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Just a warning, this is going to be very long! I (21F) and my brother (15M) were abandoned by our mother when I was 11 or 12.
For context, she was a teen mother, with a lot of mental health issues (bipolar, BPD, depression, i can only assume some form of sociopathic behavior), and she addicted to hard drugs. My father was a little rough around the edges, but overall a hardworking guy who went into the relationship with a "I can fix her" mentality. For the first few years of my life, I was oblivious to all of the issues going on in my family, I just enjoyed the first 5 years of my life as a happy child. My mother hid her drug addiction well enough for a 5 year old not to ask any questions, and I thought weekly screaming matches were normal and "mommies and daddies fight sometimes". Unbeknownst to me, my mother was cheating with dozens of people, and emotionally/financially/physically abusing my father, he put on a happy face to try and give me a good childhood. He worked 5am- 5pm at a bagel store (no car, only a bike) and never came home empty handed; always a toy, or a piece of candy for me as "sorry" for always being gone and working all day. I thought my mother would always bring her "friends" (men and women) in the house while dad was at work, and they would spend hours "playing" in her room with the door locked. I pretty much had to raise and take care of myself from the time I woke up to around 6pm, so I ended up becoming pretty smart by entertaining myself with my mom's fantasy novels (Harry potter, princess of mars, lord of the rings, etc.) On days she had college classes, our landlords (amazing people) would babysit me. My mother did give me affection, and I loved her very much, but she was very hands-off.
Granted, I wasn't the easiest child to deal with, I had ADHD, undiagnosed autism, among some other things.
When she got pregnant with my brother, (also adhd+autism) I noticed things started to change. My parents would fight more often, the house smelled like smoke, and the electricity to the apartment would be out for weeks because we couldn't pay the bills. Shortly after my brother was born, my parents had the hugest fight I've ever seen, I don't even remember what it was about (probably cheating), but it was the first time it hit me that everything in my life wasn't as happy as I thoughts. I sat clutching my baby brother as she beat my dad with a chair and started screaming. He grabbed a knife and ran outside and tried to end his life by stabbing his wrist. I was screaming and crying my landlords name, hoping my baby sitter would come and save me, he bolted downstairs, pried the door open, and grabbed the two of us and took us into his top floor of the apartment. He gave me some chocolate milk while him and his wife called the police. That was the day my parents split up, and my mom was able to spin the whole thing on my dad, taking custody and he was granted only visitation rights. My mother was kicked out of the apartment, and my aunt (dads sister, but my mother had taken a liking to her and allowed us to see her often) had a feeling something fishy was going on when no one would tell her anything about the details of that night. She went to my old house and asked my landlords what happened, they told her, so she let us sleep over with her whenever we wanted as a safe haven from our mom. She didn't go to court with any of the information she got, out of fear that my mother wouldn't let her see us again, because she was now our only place of complete safety.
My life became a living hell from that point onward. A week a later, my mom told us that her "new boyfriend"(probably a guy she cheated on dad with but I was like 7 and didn't know better) was letting us move in with him. He was the most horrible piece of shit. He got my mother addicted to even more drugs, and they both constantly talked badly about my dad, and when I cried, covered my ears, and said I didn't want to hear it, he would hit me and tell me that I needed to know. He was basically unemployed, and would sometimes sell drugs, or take antiques out of abandoned houses to sell. I hated him. My mother made an entire personality shift, and would defend him even if he said horrible things to me or hit me. She saw no fault in him. She stopped reading me bedtime stories, and stopped telling me she loved me. The only time she was nice to me was when we were in front of other people like school functions... she would kiss up to all my teachers.
I was left to take care of my baby brother on my own, and my father was in and out of mental hospitals from the trauma, so everything he said about how horrible my mother was fell of deaf ears because he was labeled "crazy".
We had no money, it was all spent on drugs, I went out by myself several times to dig through dumpsters just to get food, and I stole baby formula from supermarkets. This one nice homeless lady knew my situation, and would walk me into the stores "as my grandma" so I wouldnt get stopped to ask why a child was all alone. She would poke around the store and buy a $1 candy bar, while I stole formula, and some cold cuts for her. She showed me all the best dumpsters, where delis would throw put perfectly good food at the end of the day. We had an alliance of sorts. I was less than 9 years old.
Her boyfriend became sexually abusive to me around that time. I'll spare the details.
My mother was starting to go off the rails completely. Doing anything for drug money. I clearly remember the time that she told me to get naked and she took pictures of me, up close in all my private areas "to send to the doctor" or else "I would have to go in person and they might give me a shot" (she knew I hated needles.). She never mentioned that event again, but I just know she sent them to some pedophile for money. It makes me sick to my stomach when I think about it. Her bf would try and hurt my brother, I would always step in and get beat instead. We saw our father and aunt maybe once a month, and I was threatened not to say anything to the school or my dad/aunt or else he would kill my mom. I said nothing. I told my aunt all the bruises were from bullies at school, my teachers were taking care of it... or that I was climbing trees, some excuse. I think she knew the truth, but was too scared of losing us to say anything. Everytime they went to drop us back off at our mom's, my brother would have a tantrum. He cried so much the blood vessels in his face would pop. He now at 15 has permanant, freckle like, spots of red on his face from crying so much so often.
She got pregnant again with his twin girls. She gave birth prematurely, and they came out very very sick. She gave birth at home... I was giving most of their care. After the "ohhhh new baby" feeling wore off for her, of course I was basically a mother of 3 at 10 years old. They didn't last long, less than a year. I was in complete despair and that was the first time i tried to end my life. I filled the bathtub and tried to drown myself by repeatedly hitting my head underwater in attempts to pass out under the water. It didn't work, and I was left with neck pain and a migraine that lasted 4 days. I attempted about 5 times, different methods, by this point I haven't been to school in a week. When I came back to school, the teachers noticed something was wrong. I kept looking off into space, detached. I would lash out and act aggressively when anyone would try and talk to me. I would have 2 hour "bathroom breaks" where I just stared at the wall inside the stall and acted rudely when anyone came to get me. What did they do? Not call CPS, of course, they sent me to a special school because of my "sudden behavior issues". I was in a class now with students I could not connect with in any way. I had no friends. All the other kids in my new class had severe learning disabilities and talking to my brother who was 6 years younger than me was more of a conversation. They couldn't read, most of them were almost non-verbal.
My mom broke up with her bf because he cheated, and we were going to lose the house. He still lived with us for a few days but stayed silent. My mother blamed me, saying that I ruined everything by being a bad child and now we were going to be homless. He tried to touch me one last time and I snapped and stabbed him deeply with a BBQ screwer, he just walked away. later that night he killed himself, I saw it. I'll never get that image out of my head.
I lost it, I had an outburst at school, crying and screaming that I wanted to kill myself and for God to just let me die. They sent me to a hospital, and the school called my mom to say I was having an outburst of psychosis. I spilled everything to the hospital about what her bf was doing to me (I couldnt bring myself to talk about my mothers abuses for some reason), and after a while, it was my dad who came to get me... apparently my mother had taken off, leaving my brother alone in the house after the school had called her. I had so many questions. But I was so happy to finally be able to live with my dad and his side of the family.
I was so traumatized, as well as neurodivergent, I acted strangely and dealt with some bullies at school but that was it, it was like heaven on earth. My father didn't even know the full scope of what went on, but the more I told him the more guilty he felt. He started spoiling us a bit out of guilt, so we were happy to be with a parent who loved us.
We never knew where she went. Until I was 18, and she reached out to me on social media. Initially I didn't want to answer. I left my DM sitting there for a few days but... I felt this unexplainable pull. I hated her all these years, but for some reason when the option to take her back into my life came up... something in me missed her. I kept thinking back to the few happy times, and the curiosity was killing me. I finally messaged back, my father told me not to, but he said he couldn't stop me, I at least deserved some answers, and to get all my pent up hatred out at her for some closure. We awkwardly chatted for a few minutes, she told me that her father in West Virginia picked her up, she started a new life, joined narcotics anonymous, but stayed low and didn't let herself be known. She met a genuinely good man at NA, who had convinced her to right her wrongs, quit drugs, and fix her family. They had 2 kids together (one with down syndrome), and she was a present, active mother. I felt a vicious jealousy. Why would she go and have 2 more kids when she had 2 that she abandoned? Why were they treated with love and a loving home when we went through hell...? Why didn't she make it up to us before she went and had more kids..?
My mind did weird things then. It made me need her approval. I kissed up to her, saying I forgave her. That I always knew everything was always her ex bfs fault and not hers.That we were sad when she left. I planned a trip to see her a month later and her new family, my friends all begged me it was a bad idea, to please please not go, and at least to not tell my brother about it. I listened to them, and didnt tell my brother any of this, I told him I was visiting a long distance friend.
I went, we had a pretty good time. Her kids were cute, and I absolutely adored her new lover. He was a good southern man, my gut told me that. He took me fishing, and let me talk through all my feelings. I finally had the relationship with her that I always craved. It felt sickening good, I was estatic. I didn't care about all of the weird signs, like the weird friends she had (looked like crack addicts), and how she managed to get a kind rich southern guy to take her in. I didn't even care. I was just happy to finally feel like I had her approval. I have a habit of bedwetting time to time from anxiety, I ended up having an accident and I was mortified. I cleaned it all up, but told her and, she said it was no big deal. She used to scream at me or hit me as a child for wetting the bed, and now she was reacting normally. It was like a new woman.
My trip was cut short by a week, she had to be rushed into hospital because her appedix was about to explode, she needed to recover and wouldnt be able to do anything fun with me for the remainder of the trip. I watchd her get taken by the ambulance, and was freaking out crying, I was so relieved when the surgery was a success. Her new man apologized profusely for all he stress and bought me a plane ticket back home to NY. He hugged me saying he would be so happy to see me again over the summer, and he had so much fun fishing with me. That he wanted to be a good step dad. He was a nice dude, just like my dad (a good guy she manipulated) I felt it in my gut. They both were at the airport, my mother in a wheelchair, and hugged me off. She said she loved me and to text her when I landed
I did, and got no response. Another day passed, nothing. I started to freak out and called her, only for it to go to voicemail. I messaged one of her friends sons who she Introduced me to. Asking if she was okay. He said he would get back to me once she responded to him, but them he too ghosted me. It was like she was never there. I called her partners work, and they said they would tell him to give me a call. Nothing. I was in despair. I assumed the worst, that she had died or something because of a surgery complication. I was so confused. I pushed it all out of my mind, wrote it off as a mystery even though it ate up at me. I always just justified it as a death, even though it made no sense. She was still following me on Facebook, but there wasn't activity for months when she was once super active. I deleted facebook a few months later because it just hurt.
It's been about 3 years since then. I needed to re-download facebook because my aunt wanted me to check something on matketplace... and I looked up her name just out of curiosity... shes been posting for over a year now. She's okay. She posts her kids, her fiance... she never once responded ro any of my messages yet. Not on text, not on Facebook messenger, no where.... I scrolled and scrolled, crying. I saw she got a new tattoo... a rose for each of her kids.... one for each of her two new kids, one for a miscarriage she had...two for our sisters who passed away... NONE for me or my brother. Like we don't even exist to her.
I don't know what to do. I want to know WHY. We finally had a good relationship, I finally forgave her. We finally could have been okay, saw each other a few times a year... she said she was happy to have me back in her life.... WHY? I'm so heartbroken and confused. I miss her. Was it because I wet the bed? I don't know. I know shes horrible, but I can't help but miss her so much it hurts. Should I continue trying to reach out, or just let her go..? How do I process thos? Any advice, or maybe a theory/explanation/comfort. Anything would help. I just need help. I don't know what to do...

