I started my journey with Origin last December, after growing frustrated with the amount of time I was wasting trying to customize Monarch Money, Simpifi and other fintech apps to fit my needs. The simplicity approach Origin takes just works and makes me feel less stressed and more confident about my finances than before. Below, I tried to squeeze in everything I could think of for now. They added the credit card bill tracking quickly, so that's one off the list!
Top things Origin does phenomenally:

1. Present the information in a clear, consistent layout. The cards are well thought out (e.g. Recurring transactions, Credit Card bills, For you info). It's honestly kind of a calming experience compared to some competitors because it's not bloated with too much information.
2. Account connections (From Robinhood, to my 10 bank accounts, Schwab HSA, retirement account (with 401k AND Pension) they have some of the best connectivity. While the TSP connection isn't quite fully working just yet, their customer support has been stellar at keeping me updated. Shoutout to Alex, Robin for their help!
3. Making sense of it. 2 things of note here....
   1. On the home screen, there is a card that shows you the next day you will be paid. THIS IS AWESOME! Just right there, without having to check the last time I was paid and then calc 2 weeks.
   2. The way you go about adding your vehicle as an asset (although depreciating), BUT also adding a Loan during the process to keep your assets/liabilities straight is something many competitors fail to realize is essential for keeping your net-worth accurate.
4. Fully featured: Centralized view of cash accounts, investments, spending, budgeting, credit card bills and more. It sounds like it shouldn't be hard, but the layout, functionality, and consistency just work. I haven't re-entered my credentials for accounts in a long time, they sync daily, and I've yet to notice any bugs in the mobile app or web-app.

High Priority:

1. Goal Tracking: Integrate goal tracking or "goal investment accounts" similar to WithPlenty
2. Sankey report: Look to Monarch money for inspiration.
   • A Sankey view of your cash-flow (in the web-app) would be amazing. This truly is the best visual representation as to where your cash is going from income downstream.
     • If we can visualize our spending towards necessities, wants, and investments (maybe with tags?) this would be huge.
3. Credit Card bill tracking

Medium Priority:

1. Spending Transaction Customization
   • Edit transaction names (e.g., rename "Apple" subscriptions)
   • Ability to mark transactions as recurring in the recurring transactions list
     • While the algorithm or ML currently being used is quite good, it'd be nice to be able to go through your own list of all your recurring bills and align them. I seem to have a few such as some Apple subscriptions, and once-a-year charges that aren't marked currently.
2. UI/UX:
   • Consider offering emoji support for spending categories.
     • For example, there is no drink icon. So if I make a separate category for drinks (e.g. coffee specifically or alcohol, I'm probably going to use the food icon. This could be better differentiated with built-in emoji support.
   • Explore additional color options for budget categories.
     • Most users are probably adding at least a few additional custom categories, and with the limited amount of colors available, the Breakdown looses some of the clarity.
3. Security: Consider offering passkey, token-based MFA, and a "remember this device" option.
4. Notifications:
   • Having the ability to setup SOME useful notifications (we all are already inundated with notifications) may be beneficial.
     • For example, for purchases above $500, or for a specific account with a balance lower than X.

Low Priority:

1. Origin Invest account asset allocation: no percentages show at a top-level on the 'Asset allocation' card when you go into your Origin Invest account details. Not sure if this is a bug or not, but it'd make sense to just show a top-level percent between US Stocks, Intl Stocks, etc.
2. Dark Mode: Implement a dark mode option. Check Chime bank's dark mode or Dark Reader extension for inspiration.
3. Tax Filing Enhancements: Improve the user experience with Column Tax
   1. Allow users to reset their progress in the tax functionality with Column Tax.
      • Context: I didn't complete my taxes with Column tax this year, because I had free filing through TurboTax since I'm currently deployed in the army. I wanted to check out the functionality though, and then had 'resume taxes' show up in the app.
   2. Use OCR to import documents and pre-fill forms like TurboTax
      • Would be a huge time-saver throughout the process. That said, the fact that it's included with Origin is a huge PLUS in the first place.

Areas of improvement for clarity:

1. Setting up Origin investments:
   • When I first setup my Origin investment account my first deposit failed. I didn't know why it failed, couldn't see any additional info, and couldn't change the bank info. The next deposit was successful, but it gave me a slight pause using Origin investing considering I had no insight.
2. Excess cash on hand:
   1. I love this metric. My only issue with it was until I had excess cash on hand, I had no idea how it was defined. Once you have excess cash on hand, you can select 'adjust investing strategy,' which then shows you an option of 'How do we calculate?.' Once I found this, I had a better understanding.
      • One improvement to this would be tying this into Goal tracking as stated in the feedback above... e.g. I have some goals that are near-term (e.g. 0-6 mo vs some that are greater than 5 years).

TLDR: For $13/mo or ~$156/year, Origin provides account tracking, spending and budgeting, Net-worth tracking, Investing without AUMs, and a few other niceties such as Tax prep and Estate planning. They do a stellar job with the layout of their app using cards. Information is clear, nothing is missing, and it is concise. New features are being added quickly, and customer support has been solid. Above I've made a few recommendations for improvements, some of which they've already executed on!

I am 30, and having gone through a learning curve to acquaint myself with the nitty gritty of investments and MFs, I started investing last month. I am in my final year of doctoral studies with around 5 LPA as a government fellowship. I expect to scale up on it once I get into a better position after the degree completion.
Currently, I manage the following portfolio with a total SIP of around INR 7000. I plan to increase the SIPs by 10-15% annually.

1. UTI Nifty 50 Index Fund (30%)
2. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund (40%)
3. Quant Small Cap Fund (30%)

Additionally, I have around INR 40k worth of stocks, mostly in PSUs and a few top 50 companies, which I plan to hold long-term. I also have an NPS account with an INR 2000 monthly contribution (1k to Tier-1, 1k to Tier-2).
Coming across posts from several investors who've started in their early twenties, I greatly regret starting so late. However, I want to make the most of the time now while taking calculated risks and maximizing the opportunities.
Please provide your valuable feedback and suggest where I could do better. I plan to hold my MFs for as long as required. What should be the ideal maturity deadline for each of the funds, and after their maturity, does one start the SIPs again in the same funds? Thank you!

I had the Acessa procedure 10 months ago. I wrote about it after the procedure, but I couldn't tell if it would be effective because it can take months to see the full effects.
Now, 10 months later, I'm worried that I wasted a ton of time and money for nothing. My periods were lighter and the constant, daily pelvic pain went away a few months after Acessa. But now I'm 10 months in and I'm back to that low-level pain above my pubic bone every day. And I just had a 10 day menstrual period. Either I've got new fibroids or the old ones weren't treated correctly or something. They haven't been able to get anything useful from the ultrasounds at this point. If things progress like they did before, this low-level pain will turn into severe pain. I'm debating how long to wait versus getting on Myfembree now versus getting a damn hysterectomy which maybe I should have just done last year.
On top of all that, Dr. Bruce Lee's insane and incompetent office has sent me a random bill for an additional $20K. When I call, their office is like "oh, I'm not the billing department, I don't know what's going on." It's so infuriating. As if it were possible for me to feel worse about this surgery and my dumb uterus. I should have just thrown in the towel last year, but I kept thinking I could keep it.

Kind of funny how three out of five number one seeds in the West since 2020 turned out to be paper tigers. I’ll be ranking them by how fraudulent they turned out to be.

1. 2022 Suns. 64 wins in the West, by far the best record in the league. A clutch machine, top 5 in both offense and defense. A well-oiled win machine. Booker 5th in MVP and First Team All NBA, CP3 Third Team All NBA, Bridges First Team All Defense, Ayton, one of the better centers in the league, Monty COTY. The only team that was supposed to rival them in the West was Warriors, that’s it. Their opponent?

52-win four-seeded Mavs team that traded Porzingis at the deadline for Dinwiddie and Bertans. Luka was Luka, Brunson and Dinwiddie high level guards who could shoot and handle the ball, DFS, Kleber and Bullock really good 3 and D guys. All those guys were in their primes other than Brunson who turned into an All Star-ish player that postseason. Luka missed a few games of that Jazz series in the first round, and they still won in 6. The concept was: surround Luka with guys who can space the floor, can execute on defense and handle the ball when needed. It totally worked. Let’s be clear though: this team was still a level below the Suns. Dallas was a tier 2 contender in the West. Phoenix was a title favorite basically. Suns in 6 was probably the most popular pick.
We all know what happened. They went up 2-0 and 3-2. They layed a giant egg in Game 7 at home. It was over in the second quarter. No real excuse. Their greatness in the regular season, strong contender status, an embarrassing fashion in which they went out and the fact that they lost to a really good not great team that lost in 3 to the Warriors in the next round makes them an easy number one.

1. OKC 2024. Just hear me out. 57 wins in an absolutely brutal West. The toughest conference of the 2020s for sure. Top 5 in offense and defense. Excellent halfcourt offense. Second best net rating in the league only behind Boston. Great record against good teams. SGA second in MVP, Chet a DPOY candidate by all the metrics, Dort an All Defense candidate, Daigneault COTY, Jalen Williams played like an All Star for a while (Bill Simmons said J-Dub reminded him of Kawhi, so that’s almost like an award). Were they considered the best team? No, the Nuggets were, but they were certainly in that second tier with Minnesota. There were concerns about their youth. Yet this team had all the regular season metrics in their favor, they had talent, depth, youth, athleticism, two-way play and excellent coaching. Their opponent?

