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This is a really tough one, so please try not to judge. I know that what I did was wrong and I’m not trying to make any excuses. Here is goes:
I’ve had a rough few weeks lately. A little over a week ago my boyfriend of almost 8 1/2 years broke up with me. He had gone through my phone after I gave him the password earlier in the day while I was sleeping and found out I had been cheating on him. I’m not sure what all he went through on my phone but I know he saw my messages where I was flirting with a few other men including a guy he know that I told him not to worry about. I haven’t actually done anything with these guys just let them flirt with me and talk me up, sent a few nudes and soaked up the compliments. I know. Terrible. I’m not sure how much background I should give but my now ex boyfriend (M 22) and me (F 22) have been having issues since about our 7 year mark. Nothing crazy but I started getting the itch and feeling curious about being with others and going out but he is a homebody and doesn’t drink or anything. We talked things out and went to therapy and tried to make things work. I told him to start going to the gym and working on himself (he has depression pretty bad) or we would have to separate for the best. He started working on things but then he ended up in the hospital because our school was concerned and advised him to seek medical help for worry of suicide. I was by his side the whole time and had to miss school and work the next day. He then told me he wasn’t working on himself for him but for me and he in fact wasn’t truly working on himself at all just putting on a happy face and hiding it from me. I stopped talking to any guys during this time to focus on him. And we started doing really good the sex started getting better and we were happy again. He has always not trusted me and has been very insecure. He’s shorter than me and is below average in size and has said he’s insecure about it although it never bothered me. He showed up up at school late one night having a panic attack about me cheating on him (I wasn’t at this time and had never done it before, absolutely nothing i was extremely committed and monogamous) and it really hurt me that no matter what I did. He didn’t trust me. I couldn’t make any guy friends or go anywhere. I felt trapped. Also important to mention that one of my biggest problems wasn’t the sex or anything it was that I was practically his mom. I did his taxes, any and all paperwork, planned all the dates and financed them, I did his fafsa’s, his school paperwork, applications, resumes, and a lot of his homework. I wrote several essays he didn’t start until finals week and got him the grade he needed to pass the class. He was skipping classes and work and not telling me. He was also failing classes as well. What’s terrible about this is that I was using my unused loan money to pay for his school (under the expectation I’d get it back when he got a job) I tried so hard to help him with school and it barely got him by. So at this point he owes me over 20,000 most of which in loans I have to pay back. And has to complete 2 final courses to get his diploma by the end of the summer or he’ll have to come back. He hasn’t gotten a job yet (we work very limited hours at our school getting paid once a month at minimum wage) despite having been “looking” for the last 6 months (he’s an IT major). Anyways, fast forward to the night before he broke up with me: He went to my brother talked about it , called my best friend talk to her about it, didn’t sleep all night and waited until later in the day to break up with me while I was at work. He didn’t want discuss anything and we haven’t talked about any of it since. After I admitted I was feeling like Kms he went to my family and told them a lot of details. It really pissed me off and now my best friend won’t talk to me, which makes things a lot worse. Yes, to add one more important detail he has had a very easy life has been coddled and taken care of, and hasn’t had any tragedy in his life. I’ve been through a lot and on top of dealing with his depression. I have to deal with my brother and dad’s depression. Where I’m constantly talking my dad off the ledge and trying to keep him together and employed so he doesn’t lose the house. im emotionally and physically exhausted and I’ve had to be the mom to my brother dad and boyfriend for years. I was balancing this and full-time student and worker so I barely had enough time to focus on my own mental health and problems and never properly got to deal with my mom who committed suicide a little over a year ago in my old room. This isn’t meant to be a sad story and I don’t want anyone to feel bad for me but it kind of feels like I’ve been through a lot and had no one there for me where now he’s the victim because I fucked up.
I want to hear opinions and maybe advice on my situation to help me navigate my future and not lose all hope?
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I’ve had a rough few weeks lately. A little over a week ago my boyfriend of almost 8 1/2 years broke up with me. He had gone through my phone after I gave him the password earlier in the day while I was sleeping and found out I had been cheating on him. I’m not sure what all he went through on my phone but I know he saw my messages where I was flirting with a few other men including a guy he know that I told him not to worry about. I haven’t actually done anything with these guys just let them flirt with me and talk me up, sent a few nudes and soaked up the compliments. I know. Terrible. I’m not sure how much background I should give but my now ex boyfriend (M 22) and me (F 22) have been having issues since about our 7 year mark. Nothing crazy but I started getting the itch and feeling curious about being with others and going out but he is a homebody and doesn’t drink or anything. We talked things out and went to therapy and tried to make things work. I told him to start going to the gym and working on himself (he has depression pretty bad) or we would have to separate for the best. He started working on things but then he ended up in the hospital because our school was concerned and advised him to seek medical help for worry of suicide. I was by his side the whole time and had to miss school and work the next day. He then told me he wasn’t working on himself for him but for me and he in fact wasn’t truly working on himself at all just putting on a happy face and hiding it from me. I stopped talking to any guys during this time to focus on him. And we started doing really good the sex started getting better and we were happy again. He has always not trusted me and has been very insecure. He’s shorter than me and is below average in size and has said he’s insecure about it although it never bothered me. He showed up up at school late one night having a panic attack about me cheating on him (I wasn’t at this time and had never done it before, absolutely nothing i was extremely committed and monogamous) and it really hurt me that no matter what I did. He didn’t trust me. I couldn’t make any guy friends or go anywhere. I felt trapped. Also important to mention that one of my biggest problems wasn’t the sex or anything it was that I was practically his mom. I did his taxes, any and all paperwork, planned all the dates and financed them, I did his fafsa’s, his school paperwork, applications, resumes, and a lot of his homework. I wrote several essays he didn’t start until finals week and got him the grade he needed to pass the class. He was skipping classes and work and not telling me. He was also failing classes as well. What’s terrible about this is that I was using my unused loan money to pay for his school (under the expectation I’d get it back when he got a job) I tried so hard to help him with school and it barely got him by. So at this point he owes me over 20,000 most of which in loans I have to pay back. And has to complete 2 final courses to get his diploma by the end of the summer or he’ll have to come back. He hasn’t gotten a job yet (we work very limited hours at our school getting paid once a month at minimum wage) despite having been “looking” for the last 6 months (he’s an IT major). Anyways, fast forward to the night before he broke up with me: He went to my brother talked about it , called my best friend talk to her about it, didn’t sleep all night and waited until later in the day to break up with me while I was at work. He didn’t want discuss anything and we haven’t talked about any of it since. After I admitted I was feeling like Kms he went to my family and told them a lot of details. It really pissed me off and now my best friend won’t talk to me, which makes things a lot worse. Yes, to add one more important detail he has had a very easy life has been coddled and taken care of, and hasn’t had any tragedy in his life. I’ve been through a lot and on top of dealing with his depression. I have to deal with my brother and dad’s depression. Where I’m constantly talking my dad off the ledge and trying to keep him together and employed so he doesn’t lose the house. im emotionally and physically exhausted and I’ve had to be the mom to my brother dad and boyfriend for years. I was balancing this and full-time student and worker so I barely had enough time to focus on my own mental health and problems and never properly got to deal with my mom who committed suicide a little over a year ago in my old room. This isn’t meant to be a sad story and I don’t want anyone to feel bad for me but it kind of feels like I’ve been through a lot and had no one there for me where now he’s the victim because I fucked up.
I want to hear opinions and maybe advice on my situation to help me navigate my future and not lose all hope?
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2024.05.20 08:17 Haunting_Sale1858 I have no idea how my mom didn’t know something was up
I didn’t realize something was wrong with me until I started College at 18 (homeschooled my whole life because of family stuff). I never developed any coping mechanisms because I always did my work at the last minute and for test I would cram the night before. That was normal to me. I didn’t even study for my college entrance exam because I struggled with studying. I would get task paralysis and my mind would just go blank. I somehow scored high enough to not take any remedial classes.
I cruised through freshman and sophomore year of college until junior and senior year. My gpa started dropping because cramming was not working anymore. I graduated last year and now getting my masters and writing a thesis. I am still struggling even though I am on meds now.
I’m not sure how my mom never noticed something was up. I was with her 24/7.
My mother made sure to I read a lot. She would test me on books, but I did terrible because I would just read the words but never process it. We would spend hours going back over lessons plans that I was taught before because I would forget how to do it. Math was the worse, she was going to hold me back a grade.
I had many crying sessions and tear stained homework . I used to hit myself because I couldn’t understand simple stuff. She would ask me what was wrong with me and yell at me. I hated it.
I guess because I wasn’t the jumping and running around type? I never did that because I knew I would get in trouble for acting out.
Anytime I was faced with homework that was difficult I would day dream and draw pictures, chew on my pencils, paper or eraser ( realize I was stimming now). I would get yelled at for staring off into space. Always told I move too slow, I need to work harder, I need to listen more and follow directions (terrible at verbal directions). Extremely disorganized room always a mess. I didn’t realize I used to mouth peoples words when I was little either would get yelled at for that.
Also sensitivity to smells ( any time I smelled something I didn’t like I would gag), clothing: I hated turtle necks, scarves, hats, the puffer coats (the noise sends me into a completely rage) and when the line of my socks wouldn’t match up. Getting my hair done eugh the worse.
I’m glad I was able to figure out what was wrong , I thought I was stupid my whole life. I still hold that feeling sometimes.
Anyone experience the same?
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I cruised through freshman and sophomore year of college until junior and senior year. My gpa started dropping because cramming was not working anymore. I graduated last year and now getting my masters and writing a thesis. I am still struggling even though I am on meds now.
I’m not sure how my mom never noticed something was up. I was with her 24/7.
My mother made sure to I read a lot. She would test me on books, but I did terrible because I would just read the words but never process it. We would spend hours going back over lessons plans that I was taught before because I would forget how to do it. Math was the worse, she was going to hold me back a grade.
I had many crying sessions and tear stained homework . I used to hit myself because I couldn’t understand simple stuff. She would ask me what was wrong with me and yell at me. I hated it.
I guess because I wasn’t the jumping and running around type? I never did that because I knew I would get in trouble for acting out.
Anytime I was faced with homework that was difficult I would day dream and draw pictures, chew on my pencils, paper or eraser ( realize I was stimming now). I would get yelled at for staring off into space. Always told I move too slow, I need to work harder, I need to listen more and follow directions (terrible at verbal directions). Extremely disorganized room always a mess. I didn’t realize I used to mouth peoples words when I was little either would get yelled at for that.
Also sensitivity to smells ( any time I smelled something I didn’t like I would gag), clothing: I hated turtle necks, scarves, hats, the puffer coats (the noise sends me into a completely rage) and when the line of my socks wouldn’t match up. Getting my hair done eugh the worse.
I’m glad I was able to figure out what was wrong , I thought I was stupid my whole life. I still hold that feeling sometimes.
Anyone experience the same?
2024.05.20 08:15 Araedheltari New found product
I always love finding something new that works. Obviously mileage will vary for others:
https://www.fincaskinorganics.com
I was thinking about the fact that rosacea affects those of Irish and Celtic ancestry in large numbers and decided to look for Irish skin care brands specifically for rosacea. I’ve only been using it for a week but I’ve already seen a pretty substantial difference, as long as I wasn’t in direct sunlight my redness has been at its lowest level in a long time.
Using the generic version of soolantra once a day calmed down my most extreme flushing but I still generally have all over redness. I also had to restore my skin barrier prior to this and, for me, the drink elephant Bora Barrier repair and Marula face oil combined with an oil cleanser at night and minclear water in the morning is what did it. My skin still isn’t perfect but considering I’ve been struggling rosacea since I was in my early 20’s and am now in my early 30’s and after trying about every skin care and makeup product recommended to me, this is what has come closest to helping.
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https://www.fincaskinorganics.com
I was thinking about the fact that rosacea affects those of Irish and Celtic ancestry in large numbers and decided to look for Irish skin care brands specifically for rosacea. I’ve only been using it for a week but I’ve already seen a pretty substantial difference, as long as I wasn’t in direct sunlight my redness has been at its lowest level in a long time.
Using the generic version of soolantra once a day calmed down my most extreme flushing but I still generally have all over redness. I also had to restore my skin barrier prior to this and, for me, the drink elephant Bora Barrier repair and Marula face oil combined with an oil cleanser at night and minclear water in the morning is what did it. My skin still isn’t perfect but considering I’ve been struggling rosacea since I was in my early 20’s and am now in my early 30’s and after trying about every skin care and makeup product recommended to me, this is what has come closest to helping.
2024.05.20 08:13 BasilLive9469 Are these all warts ? If so please help me
Is this molluscum? Hi , I’m currently 22 years old, 140 pounds and 5’0 tall. I have been dealing with small worts for about 4 years now. It started off with one bigger wort on my right knee. I used to shave right over the wart and wound up spreading it all over my right leg. I would get them freezed off, then I thought I was in the clear to be able to shave my legs again. These bumps are so friggin tiny that you can only see it when the light is on them a certain way. I took cimetidine for 30 days twice and it worked but then stopped. Is there any other methods to rid of this for good. I’ve read that I have a form of HPV( not the genital ones lol). I’ve been taking vitamin c and zinc to try and boost my immune system. I’ve also been applying tretinoin 0.5 morning and night. Idk what else to do, can someone please help me. I don’t have the best of diets. I’m low in vitamin d and b12, and have high cholesterol. I’ve been taking prescription vitamins for that. Could that result in having a low immune system ? Maybe my stomache isn’t properly absorbing the vitamin c and zinc? I eat extremely spicy foods and consume a lot of sodium. I’ve somewhat fixed y diet but I’m at a loss , someone please help a girl out !! It won’t go away (not all marks are active warts on leg, some is just scarring from freezing them off.)
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2024.05.20 08:12 Brilliant_Bluebird_3 Advice on avoidant, quiet bpd ex?
Very long. Tbh was nice to just type all of this out.
Appreciate anyone who reads it.
We broke up 2 months ago. She’s very angry and as far as I know only victimizing herself. She hasn’t reflected on the relationship through my perspective at all. She shows no empathy and has only shown more narcissistic tendencies as time progressed. I recognize it’s been a short amount of time and ultimately I Love her and accept her for who she is. I am not perfect, I don’t say that to play the white night. I’ve spent days researching bpd to both ensure we can actually move forward if the opportunity presents itself and better understand her situation. She’s a quiet bpd. She never cheated or crossed any moral boundaries as well so I’m still very invested.
I feel like this extreme anger she still holds is a sign she holds feelings still? She recently broke no contact after a month and went through my phone to delete pics we agreed on. But she went through my entire phone, something we didn’t agree to. Deleting my messages with her…. Additionally Threatening to delete all of my pictures of her as she held my phone against me. Obviously I’m not going to yank it out of her hands so I backed off. She’s keeping tabs on me. Punishing me to try and make me hate her so she can move on easier it seems. (I’ve heard her say in the past she wanted to find out I was cheating to move on easier). She seems to be on an ego trip by her attitude and keeping me blocked. My reaction has been the opposite of her intention. I’ve responded saying I’m here for you when you’re ready to talk. I didn’t sit there blaming her when we spoke… I told her my perspective of things and that we both had issues and I don’t blame you, but you can’t keep victimizing yourself. The whole time I’m talking she looks like she could care less and is rolling her eyes. To be completely honest, I stalked her Pinterest… everything she was saving was extremely arrogant and pointing towards her devaluing me by making fun of my insecurities. As well as things that reinforced the notion of narcissistic traits. I never really recognized any of these things throughout the relationship, trapped in the fog I suppose.
To give some hindsight, she broke up with me. She wasn’t empathetic to say the least when I needed support and I was really struggling in life. Ultimately, I couldn’t support her emotionally as I did throughout our relationship. She grew incredibly codependent on me and I enabled it the entire duration. Quickly filling the victim and the caretaker. Losing that support put her in survival mode. I slowly grew resentful and defensive as she suffocated me with only her feelings everytime we had an argument. Looking back, not a single question was brought up about my general wellbeing. She slowly devalued me over a year and we then broke up. She feels like I betrayed her. In a way I did, but I needed her support for once and I broke down. I’m not perfect. I had a very difficult time communicating this to her, but there were a lot of nonverbal cues.
