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PSA: We have far more concrete dates than people let on.

2024.05.20 08:04 submissivekitty2828 PSA: We have far more concrete dates than people let on.

At one point I was thinking about the timeline of FNaF, and decided to write out every concrete date we have. The dates we know for certain are:
And doing this made me realize something. With the number of dates we have, a lot of people are just guessing instead of working around them. Most notably, the reuse of certain weekdays/months can help us understand dates that aren't confirmed. For example:
Now that we've covered every possible point from the Clickteam games, let's take this information and form a timeline. Please note that not all of the specifics will be agreed upon, but I believe the general dates are correct.
And that's it. This post took me all day writing out and double-checking to make sure I didn't get anything incorrect, but I'm sure there are a few typos or inconsistencies and that there are pieces of information I've missed. After all, no one knows all the answers about FNaF except Scott himself, and even Scott makes mistakes. But I feel confident in this and hope that it leaves some sort of impact.
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2024.05.20 07:55 Mikasasasa I told my father the truth

T.W: mentions of abuse,suicide
My father and mother married(arranged by their parents)and had me the same year.My mother dropped her job (She was a PhD student,she also had to drop that for her marriage) and her in-laws were very toxic and abusive(especially my paternal grandparents).My father says he loves her and he barely stands up against them because of his trauma,he was a drunkard and tried to commit suicide because of his parents telling him he's a problem(he had a loss in his business).He was saved,the same year I was born and he started changing himself because he wanted to be a good father.
We eventually moved out of that abusive household (when I was 3 or 4) and my brother was already born(he's younger by 1.75 years).The torture didn't stop,my grandparents,despite verbally shaming my father so many times,kept calling him and asking them to come back.My mother was hit whenever anything related to his sisters came up.He gets psychotic and very angry and I suspect he has bipolar,anger issues,anxiety(I suspect a lot more but I'm not a professional).I have seen this happen every few months once,I've seen my mom cry I've seen my parents work their asses off and yet have such a stupid relationship,they fight and things get very serious and then they stick back.He was finally out of debt and we were doing well,until his parents manipulated him into building a very expensive manor in our hometown (that's where I was raised in for a while after I was born).He got into debt for the home (he still has a lot of it to cover) and fights started again.My grandparents were very toxic to my mother and all I saw as a kid was them fighting over the cheapest things.
As I grew up I noticed how toxic things were and I didn't like how my dad shut my mother up everytime she spoke about the family and how his sisters and parents are to her and our family.He hits her everytime things like this happen and I very vividly remember every time he has hit her and I beg on my knees crying tears for them to stop fighting only to get pushed away blindly by my father."She has to adjust!" He says all the time.
It's been 19 years of their marriage and my life,I am dependant on my father's income for my degree.There was a huge fight between my parents yesterday and today and he said he hated me for trying to seperate them while all i did was asking him why he's hitting her and asked him to promise me that he won't hit her again.I told him how I have developed fear and how deep my and my poor brother's trauma is because he refused to be humble and listen to his wife and hit her in front of us(after having her drop her job,career and EVERYTHING.).He says he cannot promise me and that it'll drop his self respect.He now says he hates me(because I spoke up) and he's blaming me for all the problems they had and blamed my gender too(I'm a woman lol just as expected).He says he doesn't want me and told me multiple times to get out of the house.My brother couldn't do anything than try to get in between and cry tears(he was hit accidentally by my father in rage).I apologized to him for all that he's seeing and hearing and going through because honestly I can't let this slide off anymore.We're stuck in a big ass manor away from all facilities and it feels like a loop.The only time I feel slightly better is when I'm attending lectures in my university that's very close by home.I was hit by mom too yesterday for telling her that I have no will to live,it still hurts and I fell off my bike the other day and I have those wounds and I have a test tomorrow.I am so devastated.I have no help for both my mental and physical health.Therapy is very expensive and not available in the place I live in. I know everybody's answer will be divorce but this will significantly affect mine and my brother's life(I'm in uni and he's still in school) since we don't work or have an income and there's no work we can do here.( Fyi;my home is conservative and "traditional".)
tl;dr : My parents have an abusive marriage and now my father hates me because I told him that I've trauma from him being abusive to my mom over my entire lifetime occasionally.
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2024.05.20 07:50 CrinkleDink House Renart, Part 2: The Death of the Fox, and the Birth of the Dragon

House Renart, Part 2: The Death of the Fox, and the Birth of the Dragon
Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/CrusaderKings/comments/1crfhjs/so_i_played_the_box_art_dynasty_house_renart_here/
King Oldrik, King of Poland and Pomerania, had a long and successful reign. With his defeat of the northern pagans, House Renart believed it could conquer the world. However, it would be internal strife that would nearly lead the House to destruction...

King Wielslaw, King of Poland

To every dynasty, there is always a weak link. King Oldrik chose his heir poorly.
King Wielslaw (March 31st, 1139 - 25 of August, 1181) was King of Poland from 1177 until his death in 1181. He had barely any children, as his father’s inbreeding led him to having infertile loins, having very few children.
In life, he was a stubborn, arrogant man, but was oddly compassionate in his ways. He was known to be handsome in life and was fairly intelligent. He was skilled in theology and the matters of law and land, as well as history. However, he had a heavy drinking problem which would evidently lead to his demise, as well as disease.
As a prince Wielslaw, the youngest of his brothers, was granted the Duchy of Veletia in 1153 as his father was preparing him for rule. There he ruled for some time until his father Oldrick I died. He would ascend to the throne of Poland in 1177 while his brother Wielslaw became King of Pomerania, splitting the realms into two.
The same year, King Wielslaw went to war against Queen Darya of Volhynia, taking the southern provinces. The war lasted for two years, with the queen being defeated in March of 1179.
In 1180, King Wielslaw went around the country to enact justice and enforce taxes on his vassals. This proved to make him unpopular with the people. However, it did allow him to draft a
Wielslaw came to King Mieszko's defense against Stammesherzog Dethard's attempted de jure war of Duchy of Anhalt in 1181. This would lead to a swift victory. However, as he was fighting in Anhalt, a great disease of Bloody Flux spread throughout the land. King Wielslaw, while leading his troops in the camp, caught the disease and grew very ill. He began to drink during this time, and while drunk, he named his younger son, Oldrick, his new heir, while his eldest son, Sulistryj, was disinherited, due to murdering a man during a duel. He died on the 25th of August, 1181. A courier went out to Krakow to declare the young prince Oldrick as the new King of Poland, which shocked the court.

King Oldrick II, King of Poland

Tragedy befell this scaly yet innocent young king! From the drunken lips of his foolish father his fate was unfortunately sealed.
Oldrick II (May 6th, 1177 - January 3rd, 1186) was the King of Poland from 1181 to his death in 1186. A mere child who came upon the throne due to his father’s drunken final will, Oldrick saw a great civil war overtake his lands. His uncle, King Miezko of Pomerania, though having an alliance, schemed against him, and would ultimately take his life.
Throughout his reign he dealt with a civil war for his throne, led by his vassal Duke Uściech Lewiki in 1182. He had little power, though his most significant act was restoring his brother Sulistryj’s inheritance to become next in line for the crown of Poland. This hurt the plans of King Miezko, who was feigning his loyalty to the boy when fighting the civil war.
However, Oldrick II would be assassinated by King Miezko through poisoned candy, leading to his brother, Sulistryj, to take over the throne.

Sulistryj I ‘the Beautiful’, King of Poland and Pomerania

Vengeance to a brother's honor, and with a tongue as sweet as honey, his reign was unfortunately cut short by the thread of fate.
Sulistryj I (July 20th, 1156 - October 13th, 1214) was the King of Poland in 1186, and King of Pomerania in 1188, until his death in 1214. The eldest son of King Wielslaw, he saw support for his tenure on the throne of Poland after the death of his younger brother and proved to be a very capable diplomat.
Sulistryj would be the last member of the pure House of Renart. When he did, his uncle Dobromir Renart-Glogow would usurp power in the family. In life, he was rumored to be an atheist, and he had murdered a man in a duel. However, he was also known for being a very handsome man and intelligent, and well read and practiced in matters of diplomacy.
Sulistryj, before he was king, was notable for defeating Duke Usciech. During the civil war, he commanded a battle against the duke at the Battle of Gniezno on the 19th of April, 1183. The duke would surrender to King Oldrick II, and would then be beheaded and his lands stripped, delivered to Sulistryj who regained his right to inheritance.
Three years later, in 1186, his brother Oldrick II would die mysteriously. Sulistryj had suspected his uncle Miezko was vying for the throne of Poland and had him killed. And indeed, Miezko had sent a delegation to declare his rivalry with Sulistryj at the beginning of the summer, declaring his claim to Poland was truer. Sulistryj knew what was coming: an invasion.
To act quicker, Sulistryj quickly rallied his hosts and vassals outside the borders of Pomerania, and on the 5th of July, 1186, he declared himself the rightful King of Pomerania just as Miezko was on pilgrimage towards Rome. King Miezko quickly returned, not expecting such a bold decision from his nephew. A series of engagements would take place in the province of Nordmark, leading to a few staggering defeats for Sulistryj, including at the Battle of Ukkria. However, though the Pomeranians won the battle, King Miezko was severely injured. His son, Oldrick, would take over the front of battle.
And yet, from the south, King Otakar of Bohemia, seeing a moment of opportunity, invaded the next summer on the 4th of June, 1187, trying to take the lands of Lubben against King Sulistryj.
King Sulistryj grew nervous of the Bohemian invasion. However, come December, as his troops were making camp in the winter, he received news from a courier: King Miezko was dead. He had died from injuries sustained at the Battle of Ukkria.
The Battle of Strassburg (April 10th, 1188) would be the final engagement between the two kingdoms. King Sulistryj confronted King Oldrick II of Pomerania at the battle. By this point, Pomerania had grown exhausted and morale was terrible, and they were outnumbered. With Oldrick II’s rule being unfavored, the armies of Pomerania found themselves quickly overrun by the Poles. King Oldrick was defeated, and gave his crown over to Sulistryj.
The following year, in January, however, Oldrick II rebelled against, declaring his sister Princess Luitgard of Osterland was the proper queen of Pomerania. A quick skirmish took place in February of that year, leading to a white peace between the rebellious Oldrick and the king. He then began a claim war for the crown of Pomerania once again, the following year in 1190. He was once again defeated, and because of his constant rebellion, had his titles over Pomerania stripped and was beheaded.
In August of 1201, a Grand Tournament was held in Poland, the first of its kind in the land, under King Sulistryj. Here, the king himself won the Melee and Archery contests.
In 1209, Duke Krystyn of Veletia became a rival of King Sulistryj and declared him an illegitimate ruler. In December of that year, he began a rebellion of dethronement against the king. A year of small skirmishes and chasing took place, until the duke was defeated at the Battle of Gottingen on the 18th of December, 1210. The Duke would be imprisoned, his titles revoked, and executed. The king gave his second eldest son Sulistryj the title.
Then, in 1213, King Sulistryj decided to go on pilgrimage to the city of Cologne with his eldest son Oldrick. They began their journey in January of that year. However, a great plague overcame the city of Consumption. When Sulistryj arrived, he and his son grew ill. They finished their pilgrimage at the church of Cologne, and were quickly delivered home by their servants. However, when they arrived in October, the king, nor his son, was recovering from their sickness. King Sulistryj grew worse, and would pass away, leaving his eldest son Otger to inherit the throne of Poland, while his son Sulistryj became King of Pomerania.

