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Can I do anything about my neighbor smoking in their unit?
2024.05.20 01:22 LogicalStand7548 Can I do anything about my neighbor smoking in their unit?
I recently moved into an apartment complex where the units are supposed to be smoke-free.
However, recently my neighbor started smoking cigarettes in his unit and now my bathroom will periodically smell like cigs since our vents must be joined somehow.
This is also an older apartment complex (built in the 1970s), so there could be other structural reasons for why the smell is getting through.
Since I don't smoke myself, I do not want to risk any health damage from secondhand smoke.
But every time I reach out to the neighbor or property manager about this issue it is basically ignored.
Do I have legal grounds to enforce anything in this situation? And if so, what is the best way to approach this problem to get results?
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However, recently my neighbor started smoking cigarettes in his unit and now my bathroom will periodically smell like cigs since our vents must be joined somehow.
This is also an older apartment complex (built in the 1970s), so there could be other structural reasons for why the smell is getting through.
Since I don't smoke myself, I do not want to risk any health damage from secondhand smoke.
But every time I reach out to the neighbor or property manager about this issue it is basically ignored.
Do I have legal grounds to enforce anything in this situation? And if so, what is the best way to approach this problem to get results?
2024.05.20 00:12 Mundane-Promotion721 Conseils sur un premier investissement
Bonjour à tous,
Je suis novice en immobilier dans le sens où je n'ai été jusqu'à aujourd'hui, étant cadre de 42 ans, jamais propriétaire.
Ma mère possède une maison Phoenix qu'elle a fait construire en 2005, 120m2, 4 chambres, 3 salles de bain dont 2 dans les chambres. Plein pied, un garage, un jardin, 400m2, clôturé, lotissement familial calme.
Dorénavant à la retraite, elle souhaite revendre cette maison.
Je me pose la question de la racheter afin de la louer. L'estimation de sa valeur est en cours, certainement aux alentours de 120k€, mais je peux grandement me tromper au vu des ventes alentours. Le village est situé à une dizaine de kilomètres d'Alençon, dans l'Orne.
Aucune location de maison dans le village, 7 dans des maisons plus anciennes dans les 5kms alentours, 12 dans les 10kms (Alençon y compris).
Est ce représentatif actuellement d' un marché locatif en demande?
Quel serait alors le meilleur indicateur afin d'acheter cette maison? Tenter de la louer tant que ma mère est propriétaire, puis juger d'une éventuelle location afin de présenter un dossier à un banquier, ou agir autrement ?
Est-il possible que cet achat ne me coûte rien, sinon ne soit rentable?
(Je m'entends très bien avec ma mère, elle serait ravie que je puisse débuter un patrimoine immobilier avec sa maison actuelle, et il n'est pas question de lui acheter cette maison en dessous du tarif estimé.)
Cette situation semble être un cas d'école. Mes questions peuvent paraitrent naïves au vu de votre expérience personnelle, malgré tout je suis preneur de toute idée, critique ou non, qui puisse me faire avancer.
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Je suis novice en immobilier dans le sens où je n'ai été jusqu'à aujourd'hui, étant cadre de 42 ans, jamais propriétaire.
Ma mère possède une maison Phoenix qu'elle a fait construire en 2005, 120m2, 4 chambres, 3 salles de bain dont 2 dans les chambres. Plein pied, un garage, un jardin, 400m2, clôturé, lotissement familial calme.
Dorénavant à la retraite, elle souhaite revendre cette maison.
Je me pose la question de la racheter afin de la louer. L'estimation de sa valeur est en cours, certainement aux alentours de 120k€, mais je peux grandement me tromper au vu des ventes alentours. Le village est situé à une dizaine de kilomètres d'Alençon, dans l'Orne.
Aucune location de maison dans le village, 7 dans des maisons plus anciennes dans les 5kms alentours, 12 dans les 10kms (Alençon y compris).
Est ce représentatif actuellement d' un marché locatif en demande?
Quel serait alors le meilleur indicateur afin d'acheter cette maison? Tenter de la louer tant que ma mère est propriétaire, puis juger d'une éventuelle location afin de présenter un dossier à un banquier, ou agir autrement ?
Est-il possible que cet achat ne me coûte rien, sinon ne soit rentable?
(Je m'entends très bien avec ma mère, elle serait ravie que je puisse débuter un patrimoine immobilier avec sa maison actuelle, et il n'est pas question de lui acheter cette maison en dessous du tarif estimé.)
Cette situation semble être un cas d'école. Mes questions peuvent paraitrent naïves au vu de votre expérience personnelle, malgré tout je suis preneur de toute idée, critique ou non, qui puisse me faire avancer.
2024.05.20 00:11 random___ginger Serai-je un jour normale ?
Pourquoi je pense tout le temps comme ça ? Parce que je ne parle pas beaucoup ? Bon, en vérité, si on me met en compagnie de quelqu'un de confiance, je vais parler, cela va de soit, voire même trop parler, allant même jusqu'à raconter toute la pauvre petite vie de la fille égocentrique que je suis.
Je suis toujours concentrée sur moi et mes problèmes.
Le pire, c'est que je m'attends toujours à ce que les autres règlent le problème à ma place. D'un côté, je me dis qu'il faut me comprendre, à force d'avoir dû tout encaisser toute seule pendant longtemps, j'ai besoin de repos, que le temps s'arrête, qu'on fasse les choses à ma place, en fait.
Mais, en même temps, j'ai l'impression de toujours avoir été comme ça, dès mon plus jeune âge.
Est-ce que c'est à cause de mon éducation ?
Là encore je compte toujours sur les autres, et là, c'est pour servir d'excuse pour mon comportement égoïste.
Je ne fais rien pour changer. Rien. Rien du tout, même pas une miette. Mais je suis si bien dans mon mal-être, il est confortable, je me sens bien, me regardant me laisser couler dans l'obscurité de mes pensées et les l°mes tr°nchantes de mes comportements face à elles, quitte à m'en faire s°igner en rouge vif, écarlate, coulant des pl°ies ouvertes sur mes v°ines...
Mais je fatigue, mais je ne veux pas en sortir. Après tout, qui serais-je sans mon mal-être ? Alors je reste sensible et irresponsable, je me force à aller mal pour exister, parce que si je vais bien plus personne ne fera attention à moi. Je le disais, je suis juste égocentrique, en recherche constante d'attention. Lorsque quelqu'un m'en offre, de ce réconfort recherché au plus profond de mon être, je le s*ce, non que dis-je, me voilà en train d'avoir des pensées malsaines, je l'aspire jusqu'à la dernière goutte. Plus on m'en offre, plus j'en abuse. Puis, lorsque l'on en a plus et qu'on me le fait savoir, je déprime, je m'étonne, je me dis que si je mourrais le monde continuerait sans moi... puis je trouve une nouvelle cigarette à réconfort, dont j'aspire la fumée jusqu'au petit bout de papier cartonné qui est vide mais rempli d'air plastifié et compressé, me brûlant les doigts à cause de la cendre carbonisée qui se pose sur eux.
Je me suis laissée emporter par les mots de ma tête, mais au final, est-ce que ces mots, ainsi que les phrases qu'ils forment, ont tort ? Suis-je simplement une fille en détresse qui a perdu la capacité de se sauver elle-même et cherche désespérément quelqu'un en capacité de la sauver à sa place ? Ou est-ce que je suis celle qui ne sait plus se sauver d'elle-même ? Ou qui ne sait plus qu'elle doit se sauver d'elle-même ? Ou qui ne réalise pas qu'elle est son propre problème ? Ce problème dont elle met les causes sur le dos d'autrui : son père, sa mère, sa sœur, son frère, sa belle-mère, son beau-père, des mots prononcés, des cris balancés, ses problèmes de colère, son manque d'attention, sa sensibilité, son physique, sa vie... Suis-je mon problème ? Qui me fait tant souffrir ? Suis-je notre problème ? Qui détruit notre relation (amoureuse, amicale ou familiale...) ? Suis-je son problème ? Ce pourquoi on se fatigue ? Suis-je leur problème ? Le problème qui les saoule et qui aspire toute leur énergie ?... Suis-je le problème ? Qu'est-ce que je cherche à faire en écrivant tout ça ? Est-ce que ça sera posté un jour ? Vais-je le recopier sur mon carnet au lieu de faire mon sac pour demain ?
Sans compter cette phrase, j'ai écrit un total de 595 mots. À quoi ça va m'amener ? Je ne ressens aucun changement, seulement un sentiment phénoménal de nullité phénoménale. Pourquoi je fais ça ? Pour me sentir exister ? Pour avoir l'impression que je suis talentueuse pour quelque-chose ? Pour me donner un air sentimental ? Pour me victimiser encore une fois ? Pour me donner l'impression que je me connais mieux que personne ?
Est-ce que je me connais seulement ?
Est-ce que je me comprends au moins ?
Si quelqu'un de l'extérieur faisait comme moi, serais-je soulagée de ne pas être seule ? Ou alors je serais dégoûtée de cette personne au plus haut point (ce qui serait fortement culotté, je l'avoue) ?..
J'essaye de me sentir exister en faisant des choses, en extériorisant des choses, des choses, des choses... mais au final, qui suis-je ? Non, QUE suis-je ?
Est-ce que je ressens vraiment toute cette peine, ou est-ce que je manipule les gens pour avoir de l'attention, du réconfort et le sentiment de me sentir aimée ?
Serai-je un jour normale ?
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Je suis toujours concentrée sur moi et mes problèmes.
Le pire, c'est que je m'attends toujours à ce que les autres règlent le problème à ma place. D'un côté, je me dis qu'il faut me comprendre, à force d'avoir dû tout encaisser toute seule pendant longtemps, j'ai besoin de repos, que le temps s'arrête, qu'on fasse les choses à ma place, en fait.
Mais, en même temps, j'ai l'impression de toujours avoir été comme ça, dès mon plus jeune âge.
Est-ce que c'est à cause de mon éducation ?
Là encore je compte toujours sur les autres, et là, c'est pour servir d'excuse pour mon comportement égoïste.
Je ne fais rien pour changer. Rien. Rien du tout, même pas une miette. Mais je suis si bien dans mon mal-être, il est confortable, je me sens bien, me regardant me laisser couler dans l'obscurité de mes pensées et les l°mes tr°nchantes de mes comportements face à elles, quitte à m'en faire s°igner en rouge vif, écarlate, coulant des pl°ies ouvertes sur mes v°ines...
