2 dudes and a sandbox

Soo this happened last night but it was 2am so technically it was today. Anywayy i (F 18) was with my fwb Richard (20M) and some of his friends. we always go on these late night adventures like sneaking onto rooftops but last night we went to our old middle school's playground. Once we got there all of richard's friends went to smoke by the swings. since we were alone we started doing stuff then one thing led to another and things escalated, at one point he bent me over the slide and started... you know what
Now the part the we messed up was not realizing there was a camera on the school pointed directly at us, not even 10 minutes later we hear sirens from the parking lot and cops start coming towards us. We immediately put our clothes back on and i could feel his stuff drip out of me, i think he filll'ed me up right before we saw the cops. Weird timing ahah anywayy we tried sneaking away but their flashlights were bright and they caught us then said not to move. All of richard's other friends must have got away because they only detained us.
According to the cops they got reports about public indecency and smoking on the premises. they started interrogating us asking where the other guys are but we didn't snitch and just played stupid. after like 15 mins of questioning they arrested us and took us in. Richard kept making stupid jokes to me like "at least i gave you a creeammpie before they caught us" like dude stfu this is a serious issue. he also might have gotten me pregg from not pulling out, i really can't have that i just turned 18. idkkk what to do anymore.. i think im gonna need a rebound after him, hit mee up if ur down for round 2

Soo this happened last night but it was 2am so technically it was today. Anywayy i (F 18) was with my fwb Richard (20M) and some of his friends. we always go on these late night adventures like sneaking onto rooftops but last night we went to our old middle school's playground. Once we got there all of richard's friends went to smoke by the swings. since we were alone we started doing stuff then one thing led to another and things escalated, at one point he bent me over the slide and started... you know what
Now the part the we messed up was not realizing there was a camera on the school pointed directly at us, not even 10 minutes later we hear sirens from the parking lot and cops start coming towards us. We immediately put our clothes back on and i could feel his stuff drip out of me, i think he filll'ed me up right before we saw the cops. Weird timing ahah anywayy we tried sneaking away but their flashlights were bright and they caught us then said not to move. All of richard's other friends must have got away because they only detained us.
According to the cops they got reports about public indecency and smoking on the premises. they started interrogating us asking where the other guys are but we didn't snitch and just played stupid. after like 15 mins of questioning they arrested us and took us in. Richard kept making stupid jokes to me like "at least i gave you a creeammpie before they caught us" like dude stfu this is a serious issue. he also might have gotten me pregg from not pulling out, i really can't have that i just turned 18. idkkk what to do anymore.. i think im gonna need a rebound after him, hit mee up if ur down for round 2

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/MentalPlatypus5193 posting in amiwrong
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Thanks to u/colorsofautomn for finding this BORU
Original - 28th April 2024
Update1 - 10th May 2024
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Update2 - - 18th May 2024
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My son [19M] filed harassment charges against me and my husband because we were making him go to college
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Me and my son moved to US last year. I was a single mom for 16 yrs before I met and then married my husband. I saved up money so he can go to college. Where I came from, college is very important. We moved to a small town and my son found new friends. These friends in my opinion were not a good influence. I am used to polite and academically oriented kids back home. These new friends of his make fun of his books and his plans of going to college.
Before his HS graduation, me and my husband took him to several unis in the state so he could get a feel for which one he would like to go to. Then after he graduated from HS, I told him I have about $20k saved up for college. He said it is not going to fit because tuition is pretty expensive nowadays. I suggested he can just go to a community college 20 mins away and live at home to save money. He agreed and I gave him access to the fund (joint account).
Long story short, he did not enroll himself and instead started partying a lot and used the money on expensive dates with his gf. He moved out and stopped talking to me. I worked hard to save that up for more than a decade and I am upset that he wasted it in less than a year. Me and my husband went to his place and asked that he pay me back since it is specifically for college and not "fun money".
He called the police and filed harassment charges. I told the police to review the cctv footage because the whole time I was talking to him through his ring cam, I was calm and reasonable and my husband was just standing behind me not saying anything. I was outside the door talking, he never even opened the door to talk to me face to face. The police said there's nothing he can do if my son and his gf felt "harassed", he can file a restraining order if he wants to.
Back home, this is unforgivable to treat your parent like this. But here in US, I was treated almost like a criminal. My sister in law said it is my fault for confronting him and that the money is his to spend since I made him a joint account owner. Am I wrong?
Edit: People cursing me because I said something about wanting to throw my chancla on my son's face, to be clear I have never laid my hands or my flip flops on him ever. But after what he did, my intrusive thoughts wants me to throw it but of course I won't. If he called the cops on me just because I want to talk to him, what more if I threw my flip flops on his face??
His relationship with me before moving to US was fine. He knew my struggle as a single mom and he always try to help me around the house. I was not strict at all he was free to go out with friends anytime. He was even thrilled to have a father figure and my husband always try to make him feel included in everything.
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ManufacturerAny835
Lesson learned never give someone access to money unless you’re ok with them running away with it

OOP: He was a good boy before moving here. I thought he knew my struggles and how much I sacrificed to save money. I just thought he would never betray me like this.

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dingdongsbtchs
Honestly I think a lot of parents don’t realize the depth of their children and forget that just because you think of them as one way doesn’t mean they don’t have other layers that can make them a different person. Sadly your son has found some less than savory friends to surround himself with and now he has to live with the decision he made. I honestly wouldn’t offer help for university again and would leave communication up to him. Also has there been any questions or discussion of potential drug use??
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2workigo
The money is gone. And since he was a joint account holder and a legal adult, there’s nothing to be done except refuse to help him financially anymore. Let him figure it out on his own from now on. The friends he had will likely drift away now that he no longer has a fat bank account to fund their party lifestyle.
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Treacle_Moon
Her biggest fault is waiting till it was all gone to do something about it. She had joint access. She could have stepped in long before now and tried to deal with it. Too little too late unfortunately.
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Update - 12 days later
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I still have not heard from my son and I don't expect him to reach out. But his gf's mother has called me asking if my house is still open to him. I asked her why, it turns out he hasn't paid his share of the last month's rent and his gf had to pay it for him.
I said it is not my problem and he is not welcome anymore in my house since he is an adult. The gf's mom said "what kind of mother would not extend help to his teenage son?". She further insulted me and said now she knows why he left me.
At this point I really don't care anymore. I tried to help him get a good start in life but he wasted it. Aside from the $20k, he lived rent free in the house, free food, free phone, car, gas money, and I pay all the utility bills and his health insurance. All I asked is that he focus on his studies. Finish at least an associate's degree so he can get a decent job and be fully independent from me asap.
For some who asked why college is so important to me, as an immigrant, we are held under certain standards. We have to prove to USCIS that we will not become a public charge -- meaning we won't rely on any government aid. I want him to be able to be a good immigrant and become productive. I don't even know if he can become a citizen if he makes below poverty income. I was just trying to make sure he gets to live a good life.
Some of you asked if he even wanted go to to college. Back when we were in our home country, he begged me to pls send him to college no matter what.
P.S. The harassment charge was closed for lack of evidence of harassment, a lot of what he said were lies.
Edit: Another thing that gave me chills was when he moved out it was the middle of the night and me and my husband were both asleep. My son left the front door hanging open (I saw it in the camera). We live in a small town but there's a lot of crime in our area, someone could have gone in and done something bad.
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bluedreamer62
Some people just have to learn the hard way, his gf probably had a good time with him spending his college fund now 5hat it’s gone the fun is over. So comes the reality.
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PoliteCanadian2
So you’re saying this is the Find Out stage that follows the Fuck Around stage?
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Sharp_Mathematician6
Yep
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SnooWords4839
His GF's mom has no right to bitch you out. Your son left, spend his college fund and now has to figure out how to adult. You do not owe him anything at this point.
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ladyalcove
She's just calling her out because she's realizing that now she has to take care of this bum.
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butterfly-garden
Yup. She, too, is in the Find Out stage.
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Update 2 - 8 days later
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His girlfriend's mom called me again today and basically handed the phone to my son to "sort it out between us". I let him just talk and tell me what is on his mind. Here's a summary of his point of view:

