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2024.05.12 00:31 Substantial_Item_828 No, It’s Not Joever: How 2024 Polling Is Underestimating Joe Biden

No, It’s Not Joever: How 2024 Polling Is Underestimating Joe Biden
Note: This essay was written about a month ago, for a school project. Some of the numbers and polling averages may be slightly outdated, but the point of the essay still stands.
Introduction
“DEWEY DEFEATS TRUMAN.”
That’s what the front-page headline of the Chicago Tribune said on November 3rd, 1948. It’s also what the polls had all been saying for months: that New York governor Thomas Dewey would defeat incumbent president Harry Truman and become the next president of the United States. And yet, he didn’t. Truman won reelection in a massive upset, defying the polls. Somehow, Truman had gone from trailing Dewey in polls by so much that cartoons like the following were created, to winning the election.
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Truman was a very unpopular president. His campaign was also plagued by third parties threatening to split his votes: Strom Thurmond on the right and Henry Wallace on the left. The way he was able to snatch victory from the jaws of defeat can’t be described as anything less than amazing.
Historians still debate over it, but the most popular theory is that Truman was able to win many voters who disapproved of him because he successfully painted Republicans as being worse than he was. This strategy was aided by Dewey’s weak campaign. Many voters didn’t like Truman, and when polled, wouldn’t say they would vote for him, but when the time came, they held their nose and pulled the lever for the president. The election was a lesson to not treat polls as gospel.
Today, the nation faces another presidential election. The Democratic candidate is incumbent president Joe Biden. He’s running for reelection despite concerns about his age and rumors he wouldn’t run again due to it. On the Republican side, former president Donald Trump is the nominee. He faced opposition in the primaries, most notably by former South Carolina governor Nikki Haley, but beat her and his other opponents without too much trouble. The election is the first presidential rematch since 1956. Several independent/third-party candidates are running too, the most notable being Robert F. Kennedy Jr. (RFK Jr. for short), nephew of JFK. He’s been polling very high for a third-party candidate, getting double digits in many polls.
Biden beat Trump in 2020, but opinion polls have been showing Trump leading Biden, often by large margins. As of April 1st, Trump leads Biden by 1.1% in the national polling average according to racetothewh.com, an election prediction/poll aggregation website. Biden won the popular vote by 4.5% in 2020, so this is a sizable swing right. Trump also leads Biden in all seven swing states. Below is a chart comparing the 2020 presidential election margin and the 2024 polling average in the seven swing states.
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It seems like Biden’s doomed. He needs to win at least some of the swing states to win the election, and right now he isn’t winning any of them. It looks like Trump is on track to becoming the second president ever to win a non-consecutive second term, after Grover Cleveland.
But there’s something else going on.
Biden’s bad polling situation seems simple on the surface. He’s incredibly unpopular, having an approval rating of 39.1% (net -16.3%) according to FiveThirtyEight. His bout of unpopularity seems to have started around the Afghanistan withdrawal, although when asking someone their reason for disliking Biden they’ll probably say something about his age or the economy instead. So, it makes sense that Biden would be polling badly. He’s an unpopular president, and people would rather have Trump.
But it isn’t that simple. Because looking deeper, there are some things that don’t make sense. Crosstabs of polls showing massive realignments not seen since the Civil Rights era. Other indicators of a president in trouble not showing up. Things that when put together, suggest Biden may not be in as much danger as the polls say.
When all the evidence is put together and analyzed, it’s clear that Biden is not doomed, not at all. Biden’s bad polling can be explained by two things. First, bad polling methodology underpolling his supporters. Second, people who are supporting third parties now, but will eventually return to Biden. These two things are both making Biden’s polling look bad, although which one has a stronger effect depends on the poll and the demographic group. Additionally, all the indicators other than the polls, like primary elections and special/off-year elections, don’t show Biden in too much trouble.
Explaining Racial and Age Depolarization
First, context is needed for the rest of this essay to make sense. So, as was said earlier, 2024 polls are showing Biden doing much worse than his 2020 performance. That makes sense – Biden is less popular, so naturally fewer people want to vote for him. The strange part is what demographic groups Biden is slipping with. Instead of a mostly uniform shift, which would be expected, almost all of Biden’s losses seem to come among nonwhite voters – most significantly black and Hispanic voters. He’s also losing ground among young voters (usually defined as voters between the ages of 18 and 29). The Democratic Party traditionally does well with these groups, so this is of course concerning for Biden. Even more strange is that in some polls, Biden is actually making some inroads among the demographics that are historically the base of the Republican Party – those being white voters and seniors. Looking at the aggregation of crosstabs of polls during February, there are many abnormalities.
The aggregation shows Trump making massive gains among black and Hispanic voters (swings of R+28.4 and R+18.5 respectively) but making almost zero gains among white voters (R+0.1, but right under that there are slight blue swings with both college educated and non-college educated whites, likely a product of not all polls recording results for those groups). This is strange, to say the least. White people seem to be perfectly fine with Biden, while nonwhite people suddenly despise him. This phenomenon is called racial depolarization, or racedep for short.
Swings among different age groups are also odd. Trump is improving by 16.1 points among voters aged 18-29 but losing 1.8 points with seniors and 4 points with voters aged 50-64. Young voters are much more liberal than older voters. Every opinion poll and election result suggests this. Unless they’ve suddenly become much more conservative, them supporting Trump over Biden doesn’t make sense. Along with racedep, age depolarization ("agedep") is common in crosstabs of 2024 polls.
Those are not the only depolarizations supposedly going on, as can be seen in the tweet. Urban and suburban voters moving towards Trump while rural voters move towards Biden. Democrats moving towards Trump, Republicans moving towards Biden. Geographical and political polarization have been increasing in recent years, so this suggests a strange reverse of that trend. 2024 probably won’t be a large realignment, it’s more likely something is just wrong with the polls.
Explaining Primaries
Presidential primary season has been going on for a few months, after the Iowa caucus kicked it off in January. While Biden and Trump both won their primaries easily, how strong their performances were in different areas can reveal a lot about how certain groups are feeling about the candidacies of the two – like black, Hispanic, and young voters. But first, protest voting has to be explained.
When an incumbent president is running for reelection, they usually do not face much opposition in the primaries. Typically, only no-name minor candidates are the other people on the ballot besides the president. They do not have a chance at winning, but they do serve as a way for people who are upset with the president to express it. Sometimes, the “Uncommitted” option is also used to protest. Look back to 2012, when Obama was running for reelection. He swept the primaries, but his worst performances were in West Virginia, Kentucky, Oklahoma, and Arkansas, where he got under 60% of the vote.
The four states all had something in common: a lot of the registered Democrats were white conservatives who before 2008 voted Democratic, but switched to McCain because they didn’t like Obama’s dark vision for America. They voted against Obama in the primaries because they didn’t like him and didn’t want him to be the nominee. Those voters would then go on to vote Republican in the general election. The places that swung the hardest against Obama in 2008 were also the places where he did the worst in the 2012 primaries.
2004-2008 swing
2012 Oklahoma Democratic presidential primary
2012 Arkansas Democratic presidential primary
2012 Kentucky Democratic presidential primary
2012 West Virginia Democratic presidential primary
Now, those four states were already very red even before 2008, Obama was not going to win them and he did not need to win them. But if a candidate is doing badly in a potentially competitive state’s primary, they should heed the warning – or risk losing. Another good example of protest voting can be found in the 2016 Democratic primary. Hillary Clinton did very poorly in the Rust Belt states of Wisconsin, Michigan, and Pennsylvania – losing the first two to Sanders and coming close to losing the last. And where Sanders’s support was strongest was in rural areas – also the areas that swung the most towards Trump in the general election. Trump narrowly flipped all three of those states, winning him the presidency.
2016 Wisconsin Democratic presidential primary
2016 Michigan Democratic presidential primary
2016 Pennsylvania Democratic presidential primary
2012-2016 swing
The polls said Clinton would easily win all three states, while the primaries said she would struggle in them – and the primaries were right.
The 2024 Primaries
Presidential primaries can give an idea of where a candidate might underperform in the general election, and 2024 primaries are no exception. If black, Hispanic, and young voters are upset with Biden, like the polls are suggesting, then they will protest vote against him. The first primary that will be examined is the South Carolina primary. South Carolina is 26% black according to the 2020 census, and that number is even higher among Democratic primary voters thanks to the racial polarization of the state – Biden won 90% of black South Carolinians in the 2020 election, while Trump won 73% of white South Carolinians.
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South Carolina was also the first primary state (so Biden did not have momentum from winning contests at that point, nor was he the presumptive nominee), and the primary was open (meaning independents could vote), so the conditions for protest voting were as good as they could possibly be.
But despite all that, Biden got 96% of the vote.
If black people really are upset with Biden, they clearly don’t hate him enough to cast a protest vote against him. And looking at individual counties, there’s not even a correlation between the percent of black people and the percent of opposition vote. Biden got 97% of the vote in Allendale County (73% black, the blackest county in the state) and he got 95% in Pickens County (7% black, the least black county in the state). If anything, Biden did better in counties where there are more black people. And it’s not just South Carolina – in pretty much every state where black people make up a significant percentage of the Democratic electorate, Biden won by huge margins. He got 99% in Mississippi, 95% in Georgia, 90% in Alabama, and 86% in Louisiana. Biden came close to losing a few counties in Louisiana – but not the ones with lots of black people. The counties he did the worst in are heavily white. The same kind of people who gave Obama trouble in the 2012 primaries voted against Biden, too.
Evidently, black people aren’t protest voting against Biden. Young voters will be looked at next, using the Michigan primary. Just like South Carolina, Michigan has open primaries.
There was an organized campaign for the “Uncommitted” option in Michigan to protest Biden’s policy on Gaza and pressure him into calling for a ceasefire. The Uncommitted option did modestly well, getting 13% of the vote, slightly higher than it did twelve years ago when Obama was running for reelection. The Uncommitted campaign achieved their (unambitious) goal of 10,000 votes, getting slightly over 100,000. Biden got 81% of the vote, while Williamson and Phillips took the remaining 6%.
What’s interesting though, is where Uncommitted did the best. Its strongest performance was in Wayne County (which includes Detroit and a few other cities), where it got 17%. Wayne County is home to 140,000 Arab Americans who make up 7.8% of the county’s population, so the strong Uncommitted performance wasn’t surprising. The second strongest county for Uncommitted was Washtenaw County (also 17%), which doesn’t have many Arab Americans. What it does have, however, is the University of Michigan. With over 50,000 students enrolled, it’s one of the largest colleges in the country. Looking at a precinct map of the results for Washtenaw County, Uncommitted did well because UMich students were protest voting against Biden.
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Ann Arbor, the city where UMich is located, had a very high percentage of Uncommitted votes. There’s no doubt about it, college students were voting Uncommitted to protest Biden’s handling of the war in Gaza.
Looking at college counties in other primaries, there was generally a trend of the Uncommitted option (or whatever name the state has for it) doing well. In Dane County, Wisconsin (University of Wisconsin), there was lots of protest voting against Biden. “Uninstructed” got 15% in Dane vs 8% statewide.
“None of these names” did well in Douglas County, Kansas (University of Kansas), getting 14.5% of the vote, compared to the statewide average of 10.3%.
And Uncommitted got a sizable 21% in New Haven, Connecticut (Yale University), compared to 11% statewide.
There’s definitely some protest voting against Biden by young voters. But remember the reason most of them are unhappy with Biden in the first place: it’s because of Gaza. Trump is more pro-Israel then Biden, so it makes no sense for them to support him. That’s different from Haley voters, who are ideologically between Biden and Trump. Things may be more complicated than they seem, as will be discussed later, but first here’s the analysis of the third group Biden has been slipping with in polls: Hispanic voters. The Texas primary is a good place to judge how Hispanic voters are feeling about Biden. Texas has open primaries, like Michigan and South Carolina.
Biden did the worst in South and West Texas. One of the places he underperformed the most was the Rio Grande Valley (RGV). He got percentages in the 60s, 50s, and even 40s in many RGV counties, with his worst performance being in Zapata County, where he got a pathetic 40% of the vote.
The RGV is heavily Hispanic, so at first this seems like a validation of the polls showing Trump making massive gains among Hispanic voters – but it isn’t the only place in Texas where Hispanic people live. Biden performed very strongly in El Paso County, an 82% Hispanic county home to the city of the same name.
He also did well in places like Bexar County (San Antonio, 59% Hispanic), Dallas County (Dallas, 40% Hispanic), and Harris County (Houston, 43% Hispanic).
Looking at other states, it seems like Biden’s RGV performance was the exception, not the rule. He got 81% in Imperial County, California (86% Hispanic); and 83% in Santa Cruz County, Arizona (83% Hispanic).
Hispanic voters have been slowly trending towards Republicans over time, so Biden’s performances are even more impressive when that factor is taken into account. According to exit polls, Hispanic voters voted for Obama by 44 points, Clinton by 38 points, and 2020 Biden by 33 points. A lot of the people voting against Biden may be registered as Democrats but didn’t vote for him in 2020.
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Overall, primaries don’t support the polls showing Trump making huge gains among black/Hispanic/young voters. There’s zero evidence black voters are upset with Biden. As for the other two groups, there are some signs of discontent, but not enough to warrant the double-digit swings polls are showing. Biden’s underperformances in college counties/Hispanic counties, when present at all, are usually less than 10 points worse than his statewide performance. And that’s assuming every single person protest voting will go for Trump. If all protest voters really do vote for the other party in the general election, say hello to Biden’s second term, because Nikki Haley regularly gets twice the number of votes in Republican primaries as Biden’s opposition does in Democratic primaries. Even after she dropped out.
Midterms, Off-Years, and Special Elections
At the same time Biden has been doing well in primaries, Democrats have been scoring wins in special/off-year elections. These elections are historically correlated with the popularity of the president, so they conflict with the polls showing Biden down. Look at elections during the last three presidencies to know what happens when a president is unpopular.
While Trump was in office, he was quite the unpopular president, and his party lost many elections because of it. Through 2017-2019, Republicans lost a net 8 governorships, going from 34 to 26; and a net 41 House seats, going from 241 to 200. The only chamber they managed to gain in was the Senate (thanks to a very favorable map and increased polarization causing many Democrats in red states to lose) – but not without losing a special election in Alabama, a deep red state that had voted for Trump over Clinton by almost 28 points.
