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2009.02.18 07:30 /r/Homeless! A "home" for the homeless.
This group is for advice and to share experiences and stories of homelessness. We are a tight knit community made up of formerly homeless and currently homeless as well as others. NO soft begging will be tolerated here. No cash donations , No freemoney, No begging . Someone can normally answer your questions or concerns quickly and with experience. If you are currently homeless and need help or facing homelessness and have questions you found the right sub and welcome.
2018.03.28 02:31 rassmann Personal Finance For The Financially Challenged
Financial advice, frugality tips, stories, opportunities, and general guidance for people who are struggling financially. No Judgement, just advice!
2012.03.22 20:58 slanket A subreddit for gear heads.
A community to get advice and to show off camping and backpacking gear. Helpful folks who love the hobby as much as you do. Please note: We may initiate another blackout to further protest the API changes. Some of the largest subreddits such as funny and teenagers are going private indefinitely.
2024.05.23 13:22 BrokenRoboticFish BWT and stretched lobes, recommendations on where to find fancy hangers?
I started stretching my lobes (aka I gauged my ears) at 32 after ~15 years of thinking it was cool but being afraid of the commitment. I'm currently at 6 mm (2g) and loving it. My daily wear plugs are gold colored titanium and most people just think they're disc shaped studs. BUT, I have a black tie event coming up and I would like to be able to have something a bit less Spartan to wear in my ears. I did find some hangers and plug hoops on Urban Body Jewelry that I like, but Bodyartforms was a bust, and Etsy is a bit overwhelming to search through.
So I ask you, BWT, any recommendations on where to find snazzy hangers for stretched lobes? It's a one time event, so I'm trying to spend less than $100 if possible.
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So I ask you, BWT, any recommendations on where to find snazzy hangers for stretched lobes? It's a one time event, so I'm trying to spend less than $100 if possible.
2024.05.23 13:20 Unique-Victory-3462 Paying rent and expenses after losing savings to bank scam
Dear Friends and Kind Strangers,
I hope this message finds you well. I am reaching out today to ask for your support in helping my beloved mother and grandmother during a challenging time. My mother, Felicia, and my grandmother, Paulina, have always been pillars of strength and love in our family. They have dedicated their lives to caring for others, and now they need our help.
Our Story:
Felicia is 67 years old and has always been a hardworking and devoted individual. She has spent countless hours working to provide for our family, ensuring we had everything we needed. Despite facing her own health challenges, she has never wavered in her commitment to her family and community.
Paulina, 86, is a remarkable woman who has lived a life full of love and kindness. Unfortunately, she is now battling Alzheimer’s, which has significantly impacted her ability to care for herself. My mother, Felicia, has been her primary caregiver, providing constant support and attention despite the immense emotional and physical toll it takes on her.
Why We Need Your Help:
Recently, Felicia and Paulina became victims of an online fraud scheme that wiped out their savings. Despite reporting the crime, the authorities are moving slowly, and the financial recovery process is taking longer than expected. This devastating event has left them struggling to cover their rent and basic living expenses. Their rent is overdue, and they are at risk of losing their home.
To make matters more difficult, I, their son, have been unable to find a job for the past two months due to a back injury. During this time, Felicia and Paulina have been supporting me, despite their limited resources and small pensions. Given their age and financial situation, it is impossible for them to secure a loan to bridge this gap. Additionally, with my father having passed away years ago and no immediate family or friends available to help, our situation is even more dire.
The living conditions in Romania are hard enough as it is, with many people struggling to make ends meet. It is challenging to find help when everyone around us is also facing difficulties.
Why We Need Your Help Urgently:
The place where I live is very small and unsuitable for two sick elderly women. Moving them into my home would mean losing most of their belongings, and it would be unfit for their needs. Such a move would send all of us into a downward spiral, further complicating our situation.
Our Goal:
We aim to raise 400 Euro to help cover their overdue rent and essential living expenses for the next few months. This support will provide them with the stability they need to focus on their health and well-being without the constant worry of financial strain.
Conclusion:
This is unfortunately all I can do for them at such a difficult time. Writing in English so that it may reach as many people as possible is a way to extend our plea for help to those who may be able to offer assistance.
Your generosity and kindness can make a profound impact on the lives of two wonderful women who have given so much to others. We are incredibly grateful for any support you can provide during this difficult time. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for being there for us.
With gratitude,
Costin
The Link for the fundraiser is below
https://4fund.com/ro/ym7sec
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I hope this message finds you well. I am reaching out today to ask for your support in helping my beloved mother and grandmother during a challenging time. My mother, Felicia, and my grandmother, Paulina, have always been pillars of strength and love in our family. They have dedicated their lives to caring for others, and now they need our help.
Our Story:
Felicia is 67 years old and has always been a hardworking and devoted individual. She has spent countless hours working to provide for our family, ensuring we had everything we needed. Despite facing her own health challenges, she has never wavered in her commitment to her family and community.
Paulina, 86, is a remarkable woman who has lived a life full of love and kindness. Unfortunately, she is now battling Alzheimer’s, which has significantly impacted her ability to care for herself. My mother, Felicia, has been her primary caregiver, providing constant support and attention despite the immense emotional and physical toll it takes on her.
Why We Need Your Help:
Recently, Felicia and Paulina became victims of an online fraud scheme that wiped out their savings. Despite reporting the crime, the authorities are moving slowly, and the financial recovery process is taking longer than expected. This devastating event has left them struggling to cover their rent and basic living expenses. Their rent is overdue, and they are at risk of losing their home.
To make matters more difficult, I, their son, have been unable to find a job for the past two months due to a back injury. During this time, Felicia and Paulina have been supporting me, despite their limited resources and small pensions. Given their age and financial situation, it is impossible for them to secure a loan to bridge this gap. Additionally, with my father having passed away years ago and no immediate family or friends available to help, our situation is even more dire.
The living conditions in Romania are hard enough as it is, with many people struggling to make ends meet. It is challenging to find help when everyone around us is also facing difficulties.
Why We Need Your Help Urgently:
The place where I live is very small and unsuitable for two sick elderly women. Moving them into my home would mean losing most of their belongings, and it would be unfit for their needs. Such a move would send all of us into a downward spiral, further complicating our situation.
Our Goal:
We aim to raise 400 Euro to help cover their overdue rent and essential living expenses for the next few months. This support will provide them with the stability they need to focus on their health and well-being without the constant worry of financial strain.
Conclusion:
This is unfortunately all I can do for them at such a difficult time. Writing in English so that it may reach as many people as possible is a way to extend our plea for help to those who may be able to offer assistance.
Your generosity and kindness can make a profound impact on the lives of two wonderful women who have given so much to others. We are incredibly grateful for any support you can provide during this difficult time. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for being there for us.
With gratitude,
Costin
The Link for the fundraiser is below
https://4fund.com/ro/ym7sec
2024.05.23 13:19 Outrageous-Lychee272 What career options are there for someone with my background?
I’m currently finishing off my business administration level 4 certs which is equivalent to the first year of an undergraduate degree. I had originally planned on doing a level 5 then potentially doing a top up course for a full degree. In terms of my current work experience it’s mostly customer service/ entry level basic admin duties.
I’m currently temping in the master data team at a large company.I heavily use excel to compile data from supplier request forms/ component details. I use SAP on a very basic level to update product specifications for existing codes. I also use cape pack to do pallet plans.
I’m currently torn between getting bookkeeping/ admin certs e.g sage or xero or exploring a career in data analytics or similar but not sure how feasible it would be with my education/background. Not sure what options there are for me and if there are roles for people with no experience like me.
Any job suggestions or career advice would be greatly appreciated. Please be specific to the types of roles I could be applying for as it will help me find them on job sites.
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I’m currently temping in the master data team at a large company.I heavily use excel to compile data from supplier request forms/ component details. I use SAP on a very basic level to update product specifications for existing codes. I also use cape pack to do pallet plans.
I’m currently torn between getting bookkeeping/ admin certs e.g sage or xero or exploring a career in data analytics or similar but not sure how feasible it would be with my education/background. Not sure what options there are for me and if there are roles for people with no experience like me.
Any job suggestions or career advice would be greatly appreciated. Please be specific to the types of roles I could be applying for as it will help me find them on job sites.
2024.05.23 13:17 Outrageous-Lychee272 What career options are there for someone with my background?
I’m currently finishing off my business administration level 4 certs which is equivalent to the first year of an undergraduate degree. I had originally planned on doing a level 5 then potentially doing a top up course for a full degree. In terms of my current work experience it’s mostly customer service/ entry level basic admin duties.
I’m currently temping in the master data team at a large company.I heavily use excel to compile data from supplier request forms/ component details. I use SAP on a very basic level to update product specifications for existing codes. I also use cape pack to do pallet plans.
I’m currently torn between getting bookkeeping/ admin certs e.g sage or xero or exploring a career in data analytics or similar but not sure how feasible it would be with my education/background. Not sure what options there are for me and if there are roles for people with no experience like me.