A 50-win five-seeded Dallas. No refreshers needed for them. OKC lost in 6 as a favorite. And here’s why I ultimately have them at two on this list: what advantage did Dallas have over them before the series?
Home court advantage? No.
Rest advantage? No, they went six with the Clippers, while OKC swept the Pels.
Coaching advantage? No, Daigneault is one of the most esteemed coaches in the league, while Kidd is probably not even in the Top 10 for most people.
Injury advantage? No, Luka was not at 100% the whole series. He was pretty bad for half the games, just like he was the previous round. Plus, they lost Kleber who is one of their few two-way players. The Mavs were the most successful with Kleber on the court vs the Clippers. He was more important for them than Gafford, Lively less so, but Kidd was most comfortable having Maxi out there. OKC was fully healthy.
Talent advantage? If we include the first eight players in the rotation, then 100% no. You would predict Dallas to have two of the three best players in the series (Luka and Kyrie vs SGA).
Matchup advantage? Not really, because even though we knew Dallas was gonna have size and good rim protection for 48 minutes, we also knew that OKC has two shooting bigs and they play five out most of the time, so it was possible they would just kill them from the outside, so I wouldn’t say Dallas had an obvious matchup advantage going into the series.
We know what happened next. In three of the four Dallas wins, they led the whole fourth quarter. Game 4 it was the same story, but SGA got hot, Mavs missed a ton of FTs and somehow choked that game. Now, obviously they didn’t go out in an embarassing fashion (17 point blown lead in Game 6 is bad, but it was a close game in the end), but I will say that they were certainly outplayed in Games 2 through 5. It probably should’ve been over quicker. They had OKC’s offense in the mud (it was SGA or bust for them the whole series, which is what the Mavs wanted), overpowered them in the paint and on the glass, and they scored just enough to win four out of six. Almost the entire time Dallas was in control. OKC didn’t even choke away a series lead (1-0 doesn’t count). They were just completely outplayed by a team that wasn’t supposed to outplay them (unless Luka and Kyrie went supernova which is maybe the opposite of what happened). In the words of Bill, that felt pretty paper tiger-y to me.

1. Jazz 2021. 59 win pace, best record and net rating in the league, top 5 in both offense and defense, three All Stars, DPOY and All NBA guy (Mitchell, Conley, Gobert). Everything was great in the regular season. Now, they went out way more sad than OKC. Choked a 2-0 lead, lost the last two games against Kawhi-less Clippers, blowing a 25-point lead in Game 6. The reason I have them behind OKC is that they definitely had the most excuses out of all these teams.

First, no one actually took them seriously as the number one seed. OKC was definitely behind the Nuggets this year, but no one else in the West. In 2021, people would take the Lakers, Clippers and post-deadline Nuggets over them in an instant. Wasn’t close. Lakers had the eight best record in the West that year, and everyone would still take the Lakers going into the playoffs. So, they were already known to be paper tigers.
Second, they lost against the Clippers who had more talent, a better coach and were a bad matchup for them. They were second in Net Rating that year too. The last two games against Dallas in the first round they looked like a bona fide title contender. Prime Kawhi, PG, two forwards/small-ball fives who shot 40%+ from three in Batum and Morris who could space out Gobert. They went down 0-2 and then blew Jazz out at home in Games 3 and 4. They were easily the better team, and I don’t know who would suggest they weren’t before the series.
Third, the Kawhi thing was a big break for them, but they were unlucky themselves. Mitchell missed the last 16 games of the season with an ankle injury, missed Game 1 of the first round and hurt it again in Game 2 against the Clippers. Conley missed every game of that series but the last one, came back and was awful. We’re seeing three years later how good Conley is. Terance Mann also went for 39 points in that Game 6, which was pretty fluky. No wonder they lost.

I (F24) live in Wisconsin. In April 2021 I attended a hair appointment at a local salon to receive two services to treat myself for my 21st birthday. One service was to dye my hair and the other was hand tied hair extensions. The morning after, I noticed my scalp, facial parameter, and ears were swelling, sore, blistered and excreting liquids. I immediately messaged my stylist and they did not answer until late at night after I had already visited the emergency room because the swelling was progressively getting worse. In the emergency room I was told I had had an allergic reaction to what was used in my hair and that the swelling would continue to progress. My entire face swole over the span of 2-3 days and my eyes were swollen shut at a certain point. My scalp, face, and ears continued to blister, excrete fluid, and crust. I was not able to attend work, school, complete assignments, and other personal responsibilities (ex. picking up my sister from school). I lost sleep and felt immense fear that the swelling would spread to my throat. This was something I was told in could happen in the emergency room.
After discussing this situation with the salon owner and stylist that did my hair, we came to an agreement through direct messages. The owner offered a parcial refund of $500. The total cost was $1400. I accepted as I needed the money to pay the medical bills. It has been 3 years and I have not received this payment. I had limited correspondence from the salon owner whom I made the agreement with and I was blocked on my social media accounts. After making a more public Facebook post that received some local attention, the owner has reached out again regarding this matter.
In addition to in person communication, messages, a salon review, and calls, I sent a letter asking for their direct insurance information. This was suggested by another lawyer I contacted regarding this incident. I did not receive a response. Also, during our in person discussion the owner stated that seeking legal action would not be good, that he “knew law” and that his father was a lawyer. This was intimidating.
After three years, I feel I deserve more than what was originally agreed on. This has been a constant stressor on my life. It has left me humiliated, distraught, and unable to ever step foot into a salon again. I don’t know what to do.
Thank you to anyone that takes their time to read and advise!

Hi there!
Disclaimer: this is a very long post. If you read all of it, I appreciate it endlessly! 🥹
After taking a break that has lasted way too long, I have decided to return to writing with my usual enthusiasm and am looking for an equally eager, literate and detailed, male (24+) partner.
My name is Elise, I am twenty-five and have been roleplaying for countless years now. I love creating stories that keep my partner and me on the edge of our seats, as well as inventing characters that find new layers of themselves throughout the journey. I consider myself a literate and write in third person, past tense on Discord. I live in the GMT+2 timezone, however I want to mention that I have been living with insomnia for years now, so I am incredibly flexible when it comes to the hours I am able to write.
For the longest time, mafia and crime settings have been my favorite! (I blame it on the countless dark romance books I have read.😝 ) I love having two dark and complex characters with backstories that influence their beings meet and let the fire start. Morally grey characters that sometimes do not make the best decisions have a special place in my heart, lmao. Also, I think that the combination of crime and romance can be incredibly interesting. It offers countless opportunities for the story to unfold and tropes to make use of.
For the longest time, I have had a specific setting in mind. It includes a young, woman who does not believe in love and has fingers that like to dip into other people's pockets meeting a stern and power hungry man who is involved in the world of crime.
Down below, you can find the starter. If you happen to be interested, please feel free to shoot me a message with an introduction of yourself and perhaps even any ideas you would like to incorporate. I would appreciate a bit of an effort, instead of the generic 'hey, wanna rp?' Merci!
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"Correct. I have just landed and had to check your boutique out. I have read such good things about it." Gianna lied effortlessly to the friendly sales lady. Part of the brunette even felt sorry for her, considering the fact that this was about to turn into one of the worst days she would have at her job. The young woman had really just landed from Los Angeles, quickly having come to the realization that her summer wardrobe was awfully out of place in snowy New York in the middle of December. "I'll try these dresses on as well. This sweater and this skirt look amazing, too.“ She added, knowing she had to bring a pile to the changing room, so the saleswoman would not notice some pieces being missing right away. The poor employee had been told some bullshit story about Gianna having come to the city that never sleeps with her boyfriend and assuming he was going to propose, she needed to look good at all times.
Minutes later, she found herself stood inside the spacious changing room, having managed to sneak her suitcase inside with her. Opening it, she quickly knelt down and stuffed a few of the things inside. First came the jacket, it was freezing outside. Then the skirt, sweater and another dress. The rest of the pile remained hung up. "I will be right back!" The saleswoman announced from the other side of the door, as the store's phone rang. Gianna heard her footsteps grow more and more distant, before quietly opening the door. Perfect. She was gone. Instead of rolling her suitcase behind her and making noise, she quickly lifted it, groaning internally at the weight of it. With quick steps and quite as a mouse she then made her way out of the store. She did not even have to run, the woman was busy with the phone on the other side of the store. Gianna was lucky, she knew that. She always was.
She smiled triumphantly to herself as she quickly turned a corner outside, knowing it was only a matter of time, until her absence would be noticed. After walking for around fifteen minutes, she spotted a public bathroom and quickly got inside to get changed. Ignoring the more than disgusting scent inside, Gianna got out of her jeans and thin sweater, before putting on the dress and the coat she had just stolen. Admittedly, it did look good on her. The dress was black and strapless, exposing her delicate shoulders and neck. It reached her knees and hugged her body. Her legs were elongated by a pair of heels she had snatched on the way out. The black coat fit perfectly, no one would assume the brunette did not even have a place to sleep.
Neither would anyone assume she had lit an entire casino on fire thirteen hours ago. By now, it was almost eight pm and Gianna took confident steps through the streets of New York, as if she belonged to the Upper East Side and nowhere else. Finally, she reached her destination. Tilting her head, she glanced up at a bright colored sign above an expensive looking bar. From the outside, it was almost impossible to look through the windows, but considering the way guests stepping inside were dressed, it had to be a somewhat upscale establishment. She neared the bodyguards controlling the entrance who at first seemed unsure about her, mustering her petite frame and the suitcase up and down.
"Come on, gentlemen. I am freezing." The brunette smiled softly and batted her eyelashes in an innocent matter at them. She was not wearing any makeup, but the look on her face apparently seemed to be enough for them to let her in. With a polite nod, she stepped inside. Gianna had visited a lot of upscale establishments in her twenty-six years of living, but this..this truly was something else. Everything was held in dark colors, the bar, the interior. It all dripped in exclusiveness, letting her know she was exactly where she wanted to be.
She sat down at the bar on one of the high stools and crossed her slim legs, with her suitcase beside her. Still wearing her coat, she glanced around. Several men were here already, some in groups and some on their own. Some had rings on their left finger and some had not. However, Gianna knew it did not mean a thing. Manipulating married men was even easier, since they were up for every thrill. Except, Gianna was not a thrill. She was not some fun for one night. Instead, she was good company, being able to giggle and talk for hours, until her companion was blacked out, or simply too intoxicated to notice her slipping her long and slim fingers into their pockets and taking out what she had wanted all along; their wallet. Perhaps a watch, too. Whatever she could get.
With every married man that fell into her trap, Gianna felt more and more discouraged about trusting any male. It had destroyed her illusion of faithfulness completely. Her gaze landed on the man to her right. He was younger than the rest, but older than her. Admittedly, he was handsome. And he was not wearing a ring. However, there was one problem: He was not looking, unlike the other creeps. Letting her coat glide down her shoulders, she exposed her bare skin, without looking at her right anymore, hoping the somewhat seductive gesture would be enough to get his attention. When the bartender asked what she would like to drink, she gave him a small smile. "An old fashioned, please." She answered, knowing very well she did not have an ounce of cash on her. Surely, someone to pay her bill could be found tonight.

