Kate gosselin s post pregnancy belly
am i pregnant?
2024.06.01 15:11 Own-Historian712 am i pregnant?
this is my first time posting on reddit so please lmk if there is a better sub for my question! so, i took 2 pregnancy test two days ago and one of them was a positive and one was negative. i took 2 more yesterday and 2 more today, all were negative. i know the rarity of false positives but what are the chances of 5 tests being false negatives? i am already more then a week late for my menstrual cycle so i doubt i'm testing too early. what could this mean? (p.s i live in a ban state so i'm not really on board with seeing doctors about this)
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2024.06.01 15:09 Fuzzyhoof26 Duodenal atresia - successful outcome
Hi Everyone,
First time posting as I wanted to share our experience of duodenal atresia and found this sub incredibly helpful when I was preparing for our little one to undergo surgery and be in the NICU. As duodenal atresia is fairly rare, I wanted to share our experience as the few stories I did read were incredibly informative.
For context, I was 32 weeks pregnant when at our third trimester scan a ‘double bubble’ was spotted on the ultrasound. My OBGYN thought it was most likely duodenal atresia and spoke to myself and my husband about further genetic testing as the condition is linked to Downs Syndrome. He also advised that our baby would need an operation soon after birth and I would likely develop a condition called polyhydramnious which would make early labour a possibility. All of this information was shocking and sudden as I had a fairly uneventful pregnancy up to this point.
My amniocentesis showed negative for Down Syndrome however, the double bubble persisted on my future scans so we prepared for a duodenal atresia diagnosis at birth.
I had a c-section at 37+4 (due in part to polyhydramnios) and our son was born weighing 8lbs 2oz. He was immediately taken to the NICU and we were able to go and see him later that day. Seeing him needing oxygen and with wires was something I had not fully prepared for but the NICU nurses were incredibly supportive and talked us through our son’s care in the lead up to his operation.
Our son had his operation on day three - the surgeon said his duodenum was larger than average post surgery - so we would have to wait to see how quickly he would progress. This was the most challenging part as until our son’s digestive system showed signs of working, he would not be able to come home. We were assured that this would take time but it didn’t make the wait any easier.
Our son began breast milk feeds on day four post surgery. He began on 3ml every three hours with the intent to gradually increase. His aspirate levels were checked at feeding times and he had a TPN line to ensure all his nutritional needs were met. This was a slow process and we needed lots of patience whilst celebrating the small victories of his feeds increasing and his aspirate reducing.
Ultimately, it was not until day eleven that he had a motion. However, this proved to be the turning point in his recovery and his progress rapidly improved. His aspirate began decreasing and within five days was almost at 0. His surgeon and paediatrician increased his milk levels in the morning and evening. Twenty one days after he was born and eighteen days after surgery, our son was consistently being fed 50ml eight times a day, having regular motions and no longer needed TPN or additional fluids. Finally it was time for him to come home.
For any parents facing a diagnosis of duodenal atresia, having your baby have major abdominal surgery so soon after birth is an incredibly challenging experience. I was assured by the high success rate of the surgery and valued the posts I found from other parents who had been through the experience. Happy to answer any questions from parents facing something similar.
Our baby is now four weeks old and thriving at home!
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First time posting as I wanted to share our experience of duodenal atresia and found this sub incredibly helpful when I was preparing for our little one to undergo surgery and be in the NICU. As duodenal atresia is fairly rare, I wanted to share our experience as the few stories I did read were incredibly informative.
For context, I was 32 weeks pregnant when at our third trimester scan a ‘double bubble’ was spotted on the ultrasound. My OBGYN thought it was most likely duodenal atresia and spoke to myself and my husband about further genetic testing as the condition is linked to Downs Syndrome. He also advised that our baby would need an operation soon after birth and I would likely develop a condition called polyhydramnious which would make early labour a possibility. All of this information was shocking and sudden as I had a fairly uneventful pregnancy up to this point.
My amniocentesis showed negative for Down Syndrome however, the double bubble persisted on my future scans so we prepared for a duodenal atresia diagnosis at birth.
I had a c-section at 37+4 (due in part to polyhydramnios) and our son was born weighing 8lbs 2oz. He was immediately taken to the NICU and we were able to go and see him later that day. Seeing him needing oxygen and with wires was something I had not fully prepared for but the NICU nurses were incredibly supportive and talked us through our son’s care in the lead up to his operation.
Our son had his operation on day three - the surgeon said his duodenum was larger than average post surgery - so we would have to wait to see how quickly he would progress. This was the most challenging part as until our son’s digestive system showed signs of working, he would not be able to come home. We were assured that this would take time but it didn’t make the wait any easier.
Our son began breast milk feeds on day four post surgery. He began on 3ml every three hours with the intent to gradually increase. His aspirate levels were checked at feeding times and he had a TPN line to ensure all his nutritional needs were met. This was a slow process and we needed lots of patience whilst celebrating the small victories of his feeds increasing and his aspirate reducing.
Ultimately, it was not until day eleven that he had a motion. However, this proved to be the turning point in his recovery and his progress rapidly improved. His aspirate began decreasing and within five days was almost at 0. His surgeon and paediatrician increased his milk levels in the morning and evening. Twenty one days after he was born and eighteen days after surgery, our son was consistently being fed 50ml eight times a day, having regular motions and no longer needed TPN or additional fluids. Finally it was time for him to come home.
For any parents facing a diagnosis of duodenal atresia, having your baby have major abdominal surgery so soon after birth is an incredibly challenging experience. I was assured by the high success rate of the surgery and valued the posts I found from other parents who had been through the experience. Happy to answer any questions from parents facing something similar.
Our baby is now four weeks old and thriving at home!
2024.06.01 14:58 Interesting_Hour5709 13 dpo first response opinions?
 | I had an embryo transfer 8 days ago. During my previous (successful) transfer, I didn’t test until 8 days post so I didn’t panic about line progression. This time I messed up by testing and now am spiraling. Anyone have opinions on this progression?I know it’s so early so I don’t expect major line progression but should I be overly worried about a chemical here? Compared to my successful pregnancy these lines look the same on day 8, but hard not to worry. Thanks! submitted by Interesting_Hour5709 to TFABLinePorn [link] [comments] |
2024.06.01 14:55 A_Seductive_Cactus Subreddit Stats - May 2024
RomanceBooks Insights - Subreddit Stats for May 2024
Welcome to the monthly subreddit stats update! See here for previous month's stats. Here's what we'll be sharing in this post:- Top 20 Books Mentioned
- Top 10 Authors Mentioned
- New & Rising Sub Favorites
- Top 20 Mentioned Books with Diverse MCs
- Most Mentioned Books by Pairing (MM and FF)
- Most Mentioned Books by Genre (Contemporary, Historical, Fantasy, SciFi)
May 2024 u/romance-bot activity:
- Total number of books linked: 16,476
- Total number of unique titles: 7,720
Top 20 Books Mentioned
Top 20 Authors Mentioned
| Top Authors | Count | |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Lisa Kleypas | 211 |
| 2 | Alice Coldbreath | 145 |
| 3 | Cate C. Wells | 133 |
| 4 | Kate Canterbary | 131 |
| 5 | S.J. Tilly | 126 |
| 6 | Ali Hazelwood | 122 |
| 7 | Tessa Bailey | 121 |
| 8 | Mariana Zapata | 117 |
| 9 | Cassandra Gannon | 107 |
| 10 | Abby Jimenez | 103 |
| 11 | Kyra Parsi | 96 |
| 12 | Ruby Dixon | 94 |
| 13 | Kathryn Moon | 92 |
| 14 | Emily Henry | 90 |
| 15 | Linda Howard | 89 |
| 16 | Penny Reid | 89 |
| 17 | Susan Elizabeth Phillips | 86 |
| 18 | Nora Roberts | 83 |
| 19 | Heather Guerre | 82 |
| 20 | Tessa Dare | 79 |
New Sub Favorites
Data is obtained by the u/romance-bot for the past month of activity and includes only books released within the past 3-months or upcoming releases. This is intended to give a view into the hot / rising books being mentioned in the sub.Top 20 Books with Diverse MCs
Most Mentioned Books by Pairing
Most Mentioned Books by Genre
| Contemporary | Count | |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Failure to Match by Kyra Parsi | 52 |
| 2 | Hans by S.J. Tilly | 46 |
| 3 | Butcher & Blackbird by Brynne Weaver | 45 |
| 4 | In a Jam by Kate Canterbary | 38 |
| 5 | Yours Truly by Abby Jimenez | 37 |
| 6 | Funny Story by Emily Henry | 36 |
| 7 | At First Spite by Olivia Dade | 33 |
| 8 | A Deal with the Bossy Devil by Kyra Parsi | 33 |
| 9 | Against A Wall by Cate C. Wells | 31 |
| 10 | Heated Rivalry by Rachel Reid | 30 |
🌵 Miscellaneous Cactus Thoughts...