Any job suggestions or career advice would be greatly appreciated. Please be specific to the types of roles I could be applying for as it will help me find them on job sites.
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I’m currently temping in the master data team at a large company.I heavily use excel to compile data from supplier request forms/ component details. I use SAP on a very basic level to update product specifications for existing codes. I also use cape pack to do pallet plans.
I’m currently torn between getting bookkeeping/ admin certs e.g sage or xero or exploring a career in data analytics or similar but not sure how feasible it would be with my education/background. Not sure what options there are for me and if there are roles for people with no experience like me.
Any job suggestions or career advice would be greatly appreciated. Please be specific to the types of roles I could be applying for as it will help me find them on job sites.
2024.05.23 13:16 Ishika2337 Loved Laapataa Ladies? Here Are 5 Other Women-Centric Bollywood Films To Watch
Kiran Rao’s film Laapataa Ladies was recently released on the streaming platform Netflix after its initial release in theatres earlier this year. The light-hearted comedy-drama has been appreciated by the audience for its simplistic portrayal of some societal issues without being too preachy. The writers of the film Biplab Goswami, Sneha Desai and Divyanidhi Sharma have weaved a story around patriarchy and how women struggle to strive for equality in such a society.
Laapataa Ladies stars young, talented actors like Nitanshi Goel, Pratibha Ranta, Sparsh Shrivastav and industry veterans like Chhaya Kadam and Ravi Kishan. The film, set in fictional Nirmal Pradesh, revolves around two newlywed brides, who travel by train to reach their respective ‘sasurals’.
However, when it was time to deboard, a confused Deepak (Sparsh) dragged Jaya (Pratibha), whose face was completely hidden behind a red-colored long veil, out of the train instead of his Phool (Nitanshi). The story then showcases how Jaya helped Deepak find his lost bride Phool.
If you absolutely loved watching Kiran Rao’s Laapataa Ladies, here we suggest you watch these women-centric films next.
The naive homemaker’s life takes a turn when she lands in New York City and gets a chance to learn the language that had made her life miserable back in India. During the course of learning English, Shashi faces inner and outer conflicts, even questioning her role as a mother. English Vinglish encapsulated the plight of every Indian homemaker, who lives between these scarring remarks and little appreciation. Sridevi resumed her career in acting after 15 years as Shashi and was even praised for her role.
An innocent 16-year-old Ganga (Alia) who aspired to become a Bollywood actress, runs away from home with her boyfriend only to be sold by him to a brothel. The constant torture there transformed Ganga into Gangu, who later introduced labour laws in the brothel. Gangu was named Gangubai when she became the madame of the brothel after her predecessor, Seema died. The filmmaker captured the life of an ordinary woman who fought tooth and nail for the rights of sex workers. Gangubai Kathiawadi has won several accolades including National Film Awards for Best Actress and Best Screenplay.
Also Read: Once Within A Time
While the filmmaker tried to discuss feminism through this film in an engaging and entertaining manner, it caused quite a stir in the media, especially with the censor board when its trailer was first released. However, it was well-received by the audience and was even awarded at several film festivals.
Eventually, she comes out about her bisexuality to her mother Shubhangini, played by Revathi, who strongly disapproves of it. The three lead women did a splendid job of portraying their own inhibitions and apprehensions. Moreover, Margarita With A Straw isn’t just another story of a differently-abled person but one of self-discovery.
During her time in Paris and Amsterdam, she met with several people, who ultimately led her to gain confidence in herself. While Vijay tried to come back into Rani’s life after seeing her all changed, the latter thanked him for giving her the chance to grow and handed over the ring to him. Over the years, Queen has emerged as one of the most-watched films in Indian cinema for its simplistic storytelling.
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Laapataa Ladies stars young, talented actors like Nitanshi Goel, Pratibha Ranta, Sparsh Shrivastav and industry veterans like Chhaya Kadam and Ravi Kishan. The film, set in fictional Nirmal Pradesh, revolves around two newlywed brides, who travel by train to reach their respective ‘sasurals’.
However, when it was time to deboard, a confused Deepak (Sparsh) dragged Jaya (Pratibha), whose face was completely hidden behind a red-colored long veil, out of the train instead of his Phool (Nitanshi). The story then showcases how Jaya helped Deepak find his lost bride Phool.
If you absolutely loved watching Kiran Rao’s Laapataa Ladies, here we suggest you watch these women-centric films next.
English Vinglish (2012)
English Vinglish is Gauri Shinde’s first feature film that tells the story of a homemaker, Shashi Godbole, played by the late Sridevi. She manages her entire house, her husband, two children, and a mother-in-law along with running a small ladoo-making business. However, her corporate husband Satish, played by Adil Hussain, and her daughter Sapna, played by Navika Kotia, repeatedly mock Shashi for her broken English.The naive homemaker’s life takes a turn when she lands in New York City and gets a chance to learn the language that had made her life miserable back in India. During the course of learning English, Shashi faces inner and outer conflicts, even questioning her role as a mother. English Vinglish encapsulated the plight of every Indian homemaker, who lives between these scarring remarks and little appreciation. Sridevi resumed her career in acting after 15 years as Shashi and was even praised for her role.
Gangubai Kathiawadi(2022)
Sanjay Leela Bhansali’s directorial is based on Gangubai Kathiawadi’s story from S. Hussain Zaidi’s book Mafia Queens Of Mumbai. The film stars Alia Bhatt as the titular character and Shantanu Maheshwari, Vijay Raaz, Jim Sarbh, Ajay Devgn and Seema Pahwa in other important roles. The story revolves around the lives of sex workers in the infamous red-light district Kamathipura in Mumbai.An innocent 16-year-old Ganga (Alia) who aspired to become a Bollywood actress, runs away from home with her boyfriend only to be sold by him to a brothel. The constant torture there transformed Ganga into Gangu, who later introduced labour laws in the brothel. Gangu was named Gangubai when she became the madame of the brothel after her predecessor, Seema died. The filmmaker captured the life of an ordinary woman who fought tooth and nail for the rights of sex workers. Gangubai Kathiawadi has won several accolades including National Film Awards for Best Actress and Best Screenplay.
Also Read: Once Within A Time
Lipstick Under My Burkha (2016)
Alankrita Shrivastava-directed film Lipstick Under My Burkha revolves around the secret lives of four women who are in search of their freedom. The comedy-drama features Ratna Pathak Shah, Konkona Sen Sharma, Aahana Kumra, and Plabita Borthakur in lead roles. Alankrita portrayed the lives of four women who were living alternate lives: their regular, mundane ones and the second lives of their choice away from society’s regressive mindset.While the filmmaker tried to discuss feminism through this film in an engaging and entertaining manner, it caused quite a stir in the media, especially with the censor board when its trailer was first released. However, it was well-received by the audience and was even awarded at several film festivals.
Margarita With A Straw (2015)
Shonali Bose’s film revolves around the life of a wheelchair-bound Laila with cerebral palsy. She has normal aspirations just like any other girl of her age. As she matures, Laila eventually gets confused about her sexuality. Her dilemma starts when she gets attracted to a man named Jared, played by William Moseley while being in a serious relationship with Khanum portrayed by Sayani Gupta.Eventually, she comes out about her bisexuality to her mother Shubhangini, played by Revathi, who strongly disapproves of it. The three lead women did a splendid job of portraying their own inhibitions and apprehensions. Moreover, Margarita With A Straw isn’t just another story of a differently-abled person but one of self-discovery.
Queen (2013)
Vikas Bahl’s Queen celebrates self-love, turning a tragedy into a path to discover oneself. The story revolves around Kangana Ranaut’s lead character Rani, who is left heartbroken when her fiance Vijay (Rajkummar Rao) calls off their wedding saying that he no longer wishes to marry her. The meek and naive Rani then decides to go to their pre-planned honeymoon destination Paris and Amsterdam after keeping herself locked in her room for a day. After initial hesitation, Rani’s parents agree and let her vacation in the foreign lands on her own.During her time in Paris and Amsterdam, she met with several people, who ultimately led her to gain confidence in herself. While Vijay tried to come back into Rani’s life after seeing her all changed, the latter thanked him for giving her the chance to grow and handed over the ring to him. Over the years, Queen has emerged as one of the most-watched films in Indian cinema for its simplistic storytelling.
2024.05.23 13:16 fuchsnummer1 The last two days around this time there were never that many people active on this subreddit (around 10-15 people usually) I'm just curios, maybe the Mod has some insights? (GMT+2, 13:15 now) Somebody on here said the RF PR Team are certainly looking at this sub??? (I'd find that kind of funny)
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2024.05.23 13:15 Paradoxiamme STORY HUNT WITH A 'FOUND' BOUNTY! A story utilizing lots of ███████ to act as redaction, ocean-themed; and of course, horror. Read here below ↓ and know more.
