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2024.05.20 05:14 Many-Carry-4536 Infuriating Richard Heart Tweets
1 year of Pulsechain.
Every day, a sea of red.
All the Pulsechain native tokens are down massively, with a horrible-looking chart.
We've stooped so low as to create a button that shows you the percentage gain from the ATL, like it's any sort of relevant metric.
No bridged-in tokens are even close to forming price parity.
Diamond handing for three years since eHex's ATH.
And what is our reward? RH tweets continually about some law or security that nobody cares or reads about, and he always finishes it off by saying, "Pulsechain solves this.".
Well, Richard, how about solving the hundreds of thousands of wallets that are getting thinner everyday?
Quoting from the man himself, "All that people care about is price." Which is funny considering he's also quoted saying, "You are the chain; go make it great.".
submitted by Many-Carry-4536 to Pulsechain [link] [comments]
Every day, a sea of red.
All the Pulsechain native tokens are down massively, with a horrible-looking chart.
We've stooped so low as to create a button that shows you the percentage gain from the ATL, like it's any sort of relevant metric.
No bridged-in tokens are even close to forming price parity.
Diamond handing for three years since eHex's ATH.
And what is our reward? RH tweets continually about some law or security that nobody cares or reads about, and he always finishes it off by saying, "Pulsechain solves this.".
Well, Richard, how about solving the hundreds of thousands of wallets that are getting thinner everyday?
Quoting from the man himself, "All that people care about is price." Which is funny considering he's also quoted saying, "You are the chain; go make it great.".
2024.05.20 05:12 ChipmunkGreen6081 Will the order fill or do I have it too low ?
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2024.05.20 05:07 Economy-Cash-2961 tf is stickeys?
Hello everyone in this sub, those who are waiting for their pre-orders and refunds, and those who still believe our beloved Stickeys.
I am sorry to say but this guy doesn't deserve anyone's trust anymore, even after being banned in IMKC and bashed on reddit sub, he still hasn't learnt his lesson, although making some claims like he doesn't need IMKC nor Reddit to do his business, this is clearly not the case, I am going to list all the recent things that they have done which have put an everlasting effect on this community. I will be providing the full context to everything so that he doesn't take anything out of this and post it on his server and plays the victim card by stating this is "Pure BS", whether it be against him or not.
Put the least amount of effort in template, copying esckey's theme and using a premium canvas logo
All items on this "new vendor's" site are all from stickeys' coming soon notion page (https://stickeys.notion.site/Keyboards-4bcdb8e7d65c49438ee183972d79fb9c), down to every single switch except for Lucky65 and KeyTok keycaps
Both business and their warehouses are in or near Gurugram with their offices and warehouses being only a few kilometers apart, I do not know the specifics of the way they were trying to make this business plan work but you can make a pretty good guess.
Domain was created on 5th of May, 4 days after his ban on IMKC.
Lastly this account creation email that desktoy sends will clear all your doubts if you are still having any (Read bottom line in the picture).
Imgur link with sources : https://imgur.com/a/I9WKBI1
Also claiming to have Paid Rs.65000 custom duties by declaring Neo70 as a personal package to get the shipment early because he cares so much about the customers, while it wasn't even ordered and paid for, I sadly do not have the screenshots of old vendor statuses from QK's vendor status page for Neo80 and Neo70, but there should be enough people who can confirm if you all still feel the need to check my sources that they had not paid for Neo70 nor Neo80 up until the announcement on 6th of May where he said that he has paid for orders.
Questions for status of all QK boards (Neo80, Neo70, QK100, QK75n) were all met with the same responses
"In customs" "In transit"
He did provide refunds for most of these boards after being found out, no refunds for neo70 were sent out afaik, but I could be wrong, this could be because of the above claim, QK100 and QK75n are still not paid for, although according to him since most of the pre-orders were refunded, they are not liable for that anymore, however they are still trying to keep customers by claiming that QK100 and QK75n both will be instock later this month.
But tell me, is holding onto people's funds for <4-5 months , providing them with false updates, thereafter claiming that you did lie to them due to a BS reason, and still acting like you are doing them a favour by refunding just because you are going against the store policies ethical? I do not think so.
After that he also went on a rant that QK is doing a bad thing for their business by sharing B2B order statuses which is good for the customers but bad for other business? Hello? I thought you were a vendor that put customers above all else? Or was that all a lie once again?
Imgur link with sources : https://imgur.com/a/qwertykeys-4r1cg06
QK vendor status sheet : https://qwertykeys.notion.site/Vendor-s-Order-Status-e8d312367c84464fa191a34ec6e2a05b
I know how annoying it can get to answer the same question every single time every day, but still, It's a business, you are calling people stupid fucks and all co-vendors idiots publicly, not to mention other things that have been posted on this server before ], "you say crap, you will get crap" this ideology has ruined your reputation and rightfully so, It's a public server, what you say to those customers is visible to everyone in that server, do you think it has no effect on others?
You refuse to take criticism and keep making excuses for every complain thrown at you, whether it be arguing with the customer that they aren't supposed to complain because you did them a favor, make personal remarks towards you and nit-picking every small thing that you can to shut the other party up and sometimes even straight up banning them because why not? It's your server, you can say whatever you want, and of course won't tolerate any negative remarks.
"I have told you a 1000 times that I have shipped all the boards, now if you want to trust whatever x courier is showing you then that is your problem", yes brother, we will totally trust every word you said after you accepted lying to avoid people raising concerns about where there board/item is and not trust the tracking status, for sure.
The people who after all this are still somehow being fooled by him continue to think that "pre orders take time, its normal, other people just don't have patience", I'm sorry to say you are being absolutely delusional, the guy might not be lying about the item that you have pre-ordered, he might even deliver it one day or you have already received it or might give you a refund, but personally I wouldn't defend or keep my trust in someone who has lied to the members of this community and to his own customers time and time again.
They started out as a really good vendor who promised to bring budget stuff to the market, and up until very recently they were doing decent (there were still a lot of reddit posts back then regarding their communication issues), they have delivered pre-orders before, and yes having an offline store does help in this case, he's not a scammer, he is not going to run away with your money, probably.
He does own a few restaurants and might even be backed by investors as he claims to so there should be no lack of funds and is not going to go bankrupt, again, apparently.
Mental Health issues are another matter, I do not want to believe that he is lying about his health to only use it as an excuse, everyone has their struggles but how you handle them is the most important part, you clearly didn't do that part well and tried to hide behind them to cover up your lousy mistakes, on the other hand it is not right to call someone way past midnight, and definitely not abuse their family members whatever might be the case, it will do nothing good to either parties, rather take legal route than exchanging abuses over calls or messages.
Stickeys is also on amazon, they will always have that offline store, they will keep bringing stuff that is enticing, but people who are already here and those who will be reading this when they are searching for "Is stickeys reliable" on google or reddit, read all of the posts that are against them or in favour and think thrice before ordering.
Now to quote our favourite vendor,
ThockOn!
submitted by Economy-Cash-2961 to mkindia [link] [comments]
I am sorry to say but this guy doesn't deserve anyone's trust anymore, even after being banned in IMKC and bashed on reddit sub, he still hasn't learnt his lesson, although making some claims like he doesn't need IMKC nor Reddit to do his business, this is clearly not the case, I am going to list all the recent things that they have done which have put an everlasting effect on this community. I will be providing the full context to everything so that he doesn't take anything out of this and post it on his server and plays the victim card by stating this is "Pure BS", whether it be against him or not.
- Desktoy.in (UB asli account se aao)
Put the least amount of effort in template, copying esckey's theme and using a premium canvas logo
All items on this "new vendor's" site are all from stickeys' coming soon notion page (https://stickeys.notion.site/Keyboards-4bcdb8e7d65c49438ee183972d79fb9c), down to every single switch except for Lucky65 and KeyTok keycaps
Both business and their warehouses are in or near Gurugram with their offices and warehouses being only a few kilometers apart, I do not know the specifics of the way they were trying to make this business plan work but you can make a pretty good guess.
Domain was created on 5th of May, 4 days after his ban on IMKC.
Lastly this account creation email that desktoy sends will clear all your doubts if you are still having any (Read bottom line in the picture).
Imgur link with sources : https://imgur.com/a/I9WKBI1
- QwertyKeys (Stuck at customs, i paid 65000 :c)
Also claiming to have Paid Rs.65000 custom duties by declaring Neo70 as a personal package to get the shipment early because he cares so much about the customers, while it wasn't even ordered and paid for, I sadly do not have the screenshots of old vendor statuses from QK's vendor status page for Neo80 and Neo70, but there should be enough people who can confirm if you all still feel the need to check my sources that they had not paid for Neo70 nor Neo80 up until the announcement on 6th of May where he said that he has paid for orders.
Questions for status of all QK boards (Neo80, Neo70, QK100, QK75n) were all met with the same responses
"In customs" "In transit"
He did provide refunds for most of these boards after being found out, no refunds for neo70 were sent out afaik, but I could be wrong, this could be because of the above claim, QK100 and QK75n are still not paid for, although according to him since most of the pre-orders were refunded, they are not liable for that anymore, however they are still trying to keep customers by claiming that QK100 and QK75n both will be instock later this month.
But tell me, is holding onto people's funds for <4-5 months , providing them with false updates, thereafter claiming that you did lie to them due to a BS reason, and still acting like you are doing them a favour by refunding just because you are going against the store policies ethical? I do not think so.
After that he also went on a rant that QK is doing a bad thing for their business by sharing B2B order statuses which is good for the customers but bad for other business? Hello? I thought you were a vendor that put customers above all else? Or was that all a lie once again?
Imgur link with sources : https://imgur.com/a/qwertykeys-4r1cg06
QK vendor status sheet : https://qwertykeys.notion.site/Vendor-s-Order-Status-e8d312367c84464fa191a34ec6e2a05b
- Top tier customer service (its my server, meri marzi)
I know how annoying it can get to answer the same question every single time every day, but still, It's a business, you are calling people stupid fucks and all co-vendors idiots publicly, not to mention other things that have been posted on this server before ], "you say crap, you will get crap" this ideology has ruined your reputation and rightfully so, It's a public server, what you say to those customers is visible to everyone in that server, do you think it has no effect on others?
You refuse to take criticism and keep making excuses for every complain thrown at you, whether it be arguing with the customer that they aren't supposed to complain because you did them a favor, make personal remarks towards you and nit-picking every small thing that you can to shut the other party up and sometimes even straight up banning them because why not? It's your server, you can say whatever you want, and of course won't tolerate any negative remarks.
"I have told you a 1000 times that I have shipped all the boards, now if you want to trust whatever x courier is showing you then that is your problem", yes brother, we will totally trust every word you said after you accepted lying to avoid people raising concerns about where there board/item is and not trust the tracking status, for sure.
The people who after all this are still somehow being fooled by him continue to think that "pre orders take time, its normal, other people just don't have patience", I'm sorry to say you are being absolutely delusional, the guy might not be lying about the item that you have pre-ordered, he might even deliver it one day or you have already received it or might give you a refund, but personally I wouldn't defend or keep my trust in someone who has lied to the members of this community and to his own customers time and time again.
- Thora Taras
They started out as a really good vendor who promised to bring budget stuff to the market, and up until very recently they were doing decent (there were still a lot of reddit posts back then regarding their communication issues), they have delivered pre-orders before, and yes having an offline store does help in this case, he's not a scammer, he is not going to run away with your money, probably.
He does own a few restaurants and might even be backed by investors as he claims to so there should be no lack of funds and is not going to go bankrupt, again, apparently.
Mental Health issues are another matter, I do not want to believe that he is lying about his health to only use it as an excuse, everyone has their struggles but how you handle them is the most important part, you clearly didn't do that part well and tried to hide behind them to cover up your lousy mistakes, on the other hand it is not right to call someone way past midnight, and definitely not abuse their family members whatever might be the case, it will do nothing good to either parties, rather take legal route than exchanging abuses over calls or messages.
Stickeys is also on amazon, they will always have that offline store, they will keep bringing stuff that is enticing, but people who are already here and those who will be reading this when they are searching for "Is stickeys reliable" on google or reddit, read all of the posts that are against them or in favour and think thrice before ordering.
Now to quote our favourite vendor,
ThockOn!
2024.05.20 05:01 JayBbaked Let go of my purse!!
 | My wife got me this bad boy for my birthday(they made to order) so took a few months, BUT she knew how funny I think this show is and she knows it’s one of my most favorite quotes, they so happen to make a crossbody backpack 🫶🫶 I love it so much! I thought people will appreciate it here as well submitted by JayBbaked to KingOfTheHill [link] [comments] |
2024.05.20 04:18 ChipmunkGreen6081 *HELP*I’m a newbie to fast moving stocks and I’m wondering ..If I have a limit order to buy #FFIE at the price 1.13(where it sits at this very moment)will it execute at 1.13 first thing tomorrow morning(4:00 a.m)for me?Or do I need to set my limit buy order higher around 1.20 for it to fill?
 | If I have a limit order to buy #FFIE at the price 1.13 ( where it sits at this very moment) will it execute at 1.13 first thing tomorrow morning (4:00 a.m) for me ? submitted by ChipmunkGreen6081 to FFIE [link] [comments] |
2024.05.20 04:15 Killy728 Did the DSi Capture Card End with Katsukity?
 | Preface: submitted by Killy728 to nds [link] [comments] This is an essay, of sorts, compiling all of the information about the Dsi Capture Card that I could find. Information may be missing or inaccurate, but what I present is my current understanding of the project. I have an interest in reviving the concept and properly archiving every step of the process so that anyone can make a Dsi capture system. Though I didn't succeed in making the project available for people to purchase, I do hope this is a step in the right direction. I’ll start the story and go into as much of the technical side as I can manage. If you wish to skip the story, head to the “Technical” section. =====Story====Introduction:Is there a practical reason to have a Dsi capture card when the Original DS and the New 3DS/2DS family of systems can do everything the Dsi can do and more? No, no there isn’t. For someone like myself who adores the Dsi platform, the idea and novelty of a Dsi capture card is of great interest to me. From what I can find, the Dsi Capture card has been lost to time. Thanks to the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, what was once lost can hopefully be found. Body: Kastuskity was the sole provider of Dsi Capture systems and far as I could tell, one of the major players in the DS/3DS capture card providers and installers in the mid 2010s. That was, up until September 13th, 2016, when the Dsi Capture systems were removed from Katsukity’s shop. I was unable to find a direct reason as to why the sale stopped, but a quote from the Nisetoro Wiki suggested difficulty as over 40 cables were needed. On the store page, you can see how a custom bottom shell was needed in order to house that capture unit. https://preview.redd.it/0kb4jtc7ph1d1.jpg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8b2c76bf6e0efc230a8940bd9350d79160cc74e6 That, and I’d assume a lack of of sales due to the prevalence of 3DS capture systems must have lead to that product being phased out. This is just my best guess based on nothing On February 2nd, 2019, Twitter (X) user . https://preview.redd.it/xj3cgsnaph1d1.jpg?width=583&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2dd19dba447b7636c0ca0d817d4f401e10a4e331 Their Twitter (X) has been inactive since July of 2018, their YouTube has been inactive since June of 2018, and their website and blog have all been shuttered ( I won't hyperlink these two as one redirects to a scam). Their Facebook Page also seems to have the same fate, but I cannot confirm that. From my current understanding, Katsukity has disappeared from the internet and took whatever knowledge and software with them. Katsukity’s partner in Europe, Stefan Merki and American Inventor Neal Tew (Loopy) appear to still manufacture, install, and sell capture cards on their website, but only for the Classic DS and New 3DS/2DS. As of the writing of this post, Merki is still active on the website’s Discord Page (see their website for the invite link) and Loopy is active on their forum It is on Merki’s Discord Server that I was able to receive a lot of information regarding the Dsi Capture System and its development. The most important, being, a video posted to Nicovideo by the user ピピン (Pippin). This video, dating back to May 21st, 2010, shows the process of making a Nisetoro Capture card for the Dsi and its success (The videos loaded better for me on Firefox). https://preview.redd.it/o3418l1dph1d1.jpg?width=300&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d22aa2f7b0c5de0dba22b81110152c4254d0d3dd https://preview.redd.it/3rjlvbxdph1d1.jpg?width=740&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=344b7b49af665836dfc1f621e94288e46d18380d Their blog, which can only be accessed through Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, has their blog posts of the project as well as a ZIP containing the pinout for the Chameleon USB and various pieces of software (For lack of a better term for .svf, .dpf, .pin, .pof, .qpf,.qsf and .v files) From here, I’ll go into the technical side of this. ====Technical====~(((((From here, I have to stick a disclaimer. As much as it pains me to say, anything involving Circuit Boards and programming is well beyond my understanding. I will continue with any and all information that I have pointing to the components and software used for the project, but I will not pretend to understand any of it. Forgive my ignorance in advance. )))))~In Pippin’s video, all of the test pins tapped and attached to a Chameleon USB were listed on their blog. https://preview.redd.it/4qb47xqiph1d1.jpg?width=756&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3d555543575d1397bd1f3bb7f3251d2ef8fd5e9b There, with the pinout sheet is a ZIP file containing various pieces of software (more on that later). I have the Pinout Sheet below in English. https://preview.redd.it/ispt1t0lph1d1.png?width=368&format=png&auto=webp&s=c40bc7cea87f7f61aa3a839bf9909e8dba77a173 Katsuity’s store page for the Dsi capture kits also mentions a Chameleon USB FX 2. https://preview.redd.it/wab7d5nmph1d1.jpg?width=690&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8652968ff3d03da7ae9a2b9182e062ffd7dbfe66 On the Fake TroCaptcha website, the process for creating a capture card for the Original DS was explained further. I can only vaguely see the images of the Chameleon board that Pippin has in their blog, but as far as I can tell, it is the same board. https://preview.redd.it/52s3rk6oph1d1.jpg?width=2592&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=35451424c69eb18216f4a5e413534e2a4d333220 https://preview.redd.it/olavcqcpph1d1.jpg?width=2592&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1e6269f3905fb5936265eb4cadcd2e11e485710a Following the link on the board to this website with the Chameleon USB FX2 featured prominently /)as a “Hot” item. When searching their shop, which is local only as far as I can tell, the Chameleon USB FX2 MiniB Kit is out of stock and appears to have been discontinued in 2019 (If it means anything, that board version was V1.2 instead of V1.1, so even if it was available, I do not know if that’d cause issues). https://preview.redd.it/kyhet19rph1d1.jpg?width=1320&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b9b15fb0f9d749e3ce5c17599475797713d4028a Searching Google for the Chameleon brings up an OSHPark shared fine of a Chameleon USB FX2 by user splash5. Though this board appears to use the same chips, it's circuit layout and components looks entirely different than the one Pippin used and the one on the “How to make a Fake tro capture” page. I really cannot wrap my brain around trying to follow traces to see if this would work, but given the amount of components on this board vs the one for the DSi Capture Card, I imagine i'd have to spend time bridging traces where components went. https://preview.redd.it/a635h3csph1d1.png?width=2460&format=png&auto=webp&s=a1f40410a57ef22c9d0b9a0d855e30306a5ff139 https://preview.redd.it/wxn68itsph1d1.png?width=2460&format=png&auto=webp&s=baa0cd3255a3728f2c3fa7f43508a84ae6219fe0 Going through splash5’s Github page, it would seem they are implementing a Chameleon for game capture on the Wonderswan. That is the first major hurdle. Where can I get a comparable board? Does the Chameleon USB FX2 need to be recreated from the images in these forums? For the software side, it is my understanding that Pippin already provided it within the ZIP. In the description of their video, they say that the software is the same as the Original DS. This is, of course, assuming that the software is the same as the one used back in 2010. Recreating DSi capture system is well beyond my ability, I will be the first to say that. I do hope this information can help some who can revive this unique blip in DS console history. ====Resources and Additional Links==== Wayback machine last image of Katsukity’s sites:
====DSI XL Capture System====I have this pie-in-the-sky dream of assembling and using a DSi XL with a capture card in it, but what my research dug up was a need for commissioning people much smarter than I to create the capture board and injecting the code.That is simply something I can not do right now. For anyone who reads this, I do hope that this pinout I made is helpful. https://preview.redd.it/r94htkjwph1d1.jpg?width=518&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=13f53780f019cb237f84be6680a9d13d1a9d21a4 This is a pinout referencing the pinout from Pippin as well as the DSi XL test points on DSiBrew. I have to trust it is accurate as I do not know of a way to test it otherwise. Entries highlighted in Red have the same comment, but the numbering sequence suggests the order I put them is correct. Anyway, that is enough for me. (This post was intended for GBAtemp, but new people cannot post links sooo.... Here you go Reddit) |
2024.05.20 04:08 SwirlyManager-11 Pyrrha Redesign by me.
