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Just talking through everything on my mind. As said in the title: it’s my first time tm I’m hooking up w a guy for a while. My last time kinda blurred the line between consensual and not and I just wanted to take a break from it all for a bit. idk i could’ve left so I would not say like rape or anything but maybe I was pressured a bit. In general, I tend to really overthink things and sometimes I end up making incredibly wrong conclusions. So just comment whatever stands out here since I don’t talk too much about my gay life w anyone.
I just get really excited and fixate on dudes often but it never amounts to anything. I mean seriously I see a guy w a nice smile and a kinda dominant personality and I just get attached so easily. And idk I just don’t see any flaws he’s just absolutely perfect. And I just wanna do whatever he tells me and be perfect for him. I just really want him to hold me and I just wanna kiss him.
I really have trouble making friends w straight dudes cause I have zero intentions of coming onto them. Seriously, I need a dude into me for there to be chemistry. but I still get so insecure about not being enough. And I just see zero flaws in the people (even girls) I try to be friends with in the same way w dudes I get massive crushes on. Honestly, I asked a straight friend of mine today if he wanted to do a biking trail w me. We’ve texted a bit. We’ve never really hung out like that and ik he interpreted it as me asking him out. He left my message on read. What’s straighter than biking? And w straight girls they just try to put me in a box of “gay best friend” and I just don’t play that part very welll. I don’t think I’ve had too many real friends since coming out.
Grindrs been a nightmare. So many stalkers and dudes making new accounts to try to trick me into coming over. And then some dude tried to like murder me and since then I want to talk extensively to people to really get the vibe.
But this dude I’m seeing tomorrow I’ve kinda seen around before and he’s just so dreamy. I totally trust him he’s super nice to me whenever we talk and he just talks in a way where you can tell he’s super secure and intelligent. Ugh and perfect hair, perfect face, perfect body, perfect dick. I really really like him.
And idk if I was straight how much I would pull. But since I’m gay my whole look really fits that twink / twunk category. I used to be a gymnast. But I’m really fucking cute and my body is rocking but I can’t keep a guy so it’s definitely a personality issue. Maybe not a lot of guys my age looking for a relationship when they can sleep around instead. I’ll chat w dudes from dating apps and rarely make it to a first date and never a second. I don’t have any perception on how masc/fem I am but I’ve definitely disappointed dudes for not being enough of either.
The day before I hook up with a dude I just need everything about myself to be perfect. so I always spend like 2+ hours shaving. And I try to fix up my face and everything. Do my hair. Fast for 24 hrs. Maybe I might eat like a carrot or two.
and I kinda have the worst gag reflex. I think it’s an ego boost if I got half their dick in my mouth and I’m gagging anyway. but the night before I’ll spend all night just working on that. give a nice long bj and choke myself out w a banana or smth (and I think it really makes me better the next day). I’ve grown to really like giving bjs.
But douching just really hurts me. Idk why. But I put it in and I’m just immediately doubled over on the ground in pain. and I wait. And I push out. And even tho I’ve been fasting it’s never exactly clear. So I just do it again and again until I give up. And fuck it just hurts
and then idek if I like the sex. I’m so confused guys always say they like a tight hole. Well idk how it works I shit everyday obv, but it’s not like I like playing w my hole. And I really love, love, love the idea of being railed. And Im submissive. But damn from the moment they put it in I’m in pain and it doesn’t go away. I hate it so much. And the entire time I’m just worried if he even feels good. But sometimes I count down the seconds in my head for it to be over while I feel like my entire body is on fire. When he does finish he gets really happy, which I love being able to do that. Esp if he compliments me. And also, he gets kinda tired. And I just loveee it when he holds on to me. I think that’s the only time during this whole thing I really enjoy myself. but ugh it’s just so perfect I could stay there forever. And I really want to. And I’m never the first to get up I’m just holding onto him for as long as I can trying not to fall asleep.
Dude I’ve read all the posts and all the articles on how to bottom and I just don’t get how it is so painful. I mean most times I just want to cry during sex but push through to make him happy. I have no idea what to expect for tomorrow other than that I’m going to completely fall in love w a dude who isn’t even spending the summer in the area.

i’ve noticed in my relationship 18F 18M (dating 3 months) that usually when my boyfriend texts me it’s at times like (for example) 8:01, 6:02, 5:00, etc… it is almost every time so i feel like it’s not a coincidence lol.
it seems like he sets alarms or something reminding himself to message me. is this a good thing or a bad thing?
tl;dr: boyfriend sets alarms to remind himself to message me