Mais je fatigue, mais je ne veux pas en sortir. Après tout, qui serais-je sans mon mal-être ? Alors je reste sensible et irresponsable, je me force à aller mal pour exister, parce que si je vais bien plus personne ne fera attention à moi. Je le disais, je suis juste égocentrique, en recherche constante d'attention. Lorsque quelqu'un m'en offre, de ce réconfort recherché au plus profond de mon être, je le s*ce, non que dis-je, me voilà en train d'avoir des pensées malsaines, je l'aspire jusqu'à la dernière goutte. Plus on m'en offre, plus j'en abuse. Puis, lorsque l'on en a plus et qu'on me le fait savoir, je déprime, je m'étonne, je me dis que si je mourrais le monde continuerait sans moi... puis je trouve une nouvelle cigarette à réconfort, dont j'aspire la fumée jusqu'au petit bout de papier cartonné qui est vide mais rempli d'air plastifié et compressé, me brûlant les doigts à cause de la cendre carbonisée qui se pose sur eux.
Je me suis laissée emporter par les mots de ma tête, mais au final, est-ce que ces mots, ainsi que les phrases qu'ils forment, ont tort ? Suis-je simplement une fille en détresse qui a perdu la capacité de se sauver elle-même et cherche désespérément quelqu'un en capacité de la sauver à sa place ? Ou est-ce que je suis celle qui ne sait plus se sauver d'elle-même ? Ou qui ne sait plus qu'elle doit se sauver d'elle-même ? Ou qui ne réalise pas qu'elle est son propre problème ? Ce problème dont elle met les causes sur le dos d'autrui : son père, sa mère, sa sœur, son frère, sa belle-mère, son beau-père, des mots prononcés, des cris balancés, ses problèmes de colère, son manque d'attention, sa sensibilité, son physique, sa vie... Suis-je mon problème ? Qui me fait tant souffrir ? Suis-je notre problème ? Qui détruit notre relation (amoureuse, amicale ou familiale...) ? Suis-je son problème ? Ce pourquoi on se fatigue ? Suis-je leur problème ? Le problème qui les saoule et qui aspire toute leur énergie ?... Suis-je le problème ? Qu'est-ce que je cherche à faire en écrivant tout ça ? Est-ce que ça sera posté un jour ? Vais-je le recopier sur mon carnet au lieu de faire mon sac pour demain ?
Sans compter cette phrase, j'ai écrit un total de 595 mots. À quoi ça va m'amener ? Je ne ressens aucun changement, seulement un sentiment phénoménal de nullité phénoménale. Pourquoi je fais ça ? Pour me sentir exister ? Pour avoir l'impression que je suis talentueuse pour quelque-chose ? Pour me donner un air sentimental ? Pour me victimiser encore une fois ? Pour me donner l'impression que je me connais mieux que personne ?
Est-ce que je me connais seulement ?
Est-ce que je me comprends au moins ?
Si quelqu'un de l'extérieur faisait comme moi, serais-je soulagée de ne pas être seule ? Ou alors je serais dégoûtée de cette personne au plus haut point (ce qui serait fortement culotté, je l'avoue) ?..
J'essaye de me sentir exister en faisant des choses, en extériorisant des choses, des choses, des choses... mais au final, qui suis-je ? Non, QUE suis-je ?
Est-ce que je ressens vraiment toute cette peine, ou est-ce que je manipule les gens pour avoir de l'attention, du réconfort et le sentiment de me sentir aimée ?
Serai-je un jour normale ?
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2024.05.19 23:17 Beginning_Current139 I can't stand the way my husband does the laundry.
A disclaimer: I know I'm being unreasonable in this situation. I just need to vent about it so I don't say something unwarranted to him.
For context, I have AuDHD and my husband has ADHD. Laundry is a big problem in our house. Washing it, remembering to transfer it into the dryer, folding it, putting it away - everything is an issue. The process breaks down at every step. We share the responsibility for doing laundry, it's just that we're both really bad at it.
I'm currently recovering from severe autistic burnout. To help keep the house in order, we decided to start taking our laundry to a laundromat with a wash-and-fold service. It's a bit pricey, but worth it - I drop off a bunch of dirty clothes and pick them up the next day, clean and folded. All that's left to do is to put them away. It's SO helpful and it's truly a massive relief.
I've spent the last few days mostly in bed with bronchitis, so my husband's been looking after the housework. The laundry had started to pile up, but all he had to do was gather it up, put it in the car and take it to the laundromat. But noooo, he decided he was going to wash it himself, but do a super half-assed job and then abandon it halfway through. When I forget to move wet laundry over into the dryer, I notice that it smells musty from sitting in the washer and so I wash it again. But not him. It also doesn't help that our dryer is not the best and needs 1.5 cycles to fully dry a load, but my husband is not very good about running the second half-cycle so half the load is left damp.
Now there are multiple piles of "clean" laundry all over our bedroom and the laundry room. None of it is folded and most of it is damp and wrinkled and stinks like mildew. It's actually worse than it would have been if he'd just left it - at least it was dry before! I'm still semi-sick and exhausted from coughing all night, and I look around and I just want to cry.
WHY did he even START, if he wasn't going to do it properly or even finish the job at all?? That is NOT being helpful!!!
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For context, I have AuDHD and my husband has ADHD. Laundry is a big problem in our house. Washing it, remembering to transfer it into the dryer, folding it, putting it away - everything is an issue. The process breaks down at every step. We share the responsibility for doing laundry, it's just that we're both really bad at it.
I'm currently recovering from severe autistic burnout. To help keep the house in order, we decided to start taking our laundry to a laundromat with a wash-and-fold service. It's a bit pricey, but worth it - I drop off a bunch of dirty clothes and pick them up the next day, clean and folded. All that's left to do is to put them away. It's SO helpful and it's truly a massive relief.
I've spent the last few days mostly in bed with bronchitis, so my husband's been looking after the housework. The laundry had started to pile up, but all he had to do was gather it up, put it in the car and take it to the laundromat. But noooo, he decided he was going to wash it himself, but do a super half-assed job and then abandon it halfway through. When I forget to move wet laundry over into the dryer, I notice that it smells musty from sitting in the washer and so I wash it again. But not him. It also doesn't help that our dryer is not the best and needs 1.5 cycles to fully dry a load, but my husband is not very good about running the second half-cycle so half the load is left damp.
Now there are multiple piles of "clean" laundry all over our bedroom and the laundry room. None of it is folded and most of it is damp and wrinkled and stinks like mildew. It's actually worse than it would have been if he'd just left it - at least it was dry before! I'm still semi-sick and exhausted from coughing all night, and I look around and I just want to cry.
WHY did he even START, if he wasn't going to do it properly or even finish the job at all?? That is NOT being helpful!!!
2024.05.19 23:11 Roktarizz Première œuvre, qu'en pensez-vous ?
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2024.05.19 22:08 AdZealousideal8375 Alphonse Mucha graphic design
 | So I recently picked up a book and discovered this artist from the late 1800 to early 1900, and I find it very fascinating. He did graphic design work for companies which is really inspiring. submitted by AdZealousideal8375 to graphic_design [link] [comments] There was something I noticed that the on didn’t talk about, and I can’t seem to find anything on google either was reusing his art for different pieces of work. One notably this bicycle and a cigarette ads. The book captioned some critics thoughts on the ads, but never mentioned about the similarities or the why he chose to reuse art like this. I’m not saying it’s bad, although it’s bad or frowned upon in this day and age, but wanted to gauge other people’s thoughts on this. |
2024.05.19 20:33 RISE_TY Les aires de repos coréennes : de simples haltes à destinations futuriste 🚗
 | Les aires de repos en Corée du Sud ont évolué de manière spectaculaire au fil des années, passant de lieux insalubres et peu accueillants à des destinations modernes et attrayantes. Cette transformation a été rendue possible grâce à des efforts soutenus et des investissements significatifs de la part des autorités et des entreprises privées. Aujourd'hui, ces aires de repos sont non seulement des lieux pour se reposer mais aussi des espaces multifonctionnels offrant une variété de services et d'activités. submitted by RISE_TY to coreedusud [link] [comments] Dans les années 1990, les aires de repos en Corée du Sud étaient souvent considérées comme des endroits peu agréables. Les toilettes étaient souvent des fosses mal entretenues, les vendeurs étaient agressifs, et les salles à manger étaient surpeuplées. Ce n'était pas un environnement plaisant pour les voyageurs. Cependant, un changement progressif a commencé avec l'amélioration des infrastructures, notamment l'introduction de toilettes modernes et propres. En 1999, la Korea Expressway Corporation (KEC) a commencé à afficher les photos du personnel d'entretien dans les toilettes pour assurer leur propreté, et en 2016, l'innovation des toilettes sur les autoroutes a été définie comme une priorité nationale. Les aires de repos modernes en Corée du Sud sont devenues des lieux de divertissement et de commodité. Elles offrent des services allant des parcs pour chiens aux restaurants où des robots préparent les repas en quelques minutes. Par exemple, l'aire de repos de Munmak à Gangwon utilise des robots pour servir des plats comme le galbitang, un bouillon de bœuf, en moins de cinq minutes. Cela permet de servir 200 repas par heure, offrant ainsi une expérience culinaire rapide et efficace aux voyageurs fatigués. Les avancées technologiques jouent un rôle crucial dans l'attrait des aires de repos. Par exemple, la branche de Gyeongsang Nord de la KEC a testé un service de livraison par drone pour apporter des hot-dogs et des beignets aux campeurs. De plus, les aires de repos offrent des expériences de réalité virtuelle et des technologies de drone, ajoutant une dimension de divertissement high-tech pour les visiteurs. L'apparence extérieure des aires de repos est également devenue un élément essentiel de leur attrait. Des structures architecturales audacieuses et des conceptions futuristes, comme celles de l'aire de repos de Siheung Haneul et de la future aire de repos de Cheoin, intriguent les voyageurs et les incitent à explorer ces lieux. Ces designs visent à harmoniser les caractéristiques régionales et le paysage naturel, créant ainsi des expériences uniques et mémorables pour les visiteurs. Le secteur privé a également joué un rôle clé dans cette transformation. Depuis la privatisation partielle en 1995, des entreprises comme Pulmuone, CJ Freshway et SPC Group ont investi dans les aires de repos, améliorant la qualité et la diversité des options alimentaires. Ces entreprises utilisent les aires de repos comme une stratégie pour augmenter la valeur de leur marque et renforcer leur crédibilité auprès des consommateurs. La compétition annuelle organisée par la KEC de 2002 à 2013 pour évaluer les meilleurs plats des aires de repos a également contribué à élever les standards culinaires. L'intégration de thèmes spécifiques et d'aménagements esthétiques dans les aires de repos a permis de les transformer en destinations à part entière. Par exemple, le Deokpyeong Eco-Service Area, décoré de milliers de lumières LED, attire les visiteurs avec son spectacle de lumières, contribuant significativement