 | Text at top reads: Pyrrha Nikos the Great-Hearted (Grammar is dubious). submitted by SwirlyManager-11 to RWBY [link] [comments] I wanted to lean into both the Greek Aspect of Pyrrha’s Fairytale Inspiration a little more than her current (and sadly, only) design. I kept/integrated many aspects of her original design as I could’ve. Practicality and “sense” was a the primary focus besides the focus on the “Hellenic-ness”. Otherwise, there is no color because I’m bad at coloring lol. Her color palette shouldn’t be any different than her original appearance. I based her redesigned shield around the Boeotian Type Shield because of Akoúo’s design already resembling a Boeotian Shield. The front is decorated in her Crest as well as Fall Leaves (why? Because they look cool lol). The backside is standard with a fur lining on the arm-grip for physical comfort as well as inspirational Jaune Quotes for Mental Comfort. Milo (or in this case, Miláo) was fairly complicated. The “Spear” form of Milo, I gave fins for aerodynamics… so it can be like a big dart when launched. They collapse around the Magazine when transformed into gun or the short spear. Milo’s shorter form didn’t look like a Xiphos to me. It reminded me more of earlier Mycenaean short swords, so I didn’t call my redesign’s Milo as having a Xiphos form, instead calling it a Short Spear. The rifle form is funny to me. The Tip of the spear is the stock, so when it came to transformations, the Blade would have to become the Stock. Simple. But the Stock itself would be flimsier and less solid because it’s made of the spear tip. I also imagined a potential hazard in having the spear tip as the stock so I imagined my Pyrrha to stick a Recoil Pad on the end to physically protect her shoulder from being cut off. Also, to make the whole thing smoother, I cannot make the Rifle Magazine size higher than 4. Therefore, my Redesign can only have 5 shots to use at max. 4 in mag, 1 in chamber. This is mostly practice for me as I am trying to “animate” the poses of my drawings more. Critique Me! Have at thee! |
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2024.05.20 03:43 ThrowawayJ421 AITAH for telling my wife that I'm having trouble climaxing since she gave birth to our son?
Throwaway account and fake names for obvious reasons.
For some background, my wife Jane (24F) and I (26M) have been together for seven years. Her brother Jack was one of my good friends in school, and honestly I thought she was both hot and funny for several years before I finally worked up the courage to ask her out. I'm still in disbelief that she agreed, since I was definitely not the most attractive or most outgoing member of the friend group that she occasionally joined her brother to hang out with. Many a dumb, teenaged comment were made about how Jack's sister was hot, charming, etc. Jack always told us to knock it off, and ask her out if we had the balls. Well, turns out I was the first one the grow a pair, somehow.
And that sort of brings us to the problem. Three months ago, Jane gave birth to our son Jacob. We've been married for three years, and had decided that we wanted kids soon after the wedding. We waited a bit to improve our financial situation, which is now fairly secure. I am a civil engineer, and my salary has increased the point that Jane didn't have to worry about not being able to work for a while to both physically recover from the pregnancy, and focus on raising our son for a while. I don't at all mind her being a SAHM, and I make sure to clean up after myself at home so I'm not just offloading a bunch of chores onto her.
Overall, things are going pretty great. Jacob is healthy (and has a strong set of lungs), all the bills are paid, and Jane and I are both happy with our careers/roles. However, things hit a snag a month ago when Jane indicated that she felt recovered enough to resume having sex again, should I want. Our sex life has always been quite active, and I'll admit, not being able to be intimate with my wife for many months straight sucked, both physically and emotionally. However, I know that her physical condition was a lot more strenuous than mine, so I took care of myself in private and didn't say anything. However, I was quite happy to hear that Jane was feeling better, and that taking care of Jacob hadn't sapped all of her energy.
We had sex for the first time in five months, and immediately I noticed that things weren't quite as "snug" as they used to be. I'm pretty much exactly the average below the belt, and we had never had any problems with satisfying each other before, and I guess I wasn't expecting the difference to be as noticeable as it was. However, due to the fact that this was the first time I'd gotten more than a handjob in almost half a year, I didn't take significantly longer to finish than I normally would. Because of this, I didn't say anything about the difference in sensation, because even thinking about made me feel like an asshole. She'd pushed my son's entire body out of her, so complaining about how it felt to me seemed selfish.
However, the next time we had sex, it took me longer to finish than it did before the pregnancy. The difference was enough that Jane noticed it, and was subtly telling me to hurry up by the end, since she'd already finished and was ready to be done. When it took the same longer-than-normal time after that, she asked me if there was a reason why I couldn't seem to cross the finish line as quickly. I tried to tell her that it was just nerves, I was tired, etc, but she saw through that. She pushed, and I didn't want to lie to her. I told her that it "wasn't quite as taut as it used to be," my exact words.
She immediately became angry with me, saying that it was gross that I thinking about how she'd become looser after giving birth. Of course it wasn't going to be the same, she'd pushed out something way wider than my dick, etc. She said that it was extremely hurtful that I thought less of her based on her tightness, even though I never said that. She asked why it was taking me longer to finish than it took me before, and I answered with the words quoted above. I never said that was all I was thinking about, or that I thought less of her for it.
If anything, I love her more after having our son, because I saw first hand how much pregnancy fucking sucks and how she soldiered through with my help. She is the love of my life, and it felt terrible to be accused of only caring about how tight she was. I reminded her that I had initiated sex two out of the three times we'd had it after the pregnancy, so why would I do that if I was unsatisfied with her? It wasn't like I was unable to finish at all, it was just taking me longer to do so. I tried to sit down and talk with her the next day after she'd cooled off, but when I brought it up she just became angry again and refused to discuss it.
Needless to say, I haven't tried anything remotely sexual since this fight a week ago. She always kisses me on the cheek when I leave for work, but since our argument even that gesture has felt less enthusiastic, like she's only doing it because she's always done it and doesn't want to start another fight. I pray that she doesn't feel that way about sex too, but I don't know at this point.
TL;DR: Had sex with my wife for the first time after she gave birth. She noticed I was taking longer to finish and confronted me. I said that it was because it "wasn't quite as taut as it used to be," and she became angry and is refusing to discuss the subject with me.
AITAH?
EDIT: I have been receiving lots of a feedback, much of it saying that I have no understanding of anatomy and must be faking or imagining my observations. However, some commenters pointed out that the problem may be strained and/or damaged pelvic muscles, which would explain what I have noticed and angered my wife by admitting to. I did a bit of (admittedly brief; this post has only been up for a couple of hours) and found that pelvic muscle issues seem to be common after childbirth, something that I was entirely unaware of.
To clear things up, my formal sex education at school consisted of diagrams giving scientific names for all the bits and pieces, a one-sentence overview of what each part does, and a warning to use protection if/when we have sex. The mechanics of birth and what comes after were not explained beyond "The baby exits through the vagina." Clearly I should have looked into further along with my wife before she actually gave birth, but it is too late to go back now. I am going to try talking to my wife and showing her the sources I've linked below talking about what the problem might be, how it can be improved, and above all else, tell her that I still very much find her attractive and sexually fulfilling, and that I'm sorry for making it sound otherwise.
https://www.nct.org.uk/labour-birth/you-after-birth/your-vagina-and-pelvic-floor-after-giving-birth
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8766263/#:~:text=Vaginal%20laxity%20(VL)%20is%20a,descend%20from%20the%20normal%20position.%20is%20a,descend%20from%20the%20normal%20position.)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3279110/
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For some background, my wife Jane (24F) and I (26M) have been together for seven years. Her brother Jack was one of my good friends in school, and honestly I thought she was both hot and funny for several years before I finally worked up the courage to ask her out. I'm still in disbelief that she agreed, since I was definitely not the most attractive or most outgoing member of the friend group that she occasionally joined her brother to hang out with. Many a dumb, teenaged comment were made about how Jack's sister was hot, charming, etc. Jack always told us to knock it off, and ask her out if we had the balls. Well, turns out I was the first one the grow a pair, somehow.
And that sort of brings us to the problem. Three months ago, Jane gave birth to our son Jacob. We've been married for three years, and had decided that we wanted kids soon after the wedding. We waited a bit to improve our financial situation, which is now fairly secure. I am a civil engineer, and my salary has increased the point that Jane didn't have to worry about not being able to work for a while to both physically recover from the pregnancy, and focus on raising our son for a while. I don't at all mind her being a SAHM, and I make sure to clean up after myself at home so I'm not just offloading a bunch of chores onto her.
Overall, things are going pretty great. Jacob is healthy (and has a strong set of lungs), all the bills are paid, and Jane and I are both happy with our careers/roles. However, things hit a snag a month ago when Jane indicated that she felt recovered enough to resume having sex again, should I want. Our sex life has always been quite active, and I'll admit, not being able to be intimate with my wife for many months straight sucked, both physically and emotionally. However, I know that her physical condition was a lot more strenuous than mine, so I took care of myself in private and didn't say anything. However, I was quite happy to hear that Jane was feeling better, and that taking care of Jacob hadn't sapped all of her energy.
We had sex for the first time in five months, and immediately I noticed that things weren't quite as "snug" as they used to be. I'm pretty much exactly the average below the belt, and we had never had any problems with satisfying each other before, and I guess I wasn't expecting the difference to be as noticeable as it was. However, due to the fact that this was the first time I'd gotten more than a handjob in almost half a year, I didn't take significantly longer to finish than I normally would. Because of this, I didn't say anything about the difference in sensation, because even thinking about made me feel like an asshole. She'd pushed my son's entire body out of her, so complaining about how it felt to me seemed selfish.
However, the next time we had sex, it took me longer to finish than it did before the pregnancy. The difference was enough that Jane noticed it, and was subtly telling me to hurry up by the end, since she'd already finished and was ready to be done. When it took the same longer-than-normal time after that, she asked me if there was a reason why I couldn't seem to cross the finish line as quickly. I tried to tell her that it was just nerves, I was tired, etc, but she saw through that. She pushed, and I didn't want to lie to her. I told her that it "wasn't quite as taut as it used to be," my exact words.
She immediately became angry with me, saying that it was gross that I thinking about how she'd become looser after giving birth. Of course it wasn't going to be the same, she'd pushed out something way wider than my dick, etc. She said that it was extremely hurtful that I thought less of her based on her tightness, even though I never said that. She asked why it was taking me longer to finish than it took me before, and I answered with the words quoted above. I never said that was all I was thinking about, or that I thought less of her for it.
If anything, I love her more after having our son, because I saw first hand how much pregnancy fucking sucks and how she soldiered through with my help. She is the love of my life, and it felt terrible to be accused of only caring about how tight she was. I reminded her that I had initiated sex two out of the three times we'd had it after the pregnancy, so why would I do that if I was unsatisfied with her? It wasn't like I was unable to finish at all, it was just taking me longer to do so. I tried to sit down and talk with her the next day after she'd cooled off, but when I brought it up she just became angry again and refused to discuss it.
Needless to say, I haven't tried anything remotely sexual since this fight a week ago. She always kisses me on the cheek when I leave for work, but since our argument even that gesture has felt less enthusiastic, like she's only doing it because she's always done it and doesn't want to start another fight. I pray that she doesn't feel that way about sex too, but I don't know at this point.
TL;DR: Had sex with my wife for the first time after she gave birth. She noticed I was taking longer to finish and confronted me. I said that it was because it "wasn't quite as taut as it used to be," and she became angry and is refusing to discuss the subject with me.
AITAH?
EDIT: I have been receiving lots of a feedback, much of it saying that I have no understanding of anatomy and must be faking or imagining my observations. However, some commenters pointed out that the problem may be strained and/or damaged pelvic muscles, which would explain what I have noticed and angered my wife by admitting to. I did a bit of (admittedly brief; this post has only been up for a couple of hours) and found that pelvic muscle issues seem to be common after childbirth, something that I was entirely unaware of.
To clear things up, my formal sex education at school consisted of diagrams giving scientific names for all the bits and pieces, a one-sentence overview of what each part does, and a warning to use protection if/when we have sex. The mechanics of birth and what comes after were not explained beyond "The baby exits through the vagina." Clearly I should have looked into further along with my wife before she actually gave birth, but it is too late to go back now. I am going to try talking to my wife and showing her the sources I've linked below talking about what the problem might be, how it can be improved, and above all else, tell her that I still very much find her attractive and sexually fulfilling, and that I'm sorry for making it sound otherwise.
https://www.nct.org.uk/labour-birth/you-after-birth/your-vagina-and-pelvic-floor-after-giving-birth
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8766263/#:~:text=Vaginal%20laxity%20(VL)%20is%20a,descend%20from%20the%20normal%20position.%20is%20a,descend%20from%20the%20normal%20position.)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3279110/
2024.05.20 02:53 Amanda39 [Discussion] Armadale by Wilkie Collins Victorian Lady Detective Squad Readalong Book 4 Chapter 3 - End
Welcome back once more, for our final discussion of Armadale. I apologize again for the discussion being late. Last week, my excuse was that I had to spend time with my sister's family, including a labradoodle. This week, I am dog-sitting my mother's beagle, who has separation anxiety and gas. I am horribly sleep-deprived because this dog insists on sleeping next to my bed every night, snoring loudly and farting. Speaking of people breathing in poison in their sleep, let's get to the recap:
Allan has just set off for the Adriatic, with his cash converted to gold, obviously the result of Manuel's suggestions. Lydia and Ozias have been transferred to Turin by Ozias's employer, and Lydia pretends to have gotten a letter from her mother, asking her to come home, so she has an excuse to go back to London. Once there, she checks the newspaper for any articles or obituaries indicating that Allan has died. She also finds Mother Oldershaw's new address, but decides not to visit her.
After a few days, she finally gets the news she's been hoping for. Allan's yacht sunk off the southern coast of Italy, and everyone on board perished. Her next step is to write to Bashwood:
My dearest Bashwood,
I desire you... I mean, I desire to *meet with you... to apologize for my previous behavior towards you. I have foolishly made the mistake of marrying an immature child. If only I had married a real man (realness not necessarily extending to his teeth and hair)!*
Please, do not show this letter to anyone. Let us meet clandestinely.
