Mom giving son blow job

My ex and I had been together for just over 2 years, engaged for 6 months. We were going through a rough patch, and while she was away for a job, she text me that we were done. She completely blindsided me, and abandoned me halfway across the country away from my friends and family. I gave up everything for her, and I had to sort our house, pack everything up and move back to my parents. After 2 years together, she couldn’t even give me a phone call. This was 2 months ago, and I now realize that there were a lot more issues than I realized and she was never the person I thought she was. I am definitely better off and my life and mental health have gotten tremendously better since the breakup but I still miss her. I don’t want to feel like this anymore, she doesn’t deserve it. She is not a good person and I have learned so much about her that just breaks me and someone told me I need to forgive her to move on but I don’t know how. It’s not even the breakup that hurts the most, it’s the fact that she abandoned me, and then lied to everyone about me.

I met my ENTP bf at my workplace a few years ago now, we took time to confess to each other but the mutual attraction became more and more evident each day
My bf has always been a sweet guy to me whether it was at work or outside, but he often felt too shy to ask me out (and also often felt tired bc his schedule). He often acted confident in front of others but he'd often feel shy and intimidated while trying to flirt with me, which I always found adorable
Last year he went through a tough situation which was a mix of quitting the job by himself and being fired in a very brutal way (he was absolutely not getting along with a relative of the CEO, who happened to have some unfair powers over important decisions)
That job was like his passion even though he could get anxiety out of it I spent the year trying to conform him as I could even though he was too depressed to see anyone This year he decided to motivate himself and get another similar job but with an even more tiring schedule Due to that, we barely communicate compared to before
We used to see each other a lot at our common workplace (at least 4-5x a week) to the point that going out together wasn't always needed, and almost every morning he would even tell me that he missed me even if he saw me the day before at work
Now even though we don't work tgt anymore, I don't get texts or calls about him missing me even though he has more reason to miss my presence since we don't see each other often I suspect some depressive feelings still being present since he once told me he doesn't feel that passionate about his job anymore
I know he's not seeing anyone behind my back, I also know that with a tiring schedule he's more likely to often sleep before midnight
I'd like to know if any ENTP (or person who dated someone with a similar behavior) could give me some advice on what to do when an ENTP man is showing this behavior, I've tried to be as present as possible but I feel like I'm going through a lack of affection that makes me feel alone in my relationship, and I know my relationship didn't start that way when he probably felt more mentally healthy..

she deserves someone better as her child, not this chunk of failure. if she didn't meet my dumb and narcissistic father, she would probably be an lpt now. if she didn't have children, she won't probably lose her identity like a flamingo losing its color.
i wish i could give her the world. i wish i could tell her how much she means to me. i love her so much, i hope she lives longer than me.

Hello, i’m making this post and will update it accordingly to share, so others have another resource to read/look into, and maybe feel hopeful about their situation. This will probably be a lengthy post so i apologize in advance.
For some background, i’m a 23 year old male, slightly chubby/thicker, i’ve been competing in powerlifting and doing strength training since i was about 15, and very recently, started experiencing some ED with my partner.
So far it’s happened twice with me. The first time I had figured i was just tired in the moment, i had already taken my melatonin for the night and was half asleep when we decided to have sex. I went soft when the intercourse started. That night i had written it off as me just being tired and ready for bed. The second time, i was a little more embarrassed. There’s not much to it other than that - we initiated sex, and i again - went soft during intercourse. And i felt awful about it.
it’s been about a week, since the second occurrence happened, since then ive started taking my ashwagandha and magnesium taurate again, and last night i decided to throw some zinc into the mix. I also started drinking an 8oz mixture of organic beet juice and pomegranate juice, daily. I’ve also cut out ALL porn and masturbation, there will be more on this later. I have a HUGE history with porn and masturbation.
Since i started taking my supplements again, some mornings i have morning wood, other times, i don’t. im doing a very good job at not letting this deter my effort or wipe out my hope. this all takes time i’m sure.
I firmly believe porn is my culprit. I discovered porn back in the 1st grade. fast forward to 3rd grade, i learned how to masturbate. jump over to 7th grade and all through highschool, im doing it daily, a few times a day. And it only got worse as i got older, even after graduated highschool. So i’m led to believe that my habits are starting to catch up to me!
In recent years, i’ve had a habit of bookmarking porn videos to my pc, saving NSFW reddit posts, and eventually just casually watching it while i’m gaming. i’ll look at it in the gym parking lot while i wait for my caffeine to kick in, i’ll look at twitter porn while i drive home, or on my breaks at work. It had gotten waaaaay too casual for me. I’d be in discord with my friends playing games, if i died in whatever game, i’d load up google chrome and just browse a site, looking for a video that looked nice. All while touching myself too, not straight up beating it but just rubbing the head of my penis, and basically edging myself.
Recently, when my current girlfriend and i started seeing eachother, i remember i was erect almost ALL the time when we cuddled or kissed and got slightly intimate. And i think a huge reason for that is - when we had first started seeing eachother, i was always at her house, i wasn’t at home on my PC looking at porn, i wasn’t on my phone looking at porn, i wasn’t being stimulated by anything, AND i was also taking my ashwagandha + magnesium. At the time, i was taking ashwagandha an effort to reduce stress and have a clearer head. i was doing some testing for a job so i looked into ashwagandha and started taking it, turns out my mom already had some in the house and just gave me the magnesium to take with it. But i remember being fully erect ALL the time.
At some point, i had fallen off of the ashwagandha and magnesium, not for any specific reason. I would sleep at my girlfriends house and go straight to work in the morning, so i wasn’t stopping by my house to get my supplements. on top of that, as our schedules got busier and i had more time to myself at home, i would find myself playing video games, while browsing porn and touching myself. i had fallen back into that nasty habit, that i essentially had unknowingly dropped for a little bit.
So this is where i’m at now. ashwagandha, magnesium, and zinc daily. Plus beet juice and pomegranate juice, and no porn.
My break at work is coming to an end so i’m closing this out for now, i’ll edit and add more when i’m home, as well as answer any questions, if there are any! thanks for reading and good luck!

