Inmate online dating

If it’s online is it gonna be on D2L? What date? I can’t find any info about it and the syllabus says it’s like this week
Thanks!

TLdr; I just lost my dearest baby of 4 and a half years old, Kiwi 🦜 😭😪 I don't usually post online but the need to mourn this beautiful soul and especially to warn lovebird owners about the hiden dangers to avoid at all times urged me to do so today.
Cause of death (I assume) was likely due to toxicity from either cleaners or something he ate. I truly wish someone had taught the below advice, whether it's the breeder or the vet but they don't have time or care enough sadly. He was perfectly healthy and showed no apparent signs of sickness until Saturday May 18th when he suddenly became lethargic, stopped moving and became sleepy, so we rushed him immediately to the emergency vet where he was placed in an oxygen tank (plastic cage) and passed away shortly after, breaking our hearts until this day.
At first, my wife thought she had accidentally broken his wing as he was playing with two other lovies around her as she did some Yoga exercises... but my belief is that it likely due to ingesting something toxic or Teflon poisoning.
An Important Word of Caution to Everyone here and other forums:

1. Throw away all your Teflon-coated pans or do not use them or cook at all with your birds on your shoulders as we used to do with ours. I'm not sure that's what killed my baby but It's the number one cause along with a bad seed/millet diet.
   
2. Also, you should be extremely careful when cleaning, mopping the house to lock them in a seperate room that is well ventilated during this time as their respiratory system is extremely sensitive to any scent, spray, perfume, Lysol etc. Instead use vinegar to clean your floors/surfaces vs chlorine or other chemicals.
   
3. Their diet should consist of mainly fruits, pellets (ie: Lafeber or Hagen Tropican brand granules) and a tiny portion of millet and seeds (10-20%). I have a few hand raised peach faced lovies who eat apples (no seeds), dates, figs, berries, grapes and a bit of 🍉 watermelon.
   
4. Be careful around 🚪 doors as they love to stay on top of the edges and many fatal accidents have been known to happen so please keep an eye as you open and close your doors if your birds are free roaming around the house all day like ours.
   
5. Also ALWAYS check your clothing, coats, hoodies, shoulders and hats/head before walking outside as we've also lost another magnificent birdie 🤕 in the winter due to high winds as she hid in my son's hoodie and got disoriented sadly last year.
   
6. Check for any metallic toys, bells, in and outside their cages and remove them for most metals are toxic to them unless it's stainless steel.
   
7. Do not allow them into cupboards, mine used to go in and still try, with all kinds of canned food and they'd try to chew on any paper or cardboard packaging in there... I'd shooo them away and installed hooked locks on sll my cupboards cause these guys are extremely smart and sneaky.
   

These wonderful cuddly birds are so loving and caring to us that we often they aren't humans and we get attached to them and vice versa without paying attention to the above at all times.
It is imperative that we all share this crucial information around to avoid losing these big hearted cuddly birds and end up in a depressive state for a while.
I used to do a ton of reading online and knew all of these dangers, and same with all of my family however, not everyone exercised as much caution as I would and sadly we lost our first and most loving dearest friend...

South America ALGS Y4 Split 2 Challenger Circuit #1 (Day 1)

• Date & Time:
  • June 1st, Noon BRT (Rio de Janeiro), 9AM CST (Austin), 3PM GMT (London)
• Type: Online Tournament
• Region: South America
• Format: Bo4 for any rounds before Quarterfinals; Bo6 for Quarters on.
• (Possible) Broadcasts:
  • LigaAceEsports (Spanish): https://www.twitch.tv/ligaaceesports
  • MaestroJefe watchparty (Spanish): https://www.twitch.tv/maestrojefe
  • pOkiz (Portuguese): https://www.twitch.tv/pokizgames
• Standings / Brackets / Info
  • Liquipedia
  • Battlefy
• Teams
  • Battlefy list of teams

Scores: Battlefy Results
First place team in CC Finals auto-qualifies for SA Regional Finals. Other teams receive stacking points for CC, with the top teams by total points after all events also qualifying for Regional Finals.

I got a parking charge notice for staying 15mins too long at a Costa car park. Annoyingly the letter was missed by me until today (1st June). Letter is dated 18 May, and has a discount applicable if 'payment is received within 14 days of the date of this parking charge'
Is today the 14th day or the 15th day? When I try to pay it online the full amount is due, and no way to ring anyone to see if I am eligible for the discount. I assumed today was the 14th day
Anything I can do, or do I just pay the full amount?

