Sweet random text messages to send to a boy i like
Something is going on with yurine12 and crylee š¤
2024.05.20 07:24 Objective-Star-8568 Something is going on with yurine12 and crylee š¤
- she took a sudden trip up to her parents out of the blue after already being on a month long vacation, brought the dog and has been there at least a week now
- the few minutes I pop in to see what heās talking about I hear him talking about how heās not perfect and makes a fool of himself
- Rylee posted a photo of her dog (a boy) looking like he was āyellingā at a girl dog and she added the word āsameā by the girl dog
- Yuriy has been posting old photos of them on trips together, a bunch of photos of the cats Rylee left behind (Yurine hates those fucking cats), and a message today about āsorry for no tent talks (their couple podcast) I know a lot of people enjoy itā
Is she finally tired of what she sees in the mirror š¤
2024.05.20 07:23 Salt_Slip_3186 Tired of judgmental very opinionated family members.
So I have 3 boys in all & the youngest 2 are biracial & they have BEAUTIFUL curly hair. My 2 year old absolutely HATES getting his hair done or even someone atleast running their hands through it, he will scream. However, I donāt have any issues with it I remember very well on how it feels to get your hair done as a child so it takes some getting used to. Well, my sister & mother thinks otherwise. EVERYTIME I see them, theyāre always saying how I NEED to cut their hair constantly sending me kids haircut styles shit like that. My sister is the most outspoken, judgmental, opinionated woman Iāve ever met & no exaggeration, EVERYTIME she sees my children the FIRST thing that comes out of her mouth is I need to cut it. Today, we were at a bbq at my moms house & I walked in, set the babies down on the couch and the first thing she says after looking at my 2 year old is āugh why is everybody growing their boys hair outā mind you, my sons hair is freshly / neatly braided so itās not like it was a mess all over the place. I avoid conflict at my momās house out of respect for her, so I just kept my comments to myself and ignored her. As the day goes on blah blah blah, dinner time comes and my son is exhausted after being in church all morning & hasnāt had a nap so heās crying and Iām trying to figure out why & I hear her & her husband conversation in the living room saying ā yeah we can leave after this Iām not trying to listen to thatā so I told them Iāll do it for them. I packed up mine & my sonās dinner, and left instantly. Iām so tired of just being āused to itā. Iām the black sheep of the family so itās pretty normal to get shit on or talked about or judged. Idk what to do in this situation. OH & she had the nerve to send me a tik tok after I got home of a childās haircut! I want to respond and go tf off but Iām trying to keep it adult š ok rant over thanks for listening to my Ted talk ššš
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2024.05.20 07:23 miphasgraceisreadyyy feeling nostalgic for an old friend.
19F here. when i was thirteen, i became really close friends with one of my classmates. we had never really spoken before, but when the second year of secondary school began, we started talking a lot and became inseparable. every second of free time in school, we spent it together. i told her everything about my personal life, and she told me everything about hers.
one of my favorite memories with her was in december of that school term (which was exam season). each day, weād have two, sometimes three exams. one in the morning, a long break (which people usually used to review work and study), and then the final exam for the day. during that long break, we would always go outside together and find a spot to study togetherā¦it would start off as studying, and then it would change into talking and talking and talking about literally everything. at that age, i was pretty bad at socializing; though some people i couldāve spoken to effortlessly, and others i didnāt feel confident enough to do so. when it came to her, i felt like i could talk about literally anything with her and neither of us would get bored. that exam season lasted about two weeks, and i know it sounds bad, but that entire two weeks that we spent chatting away instead of studying, (i still did great on my exams donāt worry lol!) were some of the most memorable moments in my entire secondary school life.
we remained close for the rest of the school year. then came the next school year, and we still talked, but not as much. iām pretty sure at one point we both confronted each other about it, but i donāt remember the conversation too well.
anyways, the pandemic happenedā¦and when we came back out to school (at this point i was 16 going on 17), she changed a lot. a handful of people did. but she changed for the worse. she became really quiet in school, a horny sex pest who only ever talked about sex on her socials, tried to sabotage a friend of mineās relationship, and plagiarized some of my work in a group project. (the project had individual aspects as well. i graciously let her use a piece of mine as a reference, but she copied the entire thing. word for word.) i confronted her about the plagiarism thing, and she gave the most half assed apology. after that incident, i kept my distance from her.
two years have passed since i finished secondary school, and i think of her sometimes. i feel so nostalgic for those days when we inseparable. she changed terribly, and although iām very much aware of the type of person she is, i canāt help but mourn our thirteen year old selves. i have to restrain from sending her a message sometimes. i miss her so dearly, and the person she used to be.
in spite of everything, iām grateful for the friendship we once shared. this is one nostalgic feeling i wish i could just let go of.
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one of my favorite memories with her was in december of that school term (which was exam season). each day, weād have two, sometimes three exams. one in the morning, a long break (which people usually used to review work and study), and then the final exam for the day. during that long break, we would always go outside together and find a spot to study togetherā¦it would start off as studying, and then it would change into talking and talking and talking about literally everything. at that age, i was pretty bad at socializing; though some people i couldāve spoken to effortlessly, and others i didnāt feel confident enough to do so. when it came to her, i felt like i could talk about literally anything with her and neither of us would get bored. that exam season lasted about two weeks, and i know it sounds bad, but that entire two weeks that we spent chatting away instead of studying, (i still did great on my exams donāt worry lol!) were some of the most memorable moments in my entire secondary school life.
we remained close for the rest of the school year. then came the next school year, and we still talked, but not as much. iām pretty sure at one point we both confronted each other about it, but i donāt remember the conversation too well.
anyways, the pandemic happenedā¦and when we came back out to school (at this point i was 16 going on 17), she changed a lot. a handful of people did. but she changed for the worse. she became really quiet in school, a horny sex pest who only ever talked about sex on her socials, tried to sabotage a friend of mineās relationship, and plagiarized some of my work in a group project. (the project had individual aspects as well. i graciously let her use a piece of mine as a reference, but she copied the entire thing. word for word.) i confronted her about the plagiarism thing, and she gave the most half assed apology. after that incident, i kept my distance from her.
two years have passed since i finished secondary school, and i think of her sometimes. i feel so nostalgic for those days when we inseparable. she changed terribly, and although iām very much aware of the type of person she is, i canāt help but mourn our thirteen year old selves. i have to restrain from sending her a message sometimes. i miss her so dearly, and the person she used to be.
in spite of everything, iām grateful for the friendship we once shared. this is one nostalgic feeling i wish i could just let go of.
2024.05.20 07:22 ChubbyGothCherub My sweet 15+ year old boy Cooper
 | This was my familyās cat Cooper. He passed away in April 2022, he was over 15 years old. We donāt know exactly how old he was because he was a stray when he found us and was fully grown, but we had him for over 15 years, so he was definitely over 15. He was the most perfect, sweet, loving, and tolerant cat you would have ever met. He loved his tail being pet/played with and he loved absolutely anyone who would give him attention. He was a beggar for food too lol. He had little fangs like a vampire and he was cross-eyed with the most beautiful blue eyes. He was my stinky boy and right after he passed away I was lucky enough to find one of his whiskers lying around the house for me to put in a little jar to keep. I think it was his way of saying goodbye. I have a tattoo of a cat skull in memory of him and itās one of my favorite tattoos I have.š¤ submitted by ChubbyGothCherub to Siamesecats [link] [comments] |
2024.05.20 07:22 MissSpidergirl Tutors saying weird things
Hi everyone,
Not sure if this is the right forum to post. I have been home schooled (online) for the past year and essentially given the power to pick who I wanted for my teachers by my parents. I have been having the weirdest experiences and looking for support or explanations?
Here is a list:
ā¢ teachers getting angry at me for not being able to answer a problem and telling me āI never had a tutorā angrily
ā¢ booking lessons with me through the agency then not turning up. Pretending they booked the wrong time, telling me what the right time is, again not turning up. I have been there the whole time waiting for them. Donāt offer new times. This specific tutor is only available at 9am on Sundays for an hour and has now told the agency they āare not around for the next two weeksā even though they know my exam is in 3 weeks and we have missed each other for the last 4 weeks. The week after they did not turn up, they turn up, start to test me on a topic as if we are in an exam, then get angry at me for not knowing it perfectly off by heart? They were like āhave you read itā, āyes, I have studied this moduleā, āno, you may have studied it but you do not know it. There is no point unless you know itā then they made us reschedule for the next week now have disappeared? How am I supposed to know to do homework if they donāt let me know in advance? And they are only free on a Sunday at 9am which is a bad time for me because my dad works night shifts. I told them about my dad and they just completely ghosted the message making me feel unimportant to them. Also, the tutor doesnāt have perfect grades of his own, and keeps making reference to āboffinsā who get the good marksā¦ and I told him I was in the middle of other exams and he acted completely surprised and disappointed I have other subjects to sit exams for. As if all I am doing with my life is meeting him on a Sunday morning at 9am.
ā¢ one private tutor completely forgot who I was. When starting each class, they would tell me to remind them which topic we were on because they could not remember, at one point this teacher got angry at me for politely asking them (with notice) if we could please start 15 minutes later so I could go to the toilet and have some water because I was coming out of a two hour lesson (never said I wouldnāt be fine to finish 15 minutes earlier if they had another lesson), telling me off and saying they are going to charge me for the whole thing rudely when I said I wouldnāt come to the lesson if they were going to treat me badly. This was our first lesson after they basically disappeared because they āhad migrainesā and then forgot to arrange a lesson for two months, ignoring my texts. I had to call the agency and get them to make them book a lesson (this is all halfway through our module).
ā¢ tutor telling me āyou want to take a break nowā and making me wait in a ābreakā for 30 minutes, then charging me for those 30 minutes even though I did not need a break? Later found out what he was teaching me was completely awful and way, way too basic - I would have gotten a D if I followed his advice.
ā¢ tutor refusing to teach me the topic I asked them to teach, but trying to pressure me to pay them for internship āapplication reviewā services I did not ask for help with.
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Not sure if this is the right forum to post. I have been home schooled (online) for the past year and essentially given the power to pick who I wanted for my teachers by my parents. I have been having the weirdest experiences and looking for support or explanations?
Here is a list:
ā¢ teachers getting angry at me for not being able to answer a problem and telling me āI never had a tutorā angrily
ā¢ booking lessons with me through the agency then not turning up. Pretending they booked the wrong time, telling me what the right time is, again not turning up. I have been there the whole time waiting for them. Donāt offer new times. This specific tutor is only available at 9am on Sundays for an hour and has now told the agency they āare not around for the next two weeksā even though they know my exam is in 3 weeks and we have missed each other for the last 4 weeks. The week after they did not turn up, they turn up, start to test me on a topic as if we are in an exam, then get angry at me for not knowing it perfectly off by heart? They were like āhave you read itā, āyes, I have studied this moduleā, āno, you may have studied it but you do not know it. There is no point unless you know itā then they made us reschedule for the next week now have disappeared? How am I supposed to know to do homework if they donāt let me know in advance? And they are only free on a Sunday at 9am which is a bad time for me because my dad works night shifts. I told them about my dad and they just completely ghosted the message making me feel unimportant to them. Also, the tutor doesnāt have perfect grades of his own, and keeps making reference to āboffinsā who get the good marksā¦ and I told him I was in the middle of other exams and he acted completely surprised and disappointed I have other subjects to sit exams for. As if all I am doing with my life is meeting him on a Sunday morning at 9am.
ā¢ one private tutor completely forgot who I was. When starting each class, they would tell me to remind them which topic we were on because they could not remember, at one point this teacher got angry at me for politely asking them (with notice) if we could please start 15 minutes later so I could go to the toilet and have some water because I was coming out of a two hour lesson (never said I wouldnāt be fine to finish 15 minutes earlier if they had another lesson), telling me off and saying they are going to charge me for the whole thing rudely when I said I wouldnāt come to the lesson if they were going to treat me badly. This was our first lesson after they basically disappeared because they āhad migrainesā and then forgot to arrange a lesson for two months, ignoring my texts. I had to call the agency and get them to make them book a lesson (this is all halfway through our module).
