I(28m) had a thing going on with this girl(26f) about 3 years ago.
I lost this girl because I'm such a pussy and can't explain myself or explain how I feel. I feel like I'm belittling myself if I do. And I'm older now (28m) and I realize I have too.
I don't sleep around anymore. I don't go on meaningless dates. I don't have meaningless sex. I want something real.
I ran into an old fling from years ago(lasted about 6-7months before she cut me off) . I absolutely loved this girl and I let her go. She made it clear she wanted something real and I couldn't explain myself. I couldn't tell her I loved her and wanted it as well. I couldn't tell her how I felt. I couldn't tell her she was the dopest girl I've ever met and I'd love to be with her. I know at the time her heart would've melted if I told her yet I caused her so much pain.
I absolutely just let it go to shit. She cut me off because I wasn't taking her serious and I didn't know how to respond other then I understand and I'm sorry for hurting you. Even though I had this girl, I could've had her. I don't have her anymore...
I've always done well sleeping around but it's not what I want (I haven't slept around in almost a year)
She's given me another chance and I've sort of opened up on text telling her I have the biggest crush on her and seeing her and taking her out brought all the feelings I had back for her. I told her I'd take her out for as long as I have to without trying to sleep with her to prove myself and my intentions. But I haven't told her anything In person other than having a long talk of how much I regret what i did and I really did like her (never told her I really loved her) even though multiple mutual friends have told me she was head over heels for me.
I want to hold her and ask her how to get her back. I want to hold her and tell her she's the most beautiful, most amazing girl I've ever met.
Do I just hold her on our next date and tell her all this? I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. She told a good female friend of mine I'm just really good at playing games and have multiple women (I really don't but I set a bad example of myself when I was younger)
She's slept over a couple times(hesitantly but I made it clear I won't try to do anything and I'd respect her,I just want to cuddle all night) I don't know how to open up. I'm so scared of real rejection I guess. On the outside I look like I'm confident. But at the same time I feel as if I'm walking on eggshells and the second I take a girl serious I'd get done dirty.
My whole life everyones seen me as someone confident and can get any woman. Yet I feel like I can't get anyone past the surface.
I'd make this girl my girl (I've been in relationships before I'm not a cheater, that's one thing my dad taught me, is have morals) in a heartbeat. Yet I don't even know how to open up to her. I want to tell her I got her and id help her achieve anything. I want to tell her id help her with anything that she needs.n
My friends have been giving me a lot of advice. I just feel like it's never the right time. I told her I liked her alot and I was such a idiot for letting her go. But past that what do I do? I feel like I'm walking on eggshells one bad move and I'm cut off again because of our past. I know I have to prove myself. I know I have to do more than a random dude who never let her go. Yet I feel like if I do I'd scare her away?
Do I just do it and risk scaring her away?? Do I just play it safe and risk loosing her because she thinks I'm the same Old POS? Do I give up and move on and do the right thing from the start?

Just recently found out my ex was seeing someone. No biggie, we haven’t been together in about three weeks.
But me being nosey, I had to check her Instagram out. And she adds everything to her highlights.
Love that for me, because I matched up some dates, and she was clearly with him in pictures (albeit his arm or his leg was in the picture, but I know that mans tattoos like the back of my hand). Not only was she with him, but he was texting me the entire time. He played both of us.
Question is—she seems genuinely so sweet, and I want to know if it is my place to reach out and let her know?
I personally would want to know. This man was laying next to her, while sending me (his girlfriend at the time) “I miss you” texts, and dirty pictures.
I honestly couldn’t give a single fuck about him at this point.. but I feel like she should know. Advice?

My wife(37F) and I(39M) built a new home and moved into a really nice neighborhood about 7 months ago. She’s a stay at home mom, we have three kids, she’s white and I’m Mexican, both were born in Dallas Tx. We both are from the same suburb and we met after high school. She loved my family and my family loved her. When we first got together she was 17 and I was 19 Her mom and dad kicked her out because they didn’t want her to date another person of a different race. (It’s all good now, her parents admited they were wrong and I love her parents and they love me and our children.)At that time I was living at my parents still, had my own job, car, and paid rent. My parents heard of her getting kicked out and they offered for her to move in with us rent free. My mother and father loved her and took her in as one of their own. I have 3 sisters who were all married at the time and we were always hanging out with my family at one of my sisters houses or my parents house, we were always together and everyone got along. As time went by, I started to make more money and we were able to buy our first house together and finally moved out after living with my parents for almost 4 years. We had our first child, a son, a year later(which is when her parents finally accepted me) and then our twin daughters 5 years after that. Right before our twins were born I landed a great job, made much more money than we had been making and I was able to buy a nice house in a country club where we lived for another 5 years. After those 5 years I landed another job in the same industry but had a much higher salary. That job allowed us to build a brand new home and move to a very nice community with better schools which we’ve just moved into about 7 months ago. This is a pretty wealthy community, homes here are valued at a million plus. The reason I even bring all of that up is because I started to notice my wife started to change towards my family when I started to make more money. I should make it known also that the town we lived in where we met, was a pretty small town with low to middle income families. Her family was better off than mine was though, and although they weren’t wealthy, they were a hell of a lot better off than my family was. My parents house was very small and modest. I didn’t grow up with much and we were relatively poor as a kid growing up. For the past 2 years she completely changed! She acts like she doesn’t want our children to hang out with their cousins,( my sisters’ kids) she absolutely hates when they come over. As a result, I can’t invite my family over anymore without her turning her nose up at it. She gets very upset when I tell her I want them to come over on the weekends to hang out like we used to. She barely wants my parents to come over and when they would come over, she was very standoffish and rude, it was very embarrassing. She would tell me that she just wears her heart on her sleeve and that’s why she acts the way she acts. My parents and my sisters still live in that same little town where my wife and I met, and they still live in their small modest homes. They don’t have high paying jobs. I’ve been very blessed with my jobs and I’m able to provide my wife and kids with more than anyone thought I could, even myself. I’m pretty sure I make more than her parents and all of her siblings as well. The only reason I bring that up, is because she feels like we can only hang out with her family. She acts like her family is better than mine. Shes ok with them coming over as much as they want and our kids can hang out with her sisters’ kids. It’s like she thinks her family is a just better.
I still consider myself the same person that I was back then, and I was taught to treat people with respect always, no matter who they are. But my wife acts like she’s better than everyone now. Like she’s better than my family, and she acts like our kids can’t hang out with my sister kids because they might be bad influences. (My sisters’ kids are all good kids by the way). She’s even stopped talking to her childhood best friend from the same town where we are both from! My mom passed away suddenly last month and I was devastated. She was very supportive and loving to my family for about a week after her death and then she went right back to her normal rude self. My mom was creamated so we had her celebration of life just this past Friday. I wanted all of my family to come to our house after my mothers service since I have the bigger house out of all of my siblings and I knew I could host that many people since there were relatives coming in from out of town. I was already nervous about what she was going to say when I told her my plans and as soon as I did she blew a gasket! She said absolutely not, and that we should do whatever we’re doing at one of my other sisters’ house. I was on a business trip when I told her about me wanting my family to come over so we were primarily arguing over the phone and via text. I finally told her that I thought she was being so heartless and insensitive about the whole situation. After her insisting several times that my family was not coming over, I finally put my foot down and told her I wasn’t asking her, but that I was telling her we were going to do it at my house. She was furious! Fast forward to the day of the service, and she wouldn’t talk to me all day, I spent most of the day preparing and cleaning our home to get it ready for our guests and she hardly helped me do anything. She hugged me at the end of the service that evening, but I think it was simply for show because she knew other people were looking. After the service, everyone came to our home, I was walking around the whole time attending people and making sure everyone had what they needed. Everytime I walked by my wife she gave me a dirty look, and it was embarrassing because I didn’t want anyone to notice her giving me those looks. I was afraid it would make people feel awkward and want to leave. I ignored her and didn’t make eye contact for the rest of the night. As it got later most people started leaving but a few of my close cousins and my sisters stayed and we were all hanging outside in my back patio having drinks and enjoying being with each other. She of course made it known she was going to bed and she kept texting me and telling me to be quiet and that no one was to stay the night. I will admit, we stayed up late, it was about 3am my children had went to bed upstairs at like 11 as well as her. But we were outside, my kids were not being bothered, she was not being bothered. No one was being very loud, and as I said, it was just family. And it was a Friday night. She doesn’t work and my kids had no school the next day. All of a sudden, She comes out of our bedroom and just awkwardly stares at everyone from the doorway. It made everyone feel uncomfortable and so everyone got the hint and left. The whole time she just stood there with her arms crossed just tapping her foot! It was so awkward and embarrassing. The next morning I told her she was a childish horrible person I still haven’t spoken to her. And it’s now Sunday. AITAH?

