My fiance always locks his computer screen and will not tell me the password. We've been together for 3 years and lived together for 1. He is very masculine, very dominant. Not dominant in that pathetic way where guys are assholes and use it as an excuse to degrade or bully, but he's just extremely confident and assertive. I don't know why he's with me. He has a great job, bought us this house, and honestly, he could attract someone much better. I'm a single mother, I've lived a hard life, and even though I have a college degree, I don't work and instead am a stay at home mom. I have lots of debt, am a recovering addict, I have a felony, and terrible credit. Im 40, and it appears i cant even give him children. I never understood why a man like him would be with a woman like me, who has had so much difficulty. Even though he's given me no reason to think this, I was worried maybe it's because being with me, meant having access to a little girl (my daughter is 6). I read sometimes men enter relationships with single mothers so they can abuse their daughters. I was worried the reason he was so careful about locking the computer down all the time, is because he maybe had CP. The other night, he left his computer unlocked on accident and I had my opportunity. He told me he hadn't looked at porn since we started dating, but his download folder was full of porn. He was watching it after I'd go to bed and even while he was at work. He watched porn probably 3-4 times a week, from what I could see. Thankfully, I didn't see any CP, but I did see lots of gay porn. Like 2 men together. Probably 50% of it was heterosexual porn, but I was really surprised how much of it was 2 men. We have sex at least once a day, but usually a couple times a day. I've told him we can do kinky stuff, but he insists he prefers very normal sex. We don't even do stuff like 69 or use toys. We've known each other since we were teenagers, so I know he used to be into kinky stuff. My fiance is very closed off. He doesn't really talk to me about his stress or fears or anything, we don't talk about sex. He has a friend who he's had for about 3 years. He started talking to his friend when the guy was 14, and my fiance was in his mid to late 30s. I've never felt anything was bad about their relationship, but obviously this kid is much younger than him. I've never heard them discuss anything inappropriate, but a couple of times, I heard him confide things he never told me. We had a miscarriage, and he talked to this kid about it, but not me. This kid seems very heterosexual, but he has told my fiance he wished they lived together. He seems to have a more intimate and trusting relationship with this boy, than he does me. My fiance doesn't seem obsessive or anything, but he mentions this kid for one reason or another, just about every day. Now that I've found all this gay porn, I'm starting to become concerned.
One other thing, when my fiance and I were teenagers, we'd like have cyber sex. I have a really foggy memory about it, and maybe it was a dream (it was like 20 years ago), but I seem to remember he wanted another guy to join the conversation,and we had a cyber threesome, where the other guy pretended to penetrate him. When I asked him if he remembers that, he won't give me a direct answer. He rarely gives me a direct answer about anything. He did very directly tell me he isn't gay when i asked him today, though.
Guys, I'm sorry this is so long. I feel awful. I feel like he is keeping secrets from me and like I don't really know him, because he is so closed off. He knows I looked through his computer, but he doesn't want to talk about the porn. It's been 2 days and I feel like I'm in a black cloud and I can't escape this feeling that he's keeping a terrible secret. We've had sex like 5 times since I saw the porn on his computer.

Anyone else have cats that do this one really specific weird thing? I have an orange boy named Arthur. He purrs like a jet engine and loves his cuddles. But.. he only likes MY cuddles. If it’s my mom or anyone else he promptly gets up and sits down a couple feet away.
For me he usually gets this “I want cuddle” look in his eyes and stares at me purring as loud as can be. So I lean back and tap my chest a couple times and he knows it’s time. Stands on me for a while to sniff and get kissies before laying down LEFT SIDE ONLY! He will ONLY lay on the left side of me, his face in my ear and body being supported by my arm like some weird spooning situation… I’ve tried to get him on my right side. Really, I’ve tried. No. He hates it. He despises it. He might sit there for 2 seconds before he’s up crawling to his rightful throne, my left armpit. I’m always waking up every hour of the night to him deciding it’s cuddle time until he gets bored and leaves (only to later return).
Anyone else got weird cuddle cats?

nobody taught me how to love myself. i (23f) was never really talked to about my body; how it would change, how to nourish it, what to expect societally as i aged into it. now, i feel stunted and unsure of how to grow into myself.
i remember almost the exact moment i began to experience self consciousness around my body. i was just entering middle school- girls were talking about fashion and dating and what kind of underwear were attractive versus embarrassing, boys were making fun of girls for how they had or hadn’t developed, instagram was barely 2 years old and didn’t have eating disorder content blocked yet. this was the year i would very suddenly develop OCD, body dysmorphic disorder, anorexia, depression/self harm, and a compulsive hair pulling disorder. it all came on at once, and i didn’t have anyone to guide me through it.
i went through puberty without any real guidance, neither my mother or stepmother taught me that these things weren’t gross or shameful. my mother’s side of the family was very religions (southern baptist christians), so i was very controlled in what i was allowed to wear, and there were always underlying implications that my body was shameful and a magnet for sin.
on my mom’s side, i had a mother with generational body image issues and a stepfather with no filter and a propensity for mean “jokes”. on my fathers, an overweight dad with an ego the size of a mountain, and an underweight, likely undiagnosed anorexic step mother.
entering high school as a young girl who had to hide her concerns from an unsupportive family, i very quickly fell victim to the mindset that it was good to be sexualized, that i could derive worth from being desired by boys. i didn’t have any role model or supportive female figure to teach me about autonomy or consent or self worth. in my later teen years and early adulthood, this allowed me to fall into multiple situations where i would be taken advantage of.
my eating disorder fluctuates in intensity of restrictive habits, but my body dysmorphia never lets up. my OCD increases bodily awareness tied to negative or intrusive thoughts. i’m old enough, experienced enough, mature enough now to realize that i am complete, worthy, and beautiful. but i don’t know how to believe that. i don’t know how to actually feed myself, i don’t know how to take pride in my appearance and feel worthy of putting effort into it. i can’t stand attention being directed at me for too long, i get physically uncomfortable when someone is looking at my face or body. i don’t know how to take care of myself.
this is all pretty embarrassing. i feel so far behind where my friends are at our age, i don’t know that the things i experience with my body are normal and am shocked when a friend who i consider attractive and “whole” shares some oddity about her own body. i see others cooking for themselves, dressing in ways that flatter their bodies and personalities, and standing confident in who they are. i barely feel like my body is even mine.
my sense of identity is a bit confused due to childhood trauma, and i’m in therapy for that. i have a pretty good grasp on who i truly am and what’s in the way of expressing and owning that. but… i just wasn’t ever given instructions or a model for how to be who i am.
how do i start to care for my body? how do people feel like their bodies are their own, and where do you find the motivation to take care of yourselves? how can i start to feel like my innermost self and my physical body are connected, and how do i show myself and my peers who i am?
these are big questions, i know. i’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and any insight anyone is able to share would be greatly appreciated.

I 44f have 4 brothers, Juan 46, Jesus 42, Adrian 32, and Jorge 27. I have a very difficult and very distant relationship with my mother. My father and I are very close. I was always the runt. My mother told me several time how much she hated me. It was my fault she had to get married (she got knocked up with me), after several failed attempts to abort me. After she had me and doctors said "it's a girl" she cried and hated me more, because she never wanted daughters. She would also tell me she loved Jesus more than any of us because she suffered more while pregnant with him. I was around 7 or 8 at this time. Adrian and Jorge were both planned after my father wanted another daughter. When they both came out to be boys, she abandoned them and left me to care for them. So at the age of 14, I had became full time mom to a kid that wasn't mine. When Jorge came around she abandoned him too, I was 16. It got too hard to raise 2 kids, be a full time mom, student, and hold a job at the age of 16, so I dropped out of high school. When I was 16, I started dating my now husband, which I knew from high school and was my neighbor, we weren't close and didn't really talk because of how crazy my life was. He was 4 yrs older than me. When we started dating, he thought my little brothers were my kids and he had a 6 month old himself. Fast forward a decade later, my father retired from the military and he finds out what is really going on at home, and my parents divorced. I know have help from my father and husband. Then I get pregnant with my first kid at age 18. My husband and I move in together and married 4 yrs later. We have 2 more kids. By age 24 I have 6 kids. Now my kids are grown adults and living their life. Come October 2023 my older brother Juan is granted full custody of my brother Jesus's new born and February 2024 I'm granted temporary custody of Jesus's other son 8yr and daughter 7yr. Juan and I are close and he helps me when I need a babysitter. My husband and I work 2 jobs to pay for loans we took out for home upgrades. Yesterday was one of my cousins wedding. This morning a few family members and I went to my mom's house for breakfast, when my aunt, who was like a mother to me and my godmother, pulled me aside and told me my mom was really upset with me for not calling her for mothers day or making an effort to rebuild our relationship. She also didn't like who stern I am with my niece and nephew and need to change my parenting style. She said maybe my mom is ready to change and she may want to rebuild the relationship, but the decision will always be mine to make. That's when I said she can kiss it. And not long after that we all left. That's just the snap things my mom has done to me. AITA?

