Hey all, My husband and I have been married 2 years, and we have a 4 month old son together. 2 months ago out of no where we started fighting, he started breaking things like glass in close proximity to my son and I, because I to stopped and nurse my son instead of plating him dinner. I reported him to his CoC and cps go involved and now he’s being found with child abuse. Before the case closed and the 7 day no contact order we had expired and we were back in the home together for a couple day, long story short he got mad and started racking his weapons and I thought he was going to kill me or our son, so I called the police, and they called his command. And I went back to my home state to get away from him. He’s still furious and has denied that he did anything wrong he’s been disconnecting my phone on and off, threating to foreclose on or home if I don’t return, etc…he left for deployment recently, and I’ve been trying to work on this with him the entire time but he just wants a divorce. He agreed that if I returned home he would take divorce off the table so I am. Anyhow, since things were so bitter when he left I’m so afraid he will cheat on me in Poland while I’m staying home with our child and rely on him for everything. I never thought he would cheat on me but once my son and I left the home he started going to clubs and such, he called me one night telling me he danced with other girls and hated other girls and just wanted to be with me. And maybe that’s where the insecurity comes from. How do I stop these thoughts because they are eating me alive… I’m filled with fear and I’m just heart broken as it is. He’s done a lot of wrong to me and I feel like I’ll be able to forgive it some day but if he cheats I’ll never forgive him. Anyone else experience this?

Hey everyone - some parts of this may sound like a how to handle $ post but it's different for my situation. I have no idea what to do, and I don't fit in any of the categories in this article.
So to preface this, I'm just, weird in the traditional sense. I've always wanted to invest, make money, and do similar things. I am not old enough to work in my state.
Right now, I have the following accounts/savings prepared Roth IRA (Fidelity) - $600~. The main holdings in here are, AAPL, SPY, MSFT, GBTC, and a few other random choice companies. But the majority of it is SPY, around $400. Traditional IRA (Vanguard) - $0. One of my questions is if I should even bother funding my traditional. I think that I should put at least a little bit in, just to save money on the taxes. All my income is Schedule C self employment income. BoFA - $1,000~. Given my age, I obviously don't have any expenses, besides the ones I put upon myself. Obviously I purchase dumb things every so often. Various taxable accounts - $1,100~. These are all in taxable brokerages. I will owe around 10-15% on it at the end of the year, so keep that in mind.
As it is right now, I make around $1,200 to $2,800 monthly. This is "pre tax", but for me, I'm in like, the 15% tax bracket.
I'm not sure what to do. I think my best choice is just to fund my Roth as much as I can, but I don't know and that's why I'm here. This sounds like the most fake bizarre story ever, but it really isn't. I'm just a nerd. I want to prepare for retirement as best as possible. My BoA account is a joint account, as I'm not of the required age, but it is still MY money. I've considered starting different businesses, like amazon (both retail arbitrage and FBA wholesale) but I'm not entirely sure if that would fit me. I'm open to any suggestions, even risky ones like starting some sort of business.
Obviously with the 3 months of free time I'm going to have, I want something to do. Having cash sitting bothers me. I'd like to max out my Roth contribution by the end of the summer, but after that, what do I do with the cash? I considered a taxable brokerage, I considered a 529 (rollover into a roth when I'm 18), I considered a HYSA, but nothing really fits with me. I don't want to spend the money, but I want to do something with it.
Please help, thank you all!

Race information

• What? RBC Brooklyn Half
• When? May 18, 2024
• How far? 13.1 miles
• Where? New York, NY
• Website: https://www.nyrr.org/races/2024rbcbrooklynhalf
• Finish time: 1:40:XX

Goals

Goal	Description	Completed?
A	Sub 1:38	No
B	Sub 1:40	No
C	As far sub 2:00 as possible	Yes
D	Run really fast	Yes

Background

I was an athlete, but never a runner. Growing up I played baseball and soccer, then lacrosse and football. Running was something done in laps, and it was a punishment. I went on one run as a teenager, but it was with a girl I thought was cute, and I could barely keep up with her. Then, at 17, I tore my ACL. At 18 I had two surgeries for post-op infections from the ACL surgery. At 19, another surgery to remove one of the original screws from the ACL. At 20, I tore my meniscus and had a partial meniscectomy.
A few years later, I started running a little. Nothing regular, or structured. Then I made friends with a triathlete and was inspired to sign up for some races. I hated the swim, liked the bike, tolerated the run. I don’t think I ever ran more than 6.2 miles for the entirety of my 20s.
By 30, I couldn’t run. Osteoarthritis had kicked in hard and athletic stuff was too painful to enjoy. By 32 I was talking to orthopedic surgeons about a knee replacement. Injections didn’t work, and PT was prehab. Daily life was too much. I couldn’t sleep through the night, I was icing my knee at my desk during the day, stairs were a thing to be avoided if possible and navigated carefully if required - the whole bit. Keeping up with two toddlers was impossible.
A medium-sized miracle happened. I was accepted into a clinical trial, the “Atlas Study” for a new surgically implanted device that offloaded the medial side of the knee. I was nearly the last of 50 patients in this study - and definitely one of the youngest. Atlas was successful, and another trial followed, and then FDA approval just before the six years anniversary of my surgery. The device is now known as the MISHA Knee System.

Training

I ran somewhat irregularly, 8-10 miles in a good week, post-COVID. We got a treadmill in 2020 because my wife used to go the gym solely to run. So I made use of it, and never ran outside, 2020-April 2024.
I got it in my head to run a half marathon around the holidays. I was feeling good, and wanted a new goal. I started climbing again in September 2023, and wanted another, complementary challenge - something more concrete. I started my training the second week of January. I had no idea what I was doing. I just hoped I could train successfully, and without triggering knee pain.
I looked at the Hal Higdon Novice 1, and tweaked to my purposes - 3 days a week of running, three days of climbing, and some kickboxing classes thrown in for good measure. Plus a two week ski trip at serious altitude in late March - I’ll come back to this. So: Monday and Wednesdays were shorter runs, Saturdays were long runs. Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday were climbing days at my local gym. Plus a goal of a weekday kickboxing class and a weekend kickboxing class, which meant some days were a double. It was a big jump in training volume.
Monday and Wednesday runs started out at 3 miles and built up in half mile increments to 5, according to Hal’s plan. Dearest Hal says next to nothing about pace, so like an enthusiastic but naive child I just ran as close to my goal pace as possible, over the distance specified, hoping to get the treadmill to an average of 6.6. I basically negative split my runs at threshold out of the gates. And Saturday runs? The same thing. Trying to get to 6.6 on that treadmill. From no consistent base.
Then at the end of January I tore my TFCC - plus two other ligaments in my wrist. No climbing for 8 weeks, no kickboxing for at least that long. Cross training plans are out for a while.
Nothing but running to keep me sane, for a bit. Stuck with three days a week. I skipped racing the 5k and 10k in the plan and just advanced the long run to the next mile. But that ski trip hit, right after I ran 10 miles for the first time. Two weeks with a ton of cross training, and almost zero running - I tried one run, but at ~9000 feet instead of home at ~20, I died after about 2 miles.
Post trip, I had six weeks to race day. Climbing was back in as cross training. Shorter runs were all 5 miles, Saturday runs were 9, 10, 13.1, 10, 3, race day. I started reading Reddit voraciously and my TikTok feed started giving me running coaches and I discovered this wild idea called “zone 2 running” - wow was it easier! So weird. For the first time I did some intervals, some threshold work, a 10 mile progression run, and actual easy runs. It was in early April when I realized my original goal - break 2 hours - was the wrong time altogether. That 13.1 mile run was my second run off a treadmill. I had downloaded Strava but didn’t know it could tell me my times in my headphones. I just went out for an 11 mile run, felt good, extended it, and found out afterwards that I ran a 1:42:XX. I was shocked, my treadmill pace had never been that fast. And I was trying hard, but maybe not as hard as possible. I set new goals.
The next weekend I did a 10 mile progression run outside, with Strava telling me times. I had basically no time to learn what different paces felt like, so I negative split 10 miles and tried to remember what felt good, and what felt like too much.
Before you know it, it was time to taper. Another new experience for me. One climbing session, no kickboxing, 3 mile runs.

