It’s been 8 weeks since I was left by him for the 2nd time. Blindsided, totally out of the blue both times. No arguments, no struggles in the relationship, no signs. Nothing- as far as I was aware we were completely and blissfully in love and happy together.
He left me with the same bullshit surface level excuses as he did the first time. We have been together for years.
“I need to be alone” “You deserve better” “I can’t give you what you deserve” “I need to heal”
Blablablablabla, the list goes on. The first time he came back (a year and a week later) once I had started to move on - he promised he was ready, he was choosing me, choosing us, every day. He contacted each of my family members to apologise for his actions, to apologise for the pain he caused me and all of us. That he would communicate with me.
Though this 2nd break up isn’t as hard as the first in some ways. As the first time I lost my home (because we lived together), I lost my car (because going to live alone I couldn’t keep a big fancy car) I still feel a whole massive fucking amount of pain. Unfortunately, we had to have a termination of a pregnancy at the start of the year, due to some medication that he is currently taking that causes birth defects and we chose not to take that risk on the baby or on me. He left only a few weeks after I had stopped bleeding. Baring in mind, the whole time I was going through this and obviously was emotional he was telling me that WE will have our chance again, WE now know WE work, it will be in OUR future just this wasn’t the time for US.
Looking back, he was clearly triggered, it scared him. He ran. The fear of growing up, having a little life to look after.
I am 30 next month. This is far from what I would expect my life to be like. I have a good job, a beautiful home, a car, the full works- but this second break up with someone I love completely with every part of myself and the termination has completely knocked the wind out of me this year.
When we got back together, it was incredible. We were better versions of us, which shocked me because we were amazing the first time. It was wonderful. He was (and despite this) still is an amazing man. He unfortunately suffers from childhood trauma like myself- but when he gets triggered he runs, legs it, drops me and literally detaches himself from me to prevent him from looking inside and seeing what the root cause is. I know exactly what it is, he has told me numerous times that it scares the shit out of him how much I know him and sometimes I know him better than himself.
The whole year (and a week) we were split up the first time I had this deep deep knowing he was coming back. And he did, despite everyone around me basically calling me mad because I was so sure of it. This time, I feel exactly the same. I know he is coming back. When, I don’t know. But he will.
Whether or not you believe in attachment theory or not, I know he is an avoidant. DA to be exact. I won’t go in to every single thing to why and his actions, but he is. I am in therapy, and I spoke to my therapist about it (she also specialises in attachment issues) and she had told me I hit the nail on the head with what I think. I refuse to bash him or any one who has this attachment style - but I just wish he could see why he does the things he does, why he gets triggered, look inside himself and the answers are there.
This has been long, I could keep going but I will stop. To be fair I don’t even know why I’m writing this. I suppose for some release. To tell some strangers on the internet what I’ve been going through. It’s shit. I hate it. I’m just in a whole lot of pain, and I’m terrified of the time that is being lost between us. That my body is ticking. And so on.
If you managed to get this far, thanks for listening to me yap and getting some of it out.

ok so, for as much as i love them, i have a pretty bad history with piercings. i have 3 in each lobe (had 4, but the first pair closed) that never really healed after several years, a double nostril that needed to get repierced, snake bites that were so poorly done i had to remove them, and a crooked bridge. now, i really don't like my plain face, and i would like to get more piercings, but it looks like no matter how reputable my piercer is (my last one is even insta verified) and how flawless their portfolio may be, i have the misfortune of always ending up being the one with crooked piercings. i do address them after getting them done, but they always say it's swelling and then it's not. i have yet to decide whether or not to get my snake bites repierced because i have to ponder if my anatomy allows me to have them in a way that doesn't cause me discomfort, but i am still unsure about this bridge of mine. the thing is, upon the terrible luck with piercing execution, i as well have pretty problematic healing processes. i get extremely swollen and sore, much more than the average, and it takes me so many months to ALMOST heal. i have had my bridge since last december, and despite it not being swollen anymore, it's clearly still crooked and irritated (i do take care of it), and i really don't know what to do. i just want to take it out, but the scarring would annoy me and idk if i could get it repierced better. i am a strict perfectionist unluckily and wrong visual imput (especially on my own body) causes me physical discomfort, reason why i struggle so much with crooked piercings. i don't wanna give up body mods, i really love how they look on me and they help me significantly with self esteem, but it's so stressful and complicated to get them right. i try getting fake piercings where i can, but not everything can be "faked" and i am honestly at a dead end with motivation. i have considered going back to the piercer to ask him if he could fix it somehow, but my social anxiety tells me there's no use and it will just be awkward because i am in fact unhappy with his job. i had already told him i had bad experience with every single piercing i had gotten and i hoped he could do a good gob, he was understanding, he spent an hour taking the precise measurements (that looked perfect) only to evidently miss the exit spot by a good 2 millimeters and also go too deep. i don't wanna pay another 80 euros to spend another 6 months with a sore bridge while being unsure of how it will turn out, but i don't want an empty face filled with scars, i am just really done with all this.