I am seeking someone with whom I can engage in deep conversations, exchanging thoughts on how we live our lives, our perspectives, and what we make of existence as we await our inevitable demise. I am looking for someone whose outlook on life aligns with mine, with whom we can collectively find the best way to live out our allotted time. Together, we will share our plans and goals, discussing our understanding of various matters.
I would be delighted if you, upon deciding to write to me, could explain why you chose to do so and share a bit about yourself, to streamline our initial conversations.
Some of my reflections and views on life: - I've come to realize that happiness for me won't come from having a big house, an expensive car, or even a family. Happiness, for me, lies in improving people's lives. Eventually, I'll die (like everyone else), and if I only live for myself, it would be meaningless—everything will go with me to the grave. But if I create something that improves people's lives, something that remains even after I'm gone, it gives meaning to my own life and brings me hope and happiness. I'm willing to dedicate my life to this, to improving the lives of others. - I'm interested in philosophy not just as a hobby, but as a necessity for determining the direction of life and how to approach it, understanding what to do in this life. - I often ponder the meaning of life in the face of inevitable death (because what comes after death greatly influences what to do with life). - I'm interested in what to do in life and how to spend it. The typical scenario of finding a job with good pay, buying a house, starting a family, retiring, and dying doesn't appeal to me (but I don't have anything against it). If you resonate with these sentiments, I eagerly await your response.

I got burned out as a caregiver, having my agency switch me around between violent clients and palliative care. I wound up driving my car into traffic right before covid after getting assaulted on shift the day after I had held a clients hand while they died.
During covid, I had been recovering from a shattered pelvis and TBI for too long to collect unemployment and the only job I could find was working at a junkie hotel, which I ditched as soon as better jobs started opening up.
I spent the last couple years running a machine, but then last year I had four family members die, and I developed panic attacks that are sending my heart rate over 190.
All the advice I've seen has been telling me to take time off work and rest, but my landlord still wants money for rent, and I've got so much medical debt to pay off.
Does anybody have any real advice on how I can recover without giving up overtime? I simply can't afford to work only 40 hours, and I'd rather die than be homeless.

I just finished watching a cutscene compilation for AW1 on YouTube and I'm confused.
So you, as the player, can come and go freely to and from the "tavern" (prison), correct? Why is that? Whose job was it to guard the prison? Why were all of the other gods coming and going in the prison-tavern? Were They even real, or were they just as illusory as the tavern? My first thought was that everyone you spoke to outside of the tavern was real, and everyone you spoke to inside the tavern was an illusion. But that doesn't make sense because 1) The Blacksmith crafts items for you in Aegir's hall that you get to take with you into the world outside the tavern. The fact that the Blacksmith is giving you real items implies that he, himself, is real, correct? Why does Loki have a blacksmith in His prison? I suppose it could be explained by Loki creating the illusion of a blacksmith who seems to craft items for you when really it's Loki Himself doing the crafting.
But then you get to the story arc with Thor's hammer:

• You find the hammer OUTSIDE of the tavern.
• Then you give the hammer to Odin INSIDE the tavern.
• After that, you see Thor OUTSIDE the tavern WITH His hammer.

This implies that you did indeed encounter the actual Odin inside the illusory tavern, and He actually gave Mjolnir to Thor.
A way around that may be that when you give Mjolnir to Odin, you're in the REAL Aegir's Hall for the first and only time in the game.
Still, why did nobody, at any point, tell you as the player to beware Loki's trickery?

