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2024.05.20 07:09 MoonageDaydreamGirl I’ve only been a widow for a little over a month - The rollercoaster of emotions is too much
Hi all - Fresh widow here. My husband (41 years old, I’m 36) of almost 10 years passed away suddenly and unexpectedly on April 3rd from a sudden cardiac arrest. He had an underlying genetic heart condition (hypertrophic cardiomyopathy) that was diagnosed in 2020 but he decided to not seek further diagnosis on it to see what treatment was best. The first cardiologist he saw told him he wouldn’t die of the condition and would live a long life. I think this gave my husband a false hope and made him think it wasn’t that serious. He also was very strong willed and if he thought he was okay then he was okay in his mind (he even told family and friends it was just anxiety - I knew it wasn’t but even if I tried pushing him to check it out he would have become anxious or angry about it).
Other than his heart condition my husband was in great health - perfect weight, ate healthy foods and drank a lot of water, was active. His only vice was smoking cigarettes but he didn’t even do that too much. I think him dying at the time he did was due to dehydration (he was fasting for ramadan) and he took otc cold medicine (not great for those with heart conditions) because he thought he had a cold coming on. He has done both of these things over the years but never at the same time.
Anywho enough back story. I have been a wreck ever since he passed (no surprise). So many emotions. I’m so angry he didn’t take his health seriously and that ultimately sealed his fate. I’m sad and angry he left my daughter and I so young. Our daughter only just turned two and he wanted her so bad (I was the one who made us hold off on getting pregnant for years). She was supposed to have so many years with her daddy. It’s the thing that makes me cry the most. Thinking of the loss of that relationship is so crushing. Our daughter was born in 2022 a couple years after his heart condition diagnosis- I don’t know why he didn’t think to go back to the cardiologist at that time to see if he was okay to do nothing or needed to seek some form of treatment. He also didn’t leave us in a very good financial situation but luckily my parents are able to help us for now.
Another emotion that hits me a lot is resentment. My husband and I fought a lot over the years - it was usually stupid stuff but he would often get very upset with me and the fights were hard to stop. It took a toll on my feelings for him even though I loved him so much. I always thought we would be able to get to a better place but now with him dead I have no closure on that.
I’m seeing a grief counselor once a week and it feels great when i’m talking with her but afterwards I feel so low unless I’m highly distracted. It really sucks and I hate feeling this way. I was already in a sad place before he passed but now it’s even more sad.
I want happiness for my daughter and I. I just want a simple happy life. It’s all I ever wanted. I know it’s super early in the grieving process but I hope there is happiness on the horizon for my daughter and I in the near future.
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Other than his heart condition my husband was in great health - perfect weight, ate healthy foods and drank a lot of water, was active. His only vice was smoking cigarettes but he didn’t even do that too much. I think him dying at the time he did was due to dehydration (he was fasting for ramadan) and he took otc cold medicine (not great for those with heart conditions) because he thought he had a cold coming on. He has done both of these things over the years but never at the same time.
Anywho enough back story. I have been a wreck ever since he passed (no surprise). So many emotions. I’m so angry he didn’t take his health seriously and that ultimately sealed his fate. I’m sad and angry he left my daughter and I so young. Our daughter only just turned two and he wanted her so bad (I was the one who made us hold off on getting pregnant for years). She was supposed to have so many years with her daddy. It’s the thing that makes me cry the most. Thinking of the loss of that relationship is so crushing. Our daughter was born in 2022 a couple years after his heart condition diagnosis- I don’t know why he didn’t think to go back to the cardiologist at that time to see if he was okay to do nothing or needed to seek some form of treatment. He also didn’t leave us in a very good financial situation but luckily my parents are able to help us for now.
Another emotion that hits me a lot is resentment. My husband and I fought a lot over the years - it was usually stupid stuff but he would often get very upset with me and the fights were hard to stop. It took a toll on my feelings for him even though I loved him so much. I always thought we would be able to get to a better place but now with him dead I have no closure on that.
I’m seeing a grief counselor once a week and it feels great when i’m talking with her but afterwards I feel so low unless I’m highly distracted. It really sucks and I hate feeling this way. I was already in a sad place before he passed but now it’s even more sad.
I want happiness for my daughter and I. I just want a simple happy life. It’s all I ever wanted. I know it’s super early in the grieving process but I hope there is happiness on the horizon for my daughter and I in the near future.
2024.05.20 07:09 Eastern-Balance-2986 Professional HVAC worker said my furnace wasn’t that bad. See for yourself. The last few pictures are from me cleaning it.
 | I moved into a three bedroom apartment two years ago. I began noticing everyone in the house was getting sick very often. Developing asthma, constantly coughing, runny nose ext…. My son’s doctor said, “ Go straight home and check your furnace, email the pictures to the office” I was completely horrified. Dr said, “ The complex needs to get that cleaned ASAP, I will be emailing the apartment complex as well” he was shocked, very upset about the condition of the furnace . The maintenance guy for the complex didn’t know anything about furnaces. He called a HVAC company. The man brought in some kind of spray foam. Said if i am not satisfied to get back with him in a week or so. I was not satisfied so he came back looked at it again and said, “it looks about as good as it will get” he walked out the door and left. I decided to look through the lease agreement and found where it says HVAC unit, will be cleaned once a year. The apartments were built roughly 18 years ago. Highly doubt it has ever been cleaned. I decided to clean it myself after asking numerous times and getting no results. I read up on it and ordered the proper stuff to do it. I am completely fed up. I do not know how they think it is okay to have a furnace in that condition. I need to contact the property owners, they need to know and be held accountable for not having it cleaned. I can’t imagine what all the other apartments look like. Just sad 😔 The first few pictures are before it was sprayed with the foam. Second half is after the fome. You can definitely tell when you get to the pictures where I cleaned it. Spent an entire Sunday trying to at least get it decent. The damn thing just needs replaced. I cannot imagine what the inside of duct’s the vents look like. 😱 submitted by Eastern-Balance-2986 to hvacadvice [link] [comments] |
2024.05.20 07:09 pkpklong123 Review: Hotel Kabuki in Japantown
After visiting San Francisco for a friend's wedding for a weekend, my partner and I found ourselves staying in Japantown at Kabuki Hotel. We definitely got cat-fished from our experience.
-- How we found Kabuki --
After reading many recommendations online, including reddit that Kabuki hotel is highly recommended and that Japantown is a great area to stay. The pictures showed brightly lit rooms with modern contemporary style. We decided to book a queen sized bed room through Chase.
-- Check-In--
When we first checked-in, the lobby gave a great first impression. An updated bar, clean couches and overall, a chic open concept lounge where everyone was enjoying themselves. The host was welcoming, but unfortunately gave us the wrong room number. NBD.
-- Immediately, the bad --
On our way to the rooms, the hallways gave Berkley college dorm vibes. Lights were dimmed with exposed lightbulbs. Upon entering the room, we were suprised by two things: the size and the emptiness of it. About 40% of the room was empty space, decorated with a single chair + desk combo. Lamps were provided as the sole source of light.
Our room was located in the second building on the 3rd floor, which on paper, seems like a decent height. But in reality, it's right next to the streets where I felt closer to the homies each night. You can infer from the latter that sound proofing is almost non-existent in the room.
-- The Good --
The room was really clean despite the whole room being borderline dingy. The bathroom and shower were 2x the size than it needed to be. Water pressure was good. Hair dryer and basic toiletries were provided.
-- Ending Notes --
Check-out was quick but they inform you about additional destination fees that are only briefly mentioned during booking. These are NOT included in the price of the hotel so PLEASE beware. We ended up getting charged an extra $120 for 3 nights.
Kabuki is a standard 3 star hotel with nothing much to write home about. The pictures are definetly heavily filtered and videos online are always filmed on bright days. This is in our opinion NOT a 4 star hotel. It provides all your necessities and gets the job done. I would NOT recommend out of town folks to stay here unless you really like Japantown (which as of 05/16, the pagoda is under construction until 2026).
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-- How we found Kabuki --
After reading many recommendations online, including reddit that Kabuki hotel is highly recommended and that Japantown is a great area to stay. The pictures showed brightly lit rooms with modern contemporary style. We decided to book a queen sized bed room through Chase.
-- Check-In--
When we first checked-in, the lobby gave a great first impression. An updated bar, clean couches and overall, a chic open concept lounge where everyone was enjoying themselves. The host was welcoming, but unfortunately gave us the wrong room number. NBD.
-- Immediately, the bad --
On our way to the rooms, the hallways gave Berkley college dorm vibes. Lights were dimmed with exposed lightbulbs. Upon entering the room, we were suprised by two things: the size and the emptiness of it. About 40% of the room was empty space, decorated with a single chair + desk combo. Lamps were provided as the sole source of light.
Our room was located in the second building on the 3rd floor, which on paper, seems like a decent height. But in reality, it's right next to the streets where I felt closer to the homies each night. You can infer from the latter that sound proofing is almost non-existent in the room.
-- The Good --
The room was really clean despite the whole room being borderline dingy. The bathroom and shower were 2x the size than it needed to be. Water pressure was good. Hair dryer and basic toiletries were provided.
-- Ending Notes --
Check-out was quick but they inform you about additional destination fees that are only briefly mentioned during booking. These are NOT included in the price of the hotel so PLEASE beware. We ended up getting charged an extra $120 for 3 nights.
Kabuki is a standard 3 star hotel with nothing much to write home about. The pictures are definetly heavily filtered and videos online are always filmed on bright days. This is in our opinion NOT a 4 star hotel. It provides all your necessities and gets the job done. I would NOT recommend out of town folks to stay here unless you really like Japantown (which as of 05/16, the pagoda is under construction until 2026).
2024.05.20 07:08 ConsequenceSure3063 Best Cerakote Yeti Cup
 | submitted by ConsequenceSure3063 to u/ConsequenceSure3063 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/x6rqbl25li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1f9085f07df14db23750b13d95f57f4cb1bb2d9a Are you looking for a durable and stylish cup to accompany you on your adventures? Look no further! In this article, we'll be rounding up the top Cerakote Yeti Cups on the market, ensuring you find the perfect fit for your next excursion. From icy hikes to hot summer days, the Cerakote Yeti Cup series offers a variety of options to keep your beverage of choice at the optimal temperature. Read on to discover the perfect cup for your next adventure! The Top 7 Best Cerakote Yeti Cup
Reviews🔗Yeti 20 oz Rambler Tumbler with MagSlider Lid - Coralhttps://preview.redd.it/dpq7yde5li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9f0422f6b3571ded967c65290c32fcdeada56695 I recently had the chance to try the Yeti 20 oz Rambler Tumbler, and let me tell you, it's been a game-changer for my daily routine. The moment I held this stainless steel on-the-go cup, I knew it was something special. Its durability is unmatched - I could probably drop it off a cliff and it would still be intact (okay, maybe not that extreme, but you get the point). One of the standout features of this tumbler is its ability to keep my drinks at the perfect temperature. Whether it's a steaming hot cup of coffee or an ice-cold beverage on a scorching summer day, this Yeti tumbler never disappoints. The double-wall vacuum insulation does the trick, ensuring my drinks stay just as I like them for hours on end. However, there is one aspect that could use some improvement. The tumbler can be a bit slippery, especially for those with smaller hands like myself. A bit of texture on the exterior would make all the difference in preventing any accidental drops. Another minor issue is the lid, which can sometimes become loose after a few uses. When this happens, it can cause my drink to spill out, leaving a mess on my shirt. However, I've found that a quick adjustment usually solves the problem. Despite these minor setbacks, the Yeti 20 oz Rambler Tumbler has become an essential part of my daily life. Its stylish design and impressive performance make it well worth the investment, and I can confidently say it's the best tumbler I've ever owned. With its ability to keep my drinks at the right temperature and its sleek, modern look, I can't help but highly recommend this tumbler to anyone in the market for an on-the-go cup solution. 🔗Yeti Cerakote Travel Mug: Ultimate Insulation for Cold & Hot Drinkshttps://preview.redd.it/p8x7ea86li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=085b9b8cdb9f9006bb67d109c1f4c64dd85b31c8 When I first got my hands on the Yeti Rambler 20 oz Travel Mug, I was immediately drawn to its unique High Desert Clay design. The lid - the Rambler Stronghold Lid - was a breeze to use, with its magnet technology making it easy for both right-and left-handed users. The elevated handle was a game-changer, allowing me to enjoy cupholder convenience just about anywhere. Although I loved the handle, I found that the lid had a few drawbacks. The lid itself was not interchangeable with other Rambler Drinkware models, and I couldn't use different colored magsliders. I wish it was more versatile on that front, but it's worth considering the Stronghold Lid's function and how it fits your personal preferences. Now, let's talk about the mug itself. The Yeti Rambler kept my drinks cold for a long time, without the need to refill as often as I had to with my old mug. The outside design, with the No Sweat element, helped me to avoid condensation on the outside, keeping my hands dry. The mug didn't leak, even when accidentally knocked over, and the lid's seal was strong. One thing that stood out to me was the mug's ability to fit into a car's cupholder flawlessly, something that's not always the case in my experience. The unique combination of style, durability, and convenience made this Yeti mug a standout choice for anyone in search of a dependable travel mug experience. 🔗YETI High Desert Clay Rambler 26oz Bottle with Chug Caphttps://preview.redd.it/bxped6h6li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e19f0c98f106bed07933156383a4e9c05a55eab5 As a frequent adventurer, I got tired of having lukewarm drinks on my outdoor trips. That's when I discovered the YETI Rambler High Desert Clay Bottle with Chug Cap, and boy, was I hooked! The first thing you'll notice about this bottle is its build - it's made of kitchen-grade stainless steel that's puncture and rust-resistant. I tossed this in my backpack, and it didn't even scratch. The insulation works like a charm, keeping my coffee hot for hours and my ice water cold all day long. No more lukewarm frustrations for me! But let's not forget about the Chug Cap - it's designed to give you a smooth, leak-free drinking experience. However, I did find it a bit tricky to twist off initially. The cap does have a unique design that might take some getting used to. I also wish the company offered individual replacement parts for the cap lid, which seems like a missed opportunity for customization. But overall, I'm really satisfied with the YETI Rambler High Desert Clay Bottle with Chug Cap. It's a game-changer for outdoor enthusiasts like myself. 🔗Stylish Yeti 14 oz Rambler Mug for Hot and Cold Beverageshttps://preview.redd.it/2l0znue7li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b5cdc3d66b106c5f05667f3a203183b3ac38b2e3 Ever enjoyed a relaxing morning with your favorite hot beverage, only for the warmth to dissipate, leaving you with a lukewarm sip? Say goodbye to that frustration with the Yeti 14 oz Rambler Mug. Made with 18/8 stainless steel, the sturdy construction not only feels solid in your hands but also retains heat incredibly well. The mug's comfortable, full-loop TripleGrip handle is thoughtfully designed for wide hands, making it easy to grab and go. One of the key features that stood out in my experience is the double-wall vacuum insulation, which keeps your beverages at the desired temperature for hours on end. But the magic doesn't stop there. With the mug's no-sweat design, you can confidently take it on the go without worrying about condensation dripping down the exterior. It truly is the perfect companion for your daily adventures, be it at the office or on a camping trip. Of course, no product is without its cons. While the mug is undoubtedly durable and built to last, some might find it a tad heavier than their average mug. Additionally, one must exercise caution when handling or storing items in the mug since the triple-loop handle can become a bit of an obstacle in tight spaces. In conclusion, the Yeti 14 oz Rambler Mug is a game-changer for anyone seeking a reliable and long-lasting mug to keep their beverages at the perfect temperature. With its stylish design and top-notch performance, it's definitely a worthy addition to any coffee lover's collection. 🔗Yeti 14 oz Rambler Mug with MagSlider Lid - High Desert Clayhttps://preview.redd.it/l0toqry7li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2f15d552801cf6389d61d0770b1935c98258e2c3 As a coffee enthusiast, I was excited to try the Yeti 14 oz Rambler Mug with Magslider Lid in the High Desert Clay color. The moment I held it, I could feel the sturdiness and quality of the material. The double-wall vacuum insulation truly works, keeping my coffee hot for hours on end, no matter what adventure it accompanied me on. What stood out for me was the design of the lid. Not only did it prevent spills, but it also made sipping my coffee on the go much more convenient. Additionally, the DuraCoat finish and lack of sweating made it a great accessory to take with me everywhere. One thing to note, however, is that while the magnet on the lid is useful in keeping drinks contained, it's not leakproof and should be handled carefully to avoid accidental spills. Overall, I highly recommend this mug to fellow coffee lovers and adventurers seeking a durable, high-quality way to enjoy their beverages. 🔗Durable, Insulated 10 oz. YETI White Tumblerhttps://preview.redd.it/zs4ss3i8li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=87e82eb3cace05052d231c5cc6b5156006e0ddad I recently tried out the Yeti Rambler 10 oz Tumbler in white, and let me tell you, it has been a game-changer for my daily coffee routine. The 10 oz size is perfect for a quick cup on the go, and the wide opening makes it easy to fill and clean. The vacuum-insulated body does an excellent job at keeping my coffee at the ideal temperature, even after several hours. One of the standout features of this tumbler is its puncture and rust-resistant stainless steel construction. After using it for a few weeks, I can confidently say it's built to last. The MagSlider lid is another great addition, providing a secure closure that prevents spills without compromising on ease of drinking. However, there are a couple of downsides to consider. The lid, while effective, is not fully leak-proof, so I recommend avoiding placing it in a bag or backpack with other items. Additionally, the slightly tapered shape makes it a bit less stable than a straight cup, but it doesn't cause any major issues. Overall, the Yeti 10 oz Tumbler in white has exceeded my expectations and become an essential part of my morning routine. Despite the minor drawbacks, it's definitely worth the investment for its top-notch quality and durability. 