I've only played a few games with my tyranids, and never vanguard detachment; I've recently stumbled into some more models. Is this a serviceable list for vanguard detachment?
Plan would be to rush in and tie up some units with the von Ryan's while everything else creeps up the board. Parasite in deep strike for secondaries, flyarant in deep strike to cause general havoc, prime and warriors in reserves (possibly brought in turn one with the strat?). Mama bug and termagants to move up and distract and/or hold an objective same with maleceptor but on the other side of the board.
I have a bunch of other models (no tfex or gargoyles) but this is just about everything I have with the vanguard keyword (other than an extra 5 genestealers).
I'd love any tips on list or strategy!
vanguard (2000 points)
Tyranids Strike Force (2000 points) Vanguard Onslaught
CHARACTERS
Broodlord (95 points) • 1x Broodlord claws and talons • Enhancement: Chameleonic
Deathleaper (80 points) • 1x Lictor claws and talons
Parasite of Mortrex (80 points) • 1x Barbed ovipositor 1x Clawed limbs
Tervigon (190 points) • Warlord • 1x Massive scything talons 1x Stinger salvoes
Winged Hive Tyrant (220 points) • 1x Monstrous scything talons 1x Tyrant talons • Enhancement: Stalker
Winged Tyranid Prime (65 points) • 1x Prime talons
BATTLELINE
Termagants (120 points) • 20x Termagant • 20x Chitinous claws and teeth 20x Fleshborer
Termagants (60 points) • 10x Termagant • 10x Chitinous claws and teeth 10x Fleshborer
OTHER DATASHEETS
Exocrine (135 points) • 1x Bio-plasmic cannon 1x Powerful limbs
Genestealers (150 points) • 10x Genestealer • 10x Genestealers claws and talons
Lictor (55 points) • 1x Lictor claws and talons
Maleceptor (170 points) • 1x Massive scything talons 1x Psychic overload
Neurolictor (80 points) • 1x Piercing claws and talons
Tyranid Warriors with Melee Bio-weapons (75 points) • 1x Tyranid Prime • 1x Tyranid Warrior claws and talons • 2x Tyranid Warrior • 2x Tyranid Warrior claws and talons
Von Ryan’s Leapers (150 points) • 6x Von Ryan’s Leaper • 6x Leaper’s talons
Von Ryan’s Leapers (75 points) • 3x Von Ryan’s Leaper • 3x Leaper’s talons
Zoanthropes (100 points) • 1x Neurothrope • 1x Chitinous claws and teeth 1x Warp Blast • 2x Zoanthrope • 2x Chitinous claws and teeth 2x Warp Blast
Zoanthropes (100 points) • 1x Neurothrope • 1x Chitinous claws and teeth 1x Warp Blast • 2x Zoanthrope • 2x Chitinous claws and teeth 2x Warp Blast
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Level 200 and something now, loving my combo of fixeRR for big bois. But In the recent Must have atom shop purchases thread, i got nostalgic after seeing mentions of the cold shoulder.
That was my noob gun, but now here I am all mutated up, maxed cards out my ears and 90 level ups in the bank to spend on getting some shotgun/whatever cards.
Anyone got a nice Cold shoulder full health build that they rely on?
One thing I absolutely adored about the C.S was the inbuilt durability, I swear I repaired it once in 2 weeks of solid use haha. My RR in comparison is made from match sticks bless.

Psalms 140 (KJV)
To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David.
Psalms 140:1 Deliver me, O LORD, from the evil man: preserve me from the violent man; 2 Which imagine mischiefs in their heart; continually are they gathered together for war. 3 They have sharpened their tongues like a serpent; adders’ poison is under their lips. Selah. 4 Keep me, O LORD, from the hands of the wicked; preserve me from the violent man; who have purposed to overthrow my goings. 5 The proud have hid a snare for me, and cords; they have spread a net by the wayside; they have set gins for me. Selah. 6 I said unto the LORD, Thou art my God: hear the voice of my supplications, O LORD. 7 O GOD the Lord, the strength of my salvation, thou hast covered my head in the day of battle.
Psalms 140:8 Grant not, O LORD, the desires of the wicked: further not his wicked device; lest they exalt themselves. Selah. 9 As for the head of those that compass me about, let the mischief of their own lips cover them. 10 Let burning coals fall upon them: let them be cast into the fire; into deep pits, that they rise not up again. 11 Let not an evil speaker be established in the earth: evil shall hunt the violent man to overthrow him. 12 I know that the LORD will maintain the cause of the afflicted, and the right of the poor. 13 Surely the righteous shall give thanks unto thy name: the upright shall dwell in thy presence.
Today we come across another Imprecatory Psalm, that is, a psalm where the writer is requesting a specific judgment by inspiration of the Holy Ghost. Jesus does teach us to love our enemies, and God never changes, but these judgments are prayed for because the offender is working to disrupt God’s plan for his people and the redemption of mankind. One thing I have noticed through studying these imprecatory psalms is that the request is specific; each individual psalm is a desire for judgment for a specific offense. And we need to remember that the royal line of the kings of Judah was the direct lineage and forefathers of our Lord Jesus Christ. A dethronement disrupting this line in favor of another family would’ve meant God breaking his promises to David, Solomon, and possibly even to Jacob, as he prophesied on his death dad in Genesis 49. So I have come to the conclusion that these psalms do not necessarily contradict the command we have to love our enemies, as individuals, and more than defending ourselves or our children from violence, or a soldier fighting in a war for his nation would be a contradiction. With this in mind, let!s dig in.
The context of this psalm is not specific enough to decipher if David is running from Saul, Ishbosheth (after the death of Saul and Johnathon), Absalom, or someone else.
Verses 1-7 David’s Petition for Protection

• He is suffering violence (v1)
  
• They have to make up offenses to charge him in their minds (v2)
  
• They are relentless in their opposition (v2)
  
• They are subversive (v3)
  
• This is a spiritual battle against the throne of Israel, satanic in origin (v3-4)
  
• They fight through tricks, traps, and unconventional means (V5)
  
• David goes before God, recognizing the higher throne above his own (V6-7)
  

Verses 8-13 David’s Prayer against his Persecutors

• Let their plans fail (v8)
  
• Let their own words prosecute them (v9)
  
• Let them be judged with death (v10)
  
• Let justice prevail over the subversive (v11)
  
• Let the just have full confidence in God (v12-13)
  

Thoughts and questions

1. I wonder if this Psalm inspired Solomon to write Proverbs 1:17 “Surely in vain the net is spread in the sight of any bird.“ Do any other verses from Proverbs come to mind?
   
2. David recognizes these attacks for what they are. How do we identify when someone is attacking us under satanic influence? And how do we differentiate that from someone just being selfish or having a bad day?
   
3. What is your take on the Imprecatory Psalms? Do you believe it is ever appropriate for a New Testament believer to pray like this?
   

Every single day there is a question from someone here saying "where do I start for AWS Solutions Architect Associate" when there are a few hundred articles from those who passed already.
So here is a master list of resources to help those who have this question.
If you find this post useful - upvote. I am happy to take feedback / suggestions / changes etc - please comment!

tl;dr

1. Get 1 video course and watch it end to end - the subreddit favourites are below / scroll down further for links

• I cannot afford any courses / need a free option - get Andrew Brown's YouTube course
• I want to just learn bare minimum to pass exam - Stephane Maarek on Udemy
• I really want to learn this AWS and cloud stuff well and be good at it - Adrian Cantrill

1. Read whitepapers / review new announcements from re:Invent 2023
   
2. Do one decent set of practice exams from one provider- subreddit favourites below / scroll down further for links
   

• Tutorialsdojo (personal favourite - I passed ALL my exams using "TD")
• Udemy (Stephane Maarek)
• Take and Pass exam!