Race Day

I drove myself nuts trying to decide whether to run in my assigned corral, 1L, or drop back to 2A. Passing thousands of people or open roads? I’ll never know if I made the right call.
Slept horribly. Maybe 3.5 hours. Multiple wakeups and I was up for good at 4:10. I tried to use everything I learned about nutrition in the days leading up to the race - I was so hydrated, and had so. many. carbs. I had a very upset stomach on race morning and went light with food, had some Imodium, and focused on trying to follow the routine I laid out.
Commute was fine, getting checked in was fine, adrenaline was starting to kick in. Positioned myself at the front of L, and suddenly realized how many people were out there. It felt like forever to start moving, and then the slow walk… and around the corner, which I didn’t expect, and I started Strava early. And we’re off!
Within a minute it’s obvious that I am not going to be able to set my own pace against the prevailing tide of humanity. Maybe half a mile in I see a few people using the sidewalk on the right - nah, I think, then about 15 seconds later I’m blocked ahead and to my left and so say fuck it and go. Good decision.
My focus on the first 5k was not to go out too fast, but not to get bogged down in traffic. 7:58 mile average per NYRR. Mission accomplished.
My focus in the second 5k was to control the hills, but not burn out. And not create a big time deficit. And not get bogged down in traffic. 8:00 per mile average. Mission very accomplished.
10-15k, I wanted to open it up a bit. Not full throttle, I was worried about leaving something in the tank. And not getting bogged down in traffic. It was spacing out a bit more, but I was still running on the left side for clearer roads most of the time, and working right to get to the water stations. 7:27 average. Mission accomplished, and feeling good
Now we’re between mile 9 and 10. I take my third gel just before the aid station, and start to think about how fast I can go. Mile 10 of that progression run in training was 6:47. That’s the goal now. In retrospect - it was also with a vest, uncrowded Central Park roads, no slowing for aid stations. Repeat after me: you should not be upset with actual results. Mile 11-12 sucked. It was probably the only time I didn’t negative split. But: 15k to 20k - 7:21
Home stretch - I did not pay enough attention to the map; to Reddit, to NYRR’s descriptions. The big right on Surf Road? A surprise. Started my kick. The ramp to the Boardwalk? I guess it was new, but man did it feel terrible. Second attempt at a kick. Do not get bogged down. Smile! We’re through. 7:02 pace.

Post-race

Would I have run faster in Wave 2? We’ll never know, and hopefully never find out. Passing thousands of people because I guessed wrong about my time was weird. I used a lot of energy and ran a fair bit of extra distance because of it. 17 seconds to beat 1:40? Maybe. Or maybe I needed to pass people for motivation.
But more than anything, as I reflect, I am grateful. I’m grateful to be able to run at all, because I know what it’s like to struggle to walk.I am grateful for my doctor that referrred me to the study, to my surgeon, Dr Andreas Gomoll, to all the people behind the MISHA device. I’m grateful to Abby Bales, my PT for prehab and rehab from surgery, and everyone who has been a part of my crazy orthopedic history.
I caught the running bug. I’ll be back. Sub 1:35 feels like the next step. I’ve only just begun, and I achieved my biggest goal - run happy. I have the race photos to prove it.
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Name and House:Medea Sand, House Dayne of High Hermitage
Age: 23
Cultural Group: Dornish
Appearance: A woman of average height. Medea has tanned skin and long curly black hair that reaches her waist. One of her eyes, a shade of brown so dark it looks like the night sky, and the other a soft lilac. A jagged and large scar runs from the base of her neck, across her chest, and down to her left hip.
Trait: Ruthless
Skill(s): Ravenmaster, Scribe, Negotiator, Schemer, Rumormonger
Talent(s): Oil painting, Writing, Bird Watching, Life Drawing, Calligraphy
Negative Trait(s): n/a
Starting Title(s): Medea
Starting Location: High Hermitage
Alternate Characters: Donella Dayne
AC
Name and House: Donella Dayne of High Hermitage
Age: 57
Cultural Group: Dornish
Appearance: A short, thin old woman with thin wispy black hair. Dark eyes and olive skin. Trait: Charismatic
Skill(s): Scholar, Avaricious, Medic
Talent(s): Embroidery, keeping her family together
Negative Trait(s): Elderly, Blind
Starting Title(s): Lady of High Hermitage
Starting Location: High Hermitage
Alternate Characters: n/a
Timeline2AC: Medea is born to the Lord of High Hermitage and a Braavosi maid of the castle named Vara. Mother and daughter are given chambers in one of the lower levels of High Hermitage, at the request of Lady Donella, pregnant at the time.
4AC: An infant Medea and her mother Vara leave High Hermitage to cross the narrow sea in Pentos, where Vara’s remaining family of her brother, mother, and grandmother lived. Having remarried into a middle class merchant household, Medea’s grandmother arranged a marriage between Vara and one of the sons of her new husband.
7AC: Vara births another daughter who is named Solara. Medea, now a young child, begins being taught by a lady’s maid in the ways of etiquette. Despite being a bastard, Vara and Medea’s grandmother still intend to try to find a match for Medea that could bring wealth to their family, or at least, an heir for another. Medea quickly learns to read, rapidly becoming a voracious reader.
11AC: A young girl of nine, Medea’s studies have been going smoothly, much to the delight of Vara and Medea’s grandmother.
During a warm night, a fire breaks out in the family’s home leaving Medea’s grandmother, stepfather, Vara dead. The husband of Medea’s grandmother, Medea, and Solara are left heavily injured from the fire but alive for now. After a letter arrives for the lord of High Hermitage, Donella Dayne is the one who insists upon bringing young Medea to High Hermitage to be raised among her own children.
Medea is left heavily scarred from the fire, and a fear of the flames.
16AC: Donella Dayne, a woman of grace, never showed Medea and hostility for her bastard status. She allows Medea to continue schooling, and studies with the family's septa as the rest of the daughters.
Meanwhile, Medea ends up spending a lot of time in the rookery of the castle, feeling a fascination with the corvids the maester so dutifully tended to. The maester minds little at the young woman’s interest and even allows her to choose a chick from a clutch of eggs to raise as her own. She names the raven chick Whimsy. 23AC Astor Dayne dies of a heart attack. Alaric Dayne succeeds him as Lord of High Hermitage.
25AC: Medea lives with her half sisters, Cymella, and Alayne, her half brothers Alaric, Castor, and Darrion, her stepmother Donella in High Hermitage.
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I'm sorry if this has been asked previously, but I wasn't having much luck with the Search Bar on this one...
Just purchased a Medium Home freeze dryer from Tractor Supply on clearance. Went in to get a shop air compressor, and walked out with a freeze dryer - the price was too good to pass up.
After doing my bread run, and a first batch, I defrosted and then went into the test screen. I wanted to change the system time/date as it was off a bit more than an hour.... and was tapping around the time/date on the screen hoping I could change it there... I must have tapped the A/B setting and it ended up going back and forth and I can't recall "which" setting was the default on my machine. The A/B setting toggles the temperature display by a few degrees, so I suppose this is an atmospheric pressure compensation or maybe selects the type/model of thermocouple that is in the machine.
Machine has the latest firmware now, 5.1.25 (c).
TL;DR I can't tell what the default setting should be ... A or B. Any way I can figure this out? I might just let the machine rest powered off until the morning, then compare the temperatures to ambient and set it to "A" or "B" to get the most accurate temperature at that moment if there's no preferred setting. I think it was at "B" before I started tinkering with it.

Hey Reddit,
Really hoping you can help, I’ve been struggling with chronic pain for about 2 years that’s got increasingly worse since spine surgery (c5-c6 disc replacement) Jan ‘23. I just got back the weirdest x ray of my sacrum with a “an interestingly, seemingly completely resorbed coccyx” (which is weird, because I fractured it in 2018??)
Anywho, tried to sum it up below.. (obviously failed wow)
Female, 30yo, 5’2 103lbs
History of coccyx fracture (‘18) and cervical spine surgery ‘23). Acute injury (without fall, while moving boxes) in Dec ‘23 showed bulges at l4-l5 and l5-s1, rupture at l4-l5 and moderate to severe stenosis at l5-s1. Recent diagnoses of ehlers danlos, pots, osteoarthritis, si joint disfunction, health anxiety, and (also) daily struggle with chronic pain. Historical diagnoses of high blood pressure, skin rashes / sensitivity, shingles in back of neck & aural migraines (‘19), PTSD, etc etc
Medications: Adderall 15mg 2x daily (debating stopping as I am p underweight) Gabapentin 600mg daily Botox for migraines every 3mo Heavy nightly medical marijuana user / sometimes dabbler in NyQuil (sleeping is really hard since Dec..) Methocarbamol 750mg as needed
Supplements: Vitamin C gummy’s, K2D3, NAC, Magnesium Glycinate, inositol, B complex
Do I just need to get strong and weigh more?! I am so tired of being in pain, I know I also need to change some things in my personal life that’ll contribute to me feeling better but I am just at a loss. And also maybe the answer is therapy (which I start next week) lol
Many thanks in advance🙏