So I have a friend who moved to New Zealand a couple of months ago. She had a crush on a boy and she introduced me and my bff to her crush and as soon as I met him I knew he was a bad person. My bff warned my friend that her crush was a bad person and my friend didn't care about that.. so i started to text her crush to prove her that he was a bad person. I'm not proud of myself for doing that but it was for her.. and the more I started to text him the more I started to fall for him. I know that I'm the asshole for this but I'm really trying to get rid of those feelings.. and eventually they started to date. And my bff hated him alot cause he called her short, but it's a dumb reason to hate on somebody for this... And my parents found out that I was texting a boy so they deleted all my online games. This is really a lame reason to cry but I didn't have alot of friends back then and I used those games as an escape from reality. And I started to text him more and ranted about my life. And my bff didn't know these things cause I knew these things would ruin our friendship and I also acted appropriately with my friend's bf. A few weeks ago they broke up and he was kinda depressed and I was there for him. But he was obsessed with my friend so I get why she broke up with him and ghosted him. And he was also like I'm going to die- which I was really concerned about and when I told my bff she was like let him die. He deserves to die. And also recommend me to break his trust. Which I was really mad about. And I didn't really text her after.. and my friend's ex was acting really inappropriate to me , which was really uncomfortable and it's important to know that we are minors but i don't know I think he did it for fun, After he acted really inappropriate I decided to block him and I regretted that immediately and started to cry for hours.. cause his mental health was hanging and I was the only person there for him. so I unblocked him and seems like he cried for hours too.. and my friend added him back on snapchat. So he told her that he liked me.. and he confessed to me later that day and I rejected him saying that he was like my brother. I guess i lied but I wouldn't date him since he was my friend's ex and she still liked him. I'm pretty sure he felt embarrassed after that rejection and I screwed up by showing all of his and my messages to my friend. And my idiotic friend decided to tell him that she saw all of his and my chats using my account which I didn't know anything about? And when he asked me I had to say yes, but she was using his account since she still had his password. It doesn't matter but I still betrayed his trust, and I feel really bad about that but it was the only thing that felt right at that moment. And he also started to like a new girl, like replaced me in 2 days.. even now he kinda ignores my texts and all that but I guess I deserve it. And my bff is forcing me to leave him saying that he is manipulative and many other people also agree but I feel like I'm manipulating myself.. please give me suggestions on what to do next, I'm really confused. ( my English is really bad here since I'm not really fluent ) please don't mind that. Feel free to hate me but I just need suggestions on what to do next.