I (22f) had a falling out about 3 months ago with my friend (who I'm going to refer to here as Dylan). We met during our second year of college and formed a really close-knit friend group on campus. Most of us met through one person or another, and we pretty much did everything together. It was also during the first semesters after the covid lockdown. There weren't a lot of people on campus, so we ran into each other a lot, being the only few people around. We had a bunch of game nights, movie nights, etc. Sometimes we'd even hang out at the tops of parking garages for picnics.
Dylan and I started to get closer, since we have a lot of the same interests, like Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel. We also just found it really easy to open up and talk to each other. I told them a lot about my personal life, including some traumatic experiences I had growing up. They shared some of their hardships with me too. We had very different things happen to us in our lives. Even so, I felt like we developed a strong bond and an ability to tell each other anything and everything. I don't know if this might sound weird or corny, but I think of the first half of our friendship as being a lot like the song "Loser Baby" from Hazbin; We each have some bullshit that we carry, but being able to have that general issue in common (who could emphasize with having a lot weighing on you mentally) made me feel less alone. I had someone to lean on for support to keep moving forward.
Dylan wasn't the only person I had a strong, emotional connection with though. Around the same time that our friend group started, I met my boyfriend (24m). He and I are still together, and I feel incredibly lucky to have him. Over the last three and a half years, we've developed an open line of communication and developed a signifcant amount of trust in each other. Even as a long distance couple to start, we always made time for each other to meet up on weekends or call throughout the week. And we still do. And even during bumps im the road, we're very upfront about our feelings, we take fault when we fuck up, and we talk through what we can do to resolve the problem. And we BOTH follow through on what we discussed.
About a year and a half into my friendship with Dylan (which again, was also a year and a half into my relationship), they admitted to having feelings for me. At the time, Dylan said they wanted to come clean about it in hopes that putting it out in the open would help them move on, so to speak. This probably should've been my first red flag, but I repressed the feeling. I didn't want to think that my best friend was trying to break up my relationship. I convinced myself that they genuinely just wanted to get it off their chest because it was killing them to keep such a secret from me.
From that night on, our friendship was very rocky. We tried giving each other space, but being in the same friend group made it difficult. We also didn't want to tell anyone besides a few people. I was especially worried that airing it to everyone could create an even bigger mess. This meant that there were times when one or both of us avoided our other friends altogether out of respect for each other. Which only made us feel more alone, resulting in us hanging out even more to make up for how we felt. I was also very open about the situation with my boyfriend. He was very understanding, more so than most people would probably expect. He knew that we were very close before their feelings were known to me. And he trusted me that I knew what I was doing when trying to maintain the friendship.
As the situation went on though, Dylan's feelings didn't fade. In fact, they seemed to worsen. Our friend group is generally very touchy-feely. By that, I mean we frequently say "I love you" and hug. Some of my friends have even kissed each other on the cheeks or foreheads while we were tipsy/drunk. Sometimes, we would also say "I love you" to one another with platonic feelings behind it. At least, that's how I viewed it for a while. There were some nights, when Dylan would be really upset while talking to me about how hard it was to move on, how guilty they felt because they couldn't help but hold onto hope that I might one day mean "I love you" in a romantic way towards them. They even admitted to holding some anger and resentment towards my boyfriend. All of this, looking back, should have been signs to leave the friendship. I know that now. But for some ungodly reason, I was so convinced at the time that there was still something like a friendship to glean from this. They conveyed guilt and remorse for their feelings, so surely that meant things would get better?
I thought that when I graduated and moved back home, things would get easier. After all, we wouldn't be able to see each other all the time if I had a job and lived a good hour or two from where we went to college..Right? We'd be able to focus more on ourselves. And we could still keep in touch via phone calls or texting if we really missed each other! This is when I started to really notice all that was wrong in our friendship. Our venting in regards to mental anguish and stress became more self-loathing. Admittedly, on both sides. We started talking more to each other about our issues in a venting-while-deep-in-our-emotions sort of way with no balance between that and trying to suggest solutions. Sometimes, I'd try because there were certain things Dylan would tell me about that I knew were beyond the help I could give as a friend. But when I even remotely suggested things like therapy, for instance, they would get very defensive. They said that they tried it years ago and had a bad experience. At the same time, they would also acknowledge that professional help could, hypothetically, be beneficial to them..?
I don't remember exactly when it started, but there were a couple of times while texting where Dylan would just lash out at me. They'd question me for staying friends with them. They more or less told me I was stupid because I was putting myself through so much by being their friend. At one point, I lashed out in retaliation for texting me about their woes only to get mad when I tried to help. We had a conversation in person about one argument in partculiar. We both apologized and agreed to work on our communication with each other.
Some time passed after this. I realized at one point that I hadn't heard from them in a few weeks, which was strange because we had a habit of checking in on each other at least once of week or once every other week. I tried messaging Dylan a few times, but I didn't want to overwhelm them. I figured some time further apart might be for the best. As more time passed, I started to get more worried and decided to call them a couple times. Finally, they responded via text (this isn't everything they said. I cut some of it because it involved personal info):
"It’s not fair to keep you in the dark and it’s much too rude to keep doing this to you. I wish I could excuse it with the really shitty weeks I’ve been having so far, with most of my days being depressed, anxious or worse, and the good days being few and far between. It’s been the case but it’s no excuse for how I’ve treated you in this. Long story short, I’m ignoring you because I don’t want you to care about me anymore. I’ve been a lot more solitary recently and I’ve kept to myself a lot - I’ve realized that I let people in only to refuse to let them help me. But especially with you, because our situation is still complicated to me. I still feel like shit about you - how much I love you, and how much I hate you. I don’t care what your feelings are to me - it’s difficult for me to play around you. Whenever we talk, hang out, or fucking whenever I think about you, I get a twang of happiness and self-hatred. Every little thing I say becomes a mine I throw out in front of me and step on immediately, hoping it doesn’t blow up.... and I know you say what you feel towards me, but god fucking damnit you make it impossible to believe you sometimes - because it hurts to think about. You do, it all does. My constant overanalyzing of other people is one of the main things to send me spiraling. I’ve legitimately thought about cutting off from EVERYONE: so I can always stay stable without having to worry about plans that come out of nowhere; I don’t need to worry about what I say to people I care about; and I don’t have to hurt people I care about. Apathy, while it is a wretched thing, is the place where I’m at my best - playing sports, video games, or otherwise…it’s disgusting but it’s the way it is. I’ve never cared about a thing in my life and I don’t want to completely fuck you over when I eventually stop caring about you.
As I’m typing this, I know I’m dropping a lot of shit on you. There’s no quick answer to this but I wanted all my thoughts down in a way where I can spit it all out without getting sidetracked or interrupted. Idgaf if you read this all or not.... I wish I could say I’m sorry.
I know I may have said before that our friendship will last, no matter the circumstances…but I am, and always have been, the problem. That’s not coming out of a place of self-deprecation, that’s the cold, unfortunate truth.
And...I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go. I've lost a lot of hope and I know I can't look to you for help anymore - because it brings me more misery than joy."
I had to read it a few times before responding. I didn't try to argue for the sake of our friendship. As much as I wanted it to continue, I knew it wouldn't be okay to force them when they were expressing a desire to separate. But in the same conversation, after writing this out to them, Dylan started to back-pedal. They suggested that maybe we should meet in person to discuss it more. Because there's "more that I didn't know about them". I immediately got suspicious and basically told them to fuck off; If they were done, they should just say it.
I was kinda angry at the whole falling-out for a while. Particularly how wishy-washy they seemed at the end after everything we'd gone through. I didn't know how to feel and I still don't now that I've started to miss Dylan. Or maybe the friendship we had before everything went to shit..? I also can't help but feel like I should tell the rest of my friends about it. But I don't know what they would do. Is it worth saying? Would it be too risky for the sake of our whole friend group? It's eating away at me. I feel as though I'm walking on eggshells every time I make plans with the friend group, because what if Dylan is there? What would they say to me, if anything? Is there anything left to say?

