So I have a decoration on my patio that has shiny fake crystals. Yesterday my neighbor’s three daughters, ages ranging 3-8, found them and stole some. I have a ring camera that notifies me when someone approaches. I was sitting at home and saw on camera the middle child gasping when she found the crystals. Then a few seconds later the oldest and youngest daughters come and steals some. (I didn’t know at the time because I listened to the recording later, but I heard the oldest whispering to the sister “ok let’s go let’s go” after they grabbed some and ran off). I knew they would come again so this time I waited at the door. As soon as they came up to the crystals, I opened the door quickly and shocked them. The oldest said “she (younger sister) wanted some of these rocks”. I told her if she did then she should’ve knocked and asked. Then I asked if they took some earlier the oldest straight up said “no”. They start walking away and I (being a pushover because it’s just rocks) told them they could take ONE. The youngest one took two and ran off. Whatever. So I go back inside and I get the feeling they’d come back. I was right. I saw them on camera coming back a minute later but this time I waited in the garage (which is in the pathway to their house) watching them on camera. As soon as they leave my porch, I open the garage door and see two shocked faces again. Caught red handed. Their parents (mid 20’s) were in their front yard to my surprise. They weren’t supervising their children who were running back and forth (while out of site from them). I talk to the mom and told her what was going on. She apologized and her husband got the crystals. I let the girls keep some but told them no more. While I’m talking to the mom, the littlest daughter is driving her toy car on top of my husband’s car. The mom told her to stop and told the oldest to stop her (which she didn’t). I had to go and stop her from potentially scratching my husband’s car… Then the youngest runs off back to my porch and tries to steal more crystals. I go after her (mom is just standing there) and the other girls go too. I tell them and show them I have a camera that I can see them. They just start playing with the rest of my stuff. The mom finally came and got them. I took my decor inside and decided to glue all the gems down. I kept it inside today because I’m still working on it.
Today while I was in my backyard, I saw the girls come up to my porch AGAIN. I can hear them wondering where the crystals went. I raise my voice asking “girls…what are you doing?” They say nothing. So I go to the front door and the middle child says “we want more crystals” and I told them “no I gave you a couple yesterday” and she says “but we want this much” as she cups her hands. I told her “sorry, no”. I go back inside and they leave. Then they eventually come back and start playing with my other decor. The dad eventually comes over and grabs them.
I would also like to add that I’ve had issues with this family before. They breed XL bullies. Their dogs have broken into my yard twice and the neighbors had to replace my window screens twice. They got rid of the dog that was chewing on the fence. The other two dogs haven’t tried to chew through the fence since. The old mama dog got pregnant and now they have apparently have 17 puppies in the house. Plus I was recently told their “indoor” cat that escapes frequently, is pregnant. They rent their house and I highly doubt their landlord knows that they breed dogs. Their front yard is full of junk. They have a janitor mop bucket and kiddie pool that they clean out frequently (probably from the puppy waste). They hang the mop head on a flag stand that’s on their porch. Their grass is tall and rarely hire the guy that cuts it. Every time I go to my backyard and the wind blows, all I can smell is dog shit. I’m pretty sure the husband lost his job because his truck is always home during the weekday for the past two weeks. The mom stays at home all day.
I don’t want to have a bad relationship with them, especially the kids. I’m their only neighbor (there’s no house on the other side of them, just a road). I want the kids to trust me so if anything were to happen, they can knock on my door and get me. The parents are just so irresponsible. I’m not sure what to do. I want to put my foot down but don’t know how to go about it. I’m certain they will come back. They play in my front yard, which I don’t mind but I’m worried they’ll scratch my cars.

Portland, OR
We had a pretty rough winter with a really confused spring. So I'm not sure what's going on, or if I'm not alone, but my lilac has bloom "buds" on the branches, but they haven't done anything this year. Not a sign of growth at all.
I made sure to trim it back as soon as last year's blooms started wilting away, so I'm pretty sure I didn't get too it too late.
Any thoughts? Did I screw something up? It's about a 4 year old plant at this point. Maybe 5? Last year was it's first year to bloom because my landlord hacked it to the ground 3 years ago. It came back with a vengeance, but pushed off blooming another year or so.

