Step daughter adoption quotes

Greetings!
I am looking to work with Lawn Care Pros, if you have your own business and employees or solo entrepreneur.
I want to help businesses improve their process and revenue, I specialize in software development and I am currently building a software for lawn care. If you are facing any difficulties that you feel can be solved with tech or automated let me know, i am keeping this limited to 5 people as i am working as a solo founder along with my full time job.
Software currently has all basic features like customer / lead management, request forms to be embedded on the website, creating quotes, scheduling jobs, invoices etc
As an early adopter you will get access to the premium tools i build in future without any extra cost, and will be accepting personal requirements, please comment below or Hit me a DM
If you don't have time to work together, you can still share your problems you face, i will build solution for it
here is the link to what i am building, if you are curious - workview.io
Thanks!

So we've got this small terraced garden, the first step of which is pretty useless. The area to the right of the stairs including a rockery is about 4m x 2m, the area to the right which is totally pointless (featuring a small decorative wall that's crumbling) is about 1.8m x 2m.
I've just been quoted £8250 to remove the entire bottom terrace to the boundary of the top lawn, with a sleeper retaining wall and steps moving to the right of the garden, then decking to cover the area and the small yard up to the level of the back kitchen door (removing the step, which would be very helpful tbh for our small dog). A large part of this is the labour because there is no way to get a digger in due to the attached garage and narrow doorway, so I guess it's wheelbarrow all the way.
It's a little more than we wanted to spend, and we were thinking to get two separate quotes, one for just removing the right hand side and just having a flat surface put down so we could add our own decking and us building a small outdoor kitchen/bbq area, and another for the whole bottom first terrace removal, and again some form of flat surface so we could choose what we wanted.
Main issue to me is any retaining walls, I've no idea how complicated it would be to dig up to these, do these typically go all the way down for example. And of course, if we dig the rockery out, how do we shore up the top lawn on that side.
Any ideas?? It does seem like we're not 100% sure what we want, and tbh that is pretty accurate!
Thanks for any advice and/or ideas!
Pics https://imgur.com/a/C1qblOw

The guy isn't too bright, was piss drunk, and honestly probably just doesn't have the language skills to express his dislike for someone outside of calling them "queer" or a "pedophile". I got both, but he didn't know I heard him.
He was pissed because I told them to be quiet at 2 am. Calling me queer in a derogatory way is rude and gross but there is no risk to me since queerness isn't a crime. But this guy has young kids who live in my building and, clearly, pedophilia accusations are not a joke. I'm a single male and kind of a loner so being so casually labelled that way has been bothering me.I don't give af about anyone's kids and I do not interact with this family or any kids at all.
The exact quote was : "He's a queer. He just sits at home and jerks off all day. Fucking pedophile."
I have spoken to this guy only once before, and it was me generally saying hi and welcome when he moved in 4-5 months ago.
Should I take any steps to protect myself from any escalation? I'm torn because this seemed to be just a drunk idiot being an idiot, but pedo language is not a joke so I'm cautious to let it slide.
They also said they'd knock me out and fuck my shit up if I came back and bothered them, but again I feel like they're just big talking macho babies. And it was not said to my face. They just talk really loud.
Any thoughts? Is use of that language towards me a real risk to me?