Oh, oh, oh Oh, oh, oh, oh Hold on to each other Hold on to each other This is what the world sounds like Nah, fuck you, nigga (fuck you, bitch) (Oh my God, okay) You got me fucked up Fuck you, fuck you
I swear I'm tired of these emotional-ass Ungrateful-ass bitches (shut the fuck up) Unstable-ass, confrontational-ass, dumb bitches You wanna bring a nigga down, even when I'm tryna do right We could go our separate ways right now You could move on with your life (I swear to God)
Fuck you nigga, you love a pity party, I won't show up Always act like your shit don't stink, motherfucker, grow up (man, fuck you) Forever late for shit, won't buy shit, sit around and deny shit (man) Fuck around on a side bitch, then come fuckin' up my shit
What? Fuckin' up yo' shit? You must be bleedin' and some more shit Bitch, I don't know shit, fuck yo' feelings
You on some ho shit See, I don't know why You like playin' mind games with me (mind games? what? oh, Lord) Bitch, I ain't slow nor ditsy, I know when you bein' distant I know when you fake busy (c'mon, dawg) Get out yo' feelings and miss me with that reverse psychology
Man, bitch, you trippin', who got you that Rollie chain? And who put that car in my name? What, you think I'ma kiss yo' ass? Nah, nigga, you fuckin' lame
You know what? Fuck you, bitch (fuck you, nigga) Nah, fuck you, bitch (nah, fuck you, nigga) Fuck you, bitch (nah, fuck you, nigga) Nah, fuck you, bitch (fuck you, nigga) Fuck you, bitch (fuck you, nigga) Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you (fuck you, fuck you) Fuck you, bitch (fuck you, nigga) Fuck you, bitch (nah, fuck you)
Wastin' my time and energy tryna be good to you Lost friends, family, gained more enemies 'cause of you Bitches starin' at me in Zara, hoes scratchin' my cars up Shoulda followed my mind in '09 and just moved to Georgia
Oh, what, that's my fault now? Bitch, you power trippin', or guilt trippin'? (okay) I held yo' ass down
You just kept me down, that's a big difference (man) Stressin' myself tryna figure why I'm not good enough Goin' to church, prayin' for you, searchin' for good in us Lil' dick-ass nigga that's tryna go big But you was suckin' this dick though Well, shit, I shoulda sucked his What you say? I shoulda found a bigger dick Bitch, get the fuck out my face Oh, what, you mad? Shut up, bitch, you got me fucked up today, on God Ah-ha, you mad, lil' feelings is shot Go text that raggedy bitch and tell her you all that she got (man, what bitch?) Let her know you packin' yo' shit and gotta move by the first Man, give me these fuckin' keys, dawg Give me my keys, I'ma be late for work Fuck yo' job, today gon' be the day you walk to that bitch Give me my fuckin' keys Nah, I liked you parked in that bitch Give me my keys, bro On God, you ain't gettin' these keys Give me my fucking keys Ah, now you mad at me, I got you hollerin' for nothin' I do the same when we fuckin' Act like that pussy ain't loose I'd rather act like I'm cummin' I'd rather fuck off the juice I'd rather fuck on your cousin Bitch, you said you gon' fuck who? You heard me, nigga, it's nothing (alright)
You know what? Fuck you, bitch (Fuck you, nigga) Fuck you, bitch (nah, fuck you, nigga) No, fuck you, bitch (nah, fuck you, nigga) Fuck you, bitch (fuck you), fuck you, bitch (sick of this nigga, fuck you) Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, fuck you bi- (fuck you, fuck you) Fuck you bitch, stupid-ass bitch
I don't even know why I fuck with you I'll be damned if I stuck with you Changed my number, I'm duckin' you, bitch Bitch, whatever is comfortable (shit) This the type of shit couples do? Shoulda thought about cuffin' you, bitch Nigga, you dirty and you broke Ho, you goofy and gullible, fuck you talkin' 'bout? (mh-mh) The insecurities you got, won't mind fuck me Womanizer, got no affection from yo' mama, I see Don't speak on my mama, the fuck is yo' problem? That bitch don't like me anyways Bitch, she gave you the Honda And used that shit to throw it in my face (man, hol' on, bro) Find it funny you just can't apologize (this bitch, dawg) Egotistic, narcissistic, love your own lies (bro) See, you the reason why strong women fucked up Why they say it's a man's world See, you the reason for Trump (you cryin', yo?) You the reason, we overlooked, underpaid, under-booked, under shame If you look, I don't speak (ah), then I'm called out my name I am flawed, I am pained, never yours, I remained (come on, dawg) You the reason bitches start fuckin' with bitches when they change You the reason bitches start callin' y'all bitches 'cause y'all useless You the reason Harvey Weinstein had to see his conclusion You the reason R. Kelly can't recognize that he's abusive
Man, shut the fuck up, we all know you still playin' his music Said I'm tired of these emotional-ass, ungrateful-ass bitches Fake innocent, fake feminist, stop pretendin' Y'all sentiments ain't realer than what you defendin' (here he go, shut the fuck up) It's a split decision, broads like you and real victims (look at you, look at you) Let's talk the truth (okay), women in general just can't get along (explain, nigga) Hmm, when Tash got a man, you didn't pick up the phone (explain, nigga) Uh, uh, when Nate got a job, you said you stayin' home (explain) Why R&B bitches don't feature on each other songs then? What the fuck is you talkin' 'bout? Never mind bitch, I'm walkin' out Whatever, nigga, I'm off you now Yo' evil ass kept me well in doubt Pussy nigga, best watch your mouth Pussy and mouth is all you got Lay this pussy back on the couch Doggie style, then you get on top
Fuck me, nigga (I'ma fuck you, bitch) Nah, fuck me, nigga fuck me (I'ma fuck you, bitch) Nah, fuck you, fuck me (you playin', man) Fuck me Nah, you playin'
Stop tap-dancing around the conversation

My ex (F21) and i (M23) broke up awhile ago but are still friends. we’ll call my ex Rachel and her friend we’ll call Emma.
i kind still hang out with Rachel but it’s very rare that i do, we both set this boundary because we are exes and don’t want to be those people that are on and off again.
during our relationship i would add her friends on snapchat and she would do the same for my friends, which wasn’t an issue at all. after we broke up (it was mutual and obviously ended amicably) i still manage to have most of her friends on snapchat but never actually talked to any of them throughout our relationship other than them asking where Rachel was.
i will admit, Emma is very attractive and i often avoided her because of it. about a couple weeks ago i was out hanging out with my friends and i saw on snapchat that Emma posted a picture with Rachel at a local bar (funniest part is that we were actually on our way there to begin with so it kinda worked out).
i grew some balls, i swiped up and asked if we could hang out for a bit, nothing too formal but just to simply say hello and maybe catch up. she said sure and sent a picture of where they were. when we got there Emma was sitting alone, i thought Rachel left or something (i didn’t really care to be honest with you). i asked my friends if they could get me a drink, mainly cause i wanted to talk to Emma alone.
when i sat down and started talking to Emma, Rachel came back and when she saw us together she gave us a dirty look. she grabbed her drink from where i was sitting and asked if we were a thing. we both said no and it got really awkward afterwards. after a bit of awkwardness and before i went on about my night, i told Emma i would text her later and walked away without acknowledging Rachel.
i know, i should’ve acknowledged or said something to Rachel but the look she gave us was rather dirty and it pissed me off. I would like to add to the fact that she managed to “talk” to a lot of guys and got into a relationship a year after we broke up. me on the other hand, have not “talked” to anyone nor have i been in a relationship after i broke up with her.
when i got home from the bar i texted Emma and asked if things between her and Rachel were okay. Emma said yes and said that Rachel was annoyed because she wanted to only hang out with Emma (Rachel didn’t want to hang out with a big group). i told Emma if Rachel wasn’t there i would’ve talked to her longer, Emma said she would’ve too as she was having a good time.
after a couple of days of casual and funny conversations with Emma, i asked if she would like to go out for a cup of coffee or get a bite sometime and for some butt fuck reason she actually said yes. I would’ve never thought in 1 million years she would say yes to me but she did.
we didn’t plan anything out just yet but my gut is telling me that Rachel will somehow interfere considering she gave us a dirty look by us just having a simple conversation and that we mostly have the same friends. i wouldn’t necessarily say that both Rachel and Emma are best friends but are good friends. i honestly don’t want Rachel to say or do anything that will ruin my chances with Emma.
what should i do? am i in the wrong? should i move on even though i developed feelings for Emma?