REWARD BOUNTY EDIT: To further this story hunt, I will compensate whoever can uncover the story for me. I will award whoever correctly finds the right story valuing to that of a month of Reddit Premium. I will also give a present to those who went out and proved an effort to spread this—this only applies if the one who found the story came from said effort—and, 1) the user must have upvoted, commented to create traction, and attached proof that they shared this post.
I am dumbfounded.
Since I have gone through hell and back trying to find that story, I have now arrived at the conclusion that I will need the memory of other people to help me figure out where that story is now.Essentially, this is the overview I have of the story:
- The reason why there are ███████ is because of a sea monster down in the deep.
- As far as I can remember, it's a one-pageone-part-story.
- It could be as old as 2021, or 2019; I tried looking in my history on two of my accounts if it would be there, and it isn't.
- The story mainly delves on a group (I think) trying to research the deep, and (I also think) the story is written to be such because it's like a tampered black box or a classified file that has been leaked.
- The usage of ███████ heavily impacts the story.
- The story isn't like those where it's paragraphs upon paragraphs, it's more on dialogue and such, looking something like this:
- James: I don't know what's happening! All I can see is that ███████ and ███████, can someone get me out of here?! (Of course this isn't the story, but it would look like this)
- Right now I'm tying this trying to remember all the details, lol. That particular story was one of the best stories that got me into writing, and it's just now that I thought about it.
- Apparently, the sea monster makes people who are near it unable to return back alive.
- I am pretty positive that the title of the post itself had ███████ in it, but I can't seem to find it in the search bar.
- Searched in normal Google, found several stories, but didn't find the one I wanted to see.
- Tried looking for my history from long ago. to no avail.
- Searched in the search bar in nosleep.
- Searched in the nosleep index.
- Went to my 2019 account and found no progress.
- Went to this account and did this post.
- Yes, I know the story gained much audience, so it would be very improbable that it got deleted, lost, or such.
Does anybody know what the title is, or at least the link, or maybe if the one who wrote it sees this, please reach out to me.
Thanks for helping out!
Q&A EDIT:
pembunuhcahaya•3m agoApologize for the delete, I needed to make sure I didn't duplicate the post. Anyways, I mean it as what it literally is, the story has ███████ or redaction (in this case blackouts) in the story, instead of the usual [REDACTED] style. Yes, it's intentional.
A story utilizing lots of what, exactly?
Are you censored the word intentionally or is it what it is? I'm as confused as you are.
2024.05.23 13:14 thummer Theory: facial reconstruction
 | https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/article/2024/may/22/tatler-cover-new-portrait-princess-of-wales submitted by thummer to KateMiddletonMissing [link] [comments] The artist, Hannah Uzor, says that they used photographs as Kate did not sit for the portrait. What photographs did they use? Were they recent, and/or taken specifically for the portrait? Obviously they used photos from the Nov 22 banquet. However comparing Kate's face in photos where her mouth is closed as it is in the portrait throws up obvious differences. People are saying that the portrait is terrible because it does not look like Kate did. But what if the photos the artist used are current, and the portrait looks like Kate does now? Is this the soft launch of Kate's new face? If Kate's absence is due to a domestic violence incident at Christmas as is suspected by some, she may have had to undergo multiple facial reconstructive surgeries. The alleged paparazzi photo of Kate in sunglasses in a car with her mother, if real (and it is doubtful), would support this as it appears her face is swollen and her eyes are bruised. If her cheekbone needed repair it may indeed now look as it is depicted in the portrait. Previously: https://www.reddit.com/KateMiddletonMissing/s/lNxbqdcgNd One of my theories: In a Christmas fight, he damaged her face badly (broken eye socket, cheekbone fracture). As a result she had to have reconstructive surgery - is placed in induced coma because something went wrong (brain swelling?). The Mar 4 mothecar photo, if real, was after she had further surgery (which depending on the injuries is not unusual). Her face is swollen, eyes bruised. Carole staged the photo because she is shaking down the royal family, because Kate is going to take them for all they are worth. The family is relatively quiet because the stakes are massive. Kate is incapacitated and Carole is managing the divorce fight. The details about the Middleton’s finances are being leaked by the Palace. Before William hurt Kate, it was a form of his bullying her, threatening to ruin her family, and a source of their fighting. Now it is his weak attempts at retaliation in the divorce negotiations. The crux is the truth. If he doesn’t play ball, the Middletons will tell truth and the Mar 4 car video was a heavy shot across the bows. Her uncle talking about an “announcement” on CBig Brother was referring to the divorce, not her health. William’s strategy is to keep staging proof of life incidents - the Mother’s Day disaster, the farm, the woman with her face turned (he tipped the paps off that he would be passing by), and the cancer AI video, which was a desperate escalation. When you see these as the actions of an entitled bully deploying divorce negotiation tactics they make sense. The Carole Middleton leaks coming out are twofold negotiating ploys: tactical smears from Kensington Palace (finances) and tactical salvos from Kate’s family (good granny/"needs reassurance"). William is terrified about Harry's upcoming UK visit in May because he has no control over Harry and no idea what Harry will do or say. If the reports about Harry finding out about Kate's cancer from the video release are true, this would also support the idea that it is all nonsense. That everything is a lie could also explain his 45 minute visit with his father. He was hustled out as quickly as possible to keep him in the dark as much as they could. William's panic about Harry's visit is evident in the flood of press about "healing the rift" or Megan's "objections" etc etc. |
2024.05.23 13:14 fanficaddict101 AITAH for breaking a promise?
AITAH for breaking a promise? Just for context, I bribed my way to get the secrets out of a girl whom we'll call E.
What happened was, the autistic kid in our class had things stolen from him multiple times. My classmates are actively hating on him as well for having autism.
E is an not very close but ok friend of mine. She and someone else we'll call V has also participated in bullying him.
I have not participated in any of the bullying however, to clear up any confusion.
It was a big deal, even the principal came to tell us to show who did it. I was drawing so I didn't notice anything.
But V and E did.
Because E was the one that stole it, using 'I was hungry.' as an excuse. And V defended her by saying, 'you would too if you were hungry!' but I honestly find this pathetic and stupid.
I go by the saying that I created, 'if you have the courage to do it, you have the courage to face the consequences.'
I was a former bully as well, and I deeply regret what I've done so I had turned myself in. I no longer bully people.
But back to the main subject, I really hated E. Like how could she? Jsyk the Autistic kid was actually very nice and would share food with people if they asked. E would also come to school with food. But she tries to make her life sad and get me to spend my money on her.
Apparently her trauma is, 'her parents not allowing her to get a phone and eat candy everyday.' and she says she hates her parents for it. Which seems very childish to me.
Part of the bribe, I said to not tell anyone who stole it. When it revealed to be her, I was honestly shocked. She claimed herself to be a Christian and follow the word of God.
She's also very lazy, I'm not sure if she's depressed though. She would come to school late, never study, sleep during class, doesn't do homework and guiltrips me into letting her copy mine. She would laugh and talk like a normal person. So I'm 80% sure it's not depression. Correct me if I'm wrong.
She told me not to tell the teacher, saying she'd tell the teacher Which I responded with, 'if you don't tell her. I'll do it for ya' which resulted in her telling me to stfu.
So, even if I didn't want to be labled as a snitch. I obviously told the teacher, which meant I broke the promise.
V was made at me, despite her disliking E as well. Her saying, 'it doesn't matter if it's right or wrong. You made a promise.'
I forgot to add, her selfish act has done the entire class wrong. We cannot use our desk drawers anymore, which is annoying.
The teacher said she received her note, but she needs to tell her in person. Which I find super irritating as she hasn't received any punishment, and doesn't at all regret her actions.
So, AITAH?
(this post may get updates)
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What happened was, the autistic kid in our class had things stolen from him multiple times. My classmates are actively hating on him as well for having autism.
E is an not very close but ok friend of mine. She and someone else we'll call V has also participated in bullying him.
I have not participated in any of the bullying however, to clear up any confusion.
It was a big deal, even the principal came to tell us to show who did it. I was drawing so I didn't notice anything.
But V and E did.
Because E was the one that stole it, using 'I was hungry.' as an excuse. And V defended her by saying, 'you would too if you were hungry!' but I honestly find this pathetic and stupid.
I go by the saying that I created, 'if you have the courage to do it, you have the courage to face the consequences.'
I was a former bully as well, and I deeply regret what I've done so I had turned myself in. I no longer bully people.
But back to the main subject, I really hated E. Like how could she? Jsyk the Autistic kid was actually very nice and would share food with people if they asked. E would also come to school with food. But she tries to make her life sad and get me to spend my money on her.
Apparently her trauma is, 'her parents not allowing her to get a phone and eat candy everyday.' and she says she hates her parents for it. Which seems very childish to me.
Part of the bribe, I said to not tell anyone who stole it. When it revealed to be her, I was honestly shocked. She claimed herself to be a Christian and follow the word of God.
She's also very lazy, I'm not sure if she's depressed though. She would come to school late, never study, sleep during class, doesn't do homework and guiltrips me into letting her copy mine. She would laugh and talk like a normal person. So I'm 80% sure it's not depression. Correct me if I'm wrong.