aux ventes annuelles. Les parcs pour chiens, présents dans 16 aires de repos, répondent aux besoins des nombreux ménages possédant des animaux domestiques, rendant ces lieux encore plus accueillants pour les familles. Toutefois, certaines initiatives trop expérimentales ont suscité des controverses. Par exemple, une toilette avec un plafond en verre transparent à l'aire de repos de Sudong a soulevé des préoccupations de confidentialité, obligeant la KEC à corriger cette conception. De même, l'aire de repos de Naerincheon, bien que dotée d'une architecture ambitieuse, a été critiquée pour son inefficacité et son manque de praticité. Malgré ces défis, les efforts pour améliorer les aires de repos se poursuivent. La KEC continue d'innover et de superviser la qualité des services offerts par les concessionnaires privés. Ce partenariat public-privé assure que les aires de repos restent à la hauteur des attentes des voyageurs tout en s'adaptant aux tendances et aux besoins changeants de la société. Les aires de repos en Corée du Sud ont donc parcouru un long chemin, passant de simples haltes routières à des lieux de détente et de divertissement. Cette transformation reflète une combinaison de gestion proactive par les autorités publiques et d'innovation par les entreprises privées, créant ainsi des espaces qui améliorent l'expérience des voyageurs et répondent aux exigences modernes. Source : Korea JoongAng Daily ⓘ Disclaimer : ce post est mon résumé d'un article trouvé sur Korea JoongAng Daily. Pour des questions d'exactitudes dans le propos, certains passages peuvent avoir été repris à l'identique, juste traduits. https://preview.redd.it/tertr2exff1d1.png?width=812&format=png&auto=webp&s=cac400d9863b389369df8a019aaa32adcde00370 https://preview.redd.it/lae8j2exff1d1.png?width=818&format=png&auto=webp&s=9170bb7284f173236327807855d983b62591dca6 https://preview.redd.it/tw5a82exff1d1.png?width=824&format=png&auto=webp&s=cfb13ce940bcb97ee936c4060d9a5d13061c2f5a https://preview.redd.it/ywsdg1exff1d1.png?width=844&format=png&auto=webp&s=c62444886798dff80846af329f3e8b12526b7429 |
2024.05.19 20:31 iulius Updating Gas Insert Surround
 | We have an existing gas insert fireplace. We tore down the stone facade and are down to just plywood and the fireplace. submitted by iulius to DIY [link] [comments] I’d like to do shiplap on the wall, but realize I need to keep a 6-7” buffer around the fireplace. My questions: 1. It appears I need 6” from the sides and 7” from the top for this model. Is the plywood already in violation of that? 2. If I do the shiplap I’ll need to stop it 6” short of the fireplace. What are options for bridging the distance between the ship lap and the fireplace? A metal surround seems like it’d work, but that’ll require some clever shimming and pulling the fireplace out the thickness of the shiplap. This feels like a small project that just got very very big. |
2024.05.19 18:48 bitsadinnlt My mom began feeding the outside stray cats against my wishes, now we have a litter we can't afford to foster and she keeps letting the stray mama cat in the house. I don't know what to do and she keeps ignoring me pleas to stop.
This feels so silly to vent about but I'm at a breaking point and can't talk anywhere else about this.
Many months ago I made the very poor mistake of looking outside just as an orange stray cat was in our yard, he began talking to me and it was a funny little moment. But then my mom wanted to see him and it all went down from there. She began feeding and giving water to all the stray cats outside, which of course brought tons of them around more. It seems sweet, and in some ways it is, but my problem from the beginning was that we have our own two cats that she has done nothing for in the past three years compared to the effort she's put towards these outside cats in the last few months. My brother and I take care of our cats, including making sure their fed and have litter. They're behind on their shots because neither of us can drive and mom won't, but since my brother's been working he began purchasing our cats their food and even got them a nice water fountain. One of our cats we adopted from a shelter so she was already fixed, the other was not and has yet to be fixed because our mother just... Hasn't. So right off the bat I was really upset she went head first into caring for the outside cats and not her own.
At the time I was in a telehealth therapy program and vented my frustrations in a group therapy session where the therapist pointed out that if she kept doing that, when the cats began getting pregnant, they'd bring their litters here. So from then on I was silently hoping they'd never get pregnant, wishful thinking on my part. I told my mom in the first month of her doing this that these outside cats were NOT my responsibility and I did not want to participate in helping them at all. I know I sound like a cruel person, and I am willing to accept that, but I didn't want to take on the responsibilities of more cats on top of the ones I already own. The problem only got worse when, one morning, I walked out to find my mom holding one of the stray cats in her arms in our house, walking her through before calmly putting her outside where mom informed me she let that cat specifically stay in her bedroom sometimes.
We live in arizona, in the desert, animals get fleas as soon as they step foot outside I swear to god. And immediately I didn't like having this outside cat in our house with our cats. I tried to talk with her about how I didn't feel comfortable having any outside cats in our (very small) trailer and would appreciate if she didn't do that anymore. I didn't yell or insult, I tried my best to sound mature and calm so she wouldn't react volatile-y, but she just brushed me off and said "she doesn't do it often". And from then on that cat was coming in and out of our house bi-daily.
Then that cat got pregnant. Just as my therapist said, she was always around. And one night she came inside and mom helped her give birth to a litter of kittens. I was so distressed, they were cute and I'm not a monster. They've been fun to help take care of, I check on them while my mom and brother are at work, I make sure they have food and water. They're now about two months old and I desperately want them out. We go through puppy pads faster than a smoker does a carton of cigarettes. Mom's begun buying them all kinds of toys and treats, a whole playpin for them and she continues to purchase more, or when she's low on money she asks my brother to buy the things she needs for the kittens. Animal shelters are out of the question, it's kitten season and they're all full. Her only "looking for help" has been a shitty facebook stray cat group of the area that has offered zero help at all, but she swears to god she's trying her best. I had to be the one to look into any animal rescues that could help us, and found one that could fix them and adopt them out as long as we foster them longer.
My problem comes from the fact she's still letting that outside cat in the house even after the kittens don't need her around. This has caused the kittens to continuously get fleas, we've given them like three different flea baths that do work until she lets the fucking mama cat in. I have tried everyway possible to say in as calm and respectful a manner as I can that we need to stop letting the cat in, she's giving the kittens fleas and on top of that putting our cats at risk. They've all been separated as much as possible, but the kittens keep trying to escape my mom's room and just a few days ago I had to chase a random stray out of our house because she wasn't paying attention and he got in sniffing for our un-fixed cat. She just doesn't care enough about what I have to say our anything other than her wants and I feel like I'm going crazy. Her most recent tactic to handling me bringing it up is to outright ignore me, just completely act like I didn't say anything and it's baffling me. I didn't want this responsibility but I have to help because she can't do it alone. She can't bend down to help the cats, she can't carry the heavy food bags, she can't even afford their food regularly and has to rely on my brother for most materials. I feel like it's unfair I have to help her with a responsibility I don't want, if she can't do it she shouldn't have taken it on, y'know? How is it fair we're expected to help her with something we didn't want to happen in the first place. I'm sick with stress and wake up every morning with my heart racing in my chest because on top of it was have a leak somewhere under our trailer and my mom's foot WENT THROUGH THE FLOOR. But we can't have it repaired yet because we have these fucking kittens. And when I said this she screamed at me for it, and I'm just done. Even when the kittens are gone I don't think she's going to stop letting this outside cat in, she got a fucking cat tree for her room for fucks sake. Our cats got a cat tree as a hand-me-down from my grandparents after their cat passed. She's done way more for these outside cats and kittens than she's ever done for our cats in the entirety we've owned them. I don't think it's that cats' fault, she's a really sweet cat and obviously we don't want her getting pregnant again. But she's too used to coming inside and spends most days in our house now. She's not even remotely potty trained and I've had to be the one to clean up her massive turds multiple times this past week. My mom clearly won't listen and I don't want to be the asshole that calls my grandparents to tell on her and make her even more mad (we rent our trailer from our grandparents-her parents, they know we're fostering a litter but I don't think they know about the mama cat being in the house daily). I'm currently unemployed and can't drive, I'm literally at the mercy of whatever the hell my mom decides to do and it's leaving me feel physically ill.
Sorry for this long nonsense about cats. I feel like I'm genuinely going crazy and don't know what to do. I hope to god this cat rescue I reached out to helps, but I don't know what to do about the mama cat. I want to cry and feel like I'm gonna be sick thinking about it all, but my mom won't listen and I cannot comprehend a way to get her to. No matter what I say or do she does what she wants and won't even pretend to consider what I've said. I can't leave, I can't ask for help, I'm stressed over a bunch of cats!! That sounds so stupid to me!! But I am!! And I just want this all to be over. I find myself mad at myself everyday for having ever pointed out that orange cat in our front yard, if I had just kept my mouth shut maybe I wouldn't be in this predicament. Idk. Sorry for the long post.
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Many months ago I made the very poor mistake of looking outside just as an orange stray cat was in our yard, he began talking to me and it was a funny little moment. But then my mom wanted to see him and it all went down from there. She began feeding and giving water to all the stray cats outside, which of course brought tons of them around more. It seems sweet, and in some ways it is, but my problem from the beginning was that we have our own two cats that she has done nothing for in the past three years compared to the effort she's put towards these outside cats in the last few months. My brother and I take care of our cats, including making sure their fed and have litter. They're behind on their shots because neither of us can drive and mom won't, but since my brother's been working he began purchasing our cats their food and even got them a nice water fountain. One of our cats we adopted from a shelter so she was already fixed, the other was not and has yet to be fixed because our mother just... Hasn't. So right off the bat I was really upset she went head first into caring for the outside cats and not her own.