I’d really like advice if this no contact will even work. She’s obviously adamant about no further contact. Even beginning a smear campaign claiming I’m stalking her after I’ve reached out without her consent shortly after the breakup and I’ve sent her a bpd workbook through the mail after the whole phone interaction. She’s in therapy, but it could all be one sided. I’m working on myself so please don’t advise that. I’m moving on but at the same time I recognize that this could be a phase. I want her back. We’ve been together for two years, I don’t want to throw that away over miscommunication. I’m not trauma bonded. I assessed if I truly Love her. On top of that, I see that this isn’t easy for her. I finally understand why she was so reliant on me and I’m just sorry for her. I just want to hug her. I’m forced to wait honestly. I feel stuck until it’s been a longer duration of time. Any advice to get through to her? She’s stuck in black and white thinking. She can’t see my side of things at all. I see some posting saying they dissociate the ex and move on. Or continue to remain angry and move on. Wtf can I even do besides move on from her? I recognize this is from trauma. I recognize this is not her identity. I just want to at least have a conversation where she can actually be receptive.
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Appreciate anyone who reads it.
We broke up 2 months ago. She’s very angry and as far as I know only victimizing herself. She hasn’t reflected on the relationship through my perspective at all. She shows no empathy and has only shown more narcissistic tendencies as time progressed. I recognize it’s been a short amount of time and ultimately I Love her and accept her for who she is. I am not perfect, I don’t say that to play the white night. I’ve spent days researching bpd to both ensure we can actually move forward if the opportunity presents itself and better understand her situation. She’s a quiet bpd. She never cheated or crossed any moral boundaries as well so I’m still very invested.
I feel like this extreme anger she still holds is a sign she holds feelings still? She recently broke no contact after a month and went through my phone to delete pics we agreed on. But she went through my entire phone, something we didn’t agree to. Deleting my messages with her…. Additionally Threatening to delete all of my pictures of her as she held my phone against me. Obviously I’m not going to yank it out of her hands so I backed off. She’s keeping tabs on me. Punishing me to try and make me hate her so she can move on easier it seems. (I’ve heard her say in the past she wanted to find out I was cheating to move on easier). She seems to be on an ego trip by her attitude and keeping me blocked. My reaction has been the opposite of her intention. I’ve responded saying I’m here for you when you’re ready to talk. I didn’t sit there blaming her when we spoke… I told her my perspective of things and that we both had issues and I don’t blame you, but you can’t keep victimizing yourself. The whole time I’m talking she looks like she could care less and is rolling her eyes. To be completely honest, I stalked her Pinterest… everything she was saving was extremely arrogant and pointing towards her devaluing me by making fun of my insecurities. As well as things that reinforced the notion of narcissistic traits. I never really recognized any of these things throughout the relationship, trapped in the fog I suppose.
To give some hindsight, she broke up with me. She wasn’t empathetic to say the least when I needed support and I was really struggling in life. Ultimately, I couldn’t support her emotionally as I did throughout our relationship. She grew incredibly codependent on me and I enabled it the entire duration. Quickly filling the victim and the caretaker. Losing that support put her in survival mode. I slowly grew resentful and defensive as she suffocated me with only her feelings everytime we had an argument. Looking back, not a single question was brought up about my general wellbeing. She slowly devalued me over a year and we then broke up. She feels like I betrayed her. In a way I did, but I needed her support for once and I broke down. I’m not perfect. I had a very difficult time communicating this to her, but there were a lot of nonverbal cues.
I’d really like advice if this no contact will even work. She’s obviously adamant about no further contact. Even beginning a smear campaign claiming I’m stalking her after I’ve reached out without her consent shortly after the breakup and I’ve sent her a bpd workbook through the mail after the whole phone interaction. She’s in therapy, but it could all be one sided. I’m working on myself so please don’t advise that. I’m moving on but at the same time I recognize that this could be a phase. I want her back. We’ve been together for two years, I don’t want to throw that away over miscommunication. I’m not trauma bonded. I assessed if I truly Love her. On top of that, I see that this isn’t easy for her. I finally understand why she was so reliant on me and I’m just sorry for her. I just want to hug her. I’m forced to wait honestly. I feel stuck until it’s been a longer duration of time. Any advice to get through to her? She’s stuck in black and white thinking. She can’t see my side of things at all. I see some posting saying they dissociate the ex and move on. Or continue to remain angry and move on. Wtf can I even do besides move on from her? I recognize this is from trauma. I recognize this is not her identity. I just want to at least have a conversation where she can actually be receptive.
2024.05.20 08:10 Careless-Balance-893 Christian Influencer thankful her husband told her he's not attracted to her at all....
 | These relationship blogers prime women to be neglected and abused in their marriages. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 This is not acceptable. This is not a break thru. This is a man starting the process of devaluing and degrading you in the relationship. submitted by Careless-Balance-893 to BurbNBougie [link] [comments] I know before you either want to flame Elijah or question how brutal I looked, sit tight a second… See, I had been on a journey, of discovering and uncovering what it looked like to truly love myself — it had been a mixed bag of questioning my body image, being extremely critical on myself, and letting go of perfectionism. I thought I had come a long way in the realm of “loving myself” and honestly, I had. Yet, there were still some deeper layers that needed addressing. Elijah knew he was pressing on a sore subject. He knew this could be a deal breaker conversation — one that left me questioning if he could love me just the way I am. But, here is the deal, Elijah loved me, he loved me enough to point out the areas in my life that he knew were less than the best for me. See, the problem wasn’t that I didn’t put an ounce of effort into my appearance (ladies, I mean I never did my hair and wore the same leggings every day of the week, which truthfully there is nothing wrong with that if the reason is healthy and good). 👏🏼 He could see it was a part of a much deeper issue…I knew it too, I was just scared and overwhelmed to look at the honest truth. The point of sharing this story isn’t to highlight how well or not well I was taking care of myself…rather, I realized in this moment courageous conversations are often not just for you; but for the other person’s breakthrough. This wasn’t just a moment for Elijah to get something off his chest, but was a moment that spurred me in growth and healing because of his bravery. I don’t know about you, but having confrontational conversations are often the last thing I want to do. But, when I think about what might lie on the otherside of the concern it just for me, but that it might be a gift for the other person, it makes doing something that is challenging a little less daunting. My encouragement to you - if you feel the need to have a hard conversation with someone you love - remember, it might not just be for you, but for their breakthrough too. 🫶🏼" |
2024.05.20 08:09 _AquarianAvacados VENT IT OUT// I really can't make this ish up. I (slipped-up) messaged my once "friend"/ex of 11 yrs new gf exposing my conartist-esque ex after I had had enough of his games. And not even 2 weeks later....every single thing I attempted to expose - he is working on covering back up far quicker.
There is SO much through those horrible 11 years. But the last 2.5 have truly been the hardest, mostly because I am just EXHAUSTED to the point....I don't even usually bother fighting against a single thing/become comfortable as the door matt.
What did me in, is he owes my grandmother $3k for HIS HALF of unpaid debt to her. They are currently (under my dumb stupid blessing) are letting him rent what is my family's home they are leaving to me when they die for a whooping $600 a month. S I X HUNDRED. 3br 1bth huge fenced back and front yard. 3 porches. Huge attached garage. $600.......
He knew it was only a 6 month agreement. And that either I would be retaking my home, or the rent would be raised to $1000, as i would be taking $600 of it monthly and planned to use it towards a rental of my own. (My family and i truly helped him willingly, so he at least had 6 months to get on his feet.) I on the other hand, was fortunate enough to have my recently divorced bff of 25 years with an open room in her home, badabingbadaboom.
Truthfully, I was basically forced out of my house before I had a say. It wasn't my first choice to leave every bit if furniture/my daughter's bedroom set/ect...THAT I ALONE have purchased throughout the years, to my floppy meatsuit of an ex manchild who's idea of "hard labor" is mowing a lawn..but it was my ONLY choice. (That's another story for another day, lol. This one's long enough)
Anyways the 6 months is up, and it had come time to go forward with what was already previously understood as to happen...I should have seen it coming, given that he suddenly started to attempt far more communication (our child being his perfect excuse to disguise what was really going on....
.....and then THIS MF-ER...MAN.... My grandmother tells me on my way out after stopping by for breakfast, that my ex had told her unless they lower the rent for him, he won't pay the 3k debt from TWO years ago now (he promised as soon as he got his tax return, he would pay it) but now he'd need it to find another rental property......this 33 year old man....telling this to My sweet and kind grandmother, who is the a matriarch to my family mind you, she has basically RAISED this 33 year old brat since his infanthood (since he was 22 years old!). ~His parents were 2.5 hours away, his dad is an attorney in some podunk hillbilly town, and his mom is all the worst parts of the gossipy church women put together. They only cared about his younger sister and her two children, lol. So.~
I was floored. I told her something along the lines of "uhhhh I'm pretty sure that's a form of extortion????"
Anyways. I slept on it, and woke up to choosing violence. By violence, I mean I messaged the only thing I knew he "CARED" about, at least for now, until there's nothing for him to gain. I just wanted to make sure he knew where i stood really, and how careful he should tread with me now after hearing that.
...this girl was the other former bff of MY bff. She HATED me for at least a decade. "Frienmies" if yiu will. I had been told SEVERAL times around 6 years ago (ish) that she told our mutual bestie how she was going to "fuck my boyfriend, and get him to leave me. That he was her dream guy" LOFL ...and had witnessed/heard her myself FLIRT with him heavy and totally disrespectfully in front of me. Up until the day they boinked in secret, this girl followed all my social accounts religiously for allll these years....
You can imagine, I had some STUFF I was dying to let out, but I will say, I refrained from being an absolute c-word. I basically in the most passive aggressive tone, EXPOSED what my exs current game was with my family home and the mistreatment of my grandparents.
I told her to ask about his stomach illness he faked so well, had me so SO sympathetic towards him that I asked if he would just instead making basically double pay for the summer months (school district employee) and not taking off....to take off, an I would just work ot graves or whatever extra I could/did...and then how the DAY BEFORE our child started 1st grade, he pulled the rug out from under by creating a literally pointless 4 hours screaming match.....and leaving me, the house, the dogs, and the bills high and dry. No tummy ache to ever come about again...
Or how he had a disguised app with nudes and texts from women he cheated on me with or had fucked when we were in a slump/split. And how she's also in it.
And to ask the father of the year what his 7 year olds doctors name was...we used her since the 2day infant visit lol.
Or to ask him who's been the provider for our child's education since 3 years of age. Her insurance. Dental. Ect. (Hint: it's not him).
I asked her to ask him why he told me that she "owned her own home and was so independent and worked so hard to be where she is now" as a means to rub salt in my wounds while he forced me out if my/OUR old home in the worst mental depression I'd ever dealt with.....when that is not true because she cheated on her husband with multiple men while he was deployed and lost her Marital home in divorce. She lives with her parents and two younger brothers.
Why he was still.texting me and sending me his unsolicited or answered selfies to me.
I wrapped it up with my point of the information being that for my exs sake, I pleaded she encouraged him to don"the right thing".
I mean....I knew he was putting on a dog and pony show for her from day 1. He's a fraud, I learned that over and over. He will lie/manipulative/step on whatever and whoever without a care in the world, all while making whoever they choose to feel as if they're to blame if any sort of conflicts or grievance against them rose.
So I knew in my exes false reality he was painting for this chick was no doubt of how amazing a father he is, and how shitty of a parent and person I am in turn....
side note: ffs he even lowered his own vocal tone forcefully when j met him 11 yrs ago to disguise his godawful nasal screach
WITHIN 10 DAYS. NOT EVEN 2 WEEKS Of me sending her all this...
First text - him asking for our childs doctor's information for the first time in 5 years. Evidently they had a sore throat in the middle of the night. (Mmmmok)
4 days later - he is asking if we could discuss getting her needed dental work finished up as we've put it off for a while (he literally never cared the first phase lol)
That same day - he is pandering sympathy and attention because he's suddenly having stomach attacks again and he's got a colonoscopy scheduled and blahblahblahhhhhh.
I mean....literally the list of the shit I exposed directly goes on and on.....and he made sure to cover up each one down the line. Like. If that isn't "master manipulation".....what is? There has got to be a word for this oh so insanely predictable behavior lol.
Certainly. I'd hope the chick truly SEES what is happening? That the dude is literally whether subconsciously/uncontrollably covering up his actions because he knows deep down, what was done was wrong all around...or just creating and perfecting his own stage right before our eyes? Lol RIGHT?!
I just have to laugh at it all now. It's just a RL sitcom of disaster at this point. 😑
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What did me in, is he owes my grandmother $3k for HIS HALF of unpaid debt to her. They are currently (under my dumb stupid blessing) are letting him rent what is my family's home they are leaving to me when they die for a whooping $600 a month. S I X HUNDRED. 3br 1bth huge fenced back and front yard. 3 porches. Huge attached garage. $600.......
He knew it was only a 6 month agreement. And that either I would be retaking my home, or the rent would be raised to $1000, as i would be taking $600 of it monthly and planned to use it towards a rental of my own. (My family and i truly helped him willingly, so he at least had 6 months to get on his feet.) I on the other hand, was fortunate enough to have my recently divorced bff of 25 years with an open room in her home, badabingbadaboom.
Truthfully, I was basically forced out of my house before I had a say. It wasn't my first choice to leave every bit if furniture/my daughter's bedroom set/ect...THAT I ALONE have purchased throughout the years, to my floppy meatsuit of an ex manchild who's idea of "hard labor" is mowing a lawn..but it was my ONLY choice. (That's another story for another day, lol. This one's long enough)
Anyways the 6 months is up, and it had come time to go forward with what was already previously understood as to happen...I should have seen it coming, given that he suddenly started to attempt far more communication (our child being his perfect excuse to disguise what was really going on....
.....and then THIS MF-ER...MAN.... My grandmother tells me on my way out after stopping by for breakfast, that my ex had told her unless they lower the rent for him, he won't pay the 3k debt from TWO years ago now (he promised as soon as he got his tax return, he would pay it) but now he'd need it to find another rental property......this 33 year old man....telling this to My sweet and kind grandmother, who is the a matriarch to my family mind you, she has basically RAISED this 33 year old brat since his infanthood (since he was 22 years old!). ~His parents were 2.5 hours away, his dad is an attorney in some podunk hillbilly town, and his mom is all the worst parts of the gossipy church women put together. They only cared about his younger sister and her two children, lol. So.~
I was floored. I told her something along the lines of "uhhhh I'm pretty sure that's a form of extortion????"
Anyways. I slept on it, and woke up to choosing violence. By violence, I mean I messaged the only thing I knew he "CARED" about, at least for now, until there's nothing for him to gain. I just wanted to make sure he knew where i stood really, and how careful he should tread with me now after hearing that.
...this girl was the other former bff of MY bff. She HATED me for at least a decade. "Frienmies" if yiu will. I had been told SEVERAL times around 6 years ago (ish) that she told our mutual bestie how she was going to "fuck my boyfriend, and get him to leave me. That he was her dream guy" LOFL ...and had witnessed/heard her myself FLIRT with him heavy and totally disrespectfully in front of me. Up until the day they boinked in secret, this girl followed all my social accounts religiously for allll these years....
You can imagine, I had some STUFF I was dying to let out, but I will say, I refrained from being an absolute c-word. I basically in the most passive aggressive tone, EXPOSED what my exs current game was with my family home and the mistreatment of my grandparents.
I told her to ask about his stomach illness he faked so well, had me so SO sympathetic towards him that I asked if he would just instead making basically double pay for the summer months (school district employee) and not taking off....to take off, an I would just work ot graves or whatever extra I could/did...and then how the DAY BEFORE our child started 1st grade, he pulled the rug out from under by creating a literally pointless 4 hours screaming match.....and leaving me, the house, the dogs, and the bills high and dry. No tummy ache to ever come about again...
Or how he had a disguised app with nudes and texts from women he cheated on me with or had fucked when we were in a slump/split. And how she's also in it.
And to ask the father of the year what his 7 year olds doctors name was...we used her since the 2day infant visit lol.
Or to ask him who's been the provider for our child's education since 3 years of age. Her insurance. Dental. Ect. (Hint: it's not him).
I asked her to ask him why he told me that she "owned her own home and was so independent and worked so hard to be where she is now" as a means to rub salt in my wounds while he forced me out if my/OUR old home in the worst mental depression I'd ever dealt with.....when that is not true because she cheated on her husband with multiple men while he was deployed and lost her Marital home in divorce. She lives with her parents and two younger brothers.
Why he was still.texting me and sending me his unsolicited or answered selfies to me.
I wrapped it up with my point of the information being that for my exs sake, I pleaded she encouraged him to don"the right thing".
