I (26F) live with my bf (30M) in an apartment in a very expensive city. My friend (26F) and her BF (26M) are doing a Work and Holiday trip in the same city. They recently lost both of their jobs and have no place to stay, so I offered my second bedroom for a week, until they have to leave to do their farm work (something they already had decided, to extend their W&H visa. As soon as they moved in they started to not care for our home. They were cooking for themselves and not doing the dishes afterwards. Leaving the countertop and kitchen floor dirty and wet. Walking around with dirty shoes (eventho we are a shoes off household, and we provide slippers) coming back home at 3 am and making a mess. and some more other things.
Not to mention that they are leaving everything they own all over our apartment.
Context: we have a chill life during the week. My BF wakes up at 5 am for work so we try to go to bed at 10 or early if possible. On top of that, we are trying for a baby, and we want to keep our home quiet and enjoyable.
They were supposed to leave on Sunday. So we made plans on Monday (like a little date). On Saturday I overheard her talking on the phone to her mum saying that they were going to leave on Monday. Which (my mistake) I brushed off. On Sunday I messaged her asking if they wanted to do a little farewell dinner at home to which she responds with "Sure, but we are leaving on Tuesday". I didn't say anything (My bad, I need to work on my boundaries) but now my BF is angry cause they are overstaying without even asking.
On top of that, they always "joke" about how we never go out (when we do, just not like teenagers) calling us grandma and grandpa, and other things like that, which REALLY annoy my BF.
Any advice on this? I don't want to kick them out, specially cause I didn't say anything about staying till Tues. But Should I say something? Just wait till Tues and leave it at that? Ofc, Will say something if they intend to stay longer.

I (33F) dating (31M) for over two years now. We have up and downs during the whole relationship but we get through it. I am in a residency training which is an intense training and involves longs hours; usually 12 hours shift 6days/week. We only see each other once a week or sometime once every 2 weeks. Recently I am in night-shift rotation. Due to abrupt change in sleep schedule and work related stress, I got into a lot of arguments with my bf. Every week we have a tiny arguments here and there. Two days ago my bf told me that he is not as excited to see me as before. We have two arguments in one day the weekend before but we talked things out and solved immediately in the same day. But i sensed that he seems not happy around me these days so I called him, explained how I feel and pressed him so he finally admitted that he is not excited or looking forward the weekend we spend time together anymore. He said Weekends usually involves long hours drive nearly an hour or more drive from his place to mine, and going to groceries with me is not funs for him. He said it’s hard for him to concentrate and listen to my work related issues which he doesn’t care much about, but he let me vent because it helps me relieve stress. Also since English is not my primary language, I usually go through a long story about the issue which hard for him to concentrate to the point since he has ADHD. he said he understood the amount of stress i am going through, and he doesn’t want me to change anything but this is how he truly feels. He said he mean it when he told me he is happy to help me with groceries shopping which help me prepare for the whole week meal plan, but just not funs for him. He said he has to be very careful around me not to make me upset since I’m under a lot of pressure and stress already. I asked him what do you think about our relationship, will this be working out between us? He said he thought about this before, the thought of not being with me make him upset and it will be very hard for him to not see me anymore. That’s why he wants to continue to keep trying. After a long conversation he said everything is fine, he think it is just a phase/time period that he feel excited to see a person vs not as much excited to see a person. But I can’t shake this feeling off my chest. I don’t know what to do or how to proceed with this relationship. Am I too much? Am I in wrong ? What should I do?

I (M28) met this girl at a bar (F21) asked her number and went on date, I think the date went good she responded saying she had a good time. She is extremely pretty and I feel like I was definitely reaching slightly above my scale and I feel like maybe she didn’t completely fall for me but it’s definitely a little early to judge. After our date we texted back and forth about things we talked but conversation naturally stopped. Later I texted her asking if she wanted to do something the following weekend. It took about a day for her to respond saying she is busy but if I “want” and “care” we can do something the following week. (Basically now it’s like a 24 hours pause between messages and I don’t nag her, just wait until she responds to respond back). She mentioned I didn’t pay attention when she told me she had plans for that weekend (joking about it) so I responded saying something along the lines that she was cute and I probably lost track of what she said in the moment. I definitely remember her mentioning “plans” but its was to hang out with her friends and go to church. Anyways I feel like maybe she wants out and she just doesn’t have in her heart to say it (she seemed very sweet and caring). I had other dates when I could clearly tell when a girl liked me, but they were a bit older, and it was easier to tell intentions.
I guess my question: am I overthinking this situation? Are there noticeable signs she wants out? Or do I ask her out again next week?
TLDR: went on a date, slow to text back, busy next weekend, should I try or it’s a lost cause.