King Otger II ‘the Sickly’

Alas, many tried to save his reign but it would be the woes of plague that did him in. And thus the House of Renart would die with him.
Otger II (October 25th, 1204 - June 2nd, 1217) was the King of Poland from 1214 until his death from consumption in 1217. His reign saw a great era of instability within the land. Historically, Otger II was the last king of the proper Renart dynasty.
When he became king, the sudden death of his father caused opportunistic vassals to favor his great-uncle and grandfather, Duke Drobomir of Silesia. Though Duke Drobomir swore loyalty to the line of Sulistryj (his nephew) he secretly schemed to take over the throne. Duke Drobomir conspired the vassals of Poland to turn against the young king.
In the second year of Otger’s reign, Count Janusz Halicki of Kalisz led the dukes and counts of Poland in rebellion against Otger, declaring that Duke Drobomir the true King of Poland. They marched out in April, heading toward the capitol. Count Janusz went ahead of the army. Meanwhile, King Otger’s brother, Sulistryj, rounded his armies in support of his brother, as well as the armies of England.
On the 21st of October, Count Janusz entered Krakow and went past the guards. He made an attempt on the life of King Otger, but the loyal and brave Duke Powel of Rzepin saved the life of the king. Janusz was captured from his attempt just as the Polish armies defeated his army outside of the city. Thus the count was captured, and the rebels defeated. The civil war ended there, but things were still growing unstable in the realm.
Alas, the king grew ill further through the winter, his Consumption worsening. His condition grew dire, and his physician was unable to cure him, only ease his woes. Duke Drobomir was expecting to be in line for the throne. Instead, as his last act, Otger declared his brother Sulistryj would become king in his place. Duke Drobomir was insulted by this act, and as the king was dying, he quickly made himself the head of House Renart with his own cadet branch, the House of Glogow.
King Otger died in June of 1217, at the age of 13. Meanwhile, Drobomir began a new faction to install himself as King of Poland…

Emperor Sulistryj ‘the Wend’ of West-Slavia

Though the fox dies, rising from the ashes will be a mighty dragon of the east.
Sulistryj II (June 5th, 1206 - September 10th, 1283), known as “the Young”, the “Confessor”, but most notably “the Wend”, was the King of Poland and Pomerania from 1217, and the eventual Emperor of the West Slavs in 1255, until his death in 1283. Inheriting the throne from his older brother at the age of 11, Sulistryj ruled from an astounding 66 years, in which he united the west slavic kingdoms of Pomerania and Bohemia and unified the West Slavs into a single Wendish empire.
He inherited the throne of Poland after the death of his brother Otger. He was beforehand ruling as Duke of Veletia and the King of Pomerania. When he became King of Poland, he had little power over his kingdom, for his uncle, Duke Dobromir ‘the Handsome’ of Silesia, became his regent. The Duke had expected to take over the throne from his nephews, but instead, Sulistryj was crowned king, leading to a damper in his schemes.
Duke Dobromir, as the grandfather of the king, became the head of the household and quickly began to take more powers from the king, ruling in his place and becoming head of the House of Renart. With Otger II dead, and Sulistryj’s mother being Dobromir’s daughter, and the remaining Renarts dead, Dobromir declared the house of Renart extinct.
The Renarts are dead. Long live the House of Glogow!
This went against the will of Sulistryj, who stripped Dobromir of much of his regnal powers. Dobromir threatened rebellion in 1221, seeking to claim the crown of Poland for himself. He schemed to kill his grandson, hoping to put his own direct son, also named Dobromir, onto the throne.
Dobromir proceeded to try and kill the young king when he was studying at the University of Krakow. The attempt was quickly discovered and thwarted by Duke Powel of Rzepin, once again loyal to the king as spymaster and bodyguard.
The following year, Sulistryj was finally coronated as he reached the age of 16. There, King Sulistryj II announced himself as the “first of the House of Glogow” in spite of his grandfather. He took over the Renart dynasty and disinherited his grandfather, destroying his son’s claims to the Kingdom of Poland. But still he schemed, as he knew it could be restored if he took the throne.
A house divided against itself shall not stand!
To ensure confidence in his rule, Sulistryj pressed his bassal Czcibor’s claim to the Duchy of Ostfalen in 1222, and then married Maria of Norway. He would win the duchy, taking it from the Emperor of Germany at the time.
However, not all were confident in the rule of King Sulistryj, as Duke Dobromir continued to plot against his grandson. Count Alexander Kujawski rebelled against the king in 1229, but he was swiftly defeated and executed for his crimes. King Sulistryj proved to his grandfather that he was not willing to mess around. Dobromir tried to flee as the remaining rebellious counts were imprisoned, but he was captured.
Dobromir was imprisoned, and by coercion was forced to give up his claims to Poland, and then was disinherited and dethroned from Silesia. Out of compassion, Sulistryj spared his grandfather, as the chronicler wrote in “The History of the Wends” the following:
“King Sulistryj declared, ‘The Renarts have died, but the blood of Glogow will not be severed. You shall have a place in my house, until the end of your days. As it is, I rule as a son under your blood.’”
Thus Dobromir would remain in Krakow as a servant of his grandson, until the end of his days in 1232, where he died from drinking. Thus his legacy, despite his reportedly loving nature (despite his treachery, he did care for his grandsons as they grew up fatherless) he was still viewed as a traitor and usurper. Thus he has become a figure of plays and songs in the West-Slavic culture. His most prominent appearance, and basis of much fiction, was in the “Song of Renart” in which he was portrayed as a scheming traitor.
During this time, legend spread that King Sulistryj had slain a dragon. He gave into the story, proclaiming himself a mighty dragon slayer and that he, too, would slay the enemies of the Poles. This brought him great praise throughout the land.
The following year, 1232, Queen Maria would die in childbirth as she gave birth to her daughter Jadwiga. She had three children with Sulistryj. King Sulistryj held a funeral for both her and his grandfather, mourning their loss. The same year, King Sulistryj would remarry Rognfrithr of Denmark. She would birth his eldest son Dalimir in 1234, and Dobrogost in 1237.
Now King Sulistryj was well read in the histories of Poland. Though he knew was of German descent, he began to read of the Wendish tribes of Germany many centuries prior. He remembered that once his family had held titles in Northern Germany. He began to see himself as a great unifier of his house’s ancestral claims, and the claims of the west slavs. He also believed the Holy Roman Emperor was a threat to his power over the region. Therefore, Sulistryj grew a vision of a Wendish Empire, of German and Pole, to secure his realm.
You were useful, Teutonic Knights. However, I have a mighty need to unite the West Slavs!
He declared war against the Teutonic Order in 1240 as he recaptured the Duchy of Pomerania. The Grandmaster was defeated at the Battle of Szczytno in 1241, and King Sulistryj II saw victory a few months later in January of 1242. The same year, King Sulistryj invaded Anhalt and captured it, fighting Kaiser George’s for the duchy and ultimately defeating him on November 6th of 1245.
Two years would pass, as Sulistryj began building castles and fortresses across Poland and in particular Krakow. Then in 1247 he invaded the duchy of Pomeralia, held by the Teutonic Knights. He would capture Grandmaster Ekbert’s son Warren at the Battle of Gydnia and lead the Teutons to once again losing land to the Poles. The Teutons were driven completely out of the Pomeranian lands.
King Sulistryj would claim himself as the proper Duke of Bohemia and Moravia, as they were once West Slavic holdings, as well as Duke of Meissen. He made an alliance with the King of Hungary, the Emperor of Francia, and the King of England, to take on the much larger and vast Holy Roman Emperor. Kaizer George had conducted diplomacy with King Sulistryj II prior, and so felt betrayed by the king as he invaded central Germany and Bohemia in 1250. King Venceslav of Croatia came to the assistance of the Kaizer. This began what chroniclers called the War of the Wend.
Hopefully the Pope doesn't bother to check the actual historical claims over this... He doesn't need to know what the King may or may not have made up. ;)
Sulistryj led the Polish armies by himself and first attacked northern Bohemia while the emperor tried to attack Francia. The English and Polish armies raided throughout Bohemia. They would be confronted by King Venceslav at Unicov on May 4th of 1252, who attacked the English armies, but the Poles came to the defense of the English and defeated the Croatians, who fled.
Prague was overtaken by the Poles and English as Kaiser George finished defeating a rebellion near his capitol. The German forces marched into central Bohemia, with their army being led by the Kaizer himself. On the 24th of July in 1254, the Germans and Croatians faced the French, Polish, and English forces at the First Battle of Prerov, leading to a very close battle. King Peter IV of England managed to change the fate of the battle with his longbowmen routing the Germany cavalry, allowing the Polish cavalry to break through the German ranks.
There would be a few losses. The Poles lost a battle to the Croatians at Brno, and the English and French lost engagements at Leipzig in the same year.
A second full engagement happened outside of Stribro on the 3rd of November. The Polish forces used the Mze River to fortify their position, routing the Germans once again. The Polish armies wintered there, while the French and English wintered southward of the city. During this time, the Livonian Knights came to the assistance of the German emperor. They moved through the winter towards Prerov to try and retake the city. The defenders fell, and the Livonians moved into the castle.
In February the Polish forces came to the defenses of city of Prerov. initiating the Second Battle of Prerov. They would find themselves suddenly ambushed by a hidden German force, led by the Kaizer, who attacked the outnumbered Poles. However, the French and English troops arrived a week later as the Polish forces held their ground in the castle. With their defense, King Sulistryj managed to push back the Livonians and Germans, forcing them to route, leading to a Polish victory on the 16th of February.
A final battle took place outside of Prague as the Polish forces began besieging the city. The allied forces of Germany, Croatia, and Livonia faced off against the Polish, the French, and the English. The Battle of Prague was close, with King Sulistryj II being injured in the battle. However, as he recovered, he learned that the Germans routed, and that the city of Prague surrendered to his forces. The Polish had won.
And so, a dragon rises from the ashes of the fox.
The Treaty of Prague (July 24th, 1255) led Kaizer George to concede the lands of Bohemia and Messien to King Sulistryj II, and that he would be recognized as the king of those lands. Pope Honorius II came to the city in August to crown King Sulistryj as the Emperor of the Wends.
Peace was not long, as the Emperor went to defeat the King of Galicia-Volhynia in the same year and made him swear fealty to his power as King.
For his act of uniting the Western Slavic kingdoms, Sulistryj began to be known as “The Wend”, and legends spread of his great victory. This followed him south toward Jerusalem during the 5th crusade as the Polish armies fought the Ayyubids, but ultimately saw defeat in the crusade.
In 1272, to consolidate his realm, Emperor Sulistryj subjugated Grandmaster Klukis ‘the Leper’ of the Teutonic Order and forced him to become a vassal.
The emperor in his old age.
The rest of Emperor Sulistryj’s reign was relatively peaceful. He was known for his pious works and had his chroniclers write “The History of the Wends” to solidify his dynasty’s power over the region. He also built many castles and hosted a grand tournament. The Duke of Frisia did try to kill the Emperor, as he once was the King of Bohemia before it was invaded. However, this was thwarted. His second eldest son, Dobrogost, would die of Smallpox in 1283. However, with the usage of primogeniture law (put into effect by decree of the emperor), succession remained safe.
Emperor Sulistryj would die in his sleep on the 10th of September, 1283. He had a long and successful reign, and would forever be immortalized as the Wendish King who reclaimed the ancestral lands of the Poles from the Germans.
And so, West-Slavia is born.
We end our chapter with a new house. The Renarts saw their last ruler in Otger II, leaving the dynasty in shambles. And though the new House of Glogow was born in the same treachery of the Fox of Renart, it would find itself becoming ferocious and noble through the reign of Emperor Sulistryj!
Emperor Sulistryj's rebranded CoA: \"As cunning as a fox, as fearsome as a dragon.\"
End of Part 2. The Renart dynasty currently holds many duchies within the HRE, but lost Zaphoriza. It remains it's most powerful in the West-Slavic Empire.
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2024.05.20 07:32 SuperTurnipBros2 A true legend finally brought down by the long nose of the law

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2024.05.20 07:31 Beneficial_Cry2895 Neighborhood Watch Is Gangstalking

