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Mother In Laws From Hell

2016.02.19 06:46 Allie_Girl Mother In Laws From Hell

Welcome to Mother-In-Laws from Hell! This is a place to vent and get our frustrations out about our less-than-pleasant situations. Let’s help each other, and find ways to outsmart our hellish MIL's. The rules are simple...
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2019.04.04 02:47 DespacitoC Innocent Mothers Thoughts

Innocent mother thoughts showing how mothers don't understand some things about sex,drugs,etc. ex: "I picked up a towel and i was covered in this weird glue substance, I told my son to clean up after his art projects!"
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2015.09.21 22:33 auriem just NO! family

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2024.05.20 08:24 Lazy_Imagination3334 AITA for Enforcing Strict Bedtimes for My Kids Even on Weekends?

I (36F) am a mother of two wonderful children, a son (10M) and a daughter (8F). I’ve always believed in the importance of a good night's sleep for their growth and development. Therefore, I enforce strict bedtimes for them: 8:30 PM on school nights and 9:00 PM on weekends and holidays.
My husband (38M) supports my decision, but recently we've been facing some pushback, particularly from extended family and even a few friends. They argue that the kids should have more flexibility on weekends and during the holidays. They believe that allowing the kids to stay up later would let them enjoy their time off more and foster a sense of freedom and relaxation. They say that the children are missing out on making memories, like watching a late-night movie or staying up to celebrate a special occasion.
Last weekend, we had a family gathering at my sister's house. My sister (42F) lets her kids (14M, 12F) stay up as late as they want on weekends. When it was time for us to leave around 8 PM to get home and start our bedtime routine, my children protested. They saw their cousins still playing video games and having fun, and they didn't want to leave. I stood firm, though, and we left despite the complaints.
My sister later called me to tell me that I was being too strict and that my kids should have been allowed to stay up later to spend time with their cousins. She thinks I'm depriving them of valuable family bonding experiences. My mother (67F) also chimed in, saying that when we were kids, we were allowed to stay up late at family gatherings and that those were some of the best memories of her life.
My husband and I discussed it, and while he sees their point, he still supports my decision. We believe that consistency is key to our children's well-being. Whenever we've tried to let them stay up later in the past, it resulted in crankiness and a disrupted sleep schedule for several days afterward. I work full-time, and my husband works shifts, so a stable routine helps our household run more smoothly.
However, I can't shake off the feeling that maybe I'm being too rigid. Perhaps I am depriving my kids of those cherished childhood experiences. I want to do what's best for them, but I'm conflicted about whether to loosen the reins a bit. Is it worth it to stick to our strict bedtime rules, or should I be more flexible and allow them to stay up late occasionally?
My kids have been vocal about their feelings too. My son said he feels left out when his friends talk about staying up late playing games or watching movies, and my daughter cried when we had to leave my sister's house early. They both expressed that they want to have more "fun time" like their friends and cousins. This broke my heart a little because I don't want them to feel excluded or unhappy. I try to make their days enjoyable and fulfilling, but I wonder if this particular rule is too stringent.
I'm looking for advice on whether I should maintain our current bedtime routine or if I should relax it a bit to allow for special occasions and weekends. I genuinely want what's best for my children and our family, but I also don't want to be overly controlling. Would loosening the bedtime rules make that much of a difference, or is it important to stick to my principles for their long-term benefit?
AITA for enforcing strict bedtimes for my kids even on weekends?
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2024.05.20 08:12 Ill-Goose79 AITA for wanting to focus on myself?

I (23f) am going through many changes in life recently and all of these things have occurred over the last month and a half. To say I’m drained is an understatement. (Sorry in advance, this post is going to be a little lengthy.)
For example, my father had two strokes at the start of this year, which destroyed me (even though my father and I are not very close), & I am currently seven months pregnant with my second child. This pregnancy has also been VERY tough compared to my first, so I’m really trying to push through as best I can. I have severe pain in my lower back and pelvis, which make it excruciating to do anything. This wasn’t something that happened during my first pregnancy either, so I’m trying to take it easy as humanly possible. On top of that, I’m still fighting postpartum depression and it’s kicking my butt. However, there are two other major life events I’ve faced on top of this that are absolutely killing me lately.
The first event is me going back to work. I will only be working until I give birth again, but it’s very taxing on my body and my mental health. It may sound silly, but I have been a stay at home mom for the last 7-8 months to my firstborn child. I absolutely adore this new role with my whole heart, it brings me so much joy. I just didn’t have the intention of going back to work any time soon, so this change caught me off guard. After not working for such a long period of time, it’s become very difficult for me to go back for a few reasons. It means having to leave my 9 month old baby during prolonged amounts of time, and I’m not used to that yet. It’s made my heart sad to do it, but we’re in a financial crunch in my household, so going back to work was the only suitable option to help take care of bills with my partner. While this change is only temporary, I’m still having a tough time trying to adjust to it. It also means getting used to my line of work again (I cook in a restaurant), the peaks of busy hours, being on my feet for hours at a time, etc. Working in such a demanding industry is hard when you’re pregnant, and that’s something I’m trying to get used to again too. For some background info, I worked through the entirety of my first pregnancy and it wasn’t easy the first time either.
The other major life change I’m dealing with is that I’ve lost my sister (27f) in a horrific car accident last month. I’m very numb to this whole situation, and I’m in shock. My mom and I are the only two people in our family who have taken charge to give her a proper funeral too. As you could imagine, it’s a TON of stress for just two people to handle. From starting a campaign to raise money to pay for the funeral costs, to writing her obituary, I’ve been working my ass off trying to make sure this goes as smoothly as possible. I love my sister dearly, and I’m honored to have such a big role in this. However, it’s becoming much harder each day. Our mom is putting a ton of pressure on me by giving me handfuls of tasks while she handles the smaller responsibilities in all of this. I’ve launched the campaign for expenses, I am writing the obituary, I’ve picked out a guest list, made a social media page for guests to RSVP to the service, collected photos, gathered a location for her celebration of life, and I’ve also gone to several meetings at the funeral home to discuss details of the service as well on top of a few other things too. I’m doing all of this while trying to be a happy mother, go to work, being pregnant, and trying to handle my own life stresses. I manage money in my household, so I budget everything. I do the shopping, cleaning, etc. Not to mention, I’ve been playing the part of a support system to my mother and my sisters father during this time. On my days off from work, I’m not relaxing or taking it easy as I should be. I’m taking care of my child while my partner is working, I’m also juggling the funeral responsibilities, and trying to figure out how to keep my household afloat. I barely have had time to take care of myself and I’m drowning.
Here’s where the issue comes into play. My mom wants me to do a handful more things for the service, as it’s approaching at the end of the month. I just don’t have the heart to tell her that I’m exhausted and would prefer her to do it. I didn’t sign up for all of these responsibilities either, it was just given to me when all of this happened. I didn’t say no originally either because it’s my sister, you know? I love her and want her to have a proper send off, I am just so overwhelmed at this point.. My mom has only handled the songs she would like to hear at the service, sending in the photos I’ve gathered, and attending meetings with the funeral home. I’ve done literally everything else. Now, she wants me to do more. My mother doesn’t work, she stays at home a majority of the time. She babysits my son for two days out of the week for two hours max while I’m at work. She has the time to do all of the extra things, whereas I do not. I just want to focus on my own mental well being and my at home life right now. My days off from work have been filled with all of life’s problems and struggles, and they don’t rest on the days that I do work either. I haven’t even really begun to process the loss of my sister. I think about her, but it hasn’t even really hit me yet.. I haven’t had a day to myself to think or even do my laundry.. I’m just so exhausted of life. AITA for wanting her to handle the last bit of responsibilities so I can take a step back and focus on myself and my home life before the funeral?😞
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2024.05.20 08:09 CruzanKris [FL]

My son has lived in the same home as his Mother for 15 years. Originally there was a verbal agreement between he and his Mother that they were buying it together and would co-own it. His name was to be added to the deed. Over the past 15 years, he has paid 100% of the upkeep, maintenance, and home improvements and has the receipts to prove it. He pays the mortgage as well. His Mother contributes nothing. The verbal agreement was witnessed by their real estate and my son's wife. Now his Mother continues to refuse to honour the agreement and has told him if he doesn't drop it, she will sell the house and he will be homeless. The house was originally purchased for $170k and is now valued at $450k. Does he have any legal recourse to enforce the verbal agreement and be added to the deed?
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2024.05.20 08:08 shalene My (33F) Mom (64F) is planning on divorcing my (60m) long-time abusive dad. How do I help my mom while ensuring that my disabled father isn't abandoned to the street?

Context first, predicament(s) after. Feel free to scroll down.
My parents have been together my whole life. Lots of complications throughout the years, etc. I can give an entire history of abuse at the literal hands of my father back to when I was in third grade as I have been deeply traumatized, as has my younger sibling (28 F). I will try to post key events for context in an attempt to catch up to the present.
Firstly, I made peace with my childhood when I was about 26 after a long talk about my OCD with my parents where my dad expressed that he deals with a lot of the symptoms I talked about. I chalked it up to him being an undiagnosed whatever the hell he has. I haven't forgiven him, but I have an understanding. They should have split IMO the first time he put his hands on someone, but she stayed out of survival, which I don't fault her for.
2007:
Once when I was in high school she called me and told me that she had my sister from daycare and that she wasn't coming back, and that she couldn't come get me because dad said he was going to kill her if she came home. I begged for her not to leave me, and after the call I saw that he had a gun out on his bed when I walked past their bedroom. She came home late that night and slept in my bedroom with my sister. She has since told me that he would also make threats to burn the house down if she ever left him, burn down her new house, kill all of us, etc.
Skip to about 2012-2014:
When I moved out of state and out of their house to be with my boyfriend my dad was already pissed that I was going to visit and basically told me to never come back. I was in a rush to leave anyways, because he had recently beat my sister with a plate so loudly that I could hear it over my gaming headset with friends in another room. So, I granted his wish and didn't see him for over a year. As I was packing I told my sister and mom that if he puts his hands on anyone I'm going to sue them for custody of my sister.
Obviously, my relationship with my mother and my sister at this time became strained as they lived with him so I couldn't visit often. While I was gone he started stalking my mother and installed an app on her phone so he could track her at all times. She worked in an office building that didn't have good service and he'd ask her why she wasn't at her desk, etc. He sent her various threatening messages that I screenshotted and sent to myself on her phone. He was under the impression she was cheating on him, and went so far as to buy a semen test kit to test a literal mayo stain on one of her work clothes. He was unhinged and completely psychotic at this time, and I was completely, and still am, on my mothers side.
Not sure of the rest of this timeline as far as dates up until the present, so here are the key events after this stalking episode:
So basically, her plan is to leave for a week, have a home assistance person paid to go take care of him, etc. and then ask for the police to help get him out and then she's going to sell everything and move off with this dude.
I told her that she needs a real plan. First of all he's violent when angry, even if he's in a wheelchair. I feel like he would try and hurt himself and obviously burn the house down since that was always his main threat, and that me and my mom and sister might have to go through a fucking criminal investigation. I literally cannot stomach it.
Also, I am scared for my dad because holy fuck. He can't walk, he can't do anything for himself. The fucked up part of me cares for him still. The logical part of me knows he brought this upon himself. I just don't know what to do. My mother's plan is shaky at best, and it's just a fucking mess. I told her that she needs to confide in her sister-in-law who is married into the family to see if her and my uncle can take him on, because my mom has never asked for shit, and the whole family (he has like 6 surviving siblings) knows that he's an abusive prick and that my mom doesn't and has never deserved to be treated the way he has treated her. But again, I'm conflicted.
I told my mom that she needs to hold onto the house for now because she doesn't even know the dude that well and then what, she ends up homeless if he's not a good fit? IDK. Nobody is thinking things through, and I am expected to keep this secret until she goes through with it? I am going to lose my mind, and have already been up at night crying and throwing up because of the anxiety. Please, if anyone can give me any guidance I'd sincerely appreciate it.
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2024.05.20 08:03 Jasmine03Garza Cassandra Fowler

