I’m not sure if this has been said yet but Scheana and Lala need to stop using motherhood as a weapon against Katie and Ariana.
First Scheana goes on and on about mom guilt when she mentions going to watch Ariana on broadway. Like girl you were already in New York and keep going to festivals, but your mom guilt only occurs when you go watch Chicago?!
Then at the reunion (and after show) Lala drags Katie’s business “more like nothing about her.” She wants Katie to speak badly about her business partner, and the outcome of that is “I have a business and blah blah my child”
Like just because you have children doesn’t mean people who don’t have kids don’t need their businesses and their businesses are less valuable. And I know for damn sure next season they going to use their children to excuse their season 11 behaviour.

I was just talking to a family friend in his 30s. This guy is really a good person, has a great personality, and comes from a wealthy family. He got married around 2 years ago. Everything was fine at the start, but after a year, an argument took place between him and his wife. She filed a false domestic violence case against him. He did everything he could to fight the case in court, but unfortunately, the judges favored his wife, and she won. They got divorced, and his wife took around 50 lakhs from him. I feel extremely bad for him. He was totally innocent, and now he's become extremely depressed. He has even given up on the idea of any future marriage.
I don't want to generalize, but some girls of this generation can be very clever. They may choose you only if you are earning a good amount of money or if your family has lots of generational wealth. Even then, you might not remain safe after marriage. I don't want to see any more of my brothers suffering the same fate. So please be extremely careful while choosing a partner. First, spend a lot of time with her, get to know everything about her, and then make a decision.

My (24F) boyfriend (24M) is planning a solo trip with his female best friend (24F) whom he met around the time we started dating (about one and a half years ago). She moved across the US this past Fall, and is now making plans to go hiking and backpacking with him across several states. With some of my circumstances right now, I can't join. I also don't really know this female friend of his personally (we've never spoken or texted), and the idea of them being alone for this trip over a span of weeks makes me uncomfortable, especially considering that they also might stay over together at her relatives' place.
For background, this friend of his is single and has gone on multiple day trips with him before, none of which I could join. They spent a lot of time together until she moved, going shopping and visiting places like gardens and cities; he and I don't get to do these things often. I expressed that I was disappointed that I couldn't go, but I didn't say no (I couldn't say no either since they'd already bought tickets). He later said that I was "guilt tripping" him and made it hard for him to fully enjoy the trips because of how I felt... When I mentioned this to a friend, they suggested he might just be guilt tripping himself and wasn't considering my feelings. I realized that if he really valued my feelings he may have reconsidered or planned out longer trips with me in mind. I asked him directly about how he feels towards this girl, and he's assured me that it's purely platonic and that she's not his "type", but I still feel like my feelings as his partner don't really matter in the trip planning since I normally can't join.
Now, he's been asking to go on this larger trip with her, or another trip instead with a different female friend (also 24F who I know). I've let him know that I would certainly not mind if it were any male friend, but he says none of them would be interested in going. The entire overnight and sleeping situation with another female seems odd to me, but he still hasn't really clarified any details or what the duration of the trip is. He hasn't really reassured me besides that he isn't romantically or sexually interested in this friend; although I do appreciate this and trust him, there are previous instances where he has acted questionably. Additionally, he proposes that if I had gone on a similar trip with a close (mutual) male friend, he wouldn't mind... However, I personally believe traveling for weeks (alone with the opposite gender) is something reserved for your partner when you're in a relationship; if he were single, it would be a different story.
He and I are both aware of our different perspectives on this matter, and we also know that my circumstances prevent me from traveling for a while. I've asked him if he could possibly wait until I'm able to join (which should be in a year or two), but he seems really eager to go on this trip. I feel like I'm taking away his enjoyment because of my situation, but I also feel pretty uncomfortable yet have been trying my best. Are there any compromises that would make us both feel comfortable? What would be the best way to proceed in a situation like this?
TLDR: My boyfriend is planning a long trip of several weeks with a female friend he met around the time we started dating. I can't join due to my current situation (for a year or so), and I feel uncomfortable since I don't know her. Despite my feelings, he insists on going (and asks for permission), saying their relationship is purely platonic. I'm unsure how to handle my feelings and the situation. What's the best way to proceed?

ChocoPro 374: Pure Energy On the next ChocoPro: The BestBros face off against the next strange assassin chosen by Masa on their road to their next title defense, Erii’s trials continue as she challenges 20 year veteran Bambi, and finally the Setouchi Sisters attempt to bring an end to Popcorn Carnivals momentum! This one should be extra wild and spicy! Let’s Go, ChocoPro!
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BestBros (Mei Suruga 🍎 & Baliyan Akki ♠️)

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Masa Takanashi 🍶 & 2daime Tappuri Tarako Man 🆕

2daime Tappuri Tarako Man

Right there! The Best Bros (Mei Suruga & Baliyan Akki) are the Asia Dream Tag Champions. While the Belt Days might not be numbered anymore, the champs still protect their gold against all foes with equal passion. “Apple Goblin” Mei Suruga tends to be the one who seals the deal, one way or another. This Pin Specialist and Submission Innovator will find a way to put their foes down, every single time. Someday the world will acknowledge her genius! The Ace of ChocoPro, Akki, manages to keep a cool head unlike his short tempered partner. His breezy strike combos and all around skills are unrivaled in the Square. Will the Zephyr of Ichigaya perform an aerial feat? Will he wrap his opponents in that brutal Kimagure Lock? Together, these two are a universal threat. The BestBros are not only the champs, but also the pinnacle of ChocoPro's tag division. The Genius & the Ace will be looking to send another message to Masa ahead of the Apple Ambitious show at the end of the month. Can they defeat the next strange appearance?
Speaking of which, the person bringing this series of foes in is the Drunken Monkey, Masa Takanashi! He is smooth as butter in both the ring and square. Being a defensive tactician and tag specialist comes in handy! His flashy counter-fighter style is a great support role, and incredibly effective against multiple opponents. Since this will be on the road to the Thunders title shot against the Bros, expect the Drunken Monkey to continue to grind them down! He’ll be joined by another hired gun to bring down the BestBros before their title defense, this time in the form of...a food man? Who or what is 2daime Tappuri Tarako Man!? Tarako consists of plain, salted sacks of pollock or cod roe. It’s a delicious part of Japanese cuisine! But this one wrestles. There was once another version of this food to appear in the GTMV universe, but this mystrious wrestler is the second generation (not at all because Masa is the tag partner, of course). They’ll be plenty of cod roe related humor in this one...and potentially Mei trying to eat a sentient creature (again). Did you know Tarako is the roe of the Alaskan Pollock, which is actually a cod, despite its name?