• He felt like I deprived him of a lot of things growing up. I couldn't buy him an Xbox/playstation, iphone, or anything a teenager wants when we were in our home country. I can't afford it. Back then I was making $1k a month and saving 20% of it for his college fund and whatever was left was for us to live on. I was helping my parents too with some groceries so money was really really tight. When I look back now, I don't know how I made it all fit.
• He felt so small because his clothes were hand me downs from cousins or just cheap clothes I bought from tianguis.
• He said I was not supportive unlike his friend's parents. Some of his friends have wealthy parents who bought their sons a house and never had to go to college or think about their future because they will inherit the family farm anyway. I have no generational wealth to be that supportive. I wish I have.
• He said I have so much house rules. Yes I do. I want him to wash his plates after eating (I used to do it for him), clean his room and keep it tidy, make sure the windows are tightly shut in winter, keep the thermostat at 68 during winter to save electricity, come home at 11pm or else the house will be double locked from the inside for my safety (because my husband drives a truck and not home at night most the time). I also told him before that since he has a part time job, he can't use my credit card for anything but emergency anymore, but he still used it sometimes anyway (card's been frozen since he moved out).
• I asked him why file charges when I only wanted some explanation from him. He said he don't want to inconvenience his gf and filing charges is the easiest way to get me to stop trying to talk to him.

So basically he felt deprived as a kid and that he thinks he was just healing his inner child when he spent the money. He said his friends told him I owe that to him for bringing him to this world. He thinks that I should not have a child if I can't afford these things.
I asked him why he left the door open that night. He went silent for a few seconds then said "I just thought that if the house get robbed, I could just say I cashed the money from the bank and the robbers must have found it". Unbelievable.
At this point I was so emotional and I was a crying mess. I told him I am deeply sorry that I was his mom and that he had to grow up feeling deprived because I was poor. Then he said "Oh stop with your guilt tripping, you are saying that to make me feel bad.
Oh and he also said he hates it when I do this. I don't yell like that lady but I pretty much bug him to get up and help me set the table. I never get a response so I had to raise my voice higher. He said I was so rude. But he grew up with this. This is me being me. All moms back home do this. Al of a sudden he is comparing me to his mom's friends. In our culture we want food to be eaten while it is fresh from the stove. I spent 1 hr cooking after a long day at work, the least you can do is help me set the table and eat my food while it's nice and warm.
I hung up. My heart is broken in so much pieces. Am I wrong?
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Whitewitchie
He has a chip on both shoulders. Leave him be. It's despicable he left the door open so you were vulnerable to burglars. Absolutely no consideration for your safety at all.
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Mtndrums
Dude's a spoiled brat, and an idiot to not see his "friends" were using him. You need to cut him off and let him figure things out.
dublos
Not spoiled. Mom could not spoil him.
Entitled.
This child believes he's entitled to the same things his friends grew up with, even though his parents provided the best they could provide.
u/MentalPlatypus5193 your son has made his bed. Let him sleep in it.
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I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments

What's a good idea for 2 guys to hang out? Scenario is I'm meeting dudes at my local bouldering gym and would like to take the friendship outside the context of bouldering in a low key way. Most people suggest going for a drink but then you have to factor in them being sober or not, parking.
I'm looking for something that can be done in all weathers and at day or night time, that doesn't cost much money

For a background, I have been reading one piece in ongoing for 6 years now. Anime, manga, LN, WN I have a lot of stuff to compare one piece to.
For a long time, it's stayed in my top 10 series. The sole reason being the overarching story and world building. But I think, even they can't carry the horrible flaws in writing anymore.
Egghead arc is incredibly boring and has no value.
Let's see why that is.

1. Biggest flaw, that harms egghead the most : "Lack of stakes". Since no one, and I mean no one is going to die. Even a pitiful side character, it's hard to really feel engaged. In fact, Vegapunk isn't dead for sure. But he isn't even a character we are invested in. Killing a character you just brought in, isn't a big deal. Because we have no connection with it.
   
2. "Bad powerscaling" : and saying one piece isnt about power scaling is cope. It's a shonen action series. If it cant handle it, it's a weakness. You can't escape. Why it hurts egghead even more?
   

Look at it, we have 5 elders, who are stronger than an admiral. On strawhat's side, the only one at that level is luffy.
Now combine point 1 and 2 and we have a bad story. Those 4 elders going on rampage should have made quick work of everyone on the island. Luffy isn't stopping them. But of course, there are no stakes, so we ain't afraid of anyone dying. But worse yet, this means, there is nothing to be engaged in the story.
Even with such a massive threat, it's not engaging at all. How are nami-ussopp level even taking a single side blow? It's impossible. A good writing would have brought in some other help that could help them, or someone would be dying right now.
The point here isn't : I wanna see X person die. (Coz I know emotional people come in and say, so you just want X to die. That's not the point. If you say that, you have already missed the point) The point is, for an action story to be engaging, the characters need to be in risk. There is no risk in one piece. And we reached here through the dozen arcs, where we went through similar things.
Egghead is the culmination of it all. This arc has even more enemies (total threat level I mean) than Wano. But the people who can fight them are all gone. But there is no risk regardless.

1. On one hand, there is a dark overarching story, but then we have these scenes where author is afraid to show deaths of enemies too. Luffy said he will take the head of Kaido, but he didn't. Of course kaido is dead, but how does luffy know that?

Sure he doesn't kill his enemies. But he isn't against disabling them, yes? Why didn't he disable Kizaru? The dude got in their way again and again. (And also killed Vegapunk. but wait, is he really dead?) The fakeouts are also, extremely annoying.

1. Visible damage makes no sense : For example, a punch that can shatter mountains will disable the opponent but, he won't have any visible damage. I know it's a children's show or whatever. But when simple guns seem to penetrate their skins, it's looks ridiculous in comparison.

Also, Haki works on the surface, so if your mountain shattering sword hit penetrated their skin, they should be turned into mincemeat. Which doesn't happen.
Haki is basically like Qi in DBZ. But the bodies of one piece characters make no sense. What's the point of the Meitous if they can't even cut people in half. It's extremely childish.
What's truly sad, is one piece is has worse power scaling than DBZ and that's saying something.
It's probably not worth enough to stay in my top 10 anymore. The world building and overarching story can't carry anything, if the foreground stuff is horrible.
Tl;Dr - to summarise : Because the story has no stakes even when incredibly powerful opponents are in the arc which is multiplied by incredibly horrendous power scaling which then makes the battles completely meaningless and nonsensical. Its emphasized by the fact that damage makes no sense. And the cherry on top is when hundreds or thousands of people die through these battles, and luffy keeps his "no kill" vow. As if his random shot didn't just kill hundreds of fodders in that ship.
To finalise : one piece has some good points, but essentially it's being held down by many of the weaknesses I have seen in Japanese authors. These authors never had the skill to actually make something long, but they inadvertently made a famous story and had to make them into those long series. But they often lack the writing skills, so it still feels like an amateur write up.
The real reason for sucess of some of these stories is the simplicity they have. A simple plot with simple action = fun. It's not wrong, but it's not the critically acclaimed master piece the fans will claim it to be.
There are definitely several well executed gemstones among manga/LN/anime. So it's not to say that they don't exist. But that's out of the scope of this sub of course.