A typical debate between a libertarian and a Marxist would go around the labor theory of value, exploitation of labor, surplus value, thought experiment of the property monster on an island, monopolies, the economic calculation problem, and so on. You have probably watched dozens of such debates, read thousands of comment threads, etc. However, all of this, although technically correct, is missing the big picture. Namely, that all of these arguments are simply an artificial facade behind which Marxists hide their real motivations.
I will explain the Marxist trap and how you can escape it with a much clearer argument against their gaslighting.
Now, imagine for the sake of an abstract thought experiment if an average person, who has never been interested in politics, starts watching one of those debates (where the libertarian takes the Marxist arguments at face value). What would he or she see? They would actually perceive the Marxist as a reasonable person and you as someone who is gaslighting the public (unlike what you might expect). Why? In real life, many (if not most) people have had bad experiences with their employers, many people silently hate their managers, they struggle to pay their bills, they live from salary to salary, and they have never interacted with the market themselves (i.e., they have never been an entrepreneur or investor). Marxists often mock libertarians by saying - yeah sure, you could just become a millionaire, you just choose to be a struggling employee. It does resonate with the general public.
However, there is a much sharper argument against Marxism. Namely, they gaslight people about the exploitation of labor by capitalists and, according them, to free themselves from this exploitation, all workers have to become ...... employees of the ultimate monopolist agency, (i.e., the state), which will have the ultimate and final say in all matters (and have all the guns to enforce its final say). Again, they do not like many employers because, according to their theory, the market will eventually be completely monopolized by capitalists (sometimes in a theoretical future), and hence, ...... let's all be employees of the ultimate monopoly (making a full circle!).
That's not all, they claim that you are theoretically forced to work as an employee under capitalism, hence, ...... let their ultimate employer (i.e., the state) actually force you to work:

Soviet law "On Intensification of the Struggle against Persons who avoid Socially Useful Work and lead an Anti-social Parasitic Way of Life" which criminalized parasitism entered into force. Those who refused to work were critiqued as "able-bodied citizens who refuse to fulfill their important constitutional duty - to perform honest work to the best of their ability".

And even that's not all, they claim that under capitalism, you struggle to find another job so your boss constantly underpays you, and hence, ...... let their ultimate employer (i.e., the state) actually force you to stay (e.g., exit visa, propiska which limited even internal emigration).
So Marxism is so absurd that they go to very great lengths criticizing capitalism ...... only to implement what they, themselves, criticized but on steroids! (making a full circle!)
So the real reason why they came up with all of this lengthy nonsense (e.g. labor theory of value etc) is to conceal the fact that it's ideology of crabs (i.e. crab mentality):

If I can't have it, neither can you.
The analogous theory in human behavior is that members of a group will attempt to reduce the self-confidence of any member who achieves success beyond others, out of envy, jealousy, resentment, spite, conspiracy, or competitive feelings, in order to halt their progress even though there are no benefits associated.

That's it, Marxism never been about any labor theory of value nonsense in the first place.

(Apologies for bad english, it's not my first Language)
I have been watching Pyro's content since 2016 and even though I liked the way he managed his channel back then, it has become a shell of it's former self. I think most of his community knows about this situation and I just wanted to add my small grain of sand into the heaping pile of rubbish that Pyro Live and Le Slop have formed.
Firstly, Pyro Live channel isn't "slop", it's fucking garbage. This term Pyro and his fans used to refer to the content the Second Channel produced carried the implication that it wasn't what Pyro wanted to do, rather what he had to do to pay bills and produce the larger and higher quality videos. This has now proven to be the contrary, since Pyro is producing around 5-7 Pyro Live videos a week that are of the poorest quality and talk about "This internet drama is insane" or "Insane Youtuber situation". These videos, coupled with the insane amount of donos pyro earns from his streams (1000 bucks to show his feet) are providing him with a steady flow of income, income Pyro is using to improve the Slop Live channel instead of the Main Channel,
An argument many will use to justify the "Slop Live" situation is the following: "Oh but Pyro NEEDS the money from the second channel to create 4 hour long videos like the Cruelty Squad one." Even if it is arguable that Pyro could actually afford to live from the main channel alone since he has his own merch, live events and is streaming on top of it (those 100$ donos might be a huge chunk of his income), I do believe that 95% of Pyro's fanbase would be happier if he posted shorter and higher quality videos in the Main Channel (Like the Iron Lung or Petscop ones) since this would actually free up Pyro's schedule in order to be able to release more videos. But no, Pyro has to do the 5 hour video on Cruelty Squad and fill it with unnecessary jokes and filler. He HAS to make a Lethal Company video instead of the Darkwood one because he needs to capitalize on that sweet sweet money that comes from talking about viral games. He needs the money that comes from monetizing every single video with worthless products.
I think this is kind of the point of this post. Pyro has been prioritizing money over everything else and it is becoming annoying. His live videos are up to the brim with unnecessary tangents and conversations that Pyro artificially generates out of thin air in order to reach the 8 minute mark. His reactions to donos are extremely unfunny since he ALWAYS screams and starts flailing his arms around like a monkey at a 5 dollar dono that told him his hair is actual garbage. No Pyro, asking mods to pull someone's home address for the 25th time in a row when someone in chat says "Oldest Pyro Fan" at a barely developed fetus is NOT funny.
I am not trying to downplay the effect we as his audience have had on him. We constantly bully and mess with Pyro, making unfunny jokes about his hair and his chin, something that has made Pyro think that he needs to scream like a react Andy at every donation that "attacks" any part of his personality. It is a cashgrab of the worst kind (the kind of cashgrab we as his audience are a part of) and it has hindered his video's quality greatly.
Also, him reusing topics for the second channel and straight up reacting to SunnyV2 on the Third Channel (Le Ultimate Slop Live) just shows that he does not fucking care wether his content is interesting or not. He is becoming a C-tier British Moistcritikal imitation without all the ironic humor that makes Charlie enjoyable to watch. The absolute lack of self awareness when confronted with the lack of research in the Fallout video and the absolute dogshit points he makes in said video is revolting. Him making a 40 minute video about the Kendrick and Drake beef whilst admitting he knows dogshit about any of the singers involved in said beef (and making wonderful comments like "Metro's Booming") is one of many examples of Pyro milking the content cow dry. I honestly believe Pyro has said Neon and Adin Ross's names in the past months more than his own parent's name's during his entire life.
In conclusion, what used to be a great channel dedicated to passionate videos has now devolved into a 3 way channel content beast, creating video after video of baseless critique and commentary. There is still hope that Pyro might change for the good, prioritizing the main channel videos instead of the slop of the Second Channel, but seeing at the direction his channel is moving it doesn't seem likely.
Ironically, we might be seeing MoistCritikal or Ludwig reacting to a SunnyV2 video on "The Fall of Pyrocinical" in just a few years.

I’m 33 and have been single for the past few years. it gets exhausting having to navigate life alone.
The advice / comments especially on Reddit on women lamenting the problems with being single/dating aren’t based in reality imo.

• “meet new friends/work on yourself/you must be happy alone”: not necessarily bad advice but making new friends is a)not easy at this age and b) most people are focused on family/relationship/career so a new friend is the lowest priority understandably and we are all so busy. I’ve worked on myself - a lot. But it’s still hard being alone.
  
• “join a hobby/class/volunteer”: good advice to try something new but most people are middle aged who volunteeexercise groups I’ve joined so I don’t even think it’s a good way to even make friends if you are younger let alone fine a single man/woman.
  
• “lots of couples are miserable”: of course. But lots are happy too. And we haven’t even touched on the financial and practical difficulties of being single. I work 2 jobs and am very independent but it’s so hard having to pay rent/bills alone - it’s hard coming home being exhausted and still having to cook and clean myself. My weekends are spent preparing for the work week as no one else will help me with cleaning my own flat or cooking. It’s emotionally and physically difficult doing everything myself.
  

There are so many great things about being single and independent but there are downsides too and I don’t think they get discussed or acknowledged enough.
There’s a lack of safety - lack of support (especially if you don’t have amazingly close family/friends) - financially very hard unless you make lots of money.
I guess the whole post is really lamenting that it’s ok to want a partner and recognising the difficulty of being single. As a feminist I sometimes feel guilty like I shouldn’t need a man/relationship but I do.