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Hi everyone, the title of the post sounds like a title for a scholarly article or novel, but I really just couldn’t think of how else to put it.
For some context, I’m fairly new to this community. I underwent an emergency D&C this past Wednesday after having an incomplete MA which unfortunately, led to me hemorrhaging. It was terrifying and traumatic. I lost a lot of blood. Apparently I made it into the “rare complications” club where this happens to less than 1% of people who have an abortion, per the nurse who put me under sedation. This was not only my first abortion, but it was also my first pregnancy. I was 7 weeks, with a supportive and loving partner, making a decision as difficult as you all very well know.
Since the D&C, I thankfully am feeling much better and have been able to process everything more in terms of my emotions. It was hard to do that after the MA when I was still feeling all the pregnancy symptoms but unsure as to why. The day after the D&C I felt like myself again. The nausea, heart burn, food aversions - every single symptom I had was gone. Even my breasts weren’t as tender as they had unbearably been.
This experience, thankfully, made myself and my partner of 4 years even closer than we ever have been. I’m very grateful for that. He’s been incredible throughout this entire process and has held my hand every step of the way. So, yesterday, as I’m feeling relatively back to my normal self minus some fatigue - I look at my partner, feel those butterfly feelings, and my immediate thought was, How in the fuck can you be horny after what you just went through? What is wrong with you?
I immediately felt confusion, guilt, shame, and an uncontrollable desire to feel close to him. I started googling: “sex drive after abortion” “is it normal to be horny after an abortion?” “Why do I have such a high libido after an abortion?” I really didn’t find much in the topic beyond a few Reddit posts and some old forums. It made me feel even more guilty, that clearly MOST women don’t want to be touched at all after something like that, but I couldn’t control what was going on with my body.
For me, my libido was fairly average prior to all of this, but for some reason yesterday I could not control my sex drive. It was driving me crazy for hours. I didn’t want to tell my partner because I was ashamed and embarrassed to be feeling how I was. I also know he’s been processing everything too and I felt like if I made a move he would be upset by it because why wouldn’t he be? That’s the normal response. I’m the odd one here and I’m the one who went through the damn thing, right?
Easy fix! I’ll just have some sexy self-care time, right? As long as nothing goes in and I just keep it external, I should be all good right? Come to think of it, the nurses and doctors didn’t mention anything about it. What does goggle say? Nothing, really. Mostly just websites and forums saying no PIV for a week or two. Nothing about masturbation. Will I be okay? Will my uterus fall out? What if I start bleeding even heavier? Will it hurt? Will it slow down healing or speed it up? Why am I even thinking about any of this at all?
Just more guilt. More self-shaming. More anxiety, more fear, and at this point - I’m STILL horny. Screw it. I didn’t read anything saying don’t do it, so let’s just do this, but wait until my partner takes a shower so he doesn’t know. And that’s what I did. I waited until he was in the shower so I could do it in secret because I felt that much shame and that much guilt. I was worried, but my sex drive was so high I truly didn’t care in the moment. That is, up until the moment where I hit the big O and there was some cramping. It scared the shit out of me. But. It was mild, barely anything, and the big O was probably the biggest I’ve had in a long time.
Immediately after I felt relaxed, relieved. Then I went to the bathroom and after having mostly spotted since the D&C, my stomach dropped when I saw bright red on the toilet paper. Look at what you did. What’s wrong with you. You’re going to bleed out again because you were horny? It will be your fault, again.
I spent most of last night scared, worried, scrolling google for answers, and feeling horribly guilty. However, I woke up this morning alive and well, back to the super light barely noticeable spotting. Then about half way through the day, the butterfly feelings returned. IM HORNY AGAIN?! WHY?!?
Without going through all the details, I went through the whole entire cycle I did yesterday again today. Now, I’m here typing this extremely long post. If you’re still here reading, I really appreciate that. I doubt I’m alone in my experience and feelings as it’s far more rare to have a singular, independent thought or feeling that no one else on the planet has ever had. However, I don’t see this experience talked about much and I’m not sure the reasons, or maybe I just wasn’t looking in the right places to begin with. But, I want you to know if you have felt this or are feeling this way after your abortion - it’s okay.
I know my hormones are raging. I know I just went through something horribly traumatic and it’s normal to have anxiety after going through something like that, along with the complications. I also know that everyone’s libido after this experience will drastically vary from person to person. I’m trying to remind myself not to feel guilty after that and if what I went through isn’t a shameful thing, then why am I shaming myself for any feeling I have afterwards or if I want my body and mind to feel good again with a little sexy time self-care?
Anyways, that’s it. Stay strong out there. You got this. Feel what you feel and don’t be ashamed for it either way.

36 female East Indian Canada
2 kids 4 miscarriages
Hysterectomy - ovaries intact
Endometriosis Migraines High blood pressure Depression Psoriasis Psoriatic arthritis Bursitis
Vicoram Crestor Elavil Zoloft Ketamine (1 time a week with psychiatrist) Ozempic Iron supplements Magnesium Vitamin c Vitamin d
I had a long work day, and only on about 2 hours of sleep
This evening I started getting like random head rush while standing.
I went to shower and it got worse it almost felt like I was moving up and down or the tub was like vibrating if that makes sense
My finger tips went blue, this has happened once before when I was pregnant.
Then just broke into a complete sweat like had to change my shirt. I came and laid down and now am trying to rest but I feel horrid.
Oh and I took my bp and it was perfect 121/87 pulse 102
I don’t know what to do or how to make it go away.
NEW
Sharp pain in my right ovary Dizziness Weakness

Ill try to keep this as short as i poetically can without disclosing too much personal info. For as long as i can remember, ive had a crush on a boy my age, lets call him green. Green and i had known eachother since primary/middle school and met through a mutual cultural dance club. When i was younger, i didnt have alot of friends due to intense bullying taking place at my school for how i acted and dressed. Going to that club made me feel like i didnt have to act differently because nobody i knew from my school went there. Thats how i met green. He was so kind to me and we became really close. Hes bring me personal belongings to show me, carry me around on his back and always wanted to meet outside of dance. He was a lot bigger than me despite being the same age, but i didnt care because i really enjoyed his company and he did mine. He gave me a nickname i still cherish to this day but cant say here just in case. Point is, he was the one that pushed me out of my shell to go and talk to other people, where i met some of my very clowe friends to this day. I only got to see him so much, so i made sure to remember every small thing he did for me. In my second year of being his friend, the pandemic had hit and we lost connection due to my technology acess being little to none. When the pandemic was over, it had been 2 years since id seen him and his memory was very faint to me. However when dance re started, all i wanted to do was be beside him. This is when i mess up. He was alone and all i wanted was to talk to him. But, my whole soccer team had decided to join that exact dance club that year. I thought itd be rude of me not to hang out with them as i see them more than i see green, so i chose them over him. A desision i regret to this day, because most of those girls turned out to be supper mean to me forcing me to quit. He deffinitly wouldnt want to talk to me after that stupid stunt, and i totally understood. This is when he started hanging out with some older kids, one of them well call doe. Doe was your steryotypical beautiful white girl with glistening blonde hair, deep blue eyes, a voice as pretty as a princess and a personality more pure then a diamond. Shes litterly the nicest person ive ever met and shes so genuine. Green would go and hang out with her every day, doing things like bringing personal valubles and carrying her around just like he did to me. It made me jelous for no reason and i hated feeling that way. He would always hang out eith his older friends untill it was just him and doe. By this point i knew i really liked him but i wasnt sure if i just wanted to be friends or pursue a relationship. I was always running into him at places such as school greets, soccer tournys or just walmart. Our dance has levels based off age, and he was allowed to move up to high school level before we graduated elementry due to his height. This is where i stand now, were all in high school and i see him more often. I consider myself an artist, and he is my only muse i catch myself constantly drawing. I get lost and mad at myself when i cant draw him as perfectly as he deserves, weather its his slightly large hooked nose, his small light brown eyes, his perfectly large smile or his two beauty marked perfectly alighned under his eye just like mine. Recently, i found out him and doe were dating. No supprise obviously lol, i was just in denial for as long as i could. It started as both of them getting roles in the dance as lovers beside the obvous height difference (hes 6'0+). However, the dealbreaker had to be when we were at an end of year party to celebrate the dance and i had caught them mid makeout. Being upset was an understatement. Ive tried everything not to like him because i feel its wrong of me to intrudeof their completly perfect relationship. But i cant seem to distract myself from him because hes so perfect in every way and every time i try to move on i end up finding people who look exactly like him and it brings me back to squaire one. I cant talk to this about to my friend because all they say is to move on but its so hard for me because i think i love him truly. Thats when i come to this post. I know its ok to have feelings, but am i being too selfish over their relationship to a guy i barley interact with? I promised myself if i were the cause of any harm in their relationship id kill myself but i still end up fantasizing his beautiful smile. Am i being selfish, do i really want to talk to him or do i just wish we were friends again? Please be honest and give anny suggestions on how to go about this. Be harmfull if nessisary, i need to face a truth. Thank you for reading, sorry if i yapped or if theres spelling mistakes. Again, please be brutally honest if needed ❤️❤️

