) that even I wasn't getting. I tried telling her how this made me feel, that it made me feel used, left out, and that my friends (including her) didn't actually like me. I tried asking for her to include me more when these situations happened. So if she was invited out by people I introduced her to and she saw I wasn't included, for her to just include me and invite me. She didn't accept my feelings about the situation at all and she kept arguing, essentially telling me that my feelings were wrong. She also took it very badly, and said that I was being controlling and that I was accusing her of things. She also said that I should be taking up my issues with the people who weren't inviting me. She also didn't agree with me because according to her, I was only not getting invited because I could not go anyway (I work a lot of weekends and I don't have a car). For the record, there were some weekends where I could have joined but the only reason I didn't was because they didn't even try to invite me. I said back to her that it was invite that counted and that even if I could not go, the invite would make all the difference. But she just didn't agree or seem to want to understand.
I tried my best to understand her (Ghost #1) perspective, but because she wasn't trying to understand mine, it was really hard. But I did get what she meant about the accusations and the controlling aspect. I told her that I did not want to be that way but I was just hoping for some care and understanding. I also tried to get her to understand that I was only asking her to do what I had done for her. I just wanted her to include me the way that I had always included her. The only reason she met all of my friends was because I had always included her. Anyway, we were just not understanding each other and instead of continuing to try to talk it out, one day she just stopped responding entirely. I wasn't that surprised because it was obvious we had deep incompatibilities and she didn't seem to care much about my feelings. I was only surprised by the immaturity of her not being able to say something like "I need some time to think, so I need a break from responding" etc. But how she handled the rest of the conversation wasn't great either so that's why it wasn't that big of a surprise. She and I had been friends for 2 years.
Then something so horrible happened, I still can't even believe it and can barely type it out. My younger brother was killed by a truck over the winter holidays.
I had to tell all of my friends about this because they had to know why I wouldn't be responding for awhile. So I told everyone, except for Ghost #1 because at this point she had already stopped responding.
After telling people what happened to my brother, I didn't respond to any friends for about a month. After some time, I was able to start talking to people again. This was when I also realized that Ghost #1 had actually ghosted me. I didn't realise it before because I wasn't thinking about it. But after realising Ghost #1 had ghosted me, I was left with a difficult decision, should I tell people or not?
I decided to start telling people that Ghost #1 had ghosted me. The reason I chose to tell people was because as I said earlier, I had introduced her to all of my friends and she was apparently still socialising with them but not me. I wasn't sure if it was the right decision to tell others because I knew it would be involving them in drama they didn't ask for. But at the same time, when I introduced Ghost #1 to my other friends I was essentially "endorsing" her as a good friend but after her ghosting me I could no longer "endorse" her. Also, if my other friends didn't know that she had ghosted me they might inadvertently invite her or tell her things about me etc. Then the final reason was that if a friend had introduced me to a friend of theirs, I would want to know if they're a ghoster.
Anyway, so I told the other friends. The other friends didn't seem to believe it and the reactions were mixed but it seemed like they understood me and why I told them. At least they didn't seem to think badly of me.
But then surprise! Shortly after telling others that Ghost #1 had ghosted me, she got back in touch with me. Basically, she (Ghost #1) didn't apologize at all for taking long to respond to me (2 months) and she just provided condolences about my brother and said that she was there for me if I needed to talk about him. At first when I got this message, I thought it was kind of her. But then I thought about it more and realized it was a very self-serving message. She was essentially saying that she would not take any responsibility for how she hurt me. I felt that she was just using my brother's death as a way to make herself look better and get rid of her own guilt. Since she had ghosted me for 2 months, she knew I wouldn't reach out to her for support regarding my brother. So it was a very empty offer. It also put me in yet another shit position because now I had to figure out how to handle her new response. I thought about trying to hold her accountable again for the cruelty in her lack of actions but I was so tired of it. I decided to just send her a single emoji as a response (hands shaped in heart emoji). Another hard decision was figuring out if now I should tell people that she didn't technically ghost me?
I decided not to tell people that she had eventually responded. The reason I chose not to was because like i said I was really tired of dealing with her and talking about her. I had so much weight on my shoulders already and I am grieving my brother. I decided that if someone asked me directly if she had ever gotten back to me, I would tell them that yes she had. I would tell them that even though she did eventually get back to me, she did not apologize for her own actions and the message she sent was self-serving. And that even though she did not technically ghost me, she did spiritually because she only did the barest minimum so that she would not look bad. That is why I still consider her as having ghosted me and she is still Ghost #1. But no one ever asked me about her again.