- Is this the end of Ruby Dixon? Now that I've snagged your attention with that clickbait, I'm sad to report Ruby Dixon does not have a book in the Top 20, but also fell to #12 most mentioned author. Truly surprising given that she's been steadily in the top author spot almost every month for over a year! Are we seeing a shift away from the popularity of alien scifi romance, and what is it shifting to?
- Looking at the Top 20 books, there are four authors who are dominating: Kyra Parsi, Kate Canterbary, Ali Hazelwood, and Abby Jiminez all have two books in the Top 20. Kudos to them!
- Our Spring Reading Challenge is wrapping up soon - and we are holding a bonus June Read the Rainbow Challenge in honor of Pride month!
2024.06.01 14:52 Gossip-Luv2 Member opinion on how OG gossip should be shared on this Sub
As you know, members who post OG gossip, face issues. There is dragging of post history of members, Abuse DMs, Reporting, Doxxing, Mental health help sent. A lot of this is beyond Mod control
We never allowed OG gossip on the Sub till Alia pregnancy news was posted here. When that gossip turned out to be true, we started allowing members to share gossip they heard from source, under Exaggerated Claims Flair.
We have seen lot of OG tea shared and it makes to media as well.
But, OP harassment has become a huge issue due to its popularity
A mod post was made about this issue - Link to Mod post and there was mixed feelings about change of rule
A few good suggestions were given. We are listing everything for members to vote
If you have any other suggestion, post it in comments
This poll is to see mood of currently active members. Mods will eventually take a call, after looking at results and discussions with OG gossip posters
View Poll
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We never allowed OG gossip on the Sub till Alia pregnancy news was posted here. When that gossip turned out to be true, we started allowing members to share gossip they heard from source, under Exaggerated Claims Flair.
We have seen lot of OG tea shared and it makes to media as well.
But, OP harassment has become a huge issue due to its popularity
A mod post was made about this issue - Link to Mod post and there was mixed feelings about change of rule
A few good suggestions were given. We are listing everything for members to vote
If you have any other suggestion, post it in comments
This poll is to see mood of currently active members. Mods will eventually take a call, after looking at results and discussions with OG gossip posters
View Poll
2024.06.01 14:50 skrrrrrtr Official “VULTURES 1" Pimp Guide
Disclaimer: This thread is not gonna get you some ass by itself. You gotta do most of the work, but VULTURES 1 will up your pipe game 200%. Real pimps and heartbreakers only. not responsible for any pregnancies, broken dicks or ended relationships.
A lot of yall are gonna try and pull some Ye shit on a girl this summer, and this guide is being made to help yall pull this off flawlessly. Unless you were at fuckin age when TRAPSOUL came out, this is some of yall's first real love making full album experience. This album will be a refreshing break from all the soft sensitive shit playlists that we've been fucking to recently. This is not a concrete guide; this is merely a good starting place. At the end of the day, trust your instincts.
To put it plainly, this is a fucking album. This ain’t a making love album. If you are trying to wife a hoe and be on some spiritual soul searching shit, pop SZA back in. This one is for the hardcore ham slappers.
Ye and Ty constructed this album for the players. I’m gonna take you through the album and let you know where you should be by the time each track comes on.
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A lot of yall are gonna try and pull some Ye shit on a girl this summer, and this guide is being made to help yall pull this off flawlessly. Unless you were at fuckin age when TRAPSOUL came out, this is some of yall's first real love making full album experience. This album will be a refreshing break from all the soft sensitive shit playlists that we've been fucking to recently. This is not a concrete guide; this is merely a good starting place. At the end of the day, trust your instincts.
To put it plainly, this is a fucking album. This ain’t a making love album. If you are trying to wife a hoe and be on some spiritual soul searching shit, pop SZA back in. This one is for the hardcore ham slappers.
Ye and Ty constructed this album for the players. I’m gonna take you through the album and let you know where you should be by the time each track comes on.
- Okay, so you got homegirl over at the crib. Yall just came back from a fancy ass steak dinner at Denny’s which you had to take a shit after but you don’t wanna shit in your bathroom because you know she’s eventually gonna go in there and you don’t wanna lay down work in there so you use your roommate bathroom. Candles lit, pop open a bottle of Andre, and turn on that motha fuckin ¥$.
- When “STARS" comes on, she’s gonna know what’s up. No words are necessary for this one. Let Ye spit the game for you. Follow his instructions. Make your move when he spits that first bar. Be like, "You already know what I'm on" and she gonna be like "What" and then just go in there don't even answer the bitch with words son that's gonna get that bitch wet as the Great Lakes.
- Get into the makin out/undressing phase. Someone should be getting domed up by “PAID" This is imperative to the timing of this album. When you hear PAID, make sure someone’s lips are on some gentials. Either her or you. Don’t matter. For all you rookies, you might have to eat some pussy first in order to get this thing rollin. For all my freaks who could get some dome from the Queen of England in the wintertime just because they game that tight, you already know how to proceed.
- Don’t be that dude that makes your girl dome you up for like 45 minutes and her jaw hurtin n shit. Unless she got that super dome, you probably not gonna nut off this dome. Just let it be, it's okay. Switch it up by HOODRAT. Be nice.
- DO IT. This is when you get to the pipe laying. Don’t try and do everything at once. This album gives you plenty of time to lay down work. DO IT has a good stroke rhythm to it. Go with it. She gonna be moanin and yellin and goin on but don’t say shit. Let Ty and Ye speak for you. You can’t out sexy them at this point.
- Someone should nut at CARNIVAL. It’s just the perfect nut song. It’s probably gonna be you, but if you a real pipe layer, make it her. If she hasn’t gotten hers by now she just a stone cold bitch or your stroke ain’t right. If she ain’t half dead by CARNIVAL you need to fix your game.
- Everything post-carnival is for all you 2 nutter youngins. I ain’t impressin nobody. I’m getting mine and laying down. For everyone else, everything post carnival is cuddle shit. Listen to KING and be like "i like to get my dick sucked while gettin high” and say something about the VULTURES 2 lore and tell her how sure you are its dropping soon.
2024.06.01 14:32 Little-Feeling3009 Seems like people don’t want to understand how difficult infertility is
For most of my life I’ve been surrounded by women advocating for women’s rights, mental health, abortion and all that stuff. It’s everywhere, newspapers and social media.
Ever since I started experiencing mental health issues related to infertility I must say that Im shocked how little people actually cares? I’ve learned that most women are very insensitive to women who are struggling conceiving.
I mean I understand that it’s difficult to understand how challenging infertility is if you haven’t experienced it yourself, but every day I see women being very insensitive to women who’s struggling. Here on Reddit for example I saw a post about how people who needs IVF shouldn’t have children for whatever stupid reason.
I’ve been very careful opening up about my IVF journey with friends, family and acquaintances after being labelled as “immature” for not wanting to attend someone’s baby shower a week after my failed retrieval.
This journey has made me isolate myself and I’ll probably lose some friends over it. Why can’t people understand that it’s so incredibly hard to be friends with people who all have babies? Why can’t people understand that I don’t want to sit at a cafe with you guys while I’m the only one without a baby? Everyone is having a baby and everyone is announcing some pregnancy while I’m pushing injections and medications.
Everyone seem to be talking about women’s health care, women’s right etc, but don’t give two single fucks about you if you’re struggling with infertility.
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Ever since I started experiencing mental health issues related to infertility I must say that Im shocked how little people actually cares? I’ve learned that most women are very insensitive to women who are struggling conceiving.
I mean I understand that it’s difficult to understand how challenging infertility is if you haven’t experienced it yourself, but every day I see women being very insensitive to women who’s struggling. Here on Reddit for example I saw a post about how people who needs IVF shouldn’t have children for whatever stupid reason.