Date	Stage	Route	Length	Type	Time
Sun. May 19	15	Manerba del Garda>Mottolino	222 km	Hard	ca. 16:15 CET

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Ilang beses na ako nahuli ng jowa ko na may kausap na iba. Like many times na—not twice or thrice but many times,I feel nothing. Kase wala ako karapatan malungkot or what kase alam ko kasalan ko yung ginawa ko. Nakita niya yung mga kadiring convo ko na dapat talagang ikahiya ko. Kaya ko lang naman nagawa yun kase bored ako napaka gagu lang.
And live in kami for 1 year na. Pag wala siya nakikipag laro ako sa iba kase nawawala boredom ko. Tbh I'm happy pagkasama ko jowa ko pero pag wala siya naghahanap ako ng ibang kausap. Lalo pag horny lol, I know my bad.
Recently nahuli nanaman niya ako may isang account and ang dami ko kausap doon. Nakita niya yun kase naka log in sa phone niya email ko and bawat log in ko sa Facebook nagno-notif yun sa email ko kaya nakita niya. Pag uwi niya nagusap kami about doon pero pinatawad niya parin ako at para bang walang nangyari.Pero I'm really willing to stop this habit but for some reason I can't stop. Pero gusto ko kasama ko siya sa healing journey ko kasama ko siya mabago yung bad habits ko.
Diko alam kung ang selfish ko for Keeping him even though nagagawa ko makipag chat sa iba. What do you think? Should I stop this and palayain ko na siya?
ABYG for continuing our relationship kahit ang dami kona instances of cheating?

Date	Stage	Route	Length	Type	Time
Sat. May 18	14	Castiglione delle Stiviere>Desenzano del Garda	31,2 km	ITT	ca. 17:15 CET

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This one of my first post here on Reddit so bear with me if it’s long. Sorry if it doesn’t make a lot of sense. About 4 years ago I got a message on Facebook from an ex friends baby’s dad that my boyfriend (now fiancé) was snap chatting his baby mom. (My fiancé and her were exs). Apparently they were telling each other they loved each other but unfortunately he didn’t have any proof of the incident because she deleted them. The girl in question and I didn’t have a good history. She also knew we had been together. We had been together for about 5 years at that point. I didn’t want to take anything he had said seriously. We have a daughter who was at the time almost 2. I waited til my fiancé got home to confront him. He swore to me it was only a month and they only talked day-day about “life”. I, unfortunately believed him. (He had immediately blocked and removed her after crying to me) Fast forward to last Thursday, I was going through on of his old phones with pictures of my daughter in it and I happen to come across screenshot of their conversations and I found out he really did cheat on me and for almost a year. They had sexted and called each other baby. I was destroyed. I couldn’t believe he lied to me for the past 4 years. It’s been a week and he told me everything. He told me they sexted, she sent nudes and told each other they loved each other which was another heart break. He cried for so long to me that it was a mistake. I just can’t help but feel so angry and I can’t trust him anymore. A part of me wished I never found those screenshots because our life was going so well. I’ve never been more in love with him. I’m currently 6 months pregnant with his 2nd child as well. I’m at a loss. I live 16 hours from my family. Any advice?

Date	Stage	Route	Length	Type	Time
Fri. May 17	13	Riccione>Cento	179 km	Easy	ca. 17:15 CET

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I dont fall in love easily. But this girl (call her X) when I was dating her proved again and again that she did love me. When I showed signs of doubt, she often cut her arms to show her pain. I eventually let all my gaurds down, closed my eyes and allowed myself to fall in love with her. Alas she loved me... she was the one... right?
I found out she was cheating on me after 6 months of dating (with lets say Y)
Confronted them both, she took his side and told me that she was infact cheating on him with me. So she had more responsibility towards him. She also humiliated me and told me to "just suck it up, its over amongst us"
Later that day I texted her, she said "Im sorry I love you more but I cant be a cheater"
His bf got to know and confronted me again.
She kept going back and forth until she texted me "we wont talk from now" (No formal breakup).
I begged her for a phonecall so I could get answers to all my questions but she stopped replying.
She blocked me on all accounts except facebook.
I kept texting her on facebook for 5 days hoping for a reply but she didn't reply. Eventually I stopped trying after 5 days.
I deleted facebook... my mental health took a toll... I woke up screaming often times at nights. I used to use facebook lite to chat with her the most. Whenever I saw the fb lite interface on someone else's device, I got anxiety attacks. I laughed on a few days until I cried. I took therapy for the first time.
To know the answers of the questions I had in my heart. I manipulated his bf into being real good friends with me. He now feels bad for me.(I still hate him) I found out that she was infact dating me prior to him and she cheated on me with him. She was just lying to me.
She is also lying to him that she has blocked me on all accounts but she has me unblocked on fb.
It's been a month and luckily I have a lot of dependable friends who helped me get better soon.
Not even a month later, Today I found out she had unblocked me on all her accounts and had texted me on insta, wanting me back.... when I saw her texts I started hyperventilating.
No one ever loved me so much that she could harm herself for me. At the same time no one ever harmed me so much mentally.
What should I do? Please help 😭😭

Hi fellow Facebookmarketeers. I've been advertising as a consultant for the past 10 years and have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars (euros in my case) for my clients in all those years combined. This is my livelihood and I've run ads wonderful (national and international) organisations. But on Monday I logged in, only to see the error message saying 'You're Restricted From AdvertisingYou can't run ads or manage ad accounts.'
I am disabled not just from the ad account of one of my clients, but from the ad accounts of ALL my clients.
I've since tried to contact Facebook support, with no luck. I’ve spoken and chatted with at least 5 different reps. Only today to receive a call in which the Meta representative said that it is unknown why my ad access has been disabled for all my clients, but that there is no way to appeal the decision and that I am banned from ever advertising again.
Of course I have always followed all compliance rules, not ever have I tried to cheat the system. I’ve always run my ads past a fellow-marketeer before submitting them. My friends would say I’m one of the most honest people they know. My clients are very respectible and large organisations. I, therefor, have no clue whatsoever what could have caused Facebook from banning me as a marketeer.
My first instinct was to create a new Facebook account or (as the Meta Pro rep recommended me) someone’s old Facebook account, but since Meta has my passport/ID information, and this article says it's quite dangerous to create duplicate Facebook accounts and then connect the same ID to it (it is necessary to upload my personal ID for my ads), it doesn't sound like a good idea.
Has anyone every experienced this? Is there any way to appeal this that I don't know of? What would you do in my case?
Again, this has been my work for the past 10 years and my income mostly depends on me being able to advertise for my clients.
UPDATE: A MIRACLE HAS HAPPENED. When chatting with about the 10th Meta Pro Rep that week, suddenly a new blue button appeared on a page I had visited tens of times. It allowed me for an appeal. Within 5 minutes, my ad access was restored.

