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2024.05.20 01:06 stillunofficial My boyfriend (25M) and I (21F) have recently gone long distance. What are some ways to cope?
So, I (21F) have been dating my boyfriend (25M) for almost a year and a half now and have recently gone long(mid?) distance. We used to have a bit of a short distance, about a half an hour drive away from each other, and we would see each other mostly once a week. Sometimes we would see each other twice a week, but due to his work we'd mostly only spend time on the weekend with him staying 2 or 3 nights at mine.
I started having struggles with my living situation as my roommate had become a nightmare and the flat I was living at was turning incredibly uncomfortable and I just couldn't take living there anymore. My boyfriend and I ended up deciding it would be the best idea for me to move out and live with my parents as finding a new flat for myself wasn't that great of an option as I don't have too much money, and moving back in with my parents would help me save up money to move out again. Before you ask, I can't move in with my boyfriend yet, as he still lives with his mum because he's trying to save up as much money as possible and will move out when his apprenticeship finishes in 2026.
I ended up going through with the plans and have completely moved out and am now living with my parents, which is where my struggle is. My parents live a 5 hour drive away from my boyfriend. I know that may not seem like much to some of you, but it's a lot to me. I suffer with BPD and have never done a distance longer than a 40 minute drive before, and its kind of weighing on me that we're going from seeing each other once or twice a week to only seeing each other twice a month. Again, I know some of you would probably wish you only had that much of a distance, but to me it feels like an entirely new thing.
So, I guess I'm just wondering, how do you guys cope in long distance? What is some advice you can give me? I've kind of just been trying to tell myself that it's only for 3 months, and 3 months is nothing compared to us wanting to spend the rest of our lives together (hopefully). We've also gone 2 weeks apart a few times now, so I'm trying to tell myself that 2 weeks between each visit isn't that bad, but god its such a big change for me. Physical touch is one of my main love languages so it's difficult. We are planning to video call every 2 or 3 nights thought to make things a little bit easier. I love this man with everything in me so I do know it'll be worth it in the end.
I do ask in advanced that people please be nice, I know it may not seem like much of a distance, but everyone deals with things differently, and this is a lot for me. Thank you to anyone who takes their time to read this. Any advice is appreciated
TLDR: My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and 5 months and have recently gone from seeing each other once or twice a week to twice a month due to me moving back in with my parents, who live a 5 hour drive away, for 3 months to save money. I know it may be more of a mid distance thing and seem like not that big of a deal to some, but it's very new to me and I was just wondering what are some ways I can cope?
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I started having struggles with my living situation as my roommate had become a nightmare and the flat I was living at was turning incredibly uncomfortable and I just couldn't take living there anymore. My boyfriend and I ended up deciding it would be the best idea for me to move out and live with my parents as finding a new flat for myself wasn't that great of an option as I don't have too much money, and moving back in with my parents would help me save up money to move out again. Before you ask, I can't move in with my boyfriend yet, as he still lives with his mum because he's trying to save up as much money as possible and will move out when his apprenticeship finishes in 2026.
I ended up going through with the plans and have completely moved out and am now living with my parents, which is where my struggle is. My parents live a 5 hour drive away from my boyfriend. I know that may not seem like much to some of you, but it's a lot to me. I suffer with BPD and have never done a distance longer than a 40 minute drive before, and its kind of weighing on me that we're going from seeing each other once or twice a week to only seeing each other twice a month. Again, I know some of you would probably wish you only had that much of a distance, but to me it feels like an entirely new thing.
So, I guess I'm just wondering, how do you guys cope in long distance? What is some advice you can give me? I've kind of just been trying to tell myself that it's only for 3 months, and 3 months is nothing compared to us wanting to spend the rest of our lives together (hopefully). We've also gone 2 weeks apart a few times now, so I'm trying to tell myself that 2 weeks between each visit isn't that bad, but god its such a big change for me. Physical touch is one of my main love languages so it's difficult. We are planning to video call every 2 or 3 nights thought to make things a little bit easier. I love this man with everything in me so I do know it'll be worth it in the end.
I do ask in advanced that people please be nice, I know it may not seem like much of a distance, but everyone deals with things differently, and this is a lot for me. Thank you to anyone who takes their time to read this. Any advice is appreciated
TLDR: My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and 5 months and have recently gone from seeing each other once or twice a week to twice a month due to me moving back in with my parents, who live a 5 hour drive away, for 3 months to save money. I know it may be more of a mid distance thing and seem like not that big of a deal to some, but it's very new to me and I was just wondering what are some ways I can cope?
2024.05.20 01:05 RealJoeCracker If Ataru filed a restraining order “Fan Fiction”
 | After seeing this post https://x.com/rumictwt/status/1790865042306683179?s=46&t=LecUCC1i5nxAoNal6ytoqg submitted by RealJoeCracker to uruseiyatsura [link] [comments] I thought of a story where Ataru does just that. I hope you enjoy. What? A restraining order! By Robert C. McGee It’s night at the Moroboshi house. Ataru is on the phone with someone right after getting home, on the other end is a man in a three piece suit. Man: I understand your situation. Seeing how these aliens are especially this one someone needs to put them in their place. Ataru: Thank you very much sir. Man: I’ll speak with who I need to speed this along. Goodbye sir. Ataru: Thank you. Lum is curious to who he’s talking to on the phone at this time of night. Lum: Darling, who are you talking to? Ataru: I was talking to Megane about our upcoming exam. Lum: You were calling a girl weren’t you. It sounded like she was enjoying it. Ataru: Well. She gets angry and shocks him. Ataru’s Mom: It’s surprising he’s still alive. Ataru’s Dad: He’s very resilient. The next morning, there is a knock on the door. Ataru’s mom answers the door. Ataru’s Mom: Yes. Young man: Is Lum here? I have something very important. Lum: It’s for me? She flies down to see what it is. He hands him the paper. Lum: What is this? Young man: You’ve been served. The young man jumps on his bike and rides away like a madman. Ataru’s mom looks at the paper. Ataru’s Mom: It’s a restraining order against you. Lum: Huh? Ataru: That’s right. You are not allowed within 50 kilometers of me or my house. Ataru’s Mom: Ataru? How could you do this?! Ataru: I’d rather spend the rest of my life without getting electrocuted, now pack up your things and leave. He walks right by them out on his way to school. Lum: Does this really mean I have to leave? Ataru’s Mom: For now but I’ll talk with him and get him to change his mind. Ten was waking up as Lum was flying back upstairs. Lum: Ten, we have to leave. Ten: Why Lum. Lum: Darling doesn’t want me here anymore. Meanwhile Ataru was walking to school with a newfound confidence. He can’t believe he finally got away from Lum and she can’t get near him or touch him. Ataru: Uahh! It’s a new beginning, a new day without having to deal with the threat of being electrocuted. Cherry the ever present monk watches Ataru as he walks by. Cherry: There is something different about Moroboshi. This can only be a bad omen. He also watches as a UFO lands near him. A large tall Oni woman gets out and approaches him with her tongue sticking out only to leave. Cherry: I was right. A bad omen. Later in class Lum’s absence is very apparent apparent to everyone. Megane: Hey Ataru, Is Lum sick or something? Ataru: No, I finally got smart and put a restraining order against her. Megane: (Angry) You what?! He’s visibly upset. Shuutarou: Has Miss Lum become such a bother that you have resorted to such drastic measure? Ataru: You try living with her and see what I had to go through. Megane: That’s not a bad idea, maybe she’ll want to stay at my place. Shinobu hears the whole thing and picks up her desk. Shinobu: Ataru! You’ve gone too far this time. At that moment the boys are looking outside the window. Boy 1: Hey look it’s Lum! Megane runs to the window and gets out his binoculars. Megane: That’s not Lum, but whoever she is she looks a bit taller. Ataru hears the commotion and looks to the window and sees the strange Oni girl through Megane’s binoculars. Ataru: She looks like trouble to me. Megane: Just because she’s an Oni you think the worst? Ataru: I’m staying as far away from her as possible. It isn’t too long until Lum and Ten come across the strange Oni woman’s UFO. Lum: Who’s UFO does this belong too? Ten: It seems old and abandoned. Lum: It is old, the paint is fading. Let’s check it out. Lum looks around the outside and finds a marker. Lum: (reading) Property of Vanu She also notices the outer hatch is cracked open. When she peaks inside they are both overtaken by the smell. Ten: What’s that smell? Lum carefully takes a whiff. Lum: It’s perfume. Laced with synthetic human pheromones. Lum begins to get angry. Lum: (angry) This girl is playing dirty. She notices Ten about to fant. Lum: Ten! Cherry: Lum, I saw her. She’s a terrible sight to behold. Lum: Cherry, can you keep an eye on Ten for me. Cherry: Oh course. Lum flies away. Cherry: Good luck Miss Lum, you’re going to need all of it. Back at Tomobiki High School, Vanu has already gotten into the classroom though the window. The boys in class are already crowding around her. Vanu: Boys, boys, boys! Ataru: Yeah that’s us. Seeing how you’re so cute you wanna leave this place with me? Megane: Leave her alone Ataru, you got Lum remember? Ataru: Yeah but I still got that restraining order. Megane: Then just tear it to shreds, I want this girl. Vanu looks at her options carefully but right before she could act she finds herself getting electrocuted. She turns around and finds Lum right outside the window. Lum: Vanu! Leave my darling alone. Vanu: Darling? Ataru: She’s talking about me. Vanu sees Ataru as the most attractive among the boys, she grabs him and jumps out of the window. Ataru: Hey babe not so rough. She runs with Ataru in her hands, Lum follows trying to shock Vanu. Ataru: Oh officer! I have a restraining order against that Oni girl flying above us. Lum flies up higher above 50 kilometers and continues pursuit. Lum: You let my darling go! Vanu: He’s my darling now! She makes it back to her UFO and takes Ataru onboard. Once onboard she closes the hatch, Ataru is overwhelmed by how much the UFO smells just like her and he’s overtaken by the pheromones Ataru: He he he he. It smells so good in here. I want to stay in here. Vanu: Glad you like it darling, do you want to see my play room? Ataru: Yeah I’m ready to play. She leads him though the corridors until they come into a room filled with a bunch of rough toys and gadgets. Ataru is immediately a gasped by what he sees. Ataru: I think I’d prefer your bedroom. Vanu: What’s a matter darling, you don’t like toys? Ataru: I’m 17, I’m clearly too old for toys. Vanu: Not these toys. Outside the UFO Lum is trying to way in. Benten comes flying by on her bike. Benten: Hey Lum, what are you doing with that old thing. Lum: I don’t have time to explain Benten, some strange girl is in there with Darling. Benten gets off her bike and starts hammering in the door. Benten: Hey Ataru! Come out of there already! Vanu can hear the constant hammering. Vanu: Wait for me Darling. Ataru is relieved that he’s no longer in the room with her. He starts looking for places to hide. Benten still hammering on the hatch. Benten: Come out already! Lum: Let him go you darling thief! Vanu has had enough and starts taking measures to drive them away. Benten: Lum look out! A beam fires in their direction. Benten: Those old models aren’t supposed to have weapons like that. Lum: Let him go. She begins to change up for an electric shock. Benten: No point in that Lum. The Outer hull is insulated. Vanu emerges from her ship. Vanu: He clearly doesn’t want you anymore. Ataru sees the opportunity to jump out he runs behind Lum. Ataru: (scared) Oh help me Lum this girl is crazy! Lum: (angry) What about that restraining order?! Ataru: Forget about that and just please keep her away. Lum: Follow me. They both run away. Vanu watches as they run. Benten: Hold it! Your not going anywhere accept back into space! She punches Benten to the ground and runs after them. Benten: (delirious) That really hurt. Lum takes Ataru as far away and as fast as possible. Until she finds an alley way they can hide in. Lum: I think we lost her. Lum peeks out. She sees Vanu at a distance. Lum: She’s getting closer. Ataru watches as Vanu gets close and knocks Lum to the ground. Ataru is surprised to see that her hand is suddenly like metal and tuns back into normal flesh again. Vanu: Come along darling. He notices Lum is down but not entirely out. Ataru: Okay but that was impressive. I’m curious can you make your entire body like metal? Vanu: Sounds like you prefer metal Oni over electrical. She transforms her entire body into metal. Vanu: Does this please you darling. Ataru: It sure does. Now Lum! Lum grabs her leg and shocks her, it’s very painful forcing her to run away. Ataru pulls Lum closer to him and soon they both watch as her UFO takes off leaving Earth. Later at home, he has Lum, Benten, Ten, Cherry, Megane, Shuutarou, his mom, along with the lawyer he spoke with last night. Ataru: Incase you all want to all want to know why you’re here is so you can witness what I’m about to do. He takes out the restraining order and begins to tear it into pieces and throws the peaces into his trash can. Ataru: Lum, my house is your home away from home. She smiles, flies next to him and starts clinging to him like always. Lum: Oh darling. Lawyer: It was nice doing business with you young Moroboshi. I’ll take my leave. The lawyer leaves and soon Megane, Shuutarou, Cherry and Ten go out of the room as well. Megane: Good luck with Lum Ataru. Benten: Husbands can always be unpredictable right Mrs. Moroboshi? Ataru’s Mom: I’m just glad to see them getting along again. THE END. |
2024.05.20 01:05 IseKai_MC Origami above (almost) everyone - DAL vol 10 cover + some illustrations
 | Hello guys, since I read Date a Live, I realized that the novel has a certain quality that even more popular and cult novels do not have and that seems to go unnoticed by the fandom, the covers. Yes, the covers are spectacular and break away from the standard of most LNs, there is not just fanservice, there is not just a character striking a cool pose, we actually have covers with a certain visual narrative, whether a connection with the highlighted spirit itself or with the story itself and I will be pleased to show this to you, here are the rules: submitted by IseKai_MC to datealive [link] [comments]
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Calm down, my boy, you haven’t missed anything, in fact I promised plot twists and we have one right on the cover. As for the spirit Origami, I want to draw attention to two things. The first is obviously her astral dress which is a wedding dress, each astral dress follows the taste of its spirit user and Origami as a child had the dream of being a wife, but there is much more than that, so this Astral Dress is a small hint of the main plot, this will become clearer in the Spirit Info topic. The second is about the facial expression, Origami looks like she is waking up, this may symbolize that she has just become a spirit, it may be a premonition of the plot of this volume, which deals with Origami discovering the truth about her past. But this expression will be referenced in a scene that will happen 7 volumes later, when we get there I will talk about it.