🔗Cerakote Yeti Cup: High Desert Clay Bottle with Insulating Chug Cap for Outdoor Adventureshttps://preview.redd.it/cjxjeh89li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2e5a983a7e888acf5243e2b4b50b6cdfb359c452 One sunny afternoon, I decided to bring along my favorite stainless steel bottle, the YETI Rambler High Desert Clay Bottle with Chug Cap, for a long hike in the mountains. The moment I held it, I could feel the quality of the material, the no-sweat exterior, and the comforting weight in my hand. It was the perfect companion for my hike, keeping my water cold and refreshing as I walked up the steep trail. As I took a break to catch my breath, I noticed that the bottle was surprisingly easy to handle with its TripleHaul handle. The handle, with its quick twist, allowed me to set it down with ease and protect the contents from spilling. The Chug Cap, being the default lid choice, proved to be convenient for filling my bottle quickly, making my hike even more enjoyable. However, after a few hours of hiking, I started to feel rather parched. I took a sip of water from the bottle, only to find that the cap was a bit hard to hold while drinking. I had to hold the cap itself in order to prevent spills, which proved to be a small inconvenience. Despite this, my YETI Rambler High Desert Clay Bottle with Chug Cap remained an excellent companion on my mountainous adventure. Upon returning home, I took the time to clean my bottle in the dishwasher, and it was as easy as promised – no more work than what I was already doing. The bottle's leakproof nature gave me peace of mind as I knew my beverages would stay inside, even when I turned it upside down. Overall, the YETI Rambler High Desert Clay Bottle with Chug Cap made my hike more satisfying and comfortable, providing me with a refreshing beverage whenever I needed it. The sturdy build and reliable insulation make it the ideal companion for any outdoor adventure. Despite the minor drawbacks, the pros outweigh the cons, making it a reliable and enjoyable accessory for my daily life. Buyer's GuideCerakote Yeti Cup is a type of tumbler designed to keep your drinks hot or cold for an extended period. These cups are known for their durability and insulation properties, making them popular among outdoor enthusiasts and casual drinkers alike. Before you make a purchase, consider the following factors to ensure you're getting the best Cerakote Yeti Cup for your needs.Material and ConstructionCerakote Yeti Cups are typically made of 18/8 stainless steel, which is resistant to rust and corrosion. The tumblers have a double-walled, vacuum-insulated design that helps maintain the temperature of your drink. Look for cups with a durable Cerakote coating, which provides protection against scratches and improves the grip. https://preview.redd.it/yy4ei4k9li1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=423318da1b1de5b804d844965466485947572a2b Insulation and Temperature RetentionOne of the main features of Cerakote Yeti Cup is its ability to keep drinks hot or cold for an extended period. The tumblers are equipped with Thermostat Chamber technology, which allows them to maintain temperature for hours. Check the product specifications for the cup's insulation and temperature retention capabilities before making a purchase.Size and CapacityCerakote Yeti Cups come in various sizes, ranging from 10 oz to 26 oz. Consider the size of the cup based on your daily needs or the number of people you plan to serve. Larger cups may be more suitable for outdoor activities where you need to stay hydrated throughout the day.Lid and Spout DesignThe lid and spout design of Cerakote Yeti Cups can impact their overall functionality. Look for tumblers with spill-proof lids and leak-proof seals to avoid spills and keep the contents fresh. Many models also feature a built-in straw, making them convenient for on-the-go use. https://preview.redd.it/eqaxok4ali1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6cd000a1542451be9dca0aff14150f12b2c120c1 Cleaning and MaintenanceCerakote Yeti Cups are designed to be easy to clean and maintain. The stainless steel construction and durable Cerakote coating make them resistant to stains and odors. To clean your cup, use a soft brush or sponge and mild soap. Avoid using abrasive cleaners or harsh chemicals, as they can damage the coating.Additional Features and AccessoriesSome Cerakote Yeti Cups come with additional features, such as a handle or a built-in carry loop. Accessories like cup carriers, coasters, and sleeves can also enhance the overall user experience. Consider these extras when comparing different models to find the best fit for your needs.Brand Reputation and WarrantyCerakote Yeti Cups are manufactured by Yeti, a well-known brand in the outdoor and leisure industry. Yeti is known for its high-quality products and strong customer support. Check the product's warranty for any manufacturing defects or issues with the cerakote coating. A good warranty can provide peace of mind and ensure your investment is protected. https://preview.redd.it/qk9vddeali1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=57f77abb335ed6bd8ada50d4f0f87bc680a977b9 Price and BudgetCerakote Yeti Cups are available in a wide price range, depending on their size, features, and brand reputation. Establish a budget and prioritize the features that are most important to you. This will help you filter the options and find the best Cerakote Yeti Cup within your price range.When selecting a Cerakote Yeti Cup, consider the material, insulation, size, lid and spout design, cleaning, accessories, brand reputation, warranty, and price. These factors can help you make an informed decision and find a product that meets your needs and budget. Happy shopping! FAQWhat is Cerakote Yeti Cup?The Cerakote Yeti Cup is a high-performance, durable, and versatile outdoor beverage container. It is designed for use in rough and extreme environments, offering a reliable solution for keeping drinks cold for extended periods. https://preview.redd.it/jqxsiktali1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=468afa624b858e0255c1d77254d114a1491077d3 What makes Cerakote Yeti Cup superior to other outdoor drink containers?The Cerakote Yeti Cup features several key advantages over other outdoor drink containers:
What is Cerakote?Cerakote is a specialized powder coating that offers superior durability, protection, and an attractive finish. It is formed when a powder consisting of tiny ceramic-based particles is applied to a surface and then heated in a convection oven. The result is a high-quality, protective coating that resists wear, corrosion, and UV damage.Is Cerakote dangerous or toxic?Cerakote is non-toxic and safe for human contact. It has been tested and approved for use in food preparation and storage areas. Furthermore, it does not emit harmful or toxic fumes during baking, making it a safe choice for all users.What are the benefits of Cerakote?The benefits of Cerakote include:
What types of drinks can I use in the Cerakote Yeti Cup?The Cerakote Yeti Cup is designed for use with both hot and cold beverages. This includes teas, coffee, hot cocoa, and even ice water. The cup's insulation ensures that the beverages maintain their temperature, keeping hot drinks hot and cold drinks cold for extended periods.What size does Cerakote Yeti Cup come in?The Cerakote Yeti Cup is available in several different sizes, including 20 and 40 ounces, ensuring that there is a size to suit virtually any need or application.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.20 07:08 onewty When making friends/acquaintances as a Schizoid, do you tend to regard people as less interesting and unintelligent when you realize they're too focused on finding a romantic partner?
I know intelligence is a relative concept and it has nothing to do with being interested in relationships or not. I also know it's very likely that this is my superiority complex talking and I am aware of how selfish this is gonna sound but I have great difficulty in maintaining friends. I am rarely interested in people but I would really like to have a friend group to discuss stuff like science, TV shows, movies and books, and I had a couple of friends in my life who all seemed very interesting at first, but the thing is, as soon as we become close enough, they start talking too much about their love interests and I've tried but I always feel like I was "tricked" into thinking that person had more to offer when essentially they were just like everyone else (Also I always find out later that they weren't nearly as intelligent as I thought). It has happened to me more than I would like and it's not even that they have a crush on one person and like them (I would find that interesting to be honest, sticking to one love interest), but it's like the whole wanting to be in a relationship thing, it's like they are all constantly looking for one, have multiple crushes and are always reporting them back to me when I could not care less. It bores the hell out of me and I'm terrible at hiding it. The worst part is that since I lose interest in being friends with them, talking is no longer a funny activity, it's not mentally stimulating anymore and I'd much rather be alone but I can't just start to ignore them out of nowhere, and I can't explain it either because that would sound terrible. Recently I made a friend at work who turned out to be exactly like this and the problem is he is kind of my superior and considers me a very good friend, we got along very well in the beginning, so I really need to keep the "friendship" going or things are gonna become really weird. But it's quite exhausting. I miss having lunch alone. Anyways, I would like to know if any of you can somehow relate.
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2024.05.20 07:08 heyitsyouDy WhatsApp scam from Anna
I should've googled this scammer! I knew it was too good to be true. I just signed up to WhatsApp 1 week ago.
She was a beautiful Singaporean girl that lives in New York that owns a beauty business. She keeps pressuring me to invest in crypto. We talked about finance and business and life. She was very nice and try to get to know you. She continues to discuss about crypto majority of the time. She told me to download Coinbase and deposit money in there. Then, she talks about KINE and sends a website. DO NOT SETUP an account!! She teaches you what to press through screenshots. I was suckered and deposit $200 just to try it out. She kept on telling me I need to put more money in the account to actually make money. She chats with you everyday. She got upset because I'm poor and I would not deposit more money and stop talking to me. I tried to transfer out this KINE account and would not transfer back to my Coinbase. Luckily I lost a little. From now on I'll do my research. 😁🤦🏻♂️
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She was a beautiful Singaporean girl that lives in New York that owns a beauty business. She keeps pressuring me to invest in crypto. We talked about finance and business and life. She was very nice and try to get to know you. She continues to discuss about crypto majority of the time. She told me to download Coinbase and deposit money in there. Then, she talks about KINE and sends a website. DO NOT SETUP an account!! She teaches you what to press through screenshots. I was suckered and deposit $200 just to try it out. She kept on telling me I need to put more money in the account to actually make money. She chats with you everyday. She got upset because I'm poor and I would not deposit more money and stop talking to me. I tried to transfer out this KINE account and would not transfer back to my Coinbase. Luckily I lost a little. From now on I'll do my research. 😁🤦🏻♂️
2024.05.20 07:07 taintosaurus_rex 5 year old daughters first concert.
I sometimes use reddit as a diary of sorts and this is one moment I never want to forget. My 5yo daughter and I love music. We regularly have dance parties where we put on music and dance around for an hour or two,and we have instruments all through the house and are making a ruckus near daily. A few months back I seen that pointfest in St. Louis had two of my favorite band headlining (bad omens/wage war) for $25 a ticket. My daughter also likes these band and I thought this might be a great opportunity to take her as the tickets were so cheap that I wouldn't mind leaving early if she wasn't having a good time.
Lately work has been kicking my ass and I've just been beaten and haven't got to spend the time with her I wish I could, and it's been damaging my mental health.
When we got to the concert it was very hot, so we found some shade and just relaxed through the early bands and just let her accommodate herself to the crowd of people. I was getting a little bit bummed that she was getting whinny about the heat and not having toys and whatnot, but she eventually got over it and started having fun.
When the main stage opened up she took a much needed nap and woke up just in time for Wage War. I tried to get her to dance but she was a bit shy around all the people, but she got to see a small mosh pit and she sang a bit. When Bad Omens got up there she started to get really excited. Their stage was covered in screens and she was blown away by the light show. By about their third song she was really loosening up and being more interactive. When they played her favorite song "Limits" she lit up and was singing along with me.
At the start of their set she wouldn't scream after the song, despite normally be a very loud kid, but I finally got her to yell and when she did I gave her a kiss on the cheek. After that she would kiss me after each song and just had a big smile on her face. She was also blown away by everyone holding up there lights for a slow song and just thought it was so cool. Bad Omens set was almost 2 hours and she was locked in the whole time and just taking in the moment so well. At the end when everyone chanted "one more song" she chanted "six more songs".
Like I said work and life had been beating me lately but having that moment with her reminded what maximum happiness is and really helped bond us. She always loves me, but normally prefers to cuddle her mom or cries for mom when she's not around, but all day today she was my little buddy and had no problem cuddling me over mom. Yesterday was a special moment for me and I will always cherish it.
Also the bands were incredible and I suggested everyone who likes rock go see them. Seen a LOT of concerts and this was definitely top 3, if not my favorite concert.
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Lately work has been kicking my ass and I've just been beaten and haven't got to spend the time with her I wish I could, and it's been damaging my mental health.
When we got to the concert it was very hot, so we found some shade and just relaxed through the early bands and just let her accommodate herself to the crowd of people. I was getting a little bit bummed that she was getting whinny about the heat and not having toys and whatnot, but she eventually got over it and started having fun.
When the main stage opened up she took a much needed nap and woke up just in time for Wage War. I tried to get her to dance but she was a bit shy around all the people, but she got to see a small mosh pit and she sang a bit. When Bad Omens got up there she started to get really excited. Their stage was covered in screens and she was blown away by the light show. By about their third song she was really loosening up and being more interactive. When they played her favorite song "Limits" she lit up and was singing along with me.
At the start of their set she wouldn't scream after the song, despite normally be a very loud kid, but I finally got her to yell and when she did I gave her a kiss on the cheek. After that she would kiss me after each song and just had a big smile on her face. She was also blown away by everyone holding up there lights for a slow song and just thought it was so cool. Bad Omens set was almost 2 hours and she was locked in the whole time and just taking in the moment so well. At the end when everyone chanted "one more song" she chanted "six more songs".
Like I said work and life had been beating me lately but having that moment with her reminded what maximum happiness is and really helped bond us. She always loves me, but normally prefers to cuddle her mom or cries for mom when she's not around, but all day today she was my little buddy and had no problem cuddling me over mom. Yesterday was a special moment for me and I will always cherish it.
Also the bands were incredible and I suggested everyone who likes rock go see them. Seen a LOT of concerts and this was definitely top 3, if not my favorite concert.
2024.05.20 07:07 jewfro77 I’m in Love with My Best Friend’s Sister. Need Advice!
I’m in a tough spot and need some advice. I’m in love with my best friend’s sister. She’s a few months older than me, and our families grew up together. We even live in the same building, so I hang out at their place a lot and spend time with the whole family.
I’ve had a crush on her since we were young but never had the courage to say anything for fear of ruining our friendship. I’ve tried putting out subtle hints like more obvious compliments, spending more time at their place when she’s around, and talking about relationships. That’s when she told me she’ll connect me with one of her friends, which broke my heart and confirmed she doesn’t see me the way I see her. She even mentioned getting messages from some guys trying to pursue her, and ofc she is she's beautiful, smart, on her diin and has a good personality. It upsets me that she's cool telling me about these people because that's just another sign that she doesn't see me more than the family friend.
I want to tell her how I feel, but I’m pretty sure she’s not going to take it well, and neither will my friend. If things go south, that means it’s a wrap for me. I don’t want to make things uncomfortable for her, but seeing a future where she’s with someone else will mess me up. What should I do, y’all?
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I’ve had a crush on her since we were young but never had the courage to say anything for fear of ruining our friendship. I’ve tried putting out subtle hints like more obvious compliments, spending more time at their place when she’s around, and talking about relationships. That’s when she told me she’ll connect me with one of her friends, which broke my heart and confirmed she doesn’t see me the way I see her. She even mentioned getting messages from some guys trying to pursue her, and ofc she is she's beautiful, smart, on her diin and has a good personality. It upsets me that she's cool telling me about these people because that's just another sign that she doesn't see me more than the family friend.
I want to tell her how I feel, but I’m pretty sure she’s not going to take it well, and neither will my friend. If things go south, that means it’s a wrap for me. I don’t want to make things uncomfortable for her, but seeing a future where she’s with someone else will mess me up. What should I do, y’all?
2024.05.20 07:06 Historical_Rip_324 extremely burned out from working, health deteriorating
I (18m) work 40+ hours a week of heavy physical labor as a metal fabricator. When I was 16 I completed duel enrollment and got welding certifications at a technical school. Because of this, I did not have any classes my senior year of HS and started working full time.
Now, a year later, I dont think I can do it anymore. People weren’t joking when they said this economy is bad. I live in a literal traphouse with fentanyl addicts because its all i can afford. I work what is supposed to be a high paying job but still live paycheck to paycheck. From rent, groceries, girlfriend, and bills, I am left with very little money each month.
I have no time for myself, and breathe in heavy metals all day. I can feel myself worsening in physical and mental health.
I cant quit my job because obviously I will be broke and homeless Lol.
I feel stuck in an inescapable cycle. I am a good entrepreneur but have no time to work on starting my own business. I am literally just stuck.
When i was younger i trapped, but i got in too deep with a lot of big players and it resulted in some close calls. I was making shitloads of money and had so much time to be free and enjoy life, but my girlfriend says she will break up with me if i go back into that lifestyle, which is understandable.
I genuinely think i will take my chances and start hitting licks. I will probably die young either way and might as well gamble for a shot at a better life.
what do yall think i should do?
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Now, a year later, I dont think I can do it anymore. People weren’t joking when they said this economy is bad. I live in a literal traphouse with fentanyl addicts because its all i can afford. I work what is supposed to be a high paying job but still live paycheck to paycheck. From rent, groceries, girlfriend, and bills, I am left with very little money each month.
I have no time for myself, and breathe in heavy metals all day. I can feel myself worsening in physical and mental health.
I cant quit my job because obviously I will be broke and homeless Lol.
I feel stuck in an inescapable cycle. I am a good entrepreneur but have no time to work on starting my own business. I am literally just stuck.
When i was younger i trapped, but i got in too deep with a lot of big players and it resulted in some close calls. I was making shitloads of money and had so much time to be free and enjoy life, but my girlfriend says she will break up with me if i go back into that lifestyle, which is understandable.
I genuinely think i will take my chances and start hitting licks. I will probably die young either way and might as well gamble for a shot at a better life.
what do yall think i should do?
2024.05.20 07:06 books_bikes_boobs 30 years old but essentially still a teenager. Looking for advice, inspiration, anything.
Hey everyone. I'll try to keep this brief.
I'm thirty and my life is barely different from when I was a teenager. In the realm of love and romance I'm about what you'd expect (a "wizard" as it used to be called). I haven't had a real job pretty much ever but I've started and quit A LOT, like nineteen total that I can remember, including a very good job that's easily the second biggest regret of my life behind not getting to know my mom more. I don't have much life experience, work experience, social experience, or romantic experience. That's why I say I really just feel like I'm a teenager still.
My mom died in February after a prolonged illness but she rapidly deteriorated. One day she was sick in the same regular way she had been for months and the second day I could barely hear her speak and the third day she was pretty much unconscious. I managed to talk to her on the second day and promised I would get my life together.