Context, we started dating at 12 and ended at 18. We met in school and we were "happy" together and seen as the perfect couple by friends and everyone around us. Me and him have some stuff in common which was poverty, depression, having to parent our younger siblings, and needing someone to lean on to help us get through it all. He is a huge sweetheart, and has always supported me. And even after I left him almost a year ago he still sends me constant texts throughout the day even though I rarely respond. He wants everyday for us to get back together and will not consider being with anyone else, nor even attempting to get friends.
I feel guilty about leaving him, I really feel like he needs me. He was struggling slightly in social circles before meeting me and after we really got serious in our relationship he kinda stopped making friends all together. His home life is awful and his family, despite all he does for them, don't have a ounce of respect for him. They bully and yell and him constantly. Without any exaggeration he is in an extremely abusive home and I want nothing but to get him out of there. But he can't live with me.
I have always had to take care of everyone else, always. Not just my siblings, not just my parents, but my friends too. Every relationship I've ever been in, despite needing someone who is mature and can take care of me at all I've never had it. People will act mature and responsible and dominant when I meet them but somehow the second I get close suddenly "theyve never felt like this before" and "don't know why they suddenly want to act submissive with me". Its infuriating to just need one person who can do what I keep being forced to do with everyone else. I had severely struggled with suicidal tendencies and depression especially recently. I've been doing quite literally anything that will distract me enough to keep me here. And I just want one person who can handle me but Im afraid Ill never get it.
I talked to him a few times before we ended it. On how I need someone I can have an adult conversation with, someone who can be the adult and let me be the immature one. And he'll always agree and tell me he knows how to change or what to do. But then when the time comes the conversations will go like
"I'm sorry I've been feeling so fucking depressed today, something messed me up in the head"
"Aw :( nooooo. My baby 🥺. Now Im sad." Literal tears
"I'll be alright honey dont be."
Then I just pretty much have to comfort him and convince him I'm alright.
Recently he visited my work (fast food) trying to take initiative and show me he's matured. I'm an artist and a year ago I left a empty sketchbook at his house and he decided he'd surprise me at work and return it. He showed up and I was happy to see him, but then he informed me that his parents dropped him off and he'd need a ride home before 4pm... I get off work at 4:30pm, I do not have a car, and my mom is out of town. As well as that he has no money and nothing to do while he is there (but he's content with doing nothing but sitting at a table and watching me work which my managers probably won't not like). So I made him a free meal (using my employee meal) so he could eat something that day and I told him I'd figure something out. After he was done eating he again sat as close as possible to me and just stared. So I told him he could color something in my sketchbook while I wait for my break. Once my break finally came I walked him to my apartment and told him he could watch a show and eat while he was there but he said he'd just come back to my work when I did. I told him no so then he started cleaning my apartment for me ? Which is sweet but he did it very wrong. Like I had to rewash the dishes and he folded dirty clothes on my bed.
I got off work early and he said he could wait to go home til he could get a ride from me somehow. And I didnt mention this before but his hair was so overgrown, and he was unhappy because his parents won't take him to a barber shop, they just shave him bald. So I took and paid for him to get a hair cut before going home. Then had to pay for an Uber to get him home.
So basically to show me how much he's matured he's shown up at my job surprisingly to give me back something I don't need. Had me get him food, entertainment, a haircut and a ride home. I feel like a mom.
Everyday he tells me how much he needs me and my guilt is growing so much. I just want to be taken care of for once but everyone in my life needs me. He really is a good guy he's just clueless, and he hates himself knowing he's messed up in some way. I've told him before how I need him to change for this to work but I think he just fundamentally can't. In almost every aspect I feel like I can never rely on him to be an adult for me. I have so much more I could say or so many more examples on how he's just native or immature or sometimes just ignorant. But he needs me and he needs to get out of his home. Ive tried hard to encourage him to find more friends or be with someone else but he won't budge.
To make what me and him have work Id literally have to step by step show him how to be an adult. Id have to show him how to wash dishes, Id have to show him how to cook anything, Id have to teach him how to problem solve, how to have self preservation skills and not hurt yourself all the time, how to not spend all your money, talk about depression, not to use a baby voice during serious conversations (he literally can't help it I guess ?), dress, shower, get a haircut, cut his nails, keep clean from lice/bedbugs/roaches, have self confidence, how to act in public places. Its just so much and Im dealing with my own issues that make me question if I want to live anymore, let alone take care of him.
I've been talking to a new guy and let him know what happened with my ex visiting my work and he got very upset with me taking care of him, and not just ignoring him or getting him kicked out. My ex would be heartbroken knowing I was talking to a new guy and I sincerely don't know what to do anymore.
AITAH ?

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Hi,
My ex who I work with in the US but don't need to see IRL who I had not spoken to in nearly 6 months messaged out the blue.
As a TLDR backstory - we dated, she dumped me, she started dating someone else and had a nervous breakdown from drugs and alcohol abuse. She dumped him. We did end on very good terms and I have nothing but respect for her.
Fast forward until last month, I got a "Hi, how is things?" at half past 10 at night, I responded the next day and we spoke for a few weeks - general talking, flirting, dirty talk sprinkled in. She told me she had been clean from alcohol and drugs (Cocaine, Ecstasy, Ketamine, Magic Mushrooms) for a long period of time.
On the last week, messages became less and shorter, no kisses, very distant. Disappears.
Yesterday, my best friend who she knows is my best friend (she didn't know this last month until I told her) told me that she was telling him that she has been taking drugs to get through her working days. I haven't spoken to her in three weeks but she has been speaking to my friend occasionally at work since she found out that we are friends I believe she's using him to trauma dump her life on him as he's now a safe zone for her in work.
Why is this post tagged encouragement? In the past I would have hated myself for not instigating things with her or re-read all my messages or double texted etc..this time, nothing! I feel fine. I look at her life position and realise how better off I am without her, although I still like her, my life quality is so good that I dodged a bullet. I finally feel "over" her.

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Melissa also bullied Mackenzie Morales. Jo Morales (Mackenzies mom) called out Melissa, Abby and Bridget (CADC mom) for bullying and an incident where they all worked to publicly humiliate Mackenzie.
This is the post from Jo's tumblr

Since the episode where Brigette, Melissa and Abby bullied McKenzie has aired, I can reveal what happened. We were asked to go to the open call audition for several reasons that have not been revealed on the show yet, so I can't say. Once we were there and Brigette found out we were there, she sent a video she took of McKenzie to Melissa who then gave it to Abby. Abby played the video in front of about 50 people with the sole intention of embarrassing my 11 year old and me. The video was recorded by Brigette last JUNE! SHE HAS KEPT IT ON HER PHONE FOR THAT LONG!! the video was taken during a travel day. This was the episode where Gino was back on CADC. We took two vans to New Jersey. Gavin went with me and Evan, Gino, his dad and Evan's mom. McKenzie rode with Brigette, her son, Alyssa and her mom. During the trip Brigette was talking in a vulgar manner about Gino's mother. She kept repeatedly calling her an offensive term using vulgarities. She kept telling McKenzie to repeat the phrase. McKenzie said no several times. THis has been verified by the other occupants in the van. Brigette wouldn't leave McKenzie alone. She kept saying, repeat it so I can record it. mcKenzie said she felt afraid because the way Brigette was demanding she say the phrase. Brigette recorded herself saying the phrase and telling McKenzie to say it, McKenzie finally did. No one else recorded it. I was not there to protect my baby!! Alyssa's mom told McKenzie to not repeat it, but McKenzie said she was afraid of Brigette. She held on to this tape for months! She texted the recording to Melissa at the audition when she found out we were there. Melissa then gave her phone to Abby so she could play it for everybody. I walked out bawling! Abby kept saying this is disgusting, no child with a mouth like this will be on my team. I tried to explain how it happened and she refused to allow me to. The producers came up to me after and said they were disgusted and appalled that Brigette and melissa would conspire together to do this to McKenzie.I was also told by another well known dancer's mom at NUVO in Long Beach that Brigette has shown her the video as well. Now ask yourself, what is their motivation for doing this? Dirty, dirty, dirty.

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I left my job in January this year. I’ve been working with my husband in a restaurant for the last 4 years. I started when I was fired at my previous job. (Absences and attendance issues. I was a good worker when I was there.)
Essentially the owners of the restaurant are liars and do all the shady practices that small business owners can “get away with”. This was something both owners would openly discuss. They would void cash sales regularly or even just invoice and never capture those sales on the POS. They charged customers taxes on cash orders, yet they didn’t pay those taxes. The pocketed it all.
Two years ago, I may have came across information (they were selling the lease on their restaurant) on a common-use desktop at the restaurant when I was cleaning. Disturbed and annoyed, I printed the receipts of wrong doing and brought it to my husband and another employee who had worked for them for almost 15 years. Months went by after our discovery and customers started to get wind from the buyer. Patrons would constantly be asking staff about it the owners denied it until the time of the sale dates.
They eventually took my husband and I aside (we were in management roles) and asked us to help them for their next venture. To-go and takeout plus catering. I was to set up the POS/menu/front of house. I spent months and the majority of a year doing hard work to polish and shine up the new restaurant. I did hours of marketing off the clock, I was obsessed with doing the best job I could for them.
Unfortunately, they did us dirty when my husbands grandfather died and it caused me to almost quit before I actually did. From then on, they continued to vacation when they wanted, enjoyed their NFL season pass tickets, and micromanaged us from afar with texts and phone calls. I got fed up from the beginning. I begged my husband not to do this, but he wanted to see first hand opening a new business. He is still employed there, but I finally got the courage to report their bad business practices.
They had took out PPP loans during COVID but had everyone collecting unemployment. Not sure how that was legal, but they also ended up with a brand new SUV. 🤔
Has anyone else had to quit because of unfair work practices? Especially after breaking your mind to do it!!!!

I met a therapist online. not my therapist, just her profession. we video called evernight for 2-4 hours over 6 weeks (we live in close but different cities). She had been in a relationship 18 months ago with a doctor which lasted 5 years but she said they had grown apart because he had cheated once - and wanted her to be a houswife and they didnt connect on an intellectual level - something we did. we had been on two dates so far - all amazing. over the 6 weeks, she gave me reassurance that i was her priority, about sharing our future together, how she wished i was there - so so much reassurance. on the third date, we had an amazing dinner, had two drinks each at this fun bar, went to the park, i kissed her and she kissed me back and got really into it. held hands back to the MRT, she kissed me again - and i went home. she had said she had usually only kissed men after they had became her boyfriends, so i was sure we were going to work out - but sex was definitely something that was going to only happen after a relationship for her. This was on sunday,
On monday on our video call, she was crying. i didnt understand why, she just said we could go to bed early. she reassured me i was her priority and i could trust her. i thought maybe she had felt dirty because we did those things without being a couple first so i asked her to be my gf. (she is from an asian family, i am 31 and she is 33). she said she will think about it. (uh oh). 2 days later sent me a text saying - "after we kissed she realised she didnt like me as much as she thought she did - and only because i reminded her of her ex. and if we were together i would always be in his shadow, and it would not be fair to us. "she mentioned she had an attachment avoidant style - but this completely blew me away. 80 hours of video calls, great intimacy (she told me i turned her on so much) and it all ended in the most emotionally pathetic, ridiculous way possible. and this is all from a therapist. i said we can try work through this and she cut the conversation. said we should call to talk about this - no luck.
TLDR: 80 hours of video calls, 3 amazing dates and the therapist ended it because i 'remind her of her ex."

