I'm Heidi, a mom of two and the mother of my children Bellin (Fem9) and Martin (M7). A semi-fortnight ago, my ex-husband Elas came to our home unexpected at night. He'd done this a couple times over the years, but never when my kids were home. Some more necessary background now: my kids actually don't know their father and never did. Bellin was almost 3 and Martin was an infant when I and Elas separated, and though Bellin really should have a better memory, neither of them has any recollection of a dad. So I've kept it that way. Whenever they ask why they don't have a dad, I just say they never did (they obviously don't know about doing it yet).
So when Elas was at the door, I had to create a completely new excuse that'd still ensure that my kids don't know they're dad is there. I brought Bellin and Martin into my bedroom and told them, "There is a very, very bad person at the door. You need to be as quiet as possible, or he might enter through the window with his ladder. You are not safe. But mommy will handle this." I think they got the memo, and they had me lock them safely inside my wardrobe af so that they'd be safe in case the person at the door "intruded."
After that I of course went to talk with my ex, who of course wanted money again. "You have so much more money than I do!" he kept saying. True, but such a dumb argument, especially since he owes me five months of child support. But I digress. I didn't give him money, but I gave him my best wishes and told him I hoped his drunk drive home to his trailer park would be uneventful at best. After that, I got my kids out and told them the coast was clear. They acted like it was the funnest most adventurely thing they'd ever dey done, but I made them pinky swear that they wouldn't tell anyone about it.
Just 4 days later (I promise this is related), my semi-neighbor Loli came to my house and asserted "I want to protest you!" Her first language is Luau, so she says things that don't always make sense to real English speakers. I had her elaborate, and she told me that her daughter had heard from my daughter that my son and my daughter were both traumatized and perpetually terrified because there had been a bad person at their door. I kindly joked "oh do you mean you?" and told her I had no idea what she was talking about (my kids PINKY SWORE so neither Loli nor her daughter had no right to know anything). But not only did Loli know about the "intruder" but she knew it was my husband (stalkebig it much?). Loli told me I was a terrible parent. Wowww? Based on what I know about how she disciplines her kids, I thought she was being a total hypogriff. I retorted that Bellin and Martin were completely okay and had fun with the intruder gig, and then Loli claimed that her daughter had seen them both crying at school each day and being extremely sensitive to loud noises à la McCurdy.
Well I can't confirm or deny how my kids feel because that's up to them, but in your subjective opinion, AITA?

AITA I (28 F) live with my partner (31 M) we have a 3 year old boy we both agreed that I would be a stay at home mom. We live in an apartment that my brother was renting but then moved out of so he could move in with his fiancée on august of 2022 my brother had a baby and since him and my sister in law both work they asked me to babysit for them … they pay me $100 a week since I only babysit the days my brother works( he works 3 days one week and 4 days the other) the weeks he works 4 days I only babysit my niece 2 days because the other two is the weekend and since my sister in law is a teacher she doesn’t work . Trying to be nice I told my brother to not pay me directly the $400 a month and rather he use that money towards the rent we pay him . I’m not really a person that spends a lot and I know that if my son needs anything his dad will buy it . On march i told him I was going to tell my brother if he could give me the $400 instead of putting it towards the rent since I wanted to save up and get a new phone he had said that was fine but in the middle of April his mom called him(she lives in Mexico) she told him that they were going to propose to his sister and that since it’s tradition over there that the mother of the woman she needed to do some party/gathering but she didn’t have money so they asked him for $2,500 dollars (he makes $3,000 a month) he says yeah he can help out and asks when they need it by and they say that they are planning to do it in 3 - 4 weeks .. so my boyfriend tells me that if I could just put my $400 towards the rent still so he can send his mom money I said sure just pay me back. Last weekend he sent $300 leaving him with $400 for the week … that weekend was also the week I had to pay my Spotify and Hulu ( $40 in total) I had $25 I told him if he could give me the rest and he said no cause he had to put gas … today he told me “I don’t think I’m going to have enough to pay the rent” ( he only has to put $650) in told him idk how you are going to do it but you have to come up with the money somehow and he told me he couldn’t cause he still had to send his mom more money I told him that if we lived anywhere else they would kick us out on the spot( it’s been a couple of times my brother pays out of pocket the rent and we pay him back late) he then proceeds to tell me let him kick us out I rather help my family.. I told him ok so we are not your family or what? You rather send money for something that is not necessary than make sure your son has a roof over his head and he just told me I was an asshole that he was going to call his mom and tell her I was being an asshole … I get his family rarely asks him for money ( she’s only asked for money 3-4 times in the 5 years we have been together for her medical expenses) but I feel like throwing an “engagement party” is not a necessity. Am I the asshole?

I grew up kind of socially awkward. As a kid, my mom put me in ballet so I could lose weight. From 5-9 pm on Mondays, Fridays, and Saturdays, I would be in class. It made it hard for me to make friends because I was always in the studio.
I never really outgrew that awkwardness even at 25. So unlike my other cousins, I only have a handful of friends and I usually prefer to do lowkey things like hang out at home as opposed to going out. If I’m not at work, I’m at home. I also hate shopping and makeup, which happen to be two of my mother’s favorite hobbies.
My girl cousins also all have boyfriends. My mom called me today saying that she feels bad for me because she sees me as a hermit. She also said that she wants to set me up with her brother-in-law’s friend’s son from Spain. What’s funny is that neither my mom nor I have even met the friend or the son. It goes to show how desperate my mom is for me to have a boyfriend. I also caught her multiple times telling people in the past that she worries that no one will love me.
I get her frustration, I really do. But I find it kind of disheartening that my mom thinks I’ll never find love on my own or no one will ever love me and that I’m going to have to settle for some random person just to get it. I don’t want to argue with her or bring this up, but I feel like a part of me died today after we spoke.

okay first of all i’m gonna start off by telling you a little backstory of my family. when i was 1 my parents got divorced, i have lived with my mom for my entire life along with my stepdad and my sisters, i visited my dad every other weekend for most of the 18 years i’ve been alive. my dad never knew me, he always had more important things going for him in his mind than a relationship with me. he always used to tell me he wished he was in my life more but he never changed his ways. at my dads house there is my dad and my stepmom and also my younger brothers who still live with them because they are under age. over the years my dad or my stepmom would start a huge fight with me about random shit. two years ago it was because of thanksgiving when my stepmom tackled me trying to take my phone out of my hands because i was being “disrespectful.” when i was finally ready to go back and mend the relationships with them after a month or so, my dad and stepmom decided to block me on everything, all socials, and imessage. now recently my stepmom and my sister were partying in vegas for my sisters 21st birthday, my stepmom got absolutely plastered and admitted to my sister that our new baby brother, was not my dads baby. having heard this news my sister was distraught in the weeks after, and when i found out i was also quite in shock. my dad and stepmom both knew about this however they decided that if they agree to never tell anyone then nobody would find out and so they decided to lie to all of our family and everyone about this. we all thought he was my dads son which isn’t true. now i had voiced my hurt to my dad and stepmom to which i was blocked by my stepmom. when i told my dad about the hurt i have been going through i told him i don’t know how to rebuild a relationship with him again and he told me to never talk to him again and to have a good life essentially. there is a lot more to this story but this is just the short. basically after telling my dad the amount of hurt i had been going through he told me to not talk to him again and to have a good life, he then also decided to block me on everything. i feel like instead of facing his problems and mistakes he wants to run from them, instead of healing the hurt he has caused he would rather continue the lie and push me out of his life and all of my siblings lives. i love all of my little siblings dearly, i have had to be sort of like a parent to them for all of their lives because of how terrible of a dad my dad is and has always been. my siblings have all told me they want to get as far away from them as possible when they turn 18. but i don’t know who to talk to about this so i thought id type it out on here. i will do an update explaining more of the situation but this is essentially the long story short of it all. is there any advice you guys can give me? am i in the wrong here, i feel like my dad should be the one to mend the relationship because he is the one that lied to me and has made countless mistakes and when he apologizes for them he doesn’t improve himself at all. my dad has always been abusive and one time he put his hands around my throat and choked me when he was angry. idk i guess im just looking for advice because i need an outlet to talk to. i’ll do an update explaining more in the coming weeks.

(My fiancé and I have been together for almost 2 years.)
I had my planned c-section birth to my triplet boys on Mother’s Day. I was unconscious during the procedure AND for 3 days after because of a mini coma. I lost a lot of blood and it was hard on my body. I was in the ICU and I didn’t get to see my fiancé or babies until day 4. My fiancé was raising our sons alone for those 3 days in the postpartum room. (We don’t have family or friends.)
I did wake up feeling good on day 4. We were all discharged and got back to our apartment. My body feels good enough to be able to step up to my role as a mom. The only problem is that I haven’t gotten to hold 2 of my triplets yet, and it’s almost day 6. My fiance has left me out of random things like carrying all 3 of them out of the hospital alone, making me run into the store while he stays in the car with them, automatically assuming I won’t breastfeed them, going into the nursery when I’m busy. (He’s not excluding me because he’s worried about my health.)
I talked to him about these things that make me feel excluded. We argued, cried, and talked all today about this. He finally admitted that he feels “possessive” over our kids because he’s been their only caregiver for days. He says he has resentment towards me but knows he shouldn’t. I’ve cried apologies to him multiple times today. We both know I couldn't control the fact that I was sent to the ICU for days in a coma. We both wish our birth experience was different. I feel bad that he had to see our babies take their first breaths alone, as well as raise them for 3 days by himself in a hospital room. But I’m back home now and I’ve only interacted with my first born for 30 minutes, while I haven’t seen my other 2. It makes me cry just thinking about the fact that my other two sons don’t know I exist, and quite frankly, neither do I since I haven’t even touched their skin or seen their eyes open.
When I was in the bathroom this morning, he changed their diapers. (I was only brushing my teeth for a few minutes, I had no idea that he went into the nursery.) When I was on the phone earlier with my therapist, he fed the babies with formula. (Never asked if I wanted to breastfeed them.) I’m in our bedroom doing online school homework right now (it’s nighttime) but he’s in the nursery. I can't just storm into the nursery and pick up our babies, he fixes their needs when I’m busy (without my knowledge or asking for my help) and when my tasks are over, the babies are fast asleep.
And of course I think about how he’s put me through a lot of verbal abuse and minor physical abuse during my pregnancy. I know he’s more good than bad, and he’s someone who is great and dedicated to changing for the better whenever he has to. He’s apologetic and empathetic to this situation. But I have gone through a lot for these babies, by enduring abuse and almost death from the c-section. and the fact that he’s the only parent they know, cuts me deeply. (Also our relationship isn’t abusive to the point of me feeling scared. He’s 5’2, like me, and weighs less than me. I would defend myself if I had to, and I wouldn’t have stayed if I thought he would be abusive to our sons.
He's promised me that tomorrow I'll bond and help out with our babies. But if something bad happens tomorrow with his insecurities and possessiveness over sharing parenthood with me, I want to know how to react. Advice please?!