It's been a few months and I'm struggling again. The primary advice I'm looking for is work related. I have never essentially worked for more than a few months at a time and I'm 30. It is brutal trying to get interviews for any decent job. Hell, I know it's hard for people with regular work histories. I've resorted to lying on my resume and making up experience (unrelated to the jobs I'm looking for; just to clear the gap up a little). Honestly, the only thing I can get is working at Amazon, which I've done before and hated (it's multiple parts of those 19 prior jobs). I can't ask anyone in my life for help because my resume has no real work experience. And it just seems like any job I can get means losing my weekends or working overnights. On top of that I have around $18k in credit card debt I need to pay off before I can move out or anything like that. It's hard not to feel doomed, especially when my friends are traveling the world full time, making hundreds of thousands of dollars, opening businesses, starting families, buying homes, etc. Meanwhile I've never had a job or even a girlfriend, and I'm not building a career or wealth or anything.
My life isn't totally doomed. I managed to get a college degree, graduating in 2020 with a computer science degree from a decent school. I only have Dep. of Education student loans which means with the SAVE plan I'm pretty safe on those. I do have a solid group of friends. I'm not homeless and can live at home. I recently became an artist and am very driven about it and into it which has been a major boon in my life.
But some of that good stuff is a double edged sword. If I didn't have a degree then getting one would be an obvious step. But I do have one, and I have no work experience (let alone experience in any white collar field), and it's been over three years since graduating so I'm not in that "new grad" territory any longer. How can I possibly solve this? My goal is to become a technical writer. I'm worried I'll never have a shot again at upward mobility.
Similarly, my friends are great but like It's becoming harder to relate to them, and if I take a job working weekends or overnights it'll be even harder to ever see them. They're already talking about a big group vacation this summer but I won't be able to go because jobs in America won't even give you reasonable unpaid time off. One of the ballasts of my mental health is becoming an anchor.
Anyway, I'm not looking for advice that's really specific. I don't think it'd be possible to give any. I guess I'm just curious for general advice or stories or any inspiration or hope you can offer.
Thanks.
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I'm thirty and my life is barely different from when I was a teenager. In the realm of love and romance I'm about what you'd expect (a "wizard" as it used to be called). I haven't had a real job pretty much ever but I've started and quit A LOT, like nineteen total that I can remember, including a very good job that's easily the second biggest regret of my life behind not getting to know my mom more. I don't have much life experience, work experience, social experience, or romantic experience. That's why I say I really just feel like I'm a teenager still.
My mom died in February after a prolonged illness but she rapidly deteriorated. One day she was sick in the same regular way she had been for months and the second day I could barely hear her speak and the third day she was pretty much unconscious. I managed to talk to her on the second day and promised I would get my life together.
It's been a few months and I'm struggling again. The primary advice I'm looking for is work related. I have never essentially worked for more than a few months at a time and I'm 30. It is brutal trying to get interviews for any decent job. Hell, I know it's hard for people with regular work histories. I've resorted to lying on my resume and making up experience (unrelated to the jobs I'm looking for; just to clear the gap up a little). Honestly, the only thing I can get is working at Amazon, which I've done before and hated (it's multiple parts of those 19 prior jobs). I can't ask anyone in my life for help because my resume has no real work experience. And it just seems like any job I can get means losing my weekends or working overnights. On top of that I have around $18k in credit card debt I need to pay off before I can move out or anything like that. It's hard not to feel doomed, especially when my friends are traveling the world full time, making hundreds of thousands of dollars, opening businesses, starting families, buying homes, etc. Meanwhile I've never had a job or even a girlfriend, and I'm not building a career or wealth or anything.
My life isn't totally doomed. I managed to get a college degree, graduating in 2020 with a computer science degree from a decent school. I only have Dep. of Education student loans which means with the SAVE plan I'm pretty safe on those. I do have a solid group of friends. I'm not homeless and can live at home. I recently became an artist and am very driven about it and into it which has been a major boon in my life.
But some of that good stuff is a double edged sword. If I didn't have a degree then getting one would be an obvious step. But I do have one, and I have no work experience (let alone experience in any white collar field), and it's been over three years since graduating so I'm not in that "new grad" territory any longer. How can I possibly solve this? My goal is to become a technical writer. I'm worried I'll never have a shot again at upward mobility.
Similarly, my friends are great but like It's becoming harder to relate to them, and if I take a job working weekends or overnights it'll be even harder to ever see them. They're already talking about a big group vacation this summer but I won't be able to go because jobs in America won't even give you reasonable unpaid time off. One of the ballasts of my mental health is becoming an anchor.
Anyway, I'm not looking for advice that's really specific. I don't think it'd be possible to give any. I guess I'm just curious for general advice or stories or any inspiration or hope you can offer.
Thanks.
2024.05.20 07:06 Takaroru Pandaria remix is straight up a scam.
"I hope there's someone with a lower level character to help me with this quest so they can kill the mobs faster and I just tag" This is a thing I never thought I'd say out loud while playing any MMO ever.
I wasn't playing WoW over these last years since the end of BFA. I was super hyped about going back to the MoP years since I did raid a whole lot of heroic Siege of Orgrimmar and finished the brawler's guild back then, when it was something of an achievement.
I'm 100% sure no one on blizzard played this on a normal pace up to level 70 and through into Heroic Garrosh, It's an unbelievable fuckup how much weaker I am on my level 70 than I am on a fresh level 10 character. I even tested it. On my warlock, on any Heroic Dungeon, I can't be hit by mechanics, I just die to anything, I got 300k hp, anything can hit me for at least 200k... Usually the big AoE effects that will give you some opportunity to move away with some seconds will tick me once and I'm dead. I redid the same heroic dungeon on a completely fresh warrior, level 10 arms with the fresh cape with Infinite Power XII, that's like +150 strength and +40% versatility. I was soloing everything not caring about aoe effects or if bosses aggroed on me due to my sheer dps and versa, even with only slam, whirlwind and execute I was able to deal about 75% of the whole dungeon damage, with mostly everyone being between the levels 61 and 68.
On the ad they showed a cloak of infinite potential with +234% Exp gain, I was looking thought streams and videos, and I saw no one with a cloak above 185% experience... and that would be on level 69, I really thought I'd get something like 200% extra exp at lvl 50. I thought we could get onto runescape leagues levels of faster experience, but I was tricked onto that.
Now I'm trapped with a level 70 that can barely quest properly now, I can't run heroic dungeons unless lower level people will carry me through since anything that touches me kills me and I can't raid properly (unless I go for raid finder). The only activity I can do to make my character stronger is geting threads, and that's it. Getting +12 random stat every now and then and hope I can reach some level within these 3 months. I thought this mode would be less about grinding and more about skipping steps into the fun (raiding/reaching extreme levels of strength), but it looks like it's only an extremely slow grind during the first 2 months of level 70.
I know about the exploit that was running, and I know I could've gone for that, but I got a life and didn't think it'd matter that much, I just finished leveling my character on sunday morning and the exploit was fixed around that time... too bad, if I knew I'd need it so much I'd gone for it.
Now I paid for a 3 month subscription for a game I wasn't playing, I won't play this mode anymore since I can't do anything on my character that feels weak... and I got about 15 hours of gameplay out of the 3 months I paid for.
This is so unpolished I can't believe they released this in this way, the bronze grind is extreme, and the sheer amount of threads you need is insane, it should probably be considered a scam and legal action should come into blizzard's way, it's impossible to release something this bad and just get away with it. They deliberately made the earlier levels feel like you're stronger just so they could pull the rug on 70 and surprise-grind you into slow as fuck +12 bonuses until you can reach a passable level so you can at least survive 3 ticks of an AoE instead of instant death.
I don't even know how to feel, got scammed back in D3 release in 2012, and just let it pass, got scammed with WoD being the worst xpac and let it pass, then I told myself I'd never get scammed by blizzard again since BFA and here I am, what the fuck.
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I wasn't playing WoW over these last years since the end of BFA. I was super hyped about going back to the MoP years since I did raid a whole lot of heroic Siege of Orgrimmar and finished the brawler's guild back then, when it was something of an achievement.
I'm 100% sure no one on blizzard played this on a normal pace up to level 70 and through into Heroic Garrosh, It's an unbelievable fuckup how much weaker I am on my level 70 than I am on a fresh level 10 character. I even tested it. On my warlock, on any Heroic Dungeon, I can't be hit by
On the ad they showed a cloak of infinite potential with +234% Exp gain, I was looking thought streams and videos, and I saw no one with a cloak above 185% experience... and that would be on level 69, I really thought I'd get something like 200% extra exp at lvl 50. I thought we could get onto runescape leagues levels of faster experience, but I was tricked onto that.
Now I'm trapped with a level 70 that can barely quest properly now, I can't run heroic dungeons unless lower level people will carry me through since anything that touches me kills me and I can't raid properly (unless I go for raid finder). The only activity I can do to make my character stronger is geting threads, and that's it. Getting +12 random stat every now and then and hope I can reach some level within these 3 months. I thought this mode would be less about grinding and more about skipping steps into the fun (raiding/reaching extreme levels of strength), but it looks like it's only an extremely slow grind during the first 2 months of level 70.
I know about the exploit that was running, and I know I could've gone for that, but I got a life and didn't think it'd matter that much, I just finished leveling my character on sunday morning and the exploit was fixed around that time... too bad, if I knew I'd need it so much I'd gone for it.
Now I paid for a 3 month subscription for a game I wasn't playing, I won't play this mode anymore since I can't do anything on my character that feels weak... and I got about 15 hours of gameplay out of the 3 months I paid for.
This is so unpolished I can't believe they released this in this way, the bronze grind is extreme, and the sheer amount of threads you need is insane, it should probably be considered a scam and legal action should come into blizzard's way, it's impossible to release something this bad and just get away with it. They deliberately made the earlier levels feel like you're stronger just so they could pull the rug on 70 and surprise-grind you into slow as fuck +12 bonuses until you can reach a passable level so you can at least survive 3 ticks of an AoE instead of instant death.
I don't even know how to feel, got scammed back in D3 release in 2012, and just let it pass, got scammed with WoD being the worst xpac and let it pass, then I told myself I'd never get scammed by blizzard again since BFA and here I am, what the fuck.
2024.05.20 07:05 ExaminationOld6393 Tucking Properly and garments for all day tuck
TUCKING ALL DAY
A serious guide for a very sexy purpose
This guide is intended to provide information to help a person who is Assigned Male At Birth (AMAB) the instruction for a comfortable way to be tucked for long periods of time and/or to achieve the smoothest appearance. Various clothing options will be provided as well as the pro’s and con’s of each one.
Disclaimer – This guide is intended for people who are 18 years of age or older. For serious tucking only. People who are pre-Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) or who are not going to change their hormones can experience some initial discomfort, pain, or even physical harm leading to a hernia. Consult your primary care physician at your next regular checkup, they will want to conduct an inspection of your lower abdomen for any potential signs of a future hernia. The test is simple involving some pressure being used outside your body to test for any signs of tears just below your skin. While a hernia is not likely to happen to most folks, it is highly worth a few few extra seconds at your visit to the doctor.
This guide should not be used as your only source of information. Please read the entire document before attempting the tucking method from section 2 of this guide.
Thanks, I hope this helps you get soft and smooth you wonderful people!
Section 1 - Terminology
Many people who want to tuck for extended periods of time do not want to refer to their genitalia by the medical terminology. This guide will use slang terminology instead.
Medical Term Term Used Here Definition Used Here
Testicles Berries Balls
Anus and Colon Bussy The surrounding skin is well shaven and the colon is cleaned and ready for penetration
Scrotum Coin Purse This does not include the testicles
Penis Clitty The shaft and head of the penis
Male Genitalia Meat Meaning the external portion, once the testicles are internal they are not included under “Meat”
? Grower A penis which is smaller when not erect
? Shower A penis which is approximately the same size whether flaccid or erect
Section 2 Tucking method
2-1 Tucking Intro
One of the goals of an All Day Tuck is for your Meat to stay in place and the important factors are proper coverage of the garment, sufficient compression of the Meat, and enough insulation to keep everything warm enough to remain a little moist. At times you may want to add a Boy Short panty or any women’s panty over your chosen tucking garments.
Prolonged tucking requires proper hygiene to avoid a yeast infection. It also requires a regular shave down there to avoid chaffing.
The first few times you tuck using this method there can be some initial discomfort or even pain. Do not push yourself too hard. You may want to ease into the full tuck by attempting this method but stop before following all steps. This can be similar to a little stretching before a physical activity. You will need to assess your level of pain, it should not be extreme.
At times you may want to tuck and experience difficulty because there is too much blood in the spongy tissue of your Clitty or you may not have the proper garments yet to contain a proper tuck. In these cases you can follow this tucking method and simply sit down at the edge of your bed or a chair to reduce the size of your swollen Clitty or just to hold your tuck in place
2-2 Hiding Those Berries!
You may need to crouch or lay on your side for best results. Begin by placing your dominant hand behind your back and between the legs.
Grasp the very bottom of your Coin Purse and give it a little tension by pulling gently downwards.
Maintain that light tension on the Coin Purse and bring it back towards your Bussy.
Your Berries should have risen and now be close to the base of your Clitty.
Using your non-dominant hand and spread your fingers in order to be able to manipulate both of your berries. (Live Long and Prosper hand sign From Star Trek)
Gently encourage your Berries upwards on either side of your Clitty. This is where discomfort or pain may occur.
*For novices. You may wish to focus on one Berry at a time if there is difficulty or pain. Just make a small circular motion on the underside of the Berry/Berries to encourage them upwards. There are small openings to the lower abdomen where Berries drop from in infancy. Those openings are usually smaller than your adult Berries, until they are gently stretched a little.
For those who are going to take HRT, an anti-androgen will be taken until such time as the berries cease to function. At that point they will likely become smaller, softer, and less sensitive. Tucking becomes much easier but reproductive functions will be greatly affect
Keeping your berries in the original position will increase their temperature. This will not have any feminizing effects on your body but will likely decrease your sperm production and I have no idea if it will affect production of Testosterone.
2-3 Getting The Meat Into Position
Once the Berries “pop” into position use your non-dominant hand to push your Clitty back towards your Bussy and against your Coin Purse. Note, you should still be using your dominant hand to maintain the position and tension on your Coin Purse.
The final step for this tucking method and just before you secure your tuck with appropriate clothing is to hold the tuck together by squeezing your thighs together.
The next section covers the popular clothing items used to maintain a tuck in a comfortable and sustainable way.
NO DUCT TAPE!!!
Section 3 Clothing To Secure That Tuck
Gaffs
I use many different brands and do not recommend any one over another. I will say that BBlair offers good quality and it’s Trans Owned! Gaff And Go offers gaffs with thinner waist straps. Pictured here is a transwoman who likely has less meat than average or an expert at minimizing There are many shapes and materials for modern gaffs. Stretch Satin is the most securing material and stretches less than other clothing options listed below, but has an optimal design. A stretch satin gaff is a great choice for beginners and experts alike. Some less desirable aspects are the cheaper models often do not have a narrow thong leaving to much material between the butt cheeks, they are generally 25-35 USD, and are less sexy or less like a woman’s panty.
Most of my 14 years tucking have been with Gaff panties.
No-Show Women’s Stretch Brief Panties
I have no brand opinions for these. You can just go to any women’s department and are likely to find something that works.
This is the most comfortable and least sexy option for securing a tuck, most suitable for a good night’s sleep. Multiple panties are layered with one or two being put on backwards. You may add a final layer with the panties put on in the intended position. You should experiment with panties one and two sizes smaller than recommended for your waist/hip size.
Your Meat may remain secured best if positioned a little more towards your front which can leave a little bulging with some outfits.
Even More Options – Advanced
Stripper Clothing!!! Bonus points!!!
Body Zone and The Beauty Cave offer options I have access to at a store near me. I am not endorsing these Brands over other brands, I just do not know of other brands that may work. These items are thin and stretchy unlike similar items designed for swimming, this is key.
Bikini Bottoms Method
This is great for those with less Meat or who are experienced with gaffs and with minimizing their Clitties.
Prepare your tuck and put a string bikini bottom on as a first layer. It should be located further back than intended so that the bottom of the Coin Purse and head of the Clitty will be contained. It’s okay if a little Meat sticks out over the top.
Put a second string bikini on as intended to be worn. This method may not work for everyone and will take some practice. A tie string bikini might help with it’s customizable tension.
This is the method I use for tanning and achieving porn star tan lines.
Conclusion
Compression
Comfort
Warmth
Find what works for you and have fun
SIT ON IT!!!
About the author
I was assigned male at birth. I am in my 40s now. I was deeply closeted until I was 30 years old and just ready for everything to end. I love this world and want others to have an easier time in life than I did. I love you all. See you around you sexy babes <3
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A serious guide for a very sexy purpose
This guide is intended to provide information to help a person who is Assigned Male At Birth (AMAB) the instruction for a comfortable way to be tucked for long periods of time and/or to achieve the smoothest appearance. Various clothing options will be provided as well as the pro’s and con’s of each one.
Disclaimer – This guide is intended for people who are 18 years of age or older. For serious tucking only. People who are pre-Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) or who are not going to change their hormones can experience some initial discomfort, pain, or even physical harm leading to a hernia. Consult your primary care physician at your next regular checkup, they will want to conduct an inspection of your lower abdomen for any potential signs of a future hernia. The test is simple involving some pressure being used outside your body to test for any signs of tears just below your skin. While a hernia is not likely to happen to most folks, it is highly worth a few few extra seconds at your visit to the doctor.
This guide should not be used as your only source of information. Please read the entire document before attempting the tucking method from section 2 of this guide.
Thanks, I hope this helps you get soft and smooth you wonderful people!
Section 1 - Terminology
Many people who want to tuck for extended periods of time do not want to refer to their genitalia by the medical terminology. This guide will use slang terminology instead.
Medical Term Term Used Here Definition Used Here
Testicles Berries Balls
Anus and Colon Bussy The surrounding skin is well shaven and the colon is cleaned and ready for penetration
Scrotum Coin Purse This does not include the testicles
Penis Clitty The shaft and head of the penis
Male Genitalia Meat Meaning the external portion, once the testicles are internal they are not included under “Meat”
? Grower A penis which is smaller when not erect
? Shower A penis which is approximately the same size whether flaccid or erect
Section 2 Tucking method
2-1 Tucking Intro
One of the goals of an All Day Tuck is for your Meat to stay in place and the important factors are proper coverage of the garment, sufficient compression of the Meat, and enough insulation to keep everything warm enough to remain a little moist. At times you may want to add a Boy Short panty or any women’s panty over your chosen tucking garments.