Reddit Account: u/Jasmine03Garza
Discord Tag: jasmine0000
Name and House: Cassandra Fowler née Peake
Age: 22
Cultural Group: Reachman, Dornish
Appearance: Cassandra takes after her mother’s Dornish features with bright brown eyes and full lips. Her long dark hair is always neatly combed down with soft ringlets on the ends and she is often seen adorned with jewels gifted to her by her late husband.
Trait: Erudite
Skill(s): Apothecary (e), Ravenmaster, Scribe (e)
Talent(s): Dancing, Lying. and Embroidery
Negative Trait(s): None
Starting Title(s): Lady Regent of Skyreach
Starting Location: Opening Hunt
Alternate Characters: None
Timeline:
2 AC - Lady Catelyn Fowler and Lord Ellion Fowler have a pair of twins, a boy named Olyvar and a girl named Olyvia. The girl falls ill and passes within a fortnight of her birth.
3 AC - Princess Ashara Martell, wed to Lord Ronnel Peake at the beginning of the year, gave birth to her first child, Cassandra Peake, at Starpike.
4 AC - Jasper Flowers is born, the bastard son of Ronnel Peake and his once-betrothed, Vivian Graceford.
5 AC - Roland Peake is born, the youngest brother of Cassandra and the heir of Starpike.
7 AC - Valaena Peake is born, the youngest daughter of Lord Ronnel Peake and Princess Ashara Martell.
7 AC - Marianne Flowers is born, the bastard daughter of Lord Ronnel Peake and Vivian Graceford.
15 AC - Lord Peake and Lord Fowler negotiate a betrothal between Olyvar Fowler and Cassandra Peake. Cassandra’s father’s mistress and their bastard daughter are murdered at Dunstonbury under uncertain circumstances.
20 AC - Catelyn Fowler’s affair with Qoren Yronwood is exposed at the Tourney of Yronwood. Her husband, Elliot Fowler, challenges the heir to Yronwood to a duel of honor, resulting in his death. The newly made Lady Dowager breaks off her relationship with her husband’s killer and retreats to Skyreach with her son. Olyvar becomes the Lord of Skyreach and Warden on the Prince’s Pass.
21 AC - 24 AC - Olyvar’s lady mother passes away less than a year after her late husband, throwing the young Lord Fowler into a deep melancholy. He continually delays his nuptials, providing excuse after excuse. He barely leaves his chambers, ignoring all matters of rulership and emerging only to hunt.
Princess Ashara secures a place at court on Highwatch for her daughter, as Cassandra becomes a lady in waiting for Queen Rhaenys. Once she was of age, she attended the Queen’s yearly moon-long parties. During one of these events, she meets Ser Qoren Yronwood. Knowing of her betrothed’s preference for men and knowing not whether her marriage to him would ever actually come to fruition, Cassandra begins a relationship with the man. However, the pair keep their affair private.
24 AC - 25 AC - Cassandra’s father, fed up with Lord Fowler’s incessant delays, sends Cassandra’s bastard brother, Jasper Flowers, to Skyreach. There, the Bastard of Dunstonbury convinces the Lord of Skyreach to finally wed her. Their marriage ceremony is held the following moon. Jasper remains at Skyreach, officially as Cassandra’s sworn sword.
Olyvar takes on Jasper as a lover while permitting his newlywed wife to take on lovers of her own. Cassandra continues her relationship with Qoren Yronwood, though she colludes with her bastard half-brother to keep his identity secret from Olyvar, to avoid any unnecessary complications. Unbeknownst to Olyvar or Qoren, Cassandra and Jasper have several secret trysts.
Middle of 24 AC - Cassandra learns that she’s pregnant. Olyvar is overjoyed at the prospect, insisting that the child be named Ellion if a boy or Catelyn if a girl.
2nd Moon of 25 AC - Cassandra gives birth to a son, and Olyvar has him named Ellion Fowler. She tells Qoren she believes it's his, and Jasper that she’s not quite sure whose it is.
7th Moon of 25 AC - Olyvar Fowler discovers the identity of his wife’s lover and gets into a drunken argument with Jasper and Cassandra that escalates into violence. Jasper throws him off a balcony and he falls to his death. While the extended Fowler family is away, a private funeral is held two days later. Cassandra becomes regent in the name of her son, Ellion Fowler, the Lord of Skyreach and Warden of the Prince’s Pass. Publicly, his death is deemed a tragic accident. Privately, however, Cassandra and her brother share tales of a melancholic man who kept up a sunny veneer and left the world of his own accord. With her half-brother joining the Kingsguard, she gives him House Fowler’s ancestral dagger, Kestrel.
8th Moon - 9th Moon of 25 AC - Cassandra offers her and her son’s fealty to Princess Deria Martell at Sunspear and Queen Rhaenys and her son at Summerhall. She returns to Skyreach with Qoren Yronwood at her side, much to the dismay of her late husband’s kin. After a few escalating incidents, Qoren reluctantly departs Dorne.
10th Moon of 25 AC - The Lady Regent of Skyreach and her eight-moon-old son head to the festivities held in celebration of the Conqueror’s son’s nameday.
Family Trees:
Fowler:
https://www.familyecho.com/?p=START&c=r364zwblrseojqrd&f=988017411516523823
Peake:
https://www.familyecho.com/?p=START&c=yj8n71ubz1wyjblv&f=887583636362253151
Archetyped NPC:
Castellan - Maester Manstor
General - Ser Cletus Cairn
General - Ser Edric Hood
General - Ser Arys Fowler
Questioner - Ursula of the Summer Isles
Warrior (Daggers) - Umma Sand
Master at Arms - Ser Vorian Fowler
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2024.05.20 08:01 Pain-n-theaZz1974 Here's a real ghost. Captured by a friend picking up his daughter.

Here's a real ghost. Captured by a friend picking up his daughter.
I got this picture from the person that actually took it. A friend of mine who was picking his daughter up from their mother's. I guess store goes. She been playing with an imaginary friend all day instead of boy from down the street. Who happens to there? Was a boy killed in the neighborhood several weeks prior anyway as it goes when they were leaving or whatever you snap this photo of course. Didn't see anything until process but here you go. When I got the photo I sent it to my son-in-law who happened to be working at the New York Post at the time and they run it through their film lab and said that it was not a doctored photo. Explain this. I've had this photo for several years and I have several more of real instance. Push me up if you want to see more.
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2024.05.20 07:59 Superhero-Universo The Cuban champion

warning: this is another translator and it may sound worse xd
ohhh, another family with domestic violence, parental abandonment, fights, possible mental disorders and a long etc.
This is the story of Mijain Weather (the name refers to two wrestlers, the name comes from Mijain Lopez), this is an Olympic wrestler from Cuba
where are the parents? The father is more than absent (absent fathers are a constant in that family) but the mother was not the best example for her son, which is why Mijain (who is Mathew Weather's counterpart), what did he do to be away from his mother's bad steps? sport, in this case it was Olympic wrestling
Although there is a small but important issue, in this reality (there is a difference between universe and reality in that world), in his genetics the blood of beasts runs (not literally, but imagine a hanmas type family), Mijain Weather left the country to fight in certain events but apart from participating in those events, you met your family which is dispersed and is a huge family, how was that family reunion? Well, arguments and fistfights, right? None of them can stand or understand anything other than violence, since in their genetics they evolved as if they were an animal (that of the family in general), focusing more on combat and physicality, taking things like intelligence in the background.
And well, following the character, he improved in Olympic wrestling and won many gold medals representing Cuba and his family, so he gets along more or less (he usually fights with his brothers but they still love each other or something like that
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2024.05.20 07:51 Agreeable-Ad4806 Effect of Conjunctions