Reposting This from AITA sub. Hi Mark I see your videos on YT, maybe one of these days I'll see my own story in your video.😆 This is going to be a long one so bear with me please. I am also giving a lot of backstory and past issues bcz I feel they are relevant to the matter and also I feel like ranting. Also this is in India so the currency is Rupees. Before we start I just want to say that I am not perfect in any way or form and I have done any fair share of mistakes.
I(20F) have been in a relationship with my bf Jake(22M)(fake name) for roughly 5.5 yrs now. My family is not rich but we do have a lot of money bcz both my parents are doctors but I did not realise we have this much money until 2yrs ago. (Am not very street smart as U will see in this post). Since after abt 1.5 years of relationship (May 2020)when lockdown started his family fell on hardtimes as his family owns a shop and bcz of the Pandemic they weren't able to run it.
At first it was bcz one of his friend got into an accident so he needs money and he told me he will give it back etc (i don't remember if he ever did as it was yrs ago). At the time I had money saved up so I helped out the first few times with my own money. Then when I ran out of money then he said to ask my dad or mom, or steal from my house and give him some. A lil back story here, my mom and dad are separated so they did not used to talk about finances so I would take extra money from my dad than what was actually required and give the rest to jake. For e.g I required 3k for a parcel or smrg then I would ask for 5k, give my mother the 3k(I live with her, my father lives separately) and give the 2k to jake. I also gave him cash many times by essentially stealing from my mother's closet. When I used to say NO he hurled abuses at me and called me every name in the book which a person can imagine, guilt tripped me and pushed me very hard and I gave in almost every time. He told me he will give me back eventually, he has made an investment,etc. Basically all stupid lies to have more time, then one day during an arguement I pressed on when he is gonna return the money and after a lot of time he told me there is no investment and he used the money in his family's shop.
After 2.5 year of this in October-Nov of 2022 we both got admissions in universities which were around 2 hours away from each other. Till then this pattern continued and his family was still struggling bcz of his father's brother divided the joint business or something else.
Before this when we were at out respective homes he told me he got some operation done for smtg in his abdomen. I gave him 10k from my mother's closet for that and even when I went to meet he had an area bandaged (was very unprofessionally done my dumb self should have understood that it was also fake) one of his friend also confirmed that he had operation done and I was coordinating with him on the said dates when he was supposedly admitted. He also used to frequently tell me that he has suicidal thoughts and he will end himself etc .
After we went to our respective colleges once we had a big fight and next day he told me that he tried to end himself by jumping of the balcony but his friend (who he was staying with at the time),Luke, stopped him worrying for him I called Luke later and told him I was worried for Jake and to pls take care of him. He was confused by this and asked me why what happened. I asked him abt last night's attempt, he told me nothing of that sort happened. This opened a can of worms where it was revealed that he was making a fool out of me, guy owned a fucking Iphone and was telling me that his family was on hard times and taking money from me. This is also when I found out that their was no operation. I don't remember what else I found out that night but felt like a huge betrayal and I talked to 3 of his friends that night for quite a few hours where a lot of lies were revealed.
I broke it off with him, at this point I had lent a total of Rs.75-80k. He begged me for weeks for forgiveness, at first I laughed in his face but as weeks went by I started to miss us. He came to meet and win me back a few times at my uni. Eventually, a month later I forgave him on some conditions like he wont lie and share everything with me, won't tell me who or who not to be friends with (he did that before a lot).
Few months later the cycle started again, I was back to giving him money from the monthly spending amount I used to get(it was a lot at first bcz I was just settling in,now my monthy allowance is wayyy less). He did not like the friend group I was in so I stopped talking to them (bcz they knew abt our situation as I broke down crying in front of them when I found out abt all this so he felt like he lost respect and They didn't respect me etc, admittedly they weren't good and I would have distanced myself eventually anyways maybe cuz the vibe didn't match but that should have been my call I feel) and he still (>1 year later) yells at me if he suspects that I am casually talking to them.
My college is in a much smaller city so I go to meet him once to twice a month as he shares a flat with few ppl and the city has more activities to do. Other than the first few times (when we got back together) I pay almost if not all bills like gas (for his 2 wheeler) and food. It's very frustrating at times but I understand that he does not has enough money as his father does not send him enough to cover rent, food and expenses or so he says ( sighs IDK anymore guys what's true and what's not). Jake says his family is still struggling bcz his sister went to UK last year to study and that took a huge chunk of money and they have loans to pay, etc. I can believe this is true. Also he says they have virtually almost no savings left bcz business isn't doing great hence his father sends him rent t food expenses andsays to manage The rest on his own (he does not has a job so guess where the money comes from 🤡). In the Past few months admittedly he has not asked for money frequently but when he does its like a huge chunk. He has also taken loans (with interest) from some of his friends without telling me. He has done this multiple times before after I have repeatedly asked him to stop. (Embarrassingly I admit there are more instances when he has acted like a red curtain but I think I can write a book at this point if I list them all out so let's move on to the latest problem).
Onto The current issue Almost 3 days ago now, Jake called me (we already have been fighting for I don't even remember how many days at that point a week maybe?) and we told me that he was told by his dad that they have been unable to make payments for the loan they took from a person keeping their shop as collateral, they have to pay half the amount (Total amount was 5 lakhs) and interest which was 64k tomorrow to that person, they have arranged most of the money but are short by abt 30k. He asked me can I do something (steal or ask my dad). I refused as there is no money in my mother's closet anyway and I haven't talked to my dad in abt 3 months now. (ofcourse I did not outright refuse and just gave him my reas oning buz I'm a doormat 🥰🤡🤡).
He pressed me to pls talk to my father about money and tell him I need it for my tablet (I bought one just a few days prior). I refused and said he won't give me money anyway. He asked what about my mother's bank account, it must have something. One account is linked to UPI ( It's for making online payments in India) and one is not. The one that is linked does not have much money bCz my mother's salary has not been credited in 4 months. The other account has money but as it does not has UPI activated online payments cannot be done.I told him all of this. He asked can I activate the UPI if my mother's asleep and plz transfer him the money (also said to transfer it first to my own account so if she finds out then I can say my friend needed it so I have lent some for a month or two🙂 ) I mean maybe I could if I really wanted to but I have had enough, I do not want to steal. Now his family is potentially loosing the shop and he is blaming me for it. I have repeatedly tried to reason with him and told him that if I had the money in my account I would have given him (My account had 1k and I transferred him that😔). He says his blood relatives (his father's siblings refused to pay even a dime, I mean they and their children all are grown ups and have jobs and if They didn't pay how does he expect me, who does not has never had a job give him money, probably it's my fault I have enabled him enough every down time by giving him money so how he just expects everytime that I'll help bcz I am family).
He is still pressing me to give like 5k now bcz now he wants to go to another city and talk to the lender's brother to pls provide them with some Time. But I do not have the money 😕. He says that 'if I would have really wanted then I could but I did not think of his family as mine ', " U will understand my pain when U will loose something of yours for lesser value Than it really is " (The shop's market valve is 4O lakhs and they lost it for 5 lakhs) Also has called me quite a few names since then. He arranged 1K and said " I'm going today there I'll see what to do after reaching there." Says he wants to breakup ( it's pretty normal to say it's over after fights so I don't really know if he is even serious) for 2 reasons - 1. I did not give him money 2. When he will go to uni he won't have any spending money so he'll expect are to help out, and he knows I won't and he does not want that disappointment.
I mean TBH I wouldn't care if it were a few hundred rupees but it won't be, additionally I will be The one covering The costs as usual when I go to meet him. I won't have any money left for my own. And I really want to start saving up again. I have spent outrageous amounts of money in The past year (go figure the reason) and saved up nothing. Today he was still begging (he used the word) me to pls arrange the money. He said I leave for uni in 2 days after summer vacations so I'll get my allowance, technically I can ask for it in advance and give him. But I don't want to after he has treated me. Everytime I tell myself that this is the last time, I'll leave the next time he does this but I just stay.
I know I'm not responsible for him and his family but I still feel really guilty about not giving him the money. I know I should end things but it's just difficult to leave something which you have been attached to for so long, it just feels natural to you. Rn he owes me I don't even know how much but it's maybe around 1 lakh something. Not counting The amount of gifts (some he guilt tripped me into buying 🙄 ) I have bought him and the money I have spent on my trips to visit him. IDK if I'll ever see that money again probably not. Please also give me advice on how should I proceed with the breakup, I don't want him to do anything drastic like come to my house or call my mom to tell him abt our relationship (frowned upon in India).
I know the answer but still need the answer should I give him some money from my allowance and WIBTA if I don't ? (Sorry for any errors in writing, I'm writing on tablet with a stylus)

i tend to do evasive maneuvers when pictures are about to be taken of me. i hate how I look in them so there'll never be a selfie.
i also don't take pictures or record videos of things usually. when I see an animal like a fox, for example, I might record if I can, or a funny license plate or anything cool in nature or humorous.
mostly though social media picture-taking of food and other basic stuff bores me. so i'd rather be in the moment and spectate.
this also goes into how I won't be able to do online dating. i'd also find it cringe trying to take pictures of myself for the sake of being appealing for dating.
it appears having photos of you is important for a social and romantic life. lacking them seems to hinder them from developing. trying to find people to date in person isn't optional either.