I mean....I knew he was putting on a dog and pony show for her from day 1. He's a fraud, I learned that over and over. He will lie/manipulative/step on whatever and whoever without a care in the world, all while making whoever they choose to feel as if they're to blame if any sort of conflicts or grievance against them rose.
So I knew in my exes false reality he was painting for this chick was no doubt of how amazing a father he is, and how shitty of a parent and person I am in turn....
side note: ffs he even lowered his own vocal tone forcefully when j met him 11 yrs ago to disguise his godawful nasal screach
WITHIN 10 DAYS. NOT EVEN 2 WEEKS Of me sending her all this...
First text - him asking for our childs doctor's information for the first time in 5 years. Evidently they had a sore throat in the middle of the night. (Mmmmok)
4 days later - he is asking if we could discuss getting her needed dental work finished up as we've put it off for a while (he literally never cared the first phase lol)
That same day - he is pandering sympathy and attention because he's suddenly having stomach attacks again and he's got a colonoscopy scheduled and blahblahblahhhhhh.
I mean....literally the list of the shit I exposed directly goes on and on.....and he made sure to cover up each one down the line. Like. If that isn't "master manipulation".....what is? There has got to be a word for this oh so insanely predictable behavior lol.
Certainly. I'd hope the chick truly SEES what is happening? That the dude is literally whether subconsciously/uncontrollably covering up his actions because he knows deep down, what was done was wrong all around...or just creating and perfecting his own stage right before our eyes? Lol RIGHT?!
I just have to laugh at it all now. It's just a RL sitcom of disaster at this point. 😑
2024.05.20 07:53 sheepofwater Itchy dry throat for no reason! Please help!!
Hi, I’m 26F, approx 190lbs. I take minoxidil and spironactone for hair loss and acne. for the past 5 days my throats been so itchy and dry. I’m staying extra hydrated (in the past hour i’ve drank 5 bottles of water) and i’ve literally tried everything. Honey, tea, humidifier, cough drops, throat spray, allergy pills, even cough syrup! i’m literally so frustrated because i cannot fall asleep! and even when i do sleep it’s not very good sleep. It’s just a constant dry tickle that won’t go away. i have no idea what the problem could be, i haven’t been doing anything new to spark this random dry itch. No matter how much water i drink, my throat just stays dry on one side. It’s not even sore, just so dry. i have no other symptoms, im not congested or anything else. No fever. I just have a headache from coughing so much. I’m desperate for relief. Please help, i’m so frustrated! :(
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2024.05.20 07:51 GhoulGriin Best Chanel Chance Perfume
 | submitted by GhoulGriin to u/GhoulGriin [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/xrk6yw9usi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=86300f7d1584dfdfe20e33e55abb214a3b811757 Finding the perfect scent can be a journey, but one collection that consistently delivers is the Chanel Chance Perfume line. In this roundup, we'll explore the various Chance fragrances, along with their distinct notes and profiles. Whether you're a fan of chic, timeless Chanel or just looking for a new olfactory adventure, you'll find everything you need to know here. So sit back, relax, and let us guide you through the world of Chanel Chance. The Top 8 Best Chanel Chance Perfume
Reviews🔗Delicate and Vivacious: Chance Eau Fraiche Eau de Parfumhttps://preview.redd.it/tahcqetusi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fd41e8674b448afa096b27159c188579e2f22112 I was initially skeptical about the Chanel Chance Eau Fraiche Eau de Parfum Spray, but after using it for a few weeks, I've become quite a fan. The fragrance is a perfect blend of citrusy freshness and floral sweetness, with a touch of woodiness that adds depth and warmth. It's a scent that's both invigorating and comforting, making it perfect for any occasion. One thing that really stood out to me was the longevity of the fragrance. Even after a long day, I could still catch a whiff of the lovely scent, which made me feel confident and put-together. Additionally, the packaging is elegant and sophisticated, just like the perfume itself. The one downside that I noticed was the price. While the quality of the product is undeniable, it's definitely on the pricier side. However, I believe it's worth the investment if you're looking for a high-quality, luxurious fragrance that will last all day. Overall, I would highly recommend the Chanel Chance Eau Fraiche Eau de Parfum Spray to anyone looking for a fresh, floral, and sensual scent. While it may not be for everyone, it's definitely worth a try! 🔗Chanel Chance Eau de Toilette 1.2 oz: Refreshing Floral Fragrance for Womenhttps://preview.redd.it/vxxizecvsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8f13208f3e39f86b3bfbb33cbc87375ba71c516b Well, where do I begin? I've been using the Chanel Chance Eau de Toilette for some time now and it's safe to say it has become a staple in my daily routine. The first time I spritzed this on, I was instantly drawn to its refreshing floral bouquet. The mix of citrus notes with a hint of vanilla and white musk creates a lovely aroma that's both energetic and soothing at the same time. I can't help but feel refreshed every time I use it, like I'm starting my day on a positive note. One of my favorite features about this perfume is its versatility. It's not too overpowering but also doesn't disappear after just a few hours. I find myself getting compliments on how I smell whenever I wear this, which always brings a smile to my face. The elegance of the bottle also adds to its appeal, making it a perfect gift for someone special. However, there are a couple of things that could be improved upon. On some occasions, I've noticed that the scent can become a bit heavier and might not appeal to everyone's preference. Additionally, some users have found the price to be on the higher side, which might discourage others from giving it a try. All in all, if you're looking for a timeless and elegant fragrance, I would highly recommend giving the Chanel Chance Eau de Toilette a shot. It has certainly lived up to its reputation in my experience, and I believe it would make anyone's day feel just a little bit brighter. 🔗CHanel Chance Eau Tendre Travel Sethttps://preview.redd.it/8pi3k7kvsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a0f5c9a7a3c0b16bd82d5af39f14c53af43d2ba9 I was excited to give CHANEL's Chance Eau Tendre eau de toilette a try after hearing good things about it. The first thing that impressed me was the packaging. It came in a beautiful box that perfectly encapsulated the elegance I associated with the brand. The scent itself is a delightful mix of fresh and fruity notes. It's mostly dominated by grapefruit and quince, with hints of jasmine and white musk in the background. I found it to be very pleasant – light enough for daily use but also unique enough to stand out from other fragrances I've tried. One feature that stood out to me was the twist-and-spray atomizer. It made applying the perfume super easy and convenient, especially when I was on the go. However, I did wish the scent lingered a bit longer. On some days, I felt I had to reapply after 3-4 hours because it wore off. Despite this minor issue, I absolutely loved this product. The combination of its fresh scent and ease of application made it a must-have in my beauty routine. Plus, the twist-and-spray atomizer ensured that I could take it anywhere without worrying about spills or leaks. In conclusion, whether you're buying it for yourself or as a gift, CHANEL's Chance Eau Tendre eau de toilette is definitely worth considering. Its radiant scent and user-friendly design make it stand out from other perfumes on the market. 🔗Chanel Chance Hair Perfume Mist, Exquisite EDP for Hairhttps://preview.redd.it/0h9crq0wsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=14ea47a0d9b3b0b29976b2f7a5ffdd87d28cc302 I recently incorporated Chanel's Chance Parfum Hair Mist into my daily routine, and I'm absolutely smitten with it. The delicate scent of jasmine, pink pepper, patchouli, and vanilla creates an intoxicating aroma that perfectly complements my natural fragrance. Its long-lasting power means I don't have to constantly reapply throughout the day, making sure I always feel fresh and confident. Plus, it's incredibly easy to use - just a few spritzes onto my hair and I'm good to go! However, there are a couple of minor downsides worth mentioning. Firstly, the price point may be slightly high for some people, especially considering it's only available in a 35ml bottle. Additionally, the potency of the scent might be too strong for those who prefer a more subtle fragrance. Overall, Chanel's Chance Parfum Hair Mist has quickly become a staple in my beauty routine. Its luxurious scent and convenient packaging make it perfect for both casual daytime use and special occasions. I highly recommend giving this hair mist a try if you're looking to elevate your daily beauty regimen with a touch of Chanel elegance. 🔗Chanel Chance Eau Tendre Hair Mist - 35ml - Floral-Fruity Scent for Womenhttps://preview.redd.it/lv2060ewsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=77775677b88d6f9c276968d63776e364682ea573 I recently tried Chanel's Chance Eau Tendre Hair Mist, and I must say I'm quite impressed! This little bottle packs a big punch when it comes to scent. Infused with notes of grapefruit and jasmine, the aroma it leaves on my hair is simply intoxicating. The hair mist's spray dispenser makes application super easy and mess-free. One thing that really stood out for me was the long-lasting fragrance. Even after a day spent out in the sun, my hair still retains that delicate floral-fruity scent that everyone seems to love. It's definitely a nice change from the harsh, alcohol-based perfumes that can often dry out my locks. However, I will mention that if you're looking for a heavy, powerful scent, this might not be the product for you. The scent strength here is quite light and subtle - perfect for those who prefer a more understated aroma. In conclusion, if you're in search of a delightful hair mist that will leave your tresses smelling fresh and lovely all day long, look no further than Chanel Chance Eau Tendre! Just remember to shake the bottle before using as some separation may occur due to the lack of alcohol in the formula. 🔗Chanel Chance Tendre Eau De Toilette Sprayhttps://preview.redd.it/xncgxsswsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7e28fac39ca17548d3a33db97790d8548068a6a9 As a long-time fan of Chanel's exquisite fragrances, I was thrilled to discover their latest offering, the Chance Eau Tendre Eau De Toilette Spray. This delightful scent has quickly become my go-to for those days when I need a little extra boost of confidence. From the moment I first spritzed it on, I was captivated by the harmonious blend of fruity and floral notes that dance on the skin. The initial burst of citrus is perfectly balanced by the subtle hints of jasmine and rose, creating a fresh and vibrant bouquet that lingers throughout the day. It's no wonder this is Chanel's bestselling fragrance family - it truly embodies elegance and sophistication. One of my favorite aspects of this perfume is its impressive longevity. Even on days when I'm constantly on the go, the scent remains with me, enveloping me in its captivating aura. Whether I'm attending a sophisticated event or simply embracing the everyday moments of life, Chance Eau Tendre complements my presence with an understated elegance that leaves a lasting impression. However, no product is perfect, and there are a few minor drawbacks to this otherwise exceptional fragrance. Some users may find the scent strength to be slightly too light, particularly in comparison to other Chanel perfumes. Additionally, due to its delicate nature, it may not be the most versatile choice for those who prefer a bold and intense aroma. In conclusion, if you're seeking a fragrance that exudes femininity and charm, look no further than Chanel's Chance Eau Tendre Eau De Toilette Spray. Its enchanting blend of fruity and floral notes, coupled with its impressive longevity, make it a timeless classic that is sure to leave a lasting impression on all who encounter it. 🔗Chanel Chance Eau Tendre Eau de Parfum Set for Classic Everyday Scentshttps://preview.redd.it/kne00q9xsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=48eda2b831e0347ee0f2dca9ceab12467cf46c1b Chance Chanel is my go-to perfume for any occasion. From the moment I spritzed it on, I was transported to a world of elegance and sophistication. The delicate floral scent, with its hints of jasmine and rose, is simply divine. What's even better is that this perfume has great longevity, lasting all day without being overpowering. Not only do I get countless compliments when I wear it, but it also makes me feel confident and radiant. The packaging is nothing short of stunning – a sleek glass bottle adorned with the iconic double-C logo, a true symbol of timeless beauty and elegance. If you're looking for a perfume that embodies femininity with a touch of Chanel's signature sophistication, Chance Chanel Eau Tendre is definitely worth a try. " Its standout feature is the beautiful blend of floral and fruity notes, which creates a scent that is both fresh and romantic. The top notes of grapefruit and quince are zesty and uplifting, while the heart of the fragrance is dominated by delicate jasmine and hyacinth. The base notes add a warm and comforting touch with their hints of musk, amber, and cedarwood. The packaging is equally impressive – a simple yet elegant design with the iconic Chanel logo. However, I must admit that I had a slightly disappointing experience with one particular purchase of this perfume. The scent of the new bottle was nothing like the product I had been using for years, which was a real let-down. Fortunately, the customer service team at Sephora were quick to replace the faulty bottle, but it's something to be aware of if you decide to purchase this perfume. Overall, though, Chance Chanel Eau Tendre is a beautiful fragrance that is perfect for anyone who loves a soft and romantic scent. Its longevity is impressive, and the packaging is classic and timeless. If you're looking for a delicate and feminine perfume that will make you feel confident and radiant, then this one is definitely worth trying. 🔗Chanel Chance Fragrance Duo Travel Sethttps://preview.redd.it/ojjzwltxsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c0bb46ee2dc4c42e003c9443ee5ea3158005fe4b I was excited to try out the Chanel Chance Eau Tendre & Chance Eau Fraîche Set during a recent trip, as I was looking for a versatile fragrance that could transition from day to night. As someone who's always on the go, the round, travel-friendly bottle instantly caught my eye - it's perfect for tossing into my bag to refresh my scent throughout the day. First, I dove into the CHANCE EAU TENDRE Eau de Toilette, which features a lovely, fruity scent. It's like having a beautiful garden of soft, tender floral notes wrapped around me, making me feel fresh and revitalized. The green and fruity grapefruit-quince accord adds a unique twist that I absolutely adore. This scent was my favorite of the two, as it was perfect for the warm summer days I was experiencing while traveling. However, when I transitioned to the CHANCE EAU FRAîCHE Eau de Toilette, I have to admit, I was a bit disappointed. While it was pleasant and refreshing with its zesty freshness of citron combined with jasmine and teak-wood notes, it didn't have the same allure or captivating quality as the Tendre version. One issue I encountered with this set was the price point. For $180, I expected more value, and it would be nice to receive a discount for purchasing both scents together. But honestly, the Eau Tendre fragrance alone made the purchase worthwhile for me. Overall, the Chance Eau Tendre is my go-to choice for a light, fruit-infused, floral scent that adds a touch of elegance to any day. Buyer's GuideNone https://preview.redd.it/ynipvo6ysi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fa3cc258ef607203cc38720cf6d56a9a0eb67b62 FAQWhat is Chanel Chance Perfume?Chanel Chance is a popular line of fragrances by the renowned luxury fashion house, Chanel. This collection features several distinct scents, with each one offering a unique blend of notes and aromas to suit different styles and preferences. https://preview.redd.it/hondsrlysi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4ff07e6fbe9872a72595c109609aa3cdcf76ac10 How many Chanel Chance Perfumes are there?There are currently four main Chanel Chance fragrances: Chance Eau Fraîche, Chance Eau Tendre, Chance Eau Vive, and the original Chance. Each has its own set of notes, making each variant unique in its own right.Who is the target audience for Chanel Chance Perfume?Chanel Chance Perfume is designed for a wide range of users, catering to both men and women. Each scent in the collection has been crafted to capture the essence of confidence, spontaneity, and modern femininity or masculinity.https://preview.redd.it/oyjwrswysi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ece2a689aa57ed3c1aacdbd6df586e594b69addb What are the different Chane Chance Perfume scents?
How long does Chanel Chance Perfume last on the skin?The longevity of a perfume largely depends on multiple factors, such as skin type, fragrance concentration, and environmental factors like temperature and humidity. Generally, the Chanel Chance fragrances are known for their good performance and lasting power on the skin, with some users reporting that they last for several hours. https://preview.redd.it/4uafq8lzsi1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ff90762949a7dc3d34e59b52039dafa293ec94b2 Are Chanel Chance Perfumes suitable for all seasons?Yes, the Chanel Chance perfumes are designed to be suitable for all seasons. While some might cater to certain seasons more, each fragrance in the collection can be worn throughout the year, depending on your personal preferences and scent preferences for specific seasons.Where can I purchase Chanel Chance Perfumes?Chanel Chance Perfumes can be purchased at various brick-and-mortar stores, as well as through reputed online retailers. Always ensure that you're buying from an authenticated retailer to maintain the quality and integrity of your perfume purchase.Are there any travel-sized versions of Chanel Chance Perfumes available?Yes, Chanel offers travel-sized versions of some of its Chance perfumes to allow users to carry their favorite scents with them on-the-go. These compact versions come in the same elegant packaging as their full-sized counterparts, making them perfect for travel and everyday use.How should I store my Chanel Chance Perfume?To maintain the quality and longevity of your Chanel Chance Perfume, store it in a cool, dark place away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures. Keeping the cap on tightly will also help preserve its fragrance and prevent any unwanted evaporation.Are Chanel Chance Perfumes cruelty-free and environmentally friendly?Chanel is committed to ethical practices and the responsible use of resources in its production processes. While specific information regarding the exact production methods of their Chance fragrances may not be available, the company regularly updates its sustainability initiatives and maintains a commitment to ethical practices across its product lines.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.20 07:47 mistakenusernames Nurse offered liquid steroid for cough, what is this magic?
