Quotes to ex boyfriends

This is a really tough one, so please try not to judge. I know that what I did was wrong and I’m not trying to make any excuses. Here is goes:
I’ve had a rough few weeks lately. A little over a week ago my boyfriend of almost 8 1/2 years broke up with me. He had gone through my phone after I gave him the password earlier in the day while I was sleeping and found out I had been cheating on him. I’m not sure what all he went through on my phone but I know he saw my messages where I was flirting with a few other men including a guy he know that I told him not to worry about. I haven’t actually done anything with these guys just let them flirt with me and talk me up, sent a few nudes and soaked up the compliments. I know. Terrible. I’m not sure how much background I should give but my now ex boyfriend (M 22) and me (F 22) have been having issues since about our 7 year mark. Nothing crazy but I started getting the itch and feeling curious about being with others and going out but he is a homebody and doesn’t drink or anything. We talked things out and went to therapy and tried to make things work. I told him to start going to the gym and working on himself (he has depression pretty bad) or we would have to separate for the best. He started working on things but then he ended up in the hospital because our school was concerned and advised him to seek medical help for worry of suicide. I was by his side the whole time and had to miss school and work the next day. He then told me he wasn’t working on himself for him but for me and he in fact wasn’t truly working on himself at all just putting on a happy face and hiding it from me. I stopped talking to any guys during this time to focus on him. And we started doing really good the sex started getting better and we were happy again. He has always not trusted me and has been very insecure. He’s shorter than me and is below average in size and has said he’s insecure about it although it never bothered me. He showed up up at school late one night having a panic attack about me cheating on him (I wasn’t at this time and had never done it before, absolutely nothing i was extremely committed and monogamous) and it really hurt me that no matter what I did. He didn’t trust me. I couldn’t make any guy friends or go anywhere. I felt trapped. Also important to mention that one of my biggest problems wasn’t the sex or anything it was that I was practically his mom. I did his taxes, any and all paperwork, planned all the dates and financed them, I did his fafsa’s, his school paperwork, applications, resumes, and a lot of his homework. I wrote several essays he didn’t start until finals week and got him the grade he needed to pass the class. He was skipping classes and work and not telling me. He was also failing classes as well. What’s terrible about this is that I was using my unused loan money to pay for his school (under the expectation I’d get it back when he got a job) I tried so hard to help him with school and it barely got him by. So at this point he owes me over 20,000 most of which in loans I have to pay back. And has to complete 2 final courses to get his diploma by the end of the summer or he’ll have to come back. He hasn’t gotten a job yet (we work very limited hours at our school getting paid once a month at minimum wage) despite having been “looking” for the last 6 months (he’s an IT major). Anyways, fast forward to the night before he broke up with me: He went to my brother talked about it , called my best friend talk to her about it, didn’t sleep all night and waited until later in the day to break up with me while I was at work. He didn’t want discuss anything and we haven’t talked about any of it since. After I admitted I was feeling like Kms he went to my family and told them a lot of details. It really pissed me off and now my best friend won’t talk to me, which makes things a lot worse. Yes, to add one more important detail he has had a very easy life has been coddled and taken care of, and hasn’t had any tragedy in his life. I’ve been through a lot and on top of dealing with his depression. I have to deal with my brother and dad’s depression. Where I’m constantly talking my dad off the ledge and trying to keep him together and employed so he doesn’t lose the house. im emotionally and physically exhausted and I’ve had to be the mom to my brother dad and boyfriend for years. I was balancing this and full-time student and worker so I barely had enough time to focus on my own mental health and problems and never properly got to deal with my mom who committed suicide a little over a year ago in my old room. This isn’t meant to be a sad story and I don’t want anyone to feel bad for me but it kind of feels like I’ve been through a lot and had no one there for me where now he’s the victim because I fucked up.
I want to hear opinions and maybe advice on my situation to help me navigate my future and not lose all hope?

Am I in the wrong for being mad at my ex bsf for hugging my boyfriend’s mom aka her ex’s mom? I khloe 16 year old female am currently in a relationship (1 week 😭) and the guy im dating we will call him Donovan, Donovan just got out of a relationship with a girl who we will call Kamila , in which they have lasted about 9 months or so and just for background information they broke up because Kamila had cheated on Donovan with a close friend who we will call Andy and this had happened at a field trip in which Donovan wasn’t there nor was I but you know word goes around and supposedly Kamila and Andy were flirting by holding hands, hand feeding each other and sleeping on each other’s shoulders. Anyways back to my point, about 6 days in the relationship Donovan has a concert and I want to support him so I stay after school to watch him prepare and practice before the actual thing and on that same day there is an art show in which Kamila is in and so she also stayed after school so I saw her time to time as she kept coming to the auditorium looking checking for something, and for context Kamila and me used to be friends but we sorta distanced not ending on bad terms but I knew she didn’t like me now because I was dating her ex in which I knew that she had liked him but I didn’t care because he really treated me right and it was a really good beginning relationship. Anyways, I was in charge of keeping the doors open for parents coming into the auditorium to see the performance and time to time I would see Kamila and she would just be searching for someone then a couple of minutes later I see her with her mom and so I suspect she was maybe looking for her mom but then later on yet I see her again searching for someone so at this point im confused if she wants to just keep seeing me or something because she has no reason to be near the auditorium when the art show is on the whole other side of the school but then in front of me a lady comes in front of the auditorium and so Kamila goes up to the woman and makes conversation with this woman then right in front of me they hug and not only one hug Kamila continuously goes back for hugs and so later the woman goes into the auditorium to find a seat , later on then guess who that woman was. It was yet revealed to me that woman she was all over and wouldn’t stop pestering was Donovans mom! So now im thinking like what the hell isn’t that weird to be hugging your ex’s mom if your not over him yet and are literally beefing with his current girlfriend (one sided beef at this point) so now im standing there biting the side of my cheek frustrated to not go slap tf out of her but yet i’m glad I didn’t cus there wouldn’t have been no point because if she wants to be weird then she can be weird on her own time but she really needs to learn boundaries! Am I in the wrong for being mad at Kamila for that?