SPOILERS for Indigo Park Chapter one! You are warned!!
My Indigo Park discoveries.
1st: upon entering the first section where we meet Rambley, we’re given two bits of info. 1st is that according to the computer, the date is Saturday 7th 20XX (mysteriously left vague) and that the staff need to give the correct coupon/discount for that day. However, Rambley Raccoon the AI mentions at least twice that it’s actually a Tuesday, and he says it's been exactly 8 years (2920 days) since the last person visited Indigo park.
2nd: Something else to note is that, if we go by the very beginning visual recording we saw of Isaac Indigo, and listen to Finley’s chat when we first meet Finley, we discover that The Park, or at least the animated characters/ mascots have existed for 100 years. If we look at a calender to see what fits with these two bits of information, we can come to the very plausible conclusion that Indigo Park started officially back in 1925, and that the CURRENT DATE , the date WE as the main character go in by, is actually Tuesday 7th 2025, meaning that it was 2017 when the last person logged on for Indigo park, which would actually fit with what we’re told.
Solid fact: COMPUTER says sat oct 7th 20xx (doesn’t give proper date). AI RAMBLEY says Tuesday is the day we’re there, at least twice. RAMBLEY claims it’s been exactly 2920 days, 8 years, since the last person came to the park. Therefore in order for the date to make any sense at all, and align with the info we’re given so far, Indigo Park has to have been created back in 1925, the bad event happened around 2017, and we’re going into the park 8 years later in 2025.
3rd discovery: When we first see the Mascot characters checking in on us, the first and most consistent one we see is Molly Macaw the bird. What’s interesting is we find a wrecked and discarded version of an old mascot costume for her in the very first ride. The second most interesting fact we have is that the molly that pursues us, along with the lion as well, are far too real to be people in costumes, and move too fluidly to be AI controlling costumes. This gives me the belief/ theory that perhaps these are actually CREATURES, possibly scientific experiments, that have taken on some of the traits of the mascots we see in the park. This idea is further solidified by the fact that, later in the game, we actually end up decapitating Molly *spoilers*, and real blood comes from her. The same thing could be said for Lloyd when we get jumpscared by him in the theater. He reacts negatively to a noise the critter cuff makes and runs off. At first I thought maybe it was the AI telling him off, saying ‘hey don’t kill that person, they’re a guest’ or something, but knowing now that these creatures are actually flesh and blood makes me wonder if perhaps these were indeed wild animals that somehow became the mascots for the park at some point, and along the way something went wrong. It would sort of make sense, given that later on near the end of the game, if you manage to collect a mascot mask during the molly chase, you’re given some lore from a recording about new mascots arriving at Indigo park. These new mascots were concerning the old workers in this recording, as they worried the new mascots would ‘take their jobs’. Meaning that at some point new mascots came in and the old mascot performers weren't too happy about it. Perhaps one of these disgruntled workers did something to cause the new mascots to go wild, and that caused all the events that led to the evacuation of the park. Which brings me to THAT point.
4th discovery: The Evacuation of Indigo Park, and abandonment of it.
Something I noticed during the entire game was just how ruined everything was. Like, it is completely wrecked, even more so then I would honestly believe for a place that’s been abandoned for 8 years. Some things are still running, and some buildings are still in tact for sure, but there are ENTIRE buildings and walls just… absolutely wrecked, like a wrecking ball smashed through some of them. I’m not an expert on how long buildings take to get to the extent of disarray Indigo park is in when we go there, but it’s just ABSOLUTELY wrecked. Even when we go through a tunnel at one point, there is a collapse that closes the entrance behind us at that point. Sure, its game play to stop us from returning, but from a story standpoint, if you were to look at that tunnel entrance just before going in, it looks perfectly fine. The least you would expect to see is some dust crumbling down, cracks in the wall, stuff like that, as it prepares to give way. But that doesn't happen. No, instead, I suspect that it was actually the new mascots, specifically a character like Finley who has been labeled as rather large and strong, that caused the majority of the damage in the park. My evidence so far comes from two examples. First example is when we first almost get attacked by Lloyd in the theater, and he gets almost flattened by crates. You could make the argument that he was pretty weak, especially since he kinda just gives up and disappears only to try and get us as we leave and then gets scared by the critter cuff. But if you notice, the crate that lands on him is fairly wide and fairly large, and does NOT look light in the slightest. And since he’s meant to be a lion, he should be fairly strong. So, that crate that flattened him but didn't kill him? It SHOULD have killed him or knocked him out had he been a normal human in a costume.
My second evidence to this idea is Molly. We’re talking about a bird that has feathers for hands/fingers. That shouldn't make her strong by any means. And yet, when we get chased by her, the door she comes through to get to us gets pulled open by force by her. Watch that scene again carefully and you’ll see what I mean. True, the door is slowly starting to open, but it STOPS, and then she forces it open with absolute ease! And that was a solid steel door!
And third factor (I know I said two factors but I wanted to point this out a lil too) is the existence of Finley’s real sea-dragon body, seen RIGHT at the end of the chapter. There is no way that is a real human, and definitely no way that's an animatronic either. That thing is real, and its definitely strong.
My guess? These guys are what actually caused the majority of the damage we see in the park. It would explain why the place got evacuated at all, and why police wanted to keep people away from the place so badly.
5th discovery: little things to note.
So in chapter one there’s a few little things of note which might not be huge to the lore, but I wanted to talk about for sure cus they fascinate me.
1st lil note: On the train ride in, if you turn around upon seeing conductor Rambley enter the train, there’s a picture of Rambley and LLoyd shaking one anothers’ paws. I haven’t been able to get a closer look, but I believe there’s also some kind of letter or note in the picture too. I have no idea what this implies, but I found it interesting given that, for the rest of the game, Rambley basically hates Lloyd and resents how much attention the lion gets (despite the fact that rambley is most definitely the one character that gets the most attention.)
2nd lil note: if you pay close enough attention throughout the chapter (after you officially enter, and before you see her in the Landing Pad room) Molly Macaw actually appears a few times. Sometimes physically, sometimes saying things. I think the first time you can officially see her is in the cue for the train ride as she goes around a corner. You can spot her a few times during the train ride as well, and can even hear her saying something after Finley has his little ‘come visit me’ speech. I don’t know exactly how many times she pops up along the ride, but that is very interesting. I also believe she pops up in the theater, both physically and for a brief moment you can hear her too, just before you see Lloyd in the backstage area.
Collectables. Like with FNAF security breach, this game has collectables that reveal a lil more lore, but unlike FNAF, you can only find out info about the items once you reach an info kiosk. For the most part, the info you get if you scan the items seem to be about your character’s backstory, which honestly isn’t… much? But there could be more in the future, who knows. But if you click on them, you can learn more about the items from Rambley, which is where you also get to learn about the secret recording regarding that one mascot mask. They’re part of the game, but I don't think you have to get them? At least, I don't think they unlock anything special if you do get them all. I know nothing changed when I got them all.
Our character's height/age/info. So, when we are first introduced to the character we play as in the beginning opening intro, it's pretty obvious that we’re playing someone who’s either a teenager, or a fully grown adult. They’ve been known for exploring abandoned places before, if we pay attention to the messages they share with an internet friend, and in the game, our arms are quite muscular, meaning we are known for being fairly strong ourselves, and more than capable of running for long distances (which makes sense later on with the molly chase).
However, a couple of things I wanted to note: If this is true, then why are some things in indigo park different heights to us then what they should be? For instance, a normal upstanding bin, with nothing keeping it above ground or adding to its height, is only just below our chin basically. Another example is that some of the desks in cafes or kiosks are higher than us. Yet it's made pretty clear we’re not playing as a kid. I suppose it is entirely possible we could be playing an adult of short stature, but I’m not entirely sure. It is also possible that this was done as part of the game’s physics, to avoid players jumping over things. Story wise, it is a bit inconsistent and I thought that was a little strange. Could be nothing, but could be something.
My current Theory:
So here’s my running theory. I want to point out that this is a theory and not absolute fact, and if you have theories of your own I’d love to hear them. I’m just theorizing according to the evidence I’ve picked up. Here goes.
Sometimes back in the late 2010s perhaps, Indigo park decided they wanted to take things in an exciting new direction. Their ideal thought was always to try and bring dreams to life, of course, and perhaps Isaac Indigo felt that the current Mascots weren’t doing the best job at that. He brings in some scientists and discusses with them a revolutionary idea: turning ACTUAL animals into the mascots for Indigo park. Perhaps he reasons with them by saying things like ‘hey, people want to see and feel the realness of these mascots they’ve come to love, what better way to do it then to give them REAL animals.’
Unfortunately, this means some scientific experimentation. A scientist, we’ll call them Richard for now, gathers up the actual animals that represent the mascots (perhaps getting a lion cub from a circus to avoid being killed by lions in the wildlife)), and starts to run experiments on them by giving them potions that slowly, over time, start to ‘transform’ them into the mascots for Indigo park. However, he gets to the one for Salem the skunk, and since Salem is supposed to be the evil, tricky, clever one, her transformation goes awry, and they break free, enabling the other animals to break free as well. Causing the chaos of the park to ensue, and the eventual evacuation of the park. They decide they want to keep Indigo Park as their home, because they know that the outside world would probably kill them on the spot, and slowly over time become more animal like, but still hold onto some of the old traits they were injected with. The AI known as Rambley was confined to the front desk, most likely because that would be one of the last areas staff went to before fully evacuating. Meaning he was stuck there until we came along. Now he wants to bring the park back to life, because that’s what he’s programmed to want, and to do, but he needs human clearance, which is where we come in. But the animal mascots will probably not like that, because that means we’re bringing back to life the place that condemned them to start with. So they will try to stop us any way they can. Is this right? Again, not sure. It’s just a theory right now. But I’ll be interested to find out what happens in chapter two.
Was there anything I missed? What did YOU think of Indigo park? Got any theories? Let me know and let’s discuss Indigo Park!!