I want to thank the devs if they are here for the great OS.
I was looking for a stable distro with good Nvidia support, to produce music and graphic design with as little interruption as possible.
All other distros had at least one weird quirk or bug or performance issue that was ruining the experience or making it unusable for daily driver. Some distros introduced bugs only in specific softwares.
Zoris was the only one to work flawlessly out of the box,with Nvidia drivers and good support to all the software I need. Not to mention while still looking beautiful and not using too many resources.
For example Ubuntu studio which is supposed to be "geared towards artists", broke down on me after a clean install, going into a blank black screen on boot up. Fedora had issues with UI glitching and disappearing after installing Nvidia drivers with no apparent solution online. Debian didn't recognize my USB wifi adapter. I've also tried Linux Mint both the XFCE and MATE editions and experienced slowdowns in both, and overall not so smooth behavior performance wise. I really love mint but I won't waste time figuring out the issues because I believe they're on Mint's side because I don't experience any performce issues in Zorin or MX Linux.
MX Linux was a close second due to great performance and good stability but I don't like their package manager and overall software installation feels clunky and dated.
My system: Intel I3 6100 Nvidia 730gt 8gb ram ddr4

My girlfriend has been staying with me for 2 weeks now, we met online in January and up to a fortnight ago hadn’t met each other, well this morning she decided to call her family and tell them that she is happy because typically she calls them when she’s unhappy, which I was very moved by
She’s 12 years my junior so this love is very new for her and she’s enjoying the experience, for me she is my fourth love and one I’d never expected to ever happen - I can say with ease I have learned more about love in the last two weeks than I have in all the years I’ve been aware of the concept
We’re both equally very attractive people, I have had strangers complimenting me on my lady and she seems to be constantly complimented by other women either with how stylish her outfit is, accessories, hair…
My approach to dating changed in October and I began looking at all women regardless of assigned gender and in that time I have dated women, femboy, and transwomen… and my next partner could have been any one of the three, but I’ve found someone perfect for me who’s making me want to plan for the future again