Hello, I am writing a Pokemon fanfic and I am likely putting way too much behind it, but hey, Gotta love the storytelling hobby.
Pokemon Urban Black is a cyberpunk semi-realism take on Pokemon as a concept overall. The book has mature themes (not NSFW but certainly an older age range) and asks several questions about the nature of a pokemon world.
Anyway, I'm looking for a few voice actors who can help with snippets from the story. There will be no full-fledged chapter reading and even the most prominent roles will have snippets that last less than 1:30, if that.
This is a fun fan project. I am paying but I am not making profits off this. Below I am going to list roles from most to least prominent, along with two lines you can read if you so choose (not required before contact). Please let me know what roles you're considering when you reach out.
The one's that say "Pokemon" in parenthesis are characters from the actual games/manga/anime that you can look up.
Trevor Black
Black male, 23-years-old, smooth urban voice, AAVE swag. Semi-sarcastic. He's a hacker that gets himself caught up in some shady business with criminals, by accident.
"Nah, what do you think, Frenchie?"
"Yeah. You right. But it's not him I care about. The shame is all that money he's leaving on the table. He probably spent his life building that up, and for what?"
Godlove Benjamin
Black male, 49-years-old, deep commanding urban voice. Sometimes Sarcastic, Everything he says puts you on edge. Main Villain of Pokemon Urban Black. Mob boss of a gang called Pressure.
"Yeah, that's it. You came to me all excited and shit cuz you caught that lil Sandshrew"
Teanna Black
Black female, Age 19-45-ish as story progresses. Natural voice, weathered by life but optimistic. Teanna is Trevor's mother but we will be hearing her voice from audio journal recordings that range from when she's 19 on.
"My name is Teanna. Teanna Black. I'm 19 years old about 5'6", brown eyes. Very cute. You know. You know. But \ahem* really. I'm doing this because my mom always told me to and I never did."*
Amber Renee Carter
Black Female, Age 24, confident, sweet, encouraging. Renee is the 8th ranked Pokemon Master in the world and famous for it. She starts dating Trevor near the beginning of the story.
"Okay 'Trev'... how about I take your number, instead?"
Frenchie
Black Female, Age 24, sassy, sarcastic, slight (very slight) southern twang, AAVE Swag. Trevor's best friend. A "keeping it real" type of personality.
"Please Trev, like you give a damn about what happens to some rich CEO"
"Yes! Do you know how powerful a Mudkip can be?! and it's sooo cuuuuute."
James (Pokemon)
White male, 34-years-old, (NOT like show voice), Suave, smooth, velvety voice. Apathatic, confident swag. James is second only two Giovanni in Pokemon training capability. One of the strongest trainers in the story. (Jessie is in the story too, but she is already cast)
"Just... James"
"Ah yes, and the world was reminded of what the word 'Legendary' truly means."
Guzma (Pokemon)
White Male, 42-years-old, Sarcastic, kind of gruff, but playful voice. Laid back, carefree. Guzma is the leader of the "Skull" gang, but... despite being a career criminal he's not exactly a bad guy.
"Kid's too soft. I'm doing his ass a favor."
"Eh, well you know what they say... polished shit is still shit."
Plumeria (Pokemon)
White female, 26-years-old, Quiet, reserved, can be stern, but typically calm. Plumeria is second in command of the "Skull" gang.
"N's a good kid,"
"We'll be violating the family ground laws."
Cyrus (Pokemon)
White male, 56-years-old, Collected, pensive, wise. Leader of the Galactic Game, once a reputable science organization gone bad.
"It was certainly possible. You know it was. The science was sound. Even the magic aspects checked out. You were just afraid,"
Ryme (Pokemon)
Black Female, 74-years-old, Somewhat raspy voice, but commanding, and collected. She's the godmother of the underworld crime families.
"This meeting has been called to clear up these confusions so that we can avoid any unnecessary mistakes in judgment." Her eyes again found Jessie. "You have the table."
Brock (Pokemon)
Black Male, 48-years-old, Street hardened, heavy voice, no-nosense. perpetually angry but always keeping it under wraps. Far different from Brock in the series, he's had serious trauma and he's looking for revenge.
"That Sandshrew... where'd you find it?"
If anyone has any questions feel free to simply reach out to me. There will likely be other required voices but as of now these are all I have. Thank you!

what if there was a dumb guy
and the dumb guy was really, really profoundly dumb
what if he was so dumb he spent all day every day all his life pooping himself and playing with his poop
what if he spent so long pooping himself and playing with the poop that he pooped
so very very long pooping himself and then playing with the poop that he accumulated that magic malcolm gladwell 10,000 hours, and then still way even more hours than that, under his belt, of self pooping experience
and in the course of playing with his own poop the dumb guy learned to make intricate and baroquely ornamental poop sculptures from the poop
like some kind of a poop savant
and sometimes the dumb guy tries to show the poop sculptures to people because they're so beautiful and ornate
but everyone runs away. because no matter how exquisitely formed all of the poop is it is just too disgustingly smelly
but one day someone with with a little curiosity and a strong stomach strays a tad closer to the dumb guy than most do
and that someone is perceptive and sensitive enough to notice that there may just be something special here about these poop sculptures, that the dumb guy may well have something to give, if only his poop didn't stink so bad
so the someone takes a deep breath, puts a clothes peg on their nose, and says Yes i would love to look at your poop sculptures tell me all about them
and the dumb guy is overjoyed beyond words. he is swept away with ecstasy at his undreamt fortune. a non-dumb person who doesn't play with their own poop wants to talk to him and be his friend and be interested in the poop sculpting together
the someone, in their turn, is graduallly captivated and charmed at the dumb poop guy's endless passion and enthusiasm and willingness to share it. they even think things to themselves "i wish i loved anything as much as this dumb guy loves playing with his own poop"
but the peg stays on their nose, of course
the someone also knows the pain the dumb pooping guy feels from his isolation. the someone thinks it isn't fair. the someone wants to fix it. the someone wants to help.
so the someone goes to the art supply store (they cannot take their dumb friend there, obviously) and at their own expense they purchase a smorgasbord of workable material: polymer clay, beeswax, silicone resin, salt dough and more, in all the colors of the rainbow
and with extremely tactful and diplomatic grace, they carefully broach the possibility of the dumb guy exploring different mediums to display his sculpture skills in
specifically, odorless ones
well, the dumb guy is intrigued. he is a bit confuzzled about why exactly anyone would want to make sculptures out of anything aside from one's own poop; but the someone is his best friend now, and if it makes the someone happy for some reason he's right on board
the dumb guy launches himself into his new task with gusto. it's heavy going at first, and there are some false starts; the consistency of the odorless clay is not quite the same as that of his poop, and he can't quite make it do the same things. compared with his poop sculptures, the new pieces are honestly quite mediocre.
but the someone tells him they're wonderful and he should be proud of them. over and over. and even in his profound regardation he can tell something is changing with them. he doesn't know why, but the more time he spends on making the bland and indifferent clay sculptures, and the less time he spends masterpieces out of poop, the happier they seem and the more time they want to spend together
one day, the someone even takes the peg off of their nose. by now, the dumb guy barely smells of poop at all
they come up with a suggestion: it's time to open the doors and introduce the world to the newly clean guy, whom in the absence of any poop stink it is questionable to even call dumb anymore. an grand exhibition, open to one and all, of the plain old guy's normal-smelling masterpieces in various plastic media
it's a little scary but it's exciting too. the guy is so grateful to the someone for helping him and putting the time in when no one else would. that long standing ache in his heart is almost gone. privately, he has absolutely no idea why the someone thinks his new stuff is so incredible; but he still wants to show his friend, and the world in general, gratitude and beauty by making the best pieces he ever can
so while the someone is busy with all the invitations and arrangements, the guy plans a suite of last minute adjustments and reornamentations so his gallery will be as stunning as it can possibly be
and he gets down to it
yes he gets down to it
on the day of the grand exhibition, a crowd has formed outside the grand hall. there is an anticipatory hubbub in the air. the someone proudly cuts the ribbon and throws open the doors
and their noses are powerfully assaulted by a tidal wave of stench. the stench of pure poop.
all of the mediocre and uninspired clay sculptures have been transformed into rancidly putrid masterpieces, by the addition of intricated and delicately sculpted layers of the dumb guy's poop. poop is his best medium, and the public deserves better than mere clay
in the middle of it all is he, squatposed, smeared even more deeply with poop and being more gross and dumb than he ever was before
in that moment the someone's heart breaks and shatters into one krillion seventy eight kajillion brillion tiny little bits. and with no words, no words at all, not even the cries of horror and disgust emanating from the rest of the crowd, they leave and run far far away and never come near the dumb guy ever again
and the dumb guy doesn't understand. he has no idea what he did wrong. no matter how much he thinks, it just doesn't occur to him that poop smells bad and people don't like it
because he is too dumb
grieving the loss of this deep friendship is an extremely painful and lonely process for him but he manages to make it and bounce back, by the sole means of - you guessed it - pooping and playing with his poop and making even more wonderfully accomplished poop sculptures
after all, the only possible reason everyone ran away from the exhibition must be that his poop sculpting skills weren't up to par. that's gotta be it. gotta spend more time poopsculpting. poopsculpting, poop grinding for the rest of his life. one day he'll make it. one day it'll all go right. just gotta keep pooping.
so yeah what if all of that happened

