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2024.05.20 08:24 Withyaboyyyyfriend Should I send my friend a letter?
I had a best friend in college, roommate codependent best friend. She had a really bad break up leading up to graduation. She was broken. Her drinking became more and more of a thing, she was even more lethargic, sad, not taking care of herself or her things. Not telling her family important things. This was covid times. She just really seemed unmotivated and broken and could not cope. But she was still herself in a way and her drinking while heavy, exhibited the same characteristics she always had when drunk in college. She was not responsive and eventually agitated when we tried to help. We all thought on the basis of the situation that only time would help.
She moves home after school she doesn’t stay for the summer. This was where we got extra concerned because the girl never wanted to go home at all no questions. Come August we all have to move home and we all stay somewhat in touch but there are no new updates or things coming from her really, and no one wanted to ask about the breakup but we did ask how she was and suggest she should go to therapy as her anxiety was growing. She has always had pretty intense physical symptoms of anxiety. I won’t go into detail about the last three times I saw her, but between that summer and now she basically cut everyone off except for another friend that eventually went to rehab herself. This friend I have not reached out to since the last time I saw her. I just feel the dread of hearing the same thing I always hear. The pattern the apologies and then the alcohol breath. The guilt about not being honest or firm with her and getting myself back in the same frustrating sad situation. These are not my first alcoholics.
Sorry basically, my best friend from college I can see she’s is in rehab/sober living. I knew at a time years ago that this was threatened by her parents. I mean damn it was offered its not a bad thing. But she has not talked to me, answered me meaningfully over the past few years, or told me about rehab. Should I send her a letter or maybe just text her that I love and miss her? Or should I just let her do her own thing. I am worried her anxiety will never let her accept that her friends care and still care always cared. She just dropped off she stopped answering she was distant even in person.
I can’t tell if she truly doesn’t want my friendship or if she was just so into being drunk to a certain point that we were hindering that.
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She moves home after school she doesn’t stay for the summer. This was where we got extra concerned because the girl never wanted to go home at all no questions. Come August we all have to move home and we all stay somewhat in touch but there are no new updates or things coming from her really, and no one wanted to ask about the breakup but we did ask how she was and suggest she should go to therapy as her anxiety was growing. She has always had pretty intense physical symptoms of anxiety. I won’t go into detail about the last three times I saw her, but between that summer and now she basically cut everyone off except for another friend that eventually went to rehab herself. This friend I have not reached out to since the last time I saw her. I just feel the dread of hearing the same thing I always hear. The pattern the apologies and then the alcohol breath. The guilt about not being honest or firm with her and getting myself back in the same frustrating sad situation. These are not my first alcoholics.
Sorry basically, my best friend from college I can see she’s is in rehab/sober living. I knew at a time years ago that this was threatened by her parents. I mean damn it was offered its not a bad thing. But she has not talked to me, answered me meaningfully over the past few years, or told me about rehab. Should I send her a letter or maybe just text her that I love and miss her? Or should I just let her do her own thing. I am worried her anxiety will never let her accept that her friends care and still care always cared. She just dropped off she stopped answering she was distant even in person.
I can’t tell if she truly doesn’t want my friendship or if she was just so into being drunk to a certain point that we were hindering that.
2024.05.20 08:13 Senibekele007 Do we all just “settle” for someone? Confused about love interest and idea of my dream guy
If I (19yo F) see a man living the life of my dreams I will make him a love interest solely bc he’s living an awesome life that I dream of potentially having a taste of and I can live thru him by being his wife (and that’s literally all it takes to knock my socks off). Honestly, I’m just tired of being poor, I still share a room with my grandma 😭, I’m considered to be an “attractive/pretty Ethiopian girl” and I feel like I can probably get somewhere in life with my looks n get mi dream life the easy way hehehe.
-JUST to clarify I am a sophomore in college and have a lil someting going for myself anyway, but still I’m not a miss independent girl at heart n I just want a man to take care of me😔
There is a 29yo guy that I kno who travels a lot, he’s a handsome tall guy from my country, funny, same values/ philosophy/ way of life , and while he checks all the boxes, It’s not that I have my heart set on him. He is basically like a reminder to me that I have a type, I know exactly what I want and I need to find more men like this before I choose one to settle down with. i never thought this was a problem until I met another Ethiopian guy (24yo) that I find very attractive, has good paying job, and I’m compatible enough with him especially when it comes to having an open minded, progressive philosophy, he is good (sometimes) and I always just think I should hold on to him out of scarcity of open minded, progressive Ethiopian/muslim guys(did I just answer my own question?😳) even tho he’s more boring than I’d imagine the “dream-guy” to be. With the 24 yo, I just kno I’m settling for someone who’s NOT 100% my dream guy, he’s just about 75% my dream guy. Idk if this is something to consider about him also but only AFTER I asked him to stop texting me incredibly horny messages and blocking him, he would apologize and begged me for a few years thru email for another chance and he’s just been on very good improved behavior for about 6 months now. I thought after these many years, it would be okay to give him a chance, so also let me know if I’m being naive for doing this. I feel like i am compromising and giving up on my hope of finding that dream guy n that “dream-life” I desire. What I wanna know is: Is this “dream-life/partner” thing even real😒? or do we all just “settle” for someone. Does everyone who’s married here think they’ve “settled” for their partner and that’s the way it always is or can the grass be a little more greener with the right person. Also, please tell me any thoughts/criticism you had while reading this. I wanna hear more perspectives.
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-JUST to clarify I am a sophomore in college and have a lil someting going for myself anyway, but still I’m not a miss independent girl at heart n I just want a man to take care of me😔
There is a 29yo guy that I kno who travels a lot, he’s a handsome tall guy from my country, funny, same values/ philosophy/ way of life , and while he checks all the boxes, It’s not that I have my heart set on him. He is basically like a reminder to me that I have a type, I know exactly what I want and I need to find more men like this before I choose one to settle down with. i never thought this was a problem until I met another Ethiopian guy (24yo) that I find very attractive, has good paying job, and I’m compatible enough with him especially when it comes to having an open minded, progressive philosophy, he is good (sometimes) and I always just think I should hold on to him out of scarcity of open minded, progressive Ethiopian/muslim guys(did I just answer my own question?😳) even tho he’s more boring than I’d imagine the “dream-guy” to be. With the 24 yo, I just kno I’m settling for someone who’s NOT 100% my dream guy, he’s just about 75% my dream guy. Idk if this is something to consider about him also but only AFTER I asked him to stop texting me incredibly horny messages and blocking him, he would apologize and begged me for a few years thru email for another chance and he’s just been on very good improved behavior for about 6 months now. I thought after these many years, it would be okay to give him a chance, so also let me know if I’m being naive for doing this. I feel like i am compromising and giving up on my hope of finding that dream guy n that “dream-life” I desire. What I wanna know is: Is this “dream-life/partner” thing even real😒? or do we all just “settle” for someone. Does everyone who’s married here think they’ve “settled” for their partner and that’s the way it always is or can the grass be a little more greener with the right person. Also, please tell me any thoughts/criticism you had while reading this. I wanna hear more perspectives.
2024.05.20 08:11 Historical_Dot_6606 do cheaters change? or am i making a mistake
My boyfriend cheated on me with a girl that he had a thing with a while ago before we dated. i constantly told him that i didn’t like her and i didn’t want him to be around her. New school year starts, turns out they’re both going to be going to the same college. Me and him are already dating at this time. We’re 9 months in, and turns out he had been seeing her, and going out to her dorm at night while her roommates were gone. He would constantly grab her ass and would mention sex. and apparently they he girl didn’t know he had a gf, but when she found out, she confronted him about it and he tried to continue what was going on and said that i “didn’t have to know” ( I got all of this info from the girl when i confronted her about it) I have decided to give him another chance, but i’m constantly overthinking. I don’t want to break up with him because i love him, i feel like we can be happy again. he genuinely seemed remorseful about what happened. however there’s been times where he’s told me to just “get over it” whenever i tell him that i’ve been overthinking a lot because of it. So now i don’t know what to do. i really do want to be with him but im just scared it’ll happen again, we don’t go to the same schools so i never truly know what he’s doing.
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2024.05.20 07:52 Girlnextdoor_2722 How to do good in college - My journey
Branch : Mechanical Engineering
I saw a lot of posts on how to do good in college and thought why not share some tips based on my own experience. I am not a topper and haven’t studied day and night for exams. I have an aggregate of 8+ CGPA
Won’t talk about placement because I haven’t applied for the same. This is strictly my opinion and this is how I have done my engineering. If you have any more doubts ask away in the comments. Don’t DM let even others benefit from your questions
Thanks and Regards Girl next door
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I saw a lot of posts on how to do good in college and thought why not share some tips based on my own experience. I am not a topper and haven’t studied day and night for exams. I have an aggregate of 8+ CGPA
- Set a goal
- College clubs
- Professors
- Friends
- Addictions
- Internships
Won’t talk about placement because I haven’t applied for the same. This is strictly my opinion and this is how I have done my engineering. If you have any more doubts ask away in the comments. Don’t DM let even others benefit from your questions
Thanks and Regards Girl next door
2024.05.20 07:43 Cause_Training Found lots of gay porn
My fiance always locks his computer screen and will not tell me the password. We've been together for 3 years and lived together for 1. He is very masculine, very dominant. Not dominant in that pathetic way where guys are assholes and use it as an excuse to degrade or bully, but he's just extremely confident and assertive.
I don't know why he's with me. He has a great job, bought us this house, and honestly, he could attract someone much better. I'm a single mother, I've lived a hard life, and even though I have a college degree, I don't work and instead am a stay at home mom. I have lots of debt, am a recovering addict, I have a felony, and terrible credit. Im 40, and it appears i cant even give him children. I never understood why a man like him would be with a woman like me, who has had so much difficulty.
Even though he's given me no reason to think this, I was worried maybe it's because being with me, meant having access to a little girl (my daughter is 6). I read sometimes men enter relationships with single mothers so they can abuse their daughters. I was worried the reason he was so careful about locking the computer down all the time, is because he maybe had CP.