Chapter 4
Location: Glimmer Fate
POV: Faror Hend
No rain on the plains in Glimmer Fate. High black grasses make the area extremely hot. Faror Hend is patrolling the edge of the Vitr Sea with her cousin Spinnock Durav. The shore of the Vitr Sea is devoid of life and the breeze coming off of it stings the lungs. The liquid of the sea dissolves almost anything it comes into contact with including stones. Spinnock is sharpening his Hust blade on a stone that has been worn away by the sea. His blade is very old and therefore does not sing. It's new to him, but has been passed down for generations. A third rider in their party, Finarra Stone, was scouting the shoreline out of sight. Nothing lived this close, so it was safe to go alone. Today the Vitr is calm, but recently it has not been and storms had resulted in its claiming more land for the sea. The sea is expanding. Eventually it will come to the border of Kurald Galain if they cannot find a solution. The Tiste have no idea what the source of the Vitr is and how to stop it's expansion. Tiste scholars are also unwilling to consult with anyone outside the Tiste.
Faror Hend is extremely attracted to Spinnock Durav, but their houses are too close in relations for her to act on this attraction. Plus she is betrothed and older, although these would not be a barrier to her. Faror thinks of a line from a Gallan poem, "The ground is bare and hard / and will hold all secrets / and the sky cares not / for the games of those beneath it." She desperately wants to act on her lust, but so far has kept in control. Faror is a big Gallan fan. Spinnock seems to know how his cousin feels and teases her.
POV: Captain Finarra Stone
During her patrol of the Vitr coastline, Finarra finds a carcass. This is puzzling as she has never seen one this close to the sea. It appears to have come out of the sea itself. The corpse is huge with scales and a tail. But a lot of the body eaten away by the Vitr. The head and neck were missing and the top of the torso appears chewed. Very few Tiste had ever claimed to have seen a dragon, but this could be one. However, those legends all had them with wings and Faror did not see any evidence of wings on this beast. A breeze brought the stench to the horse and this caused it to back up a few steps making noise. At this the stump where the neck should be lifted. The creature begins shuffling towards her. With an unbelievably fast lurch it closes the distance and swipes at Faror and her horse with two arms catching the horse with both swipes. Faror finds herself tumbling through the air. She lands on her shoulder and breaks something. The beast is still again after decimating her horse. She decides to head for flatter ground to make better time back to her party. She is the daughter of Hust Henarald and possesses his sword. Her biggest threat now were the naked wolves that roamed Glimmer Fate. Faror contemplates the meaning of dark and light and the impossibility of either without the other. She also says that Mother Dark had been a mortal Tiste woman before embracing darkness. While Finarra is contemplating, something screams at her intending to freeze her with fear. Finarra mortally wounds it as it streaks by.
POV: Faror Hend
Hearing the screams of the wolves and no sound of their prey, Faror fears Finarra is the prey. She has not returned and it has been too long. Faror decides to leave Spinnock at camp and go to investigate. He tells her to be careful and he doesn't want to lose her. She responds by saying that he has many cousins. Faror can hear at least a dozen wolves and knows that it is likely that Finarra is fighting by herself without her horse. Thinking of Spinnock's face, she attempts to replace it in her mind with her betrothed, Kagamandra Tulas. A Tiste who the war had made gaunt. Tulas was of a low house and was under the command of Vatha Urusander. This alone would not have made house Durav attempt a betrothal. However, in the war he had saved the life of Silchas Ruin and by doing so had earned the favor of Mother Dark who would reward him by making him the head of a new High House. She thinks that the war stole Tulas's ability to love anything and she is not sure she can love him either, but she will try.
Eventually she finds the place of the wolf attack. There are many dead wolves. The fighting is over, but she does not see Finarra. She thinks further down the trail she will find wolves eating her corpse. Finarra comes out from behind some boulders. Faror begins to speak, but Finarra tells her to speak softly as something has walked out of the Vitr. Finarra chastises Faror for beginning to follow the path through the grasses that would have led to her death. Faror discovers that she had almost welcomed it. Finarra was tracking whatever had walked out of the Vitr when she came upon Faror. "Small footprints, puddles of Vitr pooled in them" She tells Faror that it is their duty to track it.
POV: Finarra Stone
Finarra in a lot of pain from her shoulder and wolf bites, contemplates the look she caught in Faror's eyes. One that told her she was seeking death. She thinks the cause may be Faror's betrothal to a broken man that may be incapable of love and being in close proximity to Spinnock who oozes it. "Spinnock Durav had been pursued by women and men since he had first come of age. He had learned to not give up too much of himself, since those hands reaching for him desired little more than conquest and possession." Finarra has also caught Spinnock's adoration of his cousin turning in to something else. She knows this kind of torture between them will ruin them. She contemplates how to fix the situation. Transferring one might work, but also thinks of another more sure answer.
POV: Faror Hend
Faror and Finarra are both on the back of Faror's horse. Finarra is unconscious and Faror is having a difficult time keeping her on the horse. She thinks about Finarra only being a few years older than her, but already being a battle veteran. She realizes that the wolves she found were not the ones killed by Finarra, but those of the someone that came from the sea. Faror makes it back to the camp. They treat the unconscious woman's wounds fearing infection.
POV: Spinnock Durav
They had burned away the dead flesh and infection on Finarra's leg hoping they got it all. Finarra has not woken up and is fevered. Spinnock outlines their options whether to stay until Finarra wakes up or to try to transport her as is. Faror informs him that Finarra wanted them to track the stranger from the Vitr. Faror tells Spinnock that Finarra needs a healer and soon, but they also need to track the stranger. Faror will go after the stranger and Spinnock will take Finarra to the outpost. Spinnock follows orders, but now there is a coldness between the cousins.
Following the trail she had discovered the previous night, Faror Hend found several more wolf corpses all killed with savage blows. The path she now followed, if kept straight, would lead directly to Kharkanas. Eventually she comes to a clearing and finds a fair-skinned, blonde woman clothed only in a scaled wolf hide over her shoulders. Everywhere else was sunburnt. She appears young and has no weapon, which is curious considering her roughly cut hair and several wolf corpses. Faror says she means no harm and asks if she is an Azathanai. To this the woman responds, "I know your language. But it is not mine. Azathanai. I know that word. Azat drevlid naratarh Azathanai. The people who were never born." After a few questions that the woman cannot answer, she tells Faror that she recalls nothing not even the sea she came out of or her own name. Faror tells the woman that she will escort her to Kharkanas to meet with Mother Dark and gives the woman a Tiste name until she can recall her own. The name is T'riss. Upon hearing this the woman smiles and says, "I am “born of the sea”. Faror asks if she will walk or ride with her. T'riss says that Faror's horse looks useful and she will have one too. She turns to the grasses and conjures a horse out of them. It seems that it's weight is too much for the grasses used. Looking at Faror, T'riss then conjures clothes, lance, and a sword out of the same grasses. This scares Faror because it is god-like sorcery. "‘Mother Dark.’ T’riss smiled. ‘That is a nice title.’"
Location: 3 days out from Neret Sorr
POV: Sharenas Ankhadu
Sharenas likes the heat. She tans nice unlike most of her cohort. She hates the cold and remembers her time in the campaign against the Jheleck unfondly. She is the commander of her cohort. Her sister and cousin, Infayen Menand and Tathe Lorat, are greatly renowned in the legion and being related to them saw high expectations settled onto Sharenas's shoulders. Her relatives are not currently with the legion. Hunn Raal and Osserc are in the vanguard and Ilgast Rend was not happy to be with them. He questions whether or not Urusander knows what Hunn Raal is doing. Osserc backs up Raal and so Ilgast drops the inquiry. Sharenas thinks Osserc is lying when he says his father knows of and approves this expedition. Sharenas thinks, "Hunn Raal is honourable. He knows what he is doing, and he knows, as do we all, that what he is doing is the right thing to do" She thinks Osserc is impulsive and has a thin skin, but Hunn Raal keeps him from making brash decisions. 3 cousins of Hunn Raal also accompanied them. Serap, Risp, and Sevegg all sleep with Hunn Raal, but their second cousins so it's not illegal. The last of their party is Kagamandra Tulas. He is forbidding and dangerous and hadn't spoken since their departure. They are heading towards the Warden outpost where Tulas's betrothed is stationed. Sharenas asserts that every woman could see that Tulas is dead inside and left his soul in the war. That he longs for death. She contemplates that once Urusander remakes the Tiste into a meritocracy, that arranged marriages will no longer be. Ironically because Tulas had given so much in defense of the Tiste he would be a prize as a husband. She pities Faror Hend and her future with this man. However she considers that Faror, just days after the betrothal, signed up with the wardens to get herself as far away as possible. Sharenas is very interested in witnessing the meeting between Tulas and Faror. She resolves to help Faror out of her predicament although it is only for her own amusement.
POV: Ilgast Rend
Ilgast does not like Hunn Raal or Osserc, thinking the former vain and arrogant and the latter nothing like his father except in appearance. Ilgast does not approve of all the debauchery that his fighting had bought for the Tiste. He thinks that Urusander has lost the plot himself. It wouldn't be long before the legion rebelled under his indifference. He would love it if Draconus was put in his place, but fears this would result in great bloodshed and does not want that. He also knows that if Hunn Raal is allowed to lead the legion in Urusander's absence, civil war was assured. "In a world of blood, everyone drowns". Ilgast is disappointed in Sharenas, thinking she would be wise enough not to fall into the wake of Hunn Raal. He feels he is in the middle of this brewing conflict being of a major house and also a cohort commander in Urusander's legion. Hunn Raal thinks he will help him convince the wardens to join his cause. However, he knows Calat Hustain will not join Hunn Raal. He is far too loyal to his own house. Ilgast remembers when Mother Dark was just a Tiste woman until she found the Gate. "Darkness was many things; most of all, it was selfish"

Vana Galvenniere, "Rightful" heir to the Throne of the Marble Steppes
Pre-Sisters Coronation: Vana Galvenniere, daughter of Avasa Galvenniere, was born nine years prior to her sister Vala. This period of her life was what one would expect for one born into her family; being taught history, that in the past first borns take the Throne, and that she'll have to learn how to take over once her mother passes. During this time, Vana's mother seemed to care for her as any other mother would. However, her mother's attitude towards Vana would shift dramatically when Vala was born. Vana would now suddenly be treated with cruelty by her mother. Vana's grades when being taught were never enough for mother. Vana's combat abilities were never good enough for mother. And when Vana "underperformed", mother would punish her in extreme ways. Beatings, withholding food, and making her sleep in the castles stables were what Vana's mother would deem appropriate for her daughters "failings". To others, Vana did extremely well in every subject she was being taught, but mother seemed to think otherwise. Or worse, simply enjoyed causing her daughter pain.
During this period, Vana would rarely see her sister, and the few times she did only grew her jealousy. Vala was given all the love and praise Vana wanted, and occasionally their mother would have them duel. Vala always won. After these sparring sessions and any "disappointing" test results, Vana was to spend the night in the stables. It was dark, cold and there was nowhere to sleep. She would only be allowed to take the clothes she had already been wearing at the time. These made the worst days in Vana's life. Some nights, servants and guards, who either had issues with her mother or simply wanted to hurt someone, would pay Vana visits. The men and women who would come to hurt Vana as some form of retaliation were bad enough, but the ones who simply wanted something to torture were far worse than Vana could have ever imagined.
There was only ever one period of time when Vana would be treated well while staying in the stables. One night, a boy about her age was sent to fetch a tool, but came across Vana, curled up and crying. He took the tool he needed, but returned shortly after with a blanket and some food. He would spend time each night with her, simply talking or letting her vent her sadness and anger. After two weeks, he stopped showing up. Unknown to Vana, her mother has transferred the boy and his family to another part of the city when she found out what the young man had been doing. Vana never found out that it was her mother's doing, and had thought that she herself was what pushed the boy away. This was the happiest she had been in years, and she couldn't help but have grown feelings for him, so once he had "left her" a bitter sense of betrayal lingered.
Post-Sisters Coronation: Years later, Vana and Vala's mother was finally dead, leaving a will that would be read before the most powerful families in the empire. Vana, naturally, could not be more relieved. She would finally become Empress and prove her mother wrong after all the horrors she had been put through. As the event went on, Vana only grew happier, she felt as though her excitement knew no bounds. As the will was about to be read before the guests, Vana stood at the ready. She was going to walk up to that podium and retrieve the title she so desperate craved. The title she had quite literally suffered for. But their was something unique in that will, something the Empire hadn't seen in generations. In it, Vana's mother specified that Vala would be her successor. Vana dropped the glass she had been sipping from, as tears began to form in her eyes. Even after all this, her mother still won. Vala stepped up, somewhat confused but apparently excited all the same. Vana retreated into the castle halls to leave the ceremony altogether.
As the ceremony began to slow down, Vana returned, donning an outfit more suitable for combat and her favorite sword. Before the empire itself, Vana challenged her sister for the rights to the Throne. Vana knew she would lose to her sister. She always did. There were a couple of ways Vana hoped the duel would end: either she manages to defeat her sister and become Empress, or she would perish by her sisters hand. She believed either way would work well enough, even if the odds of winning were astronomical. In front of the entire empire, Vana fought Vala and was down within minutes, losing not only the match in the most humiliating amount of time possible, but also a small piece of her veil (frill). She could remember the silence that overtook the room, where even though there were over one hundred guests, the only noise she could hear was the blood dripping to the floor from her new injury. Vana remembers clearly looking up from her kneeling position to her sister, the one whom mother pampered with everything she could ever want. Without saying a word or retrieving her lost flesh, Vana stood and left her sister behind. Before she left, accessed the family treasury, taking as much as she could before leaving for good.
She purchased a large plot of land far away from the city, on a plateau high enough she would still be able to see her old home in the distance, towering into the clouds, a massive spire that would always serve as a reminder of what she deserves. Despite being so far away, however, she can't outrun her past. Most nights, she can hardly close her eyes without being back in the stables, the hungry eyes of those who committed such unspeakable acts upon her when she was younger closing in around her. It's a rare luxury when she doesn't wake up frightened or crying. Despite her living so far away, she still travels to the city occasionally for large parties and events to keep up her image and to gather possible allies that may be willing to help her in the future. That being said, the Vana the public knows isn't the real Vana. She puts on an act, a friendly facade to interact with those she doesn't trust or know well. And those she does trust and know well are few and far between. At the end of the day, however, she really only has one goal to work towards. And she will wait as long as she has to to make sure it's perfect. Eventually, she will be Empress, or die trying.