I 28/F have been with my partner 28/M for 12 going on 13 years. He’s my only REAL relationship experience as we got together when we were 15/16. I came from a very troubled household so in a lot of ways he has been my savior growing up. However in 2021 things started to get difficult, I put it on myself because both of my parents had passed away that year and I was in a very dark place. I started drinking a lot and stopped taking of myself (taking my medications) and I ended up pregnant. I knew I was very emotional and going through some things so I tried my hardest not to be clingy but he just stopped caring, I remember begging him to not to leave me in the house big,pregnant and depressed but it never worked. After we had the baby, I found out that he was distant cause he had cheated and once again I made excuse cause I knew my pregnancy was difficult, and I was very sick as well as grieving, I just felt like I wasn’t a good partner so I attempted to forgive(really I was so alone, just lost all the family I had and the one I built with the man I loved was crumbling before my eyes, I just wanted things to stay the same) . So fast forward a year and things are still rocky. We argued 2 months ago and he let me know that he has another child (basically he has been cheating the whole 12 years and has decided that he knows he wants us now) I tried to explain how that’s such a big betrayal of trust, and literally broke my heart but somehow I was told that I was being selfish and him having a baby just out in the world doesn’t effect me. Now he has involved family who are telling me I’m being selfish for wanting to leave. ( I should mention that at the start of 2021 we moved across country and I do not have any friends or family at all) maybe I am being selfish but it’s impossible to believe he could love me. Now it feels like he’s begging me to check back in to the relationship but I can’t look at him without being disgusted. Am I wrong for planning to leave?
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TLDR After 12 years with my partner he told me he had a child sometime during our relationship but that’s all. Now he’s calling me selfish because I told him it changes everything.

My wife comes from a blended family where she splits major holidays between both parents (ex. Christmas, Thanksgiving) although neither parent lives in the same city. She is the youngest of her father’s kids. Her older sister has an unhealthy relationship with her. It's a mixture of attachment/bullying in my opinion. A major part of the relationship is my wife being her “little sister” although they are less than a year apart.
Every holiday her sister blows her up badgering her on when she will get to her dad’s. Although the routine has been the same the entirety of our relationship. We start at her mom’s and eventually migrate to her dad’s in the second half of the day. This past thanksgiving at her dad’s was a potluck format for which my wife was responsible for getting the drinks. Knowing she splits the holidays she tasked another family member also responsible for drinks to get enough for which she paid her. Like clockwork on the morning of thanksgiving her sister starts her routine and my wife told her more or less “I took care of the drinks but I expected this either way”. Fast forward to our arrival at her dad’s and her sister did not say a word to either one of us for the duration of our stay which was overnight and well into the following day. They did not speak for months as my wife had finally decided to stand up for herself as she had done nothing wrong.
Her sister has a birthday tripped planned in the summer that started the planning process well before thanksgiving. Around March she started weaseling her way back in with my wife as though nothing happened. We attended an event in support of another family member which her sister also attended in March. Her sister proceeded to continue to not speak to me but did converse with my wife.
Fast forward to yesterday in which we attended a birthday dinner for my wife’s step mom and her sister’s trend of not speaking to me continued. Today at brunch I let my wife know that I don’t intend to be around her dad’s side of the family in the near future as the disrespect had finally gotten to me. I had to drop the conversation because I knew it was one we could not continue without her crying which she had started to do.
I’m at a loss because asking your spouse to stand-up for you when you have done nothing wrong doesn’t seem like a tall ask. That said my wife doesn’t do well with conflict so the easier route for her would be me swallowing my feelings. I don’t let my own sisters disrespect me in this manner so it is becoming tough on me because it is exhausting wearing the mask out of love for my wife.