This pattern continues to back when Obama was in office. From 2009-2011, when he was at the height of his unpopularity due to the state of the economy and Obamacare, Democrats lost big. They went from 28 governorships to just 20, 257 House seats to only 193, and 59 Senate seats to only 53. Like Republicans with Alabama during Trump’s presidency, Democrats managed to lose a Senate special election in a state considered safe for their party – Massachusetts, which had voted for Obama by 26 points in 2008.
And it goes even further back to Bush’s presidency. Backlash over the wars caused Republicans to lose 6 governorships from 2005-2007 (going from 28 seats to 22), 30 House seats (232 down to 202), and 6 Senate seats (55 to 49).
But despite Biden’s unpopularity and bad polling, Democrats have been doing well in elections despite precedent saying they shouldn’t be. The 2022 midterms, which were supposed to be a red wave, were anything but. Democrats flipped a net 2 governorships and 1 Senate seat, and only barely lost the House. The small majority Republicans won has been giving them trouble when trying to govern. Already, one Speaker was ousted and it’s possible a second might be too.
More recently, Democrats won the governorship in Kentucky and almost won it in Mississippi, both very red states. They flipped the Virginia state house and won a supreme court election in Pennsylvania by a large margin. Two months ago, they won a competitive special election for a House seat in New York by a decisive 8-point margin.
Interestingly, the normal pattern of an unpopular president’s party doing poorly manifested early in Biden’s term. After his approval rating crashed during the Afghanistan withdrawal, Democrats went on to lose the governorship (and state house) of Virginia, and almost lost the governorship of New Jersey. Both states voted for Biden by double digits in the 2020 election. Something changed between November 2021 and November 2022 to cause this shift. It might have been the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe V. Wade and allow states to ban abortion. In several special elections right after the decision, Democrats overperformed massively. For example, Republicans won the special election for Nebraska’s 1st congressional district, which voted for Trump by 11 points in 2020, by only a 5-point margin. The election took place just four days after the Dobbs decision.
The Trump-backed candidates nominated in many Senate and governor elections could also be the ones to blame. Thanks to Trump’s endorsement, many extremist candidates won the primaries in key races. They often denied the results of the 2020 presidential election and had other problematic views. Most of them went on to lose the general election, sometimes by huge margins. Below is a table of all the results.
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Whatever the cause, Republicans flopped in 2022 and haven’t recovered since. And it doesn’t seem like Trump will be able to avoid the problems plaguing his party. His handpicked candidates were the ones that did terribly while other Republicans often did well; and the abortion issue isn’t just going away, not to mention Trump’s the one responsible for getting Roe overturned with his SCOTUS appointments.
Of course, there’s a counterargument: that Biden is somehow breaking historical precedent, and he’ll do badly while other Democrats do fine. That seems like a reasonable theory, until the fact that Biden vs Trump and the generic congressional ballot are polling exactly the same is considered. As of April 5th, at least.
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Since work on this essay has started, Biden has experienced a little surge of support in the polls. It could just be noise, but it might be something else.
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Biden has also been polling as well as (or sometimes even better than) hypothetical Democratic candidates for president like VP Kamala Harris, California governor Gavin Newsom, and Michigan governor Gretchen Whitmer.
It could be argued Biden is only doing better because he has higher name recognition, and Democrats who don’t know the other three candidates are answering undecided. But Michelle Obama being extremely well-known didn’t stop her from trailing Trump by the exact same amount as Biden in a poll.
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Democrats are doing much better in actual elections than in polls, and Biden’s polling the same as other Democrats. It stands to reason that Biden would also do better in an election than in polls.
The Problem with the Polls
While primary and off-year elections suggest Biden isn’t doing badly, they still don’t explain the polls. One theory is that the black/Hispanic/young voters who don’t like Biden aren’t voting in any elections, that’s why Democrats are doing well. Perhaps the biggest proponent of this theory is Nate Cohn, the chief political analyst for the NYT.
This theoretical group of low-propensity Trump supporters who love answering polls but don’t vote in any elections sounds dubious, and that’s probably because it doesn’t exist at all. Biden’s bad polling is caused by two main things. The first is bad methodology, but before that is discussed, how polls work must be explained.
Polls work by contacting a certain number of voters, usually around a thousand, and asking them how they plan to vote. The 2024 options are usually Biden/Trump/Undecided/Other. Sometimes Other is changed to real third-party candidates, like RFK Jr. Polls also ask information on the voter, like their race, sex, age, and region. After data is collected, polls are weighted to reflect real demographics. For example, if a poll’s raw data has 40% of respondents living in urban areas while 60% live in rural areas, and the actual percentage of voters is 50% urban and 50% rural, then the responses of the urban voters are weighted higher. If that poll has urban areas voting 60D/40R and rural areas 40D/60R, then the raw data is 48D/52R while the weighted (and final) data is 50D/50R.
This seems like an effective way to avoid bias in polls, and account for lower response rates from certain groups. If rural voters are answering at a higher rate, just give them less weight. If Hispanic voters are answering at a lower rate, give them more weight. The thing is, voters don’t belong to just one group. A person can both live in a rural area and be Hispanic. And while groups (rural voters, Hispanic voters) are weighted, subgroups (rural Hispanic voters) are not.
Say, rural Hispanic voters are more Republican than urban and suburban Hispanic voters. Say, they’re answering polls at higher rates as well. Rural voters will be weighted lower in the poll, but that’s just all rural voters combined. Rural Hispanic voters are not weighted vs other Hispanics. That would lead to Hispanic voters in the poll being more Republican than they are in reality.
A typical poll has around a thousand respondents, and a margin of error of about ±3%. The sample sizes for different groups, however, are much smaller, which means a bigger margin of error. Let’s say Hispanic voters are 10% of the poll’s respondents, or a hundred in total. That’s a margin of error of ±8%, much larger than the ±3% for the poll as a whole. And if rural Hispanic voters are 20% of all Hispanic voters, that’s a margin of error of ±18%! Small inaccuracies in subgroups can cause a ripple effect that makes the whole poll wrong. Let’s do a simulation to show this effect off.
  • True voting intention among all Hispanic voters is 63% Biden, 37% Trump (D+26).
  • True voting intention among all non-rural Hispanic voters is 65% Biden, 35% Trump (D+30).
  • True voting intention among rural Hispanic voters is 55% Biden, 45% Trump (D+10).
  • 100 Hispanic voters answer the poll.
  • Rural Hispanic voters make up 40% of the poll’s respondents (40 people), they make up 20% of the real Hispanic population. Since subgroups are not weighted, their influence on Hispanic voters in the poll is double what it should be.
  • Due to the large margin of error of ±13%, rural Hispanic voters who answered the poll said they’d vote 45% Biden, 55% Trump. That’s 22 Trump voters and 18 Biden voters answering the poll. A proportional sample would have 22 Biden voters and 18 Trump voters. That’s just a 4-person difference.
  • Non-rural Hispanic voters in the poll said they’d vote 65% Biden, 35% Trump (the true number).
  • The average of Hispanic voters in the poll is 57% Biden, 43% Trump (D+14), a 12% swing from the true numbers.
And all that must happen for this problem to occur regularly is for Trump-voting rural Hispanics to answer polls at a slightly higher rate than Biden-voting rural Hispanics, and rural voters to answer polls at a higher rate than urban voters. And since polls collect responses from people who answer the polls first, the effect can happen easily.
You guessed it, this is happening in real life. And not just with Hispanic voters, but with everyone.
A pattern among 2024 polls is that rural voters are answering at a higher rate than urban/suburban voters. In one NYT/Siena poll (Trump+4), rural voters made up about 35% of the respondents, when they only made up 19% of the 2020 electorate.
In another poll by Grinnell College (Trump+7), rural voters made up 27% of the respondents. Voters who said they lived in a “town” made up 17%, and it’s likely at least some of them would break for rural if they had to choose between urban/suburban/rural.
Looking at the 538 poll database, a clear pattern emerges. Polls that have Trump leading Biden have a proportion of rural voters that is way too high. Polls where Biden leads Trump have more normal numbers.
Rural voters tend to be more conservative and vote Republican, and sure enough, Republicans are answering at a higher rate then Democrats. (scroll to "Do you consider yourself a Democrat, a Republican, an independent or a member of another party?" for the NYT/Siena poll and the top of page 6 for the Grinnell College poll. Both show more Republicans answering the poll than Democrats.)
One pollster, Susquehanna Polling and Research, remarked that Trump supporters seem to have higher enthusiasm than Biden supporters, and so are answering polls at a higher rate.
The second reason why Trump may not be winning Pennsylvania has to do with who is answering polls. We suspect because Trump is the only candidate with “enthusiastic” voters, it’s Trump voters in particular who are disproportionately talking to pollsters. It’s the reverse of what happened in 2016, when the phenomenon of “shy” Trump voters meant that many pollsters undercounted Trump’s base of support. Many voters were afraid to admit they were Trumpers back then. Today, we suspect many pollsters are not adjusting their samples to account for this “non-response” bias, as it’s typically called. But SP&R is doing so.
Polls also say that Trump voters are more enthusiastic than Biden voters.
Republicans are slightly more enthusiastic ahead of November’s general election, edging out Democrats, according to a new survey.
In the poll, released Thursday by Gallup, 59 percent of Republicans said they are more enthusiastic about voting in the upcoming election than in previous years. Fifty-five percent of Democrats and Democrat-leaning independents said they felt the same.
Groups like seniors and white voters may not be swinging towards Trump because there isn’t an enthusiasm gap, unlike with black/Hispanic/young voters. According to a YouGov poll, groups that aren’t swinging towards Trump in the crosstab aggregate are also paying more attention to the election (and therefore are more enthusiastic, and answering more polls). When black/Hispanic/young voters start paying more attention, they’ll get enthusiastic and start answering polls, which should improve Biden’s polling.
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And that rural Hispanic voter hypothetical was based on something real. Rural Hispanic voters were already more Republican than other Hispanics in the 2020 election; and Biden did badly in the rural RGV in the primaries while doing better in cities like El Paso. The difference may be even larger than it was four years ago, with rural Hispanics swinging against Biden while urban and suburban Hispanics don’t. Rural Hispanics make up a small percentage of Hispanic voters (scroll down to "Area type"), so this swing doesn’t mean much for Biden’s electoral prospects. It screws with the crosstabs of Hispanic voters, however.
As Biden’s voters become more enthusiastic and the gap closes, polls may start swinging towards him as more of his voters answer polls. There have already been signs of this happening, like that surge in support mentioned earlier. Perhaps it’s because of the recent ad blitz by Biden energizing his supporters?
Oversamples, and the True State of the Election
Biden voters are not answering polls as much as Trump voters, and this is creating big swings in crosstabs thanks to low sample sizes. Polls with bigger sample sizes would be much better. The margins of error would be much smaller and the crosstabs much more accurate. Unfortunately, it’s too expensive to make polls with huge sample sizes, but there’s still the next best thing – oversamples.
Oversamples are polls that poll only one specific group. While a normal poll polls everyone, an oversample might poll only black voters, for example. Because of the big sample sizes, oversamples are much better for determining the voting intentions of groups than just looking at the crosstabs of normal polls. Oversamples can also use more advanced methods of polling to reach people who may not respond otherwise.
There are three oversamples that are going to be examined here. The first is by Black PAC, and it’s an oversample of black voters.
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Trump gets a pathetic 8% of black voters, less than half of the polling aggregate showing him getting 18%. This, along with Biden’s strong primary performances, suggest that the bad polling for Biden among black voters is entirely due to bad polling methodology.
Next, Hispanic voters. An oversample of Hispanic voters by Univision shows Biden leading Trump 58-31 (27 points). Again, that’s completely different from the polling aggregate showing Biden winning them by only 6 points. It is a slight decrease from 2020, where he won them by 33 points; but like stated earlier, Hispanics have been trending right for a while, so Trump making small gains among them isn’t surprising.
And finally, young voters. Split Ticket, an election prediction and analysis website, polled young voters. They used live text interviews, rather than a normal method like calling landlines.
In the poll, Biden leads Trump 35-25, a 10 point lead. Biden is disapproved of by 68% of young voters, while Trump is disapproved of by 70%. Of the three oversamples, this is the only one that lines up closely with the crosstab aggregate (Biden+8). Biden won young voters by 24 points in 2020, so it looks Trump is making large gains among the group.
But it’s not that simple.
Biden and Trump have a similar total disapproval rating, but the number of respondents who strongly disapprove of Trump is 61%. For Biden, it’s just 44%. This means Trump likely has a lower ceiling of support with young voters than Biden does – it’s hard to get someone who hates you to vote for you.
Additionally, young voters who disapprove of both Biden and Trump overwhelmingly prefer Biden to Trump. RFK Jr. actually wins this group, but like all third party candidates, his support is declining as the election gets closer. The combined voteshare in polls for RFK Jr. and Cornel West (a left-wing independent candidate) has been steadily decreasing. 6 months ago, it was 17.9%. Today, it’s only 11.5%. This raises the question of who RFK Jr.’s supporters will break for when they realize he can’t win.
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Based on the approval ratings of Biden and Trump, and the “double haters” who already have chosen sides, it seems like the vast majority of young RFK Jr. supporters will go for Biden. His lead among young voters will only increase as time goes on. Of course, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to run ads like these to speed up the process.
Split Ticket also conducted a poll using a more normal method, an opt-in web panel. This poll had Trump doing much better with young voters than in their live text poll. So yes, some commonly used polling methods don’t work correctly!
Conclusion
Biden has been polling badly lately. He’s been trailing Trump nationally as well as in swing states. Polls say key parts of the Democratic base, black/Hispanic/young voters, are abandoning Biden in huge numbers. But when looked at closely, it’s not so simple. Other signs for Biden are pretty good. He’s been doing pretty well in primaries, and Democrats have been doing well in special and off-year elections. Polls are underestimating Biden’s support due to bad methodology and Democrats not answering polls. Oversamples show Biden doing fine with black voters, and mostly fine with Hispanic voters. The only group he really needs to work on is young voters, by trying to decrease RFK Jr.’s support.
So, 2024 won’t be a red wave where Trump wins big. But current signs don’t suggest 2024 is going to be a blue wave either, just another extremely close election like 2016 and 2020 both were. But there’s reason to believe Biden might outperform his 2020 showing despite that.
The American public is not very engaged right now, as there’s still seven months until the election, so Trump’s latest ventures with the legal system aren’t on people’s minds. When people tune in more, he can only get hurt from it. There’s also the massive fundraising gap between the two, which Trump is scrambling to close.
Here’s a prediction for how the election will actually go (margins are 20+, 15-19.9, 10-14.9, 5-9.9, 1-4.9, <1).
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2024.05.11 23:17 Repulsive_Career2824 I wanna join the Catholic Church