OK, Ok Hear me out. I Know, I know that the Secret Ending reveals the Foretellers returning and calling Xigbar Luxu. I know this happens, but...BUT WHAT IF THAT ISN'T LUXU? WHAT IF ITS BRAIN?
Hear me out I know this seems insane but I have some reason to think this.

1. Xigbar knows an awful lot about Ancient Keyblade wielders for someone who never directly participated in the Keyblade War. The man has some very strong opinions that the few cutscenes we see of him don't seem to match.
   
2. Xigbar's weirdness about Ventus. Xigbar gets these weird flashbacks about Ventus specifically when talking to Roxas and Sora and its weird? Luxu as far as we can tell, has never actually met Ven. While Brain was around for during the whole Ventus possessed by Darkness fight in Union X and has just been around Ven more in general certainly long enough to form an opinion.
   
3. Xigbar's lettering just works better: Brain - Bragi - Braig - Xigbar
   

So why would the Foretellers call him Luxu? Well, all of the Foretellers have read the Book of Prophecies which may indicate that Luxu was supposed to call them back at this exact location and/or they or the MoM made a plan for Luxu to do this way back before the Original Keyblade War. But it doesn't have to be Luxu. In fact, none of the Foretellers seem sure at all that it's Luxu. They don't initially believe him. ANd he never directly confirms it. All he says is that its still him underneath. Now we, and the Foretellers, assume that Luxu is making this assertion, but if Luxu taught Brain how to body hop its entirely possible he's playing with our assumptions because he never directly claims to be Luxu.
We know that Luxu approached Brain in the LifePod Room, and we know Brain told him he intended to be the virus in the system. The game fades to black before we see exactly how that scene resolves, but we also know from KH3 Secret Reports that Luxu did bequeath the Gazing Eye to a Union Leader which we assume to be Brain. We also know that Brain was standing in the Keyblade Graveyard with the Blackbox at the end of Union X, where we see Xigbar with it at the end of KH3.
But Brain is also in Scala ad Caelum before the start of Missing Link. So how does this all play out?
My theory is that Luxu takes Brain as his apprentice, teaches him about body hopping, bequeaths him the GOAT and the BB and leaves to either keep observing and make sure everything ends up where it needs to be in the end or tries to figure out where the MoM disappeared to.
The body hopper we've been seeing is Brain, moving from vessel to vessel, trying to figure out how to save the Dandelions. This makes some of KH3 make more sense. All the members of Org13 Sora meets up with are investigating the connections between Hearts and their bodies, and if people can be reconstructed from Data versions. Which would make sense if Brain intended to reconstruct the Dandelions using Replica bodies. And Brain intends to screw p the MoM's plan, lying to the Foretellers wouldn't be an issue.
As for why we see him in Scala ad Caelum in Missing Link- well there's no reason time travel only needs to go forward. Sora went backwords in KH3, so Brain could be doing the same.
So where is Luxu in all this? Well, I think at some point he becomes Luxord. Luxord is known as the "Gambler of Fate" His whole thing is that there is always a chance for the outcome to be different, which I think is a fitting motivation for an apprentice who originally WAS NOT GIVEN A COPY OF THE BOOK OF PROPHECIES. He's as blind as we are, which mean every choice he makes...is a gamble. Luxu was also just supposed to watch, and given that Xigbar seems to interfere with things every chance he gets, as well as the fact he does know things from the Book (a copy of which BRAIN RECEIVED AND READ) makes for an interesting twist. And we know both Luxord and Demyx have to part of the Ancient Keyblade Legacy somehow because Xemnas tells us as much in KH3 - and we already know who Marluxia and Laxrene are. And Luxord has largely BEEN an observer. He chimes in occasionally with commentary, but he's only ever fought Sora twice. Every other time he's let the Heartless or others do it. He also mentioned in POTC world he's always liked the 'Long Game'. And he's the only person to mention what the Black Box is said to contain, given
FYI This is part of why I subscribe to Demyx being the MoM theory. Of all of Org13 - Demyx and Luxord are the ones we don't really have backstories for yet. And given that Luxord never really treats Sora as an enemy, an opponent yes, but not an enemy, I have to wonder. Especially since he specifically gives Sora something (The Card) where no other organization member does that.
Also that custscene with him and Xigbar in ReMInd : "Yes that's what I've always done, followed the orders from above without question." - just, gives me Luxu vibes. That whole scene just gives me interrogation vibes - of Luxord is Luxu, then it really is all the same to him as long as everything ends up where it needs to be in the end.
TL:DR Xigbar is acyually Brain and Luxord is Luxu - Change my mind.
Also I expect Missing Link to completely disprove this once we get the whole thing, so take it with a grain of salt.

So I have 3 boys in all & the youngest 2 are biracial & they have BEAUTIFUL curly hair. My 2 year old absolutely HATES getting his hair done or even someone atleast running their hands through it, he will scream. However, I don’t have any issues with it I remember very well on how it feels to get your hair done as a child so it takes some getting used to. Well, my sister & mother thinks otherwise. EVERYTIME I see them, they’re always saying how I NEED to cut their hair constantly sending me kids haircut styles shit like that. My sister is the most outspoken, judgmental, opinionated woman I’ve ever met & no exaggeration, EVERYTIME she sees my children the FIRST thing that comes out of her mouth is I need to cut it. Today, we were at a bbq at my moms house & I walked in, set the babies down on the couch and the first thing she says after looking at my 2 year old is “ugh why is everybody growing their boys hair out” mind you, my sons hair is freshly / neatly braided so it’s not like it was a mess all over the place. I avoid conflict at my mom’s house out of respect for her, so I just kept my comments to myself and ignored her. As the day goes on blah blah blah, dinner time comes and my son is exhausted after being in church all morning & hasn’t had a nap so he’s crying and I’m trying to figure out why & I hear her & her husband conversation in the living room saying “ yeah we can leave after this I’m not trying to listen to that” so I told them I’ll do it for them. I packed up mine & my son’s dinner, and left instantly. I’m so tired of just being “used to it”. I’m the black sheep of the family so it’s pretty normal to get shit on or talked about or judged. Idk what to do in this situation. OH & she had the nerve to send me a tik tok after I got home of a child’s haircut! I want to respond and go tf off but I’m trying to keep it adult 🙄 ok rant over thanks for listening to my Ted talk 😂😂😂

Hey,
I've seen comments, mainly from women and feminist, saying that men don't face barriers getting into certain professions society considers "feminine" and that more men in those fields wouldn't be beneficial because it will be at the loss of opportunities for women due to the glass elevator.
However, men do experience barriers of entry on a social and systematic level, here are examples for nursing:
-Research shows that from early introduction into schooling career counsellors don't recommend nursing as a career for boy
-Male engaged in nursing is often referred to as a “male nurse”.
-Common public perception is that men are not suitable to be nurses
-Nursing is not seen as ‘masculine enough’ for most men in their youth -Institutional gender bias against men inherent in most nursing programs
-Lack of reference to men’s contribution throughout nursing history
-Lack of access to male role models during training and entry to practice
This has established a trajectory and a culture that has kept the representation of men in nursing to around 10% in many high-income countries.
There is also a massive decline in male teachers over the last 20 years showing that young men are not going into teaching. Additionally only 2% of early child teachers are men.
The other point is that more men being in the field would negatively effect the women currently in the profession due to existing glass elevator where when men are under-represented in a field they get fast tracked to senior positions.
This causes a negative perception of male participation in the field, which further reduces inclusion. But this glass elevator, which can occur in other industries too, can only be overcome if male participation in the workforce is normalised and increased.
This can be shown in Australia's recent $100 million affirmative action women getting into STEM fields, with women making up 11% of STEM before and today make up 27% of the workforce, 23% of senior management. The results are promising and show early encouragement has been shown to work.
An increase in men in the nursing, teaching and other typically "feminine" roles would help reduce negative gender biases that root woman roles in caregiving and child raising that can be very damaging and potentially normalise men being more comfortable in caregiving roles.
This could also over time, reduce the industry gender pay gap as the men and women ratio balances out.
Sources:
What are five barriers that men face in the nursing workforce? https://www.acn.edu.au/publications/the-hive-2018/what-are-five-barriers-that-men-face-in-the-nursing-workforce
'If you're a male primary teacher, there's a big “why are you doing that? What is wrong with ... - Compass Hub https://compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/soc4.13145
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/nuf.12504?casa_token=0fSzo6BonEQAAAAA%3AuEbtIqONQ7FdzpbrezYLGoIEKLH37CbOan7R0n33MG4vBGplDO0PlJ4kcjEIHhp1hXlxKlEqCgEd
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9796946/#:~:text=Palazzo%20and%20Erikson%20(2020)%20note,96).
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4228905/
Barriers to Male Faculty in Nursing Education - ScholarWorks Walden University Research https://scholarworks.waldenu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=7750&context=dissertations
https://nursejournal.org/articles/male-nursing-representation/