Again the subtitle cites the spirit’s surname, the other time this happened was in the volume 4, Sister Itsuka, clearly there is a connection here as the Tenguu-Nankou fire was a relevant event for both spirits, I also believe that the work opts to use surnames if we already know the spirit of the cover and the main reason is that Tobiichi is written with the character 1, let’s go to the next topic.
That is, Origami, among the spirits, is the closest to God. But it’s still too early to talk about this. And yes, spirit number 10 is on the cover of volume 1 and spirit number 1 is on the cover of volume 10, I would have liked to come here and say that I discovered this but Tachibana put this information in the afterword. Her codename is "Angel", again this word, the name of the angel is Metatron.
The scenario is a bit hidden, there are some debris there but nothing that allows to fully identify the scene but obviously there is a fire happening there, which is obviously a reference to that relevant event again, the great fire in Tenguu-Nankou. I don’t even need to say how relevant this event is to Origami’s life, in her first illustration in volume 1, she says: “Five years ago a spirit killed my parents.” Finally, in my opinion this is one of the best covers, again, just imagine you go to the convenience store to buy this newly released volume and find out that Origami is a spirit, just by the shock the value is already high, if you already know the story of the anime and stop to analyze the cover, the value is double the previous one, if you know the whole story of Date a Live, and try to analyze the cover in a deeper way, the value is the squared of the previous one. Let’s open the volume. {Illustration 2} https://preview.redd.it/c4ugx8zkrg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d18e1c3a7176fb4e57acb7a7416e3183d5d526c7 There’s something different about this volume, the compositions have improved a lot, apparently a reflection of the success of the animation. The high school student and protagonist of this story, Shido Itsuka, says: “Tohka and the other girls just want a normal life.” But wait, Shido is tied to a chair in a strange room and there in the middle is a bottle of water. Ok, it seems that Origami really changed sides. The wizard who hates spirits is unyielding and responds that she will not only kill the spirits, “but also the entity that made me have a relationship with them.” In the middle of the illustration there is a crack in the wall, symbolic. {Illustration 3} https://preview.redd.it/7twwgnymrg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=11bdb8e276eacb62eaf9ed7b353a704e5d8818c2 Another plot twist, Tohka is in full astral dress. And not only that, the spirit Tohka is making a declaration of hatred to Origami. “Origami Tobiichi, I have hated you from the beginning, but the hatred I feel for you now is probably different from the hatred I used to have before and for that reason, this time I will intend to kill you, don’t die, Origami.” Despite everything, this is a cute declaration because for the first time Tohka calls Origami by her name and not satisfied asks Origami to resist because even though she is angry, she does not want to kill Origami. Tohka will gain a little development in this volume, hence the illustration, we will talk about this scene later. {Illustration 4} https://preview.redd.it/e459j6oprg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5bf272291179a955d8f2f06f1e7aea1bd4abcf4e Gentlemen, one of the best illustrations of DAL. The spirit Origami says: “Metatron!” Tohka says: “Origami, why did you become a spirit!?” In a great composition by Tsunako, Tohka and Origami are referencing the positions of their sephiroth in the tree of life. Origami appears in a superior position, distant from the “camera” and in front of the sun representing illumination, Kether, while the representative of the Kingdom, Malkhut, is in a much lower position, in the foreground and with her back to the reader. So, besides everything, they are staring at each other, symbolizing the mirroring already mentioned before. And speaking of mirroring, do you remember the illustration I asked you to keep? As I know I asked a lot I will make it easier for you, I am talking about the mono illustration number 9 of volume 2, I warned that that image would be mirrored and there it is. In the aforementioned image Origami was still wearing a basic CR Unit from AST and Tohka for the first time debuted in her limited astral dress, the reader’s angle, our angle, brought Origami almost back in the foreground, in the image now the camera position has inversed and now we are with the vision of Tohka. A great illustration but what generates more content here for sure are the illustrations of the table of contents, I’m sure the next one will please some people here. {Table of contents} https://preview.redd.it/pk2fbzqsrg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a97157f277b2b04ba05100a26aa8f41b9d96d5a1 Look who’s back, Kurumi Tokisaki, it’s been a while since I’ve talked about “The worst spirit.” But there’s nothing enigmatic here, it’s just Kurumi from the back (we’ve seen and will see many backs in this volume) and as for the phrase, she just stole Kotori’s catchphrase, I’m sure she wouldn’t be happy if another character started saying “ara ara” around. Anyway, just having Kurumi here is hype enough because, whether you like the girl or not, just her being here is a sign that something relevant is going to happen. {Mono Illustration 5} https://preview.redd.it/q15slhcwrg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b701c43f35ccc5fbfc6be162cd2d428c19ae3817 Ellen seems confident, on the other hand Kotori seems impatient. To ensure that Fraxinus does not interfere with Origami’s fight, Ellen plans to use the newest toy that DEM has manufactured, the Goetia ship (another name related to magic and occultism). Ellen and Kotori have a small dialogue where Shido’s sister tries to provoke THE STRONGEST WIZARD IN THE WORLD, but Miss Matthers is calm today, at least until she mentions Woodman. The duel is unavoidable. {Mono Illustration 6} https://preview.redd.it/0a44e2fzrg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9f961966e5f536bd04af5f7325a8d7c98dcb9cce There is a lot to talk about here, let’s start with the context. Origami challenged the spirits Tohka, Yamais, and Miku to a fight to the death and by being equipped with the CR-Unit Mordred, Origami is able to build an advantage in the fight, she leaves Tohka unconscious and hurts the other 3 a lot, the former sergeant-major decides to start the killing by Yuzuru, precisely the spirit she got along with the most. It is at this moment that Tohka wakes up and seeing this whole scene she begins to go through the inversion process, but Tohka manages to interrupt this process, two passages stand out. “This power would not save anyone.” She didn’t want to save just Kaguya, Yuzuru, and Miku, she wanted to save Origami too. “She was an arrogant, violent, uneducated, and foul-mouthed girl, Tohka never knew what was going on in the mind of that girl who always bothered her. Even so, Tohka wanted to hold that girl’s hands.” Tohka says: “Shido, lend me your strength.” And she gets her full powers back. And so the two engage in a really cool fight, at this moment the narration becomes from Origami’s point of view, there is a detailing about the features of Mordred and the fighting movements, time passes a little and Origami begins to feel too confident. She begins to ramble about having the ability to kill spirits, she begins to think about the death of her parents, about what she saw in the DEM report of the fire in Tenguu-Nankou. Clearly Origami is not well, finally her body collapses and we have an illustration. Now talking about the illustration itself, this is a reference to Mono Illustration 2 of volume 1, whose differences I highlight now. The most obvious difference is about Tohka who is no longer with that serious and empty look, here Tohka is clearly angry and screaming, in a way such expressiveness demonstrates how much this girl has developed. Still about Tohka, this time it is she who is making an attack movement, but there is no blood in this image, an indication that it was not an attack to kill. The other difference is about Origami, in that illustration I quote how much the “expressionless” Origami demonstrated tension, effort, and pressure, and I highlight the drop of sweat on her face. Something we can’t do here because this time Origami is with her back to the “camera” not allowing us to see her eyes. “The eyes are the window to the soul” So not showing the eyes is a strong symbolism, you can’t read the person’s emotions, you can’t even recognize the person, humanity is taken from the person and about this, this is the last illustration in which Origami Tobiichi is still human, because… {Mono illustration 7} https://preview.redd.it/1x6bx464sg1d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b88de0aa5fbe00002ce78523b449d149d102302f Origami became a spirit. “Hey, is it power that you desire?” “What are you?” Origami used [What] instead of [Who] in reflex. [It] might have guessed what she meant and laughed as if it found it funny. “What I am doesn’t matter now.” After becoming spirit Origami, without delay, she goes to Tohka and then we have the illustration which is of Origami using Metatron’s Shemesh skill. {Mono Illustration 9} https://preview.redd.it/43ary5y9sg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=25ec601b07e71cd20bc3f1061f2dd8f32daa25df Ara, ara. Origami was so crazy that it was only after seeing Shido and running away from there that this girl began to understand the points, mainly about who gave her the spirit powers, the mysterious “Phantom”. She reflects a little more and realizes that a certain spirit may have the ability to go back in time. About the illustration itself, another beautiful composition by Tsunako, in it we can contemplate Kurumi, apparently on a terrace, with building lights, Kurumi appears joyful in seeing Origami. “It’s been a long time, Origami-san!” As for Origami, again she is with her back turned and carrying a clone of Kurumi. The anime softened but here in the novel Origami seems to have returned the “affection” that Kurumi had done to her in volume 3 in the form of a very strong “massage”. But the clone does not seem to have liked it. “I did not come here to fight.” “Among the 12 bullets, is there one that can go back in time?” Kurumi makes a little suspense but answers that, yes, there is, Origami asks her to lend her this bullet. At first Kurumi denies, but since we are talking a little more about the Kabbalah, the Sephiroth of the worst spirit is Binah, the understanding, realizing that Tobiichi would not leave there without a “yes” as an answer Kurumi asks “why?” “I want to go back 5 years and kill the spirit that killed my parents.” At this moment the narration enters Kurumi’s thoughts, she begins to think that Origami came to her because she felt so invincible and therefore would force Kurumi to do what she wants, if necessary. But then Kurumi begins to think that it was just a miscalculation by the girl, a miscalculation caused by the temptation to change the past. “And Kurumi understood so much that it even hurt.” Kurumi accepts but will not do this for free, time travel would cost a lot of lifetime, but that would not be a problem since now Origami has plenty of it. {Mono Illustration 10} https://preview.redd.it/fyubgawdsg1d1.jpg?width=766&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e79e4113ca1068c56d0cf786c3ab77843b720e36 Origami discovered the harsh truth. She really went to the past, had a brief fight with Phantom, managed to be the first to take off Phantom’s "mask", also managed to hear Phantom’s real voice, and when she thought she had also managed to save her parents, when she looked down there was a little girl swearing Origami to death, the little girl was Origami herself 5 years ago. “I will definitely kill you!” “Who killed… my father and my mother… Was me…”
First of all, it’s a volume full of plot twists, Shido in private imprisonment, Origami fighting with the intention to kill 4 spirits at once, Fraxinus being defeated by Ellen’s Goetia, Tohka returning to use a full astral dress, Origami becoming a spirit, Origami going to the past, Origami facing Phantom, Origami killing her own parents, the illustrations end there but there’s still a lot of content, Origami inverts, Inverse Origami destroys all of Tenguu City and finally Kurumi going to Shido, Shido also being sent to the past. Entertainment and tension are not lacking here. Did you notice that the lore makes a lot of references to the first volumes? This volume also makes a point of rewarding the reader for all this time following the story, the plot twist of Origami for example, was foreshadowed back in Volume 1, when she aims at Tohka but hits and "kills" Shido, from there a big hint that Origami has the bad habit of killing, by accident, the people she loves the most. Origami was not the only character developed here, Tohka also grows and thanks the Shido’s ideology, at no time did she deny the existence of Origami and even though she said she was going to attack to kill she asked Origami not to die. Although short, Kurumi had a great participation and we were able to learn more about her and for someone who is known as “the worst spirit” she was quite kind. The only impediment for Volume 10 to sit alongside the best volumes of DAL is because most of the answers are in the next volume and when we take into consideration what both have to offer, the overall impression about Volume 10 improves, after all there is a big cliffhanger for Volume 11. Origami managed to take off Phantom’s “mask” and even hear her voice, with that we can know that Phantom is a girl and is someone Origami knows, that is, she is also someone we know. That’s it, Origami was a spirit all this time, and next we will find out how Shido and Kurumi will solve this mess. Finally, stay with this iconic phrase that Origami says in this volume, the phrase says a lot about many things in DAL. “I will now wield this power to defeat the Spirits. I will become the Spirit that kills Spirits. Once I eliminate all Spirits────I will erase the last one, me”. Previous Reviews. -volume 1 - The color of the Night. - volume 2 - Yoshinon and the Rain. - volume 3 - The smile of Kurumi. - volume 4 - Sister or Girlfriend? - volume 5 - Yamais - volume 6 - Lilies, she likes - volume 7 - The Dark of the Night. - volume 8 - What do people do on Halloween? - volume 9 - Natsumi Without Costume |
2024.05.20 01:04 xasannni I 21F need relationship advice w/ 31M
Hi, I 21 F have been dating my ex? 31 M boyfriend for a bit over four years, it should be noted that he lives in Canada and I live in the states, but we’ve met up various times and have met each others families and everything. Here’s kind of the issue I’m facing, in the entire time I’ve known him ( around five years now ) he hasn’t had a job, which is something I’ve brought up various times to him, especially regarding how if we want to live together have a life and everything, and how with the cost of living we’d need two incomes- I’ve been working consistently since I was 14 and everytime i had brought up this issue he’d say he was too anxious and couldn’t handle it. Eventually I got to a point where I told him that I can’t remain in a relationship where we don’t share the same values which led to an argument ( I also ended up in the hospital that night in the psych ward :’) ) Since then I’ve told him I needed space, and that I don’t think we should continue our relationship to which he’s begun calling me more then 30 times a day, calling my mom, and even my siblings. I feel awful, he tells me that I’m his only motivation, and he needs me to be able to succeed, since this whole ordeal he’s begun courses in order to get a remote job but I feel like it’s too late at this point.