Hello, I’m a non-denominational Christian looking to join the Catholic Church. However, I have a list of questions if anyone is willing to answer:
  1. I’m autistic and I align with pro-life the more I think about it. I cannot have kids from birth due to my disability and my way of functioning mentally (I’d feel more comfortable adopting babies). However, I don’t like abortions personally. In the scenario that if i ever got non-consensually gr@ped, can I give up the example child for adoption and never see it again by choice? Is that biblical within the doctrine? Also are contraptions allowed in terms of sex in marriage?
  2. Do Catholics pray to Mary and the Saints or do they use them to pray to God? How does that work?
  3. Is it loud in the church? One of the reasons I’m switching to Catholicism is because growing up in Pentecostal/Baptist environments made me overstimulated (also within black churches it’s even worse). I had to bring noise cancelling headphones since 10 years old.
  4. Do Catholics celebrate any specific holidays (Christmas, Valentines Day, etc)?
  5. What are the steps to become baptized within the Catholic Church? I never been baptized in my life so I was wondering what I need to do.
  6. What’s Lent/Advent?
  7. Finally, are Catholic women allowed to wear wigs or veils 24/7?
Thank you all, and if you have any facts/stories you want to share I’m all ears as well!
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2024.05.11 22:26 ThrowRaWowzers123 Found out my 29M (then) girlfriend 29F of 5 years cheated on me during our trip with friends, unsure how I should feel?