Sincerely,
Lydia Armadale (note the last name)
Lydia then considers the marriage certificate, and realizes a glaring flaw in her plan: Ozias's handwriting looks nothing like Allan's. In a panic, she decides that her only option is to get advice from Mother Oldershaw. Unfortunately, Mother Oldershaw appears to have found God, and no longer wants anything to do with Lydia's plans. (Of course, she refuses to give Lydia the signed paper that she was going to use to extort money from Lydia if her plans succeeded.)
While leaving Oldershaw's, Lydia runs into Dr. Downward... excuse me, Dr. Le Doux, totally legitimate sanitarium owner. She realizes that he may be able to advise her, and asks to meet him later at the sanitarium. The sanitarium is basically what you'd expect a 19th-century sanitarium to be: creepy old house with shelves containing jars of preserved "creatures," a "galvanic apparatus" for providing electric shocks, etc. No patients yet, though.
Lydia tells the doctor her story, leaving out the worst details (he doesn't know that she's the reason the yacht sunk, or that her husband goes by the fake name "Ozias Midwinter"). Downward agrees to assist her by claiming to be a witness to the marriage... for a fee of six hundred pounds. Lydia agrees, and he assists her in sending a letter to Thorpe Ambrose, claiming to be Allan's widow.
The next day, Lydia gets a visit from Bashwood, who delivers the news that Neelie is beside herself with grief, and Mr. Darch is handling the matter of the inheritance, which was going to go to Allan's cousin, before Lydia announced her claim.
Bashwood returns a few days later with a shocking letter from Yugoslavia: Allan is alive! This is where I'd normally try to write a funny version of the letter, but nothing I could possibly write would be funnier than the actual letter's opening line: "I have been the victim of a rascally attempt at robbery and murder." Yes, "rascally." Oh, Allan, never change. One of the would-be murderers took pity on Allan and didn't securely board up his cabin, so he was able to escape instead of sinking with the yacht.
Lydia turns to Downward for help.
Downward: What if we trap Allan in the sanitarium?
Lydia: And murder him?
Downward: WTF, no. We get him to agree to not press legal charges against us.
Lydia: And then we murder him?
Downward: I have so many regrets about teaming up with you
Lydia: How do we catch him?
Downward: You could get Bashwood to lurk around the train station and intercept him before anyone else sees him. Have him tell Allan that Miss Milroy was sent here because she was driven insane by her grief for him.
Lydia: Can we murder Allan and Miss Milroy?
Downward: I am running an unlicensed sanitarium under a false name, and even I think you're unhinged.
Lydia: Gwilty as charged
Downward: But wait, what if he doesn't agree immediately, and we have to keep him here for months? What if I have actual patients at the time, and they report us?
Lydia: What if...
Downward: ...please don't say "murder"
Lydia: ...what if he had an accident?
Downward: Oh. Well, if it was an "accident," that would be okay. I don't know how an accident could happen, though, if you aren't an inmate here.
Lydia: I'll think about it
Meanwhile, Bashwood keeps vigil at the train station, until one day he sees... Ozias, who is searching for Lydia because she's stopped writing to him. While they talk to each other, Bashwood can't contain his shock at hearing that Lydia is Ozias's wife, and accidentally calls her "Mrs. Armadale," which understandably makes Ozias suspicious, so he follows Bashwood to see where he goes, which of course leads him straight to Lydia. Lydia pretends she was never married to Ozias, and Ozias faints from the shock.
Lydia heads straight to the sanitarium, tells Downward she's going to be an inmate, and asks for a sleeping draught. Downward prepares the draught, but first places yellow liquid in a purple flask. He then informs Lydia of what he thinks they should say at the inquest after Allan dies: The two of them knew he hadn't drowned, but when he arrived in England, they decided to trap him in the sanitarium because, shortly after his marriage to Lydia, Allan had starting having a delusion that he was engaged to Neelie. Once in the sanitarium, Downward diagnosed Allan with an incurable and fatal brain ailment, and that's what killed him.
Downward has scheduled a "Visitors' Day" so that people will witness Lydia as an inmate in the asylum. The visitors are mostly women, because life as a woman in Victorian England was so boring, they had nothing better to do than go to sanitariums to gawk at the mentally ill people and see where they will eventually live when the hysteria finally drives them mad. (I am only barely paraphrasing. The actual quote is "In the miserable monotony of the lives led by a large section of the middle classes of England, anything is welcome to the women which offers them any sort of harmless refuge from the established tyranny of the principle that all human happiness begins and ends at home.")
Downward shows them around the sanitarium and explains how it will be run, including only allowing novels that make people feel comfortable. (I assumed this was an intentional satire of Wilkie's critics, and the notes in the Oxford World's Classics edition confirmed this.)
But then Downward gave a sales pitch that damn near sold me on his sanitarium. "I throw up impregnable moral intrenchments between Worry and You. ... Will ten minutes’ irritation from a barking dog or a screeching child undo every atom of good done to a nervous sufferer by a month’s medical treatment? There isn’t a competent doctor in England who will venture to deny it!" Considering I almost couldn't post last week's discussion because of a few hours' exposure to two loud children and a labradoodle, I'm about ready to self-diagnose with hysteria and deranged lunacy.
He also explains that while the bedrooms lack fireplaces, they're heated with hot water. This impressed me because I've read about Victorian insane asylums not having fireplaces in the bedrooms (since the inmates might burn themselves), but I always assumed this meant that the inmates were cold in the winter. But wait... the bedroom also has secret controls that let him open, close, and lock the window and door from the outside, and a vent that lets him pump gas into the room. Whaaat? I rescind my diagnosis of hysteria and deranged lunacy. I want nothing to do with this.
After the tour is finished, Downward demonstrates to Lydia how to prepare the poison, and then breaks the bottle so that his assistant (who doesn't know about the purple flask) will think there's no more of that chemical in the house.
Meanwhile, Ozias is stalking Bashwood at the train station. He thinks Lydia is cheating on him, and Bashwood is waiting for Lydia's lover. But then he sees Bashwood with Allan. After confronting the two of them, he learns Bashwood's story about having to take Allan to Neelie in the sanitarium. Realizing that Lydia is probably still behind Bashwood's actions, Ozias insists on going with the two of them. On arriving at the sanitarium, Allan is informed that Neelie cannot see him until the morning, but he and Ozias are welcome to spend the night: Allan in Room Four, and Ozias in Room Three.
Lydia sets Bashwood up to spy on Allan's door from a room with a grate in its door. She tells him to make sure Allan stays in his room all night. Later, watching from the grate, Bashwood observes Ozias leave his room and examine the fumigating apparatus connected to Allan's room. Then Ozias stuffs his handkerchief in the grate, blocking Bashwood's view, before going into Allan's room and convincing Allan to switch rooms with him.
Later that night, Lydia returns and asks Bashwood if anything happened. Too afraid to tell her about the handkerchief, he tells her nothing happened, and she dismisses him to bed. After almost convincing herself to not go through with it, she then starts the process of pouring the poison at five minute intervals. While waiting for one of the intervals to pass, she notices Ozias's handkerchief and realizes that Bashwood lied to her. She checks in Room Three, and finds Allan asleep where Ozias should be.
In a panic, Lydia rushes into Room Four and drags the unconscious Ozias out. She then continues to pour the poison, writes a last letter to Ozias, and locks herself in the room.
We end with an epilogue that rapidly ties up all the random loose ends. Lydia has been buried in a nearly unmarked grave. The doctor is apparently still running his sanitarium. Allan and Neelie will be married in the spring. Mrs. Milroy doesn't have much longer to live, but she's undergone a personality change for some reason and she and the Major are happy for once. Ozias is recovering and living with Allan. Mother Oldershaw is a religious speaker, apparently. Bashwood has gone insane. Manuel drowned.
But wait, one last thing: Wilkie has something to say to us. He wants us to know that he intended the dream to be left up to interpretation. Thanks for handing me a discussion question like that, Wilkie. He also shares a weird-ass story about how, after he'd finished the rough draft and while the story was in the middle of serialization, several people were poisoned in their sleep on a boat called The Armadale. Okay, Wilkie. Thank you for that incredibly weird anecdote.
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Allan has just set off for the Adriatic, with his cash converted to gold, obviously the result of Manuel's suggestions. Lydia and Ozias have been transferred to Turin by Ozias's employer, and Lydia pretends to have gotten a letter from her mother, asking her to come home, so she has an excuse to go back to London. Once there, she checks the newspaper for any articles or obituaries indicating that Allan has died. She also finds Mother Oldershaw's new address, but decides not to visit her.
After a few days, she finally gets the news she's been hoping for. Allan's yacht sunk off the southern coast of Italy, and everyone on board perished. Her next step is to write to Bashwood:
My dearest Bashwood,
I desire you... I mean, I desire to *meet with you... to apologize for my previous behavior towards you. I have foolishly made the mistake of marrying an immature child. If only I had married a real man (realness not necessarily extending to his teeth and hair)!*
Please, do not show this letter to anyone. Let us meet clandestinely.
Sincerely,
Lydia Armadale (note the last name)
Lydia then considers the marriage certificate, and realizes a glaring flaw in her plan: Ozias's handwriting looks nothing like Allan's. In a panic, she decides that her only option is to get advice from Mother Oldershaw. Unfortunately, Mother Oldershaw appears to have found God, and no longer wants anything to do with Lydia's plans. (Of course, she refuses to give Lydia the signed paper that she was going to use to extort money from Lydia if her plans succeeded.)
While leaving Oldershaw's, Lydia runs into Dr. Downward... excuse me, Dr. Le Doux, totally legitimate sanitarium owner. She realizes that he may be able to advise her, and asks to meet him later at the sanitarium. The sanitarium is basically what you'd expect a 19th-century sanitarium to be: creepy old house with shelves containing jars of preserved "creatures," a "galvanic apparatus" for providing electric shocks, etc. No patients yet, though.
Lydia tells the doctor her story, leaving out the worst details (he doesn't know that she's the reason the yacht sunk, or that her husband goes by the fake name "Ozias Midwinter"). Downward agrees to assist her by claiming to be a witness to the marriage... for a fee of six hundred pounds. Lydia agrees, and he assists her in sending a letter to Thorpe Ambrose, claiming to be Allan's widow.
The next day, Lydia gets a visit from Bashwood, who delivers the news that Neelie is beside herself with grief, and Mr. Darch is handling the matter of the inheritance, which was going to go to Allan's cousin, before Lydia announced her claim.
Bashwood returns a few days later with a shocking letter from Yugoslavia: Allan is alive! This is where I'd normally try to write a funny version of the letter, but nothing I could possibly write would be funnier than the actual letter's opening line: "I have been the victim of a rascally attempt at robbery and murder." Yes, "rascally." Oh, Allan, never change. One of the would-be murderers took pity on Allan and didn't securely board up his cabin, so he was able to escape instead of sinking with the yacht.
Lydia turns to Downward for help.
Downward: What if we trap Allan in the sanitarium?
Lydia: And murder him?
Downward: WTF, no. We get him to agree to not press legal charges against us.
Lydia: And then we murder him?
Downward: I have so many regrets about teaming up with you
Lydia: How do we catch him?
Downward: You could get Bashwood to lurk around the train station and intercept him before anyone else sees him. Have him tell Allan that Miss Milroy was sent here because she was driven insane by her grief for him.
Lydia: Can we murder Allan and Miss Milroy?
Downward: I am running an unlicensed sanitarium under a false name, and even I think you're unhinged.
Lydia: Gwilty as charged
Downward: But wait, what if he doesn't agree immediately, and we have to keep him here for months? What if I have actual patients at the time, and they report us?
Lydia: What if...
Downward: ...please don't say "murder"
Lydia: ...what if he had an accident?
Downward: Oh. Well, if it was an "accident," that would be okay. I don't know how an accident could happen, though, if you aren't an inmate here.
Lydia: I'll think about it
Meanwhile, Bashwood keeps vigil at the train station, until one day he sees... Ozias, who is searching for Lydia because she's stopped writing to him. While they talk to each other, Bashwood can't contain his shock at hearing that Lydia is Ozias's wife, and accidentally calls her "Mrs. Armadale," which understandably makes Ozias suspicious, so he follows Bashwood to see where he goes, which of course leads him straight to Lydia. Lydia pretends she was never married to Ozias, and Ozias faints from the shock.
Lydia heads straight to the sanitarium, tells Downward she's going to be an inmate, and asks for a sleeping draught. Downward prepares the draught, but first places yellow liquid in a purple flask. He then informs Lydia of what he thinks they should say at the inquest after Allan dies: The two of them knew he hadn't drowned, but when he arrived in England, they decided to trap him in the sanitarium because, shortly after his marriage to Lydia, Allan had starting having a delusion that he was engaged to Neelie. Once in the sanitarium, Downward diagnosed Allan with an incurable and fatal brain ailment, and that's what killed him.
Downward has scheduled a "Visitors' Day" so that people will witness Lydia as an inmate in the asylum. The visitors are mostly women, because life as a woman in Victorian England was so boring, they had nothing better to do than go to sanitariums to gawk at the mentally ill people and see where they will eventually live when the hysteria finally drives them mad. (I am only barely paraphrasing. The actual quote is "In the miserable monotony of the lives led by a large section of the middle classes of England, anything is welcome to the women which offers them any sort of harmless refuge from the established tyranny of the principle that all human happiness begins and ends at home.")
Downward shows them around the sanitarium and explains how it will be run, including only allowing novels that make people feel comfortable. (I assumed this was an intentional satire of Wilkie's critics, and the notes in the Oxford World's Classics edition confirmed this.)
But then Downward gave a sales pitch that damn near sold me on his sanitarium. "I throw up impregnable moral intrenchments between Worry and You. ... Will ten minutes’ irritation from a barking dog or a screeching child undo every atom of good done to a nervous sufferer by a month’s medical treatment? There isn’t a competent doctor in England who will venture to deny it!" Considering I almost couldn't post last week's discussion because of a few hours' exposure to two loud children and a labradoodle, I'm about ready to self-diagnose with hysteria and deranged lunacy.
He also explains that while the bedrooms lack fireplaces, they're heated with hot water. This impressed me because I've read about Victorian insane asylums not having fireplaces in the bedrooms (since the inmates might burn themselves), but I always assumed this meant that the inmates were cold in the winter. But wait... the bedroom also has secret controls that let him open, close, and lock the window and door from the outside, and a vent that lets him pump gas into the room. Whaaat? I rescind my diagnosis of hysteria and deranged lunacy. I want nothing to do with this.
After the tour is finished, Downward demonstrates to Lydia how to prepare the poison, and then breaks the bottle so that his assistant (who doesn't know about the purple flask) will think there's no more of that chemical in the house.
Meanwhile, Ozias is stalking Bashwood at the train station. He thinks Lydia is cheating on him, and Bashwood is waiting for Lydia's lover. But then he sees Bashwood with Allan. After confronting the two of them, he learns Bashwood's story about having to take Allan to Neelie in the sanitarium. Realizing that Lydia is probably still behind Bashwood's actions, Ozias insists on going with the two of them. On arriving at the sanitarium, Allan is informed that Neelie cannot see him until the morning, but he and Ozias are welcome to spend the night: Allan in Room Four, and Ozias in Room Three.
Lydia sets Bashwood up to spy on Allan's door from a room with a grate in its door. She tells him to make sure Allan stays in his room all night. Later, watching from the grate, Bashwood observes Ozias leave his room and examine the fumigating apparatus connected to Allan's room. Then Ozias stuffs his handkerchief in the grate, blocking Bashwood's view, before going into Allan's room and convincing Allan to switch rooms with him.
Later that night, Lydia returns and asks Bashwood if anything happened. Too afraid to tell her about the handkerchief, he tells her nothing happened, and she dismisses him to bed. After almost convincing herself to not go through with it, she then starts the process of pouring the poison at five minute intervals. While waiting for one of the intervals to pass, she notices Ozias's handkerchief and realizes that Bashwood lied to her. She checks in Room Three, and finds Allan asleep where Ozias should be.
In a panic, Lydia rushes into Room Four and drags the unconscious Ozias out. She then continues to pour the poison, writes a last letter to Ozias, and locks herself in the room.
We end with an epilogue that rapidly ties up all the random loose ends. Lydia has been buried in a nearly unmarked grave. The doctor is apparently still running his sanitarium. Allan and Neelie will be married in the spring. Mrs. Milroy doesn't have much longer to live, but she's undergone a personality change for some reason and she and the Major are happy for once. Ozias is recovering and living with Allan. Mother Oldershaw is a religious speaker, apparently. Bashwood has gone insane. Manuel drowned.
But wait, one last thing: Wilkie has something to say to us. He wants us to know that he intended the dream to be left up to interpretation. Thanks for handing me a discussion question like that, Wilkie. He also shares a weird-ass story about how, after he'd finished the rough draft and while the story was in the middle of serialization, several people were poisoned in their sleep on a boat called The Armadale. Okay, Wilkie. Thank you for that incredibly weird anecdote.
2024.05.20 02:37 RenZenthio A (well-paying) Job To Match My Interests?
Hello, I don't know if this is the right place for this or not, but I was hoping to get advice on possible careers I could go into given my skills/interests. If this is not the right place, I would appreciate guidance on where to possibly ask this question.