Hello, posting this to help people out who don't know what's going on.
When I first figured out I was being watched by these people I would try my best to avoid them and take side streets and nature paths in order to learn the extent I was being followed.
Turns out many many people, it seems like most people are apart of Neighborhood Watch and very few people were not invited.
My family and friends are apart of neighborhood watch and refuse to talk to me about it I don't know why. Well, they aren't my family and friends anymore because real friends & family don't do that.
I was told by someone who works for CSIS how to get off the watchlist here's how you do it:
Don't look suspicious, don't act paranoid, don't be negative or aggressive, don't do crime, live a normal life and pretty much just ignore it. Work your job, have a normal routine and stop associating with certain people in your life who might be a criminal.
Sounds odd because I've been getting stalked by these people since I was 13 but that was during a period where I was being bullied by people in my school immensely so that might have gave Neighborhood Watch an incentive to watch me in order for my protection.
Anyway not to talk too much about myself here... If you live your life for a long time, and I mean a long long time Neighborhood Watch and the Feds who are the mastermind behind this see that there is nothing going on with you they'll move on and stop watching you.
Right now, you're where the money's at. For whatever reason there's an incentive to watch you and that gives them a reason to do their job, write reports etc and gives them a reason to justify the surveillance and when these numbers where people are being watched they will be able to justify to courts why the need more funding for this type of surveillance.
I've been attacked by people on Neighborhood Watch many many times and have been set up several times to get arrested for crimes I didn't do. I've been set up so many times and it's all so they can justify why they need to watch me.... It's all BS they don't want to let me go, they want to aggravate me, harass me, stalk and attack me in order to keep me in a alert, panicked, negative and spiteful frame of mind in order for them to get me to retaliate and justify the surveillance for them in order for them to fill out reports to use in the courts so they can keep their numbers high, increase their fundings which will increase their pay, yadayadaya.
Stay out in the open, because they look for ways to attack and harass you in ways you'll have a hard time proving that they're doing that because these people are afraid of getting caught and are afraid of the police.
I've pissed off so many of these people by playing their game back (nothing illegal) and I've watched them get pissed off, yell at me, walk around me trying to find anything they can use to get back at me and what stops them is that they are in public and on camera, or other stalkers who WILL snitch on them are watching their move too because there are good, good and naive and ignorant stalkers who will snitch on their own stalkers if they see anything they do that's wrong. I've had stalkers snitch on other stalkers and tell the police that someone attacked me and that person got arrested and I doubt they're still on the Neighborhood Watch anymore.
I believe it's a CIA program at it's core trying to hurt people, manipulate people, behavior modify people whatever it is that CIA is known to do in the past I believe they're still doing it through Neighborhood Watch.... Mass shooters are on the rise and I believe CIA might be experimenting on people in ways where they can get away with it, just like how Neighborhood Watch people are trying to stalk you and harass you in ways they can get away with it and make it hard for you to prove it's happening.
Basically stay in the open, try your best not to retaliate, keep a normal routine and don't do anything illegal or shady and they'll see that nothing is going on with you over a LONG time and they'll move onto someone else. The person who works for CSIS told me that they'll come back and check up on you again, and again, a few times until they finally stop so keep that in mind. The stalkers are also getting stalked occasionally but they aren't aware, like we are.
The best way to spot these stalkers is if they have their phone out and the phone camera is pointed at you these people always have their phone out, and earphones in their ear sometimes they'll keep it in one ear and sit on a bus or somewhere or walk by you with the other ear faced to you showing nothing's in their ear meanwhile they got an earpod often times in the other ear on the side not faced to you.
They'll show you if you confront them that they aren't recording you or that they don't have their voice call/face time up but they're able to minimize it or close it, then turn it back on when you aren't looking, I promise you they are face timing someone and that person who is face timing you is screen recording everything.
Ignore the posts about freemasons, illuminati, all that stupidness it's THEM trying to discredit people from speaking out and make us all sound crazy it's simply Neighborhood Watch and CIA/CSIS/NSA that's behind all of this, but the people on foot they're all Neighborhood Watch and they get paid by Patreon, it's all volunteer work some of them do get paid but it's from donations for example, some neighborhood watches have everyone donate $5 a month and pool it all together and these people get paid mcdonalds, or gift cards, and the extreme stalkers can up to $300 a week or more depending on how often they're stalking.
The intelligence agencies do recruit people from time to time, but most of the time, like 98% of the time it's simply Neighborhood Watch and disinformation assholes online trying to confuse everyone about what's actually going on.
Keep spreading the word, it's simply Neighborhood Watch and the Federal Intelligent Agencies behind all of this.... maybe you hit their radar for whatever reason just don't give them an incentive to watch you anymore like I said earlier and you'll be fine and remember, the stalkers occasionally get stalked too so don't take it personal and if you're dealing with bad neighbors harassing you maybe find legal ways to piss them off but legal, nothing illegal for example... crank up your music full blast (provided it's not past the legal limit) and put it up towards your ceiling or something like that.
Also.... one more important thing to tell you.
Some of these guys can see through your walls right? Yeah, I'm very familiar with this.
Look up the device called VAYYAR.... It allows people to see through the ceiling, the floor and the walls and it's very cheap this is the sort of device they use to spy through the walls and also please check your outlets because I had a pinhole camera in my washroom very nasty stuff they did to me but I want to spread the word because I wanna help anyone I can out there.
For police who try to suggest mental health problems, simply say you aren't a danger to yourself and others, and don't say you're mad or violent or anything negative just keep it simple and they'll have nothing they can use to apprehend you and put you in a mental hospital because some of them who know what's going on usually the supervisors want to make you scared and shut you up but I'm not a conformist not in the slightest and neither should you be.... Stand up for yourself we're dealing with evil vigilantes who are told propaganda about us in order to get them to sometimes hate us and they feel justified in doing what they're doing to us.
There's many ways to legally piss people off just in case your case is severe and you're dealing with people who are maliciously trying to hurt you and get away with it, and no cops are helping you. I've seen cases where they were jumping on someone's tiny home at night and throwing eggs at someone's house, or meeting someone where there's no cameras and assaulting their target and running off and cops don't help that person it's terrible and you don't need to put up with that so I'll tell you some tips:
Take a picture with your flash on and let them know you took a picture of them. Sometimes they'll get right in front of you and/or yell at you.... it's just them trying to intimidate you into stopping but they will not and cannot touch you because they know other stalkers are watching this go down, or cameras are in the area do not be intimidated even if it's a big scary looking person if you know they're a stalker then do not be intimidated at all it's all BS trust me, they will not touch you, and in the odd case they do press charges and get that stalker the jail time they need and file a lawsuit against that person and get paid if you can but 99.99% of the time they will not touch you, they'll only act like they will.
Don't take pictures of any children or teenager follows or harassing you, especially since they're children just accept that they've been duped and if they're actually breaking the law though and you can prove it, like if they're harassing you then video tape of course and protect yourself but only if you can prove it 100%
Be careful with taking videos and pictures, because sometimes they are recording you and won't stop or react as you're doing it and then they'll post what you're doing on their Facebook, Twitter, instagram, snapchat, youtube or wherever else even Discord and will frame you as a weirdo even though they are so be careful.
If you're walking by, no one's going to blame you for being a Klutz and accidentally step on their shoes or toes, I mean, things happen right?
Or if you have a water bottle you bought from the store and the lid is hard to open, no one is going to blame you if you accidentally open the water bottle and your arm flings to the side with the bottle in hand and you end up splashing one of them in the faces.
No one is going to blame you, if you have a coffee in your hand and you trip and you spill it all over them, or if you walk by and your heavy bag hits them in the head, I mean these are all accidents and no one can blame you for it just make sure you're not doing it on purpose ;)
They want to play their game, well there are ways we can play this back. We don't have to be as careful anymore when it comes to being considerate, or being mindful of where peoples feet are on the bus or subway, or wherever we no longer need to be mindful just don't do anything on purpose ;) and you're all good.
If you're being tailed by a stalker and cops won't listen to you.... Go to a side street at night as you're being stalked and while this is taking place, have in your trunk some big thick and possible sharp gravel or rocks in a bag and dump them all over the road where you know your stalker will be driving... lets say they drove past you... They'll take a U-Turn and drive back, so dump it wherever you know they'll be coming and say F them and their tires, they shouldn't be stalking you anyway.
I'll try to make more posts in the future if i can but I believe the Mods on this subbreddit are the ''Gangstalkers'' and they are controlling what is put out there so in case this post doesn't even make it, I'll simply just PM everyone on a day to day basis with this information instead and I'll make my own subreddit and PM everyone to join that one if the Mods feel like playing that game by censoring true and helpful information.
This is how things are right now the World isn't perfect. You're not the only one, bad people are in this World don't take it personal. Find God, find Spirituality find something meaningful and don't let anyone take that away from you be strong.
Good luck.
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2024.05.20 07:12 TrackingSystemDirect Do Vehicle Trackers Reduce Insurance Premiums for Teenage Drivers?

Do Vehicle Trackers Reduce Insurance Premiums for Teenage Drivers?

Ensuring Safe Teen Driving: Harnessing Technology To Manage Risk and Lower Insurance Costs

Concerned about your teen's driving habits? You're not alone. The thrill of newfound freedom and the impulsiveness of adolescence can lead to risky behavior on the road. The good news? Technology provides a solution. Have you heard of GPS trackers designed for teen drivers? These devices help monitor your teen's driving behavior and keep them within set boundaries. Ready to learn how they work?

Best Plug & Play GPS Tracker For Teen Drivers

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GPS trackers use a network of 31 satellites to pinpoint your vehicle's location, accurate to within 5 meters. With real-time data, you can watch over your teen's driving behavior right from your phone or a third-party site. These programs provide insights beyond just location, including driving speeds, sudden braking, and more. Isn't it great to have such detailed information to coach your teen into safer driving habits? Many even send alerts if your teen strays or skips school. As an added bonus, you might even save on insurance costs!

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Konnect is the ultimate GPS tracker for keeping an eye on your teen's driving. In Texas, 1 in 5 teen drivers is involved in a crash during their first year. Attach this mini, wireless tracker to your teen's car and get real-time updates on their driving habits. Know if they're speeding, making unscheduled stops, or veering off-route. With Konnect, you can ensure your teen is driving safely and responsibly.
Peace of mind for parents! Konnect's user-friendly app for iPhone and Android allows you to monitor your teen's driving without them knowing. The tracker uses a global SIM card for accurate, real-time tracking anywhere. And don’t worry if you're not tech-savvy—Konnect offers free lifetime technical support. Proudly made in the USA, this powerful GPS tracker is designed to give you peace of mind. Stay connected to your teen's driving 24/7 and keep them safe on Texas roads with Konnect.

The Real Cost of Adding a Teen to Your Car Insurance

Let's tackle the elephant in the room – insurance cost for teen drivers. It's no secret that it's significantly more expensive. Estimates range widely, but you can certainly expect a substantial increase. Remember, adding your teen to your policy is cheaper than a separate one. Can you believe that separate policies can cost upwards of $2,000?
To illustrate, adding a 16-year-old girl to your policy could cost between $1,165 and $3,036 annually. However, separate policies can range from $2,453 to a whopping $6,479! Does your teen happen to be a boy? Well, that would cost even more due to their higher likelihood of risky driving behavior. But remember, adding them to your policy still saves you money in the long run.

Top 5 Teen Driving Monitoring Apps

Many car insurers offer discounts for safe driving. For this, you need a teen GPS tracker, which monitors your teen's driving habits. These devices check daily mileage, the time of driving, sudden acceleration or braking, and more. The better the driving, the better your rates. But how about trying out some driving monitoring apps? Here are the top 5 teen driving monitoring apps according to parents:

TrueMotion Family Safe Driving

TrueMotion offers a comprehensive and user-friendly monitoring experience, and the best part is that it's free. It includes the feature of geofencing, allowing you to set boundaries for your teen's driving behavior. The app also allows for speed restrictions and curfews, and if any of these limits are crossed, you'll get immediate notifications. The app tracks your teen's driving habits and grades them on a scale of 100 points, so your teen can see their driving improvement over time. The app requires GPS capability to be enabled on your teen's phone, and it's available for both Android and iOS platforms.

DriveSmart

Another free app, DriveSmart offers a more personalized experience compared to TrueMotion. It's designed more for the teen than the parents, offering the teen opportunities to improve their scores in lagging categories, such as braking. However, it's up to the teen to decide when to start the app. Some notable features include a reminder for the driver to buckle their seatbelt and monthly driving challenges. It's available for Android and iOS phones.

Drivesafe.ly Pro

This app is one of the pricier options (ranging from $4 per month to $35 per year), but it comes with a unique feature: hands-free messaging capabilities. The app automatically puts the phone in hands-free mode when the vehicle is in motion. It reads text messages and emails in real-time and allows the driver to respond accordingly. However, it may take some time to get used to the app, and some research suggests that hands-free mobile device use can still be distracting for drivers. The app is currently available only for Android phones.

Toyota Safe & Sound

Although created by Toyota, this app isn't restricted to Toyota vehicles. It puts the phone in do not disturb mode when the car is moving, similar to Drivesafe.ly Pro's app. If the teen driver exhibits poor behaviors such as speeding or texting, the app automatically plays a predetermined playlist as a form of deterrent.

AT&T DriveMode

AT&T's app is not limited to AT&T customers. It turns on safety features when the car is moving at 15 MPH or faster, which includes muting text alerts and replying to messages with a standard response. If the app is turned off, parents will receive a notification. The app is available for both Android and iOS platforms.
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Encouraging Facts About Teenage Drivers

Finally, let’s remember that not all of the changes that come with adding a teen driver to your family are bad. Yes, your car insurance prices will go up; that happens anytime you add additional drivers to a plan, and so it only makes sense that policies would especially get more expensive when you are adding a driver from what is generally considered the riskiest driver pool, drivers between the ages of 16 and 19. Teen drivers are, however, generally safer now than they have been in previous years, with fewer fatalities and accidents reported each year as a general trend.
Additionally, check out the following 10 positive facts about teenage driving: https://www.trackingsystemdirect.com/positive-facts-about-teenage-driving/

Top 10 Positive Facts About Teenage Driving

  1. Seat belt use among teen drivers has been increasing for decades, from only 74 percent 15 years ago to almost 95 percent today.
  2. Another encouraging trend: Whereas 15 years ago nearly 40 percent of teenagers surveyed said they had either ridden with someone who had been drinking or knew of peers who had driven after drinking, that number is much closer to 20 percent now.
  3. Younger drivers have faster reflexes. While this sometimes lends itself to riskier driver behavior, this also means that teen drivers can also make for better drivers, as they may be more quickly able to respond to negative driver behavior by other drivers, or may be better equipped to avoid potential accidents than older drivers.
  4. Similarly, younger drivers are better able to respond to changing traffic laws or traffic patterns. Roundabouts, for instance, are far more common now than they were ten or twenty years ago; teen drivers are far less likely to have trouble with roundabouts than older drivers.
  5. Teen drivers also have better memories than older drivers, meaning they are less likely to forget street names or directions. This can be especially important for navigating complex directions, for instance.
  6. Younger drivers pay more for insurance because of their risk profile, but that also means they help drive down car insurance costs for everyone else.
  7. That also means that if you are in an accident and the other vehicle is driven by a teen driver, it is far more likely that the car insurance company will cover the cost of damages, as teen drivers are often required to have better insurance because of their risk profile.
  8. Learning how to drive can also help teens develop a sense of independence and autonomy that is important, especially as they prepare to go off to college or otherwise begin living their lives as autonomous people and no longer children under their parents’ supervision. (Yes, this can be hard for parents to hear...but it’s also part of watching their children grow up.)
  9. Having a teen driver in the family can also sometimes help free up parents for other tasks. Being able to ask a teen driver to run an errand or take their younger brother or sister to school activity or sports practice, for instance, can be a huge help for busy families.
  10. Giving your teen driver a chance to drive can also help give you a bonding experience, as you can commiserate over just how many bad drivers there are out there!
Regardless of what choices you make—for yourself, your teen driver, and your car insurance options—know there is lots of good information out there. GPS trackers might be an answer for some families, just as they might not be for other families. Ultimately, it is up to you to determine what is the best course of action for you and your car insurance needs. Know, though, that being educated about your options can help you negotiate and reduce car insurance prices for you and your teen driver!
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Using Car GPS To Track Teenagers

Live GPS tracking units can be installed permanently or simply hidden on a vehicle operated by a teen which will then give parents the ability to oversee the driving activity of that teen at any time. Car tracking units will document the locations a teen visits, speeds they drive and more. Parents can even compare the driving data with text message records to determine if a teen is texting while behind the wheel. By comparing text and driving records Montana parents can at least eliminate one of the high-risk driving behaviors associated with teenage driving. However, the live tracking data also provides parents a simple way to locate their teen if the teen runs out of gas, becomes lost or simply needs some form of emergency assistance.
Clearly, the issue of safety among teenage motorists in Montana is a serious one that needs to be addressed frequently and intelligently. The old way was not working and if car tracking units are going to help parents in Montana then that should be something discussed in detail. No state wants to have the distinction of being the most dangerous state for teenage motorists and no parent wants to have their child harmed in a vehicle-related accident. Things need to change in Montana.