I (33f) and my husband (34m) have been in a commitment and solid relationship since we were 18.
If you need background on our relationship read this or skip ahead:
Background: We met online in a game in two separate states. We moved in together in his state and got married in court during lockdown in 2021. Neither of us are close with our families because of their extremely conservative and religious convictions. I am romantically attracted to women more than sexually which I confessed to my husband at a later time in our relationship. I didn’t have and don’t have any interest in other women since we met. I later shared with him my spiritual beliefs and practices as a witch that I suppressed since I was caught by my mother as a teenager. I was shammed a lot for being me growing up. I grew up in a very emotionally unstable home. I also did not receive the supports I needed as a child with adhd and autism that developed anxiety and depression. There is a lot behind that but it is what it is at this point. This being said, my dad also has adhd and mental illnesses that he would display with subtle to full outbursts of anger and my mom unresolved childhood neglect and bullying and what I believe to be some form(s) of intellectual deficits which severely affected her self esteem and her almost unhealthy strong attachment to me. So I grew up to be a clusterfuck of mental, emotional, developmental and spiritual instability. I was also bullied and suffered betrayals from friendships because of various factors often due to my neurodivergent behaviors. So as to be expected, I 100% formed an anxious attachment style. Please look it up so you are familiar with this. It’s a big part of the conundrum I’m in.
(DISCLAIMER: I’m not into the evil fuckery type magic btw… I’m the kind of witch that practices moon magic with lots of love, light and blessings n all that shit - yes I’m in a pissy mood from all of this so you’ll be getting that sort of spice throughout). .
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If you skipped ahead it starts here:
My husband had slowly loosened up on his own strict conservative programming since he started seeing me become happier and more secure in myself since I started practicing my personal spirituality again and dropping my “mask” more often and being that weird quirky neurodivergent girl more openly and working so hard on myself to overcome my childhood traumas and the shame that stifled my authentic self. And that was great! Until it wasn’t for me in our monogamous relationship.
He guilted me (unintentionally) into having a threesome 2x with a woman who we ended up having a sort of friendship afterword but I was always very mentally off put by it but faked being ok for a while. After each of the 2x weeks apart, I became very emotionally numb to my husband. Like my heart literally froze and I was feeling almost like a cold-hearted bitch, even telling my husband I wanted a divorce. Mind you, he was in a bad mental state at this time in which I didn’t really know because he never truly expressed his actual emotions much. I found out later that he had been feeling pretty severe distress from his mom who has been making horrible mistakes and acting like a spoiled child begging him for money and complaining to him about her constant fights with her sister who was like a second mom to him in which he kept being placed in the center. I have my own traumas from her due to a psychiatric break she had which was slowly building that we weren’t aware of until she snapped fully disconnecting from reality and the entire time I was the center of her hostilities, likely because I was taking her baby boy from her - if you’re Hispanic, you understand this atrocity I was committing 🙄. My poor husband was under her thumb to the point he was completely sheltered and dependent on her - as a full grown man in his 20s until I literally helped him become an independent man in thought and lifestyle. So imagine that stress being in the middle and then having me add in to that with my constant complaining and irritation with his mom’s bs affecting us constantly in one way or another.
And then ADD TO THAT he was suffering severe caregiver burnout because I’ve been chronically ill since we met and still in that stage where all my doctors were telling me I was just anxious so they didn’t have to actually do their due diligence, which was then exacerbated significantly after I was in a car accident and they couldn’t figure out was was wrong for almost 2-3 years until I got the right care and back on my feet- kind of. I have been off and on disability - including a SI attempt last March - for about 6 yrs now. So my husband has been my main support for almost 12-13 years of our relationship. I obviously am not close to my parents (and because my dads a money hungry idiot I was always moving around California for his next big promotion which separated me at 7yrs old from my then 22yr old sister and her 2yr old daughter).
When he finally broke down and told me, we had a long and difficult talk with so many tears and a bit step toward healing ourselves individually and as partners. Don’t get me wrong, we had our fair share of misunderstandings and issues but we always came together stronger and closer. I thought before this significant issue that I had the most wonderful and strong marriage in the world. I mean, not only was he still there, but he helped me get back up every time I wanted to give up which allowed me so much success and the ability to purchase our 2nd home by the time we were 32yrs old. The 1st house we had to sell because of the accident and we hit rock bottom, and then we got this one a year ago and almost lost it again due to my health.
We worked to a point where we were happy again. Like the kids who met and fell in love 15yrs ago. We just had the PERFECT date day (we had 6 separate exciting things packed into that day). At the end of the night we walked around the lake by our house and sat down on a bench overlooking the water when after some time snuggling and laughing and talking about our day…. He confessed something major to me. Something that has made me feel that slipping of warmth in my heart for him once again.
He brought up the poly thing again. But this time, he said after much research and soul searching, he identifies as polyamorous. I asked him if he meant he wanted just flings or something with other people or if he meant… romantic relationships as well. With sadness in his voice he confirmed. He wanted a romantic relationship outside of me. This is why he hadn’t been wearing his wedding ring in a long time. It started during to his skin condition on his hand but when it healed he lied and said it bothers his hand whenever I’d ask after that.
I know he will always keep me as the permanent primary partner I guess they call it, but I just can’t get over this intense sense of anger, jealousy, fear of abandonment. Remember that anxious-attachment style? Well this is the WORST NIGHTNARE for someone with that type of attachment.
It feels almost like he punched me square in the chest with all his strength and this boy has some serious biceps. I love him so much and as much as I want to tell him no, that I am his wife and I will be the only one because HE is MY husband, that would lead to that awful resentment we both held for what felt like ages. You know that saying? If you love them, let them go? That’s how I feel. He has made it so clear he will always be at my side and that his love for me is everything. But he can’t deny who he is and I can’t rip that part out of him and burn it until not even ashes remain.
I know he would be a complete and utter mess if I divorced him, but I feel so devastated. He has done so much research and I asked him to give me the resources he said he’d collected for me to understand him and what this whole polyamory thing is. I love this man with all of my being. He’s my soulmate. Or I guess… was.
I don’t want to feel this way but I don’t know how I’m going to get over this right now. We talked about couples counseling but my heart and anxiety want to just throw in the towel to avoid any more pain.
****I’m so sorry for the long and possibly over encumbered post…
But, AITA for wanting to shut down and kick my loving husband to the curb? ****
Any advice for this anxiously attached, autistic wife married to a monogamous and now polygamous husband would be so appreciated.
Edit: he only wants to see a partner WE BOTH are into. But I want to punch the shit out of every imaginary man or woman who would dare steal any millisecond of my man’s affection.