Here is the recap of the 14 monetized posts from Kylea G Weight loss Journey on 05/06/24.
Disclaimer: I am not a physician, influencer, or paid content creator. I am not affiliated with WW. These opinions are my own based on social media content. I wish no harm to Kylea or Joseph "Joe" Gomez.
The tagline of Kylea G Weight loss Journey is, "I changed my life with prayer and a playlist of songs. No surgery, no meds. Just Jesus."
DAILY STATS for 05/06/24:
0/14 posts discussed prayer
0/14 posts discussed music
0/14 posts discussed exercise
4/14 posts shared recipes
1/14 posts were about coffee
9/14 posts were about past, current, or future pets
📢 For our friends at Meta, that means 64% of her monetized posts had nothing to do with weight loss, which is the tagline and purpose of her page.
⚠️ Disordered Eating: Daily Food Consumption (Data compiled from monetized content)
5 WW Points: Protein Pancake Mix Waffle Breakfast Sandwich with Canadian Bacon and Egg + sliced apple and PB fit fruit dip
2 WW Points: Takeout coffee with Premier Protein, almond milk, SF vanilla, and SF white chocolate
2 WW Points: Snapple Zero Sugar Peach Tea + Splenda Brown Sugar marinated crockpot chicken and carrots with canned corn and 2 slices of Sara Lee 45 cal toast + spray vegetable oil
2 WW Points: Dirty Dr. Pepper Protein Ice Cream
📢 For our friends at Meta, this means Kylea consumed 11 out of (up to) 30 WW points in maintenance mode = Disordered eating. This is dangerous messaging to those on a weight loss journey. You have specific policies about eating disorders I am kindly asking you to follow.
Recipes Shared: 1. Trader Joe's Protein Pancake Mix 🚨 She said to use 1/3 of the mix to make 2 waffles. This is the wrong information per their website. 2. Snapple Zero Sugar Peach Tea & Splenda Brown Sugar Marinated Chicken ⚠️ Gaslighting: "I'm always up for trying new things." She argues with followers that make recipe suggestions and just posted about her lifelong food aversions. 3. Dirty Dr. Pepper Protein Ice Cream
📢 Please speak with a medical professional about any questions or concerns you may have about your health.
Comments: The focus of the day was Kylea entering her "dog mom era," defending her decision to bring a Cavapoo (emotional support animal) puppy into their apartment, and going on a shopping spree, satisfying her shopping addiction. Many long-time followers voluntarily unfollowed or were blocked aftefor making valid, rational points due to their years of experience with dogs.
⚠️ Gaslighting, Grief, Pregnancy Loss & Tragedy/Conflict: Kylea had to buy a puppy (not rescue) due to being attacked by dogs as a child. This story grew throughout the day to include being attacked on the face as a young child (3-4 yrs old) and then claiming she was attacked again as a teenager. She only trusts dogs she has known their entire life but will not visit her dad unless his German Shepherd is locked out of the house because she is afraid of large dogs. Please note that she wanted a golden Doodle and wants to love on Drue's dogs (Doodles Kylea has not known their entire lives) and she takes every chance to love on other people's dogs as well.
She has switched from saying the ESA letter came from a therapist to a "mental health care provider" 👀, raising suspicion she used an online service to expedite and obtain the infamous ESA letter. Own your truth, Kylea.
Please remember that she is the "most alive version" of herself and the "happiest" she has been in her journey but also that she has experienced 6 pregnancy losses in 5 years and her grandmother died this year. PLEASE ignore all 💖 and 🤣 that pepper her content, all evidence of traveling alone and with others for pleasure, shopping trips, and functioning WITHOUT an emotional support puppy. She will be FINE, continuing to travel frequently and leaving the puppy with a sitter.
She is aware of the difference between an ESA and service dog's rights in public and will only take Birdie where she is allowed to go. She's got this ALL figured out and does not need your advice. Oliver and Alice will be fine because they will "get used to it." Please disregard the fact she lives in a small 2 bedroom apartment, and both cats have behavior issues.
She is 31 years old, a grown adult, who is responsible... 💤
Now, my soap box. This is what I think is really happening:

1. Kylea started pushing Oliver (male cat) content once Drue Basham announced her pregnancy.
2. Kylea started using specific language about Oliver to humanize him and make her sound like a doting mother.
3. She and Drue have a middle school maturity level "friendship" that at times feels like "frenemies."
4. She is jealous that Drue is pregnant and has more "success" on social media.
5. Since Kylea's weight loss journey ended July 2023 and she refuses to change the name of her page, she needed a new story arc for $$$. People are tired of hearing about Gibson (early pregnancy loss Sep 2022) and Grams (may she RIP 🙏).
6. This puppy "Birdie" is already being exploited and is for content and monetary gain. I will never believe she NEEDED an ESA puppy. Oliver is her unofficial ESA based on her monetized content.
7. This puppy will draw attention in public due to the clothes she is buying for it and the stroller she purchased. She will tell people about her losses and grief. Birdie is an excuse to share her "story," which fuels her obsession with death and seeking praise and validation from strangers.
8. Joe's new work schedule is erratic, and Kylea loves control.
9. She is a 🐈 🐟, always and forever 💖.
10. She is desperate for fame and infamy.
    ☎️ If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, please call or text 988 for assistance.
    

Takeout Purchase: Iced/Blended coffee= $8 est + tip; (There is no proof she went with a friend)
Shopping: *Pet expenses being tallied
All info from Reddit. ✌️

I (28F) lost my grandmother when I was 11. My grandparents were essentially my second parents because my parents were always working early/lates/nights shift patterns. My grandparents only lived down the road from where we lived so we used to spend 6/7 days of our weeks there growing up. I have 2 aunties, who are both younger than my mum (my mum is the oldest sibling). My brother and I were the only grandchildren that my grandmother knew as she had on and off battles with cancer, and eventually got the terminal diagnosis when I was 10. She then later passed away not long after my 11th birthday and naturally, I was devastated. it really affected me, going from seeing her every day and every night to her suddenly not being around.
One of my aunties, who I’ll call Sally, was at the time pregnant with her first child, who we will call Patrick, when my grandma passed away.
The piece of jewellery in question was a necklace with my grandmothers birthstone on it. The whole time I knew her, she never took this necklace off, and it was gifted to her by my mother for her birthday and wasn’t worth a great deal of money, maybe £25-£30. Everyone inherited something when my grandmother died, from jewellery, to silverware, clothes and shoes, furniture and books. Even my brother inherited some of my grandmothers wedding jewellery but I assume my grandmother thought I was too young to necessarily inherit anything so would have left it to my mum to gift me whatever it is I wanted. The only thing I asked for was this necklace.
For years after my grandmother died, I had checked with all family members if they would be happy for me to have this necklace. My granddad was in possession of it but in his old age and new dementia diagnosis, I was reluctant to ask him as he was already paranoid that people wanted to steal from him. I instead opted to ask my mum and aunties if they would be happy for my to have the necklace and everyone agreed that I could have it.
My grandfather died in the beginning of this year (he was 98). After the dust had settled and it came to the will reading, only the sisters were present and the question was asked if anything needed to be made known. Sally said she had to confess that my grandfather had given her the necklace a few years prior but opted to not say anything about it. It is important to note that for years I was asking about if anyone knew where the necklace was and she consistently either feigned ignorance or alternatively would make jokes that my grandfather sold it for money. Turned out, she had the necklace the whole time any of us were asking for it.
When her sisters confronted her about why she hid the fact he gave it to her and why she lied to everyone about her having it, she said ‘dad said he wanted Patrick to have it for his eventual wife’. My other auntie, who I am extremely close with, lost it and said that Sally would have to tell me herself that she had the necklace as her and my mum would not be doing her dirty work for her. Other concerns were raised as to what else she received from my grandfather that she hadn’t declared as my grandfather was a vulnerable adult with advanced dementia.
Sally would ring me multiple times a week for hours at a time and after the will was read, I didn’t hear from her for three months. She wouldn’t take my calls, or answer my texts so I decided to ring her to find out what was wrong. I made the call with my dad with me so I would keep my cool and have witness that I wasn’t out of line (Sally has a habit of lying at times). When I questioned Sally about why I hadn’t heard from her, she screamed at me saying I was harassing her and trying to intimidate her. I could tell something bigger was going on so I decided I would not contact her until she was ready to speak to me.
The next day rolls around and she messages me saying ‘you’ve pissed me off what you did yesterday. Congratulations’. I sent a nice reply back stating that I as only concerned by her silence and was coming from a place of worry. I sent the screenshot to my parents to let them know what just happened to which my mum rang me and told me about the situation with the necklace.
This is when I found out the reason she stopped talking to me and no one else was because she didn’t want to tell me about the necklace. I confronted her and assured her if she had wanted to keep it, I would’ve understood and that it was the lying that I took issue with. She then went onto insult me and said she hoped I had a miserable life with no friends or any long-standing relationships, and then suggested the entire family (including my parents) talk badly about me behind my back. She promptly blocked me whilst also removing herself from all family group chats.
Most of my family stopped speaking to her after that but my other aunties husband recently got back in contact with her and stated that I was the one who did wrong as I provoked her when she was grieving her father.
I do understand the reasons why she would want to keep it, and I would’ve been fine with her having it, it was just the lying and hiding I hate.
AITA?
TLD my auntie lied for years about having a necklace my mother bought my grandmother. She ignored me for 3 months and then when I confronted her, she began sending me insulting messages.