I had nothing better to do today, so decided to play around with my toys...
I've got an old Dell PowerEdge T430 with a E5-2680 Xenon processor and 64gb of RAM that I picked up second-hand awhile ago for like $500 (intended to set it up for use as a second home server). So I decided to see how far I could push it for AI use.
Loaded Proxmox, then a VM for Ubuntu server with 8 cores /60 gigs of ram (for no particular reason other than I wanted to reserve a small amount of compute for other uses) and installed Ollama, then Mixtral 7x8b.
To my surprise, it actually works. It's super slow, at less than 1t/s once it gets rolling, making the use case somewhat limited...
But I figured why not have some fun.. so I setup a second VM configured it to work with Twillo and now I've got a little AI that I can message to via SMS. As it's just sending the text on completion, it doesn't seem that much different than texting a slightly distracted friend.
I'll probably switch over to a model that is more usable, but figured I'd share.

i explained to my millenial therapist what "i'm just a girl" meant, and she told me that several days later, one of her friends texted this into her groupchat. and that she laughed to herself because she would have been so confused if i hadn't explained it to her otherwise. :'D any other funny/interesting age gap moments?

Two species, both alike in advancement,
Spanning the vast emptiness of black space;
Expanding borders create encroachment,
Interstellar ships brings foes face to face.
Whence from their cradles the worlds issue forth
A vast pair of exploratory fleets,
Whose collisions do readily transport
A balanced wave of death whence they shall meet.
Cultural ignorance breeds the great hate,
Foreign ideas permeate all the norms,
Whereas pastimes do, the soldiers lives abate,
These trinkets have the power to transform.
That which matters not to one may save all
For its meaning may be hard to recall
false significance plastered on the wall
May yet bring peace and prosperity all.
—-------------------
The klaxons shattered the silence of the station, blaring through all of the corridors and reverberating off the bulkheads. The cacophony of sounds, as the entire crew leapt from their bunks and quickly grabbed their most prized, or irreplaceable, possessions, grew in intensity as the red lights flared in an oscillating sequence.
The crew were halfway through packing before the klaxons were punctuated by instructions: “All hands, prepare to abandon station. M’quezniok Battle Cruiser is inbound. Repeat: M’quezniok Battle Cruiser inbound. Take only what you must and make your way to the nearest escape craft.”
The drills had been effective. All hands of the terraforming station were accounted for in the various slipstream escape craft within 7 minutes of the initial detection of the inbound warship.
All possessions were secured within another 3 minutes and the small fleet of vessels were free of the atmosphere 5 minutes later. In formation they slid silently through the blackness and away from the approaching insatiable appetite of conquest.
27 hours later, the twinkling effect began at the bow of each vessel as they pierced the veil of reality and speared their way into the void between the planck lengths of spacetime.
Earth Command received them a mere 49 hours, 29 minutes, and 37 seconds after the last of the escape craft abandoned the terraforming station.
The station became another dot on the map of conquest of the M’quezniok, a line that seems to be expanding in all directions away from their homeworld much faster than the humans can build up and sort of defensive perimeter.
The M’quezniok culture lacks subtlety and nuance; it lacks empathy. It only has room for measurable strength and their measure lies in whether or not property can be taken and held. If it can, it belongs to whomever can do so… and that someone, in their eyes, should always be them. They have no mercy and eradicate all citizens of colonies that they conquer. They raze every building that cannot be readily adapted to their purposes. They devour any animals that they cannot use for brute force. They are ruthless and their culture lies entirely in the glory of the expansion of their empire, in an unsustainable need for personal edification for each military commander.
—--
The ground forces commander entered the station ahead of her troops. There were no humans here. They fled like the cowards they were, well in advance of the arrival of her ship. There was no honorable conquest to be had at this location, just the claiming of an abandoned complex. As such, since there were no spoils of individual combat for any of her crew to claim, the entire base was hers for the first-taking. None of her crew dared touch anything in a way that might suggest an interest in it for, the appearance for claiming spoils out of turn could result in punishments far greater than any rewards to be found here.
The Commander walked through the terraforming station, going through bunk after bunk, finding nothing of value and even less of military value. There were no secrets here. There were no riches here. There were… clothes, little trinkets, manuals for the equipment, nasty human food. The commander was greatly disappointed in the raid but, in order for her crew to split the meager offerings that were present, she had to take SOMETHING. So she chose a box on the floor at her feet. This room, like all the others, was a no-frills crew bunk. Like the others there was nothing of apparent value in it. So, she took the box and declared that it was the entirety of her prize. The crew cheered and vanished into the station, each one searching for anything that they might deem of value for their own trophies.
The Commander took the box and returned to her quarters where she opened it to see what personal secrets it may have, what stories of the former crew member who fled the station like a coward at her approach. She found, much to her shock and utter amazement, a vast collection of tales of superior warriors. Brave individuals who, in the times of greatest need for the human civilization, had risen to the challenges within their own society to defeat the misguided evils that sought to undermine the human way of life as it existed then and as she knew it to exist now. These stories, laid out in a bizarre format that seemed to mix a form of graphic depictions alongside the human language as text, reminded the Commander of many struggles within her own empire’s history; times when it took massive competing armies to determine which philosophy should rule their future; times when the death tolls where high and the waste of resources on putting down rebellions was tremendous. The Commander reviewed these documents left behind by the unknown crew member of the human terraforming station and pondered where these great heroes of humanity were, if not already devastating the front lines of M’quezniok fleet.
That’s when it occurred to her. The humans were giving the M’quezniok a chance to prove themselve worthy of living. They were giving the M’quezniok an opportunity to stop their conquest against the humans on their own before they unleashed their most powerful military forces. The Commander, stunned by her realization, dropped the volume of deeds and turned to her communications terminal.