ā¢ tutor telling me āyou want to take a break nowā and making me wait in a ābreakā for 30 minutes, then charging me for those 30 minutes even though I did not need a break? Later found out what he was teaching me was completely awful and way, way too basic - I would have gotten a D if I followed his advice.
ā¢ tutor refusing to teach me the topic I asked them to teach, but trying to pressure me to pay them for internship āapplication reviewā services I did not ask for help with.
2024.05.20 07:22 Needadvicebdp Did I deserve this discard
I was with my loved one for two years, I wasnāt the perfect partner but I know I was a good one because I cared about her with my entire heart. I would give her reassurance and affection every day, I would only lose patience in fights that she took it too far as I know I didnāt handle every fight well. The fights were always over small things too. She would also take things out on me if she had a bad day. I would also ask for alone time if I sensed an argument would happen to avoid it but she took that as me ignoring her or the silent treatment. I would also get blocked and unblocked depending on how upset she was from the fights along with mean things said towards me, it was hard because I know I lost some patience in some of the fights but they shouldnāt have even happened in the first place.
Fast forward I feel like our last fight changed everything, we made plans to spend time and I asked when she was ready and she told me the timeframe so I decided to do something to pass the time especially since I was tired and almost knocked out so it would help me get energy but she finished significantly faster than what I expected. I told her okay let me finish this real quick and we will spend time but she didnāt appreciate the slight delay in plans saying how I didnāt prioritize her saying I chose something else over here and cancelled our plans and wouldnāt listen to me that it wasnāt a big deal and only a slight delay as Iāll be finished soon so I was upset after awhile because nothing I said was getting through to her so i regret saying to her that she was being a baby and that she was being annoying since she kept insisting I chose something over her. This would then make her extremely mad telling me to unalive myself about 40 times in all caps and how sheās going to leave my life and block me. The thing is this wasnāt the first time she would say these things so I didnāt take it seriously but then I would spend the rest of the time not being annoyed anymore and trying to calm her down.
But then it seems as if that fight is the reason I was discarded, because after the fight she was distant but I thought it was because she was stressed and sick since that is what she told me. There were about two instances where she said that she didnāt feel the same anymore and that she was unhappy as I wasnāt listening to her but sheās said these things in the past a lot before too as I asked her what was wrong and she then says that she feels unwell and in pain. Throughout the two weeks after the fight I was being supportive and I didnāt say anything negative, she was even telling me that she loved and misses me and how she would always be in my life as I wasnāt always the one saying these things first. She asked me if I hated her since she wasnāt herself and I thought it was because of the stress and pain that she was in especially since she told me she was drinking for two days but Iām unsure if it was more. One of the days she even told me she was agitated and overwhelmed and apologized when she suddenly lashed out at me when she would say that I dismiss her feelings.
The day before she blocked me she even told me she loved me. Then the next morning she says this isnāt working for her anymore and I saw she wasnāt herself especially since she had typos which only happened if she was stressed and Iām telling her only messages of support saying she doesnāt need to push me away and that Iām here for her but then I saw her irritated saying that she was done and unhappy and then blocked me. I tried to message her everywhere I could but I always was blocked without a response and then I saw her attempting to seek a new connection with others and when I told her to just talk to me she told me to fuck off and that I ruined her life.
She replaced me so quickly as sheās always spending time with this new guy for hours as it might be the honeymoon phase but itās left me so depressed because I donāt understand how I instantly meant nothing anymore. I feel this guilt and remorse that if I had more patience none of this wouldnāt happened especially in the last fight and everyone I speak to says I did nothing wrong but Iāve been in misery because we had a great connection and she was always sweet and kind towards me but suddenly turned cold as I donāt know why this is happening to me as it is so unexpected in being replaced despite all the good weāve shared for years.
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Fast forward I feel like our last fight changed everything, we made plans to spend time and I asked when she was ready and she told me the timeframe so I decided to do something to pass the time especially since I was tired and almost knocked out so it would help me get energy but she finished significantly faster than what I expected. I told her okay let me finish this real quick and we will spend time but she didnāt appreciate the slight delay in plans saying how I didnāt prioritize her saying I chose something else over here and cancelled our plans and wouldnāt listen to me that it wasnāt a big deal and only a slight delay as Iāll be finished soon so I was upset after awhile because nothing I said was getting through to her so i regret saying to her that she was being a baby and that she was being annoying since she kept insisting I chose something over her. This would then make her extremely mad telling me to unalive myself about 40 times in all caps and how sheās going to leave my life and block me. The thing is this wasnāt the first time she would say these things so I didnāt take it seriously but then I would spend the rest of the time not being annoyed anymore and trying to calm her down.
But then it seems as if that fight is the reason I was discarded, because after the fight she was distant but I thought it was because she was stressed and sick since that is what she told me. There were about two instances where she said that she didnāt feel the same anymore and that she was unhappy as I wasnāt listening to her but sheās said these things in the past a lot before too as I asked her what was wrong and she then says that she feels unwell and in pain. Throughout the two weeks after the fight I was being supportive and I didnāt say anything negative, she was even telling me that she loved and misses me and how she would always be in my life as I wasnāt always the one saying these things first. She asked me if I hated her since she wasnāt herself and I thought it was because of the stress and pain that she was in especially since she told me she was drinking for two days but Iām unsure if it was more. One of the days she even told me she was agitated and overwhelmed and apologized when she suddenly lashed out at me when she would say that I dismiss her feelings.
The day before she blocked me she even told me she loved me. Then the next morning she says this isnāt working for her anymore and I saw she wasnāt herself especially since she had typos which only happened if she was stressed and Iām telling her only messages of support saying she doesnāt need to push me away and that Iām here for her but then I saw her irritated saying that she was done and unhappy and then blocked me. I tried to message her everywhere I could but I always was blocked without a response and then I saw her attempting to seek a new connection with others and when I told her to just talk to me she told me to fuck off and that I ruined her life.
She replaced me so quickly as sheās always spending time with this new guy for hours as it might be the honeymoon phase but itās left me so depressed because I donāt understand how I instantly meant nothing anymore. I feel this guilt and remorse that if I had more patience none of this wouldnāt happened especially in the last fight and everyone I speak to says I did nothing wrong but Iāve been in misery because we had a great connection and she was always sweet and kind towards me but suddenly turned cold as I donāt know why this is happening to me as it is so unexpected in being replaced despite all the good weāve shared for years.
2024.05.20 07:21 Scallopro Ain't no way š
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2024.05.20 07:21 Holiday_Boss9714 TIFU (not for me for this animal lover today he fu) find this man and report him I didnāt know what other subreddit to go
A man who is into real animal play SAME LEVEL AS CHILD STUFF. I texted him told him Iāll never stop looking for him. I donāt play with animals or kids i already got your one account bout to get your other socials too report this man text him harass him this is someone who doesnāt deserve life his Reddit is jackjock85 and his snap is jockcock85 if you need proof dm me Iāll send you the ss. This isnāt what earth is supposed to be like itās DISGUSTING. I donāt really know what else to say this is just so wrong. I have this special connection animals more than people I take it so seriously. Make sure you make his life suffer
TL;DR: (this post isnāt about me just need a subreddit to go to this man is into animal play (jackjock85 on Reddit jockcock85 snap)
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TL;DR: (this post isnāt about me just need a subreddit to go to this man is into animal play (jackjock85 on Reddit jockcock85 snap)
2024.05.20 07:20 GrimmNeedles 31 [M4R] CA/Online - Long term friends?
Hello there, mysterious stranger! I am here to hopefully find new friends, as well as, new chats. Long term would be preferred, of course, but you have to start somewhere.
A little bit about myself: Avid movies and TV shows watcher. You too? What, you donāt say?!. Movie genres, that I like, are all over the place. Favorite genre, though, horror. Slasher films, Halloween especially, that would be my top one favorite slasher series, but I also enjoy stuff like, The Exorcist, Christine, etc. Psychological horror is cool also. Hereditary and Midsommar, I'd recommend both for that kind of horror aspect. But, outside of horror, I would say movies like The Terminator, Terminator 2, Dumb and Dumber, Billy Madison, Happy Gilmore, Mob movies, strong 2nd favorite, like The Godfather Series, Goodfellas, Casino, etc.
Shows wise, it's all over the place, but I like True Crime shows, Drama shows, Animation, etc. Specifics wise, some would be The Twilight Zone (Original), The Sopranos, Breaking Bad, 1899 (Does it matter to complain about a Netflix show ending on a cliffhanger? That's what I thought), King of the Hill, South Park, Beavis and Butthead, The X-Files, much much much more.
Obligatory enjoyer of video games. I currently have an Xbox Series X, as well as, a custom PC. At the current moment, Iām switching between GTA Online on the Xbox, and then, Forza Horizon 5 on PC. I do have various other games on both Steam and also the Epic Games Launcher. I have TONS of games alone from the Epic Games Launcher, because of the free games, every Thursday, so maybe we can find something?
If you wish to try to chat, feel free to send a chat message (If those work?). A normal message works also, if chat messages are bugged and etc. I do have Discord also, but would prefer we've been talking for a while, before moving onto there, personally. Bye!
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A little bit about myself: Avid movies and TV shows watcher. You too? What, you donāt say?!. Movie genres, that I like, are all over the place. Favorite genre, though, horror. Slasher films, Halloween especially, that would be my top one favorite slasher series, but I also enjoy stuff like, The Exorcist, Christine, etc. Psychological horror is cool also. Hereditary and Midsommar, I'd recommend both for that kind of horror aspect. But, outside of horror, I would say movies like The Terminator, Terminator 2, Dumb and Dumber, Billy Madison, Happy Gilmore, Mob movies, strong 2nd favorite, like The Godfather Series, Goodfellas, Casino, etc.
Shows wise, it's all over the place, but I like True Crime shows, Drama shows, Animation, etc. Specifics wise, some would be The Twilight Zone (Original), The Sopranos, Breaking Bad, 1899 (Does it matter to complain about a Netflix show ending on a cliffhanger? That's what I thought), King of the Hill, South Park, Beavis and Butthead, The X-Files, much much much more.
Obligatory enjoyer of video games. I currently have an Xbox Series X, as well as, a custom PC. At the current moment, Iām switching between GTA Online on the Xbox, and then, Forza Horizon 5 on PC. I do have various other games on both Steam and also the Epic Games Launcher. I have TONS of games alone from the Epic Games Launcher, because of the free games, every Thursday, so maybe we can find something?
If you wish to try to chat, feel free to send a chat message (If those work?). A normal message works also, if chat messages are bugged and etc. I do have Discord also, but would prefer we've been talking for a while, before moving onto there, personally. Bye!
2024.05.20 07:19 Coldaita AITA for not letting my roommate's boyf over everyday?
I have lived with my roomate for about 2 years now. When we first moved in togeher she had a long distance boyfriend, who only visited 2x before they broke up. We then lived together for about 6 months, until she meet her current boyfriend.
She and her current boyf meet at the end of May. We're all in college so I went home for the summer, right when they started dating. They stayed in our college town tho and when I would call her to catch up she told me they were spending everyday together at our apartment. I wasn't bothered by this but asked if that was going to be the case when I came back? Without even missing a beat said "that'll change when you get back, we'll both be busier, there will be more stuff going on" I told her as long as a get a day or two w/out him there I'd be fine and she said "oh no, he'll only be here 3/4 days a week max" (we had this convo multiple times throughout the summer)
When I came back in August, I relaized he really was over every day. I was a little suprised because she was so reassuring over the phone that this wouldn't happen. 3 weeks later I brought up his constatnt prescence. She apologized immediately, and said she actually wanted some space from him but she feel bad telling him that since he was so sweet and and is very sensistive. I told her she could tell him on her own time, but if they could just respect I didn't want him over everyday.
