Hello everyone,
I simply can't find an answer for this, maybe because googling it is kinda difficult.
I'm refining my [[Zask, Skittering Swarmlord]] deck at the moment and want to add [[Mortuary]] to it, because it infinites with [[Verdant Succession]], but I'm wondering if this also works with Zask on the field. Resolve order would be Mortuary > Verdant Succession > Zask, so I would still have the mill without it cancelling the loop, so it can go on indefinitely.
Now my question is, will the triggered creature still be tucked by Zask after Verdant Succession put it back on the field after Mortuary topdecks it? Or, in other words, if a creature would be put somewhere else from a death trigger, does that still happen after another trigger already moved it or does it still have to be in the grave?
I love finding answers to specific questions on this sub, I really appreciate y'all for sharing your ancient knowledge with peasants like me. I've just been playing for a little over a year now, and this is my favorite hobby at the moment, so go easy on me for not knowing this.
Bonus question: I try to find clever names for my decks and the best I could come up with for this one was Grave Consequences, because I managed to get 100% recursion (it's not just lands and insects, don't worry, but still about 90% of it). Do you guys have any suggestions or are you fine with this idea? Thanks again.

I completed my first round of 75Hard 3 years ago, and it was so incredible for me. I had amazing physical changes but honestly the biggest win was the feeling of accomplishment checking off those boxes every day for 75 days in a row — it just does something to your brain. So here I am again, because I really need to feel good about myself again. My live-in boyfriend of 7 years and I are taking a 6-week break (his idea, not mine), and I’m really trying to channel my sadness, fear, anger, and all negative feelings around this break into self-improvement and prioritizing my needs and my happiness. Obviously I don’t know what will happen after the 6 weeks but I hope that I will continue on my 75Hard journey with a renewed relationship. But I can only control one of those things. So here I go.

Hello! It’s me again I’m a 23yr old guy, looking to be the protag for any stories we can come up with and universes to fool around in. I’m fairly experienced with 8 or so years of experience. I don’t really have that many ideas off the top of my head but I have developed a recent craving for a Dragon ball, Baldurs gate/DnD sort of setting, Post apocalyptic, supernatural and many more. Just shoot me your ideas and we’ll figure something out together though I do have a big craving for dragon ball or Star Wars bonus points if you bring that lol. I do enjoy romance in my stories but to let this be known out the gate I only do MxF pairings, me as the male out of comfort if it’s not a big deal 👉👈
Now as for me, I’m pretty experienced, 8 or so years under my belt. I don’t ask for much but communication and at least 2-3 paragraphs a response as that’s what I primarily offer. My replies are also in 3rd person only. I’m pretty chill too and would love to make friends with my partners if possible so that’d be a huge plus. I do want to ask though please. Don’t ghost me and I’d love someone just as excited to rp as I am 🙂
Anyways, that should be it for me. If you’re interested DM’s are open. See you all soon hopefully. Have a nice day regardless.

Hello! It’s me again I’m a 23yr old guy, looking to be the protag for any stories we can come up with and universes to fool around in. I’m fairly experienced with 8 or so years of experience. I don’t really have that many ideas off the top of my head but I have developed a recent craving for a Dragon ball, Baldurs gate/DnD sort of setting, Post apocalyptic, supernatural and many more. Just shoot me your ideas and we’ll figure something out together though I do have a big craving for dragon ball or Star Wars bonus points if you bring that lol. I do enjoy romance in my stories but to let this be known out the gate I only do MxF pairings, me as the male out of comfort if it’s not a big deal 👉👈
Now as for me, I’m pretty experienced, 8 or so years under my belt. I don’t ask for much but communication and at least 2-3 paragraphs a response as that’s what I primarily offer. My replies are also in 3rd person only. I’m pretty chill too and would love to make friends with my partners if possible so that’d be a huge plus. I do want to ask though please. Don’t ghost me and I’d love someone just as excited to rp as I am 🙂
Anyways, that should be it for me. If you’re interested DM’s are open. See you all soon hopefully. Have a nice day regardless.

Forgive me as I’m drunk at an NYC bar after watching game 7 of Knicks-Pacers but I had some ideas about the ECF Lineup that have been brewing since Thursday and have only become more apparent with Wheeler’s announcement that he’s available for the ECF.
Here is my preferred lineup for the ECF
Kreider-Zib-Rosolvic Bread-Troc-La Cuyulle-Chytil-Wheeler (!) Goodrow-Wennberg-Kakko
Fox-Lindgren/Jones Schneider-Miller Trouba-Gustafson
Our top 6 has been on point in the first two rounds of the playoffs and I see no reason to break them up. However, the third line has barely scored and the court line has chipped in when it needs to. I feel that this lineup allows for the third line to chip in offense while preserving the Wennberg-Kakko combo as our checking line. Adding in Goodrow on the wing just gives them more defensive ability.
A reminder that we started the season with Cuyulle-Trocheck-Wheeler and they were excellent (53% xGF) replacing Trocheck with Chytil while reuniting that line could be fruitful and give the Rangers a third scoring line with which I think we need against Florida.
As for the defense, I really would prefer we add Jones over Lindgren. As much as I love Lindgren, he’s been flat out bad in these playoffs. I’d rather give Jones a shot as he and Fox showed that they could dominate together down the stretch. But I know that won’t happen. I do think the Rangers should go back to Miller-Schneider. I just do not trust Trouba against Florida. I feel like they will get the worst out of him and would rather have Schneider in those tough matchup minutes.
Anyway cannot wait until Wednesday. LGR!