The other night, he left his computer unlocked on accident and I had my opportunity. He told me he hadn't looked at porn since we started dating, but his download folder was full of porn. He was watching it after I'd go to bed and even while he was at work. He watched porn probably 3-4 times a week, from what I could see. Thankfully, I didn't see any CP, but I did see lots of gay porn. Like 2 men together. Probably 50% of it was heterosexual porn, but I was really surprised how much of it was 2 men.
We have sex at least once a day, but usually a couple times a day. I've told him we can do kinky stuff, but he insists he prefers very normal sex. We don't even do stuff like 69 or use toys. We've known each other since we were teenagers, so I know he used to be into kinky stuff.
My fiance is very closed off. He doesn't really talk to me about his stress or fears or anything, we don't talk about sex.
He has a friend who he's had for about 3 years. He started talking to his friend when the guy was 14, and my fiance was in his mid to late 30s. I've never felt anything was bad about their relationship, but obviously this kid is much younger than him. I've never heard them discuss anything inappropriate, but a couple of times, I heard him confide things he never told me. We had a miscarriage, and he talked to this kid about it, but not me. In fact, outside of sex, we have almost no interaction. He doesn't want to watch movies with me or do activities with me. I pretty much bring him food and have sex with him, and thats the only time i ever spend with him. This kid seems very heterosexual, but he has told my fiance he wished they lived together. He seems to have a more intimate and trusting relationship with this boy, than he does me. My fiance doesn't seem obsessive or anything, but he mentions this kid for one reason or another, just about every day. The kid calls him every day too (he's 18 now, btw) Now that I've found all this gay porn, I'm starting to become concerned.
One other thing, when my fiance and I were teenagers, we'd like have cyber sex. I have a really foggy memory about it, and maybe it was a dream (it was like 20 years ago), but I seem to remember he wanted another guy to join the conversation,and we had a cyber threesome, where the other guy pretended to penetrate him. When I asked him if he remembers that, he won't give me a direct answer. He rarely gives me a direct answer about anything. He did very directly tell me he isn't gay when i asked him today, though.
Guys, I'm sorry this is so long. I feel awful. I feel like he is keeping secrets from me and like I don't really know him, because he is so closed off. He knows I looked through his computer, but he doesn't want to talk about the porn. It's been 2 days and I feel like I'm in a black cloud and I can't escape this feeling that he's keeping a terrible secret. We've had sex like 5 times since I saw the porn on his computer.
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I don't know why he's with me. He has a great job, bought us this house, and honestly, he could attract someone much better. I'm a single mother, I've lived a hard life, and even though I have a college degree, I don't work and instead am a stay at home mom. I have lots of debt, am a recovering addict, I have a felony, and terrible credit. Im 40, and it appears i cant even give him children. I never understood why a man like him would be with a woman like me, who has had so much difficulty.
Even though he's given me no reason to think this, I was worried maybe it's because being with me, meant having access to a little girl (my daughter is 6). I read sometimes men enter relationships with single mothers so they can abuse their daughters. I was worried the reason he was so careful about locking the computer down all the time, is because he maybe had CP.
The other night, he left his computer unlocked on accident and I had my opportunity. He told me he hadn't looked at porn since we started dating, but his download folder was full of porn. He was watching it after I'd go to bed and even while he was at work. He watched porn probably 3-4 times a week, from what I could see. Thankfully, I didn't see any CP, but I did see lots of gay porn. Like 2 men together. Probably 50% of it was heterosexual porn, but I was really surprised how much of it was 2 men.
We have sex at least once a day, but usually a couple times a day. I've told him we can do kinky stuff, but he insists he prefers very normal sex. We don't even do stuff like 69 or use toys. We've known each other since we were teenagers, so I know he used to be into kinky stuff.
My fiance is very closed off. He doesn't really talk to me about his stress or fears or anything, we don't talk about sex.
He has a friend who he's had for about 3 years. He started talking to his friend when the guy was 14, and my fiance was in his mid to late 30s. I've never felt anything was bad about their relationship, but obviously this kid is much younger than him. I've never heard them discuss anything inappropriate, but a couple of times, I heard him confide things he never told me. We had a miscarriage, and he talked to this kid about it, but not me. In fact, outside of sex, we have almost no interaction. He doesn't want to watch movies with me or do activities with me. I pretty much bring him food and have sex with him, and thats the only time i ever spend with him. This kid seems very heterosexual, but he has told my fiance he wished they lived together. He seems to have a more intimate and trusting relationship with this boy, than he does me. My fiance doesn't seem obsessive or anything, but he mentions this kid for one reason or another, just about every day. The kid calls him every day too (he's 18 now, btw) Now that I've found all this gay porn, I'm starting to become concerned.
One other thing, when my fiance and I were teenagers, we'd like have cyber sex. I have a really foggy memory about it, and maybe it was a dream (it was like 20 years ago), but I seem to remember he wanted another guy to join the conversation,and we had a cyber threesome, where the other guy pretended to penetrate him. When I asked him if he remembers that, he won't give me a direct answer. He rarely gives me a direct answer about anything. He did very directly tell me he isn't gay when i asked him today, though.
Guys, I'm sorry this is so long. I feel awful. I feel like he is keeping secrets from me and like I don't really know him, because he is so closed off. He knows I looked through his computer, but he doesn't want to talk about the porn. It's been 2 days and I feel like I'm in a black cloud and I can't escape this feeling that he's keeping a terrible secret. We've had sex like 5 times since I saw the porn on his computer.
2024.05.20 07:41 KindBrilliant7879 pup has allergies, but has had consistent ear infection and swollen, red skin in one paw
my girl went to the vet last year for an issue with the skin around her eye and we found out she’s allergic to pollen and all that gross spring stuff. they gave her an allergy shot which lasted 2 months and told us to come back to renew it. she’s my dog and i take care of her, but technically my mother owns her and is the one who pays for the vet. anyways, this spring she got really itchy again. she’s a cream golden retriever so she has grinch feet as you can imagine, and she’s never had problems with her paws prior to this season…
she’s been incessantly chewing on and licking them to the point they’re stained. i know this is from allergies, and it mostly cleared up on its own which is awesome, but the one foot is still reaallly bothering her. she’s become “ticklish” on that paw (no “ticklish” reaction in any of her other feet) and i’ve noticed that right where her toe pads meet the “interior” of her paw, the space between toe pads and main pad where hair grows, is now hairless, swollen, bumpy, and pink. additionally, she got ear infections in both ears. i treated it with over the counter medication and the one ear completely cleared up; the other ear is quite mild now but the infection has persisted and it won’t quite go back to normal. the ear problem im not as concerned about tho
i’ve tried to get my mother to let me take her to the vet just to get that allergy shot a hundred times; i’ve told her it’s preventative (last year she had to take a trip to the emergency vet due to an eye infection that started from her skin allergies, kept itching around that eye), but she doesn’t seem to care and refuses to renew the allergy shots “unless all at-home remedies have been exhausted and there’s still a big issue”.
this is all relatively mild compared to afflictions she could have, i guess i’m just wondering if there’s any good at-home solutions to try as a last resort before i use college savings for cover the bill (have been saving up to go back)? i’m worried that paw is going to get worse and worse and i can’t stand seeing her suffering every night when the allergies act up the worst; she is so visibly uncomfortable, rolling around, rubbing her face with her paws, constantly stopping in the middle of play to itch, sometimes she just cries about it :( she’s developed the habit of standing in front of her brushes and demanding to be brushed every night to alleviate the itchiness, poor girl😭
thanks for reading ♡
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she’s been incessantly chewing on and licking them to the point they’re stained. i know this is from allergies, and it mostly cleared up on its own which is awesome, but the one foot is still reaallly bothering her. she’s become “ticklish” on that paw (no “ticklish” reaction in any of her other feet) and i’ve noticed that right where her toe pads meet the “interior” of her paw, the space between toe pads and main pad where hair grows, is now hairless, swollen, bumpy, and pink. additionally, she got ear infections in both ears. i treated it with over the counter medication and the one ear completely cleared up; the other ear is quite mild now but the infection has persisted and it won’t quite go back to normal. the ear problem im not as concerned about tho
i’ve tried to get my mother to let me take her to the vet just to get that allergy shot a hundred times; i’ve told her it’s preventative (last year she had to take a trip to the emergency vet due to an eye infection that started from her skin allergies, kept itching around that eye), but she doesn’t seem to care and refuses to renew the allergy shots “unless all at-home remedies have been exhausted and there’s still a big issue”.
this is all relatively mild compared to afflictions she could have, i guess i’m just wondering if there’s any good at-home solutions to try as a last resort before i use college savings for cover the bill (have been saving up to go back)? i’m worried that paw is going to get worse and worse and i can’t stand seeing her suffering every night when the allergies act up the worst; she is so visibly uncomfortable, rolling around, rubbing her face with her paws, constantly stopping in the middle of play to itch, sometimes she just cries about it :( she’s developed the habit of standing in front of her brushes and demanding to be brushed every night to alleviate the itchiness, poor girl😭
thanks for reading ♡
2024.05.20 07:34 SumptuousSuckler Is it creepy if I pursue this girl?
I (20M) had a college class yesterday that was a one day class from 9-5 and there was a girl that I really liked. We talked twice and it went well, I also made her chuckle a few times and she’d occasionally look at me during class. However, halfway through the class I realized the boy sitting next to her might be her boyfriend. During breaks they’d walk with each other and she would also stand really close to him, so to be safe I just assumed it was her boyfriend and stopped the pursuit to be respectful.
Well, after class ended yesterday and we were set to never see each other again, I got an email at 11PM that she sent me a contact request through our school’s software. I thought “contact request” meant “request to contact,” so I messaged her through the software saying “Hey, what’s up” because I thought she might need something or maybe she was giving me a chance to make a move. However, today I realized that “contact request” actually just means she requested to add my contact, or in other words, she was just friending my account. So she probably wasn’t trying to “contact” me at all, it was just a friend request.
She ended up not replying to my message (which no wonder, I sent “Hey, what’s up” around midnight completely unprompted from her POV), so I sent a follow up message today apologizing, basically saying “my bad, I didn’t mean to message you so late yesterday. I misunderstood the request as a message request and thought that you might need something, I didn’t mean to be weird lol,” and left it at that.