I've been divorced for 2 years now. My ex just got remarried and I am so happy for them, she's amazing and I feel so blessed we have another adult in this world and on our team who loves our son. That being said, gosh I'm ready for it to be my turn. I have trudged through dating, and I mean I’ve made every attempt to continue to show up bright eyed and bushy tailed but….. It's been ghosting after ghosting, lie after lie, hookups and dead ends. My poor freaking heart is too fragile for this.
A little about me; I'm 38 and work full time as a mental health therapist. I LOVE what I do and feel SO lucky. I also adore being a mom and watching my son grow and excel. I love tattoos, reading, naps, seeing concerts or stand-up, having good conversations on patios with drinks. I am also college basketball obsessed and live for the season!.
Physically I'm 5'7, brunette, hazel eyes, bbw/thick, winning smile, great sense of humor, tattooed, loving, kind, warm, and hopelessly looking for my person. I have a dog I love, some best friends that are so good to me, but I'm just missing that someone to do mundane life stuff with along with fun stuff. I hate sleeping alone and I miss having that hand to hold
I'm most attracted to taller, beefiebulkier men, beards and tattoos are welcome but not a must. Nice smiles, kind hearts, great sense of humor, and a willingness to connect are a must. Also PLEASE be single, between 28-45, and in the US (Colorado preferable!) Say hi and let's see if we can find something beautiful.

Ive worked many food service and retail jobs and I have been with my current job at a big box pet retailer for just under 5 years. I am a merchandising and inventory leader. I love my job and I love being the person who has all the answers when stuff is out of stock or something is long term out and we have shelf space to fill. i get to be a bit creative with my discretionary shelf space, but still be social when customers need help…
I HATE however the insurance situation I have right now and I hate the physical toll it’s putting on my body. I am going to the chiropractor once a week, and I can’t afford much more than bills and food. I need a new job where I can get insurance-supported therapy and ADHD meds and where I can thrive as an extrovert. While all the while building savings for my future.
I’ve said all my life that a desk job will kill me. But I’m realizing that in order to fulfill my true dream job (ecoming a mother) I need to give less fucks about my day job, in order to afford an amazing life for future hypothetical children. So I’m willing to trade in my stressful-but-fulfilling job for a cushier and more future-orientated job.
I’m not necessarily asking for recommendations on what my next career should be. Though if you have ideas, I’ll take them. What I’m looking to gain from this post is how to give up a job that I’m extremely passionate and and how to begin accepting delayed gratification as far as saving and things, when it’s a job I might not be as passionate about?