Police came here to apprehend my brother now we're evicted with 10 days to vacate the premises

Police came to my mothers to apprehend my brother due to violating probation. Like the tile says, management of the apartment complex says my mother is in breach of the lease. My mother is a disabled senior citizen who has always been up to date on rent, no other issues, this is her first occurrence. Also, management dropped a letter by that says again we have 10 days to vacate the premises but also that we are responsible to pay the rent for the remaining months on the lease (until October 2024). Keep in mind, this place is an out of state corporation, no one is ever at the management office, and all communication is via paper notices left at our door. This is in St. Louis, MO btw.
Is this legal? Do we have any recourse?

I'm renting a condo unit where the landlord is now in foreclosure, and the property is going to auction next week. If the bank doesn't get a buyer and the unit ends up being REO, would they move as fast as legally possible to evict me? Or could they potentially sit back for a while?
The disclaimer is that I don't care too much if I'm evicted; I mostly ask to help me understand timelines so I can plan out when I have to start looking for a new place, if I can plan for vacations, etc. I know I can legally stay in the unit through the end of my lease, which is this fall.
There are several reasons why I'd be surprised if it sold right away: the landlord was really underwater and couldn't sell the unit prior to this point, it's in a VHCOL area with comparable condos nearby with better amenities including parking, the HOA dues are wild, etc.
I also don't plan to bid on the property myself in part because I don't have enough cash on me (and I've read it's impossible to secure/use a loan for foreclosure auctions).
So can I expect the bank to evict me as soon as it can in order to make the unit vacant and easier to sell? Is there a reason they might wait a while, in which case my tenancy is converted into a month-to-month situation.
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[EDIT- possible TW for mention of sa, and death threats]
Not really sure where to begin, but I (F19) am being harassed, stalked, threatened & more by my neighbours. For context I live on a street of flat/apartment buildings, in my building there is me, one man (irrelevant), and another woman in her late 30s. 2 doors down is the other neighbours (early 40s, late 50s, and mid 40s).
All four of these neighbours, plus one of the neighbours daughters (early 30s) have taken it upon themselves to harass me and attempt to get me evicted. I moved here almost a year ago, they have all been here 10+ years so are close knit.
The woman in my actual apartment building, I will call Susan for the sake of not confusing you too much, is the main issue, as well as 'Amy' the woman in her early 40s. Amy is constantly making up lies anout me to other neighbours to the point I've had them threaten me in the street, despite never speaking to them ever.
I have 48 minutes of audio recordings of Susan threatening to kll me, break into my flat, kll my dog, smash my windows in, skin myself and my dog alive, set fire to my flat when my dog is left home alone, and even worse things along the lines of making up false r*pe allegations to get me arrested which I won't go into (which are all obviously untrue).
Susan is constantly banging on my doors, ringing my buzzer, putting her phone up to my windows to record me in my bedroom, and I even had a dr*g dealer barge through my front door and sleep on my sofa, refusing to leave for over 7 hours, threatening me if I called the police to get him removed.
I have had a man (she prstitutes herself to drg dealers, for context) leave her flat to come and tell me that she is attempting to convince/hire the group of men in her flat to break into mine or beat me up on the street to 'teach me a lesson'.
I have severe PTSD from a similar situation involving DV and SA, and also suffer from extreme paranoia due to OCD & Bipolar so this has taken a huge toll on my mental state, I don't sleep most nights because my brain convinces me that if I even close my eyes for a few seconds someone is going to break in, or set fire to my flat.
I have reported this to our landlord and the police, neither will do anything because I am not in 'immediate danger'. I do now have an open police report against her and 'Amy' though, in case anything does happen.
Amy and I used to be friends of Facebook before she started harassing me and telling lies to others, so she had access to my friends list on there. She went through all my FB friends to private message them and make up lies, saying I was talking behind their backs and telling my male frienfs I was making false claims about SA, which never happened and I never said.
This has gotten so bad that family members have reached out to me, I have lost friends, and Amy has dedicated entire catfish social media accounts just to stalk me, even joining all the Facebook groups I'm in to watch everything I post. She also watches me on her Ring doorbell camera, and posts clips of me walking past her house (I have to walk past it to leave our street) to her Facebook, and will even stand outside watching and waiting for me to leave my building so she can throw drinks and cigarettes at me as I walk past (we don't have front yards, so the distance between us is only around 1-2ft) and verbally assault me.
I'm at a loss on what to do, I can't afford to move elsewhere, our landlord is ignoring my complaints, and police won't do anything until she physically assaults me.
I just need advice on what to do to be honest, I'm so tired of it all