“We have made a grave mistake in violating human space” she began her message. “I have uncovered a volume of histories which outline the capacity that humans have when situations exceed their tolerance. I have uncovered this box, quite by accident, as an item of abandoned loot in my most recent raid. Please review the contents, as I have put them into the end of the this transmission. Consider that all we know of humans through direct contacts is corroborated in these volumes: they always try to allow those who have wronged them to change their ways and, only when those ways are not changed, does it appear that they will unleash tremendous force to utterly defeat and destroy their foes. Note, in sample 17, that the humans in the story, after being unable to reach a peaceful accord with their opponents, wiped and entire sentient race from the cosmos to end the conflict with them. Note in samples 3, 9, and 47, that they have the mind to develop weapons that can be silently deployed among their enemies and which will only affect their enemies, causing them to die of disease whether the battle reaches them or not. Note that, in samples 5, 9, and 62, that the humans have a history of boarding enemy vessels in small numbers and converting the vessels themselves into weapons to destroy huge components of the enemy fleet. Most importantly, in all of the above examples, note that humans will often sacrifice themselves without promise of lasting glory or honor or riches to merely inflict harm on their opponents. There is no methodology of these tales that makes sense in our culture and that, we should all agree, makes the humans infinitely more dangerous than we previously expected. More than all of the previous, note that the humans have the capacity, when needed, to reveal their strongest military assets; single individuals who carry the power of an entire legion of our finest soldiers. Single fighters who can destroy warships without any equipment or weaponry. Single individuals who, according to these volumes, have the ability to turn our very minds against us if we face them in battle. As you are all aware, it has appeared that the humans have given up all efforts to defend themselves against us and the war is, essentially, over. There is no more honor or glory to be found in fighting humans. We arrive, they retreat. We arrive, they abandon what they have built. We arrive, and they fall back, taking all of their observations of us with them. As you can see from volumes 1, 6, 19, 33, 42, 54, 68, 71, and 98, this is when their greatest warriors emerge. It is my tactical advice that the abandonment of this specific box of intelligence on human culture was left as a final warning to us; a warning that, should we continue our actions against them, we will pay the consequences as they unleash their greatest technology and soldiers against us. If you agree, order all Conquestors to halt their advancement and return to the edge of our space.
—----
Humanity Space Command received the transmission. The statement of complete cessation of M’quezniok incursions and a promise that the last 79 encounters, in which humans had abandoned the facilities before the M’quezniok could even arrive to start fighting, would be surrendered peacefully, and permanently, back to human control.
The message indicated that the worlds conquered by force would be the new, permanent, boundary between the two empires and that humanity need not fear for any future incursions. The message also outlined that, should humanity absolutely require it so as to not unleash their greatest warriors in retribution, a list of worlds could be presented as negotiable assets that could be returned.
Human Space Command was baffled. Astounded, pleased, elated, even… but more than anything else, baffled. The best humanity had been able to offer was defeated in every dispute against the M’quezniok. Their individuals were faster, stronger, and harder to kill than humans. Their weapons were more powerful. Their defensive technology vastly outclassed anything humanity could throw at them. Their declaration of cessation simply made no sense and their outlines that they wished to avoid humanity unleashing their greatest warriors and technology as retribution made even less sense. But the top brass of HSC was not about to continue a war in which humanity had no hope of winning when the opposition declared they were done.
The HSC’s final conference on the subject, prior to transmitting the acceptance of the M’quezniok’s declaration, ended with a compound question: “who is this Lois Lane and why do they want her to be the liaison should we have to open negotiations?”

Hello! I'm a long-term lover of DnD, never finished a campaign as most of my DM's end up stopping halfway through or at the beginning (guess I'm unlucky!) I'm currently in a Friday night campaign that I love so I want to fill my weekend up (I work weekdays so unavailable on the days Sun-Fri). I've dabbled in Pathfinder, wanted to do a Fallout campaign, etc, wrote my own homebrew 5E campaign, and so on. I'd say I'm a moderate middle ground player who has experience and doesn't - I prefer roleplay over combat but I always add roleplay to combat for flavor. Learning everyday despite it all! I also don't mind new DM's or homebrews or any other version of DnD you feel if I seem like a good fit. I am specific on the fact it MUST be voice chat based. Camera is always welcomed too. I don't like theatre of mind, text, etc.
I am a 24 year old male, I tend to drink during sessions to open up my vibrant personality! I will say that although I do, I don't get slurry speeched and overdo it. I am very understanding to others and want to be still negligible and realistic. I love doing charismatic characters or characters who just yap, I am always respectful to my team and try to include them as much as possible (Introverts be aware !!!! Kidding, I will respect your anxiety, etc <3) I love doing things that makes sense but... don't. For example, a minotaur thief? A pacifist barbarian? A bard who sucks at music? Things like that excite me and allow me to create a unique character! Don't get me wrong though, if you want me to be a fireball spammer for your campaign.... expect the unexpected.
PS. I want to say please, do not message me about "paying for a campaign.". I respect your experience, but this is a fun game with people I want to vibe with, beyond just the campaign. This isn't World of Warcraft. Make your money! Hell yeah. Just don't message me asking if I'm "interested for only $15 a session!". Not my thing. Thank you!

some many months ago, i sent this girl that i used to be best friends with an anonymous message body-shaming her. she made me feel bad first (not an excuse!) so i wanted to make her feel worse. i came at her for her biggest insecurity.
i asked a fourth-party later to pass on an apology to her through a third-party. idk if she ever got it. i know me apologizing doesn’t negate how nasty what i did is.
i just got body-shamed, and now i’m understanding how i probably made her feel.
also, when i was in high school, i did a similar thing to a best friend that i had a falling out with. i made a fake account of her so that she would look racist and snobby. i got in a lot of trouble for it at school.
i guess the fact i feel remorse for these things means that i have the power to grow up and be better… but i still feel bad that it happened at all, ya know? i just feel like a piece of shit sometimes.
just because people hurt me first doesn’t mean that i should try to hurt them back… but i feel unprotected sometimes, and getting revenge is like my way of protecting myself in my mind.
i know this is probably a “guilty conscience” feeling for many people in the digital era, because bullying is so easy now. but i just want to get it off my chest! i feel like a loser!