I am STILL NOT the Original Poster. That is still . She posted in and .
You can read the previous BORU's here and here. New Update marked with ****\* Thanks to u/Choice_Evidence1983 and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for letting me know!
Trigger Warning: brief mention of murder
Mood Spoiler: happy ending
Original Post: April 16, 2023
Throwaway because I have in-laws on Reddit.
Myself (25F) and my fiancé (27M) have a 2 month old son. We are overjoyed at being parents, but most of my in-laws are refusing to even see our baby because of a decision we made concerning his name.
My in-laws have a tradition of giving the first-born son of every generation the same name. Let's say it's "Peter". This has been going on for about seven generations already, and they're very serious about it. My fiancé's eldest cousin was the latest person to get named Peter. Every one of his cousins has only had daughters so far, so our baby is the first son of his generation, and consequently should get the name.
I have no problem with the name Peter, and would've been okay with naming my son that. Unfortunately, that was also the name of my uncle, who died before I was born. I won't get into details, but it was tragic and traumatizing for my family. My father never got over losing his younger brother.
My grandmother asked the family not to name any of our future children Peter during her lifetime. My MIL and FIL knew about this promise, and at first seemed to not only be okay with us avoiding the name Peter, but also supportive of the one we chose.
However, my grandmother sadly passed away when I was 7 months pregnant. We traveled for her funeral. On our last days there, my in-laws called to offer me their condolences. Then my MIL asked me if I was willing to "think about the name Peter now."
Suddenly, they were insistent that the name we chose was awful and we had to honor their tradition. According to them, they had only agreed to make an exception for us for my grandmother's sake, and had no obligation to keep it now that she had passed.
My family agrees that while it's true we don't have to avoid the name anymore, it still doesn't feel right to use it. My fiancé agrees with me as well, but his parents spent the last weeks of my pregnancy trying to convince us to change our minds about the name.
When our baby was born and we named him what we wanted, my in-laws were furious that we had broken a 7-generation-old family tradition. Some of them hadn't previously wanted to name their sons Peter, but did it anyway for the family's sake. They said our decision was selfish, and that my family "should have moved on by now."
This has truly nothing to do with whether my family has moved on or not, it just felt like a betrayal to my grandmother and uncle's memories to even consider using the name.
My FIL offered us $1000 to change our son's name to Peter after he was born. That was two months ago, and neither of my fiancé's parents have met the baby or seen us since I was pregnant. Most of my in-laws are on their side, and this is causing a huge rift between my fiancé and his family. He assures me he's fine, but I'm starting to feel really guilty about this.
AITA?
EDIT: The tradition started, as far as I know, when OG Peter died and his son, also named Peter, named his firstborn after his father. Peter III ended up having the first son of the following generation, and did the same thing. That one died before having children, so his sister gave the name to her son, and so on. The name “Peter” is very common in my country, so none of them ever got bullied over it, and the fact that it was also my uncle’s name isn’t as unlikely as one might think.
Also, middle names aren’t used in my country. Most people get the maternal surname before the paternal one instead.
EDIT 2: It wasn't 1000 dollars. Different country, different currency. It's still a lot of money, but would probably translate to about 200 USD.
Relevant Comments:
Can you use Peter as a middle name?"
Our country/culture doesn't generally use middle names. If we did, I'd be willing to think about that, even though my son's name doesn't match "Peter"."
How many Peters are alive right now in your family???"
There are 3 living "Peters" in the family right now. Only the eldest (my fiancé's great uncle) actually goes by Peter. The other two have nicknames ("Pete", "Petey", etc)."
OOP is voted NTA
Update Post: May 24, 2023 (a bit over 1 month later)
(OOP's post was removed from AITA, and reposted on her profile. I'm using the date of the AITA post. Comments are also from AITA)
I posted this on AITA, but it got removed about an hour ago because I mentioned a violent encounter on an edit. I tried editing it out and getting it back up, but it didn't work. I'm posting here in case anyone still wants to read it.
Original
Thank you so much to everyone who commented and offered support. A lot has happened since I posted, so I thought I'd give you an update.
About a week after my post, my fiancé's parents contacted us. They apologized for their behavior, and begged to meet my son. They said they were ready to leave the naming debacle behind and truly wanted to be involved in their grandson's life.
We were skeptical, but invited them over to meet the baby. The visit went well. They began coming over almost every day during the next three weeks. I noticed neither of them ever called my son by his name, but I didn't point it out. For the first time in months, things seemed good between my fiancé and his parents.
One day, my fiancé was helping my FIL with something at our place, so my MIL and I went to the park with my baby. Some time later, I had to go to the bathroom, so I left him in the stroller with her.
When I got back, she was sitting on a park bench, chatting with a woman who was cooing over my son. I went over there and introduced myself as "(son's name)'s mom", and she said, "I thought his name was Peter."
I didn't say a word, and neither did my MIL. She followed me to the car and we went back to my apartment. On the way there, I texted my fiancé about what had happened. The moment we got there, he kicked both his parents out of our place.
He'd read my texts and confronted his father. Thankfully, my FIL is a terrible liar, and confessed immediately. Apparently, both my in-laws ONLY call my son Peter. That includes whenever they're talking about him, every time they introduce him to someone else, and even baby-talking to him on the few occasions they were left alone with him. Neither of them are embarrassed by this, and they both think they're in the right.
We're heartbroken. Especially my fiancé. Not only because his parents can't let go of their pride, but also because the name we chose for our son means a lot to us both.
I blame myself for encouraging my fiancé to allow them near our son. I was raised in a different city than all my grandparents, and always wished they could have been more involved in my life. Losing my grandmother didn't help. Pretty much every doubt I had only existed because I thought it would be important for my son to grow up with all of his grandparents around.
But now, all my guilt is gone. If they can't respect my son enough to call him by his name, they don't deserve to be in his life.
I hope they enjoyed the three weeks they had with their grandson. Because that's all they're getting until they get their heads out of their asses.
EDIT: I thought I'd clarify some things. First of all, I'm not comfortable sharing my son's name here, but I promise it's not a "yooneek" name or anything like that. It's perfectly normal and popular-ish in our country.
Secondly, I mentioned this in the comments, but while my family didn't try to dictate me on my son's name, they would never be comfortable with it. My uncle Peter passed almost three decades ago, but it forever changed everyone who knew him. My grandmother's wish might seem a bit irrational, but it was motivated entirely by grief and it didn't seem right to disrespect that just because she's not around anymore.
And to whoever PM'd me that my fiancé's only on my side to keep the peace, he didn't want to use the name either. Months before I got pregnant, he told me he hoped one of his cousins would have a son before we did, because he always hated the tradition and sympathized with my family. He's just as angry at his parents as I am, if not more. Also, most of his cousins and some other relatives have come around and apologized.
Relevant Comments:
Are they this unhinged in other areas of your life too?"
According to my fiancé, they've always been a little entitled, but I never really saw them enough to be able to say that. I will say that, though they were polite, they very clearly didn't care about me until we moved in together. My MIL pretended not to remember my name every time she saw me, and my FIL would lose interest in any conversations that weren't about him. Once it was clear me and my fiancé were in for long term, they started acting a lot more friendly towards me, but it never seemed sincere."
Have other family members come around yet?"
Most of my fiancé's cousins have come around, and his brother was always on our side. His grandmother and some of his aunts and uncles are with us too. His grandfather (divorced from his grandmother), two out of three living Peters (the two oldest) and pretty much everyone else are either still mad at us or haven't reached out to talk about it yet.
My entire family is on my side. They promised not to interfere in the naming process, but are relieved we didn't name him Peter."
One more note on the $1000 offered in the first post:
"And that's $1000 in MY country's currency. It roughly translates to $200USD." (note- OOP clarifies in a comment that she is Brazilian)
OOP drops this horrible bombshell about her uncle, the one who died before she was born:
"My uncle was murdered. My grandmother's request was motivated by trauma."
"Again; my family would be mostly fine with naming my son Peter. My dad and my aunt might have been uncomfortable, and my grandmother asked us all not to do so, but I wouldn't have been disowned if I had. It simply felt disrespectful, especially since my grandmother passed shortly before my son was born.
My uncle's death was traumatic for my family, but the name Peter is hugely common in my country."
Update Post 2: July 28, 2023 (3 months from first post)
My son is now 5 months old (almost six!). We're still NC with my fiancé's parents, who haven't seen us since May. We've both blocked them everywhere. His relatives who were on our side still are, and most of the ones who weren't haven't come around. If anything, they're even more pissed now.
I remember someone suggesting that my fiancé's family might stop using the name after we decided not to. Well, you were right. Last week, one of my fiancé's cousins announced she was pregnant with a boy. She included her baby's name in the announcement, and it's not Peter.
What followed was a string of aggressive Instagram DMs from both MIL and FIL. They both created accounts for the sole purpose of contacting me. I didn't see them until two days later. They sent me almost an hour worth of voice messages about how I'd "ruined their family".
They wish their son had never met me, that he'd see me for "who I truly am", and that I'd never gotten pregnant. Many of the messages ended with "I hope you're happy now", as if they thought they were getting the last word, only to think of something else they wanted to say. There was name calling, an accusation of me cheating, and the persistent refusal to refer to my son as their grandchild.
My fiancé and I listened to the messages together. He hadn't gotten any. As much as I tried to distance myself, I was in tears by the time it was all done. I still don't regret anything, specially after the stunt they pulled back in May, but I'm not completely free of the guilt yet. Not to mention their complete disregard for their grandson. I was already having an overwhelming week, and this just seemed like the final straw.
I must have spent close to an hour sobbing in my fiancé's arms. Once I was calmer, he unblocked his parents just to scream at them for a while. I only heard his side of the conversation, but it was more than enough. He finished the call by saying he didn't want to hear from them again.
We had a long talk afterwards. My fiancé opened up about the emotional blackmail by his family before and after my pregnancy. My in-laws were close to threatening him with anything they could if we didn't name our son Peter. I told him about my guilt, and how awful I feel for putting him through this. We reassured each other, cried a bit more, and had a mostly pleasant evening with our baby.
We contacted his cousin. The family is giving her shit for breaking the tradition again. They're being way less aggressive though, and I think many of my in-laws are finally learning to let go. We're not expecting any apologies anytime soon, but we'll be glad if they come.
Our wedding will be in September 2024, and whoever doesn't give us a sincere apology until then is uninvited. My fiancé's parents are banned either way. We came to that decision together.
Also, I'd like to address some comments on my previous update about how I was "letting my family's trauma win", or how the name wouldn't be hurtful now that my grandmother has passed.
I can't stress enough the damage my uncle's death caused. He was only 30 years old. He had a fiancée, a great career and his whole life ahead of him. I don't know many details about what happened, because I didn't want to upset my family by asking. My grandmother wasn't the only person hurt by this, my entire paternal family was. And if I remember correctly, the person responsible isn't even in jail anymore. It was more than 20 years ago, but the wound never truly closed.
So yeah, I think it's safe to say the tradition is over. The next Not-Peter will be here in January, right before my son's first birthday. It was never my intention for this to turn into such a shitstorm, but I'm so incredibly proud of my little family.
Thank you so much to everyone who shared their stories and offered advice during these last few months. I'll be forever grateful for all the support I got from y'all.
*****New Update Post: May 13, 2024 (13 months from OG post, about 10 from last post)****\*
Hey everyone, it's been a while. I hope you guys had a great Mother's Day!
I remember that last year, I promised myself I'd write a final update as soon as I felt calmer or felt the situation was closer to being solved. That actually happened months ago, but I've been busy lately.
Following my previous update, my fiancé's side of the family remained upset about the tradition being over for a few more months. They were way less intense about it, specially with the pregnant cousin I mentioned, but it was still evident.
That cousin's Not-Peter (almost a year later, I still can't think of a better term) was born in January. Our son turned one the next month. I think the fact that these two things happened so close together helped many of my in-laws let go of the tradition.
We got a few apologies we weren't expecting. Some of them were sincere enough that we slowly started reestablishing contact.
My fiancé's parents were not among those who apologized. We haven't spoken to either of them since last July. From what I've heard from some of his other relatives, however, MIL seems regretful. She has told some of them that she wishes she could be part of her grandson's life, and wonders if making his name a hill to die on was a bad decision. FIL, from what I gather, barely acknowledges my baby exists.
My fiancé knows about how his mother feels, but he says he doesn't care. And even if we did get an apology, I don't think either of us can forgive his parents. As much as we're mostly okay now, it sometimes feels like their treatment of our family ruined the first few months of our baby's life. I know that's not actually true, but I don't want them around my child.
Besides all that, things have been great. My son is 15 months old now, which I don't think I'll ever really get used to. He recently started drawing and has been expanding his vocabulary. He said "mamãe" first, by the way.
My fiancé and I are still getting married in September. We're thinking about moving abroad in a couple years (for work reasons), but we're not sure yet. We also recently got a dog (sadly, we didn't name him Peter).
This will be my final update. Whatever guilt I had about this situation a year ago is completely gone, and my life has been peaceful enough that it feels safe to say the shitshow is over.
Hugo, if you ever find this, you are the most fantastic thing that has ever happened to us. Thank you for letting me be your mom.
Thank you, Reddit, for all the love, advice and support you've given me this past year.
Relevant Comment:
Commenter: Whilst this may be your final update on the naming sage, you said you are getting married in September 2024 and MiL&FiL aren't going to be invited.
Prepare for more craziness from them at that time and good luck :)