This complete guide on 902 ANGEL NUMBER MEANING is brought to you by psychics4u.net. For more valuable information, insights and resources, visit: http://psychics4u.net/
902 angel number meaning is completing your life purpose, being social, having great relationships and searching for a spiritual meaning. It is assembles from the root numbers 9, 0, 2 so let`s break it down:
Angel number 9 meaning: when repeating represents being connected to the world. Understanding that you are a part of much bigger system than a single person is the most important point. Although you are unique and having specific dreams, missions and goal you also aware of the fact that you need to work together with other people, nature and the law of the cosmos.

Therefore angel number 902 suggests that there is a part of you that love to be around people, going out to socialize and organizing parties or events. If you find yourself the complete opposite, for example you prefer to be busy and stay at home, watch TV, play computer games or read books, consider going out more.

Hence, one of the basic meanings or messages of this specific number is to be more connected to people. The angels are trying to tell you that if lots of people like friends, family and colleagues will be around you it might change your destiny in a very positive way. New events or situation which you never imagine will be open for you.

Angel number 0 meaning: is the most special angel number of all, zero symbolize a completion, endless cycle and most important a huge potential. The basic meaning denotes you have a great set of skills, with these tools you can manifest everything you want. Sometimes life is rough, we don’t see the light in the end of the tunnel and we falsely believe we can not achieve something we really want. So if you keep on seeing zero or to be more precisely angel number 902, you should trust yourself.

Ignore other people’s opinions because some of them will bring you negative energy. Stay closely only to those who charge you will positive vibrations and inspire you to success. The number zero indicates that you will close a circle, for example if you had a certain task, than if you will be focus on the right action you will be able to complete it successfully.

As an omen for infinity cycle, number zero is at the center of 902 angel number. So your major focus should be on endless actions. This is not a good time to rest, being lazy or procrastinate things you should execute. The angels are sending you an obvious message to wake up. After you will complete the main goal you will be able to rest and reaping the wonderful rewards.

Angel number 2 meaning: number two is all about balance, harmony and cooperation. This is one more reinforcement which indicates you need to be more connected with people. Although number two suggests romance, relationships and marriage, it can also be a sign for cooperation at work, hobbies and other kind of mutual benefit activities.

Two is also a number of decisions. 902 angel number meaning is a big choice you will face in the near future. It might be something very important that will have direct influence on you life path. So in the next few days don’t reply or rush into conclusion too fast before examining the facts. Also don’t worry because the angels will guide you through the journey.

Number 2 is the signification of duality, so remember that there are no mistakes, there is no right and wrong, no black or white and no good decision or bad decision. Even if you will make the incorrect step, you will have a second chance to fix it in the future. The error will be the lesson which will turn into knowledge and great wisdom. Connected again to guardian angel number zero, you will complete the task successfully and the things you have learned by the way will be your new skills.

902 angel number significance

902 angel number significance is related to reassurance. The guardian angels wants you to know, they have been listening to your prayers, they know what you have been dreaming of at night and received vibrations of your wish and prayer from the heart.

You are going to receive it but there is still hard work a head of you. Soon, there might be unexplained coincidences and to be more exact, encounters with new people which you never met before. These people will open doors for you and will redirect the path or the road to a different place, so don’t be closed minded, be willing to listen to new ideas and opinions.

A word of caution: not everyone you are going to meet will be a messenger from god or an angel, there are people who don’t know about it nor believe in 902 angel number significance. So don’t let them to be time wasters, distraction and energy takers.

Another obstacle that might be right on the road is people who want to hurt you. Thus be carful who you listen to or associated with. Look at the warning signs they are there and remember, the angels are watching from the skies, if there is any assistance need, they will do something.
One more critical aspect of 902 angel number significance is your inner voice. If you want to success in real life you have to have a goal and a plan, but also to be complete with yourself. To be sure by 100% about the desires and to be willing to put whatever effort is needed along the road. If you are hesitate or don’t know exactly what you want the opportunity will go away. It might take months or even years until you will get a second chance to spot and act upon the next opportunity.

Develop your intuition and be much attuned with gut feelings, most likely they will never be wrong. Spirituality speaking, the vibrations we are getting from the universe manifest themselves as feelings and emotions inside our body. If we can open ourselves to listen and decipher those messages we can actually speak with the collective subconscious and gain more insight about the future like real psychics.

902 angel number symbolism

902 angel number symbolism is also about not comparing your self to other people. If you will open your heart to get the message from guardian angels, you might be more popular among the social circle. In this position you will find some struggles, not every one will like you or want to be with you and some will be more successful than you.

For example other friends and family members might already have good jobs, bought houses, have been married and are having children and are going to vacations or travel to distant places every few months. The angels want you to know that this is not a race.

Don’t compare your self to what other have or don’t have. 902 angel number symbolism reveals your path, you have unique mission and tasks you have to do, focus on them. Friends, family and enemies has different destination and it should not be mixed or juxtapose.

Also remember: life is not equal to materialism, in fact all fancy stuff and material objects are not the main goal. You might not aware of it right now, but in the end you will realize that spiritualism is more important. Objects, assets and possessions will not make you happy in the end of the line. So if you want to be really fulfilled than pursue happiness with the small things in life, go out to nature, eat good healthy food and do daily mediation.

Don’t live in fear or self doubts, the negative energies will bring bad outcomes. If you will continue on doing it you will attract only misfortune. The world we are living in has its own rules and phases, there are good times and bad time, 902 angel number symbolism is about knowing how to navigate through the rough times and in addition how not to ruin your good fortune.

902 guardian angel number

902 guardian angel number is a representation of everything is going to be OK. The guardian angels want you to success because you are a part of the bigger picture. If we zoom in, we will discover that every life is unique on its own, but as we are connected spiritually there is a higher reason for what is happening on earth.