My (25f) cousin "Dan" (29m) got married to the love of his life "Elle" (28f) last weekend. They both like taking part in our countries traditions which is why the dress code was traditional clothing. If you want to get a feel for what that looks like, google "Dirndl". Everyone in my family owns one, however, mine consists of a short ivory dress with dirty pink flowers, pink embelishments and a pink apron (I'll put a link to a simmilar dress at the bottom of the post).
As you can imagine, traditional wear is not cheap, and since money is tight for me at the moment, I knew I would not be able to affort a new dress and I already checked if I could borrow one from someone else. So I texted Dan to ask what I should do. These were my suggestions:
Wear the dress I have (he and Kristen know the dress since I wear it pretty regularly at family functions)
Wear a non traditional dress in a more appropriate color
Use the money I had saved as a wedding present to buy a new dress
Dan said that he talked to Elle and wearing a non traditional dress was not an option, since I would stick out too much, but since my dress is not white allover, its okay if I wear it since Elles dress is gonna be a huge ballgown anyways, so there is just no way my dress would be in competition with it.
The weekend came, I wore the dress, and immediatly, I got dirty looks from Elles family. I just assumed they were not aware that my dress was pre aproved by the bride and groom. Shortly before the ceremony, the MOH took me aside and asked if I had anything else I can change into. I informed her that I talked to Elle beforehand and she said "I know, but her mum sent her a picture of you and Elle said the dress is a lot more white than she remembered and it's really stressing her out now." I felt really bad, but the best I could offer was getting my leather jacket from the car. But since the Jacket doesn't match the dresscode, she just asked me to sit in the back and stay in back rows for pictures (which kinda sucked since I'm short, but it's her day, so I didn't wanna argue)
The whole thing was really uncomfortable, and made even more so by Elles family constantly talking shit about me, just loud enough to hear it. I talked to Dan in a quiet moment and he apologized for the whole thing but said that Elle was still really upset and I should give her a few days before trying to talk to her. I don't know what to make of this? I feel terrible for causing her so much stress, but I feel like it isn't really my fault? My family is kinda split about it, with one saying I did everything I could, and the other saying I should have known better and just brought a non traditional dress for this case. What do you think? AITA here?
(Link to a simmilar dress. My flowers are a little smaller and pink is less saturated: https://trachtenshop.de/media/image/93/ee/ec/mini-dirndl-trendy-weiss-3061-0133-ro3-19-02h-4895-a_600x600.jpg )

It was 2016 and I was almost 21. I was working in a restaurant during the summer, behind the counter, preparing drinks for the customers. The people working with me (bartender, waiters and waitresses) were quite nice, I even made some friends (for the time being, none of these friendships stuck). The kitchen was upstairs, with 3 cooks (all male) and an older man doing dishes. 2 of the cooks were ex-convicts and, to put it mildly, their behavior wasn’t very sophisticated. They made a lot of dirty jokes and sexual remarks. I have never spent time with this type of people, I was always quite polite and calm (and if I wasn’t, it was only when I was surrounded by close friends) and I have social anxiety so I was always nervous when I had to go upstairs for something, knowing it would be uncomfortable. I was a little afraid of them, too.
At the time I was living with my (former) friend who had just started stripping. And she was gushing over it. How amazing she feels, how great it is to basically be at a party and get paid for it, she made it sound like an amazing job. She was really confident about herself and her body. A lot of men were attracted to her too, each time we went out she was getting someone’s attention and I was just… nearby.
I guess that’s where my desperate need to be perceived as (sexually) attractive came from.
So I wasn’t really getting any attention until one of the cooks (who was 32 at the time) started to focus on me. As I was getting more comfortable visiting the kitchen and, as everyone else, going there to vent and smoke a cigarette, he seemed to become more and more attracted to me. I liked it (and deeply on the inside I was a little disgusted but I shoved it down really deep). I was kind of subtly provoking him - dressing nicer, going upstairs more often I started going for a beer or to a place where he played arcade games. The ones that you can win money (but you mostly lose), apparently he had issues with gambling. You should know that he also had a 6 year old child and another on the way (with a different woman) which makes this whole situation even worse.
So, it went on for a while and once (I drank a lot) we kissed. He escorted me to the bus stop and stopped to pee. The police gave him a ticket for it and immediately started asking where he got his phone and checking if it wasn’t stolen. Just by his face, I guess, which should tell you a lot about how he looked. I was so disgusted with myself for being in this company.
But it continued.
I don’t want to get into any more details, but eventually we slept together. It was my first time and I think that’s why it’s haunting me for so long. It wouldn’t be this awful for me otherwise. I drank a lot that night, he did too. And when I woke up and saw him in my bed I was sick to my stomach, it was awful.
I don’t know why but we met up again at my place, I think two more times. The last one I was sober and I really didn’t want to do anything with him but I thought I should since he came all the way to my place, so I did.
Since then he only helped me with getting back my money from our then-ex-boss (who closed the restaurant and was avoiding paying us) and then, since we stopped working together, the contact was cut.
He approached me once more on messenger, but I wasn’t interested.
A year or two after, I thought, what was I even talking to this guy about, how is it possible that we had any sort of connection. So I decided to read our past conversations. I have never felt so horrible in my life. I felt nauseous, I felt hot and my whole body was kind of weak, I had to sit down. I deleted the conversations to never relive that again.
Since then, over the past years, he texted me once more (I didn’t reply) and tried to befriend me on facebook a couple times (the last time was this year! 8 years after…). I finally blocked him.
And it’s been 8 years and it still keeps popping up in my mind, making me nauseous and disgusted every time I think of it. And I don’t think about it voluntarily. I don’t know what I can do to dig it somewhere in my brain so it’d stop resurfacing.
At the same time, I was at the strip club where my friend worked (she advertised it so well that I really thought it’s a great opportunity and wanted to work there as well). I ended up humiliated, disgusted with myself, men and the whole industry. But even this doesn’t haunt me as much as this awful relationship.