At the time I was in a telehealth therapy program and vented my frustrations in a group therapy session where the therapist pointed out that if she kept doing that, when the cats began getting pregnant, they'd bring their litters here. So from then on I was silently hoping they'd never get pregnant, wishful thinking on my part. I told my mom in the first month of her doing this that these outside cats were NOT my responsibility and I did not want to participate in helping them at all. I know I sound like a cruel person, and I am willing to accept that, but I didn't want to take on the responsibilities of more cats on top of the ones I already own. The problem only got worse when, one morning, I walked out to find my mom holding one of the stray cats in her arms in our house, walking her through before calmly putting her outside where mom informed me she let that cat specifically stay in her bedroom sometimes.
We live in arizona, in the desert, animals get fleas as soon as they step foot outside I swear to god. And immediately I didn't like having this outside cat in our house with our cats. I tried to talk with her about how I didn't feel comfortable having any outside cats in our (very small) trailer and would appreciate if she didn't do that anymore. I didn't yell or insult, I tried my best to sound mature and calm so she wouldn't react volatile-y, but she just brushed me off and said "she doesn't do it often". And from then on that cat was coming in and out of our house bi-daily.
Then that cat got pregnant. Just as my therapist said, she was always around. And one night she came inside and mom helped her give birth to a litter of kittens. I was so distressed, they were cute and I'm not a monster. They've been fun to help take care of, I check on them while my mom and brother are at work, I make sure they have food and water. They're now about two months old and I desperately want them out. We go through puppy pads faster than a smoker does a carton of cigarettes. Mom's begun buying them all kinds of toys and treats, a whole playpin for them and she continues to purchase more, or when she's low on money she asks my brother to buy the things she needs for the kittens. Animal shelters are out of the question, it's kitten season and they're all full. Her only "looking for help" has been a shitty facebook stray cat group of the area that has offered zero help at all, but she swears to god she's trying her best. I had to be the one to look into any animal rescues that could help us, and found one that could fix them and adopt them out as long as we foster them longer.
My problem comes from the fact she's still letting that outside cat in the house even after the kittens don't need her around. This has caused the kittens to continuously get fleas, we've given them like three different flea baths that do work until she lets the fucking mama cat in. I have tried everyway possible to say in as calm and respectful a manner as I can that we need to stop letting the cat in, she's giving the kittens fleas and on top of that putting our cats at risk. They've all been separated as much as possible, but the kittens keep trying to escape my mom's room and just a few days ago I had to chase a random stray out of our house because she wasn't paying attention and he got in sniffing for our un-fixed cat. She just doesn't care enough about what I have to say our anything other than her wants and I feel like I'm going crazy. Her most recent tactic to handling me bringing it up is to outright ignore me, just completely act like I didn't say anything and it's baffling me. I didn't want this responsibility but I have to help because she can't do it alone. She can't bend down to help the cats, she can't carry the heavy food bags, she can't even afford their food regularly and has to rely on my brother for most materials. I feel like it's unfair I have to help her with a responsibility I don't want, if she can't do it she shouldn't have taken it on, y'know? How is it fair we're expected to help her with something we didn't want to happen in the first place. I'm sick with stress and wake up every morning with my heart racing in my chest because on top of it was have a leak somewhere under our trailer and my mom's foot WENT THROUGH THE FLOOR. But we can't have it repaired yet because we have these fucking kittens. And when I said this she screamed at me for it, and I'm just done. Even when the kittens are gone I don't think she's going to stop letting this outside cat in, she got a fucking cat tree for her room for fucks sake. Our cats got a cat tree as a hand-me-down from my grandparents after their cat passed. She's done way more for these outside cats and kittens than she's ever done for our cats in the entirety we've owned them. I don't think it's that cats' fault, she's a really sweet cat and obviously we don't want her getting pregnant again. But she's too used to coming inside and spends most days in our house now. She's not even remotely potty trained and I've had to be the one to clean up her massive turds multiple times this past week. My mom clearly won't listen and I don't want to be the asshole that calls my grandparents to tell on her and make her even more mad (we rent our trailer from our grandparents-her parents, they know we're fostering a litter but I don't think they know about the mama cat being in the house daily). I'm currently unemployed and can't drive, I'm literally at the mercy of whatever the hell my mom decides to do and it's leaving me feel physically ill.
Sorry for this long nonsense about cats. I feel like I'm genuinely going crazy and don't know what to do. I hope to god this cat rescue I reached out to helps, but I don't know what to do about the mama cat. I want to cry and feel like I'm gonna be sick thinking about it all, but my mom won't listen and I cannot comprehend a way to get her to. No matter what I say or do she does what she wants and won't even pretend to consider what I've said. I can't leave, I can't ask for help, I'm stressed over a bunch of cats!! That sounds so stupid to me!! But I am!! And I just want this all to be over. I find myself mad at myself everyday for having ever pointed out that orange cat in our front yard, if I had just kept my mouth shut maybe I wouldn't be in this predicament. Idk. Sorry for the long post.
2024.05.19 18:45 Witty-Issue-9920 Combien de côté avant de louer un premier appart ?
Je compte faire une colocation avec un ami, j’ai aucune idée de combien il me faut, genre pour tout ce qui va être achat de meubles, caution, etc.. on parle de 500 balles ou de 2000 ? sachant qu’on va partir sur un studio, pas un 80m2 Je me demandais aussi si le contrat de location serait du coup un contrat qui nous oblige à verser chacun la moitié au propriétaire ou si seulement l’un de nous paye au proprio et l’autre lui rembourse ? Je sais pas si c’est le bon flair :/
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2024.05.19 17:46 jolielga6 BEST OFFER. We have 1 extra lawn seat for N2 (Lyon, June 3rd) to sell. We are going to the show -- no problem to walk in with you.
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2024.05.19 17:27 The_Cloud_Punk Question Emprunt Immo
Hello la communauté,
J'ai besoin de vos lumières car je ne suis pas expert des chiffres et des questions de prêt bancaire. Je suis en train de réfléchir à vendre mon appartement pour acheter une petite maison. Mais je me perds dans les chiffres et ma banque n'est pas hyper réactive. Voici le contexte :
Je suis propriétaire d'un appartement pour lequel j'ai un crédit qui court encore. Grosso modo, il me reste 188k à rembourser à ma banque. J'ai fait évaluer mon bien et il est estimé à 345k grosse maille. Le bien que je vise est à 420k actuellement avec peu de marge de négociation je pense.
Mon calcul simpliste est le suivant :
Si je vends mon appartement au prix estimé (qui n'est pas la valeur haute), cela veut dire que je devrais récupérer 157k en bénéfice (345-188). Cela me permettrait donc d'avoir un apport potentiel de 157k pour mon nouvel achat. Pour atteindre le prix de vente, cela me pousserait à emprunter 263k, grosse maille. Auquel il faut que j'ajoute 25k pour les frais notariés (que je n'ajoute pas à mon emprunt pour le moment, car c'est un apport personnel que je peux mettre en dehors de tout emprunt).
J'ai pris le simulateur de l'état pour voir un peu.
En partant sur un taux à 3,80%, sur 25 ans, cela me ferait des mensualités à 1370 euros.
Sommes nous d'accord sur le principe de calcul ou suis-je dans les choux ? Ce qui est totalement possible... J'ai l'impression qu'il me manque un truc.
Autre question annexe, quels sont les avantages à passer par un courtier ? Est-ce vraiment plus intéressant qu'une banque classique ? J'aime bien ma banque. Mais la on parle d'un long emprunt... Du coup, tout ce que je peux économiser... J'avoue que c'est toujours ça de pris.
Merci pour vos retours, conseils ou autre.
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J'ai besoin de vos lumières car je ne suis pas expert des chiffres et des questions de prêt bancaire. Je suis en train de réfléchir à vendre mon appartement pour acheter une petite maison. Mais je me perds dans les chiffres et ma banque n'est pas hyper réactive. Voici le contexte :
Je suis propriétaire d'un appartement pour lequel j'ai un crédit qui court encore. Grosso modo, il me reste 188k à rembourser à ma banque. J'ai fait évaluer mon bien et il est estimé à 345k grosse maille. Le bien que je vise est à 420k actuellement avec peu de marge de négociation je pense.
Mon calcul simpliste est le suivant :
Si je vends mon appartement au prix estimé (qui n'est pas la valeur haute), cela veut dire que je devrais récupérer 157k en bénéfice (345-188). Cela me permettrait donc d'avoir un apport potentiel de 157k pour mon nouvel achat. Pour atteindre le prix de vente, cela me pousserait à emprunter 263k, grosse maille. Auquel il faut que j'ajoute 25k pour les frais notariés (que je n'ajoute pas à mon emprunt pour le moment, car c'est un apport personnel que je peux mettre en dehors de tout emprunt).
J'ai pris le simulateur de l'état pour voir un peu.
En partant sur un taux à 3,80%, sur 25 ans, cela me ferait des mensualités à 1370 euros.
Sommes nous d'accord sur le principe de calcul ou suis-je dans les choux ? Ce qui est totalement possible... J'ai l'impression qu'il me manque un truc.
Autre question annexe, quels sont les avantages à passer par un courtier ? Est-ce vraiment plus intéressant qu'une banque classique ? J'aime bien ma banque. Mais la on parle d'un long emprunt... Du coup, tout ce que je peux économiser... J'avoue que c'est toujours ça de pris.
Merci pour vos retours, conseils ou autre.
2024.05.19 17:22 Bmw431ch Vice caché accusation
Bonjour,
j'aimerais avoir l'avis d'un professionnel. J'ai vendu ma voiture en novembre 2023 et, trois mois plus tard, l'acheteur m'a envoyé une lettre recommandée pour m'informer qu'il avait découvert un vice caché sur le véhicule. Il affirme que la voiture a été accidentée, que le châssis (le pont arrière) a été mal réparé, et qu'il souhaite être remboursé pour le véhicule. Je n'étais pas au courant du problème car il n'y avait aucun signe ou bruit pendant la conduite. Il me menace en disant qu'il engagera des poursuites judiciaires si je ne reprends pas la voiture, et qu'il est certain de gagner. Son assurance a réalisé une expertise et a identifié un problème d'airbag en plus du problème de châssis. J'ai été compréhensif et lui ai proposé de me ramener la voiture pour un remboursement. Avant cela, j'ai demandé une photo du kilométrage et j'ai constaté qu'il avait parcouru 12 000 km en 6 mois. De plus, il a fissuré le pare-brise et affirme qu'il va le réparer, tout en prétendant que le problème d'airbag existait déjà à l'achat. Malgré cela, il exige un remboursement intégral du véhicule ainsi que des frais de carte grise. J'ai refusé son offre et il affirme qu'il n'a rien à perdre et qu'il gagnera en justice. Que dois-je faire dans cette situation qui m'angoisse beaucoup ?