Subreddit Search

Following my own usual guidance, you can always use the subreddit search feature and read articles from everyone in the last month who posted about this exam / passed it. There is a wealth of detail / experience here to learn from :
Link : https://www.reddit.com/AWSCertifications/search/?q=saa+solutions+architect+associate+pass&type=link&t=month

Exam Details

If you have absolutely no clue about the exam - start here.
The exam code is SAA-C03
AWS page with all the details : https://aws.amazon.com/certification/certified-solutions-architect-associate/
Always read the Exam Guide (tells you whats in / out of scope) : https://d1.awsstatic.com/training-and-certification/docs-sa-assoc/AWS-Certified-Solutions-Architect-Associate_Exam-Guide.pdf

Minimum Viable Path to Certification

Most people usually need 3 things to pass the exam

1. A single video based course introducing AWS and all the key exam topics

Typically these are courses where someone reads from some slides, shows you the AWS console and how to use it and then gives you tips on what to remember - there are free and paid versions of these.

1. Additional material on key topics.

For SAA-C03 - there are some recommended whitepapers on WAF and also since 6 months have passed since the last re:Invent 2023 - any of the major announcements from then now are in scope for the exam. You wont see too many new things but there is a chance there are some random questions that were not covered in any practice exam / course.

1. One good quality practice exam

Note : do not fall for some random "dump" found on internet or a file your mate gave you to study.
Also note - you do NOT need more than 1 of each category. You can buy more than one practice exam for sure but doing one is enough IMHO.

1. Video Courses

Free Video based Courses

Free from AWS's own training service (Skillbuilder) :
There is an "Exam Prep" course from Skillbuilder but note that this just covers the high level domains but is not a comprehensive deep dive.
https://explore.skillbuilder.aws/learn/course/external/view/elearning/14760/exam-prep-aws-certified-solutions-architect-associate-saa-c03
Optional : There is a slightly extended version of this in the paid tier with additional exam-style questions, flashcards and more importantly FREE hands on labs and the official practice exam.
https://explore.skillbuilder.aws/learn/course/external/view/elearning/14776/exam-prep-aws-certified-solutions-architect-associate-saa-c03-with-practice-material
There is a 7 day (extended to 10 days sometimes) free trial for the paid tier which can help you cram this. You can subscribe, immediately cancel but still enjoy 7 days free.
Please note that this course is not enough on its own to pass and you may want to try additional material below.
YouTube based video course
This course below is a better alternative to the SkillBuilder course above but is about 50 hours.
Andrew Brown is an AWS community hero who runs his own training site called exampro.co but offers most of the material for free on FreeCodeCamp's YouTube channel.
The 2024 refresh of the SAA course is here : https://youtu.be/c3Cn4xYfxJY
Andrew also has additional (free / paid) content on his site to check out.

PAID Video based courses

Adrian Cantrill's courses :
Adrian Cantrill is an independent content creator and has his own site from where you can obtain courses.
His courses go above and beyond what the exam needs and this is exactly why the community loves these courses as you get more practical knowledge than just cramming for the exam. The additional coverage means these courses are longer and not as cheap as other courses that cover just the exam material but in the general opinion of everyone who has taken the course it is absolutely worth it.
Link : https://learn.cantrill.io/
Udemy Courses :
Udemy is a marketplace for courses created by independent authors.
Two of the well known authors are mentioned below but please note that Udemy's pricing model can be a bit weird. One day it may show 150 USD for a course and another day 15 USD. This price it high and discount it heavily model catches out most people - so NEVER pay more than USD 20 for anything on Udemy.
Just wait for a day or so and prices may change. Opening Udemy in another incognito browser etc usually yields a different price or follow the authors on social media for codes that shrink the cost.
Stephane Maarek :
Go via his site : https://courses.datacumulus.com/ for links to his Solutions Architect Associate with the best available coupon.
Neil Davis :
https://www.udemy.com/course/aws-certified-solutions-architect-associate-hands-on/
Either one of these Udemy courses is sufficient. You still need to combine it with practice exams but you do not need more than 1 video course.
Other sites :
Exampro.co
As mentioned above Andrew Brown has his own site with additional material over his YouTube course.
Cloud Academy
https://cloudacademy.com/learning-paths/aws-solutions-architect-associate-saa-c03-certification-preparation-for-aws-1-7446/ has both a learning plan and a practice exam at the end.

2. Additional Material

I will update this section soon with some additional guidance soon as I am not happy yet (please let me know in comments if there are key additional coverage I should include) - I am scouring recent exam pass posts to see whats current and also want to add links to re:Invent 2023 announcements. I also am thinking of adding in links to "cheat sheets" / docs - let me know if this would be useful.
WAF - Well Architected Framework
https://aws.amazon.com/architecture/well-architected/
You need to know at some decent depth on what the pillars are and what they do.
Read the whitpapers from https://aws.amazon.com/whitepapers/
Specifically I found the Reliability and Cost Optimization white papers very useful.

3. Practice Exams

Please do NOT fall for "dumps" - if anyone offers you the EXACT list of AWS questions or guarantees the question bank matches the exam - these are dumps. The links below are either official or well regarded sources.
Free :
AWS skillbuilder has one free official exam with just 20 free questions.
To be honest its not really worth it - you can search for "Official practic exam skillbuilder SAA-C03" using your favourite search engine to find it.
exampro.co
Has 1 free practice exam you can sign up to.
Paid :
Official Practice exam
https://explore.skillbuilder.aws/learn/course/external/view/elearning/13593/exam-prep-official-practice-exam-aws-certified-solutions-architect-associate-saa-c03-english - there is a free 7 day trial available for you to use as this exam may not be worth a month's subscription fee
Tutorialsdojo.com
Highly recommended independent resource for practice exam questions with a very useful "review mode" and every question comes with detailed explanations on answers
Udemy
Stephane Maarek : again go via his site : https://courses.datacumulus.com/
Neal Davis : https://www.udemy.com/course/aws-certified-solutions-architect-associate-hands-on/
Other popular sites :
Exampro.co
Andrew Brown has I believe 3 practice exams as well on his site. One is free - the other two you pay for.
Whizlabs
I havent used them personally but https://www.whizlabs.com/aws-solutions-architect-associate/
Cloud Academy
https://cloudacademy.com/learning-paths/aws-solutions-architect-associate-saa-c03-certification-preparation-for-aws-1-7446/ has both a learning plan and a practice exam at the end.