Erii Kanae 🎼

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Bambi 🆕

Erii’s Trials: 2 Months, 20 Years

Take-down specialist Erii Kanae is always fired up! With Lime Green gear, fierce determination, and an air of mysterious potential, the latest member of GTMV will be looking to prove herself! This tackle-focused rookie is all about going on the attack, when she isn’t nimbly dodging her seniors. Watch for that shot-put style strike! Her relentless offense and overwhelming fury could be the key to taking down her veteran opponent. Can she overcome another difference in power to bring down Bambi? Show your endless passion, Erii!
Bambi finally appears in the numbered ChocoPro episodes! This whip brandishing freelancer is a product of the Kaientai Dojo (much like Hagane Shinno!) and is celebrating her 20th Anniversary in Pro-Wrestling (compared to Erii’s two months!). She has appeared in plenty of promotions across her long career...and also is a comic illustrator! Ichigaya has been attracting artists these days. Bambi’s size, power, and experience will probably give her an edge over the plucky rookie, but this will be an excellent lesson for Erii. Remember, Bambi overpowered both Obi & Mei in her last appearance!

Popcorn Carnival (Chie Koishikawa 🏵️ & Sayaka Obihiro 💙)

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Setouchi Sisters (Miya Yotsuba 🍀 & Nonoka Seto 🍋)

Pure Energy

The Popcorn Carnival continues! The always spicy Sayaka Obihiro, when paired with “Too Much Energy” Chie Koishikawa, are a high impact striking duo that will always bring it in the Square. The recently recovered Chie is a very warm presence, but even more so with her Hero, Mentor, and the chaotic Soul of Gatoh Move itself: Obi! The Blue Heart & Guard Dog of Ichigaya always leave a mark on their foes, and this time they will be further motivated to punish their juniors. It should be a fun mix of the unique fencing chops of the shark loving girl that loves to say “Hello!”, and the almost magic movement and pinning style of “Sprint” Obi. Chie's journey into counters and advanced tactics has made her a real threat! Are we gonna see some of Obi's devastating heavy chops, second only to the Oni herself? On top of all that, this is one of the most charismatic combo's that ChocoPro can field. These two together are loud, energetic, out of control, and on a roll! Can the Sisters bring an end to the Popcorn Carnival?
Did you know that Miya Yotsuba & Nonoka Seto are actually sisters? With each match, the Setouchi Sisters continue improving their natural synergy. Miya provides an intense power and presence unheard of in someone so new to the sport, while Nonoka is an inferno of passion and speed. Miya’s hammer blows and backbreakers can help even the odds, while Nonoka’s adaptability combined with her agility can be a game changer. She’s making great use of her Cravat technique! Together they’re improving at an alarming rate. The students of Mei Suruga are proving their worth on every showing. Can the Sisters establish themselves as a high threat tag team by taking down the Carnival? Facing off against a loud and energetic team with momentum is a tough task, but these two spunky sisters are more than capable of giving their seniors a run for their money. Will Miya overwhelm them with her power? Can Nonoka out maneuver their quick foes? They’ll have their work cut out for them, but everyone loves an underdog. Good luck, Setouchi Sisters!
Until next time!
ChocoPro is a free online promotion run by AEW's Emi Sakura, that takes place in the legendary Ichigaya Chocolate Square! It features a steady pace of Episode releases, fan interaction, long story arcs, and much more! A place where the turnbuckles are replaced with 14th floor windows, the ropes are replaced with fans, unforgiving walls provide creative avenues for skills otherwise unthinkable, and you can take solace in knowing that the referees usually do nothing. While it might be a shocking change at first, the intensity and storytelling will leave you wanting more. Think of it like the Hart Dungeon but as a promotion, if that helps! If you have any questions, feel free to ask me.

Hello,
I am a 21 year old bisexual. After the recent rise of popularity of a song (Good Luck, Babe! By Chappel Roan) on TikTok, I've been listening to it nonstop. I've ugly cried to it more than once. But it's normal, right?
Until I saw another video with the song. The text on the video is: "bisexual girls if you feel "called out" by this bridge maybe you should look a little deeper because as someone bisexual that's engaged to a man I don't feel called out, I just vibe" which made me realise several things:

1. I always tell others my attraction towards women were innate. I liked girls ever since I was a kid (I came out as gay at 11). It wasn't until I was 16, that I had genuine romantic feelings for men.
2. I have a boyfriend now, he is the best partner I've had so far. We are very serious about each other and planning to get married in 2 years. But I've always told him that the reason why I actively seek men after I finish high school is because I don't want to have "drama" and conflicts with my family (very religious Catholics). My mom, although not religious, had beaten me up when she found out that I had a girlfriend at 15. I feel defeated when I'm with a girl because I know my family wouldn't like it. Additionally, I'm in a country that criminalised homosexuality. The punishment for committing homosexuality is public canning and imprisonment.
3. I've always felt like marriage with a man feels incomplete. That it would invalidate my wlw experiences. Being with men sometimes feel like a chore. Although this is not the case with my current boyfriend.
4. It's so easy for me to find women attractive, but with men I find it hard to see them romantically or sexually. The number of women I've find attractive/have a crush is greater than it is with men.

I don't know how to navigate through this confusion. Please give some words that could actually clear up things. Thank you.

I’ve been with my partner for 6, known him for 7 and within the first year and half he cheated on me with someone and it caused ALOT of problems afterwards. I was never the same and it took me a long time to get over it. Lately we have been having problems because we are long distance and doing our own thing and he’s been feeling lonely and depresssed and we have been having fights. The other day he was sharing his screen because he was helping me with something then I caught a glimpse of his email and I saw her name and I asked him. I got really angry and he told me that we had fights almost everyday and he thought he was no other person to reach out to expect for her.
All these years I had a fear he liked her even though he said he did not and he tried to work through the relationship and make me a priority but told me I would not let go (which was true) until almost a year ago I finally let go but we started to fight a lot recently. I started think of the past and having PTSD again. He told me he will stop talking to her once I calm down and not start fights, as if he’s using her as a weapon. He told me he will show me what email he will send her to tell her to fuck off. Has anyone experienced this ? What does this mean ? Does he still have feelings?

