Hello Guys,
I have made a list of top Hair Iron Curlers according to what Redditors like the most. I've made this this after reading a lot of discussions on different subreddits and According to my insights these are the most liked Iron Curlers by redditors:
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Top Hair Iron Curlers 2024

1. GHD Curve Creative Curl Wand
2. Beachwaver PRO Curling Iron
3. Shark HD430 FlexStyle Air Styling & Drying System
4. T3 CurlWrap 1.25″ Automatic Rotating Curling Iron
5. Bio Ionic NanoIonic MX Long Barrel Curling Iron
6. Infinty Pro by Conair Secret Automatic Curling Iron
7. Ion Golden Titanium Curling
8. Iron Dyson Airwrap

GHD Curve Creative Curl Wand:
The GHD has a unique design, with a tapered barrel that starts off round and graduates to a flat oval at the top, tapering from 1-inch to 0.9-inch. Both of these traits keep the curls from molding into a strategically tapered curl, which can sometimes look too perfect and unnatural. The slight taper and the gritty finish of the barrel keeps the hair from sliding down as it can do with a barrel that has a super-glossy finish.
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Beachwaver PRO Curling Iron:
Beachwaver Pro is an innovative professional rotating curling iron invented by celebrity hairstylist Sarah Potempa. This curling iron rotates in both directions to give you glamorous, bombshell waves with the touch of a button.
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Shark HD430 FlexStyle Air Styling & Drying System:
With the Shark Air Styling & Drying System, you can easily transform between a powerful, fast, hair dryer, and an ultra-versatile multi styler with no-heat-damage. One twist is all it takes to flex from one to the other. Attach different stylers and unlock the ability to curl, volumize, smooth, and dry. Lightweight & powerful, FlexStyle is the answer to fast, easy styling.
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T3 CurlWrap 1.25″ Automatic Rotating Curling Iron:
The T3 CurlWrap features a long, 1.25″ auto-rotating barrel and 2 SmartCurl timer settings for fast, easy, flawless curls and waves. A two-way AutoTwist switch steers effortless barrel rotation, and Digital T3 SinglePass Technology powers 9 precise heat settings for lasting curls on all hair types.
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Bio Ionic NanoIonic MX Long Barrel Curling Iron:
The Bio Ionic curling iron offers six labeled heating settings ranging from 250°F to 430°F, increasing in increments of 30°F. I chose 360°F, which the brand recommends for “normal hair.” The longer, 1.25-inch thick barrel makes it easier to curl larger sections of hair at once without forfeiting your desired style. While clamps can sometimes leave kinks in the hair that force you to redo a lock of hair, this one didn’t.
I enjoyed using this iron, but some with short or medium-length hair may find it bulky or unnecessary for achieving their desired style. On the other hand, if you have long hair that makes it difficult to get an even, tight curl from root to tip, this extra-long curling iron could be your solution.
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Infinty Pro by Conair Secret Automatic Curling Iron:
InfinitiPRO By Conair Curl Secret Auto Curler is the way to create curls that won’t quit. Select a temperature, a curl type, and a curl direction, then place a section of hair into the slot. Push START & watch hair gently wrap around the barrel.
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Ion Golden Titanium Curling:
If you’re after curls that last, you might want to give the Ion curling iron with the highest temperature a shot. It really stood out in our tests, especially for those with thick or coarse hair. People loved how it excelled in so many areas, like how easy it was to grip and maneuver, the simple controls, its compact size, and most importantly, how well it kept those curls intact.
One thing users particularly liked was that the clamp is the same length as the barrel, which is great for folks with shorter hair. And the shorter handle? Well, that keeps your hand in just the right spot to reach the thumb grip easily. Just a heads up though, the handle can get a tad warm when you crank up the heat to the max.
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Iron Dyson Airwrap:
The Airwrap is a styling tool with multiple heads and a controlled heat system. Essentially, it’s meant to be your hairdryer, straightener, and styler all in one as well as a healthier way to style your hair.
But all of this innovation comes with a sky high sticker price. If it means you’re able to swap out your hair dryer, flat iron and curling tools for one item, though, we think it’s justifiable. You can also opt for sets that target different hair types and textures, including long or short barrel sets, and attachments for kinky hair.
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📿 GOLDEN SWASTIKA

Golden Swastika is a Buddhist community that centers around normative and historical Buddhism as practiced by hundreds of millions of people around the world. It's a platform that was built as a safe space for all Buddhists of all schools worldwide.
Golden Swastika exists to be a solution to some of the problems facing Buddhist spaces online and in real life. Our mission statement directly addresses these three major problems.
🟡 MISSION STATEMENT

• 1. Preventing the Secularisation and Misrepresentation of Buddhism.

The rise of the mindfulness, new age and secular "buddhist" movements have led to a commodification of Buddhist practices in the west thanks to the rise of commercialization of Buddhist culture
This commercialization has led to a decontextualization of Buddhist practices and teachings, which has harmed the integrity and authenticity of the tradition in some western spaces. This made it so that sometimes, unfortunately, online buddhist spaces might have non-buddhist members outnumbering the real buddhist members. Which leads to misinformation and misconceptions spread unchecked.
But this community have created an environment where we can talk about buddhism, with proper moderation to prevent non-buddhist ideas or disinformation from getting away. Where we can openly talk about the marginalization facing Asian buddhists, and how Buddhism is culturally appropriated.
If you want to understand this topic better, here is more by Buddhiststuff and Eishin.
- 2. Creating a platform to give voice and power to normative Buddhism
Golden Swastika exists to fight against the modern colonial projects of culturally appropriating Buddhist cultures and call out ideas/people that perpetuate race essentialist and harmful power structures over people of color.
Buddhism and it's misrepresentations does not exist in a color-blind vacuum, and this is a space that is not afraid to talk about these issues. But many times this also comes in the form of just sharing what actual real Buddhism looks like in Buddhist-born families and countries.
- 3. Building a community that opposes both Bigotry and Sectarianism.
This space proudly opposes any form of Sectarianism and Bigotry. Golden Swastika, inspired by the dharma itself, strongly opposes hate of any kind. Racism, Xenophobia, anti-LGBTQ rtheoric etc. is not welcome here. This is a safe space, and a Buddhist one at that.
WE DO NOT TOLERATE HATEFUL APPROPRIATIONS OF THE DHARMA and we strongly oppose ANY FORM of race supremacy, nazism, colonialism, and ideologies that advocate political violence of any kind. Racism is the anti-thesis of Dharma. This community welcomes people from all ethnic and national backgrounds.
On top of that, this is a place for ALL kinds of Buddhists. Buddhists being, any legitimate lineage that earnestly follows the triple gems. Although it is inevitable that all people will have personal conclusions on which practices are good or bad, canon or not, we discourage the type of behaviour that is meant to attack or disparage a fellow buddhist tradition.
🧑 Why do you use a Swastika ❓
The swastika german nazis used were stolen from Dharmic religions and culturally appropriated.
But in truth, It is an ancient sacred symbol that represents the eternal cycle of life, theories of chakra, and the great footprints of Buddha. It is analogous with dharmachakra. It is extremely common to see it in Asia and Buddhist art.
Golden Swastika's soul is about not compromising Buddhism and Buddhist culture to appeal to western sensibilities and expectations. Swastika has been our symbol of peace for thousands of years before the Nazis appropriated it. Starting to use it back in its original meaning is the only way to recontextualise the symbol and educate people in the west of its true meaning.
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Huge thank you to Buddhiststuff, who was a reddit user that created this community, which now grew to have multiple branches all over the internet. Without him, none of this would have been possible.
sangha - A subreddit aimed at finding digital/pyhsical temples for Buddhists without temples and teachers. (temple guide)
NewBuddhists - Curated resources for beginners.
ReflectiveBuddhism - Created by one of the leaders of goldenswastika, MYkerman. A platform that enables political and race-critical critique of Buddhist spaces and the misrepresentation of the dharma.
WrongBuddhism - Created by one of the leaders of goldenswastika, Tendai-student (Eishin). A big resource of templates in the shape of individual posts that debunk various misconceptions surrounding Buddhism to be used as links or copy-paste material.
Goldenswastika's moderators entry on misconceptions surrounding Buddhism - By Buddhiststuff, Bodhiquest and others.
Join our Discord! Learn dharma, meet experienced practitioners, and make Buddhist friends! Run by Tendai-Student (eishin).
Kurosaki Buddhist - A TikTok influencer who is a member of GoldenSwastika, and showcases normative Buddhism on Tiktok.
Kermans Reflective - MYKerman's tiktok. Goldenswastika/ReflectiveBuddhism but in TikTok form.