All of this considered, now idk what to do. In my 3 years that I’ve been at this school, not a single person has ever added my contact. I didn’t even know it was a feature. It really seems like her adding my contact was deliberate and it’s possible that the boy in class was just a normal friend and not her bf. As for her not replying to my message, the software is really crappy and doesn’t notify messages. It does send a notification email, but she made a comment in class that she barely checks her email, and without the email the messages are basically invisible. It’s possible she might still be interested in me and she just didn’t see the messages.
Now, here’s the controversial part. I found her instagram and could message her that way if I wanted to try talking to her. I know this sounds stalkish, but her username is literally just her first and last name, so it’s not that weird. All my friends, my brother, and even my girl friends said I should follow her to make a move. However, I’m worried about the possibility that she actually did see my messages and intentionally ignored them because she’s not interested or thought it was creepy. It’s possible she isn’t even interested from the beginning and just friended me cause I was nice. I don’t wanna follow her and make things even creepier if that’s the case, but I also don’t wanna regret not trying to talk to her if there’s a chance she does like me.
Sorry that this is so long, I don’t expect to get many responses tbh, but advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
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Well, after class ended yesterday and we were set to never see each other again, I got an email at 11PM that she sent me a contact request through our school’s software. I thought “contact request” meant “request to contact,” so I messaged her through the software saying “Hey, what’s up” because I thought she might need something or maybe she was giving me a chance to make a move. However, today I realized that “contact request” actually just means she requested to add my contact, or in other words, she was just friending my account. So she probably wasn’t trying to “contact” me at all, it was just a friend request.
She ended up not replying to my message (which no wonder, I sent “Hey, what’s up” around midnight completely unprompted from her POV), so I sent a follow up message today apologizing, basically saying “my bad, I didn’t mean to message you so late yesterday. I misunderstood the request as a message request and thought that you might need something, I didn’t mean to be weird lol,” and left it at that.
All of this considered, now idk what to do. In my 3 years that I’ve been at this school, not a single person has ever added my contact. I didn’t even know it was a feature. It really seems like her adding my contact was deliberate and it’s possible that the boy in class was just a normal friend and not her bf. As for her not replying to my message, the software is really crappy and doesn’t notify messages. It does send a notification email, but she made a comment in class that she barely checks her email, and without the email the messages are basically invisible. It’s possible she might still be interested in me and she just didn’t see the messages.
Now, here’s the controversial part. I found her instagram and could message her that way if I wanted to try talking to her. I know this sounds stalkish, but her username is literally just her first and last name, so it’s not that weird. All my friends, my brother, and even my girl friends said I should follow her to make a move. However, I’m worried about the possibility that she actually did see my messages and intentionally ignored them because she’s not interested or thought it was creepy. It’s possible she isn’t even interested from the beginning and just friended me cause I was nice. I don’t wanna follow her and make things even creepier if that’s the case, but I also don’t wanna regret not trying to talk to her if there’s a chance she does like me.
Sorry that this is so long, I don’t expect to get many responses tbh, but advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
2024.05.20 07:24 Helenanan_796 Conflicted about college
I want to preface this post by saying giving you a little background into who i am. I am 19 years old girl from an African household (Liberian), and I'm surrounded by majority of the time African people in America(west africans). I was raised in America.
So I am coming on here because I just don't have anyone else to talk to about this sort of thing revovling college and what I want to do.
Before College I thought I wanted to become a cardiac surgeon because that seemed like a intresting career path. However as a venture through college I realized that I don't really like medicine or anything to do with Healthcare.
I find myself more interested in creative writing and pursuing a career in writing. Though I don't have enough resources to find programs to do to help me with my writing.
However, I've just been thinking lately and I have been feeling pressured from my family and friends to pursue a field in healthcare and to major in biology because it's more profitable and practical. They make a lot of good points.
They told me that my interest should be more of a second thing or a minor.
It's a lot to take in at all at once, and I don't really know what to think.
Especially so since they constantly compare the job earnings of people with bio degrees in the healthcare field compared to English degrees.
All of this just have me worried about my future after college.
Like I'm worried about being able to sustain myself after college financially and securing a job. I know this is a bit too personal.
I also want to give more context into saying that, I had a conversation with a biology advisor early this semester. I told her I wasn't really doing well in biology courses and didn't have time to manage my bio courses, specifically biology 13 and 15. And she bluntly told me that if I'm not doing well in the introductory courses of biology, I'll most likely fail the advanced courses, or at least not do as well. Because at the end of the day introductory courses are the building blocks to Advanced courses. And failing both will impact my GPA. ( I get C,C+, in my science courses but As in literature courses)
The most important things she told me is that if I'm not doing something that I love then I won't be happy as a college student.
But then again if I do something that I love then I won't I might not be happy for the rest of my life financially. How am I supposed to pay off student debt?
Do you guys have any advice on any of this?
I just feel super overwhelmed.
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So I am coming on here because I just don't have anyone else to talk to about this sort of thing revovling college and what I want to do.
Before College I thought I wanted to become a cardiac surgeon because that seemed like a intresting career path. However as a venture through college I realized that I don't really like medicine or anything to do with Healthcare.
I find myself more interested in creative writing and pursuing a career in writing. Though I don't have enough resources to find programs to do to help me with my writing.
However, I've just been thinking lately and I have been feeling pressured from my family and friends to pursue a field in healthcare and to major in biology because it's more profitable and practical. They make a lot of good points.
They told me that my interest should be more of a second thing or a minor.
It's a lot to take in at all at once, and I don't really know what to think.
Especially so since they constantly compare the job earnings of people with bio degrees in the healthcare field compared to English degrees.
All of this just have me worried about my future after college.
Like I'm worried about being able to sustain myself after college financially and securing a job. I know this is a bit too personal.
I also want to give more context into saying that, I had a conversation with a biology advisor early this semester. I told her I wasn't really doing well in biology courses and didn't have time to manage my bio courses, specifically biology 13 and 15. And she bluntly told me that if I'm not doing well in the introductory courses of biology, I'll most likely fail the advanced courses, or at least not do as well. Because at the end of the day introductory courses are the building blocks to Advanced courses. And failing both will impact my GPA. ( I get C,C+, in my science courses but As in literature courses)
The most important things she told me is that if I'm not doing something that I love then I won't be happy as a college student.
But then again if I do something that I love then I won't I might not be happy for the rest of my life financially. How am I supposed to pay off student debt?
Do you guys have any advice on any of this?
I just feel super overwhelmed.
2024.05.20 07:15 off_white_bkgd Confirmed, Austin Reaves is fearless.
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2024.05.20 07:14 BoyWithGreenEyes1 My platonic friend is available now and my heart is confused. What should i do?
Ok so I met this girl in college about a year ago. We're both 19. We make time to hang out at least once a week and talk deeply about our personal lives. Definitely one of my closest platonic friends.
I always thought she was pretty cute, but I never said anything since she was in a relationship. I really like being her platonic friend too so it never bothered me at all. However, earlier today when we were hiking together, she told me that she was breaking up with her partner, and that she's open to dating somebody again. Now a part of me is suddenly really anxious. It's like her becoming available flipped a switch in my mind. I feel weird about it.
My heart wants me to go for it and ask her out - I really do think we would be a pretty cute couple - but my head reminds me of the friendships I've ruined like this in the past, and now I don't know what to do.
Any advice? Never had a gf before so i don't really know how to navigate this sort of thing. I'm also kind of stupid. So maybe you can help stop me from making a mistake? Lol
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I always thought she was pretty cute, but I never said anything since she was in a relationship. I really like being her platonic friend too so it never bothered me at all. However, earlier today when we were hiking together, she told me that she was breaking up with her partner, and that she's open to dating somebody again. Now a part of me is suddenly really anxious. It's like her becoming available flipped a switch in my mind. I feel weird about it.
My heart wants me to go for it and ask her out - I really do think we would be a pretty cute couple - but my head reminds me of the friendships I've ruined like this in the past, and now I don't know what to do.
Any advice? Never had a gf before so i don't really know how to navigate this sort of thing. I'm also kind of stupid. So maybe you can help stop me from making a mistake? Lol
2024.05.20 07:12 TrackingSystemDirect Do Vehicle Trackers Reduce Insurance Premiums for Teenage Drivers?