My boyfriends best friend told me a secret and I don’t know what to make of it
Hello everyone, this is my first post so please bear with me. I (F27) started dated my wonderful boyfriend (M27) almost a year now and we have been „officially“ together since September and the relationship is going great. Yesterday I was at his house and he left for a while for some errands and I was left alone with his best friend John (M27). We started chatting and he accidentally let it slip that my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend Marina (F26) (they were together for 7 years and broke up in November or December 2022) asked him to get back together last fall, to which my boyfriend instantly rejected her and she apparently had a hard time for a few months after that. This was apparently even before we were officially together and she didn’t know he had a girlfriend. I promised I won’t tell my boyfriend an that was it. However, I still keep thinking about it. I trust my boyfriend and I am sure he didn’t do anything which is not the point of the post, but I feel like I would like to hear the story from him because his friend has the reputation to sometimes exaggerate things and my boyfriend told me when I met the best friend to take everything he said with a pinch of salt. It also feels wrong to me to keep this from my boyfriend as we are a team, but I don’t want to cause any trouble between him and his friend. Also, even though I trust him, I struggle with a lot of anxiety and insecurity and I would love to have reassurance from him, especially since he is still friends with the group they are both in as they are hus childhood friends. (But she lives somewhere else and he doesn’t see her all the time and has no contact with her) Anyways, I know it seems like no problem and I should be jumping up and down for joy but it means a lot to me to be able to tell him everything. Would I be the a-hole if I talked to him about it?

Hello everyone, this is my first post so please bear with me. I (F27) started dated my wonderful boyfriend (M27) almost a year now and we have been „officially“ together since September and the relationship is going great. Yesterday I was at his house and he left for a while for some errands and I was left alone with his best friend John (M27). We started chatting and he accidentally let it slip that my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend Marina (F26) (they were together for 7 years and broke up in November or December 2022) asked him to get back together last fall, to which my boyfriend instantly rejected her and she apparently had a hard time for a few months after that. This was apparently even before we were officially together and she didn’t know he had a girlfriend. I promised I won’t tell my boyfriend an that was it. However, I still keep thinking about it. I trust my boyfriend and I am sure he didn’t do anything which is not the point of the post, but I feel like I would like to hear the story from him because his friend has the reputation to sometimes exaggerate things and my boyfriend told me when I met the best friend to take everything he said with a pinch of salt. It also feels wrong to me to keep this from my boyfriend as we are a team, but I don’t want to cause any trouble between him and his friend. Also, even though I trust him, I struggle with a lot of anxiety and insecurity and I would love to have reassurance from him, especially since he is still friends with the group they are both in as they are hus childhood friends. (But she lives somewhere else and he doesn’t see her all the time and has no contact with her) Anyways, I know it seems like no problem and I should be jumping up and down for joy but it means a lot to me to be able to tell him everything. Should I talk to him about it or not? And if yes, how? Thanks