For an example if something good is happening to you than other people you don’t even know will be benefit from your action as well. This concept is also true in reversed. If and when you feel lucky, you have the feeling that everything is going on according to your wishes it is not a mere coincidence, and it is not only because you have better karma than anybody else. The good fortune is also a result of other people devoting their life to a definite cause, and as a side effect you will enjoy it as well.

The same thing is true backwards, if you are living around people who are participating in evil and harmful activities, than for sure it will have negatives implication regarding to you. You will not be able to claim that you are different from them, staying around in silence is like being a part of it. In the end of the day, active or passive acts are the same when it comes to responsibility.

Guardian angels want you to know that number 902 means protecting yourself from evil forces. They want you to know that they are on your side, but you also have responsibility, you have to guard yourself as well.

Sometimes you are being tested, a specific problem is not actually an obstacle, it is just a trail or a quiz to see if you are ready for the next level. For instant, let’s say someone is walking down the street and see a homeless man or a woman sitting on the sidewalk, asking for a small charity from the pedestrians. If someone will give him or her few dollars even if they don’t have lots of money or even it is just small symbolic amount, it signifies that the monetary energy is working excellent and this person will get some kind of reward.

Money is like water, it should flow back and forward without any blockages. Many people around the worlds want to with millions of dollars in the lottery. They tried every trick and system to guess the right numbers but it didn’t work. Because they have never took the time to check their karma. To find out if something is blocking the good energies.

902 angel number spiritual meaning

902 angel number spiritual meaning is all about being united. Being links to your soul, to the spiritual world and to other people around you, especially family and friends.

Regarding spiritual meaning, you are encouraged to reveal what is the purpose of life. You can start learning about these matters in many ways such as reading quotes from ancient books, biblical verse and scribes, grow an interest about the origin of psychics phenomena like astrology chart and zodiac sign.

All of these will be best explained by a guide, master or guru whom you trust. This person can help you to gain knowledge about the fundamentals of spirituality. Remember that spirituality is not an exact science, there are subjects or interesting topics that can not be explained only by logic or calculation. It is more about feelings and intuitions.

If we take a closer look at angel number 902 we can see a great chronicle path. 0 is the start, 2 is the first two steps in your spiritual journey and 9 means almost completing the mission. These are important phases which symbolize the exact moment of struggles.

At first you will be clueless, you will not know what to do or which direction to choose. However after the first step the horizon will be clear as the sun without clouds. Few steps a head the clouds will fill the skies and you will have serious doubts regarding your choices. From there everything will be smooth until you will reach one level before the end. You will want to quit and go back to your old life. Don’t let all your hard efforts to be a waste of time, endure the complications and you will reach the final destination.

902 angel number in love

902 angel number in love is a good sign. First and foremost the number 2 symbolizes couple, man and a woman in love who wants to share their entire life together. If you are single it usually predicts that soon you will find your soulmate or twin flame. Therefore a good advice is to start go on dating. You are encouraged to register to dating websites or apps, as friends and family to introduce you to potential life partners and just be out there doing what you love or good at and the angel will send nice opportunities.

For those who are already in a relationship, 902 angel number in love predicts a good progress to the next level in the mutual connection. It can take many forms such as engagement, marriage, having kids or just moving to live together at the same house.

Sometime 902 angel number indicates other kinds of partnership like business cooperation or having platonic relationship. It is a wonderful practice to say yes and welcome those correspondences as it has many benefits. Furthermore falling in love takes time, it doesn’t always happen from first site or in one day. The fundamentals need to be built slowly and surely.

902 angel number twin flame

902 angel number means you are on the right way to find your twin flame. The angels are whispering you to forget past relationships. Give a chance for a fresh start, if you want things to be different this time, you have to change something. You can not be the same person you have been in the past. Invent yourself as a better version when it comes to personality, traits and characteristic. You know better, you have experience so use it.

After eight which is Virgo lucky number, number nine is about almost completing the cycle and number 0 meaning is endless opportunities and being complete with yourself. These are powerful indicators that soon you will meet a twin flame. The reason it didn’t happened till now was because you were searching at the wrong places or wasn’t quit ready for a major event which will entwine your soul with another special person.

902 angel number and 903 904 905 906 909 numbers

902 angel number is also associated with: 900, 901, 0903, 904, 905, 906, 907, 908 and 909 on an energetic level. So if you see those numbers as well or instead of 902 the messages are pretty much related to each other but it might have few variations.

Important: if you are ignoring 902 angel number when it repeats itself several times, you will probably see other sequences like 903, 904, 905, 906, 909 trying to grab your attention.

903 angel number meaning: is almost the same as 902, but because it has the number 3, it amplifies the need to be in front of a crowd. Maybe you would like to be a leader in the army or political party, maybe the path of your career should include management or you can also express yourself as a famous artist.

904 angel number meaning: because it has the number4 inthe end it means you will have to work extremely hard in order to be happy. Don’t let this fact to discourage you, on the contrary, it will only motivate you to carry through the mess and obscurity. Furthermore it suggests you have lots of responsibly, so you are not doing it only for you but also to others who are relaying on you.

905 angel number meaning: the number 5 adding to the interpretation an aspect of freedom. You will learn how to use wisely all the resources around in order to have free lifestyle. I can take a form of self employment, creating small home business, living frugal next to nature, travel the world and take care of the environment and animal kingdom.

906 angel number meaning: number 6 is related to money and assets. Everything that related to career, work, finances, occupation and business will brings you huge success. If you will choose this path you might be very happy. But while you are stockpile money don’t forget the spiritual elements of life as well. Don’t become something that you are not. Remember the history, where you come from and what is more important in life than materialism.

909 angel number meaning: this angel number has double 9, it denotes more weight on the spiritual aspects of life. You might have a life changing event, it can be bad or good but for the long run, you will see that it was necessary as a part of spiritual development.

Important 902 angel number sacred signs

9: natural personality traits and values which are good example to others, leadership and a good heart who wants to help people in anyway and at all cost like a saint.

20: there are some secrets that will be reveal to you by guardian angel, you will not see them right away it will take some time. It also might predict a new relationship and special connection with soulmates and twin flames.

29: in numerology dictionary is about being smart, having great wisdom and sharing knowledge. It’s a sign you should be a teacher, guru or spiritual guide in the career path. Solving problems is not a big issue for you especially when it comes to mathematics and logic, but you can be sure that the angels are on your side if you will need their guidance.

90: numerology meaning is idealism and specific point of view. You already know who you are and how you want to live life. Everything is so clear and all that is left is just to go according to the plan.

92: those who keep seeing the number 92 supposed to have high developed intuitions and psychic power. The angels are sending messages to direct you to use it for good reasons. You have the power and need to learn how to control it and when to use it, don’t waste your natural gift on things that doesn’t matter.

209: is an omen to work together. You will not accomplish most of your challenges by yourself. You will need the help of others as well. The angels will come but you won’t see them in person because they will send messengers. In fact those agents won’t even know they have been sent to help, it is your secret mission to spot them.

290: your wishes and dreams are going to be granted, everything is going according to the scheme. Consequently have the confidence to complete your journey. The karma is on your side, if you have been a good person the future is looking very promising.

902 angel number can be seen repeating itself in many occasions during the daily life. Here are few examples to help you spot it: phone number, bus plate, urban zone, calculator, converter, zip code, clock ring, birth date, birthday and many more.

Moreover it can be revealed at any place or any country. Many people reported 902 angel numbers at Quebec, Russia, UK, USA, Philippines, Japan and Korea. And in different languages as well: Hebrew, Chinese, Japanese, English and Nepali.

Hi,
My wife moved out just more than a week ago, its currently a trial separation that I am 95% sure will lead to a divorce eventually. She is staying with her friend in Switzerland while I am in the Netherlands (May be relevant for distance)
I have 2 adopted kids (5 and 6) who are both suspected ND (ADHD and Autism/Attachment Issues) and I have ADHD. We emigrated here 3 years ago so I currently have only myself and the kids, no real other support, at least not in person.
Since her leaving, my son has become terrified of everything, from flies to monsters and is unable to be alone, which I understand considering his attachment issues. My daughter has started acting out, drawing on everything and lying.
I am taking things day by day but I know that with my ADHD, although it allows me to function under immense pressure it also makes my fuse shorter and the last thing I want to do is add to their trauma.
Is there anyone that maybe has some advice for me as to the best way to navigate this with the kids?