Anyway, so then not long after that I was talking to one of the friends that I had introduced to Ghost #1. We were talking about doing a boxing class and it was difficult to organise because she and I had different schedules. Eventually we decided on a day, and I was getting ready to meet her for the class and she texted me to say she was stuck at work and couldn't come. She used a lot of crying emojis and apologized a lot. It seemed like she was genuine about the situation. I texted her back to tell her not to worry about it and that I was nervous to go to the class anyway. Then I asked her if she would maybe like to just go to a regular gym and use the machines. I told her that this might be better because then we wouldn't be confined to a specific day/time. And then I haven't heard from her since then (3+ months). So she became Ghost #2.
For extra context Ghost #2 seemed to really like Ghost #1. Ghost #2 was actually one of the friends who was inviting Ghost #1 out when I wasn't included. However, when I talked to Ghost #2 how it was leaving me feeling excluded and uncomfortable, she responded really well and it seemed like she really understood. Ghost #2 even put my feelings into words I had not even thought of. She told me that she hadn't invited me because she thought I could not come for various reasons. And then she said that she now understands she should have left the decision with me instead. I felt like she really understood me. Ghost #2 seemed like such a kind and genuine person. So when Ghost #2 ghosted me it really surprised me. I had been friends with her for over a year.
I know that there is a strong possibility that Ghost #2 ghosted me because of something to do with Ghost #1. But I will never know for sure. If it had been just Ghost #1 then I could've brushed it off and said it was just her but adding Ghost #2 to the mix has really damaged me. I'm thinking that maybe I did deserve it. Maybe I was being "too much" for them. Or asking for too much. Or I just wasn't valuable. Or that I did something wrong by not telling everyone that Ghost #1 did not technically ghost me. As if I was spreading drama or bad mouthing or controlling or manipulating etc. Or that I did anything to deserve it. I don't know.
So this wasn't the end of my ghostings. Eventually another friend who wasn't super connected to Ghost #1 or Ghost #2, started to take longer and longer to respond to my messages. So she became Ghost #3. Now it's been over a month since I've heard from Ghost #3. Ghost #3 did not super ghost me, because my last message to Ghost #3 didn't have any specific questions in it. But Ghost #3 indicated that they were really interested in hearing about a trip I was going on. But now the trip has passed by many weeks. And Ghost #3 never got back in touch with me, even though I was the last to send a message. Ghost #3 may still get in touch with me but she has never taken this long to respond before.
So finally, I had yet another ghosting by yet another female friend, Ghost #4. So Ghost #4 wasn't a close friend of mine. I met Ghost #4 through Ghost #3, they were once roommates. As far as I know, Ghost #4 and Ghost #3 are still good friends because the last I heard they also work together. Ghost #4 reached out to me to find out how I was doing because she knew about my brother. I responded back to her and tried to keep the focus on her. I asked her about her job and etc. And then I never heard from her and it's been over a couple months. What upsets me about this, is that no one asked Ghost #4 to reach out to me. I didn't. She could've just never messaged me. But she did and at first I thought that was nice of her but then she ghosted me. And it's just so senseless, that she put me through a ghosting when she didn't even have to message me.
So those are the ghostings. Most days I can rationalise it, that these friendships had already run their course and the extra stress was enough to break the friendships. I also think that ghosting has nothing to do with how kind someone is but how brave they are. And you never know someone's level of bravery until something bad happens. So I didnt know I was friends with so many cowards.
And for extra context we're not young and we're all women.
The major lesson I learned is that you shouldn't introduce friends too early because then it complicates the dynamics. That was what really kickstarted my problems with Ghost #1. I shouldn't have introduced her to all my friends and should have been more careful. But I'm struggling to learn anything from all the ghostings. Because it was so many of them. I still have that feeling that I deserved it. Because how could 4 friends ghost me within a few months of each other, if I didn't deserve it?
Anyway, I guess I'm taking it to jury of the internet to see what everyone thinks.
AITAH?
2024.05.20 04:59 Complex-Ad-5458 AITAH for ignoring my friend because she got with many guys I liked and leaves me in dangerous situations.
I (f19) and my friend Linda (F18) have been friends for about 5 to 6 years now and while she can be toxic on and off she is a nice person.
Recently I held a house party and I had my friend group over aswell as Linda, I was under the influence but Linda was not, at this party was a guy I had a crush on for about a year or so and me and him were very close and talking the whole night, I had then gotten up to use the bathroom and I came back to find out Linda and the guy I was with were gone. I asked everyone and I was told Linda left with this guy who was very heavily under the influence with her being completely sober and was shown a video of her pouncing on him nearly immediately after I left the room.