There is SO much through those horrible 11 years. But the last 2.5 have truly been the hardest, mostly because I am just EXHAUSTED to the point....I don't even usually bother fighting against a single thing/become comfortable as the door matt.
What did me in, is he owes my grandmother $3k for HIS HALF of unpaid debt to her. They are currently (under my dumb stupid blessing) are letting him rent what is my family's home they are leaving to me when they die for a whooping $600 a month. S I X HUNDRED. 3br 1bth huge fenced back and front yard. 3 porches. Huge attached garage. $600.......
He knew it was only a 6 month agreement. And that either I would be retaking my home, or the rent would be raised to $1000, as i would be taking $600 of it monthly and planned to use it towards a rental of my own. (My family and i truly helped him willingly, so he at least had 6 months to get on his feet.) I on the other hand, was fortunate enough to have my recently divorced bff of 25 years with an open room in her home, badabingbadaboom.
Truthfully, I was basically forced out of my house before I had a say. It wasn't my first choice to leave every bit if furniture/my daughter's bedroom set/ect...THAT I ALONE have purchased throughout the years, to my floppy meatsuit of an ex manchild who's idea of "hard labor" is mowing a lawn..but it was my ONLY choice. (That's another story for another day, lol. This one's long enough)
Anyways the 6 months is up, and it had come time to go forward with what was already previously understood as to happen...I should have seen it coming, given that he suddenly started to attempt far more communication (our child being his perfect excuse to disguise what was really going on....
.....and then THIS MF-ER...MAN.... My grandmother tells me on my way out after stopping by for breakfast, that my ex had told her unless they lower the rent for him, he won't pay the 3k debt from TWO years ago now (he promised as soon as he got his tax return, he would pay it) but now he'd need it to find another rental property......this 33 year old man....telling this to My sweet and kind grandmother, who is the a matriarch to my family mind you, she has basically RAISED this 33 year old brat since his infanthood (since he was 22 years old!). ~His parents were 2.5 hours away, his dad is an attorney in some podunk hillbilly town, and his mom is all the worst parts of the gossipy church women put together. They only cared about his younger sister and her two children, lol. So.~
I was floored. I told her something along the lines of "uhhhh I'm pretty sure that's a form of extortion????"
Anyways. I slept on it, and woke up to choosing violence. By violence, I mean I messaged the only thing I knew he "CARED" about, at least for now, until there's nothing for him to gain. I just wanted to make sure he knew where i stood really, and how careful he should tread with me now after hearing that.
...this girl was the other former bff of MY bff. She HATED me for at least a decade. "Frienmies" if yiu will. I had been told SEVERAL times around 6 years ago (ish) that she told our mutual bestie how she was going to "fuck my boyfriend, and get him to leave me. That he was her dream guy" LOFL ...and had witnessed/heard her myself FLIRT with him heavy and totally disrespectfully in front of me. Up until the day they boinked in secret, this girl followed all my social accounts religiously for allll these years....
You can imagine, I had some STUFF I was dying to let out, but I will say, I refrained from being an absolute c-word. I basically in the most passive aggressive tone, EXPOSED what my exs current game was with my family home and the mistreatment of my grandparents.
I told her to ask about his stomach illness he faked so well, had me so SO sympathetic towards him that I asked if he would just instead making basically double pay for the summer months (school district employee) and not taking off....to take off, an I would just work ot graves or whatever extra I could/did...and then how the DAY BEFORE our child started 1st grade, he pulled the rug out from under by creating a literally pointless 4 hours screaming match.....and leaving me, the house, the dogs, and the bills high and dry. No tummy ache to ever come about again...
Or how he had a disguised app with nudes and texts from women he cheated on me with or had fucked when we were in a slump/split. And how she's also in it.
And to ask the father of the year what his 7 year olds doctors name was...we used her since the 2day infant visit lol.
Or to ask him who's been the provider for our child's education since 3 years of age. Her insurance. Dental. Ect. (Hint: it's not him).
I asked her to ask him why he told me that she "owned her own home and was so independent and worked so hard to be where she is now" as a means to rub salt in my wounds while he forced me out if my/OUR old home in the worst mental depression I'd ever dealt with.....when that is not true because she cheated on her husband with multiple men while he was deployed and lost her Marital home in divorce. She lives with her parents and two younger brothers.
Why he was still.texting me and sending me his unsolicited or answered selfies to me.
I wrapped it up with my point of the information being that for my exs sake, I pleaded she encouraged him to don"the right thing".
I mean....I knew he was putting on a dog and pony show for her from day 1. He's a fraud, I learned that over and over. He will lie/manipulative/step on whatever and whoever without a care in the world, all while making whoever they choose to feel as if they're to blame if any sort of conflicts or grievance against them rose.
So I knew in my exes false reality he was painting for this chick was no doubt of how amazing a father he is, and how shitty of a parent and person I am in turn....
side note: ffs he even lowered his own vocal tone forcefully when j met him 11 yrs ago to disguise his godawful nasal screach
WITHIN 10 DAYS. NOT EVEN 2 WEEKS Of me sending her all this...
First text - him asking for our childs doctor's information for the first time in 5 years. Evidently they had a sore throat in the middle of the night. (Mmmmok)
4 days later - he is asking if we could discuss getting her needed dental work finished up as we've put it off for a while (he literally never cared the first phase lol)
That same day - he is pandering sympathy and attention because he's suddenly having stomach attacks again and he's got a colonoscopy scheduled and blahblahblahhhhhh.
I mean....literally the list of the shit I exposed directly goes on and on.....and he made sure to cover up each one down the line. Like. If that isn't "master manipulation".....what is? There has got to be a word for this oh so insanely predictable behavior lol.
Certainly. I'd hope the chick truly SEES what is happening? That the dude is literally whether subconsciously/uncontrollably covering up his actions because he knows deep down, what was done was wrong all around...or just creating and perfecting his own stage right before our eyes? Lol RIGHT?!
I just have to laugh at it all now. It's just a RL sitcom of disaster at this point. 😑

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• The parents of NewJeans members were also confirmed to have submitted petitions for the injunction hearing. They did so via a lawyer, which sparked speculation they were preparing legal action against HYBE, but the lawyer clarified he only assisted with submitting the petitions. (Source: Edaily Starin)
  