I had my planned c-section birth to my triplet boys on Mother’s Day. I was unconscious during the procedure AND for 3 days after because of a mini coma. I lost a lot of blood and it was hard on my body. I was in the ICU and I didn’t get to see my fiancé or babies until day 4. My fiancé was raising our sons alone for those 3 days in the postpartum room. (We don’t have family or friends.)
I did wake up feeling good on day 4. We were all discharged and got back to our apartment. My body feels good enough to be able to step up to my role as a mom. The only problem is that I haven’t gotten to hold 2 of my triplets yet, and it’s almost day 6. My fiance has left me out of random things like carrying all 3 of them out of the hospital alone, making me run into the store while he stays in the car with them, automatically assuming I won’t breastfeed them, going into the nursery when I’m busy. (He’s not excluding me because he’s worried about my health.)
I talked to him about these things that make me feel excluded. We argued, cried, and talked all today about this. He finally admitted that he feels “possessive” over our kids because he’s been their only caregiver for days. He says he has resentment towards me but knows he shouldn’t. I’ve cried apologies to him multiple times today. We both know I couldn't control the fact that I was sent to the ICU for days in a coma. We both wish our birth experience was different. I feel bad that he had to see our babies take their first breaths alone, as well as raise them for 3 days by himself in a hospital room. But I’m back home now and I’ve only interacted with my first born for 30 minutes, while I haven’t seen my other 2. It makes me cry just thinking about the fact that my other two sons don’t know I exist, and quite frankly, neither do I since I haven’t even touched their skin or seen their eyes open.
When I was in the bathroom this morning, he changed their diapers. (I was only brushing my teeth for a few minutes, I had no idea that he went into the nursery.) When I was on the phone earlier with my therapist, he fed the babies with formula. (Never asked if I wanted to breastfeed them.) I’m in our bedroom doing online school homework right now (it’s nighttime) but he’s in the nursery. I can't just storm into the nursery and pick up our babies, he fixes their needs when I’m busy (without my knowledge or asking for my help) and when my tasks are over, the babies are fast asleep.
And of course I think about how he’s put me through a lot of verbal abuse and minor physical abuse during my pregnancy. I know he’s more good than bad, and he’s someone who is great and dedicated to changing for the better whenever he has to. He’s apologetic and empathetic to this situation. But I have gone through a lot for these babies, by enduring abuse and almost death from the c-section. and the fact that he’s the only parent they know, cuts me deeply. (Also our relationship isn’t abusive to the point of me feeling scared. He’s 5’2, like me, and weighs less than me. I would defend myself if I had to, and I wouldn’t have stayed if I thought he would be abusive to our sons.
He's promised me that tomorrow I'll bond and help out with our babies. But if something bad happens tomorrow with his insecurities and possessiveness over sharing parenthood with me, I want to know how to react. Advice please?!

Bare with me as with might be a long and confusing story.
Was with my ex fiancé 25 male (I am 27 female) for almost 6 years. I gave birth to our beautiful daughter 2 years ago. I had many concerns about my ex fiancé since the first day when he called her a bitch in the hospital ( this is the day she was born) I remember feeling absolutely sick to my stomach. ( I will also add that he was not present for the birth of our daughter which I constantly feel guilty about; I had previously made jokes that I did not want him in the room I was not serious at the time but truthfully I already felt so violated I didn't want him seeing what i imagine was a horrific scene) I actually did kick him out of the delivery room but only because he was cussing at me and screaming at me about five minutes before I was about to push, this was the only time I ever cried during labor, and told him to please just leave.
He went to the waiting area and came back shortly after I had my daughter The first thing he said to me is how his mother and whole family said, I was crazy for not allowing him in the delivery room, note, his mom is extremely malicious, manipulative, psychotic narcissist, who demands control of everything if she doesn't get it, she loses her mind but we will get to that part later.
Fast forward to get home from the hospital and the first six months of my daughters life were hell only because of her father he would constantly threaten to break her legs or neck when she was crying. He rarely helped me. I stayed up every night all night when she was a reverse cycling . He constantly insulted me made me feel worthless. One day when we were having a fairly great day he randomly said to me no man would want to be with me because I had a child. He he wanted me to stay home, but as I wanted to contribute, I tried to go back to work a few months later. It was only about three days a week, this lasted for maybe a month his mom would come over during this period of time and his mom physically caught him one morning screaming "shut the fuck up bitch" at our then 3 month old baby.she texted me about it followed by delete this text. I was very naive since I actually deleted the text which i really regret as we are in a custody battle and this would have really helped me out. I know the most shameful part is I know I should've left much sooner I should've left the first time he her called her a bitch but I kept thinking if I continued to talk to him about it, he would get better but it only got worse Me and my daughter end up leaving for a few weeks after physical altercation with her father we stayed with my mom, but after a lot of convincing from her father. We were returned not long after. This did not last long as once again we left permanently about a month after this. From the beginning of us, not getting along and me leaving the first time his mother posted publicly to Facebook and tagged my parents in psychotic rambling post about how terrible a person I am she would send me actual novels number one through 20 of every single thing that's wrong with me
I usually don't stand up for myself but to her I did, I didn't care. She was so absolutely evil and such a narcissist, calling me the worst names I would clarify and correct her often Anyways, while at my mom's house I received a call from my daughters father in the middle of the night He said "you really fucked up this time" screaming you can tell he was in the car driving very fast I was terrified I repeatedly I called him and his mom I believed was coming to harm us and had no idea what he was talking about Turns out, he thinks I myself , or sent someone to his home, or the home we lived in previously to steal his guns, which I would never do I thought this is a just another way for them to continue harassing me even after I had left turns out investigators came to my house twice and I gave them the full story and even suggested his mom did it because I truly believe she did have part in that and wanted to try to get me in trouble anyway she could as is her motive Due to all the concerns I had I did file for primary not sole, but primary custody of my daughter with him having visitation Instead of responding to this one day when I dropped my daughter off on the two days a week, he would have her his mother and her attorney with held my daughter and wouldn't give her back until I signed what but feels like a blackmailing document just to get my daughter back in court this is referred to as under duress In this document, there were so many stipulations, but only to me he would get temporary split custody. Also, they listed my own family members in that could never be around my daughter, their own family. After a judge denied the order for emergency temporary custody they still refused to return her which is why I had to sign the document I hadn't been separated from my daughter, for maybe more than 36 hours in her life now at eight months old, she has been taken from me for more than a week. Signing that document was the hardest thing ever for me, but I couldn't stand to be a part for my daughter any longer His mom continued daily, if not more to make psychotic post about me, and my family post memes about me claiming I owed her money for a car that she bought for me 5 years prior And in five years no one had ever mentioned this car until she was angry. Made post about suing me for the car and I also responded Where are the documents? Where is the contract? I didn't sign anything. His family/mom has money, and she looks down very much and everyone else. In may the same year he was arrested for some very violent scary crimes. I won't go into detail too much, but assault with a deadly weapon with intent to kill along with many other charges, kind of sums it up over a random road rage incident with an individual he did not even know.
His bond was very low and he was out within hours still had the same job We went to court for this and what the judge determined is not what happened his attorney, much like every trial would call the judge afterwards and get him to change his mind or send him a document to sign even after signing previous documents likely because this judge didn't care to read through anything His mother continued to make my life a living hell I just wanted so badly to be out of this no more stress no more mental and emotional decay. She actually sent messages to someone one of them was 20,000 words long about me breaking into his car, putting trackers in his car, breaking into his brothers car, smashing his mailbox, paying people to go inside of his job and tell him he was going to kill him , trying to get someone to run him off the road and my favorite hiring someone who he was in the road rage incident with
Obviously this never occurred because if it did, they would have a party to and call the police to get me in trouble as once again this is mothers main goal
During this time, she also sent fake screenshots of text messages allegedly from me to my ex fiancé. They were very obviously fake not the way either of us would ever text/ incorrect contact names no timestamps we also both have iPhones. The messages are green, but she kept insisting the person reviewing the text to " show me show me " a.k.a. harassment my attorney advised me not to say anything they would have her deposed then ask why she's doing this get her to say it on camera, and that was the best way however, after filing for deposition, she actually tried to file for a protection order from ME and no one went through with anything.
I know I can't actually blame this on her, but whenever I was driving without my daughter in the car of my brain would not stop. All I did was rack my brain of what her calculated motive was for sending these text messages they terrified me I thought she was going to murder me, my daughter or son After leaving my third day of a new job and I wrecked my car so bad it was totaled and I am lucky to be alive this same morning I recall telling my friend that morning at work that there's something wrong with me I couldn't sleep I couldn't eat this woman was actually tearing me apart and I thought I was going to get in a car accident. She would text me this whole time pretending to be her son from her sons phone number just crazy long harassing messages when I was at work, she pulled a million stunts trying to make me look bad just would not stop at all costs when was determined to take my daughter for herself. It was very clear she ruined her first child and she wanted another try After filing for her to be deposed, she is now suing me for allegedly over $30,000 which I do not have for the car that she claims I owed money on as well as back rent, which I never agreed to I would pay contributions whenever I could because her son paid nothing for rent or other expenses however there was never an agreement. Recently, during mediation for her suing me, she pulled out false contracts with many errors wrong address, wrong dates for example this car was totaled on Christmas day of 2018. Due to someone rear ending me, the contracts she falsified have a date of January 2019 but why would I sign contracts for a car that was already totaled and no longer in existence she also for forged signatures so terribly it was actually insulting
My attorney could already tell that that was a forged contract because the signatures we're not mine and I stated I would not be paying her a dime as I would like her to get in trouble for fraud, falsifying, documents, and forgery. I'll actually look forward to court even though it's wasting me a whole lot of time and money Which is exactly what she wants.
The worst part of this is a few weeks prior my daughters father has been kind of friendly, which was odd. He wanted to go to movies, I thought, as friends, and was kind of happy to be over with the hateful drama, but he didn't want to just be friends, and I very stupidly, went along with us not realizing in my heart I still had feelings for him After this mediation, which he knew was going to happen, and I knew I was going to make it clear I did not sign anything he got mad and said after promising multiple times and trying to convince me we just need to make rebuild our family trust each other again nothing else matters I foolishly believed him until the day of mediation when he got mad that I did exactly what I said, I was going to do, and said we should try this again when all the court stuff is done, I have never felt so stupid and angry and betrayed in my life I sent him a long text detailing everything that happened the fact that I was reluctant and said no and I resisted he was and he promised this was best for everyone to do and for our daughter to have her parents together and I just wanted my daughter have the best life possible
After ignoring him for a few days, he said he's gonna come over to talk and once again, couldn't make it has he's done many times in the past and said we could do it another day because he had to go to another boys night/meeting with his coworkers, but he was actually going to be drinking and getting fucked up couldn't even take an hour to come talk and see our daughter Fast fwd to tonight and while he was with these friends, I was so infuriated and beyond done I said to him several text messages explaining how terrible he had been a human being, and how stupid I was to actually believe him how we have never had a future after this, and I didn't know I had in my life ever again Embarrassingly they are very, very long text and I like quadruple texted. Haven't heard a word from him I don't think I will and once again the most embarrassing I feel I still have feelings for him, which makes me so angry. I wish he just left me alone and never tried to start anything again I was fine until I agreed to start this all over again I am so devastated and so sad, I wish I had never met him The only thing I'm grateful for is our daughter but I feel badly. Just want these feelings to go away. I'm so upset I've been crying I just don't understand how he could tell me how sorry he was and how much he loved me and just staring and holding me for hours to now three weeks later, going right back up his mom's ass as he will clearly always side with her and never me
This is my first Reddit Post- admittedly, it's very scrambled and this might b more of I fucked up situation or am I an asshole for actually giving him another chance. Keep in mind we still have to go to court for permanent custody and other things. What should I do? I want so badly to ignore him and to not have any feelings for him again but he is the only person I have ever truly loved He now has quite an ego currently of having the upper hand, as I believe he just wanted see if I would take him back and I did and that's all the validation he needed.