I’ve been very careful opening up about my IVF journey with friends, family and acquaintances after being labelled as “immature” for not wanting to attend someone’s baby shower a week after my failed retrieval.
This journey has made me isolate myself and I’ll probably lose some friends over it. Why can’t people understand that it’s so incredibly hard to be friends with people who all have babies? Why can’t people understand that I don’t want to sit at a cafe with you guys while I’m the only one without a baby? Everyone is having a baby and everyone is announcing some pregnancy while I’m pushing injections and medications.
Everyone seem to be talking about women’s health care, women’s right etc, but don’t give two single fucks about you if you’re struggling with infertility.
2024.06.01 14:32 Embarrassed_Golf7619 Horrible mum. Will things get better ?
I feel like I’m the worst mum in the world right now 😞 I’ve been losing my temper so much with my 23mo. I’m 31 weeks pregnant also but she has just been testing me soo badly. Everything is just such a mission with her especially sleep. I guess you could say sleep deprivation is triggering everything for me right now. She used to sleep thru the night in her floor bed til 3 months ago she began coming to our bed and everything flipped upside down. Now it takes 45mins + to put her go sleep for her nap and bedtime. By the time she sleeps it’s around 10pm and she’s up by 7:30. Her being in our bed she’s constantly kicking me or hands in my face and I’ve been struggling to fall asleep due to pregnancy and constantly struggling to get comfy. Her naps are also terrible and she’ll always wake up 40mins screaming for me. I get no alone time from her and don’t know how I’m going to cope when the baby comes. To be honest I feel like my relationship with her isn’t the best and maybe because I feel like I had so many struggles with her such as struggling to breastfeed and struggling so much with her sleep and I guess that caused PND and now that I’m extremely hormonal it’s all coming back to the point where I’m not excited at all for my 2nd bub and have been feeling like I don’t want to exist anymore. I’m worried it’s going to affect our connection later on in life. I’m scared I’m going to resent her 😞 Of course I love her to death and would do anything to make her happy and I know she’s still soo young and one day this will be nothing but my hormones is making me just hate motherhood and like I said I don’t want to exist most days. I don’t have much help either so I try to get out most days with he but again; everything is such a mission with her and constantly whining/ chucking tantrums. So we can’t do cute lil lunch dates because she’s a runner. Going to the shops , screams and kicks in the pram and same if I put her in the trolley she just tries to climb out of it. So why do I bother ? Im sorry I don’t know the purpose of this post I’m just drained and I just feel like things will never get better 😞
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2024.06.01 14:27 Reddit_Books New Releases for May 2024
New Releases for May 2024
Data courtesy http://www.bookreporter.comFor more discussion, see the monthly New Releases post.
2024.06.01 13:59 seasidehoneydew Semi-no-contact Nmom found out I’m moving overseas… help
I don’t know where to start, this will be a long post. If you read through, thank you!
I first stopped speaking to my mother in 2019, I would now describe her as a covert narcissist but at the time I was just fed up with feeling like I was parenting an emotionally volatile teenager every time I spoke to her, every conversation ended in an argument and I was always to blame, always “breaking her heart”. I was an emotional (and on a few occasions as a teen, physical) punching bag and I just couldn’t take it anymore. For a few months her texts would switch between loving, heartbroken and scorned, getting meaner and meaner the longer I left them without a reply. She then started texting my boyfriend (now husband) to tell him how the no-contact was tearing her apart and giving him messages to pass on to me.
Fast forward, I fell pregnant at the end of 2021 and felt that she needed to hear the news from me. Less out of any actual desire to speak to her and more because I didn’t know what she would do if I let her hear it through the grapevine. I had read a couple of books about narcissistic parents by this point and set very clear boundaries for her. I would send her pregnancy updates and ultrasounds but I didn’t want unsolicited advice or constant phone calls and I was absolutely not prepared to hash out our “differences”. This was fine for a couple of months until is wasn’t and she stopped respecting my boundaries, called me non-stop until I answered and told me I was selfish if I didn’t want to talk. I pushed back and she told me to “have a nice life” and blocked me.
Our daughter was born 4 months later and at 4 days post-partum I got a text from her saying “I’m flying to name of my town on Friday, I don’t care if you don’t want to see me. You will show me my granddaughter through the window if you’re still not speaking to me”, I called her in hormonal hysterics while she was with friends and she answered the phone with this unnatural, sickly sweet voice and said “darling, you sound so upset what’s wrong? Do you have support at home?” It was like talking to a stranger, the thought of that phone call still sends a chill down my spine. My dad (they have been divorced for many years) eventually talked her out of the visit and she blocked me again.
This pattern has repeated itself multiple times over the past 2 years since my daughter was born, I set a boundary and she disregards it. I am selfish and she is heartbroken, she blocks me and I don’t hear anything for a couple of months. Then she begs me to unblock her so I can send pictures of her granddaughter. For clarity’s sake, I have never blocked her.
That brings us more or less to today. My family (husband, daughter, dog and I) will be moving overseas for work in about 2 months, this happened suddenly as is the nature of my husband’s job. We found out yesterday and my dad was the first person I told (we have a great relationship), he told his mom (my grandmother) and she told my mother. This morning I received multiple calls followed by a text from her telling me she’d like to have a “little chat”, reluctantly I worked up the courage to call her and she asked me straight away if we were moving overseas, I said yes. She told me “I will be coming to stay before you go” I told her that wouldn’t work, I have a lot on my plate preparing for the move and I would be lying if I said that a visit for her wouldn’t add more stress, she started to yell immediately asking “are you really so selfish that you can’t make time for your own mother?” I asked her to calm down and she said “now you’ve fucking done it, that’s it we’re done” and hung up, the whole call was less than two minutes and I hardly got a word in.
I couldn’t help it, I sat and cried for a while. As much distance as I have tried to put between us, hearing my mother speak to me that way still triggers this feeling inside of me and I revert back to this little child hiding in the corner of my room from my mom’s big feelings. I called her back and asked if we could talk calmly, my exact words were “I think your emotions are controlling you right now and I don’t want to leave things like that” unfortunately, she did not stay calm. She told me her heart was broken for me because one day my daughter would cut me off too and I’ll have regrets about the way I’ve treated my own mother, she said I am a my father’s surname through and through, that I’ve always been a selfish bitch who never thinks about anyone else’s feelings, she then told me to have a nice life (again) and that she never wants to speak to me again. She hung up after that.
I guess I just don’t know where to go from here. I feel sick and anxious and I’m not completely convinced that she won’t just turn up to my house anyway. The words “no-contact” sound so clear cut and linear but I feel like my journey has been anything but. Sometimes I think she’s right and I really am selfish for wanting distance, but accomodating her feelings constantly and mentally preparing for her next emotional tirade every few months is also affecting my ability to be present and healthy in my relationships with my own family.
I should mention that she has made no effort to take accountability for our relationship breakdown in the past 5 years. She will ask if I’m “over it yet” or resort to a disingenuous “fine, I was a terrible mother and I never did anything right” type of apology, she also laughed at me when I asked her to seek therapy if she wants any kind of real relationship in the future.
If you’ve read this far and you’re comfortable sharing, please tell me how you cope with the turbulence of no-contact or with emotionally immature parents in general. I would be so grateful to just know that I’m not alone in this.
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I first stopped speaking to my mother in 2019, I would now describe her as a covert narcissist but at the time I was just fed up with feeling like I was parenting an emotionally volatile teenager every time I spoke to her, every conversation ended in an argument and I was always to blame, always “breaking her heart”. I was an emotional (and on a few occasions as a teen, physical) punching bag and I just couldn’t take it anymore. For a few months her texts would switch between loving, heartbroken and scorned, getting meaner and meaner the longer I left them without a reply. She then started texting my boyfriend (now husband) to tell him how the no-contact was tearing her apart and giving him messages to pass on to me.
Fast forward, I fell pregnant at the end of 2021 and felt that she needed to hear the news from me. Less out of any actual desire to speak to her and more because I didn’t know what she would do if I let her hear it through the grapevine. I had read a couple of books about narcissistic parents by this point and set very clear boundaries for her. I would send her pregnancy updates and ultrasounds but I didn’t want unsolicited advice or constant phone calls and I was absolutely not prepared to hash out our “differences”. This was fine for a couple of months until is wasn’t and she stopped respecting my boundaries, called me non-stop until I answered and told me I was selfish if I didn’t want to talk. I pushed back and she told me to “have a nice life” and blocked me.