Cultivating a list of "must-know" things for a successful life before 18 is a noble pursuit, but there's no one-size-fits-all answer. Success can look different for each person depending on their values, goals, and circumstances. However, there are some key areas and skills that can build a strong foundation for navigating life after 18:
Personal skills:

1. Self-awareness: Understanding your strengths, weaknesses, values, and passions.
2. Resilience: Developing coping mechanisms and bouncing back from challenges.
3. Critical thinking: Analyzing information, forming independent opinions, and problem-solving effectively.
4. Effective communication: Expressing yourself clearly, actively listening, and building positive relationships.
5. Time management: Organizing tasks, prioritizing, and meeting deadlines effectively.
6. Financial literacy: Budgeting, saving, understanding debt, and responsible credit use.
7. Healthy habits: Maintaining physical and mental well-being through exercise, good diet, and quality sleep.
8. Emotional intelligence: Recognizing and managing emotions in yourself and others.
9. Adaptability and flexibility: Embracing change and learning new things throughout your life.
10. Empathy and compassion: Understanding and caring about the feelings and experiences of others.

Practical skills:

1. Basic cooking and home maintenance: Learning to cook simple meals and take care of your living space.
2. First aid and CPR: Knowing how to respond to emergencies.
3. Technology skills: Utilizing technology effectively for communication, research, and learning.
4. Driving, car care, and basic bike maintenance: Understanding traffic rules and safe driving practices.
5. Basic sewing and DIY skills: Fixing clothes, mending furniture, and doing simple repairs.
6. Research and information literacy: Evaluating sources and finding reliable information.
7. Public speaking and presenting: Being comfortable speaking in front of others.
8. Networking and interpersonal skills: Building and maintaining relationships with peers and mentors.
9. Time management and organizational skills: Planning and prioritizing effectively.
10. Learning a new language: Expanding your communication abilities and cultural understanding.

Career & Life Planning:

1. Career exploration and goal setting: Understanding your interests and setting realistic career goals.
2. Resume writing and interview skills: Presenting yourself effectively for job opportunities.
3. Researching and applying for colleges or vocational programs: Making informed decisions about your education.
4. Understanding basic legal contracts and documents: Knowing your rights and responsibilities.
5. Civic engagement and voting rights: Participating in your community and understanding the democratic process.
6. Environmental awareness and sustainability: Learning to live responsibly and protect the planet.
7. Digital citizenship and cyber safety: Protecting your online identity and using technology responsibly.
8. Understanding personal rights and responsibilities: Knowing your legal rights and how to advocate for yourself.
9. Building a support network: Identifying and relying on trusted friends, family, and mentors.
10. Volunteering and community service: Giving back to your community and making a difference.

Remember:

• This is not an exhaustive list, and the importance of each item will vary depending on individual circumstances.
• Encourage curiosity and exploration over rote memorization.
• Foster critical thinking and the ability to adapt to changing situations.
• Promote a growth mindset and the willingness to learn from mistakes.
• Emphasize self-discovery and pursuing passions in life.

Ultimately, helping young people develop these skills and cultivate a sense of agency will empower them to build their own definitions of success and navigate life after 18 with confidence and resilience.

Hi, I’m very new to Reddit and have questions, I’m 16 years old and am having a LOT of trouble with my mom. I had a complicated childhood with her and we never really bonded, she was focussed on working and growing her business (she quit teaching to become a chef) and I was just not what she wanted (I was planned) my dad was my primary caregiver and I adore him. I would get in trouble often for loosing or misplacing things often, one thing I remember clearly when I was 6 or 7 I had an American girl doll, my mom thought I lost it and had yelled at me while I was in the shower, I remember being terrified and shaking, I looked all around the house and still couldn’t find it. So, she threw my doll shoes and clothes at me shouting “why’d I buy you for this, why’d I buy you that” . She left for work and then acted like nothing happened, the doll was at my neighbours house.
The throwing things at me never happened again at that scale, but leaving things around the house when she was in a bad mood would lead them to be thrown at the door and pilled out side my room. I have ADHD so keeping track of things is really difficult and she always gets mad when I borrow something and forget where I put it (I understand that it’s really difficult for some people to not have everything orderly) but I feel like her reactions are always a bit harsh.
Sometimes she’s the best, she’s happy and funny, she tells me how much she loved me, and sometimes she’s mean and the flip can switch as fast as me not remembering to return her eyeliner to the makeup bag THAT WE SHARE. She has now separated all of the makeup leaving her with all the nice makeup and me with the scraps (which is fine, I can make any makeup look good). All she cares about is her self, she’s mean to my dad and doesn’t let him go out with friends and play soccer, I’m allowed to do whatever but she loves to remind us that she does all the work, which is not true, my dad does everything for her and her business. I know she’s unhappy and wishes that she could have been rich and not have to work but she forgets that we are people too.
I love my mom so much but I’m just so tired of silent treatments and being yelled at and then expected for everything to go back to normal after she gets over it. So is it abuse or am I crazy?
Sorry for such a word vomit, I’m just tired and cannot wait to move out.

This is a long one and the details are important to the situation so a TLDR can not possibly do it just but is required for this sub, please read the whole thing if you plan to give advice. Thank you.
TLDR: I’m into a semi-coworker and can’t tell if she’s flirting or being cordial and polite, need help navigating the situation.
I’m (32M) a real estate agent and a few months ago I went into an open house and met a lovely agent (31F) from another company. (Because of the nature of how real estate works, agents know other local people within the field possibly more so than in any other business. Two accountants at two different car companies probably will never cross paths, but two real estate agents at two separate firms almost certainly will, so this is an ever se slight “shitting where you eat” situation. Anyway.) We chit chat a bit and part ways. This happens a few more times until the third time I make a joke off a particular situation that was happening and she started dying of laughter (this was about 2 months ago). I friend requested her on instagram later that day and messaged her a continuation of the joke. We haven’t messaged much but we have liked a few of each other’s posts here and there and we’ve seen each other a few more times for work between then and now, having some banter each time.
Recently (about 10 days ago) I was at an open house she was sitting and when I walked in we greeted each other and she went for a hug. Not one of those polite one arm hugs you give to an acquaintance or that aunt you don’t like, a full double arm wrap around hug. We chit chat and she does it again as I’m leaving. I see her again about a week ago and she does the same thing. We’re chatting a bit and I think of a movie I wanted to recommend to her but couldn’t think of the name but said I would text it to her. A few hours later I go to text her and realize I don’t have her number. I message her on Instagram instead and say “this is the movie I was talking about earlier. I was gonna text you but apparently I don’t have your number.” She responsds “Ahhh, I’m gonna have to watch it!” And then “lol it’s (number) in case you ever need”. I respond “I’ll have to think of a reason… maybe some more movie recs” as a cheeky light flirt. I text her a quick message saying “hey, here’s my number”. The next morning she thumbs up reacts to the text and then 10 minutes later she “likes” the Instagram message from the night before with the standard heart reaction when you like something on instagram.
What I am confused about now is if my light flirting was received well. In my head the like reactions feel cold but I might just be reading way too into it. What are some ways I can further test the waters?
I want to tread carefully with this, as no matter the outcome, we will have to see each other for work. Any advice and insight is greatly appreciated but please keep things positive.