Idk some other information is that he doesn’t like how I dress, saying it is childish and that I look young ( probably cause I am.. lol ) and he has told me there will be consequences in our relationship if I keep getting tattoos ( I have 5 )
Anywho if you need more information let me know I just don’t know what to do- everyone I know tells me to leave him but I need an outsides look
Sorry for the long post but TLDR my 21F boyfriend 31M refused to get a job throughout our 4ish year relationship, once I wanted to end things he said he is going to take things more seriously what do I do :(
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Idk some other information is that he doesn’t like how I dress, saying it is childish and that I look young ( probably cause I am.. lol ) and he has told me there will be consequences in our relationship if I keep getting tattoos ( I have 5 )
Anywho if you need more information let me know I just don’t know what to do- everyone I know tells me to leave him but I need an outsides look
Sorry for the long post but TLDR my 21F boyfriend 31M refused to get a job throughout our 4ish year relationship, once I wanted to end things he said he is going to take things more seriously what do I do :(
2024.05.20 01:01 OddlyMid My (49M) brilliant but ASD/PTSD ex (47F) is now totally fine and happy and I think I’m traumatized
I apologize for the sheer wall of text but maybe this will be good cathartic Sunday reading? It helps a lot to write it out. I am a 49M widower, three years out of losing my wife (48F), father of three adult kids. Last year I felt I was ready to find love again, and joined a dating app. Very quickly I matched with Lexi (47F, not her real name) and was smitten right away.
I am in the tech and startup space in my city and she had just moved from the opposite coast with a tech background and two exits. In fact, she swiped on me because we had just connected by email two weeks earlier because she was looking to join the startup scene in her new home.
She was so accomplished and warm and smart. She was into Buddhism and spoke much of the language of my childhood in terms of peace and joy. We had so much in common. We quickly talked about cofounding a startup, I loved her own dreams for the future, she was supportive of mine. We were honest and vulnerable and despite feeling utterly naive and awkward it felt great.
It was also complicated. She had been married twice before, the most recent physically abusive and prompting her cross-country escape with her two sons. She was self-aware enough to know she was dealing with the trauma and I was wholeheartedly supportive. Practical things like helping her finish all the paperwork for her divorce or keeping a distance so as not to upset her kids made sense.
But over time and sometimes with great pain we would run into triggers and need to break and reset. Our attempts to do something together were too hard because she would fear losing control—which made sense. She was terrified of not having support in a new city and I made sure to be available to her as much as possible—down to reserving certain hours every day to be with her. She asked me to move into her building, then panicked because her sons might see me, so I moved into the building next door.
I loved her so much and wanted to do everything to keep her happy or at least feeling safe. Maybe my years as a caretaker to my late wife conditioned me in this way. But Lexi and I knew we both were in complex places in our lives and tried hard to navigate things. She read about dating a widower, I read about PTSD and ASD—something she felt explained a lot going back to childhood, from sensory sensitivity to difficulty reading nuance in social situations. As an awkward guy myself, I was empathetic.
We co-developed a shared document that basically helped us avoid landmines. When our daily time together would be. Where to park so she wouldn’t notice if I wasn’t home. Boundaries to protect her kids—which did feel like we were sneaking around and would fill her with guilt. She loved to cook and had specific dietary preferences and I adopted the same diet (and still stick to it, mostly, because it did improve my health). She said she felt safer the more of my face she could see, so I changed my glasses and shaved my facial hair. She was afraid of getting pregnant so I got my long-planned vasectomy.
And this all sound crazy, but I was happy to do it, and she seemed to be trying hard, too. She adopted ASD coping strategies, we put reminders around our respective homes, she even put my photo on her wall as part of a ranked list of priorities… though I think I came after her boys and her dogs. (I’m a cat person but loved her dogs, dogsat her dogs, and the regular walks were a main way we spent time together, even when things were rocky.) More articles and books, personality tests, studying results to find paths forward. She had a science background so did find some comfort in analyzing us.
The biggest trigger was that I would sometimes travel out of town. I work remotely so it wasn’t hard to just stay put. But before we met I’d planned to go to a big concert in LA with my daughter, and couldn’t not go. That one weekend trip was the biggest hurdle we faced. I even paid for therapy for her and kept my promise to keep in constant touch—but it caused a two-week break, and a lot of anguish thereafter. She felt abandoned even as I showed in every way that I was committed. A couple of times she had panic attacks and curled into a ball while we were out and about. Once she ran from me, genuinely afraid of me, when I had gotten frustrated and made a sarcastic remark.
Because of her past abuse, the physical side of our relationship was also tricky. There were rules here, too, but as a middle-age effective virgin, I was still into it. I’d only had one serious partner in my life, so everything was new and amazing… but for it to also be a hot-cold-voracious-guilt rollercoaster was… confusing. A few times I would be strong enough to say, “If this is too hard, we could just be friends.” But THAT was, as you might imagine, another huge threat to her sense of safety.
Until she concluded the same. We pledged—via email, because by then even text messages were too intense for her—to be good, single friends. Walks, hikes, movies. Love you always. Then no contact for four months. She mailed my keys back to me.
Of course, I still lived next door, and ran into her maybe four times during that span. She seemed stricken a couple of times, and would not speak, not really look up, and twice crossed the street to avoid me. Her dogs were happy to see me, which made it especially awkward. I tell you, I felt like the worst person on earth, a man who failed to be a good partner and caretaker when I thought that was a strength. I was worried that I made her PTSD worse, that she was a wreck…
Until three weeks ago, our anniversary. She said she was sorry for causing me pain and wanted to be friends. I could have fainted dead. We met up for lunch.
She was glowing. She was so happy. Her sons were now both adults and she decided they were going to be just fine, and feeling liberated. She wasn’t ASD, it was just PTSD. She had started a graduate program to become a therapist (something we discussed), happy to both be able to tap her experiences to help others and to have the chance to practice with herself and classmates. She turned her love of cooking into selling her stuff at a local market (something we discussed). gave up her diet because it made it hard to date. And she’d been dating. And had a boyfriend who was taking her out of town for a week. I immediately saw the brilliant woman I first met, and was frankly gutted. I was happy she was happy, I was crushed that she got where she is AFTER me, not WITH me.
My friends tell me she was genuinely troubled and that PTSD doesn’t just vanish in a few months. That she was wearing a mask with me, and that this new boyfriend—with whom she also has amazing commonalities—is getting the same “mimic” behavior. That, if anything, her wanting to reconnect means she’s looking to assuage guilt or regain a part of her still critical support system. That I turned myself inside out for her, and the most important question to ask myself is whether I should be as open to being friends as I am. They're afraid she might want to get back together eventually because I was so accommodating—and they might be right.
I made a lot of changes in my life for her, many positive, many that still persist. I feel like it would be a waste to go through what we did and NOT be friends. But I definitely went through the wringer and I feel like I’m now the one recovering from trauma. I believe in therapy and am going to work on this. But I’d value an objective take.
TDLR; First relationship as a widower was to an amazing but complex woman was very fraught and fell apart. After no contact for four months she asked to meet up, and she was glowing and normal and I’m shook. Was it bad timing and I missed my chance, or is she maybe not really okay? And can we still be friends?
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I am in the tech and startup space in my city and she had just moved from the opposite coast with a tech background and two exits. In fact, she swiped on me because we had just connected by email two weeks earlier because she was looking to join the startup scene in her new home.
She was so accomplished and warm and smart. She was into Buddhism and spoke much of the language of my childhood in terms of peace and joy. We had so much in common. We quickly talked about cofounding a startup, I loved her own dreams for the future, she was supportive of mine. We were honest and vulnerable and despite feeling utterly naive and awkward it felt great.
It was also complicated. She had been married twice before, the most recent physically abusive and prompting her cross-country escape with her two sons. She was self-aware enough to know she was dealing with the trauma and I was wholeheartedly supportive. Practical things like helping her finish all the paperwork for her divorce or keeping a distance so as not to upset her kids made sense.
But over time and sometimes with great pain we would run into triggers and need to break and reset. Our attempts to do something together were too hard because she would fear losing control—which made sense. She was terrified of not having support in a new city and I made sure to be available to her as much as possible—down to reserving certain hours every day to be with her. She asked me to move into her building, then panicked because her sons might see me, so I moved into the building next door.
I loved her so much and wanted to do everything to keep her happy or at least feeling safe. Maybe my years as a caretaker to my late wife conditioned me in this way. But Lexi and I knew we both were in complex places in our lives and tried hard to navigate things. She read about dating a widower, I read about PTSD and ASD—something she felt explained a lot going back to childhood, from sensory sensitivity to difficulty reading nuance in social situations. As an awkward guy myself, I was empathetic.
We co-developed a shared document that basically helped us avoid landmines. When our daily time together would be. Where to park so she wouldn’t notice if I wasn’t home. Boundaries to protect her kids—which did feel like we were sneaking around and would fill her with guilt. She loved to cook and had specific dietary preferences and I adopted the same diet (and still stick to it, mostly, because it did improve my health). She said she felt safer the more of my face she could see, so I changed my glasses and shaved my facial hair. She was afraid of getting pregnant so I got my long-planned vasectomy.
And this all sound crazy, but I was happy to do it, and she seemed to be trying hard, too. She adopted ASD coping strategies, we put reminders around our respective homes, she even put my photo on her wall as part of a ranked list of priorities… though I think I came after her boys and her dogs. (I’m a cat person but loved her dogs, dogsat her dogs, and the regular walks were a main way we spent time together, even when things were rocky.) More articles and books, personality tests, studying results to find paths forward. She had a science background so did find some comfort in analyzing us.
The biggest trigger was that I would sometimes travel out of town. I work remotely so it wasn’t hard to just stay put. But before we met I’d planned to go to a big concert in LA with my daughter, and couldn’t not go. That one weekend trip was the biggest hurdle we faced. I even paid for therapy for her and kept my promise to keep in constant touch—but it caused a two-week break, and a lot of anguish thereafter. She felt abandoned even as I showed in every way that I was committed. A couple of times she had panic attacks and curled into a ball while we were out and about. Once she ran from me, genuinely afraid of me, when I had gotten frustrated and made a sarcastic remark.