Date	Stage	Route	Length	Type	Time
Thu. May 16	12	Martinsicuro>Fano	193 km	Medium	ca. 17:15 CET

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Hi All,
Been here for over 5 months now.
Long story short. Wife (31F) of 5 years cheated on me (27M) with a co-worker in September - December 2023. We have 1 child together, and I have a stepson, which is her little boy from previous relationship. My daughter is 2, and her son is 7.
She cheated because she was lonely, she had shit going on and never bothered dealing with it, instead she stepped out and done something that made her feel better about herself.
We’ve both done IC, and she realised that if she was ever unhappy in a relationship, rather than voicing it, she stepped out as it was easier. She took the route of a coward, damaging me and the kids in the process.
I think she didn’t realise the consequences of her actions until the kids asked if me and her will be breaking up, which was like a stab to the heart for her.
I had a lot of TT throughout the discover, but she says it’s all out.
She cut contact immediately with AP when it came out. She quit her job immediately and now works in a woman only office, she’s been giving me her phone, all of it. She begs and cries for me not to leave her, and is showing true remorse for her actions.
The only thing that’s stopping me from fully committing to R is, do I know all the truth?, as I have this feeling that this isn’t the first time she had cheated on me. To give you some context:
While this was unraveling, somebody that she hasn’t spoke to in about 10 years apparently, sent her a message on Instagram saying “Hey, just wanted to reach out and apologise about how I treated you, I guess I’m just apologising before karma catches up”. She had shown me the message as soon as she received it, but said that it was weird as she hadn’t spoken to him in like 10 years. She wasn’t even friends with the guy on IG, and few hours later, he deleted the message along with the request and blocked her.
Then a few days ago, another of her Ex’s that used to be her old lover, from about 10 years ago again, reached out to her with a waving hand on Facebook. Again, last convo they had based on her fb messages was back in 2020, and it was just a memory she sent him of him with her cat when they were together.
When this was all happening, I’ve also seen that she spoke to another Ex back in 2021 via snap, as the chat was there, but again, she said that it was probably when she was replying to him on his story or something (then I find that all of his photos, she liked on socials in that timeframe).
We’ve been together for 5 years, and married for 1. I knew of these people as she used to tell me who her previous partners were as this was something I wanted to know when we got together.
She is so so so adamant that she didn’t cheat on me prior to this. She begs for me not to leave her, and that she’ll do anything to fix her fuckup, and that she won’t make it without me.
We have been through a lot together, we lost 2 babies, her dad was diagnosed with Cancer recently again.
I’ve been looking after myself, have put on weight, gained loads of muscle, started running, looking after my skincare, and actually started to get a lot of attention from women. I am successful, work in Cyber Security, and get paid really well.
I just can’t seem to move forward with R until I have heard every lie, but all I get told is - “you know everything, I have told you everything, there is literally nothing else for me to say”, how am I suppose to believe that? How am I suppose to believe that she didn’t cheat before?, I can’t!, too many people are popping up randomly, apologising, reaching out, why?
She says she doesn’t know why, and that she can’t control what other people do. I’m so lost, I do want to make it work with her, I really do, but I can’t without knowing that there’s nothing left to say and without knowing that I know everything.
We talked about polygraphs and stuff, but apparently they’re not reliable as apparently somebody can tell the truth and still fail and vice versa.
I don’t know what else I can tell her to reassure that whatever has happened in the past, I just need to know between us, so I can process and put it on the shelf, where it will stay, and then fully commit to making R work with her, as she’s really, really trying.
This sucks so much. I am only 27, and the things I’ve experienced in life, I wonder to myself, what did I do in my previous life to deserve all of this pain…

My ex and I have dated for a year and 4 months before he cheated on me with a co-worker and we broke up. Prior to this we had Been living together.we moved in after 9 months together and I moved away to be closer to university.
I went to visit him about 2 months ago and that's when I found the chats. He apologized and said they never slept together but I proceeded to break up with him and took the rest of my stuff with me back to res. He reached out to me a couple of days later and we started talking again. I did not see us going back together but I had gotten Soo used to his calls and texts. Even though the conversations weren't as heartfelt or lengthy as before. It hurt a bit less knowing that he cared to checked up on me at least. I spoke to a friend about this and I told him I do not see a future between us. He encouraged me to cut all contact and focus on healing and moving forward if I don't want to get back with him.
The next morning the usual good morning text came from my ex and I didn't respond I just blocked him everywhere. He didn't try to reach out any other way. weeks have passed and now an email popped up and I saw it was to his email address it's from a funeral insurance company. (I know I shouldn't have went through his email) but the email talks about a claim. I don't know if they made a mistake but it read's along the lines of wanting a death certificate for him in order to proceed with a claim.. I don't know what to think.
Noone has reached out to me from his family, no posts on Facebook from his family or sister. It's been almost a 2 weeks since we last spoke. What should I do? I don't want to jump to conclusions.

So I was on this friendship app. And I met this guy who was 45 years old. I'm 23 and just move to this big city. My intention of using the app was to meet friends who could show me around the city, and that's what I put in my profile. I'm also struggling with my finances as this is the first time i've ever moved out and my parents aren't helping as much as I would like them too. So we start chatting. And he says that he is a single man who has a daughter and he is a realtor and so I look up his name and He is legit. He has been in business for over 20 years. So a few weeks go by And the conversation gets sexual. We are sending dirty pictures and dirty text messages. A few days ago before we met in person, I looked his name up on facebook and I found out that he was married with a new born baby. So I confront him asking him why he lied about it, and he said that he didn't think that I would have sex with him if I knew he was married. And I told him no, I'm not gonna have sex with you because you're married. He then goes to say that in his 15 years of marriage him and his wife had have have had sex a handful of times and that he has never cheated on his wife, but he's thinking about cheating on his wife because he just can't go without sex any longer. He says he will give me a large sum of money if I had sex with him. So I agreed. He takes me to one of the homes that he's showing and shows me around. And then we start doing the deed. About 20 minutes later I hear a door open as the door's opening, he let's out a loud moan. I hear someone say hello, "anybody in here". So we both scramble to get our clothes back on. And the lady(another realtor)comes into the room, as we're getting our clothes back on and then she leaves abruptly. As we are leaving the house, he gives me a kiss and gives me my money. I get in my car and I look up through the window and I see that the lady saw the exchange of money and the kiss. It's been a few days since that has happened and I as well as he are still shaken up about it. He says he doesn't think that the realtor that came in would say anything or do anything, but he doesn't know for sure. In essence, I'm not risking anything, but he is risking everything. Losing his 15 year marriage to a woman that he claims to love. If this gets out the worst that would happen to me is I would be exposed. But the worst that would happen to him is his entire life would essentially be ruined. He could potentially lose clients, never gain clients in the future, etc. He recently text me saying that he wants to meet again, but either at my house or a hotel. I'm not sure what I'm going to do because the money was great. It was enough to pay for my expensive rent and groceries for the next 2 weeks. He said he's willing to give me the same amount which would then go to pay for medical bills. His reasoning for giving me the money was because he knows that i'm struggling and that he's the only one really willing to help me. Well that's it... That's my confession. I guess leave in the comments what you think do you think. Do you guys think I should meet him again? Or should I just cut it off while I still can and while virtually, nobody knows....