1.3 Flight plan
This black ant colony faces tremendous competition in the passing of their genes
This young queen has raised her first brood under a tree stump deep in the woodlands of Scandinavia. as the exhausted queen rests in the shadows of their new home, above ground, the local fusca colonies are preparing for the annual nuptial flight. This event is the only chance a colony gets to spread their legacy. The young colony must grow quickly if they don't want to miss their chance
Coach horse larvae, woodworms and a single funnel web spider inhabit your nest.
Objective - build 20 female alates and 20 male alates within 5 days
Once you have them you must send them to the top of the hill in the middle of the map to win. ( similarly to 4.2)
Queen's cost 120 food and drones cost 70. They have high health and speed but they can't attack, they follow markers consistently and don't from trails.
You dig to the surface - the woodlands is vast, and food is everywhere, but the fusca colony should be carefull. Other colonies have already established foraging trails all over the area. The small scouting party should stay discreet, for now...
The map Is very large, there are pinecones and drops of sap all over the place. 3 other black ant colonies form foraging trails and harvest food, they are hostile to each other.
Coach horse beetles, Formica sanguinea queen's, red centipedes, slugs and woodlice roam the surface
You find a pinecone - the forest floor is littered with pinecones. Their nutritious seeds make for an ideal meal for the hungry colony
You find drops of sap - the bleeding trees nearby sometimes drop sap down in the leaf litter. This golden sugary liquid is prized by most ants nearby, the colony should gather the droplets quickly
You hatch a winged ant for the first time - *the colony has hatched their first alate. These winged insects will carry on colonys legacy throughout the Undergrowth"
Night falls - as the sun sets of the forest, the sound of skittering legs fills the woodland. The fusca colony should be carefull with their harvesting trails, an unfortunate encounter could lead the colony to its pemature demise.
Day arrives - as the sun dawns over a new day, the local ant colonies step up their activities, it'll be 4/3/2/1 day(s) untill the weather conditions are optimal for the nuptial flight. There is no time for rest
The nuptial flight happens in the evening of the fifth day.
Fifth day morning - grey clouds signal the arriving of a kilometre wide atmospheric depression, soon the weather conditions will be perfect for the nuptial flight to take place, the ants should make sure that the way to the takeoff platform is cleared from troublemakers to ensure the safety of the alates
You encounter a rival colony for the first time - two rival fusca colonies have come face to face! As the harvesting trail is disrupted, the two colonies adopt a new goal, to crush the competition!
You clash with a rival colony (randomised) -
a fight had broken out to the north of the fusca nest! The rival colonies will show no mercy! Only a substantial defensive force will push back the enemy lines.
These lands are contested, the black ant colonies will fight to the death to secure food for their colony
Rival colonies will attack you periodically after encountering you for the first time
The rival colony attacks you - a legion of rival fusca ants are heading toward the nest! They must be stopped!
You encounter a Formica sanguinea queen for the first time - the ants have come face to face with a Formica sanguinea queen, it's recently left it's birth colony and is now looking for a suitable host colony to parasite. It's very existence is a threat to the small colony, she will need to be incapacitated quickly
Formica sanguinea queens roam the surface from the 3rd day onward. They sometimes find your nest and rush to your queen to attack it. They are quite fast but become slower with each hit. They attack lone workers but flee if they are outnumbered.
A sanguinea queen enters your nest - a sanguinea queen has found the colony! She rushes past the defensive forces with one goal in mind, to kill the fusca monarch!
Again - another parasitic queen has entered the nest! She must be stopped!
You encounter a slug - the ants have encountered a young woodland slug, these slow mollusks may look defenseless, but they have thick hide and use a sticky mucus to repel potential predators. a large force will be needed to properly subdue this slimy grazer of the Undergrowth
Slugs don't fight back and slow down ants that touch them considerably, large slugs can be climbed and harvested for 300 food, small slugs can be picked up for 30 food.
You encounter a centipede - * an ant has be caught in the jaws of a European red centipede Lithobius forficatus. It is large, armoured and equipped with a pair of serrated venomous pincers. This deadly hunter poses a serious threat to colony operations*
Red centipedes move similarly to velvet worms, albeit much faster. they grab ants in their pincers, dealing immediate physical damage and high venom damage over time. They have high health, speed and damage. They can sometimes invade your nest.
A red centipede enters the nest - a lithobius centipede has found the colony! The ants must fight!
The nuptial flight time has arrived - *as the sun's final rays shine over the canopy, the fusca colonies march out of their nests and prepare for takeoff, the ants have an uphill battle ahead of them.
All black ant colonies send their alates together with a group of soldiers to the top of the hill. If you have no alates by this time you automatically lose. You must kill them all to remain the only one standing on the top of the hill.
Winning - with the competition crushed and the woodland dominated, the ants were able to send their royalty flying in the skies above. Many of them will die but those who survive will ensure that the fusca dynasty is carried on forever in these unforgiving lands. A true victory for this once small family!
Losing because you were unable to send the alates - unable to amass enough numbers to carry out the nuptial flight, the ants inevitably failed. Their alates will die of starvation and their small, insignificant colony will crumble and be forgotten forever.
Losing to enemies - as the queen draws her final breath, the colonys future us sealed. The confused and weakened workers will wander out and succumb to the woodland predators, and the alates are left to starve. Their legacy, had ended
I'll be speculating on 2.3 soon!!

I bought second hand a USG and UniFi Switch-8 and two new APs (U7 pros) for home Internet use.
No console or cloud key. I plug my laptop in to the switch for setup.
I'm an absolute beginner to networking. I followed a blend of several different tutorial videos and got my devices with latest firmware, got them adopted, and WiFi running.
My service provider has an unexpected outage that made me feel like something was wrong with my setup, which resulted in factory resets for all devices, and playing with my TCP/IPv4 settings.
I later realized that the USG was not showing as adopted. I attempted and failed to adopt it, and followed what I thought was good advice, unplugging all Ethernet connections, running a power cycle, and then factory resetting the USG.
After taking these steps, I login to my dashboard (127.0.0.1:8080) and now all devices are offline. I'm also locked out of the security gateway (192.168.1.1).
The good news is that our AP it's still putting out a functional Wi-Fi, so the family is not mad at me yet. I'm almost done running cable to where I'm going to put the second AP but need help accessing the devices via software again.

I (32m) ended up breaking up with my fiancé(28F). We are expecting the baby late July/ early August.
Due to the reasons of the breakup I fear for our child. I feel like she is mentally unstable. When we split, we agreed that I can be at all the echos, and be there during birth. We also agreed on 50/50 custody.
I believe my next step is to get this signed by a notary, so nothing can be taking back from me. I’m super excited for this baby, I know I’ll be a great father. However, I’m worried about our daughter, when she will be in her mom’s care. Because she is extremely financially irresponsible, she doesn’t cook, she calls herself an independent woman… but can’t do anything for herself and cries if no one helps her.
We were going to move in together, but that’s obviously off the table. But she stated that we can move in together, and since it’ll be like I have 100% custody, I can pay the bills and she can freeload. (This seems fair…. Right?)
So, I’m seeking advice. I really don’t know what my next steps should be and all I want is what is best for my daughter.
Thanks everyone.
Edits for typos and grammar