To start, let's talk about the Jacobs family, specifically Jeremy Jacobs.
He's one of the richest people in Western New York, former owner of the Boston Bruins, and current chairman of the University at Buffalo Council (wikipedia article).
On March 20, 1980, in a Jacobs family mansion on Nottingham Terrace, Jeremy’s fifteen-year-old nephew Seth (son of his brother Max) allegedly nearly beat to death Mary Kate O’Connell (sister of Buffalo TV newscaster Kevin). It was an unusual case:
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From the beginning of the O’Connell case, which began at 7:30 on the morning of March 20, 1980, when Ms. O’Connell called for help, her assault was handled differently from the thousands of other beatings each year in the city. Eight hours elapsed after Ms. O’Connell’s injuries were discovered before the Buffalo Police Department was allowed inside the Jacobs home to investigate and secure any evidence. . . . Seth Jacobs, now 25, an actor and a graduate of Yale University, told Ms. O’Connell’s attorneys during his deposition that he has trouble believing that people consider him a suspect in the beating. When his father first told him that police thought he had beat Ms. O’Connell, he said: “I was understandably stunned, very dismayed, and I wondered what to do.” He said he let his father’s attorneys handle it. And he told his mother, “I couldn’t believe that people actually believed that I could do such a thing.” (source)

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The Jacobs clan got lawyered up and counter-sued O’Connell. The excellent Jacobs family lawyers got him off, leading to the judgment that she was nearly beaten to death inside the Jacobs home by a person or persons unknown. So, racketeering without a racketeer, bludgeoning without a bludgeoner. See “O’Connell v. Jacobs” (1992). The Jacobs family then proceeded to sue Ms. O’Connell into bankruptcy.

But what happened to Seth Jacobs?

Well, we all know the Seth Jacobs that teaches history here. At first I thought that this just happened to be an unfortunate coincidence of two people having the same name. (Here he is!) However, I was horrified as I noticed more and more things line up.
Here's an article from 2020 about Seth Jacobs. Let's look at everything that matches.
Date of Birth

It was 1992 and the then-actor had $1.25 in his pocket, the exact price of the Documentary History of the United States. He read it on his commute to the famed Steppenwolf Theatre, where he was appearing in Twelfth Night. “I was 28 and I had never taken a college-level history class,”.

This would put his year of birth at around 1965, depending on when his birthday is and what month this happened. The Seth Jacobs who allegedly beat the teenage girl was 15 in 1980, putting his birthday around 1965 as well. But I see how this may also be an unfortunate coincidence. Let's continue.
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Actor + Son of Actor

I grew up in New York City. My father was an actor and I wanted to be an actor. I felt at the time I had talent.

Recall from earlier "Seth Jacobs, now 25, an actor and a graduate of Yale University". This aligns with the timeline of our Seth Jacobs being 28 at the time. Additionally, alleged assaulter Seth Jacob's father, Max Jacobs, was an actor as well! Another interesting coincidence!
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Education

I went to Yale as an undergraduate and majored in philosophy and psychology, but that was just because my parents told me they weren’t going to pay for a Yale education if I majored in theater.

Our Seth Jacobs indeed went to Yale and got their undergrad degree. And wouldn't you know it, alleged assaulter Seth Jacobs was a Yale graduate as well! Recall from earlier: "Seth Jacobs, now 25, an actor and a graduate of Yale University." These coincidences are starting to stack up...
Middle Name
This dissertation asserts that our Seth Jacob's middle name is Stephen. According to official court documents:

"Max William Jacobs as custodian for Seth Steven Jacobs under the New York Uniform Gifts to Minors Act, 703 Main St., at Tupper, Buffalo, N.Y."

Our two Seth's share the same middle name!
Maybe: Physical Appearance
This one is more of a maybe, but take a look at Max Jacobs and then compare him to our Seth Jacobs.
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Picture from Buffalo News
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A shitty pic but it gets the point across

What now?

I have some family members in Buffalo who've told me about Jeremy Jacobs and his shadiness, but I did not expect our Seth Jacobs to be involved in it. I'm like 99% certain that these are the same people, and while it was "alleged" that he nearly beat a teenage girl to death, the circumstances surrounding it are incredibly suspicious.

If you read my last post, you will know that I have been having a few issues with my mother. Quick backstory if you didn't get a chance to read my last post. I am a female in my mid 30s, I have 2 older brothers, and 1 younger sister. My mom favors my younger sister. For my birthday back in March, my mom decided that she needed to take me and my little sister out to lunch to celebrate, but plans got changed and they decided to take me out between their nail appointment (that I wasn't invited to) and the easter egg hunt. After having my feelings hurt so many times by being put on the back burner by my mom, I decided that I was done trying.
Two weeks after letting my mom know how badly she hurt me, she had my little sister call me to try to get me to forgive and forget everything that had happened. My sister invited me to go shopping with her and mom after they got done with their nail appointment. I told my sister that I didn't want anything to do with our mom. After arguing with my sister for a bit, she realized where I was coming from and talked to my mom for me. My mom listened to my sister, who then convinced my mom to call me and apologize.
I want a relationship with my mom, I do love her a lot, but I don't like being hurt by her all the time., so I told her exactly how I was feeling, and what I needed her to do so I no longer feel like this. I said that I needed to be invited out more often, and I needed to spend time with her alone. She is always with my sister alone, and I think it's only fair that she does that every once in a while, with me. I thought she heard me, so I forgave her.
I didn't hear from her again until Mother's Day, but I was sick, and I couldn't leave my house. The week after my mom called me to ask what size bed my son has so she can get him sheets for Christmas. That's how I found out my mom and sister were out shopping and didn't even think to ask me. When I pointed out that I wanted to go, but now couldn't because they were almost done, my mom said "well we are only here for just what we need" which is BS because she just called me about sheets. Anyway, now I am thinking about cutting my mom off from my life completely and only seeing her when we are both at my nieces' birthday parties.
So I guess my question is, would I be the AH if I only talked to my mom at my nieces' birthday parties, or should I give her another chance? I really don't want to lose my mom, but I don't want to be hurt by her anymore.