Edit: DO NOT message me a simple hi or hello, with no information about you, Put some effort in to your message like i have, come on. Day+Attempt#182
Hello everyone, Thank you for taking the time to read, I know its long, I know - I know. But its worth the read, Trust me. I appreciate you immensely.
Here's a bit about me,
My name is Jay, I live on the East coast of the US. I'm looking for love - like everyone else on here.., but you may not believe or even be doubtful that I've never had a GF before with me being 26, but its true. I'm simply just not willing to "be with" just anyone and I'm very picky. I want us to be a match, more than just have similar things in common.
One thing I have always been told is that I'm a "Real Catch, I'd be extremely lucky to have someone like you" - WELL THEN TAKE ME. I'M FREE. LOL.
About me:
Physically -
~I'm a semi-tall guy, around 5'10.
~I'm thin but muscular.
~I have dirty blonde/ brown hair.
~Changing colored eyes.
~A voice nice enough to melt all your safeguards and get right into your heart and weak spots.
~I do not have any tattoos or piercings. Though I would like to get some eventually.
If you'd like to see a picture of me just ask and I'll show you - IF I may see you as well, I simply just don't want a picture of me out there for anyone to see.
-If there's anything else you'd like to know just ask.
Otherwise -
~I do have 3 pet bunnies I would be more than happy to show you, they are extremely cute.
~I'm a very honest and down to earth guy.
~I'm very patient and easy going.
~I'm very curious and inquisitive. I will try to ask everything I can to learn all about you haha.
~I'm Very VERY Kind & Caring, I will probably ask how you are feeling a bajillion times a day, simply out of care for you.
~I can get pretty clingy, and will always want your attention and to be talking with you. If i have someone im interested in i wont want to talk to anyone else🤷‍♂️
~I'm very trustworthy - you can confide in me, and entrust your deepest secrets and I wont tell a soul.
~I'm a HUGE hopeless romantic, im old fashioned and will always try to impress you.
- I'm, a BIG softie even though I may look a smol bit intimidating, but I'd do just about anything to see you smile or laugh. And yes.., I do mean anything.
~I'm a big goof - I will get up to some silly shenanigans ALL the time, I will crack dumb jokes and send you memes and tik toks just to make you happy, even if its from across the room I'd wait to see your reaction lol.
~I'm extremely loyal, and would never even think of cheating.
~I will cook for you, and clean up too, even around the house, I'm very self productive and don't ask for much. Just don't forget to kiss the cook.
~I'd also love to just cuddle up and watch a movie or read a book together, anything to get us closer. Id try to take you out on dates whenever possible haha. I have a million SUPER romantic date ideas I have but have never had anyone interested enough in me to take out. Here's your chance ;)
~I will always want to share stuff I find interesting with you, and try to share every moment of every day with you. I'm not looking for someone who can only talk for a small amount of time, I want someone who's willing to put in all the effort I put into them back into me, it goes both ways. If I'm "with" someone you are my TOP priority nobody and nothing else would be. You would be the only person I'd truly want to talk to, so rest assured I would NEVER cheat, even more so because no one is interested in me - Hence why I'm here hahaha.
I'm sure there is more to me than this snippet but I cant think of more at the moment haha, so get to know me and find out more about me.
Some of my interests are: Engineering- I'm a nerd. I admit it. I love being technical and hands on, I love building things. All kinds of things, from furniture, machinery, and reverse engineering anything I find. I love learning how things work and trying to improve things.
Music - I prefer music with a very fast pace, or with some very meaningful lyrics I can relate to. I love to sing along to music and songs that have a deep meaning behind it I can sympathize with makes it all the better. Some bands I like are: Bad Omens, Beartooth, Demon Hunter, MIW, I9K - The list goes on. I'm a bit of a metalhead unfortunately.
TV Shows & Movies - I love watching shows, and I'd love to stream some shows and have some E-dates with you, to get to know you, or if you are close to me, maybe we could do it in person. Some shows I like or more of the Fantasy/Sci-Fi, Comedy, Action, stuff like: National Treasure, Halo, BattleBots, Rick and Morty, AHS, Anything Marvel or DC, The Witcher, Wednesday, The Sandman, The Magicians, The Umbrella Academy, ETC.
Gaming - Yes yes I know, Basic guy likes basic stuff. But gaming has been a thing for me since forever. I know most of you wont care or want to hear that, but I'll leave out the specifics on this part unless you are interested in that, MEGA Bonus points if you are.
Here's a lists of Cons to dating me-
~I'm not Ryan Reynolds. Disappointing, I know.
~I will fight you on what goes on pizza lol.
~I'm not rich.., Yet.
~I can't pronounce Worcestershire.
~I'm slightly forgetful, but with good reasoning.
~(Not really a con but- some might disagree) I still have ALL of my firsts, Do with that what you will c:
~I've got an endless pile of love and affection and no one to give it to! What a dilemma! Help me fix it?
Other than that I'll save the rest for a bit more of getting to know each other.
Here's a bit of what I'm looking in you:
~Preferably someone with lots of free time, and loves to chit chat. I'm seriously not interested in getting 1 message a day. Though I understand people get busy, I personally am not willing to try to learn about you and form something with 7 responses a week. Effort gets reciprocated and I appreciate the time you put in me.
~Physically: -I’m not personally attracted to anyone who’s “curvy/ chubby”, I apologize. Not a shallow thing, I just dont have the attraction chemical in my brain for that, I’m sorry. -If you’re shorter than me, thats a plus to me. -I love dimples, if you have those when you smile, bonus points 😊 - I’m not sure what else to put.., but as for nsfw wise find out😂
~I'm a sucker for a different accent other than American, and if you have an Posh English accent you have already won my heart.
~I'm also only really looking for someone within the ages of 18-35. I don't want anyone old enough to be my mom lol.
~I'd prefer (But not a must) people NOT on the other side of the world, as other time zones SUCK. I don't expect to find anyone who also has never had a boyfriend either, but that would be a real plus. I also don't mind a LDR, but I don't want that forever. But it gives us time to get to know each other.
But as for attributes I'm looking for in you:
~Someone who is above all else very very Loyal and would never cheat.
~Someone who is Honest, and will tell me the truth over a little white lie.
~Someone who is Kind & Caring, who'd constantly check on me, and accept me for who I am & help me improve day to day.
~Someone who is trustworthy, and I can count on to keep my secrets safe, or even just help me remember things.., I do tend to be somewhat forgetful.
~Someone who is very Patient and wants to see me succeed and will help me do so, just like I would help you. Even if its small day to day things, I would appreciate your company ANY time.
~I want a partner who is Affectionate, can reciprocate, and loves to snuggle and talk about their day, and what their interests are, and what makes them happy.
~Someone who can admit they get clingy or overprotective is a bonus.
~A partner with good communication is key, if something wrong we have to be able to talk about it.
~A partner who likes to game with me or at least watch me play would be a plus but not a requirement.
~Someone with a good sense of humor and like to joke around, I am a big goof after all and I love to joke around. Sending memes is always appreciated and good to cheer people up too!
~I'd prefer someone with the same music taste, but not a requirement, Plus if you wouldn't mind if I send you love songs occasionally that's a bonus, or sending me some back haha.
~Being willing to voice call is a must, Texting forever is not the way to go. I have to know what your voice is like haha, later on we can video call if you are comfortable with that. I prefer chatting on Discord because Reddit messages of any kind I'm sure you know are unreliable and sucky in general. So please send me your discord if you have one :)
~I would LOVE to see picture of your pets if you have any. Bonus points if it includes your beautiful self haha.
I'm sure there is more I'm looking for but I cant think of it right now haha, I will have to edit this when I think of it.
Please tell me about you as an opener! I told you a good bit about me, now its your turn haha.
Tell me some things like -
~What's your name?
~Where are you from?
~How old are you?
~What are your hobbies / interests?
~What about my post interested you?
~Where is my TV Remote?!
~Selfie? Pet pics?
~Hit me with your best joke or meme :)
~What's your favorite candy?
I'd LOVE to get to know you, and see where things go.
But yeah, I know it was long I'm sorry haha. Send me a message and lets get to know each other! :)

I rent a room in a shared house and this is the first time ever that I rent a place. When I moved in, there was a $250 damage deposit. The house was quite not so clean when I moved in. For the whole stat duration, there was no damage to any property When I moved out, I ask for the damage deposit back. The landlord told me to wait for a week for him in inspect if things are still working good. Fair enough. After 1 week, I texted him back to ask for the money. He said that I didn’t clean and that he did it all by himself so he refuse to give the deposit back. I swept the floor and clean some part of the wall that is visibly dirty. It’s not like I can clean the room back to the brand new condition. He said the common area, the pantry, fridge is not clean, which there isn’t anything to clean. It is the way it was when I moved in. I didn’t use that area. The pantry has other renter’s stuff in there and the fridge is already clean. The thing is, the damage deposit, from my understanding, is for damages, which there isn’t any. It’s not a requirement that I need to do a deep cleaning. What can I do now to get it back? Is it true that legally, I can’t get it back because of the cleaning?

It’s crazy to see couples break up because that one partner just ignores all the problems they have and they just ignore it and push it down till it blows up. It’s crazy that people these days will go spend almost a year with you and then drop the relationship in a second and coward away from it because they run from there problems instead of facing it. It’s crazy that the one person who would be there for you in your corner and has nothing but love and support you and try to make you happy and that person being a kind, good, gentle soul can be dropped in a second… without even having the chance to fight for them. It’s crazy that you can go back and text them like there isn’t a bigger issue.
I have seen a fair share of fucked up in my life and have done dirty but this… this is truly the most fucked up. You may have trauma from a past or whatever but now thanks to you, you gave one more person trauma. A trauma that they’ll have to fight tooth and nail to get over for the rest of their life… maybe never. Stop playing mind games with them. Because if you end up losing that person they didn’t take a L, they took a huge W. No one wants to be with someone who runs away from problems, ignore the elephant in the room, not be grateful for the things they have done for you when YOU know no one would’ve done the same.
Drop the ego, drop the wall, let go of whatever past trauma you have that’s ruining what’s good and great in front of you, and fight for each other.
Men and women who found someone whose intentions are pure to heart and are kind and loving are hard to find. So if you still have a shot of saving that relationship then you better get up off your ass and get them back if they still want you.
GROW THE FUCK UP