Best Auto Insurance For Teen Driver

When a teen finally passes their written and driver's examinations at the DMV a whole new world of opportunity is opened up. Solo car rides or drives with friends to burger joints, movie theaters and almost any location are now only a set of car keys away. However, with that freedom can come a substantial cost in the form of car payments and auto insurance. In fact, one study conducted by NerdWallet showed that family car insurance goes up roughly $1500 per year when a teen gets added to the auto insurance plan! Ouch! So what is the best way to keep car insurance for newly licensed teen drivers as low as possible so parents don't go broke trying to keep up with rising auto insurance rates?
Auto insurance providers are data-driven businesses so they are fully aware that teen drivers are for more likely to engage in risky driving behaviors such as speeding. They also understand teen drivers can easily succumb to peer pressure and by doing so make unwise driving decisions. Lastly, car insurers know teens can be careless which can result in potential auto-theft. However, one piece of technology called the GPS car tracker can help reduce many of these liabilities. For example, when a parent equips a vehicle tracker on a teen's car, that parent will then have the ability to monitor everywhere that teen is going and how fast they are driving. What's even better is that the real-time GPS units can also send out alerts to notify parents if the vehicle was stolen or if a teenager is driving their car too fast! Many auto insurance companies recognize the benefits associated with GPS vehicle monitoring and will provide discounts on car insurance packages for this. However, GPS auto tracking technology is more than just a tool to reduce car insurance rates for teens because the devices can literally save lives.
The best car GPS tracking devices will cost parents around $99.00-$199.00 per device.

Grades Matter

Car insurance companies study the facts and they know firsthand that teens that perform well in the classroom are statistically more likely to perform well on the road. In fact, many insurance providers will offer anywhere from a 10-15% discount on auto insurance for teens who maintain a "B" average or better in the classroom. Therefore, parents that keep their kids focused on the schoolbooks will also keep more money in their pockets.

Professional Driving Courses

In every facet of life the one constant is that experience matters. Therefore, teens who go the extra mile by enrolling in various driving programs and professional driving courses are often rewarded by auto insurers with discounted rates.

Shop, Compare And Combine Insurance Plans

Shopping around and comparing quotes is always good advice, but combining insurance plans can also help reduce rates. Family plans where the entire household is on one coverage policy are shown to save families sometimes as much as $3,000 annually! So combine those insurance plans and shop around to find the most cost-effective option!
Auto insurance is not only the law it's also extremely beneficial, especially when/if bad things occur. However, that does not mean that auto insurance for teen drivers should break the bank. Parents can save some cash on their teen auto insurance by investing in GPS tracking systems, inspiring their kids to do better at school, enroll them in professional driving classes. Of course, don't forget to shop, compare and combine auto insurers. Stay safe while driving and always try and save some cash!
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Frequently Asked Questions

What Are Some Strategies To Lower Teen Car Insurance?

Considering the cost, it's natural to want to lower your insurance expenses. Here are some tips:
  • Compare rates: Shopping around and comparing prices can yield better deals.
  • Look for discounts: Insurers often have discount programs. Did you know that good grades can lead to lower insurance costs?
  • Older cars: Insuring your teen on an older car could save you some cash.
  • Add your teen to your policy: As we've already established, this is a significant money-saver.
  • Consider usage-based insurance: This could reward your teen's good driving habits.

What Is The Most Dangerous State For Teen Driving?

You might think populous states pose the most risk for teen drivers. However, states like New York and California aren't even in the top half for unsafe teen driving. Surprisingly, Montana holds the dubious honor of being the most dangerous state for teen drivers. This fact is sparking a search among Montana parents for new safety measures for their young drivers.
Carinsurance.com conducted a survey focusing on multiple factors. These included teen driver deaths per 100k population, texting behaviors, alcohol use, and insurance costs. It also covered other relevant details. Montana scored alarmingly high on several of these high-risk aspects. It ranks third for teens who text while driving and tops the list for teen drunk driving with 13%. This report, although troubling for Montana parents, is vital for developing better safety measures.
Faced with these findings, many Montana parents are taking action. They're turning to car tracking technology, allowing them to monitor their teens' driving habits directly.
Learn more about teen driving monitors here: https://www.trackingsystemdirect.com
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2024.05.20 07:06 No-Put4194 Got engaged this weekend and ate to celebrate!

We finally got engaged after 7 years together. Our daughter tragically died as a newborn just over a year ago. So this weekend was very emotional and special for us. Since before she died we didn’t ever plan to marry - simply being common law was enough for us.
We hiked and had a sunset picnic. It was really special. And I let myself eat without weighing anything and just stopped when I was full. But it was pretty calorie dense stuff, chips and cheese and meats and chocolate. Tracked it after based on guesstimating and went over my weekly calories by ~1700. Feel a little guilty, trying to move on though considering, god willing, I won’t be engaged again in this lifetime!
Just sharing to alleviate some guilt. And to write down that tomorrow I’ll just keep on goin!
Context: already lost 32.2lbs. Goal is to loose 40 overall.
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2024.05.20 07:05 LucyAriaRose Conclusion 10 months later: AITA for breaking my fiancé's family tradition by naming my son what I wanted?

I am STILL NOT the Original Poster. That is still . She posted in and .
You can read the previous BORU's here and here. New Update marked with ****\* Thanks to u/Choice_Evidence1983 and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for letting me know!
Trigger Warning: brief mention of murder
Mood Spoiler: happy ending
Original Post: April 16, 2023
Throwaway because I have in-laws on Reddit.
Myself (25F) and my fiancé (27M) have a 2 month old son. We are overjoyed at being parents, but most of my in-laws are refusing to even see our baby because of a decision we made concerning his name.
My in-laws have a tradition of giving the first-born son of every generation the same name. Let's say it's "Peter". This has been going on for about seven generations already, and they're very serious about it. My fiancé's eldest cousin was the latest person to get named Peter. Every one of his cousins has only had daughters so far, so our baby is the first son of his generation, and consequently should get the name.
I have no problem with the name Peter, and would've been okay with naming my son that. Unfortunately, that was also the name of my uncle, who died before I was born. I won't get into details, but it was tragic and traumatizing for my family. My father never got over losing his younger brother.
My grandmother asked the family not to name any of our future children Peter during her lifetime. My MIL and FIL knew about this promise, and at first seemed to not only be okay with us avoiding the name Peter, but also supportive of the one we chose.
However, my grandmother sadly passed away when I was 7 months pregnant. We traveled for her funeral. On our last days there, my in-laws called to offer me their condolences. Then my MIL asked me if I was willing to "think about the name Peter now."
Suddenly, they were insistent that the name we chose was awful and we had to honor their tradition. According to them, they had only agreed to make an exception for us for my grandmother's sake, and had no obligation to keep it now that she had passed.
My family agrees that while it's true we don't have to avoid the name anymore, it still doesn't feel right to use it. My fiancé agrees with me as well, but his parents spent the last weeks of my pregnancy trying to convince us to change our minds about the name.
When our baby was born and we named him what we wanted, my in-laws were furious that we had broken a 7-generation-old family tradition. Some of them hadn't previously wanted to name their sons Peter, but did it anyway for the family's sake. They said our decision was selfish, and that my family "should have moved on by now."
This has truly nothing to do with whether my family has moved on or not, it just felt like a betrayal to my grandmother and uncle's memories to even consider using the name.
My FIL offered us $1000 to change our son's name to Peter after he was born. That was two months ago, and neither of my fiancé's parents have met the baby or seen us since I was pregnant. Most of my in-laws are on their side, and this is causing a huge rift between my fiancé and his family. He assures me he's fine, but I'm starting to feel really guilty about this.
AITA?
EDIT: The tradition started, as far as I know, when OG Peter died and his son, also named Peter, named his firstborn after his father. Peter III ended up having the first son of the following generation, and did the same thing. That one died before having children, so his sister gave the name to her son, and so on. The name “Peter” is very common in my country, so none of them ever got bullied over it, and the fact that it was also my uncle’s name isn’t as unlikely as one might think.
Also, middle names aren’t used in my country. Most people get the maternal surname before the paternal one instead.
EDIT 2: It wasn't 1000 dollars. Different country, different currency. It's still a lot of money, but would probably translate to about 200 USD.
Relevant Comments:
Can you use Peter as a middle name?"
Our country/culture doesn't generally use middle names. If we did, I'd be willing to think about that, even though my son's name doesn't match "Peter"."
How many Peters are alive right now in your family???"
There are 3 living "Peters" in the family right now. Only the eldest (my fiancé's great uncle) actually goes by Peter. The other two have nicknames ("Pete", "Petey", etc)."
OOP is voted NTA
Update Post: May 24, 2023 (a bit over 1 month later)
(OOP's post was removed from AITA, and reposted on her profile. I'm using the date of the AITA post. Comments are also from AITA)
I posted this on AITA, but it got removed about an hour ago because I mentioned a violent encounter on an edit. I tried editing it out and getting it back up, but it didn't work. I'm posting here in case anyone still wants to read it.
Original
Thank you so much to everyone who commented and offered support. A lot has happened since I posted, so I thought I'd give you an update.
About a week after my post, my fiancé's parents contacted us. They apologized for their behavior, and begged to meet my son. They said they were ready to leave the naming debacle behind and truly wanted to be involved in their grandson's life.
We were skeptical, but invited them over to meet the baby. The visit went well. They began coming over almost every day during the next three weeks. I noticed neither of them ever called my son by his name, but I didn't point it out. For the first time in months, things seemed good between my fiancé and his parents.
One day, my fiancé was helping my FIL with something at our place, so my MIL and I went to the park with my baby. Some time later, I had to go to the bathroom, so I left him in the stroller with her.
When I got back, she was sitting on a park bench, chatting with a woman who was cooing over my son. I went over there and introduced myself as "(son's name)'s mom", and she said, "I thought his name was Peter."
I didn't say a word, and neither did my MIL. She followed me to the car and we went back to my apartment. On the way there, I texted my fiancé about what had happened. The moment we got there, he kicked both his parents out of our place.
He'd read my texts and confronted his father. Thankfully, my FIL is a terrible liar, and confessed immediately. Apparently, both my in-laws ONLY call my son Peter. That includes whenever they're talking about him, every time they introduce him to someone else, and even baby-talking to him on the few occasions they were left alone with him. Neither of them are embarrassed by this, and they both think they're in the right.
We're heartbroken. Especially my fiancé. Not only because his parents can't let go of their pride, but also because the name we chose for our son means a lot to us both.
I blame myself for encouraging my fiancé to allow them near our son. I was raised in a different city than all my grandparents, and always wished they could have been more involved in my life. Losing my grandmother didn't help. Pretty much every doubt I had only existed because I thought it would be important for my son to grow up with all of his grandparents around.
But now, all my guilt is gone. If they can't respect my son enough to call him by his name, they don't deserve to be in his life.
I hope they enjoyed the three weeks they had with their grandson. Because that's all they're getting until they get their heads out of their asses.
EDIT: I thought I'd clarify some things. First of all, I'm not comfortable sharing my son's name here, but I promise it's not a "yooneek" name or anything like that. It's perfectly normal and popular-ish in our country.
Secondly, I mentioned this in the comments, but while my family didn't try to dictate me on my son's name, they would never be comfortable with it. My uncle Peter passed almost three decades ago, but it forever changed everyone who knew him. My grandmother's wish might seem a bit irrational, but it was motivated entirely by grief and it didn't seem right to disrespect that just because she's not around anymore.
And to whoever PM'd me that my fiancé's only on my side to keep the peace, he didn't want to use the name either. Months before I got pregnant, he told me he hoped one of his cousins would have a son before we did, because he always hated the tradition and sympathized with my family. He's just as angry at his parents as I am, if not more. Also, most of his cousins and some other relatives have come around and apologized.
Relevant Comments:
Are they this unhinged in other areas of your life too?"
According to my fiancé, they've always been a little entitled, but I never really saw them enough to be able to say that. I will say that, though they were polite, they very clearly didn't care about me until we moved in together. My MIL pretended not to remember my name every time she saw me, and my FIL would lose interest in any conversations that weren't about him. Once it was clear me and my fiancé were in for long term, they started acting a lot more friendly towards me, but it never seemed sincere."
Have other family members come around yet?"
Most of my fiancé's cousins have come around, and his brother was always on our side. His grandmother and some of his aunts and uncles are with us too. His grandfather (divorced from his grandmother), two out of three living Peters (the two oldest) and pretty much everyone else are either still mad at us or haven't reached out to talk about it yet.
My entire family is on my side. They promised not to interfere in the naming process, but are relieved we didn't name him Peter."
One more note on the $1000 offered in the first post:
"And that's $1000 in MY country's currency. It roughly translates to $200USD." (note- OOP clarifies in a comment that she is Brazilian)
OOP drops this horrible bombshell about her uncle, the one who died before she was born:
"My uncle was murdered. My grandmother's request was motivated by trauma."
"Again; my family would be mostly fine with naming my son Peter. My dad and my aunt might have been uncomfortable, and my grandmother asked us all not to do so, but I wouldn't have been disowned if I had. It simply felt disrespectful, especially since my grandmother passed shortly before my son was born.
My uncle's death was traumatic for my family, but the name Peter is hugely common in my country."
Update Post 2: July 28, 2023 (3 months from first post)
My son is now 5 months old (almost six!). We're still NC with my fiancé's parents, who haven't seen us since May. We've both blocked them everywhere. His relatives who were on our side still are, and most of the ones who weren't haven't come around. If anything, they're even more pissed now.
I remember someone suggesting that my fiancé's family might stop using the name after we decided not to. Well, you were right. Last week, one of my fiancé's cousins announced she was pregnant with a boy. She included her baby's name in the announcement, and it's not Peter.
What followed was a string of aggressive Instagram DMs from both MIL and FIL. They both created accounts for the sole purpose of contacting me. I didn't see them until two days later. They sent me almost an hour worth of voice messages about how I'd "ruined their family".
They wish their son had never met me, that he'd see me for "who I truly am", and that I'd never gotten pregnant. Many of the messages ended with "I hope you're happy now", as if they thought they were getting the last word, only to think of something else they wanted to say. There was name calling, an accusation of me cheating, and the persistent refusal to refer to my son as their grandchild.
My fiancé and I listened to the messages together. He hadn't gotten any. As much as I tried to distance myself, I was in tears by the time it was all done. I still don't regret anything, specially after the stunt they pulled back in May, but I'm not completely free of the guilt yet. Not to mention their complete disregard for their grandson. I was already having an overwhelming week, and this just seemed like the final straw.
I must have spent close to an hour sobbing in my fiancé's arms. Once I was calmer, he unblocked his parents just to scream at them for a while. I only heard his side of the conversation, but it was more than enough. He finished the call by saying he didn't want to hear from them again.
We had a long talk afterwards. My fiancé opened up about the emotional blackmail by his family before and after my pregnancy. My in-laws were close to threatening him with anything they could if we didn't name our son Peter. I told him about my guilt, and how awful I feel for putting him through this. We reassured each other, cried a bit more, and had a mostly pleasant evening with our baby.
We contacted his cousin. The family is giving her shit for breaking the tradition again. They're being way less aggressive though, and I think many of my in-laws are finally learning to let go. We're not expecting any apologies anytime soon, but we'll be glad if they come.
Our wedding will be in September 2024, and whoever doesn't give us a sincere apology until then is uninvited. My fiancé's parents are banned either way. We came to that decision together.
Also, I'd like to address some comments on my previous update about how I was "letting my family's trauma win", or how the name wouldn't be hurtful now that my grandmother has passed.
I can't stress enough the damage my uncle's death caused. He was only 30 years old. He had a fiancée, a great career and his whole life ahead of him. I don't know many details about what happened, because I didn't want to upset my family by asking. My grandmother wasn't the only person hurt by this, my entire paternal family was. And if I remember correctly, the person responsible isn't even in jail anymore. It was more than 20 years ago, but the wound never truly closed.
So yeah, I think it's safe to say the tradition is over. The next Not-Peter will be here in January, right before my son's first birthday. It was never my intention for this to turn into such a shitstorm, but I'm so incredibly proud of my little family.
Thank you so much to everyone who shared their stories and offered advice during these last few months. I'll be forever grateful for all the support I got from y'all.
*****New Update Post: May 13, 2024 (13 months from OG post, about 10 from last post)****\*
Hey everyone, it's been a while. I hope you guys had a great Mother's Day!
I remember that last year, I promised myself I'd write a final update as soon as I felt calmer or felt the situation was closer to being solved. That actually happened months ago, but I've been busy lately.
Following my previous update, my fiancé's side of the family remained upset about the tradition being over for a few more months. They were way less intense about it, specially with the pregnant cousin I mentioned, but it was still evident.
That cousin's Not-Peter (almost a year later, I still can't think of a better term) was born in January. Our son turned one the next month. I think the fact that these two things happened so close together helped many of my in-laws let go of the tradition.
We got a few apologies we weren't expecting. Some of them were sincere enough that we slowly started reestablishing contact.
My fiancé's parents were not among those who apologized. We haven't spoken to either of them since last July. From what I've heard from some of his other relatives, however, MIL seems regretful. She has told some of them that she wishes she could be part of her grandson's life, and wonders if making his name a hill to die on was a bad decision. FIL, from what I gather, barely acknowledges my baby exists.
My fiancé knows about how his mother feels, but he says he doesn't care. And even if we did get an apology, I don't think either of us can forgive his parents. As much as we're mostly okay now, it sometimes feels like their treatment of our family ruined the first few months of our baby's life. I know that's not actually true, but I don't want them around my child.
Besides all that, things have been great. My son is 15 months old now, which I don't think I'll ever really get used to. He recently started drawing and has been expanding his vocabulary. He said "mamãe" first, by the way.
My fiancé and I are still getting married in September. We're thinking about moving abroad in a couple years (for work reasons), but we're not sure yet. We also recently got a dog (sadly, we didn't name him Peter).
This will be my final update. Whatever guilt I had about this situation a year ago is completely gone, and my life has been peaceful enough that it feels safe to say the shitshow is over.
Hugo, if you ever find this, you are the most fantastic thing that has ever happened to us. Thank you for letting me be your mom.
Thank you, Reddit, for all the love, advice and support you've given me this past year.
Relevant Comment:
Commenter: Whilst this may be your final update on the naming sage, you said you are getting married in September 2024 and MiL&FiL aren't going to be invited.
Prepare for more craziness from them at that time and good luck :)
OOP: I really do think this is over. My fiancé's parents don't know when or where we're getting married, so I'm not worried about them showing up. They haven't reached out to us in months, and we have no interest in contacting them.
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2024.05.20 07:02 NoHope1720 AITAH for knocking out my brother in law at a funeral??