Weeks went by there was no change and always a new reason as to why he had to be at our apartment. He had family problems, she had family problems, he was having friend problems, she was having friend problems, etc..
3 months went by, I was getting pretty sick of him. I felt like I was walking on eggshells around him and when he was over they never cleaned up after themselves. Every night I'd wait for the 2 of them to go to bed to start cleaning the kitchen, if I tired to beforehand my roomate would scold me and say "we're going to clean that, don't touch it" but they never did and wond up going to bed because they were tired.
Just when I couldn't stand him we had our holiday breaks, I went home felt better. . But of course come January he was right back at our place every damn day. I had to have the conversation for what felt like the 20th time. I said I agreeded to live with her not him, and now needed 3 days w/out him. After that convo, it finally stuck. BUT then my roomate started calling and texting me checking if it was okay whenever he came over. I know she is trying to be respectful but I don't want her to feel like she can't have her own boyfriend in our apartment?
Seeing her get so nervous about having him over, made me think am i the asshole for not letting him be at the apartment everyday, should I just suck it up?
Note: He lives in a house 2 mins away from us, with 6 roomates, has his own room and bathroom, but she doesn't like hanging out at his house or cooking in it.
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She and her current boyf meet at the end of May. We're all in college so I went home for the summer, right when they started dating. They stayed in our college town tho and when I would call her to catch up she told me they were spending everyday together at our apartment. I wasn't bothered by this but asked if that was going to be the case when I came back? Without even missing a beat said "that'll change when you get back, we'll both be busier, there will be more stuff going on" I told her as long as a get a day or two w/out him there I'd be fine and she said "oh no, he'll only be here 3/4 days a week max" (we had this convo multiple times throughout the summer)
When I came back in August, I relaized he really was over every day. I was a little suprised because she was so reassuring over the phone that this wouldn't happen. 3 weeks later I brought up his constatnt prescence. She apologized immediately, and said she actually wanted some space from him but she feel bad telling him that since he was so sweet and and is very sensistive. I told her she could tell him on her own time, but if they could just respect I didn't want him over everyday.
Weeks went by there was no change and always a new reason as to why he had to be at our apartment. He had family problems, she had family problems, he was having friend problems, she was having friend problems, etc..
3 months went by, I was getting pretty sick of him. I felt like I was walking on eggshells around him and when he was over they never cleaned up after themselves. Every night I'd wait for the 2 of them to go to bed to start cleaning the kitchen, if I tired to beforehand my roomate would scold me and say "we're going to clean that, don't touch it" but they never did and wond up going to bed because they were tired.
Just when I couldn't stand him we had our holiday breaks, I went home felt better. . But of course come January he was right back at our place every damn day. I had to have the conversation for what felt like the 20th time. I said I agreeded to live with her not him, and now needed 3 days w/out him. After that convo, it finally stuck. BUT then my roomate started calling and texting me checking if it was okay whenever he came over. I know she is trying to be respectful but I don't want her to feel like she can't have her own boyfriend in our apartment?
Seeing her get so nervous about having him over, made me think am i the asshole for not letting him be at the apartment everyday, should I just suck it up?
Note: He lives in a house 2 mins away from us, with 6 roomates, has his own room and bathroom, but she doesn't like hanging out at his house or cooking in it.
2024.05.20 07:17 techy_canadian 26M Canada *u jus got hypnotized & will chat w/ me now*
yo wsp
I'm on the west coast of Canada, moved here from England several years ago and currently looking for some interesting ppl to b friends with (or end up blocking lmao).
I have a beautiful lil cat, like tiktok, gaming (PC), working out and having deep convos around life, your exes, chicken wings and what kinda pizza is best.
I love sending/receiving voice notes/calls as I think it helps build rapport faster than text so would prompt to move to discord once we pass the vibe check.
hmu with what ur biggest toxic trait is? (it's a fun ice breaker and helps me judge you... jk, or am I?)
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I'm on the west coast of Canada, moved here from England several years ago and currently looking for some interesting ppl to b friends with (or end up blocking lmao).
I have a beautiful lil cat, like tiktok, gaming (PC), working out and having deep convos around life, your exes, chicken wings and what kinda pizza is best.
I love sending/receiving voice notes/calls as I think it helps build rapport faster than text so would prompt to move to discord once we pass the vibe check.
hmu with what ur biggest toxic trait is? (it's a fun ice breaker and helps me judge you... jk, or am I?)
2024.05.20 07:15 tixiPazini I long for her
Recently Iāve come to adore a new online friend of mine. When we started chatting a few months ago, I felt so instantly connected to her. The first day we texted truly so so much and I was all giddy and I felt so high on excitement from talking to her. This random person online. After the first day of chatting with her, I made sure to not text immediately the next day. I have a habit of become absolutely infatuated with new friends. But to my surprise, she messaged me first thing in the morning. And we chatted for a long time again. And then the next day, and the nextā¦and so on. At this point, speaking to her has become a part of my daily routine. Iām absolutely connected to her. Iām no stranger to online relationships, Iāve had a few LDRās before and they all overall went well. With her, a relationship simply wouldnāt work out. We are not compatible, Iāve determined this by not just my preferences in a partner, but from hers as well. Sheās also hinted that Iām not her type, and that she doesnāt feel that way for me. Which I am okay with, because I think dating would really ruin what we have. But deep down, I long for her. I crave her voice, her words, her knowledge, her emotions. I just crave her. And itās never enough. I want her to know me, to feel more me, to crave me too. Everything about her is so amazing. I want to learn everything there is about her. I want to hear her voice every day. I love how she cares about me. She truly hears me. She understands. Every morning, I am filled with joy just from her good morning texts. Throughout the day I laugh so much from our conversations. Or get flustered simply at her calling me nicknames or when she compliments me. But every night I feel the weight of longing on my chest, before I fall asleep. I donāt want more, but yet I still feel so dissatisfied. I believe my feelings are too deep. I think this may end in my own heartbreak. But I know Iāll be okay. I just wish I could cope better with these feelings.
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2024.05.20 07:14 wholelottapenguins Iām 78 hours into my 2nd time quitting vaping. Iāve tried some of the most recommended products to assist in quitting, and hereās what worked for me the most: Wellbutrin XL 300mg, Breathing exercises, Gum/candy/mints, and VICKS INHALERS.
Hello! Iām currently 78 hours into quitting vaping once again, this time quitting 18mg freebase nicotine juice after I accidentally relapsed. Before the relapse, I had been going 6 months strong CT off of a 50mg salt nic daily vaping habit that I had clung to since 2018 after starting with Juuls, moving onto refillable pod devices, and eventually settling on shitty disposables. I should state that Iām currently 24 years old male with ADHD.
I had quit the 50mg Salt Nic back at the end of last March, and I had not been prescribed Wellbutrin for the entire time, I only got put onto Wellbutrin at the end of this January. Anyway, quitting the 50mg Salts was hellish, but I got through it and eventually the cravings mostly subsided. The first 2 weeks were the most difficult with the first week itself being the most challenging. However, Week 2 and 3 presented their own challenges as my brain kept convincing itself that something was wrong with me since I still had occasionally strong cravings and agitation and I was sure that I was supposed to be past that shit since I was at the 2 week mark. But EVERYONE is different, and instead of relapsing, I sought out a lot of products to assist in quitting vaping that were used by people close to me or online who had successfully quit themselves.
Hereās my shortish and sweet thoughts on each:
ā¢ Vicks Inhalers: A personal favorite. Theyāre non-medicated and contain NO ACTUAL VICKS, so thereās no chance of them making you sick even if you use them a fuckton. If you do use them a fuckton, the worst that might happen is that youāll eventually have to sneeze really badly, but thatās the worst Iāve experienced from them. I know it sounds silly, but using the Vicks Inhalers actually almost tricked my brain into feeling like I was getting the satisfying hit of like a menthol vape. I was half expecting to exhale smoke the first few times I used them. They do ātasteā a lot worse when you first start using one, but after using it for a bit, the āhitā it provides becomes a bit more subtle and a lot more palatable and satisfying. It sort of does give you something to fiddle with and can satisfy that oral fixation even if youāre inhaling it nasally. I guess you could inhale it through your mouth like a vape, Iāve definitely done it a few times (accidentally, like my hand is just trained to put stick-shaped things to my mouth like a cigarette lol), and I had no ill effects besides people looking at me weird and it tasting pretty bad when itās fresh and super potent. Give it a try, but donāt buy the bulk ones on amazon.
ā¢ Nicor Inhaler: Similar to the Vicks, just not as strong and it lacks the strong menthol punch in favor of a more chill, subdued, relaxing scent. Full of essential oils and other stuff, I kind of like it. Thereās tons of other essential oil inhalers that you can try if Vicks has too much of a punch, Iām just using this one because a friend bought it for me and I wanna show them my appreciation.
ā¢ Gum/Mints/Candy: Pretty self explanatory. Iāve fallen in love with the Trident Sour Patch Kids gum, and you can pick up a pack of 4 on Amazon for like $12-$15. Iāve also been munching on Jolly Ranchers, Sour Skittles, Hi-Chews, and Popsicles like crazy. Go for what you love and feel no shame about it. Give your inner kid a little hit of that old childhood sweets fix. You deserve it.
ā¢ Wellbutrin XL 300mg: It definitely helps to really take the edge off of the cravings and withdrawals. I definitely still feel a bit of agitation, but thereās been alot of points throughout the last few days where iāve felt shockingly normal and almost forgot that I wasnāt using nicotine but I donāt know how much of this easiness is attributable to the Wellbutrin since Iām definitely comparing this experience to the more hellish experience I had quitting salt nic since obviously freebase nicotine is a lot easier to quit.
ā¢ Metal Breathing Tube Thing: Idk. It kind of relaxes me and helps to remind me to slow down and focus on my breathing sometimes. Guided breathing and medication exercises genuinely can make a huge difference for you and have helped me step down off the ledge of an oncoming panic attack or meltdown. The breathing tube just exists to make that process easier while giving you a fun little object to satisfy your oral fixation.
If you have any questions, need any advice, or just wanna talk about your experience - please feel free to PM me or comment!
Iām using Apollo and I canāt post images with body text, so hereās the imgur link:
https://i.imgur.com/3lc37xY.jpeg
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I had quit the 50mg Salt Nic back at the end of last March, and I had not been prescribed Wellbutrin for the entire time, I only got put onto Wellbutrin at the end of this January. Anyway, quitting the 50mg Salts was hellish, but I got through it and eventually the cravings mostly subsided. The first 2 weeks were the most difficult with the first week itself being the most challenging. However, Week 2 and 3 presented their own challenges as my brain kept convincing itself that something was wrong with me since I still had occasionally strong cravings and agitation and I was sure that I was supposed to be past that shit since I was at the 2 week mark. But EVERYONE is different, and instead of relapsing, I sought out a lot of products to assist in quitting vaping that were used by people close to me or online who had successfully quit themselves.
Hereās my shortish and sweet thoughts on each:
ā¢ Vicks Inhalers: A personal favorite. Theyāre non-medicated and contain NO ACTUAL VICKS, so thereās no chance of them making you sick even if you use them a fuckton. If you do use them a fuckton, the worst that might happen is that youāll eventually have to sneeze really badly, but thatās the worst Iāve experienced from them. I know it sounds silly, but using the Vicks Inhalers actually almost tricked my brain into feeling like I was getting the satisfying hit of like a menthol vape. I was half expecting to exhale smoke the first few times I used them. They do ātasteā a lot worse when you first start using one, but after using it for a bit, the āhitā it provides becomes a bit more subtle and a lot more palatable and satisfying. It sort of does give you something to fiddle with and can satisfy that oral fixation even if youāre inhaling it nasally. I guess you could inhale it through your mouth like a vape, Iāve definitely done it a few times (accidentally, like my hand is just trained to put stick-shaped things to my mouth like a cigarette lol), and I had no ill effects besides people looking at me weird and it tasting pretty bad when itās fresh and super potent. Give it a try, but donāt buy the bulk ones on amazon.