She told me not to tell the teacher, saying she'd tell the teacher Which I responded with, 'if you don't tell her. I'll do it for ya' which resulted in her telling me to stfu.
So, even if I didn't want to be labled as a snitch. I obviously told the teacher, which meant I broke the promise.
V was made at me, despite her disliking E as well. Her saying, 'it doesn't matter if it's right or wrong. You made a promise.'
I forgot to add, her selfish act has done the entire class wrong. We cannot use our desk drawers anymore, which is annoying.
The teacher said she received her note, but she needs to tell her in person. Which I find super irritating as she hasn't received any punishment, and doesn't at all regret her actions.
So, AITAH?
(this post may get updates)
2024.05.23 13:13 Sharpie1967 I need advice for my (23F) relationship with my mother (46F) and my family as a whole. How do I let go of my hope to change my mother?
This is going to be long. And I just need to tell someone the whole story without interruptions. I´m not good at writing and English is not my first language.
As a child I thought that my family was super boring and normal. Gradually I have found out that my family is incredibly messed up. I need help and advice in managing my feelings about my family. I can´t afford therapy.
My parents got a divorce when I was 14. It was hard and all of the family secrets started to come out. My mother was physically abusive to me and my siblings when we were younger. As we grew up, she was mostly just emotionally abusive. When dad moved away she started to alienate us from dad. She denies that and still tries to make dad the bad guy. I have described the life after dad moving out as me becoming "the wall" between my siblings and our mom. Before that our dad was the wall. Before the divorce I wasn´t aware that my family had any problems. My parents hid it very well. Before dad moved away, he was the wall. He took all of the abuse from mom and after I took it. As the oldest kid in the fam, I guess it was just easy to abuse me the most.
Living with mom was difficult. She decided what the mood of the day was. I was scared to come out of my room some days when I could sense that she was in a bad mood. With her you always had to be a certain way. We could not show our true emotions, because she would punish us for it. Whenever we did something wrong she liked to humiliate us infront of the whole family. She yelled at us and said the most vile and insulting things to us just because she felt it was good parenting. She used to use prayers against us. Before dinners she sometimes mentioned something very specific one of us had done wrong but didn´t use names. Example would be like, if I had made a mistake that she deemed to be unforgivable she would say "Help us realize all of the mistakes we have done and apologize to one another." But my mother only apologized when it was convenient for her. And she was never wrong. Everything was always someone elses fault.
There is so much to tell and I want to but I can´t think of it now. Instead I will tell somethings from my parents childhoods.
My great grandmother favored boys over girls. And she treated my grandmother very badly. In turn my grandma was very abusive to my mother and her siblings. She grew up in a abusive family and had a alcoholic as a dad and a narcissist as a mother. This explains her behavior but it doesn´t excuse it.
My dad´s childhood is completely different. He hasn´t talked a lot about it, but I know that he has a lot of trauma too. His brother died from a gunshot wound when he was a child. I happened right infront of my dad. And his sister died of cancer when he was an adult. She died before I was born. Mental health wasn´t talked about a lot in the 80´ so he never truly processed his emotions. And moving with an abusive partner didn´t allow him to process any of it for years either. Only now he has started to figure those feelings out.
This has all affected me and my siblings. My dad is very depressed, and my mother definitely has a personality disorder and some narcissist traits, but she refuses to see anything wrong with herself. I have recently realized that I just have to let go of hoping that my mother changes. And I hope that writing all of this helps.
I got too overwhelmed at 19 living with my mom, so I decided that I would move in with my dad. The only reason I stayed for so long is my sister. I didn´t want the emotional abuse to turn to her after I left so that´s why I stayed. At some point I just lost it and started crying. My sister has said that that was the day she decided to come with me. So we moved to dads. Thanks to that she has actually started to form healthy habits and has had time to grow in an abusive free home. My dad isn´t the best parent. But he is way better than my mom.
My brother chose to stay with mom. He doesn´t really understand how abusive our mother is. Because with our mom you are not allowed to show emotions, my brother has anger issues and is very emotionally stunted. He now lives on his own, but he is still dealing with a lot of issues. He has problems with alcohol and drugs, and has been to jail twice, that I know of. He has threatened to kill himself while drunk, he has also come at my dad with a knife and threatened to kill him and mom( separate situations). And also he has destroyed our grandparent property and threatened to burn the house down. I am very scared for him, because this ends in only three ways. Either he gets help, kills someone or kills himself. My dad is trying to help him, my mother says that he does it for attention and I´m just so exhausted from all of this and I don´t know what to do. My brother is also somewhat like our mother.
I have written down some of my feelings on my notes app over the years and I will write them here. ( they are in Finnish so I had to translate, and I used google translate so sorry if it doesn´t make sense) I wrote all of these through the years:
1. Well, I'm sure I'm not interested in living when I live with you. So mother doesn't realize that when we live with her, no one wants to help her because she treats us like her slaves. At my father's place, we want to help him with cleaning and other things because he deserves it. He never asks us to do too much, but he expects us to do our part. And so, yes, mother too, but mother pressures and yells at us for not doing housework. But dad doesn't force us to do anything. We just want to help him
2. Our mother is the tnt near which I at least have to be really careful because if I make even one wrong move it will explode and cause a lot of damage. My mother doesn't realize how much she has destroyed my self-esteem just because she is sometimes wrong. Once mother told me that we should start bible study when bro comes because he was late. So I went back to my room. Then he came and I went to the kitchen while he was getting food. And mother had started bible study without us. I asked what this is, she had the nerve to even start crying because I'm never on time. And I thought that she herself didn't inform me that they were starting bible study and she shouted to us to go to hell. And bro even starts to cry. And then she just calmly continues with sis. I couldn't come out of my room that whole evening because I was really scared. And then I didn't talk to my mother until the evening. And when we talked, of course it was my fault again and my mother didn't have to apologize.
Then we moved on to the topic that mom has to do all the housework, so she has the right to be tired and yell at us. And I knew that I couldn't get my mother to understand, as usual, that she was wrong. And then we just kept going with mom and bro as normal, and mom even forced us to stop work for that. Because our schedules don't mean anything and bro was still working until nine because of that. We all suffer because of my mother, and I'm probably the most because when my father moved, all his behavior was directed at me, and I'm afraid that if I move, it will be directed at him.
And mom always finds a new object of pressure. The first was to send job applications and then it was to take shifts. It never ends. she just wants money from me. Mom doesn't treat me like her daughter. But more like a roommate. She might sometimes say that she loves me. And then I have to keep mom happy all the time and be careful what I say because mom's mood changes really fast and she gets angry in 0.01 seconds. It's really hard for me to give up this habit, wherever I am. Even at my father's place, I can't calm down that he's about to explode and I'm observing the atmosphere there as well. My father's face and his speech and tone of voice. It's really hard to keep this up. But there is no other option because I really can't live with my mother anymore. And mother is one of those people who make you forget all the bad things they have done to you.
And if we have a problem with bro and he doesn't behave properly, mom just says that he doesn't know how to control his emotions. And I'm not allowed to say anything that could make him angry because mom says so. But he has done the same himself. That seems really unfair. Mom doesn't really try to do anything about his behavior, but she always complains to me and sis if we behave the same way. I'm tired of living with that person.
3.It's funny when in meetings they talk about the fact that one's own actions have effects on others, especially one's own children. And mom complains about it to us, but she herself behaves badly and does not change her ways.
Living with my mother is so great because if you sense that her mother is even a little bit angry about something, you have NO right to talk to her. And then when shes angry, I'm really afraid to come out of my room. Mom is frankly the worst kind of dictator. It even made bro cry today and that rarely happens. She tells us to go to hell. So living here is dangerous. You're a nervous wreck when you've moved out of here.
Mom is a perfect little angel to all her friends and parishioners, but no one knows that mom is a real devil at home. And she is also the victim in all problems, but it is actually the beginning of all problems.
4. My mom treats me as if my dad had poisoned my mind and turned me against her, and my mom behaves as if my dad was the devil and my dad destroyed our family, and she manipulates everyone into believing it and thinking that way. And I don't know what I believe anymore. They are my parents and I know that my mom is a manipulative person, but what do I do with this matter. I can't live with anyone. If I live with my mom, I can't think about things anymore and I can't talk to anyone, and if I live with my dad, my mom turns everything against me and I become an outsider.
5. A memory of my mom came to mind. Mom hated slamming doors and reminded us of it sometimes. I guess she has some traumas from it. Once, bro went to his room in anger and accidentally or intentionally slammed the door, and mom got really angry. Mom went very quickly to bros room, closed the door and I heard bro say that it was an accident and he cried when mom beat bro. Probably with a belt or something. Mom no longer beats us when we are older and bigger than her. It just seems a bit like she stopped beating us because we know its wrong so she doesn't want anyone to know.