Merci pour vos réponses
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j'aimerais avoir l'avis d'un professionnel. J'ai vendu ma voiture en novembre 2023 et, trois mois plus tard, l'acheteur m'a envoyé une lettre recommandée pour m'informer qu'il avait découvert un vice caché sur le véhicule. Il affirme que la voiture a été accidentée, que le châssis (le pont arrière) a été mal réparé, et qu'il souhaite être remboursé pour le véhicule. Je n'étais pas au courant du problème car il n'y avait aucun signe ou bruit pendant la conduite. Il me menace en disant qu'il engagera des poursuites judiciaires si je ne reprends pas la voiture, et qu'il est certain de gagner. Son assurance a réalisé une expertise et a identifié un problème d'airbag en plus du problème de châssis. J'ai été compréhensif et lui ai proposé de me ramener la voiture pour un remboursement. Avant cela, j'ai demandé une photo du kilométrage et j'ai constaté qu'il avait parcouru 12 000 km en 6 mois. De plus, il a fissuré le pare-brise et affirme qu'il va le réparer, tout en prétendant que le problème d'airbag existait déjà à l'achat. Malgré cela, il exige un remboursement intégral du véhicule ainsi que des frais de carte grise. J'ai refusé son offre et il affirme qu'il n'a rien à perdre et qu'il gagnera en justice. Que dois-je faire dans cette situation qui m'angoisse beaucoup ?
Merci pour vos réponses
2024.05.19 16:58 lightsaber_lobotomy Feeling extremely defeated. Just looking for some insight maybe.
*A bit long Sorry*
Im a 44M, and this coming Wednesday (5/22) im very likely going to be back out living on the street. I lived on the street from the age of 17-31, left home to get away from abuse, and drug addicted family.
Since i got off the street ive done everything "right", I pay my bills/rent on time, never missed a payment. My credit score is currently 744, and I dont even smoke cigarettes, no booze, nothing. Im just a nerdy kind of dude that generally stays to myself.
I got into low income housing (where im currently at) in November of 2020, and have been here since. Ive never once missed a rent payment. But they have been through something like 5 property managers in the last two years alone. I recieved a bill in the mail on the 26th of April stating I missed March and April's rent. When I informed them I had my money order stubs proving I paid rent, they them said "Oh, well its actually from December 2022, when we had a different property manager". So somehow apparently that payment was lost or something, and they are punishing me for their mistake. Not having an extra $350 for this magically random bill, I put in my 30 notice to move out because I didnt want an eviction on my record.
Im working currently with a local legal aid place, that are trying to get the bill waved, since its not my doing. But Ive only got two days, and after everything, Ive had to throw away or get rid of 3 years worth of my stuff in preparation for moving out...I really have no expectation of things working out in my favor.
Guess im just looking for some advice on what to do..I feel so completely defeated, and just feel like giving up completely. Maybe just venting, but i have no social circle here, and my only friend i have left lives about 3000 miles away on the other side of the country. I dont know what to do, just feel extremely lost.
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Im a 44M, and this coming Wednesday (5/22) im very likely going to be back out living on the street. I lived on the street from the age of 17-31, left home to get away from abuse, and drug addicted family.
Since i got off the street ive done everything "right", I pay my bills/rent on time, never missed a payment. My credit score is currently 744, and I dont even smoke cigarettes, no booze, nothing. Im just a nerdy kind of dude that generally stays to myself.
I got into low income housing (where im currently at) in November of 2020, and have been here since. Ive never once missed a rent payment. But they have been through something like 5 property managers in the last two years alone. I recieved a bill in the mail on the 26th of April stating I missed March and April's rent. When I informed them I had my money order stubs proving I paid rent, they them said "Oh, well its actually from December 2022, when we had a different property manager". So somehow apparently that payment was lost or something, and they are punishing me for their mistake. Not having an extra $350 for this magically random bill, I put in my 30 notice to move out because I didnt want an eviction on my record.
Im working currently with a local legal aid place, that are trying to get the bill waved, since its not my doing. But Ive only got two days, and after everything, Ive had to throw away or get rid of 3 years worth of my stuff in preparation for moving out...I really have no expectation of things working out in my favor.
Guess im just looking for some advice on what to do..I feel so completely defeated, and just feel like giving up completely. Maybe just venting, but i have no social circle here, and my only friend i have left lives about 3000 miles away on the other side of the country. I dont know what to do, just feel extremely lost.
2024.05.19 16:09 Embarrassed_Lab4142 Worn down by life
I have over come so much. Addiction. Prison. All the childhood trauma. Even quit cigarettes. Every step of the way I held on to the belief that it would be better. Here I am years I to sobriety, great paying job. The respect of our community and law enforcement. I hate every second of whatever this is. I thought I was numb on the opiates but truth is at least I had some kind of fucked up purpose. Now it's a never ending cycle of wake, work, repeat. I don't even find joy on the motorcycle anymore. I want it to end.
I've pretty well cut ties with all my friends and family. I stopped calling and checking in. If they would call i would answer. They don't.
I'm on the edge of a relapse I know I won't survive. That thought brings me peace. Thanks for letting me vent.
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I've pretty well cut ties with all my friends and family. I stopped calling and checking in. If they would call i would answer. They don't.
I'm on the edge of a relapse I know I won't survive. That thought brings me peace. Thanks for letting me vent.
2024.05.19 15:55 dying_animal comment ça marche les maison mise au enchere?
 | Voici un exemple d'annonce : submitted by dying_animal to france [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/ai7gaia11e1d1.jpg?width=2009&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=46a32d62abecec6fc30cc9214c76aa4abe30528c Condition pour encherir :
merci |
2024.05.19 15:12 Extra-Place488 Tired of creepy man doing unhinged shit
I'd like to vent a little since this is mainly what this sub is for. I (20F) have been working as a gas station/truck stop clerk for almost 5 years. It was my first job and hopefully not my last. I've seen a lot of shit. A bag of dildos, someone who shat their pants and left their shitty underwear in the toilet for us to fish out, cum shot on the walls, crackheads doing crackhead shit, a trucker who literally had a heart attack in our parking lot, piss jugs, so many piss jugs, but the worst part of my job is by far, men. Now, I know know it's not all of them and most of the man clientel I have is so nice and fun to serve. However, the minority is very loud, annoying and sometimes scary. Here's just a few incidents that have made me genuinely uncomfortable and scared at times.
This is the only one that genuinely made me fear for my safety. I work evening shift form 16h-00h. I was outside taking out the indoor garbage bags when a trucker approached me. He was older, mabe late 40's. It was already dark out and being a women alone at night already makes me shit my pants. He told me he had a problem with his fuel card and asked for help. Thinking I'm just overthinking like always, I go instead of asking the guy i was working with to help him out. The fuel card reader is very far away from our building, who is already in the middle of the woods on the side of the highway. Once there, i put it in and it didn't seem to work as his fuel limit was exceeded. Now, he started on and on about how it just worked and that he wanted to show me the receipt from the day prior at a different gas station of the same branch as mine. We went back forth, him insisting I come close to his truck so I can check the receipt, me telling him that there's nothing I can do and to call his dispatch. He eventually grabbed my arm to lead me closer to his door. I pulled away and told him to leave me alone, throwing his card at him. He didn't seem to like that but my co-worker, who was smoking a cigarette outside, approached us and told him the same thing I did. The trucker didn't say much else and just left in his truck. I have no idea why he couldn't just grab the damn receipt from his truck and show me or why he felt the need to put his hands on me. Thankfully, my male co-worker was there
(sorry truckers I live you thank you for your hard work. My dad is a trucker and I know how hard you work. I have nothing against you)
We have this one trucker who is a semi regular. I don't know if he's missing some braincells but having a conversation with him takes years off my life. His only eye contact is with my tits and he just has that creepy smile stuck on his face. He's asked me about my love life, sex life, he's asked me to marry him, come wash him in the showers, he purposely gets Belmonts cigarettes because I have to bend down to get them, but I know for a fact his cigarettes of choice is Next since that's what he orders from my male co-workers and older workers.
I have much more stories but I'm realizing the post will be long as fuck so I'll get to the one that made me write this post.
I'm currently at work and I just had a man come in. Off the start, he was giving me creepy vibes. I'm sure the ladies know that one stare. I started serving him and something was just off with him. At the end of the transaction he ask me to shake his hand telling me his name, Alex, and told me I had beautiful eyes. I like getting compliments on my eyes, but I almost threw up in my mouth. After some more uncomfortable staring he walked off. He came back a minute later asking me for cash back. Charged him 1 cent so he could take out 30$. I was genuinely sweating at how uncomfortable it was. He then ask me for the bathroom, I told him down the first hall at the right. He asked me to show him. Red flags but it's my job so I took a few steps away from my podium and pointed at the hallway. A fucking 3 year-old could've found it so I knew something was off. He went and came back barely 10 seconds later, telling me he couldn't find it and to show him. As I was walking down the hallway, I realized he probably wanted to get me away from the front window of the store where a group of nice old men I had just served were talking outside. Once there, he took my hand and ask me if I could help him in there. Which meant some sexual or I don't know I'm still so fucking confused. I took my hand away, told him no, laughing. I hate myself for laughing. I wish I had more of a back bone but I was still trying to be nice. I walked off, not looking in his direction as I continued some paperwork I was doing. He left without saying much else.