Prolonged tucking requires proper hygiene to avoid a yeast infection. It also requires a regular shave down there to avoid chaffing.
The first few times you tuck using this method there can be some initial discomfort or even pain. Do not push yourself too hard. You may want to ease into the full tuck by attempting this method but stop before following all steps. This can be similar to a little stretching before a physical activity. You will need to assess your level of pain, it should not be extreme.
At times you may want to tuck and experience difficulty because there is too much blood in the spongy tissue of your Clitty or you may not have the proper garments yet to contain a proper tuck. In these cases you can follow this tucking method and simply sit down at the edge of your bed or a chair to reduce the size of your swollen Clitty or just to hold your tuck in place
2-2 Hiding Those Berries!
You may need to crouch or lay on your side for best results. Begin by placing your dominant hand behind your back and between the legs.
Grasp the very bottom of your Coin Purse and give it a little tension by pulling gently downwards.
Maintain that light tension on the Coin Purse and bring it back towards your Bussy.
Your Berries should have risen and now be close to the base of your Clitty.
Using your non-dominant hand and spread your fingers in order to be able to manipulate both of your berries. (Live Long and Prosper hand sign From Star Trek)
Gently encourage your Berries upwards on either side of your Clitty. This is where discomfort or pain may occur.
*For novices. You may wish to focus on one Berry at a time if there is difficulty or pain. Just make a small circular motion on the underside of the Berry/Berries to encourage them upwards. There are small openings to the lower abdomen where Berries drop from in infancy. Those openings are usually smaller than your adult Berries, until they are gently stretched a little.
For those who are going to take HRT, an anti-androgen will be taken until such time as the berries cease to function. At that point they will likely become smaller, softer, and less sensitive. Tucking becomes much easier but reproductive functions will be greatly affect
Keeping your berries in the original position will increase their temperature. This will not have any feminizing effects on your body but will likely decrease your sperm production and I have no idea if it will affect production of Testosterone.
2-3 Getting The Meat Into Position
Once the Berries “pop” into position use your non-dominant hand to push your Clitty back towards your Bussy and against your Coin Purse. Note, you should still be using your dominant hand to maintain the position and tension on your Coin Purse.
The final step for this tucking method and just before you secure your tuck with appropriate clothing is to hold the tuck together by squeezing your thighs together.
The next section covers the popular clothing items used to maintain a tuck in a comfortable and sustainable way.
NO DUCT TAPE!!!
Section 3 Clothing To Secure That Tuck
Gaffs
I use many different brands and do not recommend any one over another. I will say that BBlair offers good quality and it’s Trans Owned! Gaff And Go offers gaffs with thinner waist straps. Pictured here is a transwoman who likely has less meat than average or an expert at minimizing There are many shapes and materials for modern gaffs. Stretch Satin is the most securing material and stretches less than other clothing options listed below, but has an optimal design. A stretch satin gaff is a great choice for beginners and experts alike. Some less desirable aspects are the cheaper models often do not have a narrow thong leaving to much material between the butt cheeks, they are generally 25-35 USD, and are less sexy or less like a woman’s panty.
Most of my 14 years tucking have been with Gaff panties.
No-Show Women’s Stretch Brief Panties
I have no brand opinions for these. You can just go to any women’s department and are likely to find something that works.
This is the most comfortable and least sexy option for securing a tuck, most suitable for a good night’s sleep. Multiple panties are layered with one or two being put on backwards. You may add a final layer with the panties put on in the intended position. You should experiment with panties one and two sizes smaller than recommended for your waist/hip size.
Your Meat may remain secured best if positioned a little more towards your front which can leave a little bulging with some outfits.
Even More Options – Advanced
Stripper Clothing!!! Bonus points!!!
Body Zone and The Beauty Cave offer options I have access to at a store near me. I am not endorsing these Brands over other brands, I just do not know of other brands that may work. These items are thin and stretchy unlike similar items designed for swimming, this is key.
Bikini Bottoms Method
This is great for those with less Meat or who are experienced with gaffs and with minimizing their Clitties.
Prepare your tuck and put a string bikini bottom on as a first layer. It should be located further back than intended so that the bottom of the Coin Purse and head of the Clitty will be contained. It’s okay if a little Meat sticks out over the top.
Put a second string bikini on as intended to be worn. This method may not work for everyone and will take some practice. A tie string bikini might help with it’s customizable tension.
This is the method I use for tanning and achieving porn star tan lines.
Conclusion
Compression
Comfort
Warmth
Find what works for you and have fun
SIT ON IT!!!
About the author
I was assigned male at birth. I am in my 40s now. I was deeply closeted until I was 30 years old and just ready for everything to end. I love this world and want others to have an easier time in life than I did. I love you all. See you around you sexy babes <3
2024.05.20 07:05 LucyAriaRose AITA For being cautious about letting my ex back into our daughter's life after 5 years?
I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Ok_Outcome3739. She posted in AITAH
Original Post: May 11, 2024
I 29F have a 5F with my ex 32M. We were engaged but never really planned to have kids before marriage or at least for the next few years. I was on the pill and he used protection sometimes but I ended up pregnant. Since it was unplanned. Abortion was on the table. He was more into making it work so both of us decided to keep the baby. I wasn't emotionally prepared but for him love is all it takes to make everything work. Fast forward 6 months he started to change. He would give me the silent treatment if I do something wrong. He wouldn't engage in any conversation about the baby and would just yell at me if I ask what's wrong. I was almost 8 months pregnant when he told me he's just not ready to be a father and can't do both things. It's either fatherhood or his career. I was scared to be a single mother so I told him it's fine I can take care of our baby and be a SAHM until things get better for him, but he refused and made it clear everything is over. Since the house was his I left and went to live with my mom until I found myself a place.
I gave birth to my baby girl and he never came to see her. His mother and sister were there for me and to this day they're still part of my daughter's life. As for him he gave up his parental rights and granted me full custody (legally) but was willing to contribute financially through child support (He voluntarily provides financial support in an amicable arrangement). I'm not proud of it but there are nights I called him just to ask him why did he do that to us. I wasn't even ready but seeing him happy and excited made me think we could make it work together. He never really answered my calls. We used to communicate through his mother or sister or email. I love my baby and won't ever see her as a mistake. I'm still doing my best to be the best mother she deserves. I have a good paying job now and everything is better than before.
Now here's the thing. After 5 years and when I finally feel my life got better and figured out my shit, he wants to get involved. He's been calling and texting me for a week now. He doesn't regret a thing and he's not asking. He's telling me that he has the right to see his daughter and be there for her. How can I trust him not to wake up one day and decide being in her life is a mistake and disappear again? He can do that to me but I just don't want my daughter to get hurt. I told him he can see her but not this way. He wants more than just to see her. He even threatened me if I don't agree then he has no problem telling her in the future how I'm the reason she grew up without a father.
His mother and even my mother want me to just let him into my daughter's life with no exceptions. And I'm not comfortable doing that because I know him. WIBTA if I decide on what's best for our daughter or just suck it up and let him in?
Edit: just wanted to mention English isn't my first language, so sorry if there are any errors. Also sorry if this is a bit long but I wanted to give you all the details.
Relevant Comments:
What the hell changed:
Exactly, I don't know how. He never answered my calls for two years and never wanted to see her for 5 years and now out of nowhere he's blowing up my phone demanding a relationship with her and expecting me to just let him in. Thank you for the advice 🙌🏻
Downvoted Comment:
Commenter: I take it that you trust your mother, that she knows everything that happened just as much as you do, that you don't think she has any malice towards you or your daughter.
If that is the case then it should at least give you pause to question why it is she does not agree with you on this matter and you should at least speak to her and ask her what her reasons are.
This has nothing to do with what you think he deserves. This is entirely about would it be beneficial for your daughter to have a positive relationship with her father and to have him as a presence in her life. You have no right to deny that to your child and if he does tell her you are the reason she grew up without a father, that will be 100% the truth.
He didn't stop with the calls and texts and I read some of the comments wondering why he suddenly wants to be in my daughter's life so I agreed to meet up with him and discuss everything yesterday. We talked for about 30 mins. 30 mins of me trying to explain to him that he literally gave up his parental rights years ago and there's no need for threatening since he legally has no right to see her if I don't allow him. While he was focused on expressing how I haven't changed and complimenting my body. His comments became too much so I decided to just leave but I noticed he was wearing a ring on his right hand and didn't hesitate to ask him about it. He said he proposed a few weeks ago but he thinks he rushed things. I asked him if she knows about my daughter and if this is why he's here. He said no she still doesn't know and he genuinely wants to be part of his daughter's life. He basically spent 30 mins flirting with no shame that he's engaged and showed no sign of being genuinely interested in getting involved. I told him to just forget about my daughter but if he wants to we can see a judge and they can laugh at him. He threatened to cut financial support and I made it clear I never really needed his help. Sending me $1000 once or twice a year with his sister was already no help and I can give back his money if he wants to.
Now I know what I did wrong but it was the only way to get the answer I needed. On my way home I called his sister and lied about how things went. I said that he told me everything and how his fiancée encourages him to be a better person and I think that's why he wants in which is a good thing. His sister told me everything I needed to know. How his fiancée has a good heart and how she didn't like it when she discovered that he has a daughter but never saw her before. She basically wouldn't have said yes if he didn't promise to try and fix things. So both his mother and sister knew the reason he wanted to get back into my daughter's life and his mother encouraged me to let him in without even being honest with me.
So all this wasn't about my daughter. It was about him and impressing his fiancée who was horrified that he wants nothing to do with his daughter. My mother gets it now but his mother called the same day asking what's the plan now. I told her there's no plan. He could have just given me full custody but he wanted nothing to do with her to the point he decided to sign away his rights. And he seemed already fine with the relationship they have which is none. She tried to make me consider letting him in because at the end it's my daughter's decision. My daughter is 5 years old what decision?? Anyway I made it clear to her that both her and her daughter legally aren't my child's family and from now on there will be no alone time with her. And if they keep pressing me I can easily cut them out.
I will discuss this with a lawyer though. I have everything documented and I'm sure he doesn't have a leg to stand on but still. Just in case he tries something.
And let me show you some of his texts that I'm very tempted to get his fiancée's number and send her some screenshots. English isn't our first language so I translated them for you
"Who sees you now would never tell you weren't ready for this. you look happier"
"You know I really didn't know how much I missed you until I saw you today"
"Good night beautiful kiss (my daughter's name) for me"
I don't know if I'm just overreacting but if my fiancé texts his ex this way. I for sure won't find it acceptable.
By the way with him back. I realized that I never really dealt with the way he broke my heart. Maybe I cried but I had to figure out my life as soon as I could for the sake of my daughter. When I gave birth all I started thinking about was my daughter. Even the nights I called him it was never to ask about 'me' it was always about 'us'. I was scared and not ready to be a mom. And now that I'm a mother I've never felt this strong. I don't know what I'm trying to say here but I'm glad how my life turned out.
Thank you for the advice. I'm glad I gathered the courage to see him. I feel so much better. At least now I know I don't have to worry about him shaking my baby's life up 🙌🏻🤍🤍
Relevant Comments:
Commenter: Im sorry you have to deal with this jerk op. So many people in your og post called it. He’s only interested in your daughter because of his new woman
Honesty block him and go very lc with his family because they are not looking out for your or your daughters best interest
Something tells me you'll be bonding over his abandoned children in a few years.
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Mood Spoiler: OOP gets answersOriginal Post: May 11, 2024
I 29F have a 5F with my ex 32M. We were engaged but never really planned to have kids before marriage or at least for the next few years. I was on the pill and he used protection sometimes but I ended up pregnant. Since it was unplanned. Abortion was on the table. He was more into making it work so both of us decided to keep the baby. I wasn't emotionally prepared but for him love is all it takes to make everything work. Fast forward 6 months he started to change. He would give me the silent treatment if I do something wrong. He wouldn't engage in any conversation about the baby and would just yell at me if I ask what's wrong. I was almost 8 months pregnant when he told me he's just not ready to be a father and can't do both things. It's either fatherhood or his career. I was scared to be a single mother so I told him it's fine I can take care of our baby and be a SAHM until things get better for him, but he refused and made it clear everything is over. Since the house was his I left and went to live with my mom until I found myself a place.
I gave birth to my baby girl and he never came to see her. His mother and sister were there for me and to this day they're still part of my daughter's life. As for him he gave up his parental rights and granted me full custody (legally) but was willing to contribute financially through child support (He voluntarily provides financial support in an amicable arrangement). I'm not proud of it but there are nights I called him just to ask him why did he do that to us. I wasn't even ready but seeing him happy and excited made me think we could make it work together. He never really answered my calls. We used to communicate through his mother or sister or email. I love my baby and won't ever see her as a mistake. I'm still doing my best to be the best mother she deserves. I have a good paying job now and everything is better than before.
Now here's the thing. After 5 years and when I finally feel my life got better and figured out my shit, he wants to get involved. He's been calling and texting me for a week now. He doesn't regret a thing and he's not asking. He's telling me that he has the right to see his daughter and be there for her. How can I trust him not to wake up one day and decide being in her life is a mistake and disappear again? He can do that to me but I just don't want my daughter to get hurt. I told him he can see her but not this way. He wants more than just to see her. He even threatened me if I don't agree then he has no problem telling her in the future how I'm the reason she grew up without a father.
His mother and even my mother want me to just let him into my daughter's life with no exceptions. And I'm not comfortable doing that because I know him. WIBTA if I decide on what's best for our daughter or just suck it up and let him in?
Edit: just wanted to mention English isn't my first language, so sorry if there are any errors. Also sorry if this is a bit long but I wanted to give you all the details.
Relevant Comments:
What the hell changed:
Exactly, I don't know how. He never answered my calls for two years and never wanted to see her for 5 years and now out of nowhere he's blowing up my phone demanding a relationship with her and expecting me to just let him in. Thank you for the advice 🙌🏻
Downvoted Comment:
Commenter: I take it that you trust your mother, that she knows everything that happened just as much as you do, that you don't think she has any malice towards you or your daughter.
If that is the case then it should at least give you pause to question why it is she does not agree with you on this matter and you should at least speak to her and ask her what her reasons are.
This has nothing to do with what you think he deserves. This is entirely about would it be beneficial for your daughter to have a positive relationship with her father and to have him as a presence in her life. You have no right to deny that to your child and if he does tell her you are the reason she grew up without a father, that will be 100% the truth.
OOP: My mother hates to see her daughter being a single mom. I'll be honest here. my family felt ashamed to have a pregnant daughter outside of marriage. she not only wants him back in my daughter's life but she also wishes to see us back together. As for his mother. It's HIS mother I don't need to say more.Update Post: May 13
He didn't stop with the calls and texts and I read some of the comments wondering why he suddenly wants to be in my daughter's life so I agreed to meet up with him and discuss everything yesterday. We talked for about 30 mins. 30 mins of me trying to explain to him that he literally gave up his parental rights years ago and there's no need for threatening since he legally has no right to see her if I don't allow him. While he was focused on expressing how I haven't changed and complimenting my body. His comments became too much so I decided to just leave but I noticed he was wearing a ring on his right hand and didn't hesitate to ask him about it. He said he proposed a few weeks ago but he thinks he rushed things. I asked him if she knows about my daughter and if this is why he's here. He said no she still doesn't know and he genuinely wants to be part of his daughter's life. He basically spent 30 mins flirting with no shame that he's engaged and showed no sign of being genuinely interested in getting involved. I told him to just forget about my daughter but if he wants to we can see a judge and they can laugh at him. He threatened to cut financial support and I made it clear I never really needed his help. Sending me $1000 once or twice a year with his sister was already no help and I can give back his money if he wants to.
Now I know what I did wrong but it was the only way to get the answer I needed. On my way home I called his sister and lied about how things went. I said that he told me everything and how his fiancée encourages him to be a better person and I think that's why he wants in which is a good thing. His sister told me everything I needed to know. How his fiancée has a good heart and how she didn't like it when she discovered that he has a daughter but never saw her before. She basically wouldn't have said yes if he didn't promise to try and fix things. So both his mother and sister knew the reason he wanted to get back into my daughter's life and his mother encouraged me to let him in without even being honest with me.
So all this wasn't about my daughter. It was about him and impressing his fiancée who was horrified that he wants nothing to do with his daughter. My mother gets it now but his mother called the same day asking what's the plan now. I told her there's no plan. He could have just given me full custody but he wanted nothing to do with her to the point he decided to sign away his rights. And he seemed already fine with the relationship they have which is none. She tried to make me consider letting him in because at the end it's my daughter's decision. My daughter is 5 years old what decision?? Anyway I made it clear to her that both her and her daughter legally aren't my child's family and from now on there will be no alone time with her. And if they keep pressing me I can easily cut them out.
I will discuss this with a lawyer though. I have everything documented and I'm sure he doesn't have a leg to stand on but still. Just in case he tries something.
And let me show you some of his texts that I'm very tempted to get his fiancée's number and send her some screenshots. English isn't our first language so I translated them for you
"Who sees you now would never tell you weren't ready for this. you look happier"
"You know I really didn't know how much I missed you until I saw you today"
"Good night beautiful kiss (my daughter's name) for me"
I don't know if I'm just overreacting but if my fiancé texts his ex this way. I for sure won't find it acceptable.
By the way with him back. I realized that I never really dealt with the way he broke my heart. Maybe I cried but I had to figure out my life as soon as I could for the sake of my daughter. When I gave birth all I started thinking about was my daughter. Even the nights I called him it was never to ask about 'me' it was always about 'us'. I was scared and not ready to be a mom. And now that I'm a mother I've never felt this strong. I don't know what I'm trying to say here but I'm glad how my life turned out.