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For years I wanted to get away, a few times I had but he would reach back out and pull me back in. I was so angry and hurry the last six months we were together. At the same time it did kind of seem like he was trying to be better. I'm not sure if that's the trauma bond taking or if he really was trying.
He got arrested for throwing something at me hard enough to leave a mark and threatening my dogs. This wasn't the first time he got physical with me.
I was scared it would escalate if I stayed. When he called me from jail I didn't know if I could believe anything he told me. He asked me to help get him out but I couldn't bring myself to do it even if I appreciated him calling me.
The first month was extremely difficult, I was not emotionally stable or sane. I got myself three therapist so I could have a session every other day because of how bad it was. After the first month one therapist told me I was beyond her skill set and knowledge to help but she felt for me. I such with my other two for another two months with therapy twice a week. I'm down to once because the other kept asking "what can I help you with", but he did help in the beginning we just got past the point where I needed knowledge not emotional support anymore. My remaining therapist is wonderful and I try to see him twice a week but I have a long way to go to break the trauma bond.
I'm not angry or scared anymore, I'm just left with an intense longing for my ex. I miss him every day and it sucks he is just off my rout to work. I look at that street every day, twice a day, and think about how close he is and how I wish I could see him. This is also an area I'm in often to see friends or eat. Then there is where he works at an auto shop, which is also just off the highways I take often. I never imagine having him arrested and charged would have been so painful. I regret it so much and I wish I had insisted the police leave instead of letting them talk to him. I would take all the abuse again just so I don't have to deal with this pain, I don't even want to live anymore (my friend is keeping me safe). I've never had a issue cutting people off so I don't understand why I'm so strongly attached to him after all the abuse. Even when I recount all the horrible things he did and said to me or watch the videos, I want him back. I keep wanting to reach out but he blocked me for ruining his life.
It's affected my work, memory, information processing, self-care, and checking. I have piles of laundry everywhere and no clothes for work that's clean. I didn't shower often anymore or brush my teeth. I read the some sentences a few times over and still don't understand. I can hardly remember anything from the day before most days. I'm just going to turn in my affidavit so I can walk away from all of this.
I hate what he did to me. I regret letting the cops come in. I hate that I feel like I ruined his life - I never wanted to be responsible for ruining someone's life. I had no idea this was going to negatively affect me this much, I regret it. I miss him.... I hate that I miss him, he was horrible to me.... I wish he would talk to me or hug me. It doesn't have to be now but I want him back.

I dated my ex when I was 16 and he was 15. He and I were friends for about 8 months before we progressed to something more. We were together for about a month and a half. I broke up with him because we were very incompatible and he made my already emotionally drained teenage self spiral. He wasn’t necessarily toxic, just kind of devoid of affection for the most part, never paid for dates, was a bit greedy with most things, and all in all he was a literal stone emotionally. I couldn’t care less about him or his life. However I just made a LinkedIn account and my college is a satellite college for a main campus which the main campus is where he attends. I also happened to find what school he attends because someone thought it would be interesting to tell me when I literally never asked. Because his school is a satellite school I thought I would look him up to see if he had an account with LinkedIn, just out of curiosity. I ended up looking through the account and I just felt annoyed through it all. So I blocked him. I don’t have anything against him, he is just someone I don’t want in my life anymore. I’m in a happy, and healthy relationship and I love my man so so much I’ll go crazy. However, I feel like I committed a huge sin by searching up my ex. What should I do about this? Should I tell my boyfriend or would telling him harm our relationship? Is this a big deal? I never want my boyfriend to feel like he isn’t the only man I love and cherish. I already feel so awful for doing it in the first place.
TLDR: I looked up my ex on LinkedIn, even though I’m in a very happy relationship and couldn’t care less about him I just did it out of curiosity. What should I do when I feel guilty?

Me 20F and my boyfriend 22M started talking in November of last year and started dating this year. My boyfriend and his ex are on good terms and he says he still considers her a friend. In December they were catching up and she told him she was talking to a certain guy that he didn’t like. He went on to be upset about it because it was the guy that he had suspicions about going after his ex while they were together. Keep in mind this is the guy who he didn’t want her to be with when they broke up. In the beginning of the relationship I knew they were in contact every now and again but I thought it ended at a certain point. Fast forward I found out they continued to keep in contact and catch up on the phone. I of course get upset about it though because regardless of ending on good terms there shouldn’t be any reason to keep up with your ex. They stopped talking on the phone for a bit while she was talking to a guy, but recently it has been her texting or trying to say hello when they see each other out. I’ve been expressing to him that I don’t like him talking to her for various reasons. They sometimes see each other at the gym and one day they caught up again after not speaking in a couple months and she trauma dumped on him. One time She texted him trying to talk or ask questions about things and I told him he needs to stop entertaining it. After the last time she texted him, I was really mad and he started to make dry conversation and she just tried to keep the conversation going. She hasn’t texted him in a while but she try to catch up with him whenever she sees him at the gym and he entertains it, it gets really frustrating dealing with it. I make snarky comments about her and get mad because she has friends and she can express her feelings and talk about things to her friends and not her ex. I get called jealous and sometimes rude for making these comments but I don’t feel like I am rude because it’s the truth. I know he’s not trying to talk to her and not putting effort into communicating with her I just don’t like that he allows it to happen at all. Am I the asshole for making these comments when my boyfriend’s ex keeps trying to talk to him?