I’ve been furious all day but I’ve finally managed to calm down enough to put this post together... So we went to the funeral for my aunt and after the funeral during the reception my sister was still really torn up and she was having a really hard time so I sat next to her and rubbed her back which seemed to help some… when I got up and went to get something to drink my brother in law was over there and he really had the guts to say “it looked like you were enjoying that a little too much” and I completely lost it and knocked him unconscious. I’m still completely shocked that he said that… Everyone was extremely upset with me and I had to just leave. I’ve gotten about 10 calls from family members asking me what happened and I told them what happened but they were all saying that I was wrong for putting hands on him… but I feel like he really deserved it after saying such a rude nasty comment (at OUR aunts funeral!!!!)… so guys am I the asshole here? I have a feeling the answer is going to be yes. Also my brother in law was talking about my other sister not the one he’s married to.
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2024.05.20 07:02 SharkEva AITA for not moving my wedding date? + 1 year update

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/user posting in AmItheAsshole
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 19th June 2023
Update - 18th May 2024
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AITA for not moving my wedding date?
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Not the A-hole My fiancé and I recently got engaged, and when looking at dates we realized our anniversary falls on a Saturday this year. Perfect right? We immediately start planning because it’s approximately 9 months out and we have to move quick to pull a wedding together. We told everyone the potential date this weekend and all seemed well.
Monday I get a phone call from my father. He insists that I move the date because my mother has a yoga retreat that weekend. I tell him that this date means a lot to me and I would prefer to keep it if there is any way to move the retreat. There is, but it’s expensive. I offer to pay for this change out of my wedding budget, essentially halving the amount that I can spend on the most important event of my life.
Yesterday I was told that they would not be taking my offer to pay to move the retreat and that we’re expected to move the wedding instead. I haven’t put money on my venue yet, so they think I should be fine with giving up the chance to marry on a date that means a lot to me. It became a massive fight, and now my parents and I aren’t speaking. My father accused me of caring about a date more than I care about my mother. I told him that it felt as though they were choosing yoga over their own daughter.
TLDR: wedding falls on the same day as moms yoga retreat. I haven’t put money down on the date yet and she has, but it means more to me than to her. Offers to pay to move the retreat were turned down. WIBTA if I keep my date and say that it’s me or the retreat?
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imothro
Your parents are prioritizing a yoga retreat over your wedding? I told him that it felt as though they were choosing yoga over their own daughter. They 100% are. Have the wedding without them. NTA
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Satogamii
And i would be petty and put on the photos why they weren't at the wedding. Op parents sucks. NTA.
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z00k33per0304
Make them yoga poses too just for the extra flair.
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apartment-flood
NTA - and the next time your parents invite you to something, tell them, "namaste at home"
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**Judgement - NTA*\*
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Update - 11 months later
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Hey everyone! It's been a while (I forgot my password), but a few people asked for updates on how my last post turned out. Unfortunately, a lot of you may not like the answer.
Almost all of you said not to change the date, and to enjoy my time without them there. I followed half of that advice. I eventually did relent to my family and change the date of the wedding. My fiancé (now husband!) said that the date wasn't as important as my happiness, and the fighting with my parents was destroying that. Now after six months, we both wish we hadn't because it was useless.
They still didn't show up. Not only that, but they convinced 90% of my family not to show up either. I ended up with only four relatives there in a crowd of about 100 guests.
My mother claimed that I had been "excluding her from planning" (by scheduling venue tours on days that my fiancé and I were both free but I didn't realize she was working, and by finding my dress by surprise on a "just here to look" trip without her being there). They hadn't shown any interest in planning, so I mainly didn't want to bother them. To them, this was "clearly a sign that you don't want us there". So they went out of town on the new date.
In the end, narcissist mother still got her yoga, I still moved my date, and I still walked myself down the aisle.
But my petty self did, in fact, strike back. I had an amazing time, and I made sure that I left obvious empty seats marked for them and told everyone the truth with a smile when they asked. The few family members that did show are now no longer speaking to them either, as are all of the friends who came. The only exception is my brother (who I'm pretty sure they asked to relay the details of the party to them), and even he has almost entirely cut them out due to how they've acted.
I haven't spoken to my mother since about a month before the wedding, when she told me to get all of my old things out of her house. I speak to my father very rarely, and only over things like deaths in the family. My in-laws have basically taken me in as their own, and I'm far happier than I ever was in the nightmare of a family I grew up with. Life is good.
TLDR: moved the date of the wedding so mom could go to yoga, parents still didn't show, had a better day without them than I would have with them there, finally cut contact with those narcissists
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Even_Enthusiasm7223
Great for you, The next time you contact them in any manner or let them know anything about your life is after you give birth and send them an announcement. Hey, I just like you to know that you are the proud grandparents of a child you will never meet. That's being petty
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floridaeng
My petty side says when or if you have kids don't do anything to tell them. I would even say don't tell your brother unless he promises to not tell them. They have clearly shown they don't care about you and don't want any contact, so give them what they want.
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DragonMaster7433
Good on you for going either very low contact or no contact with them. I looked through your old posts and saw where they wanted you to join a dinner date with another family member shortly before the actual dinner while you were busy. It wild to me how they seem to want you to respect their time and plans but have absolutely no respect for your time and plans.
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Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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2024.05.20 07:00 The_Ineffable_Sage Another day of trading sideways

Another day of trading sideways
Don’t forget the math. We’re trading sideways. It’s about perspective. We’re finally the casino, and the laws of math say house always wins. We have infinite time, and they have finite supply of money (like walking into a casino with $100. The casino will eventually get that $100, no matter how much you win, and they can’t leave the casino)
To adjust a Pirates of the Caribbean quote: " No doubt you've discovered that currency is no longer the currency of the realm, as your hedge funds believe. Then what is? Time is the currency of the realm.”
And we’re younger than those old dragons sitting on their ill gotten hordes, separating the workers from the means of production, creating a system that beats a dead horse into bone meal and sells it to the highest bidder as fertilizer to grow more injustices.
So hold. DRS. Book. Vote. And be patient. Put your shares in your will to your children. They will not give up their thrones for jail cells. This is how it happens.
Time
Patience
And shopping. How many hours have you spent playing your favorite game from GameStop? What did that cost you? $0.08 an hour? That $5 coffee you guzzled down in 15 minutes this morning cost you $20 an hour. Go buy a plushie or treat yourself to a new game if you need a fix to feel good.
These price fluctuations aren’t it. It gets old. Fast. I’m not phased by these price shifts, because I know it’s bullshit. I’ve been watching the price and the news for 3 years, and they’re not correlated.
The system is rigged. So bunker down, and don’t give them your energy.
Get zen. It’s rocket fuel, and we need a lot of fuel if we’re taking EVERYONE to the moon with us.
Disclaimer: I’m not a money guy. I’m a philosopher. I studied morals and ethics. So I can’t tell you what to do, but I can tell you you’re not alone.
TL; DR: me either, so sorry for typos.
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2024.05.20 06:49 alexmcinteer1025 How I believe Jesus will become king of earth when he returns