I am asking you guys for help with how you guys would react and what you would do if you were in my situation. I'm extremely bad with processing my emotions and this is my first relationship/breakup.
BACKSTORY:
My ex-girlfriend and I have been broken up for a week. We are living together for 2 more months until we break our lease due to her needing to leave abroad for her new career opportunity (which is also the reason why we are breaking up). We have been gracious towards each other through this cordial break up, as our previous 5 year relationship has been overall a positive experience for both of us.
For the last month or so, my (then) gf has been waiting for a call from her new job if her new position is confirmed or not. We decided we will break up soon after this confirmation call even though we will be on the lease together for 2 more months before she leaves.
My ex and I also just came back from a 2 week trip abroad with our mutual friends, and even though she got the confirmation call in the beginning of the trip, we promised that we would break up AFTER our trip, since this trip is something that we planned together and looked forward to. We were definitely still dating until the end of our trip (slept on the same bed, etc)
Towards the end of the trip, my (then) girlfriend was enjoying the foreign nightlife more than me. I would come back with some of my friends earlier in the night, while my (then) girlfriend would stay out with other friends. Come to find out, she made out with the same random guy multiple times on multiple nights.
Our last night, she went out again, and stayed out later by herself. Last time i texted her was at 4AM. I woke up at 7AM and she was not in the bed with me and didn't answer my phone calls. I immediate started investigating by asking our mutual friends who was out with her, and they told me she received a phone call from someone and walked off by herself. I was concerned with different potential scenarios going through my head and called her mom for her location, tracked her down to a hotel, and tried to get some information from them but they couldn't tell me anything due to privacy laws. Her mom suggested that I call the police and the US consulate due to her being kidnapped or drugged, but I decided to wait a bit. 2 hours later, she calls me and says her phone was dying, she couldn't find her way home, so she crashed at the hotel by herself.
THIS MORNING:
Today, It's been a week since our return and the planned break up of our relationship. I was walking by her room to get our dogs out to feed them (we sleep in different bedrooms), and I faintly heard her voice. It was obvious that she was talking to someone she was very fond of. I knocked and called her name out, but she didn't hear me because she was using noise cancelling headphones. I listened her conversation and some things she talked about were:
-she was embarrassed that she was on her period
-asking him multiple times to come visit her once she moves abroad, and that she will visit him in europe in a month before her job starts
-he called my ex-girlfriend "Ms. love handles"
-joking that he lives in the future (time zone difference) and overseas from us (USA vs europe)
I confronted her, and she initially lied that it was another guy that she met at a show she went to last night (which i wouldn't have cared if she met another guy). I provided the details i've heard to prove that she was lying, which caused her to apologized own up to it. She hasn't provided all the details yet, but she claims that she didn't have sex with him. She also added that she would've if she wasn't on her period. (not like it changes the story a lot because she still made out with him multiple nights and came back to sleeping with me in the same bed, which was confirmed by ). Couple days ago she wanted to have sex with me one last time, and I am disgusted.
I think right now the biggest thing she's worried about is me tainting her reputation since we have a lot of mutuals and I've gotten to be pretty close with her parents after 5 years. Yes, she cheated on me literally a week before we had our "planned" break up, but I am still disgusted and filled with anger.
I wanted to hear you guys' opinion on how you guys would feel and what you would do if you were in my situation. Rant over, thank you guys all for listening.
TL;DR Found out my (then) girlfriend cheated on me a week before our planned breakup. How would you guys feel?
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2024.05.11 22:22 flowers_lop my neutered male rabbit keeps forcefully mounting my female rabbit.

so for context, my male rabbit is eight months old and he got neutered about two weeks ago now and I decided to get another female as someone I know had a rabbit that they needed to get rid of and I didn’t want them dumping it so I took it in and I’ve been trying to bond my rabbits ever since and every time I try to my male rabbit ends up mounting my female rabbit and having sex with her. I don’t know what to do because I can tell she doesn’t like it.she makes this weird groaning noise,she thumps at him and try’s to run away but I don’t know what to do because he won’t stop even though he knows she doesn’t like it. I read somewhere that this was just a dominance thing however it hasn’t stopped. i’ve even left their cages next to each other and have been slowly trying to bond them but it’s not working. my male rabbit was at least 14 hours a day for Roaming before I got my female and now he’s only got about 7-8 hours of free roaming time due to the fact that I also want her to come out a little bit even though when she was with her old owner they didn’t let her out at all so I think the taste of freedom that she’s had from being able to roam about even just a little bit has made her want to come out more but they cannot be together unless I’m in the room so they have to have separate times out. I know a lot of the situation is my fault, but I really just need help. [by the way, I do take my male rabbit off of my female whenever I can but there has been times we I haven’t got there in time and he finishes on her and it’s a matter of seconds.]
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2024.05.11 21:28 AccomplishedVast135 excuse me?

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2024.05.11 20:43 SIPH0N0PH0RES ers -111 help

i just got this little guy a couple days ago and i have a couple questions 1. when i purchased him he did not come with the sound commander, i found a soundboard thats supposed to work but so far no luck. does anyone know if theres something else i can use in place of it or maybe he cant hear it?
  1. he also did not come with a ball and he just keeps asking for one, ive followed a video that said they like to chase most things pink and ive done that but he just keeps asking for a ball. we even got him a pink tennis ball that he recognized at the store but now he has no idea what it is and just keeps being very happy at it
  2. i think this is a more technical problem but he keeps making very loud motor noises while standing still like hes trying to wag his tail but nothing happens, is this normal?
other than that hes really awesome and im so happy to have him! hes only gotten stuck in a corner once
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2024.05.11 13:01 United-Elk8064 AITAH for blocking my best friend/ ex fiance of 19 years after she ditched me for someone else?