I am a 22 year old male who recently graduated college with an English major and a minor in psychology. I am signed on for a 10 month contract as an English teacher starting this coming August. I don't anticipate disliking the job, I enjoyed student teaching (best part of college in fact), but I am starting to do research on salaries and prices and realizing that a teacher's pay (44k a year in my area, which is actually not awful for my location) is not going to cut it for my life goals. For reference I am also getting married at the end of this month, and one of my goals is for my wife to be able to be a stay at home mother (which will require getting a job that pays atleast ~75k+ within the next 3-5 years).
I am currently looking at finance, specifically becoming a CFP, as a possible career change and have already started pursuing the education and certifications necessary, but I thought I would ask online to see if anybody could think of a job more suitable for my abilities. I just chose CFP because I know it pays well, and have recently went into a deep dive on how to optimize personal finance, as well as investment portfolio optimization and retirement planning. It also stood out to me because it would let me help other people, which is the reason I initially chose being an English teacher.
Skills/Abilities:
Although I have no formal education in math unless you count AP calculus, I really enjoy making spreadsheets. I have made one for calculating the amount owed to the IRS (and FICA) for a given income (including different filing statuses), as well as the tax savings one would get from taking deductions or tax credits. I have also made a calculator that compares the cost of different cars over a 20 year time horizon given initial cost and mpg, factoring in gas inflation. The car calculator also doubles as a loan cost calculator given price, interest rate, and down payment (also works for houses). I enjoy making these calculators on spreadsheets, especially if I find them useful.
I also really enjoy optimization. Which can probably be gleaned from my enjoyment from making spreadsheets. I buy my own T-bills because 5% in a high yield savings account is suboptimal to holding the bills myself. When I play games I am the guy who makes calculators and does math and build optimization for hours just to get a 10% damage increase.
Another thing is that while I am an introvert, I have a good amount of public speaking experience, and am alright with addressing crowds or individuals.
Besides that I am a quick learner, have a good sense of humor, and put my all into everything I do. I think it also probably goes without saying that I have a good knowledge of literature, know how to communicate myself, and am good at writing and interpreting writing.
Things I wouldn't want to do: Jobs with heavy amounts of physical labor or working outside, Jobs with excessive work off the clock working hours (Haha, kinda funny considering I'm gonna be a teacher. I don't mind working some off the clock, just not enough that I have no free time whatsoever), and jobs that would require constant relocation.
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I am a 22 year old male who recently graduated college with an English major and a minor in psychology. I am signed on for a 10 month contract as an English teacher starting this coming August. I don't anticipate disliking the job, I enjoyed student teaching (best part of college in fact), but I am starting to do research on salaries and prices and realizing that a teacher's pay (44k a year in my area, which is actually not awful for my location) is not going to cut it for my life goals. For reference I am also getting married at the end of this month, and one of my goals is for my wife to be able to be a stay at home mother (which will require getting a job that pays atleast ~75k+ within the next 3-5 years).
I am currently looking at finance, specifically becoming a CFP, as a possible career change and have already started pursuing the education and certifications necessary, but I thought I would ask online to see if anybody could think of a job more suitable for my abilities. I just chose CFP because I know it pays well, and have recently went into a deep dive on how to optimize personal finance, as well as investment portfolio optimization and retirement planning. It also stood out to me because it would let me help other people, which is the reason I initially chose being an English teacher.
Skills/Abilities:
Although I have no formal education in math unless you count AP calculus, I really enjoy making spreadsheets. I have made one for calculating the amount owed to the IRS (and FICA) for a given income (including different filing statuses), as well as the tax savings one would get from taking deductions or tax credits. I have also made a calculator that compares the cost of different cars over a 20 year time horizon given initial cost and mpg, factoring in gas inflation. The car calculator also doubles as a loan cost calculator given price, interest rate, and down payment (also works for houses). I enjoy making these calculators on spreadsheets, especially if I find them useful.
I also really enjoy optimization. Which can probably be gleaned from my enjoyment from making spreadsheets. I buy my own T-bills because 5% in a high yield savings account is suboptimal to holding the bills myself. When I play games I am the guy who makes calculators and does math and build optimization for hours just to get a 10% damage increase.
Another thing is that while I am an introvert, I have a good amount of public speaking experience, and am alright with addressing crowds or individuals.
Besides that I am a quick learner, have a good sense of humor, and put my all into everything I do. I think it also probably goes without saying that I have a good knowledge of literature, know how to communicate myself, and am good at writing and interpreting writing.
Things I wouldn't want to do: Jobs with heavy amounts of physical labor or working outside, Jobs with excessive work off the clock working hours (Haha, kinda funny considering I'm gonna be a teacher. I don't mind working some off the clock, just not enough that I have no free time whatsoever), and jobs that would require constant relocation.
2024.05.20 02:15 munisme 240520 r/bangtan Books with Luv: May Book Club Discussion - ‘The Midnight Library’ by Matt Haig
Hello bibliophiles of bangtan!
It has been an insane month but who’s complaining? May has almost passed us by and that means only one thing. Jin is almost home! We’re at D-23 days so well done, army spouses! But before that, RPWP drops on 24 May so let’s gear up to support our dear bookworm!
How are you all finding the time to read our May book on top of everything that’s happening? It’s a feat and the dedication is real! Having said that, I know we’re all itching to discuss The Midnight Library so let’s get to it!
If you have any questions or concerns regarding the book or the thread, feel free to tag me or any of the mods or BWL Volunteers.
with luv,
…and the bangtan Mod Team
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It has been an insane month but who’s complaining? May has almost passed us by and that means only one thing. Jin is almost home! We’re at D-23 days so well done, army spouses! But before that, RPWP drops on 24 May so let’s gear up to support our dear bookworm!
How are you all finding the time to read our May book on top of everything that’s happening? It’s a feat and the dedication is real! Having said that, I know we’re all itching to discuss The Midnight Library so let’s get to it!
’The Midnight Library' by Matt Haig
When Nora Seed finds herself in the Midnight Library, she has a chance to make things right. Up until now, her life has been full of misery and regret. She feels she has let everyone down, including herself. But things are about to change. A book on the many lives a person could have led, Namjoon was seen recommending this book in In the Soop Season 2.Come sit, let’s talk
Below is a discussion guide. Some book-specific questions and other sharing suggestions!- What were some of the ideas or instances that you liked from The Midnight Library?
- Upon walking into The Midnight Library and finding out what it is and how it works, Mrs. Elm asks Nora what she would have done differently to address her regrets. Is this something you have thought about as well?
- No matter the reality, Nora realizes that the good also comes with the bad. What is the author trying to tell us?
- What do you think were Nora’s worst and best plots?
- I couldn’t not ask this question - did reading this book affect you in any way when you watched the music video for Come Back To Me? Did it give you a different perspective?
- In both the book and the music video, there is a guiding figure who helps the protagonist come to terms with and accept themselves for who they are. What are your thoughts on this?
B-Side Questions/Discussion Suggestions
- Fan Chant: Hype/overall reviews
- Ments: Favorite quotes
- ARMY Time: playlist/recommendations of songs you associate with the book/chapters/characters
- Do The Wave: sentiments, feels, realizations based on the book
- Encore/Post Club-read Depression Prevention: something the book club can do afterwards (on your own leisure time) to help feel less sad after reading.
ㅠㅠ (Credit Roll) but no fear, we’ll be back again
It’s always so much fun chatting with all of you and we’ll be sure to be back for the next Books With Luv selection. But before we head to that, we’d like to let y’all know that we’ll be taking a break for the month of June. We’ve not had any announcements yet but with Jin returning and Festa in June, we thought it might be a good time for a breather. Fret not and look forward to July!If you have any questions or concerns regarding the book or the thread, feel free to tag me or any of the mods or BWL Volunteers.
with luv,
…and the bangtan Mod Team
2024.05.20 01:40 badgrapes How do you organize work projects & life admin?
Looking for advice/thoughts on setting up ClickUp to manage both work projects and "life admin." I'm using the Personal Workspace Layout and have no collaborators.
I know that it's helpful to start as simply as possible and add complexity as it becomes actually needed. The thing is, I'm importing a few projects already underway (plus a lot of small tasks of varying value), and want to avoid defaulting to my familiar old systems without assessing whether they're actually working for me, or are a good fit for ClickUp.
Assess my setup and give me feedback on where to go from here! I've included a ton of detail on my current setup below. If it's TL;DR, my more general question is: Tell me how you set up ClickUp to handle both work and life admin projects. How are you using categories, status, priorities, tags, and task types? I'm having trouble figuring out how to use them, especially since there seems to be a lot of potential overlap between them. Or, what advice do you have for migrating to ClickUp with a couple complex projects already underway, plus a lot of small tasks?
For context, here's how I have ClickUp set up right now. It's pretty simple but I'm still not clear whether it's the right approach (and FYI, I'm not wedded to it at all), plus there are still lots of components that don't neatly fit anywhere in my current setup:
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I know that it's helpful to start as simply as possible and add complexity as it becomes actually needed. The thing is, I'm importing a few projects already underway (plus a lot of small tasks of varying value), and want to avoid defaulting to my familiar old systems without assessing whether they're actually working for me, or are a good fit for ClickUp.
Assess my setup and give me feedback on where to go from here! I've included a ton of detail on my current setup below. If it's TL;DR, my more general question is: Tell me how you set up ClickUp to handle both work and life admin projects. How are you using categories, status, priorities, tags, and task types? I'm having trouble figuring out how to use them, especially since there seems to be a lot of potential overlap between them. Or, what advice do you have for migrating to ClickUp with a couple complex projects already underway, plus a lot of small tasks?
For context, here's how I have ClickUp set up right now. It's pretty simple but I'm still not clear whether it's the right approach (and FYI, I'm not wedded to it at all), plus there are still lots of components that don't neatly fit anywhere in my current setup:
- I have ClickUp divided into three spaces: Active Projects (multi-step projects with clear outcomes and/or deliverables), Areas of Focus (task lists divided up by a broader work or life "area"), plus a space I'm ignoring where archived projects and messy old things live..
- Under Active Projects, I have folders for each class I'll be teaching (and because it's summer, right now they're split into prep work for upcoming classes, and wrap-up for the couple last to-do items left over from the spring).
- Under Areas of Focus, I tend to keep lists of professional admin and personal life admin tasks that aren't part of a larger project (like paying bills or rent.
- Active projects with a specific, concrete outcome. Mostly these projects are longer-term things, sometimes with several potential paths they could take depending on results of earlier tasks, but other times they're just 1-2wk projects that have lots of little steps I need to keep track of. Some real-life examples on my list right now:
- Work: Set up a class I'll be teaching in the fall. I need to do a bunch of prep work for this, some of which is pretty clear (set up course homepage and revise syllabus to include XYZ things; revise grade breakdown using these rules, & implement breakdown in Canvas), and other of which is fairly inchoate (e.g. review these five texts and decide which to teach; find an open-source subject-specific text; refine course structure as needed based on the texts I end up using). Then, there are semi-ongoing tasks that will come into play once I'm actually teaching the class (e.g. prep/review the thing I'll be teaching next week; set up assignments due next week so they're ready to go when the start date rolls around; grade assignments X, Y, Z; a weekly review of the syllabus & update deadlines as needed). Then wrap-up tasks that happen pretty routinely at the end of the semester, and one-off "respond to X's grade query email" type tasks. (Many of these things could be part of a template, but I don't need to cross that bridge yet.) How to organize the giant project of "put together, teach, and wrap up X class"? What's the relationship between the big project full of kinda sequential steps and the small "Answer X email" tasks that I mostly put into a project manager so I don't forget about them?
- Work: Various small professional development projects that in the past I've thought of as a series of sequential tasks, e.g. "Apply for X grant" (in this case, small individual artist grants for $1k-$20k, not big, collaboratively-written NSF grants). Under "Apply..." is a list of five different pieces I need to put together, one or two of which will need multiple rounds of refinement, while the rest will be relatively quick and easy. This type of project usually comes together in a couple weeks or less, and typically I'll have several active at once. (I usually have a dozen others on my radar at any given moment, but only decide to apply for 1-2 at any time. I keep up with these deadlines via a Google Sheet and a sticky note on my Mac desktop, and in the past only brought them into a project manager once I'd committed to a specific deadline-driven thing, or if I needed a reminder to check on one that has a deadline that varies annually.)
- Personal: Research summer travel possibilities, map out a timeline that fits scheduling constraints and mode of travel (one subtask that's a small project in and of itself: research buying a fiberglass camper shell for truck, & if that makes sense to do we'll drive, otherwise we'll fly or take the train). This is still in the research stage, so there aren't many actual tasks yet, but will be in a month or so.
- Avocational: Facilitate a large, slow-moving bylaws revision project for an organization I'm involved with. I'm at the beginning stages of this one, but have a pretty good idea of the different stages of this project and what the path to completion will look like. It'll be a big project once it gets off the ground, but for now it's just in the "assembling ideas" stage.
- Ongoing & one-off tasks with varying priority levels (e.g. things I need to do regularly vs. things I'd like to do regularly but don't necessarily get to).
- Necessary Tasks like paying rent and bills, which are typically pretty straightforward and non-negotiable. Also things like updating the finances spreadsheet I share with my partner, which ideally happens weekly but which realistically I don't get around to more than once a month if that.
- One-Off Tasks that start cropping up, especially once the semester is underway (e.g. "Answer X email"). Some of these are essential, others don't need to happen (but should for a smoother semester), and plenty are totally optional but worth doing if I have the time. When I'm bogged down, I don't want to think about those totally optional tasks at all, but when I'm feeling pretty unencumbered, they're worth tending to.
- Other things I can't figure out how to classify/organize:
- Backburner tasks & projects, both work-related and life admin. (How to label and filter backburner tasks that I need to do "soon" vs. "eventually" vs. "maybe, someday, who even knows"?)
- Some of these are important but not yet active (e.g. applying for that aforementioned grant, for instance, which I don't need to actively think about until next spring when the deadline approaches, though I do often start drafting/refining materials in advance, so it's nice to have a clear holding place for those).
- Others are aspirational (for instance, "Organize the garage" is a backburner task that will turn into a full project once I start working on it & actually identifying specific subtasks, e.g. put specific thing on FB Marketplace, or buy a set of storage bins). I'd like to clearly delineate between this sort of thing; I don't need to see "Organize the garage" unless I'm doing a big review of the backburner items once a month or so and moving a handful into active projects/tasks.
- Mosquito tasks: These tasks should happen "soon" or "eventually," but they're not urgent and if they end up never being completed at all, that's usually nbd. Realistically I might do them in the next couple weeks, but probably not in the next few days. These kinds of tasks are helpful to keep in ClickUp so they stay on my radar (and one benefit of that is that for a task like "Email so-and-so to ask X question," I'll often end up drafting half an initial email in a comment, then forgetting about it for a few weeks and coming back to find that email already half-drafted). Mosquito tasks include:
- Reminders (to check on an important or not-so-important upcoming professional deadline that hasn't been posted yet, & to keep doing this until that concrete deadline appears, at which point it turns into an actual task; upcoming birthday reminders; to get a book back from someone who'd borrowed it, etc).
- Personal CRM, my most frequent mosquito task. I've done fieldwork around the world and consider keeping in touch with friends/colleagues/informants from faraway as part of my professional responsibilities (but not urgent whatsoever), so I like to keep these things on my radar without letting them distract me from my active, necessary tasks & projects.
- Ideas, possibilities, and other inchoate things that ended up in ClickUp when I migrated from Todoist, some of which are basically just notes-to-self, and other of which are smaller tasks/projects that I may someday pick back up, all of which I feel sentimental about and don't want to get rid of even though I'm not going to sort through them regularly. These pretty clearly fall under "backburner" and "maybe, someday, who even knows." (Should I break the "Not Started" status into "Backburner: eventually" and "Backburner: maybe, someday, who knows" to delineate these?) Feel free to ignore this category!
- A Morning/Evening Routine that should reset every day, regardless of whether I've checked every item off from the previous day. (This is probably the only sort of task I want to reset like this, and honestly it's pretty low-priority.)
- Backburner tasks & projects, both work-related and life admin. (How to label and filter backburner tasks that I need to do "soon" vs. "eventually" vs. "maybe, someday, who even knows"?)
2024.05.20 01:36 KpopFashionistasRise So in the texts, the cost to terminate NewJeans contract was estimated to be between 455 and 620 BILLION won
I haven’t seen anyone talking about this aspect of the texts yet. Its almost funny how insane that is. He says 62 at first and she’s like “oh not that much,” then he’s like “whoops I forgot a zero.”
And he say’s “no matter how I think about it… that’s too much damage to us.” Not like anyone with common sense didn’t already know but this line makes it so obvious that this isn’t a joke conversation. Dude’s WRACKING his brains tryna figure out a way to poach NewJeans from Hybe in a way that won’t put their entire collective bloodlines into crippling debt. Mind you, this is just their estimate. Who knows how much Hybe might be able to actually charge them, cuz u know if they had to let them go, they’d be petty abt it. Definitely the full 620 Billion at least.
Anyone who thought they’d be able to get out of this, I’m so sorry, but these girls are going NOWHERE with MHJ. They’ll continue to thrive under Hybe or they’ll be dungeoned for siding with MHJ but either way, Hybe controls their future.
Edited: misread MHJ’s reply
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And he say’s “no matter how I think about it… that’s too much damage to us.” Not like anyone with common sense didn’t already know but this line makes it so obvious that this isn’t a joke conversation. Dude’s WRACKING his brains tryna figure out a way to poach NewJeans from Hybe in a way that won’t put their entire collective bloodlines into crippling debt. Mind you, this is just their estimate. Who knows how much Hybe might be able to actually charge them, cuz u know if they had to let them go, they’d be petty abt it. Definitely the full 620 Billion at least.