From the outset, I knew it was wrong because I’ve been cheated on by a previous partner. There are only two instances where I’ve been involved with my friends’ partners: Friend 1: Friend 1 was my high school classmate, but we weren’t particularly close. I was invited in a birthday party, I discovered that he was in a relationship with someone. Later, Friend 1’s partner added me on Facebook, and we didn’t chat until I was invited to a party. After a few drinks, we went home and Friend 1's partner chatted with me and asked if he could stay the night because he had a big fight with Friend 1, I let him stay at my apartment. We then had a one-night stand and what started as a one-night stand evolved into a casual hook-up. I feel responsible for their subsequent breakup. Friend 2: Friend 2's partner was on a dating site. We matched and chatted for days, but I wasn’t sure if he knew about my connection to his partner ( Friend 2). After we hooked up, he asked if I knew his partner( Friend 2). I admitted that I did. We both acknowledged that it was wrong, and decided to keep it a secret and that it won't happen again. However, Friend 2’s partner eventually messaged me from a new account, and I couldn’t resist the temptation. Now, guilt weighs heavily on me. I’ve blocked him on all my social media accounts, but the remorse persists. What should I do? 🙇‍♀️

I’m not a regular Reddit user so I hope I’m doing this right. I have wanted to tell Charlotte this story for so long. A little background first. My MIL is my husband’s stepmother. His real mother “disappeared “ when he was 5 years old and has never been found. Everyone knows that his dad murdered her, even the police but there’s never been enough evidence to convict him. He married my MIL, who he was dating at the time of my husband’s mom’s disappearance. They had a child then later divorced. I’ve gotten along with my MIL, her daughter and husband since we met and they ushered me into the family with open arms.
So one Christmas a few years ago, they wanted to have brunch for Christmas. My husband and I both wanted a traditional Christmas meal. So I asked her politely if we could just go over there the next day to do a present exchange. She said absolutely not. I said ok, that’s fine, we’ll be there.
I have trouble with depression. I have been on medication since my early 20s. I have 2 stepdaughters from my husband’s first marriage. They were 12 and 14 when we met. That year was particularly hard for me because they were grown up and had jobs. So no more Christmas vacation with them to play with all the fun presents they got. No making Christmas goodies and gingerbread houses with. No one to trim the trim with. No one to watch Christmas movies with, etc.
So I really wasn’t feeling the Christmas spirit that year to begin with. I thought I had come up with the perfect solution for the food situation that would make everyone happy. I made a full spread Christmas dinner at the last minute on Christmas Eve at my own house for me and my husband. I posted a pic of the food to Facebook and wished everyone a Merry Christmas, which I do every year.
When I got to my SIL house the next day, I thought everything was fine. Then my MIL got there. Everything was not fine. She said she saw my Facebook post. “That was a final F U to me wasn’t it?”, she asked. I said,”Absolutely not! I would never do that. (Hubby) wanted Christmas dinner. I made him Christmas dinner. It had nothing to do with you. And I always post Merry Christmas to Facebook with pics of dinner. “. “Oh, ok”, she said.
Later, someone was walking around with a video camera and I said something about not wanting to be on video, quietly to my husband but my MIL overheard. She had a camera for still pics and said, “Oh, I won’t post them on Facebook “. I said, “Oh, I don’t care about that.”
The rest of the day went fine. I don’t remember when I posted it but sometime during those 2 days I posted “Worst Christmas Ever”. I didn’t elaborate and I was thinking about not having kids to celebrate Christmas with anymore when I wrote that. It had absolutely nothing to do with my MIL family or what had happened with the Christmas meal situation.
On the way home I was looking at Facebook when I see a reply from my MIL sister who I have never met. Apparently, my MIL had told her about the whole thing and she decided to chew me out on my Facebook for being ungrateful and telling me how much her family loved me. So I replied that I didn’t say anything about them. Then my SIL chimed in with the fact that I didn’t invite my stepdaughters to my house for Christmas Eve dinner. #1She couldn’t have known that unless she asked them. #2 They don’t eat that kind of food. At Christmas they eat rolls and deviled eggs without the filling. One of them eats ham, the other one gets her own chicken. They don’t eat what I cook.
The next day I see pics of the festivities on Facebook without me and my husband so I said, “Where are me and (hubby)?” “You said you didn’t want to be in any pictures. “. “No, I didn’t. I said video. “. At this, my SIL makes a text chat group with me, my husband, her and her mom. She lays out everything as she thinks it’s unfolded over the past few days. (Side note: Because of losing his mom at 5 years old and hearing it happen outside his bedroom window, he has learning disabilities which has made him functionally illiterate. There’s no way he’s gonna read a long text thread and his sister knows that!). So, then I explain my side, including what was just a misunderstanding about the pictures. Then my MIL says to me, who DID NOT start this crap, BTW, “Too much drama mamma. “. So I said, “You wanna talk about drama?! You’re the reason my husband’s real mom is dead. “. She refuses to speak to me. I even apologized. She’s such a coward that she won’t even talk to her “son”. My husband said to me because I was upset that I had ruined his relationship with his “mom”“When we got married, we became one. If they stab you in the back, they stab me in the back. “.
This woman hates his ex-wife because she cheated on him. She even believes that one of his daughters isn’t his. (She is. ) But one Thanksgiving, I was uninvited to dinner at their hours because she was going to be there. My husband was though. He didn’t go.
So AITA?

This all happened last summer shortly after my paternal grandmother died, and I’ve just managed to get everything in order for the judgement of internet strangers. I did my best to provide context were I could.
TL;DR: We found out we have a half sister after our grandmother died and after we were done dealing with a variety of family issues. The Half-sister contacted us against the wishes of our dad and late grandmother. Due to a variety of reasons, we made the family decision to have nothing to do with her.
So for context:
My dad emigrated from Mexico to California with his family to look for work. He and my mom were childhood sweethearts but they were not together when he left Mexico for California. This is confirmed by my parents and my uncles.
While in California, my dad met this woman and they messed around a little bit. He says it wasn’t that serious of a relationship. He was young, got drunk often and she was young and pretty. I believe my dad was in his early twenties as was this girl if my math is right. This girl was also a known flirt and slept around a lot. Naturally, she gets pregnant and claims its my dad’s. He doesn’t believe her despite her insisting its his baby so he dips.
(Based on the info from my dad, and what my sister could gather, my dad was the only one with a stable job so we think she was trying to baby trap him. I’m not trying to make excuses, my dad isnt perfect but he’s honest and loves my mom).
My dad’s family, especially his sister, did NOT like this lady at all due to the aforementioned sleeping around so she helps him get to texas. My mom had just emigrated as well and my dad wanted to be with my mom. So he leaves this girl. Baby Momma threatened with child support, or that she would abort the baby if he left which pissed my dad off. When you’re mexican and catholic, threatening an abortion is a no no. So he leaves her, meets back up with my mom, married her, and I come along. We hear nothing of them for a while and its not like the lady couldnt track him down.
Flashforward to a few years. My mom gets a call from BM’s brother where he yells at her and my dad calling him a piece of shit for leaving BM and the baby. My dad ended up taking the phone and said again, the baby isnt his, and that he wants nothing to do with them and to never contact his family again. My mom was then aware of the other girl and she was mad, but again, they weren’t together and my dad was young drunk and stupid. So they push it down, ignore it, move on and forget.
Then my grandmother died. She knew about the other girl and she believes that it is my dad’s. My grandma would travel between our house and my uncles in california where she would meet with the other girl. Everyone on my dad’s side does think she’s his daughter.
Added context that is important.
For my mom, and only my mom, my dad stopped drinking and was sober for almost 23 years. However, in 2020, being surrounded by other alcoholics and being away for days for a job, he started drinking again. My dad helps build houses and would sometimes go all the way to oklahoma Or lousiana for a job. No he didn’t cheat. His coworkers actually teased him because he called my mom so often just to talk to her. I need y’all to understand that my dad loves my mom. He would move mountains for her. He’s not a perfect person, but he was a good dad and husband. Never hit us. Never raised his voice. We destroyed his model car collection that included some expensive pieces as kids. He didn’t ell he saw we were happy and tried to hide the survivors better. He gave my mom everything.
When she found out, they fought so badly it tore them apart. My dad is also stubborn to a fault and believed he could manage it. In the end, it got bad wnough my mom let me. Have a go at him because he was not listening or doing anything. He was also stressed as my sister was in bootcamp and I was getting married. So i think drinking was just easier for him.
I tore into him that day. I cornered him and confronted him for refusing help even though we offered. I told him how much it was hurting mom and when he refused to listen, I threatened to kick him out of my wedding if he didn’t do something about his drinking. He finally did especially after we think all their bad energy attracted an evil entity. I can elaborate if asked but its not relevant. Quit cold turkey again and he and my mom talked about how they would move forward. They began going to church a lot more often, all is good. My dad is doing better emotionally and is trying to make up with my mom. We have a conversation with my mom about being more patien and communicating more.
In all of this, my mom was dealing with liver issues and the stress of all of this was not helping.
Back to the story.
My grandmother died in march of 2023. I meet my cousins through video chat bc they were in Mexico. They video the service and funeral most of which we paid for. My dad bought a beautiful coffin for her, paid for roses and the gravestone. We paid for mariachi because my grandma always wanted mariachi for her funeral. We mourn, we move on.
My halfsister contacts my dad first to try and talk to him. My dad tells her again to leave us be that we want nothing to do with her. My dad’s number is public because thats how he gets jobs. So thats how she contacted him.
So she contacts us.
No one told us about her. She knew about us because my grandma would tell her about us. But we didn’t know about her. Everyone left it up to my dad to lake that decision and he never did.
My sister and I are both contacted by this girl through facebook. The profile is new and I’d almost gotten scammed once so we’re suspicious. We play along, ask for ID, video, proof. Everything. She provides it all. BC we thought she was a scammer, we weren’t exactly nice. So we’re thinking there might be some truth. We call my dad, he denies it. Call my mom, he denies it. I have my sister call him for me again because she’s better about getting things out of him. I call an uncle that Half Sister says knows about her.
Finally, they tell us everything that y’all just read. My sister and I are reeling, but we don’t tell the other three siblings. My mom is upset wanting to know why this girl is bothering us and that she doesn’t want her bothering us. She and my dad fight and my sister and I head to them (we’d moved out). We talk to our siblings separately.
My sister and I decide we don’t want anything to do with her. She is a stranger to us, and our parents are in a good place right now. They deserve peace. Not to mention, she went against the wishes of our grandma and my mom was still dealing with her liver issues. They could not. Handle another big issue right now.
So we gather everyone. Tell my parents that my sister and I want to tell our siblings together as a family and make a decision as a family. We preemptively talked to our siblings and agreed we wanted nothing to do with her.
I would rather not get into too many details. My mom spiraled. We both have anxiety but only one of us (me) sought a therapist. She was convinced my dad would leave her and that we would hate her or turn against her. (She is not a narcissist. She has anxiety shes finally learning to manage it). I removed my mom and brought her outside to breathe while my sister talked with my dad. Both me and my dad struggle to voice what we want to say and so it was becoming a bad cycle with my mom not being fair to him. My sister helps my dad word what he wants to say. But my sister and I get a handle on the situation. When we planned this, we knew we wanted to make sure mom was good. Dad already made his opinion in the matter clear. We just also knew our mom.
My dad reaffirms that he loves my mom, and us and doesn’t want to leave her. He also tells us that its our decision if we want to talk to this girl. My siblings and us all agree that we don’t want anything to do with her. We spend some time talking, winding down, go to ihop and head home.
Where I feel bad for her:
She wanted to meet us and get to know us. My parents had five of us and we are all very close while she was an only child. So I understand where she's coming from and I have a lot of sympathy from her. She knew parts of our extended family and whatever my grandmother told her about us. You see videos online of adoptees or people who were seperated from their parents who want to reconnect with their families and they are hailed for it. Even a scroll through the comment section people praise them for the attempt and villify the family if they reject them. And I understand why she wants to meet us. We're her siblings, but I can't bring myself to.
My parents just got done dealing with my dad's relapse into drinking. My mom had forgiven him and were trying to move past it. My mom could not handle any more stress due to her liver (or maybe it was her kidneys. The doctors said she needed to watch out for her blood pressure). My sister and I knew that this would be an issue and we did our best to deal with it and act as family counselors. My parents aren't perfect, but they're good parents and raised us well and I know they love each other. They recently had a proper wedding ceremony after twenty six years. Our siblings and I are starting to finally give back to them (taking them out to eat, giving them nice gifts, replacing the model cars we destroyed years ago). We would do just about anything to make them happy.
In my eyes, our half sister (if she is blood related) went against my grandmother's wishes and only contacted us AFTER my grandmother had been dead for a few months. And then, after my dad told her not to bother us, she contacted my sister and I. I loved my grandmother. We were devastated when she died so right as we're starting to recover from that, we get with this and it pissed me off.
I understand she wants to get to know us, but I don't want anything to do with her and my siblings (even after talking with them) agreed. We don't know her. We are happy where we are right now and don't want anything that is going to ruin that. She is a stranger that is going to upend the peace that we finally have. And now, a year later, she is all but forgotten to us because to us, she really isn't anything. And its not like she's not doing well for herself. She's works as a nurse and is living her life.
So Reddit, am I the asshole (or are we the assholes) for wanting nothing to do with our half-sister who we never met and didn't know existed?