Okay, from the "There's No Hate Like Christian Love" files, ... My ex-wife* has severe, progressive Multiple Sclerosis. Unlike the people in the ads on TV for MS meds, she's in the cohort where it has effectively left her permanently and completely disabled. She's currently in the hospital due to an MS flare-up. There's a woman and her kids walking around like chaplains and asked if she'd like her to pray with her. My ex-wife, who has never been religious, isn't feeling it so declines, but says she'd be happy to just talk. They proceed to have a relatively friendly discussion, and naturally the topic comes up about how she ended up in the hospital. As an otherwise healthy-looking mid-30's woman, it's a fair question, so she explains. The "chaplain" proceeds to ask her if she ever had kids.

• Sidenote: We did try to have kids, but she's got several other medical issues including a family history of needing fertility treatments to have kids, an ovarian disorder, and MS which the doctors advised she would have to quit the treatments for, should she become pregnant. The fact is, despite the fact that we tried, when she did go off the drugs for about two months to attempt the treatments, that is when she began the initial slide into permanent disability. Naturally, it's a touchy subject for all of us.
• Another sidenote: I'm also a veteran, and it was while in my military service we tried to have kids. However, despite a documented medical history that of four other women in her family that they only responded to a single, relatively expensive, "last resort" fertility treatment, TriCare insisted that we not do that until she had failed to conceive for six months on two of the others. That would have been a year of failed treatments while she was off her MS meds, and she began a permanent disability slide after just two months, at which point we stopped.

Anyways, during the conversation, this chaplain explains to her that she NEEDED to have kids, because "God blesses those who embrace His plan for them." My ex-wife was never one to mince words. Anyways, as of this writing, this event happened about two hours ago. Her sister (who also had the issue with the fertility treatments) called me to let me know that the hospital staff was trying to decide whether or not she could stay after tomorrow, but that "This was the first time that family had been yelled at by ANYBODY, let alone a patient!"
Can hospitals be sued for medical malpractice for allowing in volunteers who will harm their patients?
*We got divorced so that she can qualify for Medicaid. I make too much money to qualify for a state-run healthcare plan, and all the private insurance options refuse to actually provide the care that she needs because she's such an expensive case.

I(17, european) recently met my online best friend (also 17 from the same country) at his birthday party. I had taken a long bus ride so I didn't bring a lot of stuff but I took a bottle of liquor (limoncello) I was gifted for Christmas with me so I wouldn't arrive empty-handed.
As I left in a bit of a rush, I proceeded to forget my bottle. Since I was unaware of any problems regarding alcohol, I wasn't too stressed about it, so I just told him he'd give it back to me next time we saw one another since we'd planned to hang out after our respective exams.
A few days later he burst out apologizing for drinking from it a lot and we proceeded to talk about it more in depth, he described that he couldn't stop thinking about drinking more and that he constantly craved it's warmth. Since he's a minor he's obviously doing it alone and when his parents aren't looking. He also asked a handful of his friends who are legal adults (in my country you're supposed to be 18 to buy booze but it's not that tightly controlled) to buy him beer and other alcoholic beverages, because the bottle I was gifted was dear to me and he didn't want to finish it.
I'm generally pretty worried about him since his mental health is generally shitty, he also has an ED and he smokes (for which I can't judge him really, I have the same " bad habits" )
He seems to be aware and worried that there might be a problem, but neither me nor him are sure of how bad this actually is since I tend to downplay most problems and he's also a little bit in denial.
If it's as bad as I feel he might be however, he would be the first person I'd be trying to support with alcoholism and I have absolutely no idea how to do that and what to tell him. I'm usually pretty good at supporting others and very close to him, and I don't want him to feel like it causes a rift between us because even I can tell that it will only make it worse. Does anyone have any advice on how to help him, maybe tips on what not to say to him and things or check up on with?
Please forgive my sort of clumsy English, it ain't my first language and it's 2am but I'm pretty worried about him because I care for him