Our daughter was born 4 months later and at 4 days post-partum I got a text from her saying “I’m flying to name of my town on Friday, I don’t care if you don’t want to see me. You will show me my granddaughter through the window if you’re still not speaking to me”, I called her in hormonal hysterics while she was with friends and she answered the phone with this unnatural, sickly sweet voice and said “darling, you sound so upset what’s wrong? Do you have support at home?” It was like talking to a stranger, the thought of that phone call still sends a chill down my spine. My dad (they have been divorced for many years) eventually talked her out of the visit and she blocked me again.
This pattern has repeated itself multiple times over the past 2 years since my daughter was born, I set a boundary and she disregards it. I am selfish and she is heartbroken, she blocks me and I don’t hear anything for a couple of months. Then she begs me to unblock her so I can send pictures of her granddaughter. For clarity’s sake, I have never blocked her.
That brings us more or less to today. My family (husband, daughter, dog and I) will be moving overseas for work in about 2 months, this happened suddenly as is the nature of my husband’s job. We found out yesterday and my dad was the first person I told (we have a great relationship), he told his mom (my grandmother) and she told my mother. This morning I received multiple calls followed by a text from her telling me she’d like to have a “little chat”, reluctantly I worked up the courage to call her and she asked me straight away if we were moving overseas, I said yes. She told me “I will be coming to stay before you go” I told her that wouldn’t work, I have a lot on my plate preparing for the move and I would be lying if I said that a visit for her wouldn’t add more stress, she started to yell immediately asking “are you really so selfish that you can’t make time for your own mother?” I asked her to calm down and she said “now you’ve fucking done it, that’s it we’re done” and hung up, the whole call was less than two minutes and I hardly got a word in.
I couldn’t help it, I sat and cried for a while. As much distance as I have tried to put between us, hearing my mother speak to me that way still triggers this feeling inside of me and I revert back to this little child hiding in the corner of my room from my mom’s big feelings. I called her back and asked if we could talk calmly, my exact words were “I think your emotions are controlling you right now and I don’t want to leave things like that” unfortunately, she did not stay calm. She told me her heart was broken for me because one day my daughter would cut me off too and I’ll have regrets about the way I’ve treated my own mother, she said I am a my father’s surname through and through, that I’ve always been a selfish bitch who never thinks about anyone else’s feelings, she then told me to have a nice life (again) and that she never wants to speak to me again. She hung up after that.
I guess I just don’t know where to go from here. I feel sick and anxious and I’m not completely convinced that she won’t just turn up to my house anyway. The words “no-contact” sound so clear cut and linear but I feel like my journey has been anything but. Sometimes I think she’s right and I really am selfish for wanting distance, but accomodating her feelings constantly and mentally preparing for her next emotional tirade every few months is also affecting my ability to be present and healthy in my relationships with my own family.
I should mention that she has made no effort to take accountability for our relationship breakdown in the past 5 years. She will ask if I’m “over it yet” or resort to a disingenuous “fine, I was a terrible mother and I never did anything right” type of apology, she also laughed at me when I asked her to seek therapy if she wants any kind of real relationship in the future.
If you’ve read this far and you’re comfortable sharing, please tell me how you cope with the turbulence of no-contact or with emotionally immature parents in general. I would be so grateful to just know that I’m not alone in this.
2024.06.01 13:39 These_Ad_8619 Going back to work Monday and have questions - please help
Hey everyone - first time posting here. I’m a FTM to a 3.5 month old and my maternity leave is ending. Overall things have been pretty good but my husband and I definitely overcame a few challenges together and learned along the way to get to this point.
I’m thankful to have had a normal, healthy pregnancy and delivery and despite initial breastfeeding difficulties baby is healthy and feeding and sleeping well, but I have a lot on my mind as I prepare to return to work Monday and would be happy to hear some feedback from those who have been here before.
1) I’m legit worried about what to wear - I’m between sizes in this awkward not still maternity but also not back to normal phase; I feel awkward in my body and while I’m trying to love myself as I am I do feel old dysmorphic thoughts creep in so I’m trying not to get self conscious and remind myself that I recently birthed a human.
2) Speaking of, how long did it take you to lose your belly and how did you do it? Obviously I’m not as big as I was when carrying, but I definitely have a pooch leftover and trying to figure out how to get rid of it. I was pretty fit in the past but I may be on the low end of the PCOS spectrum (doc says I just barely meet the criteria), so it may be harder for me to lose weight although I admit that I haven’t restarted my workout routine beyond daily walks yet; not sure where to find the time or energy these days.
3) What is it like going back to work with a new baby? What makes your routine go smoothly? What worked for you and what didn’t work?
Basically I’m just trying to navigate how to go back to my corporate job (where I was recently promoted so there will be higher expectations/more responsibilities), while still attending to my baby/keeping my breastmilk supply up, taking care of my household, maintaining a good relationship with my husband, friends and family, and get my body back but it’s all starting to feel overwhelming…
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I’m thankful to have had a normal, healthy pregnancy and delivery and despite initial breastfeeding difficulties baby is healthy and feeding and sleeping well, but I have a lot on my mind as I prepare to return to work Monday and would be happy to hear some feedback from those who have been here before.
1) I’m legit worried about what to wear - I’m between sizes in this awkward not still maternity but also not back to normal phase; I feel awkward in my body and while I’m trying to love myself as I am I do feel old dysmorphic thoughts creep in so I’m trying not to get self conscious and remind myself that I recently birthed a human.
2) Speaking of, how long did it take you to lose your belly and how did you do it? Obviously I’m not as big as I was when carrying, but I definitely have a pooch leftover and trying to figure out how to get rid of it. I was pretty fit in the past but I may be on the low end of the PCOS spectrum (doc says I just barely meet the criteria), so it may be harder for me to lose weight although I admit that I haven’t restarted my workout routine beyond daily walks yet; not sure where to find the time or energy these days.
3) What is it like going back to work with a new baby? What makes your routine go smoothly? What worked for you and what didn’t work?
Basically I’m just trying to navigate how to go back to my corporate job (where I was recently promoted so there will be higher expectations/more responsibilities), while still attending to my baby/keeping my breastmilk supply up, taking care of my household, maintaining a good relationship with my husband, friends and family, and get my body back but it’s all starting to feel overwhelming…
2024.06.01 13:38 Acquaintance9 THE LAST Fake Eurovision Award Nominations - Cringiest Performance
Hey guys! I've just been feeling kind of out of it and forgot to post yesterday, but I don't think the results changed very much. Here are your nominees for Best Hairography:
Best Hairography
You can comment a Eurovision song from 1957 - 2024 you think fits the category of the day best (for example, Albania 2012). If a song is already nominated for another category, you can put it up for consideration in another category also. If somebody has already posted a song you wanted to post, DO NOT post that song. If you are going to comment, do it in this format: Song Name + Artist - Country + Year. It should look like this: Suus by Rona Nishliu - Albania 2012. You can also upvote the posts that you think should be part of this category. At the end of two days, the four songs with the most upvotes will be nominees for the categories we have, which we will eventually vote on. Have fun!
Categories So Far:
Best Vocals
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Best Hairography
- 🇲🇪 Space by Slavko Kalezić - Montenegro 2017 🇲🇪
- 🇷🇸 Loco Loco by Hurricane - Serbia 2021 🇷🇸
- 🇨🇿 My Sister's Crown by Vesna - Czechia 2023 🇨🇿
- 🇱🇻 Hollow by Dons - Latvia 2024 🇱🇻
You can comment a Eurovision song from 1957 - 2024 you think fits the category of the day best (for example, Albania 2012). If a song is already nominated for another category, you can put it up for consideration in another category also. If somebody has already posted a song you wanted to post, DO NOT post that song. If you are going to comment, do it in this format: Song Name + Artist - Country + Year. It should look like this: Suus by Rona Nishliu - Albania 2012. You can also upvote the posts that you think should be part of this category. At the end of two days, the four songs with the most upvotes will be nominees for the categories we have, which we will eventually vote on. Have fun!