Because of her past abuse, the physical side of our relationship was also tricky. There were rules here, too, but as a middle-age effective virgin, I was still into it. I’d only had one serious partner in my life, so everything was new and amazing… but for it to also be a hot-cold-voracious-guilt rollercoaster was… confusing. A few times I would be strong enough to say, “If this is too hard, we could just be friends.” But THAT was, as you might imagine, another huge threat to her sense of safety.
Until she concluded the same. We pledged—via email, because by then even text messages were too intense for her—to be good, single friends. Walks, hikes, movies. Love you always. Then no contact for four months. She mailed my keys back to me.
Of course, I still lived next door, and ran into her maybe four times during that span. She seemed stricken a couple of times, and would not speak, not really look up, and twice crossed the street to avoid me. Her dogs were happy to see me, which made it especially awkward. I tell you, I felt like the worst person on earth, a man who failed to be a good partner and caretaker when I thought that was a strength. I was worried that I made her PTSD worse, that she was a wreck…
Until three weeks ago, our anniversary. She said she was sorry for causing me pain and wanted to be friends. I could have fainted dead. We met up for lunch.
She was glowing. She was so happy. Her sons were now both adults and she decided they were going to be just fine, and feeling liberated. She wasn’t ASD, it was just PTSD. She had started a graduate program to become a therapist (something we discussed), happy to both be able to tap her experiences to help others and to have the chance to practice with herself and classmates. She turned her love of cooking into selling her stuff at a local market (something we discussed). gave up her diet because it made it hard to date. And she’d been dating. And had a boyfriend who was taking her out of town for a week. I immediately saw the brilliant woman I first met, and was frankly gutted. I was happy she was happy, I was crushed that she got where she is AFTER me, not WITH me.
My friends tell me she was genuinely troubled and that PTSD doesn’t just vanish in a few months. That she was wearing a mask with me, and that this new boyfriend—with whom she also has amazing commonalities—is getting the same “mimic” behavior. That, if anything, her wanting to reconnect means she’s looking to assuage guilt or regain a part of her still critical support system. That I turned myself inside out for her, and the most important question to ask myself is whether I should be as open to being friends as I am. They're afraid she might want to get back together eventually because I was so accommodating—and they might be right.
I made a lot of changes in my life for her, many positive, many that still persist. I feel like it would be a waste to go through what we did and NOT be friends. But I definitely went through the wringer and I feel like I’m now the one recovering from trauma. I believe in therapy and am going to work on this. But I’d value an objective take.
TDLR; First relationship as a widower was to an amazing but complex woman was very fraught and fell apart. After no contact for four months she asked to meet up, and she was glowing and normal and I’m shook. Was it bad timing and I missed my chance, or is she maybe not really okay? And can we still be friends?
2024.05.20 00:59 Meghanlomaniac Timeline of Narcissist MIL, do I confront her with my boundary or just disappear?
(First time poster )
So, I don't know where to start on this one, but I'm having a hard time processing this situation and need help. I did start seeing a therapist but it's been a while so I guess I should go back, but here goes.
I met my husband roughly ten years ago and his Mom seemed ok for a while. When we were dating, she even invited me to do paint nights with her which I thought was nice. She did like to gossip a lot to me which in retrospect I see now was a 🚩#1.
Things seemed ok until my BIL got into a new relationship, and his girlfriend came clean with me: She asked me how my relationship is with MIL is and I said it was ok, why? And she proceeded to tell me that MIL gossips and talks badly about me non stop. Especially after coming back from visiting my house. BILs girlfriend was uncomfortable with this and told MIL that this was mean and uncalled for and even before she met me she felt bad for me and thought we'd get along, because she too had been victim to bullying and this is what this felt like. MIL responded with "you don't know her".
Anyways she told me the kind of things MIL was saying about me and it was not nice. Basically she would observe any kind of issue or conflict in my life but emphasize it to be super critical with absolutely no empathy and often full on lies to make me look bad and I now understand, to turn my husband's siblings against me. Which she has from the beginning of my and hubby's time together (2014).
For example, in 2021 we moved to a new city so we could buy a house and uprooted my 3 yr old daughters entire life. She had a hard adjustment and picked her face for a while (it was also summer so mosquito bites are what started it) she also regressed and wet the bed for a bit. She then adjusted and was just fine.
MIL turns this into "OP is anxious and is making her daughter anxious" Her daughter is anxious and it's OP's fault". I haven't suffered with anxiety for a while. It was only the year we got married, and I was better with medication. 🤷🏼♀️ Nor did I share any of my mental health struggles with MIL so she's making an assumption at best.
She complains that I'm lazy and do not do housework or cooking to her satisfaction (she was a SAHM and I am not). I should mention hubby and I have a 50/50 type deal with household and child minding. We both work. 🤷🏼♀️
I asked my hubby respectfully to never fight with me in front of MIL but he has, And like a snake in the grass she then tells everyone all about it, but turns it into something it wasn't. Not lying per se but emphasizing the dysfunction without any empathy or recognizing her own sons role in all of this.
My husband for his part has been very hesitant to set boundaries with her, but also emotionally keeps a distance from her. Then a few years ago, he told me MIL was responsible in the past for breaking up his relationships with other girlfirneds by making his partners feel uncomfortable 🚩#2.
It appears that recently the lies and gossip has been escalated. She makes me feel uncomfortable in my own house. I catch her darting dirty looks at me and then when I notice this, she switches it to giving me a fake smile.
She has no poker face and I sense the hostility whenever she's around.
The only time I let her clean my house without me getting up was when I was very pregnant with my son and exhausted. Yet she still tells anyone who will listen how lazy I am.
Last time she was over, I asserted myself more and would be firm with my boundaries. I also made it clear when her opinions were wrong / uncalled for.
It was this past winter and she took it upon herself to clean my back porch (we don't have a garage and it was messy). I told her to please stop cleaning my back porch. She explained she was here to help so she might as well help. I said I would rather she didn't. She asked why. I said because it feels like judgment. After a pause she said well you're family so you don't need to feel that way. When I told my hubby he was shocked and complained that she was supposed to be visiting her grandchildren (who were sitting in the other room, alone). She seems more interested in passive aggressively making me feel like I can't keep house. Again, I WORK FULL TIME. I have two small children and I do what I can. My house is far from a disaster, but I'm sure the crumbs you can see on my floors are enough to warrant her disapproval.
Overly judgemental and appears not to "approve" of me for her son 🚩3 and 4.
The worst recent situation was thrifting with MIL, which used to be the only thing we could bond over. I took my daughter and while shopping, she carelessly grabbed at a teacup I was buying and it smashed on the floor. As a Millenial who is trying very hard to gentle parent (despite the fact I was never taught self regulation by my boomer parents) I got on her level and told her that it wasn't ok to do that in the store and to observe the consequence. My daughter usually doesn't do stuff like that, and she felt bad so she burst into tears. I then spend time holding her in a hug and comforting her until she felt better. Employee came by and told me not to worry about paying for it as it was an accident. MIL immediately went home and told BIL and BIL gf that I yelled at my daughter in a store and made her cry. That was NOT what happened. In fact I'm positive if I had been permissive and not disciplined her in the store, she would have bad mouthed my parenting as well. This time I let BIL know that his mother lied about this situation and I'm incredibly frustrated and angry with MIL.
BIL is strongly enmeshed with MIL and his willingness to believe MIL opinions as fact is one of the reasons his relationship with the present girlfriend fell apart. He's also an alcoholic and refused to stop or get help.
I suspect the reason MIL tries so hard to destroy my character and BIL GFs character is because she does not want any attention on her and her horrible actions.
She secretly started seeing the man she had an affair with in the 90s again, causing her relationship with FIL to dissolve and they divorced (dead marriage for years). To pay for said divorce, she remortgaged the house and convinced BIL to co-sign. As soon as he did, she moved in with her 90s affair boyfriend and told BIL she could not help with the bills anymore since she had committed to her 90s affair boyfriends mortgage (my husband and I suspect this was her plan all along). The stress of the financial situation definitely pushed BILs addiction further, but he also has anger issues and mental health issues.
My husband for his part is furious and refused to accept this 90s affair boyfriend of hers who caused him all kinds of childhood trauma (which she won't admit to). He's happy for her but wants no relationship with this man. I also think that she's trying to create infighting between the siblings and our marriages so no one confronts her for her actions. Husband also has a sister who (surprise surprise) hates my guts and treats me like shit.
She tried to push my husband's boundary about 90s affair boyfriend and he doubled down, causing more distance.
After BILs relationship broke down, I was so stressed out from emotionally being involved that I'm now not talking to MIL or BIL but she keeps dropping messages to wish me happy Easter or happy mothers day.
I told hubby she is no longer welcome in my home so the last few times he saw her they met with our children out of town and I stayed home.
Question is: do I just cut her off entirely with no explanation or do I give her a reason and outline why I am going no contact? Since she won't change (narcissist) husband is not willing to go to therapy with her. I feel like the only way I can get over this hurt and pain I'm still processing is either confronting her or going no contact and blocking her on Facebook.
Any advice????
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So, I don't know where to start on this one, but I'm having a hard time processing this situation and need help. I did start seeing a therapist but it's been a while so I guess I should go back, but here goes.
I met my husband roughly ten years ago and his Mom seemed ok for a while. When we were dating, she even invited me to do paint nights with her which I thought was nice. She did like to gossip a lot to me which in retrospect I see now was a 🚩#1.
Things seemed ok until my BIL got into a new relationship, and his girlfriend came clean with me: She asked me how my relationship is with MIL is and I said it was ok, why? And she proceeded to tell me that MIL gossips and talks badly about me non stop. Especially after coming back from visiting my house. BILs girlfriend was uncomfortable with this and told MIL that this was mean and uncalled for and even before she met me she felt bad for me and thought we'd get along, because she too had been victim to bullying and this is what this felt like. MIL responded with "you don't know her".
Anyways she told me the kind of things MIL was saying about me and it was not nice. Basically she would observe any kind of issue or conflict in my life but emphasize it to be super critical with absolutely no empathy and often full on lies to make me look bad and I now understand, to turn my husband's siblings against me. Which she has from the beginning of my and hubby's time together (2014).
For example, in 2021 we moved to a new city so we could buy a house and uprooted my 3 yr old daughters entire life. She had a hard adjustment and picked her face for a while (it was also summer so mosquito bites are what started it) she also regressed and wet the bed for a bit. She then adjusted and was just fine.
MIL turns this into "OP is anxious and is making her daughter anxious" Her daughter is anxious and it's OP's fault". I haven't suffered with anxiety for a while. It was only the year we got married, and I was better with medication. 🤷🏼♀️ Nor did I share any of my mental health struggles with MIL so she's making an assumption at best.
She complains that I'm lazy and do not do housework or cooking to her satisfaction (she was a SAHM and I am not). I should mention hubby and I have a 50/50 type deal with household and child minding. We both work. 🤷🏼♀️
I asked my hubby respectfully to never fight with me in front of MIL but he has, And like a snake in the grass she then tells everyone all about it, but turns it into something it wasn't. Not lying per se but emphasizing the dysfunction without any empathy or recognizing her own sons role in all of this.
My husband for his part has been very hesitant to set boundaries with her, but also emotionally keeps a distance from her. Then a few years ago, he told me MIL was responsible in the past for breaking up his relationships with other girlfirneds by making his partners feel uncomfortable 🚩#2.
It appears that recently the lies and gossip has been escalated. She makes me feel uncomfortable in my own house. I catch her darting dirty looks at me and then when I notice this, she switches it to giving me a fake smile.
She has no poker face and I sense the hostility whenever she's around.
The only time I let her clean my house without me getting up was when I was very pregnant with my son and exhausted. Yet she still tells anyone who will listen how lazy I am.
Last time she was over, I asserted myself more and would be firm with my boundaries. I also made it clear when her opinions were wrong / uncalled for.
It was this past winter and she took it upon herself to clean my back porch (we don't have a garage and it was messy). I told her to please stop cleaning my back porch. She explained she was here to help so she might as well help. I said I would rather she didn't. She asked why. I said because it feels like judgment. After a pause she said well you're family so you don't need to feel that way. When I told my hubby he was shocked and complained that she was supposed to be visiting her grandchildren (who were sitting in the other room, alone). She seems more interested in passive aggressively making me feel like I can't keep house. Again, I WORK FULL TIME. I have two small children and I do what I can. My house is far from a disaster, but I'm sure the crumbs you can see on my floors are enough to warrant her disapproval.
Overly judgemental and appears not to "approve" of me for her son 🚩3 and 4.