I'm in my early forties and my brother Daniel is in his early thirties. Growing up, I was the unplanned catalyst for my teenage parents' shotgun wedding. They were tough on me as the eldest but indulged Daniel to maintain a quiet life.
We shared a room from when I was nine to eighteen. All my belongings had to be shared, and Daniel often damaged them without consequences. I was introverted with undiagnosed autism, while Daniel was outgoing and sporty. At 14, he was scouted for a sports academy, and my parents invested heavily in his potential career, neglecting my needs and making me responsible for household chores.
During the financial crash, I couldn't afford to move out, but we finally got separate rooms when my parents moved to a larger house. Daniel began stealing from me, and even after I caught him on video, he denied it and faced no real punishment. Eventually, I was allowed to lock my door.
Daniel then targeted my parents' money, breaking into their safe. When they confronted him with marked bills found in his room, he denied it, and I refused to help, echoing their earlier excuse, "It's not stealing if it's family." Daniel's behavior escalated to drug use, and he brought cocaine into the house. Despite my mother’s job with the police, she believed his excuses.
Daniel dropped out of school and was dropped from the academy team. My parents had spent thousands on his career, and they made him get a job, but he was lazy and frequently quit or was fired. I moved out but stayed nearby, while my parents continued to indulge Daniel.
Years later, Daniel posted Islamophobic comments on social media, which I publicly condemned. My parents sided with him, and he refused to join family Christmas dinner because of my criticism. When I was forced to apologize, I sarcastically apologized for his behavior, leading to a physical altercation where he put a hole in the wall. My parents blamed me, and I left with my girlfriend.
I was excluded from family events, and although relations with my parents eventually normalized, I haven't spoken to Daniel since. He now has a child and regularly dumps his kids on my parents, who prioritize them over my daughter, even though I live closer.
My parents still exclude me from events if Daniel is there. Recently, I declined a last-minute invitation to their anniversary when I learned Daniel would attend. I feel that avoiding him is necessary to protect my family from his toxic behavior.
AITA for avoiding my man-child brother?

I just need to vent and don't know who to vent to so sorry for the super long, dramatic post. I guess I'm sharing my "story" in case it makes someone feel less alone, because I'm hoping to feel that way. I guess I'm also hoping for advice. :)
Growing up, my father was physically/ emotionally/ verbally abusive. The physical stuff was only when I was very young, it fizzled out as I grew up. But the other stuff was so brutal. The general overview was that I was the scapegoat from a very early age. My older brother had some special needs/ emotional issues so a lot of my parents' energy went to him and my younger sister was the baby of the family, the favorite, often leaving me on the outskirts. Any attention I did get was purely negative. I think as a child I harbored some resentment towards the two of them, as unfair as it is. I know as an adult it wasn't their fault and I truly feel I've moved past it. However the effects of only ever experiencing negative attention from my parents are horrible.
I was taught at such a young age that I was bad, that there was something truly, devastatingly wrong with me, and therefore I caused all of the tension and fighting in the house. My father had a hard day at work, it was my fault when he took it out on everyone. My siblings got in a fight, it was my fault for causing the bad moods. If I retaliated while being attacked (physically or verbally), it was viewed as an isolated incident, an uncalled for, uncontrollable temper. When I did mess up or misstep, it only made it worse. Everyone else was infallible, while my mistakes were ammunition, weaponized as evidence.
I remember knowing something was wrong but not having the language for it. I was too young to understand and by the time I got older and had the capacity to communicate what was happening to me, the manipulation ran so deep that I didn’t think words like “abuse” applied to my situation. I so deeply believed that I was bad and terrible and every other horrible thing they called me that I thought it was my fault. The physical stuff had subsided, so isn’t it my fault that they yell?
I figured out how to keep myself safe eventually. Stay out of the way. Stay in your room. Don’t make noise. Don’t cross their paths. Don’t have any wants or needs. If you overhear slamming or yelling, hold your breath, make yourself smaller, pray it subsides before they remember you’re there. It didn’t always work, but I did my best. The only way I got through was counting down the years until I finished high school and I could get out. Though sometimes that number provided more dismay than comfort.
It wasn’t until I graduated high school that I realized what it was. My parents split up at the end of my senior year and it was the first time I heard someone else use the word. My mother. I remember when the word “abuse” passed her lips. Some part of me found it to be obvious, another part of me was destroyed. Nothing was the same after that. I had already experienced such a tumultuous upbringing and now I had to re-experience it under the lens of abuse. It was like it happened twice.
The first year was really strange. My father was overly nice, overly welcoming, trying to forge a connection we’d never had. My mother was apologetic, trying to rebuild something that never was. My father was afraid I’d testify and my mother… I suppose she felt guilty for never stepping in. I don’t know what I felt. Confused. Angry. Hurt. I knew my parents had been strict and unkind, but downright abusive? It made sense but I didn’t want it to.
My anxiety was really bad. With my father out of the house, all of my repressed memories started coming back to me. I was having nightmares every night. I started having panic attacks. I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep. Every minute awake was spent in an anxiety attack (with the occasional panic attack) and every minute asleep was filled with nightmares. This went on for about two months. I lost about 30 pounds.
This was also during quarantine, so my family was stuck at home together. My mother and I didn’t have the kind of relationship where we could talk to one another so she assumed I was completely fine. My siblings were always welcome to come to her so she knew they were having a hard time with it, so her attention and compassion went to them. When I started having panic attacks, I talked to her, hoping for some kind of help or support. Instead I was brushed off.
Summe fall of that year was when things started to deteriorate once more. My mother was angry and I was the recipient. Every word that left her mouth about me was negative, whether it was to me or to someone else. My mere presence and existence were enough to set her off. Just like as a child, it was all on me. Everyone’s anger, everyone’s moods, all of the fighting and yelling. It was all on me again. But I was angry too. I had just realized my father had abused me my entire life and that my mother had stood by while it happened. Not only that, but she was a participant my whole childhood. I know it’s not fair to blame her. If my father was like that with my siblings and I, I can only imagine what else was going on. But I was a child. She was an adult. As a woman, I have so much empathy for her. As her child, I didn’t know how to forgive her, especially when she was continuing the cycle even after my dad left.
The year I was 19 was filled with constant anger and flights, I always had to be on guard, ready for anything. Her threatening to kick me out was nothing new, but now that I was old enough to be on my own, it felt so much more real. It also felt so unjustified. I’d yell back when I was being yelled at. I was bad about keeping up with my chores. But there wasn’t a single instance that felt worthy of throwing me aside. Yet she held shelter and stability over my head every chance she got. I was attending community college classes and working part time, saving up as much as I could in case she followed through.
We lost our house that year, moved to an apartment. Tensions only grew worse. My mom was more stressed out than ever and I was more of a target than ever. I worked two jobs, attended classes. I was never home, never asked for anything, paid for all of my own things, never engaged with her. And yet…
I was 21 when it finally happened, after years of being threatened with it. I was a semester away from finishing my degree, still working two jobs, still staying out of the way. My older brother and I were told my mother and sister were moving at the end of the week and we were not welcome to join. The lease on our current apartment ended in two months and we were welcome to stay if we covered the bills, but after that, we were on our own. No help.
My brother was 24, two years into a full time job, tens of thousands of dollars saved away. While still obviously a horrible situation, he’d be okay. But me? I know 21 is an adult but I was still in school. Yes I worked two jobs but they were still part time, and almost all of my income was spent on school, gas, groceries, and bills. At this point, I was a few months into no contact with my father. When my mother told me this, we didn’t speak for months. We eventually got back in touch, but it's not a proper connection.
The hardest part was that I was alone. There was no family I could stay with, no friends able to take me in, no one to help me find a place or help me understand my finances and my options. The tuition for my last semester of school was $5,000. I would be student teaching in the mornings and working all afternoon and weekends. I’d have to make enough money to fully cover all of my bills and necessities while spending 20 hours a week student teaching, completely unpaid, on top of all of my other classes. I didn’t have much in savings since I had to spend most of my income to get by, which meant I couldn’t afford a security deposit or movers or furniture or first/ last month's rent. I lived in an expensive area where even a studio was $2,000/ month minimum, and that’s before utilities and everything else. I didn’t see how I could make it work. I didn't know anyone I could room with and moving with strangers was a last resort. I spent those two months trying to figure it out, trying to accept the very real, tangible possibility of homelessness.
Eventually, I found a place. My grandparents help me with part of my rent. I work three jobs. I had to drop out of school. I’m not in touch with my parents. I’m 22 now. Being on my own, I feel a bit better. Not having to live in constant fight or flight, not having basic necessities held over your head, not being hated and terrorized just for existing… It's so peaceful. I’m stressed about money and my future, but it feels so much more approachable now. I hate my circumstances but for the first time in my life, I have a will to keep going.
That being said, it’s also so difficult. Seeing people my age close to their families, having a home and people to go back to, getting to graduate college supported by loved ones (financially or otherwise), only just now starting their adult lives… It's hard. A better person would be happy for them, and deep down I am, but I’m also so jealous. I don’t know if I’ll ever get to finish my degree. I don’t want to take out loans with no way to pay them back. Yes I’m working three jobs, but the cost of living is so immense, just about every cent goes to bills, rent, and necessities. I don’t see a way out but I want to find one. I don’t want my parents to get to rob me of my dreams in life when they’ve already taken so much from me. I’ll never be the person I could’ve been if I grew up with love and support, but I don’t want that to stop me.
I know this is an impossibly long post. I just needed to vent and get things off of my chest. But if anyone reading this has any advice, I’d love to hear it. I know 22 is an adult, I know I should be more put together than this, people are in my situation so much younger and they figure it out, but I just feel so lost. I want to finish school. I don’t want to barely get by while working 3 jobs. I want a family. I don’t know what to do.

Hey everyone! We’re going to STL for 2-3 days next month for our anniversary. What are some places we must eat at? We’re both foodies so make sure they’re good!
Breakfast: we love stuff like biscuits and gravy..and that gravy needs to be thick, chunky, filled with sausage and most importantly spicy! None of the white gravy junk that only belongs over mashed potatoes 😂 Also love breakfast burritos, country fried steak, French toast, etc
Lunch: we love things like sandwiches (think Jersey Mike’s but local), burgers, pizza, fried chicken, etc
Dinner: being anniversary a more fine dining place would be great but not required. Would prefer the bill not exceed $300 for the two of us. And this would just be for the one night. The other evenings we’d love a fantastic Chinese / Italian / Indian etc. place.
Side note: we’ve already had IMO’s and fried ravioli so if there’s other native St. Louis places please let me know! And lastly…if ya haven’t already figured it out… the unhealthier the food the better 😂😂 I hope this post is fun for all!
Thanks everyone!