OOP: I really do think this is over. My fiancé's parents don't know when or where we're getting married, so I'm not worried about them showing up. They haven't reached out to us in months, and we have no interest in contacting them.

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/MentalPlatypus5193 posting in amiwrong
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Thanks to u/colorsofautomn for finding this BORU
Original - 28th April 2024
Update1 - 10th May 2024
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1 New Update
Update2 - - 18th May 2024
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My son [19M] filed harassment charges against me and my husband because we were making him go to college
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Me and my son moved to US last year. I was a single mom for 16 yrs before I met and then married my husband. I saved up money so he can go to college. Where I came from, college is very important. We moved to a small town and my son found new friends. These friends in my opinion were not a good influence. I am used to polite and academically oriented kids back home. These new friends of his make fun of his books and his plans of going to college.
Before his HS graduation, me and my husband took him to several unis in the state so he could get a feel for which one he would like to go to. Then after he graduated from HS, I told him I have about $20k saved up for college. He said it is not going to fit because tuition is pretty expensive nowadays. I suggested he can just go to a community college 20 mins away and live at home to save money. He agreed and I gave him access to the fund (joint account).
Long story short, he did not enroll himself and instead started partying a lot and used the money on expensive dates with his gf. He moved out and stopped talking to me. I worked hard to save that up for more than a decade and I am upset that he wasted it in less than a year. Me and my husband went to his place and asked that he pay me back since it is specifically for college and not "fun money".
He called the police and filed harassment charges. I told the police to review the cctv footage because the whole time I was talking to him through his ring cam, I was calm and reasonable and my husband was just standing behind me not saying anything. I was outside the door talking, he never even opened the door to talk to me face to face. The police said there's nothing he can do if my son and his gf felt "harassed", he can file a restraining order if he wants to.
Back home, this is unforgivable to treat your parent like this. But here in US, I was treated almost like a criminal. My sister in law said it is my fault for confronting him and that the money is his to spend since I made him a joint account owner. Am I wrong?
Edit: People cursing me because I said something about wanting to throw my chancla on my son's face, to be clear I have never laid my hands or my flip flops on him ever. But after what he did, my intrusive thoughts wants me to throw it but of course I won't. If he called the cops on me just because I want to talk to him, what more if I threw my flip flops on his face??
His relationship with me before moving to US was fine. He knew my struggle as a single mom and he always try to help me around the house. I was not strict at all he was free to go out with friends anytime. He was even thrilled to have a father figure and my husband always try to make him feel included in everything.
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ManufacturerAny835
Lesson learned never give someone access to money unless you’re ok with them running away with it

OOP: He was a good boy before moving here. I thought he knew my struggles and how much I sacrificed to save money. I just thought he would never betray me like this.