I’m sorry if this is long but I’m really confused as to why I got ghosted and wanted to add as much detail to hopefully give the full picture.
I (19f) just recently went through a break up. My boyfriend of what I consider 10 months (he says 4 bc we never had the official talk but that’s another story) called me a week after the summer started and dumped me. After a couple weeks of crying and listening to the same five songs on repeat I went out with some friends. They convinced me to find a rebound but I told them I wasn’t down to sleep around this summer but I don’t want anything official. They said to try and find someone who wants something similar. I wasn’t sure if I could actually find someone who is down to be monogamous with sex yet free to talk to whoever else. I feel like most men want to be able to sleep with someone if they are putting in the effort to flirt with them. Anyways so I put up a tinder profile and started getting matches and voila I was back in the dating pool. I matched with a guy we’ll call Z (23M). We texted on tinder I got his number we sent pictures of our IDs and everything was great. There was a lot of flirting on his end especially with the nicknames. When we facetime called we got along great but the conversation didn’t flow exactly. At times it felt kinda forced but I chalked it up to nervs. During the call I asked him what he was looking for and I was surprised to hear him describe almost exactly what I was looking for. The next day we set up a date and met at a museum. Again we got along great and everything seemed to be going well. He was 10x more attractive in person. I was so nervous but played it cool, I hope. However at time the convo dragged and it was hard to find things to talked about. It felt like in person we didn’t click like we did over the phone. I was kind of getting worried thinking that maybe he didn’t find me as attractive in person but he would say little things during the date that definitely made it seem like he was into me. He saw another girl glaring and staring at me and he said it looked like she was jealous. Later we walked past the same girl and she intentionally got in my face as we walked past. I was like “bro wtf did you see that” and he responded with something along the lines of “dude I know but she can be jealous I’m yours” I was liked damn okay type shit I really got it like that. Then we went back to his car and I’m not exactly proud of this but he was parked in a pretty secluded area. And of course it was a tinder date so I’m sure you can all imagine what happened next. After we left we hit of a DQ and ate the ice cream in the car and drove home vibing to music and holding hands. I’ll admit for someone who talks a lot we really didn’t converse that much. However I really liked him and felt like there was so much to get to know about him. I know I don’t want anything serious right now but Z seemed like the perfect guy to have a fling with. He dropped me off home and texted me that night with
Made it home a lil bit ago. Thank you for tonight. It was cool getting out fr and meeting you in person. I fw your energy fr😌 I’m about to head to bed though so goodnight. Sleep well🌌🙂
I said goodnight and the following morning he texted me good morning and we talked for a bit throughout the day. Everything up to this point seemed like it was going great. He had even made comments about packing a bag and staying a weekend with me while I was at school (he made this comment during our ft and our date multiple times). Then 6pm rolls around and he stopped responding. I text him at 9pm and ask about his day and nothing. Then I texted him again today at 12pm and nothing.
Honestly I’m really confused. I really thought we were hitting it off but apparently not? I just don’t know what happened and I really don’t want it to happen again. I took this as a sign to take more time to myself before getting back out there. If anyone has any ideas as to what this could be about I’m ready to hear anything.

36 female East Indian Canada
2 kids 4 miscarriages
Hysterectomy - ovaries intact
Endometriosis Migraines High blood pressure Depression Psoriasis Psoriatic arthritis Bursitis
Vicoram Crestor Elavil Zoloft Ketamine (1 time a week with psychiatrist) Ozempic Iron supplements Magnesium Vitamin c Vitamin d
I had a long work day, and only on about 2 hours of sleep
This evening I started getting like random head rush while standing.
I went to shower and it got worse it almost felt like I was moving up and down or the tub was like vibrating if that makes sense
My finger tips went blue, this has happened once before when I was pregnant.
Then just broke into a complete sweat like had to change my shirt. I came and laid down and now am trying to rest but I feel horrid.
Oh and I took my bp and it was perfect 121/87 pulse 102
I don’t know what to do or how to make it go away.
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Sharp pain in my right ovary Dizziness Weakness

TL;DR— Nasacort and Singulair have changed my life for the better. Thanks to this thread for those recommendations!
I just wanted to share here (since this thread has been so helpful to me) that I’ve recently found significant relief in starting two new meds— one being Nasacort, a simple OTC spray, the other being Singulair (Montelukast), a Rx drug that I was hesitant to take for years due to its Black label warning from the FDA, but which has helped me tremendously.
Y’all shared in these threads that these medications had changed your life, and I’m so grateful because that gave me the push I needed to try them. I’ve always had pretty bad seasonal allergies, but after having COVID in 2022, my allergies went completely crazy. April through September were a nightmare. I could barely function, had terrible brain fog, debilitating symptoms, had trouble working, couldn’t go outside, began experiencing allergic asthma… the whole works. Hay fever all day every day. I had sinus infections that led to terrible bronchitis. I was living on multiple Zyrtec a day (which honestly didn’t touch my symptoms), Sudafed during the day, Benadryl at night, Flonase, Ipaproprium Bromide spray and a host of supplements (Quercetin, vitamin c, stinging nettle, et.al) I tried EVERYTHING. (And I mean everything— diet, breath work, acupuncture, Ayurvedic treatments, the lot.) The majority of “alternative” / natural remedies have helped a little, but they’re more an extra support for my symptoms… they really didn’t do a whole lot for me.
Someone on here recommended Nasacort. And while it took a few weeks to kick in, when it did, a TOTAL game changer. I am free of chronic postnasal drip for maybe the first time in years?! I cannot believe it. If you haven’t tried Nasacort yet, I highly recommend it. No negative side effects. Safe for longer term use.
Upon searching these threads for how to deal with allergic asthma, I read more about Singulair. I’d always been nervous to take it because it can have bad psychological side effects, but it was nearly my last resort. My allergist told me that some folks have bad side effects, but the majority of people tolerate it well. I’m thrilled to say it’s working SO well for me. (Full disclosure: I also take Wellbutrin, an antidepressant). Singulair makes you a little sleepy, so it’s recommended you take it at night. It can give you very vivid dreams, and in my case, that’s been true. Other than that, zero side effects. My dreams are weirdly way more fun now, lol. Singulair has eliminated my allergic asthma— I can now exercise outside now during allergy season and not have to spend the next day in bed. Hallelujah!
Anyways, as a lifelong allergy sufferer / long Covid allergy mystery, I just wanted to share that these meds have helped me tremendously and I hope everyone can get what they need this allergy season!
Extra disclosure— I am very early in this journey, so no way to tell yet how much it’s helping, but I’m doing allergy immunotherapy with my allergist. I started with shots, but started reacting with major swelling at a very low dosage of the subcutaneous injection, so he has switched me to SLIT— sublingual drops. They’re European dosing guidelines, so very high quality and a high concentration serum. I’m only one month in, so I can’t say decisively how much they’re helping yet because it’s a 5 year process, but I’m hopeful my full court press against my seasonal allergies does the trick.

I've a cumulative 2.61. I failed WD1 because I stopped going and didn't drop it within time. I also failed design which is the main 6 credit course that I retook from last semester and also had failed. But last semester I had a good project and they still failed me b/c I submitted the last one 4hrs late. I think that F from last semester really took me aback and instead of trying harder I mentally gave up.
I'd so many ideas and what I wanted to do with the projects but I couldn't start. I went back to my therapist and he put me on some medication and this time I'm taking them on regular. I still suffer from executive dysfunction.
Have any of you been in a similar situation? If there's any advice or suggestion you could give me that'd be great. I also an scared to face my advisor, he might lose all faith in me.