TL;DR: Luigi and Saiko have the potential to be a pairing with fun contrasting personalities and character growth potential while working with what's there in canon already without much if any change.
Time for something a bit... different for this sub, at least from what I can tell. I only just joined yesterday thanks to Medi's recent video.
Before we begin, I want to start off by saying that this is in no way a "my ship is better than yours" post. You are all free to like what you want, all I'm doing is trying to spread love for a pairing I hold so dear, and why I wish more people knew what's special about it. In other words, don't take this the wrong way. With that out of the way...
Saiko Bichitaru is my favorite SMG4 character. It took a bit for me to appreciate her, but as a fan of the show since 2013, as her debut year of 2018 went by and she continued to develop into a core cast member, I thought that for a show like this it was a very well-executed character arc, with a pretty heartwarming conclusion to boot. In the years since, besides perhaps 2019 which I thought was pretty good for her character, she took a step back in favor of other characters getting the spotlight, which isn't necessarily a bad thing but part of me does wish they got to utilize certain dynamics with her more. Tari and Kaizo are obvious ones, but another obvious one that I think is largely unnoticed these days is her dynamic with Luigi.
Luigi is my other favorite character, for generally being likable while still being entertaining, but there are other, niche-er reasons too I will get into later. For now I will say that he has has a sort of "magic" about him, in that despite his cowardly exterior (occasionally gigachad moments aside, which are mainly done for comedy's sake) he has a big heart and tries to see the best in people. In SMG4, him becoming Saiko's friend during her darkest hour (heh) is one of the biggest examples of this. It started an unlikely friendship between a timid but kindly plumber and a tough and passionate rockstar, something that remains to this day, but mainly in background cameos. Despite this, I've noticed that the larger fanbase doesn't really acknowledge this much, likely to due A. the lack of major usage since 2020 and B. some fans weren't around when those videos were new. But that's why I'm here today: I am here to talk about what makes this dynamic work so well, but also that I legitimately think that while considering that, Luigi x Saiko is a pairing that can work extremely well given what's already there without much interference. Again, I'm not saying that it's "better" than other pairings involving one of these two, only that it's one of the more "realistic" pairings as a whole in my opinion. To start with, let's go over Saiko's character arc again.
PART 1: SAIKO
I don't want to turn this into a recap, so we'll go over her story briefly before getting into the parts involving the green Italian man. A fictional rockstar in a dating game from the band KS-2 brought in by Boopkins due to his loneliness, Saiko started off as an extremely clingy yandere, violently demanding attention from others if even a second was put away from her being the center of attention. After about six months of her being a villain, eventually she realized that she has a problem and became depressed over it, only fro a certain someone to come in and kickstart her redemption, slowly but surely becoming nicer and becoming friends with the SMG4 gang, notably Tari and Meggy.
I personally feel like a lot of Saiko's POV is understood if you saw certain videos happen as they aired, but it all started with Luigi's Lesson, where the usually cowardly Luigi learns about Saiko's problems and tries to help her become nicer. As you may know, he succeeded for the most part, with her doing a good deed by the end (saving Mario from choking on hot dogs), and she slowly became nicer over time. The thing is that Luigi was Saiko's first true friend, someone who saw her potential for being a good person before anyone else. In this case, I don't really count Boopkins since while he did care for her, after her debut he tried to stay away as much as he could and didn't really attempt to help her until after Luigi kickstarted that whole thing. Beyond that though, there were still moments throughout 2018 that showed Luigi being the one to help Saiko improve herself, the main one being a small moment in The Mario Cafe, but even Mario and the Diss Track had Luigi be the one to tell Saiko the truth about Bob in that arc.
All things considered, my personal interpretation is that Luigi saved Saiko's life. Without him being there for her, Saiko would've continued scared off people with her violent tendencies, and she never would've found the "attention" she desired so much via the SMG4 gang. And it all started because some easily-scared plumber saw something more in someone even he was previously scared of. Speaking of which, let's talk about him.
PART 2: LUIGI
To start with, I wanted to mention that Luigi is bisexual, not homosexual. "Gay" can be used as an umbrella term for anyone in the LGBT+ community, and Luigi has shown attraction for both men and women throughout the series, with a lean towards men mainly for comedy purposes. The 2015 episode Love for Luigi is a very notable example of this, where Luigi falls in love with Daisy and tries to win over her heart, and he succeeds by the end... but did he really? Much like several other aspects of the series, this is something only really brought up when it's convenient (like the 2016 episode Boo Busters) but otherwise Luigi is portrayed as single. Since we live in an era where they care about canon a little more, I think the only plausible explanation for this is that they broke up.
While I imagine that Luigi is fine with this these days, to get into headcanon territory a little, perhaps Luigi still feels lonely to this day. I mean, he still shows attraction to people, even showing interest in romance (such as this one clip from a Mario Does Things video from a couple of years back called "luigi tries to get with the ladies" on the Shorts channel), so there probably has to be some level of desire for it internally. Maybe he feels lonely, which is why he could relate to Saiko's struggles at first. But that's enough about headcanons for now.
Another thing about Saiko is that she just fits Luigi's taste in general. Luigi is with Daisy in Nintendo canon, and she's a strong gal with a lotta passion for what she cares about. While Luigi is plenty capable himself, in SMG4 he still shows signs of timidness and cowardice every once in a while, and of course he tends to be the butt of many jokes that he can't do anything about. From a comedy perspective that's fine, but from Luigi's POV, considering the several other responsibilities he has, the dude is tired. Someone strong and passionate like Saiko has the potential to teach him about confidence and standing up for himself in return for him teaching her about kindness and being rewarded for it. Long story short, being with Saiko not only fits Luigi's own tastes in partners, but Saiko in particular could do something that helps him better himself. In turn...
PART 3: LUIGI & SAIKO
Everything discussed leads to a relationship between two contrasting personalities with their own problems, and getting together leads to both of them becoming happier in the process. And hey, who doesn't like a ship with contrasting personalities? The thing about LxS though is that the seeds were already planted in the show itself to build off from, with the setup given in Luigi's Lesson potentially giving us just that. As for their dynamic, the times they do show up together, as I said before, consistently have them friendly without any real holes or inconsistencies. A large part of that is due to their underusage together, but even in recent episodes, we have moments such as the 2022 Christmas episode where they were cooking dinner together, or a more recent episode that shows them together at SMG3's coffee shop.
One final major point though is that I think Luigi and Saiko being a couple could bring things full circle. Saiko, a woman looking for love and improves herself thanks to a certain person starting it all.... only for said person to fall for the woman that Saiko became, and in turn Saiko falls for Luigi for being the one who started her new life and for being a kindhearted person who understands her the most, next to Tari mainly shown in the KS-2 mini-arc from 2022. In other words, the person Saiko was really looking for was the person in-front of her the whole time. If you ask me, that's a pretty fitting note to "conclusively" end Saiko's original character arc, even if it already ended around 2019.
As a side note, Luigi and Saiko have potential to be really good parents, but with the "gender roles" switched, which is always fun. Luigi is timid, caring, and tidy, while Saiko is also caring, but also passionate, tough, and cares for her friend's well-beings, both like a mom and a dad respectively. It also has a lot of comedy potential as you have the two of them learning the ropes of parenthood, and it could lead to more interactions with other characters, mainly Karen (in which Luigi already gave advice to on parenting one time, showing that he already has the ropes to a degree).
CONCLUSION
Overall, Luigi and Saiko have a lot of potential for not only their dynamic, but also the idea of them becoming a couple. I wish more people knew about this since I feel that LxS is largely seen as "MxM's Player 2" given how you only really see MxM fans mention the pairing. That isn't a bad thing at all, I myself like that pairing, but I do wish that the pairing had a little more of a fanbase of its own. But hey, that's part of why I'm talking about this now. The good news though is that there has been something of a small resurgence of the pairing already despite the fact of content, mainly through the existence of RockRage8962's fankid characters Angelo and Rin, who were made into Gmod characters by Duz/Glithware and AnEyeArtist.
Despite this, I do wish that more people understood why this pairing is special, and I hope with this essay, more people can do so. You can still like whatever pairings you like, but whether this convinces you on the ship's idea or not, I hope you at least gain a little more respect towards it. If anyone has any questions or want me to elaborate on something, let me know and I'll likely respond, but if you made it this far, thanks for reading!
BONUS: A playlist of videos containing at least one Luigi and Saiko moment, from 2018 to 2020.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLDYLLnT8V-AT9AUb28cpE87_-a4CMbEed