This is a long story so grab some popcorn lol
We met in college instantly fell in love and wanted to be together, after about a year she went to Sydney to help her psychotic father and I went to Melbourne to help a friend look after her daighter and run a little motel on the mornington penninsula. We had a falling out because I was really excited to talk to her but she claimed I was just talking about myself which, well I was but just excited to talk to her, she got upset with me then wanted to break up, that was the first breakup....
We ended up talking again after we came back home, the connection was always really strong, and we were together for a bit. We went to a friends place for a little gathering and there were these guys that were trying to seperate us, being drunk i was just having a good time dancing and thinking i could fully trust my partner, when it came to sleep, I was sortof shuffled into the bedroom, i laid down for a second before I was like where is my partner? I walk out and see my partner locking lips with our other friend. That was the second breakup... I was sooo deeply hurt because i was really in love with her, I felt ultimately betrayed. I left and the next day she rocked up at my work begging me to forgive her. I dont know why I did but I forgave her and we were together again. So we end up being together for a bit because I was just so infatuated with her, we end up having a falling out because It was hard to trust her, I was trying but we ended up breaking up again after about 6 months. I ended up going out one night to the LGBT bar and met someone, became in love with their sister and ended up being with them on and off for 6 years. It was turbulent pretty much the whole time with both exes, I still kept in contact with the college ex because it was on and off with the ex at the time, lets call the college ex Poo and the other ex Tubs just to make it easier lol So I was on a off period with Tubs and I kept wanting to spend time with Poo, we ended up going to this dudes house and just hanging out, we werent really together at the time but she knew how much I wanted her, I went to the toilet and I walk out to find there was nowhere around cause I swear I just saw them, i hear a noise out into the laundry area and shes on top of the washing machine getting plowed by this guy shes virtually just met, I burst through the door considering they were trying to hold the door from me getting in. I lost my shit but I did actually try to get her to leave the guy because it was kindof abusive, she was still technically my friend and she is a lesbian so it was pretty fucked to see, plus I never stopped having feelings for her so it was hard. She was with this piece of shit guy for 2 years.
So after a little while of trying to get my life back together, Tubs messages me again we go back together. About 6 years in Tubs cheated on me with our friend at the time but I still lived with her for another 2 years after that. Believe me when I tell you it was a struggle. I walked into the other room in our rental and she was just on top of him, I just turned around and walked away. I was in a dark depression for a while. Because I continued to live with her After a while of not hearing from Poo i get a message from her wondering what ive been doing. We started messaging back and forth, then started hanging out, Idk why my ex that I was with for 6 years was upset we were hanging out we were living in the same house but after she cheated that was it, she knew how much I loved my ex from college plus i didnt want to live with Tubs because she was not only physically abusive but emotionally as well. So I left and Poo starts hanging out at the place im at, a share house with a tiny room. I was also doing a diploma of interactive gaming and digital media at the time, but i was the one making her food and paying for the Rent/Utilities on a study payment. it was doing my head in because she would just complain about everything. I could see where it was going so I threw her bag out and told her to leave, it was hard but I was struggling and she wasnt caring about my situation enough. it was a struggle back and forth because I just felt so hurt after everything that happened with Tubs. I ended up really trying with Poo, we ended up moving in with her family for a bit, then we went and stayed with my family and my family were a bit of a nightmare. We had alot of arguments, some good moments but we needed to get out so we found a place, it was beautiful, right by the beach. It was a great place, we were starting to thrive, it was the first time in a long time I felt really safe and secure so I proposed to her after being together for about 3 years and knowing each other for even longer, and she said yes. I was the happiest for a little bit. We ended up having her brother stay with us rent free because he had no where to go apparently, and tried very hard to break us up, which imo he succeeded at. He used to say the most awful things, I should have told him to leave week 1 but I was trying to do the right thing by my partner he was family so i just had to deal, but Poo was just soo angry all the time, one of arguments ended up with her punching the wall and put a hole in it, I was angry too I actually kicked our tomato plant and destroyed it after she punch the wall :/I cried instantly because the poor plant didnt deserve it :/ i felt so bad.. Anyway Covid hit and Poo went into panic mode. We ended up buying a caravan and going down to my parents farm to live, there wasnt anything down there, no power, no water nadda. She couldnt handle it, everyday was a struggle,my parents were getting increasingly annoyed and we tried finding a place to move into but it got overwealming, she asked me if I was her Soul Mate and I said I didnt know, she took that as a no and left before I woke up the next day. It was probably the biggest regret, it was in the heat of an argument and I dont know why I said I didnt know because I did know after all that time of waiting for her of course, i thought my actions would have said that I was dedicated to her... My heart shattered. She left me with the 2 cats and a severely broken heart. I felt like I was going to die and for a time I wasnt opposed to the idea. My parents moved out like a couple of weeks later which was even more heartbreaking, I was there by myself with no car and barely any food. Was a crazy fun time :/
I ended up moving to a friends place after my father got incredibly abusive and physically attacked me, hes been through alot, had cancer almost died, had his family betray him constantly he was a bit broken for a while but we have repaired our family a bit since then, but im still very very cautious around them. i changed my life completely, I started getting back into music, I joined a band as the Drummer we are becoming more successful, I made 2 albums and im currently working on a personal special album with all my skills ive learnt over the years into one. So Poo decides she wants to keep talking to me, because my mental health is improving and considering we have been friends for a long time I just wanted to catchup. So we hang out for a bit then we end up sleeping together, I tell her how much I missed her and ask if theres ever a chance it could go back to the way it was, she says no and that she cant ever have a relationship with me again because we were both toxic in the relationship and we have too many arguments. I started going downhill really badly because of it, sleeping with someone as a mon demisexual and not having that reassurance really messed with me. I tried to distant myself from her but also feeling like I didnt want to let her go because she was the one I wanted to marry. I went on the dating app after being rejected a few times and met someone who I went on a few dates with, I went to her house, had the most uncomfortable sex ever, it almost felt like SA because I wasnt ready...I cried all the way home and uninstalled the apps for a while. I decided i would give it another go after about 6 months, which I thought was actually alright because she was really compassionate, it was long distance, I thought that would be better but then after 3 months told me she had been seeing someone else the entire time..that sucked. I ended up moving out the back of my mates place in the caravan, Poo starts coming around more regularly and we start spending alot of time together. I was insecure the entire time, I kept losing it everytime she would leave because of abandonment issues thinking she was just sleeping with a bunch of people considering she would stay for a couple of days and then go back to her mums (where shes been living), I kept expressing the promise you make to someone when you sleep with them and it wasnt just sex there was a real connection, we would laugh and have alot of fun together. I kept pouring my heart out only to get rejected. I really wanted her to be committed to me and only me because I just wanted to be with her and only her, but also being rejected after a while of not having that connection i got lonely and wanted to find that connection with someone again, but I feel like everytime I try Poo is just there ready to break all my walls just so I cant be with anyone else, then when she has me she doesnt want me...its so fucking confusing! 5 months ago just before Christmas we were just hanging out and it has been a little bit that we were sleeping together and I get this strange feeling, an intuition if you want to call it that, that she is seeing other people, I look through her phone and find a few dating apps on there, she spots me looking at her phone and loses it, i remember specifically though her saying she was banned from one of them a while ago, Ive never looked through her phone even when she wasnt looking I just needed to be sure. I felt lied to and i told her I didnt want to see her anymore for a while. I tried messaging her to catchup as friends around Christmas and to see her, its been years since I havent spent a Christmas and New Year with her all I got was a Happy Christmas and New Year message it was weird that she went really quiet, I had this feeling that she met someone. Well we end up catching up a couple of months ago and she told me shes met someone and shes married with a kid but they are seperated but shes sleeping with her. I tried to get past it and to be friends but shes a completely different person, the way she talks everything, super closed off. It was a looong conversation about me not being able to get over the fact that i felt abandoned by her AGAIN for the millionth time, I said I fucking hated her for putting me through all this shit and blocked her. She made me feel incredibly insecure and I feel like I lost my best friend/soul mate but she just keeps hurting me, I wasnt sure if Im the asshole in all of this...she has blamed me for so many years for so many things. I admit I havent been the easiest at times, I have PTSD from sexual assault and depression, but I have fought really really hard to just live my life and try and be happy, most people say really nice things about me, people say im a catch so i guess I cant be that bad, but I have had moments with Poo specifically where I didnt recognise myself, and I felt like a different person that I didnt like. AITA?
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2024.05.11 10:28 International_Crab50 Neighbor complaining about noise and calling us a whor3house

Hi fellow hosts, I come to you in hopes of getting some advice.
I live in London but have a small flat in Sardinia (my partner’s hometown) which we started renting on Airbnb 1.5 years ago.
We have a neighbour living on the same floor as the flat, and his bedroom is right next to our bathroom.
Note: we didn’t know that when we bought the flat, but apparently he is a bit known locally as being a hothead who’s been to prison a couple of times.
For the past 1.5 years he’s been complaining about noise, especially when we (or tourists) are “walking” and “showering” late in the evenings.
He claims he starts work at 4am and is tired of getting woken up by showers at 10pm.
He wrote us and our tenants numerous paper notes where he sounds very aggressive and upset about the noise. He also comments on how they take their trash out, how they use the elevator too much…
There was once a sex worker who rented our flat to carry out her business (I believe it’s illegal to do that on Airbnb so we told her to leave after 3 days) and he saw her, since then he’s been referring to our flat as “the whorehouse”.
We met him once, a few weeks after having purchased the flat, and immediately he told us we were too loud (I can assure you we weren’t, we always whispered when talking, however we did shower late in the evening).
I wonder what I should do?? He sounds like a dick, it’s not our fault his bedroom is right next to our bathroom, and I don’t think we should stop renting just because of his comfort.
However I’m thinking of putting some reminder notes around the flat to keep it quiet and avoid late showers ?
What do you think, fellow hosts?
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2024.05.11 10:02 NicoleLove74 Dirty Talk – First-Hand Information About What It's Like to Be A Whore

If you watch porn, and turn on the sound, it’s all the time “oh yes, yes, yes, fuck me, harder, harder, hmmmm your cock is so big, ahhhhh” and more sex noises. In porn, the actress moans during sex to create the illusion for us viewers that she enjoys what she’s doing. This is a brain stimulant; our brain is in charge of our excitement and arousal.
Did you know: because dirty talk can increase our arousal, it can also make our orgasm more intense…
When I have sex in private or masturbate, I am always loud, I love to listen to my own heavy breath and moans, it boosts my arousal. During sex with my customers, I have to be loud, but then it is all show and I mainly do it because it boosts the sex drive and arousal of my customers. I am always busy to find out what they need, in terms of sound. With most customers it’s easy to guess. Some customers want soft horny moans, others want me to be a bit louder, and there are those who get horny when I go wild and dirty talk.
When it comes to dirty talk, I say what I want the customer to do with me and describe what it is I like about it. For example, “You make me so wet, fuck me harder, I want to make you cum, that feels so good, I’ve been waiting for this all day, you’re so much bigger, whatever you do-don’t stop.” I also talk during sex to direct my customers. For example, if his cock wants too flop out, I moan that I want him to go deeper. If he pays for an hour and already in the first minutes, he is ready to cum, I say I want it slow, so he gets his money worth. If he's holding it, and he has only a couple of minutes left, I say out loud that I want him to fuck me hard!
If I talk to my customers, and I do that in my usual tone, it destroys the illusion. But the same happens when I moan like a porn actress all the time, then it becomes fake. But it never went wrong with talking and whispering softly. That's always horny for my customers, because it makes it more intimate.
When I think about it, I always have been loud during sex, that is why It has never been difficult for me to put on a show at work. Sound is important for my customers. I use it to strengthen the illusion. Sometimes I have to moan like a porn actress, a horny stepmom, or they want the girlfriend experience, but that’s a completely different story.
I can imagine that this post is informative in relation to my work, but when I have sex out of love, purely from my own feeling and perspective, moaning, or being silent, I don't do it on command, I don't think about that, especially not if I really enjoy the sex. So, I leave my loud sounds for what they are and how they come.
I don't mean to say in this post that woman have to be loud during sex, after all, sex is not a stage performance. But for my work, that is a different story, I hope you understand that.
I hope you enjoyed reading it; I write about what’s it like to be a prostitute. Why? Because I can't talk about it with my family and friends. I’m 42 and a single mom of 2 and joined REDDIT so I can tell in this community my story undisturbed.
I created my own community on REDDIT: “Life_as_a_Sex_Worker” hope to see you all there, many more post will follow. Any questions, suggestions? Send me a private message, big hugs to you all XXX
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2024.05.11 06:00 PearPumpkinTommy Trade in Kind 3