So there's this post of the best friend last 30th of October 2023.. it said..
May mga nag paparinig dito na kung mamas boy daw spineless. Huh? Who gave you the go-ahead na mag judge ng mga lalaki na mahal ang pinanggalingan nila? Ano ka perfect ? Na hindi ka privy sa pagiging nanay sa huli? h*e please kung hindi ka toxic na tao hindi ka magsasalita ng ganyan but then again looking at your egregious track record it seems like the toxicity easily just seeps through
And I had a shared post last 26th of October 2023..
Very major major problem and red flag talaga for me ang mama's boy, myghad!! Spineless! (My caption)
Shared post:
Hello __, nakakita nga ako ng lalaki na hindi cheater, hindi palabarkada, walang bisyo pero mama's boy. Lahat nalang ng sinasabi ko sinusumbong sa nanay. Well anyway, normal lang ba na mag 2nd thoughts if malapit na ang kasal nyo? Ang dami lang talaga tumatakbo sa isip ko hahaha.
Context:
Nagkabalikan po kami ng boyfriend ko last September 2023. We were together for 3 years when I decided to ask for a break up. No 3rd party nor cheating involved. For personal growth po namin and to realize certain things din. I didn't even entertain any men in my life pa nga in the span of me being single kasi I'm still waiting for him and it's the same with him. We were still friends too in fb and from time to time but not always, we still chat. But this best friend of his, I didn't do anything bad to him nor to the rest of their tropa. His bff unfriended me the moment na we broke up. And I didn't mind din naman since I am not a friend of his.They go way back since their grade school days pa.
I've just discovered that post of his recently kasi my boyfriend sent me a link to a video meme which directs me to his best friend's wall. So I kept scrolling since I got entertained by his bff's shared memes then I finally stumbled on that post.. At first I didn't mind, but then it felt kinda familiar. I checked my wall and I landed on this post I did. At first I was still sceptical and didn't wanna assume it was intended for me since hindi din namn kami friends na. But then I remembered na he once "haha" reacted to one of my past posts and hindi na kami friends that time. So how in the world did he end up there on my post when that was not even viral. And btw my mama's boy post wasn't even for any of them, para 'yon sa newbie work colleague na everytime may problem sya sa department namin, sinusumbong sa nanay na head ng ibang dept. and yung nanay ang nag co-complain sa admin 😮‍💨. I don't think they even mattered to me that I'd make a post solely for them. Never stalked any of them either. The thing is that si bff is a bit of a mama's boy. He's spoiled and kinda rich so parang na co-compensate na wala syang trabaho and lives with his mom. Also, I was still friends sa isang babaeng tropa nila na sobrang ma intriga talaga. Remember I was told that she thought that one of my post way back then na it was intentionally for her. Na pinaparinggan ko daw. I mean did it ever occur to her that she's merely just an acquaintance and I wouldn't even bat an eye kahit ano gawin nya sa life nya? I'm not even fond of her enough for me to dedicate any post towards her. She had a history of sending and saving ss and making intriga about it. I unfriended her when I discovered the bff's post and blocked her kasi she might be snooping around. Then I realized I'm still friends with her mom, tried looking for her sa friends list kasi nakita ko pa sya on that day sa list ko.. but then hindi na. I got blocked na bigla2. And brooo, that prying, snoopy little....
I also remember that my bf told me na his bff warned him jokingly that if we ever get back together, it'd be FO between them. Ako personally, although I have to admit I got hurt. I didn't do anything wrong to any of them, we only had a fair amount of interactions and for him to say that as if he hates me down to the core like he knew me. What irks me is that my boyfriend never once slandered any of his exes, never din nag hate boyfriend ko sa any decisions nya sa realtionships kahit na sobrang toxic nya na. Parang ang unfair para sa boyfriend ko.
I sent my bf a ss and he didn't know any of it. We talked in person but I tried to be calm and logical about it. I told him I understand if his friends hate me kasi parang automatic reaction din naman of the friends would hate the ex of their friend diba? And would slander the ex. They're not my friends but his, so I understand. I never slandered any one of them because that's not really my thing and it's beneath me. I really didn't wanna come off as a drama queen to my bf, I didn't wanna burden him but i was hurt. I didn't wanna make him choose since I'm afraid of what he might say, "bros before h*es" nga sabi nila. I'm so afraid that I could cancel everyone for him but maybe not him. I'm terrified that I am nothing against his bff and it tears me. I don't want to tell him to do something about it kasi dapat automatic na sa kanya yan. It would come off like I was begging him to do so. Kasi if he's in my place, I would definitely confront my friends. They don't have the right para murahin sya, hindi ko nga sya minumura. And I don't want him to feel bad talaga sa lahat ng bagay. I'd always cheer him up and encourage him. Inaalagaan ko sya then para lang murahin ng ibang tao na hindi naman sya kilala?? I won't sit idly by that.
Sometimes I'd watch yung segment ng showtime about exes, where some girlfriends were bullied by the people around their bfs and the guys didn't really protect their gfs. Especially yung May 16 episode na mas pinili yung best friend kesa sa gf 😢. Also yung April 17 ep na the girl was bullied too.

Hello everyone,
the company I work for has fortunately decided to migrate from sophos to fortigate firewalls. I am very happy with this decision so far and have already worked through all the official Fortigate courses and I think I have a good understanding of how the firewall works.
But now to my question: What is the best way to set up ipsec VPN connections if many individual hosts have to communicate on both sides in this connection? The most obvious way would probably be 0.0.0.0 as phase 2 selectors, but unfortunately my boss and colleagues don't want that.
Do I really have to create 16 SAs if there are 4 hosts on both sides? I have already tried named addresses and addessgroups, but this has caused problems with many connections.
Maybe I am currently making a mistake and there is a very obvious and relaxed way. I would be very grateful if you could give me some tips on how to solve this.
Thank you very much!

Previously, on rewatcher's diary: https://www.reddit.com/buffy/comments/1crl8ks/rewatchers_diary_season_2_episodes_8_to_10/
On today's menu: Ted (2x11), Bad Eggs (2x12), Surprise (2x13), Innocence (2x14).
The quick thoughts: Ted is better than I thought, Bad Eggs proves that even bad Buffy is good TV, I was too tired watching Surprise and Innocence but they're as great as I remember them. On to me having too random thoughts, in a random order.
Ted

• There's a fun bit where Buffy has had enough of Ted, gets out of the house, sits on a swing(?) and calls out "vaaampires? Heeere, vampires." in a "here, kitty kitty" voice, reminiscent of how Spike called for Buffy in School Hard (2x3). Are we suggesting there's a connection between Spike and Buffy?
• When Ted says "you'll spend your best dating days [years?] locked away in a mental institution", that hits harder when you know—from Normal Again (6x17)—that Buffy has already been in an institution.
• I enjoy collecting Terminator references. I don't think "he's a robot" is enough to count. Maybe. Dunno.
• Giles and Jenny talk about how his past actions ended endangering her in The Dark Age (2x8).
• But then Jenny seeking Giles out (while he's out patrolling) results in her endangering and hurting him.
• Giles' past actions got someone killed, mirroring how Buffy (according to her beliefs) got Ted killed. It seems the apple doesn't fall far from the surrogate tree.
• Buffy being horrified—first at Ted being Ted and being in her life, and then at having killed him—really stuck with me. That's probably my favorite aspect of this episode: those powerful feels.
• When Buffy is wailing on Ted and chucking him down the stairs, one wonders whether it didn't stop being self-defense at some point.
• On the whole not fantastic, but better than I expected.

Bad Eggs

• Willow and Buffy grow suspicious that there's something going on between Xander and Cordelia. Huh, I wonder where this is going.
• I had forgotten just how funnily awful the chemistry between Xander and Cordelia is.
• In the beginning when Buffy fights one of the Gorch brothers, he does a stunt where his hat falls off while he's falling to the ground and/or is rolling on it, but then he grabs the hat mid-roll and puts it back on before getting up and running away. For my money, that stunt was really fun and a bit cool. He seemed really attached to his hat.
• Eggs, chestbursters, mind/motor control, underground vagina monster. Whatever, meh.
• Meh.
• Oh hey, having sex might have bad consequences. Chekhov's... egg? Foreshadow much?