This is going to be a long one so bear with me please. I am also giving a lot of backstory and past issues bcz I feel they are relevant to the matter and also I feel like ranting. Also this is in India so the currency is Rupees. Before we start I just want to say that I am not perfect in any way or form and I have done any fair share of mistakes.
I(20F) have been in a relationship with my bf Jake(22M)(fake name) for roughly 5.5 yrs now. My family is not rich but we do have a lot of money bcz both my parents are doctors but I did not realise we have this much money until 2yrs ago. (Am not very street smart as U will see in this post). Since after abt 1.5 years of relationship (May 2020)when lockdown started his family fell on hardtimes as his family owns a shop and bcz of the Pandemic they weren't able to run it.
At first it was bcz one of his friend got into an accident so he needs money and he told me he will give it back etc (i don't remember if he ever did as it was yrs ago). At the time I had money saved up so I helped out the first few times with my own money. Then when I ran out of money then he said to ask my dad or mom, or steal from my house and give him some. A lil back story here, my mom and dad are separated so they did not used to talk about finances so I would take extra money from my dad than what was actually required and give the rest to jake. For e.g I required 3k for a parcel or smrg then I would ask for 5k, give my mother the 3k(I live with her, my father lives separately) and give the 2k to jake. I also gave him cash many times by essentially stealing from my mother's closet. When I used to say NO he hurled abuses at me and called me every name in the book which a person can imagine, guilt tripped me and pushed me very hard and I gave in almost every time. He told me he will give me back eventually, he has made an investment,etc. Basically all stupid lies to have more time, then one day during an arguement I pressed on when he is gonna return the money and after a lot of time he told me there is no investment and he used the money in his family's shop.
After 2.5 year of this in October-Nov of 2022 we both got admissions in universities which were around 2 hours away from each other. Till then this pattern continued and his family was still struggling bcz of his father's brother divided the joint business or something else. Before this when we were at out respective homes he told me he got some operation done for smtg in his abdomen. I gave him 10k from my mother's closet for that and even when I went to meet he had an area bandaged (was very unprofessionally done my dumb self should have understood that it was also fake) one of his friend also confirmed that he had operation done and I was coordinating with him on the said dates when he was supposedly admitted. He also used to frequently tell me that he has suicidal thoughts and he will end himself etc .
After we went to our respective colleges once we had a big fight and next day he told me that he tried to end himself by jumping of the balcony but his friend (who he was staying with at the time),Luke, stopped him worrying for him I called Luke later and told him I was worried for Jake and to pls take care of him. He was confused by this and asked me why what happened. I asked him abt last night's attempt, he told me nothing of that sort happened. This opened a can of worms where it was revealed that he was making a fool out of me, guy owned a fucking Iphone and was telling me that his family was on hard times and taking money from me. This is also when I found out that their was no operation. I don't remember what else I found out that night but felt like a huge betrayal and I talked to 3 of his friends that night for quite a few hours where a lot of lies were revealed.
I broke it off with him, at this point I had lent a total of Rs.75-80k. He begged me for weeks for forgiveness, at first I laughed in his face but as weeks went by I started to miss us. He came to meet and win me back a few times at my uni. Eventually, a month later I forgave him on some conditions like he wont lie and share everything with me, won't tell me who or who not to be friends with (he did that before a lot).
Few months later the cycle started again, I was back to giving him money from the monthly spending amount I used to get(it was a lot at first bcz I was just settling in,now my monthy allowance is wayyy less). He did not like the friend group I was in so I stopped talking to them (bcz they knew abt our situation as I broke down crying in front of them when I found out abt all this so he felt like he lost respect and They didn't respect me etc, admittedly they weren't good and I would have distanced myself eventually anyways maybe cuz the vibe didn't match but that should have been my call I feel) and he still (>1 year later) yells at me if he suspects that I am casually talking to them.
My college is in a much smaller city so I go to meet him once to twice a month as he shares a flat with few ppl and the city has more activities to do. Other than the first few times (when we got back together) I pay almost if not all bills like gas (for his 2 wheeler) and food. It's very frustrating at times but I understand that he does not has enough money as his father does not send him enough to cover rent, food and expenses or so he says ( sighs IDK anymore guys what's true and what's not). Jake says his family is still struggling bcz his sister went to UK last year to study and that took a huge chunk of money and they have loans to pay, etc. I can believe this is true. Also he says they have virtually almost no savings left bcz business isn't doing great hence his father sends him rent t food expenses and says to manage The rest on his own (he does not has a job so guess where the money comes from 🤡).
In the Past few months admittedly he has not asked for money frequently but when he does its like a huge chunk. He has also taken loans (with interest) from some of his friends without telling me. He has done this multiple times before after I have repeatedly asked him to stop. (Embarrassingly I admit there are more instances when he has acted like a red curtain but I think I can write a book at this point if I list them all out so let's move on to the latest problem).
Onto The current issue Almost 3 days ago now, Jake called me (we already have been fighting for I don't even remember how many days at that point a week maybe?) and we told me that he was told by his dad that they have been unable to make payments for the loan they took from a person keeping their shop as collateral, they have to pay half the amount (Total amount was 5 lakhs) and interest which was 64k tomorrow to that person, they have arranged most of the money but are short by abt 30k. He asked me can I do something (steal or ask my dad). I refused as there is no money in my mother's closet anyway and I haven't talked to my dad in abt 3 months now. (ofcourse I did not outright refuse and just gave him my reas oning buz I'm a doormat 🥰🤡🤡). I pressed me to pls talk to my father about money and tell him I need it for my tablet (I bought one just a few days prior). I refused and said he won't give me money anyway.
He asked what about my mother's bank account, it must have something. One account is linked to UPI ( It's for making online payments in India) and one is not. The one that is linked does not have much money bCz my mother's salary has not been credited in 4 months. The other account has money but as it does not has UPI activated online payments cannot be done.I told him all of this. He asked can I activate the UPI if my mother's asleep and plz transfer him the money (also said to transfer it first to my own account so if she finds out then I can say my friend needed it so I have lent some for a month or two🙂 ) I mean maybe I could if I really wanted to but I have had enough, I do not want to steal. Now his family is potentially loosing the shop and he is blaming me for it. I have repeatedly tried to reason with him and told him that if I had the money in my account I would have given him (My account had 1k and I transferred him that😔). He says his blood relatives (his father's siblings refused to pay even a dime, I mean they and their children all are grown ups and have jobs and if They didn't pay how does he expect me, who does not has never had a job give him money, probably it's my fault I have enabled him enough every down time by giving him money so how he just expects everytime that I'll help bcz I am family).
He is still pressing me to give like 5k now bcz now he wants to go to another city and talk to the lender's brother to pls provide them with some Time. But I do not have the money 😕. He says that 'if I would have really wanted then I could but I did not think of his family as mine ', " U will understand my pain when U will loose something of yours for lesser value Than it really is " (The shop's market valve is 4O lakhs and they lost it for 5 lakhs) Also has called me quite a few names since then. He arranged 1K and said " I'm going today there I'll see what to do after reaching there." Says he wants to breakup ( it's pretty normal to say it's over after fights so I don't really know if he is even serious) for 2 reasons - 1. I did not give him money 2. When he will go to uni he won't have any spending money so he'll expect are to help out, and he knows I won't and he does not want that disappointment.
I mean TBH I wouldn't care if it were a few hundred rupees but it won't be, additionally I will be The one covering The costs as usual when I go to meet him. I won't have any money left for my own. And I really want to start saving up again. I have spent outrageous amounts of money in The past year (go figure the reason) and saved up nothing. Today he was still begging (he used the word) me to pls arrange the money. He said I leave for uni in 2 days after summer vacations so I'll get my allowance, technically I can ask for it in advance and give him. But I don't want to after he has treated me. Everytime I tell myself that this is the last time, I'll leave the next time he does this but I just stay.
I know I'm not responsible for him and his family but I still feel really guilty about not giving him the money. I know I should end things but it's just difficult to leave something which you have been attached to for so long, it just feels natural to you. Rn he owes me I don't even know how much but it's maybe around 1 lakh something. Not counting The amount of gifts (some he guilt tripped me into buying 🙄 ) I have bought him and the money I have spent on my trips to visit him. IDK if I'll ever see that money again probably not. Please also give me advice on how should I proceed with the breakup, I don't want him to do anything drastic like come to my house or call my mom to tell him abt our relationship (frowned upon in India).
I know the answer but still need the answer should I give him some money from my allowance and WIBTA if I don't ? (Sorry for any errors in writing, I'm writing on tablet with a stylus)

Alright, "✨forever✨ person" came off a bit more possessive than I thought but I'm rolling with it. Or rather, ✨we're✨ rolling with it since you've read this far.
 