Mods pls remove this if it doesnt belong here but I need a place to vent
This is a long rant pls bear with me
In the month of March I came out of a friendship with a very slyly manipulative person, due to this I had lost my self esteem, self confidence had trust issues to an extent where I felt that I was unlovable.
To actually test out my doubts and to find some emotional connection, I went on a dating app, I was getting right swipes but no good conversation, until I saw the profile of a girl who had the bio of avg 20yr old female which was full of demands from her future partner and said she was looking for longterm. I texted her regarding how I find her bio wrong n she started to built a convo.
We began talking she showed so much enthusiasm, so much energy and flirty ness that I was like woah this is good, we talked n joked, for the next 8 days things went well, and so well that we had about 6000 messages(where about 55% of messages were from her side), 11 hours of video calls where she told me about her trauma, her past relationships(she said there were 3) I shared mine too , our exs n all , I messed up by get irritating by her male friends, which was my fault (I took full responsibility over it) etc and I started falling for her, we talked on how communication is important for us. We were long distance I live near Mumbai n have my college here, she has college in Bhubaneshwar.
We were getting so close that we used to share the messages we got from other ppl on dating apps with each other and she sent me a screenshot of her friend who was commenting about her body n all in a flirtatious way i was like ehh aint this wrong n all since she was the one who began the talk of being serious n all. I also got to know she lied about number of her exes it was 6 which invovled this friend too.
She used to flirt like hell and when i said dont go itna fast she used get a little upset and that chat was yesterday she said no no he is a friend n all etc things happened we communicated and we moved forward that thing. She told me this guy was her ex-situation ship that too only for a week, but then I asked her why is he still talking to u like this she said o aisa hi hai n all, I let it go. Things were going well, we used to play chess even though we were booth noobs n online games together etc.
Out of no where she says she wants to end this and I was like but was shunned from inside bcs this is the same person who was showing so much effort n all n suddenly at 3:30 am, I was shocked n my pit of traumas opened again, but i asked her for the actual reason n all she told me i was possessive n all, I agreed n told her ki I will work on it which I actually did, I used to read articles, become aware of the exact cause becoming possessive n all.
She was impressed n all. We used to exchange emails to appreciate each other and she promised in a email that she would work on her communication and appreciated me how I was different from other guys since I expressed myself n all.
But her attitude changed she reduced texting n all but we used to come on video call at night, I communicate that to her but she was like no I was sleeping, schedule change etc. I got bit suspicious but trusted her, once we were talking, she was sharing her screen and I saw a message of the same friend on telegram where he was again talking about kissing her n all. I was like dude ye kya she said isi trha n all, i asked her as we move forward will she end her contact with him, she said no and now their friendship is just friendship but then i saw in the chat that they had kissed on 20th April, which is just before just before her college closed for holidays n a few days before me n this girl met.
All this stuff in the last 15-20 days have taught me to trust my instincts n not get flown away just bcs a person is talking nicely, dont trust them so early, dont share so early, dont allow them to get close so early.
I have almost lost all trust in her and now I have given few questions to answer and only then I will move forward with her these include question regarding her feelings on that guy, why isnt she texting n all etc.

Here we go, I started liking Leazel, Karlach showed up and a friend conviced me shes the one, persued her for most of my game, but always felt like I really enjoyed Leazels growth more...I realised I have really been in love with her and missed her. At 168hours through 4 months of gameplay I am starting Act 3, and I have finally decided to reload my last save with the girl I fell in love with first... That save is at 34hours... Act 1. I feel I need to finish the game with the right partner, whom I will really appreciate it with. Its going ro be tough, but I need to do this. Thanks for reading my soppy rant.
Context: My time is extremely limited, hence why it took me 4 months to get to the start of Act 3. I guess Im scared of killing my passion with a forced re-do of 4 months.

We (21F, 23M) were together for 5 years and lived together for 1 year. In the last month, I felt that something was wrong. When he was out with his friends, he still wrote to me like he usually did (saying things like "I'm looking forward to coming home" and such), but there was less affection when we were together at home. When he broke up with me after an argument, he told me that he still loves me romantically but has a feeling inside him that doesn't want to be in a relationship. He said that sometimes he doesn't look forward to coming home when he's out partying or whatever. It's not that he doesn't want to come home and see me, but more like he doesn't always want to come home early anymore. He didn't give me a further explanation because he's unsure himself.
My friends told me that it's super childish and that there has to be another reason. Some suggested he probably met someone new since he started university about half a year ago, or that he wanted to see if the grass is greener elsewhere, or that he just lost his feelings. He was always a nice and sincere guy, so I somehow believe him when he says he doesn't know what he wants. But on the other hand, it's also confusing because the feeling could also come from too much coziness and shouldn't lead to a breakup (especially after our time together and his dream about marrying me, traveling together in the future, kids, etc.) In my opinion: after 5 years and 1 year living together, it's somewhat normal that you don't always be super excited coming home because getting used to it that your partner is there.
After the breakup, we sometimes wrote to each other, initiated by both him and me. It was really hard to let go, but the moment I finally got my act together was when he went to a hotel with a girl from university and lied to me, saying he was sleeping at a friend's place (the first time he lied to me). I told him that I was really hurt that he could do this just three weeks after our breakup. Of course, we were broken up at that point, but to me, it was really disrespectful to the relationship and to me, who was bawling my eyes out over him and he knew how I was dealing with the breakup.
Anyway, he's been partying a lot and spending time with his new friends at university. We've been in no contact for three weeks now, and he hasn't written to me once. I also get the feeling that he's not dealing with the breakup and won't give me a proper explanation because he's enjoying his life now. So, I'm searching for someone who maybe had the same experience and can give me some explanations or tips. I know he should be the one to give me answers and closure, but it seems like he never will. In the meantime, I'm blaming myself for not being enough as a girlfriend.

Tldr: Just realized friends that i knew for 2 years are actually assholes, but I'm scared to find another friend group.
More context: I find it really hard to make friends, so when i moved pretty far away from my hometown for college so I've been seperated from the only friend group i had. I found a friend group that was really nice and generally been fun to hangout with.
So two of our friends(Friend A&B)in the group fought over a girl and a lot of drama happened, i didn't really get involved with this so i don't know too much, because of this one of my friends(Friend A) decided to leave our friend group, i thought they were fine with it at first but overtime they started to absolutely hate on this dude any chance they get.(Making fun of the dudes appearance, odor, etc.). Admittedly even I started joining on this, and have generally been an asshole as well now that i reflected on it.
Recently the only friend of mine(Friend C) outside this group was really uncomfortable with the jokes that my friends are saying about us saying that ("we were gay and sucking each other off"). Because I've been partnering up with said friend C for group projects lately and not with them. I didn't really mind it at first and i just treated it as jokes.
This "joke" continued on for months and I didn't really care but one day friend C couldn't take it anymore and got mad at them saying this isn't fine, friend group just laughed it off saying friend C is sensitive and privately Friend C called me an enabler. This caused me to reflect on myself because what I've been doing (or not doing anything)does not allign with my values at all and at our friendship because I realized that some of their jokes are borderline bullying. However I'm scared to leave the friend group because we're a block section and I'll be stuck with them for another 2 years.
This is really difficult for me since my most of my experience with them have been good. But the way they're treating other people and the way they've been influencing me are concerning. I don't really have anyone else to talk to so I'm just yapping here on reddit.