The worst recent situation was thrifting with MIL, which used to be the only thing we could bond over. I took my daughter and while shopping, she carelessly grabbed at a teacup I was buying and it smashed on the floor. As a Millenial who is trying very hard to gentle parent (despite the fact I was never taught self regulation by my boomer parents) I got on her level and told her that it wasn't ok to do that in the store and to observe the consequence. My daughter usually doesn't do stuff like that, and she felt bad so she burst into tears. I then spend time holding her in a hug and comforting her until she felt better. Employee came by and told me not to worry about paying for it as it was an accident. MIL immediately went home and told BIL and BIL gf that I yelled at my daughter in a store and made her cry. That was NOT what happened. In fact I'm positive if I had been permissive and not disciplined her in the store, she would have bad mouthed my parenting as well. This time I let BIL know that his mother lied about this situation and I'm incredibly frustrated and angry with MIL.
BIL is strongly enmeshed with MIL and his willingness to believe MIL opinions as fact is one of the reasons his relationship with the present girlfriend fell apart. He's also an alcoholic and refused to stop or get help.
I suspect the reason MIL tries so hard to destroy my character and BIL GFs character is because she does not want any attention on her and her horrible actions.
She secretly started seeing the man she had an affair with in the 90s again, causing her relationship with FIL to dissolve and they divorced (dead marriage for years). To pay for said divorce, she remortgaged the house and convinced BIL to co-sign. As soon as he did, she moved in with her 90s affair boyfriend and told BIL she could not help with the bills anymore since she had committed to her 90s affair boyfriends mortgage (my husband and I suspect this was her plan all along). The stress of the financial situation definitely pushed BILs addiction further, but he also has anger issues and mental health issues.
My husband for his part is furious and refused to accept this 90s affair boyfriend of hers who caused him all kinds of childhood trauma (which she won't admit to). He's happy for her but wants no relationship with this man. I also think that she's trying to create infighting between the siblings and our marriages so no one confronts her for her actions. Husband also has a sister who (surprise surprise) hates my guts and treats me like shit.
She tried to push my husband's boundary about 90s affair boyfriend and he doubled down, causing more distance.
After BILs relationship broke down, I was so stressed out from emotionally being involved that I'm now not talking to MIL or BIL but she keeps dropping messages to wish me happy Easter or happy mothers day.
I told hubby she is no longer welcome in my home so the last few times he saw her they met with our children out of town and I stayed home.
Question is: do I just cut her off entirely with no explanation or do I give her a reason and outline why I am going no contact? Since she won't change (narcissist) husband is not willing to go to therapy with her. I feel like the only way I can get over this hurt and pain I'm still processing is either confronting her or going no contact and blocking her on Facebook.
Any advice????
2024.05.20 00:51 jasmine789ather relationship advice?
I 19 F and my boyfriend 23 M have been dating for a few months now and things have gotten bad to the point where I am feeling low every day. he has a job and stuff but he barely makes any time for me and he always makes excuses. he has been out with other girls and I don't know if I am overthinking things here but the whole situation seems off.
Found out today that my aunty passed away and I tried calling him to let him know how I was feeling and then he blames me for getting a written warning from his manager. I don't really know what to do but I just do not feel like he has any time for me at all considering that we hardly call or he blanks me. please help
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Found out today that my aunty passed away and I tried calling him to let him know how I was feeling and then he blames me for getting a written warning from his manager. I don't really know what to do but I just do not feel like he has any time for me at all considering that we hardly call or he blanks me. please help
2024.05.20 00:50 Confident-Gap-107 AITAH for getting revenge on my ex?
I’m a 18M. I met this individual (we’ll call J) back in 2020, August. At the time, J was dating his boyfriend (we’ll call M) for a year and a half at that point. I grew very close with J over the time I knew them, I’d call with them and it was purely an online thing we had. They lived in Texas, I live in Louisiana.
Anyways, forward to march 2022. I’m laying down one night and get a text from J. It read “I would die for some hard rough sex right now”, now being as close as we were I took it as a joke but instead it was a ploy for sex. I fell for it. Afterward we talked and he told me how M was ignoring him, ghosting him, and all that. Two weeks later, after much phone sex and talking, J breaks up with M and makes me and him official.
Now I know this was wrong but I was fully convinced M was an abuser, or atleast J’s form of one. Overtime, me and J’s relationship got stronger. Called every night, talked every day. It got to the point where I’d get upset if our call steak broke. I was in love with him.
J had a friend Monet that he introduced me to (this is important.) J is monet’s bestfriend, they joke around all the time, often sexually, which I expressed made me uncomfortable. He told me to shut up and not to worry about it. His exact words were “if you don’t fuck with Monet, I don’t fuck with you” so I just shut up and dealt with it. Eventually something lead to our breakup and the next day he came back to get back with me.
Life went on, until one day he starts ghosting me. I try messaging him all throughout the day, even messaging some of his friends. I get to the second friend and he sends me a message like “stop annoying my friends, they don’t even like you.” And according to him he needed “time away.” So I gave him time. Until I woke up one morning to him telling me to “kill myself” and that we were done with.
It broke me. It was awful, and the whole time he was making jokes about it. He dangled the prospect of getting back together in my face and I just gave up and blocked him. A couple days later, He made a separate account on discord and messaged me, asking if I blocked him. When I told him yes he begged for me back and pleaded he’d do better. I gave him another chance to which he admitted the night prior he tried texting my number while high and drunk.
Small sidetrack: during our relationship he would do drugs which I expressed to him day after day I was never comfortable with and begged him to stop, or atleast stop telling me the stories of how he did it. He never listened.
This whole debacle happened the week of Christmas, I was at my uncles house. J was trying to offer sex in the prospect of us getting back together. Me, being upset and confused, took up the offer. Something I regret.
Nothing much of note happens the next few months, only to summer does the drama start again. Me and J start making plans to see one another. I spent hundreds of dollars buying clothes, luggage, tell everyone where I’m going to be. Now it’s important to note that during the summer I had to live with another family because of housing problems.
J did not like this. He said they were taking me away from him, that all the time that I could be giving him was being taken. (See part 2)
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Anyways, forward to march 2022. I’m laying down one night and get a text from J. It read “I would die for some hard rough sex right now”, now being as close as we were I took it as a joke but instead it was a ploy for sex. I fell for it. Afterward we talked and he told me how M was ignoring him, ghosting him, and all that. Two weeks later, after much phone sex and talking, J breaks up with M and makes me and him official.
Now I know this was wrong but I was fully convinced M was an abuser, or atleast J’s form of one. Overtime, me and J’s relationship got stronger. Called every night, talked every day. It got to the point where I’d get upset if our call steak broke. I was in love with him.
J had a friend Monet that he introduced me to (this is important.) J is monet’s bestfriend, they joke around all the time, often sexually, which I expressed made me uncomfortable. He told me to shut up and not to worry about it. His exact words were “if you don’t fuck with Monet, I don’t fuck with you” so I just shut up and dealt with it. Eventually something lead to our breakup and the next day he came back to get back with me.
Life went on, until one day he starts ghosting me. I try messaging him all throughout the day, even messaging some of his friends. I get to the second friend and he sends me a message like “stop annoying my friends, they don’t even like you.” And according to him he needed “time away.” So I gave him time. Until I woke up one morning to him telling me to “kill myself” and that we were done with.
It broke me. It was awful, and the whole time he was making jokes about it. He dangled the prospect of getting back together in my face and I just gave up and blocked him. A couple days later, He made a separate account on discord and messaged me, asking if I blocked him. When I told him yes he begged for me back and pleaded he’d do better. I gave him another chance to which he admitted the night prior he tried texting my number while high and drunk.
Small sidetrack: during our relationship he would do drugs which I expressed to him day after day I was never comfortable with and begged him to stop, or atleast stop telling me the stories of how he did it. He never listened.
This whole debacle happened the week of Christmas, I was at my uncles house. J was trying to offer sex in the prospect of us getting back together. Me, being upset and confused, took up the offer. Something I regret.
Nothing much of note happens the next few months, only to summer does the drama start again. Me and J start making plans to see one another. I spent hundreds of dollars buying clothes, luggage, tell everyone where I’m going to be. Now it’s important to note that during the summer I had to live with another family because of housing problems.
J did not like this. He said they were taking me away from him, that all the time that I could be giving him was being taken. (See part 2)
2024.05.20 00:50 Existing_Entry3737 Screws loose
The other night, a friend came by and brought her boyfriend. They saw I was getting ready to mow, so he says he felt like mowing for awhile. So I'm like knock yourself out. He finishes mowing, comes inside, and we all visit. They go to leave, I see them out, then go to back yard, to get mower back out so I can cut backyard. The handle was collapsed over the mower, and didn't think much of it. Put the handle back into position, when I notice the bolts (with washers) that keeps the handle in place are gone. I mean gone. Nowhere. I looked everywhere. Cant find them so I call my friend. She doesn't answer. Call her boyfriend, he doesn't answer either. They blow me off for 2 hours, and by then I'm spitting mad, because why would he take those? Well she finally messages me back, and says "He says they vibrated off". Both of them that were screwed on good, when I pushed the lawnmower to front yard, and also when I mowed 2 days ago. So I ask him why didnt he pick it up and then tell me about it. I don't know, he says. Slipped my mind. Been looking in yard where he mowed to see if I could find the screws and washers that both vibrated off at the same time. Nothing, nada, gone. I just cant get my head around why would someone take those things? Makes no sense. He has been known to have sticky fingers, but wouldn't you think he might take something more valuable? And the worst part is that I borrowed the lawnmower from my bro-in-law, who is super meticulous about his stuff, and I'm sure he will notice. How do you explain something like this? It's just so surreal. Needless to say, I'm done with the both of the lying grifters. Any thoughts?
?2024.05.20 00:48 Electronic_Tip_7275 He hasn't initiated anything sexual with me
Heres the backstory. I (29F) met a guy (29M) on hinge. On my profile I have that I'm looking for something short term. I'm really just wanting some summer lovin', I'm not looking for a relationship I just want to have a good time with someone. On his he has "figuring our my dating goals" "figuring out my relationship type". From my experience this is something people use when they want a fwb/situationship. Which is why I was okay matching with him, I don't want to waste anyone's time who might be looking for something more serious.
We have gone on 3 dates so far.
On our first date he did not even try to touch me. No goodbye hug and of course no kiss. I thought maybe he didn't feel a romantic connection even though we had a really good time. But he continued to talk to me every day and asked to see me again. On our second date we did have a cute makeout session. But it didn't feel sexual at all. It didn't get hot and heavy and he didn't try to feel me up. I'm not going to lie, I was a little disappointed becausei was hoping for more. But I do really like his company and I've made up my mind to just enjoy the experience of him.
Last night at our 3rd date, we went out for a drink but then after couldn't decide on what to do next. He drove us back to his place (where I normally meet him, I park my car and we take his) and he parked in his driveway. I was again disappointed thinking that was the end of the night and nothing happened, we had only had short conversations at the bar and didn't kiss or anything. Not even held hands. I playfully said "is it time for me to go home alreadyyyy?" And he responded with "no don't leave!". He hasn't invited me in because he's in the middle of moving and says it's a mess. It checks out because he had all kinds of stuff piled in the back if his car so he is still moving in. Anyway, I straight up told him I wanted to have him alone so we could make out lol. We sat in that car and had some fun for hours :) HOWEVER, he still hasn't tried anything besides kissing me. He keeps his hands only at my hands, arms, shoulders, face, while kissing. I got a little bold and held his hand and put it to my breast. It was an attempt at making it clear that I'm okay with more. We did go further this time. He kissed my neck and chest, and damn near hopped over the center console to be closer to me. But it feels like he's holding back. I got bold again and playfully told him "I want you so bad" and he said "me too, it's getting really hard to restrain myself" I didn't know what to say to that, but it was late so I went home soon after.
Here's the point to all this. I don't understand why he is restraining himself with me. Maybe he likes to have a stronger bond before moving on to physical intimacy? I don't want to rush him into anything but I am struggling. I normally have a high libido, and I'm open about sex. I think it's a nice thing that can be enjoyed by two responsible consenting adults without the need of a relationship. But now I am also worried he might be trying to start a relationship. We talk every day all day. And he's been such a gentleman. I don't want to lead him on if thats the case. And I also would like to stop feeling like a sex crazed heathen because it's all I can think about when im with him. Am I the problem? He's definitely not, but maybe there's a misunderstanding.
I'm stuck between making things weird by asking for clarity or just going with the flow and trying to enjoy the pace he's establishing. I just want to enjoy my time with him. And I want him to have a positive experience. Should I just adjust to him and see how it goes? It's really nice, but I feel guilty that I'm eagerly waiting for sex.
Also I should add, he did say he plans to invite me in when he gets everything presentable. So maybe he just wants a more comfortable experience than rushed car fun.. we shall see what happens then I guess.
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We have gone on 3 dates so far.