Is HJ really that far behind? I wonder why Nika hasn’t gone to jail or court for truancy. You can tell those kids miss a lot of school, I doubt HJ was held back so many times JUST bc of his grades. In Texas they’re quick to send a letter to your parent and have them show up for court, and if the kid still doesn’t start showing up more for school the parent gets a fine and then jail. Also, I wonder why they don’t put him in the correct grade, but just have him in special ed classes if he really is remedial, or have like an IEP set up for him. Idk I just don’t see the point in the school having him in the same class around 7/8 year olds at 11 years old.
If he really is that far behind, I can honestly see why he skips school. He’s already got a neglectful mother who sends him to school w unkept hair, dirty clothes, and bad hygiene, but he also has classmates his age who see him having to be with the younger kids, so they probably bully him a lot. All of them kids probably get bullied bad, especially w how much Nika puts on the internet.
That’s probably why he looks up to Papa and hangs around him and his friends bc around them he feels older and more accepted. It’s just sad bc he’s going down a dark path and Nika is encouraging it. Instead of helping her son get to where he needs to be and ensuring he feels good about himself, she ignores him and probably puts him down. I feel bad for all the kids, but I’ve been finding myself feeling bad for HJ the most lately (besides Sy of course).

Advice for brand new landlords?
I’m planning to rent out our 3 bed townhome in UT/ Utah county this fall. After spending some time on this sub, I’m terrified of all that can go wrong and feel way in over my head. Obviously, things are going to happen and it’s not all roses. But any advice for me or things that have helped you and your renters have a positive experience overall?

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/MentalPlatypus5193 posting in amiwrong
Concluded as per OOP
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Thanks to u/colorsofautomn for finding this BORU
Original - 28th April 2024
Update1 - 10th May 2024
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My son [19M] filed harassment charges against me and my husband because we were making him go to college
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Me and my son moved to US last year. I was a single mom for 16 yrs before I met and then married my husband. I saved up money so he can go to college. Where I came from, college is very important. We moved to a small town and my son found new friends. These friends in my opinion were not a good influence. I am used to polite and academically oriented kids back home. These new friends of his make fun of his books and his plans of going to college.
Before his HS graduation, me and my husband took him to several unis in the state so he could get a feel for which one he would like to go to. Then after he graduated from HS, I told him I have about $20k saved up for college. He said it is not going to fit because tuition is pretty expensive nowadays. I suggested he can just go to a community college 20 mins away and live at home to save money. He agreed and I gave him access to the fund (joint account).
Long story short, he did not enroll himself and instead started partying a lot and used the money on expensive dates with his gf. He moved out and stopped talking to me. I worked hard to save that up for more than a decade and I am upset that he wasted it in less than a year. Me and my husband went to his place and asked that he pay me back since it is specifically for college and not "fun money".
He called the police and filed harassment charges. I told the police to review the cctv footage because the whole time I was talking to him through his ring cam, I was calm and reasonable and my husband was just standing behind me not saying anything. I was outside the door talking, he never even opened the door to talk to me face to face. The police said there's nothing he can do if my son and his gf felt "harassed", he can file a restraining order if he wants to.
Back home, this is unforgivable to treat your parent like this. But here in US, I was treated almost like a criminal. My sister in law said it is my fault for confronting him and that the money is his to spend since I made him a joint account owner. Am I wrong?
Edit: People cursing me because I said something about wanting to throw my chancla on my son's face, to be clear I have never laid my hands or my flip flops on him ever. But after what he did, my intrusive thoughts wants me to throw it but of course I won't. If he called the cops on me just because I want to talk to him, what more if I threw my flip flops on his face??
His relationship with me before moving to US was fine. He knew my struggle as a single mom and he always try to help me around the house. I was not strict at all he was free to go out with friends anytime. He was even thrilled to have a father figure and my husband always try to make him feel included in everything.
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ManufacturerAny835
Lesson learned never give someone access to money unless you’re ok with them running away with it

OOP: He was a good boy before moving here. I thought he knew my struggles and how much I sacrificed to save money. I just thought he would never betray me like this.