U/Yass_0w0Had Made a list of possible ways/reason's that Signora would be reseructed.
Some examples Moth/Butterfly themes, affiliated with new life throu transformation/rebirth.
Her having given up her physical form already ...
But me being me I have taken up to my self to dive a bit into his concept's ( I'm not obsessed nor unhingedly interested into genshin/fictional characters I just enjoy to theories and take a look on them , I'm an artist/sketch artist ( or at least that's what I am called by my friends and family) and I wish to one day work on designing games and characters and there Stories as my profession/side husel)
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Signora/her moth interrupting the reserection of another character; She could interrupt the reserection of the old Pyro Archon, Take over there body/place/title and thereby claim ownership of the gnosis but the new archon won't let that be but till she(Signora) is beaten she will have given the gnosis over to dottore/capitano/Columbian and would be left to die, which makes her join us.
Dottore will reserect her, as part of an experiment or as part of a trap(dottore is unhinged and cares little for life) which wouldn't make it surprising if he reseructed her just so she could be the bait to be killed by the archon/tribes of natlan while he follows his own Agenda taking gnosis and burning irmensul as seen in that one scene and revealed by one of the Devs to happen in the future.
Capitano(if he is the blood stained knight) resurrecting her; His respect for her and his former master ( her lover) would make him feel it kind of as a duty to bring her back or at least try so, but he will fai or not even tryl to bring la signora back, instead he will reseruct Rosalyne the gentle version (with maybe memory holes).
She gave her body up, but was it destroyed? We know that she nearly killed herself while transforming into CWoF for the first time. Her giving up her body does not mean she destroyed it, it could be somewhere in natlan hidden/protected by a temple or in the liquid fire she drank(I remember reading that there was the sea of liquid fire) where she could have dived into and emerged as a bodyless version of her self that uses elemental energy to manifest a physical form. Or since we know that she was an akademiya student she could have preserved her body somewhere by artificial means.
Cracky theory I'm a giant fan of both la signora and Sandrone, seeing as we have gotten a puppet character in an hoyo game already (Herta HSR) I wouldn't be surprised getting one in genshin(yes balladeer is a puppet of raiden but technically missing the puppet aesthetic) and while Herta is pretty basic in her design she was probably used to test the waters on how to give a character such depth in its design as to produce clear and authentic puppet aesthetic(especially with the hints of us getting a 5 star version of Herta later in the game),comming to the theory What if she will be ,,reserected" into one of sandrones puppets maybe even one in image of a younger(former version)of Rosalyn like the one on arlechino story trailer with less detailed/accessories like her crown/eye patch thingy. A factor for making me think that is that sandrone who was supposedly meant to appear in fountain never did so so her having little bit of influence even if not by showing up in natlan at all would be pretty expectable not to mention hoyo wouldn't be stupid enough to neglect the customer's/players wishes especially seeing as Hsr has become the companies mayn trademark and genshin has not been doing so well since Hsr released(yes arlechino banner was very successful but you have to take into account that 3 new characters are appearing in the next patch,all of which are very popular and are expected to do very very well in getting players to pay for gems, battle pass..., as well as it being suspected that 2 other fan favourites will appear the version after that(2.4).
She won't be reseructed at all (in natlan)she is dead and won't make a return untill shneznaya where we will face her casket/coffin in the palace and then the tsaritsa will reseruct her(having the all gnosis) just to pay her back for her devotion and her having been let go/relieved of her duty will make her join us (since all Archons will be playable we will join with the tsaritsa) and so Signora would join us by default.
I was writing this while it's late and I should be asleep so it's Very cracky but alas I'm just a humble Enjoyer of the fictional worlds and there characters who wishes to share laughter, knowledge, Opinions and all of the other shareable things I'm not able to think of. And this helps me get tired for sleep 😴 Thanks For reading have a lovely day/morning/noon/afternoon/night and over all have a peaceful day...

Hi there,
I just moved into a new apartment and it's not super clean(the freezer had some mildew spots, and some spills in the fridge, microwave, and stove) upon moving in. I don't care as I can clean it.
My lease has a mandatory cleaning fee upon moving out. I just feel it would be unfair to pay it if I am getting the place in the condition that it is in.
I was thinking of sending an email to my landlord or just take some videos or pictures and mentioning that when I move out. I am only planning to stay here for a year.
I met some neighbors here who told me the landlord is shady and will try not to return my deposit, so I was looking for some advice on how to protect myself from that happening.
Do you guys guys have any pointers or advice?
thank you

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years now things changed about 8-9 months ago when I moved into her parents house and became apart of their family. I pay for rent my own groceries from time to time when needed and have a full time job, our hope is eventually we can take over the mortgage as her parents plan on moving out of state.
I love my Gf she genuinely loves me and takes care of me more than anyone i know and she is a beautiful woman and she works very hard she also has a full time job.
I coach basketball in addition to my full time job and we threw a team party at a local pizza place and she attended. I love that she supports me and was willing to come I just couldn’t help but notice although the talk was about basketball my gf wasn’t involved talking to anyone mostly just on her phone and eventually asked me to go home after an hour or so. We talked about how it made me feel when we are in public we are a team and her non involvement in conversations with really anyone.
I felt disrespected because we have gone to an older coworkers house to help watch her animals and the two of them conversed about work and ranted but I stayed in the conversation regardless of my actual involvement of the situation.
A few days ago there was an event for my work in which we attended, she was very friendly to everyone as she always is and walked around with one of my coworkers, after that specific coworker left my GF basically just sat by herself even after i invited her into a “huddle” just us ranting about work. After a few minutes she basically left us and just wandered the park alone and once again just asked me to go home.
I love her and can totally understand where she comes from with us talking about specific topics that may not apply to her it just feels disrespectful to just walk away and not be apart of the conversation at all and just be wandering literally right next to us. I brought this to her attention and she informed me that she was just letting me talk and felt she didn’t bring anything to the conversation, while my coworkers were asking me if she was okay.
I guess I am just asking is me feeling disrespected in this situation valid. I love her with all of my heart I just feel that when you come to events you are a team and converse with various people especially when she wanted me to go. I also take some blame reflecting back I could have changed topics more to engage her in the conversation, but I just felt like she didn’t really want to try. I don’t know the non involvement in things that are important to me just hurts me. Feel free to leave any comments I want to express just how i feel without sugar coating.