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I am neha ( 26 f ) , I am here to vent and get some suggestions or maybe even a real friend . This is a story of how I ruined my love life and destroyed the man who meant everything to me . We grew up in Coimbatore , i first met my boyfriend when I was in 11th grade , I actually saw him in a video , it was a Facebook video made by his friends , one of his friend proposed a girl , so they made a video of it , he was there in it too . He is tall , above 6ft , he looked ok , normal , a bit weird too with his specs and curl hair . He didn’t stand out , after few days I saw in a local chat place , he was with his friend , all sweaty , they came from gym . I recognised him immediately though. I saw him sneakily , idk why , after going home I sent him a request to his Insta . We started talking the same night , he said he saw me too , we connected way too fast , he was very funny and practical, we became best friends very soon , we almost spoke daily , in that following year we became so close, there wasn’t anything sexual , we just talk about our day and our lives daily , then he got into a relationship with a girl , I liked her too , life was so easy and fun back then , after we got into college , I Started to date a guy in my college , but we didn’t stop talking , nothing changed between us , after going to college we started getting drunk and smoking up , it was all new and we all did it almost everyday in first year , it was pretty fun . The guy I was with that time , didn’t really smoke up that much , he got drunk but he didn’t smoke pot that much , but the rest of us gathered everyday to smoke pot and play carrom . We both even meet at night to just smoke up and listen to music . At the end of the first year , one day he called me one evening and told me that he wanted to meet me , he sounded very low , I was with my my boyfriend and his friends that time but I left there immediately,booked an auto and Met him at a usual place near an IT park , we drink coffee and smoke cigarettes there usually.he was already there when I went in , he saw me and smiled but that looked very sad , he told me that his girlfriend kissed someone , a distant cousin of her actually , she kissed him in a moment and texted her girlfriend about it , she mentioned that she regrets it very much , I can’t stand it , I don’t know what to do , I feel nauseous, stuff like that . He showed the screenshots , he didn’t talk much he just smiled but that killed me . I was so angry on her , I didn’t even know what to do to make him feel better at that moment, I said she is not worth it , don’t worry , things like that . He didn’t talk about it after that , he changed the topic and he just sat there for 30-40 mins just smoking thinking about something. We speak almost daily and I know everything about him , he told me when they first had sex , we speak about everything, just not anything sexual to each other , when I saw him like this , I was feeling only rage , I was so angry on her , I don’t understand why she kissed some other guy , after getting into that relationship he was very loyal , I know how loyal he was , he even got a tattoo of her initials , but when he knew about this kiss , it made him so sad I guess . After 2 hours , we went home . I called her as soon as I went home , i scolded her so much , she started crying and told me that it was a mistake, she sounded very regretful too , she cried so much , I couldn’t bring myself to be mean after that .but that night i couldn’t sleep , my ex called me all night but I didn’t pick his call , I kept texting him , we used to text in Snapchat daily , I kept sending him texts and he texted me back to , he said he is going to get drunk and pass out , I also felt that’s better , after some days she even cut her hand , like scratches with knife on wrists , she was very regretful too , then somehow they didn’t break up , he wanted to after that but she didn’t let him , but gradually it got ok , but after this we started to speak and meet more frequently than before , I started to drop him in my college , both of our colleges are in same road , we started going in one vehicle daily. Mostly I drove , we speak all the time about nothing , even when we were going on my scooty , we just make fun of people in road , we laughed , had fun . One day he even pressed my breasts accidentally, side of my breast . I started neglecting my ex , that guy I dated that time , after few months , people started to notice , but still we didn’t care . (I actually come off from a well doing family , my family has enough money but my parents have a very unsuccessful marriage, they don’t even speak to each other , I have a younger sister and elder sister . My elder sister is married , my younger sister difference is 3 years . My parents doesn’t speak to each other , my mom openly says that they are together only for the kids . ) I loved being with him , he made me feel safe , comfortable and it’s always warm when I’m with him . We smoked pot all the time though , it was so fun , we even bunked college went to room and just smoked pot and watched anime all day . One day my ex boyfriend and his friends were in Ooty and they wanted me to come , I said I’ll come with him , I can’t come alone , and I asked him to come . We rolled some joints and started to go in his bike , we went a beautiful ride , stopped and smoked up in between, after we reached there I went with my ex boyfriend. We all smoked up that night got drunk , he usually doesn’t talk that much , but all of us were drunk and it was chill , some of my friends like him some don’t , but it’s all chill . We stayed in a tent stay there , that night I was with my ex , he wanted to make out , we kissed and did some stuff but I just felt restless and distracted, I kept thinking about him and my ex was a drunk too , it didn’t turn me on , after some time he passed out . I went out and went to his tent to see him if he is asleep , but he wasn’t there , then I started to look for him and I found him near the fire place , he was smoking up there alone with a phone in his hand , he was just singing this song 7 years by Lucas I think , he was singing along with a joint in his hand , he saw me coming , smiled but he didn’t stop singing, I can see him feeling even little embarrassed, but he looked so happy and free . I sat down there started to smoke up with him . After sometime I asked him why haven’t even kissed even once , I just asked him in a fun way but he got all serious all of a sudden , he saw me straight in the eyes and told me that he would love to kiss me , I literally felt butterflies in my lower tummy , my hips felt all tight too , idk , I still remember everything though . I kissed him in an instant, I kinda rushed in and kissed him, it felt magical . We kissed for a long time , we just kissed , nothing else . But I loved it , after sometime we separated, he saw me smiled and said I tasted sweet and bitter with weed taste . But my heart was beating so fast that time , I wanted to make out with him right there , I’ve felt horny before but he was the only guy made me feel like this , I tried to kiss him again but he stopped me and told me im drunk and asked me to go sleep . Next morning they asked me to go with them but my mind was fully on that kiss , I came back to cbe in his bike , we didn’t talk anything for the first time I just hugged him on the way back , it was nice too . I thought about plans to break up with my ex , after he dropped me home I kept thinking about the kiss , things got normal after a few days , we were like before but we started to flirt a bit , I started to call him baby and it gradually became very intimate . One day in a movie I kissed him again and he kissed me back too , we started making out bit by bit , it developed into a place where he started to grope me while im driving , I enjoyed every bit of that , I broke up with that guy I was with but he was still with that girl . Around final year first semester end they broke up too . We had intercourse the next day , it was amazing , I loved everything about him and the best thing is he is my best friend too . We rented a place for us by college end , we had sex every single day , it was the best , I loved staying with him . After this there was covid and we had to stay in our place , for one whole year I lived with him happily, he never let me down even once , he was already very caring from beginning but after we got committed , he really did treated me like a princess . He didn’t speak much but his actions were most considerate , we both worked remotely and having the time of our life , two years went by , I was happy and fullfilled , at the end of third year he quit his job and tried to get a different better job with extra good pay , 3 months passed by , one day few friends of mine from my work visited our place , they told me about opportunity to work in chennai for a month , I took it and went to chennai for a month , he dropped me to bus and sent me off to chennai . We spoke daily but not that much , I went out with my friends daily got drunk , just having fun . Some of my friends think my boyfriend is beneath me , one even said that I deserve better , she said he didn’t even get a job in three months joked and asked me whether I am the one who’s paying rent , actually he never asked me rent or money , he always paid for everything , but that time when they were joking I didn’t defend him , I still couldn’t believe that I didn’t say anything . In that week I met a guy , he came with my friends , he flirted with me when I was there , after I went back to PG I got a text from this guy , he got my number from my friends it seems . After some texts I responded and we started texting ,i liked the attention I think idk , I was talking to my boyfriend daily too , but somehow he noticed that I am not ok , he asked me about it and I said it was work issue and I am tired , 3^rd weekend I met that guy alone , he wanted to have a drink and I went , I slept with him that night , to be honest the sex wasn’t good , when he got inside me I felt darkness , I swear . Idk why I did it , after sex that guy slept in a second , I saw him lying down and I felt like killing myself , I left to my pg in midnight , I booked a cab and went back . I saw my snap notifications from him but I couldn’t open it , I blocked that guy’s number , I went to pg , cried myself to sleep . Next morning I spoke to my boyfriend , told him that I got cold and resting today , he told me that he got a job as a business manager for a US IT firm , he sounded so happy and told me that he called yesterday night to tell me this . I was crying so hard when he was on the phone , at that moment I swear I even fogot the face of that I slept with , he asked me to get rest and I hung up . I couldn’t talk to him , I felt so guilty and ashamed , as I was thinking this I get a notification my swiggy that he placed order to my pg , he bought soup . I broke down , it was like everything is telling me how big mistake I made , suddenly my thought went to that day he told me about his ex’s kiss , I can see that sad smile . I decided not to tell him and love him more and more , he had his birthday in 15 days I wanted to do something for him . When I came back from chennai , he picked me , he was so happy to see me , he spoke about his new job to me on the way , he was like a child , maybe cause he missed me for a month , I can see that he is so happy like silly child just to see me , after going home I had sex with him , I even rimmed him and I kinda liked it , it was the best sex we had , I felt alive and also very guilty . I treated him better and better to ease my guilt , but this made him very happy , I arranged a small party with my sister ,his friends and my mom .the day before his birthday we got drunk he asked me why I am not being adamant like before , ‘enna kadhal ha ‘ (joking sayin I am so in love) he joked about how afetr five years we can get super rich and start a family , I melted hearing all this .i promised myself that I will never let him down . but ha ha This is why I think karma is a bitch , at the noon of his birthday I got a text from that guy saying that he is thinking about that night . He heard the notification took the phone to pass it to me , he just saw the phone simply , just a glance and he just stopped and opened the text , I was blowing up balloons opposite of him , I saw his face and my heart sank , he came closer and gave me the phone , he didn’t speak anything , I opened my phone in a panic , saw the text and I saw him , he asked me ‘ so you slept with some guy ? ‘ , I didn’t reply , my whole mind got blank , I felt like I was gonna faint , he just saw me and said why . Of all these years I knew him I never saw him cry , but now his voice was shaking , he just asked me ‘ yen ‘ (why in tamil) . I saw tears on his eyes , I can see his eyes becoming lifeless in a matter of minutes , I tried to hug him but he just moved away , no matter how much we fight , when I hug him , he gets all cute and lovely , but he just moved away in an instinct . He then came forward hugged me tightly , he said ‘ sorry ‘ . I still don’t know why he said sorry , but that sounded so weak to me , he is my everything and I hurt him , I know everything about him and I still fucked up . He hugged me for some more time , I knew this warmth might be the last thing . After few mins , he rubbed his eyes in my dress , saw me smiled the same way . But it felt more like he is laughing at himself , I watched my 6 ft man walking out of the room , I just stood there alone , and I felt very cold , I remember that cold everyday , evening people came for the party and he got ready and cut the cake , fed me the first piece , my mom and sister was there too , he behaved very good , spoke with my family , but I can see that he is broke , but he still made it through the night , I went to speak with him that night , but he said he can’t . he said ‘ please I can’t ‘ . I choked hearing his voice , he went to terrace , I didn’t sleep at all that night , I walked around our little one bhk apartment , I smoked two packs of cigs that night , I went to check on him in the terrace by 4 , he was sleeping there on the floor , he hugs himself in sleep and its so cold , I cried watching him , just one day ago he was being silly like a kid talking about future family , now he is there alone , heartbroken . Morning usually he makes coffee and rolls one , I made coffee and rolled one , waited for him to come down . He came down saw me and smiled , but its not the cheerful smile , it just hurt so bad watching him like that , he drank the coffee , smoked up with me , even told me its good. Then he got ready , I cooked but he said he can’t eat , he is not hungry , that morning was so silent , he cheers up with he sees me , he was my biggest fan , now he left home with just saying bye . I got a text from him that aftrn asking me to move back to my mom’s if possible , I was dead . I couldn’t say no , I hurt him , he didn’t even scold me , he even requested me , I can only say yes . I asked him that I want to stay one more night , he said ok like always . That night I asked him to cuddle with me , he said ok , he wanted that too it seems , we just hugged in silent , he slept off quickly , he always told me that when I sleep with him it makes him stressfree and he gets a good night sleep . He was asleep on my breasts , I saw him sleeping and I couldn’t stop my tears , realising that this is the last time , I made a stupid mistake , but everything felt unimportant now , I saw him sleeping and I kissed him on his cheek , must have whispered sorry a 100 times , our four years relationship came through my mind , I realize that he made sure I was happy in every way he knew , I proposed him , I made him fall for me , now I broke his heart . I didb’t sleep that night too , morning I dozed off , when I woke up he wasn’t there, he made juice for me and left for work . I packed some of my stuff and went to my mom’s . when I stepped out of our little home , I broke down and cried . I went home and cried , I told my mom we fought , but my sister knew something was up , she tried to ask him but he said it was a small fight , I confessed to her that night , I still remember seeing her confused look , she is a gen z kid , but even she gave me a look of confusion , she didn’t understand how I could do that , she liked my boyfriend very much , she was almost proud of him . But when she knew I cheated on him , she felt disgusted I think . Our sister bind kind of broke too that night . My life was dull , I missed him every second , I missed talking to him , I missed his smell , everything . I just focused on work , two months went by with no contact . I saw him near IT park at our spot one day, he looked like he was sick , he lost weight , his eyes are dry , he looked so pale . I saw him from a distance and I couldn’t believe my eyes , my baby looked so weak and sick , he was having a coffe and smoking a cig alone at the place we used to sit . My eyes teared up watching him , he looked so lonely . None of my friends knew we broke up because I cheated , he specifically asked me not to say anything to anyone . I didn’t speak to him that day , I couldn’t . I was full with guilt . After going home I called his friends and asked how he was and they said that they lost all contact with him and he is ghosting everybody . I broke him and also made him alone , I seriously considered killing myself but I was a coward . After a month , when I was in office , my mom got a diabities issue and fainted , my sister called him in a hurry , he came immediatiely and admitted mom in hospital , when I came there I saw him with a plastic cover with insulins for my mom . After my elder siter came , he left , he asked me to call with updates . Before leaving he asked me why I cheated , he said “ is it because I am not satisfying you “ or “ you wanted a emotial support “. when he said that , I just stood there , I can see his face , hiding a humiliation , I never had a sex issue with him , I loved being with him , but my baby asked me this , I felt ashamed . I couldn’t face him , I just stood there , he said never mind and left . I stood there seeing him leave ,but I didn’t give up , I started texting and snapping so much and somehow I made him talk to me normally , but his eyes has lost its color, he looks like he is tired of everything . After few days we both got drunk and alone , I kissed him as soon as I got the chance , he kissed me back too , usually when he kisses , he hold me ears , looks me in the eyes and kiss me , he did the same out of the habit , as soon as our eyes locked , he bursted out in tears , I truly felt how much this man loved me and how much I hurt him , he wanted to do more but he stopped himself , when he burst into tears, my heart completely broke , I hate myself so much , I hate my friends for fucking up my mind , I hate that guy . My man is gettting punished for giving everything to me , its been a year , he changed , he looks lean , unhealthy , I even think his hair is falling , almost like a zombie . I would glady kill myself for him , I just want him to be happy , I destroyed the only person I love , I see how devastating this can get for him, he looks so weak , I can’r accept it . I should’ve defended him when they joked about him . Its all my fault , its been a year and I still can;t go back to him , I can’t imagine another guy to raise my kids , I want him . Help me .