Months back my brother was passing and hadn’t yet been moved to hospice so I was spending my time in the ICU managing care etc and not managing an infection I had, wasn’t taking my antibiotics, I was a mess (I promise I got the lecture I’ll never do that again) it got so bad that one day I realized breathing was very hard, swallowing become difficult, it was at that moment it occurred to me there was an er a few floors down.
Amazingly nice staff, they got me in and out knowing if I got called upstairs I’d have to start my wait over, I was given my lecture about taking meds properly to which I had to confirm I understood before a gift was bestowed upon me. I did just that and was told “you’ll be thanking us tomorrow” in addition to antibiotics they gave me a dose of steroids in liquid form that a nurse squirt down my throat as two people stood in front of me waiting for me to puke. They assured me it was the worst taste on the planet. I didn’t taste anything and really didn’t see what the big deal was. Apparently it was the gift I didn’t know needed. They kept saying “you’re welcome” “you’ll feel so much better tomorrow” for context my cough was so bad it hurt my stomach. I was not fit to be out of bed but.. you know, passing relative.
I go home that night all my same symptoms, cough myself to sleep and then… I wake up…. Cured. Ok I had an infection still but I was not symptomatic AT ALL. I’ve never heard of this or gotten it before with an URI, it was magical. Was I given a special gift? Is this something I can ask for in the future? Is this magical cure common? Why haven’t I had it before? Does anyone know if it’s just liquid prednisone or? They only told me it was steroids. I have a friend really sick and I want to tell her to ask for this but I don’t know if it’s a thing or they were doing me a solid considering what was going on.
Also, just in case they read this. Thank you kind staff that gave me the strength (literally) to get through the following days.
TL;dr liquid steroid squirt down throat is a miracle, is it indicated often and is it a specific steroid?
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Amazingly nice staff, they got me in and out knowing if I got called upstairs I’d have to start my wait over, I was given my lecture about taking meds properly to which I had to confirm I understood before a gift was bestowed upon me. I did just that and was told “you’ll be thanking us tomorrow” in addition to antibiotics they gave me a dose of steroids in liquid form that a nurse squirt down my throat as two people stood in front of me waiting for me to puke. They assured me it was the worst taste on the planet. I didn’t taste anything and really didn’t see what the big deal was. Apparently it was the gift I didn’t know needed. They kept saying “you’re welcome” “you’ll feel so much better tomorrow” for context my cough was so bad it hurt my stomach. I was not fit to be out of bed but.. you know, passing relative.
I go home that night all my same symptoms, cough myself to sleep and then… I wake up…. Cured. Ok I had an infection still but I was not symptomatic AT ALL. I’ve never heard of this or gotten it before with an URI, it was magical. Was I given a special gift? Is this something I can ask for in the future? Is this magical cure common? Why haven’t I had it before? Does anyone know if it’s just liquid prednisone or? They only told me it was steroids. I have a friend really sick and I want to tell her to ask for this but I don’t know if it’s a thing or they were doing me a solid considering what was going on.
Also, just in case they read this. Thank you kind staff that gave me the strength (literally) to get through the following days.
TL;dr liquid steroid squirt down throat is a miracle, is it indicated often and is it a specific steroid?
2024.05.20 07:47 Short_Rough_3529 FMIL is very possessive ☠️
My future mother in law (FMIL) is in her late 60’s, my fiancé is 26, and I am 24. We were recently engaged and it’s really stirred up my anxiety and stress over my relationship with my FMIL.
So imma give you guys some information into my fiancé’s relationship with his mom. He is a only child, he was a twin at birth but his sibling did pass away at birth, and his mom also had one child forcibly adopted by her parents due to her being a young age at the time of birth. All that being said, she’s extremely attached to her son. I understand all of the trauma from all of those events as they are all rightfully crazy traumatic. Also her husband recently in the past few years, passed from Covid. I cannot imagine or fully comprehend myself all of the feelings she must have gone through and I just want to be super clear that I do understand it all and I am sensitive to it all.
With all this being said, fiancé and I have been together for three ish years. His relationship when it’s considered in just both of us, no one else involved, it’s great! Like the absolute love of my life, treats me like an absolute queen, and takes such care into our relationship and making sure it thrives. Now when we involve my family and my FMIL, it all legitimately goes to hell. My family is a lot, but through a lot of great therapy (Therapy helps y’all) I’ve worked hard to make it work and it be healthy relationships only. Now fiancé has never really had good relationships with his family. His dad really just worked his entire life, really had nothing to do with him until his adulthood. He worked nonstop. His mother also worked, legitimately nonstop. My fiancé was very neglected as a child, physically and mentally, and he still doesn’t fully understand it. Just as an example, he had never been to a doctor in his entire life. Even with broken bones😐. He was to just work through the pain and life with it. It was bad to say the least but what his parents really did get into his brain is that he will take care of his aging parents until the day that they are dead, even though they barely kept him alive. He still believes this, which has been the cause of a lot of fights as it really is starting to interfere with our relationship.
FMIL is struggling pretty bad with her mental health, and physical health. She does not believe in the medical system. She refuses it all. So she is not in the best shape, she lives alone as my fiancé has lived with me for a few years now, and she’s just not doing good mentally.
Now I know, I’m not asking my fiancé to cut communications outright, but in the past year I was made aware by phone records on our jointly phone bill of the amount that she was calling him. Mind you, we both have full time jobs, 40 hour weeks are our minimum and usually towards 50-60 hours. FMIL was calling my fiancé about 5-10 times a day ranging between 3min - 60min calls. It’s really all over the place. But my fiancé always finds the time in his day to answer her, whether at work or at home. This started to really interfere with our relationship, I mean she would almost always call during sex (fucking weird) or she would call every night, right as we were settling into our routine. Like I’m sorry, a text would suffice for bedtime, not a 30 min conversation every night about how her day was, arguing with him, shaming him, crying usually (I understand why she is sad, I am not okay that she refuses to do anything about it), and making a big deal while I lay in bed every night alone waiting. It was absurd and I did make a big deal about it, pointing it all out to him, as it was interfering with us, and it really did get better for a good 6mo or more, but now we are back to it except 1000 times worse. We will be in restaurants, in dinners with family and friends, in shops shopping together, she will call him and he will drop everything for the call and her. She is starting to have a lot more mental breakdowns about everything, that she does make all my fiancés responsibility to fix. He will never miss a call from her, and will never end a call early. They talk more than I really think as a couple, we do during the day sometimes with our hours. It’s just so hard. I want to spend time with my fiancé and not talk about his ridiculous mother’s current problems.
Fiancé does always wonder why I don’t want any part to do with FMIL, or to go do anything with her. In truth, she never stops complaining when we are together, she is so incredibly negative that it brings my spirit down so hard. She has also in the past made extremely hateful comments about me, she’s convinced I’m stealing him, and that he’ll never be hers again (very possessive). I do not feel comfortable being around her and it just sucks. I wanted a good FMIL relationship but I have tried for 3ish years and I just can’t. Is this something that I just need to wait it out, fight it, or morbidly just wait until she dies and I don’t have to deal with this. I know I accepted an engagement but I did not accept a relationship with his mother like this, and mentally I’m so over it, I don’t know what I can do in the situation other than give a choice to my fiancé of which one he’s going to prioritize and if it’s not me, then I’ve got to leave right? My parents, as narcissistic as they are, have seen all of this and have offered a safe place to live in the case of that.
Please give helpful advice, but please be kind lol I’m not mentally okay after dealing with all this and it’s really taking a toll.
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So imma give you guys some information into my fiancé’s relationship with his mom. He is a only child, he was a twin at birth but his sibling did pass away at birth, and his mom also had one child forcibly adopted by her parents due to her being a young age at the time of birth. All that being said, she’s extremely attached to her son. I understand all of the trauma from all of those events as they are all rightfully crazy traumatic. Also her husband recently in the past few years, passed from Covid. I cannot imagine or fully comprehend myself all of the feelings she must have gone through and I just want to be super clear that I do understand it all and I am sensitive to it all.
With all this being said, fiancé and I have been together for three ish years. His relationship when it’s considered in just both of us, no one else involved, it’s great! Like the absolute love of my life, treats me like an absolute queen, and takes such care into our relationship and making sure it thrives. Now when we involve my family and my FMIL, it all legitimately goes to hell. My family is a lot, but through a lot of great therapy (Therapy helps y’all) I’ve worked hard to make it work and it be healthy relationships only. Now fiancé has never really had good relationships with his family. His dad really just worked his entire life, really had nothing to do with him until his adulthood. He worked nonstop. His mother also worked, legitimately nonstop. My fiancé was very neglected as a child, physically and mentally, and he still doesn’t fully understand it. Just as an example, he had never been to a doctor in his entire life. Even with broken bones😐. He was to just work through the pain and life with it. It was bad to say the least but what his parents really did get into his brain is that he will take care of his aging parents until the day that they are dead, even though they barely kept him alive. He still believes this, which has been the cause of a lot of fights as it really is starting to interfere with our relationship.
FMIL is struggling pretty bad with her mental health, and physical health. She does not believe in the medical system. She refuses it all. So she is not in the best shape, she lives alone as my fiancé has lived with me for a few years now, and she’s just not doing good mentally.
Now I know, I’m not asking my fiancé to cut communications outright, but in the past year I was made aware by phone records on our jointly phone bill of the amount that she was calling him. Mind you, we both have full time jobs, 40 hour weeks are our minimum and usually towards 50-60 hours. FMIL was calling my fiancé about 5-10 times a day ranging between 3min - 60min calls. It’s really all over the place. But my fiancé always finds the time in his day to answer her, whether at work or at home. This started to really interfere with our relationship, I mean she would almost always call during sex (fucking weird) or she would call every night, right as we were settling into our routine. Like I’m sorry, a text would suffice for bedtime, not a 30 min conversation every night about how her day was, arguing with him, shaming him, crying usually (I understand why she is sad, I am not okay that she refuses to do anything about it), and making a big deal while I lay in bed every night alone waiting. It was absurd and I did make a big deal about it, pointing it all out to him, as it was interfering with us, and it really did get better for a good 6mo or more, but now we are back to it except 1000 times worse. We will be in restaurants, in dinners with family and friends, in shops shopping together, she will call him and he will drop everything for the call and her. She is starting to have a lot more mental breakdowns about everything, that she does make all my fiancés responsibility to fix. He will never miss a call from her, and will never end a call early. They talk more than I really think as a couple, we do during the day sometimes with our hours. It’s just so hard. I want to spend time with my fiancé and not talk about his ridiculous mother’s current problems.
Fiancé does always wonder why I don’t want any part to do with FMIL, or to go do anything with her. In truth, she never stops complaining when we are together, she is so incredibly negative that it brings my spirit down so hard. She has also in the past made extremely hateful comments about me, she’s convinced I’m stealing him, and that he’ll never be hers again (very possessive). I do not feel comfortable being around her and it just sucks. I wanted a good FMIL relationship but I have tried for 3ish years and I just can’t. Is this something that I just need to wait it out, fight it, or morbidly just wait until she dies and I don’t have to deal with this. I know I accepted an engagement but I did not accept a relationship with his mother like this, and mentally I’m so over it, I don’t know what I can do in the situation other than give a choice to my fiancé of which one he’s going to prioritize and if it’s not me, then I’ve got to leave right? My parents, as narcissistic as they are, have seen all of this and have offered a safe place to live in the case of that.
Please give helpful advice, but please be kind lol I’m not mentally okay after dealing with all this and it’s really taking a toll.
2024.05.20 07:45 ronlynne Strays Episode 5 - "Shaa-a-ren"
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“From Lieutenant Bren, UEF Shepherd
“To Captain Sassen, KCS Victory
“Captain, I continue to learn many things about the humans. Again, their sense of community is their strength. Their Shaa is strong, although they do not have a similar word and concept in their language, as I learned recently. I would like to continue this assignment beyond the previous estimated time. Please consider an extension, send to the council if necessary. I would also like to ask the council to review the request I have submitted to share some aspects of faster than light technology. Their current methodology is primitive, unstable, and, to a certain extent, dangerous. They are very close to discovering standard spacetime warping, and for that reason I don’t believe it will violate our technology sharing guidelines. Further details are in the formal request I submitted.
Bren paused, he knew protocols were against this request, but the humans were so close, he hoped the council would consider it. The council could make exceptions if he could show them that the humans demonstrated a non aggressive attitude. He remembered one more thing to add to his letter.
“Klaan philosophy regarding the deceased is an important part of our culture. While many are matter of fact about it, the rituals and sacraments have allowed us to function more efficiently as a society. I have learned about some human rituals, and their essence of Shaa. Two days ago we came across our thirteenth ship…”
Two Days ago
“Captain, the ship is on course, and seems to be functioning properly. However, the radiation emanating from the ship is at lethal levels. It’s highly unlikely anyone survived.” Captain Gardner looked at Commander Klein, taking a deep breath before speaking.
“Commander, prepare to scuttle the ship. Full honors. We don’t want to send a dirty bomb across space.” Commander Klein acknowledged the Captain, calling Bren over to his workstation.
“Bren, can you come look through this information?” Bren approached Klein’s station and looked over his shoulder. Klein pointed at the screen. “These readings, that seems to be the deceased passengers, correct?” Bren nodded then pointed at another reading. Klein agreed curiously. “That’s the one I don’t get. It looks like the life sign of a hibernating human, but it’s distorted.”
Gardner turned to Klein. “Is there a problem?”
Klein looked at Bren, then back to Gardner, “Sir, I think we’ll need to investigate, I can’t confirm that everyone is deceased.”
“How many people Mr. Klein?”
Klein and Bren conferred and Bren answered. “That’s the problem sir, we read 36 pods, most of which are non functioning.” Klein finished the thought.
“Most of the pods appear to be unused. The others are not allowing clear readings. Possibly due to the radiation?” They had encountered several ships with various levels of radiation exposure, likely due to a nearby nuclear blast. This one was the heaviest they had encountered. Klein continued. “This ship had to have gone right through an active explosion. The radiation is still intense.”
Gardner grimaced, while they had protections against radiation poisoning, it was tedious. Any items retrieved required scrubbing with radiation protocols. Patients needed extra medication beyond the standard inoculations, which protected against various types of radiation, mostly radiation found in space. But, they had to be sure. “OK commander, only you and one other, make it quick.” Bren volunteered himself.
“Captain, I am better protected against this type of radiation, I could join the Commander.”
Gardner thought a moment. “OK, just the two of you. Take every precaution.”
Markings on the side identified the ship as North Korean. That explained the radiation as a still unknown saboteur had detonated all of North Korea’s nuclear weapons at once. Sadly, the entire country was reduced to rubble. Although humanity had created effective radiation treatments, cleaning North Korea was taking longer, due to the massive amount of radiation released all at once. Some Koreans had survived, but North Korea, as a country, no longer existed. South Korea was now just Korea, having taken on refugees and stewardship over the cleanup. The reunification of Korea was a Pyrrhic resolution.
Bren and Klein entered the ship. Although it looked shoddily built, it was one of the few ships they had encountered that was fully functional. As they moved to the cargo area the problem became obvious. Crew members littered the area, some partially in their pods. The radiation had knocked them out before they could enter the pods. Bren scanned the area. “They are dead sir, it looks like 33 humans.”
Klein looked at them, some on the floor, some climbing into pods. He recalled the anomalous readings. “So there are three more pods?” Bren continued scanning, stepping carefully over the bodies.
“Commander, the readings on these hibernation pods is unusual, there appear to be several different metals in use, there is no consistency.” As they made their way into the depths of the cargo area they found three pods, hidden away behind stacks of cargo, still functioning. Bren approached them. He scanned, then turned to Klein excitedly.
“Sir, these three are alive, they are quite sick, but the pods appear to have shielded them enough to survive the radiation.” Klein stumbled into the area, looking at Bren’s scanner.
“If we wake them they won’t survive long.” Bren agreed. Klein pushed a button on the arm of his protective suit and called Gardner. “Sir, we have three survivors, They won’t survive long once they are brought out. We will need shielded gurneys to move them directly to the medical bay. Please send three patient pods and four rescue team members to facilitate the rescue.”