I had rang her multiple times and she did not pick up, the next morning she had text me going into extreme detail about what they had done even though she knew I had a crush on him, this is also similar to the time we were at another party and jumped onto the guys lap that I was speaking to and began to kiss him.
There had also been a situation were I was with this guy but I was not completely comfortable with him and I had asked Linda that if he tried to pull me away from the group for her to help me out and tell him that we needed to be headed to her apartment (to back up my story I had told him) now this guy had tried to drag me into a dark alley while his friends were there and he kept asking Linda if he could borrow me whilst I was looking at her with pleading eyes to help me out, Linda then proceeded to say he could borrow me and to just walk me home when he was "done". Although I did get out of the situation.
A few days later Linda was under the influence and had wanted to go out to meet this guy but when she was sober she asked me to not allow her as it was a guy that I was interested in, throughout the night she drank more and began screaming that she wanted to see this guy and me and others had tried to stop her, she then bit someone due to them stopping her and he was visibly annoyed then she had claimed he was trying to injure her once he was angry because she kept trying to fight him, she then cried in my arms after trying to fight me aswell .
She has noticed I have began to ghost her and is very mad and saying I have no reason to do so as she has a boyfriend now and claimed she has changed.
Am I the a hole?
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Recently I held a house party and I had my friend group over aswell as Linda, I was under the influence but Linda was not, at this party was a guy I had a crush on for about a year or so and me and him were very close and talking the whole night, I had then gotten up to use the bathroom and I came back to find out Linda and the guy I was with were gone. I asked everyone and I was told Linda left with this guy who was very heavily under the influence with her being completely sober and was shown a video of her pouncing on him nearly immediately after I left the room.
I had rang her multiple times and she did not pick up, the next morning she had text me going into extreme detail about what they had done even though she knew I had a crush on him, this is also similar to the time we were at another party and jumped onto the guys lap that I was speaking to and began to kiss him.
There had also been a situation were I was with this guy but I was not completely comfortable with him and I had asked Linda that if he tried to pull me away from the group for her to help me out and tell him that we needed to be headed to her apartment (to back up my story I had told him) now this guy had tried to drag me into a dark alley while his friends were there and he kept asking Linda if he could borrow me whilst I was looking at her with pleading eyes to help me out, Linda then proceeded to say he could borrow me and to just walk me home when he was "done". Although I did get out of the situation.
A few days later Linda was under the influence and had wanted to go out to meet this guy but when she was sober she asked me to not allow her as it was a guy that I was interested in, throughout the night she drank more and began screaming that she wanted to see this guy and me and others had tried to stop her, she then bit someone due to them stopping her and he was visibly annoyed then she had claimed he was trying to injure her once he was angry because she kept trying to fight him, she then cried in my arms after trying to fight me aswell .
She has noticed I have began to ghost her and is very mad and saying I have no reason to do so as she has a boyfriend now and claimed she has changed.
Am I the a hole?
2024.05.20 04:59 Eunicee11 post surgery unusual vein "clot"
My 16-year-old nephew was diagnosed with post-traumatic genu valgum of the left knee and underwent a focal dome osteotomy of the left proximal tibia with ORIF on March 10, 2024. On the 10th day following the procedure, I have observed slight, unusual pain on the left side of my knee. Additionally, there appears to be a lesion resembling a popliteal artery injury, characterized by a 2-3 cm black dot with a dark red center, extending down the vein for 2 cm, accompanied by a cluster of red and black dots measuring 3-4 cm.(the whole cluster - 3-4cms not the dots)
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2024.05.20 04:57 BoniBoy Calling the PL a "Farmer's League" is inaccurate and entirely disrespectful to the 19 teams that didn't win it this year
Think what you like about City, the cheating, oil money, etc. That's not what this post is about.
The term "Farmer's League" gets thrown around a lot lately to describe a league with repeat winners like PSG, Bayern, and now Man City. I think most people would agree that the term is derogatory and indicates a league that lacks competitiveness, particularly from bottom half teams, due to talent disparity between the team that wins and everyone else. This is an unfair assessment of the PL, and if you're all just having a laugh then put an /s after it because it's sad to see.
The title has once again come down to the last day. All season we have seen teams like Everton going from dropping points every week to taking points off the top teams in the league. Villa went from where they were with Gerrard as manager to qualifying for CL. Forest stayed up despite a points deduction. Anyone with Solanke on their Fantasy team will vouch that Bournemouth can be dangerous. Do you think PSG would be arrogant about their chances at Selhurt Park right now? Have we already forgotten how close Coventry was to being in the FA cup final?