Thank you for the advice. I'm glad I gathered the courage to see him. I feel so much better. At least now I know I don't have to worry about him shaking my baby's life up 🙌🏻🤍🤍
Relevant Comments:
Commenter: Im sorry you have to deal with this jerk op. So many people in your og post called it. He’s only interested in your daughter because of his new woman
Honesty block him and go very lc with his family because they are not looking out for your or your daughters best interest
OOP: Thank you. I'm planning to do that but he's still not done with the threats about telling lies to my daughter. I'm trying to gather everything I can before I block him.Commenter: Ask the sister for the fiancée's number, say he forgot to give it to you.
Something tells me you'll be bonding over his abandoned children in a few years.
OOP: Love the idea🙌🏻 shared trauma makes for great bounding material 😂🙌🏻🤍
2024.05.20 07:05 Content-Following202 WDID if my boyfriend would rather jerk off than be intimate with me?
So my boyfriend 25M and I 22F have been together for almost 4 years now and recently I have felt like he is loosing attraction towards me. I don't know what to do so I'm coming here for advice.
We met on tinder summer 2020, we met just to hook up but continued to hang out and ended up dating after about 1 week or 2. I had to go to another state for college but we continued to be together, I would drive to see him every other week (about a 3 hour drive) and would stay with him. Everything was good and we had intimate time often.
We figured out quite quickly that his love language is quality time and mine was physical touch. He has never been much of a touchy person so that was something I had to get used to.
Fast forward two years we both have graduated and now live together in his hometown. I love it here, our home, our life here. He has a great job that pays great and I am very grateful for him because without him I wouldn't be able to afford this life. I love my job (I am a teacher) but it gets stressful taking care of children all day. He worked very hard to get to were he is now so I am very proud of him for it.
I do most of the cooking, we split the cleaning and chores around the house. Yes we have had some disagreements over the years about things but we have always been able to talk it through and work something out that works for both of us when we have had a long week.
We have very good communication skills in our relationship so I have never felt like I can't talk to him about something that's been bothering me. So when it comes to this I feel like I have tried so much I am just tired of talking and ready for fixing.
About a year ago I caught him talking to another girl, she blew him off but from what I understand (parts were said on Snapchat and the rest were on messenger) he just wanted pictures and she wouldn't send them. I was gone back to my hometown for a week. I called often but he didn't talk much. Hes not much a talker on the phone so I didn't think much of it, so when I got home and I saw the messages (he left his phone open in the bathroom). The next morning I confronted him and he said he was lonely and missed me. I told him that I need to talk to him and even FaceTime but he was always too tired or not in the mood.
It took about a month to get through that but I still feel alarms going off in my head when I see him on his phone late at night or closing out apps when I walk in the room.
I feel like that was the start of me feeling like he was looking interest in me. Sexually anyways. He was always loving it every other way, I felt comforted and cared for which I didn't get while growing up.
For the rest of the year it was good, we went on weekly dates, spent time together talked through emotions when we'd get overwhelmed or was having a hard time mentally because of stress. I love him and I always felt like he loved me.
But we still were not being intimate. When I would try he'd say he was tired from work or just not in the mood. I would try to get him in the mood with massages, dirty talk, foreplay, lingerie etc. But it just didn't do anything. I found a pattern that he'd only be in the mood in the morning on Saturdays or Sundays.
When I would bring it up he'd say he didn't realize that's what he was doing and he was sorry for making me feel like he wasn't attracted and that he loves me very much and he just doesn't have much of a sex drive because of the medication he is taking or work has been a lot. He was also getting his bachelor's online and that was also taking a lot of energy from him. I always understood.
One Friday when I got home I did the cleaning, I cooked and served him before he had his weekly gaming night with his friends I tried to get him in the mood and I was shut down like always. "I'm too tired and I just want to relax and get the game ready for tonight." Is what he said. So I left him alone, I had a good night by myself with dessert some wine and get up the bathroom for a bath.
Before I got in the tub I realized I forgot my robe in our bedroom, so I got on a towel and went over to get it and when I opened the door I found him in bed jerking off to some porn. Which I found out later that he doesn't watch porn on sites he comes on Reddit.
"I'm sorry, I forgot my robe!" I blurted out after I stood in the door a second stunned because I have never walked in on him before. I hurried and got my robe before sprinting out the door back into the bathroom. I heard him yell I love you and something else but I shut the door before I heard.
At first I laughed because it's embarrassing to be caught and it was just funny to be honest. Then I started crying, I felt like I hadn't cried in so long from how hard I cried. It hurt. To only be touched, kissed more than just a peck, once a month. It hurt more than I realized.
I understand that its easier to just take care of it yourself, I'm no one to judge, you know yourself best and there is no shame in that. And sometimes yes sex can take a lot of energy. But to be shut down every time, it wasn't like I was asking all the time like I'm a horndog, it fucking hurt.
After a few hours in the bathroom I finally went to bed and he was sound asleep. I felt like I was being dramatic, like I was crazy and I needed to get over myself.
The next day I explained how I have been feeling. How it feels like I'm just someone that comes home and cooks, takes care of things and then we sleep in the same bed.
He said he didn't notice this and thought everything was going good. I have brought up how little we have sex before and it was always the same answer. I told him that yes everything has been good, but I just don't feel like your attracted to me anymore, how we used to have sex weekly, more than once a week. After that we had more conversations and had intimate times more but still limited, I took what I could get.
It was still only when he'd be in the mood but still I felt like it had to have something else to get in the mood, like he'd only be ready after being on his phone or if his office/bathroom for a while. Or right when he'd come home from work. I still felt like I couldn't get him in the mood.
Lately at night he has been going out to the living room before bed saying he was too hot in the room, which I understood because he gets hot easy and I get cold so I always have multiple blankets. We sleep with separate blankets for that reason, which other people said is weird for a couple but I'm fine with it as long as I get my blankets.
As more of a joke I asked him if he goes to the couch to jerk off and then come back to bed. He said yes sometime. Which again hurt. I'm right here! What do I have to do to get some dick! He said he didn't want to lie and say no but he also didn't want to hurt my feelings.
I just don't know what to do anymore, I just want him to look at ME and see something he wants. I want him to want me. I want him to see me and think how sexy I am and want me. Am I not good enough? Do I gross him out? Have a done something to make him not want that from me? I am chubby, but he said he likes chubby girls and I never felt insecure about it till all this...What do I do?
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We met on tinder summer 2020, we met just to hook up but continued to hang out and ended up dating after about 1 week or 2. I had to go to another state for college but we continued to be together, I would drive to see him every other week (about a 3 hour drive) and would stay with him. Everything was good and we had intimate time often.
We figured out quite quickly that his love language is quality time and mine was physical touch. He has never been much of a touchy person so that was something I had to get used to.
Fast forward two years we both have graduated and now live together in his hometown. I love it here, our home, our life here. He has a great job that pays great and I am very grateful for him because without him I wouldn't be able to afford this life. I love my job (I am a teacher) but it gets stressful taking care of children all day. He worked very hard to get to were he is now so I am very proud of him for it.
I do most of the cooking, we split the cleaning and chores around the house. Yes we have had some disagreements over the years about things but we have always been able to talk it through and work something out that works for both of us when we have had a long week.
We have very good communication skills in our relationship so I have never felt like I can't talk to him about something that's been bothering me. So when it comes to this I feel like I have tried so much I am just tired of talking and ready for fixing.
About a year ago I caught him talking to another girl, she blew him off but from what I understand (parts were said on Snapchat and the rest were on messenger) he just wanted pictures and she wouldn't send them. I was gone back to my hometown for a week. I called often but he didn't talk much. Hes not much a talker on the phone so I didn't think much of it, so when I got home and I saw the messages (he left his phone open in the bathroom). The next morning I confronted him and he said he was lonely and missed me. I told him that I need to talk to him and even FaceTime but he was always too tired or not in the mood.
It took about a month to get through that but I still feel alarms going off in my head when I see him on his phone late at night or closing out apps when I walk in the room.
I feel like that was the start of me feeling like he was looking interest in me. Sexually anyways. He was always loving it every other way, I felt comforted and cared for which I didn't get while growing up.
For the rest of the year it was good, we went on weekly dates, spent time together talked through emotions when we'd get overwhelmed or was having a hard time mentally because of stress. I love him and I always felt like he loved me.
But we still were not being intimate. When I would try he'd say he was tired from work or just not in the mood. I would try to get him in the mood with massages, dirty talk, foreplay, lingerie etc. But it just didn't do anything. I found a pattern that he'd only be in the mood in the morning on Saturdays or Sundays.
When I would bring it up he'd say he didn't realize that's what he was doing and he was sorry for making me feel like he wasn't attracted and that he loves me very much and he just doesn't have much of a sex drive because of the medication he is taking or work has been a lot. He was also getting his bachelor's online and that was also taking a lot of energy from him. I always understood.
One Friday when I got home I did the cleaning, I cooked and served him before he had his weekly gaming night with his friends I tried to get him in the mood and I was shut down like always. "I'm too tired and I just want to relax and get the game ready for tonight." Is what he said. So I left him alone, I had a good night by myself with dessert some wine and get up the bathroom for a bath.
Before I got in the tub I realized I forgot my robe in our bedroom, so I got on a towel and went over to get it and when I opened the door I found him in bed jerking off to some porn. Which I found out later that he doesn't watch porn on sites he comes on Reddit.
"I'm sorry, I forgot my robe!" I blurted out after I stood in the door a second stunned because I have never walked in on him before. I hurried and got my robe before sprinting out the door back into the bathroom. I heard him yell I love you and something else but I shut the door before I heard.
At first I laughed because it's embarrassing to be caught and it was just funny to be honest. Then I started crying, I felt like I hadn't cried in so long from how hard I cried. It hurt. To only be touched, kissed more than just a peck, once a month. It hurt more than I realized.
I understand that its easier to just take care of it yourself, I'm no one to judge, you know yourself best and there is no shame in that. And sometimes yes sex can take a lot of energy. But to be shut down every time, it wasn't like I was asking all the time like I'm a horndog, it fucking hurt.
After a few hours in the bathroom I finally went to bed and he was sound asleep. I felt like I was being dramatic, like I was crazy and I needed to get over myself.
The next day I explained how I have been feeling. How it feels like I'm just someone that comes home and cooks, takes care of things and then we sleep in the same bed.
He said he didn't notice this and thought everything was going good. I have brought up how little we have sex before and it was always the same answer. I told him that yes everything has been good, but I just don't feel like your attracted to me anymore, how we used to have sex weekly, more than once a week. After that we had more conversations and had intimate times more but still limited, I took what I could get.
It was still only when he'd be in the mood but still I felt like it had to have something else to get in the mood, like he'd only be ready after being on his phone or if his office/bathroom for a while. Or right when he'd come home from work. I still felt like I couldn't get him in the mood.
Lately at night he has been going out to the living room before bed saying he was too hot in the room, which I understood because he gets hot easy and I get cold so I always have multiple blankets. We sleep with separate blankets for that reason, which other people said is weird for a couple but I'm fine with it as long as I get my blankets.
As more of a joke I asked him if he goes to the couch to jerk off and then come back to bed. He said yes sometime. Which again hurt. I'm right here! What do I have to do to get some dick! He said he didn't want to lie and say no but he also didn't want to hurt my feelings.
I just don't know what to do anymore, I just want him to look at ME and see something he wants. I want him to want me. I want him to see me and think how sexy I am and want me. Am I not good enough? Do I gross him out? Have a done something to make him not want that from me? I am chubby, but he said he likes chubby girls and I never felt insecure about it till all this...What do I do?
2024.05.20 07:05 Yoshi02727 Millennial Birth Chart
 | Hello, I am trying to understand my birth chart. I put it into Astro-Chart.com and it said I have 2 grand trines, 10 trines, 2 kites, 2 yods, and a t-square. However, I’ve been told this site isn’t always accurate. I mainly want to know what my chart says about the overall direction of my life and specifically my careeprojects. Any help would be greatly appreciated 🙂 submitted by Yoshi02727 to AskAstrologers [link] [comments] |
2024.05.20 07:05 DaSchmoe I've had a recurring theme of cannibalism in my dreams lately
Just a brief introduction before we get into the dream. I am 17(m) and I regularly have extremely vivid dreams where I'm fully engrossed and believe 100% that what I'm experiencing is reality and not a dream. I wake up daily either sad or relieved that what I had experienced in the night wasn't reality. As you can imagine this makes dreams either blissful or horrifying, depending on the contents. Another thing to note is that this is probably the third dream I've had where someone has been trying to eat me.
So basically the first thing I can remember in the dream was that I was with 2 of my buddies and we were riding Hogs (Yes, large pigs) down the highway at 120 mph+. Extremely fun and exhilarating as we passed by car after car at extremely high speeds. After a while, we take a turn to the left and start taking a trail through the most beautiful valley. The sun is shining down with a yellowy and orangish tint. The grass around me is swaying in the wind all across these countless hills. Truly one of the most beautiful scenes of nature I've ever seen, I couldn't have predicted what would happen next. We eventually come across a small town with a tavern and a bunch of people sitting, drinking, and watching something happen in a pit. I forget what was going on inside the pit but I don't recall it being anything bad, a soccer match perhaps? (That's what my mind is leaning towards anyway). Overtime me and 1 buddy of mine get to know the people of the town a bit better and the town leader (I wouldn't call him the mayor, he was more of just a leading figure in their community than a mayor, but I'll call him that anyway for convenience). (Something to note is that the mayor is a tall and strong man, probably about 7 feet tall and heavy, I couldn't tell you how heavy tho) The mayor was extremely hospitable to us and even showed us a place to stay with another person who also seemed to be traveling along and staying for a while. (I don't know exactly where my third friend went, however, I'm quite certain he stayed on the road and continued towards our original direction). The traveler (As I'll call him) was around 6ft 70kg and black in skin color. He was a kind, quiet fellow. However, he didn't really wanna make too much eye contact with me (which will make sense later on). I didn't think too much of it at the time. The day passes by without much else happening and I fall asleep in the same room as the traveler with my friend there alongside me, and we wake up in the morning. The next morning we are sitting at the bar when all of a sudden the mayor walks out of the back and right past me with two rather fancy antique cheese knives in each hand. I could feel the dread build up inside me for a split second. (I thought he was coming to kill me) I quickly become slightly relieved after he walks straight past me, however, that was short-lived as he shouts something to someone else and sticks him with both knives right in the chest. It was horrifying to witness the breath and life get sucked out of that man right before my very eyes, it was so real. There was also a sound effect of a deep "bumm" sound the second he stabbed him, only adding to the severity of the moment. I was about to start fighting the mayor but before I did, I realized everyone in the town was on his side. They started chanting and all looked at me and my friend as though they were going to kill us next. It was at this moment I realized all these people were cannibals luring victims into their town to kill and eat. I instantly became disgusted as I had eaten some of their meat the prior day. I was scared and began to run, however I didn't get far before eventually being taken down and captured. (This was the last thing I remember before being ported back at the start of when I first came across the town). I had died but it was as though I was given a second chance to try and survive this encounter (This had never happened to me in a dream before, I had never died in any of the dreams leading up to this point). I walked through the town and into the tavern keeping a cool face despite knowing full well what was going to happen the following day. I got back to the part where the mayor introduced me to the traveler, I looked at him with disdain as I realized he had sided with the cannibals. This is why he couldn't look me in the eyes, he was too ashamed of the fact he knew what would happen to us. I'm dreading going to sleep in this tavern as I know that these people are trying to eat me ("What if they get me in my sleep" is what I was thinking at the time). To my surprise the event didn't wait for the next day this time, it was happening now, just as I had sat down at the bar. I watched the mayor rush past me again and try to stab the same man. I caught on faster this time and stopped him. This time I was ready to fight back properly. To my surprise, the traveler stood up and helped me and my friend, however, the sheer number of the people was too much and they took him down. I was with my friend and while they were jumping the traveler we ran. I'm sorry, I knew we couldn't win, so we ran. I'm sorry. Eventually, the mayor catches up to us and we have a little scuffle, I throw a pizza box clumsily at his face as I scramble to put anything between me and the two knives. Eventually, I make it outside the tavern however the scenery is different. Now I'm in the driveway of a house inside a large neighborhood. The neighborhood was upper-class with beautiful trees and trimmed hedges. I stopped worrying about the cannibals as I heard voices in the distance shouting at me. I was instantly relieved as I soon saw who was coming, it was simply a gang of teens looking to fight, this put me at ease knowing I wasn't facing a 7-foot man armed with knives and his entire town but instead a gang of teens riding bicycles. For some reason I knew where these kids were from, I recognized their voices, and I knew what school they went to despite them wearing disguises. I walked up to the first guy and drop-kicked his hip which sent him to the ground, I shouted for the others to come fight but they ran away. I shouted back at them saying how I knew who their teacher was and shouted a name back at them (I forget the name). All of a sudden I'm no longer in the driveway but instead lying down staring at a large TV out in the open air. The TV had Wallpaper engine on it with all of my wallpapers, I remember a specific one which was Ornstein from DS1, if you know who that is. Alongside me was no longer my friend, but my youngest sister. She was whispering something in my ear as a song played loudly in the other. I wish I could remember what she was trying to tell me as maybe it was the answer as to why I was having this dream. I woke up shortly after with a depressed and horrified, yet relieved feeling as I realized that dream wasn't reality.
The wallpaper I remember seeing
https://preview.redd.it/9g51ro29di1d1.png?width=259&format=png&auto=webp&s=33840eedbf13dbb2e00274c0c66a3a89d2e53e36
This was the song I was hearing loudly in my other ear 11:15-11:47 https://youtu.be/rbw_n0LWpfo
The weird thing is I haven't listened to this song in about a year. I dont know why I was hearing it so vividly.
I guess I made this post because I just want to know why I'm having these dreams. I have a few guesses but I'm curious what you guys might have to say.