Surprise

• Willow said "date"!
• I'm more of a Tillow shipper but man Willoz is so god damn cute. Hush: no rush.
• "A: what do you want for your birthday? / B: Surprise me / A: I will". He is truly a man of his word.
• Joyce asks "do you really think you're ready", then drops a plate—first in Buffy's dream, then in reality. I think we'll see further repetitions of this motif in S5.
• Drusilla with blood in the corner of her mouth (in Buffy's dream) is such a great image.
• Gasp, Jenny is not who we thought she was!
• Her suggesting Angel should be the one to get The Judge's arm out of the way is a clever move: it will (or rather: would) drive Angel and Buffy apart, but in a way where Jenny has plausible deniability.
• "[the flowers:] I can't abide them" — Dru, are you high on your own supply? She's sooo much fun.
• Gasp, Buffy and Angel get captured by Drusilla and Spike!
• Brian Thompson returns (yay!) to play his second and final role: The Judge.
• So what's with the dream and the worry about Drusilla killing Angel? Is there a sense in which she did? I think I can connect the dots partially: in Lie to Me (2x7), Angel reveal a dark truth about how he (er, Angelus) drove Drusilla mad and turned her. Drusilla brought out the monster in Angel(us). What "killed" Angel at the end of Surprise was linked to that: the monster coming back out. Yes, the real trigger was him experiencing a moment of happiness (or maybe relief?) with Buffy, but that only happened because Buffy lied to herself about Angel being covered from head to toe in red flags, and the biggest such red flag was Drusilla. I'm not sure this amounts to "Drusilla was instrumental in bringing out Angelus", but she was... related to it, I guess.
• Maybe it just reflects Drusilla's attempt on Angel's (uhhh) life in What's My Line 2 (2x10).

Innocence

• Trio of vampires, assemble! Angelus is back!
• What is it with trios and even-numbered seasons: trio of vampires, trio of initiative bros, trio of nerds. It's a trio of trios.
• Like many others, I like the screen presence of DB-as-Angelus more than DB-as-Angel. Angelus is twisted and evil and awful and... so much fun to watch.
• Sticks and stones may hurt my bones but words... actually, it looks to me like it was Angelus' words that cut Buffy the deepest. She looked stone cold when she talked about having to kill Angelus, which was as a consequence of him using sticks and stones.
• In the dream sequence, is the implication that they (Buffy, Angelus, Jenny) are looking at Angel's grave? Did I miss a smoking gun on that? I figure it has to be, since that's the thing that makes the most sense—it shows a recent loss of Buffy's; it shows Angelus having arisen from his metaphorical tomb, i.e. from inside Angel; and given the next events (Buffy going to Jenny) the dream must have incriminated Jenny, but that only makes sense if the dream demonstrates she knew something, and the only knowledge that would incriminate Jenny is knowledge about Angel vs. Angelus.
• When Angelus comes and grabs Willow (intending to kill her), Xander shows his greatest and most consistent two virtues: courage, and his love of his friends. He grabs the cross and confronts the monster to protect his friend, potentially putting his own life at risk. Xander is not the greatest guy but he does have has a great side, and it's good to see it.
• Being brave and taking a cross to Angel(us) mirrors his bravery in Prophecy Girl (1x12), in which he was brave and took a cross to Angel—although taking a cross to Angel wasn't brave in itself, it was part of a bigger act of courage. I'm also thinking of Grave (6x22), during which his courage and his love for Willow saves the day, and there he doesn't even have a cross or other artifact to protect himself. (There are several other instances where we see his love and courage saving the day.)
• Angelus betrayed and murdered Angel. It's like poetry, it rhymes with Star Wars. "Darth Liam"?
• If we blur the Angel/Angelus distinction a bit, we see someone who's in love with Buffy turn to the dark side—i.e. become corrupt on the inside—and then switch their allegiance from the good guys to the bad guys. That kinda' mirrors Faith going dark starting in Bad Girls (3x14) and then siding with the Mayor.
• In the car with Giles, Buffy feels guilty about losing her innocence. (Yes, that was a pun.)
• I would be remiss if I didn't mention that rocket launchers are awesome.

Updated episode tier list

• S-tier: 7 13 14
• A-tier: 9 10
• B-tier: 3 6 > 1
• C-tier: 8 11 > 5
• D-tier: 2 4 > 12

Hello my fellow aspies!
Long story short, or atleast I’ll try!
I’ve gone to a course for “self awareness”/“getting to know yourself” for autists, as I was diagnosed late (28).
One of the topics was FEELINGS.
I’ve gone to therapy most of my life, and I’m extremely good at explaining what I feel in my body physically, and I’m also very good at letting out my thought process.
The course said there were three factors: Physical reaction - Thoughts - Feeling
Now, I have learned that if someone is having the feeling SAD, there is most likely tears. I had a hard time figuring out when someone was crying from being happy, or touched, but I have learned this aswell, and I also do it myself, so it’s not foreign to me.
I was told at the course, that when it comes to feelings, a kid with autism will have all the details (physical reactions and thoughts, maybe what happened, etc.) but intuitively they will not know the FEELING, unless someone puts a label on it and tells this kid.
I believe it’s called “neuro affective”?
I know when someone calls me angry if it’s WRONG, but I never know what FEELING it could be. I was recommended the app “How We Feel” where you can track your feelings, but I can never find one that matches my thoughts and physical reaction, as they are not really in this process of describing feelings.
I’m trying to work on being better at saying how I feel, where it is not a logical answer, but actually a truthful one.
Have you experienced this? Were you late or early diagnosed? Have you worked with this, if so, how, and were you succesful?
I hope this makes sense; english is not my first language. Thank you!

Hello folks!
I am 23 y/o, female, about 102-108lbs (will based off my week), and 5'2.5 in height.
I started on Vyvanse in January of this year on 20mg, then about 2 weeks it stopped working. I got the initial jitte anxiety everybody talks about but then it died down quick. It was horrible but I'm glad I waited it out because the clarity I got was unmatched!
I asked for 30mg soon after, because I would go back to dozing off and being disorganized. Actually, I had such a crappy year and without Vyvanse I would not have survived or gotten so much done. Even so, I still struggled to get everything done because it was humanly impossible.
Later, the 30mg stopped working also about 2 weeks in, during an important exam too! I had to sit and accept I was going to get a bad grade and spent the time listening to the guy sniffing constantly 'cause his nose was runny. Completely destroyed my focus, but wouldn't have if my meds worked.
So then it turned into 40mg which I've been on the longest because its worked the longest. It started to be less effective on some days, but still helped my mind be quite and kept my anxiety and impulsivity in control all day long. I learned periods, sugar, and not enough protein makes it not work. Also accidentally discovered zinc helps me gain that clarity from Vyvanse like it did early on. I was not sleeping or eating well, but I have been very diligent to fix it.
Now, even when I am doing all the right things that I spent months tracking to see what works and what doesn't, today it worked for a little as I was literally having my breakfast, but then it stopped. I got terrible 'adhd anxiety' which is how the impulsivity from adhd manifests in my body. Right in the middle of my chest. I felt absolutely awful. I am not on my period or even near my period as well. Why is this happening? Why is it not consistent?
I asked my doc if she thinks 50mg is a good idea about 2 weeks ago so I can have this consistency and I just want to test it out, she said she doesn't feel comfortable. I agreed with her considering 40mg sounds like a lot for a person with my size.
I need it to work not just so I can get work done, but to control my anxiety. I went back to having no self esteem and not being able to talk to people. Vyvanse helps with all of this, but especially staying calm and being able to focus. I have had about 30% of motivation recently, and that's on my best days. Is it the wrong medication even if it's worked before? Or just not the right dose? She suggested Fouquet, but I'm not sure I like the 16 hours effect and people say it doesn't give them energy which I absolutely need! I used to rely heavily on caffeine for energy, but when I am on vyvanse and when it's working I naturally just don't drink it.
I also eat better and healthier. But when it doesn't I really struggle. I know it's a long post but I'm trying to not miss anything and I really need help. I am terrified of this continuing because I don't want to have to go through University like this when I experienced what it's like doing things so effortlessly with medication when they're effective.
Thank you!