My boyfriend and I have been together for four months, and until now have shared what I thought was a mutually loving relationship. At the beginning of the relationship, I told him in depth about my experiences of being cheated on, and deceived in my past relationships, and how trust is now a struggle for me. For him it’s his first relationship. He told me at the time that he wanted to be the man who helped me heal from this, and I committed myself to giving him my trust unless he gave me a reason not to, even though it scared me. And I have. I’ve been getting counselling and have worked really hard to give our relationship its best chance, and I had so far managed to build a solid foundation of trust with him which I had never quite achieved in previous relationships. I really started to believe that he was different and that I could actually trust him. We had a conversation early in the relationship about porn, and while I did say that I wasn’t super comfortable with it, and that I didn’t think it was ideal to view while in a relationship and can also be quite harmful to the viewer, I didn’t say it was a dealbreaker for me. He at some point after that conversation then told me that he had stopped watching porn. Recently, I have moved into his house where he lives with his mum, on a temporary basis until we return from a holiday that I’m due to join him on in a few weeks. While we were laying in bed the other night, he opened his laptop in front of me and there was a tab open of a girls Tik Tok account that he clicked on and then quickly closed after I saw it. I asked him what it was and he looked sick and started acting cagey and wouldn’t answer my question. Eventually after me asking several more times, he said what it was. I asked why he had been looking at it and he again wouldn’t answer until I asked several times, and then said to me “it’s what you’re assuming probably”. I told him I wasn’t assuming anything and needed him to tell me himself, and he said that he had been masturbating to one of her tik toks the other day when I left for work, after we had already had sex that morning. I asked who the girl was and he said it was just some random, but he then elaborated that he’s met her before and has hung out in the same circle as her in social settings several times before we met and he thought she was ‘hot’ but has never actually spoken to her. I asked if he’s friends with her or follows her on any of his socials and he said no, which he then confirmed. I asked him how many times he’s masturbated to other women that he’s met in real life while he’s been with me and he said around 10 times. He said that his sexual attraction for other women didn’t end when he got into a relationship with me and that he thinks it’s just that “red-blooded male” thing of desiring variety, and that he’s had thoughts of these women and masturbating to them has been like a release of these sexual thoughts. It hurts me a lot as I’ve only been sexually attracted to him and haven’t desired or thought of anyone else sexually since we’ve been together, but we obviously have different natures which I can understand isn’t something that can be controlled even though it breaks my heart to know. In saying that, I said to him that even if his sexual urges for other women didn’t stop when we got together, what should have stopped out of respect for his commitment to me is him acting on it in any way. He said that it’s a normal thing for men to do and that he viewed it as being in a similar vein to watching porn as to him it was just a visual that he found sexually stimulating, but to me it feels akin to cheating even though logically I know it’s not, as he hasn’t been getting off on the act of sex but rather the fantasy of another person (the tik toks weren’t sexually explicit and were just of the girls face and body). To me it feels like he would sleep with these women if he had the opportunity, even while in a relationship with me, and it especially hurts that he’s done this after we’ve just had sex as if I’m not satisfying enough for him. We have a very active and fulfilling sex life and have had sex every single day that we’ve seen each other since we got together, he’s had many new sexual experiences with me and has been very vocal since the beginning that our sex is the best sex he’s ever had and that I’m everything he could ever want, and that he’s intensely attracted to me and satisfied by me in every way, so I don’t understand why it hasn’t been enough. Even after this he’s still saying that I’m everything he wants and I’m his dream woman, which is pretty hard to believe given what he’s been doing. He said he himself that he doesn’t understand how he could have everything he could possibly want and need and still feel the urge to do what he’s done as well. I asked him how he would feel if I did the same thing and he said he would feel sick and disgusted, and he admitted that he never wanted me to know because he knew it was wrong and would hurt me, yet has done so anyway under the basis that what I didn’t know couldn’t hurt me, so I’m struggling to believe that he even loves me when he hasn’t been doing so behind my back. To add insult to injury, he’s an extremely self-disciplined man in other areas of his life. He’s an mma athlete and I’ve recently just watched him go through a training camp which he put his absolute all into and made many sacrifices for, yet he hasn’t afforded me or our relationship the same level of commitment. Anyway, he’s since been extremely apologetic and remorseful and has been crying constantly as I’ve been contemplating whether to continue the relationship or not. He said that he feels sick for hurting me like this and doing the opposite of what he said he was going to do, and that he’ll never do it again and will do anything to earn my trust back and repair the relationship. He’s deleted and blocked certain girls on his socials and removed other ‘temptations’ from his view, let me see his phone and messages on his socials to assure me that it never went beyond this, and arranged to get counselling in a couple days which he’s said he will commit to doing as regularly as he needs to change and be the partner I deserve. I don’t know what to do as I believe he means it when he says he wants and intends to change but firstly, he’s still going to have his socials (and I wouldn’t ask him to delete them) so it would be very easy for him to unblock and go to these public profiles that he’s been using, and at the end of the day he’s still going to be who he is at the core regardless of what’s on his socials. I’m also worried that he’s just saying whatever he can so I won’t leave him and that it wouldn’t hold up once he felt comfortable again. I love him to bits and we’ve had an otherwise happy and healthy relationship so I want to give him a chance to do what he’s said but any trust I had in him has been completely destroyed. I know that he would have continued doing what he was doing had I not accidentally seen what I did and he’s admitted that he wouldn’t have been honest if I hadn’t of seen that and had just randomly asked, so I know he’s dishonest now. I’m scared that if he’s already been doing something that he knew would hurt me and has given into his sexual urges for other women in a way, that he could go all the way with it and sleep with someone else. And I’m worried that these habits might be too deeply ingrained (he’s been doing this for years and years) so he may not be able to change, and while I’m willing to give him a chance and at least just see how it goes and if he doesn’t stick to what he’s said then I’ll end the relationship, I’m concerned that he might continue to do what he’s been doing and just get better at hiding it and continue to deceive me because he doesn’t want to lose me. And lastly, my biggest concern is that giving him a chance will ruin my mental health in the process. He’s now on his way to Thailand where I’m supposed to be meeting him in three weeks time, and I’m already full of worry knowing all of this now, wondering if he’ll be unfaithful during his time alone over there and then keep it from me. So reddit, please weigh in, should I give him a chance?
TLDR: My boyfriend has been masturbating to the social media posts of other women that he’s met/knows in real life while he’s been in a relationship with me, and has hidden this from me. The trust is gone and I don’t know whether to give him another chance or end the relationship.