My dad prefers his new family over me and it sucks
My parents divorced about 2 years ago because of many, many reasons, one of them was that my father cheated (in messages, we don't know if anything happened apart from that) on my mom. Do take into consideration that my mother also has her one issues and I do understand why my father wanted to divorce her. This post isn't about her, though.
Ever since, my father has prioritizes his now girlfriend (the one he cheated with): she spends more time with her and her son that with me or my brother. I do understand this in part, as I don't live in the same city as he does (my brother does live with him, though). But mind you: his girlfriend ALSO lives in the same city as me. He tends to spend more time with her (about 3 days per week or more) and I barely see him to go out and eat once, sometimes twice a month. He has taken her to trips he has never invited me to (and sometimes doesn't even tell me), he has bought her a van, an apartment... and he didn't even bother to celebrate me when I graduated college. Lately, every time he wants to go out to eat with me, it must be close to his girlfriend's place (and I live about 20km from there, which is basically crossing the entire city).
He has become a better father is some aspects: he does tell me he's proud of me in some aspects of my life, yet that's all I feel. Words. No actions.
I understand he has a new life now, that he has new priorities, but damn, I do feel he just sees me as his undesired offspring and it sucks. Everytime I see him, I feel like a burden in all ways. It's almost like I shouldn't have been born in the first place. I have already told him that I feel excluded, and he just says "well we need to plan things together", and I'm like "yo, everytime we do something is because I ORGANIZE IT" whilst HE DOES organize things with his girlfriend. I feel alone, undesired, unloved. I don't know what to do about this. Should I just cope with these feelings and act as if eveything is ok? Should I tell him something else? Should I just stop caring? How do I stop caring about my own father's affection towards me?

Writing this on behalf of a family member who does not use reddit.
-Can a father get a restraining order against an ex-girlfriend to restrict her from seeing his child? Or would that require a revised custody agreement?
Father is currently in Nevada. Ex gf is in Nevada. Mother is in Calfornia. Grandma is in California.
My brother, the dad, (42M) has a shared custody agreement (child is 9yo) w ex wife. This agreement was made after the mother kidnapped and moved child to another state (Texas) 8 hours away in secret. Dad hired atty and got shared custody based on those demographics. Mom moved back to same state shortly after new bf didn't work out. A few years later, Dad moves 5 hours away for a better job. He works days/nights/weekends in the tourism industry. Mother is primary parent. The child spends much of her time and weekends with grandma (father's mom.) Grandma picks child up from school 2-3x per wk atm (has fluctuated up to 5-7 days a week over the years) and is the go-to babysitter for ex wife. Custody agreement has not been revised.
More background: Ex wife has a drinking problem, just got breathalyzer taken off car. Has gotten into 2 serious car accidents on her way to pu her child from grandmas over the last 5 ish years. She can show up 6 hours late. Grandma has had to tell her no sometimes when coming to pick up child. She's never had any job for over a year except uber eats.
Dad should be taking his daughter more often. He works in tourism in a high anxiety/high stress environment, not regular 9-5. He does pay child support and for daughter to go to a private school. And he does see his daughter, they went to a father-daughter dance last month. He sees her roughly 3-4x a year for 1-2 week long vacations and they regularly speak on the phone.
Dad dated a new lady for 1.5 years. This woman is older, mid-late 50's. Very sad she never had a child...she's very open about that. Met the daughter 3 times, and SHE (no one else) felt a very strong connection. New gf has lots of money and wanted to hire an atty to take the daughter from the ex wife, whom she said was "horrible." Dad refused as he did not want to do that to the ex. (Despite the mother kidnapping child years prior, father refused to do that to the mother. )
Dad and new gf break up. Ex gf befriends ex wife post breakup. Crazy lady posted on facebook how shes now co-parenting this child and she's a step parent. And she's showering the ex wife w $ and compliments of being the best mom...sends uber eats, gas money, and showering little girl with horse riding lessons, clothes, restaurants. And both are admittingly telling the child that something is wrong with dad cause he's not around every weekend. (The ex wife was not telling the child this prior, just recently after the ex gf befriended her.)
More info on the new ex girlfriend, she is heavily involved in mlm's and she is a business marketing consultant that seems to be running from lawsuits left and right. She uses holistic health speak to gaslight ppl and justify her actions. When ppl are like - "hey you ripped me off!" she says stuff like "I hope you find time to heal" and "ill pray for you" She has used many iterations of her name, lots of LLC's. She seems to be very successful and being dishonest. There are many business complaints about this person online that document this.
The father has expressed to the ex wife that he does not want his daughter to spend any more time with the ex gf. Then the child told grandma that there is a future trip planned for the daughter to visit the ex gf, facilitated by the ex wife. Grandma told dad (her son.) Dad called ex wife and told her again he did not want his daughter spending more time with this woman. The next day, ex gf wrote an email to grandma saying that grandma's house is no longer safe because the information re the trip was shared with the father. It was very creepy. This woman has only known this family and the dynamics for 2 years but is speaking like she has parental rights to this child.
-Can Dad get an RO against this ex gf from seeing his child? Or will he need a revised custody agreement?
-Is it ok for the mother to leave the child with this woman (ex gf) in NV for extended vacations without mom (she is dropping off in NV then returning to CA) if it's against the father's wishes? If he does not feel it's a safe environment.
Edited: clarity

My son pulled a knife on me because I told him to turn the video game down and he didn’t so I turned the tv off not the game. And he punch me in the head. So I throw him on his bed. And told him if he wanted to hit someone hit someone your own size. Then when I was walking out he swung his key board at me. His old one. So I took it and spanked him with it. So I got so angry with him he then pulled a knife on me and starting threatening me like I’m the bad guy like I’m threatening him like I’m abusive. He threw the knife at me and thank god it didn’t hit me with the pointy end or I’d be dead cause he threw it hard and it hit my neck. I called the police on him because mom was out later than usual on a Thursday night doing god knows what and when she came home even after speaking to the police which all of them thought I did the right thing and advised me to get my son help which I don’t know how to do without the support of his mom. Who hates me no. She’s not supportive one bit. What did I do. How do I handle all of this. If mom doesn’t want to support me what should I do. I feel like she’s giving him the out to blame all his behavior and poor choices on me. I work very hard and always have to provide and support my family. But never felt like I got the respect and support I need from his mother. I think she’s half the problem in that regard. Am I being manipulated am I in the wrong here? Need advice

My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we dated for a year and a half before being married. We moved countries for one another. (I lived in his country for a bit and now we live in mine with our baby less than a year old.) Ever since having our son, things have just gone downhill. Not in his treatment of me, he was/is great throughout my pregnancy and postpartum. He is an excellent dad. I mean EXCELLENT. I am not sure if I could’ve dreamed of a better father for our son.
I went through, (potentially still am… well, probably am) pretty gnarly postpartum depression as well as postpartum anxiety. I do not feel in the thick of it anymore, but I’m not sure I’m entirely out of the woods, either. I have lost all baby weight- but my body is forever changed regardless of the weight coming off. That was a big part of my ppd, and in most respects I’m now at peace with my pp body.
I had crippling.. and I mean CRIPPLING postpartum anxiety. My baby is nearly 1 year old and I’ve never left the house with him alone. (Just me and him). My husband has.. 3x!
Throughout this I have been so overtaken by depression and anxiety that I honestly have forgotten about myself in terms of sexuality or romance. It’s just the last thing on my mind. I don’t find myself being drawn to my husband. I don’t find myself being drawn to anyone at all. We have struggled with libido differences our whole relationship but it’s never been worse. I would be fine having sex once a week. Maybe 2x a week. He wants to every single day. He says I don’t care about his sexual pleasure because I refuse to do it as much as he wants. This is particularly hard for me. I was sexually assaulted as a child & was hyper sexual from about 11-21 years old. Right about when we started dating. I was extremely reliant on male validation and lost my virginity at 14 to a 20 year old. This was part of my identity, I was “the sexual one”. I found myself willingly participating in acts I didn’t want to do but felt like I had to. Not because I was being pressured but because I just felt like I had to. I had a radical 180 as I got older and felt like I didn’t need to do anything sexually to appease a man. That’s not great either, but it’s becoming a point of contention in my marriage. Because I feel triggered by the topic of sex in its entirety.
Part of me feels like I don’t even know my husband anymore- in the way I knew him as a boyfriend or even a friend. Not because he’s super different. Not because he’s treating me poorly. I feel I am not the same. Not even the same person at all. Prior to all of this…U.S. dating feels like it was someone else- not me. He asked me if I was in love with him anymore… and I don’t know the answer to be quite honest. How can I answer that if I feel like I don’t know him?
For context, we have little to no help with our son. Financially, childcare wise, the day to day.. Really… pretty much none. My son is nearly 1 and has only been away from my husband or I twice. Once for 2 hours with my mom, while we both were working. And one “overnight” that was just 12 hours. We dropped him off with my mom at 8pm for a concert and picked him back up at 8am the next morning. That’s it. Other than that- it’s only me or my husband. We work opposite shifts bc we can’t afford daycare. We do not have a day off together. Additionally, I am in nursing school. So our schedule is JAM PACKED. We don’t really see one another. Babysitters are not an option because I’m not leaving my son with a stranger. It’s a money issue as well but that’s not even the primary reason.
My question is… is this salvageable ? The libido issue is a huge problem but me feeling like idk him doesn’t make me want to have sex either…he has told me he feels like he lost his wife To our child and all that comes with pregnancy. I mean sobbing- clearly upset. We fought (loudly) togday about the libido issue in front of our son and that is simply not acceptable to me or to him. I’ve cried about this all afternoon. I won’t let my son see this type of stuff as normal. I’m torn between trying to keep fighting for us but also feel like it’s going to traumatize my son. I know he won’t remember this time of his life but the nervous system does. I know this is all over the place and maybe seems silly… I’m a brand new mom trying her best. Please give any advice and steps I should take. Or is it too late?