Anyone who thought they’d be able to get out of this, I’m so sorry, but these girls are going NOWHERE with MHJ. They’ll continue to thrive under Hybe or they’ll be dungeoned for siding with MHJ but either way, Hybe controls their future.
Edited: misread MHJ’s reply
2024.05.20 01:27 HellfireBrB BUT ACCORDING TO THE NOVEL: "proceeds to pass misinformation" and why i'm sick of people making stuff up about the novels and directors commentaries (very long post)
 | Introduction as of recently for the past 4 days i have noticed a large divide across most of the discussions regarding the monsterverse cannon mostly duo to a large discrepancy between what is a what isn't common information, and how much of the community does not seen to have the time or resources to actually fact check extremely specific information the result of this is a continuous spread of misinformation, constant claims and lies about lore and movie scenes that are intentionally taken out of context or shape, or just straight up didn't happen or weren't neither stated or confirmed. submitted by HellfireBrB to Monsterverse [link] [comments] the point of this post is to both criticize this stupid way to discuss information while at the same time debunking some of the current biggest misinformation being passed across the subreddit and other grounds of conversation about the MV Disclaimer: i do not as of now own neither a copy of GvK or GxK's novelizations that are in English (as mine are on my native language; Portuguese) as such many of the information provided following will be a combination of prints and translations taken from various sources, i apologize for that in advance as i have no workaround such a problem other than pirating a product i already own, such a thing i refuse to do. Starting from the big: the Egypt fight, and why all the things you were told happened in there... didn't actually happenone of the first points of discussion that sens to generate this kind of issue is the entirety of the Egypt fight, more specifically the status of can or cannot Kong beat or kill Godzilla on his own (he can't we have a whole ass movie about this, move on), this resulted in a considerable amount of misinformation in regard to the novel mostly quoting things that did not happen, or that are taken out of context to the extreme as a start:Kong did(not) knock Godzilla unconscious the entire discussion from the start revolves just around ghost arguments about things that truly no one cares and in general, that in general despite knowing this will offends certain groups of people; was only started because certain loud minorities of Kong fans still can't accept Kong loses and as such need to use any escuse to justify a Kong victory and create their own version of "Godzilla was plying around" as such for the actual fight lets start from the movie as in the following image on the right you can see the exact last frame in which Godzilla's face is last fully visible visible, and in the left this is the last frame in which Godzilla and Kong are in any way visible (duo to the motion blur I've market a crude shape of Godzilla's head and Kong's hand for batter clarity however i do recommend you go and watch the scene at a slower speed to get batter clarity on your own about it) pay close attention to Godzilla's head position in relationship to the last frame, and how Godzilla moves to to his side as Kong's fist slides towards his left of his cheek his eyes are also open in the last frame in which they are visible the biggest argument towards Godzilla being unconscious is that after Godzilla was hit the movie simply "cut" to after Godzilla woke up, however this is very easily debunked, starting by the images above you can notice Godzilla's position in relationship to Kong, him being on his back with his dorsal plates accommodated to his left and his head spinning to his right after being hit this is the progression of Godzilla's recovery process pay attention to Godzilla's eye position as per the second sequence of images, Godzilla feel to his side belly down, with his body slightly pending towards his right showing that Kong didn't move his body before dragging him, but he simply feel already on such position. and as per the very first frame in which his face is visible (first image) his eyes are open and facing the same direction they were before Kong last hit him, them less than 4 frames latter his eye position shifts towards the sand were you can clearly see his claw moving toward, and in the third image about 2 frames latter he can be seen moving his head and eyes towards his hand before his claws hit the ground covering his face with sand again. and in the 4 slide the very first frame in which his eyes are visible again, they have completely bend back to the point you can see their white as Godzilla starts turning his head towards Kong as per the movie, there is no cut or clear view of Godzilla being either knocked out or unconscious Kong simply punched Godzilla back into his belly and there is full continuity of one scene to the other it is preposterous to claim Godzilla simply shrug off such a hit when he clearly is moaning in pain, and took several seconds for him to fully recover from the strike and go back to charging his breath (exactly 11 seconds the exact frame Kong's fist connects to his face, and the exact frame we can hear his charge) and no, the novel does not contradict or change anything of this scene per the novel Kong simply does not understand why Godzilla is even on the floor it is neither stated to be unconscious or dazed, simply \"still... not dead\" it also like the movie fails the state any amount of time or distance in-between scenes simply stating the exact same progression Kong hits Godzilla, > starts dragging> Shooting the movie even has a continuity error with Godzilla somehow being closer to the city despite it being on the opposite direction of the portal, AND falling backwards to the city meaning both Kong and Godzilla teleport backwards trough that sequence The fight was (NOT) a draw, and Kong was (NOT) holding back, and the beast glove can('t) block Godzilla's breath this is the sequence of words you often see in these discussions stating that this fight is not valid because Kong was holding back (often being followed by Kong could have killed Godzilla if he wanted, or kong could've bashed godzilla's head if he wanted) and that even if mothra didn't interview it would end there, and that the director commentary backs this up however once more this is untrue as i can't provide video prof of the commentary duo to the formatting of the post what adam actually stated is that kong held back from fighting godzilla as he had grown past their rivalry and that is not his intentions, however kong did lose his temper and went out of his way not only mad at godzilla, but also trying to take revenge for Hong kong, something the novels even backs up: the novel not only states the same, but also goes out of its way to say kong was gratified with striking godzilla so now that is clarified what was going on on kong's mind, yes godzilla won, and kong was not only saved once, he was saved TWICE, because as per the same commentary, godzilla stepping on kong only didn't kill him as it did in GvK because kong fell on flat sand which he sunk in you can actually see that when godzilla first steps on kong trough the fight than comes the argumentation that kong was going to block the breath and move out however this is also untrue the novel goes in great detail that that kong could never escape before godzilla hit him, and while kong indeed block with his arm, he did not even know if it was going to work or not something you can once again actually see in the movie Conclusion: THE EGYPT FIGHT IS THE EXACT SAME IN ALL SOURCES Shimo, a class in tell not show, and why she is the potential man of the monsterverseimage made by u/drywall9the second issue with these discussions is shimo and the amount of things she is "told" but never show to be able to do, while at the same time being backed up with an ungodly amount of arguments placing her as the strongest titan in the monsterverse.... while that is completely and utterly untrue Shimo didn't beat godzilla in the past... no that is not what the novel said, and why Bernie, and Illene are the most unreliable sources in the monsterverse this is a heated topic, mostly being about people not having an actual firm stating point to place shimo and how strong she actually is in relationship to other titans (mostly godzilla and ghidorah) a great deal of people firmly believing she is the most powerful titan in the monsterverse, something that has sparked a good amount of discussion after adam stated that firmly she and godzilla are equals something that is contradicted by the novels stating that shimo was "dominating" in ancient times, and that she beat and froze ghidorah.... except the novels don't say that, nor does it confirm anything, in fact both these claims are just Illene tossing stuff at a wall to see what sticks and Bernie does what Bernie does, spit his own conspiracies into the thing until he gets something right out of pure luck this is what illene and bernie actually say she simply remarks monarch had cave paintings of shimo from before the events of the movie, and that some of those paintings depicted shimo being stronger than godzilla something even bernie thinks is hard to imagine illene than proceeds to talk about jia and the iwi before the discussion rolls back to Shimo where she says: she than proceeds to detail other interactions before pondering how much of it is true, and how much of it are the person making the paintings projecting his own emotions into the fight BUT SHE TOOK GODZILLA'S ATTOMICH BREATH LIKE IT WAS NOTHING? isn't actually new several times godzilla's breath and similar power attacks (such as ghidorah beams) has show to be survivable in one way or another, be it because of raw durability, or other countermeasures, what is surprising here is not that shimo can take it, but that illene is surprised she can. even mechagodzilla one of the least durable monster in the MV is confirmed to be able to survive it (albeit not for long) Shimo (didn't) freeze Ghidorah (at least not directly) this is actually the main reason for the existence of this post, my tiredness with the endless debates that shimo 100% beat and froze ghidorah, with endless claims that the novel completely confirms it and that despite being contradicted by SEVERAL other sources they are disregarded as "Retconned" despite not being contradicted at all, and the only point towards shimo and ghidorah being involved neither confirms or denies anything, it is a combination of inconclusive discussions between bernie and illene, asking several questions that are not bothered to be answered. this is the actual discussion: what she says is that the same crystal formations found within shimo ice ages created by shimo were found ACROSS Antarctica in a localized event, which is also where ghidorah was found than after being asked by bernie she simply shrugs it off as if she does not know the answer she never states that shimo is involved in any way with ghidorah, just that at some point shimo was at Antarctica possible freezing it in an event separate from the ice age she created during the titan war this is backed up by our previous sources on how ghidorah was frozen back in GvK's novel it is stated that it is unknown what happened to ghidorah just that they know ice quickly melted around him and them even quicker froze itself back imprisoning him this might cause you to believe this is prof. that ghidorah was beaten and or frozen by shimo however there is ONE CORE information that is missing in both these situations, that simply contradict this point in both occasions, THE HUMANS ARE COMPLETELLY UNAWARE OF GODZILLA'S INVOLMENT WITH GHIDORAH, not their fights, NOT their rivalry but godzilla's involvement with the freezing of ghidorah, as that is information provided only to us the viewer of the monsterverse, and thus why in BOTH OCASIONS the humans do not mention him (they have no ideia), and proceed to acknowledge shimo in place of him trough the events this is further proven by the original takes on how ghidorah was frozen ghidorah himself broke off and melted the ice as he feel from the sky sub-sequentially getting stuck in it there is also a tweet of him confirming godzilla battled godzilla 1v1 but since it is a 2019 post i have failed to have the mental power to go trough 5+ years of replies just to get one print you got the point case and point the "Novel does not state shimo froze or was involved" with ghidorah, nor did it retcon anything from previous information we have, godzilla simply had a 1v1 fight with ghidorah in Antarctica while a localized shimo storm (like in rio) was happening, godzilla than beat ghidorah which ended in ghidorah being stuck in ice and melted water that quickly froze him before godzilla left the dragon for dead the reasons for the storm are unknown, the time shimo created it unknown in relationship to the godzilla vs ghidorah fight is unknown, and the extend of how intentional it was from any of the parts involvement is unknown. any points outside that is no more than headcanom, theory-craft and is NOT CONFIRMED |
2024.05.20 01:26 pinkfloyd-animalfarm depression or midlife crisis? my story...
hi, i am 42 and i feel all i have in my life is my job and my parents of whom i live with.
i have no children or family or my own, and this failing has been eating away at me. tried to do something about it but nothing availed (career? string of dead end jobs. women? never reply or can ever get close to on a personal level). after my grandmum died a few weeks ago i really do begin to feel the clock ticking and this anxiety and worry, i dont know if thats a midlife crisis.
all i know, this is not just an episode of being 'down in the dumps'. its been something i feel its been growing inside me for years - not in my head, but feeling it from my gut. i'm starting to feel it interrupting my job. my get up and go has got up has gone. i just dont feel like working even though the rational part of me forces myself to just do it. i dont know if i have depression but lately i am in this state where i just dont feel like doing anything and i am just unhappy.
i used to be a gamer in my 30s as a hobby, but i havent even touched my ps5 for over 6 months. i've sold all my games. i just lost the will to play.
i have been seeing a counsellor for 11 years in trying to 'get help' (as everyone keeps saying) but i feel its done hardly anything for me. she has aspired me to do travelling to get out my comfort zone and meet people, which i have done. but thats it. even travelling is becoming meaningless now because i am constantly in this state of preoccupation. i know after a big holiday i'll never see those people again even if they add me on facebook or not (and when they don't, it hurts).
people say talk to friends and family. i have no real friends. never have. when i was a little boy in school, i was bullied. in secondary school i got focused on my studies thinking that eventually, a degree would unlock a life of fabulous riches. but i eventually learned the hard way with years of unemployment that it wasnt, back then. i tried reaching out to people, online via a facebook group, but it descended to insults and hurtful remarks that left me banned and made me punched the wall. my family doesnt know about my feelings, becaise from what i have seen, mental health is seen as taboo. they'll just admonish me, shout me down, tell me to get a grip. i cant really talk to them because they're going to deny theres a problem. and i dont want to break their hearts, especially my parents. i rather soak the pain than bring them in it. i love them too much to see them feel hurt for me.
social groups - when going out, if its not work or a family function, i largely have social anxiety. i so badly want to meet women and get a girlfriend, who hopefully becomes my wife and eventual mother to my kids and form my new family, but i just seem incapable of it. i just cant get close to a woman at that personal and intimate level. if i try, it results in failure and embarassment. at the rare times i did try, it just doesnt come out right. i once went to salsa dancing class in a big city nearby, trying to talk to women, but the anxiety was so overwhelming, i couldnt breathe, and thought i was going to have a heart attack, i had to get out of there. i never been back since. i dont even go to pubs. i think about women more and more - even women i wasnt attracted to at first, drives me crazy now. i remember when leaving a job to move to another, a lady colleague i worked alot with hugged me, and it felt unlike anything i felt before. it was amazing. the softness, the warmth, the care...its as if i was missing that my whole life. i was close to crying. i want to experience true closeness, and intimacy.
thats not to say i'm a virgin. i lost my virginity at 30 to an escort; that was a unsatisfying experience as even then i had anxiety and couldnt perform properly - i did it because i didnt wanted to be the '30 year old virgin'. i just cant seem to get close with women. i tend to obsess about them. my instagram feed is full of attractive women. seeing beautiful ones on tv, even if its just the weather girl or news reader, it drives me nuts. in my job, i work with journalists, and theres many women there. i can talk to them confidently and easily, IF ITS ABOUT WORK. the instances i tried to talk about life in trying to get to know them and get close to them, the barrier goes up. i can tell because they wont add me on fb or whatever. i just cant seem to hack it with women. no woman = no wife = no mother to my children = no family of my own = no legacy.
i appreciate some might say not having family should not mean one is a failure. however, as much as i tried to ignore it, i come from a culture whereby family trumps everything else - money, career, hobbies, everything. i been ignoring it for years. trying to chase a career, which ended up as a string of dead end temporary jobs. losing 15 years of my life to this, living from temp job to temp job, and going to over 200 job interviews in getting secure employment, enduring hundreds of devastating rejections. but, years later, i now have at least job security, which is most important, but am beginning to feel the limit of my pay. trying to chase a career, spending nights throughout the 2010s playing video games and enjoying my gaming career in that, playing adventure games...but now i have reached a point where i've 'run out' of games to play and nothing (except maybe gta6) will interest me in picking up a controller again. i've grown out of it, it seems. i even been travelling more too - i travel far, and so big holidays. from usa, to africa, to europe, to india, and soon to be going to australia... doing all sorts of holidays from cruises, ranch holidays, safari, hiking, group road trips, wildlife conservation volunteering, sailing the mediterrarian - grand, amazing experiences that does suspend my worries... but in the end, i keep coming back to them, this feeling of emptiness.
my big fear is seeing my parents get older and dying from a broken heart caused by me. my dad worked in construction but is retired and now freelances, and he tends to hurt himself in accidents as he gets clumsy. my mother works in a school. i have always lived with my family except during the years i was at university. i feel my mum and dad are my 'best friends' - sad as it sounds -and the thought of them both going to die somepoint in the future, fills me with dread. because i feel i have failed them, in not continuing the family line. failing to secure a legacy for us. to keep us all going, surviving through the next generation. when i think about it deeply, our bloodline has been passed down for thousands of years, surviving through all sorts such as wars, plagues, and revolutions. i feel compelled to continue it, as if its a duty, and i dont want my parents to die with their last thoughts being disappointment. i can see it in my dads eyes already, the sadness. he wants to play with his grandchildren, but he has none, and all his friends shows off their grandkids. similarly with me, i see people i went to school with, and ex-colleagues i used to work with...they all have kids and a house of their own and a car. i have none of that. i stand NO chance buying a house of my own as i simply can't afford it, and renting will be throwing my money away living on other peoples crap. i said to my parents i want to inherit this home when they go, because my memories are here. my history. our family memories. my happy childhood memories, growing up, the birthdays, playing with my brother, my parents, the fun times growing up, coming back from school, doing homework, watching football together on the TV in the 90s, our first pc, all of it. all of these amazing experiences back then, i love to go through again, but this time with my own kids, seeing them grow up, playing with toys, drawing, having a first pet, etc...to navigate life with them as a father, and teaching them what i believe is required to be a good person.
before you say it, i'm not just doing it for my parents. i want a family for myself. i feel if i failed to have children, failed to find someone who loves me, failed to have any friends, failed to have had any influence or imprint on the world nomatter how small - i actually feel i'm not part of this world. to quote ellie from the last of us, my life would not have 'fkn mattered'. its as if i am a 'watcher', if that makes sense, not part of the fabric of this world and civilisation. watching it all from a window. that'll lead me to questions like why i am i here, leading to a probable, and painful, full-on existential crisis. when its my parents' time, when they grow old and die, and if i'm left all alone, i dont think i'd want to live anymore. i'm praying to find something. of course, i know i have to DO something, but my mind draws a blank. i cant ignore what my body is telling me anymore. but then, i step outside the house, and i dont know what to do, socially. when i approach someone, i get anxiety attacks. in my town, people are aggressive - its also possible if i approach a woman here i might end up getting assaulted, shouted at or shamed. sometimes theres no place to really go as i live in a small town. and as you get older, its harder to make friends, as people already have their established circles. i even remember my ex-manager talking to colleagues about this when we had a drink once and she asked 'how do you meet people' even though shes in her 50s and has established family and friends - indeed. how, for those who do not.
for coping, some people elsewhere suggested exercising. this is something i tend to do, but perhaps not enough of. i like to go on walks. theres a public park where i go and feed the ducks. seeing animals makes me happy. when the baby ducks swim to me wanting the kibble food it makes me feel wanted. i love animals. from dogs, cats and ducks - to even wild animals like the tigers i saw in india. i also did some hiking holidays, including going through some american national parks like yosemite, where i saw a family of bears at a distance. travelling is something i like to do too - in fact, i have more 'big' holidays coming up in usa again (alaska this summer), then australia, europe (croatia), the canadian rockies and maybe south america. i do these trips to get that out-of-body, 'blown away' feeling, of being thrilled, alive, and enjoying and experiencing life. it does help. but travelling is expensive. i'm not made of money.
all i want, is my own family..