 | Ensuring Safe Teen Driving: Harnessing Technology To Manage Risk and Lower Insurance CostsConcerned about your teen's driving habits? You're not alone. The thrill of newfound freedom and the impulsiveness of adolescence can lead to risky behavior on the road. The good news? Technology provides a solution. Have you heard of GPS trackers designed for teen drivers? These devices help monitor your teen's driving behavior and keep them within set boundaries. Ready to learn how they work?Best Plug & Play GPS Tracker For Teen DriversVisit Website: https://gpstrackershop.com/product/obd2-gps-tracker-no-monthly-fee-for-teens/https://preview.redd.it/r414wld3li1d1.jpg?width=4200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c5329ebf258447a8cbc04b1a59a7f57fe0c1dc48 GPS trackers use a network of 31 satellites to pinpoint your vehicle's location, accurate to within 5 meters. With real-time data, you can watch over your teen's driving behavior right from your phone or a third-party site. 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Can you believe that separate policies can cost upwards of $2,000?To illustrate, adding a 16-year-old girl to your policy could cost between $1,165 and $3,036 annually. However, separate policies can range from $2,453 to a whopping $6,479! Does your teen happen to be a boy? Well, that would cost even more due to their higher likelihood of risky driving behavior. But remember, adding them to your policy still saves you money in the long run. Top 5 Teen Driving Monitoring AppsMany car insurers offer discounts for safe driving. For this, you need a teen GPS tracker, which monitors your teen's driving habits. These devices check daily mileage, the time of driving, sudden acceleration or braking, and more. The better the driving, the better your rates. But how about trying out some driving monitoring apps? Here are the top 5 teen driving monitoring apps according to parents:TrueMotion Family Safe DrivingTrueMotion offers a comprehensive and user-friendly monitoring experience, and the best part is that it's free. It includes the feature of geofencing, allowing you to set boundaries for your teen's driving behavior. The app also allows for speed restrictions and curfews, and if any of these limits are crossed, you'll get immediate notifications. The app tracks your teen's driving habits and grades them on a scale of 100 points, so your teen can see their driving improvement over time. The app requires GPS capability to be enabled on your teen's phone, and it's available for both Android and iOS platforms.DriveSmartAnother free app, DriveSmart offers a more personalized experience compared to TrueMotion. It's designed more for the teen than the parents, offering the teen opportunities to improve their scores in lagging categories, such as braking. However, it's up to the teen to decide when to start the app. Some notable features include a reminder for the driver to buckle their seatbelt and monthly driving challenges. It's available for Android and iOS phones.Drivesafe.ly ProThis app is one of the pricier options (ranging from $4 per month to $35 per year), but it comes with a unique feature: hands-free messaging capabilities. The app automatically puts the phone in hands-free mode when the vehicle is in motion. It reads text messages and emails in real-time and allows the driver to respond accordingly. However, it may take some time to get used to the app, and some research suggests that hands-free mobile device use can still be distracting for drivers. The app is currently available only for Android phones.Toyota Safe & SoundAlthough created by Toyota, this app isn't restricted to Toyota vehicles. It puts the phone in do not disturb mode when the car is moving, similar to Drivesafe.ly Pro's app. If the teen driver exhibits poor behaviors such as speeding or texting, the app automatically plays a predetermined playlist as a form of deterrent.AT&T DriveModeAT&T's app is not limited to AT&T customers. It turns on safety features when the car is moving at 15 MPH or faster, which includes muting text alerts and replying to messages with a standard response. If the app is turned off, parents will receive a notification. The app is available for both Android and iOS platforms.https://preview.redd.it/kttsf3fsli1d1.jpg?width=1792&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e4591efe0a2ad78f0e9f95f6a5857bffc73c34d5 Encouraging Facts About Teenage DriversFinally, let’s remember that not all of the changes that come with adding a teen driver to your family are bad. Yes, your car insurance prices will go up; that happens anytime you add additional drivers to a plan, and so it only makes sense that policies would especially get more expensive when you are adding a driver from what is generally considered the riskiest driver pool, drivers between the ages of 16 and 19. Teen drivers are, however, generally safer now than they have been in previous years, with fewer fatalities and accidents reported each year as a general trend.Additionally, check out the following 10 positive facts about teenage driving: https://www.trackingsystemdirect.com/positive-facts-about-teenage-driving/ Top 10 Positive Facts About Teenage Driving
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However, the live tracking data also provides parents a simple way to locate their teen if the teen runs out of gas, becomes lost or simply needs some form of emergency assistance.Clearly, the issue of safety among teenage motorists in Montana is a serious one that needs to be addressed frequently and intelligently. The old way was not working and if car tracking units are going to help parents in Montana then that should be something discussed in detail. No state wants to have the distinction of being the most dangerous state for teenage motorists and no parent wants to have their child harmed in a vehicle-related accident. Things need to change in Montana. Best Auto Insurance For Teen DriverWhen a teen finally passes their written and driver's examinations at the DMV a whole new world of opportunity is opened up. Solo car rides or drives with friends to burger joints, movie theaters and almost any location are now only a set of car keys away. However, with that freedom can come a substantial cost in the form of car payments and auto insurance. In fact, one study conducted by NerdWallet showed that family car insurance goes up roughly $1500 per year when a teen gets added to the auto insurance plan! Ouch! So what is the best way to keep car insurance for newly licensed teen drivers as low as possible so parents don't go broke trying to keep up with rising auto insurance rates?Auto insurance providers are data-driven businesses so they are fully aware that teen drivers are for more likely to engage in risky driving behaviors such as speeding. They also understand teen drivers can easily succumb to peer pressure and by doing so make unwise driving decisions. Lastly, car insurers know teens can be careless which can result in potential auto-theft. However, one piece of technology called the GPS car tracker can help reduce many of these liabilities. For example, when a parent equips a vehicle tracker on a teen's car, that parent will then have the ability to monitor everywhere that teen is going and how fast they are driving. What's even better is that the real-time GPS units can also send out alerts to notify parents if the vehicle was stolen or if a teenager is driving their car too fast! Many auto insurance companies recognize the benefits associated with GPS vehicle monitoring and will provide discounts on car insurance packages for this. However, GPS auto tracking technology is more than just a tool to reduce car insurance rates for teens because the devices can literally save lives. The best car GPS tracking devices will cost parents around $99.00-$199.00 per device. Grades MatterCar insurance companies study the facts and they know firsthand that teens that perform well in the classroom are statistically more likely to perform well on the road. In fact, many insurance providers will offer anywhere from a 10-15% discount on auto insurance for teens who maintain a "B" average or better in the classroom. Therefore, parents that keep their kids focused on the schoolbooks will also keep more money in their pockets.Professional Driving CoursesIn every facet of life the one constant is that experience matters. Therefore, teens who go the extra mile by enrolling in various driving programs and professional driving courses are often rewarded by auto insurers with discounted rates.Shop, Compare And Combine Insurance PlansShopping around and comparing quotes is always good advice, but combining insurance plans can also help reduce rates. Family plans where the entire household is on one coverage policy are shown to save families sometimes as much as $3,000 annually! So combine those insurance plans and shop around to find the most cost-effective option!Auto insurance is not only the law it's also extremely beneficial, especially when/if bad things occur. However, that does not mean that auto insurance for teen drivers should break the bank. Parents can save some cash on their teen auto insurance by investing in GPS tracking systems, inspiring their kids to do better at school, enroll them in professional driving classes. Of course, don't forget to shop, compare and combine auto insurers. Stay safe while driving and always try and save some cash! https://preview.redd.it/f5bnvbxxli1d1.jpg?width=1920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7dc053726a1c0b3110730dfef4f988018526788b Frequently Asked QuestionsWhat Are Some Strategies To Lower Teen Car Insurance?Considering the cost, it's natural to want to lower your insurance expenses. Here are some tips:
What Is The Most Dangerous State For Teen Driving?You might think populous states pose the most risk for teen drivers. However, states like New York and California aren't even in the top half for unsafe teen driving. Surprisingly, Montana holds the dubious honor of being the most dangerous state for teen drivers. This fact is sparking a search among Montana parents for new safety measures for their young drivers.Carinsurance.com conducted a survey focusing on multiple factors. These included teen driver deaths per 100k population, texting behaviors, alcohol use, and insurance costs. It also covered other relevant details. Montana scored alarmingly high on several of these high-risk aspects. It ranks third for teens who text while driving and tops the list for teen drunk driving with 13%. This report, although troubling for Montana parents, is vital for developing better safety measures. Faced with these findings, many Montana parents are taking action. They're turning to car tracking technology, allowing them to monitor their teens' driving habits directly. Learn more about teen driving monitors here: https://www.trackingsystemdirect.com |
2024.05.20 07:05 Content-Following202 WDID if my boyfriend would rather jerk off than be intimate with me?
So my boyfriend 25M and I 22F have been together for almost 4 years now and recently I have felt like he is loosing attraction towards me. I don't know what to do so I'm coming here for advice.
We met on tinder summer 2020, we met just to hook up but continued to hang out and ended up dating after about 1 week or 2. I had to go to another state for college but we continued to be together, I would drive to see him every other week (about a 3 hour drive) and would stay with him. Everything was good and we had intimate time often.
We figured out quite quickly that his love language is quality time and mine was physical touch. He has never been much of a touchy person so that was something I had to get used to.
Fast forward two years we both have graduated and now live together in his hometown. I love it here, our home, our life here. He has a great job that pays great and I am very grateful for him because without him I wouldn't be able to afford this life. I love my job (I am a teacher) but it gets stressful taking care of children all day. He worked very hard to get to were he is now so I am very proud of him for it.
I do most of the cooking, we split the cleaning and chores around the house. Yes we have had some disagreements over the years about things but we have always been able to talk it through and work something out that works for both of us when we have had a long week.
We have very good communication skills in our relationship so I have never felt like I can't talk to him about something that's been bothering me. So when it comes to this I feel like I have tried so much I am just tired of talking and ready for fixing.
About 2years ago I caught him talking to another girl, she blew him off but from what I understand (parts were said on Snapchat and the rest were on messenger) he just wanted pictures and she wouldn't send them. I was gone back to my hometown for a week. I called often but he didn't talk much. Hes not much a talker on the phone so I didn't think much of it, so when I got home and I saw the messages (he left his phone open in the bathroom). The next morning I confronted him and he said he was lonely and missed me. I told him that I need to talk to him and even FaceTime but he was always too tired or not in the mood.
It took about a month to get through that but I still feel alarms going off in my head when I see him on his phone late at night or closing out apps when I walk in the room.
I feel like that was the start of me feeling like he was looking interest in me. Sexually anyways. He was always loving it every other way, I felt comforted and cared for which I didn't get while growing up.
Since than it was good, we went on weekly dates, spent time together talked through emotions when we'd get overwhelmed or was having a hard time mentally because of stress. I love him and I always felt like he loved me.
But we still were not being intimate. When I would try he'd say he was tired from work or just not in the mood. I would try to get him in the mood with massages, dirty talk, foreplay, lingerie etc. But it just didn't do anything. I found a pattern that he'd only be in the mood in the morning on Saturdays or Sundays.
When I would bring it up he'd say he didn't realize that's what he was doing and he was sorry for making me feel like he wasn't attracted and that he loves me very much and he just doesn't have much of a sex drive because of the medication he is taking or work has been a lot. He was also getting his bachelor's online and that was also taking a lot of energy from him. I always understood.
One Friday when I got home I did the cleaning, I cooked and served him before he had his weekly gaming night with his friends I tried to get him in the mood and I was shut down like always. "I'm too tired and I just want to relax and get the game ready for tonight." Is what he said. So I left him alone, I had a good night by myself with dessert some wine and get up the bathroom for a bath.
Before I got in the tub I realized I forgot my robe in our bedroom, so I got on a towel and went over to get it and when I opened the door I found him in bed jerking off to some porn. Which I found out later that he doesn't watch porn on sites he comes on Reddit.