Here's a post of key things mark schemes look for:
● ZERO ERROR equipment like 1- Ohmmeter 2- Balance 3- Vernier Calipers 4- Micrometer 5- Voltmeter and Ammeter all have zero errors, when describing a practical always mention them
● PARALLAX ERROR equipment like 1- Rulers 2- Thermometers 3- Protractor 4- Measuring Cylinder all have parallax errors, to reduce them mention reading the scale at eye level and ensure the eyes are perpendicular to scale.
●WHEN RULERS ARE USED 1- Ensure it's vertical using a set square. 2- Read at eye level to reduce parallax error.
●CRITICISM OF RESULTS 1- Inconsistent S.F or D.P 2- Limited sets lf results 3- Small Range of Values 4- No evidence of repeats (if no mean is shown) 5- Inconsistent intervals in readings (In the independent variable)
●WHEN ASKED ABOUT GRAPHICAL METHODS 1- Compare equation provided with y = mx + c 2- Find the gradient 3- Mention that there must be at least 5 readings.
●WHEN ASKED TO DRAW DIAGRAMS OF APPARATUS FOR ELECTRIC CIRCUITS 1- Always draw a voltmeter in parallel to the component investigated 2- Always draw an ammeter in series 3- Check if variable resistor is needed, if you aren't sure whether one is needed or not, just draw it, in 90% of cases it's required 4- ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS draw a power supply, cell, battery, whatever, just draw one.
●TO IMPROVE ACCURACY 1- Use more sensitive equipment 2- Larger range of values
●WHEN DESCRIBING A METHOD your answer should include messuring apparatus, for example, "measure distance d" ❌️ isn't sufficient to get the mark, instead, "measure distance d using a metre ruler" ✅️ "measure resistance using an ohmmeter" ✅️ "measure diameter using a micrometer" ✅️ and so on...
●ERRORS 1- Repeats and calculating a mean is used to reduce random error. 2- Checking for zero error reduces systematic error.
●PLOTTING GRAPHS 1- Choose sensible and reasonable scales, go up by a factor of 1,2,5 or 10, using weird factors like 7 or 4 for example increaes the chance of you plotting correctly and just loses easy marks. 2- ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS use a sharp pencil when plotting, and plot with small x's and not dots (⚪️)
●EXPERIMENTS REGARDING LIGHT INCIDENT ON A COMPONENT 1- To ensure results are accurate, block background light. 2- Keep angle of solar cell light the same.
● % UNCERTAINTY 1- After mentioning an improvement, always mention it reduces % uncertainty.
●Reproducibility 1- Measurements are reproducible when similar results arr obtained by students from different groups using DIFFERENT methods or apparatus.
If the same method and apparatus are used, and similar results are obtainedx then they aren't Reproducible, as it's the same method and apparatus
●PROPORTIONALITY 1- Straight line going through origin. 2- points plotted on a straight line.

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Hello everyone! I have the following pokémon for sale. All prices are in USD, fees not included, covered by the buyer (calculate the amount here).

• Pokéball Magearna (Home-stamped):

All self-obtained and untouched.

Pokémon	Language	OT	ID	Price	Status
Magearna	ENG	Yours (custom OT)※	444741	$ 14	Available
Magearna	ENG	ηiητεηδο ☆	790135	$ 10	Available
Magearna	KOR	닌텐도	463209	$ 10	Available

※Can also give it a custom nickname! Otherwise it will be 'Hyotan'.

• Gray Magearna (Bank-stamped):

Self-caught and untouched, from Pokémon Moon. Moved to Home with a Bank stamp.

Pokémon	Language	OT	ID	Proof	Price	Status
Magearna	Any	Yours (custom OT)※	Random	Yes (Video)	$ 10	Available
Magearna	ENG	Hyotan	591922	Yes (Video)	$ 5	Available

※ This will be from a new playthrough. The trainer ID will be posted as soon as I start a new game. Can do custom nickname, language, OT and trainer gender. I'll record a video claiming it (can give you a sample before you buy).

• Shiny Arceus:

Self-caught in Shining Pearl, untouched. The entire hunt has been streamed on Youtube. Price: $30

Pokémon	Language	Ball	OT	ID	Status
Arceus ✨	ENG	Master	Hyotan ☆	674702	Available

• Shiny hundos still in Go:

Self-caught shinies with perfect IVs (100%) in Go. They will have 5 best IVs in Home, speed will be random.

Shundo ✨	Gender	Ball	Level	Price
Hisuian Typhlosion	Male	Premier	20	$ 7
Celesteela	-	Premier	20	$ 10

Can do custom OT (ID 457266), otherwise it will he 'Hyotan'.

• Shiny Meltan & Melmetal in Let's Go:

Still in the Go Park. All self-caught, English language. Can catch them with a pokeball of your choice: poké ball, great ball, ultra ball, premier ball or Master Ball.

Pokémon ✨	Level	OT	ID	Price
Meltan	1	Hyotan	337411	$ 5
Meltan	4	Hyotan	337411	$ 4
Meltan	9	Hyotan	337411	$ 4
Meltan	12	Hyotan	337411	$ 4
Melmetal	1	Hyotan	337411	$ 6
Melmetal	8	Hyotan	337411	$ 5
Melmetal	9	Hyotan	337411	$ 5

(Keep in mind that they will have a Let's Go stamp)

• Pokémon Violet legendaries (not shiny):

Legendaries from my second Violet playthrough. All self-caught, English language.

Pokémon	Ball	OT	ID	Video proof	Price
Miraidon	Master	Hyotan	938704	Yes	$ 4
Iron Boulder	Luxury	Hyotan	938704	Yes	$ 5
Iron Crown	Luxury	Hyotan	938704	Yes	$ 5
Terapagos	Beast	Hyotan	938704	No	$ 4

• Non-shiny mythicals still in Go:

Mew, Celebi, Jirachi, Shaymin, Meloetta & Hoopa. All self-obtained, English language, level 15 in a regular pokéball. Can do custom OT and custom language! (otherwise it will be OT Hyotan, ID 457266) Price: $7 each.

• Shiny Go-stamped Legendaries/Mythicals in Home:

All self-obtained, English language.

Pokémon ✨	Ball	Level	OT	ID	Price
Celebi	Poké ball	15	Hyotan	457266	$ 12
Mewtwo	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Entei	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Regirock	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Rayquaza	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Giratina	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Cresselia	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Darkrai	Premier	20	Hyotan	708507	$ 7
Guzzlord	Premier	20	Hyotan	708507	$ 6
Thundurus (incarnate)	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Zekrom	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Xerneas	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Yveltal	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Tapu Koko	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Tapu Lele	Premier	25	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Tapu Bulu	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Tapu Fini	Premier	20	Hyotan	457266	$ 6
Meltan	Poké ball	11	Hyotan	457266	$ 6

• Non-legendary shinies still in Go:

All self-obtained, English language.