Hi all,
My ex and I broke up a few months ago. Since then, we have remained in contact on a semi-regular basis (texting every week, a few phone calls, and popping over to each other’s houses to grab some belongings-One of these occasions I invited to stay for dinner, with no sex taking place). I tried to rekindle the relationship over text back in March but they turned it down.
Afterwards, about 3 weeks later, they wanted to come over for a birthday dinner and so they did. They ended up getting somewhat drunk and spent the night as I didn’t feel comfortable letting them drive. The entire time they were over, they kept alluding to being intimate, which ultimately led to us having a conversation where I told them I didn’t think it was a good idea, but that I would be willing to think about it. We agreed to meet up a month afterwards to discuss it and see where we were.
Well, the day comes and we meet at the park to talk things over. I told them I was not interested and that I would attempt to focus on a friendship and nothing more, to which they agreed. I told them that I am having a hard time wanting to be friends but that I’d be willing to try for their sake.
Since then, I’ve noticed they have been more distant but have not said anything. In the 2 months since then, we have talked on and off, including me reaching out once for advice, and one of these occasions was a phone call from them where they wanted to meet up and hang out. I said sure and we agreed that we’d hang out on a select day in upcoming weekends.
Well the day we’re supposed to meet up approaches and I ask them if we’re still on for that day, and they say no because they had other plans that day. We agree to reschedule for this weekend, but yet again when this weekend approaches I hear nothing from them. I finally get a message from them saying that they’re not able to hang out due to stress and probably won’t hang out with anyone until June.
Part of me wants to cut things off here because I feel like I’m being strung out. The other part of me feels like they sound like they are struggling and give them some grace. I know not everything is about me or even the “friendship” and I also recognize that I have already been wary of being friends, so maybe I am overthinking. Am I wrong for just wanting to ghost them? I don’t want to get hurt by games and dishonesty and feel there’s other things under the surface.
TLDR; I want to ghost my ex due to feeling like our attempt at a friendship is starting to change in a negative way. Am I wrong?

I (M28) met this girl at a bar (F21) asked her number and went on date, I think the date went good she responded saying she had a good time. She is extremely pretty and I feel like I was definitely reaching slightly above my scale and I feel like maybe she didn’t completely fall for me but it’s definitely a little early to judge. After our date we texted back and forth about things we talked but conversation naturally stopped. Later I texted her asking if she wanted to do something the following weekend. It took about a day for her to respond saying she is busy but if I “want” and “care” we can do something the following week. (Basically now it’s like a 24 hours pause between messages and I don’t nag her, just wait until she responds to respond back). She mentioned I didn’t pay attention when she told me she had plans for that weekend (joking about it) so I responded saying something along the lines that she was cute and I probably lost track of what she said in the moment. I definitely remember her mentioning “plans” but its was to hang out with her friends and go to church. Anyways I feel like maybe she wants out and she just doesn’t have in her heart to say it (she seemed very sweet and caring). I had other dates when I could clearly tell when a girl liked me, but they were a bit older, and it was easier to tell intentions.
I guess my question: am I overthinking this situation? Are there noticeable signs she wants out? Or do I ask her out again next week?
TLDR: went on a date, slow to text back, busy next weekend, should I try or it’s a lost cause.

So idk how but I can still send text messages to deactivated Instagram accounts. What i wanna know is that these sent texts, will the other person be able to see them when they reactivate their account?

Goal: Insert an ID to search a cyclist, then be able to edit the cyclist. The edit page doesn't load. IDK why.
First razor component (the web page that should load): @ page "/account/mainmenu/cyclistmenu/cyclistdetails/{Id:int}"
@ inherits EditablePageBase
@ inject CyclistService CyclistService

@Pagetitle

@ if (CyclistData == null)
{
Loading...

}
else
{



@ if (@Mode == Mode.Edit)
{

@ bind-Value="CyclistData.Id"
readonly />

}

Save
@ if (@Mode == Mode.Edit)
{
Delete
}

};
@ code {
private Cyclist CyclistData { get; set; }
protected override async Task OnInitializedAsync()
{
Pagetitle = $"{Mode.ToString()} Cyclist";
}
protected async override Task OnParametersSetAsync()
{
if (Mode == Mode.Edit)
{
var cyclist = await CyclistService.GetById(Id);
if (cyclist != null)
{
CyclistData = cyclist;
}
}
else
{
CyclistData = new Cyclist();
}
CurrentEditContext = new(CyclistData);
CurrentEditContext.OnValidationRequested += HandleValidationRequested;
MessageStore = new ValidationMessageStore(CurrentEditContext);
}
private void HandleValidationRequested(object? sender, ValidationRequestedEventArgs args)
{
MessageStore.Clear();
// Check that the cyclist doesn't already exist
var exists = CyclistService.ExistsWithIdNotAsStated(CyclistData.FirstName, CyclistData.LastName, CyclistData.Id).Result;
if (exists)
{
MessageStore.Add(() => CyclistData.FirstName + " " + CyclistData.LastName, "Cyclist with this name already exists!");
}
}
public async Task DeleteClicked()
{
var delete = await JS.Confirm($"Delete Cyclist {CyclistData.Id}?");
if (delete)
{
await CyclistService.Delete(CyclistData.Id);
NavigationManager.NavigateTo("/account/mainmenu/cyclistmenu/searchcyclist");
}
}
public async Task HandleCyclistSubmit()
{
bool success;
string errorMessage;
if (Mode == Mode.Create)
{
(success, errorMessage, _) = await CyclistService.Create(CyclistData);
}
else
{
(success, errorMessage) = await CyclistService.Update(CyclistData);
}
if (success)
{
NavigationManager.NavigateTo("/account/mainmenu/cyclistmenu/searchcyclist");
}
else
{
await JS.Alert(errorMessage);
}
}
}
Second (page that takes the id): @ page "/account/mainmenu/cyclistmenu/searchcyclist"
@ inherits PageBase
@ inject CyclistService CyclistService
@ inject BikeService BikeService