Categories So Far:
Best Vocals
- 🇪🇪 La Forza by Elina Necheyeva - Estonia 2018 🇪🇪
- 🇨🇭 Tout L'univers by Gjon's Tears - Switzerland 2021 🇨🇭
- 🇪🇪 Bridges by Alika - Estonia 2023 🇪🇪
- 🇳🇴 Ulveham by Gåte - Norway 2024 🇳🇴
- 🇲🇩 My Lucky Day by DoReDoS - Moldova 2018 🇲🇩
- 🇦🇺 Zero Gravity by Kate Miller-Heidke - Australia 2019 🇦🇺
- 🇷🇸 In Corpore Sano by Konstrata - Serbia 2022 🇷🇸
- 🇫🇮 Cha Cha Cha by Käärijä - Finland 2023 🇫🇮
- 🇧🇪 Rhythm Inside by Loïc Nottet - Belgium 2015 🇧🇪
- 🇨🇾 Fuego by Eleni Foureira - Cyprus 2018 🇨🇾
- 🇪🇸 SloMo by Chanel - Spain 2022 🇪🇸
- 🇲🇩 Soarele şi Luna by Pasha Parfeni - Moldova 2023 🇲🇩
- 🇫🇮 Hard Rock Hallelujah by Lordi - Finland 2006 🇫🇮
- 🇺🇦 Dancing Lasha Tumbai by Verka Serduchka - Ukraine 2007 🇺🇦
- 🇮🇸 Hatrið mun sigra by Hatari - Iceland 2019 🇮🇸
- 🇫🇮 Cha Cha Cha by Käärijä - Finland 2023 🇫🇮
- 🇲🇪 Space by Slavko Kalezić - Montenegro 2017 🇲🇪
- 🇬🇧 Space Man by Sam Ryder - United Kingdom 2022 🇬🇧
- 🇨🇿 My Sister's Crown by Vesna - Czechia 2023 🇨🇿
- 🇱🇻 Hollow by Dons - Latvia 2024 🇱🇻
- 🇷🇺 Party for Everybody by Buranovskiye Babushki - Russia 2012 - Oven 🇷🇺
- 🇷🇺 RUSSIAN WOMAN by Manizha - Russia 2021 - Moving Dress 🇷🇺
- 🇦🇺 Promise by Voyager - Australia 2023 - Car 🇦🇺
- 🇫🇮 No Rules! by Windows95man - Finland 2024 - Jegg and Jorts 🇫🇮
- 🇪🇸 Do It For Your Lover by Manuel Navarro - Spain 2017 🇪🇸
- 🇮🇱 Set Me Free by Eden Alene - Israel 2021 🇮🇱
- 🇨🇭 Tout L'univers by Gjon's Tears - Switzerland 2021🇨🇭
- 🇵🇹 Ai Coração by Mimicat - Portugal 2023 🇵🇹
- 🇺🇦 Dancing Lasha Tumbai by Verka Serduchka - Ukraine 2007 🇺🇦
- 🇷🇺 Uno by Little Big - Russia 2020 🇷🇺
- 🇲🇩 Trenulețul by Advahov Brothers and Zdob și Zdub - Moldova 2022 🇲🇩
- 🇳🇱 Europapa by Joost Klein - Netherlands 2024 🇳🇱
- 🇲🇪 Euro Neuro by Rambo Amadeus - Montenegro 2012 🇲🇪
- 🇷🇸 In Corpore Sano by Konstrakta - Serbia 2022 🇷🇸
- 🇸🇪 Hold Me Closer by Cornelia Jakobs - Sweden 2022 🇸🇪
- 🇪🇸 ZORRA by Nebulossa - Spain 2024 🇪🇸
- 🇷🇺 RUSSIAN WOMAN by Manizha - Russia 2021 🇷🇺
- 🇺🇦 Stefania by Kalush Orchestra - Ukraine 2022 🇺🇦
- 🇫🇮 Cha Cha Cha by Käärijä - Finland 2023 🇫🇮
- 🇺🇦 Maria & Teresa by alyona alyona and Jerry Heil - Ukraine 2024 🇺🇦
- 🇺🇦 Dancing Lasha Tumbai by Verka Serduchka - Ukraine 2007 🇺🇦
- 🇺🇦 SHUM by Go_A - Ukraine 2021 🇺🇦
- 🇲🇩 Trenulețul by Advahov Brothers and Zdob și Zdub - Moldova 2022 🇲🇩
- 🇪🇪 (nendest) narkootikumidest ei tea me (küll) midagi by 5miinust and Puuluup - Estonia 2024 🇪🇪
- 🇧🇬 Water by Elitsa Todorova and Stoyan Yankulov - Drums - Bulgaria 2007 🇧🇬
- 🇲🇩 Runaway by Sunstroke Project and Olia Tira - Saxophone - Moldova 2010 🇲🇩
- 🇮🇸 10 years by Daði og Gagnamagnið - Keytar - Iceland 2021 🇮🇸
- 🇪🇪 (nendest) narkootikumidest ei tea me (küll) midagi by 5miinust and Puuluup - Talharpa - Estonia 2024🇪🇪
- 🇳🇴 Fairytale by Alexander Rybak - Norway 2009 🇳🇴
- 🇫🇮 Cha Cha Cha by Käärijä - Finland 2023 🇫🇮
- 🇦🇲 Jako by Ladaniva - Armenia 2024 🇦🇲
- 🇭🇷 Rim Tim Tagi Dim by Baby Lasagna - Croatia 2024 🇭🇷
- 🇱🇻 Eat Your Salad by Citi Zēni - Latvia 2022 🇱🇻
- 🇱🇻 Aijā by Sudden Lights - Latvia 2023 🇱🇻
- 🇨🇿 Pedestal by Aiko - Czechia 2024 🇨🇿
- 🇸🇲 11:11 by Megara - San Marino 2024 🇸🇲
- 🇨🇭 Tout L'univers by Gjon's Tears - Switzerland 2021 🇨🇭
- 🇳🇱 De Diepte by S10 - Netherlands 2022 🇳🇱
- 🇵🇹 Saudade, saudade by MARO - Portugal 2022 🇵🇹
- 🇳🇱 Europapa by Joost Klein - Netherlands 2024 🇳🇱
- 🇲🇩 Runaway by Sunstroke Project and Olia Tira - Moldova 2010 🇲🇩
- 🇱🇹 Discoteque by The Roop - Lithuania 2021 🇱🇹
- 🇨🇿 Lights Off by We Are Domi - Czechia 2022 🇨🇿
- 🇦🇹 Who The Hell Is Edgar by Teya and Salena - Austria 2023 🇦🇹
- 🇸🇲 Adrenalina by Senhit ft. Flo Rida - San Marino 2024 🇸🇲
- 🇦🇺 Promise by Voyager - Australia 2023 🇦🇺
- 🇫🇮 Cha Cha Cha by Käärijä - Finland 2023 🇫🇮
- 🇳🇱 Europapa by Joost Klein - Netherlands 2024 🇳🇱
- 🇮🇹 Måneskin - Italy 2021 🇮🇹
- 🇸🇮 Joker Out - Slovenia 2023 🇸🇮
- 🇦🇲 Ladaniva - Armenia 2024 🇦🇲
- 🇮🇪 Bambie Thug - Ireland 2024 🇮🇪
- 🇺🇦 Be My Valentine! (Anti-Crisis Girl) by Svetlana Loboda - Ukraine 2009 🇺🇦
- 🇦🇺 Zero Gravity by Kate Miller-Heidke - Australia 2019 🇦🇺
- 🇭🇷 Mama ŠČ! by Let 3 - Croatia 2023 🇭🇷
- 🇫🇮 Cha Cha Cha by Käärijä - Finland 2023 🇫🇮
- 🇫🇮 No Rules! by Windows95Man - Finland 2024 🇫🇮
- 🇮🇪 Doomsday Blue by Bambie Thug - Ireland 2024 🇮🇪
- 🇸🇪 Waterloo by ABBA - Sweden 1974 🇸🇪
- 🇫🇮 Hard Rock Hallelujah by Lordi - Finland 2007 🇫🇮
- 🇮🇪 Doomsday Blue by Bambie Thug - Ireland 2024 🇮🇪
- 🇨🇭 The Code by Nemo - Switzerland 2024 🇨🇭
- 🇲🇪 Space by Slavko Kalezić - Montenegro 2017 🇲🇪
- 🇷🇸 Loco Loco by Hurricane - Serbia 2021 🇷🇸
- 🇨🇿 My Sister's Crown by Vesna - Czechia 2023 🇨🇿
- 🇱🇻 Hollow by Dons - Latvia 2024 🇱🇻
2024.06.01 13:33 Curious_Asparagus682 OB telling me I gained too much weight…she said “It’s obvious the weight isn’t going to the baby because your baby is small”
I started our 143 lbs at 5,4. I now weigh 186 lbs at 32 weeks pregnant. For background context my baby was measuring in the 7th percentile and the OB sent me to fetal medicine specialist to do the ultrasound and then the baby was at the 11th with the new ultrasound tech. Fetal medicine doctor said “do not diet but add a little extra protein to your diet” so I did that over 3 weeks and gained like 7 lbs. Yesterday the OB tells me my belly is measuring behind and that it’s “obvious the weight isn’t going to the baby” that I should try and not gain anymore weight, and my weight should stay the same the rest of the pregnancy. Then after this appointment I have my ultrasound at a different clinic (the fetal medicine ultrasound).They say the baby jumped from the 11th percentile to the 19th percentile, AFTER I gained the 7 extra lbs. My OB was saying that my blood pressure and glucose are good but if I gain more weight I’m at risk of c section or baby having shoulder dystocia and not having endurance for labor. But I’m worried If I try not to gain anymore weight the baby will not grow as well. If I didn’t gain weight is the baby going to try to take the weight from myy fat stores. It just feels like the baby is starting to get bigger because I am gaining weight now. I’m so confused how this is possible. I obviously don’t have control on where the weight goes but trying to diet makes no sense to me at this point. My husband even commented that I’m barely eating more than I normally ate before pregnancy, so it’s not like I’m gorging on food all the time.