I've watched PL for 30 years and this is the first time I recall all three promoted sides go down instead of at least one staying up another year. A few 50/50 refereeing decisions changed might see Luton staying up or Arsenal winning the league. I saw a post that claimed City winning is bad for the PL brand, but only someone who doesn't watch more than one match a weekend would actually think PL quality is decreasing. The race for PL was a 3 horse race in the second half of the season, City didn't run away with it and Arsenal definitely didn't bottle it.
The time will come for City's dominance to end, just like every other team that had dominant periods like United did with SAF. It will almost certainly happen when Pep leaves. We might not see another Leicester story, but there's no reason to think matches between Brighton, Brentford, or even Ipswich against CL challenging clubs are a foregone conclusion.
If you really do think the PL is a farmers league then I'm genuinely interested to hear why, so tell me what you think and I'll listen.
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The term "Farmer's League" gets thrown around a lot lately to describe a league with repeat winners like PSG, Bayern, and now Man City. I think most people would agree that the term is derogatory and indicates a league that lacks competitiveness, particularly from bottom half teams, due to talent disparity between the team that wins and everyone else. This is an unfair assessment of the PL, and if you're all just having a laugh then put an /s after it because it's sad to see.
The title has once again come down to the last day. All season we have seen teams like Everton going from dropping points every week to taking points off the top teams in the league. Villa went from where they were with Gerrard as manager to qualifying for CL. Forest stayed up despite a points deduction. Anyone with Solanke on their Fantasy team will vouch that Bournemouth can be dangerous. Do you think PSG would be arrogant about their chances at Selhurt Park right now? Have we already forgotten how close Coventry was to being in the FA cup final?
I've watched PL for 30 years and this is the first time I recall all three promoted sides go down instead of at least one staying up another year. A few 50/50 refereeing decisions changed might see Luton staying up or Arsenal winning the league. I saw a post that claimed City winning is bad for the PL brand, but only someone who doesn't watch more than one match a weekend would actually think PL quality is decreasing. The race for PL was a 3 horse race in the second half of the season, City didn't run away with it and Arsenal definitely didn't bottle it.
The time will come for City's dominance to end, just like every other team that had dominant periods like United did with SAF. It will almost certainly happen when Pep leaves. We might not see another Leicester story, but there's no reason to think matches between Brighton, Brentford, or even Ipswich against CL challenging clubs are a foregone conclusion.
If you really do think the PL is a farmers league then I'm genuinely interested to hear why, so tell me what you think and I'll listen.
2024.05.20 04:56 _Screamm_ working out and exercising with scoliosis
was just curious, i have scoliosis and it doesnt really affect too much of my day to day life, however i started working out recently and my left side is lower than my right side, leg is a bit shorter and left shoulder is of course a little lower too. im just wondering if theres anything i should be cautious of or anything i should do differently with working out. i notice that weighted lunges on my left side are miserable and extremely hard compared to my right, which is what brought this concern up! thanks for the help. also i cant reach out to a professional since i dont have insurance and i barely just graduated highschool so moneys not great either. any help or relatable experiences would mean a lot
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2024.05.20 04:56 After-Lab-3312 Best sub 100 IEM for me (I want comfort and build quality) - EA500lm, EM6L, Hexa, S12, IE200 or something else,
Currently using:
Hi I have had Blon-BL 03 and truthear HOLA in the past (am daily driving the hola) and after a bit want to upgrade to something nicer. BL 03's were quite comfortable and I liked their build but I wanted to try something else so I got the hola's which are more underwhelming than the BL 03's but I am daily driving them because I like the cable more (I know I can replace the cable but in my head doesn't make sense because a new cable is almost as much as I paid for the IEM) and they fit my ear a bit more snug although the build qualit isn't as nice.What I want:
A big part is I want something that feels higher quality and is more comfortable to wear for long periods of time. As for sound I am actually unsure whether I want something more V shaped (music I listen to and games I play will probably sound better), or something more neutral (will probably less fatiguing when wearing for extended periods of time).I haver small(ish) ear canals but my left ear is actually slightly bigger than my right ear thus I wear a medium tip on the left ear and small on the right, due to I would rather avoid iems with bad stock eartips as I don't want to be buying 2 sets of replacement tips. However I don't mind replacing the stock cable because although it is probably more expensive than eartips I don't have to waste money buying 2 for no reason lol.
What I use my earphones for:
For context I mainly use my IEM's at my desktop/laptop and am most of the time -playing games: vast majority are single player and although I may boot up an FPS with the boys once in a while it's not necessarliy a regular thing thus gaming performance is not a priority
music I listen to:
lots of lofi/chill music,
higher pitch/faster tracks,
hip hop (literally a bit of everything but am quite hooked on afrobeats right now),
J-pop/K-pop,
and maybe every now and then a bit of phonk/hardstyle, so in essence I listen to a little bit of everything lol.