She breathlessly lunged across the chasm, catching the edge and skittering up and over the lip of the next building. She scrambled against the wall that created the lip, chest heaving. Trying to calm the fire erupting from her lungs without making noise.
Then she heard it. A roof access door flew open and a small tink sound. A few seconds later, a shock wave and bright light passed over her head. She then heard the boots. Military precision. The light still burning projected their silhouettes on the taller building behind her position. She counted eight. An army of feet sounded as they mechanically swept the roof for her presence.
The light fizzled out and her world went dark. As the darkness swept in, the team looking for her went silent. No more boots. No more light. She felt blind and deaf. All she could hear were her two hearts racing each other past her auditory membranes. Swiiiiish. Thub. Swoooohs. Thib. Swiiiish. Thub. Swoooohs.
Her anxiety rose up into her nasal cavity. Her eyes started watering. They knew. Run. Go. They wouldn't stay still this long. You're dead if you don't move.
She tried to stop herself but she couldn't. Slowly inching up to get her eyes over the ledge, holding her head sideways so her plume wouldnt give her away, her right eye broke the surface. She saw them. One was looking right at her. He brought his gun up and pointed it right at her, the light causing her eye to constrict to a tiny point.
This is it. Her death. This was just masonry. Their bullets would make short work of the wall, her, and probably the building behind her. Closing her eyes, she prayed. Mumbling out the prayer her parents taught her in her youth, "O Arine, teacher of roads, keeper of knowledge, please use my mind to perfect your realm." She swallowed. Hard.
And waited. And then kept waiting. She parted her clenched eyes.
Why wasn't she dead?
She opened her eyes fully and brought her head up sideways again. The one that had to have spotted her was looking over the edge of the building searching the street below for something. The guard heard another speak and turned towards what looked like a leader. They appeared to have a conversation, but she couldn't hear a thing. Or.....anything. No air noise. No street sounds. She tapped an ear. No, she'd heard that.
"Don't worry, they can't see past the barrier."
She screached in shock and dove at her attacker, talons outstretched. He dodged the incoming attack deftly, but did nothing else. She slammed into the ground and skittered to regain her footing and spun around, wings outstretched talons flared.
"I'm Marlon. I believe I was expecting you, K'lithay?"
She raised her head from her fighting stance at her name. Her lungs rasped as she pulled in air. "You....are my contact?"
"Yes."
She lumbered at breathing for another moment. "Who--What are you?" Her eyes took in this short bag of flesh as her arms slowly fell to her sides. A short, cropped mash of fine fur on it's head, two small eyes, some sort of potruberance just below them and a flappy structure that seemed to be its mouth. A pulpy stub of flesh came out and quickly circled the opening.
The creature huffed and then said, "I am human. I need to get you to the space port so that we can get you off this rock."
K'lithay chittered her beak. "And just how are we going to waltz onto a ship? I'm very conspicuous, you know."
"Oh, I'm well aware that an almost three meter tall, taloned, and brightly colored rainbow such as yourself is very obvious. But, if you are willing to act without pride and stay a slave a bit longer, I think I can just take you through the front door."
Marlon held up a slave shackle and imprint pad. K'lithay eyed them suspiciously. "You expect me to willingly give myself to you? After what I just did to escape?"
"Only until we can get to the shuttle. If you look over the data on the pad, you'll see its a paid servant contract that expired last year. Here, they'll never question why you are still shackled and owned, but once we aren't in Larin space, you can leave at any time."
"Except I'll be shackled," she raised her wing and pointed to a calloused spot on the forearm, "That's how you control me."
"Ahh, but you'll find human ingenuity at it's finest in this shackle!" Marlon snapped the shackle onto his wrist and tossed the control unit to her.
K'lithay sneered as she caught it. "Oh, so you'll let me shock you. Boo hoo, then I'll release you and I'll be stuck with the real deal."
Marlon huffed air again. "This is a trick hinge. You can take it off any time you want. Start pressing controls, you'll see im not harmed in the least."
K'lithay examined the control device. It was basically the same unit her master -- ex-master, she chided herself - had used. She tapped the shock button.
Marlon held it up. A small electric arc showed at the edge of the collar, but it looked like it had just tightened up on the inside, somehow. He didn't seem the least bit concerned that he should be falling to the ground in pain.
"It tightens to let me know when you've pressed the button, so that if anyone were to get the controller, I can still play along. For shock, it tightens and displays this little bolt to make the show. It'll release when you stop pressing the button. For the chime it'll tighten three times rapidly to let you know you've been called and it'll blink amber on the top. If you run out of time, it'll tighten in pulses to let you know you are getting progressively worse shocks for not coming."
"What even is the point of this? It's got to be impossibly expensive to even make a fake shackle."
"Expense?" A strange forced halting sound came out of the creature's mouth, "It's not nearly as .....expensive as your life."
"Hah. My life was purchased for two kilograms of keri beans. I'm not worth this. You are trying to scam me."
Marlon stared at her. She saw a strange hardness in the muscles on his face that weren't there a moment ago. The eyes. Just a moment ago, they seemed....soft. Now there was a rigid hardness that unsettled her, she felt like prey to a hungry predator. The white around an icy blue coloring only accentuated the blackness at the center of the creature's sight. Her heart started beating faster.
"I would have you know that each life - every one - is priceless. No amount of expense is spared saving people from your former life - not even my own life." Marlon said in a way that reverberated through her very bones as he took a step towards her.
K'lithay blinked and stepped back, unsure of what was coming as Marlon approached and brought up his arm. "Now, if you press here and here, the shackle pops off on the hinge side and the lock side stays locked. Here, you try it!" Marlon said with his former demeanor, holding up the shackle.
K'lithay haltingly took hold of it, her heart still beating a pace quicker than normal. She eyed the device, then eyed this strange creature before her.
"What are you?"
"A human."
"But...what are...what is a human?"
"Oh! We were conquered as slaves by the Xen'cready a couple centuries ago. We've lost our home world and so most of us just kind of wander and help where we are needed. "
"Why?"
"Because.... it's only when you've lost everything that you see the universe for what it is. "
"Uh huh." K'lithay undulated her plumage, "And the scam finally comes out. Let's hear it. What is the universe?"
"It's us. Our love, joy, hatred, passion. The evil and the good. This cycle - slavery, power, money - it can only be stopped if each of us stop it." Marlon swung the roof door open with a flourish. "Now. If you want out, we have a ride to catch."
K'lithay stared out the window of their cabin. It was cramped, but it was private for the two of them. It had been a long day. It was hard to act a slave. Marlon insisted that nothing seem out of the ordinary for a master to slave relationship.
The Kirellan guard had been the worst. Instead of dropping him limb from limb for being a piece of slaving trash, she'd had to a act the part of simpering slave and react to Marlon's fake shocks.
She looked over on the floor to Marlon's sleeping form. He'd insisted she take the bed. Had she not met him on that rooftop, he'd certainly look exactly like her m- ex-master. He'd made her bring him food, then groused with another slaver about her beating up his slave over bets.
She chittered softly to herself as she sank into an uneasy slumber.
K'lithay stood and watched from her vantage point as part of the wait staff at a restaurant on one of the docks. In the six months since Marlon had brought her here and set her free, she had worked and observed the humans.
They had an "Embassy" down in the Scourge - a place that wasn't misnamed - that none of the criminals would touch.
All of these humans seemed to have jobs on the ships, but she never saw any of them talk to the crew, just disappear when they were about to leave and reappear when the ships docked.
After all they had done, she didn't mistrust the humans, exactly, but something about them bothered her. They had no jobs, no way to earn money, but they were always there to help anyone out. And the way the ship crews talked about them - like some sort of lucky charm mixed with a pet mixed with a spirit - made her....uneasy.
Marlon snapped her from her inner thoughts. "Good morning, K'lithay, my dear. How are you, today?"
"Oh, Hi, Marlon. What can I get for you?"
"Some Askarian eggs, scrambled, and a pint of cathan smoked meat. A cup of Joe would be good, too." He said in a rigid, gravelly tone.
"Alright. That'll be twelve credits. "
Marlon laid a credit stick on the table as she poured the cup of hot green liquid. His eyes were unfocused, ringed in red. She knew all too well what that meant. He had lost a slave during a rescue.
"What happened out there?"
He looked at her and blinked a couple of times. "A piece of trash put a bomb into her sex slave. When he ran too far from his owners home, it ruptured a vial of acid inside his brain. He cried out and I caught him. I thought maybe he had caught his leg or something.... but then I saw it. His torso was bubbling.....He grabbed me and said 'Thank you'. I....I kind of went a little haywire."
K'lithay watched his jaw tremble and fluid run down his face, his eyes fixed on the swirling mug in front of him. "Hey! It'll be okay. Like you said last time, you can't win them all." She attempted to comfort him.
"No. I gave up my position.....I went too far." He looked up at her. " I went back to this owners home and I....cut right into her reproductive sack and then tied her up and left her for her hounds to find. I watched her scream as they tore her into scraps."
K'lithay cocked her head. "So? It's what she probably deserved."
"NO!" Marlon snapped at her heavily, "I cannot be judge, jury, and executioner! None of us can!" Other diners turned at the outburst and Marlon glanced around, lowering his voice. "How many slaves did I just kill by making their owners afraid for their own lives, K'lithay?"
K'lithay blinked. She rolled his words over in her mind. The Humans always had a unique view. Not just the immediate, but also, somehow, a medium and long term view all at the same time. He was right. Masters -- OWNERS - would try to protect themselves above all else.
"So, what are you going to do then?"
"I'll find a local place for a few months and see where else I can fit, I guess. The Embassy is always looking for help."
"Don't go there! I think they are raising an army."
Marlon stopped cold, his mug half raised, his face trying to decide between despair and shock. "Errrr.... what?"
"I've heard rumors that the humans who run that place are creating an army so they can start taking ships. That's why you heart about all these stowaways that only contribute for free."
"Uh....huh." Marlon was clearly processing what she'd said. "Man, people really have a knack for getting things half right." Marlon started his human laughing.
K'lithay ruffled her plumage, flustered. "How can you cry and then laugh??"
Marlon slowly stopped laughing over the next moment, and then took another drink. "I have a lot more crying coming, K'lithay," Marlon said, dipping into a sad tone, "But you gave me a little context, and helped brighten my day. Thank you." He got up to leave.
K'lithay looked down and grabbed his credit stick. "Your credit stick, Marlon!"
"Keep it."
K'lithay watched Marlon leave. Once he was out of sight, she reached into her smock and pulled out a notebook. Flipping through the pages, she found her previous note, "Human army?" and slid a line through it with her pen. She clucked, pondering. Why are humans so....human?
She brought her gaze to the credit stick in her hand. The digital funds read out said 1100 credits remaining. Her jaw dropped and she instinctively looked back for Marlon, but didn't see him anywhere.
Marlon walked, somewhat cheered in disposition. He pulled out his handtop and reread the resignation email he sent.
He couldn't find fault with his need to resign, even now, so he let it be. He looked up to see three Officers of a ship staring slack jawed at a young woman and her....grandfather? Or at least a much older gentleman.
He maneuvered closer to try to hear why a crew was actually talking to a human.
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2024.05.11 05:47 ElogantedMusk Does anyone else just accept the fact that they’ll be alone?