I'm sure some of you guys have some more unhinged stories. I live in a very safe part of Canada and, outside of my work, I've only rarely encountered people who genuinely made me uncomfortable. I just genuinely can not comprehend how people think this is okay behavior. I'm not a monkey or a robot, i have fucking feelings. I only am nice to you because I get paid to do it, i'm not flirting with you. What passes through some of their minds to think this is something I would be comfortable with. I just don't understand. I hate it here. Also, fuck Alex
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This is the only one that genuinely made me fear for my safety. I work evening shift form 16h-00h. I was outside taking out the indoor garbage bags when a trucker approached me. He was older, mabe late 40's. It was already dark out and being a women alone at night already makes me shit my pants. He told me he had a problem with his fuel card and asked for help. Thinking I'm just overthinking like always, I go instead of asking the guy i was working with to help him out. The fuel card reader is very far away from our building, who is already in the middle of the woods on the side of the highway. Once there, i put it in and it didn't seem to work as his fuel limit was exceeded. Now, he started on and on about how it just worked and that he wanted to show me the receipt from the day prior at a different gas station of the same branch as mine. We went back forth, him insisting I come close to his truck so I can check the receipt, me telling him that there's nothing I can do and to call his dispatch. He eventually grabbed my arm to lead me closer to his door. I pulled away and told him to leave me alone, throwing his card at him. He didn't seem to like that but my co-worker, who was smoking a cigarette outside, approached us and told him the same thing I did. The trucker didn't say much else and just left in his truck. I have no idea why he couldn't just grab the damn receipt from his truck and show me or why he felt the need to put his hands on me. Thankfully, my male co-worker was there
(sorry truckers I live you thank you for your hard work. My dad is a trucker and I know how hard you work. I have nothing against you)
We have this one trucker who is a semi regular. I don't know if he's missing some braincells but having a conversation with him takes years off my life. His only eye contact is with my tits and he just has that creepy smile stuck on his face. He's asked me about my love life, sex life, he's asked me to marry him, come wash him in the showers, he purposely gets Belmonts cigarettes because I have to bend down to get them, but I know for a fact his cigarettes of choice is Next since that's what he orders from my male co-workers and older workers.
I have much more stories but I'm realizing the post will be long as fuck so I'll get to the one that made me write this post.
I'm currently at work and I just had a man come in. Off the start, he was giving me creepy vibes. I'm sure the ladies know that one stare. I started serving him and something was just off with him. At the end of the transaction he ask me to shake his hand telling me his name, Alex, and told me I had beautiful eyes. I like getting compliments on my eyes, but I almost threw up in my mouth. After some more uncomfortable staring he walked off. He came back a minute later asking me for cash back. Charged him 1 cent so he could take out 30$. I was genuinely sweating at how uncomfortable it was. He then ask me for the bathroom, I told him down the first hall at the right. He asked me to show him. Red flags but it's my job so I took a few steps away from my podium and pointed at the hallway. A fucking 3 year-old could've found it so I knew something was off. He went and came back barely 10 seconds later, telling me he couldn't find it and to show him. As I was walking down the hallway, I realized he probably wanted to get me away from the front window of the store where a group of nice old men I had just served were talking outside. Once there, he took my hand and ask me if I could help him in there. Which meant some sexual or I don't know I'm still so fucking confused. I took my hand away, told him no, laughing. I hate myself for laughing. I wish I had more of a back bone but I was still trying to be nice. I walked off, not looking in his direction as I continued some paperwork I was doing. He left without saying much else.
I'm sure some of you guys have some more unhinged stories. I live in a very safe part of Canada and, outside of my work, I've only rarely encountered people who genuinely made me uncomfortable. I just genuinely can not comprehend how people think this is okay behavior. I'm not a monkey or a robot, i have fucking feelings. I only am nice to you because I get paid to do it, i'm not flirting with you. What passes through some of their minds to think this is something I would be comfortable with. I just don't understand. I hate it here. Also, fuck Alex
2024.05.19 14:40 No_Performance8576 Premier achat voiture, quel bon choix financier ?
Bonjour à tous,
À 29 ans, je compte acheter ma première voiture et je ne sais absolument pas comment m'y prendre. J'ai eu mon permis à 18 ans mais j'ai peu conduit jusque là ayant toujours habité pas trop loin d'une station de tram ou d'un bus. Aujourd'hui avec ma femme nous attendons un heureux événement, mais je voulais au préalable acheter une voiture. Nous habitons dans la petite couronne de Paris et avons jusque là pas eu besoin de la voiture. Là les choses risquent de changer un peu.
Je cherche donc une voiture fiable, que je pourrais garder encore quelques temps. Il faut dire que j'ai encore un coeff bonus malus de jeune conducteur, ayant peu conduit depuis que j'ai eu le permis, je ne vais clairement pas sur un SUV. Un ami connaisseur m'a conseillé de prendre une Toyota Yaris automatique d'occasion. J'ai commencé à regarder les prix sur des sites de vente en ligne et ça oscille aux alentours de 18-20k. Mais je ne suis pas sûr de comprendre pourquoi les unes sont plus chers que les autres.. (une avait genre 7km au compteur, c'est normal ?) Et vous que me conseillez-vous ? Quelle modèle ? Hybride ou essence ? Automatique ou manuelle? Quel est selon vous le meilleurs rapport fiabilité/ coûts d'achat, d'entretien et frais diverses ?
Niveau budget je pourrais bien prendre un crédit à 20k si c'est le prix à payer pour avoir une voiture fiable qui tiendra quelques années (je veux éviter des pannes avec un bébé à bord et m'épargner trop d'entretiens). Niveau épargne j'ai 8-9k que je peux payer comptant pour une voiture moins cher. Niveau usage, ça sera principalement pour faire des courses en agglomération (en région parisienne) et quelques fois dans l'année prendre l'autoroute en famille pour visiter les alentours le temps d'un weekend.
Merci d'avance pour votre aide.
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À 29 ans, je compte acheter ma première voiture et je ne sais absolument pas comment m'y prendre. J'ai eu mon permis à 18 ans mais j'ai peu conduit jusque là ayant toujours habité pas trop loin d'une station de tram ou d'un bus. Aujourd'hui avec ma femme nous attendons un heureux événement, mais je voulais au préalable acheter une voiture. Nous habitons dans la petite couronne de Paris et avons jusque là pas eu besoin de la voiture. Là les choses risquent de changer un peu.
Je cherche donc une voiture fiable, que je pourrais garder encore quelques temps. Il faut dire que j'ai encore un coeff bonus malus de jeune conducteur, ayant peu conduit depuis que j'ai eu le permis, je ne vais clairement pas sur un SUV. Un ami connaisseur m'a conseillé de prendre une Toyota Yaris automatique d'occasion. J'ai commencé à regarder les prix sur des sites de vente en ligne et ça oscille aux alentours de 18-20k. Mais je ne suis pas sûr de comprendre pourquoi les unes sont plus chers que les autres.. (une avait genre 7km au compteur, c'est normal ?) Et vous que me conseillez-vous ? Quelle modèle ? Hybride ou essence ? Automatique ou manuelle? Quel est selon vous le meilleurs rapport fiabilité/ coûts d'achat, d'entretien et frais diverses ?
Niveau budget je pourrais bien prendre un crédit à 20k si c'est le prix à payer pour avoir une voiture fiable qui tiendra quelques années (je veux éviter des pannes avec un bébé à bord et m'épargner trop d'entretiens). Niveau épargne j'ai 8-9k que je peux payer comptant pour une voiture moins cher. Niveau usage, ça sera principalement pour faire des courses en agglomération (en région parisienne) et quelques fois dans l'année prendre l'autoroute en famille pour visiter les alentours le temps d'un weekend.
Merci d'avance pour votre aide.
2024.05.19 14:23 saldelmundo Comment Obtenir des Dés Gratuits dans Dice Dreams ?
 | Dice Dreams est un jeu mobile captivant qui combine l'excitation du lancer de dés avec des éléments stratégiques de construction de royaumes et de batailles. Ce guide vous aidera à explorer le monde de Dice Dreams et à découvrir toutes les façons d'obtenir des dés gratuits (dés gratuits) pour améliorer votre expérience de jeu. submitted by saldelmundo to dicedreamsgratuits [link] [comments] Qu'est-ce que Dice Dreams ?Quelle Est la Vue d'ensemble du Jeu ?Dice Dreams est un jeu mobile populaire où les joueurs lancent des dés pour collecter des ressources, construire et améliorer des royaumes, et engager des batailles stratégiques avec d'autres joueurs. Les graphismes charmants et les mécaniques captivantes du jeu en font un favori parmi les joueurs occasionnels.Comment Jouer à Dice Dreams ?https://preview.redd.it/kqab4p6xld1d1.jpg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=149ca27b15d2bb26fc2a66b8cceb4848c9ef0ec3Le gameplay implique de lancer des dés pour se déplacer sur le plateau, collecter des pièces et effectuer diverses actions telles que l'attaque des royaumes des autres joueurs ou la construction de son propre royaume. Les joueurs visent à progresser à travers différents niveaux, accomplir des quêtes et débloquer de nouvelles fonctionnalités en avançant. Quels Sont les Objectifs Principaux de Dice Dreams ?Les objectifs principaux de Dice Dreams sont de construire un royaume prospère, de le défendre contre les attaques ennemies et de grimper au classement en accumulant richesse et pouvoir. Les joueurs participent également à des événements et accomplissent des défis pour gagner des récompenses.Pourquoi les Dés Sont-ils Importants dans Dice Dreams ?Quelle Est l'Importance des Dés dans le Jeu ?Les dés sont essentiels dans Dice Dreams car ils déterminent le nombre de mouvements qu'un joueur peut effectuer sur le plateau de jeu. Chaque lancer peut donner différents résultats, comme la collecte de ressources, le lancement d'attaques ou l'atterrissage sur des cases spéciales offrant des bonus.Quels Types de Dés Sont Disponibles ?Il existe différents types de dés dans Dice Dreams, chacun avec des caractéristiques et des avantages uniques. Certains dés offrent des récompenses plus élevées, tandis que d'autres offrent des avantages stratégiques. Comprendre les différents types peut aider les joueurs à prendre des décisions éclairées sur les dés à utiliser.Comment Utiliser