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i have no children or family or my own, and this failing has been eating away at me. tried to do something about it but nothing availed (career? string of dead end jobs. women? never reply or can ever get close to on a personal level). after my grandmum died a few weeks ago i really do begin to feel the clock ticking and this anxiety and worry, i dont know if thats a midlife crisis.
all i know, this is not just an episode of being 'down in the dumps'. its been something i feel its been growing inside me for years - not in my head, but feeling it from my gut. i'm starting to feel it interrupting my job. my get up and go has got up has gone. i just dont feel like working even though the rational part of me forces myself to just do it. i dont know if i have depression but lately i am in this state where i just dont feel like doing anything and i am just unhappy.
i used to be a gamer in my 30s as a hobby, but i havent even touched my ps5 for over 6 months. i've sold all my games. i just lost the will to play.
i have been seeing a counsellor for 11 years in trying to 'get help' (as everyone keeps saying) but i feel its done hardly anything for me. she has aspired me to do travelling to get out my comfort zone and meet people, which i have done. but thats it. even travelling is becoming meaningless now because i am constantly in this state of preoccupation. i know after a big holiday i'll never see those people again even if they add me on facebook or not (and when they don't, it hurts).
people say talk to friends and family. i have no real friends. never have. when i was a little boy in school, i was bullied. in secondary school i got focused on my studies thinking that eventually, a degree would unlock a life of fabulous riches. but i eventually learned the hard way with years of unemployment that it wasnt, back then. i tried reaching out to people, online via a facebook group, but it descended to insults and hurtful remarks that left me banned and made me punched the wall. my family doesnt know about my feelings, becaise from what i have seen, mental health is seen as taboo. they'll just admonish me, shout me down, tell me to get a grip. i cant really talk to them because they're going to deny theres a problem. and i dont want to break their hearts, especially my parents. i rather soak the pain than bring them in it. i love them too much to see them feel hurt for me.
social groups - when going out, if its not work or a family function, i largely have social anxiety. i so badly want to meet women and get a girlfriend, who hopefully becomes my wife and eventual mother to my kids and form my new family, but i just seem incapable of it. i just cant get close to a woman at that personal and intimate level. if i try, it results in failure and embarassment. at the rare times i did try, it just doesnt come out right. i once went to salsa dancing class in a big city nearby, trying to talk to women, but the anxiety was so overwhelming, i couldnt breathe, and thought i was going to have a heart attack, i had to get out of there. i never been back since. i dont even go to pubs. i think about women more and more - even women i wasnt attracted to at first, drives me crazy now. i remember when leaving a job to move to another, a lady colleague i worked alot with hugged me, and it felt unlike anything i felt before. it was amazing. the softness, the warmth, the care...its as if i was missing that my whole life. i was close to crying. i want to experience true closeness, and intimacy.
thats not to say i'm a virgin. i lost my virginity at 30 to an escort; that was a unsatisfying experience as even then i had anxiety and couldnt perform properly - i did it because i didnt wanted to be the '30 year old virgin'. i just cant seem to get close with women. i tend to obsess about them. my instagram feed is full of attractive women. seeing beautiful ones on tv, even if its just the weather girl or news reader, it drives me nuts. in my job, i work with journalists, and theres many women there. i can talk to them confidently and easily, IF ITS ABOUT WORK. the instances i tried to talk about life in trying to get to know them and get close to them, the barrier goes up. i can tell because they wont add me on fb or whatever. i just cant seem to hack it with women. no woman = no wife = no mother to my children = no family of my own = no legacy.
i appreciate some might say not having family should not mean one is a failure. however, as much as i tried to ignore it, i come from a culture whereby family trumps everything else - money, career, hobbies, everything. i been ignoring it for years. trying to chase a career, which ended up as a string of dead end temporary jobs. losing 15 years of my life to this, living from temp job to temp job, and going to over 200 job interviews in getting secure employment, enduring hundreds of devastating rejections. but, years later, i now have at least job security, which is most important, but am beginning to feel the limit of my pay. trying to chase a career, spending nights throughout the 2010s playing video games and enjoying my gaming career in that, playing adventure games...but now i have reached a point where i've 'run out' of games to play and nothing (except maybe gta6) will interest me in picking up a controller again. i've grown out of it, it seems. i even been travelling more too - i travel far, and so big holidays. from usa, to africa, to europe, to india, and soon to be going to australia... doing all sorts of holidays from cruises, ranch holidays, safari, hiking, group road trips, wildlife conservation volunteering, sailing the mediterrarian - grand, amazing experiences that does suspend my worries... but in the end, i keep coming back to them, this feeling of emptiness.
my big fear is seeing my parents get older and dying from a broken heart caused by me. my dad worked in construction but is retired and now freelances, and he tends to hurt himself in accidents as he gets clumsy. my mother works in a school. i have always lived with my family except during the years i was at university. i feel my mum and dad are my 'best friends' - sad as it sounds -and the thought of them both going to die somepoint in the future, fills me with dread. because i feel i have failed them, in not continuing the family line. failing to secure a legacy for us. to keep us all going, surviving through the next generation. when i think about it deeply, our bloodline has been passed down for thousands of years, surviving through all sorts such as wars, plagues, and revolutions. i feel compelled to continue it, as if its a duty, and i dont want my parents to die with their last thoughts being disappointment. i can see it in my dads eyes already, the sadness. he wants to play with his grandchildren, but he has none, and all his friends shows off their grandkids. similarly with me, i see people i went to school with, and ex-colleagues i used to work with...they all have kids and a house of their own and a car. i have none of that. i stand NO chance buying a house of my own as i simply can't afford it, and renting will be throwing my money away living on other peoples crap. i said to my parents i want to inherit this home when they go, because my memories are here. my history. our family memories. my happy childhood memories, growing up, the birthdays, playing with my brother, my parents, the fun times growing up, coming back from school, doing homework, watching football together on the TV in the 90s, our first pc, all of it. all of these amazing experiences back then, i love to go through again, but this time with my own kids, seeing them grow up, playing with toys, drawing, having a first pet, etc...to navigate life with them as a father, and teaching them what i believe is required to be a good person.
before you say it, i'm not just doing it for my parents. i want a family for myself. i feel if i failed to have children, failed to find someone who loves me, failed to have any friends, failed to have had any influence or imprint on the world nomatter how small - i actually feel i'm not part of this world. to quote ellie from the last of us, my life would not have 'fkn mattered'. its as if i am a 'watcher', if that makes sense, not part of the fabric of this world and civilisation. watching it all from a window. that'll lead me to questions like why i am i here, leading to a probable, and painful, full-on existential crisis. when its my parents' time, when they grow old and die, and if i'm left all alone, i dont think i'd want to live anymore. i'm praying to find something. of course, i know i have to DO something, but my mind draws a blank. i cant ignore what my body is telling me anymore. but then, i step outside the house, and i dont know what to do, socially. when i approach someone, i get anxiety attacks. in my town, people are aggressive - its also possible if i approach a woman here i might end up getting assaulted, shouted at or shamed. sometimes theres no place to really go as i live in a small town. and as you get older, its harder to make friends, as people already have their established circles. i even remember my ex-manager talking to colleagues about this when we had a drink once and she asked 'how do you meet people' even though shes in her 50s and has established family and friends - indeed. how, for those who do not.
for coping, some people elsewhere suggested exercising. this is something i tend to do, but perhaps not enough of. i like to go on walks. theres a public park where i go and feed the ducks. seeing animals makes me happy. when the baby ducks swim to me wanting the kibble food it makes me feel wanted. i love animals. from dogs, cats and ducks - to even wild animals like the tigers i saw in india. i also did some hiking holidays, including going through some american national parks like yosemite, where i saw a family of bears at a distance. travelling is something i like to do too - in fact, i have more 'big' holidays coming up in usa again (alaska this summer), then australia, europe (croatia), the canadian rockies and maybe south america. i do these trips to get that out-of-body, 'blown away' feeling, of being thrilled, alive, and enjoying and experiencing life. it does help. but travelling is expensive. i'm not made of money.
all i want, is my own family..
2024.05.20 01:05 Key_Invite_5235 Do we have to consummate a Utah online marriage if Utah recognizes it as a valid marriage?
I am a US citizen by birth. My question is simple: Does the Respect for Marriage Act's requirement, codified at 1 U.S.C. § 7, that the federal government recognize marriages done in ANY state for the purpose of ANY federal law where marital status is important invalidate the "consummation" requirements for Utah online marriages?
Background
Utah online marriages are not accepted for US immigration purposes unless it has been "consummated" because INA 101(a)(35) is the definition of spouse and it requires consummation if the marriage is a proxy marriage. I assume that USCIS and DoS look at Utah online marriages as proxy marriages even though Utah doesn't.
Now, however, I was reading the Respect for Marriage Act.
It amended 1 U.S. Code § 7 to read (emphasis is mine)
The word "any" means any federal law. This includes INA because it is a federal law. The text of the Respect for Marriage Act doesn't exclude immigration law. Thus, if a person gets married properly according to Utah law through the online ceremony and the marriage is valid in Utah because the marriage was, to quote the RMA, "entered into" in Utah, then USCIS cannot deny your application for lack of consummation. They can deny your application if they believe you just got married for a green card and they think your relationship isn't real. But not having a valid marriage because you didn't consummate is not one of the reasons they can deny your application. The RMA effectively overrides the consummation requirement of the INA.
Extra thoughts
There is an argument that non-consummation would make the marriage void. However according to Utah law, the non-consummation is not grounds for making a marriage void, although it could be grounds for an annulment. However, in Matter of Agoudemos, 10 I&N Dec. 444, 446-47 (BIA 1964) the BIA ruled that a voidable marriage is valid.
I assume they do this because they recognize such a marriage as a proxy marriage. However, a proxy marriage, as far as I can tell online, is not allowed in Utah. A proxy marriage is only allowed in 5 states and even then I think the requirement is that one of the person has to be in the military.
Lawyers, what are your thoughts?
I am not a lawyer.
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Background
Utah online marriages are not accepted for US immigration purposes unless it has been "consummated" because INA 101(a)(35) is the definition of spouse and it requires consummation if the marriage is a proxy marriage. I assume that USCIS and DoS look at Utah online marriages as proxy marriages even though Utah doesn't.
Now, however, I was reading the Respect for Marriage Act.
It amended 1 U.S. Code § 7 to read (emphasis is mine)
(a) For the purposes of any Federal law, rule, or regulation in which marital status is a factor, an individual shall be considered married if that individual’s marriage is between 2 individuals and is valid in the State where the marriage was entered into or, in the case of a marriage entered into outside any State, if the marriage is between 2 individuals and is valid in the place where entered into and the marriage could have been entered into in a State.My thoughts
(b) In this section, the term “State” means a State, the District of Columbia, the Commonwealth of Puerto Rico, or any other territory or possession of the United States.
(c) For purposes of subsection (a), in determining whether a marriage is valid in a State or the place where entered into, if outside of any State, only the law of the jurisdiction applicable at the time the marriage was entered into may be considered.
The word "any" means any federal law. This includes INA because it is a federal law. The text of the Respect for Marriage Act doesn't exclude immigration law. Thus, if a person gets married properly according to Utah law through the online ceremony and the marriage is valid in Utah because the marriage was, to quote the RMA, "entered into" in Utah, then USCIS cannot deny your application for lack of consummation. They can deny your application if they believe you just got married for a green card and they think your relationship isn't real. But not having a valid marriage because you didn't consummate is not one of the reasons they can deny your application. The RMA effectively overrides the consummation requirement of the INA.
Extra thoughts
There is an argument that non-consummation would make the marriage void. However according to Utah law, the non-consummation is not grounds for making a marriage void, although it could be grounds for an annulment. However, in Matter of Agoudemos, 10 I&N Dec. 444, 446-47 (BIA 1964) the BIA ruled that a voidable marriage is valid.
I assume they do this because they recognize such a marriage as a proxy marriage. However, a proxy marriage, as far as I can tell online, is not allowed in Utah. A proxy marriage is only allowed in 5 states and even then I think the requirement is that one of the person has to be in the military.
Lawyers, what are your thoughts?
I am not a lawyer.
2024.05.20 01:05 IseKai_MC Origami above (almost) everyone - DAL vol 10 cover + some illustrations
 | Hello guys, since I read Date a Live, I realized that the novel has a certain quality that even more popular and cult novels do not have and that seems to go unnoticed by the fandom, the covers. Yes, the covers are spectacular and break away from the standard of most LNs, there is not just fanservice, there is not just a character striking a cool pose, we actually have covers with a certain visual narrative, whether a connection with the highlighted spirit itself or with the story itself and I will be pleased to show this to you, here are the rules: submitted by IseKai_MC to datealive [link] [comments]
https://preview.redd.it/erh6epoirg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aff919953d6ba578e05b05deeb01f60b64a7bee0
Calm down, my boy, you haven’t missed anything, in fact I promised plot twists and we have one right on the cover. As for the spirit Origami, I want to draw attention to two things. The first is obviously her astral dress which is a wedding dress, each astral dress follows the taste of its spirit user and Origami as a child had the dream of being a wife, but there is much more than that, so this Astral Dress is a small hint of the main plot, this will become clearer in the Spirit Info topic. The second is about the facial expression, Origami looks like she is waking up, this may symbolize that she has just become a spirit, it may be a premonition of the plot of this volume, which deals with Origami discovering the truth about her past. But this expression will be referenced in a scene that will happen 7 volumes later, when we get there I will talk about it.
Again the subtitle cites the spirit’s surname, the other time this happened was in the volume 4, Sister Itsuka, clearly there is a connection here as the Tenguu-Nankou fire was a relevant event for both spirits, I also believe that the work opts to use surnames if we already know the spirit of the cover and the main reason is that Tobiichi is written with the character 1, let’s go to the next topic.
That is, Origami, among the spirits, is the closest to God. But it’s still too early to talk about this. And yes, spirit number 10 is on the cover of volume 1 and spirit number 1 is on the cover of volume 10, I would have liked to come here and say that I discovered this but Tachibana put this information in the afterword. Her codename is "Angel", again this word, the name of the angel is Metatron.