37f, 140lbs, 5’4”, nonsmoker, occasional alcohol use. Medication: 50mg spirolactone dx : mitral valve prolapse moderate, mitral regurgitation severe.
I was first diagnosed with mitral valve prolapse in 2015. At that time it was mild and in 2018 I was told I did not need to come back for an echo unless I had symptoms resurface. Fast forward to 2024, I started with a new primary care who I reported to that I was noticing chest pain, very high heart rate, dizziness, blurred vision, shortness of breath, and more difficulty with exercise. I was also exploring medication for ADHD so my PC ordered an echo to ensure a stimulant was appropriate with my MVP. I had the echo two weeks ago and since I live rurally and there is no local cardiologist I am several months out for a cardiology consult but am currently looking at out of state options so I can get my results looked at sooner. I met with my PC and they gave me some general info but said I would need to talk about treatment plan with a cardiologist. In the meantime I was hoping to get insight on what my results mean and if I should be making lifestyle changes while I wait for the cardiology consult. Thanks (results below)
Left ventricular systolic function is at the lower limits of normal. EF is 50% The left ventricular regional wall motion is normal. Diastolic function is normal. The right ventricle is normal in size and systolic function. There is moderate bileaflet prolapse. There is severe mitral regurgitation. Global longitudinal strain is abnormal at -16.2%. There is no pericardial effusion. Recommend a TEE to better quantify the severity and mechanism of MR
systolic function is at the lower limits of normal. EF is 50%. Global longitudinal strain is abnormal at -16.2%. The left ventricular regional wall motion is normal. Diastolic function is normal. Left Atrium The left atrium is normal in size and appearance. Right Atrium The right atrium is normal in size and appearance. Right Ventricle The right ventricle is normal in size and systolic function. Aortic Valve The aortic valve is trileaflet. There is no aortic regurgitation. There is no aortic stenosis. Mitral Valve Mitral valve leaflets open normally. There is moderate bileaflet prolapse. There is severe mitral regurgitation. No mitral valve stenosis. Tricuspid Valve The tricuspid valve is normal in structure and function. Pulmonic Valve The pulmonic valve is structurally normal. There is trace pulmonic regurgitation. Great Arteries The visualized portions of the aorta are normal in size and appearance. Venous The inferior vena cava is normal in size, and collapses normally with respiration, suggestive of a RA pressure of 0-5mmHg.

Does Korn have any lost or scrapped albums, or just a scrapped idea for an album that never turned into one? I read on this subreddit that they planned to make a concept album about the 5 downfalls of humanity but it got scrapped and turned into Korn 3, is that true? Are there more examples of stuff like that happening with them?

Some history
My agoraphobia developed out of a number of traumatic experiences when I was younger. It has been extremely severe in terms of avoidance. I hadn’t left my rural county in 9 years prior to now.
When I was 12 years old, I got extremely sick in the city (~35 miles from where I live). I had appendicitis, but the doctors at the time could not figure it out. It was too late. My appendix burst and I almost died. I spent 16 days in the hospital and had to withdraw from the remainder of the school year.
This as well as severe panic attacks that I developed afterwards led to me developing agoraphobia, along with PTSD, OCD, and panic disorder. I’ve had to build my entire life around my agoraphobia, missing graduations, weddings, derailed college plans, and losing friends. I always felt left out by missing out on things, and I felt guilty that I’ve deprived my family from experiences with me as a result of it.
I ended up graduating from college mostly by taking classes online from a reputable university. I got two master’s degrees afterwards.
It was found fairly recently (2022 or 2021) that I had a genetic mutation which was preventing my medication from working for most of the time I had been taking it, and I had to start taking L-Methylfolate for it to work.
My brother got engaged in January of last year and they have been planning the wedding for June of 2024.
Recent Events
I’ve been making more of a conscientious effort to do things outside of my comfort zone, and I think part of this has been finding the correct medication. I had never before felt like I could actually “do it.”
In October of 2023, I went to somewhere outside of my county with my mom and partner by about ~15 miles and closer to the city. We went to a coffee shop. This was my first time leaving my county since 2015. I was nervous and had to keep getting up to walk around while waiting for our order. I started crying when we pulled into the town outside of my county because I couldn’t believe that I made it.
I’ve had a remote job doing really rewarding work. Just last month, my job had an in-person staff meeting in the city. They knew about my agoraphobia, and there was no pressure for me to attend. But trying to build on my success in October, I pushed myself and made it. I made it to the city for the first time in 9 years! I was so shell shocked that it was hard for me to process. I was only able to stay for 3-4 hours, but by the time I got home, I was exhausted.
Just a couple of weeks ago, I went back into the city again with my parents to get fitted for my suit for my brother’s upcoming wedding next month. Despite my trip to the city last month, I was really nervous to go. I did get really nervous a few times as it was slightly further than my work, but I made it.
Concerns
I’m very nervous for the wedding, because it is much further than the city. It is ~65 miles from home, rather than the ~35 which I have recently just started getting accustomed to. That may not seem like much more to most people, but that’s huge for me.
My brother hasn’t really talked to me about his wedding at all. My other brother was asked to be the best man. I wasn’t asked to give a speech, but they want me to be in the line. My other brother (the best man) asked me if I was going to go to the bachelor party, which I don’t think I’m going to be able to do. I’m glad he at least asked.
My family has likely just got used to excluding me from everything because of my condition. But it’s still sort of hurtful, because I feel like I don’t matter as much.
I am not the one getting married and it’s not my wedding, so I don’t really have any right to complain about how they want to do things. I guess it just sort of hurts that I have been taking these huge steps to try to go, and I can’t even be bothered to be asked to speak or do anything else besides be in the line.
It sort of annoys me that it seems they didn’t even take the difficulty of me being able to attend into consideration. Again, it’s their wedding, but maybe I’m just hurt because I would do the same for my brother if he dealt with something similar.
I’m also really nervous because of how far away from home it is. My partner and I were going to drive separate so we could leave earlier if we need to. But being that far from home and having a panic attack is making me feel super uneasy.
I’m trying to stay positive, but I’m scared everyone in my family (mainly my parents) are going to hate me if I can’t do it. Quite frankly, my brother doesn’t even seem to care if I show up.

