My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now (most of it being LDR), and honestly, our relationship was perfect. I genuinely thought he was the one; he was so sweet and respectful, until he just wasn’t.
To preface this, we did start off casual. We both were drunk at a party, hooked up, and decided to keep it that way until, eventually, one of us caught feelings and the other followed suit. However, he was graduating college and I was only a sophomore, so the idea of this actually working was absurd. But as one thing led to another, we both realized we wanted to make this work, so we gave LDR a shot.
The long distance itself wasn't too bad (initially, at least). We didn't text all the time; in fact, there were days where barely anything was said, but neither of us minded as we understood we have busy schedules. Problems, however, began when my trust was somewhat breached, and I just couldn't deal with things anymore.
So, my boyfriend is a sweet guy, kinda shy and non-confrontational. He has a girl best friend who is a total bitch and has been weird with me time and time again. The first time I met her, my boyfriend and I were only hooking up. It was for breakfast after a night of drinking. We were being a bit affectionate, and she, out of nowhere, exclaimed, "BF name, please behave, stop embarrassing yourself in public." Strange, but I paid it no mind. Of course, that wasn't enough. We were all just sitting, eating, not saying much because she just radiated malice. I didn't want to engage because I would snap and I wanted to leave a good impression. But she continued to pose hypothetical scenarios to my boyfriend about what his ex would think about him being in this situation, overall giving weird vibes. At the time, my hookup (boyfriend) didn't say anything, and I didn't want to assert myself in the situation, so I stayed silent.
Fast forward a few months later, we are at an event in the car. We are all tripping on ecstasy except for his beloved girl best friend, who the whole time is sitting in the back making snide comments about me to her friend, "oh, she's crazy," blah blah. STILL, my boyfriend claims to have not heard and said nothing. STILL, I ignore that.
Fine? Now, this is almost 6 months later. My boyfriend and I are at a party when a girl who was very overtly interested in my boyfriend comes up to him, and they start talking. (The first time meeting post-grad, they both are drunk, so I let it go.) They are sitting on the side. She is holding his hand, and I'm just observing from afar because I don't want to put myself in that situation when my boyfriend calls me (he claims it was to include me). This girl says, "OMG, you're lucky I backed off; you can have him, he's all yours," to which my boyfriend, sitting right there, says nothing (claimed he didn't hear). I avert the topic, ask her about work, etc., but the whole time I am fuming. I bring it up to my boyfriend, and his same response: "I never heard. I love you. Can you stop being dramatic?"
Now I'm a bit suspicious of him. Anyway, it's summer break. I am on vacation, and he's back home. At 4 am, he texts me, saying, "Hey babe, I want to meet a friend of mine. We dated back in school. It was a kiddy relationship. Can I meet her? If it's okay with you, we will just smoke a joint or whatever." I didn't want to be controlling, and if they dated in school, who was I to stop him? So I was like, sure. Months later, I find out it's the first girl he had sex with. Are you seeing a pattern?
In isolation, these micro-breaches could just be looked over, but the build-up is just not giving. Anyways, fast forward some more months. My friend shows me a close friend's post of this girl my boyfriend follows where she's practically naked, and he's liked it. Keep in mind, this is months into our relationship. I screenshot it and bring it up to him. It's the same: "I didn't know, I just like everything on my feed. It's before we had such convos about boundaries." (I have always expressed how icky and embarrassing it is to see your man under some hoe's post.)
So obviously, with all these little instances, I get angrier and angrier. I trust him less, I ask more, and I get angry real quick. Now our relationship has reached the point where we can't go without fighting for more than 2 days (if I'm being generous). I second-guess his every move, I am perpetually suspicious, and I kind of resent him. When we are together, it’s great; there aren't any major problems per se, but in LDR, I just can't. Not only is he an awful texter, but he also makes so many promises that he can't fulfill. An example: he said he’d post our pics. It's been months now, and he hasn't, but if it was some concert of his or a friend's, that post is up and running ASAP.
All his friends are also so man-coded; they act like boys. His own best friend has a shit relationship, but my boyfriend looks at his relationship as the pinnacle because apparently they live together and that's so perfect. He wants to get married and have me uproot my whole life to accommodate his plans because apparently we have to go for masters together, but that can only be when it works for him (so I can't go post-grad as planned). I am also expected to get married as soon as I graduate and move to a super conservative country because his job pays so well, and I "should find work there."
Keep in mind while we do LDR, he barely texts when he is out. I go out; I take out time regardless, and I understand people are different, but his communication is so shit. I understand quality over quantity, and I am okay with that, but the quality of our conversation is also so deplorable. Most times, if I talk to him on the phone for too long, something will make me angry, and things blow up into an argument.
I want to be with him, but I don't know how to fix these problems or if they are even worth fixing. We also talk about breaking up every week, and there are days I literally want to punch a wall.

Hi guys.
I'm 21 years old and just got into the world of stocks and stuff.
I tried intraday trading and the maximum profit I was able to make was 10% of my capital [it's just a meager 1000rs capital] . On other days I made loss. I've lost money in Intraday trading and rarely see profits.
In a fit of rage, whenever I saw losses, I ended up investing in Mutual Funds .
I now have 800ish in Hand which I might use for intraday, and have 1250 in MF which grew to 1294 in over a week.
I realised that I saw a gain of 1% everyday without doing anything but just investing in Mutual funds.
Now assuming strictly that I don't increase my capital, what should be the ideal time to reach a goal of 15k with just this money and what should I do ?
Should I trade by watching indexes or should I sit down and invest in mutual funds and watch it grow?
And what will happen to Mutual funds after elections? Is it right time now?