Hi,I 25(F) is in a relationship with my boyfriend "K" (M) 31 for 3 years. Their family has been going through a rough patch for quite a sometime regarding financial, personal and health related issues respectively.His immediate family has 3 members him along with his parents.
Recently his dog(Bruno) died and his family still isn't over the situation and Bruno is being remembered quite often. Amongst such situation his mother thought of adopting another dog and expressed it to his father this evening while we all were busy running our different errands. Suddenly he started shouting at her and we were taken by surprise by his behaviour.We started asking for such behaviour and his reason was " we just lost Bruno,we shouldn't adopt one as she is a patient of high BP and won't be able to maintain a dog,and he won't spend a penny on another dog".She got offended but didn't say a word cuz she is very introvert and generally is not standing up for herself of person.So I and my boyfriend stepped in and stood up for her and and that lead to a chaotic situation that included shouting, accusing, cursing amongst father and son,I tried to stop them and make them understand that we shouldn't do such,but it started to go out of control.
I requested both to not get riled up upon such topic,we will cross the bridge when we reach there, but nothing could make the situation come in control.Finally after a lot of convincing and shouting me and his mother could separate them and stop the heated conversation.Then I first went to my boyfriend to make him understand that this conversation is possible even without shouting and getting angry.He stated " The conversation is not the problem but his mentality of dominating his mother and shout at her is wrong and is still entitled to take decisions for her without him intervening.She is capable enough to bear the costs of the maintenance of the dog and she doesn't need to be dependent on him" with which I agree too. Next I went to his father to make him understand, he stated" She shouldn't get a dog because she has high BP and he isn't over Bruno yet and won't allow a new dog at home neither will spend a penny on it." So I said "Respectfully, listen it's her you are staying at because it my boyfriend's father's home which she got as a gift and secondly he can't take away her right to speak and right to have her opinions about herself and her life and he shouldn't assert it on her just because she is your wife".
His reaction stunned me,he literally slammed the table loudly and came near me with anger and irritation in his voice and features and shouted "I don't obey by those shitty rights,she is a house wife,what I say stays and you keep your trap shut" .It took me some minutes to overcome the trance of his behaviour.My boyfriend again stepped in and this time with stern voice said if you can't respect your wife atleast respect a girl from different household and she is here as my girlfriend.Respect that. He kept denying that he said nothing wrong and his opinions are right.He even mentioned that I am the one who insulted him by trying to teach him about his wife's rights and since he didn't use slang on me in reply, I am not disrespected.
This time I lost patience and told that enough is I am not keeping any connection with this family cuz if today me being his son's girlfriend can insult me in such a way then they will keep repeating the same if I join this family as his son's wife and will start treating me more badly and made my statement clear that I am cutting all ties with them including my boyfriend,then suddenly they all came together irrespective of their differences to convince me and my boyfriend broke down tears and started saying that why am I being left along while I was fighting for you.It was disheartening to see him cry but fear caught me what if in near days he turns out to be his father!!I literally can't think ahead of that fear.
Note 1 : I met his family at the first year of our relationship and I always felt that this type of domination works in their family but it wasn't so vivid like this time
Note 2: His father always showed a negligence behaviour towards his mother and she decoded it as his inexpressive ways to love her which I always objected personally but never showed the courage to talk between them before.
Note 3: In the past I had worst of experiences with boyfriends and I still fear that this turns out one of another worst examples of my life and lessons too.
Note 4 : It's a brown family problem with brown family mentality!!
So after me declaring that I want to walk out of the relationship his parents pleaded me not to do so,and his father promised not that he won't be doing so again; but I can't find the courage to believe that because firstly I feel like they are lying and secondly I don't have the courage to believe in him after that behaviour of his. They convinced me that my boyfriend should drop me home and on the way home he mentioned that "I fight for every one,they never think of doing such and selfishly thinks about themselves and work accordingly." So I asked back that "Is choosing my respect over a relationship a selfish thing?!" He didn't answer me and while leaving for home after dropping me,he with teary eyes and sad face said "I know you don't want me and won't keep me,but I do still love you" and went off.
Now am stuck between head and heart, because it hurts at the thought of a life without him and on otherside my self respect is soaring the sky that I shouldn't give in because if I let this situation slip and pass in near days and years situation will go south and beyond control that will lead to serious relationship and personal life turmoil.
Sorry for being ti elaborate and please help me understand the situation better with a third pair of eyes.
Thank You.

Anyone knows how we can continue our life from our step children?
my game character is 78 and cannot adopt i have 48 billion and cant get kids anymore. im thinking of maring someone with children and let one of them inherit it so i can continue from their life, is that possible?

This is the first RE game I've ever played, and I was kinda hesitant to get into it since I'm not really a fan of shooters, nor played a proper horror game before.
I wanted to give this a try after watching the story and gameplay of RE7 BioHazard, I fell in love with the story and really wanted to try out RE Village myself (excluding the fact that I've got hots for Lady Dimitrescu but that's besides the point).
I traversed through the castle, exploring dungeons, hidden rooms, courtyards, reading through journals etc., and my, oh, my, I really fell in love with the place. I've always been a fan of victorian and gothic era themes, and this was just icing on the cake for me. I've had to stop several times just to admire the beauty of the place, the beautiful, luscious portraits of Lady Dimitrescu, the bloody ablution room, the wine cellar, the rooftop, the courtyard... Not to mention the random encounters with the three daughters, it was so lovely.
I really have no complains for this area. Because of my busy schedule, I didn't realize that I only spent like 3 hours in the castle, it certainly felt way longer to me, it never felt repetitive, and I kinda did not want this to end lol.
But yeah, I had to nail the daughters to the point of obliteration, and my beloved mistress too 😭.
And ah, now we can't go back to the castle ever again. How tragic.
This castle certainly got me hooked to the story, about what really happened to Rose, what is the true origin of Lady Dimitrescu and the other siblings, Mother Miranda... Not to mention, there has to be a reason why Chris Redfield was in such a hurry to take down our family and Ethan and Rose into custody... And the fact that during one of the encounters with Lady Dimitrescu, she literally slices his hand off, and to which he later simply pours medicine and it miraculously reattaches itself??? Yeah, not buying it, and not to mention the fact that Ethan is really, really tough, even for a pretty strong human being. So there is something sus definitely going on with him lol.
Oh yeah, also when I got back to the village, there were several military corpses, and there was also a computer set-up near one of the checkpoints inside a shelter, where it shows that they are trying to get into contact with Ethan again. Truly interesting.
And I wanted to know, are the other levels just as good as Caste Dimitrescu, or a step down, or even better