I’m a 18M. I met this individual (we’ll call J) back in 2020, August. At the time, J was dating his boyfriend (we’ll call M) for a year and a half at that point. I grew very close with J over the time I knew them, I’d call with them and it was purely an online thing we had. They lived in Texas, I live in Louisiana.
Anyways, forward to march 2022. I’m laying down one night and get a text from J. It read “I would die for some hard rough sex right now”, now being as close as we were I took it as a joke but instead it was a ploy for sex. I fell for it. Afterward we talked and he told me how M was ignoring him, ghosting him, and all that. Two weeks later, after much phone sex and talking, J breaks up with M and makes me and him official.
Now I know this was wrong but I was fully convinced M was an abuser, or atleast J’s form of one. Overtime, me and J’s relationship got stronger. Called every night, talked every day. It got to the point where I’d get upset if our call steak broke. I was in love with him.
J had a friend Monet that he introduced me to (this is important.) J is monet’s bestfriend, they joke around all the time, often sexually, which I expressed made me uncomfortable. He told me to shut up and not to worry about it. His exact words were “if you don’t fuck with Monet, I don’t fuck with you” so I just shut up and dealt with it. Eventually something lead to our breakup and the next day he came back to get back with me.
Life went on, until one day he starts ghosting me. I try messaging him all throughout the day, even messaging some of his friends. I get to the second friend and he sends me a message like “stop annoying my friends, they don’t even like you.” And according to him he needed “time away.” So I gave him time. Until I woke up one morning to him telling me to “kill myself” and that we were done with.
It broke me. It was awful, and the whole time he was making jokes about it. He dangled the prospect of getting back together in my face and I just gave up and blocked him. A couple days later, He made a separate account on discord and messaged me, asking if I blocked him. When I told him yes he begged for me back and pleaded he’d do better. I gave him another chance to which he admitted the night prior he tried texting my number while high and drunk.
Small sidetrack: during our relationship he would do drugs which I expressed to him day after day I was never comfortable with and begged him to stop, or atleast stop telling me the stories of how he did it. He never listened.
This whole debacle happened the week of Christmas, I was at my uncles house. J was trying to offer sex in the prospect of us getting back together. Me, being upset and confused, took up the offer. Something I regret.
Nothing much of note happens the next few months, only to summer does the drama start again. Me and J start making plans to see one another. I spent hundreds of dollars buying clothes, luggage, tell everyone where I’m going to be. Now it’s important to note that during the summer I had to live with another family because of housing problems.
J did not like this. He said they were taking me away from him, that all the time that I could be giving him was being taken. (See part 2)

Hello! It’s me again I’m a 23yr old guy, looking to be the protag for any stories we can come up with and universes to fool around in. I’m fairly experienced with 8 or so years of experience. I don’t really have that many ideas off the top of my head but I have developed a recent craving for a Dragon ball, Baldurs gate/DnD sort of setting, Post apocalyptic, supernatural and many more. Just shoot me your ideas and we’ll figure something out together though I do have a big craving for dragon ball or Star Wars bonus points if you bring that lol. I do enjoy romance in my stories but to let this be known out the gate I only do MxF pairings, me as the male out of comfort if it’s not a big deal 👉👈
Now as for me, I’m pretty experienced, 8 or so years under my belt. I don’t ask for much but communication and at least 2-3 paragraphs a response as that’s what I primarily offer. My replies are also in 3rd person only. I’m pretty chill too and would love to make friends with my partners if possible so that’d be a huge plus. I do want to ask though please. Don’t ghost me and I’d love someone just as excited to rp as I am 🙂
Anyways, that should be it for me. If you’re interested DM’s are open. See you all soon hopefully. Have a nice day regardless.

I, 14, weight 49.7 - 50.00kg. I am about 5’3. Recently I’ve been wanting to be 45 or 47 kg, I want to be thinner also I’m about on the lower end of average. Because of that I have started eating less and over this weekend I have napped over dinner and only eat lunch. I can’t tell if it’s all in my head and I’m doing it for attention, cause I know this one girl and she does everything for attention from the short skirts she wear and sits facing her crush. Recently she said she had eating less and I always thought she was doing it for attention because she loves attention and would do anything for it. ANYTHING. I can’t tell if I’m doing this for attention or not. And I hate the idea that my mind is doing this for attention automatically. (Ps I have been told I overthink things by multiple people is this one of those moments)

Clan Starship [VSTR] AND [LSTR] is recruiting for Destiny 2 & beyond! We are an established gaming community with experienced players looking for new members. Our clan has members from all walks of life & we are founded on inclusion & mutual respect. We are looking to bring people on to strengthen a core group of players & grow with great members. Come & get your seat aboard the Starship today! Don’t want to leave your current clan but still want to see the discord & all The Starship has to offer? The Starship Discord is open to all so feel free to reach out!
What We Offer

• 18+ community that is active both in-game & out.
• Platform agnostic
• New player friendly & looking to help Guardians take the next step to end game.
• We have a team of vetted sherpas, guide creators & curated guides with almost any activity to help you with end-game PVE & PVP content.
• We have both PVE & PVP players, though we would skew slightly PVE (about a 60/40 split depending on the season)
• A social, high-functioning discord with bots, polls, discussions, and general good times. Events & clubs! We run PvP Tournaments, Gambit Tournaments, Fashion Shows, Scavenger Hunts, Clan Rumbles, Book Clubs, Game Clubs & more!
• A varied group of gamers! Play more than Destiny? Want to discuss the new hotness? Looking forward to Marathon? Spreading Democracy in Helldivers 2? We have it all & we want to grow even more!
• Clan Starship started as Vexian Starship & has been around for 5 years & we plan to be around for the next 5, & the 5 after that, & the 5 after that, & the… You get the idea, we’re established.

Who We’re Looking For

• No toxicity, drama, bullying, etc. We are a mature group & we’d like to keep it that way
• Social & willing to team up! We require discord membership & we do expect general participation as we put in a lot of work to ensure there is always something happening on the Starship.
• Any skill level & playstyle is welcome! We want to help you get to the next level and/or find people at your current level if you’re already towards the top!