My (33f) boyfriend (33m) was with his ex for 5 years, and they broke up about a month before I met him. Recently for his birthday, we celebrated by spending the day out together. When we got home, we found a gift on his doorstep. It was from his ex. He didn’t expect it. They broke up in good terms and I was ok with them being still friends. But I found this surprise gift weird. It was hand delivered and she does not even live that close. It also had a card with hearts drawn on the envelope. But my bf said the card doesn not contain anything overstepping (I didn’t read the card). Is that ok for her to do? He messaged her to thank her but asked her to tell him before she comes next time, because I didnt appreciate the unannounced visit. She got upset and said I should be thankful that people care about my boyfriend, and not to worry because she will not get him anything ever again. Am I wrong to be upset about her? Should I be worried?

I feel really weird posting this but im losing hope honestly i dont know what to do and im so scared, i know the Lord and i trust Him with every fiber of my being. I just feel like i am fighting a battle i cant win. I am 17, since as far as i remember something has always been happening in my life. When i was 16 i was still but also not really in a relationship with my manipulative ex (he would ghost me) and then i started working and met who im currently going through a breakup with. But during i was naive and stupid and a man older than me took advantage of me. I dont know if anyone will even read this. But anyways, he found out recently and it was on and off of a break or just a break up. We never made it official because i always said i wasnt ready bc of my ex. But we both messed that up. And now, he went and told my mom everything when i had told him not to because i will. And she is a lil bit unforgiving and stubborn. He recorded our conversation when we were at his house. And i know his intentions were pure but his execution was horrible. Not to mention my "best friend" at the same time is telling him how horrible i am and that he needs to leave me and she even said she would take whatever he forgets to give me when he drops it off at my house. I just feel so alone. Those are the only people i really had in my life. Mom, best friend, and unofficial official ish boyfriend. Im here crying in bed so lost and scared. He doesnt know if we will have a future together and i understand. I just cant even like i dont even know what to think im so 🥲 i dont know bruh. I just need prayer and i thought maybe reddit would be there more for me than getting dissapointed by someone or people who dont care. I need prayers, for understanding, maybe clarity, for me and the break up guys future, because he is hubby material. Even though im mad and hes mad too. and maybe having God there for me, being so present that i dont need to run to someone for it during this horrible time. 🩷 anything would be appreciated i am at a loss here.

From Christmas gatherings to birthday wishes and Mother’s Day greetings it all makes me (21M) uncomfortable when it comes from a 32 year-old texting his 22 year old ex-girlfriend and her relatives.
Her younger brother (16M) recently called to wish him a happy birthday.
From what I understand about their relationship, my girlfriend (22F) first met him when she was 15 and he was 24 before they started to date when she turned 17 and they eventually moved in together when she turned 18 and graduated high school. Her family saw little to no issue with the age gap and the fact that a grown man had been having sex with a high school girl. She told me she lived with him for 4 years while he proceeded to cheat on her, abuse her, and live off of her before she moved back to our area.
Unfortunately, I hadn’t realized the proximity of their breakup to our first meeting. For example, it turned out that the dog they shared for that time had only been put down a couple of week before us meeting and, although she had broken up with him months earlier, she had continued to visit him and vice-versa in order to see the dog still. Her parents are not the most emotionally available people as well and her brother who is now 16 has had this pedophile as an influence in his life for the better part of 5 years now.
I started to feel uneasy about his connection to the family when we had only been dating a month and Christmas came around. She’d been working on Christmas Eve and the day of so I hadn’t invited her to my family gatherings but she had then mentioned to me that her younger brother asked to have her ex over for their Christmas celebration. So, she ended up cooking dinner and having him over, I felt that it was not my place to tell this family how to celebrate their holiday and didn’t want to be an overbearing and controlling partner. I above all wish she would have asked me about everything rather than telling me about it.
There’s been other instances of his influence rearing its head in our relationship as well but recently I had really put this negativity behind me. I felt me and her brother building a bond recently when I showed him some auto maintenance but I couldn’t help but still feel obsolete,unnecessary, and ultimately disgusted when I hear that her brother still wants to/feels the need to call a pedophilic child-grooming, woman abuser for a happy birthday message.
I’d raised this issue with her before and she has ceased contact with him and asking me what else I feel can be done about it. She explains that he had indeed been apart of his life for most of his formative years and he did not view him in the same way that I had due to the relationship they had so she also respects the connection that they have regardless of whether or not they’re dating and the fact that he’s never acted inappropriately around the younger brother.
I’m just not sure how to curve my reaction or if there is anything that can be done to change the situation. This truly feels like the woman I love and I think a lot of this “jealousy” comes down to me wanting to live my life with this woman free from anything that brings stress into her world but the constant reminder of a pedophile wanes on me as he continues to consistently have an impact on the people around her.
TL;DR My girlfriend’s younger brother recently called her child-grooming ex to wish him a happy birthday and it brings back feelings of inadequacy regarding my ability to be the one to provide.