I am conducting a survey please tell me whether you agree or disagree with this and don't downvote if you don't agree with my religion instead tell me why you disagree.
I have one key scripture that gave me a theory for how Jesus will install himself as king of all nations.
Exodus 22:18 "you must not permit a sorceress to live"
It's almost like Moses meant for it to be a crime for governments not to kill witches yet 1/3 of Americans have had black magic done to them and this has only gotten worse starting in 1990s when more people converted from Christianity and Islam into being atheist black magic witches.
Isaiah 24: "in that day the Lord will punish the proud rulers of the nations on earth. They will be rounded up and put in prison, they will be shut up in prison, and finally punished."
I believe when Jesus returns the politicians free of magic will be rounded up, put in prison, and put to death like Exodus 22 recommends. Also police free of witchcraft are a huge problem in God's mind they need to be rounded up in prison and put to death as well.
Matthew 25: "for I was sick while in prison and you did not care for me"
This is talking about the people who go to hell during the final judgement. Maybe Jesus gets arrested and goes to jail for being a revolutionary That would be the police and jail guards not caring for Jesus. It also says
Matthew 25: "for I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, naked and you didn't clothe me"
I did two years in prison for punching cops in the face for not doing witch hunts. While in prison I lost 40lbs because they restricted my diet to 2k calories when I needed more like 3k daily. I was naked because the jail guard lied about me being suicidal because they hated me for having a criminal charge related to violence against law enforcement so they had me on suicide watch with no clothes. They also turned off my water when they found out I placed hits on two jail guards by paying inmates to attack the guards. Fullfillment of "thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink" may be when jail guards do the same to Jesus while he is in prison...
Thoughts? Maybe we can replace the terrible American police with good Christians enforcing Moses law from the old testament. I am all for law enforcement but not this garbage where it's a hate crime to kill gays and transgenders like book of Leviticus recommends.
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2024.05.20 06:43 Excellent_Rip_6605 ISIS is practicing pure Sunni Islam as Mohammed did in 7th century Arabia

Yes. ISIS does exactly what Muhammad did in the 7th century. And it also adopts a lot of what the subsequent “rightly guided” caliphs did. Because after all, ISIS is a Salafi organization (Salaf- as in “Al-Salaf Al-Saleh” = the rightly guided predecessors - referring to the four “rightly guided” caliphs following Muhammad).
Long answer:
Let’s take a look first what ISIS is doing. If we can agree what these “atrocities” are, then we can look further and dig deeper whether we can find something similar in Islamic scripture and history.
So, here’s what ISIS does:
BEHEADING OF PRISONERS
Scriptural base:
Qur’an 8:12- “I will instill terror into the hearts of the unbelievers: smite ye above their necks and smite all their finger-tips off.”
Qur’an 47:4- “Therefore, when ye meet the Unbelievers (in fight), strike off their heads; at length; then when you have made wide Slaughter among them, carefully tie up the remaining captives”: thereafter (is the time for) either generosity or ransom: Until the war lays down its burdens.”
What Muhammad did:
Then the Messenger of Allah commanded that ditches should be dug, so they were dug in the earth, and they were brought tied by their shoulders, and were beheaded. There were between seven hundred and eight hundred of them. The children who had not yet reached adolescence and the women were taken prisoner, and their wealth was seized.
Tafsir Ibn Kathir - The Campaign against Banu Qurayzah
Narrated Aisha . . . No woman of Banu [tribe] Qurayzah was killed except one. She was with me, talking and laughing on her back and belly (extremely), while the Apostle of Allah . . . was killing her people with the swords. Suddenly a man called her name: Where is so-and-so? . . . I asked: What is the matter with you? She said: I did a new act. [Aisha] said: The man took her and beheaded her. [Aisha] said: I will not forget that she was laughing extremely although she knew that she would be killed. (Abu Dawud)
TAKING FEMALE SEX-SLAVES
Scriptural base:
Qur’an - 4:24 - "And all married women are forbidden unto you save those captives whom your right hand possess. It is a decree of Allah for you.
What Muhammad did:
Sunan Abu Dawud, Vol. 2, # 2150:
Abu Said al-Khudri said: "The apostle of Allah sent a military expedition to Awtas on the occasion of the battle of Hunain. They met their enemy and fought with them. They defeated them and took them captives. Some of the Companions of the apostle of Allah were reluctant to have intercourse with the female captives in the presence of their husbands who were unbelievers. So Allah, the Exalted, sent down the Quranic verse, "And all married women (are forbidden) unto you save those (captives) whom your right hands possess". That is to say, they are lawful for them when they complete their waiting period." (See Qur’an 4:24 above)
Sahih Bukhari Vol.3 #432
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri that while he was sitting with Allah's messenger we said, "Oh Allah's messenger, we got female captives as our booty, and we are interested in their prices, what is your opinion about coitus interruptus?" The prophet said, "Do you really do that? It is better for you not to do it. No soul that which Allah has destined to exist, but will surely come into existence."
Sahih Muslim, Vol.2, #3371
Abu Sirma said to Abu Said al Khudri: "O Abu Said, did you hear Allah's messenger mentioning about al-azl (coitus interruptus)?" He said, "Yes", and added: "We went out with Allah's messenger on the expedition to the Mustaliq and took captive some excellent Arab women; and we desired them for we were suffering from the absence of our wives, (but at the same time) we also desired ransom for them. So we decided to have sexual intercourse with them but by observing azl" (withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid conception). But we said: "We are doing an act whereas Allah's messenger is amongst us; why not ask him?" So we asked Allah's messenger and he said: "It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born".
Kitab al-Tabaqat al-Kabir, page 151
"He [the Lord of Alexandria] presented to the prophet Mariyah, her sister Sirin, a donkey and a mule which was white....The apostle of Allah liked Mariyah who was of white complexion and curly hair and pretty.... Then he cohabited with Mariyah as a handmaid and sent her to his property which he had acquired from Banu al-Nadir."
Tabari's History, volume 39, page 194
"He (Muhammad) used to visit her (Mariyam) there and ordered her to veil herself, [but] he had intercourse with her by virtue of her being his property."
THROWING DOWN HOMOSEXUALS FROM ROOFS AND STONING THEM AFTERWARDS
Scriptural base:
Qur'an 4:16 If two men among you are guilty of lewdness, punish them both. If they repent and amend, Leave them alone; for Allah is Oft-returning, Most Merciful.
Sunan Abu Dawud 38:4447 Narated By Abdullah ibn Abbas : The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If you find anyone doing as Lot's people did, kill the one who does it, and the one to whom it is done.
What Muhammad and companions did:
Mishkat, vol. 1, p. 765, Prescribed Punishments
Ibn Abbas and Abu Huraira reported God's messenger as saying, 'Accursed is he who does what Lot's people did.' In a version...on the authority of Ibn Abbas it says that Ali [Muhammad's cousin and son-in-law] had two people “burned” and that Abu Bakr [Muhammad's chief companion] had a wall thrown down on them.
Modern Exegesis:
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid, Islam Q&A, Fatwa No. 5177
Abu Bakr al-Siddeeq judged in accordance with this, and he wrote instructions to this effect to Khaalid, after consulting with the Sahaabah. ‘Ali was the strictest of them with regard to that. Ibn al-Qasaar and our shaykh said: the Sahaabah agreed that [the person who does homosexual acts] should be killed, but they differed as to how he should be killed. Abu Bakr al-Siddeeq said that he should be thrown down from a cliff. ‘Ali (may Allaah be pleased with him) said that a wall should be made to collapse on him. Ibn ‘Abbaas said, they should be killed by stoning. This shows that there was consensus among them that [the person who does homosexual acts] should be killed, but they differed as to how he should be executed. This is similar to the ruling of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) concerning the person who has intercourse with a woman who is his mahram [incest], because in both cases intercourse is not permitted under any circumstances. Hence the connection was made in the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) who reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Whoever you find doing the deed of the people of Loot, kill them.” And it was also reported that he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has intercourse with a woman who is his mahram, kill him.” And according to another hadeeth with the same isnaad, “Whoever has intercourse with an animal, kill him and kill the animal with him.” (Narrated by Ahmad, 2420; Abu Dawood, 4464; al-Tirmidhi, 1454; al-Haakim, 4/355).
Imam Sirajudeen Bakrin, Nigerian Tribune, December 30, 2011
However, there is a divergence of opinions on the methodology to be used in executing the punishment. While some scholars such as Abu bakr [the first Rightly-Guided Caliph] and Ali [Muhammad's son-in-law and the fourth Rightly-Guided Caliph ] were of the view that such a person should be beheaded and set on fire thereafter, Umar [the second Rightly-Guided Caliph] and Uthman [the third Rightly-Guided Caliph] thought the wall should be fell on him. To Ibn Abbas [Muhammad's cousin], he should be taken to the tallest building in the town, thrown upside down while some men stand on the ground waiting to meet him with stone in replication of the destruction done to the people of Lut (Lot) by Allah.
STONING OF ADULTERERS
Scriptural base & what Muhammad did:
Sahih Bukhari (6:60:79) - Two people guilty of illegal intercourse are brought to Muhammad, who orders them both stoned to death.
Sahih Muslim (17:4192) - "in case of married (persons) there is (a punishment) of one hundred lashes and then stoning (to death). And in case of unmarried persons, (the punishment) is one hundred lashes and exile for one year"
Sahih Muslim (17:4196) - A married man confesses to adultery. Muhammad orders him planted in the ground and pelted with stones. According to the passage, the first several stones caused such pain that he tried to escape and had to be dragged back.
Sahih Muslim (17:4206) - A woman who became pregnant confesses to Muhammad that she is guilty of adultery. Muhammad allows her to have the child, then has her stoned.
The description is graphic: "Khalid b Walid came forward with a stone which he flung at her head and there spurted blood on the face of Khalid and so he abused her."
Ibn Ishaq (970)
ASSASSINATION OF POLITICAL OPPONENTS & “SLANDERERS OF ISLAM”
What Muhammad did:
Bukhari vol.3 book 45 ch.3 no.687 p.415.
(687) Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah: Allah's Apostle said, 'Who would kill Ka'b bin Al-Ashraf as he has harmed Allah and His Apostle? Muhammad bin Maslama (got up and) said, 'I will kill him.' So, Muhammad bin Maslama went to Ka'b and said, 'I want a loan of one or two Wasqs of foodgrains.'" After dickering over what to hold as mortgage, they agreed that Muhammad bin Maslama would mortgage his weapons. So he promised him that he would come with his weapons next time."
Source: Ibn Ishaq, pp. 675-76 / 995-96.
Asma was a poetess who belonged to a tribe of Medinan pagans, and whose husband was named Yazid b. Zayd. She composed a poem blaming the Medinan pagans for obeying a stranger (Muhammad) and for not taking the initiative to attack him by surprise. When the Allah-inspired prophet heard what she had said, he asked, "Who will rid me of Marwan’s daughter?" A member of her husband’s tribe volunteered and crept into her house that night. She had five children, and the youngest was sleeping at her breast. The assassin gently removed the child, drew his sword, and plunged it into her, killing her in her sleep.
The following morning, the assassin defied anyone to take revenge. No one took him up on his challenge, not even her husband. In fact, Islam became powerful among his tribe. Previously, some members who had kept their conversion secret now became Muslims openly, "because they saw the power of Islam," conjectures Ibn Ishaq.
Al-Tabari vol.9 p.167:
Al-Aswad was assassinated because he claimed that he was a prophet, after coming out of the Khubban cave. He was killed a day or two before Mohammed's death.
Al-Tabari vol.9 p.121
"The Messenger of God called me and said, 'It has reached me that Khalid b. Sufyan b. Nubayh al-Hudhali is gathering a force to attack me. He is either in Nakhlah or 'Uranah, so go to him and kill him.'"
Abu Dawud vol.1 no.1244 p.328
"He (the prophet) said, :Go and kill him. I saw him when the time of the afternoon prayer had come. I said : I am afraid if a fight takes place between me and him (Khalid b. Sufyan), that might delay the prayer. I proceeded walking towards him while I was praying by making a sign. When I reached near him, he said to me : Who are you? I replied : A man from the Arabs ; it came to me that you were gathering (any[sp] army) for this man (i.e. the Prophet). Hence I came to you in connection with this matter. ... I then walked along with him for a while; when it became convenient for me, I dominated him with my sword until he became cold (dead)."
Al-Tabari vol.8 p.122
According to Ibn Ishaq: Kinanah b. al-Rabi' b. Abi al-Huqayq who had the treasure of the Banu al-Nadir, was brought to the Messenger of God, who questioned him, but he denied knowing where it [the treasure] was. Then the Messenger of God was brought a Jew who said to him, "I have seen Kinanah walk around this ruin every morning." The Messenger of God said to Kinanah: "What do you say? If we find it in your possession, I will kill you. "All right he answered. The Messenger of God commanded that the ruin should be dug up, and some of the treasure was extracted from it. Then he asked him for the rest of it. Kinanah refused to surrender it, so the Messenger of God gave orders concerning him to al-Zubayr b. al-'Awwam, saying, "Torture him until you root out what he has." Al-Zubayr kept twirling his firestick in his breast until Kinanah almost expired [died]; then the Messenger of God gave him to Muhammad b. Maslamah, who beheaded him to avenge his brother Mahmud b. Maslamah."
The list goes on.
CONCLUSIONS:
All the included sources are Muslim sources. A lot of scholars are using this material to come up with Fatwas and also material for their sermons.
If you have read through my brief write-up, you can see that what ISIS is doing today is almost an exact carbon copy of what Muhammad and his warband were doing back then.
Therefore I urge you all to study all the facts about Muhammad and Islam first, before defending the narrative that ISIS is not Islamic.
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2024.05.20 06:38 MomentoIcarus What To Do