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2024.06.01 13:30 nicistardust Second postpartum worse or easier than first?
I’m pregnant with my second baby and while the first 3ish months postpartum with my first were rough, it got much better steadily after and I was back to my pre-pregnancy workout routine and body before she turned one.
I’m eager to run an iron man and am looking at scheduling. I will have this baby in December and am wondering if the second time around recovery is any different? Trying to figure out if it’s realistic to do an iron man a year out.
Context: I worked out my entire first pregnancy and am planning the same this time (fingers crossed). Post birth I did recovery exercises for 5 weeks before I was cleared and picked training back up.
Thank you!
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I’m eager to run an iron man and am looking at scheduling. I will have this baby in December and am wondering if the second time around recovery is any different? Trying to figure out if it’s realistic to do an iron man a year out.
Context: I worked out my entire first pregnancy and am planning the same this time (fingers crossed). Post birth I did recovery exercises for 5 weeks before I was cleared and picked training back up.
Thank you!
2024.06.01 13:08 Agitated-Feature-963 MA Experience - positive!
Hiya!
I wanted to come in and write a post about my MA experience 2 weeks post pills.
I took my first dose at 5 weeks and 6 days with fear of the pain and sickness I read so many experience. When I placed the next dose of pills vaginally, I was so nervous as I experience some terrible period cramps on a norm and didn’t want this to be like that.
What I can say is, wow is it easier than expected. My best advice is to eat plain food the day before and the day during. No artificial sugars, no greasy food, just plain easy to digest food. I do this on a regular month before I get my period and I feel like it tremendously helps with my period cramps so doing this for my MA felt smart.
It took about 2.5 hours before any bleeding started. Actually - I felt like it was late and was about to seek help before something came out. From here it was like a full river escaped me (the gush is real). I typically have light periods so this was shocking! At the worst of the cramps I would give the pain a 6/10 and I mean this was the WORST. Nothing ibuprofen and paracetamol didn’t help, I took about 800mg of ibuprofen and 500mg of paracetamol about an hour before I started anything.
Heating pad is a MUST. I don’t think I could have done this without. I unfortunately didn’t have my partner with me during this so I was worried about being alone but I had my friend on speed dial in case of emergency, to be honest it was kind of nice to just be dwelling in my own misery.
Cramps ended about after day 2, after what I feel was the passing of the pregnancy, the cramps started to fade with sometimes popping back up and then going. The bleeding began to stop after day 4.
Here I am 2 weeks after and from time to time I will bleed brown and pass a clot but with no pain. It’s like not often enough to continuously wear a pad but enough to be weary. I have one week to go until I can take my pregnancy test again but honestly when they say “symptoms going down like the feeling of feeling pregnant” it’s true. I didn’t have many symptoms to begin with part from sore breasts and slight cramping (and being very very emotional) but I can’t believe how much BETTER I feel! I feel very confident this worked and that everything went smoother than expected.
I write this for anyone else going through this for their first time! I honestly didn’t think I could become pregnant and after years of BC I stopped it and followed the flo app for my ovulation days. TIP - don’t do this 😂. I’m now back on the pill and feel much better to just have this out of the way.
The whole process was legit easier than a monthly period.
Good luck to those having to go through this! You can do it!
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I wanted to come in and write a post about my MA experience 2 weeks post pills.
I took my first dose at 5 weeks and 6 days with fear of the pain and sickness I read so many experience. When I placed the next dose of pills vaginally, I was so nervous as I experience some terrible period cramps on a norm and didn’t want this to be like that.
What I can say is, wow is it easier than expected. My best advice is to eat plain food the day before and the day during. No artificial sugars, no greasy food, just plain easy to digest food. I do this on a regular month before I get my period and I feel like it tremendously helps with my period cramps so doing this for my MA felt smart.
It took about 2.5 hours before any bleeding started. Actually - I felt like it was late and was about to seek help before something came out. From here it was like a full river escaped me (the gush is real). I typically have light periods so this was shocking! At the worst of the cramps I would give the pain a 6/10 and I mean this was the WORST. Nothing ibuprofen and paracetamol didn’t help, I took about 800mg of ibuprofen and 500mg of paracetamol about an hour before I started anything.
Heating pad is a MUST. I don’t think I could have done this without. I unfortunately didn’t have my partner with me during this so I was worried about being alone but I had my friend on speed dial in case of emergency, to be honest it was kind of nice to just be dwelling in my own misery.
Cramps ended about after day 2, after what I feel was the passing of the pregnancy, the cramps started to fade with sometimes popping back up and then going. The bleeding began to stop after day 4.
Here I am 2 weeks after and from time to time I will bleed brown and pass a clot but with no pain. It’s like not often enough to continuously wear a pad but enough to be weary. I have one week to go until I can take my pregnancy test again but honestly when they say “symptoms going down like the feeling of feeling pregnant” it’s true. I didn’t have many symptoms to begin with part from sore breasts and slight cramping (and being very very emotional) but I can’t believe how much BETTER I feel! I feel very confident this worked and that everything went smoother than expected.
I write this for anyone else going through this for their first time! I honestly didn’t think I could become pregnant and after years of BC I stopped it and followed the flo app for my ovulation days. TIP - don’t do this 😂. I’m now back on the pill and feel much better to just have this out of the way.
The whole process was legit easier than a monthly period.
Good luck to those having to go through this! You can do it!
2024.06.01 13:02 Successful-Song-8238 Toxic in-laws, What to do?
I’ve never written a question on this app before but this is eating at me. BUCKLE UP THIS IS LONG!
So my husband’s family have been abusive to him, he is the black sheep of his family he is the youngest and has a different father than his older siblings (8,6 years older).
Ever since I started dating him I was antagonized in some way. When I first met his family for Christmas his middle brother invited his ex-girlfriend to hang out, unbeknownst to my then bf which was awkward but she was fine with me. My boyfriend then was really sick and I took the train 2 hours to pick him up from his home (where his family was with their cars) and take him to a hospital in London. He was there for 6 days not one person visited him but me. They made fun of him and minimized his illness.
Then we moved to my home country the US and eloped. They came to visit a few years later his mom and eldest brother were okay. Middle brother again constantly throwing barbs and digs at me completely unprovoked. I get there may be a culture difference they are White English conservatives, I’m African American. Shortly after we married he dated a black girl, who left bc she was also treated poorly. Some examples of digs; I congratulated him on graduating and asked him when he finished he replied “same time you were supposed to” (I dropped out). Then I asked what the he loved most and what was challenging about being a PT and he replied “no offense, working with fat people.” Took them to multiple meals and covered everything which wasn’t cheap, he complained about the food being “reheated” and bitched when he was ID’d.