I have been dating with my ex for 4 months. Even though it was not that long, we had so many memories together. He was my first boyfriend after becoming 18 so I have done many things with him for the first time.
He was such a good person. He was kind, caring and nice. I could feel that he loved me a lot. The problem between us was me. I wasn’t honest and sometimes acted like an asshole. But at one moment, I realised that this relationship was wrong and I should not hurt him.
I told him to break up. I still love him but I know I can’t hurt my beloved like this so I let him go. He deserves much better than me.
But my heart feels like it’s so broken. I feel like I can’t date with any other person. I still love him and want him to stay with me but at the same time I know this relationship will not work and I will keep hurting him. I blocked him on every social media so that I don’t contact him when I get drunk and deleted all photos of him.
People might say that time is medicine but I don’t think time will solve mine. So heartbreaking. He seems like he’s okay and I’m happy with this but I’m so painful. I might be getting my karma back.

Fell asleep last night with my boyfriend of a year and a half.
I had the strangest dream that I was dating my ex-boyfriend from 3 years ago, who was a total a-hole and I had caught on Tinder. In the dream however I was the one going on Tinder. Had a looming thought the entire time that I was forgetting about something and shouldn’t have been swiping, when I finally realized that there had been someone else after him.
But I couldn’t for the life of me remember my current bf - his name, his face, or the entire last year and a half I spent with him. To the dream me, he didn’t exist.
I racked my brain so hard in the dream that it woke up me and I had to literally look at the person who I was sleeping next to remember who I was with. For that split second before looking at him I’m still not sure I knew who he was.
I wanted to tell him about it but what a slap in the face that would be to hear your girlfriend completely forgot about you.
Has anyone ever had a dream like that that resets your brain to a point in history almost as if you don’t have any of the new knowledge or memories you’ve gained since that point in time? It was the first time that’s happened to me and felt extremely disorienting.

So some background... my boyfriend and I just graduated college. We've been together for three years. He is from the UK and is going to grad school while I moved back home to the US for a gap year to work before grad school. He wants to get married after we both finish off grad school (in three years) and live in the UK together. He's ready to settle down soon and get an apartment and start a family. He's a really good person and an amazing boyfriend but I don't think I feel the same way he does anymore. I don't want to settle down so soon. I want to travel. Meet new people. Have some more adventures. I've felt this way for a while now. Almost a year.
I did something very shitty recently. I went to Miami with some friends when I got back to the US and I met a guy at a club. I didn't cheat on my boyfriend but I really enjoyed talking to this man. He asked me what languages I knew. I said I spoke English, Spanish, and a little Italian. (Background: my boyfriend's family is Italian and he taught me some of it). When he asked how I learned Italian, I said "my ex was Italian" because I did not want this man to stop talking to me. It felt so natural in that moment.
I feel like I missed out on some college experiences and I might have some FOMO but I still deeply care about my boyfriend. He's my best friend and I don't want to hurt him. I'm just not sure if I love in a romantic way anymore. I don't know what to do now. How can I understand my feelings?
TLDR: He wants to settle down and commit long term but I’m not sure I even want to be with him anymore and I don’t know how to understand my feelings.

So, may ex boyfriend ako na na meet ko dito sa Pinas. Pumunta siya sa dito sa Pinas to study and naging kami. May mga extra money ako before kasi mejo malaki yung offer ng previous job ko so whenever nagkakaroon ng problems yung ex ko with pera, I let him borrow it. He tells me na babayaran naman daw niya. Pero umuwi na siya ng country nya, di parin niya ako binabayaran. Tapos he blocked me sa socmed accounts nya 3 months after umuwi siya sa kanila.
Naghingi ako ng advise ng common friend namin na taga same country nya (na ayaw din sa kanya). Nag advise siya na mag chat ako sa family and friends ni ex, current fiance nya that time at family nya. I chatted each of them once and just waited kung sino ang magrereply. I told them that I am his ex and that he owes me more then ₱100,000. Sent screenshot for proof. Then nagreply na siya sakin na against the law daw na binigyan ko sila ng screenshots without his permission.
Now, the fiance blames me kung bakit sila naghiwalay. I think pinapahiwalay siya ng fam niya - but i am not sure. May times na tumatawag siya at 2-4AM just to shout at me and keeps telling me na she will sue me for harassing yung pamilya nya. Di ko nman sila chinachat. Once lang.
Also, sabi ni fiance na may nudes daw siya sakin and she kinda threatened me na ikakalat nya daw and send to my family. I never sent nudes to my ex so probably he took then without my permission.
So I have these following questions: 1. May legal way pa ba na makuha ko yung pera ko na nasa ibang country sha and a citizen dun? 2. Am I being against the law for sending the screenshots without his permissions? 3. May basis ba si ex fiance na mag demanda for harassment? 4. If ever they do kalat my nudes, can i sue them?
I really hope may makakasagot. Thank you po in advance.