Donna liked a DJ at this bar in Boston with jellyfishes dancing behind the bar in an aquarium.
So, we went every night he was there, even nights he wasn’t there, to that bar, and then 2-3 other bars because she liked to pop around, looking.
This night though, she finally closed the deal with the DJ she had been hunting for so many weeks. She was finally taking him home. And me, to heour place. cool. I was ready for sleep, but her DJ said he had to stop, to pick to something up.
I assumed cigarettes.
A dude got in the car in the back with me. Someone I’d never met, who proudly told me he had a very big dick before he introduced himself by name.
The “something” her DJ “had” to pick up was a friend that I was apparently supposed to just sleep with.
Was I drunk enough and had I such a reduced self worth at that point that I was just supposed to have sex with some guy her DJ crush just picked up on the way to heour place?
This best friend I trusted so much, with everything; she was sober enough to drive us home, and pick up a friend of the DJ—and I was now supposed to have sex with someone that I didn’t know. She didn’t care about me. She had a goal and it was the conquest of this DJ.
That night out I had a lot to drink, and I didn’t know how to say no in a way that would diffuse the situation—so, after this stranger laid himself in my bed without my permission, and Donna had gone into her room with the DJ, I started smacking the stranger, playfully at first.
I didn’t have the words to convey I wasn’t a willing participant, and that I assumed I was expected to sleep with him, but I didnt want to.
So, my body defended itself.
I smacked him again, in my bed as I straddled this stranger.
Again, and again.
He was ok with it, until I wouldn’t have sex with him.
When it was finally apparent my slaps weren’t going to end in sexy times, and I was just slapping this stranger in my bed around, he’d had enough.
I wasn’t the easy meal he and the DJ had planned on.
The stranger interrupted Donna and her DJ in her room, and demanded to be taken home because I was “crazy.”
Donna’s DJ had to leave with me ruining her night, because I didn’t have the capacity to say “no, I’m not going to sex this rando the DJ picked up like a pack of cigs.”
This was the beginning of the downfall of our friendship.
Before this the micro aggressions she inflicted daily were palatable, but after that night, it was clear I was cramping her style and my days were numbered.
She had tagged me along for law school, but only insofar as I was a benefit, in some way, to her.
That night I ceased to be the go-along friend, and the dude I didn’t have sex with left chastising me. Her disappointment in me for not playing along lasted so much longer than any hang over ever would.
When everything is all about outward appearances, a poor nerd girl that would rather stay at home and play World of Warcraft isn’t the best wing-man.

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Decent_Lecture_1514
I run a DnD group with kids aged 7-11 at my local YMCA, and some parents are trying to get the game outright banned. I have to have a meeting with both parents and HR Department and effectively present my case. Please help!
Originally posted to DnD
Thanks to u/PitaEnigma for suggesting this BoRU
EDITORS NOTE: because it's mentioned and some may not remember or been born when it happened, a quick synopsis of the satanic panic
The Satanic panic is a moral panic consisting of over 12,000 unsubstantiated cases of Satanic ritual abuse (SRA, sometimes known as ritual abuse, ritualistic abuse, organized abuse, or sadistic ritual abuse) starting in the United States in the 1980s, spreading throughout many parts of the world by the late 1990s, and persisting today.
Original Post May 9, 2024
Sorry if this is a longer post, but important context below ⬇️
So yeah I'm a program coordinator at our local YMCA and I run an after-school program (effectively am a glorified babysitter hahaha). This past school year I passively mentioned that I play a lot of DnD when one of the kids asked me if I had any plans that weekend, and it totally piqued their interest when I explained to them what the game was like/about. Naturally they asked if they could try and play and I figured sure why not, I'll write a fun and fam friendly one-shot for them.
They all absolutely loved it. It's turned into a proper campaign with about 7 of the 24 kids me and my coworkers look after consistently playing. I've had to limit the sessions to just 1-2 days of the 5 day school week, because I have other kids too that aren't interested in it, and I obviously still need to give them attention and interaction as well (and as you know DnD can be a very engaged and attention demanding). I thought this was a fair compromise. Days that it's nice outside we are always out running around, being active, playing sports -- but if it's a rainy day, or on our weekly Friday Movie Day, we generally play. It's been such a blast sharing something I love so deeply with kids who I care about so much.
So here comes the issue:
Almost every parent of the core group that plays loves that we are doing this (one even plays weekly and we bonded over it haha), but there is one child whose parents certainly do not; they want their kid just constantly active and engaged and playing sports, not playing "silly make believe", which I guess I get to a degree because this is kinda the MO of the YMCA traditionally; healthy active living.
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I've explained that most days of the week we do just that, and that this is something we only do on Fridays or rain days when we are stuck inside, but they aren't budging. I think they have a misguided idea of the game and what it is, or maybe they are just fundamentally against it, I'm not sure. I don't think it's to the level of like the era of thought where media and the masses thought DnD was some kind of satanic game, but I feel like there could certainly be a bit of that.
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Anyway they want it to stop immediately. I've told them I'm not forcing anyone to play, and that if they really feel that way they are within their rights to tell their child they don't want him playing, but they are trying to take it a step farther and get it banned. ALSO I would feel horrible if this child were forbade from playing while all his friends have a blast doing so. Just doesn't seem right.
I understand that it's a game that can involve more mature themes and gameplay, and probably isn't reeeeeeeeally for super young folk, but I feel the way I'm running it mitigates this for the most part: there's no PVP (so no bullying can happen), I'm dealing with waaaaaay less serious themes and stakes, and I don't even include any circumstances where they fight any other humanoids -- strictly just heroes fighting big bad monsters and saving towns. You know the drill.
So yeah long story short(ish) the parents of the one child have called a meeting with HR to discuss the playing of this game at the YMCA. I have it on Sunday. I'm confident I'm gonna have to effectively state my case and explain why I think this is not only an okay thing to be doing, but actually in fact a good thing. I don't know if I'll be able to fully sway them if their mind is already made up, all I can do is just speak my truth haha.
I do whole-heartedly think this game can be super beneficial for young folk. I'll spare you my long form thoughts, but between the teamwork and communication required and rewarded, the problem solving (both ethically and logically and mathematically), AND the improvisation emphasized, I think it stimulates a young mind very well. Lets them escape their own world for a bit and take agency and feel they have control, something young people so desperately desire.
So in conclusion, I'm kinda just writing this to get it off of my chest and vent, BUT I guess my questions would be:
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• do you have any advice on how to properly communicate my points on why this game can be beneficial for young minds?

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• Do you know of any other benefits I'm missing?

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• have you ever had experiences similar to this?

Or maybe you disagree with me and think I'm out of line here, which is totally fair too. Just looking to start some dialogue.
RELEVANT COMMENTS
Thackebr

I know it is a hassle, but if you get to keep Dnd, you might want to start requiring permission slips. That way, you could avoid this in the future.

The_Law_Of_Pizza

This will make it less likely for the OP to get a surprise angry parent, but I don't like the precedent of demanding permission slips for a mundane board game.
It sets up an expectation that D&D is different in some way, and gives ammunition to these weirdos who are still trapped in the Satanic Panic - it lets them point to the permission slips and say, "Look, even your own policies admit that this is something to be hidden behind barriers and parental approval."
At a certain point we have to stand up to these people in society and tell them that they're being ridiculous and that we won't concede to their demands under any circumstances. That takes a great deal of backbone by the YMCA administration, though.