Location/Time Zone

• Any location is accepted. We are largely made of USA & Canadian Guardians with some European & Australian representation as well! We are spread out across all the USA so you can find players within your timezone or next closest time zone.
• Most common times that people are on is from 5 PM EST to 1 AM EST though you can find many morning & afternoon players. (Morning raids are a speciality of some members)
• We have voice & text activity within the discord every day of the week so there is always a good time to play aboard the Starship.

Vexian Starship is currently full but you can still join the discord & join our sister clan below!
You can apply to Lubraean Starship here! https://www.bungie.net/7/en/Clan/Profile/5230869
Please note that there is no difference between the two in-game clans, they all fall under the same banner as Clan Starship & is mostly just a name preference!
Either way, we’d love to have you aboard Clan Starship! Please ensure that you message me on Discord when you apply so we can get you a Discord invite! You can message me here as well but I may be a little slower at getting to it. Your application will not be accepted until you join the discord. Esfjord is my Discord username.

Ive worked many food service and retail jobs and I have been with my current job at a big box pet retailer for just under 5 years. I am a merchandising and inventory leader. I love my job and I love being the person who has all the answers when stuff is out of stock or something is long term out and we have shelf space to fill. i get to be a bit creative with my discretionary shelf space, but still be social when customers need help…
I HATE however the insurance situation I have right now and I hate the physical toll it’s putting on my body. I am going to the chiropractor once a week, and I can’t afford much more than bills and food. I need a new job where I can get insurance-supported therapy and ADHD meds and where I can thrive as an extrovert. While all the while building savings for my future.
I’ve said all my life that a desk job will kill me. But I’m realizing that in order to fulfill my true dream job (ecoming a mother) I need to give less fucks about my day job, in order to afford an amazing life for future hypothetical children. So I’m willing to trade in my stressful-but-fulfilling job for a cushier and more future-orientated job.
I’m not necessarily asking for recommendations on what my next career should be. Though if you have ideas, I’ll take them. What I’m looking to gain from this post is how to give up a job that I’m extremely passionate and and how to begin accepting delayed gratification as far as saving and things, when it’s a job I might not be as passionate about?