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So basically the first thing I can remember in the dream was that I was with 2 of my buddies and we were riding Hogs (Yes, large pigs) down the highway at 120 mph+. Extremely fun and exhilarating as we passed by car after car at extremely high speeds. After a while, we take a turn to the left and start taking a trail through the most beautiful valley. The sun is shining down with a yellowy and orangish tint. The grass around me is swaying in the wind all across these countless hills. Truly one of the most beautiful scenes of nature I've ever seen, I couldn't have predicted what would happen next. We eventually come across a small town with a tavern and a bunch of people sitting, drinking, and watching something happen in a pit. I forget what was going on inside the pit but I don't recall it being anything bad, a soccer match perhaps? (That's what my mind is leaning towards anyway). Overtime me and 1 buddy of mine get to know the people of the town a bit better and the town leader (I wouldn't call him the mayor, he was more of just a leading figure in their community than a mayor, but I'll call him that anyway for convenience). (Something to note is that the mayor is a tall and strong man, probably about 7 feet tall and heavy, I couldn't tell you how heavy tho) The mayor was extremely hospitable to us and even showed us a place to stay with another person who also seemed to be traveling along and staying for a while. (I don't know exactly where my third friend went, however, I'm quite certain he stayed on the road and continued towards our original direction). The traveler (As I'll call him) was around 6ft 70kg and black in skin color. He was a kind, quiet fellow. However, he didn't really wanna make too much eye contact with me (which will make sense later on). I didn't think too much of it at the time. The day passes by without much else happening and I fall asleep in the same room as the traveler with my friend there alongside me, and we wake up in the morning. The next morning we are sitting at the bar when all of a sudden the mayor walks out of the back and right past me with two rather fancy antique cheese knives in each hand. I could feel the dread build up inside me for a split second. (I thought he was coming to kill me) I quickly become slightly relieved after he walks straight past me, however, that was short-lived as he shouts something to someone else and sticks him with both knives right in the chest. It was horrifying to witness the breath and life get sucked out of that man right before my very eyes, it was so real. There was also a sound effect of a deep "bumm" sound the second he stabbed him, only adding to the severity of the moment. I was about to start fighting the mayor but before I did, I realized everyone in the town was on his side. They started chanting and all looked at me and my friend as though they were going to kill us next. It was at this moment I realized all these people were cannibals luring victims into their town to kill and eat. I instantly became disgusted as I had eaten some of their meat the prior day. I was scared and began to run, however I didn't get far before eventually being taken down and captured. (This was the last thing I remember before being ported back at the start of when I first came across the town). I had died but it was as though I was given a second chance to try and survive this encounter (This had never happened to me in a dream before, I had never died in any of the dreams leading up to this point). I walked through the town and into the tavern keeping a cool face despite knowing full well what was going to happen the following day. I got back to the part where the mayor introduced me to the traveler, I looked at him with disdain as I realized he had sided with the cannibals. This is why he couldn't look me in the eyes, he was too ashamed of the fact he knew what would happen to us. I'm dreading going to sleep in this tavern as I know that these people are trying to eat me ("What if they get me in my sleep" is what I was thinking at the time). To my surprise the event didn't wait for the next day this time, it was happening now, just as I had sat down at the bar. I watched the mayor rush past me again and try to stab the same man. I caught on faster this time and stopped him. This time I was ready to fight back properly. To my surprise, the traveler stood up and helped me and my friend, however, the sheer number of the people was too much and they took him down. I was with my friend and while they were jumping the traveler we ran. I'm sorry, I knew we couldn't win, so we ran. I'm sorry. Eventually, the mayor catches up to us and we have a little scuffle, I throw a pizza box clumsily at his face as I scramble to put anything between me and the two knives. Eventually, I make it outside the tavern however the scenery is different. Now I'm in the driveway of a house inside a large neighborhood. The neighborhood was upper-class with beautiful trees and trimmed hedges. I stopped worrying about the cannibals as I heard voices in the distance shouting at me. I was instantly relieved as I soon saw who was coming, it was simply a gang of teens looking to fight, this put me at ease knowing I wasn't facing a 7-foot man armed with knives and his entire town but instead a gang of teens riding bicycles. For some reason I knew where these kids were from, I recognized their voices, and I knew what school they went to despite them wearing disguises. I walked up to the first guy and drop-kicked his hip which sent him to the ground, I shouted for the others to come fight but they ran away. I shouted back at them saying how I knew who their teacher was and shouted a name back at them (I forget the name). All of a sudden I'm no longer in the driveway but instead lying down staring at a large TV out in the open air. The TV had Wallpaper engine on it with all of my wallpapers, I remember a specific one which was Ornstein from DS1, if you know who that is. Alongside me was no longer my friend, but my youngest sister. She was whispering something in my ear as a song played loudly in the other. I wish I could remember what she was trying to tell me as maybe it was the answer as to why I was having this dream. I woke up shortly after with a depressed and horrified, yet relieved feeling as I realized that dream wasn't reality.
The wallpaper I remember seeing
https://preview.redd.it/9g51ro29di1d1.png?width=259&format=png&auto=webp&s=33840eedbf13dbb2e00274c0c66a3a89d2e53e36
This was the song I was hearing loudly in my other ear 11:15-11:47 https://youtu.be/rbw_n0LWpfo
The weird thing is I haven't listened to this song in about a year. I dont know why I was hearing it so vividly.
I guess I made this post because I just want to know why I'm having these dreams. I have a few guesses but I'm curious what you guys might have to say.
2024.05.20 07:05 ixikzisigwvbend Rank of handsome football manager
 | Since the season has ended let me share something different. I’m a gay man into elder man, especially in formal attire. Here’s my rank of some of the football managers I find attrtactive submitted by ixikzisigwvbend to soccercirclejerk [link] [comments]
3 Ange posteguelo(or something like that I forget his last time): as an arsenal fan I should hate spurs manager, and he’s also very chubby. But this guy gives me a huge daddy vibe that makes me want to cuddle with him. 2 Jesse Marsch: he’s too young for me. But fuck me he’s got. If he was 60 yo I’d masturbate at his pic every day
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2024.05.20 07:05 Ok_Entertainment_533 I’m lost and possibly suicidal
(Just skip to the last paragraph if you don’t want to read this all.) I just turned 19. My life has been a series of unfortunate events and mistakes, with some very amazing memories/ events mixed in. I grew up in a highly dysfunctional large family, it’s complicated because some weeks were perfect, my parents were awesome sometimes, others it was really rough. My mom displays highly narcissistic tendencies and was mentally abusive when I was a kid. My Dad is a amazing father, but he got into a rodeo accident when he was 18 and snapped his back in half, a saddle bronc horse landed on him and folded him backwards like paper. He’s not paralyzed but has a huge 4ft metal pipe in his back basically holding his spine together, so he has extreme back pain and many many other issues from the accident. So for 4 years from when I was 13-16 he drank alcohol almost constantly and consecutively. He was never mean, physically or verbally abusive, he would just get drunk and pass out in a chair. I remember one time he cut his throat open on a sink trying to install it while he was drunk. Another time I remember having to carry him out to my moms car when I was 14, he was so drunk he had to go to the ER. He also would lie about drinking so we had no idea if he overdosed on pain meds for his back or got drunk. My mom would take me around to mental centers, get me meds, take me to behavioral institutions, and drag me to counselors of hers to basically validate her as being right. Now growing up in a household like this, I obviously did have anger issues and it was a attempt to get attention and love, which never worked and made things worse. So I sucked it up, fixed myself, and got mentally tough as a mf. School was somewhat difficult for me but it was a break from the bullshit. I applied myself to my high school’s marksmanship team and became the best shooter on the team, and my team was best in my state, and best on the west side of America. We got to go to the 2022 National championships and placed 13th out of 1,000 teams, but we shot bad that day, we easily could’ve won it, we weren’t used to the targets they used. I got into smoking weed with my best friend almost every day when I was 16 but quit when I was 17, it wasn’t who I wanted to be.
I went online school when I was 17 and combined my junior and senior years into one year, and graduated early. I would’ve just been graduating high school right now, at 19, if I didn’t do that. I didn’t want to do that so I did what I needed to graduate at 18 years old.
Since I was 15 years I basically have believed that my destiny was to join the military and become a Navy SEAL, and reach a highly elite level within that community. Now I’m 19, and highly disappointed with my life, I don’t know how I got here. I struggle with a extreme degree of apathy, I’m burnt out. I struggle to get out of bed before 2pm, I go to bed at 2 AM-4 AM usually. I’m unable to get a vehicle for job, because my mom refuses to help and my Dad try’s his best but doesn’t have much money because my mom divorced him. He’s self employed and I work with him when I can. Like, I can stick to a routine, I can get up at 6 am when I want to. For the last 6 months I’ve took a cold shower every night, so I can be disciplined, I’m just discouraged about life. I don’t believe becoming a Navy SEAL is possible or realistic now, there’s a lot more to it that I’m not sharing, but I will say I simply do not have the energy to go to the gym everyday or get in shape. Hell, I don’t even have a car, or job. Lately, I’ve thought about shooting myself to end this all, it’s not a problem if I’m not in the equation. I vividly imagine it, I imagine feeling the barrel on the roof of my mouth, I imagine how my skull would shatter and what the “cleanest” way to do it would be. I’ve thought about laying a towel down under my head so I don’t ruin the carpet, I’ve tried to find a way to shoot myself in the head so I don’t ruin the ceiling. We also live in the state with the highest suicide rate in the country. I imagine my family finding me and my Dad’s pain, because suicide runs in our family, his Dad (my Grandpa) hung himself, his Mom’s sisters and brothers have killed themselves, his cousin, his aunt, shit I don’t want to add to his pain. This is what keeps me from doing it, I’m not selfish, I’m selfless, I can’t be responsible for causing my family more pain, and a part of me still believes I could become a SEAL too. If I didn’t have family I might’ve done it already. Hell, typing this out I realize my reason/ motivation to become a SEAL could be to spare my family from that pain. I don’t know, I’m just over it.
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I went online school when I was 17 and combined my junior and senior years into one year, and graduated early. I would’ve just been graduating high school right now, at 19, if I didn’t do that. I didn’t want to do that so I did what I needed to graduate at 18 years old.
Since I was 15 years I basically have believed that my destiny was to join the military and become a Navy SEAL, and reach a highly elite level within that community. Now I’m 19, and highly disappointed with my life, I don’t know how I got here. I struggle with a extreme degree of apathy, I’m burnt out. I struggle to get out of bed before 2pm, I go to bed at 2 AM-4 AM usually. I’m unable to get a vehicle for job, because my mom refuses to help and my Dad try’s his best but doesn’t have much money because my mom divorced him. He’s self employed and I work with him when I can. Like, I can stick to a routine, I can get up at 6 am when I want to. For the last 6 months I’ve took a cold shower every night, so I can be disciplined, I’m just discouraged about life. I don’t believe becoming a Navy SEAL is possible or realistic now, there’s a lot more to it that I’m not sharing, but I will say I simply do not have the energy to go to the gym everyday or get in shape. Hell, I don’t even have a car, or job. Lately, I’ve thought about shooting myself to end this all, it’s not a problem if I’m not in the equation. I vividly imagine it, I imagine feeling the barrel on the roof of my mouth, I imagine how my skull would shatter and what the “cleanest” way to do it would be. I’ve thought about laying a towel down under my head so I don’t ruin the carpet, I’ve tried to find a way to shoot myself in the head so I don’t ruin the ceiling. We also live in the state with the highest suicide rate in the country. I imagine my family finding me and my Dad’s pain, because suicide runs in our family, his Dad (my Grandpa) hung himself, his Mom’s sisters and brothers have killed themselves, his cousin, his aunt, shit I don’t want to add to his pain. This is what keeps me from doing it, I’m not selfish, I’m selfless, I can’t be responsible for causing my family more pain, and a part of me still believes I could become a SEAL too. If I didn’t have family I might’ve done it already. Hell, typing this out I realize my reason/ motivation to become a SEAL could be to spare my family from that pain. I don’t know, I’m just over it.
2024.05.20 07:05 cornxoxo1 I made a mistake and may have outed myself as taking testosterone. What should I do?
Hello! I am 20 years old. I don't live with my parents but my parents pay my rent. So still incredibly financially dependent. They also pay for my college and give me allowances for grocery's and things. In fact, I use that allowance to pay for doctor's visit's and my testosterone.
I have a website, a blog I created, to post poems and other personal writings. I made it in highnschool and would share it with close friends. I shared it with my mom. She ended up turning on post notifications so that whenever I post a new entry she would be updated. It was sweet, knowing she wanted to know how I felt about things... In that way.
Then today. She often accidentally genders me correctly. (I have a brother) So I say "He is fine." Almost like i'm warming her up to the idea haha...
I've come out to my family as nonbinary when I was around 16. My mom said she would never call me He.
So today when I said "He is fine." She said "can you stop saying that. I did not give birth to a he, I am not calling you that."
I fought back only slightly. I wasn't planning on nor prepared to come out to her in that moment.
My original plan was to take testosterone and until she started asking questions, say nothing. And when she did start asking questions I planned to answer them truthfully. As by that time the changes would had already really began to take effect.
All that to say, after the incident today. I went to my blog. I wrote something. Titled "You hate me. I know you hate me. You'll hate me once you find out what I've done."
Pretty dramatic lol I know but that's the whole point. I made a space for myself to express myself however I felt necessary. I mention the exact incident (meaning she knows I'm talking about her). One of the lines are "Today I thought I should never tell you. That I practiced voice training instead and just went to the gym a bunch. That will be easier for you. You'll hate me less."
I hit publish. Feeling relieved to have gotten these negative thoughts and emotion's off my chest. As well as honestly rethinking my speak until spoken to policy. Thinking, maybe I should lie for as long as I can.
Then later today I got a notification. Someone was on my website, reading that post. I knew, I instantly remembered. She gets notifications for when I post. I try to quickly delete and block her member profile. Trying to kick her from viewing it. Nothing works. I had set it up a while back so you put in a password before entering the site after a fall out with someone who had access to it, but I guess fot previous members it bypasses that.
Then I heard her walking up the stairs. I knew.
She comes in and closes the door, she never does that, and sit's on my bed. (I'm home for summer)
She tells me that she saw my post and asks if I think that she hates me. I say no, its nuance and that I forgot she got notifications for that. That she wasn't supposed to see it. It's not enough for her. She ask's what I did. I hesitate. I say "I came out as nonbinary before and (don't remember likely giberish) that's what I did is be who I am." I didn't know what to say. I'm not a good liar.
I have only been on testosterone for 5 weeks. I have got to therapy for a couple months discussing my gender and whether or not I wanted to start hormone replacement therapy. I have been contemplating it however, for around a year before starting therapy. I did this all by myself. I decided to tell my brother (37) after going to my consultation. He had his own reservations but he told me he loved me no matter what. He still misgenders me but his hearts in the right place and right now i'll take what I can get. My dad is the quiet type. He doesn't hold a lot of power in our household and is likely quiet because of it. I know i can't rely on him for any impactful support. I also have no idea whether there would be any.
I thought about calling my brother after it happened but he is ignorant on the matter. I don't know the lengths he would go to protect me. I am unsure and that scares me. I don't have any trans friends on HRT who could advise me.
I remember at my consultation my doctor expressed real concern for whether I had a supportive family unit or not. I told him I don't think my mother would could me off or disown me (she's the breadwinner) but thats when I was under the impression that I would have full control over when and how I would tell her.
Now. I am feeling that fear a bit stronger. I am gunning for my PHD in psychology. I live in an apartment near campus. I am extremely privileged. Although, my relationship with my immediate family is extremely dysfunctional it works.
Based off what she read the likely hood is at the very least she has an inkling that I am on T. I ended the conversation by saying I wasn't ready to have this conversation right now and she wasn't meant to read that. I asked her to turn the notifications off :P (stupid, I just didn't know what to do or say).
I drafted the post and made a new website moving everything on to there. I decided I will no longer share that website with anyone. It's for my eyes only. Until I can be sure someone deserves to gain access to its contents.
Anyway, any advice on how I should handle this? Right now we are both leaving to go on separate vacations. So I will be taking my medicine with me and I won't have to worry about her possibly snooping through my things to find out if I am or not. I will likely need to hide my T when I come back. I don't think telling her now is a good idea. I have a therapy appointment next tuesday so I will also ask my therapist for advice. Support or encouragement is also welcome :)
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I have a website, a blog I created, to post poems and other personal writings. I made it in highnschool and would share it with close friends. I shared it with my mom. She ended up turning on post notifications so that whenever I post a new entry she would be updated. It was sweet, knowing she wanted to know how I felt about things... In that way.
Then today. She often accidentally genders me correctly. (I have a brother) So I say "He is fine." Almost like i'm warming her up to the idea haha...
I've come out to my family as nonbinary when I was around 16. My mom said she would never call me He.
So today when I said "He is fine." She said "can you stop saying that. I did not give birth to a he, I am not calling you that."
I fought back only slightly. I wasn't planning on nor prepared to come out to her in that moment.
My original plan was to take testosterone and until she started asking questions, say nothing. And when she did start asking questions I planned to answer them truthfully. As by that time the changes would had already really began to take effect.
All that to say, after the incident today. I went to my blog. I wrote something. Titled "You hate me. I know you hate me. You'll hate me once you find out what I've done."
Pretty dramatic lol I know but that's the whole point. I made a space for myself to express myself however I felt necessary. I mention the exact incident (meaning she knows I'm talking about her). One of the lines are "Today I thought I should never tell you. That I practiced voice training instead and just went to the gym a bunch. That will be easier for you. You'll hate me less."
I hit publish. Feeling relieved to have gotten these negative thoughts and emotion's off my chest. As well as honestly rethinking my speak until spoken to policy. Thinking, maybe I should lie for as long as I can.
Then later today I got a notification. Someone was on my website, reading that post. I knew, I instantly remembered. She gets notifications for when I post. I try to quickly delete and block her member profile. Trying to kick her from viewing it. Nothing works. I had set it up a while back so you put in a password before entering the site after a fall out with someone who had access to it, but I guess fot previous members it bypasses that.
Then I heard her walking up the stairs. I knew.
She comes in and closes the door, she never does that, and sit's on my bed. (I'm home for summer)
She tells me that she saw my post and asks if I think that she hates me. I say no, its nuance and that I forgot she got notifications for that. That she wasn't supposed to see it. It's not enough for her. She ask's what I did. I hesitate. I say "I came out as nonbinary before and (don't remember likely giberish) that's what I did is be who I am." I didn't know what to say. I'm not a good liar.