I’m 22 and honestly I’ve never actually dated. Sure I had lots of long distance online relationships. I’ve only kissed two girls and I never had sex. I never knew what it’s like to snuggle with women on a coach watching our favorite show. I used be so upset I never experienced this. I thought I could experience in college. I thought I was pathetic. Now I just said I don’t care. I have a goal to make manga, that only thing driving me, part of it so I can drown out the noise of never having a lover or partner or even a fwb.
It’s crazy that trying to making popular shonen manga/anime sounds for feasibile than trying to get laid one time. I dropped out of college to focus on this goal. Deep down I know I will be alone. If a girl like me that’s cool. But I think I severed my desire for dating or lover. This sound so edgy but I rather not go imo that hell of hating myself again and self loathing because I couldn’t get pussy.
Anyway I just sorta accepted love or partnership or even sex isn’t a luxury I get to have.
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2024.05.11 02:28 PESSSSTILENCE cursed ultrakill

cursed ultrakill
theres no r34 flair😭
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2024.05.11 01:25 Impossible-Variety99 My partner cane home and I was disappointed.

My partner [25F] came home early and I was... disappointed.
Both mid-20's female [25F]. Been together for 2 years, living together.
Tl;dr: I don't enjoy myself around my partner.
I'm at a loss at this point. I don't know what to do. I want to love her the way I should, and sometimes I truly do. She's never done anything wrong. We've only had a few minor hiccups. But she moved in with me and suddenly I just want to be left alone... I finally had an entire day to myself, and I was so excited. I spent all day so happy and ready to take on the day. It was the best day I'd had in a long time. And then I got a text that she was coming home 3 hours early. I sighed and rolled my eyes instead of getting excited. Now that she's home, I'm irritable and I don't want to listen to her ramble or make weird noises or talk in a baby voice to the cat.
We barely ever have sex anymore. But if were up to her it'd be all the time. I try so hard to be a better partner, to love her the way I used to. But it's just... gone. And I don't know why. She's generous, beautiful, a sweetheart, and she does so much for me. I've thought about ending things but that would absolutely devastate her. And I'm afraid of regretting it. And I'd be forcing her to move back in with homophobic parents. And I'd lose my best friend in the process.
How do I salvage this?
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2024.05.10 22:55 pigeon_in_a_bucket I hate the guy in my art group

Alright, so... On Mondays, I go to an art group that teaches some techniques but can also just be there for socializing. I've found great friends in that group. When I first started there, I was 14.
There was this guy, I'll call him L, that I started to befriend due to us both liking minecraft. He said he had his own server and would let me join it, to which I agreed and we started calling eachother on weekends and holidays to play minecraft together. Although he was sometimes annoying, he was alright.
(For some context: he had some mental disabilities that I don't exactly know, but due to them his parents let everything he ever did slide)
One day, a month after I turned 15, he texted me something along the lines of "This is really weird, but I dreamed of you and we had 🍑🍆😂". With those exact Emojis. I didn't know what to reply and told L honestly, that I didn't know what to reply. He then said "Weird, I know." as if it was nothing. I thought nothing more of it, although I tried to avoid him as nice as possibly. I didn't tell anyone of this.
Some months later, a girl I'll call S joined the group. She was around my age. L once brought a balloon to the group and started to make those squeezy noises with it. S constantly repeated that she didn't want him to continue with those noises, I didn't even realize most of the conversation as I was talking with someone else, a girl I'll name A. Suddenly, L starts yelling and crying and leaves the room while S sits down back where she originally was sitting. A and I didn't notice, but S stood up and gave him a neck slapper.
The guy watching over the group, an adult man idk how old, was surprised as to what has happened, as apparently his hearing wasn't able to pick up the noises of the balloon and he just witnessed S hitting L. He asked what happened and she told him how annoyed she was by the balloon, and how L wouldn't listen to her to stop. A and I were quite shocked by the situation.
To sum up the happening of the evening, L stormed off early, leaving only girls to be left in the room. S, A, three others and me. That is where another girl, I'll call her M, told us that L wouldn't leave her alone in the holidays and called her daily about how he wanted to go to the cinema with her. She was 14. This is where I brought up the sexting message he sent me.
A then told us, that L is 19....
I didn't want to believe that. A confronted the supervisor about the unacceptable behavior L showed: disregarding the word stop, wanting to take an underage girl to the cinema and even sexting a minor.
What the supervisor replied to the sexting? "Do you know why he send you that message? Because he has a crush on you.". This shattered my view of the supervisor. Oh yes, an adult man "just" has a crush on me. An adult man that "just" won't stop when you tell him to. An adult man that doesn't care about boundaries.
A and the supervisor had a long argument which ended in nothing, as A couldn't tell our supervisor who to kick out or not, but wanted him to confront the parents. That never happened.
After that Monday there were summer holidays, which is why we never continued that conversation. S left the group but M told us, that the evening where everything happened, she had to walk S home because S was too afraid of L assaulting her on the streets.
L behaves like a child. And apparently, due to his mental disability, he's apparently behaving like a 14 year old guy. But his parents don't do anything about his behavior. He'll, not even our supervisor does it. I hate that guy. M and I always talk about how we don't like him. And honestly, he was my last straw to pick the bear.
I've had bad experiences with men before him, but really, that was too much for me. I hate that guy. I hate how he didn't even remember my name, as he asked me some weeks ago, and still managed to dream about sex with me. I was 15 for a month, he was 19. He doesn't know when to stop and I don't even want to think about how long he possibly could have has those dreams.
Everything that happened is now a while back but I still feel shitty thinking about it...
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2024.05.10 21:31 mild_snakz 35 [M4F] NY/Northeast US- Come for the pizza, stay for the dog (and probably me)

Hello!
I'll be honest right off the riff so as to not waste anyone's time, I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for right now. I don't need anyone in my life, but I want some kind of companionship/intimacy. If we mesh really well, I won't say no to a long-term relationship, but I'm not rushing into one anytime soon. If you're OK with that, keep reading! If not, best of luck to you!
Rapid-fire facts, Go!: I'm a progressive liberal, atheist, and feminist. I'm also permanently child-free, having had a vasectomy. I have two dogs, a cat, and a bird. I own a house. Lastly, I can't smell.
 