This is for Vedic astrology and so follows Vedic rules for considering conjunctions, which states they are formed when two or more planets occupy the same house and sign. Conjunction effects are made stronger with proximity, but they are still considered to apply even if there are 28° in the same house and sign.
The planets have natural friendship and Panchda friendship. If planets coming together are friends, their characteristic properties join. When they are neutral or enemies, a conjunction tends to weaken one of the planets involved, with stronger planet's characteristics prevailing but to a lesser extent cancelling each other out. Similarly, the natural significations of planets may or may not coincide or clash. If they do coincide, results will be better. But if opposing each other, then it will reduce the significations of the planets. If the planets belong to the same nature i.e. fiery, earthy, airy, or watery, hot or cold, fast or slow, it may increase their combined results. The opposite effect will occur when they contrast one another’s nature.
Here are some of the things conjunctions may indicate. I am only going to include those of the Sun and Moon to save time. An important thing to remember is that the time of fructification for a conjunction will align with major and minor planetary periods (dasas).
Sun and Moon— Both are friends, but Sun is hot & fiery representing the soul, while the Moon is cool & watery representing Mana (mind) and becomes weak in Paksh-bala when close to Sun. They give good results when placed in Trikone/ 10th house / Aries, Cancer or Leo sign. This conjunction is said to make the native valorous, haughty, skilled in works of stone, machinery & tools, sale of intoxicants/ poisons, wanderer, harsh, wicked, immodest, libidinous, easily submitting to females, and suffering from eye diseases. If otherwise influenced by benefics, the native may also become a great philosopher or saint. This conjunction promotes general strength of character and usefulness at home & abroad. It is good for all social and benevolent acts, gives humanitarian impulses and conduces to popularity and general success. That said, the effects of weak Moon will be prevalent.
Sun and Mars— Both are friends, fiery, hot, bilious, aggressive, and cruel Grahas. This conjunction is said to make a native strong, energetic, bold, clever, liked by rulers, brave in combat but prone to injury, a tormentor of enemies, impulsive, hasty, short tempered, obstinate, a liar, quarrelsome, sinful, bereft of home and family comforts, but loves siblings. One suffers due to defects in blood or digestion. But if this conjunction is aspected by Jupiter, the will power and desire of the native will be harmoniously realized. Such natives tend to be employed in police or armed forces, and this combination makes a capable surgeon or engineer as well. It makes one splendorous, strong, valorous, very emotional, and foolish. In female charts, in Trikone houses, it gives abortions & miscarriages. This combination is destructive and not preferable in Kendra/ Trikone houses, unless with benefic influences. I t gives best results in lagna, 10th or 11th house. In 10th house, it is extra strong, since both gets directional strength here; it makes one dictatorial towards subordinates.
Sun and Mercury— This combination is very common as Mercury is never more than 28 degrees away from Sun in any chart. But when closely conjunct together, they form Buddhaditya Yoga, making one learned, intelligent, virtuous, skilled in various arts, an eloquent orator, honorable, and popular. The native is sweet tongued, talkative, clever, earns wealth by serving others, scholarly, good in looks, but fickle minded. This yoga is more effective in signs or lagna of Sun/ Mercury. It gives better results if Mercury is behind Sun within three degrees or so; when it gives high power & capacity for concentration and can make one wealthy. It gives good results in Kendra/Trikone houses except for 7th. It is good in 2nd and 11th houses.
Sun and Jupiter— Both planets are friendly, fiery, Satwik, and male. The conjunction makes one virtuous, able to gain from friends, possibly wealthy, wise, intelligent, widely renowned, spiritual, a good teacher, knowledgeable of scripture, a follower of religious pursuits, possibly a banker or physician, and skilled in various activities relating to Jupiter and Sun. The native is always sincere, devoted to duty, wise, diplomatic, healthy, long-lived, servile, and helpful to others even at the cost of themselves. In 4th or 9th house, it can make one a legal expert. If Jupiter is combust or otherwise badly afflicted, in case of males, there would be loss in wealth and in happiness from progeny; and in case of females, there could be delay in marriage or marital problems.
Sun and Venus— The two are inimical to each other. Sun is fiery, Satwik, and Krror male, representing the soul. Venus is airy and watery, Rajshi, benefic, and female, representing sensual pleasures. The two together affect eyes and eyesight. This conjunction is said to make the native skilled in archery/weaponry, music, acting & fine arts, affectionate, popular, polite, indulgent in vehiciles, property, and ornaments, and they earn through opposite sex. It can make one an optician (in 6th/ 8th house) and well known (in 5th, 8th, or 10th house). The native is said to be libidinous, lacking stable marital life (particularly in 5th, 7th or 9th house), possessing limited progeny, addicted to vices (especially in Cance Scorpio), highly sexed (especially within 3 degrees). The combination is generally better when Venus is ahead of Sun and not combust. It is worse in moveable signs.
Sun and Saturn— The two are bitter enemies and hostile to each other. Saturn is quite different from Sun, being airy, Tamasik, malefic, gender neutral, and eunuch. Sun represents vitality and soul and Saturn lethargy and miseries. Both are separatist planets and lead to salvation though. Some say they may represent father-son or boss-subordinate relationship. A native with such a conjunction is generally said to be virtuous, intelligent, mindful of their duties, mature in behaviour, learned, and follows tradition being self made. They get inheritance, but generally squander away ancestral property. They have a bitter family life, dominating enemies, an anguished mind, and this adversely affects cordiality with father or senior authorities. They are popular among poor; labourous, and downtrodden. It gives poor results in Kendra or Trikone houses, indicates gain from Sun's articles but loss from Saturn's articles and not favourable for ladies of one’s family. One does not get comfort of wife/ children and leads a secluded life with this placement unless mitigating factors are at play.
Moon and Mars— Moon is watery, Satwik, cool, and female, representing wavering mind and mother; but Mars is fiery, Tamsik, hot tempered, and male, representing valour; martial talents, and younger siblings. Both belong to the same friendly group and control formation & circulation of blood. Such a native with this conjunction is generally clever, shrewd, highly emotional, erratic, less controlled, over-active, courageous, short tempered, adamant, and ambitious. They can be wealthy (Chandra-Mangal yoga), deal with women heavily. They are skilled in work related to wines, earthen pottery, leather, handicrafts, minerals, and consulting. If afflicted, one suffers from low vitality, blood disorders, and can be hostile to nurturers & maternal relations.
Moon and Mercury— Both are natural benefics, but Mercury is different as it is earthy, Rajshik, and a eunuch planet. If Moon is divine mother, the Mercury is divine prince, who is not happy with his mother. This conjunction gives an active mind, highly developed intellect, a retentive memory, good general knowledge and common sense, sound expression, quick wit, and diverse merits. It makes one beautiful, can be wealthy, amiable and attached to one's spouse, humorous, soft spoken, modest, fortunate, famous, a successful scholar, and an eloquent speaker. Interestingly, it gives good results even in 3rd, 6th, 9th, or 12th houses. If afflicted by Mars/ Saturn, it causes Pisach Yoga and makes native scornful, hypersensitive, erratic, and a complex ridden person with a feeling of guilt, insecurity, and suspicion.
Moon and Jupiter— Both are friendly, benefic and Satwik, but Jupiter is fiery, wise, and male. The conjunction highlights good qualities of both and Jupiter does not allow Moon to waver or do any wrong. It makes native devoted to god, healthy, happy, distinguished, contended, good natured, optimistic, mentally benevolent, attached to their duties, engaged in virtuous deeds, helpful to others, sympathetic, broad minded, warm hearted, and very intelligent. It gives very good results in Kendra/ Trikone houses. In 10th house, it gives good positive kind of management skill and consultancy work. Together they form famous Gajkesari Yoga. However, if afflicted, it makes one harsh, lethargic, critical of others, fickle minded, and wasteful.
Moon and Venus— Both planets are natural benefic and females, and Moon is great facilitator of main significations of Venus i.e. marriage & pleasure. But Venus is airy/watery and Rajsik. The native is wise, good looking, popular, adept in music, fine arts, tailoring, weaving, & mandarin trading of clothes, clever in buying & selling, fond of flowers & perfumes, refined with cool mind, lover of beauty, associated with and gets comfort & wealth from women. One has more daughters than sons and earns from sea travel. If in close conjunction, it is detrimental to married life. If afflicted, one is lazy, sinful, quarrelsome, addicted to vices, and may have death in water or through violence. In 6th or 9th house, it gives ailments in belly but in 12th it gives wealth from foreign sources.
Moon and Saturn— This is a great mismatch and the two are inimical to each other. Moon is watery, Satwik, female, and the fastest moving natural benefic; but Saturn is airy, Tamasik, eunuch, and the slowest moving natural malefic. Native may be born to a widow, remarried,spouse may be sickly or elder. They are said to be bereft of grace, self esteem, virtue, wealth and valour, having less progeny, worried, peevish, gloomy, hard working, and gets little happiness or nurture from mother. However, if it is aspected by Jupiter, several of its shortcomings get “cancelled.”
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2024.05.20 07:50 CrinkleDink House Renart, Part 2: The Death of the Fox, and the Birth of the Dragon

House Renart, Part 2: The Death of the Fox, and the Birth of the Dragon
Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/CrusaderKings/comments/1crfhjs/so_i_played_the_box_art_dynasty_house_renart_here/
King Oldrik, King of Poland and Pomerania, had a long and successful reign. With his defeat of the northern pagans, House Renart believed it could conquer the world. However, it would be internal strife that would nearly lead the House to destruction...

King Wielslaw, King of Poland

To every dynasty, there is always a weak link. King Oldrik chose his heir poorly.
King Wielslaw (March 31st, 1139 - 25 of August, 1181) was King of Poland from 1177 until his death in 1181. He had barely any children, as his father’s inbreeding led him to having infertile loins, having very few children.
In life, he was a stubborn, arrogant man, but was oddly compassionate in his ways. He was known to be handsome in life and was fairly intelligent. He was skilled in theology and the matters of law and land, as well as history. However, he had a heavy drinking problem which would evidently lead to his demise, as well as disease.
As a prince Wielslaw, the youngest of his brothers, was granted the Duchy of Veletia in 1153 as his father was preparing him for rule. There he ruled for some time until his father Oldrick I died. He would ascend to the throne of Poland in 1177 while his brother Wielslaw became King of Pomerania, splitting the realms into two.
The same year, King Wielslaw went to war against Queen Darya of Volhynia, taking the southern provinces. The war lasted for two years, with the queen being defeated in March of 1179.
In 1180, King Wielslaw went around the country to enact justice and enforce taxes on his vassals. This proved to make him unpopular with the people. However, it did allow him to draft a
Wielslaw came to King Mieszko's defense against Stammesherzog Dethard's attempted de jure war of Duchy of Anhalt in 1181. This would lead to a swift victory. However, as he was fighting in Anhalt, a great disease of Bloody Flux spread throughout the land. King Wielslaw, while leading his troops in the camp, caught the disease and grew very ill. He began to drink during this time, and while drunk, he named his younger son, Oldrick, his new heir, while his eldest son, Sulistryj, was disinherited, due to murdering a man during a duel. He died on the 25th of August, 1181. A courier went out to Krakow to declare the young prince Oldrick as the new King of Poland, which shocked the court.

King Oldrick II, King of Poland

Tragedy befell this scaly yet innocent young king! From the drunken lips of his foolish father his fate was unfortunately sealed.
Oldrick II (May 6th, 1177 - January 3rd, 1186) was the King of Poland from 1181 to his death in 1186. A mere child who came upon the throne due to his father’s drunken final will, Oldrick saw a great civil war overtake his lands. His uncle, King Miezko of Pomerania, though having an alliance, schemed against him, and would ultimately take his life.
Throughout his reign he dealt with a civil war for his throne, led by his vassal Duke Uściech Lewiki in 1182. He had little power, though his most significant act was restoring his brother Sulistryj’s inheritance to become next in line for the crown of Poland. This hurt the plans of King Miezko, who was feigning his loyalty to the boy when fighting the civil war.
However, Oldrick II would be assassinated by King Miezko through poisoned candy, leading to his brother, Sulistryj, to take over the throne.

Sulistryj I ‘the Beautiful’, King of Poland and Pomerania

Vengeance to a brother's honor, and with a tongue as sweet as honey, his reign was unfortunately cut short by the thread of fate.
Sulistryj I (July 20th, 1156 - October 13th, 1214) was the King of Poland in 1186, and King of Pomerania in 1188, until his death in 1214. The eldest son of King Wielslaw, he saw support for his tenure on the throne of Poland after the death of his younger brother and proved to be a very capable diplomat.
Sulistryj would be the last member of the pure House of Renart. When he did, his uncle Dobromir Renart-Glogow would usurp power in the family. In life, he was rumored to be an atheist, and he had murdered a man in a duel. However, he was also known for being a very handsome man and intelligent, and well read and practiced in matters of diplomacy.
Sulistryj, before he was king, was notable for defeating Duke Usciech. During the civil war, he commanded a battle against the duke at the Battle of Gniezno on the 19th of April, 1183. The duke would surrender to King Oldrick II, and would then be beheaded and his lands stripped, delivered to Sulistryj who regained his right to inheritance.
Three years later, in 1186, his brother Oldrick II would die mysteriously. Sulistryj had suspected his uncle Miezko was vying for the throne of Poland and had him killed. And indeed, Miezko had sent a delegation to declare his rivalry with Sulistryj at the beginning of the summer, declaring his claim to Poland was truer. Sulistryj knew what was coming: an invasion.
To act quicker, Sulistryj quickly rallied his hosts and vassals outside the borders of Pomerania, and on the 5th of July, 1186, he declared himself the rightful King of Pomerania just as Miezko was on pilgrimage towards Rome. King Miezko quickly returned, not expecting such a bold decision from his nephew. A series of engagements would take place in the province of Nordmark, leading to a few staggering defeats for Sulistryj, including at the Battle of Ukkria. However, though the Pomeranians won the battle, King Miezko was severely injured. His son, Oldrick, would take over the front of battle.
And yet, from the south, King Otakar of Bohemia, seeing a moment of opportunity, invaded the next summer on the 4th of June, 1187, trying to take the lands of Lubben against King Sulistryj.
King Sulistryj grew nervous of the Bohemian invasion. However, come December, as his troops were making camp in the winter, he received news from a courier: King Miezko was dead. He had died from injuries sustained at the Battle of Ukkria.
The Battle of Strassburg (April 10th, 1188) would be the final engagement between the two kingdoms. King Sulistryj confronted King Oldrick II of Pomerania at the battle. By this point, Pomerania had grown exhausted and morale was terrible, and they were outnumbered. With Oldrick II’s rule being unfavored, the armies of Pomerania found themselves quickly overrun by the Poles. King Oldrick was defeated, and gave his crown over to Sulistryj.
The following year, in January, however, Oldrick II rebelled against, declaring his sister Princess Luitgard of Osterland was the proper queen of Pomerania. A quick skirmish took place in February of that year, leading to a white peace between the rebellious Oldrick and the king. He then began a claim war for the crown of Pomerania once again, the following year in 1190. He was once again defeated, and because of his constant rebellion, had his titles over Pomerania stripped and was beheaded.
In August of 1201, a Grand Tournament was held in Poland, the first of its kind in the land, under King Sulistryj. Here, the king himself won the Melee and Archery contests.
In 1209, Duke Krystyn of Veletia became a rival of King Sulistryj and declared him an illegitimate ruler. In December of that year, he began a rebellion of dethronement against the king. A year of small skirmishes and chasing took place, until the duke was defeated at the Battle of Gottingen on the 18th of December, 1210. The Duke would be imprisoned, his titles revoked, and executed. The king gave his second eldest son Sulistryj the title.
Then, in 1213, King Sulistryj decided to go on pilgrimage to the city of Cologne with his eldest son Oldrick. They began their journey in January of that year. However, a great plague overcame the city of Consumption. When Sulistryj arrived, he and his son grew ill. They finished their pilgrimage at the church of Cologne, and were quickly delivered home by their servants. However, when they arrived in October, the king, nor his son, was recovering from their sickness. King Sulistryj grew worse, and would pass away, leaving his eldest son Otger to inherit the throne of Poland, while his son Sulistryj became King of Pomerania.