ā¢ Nicor Inhaler: Similar to the Vicks, just not as strong and it lacks the strong menthol punch in favor of a more chill, subdued, relaxing scent. Full of essential oils and other stuff, I kind of like it. Thereās tons of other essential oil inhalers that you can try if Vicks has too much of a punch, Iām just using this one because a friend bought it for me and I wanna show them my appreciation.
ā¢ Gum/Mints/Candy: Pretty self explanatory. Iāve fallen in love with the Trident Sour Patch Kids gum, and you can pick up a pack of 4 on Amazon for like $12-$15. Iāve also been munching on Jolly Ranchers, Sour Skittles, Hi-Chews, and Popsicles like crazy. Go for what you love and feel no shame about it. Give your inner kid a little hit of that old childhood sweets fix. You deserve it.
ā¢ Wellbutrin XL 300mg: It definitely helps to really take the edge off of the cravings and withdrawals. I definitely still feel a bit of agitation, but thereās been alot of points throughout the last few days where iāve felt shockingly normal and almost forgot that I wasnāt using nicotine but I donāt know how much of this easiness is attributable to the Wellbutrin since Iām definitely comparing this experience to the more hellish experience I had quitting salt nic since obviously freebase nicotine is a lot easier to quit.
ā¢ Metal Breathing Tube Thing: Idk. It kind of relaxes me and helps to remind me to slow down and focus on my breathing sometimes. Guided breathing and medication exercises genuinely can make a huge difference for you and have helped me step down off the ledge of an oncoming panic attack or meltdown. The breathing tube just exists to make that process easier while giving you a fun little object to satisfy your oral fixation.
If you have any questions, need any advice, or just wanna talk about your experience - please feel free to PM me or comment!
Iām using Apollo and I canāt post images with body text, so hereās the imgur link:
https://i.imgur.com/3lc37xY.jpeg
2024.05.20 07:12 RevolutionaryTap211 I'm scared my friend might think i'm a creep.
I recently came out to my friend as trans and i'm worried she might think i'm a creep. She responded positively to me coming out and I wasn't too worried how she'd react as I know she has had trans friends before. I haven't known her long, she moved a couple years ago and I met her soon after, i've known I am trans for about double the time i've known her. She feels like one of the best friends i've ever had though, I don't feel anxious around her like I do with other friends and we are pretty similar. Now comes why I worry, i'm not sure how she would feel about some things we've done now that she knows. It's all been platonic things but what if she thinks I was being creepy since I knew I was a boy and didn't tell her? The things I can think of that she might be upset over would be handholding, hugging, and sleepovers. I haven't seen her irl since before I came out and the only texting we've done was me coming out and sharing some tiktoks, she hasn't said anything to make me think she's creeped out I just feel anxious over this. Sorry for anything wrong this is my first time using reddit.
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2024.05.20 07:12 TrackingSystemDirect Do Vehicle Trackers Reduce Insurance Premiums for Teenage Drivers?
 | Ensuring Safe Teen Driving: Harnessing Technology To Manage Risk and Lower Insurance CostsConcerned about your teen's driving habits? You're not alone. The thrill of newfound freedom and the impulsiveness of adolescence can lead to risky behavior on the road. The good news? Technology provides a solution. Have you heard of GPS trackers designed for teen drivers? These devices help monitor your teen's driving behavior and keep them within set boundaries. Ready to learn how they work?Best Plug & Play GPS Tracker For Teen DriversVisit Website: https://gpstrackershop.com/product/obd2-gps-tracker-no-monthly-fee-for-teens/https://preview.redd.it/r414wld3li1d1.jpg?width=4200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c5329ebf258447a8cbc04b1a59a7f57fe0c1dc48 GPS trackers use a network of 31 satellites to pinpoint your vehicle's location, accurate to within 5 meters. With real-time data, you can watch over your teen's driving behavior right from your phone or a third-party site. These programs provide insights beyond just location, including driving speeds, sudden braking, and more. Isn't it great to have such detailed information to coach your teen into safer driving habits? Many even send alerts if your teen strays or skips school. As an added bonus, you might even save on insurance costs! Best Wireless GPS Teen Driver MonitorVisit Website https://konnectgps.comhttps://preview.redd.it/x8rbbowgli1d1.jpg?width=2205&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e11032faf62f3da29c1c1888cd3fd39f5168b967 https://preview.redd.it/tc546psbli1d1.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=db4ce70298c840f16b5d503cdd7296c1fabe01b4 https://konnectgps.com/products/gps-tracker-with-magnet Konnect is the ultimate GPS tracker for keeping an eye on your teen's driving. In Texas, 1 in 5 teen drivers is involved in a crash during their first year. Attach this mini, wireless tracker to your teen's car and get real-time updates on their driving habits. Know if they're speeding, making unscheduled stops, or veering off-route. With Konnect, you can ensure your teen is driving safely and responsibly. Peace of mind for parents! Konnect's user-friendly app for iPhone and Android allows you to monitor your teen's driving without them knowing. The tracker uses a global SIM card for accurate, real-time tracking anywhere. And donāt worry if you're not tech-savvyāKonnect offers free lifetime technical support. Proudly made in the USA, this powerful GPS tracker is designed to give you peace of mind. Stay connected to your teen's driving 24/7 and keep them safe on Texas roads with Konnect. The Real Cost of Adding a Teen to Your Car InsuranceLet's tackle the elephant in the room ā insurance cost for teen drivers. It's no secret that it's significantly more expensive. Estimates range widely, but you can certainly expect a substantial increase. Remember, adding your teen to your policy is cheaper than a separate one. Can you believe that separate policies can cost upwards of $2,000?To illustrate, adding a 16-year-old girl to your policy could cost between $1,165 and $3,036 annually. However, separate policies can range from $2,453 to a whopping $6,479! Does your teen happen to be a boy? Well, that would cost even more due to their higher likelihood of risky driving behavior. But remember, adding them to your policy still saves you money in the long run. Top 5 Teen Driving Monitoring AppsMany car insurers offer discounts for safe driving. For this, you need a teen GPS tracker, which monitors your teen's driving habits. These devices check daily mileage, the time of driving, sudden acceleration or braking, and more. The better the driving, the better your rates. But how about trying out some driving monitoring apps? Here are the top 5 teen driving monitoring apps according to parents:TrueMotion Family Safe DrivingTrueMotion offers a comprehensive and user-friendly monitoring experience, and the best part is that it's free. It includes the feature of geofencing, allowing you to set boundaries for your teen's driving behavior. The app also allows for speed restrictions and curfews, and if any of these limits are crossed, you'll get immediate notifications. The app tracks your teen's driving habits and grades them on a scale of 100 points, so your teen can see their driving improvement over time. The app requires GPS capability to be enabled on your teen's phone, and it's available for both Android and iOS platforms.DriveSmartAnother free app, DriveSmart offers a more personalized experience compared to TrueMotion. It's designed more for the teen than the parents, offering the teen opportunities to improve their scores in lagging categories, such as braking. However, it's up to the teen to decide when to start the app. Some notable features include a reminder for the driver to buckle their seatbelt and monthly driving challenges. It's available for Android and iOS phones.Drivesafe.ly ProThis app is one of the pricier options (ranging from $4 per month to $35 per year), but it comes with a unique feature: hands-free messaging capabilities. The app automatically puts the phone in hands-free mode when the vehicle is in motion. It reads text messages and emails in real-time and allows the driver to respond accordingly. However, it may take some time to get used to the app, and some research suggests that hands-free mobile device use can still be distracting for drivers. The app is currently available only for Android phones.Toyota Safe & SoundAlthough created by Toyota, this app isn't restricted to Toyota vehicles. It puts the phone in do not disturb mode when the car is moving, similar to Drivesafe.ly Pro's app. If the teen driver exhibits poor behaviors such as speeding or texting, the app automatically plays a predetermined playlist as a form of deterrent.AT&T DriveModeAT&T's app is not limited to AT&T customers. It turns on safety features when the car is moving at 15 MPH or faster, which includes muting text alerts and replying to messages with a standard response. If the app is turned off, parents will receive a notification. The app is available for both Android and iOS platforms.https://preview.redd.it/kttsf3fsli1d1.jpg?width=1792&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e4591efe0a2ad78f0e9f95f6a5857bffc73c34d5 Encouraging Facts About Teenage DriversFinally, letās remember that not all of the changes that come with adding a teen driver to your family are bad. Yes, your car insurance prices will go up; that happens anytime you add additional drivers to a plan, and so it only makes sense that policies would especially get more expensive when you are adding a driver from what is generally considered the riskiest driver pool, drivers between the ages of 16 and 19. Teen drivers are, however, generally safer now than they have been in previous years, with fewer fatalities and accidents reported each year as a general trend.Additionally, check out the following 10 positive facts about teenage driving: https://www.trackingsystemdirect.com/positive-facts-about-teenage-driving/ Top 10 Positive Facts About Teenage Driving
https://preview.redd.it/o39xy37vli1d1.jpg?width=1792&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=354a7e5b4330cf76ca28c830b95bb8e626000fb1 Using Car GPS To Track TeenagersLive GPS tracking units can be installed permanently or simply hidden on a vehicle operated by a teen which will then give parents the ability to oversee the driving activity of that teen at any time. Car tracking units will document the locations a teen visits, speeds they drive and more. Parents can even compare the driving data with text message records to determine if a teen is texting while behind the wheel. By comparing text and driving records Montana parents can at least eliminate one of the high-risk driving behaviors associated with teenage driving. However, the live tracking data also provides parents a simple way to locate their teen if the teen runs out of gas, becomes lost or simply needs some form of emergency assistance.Clearly, the issue of safety among teenage motorists in Montana is a serious one that needs to be addressed frequently and intelligently. The old way was not working and if car tracking units are going to help parents in Montana then that should be something discussed in detail. No state wants to have the distinction of being the most dangerous state for teenage motorists and no parent wants to have their child harmed in a vehicle-related accident. Things need to change in Montana. Best Auto Insurance For Teen DriverWhen a teen finally passes their written and driver's examinations at the DMV a whole new world of opportunity is opened up. Solo car rides or drives with friends to burger joints, movie theaters and almost any location are now only a set of car keys away. However, with that freedom can come a substantial cost in the form of car payments and auto insurance. In fact, one study conducted by NerdWallet showed that family car insurance goes up roughly $1500 per year when a teen gets added to the auto insurance plan! Ouch! So what is the best way to keep car insurance for newly licensed teen drivers as low as possible so parents don't go broke trying to keep up with rising auto insurance rates?Auto insurance providers are data-driven businesses so they are fully aware that teen drivers are for more likely to engage in risky driving behaviors such as speeding. They also understand teen drivers can easily succumb to peer pressure and by doing so make unwise driving decisions. Lastly, car insurers know teens can be careless which can result in potential auto-theft. However, one piece of technology called the GPS car tracker can help reduce many of these liabilities. For example, when a parent equips a vehicle tracker on a teen's car, that parent will then have the ability to monitor everywhere that teen is going and how fast they are driving. What's even better is that the real-time GPS units can also send out alerts to notify parents if the vehicle was stolen or if a teenager is driving their car too fast! Many auto insurance companies recognize the benefits associated with GPS vehicle monitoring and will provide discounts on car insurance packages for this. However, GPS auto tracking technology is more than just a tool to reduce car insurance rates for teens because the devices can literally save lives. The best car GPS tracking devices will cost parents around $99.00-$199.00 per device. Grades MatterCar insurance companies study the facts and they know firsthand that teens that perform well in the classroom are statistically more likely to perform well on the road. In fact, many insurance providers will offer anywhere from a 10-15% discount on auto insurance for teens who maintain a "B" average or better in the classroom. Therefore, parents that keep their kids focused on the schoolbooks will also keep more money in their pockets.Professional Driving CoursesIn every facet of life the one constant is that experience matters. Therefore, teens who go the extra mile by enrolling in various driving programs and professional driving courses are often rewarded by auto insurers with discounted rates.Shop, Compare And Combine Insurance PlansShopping around and comparing quotes is always good advice, but combining insurance plans can also help reduce rates. Family plans where the entire household is on one coverage policy are shown to save families sometimes as much as $3,000 annually! So combine those insurance plans and shop around to find the most cost-effective option!Auto insurance is not only the law it's also extremely beneficial, especially when/if bad things occur. However, that does not mean that auto insurance for teen drivers should break the bank. Parents can save some cash on their teen auto insurance by investing in GPS tracking systems, inspiring their kids to do better at school, enroll them in professional driving classes. Of course, don't forget to shop, compare and combine auto insurers. Stay safe while driving and always try and save some cash! https://preview.redd.it/f5bnvbxxli1d1.jpg?width=1920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7dc053726a1c0b3110730dfef4f988018526788b Frequently Asked QuestionsWhat Are Some Strategies To Lower Teen Car Insurance?Considering the cost, it's natural to want to lower your insurance expenses. Here are some tips:
What Is The Most Dangerous State For Teen Driving?You might think populous states pose the most risk for teen drivers. However, states like New York and California aren't even in the top half for unsafe teen driving. Surprisingly, Montana holds the dubious honor of being the most dangerous state for teen drivers. This fact is sparking a search among Montana parents for new safety measures for their young drivers.Carinsurance.com conducted a survey focusing on multiple factors. These included teen driver deaths per 100k population, texting behaviors, alcohol use, and insurance costs. It also covered other relevant details. Montana scored alarmingly high on several of these high-risk aspects. It ranks third for teens who text while driving and tops the list for teen drunk driving with 13%. This report, although troubling for Montana parents, is vital for developing better safety measures. Faced with these findings, many Montana parents are taking action. They're turning to car tracking technology, allowing them to monitor their teens' driving habits directly. Learn more about teen driving monitors here: https://www.trackingsystemdirect.com |
2024.05.20 07:10 No-Tumbleweed-2709 I (24-M) am having an internal crisis over my partner's (42-M) dog. What do I do?