The beginning of my daughters 6th grade year (2021), a new girl moved to town. We will call her Ruth. Her parents had recently divorced and she moved here with her mother. My daughter quickly became friends with her and I noticed my daughter coming out of her shell more. Being less shy, more outgoing. I was happy for her to have made a new friend that she was close so quickly with. The friendship quickly turned into best friends. The girl began coming over to our house for sleepovers on the weekends as kids do. They would hang out at the park together in town. She eventually asked to go over to her house to hang out and I said yes. She knew it would just be hanging out during the day as I really didn't know her mother well. My daughter got in the car and told me how much she liked hanging out over there and then proceeded to tell me there roaches crawling on the floor in the girls bedroom, THEN asked if she could stay the night sometime. I told her no and explained to her why and said that her friend is always welcome to come stay at our home. BFF's continue. No harm, no foul.
Fast forward to 7th grade year. Still BFF's. This is great. Especially since girls are so awful to each other ALL THE TIME IN JUNIOR HIGH. Her mom has a work trip and has to travel out of state for a few days during the school week. She asked if her daughter could stay with us. My husband and I agreed that it would be fine and she stayed with us for a few days while her mom was out of state. Still BFF's.
Now it's the middle of 7th grade year, around January (2023). Her mom (46 y/o)started dating a new guy(50 y/o). This guys fiancé had recently left him for another guy. We will call him John. I live in a dominantly republican area if this gives you any idea of the people I'm dealing with/talking about. Anyways, they fall in love and she moves in with John within 6 months of dating each other. (Approx May 2023). Her son decides to move back with his dad. Her other daughter moved in with a boyfriend (she is over 18). So, just the mom and daughter move in with him and his son(irrelevant).
Summer 2023 it is suddenly unfair that Ruth is always coming over to our house, but my daughter never goes over there. My husband(37 y/o) and I(35 y/p) agree that it is ok for her to go over there. John had just recently putting up an above ground pool. We don't have a pool. It's summer. I get it. She goes over there plenty of times, I let her stay late as we just live about a mile or two down the road. John starts building a "cabin" as a "great outlook over the pool". This is basically a cabin/pool house thing up 12 feet above the pool, but kind of to the side. My husband and I think its super weird...but whatever, they continue hanging out back and forth at one another's houses. Ruth continues to stay over a lot. In the midst of all of this and my daughter meeting John she informs me that....John thinks my daughter is a liar. Of course I asked why. John thinks that because my daughter will not look him in the eye when she speaks to him. My daughter is shy and has a lot of anxiety. I told her that she is not required to look him in the eye if she doesn't want to her. Its HER choice. John now has a say in what Ruth wears. He is not allowing her to wear short shorts anymore because it will give off the wrong impression to men dressing that way. Same with tops as far as her chest and stomach. I don't mean extreme stuff either. I mean if she has a shirt that touches her pants, but when she lifts up her arms it shows her stomach it is not allowed. I also really don't care how people choose to allow/not allow their children to dress, it is just that she was previously allowed to wear these things. She is also no longer allowed to hang out in her room alone, she has to hang out with her family in the living room.
Fast forward to a couple of months ago. Still BFF's. My daughter asked for Ruth to stay over. Of course, its fine with my husband and I. However, Ruth cannot stay over because it is now unfair that Ruth always stays at our house and my daughter never stays there. My daughter asked me if she could spend the night over there. She informed me that if she was not able to spend the night over there, then they wouldn't be able to hang out anymore. I figured it was just two teenagers making stuff up to be able to stay somewhere. I always used to do it when I was a kid...all kids do it. I asked my daughter if she wanted to stay there. She was upset, and said yes because if she doesn't then they won't be able to be friends. She said so if she has to do it to be friends with Ruth, then she will. My daughter does not even use public restrooms/school restrooms. The only place she will go to the restroom is at home. My husband and I talked it over and did not allow her to stay because of how he openly talks shit about our daughter, and if you've read above...its giving narcissist. We explained all of this to our daughter.
Later that night there is a knock on our door. Its Ruth mom and John. They asked if they could talk to us. John asked if we called him a pedophile. We didn't. We explain this. Convo continues. Not a heated convo just a normal convo. They continue to talk to let us know that they don't drink or anything but they are facing misdemeanor charges for fighting ANOTHER GIRLS PARENTS in the 8th grade class at a Poker Run for a fundraiser a few months ago but it wasn't their fault. Then John asks if I bought Ruth a tanktop recently. It was a spaghetti strap. John tells my husband and I "Ruth isn't allowed to wear those because soon they will be freshman in highschool and ALL of the seniors have a bet to see how many freshman they can fuck and the ones dressed like that will be the easiest targets" Blood boils . I informed John politely but sternly that girls should not have to worry about how they are dressed, parents should be teaching the BOYS how to behave properly and obtain consent. John also defended a sex offender that was charged for molesting a girlfriends daughter who is disabled and cannot speak or talk for herself. John defended him and said technically she WASNT a minor and he is a good guy. Idc about sex offenders and I do believe in rehabilitation but a crime is a crime. Long convo. Basically chit chatting about our kids. It ended with them telling us that our daughter is always welcome to stay and we said thanks and they left.
Now, Ruth is no longer allowed to hang out with my daughter. Ruth has to ride the bus and cannot get rides home with us because its US. They are not allowed at the park together. She's not allowed here. This is per John and Ruth's mom. They had graduation and Ruth had to make sure John didn't catch her talking to me.
I obviously want my daughter to be happy. She has not given me an attitude about any of this. She has gotten upset and cried and just told me that she would do it if she had to because she doesn't want to lose her friend. She wants to have a good summer but John gives me the CREEPS and narcissist vibes. I also feel like its a control thing for him?
Plz be nice. I'll cry if I'm TA. lol