For backround, matagal na ko (26F) may bipolar disorder and since highschool ko kilala yung SO (28M) ko. He is aware of all my problems and struggles and he's been my best friend ever since.
Recently, I've been getting better and handling all my challenges really well kahit mag-isa ako and mas self-aware na ko ngayon. Di na ko nagpapadala sa emotions and mas rational na din ako mag-isip. But since I started my journey of taking control of my disorder, napapansin ko na mas nagiging aware na din ako sa mga relationship problems namin.
Important to note, we started out as highschool friends pero he became the boyfriend of my bully. Aware naman sya na inaaway and binubully ako nung girl but dahil naging close kami, I didn't let that get in the way of our friendship since nauna kaming friends before nya jowain yung bully ko lol. Lumayo ako nung naging too much na si girl, but he kept pushing na maging close parin kami, so nung nag break sila mas lalo kami naging close and basically buong buhay ko kwinento ko na sakanya kasi naging mag best friend na din kami. Ilang beses ko na din inamin sakanya before na may gusto ako sakanya but lagi nya ko nirereject kasi di pa daw sya ready, but we didn't let that ruin the friendship. It's an important part of the story kasi I think it'll help build lang yung structure kung san kami nagstart, and bakit ako nagka mental problems in the first place.
Come college, naging mag schoolmate ulit kami and dun ako nakaramdam na parang nirereciprocate na nya yung feelings ko kasi naging sweeter and clingier sya sakin. By the time na on the verge of being together na kami, nagka encounter sya with his ex na muntik may mangyari sakanila, so I cut him off kasi super sakit.
Fast forward, things worked out kasi I realized sya lang yung meron ako in my life that time considering na sya lang yung best friend ko and I reached out again kaya naging kami months or a year after pero super nahirapan ako nung first few years of our relationship kasi may pagkaselfish sya na I had to always be available for intimacy kahit hindi ako pinapayagan ng parents ko lumabas. Ang dami kong adjustment na ginawa for him, mala pumapayag sa mga hindi gusto levels lol. It took years para maging mas selfless sya and eventually we improved and grew so much as a couple na feeling ng lahat ng tao ideal kami for each other.
Nung lumala yung disorder ko, he was there for me through and through until I reached this point na feeling ko I can handle it na. Pero eto yung mahirap na part kasi I learned to love and take care of myself so napapaisip na ko minsan, bakit ganun?
Ilang beses ko na sinabi na I feel left out and lonely kasi lagi sya nakatutok sa phone nya, pero hindi parin nya nacoconsider yung wasted time together namin kasi kahit nagkkwento ako, titingin sya sa phone nya. Ilang beses ko na sinabi na dapat itreat nya ko as a partner talaga especially pag may kailangan sya, pero nagsasarili parin sya, tapos when I get upset kasi hindi sya naging considerate sakin as a partner, feeling nya inaaway ko lang sya and I'm upset for no reason. Ilang beses ko na sinabi sakanya na pag may arguement kami wag nya ko basta iiwan sa ere kasi nagsspiral ako, pero tutulugan nya ko.
Before kasi never ko cinoconsider yung gusto ko, kung okay ba sakin, or if sasaya ba ko, I always just did what would make him happy kasi wala akong love for myself. Ngayon nahanap ko na yung self respect ko and narerealize ko na kung ano yung mga gusto at ayaw ko, and willing na ko ivoice out yun VS dati na oo lang ako ng oo. But don't get me wrong sobrang caring din naman nya, gusto nya inaalagaan nya ko and tinutulungan, he loves doing things for me and kahit pano may adjustments parin syang ginagawa for me.
Medyo mahirap iexplain pero feeling ko kasi it's a MUST na maging stable ako kasi lagi nya sinasabi he'll be happy pag happy na ko, pero ngayon na medyo kinakaya ko na, parang bigla ko nang napapansin na bakit ikaw minor nalang pinapaconsider ko sayo para hindi ako macast aside as a partner, but ilang years ko na brinibring up yung same issues to no avail?
Kaya ko naisip na baka ako yung gago is because I feel selfish na he's been with me and he got me through my darkest times, pero ngayon na umookay ako, nagiging aware na ko bigla sa mga di ko gusto. Yung parang nung nahanap ko self worth ko, biglang ayoko na to deal with his shit? Feeling ko ang sama kong tao kasi tinulungan nya ko for years pero ngayon bigla ko nang napapansin yung things I don't like about our relationship. Gusto ko lang malaman if I am being cruel for thinking na baka kaya pala kami nagwork before is because he is a savior and I needed saving pero ngayong nasasave ko sarili ko biglang hindi pala kami compatible.
Thanks in advance.

i am his first girlfriend and first sexual partner. he is my second boyfriend. he does not entertain other women. he always shows his love for me and has done nothing wrong to make me feel insecure/ugly, but i cant help feeling this way.
it all started when i asked him why he doesn’t compliment me anymore. he said its because i look the same when he sees me, which is true. i wear almost the same clothes every week, same makeup every day, don't accessorize, and don't style my hair (i just brush it). ive been thinking about experimenting with my appearance before he said anything. his answer to my question was the final push that i needed. ive been experimenting with small changes to my appearance: wearing trying eyeliner, bigger false lashes, new lipstick colors, a few new clothes, and some new lingerie. before, i didnt wear a full face of makeup. now ive been wearing a full face of makeup because im more insecure now. he says i dont need makeup and he finds me attractive without it. ive been comparing myself to other girls more often and i think a lot about how i can become prettier.
my insecurities have been prevalent in our sex life. i'm somewhat confident in my body, but i have some insecurities as well. he compliments my body, but i cant get over my insecurities. during sex i am mostly in the moment but sometimes i think about my insecurities, which can make it difficult for me to enjoy sex. something that happened recently was after sex, my boyfriend said i had muscular thighs and he likes them. i do not workout my legs and my thighs are one of my biggest insecurities on my body. there are a lot of sex ideas that i fantasize about but dont have the confidence to try them. i discussed this with my boyfriend and he said that he wont judge whatever i do and to let loose but i just cant let myself loose.