I will preface this by saying I am typically an animal lover, and I have a very healthy relationship with my partner that I am content with. I'm hoping to see if anyone can shed some light on the next steps in this situation.
My partner (42 M) and I (24 M) have been together for nearly a year. Our relationship began suddenly and unexpectedly, and has been a wonderful year where we have been mutual, respectful, patient and understanding, and I am incredibly happy with the life we have, and he is too. He went through a hard breakup with his previous partner, where they were civil but very bitter, and had a short dispute over the money from their house. He has been a little down and cranky during this period, but has since come out successful and is improving by the day. I have recently been out of work for several months, and we have been living together for 5 months.
I love many aspects of our relationship, except the dog...
I apologize for the length of this but I've been very stressed about this for a while now, and have had indifference from friends and family about it as they do not seem to understand this is a problem in my daily life.
When I met the dog, he was in love with me. A 3 year old, small pug mix, with A LOT of energy. He is very sweet, and affectionate, however he is fully charged, and not fixed as he was planning to breed his dog with his previous partner's dog. The dog was very affectionate with me when I began visiting my partner at his old house, or when we'd go out together. He'd jump up on me, jittery with excitement, and push into my chest as hard as he could. I thought it was adorable, and I grew to really like his dog, but shortly into visiting, we had a night where my partner and I were having some drinks, dancing, and playing around with his VR headset, and the dog WOULD NOT get out from under our feet. I kept having to physically move the dog, and at one point when I reached down to move him, he yelped. My partner didn't freak out, but I felt really guilty like I'd hurt him, and I think it's only gone downhill since then.
My partner loves his dog, and would never hurt him, but as we live in a large, very busy city with horrifically bad drivers, he gave his dog a swat on the butt when he started running away from the backyard and across streets full of speeding cars.
We moved to a small apartment, and shortly after I was injured at work and began staying home all day while receiving treatment, which is good for nobody, unfortunately. Nearly instantly I began to be annoyed by this dog. He was constantly up on me, at me, around me, sniffing and fidgeting and huffing and puffing as pugs do. He'd follow me everywhere, and slept in our bed. As time went on and we gained some more trust, I began letting him off-leash in the back of the apartment building. He listened well, came back when called, and was rewarded for it with a treat and petting and a "good boy'm" I thought maybe I could deal with it, but then he kept annoying me, all day, all night, fidgeting and on top of my partner and I, to like, ridiculous levels, we're talking molding to the shape of our body and pushing his face hard into our sides, or standing with hard little paws into my stomach or chest until it was just uncomfortable, but wouldn't just lay down, he'd just stand and push, or lean and push, and push, and huff, and move, and push, until eventually I'd have to remove him.
I tried playing around with him, as he loves to wrestle and act tough, and hoped it would relieve some of the tension and energy, but found he's much more sensitive than I thought, and would get upset and sometimes even yelp when I'd chase him and play with him with the ball and caught him. I felt bad, but my partner assured me he's just little and can get spooked when he realizes he can get caught, and I just needed to be more gentle. This frustrated me as he'd paw at me, and push and whine and sook until I'd play, then he'd get rough and play-growling, then suddenly upset and scared that I was being too rough with him.
Then the day came that absolutely ruined us.
I took him out, and let him off the leash as usual, and it was very cold, and very late at night. We'd been doing the off-leash bathroom breaks for well over a month at this point, perhaps even two, and suddenly, he didn't come back. He kept walking, so I came up quickly, but not running, to catch him, and he just absolutely refused to come to me from behind this bush I couldn't get through, no matter what I tried, and then just bolted, around the entire building, into the downtown of a large city at night, and straight for the road. I finally caught him about 6 feet from the road, and I gave him a swat on the butt, like my partner had before, and I felt bad doing so but like, the alternative is he gets crushed to death by a car. He needs to know there are consequences to running off into the city, as my partner had said. He was really upset, and I dragged him back up into the apartment.
He is still anxious around me now, and I'm aware and I feel bad, but the stuff he does just drives me absolutely bat-shit insane, and the rage just boils up inside me whenever I have to deal with his antics, and I wish it didn't, and I wish it would go away, and I don't know how to fix it.
A brief list of what drives me nuts:
Absolutely obsessed with my partner, and will not leave his side. Lays across his whole chest and stomach ALL DAY, non stop, will not at all leave being on him, which admittedly makes me a little jealous because my partner cuddles him easily 10x more than he cuddles me.
Constantly needs to know what we're doing, and if I'm carrying something heavy or trying to hurry, will stand exactly in the middle of a small space and not move until I'm literally tripping over him, and even then won't move until I actually force him to, by literally sliding him across the floor.
Rarely listens to anything I say, doesn't listen when I'm nice, doesn't listen when I'm friendly, doesn't want to cuddle when I want to, begs to go out then won't let me put his harness on, etc.
STINKS, like bad, breath, ass, fur, whatever, he often has a nasty funk on him that makes even the couch stink, and we bathe him and it only works for a day or two.
When we walk him, or take him for a pee, he will absolutely not just pee, he has to sniff, and huff, and sniff, and grunt, and search, and what he's looking for is female dog piss, which he then licks up, rubs all over his teeth, pants, and then gets a boner while slurping female dog pee off his tongue, and physically pulls against us when we try to make him stop.
Etc.
He's a very sweet dog, with a good heart, and my partner loves him with his whole heart. Probably even more than he loves me, and that's okay, i would never expect otherwise or want him to get rid of his dog, but I am literally in inner-turmoil over this. It's a known fact the dog and I don't really get along. We both don't trust one another, and it's rare we cuddle anymore together. I take care of his needs, and care about him because he's an animal, but I just frankly cannot enjoy any time with the dog anymore.
I feel guilty, and shitty, because the dog is genuinely excited to see me when I come home from being our for a day or a short trip, he cuddles and wants our company, and wouldn't hurt a fly, and I want to like him, not only for my sake but for his and my partner's, but literally every day I'm with him, I feel it more and more strained, and I feel more and more annoyed.
My partner and I have had an open dialog about this, but haven't found a solution.
If you stuck around this long, please give me some advice, I'm really trying to make this work, and I know I'm part of the problem, but I just really want to fix this and don't know how.
Thank you.
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My partner (42 M) and I (24 M) have been together for nearly a year. Our relationship began suddenly and unexpectedly, and has been a wonderful year where we have been mutual, respectful, patient and understanding, and I am incredibly happy with the life we have, and he is too. He went through a hard breakup with his previous partner, where they were civil but very bitter, and had a short dispute over the money from their house. He has been a little down and cranky during this period, but has since come out successful and is improving by the day. I have recently been out of work for several months, and we have been living together for 5 months.
I love many aspects of our relationship, except the dog...
I apologize for the length of this but I've been very stressed about this for a while now, and have had indifference from friends and family about it as they do not seem to understand this is a problem in my daily life.
When I met the dog, he was in love with me. A 3 year old, small pug mix, with A LOT of energy. He is very sweet, and affectionate, however he is fully charged, and not fixed as he was planning to breed his dog with his previous partner's dog. The dog was very affectionate with me when I began visiting my partner at his old house, or when we'd go out together. He'd jump up on me, jittery with excitement, and push into my chest as hard as he could. I thought it was adorable, and I grew to really like his dog, but shortly into visiting, we had a night where my partner and I were having some drinks, dancing, and playing around with his VR headset, and the dog WOULD NOT get out from under our feet. I kept having to physically move the dog, and at one point when I reached down to move him, he yelped. My partner didn't freak out, but I felt really guilty like I'd hurt him, and I think it's only gone downhill since then.
My partner loves his dog, and would never hurt him, but as we live in a large, very busy city with horrifically bad drivers, he gave his dog a swat on the butt when he started running away from the backyard and across streets full of speeding cars.
We moved to a small apartment, and shortly after I was injured at work and began staying home all day while receiving treatment, which is good for nobody, unfortunately. Nearly instantly I began to be annoyed by this dog. He was constantly up on me, at me, around me, sniffing and fidgeting and huffing and puffing as pugs do. He'd follow me everywhere, and slept in our bed. As time went on and we gained some more trust, I began letting him off-leash in the back of the apartment building. He listened well, came back when called, and was rewarded for it with a treat and petting and a "good boy'm" I thought maybe I could deal with it, but then he kept annoying me, all day, all night, fidgeting and on top of my partner and I, to like, ridiculous levels, we're talking molding to the shape of our body and pushing his face hard into our sides, or standing with hard little paws into my stomach or chest until it was just uncomfortable, but wouldn't just lay down, he'd just stand and push, or lean and push, and push, and huff, and move, and push, until eventually I'd have to remove him.
I tried playing around with him, as he loves to wrestle and act tough, and hoped it would relieve some of the tension and energy, but found he's much more sensitive than I thought, and would get upset and sometimes even yelp when I'd chase him and play with him with the ball and caught him. I felt bad, but my partner assured me he's just little and can get spooked when he realizes he can get caught, and I just needed to be more gentle. This frustrated me as he'd paw at me, and push and whine and sook until I'd play, then he'd get rough and play-growling, then suddenly upset and scared that I was being too rough with him.
Then the day came that absolutely ruined us.