Things get progressively worse, middle brother has a precious baby. I want to spoil her and become close with the mother of the child (who is not with him due to his creepy behavior). We form a fast friendship and chat all the time about the baby. My brother in-law tortures this girl denies he is the dad but also goes out of his way to bully her (she’s not breast feeding right, she shouldn’t have pacifiers) all from the comfort of his home. He is also constantly complaining about having to pay $50 a week in child support nonstop saying he is going “bankrupt”. My hubby is part of a group chat and my mother-in-law talks ish about my friend and my hubby is telling me. I ask to see and his brother is actively trying to give his soon to be 1 year old daughter eggs and gluten that his ex told him she was allergic to and they are plotting to do this during her birthday and explicitly NOT tell my friend the mom of his baby. The reasoning was “I’m the father, I deserve to be respected, I can make choices to” but he is extremely sneaky. I show my friend/baby’s mom the messages and all hell breaks loose because of course he lies and gets caught. I would have told him off directly but he blocked me because he was mad at how close I was getting to his ex. I am called a “despicable woman” dragged in their chat, made to seem that I’m spying on my husband and accused of being jealous and sabotaging my niece’s birthday party. My husband says nothing in my defense just goes along like he didn’t send me the photos of their chat…
They don’t know I’m pregnant at this time and I chose not to tell any of my in-laws due to how awful they are. I also don’t believe in telling anyone that would wish ill on me and my baby (bad juju), but my bestie the baby mom knows. I give birth his mom has an absolute tantrum says incredibly awful things to my husband, reaches out to my mom to wish her congratulations on her grandchild and says “i guess I will learn to love him.”
Then my friend the mom gets diagnosed with cancer and wants to keep this secret and makes me promise, she kept my secret pregnancy it is the least I could do. She dies a few months later and my brother in law attacks her for not telling him and claims she is a horrible mother. He takes custody of his daughter.
Fast forward the eldest brother meets this hog woman. She is rotund and English, very ignorant and rude. The first interaction I had she thought she knew so much, decides to bash my dead friend’s parenting, call my dead father in law “weird”, tells me my niece eats everything now due to having a “good parent” and called my apt in NYC “embarrassing” bc it had scaffolding on google maps when she looked me up (like a creep). She then antagonizes me in a variety of slick ways including posting the eldest brother with my niece with the caption “uncle B’s favorite!” On my son’s birthday. Most recently I tell his family that we want to actually have a proper wedding and celebrate after 10 years of marriage, i give them 2 years notice. The hog says “ohhh me and the eldest are planning on getting married then.” I ask why she says “nice weather”. She then proceeds to have a fall wedding (orange, red, greens, pumpkins, barley, wheelbarrows etc.” in May. I try to be the bigger person and send a kind welcome and she leaves me on read.
I hate these people, I need to let this go. My husband says that we should just go on continuing our happy life and not “start problems”. But it feels like so much awfulness to have to swallow. I also feel like if/when I do speak up I’m the hysterical angry black woman and this hog is the “innocent”. The whole thing is so so frustrating but I need to let it go even though I want them to hurt emotionally as much as they have hurt us.
Any recommendations, would you want revenge? There is so much more but I have written a novel already. I feel alone like no one has my back or tries to understand my perspective. They are so sneaky and underhanded. I want to protect my family from these sick people. At the same time I want justice, justice for my husband, for my dead bestie, for me son and for me.
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So my husband’s family have been abusive to him, he is the black sheep of his family he is the youngest and has a different father than his older siblings (8,6 years older).
Ever since I started dating him I was antagonized in some way. When I first met his family for Christmas his middle brother invited his ex-girlfriend to hang out, unbeknownst to my then bf which was awkward but she was fine with me. My boyfriend then was really sick and I took the train 2 hours to pick him up from his home (where his family was with their cars) and take him to a hospital in London. He was there for 6 days not one person visited him but me. They made fun of him and minimized his illness.
Then we moved to my home country the US and eloped. They came to visit a few years later his mom and eldest brother were okay. Middle brother again constantly throwing barbs and digs at me completely unprovoked. I get there may be a culture difference they are White English conservatives, I’m African American. Shortly after we married he dated a black girl, who left bc she was also treated poorly. Some examples of digs; I congratulated him on graduating and asked him when he finished he replied “same time you were supposed to” (I dropped out). Then I asked what the he loved most and what was challenging about being a PT and he replied “no offense, working with fat people.” Took them to multiple meals and covered everything which wasn’t cheap, he complained about the food being “reheated” and bitched when he was ID’d.
Things get progressively worse, middle brother has a precious baby. I want to spoil her and become close with the mother of the child (who is not with him due to his creepy behavior). We form a fast friendship and chat all the time about the baby. My brother in-law tortures this girl denies he is the dad but also goes out of his way to bully her (she’s not breast feeding right, she shouldn’t have pacifiers) all from the comfort of his home. He is also constantly complaining about having to pay $50 a week in child support nonstop saying he is going “bankrupt”. My hubby is part of a group chat and my mother-in-law talks ish about my friend and my hubby is telling me. I ask to see and his brother is actively trying to give his soon to be 1 year old daughter eggs and gluten that his ex told him she was allergic to and they are plotting to do this during her birthday and explicitly NOT tell my friend the mom of his baby. The reasoning was “I’m the father, I deserve to be respected, I can make choices to” but he is extremely sneaky. I show my friend/baby’s mom the messages and all hell breaks loose because of course he lies and gets caught. I would have told him off directly but he blocked me because he was mad at how close I was getting to his ex. I am called a “despicable woman” dragged in their chat, made to seem that I’m spying on my husband and accused of being jealous and sabotaging my niece’s birthday party. My husband says nothing in my defense just goes along like he didn’t send me the photos of their chat…
They don’t know I’m pregnant at this time and I chose not to tell any of my in-laws due to how awful they are. I also don’t believe in telling anyone that would wish ill on me and my baby (bad juju), but my bestie the baby mom knows. I give birth his mom has an absolute tantrum says incredibly awful things to my husband, reaches out to my mom to wish her congratulations on her grandchild and says “i guess I will learn to love him.”
Then my friend the mom gets diagnosed with cancer and wants to keep this secret and makes me promise, she kept my secret pregnancy it is the least I could do. She dies a few months later and my brother in law attacks her for not telling him and claims she is a horrible mother. He takes custody of his daughter.
Fast forward the eldest brother meets this hog woman. She is rotund and English, very ignorant and rude. The first interaction I had she thought she knew so much, decides to bash my dead friend’s parenting, call my dead father in law “weird”, tells me my niece eats everything now due to having a “good parent” and called my apt in NYC “embarrassing” bc it had scaffolding on google maps when she looked me up (like a creep). She then antagonizes me in a variety of slick ways including posting the eldest brother with my niece with the caption “uncle B’s favorite!” On my son’s birthday. Most recently I tell his family that we want to actually have a proper wedding and celebrate after 10 years of marriage, i give them 2 years notice. The hog says “ohhh me and the eldest are planning on getting married then.” I ask why she says “nice weather”. She then proceeds to have a fall wedding (orange, red, greens, pumpkins, barley, wheelbarrows etc.” in May. I try to be the bigger person and send a kind welcome and she leaves me on read.
I hate these people, I need to let this go. My husband says that we should just go on continuing our happy life and not “start problems”. But it feels like so much awfulness to have to swallow. I also feel like if/when I do speak up I’m the hysterical angry black woman and this hog is the “innocent”. The whole thing is so so frustrating but I need to let it go even though I want them to hurt emotionally as much as they have hurt us.
Any recommendations, would you want revenge? There is so much more but I have written a novel already. I feel alone like no one has my back or tries to understand my perspective. They are so sneaky and underhanded. I want to protect my family from these sick people. At the same time I want justice, justice for my husband, for my dead bestie, for me son and for me.
2024.06.01 11:57 QuietAffectionate498 Would you say that this woman isn’t particularly smart
She has been 21 for nearly three months, and has a child who is almost six months old. She is a single mom. Her mother generally helps her out with the baby, in spite of the fact that her mother has three younger children (one of whom recently graduated from high school.) She was pregnant between 2021-2022, and her mother and sister who recently graduated actually discouraged the pregnancy (she’d intended to go through with it anyhow, but ended up aborting.) She posted a video with her newborn wherein she was playing a modern rap song while holding them.
She did not take her child to her sister’s high school graduation (child was under another individual’s care.) In high school, she seemed very empathetic and came off like she was good at connecting with people, teachers of hers considered her to be smart. Her mother had her as a teenager.