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probloodmagic

Geez. Really putting the "C" in YMCA. I imagine looking into how people fought back during the "Satanic Panic" might provide some good advice for this.

u/efrique had a great comment about handling a new round of the satanic panic
Here
Many offered sites that share good info about why DnD is helpful and beneficial to kids
thatdanglion

You can point the leadership and parents to the numerous studies showing the many ways playing D&D is beneficial for kids, too. One, for example.

g3rmb0y

I just looked through this thread, there's a ton of great stuff here.
Some additional good orgs that talk about the therapy side are: https://gametogrow.org/ https://geektherapeutics.com/ https://rollforkindness.com/ (That's me) https://www.thebodhanagroup.org/

dgendbreau

D&D has also been shown to be useful in teaching kids about social skills, creative writing, theory of mind, mental math, team work, problem solving etc.
https://dnd.wizards.com/resources/educators

Update May 13, 2024
Made a post a few days ago about how I run a DnD campaign for some kids in an after-school program I run for the YMCA, and subsequently how the parents of one of the kids was trying to get the game banned and whole operation shut down. I wasn't sure the best way to make an update, but I linked the whole original post above so you can have a read if you'd like ^
So firstly genuine genuine genuine big thanks to everyone who took the time to read and respond with input and suggestions. It means a ton and really helped a lot. So I'm just gonna jump right in with what happened.
Firstly, I took the advice about getting testimonies from parents who were super happy that I was playing this game with their kids -- we weren't allowed to have outside visitors involved in the actual meeting with HR, but I got emails and messages from mostly every parent (besides the one complaining about it lmao) to voice their support and why they think this is not a harmful thing, and in fact actually a good thing. I really think this helped a lot and was a big factor, so thanks everyone who suggested. It's not something I would've thought to do on my own ahahah.
I didn't want to come in toooooo heavy with the articles and very clear scientific proof about the benefits of developing minds playing TTRPGs', because (as it turned out) this was actually more just conversational and "pleasant" than I thought it was gonna be, at least from HRs side. I did mention to them the multiple studies done on this exact scenario, but it turned out I didn't even really need them. There were definitely moments of tension, but this was a more civil conversation than I anticipated from all parties involved. I'm not sure if it was the fact that the parents who complained had to talk to me in person WITH my bosses and HR reps present and it calmed them down a bit? But yeah anyway.
I wish it was a more dramatic story, but basically I just levelled with them person to person.
People who said they were betting on it being a Christian, satanic-panic angle: you were right, mostly anyway. As in, that was definitely a main part of their argument. They are in fact Christian and were concerned, but it was really coming from a place of ignorance about what this game is about, and they specifically didn't understand the fact that the DM (me) can entirely control what the contents of it is. I'm assuming they just googled DnD and probably saw some things they didn't agree with, but once I explained that the way we were playing it included no demon spawn or worshipping, or any killing of other humans, or allowing of murder-hobo activity, they softened up a bit. I told them it's a strictly G/PG rated experience that I'm curating for them. And of course I explained the social and academic benefits of DnD, and how much of a bonding activity this is for the group, and how much their son in particular loves it. This helped big time.
Ironically, it was their other argument about wanting active engagement for their child (ie; sports lol) that was a little harder to combat. From their and HRs perspective, this whole program and the YMCAs MO IS in fact healthy active engagement. I explained that most days of the week we are doing just that. I'm a tennis instructor as well and have played sports all my life (and they know this), so I tried to assure them that I get their child a SOLID amount of engagement (plus free tennis lessons effectively haha). I'll save you the whole back and forth, but this was a majority of our 45 minute meeting.
Im trying to wrap this up with a bow but not sure exactly how, so I'll just finish with the bullet points from the end of the discussion:
• The game is not banned! HOORAY HOORAY!
• I am now only allowed to play it with them once a week (on Friday), but all things considered I'll take this as a win!
• and best of all, the complained parents are letting their kid continue to play!!!! I'm sending them a detailed summary of the contents of my game so they can look it over, but they said with it now "officially" only being once a week, and with a better understanding of what it actually is, they will let him to continue to play. I'm so unbelievably happy.
So boom. Happy ending. Again big thanks to everyone for giving their advice and linking resources; it helped so much and meant a lot. This is a big win for "the community" I feel, at the risk of sounding too corny. You are all the best. I love this game so much 🥹
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OOP explains how they made DnD G/PG rated

So the method I've taken is that this is mainly an explorative and mystery solving campaign. There is combat occasionally, but it's heeeeeavy on the RP aspect of these aforementioned things (aka 7 kids screaming over each other lmao)
I briefly mentioned in the previous post that when I do involve combat I don't include any that js player versus any humanoids -- so no "killing" of bandits or raiders or pirates or anything resembling, it's strictly taking out big bad monsters, or a big spidebats/owlbear or whatever when it does happen. This takes a big amount of the potential nastiness out: Timmy cant go home saying "Mom I killed 4 dudes today!", regardless if he understands the deeply political and socio-economic rooted reasons why it may be justified he did that 🙄 hahahah.
So yeah eliminated that entirely, strayed away from words like "kill" or "dead" or certainly "murdered", and have a very very "heroes save the town from mishaps" type adventure. For a quick example our last plot hook/beat (which ended up taking up like 3 Fridays because of how long it can take with young kids hahaha) involved them stumbling into a town and discovering that it holds the map to an ancient treasure that is rumoured to be buried in a magical woods nearby. Maaaaaany puzzles and skill checks later they found it deep in the woods by a magic tree and had to answer (very basic) riddles from the speaking and living tree in order to get access to it. They succeeded and absolutely loved it and there was no combat at all.

THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP
DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7

two cold approaches in a club, need criticism and pointers
Long story short, went to this goth club with a badance floor area. I decided to go solo cause I'm new to this city.
Got there early-ish when it wasn't packed, grabbed a drink and saw the DJ's getting set up. I sort of just walked around the venue at first since it was a cool scene I wanted to check out all the amenities. Eventually I grabbed a drink and noticed the place starting to gradually fill up, there were definitely more groups than solo people.
Spent some time scanning the room to see who is solo and could use company, approached this girl very obviously sitting alone. She was receptive and we talked, turns out she was like 40 something and sort of just trauma dumped all the shit going wrong in her life to me. Then she told me that no men want her even though she has a house and all these other nice things, eventually she left frustrated. Not with me, we had a good chat about stuff, I think she just felt she didn't fit into a young ppl goth bar, I was probably the only person that approached her to talk. Tbh had no clue she was 40 something, makeup? idfk
Anyway later into the night
got another drink so at this point I'm at 2 and the social lubricant is starting to take effect. We are well into the night at this point and the dance floor is packed with ppl doing weird goth dances, the bartenders are scrambling etc. So since the 40 something yo lady left I spent time just enjoying the DJ's and watching ppl dance. After I while I decide to give it another go and start scanning the room again to find someone else solo that could use company.
I spot this qt girl (more around my age) waiting in line for a drink, so I approach and somehow strike up some small talk. She seemed receptive and we continued talking, pretty early in our conversation I offered to buy her a drink which she accepted and we took our conversation to another area of the bar to get out of the way of other ppl in line.
What followed was we spent the next 2hr or so talking about all kinds of stuff, the city, cats / dogs, the location, work, etc etc. Made her laugh a good many times and we kept eye contact during the whole ordeal. Eventually a escalate and ask for her number which she plugged into my phone. I also complemented her style said I liked her hair, which we talked about for a while (attempt at flirting).
Everything after this point is stuff I need advice on, because everything after this point is where I started fumbling I think...
So... when I gave her my number I followed up by saying she's really fun to talk to and we should grab lunch or coffee sometime soon. To this she gave me a sort of uh..... I dunno how to describe... mutter of acceptance? Like I have no clue if she agreed or fake agreed idk...
Note by this time I've been talking to her for a good while and wanna move from the bar elsewhere, so as we're talking she mentions she can go crazy with the goth dances. I tried to capitalize on that saying we should hit the floor and maybe she can show me. Again here I have no clue what she said back to that... all I know is that I don't think she was super interested in doing that with me, plus she was tired after work so didn't wanna dance.
By this point the alcohol is wearing off, it's late and I can tell she's a lil tired of talking to me as for the past 2hrs she made effort to keep the convo going and so did I, and now it was sort of dead.
Here is the confusing part to me... so she tells me she'll brb and basically just doesn't come back. So I close my tab and leave cause it's late anyway.
few days later I text her saying I had fun talking to her and wanna get to know her better grab drinks again etc. No reply.
And yup that's sort of it, mind you I'm 22 this is my first time going to a club and trying this solo without a group.
I'm asking for advice about things I did wrong and things I did correctly that I need to replicate in the future when I go back there.
My own self-reflection rn is
I blundered by staying basically glued to her for so long which killed the convo and vibe, again I just thought we were hitting it off cause we talked for so long.
maybe could've tried talking to more than 2 ppl? I also struck up conversation with this dude and that was cool.
Maybe I made the mistake of focusing too much on picking up girls rather than enjoying the venue?