I took him out, and let him off the leash as usual, and it was very cold, and very late at night. We'd been doing the off-leash bathroom breaks for well over a month at this point, perhaps even two, and suddenly, he didn't come back. He kept walking, so I came up quickly, but not running, to catch him, and he just absolutely refused to come to me from behind this bush I couldn't get through, no matter what I tried, and then just bolted, around the entire building, into the downtown of a large city at night, and straight for the road. I finally caught him about 6 feet from the road, and I gave him a swat on the butt, like my partner had before, and I felt bad doing so but like, the alternative is he gets crushed to death by a car. He needs to know there are consequences to running off into the city, as my partner had said. He was really upset, and I dragged him back up into the apartment.
He is still anxious around me now, and I'm aware and I feel bad, but the stuff he does just drives me absolutely bat-shit insane, and the rage just boils up inside me whenever I have to deal with his antics, and I wish it didn't, and I wish it would go away, and I don't know how to fix it.
A brief list of what drives me nuts:
Absolutely obsessed with my partner, and will not leave his side. Lays across his whole chest and stomach ALL DAY, non stop, will not at all leave being on him, which admittedly makes me a little jealous because my partner cuddles him easily 10x more than he cuddles me.
Constantly needs to know what we're doing, and if I'm carrying something heavy or trying to hurry, will stand exactly in the middle of a small space and not move until I'm literally tripping over him, and even then won't move until I actually force him to, by literally sliding him across the floor.
Rarely listens to anything I say, doesn't listen when I'm nice, doesn't listen when I'm friendly, doesn't want to cuddle when I want to, begs to go out then won't let me put his harness on, etc.
STINKS, like bad, breath, ass, fur, whatever, he often has a nasty funk on him that makes even the couch stink, and we bathe him and it only works for a day or two.
When we walk him, or take him for a pee, he will absolutely not just pee, he has to sniff, and huff, and sniff, and grunt, and search, and what he's looking for is female dog piss, which he then licks up, rubs all over his teeth, pants, and then gets a boner while slurping female dog pee off his tongue, and physically pulls against us when we try to make him stop.
Etc.
He's a very sweet dog, with a good heart, and my partner loves him with his whole heart. Probably even more than he loves me, and that's okay, i would never expect otherwise or want him to get rid of his dog, but I am literally in inner-turmoil over this. It's a known fact the dog and I don't really get along. We both don't trust one another, and it's rare we cuddle anymore together. I take care of his needs, and care about him because he's an animal, but I just frankly cannot enjoy any time with the dog anymore.
I feel guilty, and shitty, because the dog is genuinely excited to see me when I come home from being our for a day or a short trip, he cuddles and wants our company, and wouldn't hurt a fly, and I want to like him, not only for my sake but for his and my partner's, but literally every day I'm with him, I feel it more and more strained, and I feel more and more annoyed.
My partner and I have had an open dialog about this, but haven't found a solution.
If you stuck around this long, please give me some advice, I'm really trying to make this work, and I know I'm part of the problem, but I just really want to fix this and don't know how.
Thank you.
2024.05.20 07:10 HappyWarsFan Canadian who just visited Pakistan for the first time, some experiences and thoughts!
I'm a Canadian of Pakistani origin, have lived in Canada all my life and I recently visited Pakistan for the first time ever! It was a couple of weeks ago, but finally got around to posting this. Here are some of my experiences and overall thoughts/observations.
I visited three cities - a smaller city called Bahawalpur, and then I also visited Lahore and Islamabad.
City specific observarions:
Also, safety wise, everything went smoothly which is great, as that was my biggest fear coming to Pakistan. I did feel comfortable everywhere, didn't get mugged or anything, and I wore my usual western style clothes.
A couple of random observations that was surprising: - The roads were very wild everywhere, so weird seeing cars, donkeys with carts, motorbikes, rickshaws all on the same roads and there are sooo many people, it was just something else on the road compared to what I'm used to. (We hired a driver for the trip so things went smooth). - I noticed that there seems to be so many random boys, (like aged 15-25) just walking around in plazas etc. doing absolutely nothing and loitering around, and not actually here to shop. Like. it felt like 70% of the people in these plazas were this type. Pretty funny ngl. - The wifi was good, but dear God the data plan I got from Jazz was slower than molasses! Not sure how you guys can manage with it.
Overall, I'm really glad I visited and that the trip went smoothly. Although it wasn't exactly the most comfortable stay and there were some completely new experiences from what I'm used to, it was good to see what things are like in Pakistan, (and in general a developing country!) and it was good for the experience - I started off very nervous and there were the occasional nerve wracking moments like those roads in Lahore but by the end those nerves were pretty much gone by the end of the trip as it wasn't nearly as scary as I imagined.
I don't think I would want to come back as I saw most of what I needed to and it's a very long flight but yeah, guys, that's my overall impressions coming in as a Canadian of Pakistani origin! I am sure I forgetting a bunch of stuff to write about but feel free to ask me in the comments about anything you're curious about!
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I visited three cities - a smaller city called Bahawalpur, and then I also visited Lahore and Islamabad.
City specific observarions:
- Well, Bahawalpur was where I visited first. There was some interesting sights and history to look at, and it was very hot and kinda desert like, very different from what I'm used to. I have to admit, the buildings REALLY looked beat up, and where I was staying, it seemed to lack facilities. like clean, hot water etc - and I had to shower using buckets! It was a bit of a cultural shock coming here first.
- Next, I went to Lahore. Here, I again did some sightseeing, visited the Badshah Mosque and the fort, which was cool to see. Gotta say, the trip to Lahore was a rocky one - a route was blocked and we had to take a different route for a small portion, and dear God, the roads there were in tatters but luckily I made it through safely. Also the traffic... I have never seen anything like that! I was still glad to have seen what the city looked like though..
- I went to Islamabad after. I liked it quite a bit here, the weather was quite nice here and I actually had the basic facilities at where I was staying here, which was good. The scenery in some spots was lovely, and the shopping experience was cool, got to visit some malls here which was fun.
Also, safety wise, everything went smoothly which is great, as that was my biggest fear coming to Pakistan. I did feel comfortable everywhere, didn't get mugged or anything, and I wore my usual western style clothes.
A couple of random observations that was surprising: - The roads were very wild everywhere, so weird seeing cars, donkeys with carts, motorbikes, rickshaws all on the same roads and there are sooo many people, it was just something else on the road compared to what I'm used to. (We hired a driver for the trip so things went smooth). - I noticed that there seems to be so many random boys, (like aged 15-25) just walking around in plazas etc. doing absolutely nothing and loitering around, and not actually here to shop. Like. it felt like 70% of the people in these plazas were this type. Pretty funny ngl. - The wifi was good, but dear God the data plan I got from Jazz was slower than molasses! Not sure how you guys can manage with it.
Overall, I'm really glad I visited and that the trip went smoothly. Although it wasn't exactly the most comfortable stay and there were some completely new experiences from what I'm used to, it was good to see what things are like in Pakistan, (and in general a developing country!) and it was good for the experience - I started off very nervous and there were the occasional nerve wracking moments like those roads in Lahore but by the end those nerves were pretty much gone by the end of the trip as it wasn't nearly as scary as I imagined.
I don't think I would want to come back as I saw most of what I needed to and it's a very long flight but yeah, guys, that's my overall impressions coming in as a Canadian of Pakistani origin! I am sure I forgetting a bunch of stuff to write about but feel free to ask me in the comments about anything you're curious about!
2024.05.20 07:10 BarracudaQueasy7158 I (F21) created trauma to my boyfriend (M21)
Hello So I went to Italy for 10 days and there was this guy who told me he likes me. I have a bf (M21) back home for 6 months now so I told him "sorry I am in a relationship". After the trip we kept texting, and he was always sending me sweet messages like "you re cute" and "I will ask for your hand" I was answering to his texts, but without flirting him back, but sometimes I used emojis and stuff. I told my bf that this happened in Italy and he got worried, so I promised him that nothing happened back then. Indeed, the guy asked for a kiss or to hold hands but I refused. Two days ago, my bf opened my phone as I was sleeping and saw all the texts from him. There were texts where he told me he misses me and he wants to come and see me, and idk what i was thinking but I was answering back. My bf is an extreme overthinker, and he is been crying all day, begging me to reassure him that nothing happened. I am constantly reassuring him and telling him how much I love him, but I have destroyed him. I cannot see him cry.I know that he loves me .He wanted to break up with me, but we end up not to. Instead he told me that he has no trust and I have to regain it, I apologised. I love him so much, so I wont leave smth like this end our relationship. What can I do? I feel awful.
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2024.05.20 07:10 After_Fly_8787 How to always remember my dreams
almost all my dreams be very random but theyre also very entertaining and when i wake up remembering anything i write it down instantly to not forget, i like reading them later and occasionally send them to my friends if it was a good one (most of them are), however, its been a while since i woke up remembering a dream, and i really want it to happen again cause those dreams made sleeping a very entertaining activity
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2024.05.20 07:09 CringeyVal0451 Married Mary (Part 11): WAR
WAR
A few days later my phone buzz-chirped. I opened my messages to find several pics of Dennis' Jeep, a blurry mess of lights, and a final shot of Dennis leaning back in the driver's seat with his eyes closed and his junk out and at attention. And there was a caption.
"Consider us EVEN."
I saw red. The possibility of finding peaceful contentment with Whisky was a distant memory. A figment of my imagination. I wanted blood. I wanted to slap Mary's fat fucking face senseless. I wanted to rat her out to Chuck. I was livid. Angry heat spread from my sternum to my shoulders, and the sharp sting of wrath radiated through my being. I rang Mary.
Mary: How does it feel, bitch?
I couldn't make words. I was shaking. My head was spinning. All I could muster was a meek little, "Why???"
Mary: You owed me.
Me: Mary, I'm not screwing Whiskers. And how did you even FIND Dennis? Do you even LIKE him?
Mary: Totes! He's soooooo cute! We banged it out five or six times in his car, and then he told me to lie down in the parking lot. And then he pissed all over my titties! It was soooo hot!
Me: I don't believe you. Dennis is into some pervy-ass shit. But not piss.
Mary: Well, he told me you were too vanilla to do anything fun.
Me: YEAH. I didn't wanna get butt-blasted without a rubber by a guy who couldn't even be bothered to show up when we had plans. That's not being vanilla. That's having self-respect.
Mary: Guys don't like girls who make a big deal about self-respect. It's a major turn-off. That's why I get so much more boom-boom than you do. Hey! Now that we're done fighting, you can pick me up and take me out for sushi! I'll teach you how to make men happy and then you'll owe me dinner. I obviously pleased Dennis when you couldn't.
Words failed me yet again. I shouted a much, much filthier version of, "GO SCREW," hung up on her, put on my sneakers, and ran aimlessly through my neighborhood until I almost collapsed. Once I trudged back home, I smoked a shit-ton of cigarettes and drank a shit-ton of vodka (for me, which was like... three shots) and really did collapse.
Up to this point, I felt like I had been patient with Mary. More patient than she deserved. I probably hadnāt done her any favors by allowing her to behave like a fucking maniac while I did nothing more than gently suggesting alternative behaviors. I still wanted to have faith in her ability to grow (emotionally). But all of that came crashing down. For some reason, my formerly improved sense of self-respect crashed as well...
I texted Whisky, planned to meet him at his townhouse, and successfully banged him. It was absolutely a hate bang even though I didn't hate Whisky at all (yet). I'd never engaged in hate-fueled intimacy before. I didn't realize those two states could co-exist like that. As reluctant as I am to admit it, it was cathartic. And it was also admittedly unfair to Whisky because he had no idea what was happening. I had just used him to make myself feel marginally better about a guy I guess I still had some kind of feelings for.