Pokémon ✨	Gender	Ball	Level	Price
Spiritomb	♂	Great	15	$ 17
Spiritomb	♀	Great	15	$ 17
Kleavor (XXL)	♂	Premier	20	$ 10
Caterpie (XXL)	♂	Poké Ball	11	$ 5
Galar Stunfisk (XXS)	♂	Poké Ball	15	$ 10
Froakie (XXL)	♂	Poké Ball	5	$ 5
Froakie (XXS)	♀	Poké Ball	15	$ 5
Squirtle (XXL)	♂	Poké Ball	13	$ 5
Johto Wooper (XXL)	♂	Poké Ball	4	$ 5
Chatot	♀	Great	18	$ 5
Rattata	♂	Poké Ball	6	$ 3
Rattata (Alolan)	♂	Poké Ball	4	$ 3
Raichu (Alolan)	♀	Premier	20	$ 5
Zubat	♂	Poké Ball	30	$ 3
Meowth	♀	Poké Ball	13	$ 3
Mankey	♂	Poké Ball	33	$ 3
Growlithe (Hisuian)	♂	Poké Ball	2	$ 3
Bellsprout	♂	Poké Ball	12	$ 3
Tentacool	♂	Poké Ball	29	$ 3
Ponyta (Galarian)	♂	Poké Ball	20	$ 3
Magnemite	-	Poké Ball	18	$ 3
Doduo	♀	Poké Ball	23	$ 3
Doduo	♂	Poké Ball	25	$ 3
Shellder	♂	Poké Ball	16	$ 3
Drowzee	♂	Premier	25	$ 3
Voltorb (Hisuian)	-	Poké Ball	8	$ 3
Marowak (Alolan)	♀	Ultra	26	$ 5
Hitmonlee	♂	Ultra	25	$ 3
Hitmonchan	♂	Great	24	$ 3
Koffing	♀	Ultra	6	$ 3
Weezing (Galarian)	♀	Poké Ball	7	$ 5
Kangaskhan	♀	Premier	20	$ 3
Horsea	♀	Ultra	3	$ 3
Omanyte	♂	Poké Ball	29	$ 3
Kabuto	♀	Ultra	20	$ 3
Typhlosion (Hisuian)	♂	Premier	20	$ 4
Sentret	♀	Poké Ball	22	$ 3
Spinarak	♂	Poké Ball	16	$ 3
Pichu	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Cleffa	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Togepi	♂	Poké Ball	20	$ 3
Natu	♂	Poké Ball	21	$ 3
Marill	♂	Poké Ball	15	$ 3
Sudowoodo	♂	Poké Ball	5	$ 3
Sunkern	♀	Poké Ball	3	$ 3
Yanma	♂	Great	8	$ 3
Murkrow	♀	Premier	25	$ 3
Misdreavus	♂	Poké Ball	5	$ 3
Girafarig	♀	Great	30	$ 5
Dunsparce	♂	Ultra	25	$ 3
Qwilfish	♂	Poké Ball	17	$ 3
Qwilfish (Hisuian)	♂	Poké Ball	11	$ 3
Shuckle	♀	Ultra	22	$ 3
Heracross	♂	Poké Ball	28	$ 5
Heracross	♀	Poké Ball	14	$ 5
Delibird	♂	Ultra	12	$ 5
Smeargle	♀	Poké Ball	9	$ 5
Smeargle	♂	Poké Ball	2	$ 5
Smoochum	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Elekid	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Magby	♂	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Miltank	♀	Great	15	$ 3
Poochyena	♂	Ultra	30	$ 3
Zigzagoon	♀	Poké Ball	28	$ 3
Cascoon	♀	Ultra	23	$ 3
Taillow	♀	Poké Ball	9	$ 3
Surskit	♀	Ultra	9	$ 3
Nincada	♂	Ultra	9	$ 5
Azurill	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 3
Skitty	♂	Poké Ball	29	$ 3
Mawile	♂	Poké Ball	1	$ 3
Aron	♀	Poké Ball	16	$ 3
Meditite	♂	Great	5	$ 3
Meditite	♀	Ultra	8	$ 3
Plusle	♂	Poké Ball	14	$ 3
Minun	♀	Poké Ball	5	$ 3
Carvanha	♂	Poké Ball	16	$ 3
Wailmer	♂	Poké Ball	28	$ 3
Gulpin	♂	Poké Ball	1	$ 3
Spoink	♂	Poké Ball	3	$ 3
Cacnea	♂	Poké Ball	15	$ 3
Seviper	♂	Ultra	8	$ 5
Lunatone	-	Poké Ball	14	$ 3
Solrock	-	Poké Ball	11	$ 3
Barboach	♂	Poké Ball	15	$ 3
Shuppet	♂	Poké Ball	26	$ 3
Chinchou	♀	Poké Ball	24	$ 3
Snorunt	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 3
Relicanth	♂	Poké Ball	20	$ 7
Kricketot	♂	Poké Ball	7	$ 3
Budew	♂	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Burmy (sand)	♀	Poké Ball	6	$ 7
Burmy (trash)	♀	Poké Ball	6	$ 7
Combee	♂	Poké Ball	15	$ 3
Buneary	♂	Poké Ball	1	$ 3
Lopunny	♀	Poké Ball	40	$ 3
Glameow	♂	Poké Ball	9	$ 3
Bonsly	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Riolu	♂	Poké Ball	20	$ 4
Skorupi	♀	Poké Ball	22	$ 3
Croagunk	♀	Poké Ball	3	$ 3
Finneon	♂	Poké Ball	11	$ 3
Samurott (Hisuian)	♂	Premier	20	$ 4
Patrat	♂	Ultra	19	$ 3
Lillipup	♂	Poké Ball	8	$ 3
Pidove	♂	Poké Ball	28	$ 3
Pidove	♀	Poké Ball	25	$ 3
Woobat	♂	Poké Ball	19	$ 3
Audino	♀	Poké Ball	40	$ 5
Tympole	♂	Poké Ball	1	$ 3
Venipede	♀	Poké Ball	34	$ 3
Darumaka	♀	Poké Ball	1	$ 3
Dwebble	♂	Poké Ball	7	$ 3
Yamask	♂	Poké Ball	15	$ 4
Gothita	♀	Poké Ball	24	$ 3
Foongus	♀	Poké Ball	26	$ 3
Frillish	♀	Poké Ball	13	$ 3
Beartic	♂	Ultra	20	$ 3
Cryogonal	-	Poké Ball	15	$ 4
Pawniard	♂	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Rufflet	♂	Poké Ball	15	$ 4
Vullaby	♀	Poké Ball	20	$ 5
Bunnelby	♀	Poké Ball	30	$ 3
Spritzee	♀	Poké Ball	19	$ 3
Swirlix	♂	Poké Ball	4	$ 3
Dedenne	♀	Poké Ball	24	$ 4
Yungoos	♂	Poké Ball	7	$ 3
Morelull	♂	Poké Ball	7	$ 3
Wyrdeer	♀	Premier	20	$ 5
Kleavor	♂	Premier	20	$ 5
Lechonk	♂	Poké Ball	12	$ 3

(Can do custom OT and custom language. If you don't want custom OT it will be OT Hyotan, ID 457266)

• Events:

All self-redeemed and untouched, with video proof. Keep in mind that shiny Eternatus has never been tradeable in Home, so it must be traded in-game (Sword & Shield or Scarlet & Violet), and you need a Nintendo Switch online subscription.

Pokémon	Lang	OT	ID	Video Proof	Price
Pikachu	JPN	ポケセン	230422	Yes	$ 8
Marshadow	ITA	Mythical22	220909	Yes	$ 10
Eternatus ✨	JPN	ガラル	221118	Yes	$ 10
Eternatus ✨	CHS	伽勒尔	221118	Yes	$ 10
Eternatus ✨	SPA	Galar	221118	Yes	$ 10
Eternatus ✨	CHT	伽勒爾	221118	Yes	$ 10
Eternatus ✨	ITA	Galar	221118	Yes	$ 10

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So online I've seen a lot of memes about women being "blissful traditional wives" vs "bitter child less career women" or whatever. I strongly disagree with them, as I think women can be happy regardless if they're at home or at a career. Yet I also see these traditional wives being called gold diggers.
I see a lot of rhetoric about how men are "natural providers" and "want to feel needed". I saw a man arguing this morning on Harrison Butker's post with feminist women, saying how his wife is a blissful homemaker and how women are biologically engineered to stay at home all day.
So why am I now seeing people say how women only care about money, only want men to pay for dates, etc? Do men want a woman who's a careerwoman who can help with the bills financially and pay for dates? I'm really confused on this. Are they saying that they want a woman who has a mid level job that can help pay for stuff but not too high paying or else it's intimidating?
So PPD, what is your stance on this frequently conflicting rhetoric about a woman's role in society/dating? What can be done to reconcile these two stances in order to make something that's a middle ground and less extreme.
I don't want to assume all men think this way, or strawman anyone. I understand it's a complex issue, and there's a lot of different opinions regarding this. I think it's perfectly fine if a man wants to be a provider, as long as he's not rude to people who don't want to be provided for. I think it's perfectly understandable that men are frustrated with shitty women who want a guy who makes 6 figures. But at the same time it does cost a lot of money to have a full family and house live off one income.
I just am looking at observations I've seen on this subreddit, youtube, discord, facebook, etc. I think already we're divided enough as genders no?

Immediate Financial Crisis Losing my job unexpectedly has left me in a precarious situation. After working 14 consecutive days, I was fired by my boss at the VFW. The club where I worked is a private establishment, and we primarily rely on weekend sales. Unfortunately, I won’t be working this weekend, which significantly impacts my financial stability. Bills are piling up, and I’m unsure how to cover them.

1. Dependence on Weekend Sales The VFW post is strategically located near a tourist beach town, attracting a lot of foot traffic during weekends. These weekends are crucial for our sales. However, with my sudden termination, I’m facing a weekend without work. Without funds, I won’t be able to meet essential expenses.
   
2. Savings Depleted While I’ve managed to save a portion of my rent, other bills remain unpaid. Utilities, groceries, and childcare costs are pressing concerns. Without additional funds, I’m unable to maintain a stable living situation.
   
3. Health and Well-Being My health is suffering due to exhaustion. I had to call out of work because I was on the verge of collapsing. As a single mom with two kids, taking care of myself and my children is essential. However, financial stress exacerbates health issues. Access to funds would alleviate this burden.
   
4. Temporary Assistance I’m seeking help until I can get back on my feet. While I’m confident in my ability to recover, the immediate situation requires urgent support. I’ve poured my soul, time, and even my own money into the VFW post, and now I find myself sinking financially.
   

Conclusion In conclusion, funds are not just numbers in a bank account; they represent opportunities, security, and freedom. As I strive to overcome this challenging time, financial resources will be my compass, guiding me toward a brighter future. I’ll continue seeking support and exploring available resources to ensure stability for myself and my children.
Remember that you’re not alone, and there are people who care about your well-being. Keep your resilience strong, and I believe you’ll find a way through this difficult period. Thank you all for reading.
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Bonjour, je travaille dans une toute petite agence qui compte deux personnes: moi (f, qui occupe un poste junior) et mon ''patron'' (m, le senior de l'agence), (je mets "patron" entre " car je travaille en tant que freelance, pas salarié). Ça fait maintenant un peu plus de deux mois, et j'ai peur de ne pas supporter mon "patron".
En effet, cet homme est une personne que je qualifirais de "lourdingue". En moyenne, il lâche 50 blagues pas drôles par jour. Très vite, j'ai arrêté de réagir à ses blagues pas drôles parce que je n'ai tout simplement pas l'énergie, sauf que lui attend une réaction de ma part. Souvent il arrête de faire ce qu'il est entrain de faire et me fixe pour que je réagisse. Dites-vous qu'on travaille à deux (!) et ce qui rend très difficile de faire abstraction de son comportement.
Puis, je trouve qu'il fait du micromanagement, il vient plusieurs fois par jour regarder et juger ce que je fais, souvent il prend ma souris et commence à travaille à ma place (je le vois faire ça régulièrement avec les autres intervenants également), il commente la manière dont je travaille et m'explique que la sienne est meilleure (alors que personne n'a rien demandé et que ce n'est pas le cas), je dois lui lire les mails que j'envoie, quand je suis sur mon téléphone je sens qu'il m'observe, il commente souvent le fait que j'écoute beaucoup de musique (le fait de mettre un casque m'aide beaucoup à lui échapper un tout petit peu) etc etc etc
Puis, sachant que je travaille comme freelance, je trouve qu'il ne m'accorde pas du tout les bénéfices qui vont de soi avec ce genre de contrat, et ça m'énerve de devoir me battre pour tout alors que ça devrait venir de soi. Le mec il en tire pleins d'avantages en m'ayant en tant que freelance mais moi quand je travaille 2 jours de wfh il me lâche des "c'est quand même mieux que tu travailles sur place, c'est plus facile (UNIQUEMENT POUR TOI!)". De plus, il m'appelle "son assistante", alors que pour moi c'était très clair qu'on est un junior et un senior qui travaillent ensemble. Pas besoin d'utiliser des mots du 20e siècle.
Et n'oubliez pas aussi que je suis mal payé même après avoir négocié mon salaire de départ et il lâche des commentaires passif-aggressifs comme "Tu aimerais être mieux payé, bah il faut trouver des projets alors" (tout sur l'air de la blague bien sûr).
Tout ces petits points font que tout doucement je ne supporte plus cette personne. Et ce n'est loin d'être tout.
Le problème dans tout ça c'est que je n'arrive pas à éviter mon "patron". On travaille à deux, c'est à dire que pendant les pauses de midi je suis forcée de parler à lui, je n'arrive tout simplement pas à l'échapper. En effet, ça m'arrive souvent qu'il m'irrite à un point où je n'arrive même plus à le regarder dans les yeux (pour vous dire...). J'ai pas envie de sembler dramatique mais j'ai l'impression que ma santé mentale en prend un petit coup.
Je suis donc prenante de chaque conseil qui m'aidera à de prendre le distance par rapport à mon "patron" et à comment mener des relations de travails dans le monde professionnel avec des gens qui sont lourds, sachant que je travaille en tête à tête avec lui!!!!