I have only been on testosterone for 5 weeks. I have got to therapy for a couple months discussing my gender and whether or not I wanted to start hormone replacement therapy. I have been contemplating it however, for around a year before starting therapy. I did this all by myself. I decided to tell my brother (37) after going to my consultation. He had his own reservations but he told me he loved me no matter what. He still misgenders me but his hearts in the right place and right now i'll take what I can get. My dad is the quiet type. He doesn't hold a lot of power in our household and is likely quiet because of it. I know i can't rely on him for any impactful support. I also have no idea whether there would be any.
I thought about calling my brother after it happened but he is ignorant on the matter. I don't know the lengths he would go to protect me. I am unsure and that scares me. I don't have any trans friends on HRT who could advise me.
I remember at my consultation my doctor expressed real concern for whether I had a supportive family unit or not. I told him I don't think my mother would could me off or disown me (she's the breadwinner) but thats when I was under the impression that I would have full control over when and how I would tell her.
Now. I am feeling that fear a bit stronger. I am gunning for my PHD in psychology. I live in an apartment near campus. I am extremely privileged. Although, my relationship with my immediate family is extremely dysfunctional it works.
Based off what she read the likely hood is at the very least she has an inkling that I am on T. I ended the conversation by saying I wasn't ready to have this conversation right now and she wasn't meant to read that. I asked her to turn the notifications off :P (stupid, I just didn't know what to do or say).
I drafted the post and made a new website moving everything on to there. I decided I will no longer share that website with anyone. It's for my eyes only. Until I can be sure someone deserves to gain access to its contents.
Anyway, any advice on how I should handle this? Right now we are both leaving to go on separate vacations. So I will be taking my medicine with me and I won't have to worry about her possibly snooping through my things to find out if I am or not. I will likely need to hide my T when I come back. I don't think telling her now is a good idea. I have a therapy appointment next tuesday so I will also ask my therapist for advice. Support or encouragement is also welcome :)
2024.05.20 07:05 LucyAriaRose Conclusion 10 months later: AITA for breaking my fiancé's family tradition by naming my son what I wanted?
I am STILL NOT the Original Poster. That is still . She posted in and .
You can read the previous BORU's here and here. New Update marked with ****\* Thanks to u/Choice_Evidence1983 and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for letting me know!
Trigger Warning: brief mention of murder
Mood Spoiler: happy ending
Original Post: April 16, 2023
Throwaway because I have in-laws on Reddit.
Myself (25F) and my fiancé (27M) have a 2 month old son. We are overjoyed at being parents, but most of my in-laws are refusing to even see our baby because of a decision we made concerning his name.
My in-laws have a tradition of giving the first-born son of every generation the same name. Let's say it's "Peter". This has been going on for about seven generations already, and they're very serious about it. My fiancé's eldest cousin was the latest person to get named Peter. Every one of his cousins has only had daughters so far, so our baby is the first son of his generation, and consequently should get the name.
I have no problem with the name Peter, and would've been okay with naming my son that. Unfortunately, that was also the name of my uncle, who died before I was born. I won't get into details, but it was tragic and traumatizing for my family. My father never got over losing his younger brother.
My grandmother asked the family not to name any of our future children Peter during her lifetime. My MIL and FIL knew about this promise, and at first seemed to not only be okay with us avoiding the name Peter, but also supportive of the one we chose.
However, my grandmother sadly passed away when I was 7 months pregnant. We traveled for her funeral. On our last days there, my in-laws called to offer me their condolences. Then my MIL asked me if I was willing to "think about the name Peter now."
Suddenly, they were insistent that the name we chose was awful and we had to honor their tradition. According to them, they had only agreed to make an exception for us for my grandmother's sake, and had no obligation to keep it now that she had passed.
My family agrees that while it's true we don't have to avoid the name anymore, it still doesn't feel right to use it. My fiancé agrees with me as well, but his parents spent the last weeks of my pregnancy trying to convince us to change our minds about the name.
When our baby was born and we named him what we wanted, my in-laws were furious that we had broken a 7-generation-old family tradition. Some of them hadn't previously wanted to name their sons Peter, but did it anyway for the family's sake. They said our decision was selfish, and that my family "should have moved on by now."
This has truly nothing to do with whether my family has moved on or not, it just felt like a betrayal to my grandmother and uncle's memories to even consider using the name.
My FIL offered us $1000 to change our son's name to Peter after he was born. That was two months ago, and neither of my fiancé's parents have met the baby or seen us since I was pregnant. Most of my in-laws are on their side, and this is causing a huge rift between my fiancé and his family. He assures me he's fine, but I'm starting to feel really guilty about this.
AITA?
EDIT: The tradition started, as far as I know, when OG Peter died and his son, also named Peter, named his firstborn after his father. Peter III ended up having the first son of the following generation, and did the same thing. That one died before having children, so his sister gave the name to her son, and so on. The name “Peter” is very common in my country, so none of them ever got bullied over it, and the fact that it was also my uncle’s name isn’t as unlikely as one might think.
Also, middle names aren’t used in my country. Most people get the maternal surname before the paternal one instead.
EDIT 2: It wasn't 1000 dollars. Different country, different currency. It's still a lot of money, but would probably translate to about 200 USD.
Relevant Comments:
Can you use Peter as a middle name?"
Our country/culture doesn't generally use middle names. If we did, I'd be willing to think about that, even though my son's name doesn't match "Peter"."
How many Peters are alive right now in your family???"
There are 3 living "Peters" in the family right now. Only the eldest (my fiancé's great uncle) actually goes by Peter. The other two have nicknames ("Pete", "Petey", etc)."
OOP is voted NTA
Update Post: May 24, 2023 (a bit over 1 month later)
(OOP's post was removed from AITA, and reposted on her profile. I'm using the date of the AITA post. Comments are also from AITA)
I posted this on AITA, but it got removed about an hour ago because I mentioned a violent encounter on an edit. I tried editing it out and getting it back up, but it didn't work. I'm posting here in case anyone still wants to read it.
Original
Thank you so much to everyone who commented and offered support. A lot has happened since I posted, so I thought I'd give you an update.
About a week after my post, my fiancé's parents contacted us. They apologized for their behavior, and begged to meet my son. They said they were ready to leave the naming debacle behind and truly wanted to be involved in their grandson's life.
We were skeptical, but invited them over to meet the baby. The visit went well. They began coming over almost every day during the next three weeks. I noticed neither of them ever called my son by his name, but I didn't point it out. For the first time in months, things seemed good between my fiancé and his parents.
One day, my fiancé was helping my FIL with something at our place, so my MIL and I went to the park with my baby. Some time later, I had to go to the bathroom, so I left him in the stroller with her.
When I got back, she was sitting on a park bench, chatting with a woman who was cooing over my son. I went over there and introduced myself as "(son's name)'s mom", and she said, "I thought his name was Peter."
I didn't say a word, and neither did my MIL. She followed me to the car and we went back to my apartment. On the way there, I texted my fiancé about what had happened. The moment we got there, he kicked both his parents out of our place.
He'd read my texts and confronted his father. Thankfully, my FIL is a terrible liar, and confessed immediately. Apparently, both my in-laws ONLY call my son Peter. That includes whenever they're talking about him, every time they introduce him to someone else, and even baby-talking to him on the few occasions they were left alone with him. Neither of them are embarrassed by this, and they both think they're in the right.
We're heartbroken. Especially my fiancé. Not only because his parents can't let go of their pride, but also because the name we chose for our son means a lot to us both.
I blame myself for encouraging my fiancé to allow them near our son. I was raised in a different city than all my grandparents, and always wished they could have been more involved in my life. Losing my grandmother didn't help. Pretty much every doubt I had only existed because I thought it would be important for my son to grow up with all of his grandparents around.
But now, all my guilt is gone. If they can't respect my son enough to call him by his name, they don't deserve to be in his life.
I hope they enjoyed the three weeks they had with their grandson. Because that's all they're getting until they get their heads out of their asses.
EDIT: I thought I'd clarify some things. First of all, I'm not comfortable sharing my son's name here, but I promise it's not a "yooneek" name or anything like that. It's perfectly normal and popular-ish in our country.
Secondly, I mentioned this in the comments, but while my family didn't try to dictate me on my son's name, they would never be comfortable with it. My uncle Peter passed almost three decades ago, but it forever changed everyone who knew him. My grandmother's wish might seem a bit irrational, but it was motivated entirely by grief and it didn't seem right to disrespect that just because she's not around anymore.
And to whoever PM'd me that my fiancé's only on my side to keep the peace, he didn't want to use the name either. Months before I got pregnant, he told me he hoped one of his cousins would have a son before we did, because he always hated the tradition and sympathized with my family. He's just as angry at his parents as I am, if not more. Also, most of his cousins and some other relatives have come around and apologized.
Relevant Comments:
Are they this unhinged in other areas of your life too?"
According to my fiancé, they've always been a little entitled, but I never really saw them enough to be able to say that. I will say that, though they were polite, they very clearly didn't care about me until we moved in together. My MIL pretended not to remember my name every time she saw me, and my FIL would lose interest in any conversations that weren't about him. Once it was clear me and my fiancé were in for long term, they started acting a lot more friendly towards me, but it never seemed sincere."
Have other family members come around yet?"
Most of my fiancé's cousins have come around, and his brother was always on our side. His grandmother and some of his aunts and uncles are with us too. His grandfather (divorced from his grandmother), two out of three living Peters (the two oldest) and pretty much everyone else are either still mad at us or haven't reached out to talk about it yet.
My entire family is on my side. They promised not to interfere in the naming process, but are relieved we didn't name him Peter."
One more note on the $1000 offered in the first post:
"And that's $1000 in MY country's currency. It roughly translates to $200USD." (note- OOP clarifies in a comment that she is Brazilian)
OOP drops this horrible bombshell about her uncle, the one who died before she was born:
"My uncle was murdered. My grandmother's request was motivated by trauma."
"Again; my family would be mostly fine with naming my son Peter. My dad and my aunt might have been uncomfortable, and my grandmother asked us all not to do so, but I wouldn't have been disowned if I had. It simply felt disrespectful, especially since my grandmother passed shortly before my son was born.
My uncle's death was traumatic for my family, but the name Peter is hugely common in my country."
Update Post 2: July 28, 2023 (3 months from first post)
My son is now 5 months old (almost six!). We're still NC with my fiancé's parents, who haven't seen us since May. We've both blocked them everywhere. His relatives who were on our side still are, and most of the ones who weren't haven't come around. If anything, they're even more pissed now.
I remember someone suggesting that my fiancé's family might stop using the name after we decided not to. Well, you were right. Last week, one of my fiancé's cousins announced she was pregnant with a boy. She included her baby's name in the announcement, and it's not Peter.
What followed was a string of aggressive Instagram DMs from both MIL and FIL. They both created accounts for the sole purpose of contacting me. I didn't see them until two days later. They sent me almost an hour worth of voice messages about how I'd "ruined their family".
They wish their son had never met me, that he'd see me for "who I truly am", and that I'd never gotten pregnant. Many of the messages ended with "I hope you're happy now", as if they thought they were getting the last word, only to think of something else they wanted to say. There was name calling, an accusation of me cheating, and the persistent refusal to refer to my son as their grandchild.
My fiancé and I listened to the messages together. He hadn't gotten any. As much as I tried to distance myself, I was in tears by the time it was all done. I still don't regret anything, specially after the stunt they pulled back in May, but I'm not completely free of the guilt yet. Not to mention their complete disregard for their grandson. I was already having an overwhelming week, and this just seemed like the final straw.
I must have spent close to an hour sobbing in my fiancé's arms. Once I was calmer, he unblocked his parents just to scream at them for a while. I only heard his side of the conversation, but it was more than enough. He finished the call by saying he didn't want to hear from them again.
We had a long talk afterwards. My fiancé opened up about the emotional blackmail by his family before and after my pregnancy. My in-laws were close to threatening him with anything they could if we didn't name our son Peter. I told him about my guilt, and how awful I feel for putting him through this. We reassured each other, cried a bit more, and had a mostly pleasant evening with our baby.
We contacted his cousin. The family is giving her shit for breaking the tradition again. They're being way less aggressive though, and I think many of my in-laws are finally learning to let go. We're not expecting any apologies anytime soon, but we'll be glad if they come.
Our wedding will be in September 2024, and whoever doesn't give us a sincere apology until then is uninvited. My fiancé's parents are banned either way. We came to that decision together.
Also, I'd like to address some comments on my previous update about how I was "letting my family's trauma win", or how the name wouldn't be hurtful now that my grandmother has passed.
I can't stress enough the damage my uncle's death caused. He was only 30 years old. He had a fiancée, a great career and his whole life ahead of him. I don't know many details about what happened, because I didn't want to upset my family by asking. My grandmother wasn't the only person hurt by this, my entire paternal family was. And if I remember correctly, the person responsible isn't even in jail anymore. It was more than 20 years ago, but the wound never truly closed.
So yeah, I think it's safe to say the tradition is over. The next Not-Peter will be here in January, right before my son's first birthday. It was never my intention for this to turn into such a shitstorm, but I'm so incredibly proud of my little family.
Thank you so much to everyone who shared their stories and offered advice during these last few months. I'll be forever grateful for all the support I got from y'all.
*****New Update Post: May 13, 2024 (13 months from OG post, about 10 from last post)****\*
Hey everyone, it's been a while. I hope you guys had a great Mother's Day!
I remember that last year, I promised myself I'd write a final update as soon as I felt calmer or felt the situation was closer to being solved. That actually happened months ago, but I've been busy lately.
Following my previous update, my fiancé's side of the family remained upset about the tradition being over for a few more months. They were way less intense about it, specially with the pregnant cousin I mentioned, but it was still evident.
That cousin's Not-Peter (almost a year later, I still can't think of a better term) was born in January. Our son turned one the next month. I think the fact that these two things happened so close together helped many of my in-laws let go of the tradition.
We got a few apologies we weren't expecting. Some of them were sincere enough that we slowly started reestablishing contact.
My fiancé's parents were not among those who apologized. We haven't spoken to either of them since last July. From what I've heard from some of his other relatives, however, MIL seems regretful. She has told some of them that she wishes she could be part of her grandson's life, and wonders if making his name a hill to die on was a bad decision. FIL, from what I gather, barely acknowledges my baby exists.
My fiancé knows about how his mother feels, but he says he doesn't care. And even if we did get an apology, I don't think either of us can forgive his parents. As much as we're mostly okay now, it sometimes feels like their treatment of our family ruined the first few months of our baby's life. I know that's not actually true, but I don't want them around my child.
Besides all that, things have been great. My son is 15 months old now, which I don't think I'll ever really get used to. He recently started drawing and has been expanding his vocabulary. He said "mamãe" first, by the way.
My fiancé and I are still getting married in September. We're thinking about moving abroad in a couple years (for work reasons), but we're not sure yet. We also recently got a dog (sadly, we didn't name him Peter).
This will be my final update. Whatever guilt I had about this situation a year ago is completely gone, and my life has been peaceful enough that it feels safe to say the shitshow is over.
Hugo, if you ever find this, you are the most fantastic thing that has ever happened to us. Thank you for letting me be your mom.
Thank you, Reddit, for all the love, advice and support you've given me this past year.
Relevant Comment:
Commenter: Whilst this may be your final update on the naming sage, you said you are getting married in September 2024 and MiL&FiL aren't going to be invited.
Prepare for more craziness from them at that time and good luck :)
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You can read the previous BORU's here and here. New Update marked with ****\* Thanks to u/Choice_Evidence1983 and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for letting me know!
Trigger Warning: brief mention of murder
Mood Spoiler: happy ending
Original Post: April 16, 2023
Throwaway because I have in-laws on Reddit.
Myself (25F) and my fiancé (27M) have a 2 month old son. We are overjoyed at being parents, but most of my in-laws are refusing to even see our baby because of a decision we made concerning his name.
My in-laws have a tradition of giving the first-born son of every generation the same name. Let's say it's "Peter". This has been going on for about seven generations already, and they're very serious about it. My fiancé's eldest cousin was the latest person to get named Peter. Every one of his cousins has only had daughters so far, so our baby is the first son of his generation, and consequently should get the name.
I have no problem with the name Peter, and would've been okay with naming my son that. Unfortunately, that was also the name of my uncle, who died before I was born. I won't get into details, but it was tragic and traumatizing for my family. My father never got over losing his younger brother.
My grandmother asked the family not to name any of our future children Peter during her lifetime. My MIL and FIL knew about this promise, and at first seemed to not only be okay with us avoiding the name Peter, but also supportive of the one we chose.
However, my grandmother sadly passed away when I was 7 months pregnant. We traveled for her funeral. On our last days there, my in-laws called to offer me their condolences. Then my MIL asked me if I was willing to "think about the name Peter now."
Suddenly, they were insistent that the name we chose was awful and we had to honor their tradition. According to them, they had only agreed to make an exception for us for my grandmother's sake, and had no obligation to keep it now that she had passed.
My family agrees that while it's true we don't have to avoid the name anymore, it still doesn't feel right to use it. My fiancé agrees with me as well, but his parents spent the last weeks of my pregnancy trying to convince us to change our minds about the name.
When our baby was born and we named him what we wanted, my in-laws were furious that we had broken a 7-generation-old family tradition. Some of them hadn't previously wanted to name their sons Peter, but did it anyway for the family's sake. They said our decision was selfish, and that my family "should have moved on by now."
This has truly nothing to do with whether my family has moved on or not, it just felt like a betrayal to my grandmother and uncle's memories to even consider using the name.
My FIL offered us $1000 to change our son's name to Peter after he was born. That was two months ago, and neither of my fiancé's parents have met the baby or seen us since I was pregnant. Most of my in-laws are on their side, and this is causing a huge rift between my fiancé and his family. He assures me he's fine, but I'm starting to feel really guilty about this.
AITA?
EDIT: The tradition started, as far as I know, when OG Peter died and his son, also named Peter, named his firstborn after his father. Peter III ended up having the first son of the following generation, and did the same thing. That one died before having children, so his sister gave the name to her son, and so on. The name “Peter” is very common in my country, so none of them ever got bullied over it, and the fact that it was also my uncle’s name isn’t as unlikely as one might think.