What I am debating purchasing:
Like I said in the title I am looking at in order of most interested to least interested:the Simgot pairing - one of these seem like the best bet out of everything honestly but I am just unsure about the comfort, between the EA500lm and EM6L I know that the EM6L is a little bit less bright and bassy but I honestly don't mind and would take build quality/comfort of one over the other
Hexas - Standard neutral reccomendation and the cheapest out of all IEM's mentioned and probably what I will go for if I choose that I don't want something more V shaped but I am honestly not sure
S12s (non pros) - These just seem kind of eh to me even though they are planar based on what I have heard they are just not as good as the pros (treble is a bit more shouty and less clear?) and compared to the other stuff mentioned don't win in terms of neutrality or V shapeness, although they do look pretty comfortable
IE200s - actually outside my budget and from what I have read quite underwhelming sound wise but are coveted like most other sennheiser IEM's for their comfort which by itself might be enough to sway me,
Also I understand that everything I want is most likely not going to be found in something at this pricepoint however something that best suits what I want in an IEM is what I am looking for and would want some guidance on.
2024.05.20 04:55 Active_Lab9535 When will I stop crying?
I lost my grandmother to heart failure 6 months ago. I was so close to her and my kids were also so close to her. It was a 6 month process but we still thought she’d be able to live another year or so until a month before she passed. More than a grandma, she was a fierce advocate of me throughout my life. Always on my side and in my corner. We lived an hour away and I would see her once a month on average the last few years. Maybe more in summer. When I was a child I’d spent weeks at her house in summer.
I feel guilt for not being there more. I have two kids and work full time and tried to visit as often as I could. When my kids were younger we would spend the day there often. I miss her stories, her personality, she always made me feel safe and loved. Even more than my own dad (her son) she was like a second mom to me.
I cry less now but I still cry, once every couple of weeks. I can feel my sadness building and then I feel guilt for not visiting more. I know she loved seeing me and my kids. The night before she passed, we were supposed to go see her. We thought she had weeks left. I had forgotten I told my kids we could go to a school event that night. I checked in with my aunt and she said grandma was ok and to go let my kids have a night of fun and visit the next day. That night her pain got bad, hospice gave her morphine and when I brought my kids one last time she was heavily medicated and passed hours after we left. More guilt. Realistically I know she’d have wanted my kids to go have a night of stress free enjoyment but I still hate myself for not going.
Her kids sold her house and it was such a safe place for me and held most of my happy childhood memories. We had wonderful memories there with her. I took my kids there as babies all the time and they just loved seeing her and being there. They’re both still heartbroken but they’re kids so very resilient. I will never go there again and be in that house. I feel so lost. I wonder if I will ever be able to think of her without feeling so sad and lonely.
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I feel guilt for not being there more. I have two kids and work full time and tried to visit as often as I could. When my kids were younger we would spend the day there often. I miss her stories, her personality, she always made me feel safe and loved. Even more than my own dad (her son) she was like a second mom to me.
I cry less now but I still cry, once every couple of weeks. I can feel my sadness building and then I feel guilt for not visiting more. I know she loved seeing me and my kids. The night before she passed, we were supposed to go see her. We thought she had weeks left. I had forgotten I told my kids we could go to a school event that night. I checked in with my aunt and she said grandma was ok and to go let my kids have a night of fun and visit the next day. That night her pain got bad, hospice gave her morphine and when I brought my kids one last time she was heavily medicated and passed hours after we left. More guilt. Realistically I know she’d have wanted my kids to go have a night of stress free enjoyment but I still hate myself for not going.
Her kids sold her house and it was such a safe place for me and held most of my happy childhood memories. We had wonderful memories there with her. I took my kids there as babies all the time and they just loved seeing her and being there. They’re both still heartbroken but they’re kids so very resilient. I will never go there again and be in that house. I feel so lost. I wonder if I will ever be able to think of her without feeling so sad and lonely.
2024.05.20 04:55 ISUJinX First time poster, long time listener...
Finally decided to pull the trigger on building a proper rig. I'm struggling with the setup though. I have a very nice 7.2 sound system with Atmos in my basement, and a 125" screen with a good 4k projector. Also, a 70" 4k TV on the wall for when the screen is up. I don't have any interest in VR, and already have a good PC to run stuff. (Side question, is there a benchmark number I should be looking at for PC power overall?)
This isn't so much about gear as it is about placement.