TL;DR - 25 years with the same woman. She's cheated on me at least once that I knew of, possibly more but I've never been able to prove it. I'm beginning to feel like something isn't right again, and don't know if I should let it go or look for evidence of infidelity. If I find, should I leave her?
My wife (we'll call her Dee) and I have been together for about 25 years now, living together for most of that time, and officially married for 12 years.
Our first few years together were amazing, we had a great sex life, and did everything together. In her early 20s, they found pre-cancerous lesions on her cervix, which had to be surgically removed, and our sex life started to go downhill as it was now very painful for her.
Despite this, I continued to work menial jobs to pay the bills while she went to school. Between stress and eating out frequently, I went from a svelte 80Kg (I'm 185cm BTW) to about 105Kg, and despite being skinny growing up, I've struggled with my weight ever since.
When she graduated, having paid her bills for the last 4 or 5 years, and seeing potential in me to take care of their daughter, her parents invited us to move in with them while I went to school, an offer I gladly accepted at the age of 24.
For the next year, I worked got, did excellent in school, and would go on to graduate with top marks. At one point, we went back home to visit with friends, and I was taken aside and told by one of them that Dee had cheated on me.
As soon we were back together, I confronted her immediately and she denied everything. Dee claimed that she couldn't understand why my friends were trying to hurt our relationship, and other assurances. I believed her, and cut off ties with my friends who would besmirch her character like that, but it never sat well with me.
The following spring of 2005, she left her computer unlocked and her email open. Something deep inside me couldn't let go, and I decided to snoop. I'm not proud of it, but nevertheless, I found what I was looking for - an email from her to "Charles", some disgusting yeti of a man-child, begging him to deny that they'd fooled around and tell my friend William that he was mistaken, and it wasn't her.
I confronted her again, and again, she lied, and only when I showed her her own confession did she finally admit to it. She said it was a stupid thing to do, she was afraid she was going to lose me, it happened when we weren't doing well together (although she never voiced her displeasure to me)...
I can't explain why I stayed - perhaps it was because I believed I still had a future with her, but I told her it was going take a lot of work to rebuild our relationship.
Within a year, we moved out, I bought us a house, and things were good for a while. eventually, I started to feel that terrible ache in my heart again, and after seeing some suspicious text messages in her phone (although nothing outright damning), I confronted her again, and again, she flatly denied that she was seeing anyone else. The texts were harmless, she's like that with all of her friends.
Things have gone on that way for a while, and today I decided to snoop around in her Facebook messages, and came across her chat with a man from back in 2015. Again, a fat, unattractive older man. In it, he apologized for being "gropey" with her at a party at his place, and she replied with "no worries, were all a little on the stupid end."
Of course she never mentioned any of this to me, so I can't help but wonder what else she's keeping from me. Her and her sister go on trips without me, concerts, comedy shows, and the like, and I can't but wonder what she gets up to.
I have no idea whether she's currently cheating on me, or what she's allowed to happen to her in any of these places. She's not the time to discourage unsolicited male attention, and knowing I would be upset, is more apt to keep it from me.
I work from home 90% of the time now, and make a very good living and have a great job with a good pension. I'm actively working on my weight through eating clean and exercising. I do all the cooking, all of the cleaning, and pay all of our bills. I'm a good provider, and our future is assured.
I don't know why she feels she needs to step out on me, and of the two of us, I'm insatiably horny and always go out of my way to take care of sexual needs as often as she'll let me. Although I'm past my prime, and have put on a few stone, I'm not unattractive.
I feel sick right now thinking about all of this, and am unsure what to do.
I feel like I don't have any concrete evidence that she's been unfaithful recently, but have terrible feeling in the pit of my stomach that something isn't right. I'm tempted to get ahold of her mobile phone after she's gone to bed and see if my worries are justified.
Should I leave it alone, or should I keep digging? What should I do if I find it?