"I'm sorry, I forgot my robe!" I blurted out after I stood in the door a second stunned because I have never walked in on him before. I hurried and got my robe before sprinting out the door back into the bathroom. I heard him yell I love you and something else but I shut the door before I heard.
At first I laughed because it's embarrassing to be caught and it was just funny to be honest. Then I started crying, I felt like I hadn't cried in so long from how hard I cried. It hurt. To only be touched, kissed more than just a peck, once a month. It hurt more than I realized.
I understand that its easier to just take care of it yourself, I'm no one to judge, you know yourself best and there is no shame in that. And sometimes yes sex can take a lot of energy. But to be shut down every time, it wasn't like I was asking all the time like I'm a horndog, it fucking hurt.
After a few hours in the bathroom I finally went to bed and he was sound asleep. I felt like I was being dramatic, like I was crazy and I needed to get over myself.
The next day I explained how I have been feeling. How it feels like I'm just someone that comes home and cooks, takes care of things and then we sleep in the same bed.
He said he didn't notice this and thought everything was going good. I have brought up how little we have sex before and it was always the same answer. I told him that yes everything has been good, but I just don't feel like your attracted to me anymore, how we used to have sex weekly, more than once a week. After that we had more conversations and had intimate times more but still limited, I took what I could get.
It was still only when he'd be in the mood but still I felt like it had to have something else to get in the mood, like he'd only be ready after being on his phone or if his office/bathroom for a while. Or right when he'd come home from work. I still felt like I couldn't get him in the mood.
Lately at night he has been going out to the living room before bed saying he was too hot in the room, which I understood because he gets hot easy and I get cold so I always have multiple blankets. We sleep with separate blankets for that reason, which other people said is weird for a couple but I'm fine with it as long as I get my blankets.
As more of a joke I asked him if he goes to the couch to jerk off and then come back to bed. He said yes sometime. Which again hurt. I'm right here! What do I have to do to get some dick! He said he didn't want to lie and say no but he also didn't want to hurt my feelings.
I just don't know what to do anymore, I just want him to look at ME and see something he wants. I want him to want me. I want him to see me and think how sexy I am and want me. Am I not good enough? Do I gross him out? Have a done something to make him not want that from me? I am chubby, but he said he likes chubby girls and I never felt insecure about it till all this...What do I do?
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We met on tinder summer 2020, we met just to hook up but continued to hang out and ended up dating after about 1 week or 2. I had to go to another state for college but we continued to be together, I would drive to see him every other week (about a 3 hour drive) and would stay with him. Everything was good and we had intimate time often.
We figured out quite quickly that his love language is quality time and mine was physical touch. He has never been much of a touchy person so that was something I had to get used to.
Fast forward two years we both have graduated and now live together in his hometown. I love it here, our home, our life here. He has a great job that pays great and I am very grateful for him because without him I wouldn't be able to afford this life. I love my job (I am a teacher) but it gets stressful taking care of children all day. He worked very hard to get to were he is now so I am very proud of him for it.
I do most of the cooking, we split the cleaning and chores around the house. Yes we have had some disagreements over the years about things but we have always been able to talk it through and work something out that works for both of us when we have had a long week.
We have very good communication skills in our relationship so I have never felt like I can't talk to him about something that's been bothering me. So when it comes to this I feel like I have tried so much I am just tired of talking and ready for fixing.
About 2years ago I caught him talking to another girl, she blew him off but from what I understand (parts were said on Snapchat and the rest were on messenger) he just wanted pictures and she wouldn't send them. I was gone back to my hometown for a week. I called often but he didn't talk much. Hes not much a talker on the phone so I didn't think much of it, so when I got home and I saw the messages (he left his phone open in the bathroom). The next morning I confronted him and he said he was lonely and missed me. I told him that I need to talk to him and even FaceTime but he was always too tired or not in the mood.
It took about a month to get through that but I still feel alarms going off in my head when I see him on his phone late at night or closing out apps when I walk in the room.
I feel like that was the start of me feeling like he was looking interest in me. Sexually anyways. He was always loving it every other way, I felt comforted and cared for which I didn't get while growing up.
Since than it was good, we went on weekly dates, spent time together talked through emotions when we'd get overwhelmed or was having a hard time mentally because of stress. I love him and I always felt like he loved me.
But we still were not being intimate. When I would try he'd say he was tired from work or just not in the mood. I would try to get him in the mood with massages, dirty talk, foreplay, lingerie etc. But it just didn't do anything. I found a pattern that he'd only be in the mood in the morning on Saturdays or Sundays.
When I would bring it up he'd say he didn't realize that's what he was doing and he was sorry for making me feel like he wasn't attracted and that he loves me very much and he just doesn't have much of a sex drive because of the medication he is taking or work has been a lot. He was also getting his bachelor's online and that was also taking a lot of energy from him. I always understood.
One Friday when I got home I did the cleaning, I cooked and served him before he had his weekly gaming night with his friends I tried to get him in the mood and I was shut down like always. "I'm too tired and I just want to relax and get the game ready for tonight." Is what he said. So I left him alone, I had a good night by myself with dessert some wine and get up the bathroom for a bath.
Before I got in the tub I realized I forgot my robe in our bedroom, so I got on a towel and went over to get it and when I opened the door I found him in bed jerking off to some porn. Which I found out later that he doesn't watch porn on sites he comes on Reddit.
"I'm sorry, I forgot my robe!" I blurted out after I stood in the door a second stunned because I have never walked in on him before. I hurried and got my robe before sprinting out the door back into the bathroom. I heard him yell I love you and something else but I shut the door before I heard.
At first I laughed because it's embarrassing to be caught and it was just funny to be honest. Then I started crying, I felt like I hadn't cried in so long from how hard I cried. It hurt. To only be touched, kissed more than just a peck, once a month. It hurt more than I realized.
I understand that its easier to just take care of it yourself, I'm no one to judge, you know yourself best and there is no shame in that. And sometimes yes sex can take a lot of energy. But to be shut down every time, it wasn't like I was asking all the time like I'm a horndog, it fucking hurt.
After a few hours in the bathroom I finally went to bed and he was sound asleep. I felt like I was being dramatic, like I was crazy and I needed to get over myself.
The next day I explained how I have been feeling. How it feels like I'm just someone that comes home and cooks, takes care of things and then we sleep in the same bed.
He said he didn't notice this and thought everything was going good. I have brought up how little we have sex before and it was always the same answer. I told him that yes everything has been good, but I just don't feel like your attracted to me anymore, how we used to have sex weekly, more than once a week. After that we had more conversations and had intimate times more but still limited, I took what I could get.
It was still only when he'd be in the mood but still I felt like it had to have something else to get in the mood, like he'd only be ready after being on his phone or if his office/bathroom for a while. Or right when he'd come home from work. I still felt like I couldn't get him in the mood.
Lately at night he has been going out to the living room before bed saying he was too hot in the room, which I understood because he gets hot easy and I get cold so I always have multiple blankets. We sleep with separate blankets for that reason, which other people said is weird for a couple but I'm fine with it as long as I get my blankets.
As more of a joke I asked him if he goes to the couch to jerk off and then come back to bed. He said yes sometime. Which again hurt. I'm right here! What do I have to do to get some dick! He said he didn't want to lie and say no but he also didn't want to hurt my feelings.
I just don't know what to do anymore, I just want him to look at ME and see something he wants. I want him to want me. I want him to see me and think how sexy I am and want me. Am I not good enough? Do I gross him out? Have a done something to make him not want that from me? I am chubby, but he said he likes chubby girls and I never felt insecure about it till all this...What do I do?
2024.05.20 06:58 ParticularFig6621 19 [F4F] #Online - Save me from this horribly boring summer?
Let me paint a lovely picture for you.
I’ve just finished my first year of college, & have returned from my beautiful, lively college town back to the middle of nowhere, totally landlocked without a car, and all of my friends elsewhere.
In a word, I’m really fucking bored!
Video games & music can only get me so far, and after a year of breaking out of my shell, so to speak, I can’t stand being alone anymore.
I used to consider myself an introvert but now? I crave connection, I need it.
Therefore I’m throwing myself out here for anyone who sympathizes with my situation and would like to be friends! Not that I don’t welcome more than that, my hopes just aren’t very high as I haven’t had much luck in the romance department lately.
I should mention the F4F tag is strict, I am a lesbian. Women and nonbinary individuals only.
A bit about me, my name is Claire & I’m 19! I’m a college student as I mentioned and I just finished my first year.
Lately I’ve been playing the Souls games, I’m rather obsessed so bonus points if you’re into those. Music wise I discovered Modern Baseball recently, and have listened to all of their albums 3+ times already.
I also really love Radiohead! & some lovely gay girl music here & there, like Phoebe Bridgers or Chappell Roan.
It’s hard for me to articulate a lot of what would make you wanna text me, I guess you’ll just have to see for yourself! If I really click with someone I can really get to ranting & you’ll get a pretty good idea of me I think.
If I’ve managed to catch anyone’s attention with this silly little post, shoot me a DM!
I may fall asleep soon after I post this, so if I don’t get to your DM I will tomorrow!:)
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I’ve just finished my first year of college, & have returned from my beautiful, lively college town back to the middle of nowhere, totally landlocked without a car, and all of my friends elsewhere.
In a word, I’m really fucking bored!
Video games & music can only get me so far, and after a year of breaking out of my shell, so to speak, I can’t stand being alone anymore.
I used to consider myself an introvert but now? I crave connection, I need it.
Therefore I’m throwing myself out here for anyone who sympathizes with my situation and would like to be friends! Not that I don’t welcome more than that, my hopes just aren’t very high as I haven’t had much luck in the romance department lately.
I should mention the F4F tag is strict, I am a lesbian. Women and nonbinary individuals only.
A bit about me, my name is Claire & I’m 19! I’m a college student as I mentioned and I just finished my first year.
Lately I’ve been playing the Souls games, I’m rather obsessed so bonus points if you’re into those. Music wise I discovered Modern Baseball recently, and have listened to all of their albums 3+ times already.
I also really love Radiohead! & some lovely gay girl music here & there, like Phoebe Bridgers or Chappell Roan.