King Otger II ‘the Sickly’

Alas, many tried to save his reign but it would be the woes of plague that did him in. And thus the House of Renart would die with him.
Otger II (October 25th, 1204 - June 2nd, 1217) was the King of Poland from 1214 until his death from consumption in 1217. His reign saw a great era of instability within the land. Historically, Otger II was the last king of the proper Renart dynasty.
When he became king, the sudden death of his father caused opportunistic vassals to favor his great-uncle and grandfather, Duke Drobomir of Silesia. Though Duke Drobomir swore loyalty to the line of Sulistryj (his nephew) he secretly schemed to take over the throne. Duke Drobomir conspired the vassals of Poland to turn against the young king.
In the second year of Otger’s reign, Count Janusz Halicki of Kalisz led the dukes and counts of Poland in rebellion against Otger, declaring that Duke Drobomir the true King of Poland. They marched out in April, heading toward the capitol. Count Janusz went ahead of the army. Meanwhile, King Otger’s brother, Sulistryj, rounded his armies in support of his brother, as well as the armies of England.
On the 21st of October, Count Janusz entered Krakow and went past the guards. He made an attempt on the life of King Otger, but the loyal and brave Duke Powel of Rzepin saved the life of the king. Janusz was captured from his attempt just as the Polish armies defeated his army outside of the city. Thus the count was captured, and the rebels defeated. The civil war ended there, but things were still growing unstable in the realm.
Alas, the king grew ill further through the winter, his Consumption worsening. His condition grew dire, and his physician was unable to cure him, only ease his woes. Duke Drobomir was expecting to be in line for the throne. Instead, as his last act, Otger declared his brother Sulistryj would become king in his place. Duke Drobomir was insulted by this act, and as the king was dying, he quickly made himself the head of House Renart with his own cadet branch, the House of Glogow.
King Otger died in June of 1217, at the age of 13. Meanwhile, Drobomir began a new faction to install himself as King of Poland…

Emperor Sulistryj ‘the Wend’ of West-Slavia

Though the fox dies, rising from the ashes will be a mighty dragon of the east.
Sulistryj II (June 5th, 1206 - September 10th, 1283), known as “the Young”, the “Confessor”, but most notably “the Wend”, was the King of Poland and Pomerania from 1217, and the eventual Emperor of the West Slavs in 1255, until his death in 1283. Inheriting the throne from his older brother at the age of 11, Sulistryj ruled from an astounding 66 years, in which he united the west slavic kingdoms of Pomerania and Bohemia and unified the West Slavs into a single Wendish empire.
He inherited the throne of Poland after the death of his brother Otger. He was beforehand ruling as Duke of Veletia and the King of Pomerania. When he became King of Poland, he had little power over his kingdom, for his uncle, Duke Dobromir ‘the Handsome’ of Silesia, became his regent. The Duke had expected to take over the throne from his nephews, but instead, Sulistryj was crowned king, leading to a damper in his schemes.
Duke Dobromir, as the grandfather of the king, became the head of the household and quickly began to take more powers from the king, ruling in his place and becoming head of the House of Renart. With Otger II dead, and Sulistryj’s mother being Dobromir’s daughter, and the remaining Renarts dead, Dobromir declared the house of Renart extinct.
The Renarts are dead. Long live the House of Glogow!
This went against the will of Sulistryj, who stripped Dobromir of much of his regnal powers. Dobromir threatened rebellion in 1221, seeking to claim the crown of Poland for himself. He schemed to kill his grandson, hoping to put his own direct son, also named Dobromir, onto the throne.
Dobromir proceeded to try and kill the young king when he was studying at the University of Krakow. The attempt was quickly discovered and thwarted by Duke Powel of Rzepin, once again loyal to the king as spymaster and bodyguard.
The following year, Sulistryj was finally coronated as he reached the age of 16. There, King Sulistryj II announced himself as the “first of the House of Glogow” in spite of his grandfather. He took over the Renart dynasty and disinherited his grandfather, destroying his son’s claims to the Kingdom of Poland. But still he schemed, as he knew it could be restored if he took the throne.
A house divided against itself shall not stand!
To ensure confidence in his rule, Sulistryj pressed his bassal Czcibor’s claim to the Duchy of Ostfalen in 1222, and then married Maria of Norway. He would win the duchy, taking it from the Emperor of Germany at the time.
However, not all were confident in the rule of King Sulistryj, as Duke Dobromir continued to plot against his grandson. Count Alexander Kujawski rebelled against the king in 1229, but he was swiftly defeated and executed for his crimes. King Sulistryj proved to his grandfather that he was not willing to mess around. Dobromir tried to flee as the remaining rebellious counts were imprisoned, but he was captured.
Dobromir was imprisoned, and by coercion was forced to give up his claims to Poland, and then was disinherited and dethroned from Silesia. Out of compassion, Sulistryj spared his grandfather, as the chronicler wrote in “The History of the Wends” the following:
“King Sulistryj declared, ‘The Renarts have died, but the blood of Glogow will not be severed. You shall have a place in my house, until the end of your days. As it is, I rule as a son under your blood.’”
Thus Dobromir would remain in Krakow as a servant of his grandson, until the end of his days in 1232, where he died from drinking. Thus his legacy, despite his reportedly loving nature (despite his treachery, he did care for his grandsons as they grew up fatherless) he was still viewed as a traitor and usurper. Thus he has become a figure of plays and songs in the West-Slavic culture. His most prominent appearance, and basis of much fiction, was in the “Song of Renart” in which he was portrayed as a scheming traitor.
During this time, legend spread that King Sulistryj had slain a dragon. He gave into the story, proclaiming himself a mighty dragon slayer and that he, too, would slay the enemies of the Poles. This brought him great praise throughout the land.
The following year, 1232, Queen Maria would die in childbirth as she gave birth to her daughter Jadwiga. She had three children with Sulistryj. King Sulistryj held a funeral for both her and his grandfather, mourning their loss. The same year, King Sulistryj would remarry Rognfrithr of Denmark. She would birth his eldest son Dalimir in 1234, and Dobrogost in 1237.
Now King Sulistryj was well read in the histories of Poland. Though he knew was of German descent, he began to read of the Wendish tribes of Germany many centuries prior. He remembered that once his family had held titles in Northern Germany. He began to see himself as a great unifier of his house’s ancestral claims, and the claims of the west slavs. He also believed the Holy Roman Emperor was a threat to his power over the region. Therefore, Sulistryj grew a vision of a Wendish Empire, of German and Pole, to secure his realm.
You were useful, Teutonic Knights. However, I have a mighty need to unite the West Slavs!
He declared war against the Teutonic Order in 1240 as he recaptured the Duchy of Pomerania. The Grandmaster was defeated at the Battle of Szczytno in 1241, and King Sulistryj II saw victory a few months later in January of 1242. The same year, King Sulistryj invaded Anhalt and captured it, fighting Kaiser George’s for the duchy and ultimately defeating him on November 6th of 1245.
Two years would pass, as Sulistryj began building castles and fortresses across Poland and in particular Krakow. Then in 1247 he invaded the duchy of Pomeralia, held by the Teutonic Knights. He would capture Grandmaster Ekbert’s son Warren at the Battle of Gydnia and lead the Teutons to once again losing land to the Poles. The Teutons were driven completely out of the Pomeranian lands.
King Sulistryj would claim himself as the proper Duke of Bohemia and Moravia, as they were once West Slavic holdings, as well as Duke of Meissen. He made an alliance with the King of Hungary, the Emperor of Francia, and the King of England, to take on the much larger and vast Holy Roman Emperor. Kaizer George had conducted diplomacy with King Sulistryj II prior, and so felt betrayed by the king as he invaded central Germany and Bohemia in 1250. King Venceslav of Croatia came to the assistance of the Kaizer. This began what chroniclers called the War of the Wend.
Hopefully the Pope doesn't bother to check the actual historical claims over this... He doesn't need to know what the King may or may not have made up. ;)
Sulistryj led the Polish armies by himself and first attacked northern Bohemia while the emperor tried to attack Francia. The English and Polish armies raided throughout Bohemia. They would be confronted by King Venceslav at Unicov on May 4th of 1252, who attacked the English armies, but the Poles came to the defense of the English and defeated the Croatians, who fled.
Prague was overtaken by the Poles and English as Kaiser George finished defeating a rebellion near his capitol. The German forces marched into central Bohemia, with their army being led by the Kaizer himself. On the 24th of July in 1254, the Germans and Croatians faced the French, Polish, and English forces at the First Battle of Prerov, leading to a very close battle. King Peter IV of England managed to change the fate of the battle with his longbowmen routing the Germany cavalry, allowing the Polish cavalry to break through the German ranks.
There would be a few losses. The Poles lost a battle to the Croatians at Brno, and the English and French lost engagements at Leipzig in the same year.
A second full engagement happened outside of Stribro on the 3rd of November. The Polish forces used the Mze River to fortify their position, routing the Germans once again. The Polish armies wintered there, while the French and English wintered southward of the city. During this time, the Livonian Knights came to the assistance of the German emperor. They moved through the winter towards Prerov to try and retake the city. The defenders fell, and the Livonians moved into the castle.
In February the Polish forces came to the defenses of city of Prerov. initiating the Second Battle of Prerov. They would find themselves suddenly ambushed by a hidden German force, led by the Kaizer, who attacked the outnumbered Poles. However, the French and English troops arrived a week later as the Polish forces held their ground in the castle. With their defense, King Sulistryj managed to push back the Livonians and Germans, forcing them to route, leading to a Polish victory on the 16th of February.
A final battle took place outside of Prague as the Polish forces began besieging the city. The allied forces of Germany, Croatia, and Livonia faced off against the Polish, the French, and the English. The Battle of Prague was close, with King Sulistryj II being injured in the battle. However, as he recovered, he learned that the Germans routed, and that the city of Prague surrendered to his forces. The Polish had won.
And so, a dragon rises from the ashes of the fox.
The Treaty of Prague (July 24th, 1255) led Kaizer George to concede the lands of Bohemia and Messien to King Sulistryj II, and that he would be recognized as the king of those lands. Pope Honorius II came to the city in August to crown King Sulistryj as the Emperor of the Wends.
Peace was not long, as the Emperor went to defeat the King of Galicia-Volhynia in the same year and made him swear fealty to his power as King.
For his act of uniting the Western Slavic kingdoms, Sulistryj began to be known as “The Wend”, and legends spread of his great victory. This followed him south toward Jerusalem during the 5th crusade as the Polish armies fought the Ayyubids, but ultimately saw defeat in the crusade.
In 1272, to consolidate his realm, Emperor Sulistryj subjugated Grandmaster Klukis ‘the Leper’ of the Teutonic Order and forced him to become a vassal.
The emperor in his old age.
The rest of Emperor Sulistryj’s reign was relatively peaceful. He was known for his pious works and had his chroniclers write “The History of the Wends” to solidify his dynasty’s power over the region. He also built many castles and hosted a grand tournament. The Duke of Frisia did try to kill the Emperor, as he once was the King of Bohemia before it was invaded. However, this was thwarted. His second eldest son, Dobrogost, would die of Smallpox in 1283. However, with the usage of primogeniture law (put into effect by decree of the emperor), succession remained safe.
Emperor Sulistryj would die in his sleep on the 10th of September, 1283. He had a long and successful reign, and would forever be immortalized as the Wendish King who reclaimed the ancestral lands of the Poles from the Germans.
And so, West-Slavia is born.
We end our chapter with a new house. The Renarts saw their last ruler in Otger II, leaving the dynasty in shambles. And though the new House of Glogow was born in the same treachery of the Fox of Renart, it would find itself becoming ferocious and noble through the reign of Emperor Sulistryj!
Emperor Sulistryj's rebranded CoA: \"As cunning as a fox, as fearsome as a dragon.\"
End of Part 2. The Renart dynasty currently holds many duchies within the HRE, but lost Zaphoriza. It remains it's most powerful in the West-Slavic Empire.
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2024.05.20 07:47 Short_Rough_3529 FMIL is very possessive ☠️