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/SisterGroundedThrway She posted in AmItheAsshole
Mood Spoiler: hopeful ending
Original Post: April 29, 2024
I (25F) live in a three bedroom apartment with my fiancé (27M). We have a six month old son.
My younger sister Mia (fake name; 20F) recently started attending a university that's closer to where I live than both my parents' places. Because she needs to get to class early in the morning, my fiancé and I allowed her to move into our spare bedroom. She's been living with us since January.
There's a set of rules I've been having Mia follow since she moved in, mostly to make sure everyone can live peacefully. One of the most important rules concerns arriving after my son's bedtime (usually between 19h and 20h). Mia is allowed to come home however late she wants, as long as she doesn't make too much noise.
The door to the apartment has an electronic keypad lock, and the one we use also has a normal lock under it. Everyone has a copy of the key, but we all prefer typing in the password. However, the keypad is very noisy, and my son's nursery isn't far from the door. Every time the keypad is used after I've put the baby to sleep, he wakes up.
So naturally, the rule about getting home late includes not using the keypad. Everyone, including Mia, has known about this since day one.
At first, we had no problems. But now that Mia has gotten used to college life, she's been going out at night frequently. This past month, she has arrived home after midnight every Friday and Saturday night. She always forgets the "don't make too much noise" rule, and she has, on multiple occasions, used the keypad. My son wakes up crying every. Damn. Time.
I'd sit her down and remind her of the rule whenever this happened, but she'd continue to do it. My fiancé and I got tired of putting our baby back to sleep because of that, so I changed the password and told Mia she was no longer allowed to use the keypad. She agreed, and promised to try to make less noise.
On Friday night this week, Mia went out with her friends. She came home very drunk at 4AM, and forgot that I'd changed the password. Not only did she use the keypad, she also got the password wrong so many times that she triggered an alarm.
I was furious. Not only did my baby wake up crying, but I also got complaints from my neighbors.
The next morning, I told Mia that I'm establishing a curfew: while living with me, she needs to be home by 20h. She won't be allowed to go out at night for the rest of the semester.
Mia put up a fight, saying I have no right to "ground" her (EDIT: I never used that word) like this or dictate what she does with her free time, but I held my ground. I told her she'll be free to do as she pleases when she has her own place and raises her own family. While living with mine, she has to do as I say.
She told our parents about this. Our mother and stepfather are both on my side; our father is on Mia's. He's saying I'm not her mother, and I have no right to treat her like a child. He also thinks it's unfair to do this to her over a drunken mistake.
AITA?
EDIT: No, I can't mute the keypad.
Relevant Comments:
OOP clarifies:

She is living here for free, but only for now. The deal is for her to start paying a small portion of rent once she gets a job.

Commenter: What if she never gets a job or takes months? What if she gets a job but doesn't tell you because she prefers freeloading?

OOP: If the latter happens, I will find out. She tells our mother everything, and my mom would tell me. I know my family.
But honestly, I don't need her to pay me right now. My father still gives her some money for personal expenses, so I'm not spending too much on her.

Commenter: I'm having genuine trouble how unlocking multiple locks and jangling keys into a door is quieter than a keypad (excluding the alarm) and also wouldn't wake the baby up.

OOP: It's only one lock. It's not noiseless, but it's quiet enough that it doesn't wake the baby.
The keypad makes very loud noises every time something is typed in, as well as another one once the door is open.
OOP (different comment addressing how loud it is): Very. It makes noises whenever something is typed in, as well as another one once the door has been unlocked. And she's not just quietly typing in the password, she's being loud besides that (slamming the door, knocking stuff over, etc.).

Commenter: I believe some electronic locks have a silent function. At least my alarm system's keypad does. Although I'm not so sure. I don't have electronic doorlocks, which is why I asked the question in the first place.

OOP: The one we use doesn't have a silent function.

Commenter: Just curious, is it possible to move your nursery to a different room that is further from the door? Not saying that you have to or anything, just wondering if it is a possibility would it help at all. You are definitely NTA though.
Also have you thought about saying she can go out later, but can't come home between 8pm and 6am? Basically she can go out, but has to crash elsewhere?

OOP: A lot of people are asking this, so let me explain why this is not an option.
Technically, it is possible. But moving my son from the nursery that I lovingly prepared while pregnant to the room my sister has been messing up since January would require time, effort and patience, none of which I'd have for this situation. I have a baby and a job, as does my fiancé, and I'm 99.9% sure my sister wouldn't help us. I'm making enough efforts as it is, and I refuse to do something like this when she can easily just use her key.
As for crashing somewhere else, I have suggested it before. There's always a reason why she can't do it.

Commenter: NTA and you've given her way more chances than I would have.
I would tell her that if she wakes the baby up one more time, she's out. I can't imagine how annoyed your husband must be that you keep letting your adult sister act like an entitled 16-year-old.

OOP: My fiancé is actually the reason I've been giving her this many chances. A big reason why I'm establishing the curfew now is because the situation has gotten bad enough that even he's sick of it.

Commenter: Well that's good that he hasn't been at his wits end as long as you. I would flip my lid if my husband let his sisters do this so I was coming at it from that perspective.

OOP: Understandable, really.
He's a younger sibling, so he tends to be more patient with her (especially now that we're all living together). He always agreed that she was being rude, but didn't want us to fight over it. Changing the password was his idea.

Commenter: Have you considered making her get the baby back to sleep? (not if she's drunk of course) Perhaps she would then understand the problem better.

OOP: The problem is that she usually is drunk, so there aren't many opportunities for her to help.

Commenter (downvoted): Yeah. And I'm not sure if women like OP understand this but babies can and should get used to people making normal sounds when living in a household. She probably is entitled and expects everyone else to cater around her baby.

OOP: I'm not sure I appreciate the "women like OP" comment there, but my son is used to normal sounds. The door beeping loudly at 4 in the morning is not a normal sound.
No, I don't expect everyone else to cater to my baby, but I do expect those sharing a space with him to let him sleep. It's not hard to use the normal key.

Commenter: The school year is probably just about done though, right? Maybe she should live with friends for next academic year.

OOP: We don't live in the US. The school year started in February.

OOP is voted NTA
Update Post: May 10, 2024
Before I start this update, I want to recommend reading my comments on my previous post. There were many questions that I was able to answer there.
It's very hard to explain my relationship with my younger sister in proper detail, but I will say that, while I love her dearly, Mia has always been a very inconsiderate person.
I have countless examples. She almost didn't attend our cousin's wedding last year because she didn't want to walk to the venue (which was two blocks away from our mom's place). We shared a bathroom when we were younger, and she'd insist on having the top drawers because she "didn't want to crouch down", but she was cool with me doing so. She slept through my college graduation, and didn't apologize for it.
I'm bringing this up now because whenever I asked Mia why she kept forgetting to use her key, her excuse was that looking through her bag took too long and the keypad was quicker. In her head, bothering other people is better than slightly inconveniencing herself.
After I established the curfew, Mia tried different ways to make me change my mind. She'd talk about not being able to cancel her tickets for Party X, or about the fun her friends had at Party Y. She'd show me her "developing" LinkedIn profile, and tell me she had learned her lesson and would be more responsible.
At first, I really didn't want to have to kick her out (which many of you suggested), but I have limits. A few days ago, I heard her complaining to her friends on the phone about her "bitch of a sister" who wouldn't let her do anything.
Later that day, I asked her which of our parents she planned on moving in with. Cue more fighting.
I managed to tell her that I had no obligation to continue housing her (for free!) if she couldn't respect my family. Mia could either move back in with our parents or continue living with me for the low price of respecting my infant son and stop complaining about it.
We did have a very productive conversation afterwards. I managed to get a lot off my chest, as did my sister. Mia apologized for everything. She admitted she'd been selfish, promised she'd make efforts to change and mature.
I'm a strong believer that people can change, which is why I'm not kicking her out right now. But I made it very clear that Mia is on thin ice, and the next time she does anything like this will be the last time she ever sees the inside of my home.
The curfew will continue until the end of the semester, as originally planned. My father also agreed to pay for Mia to go back to therapy. It helped her a lot when she was younger, so I'm hopeful about the future of this living situation.
I also want to thank those who suggested a white noise machine. My son is not a light sleeper, the keypad is just very loud and startles him awake, but my fiancé and I are still looking into getting one. Anything that helps our baby sleep better is welcome.
Thank you, Reddit!
Relevant Comments:
Commenter: The fact that she'd rather wake a sleeping infant than go through her purse is just... Selfish and lazy is too weak a descriptor for that. Also the idea that you, not her, is keeping her from doing stuff... Mind boggling!
I'm really happy that she's in therapy 'cause that shit aint normal. Did your parents never allow her to suffer any consequences for her actions as you were growing up? And/or is she incredibly stupid?

OOP: She did suffer consequences, but Mia never liked hearing the word "no", specially from me. I wouldn't even call her lazy, she just genuinely doesn't think about anyone else. If it's a minor inconvenience to her, she probably won't do it. That's why I'm so glad she's returning to therapy

Commenter: You realize that this summer will be her “hot girl era “ and she will still be her. But kudos for second chances

OOP: I live in the Southern Hemisphere. Summer starts in December, and we'll all be traveling for the holidays. But I don't think she'd want to stay with us during the Summer anyway.

Commenter: You should've kick her out that night,why are you being so nice??? That's not gonna help you or son.And lives rent free she would of been out so fast.

OOP: I'm being nice exclusively because Mia is going back to therapy, which was very helpful before she quit.
And I do believe things will get better. My sister is smart enough to understand that the extra time it would take for her to get to class if she moved back in with one of our parents is WAY more of an inconvenience than just using her key.
But this is her last chance. If she ever tries anything like this again, she's out.

Editor's note: OOP titled her the final update as her "last update," so I marked it as concluded.