Bren and Klein checked their exposure time as they waited for the others to arrive.
Once the rescue team had arrived they cleared out the three crew members quickly, heading straight to the medical bay. Klein and Bren were ordered to undergo more extensive medical tests and spent the night there.
Early in the morning, Bren was explaining Klaan humor to Klein. Klein was not impressed. “So, simple mistakes are funny?”
Bren smiled, “Yes, inverting variables in a navigational equation can be quite satisfying.” Klein looked unsure as Bren added, “But the real humor comes in absurd endeavors, which can take several days or weeks to develop. The payoff is substantial.” Klein was about to speak when they were surprised to see one of the Koreans stir. He looked around, confused, and then startled to see Klein and an alien. Bren had accessed the Korean language program and spoke to him in perfect Korean.
“Do not be afraid. You are on an Earth ship, The Shepherd. Earth is a different world than when you left. I assure you, you are safe here.” The Korean calmed a bit, looking for his comrades. Bren continued, “I am sorry to tell you that only the three of you survived. You have extreme radiation sickness but medical advances have created effective treatments and you are all expected to recover.”
The Korean asked, “What happened?”
Bren turned to Klein, “He wants to know what happened.” They were interrupted by the arrival of Captain Gardner and an Ensign.
“Bren, this is Ensign Choi, she speaks Korean and will be the liaison for these men.” Choi immediately went to the Korean man and began talking. Bren watched as the man apparently learned that his country was gone. The look on his face touched Bren deeply. He appeared to be in physical pain upon hearing the news.
Gardner turned to Klein and Bren, “Are you cleared to resume duties?” Klein nodded and Gardner continued. “I had hoped to avoid a conflict but you may recall the previous rescue of the ship Justice 4.”
Klein grimaced. Just a day before finding the Korean ship they had rescued a ship that was clearly affiliated with the Justice Party. Although it was never confirmed, the Justice Party claimed responsibility for the three nuclear warheads that decimated Los Angeles to start the war.
The Freedom Party quickly formed in response, but since there were no geographical divides the initial stages of the war were particularly gruesome. Political strongholds of each party were destroyed by nuclear weapons, killing members of both parties, as well as the undeclared; more than half of the country that claimed no connection to either party. The complication was certainly due to the fact that a Freedom Party ship’s passengers were already on board. Gardner confirmed Klein’s assumption.
“We assigned quarters to the passengers of the ship, Justice 4, and initially there was no problem, until someone saw an insignia on someone’s shirt. The Justice group refused to be quartered on the same floor.”
Klein grimaced. “The Freedom passengers were on level three, right? Just move the Justice to two?” Gardner smiled.
“The Freedom passengers decided that they wanted to be above them, so they refused to stay on three if the Justice moved to two.”
Klein scoffed, “We’re in space, there is no above and below, we may be sideways now for all we know.” Gardner agreed and as the three men entered the passenger common area, the leaders of each group swarmed them.
As multiple men chattered and made demands at once Gardner raised his hand and finally got them to calm down. “We came across a heavily irradiated ship and we want to allow the surviving crew to be involved in the Honor ceremony when we scuttle the ship. They are in the medical bay. We could be here for a few days depending on their recovery time. That means you all can’t stay here in this room. You will need to accept room assignments.”
The men all began shouting again when Bren stepped forward, raising both hands which, somehow, stopped everyone immediately. Bren spoke.
“Captain, I may have a solution.” Gardner looked hopeful.
“Go ahead Lieutenant.”
Bren lowered his hands. “My people have a method for solving disputes that goes back several thousand years. It is specifically designed for this sort of post war dispute.”
Everyone was rapt as Bren continued. He smiled and stuck his arms out to the side, palms up. He spoke loudly in a commanding voice, “Feats of Strength!” As he said ‘strength’ he raised his arms over his head and clasped his hands together. Shaking them with a determined grimace. The men pumped up their chests and murmured agreement. Gardner looked at Bren curiously. “Feats of Strength?”
Bren nodded, “Yes, although that is rarely the form it takes. We stopped fighting to the death centuries ago.” The men seemed a little less enthused.
Gardner asked, “What does this entail?”
Bren smiled, “We choose a contest, and since it is a test of strength, we add,” he paused, searching for the correct word, “complications, as we go.” He looked around, and sensing no objections, continued. “I would suggest… bowling!”
Gardner and Klein stifled laughs as Bren looked each group straight on and asked, “Are you prepared to compete for your pride?” Hesitantly each group agreed. Bren went on, “I will administer the contest, the rules are simple, I can add any difficulties I choose.”
The leader of one group looked at Bren, confused, “Difficulty?”
Bren nodded, “For example, we could start by bowling with the non dominant hand. Perhaps with eyes closed, or while… singing.” As the men started to take Bren less seriously he puffed up and seemed to get taller. “You have accepted the challenge, do you agree to go forward?” The men looked at each other, unsure, but finally nodded and started to get excited.
Bren stated one more rule, “The final outcome is that the winners will be allowed to choose their quarters,” the men nodded and mumbled until Bren cut them off, “But the winners must also host the defeated team to a feast in their home.” He looked around and felt he had everyone’s attention. “There is no human term for this, but the Klaan call it Shaa. It is the knowledge that everyone on the planet is connected. In our case, on this ship. We are all part of one physical organism, collectively called the Shaa-a-ren.”
The men looked around, slightly less excited but committed to the contest. Bren stood straight, and addressed the room. “Each team will choose four champions. The contest will start in sixteen hours. Spread the word, in the original Feats of Strength great crowds cheered on their warriors.”
With that the groups of passengers separated into huddles, deciding on their champions. Gardner turned to Bren. “Feats of Strength? Shaa-a-ren?” Bren looked at Klein and the Captain.
“Yes sir, the rules are adaptable, but Shaa is a sacred concept to the Klaan. I assure you, this method of conflict resolution has an excellent record on Klaan.” Klein and Gardner shared a curious look, when Bren noted excitedly, “We will need to prepare the bowling lanes for an audience. The crowd is a critical part of this event! Captain?”
Gardner shrugged, “Commander Klein, let the crew know that they are invited to a Klaan Feats of Strength event.” Klein shook his head as he walked toward the bridge to deliver the invitation.
In the medical bay Gardner, Klein, and Choi spoke to the three Korean men. Gardner had offered them several option for disposal of the irradiated ship. Choi translated for the Captain. “They said they are not overly concerned with the ship’s disposal. They only ask to be able to watch as it’s done.” One man, who identified himself as Colonel Han spoke. “Captain, we do believe you when you say things are different. We also hope you understand that the official stance of our country,” he paused, as the country no longer existed, “The stance is one of no religion. However, there is a thread of Buddhism among us, and a prayer service to commemorate the men who did not survive is kindly requested before the ship is scuttled.”
Gardner nodded and asked Choi if she could make arrangements. Colonel Han spoke again. “Captain, is it possible to finish in time for the contest? Your Mr. Bren extended a personal invitation.”
Gardner was surprised, but agreed.
The next day Choi, Han, Gardner and the other Korean men stood on the bridge, watching a large monitor. The Shepherd had shut down the ship’s engines and shined lights on the ship. Choi had arranged the prayer ceremony, and the three men seemed at peace with the situation. Gardner looked at Colonel Han, who looked at his companions and nodded to the Captain.
“Commander Klein, you may proceed.” Klein stood, as did the rest of the crew. Captain Gardner spoke. “It is with great respect that we send these 33 passengers and their ship to space. This ship served them well, and now all will be committed to the great expanse.”
Klein blew a military whistle and launched two missiles. The missiles flew directly to their target, detonating and turning the ship to dust, to scatter among the backdrop of the stars. Gardner spoke again.
“Your lives will be remembered as your final destination has been reached. Godspeed.” He saluted and the crew followed his salute. The Korean men somberly saluted. The crew held their salute until Choi had ushered the Koreans off the bridge. The crew resumed their duties silently for a moment until Gardner spoke once again.
“If you have arranged to go to the Feats of Strength event, you are relieved, once the skeleton crew is in place.” A few crew members entered to man the bridge as several others headed to Bren’s event.
Bren quieted the crowd. Klein was surprised at the turnout. The crew of both ships sat intermingled with Shepherd crew. Choi ushered in the Koreans, stoic, but seemingly looking forward to the distraction the contest would provide. Chairs, benches, and cargo containers had been constructed into makeshift bleachers, and they were packed. Food and beverages had been prepared and in general, it was a festive atmosphere. Bren entered the center of the space and raised his hands, facing his palms out, and turning in a circle.
“My friends, you have accepted me into your ship and crew and I am grateful. It is with that gratitude that I happily share the Klaan tradition of… FEATS OF STRENGTH!” The crowd cheered and Gardner looked around, wondering if he should have assigned security for the event.
Bren lowered his hands and the crowd silenced. He spoke again in a low voice. “Shaa is a Klaan belief that we are all connected. That the people assembled here are all part of one single living organism. We are all a part of Shaa-a-ren. We are each other. We are one. We are Shaa.”
He smiled and waited as the crowd seemingly held its breath. Then he clasped his hands over his head and shouted, “LET THE GAMES BEGIN!” The crowd roared as the eight men prepared to bowl. Bren explained the rules. “The standard rules of bowling and scoring apply. The automated system will keep score. I will add rules as we go. The first additional rule is that all bowlers are required to throw the ball with both hands. Team Justice won the random generated decision to go first. Proceed.”
As expected, bowling with both hands was awkward, and the bowlers threw gutterballs and generally left a lot of pins standing. No one was bowling well, but the men were laughing at each other anyway. After two frames Bren stood and spoke. “Time for a new rule! You must bowl with your non-dominant hand!” The bowlers grunted and grimaced. Bren was excited, the concept of a dominant hand was new to him. Human brains fascinated him and when he learned of right or left handedness he had spent hours asking people to use their non-dominant hand for daily tasks.
The teams bowled slightly better than before, but neither team was lighting up the scoreboards. Only one strike had been thrown, and truthfully, it was a mistake. Something went wonky with the magnetic system and changed the ball’s trajectory.
The crowd was cheering when a bowler knocked down three or four pins, and the teams were getting irritated, so Bren changed it up again. “Starting now, you must do two complete turns before throwing the ball.”
As the bowlers made themselves dizzy, the crowd’s excitement escalated. The bowlers had begun cheering each other on, regardless of which team they were on. The difficulties Bren was introducing made the two teams bond over the challenges. The crowd was eating it up. Even the Korean men were enjoying the show. Finally they reached the final round. Team Justice was up by seven points, it was anybody’s game.
Bren stood and called for quiet. “I would like to thank you all for joining us tonight. I hope you have felt the Shaa. You are all part of the Shaa-a-ren here on the Shepherd. Even as you go on to other ships or planets, this connection is now a part of you all.” Bren looked at the Koreans and bowed deeply, speaking in Korean. “You have lost much, your crew, your country, perhaps family. However, today you have gained Shaa and we are happy to have you here in this Shaa-a-ren.” He bowed again and the Korean men bowed deeply back to him. Bren turned to the crowd.
“For the final round, we have the ultimate test. Each team will switch lanes and complete the other team’s final score. However! A gutterball counts as a strike, so you cannot intentionally throw the game. You can choose to bowl with both hands, or your non-dominant hand.”
The teams switched lanes and began, with Team Justice putting up several points for Team Freedom. By the time they reached the last ball the game was tied. The men looked at each other, then conferred. They nodded and each stepped up to the lane, carefully throwing simultaneous - and very intentional - gutterballs. Bren raised his hands, quite pleased with himself.
“The game has ended in a tie!” He called the teams to him. “It seems that the outcome has not solved our problem. How would you like to choose the winning team?” Bren smiled, fairly certain he knew the answer.
The captain of Team Justice spoke. “We will both stay on deck three.”
The captain of Team Freedom joined him. “And we would like to host all of you for a feast on deck three tomorrow!”
The crowd erupted in cheers. Captain Gardner spied Bren speaking with the Korean men, they seemed to be thanking him. Choi moved to the Captain. “Bren knew exactly what to say to them. This Shaa business really made a difference.” Gardner smiled and watched as the men walked to the food and beverage stations and joined in the celebration. Gardner went to Bren, who was now talking to Klein.
“Lieutenant Bren, I must commend you. Your Feats of Strength and Shaa-a-ren was an unqualified success.”
Bren smiled. “Captain, Shaa is a very trusted solution to many problems.” He held his hands out, palms up and fingers sticking up. “We are all digits on the same hand. Once the men started to bond over their shared experience they began to feel the depth of connection. Shaa-a-ren connects us all, sometimes you just need to reach out and feel it.” Klein nodded, holding out his hands as Bren had done. Bren smiled again. “Commander, you have now experienced Klaan humor, in its long form. How often did you laugh as the men dizzied themselves and fell, or threw bad balls, left difficult splits, or danced with their opponents?”
Klein looked at Bren curiously. “You did this all just to…” He looked at the Captain in shock and finished the thought. “… To tell me a joke?”
Bren smiled, “It was a happy coincidence. Shaa-a-ren is very real, as is Klaan humor.” He hummed a tune as he walked away. Klein and Gardner looked at each other, questioning what had actually taken place tonight. Gardner shook his head as he patted Klein on the back, blending into the celebration.
“It doesn’t matter Mr. Klein, it worked.”
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“To Captain Sassen, KCS Victory
“Captain, I continue to learn many things about the humans. Again, their sense of community is their strength. Their Shaa is strong, although they do not have a similar word and concept in their language, as I learned recently. I would like to continue this assignment beyond the previous estimated time. Please consider an extension, send to the council if necessary. I would also like to ask the council to review the request I have submitted to share some aspects of faster than light technology. Their current methodology is primitive, unstable, and, to a certain extent, dangerous. They are very close to discovering standard spacetime warping, and for that reason I don’t believe it will violate our technology sharing guidelines. Further details are in the formal request I submitted.
Bren paused, he knew protocols were against this request, but the humans were so close, he hoped the council would consider it. The council could make exceptions if he could show them that the humans demonstrated a non aggressive attitude. He remembered one more thing to add to his letter.
“Klaan philosophy regarding the deceased is an important part of our culture. While many are matter of fact about it, the rituals and sacraments have allowed us to function more efficiently as a society. I have learned about some human rituals, and their essence of Shaa. Two days ago we came across our thirteenth ship…”
“Commander, prepare to scuttle the ship. Full honors. We don’t want to send a dirty bomb across space.” Commander Klein acknowledged the Captain, calling Bren over to his workstation.
“Bren, can you come look through this information?” Bren approached Klein’s station and looked over his shoulder. Klein pointed at the screen. “These readings, that seems to be the deceased passengers, correct?” Bren nodded then pointed at another reading. Klein agreed curiously. “That’s the one I don’t get. It looks like the life sign of a hibernating human, but it’s distorted.”
Gardner turned to Klein. “Is there a problem?”
Klein looked at Bren, then back to Gardner, “Sir, I think we’ll need to investigate, I can’t confirm that everyone is deceased.”
“How many people Mr. Klein?”
Klein and Bren conferred and Bren answered. “That’s the problem sir, we read 36 pods, most of which are non functioning.” Klein finished the thought.
“Most of the pods appear to be unused. The others are not allowing clear readings. Possibly due to the radiation?” They had encountered several ships with various levels of radiation exposure, likely due to a nearby nuclear blast. This one was the heaviest they had encountered. Klein continued. “This ship had to have gone right through an active explosion. The radiation is still intense.”
Gardner grimaced, while they had protections against radiation poisoning, it was tedious. Any items retrieved required scrubbing with radiation protocols. Patients needed extra medication beyond the standard inoculations, which protected against various types of radiation, mostly radiation found in space. But, they had to be sure. “OK commander, only you and one other, make it quick.” Bren volunteered himself.
“Captain, I am better protected against this type of radiation, I could join the Commander.”
Gardner thought a moment. “OK, just the two of you. Take every precaution.”
Markings on the side identified the ship as North Korean. That explained the radiation as a still unknown saboteur had detonated all of North Korea’s nuclear weapons at once. Sadly, the entire country was reduced to rubble. Although humanity had created effective radiation treatments, cleaning North Korea was taking longer, due to the massive amount of radiation released all at once. Some Koreans had survived, but North Korea, as a country, no longer existed. South Korea was now just Korea, having taken on refugees and stewardship over the cleanup. The reunification of Korea was a Pyrrhic resolution.