This is long... This is very long.
I'm married, two children, my Wife is awesome. We live in a small community in a wooded/rural area. It's not Donner Pass but we are out in the boonies. We have to be somewhat able and self sufficient. It's not off grid prepper stuff but we have to be able to do more ourselves than if we lived in town.
A few years back, my Wifes Friend and I guess you'd call him a friendly acquaintance of mine moved up on the mountain. Let's call him Frank. The guy has issues, as do we all, but he's functional, intelligent, and quite handy. A decent guy to know to help get things done.
When he moved in, the property he bought was a disaster. Previous owner used to get all manner of Amazon returns and stockpile the stuff. Also anything else he could drag home for free or dirt cheap. All kinds of crap everywhere with zero organization. A couple of giant burn piles where of course he's burning just whatever, a pickup truck bed camper in disrepair full of stuff, ratty tarps and tents covering more crap. Squalor and chaos.
The property does have a functional well and **some** kind of septic system and there's power run to it. There's a small building attached to a camper but with some work it can be made liveable. So we sort of have the bare essentials covered. We just have a ton of work to do.
So I'm excited, my Wife is excited, Frank is excited as well. We all figure let's get Frank set up. Running water, working toilet, sink, wood/coal stove, major cleanup on the property, a water heater, washing machine, a shower or even a bath tub would be real nice as well. Basic stuff so he can do for himself because at this point he's showering and doing laundry and eating supper all at our house. I figure if I'm in a spot, I could go up there and have a shower or do laundry you know?
We get to work. First we have to finish even moving the guy in so he can be rid of the trailer he's renting in a trailer park. Turns out the guy is a hoarder and it's heavy. The guy has more stuff packed into his trailer then we actually know what to do with. At least it's nothing disgusting and most of it I can see at least some value in it. I can see why he'd keep hold of things like this but Man there's a LOT!!! I don't know how he can even store all this stuff so I figured let's make this easy and I bought him a 40' shipping container and had it delivered to his place. We get it there and we assemble storage racks that were left on the property by the previous owner inside the shipping container. I'm not rich but at this point I don't terribly miss the money and I figure helping this dude out will benefit me and my Family. Within two weeks, Frank is out of his trailer and everything he owns is jammed into the shipping container. It's tight but it's somewhat organized at least.
Now! Let's get to work! And we do. We start clearing out some of the actual trash. Say 15 hours and we can notice that we made a dent. Another 15 hours, it still kind of looks for shit but we can at least make sense of the place now. We're really doing something here! It's heavy and dirty and disgusting but we're having a lot of fun with it and feeling pretty good. As we're going, we find some actual decent things in the piles that the previous owner left behind and we're trying to not waste anything because we're not rich and we might need the stuff.
It gets to a point where it's starting to become really dirty work and even a garden hose would be pretty dang amazing just to at least wash up a little bit because we really don't know what's in some of these piles but Man we're digging deep into them! My Wife goes through the nonsense of getting his power turned on. Frank has enough money saved to get it turned on and to keep it going a while.
Ok, we got power and we can make some water happen now. We scrounged up a shitter and a sink, bought some PVC and got that happening. Now we can wash up and we don't have to crap in the woods anymore. We also found a decent Harmann wood/coal burner and installed that. Nothing ideal but we're looking pretty damn good compared to when we started. The stove was free. The previous owner switched to pellets and had no use for it. We had to get it out and move it of course but nothing we can't handle.
So now it's getting to at least 40 hours at Franks place, maybe 60 hours. I wasn't really keeping track. The place still looks like hell but we're making steady progress and it's more or less "liveable". Meanwhile there are things piling up at my own house. The roof needs a little attention, some work on my backhoe, vehicle repairs and maintenance. Normal everyday stuff that got put to the back burner for a while as we set this guy up but it's starting to pile up and I have to get this shit done.
"Hey Frank, you mind coming down a little while and pitching in with this or that?"
At first, yea he makes his way down and helps out. Not at the crack of dawn, say 11 AM or so. Fine and dandy. This isn't pay work and I don't start early myself, nor do I go very long and hard on these tasks. Put in a couple hours until I feel like I accomplished something and call it a day. I don't think I'm asking much.
After a bit though, he's showing up later and later. If Frank says 12-ish, it means like 2PM or something. One day I have to remove the backhoe from my tractor in order to replace some hydraulic lines. This assembly weighs about 4 tons. It's on a 1967 Case 580 CK. Not the biggest thing but it's no joke. Frank is skilled with cranes and forklifts and other heavy stuff and I figure he could just come down and help me make damn sure this thing is going to be stable. I'm going to have the hydraulics opened up and if it's not properly supported it could move on me and that might well be it for me.
So the day comes. I have my tractor in the driveway and I have the backhoe dismounted from the tractor but still hooked to the hydraulics by around 10-11AM. Now I'm sitting and waiting on Frank. Finally about 1AM he rolls in. The first thing he does is to sit down and use my blowtorch to clean out his one hitter so he can do a little wake and bake. I've been ready and waiting for a couple hours and now the dude is going to sit and get high before we're going to work with some heavy shit and he's burning my propane to do so. Yea I'm kind of annoyed and I let him know. I tried to not be too much of an asshole but I wasn't pleasant about it. I didn't yell or anything but I'm sure I came off kind of asshole-ish.
He finishes up with the one hitter, takes a few wacks off it, says he's go tot go home and crap. Lovely... He's been lighting up my toilet for a while now, what's the big deal? Anyhow he heads back home. I'm sitting there for an hour or so scratching my ass, screw it I'll figure it out. I'm scared as hell but I manage to get my lines replaced. I bring the tractor into position and get the bottom mounting pins locked in. There are two more up top of the backhoe assembly and then it's solidly mounted. I screwed up by not hooking the hydraulic lines from the tractor to the backhoe and doesn't the damn thing just sort of drop right to the ground because the boom, bucket, and dipper arm are open. I took precautions against this but I guess I didn't do very well. I didn't lose the whole show but it scared the hell out of me and I shut the tractor down and walked away for a while. It was a split second and if I was under it I'd either have been dead or wishing for it. I calmed myself down after a while and finished the job. Frank never showed back up that day.
After I got done, I was sitting there a while. After that dopamine hit from getting the job done wore off I was starting to feel pretty let down and pissed off. My Wife and I put real time, and heart and soul in up at Franks place. We'd get up there about 9AM-10AM and get to it. Half the time, Frank would be hungover and it would literally be 2-3 hours until he was any kind of mobile. We're up there at his place trying to get shit done so he has a setup and he's dragging his ass because he was up until 3AM the previous night getting shitfaced.
The plan was, after he was set, we'd get into some nonsense. Cleanouts from tenants that left an apartment full of stuff, scrapping, maybe some lawn work, plowing snow on the mountain here, whatever. Not getting rich but at least paying the bills and having a laugh. At first, Frank is all about it. The cleanouts were his idea. I never knew you actually could get some decent pay for this type of thing. After a while though Frank starts throwing up roadblocks about we need to be an LLC and have a few fairly new looking trucks before we can start when I'm watching something like "Randys Hauling" on the side of a beat up old truck going up and down the mountain and he's getting that pay. On OUR mountain and we could be easily doing this right now! He kept throwing these obstacles up on all sorts of projects. It felt like Frank was deliberately throwing wrenches wherever he could in order to halt any progress.
Eventually I tried talking with him. I told him "I'm not really feeling the return on this investment.". and Frank says "I'm sorry you feel that way.". It kind of went to shit from there. I got to the point where I didn't want anything more to do with him. I was a door mat for a long time in my childhood and it felt like I was getting played for a stooge yet again. It felt like he was also taking advantage of my Wife. But hey, she's been Friends with him for quite a while. In fact she was Friends with him before we were even dating. I'm not going to tell her she can't hang out with the guy. You'll just have to take my word that she's not the type to play around when she's in a committed relationship. Not sure if I have much faith in Frank but I have faith in my Wife.
Frank is no longer coming to the house, there are arguments between my Wife and I about the guy. All I can see is that she's getting played by the guy. Eventually, Frank has a Friend who offers him to go to a blues concert because Franks Friend has noone to go with but has an extra ticket. This is a weekend thing where you camp and party and listen to performers. My Wife is already running ragged here there and everywhere. Frank asks my Wife to keep an eye on his dogs while he's away and of course she wants to help out. She's just like that. One day, turns out my Wife is too busy to take care of it and my Daughter has to go check on the dogs. My Daughter can't find the keys to get inside Franks camper. Now don't you know I have to go up there and take on this guys responsibilities while he's out at a concert partying his ass off. I put my foot down because at this point the guy is messing with the entire Family and holding all of us up. I told my Wife that WE are done with him and shit hit the fan for a while but eventually she started to see shit for herself and we all just cut off from the guy.
This is breaking my heart. I really do love the guy and I know it's killing my Wife to cut off from a Friend. But it's a one way Friendship. Frank will jump for someone he really cares about, but us, we're just useful or so it seems to me.
3 years go by. My Wife still talks with Frank via text and I'm not thrilled with it but I'm not going to push it either. Whatever it's not holding up our show. Time goes by... I simmer down, Frank calms down. I do indeed miss the guy but I'm afraid that if I start talking it'll end up being the same crap all over again. He was good to work with when he felt like it. I work on cars all the time and this guy can look at things and see things that I don't. He's no kind of mechanic but he's already schooled me under the hood as well as setting up a guys garage door that was horribly installed.
In time, yes we do start talking again. I try to make it very clear that if we're going to do anything, we BOTH have to feel properly compensated for our efforts. Be that money, labor swapping, horse trading, whatever. If I do something for Frank and it takes an hour, Frank gets me back satisfactorily and vice versa. This has to be worth it for both of us and all of us.
Well, it happens that Frank finally decides he wants to clean up his property. His truck is not registered, insured, or inspected. His drivers license is expired. There's a lot of scrap up there. I have a road legal truck and I make a proposition. I'll pile scrap on the truck until I feel it's a decent load, he and my Wife will run the load. My wife is a capable driver. She and frank will unload the truck at the scrapyard and meanwhile I'll break the scrap down at his place and have another load ready to go. At the end of the day, the truck gets paid $1 per mile and the tank gets filled for the next day. We split the remainder 3 ways equally. We clean the property up, we all get a few dollars and after a little while he can save the money to get his own truck back on the road.
Frank says there's not enough money in scrapping. There won't be anything left to split after gassing up the truck... Sounds familiar... Ok, how about this then. Let me make a load of absolute BS scrap like old bedsprings, tin cans, and just whatever crap I can, we see how that pays and maybe go from there.
Frank says Hem and Haw, well maybe if it's just Frank and my Wife loading up the truck and they also run and unload the truck he might be in to it. Splitting it 3 ways and with the truck just isn't going to cut it. Now I'm getting confused and a little irritated because I thought the idea was to clean up, not get paid. My Wife also has a screwy elbow and if she goes hard on a job she's in pain the next day. Nope this aint happening. Let's put a pin in this and come back to it. I'm not going to push anymore and my Wife is definitely not into chucking scrap on to the truck as well as off loading it. If he wants to do something and he comes to us, we'll figure it out. If he wants to sit on that scrap, hell with it. I guess this is the Hoarder in his brain talking.
My Wife has a 1896 VW Jetta diesel. It's old and it's been around but it can be made decent. The interior is shit but we have a parts car and a pile of interior parts like carpet and trim, dashboard, and just everything you want to make the inside actually pretty good looking. She's the one that heads up the interior work. I personally hate it. At this point, Frank has no power at his place and he has a little 80cc dirtbike he'd like to use to get up and down the mountain. Private dirt road so we can drive ATV's or golf carts or whatever and it'd be handy.
I have a 300 watt solar panel that I'm not going to use and all the gear to go with it. I have some parts I can use to get his dirtbike going and I know how to get most old carburetted stuff running when it's been sitting a while. We come to an agreement. Frank will be down here working on this Jetta with my Wife until the interior is as good as we can make it. I'll give him the solar panel, help him install it at his place, and get his dirtbike going for him. Also my Wife will handle getting his power back on and a couple of other administrative things. Everyone is feeling OK with it.
We begin. My Wife and I put the first foot forward. We take the solar gear up to his place and get it working. Now at least he can charge his phone and keep a light running. Nothing major but it's something and it's damn handy. I start on the dirtbike. It's a Suzuki 80cc four stroke. The fuel tank is cracked up and leaking like a sieve. I have a tank from an old Honda CR80 and it takes me a while but I get it mounted to the bike and I didn't even have to chop the bike or the tank. The carb on this thing was sitting with fuel in it for years and it's beyond hope. Normally I can open them up and blow the jets with compressed air, maybe carb cleaner and some wires but this thing is completely jammed solid with crap and I can't get it. I have a carb on my shelf and it's actually for that exact engine. So after 6-8 hours of scratching my head and wrenching, I have his bike running just as good as ever and it holds fuel.
Now it's Franks turn. The first day, he actually shows up at a decent hour and the guy is putting his time in. They have the interior all but gutted. Seats, carpet, interior trim(what's left of it) HVAC. Just the dash is left and it's been a good 5 hours so they call it a day. Next day he's right there say 9-10AM. Dang this is working! They're going after removing the cracked up dashboard and something isn't making sense. It seems loose but it's not coming out. I'm out there putzing with my truck and my Wife asks me to come take a look. I get under the dash and I'm looking but I'm damned if I can find what's holding it up. It can wiggle but it's not coming loose. I notice some steel brackets with rivets under the dash just at the bottom of the windshield. All I can think is to cut the rivets loose and the dash will come out but it doesn't make sense because you're not going to get new rivets in when you install the new dash. There's barely room to get a chisel in to cut them loose. Frank figures it out. Frank goes out under the cowl under the hood, pulls up the drip tray and right there are two nuts on studs poking through the firewall. We pull those nuts off and presto the dash is loose! God Damn Frank you're a rock star! I'm SO glad the guy was here! Different perspective? Savant? I don't know but the guy nailed it!
Next day. Again Frank shows up about 10AM and the Jetta is coming around. The carpet is in and looking nice, the trim is installed, The seats are cleaned up and installed. This thing is actually starting to look pretty good! That was a good day. 4-5 hours and they call it. Nice job guys! Looking good!
Next day. Time to install HVAC. We did an AC delete. The Jetta was originally an AC car but most of the gear was gone. The parts car was non-AC and the heater box is much smaller, lighter, and simpler. We clean that up, do a little bit of swapping on wiring harnesses and we install it. Frank isn't here yet and it's about noon. My Wife texts him to see what's up.
Well this girl showed up about midnight last night and the way I gather they were up until the wee hours drinking and boning so he's not into working today. He doesn't know this girl from a hill of beans and about the only thing he DOES know is that she's a real easy piece of ass, I guess pretty cute, and mentally a wreck. Well... Yea I've been hard up myself so I'm trying to be understanding here. If a cute and willing young lady showed up at my place and I was lonely I think I'd take that opportunity as well. He did put some good time in on this vehicle and really saved the day when pulling the dash out. I went to work with my Wife. We got the replacement dash in, Heater installed. Everything assembled, wires routed, job done. The thing looks damn near new on the inside. It was a good 8 hours and I still feel it to day as this was just yesterday and I'm no youngster. My Wife is in pain. I just feel tired.
I can see Franks side, but a deal is a deal. I was trying to talk to my Wife that "We're kind of even right? He put in his time, he really helped out a ton. Neither owes either and we're pretty squared up right?". I wasn't really feeling that but I was willing to be convinced and sort of let it slide. My Wife however doesn't feel that we're square at all. Not only the motorcycle and the solar crap, but she spent hours on the phone and computer and Frank agreed that he'd be there from start to finish on this interior. On the last day, he ditched us because he was busy screwing and drinking with some random chick. While we were finishing up the job, Frank texted my Wife asking if He and this girl could come down to meet and greet. Or would we like to come up and have a fire? My Wife and I are dead tired, it's about 5PM. We normally have supper on the table at this time but we're close and we want to get through it. We're not into entertaining tonight. We want to finish up, get supper, get the kids to bed and crash. We're sure as hell not going up to the junk heap and sitting there at a fire watching these two make out and get tanked up. She texted him something like that. Tired, still working, still have to make supper, not happening.
That's it. If you made it through all that I admire your perseverance and I hope it at least makes sense. This is just my side of course. I have my own issues. I can be an asshole, impatient, I'm kind of obnoxious. I'm trying to work on that stuff and my Wife tells me I'm really reigning it in when I get pissed if something is fighting me. Anymore I'll just walk away and have a smoke or something. I guess I can get sort of pushy when I see shit that needs doing. I want to help but I guess I'm aggressive or too Gung Ho about it.
Anyways, it feels like this relationship with Frank is going to end up the same place as it left off before. All I can think to do is just not really seek him out anymore. If he happens to need something... I don't know... My Wife and my Children and myself are a team. We've got enough going on and we don't need someone dragging us down. I don't want this to get to the point where it did before. I feel like I screwed up even letting this guy back into my life and I'm kind of stressing.