Hello everybody, my (26 cis lesbian) gf (26 trans post-everything girl)’s behavior towards permanent hair removal is snowballing to me questioning if she’ll be able to be happy one day.
Seems very unreasonable since it’s just hair I guess but she has a history of being unhappy and it is constant at this point from the moment I met her. Since it was always justified before I always took it as a normal reaction to her bad situation, she had to move out of the US to her home country and forced into military service for almost 2 years. As a trans girl who was out to all her relatives except family it must have been extremely difficult and traumatic and she’s still in for 6 months.
As her partner (I met her 6 months before military) I always try to make everything I can to help daily, we always talk, I try to make her happy and we go out on her days out of the base and do things she wants to do. She’s happy but I feel like something is off, she always keeps me at arms length in certain areas of her life, I don’t know even know what any friends or family member looks like, let alone meeting them.
A few weeks ago I offered to pay for her laser removal of facial hair + another area every session, we already talked about it, I knew she wanted it and she hates her hair. Yet now she’ll find any excuse to not do it, the professional here are not to be trusted (they are and I picked one of the best in the country), she’s afraid to be burn/scarring but haven’t yet researched the subject, …
It seems to me that she gave up on realistic steps forwards and is thinking that a miracle will arrive and she won’t have to do anything to get to her goals.
I guess my question is : does it look like she doesn’t want to be happy anymore? She’s refusing to do something that would make her daily life much more enjoyable and now I feel like maybe she’s so desperate that she feels as if any step towards real progress is taking her further away from a comfortable delusion. Did any of you experience that ? How did you found a way out ?
She also deeply regret not having been able to transition before puberty and now that it keeps being delayed she’s deeply scared she’ll never pass which I think is unreasonable but also understandable fear.
Sorry my English is a bit messy, I’m not a native of this language.
Thank you for any comment that can help me see through this situation, I’m starting to think we should part ways for some time, I’m constantly caring and am tired but I don’t want to do that.

So, I need to know if I’m the bad guy in this situation because I feel very conflicted. My boyfriend and I have been dating & seeing each other now for about 5 months. We live in separate countries and I’m due to go down to visit him in a month. We’ve had a wonderful relationship for the most part, the only really rocky parts have been our discussions around distance and how we are going to navigate it being on two separate sides of the world. We met when he was on vacation in my city earlier in the year and fell for each other very quickly.
I have a TikTok account with a small following (around 7.5k) that I’ve been actively posting on for the last 2 years. I have a small community of girls that watch & love my videos and I’ve posted a lot about my dating journey over the last 2 years, making videos about dating, men and all of that kind of stuff alongside lifestyle & makeup content. My boyfriend doesn’t have TikTok, and when I showed him my account he thought it was pretty cool that I had a few followers and loved that I posted online. When we first went on a few dates while he was visiting my country, I made some TikTok stories hinting at the fact that I’d met someone. 2 months later he visited me and we had the most wonderful time and really solidified our relationship. After he left, I posted 2 videos on TikTok essentially giving the rundown of our whirlwind relationship because it was very “straight out of a movie” and the girls that follow me were all sooo eager to know what had transpired.
I posted these videos but never said my boyfriend’s name or gave any details about him, other than how we met, how we feel and the fact that we are dating. In the videos I say nothing but sweet and lovely things and praise him for being so wonderful and making me very happy. The videos got a few thousand views and all the comments came from long time watchers of mine just expressing their happiness for me as I wrap up my dating journey. I posted these videos 6 weeks ago, and he only became aware of them 2 days ago when one of his friends told him I had posted videos about our relationship. I know he doesn’t have TikTok, but figured he probably still watches my videos or keeps tabs on my page knowing it’s something I actively do. I also just thought that he’d see them, think they were sweet and not really care about them. Because posting as always just been apart of my weeks, I never thought to tell him that I was making videos about it because we are dating and the videos were overwhelmingly sweet & positive and again, I never gave any of his details away.
He was incredibly upset, said he felt uncomfortable and told me to remove the videos from my page. He said he’s a very private person and has no interest in having his relationship blasted on the internet for strangers to comment on and that it all felt performative. I never knew he was such a private individual, he rarely posts on social media but I figured it’s just because he doesn’t care much for it, not because he’s very private. He had no issue with me being someone that posted openly & frequently online about my life, but now that it involves him he said he doesn’t want to be apart of it and has no interest in being on my social media.
I guess I’m a bit sad, because it doesn’t seem like a huge deal to me and I’ve always wanted a partner that can appreciate this part of me and get on board with how I love to document happy parts of my life online. I took the videos down with no issue because I respect his privacy and his wishes, but still feel a bit confused by the whole situation. He doesn’t seem to understand that I have a small community of women that love my videos and that treat me like a big sister and that I was purely posting videos out of happiness & excitement to have met him and have found such a wonderful love. His reaction took me by surprise, but am I the one in the wrong here?

this happened to me earlier in class...this girl and i have been partnered together for a presentation and we were sitting on a table when she offered me a snack that she took from her bag. she offered it normally, but to me, it was like... she was so cute... i felt very warm and i began being fond of her and adoring her all throughout.. our classes finished and i kind of miss her.... then i just realized.... I'm cooked.... i feel like I've fallen for this girl for just doing the bare minimum of being kind and polite.... I don't want to fall for anyone that easy because it might affect me and my preferences/ types and future

Dear all, I would like advice on how to deal with this and whether and how to bring this up with my partner.
Situation: my boyfriend A is out with his girlfriend B to a fair. I was chatting with A afterwards about it and asked whether he saw something cool. He said 'yes, there were some cool things to see''. Felt like a bit of a dry reply, but I left it. Sometimes he is short in texting, that's fine.
A few days later, we were talking about the fair, some things he saw and thought out loud 'did I not send you that video?'. 'No, he had not sent it to me', I said. He showed me a video of him and gf at the fair, talking directly to the listener about what they were seeing, etc.
He is also seeing another girl, C, and while watching the video I got the vibe that he made it for her, not for me. I think he realised too at that moment but I left it and pretended to just like seeing the video.
I feel hurt that he didn't make a video for me, misremembered sending it to me, and find it quite painful that he confused us. I like to feel special and do have some worries about being replaced by C (in attention and receiving cute texts) so this was not helping..
Should I mention this, or leave it as 'harmless mistake'? And if so, how would I do this in the best way?