I apologize for this maybe a long story as I have 3 years of information to put into it. So I (f22) have been dating my boyfriend (m24) for 7-8 years. My MIL did not like me from the start just because she felt her son could "find someone better." I have always been nice to her as I'm a people pleaser.
2 and a half years ago my boyfirned and I had gotten pregnant with our daughter. When my MIL found out she pushed us for about 3 months to get an abortion/adoption, which we kept saying no to. Since we said no she went to my parents to demand they make me abort/adoption the pregnancy. But unfortunately for her, I was visiting them that day and we got into an argument about it to which she said bf and I would be terrible parents because we both have "mental disorders" (depression and anxety). This argument went on for about an hour before my dad stepped in, forcing her to back down and leave.
Also during my pregnancy and for a whole year after bf was letting MIL do our laundry as we lived in an apartment at the time. I had noticed during this that clothes (mine, my daughters, ect) were going missing. I would ask her if she misplaced the missing clothes or gave them to bf's sister by mistake, which let to her freaking out. She would call me ungrateful and selfish everytime I asked and would threaten to stop doing my clothes and only do baby's and bf's. After a almost 2 years of her doing our laundry I finally convinced my bf to look for our missing clothes. When we went searching in her house we found 4 piles of some of the missing baby clothes in a garage sale pile. I was so mad and frustrated at how insane MIL made me feel everytime I asked I just left without a word. About an hour later she called us claiming she had "just found" so of the baby's clothes and had bf pick up all the clothes we just found. The worst parts about this is that the clothes she took were mostly clothes my family and I bought the baby and most were still brand new but no longer fit along with when bf came to pick them up she also handed him one of my dressing stated that she wanst planning on selling my fancy clothes.
When my daughter was born, MIL called us bad parents for not taking the baby to the Dr she picked out. And for a few months would bring up the dr she picked trying to convince us to switch drs. During this time she also would complain about how my daughter looked more like me then bf.
Last August we had to move back in with our parents because our landlord trippled our rent. Baby and I lived with my parents and bf moved back with his. And we lived with them for about 5 months till we found our first house in december. After we bought the house I had found out that MIL was apparently trying to convince bf to break up with me. Saying many things including calling me a golddigger, because I'm a stay at home mom and don't have a college degree(I got 2 jobs after graduating highschool and quit them when I got pregnant because bf wanted me to), saying I'm a terrible mom, telling him I'll leave him and take the house and kid with me, and claiming it would be better to break up, pay child support, and never see his daughter again then to marry me. Along with complaining about random things I posted/shared on fb. With this info I blocked her on fb. Which she also freaked out about on Christmas and ran away for 3-4 hrs.
Now on to this year. I caught her going through my things in my bedroom but when she realized I saw her she claimed my daughter lost her toy and was trying to find it.
I've found out from SIL that MIL is also talking bad about me to her neighbors and coworkers, claiming I dress weird and that I keep the kid from her ( I dont and never have), and that I'm not the one for her son and "he can do better".
I am now pregnant with my second and have had bad morning sickness that lasts all day. With this information SIL told me that MIL has been going around her house calling me a picky eater (I don't like pizza or fish) and that it's apparently not right that bf has been making dinner for the past few nights. She also has been complaining that I shouldn't be posting a potato soup recipe on fb. (No clue why soup is a bad thing but I guess it is)
And from what I understand SIL also over heard MIL talking about getting my daughter secretly baptized. Stated that MIL claims bf and I "would never know". Bf and I are not religious and believe it should be up to my daughter when she's older if she wants baptized. MIL knows this information.
My bf just ignores everything his mom does as that was how he handled her as a kid and refuses to go no contact with her. He has even stated that I should ignore her antics and "stop looking for drama" when I ask his sister to keep an ear out for negative comments from MIL about me. But with everything she has done I feel defeated and just want to be done with her and her crossing boundaries over and over.
AITA? Or am I looking for drama?
Note: this is only info from the past 3 years and there are some things I did not add that has also happened during these 3 years.

It's not technically my dog, but my parents have a dog that was raised rough put into adoption and then taken by my parents. So he's a little bit of a scardey cat/wuss for most things sadly because he was raised abused.
I've heard they've seen him jump in the local creek to swim and also into a local lake when playing with a nearby neighbor dog. But he absolutely refuses to hey anywhere near the Inground swimming pool. And if you try to pick him and and bring him towards the steps he will run away.
So why the discrepancy?

So to provide some context, I (28F) recently started a law firm with my mom, who is an attorney. I was working on my own business at the time, but when my mom’s paralegal up and left her right before Christmas, she needed help, plus I had experience starting a business and was previously in the legal field, so I agreed to come on as her legal assistant/business helpeetc. We agreed on a set weekly amount for pay, which wasn’t crazy high but solid and I felt like I could use the opportunity to help my mom build something lucrative after leaving her old firm (where she was severely monetarily taken advantage of, and is going to have to sue her old business partners for what they owe her + her partner investment at the old firm, but that’s a story for another day) The thing is, I was wary going into this my mom would not be able to financially keep our agreement, because she has big dreams and ideas but doesn’t always take the practical steps in terms of things like budgeting (the fights and struggles this has caused in my house between my parents my whole life and the financial issues we’ve experienced as a result have shown me she has no plans on changing this but I am also empathetic because she is crazy busy and my other siblings, one who is severely mentally ill and lives at home, take up an insane amount of time)
Now I want to hammer in that my mom is a good person, with a big heart. My dad is a good person too, which is why I feel this situation is so difficult for me to navigate. They have their issues and personally to me, seem to act like children in many ways in how conflicts are handled and how they emotionally react (my mom especially, she cares so much how people feel about her but doesn’t realize that her fuse is short and she will just yell and scream at everyone) They have not had an easy set of cards dealt to them in regards to all of us kids and the individual issues, and I have always had so much empathy for them. However, the older I’ve gotten and more I’ve experienced, the more I realize a lot of the issues we had growing up, whether it was financial or my siblings behavior and issues, probably could’ve been handled in a much healthier way which would’ve saved a lot of the pain experienced by continuing the cycles and behaviors that were causing the issues in the first place. My parents stayed married, but basically tolerated one another and never had a united front, were always talking bad about one another and could never agree on proper ways to fix what was happening, so it was a chaotic mess all the time, where the more difficult kids were enabled and it felt like those of us who actually had more of our shit together, were just expected to either help with it or just deal with the fact they didn’t have time for us because of the time my siblings took up. An example of this would be when I was in college, I was on a full scholarship (full tuition, but not room and board) because of my academic and athletic scholarship, so I ran track and XC to help pay for school. I worked two jobs as well to pay for my rent, and barely slept as I was in pre-med. I am the oldest of the 6 kids in my family, and in my family, I was the good kid. I didn’t ask for much, always figured my stuff out, etc. They “never needed to worry about me” so they didn’t. However, during that time when it went to school, my dad lost his job and my parents were fighting more and more. My siblings had less tolerance for their “bullshit” but they also fought each other because of the issues at home. Therefore, they began to struggle a lot. My mom was always borrowing money from me and I had no idea when I’d get it back. I would struggle and could barely afford my NEEDS. I barely bought books I needed and would often be finding ways to take pictures of my friend’s books, etc. Anyway, this was consistent and even to the point where I could not buy myself the sashes and what not for my graduation (I was in the honors courses, extracurricular, scholar athlete, Greek life, graduated top of my class for my major etc) because my mom had borrowed almost 1000 from me…and gave it to my sister who was studying abroad. This sister has never cared about taking my parents money or caring about how their financial situation affects everyone. She has since been diagnosed with BPD…I get that I have some unresolved family issues, so that may be coming out as I type here, but I also wanted to provide context into why I feel the way I do. I was also heavily parentified being the oldest, with an extreme sense of responsibility, even as an adult, for the well being of my siblings and parents. I have”sacrificed” (I say it in quotes because I know it was my choice and I take responsibility, but looking back I don’t agree with how it was all handled and felt my parents should’ve been more of the adults and allowed me to try and build my young adult like without the burden of caring for children that were not mine) a lot of time, money and opportunity so I could focus on trying to “save “ them (I have gone over this complex I have in therapy and I’m still working through it, but take responsibility for my actions in perpetuating the cycle)
I could go into more detail about the difficulties and struggles my parents face, and how life has gotten harder and harder for them. My mom is an enabler because she has trouble with people disliking her, yet burns bridges with people who genuinely care because she ends up accidentally taking advantage of them to focus on for example, her kids who are not actually doing anything to help and causing more issues in the family. My siblings are beginning to hate her, threaten to cut her off from meeting her future grandkids, etc I will be on the last line for cutting her off, because I genuinely believe she is such a loving person who has never been able to totally focus on her and has just been running on fumes for years. However, through therapy I’ve also come to recognize she is an adult who has had the opportunity to change her behavior (my dad too) to try and get a more positive outcome, but they have chosen to remain stubborn, and say it is because they have no time, but that part just isn’t true, it would take a lot of work and reorganizing at this point, but changes could be made. I have literally bought my mom therapy appointments, set them up, (I control her calendar for work so I know when she’s free and I handle all business scheduling so I know what appointments are important to the firm so I try to schedule when we have a few days without major deadlines) and my mom still says she is too busy
Anyway, finally to the point of this post, my mom owes me over 10k in promised payment, and I have been working full time. She has given me the amount I’ve needed to pay my half of the rent at my place (I live with my partner, who is genuinely shocked at the behavior of my parents and our family dynamics, but is very loving and supporting regardless, even to my family) but besides that, I’ve just been floundering. I don’t know where the money goes after we bill, but my mom is always complaining we don’t have money in the account. However she has not forgotten she owes me, and always brings up how she wants to get me paid, but I am continuing to struggle and don’t know when that will happen. I know she will, but when? The other aspect of this is my sister (the one with BPD) just graduated law school and was supposed to help us with the firm to help pay for her bar prep and bar fees, but she has managed to avoid work and I know my mom is just going to pay for it all anyway. However, I’m not mad cause I’m very proud of my sister and what she has accomplished with her mental health struggles however, that means her work has fallen into me, and not only am I helping with my duties and hers,I am expected to set up all the automations in the firm, handle all the schedules and set up a business for success. That takes time on top of all I am doing, and my mom gets easily frustrated with technology and things and complains this should all be easier and we should get it set up to be automated, have draft emails, etc . I tell her that takes time and money, but she has this idea we can just hire someone to take on the extra work but I’m not even being paid right now, so even the money that could potentially go to me, the person working full time, would be given to a VA to help push the firm forward. I would be okay with that if I really believed we were on our way to making a successful sful, lucrative business, but because of all the issues at home, my mom has barely been able to work. She is emotional and has a short fuse a lot, and it’s hard for me to keep things moving when I need an attorney to do most of the big thing clients pay for when working with a firm. Now she has gotten ill (which I am so upset about but my guess is it is due to stress) and has been out of work for two weeks besides hitting deadlines that need to be hit, she will call me screaming , crying (edit since input syringe instead of crying the first time) that she can’t do this anymore, can’t do the firm, etc. But then being happy and excited the very next day. I always tell her I just want her happy and to take care of herself, but she needs to let me know so I can find new work and build my life. I feel stuck in limbo and know I need to take actions to help myself, but I still wanted to try and help my mom as much as possible and see if the firm could still be built. However, yesterday my non working sister (studying for the bar) called me to show me the new outfits she had gotten and how she was going to go out with some friends, I love those types of calls from my sister but it made me realize my mom was still giving her money, fun money not just get ready for the bar money, and I’m here struggling and my partner is picking up the slack. One of my brothers, who I have lent money to multiple times in the last few months (he always pays me back in a timely manner) who said he couldn’t afford to do things he wanted and had to sell his EDC ticket, is now at EDC and my mom has no money in her account so my guess is she helped him. My dad works too so they are surviving, but she complains about the mortgage and bills to me a lot, so I feel guilty adding to her stress especially with her being sick, but I’m kind of at the end of my rope here after seeing she is still not prioritizing paying her employee (even if I am her daughter and have a lot of empathy for the situation)
I know I wrote a lot but I feel like I could have provided so much more context. Once she is feeling better I know I’m going to have another talk with her, but I don’t know if I should just say I’m done once we finish up our current case load and to not bring on any more clients unless she hires someone else cause I feel she’d be more likely to pay them. I want to believe it could be different and my mom could figure out how to build this firm professionally going forward, but I just don’t know if I’m being idealistic. Anyways, I do really wish I could get the money I’m owed to put into my own business that I have put on hold to do this (thinking I could help my mom AND save some money to put towards my own business which my mom was on board with and wanted because she sees the firm as a way to help all the kids finance their own dreams, and she really means that which is one example of why I say my mom is genuinely a good and kind person who loves her kids) part of me wants to say that if she wants to keep saying she “can’t do this” anymore that I am quitting and I hope she takes the time to focus on taking care of herself because I can’t stand by and watch her do the same stuff that will stress her into an early grave which genuinely scares me but is how I feel. Granted even if she isn’t working she is kind of addicted to stress so it may not change anything but there is part of me that hopes it would. Plus, they obviously need the money so it is probably just wishful thinking.
Anyway, sorry for the ramble, maybe I needed to get my feelings out, but I am wondering if anyone has any advice? Have you been in a situation like this and how did you handle it? Please be kind to my parents, but truthful as any help would be appreciated.
TLDR Summary
Busy Mom of 6 with good heart is my employer and has not paid me what is owed, but spends money on my siblings and has a history of doing things like this. I know she is struggling financially. How do I approach her and what is my best course of action to resolve and help versus just being harsh and cutting it all off?