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dingdongsbtchs
Honestly I think a lot of parents don’t realize the depth of their children and forget that just because you think of them as one way doesn’t mean they don’t have other layers that can make them a different person. Sadly your son has found some less than savory friends to surround himself with and now he has to live with the decision he made. I honestly wouldn’t offer help for university again and would leave communication up to him. Also has there been any questions or discussion of potential drug use??
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2workigo
The money is gone. And since he was a joint account holder and a legal adult, there’s nothing to be done except refuse to help him financially anymore. Let him figure it out on his own from now on. The friends he had will likely drift away now that he no longer has a fat bank account to fund their party lifestyle.
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Treacle_Moon
Her biggest fault is waiting till it was all gone to do something about it. She had joint access. She could have stepped in long before now and tried to deal with it. Too little too late unfortunately.
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Update - 12 days later
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I still have not heard from my son and I don't expect him to reach out. But his gf's mother has called me asking if my house is still open to him. I asked her why, it turns out he hasn't paid his share of the last month's rent and his gf had to pay it for him.
I said it is not my problem and he is not welcome anymore in my house since he is an adult. The gf's mom said "what kind of mother would not extend help to his teenage son?". She further insulted me and said now she knows why he left me.
At this point I really don't care anymore. I tried to help him get a good start in life but he wasted it. Aside from the $20k, he lived rent free in the house, free food, free phone, car, gas money, and I pay all the utility bills and his health insurance. All I asked is that he focus on his studies. Finish at least an associate's degree so he can get a decent job and be fully independent from me asap.
For some who asked why college is so important to me, as an immigrant, we are held under certain standards. We have to prove to USCIS that we will not become a public charge -- meaning we won't rely on any government aid. I want him to be able to be a good immigrant and become productive. I don't even know if he can become a citizen if he makes below poverty income. I was just trying to make sure he gets to live a good life.
Some of you asked if he even wanted go to to college. Back when we were in our home country, he begged me to pls send him to college no matter what.
P.S. The harassment charge was closed for lack of evidence of harassment, a lot of what he said were lies.
Edit: Another thing that gave me chills was when he moved out it was the middle of the night and me and my husband were both asleep. My son left the front door hanging open (I saw it in the camera). We live in a small town but there's a lot of crime in our area, someone could have gone in and done something bad.
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bluedreamer62
Some people just have to learn the hard way, his gf probably had a good time with him spending his college fund now 5hat it’s gone the fun is over. So comes the reality.
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PoliteCanadian2
So you’re saying this is the Find Out stage that follows the Fuck Around stage?
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Sharp_Mathematician6
Yep
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SnooWords4839
His GF's mom has no right to bitch you out. Your son left, spend his college fund and now has to figure out how to adult. You do not owe him anything at this point.
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ladyalcove
She's just calling her out because she's realizing that now she has to take care of this bum.
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butterfly-garden
Yup. She, too, is in the Find Out stage.
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Update 2 - 8 days later
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His girlfriend's mom called me again today and basically handed the phone to my son to "sort it out between us". I let him just talk and tell me what is on his mind. Here's a summary of his point of view:

• He felt like I deprived him of a lot of things growing up. I couldn't buy him an Xbox/playstation, iphone, or anything a teenager wants when we were in our home country. I can't afford it. Back then I was making $1k a month and saving 20% of it for his college fund and whatever was left was for us to live on. I was helping my parents too with some groceries so money was really really tight. When I look back now, I don't know how I made it all fit.
• He felt so small because his clothes were hand me downs from cousins or just cheap clothes I bought from tianguis.
• He said I was not supportive unlike his friend's parents. Some of his friends have wealthy parents who bought their sons a house and never had to go to college or think about their future because they will inherit the family farm anyway. I have no generational wealth to be that supportive. I wish I have.
• He said I have so much house rules. Yes I do. I want him to wash his plates after eating (I used to do it for him), clean his room and keep it tidy, make sure the windows are tightly shut in winter, keep the thermostat at 68 during winter to save electricity, come home at 11pm or else the house will be double locked from the inside for my safety (because my husband drives a truck and not home at night most the time). I also told him before that since he has a part time job, he can't use my credit card for anything but emergency anymore, but he still used it sometimes anyway (card's been frozen since he moved out).
• I asked him why file charges when I only wanted some explanation from him. He said he don't want to inconvenience his gf and filing charges is the easiest way to get me to stop trying to talk to him.