Dear you,
I was at some college campus and had suddenly noticed an old colleague I used to work with 13 years go. He, of course, was older but he carried himself more maturely and was more put together than I remember. I approached him and he met my gaze. While he didn't immediately recognize me after shaking hands, he was open to conversation and catching up. That is, until his younger friend jumped in and started talking to me (that would be you). You told me that he had some kind of heart disease, and he was dying from it, that he was married, and she was taking care of all of his final affairs so he would have nothing to worry about. My old colleague left, while you kept talking to me.
I don't remember the words that you said, but I was listening. As you kept talking, you eventually made your way towards the nape of my neck and began nibbling and kissing. I will admit that it felt very good and I loved the closeness of you being right next to me. For a while, you kept talking and mixed it with your nibbling and kissing, to the point to where your talking stopped. I closed my eyes and wanted very much to kiss you very hungrily and let you have your way with me. Instead, I opened my eyes and clearly said, "Bruh, I'm old enough to be your momma." You immediately stopped, said, "Thanks" and you left.
The next thing I knew, I was in a small-town mom-and-pop, picking up a package of sponges. A lady at the pharmacy counter was asking me, "How did your claim go? Do you think maybe you could help me?" I answered to her, "Yes, it turns out that I just needed a different provider. Let me give you the number for rat traps." As I was on my way to purchase the package of sponges, I nearly ran into an elderly couple shopping for aspirin, and the husband kept asking the wife the difference between Advil and Tylenol. Then I woke up.
When it hit me that I was awake, I heard your spirit asking me, "WHY THE HELL DO YOU SEE ME AS IMMATURE?"
Normally, I'd have answer ready for you, being able to write a novel explaining why. But, this time, you've left me speechless. Honestly, I don't know ... ?
I'll have to think about that.
~ Me

Mine claims his PA is basically based around his childhood, mainly his dad and poor treatment / traumatic experiences with him (he suffers mental illness) but also after that when his dad was not in [the family] picture and was just his mother who essentially had no parenting control i.e no discipline with him etc.
Anyway, so he continually claims he has trauma from this time… yet he always (imo obsesses) about his parents - mostly his dad (the same person who caused him so much pain and trauma? 🤔) His dad will basically say jump and he will say how high. But not only that he ‘worries’ about him most days and also has triggers around just about anything that makes him think of his dad… I saw a post in another sub that mentioned emotional incest / enmeshment and I’m wondering if this is the case here too…
Eg. He (my PA) always says he feels ‘guilty’ for both parents current situations and feels as if it’s his job to try and make it better…
Another example was the other day he was telling me about something he got teased in school about and he said ‘when I had my first job I should have used my money to fix X problem and the I wouldn’t have been teased about it’ (issue was something the PARENT should have been responsible for). Even him saying that now 1. breaks my heart that he is thinking that way but also 2. shocks me that he is thinking at 12 / 13 something that was wholly an adult / parent responsibility should have been his responsibility financially…
He also says he has trauma around the fact as a child his family struggled with money and now in adulthood I watch him self sabotage his chances at becoming financially well off… but that’s a whole other story
I’m not sure if this is making sense but it almost feels like he has, and still is, giving up his life for the sake of trying to make his parents better? - when ultimately they were the ones who let him down and put him in this position to begin with.
Undoubtedly it’s the reason he’s unable to be truly intimate with me, because he would have learned to shut down love at an early age. So, yeah. Guess it just sucks to see him still giving up his life for his parents who only damaged his…