I (female, 20) hate my blood father. He was abusive in every way, shape, form your mind can possibly think of. ( Trigger warning does contain topics of abuse, SA, guns, s*x workers, R word, and mental health )
For back ground, my parents got divorced when I was around six years old. At the time I had three younger siblings, two sisters and a brother. My sisters and I are full blood siblings (share same mother and father). My younger brother is our half brother (same mother different father). My sisters and I are white and our brother is mixed, that will be needed for later.
My blood father was abusive to my mother my whole childhood. My mother was too scared to leave him but finally got the courage to do when I was about six years old. While in court my blood dad got full custody of my siblings and I. My mother fought it for years and even had proof of the abuse and that proof that my brother was not biologically or legally my blood fathers child. Some how he got custody.
He was abusive in any way you can think of. He was verbally abusive, mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually. I went through most of the abuse so my siblings wouldn't have to. I would try my best to protect them from him as much as possible.
While I lived with him we were not allowed to see our mother. We would go weeks and sometimes even months without seeing her. My blood father would bring other women around to try and replace her. He was married three other times and would always have other girlfriends moving in and out of his house and even bring in s*x workers around us; he would tell us that these women would be better mothers to us than our mom. (which is def not true at all.) He was rarely ever home, but when he was it was bad.
I was seven by the time most of these events started to get worse and to unfold more. I was trying to protect myself and my siblings while trying to raise all of us as well. I would have to get up early before school, make breakfast for everyone, get dressed, take my baby brother to our neighbors to watch him and get us girls to the bus for school. One day I cut myself making breakfast and my blood father found out and locked me in the basement that night with no food or water at all. The abuse got worse and worse as we all got older.
His last wife had two sons of her own from a previous marriage. Her sons are very mentally ill. They would go off and have an episode, while having them they would get violent and hurt us. My blood father would have to pin them to the ground and restrained them so they wouldn't harm anyone. My siblings and I would have to hide in our bedroom and shove the bunk bed against the door just so they couldn't get to us. Some times it got so bad where I would have to get physical back with them just to protect my siblings and I.
Over the years the abuse from her sons got worse and worse. My blood father was never abusive to them though. My blood father was sexually abusive to me a lot while I was growing up. He never hid it from the rest of the house hold. Sooner or later my step brothers thought it was okay for them to try to do those things to us. I would have to defend myself and my siblings. Also my blood father was fully aware of my step brothers actions towards us and he never did anything about it or to stop it.
Years go by and one day I found out that my step brothers did in fact hurt my siblings. So what do I do? I go and beat the leaving crap out of them. By this time I am around 12/13 years old. My blood father split us up and after he tried to punish me for it and I lost it. All the years of built up pain and anger just came out and I started hitting on him.
That following weekend we go back to our moms house and she can clearly see the makes. I tell her everything. We take my blood father and my step brothers to court. They got away with everything. My blood father did get us taken away from him shortly after court, shortly following after that he gave up his rights to all of us bc he did not want to pay child support. I did not hear from his for years....
Until November of 2023, my sister is 16 now. My sister and her boyfriend decided to run away together bc they were told they are not allowed to see each other. (no my sister did not have any real reason to run away from home. After my blood father lost us we went and lived with our mother and she is a great mother and we got a wonderful new father too. We have always been safe with my mother and adoptive father) News quickly spread about my sister missing and we looked for weeks for her and didn't hear anything.
One day I get a call, its my mother freaking out because my blood father reached out to her and asked what happened to my sister. He was asking why he was never informed about his daughter going missing. He was threatening my mother and saying things I don't even want to repeat. I got absolutely mad and texted him.
I said "Who do you think you are speaking to my mother this way. My sister is no longer your daughter and neither is the rest of us. You were never our father, just someone who was supposed to be our father but instead turned out to be an abusive POS. You have no right to know what is going on in our lives and you lost that right a very long time ago. I hope your new wife finds out what a shitty human being she married. If you have anything to say about my siblings, my mother, or my father you can speak to me and say it to my face." He has nothing to say to me.
A few days after that my sister did return home on her own and she was perfectly safe and find. But while she was gone, my blood father reached out to her. From there she found out he hasn't changed at all and that he is a foster parent now. Ever since then I have been thinking about reporting him and getting the foster children taken out of his care. Yes I know that sounds horrible. But if he is going to do all this (and more) to his own children than what is stopping him from hurting more kids. I don't want more children going through what that man put me and my siblings through. So please, what do I do?

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Ok-Resident2120. She posted in AITAH.
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Trigger Warnings: abuse; threatening a child
Mood Spoiler: distressing
Original Post: May 5, 2024
Okay, throwaway account
So, recently I(27F) had a beautiful baby girl with my husband(29M). She's my pride and joy, I love her more than I love myself. But, taking care of her has taken its toll on me. My husband promised the work would be 50/50 when we agreed we wanted children, but I don't feel that's being reflected by his actions this past month. It's gotten to the point where I can't even ask him to wash her up without him saying something along the lines of, "My paternity leave is short, I want to make the most of it by relaxing a bit. I'll help you out later." And I get it. His paternity leave is only 6 weeks while mine is 16 weeks, but my nether regions hurt like a bitch for a better part of two weeks after the birth and all he could do for me was occasionally burp her.
Now, my baby girl has gotten to a phase where she doesn't want to sleep. She'll sleep for an hour, but then she's up and back to crying and I have to get up and try to soothe her. It's been happening for a week now and I've gotten so little sleep that I'm nodding off while eating or doing tge laundry and stuff. Saturday was the month anniversary of my daughter's birth, so I decided to gather both sides of the family to meet her. (They hadn't met her prior because a)I wanted to rest as much as I could and b)I heard somewhere that you shouldn't be taking babies out and about when they're fresh out the womb cause they're more prone to illness then).
So, we had this gathering at my mother's house and all was well. Everyone was cooing over our baby, there was food, people were catching up or neeting for the 1st time. It was nice. But, I had gotten about 3 hours(generous estimate) of sleep in total the past week and I was starting to feel the effects of it. I was feeling lightheaded and clammy, but I didn't wanna make a scene so I tried to go to a bedroom to lie down. I didn't take 10 steps before my vision completely blacked out. I wasn't down for long, but I had fallen over which drew some attention. I explained to everyone who was concerned that I was fine and that I was just not getting enough sleep and I could see my husband visibly frown at that. They gave me some of the dessert my aunt made to get my sugar up and the party continued. I felt embarrassed about the whole thing, especially since everyone was still looking over me til we left, but it's whatever
What bothered me is my husband's reaction. When we got home, he started going off on me about how I "made him look bad" and like "he wasn't taking care of me". I was confused on how tf me passing out made HIM look bad, but he refused to explain himself and had a pity party for himself in the kitchen. I was still feeling bad, so I decided to leave him alone and just to go sleep, but he seems to have taken that as a sign that I don't care about his feelings. He's in my ear this morning about how I just ignored him to go sleep last night and how I didn't even put the baby to sleep before leaving. Is he right? AITAH here?
Update: So I've tried talking with him, but he's been ignoring me and the baby the last three hours. I'd usually wait longer, but I'm just too tired to deal with this right now. You guys were right, I do need help with this, and he's made it very clear he's not ready to help me yet, so I'm just going to go to my mom's place. I'm currently packing. I'm so done.
Relevant Comments:
Commenter: The whole point of paternity leave is for him to help out, not relax! He makes you work extra hard on taking care of the baby. Then, when you pass out, he sees himself as a victim who looks bad in front of his family? Your fainting is proof that he's NOT pulling his weight!
If you trust his parents, show them this post and get their backup in giving him the wake-up call he deserves.

OOP: His parents are genuinely nice people, so that may work. I'm starting to worry about my health at this point and he's refusing to listen to me.

Commenter: Also, and this is big- baby may have colic or a milk allergy. Neither are uncommon and her waking like this and the frequent crying are not the norm. You need to call your pediatrician asap. Also, if you're breastfeeding you may find you need to supplement. Sometimes we don't have enough. How often does she need diaper changes?

OOP: Thank you for the advice. I thought she was just being fussy. Someone else said that I should switch to bottlefeeding because it's easier to suckle, so I'll try that while I try and get an appointment. Absolutely insane how random Internet strangers have helped me more with my baby than my husband has. Thank you!!

Commenter: Please divorce this guy. He will continue making life harder for you. I raised my child alone, and I was stunned at how much easier it was once I got rid of the selfish man-baby who had been draining every last bit of my energy.
Plus you don't want your daughter growing up internalizing that treatment as what she should expect as a woman.
NTA. Obviously. Your narcissistic POS spouse needs to take that proverbial long walk off a short pier.

OOP: (written before the update on her post); I don't think divorce is the answer. With a new baby and all, I don't need the added mental, emotional, and financial stress divorce would bring. But I see where you're coming from. I'll see if he'd like to go to couples therapy with me or something. Maybe that would help.

Commenter: OP reading your post......has your husband always been this selfish and entitled?
HE wants to relax while on paternity leave after you gave birth to your beautiful baby girl?
HE looked bad when you almost fainted from lack of sleep? Did he even check on you to make sure you are ok? Have you told your family about this? you need rest and support during this time.

OOP: I don't remember too well. He was there when my vision came back, but when I was thinking clearer, it was just my mom and his mom by my side with the dessert.
And I do feel its unfair that I have to do most of the work, especially when he told me that he'd be helping me out. He promised this would be a team effort, yetI'm doing everything by myself. That's why I was so shocked that he was upset at me for passing out. The man I married would've been tending to me and taking me to bed, not yelling at me for something out of my control. It's like he just switched personalities as soon as our baby was born. He went from loving and supportive to this. I don't understand what happened.