Anywho, I've been on the dating apps for longer than I'd like to admit and have yet to find that special someone. I figure that it doesn't hurt to explore other avenues (posting on Reddit) to see who is out there and take a different approach (posting on my NSFW account and starting with kink compatibility(usually the last thing I talk about with people when I date)). Before that, I just want to note that I am looking for something in person only. Please be near the Boston, Massachusetts area if you reach out! Online dating and long distance relationships just don't work well for me, sorry!
 
Let's talk ✨kink✨! Alright, that was the last sparkle emoji, I swear. Kink is important to me but it isn't everything to me. I fall into the "mostly in the bedroom only" category and especially like to keep the D/s aspect there as well, unless it's being used playfully. Outside of kink, I view my partner as my equal and expect the same in return. I am a switch and I lean more submissive than not. So, naturally, I am looking for a switch who leans more dominant than not to complement that. Connection is far more important to me than ensuring that our laundry lists of kinks has sufficient overlap, but I'm happy to chat further about that in private if it's important to you!
 
Relationship-wise, I am ultimately looking to live the DINKWAD (Double Income No Kids With A Dog(or ten)) lifestyle. I don't want children of my own, but I plan on being the cool uncle to my friend's children. I am content/happy with my life as it is and am looking for someone who is in a similar spot. I value independence, trust, mutual respect, and, most importantly, silliness/goofiness/playfulness. I don't do well with excessive clinginess, though a small amount can be endearing.
 
Personality-wise I am not very serious at all. I am very playful and I love to laugh and make others laugh. I'm super affectionate when I get comfortable enough and I call everyone dude. Did the dude part belong in that sentence? No. Will I call you dude in weirder contexts? Yes. I'm a healthy balance between a homebody and someone who likes to do too much and regrets having no time left to be a homebody. I'm nerdy and like to describe myself as "a nerd who lifts". In levels of nerdiness, I'm a Star Wars nerd not a Star Trek nerd. Not that I like Star Wars, I think it's bad. Don't even @ me. My main hobbies are weight lifting, hiking, video games, D&D, anime/manga, travelling, road trips, day trips, cooking, baking, and spending time with my friends. I have a good career in tech and am fairly career driven at the moment (until my next promotion). Physically, I am 5'8" and weigh entirely too much right now. The diet is in progress to de-fat myself but, sadly, that takes time. I have loads of very NSFW videos on my profile if you want to see what I look like. Look at your own discretion.
 
I am not sure what else to write. If you are interested and would like to chat then I'd love to hear a bit about you! However, just to be transparent, it's unlikely that I'll send a face picture to you given what is on my profile. There are so many scammers and blackmailers out there that it's unhealthy to not have that sense of paranoia... That's not to say that I haven't sent them before, but if that is your minimum expectation then you're not going to have a good time. That being said, I don't expect a face picture from you either. I'm more than happy to go on a blind date and just have fun.

I f19 have never been one to date especially in highschool. There have been guys but never relationship. This new guy started at my work and I have huge crush on him. I also work my with my best friend and we have kind of all have became friends. We will spend all night online playing video games with each other. Him and I also exchange messages pretty frequently. He has also made some comments that make me feel like he feels sort of the same way. Such as on discord one night with my friend and I we were talking about relationships and he said somthing along the lines of that he could be talking to his future girlfriend right now. My best friend is married so he couldn’t have been talking about her. He has also complimented my laugh while on a group call with several people. He’s also complimented my hair. I have alot of self image problems and I’m definitely never the prettiest girl in the room so these comments definitely make me happy. I also have a problem that he is a nice guy so I could just be taking his kindness the wrong way. Can you guys please help me with how to proceed. What should I say to him I’m so bad at the flirting thing. How do I know if I’m just making this stuff up. I’ve been day dreaming about a future with him all morning.