I (f 30) am the youngest of two. My older sister (f 36) lives in the same state but a few hours away. She never came home after college because she was in a relationship. When we were younger she was a total mother's girlie girl and I was a daddy's girl. With that dynamic you can conclude that me and mom (f 55) weren't very close back then. When my sister went to college and it was just me and mom, we clashed all the time. I couldn't wait to go to college and be free. Unlike my sister, when i graduated from college I went back home and lived with my mom. While in school she found out she had cancer and I realized how important she was to me, during the summer I would take care of her. I became super protective because my dad (m 60) had died the second part of my freshman year. I guess realizing you only get one dad and mom did something to me and our relationship changed. Strangely, while in college I transformed into a girlie girl with all female roommates that treated me like a toy by dressing me up and taking me to parties. So, when I came home I started working right away. Had some messy relationships and crappy jobs, but my mom always supported me. From what I seen my mom and sister were still close, even with the distance. When Shawn would come home her and mom hung out, sometimes she would stay with us, sometimes not but they talked often. Note, I don't know if it was the age difference or what but me and my sister never got along. Somewhere in my 20's I realized that we were never going to be "those sisters" and called it for what it was. We are blood, but not friends, and I know if we weren't related we would never befriends on purpose. Don't get me wrong, I love her and if Shawn was hurt or in trouble I would help her but for now, for my mom's sake I talk to her on major holiday's and important family matters, but not to just catch up or anything. I honestly don't care. Sadly, if other family member didn't ask "how is your sister", I could probably go years without thinking about her. Anyways, it started off slow, like Shawn would come to town not stay with us, then she would come to town and not reach out until she was leaving, and then we wouldn't know she was in town at all unless she called my grandmother or posted something on social media in a familiar place. It was weird because they would always link up. Shawn loves mom's cooking and would come home just for that. Mom would go visit her and go to work events with Shawn, at the last one mom said they got into an argument because she was tired from driving 5 hours, going to the event without a nap and being on her feet all night. After the event mom just wanted to go back to Shawn's apartment and rest, but there was an after party she wanted to go to. Not wanted to go to the after party mom just wanted her to walk her back to the apartment and then Shawn could go. Shawn wanted mom to go with her and said they wouldn't be there long, but mom was tired. She was trying to convince her that she would only stay for 30 minutes, but we both know when Shawn is in a room she will talk to everyone and 30 minutes could turn into 3 hours real quick. When mom put her foot down and asked her to take her home Shawn got upset and started yelling "this is mom's side of the story", you never want to do anything, ugh, why can't you just have fun, ugh..... She said Shawn was just yelling her on the corner of the street while people were walking. Shawn stays in town where a lot of people walk and everything is close by. Then she agreed to walk mom back but walked super fast and mom couldn't keep up. She is shorter than me and my sister. When they got back, she let mom in, changed her shoes and went back out. When mom came home and told me what happened I was so confused. It isn't like them to argue. I guess you can say this was the beginning of the end. Shawn stopped calling her as often, went out of the country and said nothing about it until the day of. There were just a lot of things she was doing without communicating with mom, it came to a head when our phone plan bill went up 100's of dollars. See, the bill is in Shawn's name but mom pays the bill, well she use to until Shawn got an iPhone and added the cost of the phone to the bill. Mom and I have Samsung's. She did this without telling mom and because the bill was automated it took mom while to notice. When she did, she told Shawn to start paying the bill for the portion of the phone itself. She agreed but wouldn't pay it on times, there were times that my phone was off but didn't notice because I was always near wifi. Somewhere in the middle of this she got another iPhone and the bill went again. Shawn didn't know that just because she got another phone didn't mean she wouldn't have to pay off the other one. They went back and forth on the phone one day arguing, Shawn claiming she paid and mom asking her to go through the payment history and tell her where...... the arguing ended when she started yelling at mom, saying "you're triggering me, you're triggering me" my mom just stared into the phone in disbelief... We're black and raised in a very much black household so for those who know, know those are words that we just don't say..... Well that was last week and this past weekend was mothers day and Shawn didn't call mom.... We have a family group chat of about 23 people and she said it there but not directly to mom or sent a card or anything.... I asked her the Thursday before if she would be sending mom something on mother's because we usually work together to get her something or she send me money and I get her something and Shawn will send a card. But nothing. She didn't even call our grandmother.... I went to my boyfriends house after then mother's day dinner at my grandmother's house, where I stay most weekends and while there she called me. Mom calls when she says things are too much to text. bet she went home and found a package with a 15 pound weight in it and a note saying "I hope your mother's day brought you some joy",.... Um what??? I want someone to tell me why she picked this as a mother's day gift.... and just one ... one 15 pound weight, not a set. Mom works out but already has a set for 5,10,15, and 20 pounds weight that I know Shawn knows she has. Mom was really sad and she isn't the super emotional one of us 3, the emotional one is me. If there is one thing I hate is my mom feeling bad, but then for it to be caused by her own child was different. Shawn NEVER answers the phone like NEVER, I had to tell her our dad passed away via text after calling almost 100 times. Mom sounded like she wanted to cry and just kept asking me " Brit, what did I do wrong, I don't know what I did wrong". Dang, that broke me. Now I'm the bigger of the two of us, and my sister knows me well enough that she don't want these problems so instead for even calling I sent a long text, basically saying I was disappointed to call her my sister and she should be ashamed of how she is treating our mother because when she got fired and unemployment wasn't paying enough to cover her bill's mom paid. Shawn never paid her back. Over all she is one of the most selfish people I know. I just asked her how hard is it to say happy mother's day or send a card. I didn't expect a response, but she did, in only 15 minutes. She said " I appreciate your concern and believe me, this runs much deeper than a phone bill. I don't have the same relationship with mom as you. You only know what you experienced and what happened to you. So, I'm not going to try and explain the various dynamics between mom and I that led to where we are now. It maybe hard for you to understand today. Pls don't blame it all on me. I love you. " I don't even know what that means. I responded something like other than physical, emotional, or mental harm i don't know what could have happened so bad that she couldn't call and say happy mothers day though. I can't imagine my mom doing any of those things. but again she gave some therapy like response and asked me to give her time to heal.... Mom has no clue what various dynamics she is talking about. I'm asking for advice because I feel like she is going down the same path she did with our dad. After our parents marriage ended and we were living with dad, mom still came over 3 times a week and cooked, had us on weekends. It was like she never left the only difference was she didn't sleep at home. When the arrangement changed, dad came 2 weekends in a row. then every other weekend, then once a month, then we were lucky if we saw him at all. It broke my heart in high school when a boy in my class told me to tell my dad that he would be late for practice. I was confused and bugged him all day to explain what he meant. I found out that my dad was coaching baseball across the street from our subdivision about 3 times a week with games on the weekend. So, he could see random boys at my school almost everyday for at least 3 hours and couldn't come over before or after to see his own kids? I actual walked over to the park one day because I refused to believe it, but there he was. We never talked about it. I just started walking there and sitting in the dugout to be near him and he would drive me the 2 minutes back home. All of the players lived in our neighborhood and dad had a flat bed so he would drop them off too. When Shawn graduated high school she never talked to our dad again after that day. She never told me why. He also developed cancer while I was in college and was very sick, when he got better he tried to get back in our lives and I let him in mine, called him on holidays but he did some messed up stuff to me my first year of college so I pushed back a little between that dad would call me and tell me to call my sister on 3 way, if she answered she was forced to talk to him. She wouldn't say much and would always say she was busy or had to do something to do and promise she would call him back and never would. So, now .... as part of my trying to figure out what my mom did, I reminded her how she cried when she found out our dad passed and she just kept saying she thought she had more time and who would walk her down the ail when she gets married and never got a chance to fix things. I would hate for that to happen with our mom too. I know because of our relationship once mom passes away we will most likely not talk or see each other ever again. So, I asking what did my mom do to her? What can I do to help fix this or should I even try? Anyone have any suggestions or ideas, also sorry for the typos or misspelled words or if its hard to follow, but I ask for anyone's input if they have experience this type of situation? Side note, idk if this helps but when Shawn came to town the last few times she stayed with our Aunt Carla. She has baby of the family syndrome, where she thinks she had hard but was actually spoiled rotten and believes all her sisters and brother and their wives are jealous of her. It's total BS but once when mom and I weren't getting along and I stayed with her, she told me some crazy stories about mom sleeping around, getting drunk, trying to fight her and someone else and some other stuff. This was when I was in college and I believed what she said mom and I continued to be on the outs for awhile before I found out about her cancer and became her protector and caregiver for a while. I don't believe those stories so much now be her and mom had issues before, Carla has actually had issues with all her siblings at one point and finds the need to the the main character of her own story and everyone else's. Simply she's a "One Upper". Aunt Carla getting in Shawn's ear is one idea I believe, also Shawn's friend have ummmmm "other people problems" like mellow dramatic soap opera drama and she maybe internalizing their issues. But yeah help, where do I go from here?