Update Post 1: May 6, 2024 (Next Day)
Hi all, your comments were really helpful, so thank you!
Yesterday, before I could Uber to my mom's house, my sister offered to help me, so I'm staying with her instead. She's taking PTA to help me out with my girl, which I'm very grateful for. She also gave me sleep medicine that knocked me out for hours (I'm not sure if that was a good idea or not, but I slept long and well so I don't care.)
I woke up a few hours ago to tons, and I mean TONS, of messages from my husband. Like, the little app icon had 99+ on it. Here are some of the things he said(copy pasted):
You cant just up and fucking leve with my baby
Come back now pls let's talk abt it
Your actually so fuvking immature wth is wrong with you we have one argument and you fucking pretend like I've been beating you why the hell did you leave???? We can work this out like adults yet your choosing to be difficult like a little bitch
Pls just come back we will talk and sort this out and we can go back to being happy so come back
I miss my baby girl you can't just take her away
What if I call the police for kidnapping??? Would that teach you wat your doing is wrong???
I would screenshot, but it says this community doesnt allow attachments, so i can't. And I know it's a bit weird to tell yall what he's been texting me, but I'm mad right now and this feels therapeutic lol. I already sent the screenshots to his mom though!
As for my baby, I have an appointment to a paediatrician for Wednesday, but for now she's on formula since my breast milk quality isn't the best for understandable reasons. My sister said she wasn't as fussy as I described, so I really think the problem is with my milk. That or my sister wanted to make me feel better for sleeping, who knows. I'll wait for the doctor's opinion.
I'm not feeling 100% but I feel a whole lot more better than before. Thank you to everyone who showed concern! I think this will be the last update since I wanna not think too much about my husband rn.
Update Post 2: May 10, 2024
For all of you who wanted to know what his mother's reaction was, she yelled at him and he made that my problem. The things he's messaged me are vile. And even though MIL was mad at him and KNOWS what he's been saying to me, she still insisted that I go visit him face to face so we can work things out.
I don't really blame her. He's her son, of course she'd still want to help him, but still....With all the ways he's been threatening me and cussing me out, I really didnt want to see him, but I decided to go. Mostly because I needed the stuff that I left at our house.
I went with my sister for safety, obviously. We got there and he played with our baby, he offered to feed her (she wasn't hungry), just acting completely different from the man texting me about how much of a "heartless bitch" I am. I didn't really feel comfortable having him near me or the baby with how violent his texts were, but she's still his baby. I don't think the courts would favour him after I show his texts, but I thought I should rather be safe and allow him some form of contact before going to court. This was a mistake.
At the end of the visit, I decided I should go pack my stuff, since that was one of the only reason I agreed to come. But, I didn't feel comfortable not being there while he had my baby. Yeah, my sister was there and I trust her, but I'd rather watch her with my own eyes. So, my sister went upstairs to pack for me. As soon as she was gone, he started talking about "See? I'm good now I can take care of her." And other stuff but that wasn't the problem. Even if he became super dad, I wouldn't be able to see him the same. Not after all those messages he sent me.
I told him that and he got pissed at me. I was getting worried since my daughter was still in his arms, so I tried to deescalate his feelings. It didn't work and he started yelling at me for "being heartless" and "stubborn" and whatnot. I wasn't really focused on what he was saying, I was focused on my baby. I tried to reach out for her and he shoved me hard enough to fall back. My sister came down and tried to help, but he shoved her away too and ran to the guest room and locked himself and MY BABY in there. He refused to come out unless my sister left and i stayed behind. I can't tell y'all how scary it is to not know what's happening to your child.
It took officers almost 30 minutes to get him out, which pissed me off. Like I know they were probably trying to assess the danger or whatever but I just wanted my baby. In that 30 minute window he could've shaken her or threw her out the window or something and they were there asking him to come out like he was a child and not breaking down the door. She was fine, though, so I can't be too mad.
They didn't arrest him since "no harm was done" even though my sister and I have bruises to prove otherwise, but they held him outside while I packed my stuff. It actually bothers me that they didn't at least detain him, but there's not much I can do about it now. I don't think I'm going to go near him again. Not with my baby. I'm thinking of going to apply for that emergency custody thing yall were talking about.
This happened on Wednesday and I'm still shaken. It's really depressing, for a lack of better word, seeing how much he's changed. I really loved him and I felt he loved me too. How he's acting is crushing me. I feel deflated. My baby girl and my sister are really the only things keeping me going right now.
I'm sorry for the wall of text, it's just that texting this all out helps me feel better. But, I don't think I want to continue updating. Just know that we're splitting up. Thank you all for your support!!
Extra: after visiting the doctor, I've decided to just skip the hassle and formula feed. She seems happier with formula anyways.

I am still NOT the Original Poster. That is still u/Parking_Mission_7544. She posted in AITAH
I fixed spelling mistakes in the title for readability. I also added names instead of letters and paragraphs.

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Trigger Warning: mention of miscarriage
Mood Spoiler:>! looking up!<
Original Post: March 28, 2024
I (32F) have a daughter (9 going on 10F) with my ex-husband (36M). We divorced when she was 3. He then remarried with one of his co-workers (let's call her Melissa). They also have a son together (6M).
My daughter's birthday is in 9 days. I reviewed with my daughter things for her birthday, like the theme, the cake... Here's the issue: when we were going through the guest list, she looked anxious. When I asked what's wrong, she told me that she did not want to invite Melissa. I asked her why and she explained to me that Melissa would make weird comments sometimes around other parents/ to her .
For example, when Melissa would pick her up from her dance lesson, she would hear Melissa say things like "That is why I prefer boys, girls only like pink and tutu", calling her a brat, and other things. She also told me that every time her brother (Melissa and ex-h's kid) would do something to annoy her (like breaking her toys, calling her names, starting a fight), Melissa would always defend her son and punish her every time and say "boys will be boys" or some crap like that .
I asked about her dad and she said that she does that when her dad is around, but he is always in his office so it is like a free pass. Later on, I called her father. He asked for the date of the party (her real birthday is a school day). I told him that his wife was not invited and I think I was in loudspeaker because I heard Melissa screaming at me saying that I "destroy her family"
So, AITA for not inviting my ex-husband's wife to my daughter's birthday party because she told me not to?
Okay, just for precision:

• My daughter's half-sibling is 4 years younger than her; she was born in April, while he was born in March the next year after the divorce (he just turned 6).
• BUT it is true that we divorced because my ex-husband told me he was in love with M and "wanted to confess."
• We have a 50/50 custody.
• He has a busy job.
• My daughter explained me she never told me/ her dad that she was scared of ruining her father's marriage because he seems happy

There is not consensus bot on AITAH, but the majority of comments were NTA
Update Post: April 8, 2024 (10 days later)
So, a lot happened. First of all, I met my ex for lunch alone. I explained everything that my daughter told me. At first, he was defensive and told me that she was overreacting. I replied that even if that were true, his relationship with his daughter is at risk. I gave him a choice: fix the problem or I go back to court for more custody.
Friday, when I came to pick my daughter up at his house, I talked to her in private, and she told me that her dad spent time with her, picking her up from school/activities, helping her with homework, and playing with her. Melissa then told me that she accepts not going to the party but still wanted to see my daughter blow out her candles on her actual birthday. She baked a cake and asked her (my dautghter) if she was okay with doing it before leaving. She seemed okay with it, so we gathered around the cake (my daughter, Melissa, ex, and half-brother). When my daughter blew out the candles, M junior decided that the good thing to do would be to smash my daughter's face into the cake....(To be honest, if this was not a kid, I would be in prison.) He and Melissa burst out laughing while my daughter was crying.
Melissa then told her that she was being dramatic and "emotional." We (Melissa, ex, and I) got into an argument, and to my surprise, my ex-husband was on my side, saying that it was not okay. While arguing, I noticed that my daughter was not there, so I left to check on her. I helped her clean herself, and then we left for my house. I tried to cheer her up, but she was still a little sad. The party went well, her dad came, and during the party, I told him that I want more custody because of his wife's bullying. So yeah, I will update you if anything happens.
Precision 2 :
Some of you asked questions about my daughter's reaction. My daughter is a really shy and silent kid. Except for me and her dad, she does not talk unless spoken to or if you bring up a subject that she likes. When something upsets her, she just stays silent and cries. It's always been like that and it is what she did. Started crying, went to her room.
Relevant Comments:
To be honest, I don't entirely blame the kid. He probably picked up that attitude from his mom
Commenter: If you are going to court for more custody time, ask for increased child support as well.

OOP: I don't receive child support. I earn more than him
(OOP to a different commenter) I live in California, so in a 50/50 custody arrangement, the parent with the higher income pays child support (which means I pay) At least this is what I got

Commenter: What did your ex-husband say when you wanted more custody? I mean, does he not see his new wife as terrorizing his daughter?

OOP: It went approximately like this:
Me: I want more custody.
Ex: What? I know she was mean, but you can't do this to me.
Me: Really? Your wife is bullying our daughter. I've told you before, you did not keep the promise, so I'm going for more custody.
BLAH BLAH BLAH...

Does he recognize that Melissa is mistreating his daughter?
He apologized for their behavior and told me he would fix it. BUT he asked me not to fight for more custody
Update Post 2: April 19, 2024 (11 days from previous post)
Update 2: Hi! I saw that many of you asked for an update.
*My daughter: After the cake "incident," I asked her questions about whether M/half brother had ever laid hands on her, played such "pranks" on her, or behaved inappropriately (we never know). She told me no, explaining that the fights with her half-brother are mainly him annoying her. I also inquired if anyone else from both sides had made her uncomfortable in any way, and again, she said no. Since my last post, she has been seeing her psychiatrist twice a week. The bullying apparently started about two months ago. I don't know if it is related (although I am sure it is), but it was also around that time that Melissa had a miscarriage.
*Me: To be honest, I feel like a terrible mom. I did not see the signs. I am trying to fix everything.
*My ex-husband: GUESS WHO SHOWED UP AT MY DOOR AT 10 PM???? He called me last night, was outside, and said he wanted to talk. I let him in, and because I don't trust him (I really don't), I recorded the whole conversation (with his consent).
He told me that since the party, he's been thinking about what to do and yesterday told Melissa about my desire for more custody. From what he told me, she said that it was not such a bad idea because my daughter was not fitting into their family dynamic. They started to argue, and at one point, she just started cursing me and my daughter. Apparently, I am a sneaky B-word who is bitter about her affair with my ex-husband. She described my daughter as a spoiled, bratty princess who needs correction. And now, he has to choose between which woman he loves the most.
This is where he had the click! He left the house, drove around, and then showed up at my place. He is going to stay at a friend's house to think about his relationship with Melissa. Our daughter will stay with me during the week and visit him on the weekends. I told him that if he's going to get back together with Melissa, I am continuing with full custody. But if they divorce, it will depends of his custody for his son because I don't want him around my daughter. He agreed.
That's it. Thank you for all the support.
Relevant Comment:
Commenter: I suspect Melissa miscarried a girl and that's what she's turned poisonous against your daughter and you. Grief and guilt. You did a job thing keeping your daughter away.