6. This is the last damn trip with mom and bro. Mom doesn't really understand what no means. She tried to get me to go to sleep dozens of times today, and I said a million times that don't annoy me, I'll go right away, but no, mom doesn´t know what no means. Damn bastard. I will never go anywhere with my mother again. I'm so fucking grateful that I moved away from that bitch
And bro is just stupid. And he complains and mocks and sneers all the time and is just in a bad mood all the time. Who the hell can stand a fucking idiot. He is the most uncomfortable person I know. He always has to sneer, he never says anything nice. I can't stand being around him. It's a good thing that it lives far away, so you don't have to see it anymore unless you have to. I can't wait to get home. I'm not going to last the next two days with those two bastards
And all the time we have to talk about alcohol and drugs. And the bros episode was scary. How does he think that such behavior is ok. And he didn't even apologize afterwards and he still dared to be mean and idiotic in the evening.
These are most of the ones about my family. I have a lot of notes about my self and my feelings too but this is about my family. If anyone reads this thank you. And if anyone has advice, I´m all ears. I wanted to write so much more, but it just vanished from my mind. So if you have questions, please ask.
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As a child I thought that my family was super boring and normal. Gradually I have found out that my family is incredibly messed up. I need help and advice in managing my feelings about my family. I can´t afford therapy.
My parents got a divorce when I was 14. It was hard and all of the family secrets started to come out. My mother was physically abusive to me and my siblings when we were younger. As we grew up, she was mostly just emotionally abusive. When dad moved away she started to alienate us from dad. She denies that and still tries to make dad the bad guy. I have described the life after dad moving out as me becoming "the wall" between my siblings and our mom. Before that our dad was the wall. Before the divorce I wasn´t aware that my family had any problems. My parents hid it very well. Before dad moved away, he was the wall. He took all of the abuse from mom and after I took it. As the oldest kid in the fam, I guess it was just easy to abuse me the most.
Living with mom was difficult. She decided what the mood of the day was. I was scared to come out of my room some days when I could sense that she was in a bad mood. With her you always had to be a certain way. We could not show our true emotions, because she would punish us for it. Whenever we did something wrong she liked to humiliate us infront of the whole family. She yelled at us and said the most vile and insulting things to us just because she felt it was good parenting. She used to use prayers against us. Before dinners she sometimes mentioned something very specific one of us had done wrong but didn´t use names. Example would be like, if I had made a mistake that she deemed to be unforgivable she would say "Help us realize all of the mistakes we have done and apologize to one another." But my mother only apologized when it was convenient for her. And she was never wrong. Everything was always someone elses fault.
There is so much to tell and I want to but I can´t think of it now. Instead I will tell somethings from my parents childhoods.
My great grandmother favored boys over girls. And she treated my grandmother very badly. In turn my grandma was very abusive to my mother and her siblings. She grew up in a abusive family and had a alcoholic as a dad and a narcissist as a mother. This explains her behavior but it doesn´t excuse it.
My dad´s childhood is completely different. He hasn´t talked a lot about it, but I know that he has a lot of trauma too. His brother died from a gunshot wound when he was a child. I happened right infront of my dad. And his sister died of cancer when he was an adult. She died before I was born. Mental health wasn´t talked about a lot in the 80´ so he never truly processed his emotions. And moving with an abusive partner didn´t allow him to process any of it for years either. Only now he has started to figure those feelings out.
This has all affected me and my siblings. My dad is very depressed, and my mother definitely has a personality disorder and some narcissist traits, but she refuses to see anything wrong with herself. I have recently realized that I just have to let go of hoping that my mother changes. And I hope that writing all of this helps.
I got too overwhelmed at 19 living with my mom, so I decided that I would move in with my dad. The only reason I stayed for so long is my sister. I didn´t want the emotional abuse to turn to her after I left so that´s why I stayed. At some point I just lost it and started crying. My sister has said that that was the day she decided to come with me. So we moved to dads. Thanks to that she has actually started to form healthy habits and has had time to grow in an abusive free home. My dad isn´t the best parent. But he is way better than my mom.
My brother chose to stay with mom. He doesn´t really understand how abusive our mother is. Because with our mom you are not allowed to show emotions, my brother has anger issues and is very emotionally stunted. He now lives on his own, but he is still dealing with a lot of issues. He has problems with alcohol and drugs, and has been to jail twice, that I know of. He has threatened to kill himself while drunk, he has also come at my dad with a knife and threatened to kill him and mom( separate situations). And also he has destroyed our grandparent property and threatened to burn the house down. I am very scared for him, because this ends in only three ways. Either he gets help, kills someone or kills himself. My dad is trying to help him, my mother says that he does it for attention and I´m just so exhausted from all of this and I don´t know what to do. My brother is also somewhat like our mother.
I have written down some of my feelings on my notes app over the years and I will write them here. ( they are in Finnish so I had to translate, and I used google translate so sorry if it doesn´t make sense) I wrote all of these through the years:
1. Well, I'm sure I'm not interested in living when I live with you. So mother doesn't realize that when we live with her, no one wants to help her because she treats us like her slaves. At my father's place, we want to help him with cleaning and other things because he deserves it. He never asks us to do too much, but he expects us to do our part. And so, yes, mother too, but mother pressures and yells at us for not doing housework. But dad doesn't force us to do anything. We just want to help him
2. Our mother is the tnt near which I at least have to be really careful because if I make even one wrong move it will explode and cause a lot of damage. My mother doesn't realize how much she has destroyed my self-esteem just because she is sometimes wrong. Once mother told me that we should start bible study when bro comes because he was late. So I went back to my room. Then he came and I went to the kitchen while he was getting food. And mother had started bible study without us. I asked what this is, she had the nerve to even start crying because I'm never on time. And I thought that she herself didn't inform me that they were starting bible study and she shouted to us to go to hell. And bro even starts to cry. And then she just calmly continues with sis. I couldn't come out of my room that whole evening because I was really scared. And then I didn't talk to my mother until the evening. And when we talked, of course it was my fault again and my mother didn't have to apologize.
Then we moved on to the topic that mom has to do all the housework, so she has the right to be tired and yell at us. And I knew that I couldn't get my mother to understand, as usual, that she was wrong. And then we just kept going with mom and bro as normal, and mom even forced us to stop work for that. Because our schedules don't mean anything and bro was still working until nine because of that. We all suffer because of my mother, and I'm probably the most because when my father moved, all his behavior was directed at me, and I'm afraid that if I move, it will be directed at him.
And mom always finds a new object of pressure. The first was to send job applications and then it was to take shifts. It never ends. she just wants money from me. Mom doesn't treat me like her daughter. But more like a roommate. She might sometimes say that she loves me. And then I have to keep mom happy all the time and be careful what I say because mom's mood changes really fast and she gets angry in 0.01 seconds. It's really hard for me to give up this habit, wherever I am. Even at my father's place, I can't calm down that he's about to explode and I'm observing the atmosphere there as well. My father's face and his speech and tone of voice. It's really hard to keep this up. But there is no other option because I really can't live with my mother anymore. And mother is one of those people who make you forget all the bad things they have done to you.
And if we have a problem with bro and he doesn't behave properly, mom just says that he doesn't know how to control his emotions. And I'm not allowed to say anything that could make him angry because mom says so. But he has done the same himself. That seems really unfair. Mom doesn't really try to do anything about his behavior, but she always complains to me and sis if we behave the same way. I'm tired of living with that person.
3.It's funny when in meetings they talk about the fact that one's own actions have effects on others, especially one's own children. And mom complains about it to us, but she herself behaves badly and does not change her ways.
Living with my mother is so great because if you sense that her mother is even a little bit angry about something, you have NO right to talk to her. And then when shes angry, I'm really afraid to come out of my room. Mom is frankly the worst kind of dictator. It even made bro cry today and that rarely happens. She tells us to go to hell. So living here is dangerous. You're a nervous wreck when you've moved out of here.
Mom is a perfect little angel to all her friends and parishioners, but no one knows that mom is a real devil at home. And she is also the victim in all problems, but it is actually the beginning of all problems.
4. My mom treats me as if my dad had poisoned my mind and turned me against her, and my mom behaves as if my dad was the devil and my dad destroyed our family, and she manipulates everyone into believing it and thinking that way. And I don't know what I believe anymore. They are my parents and I know that my mom is a manipulative person, but what do I do with this matter. I can't live with anyone. If I live with my mom, I can't think about things anymore and I can't talk to anyone, and if I live with my dad, my mom turns everything against me and I become an outsider.
5. A memory of my mom came to mind. Mom hated slamming doors and reminded us of it sometimes. I guess she has some traumas from it. Once, bro went to his room in anger and accidentally or intentionally slammed the door, and mom got really angry. Mom went very quickly to bros room, closed the door and I heard bro say that it was an accident and he cried when mom beat bro. Probably with a belt or something. Mom no longer beats us when we are older and bigger than her. It just seems a bit like she stopped beating us because we know its wrong so she doesn't want anyone to know.