TL;DR: Luigi and Saiko have the potential to be a pairing with fun contrasting personalities and character growth potential while working with what's there in canon already without much if any change.
Time for something a bit... different for this sub, at least from what I can tell. I only just joined yesterday thanks to Medi's recent video.
Before we begin, I want to start off by saying that this is in no way a "my ship is better than yours" post. You are all free to like what you want, all I'm doing is trying to spread love for a pairing I hold so dear, and why I wish more people knew what's special about it. In other words, don't take this the wrong way. With that out of the way...
Saiko Bichitaru is my favorite SMG4 character. It took a bit for me to appreciate her, but as a fan of the show since 2013, as her debut year of 2018 went by and she continued to develop into a core cast member, I thought that for a show like this it was a very well-executed character arc, with a pretty heartwarming conclusion to boot. In the years since, besides perhaps 2019 which I thought was pretty good for her character, she took a step back in favor of other characters getting the spotlight, which isn't necessarily a bad thing but part of me does wish they got to utilize certain dynamics with her more. Tari and Kaizo are obvious ones, but another obvious one that I think is largely unnoticed these days is her dynamic with Luigi.
Luigi is my other favorite character, for generally being likable while still being entertaining, but there are other, niche-er reasons too I will get into later. For now I will say that he has has a sort of "magic" about him, in that despite his cowardly exterior (occasionally gigachad moments aside, which are mainly done for comedy's sake) he has a big heart and tries to see the best in people. In SMG4, him becoming Saiko's friend during her darkest hour (heh) is one of the biggest examples of this. It started an unlikely friendship between a timid but kindly plumber and a tough and passionate rockstar, something that remains to this day, but mainly in background cameos. Despite this, I've noticed that the larger fanbase doesn't really acknowledge this much, likely to due A. the lack of major usage since 2020 and B. some fans weren't around when those videos were new. But that's why I'm here today: I am here to talk about what makes this dynamic work so well, but also that I legitimately think that while considering that, Luigi x Saiko is a pairing that can work extremely well given what's already there without much interference. Again, I'm not saying that it's "better" than other pairings involving one of these two, only that it's one of the more "realistic" pairings as a whole in my opinion. To start with, let's go over Saiko's character arc again.
PART 1: SAIKO
I don't want to turn this into a recap, so we'll go over her story briefly before getting into the parts involving the green Italian man. A fictional rockstar in a dating game from the band KS-2 brought in by Boopkins due to his loneliness, Saiko started off as an extremely clingy yandere, violently demanding attention from others if even a second was put away from her being the center of attention. After about six months of her being a villain, eventually she realized that she has a problem and became depressed over it, only fro a certain someone to come in and kickstart her redemption, slowly but surely becoming nicer and becoming friends with the SMG4 gang, notably Tari and Meggy.
I personally feel like a lot of Saiko's POV is understood if you saw certain videos happen as they aired, but it all started with Luigi's Lesson, where the usually cowardly Luigi learns about Saiko's problems and tries to help her become nicer. As you may know, he succeeded for the most part, with her doing a good deed by the end (saving Mario from choking on hot dogs), and she slowly became nicer over time. The thing is that Luigi was Saiko's first true friend, someone who saw her potential for being a good person before anyone else. In this case, I don't really count Boopkins since while he did care for her, after her debut he tried to stay away as much as he could and didn't really attempt to help her until after Luigi kickstarted that whole thing. Beyond that though, there were still moments throughout 2018 that showed Luigi being the one to help Saiko improve herself, the main one being a small moment in The Mario Cafe, but even Mario and the Diss Track had Luigi be the one to tell Saiko the truth about Bob in that arc.
All things considered, my personal interpretation is that Luigi saved Saiko's life. Without him being there for her, Saiko would've continued scared off people with her violent tendencies, and she never would've found the "attention" she desired so much via the SMG4 gang. And it all started because some easily-scared plumber saw something more in someone even he was previously scared of. Speaking of which, let's talk about him.
PART 2: LUIGI
To start with, I wanted to mention that Luigi is bisexual, not homosexual. "Gay" can be used as an umbrella term for anyone in the LGBT+ community, and Luigi has shown attraction for both men and women throughout the series, with a lean towards men mainly for comedy purposes. The 2015 episode Love for Luigi is a very notable example of this, where Luigi falls in love with Daisy and tries to win over her heart, and he succeeds by the end... but did he really? Much like several other aspects of the series, this is something only really brought up when it's convenient (like the 2016 episode Boo Busters) but otherwise Luigi is portrayed as single. Since we live in an era where they care about canon a little more, I think the only plausible explanation for this is that they broke up.
While I imagine that Luigi is fine with this these days, to get into headcanon territory a little, perhaps Luigi still feels lonely to this day. I mean, he still shows attraction to people, even showing interest in romance (such as this one clip from a Mario Does Things video from a couple of years back called "luigi tries to get with the ladies" on the Shorts channel), so there probably has to be some level of desire for it internally. Maybe he feels lonely, which is why he could relate to Saiko's struggles at first. But that's enough about headcanons for now.
Another thing about Saiko is that she just fits Luigi's taste in general. Luigi is with Daisy in Nintendo canon, and she's a strong gal with a lotta passion for what she cares about. While Luigi is plenty capable himself, in SMG4 he still shows signs of timidness and cowardice every once in a while, and of course he tends to be the butt of many jokes that he can't do anything about. From a comedy perspective that's fine, but from Luigi's POV, considering the several other responsibilities he has, the dude is tired. Someone strong and passionate like Saiko has the potential to teach him about confidence and standing up for himself in return for him teaching her about kindness and being rewarded for it. Long story short, being with Saiko not only fits Luigi's own tastes in partners, but Saiko in particular could do something that helps him better himself. In turn...
PART 3: LUIGI & SAIKO
Everything discussed leads to a relationship between two contrasting personalities with their own problems, and getting together leads to both of them becoming happier in the process. And hey, who doesn't like a ship with contrasting personalities? The thing about LxS though is that the seeds were already planted in the show itself to build off from, with the setup given in Luigi's Lesson potentially giving us just that. As for their dynamic, the times they do show up together, as I said before, consistently have them friendly without any real holes or inconsistencies. A large part of that is due to their underusage together, but even in recent episodes, we have moments such as the 2022 Christmas episode where they were cooking dinner together, or a more recent episode that shows them together at SMG3's coffee shop.
One final major point though is that I think Luigi and Saiko being a couple could bring things full circle. Saiko, a woman looking for love and improves herself thanks to a certain person starting it all.... only for said person to fall for the woman that Saiko became, and in turn Saiko falls for Luigi for being the one who started her new life and for being a kindhearted person who understands her the most, next to Tari mainly shown in the KS-2 mini-arc from 2022. In other words, the person Saiko was really looking for was the person in-front of her the whole time. If you ask me, that's a pretty fitting note to "conclusively" end Saiko's original character arc, even if it already ended around 2019.
As a side note, Luigi and Saiko have potential to be really good parents, but with the "gender roles" switched, which is always fun. Luigi is timid, caring, and tidy, while Saiko is also caring, but also passionate, tough, and cares for her friend's well-beings, both like a mom and a dad respectively. It also has a lot of comedy potential as you have the two of them learning the ropes of parenthood, and it could lead to more interactions with other characters, mainly Karen (in which Luigi already gave advice to on parenting one time, showing that he already has the ropes to a degree).
CONCLUSION
Overall, Luigi and Saiko have a lot of potential for not only their dynamic, but also the idea of them becoming a couple. I wish more people knew about this since I feel that LxS is largely seen as "MxM's Player 2" given how you only really see MxM fans mention the pairing. That isn't a bad thing at all, I myself like that pairing, but I do wish that the pairing had a little more of a fanbase of its own. But hey, that's part of why I'm talking about this now. The good news though is that there has been something of a small resurgence of the pairing already despite the fact of content, mainly through the existence of RockRage8962's fankid characters Angelo and Rin, who were made into Gmod characters by Duz/Glithware and AnEyeArtist.
Despite this, I do wish that more people understood why this pairing is special, and I hope with this essay, more people can do so. You can still like whatever pairings you like, but whether this convinces you on the ship's idea or not, I hope you at least gain a little more respect towards it. If anyone has any questions or want me to elaborate on something, let me know and I'll likely respond, but if you made it this far, thanks for reading!
BONUS: A playlist of videos containing at least one Luigi and Saiko moment, from 2018 to 2020.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLDYLLnT8V-AT9AUb28cpE87_-a4CMbEed