So basically he felt deprived as a kid and that he thinks he was just healing his inner child when he spent the money. He said his friends told him I owe that to him for bringing him to this world. He thinks that I should not have a child if I can't afford these things.
I asked him why he left the door open that night. He went silent for a few seconds then said "I just thought that if the house get robbed, I could just say I cashed the money from the bank and the robbers must have found it". Unbelievable.
At this point I was so emotional and I was a crying mess. I told him I am deeply sorry that I was his mom and that he had to grow up feeling deprived because I was poor. Then he said "Oh stop with your guilt tripping, you are saying that to make me feel bad.
Oh and he also said he hates it when I do this. I don't yell like that lady but I pretty much bug him to get up and help me set the table. I never get a response so I had to raise my voice higher. He said I was so rude. But he grew up with this. This is me being me. All moms back home do this. Al of a sudden he is comparing me to his mom's friends. In our culture we want food to be eaten while it is fresh from the stove. I spent 1 hr cooking after a long day at work, the least you can do is help me set the table and eat my food while it's nice and warm.
I hung up. My heart is broken in so much pieces. Am I wrong?
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Whitewitchie
He has a chip on both shoulders. Leave him be. It's despicable he left the door open so you were vulnerable to burglars. Absolutely no consideration for your safety at all.
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Mtndrums
Dude's a spoiled brat, and an idiot to not see his "friends" were using him. You need to cut him off and let him figure things out.
dublos
Not spoiled. Mom could not spoil him.
Entitled.
This child believes he's entitled to the same things his friends grew up with, even though his parents provided the best they could provide.
u/MentalPlatypus5193 your son has made his bed. Let him sleep in it.
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I made my first throw away account for this. Yipee (he said with all the excitement of a deflating woopie cushion).
I (M23) currently live with my mom (F64) and dad (M65). I'm attending a local community college and struggling to find a regular job while also pursuing a career as a writer and musician. I love my mom and dad very much, and they love me too. They have been nothing but supportive of me and my aspirations my entire life, and I am so grateful to them for that.
That isn't to say we don't have our issues (i wouldn't be talking about them on this sub if they were perfect, after all) but I think the context here is very important.
So, in exchange for no rent, i have to follow a set of rules. Some of them are pretty reasonable (no illegal drugs in the house, do my fill of chores, keep my room and bathroom clean, etc.), but some could be considered a bit weird (attend church once a week, no sex inside the house). While I'm okay with these rules, there is one i chafe against regularly… i have to maintain my haifacial hair in a very specific way.
So, as my username implies, I have long hair. It goes past my shoulders and rests at my upper back. It's also very thick. My mom likes to say my hair, like hers, wants to grow out, not down. (It really does feel like my hair wants to spite gravity sometimes). It defaults to curly ringlets, but I have options to style it.
It wasn't always like this, though. For a majority of my life, i kept my hair short. When i was 17 i heard about locks for love, the charity where you can donate your hair to create wigs for children undergoing cancer treatment. I was really inspired by this, and wanted to participate. I had to wait a year, until i graduated high school (because of our dress code and because i did a lot of theater stuff that required me to have short hair) to start. For four long years, I grew my hair out and finally, cut it off to send it to charity. It was really fun, we threw a small, silly party to celebrate.
But over the next few months, I began to realize something… i really liked having long hair! I've only now begun to verbalize it, but i felt confident and sexy with long hair. It was the first time I made a style choice on my own without involvement from anyone else and i loved it. So, thinking that this was a harmless form of self-expression, I decided I wanted to grow my hair out again, but this time keep it. And here, is where my troubles began.
Now, during the first time I started growing my hair out, my dad made it no secret he didn't like the long hair look, but went along with it because he knew it was for a good cause. But during the fall of 2021, when i made my intentions clear of mainting the look, he began to complain… a lot. Now, i'm not going to pretend some of these complaints were without merit. In terms of styling and hair care, I had no idea what I was doing, and combined with my big, bushy, unkempt beard, I looked terrible. I looked like a caveman Jerry Garcia. My hair was constantly knotted and greasy looking, i had split ends I refused to cut, and my beard was uneven. It drove dad up the wall.
Then, one morning, my parents forced me to go to a barbershop down the street. I went in, explained the situation, and told him i wanted to keep my long hair, but to get rid of all the stuff they didnt like. To shape it up, style it. The barber looked at me, and said it was too soon (it had been five months since i had sent my hair in) and to come back in a month. Satisfied, i texted my mother the news, got myself some lunch, picked up some groceries and came back home. My parents were waiting for me. I don't think Mom had seen my text. They were disappointed. A day or so later, dad came into my room as i was waking up, still wiping the dust from my eyes and gave me an ultimatum. I was going to cut my hair or he was going to kick me out of the house, and take my car too since his name was on the paperwork.
…To say the following two hours were eventful would be an understatement. In short, after lots of screaming, crying, and swearing, from both sides, we came to the agreement we have today; in exchange for keeping my hair tidy, and my beard trimmed, I could continue to live at my parents house. Whenever dads around, or we're out together, he wants me to have my hair tied back (nevermind that can actually damage the hair in the long term) or wear a headband to keep it out of my face.
While he's done a lot to regain my trust since that day (and I've done the same), i still feel uneasy about the whole thing. My dads explanation is that he's from another time, which is true. He grew up in the sixties and the seventies. If i were to fall through a portal in time, people off the street would probably think i was homeless or a hippie. That's how he thinks i look. And that terrifies him, because he thinks I don't know or understand how the way i portray myself can come off to others. It's also an issue of respect to him. In case it wasn't clear earlier, my dad is a Christian. He was a pastor in the Nazarene church for many years, but he's retired now. To him, growing my hair out like i have, after all the times he's expressed his dislike, is the equivalent of me flipping him off. Some of you may be wondering “How are these sentences related?” Well, if you open your bibles to Exodus 20:12, you will find the fifth commandment, which states “honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” To say my faith is important to my dad is an understatement. The most important thing my to my dad, aside from the safety and health of me and mom, is whether or not i still believe Jesus Christ is my lord and savior. But im getting lost in the weeds, lets get back on track.
The point is, my dad sees this as a very personal insult, and a representation of all his fears that I might fail in life in a way that he can't prevent. That's how he's explained it to me. Im not trying to justify or explain away his behavior, I'm just trying to tell you what he's told me.
From my perspective, while Dad was right that my grooming at the time was terrible, my hair style does not, and should not, matter to him. I'll admit, at that time in my life, i was going through a really rough patch that i do not want to go into here. I had some awful habits back then, and i was clinically depressed. But coming in and saying you're gonna kick me out unless i give you what you want isn't what i would call christlike behavior, much less normal empathetic father figure behavior.
So why am i writing about this now? Because he did it again.
So, my dad has still been complaining since the three and a half years this happened, but I've been getting better and better at cleaning and maintaining my hair. Im not going to pretend I'm a master, but at least I'm not using two for one shampoo anymore and have learned how to consistently make a towel wrap. Today (sunday), dad got home from a business trip. When he got home, we didn't really say much because i was rushing to complete summer school homework due by midnight. We said Hi and I love you, but that was pretty much it. I had been working all day on this, since the moment i got up. I missed church because i was exhausted from staying up late, you guessed it, working. After all this time, i finally do it, and go out to have an actual conversation with my dad. And the first thing he says to me during this conversation? After not seeing me since Thursday? “[Long locks], you really need to do something about my hair. You need to remember our agreement. It's becoming a problem.”
Wow. Thanks for the veiled threat dad, nice to see you too.
I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like i cannot please him. I'm just now getting the hang of this, and its like… he doesn't care. I went to a new barber six weeks ago to cut off my split ends and shape it up. I trim my beard every 4-8 weeks. I shampoo, rinse, condition, rinse, dry, comb with a wide tooth comb, comb with an actual brush and then maybe use a band if dads around, AND ITS STILL NOT ENOUGH. The one day i don't do my hair because i am trying to prioritize the things that matter and he says that.
And the thing that bothers me is that it brings me down all the time. It affects my self-esteem and self-image. And he keeps dangling my ability to live a life over my head unless i give him what he wants, and it makes me wonder where will it end? What will he want me to change next? Will he threaten to take away my clothes? Stuff i bought with the allowance he gives me? This thing that happened today made me realize i am so helplessly dependent on these people and I can't take it anymore. So my thought process is why don't i just save us the trouble of all the shouting, crying and swearing, pack up my bags and leave? Lets save the time and trouble and move on because I don't want to fight.
I'm sorry if this has devolved into an incomprehensible slurry, but I've been trying to write this all down for an hour and i'm so tired. I don't want to give up this piece of myself that I've grown to love. But am I being a big stupid baby about this? Should i just give him what he wants? Or should i take a stand for my own personal boundaries and identity and move out? And if the latter, what should my next steps be?
Thank you for reading this wall of runes. I'm going to pass out now. Good night.