I (19M) went through a nasty breakup some time ago last year and have spent a lot of time healing and soul searching, working hard on self understanding, depression recovery, finding mistakes I made in my previous relationship ( even through she cheated on me) I was sure there were still some flaws in my behavior, and sure enough there was. So Ive been living, learning, improving.
I’m generally a no games, no nonsense dude who just wants the pieces to fit together in the game we call life, im a deeply feeling man who is not the kind of person who just casually throws relationships away as if they are disposable, i live, learn from and remember each relationship i have deeply because that’s how it matters to me, but generally im just looking for the one.
I have my academic pathway in order (just finished freshman year college)
My mental health has significantly improved and I’m currently working on losing some weight though I am still a pretty handsome man who’s got some hight and shoulders to backup my neurodivergent mind which of course has its own interesting quirks
Now comes my problem
When to get back in the game given my progress, a variable to consider is I may or may not be moving in the next 2 years and may be either to a different location locally or to a different country entirely which makes starting a relationship kinda pointless because I’m not a casual relationship or hookup guy, I am long term hopefully I marry this person kinda guy.
So my question is do I date now with the possibility of moving and I’m still in college as a sort of Inbetween situation that I have no control over just so I can have that enjoyment , or do I wait it out and see what happens in life and jump back in the pool when I end up wherever life may take me in the next 2-3 years?
Because I’m in the mindset that a relationship would be a nice addition to my life, it’s no longer the necessity I used to think of it as when I used to be dependent on it for happiness ( big no no) but I do love sharing myself and now that ive solved the majority of my mental health problems
It would feel nice to share that and be a bit of who I used to be when I was in my last relationship ( the deeply loving, compassionate man that I enjoy being) while going through this new and interesting stage of life like everyone else.
What should I do? Get back in the pool and date while in this stage of my life or wait it out and see what happens with my living situation down the road?

Title is a long story short. Spent my early 20s exploring and seeing what I liked. Took a long time of doing me to figure out what I want if I even want it. Hit an all time life low about 5 years ago and rebuilt my entire life from that point. I'm not rich now but I'm doing really well I think. I live alone in a nice apartment, I have 2 healthy cats a boy and a girl that I love dearly. I have a degree in Graphic Design and I work a full-time job as a press operator and a second part-time job at UPS for insurance. I don't make crazy money but I make plenty enough to live a decent life. I'm 6 foot, maybe 6' 1" if you caught me right out of bed, weigh about 172, I'm not super cut but I can hang with the best of them and my cardio is insanely good for a 32 year old. I do stay to myself a lot specifically because of my schedule and the fact that no one ever wants to do literally anything outside their bedroom since covid. I literally live every day just trying to be better than the guy I was yesterday.
Meanwhile, again I'm not rich and I work a lot, and I'm 32 with no kids and very few social hobbies. Every time I get remotely involved with the start of dating someone one of three things happens:

1. Full on ghosting
2. There is someone else
3. I'm not financially or religiously qualified

I cannot tell you how annoying it is to find an interest, follow it for weeks to months remaining exclusive out of respect for the person you are after (I know I'm not required to and neither are they but hey it's nice to think the person you are messing around with didn't literally just stop smashing someone else in the same week) just to find out that from the very beginning you were excluded and not the main priority. I'm honestly okay with being 'used for sex' if I mutually want the same thing but I cannot tell you how frustrating it is to be mislead and then left hanging. Like how hard is it to just be like 'hey I think you're cute but I'm really just looking to use you to rebound and vent'. Cool, my place or yours? Instead it's this eggshell tip-toe nonsense of wondering what the other person is up to all the time.
I don't know where to meet new people, how to approach them without being an absolute weirdo, and the social anxiety that comes with being a 32 year old dude with no real social group just eats me up at night. I'm sure everyone has moments that they cringe over when they think about but I feel so repulsive anymore that my entire dating career past 25 feels hard to think about.
I'm not really asking for tips or suggestions, I just wanted to yell for a bit. Maybe someone will get where I am coming from. Thanks for reading.

You can see my first post here: https://www.reddit.com/Cityofheroes/comments/1cqpvrk/earthbending_for_noobs_the_earthearth_dominato
For my second build, I am going to try and explain this somewhat unique build and play style. The reason I call it the anti-tank is because it doesn't tend to jive with a typical taunt tank that leads from the front. This plays like a ranged, stealthy scout that sets up groups for everyone else to mop up. It can do well 1v1, but it's damage overall is minimal. It plays like a ranged blaster with crowd control. Most control sets have an AoE stun, AoE immob, and a single target immob. Mind doesn't. Most control sets have a pet. Mind doesn't.
I do not play this as a damage dominator. I run ahead of groups and do soft controls and damage mitigation. When I run along with the group, I do a bit of rodeo herding. This set leans heavily on a handful of powers and finesse usage. It starts out very slow with a lot of single target blasts. My end goal is to have decent resistance to Smashing, Lethal, and Psi damage, and almost capped Defense to Ranged, Energy, Negative Energy, and Psionic Damage. You will have a little over 100% recharge before hasten end game, and you will learn you will need to constantly be on the move. This set plays well when your lead is a brute, your tank is primarily damage dealing and doesn't have taunt, or you just don't have either.
Mind Control