The beginning of my daughters 6th grade year (2021), a new girl moved to town. We will call her Ruth. Her parents had recently divorced and she moved here with her mother. My daughter quickly became friends with her and I noticed my daughter coming out of her shell more. Being less shy, more outgoing. I was happy for her to have made a new friend that she was close so quickly with. The friendship quickly turned into best friends. The girl began coming over to our house for sleepovers on the weekends as kids do. They would hang out at the park together in town. She eventually asked to go over to her house to hang out and I said yes. She knew it would just be hanging out during the day as I really didn't know her mother well. My daughter got in the car and told me how much she liked hanging out over there and then proceeded to tell me there roaches crawling on the floor in the girls bedroom, THEN asked if she could stay the night sometime. I told her no and explained to her why and said that her friend is always welcome to come stay at our home. BFF's continue. No harm, no foul.
Fast forward to 7th grade year. Still BFF's. This is great. Especially since girls are so awful to each other ALL THE TIME IN JUNIOR HIGH. Her mom has a work trip and has to travel out of state for a few days during the school week. She asked if her daughter could stay with us. My husband and I agreed that it would be fine and she stayed with us for a few days while her mom was out of state. Still BFF's.
Now it's the middle of 7th grade year, around January (2023). Her mom (46 y/o)started dating a new guy(50 y/o). This guys fiancé had recently left him for another guy. We will call him John. I live in a dominantly republican area if this gives you any idea of the people I'm dealing with/talking about. Anyways, they fall in love and she moves in with John within 6 months of dating each other. (Approx May 2023). Her son decides to move back with his dad. Her other daughter moved in with a boyfriend (she is over 18). So, just the mom and daughter move in with him and his son(irrelevant).
Summer 2023 it is suddenly unfair that Ruth is always coming over to our house, but my daughter never goes over there. My husband(37 y/o) and I(35 y/p) agree that it is ok for her to go over there. John had just recently putting up an above ground pool. We don't have a pool. It's summer. I get it. She goes over there plenty of times, I let her stay late as we just live about a mile or two down the road. John starts building a "cabin" as a "great outlook over the pool". This is basically a cabin/pool house thing up 12 feet above the pool, but kind of to the side. My husband and I think its super weird...but whatever, they continue hanging out back and forth at one another's houses. Ruth continues to stay over a lot. In the midst of all of this and my daughter meeting John she informs me that....John thinks my daughter is a liar. Of course I asked why. John thinks that because my daughter will not look him in the eye when she speaks to him. My daughter is shy and has a lot of anxiety. I told her that she is not required to look him in the eye if she doesn't want to her. Its HER choice. John now has a say in what Ruth wears. He is not allowing her to wear short shorts anymore because it will give off the wrong impression to men dressing that way. Same with tops as far as her chest and stomach. I don't mean extreme stuff either. I mean if she has a shirt that touches her pants, but when she lifts up her arms it shows her stomach it is not allowed. I also really don't care how people choose to allow/not allow their children to dress, it is just that she was previously allowed to wear these things. She is also no longer allowed to hang out in her room alone, she has to hang out with her family in the living room.
Fast forward to a couple of months ago. Still BFF's. My daughter asked for Ruth to stay over. Of course, its fine with my husband and I. However, Ruth cannot stay over because it is now unfair that Ruth always stays at our house and my daughter never stays there. My daughter asked me if she could spend the night over there. She informed me that if she was not able to spend the night over there, then they wouldn't be able to hang out anymore. I figured it was just two teenagers making stuff up to be able to stay somewhere. I always used to do it when I was a kid...all kids do it. I asked my daughter if she wanted to stay there. She was upset, and said yes because if she doesn't then they won't be able to be friends. She said so if she has to do it to be friends with Ruth, then she will. My daughter does not even use public restrooms/school restrooms. The only place she will go to the restroom is at home. My husband and I talked it over and did not allow her to stay because of how he openly talks shit about our daughter, and if you've read above...its giving narcissist. We explained all of this to our daughter.
Later that night there is a knock on our door. Its Ruth mom and John. They asked if they could talk to us. John asked if we called him a pedophile. We didn't. We explain this. Convo continues. Not a heated convo just a normal convo. They continue to talk to let us know that they don't drink or anything but they are facing misdemeanor charges for fighting ANOTHER GIRLS PARENTS in the 8th grade class at a Poker Run for a fundraiser a few months ago but it wasn't their fault. Then John asks if I bought Ruth a tanktop recently. It was a spaghetti strap. John tells my husband and I "Ruth isn't allowed to wear those because soon they will be freshman in highschool and ALL of the seniors have a bet to see how many freshman they can fuck and the ones dressed like that will be the easiest targets" Blood boils . I informed John politely but sternly that girls should not have to worry about how they are dressed, parents should be teaching the BOYS how to behave properly and obtain consent. John also defended a sex offender that was charged for molesting a girlfriends daughter who is disabled and cannot speak or talk for herself. John defended him and said technically she WASNT a minor and he is a good guy. Idc about sex offenders and I do believe in rehabilitation but a crime is a crime. Long convo. Basically chit chatting about our kids. It ended with them telling us that our daughter is always welcome to stay and we said thanks and they left.
Now, Ruth is no longer allowed to hang out with my daughter. Ruth has to ride the bus and cannot get rides home with us because its US. They are not allowed at the park together. She's not allowed here. This is per John and Ruth's mom. They had graduation and Ruth had to make sure John didn't catch her talking to me.
I obviously want my daughter to be happy. She has not given me an attitude about any of this. She has gotten upset and cried and just told me that she would do it if she had to because she doesn't want to lose her friend. She wants to have a good summer but John gives me the CREEPS and narcissist vibes. I also feel like its a control thing for him?
Plz be nice. I'll cry if I'm TA. lol