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dingdongsbtchs
Honestly I think a lot of parents don’t realize the depth of their children and forget that just because you think of them as one way doesn’t mean they don’t have other layers that can make them a different person. Sadly your son has found some less than savory friends to surround himself with and now he has to live with the decision he made. I honestly wouldn’t offer help for university again and would leave communication up to him. Also has there been any questions or discussion of potential drug use??
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2workigo
The money is gone. And since he was a joint account holder and a legal adult, there’s nothing to be done except refuse to help him financially anymore. Let him figure it out on his own from now on. The friends he had will likely drift away now that he no longer has a fat bank account to fund their party lifestyle.
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Treacle_Moon
Her biggest fault is waiting till it was all gone to do something about it. She had joint access. She could have stepped in long before now and tried to deal with it. Too little too late unfortunately.
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Update - 12 days later
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I still have not heard from my son and I don't expect him to reach out. But his gf's mother has called me asking if my house is still open to him. I asked her why, it turns out he hasn't paid his share of the last month's rent and his gf had to pay it for him.
I said it is not my problem and he is not welcome anymore in my house since he is an adult. The gf's mom said "what kind of mother would not extend help to his teenage son?". She further insulted me and said now she knows why he left me.
At this point I really don't care anymore. I tried to help him get a good start in life but he wasted it. Aside from the $20k, he lived rent free in the house, free food, free phone, car, gas money, and I pay all the utility bills and his health insurance. All I asked is that he focus on his studies. Finish at least an associate's degree so he can get a decent job and be fully independent from me asap.
For some who asked why college is so important to me, as an immigrant, we are held under certain standards. We have to prove to USCIS that we will not become a public charge -- meaning we won't rely on any government aid. I want him to be able to be a good immigrant and become productive. I don't even know if he can become a citizen if he makes below poverty income. I was just trying to make sure he gets to live a good life.
Some of you asked if he even wanted go to to college. Back when we were in our home country, he begged me to pls send him to college no matter what.
P.S. The harassment charge was closed for lack of evidence of harassment, a lot of what he said were lies.
Edit: Another thing that gave me chills was when he moved out it was the middle of the night and me and my husband were both asleep. My son left the front door hanging open (I saw it in the camera). We live in a small town but there's a lot of crime in our area, someone could have gone in and done something bad.
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bluedreamer62
Some people just have to learn the hard way, his gf probably had a good time with him spending his college fund now 5hat it’s gone the fun is over. So comes the reality.
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PoliteCanadian2
So you’re saying this is the Find Out stage that follows the Fuck Around stage?
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Sharp_Mathematician6
Yep
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SnooWords4839
His GF's mom has no right to bitch you out. Your son left, spend his college fund and now has to figure out how to adult. You do not owe him anything at this point.
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ladyalcove
She's just calling her out because she's realizing that now she has to take care of this bum.
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butterfly-garden
Yup. She, too, is in the Find Out stage.
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** New Update*\*
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Update 2 - 8 days later
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His girlfriend's mom called me again today and basically handed the phone to my son to "sort it out between us". I let him just talk and tell me what is on his mind. Here's a summary of his point of view:

• He felt like I deprived him of a lot of things growing up. I couldn't buy him an Xbox/playstation, iphone, or anything a teenager wants when we were in our home country. I can't afford it. Back then I was making $1k a month and saving 20% of it for his college fund and whatever was left was for us to live on. I was helping my parents too with some groceries so money was really really tight. When I look back now, I don't know how I made it all fit.
• He felt so small because his clothes were hand me downs from cousins or just cheap clothes I bought from tianguis.
• He said I was not supportive unlike his friend's parents. Some of his friends have wealthy parents who bought their sons a house and never had to go to college or think about their future because they will inherit the family farm anyway. I have no generational wealth to be that supportive. I wish I have.
• He said I have so much house rules. Yes I do. I want him to wash his plates after eating (I used to do it for him), clean his room and keep it tidy, make sure the windows are tightly shut in winter, keep the thermostat at 68 during winter to save electricity, come home at 11pm or else the house will be double locked from the inside for my safety (because my husband drives a truck and not home at night most the time). I also told him before that since he has a part time job, he can't use my credit card for anything but emergency anymore, but he still used it sometimes anyway (card's been frozen since he moved out).
• I asked him why file charges when I only wanted some explanation from him. He said he don't want to inconvenience his gf and filing charges is the easiest way to get me to stop trying to talk to him.

So basically he felt deprived as a kid and that he thinks he was just healing his inner child when he spent the money. He said his friends told him I owe that to him for bringing him to this world. He thinks that I should not have a child if I can't afford these things.
I asked him why he left the door open that night. He went silent for a few seconds then said "I just thought that if the house get robbed, I could just say I cashed the money from the bank and the robbers must have found it". Unbelievable.
At this point I was so emotional and I was a crying mess. I told him I am deeply sorry that I was his mom and that he had to grow up feeling deprived because I was poor. Then he said "Oh stop with your guilt tripping, you are saying that to make me feel bad.
Oh and he also said he hates it when I do this. I don't yell like that lady but I pretty much bug him to get up and help me set the table. I never get a response so I had to raise my voice higher. He said I was so rude. But he grew up with this. This is me being me. All moms back home do this. Al of a sudden he is comparing me to his mom's friends. In our culture we want food to be eaten while it is fresh from the stove. I spent 1 hr cooking after a long day at work, the least you can do is help me set the table and eat my food while it's nice and warm.
I hung up. My heart is broken in so much pieces. Am I wrong?
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Whitewitchie
He has a chip on both shoulders. Leave him be. It's despicable he left the door open so you were vulnerable to burglars. Absolutely no consideration for your safety at all.
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Mtndrums
Dude's a spoiled brat, and an idiot to not see his "friends" were using him. You need to cut him off and let him figure things out.
dublos
Not spoiled. Mom could not spoil him.
Entitled.
This child believes he's entitled to the same things his friends grew up with, even though his parents provided the best they could provide.
u/MentalPlatypus5193 your son has made his bed. Let him sleep in it.
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I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments

Hey everyone, back with another "advice" post. I'll try not to make it too long. FYI, I am a 16-year-old male only child, just for context to help with whatever comments I receive. This is one of my first times discussing this topic anywhere/to anyone, so whatever comments I can get would be greatly appreciated.
Just over a year ago now, my step-dad cheated on my mom over a trip we took down to San Francisco. Initially, we were all there for the trip (me, my mom, and him), but my step-dad left a couple of days early to get back to our home in Washington in order to "continue working" at his job. Of course, this is not what occurred, and during that time, he hired a prostitute. It wasn't until a couple of days after we got back to Washington that he told my mom.
That next night, my mom (who has a history of alcoholism) ended up telling it all to me while drunk. She explained everything in full detail, what she knew my step-dad and the prostitute did, which was very in-depth. Clearly, she was very upset, naturally. I still think of the images she described to this day.
2 years ago is when my parents got married. Before this, I grew up with just my mom. My mom and step-dad are still married despite this event. I'm still not sure what the correct thing was for my mom to do: either divorce him or stay with him. Our family is Christian, and even though cheating on a spouse is qualified as grounds for divorce scripturally, this is not what my parents did. From that moment on, neither of them ever had a continuous discussion with me about what happened, and I never fully accepted the fact that it did happen until months later. I was never given the opportunity to "work through things" with them. They apparently did work through things with themselves and have both struggled with the fact that I just can't move on.
Aside from this problem, my step-dad has bad parenting techniques, which make it difficult to want to have a relationship with him. During arguments, he often refers to me as a "forgetful kid" and will not accept that he is ambiguous with his words when he tells me to do something.
SUMMARY:
I feel very stuck because, especially at this age, I need a male figure in my life after growing up with a single mother. I feel that I have missed out on male teachings in my life, but I cannot get those teachings from my step-dad because of his cheating and parenting techniques. I do not know how to deal with having my step-dad around, and the pressures to get along with him. I also do not know how to deal with the fact that I will never have a father in the home, which I long for and feel is necessary, as I have been raised solely from a female point of view. All of my friends in my community have great fathers in the home, and I feel left out in comparison. None of my friends know about the situation with my step-dad, and I'm not supposed to tell anyone.
If anyone out there who was/is in a similar position could respond, that would help me a lot. I do not personally know any only children, let alone those with step-dads who cheated. Thanks for the help.

Hello! First time posting on this subreddit. I am a new mom of a 4 month old baby boy and my friend also had a beautiful baby girl about 3 weeks after me! Our longtime friend, G(30m) got married to Z (33f) after finding out she was pregnant and as a result Z and I became good friends since we were going through our pregnancy journey at the same time. After giving birth we share advice with each other whenever it is asked for and all in all we are both awesome moms! The problem is that I have recently noticed that G and Z do not practice safe sleep with their baby. In her bassinet she sleeps on a fleece blanket on top of the mattress and then is covered with an actual blanket. And in her crib she has a braided crib bumper. I do not give unsolicited advice because I know how annoying and stressful it is after receiving a lot of it myself. I just don’t know if I should say something or how to say it. Any advice for me? Should I just leave it alone?

Is it wrong for me to hate the idea of my mom wanting another child?