This is a bit of a long one so buckle up. TLDR at the bottom.
My partner and I have been together for 7 years, have lived together for 3 years, and are engaged. In short, we absolutely adore each other, and we are not looking to break up over this. This whole post was written together. However, pretty much the only source of friction between us is household chores, and we feel like we’re going a bit mad. For a bit of background, I am diagnosed autistic with a PDA profile (relevant, I promise), and work as a PhD student, although I am currently taking compassionate leave. My partner works in IT. My mum has recently passed, leaving us to take in my disabled brother. I absolutely adored my mum, but she was a hoarder, around a level 3-4 on the hoarding scale and so I grew up in what were basically unsanitary conditions (cleaning out the house after she passed was not a fun task). In contrast, his mum is very hygienic, cleaning the house daily and deep cleaning regularly, and works part time, giving her time and energy to look after the house. She has her own tendencies towards clutter though, often bringing things home from charity shops, although usually for other people.
Our current situation: We have tried many different methods for divvying up household chores, but each one has failed for one reason or another.
His Perspective: “I feel like I do more than 50% of the current share of work, which I feel is unfair. I am willing to put myself through more stress in a day, which enables me to get more done. That’s my benchmark for what people are capable of when at home, and so that’s my standard for her. This currently translates to me doing the washing up and putting away dry dishes, straightening things out and preparing myself for the next day, having a shower, picking out clothes, making lunch etc. I also make mental notes of things that need doing that I can’t currently do, and ask her to do them the next day. If they don’t get done then I will do them at the weekend. I also keep track of things to do with her brother, e.g. what he needs to do to look after himself, what he needs to learn before it’s safe for him to live independently, and so on. I also make sure she looks after herself, as her mental health is not always the best, so I prompt her to take showers by asking when she last had one.” (My note: I absolutely do not go around being smelly outside the house, but I will admit that if I don’t leave the house for several days in a row then I will sometimes forget to shower.)
My perspective: I don’t feel like he does more than 55% of the work at most. Currently I do all the administrative overhead and managing bills for the house, all the cooking, shopping for food, making shopping lists for the week, and doing the meal plan for the week, although I do ask for input from both him and my brother so that I’m making food we all like to eat. In return he has sole charge of the washing up, because I absolutely hate it. The mix of too-hot water, soap, food grease, and food bits in the water makes my skin crawl. This does work well for us, but he sees this as 50-50 because he doesn’t like washing up either, just not as much as I do. However, I feel like this is more work in my favour, as cooking takes longer, as does shopping and planning. Tom also feels like I should pick up more chores during the day, such as laundry and generally keeping the house tidy. He doesn’t think that the time he has after work can be used efficiently to do chores (apart from washing up) every day, as laundry is better done in the morning so the clothes can dry outside, whereas I am currently on compassionate leave and therefore have the time during the day. He also has diagnosed depression and his mental health issues, so we both sometimes struggle to give our 100%. However I feel expecting me to do more during the day is unfair when we contribute to the household finances equally. He often reminds me to do things by messaging me in the morning when he’s at work, such as putting the laundry on, giving the bathroom or kitchen a clean, taking the bins out, etc. because he knows I won't otherwise be busy. I am also completely in charge of all the administration with my brother. I talk to social services, doctors, manage his money, I am helping him get a job and we are getting him ready to move into his own supported living. I love my brother but there is a lot of work that goes into looking after him.
Here is where the PDA comes in. I hate people telling me what to do. I can just about manage it with things like my PhD supervisor, and work bosses, but from people who I see as equal, e.g. my partner, it instantly puts me on the defensive and gets my back up. As soon as someone tells me to do something, all motivation to do that thing, even if I want to do it, or was going to do it, just disappears. To be clear, this is not something I particularly like about myself, and I do try really hard not to do it, but it’s a slow work in progress. My partner's prompting and reminding me to do things makes me feel like he doesn’t see me as capable, so I tend to dig my feet in. But then, whatever he wanted me to do doesn’t get done, and so from his POV he is justified in reminding me, because otherwise I wouldn’t do it. (I maintain that this isn’t true and he just needs to leave me to do my own thing, and I will get round to it in time. However, I will admit that I am inconsistent. I've lost a lot of people over the last 7 years, had a lot of uni stress, been diagnosed with autism, and also have depression on top of it all. I am currently in therapy and this is helping, but I can still be inconsistent with chores).
What we have tried: We sit down and talk about this pretty much every 6 months when we’ve hit a breaking point. When I say it is the only source of conflict in our relationship, it genuinely is aside from normal relationship spats. We’ve tried using a rota, so that one of us does a chore one week, and the other does the same chore next week. This failed because I would not always do the things on my rota (mostly the washing up), and so Tom would feel that I’m not doing my fair share, and he would stop putting effort in, leading to a vicious cycle. It was also difficult to track whose turn it was to do what. We’ve tried using an app called Sweepy, that monitors chores, how long it has been since a chore was done, offers reminders and visual stimulus on completion (bars going from red to green). This failed because we struggled to remember to use the app and it wasn't effective for him and the way he functions, the app was more for my benefit but it requires both people using it to be effective. He did give it a go, but felt like he was using it more than me and therefore stopped using it himself. We’ve tried what we call “picking things up as we see them”, this failed because he has low object permanence, and doesn't clock things that need doing when he's not in "tidy up mode" so I would get frustrated. We also notice different things and prioritise different things, leading to each feeling like we were doing more than the other, because they were doing more of the things they noticed. We’ve tried writing tasks/reminders on a blackboard. I liked this one when it worked because it took the demand out of a task, but for him it turned into part of the furniture and he would forget to use it or look at it.
Currently: He leaves me to do things during the week at my own pace, but he still gives regular reminders, and then if it's not done, he will A. Remind me B. Do it at the weekend C. Get annoyed (last resort) We also divvy up tasks differently, trying to focus on me taking on more mental load as I have more capacity for this during the week, e.g. meal planning, cooking, shopping lists, finances, etc. and him doing the washing up. My brother being here has actually helped as he takes on some of the chores as he learns to do them, e.g. hoovering, cleaning cat trays, his own laundry, etc. This is currently working the best, although there are still rubbing points. Mostly because I still don't like him telling me what to do, feel like he doesn't contribute as much during the week, and he feels like I don't contribute as much overall, and this won't necessarily work when I go back off compassionate leave, when we have kids, or when my brother moves out.
TLDR; We need to find a way to divvy up household responsibilities in a way that feels fair to both, doesn't rely on him telling me what to do (or helps me to deal with this), and is sustainable for life changes along the way. There have been aspects of each thing that we’ve tried that has worked, but none of them have been perfect for us, and we don’t know how to combine them in a way that does work for us.

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The notice of GME having 45m shares ready to sell, even if their cash on hand is good for now, established a sort of cycle in my mind that I foresee happening...
• GME price eventually goes up
The volume this week wasn't mostly retail. Some big needed to reposition themselves. The end result is volatility, which is a perfect opportunity where...
• GameStop sells shares for cash
Simple enough. GameStop wants cash, so they execute the afformentioned plan. More shares with no immediate change in the underlying business means...
• GME price goes down
Typical reaction. More shares means more shareholder equity to spread around. Not to mention shorts now have grounds to short again. But wait, what's that? What are they doing with their cash since there's no bonds to pay? Well...
• GME takes action
My hot take you didn't ask for? Unless a new console has been released, their sales will continue down or remain flat. We can keep posting those buys at GameStop, but the masses usually have their peripherals and games they want prior to a new console launch. So, raise additional cash unless you're putting it to work? Asset purchase, dividend, share buyback, or something else. Ever since seeing the OCC tagging GME as a holding company, my mind took the Berkshire Hathaway route. I see GameStop as a holding company well down the road with their fingers (or fist) in many other business ventures through M&As or strategic partnerships. The S-3ASR filing from Friday reenforces this idea. Throw in the Consolidated Audit Trail (CAT) requirements and there are entities out there that need to locate real shares fairly quickly to prove they have what they say they hold. Regardless, there's added value to the shareholder equity with added assets and controlled liabilities. Therefore...
• GME price eventually goes up
The acquisition or returns to shareholders means assets increase. If assets increase without a huge hit to liabilities, then shareholder value must increase (assets = liabilities + shareholder equity). The board has opted to forgo salary, and costs appear more or less under control with the cash on hand. To continue parking cash in T-Bills for a 5% return to me is in poor form, so the cash must move. Otherwise, why raise it at this point? Even the short shart at Wedbush (Patcher) raised his "price target" from $5.60 to $7. He increased it 25%. It's a far cry from where it should be, but even he had to move the goal posts. That still leaves hundreds of millions of shares still short in an unwinnable position that must now wait for the next trip to get out, or limit their infinite risk.
The point? This is an infinite money glitch. Shorts never intend to close, and have been unable or unwilling to do so over the past decade. GameStop is in no dire position that collapse is imminent. So, as a result, price volatility as short positions shuffle around their positions. This is a perfect time to sell shares during a run (not all 45m in one go, but a few), watch the price come down, do something amazing, and which the price organically climb once more based on fundamentals rather than the big players trying to stay alive one more day. This charade can continue until shorts capitulate or collapse, or a greater action is taken by the GameStop Board to set the enterprise on a new and more prosperous course.
tl;dr - if you believe in the company & the idea shorts can't effectively close, then relax and enjoy the ride