@Pagetitle

Search
@ if (FoundCyclist != null)
{

Result:

Cyclist ID	First Name	Last Name	Date of Birth	Address	Date of Registration	Phone	Email
@FoundCyclist.Id	@FoundCyclist.FirstName	@FoundCyclist.LastName	@FoundCyclist.DoB	@FoundCyclist.Address	@FoundCyclist.DoR	@FoundCyclist.Phone	@FoundCyclist.Email

Associated Bikes:

@ foreach (var bike in Bikes)
{







}

Bike ID	Model ID	Type	Brand
	@bike.Id	@bike.ModelId	@bike.Type	@bike.Brand

}
else if (IsSearching)
{
Searching...

}
else
{
No Cyclist found with ID: @ Id

}
@ code {
private int Id { get; set; }
private Cyclist FoundCyclist { get; set; }
private bool IsSearching { get; set; }
private List Bikes { get; set; } = new List();
protected override async Task OnInitializedAsync()
{
Pagetitle = "Search Cyclist";
IsSearching = true;
FoundCyclist = await CyclistService.GetById(Id);
Bikes = await BikeService.GetByCyclistId(Id);
IsSearching = false;
}
public string GetEditUrl(int id = 0) => $"/account/mainmenu/cyclistmenu/cyclistdetails/{id}";
}
EditablePageBse.cs:
using Microsoft.AspNetCore.Components;
using Microsoft.AspNetCore.Components.Forms;
using Beep.Enums;
namespace Beep.Components.Pages
{
public class EditablePageBase : PageBase
{
[Parameter]
public int Id { get; set; }
[CascadingParameter]
public EditContext CurrentEditContext { get; set; }
protected ValidationMessageStore MessageStore { get; set; }
public Mode Mode => Id == 0 ? Mode.Create : Mode.Edit;
}
}

I downloaded Tinder when I moved in the Nordics. In January I matched with this girl. We chatted for a few weeks and we went out two times in February. I wasn't sure at first if I felt attraction, but I really liked her as a person, we discovered we had some past shared traumas that got us closer and I felt I was incredibly at ease with her, as it rarely happens with people I barely know (I am extremely introverted and she didn't believe I was). Both times we stayed together for 7-8 hours and time flew. We didn't talk about our feelings but we agreed on the fact that we had good vibes. Most of all, I innately felt I could trust her. Then I went to my home country, but we stayed in contact. When I came back she texted me that she wanted to clarify that she had decided she had no romantic intentions but it was nothing personal. She had cancelled Tinder and she just wanted to stay single. I told her that if she meant a long-term relationship I wasn't so sure as well and I just wanted to see how things went without pressure.
We met in March, and while we were talking about wine she interrupted me to make a call. Later, she said that she had talked with her best friend "who obviously knew about me". She added that they had both broken up with their boyfriends in summer, and they had felt terribly. Now her friend was hanging out with a single father in his 30s (so I presumed it was quite a serious thing), and since they had been talking for months of going to some wine tasting event she wanted to tell her that they could finally organise that as a double date. I accepted, but I was a little bit taken aback given her previous message. This made me wonder that maybe there were some expectations, and, since I still wasn't sure about my feelings and I knew what kind of frailties she could have, I went into overthinking mode. I wanted to balance my words and, when in doubt, be on the safe side without promising things lightly. I realise this made me seem cold sometimes. When she asked me if I was interested in sharing an apartment (we both live on our own) in the capital (she wants to move there and I often have to commute there) independently from an eventual romantic relationship, I was quite firm in my no. After 8 hours, she asked me if it was time to have sex, but she wanted to discuss if it really made sense and to uncover our intentions. I said that I liked her but the last thing I wanted was to hurt someone so I didn't want to take commitments. I was maybe realising I was growing feelings for her but I didn't say that. She then decided we needed a solemn deal: if the sexual/romantic vibe was not good this would have not been cause of bitterness between us, we had acknowledged that we liked each other as people so much and this had to stay. I agreed and we went to her place.
There we kissed, then she went to her neighbours to ask for tobacco. When she was back she told me that she was sorry but she had decided she didn't feel like it, but it was 5 am and I could stay. She got out of the bathroom naked apart from a tiny slip, and we went to bed. I turned my back on her trying to think about something else and sleep, but she laughed and told me "Well, we can still have some cuddles". One thing leads to another and while we didn't have proper sex we definitely had more than some cuddles. I remember that at a certain time she said "Oh no, this is definitely not going to end well", and the anguish in her voice freaked me out.
The day after, she texted me "I really enjoyed it but I have this persisting feeling that we would be better as friends", she insisted a lot that it wasn't sugarcoating but she was really convinced that we would have been great friends and we both knew that. I asked her to talk about it the next time in person and she agreed. Two days later she texted me that she was just going to a bar for a couple of hours before a meeting, that she was such in a good mood and asked me to join her (this spontaneity from a Scandinavian sounded super weird to me). I couldn’t join her on time and I still regret that. Then I left the town again, but we kept in contact. This was also when I realised that I was missing her and the feelings I had where a little bit deeper than what I had thought at first. At my return, I noticed that something had changed, but she attributed this to her Master's thesis' deadline. A few more days and she ghosted me, then she texted me a week later "sorry, I was busy. But I should also tell you that I have entered a relationship :) :) :)". I replied that I was sure there was something behind her silence and she didn't feel the need to explain further. She didn't owe me anything, but I expected some better communication, especially with all her worries about the possibility to ruin our personal relationship. After ten days with no communications, I texted her that I was a little disappointed 'cause I thought we had a deal. She asked me "what deal?" and I replied "what? were you drunk that night?" (she wasn’t) and she told me "Indeed I was. In fact I don't remember what happened. And honestly I don't want to know" (which was the thing that hurt me the most). I asked her if she had considered that people have feelings and she told she was going to terminate the conversation and she blocked me on WhatsApp.
That's how it ended. Her relationship hurt me, but it was her choice and I certainly couldn't contest that (I regret a lot that I should have been quicker in grasping and communicating my feelings). But the way she handled the thing felt like a treason in human terms to me and made me wonder if everything else she said was false as well. Thoughts? (I’d like to know if the replies come from men or women, sometimes perspectives are different).