I want to start off apologizing for the grammar mistakes and unorganized thoughts that will soon occur.
What do I do knowing my boyfriend is comparing me to other girls? For context, I (22F) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for almost a year now (in a week). We met online and instantly connected. I was going to school in another state so we did long distance for most of our relationship until he moved in with me. Now we both live together in a studio with two cats (one we got together).
Our relationship has been good, the typical ups and downs but we usually get over it. We both struggle with being extremely insecure but he definitely externalizes it while I internalize it. Most of our issues stem from his retroactive jealousy and him feeling very insecure. I try my best to reassure him but a lot of times he doesn’t believe me. I struggle with comparing myself to others especially looks wise. I have seen the type of influencer and people that he’s attracted to (early into the relationship)and I am in no way shape or form close to looking like that which made me more insecure in our relationship. He does reassure me that I am the prettiest girl and whatnot but because of my insecurities I have trouble believing that. I have voiced this to him especially in regards to social media.
I really don’t want to air out his business but I think it is essential to the story. He claims himself to be a loser since he works a minimum wage job and feels that he doesn’t do much to support me. I recently just graduated with my BSN and my BA and have quite the future ahead of me and he has told me he is very jealous of that since he isn’t a school person. I was given lots of scholarships which I used to pay for a lot of our stuff because I know he struggles with money since he has to pay for his car and insurance and whatnot. I really don’t mind this but he really hates that I pay for a lot of our stuff. He voiced to me that he hates that he isn’t able to provide for me like I have for him. He said he resents me for being “perfect” as most of our problems have stemmed from him and not me. He struggles to believe that a girl like me could love him and questions my love for him which brings us to a few days ago.
Just a few days ago, he confessed that he looks at other girls on his suggested or people you may know on instagram and compares me to them. He said that he imagined what it would be like to be with them and how they would feel about him. He admitted to doing this for a month. I asked him if he found these people attractive and he said yes. It hurt me so bad. I asked him if he has done it with me in the room and he also said yes. It hurts me that he claims to love me so much and that I am the girl he wants to marry but then he does this. I don’t know why these girls being “normal” people affects me so much and could be people he potentially knows.
From his perspective, he doesn’t know why he did this. He still claims that he loves me so much and that he wants to marry me and only sees a future with me. Through his comparisons he realize that I love him for who he is, and that he thinks I am the only one who would/will. He said he did it because he is so insecure and thinks that I will just leave him so he imagines being with other people. He also just didn’t believe that I love him. I asked him why he just didn’t come to me for reassurance and he doesn’t have an answer. He is begging me to stay with him and says that he will do anything to earn my trust back. I just don’t understand why he did this and if he’s being honest with his reasoning.
I want to more than anything try and work this out but it hurts so much and I don’t know why. I am trying to find reasons to justify this or blame myself for doing something wrong or not being enough. I just don’t understand why and I can’t bring myself to believe that someone who loves me so much would do that. I think maybe this is normal but this is something I would never do. We are on the verge of a break up and i don't know how to feel. I don’t know if this is something I can get over easily. I feel more insecure than I have ever felt in my life. Every time I look at him or think of the situation I just cry. He has left the decision to me to whether we stay together or break up. I leave for my trip to Asia in a few days and will be gone for 3 weeks. I don’t know how to work this out if we’re long distance again with a time difference, how to trust him, how to feel good about myself, and not overthink. I don’t want to throw away this relationship because the thought of us not together also hurts. On the other hand, if we do break up this is the perfect time as he would have three weeks to pack and move without us having to interact much.
I really don’t know what to do. I really want to stay and work on it because I do think that he is being genuine in what he is saying but I don’t know how to get over this and trust him fully. What should I do?

Hey everyone, my Sauron the Reanimator commander deck, has been doing reasonably well against my friends, but I'm looking to upgrade this deck even further. I'm considering adding Combustible Gearhulk or Noxious Gearhulk, but I need to figure out what to remove. Are there any other cards worth adding to a reanimator deck, or are there cards that seem like they shouldn't be in this deck?
I'm currently looking just to become more efficient and effective at maintaining a strong board presence as I become a threat early on once my friends see me dumping monsters into my grave. How do you think this deck would do at a local LGS Commander night? I would love to start participating, but I also don't want to be stompped on or have a deck that is too overpowering. I've only ever played against my friends so I have no idea what others would think of this deck.

realizing lately that i really don’t have any self worth and never have. lately my partner and i haven’t been having sex very much (normal life stuff, job, stress, etc) and it just makes me absolutely spiral. so i’m noticing how i’ve tied sex directly to my self worth in an attempt to feel accepted, but any time i get rejected it just kills me. i realize now that it’s unsustainable and that i’ve basically been hanging on by a thread my whole life.
sorry if that’s nonsense but it’s all new to be able to express for me… so how do i have self worth? what is it supposed to be? is it confidence? is it loving myself? i truly have no idea.

I used to watch a lot of Klopp's press conferences, and from time to time, he'd say something insightful. Even though it's in the context of talking about football, they're nice lessons for life in general. I hope this isn't strange. Here's some:
"for me the only way I understand, the only way i can do it, is I have no idea what is in may, april, february, january. I have no idea, but I know that we play watford tomorrow. That's enough as a problem"
"I don't tell them (players) everything I know, I only tell them what they should know, to not overwhelm them and keep them effective"
"If my team wins, it is on them, and if we lose, it is on me."
"a game is a summary of momentum. When you have it, you have to use it effectively"
"for a really good game, you have to gain this really good feeling, step by step by step, and we never had that in the first half. It never felt really right for us. If we scored a goal to draw in the second half, it wouldn't have made the first half better, it would've just made the result better."
"We created a lot of chances, didn't score with them, now we have to create more and use them. When you don't score, it always has this impact... your mood drops, instead of going: who cares? A missed chance is just information, nothing else, but we don't do that well in the moment"
"there's no system in the world which is perfect, which means you can use these kind of things"
“We believe he has everything needed to fit into our way and adapt to the Premier League, both physically and mentally. He is a player who is hungry for success and knows you have to fight to get what you want. He is a fighter, no doubt. He’s a skillful team player who has always the goal in mind." on signing luis diaz
"The disruption I udnerstand. I think a lot of people on the outside who are not with us will be happy blah blah, it's your job to ask uncomfortable questions... The distraction comes from outside, but to get distracted, you always need two parts: the one who's distracting and the one who let it happen, and we will not let it happen."
"what did I tell him that he did what he did?" on taking responsibility for a player's performance
"you get the results, not the process. Don't forget" to journalist asking about transfer bids
"In the end, of course you wanna win a game, but it's all about the performance. Usually the mother of all results is the performance. If we're 1 nil down, let's win the second half, then we get a point, then we can try to win the game. But the good things we have to keep doing"
"We won the Champions League the next year, going again. We don’t win the league by a point, but win it the year after. So this period is a complete comeback, which is insane. We could have given up but it is just not in my DNA. I suffer like crazy after these things, just not for long. It’s how I said after the last Champions League final we lost. I decided before that, if it doesn’t happen, I will not waste a lifetime on suffering. I can’t do that any more."
Bonus (Mané about Klopp):
"He was talking too much and I said, 'Wow, this is going to be tough for me because I'm a little quiet.' Everybody loves him and that is more important, to be honest. He is a bit of a funny guy but at the same time he is a serious guy. Usually when I am talking to him off the pitch it is about personal things. Things about lifestyle and life - and that is important to me. I think I have somebody I can confide in."