Do I build my rig and make it mobile to use the projector or TV with the sound system...or make the rig "permanent" someplace else and get an ultra wide monitor or triples, and use good headphones? There's a row of base cabinets below both TV and projector, so I'd be looking slightly up, especially being closer... The end of the rig would need to be ~17" from the wall/TV screen, so that puts me sitting about 5ish feet away.
Going the 8020 route, so slightly heavier, but carpet should make it pretty stable in place. I do have room somewhere else in the basement to put it.
At this point, I don't have plans for motion, but will probably add some shakers.
Anybody have any advice on how either setup has worked for them? Or things to watch out for? Will I have to worry about input lag with the TV/projector?
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This isn't so much about gear as it is about placement.
Do I build my rig and make it mobile to use the projector or TV with the sound system...or make the rig "permanent" someplace else and get an ultra wide monitor or triples, and use good headphones? There's a row of base cabinets below both TV and projector, so I'd be looking slightly up, especially being closer... The end of the rig would need to be ~17" from the wall/TV screen, so that puts me sitting about 5ish feet away.
Going the 8020 route, so slightly heavier, but carpet should make it pretty stable in place. I do have room somewhere else in the basement to put it.
At this point, I don't have plans for motion, but will probably add some shakers.
Anybody have any advice on how either setup has worked for them? Or things to watch out for? Will I have to worry about input lag with the TV/projector?
2024.05.20 04:54 ITrCool IT to Mechanical/Electrical Engineering?
I’m 38m. Almost at 18 years in the IT space. Been all over the map. Help desk, data center ops, network admin, endpoints support and sysadmin (MDM, autopilot, MacOS management, etc.), management, messaging services (Email, Teams, Slack, etc.).
It’s been somewhat enjoyable, but….at this age part of me has become burnt out by the tech world. At least the IT side of it.
I’ve been considering going back to school. Entering something different.
My grandfather was a master electrician and electrical engineer for his regional co-op for years up to his retirement. He sparked my interest in tech overall.
Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak are both inspirations to me about what I could do in the M/E engineering sector. (Yes they both were dropouts, but they were in that world. Especially Woz)
Tony Stark is a fictional inspiration for my being in tech as well. Yes most of his inventions are fictional but the whole point is he is capable of building things himself because he knows what he is doing and uses that (mostly) to help the world and his fellow man.
But up until now, just being in IT feels like being a guy who only scratches the ”surface” of the tech world. I can tell you the components of a computer or server, sure!! Can I break down each circuit and build a board from scratch? Nope! No clue what I’m doing there.
How crazy would it be to go back to school and pursue the M/E engineering world of tech vs just being an IT guy (no offense to my fellow IT pros)?
I feel like getting into that could VASTLY expand my horizons and my options in the tech world vs just a vanilla computer science bachelor’s degree (like I have now).
Has anyone here switched gears and done the same?
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It’s been somewhat enjoyable, but….at this age part of me has become burnt out by the tech world. At least the IT side of it.
I’ve been considering going back to school. Entering something different.
My grandfather was a master electrician and electrical engineer for his regional co-op for years up to his retirement. He sparked my interest in tech overall.
Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak are both inspirations to me about what I could do in the M/E engineering sector. (Yes they both were dropouts, but they were in that world. Especially Woz)
Tony Stark is a fictional inspiration for my being in tech as well. Yes most of his inventions are fictional but the whole point is he is capable of building things himself because he knows what he is doing and uses that (mostly) to help the world and his fellow man.
But up until now, just being in IT feels like being a guy who only scratches the ”surface” of the tech world. I can tell you the components of a computer or server, sure!! Can I break down each circuit and build a board from scratch? Nope! No clue what I’m doing there.
How crazy would it be to go back to school and pursue the M/E engineering world of tech vs just being an IT guy (no offense to my fellow IT pros)?
I feel like getting into that could VASTLY expand my horizons and my options in the tech world vs just a vanilla computer science bachelor’s degree (like I have now).
Has anyone here switched gears and done the same?
2024.05.20 04:54 Ayeyoayjay 🚨possibility of negative press discussion🚨
 | Hey serious inquiry- this is totally the conspiracist in me, but is it a coincidence that they’ve had a meeting schedule for this Tuesday to discuss 2023? IF a public bankruptcy announcement is made, I think it’s worth exploring that scenario. In my mind, a bankruptcy process takes no less than a year right? Imagine the interest they would pay on their shorts. We still win. But Bankruptcy would raise major red flags so can we talk about such announcement? Idk I just feel like there will be some serious sabotage thrown our way. submitted by Ayeyoayjay to FFIE [link] [comments] |
2024.05.20 04:54 YoungGriffVI What’s In a Name?: Targaryen Names that Didn’t Get Reused (and Why)
Targaryen names fascinate me. Of all the ones they could pick between, it seems they like to choose from about five. Well, I’m working on a writeup of names that did get reused and to what extent (and sometimes where it stopped), but in a family so determined to repeat names, the ones that aren’t probably have a reason for it. Without speculating too much, I wanted to lay them out and provide possible explanations for the ones that I could. I classified them into six possible categories, each by where the name most likely came from (in my opinion.)