• Mesmerize - I slot this with 5 decimation. It's a good blast and a good sleep also. You can also slot this 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 1 END RED
• Levitate - Same as above. It's very soft mitigation that doesn't always knock-up. I see it as just another blast.
• Dominate - I hate this power sometimes. Damage is worse than the previous two. 4 basilisk's gaze or 1 ACC, 2 RECH, 1 END RED. This is usually last on the blast chain unless I am fighting an AV.
• Confuse - I skipped this power, but it's great. It has great recharge, accuracy, and duration already. I can see doing 1 acc/confuse set piece. 1 ACC. With enough recharge and accuracy, you can confuse AVs or EBs. If you solo a lot, maybe take it.
• Mass Hypnosis - This is a staple power. Eventually I placed the entire purple sleep set in it. You can also do 5 slots of the rare sleep set for 6.25% recharge and then a single lvl 50 Recharge IO. 1 ACC, 3 RECH, 2 END RED. I would NOT put a damage proc in this set. Enemies don't notice it.
• Telekinesis - Great power, but requires a lot of finesse. It herds better than Hurricane. I put 1 ACC and 2-3 RECH. What it does is when you click a bad guy, it first bunches them up with others in the area, then pushes them a set distance away. If you go forward, they go forward, if you walk back, they move back with you. This power holds sets, but I would skip that. You can add extra bad guys into your herd, push and pull them where you want granted they don't kill you, shove dudes into a wall, lock down a doorway or choke point (any mission in Terra Volta, or certain points in the ITF). The key is mitigating damage first and then bunching them up. You can also just bunch them up and unclick. The toggle doesn't last forever, but it holds them in place and sometimes levitates them. It can draw you more aggro than you can handle. You can take already immob'd bad guys and bunch them up nice and pretty. 1 ACC, 2 RECHARGE
• Total Domination - I hate this power, but its necessary. It has garbage base recharge, crap for accuracy, and only a mag 3 hold. It's only good when you are really slotted up. I slot it 4 basilisk's gaze and 2 from the ATO Dominating Grasp Set. The Idea is to maximize Accuracy and Recharge. This power goes well AFTER you have already tagged a group with fear or sleep. This power does very well when you are in domination mode. MAKE SURE AND PUT YOUR DOMINATION CLICKY IN YOUR TRAY AND ON AUTO. Place it right beside hasten. This power set combo has quite a few clikies and Your domination button and your hasten button are two of about four. 2 ACC, 3 RECH, 1 END RED
• Terrify - Great Power. I would put a fear OR ranged AoE set in this (or a purple Ranged AoE) and then a single RECH IO. You can ALSO put your 1 good ATO set in this (not dominating grasp, but the other one). The ATO set or the purple Ranged AoE set give 10% recharge. The Fear set only gives 6.25% recharge. This is a great soft lock. The bad guys will fire back before they get scared so don't open with this until you get capped ranged defense. This on top of a sleep kinda defeats the purpose of sleep. This is ALL the AoE damage you get until epics. 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 2 RECH.
• Mass Confusion - I slot the purple Confuse Set. You can also use 5 confuse set and 1 RECH IO. Do NOT put damage procs in this power. I don't care about the extra 3% ranged def. Don't do it. 1 ACC, 3 RECH, 2 END RED.

End game, you will have quite a bit of recharge. Aim for using the full (and the only good) ATO set and all of the purples you can. If you can only afford 1 purple set: The Confuse One. The Sleep one is good also, but before you get that, get that other ATO set.
For Power Pools I use stealth plus one more power from that pool, hasten and super speed, combat jumping, and boxing tough/weave. For Epics I use Psionic. Mainly for Link Minds, Indomitable Will, and Mind over Body. Link Minds gets a LotG plus 5 defense set for that extra 5% recharge, Indomitable Will gets a single LotG, and Mind over Matter gets 4 Resist IO set for 3% melee plus 7.5% HP.
Tough gets 2 3% def uniques, weave gets a LotG plus another 5 for that 5% recharge (same as link minds). Hasten gets 2 RECH. CJ gets a stealth IO and a LotG. Stealth and Grant Stealth get LotG as well. Stamina gets 2 END MOD and Health gets Numina's and Miracle Uniques.
Psionic Assault

• Psionic Dart - I slot this with 3 thunderstrike for the ranged def. This is one of your beginner blasts. 1 ACC, 2 DAM
• Mind Probe - I skip this, but this is a great power. It's your heavy damage melee. I can see taking it.
• Telekinetic Thrust - I skip this. It's like power push. Not very good.
• Mental Blast - Treat this just like Psionic Dart. Same slotting as Psionic Dart.
• Psychic Scream - It's ranged and it's a cone, but I skip it. I can see taking it. I think it would be OK instead of Psionic Dart. I just don't have the slots to devote more than 3 to it. I placed a lot of emphasis on resistance and defense since I was weak AF early on and dying a lot.
• Drain Psyche - This will just about cap your recovery and give you great regeneration the more it hits. You run in, cast it while the bad guys are subdued, then run out. Even if it hits one bad guy, it does well. You have to frankenslot it to maxmize ACC, HEAL, RECH, and MAYBE A LITTLE END MOD. I do 2 from accurate heal, 2 from an end mod set, and 2 from a heal set. You want good ACC and max RECH, plus whatever healing and end mod you can snag. The power has good base recovery slotting, but a long recharge and base accuracy. 1 ACC, 2 HEAL, 3 RECH.
• Subdue - I treat this like a blast, because it has good range and good damage. Also, it's a single target immob. 5 Decimation is how I slot it. Also, put the build up proc in one of your ranged blasts. 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 1 RECH
• Psionic Lance - I 5 slot this with a sniper set. This is your best ranged blast. 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 1 RECH
• Psychic Shockwave - I skip this. It's a PBAoE disorient that does lousy damage. Since I am ranged only (except Drain Psyche) Dom, this and the 2 melee attacks are a skip.

The end goal is to have great recharge (100% give or take) and almost capped ranged, energy, negative energy, and Psionic Defense (35-45%). Your resists will be about 50% to S/L/Psi.
As for incarnates, you can choose anything for each, but this may be the only instance I am particular about your alpha slot: Vigor Radial Paragon. It buffs everything you need. Everything else you can pick and choose whatever.
Your play style should be ahead of the pack, being stealth, and prepping groups for attack. The stealth IO plus Stealth power should allow you to do most things and get away. Mass Confuses and Sleeps won't be noticed. Total Dom, and Terrify will, but they can be cast before or after each other especially when you are in domination mode when your MAG DOUBLES.

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I’m doing CIE as level now and I plan to take 2 a levels including physics and math in grade 12 BUT I’m rly scared that colleges won’t accept me if i have only 2 subj. If I have 3 a levels I think my overall grades would flunk. Quality over quantity right? But dude i rlly don’t know rn so any opinion would be helpful ^{^}