I’ll try to keep it as short as possible.
Basically, 2 years ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years because we weren’t compatible anymore + he was emotionally abusive since the beginning. We started dating when we were 16, went to school together for 8 years (so naturally most of our older friends now each other), then went to different universities in the same city.
At first year of uni, I met a girl that quickly became a very good friend to me. We spent every day together. My ex and her met only once, I introduced them to each other briefly, neither of them was very interested in the other one (my ex said she doesn’t seem very smart lol, friend said they didn’t have anything in common). When me and my ex broke up, he was very heartbroken. Told me he never wants to see me again etc. Mind you we had almost all friends in common except from uni friends..
I respected his wish and stopped coming to most planned trips and parties with our friend group to make it bit easier for him. 3 weeks after our break up I found out he slept with the said best friend after a concert where they numbed into each other.
My best friend didn’t even tell me so we met up to discuss it. She said she is sorry and that it felt like he just did it to upset me because he is still visibly in love with me. She said she won’t see him again if it makes me uncomfortable and I said it does (especially with him hurting me basically our entire relationship). Friend said okay and then proceeds to go on dates with him.
I texted her about it, and she started justifying it, saying things like: actually now I think he does like me and apparently she was telling him they can’t meet up anymore but he was very persuasive. That was kinda it for me, I told her it’s her decision but for the sake of my mental health, I don’t want to be friends with her anymore. It’s her business who she dates but I can’t pretend I’m not hurt by this.
I should probably mention I started seeing someone too at that time but it wasn’t ANYONE from his friends obviously.
Fast forward to today. They are still together. Everything would be obviously so much easier if I didn’t go to university with the former best friend. Now I can’t escape seeing them together because if I hang out with uni friends, they are there, if I hang out with high school friends, they are there as well. Most of my friends agreed it was fucked up in the beginning but now everyone talks to them like nothing happened. My uni programme is very small (around 20 people) so it’s been very difficult for me. I’ve tried and tried to get over it but I just cannot. It’s bothering me that someone who was supposed to be my good friend betrayed me like this for someone like him.
My university experience has been quite shit because of this. I’m finishing my degree in couple of weeks and can’t wait to go somewhere else to stop seeing them.
I often don’t come to neither uni nor former high school events because it hurts seeing them together. My friends keep telling me that she was never a good friend if she did something like this, so I dodged a bullet there, but it still hurts!
I’m not sure how to get over this. I don’t have any feelings for my ex but I can’t get over my “best friend” doing this to me. I’ve been in a happy relationship for 1,5 years now but I still think about them almost every day because I keep seeing them all the time!!
Has anyone been in a similar situation and has any advice on how to overcome this? Am I overreacting? I’ve tried therapy but seriously nothing works for me.
Edit: I haven’t talked to the friend since it happened, we ignore each other at school but I know she was really upset as well because I was literally her only friend
Edit2: some examples of difficult situations I’ve dealt with since it happened.
1.my parents gave my ex a sweather for Christmas many years ago. Then my ex friend shows up at school wearing the sweather which I think is strange and it just reminds me of the situation. 2. Me and ex friend swapped some clothes before it happened so now she wears some stuff he has given to me when we were dating while she dates him 🤡. There are many little things like this that keep reminding me and I hate it!
Tl:dr - ex boyfriend and best friend have been dating for 2 years and I can’t let it go

They're all having a freakout over a 19 year old woman dating a 15 year old (and they're still dating) on X. Some little hag saved screenshots from a friend that supposedly indict her friend for knowingly dating a 15 year old at 19 and come to find out, these two people are still dating. Thousands of zoomers are quote tweeting this and having little conniption fits.
I had a 17 year old boyfriend (very briefly) when I was 13 and no one thought he was a pedophile lmao. My dad hated him and put an end to it, but I am astonished that so many young people deploy the term pedophile or even attempt to call the cops when two teenagers are dating.

My girlfriend and I were dating for about 9 months. she was my everything, she supported me, she
always wanted to know what I was doing and she truly cared for me. I also truly care for her. I love
her. and I pushed that all away.
A few months ago I was considering breaking up with her for some time with myself because my uncle
had just passed away. i pushed her away when she tried to help me, and I honestly hate myself for
that. we broke up for a day or two when it suddenly hit me that I missed her, so I called her up asking
her to forgive me. she reluctantly said yes but only if I never do something like that ever again. I
promised I wouldn't...
We got into an argument about a week ago and it was not a very nice one. I told her I didn't love her
anymore, which is obviously not true. I'm still not sure why I said that. Anyways, she and I decided to
break up mutually, and we thought this time it was the end. I especially did because she didn't care as
much afterwards and I knew I had hurt her. Im ashamed.
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Everything was fine, I was sad, sure, but I was starting to talk to new people, I guess as a cope.
Yesterday at about 8PM I was compelled to login to her snap and see what was going on because I
was very bored. I had her snap credentials forever, since we started dating, and so I fired it up and the
anguish I felt was unimaginable. She had told another guy she loved him, and how they wanted to
fuck and all that. "So soon? maybe its a cope?" I thought. But it wasn't just any guy, it was her insane
manipulative ex boyfriend. he is possibly the most manipulative person Ive met in a while, he can
spin any situation into one where he reassures you and comforts you and relates to you... its honestly
terrifying. I broke down and called her because I loved her and I needed her, and she sat there while I
broke tf down and cried and cried and cried, a feeling in my chest so painful I don't even know how to
describe it. I finally understood how she felt, how much she cared about me, it hit me like a train. she
loved me. but I'm not sure if she does anymore. we had a long conversation about it today and she
said she isn't sure she can forgive me. Hell, if someone made me feel this way I wouldn't forgive them
either. I don't know what I should do, because she said she still loves me, but she also loves him. She
said we can see about things in a month, and to give her time. I guess what hurts the most is that I
read every single thing she said after saying he was just a friend and I shouldn't worry about him
Can I fix this situation at all, or is it too late and I should just never allow myself to fall in love again?