My future mother in law (FMIL) is in her late 60’s, my fiancé is 26, and I am 24. We were recently engaged and it’s really stirred up my anxiety and stress over my relationship with my FMIL.
So imma give you guys some information into my fiancé’s relationship with his mom. He is a only child, he was a twin at birth but his sibling did pass away at birth, and his mom also had one child forcibly adopted by her parents due to her being a young age at the time of birth. All that being said, she’s extremely attached to her son. I understand all of the trauma from all of those events as they are all rightfully crazy traumatic. Also her husband recently in the past few years, passed from Covid. I cannot imagine or fully comprehend myself all of the feelings she must have gone through and I just want to be super clear that I do understand it all and I am sensitive to it all.
With all this being said, fiancé and I have been together for three ish years. His relationship when it’s considered in just both of us, no one else involved, it’s great! Like the absolute love of my life, treats me like an absolute queen, and takes such care into our relationship and making sure it thrives. Now when we involve my family and my FMIL, it all legitimately goes to hell. My family is a lot, but through a lot of great therapy (Therapy helps y’all) I’ve worked hard to make it work and it be healthy relationships only. Now fiancé has never really had good relationships with his family. His dad really just worked his entire life, really had nothing to do with him until his adulthood. He worked nonstop. His mother also worked, legitimately nonstop. My fiancé was very neglected as a child, physically and mentally, and he still doesn’t fully understand it. Just as an example, he had never been to a doctor in his entire life. Even with broken bones😐. He was to just work through the pain and life with it. It was bad to say the least but what his parents really did get into his brain is that he will take care of his aging parents until the day that they are dead, even though they barely kept him alive. He still believes this, which has been the cause of a lot of fights as it really is starting to interfere with our relationship.
FMIL is struggling pretty bad with her mental health, and physical health. She does not believe in the medical system. She refuses it all. So she is not in the best shape, she lives alone as my fiancé has lived with me for a few years now, and she’s just not doing good mentally.
Now I know, I’m not asking my fiancé to cut communications outright, but in the past year I was made aware by phone records on our jointly phone bill of the amount that she was calling him. Mind you, we both have full time jobs, 40 hour weeks are our minimum and usually towards 50-60 hours. FMIL was calling my fiancé about 5-10 times a day ranging between 3min - 60min calls. It’s really all over the place. But my fiancé always finds the time in his day to answer her, whether at work or at home. This started to really interfere with our relationship, I mean she would almost always call during sex (fucking weird) or she would call every night, right as we were settling into our routine. Like I’m sorry, a text would suffice for bedtime, not a 30 min conversation every night about how her day was, arguing with him, shaming him, crying usually (I understand why she is sad, I am not okay that she refuses to do anything about it), and making a big deal while I lay in bed every night alone waiting. It was absurd and I did make a big deal about it, pointing it all out to him, as it was interfering with us, and it really did get better for a good 6mo or more, but now we are back to it except 1000 times worse. We will be in restaurants, in dinners with family and friends, in shops shopping together, she will call him and he will drop everything for the call and her. She is starting to have a lot more mental breakdowns about everything, that she does make all my fiancés responsibility to fix. He will never miss a call from her, and will never end a call early. They talk more than I really think as a couple, we do during the day sometimes with our hours. It’s just so hard. I want to spend time with my fiancé and not talk about his ridiculous mother’s current problems.
Fiancé does always wonder why I don’t want any part to do with FMIL, or to go do anything with her. In truth, she never stops complaining when we are together, she is so incredibly negative that it brings my spirit down so hard. She has also in the past made extremely hateful comments about me, she’s convinced I’m stealing him, and that he’ll never be hers again (very possessive). I do not feel comfortable being around her and it just sucks. I wanted a good FMIL relationship but I have tried for 3ish years and I just can’t. Is this something that I just need to wait it out, fight it, or morbidly just wait until she dies and I don’t have to deal with this. I know I accepted an engagement but I did not accept a relationship with his mother like this, and mentally I’m so over it, I don’t know what I can do in the situation other than give a choice to my fiancé of which one he’s going to prioritize and if it’s not me, then I’ve got to leave right? My parents, as narcissistic as they are, have seen all of this and have offered a safe place to live in the case of that.
Please give helpful advice, but please be kind lol I’m not mentally okay after dealing with all this and it’s really taking a toll.
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2024.05.20 07:42 harriskeith29 Darth Vader and the importance of self-forgiveness (fan analysis)

TLDR- The love & forgiveness of others alone wasn't enough for Anakin Skywalker to overcome Darth Vader & the Dark Side. The only way to let go of his hate, return to the Light Side, and finally find peace was by forgiving himself.
Star Wars: Darth Vader #5 by Greg Pak (2020)
From the moment he was first "consumed by Darth Vader", as Yoda put it, the greatest fundamental challenge for Anakin to return to the Light was never being forgiven by others. It wouldn't make enough difference if everyone he'd ever hurt or killed sincerely told him "I forgive you", if his mom appeared in a vision to console him, if Padme herself died still believing there was good in him, or even if his own son was willing to die believing there was good in him. Whatever they said or did wouldn't change his heart.
Star Wars: Darth Vader and the Lost Command #5 by W. Haden Blackman (2011)
The core of Vader's hatred and pain was never about needing or wanting others' forgiveness or remorse, which is a major reason why he stayed a devout Sith for so long. Because the Sith's strength in the Force comes from their emotions, that way of life became an outlet for him to continue living in the personal Hell that, deep down, he thought he deserved (since all he had left for so long were self-imposed negative emotions). He was his own worst judge & critic. It wouldn't matter how much he did to atone for his crimes (except perhaps to the victims & their loved ones) if he still held himself in nothing but contempt.
\"A Tear in the Dark\" by Luca Merli
In the Sith Lord's mind, even with all this power + the Empire's armies at his disposal, he felt like a failure who deserved his suffering. At every opportunity to repent, he chose to stay on the Sith's path because he didn't believe any other path was left to him. Quoting a review of the Star Wars: Darth Vader comics:
"The kyber crystal he’s trying to force into a Sith crystal, to crush its will beneath his own, fights back with throwing at him what Anakin Skywalker still wants to do, the right thing to do, saying that it’s still possible. It shows him that it’s still possible. But Vader refuses it. That path is no longer possible, it would go against everything he’s sacrificed to get where he is, his betrayal of the Jedi, his killing Padme (so he thinks), his turning his back on the Republic, the murders he’s committed, the monster he’s made himself, it would all have been for nothing if he turned back now. All he would have on that path is nothing, Vader thinks.
Never mind that he would have the right thing, never mind that Obi-Wan would see him as Anakin again and would have forgiven him, would have taken him back, never mind that he could have saved the galaxy from Sidious’ cruelty and horrors. Vader still forces himself to believe that all of that would be nothing. He has to keep moving forward, the sacrifices he made, the things he did and will do, have to be worth it, and that won’t happen on that other path. This new life is his only choice now. The only way out is through. This is all there is."
Star Wars: Darth Vader #25 by Kieron Gillen (2015)
Vader was dead set on forcing this path to be worth everything he'd lost. He didn't believe he deserved any better after all he'd done. He convinced himself Anakin symbolized weakness from a failed past, but one could also interpret that he believed (even if he wouldn't admit it to himself) he was unworthy of the name.
Star Wars: Darth Vader #24 by Kieron Gillen (2015)
Vader told Luke "There is no conflict. That name no longer has any meaning for me.", but the anger in his voice during this dialogue suggested otherwise. The name Anakin Skywalker simultaneously served as: A) A reminder of his failure to save those closest to him. B) A reminder of when he had family, friends, and so much in his life to be grateful for (in spite of hardships & losses) that he took for granted. Self-loathing was all he understood anymore, and it was that hate that helped give him so much power even with his injuries.
\"Lord Vader's Persuasion of the Outer Rim Planets to Join the Empire\" by Dave Dorman
The only way Anakin could find his way back to the Light, even for just one final self-sacrificial act, was to receive forgiveness from the most important person, the one at the root of his decades of hatred... HIMSELF. As long as that self-hatred continued fueling his immersion in the Dark Side, nobody could reach him regardless of who they were or how they approached the situation. Even when his inner conflict started to emerge thanks to Luke's influence, he still believed it was "too late" for him to turn back or be anything else. Becoming Vader was a Hell of his own making and a prison he'd always had the means to leave. He just wasn't willing to pay the price for unlocking the cell.
Star Wars: Darth Vader #1 by Charles Soule (2017)
He couldn't bear the thought of going back to the path of the Light when his most defining memory of being on it was when he betrayed everything/everyone that life had given him. For all these years, he adamantly believed he could have saved everyone if only he'd been stronger. If only he hadn't allowed the Jedi's dogma to hold him back from his full potential. That ambition led to him losing Padme. He may have even believed in some warped way that turning Luke (and/or Leia) to the Dark would allow them to be a family again.
Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back (1980)
Even if Luke killed Vader to take his place at Palpatine's side, they'd still be connected in that they'd be links in the chain of Sith history + legacy. It was only in the moment of seeing Luke about to be killed that Anakin finally broke through, screaming in the man's mind "ENOUGH! It's time to LET GO! Let go of the past, let go of your hate (echoing Luke)! Your family needs you! Your son needs you! He is the best of you and his mother! You're RIGHT HERE! You can make a different choice this time. It's NOT too late! You can still SAVE HIM! SAVE HIM!!!!!"
\"Padme's Faith Rewarded\" by Jokerisdaking
And so, at the cost of his life, he did. When Luke said "I'll not leave you here. I've got to save you." and his father replied "You already have. You were right about me.", Anakin was implying that Luke was right about letting go of hate. That would only be possible to do if Anakin forgave himself. THAT'S how he was able to die, ascend, and reemerge as a Force Ghost. THAT was the most vital step from the start to his redemption.
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By accepting everything that had happened on his journey, acknowledging that the direction he went was wrong, realizing it was ultimately his own choice even when accounting for Palpatine's influence, and no longer letting his negative feelings hold him down, he'd finally achieved peace with himself and the Force.
Star Wars Episode VI: Return of the Jedi (1983)
Edit: Vader may have already been planning to betray the Emperor, but it's WHY he did it that makes his redemption important. A Sith would kill his master for power, dominance, and succession. Anakin did it only to save his child. If he'd killed Palpatine while still consumed by Vader, Luke may have been saved but Anakin would still be gone. It would have been a victory for the Rebellion but a failure to save Anakin's soul.
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2024.05.20 07:36 mcruzsmith AITA For telling my aunt my mom can kiss my @$$ for not wishing her a happy Mother's day.