This might be a little unrelated to this page, but I just want to vent as a “final attempt” sort of deal. Sorry it’s long.
I am now 25, and have 0 plans or ideas of what to do with my life. I have a wife and Kids, and a mountain of student loan debt. For years I kept saying I should just stop for a while to figure out what I want to do before taking on so much debt, but all I kept hearing was “you’ll figure it out.” I didn’t.
I have taken 100s of not millions of career and personality tests, some free some paid for. I have met with career counsellors, and personal counsellors. I have spent every second since I was 18 with no thought other than what I want to do with my life. That is not an over-exaggeration. I have looked into and studied and pursued more careers and fields than I can genuinely even recount. I had switched my degree 10+ times. I have shadowed multiple professions. I have met with various professors from different fields. I have had interviews with various workers in different fields. I have completely lost my hair line and carry an absurdly high blood pressure at 25 from sheer stress of needing to care for a family but with no idea of what on earth to do. I have even tried all the instagram hacks (which admittedly are just good for you.) I’m talking waking up early, working out, going on runs, eating clean, writing, reading, taking vitamins, going to bed early, you name it. And even stuck to these things for long durations of time (years) and nothing came of it. It consumes my every thought. I wake up thinking on it, and if I ever fall asleep I dream of it.
I just can’t even explain it at this point. This is the part I may receive some judgment for, but I just desperately want to feel passionate about something. Obviously I love my Wife and Children dearly, but I still have a life I need to live, and right now I’m not living, I’m just surviving until I die. I have 1000s of interests, things I enjoy doing, etc. But the second I actually dive into any of them in an attempt to pursue it, I lose all interest in it. It’s as though everything I’m even remotely interested in is only at face level, any deeper and I hate it. Speaking of hate, I have no middle ground for some reason. I LOVE what I love, and HATE what I hate. I was raised very disciplined and still pride myself on it, so I have really tried pushing through things to see if it gets better, and it never does. The only thing I feel passionate about is that life is not something I wish to waste. I’m all for “just picking something” out of duty, and am currently on the path of doing that (Law School) but I know when I’m 70 I’ll hate myself for it. The thought of living and dying and doing nothing but work 80% of my life in between those two events, to make money for some other boss and just be part of the economic cog wheel, makes me infuriated. I desperately just want to be part of something bigger, that makes a change, or helps people, something that I can look back on and say it was worth it, or that I used my once chance at life that I have. Picking a random 9-5 and finding an enjoyable hobby in my off-time does not satisfy that want.
The issue is that I can’t kill that urge. I have tried so many times to just suck it up, choose something, bring home a cheque and be a good father and husband, but I just physically can’t do it. Aside from the family part (obviously,) what a waste. I mean no offense to anyone in that position or who chose to just settle, but I cannot stomach it. Religious or not, I can’t believe that the opportunity I have been afforded by my existence alone should be sullied by choosing to settle and be content for the sake of paying a mortgage. To live and breath only to work more so you can pay more, and then die. I even spent about a year delving into poetry and philosophy looking for something. Ive read all the books, read all the quotes, all the poetry, nothing.
I feel I can do something, and I want to, but have no idea what.
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2024.05.20 06:29 JR-Max Ramona Lore Dump

Whaaaat, nooooo, I haven't been using Ramona all day as a way to procrastinate the research essay I need to be writing, don't be ridiculous! Anyways here's some random Ramona lore in case anyone is curious about her.
Bonus facts: - Her favorite colors are mahogany and royal purple.
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2024.05.20 06:21 jmiddleton6 Punching for breaks

The overnight store director came out to the gas station last night to tell us we need to start punching in and out for our 15 minutes due to “labor laws” and if we don’t it would be considered “a misuse of company time.”
I’ve been here for almost a year and this is my first time hearing about it. Our TL at the gas station hasn’t said anything yet about it. The overnight TL said we’d still get paid for those 15 minutes but honestly I’m afraid we won’t be. Like how are we supposed to trust they’ll fix it? I’m kind of living paycheck to paycheck right now so those hours will add up quick and I need them.
We didn’t have to clock those 15 minute breaks when I worked at Walmart so what’s the issue? Any one else have to deal with this?
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2024.05.20 06:20 Imaginary-Isopod9563 The night I stopped being what she wanted

Donna liked a DJ at this bar in Boston with jellyfishes dancing behind the bar in an aquarium.
So, we went every night he was there, even nights he wasn’t there, to that bar, and then 2-3 other bars because she liked to pop around, looking.
This night though, she finally closed the deal with the DJ she had been hunting for so many weeks. She was finally taking him home. And me, to heour place. cool. I was ready for sleep, but her DJ said he had to stop, to pick to something up.
I assumed cigarettes.
A dude got in the car in the back with me. Someone I’d never met, who proudly told me he had a very big dick before he introduced himself by name.
The “something” her DJ “had” to pick up was a friend that I was apparently supposed to just sleep with.
Was I drunk enough and had I such a reduced self worth at that point that I was just supposed to have sex with some guy her DJ crush just picked up on the way to heour place?
This best friend I trusted so much, with everything; she was sober enough to drive us home, and pick up a friend of the DJ—and I was now supposed to have sex with someone that I didn’t know. She didn’t care about me. She had a goal and it was the conquest of this DJ.
That night out I had a lot to drink, and I didn’t know how to say no in a way that would diffuse the situation—so, after this stranger laid himself in my bed without my permission, and Donna had gone into her room with the DJ, I started smacking the stranger, playfully at first.
I didn’t have the words to convey I wasn’t a willing participant, and that I assumed I was expected to sleep with him, but I didnt want to.
So, my body defended itself.
I smacked him again, in my bed as I straddled this stranger.
Again, and again.
He was ok with it, until I wouldn’t have sex with him.
When it was finally apparent my slaps weren’t going to end in sexy times, and I was just slapping this stranger in my bed around, he’d had enough.
I wasn’t the easy meal he and the DJ had planned on.
The stranger interrupted Donna and her DJ in her room, and demanded to be taken home because I was “crazy.”
Donna’s DJ had to leave with me ruining her night, because I didn’t have the capacity to say “no, I’m not going to sex this rando the DJ picked up like a pack of cigs.”
This was the beginning of the downfall of our friendship.
Before this the micro aggressions she inflicted daily were palatable, but after that night, it was clear I was cramping her style and my days were numbered.
She had tagged me along for law school, but only insofar as I was a benefit, in some way, to her.
That night I ceased to be the go-along friend, and the dude I didn’t have sex with left chastising me. Her disappointment in me for not playing along lasted so much longer than any hang over ever would.
When everything is all about outward appearances, a poor nerd girl that would rather stay at home and play World of Warcraft isn’t the best wing-man.
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2024.05.20 06:13 PublicOk8137 AITAH my husband left me for his sister, I’m broken and now he’s blaming me for the out come.

More of a rant but my ex husband and I shared all our friends, I have no one to talk to.
Hello Reddit, I (40f) never thought I'd be sharing my story here, but I need to let it out. Brace yourselves because this one is a rollercoaster of emotions.
It all started innocently enough, or so I believed. My (44m) husband and I had been married for 20 years, and life seemed perfect. We had our ups and downs like any couple, but we always managed to work through them. Little did I know that a storm was brewing beneath the surface.
One day, I stumbled upon an explicit text message thread on my husband's phone that made my heart drop. It was a conversation with his (38f) step sister, my sister in law, Auntie to my boys filled with affectionate words and plans for secret rendezvous. I couldn't believe my eyes. How could this be happening? My husband, the man I trusted with my whole heart, the father of our children, was cheating on me with his own step sister.
The shock and pain hit me like a ton of bricks. I confronted him with his mother, tears streaming down my face, hoping it was all a terrible mistake. But deep down, I knew the truth. He did not try to deny it at all which was heart breaking, he told me he had always been interested in her and she is finally ready to have him. My world shattered in that moment, and I felt a mix of anger, hurt, and betrayal coursing through my veins.
We had built a life together, shared dreams, and made promises of everlasting love. How could he throw it all away for a forbidden relationship within our own family? The questions swirled in my mind, tormenting me day and night.
I was distraught. Could we rebuild what was broken? But the more I thought about it, the clearer it became. Trust had been shattered, and the foundation of our marriage had crumbled. I deserved better than a relationship tainted by such deceit.
I hate to admit this but I begged him to stay with me, stay for our babies, our family, the life we built. He refused and told me that the kids (our sons 16m,13m,6m) would learn to embrace their future with him and her.
That was 3 months ago, we had a fairly quick and calm divorce.
We agreed to not involve the boys until I was ready but last month my oldest son discovered the truth to our divorce, he was furious that I’d had not told him the truth.
He told my middle son and now the are rebelling against me and their father.
This weekend my oldest told the truth about how he found out, he said his dad had been bringing auntie to their visits and they were all over each other. He said he was disgusted and devastated. He told me he no longer wanted to see them.
My ex husband is now threatening me with court now for none of our boys will see him.
I’ve hurt enough already have I not what do I do now.
Edit : my ex and his sister have been disowned and disinherited by his mother and step father, my sons will get his and his sisters shares.
My sister in law has children from her first marriage but after a DNA test is has been confirmed the oldest (10f) is my ex’s. What do I tell my sons??
My ex and his sister share siblings as well
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2024.05.20 06:08 Virgo936ATL AITA FOR TELLING MY SIL SHE IS ACTING BITTER?

My brother in law and his wife are going through divorce. It’s been 3 years since he left her. We’ll call BIL “bill” and SIL “Mary ”. Bill and Mary have 2 sons, I have 3. They are very close in age to my sons. They act alike and share mannerisms and hobbies, and adore each other! Bill found a new girlfriend and they have a nice condo together.
When the family learned of the divorce, everyone tried to get bill to work through his marital problems. He doubled down he couldn’t take another second with Mary . The family loves Mary and hated to see the split, but we couldn’t convince bill to stay with his wife. We were cursing bill out as Mary had not too long given birth when he decided to call it quits.
I married into the family but Mary and I were close. Mary was venting to me one night about keeping bills kids away from him because she didn’t like his gf and didn’t want the kids to meet her. Understandable because she wanted her marriage to work, BUT they are his children and telling him he could never see his children because of the gf is wild to me. I came into my marriage with one child and as much as do not like his dad, that’s his son.
Mary blocked all of us. We can’t see the kids , my kids can’t play with them, they can’t come to bday parties, vacations, or holidays with us like they used too and I told her it’s not fair to punish us or the kids for what bill did. We need to be grown about the situation. I got a big F U for not being sensitive to her situation because I told her eventually she needs to get over it. The relationship ended 3 years ago.
The court is dragging its feet finalizing the divorce so in her head, she’s the wife and bill chose his mistress over his family. I told her to seek therapy about why she’s so bitter that because he was a bad husband he’s a bad dad. Because he does everything for his children and gives her a lot of money every month but can’t take his kids to Disney world ? She said never to ask for her children again. I love those boys, my kids ask for their cousins all the time . Breaks my heart. AITA?!
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2024.05.20 06:06 No-Pudding7670 Passed the SIE yesterday first attempt, only 1 week of study (do not recommend)