Disclaimer: I only took the name exactly as it is. If it’s one letter off, or the genderflipped version of the name, it counts as not being reused. I did this for consistency so my personal interpretation wouldn’t influence anything. I’ve also chosen to include the first generation of Blackfyres.
Alyssa: Alyssa, daughter of Jaehaerys and Alysanne, is almost certainly named for her grandmother Alyssa Velaryon.
Duncan: Is named after Duncan the Tall. Case closed.
Rhaenyra: I’m going to get angry comments for putting her under this category, but take it in-universe and remember that the Dance almost destroyed their whole house. Aegon only gets away with it because the person he was named after was better than him. Since her kids ‘with Laenor’ also didn’t have their names reused, probably because of association, we can throw in Jacaerys, Lucerys, and Joffrey as well (though really Joffrey should be with the “named after a specific non-Targ”; I just wanted to keep him with his brothers.)
Aemond and Helaena also fall victim to this on the Greens side, as they were never used again post-Dance either. Neither was her son Maelor, which could be for similar reasons to Rhaenyra’s kids or even just because renaming a kid after what happened to him could be bad luck or something.
Aegor Rivers is practically Aegon. So are Vaegon and Haegon. Rhae is similar to both Rhaelle and Rhaella. Jaehaera is just female Jaehaerys. Gaemon is Aemon with a G.
Shiera Seastar and Saera have two almost-namesakes each in the too-recent generation, so while those are there, we’ll count these here as the inspiration for them. Rhaegel for Rhaegar as well.
I’m also counting Aelor and Aelora here, even if the first time it was used was whichever twin was born first. The second was still obviously inspired by it.
Baela: Could be from Baelor or Baelon, or even them + her mother Laena.
Daena and Elaena both have the same pattern as their sister Rhaena.
Viserra: Female Viserys, I think, but not as clear as the other genderswaps so it’s here.
Daenora and Naerys clearly are inspired by Daenerys, and possibly Daeron too.
Gael: Had a tragic life, so I can understand not renaming a kid that.
Aerea: Similarly to Gael, I think her fate might dissuade happy parents.
Maekar: He was a good king! I don’t know why none of his kids named any of their children or grandchildren after him.
Calla: Only used for a Blackfyre, which probably does not make it particularly high up on the baby name list.
Valarr and Matarys: Don’t know why these didn’t get reused; Breakspear seems respected enough, and despite dying young they didn’t seem particularly tragic. I’d like to see these pop up again tbh.
Valerion: Probably too confusing, with them being Valyrian, the House Velaryon, and the dragon Balerion.
Maegelle: No clue why this didn’t come back. She seemed to be a sweet and devout Septa.
Alysanne: Another one I’m lost on. She’s regarded as “the good queen,” so her lack of a namesake seems pretty glaring.
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Disclaimer: I only took the name exactly as it is. If it’s one letter off, or the genderflipped version of the name, it counts as not being reused. I did this for consistency so my personal interpretation wouldn’t influence anything. I’ve also chosen to include the first generation of Blackfyres.
There Hasn’t Been Time To Reuse This
Any name that was used for the first time in the past few generations doesn’t count as there hasn’t really been time for it to come up again. I took it back to Jaehaerys II, meaning the ones here are Rhaegar, his stillborn sister Shaena, Rhaego, Queen Shaera, and Princess Rhaelle.Named After Specific Non-Targaryens
Jon: Technically Jon has come up on the Targaryen family tree, but only as Jon Longwaters. As they’re a Velaryon branch, and Jon is named after Jon Arryn, I’m counting Snow as the only one.Alyssa: Alyssa, daughter of Jaehaerys and Alysanne, is almost certainly named for her grandmother Alyssa Velaryon.
Duncan: Is named after Duncan the Tall. Case closed.