6. This is the last damn trip with mom and bro. Mom doesn't really understand what no means. She tried to get me to go to sleep dozens of times today, and I said a million times that don't annoy me, I'll go right away, but no, mom doesn´t know what no means. Damn bastard. I will never go anywhere with my mother again. I'm so fucking grateful that I moved away from that bitch
And bro is just stupid. And he complains and mocks and sneers all the time and is just in a bad mood all the time. Who the hell can stand a fucking idiot. He is the most uncomfortable person I know. He always has to sneer, he never says anything nice. I can't stand being around him. It's a good thing that it lives far away, so you don't have to see it anymore unless you have to. I can't wait to get home. I'm not going to last the next two days with those two bastards
And all the time we have to talk about alcohol and drugs. And the bros episode was scary. How does he think that such behavior is ok. And he didn't even apologize afterwards and he still dared to be mean and idiotic in the evening.
These are most of the ones about my family. I have a lot of notes about my self and my feelings too but this is about my family. If anyone reads this thank you. And if anyone has advice, I´m all ears. I wanted to write so much more, but it just vanished from my mind. So if you have questions, please ask.
2024.05.23 13:11 hazelsmodusoperandi Is it irresponsible to try to have friendships?
I've thought a lot about how my actions, especially in relation to how my trauma informs them, affect other people. Obviously I understand that my brain is an "unreliable narrator", so to say, but I also do genuinely feel that I have a lot of negative impact on people. My highly turbulent nature when it comes to friendships; disappearing for days randomly and feeling hurt by people in ways that I can't really explain to them. I often think that it isn't appropriate or responsible for me to try to have relationships with people while I'm so very unhealed. Maybe a part of this voice is my fear of abandonment trying to find an excuse to push people away, I don't know.
I try my best to be a good person, but I always end up doing bad things regardless. I panic and do things to try to stop my pain that can be hurtful to other people. I feel bad for the assumptions that I make about how other people feel about me (that they hate me and wish I was gone etc.). I don't feel like it matters if I have good intentions if the things I end up doing are bad regardless. And if the things I'm doing are bad...I feel like maybe I shouldn't interact with people at all. Maybe I shouldn't be trying to make that choice, and other people are capable of making their own decision about whether to interact with me. They can judge for themselves if I'm "too bad" for them.
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I try my best to be a good person, but I always end up doing bad things regardless. I panic and do things to try to stop my pain that can be hurtful to other people. I feel bad for the assumptions that I make about how other people feel about me (that they hate me and wish I was gone etc.). I don't feel like it matters if I have good intentions if the things I end up doing are bad regardless. And if the things I'm doing are bad...I feel like maybe I shouldn't interact with people at all. Maybe I shouldn't be trying to make that choice, and other people are capable of making their own decision about whether to interact with me. They can judge for themselves if I'm "too bad" for them.
2024.05.23 13:09 AwarenessSuch1998 My sexuality has always brought me down, else I could rule the world
So, I am 24, soon to be 25, nearly done with my Masters from a good university in Delhi (for which people die to get into) but I feel I have not rightly utilized my potential and am an utter failure in both romantically and career wise.
So, I am gay / bi sexual, whatever you say (I dont put labels on me cause my whole identity is not about being gay) but I think somehow my sexuality has impacted me.
I always am pushed away due to my sexual preference, like I wanted to join college politics but could not cause I was gay and was always scared what if some how it reaches my opponent and I will be embarassed/shamed.
Then I even wanted to go for UPSC but again, same fear that if I enter public life, my personal life as gay will suffer or I wont be able to free and what if someone finds and they kick me out.
Recent case of Delhi HC judge for being gay, was proof how gay men will never be accepted no matter how capable we are.
Then, I thought lets go for CAT but when I took coaching, Covid happened and at home, things were bad. The childhood trauma kicked in and my anxiety got so bad (I cant even tell you) and I was trembling most of time. And I did come out of it through meditation, spirituality and somehow, cleared my Masters exam with great rank but missed CAT by few percentile and even TISS by few marks (2 marks)
Then I started Masters but from here it seems tough, I want to go to Academics but I am tired of studying now, I cant spend 4 more years on Phd and my dad is pressurizing me to start earning as I am 25 and he wants me to do some State PCS or Grade B officer exam or RBI (cause I have always been exceptionallu good at studies)
But I feel lost, my two friends who cleared CAT (from IIM) are already in job and earning 20+lakh per anum..... AND HERE I AM, A FAILURE.
During college, I was better than most of my class, interms of knowledge, communication skills, making friends, socially active, influential and kind, warm. But now, I am just an utter failure, with my degree in MA, I cant even get a job for 20k pm unless I do Phd and I am too lazy /demotivated to prepare for govt exams
I think my sexuality kinda played bad role in it, I am always sexually/romantically frustrated when I see straight couples, if I was straight, I would get a girl easily and be happy and focus on my family, my career. Other thing is, since I cant get a family or children, I feel "who am I doing this for ? I will always be alone so faayda kya itna marne ka"
And I feel my parents, my friends, siblings have not been supportive to me, everyone has been indifferent and I have fought this "gay" battle alone and I will die alone.
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So, I am gay / bi sexual, whatever you say (I dont put labels on me cause my whole identity is not about being gay) but I think somehow my sexuality has impacted me.
I always am pushed away due to my sexual preference, like I wanted to join college politics but could not cause I was gay and was always scared what if some how it reaches my opponent and I will be embarassed/shamed.
Then I even wanted to go for UPSC but again, same fear that if I enter public life, my personal life as gay will suffer or I wont be able to free and what if someone finds and they kick me out.
Recent case of Delhi HC judge for being gay, was proof how gay men will never be accepted no matter how capable we are.
Then, I thought lets go for CAT but when I took coaching, Covid happened and at home, things were bad. The childhood trauma kicked in and my anxiety got so bad (I cant even tell you) and I was trembling most of time. And I did come out of it through meditation, spirituality and somehow, cleared my Masters exam with great rank but missed CAT by few percentile and even TISS by few marks (2 marks)
Then I started Masters but from here it seems tough, I want to go to Academics but I am tired of studying now, I cant spend 4 more years on Phd and my dad is pressurizing me to start earning as I am 25 and he wants me to do some State PCS or Grade B officer exam or RBI (cause I have always been exceptionallu good at studies)
But I feel lost, my two friends who cleared CAT (from IIM) are already in job and earning 20+lakh per anum..... AND HERE I AM, A FAILURE.
During college, I was better than most of my class, interms of knowledge, communication skills, making friends, socially active, influential and kind, warm. But now, I am just an utter failure, with my degree in MA, I cant even get a job for 20k pm unless I do Phd and I am too lazy /demotivated to prepare for govt exams
I think my sexuality kinda played bad role in it, I am always sexually/romantically frustrated when I see straight couples, if I was straight, I would get a girl easily and be happy and focus on my family, my career. Other thing is, since I cant get a family or children, I feel "who am I doing this for ? I will always be alone so faayda kya itna marne ka"
And I feel my parents, my friends, siblings have not been supportive to me, everyone has been indifferent and I have fought this "gay" battle alone and I will die alone.
2024.05.23 13:09 Nyalesta_1 I hate having no culture
This is going to be longer so please bear with me. Im an 18 year old Girl and since I was a little girl I have always been fascinated by all the cultures and culturally rich countrys/regions around the globe. Ive been jealous because they have beautiful traditional clothing, wonderful holidays/celebrations, special customs and traditions. Passed down from generation to generation. Often there are holidays where they all celebrate as one culture with all its aspects. This culture thing also expands a bit further, for example books, decorations or else. When I see people posting videos and photos of such days or things I get incredibly jealous because I will never have that. Dont get me wrong, I am well aware that in many cases not the whole country embraces the culture and traditions, but large parts do and even people in other countrys know about it or see it in said photos and/or videos. Also in every country are different regions where different traditions are, they may mix or stay seperated, but still are embraced. When people think about my country the ONLY think about one region and its specific traditions and expand that to the whole country and apply the specific traditions from one region to the culture of the whole country. This also bothers me, but it a minor aspects, the major aspect is why it is so easy to do that, not only for people from other countrys but people from my country do it the same way. Mostly because of capitalism and because it advertises very good. The region im talking about is Bavaria in Germany. Like no Susan, I do not wear a Dirndl the whole day, I do not only eat Bratwurst with Sauerkraut and my house is not a log cabin with lots of small blue and white checkered decorations (exaggerated). Simply because I am not from there and even Bavarians do not live like that. These traditions in Bavaria are used for capitalism and profit. So to summarize it the only known tradition from Germany is being twisted, exaggerated and basically "sold", just for money. Of course there live alot people who really want to embrace the traditions and culture and they do. But on the other hand many of them dont seem to understand that the Oktoberfest is not only about wearing traditional clothing and liters of drinking beer. But this whole aspect is only about how it is percived. What I am really sad about and want to vent is that ATLEAST the people in Bavaria embrace their traditions, only because of one simple thing: they CAN, because they have the knowledge about it. Some other regions have to, for example Schwarzwald or others, but its the minority. I am from saxony, we dont have this. Not as a average German girl. I mean yes there are certain things that are linked to our culture, But these are things like landscapes, certain objects or sometimes even activities. No clothing, holidays, traditions, mythology or anything like that. No one here teaches their children about traditions or customs from a region or whole Germany. And do you know why? Because its not really there any more. Culture is rarely written down, there are no texts where I could read about it. Finding out about it is really hard, because there isnt really anything. It got stolen. From 1933 the Nazis made sure to ban everything that didnt fit in their ideology, including cultural aspects, holidays, also cultural clothing and so on. They were way to fixated about creating their own German culture, which was supossed to match with their ideology. Today 91 years later I lack the connection to the culture of my home country. I would love to wear my traditional clothing, celebrate holidays, embrace the customs and traditions. But I cant because it got destroyed, the Germany I know and love exists since 1949, before that was a dictatorship and before that the very first German republic, but it had more important problems than trying to embrace culture after ww1. The German culture and tradtions we have today (mostly Bavarian) are from a time from before all that, sniplets that survived. But I personally dont have any culture or traditions and it makes me so incedibly sad, because I wish I had it. Just wanted to vent about it, cause its kinda emotionally hard for me to think about it and I didnt knew who else to tell.