OOP: I just know that she was between 3 and 4 months pregnant.

*****New Update Post: May 9, 2024 (3 weeks later, 1+ months from OG post)****\*
Final Update : Hi again! y'all ask for an update. Here you go :
*My ex-h : Earlier in the week, he asked if he could come by,saying that he had something important to tell me. He told me that last friday Melissa junior got into trouble at school for cursing at a girl.
Long story short : he confessed his fellings to a girl (the niece of the director), she rejected him. Apparently, he started shouting insults at her that no 6-year-old should know, let alone say. Because of this incident and our daughter's situation he decided to divorce Melissa. She would be served the divorce papers next week. He is also going to pay Melissa in therapy because he still wants her to have a relationship with their son.
We (ex-h,daughter,me) will also be attending family therapy together.
*My daughter : She is happier now, and that's the only thing that matters to me. For the summer I am going to take her to Japan to see my side of the family !
Brooke, if one day you read this, mama loves you more than anything. I am sorry for seeing everything earlier. I love you!!!!!!!
Precision 3 :

1. I am still going for full custody of my daughter with visitation the week-end. If and only IF Melissa junior's behaviour improves, I will let him and my daughter interact.
2. He (my ex) is going for full custody of his son.
3. I still don't trust my ex-h. I am keeping my eyes on him, and how he will raise my daughter. I don't know why people would assume that I am going to nice with him. Am I polite? Yes. Nice? No.
4. I am not going for more custody because he wants his son. Because he recently got a promotion so works more. He doesn't have the time to take care of our daughter on the week days so I take her.
5. Someone asked me our races (for some reason??). I am Japanese, like my ex-h, and Melissa is white (French).
6. Like I said I am Japanese but was raised in France so French is my first language, than Japanese, than English (sorry for any mistakes)

Relevant Comments:
Commenter: Just a question , when it was 50/50 why not your time it’s a bday party for your side and on his time he can do that . I know it’s harder for thanksgiving and Xmas just the schedule can be worked out.

OOP: We decided to host the party at my place, inviting both sides of the family. I live in a house, whereas he and Melissa lived in an apartment. If she is with me at Thanksgiving, she would be with him at Christmas, and vice versa.

Commenter: v glad that op's daughter is now safe, but ngl i am worried about op's ex's son - it's honestly kind of disturbing that he knows those insults & i'm concerned about what m (or mb others in his life) are teaching him. hopefully op's ex gets full custody and things improve.

OOP: Yeah... I don't know what he heard his mother say, but a 6-year-old saying that a girl is being "heartless b-word" or a "W word" is VERY disturbing

I'm sorry for the rant but I don't have anyone I can tell, so I turned to reddit. I (31M) just feel like I can't catch a break. It's almost comical. My partner and I have a 2 yr old. And when she was on maternity leave she lost her job. I was finishing up grad school so we lived off 30K and in a very bad part of town, my car got shot in our parking lot kinda bad. I landed a good job out of college starting 76.5K, pension, health insurance, work from home 4/5 days so I can spend as much time being a good father, I enjoy what I do and got us out of the hood to the country side. My partner has always wanted to be a SAHM, my mom always worked and I would of loved for her to of been with me more, so I try to give her that and she is a great mom. But Rent has doubled, and bills are getting bigger. Idk how single income houses do it, after a year in my job I'm up for a promotion 88K starting but the promotions are soul sucking, so I was thinking of passing it up but we just got hit with a new bill we didn't see comming for an extra $700 a month for the foreseeable future. We don't go out to eat, we budget, hell I stopped getting my weekly 3 pack of tall boys just because we needed the extra $7.we are barely scraping by, and I feel like I am failing. My child is fed and clothed and every bill is paid but I can't seem to get ahead of this thing. I could try to get a job in the private sector that makes more, 6 days a week in a lab pulling ridiculous hours but I chose to make a little less because that 4/5 days at home with my son is priceless. I'm just so beat down.

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Writing this on behalf of a family member who does not use reddit.
-Can a father get a restraining order against an ex-girlfriend to restrict her from seeing his child? Or would that require a revised custody agreement?
Father is currently in Nevada. Ex gf is in Nevada. Mother is in Calfornia. Grandma is in California.
My brother, the dad, (42M) has a shared custody agreement (child is 9yo) w ex wife. This agreement was made after the mother kidnapped and moved child to another state (Texas) 8 hours away in secret. Dad hired atty and got shared custody based on those demographics. Mom moved back to same state shortly after new bf didn't work out. A few years later, Dad moves 5 hours away for a better job. He works days/nights/weekends in the tourism industry. Mother is primary parent. The child spends much of her time and weekends with grandma (father's mom.) Grandma picks child up from school 2-3x per wk atm (has fluctuated up to 5-7 days a week over the years) and is the go-to babysitter for ex wife. Custody agreement has not been revised.
More background: Ex wife has a drinking problem, just got breathalyzer taken off car. Has gotten into 2 serious car accidents on her way to pu her child from grandmas over the last 5 ish years. She can show up 6 hours late. Grandma has had to tell her no sometimes when coming to pick up child. She's never had any job for over a year except uber eats.
Dad should be taking his daughter more often. He works in tourism in a high anxiety/high stress environment, not regular 9-5. He does pay child support and for daughter to go to a private school. And he does see his daughter, they went to a father-daughter dance last month. He sees her roughly 3-4x a year for 1-2 week long vacations and they regularly speak on the phone.
Dad dated a new lady for 1.5 years. This woman is older, mid-late 50's. Very sad she never had a child...she's very open about that. Met the daughter 3 times, and SHE (no one else) felt a very strong connection. New gf has lots of money and wanted to hire an atty to take the daughter from the ex wife, whom she said was "horrible." Dad refused as he did not want to do that to the ex. (Despite the mother kidnapping child years prior, father refused to do that to the mother. )
Dad and new gf break up. Ex gf befriends ex wife post breakup. Ex gf and ex wife posted on facebook how shes now co-parenting this child/a step parent and they are also claiming father is not in child's life on social media.
She's showering the ex wife w $ and compliments of being the best mom...sends uber eats, gas money, and showering little girl with horse riding lessons, clothes, restaurants. And both are admittingly telling the child that something is wrong with dad cause he's not around every weekend. (The ex wife was not telling the child this prior, just recently after the ex gf befriended her.)
More info on the new ex girlfriend, she is heavily involved in mlm's and she is a business marketing consultant that seems to be running from lawsuits left and right. She uses holistic health speak to gaslight ppl and justify her actions. When ppl are like - "hey you ripped me off!" she says stuff like "I hope you find time to heal" and "ill pray for you" She has used many iterations of her name, lots of LLC's. She seems to be very successful and being dishonest. There are many business complaints about this person online that document this.
The father has expressed to the ex wife that he does not want his daughter to spend any more time with the ex gf. Then the child told grandma that there is a future trip planned for the daughter to visit the ex gf, facilitated by the ex wife. Grandma told dad (her son.) Dad called ex wife and told her again he did not want his daughter spending more time with this woman. The next day, ex gf wrote an email to grandma saying that grandma's house is no longer safe because the information re the trip was shared with the father. It was very creepy. This woman has only known this family and the dynamics for 2 years but is speaking like she has parental rights to this child.
-Can Dad get an RO against this ex gf from seeing his child? Or can a revised custody agreement address this?
-Is it ok for the mother to leave the child with this woman (ex gf) in NV for extended vacations without mom (she is dropping off in NV then returning to CA) if it's against the father's wishes? If he does not feel it's a safe environment.
Edited: simplified

For context: I am 22 years old, Got a high paying job and will complete my B.Tech in 2 months.
Despite this, they still try to micromanage things for me like - “Why are you still awake?”, “Don’t sleep in evening”, “Study for your job from now itself”, “Why are you on call for so long”, “Don’t use headphones” , etc. My mom literally comes to check on me daily at night(2/3/4Am) to check if I am sleeping or awake.
For fuck sake they care so much about others and think that I should only do things which the society wants me to do. As it’s summer time and I don’t have AC in my room so I prefer to be in a vest rather than t-shirts. Yesterday my mom is like - “Koi ghar aagya toh kya bolega ki gao mai bhi log aise nahi rehte” (Translation - “What’ll someone think if they see you roaming around in vest”). Can you imagine this? I can’t fucking walk around as per my wish in my own fucking house?
Few days ago, CBSE class 12th results were declared and my mom has a friend whose son got 95% or something and she is literally comparing me to him even though I passed class 12th four fucking years ago with a decent 84%. For gods sake they don’t seem to understand that I am not a child anymore and that I want my privacy to be respected.
My dad keeps on comparing me to others - “look at your uncle’s daughter, she has cleared xyz bank’s test or look at your cousin brother, he’s working in Amazon in the US and driving bmw”. Even this is understandable, he literally compares me to his friend “Look at him he is earning x crores or xyz lacs. When will you earn so much? Do something instead of playing games or doing time pass”. We all know recession is wild this year, campus placement was bad in every college yet when I was unplaced for over 4 months, instead of supporting me, giving me words of confidence, I was faced with “How embarrassing it is for me if anyone gets to know you are still unplaced/ without a job.” and I used to hear this every fucking day.
My sister also goes through the same thing. She had her final semester exam and she messed up one paper and still she was honest to them about the fact that her paper went bad. Instead of consoling her, my dad latched on to her and kept on shouting for her bad performance. Finally I had to call her and talk to her about how these are very common things and nothing to be worried about.
For other children, their parents are their support system. They look up to them, talk to them about things which are happening in their life. For me they’re not. The only thing which I learn from them is to what not to do when I will have my kids.
Don’t get me wrong. My mom is a very lovely person. My dad is hardworking and down to earth, They’ll do absolutely anything for me to see me happy but what’s the point of buying me expensive gifts if at the end of the day I have to hear taunts and how I should be grateful for the iPhone they bought or the macbook they bought for me?