Hi ladies. I’m feeling conflicted and some advice would be helpful.
I’m 10 weeks pregnant with my second baby and there is one particular friend I haven’t told yet, well actually them and my sister. The last time I was pregnant I was bombarded with my sisters crappy relationship with her boyfriend and then during the 2nd half of my pregnancy I was bombarded with both my friend and my sisters crappy relationship. This lasted well into my postpartum period when I was struggling with raising a baby with no family support while I also battled PPD.
My friend and my sister are still will these men and their relationships still suck so nothing has really changed. Now I’m pregnant but I’m extremely anxious to say anything to them given my past experience. I’ve told my family, husbands family and my other friends but I feel no desire to inform my friend and sister. I’m afraid things will still be the same since they’re still miserable in their respective relationships. I’ve put some distance between myself and them by reducing contact and taking a step back for my own mental health. I don’t feel like I can communicate my feelings with them because it always slaps me in the face and they make it about their feelings instead of trying to see where I’m coming from and letting me have a moment. This friend of mine calls herself my kids aunt but has never even wished him on his birthday or acknowledged the day, neither has my sister. There’s just no effort so I stopped expecting anything. My kid has other aunts and uncles who love the crap out of him so I focus on the people who actually show up for him. I used to be very close to my friend but that has changed since they met their current partner. The relationship just isn’t the same anymore and I’ve been trying to stay at a distance so I don’t get traumatized again.
Am I being unreasonable? I know I’m flooded with pregnancy hormones so I’m trying to figure out if my reasons are justified. I feel almost overprotective of my mental health this time around since I had such a hard time during my first pregnancy so I’m feeling extra selective regarding the people I allow in my life this time around.

I just want to get this out.

I'm going on my third year at this job. This girl joined about 1,5 years ago, she has 3 kids with a guy there who's been working there for 13 years. One of the people who has been working there the longest. Bosses respect him. And to be quite frank, even though I rarely see him, I always had a good relationship with him. Shake hands. I find him to be alright. But I don't know much..
From what I gathered, she's only with him because they have 3 kids. I don't see any sort of love between them. From what I have gathered he has cheated on her, or at the very least, has tried to see other girls, which teared her self esteem up and became a very frustrated person.
When I first started talking to her I would tell her that her boyfriend's the guy who should be promoted because he would do a greater job than most. Always complimented him. She'd agree. Until, fast forward, she wasn't so nice about him anymore.
Me and the girl started talking too much. I guess I became her go to, and made her feel very good. I always kept distance when it came to showing love interest, I always kept a step back. But my toxic, idiot side kinda wanted her to like me like that. Why? Idk. Self esteem. I actually had fun talking to her tbh. We had an actual lot in common. We hung out somewhere special once and it was a dinner with other friends. I saw it as just fun.
She lived near me and we started going home from work in the same car. Fast forward, maybe a month later, she decided she wanted to talk to me privately, and as I guessed, she went ahead and kissed me. After that, It became more sexual and she started going down on me. My behavior is so immature, I would be lying if I said I wouldn't have kept that up.
We kept talking and talking, but the reality is i couldn't find myself to have genuine love for her. I don't like her like that. Although I do care for her. Feel good when she's around, but it's the same feelings you have when you care for a real friend.
She would do everything for me. Gave me expensive shoes (110€) because she heard me speak about adidas shoes at that same dinner. She brought me other sht. Bruh she brought a rabbit and named it after a nickname she gave me.
I don't love her. I accepted that this was enough, so I decided to tell her straight. She didn't believe me. So she kept finding ways to get back to me. Like skipping work, or work in a different position or schedule so I wouldn't see her, just different ways to get my attention. I would fall for that everytime. Because the sobbing and tears didn't help. She even came to my house unannounced and wouldn't leave until I came out and talked to her. She said something about not feeling good. I felt afraid she'd do something stupid to herself or pass out from some illness she has. So I came out. Spoke to her, and gave out, we became good again, telling her I only saw her as a friend, but if she wants benefits too, sure. Again, me messing it up with selfishness again because I always knew she was hopeful for more.
Recently, i decided to once again see if I can separate myself from her. I told her I wanted distance and I got that. She gave me that, while always hoping I'd track back. When she's around bruh just knowing she's looking at me it makes me laugh. And she takes it as "he's playing hard to get but he's nervous and wants me", lol, no i just can't contain myself.
But I've managed to be avoiding that.
She wants my attention back everytime she sees me, but I haven't aknowledged.
Before the very last time I spoke to her, she told my friend that she was taking meds and hasn't slept because of me. After that, that same day while going home, she drove by me and got out, i told her to her face that I only saw her as a coworker and to keep distance.
In response, she stepped away from me at work. Unfollowed me on all social medias. And hopefully it stays this way.
After some time she told my friend that she was going to leave work. He told me this and the first thing I said was: "nah bro. She said this because she knows you'd tell me, and so I would reach out to her". And guess what, I was right. She went on her work vacation without telling anyone, and was furious I didn't reach out to her. I haven't fell for these sort of manipulations anymore. I have not texted. To this day, after a couple months, we haven't spoken.
Her boyfriend knew about all this I'm sure, but let it go. And is cool to me still. I'm not sure how love works in their house, but if there was no relationship, she wouldn't hide. So, she cheated with me, clearly.
My friend said that in every break up, one person always gets seriously more hurt. And I should accept this. And move forward. He also knows that she's very problematic and has been in situations where she's wrong but makes a scene to her bosses to make it seem she's in the right. Therefore that I need to be careful she doesn't start drama with me as revenge.
It is crazy that I have put myself in this situation. But my only solution is to keep this up, right? Simply not aknowledge her existence. I don't see any other way.
Tl:dr - Met this girl at work who is in a long relationship. She fell and obsessed over me. Now I can't get rid of her.I (28M) met this girl (34F) who isn't single and has kids, and messed up