Last year, my INTP husband of 15 years denounced me over a co-worker he had known for maybe 9months. One day he went to work like normal, then shortly before lunch, turned his phone off and clocked out early. He met this person at a local restaurant to slander me.
Some context: husband (45M) is his company's IT guy. She (40s) was a newer employee that started DM-ing him (personal cell) without provocation, so I was told. Hubby told me immediately and I wasn't worried. He seemed to dislike her. He said she was annoying. As time progressed they became kind of friends. Just work friends. I encouraged it initially b/c he has nearly zero friends and she seemed harmless enough. I think she was new to the area too. Then I noticed she started sending him selfies and even nicknamed him. What I gather is that he did not encourage this behavior. He also did very little to stop it. At one point I insisted that he ask her to stop calling him Clark Kent or Superman or Boo. He did, after MUCH reluctance. If I wasn't starting to worry by then, the next bit took my breath away. He was laying on the bed texting her. I knew this and asked what's up. He was about to jump in the shower and he HANDED me his phone to read the conversation. ... He had started to share secrets. Intimate secrets. Ones he was ashamed of. To put it into to context, the very last time we discussed topic X (need some anonymity) he called me a fucking bitch. Yet, she texted the very same thing, and....she wasn't belittled. This is when I started to put my foot down about boundaries. And this is the weirdest bit...sometime here she gets a "stalker". Someone is emailing or texting or both and she is "scared" and needs the IT guy to help. He tried a bit but told her to go to the police
We assumed she had... until one random day. She cornered my husband and told him it was me. She lied about me. I've never met this woman. She had no proof, and if she did, it was fabricated. She said it was either me or him harassing her and she was going to go to HR. I of course didn't know this. I didn't get a chance to defend myself. Instead of going to HR, he took her to a restaurant to smooth it ove talk it over. He believed her. Instantly. Enough to turn his phone off so I couldn't get a hold of him. Enough to clock out and leave work early... He's never done that for me once. Enough to not want to come home. He believed her and I don't understand why.
And to be clear, this wasn't a moment of weakness. This wasn't a one-time deal. He stonewalled me for 8 weeks. Treated me like I was diseased and was contagious. He locked me out of his phone (HE had a no password rule on our marriage and that worked for us).
We discussed the situation three or four times in that 8 weeks and just when I thought he believed me, he would go to work and come back renewed in lies and distain for me. Over. And over. The only reason this behavior stopped was because I started to move out.
I never was told what proof she had. He wouldn't tell me. One time he was so SURE I was lying because HER favorite song came on a YT music station. How the f*** should I know what her favorite song is?
None of this made sense. I really can't get over this. It's been months and i still cry about it. I have never ever harassed anybody like that. I've never threatened a stranger, that's just dumb AF. Like, that's not me. I am ESTP, 38F. He wants to act like it didn't happen. He wants me to move on but I'm not sure I can trust him again. And no, I didn't get an apology for none of it. Not a real one. What I got was, "yea that's what I'm sorry for, what you said."

Contest Rules For Best Song Of The Month • Updated May 19th, 2024

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Best Song Of The Month Contest

Music Or Lose It hosts a monthly Best Song Of The Month contest at this musicorloseittv subreddit community. There is no cash or monetary value prize at this time. This contest is simply just for fun. Winners earn the enjoyment of being voted the best. Winners may cite the win in their biographies and social media posts.
The moderator (mod) is available to help music creators with the entry process, eligibility requirements, and deadlines. Music creators are allowed to contact the mod to ask questions about the contest anytime and mod will reply as soon as possible.
Definitions
Music creator: refers to a solo creator, band, group, choir, orchestra, or duo.
Brand identity: refers to how a creator presents themselves as an entertainer making music for the general public. For example, Simon & Garfunkel as a duo is one brand identity. Paul Simon solo is another brand identity.

Process & Deadlines

🟡 Round 1
1) Discovery ◦ Each month, moderator keeps track of songs shared at this musicorloseittv community.
2) Notifying Music Creators ◦ When a likely eligible song is seen, the u/musicorloseittv profile or u/themusicfanman profile will notify the music creator of likely eligibility within the qualifying song’s post. The reply will indicate, “⏳ This song appears eligible for the Best Song Of The Month contest. Please provide the following information…” If the song is confirmed to be eligible by a mod, the mod will make a reply “🟨 This is confirmation notifying you that this song is eligible and in consideration for the Best Song Of The Month contest…” within the qualifying song’s post.
3) Determining Contestants ◦ The Music Fan man will evaluate all eligible songs by the month’s eligibility deadline. He will then at his discretion choose up to 5 songs to compete.
3) Finalists Post ◦ At this musicorloseittv community, the musicorloseittv profile will announce the top finalists (up to 5) in a post tiled “Contest: Best Song Of The Month Finalists (Insert Month & Year).” This announcement will be done in a post made 4 days before the final day of the month. The post will be made sometime in the morning. The songs will be listed within the post in a manner most representative of music diversity as determined by the musicorloseittv profile mod. All songs available on YouTube will be included in a playlist titled “Best Song Of The Month Contestants • (Insert Month & Year)” hosted by the musicorloseittv channel on YouTube. Songs not available on YouTube will be excluded from the playlist. The playlist will be mentioned in this post. The available playlist will help voters get familiar with the songs.
The u/musicorloseittv profile or u/themusicfanman profile will notify the music creators of qualifying for the contest in their post of the song. The reply will indicate, “✅ Congratulations. Your song qualifies for the Best Song Of The Month contest…”
4) Voting ◦ The “Contest: Best Song Of The Month Finalists (Insert Month & Year)” post will specify a duration of 3 consecutive dates during which music fans can vote for only 1 of the top finalists. Voting occurs by the voters making a reply to the post in the following manner: “🗳️ I vote for….” Failing to vote in this manner will result in vote not being counted. To best ensure vote accuracy, voters must not use the “🗳️” emoji anywhere else in the post’s comments section. Music creators may vote for another music creator yet may not vote for themselves. For music creators, it’s “word of honor” voting. The top vote earning song within these three days will become the winner.
‣ Community moderator profiles musicorloseittv and onesongoftheday will abstain from voting. Also, themusicfanman and any special judge involved will also abstain from voting - unless they’re needed to serve as a tie breaker, in the event of a tie preventing a clear winner. If themusicfanman and any special judge involved are needed as a tie breaker, they must come to a consensus to achieve tie breaking. If no special judge is involved, then themusicfanman alone will serve as the tie breaker.
🟢 Winner Declaration!
Declaration Post ◦ At this musicorloseittv community, on the final day of the month, the musicorloseittv profile will announce the winner in a post tiled “Congratulations! 🎉 Best Song Of The Month Winner (Insert Month & Year)” in a post dedicated to celebrating the song. Using the sticky-post feature, the post will be prominently displayed the home page of the musicorloseittv subreddit community for ≈ 24 hours.
Achievement ◦ The contest winner may promote their song as:
My song “Song Title” won:
🏅Best Song Of The Month By Community Vote
(Insert Month & Year)
At The Music Or Lose It Community
The winner may promote themselves and the song as the winner at venues like X/Twitter, Facebook, Threads, or their YouTube channel’s Community feed. The winner may also cite the win in their biographies online including their personal website.
🏆 Song Of The Year
A similar Song Of The Year vote will occur in December. It will be similarly organized and scheduled to conclude on the final day of the year. To determine a Song Of The Year by the end of the year, December’s monthly contest will only be ≈ 2 weeks. Why? Because we need time to conclude The Song Of The Year vote by the end of the year. Additionally, this is a busy time of year for many people. What’s more, non-Christmas music released in December is typically overshadowed by Christmas music. It seems to be a bad idea to release new-original music in late December. See opinion commentary: The Best And Worst Months To Release Music.
Achievement ◦ The contest winner may promote their song as:
🏆 Best Song Of The Year By Community Vote
(Insert Year)
At The Music Or Lose It Community
The winner may promote themselves and the song as the winner at venues like X/Twitter, Facebook, Threads, or their YouTube channel’s Community feed. The winner may also cite the win in their biographies online including their personal website.