In case I've been unclear, I'm fully acknowledging that my actions were immature, inconsiderate, and indefensible. Don't bang somebody just because you're mad at somebody else, kids. Nobody wins. Well, it might feel like winning for a short time. It's NOT. It's bad behavior. And I absolutely hold myself accountable. Did I deserve to get verbally abused by the psycho neckbeard lurking behind the mask of the man Iād just hate-banged? No. Unequivocally, NO. But would Whisky have been well within his rights to dump me in a spectacular fashion if heād realized what I was doing in that moment? Abso-freakin-lutely. Hell, I would have totally deserved it if heād booted me out of his house butt-naked and screamed insults from the window. An isolated hurling of insults is not the same thing as chronic verbal maltreatment within the context of a relationship. But that's a serious topic that feels out of place in this story.
So instead of calling me on my crap and giving my butt the boot, Whisky remained oblivious to what was going on in my misguided mind and took the hate bang to mean that our relationship had just gone to the next level. And he became even sweeter and more affectionate towards me. This made my skin crawl because all my feelings for Dennis (both good and bad) had just come flooding back with a vengeance. I had no idea what to do with them. Part of me wanted Dennis to hug me and apologize. Part of me wanted to punch him in the dick. Part of me wanted Whisky to hug me and assure me that I had value as a human being even if some Golden God hadnāt chosen me to be his partner. And then part of me wanted to snap at Whisky every time he touched me. "You're NOT the one I want, Asshat!!!!!!!"
But the truth was... I didn't really want Dennis anymore. I mean... I wanted him in theory, but I didn't want the real version. He was a flake. He was nasty. I couldn't wrap my head around his inconsistent, albeit devout, spiritual beliefs. He was indeed a braggadocious butthead. I suspected that he wasn't even a very nice person beneath his affable veneer. Even so, I was irrationally irate with Mary for deliberately stalking him and seducing him. Did she really think that would make me look at my relationship with Whisky differently? I hadn't stalked him. I hadn't even pursued him. In fact, I'd rejected him several times (albeit not out of respect for Mary). How are these two situations alike??? What am I failing to see here??? Maybe I was the villain. I certainly wasn't innocent. But neither was Mary.
I mean... Mary was frigginā MARRIED. And she'd been going around blabbing indelicately about all her supremely nasty boom-boom (whether real or fabricated) with Whiskers, Scumbanger, Tech Guy, Artistic Director, and the Hoggs. How the living, breathing, God-forsaken FUCK had she decided that she was entitled to sexy time with my (former?) crush just because I was dating ONE of the innumerable guys sheād stalked once upon a time???? Gaaaahhhhhhhhh!
And then it got even worse. Dennis was almost finished with his graduate program and was planning to move to New York that summer, while I still had another two years to go (counting the internship). But we both worked in the Neuropharmacology Lab that semester, so I still had to see him every week. Even though nothing had happened between us in a long, long time, I never knew if Dennis was going acknowledge my presence or look right through me. The power of invisibility isn't all it's cracked up ti be. But the next time I saw him, following the Mary tryst, he very deliberately approached me and said in an almost apologetic tone, "Val? Can we please talk after lab?" I nodded.
He asked me to get in his car, but I couldn't stand the thought of sitting in the ghost of Mary's snail trail. I insisted that we sit in my car, and he didn't protest. The familiar scent of mandarins and mountain air wafted through my Prius as I steeled myself for a confrontation.
Dennis: I think your friend stalked me...
Me: The crazy bitch with the big boobs?
Dennis: Yeah... She messaged me on Facebook and she was talking like you'd told her about me and thought we should hang out. I said we should call you and invite you to come along, but she said you had a boyfriend. Do you have a boyfriend?
Me: I'm dating someone. But what does it matter?
Dennis: Oh. I guess it doesn't. Anyway, I met her at this 24-hour diner. She drank like... ten beers even though I told her I don't drink. She kept talking about her cat or something...
Me: Whiskers?
Dennis: Yeah.
Me: That's a guy. She used to have a thing for him.
Dennis: Thatās a guyās name??? Weird. Well, anyway... She got all sloppy and literally started doing mouth stuff to me under the table.
My stomach turned and my blood boiled. "I don't need to hear that. She already told me all about your night. She sent me pictures of your dick and she told me how you peed on her in the parking lot."
Dennis: She said I WHAT??? Babe! Er. Um. Val! I would never do that.
I gave him a skeptical stare.
Dennis: Hand to God! I didn't pee on her. But, wait... She took pictures of my stuff???
I took out my phone and showed him the pic. Dennis blushed ferociously and looked away. Finally, he said quietly, "I'm so ashamed of myself."
I sighed. "You're always ashamed of yourself. That's why I stopped fooling around with you. It felt like you were ashamed of me, too."
Dennis: Babe! No. I just have to get right with God.
Me: Well, have you talked to God about Mary?
Dennis: I'm not ready for that one yet. I feel dirty. Like... dirtier than usual.
Me: Well, now I feel kind of guilty. She's mad at me because I'm dating a guy she used to have a crush on. She went after you because she knew I used to have a crush on you.
Dennis: You had a crush on me??? For real?
At first, I scoffed (thinking he was being sarcastic). Then I looked at his wide eyes and realized that he might have actually been that clueless.
Me: Yes, Dennis. I massively had a crush on you. You knew that. But I was apparently too vanilla for you, according to Mary.
Dennis: What??? Babe! I never said you were vanilla. I said you were classier than her.
Me: Well... Thank you? If that really is what you said to her, I appreciate that.
Dennis (striking his version of a smoldering pose): So. Uh... You still have a crush on me?
Me: I think I'll always wonder what could have been if we were each just... slightly different people. But I had to move on. I knew you didn't like me in that way, and it wasn't fair to either of us.
Dennis: Well, for what it's worth, I wish it had been your mouth the other night.
I finally smiled a little bit. I wished the same thing. But I didn't say that out loud.
Oddly enough, having that somewhat respectful, somewhat reassuring conversation with Dennis quelled my anger at Mary... a little. Don't get me wrong; I was still pissed and I never let her get close to me again after that. But I also never made a big, dramatic show of telling her off. In my mind, that would have invited more unnecessary drama. By tacitly distancing myself and henceforth keeping her at arm's length, she wasn't able to freak out over anything and I was able to keep her out of my business.
Years and years later, even now that Mary is a functional person with a healthy BMI, and much better manners (most of the time), she is still wont to bring up her tryst with Dennis. While I genuinely applaud her for putting in the work and making some sensible changes, I'll never be super buddy-buddy with her again. The fact that she still throws Dennis in my face to this very day makes me suspect that there remains a touch of cray in her gray matter.
And where Whisky was concerned, I had finally felt some sense of closure with Dennis after the aforementioned talk. So I leaned into a new relationship. And it was fine at first. Not super hot, but also not super weird. Having learned from my disgusting mistake, I know that I tend to get tempted to speculate about incredibly offensive crap regardingFunky Whisky whenever his behavior is unremarkable and not in keeping with the delightfully repulsive tone that this audience tends to enjoy. So I'll end this chapter here. In the next proper installment, I'll finally shed some light on The Goblinization. But before I wrap things up, I need to write a one-off about The Pie Guy and bring back some classic cringe!
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A few days later my phone buzz-chirped. I opened my messages to find several pics of Dennis' Jeep, a blurry mess of lights, and a final shot of Dennis leaning back in the driver's seat with his eyes closed and his junk out and at attention. And there was a caption.
"Consider us EVEN."
I saw red. The possibility of finding peaceful contentment with Whisky was a distant memory. A figment of my imagination. I wanted blood. I wanted to slap Mary's fat fucking face senseless. I wanted to rat her out to Chuck. I was livid. Angry heat spread from my sternum to my shoulders, and the sharp sting of wrath radiated through my being. I rang Mary.
Mary: How does it feel, bitch?
I couldn't make words. I was shaking. My head was spinning. All I could muster was a meek little, "Why???"
Mary: You owed me.
Me: Mary, I'm not screwing Whiskers. And how did you even FIND Dennis? Do you even LIKE him?
Mary: Totes! He's soooooo cute! We banged it out five or six times in his car, and then he told me to lie down in the parking lot. And then he pissed all over my titties! It was soooo hot!
Me: I don't believe you. Dennis is into some pervy-ass shit. But not piss.
Mary: Well, he told me you were too vanilla to do anything fun.
Me: YEAH. I didn't wanna get butt-blasted without a rubber by a guy who couldn't even be bothered to show up when we had plans. That's not being vanilla. That's having self-respect.
Mary: Guys don't like girls who make a big deal about self-respect. It's a major turn-off. That's why I get so much more boom-boom than you do. Hey! Now that we're done fighting, you can pick me up and take me out for sushi! I'll teach you how to make men happy and then you'll owe me dinner. I obviously pleased Dennis when you couldn't.
Words failed me yet again. I shouted a much, much filthier version of, "GO SCREW," hung up on her, put on my sneakers, and ran aimlessly through my neighborhood until I almost collapsed. Once I trudged back home, I smoked a shit-ton of cigarettes and drank a shit-ton of vodka (for me, which was like... three shots) and really did collapse.
Up to this point, I felt like I had been patient with Mary. More patient than she deserved. I probably hadnāt done her any favors by allowing her to behave like a fucking maniac while I did nothing more than gently suggesting alternative behaviors. I still wanted to have faith in her ability to grow (emotionally). But all of that came crashing down. For some reason, my formerly improved sense of self-respect crashed as well...
I texted Whisky, planned to meet him at his townhouse, and successfully banged him. It was absolutely a hate bang even though I didn't hate Whisky at all (yet). I'd never engaged in hate-fueled intimacy before. I didn't realize those two states could co-exist like that. As reluctant as I am to admit it, it was cathartic. And it was also admittedly unfair to Whisky because he had no idea what was happening. I had just used him to make myself feel marginally better about a guy I guess I still had some kind of feelings for.
In case I've been unclear, I'm fully acknowledging that my actions were immature, inconsiderate, and indefensible. Don't bang somebody just because you're mad at somebody else, kids. Nobody wins. Well, it might feel like winning for a short time. It's NOT. It's bad behavior. And I absolutely hold myself accountable. Did I deserve to get verbally abused by the psycho neckbeard lurking behind the mask of the man Iād just hate-banged? No. Unequivocally, NO. But would Whisky have been well within his rights to dump me in a spectacular fashion if heād realized what I was doing in that moment? Abso-freakin-lutely. Hell, I would have totally deserved it if heād booted me out of his house butt-naked and screamed insults from the window. An isolated hurling of insults is not the same thing as chronic verbal maltreatment within the context of a relationship. But that's a serious topic that feels out of place in this story.
So instead of calling me on my crap and giving my butt the boot, Whisky remained oblivious to what was going on in my misguided mind and took the hate bang to mean that our relationship had just gone to the next level. And he became even sweeter and more affectionate towards me. This made my skin crawl because all my feelings for Dennis (both good and bad) had just come flooding back with a vengeance. I had no idea what to do with them. Part of me wanted Dennis to hug me and apologize. Part of me wanted to punch him in the dick. Part of me wanted Whisky to hug me and assure me that I had value as a human being even if some Golden God hadnāt chosen me to be his partner. And then part of me wanted to snap at Whisky every time he touched me. "You're NOT the one I want, Asshat!!!!!!!"
But the truth was... I didn't really want Dennis anymore. I mean... I wanted him in theory, but I didn't want the real version. He was a flake. He was nasty. I couldn't wrap my head around his inconsistent, albeit devout, spiritual beliefs. He was indeed a braggadocious butthead. I suspected that he wasn't even a very nice person beneath his affable veneer. Even so, I was irrationally irate with Mary for deliberately stalking him and seducing him. Did she really think that would make me look at my relationship with Whisky differently? I hadn't stalked him. I hadn't even pursued him. In fact, I'd rejected him several times (albeit not out of respect for Mary). How are these two situations alike??? What am I failing to see here??? Maybe I was the villain. I certainly wasn't innocent. But neither was Mary.