I want to preface this by saying: i have BPD and my partner is AuADHD. I’ve been suspecting for years that he has covert narcissistic symptoms from massive child neglect and verbal abuse.
TL;DR : im in shock after partner cheated and i don’t know where to go from here
so to cut the story short I (23F) got cheated on by my bf (23M) a couple months ago. And idk what I’m doing. Im not looking for a “leave him” cause that’s all I end up hearing. My assumption for the past four years of us being on and off with each other (FWB to lovers every other year) is that he is avoidant. And may exude some covert narcissistic traits. I say this bc he’s endured massive amount of neglect from his mom growing up and his father was mostly never around. His mother was a POS, pickin on him constantly and saying how stupid he is.
He’s a constant substance abuser (weed, alcohol, psychedelics) and when triggered can be verbally abusive. Almost always stuck in Lala land and I’m pretty sure wants me to do his shit for him. I provide this info because I’m under the assumption that all of these factors could be reasons for him using this “phantom ex syndrome” strategy.
There would be multiple moments (even when doing the devils tango or about to) where he would say things like “see, no girl would ever do this to me” or when we were just in regular setting he would imply that he wouldn’t be able to find a girl that could love him to the degree that I did. But i told him that was a lie bc his friend does. Which isn’t all the way true cause I don’t really know the degree to which she loves him. His friend who he referred to as his gbsf. The same gbsf who i didn’t know confessed her feelings to him in ALL the four years we’ve been “together”. The same girl who knew about me and i gave her the benefit of the doubt bc like him, she barely had friends. She, by the way, lives in another state, has a whole man, and they only knew each other online for a decade. I stupidly let them date (while dating me as well) told him I couldn’t do it and HE HIMSELF suggested that he would break up with her. And he did.
He unfortunately still texts her and it does make me feel some type of way but i feel like i can’t say anything bc that’s his only friend. Why that’s his only friend, i don’t really want to go in depth about it and read this man to filth entirely. I’m pissed at myself, I’m pissed at him and i want to get revenge and be cruel but i keep telling myself it’s not worth it and that I’m trying to turn a new leaf.
They happen to text a lot more than we do but if I’m being honest, we do already work together and see each other for a full day once a week. And the other day he spends time with himself to decompress. But when we are hanging out at my house where he sits by desk and plays the game all day. Sometimes I’ll play with him and other times I’ll just do my own thing. But I’ll notice that he gets messages from her and he doesn’t open them in front of me but I’ve seen their messages before and it’s nothing crazy but it does seem like he cares about her. Which sucks. The entire thing sucks. I hate there’s any emotions at all. I’m massively uncomfortable and somehow I’m still not ready to leave if that was even an option. We don’t even live together and we have no kids, no legal obligations to each other, So I could leave if I wanted to.
I didn’t tell him that him texting her makes me uncomfortable bc as I said before, she’s his only friend. I’d end up being the only person in his life and i definitely don’t want that. He’s an introvert, and socially awkward so him making friends is hard. He normally makes them better over Xbox.
I’m sure plenty of you will wonder why i even like this guy. And complexity is my response. I’m interested in the way his mind works. I seek knowledge and understanding of him as a person. And somehow I feel like that sounds like a very bad thing. And maybe I’m not romantically interested in people at all. Idk. I’m very confused rn. I’ve gathered a lot of intel in the time we’ve been together but i still feel like there’s more to know. And being here is helping me dig into things about myself. Idk someone told me I’ve already outgrown this relationship. That I’ve reached the point where I have to let this die out and be with new ppl. And explore new things. I just don’t want to lose out on being friends with him bc he’s literally all I have too. I mean i have my family, but i need an outside person that isn’t blood related. I’ve been with my family all my life, i need people from the outside or else I’ll be depressed af.

For greater context I’ve just turned 26 (M) and I’ve never had sex, nor have I had any relationship experience. This is due to a multitude of excuses/reasons in my past. Fresh out of Highschool I was a pretty anxious dude and didn’t like talking to people. Once I started college I started to open up more made some friends but I would always tell myself I had no time for girls or that school is more important, etc etc. (classic cope)
Fast forward to today and I’m now a college graduate with a goal of leaving the country by the end of the year or early next year.
Now I need to say this because I think it is important in regards to how I think I’ll be perceived, but I’m confident I’m an attractive guy. Not a stud but I go to the gym regularly, I take care of myself, have nice hair, etc.
I think the issue (if you want to call it that goes a bit deeper than that) is more so with the type of person I am. I’m very introverted but in the sense that I don’t go out of my way to talk to people but if someone talks to me I’ll gladly respond and carry a conversation. Even lead it in most cases, I just don’t have the social battery for it most days. In the last year or so I’ve been dealing with a lot of sexual frustration. It comes and goes but sometimes it can be too much and it turns into this sad pit in my stomach kind of feeling.
I’ve come to realize that I think I’m a demisexual or atleast I lean more in that direction. Growing up I’ve had crushes but never acted on them because I would always feel inadequate and in adulthood I’ve had a real tough time understanding the psychology behind wanting to fuck women just because they’re attractive/pretty. It would be the typical guy talk you’d hear. My coworkers would practically drool over girls who walk by and I’d never really care to look. I can acknowledge when I see someone that I find really pretty but that’s never enough for me to be legitimately interested in someone. I noticed whenever I would swipe on dating apps I would find myself paying more attention to the backgrounds of photos than the actual person in the picture. Looking for potential hobbies or interests that person may share with me. This need for more information felt like a sort of barrier between me and finding natural/organic romantic relationships.
In most everyday situations sex is the last thing on my mind lol. However, my libido and sex drive is VERY high. When I’m at home and my mind begins to wander, I get this sudden burst of emotions that lead me towards masturbating without fail. Ive always been really horny and bad at controlling myself with porn and things like that. My brain tells me this is just my way of letting it out. I don’t think porn has affected the way I view women at all as I like to consume porn that is story driven (mostly manhwa) or stuff that’s more intimate and believable. It’s not really about if the women is some super hot model or anything.
This is the thing I’d like to mainly address. Mentally I’m sexually frustrated because I want a romantic partner REALLY bad, but my current situation doesn’t permit it. Masturbating is almost like a suppressor for this overwhelming sadness. I even find myself getting my fix of romance through dramas or rom com movies/tv shows. Living vicariously through the characters in the show hoping that one day I’ll have what they do.
Even saying that out loud feels a bit depressing lol. But nonetheless it’s true. My plan is to stick it out for another year until I move out the country and hopefully begin my soul searching. I think a big part of me feels this wouldn’t be as big of an issue if I had some relationship experience in the past. Not knowing what it’s like makes it so much worse and only makes me crave it more.
Holding hands, kissing, pleasing someone else you love, sounds awesome. I feel like I’m about to explode if I don’t experience it anytime soon. At the same time I’ll probably wake up tomorrow and forget about it for a bit until I’m up at those lonely hours of the night. Appreciate anyone who read this far. Felt good to spout this message into the void.

Im 1m post partum. I have a 4 year old i avoid and a 1 month old i cater to. I cannot leave my house. I have not left my home since i had my child. I cannot leave because my vehicles are not legal and a few traffic warrants i have. Between bills and what not we just cannot squeeze the tickets in. My boyfriends checks just keep getting smaller, he wont get a new job. He is on probation, not doing what he needs to do. Missing meetings etc. i ask for 1 day a week with him. He tells me “he cooks at work, he doesnt want to cook at home too” i ask for one night. I am alone. Im beyond alone. My second child isnt his. Weve been together for 5 years but we had a split and saw other people and i got pregnant, my boufriend is her dad and the only dad she knows but not her bio. So he doesnt help much and tries to avoid. Its understandable. I try to give him everything he wants, between the sex life and our life i just try to be that women for him. He wont marry me- he says he doesnt want anything on paper , he wont put me first. Im just alone. Im always alone. He works, he comes home, he says were hanging out but its not. Tonight he made me dinner but i had to wait for when he wanted to make it . Then he compared me to another women and made me feel terrible about myself . I was really looking forward to a getaway weekend next weekend without our kids that we havnt had a break from in over 6 months. Which now isnt happening because of him. Everything is just ruined . My body is gross, my brain is constantly foggy , i have no partner, i live in a house i hate, i try to love it, but i hate it. My belly just wont go away, my arms are fat. I feel disgusting. My doctor wont give me medication without seeing me and i cant leave. I literally have the stuff in my Walmart cart to just end it all for me. I could never hurt my girls. But there has to be something better than this. I cant stay in this house anymore. I cant live this life anymore. I just wanna be done. Theres nothing stopping me from ordering it anymore. I feel crazy. I just screamed and laid on my bathroom floor and cried to him and he just said “ this post partum shit has to go”
I just feel like i need to go. Im never gonna be normal again.