This is a long one and the details are important to the situation so a TLDR can not possibly do it just but is required for this sub, please read the whole thing if you plan to give advice. Thank you.
TLDR: I’m into a semi-coworker and can’t tell if she’s flirting or being cordial and polite, need help navigating the situation.
I’m (32M) a real estate agent and a few months ago I went into an open house and met a lovely agent (31F) from another company. (Because of the nature of how real estate works, agents know other local people within the field possibly more so than in any other business. Two accountants at two different car companies probably will never cross paths, but two real estate agents at two separate firms almost certainly will, so this is an ever se slight “shitting where you eat” situation. Anyway.) We chit chat a bit and part ways. This happens a few more times until the third time I make a joke off a particular situation that was happening and she started dying of laughter (this was about 2 months ago). I friend requested her on instagram later that day and messaged her a continuation of the joke. We haven’t messaged much but we have liked a few of each other’s posts here and there and we’ve seen each other a few more times for work between then and now, having some banter each time.
Recently (about 10 days ago) I was at an open house she was sitting and when I walked in we greeted each other and she went for a hug. Not one of those polite one arm hugs you give to an acquaintance or that aunt you don’t like, a full double arm wrap around hug. We chit chat and she does it again as I’m leaving. I see her again about a week ago and she does the same thing. We’re chatting a bit and I think of a movie I wanted to recommend to her but couldn’t think of the name but said I would text it to her. A few hours later I go to text her and realize I don’t have her number. I message her on Instagram instead and say “this is the movie I was talking about earlier. I was gonna text you but apparently I don’t have your number.” She responsds “Ahhh, I’m gonna have to watch it!” And then “lol it’s (number) in case you ever need”. I respond “I’ll have to think of a reason… maybe some more movie recs” as a cheeky light flirt. I text her a quick message saying “hey, here’s my number”. The next morning she thumbs up reacts to the text and then 10 minutes later she “likes” the Instagram message from the night before with the standard heart reaction when you like something on instagram.
What I am confused about now is if my light flirting was received well. In my head the like reactions feel cold but I might just be reading way too into it. What are some ways I can further test the waters?
I want to tread carefully with this, as no matter the outcome, we will have to see each other for work. Any advice and insight is greatly appreciated but please keep things positive.

Hi all,
My GF and I both use BFF and I thought to share some contrasts I found interesting in our experience using the app over the last 12 months or so. Just sharing for the sake of sharing if anyone was curious about what the other side looks like. I'm wondering if anyone has found some similarities in theirs?
The male's (my) experience:

1. Less matches overall. I think men are just less open to the nature of meeting complete strangers in this way and the number of guys on here is much slimmer. In contrast to my GF's experience, I've found that the ghosting (lots of it) is usually in conversation stage. This is strange on it's own. Free flowing conversation will suddenly come to an absolute halt rather than a fizzle out over time. If a meetup in person does happen, it usually results in some sort of friendship even it's very casual.
   
2. A lot of gay guys, usually looking for more than friendship. Self explanatory, I would say on average most dudes on the app are gay. Obviously no dramas with that, just personally not the dynamic I am looking for. However, most of them are not looking for friends and 2 dudes have straight up admitted to me they have a conversion fetish. I've made some friends from the app who have had some real horro funny stories.
   
3. The artificial nature of the connection. Messaging and trying to find common interests is tough, especially for guys. It's a very un-natural way for guys to make connections, so it can be pretty difficult to keep a chat going. You have to be ready to step out of your comfort zone and be prepared to really "give it a go". Women are way better at forming early connections and bridging gaps in awkwardness in my opinion.
   

The female's (my GF's) experience:

1. Many more matches but a LOT of ghosting. She has met many more people IRL than I have, by a substantial factor. However, she might hang out with a girl once or half a dozen times, then they disappear. I think the ghosting or fizzle out rate on the app is probably about the same but women do seem to get more matches.
   
2. Lack of effort. Seems to be a common thread from what I have already seen on this subreddit. My GF has said that most girls expect her to do the heavy lifting with conversation. They often don't reciprocate interest or effort in messaging which can be very draining and defeats the purpose. It seems like many girls are on there to cure boredom, get more shiny notifications on their phones or have terrible anxiety and like the idea of it but can't get further than that.
   