My mom has been talking about having another child since i was 5 and i always tease her about how it probably wont happen since she hasn't dated anyone since my dad passed. But now that i'm heading into high school shes been constantly talking about and to be honest i don't really like the idea of having a brother,but its for a both good and pretty selfish reason. For one my dad died befor i was born so its been me and my mom since day one, we've been through everything together and she's basically my ride or die. id give my life for her and even deadicated myself in working hard in school and following everything she say,she has a big influence on my life and a greatly respect her. But she's always talked about having a son so she can have a "perfect family", but i for one dislike the idea because if she does somehow have a son then im scared she will replace me and try to put unfair responsiblitys on me. ik she would never mistreat me since she grew up in a broken home where the boys were favored over the girls,but the idea of sharing her never sit right with me even when i was little. I would always bully the guys that tried to take her out and be very sarcastice with them, i honestly feel a little guilty because my behavior towards her dating or having more kids might have held her back from having her "perfect family" but we were never finincally good for that till now. The other night we had a debat about her having a son and i said that if she did i probably wouldnt love it because babies are loud and i dont want to be responsible for another human other than her. i also made some sarcastice coments about how shell just have more bagged to carry around and wont be able to travle like she wants to when i graduate. she asked me why im so negitive towards it and that ill probably love my brother. but i told her the truth that i dont like the idea of sharing her with another "vermin" and that having to deal with another "vermin" under the same roof is a nucence. I also made some sarcastice coment in the pass'st about how ill throw the baby out the window when its born. I really regret those words since they did heart my mothers feelings a bit,but i was 7 and said it to be funny (it wasnt). but if im being honest i feel like the main reason why i feel like i wount be able to love it like my mom wants me to is because im so used to it just being us againts the world that once she has her "dream son" that all of the years i spent trying to please her and make her proud will go down the drain and she'll divert all of her attention to the child instead of me. Plus i grew up with friends that have little brothers and often times its them that have to do the chores and be under strict responsibility's while the younger brother gets treated like king and often the older sibling is responsible for their brothers actions. But in a way ik that my mom wants a baby because she'll be alone once i go to college and wants something to distract her, but im just scared that the person i dedicated my childhood and life to will just forget me and it would no longer be me and her against the world. Who knows maybe my mind set will change be i still don't think i can accept and love my "sibling" like she wants me to. is this wrong?

Hi all!
My job recently has afforded me the ability to work remotely. To that end, my wife and I are considering a move from Denver to the Chicago Western Burbs of Illinois to be closer to family.
Our oldest boy (4YO) is diagnosed with ASD. We have wonderful schools here and really hate to leave the districts we’re in, but need some family helping hands and more people to love on him.
My question; does anyone have any experience or recommendation for school districts we should be looking at to help teach our neurodivergent kiddo? Are we making a mistake?
He has an IEP and is only currently in pre-k (but full days for support with therapists).
This is really a life changing move and we’re very hesitant to jump into another states program as Colorados has been super supportive for him.
Thank you in advance!

Do is this what it’s like to get older or have the last couple of years just sucked?
I’m a mom of 2 (4m 1f) and married to a wonderful husband. But I keep telling myself this year will be better, and well it is and isn’t..
2022 we bought our first house and after 2 miscarriages got pregnant with our little girl. Our little boy got Rsv and was hospitalized and seriously traumatized all of us and now has asthma in the aftermath which is a rollercoaster to manage.
2023 welcomed baby girl but my mother almost died due to her autoimmune diseases. My sister married someone that is a liar and a cheater. Became pregnant then had the baby prematurely. Her spouse also lost their job and lots of drama after that but I don’t want to get into details.
2024- had to but our family dog down, uncertainty of my job stability( I’m the bread winner), my mother almost died from a medication interaction, my son went to the er today (he’s fine now), and while I was there ran into my grandparents because my grandmother had a heart attack….
Is this the normal chain of events because I’m getting older or are the years just getting worse?

My (28f) husband (31m) and I were together nearly 10 years, married for 8. We are planning on eventually getting divorced but for now are just seperated as we navigate co-parenting our sons (6mo & 18 mo).
I had the boys on Mother’s Day weekend. I spent the day with them and my family. This past weekend they were with my ex, who took them to visit him mom. He told me that it was “rude” of me not to make / get anything for his mom “from the boys.” They’re babies… what are they going to make? Also, I feel like that’s his responsibility for his mom. I got my own mom flowers but she didn’t expect anything from the boys. I can see the thought of doing something as they get older, but now it feels silly. The more I thought about it though I’m wondering if I’m being selfish and could have done something small?
It feels like it’s not my responsibility anymore as we’re seperated, but I have known her for nearly a decade. Then again, we’ve never been super close because she always sided with her son (my ex), regardless of his behavior. But that’s a whole other story. AITAH in this situation or just overthinking?