Just some notes at the end:
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Just some notes at the end:
- I am aware that other countrys are in similiar situations and I dont want to downplay them, but since Im from Germany I made it about my country.
- Rereading the text I feel like I could have provided a bit more history about all that, but the text is already long enough so I spare you that and hope you still understand what I wanted to vent about. :)
2024.05.23 13:09 workingtheories "you aren't allowed to have an opinion of a book if you haven't read the book"
I'm someone who used to read books, but now I mostly get my information in other ways. I find it bizarre that people say things like this (title of the post) to me online. I didn't read the whole bible, but i can still have an opinion of it based on what I know about it. I can also have an opinion about the place I came from without having met all the people who live there or done all the things there is to do there (i could go on). If someone says a dumb, borderline sociopathic quote from a book they've based their questionable life philosophy on, I am allowed to form a prior opinion of that book as being one I don't want to read and probably overall bad. Books don't exist only in the pages, they live on in the minds of people who've read them. If those people use the ideas and words from the book in ways I find sus, I am going to think the book is sus. In this case, the book was Blood Meridian by Cormack McCarthy. I do not like this book, because every quote I have read from it and every plot summary and person I have known who has liked it indicates to me that it is book for edge lord teenagers. Those literal teenagers (and teens at heart) are, at this point, not probably going to change my opinion of the book to cause me to plunk down the time to read it. There's too much built up at this point. That opinion may not be an opinion I have if I finish the book, but there's no way for me to know that prior to forcing myself to read the book. I am well past the point of forcing myself to do something because it might make me a better person. If I see people doing a thing that seemingly causes them to be worse, I cannot rationally assume that thing is one of those bettering things. Moreover, I am allowed to state that prejudice and feel fully justified in doing so, and even that the opinion is legitimate and interesting. Arguably, my opinions of books I haven't read are more interesting in some ways than the opinions of people who have read the book, because they are based on unique people and experiences I have known and had.
Your use of your time is not preferable to what I was planning to do with my time if up to this point you are directly causing my life to be unpleasant. haters get blocked, have a good day.
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Your use of your time is not preferable to what I was planning to do with my time if up to this point you are directly causing my life to be unpleasant. haters get blocked, have a good day.
2024.05.23 13:08 BEETLEJUICE_UNIVERSE Educas GCSE discussion
English language component 1
Again like all of them there is no educas megathread for English so for the like 5 people who did it post you thoughts here!
I thought the comprehension was a bit weird to be honest like 'oh no I don't have a son so my farm can't survive as there's no way a girl would be able to do any farm work'. Idk I just didn't really like it. I thought the questions were fairly easy though. Apart from the last one.
The story headers were awful as expected. Honestly who wants to start a story 'it was my first day at that school'. I chose 'the choice'. I did about someone escaping an abusive situation- way more fun than school! The choice was them choosing to escape but that was a small part of it to be honest. I was more focused on thier journey poth physically and mentally.
How did y'all find it?
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Again like all of them there is no educas megathread for English so for the like 5 people who did it post you thoughts here!
I thought the comprehension was a bit weird to be honest like 'oh no I don't have a son so my farm can't survive as there's no way a girl would be able to do any farm work'. Idk I just didn't really like it. I thought the questions were fairly easy though. Apart from the last one.
The story headers were awful as expected. Honestly who wants to start a story 'it was my first day at that school'. I chose 'the choice'. I did about someone escaping an abusive situation- way more fun than school! The choice was them choosing to escape but that was a small part of it to be honest. I was more focused on thier journey poth physically and mentally.
How did y'all find it?
2024.05.23 13:08 mushroom-soup When you're awful at typing other people by their behavior, so instead you ask them to take a personality test to find out.
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2024.05.23 13:07 New-Recognition-9414 Resolving Common BitLocker Issues on Windows 10: A Complete Guide
 | https://preview.redd.it/d26fjtx7s52d1.jpg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7281d1d8dd7fc387b2cad1291ee951a0d881c406 submitted by New-Recognition-9414 to datarevivalsquad [link] [comments] Microsoft Windows users know BitLocker as a great security system that sometimes won't work. Our meaning is clear if BitLocker is giving you trouble on Windows 10. Try not to give up. The vast majority of BitLocker problems are pretty normal and are quickly fixable. Today, we're going to try to figure out what you're having trouble with and give you suitable answers. Troubleshooting BitLocker, TPM, restore keys, and other topics will be covered. Describe BitLockerIf you care about keeping your data safe, you probably already know about BitLocker. If this is your first time hearing about it, let me explain it quickly.Windows OS has a security system called BitLocker that can be used for many things. It's meant to protect your whole hard drive, not just certain files. No matter what, BitLocker will need a password or a smart card to open the locked drive. A lot of the time, people lose their original password. A BitLocker recovery key given during setup is the only way to unlock the Windows drive in this case. With these passwords, you can't get into a hard drive that has been encrypted with BitLocker's Advanced Encryption Standard (AES) algorithm, which is a strong lock. A lot of businesses use BitLocker because they know how important it is to keep data safe. But BitLocker can have bugs, even though it's very safe. It might be hard for you to turn on BitLocker, find the recovery key, or even keep your disk protected. How to Fix Problems with BitLocker on Windows 10BitLocker isn't working right, and you don't know what. For Windows 10 users, BitLocker problems include forgetting or losing the password and protection not working. To fix your BitLocker problem, though, we need to first figure out what's wrong.Find and recognize the issue You can find a history of BitLocker events in Windows OS by going to the Event Viewer app > Windows Logs > Application. It's simple to find BitLocker event logs, but not so simple to read them. First, they need to be copied to text files, which requires writing code. Luckily, mistake messages aren't too hard to understand. They are coded, which means that each error has its own code, but it's easy to understand them and look up what caused them and how to fix them. If you get a BitLocker error warning, here's what it means:
You'll need as much useful information as you can find, not just about BitLocker, in order to figure out what's wrong. You also need to know what kind of hard drive you have that is protected with BitLocker and what version of Windows OS your computer is running. Find out important things about your hard drive this way:
There are computers that don't have a TPM chip at all. That can be checked in this way:
Common BitLocker Problems and How to Fix Them on Windows 10If you look at the problem messages, check for TPM, and update your PC, you should have a good idea of what to do next to fix BitLocker. If the problem is still there after all the changes, it means you have a more specific BitLocker problem.Let's get to work. Based on what other BitLocker users have said, you're probably having one of the following problems. These steps will fix most BitLocker issues: Unfortunately, you are not turning on BitLockerBitLocker won't work on your device because either your computer doesn't have a TPM chip built in or the TPM chip has been turned off. We already told you how to check your TPM status above, in case you just wanted to go to the answer.Is your TPM turned off? For this, you'll need to use UEFI. How to do it:
To turn on BitLocker Drive Encryption, go to Control Panel Setup and click on Enable Advanced Startup Options. To make sure the change is made, click Apply > OK. Your BitLocker Recovery Key Is LostIf you set up BitLocker on your PC yourself, you were given a recovery key that you can use to get into the encrypted drive if you lose your ID. You might not remember where it is. Windows gives you the following choices for saving a BitLocker key during setup:You can safely keep your backup key in one of these places, unless someone else set up your BitLocker. All you have to do is remember which choice you made. But sometimes you might lose or delete your BitLocker recovery key. What can you do to fix the BitLocker recovery problem? You can use a tool like BLR Bitlocker Data Recovery Software to do it. Professional bitlocker data recovery software that can get data back from BitLocker-protected drives but only if you know the password or key. You can use BLR Tools to look through your backup drive in depth and find your long-lost recovery key. It's an easy process that will work every time:
Not Working Anymore BitLockerWhen you unplug the encrypted hard drive from the PC, BitLocker stops for a short time. When you use BitLocker to lock an SSD or another external drive, that's what happens. It's easy to fix, though. All you have to do is make sure the drive is hooked to the PC correctly.The connection and the power supply are two things that could be wrong that you should check again. Complete Failure of BitLocker EncryptionYour BitLocker might not be able to secure a drive message could mean a number of things. It turns the person away without telling them what's going on, so we call this a total BitLocker encryption failure. It's annoying that you can't figure out what's wrong.Because we've seen it happen before, this usually happens when you try to update your PC to a newer version of Windows OS and need to change a few settings. It is known that TPM and Security Chip settings can get in the way of BitLocker. If so, you will need to change how BitLocker is set up so that it can work with a USB drive even if you don't have a suitable TPM. We talked about this earlier when we were talking about problems with turning on BitLocker. But a missing or wrongly set TPM is not the only reason why BitLocker encryption fails completely. You have one more choice if changing the chip settings doesn't work: delete the section and make it again. In most cases, that fixes the whole crypto problem. Going to Disk Manager is the best way to delete a drive partition in Windows 10:
ConclusionIn general, BitLocker is a good method that won't let you down. BitLocker problems on Windows 10 don't happen very often, so you should be fine. When problems happen, always make sure the TPM is turned on and look for any changes that need to be installed. In case you lose it, you should also look for your restore key. If the encryption fails completely, you may need to delete your drive section. In this case, you'll need BLR to get back the data you lost. |
2024.05.23 13:07 Tall-Lime-4928 Staying in the child mode
More insights from therapy sessions >>
I know collapses help us heal. But one thing that has been particularly helpful is to willfully stay in the Child after sessions, especially during collapses.