Hello everyone that may be coming across this post.
I'm currently in my mid twenties and I am in university now and currently making an attempt to finish my bachelor's degree in IT where I don't really have exams but almost everything is project based.
For a long while I have been struggling with quite a few things regarding my work and education. And a lot of this is regarding productivity, planning and prioritizing and motivation/energy. For full transparency I have an ASD diagnosis, so I can recognize where parts of these struggles come from, however I have realized over the years that knowing what is going wrong is not the same thing as fixing them.
I have noticed for a while now that I am capable enough to have an overview of what I need to do to complete a task or project but I struggle in executing those tasks I write down. This usually results in procrastinating on things until the last minute, which makes it hard to not see myself as a lazy person. In prior education, especially in high school but also in college the feedback I usually got was "I know you are capable of doing more but you don't show it", which was true. I always tried to do the bare minimum to get a passing grade. In university I vowed myself to actually try to make things I can be proud of, but I don't seem to get better results as opposed to when I tried doing the bare minimum, with the feedback from teachers usually being "is perfectionism a problem here?" which does not compute for me as in my mind I would have better results if I was.
Previously to get through the roadblocks of procrastination and not getting things done is by putting more time and especially more pressure to myself. Up until now I had the mindset of 'if I am angry enough at myself or hate myself enough I will get through anything'. Which worked for a while to get things done on the short term but gave me more problems in the long term to the point of have to take a break for a year because it worsened my mental health as well as developing eczema.
Now that I have been trying to redefine how I tackle the roadblocks I come across as well as actively trying to shift my mindset to a more healthy place it is like all of my fears are coming true. At days where I have to work from home (which is twice a week) I often don't get out of bed and when I do I often distract myself with basically anything else but the things that I need to work on, the simplest things take a very long time and the quality isn't better than before.
It is frustrating because I know I'm procrastinating, I know that I'm self sabotaging but no matter how much I seem to push and pull it doesn't seem to work. Just like anything else I see in my observed behavior, I see the problems that my behavior causes for myself as well as the consequences that it'll entail and more often than not the why it happens as well but I am clueless as to how to fix these issues without creating more problems for myself in the long term.
The only thing that has been going better this time around is avoid working until deep in the night and doing a little bit most days even be if it's just for two hours and setting personal boundaries. And while that helps with my mental health and long term motivation, for actually getting things done it is not enough.
Does anyone have tips on how to tackle procrastination, getting (and staying) out of bed and getting started?

Hello, I'm aware the title isn't painting me in the greatest light but please bear with me, I'm in urgent need of either outside opinions showing me how I'm wrong or validation and help I'm desperate, scared and confused
Okay so for starters, I'm scared of creeps, but we're both under 18, if that helps to understand why and think and act the way I do, erratically and being immature. We're also in long distance, that's important. So, me(16M) and my ex-partner (16NB) have made the decision to break up 2 days ago now, and we have no contact anymore per their request,which I completely understand and respect, that's why I'm here. We've made that choice after a long talk, and I don't think there's any hard feelings from any of us, although I can't talk for them, I don't feel any anger or the need to blame them. It was best for the two of us. I was the one to ask for it, because my trust had been broken in situations where they chose to keep the peace when I was targeted for the crime of dating them, and more precisely, the fact that during 7 months of our 10 month relationship, they were under the impression that I said and did what I did for the fun of it, and that I hated them. So yeah. I did the best I could to truly believe them, but there's just too much that happened and that was killing me mentally. I didn't want to trap them in an unhappy relationship and they wanted me to get better and be happy, so we tearfully split. I thought I was prepared for it, but I absolutely wasn't. I struggle a lot with mental health, as they do and did before me, and one of my biggest issues is that I can't handle change very well, much less this big and this brutal. Just one evening, and then nothing It's only been 2 days, but I'm not doing well. This was my first relationship and even though I have friends to help me, I'm still extremely lost, depressed and scared of all of it
Which brings me to the main point of this : they needed to cut contact immediately to heal, but I'm scared that I needed a softer break, instead of a clean cut. They did, to their credit, ask if I wanted to gradually talk less and less to get used to it, but in the moment I didn't think enough and refused because frankly, it would make it more painful and drag our hopes in the ground. I'm not proud of it, but I've been stalking their stories for signs that they're okay because I'm terrified of being the cause of a deep depressive episode for them, I'm aware that it is painful but I don't want them to suffer I can't reasonably excuse how I was treated, even if those were rare and we were otherwise very great to eachother, but I still forgive them for everything because I know they did it because of trauma and fear, which they had difficulties communicating. I don't excuse it, but I can't bring myself to be angry about it. Maybe I should. I don't know. I'd do it all again in a heartbeat if asked, because they changed. All they need is help and patience, I'm just sad that I couldn't handle more
The only reason why I tried to keep it together is because I would be openly disregarding their choice to be left alone to heal, and trust me I don't want to do any of that, hell if I could I'd make sure they never have to see me or hear from me ever again but I feel like I'm going insane from unanswered questions and unsaid worries. I'm scared and I'm lost. All I want is for them to tell me that it'll be okay but it's too much to ask
So please kind people of Reddit please help me with this. Should I try to ask them for one last discussion? Should I leave them alone and suck it up? Any opinion is welcome, whether you agree with me or not. Please just help
And if the person in question reads this, I'm sorry. I don't want to hurt you, I truly never did. I need help and I don't want to disturb your healing more than needed. I'll take this down the second I'm asked
Tldr: me and ex-partner broke up, agreed on no contact but I'm struggling mentally and want to ask them for one last conversation because I'm going crazy, searching for help

Hello! I am planning a trip to Great America (my first ever Six Flags visit) and want to mentally prepare myself before buying the ticket an idea on how much money I would need to spend, especially when it comes to lockers since I have a backpack. I bring a backpack with me as it has a water bottle and sunscreen, usually I would bring a small snack and if I buy something I can just put it in there. I just want to double check: do the rides have cubby holes or boxes that I can bring said backpack? If not how much are lockers?
When I went to Busch Gardens Williamsburg I paid ten dollars for the whole day but due to it not registering when I moved from locker to locker in the park I got charged double. I never complained, probably should’ve, but decided to ask first to prepare myself. Maybe there are cubbies but lockers are better for theft, maybe I’ll be fine with the cubbies, who knows. I just want to ask to budget and prepare myself
Also speedy parking is it worth it? It’s the only parking option online and why I haven’t bought yet I’m trying to weigh my options and see. I also see right now a season pass is only ten dollars more than a day with parking with the current promotion but again budgeting I just want to make sure my best option. I will only be going once this year, and next year more once my Cedar Fair pass merges, maybe
Thank you in advance!

Hello!
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Should I run facebook ads for this store
How do I get people to buy from this website
Hello guys, this is my website: DenimDuke I am almost done with everything and ready to launch soon.
This is my second attempt, when I made my first store I was under the impression that if I made my website look good and trustworthy, all I would have to do is spend money advertising on facebook and I’d make even more. Like it’s some sort of machine that you put money into and it just multiplies it.
Long story short, I have found out the hard way that it is not the case, plus even you guys here who have been doing this for years with actual experience are constantly complaining that Facebook ads is acting up, but I don’t have any alternative or even a way to tackle the issue. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Hello all,
I know that the title of my post is "out there," but it's what I'm currently experiencing.
I'm a fairly young widow (29F) that was married to a man significantly older than myself. My husband and I had bought a house together in an area that was predomenantly for older, wealthier, and "more established" individuals months before he passed. With that being said, everyone on the block has more than likely been well informed about my situation, knows that I am widowed, and that my husband was much older. They also probably assume that I was a gold digger or something along those lines, which I very much am not.
The problem that I'm facing right now is that it's become apparent to me (flat out told to me) that I've become persona non grata in the neighborhood. Apparently, the women in my neighborhood view me as some sort of threat since I'm "young, attractive, and newly single" (NOT MY WORDS!) . They actively ignore me and have instructed their husbands to do the same. Please note: I have absolutely no intentions to steal anyone's husband, am still very much processing the death of my own husband, and have kept to myself since moving here.
**I don't know how long I intend to keep the house. Right now, I'm looking at at least a year but, if I like the area, I'm open to staying indefinitely.**
My question(s) is/are: 1) Do I try to make some sort of ammends with the women of the neighborhood to keep the peace, or do I just continue living life as I have been (not really engaging/ keeping to myself)? ... and 2) has anyone else been through such a ridiculous situation? You'd think that I was actively flirting with all the men on the block (which I VERY MUCH am not) to warrant this behavior.
Thank you all for reading

Hello! I’m looking for books where the MCs really don’t like each other or couldn’t care less. I’m tired of reading instant love and protective instincts for someone the MC just met🥲 I love a good fluffy romance, but it's really just not doing it for me anymore. I need SLOOOOOW burn (preferably with ✨sPiCe✨)
I love how the MCs in BAB don’t like each other but damn there’s a lot of tension from hate and attraction(ish) driving them together. There’s a lot of mental agony and TONS of angst in it that I crave more of.
I’m not quite looking for hardcore gore and possession and kidnapping, but just that the MCs can’t stand each other, and there’s no “I hate him but I want to protect him”. I hope this makes sense😭
Thank you!
PS- smuttt is highly encouraged (read: required, but if not then okay I guess) PPS- enemies to lovers, supernatural, and villain preferred, but most other genres are welcome. Modern or historical doesn’t matter :)))