I apologize in advance for the length of this behemoth Story time Reddit: Last night I was chilling at a camp grounds in upstate NYC and this really cute bartender was on her first day ever for the job, anyways I didn’t even notice her until a community dinner at 6pm when she got some food and went to the bar to get ready for the night because us folks at the camp were gonna party till LATE I’m 18M turning 19 and I had aspirations to be a bartender myself in the familiar country of Mexico where my family operates a gin booze business. she 22F just turned and I was eager to Yk like ask her how her first day on the jobs going right? Now I time goes by we all just chilling having dinner and our rolls out some Gigachad kitchen employees with dessert and everybody fiends the fucking ice cream sandwich bars and I hastily think about the fellow bartenders out the back of the building (it’s the girl I’m taking about whose new and one other girl whom is basically her chaperone because they are her aunt) approach the bar with 2 ice cream sandwiches asking if they wanted the last stock of what remained of dessert 😂 they politely decline and I just give them away to my boys and walk back to the main cafeteria area and around 5 minutes pass people start to clear out and I not really a drinker and not of age to drink in the US (although I have been to other countries to bars that you don’t need to be 21 to drink all fine) Sit down at the bar with the 2 bartender ladies, i start yapping about all the musical bullshit I do in life and the video game I’m developing and whatnot and that’s why I came up to nature to record the ambient sounds for my project idk why BUT then when I realize is that the girl whose new’s eyes fixated on me intensely full German stare and I’m kinda intimidated ngl, so ofc as a good bartender would ask, they ask if I want anything to drink and i politely decline because I wasn’t really thirsty 💀 We start to just chat a bit I ask about how their day went and then that’s when I realize the new girl whose bartending it’s her first day and she’s absolutely drunk out the wazoo, I feel kind of bad because she was about to just go take a walk break and I saw she could barely even move straight 💀 so I ask “so what are some good things to do around here?” They reply really excited that before it gets too dark (somehow they say that and it’s already becoming 8:30 and dark at out) I should go to this really pretty creek waterfall and the absolutely double whammy hammered chick volunteers to take me. Now me skeptical af and realizing that either A, she can’t keep her eyes of me because she’s deadbeat drunk or B, she thinks I’m cute and wants to know me this is why she offered to take me to a cool place. I accept and I have to walk this girl out the bar because she’s in heels and bouncing all over the place. We make it to a downhill section we have to cross and I see her struggling and ask if she needs a hand and she hastily accepts, next thing up her arms are basically spaghetti and rolling with the wind as we make it down this hill her holding onto me for dear life. We start to walk a bit and I start to ask the big legal concern questions that us “technically inclined” men ask like “How old are you” “Do you have a boyfriend?” And “Are you in school?” I eventually get all these answers and we by some will of god walk up to an abandoned dark horror movie looking ass tipi (basically this ⛺️ thing for u non cultured swines) for some reason my hood senses start tingling and the white girl slasher film mindset goes into my mind like “Why the fuck am I about to go in there?” But hey YOLO why not go into creepy dark crowded place with drunk girl? We waltz up into that bitch looking like injured bank robbers clobbering all over the ground because the ground muddy and we can barely fit into the small opening of it, point is in there she starts basically interviewing me fucking speed run piers style and I answer being sober decently competent. Me not trying to make her feel uncomfortable turn my flashlight on to scout the area and we realize there’s some makeshift bench in there so we have a seat. She doesn’t like the fact the lights on and then she asks “do you want to kiss” and proceeds to inform me I’m a weirdo for turning on the light. Now I’m like: “ aight what the fuck girl like it’s dark spooky af out the hell u want me to do get mauled by spiders in this Native American trap house? Then Yk me never had a girlfriend and curious accepts her kiss offer and right as we are about to friggin kiss a RANDOM ASS NPC COUPLE SPAWNS IN AND JUST WALKS UP TO OUR FUCKING TIPI! What are the fucking odds bro, like it’s pitch black basically out and I’m in the middle of the woods, now they see us (we look hella sus at that moment) and kinda just walk away after being like “ooooh cool!” But anyways I get a pretty Alr first kiss, get insulted for being a horrible kisser and walk it off quoting myself “Bro it’s cuz I’m a Libra right?” Jokingly anyways we kinda talk a bit she enlightens me on some personal facts and me too, I ask if she’s had a boyfriend and she says yeah I would had asked how many but didn’t weirdly enough and she’s asked me then if I had ever had a girlfriend and I respond honestly that nope I haven’t and she doesn’t buy it, she thinks I’m lying. She then proceeds to ask me how tall I am and me being a tall ass mf for my race i respond “6 foot 3” and she’s like DAMNNNNNNN ewwww. I’m dying of laughter and ask what’s wrong. I never get a response 😭 Anyways she then decides to empty her pockets and she came for some reason with basically a mythical rarity load out of pocket loot. 2 Cinnamon booze plastic shots, lip gloss, chapstick and a cart. Now me being the worlds biggest glorified coward who never smoked and almost never drinks was amazed she had all this shit on her. I ask her how much she had to drink tonight and she told me how for every drink she served she also drank (idk why tf weird flex but ok?) we then kinda decide to go out of the tent because all of a sudden she wants to explore the pitch black woods when we both have very little phone battery left for flashlight. I think in my sober mind that’s a horrible idea and I remember in the back of my mind we had to be back in an hour from like 8:30pm and I remind her assuming she will have it into account but fail to realize SHES DRUNK AF AND CANT PROCESS SHIT!!! Anyways we walk around the creek bed and eventually we have a seat and just weirdly enough lay down watch the stars and talk about romantic stuff, she is very kind all of a sudden and we are just laughing wholeheartedly and enjoying ourselves and occasionally she tries to sloppily kiss me and I’m kinda just laying there like : 🙃. But yeah we there doing all that and then she somehow convinced me to do shots of the weird spicy booze she brought and I was very nervous and almost about to fully fold because I had a lot of important things in my life impending in the coming days and I didn’t want to fuck something up being drunk (not knowing myself if I’m a lightweight or heavyweight drinker) We each do one and I’m kinda there lying paralyzed and shivering in my boots not because of the alcohol but because of the nerves I am chilling with a girl on a beauty of a night next to some lovely sounding creek noises and making out. Me being the newbie I am just go along with anything she says or does because I’m not trying to blow what I have going Yk. But yeah time passes we just there on essentially natures lawn hugging and kissing and talking about cute life aspirations and then I have to break the hard news to her, I inform her I won’t be staying around long by any means ( I leave the next day back to da hood for school) and I feel so bad inside! Like this girl even age difference aside whatever was very kind and I didn’t want to ruin what we had going so I try and explain how I would try to visit her and later the next day I am able to check that tickets cost roughly $50 for one ways to the town she lives in and takes 2 hours and a half something if me for love I was able to do im down ig… Now as a recap: She knows I live super duper far away, She and I both understand we don’t want to ruin what we have and we are trying to see how we can keep this going. I hear someone scream her voice and then I’m like Awww shit ur in trouble right? I check my phone and it’s MOTHERFUCKING 11PM!!!! I’m like OH SHIT WE BEEN GONE A WHILE DAMNNN, I pull her up off the ground and try to get her to her aunt who I assumed was looking for her and then we sadly said it last farewell quickly. She kisses me and then she gets yoinked and chewed tf outta by basically her big auntie bartender me feeling horrible and all because I was so immature not checking the time, I walk up to her to take responsibility for the situation and not be a beta male type character she asks me all of a sudden if I’m “ok or hurt” and I say yeah I’m fine and then she walks away and for some reason my good manners and habits kick in as I quietly shout “good night” and she shouts back “yeah good fucking night!” Slams the door with my newfound friend and they both gone. I feel real bad for the situation but hey it already happened, and I then find out from some of my fellow campers that she was threatening essentially to call the state police because people have gotten lost in the woods but in my head I’m like NUH UH I GOT S TIER GOD MEMORY!!! Anyways I do have the girl I was withs number I message her apologizing for not being more responsible and whatnot and then a lot of time happens from there on. I go to bed at 1:30am, wake up the next morning at 6:57am and I’m worried because she hasn’t responded. I paranoid and feeling like a hopeless romantic sit around stressing for hours until BOOM I get off a call checking up with my moms who was out of town get a message from my dear bartender girl! I’m beyond ecstatic and try to see if we can say goodbye because I have to go so soon that same day (today as I’m writing this) we try to compromise and plan but sadly it doesn’t work out for us and we just don’t get a well deserved farewell. I feel truly defeated and depressed about it and people I’m with are speculating how I have barely eaten in all the hours I have been up today. I reply it’s that m stresses but don’t go into detail trying to avoid ancontroversial discussion. This girls name is Sofia and I as I hope a constituted decent person hope I can keep this relationship but there are a few obstacles. 1, she lives 2 hours best case scenario from me. 2, she doesn’t really answer my messages until very late after I send them (for example i message her 12:30 she responds then doesn’t respond until past 5pm same day) and It’s hard to have a relationship with flawed communication I can see. Now for me I have always wanted to find love but never really succeeded in it and I’m truly just grateful for having any experience like this at all and I want to hear feedback from fellow guys and girl as to what I should do to keep this a respectful and responsible relationship you know?
Sincerely and looking forward to feedback, K

For context, my bf and I have been together for 6 months, we’re pretty much healthy as we found a way to enable clear communication and we spend a LOT of time together calling, playing games, etc. since we’re long distance. He’s doing SO well in school and I’m homeschooled but also doing very well. His mom though.. she doesn’t like me. Growing up, his parents pushed him in the “if you have emotions, you’re weak” mindset. So after meeting me, I let him know it was okay and perfectly normal to have emotions and I learned he’s actually very emotional and sensitive which isn’t a bad thing! However, his mom started making snarky comments such as “she’s gonna leave you” and “you guys are never gonna last” and “y’all are gonna break up the next day”. Btw my bf is VERY overprotective over me but it surprised me when he stood up for me to his mom. They got in a full blown shouting battle and she ended up storming off. It happened again the next day when she made another ridiculous comment about me and this time he was considering cutting her off as soon as he’s an adult. He told me in the past that I’m not the only person she’s done this to, his older sister is 18 and dating another boy her age. However, the mom doesn’t like him because he doesn’t take her out.. they made it perfectly CLEAR they don’t like going out but she insists. My bf is not close to his mom after she did something that crossed over the line by a million and now acts like nothing happened, so he always picks me over her even though I still insist he make an effort to have a conversation with her. Maybe I shouldn’t because I don’t know what he’s been through and clearly he holds resentment against her. However I’ve been nice and I expressed that I would love to meet her but she doesn’t even know me and is saying I’m playing him. I know I don’t need to prove anything to her because he knows the truth but it just makes me so upset that she would say something like that to him. We both hope this relationship will flourish and his dad gives us his support but his mom hates me. She says she heard him crying and thinks I’m the cause but he rarely cries and when he does it’s usually in the morning because he will tell me and it’s also VERY silent so idk what she’s hearing? She also leaves at 3am everyday and comes back at 5pm from work so she just out here lying. He says she’s lying too because girl what😭 Even if it was true, I usually tell him crying is okay when he needs to let things out but she sees it as him being weak so she would still be upset. What do you guys think? Am I tripping or does she actually have something against me? AITA for letting him express?

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Hi everyone. I have two students, one in elementary and one in middle school. We live in Washington State, and they are currently in a virtual/hybrid program that the school district provides. This program has been fantastic for our kids, and virtual learning has allowed them to absolutely flourish.
Of course our program is getting cut substantially. Of course. Alternative and home based programs always seem to be the lowest hanging fruit when budgets get tricky.
As we wait to learn more about impacts to our program, I am trying to learn more about other options.
It looks like our main options are: - WAk12 - Washington Virtual Academy (that might be part of k12?) - Connections Academy
Can anyone give insight into these programs? Info is scarce, and even calling didn't give me super great info.
Our current program is online classes 4 days a week - I would love a program that has Teams/Zoom daily, but I don't think these do? Some info says they are 1 day/week, other info says 3-5 days/week.
My kids are good at independent learning, they are above grade standard, and enjoy learning. That said, some reviews of these programs make the curriculum seem impossible, make it sound like Mom needs to teach sitting next to them, etc (which I can support, but not the whole school day). It is all a bit nerve racking.
Any advice or direction would be so appreciated.