On our first date he did not even try to touch me. No goodbye hug and of course no kiss. I thought maybe he didn't feel a romantic connection even though we had a really good time. But he continued to talk to me every day and asked to see me again. On our second date we did have a cute makeout session. But it didn't feel sexual at all. It didn't get hot and heavy and he didn't try to feel me up. I'm not going to lie, I was a little disappointed becausei was hoping for more. But I do really like his company and I've made up my mind to just enjoy the experience of him.
Last night at our 3rd date, we went out for a drink but then after couldn't decide on what to do next. He drove us back to his place (where I normally meet him, I park my car and we take his) and he parked in his driveway. I was again disappointed thinking that was the end of the night and nothing happened, we had only had short conversations at the bar and didn't kiss or anything. Not even held hands. I playfully said "is it time for me to go home alreadyyyy?" And he responded with "no don't leave!". He hasn't invited me in because he's in the middle of moving and says it's a mess. It checks out because he had all kinds of stuff piled in the back if his car so he is still moving in. Anyway, I straight up told him I wanted to have him alone so we could make out lol. We sat in that car and had some fun for hours :) HOWEVER, he still hasn't tried anything besides kissing me. He keeps his hands only at my hands, arms, shoulders, face, while kissing. I got a little bold and held his hand and put it to my breast. It was an attempt at making it clear that I'm okay with more. We did go further this time. He kissed my neck and chest, and damn near hopped over the center console to be closer to me. But it feels like he's holding back. I got bold again and playfully told him "I want you so bad" and he said "me too, it's getting really hard to restrain myself" I didn't know what to say to that, but it was late so I went home soon after.
Here's the point to all this. I don't understand why he is restraining himself with me. Maybe he likes to have a stronger bond before moving on to physical intimacy? I don't want to rush him into anything but I am struggling. I normally have a high libido, and I'm open about sex. I think it's a nice thing that can be enjoyed by two responsible consenting adults without the need of a relationship. But now I am also worried he might be trying to start a relationship. We talk every day all day. And he's been such a gentleman. I don't want to lead him on if thats the case. And I also would like to stop feeling like a sex crazed heathen because it's all I can think about when im with him. Am I the problem? He's definitely not, but maybe there's a misunderstanding.
I'm stuck between making things weird by asking for clarity or just going with the flow and trying to enjoy the pace he's establishing. I just want to enjoy my time with him. And I want him to have a positive experience. Should I just adjust to him and see how it goes? It's really nice, but I feel guilty that I'm eagerly waiting for sex.
Also I should add, he did say he plans to invite me in when he gets everything presentable. So maybe he just wants a more comfortable experience than rushed car fun.. we shall see what happens then I guess.
2024.05.20 00:48 Equivalent-Focus4247 AITAH for not letting my daughter sleepover at a friends house
The beginning of my daughters 6th grade year (2021), a new girl moved to town. We will call her Ruth. Her parents had recently divorced and she moved here with her mother. My daughter quickly became friends with her and I noticed my daughter coming out of her shell more. Being less shy, more outgoing. I was happy for her to have made a new friend that she was close so quickly with. The friendship quickly turned into best friends. The girl began coming over to our house for sleepovers on the weekends as kids do. They would hang out at the park together in town. She eventually asked to go over to her house to hang out and I said yes. She knew it would just be hanging out during the day as I really didn't know her mother well. My daughter got in the car and told me how much she liked hanging out over there and then proceeded to tell me there roaches crawling on the floor in the girls bedroom, THEN asked if she could stay the night sometime. I told her no and explained to her why and said that her friend is always welcome to come stay at our home. BFF's continue. No harm, no foul.
Fast forward to 7th grade year. Still BFF's. This is great. Especially since girls are so awful to each other ALL THE TIME IN JUNIOR HIGH. Her mom has a work trip and has to travel out of state for a few days during the school week. She asked if her daughter could stay with us. My husband and I agreed that it would be fine and she stayed with us for a few days while her mom was out of state. Still BFF's.
Now it's the middle of 7th grade year, around January (2023). Her mom (46 y/o)started dating a new guy(50 y/o). This guys fiancé had recently left him for another guy. We will call him John. I live in a dominantly republican area if this gives you any idea of the people I'm dealing with/talking about. Anyways, they fall in love and she moves in with John within 6 months of dating each other. (Approx May 2023). Her son decides to move back with his dad. Her other daughter moved in with a boyfriend (she is over 18). So, just the mom and daughter move in with him and his son(irrelevant).
Summer 2023 it is suddenly unfair that Ruth is always coming over to our house, but my daughter never goes over there. My husband(37 y/o) and I(35 y/p) agree that it is ok for her to go over there. John had just recently putting up an above ground pool. We don't have a pool. It's summer. I get it. She goes over there plenty of times, I let her stay late as we just live about a mile or two down the road. John starts building a "cabin" as a "great outlook over the pool". This is basically a cabin/pool house thing up 12 feet above the pool, but kind of to the side. My husband and I think its super weird...but whatever, they continue hanging out back and forth at one another's houses. Ruth continues to stay over a lot. In the midst of all of this and my daughter meeting John she informs me that....John thinks my daughter is a liar. Of course I asked why. John thinks that because my daughter will not look him in the eye when she speaks to him. My daughter is shy and has a lot of anxiety. I told her that she is not required to look him in the eye if she doesn't want to her. Its HER choice. John now has a say in what Ruth wears. He is not allowing her to wear short shorts anymore because it will give off the wrong impression to men dressing that way. Same with tops as far as her chest and stomach. I don't mean extreme stuff either. I mean if she has a shirt that touches her pants, but when she lifts up her arms it shows her stomach it is not allowed. I also really don't care how people choose to allow/not allow their children to dress, it is just that she was previously allowed to wear these things. She is also no longer allowed to hang out in her room alone, she has to hang out with her family in the living room.
Fast forward to a couple of months ago. Still BFF's. My daughter asked for Ruth to stay over. Of course, its fine with my husband and I. However, Ruth cannot stay over because it is now unfair that Ruth always stays at our house and my daughter never stays there. My daughter asked me if she could spend the night over there. She informed me that if she was not able to spend the night over there, then they wouldn't be able to hang out anymore. I figured it was just two teenagers making stuff up to be able to stay somewhere. I always used to do it when I was a kid...all kids do it. I asked my daughter if she wanted to stay there. She was upset, and said yes because if she doesn't then they won't be able to be friends. She said so if she has to do it to be friends with Ruth, then she will. My daughter does not even use public restrooms/school restrooms. The only place she will go to the restroom is at home. My husband and I talked it over and did not allow her to stay because of how he openly talks shit about our daughter, and if you've read above...its giving narcissist. We explained all of this to our daughter.
Later that night there is a knock on our door. Its Ruth mom and John. They asked if they could talk to us. John asked if we called him a pedophile. We didn't. We explain this. Convo continues. Not a heated convo just a normal convo. They continue to talk to let us know that they don't drink or anything but they are facing misdemeanor charges for fighting ANOTHER GIRLS PARENTS in the 8th grade class at a Poker Run for a fundraiser a few months ago but it wasn't their fault. Then John asks if I bought Ruth a tanktop recently. It was a spaghetti strap. John tells my husband and I "Ruth isn't allowed to wear those because soon they will be freshman in highschool and ALL of the seniors have a bet to see how many freshman they can fuck and the ones dressed like that will be the easiest targets" Blood boils . I informed John politely but sternly that girls should not have to worry about how they are dressed, parents should be teaching the BOYS how to behave properly and obtain consent. John also defended a sex offender that was charged for molesting a girlfriends daughter who is disabled and cannot speak or talk for herself. John defended him and said technically she WASNT a minor and he is a good guy. Idc about sex offenders and I do believe in rehabilitation but a crime is a crime. Long convo. Basically chit chatting about our kids. It ended with them telling us that our daughter is always welcome to stay and we said thanks and they left.
Now, Ruth is no longer allowed to hang out with my daughter. Ruth has to ride the bus and cannot get rides home with us because its US. They are not allowed at the park together. She's not allowed here. This is per John and Ruth's mom. They had graduation and Ruth had to make sure John didn't catch her talking to me.
I obviously want my daughter to be happy. She has not given me an attitude about any of this. She has gotten upset and cried and just told me that she would do it if she had to because she doesn't want to lose her friend. She wants to have a good summer but John gives me the CREEPS and narcissist vibes. I also feel like its a control thing for him?
Plz be nice. I'll cry if I'm TA. lol
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Fast forward to 7th grade year. Still BFF's. This is great. Especially since girls are so awful to each other ALL THE TIME IN JUNIOR HIGH. Her mom has a work trip and has to travel out of state for a few days during the school week. She asked if her daughter could stay with us. My husband and I agreed that it would be fine and she stayed with us for a few days while her mom was out of state. Still BFF's.
Now it's the middle of 7th grade year, around January (2023). Her mom (46 y/o)started dating a new guy(50 y/o). This guys fiancé had recently left him for another guy. We will call him John. I live in a dominantly republican area if this gives you any idea of the people I'm dealing with/talking about. Anyways, they fall in love and she moves in with John within 6 months of dating each other. (Approx May 2023). Her son decides to move back with his dad. Her other daughter moved in with a boyfriend (she is over 18). So, just the mom and daughter move in with him and his son(irrelevant).
Summer 2023 it is suddenly unfair that Ruth is always coming over to our house, but my daughter never goes over there. My husband(37 y/o) and I(35 y/p) agree that it is ok for her to go over there. John had just recently putting up an above ground pool. We don't have a pool. It's summer. I get it. She goes over there plenty of times, I let her stay late as we just live about a mile or two down the road. John starts building a "cabin" as a "great outlook over the pool". This is basically a cabin/pool house thing up 12 feet above the pool, but kind of to the side. My husband and I think its super weird...but whatever, they continue hanging out back and forth at one another's houses. Ruth continues to stay over a lot. In the midst of all of this and my daughter meeting John she informs me that....John thinks my daughter is a liar. Of course I asked why. John thinks that because my daughter will not look him in the eye when she speaks to him. My daughter is shy and has a lot of anxiety. I told her that she is not required to look him in the eye if she doesn't want to her. Its HER choice. John now has a say in what Ruth wears. He is not allowing her to wear short shorts anymore because it will give off the wrong impression to men dressing that way. Same with tops as far as her chest and stomach. I don't mean extreme stuff either. I mean if she has a shirt that touches her pants, but when she lifts up her arms it shows her stomach it is not allowed. I also really don't care how people choose to allow/not allow their children to dress, it is just that she was previously allowed to wear these things. She is also no longer allowed to hang out in her room alone, she has to hang out with her family in the living room.
Fast forward to a couple of months ago. Still BFF's. My daughter asked for Ruth to stay over. Of course, its fine with my husband and I. However, Ruth cannot stay over because it is now unfair that Ruth always stays at our house and my daughter never stays there. My daughter asked me if she could spend the night over there. She informed me that if she was not able to spend the night over there, then they wouldn't be able to hang out anymore. I figured it was just two teenagers making stuff up to be able to stay somewhere. I always used to do it when I was a kid...all kids do it. I asked my daughter if she wanted to stay there. She was upset, and said yes because if she doesn't then they won't be able to be friends. She said so if she has to do it to be friends with Ruth, then she will. My daughter does not even use public restrooms/school restrooms. The only place she will go to the restroom is at home. My husband and I talked it over and did not allow her to stay because of how he openly talks shit about our daughter, and if you've read above...its giving narcissist. We explained all of this to our daughter.
Later that night there is a knock on our door. Its Ruth mom and John. They asked if they could talk to us. John asked if we called him a pedophile. We didn't. We explain this. Convo continues. Not a heated convo just a normal convo. They continue to talk to let us know that they don't drink or anything but they are facing misdemeanor charges for fighting ANOTHER GIRLS PARENTS in the 8th grade class at a Poker Run for a fundraiser a few months ago but it wasn't their fault. Then John asks if I bought Ruth a tanktop recently. It was a spaghetti strap. John tells my husband and I "Ruth isn't allowed to wear those because soon they will be freshman in highschool and ALL of the seniors have a bet to see how many freshman they can fuck and the ones dressed like that will be the easiest targets" Blood boils . I informed John politely but sternly that girls should not have to worry about how they are dressed, parents should be teaching the BOYS how to behave properly and obtain consent. John also defended a sex offender that was charged for molesting a girlfriends daughter who is disabled and cannot speak or talk for herself. John defended him and said technically she WASNT a minor and he is a good guy. Idc about sex offenders and I do believe in rehabilitation but a crime is a crime. Long convo. Basically chit chatting about our kids. It ended with them telling us that our daughter is always welcome to stay and we said thanks and they left.