General thoughts:
The app has recently brought out the "Plans" feature which I think is great. It's a great way to break the ice with activity based meetups or navigate the awkwardness of 1:1 meetups. However, it faces a similar problem meetup.com does, the flake out rate. Arguably it is worse. There is no RSVP function, so with events, people have to confirm or pull out in the chat. When someone does pull out in the chat, it is a domino effect and you can watch the entire attendance rate disappear in 20 minutes. It's quite remarkable actually. A mate I met on here calls it the BFF syndrome. I think it's an anxiety thing, and an RSVP function would help. That way people can see who's going from the start ("Are there any other girls going", "safety in numbers" etc). The plans feature could use a bit more serviceability overall.
I've noticed people looking for alternatives to BFF on the subreddit which is interesting. Obviously this is due to how slack people can be on here, the ghosting etc. This is a people problem rather than an issue with the platform. I think at lot people just like the idea of making friends than actually putting themselves out there and being uncomfortable. It is what it is I guess. It's a numbers game, and the more you put out, the more you get back. I guy that I originally found quite weird on a plans meetup turned out to be someone I look forward to seeing. He told me struggles with terrible social anxiety and forces himself to go to meetups, put more interest into other people and generally leave his comfort zone. It's something I have really come to respect and admire about him.
If you've made it this far, sorry for the essay. Keep the faith and good luck!

This is a long one and the details are important to the situation so there won’t be a TLDR. Let’s get into it:
I’m (32M) a real estate agent and a few months ago I went into an open house and met a lovely agent (31F) from another company. (Because of the nature of how real estate works, agents know other local people within the field possibly more so than in any other business. Two accountants at two different car companies probably will never cross paths, but two real estate agents at two separate firms almost certainly will, so this is an ever se slight “shitting where you eat” situation. Anyway.) We chit chat a bit and part ways. This happens a few more times until the third time I make a joke off a particular situation that was happening and she started dying of laughter (this was about 2 months ago). I friend requested her on instagram later that day and messaged her a continuation of the joke. We haven’t messaged much but we have liked a few of each other’s posts here and there and we’ve seen each other a few more times for work between then and now, having some banter each time.
Recently (about 10 days ago) I was at an open house she was sitting and when I walked in we greeted each other and she went for a hug. Not one of those polite one arm hugs you give to an acquaintance or that aunt you don’t like, a full double arm wrap around hug. We chit chat and she does it again as I’m leaving. I see her again about a week ago and she does the same thing. We’re chatting a bit and I think of a movie I wanted to recommend to her but couldn’t think of the name but said I would text it to her. A few hours later I go to text her and realize I don’t have her number. I message her on Instagram instead and say “this is the movie I was talking about earlier. I was gonna text you but apparently I don’t have your number.” She responsds “Ahhh, I’m gonna have to watch it!” And then “lol it’s (number) in case you ever need”. I respond “I’ll have to think of a reason… maybe some more movie recs” as a cheeky light flirt. I text her a quick message saying “hey, here’s my number”. The next morning she thumbs up reacts to the text and then 10 minutes later she “likes” the Instagram message from the night before with the standard heart reaction when you like something on instagram.
What I am confused about now is if my light flirting was received well. In my head the like reactions feel cold but I might just be reading way too into it. What are some ways I can further test the waters?
I want to tread carefully with this, as no matter the outcome, we will have to see each other for work. Any advice and insight is greatly appreciated but please keep things positive.

This is a long one and the details are important to the situation so there won’t be a TLDR. Let’s get into it:
I’m (32M) a real estate agent and a few months ago I went into an open house and met a lovely agent (31F) from another company. (Because of the nature of how real estate works, agents know other local people within the field possibly more so than in any other business. Two accountants at two different car companies probably will never cross paths, but two real estate agents at two separate firms almost certainly will, so this is an ever se slight “shitting where you eat” situation. Anyway.) We chit chat a bit and part ways. This happens a few more times until the third time I make a joke off a particular situation that was happening and she started dying of laughter (this was about 2 months ago). I friend requested her on instagram later that day and messaged her a continuation of the joke. We haven’t messaged much but we have liked a few of each other’s posts here and there and we’ve seen each other a few more times for work between then and now, having some banter each time.
Recently (about 10 days ago) I was at an open house she was sitting and when I walked in we greeted each other and she went for a hug. Not one of those polite one arm hugs you give to an acquaintance or that aunt you don’t like, a full double arm wrap around hug. We chit chat and she does it again as I’m leaving. I see her again about a week ago and she does the same thing. We’re chatting a bit and I think of a movie I wanted to recommend to her but couldn’t think of the name but said I would text it to her. A few hours later I go to text her and realize I don’t have her number. I message her on Instagram instead and say “this is the movie I was talking about earlier. I was gonna text you but apparently I don’t have your number.” She responsds “Ahhh, I’m gonna have to watch it!” And then “lol it’s (number) in case you ever need”. I respond “I’ll have to think of a reason… maybe some more movie recs” as a cheeky light flirt. I text her a quick message saying “hey, here’s my number”. The next morning she thumbs up reacts to the text and then 10 minutes later she “likes” the Instagram message from the night before with the standard heart reaction when you like something on instagram.
What I am confused about now is if my light flirting was received well. In my head the like reactions feel cold but I might just be reading way too into it. What are some ways I can further test the waters?
I want to tread carefully with this, as no matter the outcome, we will have to see each other for work. Any advice and insight is greatly appreciated but please keep things positive.

I’ve been talking to this guy for more than a month. We met on a chatting app. I’m 19 and he’s 35. Our relationship was basically a sexual one as we continuously engaged in exchanging pics and vids of sexual and flirtatious nature but I haven’t sent any nudes. He was the first guy to send him my personal pics so I got kinda attached to him. We called for few times. He told me that he has feelings for me and that he feels something different with me. Then he started to get more demanding and gets mad whenever I refuse to send a sexual pic and deletes our conversation and becomes distant and he once insulted me and blocked me for this reason but then apologized..I blocked him once for one day then he sent me a vid of himself talking about how it was tough for him to not talk and that he felt empty.. yesterday he sent me a couple of messages in a row and I haven’t seen them nor I replied to them as I was busy during the evening. When I tried to text him back, I found out he just deleted our conversation..even after we talked about meeting each other. So like why would he behave like this? And was I in the wrong for replying late? Or he’s just mentally unstable?

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