I (30, F) have an ex-friend (33, M, will call him Tom) who I have known for about 7 years. We both worked with my ex girlfriend, and when I left the job, he ceased speaking to me or hanging out with me entirely for 3 years. Out of nowhere he reached out, said he wanted to apologize, so I let him. He came over to my home with pizza and said he had been depressed and THAT was the only reason he went ghost for YEARS. I didn't buy it but let it slide.
Fast forward 1 year later and I brought him into our friend group. One woman, Stacy (34, F) we will call her, is getting a divorce. She's a bit insufferable, she lies a lot about her life and circumstances (she lied about being LGBTQ and later admitted it)...but again, our meetups were surface-level adult get togethers. Stacy's shtick is she loves to lead her coworkers on, then dump them and say she is not interested in anything more than friends at the 3 month mark. I again, ignored it, not my business.
Until Stacy texts me one day saying she is dumping her current guy to flirt with Tom. Tom is desperate, has not had a girlfriend in about a decade, and if a woman BREATHES his way he will jump at the chance. I told Stacy that since she is still married and has no intent to be with him, to think about the repercussions and leave him and the friend group in peace. She texts me a "you are so right" and then...proceeds to TEXT TOM, my loooong time friend I brought into the friend group, "so cleanmahlungs said you have a crush on me 😍" and proceeds to fabricate a web of lies.
Tom texts me some screenshots. I call out the web of lies, and Stacy goes NUCLEAR. Damage control screaming and panicking that I've made the entire thing up. Instead of fighting, I told them both to stop texting me DAILY for advice and to leave me out of their mess. I am 30 and don't want the drama.
Stacy blocks us ALL in the friend group except Tom. Tom goes ghost from our lives, we all keep hanging out together, because fuck them.
Five months goes by.
Last night, my fiance gets a text saying "sorry, i was so busy, i'm down for some gym days!"
No texts to me, the "friend" of now going on 8 years. No accountability for the role he began to play and for her and him gossiping about me (he began to send screenshots then stopped when it began to implicate him), for imploding the friend group, for lying. I am a singer and had a live show during the ghosting period, he DID text me a few months ago a "saw you had a show! sorry so busy" but next day went to a big KPOP concert, then a Wutang one that same week lmao!
He is trying to gaslight me as the "uppity femme girl" yet again (he did this when my ex we both knew would cheat on me) and is trying to bait me so bad.
What do I do? Do I confront him via text? My fiance is just going to play it very calm and chill and let it fizzle. I feel there is no point to confronting someone who will never take responsibility or accountability, so I am leaning more towards silence since he is a brick wall anyway.
There are A LOT more filler details, but I tried the best I could lol! He still talks to Stacy, and likely my abusive ex girlfriend. I think having a friend who accumulates acquaintances of people who did you wrong is....detrimental, but maybe I'm overthinking.

I'm not a person who configures web servers ever so this is a bit new to me. I have two questions in this post, bolded. My workplace has those cybersecurity scanners and a scan keeps giving us an HTTP Strict Transport Security related error:

HTTP/1.1 404 Not Found Content-Type: text/html; charset=us-ascii Server: Microsoft-HTTPAPI/2.0 Date: Sat, 04 May 2024 04:34:39 GMT Connection: close Content-Length: 315 The remote HTTPS server does not send the HTTP "Strict-Transport-Security" header 

I have an identical HSTS response header set up on both the server and the actual website in IIS manager (I was told to set it up this way, but let me know if anything looks weird because I don't exactly trust my senior dev in this case as he's not super familiar with IIS either):

max-age=3156000; includeSubDomains; redirectHttpToHttps; always 

I would assume the server-level response header overrides the website-level one, but I can't seem to find any information about it when I google around. Should I only configure the server-level HTTP response header? We do not plan to host any other websites off this web server.
Now, I realize the top code block with the error is not talking about IIS and instead is referencing a response coming from HTTP API 2.0. Currently, our SSL cert is configured with two SAN values:

CN = example.sub.com SAN = example.sub.com, example.sub.sub.com 

However the single website set up in IIS Manager only has two bindings, one on port 80, one on 443, both for the host example.sub.com. If I navigate to example.sub.com in a web browser, there are no certificate errors and the network requests show I am getting the correct HSTS header from IIS 10 that we configured. When I go to example.sub.sub.com, I get the HTTP API 2 problem so this is what the scanner is doing. Since example.sub.sub.com has no website bindings in IIS, it makes sense it would produce this error and route through HTTP API 2. This isn't really a URL any external user should ever be visiting, but is the solution to this problem as simple as setting up more bindings on the same website in IIS that have the hostname example.sub.sub.com?