So i am reaching out in hopes to meet friends and make some new connections in the . Im a 30 year old single father and i was in a relationship for 6 years now that has just ended. We where engaged after 1 year. She never worked and has lived in government houseing and been under income assistance her whole life. She had a very hard up bringing and has really done well for herself for what she was given for a life as a child. I seen alot of love and passion for her kids when i first met her. She was rough around the edges but gave me alot of hope and and trust because of her motherly ability, and her abiltity to make in through rough times and to persevere and make the best out of her life. She lived quite rurally when i met her. And i lived in the city. I was getting tired of the city and began to fall in love with her over a years time . And began to grow a soft spot in my heart for the 3 young girls she had. This gave me the confidence to change my path in life and make the move 950 km away from everything i ever knew. The kids father was never involved and had been in and out of jail there whole young lives. As well as having a restraining order against him towards my ex. When i came up they where 1 and almost 3 . I have raised them as my own since the time i met them. I took over as the father figure they needed. I got them moved out of government housing and into a apartment - then a house. Work ran dry as we where living rurally and as i had took over as the family provider i needed to make a decision . Stay rurally where life is simplier. But chance looseing everything , or move back to city where i have supports and work is plenty. We made that move and have never looked back ! But once we moved down to the city our family began falling apart. I began working alot more hours and my fiancee was not use to me not beeing around as the last 4 or 5 months i was basically just working enough to pay the bills. It made us loose one another. She got pregant after 1 year of beding back down in the city. It seemed to really put a new lease on our reltionship ! But after 7 months our son was born premature and died at birth. This crushed us both and for another year we just stsrted declining as a family as a cohesive unit like a partnership should be.
It was around christmas after all of this that i found out my fiancee was cheating on me. She had been selling her used panties online , offering men sex for money , and exchanging sexual texts and photos with men who lived back in the rural town we use to live in. I was heart broken and said it was over then. 💔 but she proceeds to tell me she is pregnant again. And that we should really try to make it work for the babys sake.
It took me alot of time and i said okay . I forgive you but i can not keep doing this. If it happens again we are over.
Everything seemed fine until just after our son was born. I began noticing she never wanted to cuddle anymore , she was always. Complaining about my character and gas liting me for things. Telling me how shitty a dad i am . Well turning around the next day and telling how great i am and trying to make love to me .
I began to think she was chesting again once we got in a fight because i seen all these random men in her friends list on facebook that i had never met or seen in my life. And she has always made it clear im not allowed to have any woman outside of family on my facebook or even in my contacts on my phone. Ive gotten in shit for talking with the hr lady at work -.-. So when i seen this i brought it up and was like this is a,bit of a double standard dont you think ? And i got told im looking to stsrt fights and that all i do is accuse her.
Well because of this she deleted me off facebook and deleted my whole family. For 4 month's i have been sending her friend requests and telling her how much it bugs me and hurts me. I call her my fiancee but she cant add me on facebook. All i could see was ger profile picture changes. So one day im looking at her likes on her profile picture's and low and behold are 4 different men all single men . Who lived in the area we did before, who use to flirt with her all the time before we officially got together. So again i bring up this and go this is really bugging me and i know stuff is going on. She use to send me nudes and spicy photos as a couple . But that has completely stopped 6 months ago. I bought her a new phone and we both have acces to each others phones . Well she got mad accused me of snapchatting with woman in the past , so i deleted the app completely as we use to use it for our spicy photos. Well the new phone i just bought her she downloaded snapchat on. And in her photo gallerys has prob 200 nude photos of herself . Well not 1 has been sent to me . But so help i add a lady who was a friend from highschool on my facebook. 🤨 .
So this all came to ahead and i confronted her . I wrote how it hurt me and if she was done lets do this like adults and not lie and hurt 1 another. I never got a responses other then i cant complete your accuseing me of this shit how dare you , your fucking rude , fuck you type thing.
So fast forward a month or so later and im in the car with my mother . Now my parents rent us there basement suite. As im in the car with my mother the kids grandmother . She tells me the other night my middle daughter told them they paid for a new place and its only for them (3 kids) and mom . Not dad. So my mother and father where quite thrown off to here this from my daughter who is 8.
So my mom told me this happened. So i txt my ex fiancee and she takes 45 minutes to reply back to me.
She had it prepared as she sent about a 3 page message to me telling me how she is not happy , and needs her own space , and stills wants to work on us but needs her own space. I go after everything we have been through and you do this sneakly behind my back. Like we where struggling money wise a little bit. And i had 1500 in savings . I got paid on 3 days. And she beggggedd me to pull money out of savings to buy some groceries. I said thats fine if we need food we need food.
Well i find out she had applied for income assistance and had been saving money for this place the whole time. As well i bought her abd the girls 4 tickets to TS . She proceed to tell me her ticketmaster account got hacked and someone took her tickets which are now worth 3000 plus each. After all of this went down im begining to think she sold the tickets as pocketed the money .
Im so broken and as i pick up the peices and try to make in through the rest of the month with pain of her living here still , hurting me everyday. It hurts to not see it coming , nd it hurts to see the family you worked so hard to create and better and grow . Fracture and disapate.
I do have my reasons but i beleive sge is either running a only fans account or may be escorting /selling sex for money.
I want to have my family work out and i have tried time and time again to fix things. But at a certain point you need to let things go and if its ment to be it will be.
Im writing this in hopes to meet maybe some younger singles who may have gone through anything similar and who are looking to decompress and have someone to talk with and be friends with ! Obviously as lifes been rough im not looking for anything serious at this point but maybe someone else gad been through something similar and us down to have a coffee talk about things , and maybe spark a friendship that can go further maybe !
Im a carpenter by trade and consider myself blue collar hardworking ! I love outdoors and want my kids to grow up enjoying nature as much as possible as well ! Hopefully you share the same type of values and likes and we can plan some lake and beach trips !
As we are not even separated households yet and this is very fresh . I want to stay anonymous but if you right a,reply here i will msg you personally! Looking forward to chatting and meeting some people in the area !