Wanted to share my experience doing crash course studying for 7 days and passing the SIE first attempt! I never post anything on here, but others posts made a big difference for me, so here goes!
TL;DR:
I passed my SIE yesterday after only 7 days of study. Intense! I used Pass Perfect, spent 50 hours studying total. If you only have a week or two before your test, DO NOT take a bunch of notes on everything! Read the content, take the quizzes and test, take notes on those answers and explanations!
VERY IMPORTANT: Use the two free Achievable SIE dump Sheets and watch both the S7 Guru and S7 Whisperer 60 min crash course SIE YouTube videos the day before or day of test! I’ve included links at the bottom of this post. Be sure to memorize the dump sheet tricks and formulas, and decide what’s most important to reference. The test center gives you two laminated sheets and dry erase markers you can use as soon as the test timer starts. Be ready to write down key formulas, acronyms, timeframes, etc. Mine were the Options Matrix, SLoBS & BLiSS, yield teeter totter, Settlement times (T+1 or T+2) and notes on Open vs Closed end market. (All on the achievable formula dump sheets except specific Open/Closed Markets notes I took).
My Story:
In late April I was hired by Vanguard for a position starting May 28. I’d been a contractor doing customer service in an unlicensed VG position for about 10 months (no finance background before that); with the goal of getting hired in a licensed, permanent role within a year. I worked hard and got hired! The position requires SIE, S7 and S63. After my start date they pay me to do nothing but study and take exams for 9 or 13 weeks (depending on whether I’d passed the SIE prior to start date), which is awesome, but there’s a $5000 bonus if the SIE is passed at least a week before start date.
Note: I did have a little familiarity with basic terms and what’s required for account opening, due to my contractor position).
I originally scheduled my exam for May 13. I had about a month from hire date to May 13, and VG paid for the Pass Perfect course. I started some light studying the first week, thinking I had 3 more weeks and was on track. Then I got really sick for 2 weeks! I’m talking bed ridden, definitely no studying. So May 10 I rescheduled my exam to May 18! I had to pay $40 but figured it was well worth it not to fail, lol.
I was finally well enough to start studying on May 11, giving me 7 days. 😅 I had retained very little from my initial studying so I started over. I thought “I can do this!” I figured I’d had to do similar in college while working full time. Boy it was rough!
7 Days to PASS the SIE:
The first 3 days I had all day to study: Sat, Sun and Mon (had the day off for my original test date).
THE PLAN 41+ hours 5 practice tests, scoring at least 75%
Days 1-3 (full days) - 8+ hrs per day - Complete Pass Perfect Course (16 chapters) start to finish (reading and all quizzes, chapter tests)
Days 4-5 (Tues, Wed) - 5 hrs each day (2 before work and 3 after) - Take 1-2 Pass Perfect Final exams (1 hr 45 min each) each day, taking time to focus/take notes on anything I missed - Goal of 4 total tests, with 75% or higher on 3
Day 6 (Friday, day before the test) - 5 hours (2 hrs before work, 3 hours after) - Take 1 FINRA practice SIE exam before work (free on FINRA website) - after work, Review all Difficult Topics - Listen to S7 Guru & S7 whisperer on YouTube. (They each have a 60 minute crash course review, recommended for day before or day of test). - Print out Achievable Dump Sheets - add my own notes to dump sheets
Day 7 (Day of Test) Test scheduled for 2pm (1:30 registration) - 2 hours Notes and Dump Sheets Review in morning - Leave for Test at 11:30, arrive 12:30 (45 min drive) - One last Review of Dump Sheets for 45 min, take a break before registration
Great Plan Right?! Wellll, I didn’t quite stick to it. 🤣
WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENED: 52 Hours Study - Not at the planned pace! 4 Practice Finals (71% average) A lot of tears, anxiety and stress!😫 A rollercoaster of Self-doubt and Self-Confidence
Day 1 (Sat): 7 hrs Completed first 3 chapters, taking tons of notes on a Google doc, color coded and highlighted. I’ll do more tomorrow I thought, my brain is fried
Day 2 (Sun): 10 hours Completed chapters 4 & 5 again taking tons (too many) notes, taking quizzes and Tests multiple times, worried I wasn’t getting the concepts and terms well enough. Didn’t want to move on until I had chapters 1-5 down pat. Getting really worried about my pace now, but “hey I have tomorrow. I’ll crush it and catch up”. Maybe I won’t get to tests until Thurs, but I’ll be okay..
Day 3 (Mon): 7 hrs (I was exhausted and burnt out, still not 100% from being sick) Chapter 6 OPTIONS… the death of me, soooo much to learn. Barely got through chapter 6. Full panic has now set in! I have to work full time the next 4 days! If the rest of the course is this hard, I’m screwed. There goes my bonus, how will I tell my husband? (He would not have been mad but I would feel terrible). “Children and husband, do not bother me! I need to focus!” 😅
Day 4 (Tues): 6 hrs ( 6pm-12am) Intense panic and anxiety, how the hell am I going to finish?! Screw notes, get through the chapters! Completed chapters 7-10. Whew, these chapters weren’t as bad, maybe it’s getting easier. I think I remember a good amount. Better wrap this up tomorrow!
Day 5 (Wed): 5 hrs Very worried, but I’ll finish today and take lots of tests the next 2 days! Completed chapters 11-13 😫 OMG I’m still not done with the course and I have 2 days left! I must sleep.
Day 6 (Thurs): 6 hrs in the evening - Completed remaining chapters 14-16, course done 8pm. Whew, content done. Worried about not taking any tests yet, but at least I feel like I know the content decently! Took my first Pass Perfect Test, score 71% not as bad as I thought but that’s not a lot of margin for error! (Need 70% to Pass actual SIE test). At that point I’m calculating how much each point is worth, looking up suggestions online and praying, lol 🙏
Day 7 (Fri): 7 hrs Took 2 Pass Perfect tests, reviewed missed answers carefully and took notes. Scores: 71% and 73%. Took FINRA SIE test (on their website), 69%. Omg I’m gonna fail tomorrow. 🥺
Friday night I thought “Hmm Maybe I can reschedule for Monday (the deadline to pass for bonus). Two more days and I will be ready!” So I go to the Prometrics website and try to reschedule, seeing one slot for Monday at a site 2 hrs away… awesome.. NOPE, NOT ALLOWED less than 3 days before scheduled exam! (Why did I not think of this Tuesday?) 🙄 So I called customer service, begged and told them I had been sick.. Since they said I could not reschedule the day before the test, I asked if they could cancel it and schedule a new appt for Monday? DENIED. So I took a deep breath, cried a little and came to terms with it. This test is happening, tomorrow. 😫 🤬
Friday night 9pm: As recommended by colleagues and online forums, I listen to S7 whisperer 60 min crash course on YouTube; no notes, listening in bed). Ok, learned some things, great overview/review. Maybe I can pull this off afterall. 🤔 Things are looking up. 😊
Saturday, May 13… Day of Test (2-4pm)
7am woke up, ate a good breakfast, prepared everything I needed to take and do. Now what? Should I take another practice test? Review my notes? Listen to video? I decided no more tests, I’ll listen to the other crash course ( S7 Guru 60 min crash course on YouTube). 🤞
8am—11:30 Crunch time. Im determined to pass this exam!! Spent 3 hours listening to the 60 min S7 Guru video, pausing when needed, replaying as needed. Took 11 pages of color coded notes on the most important points and formulas I needed to remember, mainly on Regulations, Rules & laws (what market does it impact, what type of product, who, timeframes, holding time, etc). I knew this was going to be at least 15% of test (I was right) and these were the main questions I had missed on my Practice Finals.
11:30am Renewed Faith 🙌 DAMN I learned a LOT. I’m gonna pass this thing! I was already getting low 70s on Thursday practice tests and I KNOW I learned enough from the video to pass several more questions. S7 Guru literally saved me, pulling it all together in my mind! 🤯
12pm Went to UPS store, color printed the 2 Achievable dump sheets and my 11 pages of notes from the video! (I think the colors really help my mind retain the info). I scanned over them at every red light on the way. 😂
12:59 arrived at test center. Spent 20 minutes reviewing dump sheets and drilling in my mind what to put on the 2 pages they would give me for notes (see TL;DR for what I used on the test sheets, links to dump sheets at end)
1:20 walk in, first one there.. registration complete at 1:35. To my surprise, they seat me and I can start test immediately!
As soon as the timer started my hands were flying on the 2 laminated sheets they gave me. I spent the first 15 min vigorously writing out things I wanted to reference. 90 minutes left for 85 questions. Watched the timer closely to stay on pace. Used the notepad on the test platform for each question to write out calculations, or break down what each part of the question meant, used critical thinking for answer, marking questions for review when I was stuck between 2 answers. Most importantly, I followed my gut. I knew this stuff! Used calculator for EVERY calculation, even easy ones. Finished all questions with 5 minutes remaining. Reviewed marked questions but changed only 3, if I was SURE my original answer was wrong. Almost all advice I was given in the week before said DO NOT change your answers. Your gut is usually right, unless a later question clarifies something.
I hit submit and held my breath. 🫢 OMG, does that say PASS?!!! Yes, I actually Passed! 😳 I cried out of happiness and relief, was on cloud 9. Swore I would never cram like this again! S7 and S63 will be better, lol.
SO here’s how you can have a better experience than me if you’re a week or two away and wondering how you can possibly pull this off. YOU CAN DO IT! 💪
TIPS FOR CRASH SIE STUDYING (learn from my mistakes)
1 NOTE TAKING: I’ve always learned best by taking a ton of notes, color coded on a google doc. Taking notes reinforces it in my brain and helps me find ways to remember it for myself. However, if you are crash course Studying for the SIE, you do NOT have time to do this, lol. Honestly I barely looked at those notes in the end.
TIP: Read through the content quickly and only take notes when it tells you it’s likely a testable question! Take all quizzes and tests, REVIEW the quiz/test answers (in PP the answers also give you a brief explanation of the concept) and take light notes on that! Do NOT replace reading with the videos! The first 4 chapters I tried to save time doing this and wondered why I was failing the chapter tests. The reading content had way more info than the video! Don’t shoot yourself in the foot and spend even more time you don’t have!
2 DON’T SPEND TOO MUCH TIME on EARLY CONCEPTS! The earlier (and for the most part, less valuable - less test questions) content (at least in the Pass Perfect course) will be reinforced throughout the following chapters in the course. Many of the of the concepts in the first few chapters build over the course, so the basics are reinforced later anyway. I wasted several hours!
3 EXPECT 20-25 hours are needed to complete the course/learn the concepts! You need to understand them, not just memorize them. Give yourself a day on REGULATIONS and 5 hours on OPTIONS, a few hours on BOND YIELDS, these comprised a LOT of questions on the test, could make or break you!
4 TAKE at least 4 PRACTICE FINALS with a goal of 75%, but if you’re not improving, use the crash course Videos, learn the content. (Don’t use those crash course videos until you have completed the course/content for all material. It will be confusing otherwise and feel overwhelming). Don’t just keep taking more tests in lieu of learning!
5 SPEND A FEW HOURS on (free) ACHIEVABLE DUMP SHEETS along with S7 Guru & S7 Whisperer crash course review videos on YouTube! I doubt I would have passed without these! Reviewing them for 4 hours and using them for key points on my tests sheets saved my ass!
I’ve included links below for the FREE Achievable Dump Sheets and the 60 minute crash course videos. Feel free to message me for more help!
GOOD LUCK! It IS Possible to pass in a week! 🍀
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2024.05.20 06:04 KomturAdrian A family member said I was lazy

I already know my brother-in-law doesn’t like me that much. I don’t really care for him either, but that’s for another rant. Anyway, I heard that he was talking behind my back and calling me lazy.
I have the standard 40 hour work week like everyone else. Except sometimes I go in at 4am, sometimes 9am, maybe even 2pm - it’s different everyday; no such thing as a sleep schedule. And I don’t get two days off in a row. You simply have two random days off during the week. Maybe a Monday, maybe a Thursday. Next week it’ll be two different days. Never two in a row.
But normally? I’ll stay for 10 hours. I’ll even stay for 12, 14, or even 16 hours a day. During the holidays? I stay all day if they let me, and I always work 7 days a week around that time.
On the two days that I AM off I get up every morning and drive nearly an hour to college, where I take a 3 hour lab. After that there’s no free time. I have three other classes online. There’s a lot of reading material for all three. And I’m the nerd who actually does read the content. And them I have to take the quizzes, do the homework, do the tests, the papers, the research, the finals, the projects, all of that. And on Thursdays from 6pm-8:30ish I help provide support for current and recovering alcoholics and drug addicts.
There’s never a day when I DON’T leave the house. I can’t remember the last time I went a full 24 hours where I was in my house or yard the whole time. Every day is a drive.
I do my own car maintenance, I haul my own garbage and recycling to the recycling center (which is also a dump), I weedeat my dad’s yard, and I help HIM with his car maintenance.And any laborious job my parents have - I’m the one that does it. Not my brother or sister, ME.
He probably attributes it to me being in my room all day, or ‘sleeping’ all day. Yeah, I take a one hour nap every day after work. But you’ll tend to do that after getting a max of 6 hours of sleep a day. That’s a MAX, because some days I only get 4 or 5. I’ve been up for nearly three days once. If my medication didn’t make me drowsy I would be getting even LESS sleep.
When I’m in my room I’m doing my schoolwork, or MAYBE putting in an hour of ‘me time’ with a game.
And I bust my ass at work. I walk several miles a day in there, up to 12 miles a day sometimes. It’s not like I’m sitting around in comfortable a/c. I’m speed walking around a hot ass store, one 30min break that I DON’T get paid for. MAYBE a 15min break, sometimes. And this is 8+ hours.
Don’t get me wrong, this guy has a tough job too - outside and hot ass weather, maybe 10 hours a day. And he has three kids. I respect that. But when he gets off he gets high and drunk until he passes out. And enjoys his two or three day weekend and all the recreational stuff him and my sister get up to.
Fuck you man. I have a lot going on; non-existent sleep schedule, no time for anything except work and school, no rest, no breaks. And I’m not bitching about my life - I enjoy this chaotic lifestyle.
Guy would be absolutely flabbergasted at my friend. Two master’s degrees, seven day work weeks, single mom of two kids (which she had while getting the masters’), and STILL outperforms everyone at work, with one of the scariest medical conditions out there. Literally the strongest, greatest woman I have ever met in my life.
Go roll your joint and fall asleep on the couch while my niece begs for your attention.
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