I (26F) have been struggling lately with my emotions and overthinking, and I could really use some advice.
Here's some background: When I was in high school, I met a boy online who was just a couple of years older than me. We dated for a while, broke up, and then got back together after I helped him through a rough patch. I even moved to the state he went to school in to be with him. I was young and naive at 18, and he was 20. Not long after moving, I found out he was cheating on me. Despite this, I took him back because I believed in our relationship.
We dated for two years until he decided to study abroad. I wasn't comfortable with this, especially after the cheating incident, but I didn't want to hold him back. Unfortunately, I caught him lying again, which led to a big fight where I said some hurtful things. When he came back after the semester, we had an awkward 7-hour hangout, and that was the last time we were really in contact.
Less than a year later, he was dating someone new, and I focused on my healing. I moved back to home to deal with some serious health issues and other serious personal stuff. I hoped he would want to work things out, but I never heard from him.
Years passed, and I moved on, even dated someone else briefly. Then, out of the blue, I heard from an old friend that my ex had been asking about reaching out to her randomly. I confronted him, but nothing came of it.
To add on... 2 more years later ... our mutual friend told me she reached out to him to just say hello because she really did like him and was happy to be friends with him. they bonded well so i wasnt upset that she missed having convos with him.
her feedback.... he never mentioned that hes still with the same girl, that they moved across country together.... and have been dating for (should be 4 years at that point). and from what she told me , it was almost like he was curious about me and said something similar to "if the universie thinks its meant to be , maybe we can be kosher" and "i thought about reaching out to her if im ever in town"...... theres no way he'd just randomly be "in town".
Recently, I saw a photo of him proposing to her. While I'm happy for him, it hurts deeply because I always imagined we'd be endgame. Seeing him move on so quickly after me has left me feeling inadequate and anxious.
In a perfect world, that night he came to drop my shirt off, I would have told him, "I love you, I'm sorry, and can we start over?" But because he was so unpredictable, I didn't want to look foolish and give him the satisfaction of knowing he could keep hurting me and I'd still stay.
I've built a career, handled my medical issues, and gotten into my dream grad program after graduating w/ my undergrad. Yet, I can't shake this gut-wrenching feeling. Did I not mean as much to him? Why was I so easily replaced? Maybe I'm delusional, but I always thought we'd get married and grow old together. Perhaps he never really felt the same and just felt stuck with me.
No one prepares you for the pain of watching your first love build a life without you. How do I move forward from this and stop feeling like I wasn't enough? How can I manage my emotions and overthinking in a healthy way? If anyone has advice on how to handle these emotions and stop overthinking, I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks for reading. This felt really good to write out and validate my own feelings...
TL;DR: Struggling with emotions and overthinking after my first love moved on and got engaged. Need advice on coping and moving forward
(ps: i saw someone post about their wife being in love with their ex..... disclaimer im not her lol and i am def not married😂😂)

Hello! Honestly I’ve always wanted to do both md and phd eventually, but I struggled throughout undergrad and I think it might hinder my ability to get into a good dual program.
My gpa is 3.78 and sgpa 3.71, downward trend as grades peaked in my second year and dropped in the third. I tried to graduate in 3 years but had to withdraw from one class in the last semester spring 2023 due to health issues. I was supposed to take it online fall 2023 to graduate but then my mom’s cancer progressed and she passed away. So I’m just now finishing the class over a year from initially withdrawing, and it will have incomplete notation due to having to get an extension after my mom passed. No mcat yet.
My interest is oncology, specifically the one understudied cancer subtype that my mom passed from, as well as a specific type of immunotherapy. To date these two fields have never been combined in the way I really hope to be able to do in my future career.
My ECs will include 3000+ hours research (working toward 1st author publication but unlikely by application time, will probably have first author review), on an independently conceptualized project in translational cancer immunotherapy. Also have 200 hours shadowing and 50 hours hospital volunteering.
Basically my PI has offered to let me stay in my current lab for a PhD. I’ve been in this lab for two years and it is amazing, in my home city, at my top choice T20 school, and I would have a chance to combine my two niche research interests for which other labs/opportunities are very scarce. I’m leaning toward doing this and then maybe looking into accelerated 3 year Md programs later on since I’m fairly set on intended specialty. The average gpa for the combined program at this school and for most others with a potential research fit is above 3.9. I just don’t think there’s a chance I could get in.
Is there a reason to not do this? I know the main one is losing free tuition but what else? Thank you!

I f19 have never been one to date especially in highschool. There have been guys but never relationship. This new guy started at my work and I have huge crush on him. I also work my with my best friend and we have kind of all have became friends. We will spend all night online playing video games with each other. Him and I also exchange messages pretty frequently. He has also made some comments that make me feel like he feels sort of the same way. Such as on discord one night with my friend and I we were talking about relationships and he said somthing along the lines of that he could be talking to his future girlfriend right now. My best friend is married so he couldn’t have been talking about her. He has also complimented my laugh while on a group call with several people. He’s also complimented my hair. I have alot of self image problems and I’m definitely never the prettiest girl in the room so these comments definitely make me happy. I also have a problem that he is a nice guy so I could just be taking his kindness the wrong way. Can you guys please help me with how to proceed. What should I say to him I’m so bad at the flirting thing. How do I know if I’m just making this stuff up. I’ve been day dreaming about a future with him all morning.

5 June - 3 July 2024 Japanese Film Festival Online 2024. Free with subtitles in English and other languages.
6 - 26 June 2024 French Film Festival. There are other dates for other locations in NZ listed here
16 June 2024 Free short film event on World Refugee Day at Christchurch Art Gallery Te Puna o Waiwhetū. Problems: no title for short film AND not sure when it starts. If you are going ask them. The facebook event is for 4pm - 5pm. The description in the event and this 27 May post says 2pm.
Doc Edge Documentary Festival

• 19 June - 14 July 2024 in Auckland, Wellington and Christchurch.
• 15 - 31 July 2024 Online Nationwide.

15 August – 1 September 2024 Whānau Mārama New Zealand International Film Festival 2024 at Lumière Cinemas. Unfortunately there are not many films listed. Source of date and location.
Last but now least...
There's movies and TV online as well as borrowing DVDs if you are a member of Christchurch libraries.
Other free but interesting exhibitions:

• 4 May - 15 September 2024 Journeying Further - 10 Artist Co- Exhibit (eventfinda listing) at Fo Guang Yuan Art Gallery, 2 Harakeke St, Riccarton.
  