Parties involved: My husband and me (with two kids) in TN My sister in law (half sister to my partner) in CA My 10 year old niece (SIL's daughter) in CA My father in law - SIL stepdad, but they consider each other real dad/daughter
Not involved: Bio mom of my husband and SIL - deceased Bio dad of my SIL Bio dad of my niece
My SIL has some health problems and a poor prognosis. My FIL recently mentioned he would have custody of our niece if SIL were to be unable to care for her, but knowing them, it is unlikely there is a will. He's the only grandpa our niece has ever known, but they are not biologically related and my FIL never officially adopted my SIL He also has health problems and works long hours with a two hour commute. Situation complicated by the fact that my SIL has nothing to financially help my niece's future guardian and because my niece has some serious emotional and behavior problems as a result of childhood trauma. She has threatened to harm others. She's been homeschooled her entire life.
In the absence of a will, what would happen to my niece?

So I just had my Mother’s Day photoshoot with my first born and we drove over an hour to get to a photographer that I love. Baby was supposed to sleep on the way but like anytime I actually need her to, didn’t. We got to the shoot running behind and parked in front of the building on a little downtown street. I wanted to try my best to keep her happy for this pricey shoot so I tried to quickly breastfeed her to sleep in the back. I have side shades up on my car so I can’t be seen in the back but obviously not up on the front. While I was trying to manage that, I watched a girl in a coffee shop point her camera at me twice to take a photo of me trying to breastfeed my kid through my car’s front window while I was in the back of my car. Of course my child was not cooperating for it. It took everything in me not to go up to her and rage out on her, as it was the last thing on top of a crappy morning, but I decided to go into my shoot with tears, shaking with anger, and feeling humiliated instead as to not upset my daughter further or delay my shoot. I’m not someone who feeds in true public because I don’t really feel comfortable unless it’s absolutely necessary but I do feed in my car frequently or I’ll step into a dressing room or something. My daughter doesn’t take bottles and feeding in bathrooms is honestly disgusting and takes twice as long because of all the noise. I don’t know how to feel right now- I like to think I did the right thing but I feel humiliated, very upset, and a little violated. I’ve never felt this way about this before, everyone has always been pretty sweet and accommodating. I wish she was still there after my shoot but I didn’t look and I’m sure she wasn’t. Im curious how other people would feel or respond in this situation? Am I crazy for feeling this way when I was the one doing it? I guess I didn’t expect to feel laughed at for it and I feel like I didn’t consent to photos being taken of me. But maybe it’s my fault for doing it in the first place and that’s a risk I take? I’m sure my tits are at least in some group chat now, maybe even on the internet now- yay. Ignore the username- I very much care. :-

I left my ex because he was lying to me and treating me like garbage as I mentioned in another post. We were together for 4 years and i did everything for his two kids( their bio mom passed away 7 years ago). I went back to pack my stuff and his daughter said her dad told her that I left because I couldn’t stand them anymore and he chose them over me. I was floored. I asked my ex and he ( in front of the kids) said that he was just telling them the truth. He said you wanted a baby because my kids were too much for you, you hated my kids , remember you even wanted to exclude them from our trip ( he meant honeymoon!! He wanted to bring his kids to our freaking honeymoon ffs) ? I told the kids that’s not true and tried to explain but both kids cried and went to their rooms. My ex screamed HAPPY NOW?! GTFO of my house . I know I shouldn’t care but after 4 years of doing everything for them , this is what I get ? I’m so mad at him and my step kids

My partner got divorced 3 years(100% disabled vet) and I just now found out that he never removed his ex wife and her daughter from his disability benefits. According to him, the letter states they have been reaching out to him for 3 years but he never once received a letter about it till now. He asked me to make a post on his behalf to see if he’ll have to back pay any medical expenses that his ex wife and step daughter had accumulated over the 3 years that they’ve been divorced? He’s certain he’ll have to back pay the overpayment for them being on his disability benefits each month. TIA.