I’ve (19M) known my best friend (19F) for 4 years and last year we graduated high school together. I had about 2 relationships while friends with her and she’s had 1, and neither of us has been romantically involved with someone else since 2022.
Our experiences with love have been less than stellar as I didn’t think I’d find myself crying over people who didn’t care about me in the slightest. After my first relationship ended, she was there for me and that period was when our connection really blossomed into a once in a lifetime deal. We talked to each other everyday and after my second relationship, I’d traditionally walk to classes with her too as she had joined a choir class I was in. In a nutshell, she’s like a gender-swapped clone of me with a few small differences. You can probably tell how much fun that is to experience. Needless to say, second relationship went bad and she surprisingly defended me from my ex who insisted on breaking my no-contact rule.
As the months passed on though, I could tell there was definitely something special about her and would sometimes entertain the idea of us being together but didn’t want to sacrifice what we had so I let it be, especially since she made it clear that friends were all we were during my trip to Boston. We had our little moments but it was never anything to act on or question too deeply.
Fast forward to 2024 and it’s getting to that point where I’m not sure if best friends are all we are or all we will be. We’ve had conversations of moving countries, cities, and living together in an apartment, having a dog together, traveling around the world, and being pretty much obsessed with each other’s presence. Even with how unrealistic some of our plans are, there’s still that element of always being somewhere together. She sends me photos of where she goes and what clothes she’s wearing, tells me every moment of her day, and confides her more unpleasant feelings with me. My exes would always take out their anger on me but she shares her pain with me. Not too recently, she FaceTimed me because she was having cramps and had to walk home alone so she wanted company. She even looks for affirmation from me as she always loves when I call her my partner or agree to something where she doesn’t exactly need me there but badly wants me to be.
I’ve also found myself just admiring her beauty and can’t focus on any other woman but her. I’d honestly pick her over anybody and have dodged opportunities to entertain other people just because my heart is so attached to her. Even my dreams have reflected that. Her beauty isn’t the only thing as I’m deeply invested in knowing everything that goes through that mind of hers and what she wants to talk about. I’ve never felt that way before.
My best friend is also a very busy person as she goes to college and always says sorry whenever she’s gone for too long. If she’s going to bed or if our conversation is rarely restarting, she’ll say that she loves me and goodnight or she’ll tell me good morning. It’s more affection than what most people would expect. There’s this whole conversation over being platonic with opposite genders which I understand is possible as I have female friends anyway but still, I believe her and I have gone past that threshold.
So even though I know we claim to be only friends, it feels as though we’re already operating as a married couple who lives together, only digitally as we’re long distance. I even happen to know what wedding ring she wants as it needs to be engraved with a timestamp from When Harry Met Sally for this quote:
“I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
Right now, she’s in Brazil on a study abroad trip for about another week or so. When she gets back, it’ll be the first time I’ve seen her in-person since last year. A part of me believes I’m crazy for thinking she feels the same way and another part is dying to tell her everything I feel. Regardless, there’s this voice in my head telling me I’ll know once I see her.

I’ll start off by saying I don’t know if im insecure because my ex used to cheat on me. but I feel see like my current boyfriend isn’t treating me right. (We’ve been dating for 11 months now) when we first started dating I had a look on his phone and he messaged other girls to have sexual interactions with while me and him were seeing eachother. then it went to some girl at the gym he knew he had matched with on tinder (she was hot he says) he looked her up on instagram chat to see if they had spoke on instagram? then his ex messaging him and he was entertaining it and deleted the messages. then he went to Bali for a boys trip. apparently some girl was trying to crack onto him and his friends had to remind him he had a partner. And last but not least. he told me he didn’t want to watch porn anymore because he felt guilty (I never told him to stop he said it) so I took his word, only to find out he still did it. He’s now stopped but he still looking at sexual girls on reddit, twitter and onlyfans. Because he’s “curious” I’ve tried to bring all of this up and he gets defensive and angry or flips it onto me. It makes me feel very poorly about myself especially when me and him have sex quite literally everyday. but he still needs to look at others. if we go out in public he always has a look at other girls. when he kept stuffing up I know I shouldn’t of but I stood on his level and would like guys photos so now he always flips that onto me. im 21. he’s 25. I’ve tried my hardest to make this relationship work but im the one that always feels like I can’t talk to him about this because he gets so angry and has tried to break up with me twice because of me sharing my emotions and I get angry and upset because he can’t seem to understand how this effects me. am I too sensitive?