The scenario is a bit hidden, there are some debris there but nothing that allows to fully identify the scene but obviously there is a fire happening there, which is obviously a reference to that relevant event again, the great fire in Tenguu-Nankou. I don’t even need to say how relevant this event is to Origami’s life, in her first illustration in volume 1, she says: “Five years ago a spirit killed my parents.” Finally, in my opinion this is one of the best covers, again, just imagine you go to the convenience store to buy this newly released volume and find out that Origami is a spirit, just by the shock the value is already high, if you already know the story of the anime and stop to analyze the cover, the value is double the previous one, if you know the whole story of Date a Live, and try to analyze the cover in a deeper way, the value is the squared of the previous one. Let’s open the volume. {Illustration 2} https://preview.redd.it/c4ugx8zkrg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d18e1c3a7176fb4e57acb7a7416e3183d5d526c7 There’s something different about this volume, the compositions have improved a lot, apparently a reflection of the success of the animation. The high school student and protagonist of this story, Shido Itsuka, says: “Tohka and the other girls just want a normal life.” But wait, Shido is tied to a chair in a strange room and there in the middle is a bottle of water. Ok, it seems that Origami really changed sides. The wizard who hates spirits is unyielding and responds that she will not only kill the spirits, “but also the entity that made me have a relationship with them.” In the middle of the illustration there is a crack in the wall, symbolic. {Illustration 3} https://preview.redd.it/7twwgnymrg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=11bdb8e276eacb62eaf9ed7b353a704e5d8818c2 Another plot twist, Tohka is in full astral dress. And not only that, the spirit Tohka is making a declaration of hatred to Origami. “Origami Tobiichi, I have hated you from the beginning, but the hatred I feel for you now is probably different from the hatred I used to have before and for that reason, this time I will intend to kill you, don’t die, Origami.” Despite everything, this is a cute declaration because for the first time Tohka calls Origami by her name and not satisfied asks Origami to resist because even though she is angry, she does not want to kill Origami. Tohka will gain a little development in this volume, hence the illustration, we will talk about this scene later. {Illustration 4} https://preview.redd.it/e459j6oprg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5bf272291179a955d8f2f06f1e7aea1bd4abcf4e Gentlemen, one of the best illustrations of DAL. The spirit Origami says: “Metatron!” Tohka says: “Origami, why did you become a spirit!?” In a great composition by Tsunako, Tohka and Origami are referencing the positions of their sephiroth in the tree of life. Origami appears in a superior position, distant from the “camera” and in front of the sun representing illumination, Kether, while the representative of the Kingdom, Malkhut, is in a much lower position, in the foreground and with her back to the reader. So, besides everything, they are staring at each other, symbolizing the mirroring already mentioned before. And speaking of mirroring, do you remember the illustration I asked you to keep? As I know I asked a lot I will make it easier for you, I am talking about the mono illustration number 9 of volume 2, I warned that that image would be mirrored and there it is. In the aforementioned image Origami was still wearing a basic CR Unit from AST and Tohka for the first time debuted in her limited astral dress, the reader’s angle, our angle, brought Origami almost back in the foreground, in the image now the camera position has inversed and now we are with the vision of Tohka. A great illustration but what generates more content here for sure are the illustrations of the table of contents, I’m sure the next one will please some people here. {Table of contents} https://preview.redd.it/pk2fbzqsrg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a97157f277b2b04ba05100a26aa8f41b9d96d5a1 Look who’s back, Kurumi Tokisaki, it’s been a while since I’ve talked about “The worst spirit.” But there’s nothing enigmatic here, it’s just Kurumi from the back (we’ve seen and will see many backs in this volume) and as for the phrase, she just stole Kotori’s catchphrase, I’m sure she wouldn’t be happy if another character started saying “ara ara” around. Anyway, just having Kurumi here is hype enough because, whether you like the girl or not, just her being here is a sign that something relevant is going to happen. {Mono Illustration 5} https://preview.redd.it/q15slhcwrg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b701c43f35ccc5fbfc6be162cd2d428c19ae3817 Ellen seems confident, on the other hand Kotori seems impatient. To ensure that Fraxinus does not interfere with Origami’s fight, Ellen plans to use the newest toy that DEM has manufactured, the Goetia ship (another name related to magic and occultism). Ellen and Kotori have a small dialogue where Shido’s sister tries to provoke THE STRONGEST WIZARD IN THE WORLD, but Miss Matthers is calm today, at least until she mentions Woodman. The duel is unavoidable. {Mono Illustration 6} https://preview.redd.it/0a44e2fzrg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9f961966e5f536bd04af5f7325a8d7c98dcb9cce There is a lot to talk about here, let’s start with the context. Origami challenged the spirits Tohka, Yamais, and Miku to a fight to the death and by being equipped with the CR-Unit Mordred, Origami is able to build an advantage in the fight, she leaves Tohka unconscious and hurts the other 3 a lot, the former sergeant-major decides to start the killing by Yuzuru, precisely the spirit she got along with the most. It is at this moment that Tohka wakes up and seeing this whole scene she begins to go through the inversion process, but Tohka manages to interrupt this process, two passages stand out. “This power would not save anyone.” She didn’t want to save just Kaguya, Yuzuru, and Miku, she wanted to save Origami too. “She was an arrogant, violent, uneducated, and foul-mouthed girl, Tohka never knew what was going on in the mind of that girl who always bothered her. Even so, Tohka wanted to hold that girl’s hands.” Tohka says: “Shido, lend me your strength.” And she gets her full powers back. And so the two engage in a really cool fight, at this moment the narration becomes from Origami’s point of view, there is a detailing about the features of Mordred and the fighting movements, time passes a little and Origami begins to feel too confident. She begins to ramble about having the ability to kill spirits, she begins to think about the death of her parents, about what she saw in the DEM report of the fire in Tenguu-Nankou. Clearly Origami is not well, finally her body collapses and we have an illustration. Now talking about the illustration itself, this is a reference to Mono Illustration 2 of volume 1, whose differences I highlight now. The most obvious difference is about Tohka who is no longer with that serious and empty look, here Tohka is clearly angry and screaming, in a way such expressiveness demonstrates how much this girl has developed. Still about Tohka, this time it is she who is making an attack movement, but there is no blood in this image, an indication that it was not an attack to kill. The other difference is about Origami, in that illustration I quote how much the “expressionless” Origami demonstrated tension, effort, and pressure, and I highlight the drop of sweat on her face. Something we can’t do here because this time Origami is with her back to the “camera” not allowing us to see her eyes. “The eyes are the window to the soul” So not showing the eyes is a strong symbolism, you can’t read the person’s emotions, you can’t even recognize the person, humanity is taken from the person and about this, this is the last illustration in which Origami Tobiichi is still human, because… {Mono illustration 7} https://preview.redd.it/1x6bx464sg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b88de0aa5fbe00002ce78523b449d149d102302f Origami became a spirit. “Hey, is it power that you desire?” “What are you?” Origami used [What] instead of [Who] in reflex. [It] might have guessed what she meant and laughed as if it found it funny. “What I am doesn’t matter now.” After becoming spirit Origami, without delay, she goes to Tohka and then we have the illustration which is of Origami using Metatron’s Shemesh skill. {Mono Illustration 9} https://preview.redd.it/43ary5y9sg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=25ec601b07e71cd20bc3f1061f2dd8f32daa25df Ara, ara. Origami was so crazy that it was only after seeing Shido and running away from there that this girl began to understand the points, mainly about who gave her the spirit powers, the mysterious “Phantom”. She reflects a little more and realizes that a certain spirit may have the ability to go back in time. About the illustration itself, another beautiful composition by Tsunako, in it we can contemplate Kurumi, apparently on a terrace, with building lights, Kurumi appears joyful in seeing Origami. “It’s been a long time, Origami-san!” As for Origami, again she is with her back turned and carrying a clone of Kurumi. The anime softened but here in the novel Origami seems to have returned the “affection” that Kurumi had done to her in volume 3 in the form of a very strong “massage”. But the clone does not seem to have liked it. “I did not come here to fight.” “Among the 12 bullets, is there one that can go back in time?” Kurumi makes a little suspense but answers that, yes, there is, Origami asks her to lend her this bullet. At first Kurumi denies, but since we are talking a little more about the Kabbalah, the Sephiroth of the worst spirit is Binah, the understanding, realizing that Tobiichi would not leave there without a “yes” as an answer Kurumi asks “why?” “I want to go back 5 years and kill the spirit that killed my parents.” At this moment the narration enters Kurumi’s thoughts, she begins to think that Origami came to her because she felt so invincible and therefore would force Kurumi to do what she wants, if necessary. But then Kurumi begins to think that it was just a miscalculation by the girl, a miscalculation caused by the temptation to change the past. “And Kurumi understood so much that it even hurt.” Kurumi accepts but will not do this for free, time travel would cost a lot of lifetime, but that would not be a problem since now Origami has plenty of it. {Mono Illustration 10} https://preview.redd.it/fyubgawdsg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e79e4113ca1068c56d0cf786c3ab77843b720e36 Origami discovered the harsh truth. She really went to the past, had a brief fight with Phantom, managed to be the first to take off Phantom’s "mask", also managed to hear Phantom’s real voice, and when she thought she had also managed to save her parents, when she looked down there was a little girl swearing Origami to death, the little girl was Origami herself 5 years ago. “I will definitely kill you!” “Who killed… my father and my mother… Was me…”
First of all, it’s a volume full of plot twists, Shido in private imprisonment, Origami fighting with the intention to kill 4 spirits at once, Fraxinus being defeated by Ellen’s Goetia, Tohka returning to use a full astral dress, Origami becoming a spirit, Origami going to the past, Origami facing Phantom, Origami killing her own parents, the illustrations end there but there’s still a lot of content, Origami inverts, Inverse Origami destroys all of Tenguu City and finally Kurumi going to Shido, Shido also being sent to the past. Entertainment and tension are not lacking here. Did you notice that the lore makes a lot of references to the first volumes? This volume also makes a point of rewarding the reader for all this time following the story, the plot twist of Origami for example, was foreshadowed back in Volume 1, when she aims at Tohka but hits and "kills" Shido, from there a big hint that Origami has the bad habit of killing, by accident, the people she loves the most. Origami was not the only character developed here, Tohka also grows and thanks the Shido’s ideology, at no time did she deny the existence of Origami and even though she said she was going to attack to kill she asked Origami not to die. Although short, Kurumi had a great participation and we were able to learn more about her and for someone who is known as “the worst spirit” she was quite kind. The only impediment for Volume 10 to sit alongside the best volumes of DAL is because most of the answers are in the next volume and when we take into consideration what both have to offer, the overall impression about Volume 10 improves, after all there is a big cliffhanger for Volume 11. Origami managed to take off Phantom’s “mask” and even hear her voice, with that we can know that Phantom is a girl and is someone Origami knows, that is, she is also someone we know. That’s it, Origami was a spirit all this time, and next we will find out how Shido and Kurumi will solve this mess. Finally, stay with this iconic phrase that Origami says in this volume, the phrase says a lot about many things in DAL. “I will now wield this power to defeat the Spirits. I will become the Spirit that kills Spirits. Once I eliminate all Spirits────I will erase the last one, me”. Previous Reviews. -volume 1 - The color of the Night. - volume 2 - Yoshinon and the Rain. - volume 3 - The smile of Kurumi. - volume 4 - Sister or Girlfriend? - volume 5 - Yamais - volume 6 - Lilies, she likes - volume 7 - The Dark of the Night. - volume 8 - What do people do on Halloween? - volume 9 - Natsumi Without Costume |
2024.05.20 00:13 Heavy-One-7963 ABYG dahil di ko na pinapansin ang sister in law, asawa ng pinsan ko, and cousin ko
21 yrs old ako currently nag aaral parin sa university so me and my sister in law had a fight before pero di ganto kalala she’s being so rude towards my mother. Lagi syang nag paparinig sa socmed ng kung ano ano sa mother ko and pinalagpas ko yun kasi lagi ko naman nasa isip na be the bigger person or wala akong mapapala kung pumatol pa ako. Before may mangyari samin may narinig na ako sakanila ulit yes po nag karoon kasi ng fiesta samin nung March nanuod kami ng munimuni nun kasama yung pinsan kong babae sobrang fan sya ng munimuni ako naman sakto lang nakikinig sakanila ganun lang. Yung sister in law ko at yung asawa ng pinsan ko ang sabi ay pinilit ko daw ang bf kong manuod ng concert (which is never kong gagawin kasi sanay naman akong mapagisa lagi) and gaya gaya daw ako sa pinsan kong babae na fan ng munimuni ganun (take note galing to sa pinsan kong nakainuman ko nasisiraan din ako) kasi ewan ko baka feeling nila since k-pop fan ako k-pop lang pinakikinggan ko.
So ayun i still talk to them treat them nicely kahit ang dami dami kong naririnig na balita na sinisiraan nila ako etc. Well we still have a beef kasi di sya nag lilinis ng bahay (take note bahay to ng nanay ko and di sya nahihiya na ganun kakalat ang bahay kahit nakikitira lang sya) kahit cr manlang sana ang linisin di magawa naka dorm kasi ako malayo ang bahay namin sa university lingguhan ako umuwi samin and every time na uuwi ako need ko mag linis ng bahay kasi as in parang binagyo ang bahay i have allergies kaya ayoko ng magabok na bahay yung cr namin mukang public cubicle na sa dumi we have yellow walls sa cr at dahil di na siguro nalilinis naging orange na we have blue tiles na nagiging brown na yung damit nila hinahayaan lang nila sa cr na mabasa hanggang bumaho na lagi ko naman sinasabi sa kanila na tagtagin nila ang damit nila sa cr nakasi ang baho but ang ginagawa lang nila ay wala so even na umuuwi ako dati ang nililinis ko na lang ay cr at nilalagay ang damit nila sa mag sulok bahala na sila. Even at my brother nagagalit na ako kasi it always triggers my allergies pag umuuwi ako but parang wala lang sakanila yun.
So eto na dito na nag simula yung di ko pag pansin sakanilang tatlo. Before all of this happened me and my cousin drink one on one we talk a lot then naalala ko na i shared something to her na hindi na kami nag iinuman nung asawa ng pinsan ko because she did something and say something that offended us. March 28 nag swimming kaming mag pipinsan at kasama namin yung nakainuman kong pinsan ko (btw she’s just 16 or 17) still not legally allowed to drink kasama din namin yung ate nya. I tried so hard na makisali sya samin without drinking or anything pero di talaga sya nakikisali a few day after ng swimming namin nakita ko silang nag paparinig sa fb and day mga first week ng april yun. I shrugged it off kasi hindi ko naman alam kung sino nanaman pinaparinggan nila pero napansin ko isa sa shared post nila ay “gaya gaya” daw so i think ako to. Inintay kong kausapin nila ako kasi baka gusto lang nila since they never heard my side. Days turns to week na ganun parin sila para silang high school war freak na aabangan ako sa gate haha.
So ayun lumabas lahat ng pinagusapan namin nung nag outing kami (nag karoon kasi kami ng labasan ng sama ng loob ng mga pinsan ko kasi nag iinuman na kami) na pinag kataka taka namin kasi lahat ng kasama sa outing namin ay hindi naman close sa kanila para mag share ng ganun so naisip namin na baka yung pinsan namin na nakasama ko sa inuman ang nag labas as in lahat nang yare nung araw na yun. She also mentioned na hindi naman daw sya nag enjoy nun na kasama kami (di ko alam kasi baka di sya pinayagan uminom ng ate nya) she also mentioned kung sinong mag kakatabi.
Then my other sister in law talks to me na ayun nga sinisiraan na ako nung pinsan ko sa isa kong sister in law at asawa ng cousin ko ang sabi ko daw ay wag na daw sya pumunta dun sa tindahan ng sister in law ko kasi sinisiraan lang daw naman sya nun which is never kong sasabihin kasi kumikita sya dun ng pera pake ko ba sakanya kung gusto nyang sumama dun or not kasi hello di naman ako ang nag papa-sweldo sakanya. I think madami pa syang dinagdag kasi as in gigil na gigil sakin yung dalawa. Eto namang asawa ng pinsan ko hindi ko alam kung bakit nagagalit sakin e ang sinabi ko lang naman ay ayoko na syang makainuman because of something she did and say she really disrespectful toward some people she always say na prangka sya no she’s so disrespectful na umaabot sa punto na kahit di nya kilala kung ano anong sinasabi nya. They disrespected me at social media call me names (well sanay na ako na mahilig silang mang body shame at mang lait talaga). They also make fun of me saying that i stink im very hygienic person so hindi ko alam kung saan nila nakuha yun e sila nga tong gumagamit ng sabon pang hugas ng private area nila tas pang hugas pa ng muka nila. Hanggang ngayon di parin nila ako kinaka-usap about dun pero sa lahat ng nakita kong mangungutya nila sakin sa socmed i had enough no more bigger person bahala na sila. And for my cousin na kung ano anong paninira ang ginawa sakin and now nag papaawa na hindi ko daw sya kinakausap haha hanap na syang kakampi nya and i hope i really hope na worth it lahat ng pinag gagawa nya.
Btw she really had a guts na mag patulong sakin sa research nya after lahat lahat ng mga ginawa nya sakin one of them said na b0b0 ako so bakit di sya mag patulong dun. And it’s funny na sabihan ako ng b0b0 e hinahanap nga nya ang RRL sa chatgpt HAHAHA
Abyg dahil di ko na nga pinapasin sila until now?
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So ayun i still talk to them treat them nicely kahit ang dami dami kong naririnig na balita na sinisiraan nila ako etc. Well we still have a beef kasi di sya nag lilinis ng bahay (take note bahay to ng nanay ko and di sya nahihiya na ganun kakalat ang bahay kahit nakikitira lang sya) kahit cr manlang sana ang linisin di magawa naka dorm kasi ako malayo ang bahay namin sa university lingguhan ako umuwi samin and every time na uuwi ako need ko mag linis ng bahay kasi as in parang binagyo ang bahay i have allergies kaya ayoko ng magabok na bahay yung cr namin mukang public cubicle na sa dumi we have yellow walls sa cr at dahil di na siguro nalilinis naging orange na we have blue tiles na nagiging brown na yung damit nila hinahayaan lang nila sa cr na mabasa hanggang bumaho na lagi ko naman sinasabi sa kanila na tagtagin nila ang damit nila sa cr nakasi ang baho but ang ginagawa lang nila ay wala so even na umuuwi ako dati ang nililinis ko na lang ay cr at nilalagay ang damit nila sa mag sulok bahala na sila. Even at my brother nagagalit na ako kasi it always triggers my allergies pag umuuwi ako but parang wala lang sakanila yun.
So eto na dito na nag simula yung di ko pag pansin sakanilang tatlo. Before all of this happened me and my cousin drink one on one we talk a lot then naalala ko na i shared something to her na hindi na kami nag iinuman nung asawa ng pinsan ko because she did something and say something that offended us. March 28 nag swimming kaming mag pipinsan at kasama namin yung nakainuman kong pinsan ko (btw she’s just 16 or 17) still not legally allowed to drink kasama din namin yung ate nya. I tried so hard na makisali sya samin without drinking or anything pero di talaga sya nakikisali a few day after ng swimming namin nakita ko silang nag paparinig sa fb and day mga first week ng april yun. I shrugged it off kasi hindi ko naman alam kung sino nanaman pinaparinggan nila pero napansin ko isa sa shared post nila ay “gaya gaya” daw so i think ako to. Inintay kong kausapin nila ako kasi baka gusto lang nila since they never heard my side. Days turns to week na ganun parin sila para silang high school war freak na aabangan ako sa gate haha.