I just finished the Aix-en-Provence 70.3 yesterday. It was absolutely amazing. I'm from the San Francisco Bay Area, and had traveled to the region before, but wow, it's more beautiful on a bike.
I was hoping to make the cut off time of 8.5 hours. I really wasn’t sure I could do it and had prepared myself to just enjoy the experience.
I was a late entry (had to buy the Nirvana experience to enter) because I tagged it on to a last minute trip to Europe for work. I was scheduling my training to get me to 70.3 level in September for Santa Cruz.
I was under trained and dealing with poor nutrition, sleep, and everything that goes with international traveling a week before the race. I also had a rented bike that I didn't have a chance to ride it at all before the race.
My time was less than 7.5 and I set some personal bests pretty much all around.
What really helped were the people. Everyone came out to cheer us on in Aix-en-Provence as well as all the towns along the way.
They would all shout “Allez” and ring cow bells. When I got closer, they’d shout “Allez ”.
In Aix-en-Provence during the run, you take 3 laps around the town. People would actually remember me after the first lap and tell me “1 more” or “last one”. In some alleys they’d cheer along on the sides with a low cheer, but then as you approached they’d do the wave.
It was a lot hotter than I expected. It reached over 93F when I was on the bike. As a result of the heat, I got pretty bad leg cramps, so during the run I had to walk parts of it. People would shout “allez” as I walked by and I would say “merci” and the start running again… they’d go nuts over this shouting “bravo!”
It was all so emotionally overwhelming. They could see how touched I was and on subsequent laps that just made them cheer more.
I've done other events (marathons and Escape from Alcatraz), and usually get emotional with the crowd reaction, but this was off the charts.
The swim was nice. The water was 67F which meant wetsuit mandatory, but not cold at all. It had the usual problem of people queuing up too early for their ability and me having to navigate around other swimmers, but that's to be expected.
Also of note on the swim is that while the water is generally calm and clean, there are event boats out there for rescue (in addition to kayaks). The boats can kick up a wake, so there can be unexpected waves. The clean water also gets muddy towards the finish, which may make having rinse water in T1 worthwhile.

I'm looking to start up a sole proprietorship in CA to sell 3d printed/self assembled electronics online. At this time an LLC is not in the cards since the annual $800 fee would probably be a significant portion of my profits. I have done some amount of research already and plan on getting a registered agent, filing an FBN, getting a business license, EIN, bank account, sellers permit, insurance, and then figure out the online marketplace. However, I'm a little lost when I comes to the business address stuff. I don't want to use my own address for obvious privacy reasons but also because I rent and would rather not deal with the paperwork I'd have to get my landlord to sign. The registered agent services I have looked into will provide a business address (virtual office) which should, to my knowledge, let me use that address instead of my own. But, does this mean I also need to file all my paperwork as if I'm operating the business out of that address, when in reality I'm physically operating out of ~20 sqft in my home? I live in LA county, but say if my business address is in Sacramento, do I have to file all paperwork there, with none to fill out locally?

This is the most frustratingly typical boomer behaviour on the face of this earth. I cannot rationalize why my retired boomer neighbours (apartment) are obsessed with my trash (you heard it right). If I put my recycling out to the curb a little early because I’m gonna be out of town on trash day, they report my ass to the landlord after rummaging through the recycling to see who’s name is on the Amazon boxes… The trash at my building is kept literally in a patch of mud. I move my bins away from the mud, because I’m slipping in it, and HOURS later they’ve moved my bins back to the mud patch!!! Before I knew it was the boomer couple beside me, I asked the landlord if she knows who is doing this and she tells me she has no idea “but how kind of them! They are only trying to help” she says (boomer too). We have animals getting into the bins at night lately and landlord won’t do anything to help stop this. So I started moving my bins around the property so they are no longer in the path of the animals, and this worked. Yet every damn day I see that they’ve moved my bins back to the mud patch… I’m serious. Within hours sometimes. My trash bin is one I bought myself and has my name on it yet these people with nothing better to do than touch my shit keep taking it upon themselves to relocate my (very heavy) bins and for what?! Leave my shit alone and get a fucking life.