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She did not take her child to her sister’s high school graduation (child was under another individual’s care.) In high school, she seemed very empathetic and came off like she was good at connecting with people, teachers of hers considered her to be smart. Her mother had her as a teenager.
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2024.06.01 11:11 QuietAffectionate498 Is it unreasonable for me to assume/feel that this person wasn’t raised right?
She has been 21 for nearly three months, and has a child who is almost six months old. She is a single mom. Her mother generally helps her out with the baby, in spite of the fact that her mother has three younger children (one of whom recently graduated from high school.) She was pregnant between 2021-2022, and her mother and sister who recently graduated actually discouraged the pregnancy (she’d intended to go through with it anyhow, but ended up aborting.) She posted a video with her newborn wherein she was playing a modern rap song while holding them.
She did not take her child to her sister’s high school graduation (child was under another individual’s care.) In high school, she seemed very empathetic and came off like she was good at connecting with people, teachers of hers considered her to be smart. Her mother had her as a teenager.
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She did not take her child to her sister’s high school graduation (child was under another individual’s care.) In high school, she seemed very empathetic and came off like she was good at connecting with people, teachers of hers considered her to be smart. Her mother had her as a teenager.
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2024.06.01 08:04 SprayNo6423 I’m quitting my job to find myself, and I have no idea how to explain it to my boss.
I (25F) have had a rough year. I gave birth to my daughter early after developing preeclampsia, my daughter developed severe jaundice and was hospitalized, I had a severe double kidney infection, and my marriage along with my mental and physical health, fell on the rocks. I returned to my job following giving birth at about 4 weeks since it is a part time dance teaching job. I’ve been doing this for 8 years and I have a really close relationship with my boss “Emily” (changed for privacy) I have taught in the evenings since I moved here for college 8 years ago, and taught through college, engagement, marriage, pregnancy and post partum. I pumped while teaching, I helped her move studios when we got a new location, I’ve traveled all over our state with our students for competitions. I’ve done solos and privates and have developed a very close relationship with all my students and coworkers. I’ve loved teaching there, but the last few months it’s stopped being a joy.
It’s been a source of stress, anxiety, and has made it so my husband and I don’t see each other much. He works during the day and weekends and I work evenings during the week, so we were seeing each other for maybe an hour or so each day.
I am a religious person and I’ve been feeling guided into a different path, one that takes me away from teaching, and focusing on myself and my family.
Last year, When I approached Emily about not being able to keep teaching after having my baby, due to my husbands work schedule, she offered to allow me to bring my daughter with me, to continue to teach while I had her during the times my husband worked. This was so kind of her and I appreciated her being willing to be flexible to keep me.
This has become a worry for me as I approach this conversation with her, as I know she will try to offer solutions and different ideas to keep me teaching for her. I want to maintain a very positive relationship with her, in case I would like to return to teaching, and I just don’t know how to approach the situation! Any advice welcome!!
UPDATE I asked to speak with her today, as this is a better sooner than later conversation and she wants to push it to Tuesday, 3 days away. I’d really like to have this conversation out of the way before we start our summer session on Monday, is it pushy of me to push to have this conversation today?
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It’s been a source of stress, anxiety, and has made it so my husband and I don’t see each other much. He works during the day and weekends and I work evenings during the week, so we were seeing each other for maybe an hour or so each day.
I am a religious person and I’ve been feeling guided into a different path, one that takes me away from teaching, and focusing on myself and my family.
Last year, When I approached Emily about not being able to keep teaching after having my baby, due to my husbands work schedule, she offered to allow me to bring my daughter with me, to continue to teach while I had her during the times my husband worked. This was so kind of her and I appreciated her being willing to be flexible to keep me.
This has become a worry for me as I approach this conversation with her, as I know she will try to offer solutions and different ideas to keep me teaching for her. I want to maintain a very positive relationship with her, in case I would like to return to teaching, and I just don’t know how to approach the situation! Any advice welcome!!
UPDATE I asked to speak with her today, as this is a better sooner than later conversation and she wants to push it to Tuesday, 3 days away. I’d really like to have this conversation out of the way before we start our summer session on Monday, is it pushy of me to push to have this conversation today?
2024.06.01 07:51 ExplanationCold8070 Kittens belly still feels a bit too hard and swollen after deworming
Sorry if it looks like I was trying to mug her in the photo. It’s hard to get a good pic of her belly.
I found her under a dumpster about three or four weeks ago? You can see my initial post about her on my profile. She was about 4-6 weeks then, so she’s probably close to 8 or 9 now. She got her first dose of dewormer, then her second seven days later back then. She plays and eats and drinks perfectly fine. I know she doesn’t have worms in her stools (I had to sit and watch her every time she went to the litter box on her own in the early days because she had a habit of stepping in her poo).
I found a flea on her the other day. Shes too young for flea treatment right now, so I immediately went into clean up mode: got flea treatment on all four of the adult cats, completely vacuumed the house (every corner, nook, and cranny included), and washed all the blankets that she and the others like to sleep on.
I’m hoping the hard belly is just a part of her awkward growth into young kittenhood. She’s got long skinny legs, too. It doesn’t bother her when I poke it. I read it could be gas? She farts a lot. Overall, I think she’s okay, but I’m a serious worry wart and I’d like a second opinion. I’ll be taking her to the vet for her first shots and stuff soon. I was in between jobs so money’s been a bit tight.
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I found her under a dumpster about three or four weeks ago? You can see my initial post about her on my profile. She was about 4-6 weeks then, so she’s probably close to 8 or 9 now. She got her first dose of dewormer, then her second seven days later back then. She plays and eats and drinks perfectly fine. I know she doesn’t have worms in her stools (I had to sit and watch her every time she went to the litter box on her own in the early days because she had a habit of stepping in her poo).
I found a flea on her the other day. Shes too young for flea treatment right now, so I immediately went into clean up mode: got flea treatment on all four of the adult cats, completely vacuumed the house (every corner, nook, and cranny included), and washed all the blankets that she and the others like to sleep on.
I’m hoping the hard belly is just a part of her awkward growth into young kittenhood. She’s got long skinny legs, too. It doesn’t bother her when I poke it. I read it could be gas? She farts a lot. Overall, I think she’s okay, but I’m a serious worry wart and I’d like a second opinion. I’ll be taking her to the vet for her first shots and stuff soon. I was in between jobs so money’s been a bit tight.
2024.06.01 07:47 Hour-Preparation-637 I’m so excited I can’t even sleep, wanting to share the excitement and talk to other current or expecting parents :)
I made a post when I’d found out I was pregnant on Mother’s Day. I had been looking for other peoples experiences and advice as I was having trouble making a choice on keeping vs ending my pregnancy. I ultimately got some great advice, but deleted that post as it did have some pretty identifiable and personal info.
Anyways, we have decided we are going to keep the baby and now that the uncertainty is out of the way, I am just so so happy and so excited! I am waiting until my 2nd tri to tell people in my life. I just hit 9 weeks today! I had some random questions I was hoping anyone else who’s been through it all before could maybe answer! I also again am just so excited and just wanna talk baby all day every day so that may have some influence on this post, apologies lol.
•what are your favorite prenatals to take?
•what are your most WTF pregnancy symptoms you’ve experienced?
•favorite free pregnancy/baby apps? What about favorite paid apps?
•what are your recommendations for first time moms on saving money on baby supplies?
•how the heck does a baby shower work? I’ve never even been to one but I’d like to have one!
•what are some weird or just unexpected items that you discovered that you’ll never go through another pregnancy without having?
•any other random tips and tricks that you think may not be common knowledge are also appreciated!
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Anyways, we have decided we are going to keep the baby and now that the uncertainty is out of the way, I am just so so happy and so excited! I am waiting until my 2nd tri to tell people in my life. I just hit 9 weeks today! I had some random questions I was hoping anyone else who’s been through it all before could maybe answer! I also again am just so excited and just wanna talk baby all day every day so that may have some influence on this post, apologies lol.
•what are your favorite prenatals to take?
•what are your most WTF pregnancy symptoms you’ve experienced?
•favorite free pregnancy/baby apps? What about favorite paid apps?
•what are your recommendations for first time moms on saving money on baby supplies?
•how the heck does a baby shower work? I’ve never even been to one but I’d like to have one!
•what are some weird or just unexpected items that you discovered that you’ll never go through another pregnancy without having?
•any other random tips and tricks that you think may not be common knowledge are also appreciated!