It’s hard for me to articulate a lot of what would make you wanna text me, I guess you’ll just have to see for yourself! If I really click with someone I can really get to ranting & you’ll get a pretty good idea of me I think.
If I’ve managed to catch anyone’s attention with this silly little post, shoot me a DM!
I may fall asleep soon after I post this, so if I don’t get to your DM I will tomorrow!:)
2024.05.20 06:47 nevenaala anon had the sequel to the hermit crab
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2024.05.20 06:41 mirpeliza Help. I stained my rented apartment’s floor and it won’t come out :(
 | Hi there. So I’m in college full-time, I’m 21 and very new to this adult world and equally as terrified! I live in a house with 3 other girls, my closest friends (thank god), and my cat Beau. Thanks to my ADHD, I was doing horrible with keeping up with cleaning Beau’s litter box. Fortunately, I do a lot better now, but sadly one of my worst episodes of task paralysis led to me not noticing that my cat peed around the litter box and it sat there for a good week. It was completely my fault. When I saw it, I freaked out and started crying, looked up all the ways to remove a water stain, and then probably contemplated my entire life leading up to this one moment of cat pee-soaked floorboards. I tried all the things online, toothpaste, hydrogen peroxide?? baking soda, and other weird things. Nothing made a difference. (Later my roommate told me to try letting the baking soda sit for way longer, like a few weeks, and it might have lifted a little but it’s still very obviously there.) It was more upsetting than it would be if I lived alone because my roommates are all also college students that rely on jobs to pay for their utilities, groceries, etc. They all worry a lot about money and I was scared how this was going to affect them. After they found out, I did offer to pay whatever cost my landlord wanted for it, but then again my only source of income is from my parents as of right now. I would do anything to have the stain cleared away so I don’t have to burden my parents with this, as I already have so much financial guilt with them paying for my rent. If anyone can help me with any advice, tips, or suggestions I would really appreciate it. I’m genuinely considering taking up carpentry and finding the exact flooring and installing it myself at this point. Anything that would cost less than what I know my landlord will make me pay, which would probably be thousands! Anyway, thank you for reading my long rant/therapy session/plead for help from other adults. I appreciate you. <3 submitted by mirpeliza to CleaningTips [link] [comments] |
2024.05.20 06:41 ManhwamoM Is it wrong for me to hate the idea of my mom wanting another child?
Is it wrong for me to hate the idea of my mom wanting another child?
My mom has been talking about having another child since i was 5 and i always tease her about how it probably wont happen since she hasn't dated anyone since my dad passed. But now that i'm heading into high school shes been constantly talking about and to be honest i don't really like the idea of having a brother,but its for a both good and pretty selfish reason. For one my dad died befor i was born so its been me and my mom since day one, we've been through everything together and she's basically my ride or die. id give my life for her and even deadicated myself in working hard in school and following everything she say,she has a big influence on my life and a greatly respect her. But she's always talked about having a son so she can have a "perfect family", but i for one dislike the idea because if she does somehow have a son then im scared she will replace me and try to put unfair responsiblitys on me. ik she would never mistreat me since she grew up in a broken home where the boys were favored over the girls,but the idea of sharing her never sit right with me even when i was little. I would always bully the guys that tried to take her out and be very sarcastice with them, i honestly feel a little guilty because my behavior towards her dating or having more kids might have held her back from having her "perfect family" but we were never finincally good for that till now. The other night we had a debat about her having a son and i said that if she did i probably wouldnt love it because babies are loud and i dont want to be responsible for another human other than her. i also made some sarcastice coments about how shell just have more bagged to carry around and wont be able to travle like she wants to when i graduate. she asked me why im so negitive towards it and that ill probably love my brother. but i told her the truth that i dont like the idea of sharing her with another "vermin" and that having to deal with another "vermin" under the same roof is a nucence. I also made some sarcastice coment in the pass'st about how ill throw the baby out the window when its born. I really regret those words since they did heart my mothers feelings a bit,but i was 7 and said it to be funny (it wasnt). but if im being honest i feel like the main reason why i feel like i wount be able to love it like my mom wants me to is because im so used to it just being us againts the world that once she has her "dream son" that all of the years i spent trying to please her and make her proud will go down the drain and she'll divert all of her attention to the child instead of me. Plus i grew up with friends that have little brothers and often times its them that have to do the chores and be under strict responsibility's while the younger brother gets treated like king and often the older sibling is responsible for their brothers actions. But in a way ik that my mom wants a baby because she'll be alone once i go to college and wants something to distract her, but im just scared that the person i dedicated my childhood and life to will just forget me and it would no longer be me and her against the world. Who knows maybe my mind set will change be i still don't think i can accept and love my "sibling" like she wants me to. is this wrong?2024.05.20 06:41 diplexspace 18m Do girls still find pilots attractive?
Hi I’m 18m currently in college to become a pilot and will graduate in 3 years and I’m wondering do girls find pilots attractive? More about me I’m from Ontario Canada 6,2 very fit I have abs and work hard in school my social life is a little lacking mainly because I focus so much on school
Not sure if this is the right place to ask this question But thanks for any reply’s
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2024.05.20 06:38 diplexspace 18m Do girls still find pilots attractive?
Hi I’m 18m currently in college to become a pilot and will graduate in 3 years and I’m wondering do girls find pilots attractive? More about me I’m from Ontario Canada 6,2 very fit I have abs and work hard in school my social life is a little lacking mainly because I focus so much on school
Not sure if this is the right place to ask this question But thanks for any reply’s
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2024.05.20 06:03 PrueGretel RHONJ S14 E3
Shore-ing Up Sides
What kind of a name is this episode? Stupid title. It does give us a clue that this episode will show the demise of friendships and that the cast takes sides. They split up! The casts of NJ are all doing interviews online and on TV. A lot of spoilers are coming out from the cast including who switches sides. I know who. It's all-over social media. I doubt anyone cares if it's spoiled, but you never know. We got a long season ahead. Please! I hope the arguing isn't as bad as last year!
Now, on with the episode...
The cast is still down at the Shore. It looks beautiful and also fun! Of course, they are still divided. Jen and Bill A is with Dolores and Paul. Teresa and Louie went home because Gabriella is leaving for college. Rachel and John are with Adult Jen Fessler and her husband Jeff along with Danielle and Nate. Melissa and Joe are with Marge and her Joe--he really loves her, he's rubbing her feet, very clingy. I would hate it! But that's just me. Most women love to be pampered. Not me.
John asks Adult Jen F about the party the night before. He secretly wants to know why she is hanging around with the enemy, Teresa. Jen states that she never had a problem with Teresa, Rachel looks at her with daggers, she is mad as hell. She states in her talking head that Adult Jen couldn't stand Teresa and that now that Adult Jen has jumped ship, Rachel is done with her. She is very hurt and called Adult Jen F stupid.
Dolores asks Jen A what is going on between Melissa and her. Jen says she is not feeling her and is not a chump. Melissa tells Marge that Jen A spread rumors, so she is not happy with her. The bad feelings is mutual between these two women...
Melissa is throwing a Birthday Party for Joe. It's going to be an Italian theme party. She and Marge discuss what to do about Jen A because she might feel like the lone enemy there without Teresa. Melissa thinks she and Bull should attend. So, with that, Joe Gorga calls Bill and extends an invitation to him and his wife. Bill tells him thank you, but his wife Jen is still not in a good place with Melissa. Jen is not having it. She is still hurt from last year and thinks Joe's invite was not sincere. She is glad that Bill finally stood up for her. She says they are a team from now on. He will stand up for her or he will feel her wrath! Bill just smiles at her no matter what she says. Why is he always smiling?!
Teresa and all her girls are packing up for Gabriella. Gia is crying, all the girls are crying. Gia tells Gabriella that she is so proud of her for getting into the University of Michigan. It's a very had college to get into. Teresa is also crying. Teresa ex, Joe Guidice calls. Teresa can't look at him or she will cry. He tells them all this is a good thing. Louie comes in and tries to cheer them up too. Joe can't afford college, so Teresa and Louie are paying. I doubt Louie is paying, but Producers put Teresa on the spot and asked her if Louie is also paying. Of course she is going to say yes. Pretty sure only Teresa is paying. I saw a preview that Louie went through all of Teresa's money. So, there's that.
Teresa and Louie go outside. She tells him she is in her love bubble with him and no matter what happened at the party or with their enemies she has his love. What does enemies have to do with their love bubble? They are holding hands, clinging to each other while they bring up John Fuda, they rip him apart. Louie called him ugly and a loser. Louie you're no prize in the looks either so no room to talk. Teresa tells him he handled it with grace with John and she is sorry he has to deal with this. He says the same to her, she doesn't deserve any of this. I feel so bad what these two have to put up with. Not! Louie handled it with grace! What the... such an odd thing to say. Louie wrote on Instagram that Teresa has so much grace. I would not describe these two with the word grace.
Joe Gorga's party starts. It looks like fun. The men were doing shots on a blow-up doll's ass that John brought. Ass shots are not my style of fun, but to each their own.
Rachel is complaining about Adult Jen F's betrayal and Marge is talking about Jen A. Marge thinks Jen A should have shown up. Why? I wouldn't if I was her. Rachel agrees with me and says she wouldn't have shown up either.
Back home Teresa throws a going away dinner party for Gabriella at a restaurant. Louie's boys are there along with her daughters. It's a nice family scene. They all reminisce and have a nice time together. Cheers Gabriella! I hope she succeeds in whatever career that she decides to do. I am sure she will.
Back at the party John and Paul joke around with the other men and make up. Oh, and Frank is there. I thought he was off the show for good. He tells Joe that he misses him and that he is Starchy to his Hutch. What?!! Oh, and Frankie Jr. Isn't in Dolores' background family tagline. It's Paul and her daughter. Maybe Frank Jr. had enough of the show.