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[Noises] (Acting recommendations or pov’s so you know where in the story you’re at) {how to pronounce}
Everytime you see a space
is a new paragraph.
Remember to give time between paragraphs for the listener to respond.😊
POV of VA: it's a normal consultation day, when a pretty patient arrives for a checkup... she's healthy...or is she?
Characters personality: you're a good and kind doctor, a bit funny sometimes and with a light-hearted personality.
Begins script:
FEEL FREE TO ADD AS MANY FX AS YOU'D LIKE
(You're ending a consultation) Ok, so just take the pills, and stay off those flowers ok?
(Funny) I know, you wanted to surprise your wife, but next time.....maybe a box of chocolates? (Giggle)
Alright... Take care.
[Door closes]
[Keyboard]
(Thinking out loud) Alright.... This goes here and ...perfect, that note is done.
(Asking your assitant) Anna?................ Send in my next patient please. Thank you.
Umm..how many more do I have for today?
(Rethoric) 2 more including this one?
(Tired) Great, I'm so tired.
Thanks Anna.
[Door closes]
(Ugh mocking) (Sigh) Today's been such a slow day...I mean, who on earth buys a huge bouquet of roses when they have such a strong pollen allergy... seriously (giggle)
[Door knock]
Come in....
(Soon as your new patient arrives you're blown away by her beauty)
(Professionally nice but blown away) Hello, I'm Dr (insert asmrtist name) and you are...?
(Reverb thoughts) Wow she's so beautiful...
(Reverb pep talk) Can it (insert asmrtist name) she's a patient you can't afford to think like that. Be professional!
(End of reverb)
(Coming back to reality) Oh umm...pleased to meet you.
Take a seat please.
[For the whole interview question part you can add a soothing keyboard sound on the back if you'd like, like you're taking notes]
(Professionally nice) So...tell me, What brings you here today?
(Rethoric) Oh, so you got a new health insurance and they gave you a free checkup at this hospital?
(Nice) Ok. yeah, it's always good to get a checkup every once in a while.
Which health insurance company did you hire?
Yeah, their health plan is very complete.
Do you have any current symptoms of any kind?
(Rethoric) Small seasonal allergy?
(Giggling) Yeah, that's very common this days, tell me about it (giggle)
Any medication you're taking for it?
(Sounds logical) Oh, that's the standard.
Any other medications?
(Rethoric) Occasional aspirin for a headache?
Ok.. that's fine.
Any relevant medical history?
(Rethoric) You got your appendix out when you were 12? Ok...
And..no chronic diseases?
Glad to hear.
Diseases in the family? Cancer, diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, anything relevant?
(Rethoric) Oh, your grandpa died from colon cancer 2 years ago?
(Sorry) Oh, sorry to hear.
And...how old are you?
(Giggle) I know, as a man it's never easy to ask that question, but as doctor I have to.
When was the last time you went to the doctor?
(Shocked) 2 years ago?!?!
Remember it's always good to see the doctor once a year. So I'm glad you're here now. (Seeth smile)
(Starting the physical examination) (End keyboard sounds)
(Always be calm, you want to inspire confidence to the listenepatient that there's nothing to worry about)
(Professionally nice) Alright. So I would like to start by assessing your vitals. I'm gonna check your pulse and then take your blood pressure...is that ok?
Alright... Just gonna get a feel here in your wrist...
(Wait a sec)
80... You're pulse is fine
If you would lend me your arm please, just gonna wrap the pressure cuff around.....
Alright...just relax.....you may feel some pressure while I take the measurement.
[Pressure cuff sound inflate and deflate]
75/110...
(Rethoric) Low?....
(Confident) Not really... it's said 80/120 is the standard, but it really depends on the patient, medical history, the height, the weight....so for you 75/110 is fine.
I'm gonna take a listen to your heart now. Ok?
Gonna warm up the stethoscope with my hands before I start ..
(Funny nice) You know, there's nothing meaner than a cold stethoscope (giggle). So I try to avoid that with my patients.
Alright, Just breath normally..
(Listening attentively) mmm....ok....
Could you squeeze both your hands really tight for me?, I'm gonna take another listen.
(You keep listening) mmm
Ok, relax...
Everything sounds normal.
Now I'm gonna listen to your lungs ok?
(Do not breath along you're listening) Take a deep breath for me...in ..........and out.......
Once more please...in......and out ....
Again.....in.......and out....
Last one.....in.....aaand out ....
Alright...it all sounds fine there.
Now, I'd like you lay down in the examination table so I can assess your abdomen ok?..
Alright.
There we go.
Now, I'm gonna lift up your shirt slightly, is that ok?
Ok ..
You said you haven't had any recent abdominal symptoms right?
Ok.
I'm gonna take a listen to your abdomen then..
Now, it may take some time for vowel sounds to appear, but that's normal, so you have nothing to worry about.
(Wait a few sec)
Ok, everything sounds fine.
Now I'm gonna do some percussion, this mainly requires me tapping around your abdomen to asses dullness ok?
Alright.
[You may include the abdominal percussion sounds if you'd like]
(Thinking aloud) (Something sounds a bit off but you don't wanna raise any alarms) Hmm...
Ok..
Now I'd like to palpate around your abdomen to check everything is fine...is that ok?
Ok..... Gonna start pressing here on the top center, any pain there?...people with reflux or heart burn tend to have pain around that area...
Nothing? Good.
Now pressing here on the right side...no pain?
Good.
Any pain or tenderness here on the lower area?....no?..good
Now pressing here on the left side.
(You feel a small-medium mass like 2 in big on that area and get concerned)
(Concerned) Hmmmmm.....hmmmm....
(Concerned) Any pain when I press here?
(Rethoric concerned) No?
Hmmm..
I'm gonna press a little deeper...
(Concerned) No pain when I press deeper?
Hmmmm
(Rethoric) What's wrong?
(Talking while feeling around) I'm feeling something here....
Feels like a small mass, a bit hard....
(Thinking out loud) It feels a bit irregular..hmmm
If you have any discomfort I need you to tell me please..
(She starts to stress and hyperventilate)
(Comforting) Hey hey hey, easy ok?
We don't know yet what it is... It may aswell be something simple.
Easy, I need you to calm down...
You're breathing to fast and that's gonna make you dizzy....
Deep breaths.....breath with me...in.....and out......in.....and out .....
That's it.....
(Professional) I'm gonna palpate one more time, I need you to stay calm please.
(Thinking out loud) Hmmmmm...ok.
Let's get back to the desk so we can discuss the next step.
(Wait a sec)
(Back at the desk)
(Calming her) Now I'd like to get you an ultrasound...
(She panics) Don't panic .. it's a painless procedure... And from there we'll know what's next ok?
(Rethoric) What could it be?
I don't want to jump into conclusions yet.
(Nice comforting worried) Just try to stay calm please.
Let me write you a prescription...
(Reverb thoughts concerned) I'm really worried about her...I do not like at all how that mass feels.
(Reverb feeling sorry for her) She looks so worried and no wonder....
(Reverb) Maybe I could get her that ultrasound after my last patient... I'm so tired though....I was supposed to go home and relax a bit. But poor lady..
(Rethoric) (Seeth) Curse your oversized heart (insert asmrtist name), ugh! Alright....
(End of Reverb)
(Thinking) Ummmm....
(Being nice) Look, I have only one more patient after you... If you'd like to wait... I could take you to the ultrasound room after and get the procedure done...
(Rethoric) Is it late for me?
(Lying to be nice) Nah, I was gonna do some paperwork after, but I can always do it tomorrow, so don't worry.
(Comforting) Hey, look at me....worrying is not gonna help... It could still be something benign..... so try to stay calm please?
Thanks.
(Calling your assistant) Anna?!
She's gonna wait in the waiting room until after the next patient.....
Could you please give her a tea with some honey?
Thanks.
Oh and, send in the last patient please.
(Talking to the patient again) Drink it please...the honey will prevent your pressure from falling after all that stress.
Alright.
(Voice fades away) Come in please....Hi, I'm doctor (insert asmrtist name).....