Now, Ruth is no longer allowed to hang out with my daughter. Ruth has to ride the bus and cannot get rides home with us because its US. They are not allowed at the park together. She's not allowed here. This is per John and Ruth's mom. They had graduation and Ruth had to make sure John didn't catch her talking to me.
I obviously want my daughter to be happy. She has not given me an attitude about any of this. She has gotten upset and cried and just told me that she would do it if she had to because she doesn't want to lose her friend. She wants to have a good summer but John gives me the CREEPS and narcissist vibes. I also feel like its a control thing for him?
Plz be nice. I'll cry if I'm TA. lol
2024.05.20 00:46 Spellbound-Sioux my mum’s kicked me out ???
i'm 22, i still live at home and last night i had come home with my friend and her boyfriend after attending a party, it was getting late and my friend and her boyfriend couldn't find a cab to take them home so i suggested that they can sleep on my couch downstairs of my house and they did. so this morning, i had told my mum that my friend was sleeping downstairs, not her boyfriend because i know my mum would flip out so my mum ends up coming downstairs an hour later to look around and she finds my friend's boyfriend fast asleep in our guest room which he must've done during the night. my mum absolutely flipped at me and told me to get out of her house, i didn't say anything and she kept calling me a liar and was so so mad at me. she hasn't spoken to me since this morning and the last thing she told me is to leave her house, im not sure what im supposed to do and i feel like if i try to speak to her, she won't hear me out. i also have to look for an apartment in the meantime and im not making a lot of money so it would really be beneficial for me to stay at home (which is why i live at home). what should i do? please help
Also we've had people stay over plenty times, even people I don't know particularly well and she's allowed it.
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Also we've had people stay over plenty times, even people I don't know particularly well and she's allowed it.
2024.05.20 00:46 NoHopeIsFreedom I (28M) met this girl (34F) who isn't single and has kids, and messed up
I just want to get this out.
I'm going on my third year at this job. This girl joined about 1,5 years ago, she has 3 kids with a guy there who's been working there for 13 years. One of the people who has been working there the longest. Bosses respect him. And to be quite frank, even though I rarely see him, I always had a good relationship with him. Shake hands. I find him to be alright. But I don't know much..From what I gathered, she's only with him because they have 3 kids. I don't see any sort of love between them. From what I have gathered he has cheated on her, or at the very least, has tried to see other girls, which teared her self esteem up and became a very frustrated person.
When I first started talking to her I would tell her that her boyfriend's the guy who should be promoted because he would do a greater job than most. Always complimented him. She'd agree. Until, fast forward, she wasn't so nice about him anymore.
Me and the girl started talking too much. I guess I became her go to, and made her feel very good. I always kept distance when it came to showing love interest, I always kept a step back. But my toxic, idiot side kinda wanted her to like me like that. Why? Idk. Self esteem. I actually had fun talking to her tbh. We had an actual lot in common. We hung out somewhere special once and it was a dinner with other friends. I saw it as just fun.
She lived near me and we started going home from work in the same car. Fast forward, maybe a month later, she decided she wanted to talk to me privately, and as I guessed, she went ahead and kissed me. After that, It became more sexual and she started going down on me. My behavior is so immature, I would be lying if I said I wouldn't have kept that up.
We kept talking and talking, but the reality is i couldn't find myself to have genuine love for her. I don't like her like that. Although I do care for her. Feel good when she's around, but it's the same feelings you have when you care for a real friend.
She would do everything for me. Gave me expensive shoes (110€) because she heard me speak about adidas shoes at that same dinner. She brought me other sht. Bruh she brought a rabbit and named it after a nickname she gave me.
I don't love her. I accepted that this was enough, so I decided to tell her straight. She didn't believe me. So she kept finding ways to get back to me. Like skipping work, or work in a different position or schedule so I wouldn't see her, just different ways to get my attention. I would fall for that everytime. Because the sobbing and tears didn't help. She even came to my house unannounced and wouldn't leave until I came out and talked to her. She said something about not feeling good. I felt afraid she'd do something stupid to herself or pass out from some illness she has. So I came out. Spoke to her, and gave out, we became good again, telling her I only saw her as a friend, but if she wants benefits too, sure. Again, me messing it up with selfishness again because I always knew she was hopeful for more.
Recently, i decided to once again see if I can separate myself from her. I told her I wanted distance and I got that. She gave me that, while always hoping I'd track back. When she's around bruh just knowing she's looking at me it makes me laugh. And she takes it as "he's playing hard to get but he's nervous and wants me", lol, no i just can't contain myself.
But I've managed to be avoiding that.
She wants my attention back everytime she sees me, but I haven't aknowledged.
Before the very last time I spoke to her, she told my friend that she was taking meds and hasn't slept because of me. After that, that same day while going home, she drove by me and got out, i told her to her face that I only saw her as a coworker and to keep distance.
In response, she stepped away from me at work. Unfollowed me on all social medias. And hopefully it stays this way.
After some time she told my friend that she was going to leave work. He told me this and the first thing I said was: "nah bro. She said this because she knows you'd tell me, and so I would reach out to her". And guess what, I was right. She went on her work vacation without telling anyone, and was furious I didn't reach out to her. I haven't fell for these sort of manipulations anymore. I have not texted. To this day, after a couple months, we haven't spoken.
Her boyfriend knew about all this I'm sure, but let it go. And is cool to me still. I'm not sure how love works in their house, but if there was no relationship, she wouldn't hide. So, she cheated with me, clearly.
My friend said that in every break up, one person always gets seriously more hurt. And I should accept this. And move forward. He also knows that she's very problematic and has been in situations where she's wrong but makes a scene to her bosses to make it seem she's in the right. Therefore that I need to be careful she doesn't start drama with me as revenge.
It is crazy that I have put myself in this situation. But my only solution is to keep this up, right? Simply not aknowledge her existence. I don't see any other way.
Tl:dr - Met this girl at work who is in a long relationship. She fell and obsessed over me. Now I can't get rid of her.I (28M) met this girl (34F) who isn't single and has kids, and messed up
2024.05.20 00:45 ThrowRA-Yoshi25 I 24F have given my 30M boyfriend an ultimatum to figure things out or I leave. If he says he doesn’t want to break up how do I make things work after everything happened?
I 24f have been fighting since Monday with my boyfriend of almost a year 30M because of me going to the hospital and him not even making an effort to be there for me. If it came to anyone else in his family or even his ex wife he would’ve been there regardless if he had his kids.I will have the link to the original post in comments.
He talked to me on Thursday night and he said we weren’t broken up and I could come home (to clarify I’m on my moms couch while she is away) so I planned on coming home Friday night. He then texts me the next morning he asks me to stay at my moms and he still needs to think and make sure he is making the right choice. I asked him like how long do you need he told me one more night. Well I honored that request. Be in mind you guys he isn’t answering a single text from me, leaves it on read, doesn’t call me back let alone answer my calls and he says he isn’t ignoring me.
Well I go home last night when we are both done with work I’m on my computer and I let him do what he needs to do when he gets home to unwind from work as well. Then we start talking and it’s not going well he just looks at me with his leg up in his face and stays silent for the most part. Still can’t apologize for any of the things he did and all he could tell me was idk I need more time to think. He gets his kids tonight and will have them till Wednesday he uses them as an excuse not to talk to me or work anything out and says they are his responsibility when it’s convenient for him. We doesn’t want the responsibility he will push it on me.
Well I told him before I left last night cause we were getting no where he has till Thursday to figure it out or I am done. I am actively looking for an apartment and another job to pay my rent. My mom will let me stay with her if it gets to that point. But my issue is if he says he wants to stay together I don’t know how I’m supposed to trust him again and make things go back to normal ish what are y’all’s thoughts
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He talked to me on Thursday night and he said we weren’t broken up and I could come home (to clarify I’m on my moms couch while she is away) so I planned on coming home Friday night. He then texts me the next morning he asks me to stay at my moms and he still needs to think and make sure he is making the right choice. I asked him like how long do you need he told me one more night. Well I honored that request. Be in mind you guys he isn’t answering a single text from me, leaves it on read, doesn’t call me back let alone answer my calls and he says he isn’t ignoring me.
Well I go home last night when we are both done with work I’m on my computer and I let him do what he needs to do when he gets home to unwind from work as well. Then we start talking and it’s not going well he just looks at me with his leg up in his face and stays silent for the most part. Still can’t apologize for any of the things he did and all he could tell me was idk I need more time to think. He gets his kids tonight and will have them till Wednesday he uses them as an excuse not to talk to me or work anything out and says they are his responsibility when it’s convenient for him. We doesn’t want the responsibility he will push it on me.
Well I told him before I left last night cause we were getting no where he has till Thursday to figure it out or I am done. I am actively looking for an apartment and another job to pay my rent. My mom will let me stay with her if it gets to that point. But my issue is if he says he wants to stay together I don’t know how I’m supposed to trust him again and make things go back to normal ish what are y’all’s thoughts
2024.05.20 00:44 purple_polka-dot Where, oh where, do all the pompoms go?
My cat Eliza loves her pompoms and it melts my heart. We play with them in the kitchen every evening and she transports them around at night. Every morning, there are 2-3 pompoms on the floor near my bed. She meows loudly the whole way up the hallway with them in her mouth. It's so cute.
But here's the thing. I have bought over 150 pompoms. Yet, at any given time, there are only about 5-10 visible. I have looked under ever piece of furniture imaginable. I frequently slide a long stick under the stove and fridge. I have checked behind large cabinets, the couch, etc. But... the max I can ever find is like 20.
Where, oh where, Eliza, do all the pompoms go?
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But here's the thing. I have bought over 150 pompoms. Yet, at any given time, there are only about 5-10 visible. I have looked under ever piece of furniture imaginable. I frequently slide a long stick under the stove and fridge. I have checked behind large cabinets, the couch, etc. But... the max I can ever find is like 20.
Where, oh where, Eliza, do all the pompoms go?
2024.05.20 00:40 StrangeMango1211 My best friend is dating my ex and I really need advice
My ex (26m) and I (25f) dated from (my age) 17-19. My best friend (24f) and I have been friends for 13 years. We all knew each other in high school and she knows the ins and outs of our (very) up and down relationship. Ultimately we weren't right for each other, and he did end up cheating on me at the very end with a girl he met on Snapchat. But he was my first love, I felt cared very deeply for him and she absolutely knows that.
I lost touch with my ex after our breakup. Recently, my best friend who I'll call Katie matched with my ex who I'll call Eric on Tinder. She had joked about seeing him on there before and swiping left but had talked about swiping right as a joke. I always laughed it off because I assumed she'd never actually do it and if she did, that it wouldn't be serious. But a month ago she told me that she ended up bumping into him and apparently they laughed about seeing each other on Tinder. One thing led to another and he asked her on a date, which she described as "just dinner out," and they got to talking about the past. Apparently he told her he thought she was cute back when we all knew each other in HS but that he never got the chance to tell her because her and I were so close. She framed this as something to be laughed off but it hurt a little that he felt the need to tell her that now. They've been hanging out and are very clearly going on dates and very into each other, but she won't put a label on it because I think she's scared to make it official and hurt me. But I still have to hear little bits about their time together when we're hanging out, and our mutual friends have told me that she has spoken more about how much she likes him when I'm not around.
In Katie's mind, Eric and I were in a high school relationship that ended because we were both immature and wrong for each other. While this may be true, I still cared about him and was betrayed when he cheated. She saw me cry and basically become paralyzed with depression and grief about our relationship ending and being lied to- I didn't eat for days and barely showered, she helped me through it. She may think it was a silly little relationship, and in retrospect it wasn't anything monumental, but it still meant something to me at the time and taught me a lot about myself. Now they are inching from casual relationship to boyfriend and girlfriend, I don't know if its gotten physical but I would imagine if it hasn't that that would be the next step.
I told her at the beginning that I was uncomfortable with the whole thing but that ultimately she needs to do what is right for her and what she wants. Now I think I was way too casual about it and made it seem like less of a deal than it is to me. She clearly knows it will affect me or she'd talk to me about it more. I know I can't force her not to date him, but I feel like I might end up having to choose between watching her fall in love with my first love or lose my best friend who has literally been like a sister, a part of my family, for nearly 14 years.
Sorry this is so long. I'm sick to my stomach writing it. I've had anxiety since it began and can't look at her the same. I keep checking his social media, which I haven't done in years, to see if he has posted her. They already comment under each other's post.
Any advice is legitimately greatly appreciated. I don't know who to turn to because my family loves her, and all our friends are mutual. Thank you.