Marge, Rachel and Adult Jen F sit down. Marge is going to get her. She asks her about Teresa and Louie. Marge is going on and on about it, she is annoyed. Jackie sits down and takes Adult F's side. Marge and Rachel are not having it. Marge tells Adult Jen that she doesn't understand what she is doing, she hated them. Adult Jen is not budging, she now loves Teresa and will be friends with whoever she wants. Rache; starts crying about all of this. Adult Jen feels bad for Rachel, but she loves Teresa now! Rachel feels very betrayed, and Marge is not having what Adult Jen A is putting down. This is messy. Jen F told Marge she is not Marge's soldier, and she will do what she wants and be friends with who she wants. There is a lot of arguing going on and I am sure it will continue. Jackie is comforting Adult Jen and Marge and Rachel are talking about Jen F to Danielle, Rachel is still crying. The betrayal is real. Danielle agrees with Rachel and Marge--she says Adult Jen F isn't loyal and should never do that to her best friends.
Adult Jen F is trying with all her might to tell everyone that she is the best friend anyone could ever have! I don't know about that. What do you all think? Is Jen F a traitor or is Marge and Rachel being unreasonable? If someone does me harm and spread rumors about me. I wouldn't be too fond if my friend befriended that person who she knew for a minute and said she disliked. It's hurtful to do that to a longtime friend who you trusted. That's my take on this.
Oh yeah, and Joe Gorga gets a nice big Italian cannoli cake! Besides the arguing, there were a lot of people there having a lot of fun. Everyone wished him a Happy Birthday and it ended on a happy scene with the delicious cake! Who doesn't love cake?
To Be Continued...
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What kind of a name is this episode? Stupid title. It does give us a clue that this episode will show the demise of friendships and that the cast takes sides. They split up! The casts of NJ are all doing interviews online and on TV. A lot of spoilers are coming out from the cast including who switches sides. I know who. It's all-over social media. I doubt anyone cares if it's spoiled, but you never know. We got a long season ahead. Please! I hope the arguing isn't as bad as last year!
Now, on with the episode...
The cast is still down at the Shore. It looks beautiful and also fun! Of course, they are still divided. Jen and Bill A is with Dolores and Paul. Teresa and Louie went home because Gabriella is leaving for college. Rachel and John are with Adult Jen Fessler and her husband Jeff along with Danielle and Nate. Melissa and Joe are with Marge and her Joe--he really loves her, he's rubbing her feet, very clingy. I would hate it! But that's just me. Most women love to be pampered. Not me.
John asks Adult Jen F about the party the night before. He secretly wants to know why she is hanging around with the enemy, Teresa. Jen states that she never had a problem with Teresa, Rachel looks at her with daggers, she is mad as hell. She states in her talking head that Adult Jen couldn't stand Teresa and that now that Adult Jen has jumped ship, Rachel is done with her. She is very hurt and called Adult Jen F stupid.
Dolores asks Jen A what is going on between Melissa and her. Jen says she is not feeling her and is not a chump. Melissa tells Marge that Jen A spread rumors, so she is not happy with her. The bad feelings is mutual between these two women...
Melissa is throwing a Birthday Party for Joe. It's going to be an Italian theme party. She and Marge discuss what to do about Jen A because she might feel like the lone enemy there without Teresa. Melissa thinks she and Bull should attend. So, with that, Joe Gorga calls Bill and extends an invitation to him and his wife. Bill tells him thank you, but his wife Jen is still not in a good place with Melissa. Jen is not having it. She is still hurt from last year and thinks Joe's invite was not sincere. She is glad that Bill finally stood up for her. She says they are a team from now on. He will stand up for her or he will feel her wrath! Bill just smiles at her no matter what she says. Why is he always smiling?!
Teresa and all her girls are packing up for Gabriella. Gia is crying, all the girls are crying. Gia tells Gabriella that she is so proud of her for getting into the University of Michigan. It's a very had college to get into. Teresa is also crying. Teresa ex, Joe Guidice calls. Teresa can't look at him or she will cry. He tells them all this is a good thing. Louie comes in and tries to cheer them up too. Joe can't afford college, so Teresa and Louie are paying. I doubt Louie is paying, but Producers put Teresa on the spot and asked her if Louie is also paying. Of course she is going to say yes. Pretty sure only Teresa is paying. I saw a preview that Louie went through all of Teresa's money. So, there's that.
Teresa and Louie go outside. She tells him she is in her love bubble with him and no matter what happened at the party or with their enemies she has his love. What does enemies have to do with their love bubble? They are holding hands, clinging to each other while they bring up John Fuda, they rip him apart. Louie called him ugly and a loser. Louie you're no prize in the looks either so no room to talk. Teresa tells him he handled it with grace with John and she is sorry he has to deal with this. He says the same to her, she doesn't deserve any of this. I feel so bad what these two have to put up with. Not! Louie handled it with grace! What the... such an odd thing to say. Louie wrote on Instagram that Teresa has so much grace. I would not describe these two with the word grace.
Joe Gorga's party starts. It looks like fun. The men were doing shots on a blow-up doll's ass that John brought. Ass shots are not my style of fun, but to each their own.
Rachel is complaining about Adult Jen F's betrayal and Marge is talking about Jen A. Marge thinks Jen A should have shown up. Why? I wouldn't if I was her. Rachel agrees with me and says she wouldn't have shown up either.
Back home Teresa throws a going away dinner party for Gabriella at a restaurant. Louie's boys are there along with her daughters. It's a nice family scene. They all reminisce and have a nice time together. Cheers Gabriella! I hope she succeeds in whatever career that she decides to do. I am sure she will.
Back at the party John and Paul joke around with the other men and make up. Oh, and Frank is there. I thought he was off the show for good. He tells Joe that he misses him and that he is Starchy to his Hutch. What?!! Oh, and Frankie Jr. Isn't in Dolores' background family tagline. It's Paul and her daughter. Maybe Frank Jr. had enough of the show.
Marge, Rachel and Adult Jen F sit down. Marge is going to get her. She asks her about Teresa and Louie. Marge is going on and on about it, she is annoyed. Jackie sits down and takes Adult F's side. Marge and Rachel are not having it. Marge tells Adult Jen that she doesn't understand what she is doing, she hated them. Adult Jen is not budging, she now loves Teresa and will be friends with whoever she wants. Rache; starts crying about all of this. Adult Jen feels bad for Rachel, but she loves Teresa now! Rachel feels very betrayed, and Marge is not having what Adult Jen A is putting down. This is messy. Jen F told Marge she is not Marge's soldier, and she will do what she wants and be friends with who she wants. There is a lot of arguing going on and I am sure it will continue. Jackie is comforting Adult Jen and Marge and Rachel are talking about Jen F to Danielle, Rachel is still crying. The betrayal is real. Danielle agrees with Rachel and Marge--she says Adult Jen F isn't loyal and should never do that to her best friends.
Adult Jen F is trying with all her might to tell everyone that she is the best friend anyone could ever have! I don't know about that. What do you all think? Is Jen F a traitor or is Marge and Rachel being unreasonable? If someone does me harm and spread rumors about me. I wouldn't be too fond if my friend befriended that person who she knew for a minute and said she disliked. It's hurtful to do that to a longtime friend who you trusted. That's my take on this.
Oh yeah, and Joe Gorga gets a nice big Italian cannoli cake! Besides the arguing, there were a lot of people there having a lot of fun. Everyone wished him a Happy Birthday and it ended on a happy scene with the delicious cake! Who doesn't love cake?
To Be Continued...
2024.05.20 05:58 exmoet Clueless Egg (Me) Shocks My Date
In college, I presented male, dated women, and tried the best to live up to being a man. I know now that I'm a trans woman.
I went on a few dates with a girl from my calc class. On our last date, she opened up to me about being a survivor of sexual assault. Since then, she felt anxious and panicked around men, especially when she was alone with them.
We were hiking alone in the mountains when she said this. She continued, "For some reason it just won't happen when I'm around you. Only you. Is it okay if i give u a long hug and see if I panic?"
So we gave each other a giant hug and waited for an awkwardly long time. Eventually she let go and said, "What the fuck. Why isn't it happening?" We both kinda knew already that she wasn't really into me, but we were both enjoying the date.
Andrea, if you ever read this, I'm a lesbian woman. Maybe that's why the fear wouldn't set off. I felt so honored that you felt safe. From one woman to another, I hope that you've found the peace and happiness that you deserve.
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I went on a few dates with a girl from my calc class. On our last date, she opened up to me about being a survivor of sexual assault. Since then, she felt anxious and panicked around men, especially when she was alone with them.
We were hiking alone in the mountains when she said this. She continued, "For some reason it just won't happen when I'm around you. Only you. Is it okay if i give u a long hug and see if I panic?"
So we gave each other a giant hug and waited for an awkwardly long time. Eventually she let go and said, "What the fuck. Why isn't it happening?" We both kinda knew already that she wasn't really into me, but we were both enjoying the date.
Andrea, if you ever read this, I'm a lesbian woman. Maybe that's why the fear wouldn't set off. I felt so honored that you felt safe. From one woman to another, I hope that you've found the peace and happiness that you deserve.
2024.05.20 05:57 Entire_Preference_69 Post-finale thoughts on S2: With a much needed cast shakeup coming for season 3, who should stay and who should go? And why?
Summer should be fun! The heavy energy’s gotta go. They say their group is very cliquey (we can tell), so let’s start by breaking up the cliques. Add in a bunch of fun, attractive singles and get rid of the tears and bad vibes. Also, I know they’re casting, but I’d love for the newbies to be real friends with at least someone on the cast. It’s exhausting to watch a group of people who clearly don’t like each other and are only there for the cameras. I'll keep supporting and tellin a friend to tell a friend, but I do hope it reaches its full potential.
Are my opinions controversial or do you agree?
STAY
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STAY
- Noelle: The future of this show. She’s fun, light, and unintentionally funny. The majority of the trip she was the only one acting like they were having a good time. That said, I think Nick was onto something when he ate her up with “I know you wanna be included, but that shit is f’d up.” She should be careful with who & what she aligns herself with and proceed with caution.
- Nick: I did not foresee this man becoming one of my favs. He’s kind, multi-dimensional, and hilarious. He seems to be a genuinely good friend to everyone in the house. I wish they were better friends to him. His behavior as a partner left much to be desired, so I see why he and Tasia didn’t work out. That said, I’m interested to see him single, for real this time. If they rebuild the cast around him and his single friends, I’d be open to Alex coming back too.