Not Recommended sites :

Sites that are sadly NOT recommended anymore - Avoid A Cloud Guru / Pluralsight as their courses are not considered the best anymore. They used to be leaders but somehow have fallen behind and their subscription model doesnt work in a world with cheap one time purchase courses.
If you want a sandbox to experiment - then ACG offers one but so do Whizlabs and Tutorialsdojo.

Optional / Complementary material

I have an article where you can find complementary / alternatives to the Solutions Architect Exam - most are free and includes the "AWS Knowledge : Architecting Free Digital Badge"
https://www.reddit.com/AWSCertifications/comments/1d1o522/no_payment_options_to_learn_aws_with_digital/
This material isnt exam focused but if you want some free alternatives / cannot afford to pay for the exam - then check out the link.

FAQ

1. Do I need ALL this material

A. No. Just one of each is fine. Example : get the free YouTube course + tutorialsdojo and you can pass

1. Do I really need to do hands on work

A. Yes - it is recommended that you get some hands on work at the Associate level.
If you are

1. Where can I find vouchers for the exam

A. check this thread : https://www.reddit.com/AWSCertifications/comments/18woit6/2024_aws_vouchers_exam_discounts_othe?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

1. Can I cheat my way using Dumps that I found online / my mate gave me / found on GitHub / YouTube?

A. You can but there is a high chance you fail and/or get caught / banned - the risk isnt worth it. Stick with genuine resources.

1. Can I pass with just free resources as I cannot afford the resources

A. Its possible but please it is recommended to atleast spend on decent practice exams. If you cannot afford the exam / resources - just get the free digital badges (Architecting)

1. I skipped CCP / CLF - is that okay

A. Yes - its okay to have skipped the foundational level - almost all the courses above teach you from scratch.

1. Can someone who is new to IT do this exam

A. Yes - Many people start from scratch and get to the Associate level.

1. Is it worth it?

A. Plenty of threads on this subreddit covering this. You have to make up your own mind if its worth it to you or not.

1. I dont code or want to - is this course for me?

A. While there is no coding involved in the course - knowing how to use the AWS CLI / being able to do some basic scripting would be very helpful anyway. You can also use free tools like CoPilot / Code Whisperer to help you with pieces you struggle with.

1. Can I use ChatGPT / Amazon Q etc to learn

A. Many of these Generative AI tools can still give you incorrect answers. So do not rely on them but if it helps you to quickly get the concept - go ahead and double check the results against official docs.

1. Are there books to learn from

A. Books get out of date too quickly and I do not recommend learning from them.
However there is an official Sybex Guide to the exam and tutorialsdojo / Neal Davis (Digital Cloud) also have an ebook. You can google for links to these.
Good Luck folks!

OFAH - Letter Y
Awight?
Saw this being done on a few other subs over the years, might be fun to give it a bash here.
Rules are simple, new letter each day, and we try to come up with the OFAH alphabet.
Most upvoted comment wins.
New post every day around lunchtime with a new letter, and we go until we reach the end.
How’s about it me old son?
Yesterday’s winner was Danger (U)XD To be fair yesterday was a difficult one.
So sling yer ‘ook into letter Y
Just to clarify since some didn’t get it. It’s a new letter every day, so Y only for today, Z tomorrow etc.
A= alright’ Dave?
B= Bonnet De Douche
C= Cushty
D= Dave
E= Emperor Burger
F= Four Aces
G= Groovy Gang
H= He who dares wins
I= I AM HERE
J= Jolly boys outing
K= knock knock knocked him out
L= Lovely Jubbly
M= Mum said to me on her deathbed
N= Nags Head
O= Oh shut up you tart
P= Plonker
Q= Queen Anne Cabinet
R= Rooney
S= Shut up you tart
T= Trotters Independent Traders
U= Uncle Albert
V= Vot is your name?
W= who’s Rachel
X= (Danger U) XD
Y=?

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRA_wafflehouse
My (29F) Boyfriend (29M) keeps getting into fights with a cook at Waffle House
Originally posted to relationship_advice
Original Post May 11, 2020
I know this sounds really weird, but here it is:
My BF and I have been together for three years. We met and started dating when we were both in graduate school, but I dropped out to go back to college to pursue a different career. We are both finished now, and live together making a fairly nice combined income.
Our income is relevant because we could afford to eat somewhere nice when we're out and about, but he always wants breakfast food. When he was a child his dad couldn't stand eating breakfast-type food in the afternoon or evenings, so his mom would make him waffles/pancakes, eggs, and bacon in the evening whenever his dad was busy or out of town. It's a wonderful and safe memory for him, and when he goes to his "happy place," he says that's where he always goes.
My BF is an incredibly nice and caring person. He's emotionally tuned in to everyone and recognizes arising issues a long time before they occur. He loves animals, and is kind and gentle with every bug, bird, and pet that he comes across. He's almost always willing to turn the other cheek in social situations where somebody tries to insult him or get aggressive towards him, and usually winds up defusing the situation and having a productive discussion about whatever the issue was. Except at Waffle House.
Anytime we're out he wants to go to the same goddamn Waffle House and get breakfast food. I'm not a big eater, so I used to not really care. I would just drink coffee and read my book while he enjoyed his food. But that became impossible once he and this one cook started chirping at each other every time we went there. BF complained about his eggs one time, because he likes them a little runny and they were served hard. The cook responded by giving him scrambled eggs. When he brought it up again the cook served him two hardboiled eggs. I think it was just part of the cook's schtick, and it was kind of funny tbh, but my BF wasn't able to laugh it off. When we left he was in kind of a bad mood, but we didn't really talk about it.
The next week we were out getting some shopping done, and he wanted to go to Waffle House again. I suggested that we try out a different place, or at least a different Waffle House location, but he only wanted the same Waffle House. We went in and sat down, and once again the same cook served his eggs wrong. My BF sort of snapped at him that he wasn't interested in messing around, and just wanted the correct eggs. The cook then served him a piece of toast with a hole cut out in the middle with a fried egg in it. My BF got really mad and threw the egg toast at the cook, which made the cook come around from behind the bar and throw it back at him. They ended up sort of wrestling/fighting until my BF was like "this is bullshit" and walked out. Nobody got hurt, but the few other people in there were watching and laughing a bit.
This is the crazy part: my BF keeps going back and ordering eggs and getting into fistfights with the same cook. It's almost a ritual at this point. My BF orders runny eggs, the cook serves him some other version of eggs, and then they beat the shit out of each other. I quit going with him after the second fight, but he kept going by himself. They're like Peter and the giant chicken from Family Guy, it's the weirdest thing. They've physically fought like 6 or 7 times over this.
I've tried to talk to him about it a few times, but he keeps saying it's a matter of principle. I've told him to talk to the manager or something like that, but he just waves me off. Apparently that cook hasn't yet made him the correct runny eggs, but it's like he spends the week learning new ways of preparing eggs to piss my boyfriend off.
The thing is, we're getting married this summer. He's accepted a job in a new city and it'll be easy for me to find work after the wedding, so we'll be moving away from his sworn enemy waffle house guy. He hasn't really been out since quarantine started, but it wouldn't surprise me if that's the first place he goes when restaurants open back up for sitting customers. But my main worry is this strange vindictive side of him I've never seen before that leads him to fight the same guy every week. The violence itself is an issue for me, but the obsession over it almost bothers me more.
Should I be worried that this side of him will come up later in our marriage? How do I get him to open up about this? Is this type of obsession a choice, or is it indicative of something deeper?
THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP. DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP OR COMMENT ON THE ORIGINAL POST