I 44f have 4 brothers, Juan 46, Jesus 42, Adrian 32, and Jorge 27. I have a very difficult and very distant relationship with my mother. My father and I are very close. I was always the runt. My mother told me several time how much she hated me. It was my fault she had to get married (she got knocked up with me), after several failed attempts to abort me. After she had me and doctors said "it's a girl" she cried and hated me more, because she never wanted daughters. She would also tell me she loved Jesus more than any of us because she suffered more while pregnant with him. I was around 7 or 8 at this time. Adrian and Jorge were both planned after my father wanted another daughter. When they both came out to be boys, she abandoned them and left me to care for them. So at the age of 14, I had became full time mom to a kid that wasn't mine. When Jorge came around she abandoned him too, I was 16. It got too hard to raise 2 kids, be a full time mom, student, and hold a job at the age of 16, so I dropped out of high school. When I was 16, I started dating my now husband, which I knew from high school and was my neighbor, we weren't close and didn't really talk because of how crazy my life was. He was 4 yrs older than me. When we started dating, he thought my little brothers were my kids and he had a 6 month old himself. Fast forward a decade later, my father retired from the military and he finds out what is really going on at home, and my parents divorced. I know have help from my father and husband. Then I get pregnant with my first kid at age 18. My husband and I move in together and married 4 yrs later. We have 2 more kids. By age 24 I have 6 kids. Now my kids are grown adults and living their life. Come October 2023 my older brother Juan is granted full custody of my brother Jesus's new born and February 2024 I'm granted temporary custody of Jesus's other son 8yr and daughter 7yr. Juan and I are close and he helps me when I need a babysitter. My husband and I work 2 jobs to pay for loans we took out for home upgrades. Yesterday was one of my cousins wedding. This morning a few family members and I went to my mom's house for breakfast, when my aunt, who was like a mother to me and my godmother, pulled me aside and told me my mom was really upset with me for not calling her for mothers day or making an effort to rebuild our relationship. She also didn't like who stern I am with my niece and nephew and need to change my parenting style. She said maybe my mom is ready to change and she may want to rebuild the relationship, but the decision will always be mine to make. That's when I said she can kiss it. And not long after that we all left. That's just the snap things my mom has done to me. AITA?
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2024.05.20 07:23 Salt_Slip_3186 Tired of judgmental very opinionated family members.

So I have 3 boys in all & the youngest 2 are biracial & they have BEAUTIFUL curly hair. My 2 year old absolutely HATES getting his hair done or even someone atleast running their hands through it, he will scream. However, I don’t have any issues with it I remember very well on how it feels to get your hair done as a child so it takes some getting used to. Well, my sister & mother thinks otherwise. EVERYTIME I see them, they’re always saying how I NEED to cut their hair constantly sending me kids haircut styles shit like that. My sister is the most outspoken, judgmental, opinionated woman I’ve ever met & no exaggeration, EVERYTIME she sees my children the FIRST thing that comes out of her mouth is I need to cut it. Today, we were at a bbq at my moms house & I walked in, set the babies down on the couch and the first thing she says after looking at my 2 year old is “ugh why is everybody growing their boys hair out” mind you, my sons hair is freshly / neatly braided so it’s not like it was a mess all over the place. I avoid conflict at my mom’s house out of respect for her, so I just kept my comments to myself and ignored her. As the day goes on blah blah blah, dinner time comes and my son is exhausted after being in church all morning & hasn’t had a nap so he’s crying and I’m trying to figure out why & I hear her & her husband conversation in the living room saying “ yeah we can leave after this I’m not trying to listen to that” so I told them I’ll do it for them. I packed up mine & my son’s dinner, and left instantly. I’m so tired of just being “used to it”. I’m the black sheep of the family so it’s pretty normal to get shit on or talked about or judged. Idk what to do in this situation. OH & she had the nerve to send me a tik tok after I got home of a child’s haircut! I want to respond and go tf off but I’m trying to keep it adult 🙄 ok rant over thanks for listening to my Ted talk 😂😂😂
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2024.05.20 07:17 PaleontologistNeat11 [CA] Mother withholding for 3 months now.

Mother withholding son for 3 months now
Following up on my previous post from a few weeks back.
Mother has been withholding since February 27th, my son was both January 12th of this year.
I have seen him atleast 20 times in the first 6 weeks at MY house.
She charged me on the 27th of February with uttering threats and assault dating may 2023 and has withheld ever since.
We now have a CPS report concluded that says there is NO risk to the child, we have 8+ emails of my family lawyer asking her for any form of access, one of which being at a public mall with my parents AND any 3rd party of her choice for 30 minutes, all of which she’s ignored until we sent out a recent email with the CPS report attached to which she replied that the report was only closed because our child is in her possession permanently and that she refuses any form of access outside of a child supervised center which currently has an 11 month wait time.
She has continually refused to be reasonable in any facet, she had absolutely ZERO concerns the first 6 weeks of our child’s life and the CPS report now confirms there is no risk.
Generally speaking how does a judge view this kind of thing and how realistic given the 3 months of reasonable negotiations is it that lawyer costs could be sought against her?
Me and my family lawyer are filing paperwork this week for emergency temporary motion.
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2024.05.20 07:14 PaleontologistNeat11 Mother withholding son for 3 months now

Following up on my previous post from a few weeks back.
Mother has been withholding since February 27th, my son was both January 12th of this year.
I have seen him atleast 20 times in the first 6 weeks at MY house.
She charged me on the 27th of February with uttering threats and assault dating may 2023 and has withheld ever since.
We now have a CPS report concluded that says there is NO risk to the child, we have 8+ emails of my family lawyer asking her for any form of access, one of which being at a public mall with my parents AND any 3rd party of her choice for 30 minutes, all of which she’s ignored until we sent out a recent email with the CPS report attached to which she replied that the report was only closed because our child is in her possession permanently and that she refuses any form of access outside of a child supervised center which currently has an 11 month wait time.
She has continually refused to be reasonable in any facet, she had absolutely ZERO concerns the first 6 weeks of our child’s life and the CPS report now confirms there is no risk.
Generally speaking how does a judge view this kind of thing and how realistic given the 3 months of reasonable negotiations is it that lawyer costs could be sought against her?
Me and my family lawyer are filing paperwork this week for emergency temporary motion.
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2024.05.20 07:12 Extra-Current-1735 HJ

Is HJ really that far behind? I wonder why Nika hasn’t gone to jail or court for truancy. You can tell those kids miss a lot of school, I doubt HJ was held back so many times JUST bc of his grades. In Texas they’re quick to send a letter to your parent and have them show up for court, and if the kid still doesn’t start showing up more for school the parent gets a fine and then jail. Also, I wonder why they don’t put him in the correct grade, but just have him in special ed classes if he really is remedial, or have like an IEP set up for him. Idk I just don’t see the point in the school having him in the same class around 7/8 year olds at 11 years old.
If he really is that far behind, I can honestly see why he skips school. He’s already got a neglectful mother who sends him to school w unkept hair, dirty clothes, and bad hygiene, but he also has classmates his age who see him having to be with the younger kids, so they probably bully him a lot. All of them kids probably get bullied bad, especially w how much Nika puts on the internet.
That’s probably why he looks up to Papa and hangs around him and his friends bc around them he feels older and more accepted. It’s just sad bc he’s going down a dark path and Nika is encouraging it. Instead of helping her son get to where he needs to be and ensuring he feels good about himself, she ignores him and probably puts him down. I feel bad for all the kids, but I’ve been finding myself feeling bad for HJ the most lately (besides Sy of course).
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2024.05.20 07:05 LucyAriaRose Conclusion 10 months later: AITA for breaking my fiancé's family tradition by naming my son what I wanted?