Eligibility

Here are the rules for the Best Song Of The Month contest organized by Music Or Lose It just for fun. The eligibility rules are intended to make this contest as fair as possible to the music creator participants.
**👤 Personal: **
Requirements:
✔️ Must be an actual human.
✔️ Must be 17 years of age or older.
✔️ Must be a music creator abiding by the rules of this musicorloseittv subreddit community.
✔️ Must be a music creator posting using either your personal profile or your brand profile as a music entertainer.
Ineligible:
🚫 Profiles run by publicists, music labels, or channels hosting performers.
🚫 People posing as other humans using imitation avatar type creations by artificial intelligence (AI).
**🗿 Music creator’s stature status: **
Eligible:
✔️ Unsigned amateur or unsigned professional yet lesser known.
✔️ Lesser known music creators who have not yet achieved two different songs with over 500,000 views/listens and are signed to deals with small to medium-sized record companies or seeming one-song-per-time type distributors.
✔️ Lesser known music creators who have not yet achieved two different songs with over 500,000 views/listens and are signed to deals with to a major label.
**📅 Release date: **
Eligible:
✔️ Your song must be published and accessible to the masses anytime between November 15^th of the prior year and 5 days before the final day of the current month.
**💽 Songwriting, singing, & recording: **
Requirements:
✔️ You must be the copyright owner of the song (lyrics and sound recording) or authorized/licensed to perform the song by the copyright owner as the first original performer.
✔️ An exception is made if your song is an authorized/licensed remix or includes authorized/licensed interpolation or sampling content by the copyright owner in collaboration with any other amateur music creator(s) or unsigned professional yet lesser known music creator(s). The aforementioned release date also applies to any remix, interpolation, or sampling content.
✔️ Collaborations within the aforementioned rules are allowed so long as the song is entered into the contest by the lead. Lead refers to the first person named in the collaboration.
Ineligible:
🚫 Copyright/trademark violations.
🚫 Songs written by artificial intelligence (AI).
🚫 Songs primarily generated artificial intelligence (AI).
🚫 Cover, parody, nor artificial intelligence (AI) imitation.
🚫 Songs likely to be very divisive for political or religious/anti-religious reasons.
🚫 Collaborations within deceased music creators akin to “Unforgettable” by Natalie Cole featuring Nat "King" Cole.
🚫 Interpolations, remixes, or samplings of a song by a creator signed to a record company of any size or signed to a one-song-per-time type distributor.
🚫 Song with hard cussing. No variations of F word, S word, C word, D word, N word (er or a), ahole word(s), or sexually vulgar words.
🚫 Extremely sexual, gang promoting, violent, or especially scary/gory/maleficent/evil aesthetic content.
🚫 Songs primarily about brands. For example: “I Love Driving Such-And-Such Brand Name Trucks.”
**👂 Recording quality: **
Allowed:
✔️ Professional quality recordings (live or studio).
✔️ Amateur quality (including songs record in a bedroom, car, outdoors, etc…) yet reasonably pleasant sounding.
✔️ Demos are welcome.
Ineligible:
🚫 Live records with too much interfering audience noise.
🚫 Recordings with excessively poor sound quality (abrasive on the ears, difficult to hear).
**📏 Song length: **
Requirement:
✔️ Minimum of 01:15 minutes up to 10:00 minutes.
**💻 Distribution venues: **
Requirements:
✔️ A song published and accessible to the general public masses at a well-known music website such as YouTube, SoundCloud, or Bandcamp.
✔️ A song uploaded to a channel hosting live performances is allowed so long as the song is entered into the contest directly by the creator and so long as the creator confirms permission by the channel. Confirmation can be done in either your original upload URL link source or at this community within your posts’ body-text section or a reply to the post.
✔️ The song’s upload date must be visible at the distribution venue website.
⚠️ If you enter this contest with a Spotify or TikTok URL link, ensure you’ve provided a link for the entire song (not a teasesampler) in a manner that does not require login; ensure the publish date is visible; and be weary of looping flashing visuals necessitating a “⚠️Possible Seizure Trigger Risk Warning.” Failing to do this will result in ineligibility.
Ineligible:
🚫 Login required to access the song.
🚫 Payment required to access the song.
🚫 Uploads of songs directly to Reddit.
🚫 Links not fully available to the public such as an “unlisted” YouTube video.
**🖼️ Song’s artwork: **
Definition: artwork refers to the image/drawing/photo/visuals accompanying your individual song at a music distribution venue such as YouTube, SoundCloud, or Bandcamp. It is sometimes referred to as “cover art.”
Requirements:
✔️ You must be the original creator of the song’s accompanying artwork.
✔️ Alternatively, you must be the copyright owner of the artwork if you paid to have it made. Otherwise you must be authorized/licensed to publish the artwork as part of the presentation of your song.
✔️ Artwork primarily generated by artificial intelligence (AI) is allowed so long as you are authorized/licensed by the AI source to publish the artwork as part of your song’s public presentation. However this is advised against because public sentiment may be hostile towards AI generated content.
✔️ If your song’s artwork uses aspects of copyrighted, creative commons, or “free” material content, you must confirm you’ve got authorization/licensing to use the content as part of your song’s public presentation. Confirmation can be done in either your original upload URL link source or at this community within your posts’ body-text section or a reply to the post.
✔️ Your own logo that you own the copyright to may be displayed in the song’s accompanying artwork (including on a person wearing a hat or T-shirt).
Ineligible:
🚫 Copyright/trademark violations.
🚫 Parody notably displayed in the artwork.
🚫 Visible logos of any brand other than your own logo as a music entertainer.
🚫 Extremely sexual, gang promoting, violent, or especially scary/gory/maleficent/evil aesthetic content.
**🎥 Song’s music video (optional): **
Including a link to a music video is optional.
Requirements:
✔️ You must be the original creator of the song’s music video visuals including: animation; moving graphics; prominently featured still artwork or photos.
✔️ Alternatively, you must be the copyright owner of all the video’s visuals if you paid to have them made. Otherwise you must be authorized/licensed to publish all the video’s visuals as part of the presentation of your song’s accompanying music video.
✔️ Visuals (including: animation; moving graphics; prominently featured still artwork or photos) primarily generated by artificial intelligence (AI) are allowed so long as you are authorized/licensed by the AI source to publish the artwork as part of your song’s public presentation. However this is advised against because public sentiment may be hostile towards AI generated content.
✔️ If your song’s accompanying music video uses aspects of copyrighted, creative commons or “free” material, you must confirm you’ve got authorization/licensing to use the copyrighted material as part of your song’s public presentation within the accompanying music video. Confirmation can be done in either your original upload URL link source or at this community within your posts’ body-text section or a reply to the post.
✔️ Your own logo that you own the copyright to may be displayed in the video (including on a person wearing a hat or T-shirt).
✔️ Allowed music videos include “Official Music Video,” “Live Performance,” “Dance Video Version,” “Animated Video,” or “Lyrics Video.”
✔️ If you opt for an “Animated Video” or a “Lyrics Video,” you must be authorized/licensed to publish all the video’s visuals as part of the presentation of your song’s accompanying music video. If you hire an animator or use AI or an app/software designed to create music video lyrics, you must be authorized/licensed by the animator or AI source or app/software creator to publish the animation and/or lyrics as part of the presentation of your song’s accompanying music video.
✔️ If you opt for a “Dance Video Version,” the dancing and/or choreography must be originally created for your song’s accompanying music video. If you hire a choreographer and/or dancers or collaborate for free or for barter, you must be authorized/licensed by the choreographer and/or dancers to publish the video’s dancing/choreography visuals as part of the presentation of your song’s accompanying music video.
✔️ “Official Audio” type music videos are allowed so long as an accompanying still image complies with the aforementioned “Song’s artwork” rules. Alternatively, if the “Official Audio” music videos has moving visuals, it must comply with these above-mentioned “Song’s music video” rules.
✔️ “Live Performance” music videos may be made from your home/cafield (pretty much anywhere decent and reasonable) or from one of your well-recorded performances from a show. Be sure to avoid copyright and trademark violations in the video.
⚠️ Brief uses of music distribution venue logos at the end or start of a music video may be allowed at mod’s discretion, when the intent is to inform the viewer of venue availability of the song. This is however discouraged unless the distribution venue, at their website, specifies this is allowed. Music videos that display any trademark logos (other than the music creator’s own copyrighted logo) entirely throughout are ineligible.
Ineligible:
🚫 Copyright/trademark violations.
🚫 Notable use of virtual reality program recordings.
🚫 Notable use of filters from apps/websites similar to Snapchat.
🚫 Parody of intellectual property characters prominently displayed in the video.
🚫 Notably visible logos of any brand other than your own logo as a music entertainer.
🚫 Notable display of brand products with visible logos including but not limited to toys, stuffed animals, autos, hats, T-Shirts.
🚫 Extremely sexual, gang promoting, violent, or especially scary/gory/maleficent/evil aesthetic content.
🚫 Limitations on involving minors (under 18 yo): no minors doing dangerous stunts; no depictions of minors participating in drugs/drinking/smoking or very sexual behavior (including sexual dancing); do not prominently feature children that are not your own in the video (exception may be made if a relative only allows you to involve their children).
⚖️ Quantities:
Requirements:
✔️ One song per music creator’s brand identity.
✔️ If a music creator uploads more than one of their brands’ potentially eligible songs, the music creator must inform mod which song they prefer to be included in the contest.
✔️ A music creator may win this Song Of The Month contest up to three consecutive times. If this happens, thereafter the creator must abstain from the contest for the next month and then may return to the contest after that 1-month eligibility hiatus.
Ineligible:
🚫 Every collaboration will not automatically be considered a new brand. For example, Robert Plant and Alison Krauss collaborating one time should not be considered a brand. Robert Plant & Alison Krauss making an entire album together should be considered a brand. Music creators attempting to enter multiple songs under multiple brand names will be scrutinized. If there is no social media presence for any additional brands, their songs will likely be rejected as “also eligible” by mods. If this happens, the music creator will have to enter only 1 song.
**🖱️ Accounts you may post from: **
Requirements:
✔️ Your post must be made directly from either your personal Reddit account profile or your brand’s Reddit account profile.
✔️ If you have a medical condition necessitating aid, on your behalf, you may appoint a publicist, manager, caretaker, helper, spouse, partner, friend, guardian, or family member to post from either your personal Reddit account profile or your brand’s Reddit account profile.
✔️ If your song is from a band, group, choir, orchestra, or duo brand, the post must be made directly from either from one of the members’ personal Reddit account profiles or from your brand’s Reddit account profile.
✔️ If your song is collaboration, the post must be made directly from either the lead’s personal Reddit account profile or from the lead’s brand Reddit account profile.
✔️ If you want another song to be a part of the contest from another brand identity you are involved with, the song must be posted by a Reddit account profile for that separate brand – or one of the brand collaborators’ personal Reddit account profile.
👩🏾‍🏫 Presentation at this musicorloseittv community:
Requirements:
✔️ You must post a link to the song at this musicorloseittv community by tapping “+” on smartphone or clicking “+Create a post” on desktop/laptop. You must select the “My Song” flair.
✔️ Your post must be done by the “Title & Link Share Only method.”
✔️ The song’s URL you provide must be of the standalone song upload - not part of a playlist URL link.
✔️ You may post an audio only upload URL link (such as an individual song published at SoundCloud or Bandcamp). Alternatively, you may post a music video link from a venue like YouTube.
✔️ You may include a smartlink for the individual song (not album or playlist) within your posts’ body-text section or a reply to the post.
✔️ You may title the post whatever you want within the community’s rules and the contest’s rules. Remember: no vague titles; limit post title emojis to no more than 2 (if you decide to use them); and don’t request feedback.
✔️ Your post title may be done in the style of “Entertainer - Song Tile” (or something similar). Alternatively, the post title may be more elaborate. For example: “This Is My Latest Song. It’s About A Wonderful Time I Fell In Love.”
✔️ In your posts’ body-text section or in a reply comment, optionally you may share details about the song that you feel the audience would enjoy knowing.
**📝 Needed information: **
Requirements:
✔️ Within either your posts’ body-text section or within a reply comment at your post, provide the following information – as is:
❇️ Contest entry for your consideration:
• Entertainer's Name - Song Title:
• Published on: [Insert date & year. Refers to date published at your URL link source]
• Genre:
• I am an independent creator unsigned I am signed to [insert label name]
• Interpolations/remixes/samplings disclosure: N/A this song contains authorized/licensed interpolations/remixes/samplings [specify] of another song released since 11/15 of the prior year in collaboration with other unsigned music creator(s)[specify]. The link to the original song is [insert URL link – publish date from URL link source must be visible].
• Al disclosure: N/A. A portion of this [song/artwork/music video] is created by Al. Explanation: [specify if this applies to song/artwork/music video].
• Copyright disclosure for song: I confirm I’m the copyright owner of all the contents of this song (lyrics and recording) as it is presented including the artwork [(if applicable) and music video]
Copyrighted content I am authorized/licensed to use commercially in the promotion of my song include: [insert details]
• [optional/voluntary] Confirmation of substantial human involvement: A real human substantially arranged/compose this music. [Note: This type disclosure is strongly encouraged by creators who use instrument sounds and beats from apps/software in substation of instruments played live at the time of recording. This is especially encouraged for music creators who do not show their face and/or don’t show themselves creating the music in a music video or behind the scenes video. For music fans opposed to music primarily created by AI, this type of disclosure can be helpful and assuring.]
• Lyrics: [insert URL link or embed URL link into “Lyrics” text] [note if the lyrics are available at the upload source] [only if you're the copyright owner of the lyrics, you may entirely include them] [type “vocalized” or “instrumental” if applicable]
Ineligible:
🚫 Uploads of songs to Reddit.
🚫 No engagement pleas disguised as feedback requests in post titles nor in your posts’ body-text section. No feedback requests.
**👨🏼‍⚖️ Copyright/trademark compliance: **
‣ Important note: Aforementioned rules already state you either must be the copyright owner of the content you enter for this contest or you must be authorized/licensed to commercially use the content by the copyright owner. Aforementioned rules already state you must disclose use of copyrighted, creative commons, or “free” material. Mods reserve the right to ask for additional proof for confirmation. Suspected violations will be removed at mod’s discretion. You are strongly encouraged to upload your best, newest, utmost original content.
‣ Resources:
U.S. Copyright Office, Copyright in General https://www.copyright.gov/help/faq/faq-general.html
What Musicians Should Know about Copyright by U.S. Copyright Office https://www.copyright.gov/engage/musicians
U.S. Copyright Office Fair Use Index by U.S. Copyright Office https://www.copyright.gov/fair-use
**🤝 Mutual Support **
Requirements:
✔️ You must be active in the musicorloseittv community regarding mutual support and engagement with other posts. You must post a comment reply to at least two other posts of any kind at the musicorloseittv community before the final day of the month. Failing to do so will result in disqualification.
Ineligible:
🚫 Posting then ghosting the community.
**😎👍 Encouraging fans to vote: **
Ineligible:
🚫 You are not allowed to ask for votes in anywhere in the musicorloseittv community’s comments section.
🚫 Music creators may not offer anything to anyone whatsoever in exchange for voting for them.
Allowed:
✔️ If you see a music fan has voted for you, you may thank them in a reply comment.
✔️ You may make social media posts at venues like X/Twitter, Facebook, Threads or your YouTube channel’s Community feed to encourage your fans to join this musicorloseittv subreddit community and vote for your song.
Example post:
My song “Song Title” is a finalist for Best Song Of The Month at the musicorloseittv community at Reddit. At [insert URL link] please vote for me and my song. Thank you.
**📜 Rules adherence: **
‣ Important note: If you are new to the musicorloseittv community as either a music fan voting or music creator entering the contest, latitude may be given as you get familiar here. It’s up to mod’s discretion.
‣ Important note: This contest is just for fun. Likewise playing boardgames or cards with friends is also just for fun yet people expect rules to be followed.
**🕊️ Truthfulness: **
Requirements:
✔️ Contestants and voters are expected to behave honorably and ethically.
Ineligible:
🚫 If anyone is ever discovered cheating or being dishonest akin to author James Frey or music entertainers Milli Vanilli, they will be disqualified and also likely be banned from this community.
Additional Info
If you do not want to be in the contest yet want to continue sharing your songs in this community, it is totally ok. Please inform the moderator. A “Message the mods” option is at the homepage.
In circumstances where uncertainty arises due to an unforeseen issue not addressed here in this outline of rules, moderators reserve the right to approve or disapprove eligibility. Moderators reserve the right to disqualify any song for any reason. Unfortunately, not every contest can perfectly satisfy all participant hopefuls.
Just do your best, don’t take it too seriously, and have fun.
Thank you.
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I’ve had a red patch on the right side of my cheek now since January and can’t seem to figure out what’s causing it. The only thing I can think that happened in January is starting to use a low dose levothyroxine. Some days it looks more red than others.
Current routine: AM - sulfur soap - skinceuticals vitamin c - eltda MD sunscreen
PM -vanicream cleanser - Azealic acid 15% - vani cream lotion
Ive also tried 2 steroid creams from my dermatologist and the redness didn’t budge. Tried an avene cream with zinc, just caused irritation. Any ideas???