I’ve been having dreams over these past few nights about fighting sukuna bro. I don’t even watch the show or read the manga too
One time dream was where me and the boys were all in a big house together, hanging out, but sukuna was with us too in the house chilling and we each took turns fighting him and brutally lost because he kept pulling out new techniques from the heian era
And THEN it was a crossover between one punch man and sukuna and everytime sukuna would get killed, he’d somehow come back in an even stronger form like with armor and stuff because Gege loves sukuna
I need help this happened the past two nights and there might be more 💀

Hello everyone :)
I (24 F) and my bf (25 M) have been together for almost a year and a half, and we have a really happy and fulfilling relationship overall. We were incredibly happy being together before long distance began a year into our relationship, and long distance has been going smoothly for the past almost 6 months. The one thing that’s been an issue has been talking about a future together. I really want a future with him, I have had multiple relationships and I know how special he is and he’s truly the most amazing person, and I’m constantly researching and finding information about closing the gap and moving where he is in less than two years. Although my boyfriend says he can’t definitively say that we’ll get married one day, he doesn’t want to make a future with me a goal either (so he doesn’t get disappointed if it doesn’t work out). He says he wants a future with me, but that he doesn’t know if we’ll realistically be able to ever close the gap, and sometimes he worries we’re just being crazy by continuing long distance (even though he says he’s super happy). He also says having me move there puts so much pressure on him and that he feels I’ll never be able to integrate fully and that moving for love isn’t the smartest idea if I would’ve never moved to that country if it wasn’t for him…..It’s hard on him because we met while he was an international student in my hometown and he said he always saw himself moving to my country and never me going to his, but he doesn’t seem to want to try and move to mine anymore, so the only way the relationship can work is me trying to go there but us talking about that puts too much stress on us both. I get stressed because he always seems like he has no faith in it working and seems to be questioning the relationship long term, and he gets stressed because he can’t handle the idea of me moving there really. He also wonders if I would be the same amount of happy and in love with someone I found in my home country, but l simply just want to be with him. It’s my boyfriend’s first relationship so maybe he needs to figure that out for himself, before creating a future long distance with his first love? Idk every time I offer a breakup during these conversations, he ALWAYS denies it and says he’s happy and in love now and wants to stay. He also worries if we try this for a couple of years and it doesn’t work out that I’ll regret it, and that it’ll be hard for me to find someone else since I’ll be 27 by then….. is this all healthy and normal in a relationship? Have any of you guys had these experiences?

Hello! 👋🏽
Do you like to talk a lot? Do the other people in your life find you annoying? I won't!
I'd love to meet someone who likes talking and starting conversations, because I am bad at it! It can be short-term, but I would much prefer something long-term! please tell me in your few first messages whether you want it to be one-time or not lol
If you can't start conversations then please don't text me, because I can't either :'( I can just keep the convo going, but if you can start convos, then please send a DM! You can talk about anything you want, or just rant about your day, anything tbh. I'll listen and share what I have to say too so you won't feel like you're talking to a brick wall!
Tell me what stuff you like, and I'll talk about mine! Saying our hobbies/interests here will give us less to talk about in DM's. And I believe that friends who are into wildly different things can still make connections.
BTW my timezone is GMT+3, if you don't care about timezones then neither do I.

This question is for people who draws their f/os with your s/i(self insert) or just draw them because you like. So I think I'm falling to another f/o, but I hate the fact I can't draw him, he is anime style, whilst I can only draw cartoons. I'm too broke to pay for comissions sadly. And I have this addiction to always draw the character the closest I can to the oficial media, I know it's not healthy, and it even makes me lose my own art style, but I don't know how to change this... How you deal with this, with not being able to draw your f/o and create content with them? Do you have any tips on how I can deal with it? Or how can I accepted I can only draw the f/o on my own style? I'm starting to feel a deep sadness because of this, I'm willing to try to draw my f/o on my own "art style"(if I still have one >.>) But I feel so bad about it, makes me think I'm inferior and everyone is better than me. I'm sorry for rambling... I'm not sure how to express how I feel.

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After reading lots and lots of questions and answers on this Subreddit, i completely lost my thoughts. I have a good understanding of how investing works, why i should do it, and the power of compounded interest on long term, combined with the ease of an ETF like Iwda. I have a quite complex situation which confuses me a lot when it comes to investing and saving money. I already saw a lot of 'professional' explanations and theories here, so i would like to ask an objective opinion.
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This is who I am:

• 24 y/o male, works in as production-and planningcoordinator - net income =-2350 / month + benefits
• i have a girlfriend, we are living together in a house of mine (situation will be explaned below).
• +- 150k in savings, doing nothing on the bank at 0.5 % interest.
• +- 25k in stocks and etf's
• i have 2 houses on my name, 1 i live in myself together with my girlfriend, the other one is the house in which my grandparents are living in ( = vruchtgebruik, have been gifted the house a couple of years ago).
• I don't have any debts and don't have that much common expenses.
• Don't have kids, probably not before i reach 30 as i want to figure out where i will get financially to provide a stable situation for a kid. (girlfriend is fine with it).