I am STILL NOT the Original Poster. That is still . She posted in and .
You can read the previous BORU's here and here. New Update marked with ****\* Thanks to u/Choice_Evidence1983 and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for letting me know!
Trigger Warning: brief mention of murder
Mood Spoiler: happy ending
Original Post: April 16, 2023
Throwaway because I have in-laws on Reddit.
Myself (25F) and my fiancé (27M) have a 2 month old son. We are overjoyed at being parents, but most of my in-laws are refusing to even see our baby because of a decision we made concerning his name.
My in-laws have a tradition of giving the first-born son of every generation the same name. Let's say it's "Peter". This has been going on for about seven generations already, and they're very serious about it. My fiancé's eldest cousin was the latest person to get named Peter. Every one of his cousins has only had daughters so far, so our baby is the first son of his generation, and consequently should get the name.
I have no problem with the name Peter, and would've been okay with naming my son that. Unfortunately, that was also the name of my uncle, who died before I was born. I won't get into details, but it was tragic and traumatizing for my family. My father never got over losing his younger brother.
My grandmother asked the family not to name any of our future children Peter during her lifetime. My MIL and FIL knew about this promise, and at first seemed to not only be okay with us avoiding the name Peter, but also supportive of the one we chose.
However, my grandmother sadly passed away when I was 7 months pregnant. We traveled for her funeral. On our last days there, my in-laws called to offer me their condolences. Then my MIL asked me if I was willing to "think about the name Peter now."
Suddenly, they were insistent that the name we chose was awful and we had to honor their tradition. According to them, they had only agreed to make an exception for us for my grandmother's sake, and had no obligation to keep it now that she had passed.
My family agrees that while it's true we don't have to avoid the name anymore, it still doesn't feel right to use it. My fiancé agrees with me as well, but his parents spent the last weeks of my pregnancy trying to convince us to change our minds about the name.
When our baby was born and we named him what we wanted, my in-laws were furious that we had broken a 7-generation-old family tradition. Some of them hadn't previously wanted to name their sons Peter, but did it anyway for the family's sake. They said our decision was selfish, and that my family "should have moved on by now."
This has truly nothing to do with whether my family has moved on or not, it just felt like a betrayal to my grandmother and uncle's memories to even consider using the name.
My FIL offered us $1000 to change our son's name to Peter after he was born. That was two months ago, and neither of my fiancé's parents have met the baby or seen us since I was pregnant. Most of my in-laws are on their side, and this is causing a huge rift between my fiancé and his family. He assures me he's fine, but I'm starting to feel really guilty about this.
AITA?
EDIT: The tradition started, as far as I know, when OG Peter died and his son, also named Peter, named his firstborn after his father. Peter III ended up having the first son of the following generation, and did the same thing. That one died before having children, so his sister gave the name to her son, and so on. The name “Peter” is very common in my country, so none of them ever got bullied over it, and the fact that it was also my uncle’s name isn’t as unlikely as one might think.
Also, middle names aren’t used in my country. Most people get the maternal surname before the paternal one instead.
EDIT 2: It wasn't 1000 dollars. Different country, different currency. It's still a lot of money, but would probably translate to about 200 USD.
Relevant Comments:
Can you use Peter as a middle name?"
Our country/culture doesn't generally use middle names. If we did, I'd be willing to think about that, even though my son's name doesn't match "Peter"."
How many Peters are alive right now in your family???"
There are 3 living "Peters" in the family right now. Only the eldest (my fiancé's great uncle) actually goes by Peter. The other two have nicknames ("Pete", "Petey", etc)."
OOP is voted NTA
Update Post: May 24, 2023 (a bit over 1 month later)
(OOP's post was removed from AITA, and reposted on her profile. I'm using the date of the AITA post. Comments are also from AITA)
I posted this on AITA, but it got removed about an hour ago because I mentioned a violent encounter on an edit. I tried editing it out and getting it back up, but it didn't work. I'm posting here in case anyone still wants to read it.
Original
Thank you so much to everyone who commented and offered support. A lot has happened since I posted, so I thought I'd give you an update.
About a week after my post, my fiancé's parents contacted us. They apologized for their behavior, and begged to meet my son. They said they were ready to leave the naming debacle behind and truly wanted to be involved in their grandson's life.
We were skeptical, but invited them over to meet the baby. The visit went well. They began coming over almost every day during the next three weeks. I noticed neither of them ever called my son by his name, but I didn't point it out. For the first time in months, things seemed good between my fiancé and his parents.
One day, my fiancé was helping my FIL with something at our place, so my MIL and I went to the park with my baby. Some time later, I had to go to the bathroom, so I left him in the stroller with her.
When I got back, she was sitting on a park bench, chatting with a woman who was cooing over my son. I went over there and introduced myself as "(son's name)'s mom", and she said, "I thought his name was Peter."
I didn't say a word, and neither did my MIL. She followed me to the car and we went back to my apartment. On the way there, I texted my fiancé about what had happened. The moment we got there, he kicked both his parents out of our place.
He'd read my texts and confronted his father. Thankfully, my FIL is a terrible liar, and confessed immediately. Apparently, both my in-laws ONLY call my son Peter. That includes whenever they're talking about him, every time they introduce him to someone else, and even baby-talking to him on the few occasions they were left alone with him. Neither of them are embarrassed by this, and they both think they're in the right.
We're heartbroken. Especially my fiancé. Not only because his parents can't let go of their pride, but also because the name we chose for our son means a lot to us both.
I blame myself for encouraging my fiancé to allow them near our son. I was raised in a different city than all my grandparents, and always wished they could have been more involved in my life. Losing my grandmother didn't help. Pretty much every doubt I had only existed because I thought it would be important for my son to grow up with all of his grandparents around.
But now, all my guilt is gone. If they can't respect my son enough to call him by his name, they don't deserve to be in his life.
I hope they enjoyed the three weeks they had with their grandson. Because that's all they're getting until they get their heads out of their asses.
EDIT: I thought I'd clarify some things. First of all, I'm not comfortable sharing my son's name here, but I promise it's not a "yooneek" name or anything like that. It's perfectly normal and popular-ish in our country.
Secondly, I mentioned this in the comments, but while my family didn't try to dictate me on my son's name, they would never be comfortable with it. My uncle Peter passed almost three decades ago, but it forever changed everyone who knew him. My grandmother's wish might seem a bit irrational, but it was motivated entirely by grief and it didn't seem right to disrespect that just because she's not around anymore.
And to whoever PM'd me that my fiancé's only on my side to keep the peace, he didn't want to use the name either. Months before I got pregnant, he told me he hoped one of his cousins would have a son before we did, because he always hated the tradition and sympathized with my family. He's just as angry at his parents as I am, if not more. Also, most of his cousins and some other relatives have come around and apologized.
Relevant Comments:
Are they this unhinged in other areas of your life too?"
According to my fiancé, they've always been a little entitled, but I never really saw them enough to be able to say that. I will say that, though they were polite, they very clearly didn't care about me until we moved in together. My MIL pretended not to remember my name every time she saw me, and my FIL would lose interest in any conversations that weren't about him. Once it was clear me and my fiancé were in for long term, they started acting a lot more friendly towards me, but it never seemed sincere."
Have other family members come around yet?"
Most of my fiancé's cousins have come around, and his brother was always on our side. His grandmother and some of his aunts and uncles are with us too. His grandfather (divorced from his grandmother), two out of three living Peters (the two oldest) and pretty much everyone else are either still mad at us or haven't reached out to talk about it yet.
My entire family is on my side. They promised not to interfere in the naming process, but are relieved we didn't name him Peter."
One more note on the $1000 offered in the first post:
"And that's $1000 in MY country's currency. It roughly translates to $200USD." (note- OOP clarifies in a comment that she is Brazilian)
OOP drops this horrible bombshell about her uncle, the one who died before she was born:
"My uncle was murdered. My grandmother's request was motivated by trauma."
"Again; my family would be mostly fine with naming my son Peter. My dad and my aunt might have been uncomfortable, and my grandmother asked us all not to do so, but I wouldn't have been disowned if I had. It simply felt disrespectful, especially since my grandmother passed shortly before my son was born.
My uncle's death was traumatic for my family, but the name Peter is hugely common in my country."
Update Post 2: July 28, 2023 (3 months from first post)
My son is now 5 months old (almost six!). We're still NC with my fiancé's parents, who haven't seen us since May. We've both blocked them everywhere. His relatives who were on our side still are, and most of the ones who weren't haven't come around. If anything, they're even more pissed now.
I remember someone suggesting that my fiancé's family might stop using the name after we decided not to. Well, you were right. Last week, one of my fiancé's cousins announced she was pregnant with a boy. She included her baby's name in the announcement, and it's not Peter.
What followed was a string of aggressive Instagram DMs from both MIL and FIL. They both created accounts for the sole purpose of contacting me. I didn't see them until two days later. They sent me almost an hour worth of voice messages about how I'd "ruined their family".
They wish their son had never met me, that he'd see me for "who I truly am", and that I'd never gotten pregnant. Many of the messages ended with "I hope you're happy now", as if they thought they were getting the last word, only to think of something else they wanted to say. There was name calling, an accusation of me cheating, and the persistent refusal to refer to my son as their grandchild.
My fiancé and I listened to the messages together. He hadn't gotten any. As much as I tried to distance myself, I was in tears by the time it was all done. I still don't regret anything, specially after the stunt they pulled back in May, but I'm not completely free of the guilt yet. Not to mention their complete disregard for their grandson. I was already having an overwhelming week, and this just seemed like the final straw.
I must have spent close to an hour sobbing in my fiancé's arms. Once I was calmer, he unblocked his parents just to scream at them for a while. I only heard his side of the conversation, but it was more than enough. He finished the call by saying he didn't want to hear from them again.
We had a long talk afterwards. My fiancé opened up about the emotional blackmail by his family before and after my pregnancy. My in-laws were close to threatening him with anything they could if we didn't name our son Peter. I told him about my guilt, and how awful I feel for putting him through this. We reassured each other, cried a bit more, and had a mostly pleasant evening with our baby.
We contacted his cousin. The family is giving her shit for breaking the tradition again. They're being way less aggressive though, and I think many of my in-laws are finally learning to let go. We're not expecting any apologies anytime soon, but we'll be glad if they come.
Our wedding will be in September 2024, and whoever doesn't give us a sincere apology until then is uninvited. My fiancé's parents are banned either way. We came to that decision together.
Also, I'd like to address some comments on my previous update about how I was "letting my family's trauma win", or how the name wouldn't be hurtful now that my grandmother has passed.
I can't stress enough the damage my uncle's death caused. He was only 30 years old. He had a fiancée, a great career and his whole life ahead of him. I don't know many details about what happened, because I didn't want to upset my family by asking. My grandmother wasn't the only person hurt by this, my entire paternal family was. And if I remember correctly, the person responsible isn't even in jail anymore. It was more than 20 years ago, but the wound never truly closed.
So yeah, I think it's safe to say the tradition is over. The next Not-Peter will be here in January, right before my son's first birthday. It was never my intention for this to turn into such a shitstorm, but I'm so incredibly proud of my little family.
Thank you so much to everyone who shared their stories and offered advice during these last few months. I'll be forever grateful for all the support I got from y'all.
*****New Update Post: May 13, 2024 (13 months from OG post, about 10 from last post)****\*
Hey everyone, it's been a while. I hope you guys had a great Mother's Day!
I remember that last year, I promised myself I'd write a final update as soon as I felt calmer or felt the situation was closer to being solved. That actually happened months ago, but I've been busy lately.
Following my previous update, my fiancé's side of the family remained upset about the tradition being over for a few more months. They were way less intense about it, specially with the pregnant cousin I mentioned, but it was still evident.
That cousin's Not-Peter (almost a year later, I still can't think of a better term) was born in January. Our son turned one the next month. I think the fact that these two things happened so close together helped many of my in-laws let go of the tradition.
We got a few apologies we weren't expecting. Some of them were sincere enough that we slowly started reestablishing contact.
My fiancé's parents were not among those who apologized. We haven't spoken to either of them since last July. From what I've heard from some of his other relatives, however, MIL seems regretful. She has told some of them that she wishes she could be part of her grandson's life, and wonders if making his name a hill to die on was a bad decision. FIL, from what I gather, barely acknowledges my baby exists.
My fiancé knows about how his mother feels, but he says he doesn't care. And even if we did get an apology, I don't think either of us can forgive his parents. As much as we're mostly okay now, it sometimes feels like their treatment of our family ruined the first few months of our baby's life. I know that's not actually true, but I don't want them around my child.
Besides all that, things have been great. My son is 15 months old now, which I don't think I'll ever really get used to. He recently started drawing and has been expanding his vocabulary. He said "mamãe" first, by the way.
My fiancé and I are still getting married in September. We're thinking about moving abroad in a couple years (for work reasons), but we're not sure yet. We also recently got a dog (sadly, we didn't name him Peter).
This will be my final update. Whatever guilt I had about this situation a year ago is completely gone, and my life has been peaceful enough that it feels safe to say the shitshow is over.
Hugo, if you ever find this, you are the most fantastic thing that has ever happened to us. Thank you for letting me be your mom.
Thank you, Reddit, for all the love, advice and support you've given me this past year.
Relevant Comment:
Commenter: Whilst this may be your final update on the naming sage, you said you are getting married in September 2024 and MiL&FiL aren't going to be invited.
Prepare for more craziness from them at that time and good luck :)
OOP: I really do think this is over. My fiancé's parents don't know when or where we're getting married, so I'm not worried about them showing up. They haven't reached out to us in months, and we have no interest in contacting them.
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2024.05.20 07:03 Dangeroyce Another photo of Alinchik’s son.