I mean... Mary was frigginā MARRIED. And she'd been going around blabbing indelicately about all her supremely nasty boom-boom (whether real or fabricated) with Whiskers, Scumbanger, Tech Guy, Artistic Director, and the Hoggs. How the living, breathing, God-forsaken FUCK had she decided that she was entitled to sexy time with my (former?) crush just because I was dating ONE of the innumerable guys sheād stalked once upon a time???? Gaaaahhhhhhhhh!
And then it got even worse. Dennis was almost finished with his graduate program and was planning to move to New York that summer, while I still had another two years to go (counting the internship). But we both worked in the Neuropharmacology Lab that semester, so I still had to see him every week. Even though nothing had happened between us in a long, long time, I never knew if Dennis was going acknowledge my presence or look right through me. The power of invisibility isn't all it's cracked up ti be. But the next time I saw him, following the Mary tryst, he very deliberately approached me and said in an almost apologetic tone, "Val? Can we please talk after lab?" I nodded.
He asked me to get in his car, but I couldn't stand the thought of sitting in the ghost of Mary's snail trail. I insisted that we sit in my car, and he didn't protest. The familiar scent of mandarins and mountain air wafted through my Prius as I steeled myself for a confrontation.
Dennis: I think your friend stalked me...
Me: The crazy bitch with the big boobs?
Dennis: Yeah... She messaged me on Facebook and she was talking like you'd told her about me and thought we should hang out. I said we should call you and invite you to come along, but she said you had a boyfriend. Do you have a boyfriend?
Me: I'm dating someone. But what does it matter?
Dennis: Oh. I guess it doesn't. Anyway, I met her at this 24-hour diner. She drank like... ten beers even though I told her I don't drink. She kept talking about her cat or something...
Me: Whiskers?
Dennis: Yeah.
Me: That's a guy. She used to have a thing for him.
Dennis: Thatās a guyās name??? Weird. Well, anyway... She got all sloppy and literally started doing mouth stuff to me under the table.
My stomach turned and my blood boiled. "I don't need to hear that. She already told me all about your night. She sent me pictures of your dick and she told me how you peed on her in the parking lot."
Dennis: She said I WHAT??? Babe! Er. Um. Val! I would never do that.
I gave him a skeptical stare.
Dennis: Hand to God! I didn't pee on her. But, wait... She took pictures of my stuff???
I took out my phone and showed him the pic. Dennis blushed ferociously and looked away. Finally, he said quietly, "I'm so ashamed of myself."
I sighed. "You're always ashamed of yourself. That's why I stopped fooling around with you. It felt like you were ashamed of me, too."
Dennis: Babe! No. I just have to get right with God.
Me: Well, have you talked to God about Mary?
Dennis: I'm not ready for that one yet. I feel dirty. Like... dirtier than usual.
Me: Well, now I feel kind of guilty. She's mad at me because I'm dating a guy she used to have a crush on. She went after you because she knew I used to have a crush on you.
Dennis: You had a crush on me??? For real?
At first, I scoffed (thinking he was being sarcastic). Then I looked at his wide eyes and realized that he might have actually been that clueless.
Me: Yes, Dennis. I massively had a crush on you. You knew that. But I was apparently too vanilla for you, according to Mary.
Dennis: What??? Babe! I never said you were vanilla. I said you were classier than her.
Me: Well... Thank you? If that really is what you said to her, I appreciate that.
Dennis (striking his version of a smoldering pose): So. Uh... You still have a crush on me?
Me: I think I'll always wonder what could have been if we were each just... slightly different people. But I had to move on. I knew you didn't like me in that way, and it wasn't fair to either of us.
Dennis: Well, for what it's worth, I wish it had been your mouth the other night.
I finally smiled a little bit. I wished the same thing. But I didn't say that out loud.
Oddly enough, having that somewhat respectful, somewhat reassuring conversation with Dennis quelled my anger at Mary... a little. Don't get me wrong; I was still pissed and I never let her get close to me again after that. But I also never made a big, dramatic show of telling her off. In my mind, that would have invited more unnecessary drama. By tacitly distancing myself and henceforth keeping her at arm's length, she wasn't able to freak out over anything and I was able to keep her out of my business.
Years and years later, even now that Mary is a functional person with a healthy BMI, and much better manners (most of the time), she is still wont to bring up her tryst with Dennis. While I genuinely applaud her for putting in the work and making some sensible changes, I'll never be super buddy-buddy with her again. The fact that she still throws Dennis in my face to this very day makes me suspect that there remains a touch of cray in her gray matter.
And where Whisky was concerned, I had finally felt some sense of closure with Dennis after the aforementioned talk. So I leaned into a new relationship. And it was fine at first. Not super hot, but also not super weird. Having learned from my disgusting mistake, I know that I tend to get tempted to speculate about incredibly offensive crap regarding
2024.05.20 07:09 Stanley232323 Daily Help/Questions/Fusion Suggestions Megathread 5/20/24
Hello everybody!
This is the Daily Megathread for general and simple questions as well as asking for advice on which Pokemon to use the fusion splicers on.
The goal of these Megathreads is to hopefully reduce the number of repeat posts and de-clog up the SubReddit.
If your post was deleted and you were redirected here please check the comments to make sure your question wasn't already asked and answered today.
If you're looking for a really well-written, in-depth beginners guide we have one pinned but you can also find it through this link: https://www.reddit.com/pokerogue/s/6ck9cZj0NG
I'll also include some common questions and answers so please check these below before repeating the same question.
(Most of these are from the official Wiki which can be found here as well as more info like which Pokemon are in which biomes, shiny odds, and the stat spread of each Dynamax form) : https://wiki.pokerogue.net/start
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Commonly asked questions:
Q: What does the pink box around some starters mean? A: The Pokemon has PKRS which increases the amount of Exp gained, the Pokemon will eventually spread it to your other Pokemon. Every day 3 random Pokemon are selected to have PKRS for that day
Q: What does the little blue and purple symbol by my starter mean? A: You have the Pokemon's Hidden Ability unlocked. When you catch a Pokemon you will know it has the Hidden Ability because the text will be Yellow. You will have to switch the Ability to use the Hidden Ability
Q: What do (P) or (N) next to a move or ability mean? A: (P) means Partially Implemented (usually for moves this means it does the attack but not the secondary effect) and (N) means Not Implemented. (Eventually everything will be implemented)
Q: Can you ever catch any Pokemon in the last biome of Classic? A: Once you have hatched the Pokemon from an egg you can catch duplicates of it ONLY IN CLASSIC MODE in the final biome
Q: How do I evolve this Pokemon? A: Any evolution that has been changed from the main games can be found here: https://wiki.pokerogue.net/gameplay:evolutions
Q: How does fusion work? A: In short, the 1st Pokemon you fuse will dictate the Passive ability (if you have it unlocked), the 1st type of the fusion, the Level, IVs, and Nature. The 2nd Pokemon will dictate the Ability of the Pokemon and the second typing (which will be the Pokemons second type if it is a dual-type). Luck is combined, learnset (including TM compatibility) are also combined. Note: if you unfuse them the second Pokemon will be lost Second Note: both sides can evolve normally but only the 1st half can Mega/Dynamax evolve or use items that change their form More info can be found here: https://wiki.pokerogue.net/gameplay:mechanics:fusion
Q: What is a "Manaphy egg"? A: An egg of the same rarity as an "Epic" egg that has a 7/8 chance of hatching a Phione and a 1/8 chance of hatching a Manaphy
Q: What does the (+1), (+2), (+3), etc. mean under my starters moves? A: You have more moves available to choose from than just what is listed, since a Pokemon can only have 4 at a time obviously you will have to change them if you want different ones
Q: What are some good starters for Classic mode? A: We actually have a Daily Voting/Tiering Project going on, you can sort the SubReddit by "Daily Tiering/Voting Posts" to see the most recent one which will have the updated tier list. If you want to know why a Pokemon was Voted a certain way or what makes it so good or how people use it successfully feel free to ask that specifically in this thread in the comments :)
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A few tips if you're asking for Fusion Suggestions:
Obviously post a picture of your team, but also include in the comment their Nature's, Abilities, current Moveset and whether you have the Passive Ability unlocked on them.
If your question wasn't on the list above or for suggestions on which Pokemon to Fuse from your current team feel free to ask in the comments of this thread :). Individual posts of these types will be removed to reduce the number of repeat posts in the Sub.
As always, Happy Roguing!
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This is the Daily Megathread for general and simple questions as well as asking for advice on which Pokemon to use the fusion splicers on.
The goal of these Megathreads is to hopefully reduce the number of repeat posts and de-clog up the SubReddit.
If your post was deleted and you were redirected here please check the comments to make sure your question wasn't already asked and answered today.
If you're looking for a really well-written, in-depth beginners guide we have one pinned but you can also find it through this link: https://www.reddit.com/pokerogue/s/6ck9cZj0NG
I'll also include some common questions and answers so please check these below before repeating the same question.
(Most of these are from the official Wiki which can be found here as well as more info like which Pokemon are in which biomes, shiny odds, and the stat spread of each Dynamax form) : https://wiki.pokerogue.net/start
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Commonly asked questions:
Q: What does the pink box around some starters mean? A: The Pokemon has PKRS which increases the amount of Exp gained, the Pokemon will eventually spread it to your other Pokemon. Every day 3 random Pokemon are selected to have PKRS for that day
Q: What does the little blue and purple symbol by my starter mean? A: You have the Pokemon's Hidden Ability unlocked. When you catch a Pokemon you will know it has the Hidden Ability because the text will be Yellow. You will have to switch the Ability to use the Hidden Ability
Q: What do (P) or (N) next to a move or ability mean? A: (P) means Partially Implemented (usually for moves this means it does the attack but not the secondary effect) and (N) means Not Implemented. (Eventually everything will be implemented)
Q: Can you ever catch any Pokemon in the last biome of Classic? A: Once you have hatched the Pokemon from an egg you can catch duplicates of it ONLY IN CLASSIC MODE in the final biome
Q: How do I evolve this Pokemon? A: Any evolution that has been changed from the main games can be found here: https://wiki.pokerogue.net/gameplay:evolutions
Q: How does fusion work? A: In short, the 1st Pokemon you fuse will dictate the Passive ability (if you have it unlocked), the 1st type of the fusion, the Level, IVs, and Nature. The 2nd Pokemon will dictate the Ability of the Pokemon and the second typing (which will be the Pokemons second type if it is a dual-type). Luck is combined, learnset (including TM compatibility) are also combined. Note: if you unfuse them the second Pokemon will be lost Second Note: both sides can evolve normally but only the 1st half can Mega/Dynamax evolve or use items that change their form More info can be found here: https://wiki.pokerogue.net/gameplay:mechanics:fusion
Q: What is a "Manaphy egg"? A: An egg of the same rarity as an "Epic" egg that has a 7/8 chance of hatching a Phione and a 1/8 chance of hatching a Manaphy
Q: What does the (+1), (+2), (+3), etc. mean under my starters moves? A: You have more moves available to choose from than just what is listed, since a Pokemon can only have 4 at a time obviously you will have to change them if you want different ones
Q: What are some good starters for Classic mode? A: We actually have a Daily Voting/Tiering Project going on, you can sort the SubReddit by "Daily Tiering/Voting Posts" to see the most recent one which will have the updated tier list. If you want to know why a Pokemon was Voted a certain way or what makes it so good or how people use it successfully feel free to ask that specifically in this thread in the comments :)
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A few tips if you're asking for Fusion Suggestions:
Obviously post a picture of your team, but also include in the comment their Nature's, Abilities, current Moveset and whether you have the Passive Ability unlocked on them.
If your question wasn't on the list above or for suggestions on which Pokemon to Fuse from your current team feel free to ask in the comments of this thread :). Individual posts of these types will be removed to reduce the number of repeat posts in the Sub.
As always, Happy Roguing!
2024.05.20 07:07 ShinzoTheThird how do i interpret loss of resources and resource score? 2nd & 3rd column
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