Bren and Klein entered the ship. Although it looked shoddily built, it was one of the few ships they had encountered that was fully functional. As they moved to the cargo area the problem became obvious. Crew members littered the area, some partially in their pods. The radiation had knocked them out before they could enter the pods. Bren scanned the area. “They are dead sir, it looks like 33 humans.”
Klein looked at them, some on the floor, some climbing into pods. He recalled the anomalous readings. “So there are three more pods?” Bren continued scanning, stepping carefully over the bodies.
“Commander, the readings on these hibernation pods is unusual, there appear to be several different metals in use, there is no consistency.” As they made their way into the depths of the cargo area they found three pods, hidden away behind stacks of cargo, still functioning. Bren approached them. He scanned, then turned to Klein excitedly.
“Sir, these three are alive, they are quite sick, but the pods appear to have shielded them enough to survive the radiation.” Klein stumbled into the area, looking at Bren’s scanner.
“If we wake them they won’t survive long.” Bren agreed. Klein pushed a button on the arm of his protective suit and called Gardner. “Sir, we have three survivors, They won’t survive long once they are brought out. We will need shielded gurneys to move them directly to the medical bay. Please send three patient pods and four rescue team members to facilitate the rescue.”
Bren and Klein checked their exposure time as they waited for the others to arrive.
Once the rescue team had arrived they cleared out the three crew members quickly, heading straight to the medical bay. Klein and Bren were ordered to undergo more extensive medical tests and spent the night there.
Early in the morning, Bren was explaining Klaan humor to Klein. Klein was not impressed. “So, simple mistakes are funny?”
Bren smiled, “Yes, inverting variables in a navigational equation can be quite satisfying.” Klein looked unsure as Bren added, “But the real humor comes in absurd endeavors, which can take several days or weeks to develop. The payoff is substantial.” Klein was about to speak when they were surprised to see one of the Koreans stir. He looked around, confused, and then startled to see Klein and an alien. Bren had accessed the Korean language program and spoke to him in perfect Korean.
“Do not be afraid. You are on an Earth ship, The Shepherd. Earth is a different world than when you left. I assure you, you are safe here.” The Korean calmed a bit, looking for his comrades. Bren continued, “I am sorry to tell you that only the three of you survived. You have extreme radiation sickness but medical advances have created effective treatments and you are all expected to recover.”
The Korean asked, “What happened?”
Bren turned to Klein, “He wants to know what happened.” They were interrupted by the arrival of Captain Gardner and an Ensign.
“Bren, this is Ensign Choi, she speaks Korean and will be the liaison for these men.” Choi immediately went to the Korean man and began talking. Bren watched as the man apparently learned that his country was gone. The look on his face touched Bren deeply. He appeared to be in physical pain upon hearing the news.
Gardner turned to Klein and Bren, “Are you cleared to resume duties?” Klein nodded and Gardner continued. “I had hoped to avoid a conflict but you may recall the previous rescue of the ship Justice 4.”
Klein grimaced. Just a day before finding the Korean ship they had rescued a ship that was clearly affiliated with the Justice Party. Although it was never confirmed, the Justice Party claimed responsibility for the three nuclear warheads that decimated Los Angeles to start the war.
The Freedom Party quickly formed in response, but since there were no geographical divides the initial stages of the war were particularly gruesome. Political strongholds of each party were destroyed by nuclear weapons, killing members of both parties, as well as the undeclared; more than half of the country that claimed no connection to either party. The complication was certainly due to the fact that a Freedom Party ship’s passengers were already on board. Gardner confirmed Klein’s assumption.
“We assigned quarters to the passengers of the ship, Justice 4, and initially there was no problem, until someone saw an insignia on someone’s shirt. The Justice group refused to be quartered on the same floor.”
Klein grimaced. “The Freedom passengers were on level three, right? Just move the Justice to two?” Gardner smiled.
“The Freedom passengers decided that they wanted to be above them, so they refused to stay on three if the Justice moved to two.”
Klein scoffed, “We’re in space, there is no above and below, we may be sideways now for all we know.” Gardner agreed and as the three men entered the passenger common area, the leaders of each group swarmed them.
As multiple men chattered and made demands at once Gardner raised his hand and finally got them to calm down. “We came across a heavily irradiated ship and we want to allow the surviving crew to be involved in the Honor ceremony when we scuttle the ship. They are in the medical bay. We could be here for a few days depending on their recovery time. That means you all can’t stay here in this room. You will need to accept room assignments.”
The men all began shouting again when Bren stepped forward, raising both hands which, somehow, stopped everyone immediately. Bren spoke.
“Captain, I may have a solution.” Gardner looked hopeful.
“Go ahead Lieutenant.”
Bren lowered his hands. “My people have a method for solving disputes that goes back several thousand years. It is specifically designed for this sort of post war dispute.”
Everyone was rapt as Bren continued. He smiled and stuck his arms out to the side, palms up. He spoke loudly in a commanding voice, “Feats of Strength!” As he said ‘strength’ he raised his arms over his head and clasped his hands together. Shaking them with a determined grimace. The men pumped up their chests and murmured agreement. Gardner looked at Bren curiously. “Feats of Strength?”
Bren nodded, “Yes, although that is rarely the form it takes. We stopped fighting to the death centuries ago.” The men seemed a little less enthused.
Gardner asked, “What does this entail?”
Bren smiled, “We choose a contest, and since it is a test of strength, we add,” he paused, searching for the correct word, “complications, as we go.” He looked around, and sensing no objections, continued. “I would suggest… bowling!”
Gardner and Klein stifled laughs as Bren looked each group straight on and asked, “Are you prepared to compete for your pride?” Hesitantly each group agreed. Bren went on, “I will administer the contest, the rules are simple, I can add any difficulties I choose.”
The leader of one group looked at Bren, confused, “Difficulty?”
Bren nodded, “For example, we could start by bowling with the non dominant hand. Perhaps with eyes closed, or while… singing.” As the men started to take Bren less seriously he puffed up and seemed to get taller. “You have accepted the challenge, do you agree to go forward?” The men looked at each other, unsure, but finally nodded and started to get excited.
Bren stated one more rule, “The final outcome is that the winners will be allowed to choose their quarters,” the men nodded and mumbled until Bren cut them off, “But the winners must also host the defeated team to a feast in their home.” He looked around and felt he had everyone’s attention. “There is no human term for this, but the Klaan call it Shaa. It is the knowledge that everyone on the planet is connected. In our case, on this ship. We are all part of one physical organism, collectively called the Shaa-a-ren.”
The men looked around, slightly less excited but committed to the contest. Bren stood straight, and addressed the room. “Each team will choose four champions. The contest will start in sixteen hours. Spread the word, in the original Feats of Strength great crowds cheered on their warriors.”
With that the groups of passengers separated into huddles, deciding on their champions. Gardner turned to Bren. “Feats of Strength? Shaa-a-ren?” Bren looked at Klein and the Captain.
“Yes sir, the rules are adaptable, but Shaa is a sacred concept to the Klaan. I assure you, this method of conflict resolution has an excellent record on Klaan.” Klein and Gardner shared a curious look, when Bren noted excitedly, “We will need to prepare the bowling lanes for an audience. The crowd is a critical part of this event! Captain?”
Gardner shrugged, “Commander Klein, let the crew know that they are invited to a Klaan Feats of Strength event.” Klein shook his head as he walked toward the bridge to deliver the invitation.
In the medical bay Gardner, Klein, and Choi spoke to the three Korean men. Gardner had offered them several option for disposal of the irradiated ship. Choi translated for the Captain. “They said they are not overly concerned with the ship’s disposal. They only ask to be able to watch as it’s done.” One man, who identified himself as Colonel Han spoke. “Captain, we do believe you when you say things are different. We also hope you understand that the official stance of our country,” he paused, as the country no longer existed, “The stance is one of no religion. However, there is a thread of Buddhism among us, and a prayer service to commemorate the men who did not survive is kindly requested before the ship is scuttled.”
Gardner nodded and asked Choi if she could make arrangements. Colonel Han spoke again. “Captain, is it possible to finish in time for the contest? Your Mr. Bren extended a personal invitation.”
Gardner was surprised, but agreed.
The next day Choi, Han, Gardner and the other Korean men stood on the bridge, watching a large monitor. The Shepherd had shut down the ship’s engines and shined lights on the ship. Choi had arranged the prayer ceremony, and the three men seemed at peace with the situation. Gardner looked at Colonel Han, who looked at his companions and nodded to the Captain.
“Commander Klein, you may proceed.” Klein stood, as did the rest of the crew. Captain Gardner spoke. “It is with great respect that we send these 33 passengers and their ship to space. This ship served them well, and now all will be committed to the great expanse.”
Klein blew a military whistle and launched two missiles. The missiles flew directly to their target, detonating and turning the ship to dust, to scatter among the backdrop of the stars. Gardner spoke again.
“Your lives will be remembered as your final destination has been reached. Godspeed.” He saluted and the crew followed his salute. The Korean men somberly saluted. The crew held their salute until Choi had ushered the Koreans off the bridge. The crew resumed their duties silently for a moment until Gardner spoke once again.
“If you have arranged to go to the Feats of Strength event, you are relieved, once the skeleton crew is in place.” A few crew members entered to man the bridge as several others headed to Bren’s event.
Bren quieted the crowd. Klein was surprised at the turnout. The crew of both ships sat intermingled with Shepherd crew. Choi ushered in the Koreans, stoic, but seemingly looking forward to the distraction the contest would provide. Chairs, benches, and cargo containers had been constructed into makeshift bleachers, and they were packed. Food and beverages had been prepared and in general, it was a festive atmosphere. Bren entered the center of the space and raised his hands, facing his palms out, and turning in a circle.
“My friends, you have accepted me into your ship and crew and I am grateful. It is with that gratitude that I happily share the Klaan tradition of… FEATS OF STRENGTH!” The crowd cheered and Gardner looked around, wondering if he should have assigned security for the event.
Bren lowered his hands and the crowd silenced. He spoke again in a low voice. “Shaa is a Klaan belief that we are all connected. That the people assembled here are all part of one single living organism. We are all a part of Shaa-a-ren. We are each other. We are one. We are Shaa.”
He smiled and waited as the crowd seemingly held its breath. Then he clasped his hands over his head and shouted, “LET THE GAMES BEGIN!” The crowd roared as the eight men prepared to bowl. Bren explained the rules. “The standard rules of bowling and scoring apply. The automated system will keep score. I will add rules as we go. The first additional rule is that all bowlers are required to throw the ball with both hands. Team Justice won the random generated decision to go first. Proceed.”
As expected, bowling with both hands was awkward, and the bowlers threw gutterballs and generally left a lot of pins standing. No one was bowling well, but the men were laughing at each other anyway. After two frames Bren stood and spoke. “Time for a new rule! You must bowl with your non-dominant hand!” The bowlers grunted and grimaced. Bren was excited, the concept of a dominant hand was new to him. Human brains fascinated him and when he learned of right or left handedness he had spent hours asking people to use their non-dominant hand for daily tasks.
The teams bowled slightly better than before, but neither team was lighting up the scoreboards. Only one strike had been thrown, and truthfully, it was a mistake. Something went wonky with the magnetic system and changed the ball’s trajectory.
The crowd was cheering when a bowler knocked down three or four pins, and the teams were getting irritated, so Bren changed it up again. “Starting now, you must do two complete turns before throwing the ball.”
As the bowlers made themselves dizzy, the crowd’s excitement escalated. The bowlers had begun cheering each other on, regardless of which team they were on. The difficulties Bren was introducing made the two teams bond over the challenges. The crowd was eating it up. Even the Korean men were enjoying the show. Finally they reached the final round. Team Justice was up by seven points, it was anybody’s game.
Bren stood and called for quiet. “I would like to thank you all for joining us tonight. I hope you have felt the Shaa. You are all part of the Shaa-a-ren here on the Shepherd. Even as you go on to other ships or planets, this connection is now a part of you all.” Bren looked at the Koreans and bowed deeply, speaking in Korean. “You have lost much, your crew, your country, perhaps family. However, today you have gained Shaa and we are happy to have you here in this Shaa-a-ren.” He bowed again and the Korean men bowed deeply back to him. Bren turned to the crowd.
“For the final round, we have the ultimate test. Each team will switch lanes and complete the other team’s final score. However! A gutterball counts as a strike, so you cannot intentionally throw the game. You can choose to bowl with both hands, or your non-dominant hand.”
The teams switched lanes and began, with Team Justice putting up several points for Team Freedom. By the time they reached the last ball the game was tied. The men looked at each other, then conferred. They nodded and each stepped up to the lane, carefully throwing simultaneous - and very intentional - gutterballs. Bren raised his hands, quite pleased with himself.
“The game has ended in a tie!” He called the teams to him. “It seems that the outcome has not solved our problem. How would you like to choose the winning team?” Bren smiled, fairly certain he knew the answer.
The captain of Team Justice spoke. “We will both stay on deck three.”
The captain of Team Freedom joined him. “And we would like to host all of you for a feast on deck three tomorrow!”
The crowd erupted in cheers. Captain Gardner spied Bren speaking with the Korean men, they seemed to be thanking him. Choi moved to the Captain. “Bren knew exactly what to say to them. This Shaa business really made a difference.” Gardner smiled and watched as the men walked to the food and beverage stations and joined in the celebration. Gardner went to Bren, who was now talking to Klein.
“Lieutenant Bren, I must commend you. Your Feats of Strength and Shaa-a-ren was an unqualified success.”
Bren smiled. “Captain, Shaa is a very trusted solution to many problems.” He held his hands out, palms up and fingers sticking up. “We are all digits on the same hand. Once the men started to bond over their shared experience they began to feel the depth of connection. Shaa-a-ren connects us all, sometimes you just need to reach out and feel it.” Klein nodded, holding out his hands as Bren had done. Bren smiled again. “Commander, you have now experienced Klaan humor, in its long form. How often did you laugh as the men dizzied themselves and fell, or threw bad balls, left difficult splits, or danced with their opponents?”
Klein looked at Bren curiously. “You did this all just to…” He looked at the Captain in shock and finished the thought. “… To tell me a joke?”
Bren smiled, “It was a happy coincidence. Shaa-a-ren is very real, as is Klaan humor.” He hummed a tune as he walked away. Klein and Gardner looked at each other, questioning what had actually taken place tonight. Gardner shook his head as he patted Klein on the back, blending into the celebration.
“It doesn’t matter Mr. Klein, it worked.”
2024.05.20 07:43 Cause_Training Found lots of gay porn
My fiance always locks his computer screen and will not tell me the password. We've been together for 3 years and lived together for 1. He is very masculine, very dominant. Not dominant in that pathetic way where guys are assholes and use it as an excuse to degrade or bully, but he's just extremely confident and assertive.
I don't know why he's with me. He has a great job, bought us this house, and honestly, he could attract someone much better. I'm a single mother, I've lived a hard life, and even though I have a college degree, I don't work and instead am a stay at home mom. I have lots of debt, am a recovering addict, I have a felony, and terrible credit. Im 40, and it appears i cant even give him children. I never understood why a man like him would be with a woman like me, who has had so much difficulty.
Even though he's given me no reason to think this, I was worried maybe it's because being with me, meant having access to a little girl (my daughter is 6). I read sometimes men enter relationships with single mothers so they can abuse their daughters. I was worried the reason he was so careful about locking the computer down all the time, is because he maybe had CP.
The other night, he left his computer unlocked on accident and I had my opportunity. He told me he hadn't looked at porn since we started dating, but his download folder was full of porn. He was watching it after I'd go to bed and even while he was at work. He watched porn probably 3-4 times a week, from what I could see. Thankfully, I didn't see any CP, but I did see lots of gay porn. Like 2 men together. Probably 50% of it was heterosexual porn, but I was really surprised how much of it was 2 men.
We have sex at least once a day, but usually a couple times a day. I've told him we can do kinky stuff, but he insists he prefers very normal sex. We don't even do stuff like 69 or use toys. We've known each other since we were teenagers, so I know he used to be into kinky stuff.
My fiance is very closed off. He doesn't really talk to me about his stress or fears or anything, we don't talk about sex.