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I think i'm in a quite well situation given my age, and that's why i want to seize the opportunity as thoughtful as possible.
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when i was 19, i started putting 5k in seperate stocks, mainly tech and Uranium as i am a strong believer of nuclear energy. That's doing very well as it's already 18k now.
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invested another 5k in iwda last year, which is doing well aswell.
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Reason why i am stuck:
I don't know what to do with my cash.
I want to invest some money for long term (10 a 15 years +) I want to invest some for very long term to retire comfy I have the houses, 1 renovated, bungalow from '60, which is now beginning EPC C, so quite efficient for the age. Only large expense for the future: removing asbest roof and replace it with shingles. Note that this house is with our future in mind, to start for the first 10 years or so. My final goal is to renovate the house of my grandparents in the future, to make it as good as possible for the rest of our lives (my girlfriend is fine with the situation, it's beneficial for her too). It's a 'landhuis' on a larnge plot of land. So i guess it will take arround 150k to renovate the house.
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The approach i am thinking off:
I invest another 15k in Iwda as lump sum and DCA from now on 300 euro's a month. I keep my own money to live from and to invest When i would ever renovate the house of my grand parents, i could get a loan for renovation purposes and use the bare minimum as downpayment. Then i renovate the house, and will live in it afterwards. The house i live in now is modern, detached , and easy to rent out. I would use the rental income from this property to pay off my loan I got to renovate the other house. I could eventually do a downpayment to make the rental income more than the loan, so I get let's say 200 euro's spare which i could park on a high yield growth savings account. This amount would come in when i have a cost at the property which is rented out. In the meanwhile i still have a filled savings account which keeps all roads open for investing oppertunities or to increase the value of the property i will be living in, in let's say 10 years or so (I hope it takes as long as possible as I love my grand parents, i want them to live as long as possible and stay at home while they can.) Once the renovation loan has been paid, i still have a lot of savings, so has my girlfriend, so in the further future, we could eventually buy an investment property together aswell.
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Would you change strategy? Or come in mind with another strategy that could work for me? I am willing to take moderate risk. I don't want to invest all in individual stocks as they are too volatile for me, especially sectorbased like energy. But ETF's, i am fine with. If it crashes, everything crashes, and after a crash, it will climb anyway in the long run.
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My goal is not to stop working or so, or to retire at 40, but i want to be able to say 'fuck it' and do something I really really enjoy, even though I would earn half the money. I never want to stress about money. I am quite economically-minded and think a lot before i purchase something expensive. Working 4/5 when i'm around 40 and 3/5 when around 55 would be ideal i think.
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My main motivation; based on the lifestyle of my grandfather, i like to walk arround on my property, thinking how beautifyl it is, washing the car on saturday, play with the kids, take them for a ride in a old porsche 911 (passionate about that car since when i was 6, posters all arround my room, till to date haha, that's the life strive for, the life i WANT to work for . not to sit at home at 50 all day long as everyone i know will still work then.
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Thank you so much for your insights
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Cheers
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Yesterday I had a very unique dream that really disturbed me.
In the dream I walked into an unfamiliar restaurant with my mother and some of her friends. As we were being showed our table a group of girls walked by, a semi-attractive one walked up to me and began flirting. We got to the point I was going to ask her number and she said ‘I’m a witch’. I was a bit startled, I didn’t know how to reply. Even though she said that I was still interested in her for some reason.
That’s when she began to hysterically laugh and her appearance changed, she kept laughing and laughing and her appearance morphing to more unattractive versions. Then boom she disappears. Also when she started laughing I was seeing her face on a screen which was situated on a pole in front of me. It was so bizarre.
After she disappeared I did not feel right, I began navigating the restaurant and went looking for my mother and her friends, I couldn’t find them. I noticed that my appearance had changed, like my hands looked and felt old and I was hunched over. I had lost weight and felt brittle.
After going to the bathroom to look at myself I walked up to the bar near the entrance to ask if they had the things I had brought in with me. To my surprise they had my belongings. Right when I went to pick them up that same group of girls minus the one who disappeared came up to me. A much more attractive one came very close to me, touching me with her body. She was a very appealing red head. She lured me outside and began to engage with me very sexually. She wanted me to take it, but it didn’t feel right especially in front of a restaurant in public.
She kept pressing her body on me until I grabbed her and began to engage, but then her clothes melted and she began to lose consciousness which made me have to hold her. Her body became very sweaty almost melting in a way, but still solid. Since she was unconscious, I had to lay her naked body down. There was a curb where I laid the small of her back down on and I penetrated her for just a second because her pussy was exposed. Then I panicked. It felt like a trick. I tried running away….I got about half way across the street when I was forced to all fours. I was literally glued to the concrete. I couldn’t move.
Then I see a guy at the restaurant pointing at me to some cops saying I killed this girl. In my mind I knew she could resurrect herself after getting me to go to prison for life, just part of her witchcraft.
The only dream I can remember that relates to this is when I had a haunted painting that was given to me by a Gypsy couple. Some demonic spirit existed in that painting and attacked me one night in the form of a succubus. Its head was like Medusa and it held me down with those snakes and violently raped me.
What’s weird is that the industry I work in, there is a woman who is a self-proclaimed witch and not sure if this is a deliberate attack. It definitely caught me off guard.
Any one want to take a stab at this?