I took the technique from the IFS (Internal Family Systems, someone from the sub recommended it, thank you).
Now obvious challenges - romantic and sexual relationships because well… the Child is the Child, it doesn’t have the capacity to sustain them anymore in a way it got used to.
And the False Self just doesn’t cut it anymore.
And emotional regulation is obviously tough and sometimes impossible. Tactile blankets and self hugs help in reducing anxiety.
Mentalizations and phantasies about being a Superhero do help but use cautiously as it feeds on narcissism.
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And I think I might be feeling some grief and true sadness for the first time, it comes from the Child.
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When in the Child mode, avoid people until you get used to it. At least I do, because it’s like being possessed, I want my space and toys and let me be.
I have two narcs I’m safe with and we gather and be children together. In an autistic way, where everyone does their things but solo, in the same room (body doubling, I think that’s the term).
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When feeling really like crap and with low self esteem, remembering you’re a Child at the moment helps in grounding and distancing from crappy feelings.
It still keeps you low but hey. I find it easier to handle.
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Another challenge > obviously there are people outside being Adult Children as we are, so what might seem as a connection might just be recognition of another Child, it’s easy to mix it up with attraction or possible friendship potential.
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Hope this helps. Yep, my narc overachieving side feels the need to share this progress, thanks for reading, but I genuinely feel an ounce better if it helps someone.
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I know collapses help us heal. But one thing that has been particularly helpful is to willfully stay in the Child after sessions, especially during collapses.
I took the technique from the IFS (Internal Family Systems, someone from the sub recommended it, thank you).
- the therapist keeps me in the childhood, I talk about early issues and traumas
- I don’t avoid the feeling after I come home but rather let it be
- I draw myself as a child and as an adult and then journal from both perspectives
- it hurts truly to keep the False persona because the Child provides resistance so we have to make a compromise > like Ok let’s False Adult this one so we could survive the day and then we’ll play when we come home
- I bought some toys, play dough, coloring books
- I talk to myself as I would to my child (my previous therapist taught me that) when challenging situations arise
Now obvious challenges - romantic and sexual relationships because well… the Child is the Child, it doesn’t have the capacity to sustain them anymore in a way it got used to.
And the False Self just doesn’t cut it anymore.
And emotional regulation is obviously tough and sometimes impossible. Tactile blankets and self hugs help in reducing anxiety.
Mentalizations and phantasies about being a Superhero do help but use cautiously as it feeds on narcissism.
—
And I think I might be feeling some grief and true sadness for the first time, it comes from the Child.
—
When in the Child mode, avoid people until you get used to it. At least I do, because it’s like being possessed, I want my space and toys and let me be.
I have two narcs I’m safe with and we gather and be children together. In an autistic way, where everyone does their things but solo, in the same room (body doubling, I think that’s the term).
—-
When feeling really like crap and with low self esteem, remembering you’re a Child at the moment helps in grounding and distancing from crappy feelings.
It still keeps you low but hey. I find it easier to handle.
—
Another challenge > obviously there are people outside being Adult Children as we are, so what might seem as a connection might just be recognition of another Child, it’s easy to mix it up with attraction or possible friendship potential.
—
Hope this helps. Yep, my narc overachieving side feels the need to share this progress, thanks for reading, but I genuinely feel an ounce better if it helps someone.
2024.05.23 13:05 ZanyRaptorClay Is it legal to walk along the train tracks to Ko Olina?
I’ve seen videos of people biking from Kapolei Costco to Ko Olina along the old train tracks. I’ve also looked at maps of bike paths on O’ahu and one of the paths aligns with the train tracks.
I’m wondering if it’s legal to walk to Ko Olina this way.
I’m trying to find innovative and affordable ways to reach Ko Olina without having to drive (I can’t drive).
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I’m wondering if it’s legal to walk to Ko Olina this way.
I’m trying to find innovative and affordable ways to reach Ko Olina without having to drive (I can’t drive).
2024.05.23 13:03 zainbfaisal1234 Islam is not a Religion rather a license to kill & assault others
Things were done to me by Muslims, things I wouldn't wish even on my worst enemy (I dont have any but you get the point) things I would rather not say here but I definitly realized one thing.
Islam is nothing more then a license to kill people & assault others
It literally says in quran multiple times to kill the non belivers or to release them if they pay zakat and go to the 'right path'
Some very intressting quote from the 'peaceful religion's book'
Surah 47 Verse 7
So when you meet the disbelievers ˹in battle˺, strike ˹their˺ necks
Surah 4 Verse 89
They wish you would disbelieve as they have disbelieved, so you may all be alike. So do not take them as allies unless they emigrate in the cause of Allah. But if they turn away, then seize them and kill them wherever you find them, and do not take any of them as allies or helpers,
Surah 5 Verse 33
Indeed, the penalty for those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger and spread mischief in the land is death, crucifixion, cutting off their hands and feet on opposite sides, or exile from the land.
These are just some of alot of such disgusting & brutal quotes from a ' peaceful religious book', this Religion is nothing more then a joke, filled with lies to just kill & torture people who raise questions and instead of answering their question, they get their necks choppd of
necks being choppd off reminded me of my older posts and how I got some Muslim boys angry that literally gave me death threats... These people just use Islam to kill, let it be animals at eid ul adha or humans that dont share the same believes as them, Islam is just a reason to kill & hurt others.
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Islam is nothing more then a license to kill people & assault others
It literally says in quran multiple times to kill the non belivers or to release them if they pay zakat and go to the 'right path'
Some very intressting quote from the 'peaceful religion's book'
Surah 47 Verse 7
So when you meet the disbelievers ˹in battle˺, strike ˹their˺ necks
Surah 4 Verse 89
They wish you would disbelieve as they have disbelieved, so you may all be alike. So do not take them as allies unless they emigrate in the cause of Allah. But if they turn away, then seize them and kill them wherever you find them, and do not take any of them as allies or helpers,
Surah 5 Verse 33
Indeed, the penalty for those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger and spread mischief in the land is death, crucifixion, cutting off their hands and feet on opposite sides, or exile from the land.
necks being choppd off reminded me of my older posts and how I got some Muslim boys angry that literally gave me death threats... These people just use Islam to kill, let it be animals at eid ul adha or humans that dont share the same believes as them, Islam is just a reason to kill & hurt others.
2024.05.23 13:03 CodeYourOwnWay The lost and prayer
My experience growing up around charasmatic evangelicals was that they would often encourage unbelievers to pray or offer to pray with them about a personal situation i.e issue at work or home etc that God would answer them as some sort of sign and or confirmation to help bring them into the gospel.
Reflecting on this now, while their motives may have been good, I find it problematic to encourage lost people to pray or be focused on anything other than the gospel and repentance. However, clearly God in His mercy has and does answer such prayers.
I could say much more on this on both sides, but I just want to get straight to the question of whether you would consider this an unbiblical approach?
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Reflecting on this now, while their motives may have been good, I find it problematic to encourage lost people to pray or be focused on anything other than the gospel and repentance. However, clearly God in His mercy has and does answer such prayers.
I could say much more on this on both sides, but I just want to get straight to the question of whether you would consider this an unbiblical approach?
2024.05.23 13:03 Beginning-Gur-1942 Roselawn apartments Dublin 18
Hi is anyone living at Roselawn or has lived there? I got offered a place there but couldnt find anything online from people who had lived there.
Is it good?
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Is it good?