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I just picked this game up again after 7 years, and I'm farther along than any of my old save files (Summer 17, Year 2) and I've married Sebastian this time around. Last time was Leah.
So yeah, I saw the post about "Did I ruin Leah's life by marrying her?" and I remember how she just kinda chilled on the front porch all day. Sebastian, however, has been fantastic to talk to every day to see how his dialogue changes.
Here's where I wish we had some sort of option to spend time with our spouse:
I'd heard that Sebastian will sometimes make you coffee in the morning. After being married for a couple weeks, he finally did. Great! Coffee! It came with a massive drawback - he got up early and made the coffee because he had a nightmare! And he often tells me in the morning that he wasn't able to sleep, so he went on a motorcycle ride at night. He's still suffering from his anxiety.
Now, I love the flavor this adds. Most farming games have spouses that maybe make you lunch every day and that's about it. Sebastian actually leaves the house, visits his mom, hangs out with his friends every Friday night just like he did before marriage - that's FANTASTIC!
But I do wish we could just maybe have some sort of option to sacrifice an hour or two to "spend time" with our spouse, especially when they have negative dialogue like Sebastian's anxiety. It could be tied to different things they liked to do. Sketch with Leah. Play Solarian Chronicles with Sebastian. Listen to Sam's latest song. That sort of thing.
It could fade to black, no animation required, but maybe they tell you they feel better and have an increased chance to give you items the next day?
I dunno mannnn I'm just grasping at straws here. My man's having anxiety problems and we just peace out to go work on the farm. Lmao

I 24f have been fighting since Monday with my boyfriend of almost a year 30M because of me going to the hospital and him not even making an effort to be there for me. If it came to anyone else in his family or even his ex wife he would’ve been there regardless if he had his kids.I will have the link to the original post in comments.
He talked to me on Thursday night and he said we weren’t broken up and I could come home (to clarify I’m on my moms couch while she is away) so I planned on coming home Friday night. He then texts me the next morning he asks me to stay at my moms and he still needs to think and make sure he is making the right choice. I asked him like how long do you need he told me one more night. Well I honored that request. Be in mind you guys he isn’t answering a single text from me, leaves it on read, doesn’t call me back let alone answer my calls and he says he isn’t ignoring me.
Well I go home last night when we are both done with work I’m on my computer and I let him do what he needs to do when he gets home to unwind from work as well. Then we start talking and it’s not going well he just looks at me with his leg up in his face and stays silent for the most part. Still can’t apologize for any of the things he did and all he could tell me was idk I need more time to think. He gets his kids tonight and will have them till Wednesday he uses them as an excuse not to talk to me or work anything out and says they are his responsibility when it’s convenient for him. We doesn’t want the responsibility he will push it on me.
Well I told him before I left last night cause we were getting no where he has till Thursday to figure it out or I am done. I am actively looking for an apartment and another job to pay my rent. My mom will let me stay with her if it gets to that point. But my issue is if he says he wants to stay together I don’t know how I’m supposed to trust him again and make things go back to normal ish what are y’all’s thoughts

So I'll try to give you guys the quick version. My dad has been a Christian for around 10 years. Prior to this he caused my family and I alot of trauma and suffering. My goal is not to shame or dishonor him but I want you to know why I decided to stop talking to him. He dealt drugs, was verbally and sometimes physically abusive to my mom and me. He was and still is very financial irresponsible. At age 14 I convinced my mom to leave him because it was emotionally and mentally destroying me and my younger siblings. Fast forward to my adulthood, he has given his life to Christ. The part that bothers me is that he has refused to apologize for the pain and years of trauma he has inflicted on me. I have always been ready to forgive him but he refuses to acknowledge that he did infact put me through years of trauma that he inflicted. My life was in danger dozens of times because of the environment of living in a house where cocain and other heavy drugs were sold. I had armed people trying to break in while I hid in my room writing a letter to my family because I believed I was about to be killed. On many occasions he called me weak (in more vulgar terms) for the fear I felt. These type of life threatening things happened often so I won't list every occasion but they live in my memories. 2 years ago during him preaching I polite but sternly demanded an answer as to why he refused to acknowledge what he did in his past. I wasn't even asking for an apology I was just asking him to admit what he did to me was horrible but he refused to the point of anger and he started insulting me and started taunting me to fight him. I am an adult now so he couldn't scare me anymore, I told him to leave and he's no longer welcomed in my house. I called him a coward for not being man enough to acknowledge what he did. It's been two years since I've talked to him. I've started following Christ on my own and I am so grateful for His Love that is continuously healing me. God is the Father I can always count on. My dilemma though is I read scripture where I should be honoring my parents and that I should forgive others as God has forgiven me. I do forgive him, but it bothers me that he never asked me to forgive him or even acknowledges his mistakes that have deeply hurt me. Am I sinning by cutting off ties with him? Aside from this his poor financial decisions of purchasing multiple vehicles and other materlistic things always had him asking me for help and honesty his absence has been a big stress reliver. I am not perfect in following the footsteps of Jesus Christ but I admit my sin to Him and try to do better. He tries to justify his addiction to materlistic purchasing. I'm not asking you to shun him, I'm asking you for your honesty. Is me cutting communication with him wrong?