Edit: I'm sorry if this is a lot I'm not in the best headspace but I genuinely want help it's not right, she lies and paints such a horrible picture of what happened to my brother. She said "cry about it" when our mom died, AND TO ME TODAY WHEN I BROUGHT UP HIS SUICIDE
Because my brother is gone and she lies to a large number of people who believe her on whim. I don't know where to start. I'm hurt very badly. My brother had an ex gf who we will name Gissy. Gissy met him here online and has forged a long distance relationship with him spanning 4 months. As his older sister I advised its a bad idea. They met through a sexual subreddit, and she was a famous and beautiful woman claiming to be a virgin. Immediately I see red flags and think okay, catfish. But no, this reddit account has a DIRECT LINK to her tiktok, with MORE LINKS to her IG and personal Discord. Why would a catfish do that? Fuck if I know. She'll still lie not only to him. To me, her Tiktok fans, her IG fans, and to ALL OTHER GUYS ON HER IG SHE DID THIS TO. The only thing is, my brother suffered the most.
She began twisting his words to make it seem unfair everything he got upset at. She abused his love for her that despite being rushed, I could tell he was at least sincere. He would cry for her, listen to her stories, would believe her not because he wanted to, but because he had to. She denied to the very very end and began twisting stories to make it seem like she never cheated at all.
On new years eve our mother died. She had been cheating for months on him, and despite JUST finding the proof, Giselle cheated on him THE. SAME. MORNING. AFTER OUR MOM DIED. SHE ALREADY KNEW ABOUT IT, AND COULDNT WAIT TO CHEAT ANYWAY. HAPPY NEW YEARS TO MY BROTHER. I'm sorry I'm livid and crying as I type.
She lied and said she dumped him BEFORE and started eeing other people. But it's a LIE, I have her texting him BEGGING for a chance back and only admitted to "technically" not cheating on him, BECAUSE SHE NEVER CAME BACK TO TALK ABOUT IT AFTER LIKE SHE PROMISED HIM. My brother who we can call R, sometimes waited WEEKS TO HEAR FROM HIS OWN LDR GF. NO NOTICE OR ANYTHING. SHE WAS CHEATING THE WHOLE TIME WHILE HE WAS WORRIED SHE HAD A SURGERY. SHE CHEATED AND IGNORED HIM UP UNTIL CHRISTMAS DAY.
Not only that, she let other men insult my brother so horribly and my brother had to spell it out to her HARD AND MEAN until she finally understood they only want her body, when they flipped out on her saying she's not single anymore. FOR A VIRGIN WITH THAT MANY DUDES AFTER HER I DOUBT SHE WAS EVER A VIRGIN AT ALL.
EDIT 2: PART I THINK IS ILLEGAL; SHE LIED ON TIKTIK ABOUT EVER KNOWING HIM AND DIRECTLY LIED SAYING HE WAS CATFISHED, BUT SHORTLY AFTER ALWAYS WOULD APOLOGIZE TO HIM AND SAID SHES REAL, YOU WERENT CATFISHED, ETC. SHE JUST JUSTIFIES IT AND IGNORED THE PART, WHERE HER FANS HARASS MY BROTHER IN COMMENTS AND DM'S FOR "GISSY" BECAUEE THEY THINK HE IS A LIAR TRYING TO CAUSE DRAMA. WHEN IN REALITY HE WAS TRYING TO CONTACT HIS GF WHO LIED AND CHEATED CONSTANTLYYYYY. I HAVE A FEELING SHE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR ASSISTED SUICIDE. I KNOW ITS A BIG CLAIM, BUT SHE CHISE TO CHEAT THE DAY OUR MOM DIED, ABSOLUTELY DISRESPECTED HIM THE WAY SHE DUMPED HIM TO GET AWAY WITH IT, LIED ABOUT EVER KNOWING HIM, THEN DEFACED HIS NAME ON TIKTOK SAYING HES JUST SOME DUDE THAT GOT CATFISHED AND TO "CRY ABOUT IT" THAT OUR MOM DIED, AND THAT MY BROTHER IS DEAD BECAUSE OF HER. SHE CONTINUED TO TEXT MY BROTHER TO BREADCRUMB HIM AND BEGG FOR HIM BACK. WHEN IT DIDNT WORK SHE THREATENED ME, AND HE DOVE OFF A BRIDGE INTO THE FRENCH RIVER. ONLY 25 AND SHES BASICALLY CERIEAL CHEATED WITH MANY DIFFERENT GUYS ONLINE, CHEATED ON THEM TOO, LIED ABOUT CHEATING, BROKE UP TO AVOID CONSEQUENCES, ADMITRED TO LYING AND CHEATING. THEN SHE REPEATS THIS CYCLE OF KYING AND AVOIDING RESPONSIBILITY LIKE SHE NEVER KNEW HIM. I HAVE MESSAGES FROM HER NUMBER BUT IT COULD BE AN APP, I NEED A LEGAL WAY TO OBTAIN HER IP ADDRESS OR EXPOSE HER. IM CRYING IM ANGRY I WANT REVENGE DAMMIT.
I'm not gonna try my best get into the specific details, but after our mom passed on she started messaging him a month later. And he failed to jump off a bridge the second successfully the first time and he did it a second and never told me he was feeling that way. I'm so fucking lost without them my mom and brother are gone and she got away with it completely by lying.
She lies to a lot of people on tiktok and IG and I have only so much situational proof. If need her IP address or Metadata and I'm not a tech Wizz. She lies to many guys about having multiple accounts and discards each one effortlessly by claiming they're "catfished" but I have seen the messages my brother would show me. Even with the guys on her private IG she would lie to them too saying she's not seeing my anyone and wants phone sex the whole time.
He even saw proof of this blatantly on a Screensaver discord call I WAS WATCHING AND I SAW THE MESSAGES GDI. I NEED HELP WITH GETTING PROOF. I'm exhausted my brother passed in March. My mom in January. I'm so tired. She got away with it. I fucking lose. I just wanted revenge or justice for my brother. I don't know what to do anymore I'm falling apart I'm so angry

So, need advice on how to navigate this situation politely and maturely.
Past week we went to a local park during the weekend with my kid who is 3. The sandbox or pit , whatever it is called has some random toys there already but we bought our own sand toys to avoid situation of crying and snatching with other kids for the common toys available (there are only like 2 -3 of them there).
So , anyways, I was sitting my daughter while she was playing with her truck toy and filling with sand and a boy toddler swoops in takes the truck and runs and I end up saying, "hey, hey , hey..." the toddler couldn't care less and I couldn't find an adult responsible for the toddler around immediately so I was contemplating what to do next. My daughter , avoids conflicts or hates it, she just said, i want my toy back. I told her go and ask him to give your toy back as you were playing with it and he did not ask permission.
She tried ones, may in her mind LOL... no one could hear and she tried again, I said go to him and say it louder etc etc. then the toddlers mom came and I told her and she corrected the situation. The toddler gave her a tough time too.
But later back home, I was wondering how best could I have interacted in the situation where the adult is not present and the toddler is acting like a douche (of course not to their full awareness) .
I myself hate interaction and dealing such cases but willing to face it for my kid. I don't want my daughter to think her mommy did not help her ? I don't know. It gets too political in these situations.
I don't want to end up being or sounding rude to the toddler and be in a situation where it is right at the moment their parents arrive with their guards up.

Some new shit questions have come to light about Cynthia and Marty Ackerman’s Pomeranian, I think it’s a Pomeranian, anyway it’s got fucking papers.

1. Walter is 20 fucking minutes late with the dog but leaves in the Dude’s car. Did he take a cab to the Ackerman’s and then take that cab to the lane? Should he get his own fucking cab?
   
2. The dog walks next to Walter in the parking lot. He puts the crate in the back seat, but the dog is not put in the crate or let in the car! Do you think he thinks we think he rolled out of there naked without the dog? Maybe it’s like Nam and there are no rules?
   
3. What is the dog’s name? I have paused at the scene and all I can make out is it starts with ‘Th’ and has 8 letters. Maybe I need to hire a dick to solve this for me? Do any of you have the necessary means…necessary means to enhance it?
   

This could all be part of my sick Cynthia thing and you all just need to tell me to go fuck myself. Or maybe this post breaks many of the sub’s bylaws possibly even article 27, but Slanacker hasn’t called yet.

tldr: anyone else super sensitive to energy drinks while on luvox but other ssri was okay. used to drink 600-900mg on lexapro or zoloft and now can’t even handle 300mg on luvox
i know every ssri says not to drink alcohol and usually interacts with caffeine but when i was in highschool id drink 2-3 energy drinks a day so around 600-900mg of caffeine and be bouncy and happy while on zoloft or lexapro but wow dude luvox just no no with caffeine. a 160mg monster i feel okayish a lil anxious after a few hrs i just had a bang (300mg) 5 hrs ago and OML im anxious and a gaggy nauseous feel like im on the verge of a panic attack and everything just feels weird mainly my face. im 21 now and work in trades so i kind of need energy drinks but lord not if it makes me feel like this. does anyone else get the weird sick gaggy anxious feeling when they drink energy drinks while on ssri?