Another photo of Alinchik’s son.
95% sure it’s Balds. They were together for years and last video together was in July 2022. Unless she got pregnant with another man she met between July and January 2023, it’s gotta be Balds son. Photos from her mother’s Facebook.
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2024.05.20 07:02 SharkEva [New Update] - My son filed harassment charges against me and my husband because we were making him go to college

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/MentalPlatypus5193 posting in amiwrong
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Thanks to u/colorsofautomn for finding this BORU
Original - 28th April 2024
Update1 - 10th May 2024

1 New Update
Update2 - - 18th May 2024

My son [19M] filed harassment charges against me and my husband because we were making him go to college

Me and my son moved to US last year. I was a single mom for 16 yrs before I met and then married my husband. I saved up money so he can go to college. Where I came from, college is very important. We moved to a small town and my son found new friends. These friends in my opinion were not a good influence. I am used to polite and academically oriented kids back home. These new friends of his make fun of his books and his plans of going to college.
Before his HS graduation, me and my husband took him to several unis in the state so he could get a feel for which one he would like to go to. Then after he graduated from HS, I told him I have about $20k saved up for college. He said it is not going to fit because tuition is pretty expensive nowadays. I suggested he can just go to a community college 20 mins away and live at home to save money. He agreed and I gave him access to the fund (joint account).
Long story short, he did not enroll himself and instead started partying a lot and used the money on expensive dates with his gf. He moved out and stopped talking to me. I worked hard to save that up for more than a decade and I am upset that he wasted it in less than a year. Me and my husband went to his place and asked that he pay me back since it is specifically for college and not "fun money".
He called the police and filed harassment charges. I told the police to review the cctv footage because the whole time I was talking to him through his ring cam, I was calm and reasonable and my husband was just standing behind me not saying anything. I was outside the door talking, he never even opened the door to talk to me face to face. The police said there's nothing he can do if my son and his gf felt "harassed", he can file a restraining order if he wants to.
Back home, this is unforgivable to treat your parent like this. But here in US, I was treated almost like a criminal. My sister in law said it is my fault for confronting him and that the money is his to spend since I made him a joint account owner. Am I wrong?
Edit: People cursing me because I said something about wanting to throw my chancla on my son's face, to be clear I have never laid my hands or my flip flops on him ever. But after what he did, my intrusive thoughts wants me to throw it but of course I won't. If he called the cops on me just because I want to talk to him, what more if I threw my flip flops on his face??
His relationship with me before moving to US was fine. He knew my struggle as a single mom and he always try to help me around the house. I was not strict at all he was free to go out with friends anytime. He was even thrilled to have a father figure and my husband always try to make him feel included in everything.

Comments

ManufacturerAny835
Lesson learned never give someone access to money unless you’re ok with them running away with it
OOP: He was a good boy before moving here. I thought he knew my struggles and how much I sacrificed to save money. I just thought he would never betray me like this.

dingdongsbtchs
Honestly I think a lot of parents don’t realize the depth of their children and forget that just because you think of them as one way doesn’t mean they don’t have other layers that can make them a different person. Sadly your son has found some less than savory friends to surround himself with and now he has to live with the decision he made. I honestly wouldn’t offer help for university again and would leave communication up to him. Also has there been any questions or discussion of potential drug use??

2workigo
The money is gone. And since he was a joint account holder and a legal adult, there’s nothing to be done except refuse to help him financially anymore. Let him figure it out on his own from now on. The friends he had will likely drift away now that he no longer has a fat bank account to fund their party lifestyle.

Treacle_Moon
Her biggest fault is waiting till it was all gone to do something about it. She had joint access. She could have stepped in long before now and tried to deal with it. Too little too late unfortunately.

Update - 12 days later

I still have not heard from my son and I don't expect him to reach out. But his gf's mother has called me asking if my house is still open to him. I asked her why, it turns out he hasn't paid his share of the last month's rent and his gf had to pay it for him.
I said it is not my problem and he is not welcome anymore in my house since he is an adult. The gf's mom said "what kind of mother would not extend help to his teenage son?". She further insulted me and said now she knows why he left me.
At this point I really don't care anymore. I tried to help him get a good start in life but he wasted it. Aside from the $20k, he lived rent free in the house, free food, free phone, car, gas money, and I pay all the utility bills and his health insurance. All I asked is that he focus on his studies. Finish at least an associate's degree so he can get a decent job and be fully independent from me asap.
For some who asked why college is so important to me, as an immigrant, we are held under certain standards. We have to prove to USCIS that we will not become a public charge -- meaning we won't rely on any government aid. I want him to be able to be a good immigrant and become productive. I don't even know if he can become a citizen if he makes below poverty income. I was just trying to make sure he gets to live a good life.
Some of you asked if he even wanted go to to college. Back when we were in our home country, he begged me to pls send him to college no matter what.
P.S. The harassment charge was closed for lack of evidence of harassment, a lot of what he said were lies.
Edit: Another thing that gave me chills was when he moved out it was the middle of the night and me and my husband were both asleep. My son left the front door hanging open (I saw it in the camera). We live in a small town but there's a lot of crime in our area, someone could have gone in and done something bad.

Comments

bluedreamer62
Some people just have to learn the hard way, his gf probably had a good time with him spending his college fund now 5hat it’s gone the fun is over. So comes the reality.

PoliteCanadian2
So you’re saying this is the Find Out stage that follows the Fuck Around stage?

Sharp_Mathematician6
Yep

SnooWords4839
His GF's mom has no right to bitch you out. Your son left, spend his college fund and now has to figure out how to adult. You do not owe him anything at this point.

ladyalcove
She's just calling her out because she's realizing that now she has to take care of this bum.

butterfly-garden
Yup. She, too, is in the Find Out stage.

** New Update*\*


Update 2 - 8 days later

His girlfriend's mom called me again today and basically handed the phone to my son to "sort it out between us". I let him just talk and tell me what is on his mind. Here's a summary of his point of view:
So basically he felt deprived as a kid and that he thinks he was just healing his inner child when he spent the money. He said his friends told him I owe that to him for bringing him to this world. He thinks that I should not have a child if I can't afford these things.
I asked him why he left the door open that night. He went silent for a few seconds then said "I just thought that if the house get robbed, I could just say I cashed the money from the bank and the robbers must have found it". Unbelievable.
At this point I was so emotional and I was a crying mess. I told him I am deeply sorry that I was his mom and that he had to grow up feeling deprived because I was poor. Then he said "Oh stop with your guilt tripping, you are saying that to make me feel bad.
Oh and he also said he hates it when I do this. I don't yell like that lady but I pretty much bug him to get up and help me set the table. I never get a response so I had to raise my voice higher. He said I was so rude. But he grew up with this. This is me being me. All moms back home do this. Al of a sudden he is comparing me to his mom's friends. In our culture we want food to be eaten while it is fresh from the stove. I spent 1 hr cooking after a long day at work, the least you can do is help me set the table and eat my food while it's nice and warm.
I hung up. My heart is broken in so much pieces. Am I wrong?

Comments

Whitewitchie
He has a chip on both shoulders. Leave him be. It's despicable he left the door open so you were vulnerable to burglars. Absolutely no consideration for your safety at all.

Mtndrums
Dude's a spoiled brat, and an idiot to not see his "friends" were using him. You need to cut him off and let him figure things out.
dublos
Not spoiled. Mom could not spoil him.
Entitled.
This child believes he's entitled to the same things his friends grew up with, even though his parents provided the best they could provide.
u/MentalPlatypus5193 your son has made his bed. Let him sleep in it.

I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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2024.05.20 07:01 abjinternational Kylie Jenner gets emotional while having a fun mother-son day with 2-year-old Aire at monster truck show in Los Angeles

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2024.05.20 06:58 SincerelyMissSin Ma was it all a lie

We were best friends up until I turned 15. I was your confidante, your protector, your therapist. We were so close. You told me everything. Despite how you smothered my brother with hugs and kisses and say he was the only boy of a Latin mother over and Over. Despite you always seeming annoyed with me. We used to watch lifetime movies together and you'd tell me about your life. I didn't notice how you'd expect me to sacrifice so you didn't have to be uncomfortably I didn't understand why you'd like to pick on me
When I was a week from being 15 you told me we were moving to California so you could be with the man you had been talking on the phone to. I knew of him. You had a crush on him in high school. But you were telling me you were going to marry this guy. I was asking you why? You didn't answer me. I asked, jokingly, if your new man was going to give me a birthday present since you were I don't know uprooting our lives. You told me that him marrying you was the the greatest gift he could give me.
Ma, as soon as we got to California you didn't need me anymore. Gone were the long talks, gone were the lifetime movies gone was our friendship as you and your man were newlyweds. You and him disappeared into your own little world, whilst my brother had your man's father as companionship. I became alone. T your new man's father hated my guts on sight. And would make it very known that he did. You told me to be the bigger person ask for forgiveness try to be better until T went after your son. When it came to me I was always the one you sacrificed and I was willing to do it cause I loved you so much
We moved again 5 months later, you were pregnant with his kid. We moved to Pennsylvania after you grounded me for my grades slipping. Indefinitely you told me. I was grounded from wearing my usual clothes. Band shirts and jeans. You had me in cleavage bearing stuff that were girly, stuff you'd like. We lived in a hotel room for 3 months. You and your man hastily planned this move a week after telling me. I was depressed you were in love. You told me you didn't know me anymore and why couldn't I be happy for you like my brother
Fast forward a couple months. I'm in isolation none of you will talk to me, I'm being punished it's been a month and a half for calling your man a fucker in an email to a friend. I'm not allowed at the dinner table anymore, not allowed to eat unless I ask. The worst thing for me is thet you burned my band shirts. Even the Floyd one I loved the most, you burned them and my journals. And you and your man called me a sociopath because I cared more about my stuff then calling your man a fucker in an email shortly after we moved to California I was also grounded from listening to music Indefinitely because you were Christian now and my music didn't edify the lord
I was blamed for everything, told that it was me who had to change, doped on geodon berated every chance yall got. You beat the crap out of me after I turned 16. Forced me into a drug test when i was 17 Threw me hand cuffed in a closet when I was 18. Amongst all the times you and the family berated me and mocked me and screamed at me in what I call M bashed and more isolation and more privileges taken away Indefinitely. Or that time you told the guy I liked how I felt because I told him how your husband told me to cut myself to the bone
You and your husband loved to remind me of my parentage. You especially told me to never have children because they'd be like my father, you also told me that because of my father I had to always fight the evil side in me no matter what. My brother didn't have to but I did. Because i was like him
I took your word as gospel ma, was it all a lie. Was your " love " for me a lie? I worshipped the ground you walked on for so long. I was the perfect mirror now I don't know who I am. So please ma tell me was everything a lie
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