Hey, hi, hello.
I’ve been posting on and off for a few years now and I’m sure some of you are sick of seeing me. Oh well, we’re in this sub for one reason and one reason only: to find a connection and possibly a happy ending.
I’ve been told I’m too picky and too open about myself; I don’t think Im either of these things. We all have different tastes and expectations from other people and that’s fine. And yes, I am very open about who I am, shouldn’t we all be? Would save us some disappointment.
I did try numerous dating sites and chatrooms but to no avail; those whove been in the same situation know what’s that like. I have a fair share of horror stories from dating apps and who knows, one day I could share these with you!!
Before I move onto the spiel about myself and how much of a catch I am please read below:
About you:
-living the UK/Europe/US (max of 6h time difference)
-a straight man
-a homebody, with the occasional want to go out and do things
-aged 29 – 48 (I will not reply if you’re not within the age bracket)
-speak English (for communication purposes duh)
-child free (and must want to remain this way)
-MONOGAMOUS
-NO PREFERENCE HEIGHT OR BODY WISE, I’m all about a nice face
-impeccable basic personal hygiene (not expecting you smelling like your local perfume store)
-no addictions (ie excessive alcohol use, smoking and any type of illegal drugs)
-respectful, loyal, funny, affectionate, caring, loving and patient (a lot of it needed with me).
-will not demand any personal content (if you know what I eamn)
-in full time employment (if we are long distance, how else are you going to fund your travels?)
But beyond all that I’m after a best friend. Someone who will have my back until the end. Someone who will accept me for who I am and wouldn’t want to change me (I can offer the same back). Someone who will enter my life and assume the role of my partner (eventually) and join me on this rather bizarre journey called life. Don’t give up on me and I wont give up on you.
I will not respond to any messages along the lines of ‘hru’. ‘hi’.
Once again, no budging on the age or location.
If your profile contains anything inappropriate, I won’t respond either.
I think I made myself more than clear.
Just one more thing, I promise!!!!
This is not to get any attention or sympathy or help; more of a prewarning. I have met a lot of amazing people on here who got their hopes up about me and once things didn’t seem to be as amazing as this image, they had of me they left.
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at the age of 12, as well as severe anxiety (no self-diagnosis here, by an actual professional). I take meds for it but some days are worse than the others. I’m also on the waiting list to get help, but like me you’re in the UK you’ll know what this is like (no issues with the NHS, they’re amazing; just overworked and understaffed). I can’t afford to go privately. At this moment in time,I am about 2 years away from seeing someone.
I suffer from fibromyalgia (if you don’t know what this is, just google it) in late 2019 after ruling everything out. I have days when I’m extremely exhausted and in a lot of pain. I still go to work and try to go on about my life as much as possible but please bear that in mind.
Ive been taking all sorts of meds too, including painkillers to control the pain.
Please don’t see me as someone hopeless or feel sorry for me. This is not the point of this confession.
My name is Anita and I’m a 29yo Eastern European woman, living in the UK just outside of Bristol. I’ve been here for the last 17 years and I consider myself England my home. I’m not considering moving back at any point in my life (however I’ll move elsewhere for the right reasons and right person). I will share my exact location once we’re acquainted a bit more.
I’m 6ft tall (yes I am this tall and I’m aware that it’s way too tall for a woman) and. weight approx 13st or 200lbs (my weight keeps fluctuating a lot and no, I’m not looking for any tips to lose weight). I dye my hair red but it’s more like ginger these days. I have green eyes (they’re useless as I wear glasses) and I wear a lot of black eyeliner lol. I guess you could say I’m kinda emo/goth?
An extreme introvert since I was a young one (definitely not shy, in fact I can get a bit volatile when it comes to standing up for myself). I don’t need to get out of my shell, so none of that please. I like my own company as well as my loved ones; and leaving the house only for work and groceries suits me well.
I’m a vegetarian (not a deal breaker if you’re not; your choice is to eat meat and mine isn’t. Respect it and you shall receive the same back). I think it’s time for everyone live and let others live too.
Tea, coffee and snack addict! (I love herbal tea with no sugar or milk; coffee wise I like a good cap or a caramel macchiato as a treat. Snack wise anything goes really. Fruit, crisps, cake and sweets!)
Bookworm (I haven’t read in a long time, I love books I promise. Just haven’t had much time lately. I have a stack of them which is growing. I need to finally find some time and immerse myself in one of many crime novels I have).
Apolitical (now, I read the news everyday but I do not support any of the parties. They don’t care about you or me, sorry to break this to you).
Animal lover (I have 4 rescued cats two boys and two girls aged between 10-11 who are my absolute life. In total, my mum and I have rescued about 60 cats in the last 10 years. We found them safe and loving homes but for some of them unfortunately it was too late).
No addictions here (I don’t drink or smoke; although I like my vapes a lot).
In my spare time (whatever I get of it) I like to go for walks, listen to music and podcasts, nap, watch tv, chill with my mum and cats, go shopping and grab a coffee with my ma, visit my brother in London, over eat, over think and read books.
I don’t really have any hobbies.
I don’t game religiously but I do enjoy sims 4 (someone told me that isn’t gaming although I’d say it’s a computer game so clues in the name but what do I know, right?) I don’t watch anime either, tried once and couldn’t get into it.
As you can tell, I’m just a relatively unremarkable human being, trying to find her place in this world. And I’m happy about that, being in the limelight is the last thing I know.
With that being said, if you managed to get through my ramblings and they somewhat resonated with you, shoot me a message.
Message me with your name, age and location and what caught your eye about my post. Don’t have to send me your picture right away; I won’t send mine until I’m comfortable enough. To show that you have read, end your message with ‘toodlepip’.
I will respond as soon as I can but please note that there might be delays in messaging back due to well… life being life I suppose.
And if you didn’t like what you read… well then scroll along, no need to let me know about this in the comments or to message me to call me names. It’s nice to be nice.
Thank you for reading this and looking forward to seeing some messages. If not, best of luck in your search!!!