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I lost touch with my ex after our breakup. Recently, my best friend who I'll call Katie matched with my ex who I'll call Eric on Tinder. She had joked about seeing him on there before and swiping left but had talked about swiping right as a joke. I always laughed it off because I assumed she'd never actually do it and if she did, that it wouldn't be serious. But a month ago she told me that she ended up bumping into him and apparently they laughed about seeing each other on Tinder. One thing led to another and he asked her on a date, which she described as "just dinner out," and they got to talking about the past. Apparently he told her he thought she was cute back when we all knew each other in HS but that he never got the chance to tell her because her and I were so close. She framed this as something to be laughed off but it hurt a little that he felt the need to tell her that now. They've been hanging out and are very clearly going on dates and very into each other, but she won't put a label on it because I think she's scared to make it official and hurt me. But I still have to hear little bits about their time together when we're hanging out, and our mutual friends have told me that she has spoken more about how much she likes him when I'm not around.
In Katie's mind, Eric and I were in a high school relationship that ended because we were both immature and wrong for each other. While this may be true, I still cared about him and was betrayed when he cheated. She saw me cry and basically become paralyzed with depression and grief about our relationship ending and being lied to- I didn't eat for days and barely showered, she helped me through it. She may think it was a silly little relationship, and in retrospect it wasn't anything monumental, but it still meant something to me at the time and taught me a lot about myself. Now they are inching from casual relationship to boyfriend and girlfriend, I don't know if its gotten physical but I would imagine if it hasn't that that would be the next step.
I told her at the beginning that I was uncomfortable with the whole thing but that ultimately she needs to do what is right for her and what she wants. Now I think I was way too casual about it and made it seem like less of a deal than it is to me. She clearly knows it will affect me or she'd talk to me about it more. I know I can't force her not to date him, but I feel like I might end up having to choose between watching her fall in love with my first love or lose my best friend who has literally been like a sister, a part of my family, for nearly 14 years.
Sorry this is so long. I'm sick to my stomach writing it. I've had anxiety since it began and can't look at her the same. I keep checking his social media, which I haven't done in years, to see if he has posted her. They already comment under each other's post.
Any advice is legitimately greatly appreciated. I don't know who to turn to because my family loves her, and all our friends are mutual. Thank you.
2024.05.20 00:39 _malfet_ I'm trying to draw my model, please give feedback.
 | Ok, so basically i think i'm not really good at drawing, and i want to do my model by myself and then stream with it. I have gathered my thoughs on what the concept is, and started drawing. submitted by _malfet_ to vtubers [link] [comments] The concept is that i am a little fox inside a half broken robot/droid character, controlling it from one eye, the other eye being some kind of energy generator. The little fox looks like this, everyone that saw it said that it looks cute. https://preview.redd.it/xd57s8ad5g1d1.png?width=665&format=png&auto=webp&s=efcf5a6efe27861950c36d6e3f9cfb5c36d434fb as for the rest of the model, it looks like this: https://preview.redd.it/ahn8ykws5g1d1.png?width=304&format=png&auto=webp&s=b355593d1687d05a595ee9fdf3d0f254da0d3d0a I'll have to redraw absolutely everything after the final design is settled to rig it, that's why everything is rough and kind of unfinished right now. I will change and add a lot of details in the final version, but i think the overall design is close to be finished. (there will be some kind of clothes or similar, but i have no idea what kind for now, if you have a suggestion, i'll be glad to hear it) What do you think of the idea in itself? The color palette? The design? Other things i haven't been thinking about? |
2024.05.20 00:37 RoadFalse7513 My childhood trauma is seeping into my relationship.
Hi everyone, Lately, I've noticed that I am extremely triggered in my relationship over very small things that remind me of bigger issues from my past. For context, I was sexually abused by my stepdad and emotionally and physically abused by my mom from ages 8 to 17. My mom only found out about what my stepdad did about two years ago.I have been in therapy, but I didn't find it to be very helpful. However, I've found a lot of books that have helped me tremendously in regulating my emotions. Even with these resources, I find myself absolutely bawling over small things my boyfriend does sometimes. I've never told him the exact details of my past, not only out of shame and embarrassment but also because I'm afraid he will leave me. While I don't think he actually would, I can't fathom the thought. For example, sometimes feel like he is ignoring me, which upsets me and makes me cry. When this happens, he tends to let me cry and then asks what's wrong, but to me, it feels like when my mom would scream and hit me, then be mad when I cried and ignored me. It reminds me of just being an emotional kid who would cry and then be ignored. I think my question is, should I share this with him so he can better understand? Has anyone been in a situation like this? How do I even bring it up? I'm scared and afraid. I've had one boyfriend before, and I never told him because I didn't trust him enough. But I trust my boyfriend now, and I honestly feel like it's getting to me. I feel like I'm keeping a secret, and I feel bad because l've met his family, and they seem so perfect. The one time l asked my family to get together to meet him, they couldn't pull through. I just need some help navigating this. I don't want to push him away with how emotional I am. This is a very good and healthy relationship, but I'm afraid I'm the problem or will become the problem. Any advice or shared experiences would be greatly appreciated.
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2024.05.20 00:36 ColdCommittee5107 Husbands porn addiction
I have known about this issue for a long time and it has been the center of a lot of arguments surrounding intimacy. He has ALWAYS watched porn and will look up women online to see if they have leaked nudes. When I first found out it wasn’t a terrible amount but he went as far as talking to other women online.. this was 5 years ago.. he claimed I didn’t do anything wrong and that he was still attracted to me.. blah blah blah. Fast forward, we had a baby (our child is now 4), I went through a significant change in my body and lost so much weight, hair.. etc. I hated my body image, I’ve always struggled with it. I didn’t have a sex drive because of how I felt about myself and was also going through some repressed childhood trauma of SA. He didn’t like that I wasn’t engaging in sexual activities as often as I used to. He turned to porn. He would try to have sex with me and then get extremely upset if I declined, even when I expressed my struggles with the SA memories. He would get angry, jump out of bed and go downstairs to what I can only assume would be to relieve himself. I pushed it down and blamed myself for his addiction. Maybe if I were more active, he wouldn’t turn to porn.. wrong. 3 years later and I am now pregnant again with a high sex drive. I initiate, I have tried new things in the bedroom, wore lingerie, I’ve put on weight obviously and have bigger bits so to say.. I feel great. However his addiction is at the worst it’s probably ever been. We can’t watch a show without him looking up the actresses and if they have nudes. I leave the house and he immediately opens porn. He even looks at this stuff RIGHT NEXT TO ME. Last night we had sex, and then watched a movie. I went up to bed after and he immediately was looking at other women and watching porn. I caught him. I expressed how it made me feel and asked why he was looking and he couldn’t give me an answer. I can’t look at him during sex because when I do I’m constantly worrying if I look good enough for him or wondering if he is thinking about other women. I don’t know where to go from here… I am tired of being disrespected and feeling ugly to the person I am supposed to feel the most confident around. Last week I got in some cute lingerie, snapped some photos, sent them to him and told him to come upstairs and he didn’t seem amused at all. It was almost like he was disgusted. He just said “wow”… I’m scared our marriage won’t survive if he doesn’t stop and even more scared that he won’t stop..
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2024.05.20 00:36 jadegreen123 My boyfriend’s girl best friend gifted him a perfumed soaked plush.
TLDR boyfriend’s girl friend gifted him a perfume soaked Cat plush that I think is supposed to represent her. She’s also gifted him what seems to be kinda personalised things to their relationship. Am I looking too much into it or was that her way of flirting with my boyfriend.
I 26f, boyfriend 29m have been together for 2 and a half years. His friend who is a girl (they have known each other for 1 and a half years) just randomly gave him a perfume soaked Cat plush when she came over for our last dnd session.
I asked him about it and if the cat meant anything to him and he said it was from a anime movie they had went to see with a group of people last last year. It was a black cat with green eyes. He said that she often refers to herself as his black cat and he is a fox. So the gift must have also been a reference to her aswell. She also gifted him a fox dice holder for christmas and has also drew him two portraits for the two birthdays she’s known him for. One of him with foxes and another of him being a barman in a tavern with a black cat sitting at the bar.
She also confessed to him before Christmas that there might be some feelings from her end even tho she has said she is a lesbian. Since then she has backed off and was ignoring him more and others in the dnd group. Just the past few weeks she has started talking more again and I thought it was past us and all was good and she was worried I hated her.
Now she has given him that gift and I just wanted to know if I am overthinking it or if she was trying to say something by that. I’ve not said anything to her and don’t talk much to after she told him she liked him. My boyfriend accepted the gift and was laughing and didn’t really say anything much about it. He says he feels awkward and doesn’t want to break up the dnd party by saying anything and is being quite passive and saying she didn’t meant anything by the gift. I just wanted to know what others thought because I thought it was quite disrespectful to gift something like that and also have it soaked in her perfume! Do you think I’m looking too much into it?
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I 26f, boyfriend 29m have been together for 2 and a half years. His friend who is a girl (they have known each other for 1 and a half years) just randomly gave him a perfume soaked Cat plush when she came over for our last dnd session.
I asked him about it and if the cat meant anything to him and he said it was from a anime movie they had went to see with a group of people last last year. It was a black cat with green eyes. He said that she often refers to herself as his black cat and he is a fox. So the gift must have also been a reference to her aswell. She also gifted him a fox dice holder for christmas and has also drew him two portraits for the two birthdays she’s known him for. One of him with foxes and another of him being a barman in a tavern with a black cat sitting at the bar.
She also confessed to him before Christmas that there might be some feelings from her end even tho she has said she is a lesbian. Since then she has backed off and was ignoring him more and others in the dnd group. Just the past few weeks she has started talking more again and I thought it was past us and all was good and she was worried I hated her.
Now she has given him that gift and I just wanted to know if I am overthinking it or if she was trying to say something by that. I’ve not said anything to her and don’t talk much to after she told him she liked him. My boyfriend accepted the gift and was laughing and didn’t really say anything much about it. He says he feels awkward and doesn’t want to break up the dnd party by saying anything and is being quite passive and saying she didn’t meant anything by the gift. I just wanted to know what others thought because I thought it was quite disrespectful to gift something like that and also have it soaked in her perfume! Do you think I’m looking too much into it?
2024.05.20 00:34 Low-Jaguar-4078 Told my parents about my relationship doubts (F25 and M24), now they have completely changed their mind about my partner. What do I do?
I 25F, and my boyfriend 24M have been together for 3.5 years. In a nutshell….We’ve hit some financially rocky times in the last year, which I think played a part in us being complacent and not truly dating or doing things. Though I know there are plenty of things we can do for free or for hardly any money. This caused me to be concerned about our future, just thinking things through long term I started to wonder if we or I would truly be happy 10 years from now. I was distraught thinking that maybe he might not be my forever, and just happened to be at my parents and I cried to them about it before even talking to my partner and before even seeing if we could turn things around. Which I instantly regretted but I just needed to vent to someone. Later that day I called my boyfriend and laid everything out on the table and we both have things we need to work on and be better with. And we have agreed to work on them because the love is very much still there. Problem is now my parents think he’s never going to be good enough for me, they think I should just leave, and basically don’t support my relationship anymore. What do I do? Any advice helps
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2024.05.20 00:32 Effigy2k 23 (M4F) Tennessee/anywhere- Y'all know how this goes.
Hey I’m Laney, 5ft white guy trying to settle down. I'm shy nature but its because I don't like dealing with people. I guess I'm not that attractive and got no rizz, Can't get anyone to even look my way and the last reasons ship Ive had last 3 weeks so that's all the experience I have. Anyways I healthy? like I have body fat but you couldn't tell unless i lift my shirt.(skinny fat I think its called) I Working out is on my to do list but my job really gets me most day. you know standing on your feet 10 hours a day moving all day.
anyways besides the lore I love music and arts. Not that good at playing an instrument but spent the last 10 years studying art in stuff(not using it for anything good tho.) I love video games but I want to play with someone. playing watching it doesn't matter. If I see something live a hobby or skill i try to learn the basics of it.
Honesty if I like you and you like me we could just start dating and working towards living together. Ive seen people get maried after a year,month,day... and still be together till they die, or divorce after a year. So really knowing someone doesn't mean anything, People change. I also believe people just stop trying and stop going on dates and adventurers, I want someone I can go hey look at this thing it looks like a cute date and keep doing that for years.
If your seening this years or months from now I'm still free.
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anyways besides the lore I love music and arts. Not that good at playing an instrument but spent the last 10 years studying art in stuff(not using it for anything good tho.) I love video games but I want to play with someone. playing watching it doesn't matter. If I see something live a hobby or skill i try to learn the basics of it.
Honesty if I like you and you like me we could just start dating and working towards living together. Ive seen people get maried after a year,month,day... and still be together till they die, or divorce after a year. So really knowing someone doesn't mean anything, People change. I also believe people just stop trying and stop going on dates and adventurers, I want someone I can go hey look at this thing it looks like a cute date and keep doing that for years.
If your seening this years or months from now I'm still free.