I noticed a pattern of mine, I’m trying to know if this is a shared experience having this disorder. My therapy session is in another 2 weeks but I’m just curious about my experience.
When I play fight or wrestle with my partner and he goes a little too hard (he is bigger than me and lot heavier), I get a sense of helplessness and I get washed over with a sense of anger. He is in no way abusive and our fights are just childish wrestling that can go a little bit too rough sometimes. We are safe, at least I do feel safe. Until I turn angry.
I have a sudden realization that the intense rage I feel is from me feeling like I’m losing in the ‘fight’. The sense of helplessness when he pins me down playfully sometimes turn into full blown rage. Usually we laugh. But the realization that my ego is so hurt because I can be overpowered by sheer physical force is wild lol. My brain will paint him black, thinking that I do not need him, our relationship sucks, I’m with the wrong guy etc. Basically putting myself in a better ‘position’ in him. The sudden need to tell myself that no one can overpower or be better than me. Trying to find what other ways I’m more ‘superior’ than him.
And the next day when I read my journal diaries, I’m like wtf OP, your mind is crazy?? Damn. Thank you for reading

First time posting, long time reader. Wasn’t sure how to go about this but here goes..
My wife (33F) is finishing up her 3rd year in DO school. We’ve been together 12 years, married going on 6. We don’t have kids. I (39M) have been along for the journey since undergrad. What a rollercoaster.. Getting into med school was huge. It was a school out of state. We’re from the west coast, school is in southwest; close enough to family to visit, far enough to miss them. I work full time and fortunately was able to transfer. We have a home in CA and again, fortunately, I make a decent amount where we were able to buy a home close enough to her school and an hour away from my work. Currently, we rent out the west coast property. Having properties has always been a goal of mine, so buying a second home wasn’t something I would be upset about, especially in a growing city.
Since I work, I carry most, if not all, of the financial side of things. I say most because I don’t want to discredit when she buys things at the market and I don’t hand her money to pay for it. For me, my money is our money. Her loan is my loan. We do it together. I’m on board.
The demands of med school are intense, as we all know. I’m on board with all the sacrifices we make as spouses. I cook, I clean, I pack her lunches, wake her up if/when she’s running late, prepare her coffee and send her off with “I got you, babe.” That’s who I am. I do all those things not for an IOU payment. I do it because I love my wife and I know I want to support my partner. I feel like she has possibly gotten so used to it that she forgets to support the one who supports her most. Her family situation is another post for another subreddit that gets very.. difficult. Therapy has been an avenue we’ve taken as a couple and as individuals. It’s helped.
Here is where I feel like I’m finding the edge..
Moving away from home has its challenges. I would surf every week - Can’t surf in the desert. I’m close with my family - Can only see them every so often now. In our marriage, affection has gone from healthy to occasionally. Sex life, same. Understanding the mental demand, stresses and planning for residency applications, wanting to plan for a baby, her family stress, all of those are factors. I’ve been patient and understanding. I do my best.
I enjoy camping. It keeps me sane. During that “limbo” I plan trips for myself or with other family members, which means I drive to another state and have a decent trip for 4-5 days. THIS is my hobby. THIS makes me happy. This happens twice to three times a year. I love my truck. I invest in my truck. I purchased and worked on everything that has been done to my truck. I’m proud of it. THIS makes me happy.
Again, I carry the financial side of things. I also save money for future plans (babies, another move, another house, emergencies etc). Am I wrong for spending money on my truck? Because I’m continually getting guilt tripped for it by my wife. Sounds silly, but when I voice that frustration with my wife, the answer I get is “When are you done?” And my response is “It’s something I continue to enjoy and can afford. What if it’s never done?”
Is it fair to be guilt tripped this way? I mean, I do my part. And then some. I feel like sacrificing and carry the load I do and voicing when it’s tough falls on deaf ears. And all I ask is to be supported while I support her. I’m not drinking and hitting strip clubs, I’m camping. Im working on my truck. It’s my hobby and it makes me happy. A “I’m happy you enjoy your truck and it’s given you a lot of joy.” would send me to the moon. For me, that’s an “I got you, babe.”
Idk, I feel like a tool. Only do what supports her journey but don’t find things that make me happy throughout it, because her journey is the one that is most important…? I don’t know how else to live a life for myself without being guilt tripped, while supporting her 90% of the time.
Am I crazy?! Is there a different perspective I could adopt? I feel like I’m losing my mind and losing who I am. I’m not a tool, I’m a person.
TL;DR Med school is demanding, I love camping and working on truck, wife doesn’t agree with how I spend my free time and money.

I’ve never written a question on this app before but this is eating at me. BUCKLE UP THIS IS LONG!
So my husband’s family have been abusive to him, he is the black sheep of his family he is the youngest and has a different father than his older siblings (8,6 years older).
Ever since I started dating him I was antagonized in some way. When I first met his family for Christmas his middle brother invited his ex-girlfriend to hang out, unbeknownst to my then bf which was awkward but she was fine with me. My boyfriend then was really sick and I took the train 2 hours to pick him up from his home (where his family was with their cars) and take him to a hospital in London. He was there for 6 days not one person visited him but me. They made fun of him and minimized his illness.
Then we moved to my home country the US and eloped. They came to visit a few years later his mom and eldest brother were okay. Middle brother again constantly throwing barbs and digs at me completely unprovoked. I get there may be a culture difference they are White English conservatives, I’m African American. Shortly after we married he dated a black girl, who left bc she was also treated poorly. Some examples of digs; I congratulated him on graduating and asked him when he finished he replied “same time you were supposed to” (I dropped out). Then I asked what the he loved most and what was challenging about being a PT and he replied “no offense, working with fat people.” Took them to multiple meals and covered everything which wasn’t cheap, he complained about the food being “reheated” and bitched when he was ID’d.
Things get progressively worse, middle brother has a precious baby. I want to spoil her and become close with the mother of the child (who is not with him due to his creepy behavior). We form a fast friendship and chat all the time about the baby. My brother in-law tortures this girl denies he is the dad but also goes out of his way to bully her (she’s not breast feeding right, she shouldn’t have pacifiers) all from the comfort of his home. He is also constantly complaining about having to pay $50 a week in child support nonstop saying he is going “bankrupt”. My hubby is part of a group chat and my mother-in-law talks ish about my friend and my hubby is telling me. I ask to see and his brother is actively trying to give his soon to be 1 year old daughter eggs and gluten that his ex told him she was allergic to and they are plotting to do this during her birthday and explicitly NOT tell my friend the mom of his baby. The reasoning was “I’m the father, I deserve to be respected, I can make choices to” but he is extremely sneaky. I show my friend/baby’s mom the messages and all hell breaks loose because of course he lies and gets caught. I would have told him off directly but he blocked me because he was mad at how close I was getting to his ex. I am called a “despicable woman” dragged in their chat, made to seem that I’m spying on my husband and accused of being jealous and sabotaging my niece’s birthday party. My husband says nothing in my defense just goes along like he didn’t send me the photos of their chat…
They don’t know I’m pregnant at this time and I chose not to tell any of my in-laws due to how awful they are. I also don’t believe in telling anyone that would wish ill on me and my baby (bad juju), but my bestie the baby mom knows. I give birth his mom has an absolute tantrum says incredibly awful things to my husband, reaches out to my mom to wish her congratulations on her grandchild and says “i guess I will learn to love him.”
Then my friend the mom gets diagnosed with cancer and wants to keep this secret and makes me promise, she kept my secret pregnancy it is the least I could do. She dies a few months later and my brother in law attacks her for not telling him and claims she is a horrible mother. He takes custody of his daughter.
Fast forward the eldest brother meets this hog woman. She is rotund and English, very ignorant and rude. The first interaction I had she thought she knew so much, decides to bash my dead friend’s parenting, call my dead father in law “weird”, tells me my niece eats everything now due to having a “good parent” and called my apt in NYC “embarrassing” bc it had scaffolding on google maps when she looked me up (like a creep). She then antagonizes me in a variety of slick ways including posting the eldest brother with my niece with the caption “uncle B’s favorite!” On my son’s birthday. Most recently I tell his family that we want to actually have a proper wedding and celebrate after 10 years of marriage, i give them 2 years notice. The hog says “ohhh me and the eldest are planning on getting married then.” I ask why she says “nice weather”. She then proceeds to have a fall wedding (orange, red, greens, pumpkins, barley, wheelbarrows etc.” in May. I try to be the bigger person and send a kind welcome and she leaves me on read.
I hate these people, I need to let this go. My husband says that we should just go on continuing our happy life and not “start problems”. But it feels like so much awfulness to have to swallow. I also feel like if/when I do speak up I’m the hysterical angry black woman and this hog is the “innocent”. The whole thing is so so frustrating but I need to let it go even though I want them to hurt emotionally as much as they have hurt us.
Any recommendations, would you want revenge? There is so much more but I have written a novel already. I feel alone like no one has my back or tries to understand my perspective. They are so sneaky and underhanded. I want to protect my family from these sick people. At the same time I want justice, justice for my husband, for my dead bestie, for me son and for me.