Hey, hope this is appropriate to post here! I've been working in the world of mental health and self-development for over a decade now and have had my journey of recovering from massive social anxiety and isolation. I've never really been active online and talked about these ideas with friends, coworkers, and partners. However, I feel inspired to stimulate some discussions I find are important and try to contribute to this and other similar communities. So I would like to share with you some reflections I wrote. I'd love to hear your thoughts and reflections. I'm not here to convince you of my ideas (although perhaps I can write persuasively sometimes), I am no authority, but I would love to hear your reflections, thoughts and discuss. I feel hopeful to try to find some truth together through this, and maybe think together as a community how we can make certain situations better for people. Of and please be very honest! I'm not looking for feedback for my form, or to get better at writing although I'm sure I could definitely use some. But I would love to see what these ideas evoke and people, their stories, their concerns, their disagreements, and points of view.
Let me know if I'm breaking the rules, and if you want more discussions like this! I'm eager to talk about agency, addiction, customizing mental health interventions, combining self improvement with social impact, the effects of our construction of social status on happiness and growth, how we can make the internet more nuanced and promote mindful content vs polarized, absolutistic and quick dopamine hit formats.
Well, without further ado. Welcome and thank you.
What Does It Mean to Be a Strong Man?
I acknowledge that the question may be irrelevant. That we may not need a definition. These definitions do not apply to everyone who uses the same term. However, people, perhaps more commonly those who identify as men, do often choose a definition. It is often nebulous, implicit, acted out, and unexamined. An amalgamation of ideas we are fed by others, cultural norms, emotional reactions, stereotypes, and beliefs we buy into. These ideas come from many sources that we do not have the opportunity to question. Being told to not cry and be a man while growing up, the attempts of other men to portray themselves as strong whether fruitful or vain, narratives around celebrity, status, fame. These often influence us, and eventually have some influence on the stereotypes that form around the idea of being a man. Perhaps it would be helpful to examine these ideas. I find them quite problematic. Not because I want to erase the concept of manhood, but because I think they often do a disservice to what a man can be and embody. We are often led to believe that unless we act in a certain way, we are not men. That we are weak, that we are not valuable, that we will not be respected and loved. And that the way to avoid this is to conform, to become rigid and put up our walls and defenses. This can often lead to tragically unnecessary outcomes. Alienation, isolation, stress, inner critique, avoidance, low self-esteem, and perhaps even push people away and lash out at them. We are told we need to hustle and grind to live up to being a man, that unless we reach certain goals we are diminished and failures. And we are often certain not the ones to choose our goals, but they are imparted on us.
So are the stereotypes true? What is it to be a man? Is it to be wealthy, physically strong, intimidating, shouting, or aggressive? Are these traits that we often see espoused by what we've come to associate with masculinity? Is it to achieve nebulous "success" as defined by others, and at any cost? Is masculinity dependent on the admiration of others, and upon the validation of our romantic interests? Is this what is central to being a man? Are we falling for a false narrative? Or are these phenomena just a symptom of our confusion, and the result of not having a clear vision of what being a man can entail?
My experience tells me that by adopting these notions, we underestimate and undervalue what a man can be, giving way to and rationalizing insecurities. We assume, through this model, that we cannot deal with certain experiences with grace and severely limit our growth. Are we not suffocating our freedom by buying into these narratives? Perhaps it is our lack of role models that deprives us of formative experiences during childhood, of seeing men be a pillars of love and calm for others. Seeing them be truly loved and respected, without the need for any gimmicks, silver tongue, status games or other forms of compensation we are continuous told me need by companies and influencers.
No, I believe the reality of being a man is much more profound than that. That we are leaving so much on the table by not having this compass. That it can seem daunting, but infinitely rewarding. I also don't view it as a stressful obligation that needs to be met otherwise we are unworthy. Rather, an invitation. I believe our natural inclination and the identity in which we flourish most are far from these stereotypes. It seems to me that it is blocked and occluded by many factors. And the path to actualizing it is of acceptance. It is time to seek out an identity that defies all those gurus who try to make us feel insecure, to try to be like them, to buy their products, to keep trying to replicate techniques that only reinforce self-doubt and the idea that we cannot embody who we want to be, live the life we want without chasing shiny status symbols.
No, to be a man is much more than that.
The idea of a man is to be able to fully feel one's emotions, one's fears, without panicking, without changing one's behavior, and doing the loving right thing. People think that feeling weakens you, controls you. But a man still has the agency to choose how he responds to them without cowering and escaping them, and therefore blinding himself. A man can feel his sorrow and still show up to work. A man can feel insecure but not run away and go for what he wants. A man can feel small and not hide from others, but share his vulnerability and still choose to step up. A man can let himself feel desperate and needy but choose to respect his integrity and not try to control the situation to suppress how he feels. The beautiful thing is, you don't have to be there. We are often told that unless we hit the mark, we are shunned and not respected. I have found that to not be true, and my imperfect attempts to be open, to hold space, to feel, have brought people closer to me and gave them the opportunity to help me grown and support me when I am vulnerable. It created the space for people to accept me the way I am once I took the step to be vulnerable and reveal myself. And that has helped shed so many insecurities.
Being a man is to have the courage to love, whether vulnerable or with tough love, and boundaries. It is to choose freedom and feeling through pain rather than contracting and escaping. It is to be able to give space, to serve others, to love them, to support them. To show one's weakness without trying to escape it, while working on improving. It is to be resilient, resourceful, and proactive in doing what seems to be right without the need for control. It is loving oneself and not chasing validation from others. It is to love without expecting in return, which is very different from being used. It is to tell the truth even when it is difficult. It is to, with inner calm and gentleness, confront someone with the appropriate intensity when they hurt others, or themselves. It is to be your brother's keeper. It is to forgive. It is to protect those you love. It is to weather the storm of love with as much calm as possible. It is to let go of the need to prove oneself. It is to be an anchor. It is to take life with humor. It is to love others as fully-fledged human beings and not as a means to an end.
It is to realize that sexual gratification does not make a man, and yet to fearlessly and compassionately give yourself to your partner. To realize that wealth and status cannot weld inner rifts. It is to comfort one's inner child when its demons terrify it. It is to be a light onto this world and give space to the darkness. It is to accept responsibility and uphold it. It is to be free from the fear of losing freedom. These are all not exclusive to men, but qualities latent within us all.
However, if we decide to be men, let us be this sort of forgotten, powerful man. A man that does not need to belittle, a man that does not need to abuse, a man that recognizes his own beauty and strength and has faith in it when he feels small. That allows love to come in. A man that does not need to retaliate when others disturb him. That recognizes that nothing can reduce the being within, its potential, and the beauty of the world it projects into its consciousness through his eyes.
Men, believe in yourself. You can be who you want to be. You can create the life you want. You can attract the one you love. But society is letting you down. Instead of giving you tools that work, it shoves you on an eternal treadmill. A treadmill that only profits those who would see you be an obedient soldier, a consumer, a higher bracket taxpayer, or whatever pursuits or status our society brainwashes us to pursue.
You can do all these things, but let it be your choice. Make these things more attainable by growing, by reducing the inner conflict, by using the full power of your emotional awareness and regulation that is only unlocked by feeling. By understanding yourself and others better. By seeing things more clearly, not by following others' techniques and instructions only but by honing your perception and intelligence. So much social conditioning and consumer culture divide us, make us understand each other less, and make us alienated from other genders and groups. Sometimes so they can sell us their narrative and their products. Let us be free.
Easier said than done you say?
We truly live in a world that makes it harder to develop these qualities. Or perhaps these qualities are there, but their potential is suppressed and supplanted by other patterns. We often start off with trauma and life events that interfere with our growth. We try to cope, and the world can be harsh to our coping mechanisms. We model the world as we see it through our hurt selves, and we often blame ourselves for being stuck. Luckily, there are ways to break out of the cycle. It's unfortunate that most of us don't have access to people who guide us through the process. And most importantly, we are constantly distracted by strategies that don't work. Buy this course, go to this gym, buy these clothes, make more money, stress and push yourself, or get lost in the system trying to get therapy. We keep being told we need to be better, and enhance ourselves from the outside in. But we are not taught how much we can affect our mental software, how we can reshape our psyche, heal from patterns, and regain our natural social and emotional skills and self-esteem.
This requires calm, patience, time, and deliberate focus, but our focus is snatched away by millions of distractions and a barrage of FOMO. We are made to feel stressed and insecure, that we need to succeed and maximize our potential, so that we consume more tips, coffee, addictions, or work ourselves to death to the benefit of employers, tax agencies, or the general economy. We are told we don't have time to reflect, that if we make the wrong choice we are screwed, so we need to hurry and follow whatever beaten path is thrown onto us. We perpetually seek guidance, sometimes from people that masquerade as experts on YouTube for views and forget to strengthen our own intuition and remove whatever puts us on a leash.
We are social animals; we process information about social situations unconsciously far more effectively than through our thinking minds. Anxiety can block this, so we assume we lack knowledge and need to learn. We resent the anxiety and fight it, and get stuck in a perpetual battle we cannot win because we are using the wrong method. Then we blame ourselves. Make ourselves smaller. And the cycle continues, with more desperate attempts to exit the cycle and find more tips and tricks.
There is a way out, but it feels so counterintuitive that we expect it the least. Meeting ourselves where we are at, exposing ourselves to our fears and weaknesses, growing from there, sharing it with others, feeling—it all makes us feel like we will get stuck. The child that learned these lessons throws a tantrum at the possibility. But we are not children anymore. We needed these strategies in the past, but now they hold us back. We do not need to hide; we are capable of growing and learning to meet our own needs. And that is the way forward.
Do you truly think this kind of man is weak? That he is unable to achieve what he sets out to do? That women will gloss over? I have never been so comfortable and connected to women as when I started letting go of all the things above and being there. Calm, present, joyful, grounded in my own being, and creating space for the both of us; changing the dynamic forever into one of exploration, of love, of excitement, of ease, and of insight for the other person that sees that this mode is possible.
Let's build this reality together. Please, tell me what this made you think. Please argue and object, or ask questions. I am not an authority, but we are here to explore together, think independently and disagree. Perhaps we can reach more nuance and truth that way together. Share your experience with me. Share with me your ideas on how to create a world that does not inhibit the freedom of man but encourages his agency, helps him be better to others, and be a source of flourishing rather than anguish to women. And, let me know if you want me to write more. I have a lot of experience and ideas I haven't shared. If it helps, I will. Want to bounce off ideas on how to start implementing this? Just send me a text and i'll try to share some things that worked with me when I can :)