Also, middle names aren’t used in my country. Most people get the maternal surname before the paternal one instead.
EDIT 2: It wasn't 1000 dollars. Different country, different currency. It's still a lot of money, but would probably translate to about 200 USD.
Relevant Comments:
Can you use Peter as a middle name?"
Our country/culture doesn't generally use middle names. If we did, I'd be willing to think about that, even though my son's name doesn't match "Peter"."
How many Peters are alive right now in your family???"
There are 3 living "Peters" in the family right now. Only the eldest (my fiancé's great uncle) actually goes by Peter. The other two have nicknames ("Pete", "Petey", etc)."
OOP is voted NTA
Update Post: May 24, 2023 (a bit over 1 month later)
(OOP's post was removed from AITA, and reposted on her profile. I'm using the date of the AITA post. Comments are also from AITA)
I posted this on AITA, but it got removed about an hour ago because I mentioned a violent encounter on an edit. I tried editing it out and getting it back up, but it didn't work. I'm posting here in case anyone still wants to read it.
Original
Thank you so much to everyone who commented and offered support. A lot has happened since I posted, so I thought I'd give you an update.
About a week after my post, my fiancé's parents contacted us. They apologized for their behavior, and begged to meet my son. They said they were ready to leave the naming debacle behind and truly wanted to be involved in their grandson's life.
We were skeptical, but invited them over to meet the baby. The visit went well. They began coming over almost every day during the next three weeks. I noticed neither of them ever called my son by his name, but I didn't point it out. For the first time in months, things seemed good between my fiancé and his parents.
One day, my fiancé was helping my FIL with something at our place, so my MIL and I went to the park with my baby. Some time later, I had to go to the bathroom, so I left him in the stroller with her.
When I got back, she was sitting on a park bench, chatting with a woman who was cooing over my son. I went over there and introduced myself as "(son's name)'s mom", and she said, "I thought his name was Peter."
I didn't say a word, and neither did my MIL. She followed me to the car and we went back to my apartment. On the way there, I texted my fiancé about what had happened. The moment we got there, he kicked both his parents out of our place.
He'd read my texts and confronted his father. Thankfully, my FIL is a terrible liar, and confessed immediately. Apparently, both my in-laws ONLY call my son Peter. That includes whenever they're talking about him, every time they introduce him to someone else, and even baby-talking to him on the few occasions they were left alone with him. Neither of them are embarrassed by this, and they both think they're in the right.
We're heartbroken. Especially my fiancé. Not only because his parents can't let go of their pride, but also because the name we chose for our son means a lot to us both.
I blame myself for encouraging my fiancé to allow them near our son. I was raised in a different city than all my grandparents, and always wished they could have been more involved in my life. Losing my grandmother didn't help. Pretty much every doubt I had only existed because I thought it would be important for my son to grow up with all of his grandparents around.
But now, all my guilt is gone. If they can't respect my son enough to call him by his name, they don't deserve to be in his life.
I hope they enjoyed the three weeks they had with their grandson. Because that's all they're getting until they get their heads out of their asses.
EDIT: I thought I'd clarify some things. First of all, I'm not comfortable sharing my son's name here, but I promise it's not a "yooneek" name or anything like that. It's perfectly normal and popular-ish in our country.
Secondly, I mentioned this in the comments, but while my family didn't try to dictate me on my son's name, they would never be comfortable with it. My uncle Peter passed almost three decades ago, but it forever changed everyone who knew him. My grandmother's wish might seem a bit irrational, but it was motivated entirely by grief and it didn't seem right to disrespect that just because she's not around anymore.
And to whoever PM'd me that my fiancé's only on my side to keep the peace, he didn't want to use the name either. Months before I got pregnant, he told me he hoped one of his cousins would have a son before we did, because he always hated the tradition and sympathized with my family. He's just as angry at his parents as I am, if not more. Also, most of his cousins and some other relatives have come around and apologized.
Relevant Comments:
Are they this unhinged in other areas of your life too?"
According to my fiancé, they've always been a little entitled, but I never really saw them enough to be able to say that. I will say that, though they were polite, they very clearly didn't care about me until we moved in together. My MIL pretended not to remember my name every time she saw me, and my FIL would lose interest in any conversations that weren't about him. Once it was clear me and my fiancé were in for long term, they started acting a lot more friendly towards me, but it never seemed sincere."
Have other family members come around yet?"
Most of my fiancé's cousins have come around, and his brother was always on our side. His grandmother and some of his aunts and uncles are with us too. His grandfather (divorced from his grandmother), two out of three living Peters (the two oldest) and pretty much everyone else are either still mad at us or haven't reached out to talk about it yet.
My entire family is on my side. They promised not to interfere in the naming process, but are relieved we didn't name him Peter."
One more note on the $1000 offered in the first post:
"And that's $1000 in MY country's currency. It roughly translates to $200USD." (note- OOP clarifies in a comment that she is Brazilian)
OOP drops this horrible bombshell about her uncle, the one who died before she was born:
"My uncle was murdered. My grandmother's request was motivated by trauma."
"Again; my family would be mostly fine with naming my son Peter. My dad and my aunt might have been uncomfortable, and my grandmother asked us all not to do so, but I wouldn't have been disowned if I had. It simply felt disrespectful, especially since my grandmother passed shortly before my son was born.
My uncle's death was traumatic for my family, but the name Peter is hugely common in my country."
Update Post 2: July 28, 2023 (3 months from first post)
My son is now 5 months old (almost six!). We're still NC with my fiancé's parents, who haven't seen us since May. We've both blocked them everywhere. His relatives who were on our side still are, and most of the ones who weren't haven't come around. If anything, they're even more pissed now.
I remember someone suggesting that my fiancé's family might stop using the name after we decided not to. Well, you were right. Last week, one of my fiancé's cousins announced she was pregnant with a boy. She included her baby's name in the announcement, and it's not Peter.
What followed was a string of aggressive Instagram DMs from both MIL and FIL. They both created accounts for the sole purpose of contacting me. I didn't see them until two days later. They sent me almost an hour worth of voice messages about how I'd "ruined their family".
They wish their son had never met me, that he'd see me for "who I truly am", and that I'd never gotten pregnant. Many of the messages ended with "I hope you're happy now", as if they thought they were getting the last word, only to think of something else they wanted to say. There was name calling, an accusation of me cheating, and the persistent refusal to refer to my son as their grandchild.
My fiancé and I listened to the messages together. He hadn't gotten any. As much as I tried to distance myself, I was in tears by the time it was all done. I still don't regret anything, specially after the stunt they pulled back in May, but I'm not completely free of the guilt yet. Not to mention their complete disregard for their grandson. I was already having an overwhelming week, and this just seemed like the final straw.
I must have spent close to an hour sobbing in my fiancé's arms. Once I was calmer, he unblocked his parents just to scream at them for a while. I only heard his side of the conversation, but it was more than enough. He finished the call by saying he didn't want to hear from them again.
We had a long talk afterwards. My fiancé opened up about the emotional blackmail by his family before and after my pregnancy. My in-laws were close to threatening him with anything they could if we didn't name our son Peter. I told him about my guilt, and how awful I feel for putting him through this. We reassured each other, cried a bit more, and had a mostly pleasant evening with our baby.
We contacted his cousin. The family is giving her shit for breaking the tradition again. They're being way less aggressive though, and I think many of my in-laws are finally learning to let go. We're not expecting any apologies anytime soon, but we'll be glad if they come.
Our wedding will be in September 2024, and whoever doesn't give us a sincere apology until then is uninvited. My fiancé's parents are banned either way. We came to that decision together.
Also, I'd like to address some comments on my previous update about how I was "letting my family's trauma win", or how the name wouldn't be hurtful now that my grandmother has passed.
I can't stress enough the damage my uncle's death caused. He was only 30 years old. He had a fiancée, a great career and his whole life ahead of him. I don't know many details about what happened, because I didn't want to upset my family by asking. My grandmother wasn't the only person hurt by this, my entire paternal family was. And if I remember correctly, the person responsible isn't even in jail anymore. It was more than 20 years ago, but the wound never truly closed.
So yeah, I think it's safe to say the tradition is over. The next Not-Peter will be here in January, right before my son's first birthday. It was never my intention for this to turn into such a shitstorm, but I'm so incredibly proud of my little family.
Thank you so much to everyone who shared their stories and offered advice during these last few months. I'll be forever grateful for all the support I got from y'all.
*****New Update Post: May 13, 2024 (13 months from OG post, about 10 from last post)****\*
Hey everyone, it's been a while. I hope you guys had a great Mother's Day!
I remember that last year, I promised myself I'd write a final update as soon as I felt calmer or felt the situation was closer to being solved. That actually happened months ago, but I've been busy lately.
Following my previous update, my fiancé's side of the family remained upset about the tradition being over for a few more months. They were way less intense about it, specially with the pregnant cousin I mentioned, but it was still evident.
That cousin's Not-Peter (almost a year later, I still can't think of a better term) was born in January. Our son turned one the next month. I think the fact that these two things happened so close together helped many of my in-laws let go of the tradition.
We got a few apologies we weren't expecting. Some of them were sincere enough that we slowly started reestablishing contact.
My fiancé's parents were not among those who apologized. We haven't spoken to either of them since last July. From what I've heard from some of his other relatives, however, MIL seems regretful. She has told some of them that she wishes she could be part of her grandson's life, and wonders if making his name a hill to die on was a bad decision. FIL, from what I gather, barely acknowledges my baby exists.
My fiancé knows about how his mother feels, but he says he doesn't care. And even if we did get an apology, I don't think either of us can forgive his parents. As much as we're mostly okay now, it sometimes feels like their treatment of our family ruined the first few months of our baby's life. I know that's not actually true, but I don't want them around my child.
Besides all that, things have been great. My son is 15 months old now, which I don't think I'll ever really get used to. He recently started drawing and has been expanding his vocabulary. He said "mamãe" first, by the way.
My fiancé and I are still getting married in September. We're thinking about moving abroad in a couple years (for work reasons), but we're not sure yet. We also recently got a dog (sadly, we didn't name him Peter).
This will be my final update. Whatever guilt I had about this situation a year ago is completely gone, and my life has been peaceful enough that it feels safe to say the shitshow is over.
Hugo, if you ever find this, you are the most fantastic thing that has ever happened to us. Thank you for letting me be your mom.
Thank you, Reddit, for all the love, advice and support you've given me this past year.
Relevant Comment:
Commenter: Whilst this may be your final update on the naming sage, you said you are getting married in September 2024 and MiL&FiL aren't going to be invited.
Prepare for more craziness from them at that time and good luck :)
OOP: I really do think this is over. My fiancé's parents don't know when or where we're getting married, so I'm not worried about them showing up. They haven't reached out to us in months, and we have no interest in contacting them.
2024.05.20 07:04 Significant-Tower146 Best Centerpoint Scopes
 | submitted by Significant-Tower146 to u/Significant-Tower146 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/hanxzpkbki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4a97b9b2a33326268a179c55737905267d133114 Welcome hunters and shooting enthusiasts! If you're looking to elevate your shooting experience, you've come to the right place. Let's dive into the world of Centerpoint Scopes, a leading brand in hunting optics. We've rounded up some of their top-tier products, each with unique features designed to cater to every shooter's needs. The Top 19 Best Centerpoint Scopes
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Its impressive features, coupled with its budget-friendly price, make it a worthy investment for anyone seeking to enhance their outdoor experiences. 🔗Compact Spotting Scope with 15-45x Magnificationhttps://preview.redd.it/51gkkofeki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d3cb7cf19e9e8774dcb13b529611454dd2c7b924 I recently went on a nature trip and decided to bring along the Bresser Spektar 15-45x60 Zoom Spotting Scope. It was quite compact with dimensions of 365 x 80 x 165 mm and only weighed 3.74 lbs, making it easy to pack into my backpack. When I arrived at my destination, I eagerly unpacked this handy spotting scope and eagerly started looking through it. The first thing that caught my attention about the spotting scope was its versatile magnification range of 15-45x. I didn't have to worry about setting up a tripod as it was conveniently portable. However, it was just as easy to support it by resting it on a parapet, making it even more user-friendly in a variety of settings. 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The only downside was, it was a bit heavy, but it was worth it for the incredible views. 🔗Axcel AVX-41 Scope Lens Combo: Customizable, High-Power Optics for Hunting and Shootinghttps://preview.redd.it/musxy7vfki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3a1eb5e8fdd093497a3b3d7e1b5c8ec694a94fdb I recently had the chance to try out the Axcel AVX-41 Scope Lens Combo in my archery practice, and I have to say, it was a game-changer. The 41mm scope offered me an impressive level of adjustability thanks to its modular design, which allowed me to customize my setup to perfection. One of the standout features was the inclusion of the Doc's Choice lens, available in various powers. It made a significant difference in my accuracy, and I could easily see the target even at longer distances. Additionally, the #10-32 stainless steel rod and T Connector were a great addition, providing extra durability and stability to my setup. Although the combo offers a wide array of components for customization, I did find that it might be a bit overwhelming for archers new to scope adjustments. However, with a little bit of guidance, it's definitely a versatile and reliable choice for experienced archers looking to up their game. 🔗Versatile, Waterproof Condor Spotting Scope for Outdoor Adventureshttps://preview.redd.it/phvy446gki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a3462360f66daf3b1d27b91d2695c1cacd056852 Let me share my delightful experience with the Bresser Condor 20-60x85 Spotting Scope. This little gem has quickly become my go-to companion on nature walks, sporting events, and even leisurely birdwatching trips. The fully multicoated optics allow for a bright and high-contrast picture, which I truly appreciate. The spotting scope is waterproof and, thanks to the 240-degree rotatable body, I can adjust the angle effortlessly for better observation. 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This guide will help you understand the essential features, considerations, and advice when choosing a Centerpoint Scope.Features to Considerhttps://preview.redd.it/95574cfkki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e973991abd9e3b7740ea7f0f9a37e0d806db4bb4 MagnificationMagnification is a crucial factor when choosing a Centerpoint Scope. The magnification determines how much the object appears to be enlarged through the scope. Higher magnification offers better precision, but it may also lead to more image distortion. Consider the magnification range that suits your needs and shooting distance.Objective Lens DiameterThe objective lens diameter determines the amount of light that enters the scope, affecting brightness and clarity. A larger objective lens diameter allows more light to enter, but it may also increase the scope's weight and size. Choose an objective lens diameter that balances light gathering capability and portability.Field of ViewThe field of view (FOV) is the area observable through the scope. A wider FOV is beneficial for tracking and locating fast-moving targets, but it may compromise precision. Choose a Centerpoint Scope with an FOV that suits your shooting style and target type. https://preview.redd.it/47y79oukki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8848f6bacc75bfbb0070f51c8ea54ce6b431c1a5 Eye ReliefEye relief is the distance between your eye and the scope's eyepiece for comfortable viewing. Insufficient eye relief may cause eye strain or injury. Opt for a Centerpoint Scope with a generous eye relief distance that accommodates the use of shooting glasses.ReticleThe reticle is a crosshair that helps you aim and estimate distance. Different reticles provide various advantages, such as improved target acquisition, holdover, or range estimation. Choose a Centerpoint Scope with a reticle that suits your shooting style and target type.Construction and DurabilityA well-built Centerpoint Scope can withstand rough handling and harsh weather conditions. Look for features such as waterproofing, fog-proofing, and shock-resistance to ensure the scope maintains accuracy and reliability. https://preview.redd.it/rx63teflki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0d8905bf5e7e3ea8d89f5319eee1e54ce3cf1cb6 Choosing the Right Centerpoint ScopeWhen selecting the best Centerpoint Scope for your needs, consider your shooting style, target type, and environmental conditions. Take into account your budget, as well, since different models may offer varying levels of performance and features.Proper Care and MaintenanceTo ensure longevity and accuracy, always clean and store your Centerpoint Scope properly. Follow the manufacturer's guidelines for maintenance, avoid subjecting it to extreme temperature changes, and protect it from sudden impacts and vibrations.Centerpoint Scopes offer a variety of features and benefits for shooters and hunters. By understanding the essential features and considerations, you can make an informed decision when selecting the right Centerpoint Scope for your needs. Remember to always consider proper care and maintenance to ensure its performance and durability. FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/v7oznf1mki1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fdf65c3e31ea86f327a5d6d6a8f5013a62d1a219 What are Centerpoint Scopes?Centerpoint scopes are high-quality, affordable gun scopes designed for hunting, target shooting, and long-range precision shooting. These scopes are known for their durability, ease of use, and excellent features that make them suitable for a wide range of shooters.Who manufactures Centerpoint Scopes?Centerpoint scopes are manufactured by Optics Technologies, a company that specializes in designing and producing various types of optics, including rifle scopes, spotting scopes, and binoculars. They focus on delivering high-quality optics at competitive price points, making them accessible to a broader audience.What are the features of Centerpoint Scopes?
What types of Centerpoint Scopes are available?Centerpoint offers a wide range of scopes designed for different shooting needs and preferences, including:
What is the warranty on Centerpoint Scopes?Centerpoint scopes are backed by a limited lifetime warranty. If you experience any issues with the scope's performance or construction, you can contact the manufacturer for assistance.Where can I purchase Centerpoint Scopes?Centerpoint scopes can be purchased directly from the manufacturer's website or from authorized dealers and retailers specializing in hunting and shooting optics. It is recommended to research the dealer's reputation and customer feedback before making a purchase to ensure you receive an authentic, high-quality product.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.20 07:04 Astro41208 Rising senior curious about Duke’s physics program
Hey! I’m a rising senior in high school, and I’m looking at Duke as one of my reaches. The campus is absolutely beautiful and I like the location. I had a couple questions about your guys’ experience: 1. How is the physics/computer science program, and how does it stack up to similar universities? (JSU, UNC, etc.) 2. How do research opportunities compare to similar schools? 3. What do you like or dislike about your social life at Duke? I’m a moderately introverted person, but I do like making friends and having fun. I love a good food scene Thanks!
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