Efficacement les Dés ?L'utilisation efficace des dés nécessite une planification stratégique. Les joueurs doivent envisager les meilleurs moments pour lancer les dés afin de maximiser les avantages, comme pendant des événements spéciaux ou lors de l'accomplissement de certaines quêtes. Le timing et la stratégie jouent un rôle crucial dans l'optimisation des lancers de dés.Comment Obtenir des Dés Gratuits dans Dice Dreams ?Quelles Sont les Récompenses et Bonus Quotidiens ?Les récompenses et bonus quotidiens sont l'un des moyens les plus simples d'obtenir des dés gratuits. En se connectant au jeu tous les jours, les joueurs peuvent collecter des récompenses qui incluent souvent des dés gratuits. Un jeu quotidien constant assure un approvisionnement régulier de ces précieuses ressources.Comment les Événements et Promotions Spéciaux Peuvent-ils Aider ?Les événements et promotions spéciaux offrent souvent des dés gratuits en guise de récompenses. Participer à ces événements peut augmenter considérablement le nombre de dés gratuits qu'un joueur reçoit. Il est important de surveiller le calendrier des événements du jeu et de participer activement.Comment Accomplir des Quêtes et Défis ?Les quêtes et défis du jeu récompensent souvent les joueurs avec des dés gratuits à leur achèvement. Ces tâches varient en difficulté et en exigences, mais offrent une façon structurée de gagner des dés tout en progressant dans le jeu.Regarder des Publicités Peut-il Vous Faire Gagner des Dés ?Oui, regarder des publicités est une méthode simple pour gagner des dés gratuits. Le jeu offre souvent aux joueurs la possibilité de regarder des vidéos publicitaires courtes en échange de dés. C'est un moyen rapide et facile de renforcer vos réserves de dés.Quel Est le Rôle des Programmes de Parrainage et des Invitations d'Amis ?Les programmes de parrainage et l'invitation d'amis à rejoindre le jeu peuvent également rapporter des dés gratuits. En partageant des codes de parrainage et en encourageant d'autres à jouer, le parrain et le nouveau joueur peuvent recevoir des dés bonus en guise de récompense.Quelles Sont les Meilleures Stratégies pour Maximiser les Dés Gratuits ?Comment Optimiser l'Utilisation des Récompenses Quotidiennes ?Pour tirer le meilleur parti des récompenses quotidiennes, les joueurs doivent s'assurer de se connecter tous les jours sans exception. Fixer des rappels et prioriser la collecte de ces récompenses peut aider à maintenir un flux constant de dés gratuits.Quel Est le Meilleur Moment pour Participer aux Événements ?Le timing est crucial lors de la participation aux événements. Participer tôt et rester actif tout au long de la durée de l'événement peut maximiser les dés gratuits gagnés. Les joueurs doivent également se concentrer sur les événements qui offrent des dés en récompense principale.Comment Accomplir Efficacement les Quêtes ?Accomplir efficacement les quêtes nécessite de se concentrer d'abord sur les tâches offrant les récompenses les plus élevées. Les joueurs doivent prioriser les quêtes fournissant des dés gratuits et planifier leur gameplay pour accomplir ces tâches rapidement.Comment le Réseau et le Partage Social Peuvent-ils Aider ?Le réseau et le partage social peuvent améliorer l'expérience de jeu. Rejoindre des communautés en ligne, des forums et des groupes de médias sociaux dédiés à Dice Dreams permet aux joueurs d'échanger des astuces et des stratégies, conduisant souvent à des opportunités supplémentaires de gagner des dés gratuits.Où Trouver des Ressources et Conseils Supplémentaires ?Quelles Sont les Communautés et Forums en Ligne Populaires ?Les communautés et forums en ligne comme Reddit et les forums de jeux spécialisés sont d'excellentes ressources pour trouver des astuces, des conseils et des mises à jour sur Dice Dreams. Interagir avec d'autres joueurs peut fournir des informations et des stratégies précieuses.Comment les Groupes et Pages de Médias Sociaux Peuvent-ils Être Utiles ?Les groupes et pages de médias sociaux sur des plateformes comme Facebook et Twitter sont des centres actifs pour les joueurs de Dice Dreams. Ces groupes partagent souvent des alertes d'événements, des codes de récompenses et des conseils de jeu, aidant les joueurs à rester informés et connectés.Les Tutoriels YouTube et Guides de Stratégie Sont-ils Utiles ?Les tutoriels YouTube et guides de stratégie offrent des explications visuelles et détaillées des mécaniques de jeu et des stratégies. Les chaînes de jeux populaires fournissent souvent des guides, des astuces pour gagner des dés gratuits et des stratégies avancées pour maximiser le jeu.Pourquoi Suivre les Mises à Jour et Annonces Officielles de Dice Dreams ?Suivre les mises à jour et annonces officielles de Dice Dreams garantit que les joueurs ne manquent aucune information importante, comme de nouveaux événements, mises à jour et offres promotionnelles. Rester à jour avec les canaux officiels aide à planifier et optimiser le gameplay.Quels Sont les Problèmes Courants et Leurs Solutions ?Comment Résoudre les Problèmes avec les Dés Gratuits ?Les problèmes courants avec les dés gratuits, comme ne pas recevoir de récompenses, peuvent souvent être résolus en redémarrant le jeu ou en vérifiant les mises à jour. Si les problèmes persistent, les joueurs peuvent consulter la section d'aide du jeu ou les forums communautaires pour des solutions.Comment Contacter le Support Client ?Si les joueurs rencontrent des problèmes qui ne peuvent pas être résolus par le dépannage, contacter le support client est l'étape suivante. L'équipe de support peut aider avec les problèmes techniques, les récompenses manquantes et d'autres questions liées au jeu.Quelles Sont les Questions Fréquemment Posées (FAQs) ?Les FAQs sur l'obtention et l'utilisation des dés gratuits incluent souvent comment maximiser les récompenses, résoudre les problèmes et comprendre les mécaniques du jeu. Consulter la section FAQ du jeu peut fournir des réponses rapides aux questions courantes.Existe-t-il des Alternatives Monétaires aux Dés Gratuits ?Quels Achats et Offres en Application Sont Disponibles ?Les achats en application offrent une variété de packs de dés et d'offres spéciales. Ces achats peuvent considérablement augmenter les réserves de dés d'un joueur, en particulier lors d'offres et de ventes à durée limitée.Comment Analyser le Coût par Rapport aux Avantages ?Avant de faire des achats, les joueurs doivent analyser le coût par rapport aux avantages des offres disponibles. Cela implique de comparer le prix des packs de dés avec les récompenses et avantages potentiels qu'ils offrent dans le jeu.Quels Sont Quelques Conseils pour Dépenser de Manière Responsable ?Dépenser de manière responsable implique de fixer un budget pour les achats en jeu et de s'y tenir. Les joueurs doivent éviter les achats impulsifs et prioriser les offres qui offrent la meilleure valeur pour leur argent.En comprenant et en appliquant ces stratégies, les joueurs peuvent améliorer leur expérience dans Dice Dreams, obtenir et utiliser efficacement des dés gratuits pour progresser et réussir dans le jeu |
2024.05.19 13:13 jusou_44 Est ce une bonne idée de payer ses achats via des services comme Klarna ou Alma ?
Bonjour,
J'ai remarqué que depuis certains temps des enseignes proposent de payer via Klarna ou Alma (si j'ai bien compris ce sont juste deux concurrents qui font la même chose, l'un étant suédois, l'autre francais). Par exemple sur ce pantalon Decath'
Au début je n'y prêtais pas attention parce que je voyais ca un peu comme un Cofidis et autres arnaques du genre, tu payes en plusieurs fois mais tu te manges des frais de malades en mode crédi conso.
Mais la je vois qu'il y'a 0 frais sur cet exemple précis. Je ne sais pas si c'est le cas de tous.
Du coup je me demande si ca peut devenir intéressant d'utiliser ce genre de services ? Ca va pas chercher bien loin, et c'est pas comme si je ne pouvais pas me payer ce pantalon à 45€ cash, mais dans un but disons "d'optimisation", est ce que ca ne pourrais pas avoir du sens de faire au moins certain de ses achats de cette façon ? Est ce qu'il y'a une arnaque / point de vigilance ? Le seul bémol que je vois éventuellement c'est peut être le coté "pousse à la consommation" ou "te donne l'impression d'avoir + de pouvoir d'achat que tu n'en as réellement"
Quelqu'un à déjà testé ?
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J'ai remarqué que depuis certains temps des enseignes proposent de payer via Klarna ou Alma (si j'ai bien compris ce sont juste deux concurrents qui font la même chose, l'un étant suédois, l'autre francais). Par exemple sur ce pantalon Decath'
Au début je n'y prêtais pas attention parce que je voyais ca un peu comme un Cofidis et autres arnaques du genre, tu payes en plusieurs fois mais tu te manges des frais de malades en mode crédi conso.
Mais la je vois qu'il y'a 0 frais sur cet exemple précis. Je ne sais pas si c'est le cas de tous.
Du coup je me demande si ca peut devenir intéressant d'utiliser ce genre de services ? Ca va pas chercher bien loin, et c'est pas comme si je ne pouvais pas me payer ce pantalon à 45€ cash, mais dans un but disons "d'optimisation", est ce que ca ne pourrais pas avoir du sens de faire au moins certain de ses achats de cette façon ? Est ce qu'il y'a une arnaque / point de vigilance ? Le seul bémol que je vois éventuellement c'est peut être le coté "pousse à la consommation" ou "te donne l'impression d'avoir + de pouvoir d'achat que tu n'en as réellement"
Quelqu'un à déjà testé ?
2024.05.19 12:48 notkasa a bon entendeur😂😂😂🤪🤪🤪
 | alors vous en mettez un ou vous en faites moi dans la jeunesse j allais a l école en courant avec mes freres on faisait la course sur pres de 9 kilometres qu il pleuve qu il vente qu il neige et oui nous n avions pas le bus ou la voiture des parents ahh c etait la bonne époque vraiment dommage que mes genoux ne le permettent plus sinon je serais alle courir ca fait du bien au corps et a l esprit😂😂👍👍👍 submitted by notkasa to Dinosaure [link] [comments] bises bon dimanche raymond |
2024.05.19 12:38 Lucky_Lunch1202 Annoying mother.
Idk if this belongs here. If there's a more suitable page, please let me know.
Basically, nothing I ever do is enough. I babysit my sister 3 days a week, from 8am to 8pm. She in herself is another whole issue, but that's due to my mother's coddling, no doubt. During this time, I need to get my sister ready for school, drop her off, pick her up, do a variety of chores (dishwasher is all that she says, but she complains if the floors arent clean and the washing is piled up, so basically i try to do every possibke chore), make dinner for everyone, and feed our outdoor pet.
I don't mind this. My mum works hard. But when she comes home she complains about EVERYTHING. If my sister made a mess of something and I hadn't noticed it, if my sister touched the walls with greasy hands, if my shoes were in front of the door after I went out to feed the pet that her and my little sister got before i even knew. Like nothing is good enough. She's constantly bitching about my sisters, which makes me anxious to do the same. When I'm around her I don't dare grab a coke, snack, or make pasta, because she's constantly dogging on them for this.