So I 16 M, have had a slew of friends over my life so far, I have another friend close to my age ( who’s online and care about dearly, also fyi , hes bi I’m gay, and I have low self esteem trust issues and high anxiety so I over think a lot ) . We’ve been growing distant lately, since they got out of a relationship , with a guy that manipulated them into thinking they were younger ( the guy was 22 ). Since then I haven’t been doing much Rp stuff, like SCP and military rp ( because that what they like same as I ) and I kinda stopped playing because it reminded me of that ex of there’s because of how shit they treated my friend. Bit recently I’ve been getting into a slew of anxiety attacks and panic attacks, over a guy that manipulated me to date him, then him telling me it was a cruel pranks to get me away from him, when he invited me on a date to his band concert. And in that slew , some of my attacks have been for my friend ( where we will call H ) mainly because we’ve grown so distant, and we’ve talked in the past , but they are also mainly super busy with the Rps ( they’re also in JROTC or ROTC ) . Yesterday after noon ( it’s 12:38 am where I am ) I sent a letter how I felt, and in a short term they said back, of how they care about me a lot too, and busy with life in general, and scared about possibly being trans ( because I genuine and scared of woman because I was SA by my sister when I was younger ) and how we don’t don’t much activity wise anymore, but they do still very much over me and hope I improve getting better. They also told me that they had to crush someone they liked ( like a partner ) and I got overthinking, about it because of the sensitive stuff I said in the letter I wrote. And they have more confidence in that guy that manipulated him than that guy he just told me about. Which got me overthinking on over drive. Which I hate doing all the time. They also know I like them too and im also like a big brother they never had ( from Alabama though but we do love eachother in both ways ). And they fear if we do ever date they’d lose that closeness ( even though we’ve uhhh, done some stuff together ). Anywhom I got school but I’m probably gonna stayed , gn people.

So, meet this girl online over a year ago. Just chatted, nothing to it, and occasionally pep each other up.
Lately she's been using more letters in my name, or saying things that I feel like people with crushes would say to each other.
She's also been willingly sending me pics (normal, nothing else) and trusting me with more personal info.
Due to distance and a bit of an age gap and where we're at in life, I never thought to like her romantically. Now I'm beginning to.
tl;dr
I want to ask, but I don't want to ruin the friendship when it's so easy for her to cut me off of I make her feel uncomfortable.
Is it worth asking?

In NYC had an apt no lease Lived there 4 years. Again. No lease agreement. Rent was paid on time EVERY MONTG either cash or thru venmo. Landlord told me to leave so she had the apt for her son who was going to local college. This happened during the height of covid pandemic. My wife was out of work and landlord 2 months before ok'd adding a dog to my family. Took me a whole year to find an apartment to take a dog and 2 babies. Didn't Pay landlord rent for 5 months to have money for 1 month rent 1 month security and real estate fee. Former landlord suing me in small claims court. Any advice?

Context is I live in an apartment building my grandparents owned. In the apartment above mine lived a woman who's now in her late 90s and who's been in a nursing home for years. Her rent is something like €150 and no one lives there. Pretty sure the family just uses the place for storage of her stuff.
But her apartment has flooded at least three times (balcony overflow when raining), causing leakage down to my apartment, and cracks in the ceiling. The family also refuses to show up, or takes a week to do so when this happens. Due to this, the damage keeps getting worse and mold has started to spread.
Can they be kicked out when their contract expires? The rest of my family is convinced they can't due to some protections of old people, and thinks it's illegal to enter without permission. But she hasn't actually lived there in half a decade and they're damaging other properties with their negligence...

Hey I wanted to make a new post with the full story. I met this guy off hinge and we started talking immediately he said he was looking for a relationship and I told him if the person seems right I would love to be in one with someone. We go on dates for the first week and I told him I write poetry so he starts writing me love letters and finding my favorite flowers. He also was going to get me a cat bc I told him I wanted a pet but we only knew each other for a week. We were supposed to meet up for a date but he ends up being hours late turns out he was going on a date w another girl every day before me and him would hang out back to back. He even had the paintings they did together hung up on his wall. I confronted him about and he said he was talking to multiple people at once because he gets really obsessed with people and that his friends told him that that would be a good idea so he won’t be obsessed. He then said he was planning on picking me over her but then I was like is that a red flag. But we spend the next five days together and he buys me a bunch of things but I end up going on vacation and the text messages became distant he ends up going to a graduation for this girl he claims is his friend but I’m pretty sure they had something going on. We weren’t texting at the time bc he kept leaving me on read for days. At the graduation he’s screaming my name to get my attention but he’s there for another girl. So after that happened I decided to reach out to him and he ignored me after he was the one screaming for my attention. Why would someone do this what does this mean? Is he crazy for context I’m 22 and he’s 24.

Okay, Reddit. I have found myself in a bit of a dilemma. Without going into too much detail, I have been out of a job since Late February/Early March. It has been a struggle finding new employment. I was working in IT for a local company. Prior to that, I was an IT Analyst with a small company here in Erie (which I moved on from to accept another offer). I have been applying and applying and applying to jobs, many interviews, but no luck.
I am looking for an IT job here in Erie (or the surrounding areas). I have 4 years of experience in the industry, professional references, letters of recommendation, and am highly experienced in mainstream solutions (Windows, 365, Azure, Entra, etc) and also have a programming background. I have experience in device monitoring, quoting, scripting, and patching, as well as experience installing various pieces of network hardware and devices (switches, firewalls, access points, servers, workstations, etc). I also run a small, multi-level IT business on the side.
The list of companies I've applied for already is extensive, but I am hoping maybe I can discover some new opportunities with this post. I have wide open availability, but ideally looking for 9-5, 8-5. Willing to work on-site and have immediate availability. I am also willing to travel anywhere from Sherman to Meadville if need be. I have reliable transportation and a valid driver's license.