Warning this is a very long read without a TLDR
I left this sub and joined the ryerson sub in 2021. Leaving behind my big drive of notes which is what I assume keeps driving these posts talking about grade inflation to my feed. My last few comments were very similar to everyone’s posts as of now - grade inflation, unfair admissions, feeling close to your goals and it being taken away. 3 years later here’s where I came from and what I’m doing now, why it’s not your fault and to offer a bit of hope if it helps. :)
In grade 12 (end of 2021) I had an 89 average, I was rejected from the majority of life sci and health sci programs (if a school had both I applied to both of them) - mac, u of t, queens, western. I got into York psych, health, TMU bio, undeclared arts and psych (waitlist), Laurier health sci and ottawa health sci. (some of my programs might be off if it’s wrong, the overarching field is what I mean). My goal was U of T life sci and to go to medical school. Laurier and Ottawa were off the table after my family and I came to the conclusion that we don’t have the money for me to move away, removing my last two life/sci options. I honestly wasn’t a big fan of York leaving TMU as my last option. I really wanted a life science or health science program because the curriculum after first year was not simply bio, chem, physics so I veered from biology at TMU.
So I ultimately ended up accepting undeclared arts as I was waitlisted for psychology. At the end of June, I got off the waitlist for psychology and accepted that. At the time, I was seriously unhappy with myself I was angry at the fact that people were getting opportunities that I wanted that didn’t deserve them due to inflation and lack of standardization of monitoring of tests during online schooling and just overall how poorly my high school experience ended. I’m talking full breakdowns about how I worked so hard and got nothing in return. I had teachers who genuinely believed that I was one of the best students that they had in years and told me that I would go far. I had a teacher go as far as writing a letter for no reason other than to just say how proud they were of me and how they knew that I would do great - which at the time I truly didn’t believe after not achieving any of the goals that I had set for myself at the beginning of grade 12.
My first year of psychology was online for my first semester where I did decently well I got a 3.0 my second semester, ended up being entirely in person because the online sections of classes were full. At the time I wanted to do medicine this dream quickly got away from me when second semester in person classes left me with a 2.67 gpa for the semester. I had a realization looking upon my peers who were still completely online at TMU or at other universities had much much better GPA than me and I wouldn’t be able to get into medicine with my GPA. So again I felt let down by systems that ultimately led to further inequality in education. I let go of the idea of medicine and had no idea what I wanted to do after my undergrad.
After my first year, I decided to join the course union at my school, which was one of the best decisions I ever made. I met amazing people who encouraged me to do better, peers who were higher years than me and gave me advice when needed and from there, my grades got better. after joining the course union I joined the liberal arts union and from there I worked on about five more different positions over the next two years. TMU is generally not seen as the best school and it’s not necessarily “competitive” but that can work in your favour because there’s so many positions available whereas at other schools where people may be more inclined to take these these positions making them more competitive. Joining these course unions gave me so many opportunities and so many things that are now on my CV that continue to provide more opportunities, for example I was offered a job at the school based on all my experience. My CV is now what I would consider amazing with all the work that I’ve gained that is applicable to the field that I want to work in and because of my experience on my CV I got a research assistant position where I have a great academic relationship with a prof. And I got my gpa up enough it’s not near a 4.00 or anything crazy but it’s good enough for me to get into grad school.
I always knew that I didn’t want to stay in psychology after I graduated so I completed my degree in three years rather than four. I also want to mention you do not need to complete your degree in three years. There’s no need for it. Had I stayed for an extra year I would’ve had so many more opportunities with extracurriculars. It’s just I did not love the psychology curriculum enough to want to stay in it for another year. I had taken summer school courses before coming to this conclusion, and I had so many credits that I didn’t want to switch programs so I fast tracked. All that being said, do not rush your degree unless for example, you don’t like it and have plans to do something unrelated afterwards - for me it was a masters in a different field that the only requirement was a bachelor’s degree so I didn’t see the point in switching. Having gained all of the research experience and extracurricular experience in the field that I want to pursue is what made my degree nonetheless beneficial even though I wasn’t doing what I had originally planned.
As of now, I will be beginning my masters at U of T in the fall (not in psychology). I feel very accomplished and fulfilled with everything I’ve done and I feel like the person that all those teachers said that I was back in high school. While I didn’t go to U of T for life sciences, and become a doctor like I had thought I would I am going to U of T nonetheless for a field I didn’t even know existed. I found and great community and something I genuinely love by continually working hard after feeling like I was ripped off by grade inflation and online school. All of which is so minuscule to everything I’ve gone on to do.
Moral of my story is you might feel ripped off right now, that your hard work went unnoticed and you might feel like you’re never going to accomplish your goals. But the truth is, it's very minuscule to the potential that you have. And as long as you continue to use your work ethic and potential wherever you go, you will be successful. You don't need big fancy school. You can do just as well if not better at schools that are seen as less prestigious or competitive as long as you continue to put in the hard work that you did in high school. So please don't feel like you have lost something but feel that you have gained the potential to do more. If you’re truly uncertain about accepting a program, take the time off think about alternate fields and try applying again, it might be better than toughing it out in a program you don’t really care about. If you’re dead set on going to university this fall, don’t wanna take time off and want to apply again and didn’t get into the one you planned, join extracurriculars meet new people and keep putting in work and it will pay off.
And I’m not saying you’re wrong in anyway for complaining and feeling the way that you feel because I felt the same way. You’re all valid asf. All I’m saying is don’t beat yourself up and don’t feel like you’re the problem because there’s so many opportunities for you so long as you seek them out and take them and you will end up in a much better position in the end.