One of the worst parts is how she claims she's blunt but everything feels passive aggressive. She will address it to my little sister like "Oh what have I told you about doing this, where's your this, hope you haven't been on that TV all day, what did you eat, oh baby let me go get you another drink." Her tone just screams that she's talking to me. Like, I'm sorry your kid is a literal demon. Idk what happened after I left for university, but my sister was lovely and silly, and she adored me, used to want to be me, and now she's horrifying. "If you don't do this, I'll tell Mum lies about you. If you don't, then you'll ruin my childhood, I love mum and my other sisters more than you."
Besides, nothing is good enough for my mother, I'm perfect. On social media, I'm the best daughter, I'm so smart, and she's so proud, and I'm so beautiful. She wonders why I have no self-worth? Because I've never heard those things to my face. I hear her tell me I have a good figure, but never without hearing, "You don't want to be like your sister. She's too skinny." Oh, I have a nice face? Only because my sister is so punchable.
She reminds me every day that she's a great mother. I'll say well you can be a bit this or that, and she has an excuse for everything." Why you do it doesn't matter. If it hurts, it hurts. What's the point in parenting if the child doesn't find it effective.
I recently told her I think I might have something not quite right with me. A lot of people (mostly AuDHD) say they think I'm autistic or have adhd, and I've thought that for a long time. I have a lot of issues, I wouldn't be surprised if it's just a mixture of many of them that just seems like autism or adhd. Basically, my mother said it's a trend right now and an excuse to be lazy. It was really giving "were all depressed, just stop being a lazy victim" vibes. She also told me I was too normal as a child and refutes all the instances of me being strange. Like when I had a no talking phase, when I told all my friends I didn't like them because they were too hard to talk to, when I cried to my mum basically explaining alexithymia to her because I didn't feel the emotions I expressed, all my various sensory issues I still have to this day that she said we're typical kid behaviour. It's all only gotten worse from there. I feel completely not normal, like I can't explain it. I also have a lot of issues with sounding monotone. Sometimes, I feel like I'm "dropping the act." From a young age, I've always been told off about my tone. If I'm angry, I better not sound it, if I'm sad, if I'm pissed off. I'm always lectured about my tone, but she sounds like she's making passive-aggressive jabs at me all the time, and that's fine.
There's so much more, like so much more. A lot of things she would say never happened. Like how she let my abusive bf take drugs to a holiday and kind of peer pressuring me to do them (I got SAd while I was sleeping that night by him). She said the whole time she didn't like him but didn't tell me in case I got upset. Or that time when I was getting pressured by my bf at 13, and she thought something was going on and just told me if I'm going to do anything I should just ask her for condoms instead of being an idiot. Reading this back, holy shit. One time she was crying and I went to give her a hug and she shooed me away and told me to leave her alone, and then seconds later my sisters aunt did the same thing and she broke down to her even more and hugging her. I was her emotional support child, btw, so obviously, this crushed me as that felt like my only value to her.
But yeah, there's so much idk how to even get into it all. So it probably doesn't seem so bad because this is probably typical parent behaviour. Also, yes, she is a single mother, and I'm grateful, but she has never said sorry to me. Never. It's always sorry you feel that way, but you're dramatic, victimising yourself, lazy, you'll thank me later. Like, no, I won't. Later you'll be estranged. She also has it in my head that no man is good. She keeps warning me of my bf, who yes is a pos sometimes, but better than a druggy rpist? I'd fricking say so, yeah. I tried to OD after breaking up with him. She doesn't even know because if I told her, she'd say I'm stupid and selfish. She also gets annoyed when I unblock my bf (as I broke up with him) to work things out. We're in a hard place, and I'm having complex emotions, and she just wants me to block him and spend time with family and study well. Like, let me grieve, jeez. She also tells me him mother is a psycho jealous bitch and his dad is a pdo. Like excuse me? You met them once, and know nothing about them.
I'm just writing this because I woke up to her complaining about a single cup and some pans that were left out last night (since the dishwasher was on) and saying how it's unfair as she wakes up early and has to deal with it. Why didn't you deal with it by cleaning it if it bothered you? Instead you wait till people are awake to criticise it and make them feel bad. Like we always do the dishwasher, that's one of my babysitting chores. Just ask me to do it nicely when I wake up, why all the backhanded comments and sparky remarks? Just communicate, you're 45, get a grip. She feigns perfection constantly and paints us as a perfect family when one child has cptsd, one has anxiety, I got a shit tonne of issues, and my little sister is an absolute entitled brat who will cry and scream and threaten if not given her way. Literally my sister said she would tell lies about me because I told her to wipe her own ass because I had chores to do (she's 8) and she said my mother would do it and that's why she doesn't love me. I want out of this house, but my mum will fault me for not babysitting as it costs money, and I do it for free.
Ask any questions you'd like. I understand there's not much to go off of, I'm happy to elaborate as I really need to vent I can't lie.
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Basically, nothing I ever do is enough. I babysit my sister 3 days a week, from 8am to 8pm. She in herself is another whole issue, but that's due to my mother's coddling, no doubt. During this time, I need to get my sister ready for school, drop her off, pick her up, do a variety of chores (dishwasher is all that she says, but she complains if the floors arent clean and the washing is piled up, so basically i try to do every possibke chore), make dinner for everyone, and feed our outdoor pet.
I don't mind this. My mum works hard. But when she comes home she complains about EVERYTHING. If my sister made a mess of something and I hadn't noticed it, if my sister touched the walls with greasy hands, if my shoes were in front of the door after I went out to feed the pet that her and my little sister got before i even knew. Like nothing is good enough. She's constantly bitching about my sisters, which makes me anxious to do the same. When I'm around her I don't dare grab a coke, snack, or make pasta, because she's constantly dogging on them for this.
One of the worst parts is how she claims she's blunt but everything feels passive aggressive. She will address it to my little sister like "Oh what have I told you about doing this, where's your this, hope you haven't been on that TV all day, what did you eat, oh baby let me go get you another drink." Her tone just screams that she's talking to me. Like, I'm sorry your kid is a literal demon. Idk what happened after I left for university, but my sister was lovely and silly, and she adored me, used to want to be me, and now she's horrifying. "If you don't do this, I'll tell Mum lies about you. If you don't, then you'll ruin my childhood, I love mum and my other sisters more than you."
Besides, nothing is good enough for my mother, I'm perfect. On social media, I'm the best daughter, I'm so smart, and she's so proud, and I'm so beautiful. She wonders why I have no self-worth? Because I've never heard those things to my face. I hear her tell me I have a good figure, but never without hearing, "You don't want to be like your sister. She's too skinny." Oh, I have a nice face? Only because my sister is so punchable.
She reminds me every day that she's a great mother. I'll say well you can be a bit this or that, and she has an excuse for everything." Why you do it doesn't matter. If it hurts, it hurts. What's the point in parenting if the child doesn't find it effective.
I recently told her I think I might have something not quite right with me. A lot of people (mostly AuDHD) say they think I'm autistic or have adhd, and I've thought that for a long time. I have a lot of issues, I wouldn't be surprised if it's just a mixture of many of them that just seems like autism or adhd. Basically, my mother said it's a trend right now and an excuse to be lazy. It was really giving "were all depressed, just stop being a lazy victim" vibes. She also told me I was too normal as a child and refutes all the instances of me being strange. Like when I had a no talking phase, when I told all my friends I didn't like them because they were too hard to talk to, when I cried to my mum basically explaining alexithymia to her because I didn't feel the emotions I expressed, all my various sensory issues I still have to this day that she said we're typical kid behaviour. It's all only gotten worse from there. I feel completely not normal, like I can't explain it. I also have a lot of issues with sounding monotone. Sometimes, I feel like I'm "dropping the act." From a young age, I've always been told off about my tone. If I'm angry, I better not sound it, if I'm sad, if I'm pissed off. I'm always lectured about my tone, but she sounds like she's making passive-aggressive jabs at me all the time, and that's fine.
There's so much more, like so much more. A lot of things she would say never happened. Like how she let my abusive bf take drugs to a holiday and kind of peer pressuring me to do them (I got SAd while I was sleeping that night by him). She said the whole time she didn't like him but didn't tell me in case I got upset. Or that time when I was getting pressured by my bf at 13, and she thought something was going on and just told me if I'm going to do anything I should just ask her for condoms instead of being an idiot. Reading this back, holy shit. One time she was crying and I went to give her a hug and she shooed me away and told me to leave her alone, and then seconds later my sisters aunt did the same thing and she broke down to her even more and hugging her. I was her emotional support child, btw, so obviously, this crushed me as that felt like my only value to her.
But yeah, there's so much idk how to even get into it all. So it probably doesn't seem so bad because this is probably typical parent behaviour. Also, yes, she is a single mother, and I'm grateful, but she has never said sorry to me. Never. It's always sorry you feel that way, but you're dramatic, victimising yourself, lazy, you'll thank me later. Like, no, I won't. Later you'll be estranged. She also has it in my head that no man is good. She keeps warning me of my bf, who yes is a pos sometimes, but better than a druggy rpist? I'd fricking say so, yeah. I tried to OD after breaking up with him. She doesn't even know because if I told her, she'd say I'm stupid and selfish. She also gets annoyed when I unblock my bf (as I broke up with him) to work things out. We're in a hard place, and I'm having complex emotions, and she just wants me to block him and spend time with family and study well. Like, let me grieve, jeez. She also tells me him mother is a psycho jealous bitch and his dad is a pdo. Like excuse me? You met them once, and know nothing about them.
I'm just writing this because I woke up to her complaining about a single cup and some pans that were left out last night (since the dishwasher was on) and saying how it's unfair as she wakes up early and has to deal with it. Why didn't you deal with it by cleaning it if it bothered you? Instead you wait till people are awake to criticise it and make them feel bad. Like we always do the dishwasher, that's one of my babysitting chores. Just ask me to do it nicely when I wake up, why all the backhanded comments and sparky remarks? Just communicate, you're 45, get a grip. She feigns perfection constantly and paints us as a perfect family when one child has cptsd, one has anxiety, I got a shit tonne of issues, and my little sister is an absolute entitled brat who will cry and scream and threaten if not given her way. Literally my sister said she would tell lies about me because I told her to wipe her own ass because I had chores to do (she's 8) and she said my mother would do it and that's why she doesn't love me. I want out of this house, but my mum will fault me for not babysitting as it costs money, and I do it for free.
Ask any questions you'd like. I understand there's not much to go off of, I'm happy to elaborate as I really need to vent I can't lie.