- Jasmine: I liked seeing her stand on her own without Silas. She came in ready to put in the work, didn’t blindly defend past behavior, and demonstrated growth. I want her to return if she commits to showing up authentically and doesn’t try to produce or censor herself. I have a lot of empathy for her. I’ve yet to hear any of them make any claim about her that warrants how they ice her out. At this point I don’t care to see her continue to grovel for their friendship, I’m ready to see her move on and thrive. Low key, she should thank those so called friends of hers bc the more they try to ice her out, the more I like her. They tried to do her like Mariah Huqq on M2M and she dodged their antics. Hopefully she has a good friend in the house next season (maybe Jason?).
- Preston: I love that he’s vulnerable, opinionated and full of fun shade and his reactions to the foolishness are my fav. He has everything to become a reality icon, but it will be up to him if he allows his ego to Nene himself. I look at him differently for how quickly he turned on his own line brother & his wife. His newest excuse, per the Carlos King interview, is that he isn’t close with Silas and he was never friends with Jasmine. He said him being in Jasmine and Silas's wedding doesn't mean they were close, because who you put in your wedding isn't necessarily your best friends but people that are responsible. I rewatched S1 and the very first thing he said on the show is how close he and Silas are, but this is the same man that claims to be the most authentic… It seems that since he became besties with Jordan he is too influenced by her biases, because no matter how much mental gymnastics he does to explain his constant negative energy towards Jasmine, It . Doesn’t. Make. Sense. Just say you don’t like her and keep it moving. I feel like the reason he refuses to is because he likes to portray himself as righteous. I don't like how he moves, but I find him compelling enough to give him another chance (without Jordan). Plus, there has to be some conflict and we can’t just throw away everyone who annoys us. Bonus points for Donald being my fav house guest.
- Jordan: I initially thought she’d be my favorite, but I was VERY wrong… I rewatched S1 and there wasn’t a single episode in which I enjoyed her more than I didn’t. LITERALLY NOT ONE. She is so freaking negative all the time. She’s incapable of ever admitting she’s wrong and the hostile, disrespectful way she speaks to people stresses me out. She gives others no grace, unless they share a common enemy, but expects all the grace in return. We have now seen 3 seasons of her on TV and all I got is that she seems to be the epitome of misery loves company. I think if she returns she will eventually drag the whole show down with her. Ex- Obviously Summer was going through her own issues in S2, but I firmly believe her and Jordan feeding off of each other’s mean girl energy exasperated her behavior.
- Summer: I’m not down with her getting multiple passes to put hands on people, when Mariah was kicked out for MUCH less. All the housemates agreed to the no contact rule, and I have ZERO desire to watch a show about Black people putting hands on each other. I enjoyed watching her on S1, but now her behavior is exhausting and from her WWHL appearance it seems that almost a year later she still has a lot of healing to do. The Brooke Ashley said that at the premiere party she witnessed Summer go on a rant about how she was gonna quit and not return for S3, so let her. Don’t threaten us with a good time.
- Amir: He and Natalie aren’t even unlikable, but fun to watch. To me, they’re just unlikeable. This would be way too long if I address all their problematic and microagressive antics and there are a million posts about that, so I’ll just address the root of it all. It feels like they’re aiming to secure spots on Bravo, but completely missed the mark. The “I’m ignorant to Black culture & history” trope is so tired. For starters, there’s a whole HBCU in Austin. If in ~a decade of adulthood he hasn’t educated himself or entered Black spaces, THAT IS A CHOICE. It says a lot that now that it’s his ticket to being on TV, he’s making a different choice.
- His comments on the Positively Uncensored podcast confirmed my feeling of him being disingenuous (for full context go listen). He said after filming S1 he didn’t even care to build friendships with these people until he knew for sure he was going to be a part of the cast for season 2. He said this after spending S1 going on about how they’re now “family” to him. About the negative feedback, he said he’s a “martyr for halfricans.” A martyr??? for halfricans? That is a WILD statement, but he’s repeated versions of this in multiple interviews so it speaks to how he sees himself. I really tried to give him a chance, but it’s always something with him. I truly don’t even care if that’s how this man wants to live his life. I care that Bravo finally gives us a show about young, Black people and this is what we are centering. I would give him SO much grace if he didn’t continue to surround himself by people and establishments that, at best, do not uplift Black people, while he is simultaneously marketing himself as a self-proclaimed “Community Leader” and profiting from his blackness. I don’t think he’s a bad person, I just think he and Natalie absolutely ruin the essence of this particular show.
- Bria: She and Milo are chaotic and can make for great television, but she toes a fine line between being an entertaining, albeit annoying, pot stirrer and being absolutely unbearable. I feel like producers will ask her back for the drama, so if she returns, I hope she’s just a weekend guest to allow for more lightness in the house. Interesting note: according to Preston she is the cast member that most sensors themselves to appeal to viewers and her tantrums are worse off-camera.
- Shanice: She had me in the first half, but her behavior is so toxic and she doubles down on it every single time. I also can’t unsee the alleged stalking/harassment evidence, because that was WILD. It’s a shame, because she’s so much fun and may be the only person that shows up completely authentically, for good or bad. That said, Bravo is not the morality police. They’ve kept people with far more problematic behavior, so there’s a good chance they’ll keep her (and Bria) too.
- Alex: Grand Rising, you’re probably a nice guy in real life, but boring to watch. You meditate and drink water, we get it. Please namaste off my TV… If they bring in some of his & Nick’s friends, I’d be down to see him return as a guest. After a rewatch, I realized how much more I enjoyed him and his confessionals in S1. I think the change in his attitude in S2 was due to the negative energy Jordan, Summer and crew met him with from jump.
2024.05.20 05:55 rawrxd432 want entp ex (?) back
I’m an INFJ (20F) and my first love was an ENTP (19M). Four years ago, (he was 16 and i was 17) he started pursuing me intensely, asked lots of personal questions, debated me, teased me, and was incredibly supportive of my dreams. He would be touchy, flirty, and look at me lovingly. I realized I had caught feelings for him and told him while we were on a walk. He pretended not to hear me 3 times but spammed my phone after I went home until I admitted it over text. Then he asked “what do you want to do about it?” and I said “I don’t know this has never happened before,” (which was true because I had no experience with boys before that) to which he said “Lol another girl told me the same thing today.”
Looking back, I think that he was hurt by my lack of initiative (he was always the one who pursued me, flirted, etc. while I was just sort of quiet and avoidant), but I felt really betrayed by what he said. Other guys would try to talk to me but I literally couldn’t even think of talking to anyone else because I liked him so much, so I expected him to be loyal too. We had never discussed monogamy and the proper response would’ve been to ask him if he wanted to be exclusive, but I was dismissive avoidant at the time and told him to never talk to me again. Seeing that we worked together and lived next to each other, that was not possible. I did a typical INFJ door slam for 3 months, but he kept trying to talk to me and crept back into my life. However, after I confessed he would avoid hanging out with me alone (only with our other mutual friend). When I asked to hangout alone, he said no. But he practically forced me to hangout everyday with him and our other mutual friend, and would never hangout with the other friend alone (only wanted me there). But right before I left for college, he talked about graduating early so we’d both be in the same grade and hanging out more to see my reaction. I really wanted to tell him I loved him but I was so scared of opening up again and him not being responsive and hurting me again.
He really never let me go even after I left for college a year afterwards. We talked for a little bit, but then I told him “I wanted to be with you for the longest time but I’m tired of your games. Bye” and unfollowed him on all socials. He stalked me on burners the whole time we were in no contact. Anyways, I went to therapy last year and healed a lot of my avoidant attachment and learned how to stick up for myself. I realized through more experiences with guys that I’m scared of vulnerability and love and realized that we both self-sabotaged. We reconnected at an event on New Year’s and all my feelings were the same after all these years. He requested me on Instagram the day after and has been watching all my stories. I asked him to hangout alone twice over text during winter break and he made excuses that he was busy (before he would always hangout with me). I want him back really bad but I’m scared that we have too much water under the bridge. I also don’t know if he’s grown from our experiences. I don’t know if he ever loved me or just loved toying with me, but I’ll never know unless I try. I want to tell him that I can’t stop thinking about us, but how do I go about it normally?
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Looking back, I think that he was hurt by my lack of initiative (he was always the one who pursued me, flirted, etc. while I was just sort of quiet and avoidant), but I felt really betrayed by what he said. Other guys would try to talk to me but I literally couldn’t even think of talking to anyone else because I liked him so much, so I expected him to be loyal too. We had never discussed monogamy and the proper response would’ve been to ask him if he wanted to be exclusive, but I was dismissive avoidant at the time and told him to never talk to me again. Seeing that we worked together and lived next to each other, that was not possible. I did a typical INFJ door slam for 3 months, but he kept trying to talk to me and crept back into my life. However, after I confessed he would avoid hanging out with me alone (only with our other mutual friend). When I asked to hangout alone, he said no. But he practically forced me to hangout everyday with him and our other mutual friend, and would never hangout with the other friend alone (only wanted me there). But right before I left for college, he talked about graduating early so we’d both be in the same grade and hanging out more to see my reaction. I really wanted to tell him I loved him but I was so scared of opening up again and him not being responsive and hurting me again.
He really never let me go even after I left for college a year afterwards. We talked for a little bit, but then I told him “I wanted to be with you for the longest time but I’m tired of your games. Bye” and unfollowed him on all socials. He stalked me on burners the whole time we were in no contact. Anyways, I went to therapy last year and healed a lot of my avoidant attachment and learned how to stick up for myself. I realized through more experiences with guys that I’m scared of vulnerability and love and realized that we both self-sabotaged. We reconnected at an event on New Year’s and all my feelings were the same after all these years. He requested me on Instagram the day after and has been watching all my stories. I asked him to hangout alone twice over text during winter break and he made excuses that he was busy (before he would always hangout with me). I want him back really bad but I’m scared that we have too much water under the bridge. I also don’t know if he’s grown from our experiences. I don’t know if he ever loved me or just loved toying with me, but I’ll never know unless I try. I want to tell him that I can’t stop thinking about us, but how do I go about it normally?