A DOCUMENTARY about a bizarre Texas competition to win a pickup truck has been given new life as a musical.
Directed by David Nelson and Jane Anderson, Hands on a Hardbody tells the story of an annual endurance contest where the last person standing with their hands on the vehicle wins it.
The musical is based on the documentary with each character getting a chance to share their story through song.
Filmmaker Quentin Tarantino refers to Hands on a Hardbody as one of his go-to movie recommendations.
“The documentary shows the people involved in the competition and explores what winning a car would mean to them,” Jane said.
“Most of the contestants were poor, out of work and struggling in some way.”
David said the main appeal of the musical was the fact it was inspired by true events.
“The show is based on real people and a real situation with themes that are relatable to everyone,” he said.
“The music used is country rock, which is both unusual and appealing for a musical.”
Both involved in theatre for more than 30 years, David and Jane have directed several musicals together including Kinky Boots, The Wedding Singer, The SpongeBob Musical and I Love You, You're Perfect, Now Change.
Jane said Hands on a Hardbody appealed because she loved ensemble shows.
“It means all the cast get a chance to shine,” she said. “While each person comes to the competition with their own reasons in this story, there is a camaraderie between the contestants.
“They share an often-gruelling task of standing in the heat and going without sleep for up to four days.
“The people are real and the songs are inspirational, sad and silly, meaning the show will take you on a real rollercoaster of emotions.”
One of the main challenges, according to David, is the car.
“We need to create movement within a show that must have the characters with their hands on the car,” he said.
“And we need to create a car that is described in the synopsis as a character, not just a prop.”
Hands on a Hardbody plays at 7.30pm June 27, 28, 29, July 4, 5, 6, 11, 12 and 13 with a 2pm matinee July 7. Tickets are $37, $32 concession – book at TAZTix.com.au/limelight or call TAZTix on 9255 3336.
Limelight Theatre is on Civic Drive, Wanneroo.
Breeahn Carter plays flirty restaurant hostess Heather, trying to win a car, in Hands on a Hardbody.

And oh my God, I am tearing my hair out at how bad it is.
Alia, shut the f- up and let me play the damn game and figure it out. I got on just fine in X, X2, X3 and X4 without a mile long lecture each time I unlock a damn Maverick power-up.
The time limit in the game is actual BS. I was fine with it being 16 hours, because that meant I can visit each stage once, beat the Mavericks there and revisit each stage with the power-ups to collect all the collectibles…Until that asshole Dynamo showed up and forced me to use an hour, which means I’ll not have enough time to collect all the power-ups unless I go online and collect all the power-ups in one stage. And that’s not including any future setbacks.
And Volt Kraken…Ohhhhhhhhhh! Volt Kraken has got to be the most shittiest stage I’ve ever played across all the Mega Man games. I was already a hater of Jet Stingray from X4 and Frost Man from 8 for having the infuriating motorcycle segments, but Volt Kraken takes it to a new level of frustration. (Ready? Die! Ready?) And that’s not even the end of the stage! Then you have to unlock gates by hitting the keys over and over again and when there’s two, you have to hit both at the same time. And that segment with the electric barrier is so damn annoying! And if you die at the next parts, you get sent all the way back there. You know it’s bad when I had some R&R fighting Volt Kraken himself. Usually the boss is the most challenging part, but not this time!
Those who defend X5 with a burning passion, your time has come. Please sell me on playing this game more, because I’ve only gotten my third power-up and already think it’s the crappiest Mega Man so far.
Edit: Also, wtf Tidal Whale, using Bubble Crab’s theme?! The music was one of the things I love about all Mega Man games, but reusing old Mega Man themes is unacceptable.

On the one hand i love Radiohead and their music means a LOT to me. But especially because of the current situation of the Palestine-Israel conflict, i feel terrible supporting artists that are very likely to be Zionists. Thom means a lot to me, Johnny does aswell, and im not sure as of what Tom has said about this, but Johnny touring in Israel is a VERY big let down for me. Im bad at seperating art from the artist, and it feels especially weird for me with Radiohead, since they mean so much to me.