In a nutshell, I'm a shy, introverted, hopeless-romantic dork with a big libido, a bigger heart, and a vernacular stuck somewhere between academic and dude-bro.
I'm passionate about games and music, as well as science and history. I spend way too much time watching videos on those topics on Youtube and I love learning constantly. I'll play just about anything with you and listen to whatever music you want to share. I'm currently playing Fallout: New Vegas, Armored Core VI and Elden Ring. I like prog-metal, jazz and synthwave music, just to name a few genres.
I'm definitely more of a listener than a talker, but I can go off endlessly given the right topic, and if you are enthusiastic about my blathering. I'm equally as capable of getting into deep, emotional, intelligent, and sensitive subjects as I am being a goofy clown or pervy deviant. No topic is off the table for me and there's no such thing as giving me TMI. I'm very laid back and I very rarely, if ever, get offended.
I appreciate a lot of different styles of humor, but it's hard to go wrong with "hur hur poopie go bbrrrpt". I'm pretty shy when I'm being myself, but I love getting into character and put on a performance. I live on making the people I care about laugh and being entertained, no matter how stupid I look. I also make random weird noises at times, so there's that.
I'm definitely a homebody. My ideal day with a partner is playing games together, cuddling up watching movies/TV, doing some hobbies together (or apart), maybe going out to dinner, having a good bang or two, and more cuddling! That's not to say I don't enjoy going out doing adventurous stuff, because I absolutely do. It's just that 9 times out of 10, I'd vote for staying in.
As alluded to, I have a medium-high sex drive and I'm sex-positive, it's all very important to me. Touch is my primary love language, followed by verbal affirmation and time spent together. I'll admit, I like some clinginess from a partner, but not to the point of creating needless jealousy and tension.
I consider myself an "anti-asshole", politically speaking. It does not mean I'm above talking shit about conservatives, especially those in government and the far-right variety. I simply mean I'm generally against anyone and anything that tries to restrict the rights of ordinary people (no, that does not mean I'm a libertarian). I'm pro-LGBT+ rights, pro-abortion and women's rights, pro-union and work reform, pro-universal healthcare, pro-accessible education, etc.
I also want to promote honesty and clear communication, so I'm putting my full-self out here, flaws and all, hoping the right person appreciates it. Here we go…
I am in therapy and being treated for depression, anxiety issues, and OCD. I'm almost certainly on the autism spectrum, as I have trouble with reading subtlety and I tend to be more blunt and honest than tactful in a casual setting.
I am divorced. I know that matters to some people, but not particularly to me if you are or aren't divorced yourself.
I never finished my college degree, but I plan on finishing someday, when I believe it won't just be a money sink.
I am really bad at making the first move. Mostly it's just due to being painfully shy, but also out of respect for others' space and wishes. I mesh best with someone who isn't afraid to engage/reach out. I promise I'm a good conversationalist, I just need someone to give me a chance.
Also I'm 5' 10" (178 cm), bald and bearded, with a little extra around the belly, this is what I look like. I'd like to start a gym routine, but that's easier said than done.
 
So what do I like?
While I have physical and personal preferences like anyone else, I don’t like to pigeon-hole myself by saying "you should be this and this…", but I do value these traits/values, from most to least important:
  1. Empathy & compassion
  2. Intelligence
  3. Honesty & authenticity
  4. Sexual compatibility
  5. Humor (dark, sarcastic, goofy, etc.)
  6. Open and clear communication
  7. Political views
  8. Shared interests
  9. Open-mindedness
  10. Willingness to sing duets in the car
I only ask for three things when messaging me:
  1. I'd like to swap pics from the get-go, or at the very least, early into our dialogue. You already know what I look like.
  2. Tell me a little bit about yourself, help start a conversation. I've already told you a lot about myself, help me get to know you!
  3. Please be around 27-37 years old.
…And you made it! I'd hope for your sake you actually read all this because you're interested. Looking forward to hearing from you!
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2024.05.10 17:30 DotNo5049 there is no noise reduction. I updated the app and the noise reduction part is gone, it picks up all the background sounds when I talk. Please fix this back, or show me how to install the old version.

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2024.05.10 16:17 shinyaxe Having a relationship roadblock because sex is hard for me.

Disclaimer I’m not diagnosed but I have suspicions that I have autistic traits and have an evident family history of autism. Posting here because I think y’all will understand what I’m feeling and maybe have some advice.
I think I (26f) am kinda burnt out. My job feels like a meaningless slog and I never have any time for myself or hobbies or interests. I live with my fiancé (27m, professionally diagnosed) and feel like we struggle with managing our household. He is also in an unfulfilling and stressful job and actively looking for a new one. Our household chores don’t get done with any sense of regularity, projects sit around half done for weeks before they get completed. Our to-do list is eight miles long (especially because wedding). I feel like I’m mentally keeping tabs on all of it, but neither of us can execute it. All this to say I feel a bit worn ragged.
Our sex life has struggled for a while, in part because I have difficulty feeling the desire or excitement. Sometimes I feel like I could get in the mood, but the actual act of sex is too tiring or mentally exhausting. I feel like it requires “masking” in that I have to perform and make noises and do dirty talk or my partner perceives I’m uninterested and unenthusiastic and gets turned off. But sometimes I just can’t do it and everything just feels Not Right. Touch oscillates between feeling frustratingly empty or extremely overstimulating. I can’t relax or enjoy anything, I’m just in my head about all the things I’m supposed to be doing. Very much like when you can’t focus on a conversation you’re having because you’re thinking about how to hold your arms, how your face looks, and how you’re supposed to respond.
Times like this I just can’t get the mask working and it ends disastrously. My partner can tell I’m not there, things don’t feel right or go how they’re supposed to, I can’t stomach things like touching lube, everything feels difficult and tiring like a chore. We’ll call it a loss and clean up for bed, but I feel so vulnerable and disregulated. I feel guilty that I can’t even give my higher libido partner satisfying sex the few times we have the opportunity and try. I feel I’m failing him and our relationship. He will sense that I’m upset, and I’ll spiral and say I’m sorry and try to explain my problem. This is emotionally taxing for him too and makes our relationship feel unstable. We talk in circles for an hour, nobody is mad at each other but just exhausted. We say I love you and go to sleep.
Everywhere else I feel our relationship is pretty good. We are each other’s best friend. We share common goals and values, want similar things out of life. We work together on household chores when we can manage to do them. Sometimes we have miscommunications or asshole moments but we apologize and repair. I’m not asexual… but right now I don’t have a lot of bandwidth to want or enjoy sex. He on the other hand would have sex twice a day if I wanted it.
Where do we go from here? Have any of you felt anything like this? Neither of us has any idea how to begin to work on this or if it just is how it is.
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2024.05.10 15:13 AutoNewspaperAdmin [Sports] - Luka Doncic press conference gets interrupted by apparent sex noises NY Post

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2024.05.10 15:13 urbichherself AITAH for shutting my boyfriends dog outside the bedroom when we had s*x?

Me (21F) and my boyfriend (28M) have been together for 5 months now. At first I thought it was very cute how close the relationship he and his dog have. But now I find it a bit annoying, disgusting and maybe unhealthy. He gives an incredible amount of attention to that dog (Boarder Colli): Feeds it with the table, lets it eat the leftovers from our plate and he often doesn't have time to do anything with me because he loves to walk the dog.
Once I was quite sick while the dog had stomach problems (nothing serious, just some noises from the stomach). He was so worried about his dog's stomach that he never noticed me throwing up and lying on the couch all day. Of course I had to cook dinner that day (while he was walking the dog) and after the meal he asked if I wanted to join him for a walk with his dog. I said no and he then got annoyed.
We are quite "active" in the bedroom and the dog MUST always be with him everywhere. I find it disgusting but have tried to ignore the dog while we're at it. But this is especially difficult because he chats and pet the dog while inside me! The last time we had sex, I wasn't very excited (because of the dog) so I said: ok, but then the dog has to get out of the bedroom. After having to say it a couple of times, he finally took the dog out of the bedroom.
When we had finished he said: I have to go out to the dog, I have a very bad conscience for shutting her out. I was furious and very upset, but pretended it was nothing. I don't want to tell him the truth that I find it disgusting that the dog has to be involved during intercourse. Ever since I got together with him, it has felt like I'm with a dog. I love the dog and I love him, but he can't handle the fact that I have boundaries. I just feel that our relationship is controlled by the dog. All we do is walk the dog. We cannot go on holiday where the dog cannot come, and we cannot go to places where dogs are not allowed (such as cinemas or restaurants). He took me once on my birthday to my favorite restaurant but then he couldn't stop talking about how he misses his dog.
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2024.05.10 14:48 AutoNewsAdmin [Sports] - Luka Doncic press conference gets interrupted by apparent sex noises

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2024.05.10 13:40 TinyLaughingLamp Luka Doncic left embarrassed as sex noises interrupt Dallas Mavericks press conference

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2024.05.10 11:56 PriorAnxiety8873 Disrespectful neighbor

I moved into my place over a year ago, I became friends with the neighbour above me. All she did was complain to me about the last tenant making her life a living hell as this tenant had children and apparently all they did was shout scream and bang everyday, the neibourgh also claims that these people gave her anxiety/panic attacks nearly everyday due to the noise.
So as soon as I moved in she was happy as I’m a quiet person with just me, my wife and my animals so we don’t make noise to where she can hear and I make sure to be respectful and not turn my television up past a certain number at a certain time of night nor will I play music before 10am. If I did make a slight noise of banging a door accidently due to wind from open windows then I get a sudden text ‘ hey you okay? Do you mind not banging’ I would profusely apologise.
Anyways on to the point. My neibour recently got a boyfriend about 6 months ago and all they’ve been doing is having LOUD sex from the bed shaking on the floor above my head to the loud squealing she does. I have respectfully said to her “ hey so I got woken up the other day at 7am, is there anyway you could be a little quieter” ( I have said this twice as I have been woken from my sleep twice) she said sorry yes sure we will be quieter.
It’s been nearly everyday since and she seems to not care about who’s below her. It’s not the ‘having sex’ that’s annoying me. Do all you want every girl got to enjoy her life with their new bf/gf whatever just don’t come down to me moaning about previous noises tenants were making, getting high rate coz my door banged shut with wind and then be utterly disrespectful and wake me up from my sleep between 7am-9am it’s even kept me awake at night.
What am trying to say is what I do I do about it? I feel like I’ve covered what I can by telling her it’s disrupting my sleep.
We are ‘friends’ we do things together ( well used too) now bf is here she’s doesn’t care about friendships which is cool as new love birds and all that.
Today was the final straw I shouted ‘ ffs stop being disrespectful’ in my defence it entered my sleep I m at my wits end.
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