Named Using a Different Family’s Conventions
I only counted people who had at least one Targaryen parent, but despite all the inbreeding sometimes other Houses did get to sire a kid or two. Sometimes they even got to pick the name. This is the category for anyone with a non-repeating name who seems to be following a different House’s way of naming. It covers Jocelyn Baratheon, Aemma Arryn, Alyn Velaryon, and Brynden Rivers. One could make an argument for Laenor and Daenaera Velaryon to be here too, since Velaryons are still Valyrian so the similarity without repeating could stem from that.Namesake Sucks
Aerion: Was crazy. Drank wildfire. Kept Maegor from going in this category. Need I say more?Rhaenyra: I’m going to get angry comments for putting her under this category, but take it in-universe and remember that the Dance almost destroyed their whole house. Aegon only gets away with it because the person he was named after was better than him. Since her kids ‘with Laenor’ also didn’t have their names reused, probably because of association, we can throw in Jacaerys, Lucerys, and Joffrey as well (though really Joffrey should be with the “named after a specific non-Targ”; I just wanted to keep him with his brothers.)
Aemond and Helaena also fall victim to this on the Greens side, as they were never used again post-Dance either. Neither was her son Maelor, which could be for similar reasons to Rhaenyra’s kids or even just because renaming a kid after what happened to him could be bad luck or something.
Obvious Inspiration
Sometimes the parents got creative and used another, usually more common, namesake as the basis and tweaked it a little. I tried to keep these very limited as most Targaryen names tend to be similar, so I’m really only taking the most obvious direct influences.Aegor Rivers is practically Aegon. So are Vaegon and Haegon. Rhae is similar to both Rhaelle and Rhaella. Jaehaera is just female Jaehaerys. Gaemon is Aemon with a G.
Shiera Seastar and Saera have two almost-namesakes each in the too-recent generation, so while those are there, we’ll count these here as the inspiration for them. Rhaegel for Rhaegar as well.
I’m also counting Aelor and Aelora here, even if the first time it was used was whichever twin was born first. The second was still obviously inspired by it.
Less Direct Inspiration
Names that are a little farther from the established ones, but still are well within the Targaryen norms. You’d still instantly recognize it as being a Targaryen and not a different Valyrian (or Andal or First Men!) House. Basically, everything borderline from above.Baela: Could be from Baelor or Baelon, or even them + her mother Laena.
Daena and Elaena both have the same pattern as their sister Rhaena.
Viserra: Female Viserys, I think, but not as clear as the other genderswaps so it’s here.
Daenora and Naerys clearly are inspired by Daenerys, and possibly Daeron too.
Why Not Reuse It?
So, in the end, we’re left with nine names that are creative, distinguished from the others, and yet never were given to a second baby.Gael: Had a tragic life, so I can understand not renaming a kid that.
Aerea: Similarly to Gael, I think her fate might dissuade happy parents.
Maekar: He was a good king! I don’t know why none of his kids named any of their children or grandchildren after him.
Calla: Only used for a Blackfyre, which probably does not make it particularly high up on the baby name list.
Valarr and Matarys: Don’t know why these didn’t get reused; Breakspear seems respected enough, and despite dying young they didn’t seem particularly tragic. I’d like to see these pop up again tbh.
Valerion: Probably too confusing, with them being Valyrian, the House Velaryon, and the dragon Balerion.
Maegelle: No clue why this didn’t come back. She seemed to be a sweet and devout Septa.
Alysanne: Another one I’m lost on. She’s regarded as “the good queen,” so her lack of a namesake seems pretty glaring.
2024.05.20 04:53 saveyoursidehustle What’s Your Funniest Work Experience? Share Your Stories!
Work can sometimes be a rollercoaster of emotions, but every now and then, something happens that makes the daily grind a lot more interesting. I thought it would be fun for us to share some of our funniest or most memorable work experiences.
I’ll start with mine: A few months ago, during an important video conference with a client, my cat decided it was the perfect time to show off her acrobatic skills. She jumped right onto my desk and knocked over my coffee. While I was scrambling to clean up, the client couldn't stop laughing, and it actually broke the ice and made the rest of the meeting much more relaxed and enjoyable!
I’m sure you all have some great stories to tell. Have you ever had a work moment that left you laughing, embarrassed, or just plain baffled? Whether it’s a hilarious Zoom mishap, a surprising encounter with a coworker, or an unexpected situation during a workday, I’d love to hear about it!
Share your stories below and let’s have a good laugh together!
Looking forward to reading your posts!
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I’ll start with mine: A few months ago, during an important video conference with a client, my cat decided it was the perfect time to show off her acrobatic skills. She jumped right onto my desk and knocked over my coffee. While I was scrambling to clean up, the client couldn't stop laughing, and it actually broke the ice and made the rest of the meeting much more relaxed and enjoyable!
I’m sure you all have some great stories to tell. Have you ever had a work moment that left you laughing, embarrassed, or just plain baffled? Whether it’s a hilarious Zoom mishap, a surprising encounter with a coworker, or an unexpected situation during a workday, I’d love to hear about it!
Share your stories below and let’s have a good laugh together!
Looking forward to reading your posts!