So ayun lumabas lahat ng pinagusapan namin nung nag outing kami (nag karoon kasi kami ng labasan ng sama ng loob ng mga pinsan ko kasi nag iinuman na kami) na pinag kataka taka namin kasi lahat ng kasama sa outing namin ay hindi naman close sa kanila para mag share ng ganun so naisip namin na baka yung pinsan namin na nakasama ko sa inuman ang nag labas as in lahat nang yare nung araw na yun. She also mentioned na hindi naman daw sya nag enjoy nun na kasama kami (di ko alam kasi baka di sya pinayagan uminom ng ate nya) she also mentioned kung sinong mag kakatabi.
Then my other sister in law talks to me na ayun nga sinisiraan na ako nung pinsan ko sa isa kong sister in law at asawa ng cousin ko ang sabi ko daw ay wag na daw sya pumunta dun sa tindahan ng sister in law ko kasi sinisiraan lang daw naman sya nun which is never kong sasabihin kasi kumikita sya dun ng pera pake ko ba sakanya kung gusto nyang sumama dun or not kasi hello di naman ako ang nag papa-sweldo sakanya. I think madami pa syang dinagdag kasi as in gigil na gigil sakin yung dalawa. Eto namang asawa ng pinsan ko hindi ko alam kung bakit nagagalit sakin e ang sinabi ko lang naman ay ayoko na syang makainuman because of something she did and say she really disrespectful toward some people she always say na prangka sya no she’s so disrespectful na umaabot sa punto na kahit di nya kilala kung ano anong sinasabi nya. They disrespected me at social media call me names (well sanay na ako na mahilig silang mang body shame at mang lait talaga). They also make fun of me saying that i stink im very hygienic person so hindi ko alam kung saan nila nakuha yun e sila nga tong gumagamit ng sabon pang hugas ng private area nila tas pang hugas pa ng muka nila. Hanggang ngayon di parin nila ako kinaka-usap about dun pero sa lahat ng nakita kong mangungutya nila sakin sa socmed i had enough no more bigger person bahala na sila. And for my cousin na kung ano anong paninira ang ginawa sakin and now nag papaawa na hindi ko daw sya kinakausap haha hanap na syang kakampi nya and i hope i really hope na worth it lahat ng pinag gagawa nya.
Btw she really had a guts na mag patulong sakin sa research nya after lahat lahat ng mga ginawa nya sakin one of them said na b0b0 ako so bakit di sya mag patulong dun. And it’s funny na sabihan ako ng b0b0 e hinahanap nga nya ang RRL sa chatgpt HAHAHA
Abyg dahil di ko na nga pinapasin sila until now?
2024.05.20 00:05 Big-Restaurant-2766 “The Harvest”; The Earth is Doomed. What are Your Thoughts on Season 1, Episode 2?
 | “The Harvest”; The Earth is Doomed. submitted by Big-Restaurant-2766 to buffy [link] [comments] These posts are me sharing my thoughts and opinions, you are always allowed to disagree. I make these posts to share my thoughts and see others. 💙 Title Sequence; I’ve always thought the opening credits are so cool and especially nostalgic this season. But I do prefer the later version of the theme, it just has that *kick* to it that’s hard to explain, that this version just doesn't have. It just needs that extra sound at the end. Underground Church; I just have to say the underground church idea and setting is so cool. If I think of the other villains' hang out spots, this ones probably one of the coolest. The second would be the Crawford Street mansion that Dursilla, Angelus and Spike stay in. The Trio’s lair is okay. The Mayor saying at the City Hall is okay but kind of dull setting wise, same with Glory’s mansion, and I guess the hideous rebuilt Sunnydale High School basement for The First. I forgot about Adam lol, I’m so sorry. “Welcome to the New World”; Hehe, double meaning! Sorry, just a tiny random note. Principal Flutie; He isn’t too bad, just a guy doing this job, certainly much better than Snyder. Flutie is actually just being strict because it’s actually going against the rules other than that he’s a pretty chill principle. While Synder on the hand just has it out for Buffy. “I’m Less Than Man”; I don’t like when these characters are like little mirrors that remind me of all the bad parts of myself lol. Don’t get me wrong, I actually do like Xander. But whenever Buffy refuses to let him go along or help he has a little self pity party, I even notice it all the way in season 6 and 7, like when he slaps the car. It’s okay, Xander, I’ve done it too. But it isn’t just him she refuses to let help her, she does it to the other scoobies too. It kind of makes me sad but also Xander acts like it’s just him and tries to pull some kind of guilt trip. Harmony; I’m so used to her as a vampire that it’s so odd seeing her as just regular high school Harmony. And is that a unicorn on her shirt? Cute. Willow and Cordy as the Victim; I have noticed a lot they switch between putting Cordy and Willow in danger a lot these 3 seasons. In season 4, it changes to Tara and then eventually Dawn. Though, Cordelia does have a really good, horror movie worthy scream. Bent that Door like Nothing; I was watching this episode with my mom one time and told her the way the break through that door reminds me of Zombies, they spook me. Then Angel: The Series decided to go all survival horror on me, not cool. Oh, and “Dead Man’s Party” but that wasn’t as bad. Also I always thought that the noises the vampires make sounded like tigers. The Master; Another thing from when I was watching Buffy with my mom, I would call the Master “Alien” and she would glare at me. That aside, he works really well in that underground church. Sometimes I wonder if that scene between the Master and Luke would be the equivalent of how a vampire wedding would play out, that’s a joke. “If You Don’t Go Out It Will Be the End of the World”; It’s funny because in Buffy’s case it’s very much true and Joyce has no idea how literal what she just said is. But a good way to work a metaphor I got to say. Jesse McNally; I always thought it was kind of sad how they never mention him again. We have Xander who kicks a trash can and mentions that “he doesn’t like vampires and he’s going to take a stand and say they’re not very good” but that’s it. Random Thing that Amuses Me; I love when Cordy asks “Okay, now how do we save it?” And Willow tells her “Deliver”. Then she hits delete and it’s all gone! The slow realization on her face is hilarious too. Also everything that Jesse says. Or, Cordy calling that other girl “Motormouth” as she is the one who keeps speaking. Favorite Quote of the Episode; “There's something you forgot about, too... Sunrise! It's in about nine hours, moron.” or Buffy: “So, Giles, got anything that could make this day any worse?” Giles: “How about the end of the world?” Buffy: “Knew I could count on you.” Favorite Soundtrack of the Episode; “Ballad of Dead Friends” by Dashboard Prophets. And I love the score that plays when Angel appears and Buffy’s trying to open the door, it plays again in the episode “Angel”. The scores of season 1 have such a different vibe then the rest of the show but I love them too. Favorite Outfit of the Episode; Willow’s overalls are so cute! And Xander’s green mushroom shirt has always stood out to me and I love the chain on his pants. Buffy and Xander both have cute hair. Favorite Moment of the Episode; At the end, when they are talking together and Giles says “The Earth is Doomed”. What Are Your Thoughts on Buffy The Vampire Slayer Season 1, Episode 2: “The Harvest”? https://preview.redd.it/auo264dkhg1d1.jpg?width=1920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e7c5b4ae2ccc5ef74989cb805e3aad2ba9185905 |
2024.05.19 23:53 karma_is_my_bf13 I (33f) think I just got “Dear Johned” by my deployed husband (35m). What do I do now?
I moved to a new state with my husband about two months before he deployed. It has been very difficult making friends as I work from home. Even before deactivating my social media, it was very difficult making friends using social media group pages. He has been gone several months and while it hasn’t been easy, because I’m constantly alone, I thought it was going okay.
He emailed me last week, after going radio silent, telling me how much he is struggling and how unhappy he is. Shared that a lot of it is my fault. He doesn’t feel comfortable opening up to me and never will. To preface this, this happened after 5 days of no talking after a “fight”. I put it in quotes because I was genuinely trying to avoid a fight. We were talking on messenger. He was giving me one or two word answers to everything and I started getting frustrated. So I told him I was gonna let him go and to have a good night and I love him. He asked me what he did wrong and I told him nothing. He said I love you too and immediately logged off. I messaged him back explaining that it felt like I was trying to pull teeth talking to him and I know he is exhausted and stressed so instead of hurting my own feelings I would rather get offline. He never opened the message. I also sent him a screen shot about something funny his brother shared with me so he could get context about what I was asking and knew it wasn’t a big deal. But again, he never opened the message.
Five days later is when I received the aforementioned email; he was purposely ignoring me. He had promised me multiple times before that he wouldn’t do that sort of thing again (this was now the fourth time) and this one was by far the longest. I sometimes struggle knowing how to respond because when he shares that I’m upset about something, he gets the context completely wrong. For example, he thinks I get mad at him for talking to his family. That’s not true at all. I get upset that we get to talk for what seems to be a few hours online, and he’s not really participating in sharing anything. I have to ask questions, I get one or two word answers back and that’s it. I try not to push but sometimes I need the communication to feel connected. He doesn’t tell me he misses me, he doesn’t call me babe or honey (he used to) I know he is struggling, and I’m by no means saying I have it worse, but on the boat, he has explicitly told me that he doesn’t like anyone, he doesn’t trust anyone and he absolutely hates this command. I don’t really have any friends but my isolation is not quite self induced.
I responded to his email explaining my side of things, and apologizing for not creating a space for him to feel comfortable to talk to me. That’s literally all I’ve tried to do but he just seems to feel pressure when talking to me. I genuinely believe his stress, anxiety and lack of sleep are highly contributing to his emotional and mental distress. Add that he is in a combat zone and I’m sure its worse. He won’t tell me that though, usually just says he’s not at all worried or makes a really dumb joke about it.
I all but begged him to please let me know if all he needs is space, that I want to support him but the silence is torture to me. I have an anxious attachment style (he is avoidant) so I tend to think worst case scenario. So I requested that he please put my mind at ease that he’s not considering ending our marriage.
Three days later he sends me a very long email talking about how he is not looking forward to coming home, and isnt because we couldn’t get thru a deployment without fighting; that he wants to go to his childhood home to see his family. That we don’t want the same things. That I’m happy where we moved to and he is not. He only chose these orders and the last orders to be close to his family. He hates that I don’t get along with his family and that I don’t really want to move there when he retires.
Let me explain that he lives in a very tiny town where there isn’t even a grocery store. I literally would not have a career within an hour of his town. We had agreed that we could live an hour away, like one of his brothers does and it would still be close enough to his family. Also, his family has been quite rude to me. I have been mending fences with them for the sake of my husband. I don’t care where we live in the grand scheme of things, but I still need to have a job and his father and that side of the family very much abuse alcohol. They are also very ignorant and racist. My husband already struggles with over drinking. That’s not something I want to raise a family around as they can be verbally abusive when drunk, and you never know what’s going to trigger them. They have no goals nor aspirations in life, and that’s okay, but I do/ we did… I thought. My husbands goal is to retire from the service and go home. I was willing to go close (1-2 hours which he had agreed) to his home because I have a while before I can retire.
He proceeded to talk about how he was miserable with his ex wife and doesn’t want to spend six year with me, like he did with her, thinking marriage was supposed to be an unhappy union. That he stayed with her that long because he didn’t want it to fail; also because she convinced him things would get better. They never did, in fact I believe there was some infidelity on her side. He continued on about nonsense, like how he wants the mirrors in our house to stay but I wanted to change them and he has completely given up on having a say on how to update the house we bought. For the record, I left the mirrros the way he wanted. I picked paint colors I knew he would like.
Next, he mentioned how we had gotten in a fight right before moving and in haste, I told him to leave me there. he considered that we do end it then but we agreed to keep going because even though we struggle with communication, we do love each other and want to continue our marriage as overall we are pretty happy.
He ended the email explaining that he has not been happy for a while, has been struggling and while we work good together, he doesn’t believe we are right for each other. That I need to look within and figure out if I am happy in the relationship. That he doesn’t care about my answer but he is not at all happy.That he will never be able to communicate the way I want and he has made more changes for me, like attend couples counseling and anger management, than he ever would have for anyone else.
There are still a few months left to this deployment. I literally have no idea where that leaves me. I’m hurt as shit. I’m angry. I’m confused and frustrated. Not once on this deployment have I even mentioned splitting. Month two was the first time he mentioned divorce. We got past that hurdle and month three he mentioned that we should consider getting pregnant when he gets back. Then some stupid issue comes up and the cycle of being angry and fine continues. In fact, I all but beg him to not leave me when he has these outbursts. I feel stupid.
He is not one to ask for help. He clearly needs help but I have no idea what to do. It’s clear he doesn’t want anything to do with me.
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He emailed me last week, after going radio silent, telling me how much he is struggling and how unhappy he is. Shared that a lot of it is my fault. He doesn’t feel comfortable opening up to me and never will. To preface this, this happened after 5 days of no talking after a “fight”. I put it in quotes because I was genuinely trying to avoid a fight. We were talking on messenger. He was giving me one or two word answers to everything and I started getting frustrated. So I told him I was gonna let him go and to have a good night and I love him. He asked me what he did wrong and I told him nothing. He said I love you too and immediately logged off. I messaged him back explaining that it felt like I was trying to pull teeth talking to him and I know he is exhausted and stressed so instead of hurting my own feelings I would rather get offline. He never opened the message. I also sent him a screen shot about something funny his brother shared with me so he could get context about what I was asking and knew it wasn’t a big deal. But again, he never opened the message.
Five days later is when I received the aforementioned email; he was purposely ignoring me. He had promised me multiple times before that he wouldn’t do that sort of thing again (this was now the fourth time) and this one was by far the longest. I sometimes struggle knowing how to respond because when he shares that I’m upset about something, he gets the context completely wrong. For example, he thinks I get mad at him for talking to his family. That’s not true at all. I get upset that we get to talk for what seems to be a few hours online, and he’s not really participating in sharing anything. I have to ask questions, I get one or two word answers back and that’s it. I try not to push but sometimes I need the communication to feel connected. He doesn’t tell me he misses me, he doesn’t call me babe or honey (he used to) I know he is struggling, and I’m by no means saying I have it worse, but on the boat, he has explicitly told me that he doesn’t like anyone, he doesn’t trust anyone and he absolutely hates this command. I don’t really have any friends but my isolation is not quite self induced.
I responded to his email explaining my side of things, and apologizing for not creating a space for him to feel comfortable to talk to me. That’s literally all I’ve tried to do but he just seems to feel pressure when talking to me. I genuinely believe his stress, anxiety and lack of sleep are highly contributing to his emotional and mental distress. Add that he is in a combat zone and I’m sure its worse. He won’t tell me that though, usually just says he’s not at all worried or makes a really dumb joke about it.
I all but begged him to please let me know if all he needs is space, that I want to support him but the silence is torture to me. I have an anxious attachment style (he is avoidant) so I tend to think worst case scenario. So I requested that he please put my mind at ease that he’s not considering ending our marriage.
Three days later he sends me a very long email talking about how he is not looking forward to coming home, and isnt because we couldn’t get thru a deployment without fighting; that he wants to go to his childhood home to see his family. That we don’t want the same things. That I’m happy where we moved to and he is not. He only chose these orders and the last orders to be close to his family. He hates that I don’t get along with his family and that I don’t really want to move there when he retires.
Let me explain that he lives in a very tiny town where there isn’t even a grocery store. I literally would not have a career within an hour of his town. We had agreed that we could live an hour away, like one of his brothers does and it would still be close enough to his family. Also, his family has been quite rude to me. I have been mending fences with them for the sake of my husband. I don’t care where we live in the grand scheme of things, but I still need to have a job and his father and that side of the family very much abuse alcohol. They are also very ignorant and racist. My husband already struggles with over drinking. That’s not something I want to raise a family around as they can be verbally abusive when drunk, and you never know what’s going to trigger them. They have no goals nor aspirations in life, and that’s okay, but I do/ we did… I thought. My husbands goal is to retire from the service and go home. I was willing to go close (1-2 hours which he had agreed) to his home because I have a while before I can retire.
He proceeded to talk about how he was miserable with his ex wife and doesn’t want to spend six year with me, like he did with her, thinking marriage was supposed to be an unhappy union. That he stayed with her that long because he didn’t want it to fail; also because she convinced him things would get better. They never did, in fact I believe there was some infidelity on her side. He continued on about nonsense, like how he wants the mirrors in our house to stay but I wanted to change them and he has completely given up on having a say on how to update the house we bought. For the record, I left the mirrros the way he wanted. I picked paint colors I knew he would like.
Next, he mentioned how we had gotten in a fight right before moving and in haste, I told him to leave me there. he considered that we do end it then but we agreed to keep going because even though we struggle with communication, we do love each other and want to continue our marriage as overall we are pretty happy.
He ended the email explaining that he has not been happy for a while, has been struggling and while we work good together, he doesn’t believe we are right for each other. That I need to look within and figure out if I am happy in the relationship. That he doesn’t care about my answer but he is not at all happy.That he will never be able to communicate the way I want and he has made more changes for me, like attend couples counseling and anger management, than he ever would have for anyone else.
There are still a few months left to this deployment. I literally have no idea where that leaves me. I’m hurt as shit. I’m angry. I’m confused and frustrated. Not once on this deployment have I even mentioned splitting. Month two was the first time he mentioned divorce. We got past that hurdle and month three he mentioned that we should consider getting pregnant when he gets back. Then some stupid issue comes up and the cycle of being angry and fine continues. In fact, I all but beg him to not leave me when he has these outbursts. I feel stupid.
He is not one to ask for help. He clearly needs help but I have no idea what to do. It’s clear he doesn’t want anything to do with me.
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