I binged the whole series in 3 days (i work remotely and have usually nothing to do during my night shifts lmao) and Upload really got me hooked. Despite it's big flaws, it still was a fun show to watch, not sure how i didn't know about until now, the premise is something that is really up to my alley.
But yeah i thought i wanted to share some of my thoughts.
First, fuck Matteo. That guy was just such a toxic insecure ass creep.
I think the series lost some of its magic after the first season. Maybe it's just me who loves when romance is at is "edging phase". It was satisfying to see Nathan and Nora finally meeting up in real life and being a couple and acknowledging and overcoming the difficult parts that happens with long-distance partners.
I was also happy that the show did keep making fun of or showing the faults with AI and the enviroment it provides, but i still think it could've shown lot more, like the psychological aspects of it.
I loved the growth on Ingrid. It was really really slow but i think it was fitting how slow her character progression was, i'm happy that her character didn't go to full evil manipulate snob girlfriend and instead progressively got better and we saw her trying to understand herself more and through that, becoming a better person.
Loved the outgoing gag how most of the calls ended up with the other caller feeling like the call ended way too shortly for them.
I think this shows strength is in its characters, the story is fun and entertaining, but with lot of holes and weird decisions in it.
Before i get into talking or ranting about weird decisions or of the plot holes in the show (please correct me if i got something wrong or missed something), i want to say my piece about the ending when Nathan called everyone and said there's only one of him left.
I think both Nathans still exist. I know many think the backup Nathan is the one existing because when Nathan called, we could see a gray background and backup Nathan was running towards it, despite being dragged away from it in the end. I think showing Nathan with that background is just a red herring. I'd say that it was the real Nathan calling and backup Nathan is being held as a prisoner or a hostage somewhere because he might still be a valuable source of information to the big bad company.
Now, about things i'm kind of WTF about

1. I know i said i hate Matteo but i still find it weird how after he died, dude was just forgotten. Nora still had history with him and all but no mention of his death after his death scene.
   
2. Jamie being dead, or, supposedly at least. Like, they saw him the memorial stuff about Nathan and Jamie and it was just brushed off. Shouldn't that been a bigger deal? They were just like "oh, he's dead". He was Nathans best friend and Nathan with their last call did make it clear that they can still clear things between them eventually so it's weird that Nathan didn't seem to care at all.
   
3. Noras dad. First season made such a big deal about him dying and how much it affects Nora and how she has already lost her mother and all. Season 2 and 3 just forgot about him and his dying ass is probably still sitting in the woods with no proper healthcare. Nora didn't even mention him and or worry about her family and all in the season 2 and 3.
   
4. The cult/the bludds. In the end, it was just Nora, Matteo, and Ivan doing stuff. There were some cult goons with them at the body factory but yeah. The weird ass cultish priest was also just a plot thread that didn't lead to nowhere.
   
5. Ingdrid in season 3 was broke and poor but still afforded her luxurious apartment and was able to keep pay for backup Nathan to stay in Lakeview ? Wtf lol
   
6. Writers just really forgot Fran. What even was the point of her. Last we saw her, was that a car she was in drove Fran to her death and no mention after. Super weird and stupid.
   
7. WHY the FUCK was real Nathan at the courthouse in the season 3 last episode ??
   
8. Why didn't they tell Ingrid maybe not to mention that there is a backup Nathan and real live Nathan ??
   
9. The kid from season 1 was just really forgotten after making it seem like he'll be in a big minor character role lmao. I don't really mind tho, didn't care for him but still weird.
   
10. AI guy being out in the real life was just totally forgotten.
    

All in all, fun lovely show, nice balance between comedy, drama and mystery. Some really bad writing there and there but the premise is interesting enough to forgive some of it.
Will be looking forward to season 4.

I 24m get really upset when I see a panhandler or have one ask me for money. I grew up in poverty, my single mother worked hard to support us, when she couldn’t find work, she’d invest her last few dollars and sell food. every dollar was earned and never taken for granted.
Now I’m older but still young. I worked hard, my Wife and I are Dinking it, we bring home good money for our age. When I’m coming home dirty and tired from work and see the same dude with clean clothes and a fresh haircut hitting a vape while asking for money I worked my ass off for, it aggravates me.
I once gave a 20 to a panhandler, not a smile, not a thank you just an annoyed stare. I’m not going to lie it bothered me. I have earned my place, never taken a hand out. Worked 2 jobs at once so we could get ahead.
I guess I attribute it to, if I could come out of poverty, if I could work 2 jobs to bring in extra cash how could you stand here and ask for something you didn’t earn.

So I wouldn't say I was a fan of Louis but for so long since before season 3 came out I didn't understand why people hated her like yes she was annoying but I thought that when Penelope nade Louis stop being friends with that one dude she liked I thought that was too far
But immediately as I start episode 1 the only person that made me angry was Louis like I was going to be okay about it if she and her weren't speaking and that's that but nope she became friends with her bully!!? Excuse me?! And now I'm more upset with her I'm now a Louis hater
I doubt she will own up to her mistakes and apologized to Penelope but I hope she gets over herself at least in part 2 or in season 4 if they are planning on
Because honestly I'm at the point where Louis needs to grow up already like Penelope has apologized so many times and Louis only thinks of herself
And then she had the audacity to have a guilty face when her bully ruined her dress like girl she is a bully what you expect?!
Like I'm still mad at Colin but he was just being a idiot and knows he hurt her but Louis is just being a Brat
And season 3 is making me love Penelope more like I was like whatever about her in season 2 but Penelope deserves the world because she started becoming my comfort character like with Daphne (( still miss you girl I want to see you again Girly pop))
So far season 3 is doing a good job passing me off I just want Colin to suffer just as much as Penelope did when he hurt her before they get together because I already know they are
But yeah what's your opinion of Louis this season?
Edit: I mean Eloise sorry it's been a while xd

I'm 37 from Massachusetts, I'm looking for someone who shares the same interests as me start things slowly and see where this road will take us. I don't like to force things nor do I have expectations I would like to find my player 2 but, I am more than comfortable with just having new friend's. Distances doesn't matter as long as the end game is to see each other.
I am looking for someone who has some of the same Interest as me. I am an avid gamer. I play all kinds of game's sandbox, rpg, platformer, mmorpg's WoW, FFXIV, New world, Diablo. Shooter's, battle royals, etc. Titles like 7 days to die, Valheim, the forest, Resident evil, Battlefield, dying light, the Witcher 3, kingdom hearts, uncharted, the last of us, Final Fantasy etc. I am currently hooked on survival games would be cool to have someone to play them with or any Co-Op games in general.
I listen to music a lot. I listen to almost every thing minus country and pop. There are a few songs from those genres that I think are pretty good, but overall I don't really listen to them. I mainly listen to rock, metal, indie, emo, punk and subgenres of rock. I am also very big with EDM, not dubstep, not a fan of it. More into house, Trance and Vocal trance mainly artist like Tiesto, Dash Berlin, Axwell, Alesso, to name a few. If you like trance then I promise I will love you forever!!
I am also a big movie junkie. I am up to watching almost anything. I enjoy a lot of action movies and comedies. I am a big fan of old school action movies. Die hard, Terminator, Predator, Lethal weapon, Rocky, Rambo and etc. I am also into Star Wars and Lord of the ring's I also enjoy all DC and MARVEL.
I enjoy reading manga and watching anime but I am really behind on that. I've been very busy with work and when I'm not occupied with work I would usually chill and watch a show or game. I am a huge bleach fan and currently really enjoying demon slayer and my hero academia.
My DM's are open feel free to reach out to me. I prefer voice chatting, texting is just as fine. I have discord if you prefer to use that.