Hello. For context my and my now bf starting dating in November 23’ and offically was boyfriend and girlfriend by January 24’. Me and him actually had our first contact with eachother in 2018 when we were both in highschool. We went to two different highschools and met over social media. We stopped talking back then, I went to college and we moved cities and started working. 5 years later we live in the same city again and reconnected
A little about my boyfriend. He has been in 2-3 serious-ish relationships. All with white women ( I am African American and he is too). I knew that by keeping up with him throughout the years and we both grew up in predominantly white areas so it is normal. In the past I’ve dated multiple different races so typically I don’t care.
Now, a month after we started dated I had an overwhelming urge to check his phone. I have NEVER went through someone’s phone in the past so idk what compelled me to go through his at this moment but I did. I found a deleted text to an ex “fling” of his. He said “do you even miss me?” The worst part if the girl didn’t even respond. I broke up with him the next night and to my surprise this man started crying pleading for my forgiveness. Blaming his actions as stupidity and he doesn’t even know why he texted her. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and forgave him since technically the text was sent before we offically started our relationship (literally a week before)
Again, in March we started arguing more often and we weren’t really on the same page about a lot of things. Fast forward I went through his phone again. This time I found something worse. On his Snapchat, I found messages to a Snapchat explicit content seller and he texted her “Hey bb how have you been” from a few days ago. After scrolling up to the previous messages I saw exchanges for explicit photos for low amounts of money all from 2020-2021. Obviously I didn’t know him them but even the thought of a man I’m with buying explicit content makes me shiver. And why Is he asking her how’s she’s been. Obviously for more content but he has me now?? That night I also saw call logs of him calling 2 other girls on a night we were having an argument. Again I confronted him, broke up but I eventually forgave him and no we are back together trying to fix things. It has been a month and a half and things are better but i still have fear in the back of my mind.
To end this thread, I’m asking for advice. All the women he has cheated on me with are white. I can’t help to think that I’m not his type or that he’s not as attracted to me as much as he is them. I know he never physically cheated but I still definitely count this as cheating, has anyone gone through this before? Are you ever able to trust your partner again? I am really trying to but I keep letting my insecuries get in the way. This man has been mentioning marriage to me and says he can see me as his wife. I want to protect myself from a cheating husband but we are young and is there a chance he will grow out of this? Has anyone been their partners first girlfriend of color, any recommendations for getting rid of my own insecuries? I do not want my insecuries to get in the way of my relationships. Should I continue this relationship or once a cheater always a cheater?
Thank you.

Hello everybody!
This is the Daily Megathread for general and simple questions as well as asking for advice on which Pokemon to use the fusion splicers on.
The goal of these Megathreads is to hopefully reduce the number of repeat posts and de-clog up the SubReddit.
If your post was deleted and you were redirected here please check the comments to make sure your question wasn't already asked and answered today.
If you're looking for a really well-written, in-depth beginners guide we have one pinned but you can also find it through this link: https://www.reddit.com/pokerogue/s/6ck9cZj0NG
I'll also include some common questions and answers so please check these below before repeating the same question.
(Most of these are from the official Wiki which can be found here as well as more info like which Pokemon are in which biomes, shiny odds, and the stat spread of each Dynamax form) : https://wiki.pokerogue.net/start
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Commonly asked questions:
Q: What does the pink box around some starters mean?
A: The Pokemon has PKRS which increases the amount of Exp gained, the Pokemon will eventually spread it to your other Pokemon. Every day 3 random Pokemon are selected to have PKRS for that day
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Q: What does the little blue and purple symbol by my starter mean?
A: You have the Pokemon's Hidden Ability unlocked. When you catch a Pokemon you will know it has the Hidden Ability because the text will be Yellow. You will have to switch the abilities to use the Hidden Ability
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Q: What do (P) or (N) next to a move or ability mean?
A: (P) means Partially Implemented (usually for moves this means it does the attack but not the secondary effect) and (N) means Not Implemented. (Eventually everything will be implemented)
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Q: Can you ever catch any Pokemon in the last biome of Classic?
A: Once you have hatched the Pokemon from an egg you can catch duplicates of it ONLY IN CLASSIC MODE in the final biome
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Q: How do I evolve this Pokemon?
A: Any evolution that has been changed from the main games can be found here: https://wiki.pokerogue.net/gameplay:evolutions
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Q: How does fusion work?
A: In short, the 1st Pokemon you fuse will dictate the Passive ability (if you have it unlocked), the 1st type of the fusion, the Level, IVs, and Nature. The 2nd Pokemon will dictate the Ability of the Pokemon and the second typing (which will be the Pokemons second type if it is a dual-type). Luck is combined, learnset (including TM compatibility) are also combined. Note: if you unfuse them the second Pokemon will be lost Second Note: both sides can evolve normally but only the 1st half can Mega/Dynamax evolve or use items that change their form More fusion info can be found here, including an example: https://wiki.pokerogue.net/gameplay:mechanics:fusion
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Q: What is a "Manaphy egg"?
A: An egg of the same rarity as an "Epic" egg that has a 7/8 chance of hatching a Phione and a 1/8 chance of hatching a Manaphy
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Q: What does the (+1), (+2), (+3), etc. mean under my starters moves?
A: You have more moves available to choose from than just what is listed, since a Pokemon can only have 4 at a time obviously you will have to change them if you want different ones
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Q: What are some good starters for Classic mode?
A: We actually have a Daily Voting/Tiering Project going on, you can sort the SubReddit by "Daily Tiering/Voting Posts" to see the most recent one which will have the updated tier list. If you want to know why a Pokemon was Voted a certain way or what makes it so good or how people use it successfully feel free to ask that specifically in this thread in the comments :)
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A few tips if you're asking for Fusion Suggestions:
Obviously post a picture of your team, but also include in the comment their Nature's, Abilities, current Moveset and whether you have the Passive Ability unlocked on them.
If your question wasn't on the list above or for suggestions on which Pokemon to Fuse from your current team feel free to ask in the comments of this thread :). Individual posts of these types will be removed to reduce the number of repeat posts in the Sub.
As always, Happy Roguing!

This place is a message... and part of a system of messages... pay attention to it!
Sending this message was important to us. We considered ourselves to be a powerful culture.
This place is not a place of honor... no highly esteemed deed is commemorated here... nothing valued is here.
What is here was dangerous and repulsive to us. This message is a warning about danger.
The danger is in a particular location... it increases towards a center... the center of danger is here... of a particular size and shape, and below us.
The danger is still present, in your time, as it was in ours.
The danger is to the body, and it can kill.
The form of the danger is an emanation of energy.
The danger is unleashed only if you substantially disturb this place physically. This place is best shunned and left uninhabited.

[Original source] [Wikipedia]
The above is from a 1993 study on how to warn people in the distant future about the dangers posed by a nuclear waste repository. This message needs to be communicated to people who stumble upon the site, and it needs to be done so non-verbally. As nuclear waste stays dangerous for tens of thousands of years, there will eventually be people who come upon the site who will not share a language with us. They will not share symbols with us. They will not share a culture with us. Yet they will be humans, and we are obligated to protect them.
I came upon this specific ... it's not quite a poem, but that's what Chelsea Weber-Smith of the podcast American Hysteria called it in her most recent episode, which I had the joy to listen to earlier this week. It's about the borderline-bonkers field of study (and one of my occasional obsessions) called nuclear semiotics, which analyzes this problem.
Coincidentally, I started my second playthrough of Tears of the Kingdom the day after listening to this story. As I descended the staircase, through the gloom, past the murals and to G-Do himself, I couldn't help but think... the ancient Hylians/Zonai had a similar problem to our civilization. There is a danger underground that must be contained, and people must be warned. It's interesting how some of the strategies they employ to convey this message are mirrored in the thoughts of nuclear semioticians, and how in other ways went against the most basic ideas of this field. In the end, did they fail? (Yes, the answer is yes) Will we fail to protect our own future people? (yes, but for different reasons)
Worth saying, they had it easy compared to us:

1. We know nothing of the people of 10,000 years from now. They literally had a princess from this future culture at their disposal.
2. All human languages currently in existence will be unintelligible to the people of 12024, more so than how Proto-Indo-European (spoken only ~6k years ago) is unintelligible to us today. Ancient Hylian, on the other hand, is basically Middle English.