So may girl na nag chat sakin asking if I am D's wife. Sabi nya niloloko daw ako ng asawa ko or yung friend nya ang niloloko kasi nagcha-chat daw yung asawa ko sa friend nya saying na hiwalay na kami. I asked the girl kung kailan pa nag chat at kung pwedeng pahingi ng screenshots,hindi nya pa nasi-seen yung response ko.
Actually last October 2022,before our 3rd wedding anniversary nakipaghiwalay ako sa asawa ko because of various reasons mainly because I discovered that he's not entirely faithful to me. I saw his chat to another girl na nakilala nya sa bar asking kung pwede silang magkita ulit. And I saw his facebook searches, comments inquiring about massage with extra service. I did not know if he actually pushed through with those,I just saw that he was looking into that. He denied everything of course saying na its for his friend not him but I know that's bullshit. Umalis ako sa bahay na tinitirhan namin that time bitbit lahat ng gamit namin ng baby ko which was only 2 yrs old that time. End of October 2022 sumakay na ulit sya ng barko. November nagmamakaawa pa sya na ayusin namin pamilya namin. December nagbago ang ihip ng hangin, hindi na nya gustong makipag balikan kukunin nya pang sakin ang bata. January 2023 balik na naman sya sa pagmamakaawa na ayusin yung pamilya namin. March na-confine sa ospital yung anak namin for 3 days because of UTI. I started talking to him again because of that,gave him updates and such. The months that followed patuloy sya sa pagmamakaawa na ayusin yung family namin, saying na ayaw nyang matulad sa kanya yung anak namin kasi he came from a broken family na dahil din sa cheating. July 2023 bumaba sya ng barko tapos pinuntahan nya agad kami sa bago naming tinitirhan ng baby ko with my parents. Lumuhod sya sa harap ko at umiiyak na ayusin namin,mag pa marriage counseling kami and such. Kinausap nya yung parents ko nag-sorry sa nagawa nya. I was very adamant na ayoko na,dahil mas maayos yung buhay ko ng wala sya. I was emotionally detached from him bago pa ko umalis sa dati naming bahay. I gave him a second chance,kasi nakita ko yung baby namin around him. May isip na sya ngayon so madalas na nya talagang hanapin ang daddy nya.
Ang dami nyang pinagbago. I can say that he is really trying his best to be better at makabawi samin ng anak namin. Magkaka 2nd baby pa nga sana kami but I miscarried last December.
Now, after 9 months of trying to work out our marriage, our family, madi-discover ko na hindi naman pala sya nagbago all along. All this time pinapaikot nya lang ako.
I want to cut off all ties with him completely but I know that's imposible kasi may anak kami. Mag uusap at mag uusap kami tungkol sa bata. Gusto ko magpa annul but I don't have the means. I want to be free of him completely as soon as possible. I desperately do. But its not the easiest thing to do.
I know na kahit anong desisyon ang piliin ko it will affect our kid in some way. Ang hirap lang mamili kung alin sa dalawa and mas better para sa kanya in the long run. I want my kid to have the best. I want her to experience a normal,loving childhood. Hindi ko alam kung mas better ba na magkunwaring okay ang lahat para lang lumaki syang may nanay at tatay, after all, that's what I've been doing for the past 9 months. Fake it for a few more years habang nag iipon ng pang annul.
Or makipag hiwalay na officially sa tatay nya ngayon and raise her alone. Alam kong sooner or later makikipag hiwalay ako. I am burnt. Ubos na ako. Wala na akong nararamdaman na kahit na ano para sa asawa ko. Hindi ko na sya mahal,hindi na ko nagagalit, i don't care about him anymore.

I’ll try to make this short, I (35F) am engaged to my fiance (27M) and we’re set to be married in October. For the most part we get along good, despite the age gap he’s good with my kids, helpful, provides, however he can be a little dense at times, and he could definitely help pick up the slack with the housework, but we’re happy or so I thought .
We both have some trust issues because of past relationships, and we both at times need that reassurance which isn’t an issue for either of us, when we met he told me about his own checkered past and if we’re being honest it’s made me keep my guard up, it’s gotten a lot better over time but in the back of my mind I’m just kinda keeping myself mentally prepared that he may repeat his past mistakes, because of his past (sleeping with his friends gfs, and cheating on gfs). (his exes also cheated on him ) and mine ( ex cheated with multiple girls) it’s made it hard for me to fully trust him…
When we started dating we both agreed that unless it’s together we wouldn’t watch porn, and to remove any opposite sex friends we’ve dared, slept with or had history with. I know it’s not for everyone but it was what made us both comfortable.
So here’s my issue, and what I need help putting into perspective.. because he admitted in the past that snap chat was his go to cheating tool and he doesn’t have friends he talks to (he has Facebook and talks to the people he wants to there), we agreed he wouldn’t use snap and he also said he didn’t want it anyways,
** we also have an open phone policy and it’s not an issue for either of us, because it gives the other peace of mind and we have nothing to hide… or so I thought.***
A few months ago I caught him messaging some girl on Snapchat, I also I found in his search history on Facebook searches for girls that he used to know, I also found porn in his history and a search for escorts (he doesn’t have the money for this), and it really hurt me because I have kept our boundaries in place, cut off one of my very close friends because he and I have a past and I respect my relationship and value my fiance and honestly id probably feel the same way if the roles were reversed.
We’ve worked though those issues, and things have been good until tonight..
He always sees me on Reddit, and I read him posts from forums, and I kept suggesting he get an account and he finally did!, well stupid me went to his page from mine and peaked at him comment history, I saw that he had commented in the sluts subreddit on a post which was a video of a girl jumping up and down saying do men really like small tits?, and he comment yes yes we do!
It didn’t even hurt me this time, I just felt kinda annoyed, and disappointed… he tried to deny it and then when I told him that everything he comments shows up public on his profile he tried to tell me he didn’t look, he just commented on the post …
I just honestly need some perception, do I have a right to be upset? He complains he has no friends and even made a post about it, he wanted some kind of social platform, yet the first night he’s on here he’sy checking out sluts ..
Thoughts besides leave him?, although it is making me question if he’s too young for this level of commitment.. hopefully this all makes sense!
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