This may end up a little long, I feel like this seems like a good place where I can post my experiences and the community here seems kind, but the TL/DR of it is:
-How do y'all stay grounded in the mundane when working with entities that can be so intense?
-As of right now I've only been making offerings to Lucifuge Rofocale, I used the Dukante sigil once, which felt interesting, and I've been getting a lot of synchronicities in every day life.
-The connection has started off intense out the gate, but I am fighting a people pleasing nature and the ecstasy of feeling connected to my spiritual side again. From what I've reading about Lucifuge, he is demanding of those he works with in that he doesn't like his time wasted, and it's bringing up old fears of being good enough and worry about disappointing him/losing the connection. No one is really specific about what demanding means.
-I had told my boyfriend about Lucifuge the other night, and he had made some somewhat disrespectful joke about his name and a similarity to Lucifer's name, and when he was in the living room while I was in the bedroom a short while later, he was trying to clean his Mary Jane pipe by smacking it with a lighter (something he claims he had done before) and the side of the lighter blew out and made a huge bang. Yes, there was a mundane explanation for it, but the timing felt like a "I don't suffer abuse." I ended up apologizing for what my boyfriend said and so did he, and things seemed fine after that, but it was still a very intense moment.
-If any of you happen to have a history with PTSD and abuse, how do you let yourself be vulnerable with such a powerful spirit when old fears (and maybe old behaviors) keep cropping up?
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Background info if y'all so desire, as well as other little points and maybe some questions thrown in:
I have been inclined toward witchcraft for about 20ish years since I was 11, started getting a bit more serious about it the last few years but not as serious as I would like. I had a negative experience in 2017 when I was working with Lilith (I was SAed by a man who I had considered a friend at the time) that sent me into a mental health crisis and I cut off my ties with Lilith poorly after that. The way I handled it sucked, I blamed the experience on her even though it was 100% the man's fault (obviously, looking back I was not well mentally for obvious reasons, but even still). I plan on giving her an apology offering soon, not so much to work with her again but because it feels right. Her energy was always wonderful, albeit a little intense, and I feel like I messed things up bad. But, I digress from my point.
After that whole thing, I never thought that I would end up drawn to Demonolatry until the last 6 months, really. I started researching Infernals for a personal project of mine and wanted to know more about them to make certain aspects of it more real, and I fell down a bit of a rabbit hole.
It feels like a whirlwind, but I got a message from Lucifer sometime at the end of 2023 through a reader that I've gone to before and it seemed really positive. Fast forward a little, I had seen Lucifuge Rofocale's sigil months ago and thought it was weird how it was the same that Mephistopheles uses, but then didn't think any more of it. That was the extent of that.
Maybe a month ago, I had been reached out to by Belial, but didn't feel inclined to work with him so nothing came of that.
This week on I wanna say Wednesday, I decided to contact Lucifuge Rofocale and Lucifer (because it felt right at the time), and the energy was *intense*. I had been getting some signs to do this, and it felt right at the time. There was an intense feeling of heat and some clairaudience involved. I had a really positive tarot reading as a means of divination, BUT I did pull the three of swords for working with Lucifuge, essentially that working with him might involve pain. I also got a reading from a reading who I regularly get readings from (who has been wildly accurate before), and he said something to a similar effect. He mentioned that Lucifuge has been around my energy before, and that working with him will center around finance and duty (two things I need to work on), but that sometimes entities will mold people as though they are clay into an image that they see fit for them, and to be aware of that because it doesn't work well for some people. He also mentioned that there would be pain. (I want to believe that that is shadow work, as I had a shadow work experience that evening and a reading that indicated as much.)
I think between some old people pleasing tendencies, and seeing what everyone has written about him not working well with beginners, despite my experience (I do have experience in polarity therapy and reiki too, so I'm not new to energy, at least), I've been riddled with self-doubt and the need to prove myself even though it's only been three or four days. To the point that Loki (who I work with here and there) popped up to remind me to relax and mellow out (and to make me laugh).
I also got some pretty immediate small results without even asking for anything, like someone randomly sending me a little money and a check I've been waiting on finally getting printed. I had a deep emotional release that felt like shadow work. I got guided to go on a walk in the woods and had a beautiful experience. I've had some visuals and been woken up. I had a beautiful experience sitting with his energy with the Dukante sigil last night. But again, it's been like 3 or 5 days. I'm simultaneously thrilled, but I hate the anxiety cropping up that I'm not going to be good enough and that I have to follow the signs to the letter to please him, even when those signs might actually be me reading them wrong. (Example: Getting signs to look into a school when in reality it might be for something else that is *related* to that because I don't even know that that type of school is a career that I would want.)
I felt very ungrounded a lot of today, and I just wanna know what y'all do to ground when you form a new and intense connection, and how to let yourself just enjoy the ride and not get too wound up. Also, if any of you happen to have a history with PTSD and abuse, how do you let yourself be vulnerable with such a powerful spirit when old fears (and maybe old behaviors) keep cropping up? I honestly think these are cropping up to teach me to work through them, but that doesn't stop the feelings.
Anyone who has had experiences with Lucifuge Rofocale, thoughts would be welcomed. What has happened to me so far has felt very protective, very boundary pushing, and very beautiful, but it has also been very intense and a little intimidating. When you read things about a demon like "*any* distrust can be taken as a deep disrespect, which he does not tolerate" and you have C-PTSD from abuse, sometimes those statements hit really hard, probably harder than they might mean and it makes you a bit skittish that you're about to fuck up at any second. (I have stuff to work through and a road ahead of me, I know, which is why I want to stay grounded because with the triggers has come beauty so I don't wanna just give up on this.)
Related but unrelated: This morning in my head "Valak" kept coming up when I was trying to think of Lucifuge's name as I was just waking up/half asleep. I don't entirely know how to take that. I don't feel as though I would gel with Valak's energy at this time, so it was very strange to me.