They tried many strategies that nuclear semioticians have considered, some implemented better than others, with varying levels of success:

1. An "atomic priesthood", namely the Sheikah and the Royal Family. This is a group of people who are dedicated to the mission of preserving information about the threat across millennia, in the same way religious movements dating to the Iron Age and Classical Antiquity have managed to preserve the teachings of their founders into the present. We know Sheikah tech is seen in the imprisoning chamber, and the royal family pass down the story of the Imprisoning War. Unfortunately, this "priesthood" over the millennia proved small and unstable. Depending on how you place TotK in the timeline, the Sheikah and the royal line were nearly wiped out several times, reduced at one point to kindergarten teacher and a pre-teen pirate captain. Even if the movement survived, the message of "do not go below the castle" was eventually forgotten.
2. Physical monuments. There are three general threads of thought. One is to create some kind of frightening, ominous landscape that communicates "this is a bad place," like a forest of jagged concrete spikes. Another thread, as Weber-Smith put it, thinks that's some very American absurdity, and the best thing is to just hide it somewhere unimportant. Dig a hole in the Arctic, drop it in. Another (more interesting) idea is to make it the center of attention. Build a nuclear-themed amusement park, a nuclear temple, something people will tell stories of and preserve. No one wants to drill for oil on the Acropolis. The Hylians went and built a magnificent castle and their capitol city. It's not clear this helped since the original message was eventually lost.
3. Written and artistic representations of the message. Nuclear semioticians seem to think this is a challenge. Many proposals that do include written messages would start with it being in multiple languages, with broad, general terms are the periphery of the site (Bad! Malo!), getting more specific as you approach the center (plutonium 1.4km down). There's art, like this, which might not work, as we can't guarantee symbols like ☢️ or skulls will mean the same thing to future people. The Hylians/Zonai just... well they didn't think about any of this.
   1. They appear to have communicated the specifics primarily in writing, and in a single written language: Zonai, a system so obtuse that not even the Internet can crack it. Correct me if I am wrong, but we see no Gerudo hieroglyphs, no Sheikah characters, no other text in the game in any other language warning about what is under the castle. Almost none of this text is near the castle. Much of it is in the goddamn sky. There is text immediately adjacent to the Imprisoning Chamber, on and around statues of Zonai. Zelda just takes pictures and keeps walking.
      1. (I am trying to find a source, and I cannot, but I remember tales of a warning in the castle itself, a very nondescript stela that's like "don't go under the castle." I don't remember what language it is in, but in any case it's not exactly in a prominent place)
   2. The statues closest to the source of the danger are Zonai, a race completely forgotten. They are not in a position warning people off. They just stand there, arms at their sides, conveying nothing.
   3. Of course, a discussion of art would be incomplete without talking about the murals... they're a bit too close to the problem. G-Do is literally in the next room. If he was nuclear waste, you're already losing all your hair. The murals are only understandable by people with specific knowledge of the Royal Family's lore. They do not depict useful information (eg. he's literally in the next room), only a legend. And the structure of the space it was in was so poorly constructed that literally the most important bits were obscured by rubble.
4. Finally, there is the physical barrier between the environment and the threat. You bury it in concrete, deep underground, somewhere without a lot of rainfall and earthquakes. The last thing that needs to happen is a bit of groundwater to start carrying plutonium into a well. You don't just leave this stuff in a ditch (unless you do). And yet... there is apparently a staircase directly to G-Do. He keeps spitting out calamities. People are getting sick from the emanation of energy/gloom...

I am not sure I have a point exactly. The lore nerds will rightfully point out that containment failed at exactly the moment it was meant to: ie. when Zelda came upon it and closed the time loop. True fact. I'm just stirring these tropes together. The ancient Hylians/Zonai tried to communicate a danger and how to deal with it to people in their distant future, ultimately showing us a bunch of ways that this did not work.
Us in the real world will have nuclear semioticians have better ideas. Most of this stuff is sitting the parking lots of nuclear power plants as we argue about where to put it. Hopefully we put it underground with good signage before we have our own calamity.

I spent two hours watching the Kitty Tweets and I have a theory about what's going on. The order of the Tweets matter and you need to watch then in chronological order. These memes have to mean something. He must have spent weeks planning this whole thing out. Even years. How do we know it's the same guy? The Avocado in your anus account. He posted on that in 21, 22, and 23 with happy cat day. Plus those headlines of the communities he posted in are wild all put together. If think he planned that so we'd have some proof it's actually him. If a hacker just got the account he wouldn't know about that user. So DFV is using the post history as a block chain of sorts proving he is who he says he is.
I'm going to reference a ton of Tweets here, if people ask about it I might come back through and fill in links to the specific Tweets I'm reference. But in the spirit of the cryptic Tweets, (and because I'm too lazy to link to each individually, I'm just going to reference them.) If you've watched through them, the below might make sense. Otherwise it'll probably sound like gibberish.
I believe he saw something in the paperwork that told a story, that story is what made him believe in Cohen again. Cohen has been playing a long con and made some decisions DFV didn't like in 21. But through finding some loopholes and dealing with a lot of paperwork, they found a way to make the MOASS happen. This is likely the share buy back. But it could also be the acquisition of another company or the launch of a crazy new product. Personally I think a Buy Back makes the most sense.
When DFV saw this, he came back. He's been waiting in the shadows for the right moment to strike.
A lot of the earlier memes seem to indicate that there are "Friends" he's bringing with him. Possibly large institutions or whales that are going to be helping with this plan. Who's in charge? Ryan? DFV? Good questions.
His most recent set of Tweets are interesting, police sirens. Being on the Lam, people coming after him etc. Plus...He's a Punk Rocker, and he's not afraid to break the rules to stick it to the Man. And finally the meme "ready to face the music" in the back of the cop car.
I think all of this could indicate he's going to do something which he knows could get him into hit water and legal trouble, but he's going to do it anyways. And if peope are paying attention they can be prepared before it happens.
The other section of Tweets are very "Move when I Move" and dancing / mirroring. I think this is supposed to be interpreted as when he makes his move, it'll be a coordinated strike. Between retail, institutional investors, and GME news. Avengers end game style. This could happen when the Longs expire early June (maybe...) but it could also be something else.
Either way, he wants the community to follow his moves. And to sell when "he says it's over" or aka... of he posts a position sold after the MOASS has heights. This allows people in the know, to have a coordinated strike and exit position. This is the only way to prevent people from becoming bag holders in the event the infinity pool thesis doesn't play out. Either way, I believe he's signaling that he will lead the attack and exit.
This... will obviously get him in HUGE trouble. Hence the cryptic memes. They'll have to prove in court those memes count as market manipulation, a hard task but not an impossible one. Once again calling back to the meme about being ready to face the music if it comes to it.
I think this plan has been in the works FOR A WHILE. On this meme at timestamp 1:37 https://twitter.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790894938277695671?s=19 a
In the middle upper right there is a scene from an old western with three pieces of text. They are upside down and reversed. If you screenshot it, zoom in, rotate and flip you'll see three cowboys with the text "George Sherman", "Ryan Cohen," and in-between then "GME Shorts."
It's odd to me that he calls out the previous CEO. I hadn't even heard of him. But... if this is a long term play that's been going on for a very, very long time with lots of planning that could explain it. There are tons of little hidden details like that in all of his meme. I'm really looking forward to reading that smarter Apes than I find, and the different theories behind it.
But, TL;DR
Cryptic Tweets from DfV signal that he's going to help us time a coordinated push which in tandem with news from Cohen, and buying pressure from institutions will lead us finally after three long years to the moon. Where we can all finally sit down with our tendies and lambos and rest. Bananas in hands, with the friends made along the way.

Hello aspiring adventurers!
Make sure to enter the code after you buy the game and BEFORE you start up your subscription to get your rewards.
How to redeem:

1. Login to your FFXIV account on the Mogstation: https://sqex.to/msp
2. "Registration Codes" on the left-hand side menu
3. Click "Enter Recruitment Code" and enter the code: M3XYGHC8

What you'll get:
A) Friendship Circlet - Increases EXP earned by 20% when level 25 and below
B) Aetheryte Ticket x 99 - To teleport to different zones with no cost!
C) 10 Silver Chocobo Feathers - To trade in for high level gear (You can trade these at any Calamity Salvager NPC in Gridania, Limsa Lominsa or Ul'dah)
D) Ballroom Etiquette: Improper Greetings - It allows you to do "Fist Bump" emote! (/fistbump, /brofist)