• 10 May - 8 September 2024 Wildlife Photographer of the Year at Canterbury Museum at CoCA, 66 Gloucester Street, Christchurch. Note: There's an Amazing Animals Photography Competition. Submit photos taken after 1 July 2023 by 5.00 pm on Sunday 28 July 2024.
  
• 28 May - 30 June 2024 Philip Trusttum - The Colombo Art Takeover at The Colombo, 363 Colombo Street, Sydenham, Christchurch 8011. Free. Seven Sharp story: Art takes over mall or on facebook video).
  

I was at a private event in LA yesterday, and Bumble founder Whitney Herd is apparently supporting this new AI startup founded by two ex-Bumble engineers called Instadate AI, saying it's the future of online dating.
She noted that AI will help with being more authentic, as it removes certain emotions such as "desperation, neediness, and power-plays", citing AI will be better at playing the numbers game since they can "represent" their users without emotions, especially as emotions can't transcend text communication.
The most controversial thing she said though was that women tend to be more against the use of AI by men, since the usage of AI in dating would remove the women's only tool of getting free attention, as it's known that modern dating apps – were women are unfairly favored in numbers and algorithmically – essentially use men as cash-cows.
This reddit post nails it https://www.reddit.com/TrueAskReddit/comments/whpxuw/dating_app_statistics_show_than_women_are/

Hi all,
I (26F) have been struggling lately with my emotions and overthinking, and I could really use some advice.
Here's some background: When I was in high school, I met a boy online who was just a couple of years older than me. We dated for a while, broke up, and then got back together after I helped him through a rough patch. I even moved to the state he went to school in to be with him. I was young and naive at 18, and he was 20. Not long after moving, I found out he was cheating on me. Despite this, I took him back because I believed in our relationship.
We dated for two years until he decided to study abroad. I wasn't comfortable with this, especially after the cheating incident, but I didn't want to hold him back. Unfortunately, I caught him lying again, which led to a big fight where I said some hurtful things. When he came back after the semester, we had an awkward 7-hour hangout, and that was the last time we were really in contact.
Less than a year later, he was dating someone new, and I focused on my healing. I moved back to home to deal with some serious health issues and other serious personal stuff. I hoped he would want to work things out, but I never heard from him.
Years passed, and I moved on, even dated someone else briefly. Then, out of the blue, I heard from an old friend that my ex had been asking about reaching out to her randomly. I confronted him, but nothing came of it.
To add on... 2 more years later ... our mutual friend told me she reached out to him to just say hello because she really did like him and was happy to be friends with him. they bonded well so i wasnt upset that she missed having convos with him.
her feedback.... he never mentioned that hes still with the same girl, that they moved across country together.... and have been dating for (should be 4 years at that point). and from what she told me , it was almost like he was curious about me and said something similar to "if the universie thinks its meant to be , maybe we can be kosher" and "i thought about reaching out to her if im ever in town"...... theres no way he'd just randomly be "in town".
Recently, I saw a photo of him proposing to her. While I'm happy for him, it hurts deeply because I always imagined we'd be endgame. Seeing him move on so quickly after me has left me feeling inadequate and anxious.
In a perfect world, that night he came to drop my shirt off, I would have told him, "I love you, I'm sorry, and can we start over?" But because he was so unpredictable, I didn't want to look foolish and give him the satisfaction of knowing he could keep hurting me and I'd still stay.
I've built a career, handled my medical issues, and gotten into my dream grad program after graduating w/ my undergrad. Yet, I can't shake this gut-wrenching feeling. Did I not mean as much to him? Why was I so easily replaced? Maybe I'm delusional, but I always thought we'd get married and grow old together. Perhaps he never really felt the same and just felt stuck with me.
No one prepares you for the pain of watching your first love build a life without you. How do I move forward from this and stop feeling like I wasn't enough? How can I manage my emotions and overthinking in a healthy way? If anyone has advice on how to handle these emotions and stop overthinking, I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks for reading. This felt really good to write out and validate my own feelings...
TL;DR: Struggling with emotions and overthinking after my first love moved on and got engaged. Need advice on coping and moving forward

The title is self-explanatory lol. I'm here to try online dating again (in person later down the line) and see if it goes anywhere, it'd be nice to wake up to some sweet messages or have someone to just be there for me. Hoping it will lead to something, but lets see. I'll keep the about me short, because no one likes to read those lol.
What I'm Looking For: I don't really have a preference tbh, though I'd like you to be close to my age. I think someone who is at least kind and willing to give me a chance is good enough. Obviously if we share some of same interests, it's a plus but not a requirement.
In reality though, I'm looking for someone that I can sit with and watch movies with, get a good morning text from, talk about random stuff we find interesting, and overall just makes me feel good about myself and makes life not seem so grey.
About me: I am 5'11", white, brown hair and eyes, and kinda on the skinny/muscular side. I am a huge nerd, like stereotypical kinda nerd. Fantasy and sci-fi(space in general tbh) are my jam and a huge part of my life, from the books I read to the little worlds I enjoy writing to the games I play. And although it's not my entire world, I enjoy anything about electronics in general, it's more of a relaxing hobby for me in my free time occasionally.