When it comes to Devil May Cry, DMC1's place in the franchise seems to be underappreciated by a lot of fans. I'v seen plenty of people say you should start with DMC3, and some even say you should skip DMC1 all together, because "it's too dated" The Irony of how DMC1 is treated is that when the game released what make it such a smash hit was obvious. It was flashy and badass, it wasn't at all a hard sell to people in 2001.
But now we have DMC3 to DMC5 now what made DMC1 Flashy has been done far flashier, what made DMC1 badass has been done more badass. From a surface level the sequels for DMC seem to be bigger and better in every way. The stylish action has seemingly been surpassed when you look at everything from a surface level.
Now the real Irony of everything is that when it comes to this series that's all built around over the top style, it turns out the true gold that makes DMC1 so great is actually subtle and understated. It is easy to appreciate DMC3, DMC4, DMC5, even DmC. It doesn't take much to understanding what makes those games high quality. But for DMC1 to truly see what make the game so fantastic, you need to put effort in nowadays. Just about anyone who plays DMC1 and DMC3 is going to think that DMC3 is the better game on a first playthough of both, but DMC1 is like a fine wine. You need to be able to slow down and really taste it, really take the game in and appreciate just how finely crafted and well put together everything is. Not everyone is willing to do that.
It's all just funny because to me DMC1 is THE BEST game in this franchise, and one of THE BEST games of all time. Yet 9/10 DMC fans on gut instinct are going to look at you like you're nuts for thinking DMC1 is better than DMC3 or DMC5, and it's not simple to explain why one would think DMC1 is the best. It takes Intimately explaining why every single mission, every enemy, Boss, every Aspect of the game is so fantasic. It's not as simple as going It has the most weapons, or most playable characters, or the most abilities. You gotta write an Essay to explain why DMC1 is the best
Something MatthewMatosis did, and it's one of the best videos on youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5v7NLT5fS0
When someone likes DMC1 the best you are never going to make them budge.

Higher than normal risk /w unprotected oral sex Symptoms:
Day 1: Tickling feeling in tip of penis.
Day 6: Tickling feel persistent; went to docs got put on doxy and a shot in the bum of something that starts with a C.
Day 9: tickle went away and was replaced with a dull pain.
Day 10: Pain went to bladder. Laying down felt like I had to pee constantly. Right side of groin area (above the penis) was hurting. Occasional twinge of pain in testicle nothing stayed. Was also hard to get all bladder out.
Day 15: Right side of groin area still a little tender nothing terrible. Every now and then have an ache in my penis but doesn't stick around. Every now and then twinge of pain in testes. At the end of my pees sometimes it hurts from the base of my penis but not all the time. I also have this rash but from others posts sounds like it's probably unrelated. https://postimg.cc/gallery/fb3yptH (images) I'm not sure exactly when the rash started but I don't think that was there before and it seems to be growing more and more. I am also stressing a lot about it which idk how much that could contribute to things.​
All tests negative so far. Will be testing again around June 5th. What could this be aligned with? What are the chances it's curable/ not curable or been cured already? Chances it wasn't an std at all maybe UTI? When am I safe to be sexually active again? Since my symptoms are lessoning is that a good sign? Should I be worried that my symptoms got worse while I was on antibiotics?