He has a friend who he's had for about 3 years. He started talking to his friend when the guy was 14, and my fiance was in his mid to late 30s. I've never felt anything was bad about their relationship, but obviously this kid is much younger than him. I've never heard them discuss anything inappropriate, but a couple of times, I heard him confide things he never told me. We had a miscarriage, and he talked to this kid about it, but not me. In fact, outside of sex, we have almost no interaction. He doesn't want to watch movies with me or do activities with me. I pretty much bring him food and have sex with him, and thats the only time i ever spend with him. This kid seems very heterosexual, but he has told my fiance he wished they lived together. He seems to have a more intimate and trusting relationship with this boy, than he does me. My fiance doesn't seem obsessive or anything, but he mentions this kid for one reason or another, just about every day. The kid calls him every day too (he's 18 now, btw) Now that I've found all this gay porn, I'm starting to become concerned.
One other thing, when my fiance and I were teenagers, we'd like have cyber sex. I have a really foggy memory about it, and maybe it was a dream (it was like 20 years ago), but I seem to remember he wanted another guy to join the conversation,and we had a cyber threesome, where the other guy pretended to penetrate him. When I asked him if he remembers that, he won't give me a direct answer. He rarely gives me a direct answer about anything. He did very directly tell me he isn't gay when i asked him today, though.
Guys, I'm sorry this is so long. I feel awful. I feel like he is keeping secrets from me and like I don't really know him, because he is so closed off. He knows I looked through his computer, but he doesn't want to talk about the porn. It's been 2 days and I feel like I'm in a black cloud and I can't escape this feeling that he's keeping a terrible secret. We've had sex like 5 times since I saw the porn on his computer.
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I don't know why he's with me. He has a great job, bought us this house, and honestly, he could attract someone much better. I'm a single mother, I've lived a hard life, and even though I have a college degree, I don't work and instead am a stay at home mom. I have lots of debt, am a recovering addict, I have a felony, and terrible credit. Im 40, and it appears i cant even give him children. I never understood why a man like him would be with a woman like me, who has had so much difficulty.
Even though he's given me no reason to think this, I was worried maybe it's because being with me, meant having access to a little girl (my daughter is 6). I read sometimes men enter relationships with single mothers so they can abuse their daughters. I was worried the reason he was so careful about locking the computer down all the time, is because he maybe had CP.
The other night, he left his computer unlocked on accident and I had my opportunity. He told me he hadn't looked at porn since we started dating, but his download folder was full of porn. He was watching it after I'd go to bed and even while he was at work. He watched porn probably 3-4 times a week, from what I could see. Thankfully, I didn't see any CP, but I did see lots of gay porn. Like 2 men together. Probably 50% of it was heterosexual porn, but I was really surprised how much of it was 2 men.
We have sex at least once a day, but usually a couple times a day. I've told him we can do kinky stuff, but he insists he prefers very normal sex. We don't even do stuff like 69 or use toys. We've known each other since we were teenagers, so I know he used to be into kinky stuff.
My fiance is very closed off. He doesn't really talk to me about his stress or fears or anything, we don't talk about sex.
He has a friend who he's had for about 3 years. He started talking to his friend when the guy was 14, and my fiance was in his mid to late 30s. I've never felt anything was bad about their relationship, but obviously this kid is much younger than him. I've never heard them discuss anything inappropriate, but a couple of times, I heard him confide things he never told me. We had a miscarriage, and he talked to this kid about it, but not me. In fact, outside of sex, we have almost no interaction. He doesn't want to watch movies with me or do activities with me. I pretty much bring him food and have sex with him, and thats the only time i ever spend with him. This kid seems very heterosexual, but he has told my fiance he wished they lived together. He seems to have a more intimate and trusting relationship with this boy, than he does me. My fiance doesn't seem obsessive or anything, but he mentions this kid for one reason or another, just about every day. The kid calls him every day too (he's 18 now, btw) Now that I've found all this gay porn, I'm starting to become concerned.
One other thing, when my fiance and I were teenagers, we'd like have cyber sex. I have a really foggy memory about it, and maybe it was a dream (it was like 20 years ago), but I seem to remember he wanted another guy to join the conversation,and we had a cyber threesome, where the other guy pretended to penetrate him. When I asked him if he remembers that, he won't give me a direct answer. He rarely gives me a direct answer about anything. He did very directly tell me he isn't gay when i asked him today, though.
Guys, I'm sorry this is so long. I feel awful. I feel like he is keeping secrets from me and like I don't really know him, because he is so closed off. He knows I looked through his computer, but he doesn't want to talk about the porn. It's been 2 days and I feel like I'm in a black cloud and I can't escape this feeling that he's keeping a terrible secret. We've had sex like 5 times since I saw the porn on his computer.
2024.05.20 07:42 thecatdaddysupreme Looking for a convertible, where should I start?
I got 40k to burn with a couple grand leeway. I wanted a Mazda mx5 RF grand touring but I’m never going to fit in one at 6’5” and 36” inseam.
It’s gotta be a retractable hard top because I’ll be in SoCal. I’m seeing some extremely sexy used 440i xdrives for well within my price range—and I love the MPG—but I don’t know about their reliability.
What would you recommend if you were in my shoes? I want a car I can button up for freeway slogs and then pop open for beach cruises and date nights. Good MPG would be fantastic.
Thanks!
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It’s gotta be a retractable hard top because I’ll be in SoCal. I’m seeing some extremely sexy used 440i xdrives for well within my price range—and I love the MPG—but I don’t know about their reliability.
What would you recommend if you were in my shoes? I want a car I can button up for freeway slogs and then pop open for beach cruises and date nights. Good MPG would be fantastic.
Thanks!
2024.05.20 07:36 twilight_aeon "Autism radar" & autistic traits X disorder
I've had two different people tell me they were sure I was autistic because their "autism radar" told them so. At the time I rolled with it, but thinking back that seems pretty strange, or even inappropriate.
One was a friend I've known for years who hasn't been diagnosed but is pretty confident she's autistic.
The other was a friend of a friend of a friend who saw me from afar once, at a nightclub, and the second time we met the first thing he said was he was an "F84.0" and he had been sure I was one too. I have no idea what I did at the club that set off his "radar", I just sat by myself at a table for a while because I was there by myself and I was tired (which I guess is unusual, but is it specifically autistic?) and later I got up and danced the rest of the night with some club regulars I knew.
Now, I did go and get a neuropsych evaluation and the evaluator did conclude "my profile matches autism". However, after talking to my therapist and several people in the autistic community about it online, there are several questionable things about how this evaluation was conducted, one of which is that there was no discussion of how much my supposedly autistic traits actually negatively impact my life. I don't feel like they do, and when I said that online, people told me what defines autism spectrum disorder is that it's disabling --- like you can have a more anxious personality, but it's only an anxiety disorder if it's extreme enough that it has a significant negative impact on your life.
So with that in mind, how could an autism radar even work? People might think I'm "quirky" in a similar way to them, but surely they can't tell how much that does or doesn't impact my life just from watching me showing no signs of distress at a nightclub?? So I don't know, it seems pretty strange to me to assume people must be autistic based on some vibe they can't even define.
The friend who actually knows me couldn't really say why she thought I was autistic either. Then she showed me some "if you relate you might be autistic" tiktoks with stuff on the level of "liking to eat with a small spoon"; and I did relate to several items, but although these "quirks" might be common among autistic people, they're not diagnostic criteria because little harmless things like that are not what actually defines autism.
This is a bit of a tangent, but I saw a video on the theory of "monotropism" to explain autism, and it made me think maybe it'd be helpful to be able to say some people are pretty monotropic, but not to the degree of it being a disabling disorder (i.e. to the level of it being autism). That seems like a good way to describe my experience, and it would feel like a less wild claim if a stranger said I give monotropic vibes, rather than implying I'm monotropic to the degree of a disorder. Like "you seemed sad at the club that night", rather than "you seemed like you have clinical depression".
I think the crux of this post is really the weird thing I feel has been going on of some people seeing autism as a personality type, while others (including the actual diagnostic criteria in the DSM) see it as a disabling disorder. Maybe it'd be helpful to have a name for this personality type a fair few people relate to and want to find community around, so that it doesn't get conflated with the actual disorder.
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One was a friend I've known for years who hasn't been diagnosed but is pretty confident she's autistic.
The other was a friend of a friend of a friend who saw me from afar once, at a nightclub, and the second time we met the first thing he said was he was an "F84.0" and he had been sure I was one too. I have no idea what I did at the club that set off his "radar", I just sat by myself at a table for a while because I was there by myself and I was tired (which I guess is unusual, but is it specifically autistic?) and later I got up and danced the rest of the night with some club regulars I knew.
Now, I did go and get a neuropsych evaluation and the evaluator did conclude "my profile matches autism". However, after talking to my therapist and several people in the autistic community about it online, there are several questionable things about how this evaluation was conducted, one of which is that there was no discussion of how much my supposedly autistic traits actually negatively impact my life. I don't feel like they do, and when I said that online, people told me what defines autism spectrum disorder is that it's disabling --- like you can have a more anxious personality, but it's only an anxiety disorder if it's extreme enough that it has a significant negative impact on your life.
So with that in mind, how could an autism radar even work? People might think I'm "quirky" in a similar way to them, but surely they can't tell how much that does or doesn't impact my life just from watching me showing no signs of distress at a nightclub?? So I don't know, it seems pretty strange to me to assume people must be autistic based on some vibe they can't even define.
The friend who actually knows me couldn't really say why she thought I was autistic either. Then she showed me some "if you relate you might be autistic" tiktoks with stuff on the level of "liking to eat with a small spoon"; and I did relate to several items, but although these "quirks" might be common among autistic people, they're not diagnostic criteria because little harmless things like that are not what actually defines autism.
This is a bit of a tangent, but I saw a video on the theory of "monotropism" to explain autism, and it made me think maybe it'd be helpful to be able to say some people are pretty monotropic, but not to the degree of it being a disabling disorder (i.e. to the level of it being autism). That seems like a good way to describe my experience, and it would feel like a less wild claim if a stranger said I give monotropic vibes, rather than implying I'm monotropic to the degree of a disorder. Like "you seemed sad at the club that night", rather than "you seemed like you have clinical depression".
I think the crux of this post is really the weird thing I feel has been going on of some people seeing autism as a personality type, while others (including the actual diagnostic criteria in the DSM) see it as a disabling disorder. Maybe it'd be helpful to have a name for this personality type a fair few people relate to and want to find community around, so that it doesn't get conflated with the actual disorder.
2024.05.20 07:34 Individual-Ice-239 Signed a lease and other renters constantly are violating noise ordinances / have kids who enter my property
So I moved into an apartment from out of state so I didn’t get to really tour the location or see much about it until I moved in. The walls are extremely thin and I can hear footsteps all the time which is fine because apartment life but my apartment is located in an extremely busy walkway I came to find out, with a lawn in front of it people like to hang out on. It’s literally NEVER quiet it sounds like the people outside are in the room with me, and a few times at night people have violated city mandated quiet hours blasting music outside of my apartment and throwing parties at 11pm on a week night , (I had to tell them to please turn it down). My last straw is when some child climbed into my balcony and started banging on my windows at 7:30 am which I went to put on clothes to confront them and her and the mother had already walked off (mom did nothing about it) I’m not bothered by the normal noise footsteps, occasional chatter exc. there’s constant screaming kids / people disrespecting others space and peace. I’ve only lived here 2 weeks and I haven’t slept more then 5 hours , is there any way I can break the lease? I work remote also so this impacts my work. Not to mention I’m scared for my saftey since people have peered into my windows/ kids have and I’m afraid to even change in my room now. I have no privacy whatsoever or peace.
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2024.05.20 07:31 Beneficial_Cry2895 Neighborhood Watch Is Gangstalking
Hello, posting this to help people out who don't know what's going on.
When I first figured out I was being watched by these people I would try my best to avoid them and take side streets and nature paths in order to learn the extent I was being followed.
Turns out many many people, it seems like most people are apart of Neighborhood Watch and very few people were not invited.
My family and friends are apart of neighborhood watch and refuse to talk to me about it I don't know why. Well, they aren't my family and friends anymore because real friends & family don't do that.
I was told by someone who works for CSIS how to get off the watchlist here's how you do it:
Don't look suspicious, don't act paranoid, don't be negative or aggressive, don't do crime, live a normal life and pretty much just ignore it. Work your job, have a normal routine and stop associating with certain people in your life who might be a criminal.
Sounds odd because I've been getting stalked by these people since I was 13 but that was during a period where I was being bullied by people in my school immensely so that might have gave Neighborhood Watch an incentive to watch me in order for my protection.
Anyway not to talk too much about myself here... If you live your life for a long time, and I mean a long long time Neighborhood Watch and the Feds who are the mastermind behind this see that there is nothing going on with you they'll move on and stop watching you.
Right now, you're where the money's at. For whatever reason there's an incentive to watch you and that gives them a reason to do their job, write reports etc and gives them a reason to justify the surveillance and when these numbers where people are being watched they will be able to justify to courts why the need more funding for this type of surveillance.
I've been attacked by people on Neighborhood Watch many many times and have been set up several times to get arrested for crimes I didn't do. I've been set up so many times and it's all so they can justify why they need to watch me.... It's all BS they don't want to let me go, they want to aggravate me, harass me, stalk and attack me in order to keep me in a alert, panicked, negative and spiteful frame of mind in order for them to get me to retaliate and justify the surveillance for them in order for them to fill out reports to use in the courts so they can keep their numbers high, increase their fundings which will increase their pay, yadayadaya.
Stay out in the open, because they look for ways to attack and harass you in ways you'll have a hard time proving that they're doing that because these people are afraid of getting caught and are afraid of the police.
I've pissed off so many of these people by playing their game back (nothing illegal) and I've watched them get pissed off, yell at me, walk around me trying to find anything they can use to get back at me and what stops them is that they are in public and on camera, or other stalkers who WILL snitch on them are watching their move too because there are good, good and naive and ignorant stalkers who will snitch on their own stalkers if they see anything they do that's wrong. I've had stalkers snitch on other stalkers and tell the police that someone attacked me and that person got arrested and I doubt they're still on the Neighborhood Watch anymore.
I believe it's a CIA program at it's core trying to hurt people, manipulate people, behavior modify people whatever it is that CIA is known to do in the past I believe they're still doing it through Neighborhood Watch.... Mass shooters are on the rise and I believe CIA might be experimenting on people in ways where they can get away with it, just like how Neighborhood Watch people are trying to stalk you and harass you in ways they can get away with it and make it hard for you to prove it's happening.
Basically stay in the open, try your best not to retaliate, keep a normal routine and don't do anything illegal or shady and they'll see that nothing is going on with you over a LONG time and they'll move onto someone else. The person who works for CSIS told me that they'll come back and check up on you again, and again, a few times until they finally stop so keep that in mind. The stalkers are also getting stalked occasionally but they aren't aware, like we are.
The best way to spot these stalkers is if they have their phone out and the phone camera is pointed at you these people always have their phone out, and earphones in their ear sometimes they'll keep it in one ear and sit on a bus or somewhere or walk by you with the other ear faced to you showing nothing's in their ear meanwhile they got an earpod often times in the other ear on the side not faced to you.
They'll show you if you confront them that they aren't recording you or that they don't have their voice call/face time up but they're able to minimize it or close it, then turn it back on when you aren't looking, I promise you they are face timing someone and that person who is face timing you is screen recording everything.
Ignore the posts about freemasons, illuminati, all that stupidness it's THEM trying to discredit people from speaking out and make us all sound crazy it's simply Neighborhood Watch and CIA/CSIS/NSA that's behind all of this, but the people on foot they're all Neighborhood Watch and they get paid by Patreon, it's all volunteer work some of them do get paid but it's from donations for example, some neighborhood watches have everyone donate $5 a month and pool it all together and these people get paid mcdonalds, or gift cards, and the extreme stalkers can up to $300 a week or more depending on how often they're stalking.
The intelligence agencies do recruit people from time to time, but most of the time, like 98% of the time it's simply Neighborhood Watch and disinformation assholes online trying to confuse everyone about what's actually going on.
Keep spreading the word, it's simply Neighborhood Watch and the Federal Intelligent Agencies behind all of this.... maybe you hit their radar for whatever reason just don't give them an incentive to watch you anymore like I said earlier and you'll be fine and remember, the stalkers occasionally get stalked too so don't take it personal and if you're dealing with bad neighbors harassing you maybe find legal ways to piss them off but legal, nothing illegal for example... crank up your music full blast (provided it's not past the legal limit) and put it up towards your ceiling or something like that.
Also.... one more important thing to tell you.
Some of these guys can see through your walls right? Yeah, I'm very familiar with this.