We've been dating for almost a year and live together, our anniversary is on Wednesday and we just had a lovely holiday but upon coming home the problems we've been having for the last 6 months hit her again and she is seemily certain that she needs to be in a relationship with a trans/cis woman which she realised after we agreed for her to have sex with my Mtf ex who my GF has become infatuated with but she is polysaturated so does not have time and space for another partner.
Since we are in an ENM/poly relationship I had hoped that she would be able to meet her needs with other people but for us to stay together but this combined with the stress from the recovery from her bottom surgery 3 months ago has effectively crushed her libido, and muted ourintimacy as she says she is not physically attracted to men including me although I did get one concession after watching am Evie Lupine video on the Split Attraction Model and I asked her if she might be homosexual buy biromantic to which she replied "I'm [OP's name]romantic" and that I was the only guy who is an exception for her.
Obviously I'm not thinking it's possible to change her sexuality but I was there when we had sex and we're intimate in the past and I'm straight(but pretty neutral in terms of genitalia) and am attracted to females/femininity and I know that if I'd had sex with a guy I would definitely not have enjoyed it like she seemed to.
I don't really know what to do because breaking up would be disastrous to both of us in terms of mental health and extremly disruptive in terms of lifestyle as she'd have to move out and I feel it's totally unnecessary as I'm certain she can meet her needs with someone else but for us to stay together.
We have planned on getting her a referral for sexual psychotherapy and for dental surgery which causes her to effectively prevent herself from embracing emotions that would make her smile and show her damaged teeth and she is now on anti depressants (that unfortunately make orgasm very difficult to reach) so hopefully these things will help the aspects of her mental health thar we can change.
I am encouraging her to explore this and meet people either through the events we sometimes attend in our local BDSM scene, or through the OK Cupid app to learn more about what she needs, and she has said I can too but I'm not especially interested as I'm Demisexual and am pretty much just interested in her but I feel this will be a slow burner as she is anxious and struggles to socialise but in the mean time she is comparing this relationship to a potential future one with a female and this is seriously harming our relationship, causing a dead bedroom and leading to frequent depressive episodes and difficult conversations that go on past 3am...
I maintain hope that things can work out for us considering the huge emotional, financial and time investment we have put into this relationship (although it feels a bit one sided of late) but this is getting exhausting and for the first time I have been genuinely angry (but not at her) and I'm never really angry at this kind of thing and was kinda bitter this afternoon when I came home and she hadn't cooked the dinner like she said she would(not her job really, but we had agreed so I wasn't expecting to cook that night) I wouldn't normally care but I'm getting exhausted with putting in all I can whilst she can't seem to reciprocate.
I broke down on the bed this afternoon and cried and she spent the afternoon really sad because she didn't want to hurt me.
Any advice or stories from your experience would be appreciated, Thanks.

My daughter Liz and I have a long history. When she was 15 I was getting divorced, not from her father. This man was very abusive towards me and all my children. He once threatened my life with a firearm, that level of abuse. I had 3 boys with him, and she was their big sister. Well, despite how badly he abused her also, she sided with him and told the court a bunch of very bad lies about me to try to get my boys taken away. Didn't work, and I didn't see her for many years. I always tried to find her, and finally succeeded after I had remarried and had a baby. That was 20 years ago. We reunited as a family. I never confronted her about her behavior because she was so young, and she was loving towards me. She also never apologized, but I let it go. We rebuilt our relationship. There were a few incidents where she displayed huge entitlement and disrespect over the years, but we got through it. I have never confronted her with anything. I try not to fight with people. Fast forward to now. My husband Dave was taking care of his sister with ALS. She suffered for many years. He was her primary caretaker. A few weeks ago she took a turn for the worse. Dave was called night and day by the nursing home. It was a hard time, and I completely forgot one of my son's birthday. I felt bad, so I invited him over one day. He asked if his brother could come too, so I said OK. I wasn't up to hosting a huge event, so it was very low key. Liz got wind of this and sent off an angry, profanity-laced text that she wasn't invited, and how dare I. I didn't see it because SIL passed away, and we were planning her funeral, getting my kids home from college and it was a busy time with lots of messages. I sent many group texts to all my children about SIL's death, when was the visitation, the funeral etc. All my children responded with sympathy except Liz. I tried calling her many times, but no answer. Mother's day came, and I invited all my adult children over. Liz didn't answer when I called several times. I went to send her a text to find out what was up, and I saw her message from before. I responded to tell her that I somehow missed seeing it and was really sorry she felt slighted. I explained it wasn't a big family event, and even apologized for not inviting her when I found out my other son was coming. It was a last-minute thing. I also told her all about how lovely the funeral was and all that. No response. Mother's day comes and no Liz. She did send me a text, but I was pretty upset with her for ignoring SIL's death that I did not respond until the following day. Then she sends another profanity-laced angry message about not being invited for Mother's Day. I simply responded that I was sorry for the miscommunication, but she had been invited. Hey, I can't help it if she doesn't listen to her messages. The next day, another profane, angry text. Dave is really struggling with his sister's death, and we are all grief-stricken. Someone so young was taken from us and suffered horribly for a long time. Liz knew her too. We all live close together, and had a lot of family gatherings over the years. I started getting really upset that she couldn't acknowledge our loss or offer any sympathy. Especially to Dave who has always been kind to her. He's the kind of guy who will help anyone. We are suffering here. I last sent her a message telling her that I can't believe she's still (one month later) attacking me over missing a party when we just lost a family member to a horrible disease. I told her she misjudged the situation with her brother's birthday, and I don't need her permission to invite my son to my house. I explained again about how the (non) event occurred. Asked her why she thinks hurt feelings over missing a party take precedence over a family member's death. I asked her to stop sending profane angry texts and offer us condolences with an apology to Dave for taking so long. I believe this is the first time since she was 15 that I've ever confronted her on anything. She responded with another angry self-righteous message (no profanity at least) I have always forgiven her for her immaturity, but this time it's too much. I see now that she doesn't respect me or care for our family. I think I do not like her anymore. This is not the first time she's behaved like this. I guess since it's such a difficult time, I thought she should put her differences aside temporarily to offer support. I see she will never do that, and I can't think of her as a good person anymore. What should I do? I don't want her kids to feel like they are in the middle, but I don't know how not to. They are 18 and 17 and 9. The older kids come here a lot. Any advice how to handle this where I don't keep being a doormat to her is welcome. Thanks.