I’ve (25 f) been dating this guy (27m) for a little over a month after flirting with him for a while before that. We’ve spent every weekend together except for one the whole time. And this weekend I spent the night at his place for the first time. 😉 So I’d say we’re pretty serious.
Well here’s the thing. He’s not close to who his family at all. His dad passed away when he was in high school and he and his mom don’t talk at all. His mom has turned his younger siblings against him and his older sister who’s also estranged from their mom lives out of state. There’s a lot of background but I won’t go into details.
I’d really like to invite him next weekend to my dad’s place for a barbecue he’s having on Sunday. He’s not going to be spending the holiday weekend with his family and I hate the thought of him spending the day alone. So is it too early in our relationship to introduce him to my dad, my sister and a few of my aunts and uncles? Will he feel overwhelmed meeting all these people? Will it seem like I’m rushing him along? Any advice or insights you all can give me would be really appreciated.

So I’m 18M and I have a half brother who is the same age as me. We’ll call him Cameron. Our dad got two women pregnant around the same time. I’m older by 6 months. My dad chose Cameron’s mom over mine and they’re married now. Cameron is his parents’ only child.
Anyway so I’ve always felt like I was just a backup son for my dad. I know he does love me, but not as much as Cameron. I live an hour and a half away from him but he would always make the drive to come see me when I was younger and still does to this day. If I ever need anything he’ll make sure I get it. He took me on trips all the time with just me and him. But still I felt like an outsider. He would constantly put me second to Cameron. If we both had sports games on the same day he would always go to Cameron’s with his wife. Once when I had an award ceremony he couldn’t come because Cameron was sick (it was just a cold btw). When I wanted him to teach me how to drive he said he couldn’t because he promised Cameron he would teach him first but that he’d help me after Cameron got his license. I could list off a bunch of other examples. My dad would show up to my stuff but if Cameron had something going on at the same time he wouldn’t come.
Cameron and I aren’t friends. We get along fine if we’re together but neither of us is going out of the way to talk to the other. I think he’s spoiled and obviously our dad’s favorite. Our dad and his mom did him no favors because his grades are bad and his life has no direction. He didn’t apply to any colleges and he won’t even get a part time job.
We’re both graduating high school this year. His school district released their graduation schedule after mine and of course our graduations are on the same day at the same time. We live an hour and a half apart so obviously our dad can’t make it to both. He’s known my graduation date for weeks before Cameron learned his. We already had plans for him to come and spend the day here. But I knew as soon as I saw that schedule he was gonna flake. At first he said he wasn’t sure what he was gonna do. He’s been avoiding the topic for weeks but our graduations are on the 29th so he has to decide now.
Well yesterday he took me to dinner. He told me that he was going to go to Cameron’s graduation. He said it was because Cameron’s grandparents weren’t gonna be able to make it and Cameron would only have his mom while I have my mom, stepdad, siblings, and grandparents all coming to mine. I’m not an idiot. It was just an excuse that I knew would be coming. He tried to soften the blow by promising me he’d make up for it by taking me on a graduation trip anywhere I wanted to go. Even though he had already promised me that months ago. He’s taking his wife and Cameron on a family trip to Hawaii in June. It’s supposed to be Cameron’s graduation trip but he promised he and I would have our own trip. Now all of a sudden that trip is supposed to also be a makeup for missing my graduation.
So I told him okay, I want to go to this one weekend event that is on the same week he’s going to Hawaii. He told me he can’t because that’s when they’re going to Hawaii. I didn’t actually wanna go to this event, I was just proving a point. I told him to postpone his Hawaii trip so he can take me to the event. He said he can’t because everything is already paid for and non-refundable. I told him that he’s missing my high school graduation. The least he can do is make me the priority when it comes to the graduation trips. He said I’d have to pick a different weekend. I told him he doesn’t actually care about making it up to me. He’s only okay with what I want so long as it doesn’t interfere with his real family. He denied it and told me to try to understand the position he’s in.
I told him straight up that he always chooses Cameron over me. For once I want to be the first choice. So I said I’ll have a ticket ready for him but that if he doesn’t come I’ll know where I stand in his life. I don’t care about a makeup trip. Either he shows up and we still have a relationship or I’m just done with him. He told me that I was being unreasonable and maybe I am, but I’m still standing my ground. I already know he’s not going to come, even after my ultimatum. So am I the asshole for throwing away our entire relationship over this?

Fear not: for I am with thee: I will bring thy seed from the east, and gather thee from the west;I will say to the north, Give up; and to the south, Keep not back: bring my sons from far, and my daughters from the ends of the earth