Look up the device called VAYYAR.... It allows people to see through the ceiling, the floor and the walls and it's very cheap this is the sort of device they use to spy through the walls and also please check your outlets because I had a pinhole camera in my washroom very nasty stuff they did to me but I want to spread the word because I wanna help anyone I can out there.
For police who try to suggest mental health problems, simply say you aren't a danger to yourself and others, and don't say you're mad or violent or anything negative just keep it simple and they'll have nothing they can use to apprehend you and put you in a mental hospital because some of them who know what's going on usually the supervisors want to make you scared and shut you up but I'm not a conformist not in the slightest and neither should you be.... Stand up for yourself we're dealing with evil vigilantes who are told propaganda about us in order to get them to sometimes hate us and they feel justified in doing what they're doing to us.
There's many ways to legally piss people off just in case your case is severe and you're dealing with people who are maliciously trying to hurt you and get away with it, and no cops are helping you. I've seen cases where they were jumping on someone's tiny home at night and throwing eggs at someone's house, or meeting someone where there's no cameras and assaulting their target and running off and cops don't help that person it's terrible and you don't need to put up with that so I'll tell you some tips:
Take a picture with your flash on and let them know you took a picture of them. Sometimes they'll get right in front of you and/or yell at you.... it's just them trying to intimidate you into stopping but they will not and cannot touch you because they know other stalkers are watching this go down, or cameras are in the area do not be intimidated even if it's a big scary looking person if you know they're a stalker then do not be intimidated at all it's all BS trust me, they will not touch you, and in the odd case they do press charges and get that stalker the jail time they need and file a lawsuit against that person and get paid if you can but 99.99% of the time they will not touch you, they'll only act like they will.
Don't take pictures of any children or teenager follows or harassing you, especially since they're children just accept that they've been duped and if they're actually breaking the law though and you can prove it, like if they're harassing you then video tape of course and protect yourself but only if you can prove it 100%
Be careful with taking videos and pictures, because sometimes they are recording you and won't stop or react as you're doing it and then they'll post what you're doing on their Facebook, Twitter, instagram, snapchat, youtube or wherever else even Discord and will frame you as a weirdo even though they are so be careful.
If you're walking by, no one's going to blame you for being a Klutz and accidentally step on their shoes or toes, I mean, things happen right?
Or if you have a water bottle you bought from the store and the lid is hard to open, no one is going to blame you if you accidentally open the water bottle and your arm flings to the side with the bottle in hand and you end up splashing one of them in the faces.
No one is going to blame you, if you have a coffee in your hand and you trip and you spill it all over them, or if you walk by and your heavy bag hits them in the head, I mean these are all accidents and no one can blame you for it just make sure you're not doing it on purpose ;)
They want to play their game, well there are ways we can play this back. We don't have to be as careful anymore when it comes to being considerate, or being mindful of where peoples feet are on the bus or subway, or wherever we no longer need to be mindful just don't do anything on purpose ;) and you're all good.
If you're being tailed by a stalker and cops won't listen to you.... Go to a side street at night as you're being stalked and while this is taking place, have in your trunk some big thick and possible sharp gravel or rocks in a bag and dump them all over the road where you know your stalker will be driving... lets say they drove past you... They'll take a U-Turn and drive back, so dump it wherever you know they'll be coming and say F them and their tires, they shouldn't be stalking you anyway.
I'll try to make more posts in the future if i can but I believe the Mods on this subbreddit are the ''Gangstalkers'' and they are controlling what is put out there so in case this post doesn't even make it, I'll simply just PM everyone on a day to day basis with this information instead and I'll make my own subreddit and PM everyone to join that one if the Mods feel like playing that game by censoring true and helpful information.
This is how things are right now the World isn't perfect. You're not the only one, bad people are in this World don't take it personal. Find God, find Spirituality find something meaningful and don't let anyone take that away from you be strong.
Good luck.
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When I first figured out I was being watched by these people I would try my best to avoid them and take side streets and nature paths in order to learn the extent I was being followed.
Turns out many many people, it seems like most people are apart of Neighborhood Watch and very few people were not invited.
My family and friends are apart of neighborhood watch and refuse to talk to me about it I don't know why. Well, they aren't my family and friends anymore because real friends & family don't do that.
I was told by someone who works for CSIS how to get off the watchlist here's how you do it:
Don't look suspicious, don't act paranoid, don't be negative or aggressive, don't do crime, live a normal life and pretty much just ignore it. Work your job, have a normal routine and stop associating with certain people in your life who might be a criminal.
Sounds odd because I've been getting stalked by these people since I was 13 but that was during a period where I was being bullied by people in my school immensely so that might have gave Neighborhood Watch an incentive to watch me in order for my protection.
Anyway not to talk too much about myself here... If you live your life for a long time, and I mean a long long time Neighborhood Watch and the Feds who are the mastermind behind this see that there is nothing going on with you they'll move on and stop watching you.
Right now, you're where the money's at. For whatever reason there's an incentive to watch you and that gives them a reason to do their job, write reports etc and gives them a reason to justify the surveillance and when these numbers where people are being watched they will be able to justify to courts why the need more funding for this type of surveillance.
I've been attacked by people on Neighborhood Watch many many times and have been set up several times to get arrested for crimes I didn't do. I've been set up so many times and it's all so they can justify why they need to watch me.... It's all BS they don't want to let me go, they want to aggravate me, harass me, stalk and attack me in order to keep me in a alert, panicked, negative and spiteful frame of mind in order for them to get me to retaliate and justify the surveillance for them in order for them to fill out reports to use in the courts so they can keep their numbers high, increase their fundings which will increase their pay, yadayadaya.
Stay out in the open, because they look for ways to attack and harass you in ways you'll have a hard time proving that they're doing that because these people are afraid of getting caught and are afraid of the police.
I've pissed off so many of these people by playing their game back (nothing illegal) and I've watched them get pissed off, yell at me, walk around me trying to find anything they can use to get back at me and what stops them is that they are in public and on camera, or other stalkers who WILL snitch on them are watching their move too because there are good, good and naive and ignorant stalkers who will snitch on their own stalkers if they see anything they do that's wrong. I've had stalkers snitch on other stalkers and tell the police that someone attacked me and that person got arrested and I doubt they're still on the Neighborhood Watch anymore.
I believe it's a CIA program at it's core trying to hurt people, manipulate people, behavior modify people whatever it is that CIA is known to do in the past I believe they're still doing it through Neighborhood Watch.... Mass shooters are on the rise and I believe CIA might be experimenting on people in ways where they can get away with it, just like how Neighborhood Watch people are trying to stalk you and harass you in ways they can get away with it and make it hard for you to prove it's happening.
Basically stay in the open, try your best not to retaliate, keep a normal routine and don't do anything illegal or shady and they'll see that nothing is going on with you over a LONG time and they'll move onto someone else. The person who works for CSIS told me that they'll come back and check up on you again, and again, a few times until they finally stop so keep that in mind. The stalkers are also getting stalked occasionally but they aren't aware, like we are.
The best way to spot these stalkers is if they have their phone out and the phone camera is pointed at you these people always have their phone out, and earphones in their ear sometimes they'll keep it in one ear and sit on a bus or somewhere or walk by you with the other ear faced to you showing nothing's in their ear meanwhile they got an earpod often times in the other ear on the side not faced to you.
They'll show you if you confront them that they aren't recording you or that they don't have their voice call/face time up but they're able to minimize it or close it, then turn it back on when you aren't looking, I promise you they are face timing someone and that person who is face timing you is screen recording everything.
Ignore the posts about freemasons, illuminati, all that stupidness it's THEM trying to discredit people from speaking out and make us all sound crazy it's simply Neighborhood Watch and CIA/CSIS/NSA that's behind all of this, but the people on foot they're all Neighborhood Watch and they get paid by Patreon, it's all volunteer work some of them do get paid but it's from donations for example, some neighborhood watches have everyone donate $5 a month and pool it all together and these people get paid mcdonalds, or gift cards, and the extreme stalkers can up to $300 a week or more depending on how often they're stalking.
The intelligence agencies do recruit people from time to time, but most of the time, like 98% of the time it's simply Neighborhood Watch and disinformation assholes online trying to confuse everyone about what's actually going on.
Keep spreading the word, it's simply Neighborhood Watch and the Federal Intelligent Agencies behind all of this.... maybe you hit their radar for whatever reason just don't give them an incentive to watch you anymore like I said earlier and you'll be fine and remember, the stalkers occasionally get stalked too so don't take it personal and if you're dealing with bad neighbors harassing you maybe find legal ways to piss them off but legal, nothing illegal for example... crank up your music full blast (provided it's not past the legal limit) and put it up towards your ceiling or something like that.
Also.... one more important thing to tell you.
Some of these guys can see through your walls right? Yeah, I'm very familiar with this.
Look up the device called VAYYAR.... It allows people to see through the ceiling, the floor and the walls and it's very cheap this is the sort of device they use to spy through the walls and also please check your outlets because I had a pinhole camera in my washroom very nasty stuff they did to me but I want to spread the word because I wanna help anyone I can out there.
For police who try to suggest mental health problems, simply say you aren't a danger to yourself and others, and don't say you're mad or violent or anything negative just keep it simple and they'll have nothing they can use to apprehend you and put you in a mental hospital because some of them who know what's going on usually the supervisors want to make you scared and shut you up but I'm not a conformist not in the slightest and neither should you be.... Stand up for yourself we're dealing with evil vigilantes who are told propaganda about us in order to get them to sometimes hate us and they feel justified in doing what they're doing to us.
There's many ways to legally piss people off just in case your case is severe and you're dealing with people who are maliciously trying to hurt you and get away with it, and no cops are helping you. I've seen cases where they were jumping on someone's tiny home at night and throwing eggs at someone's house, or meeting someone where there's no cameras and assaulting their target and running off and cops don't help that person it's terrible and you don't need to put up with that so I'll tell you some tips:
Take a picture with your flash on and let them know you took a picture of them. Sometimes they'll get right in front of you and/or yell at you.... it's just them trying to intimidate you into stopping but they will not and cannot touch you because they know other stalkers are watching this go down, or cameras are in the area do not be intimidated even if it's a big scary looking person if you know they're a stalker then do not be intimidated at all it's all BS trust me, they will not touch you, and in the odd case they do press charges and get that stalker the jail time they need and file a lawsuit against that person and get paid if you can but 99.99% of the time they will not touch you, they'll only act like they will.
Don't take pictures of any children or teenager follows or harassing you, especially since they're children just accept that they've been duped and if they're actually breaking the law though and you can prove it, like if they're harassing you then video tape of course and protect yourself but only if you can prove it 100%
Be careful with taking videos and pictures, because sometimes they are recording you and won't stop or react as you're doing it and then they'll post what you're doing on their Facebook, Twitter, instagram, snapchat, youtube or wherever else even Discord and will frame you as a weirdo even though they are so be careful.
If you're walking by, no one's going to blame you for being a Klutz and accidentally step on their shoes or toes, I mean, things happen right?
Or if you have a water bottle you bought from the store and the lid is hard to open, no one is going to blame you if you accidentally open the water bottle and your arm flings to the side with the bottle in hand and you end up splashing one of them in the faces.
No one is going to blame you, if you have a coffee in your hand and you trip and you spill it all over them, or if you walk by and your heavy bag hits them in the head, I mean these are all accidents and no one can blame you for it just make sure you're not doing it on purpose ;)
They want to play their game, well there are ways we can play this back. We don't have to be as careful anymore when it comes to being considerate, or being mindful of where peoples feet are on the bus or subway, or wherever we no longer need to be mindful just don't do anything on purpose ;) and you're all good.
If you're being tailed by a stalker and cops won't listen to you.... Go to a side street at night as you're being stalked and while this is taking place, have in your trunk some big thick and possible sharp gravel or rocks in a bag and dump them all over the road where you know your stalker will be driving... lets say they drove past you... They'll take a U-Turn and drive back, so dump it wherever you know they'll be coming and say F them and their tires, they shouldn't be stalking you anyway.
I'll try to make more posts in the future if i can but I believe the Mods on this subbreddit are the ''Gangstalkers'' and they are controlling what is put out there so in case this post doesn't even make it, I'll simply just PM everyone on a day to day basis with this information instead and I'll make my own subreddit and PM everyone to join that one if the Mods feel like playing that game by censoring true and helpful information.
This is how things are right now the World isn't perfect. You're not the only one, bad people are in this World don't take it personal. Find God, find Spirituality find something meaningful and don't let anyone take that away from you be strong.
Good luck.
2024.05.20 07:26 Either-Gur7218 Spitup
My baby keeps spitting up at night through his nose. It scares me. I have tried and read alot of things about it. He spits up tp the point he is holding his breathe and coughing. Anyone else have this probably with their newborns? I called the doctor spoke to the nurse she just told me hold him upright longer. I told her he had been upright for an hour after his feeding. She stated hold him longer and hung up. Fustrating
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2024.05.20 07:26 WeAlStartAsStrangers Had a dream where my memory was reset to 2021
Fell asleep last night with my boyfriend of a year and a half.
I had the strangest dream that I was dating my ex-boyfriend from 3 years ago, who was a total a-hole and I had caught on Tinder. In the dream however I was the one going on Tinder. Had a looming thought the entire time that I was forgetting about something and shouldn’t have been swiping, when I finally realized that there had been someone else after him.
But I couldn’t for the life of me remember my current bf - his name, his face, or the entire last year and a half I spent with him. To the dream me, he didn’t exist.
I racked my brain so hard in the dream that it woke up me and I had to literally look at the person who I was sleeping next to remember who I was with. For that split second before looking at him I’m still not sure I knew who he was.
I wanted to tell him about it but what a slap in the face that would be to hear your girlfriend completely forgot about you.
Has anyone ever had a dream like that that resets your brain to a point in history almost as if you don’t have any of the new knowledge or memories you’ve gained since that point in time? It was the first time that’s happened to me and felt extremely disorienting.
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I had the strangest dream that I was dating my ex-boyfriend from 3 years ago, who was a total a-hole and I had caught on Tinder. In the dream however I was the one going on Tinder. Had a looming thought the entire time that I was forgetting about something and shouldn’t have been swiping, when I finally realized that there had been someone else after him.
But I couldn’t for the life of me remember my current bf - his name, his face, or the entire last year and a half I spent with him. To the dream me, he didn’t exist.
I racked my brain so hard in the dream that it woke up me and I had to literally look at the person who I was sleeping next to remember who I was with. For that split second before looking at him I’m still not sure I knew who he was.
I wanted to tell him about it but what a slap in the face that would be to hear your girlfriend completely forgot about you.
Has anyone ever had a dream like that that resets your brain to a point in history almost as if you don’t have any of the new knowledge or memories you’ve gained since that point in time? It was the first time that’s happened to me and felt extremely disorienting.
2024.05.20 07:23 icygus Feeling confused and like I'm dying.
For the last few months I've been feeling extremely disconnected from reality. On top of that my health anxiety is out of control. I feel like there's a constant brain fog, like my writing and speech abilities have gone down the drain, like my vocabulary is reduced and like i've been using way too many filler words. I've also been having trouble drawing, it seems like everything i try to do is never as i pictured in my head and it frustrates me. I also feel like my English has been terrible lately and like i can't use it to the extent i used to before. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow because I believe i have a brain tumor. I've also had my heart checked and everything was ok. I left the meds about a month ago following my psychiatrist's orders...the truth is that for some reason i got worse in the last few months and before she took me off the meds I didn't tell her because since I'm 20 now (i started consulting her when i was 16) she would have me transfered to an adults psychiatrist who would put me on medication for the rest of my life. I don't want that. I just want to live a normal life like everyone else without this feeling of dispair that feels like there's always something wrong with me. I've also been dealing with withdrawl symptoms such as brain snaps for example, do you guys know any way to deal with them. Also sometimes when i'm haviny anxiety crisis at night e hear "voices" in my head, like my thoughts are screaming. I was really proud of the progress i've made in the last 4 years and i thought it was close to beeing over but now here I am again. Was my english too bad?
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2024.05.20 07:21 Suitable_Turn_9280 4 month regression is killing me
My baby is a week away from turning 4 months old. And he went from sleeping 7 hours stretches to 2 hours stretches. I exclusively breastfeed. For about a month now my baby can put himself to sleep at night. But he wakes up every 2 hours both me an my husband are extremely exhausted so nurse him back to sleep. I don’t know what to do!! Should I nurse him, maybe try the cio or hold him and rock him back to sleep.
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