I recently took collection of my new lease car, which comes with car tax included in the price. Hence, I declared my old car as SORN to end my direct debit as I wouldn’t be driving it and it will just be sitting there whilst I wait for it to sell.
Also, I changed the car on my current policy to my new one, meaning my old car is now uninsured as well as untaxed.
It’s far from my forte this sort of thing, I wasn’t aware you couldn’t sell a car without it. I just assumed if someone wanted to buy it they would have to insure & tax it before they drove it home.
What is the best and cheapest way to go about selling it legally. I’m aware of temporary cover (I’ve used Cuvva in the past), would that be sufficient if I just set it up on the day if someone wanted to take it and then obviously tax it aswell I presume?
With the taxing, would it be best to set it up as a monthly direct debit or pay for the year and then cancel it? Also when would I be able to cancel it after it has been sold?
Sorry I know there’s a lot of questions in here, but I really would appreciate it if someone could help me out here.

It is finally warm in my area and whenever I go out to city everyone wears summer outfits. I get envious from every woman I see then I hide somewhere to cry.
Context: I live in Russia, 7months hrt. I will be able to immigrate only in a couple of years to USA at best. It is very dangerous here in Russia to present full fem without passing unfortunately. So for now I try my best with fem presenting: I go with kinda hippie style, bc I feel comfortable with it and I can "stylishly" add feminine clothing to it, also I skin care and wear nude makeup.
So I don't feel safe presenting more fem than I am now. And I can't avoid being perceived by hiding in my room for summer bc I have adult things to do outside my house 😭 (and also bad for mental health to just sit at home for several months for me)
Sorry for a messy post, the question is in the title, the post is just context

My husband is a new police officer, and before I go further, I want to add that we’ve always had a pretty amazing marriage full of love, patience and selflessness. He’s always been a fabulous dad who spends time with the kids, parents with patience and talks everything out, and brings us all closer to God. I need advice that isn’t “pack up and leave him” without even speaking to him first. He’s not a heartless person in any way and he is very close to God, but I believe he’s struggling in this season in his life and may not even be aware of it.
Recently with this new job he’s become a little more assertive. I also don’t know if stress, food (he has a medical condition that affects his blood sugar. It’s controlled but isn’t without challenges that others don’t face) is making it worse. But he went from the happiest guy that EVERYONE loves, I’m talking this guy will sit and patiently talk things out with you, love and no judgment, to a grouch with a shorter temper. He doesn’t seem to like it when I disagree anymore, and I think it stems from being burnt out and not wanting to get into it. But the bigger issue is, he’s criticizing everything me or the kids do. Like I said, he used to be really fun, but now it’s all about making sure the kids are in line and it feels like most of his interactions with them are punitive or corrective. I wish he would step back and not have to micromanage everything we’re doing or saying, whether it’s how the kids are eating, why aren’t they in bed yet, other little stuff that in my opinion is just so dumb and not worth constantly making the kids feel like they’re in trouble. I don’t completely feel like I can speak to my spouse because his patience is thin. We barely see or talk to eachother because of busy work week. I just want to help my husband but this has to change.
Clearly I need to bring up that he needs to leave his work at work and change his attitude at home. I would appreciate any advice on what else I can do in this situation.

Any other dads here from the military or grew up hard that have cleaned your life up and turned things around...I could use some help.
I've done a lot of things in my past...my hands ain't clean and they're a few shades redder then I'd want them to be sitting here now as a father...how...how do you reconcile the life you led now? How do show gentleness and a soft touch when all your hands have know how to do is pain and death.
Teen and early 20s I was always in fights. Mixed up with the wrong crowed and got pulled into...well...doing things I probably shouldn't have looking back. I don't regret it...seeing and being part of that side of the world gives you a clarity that most people don't see and gave me the ability and skills to keep myself and my family safe should the days I hope never happen come to pass. But it also comes with a mild paranoia...driving past the house because the car behind me made one to many of the same turns i did, hands and ears get twitchy at night. I've swept the house in the middle of the night on more then one occasion because I thought I heard the front or back door open. Get hella twitchy in large groups, always sitting with my back to a wall, hands get tense when people in public start yelling...all those lovely subconscious things your brain tells your body to do without you knowing it. More then one occasion my wife has looked at me confused as to why I went from relaxed to in edge and standing in front and in-between her and whatever was going on.
If this post does anything...hopefully it shows that if you're one of those guys you're not alone and i know why if you don't comment its taking me a long time and a lot just to type all this...and if one of us eats we all eat so keep your head up brother. As Robert Frost once said...still have miles to go before we sleep. As long as you keep going so will I...and I can do this so you can you...much love.

First, I accidentally read a spoiler regarding Scribe Haylen. Is there any possible way to save her, send her to a community, have her become a companion, or possibly romance her without using mods? In my opinion she deserves more of a chance in Fallout 4.
The other is Shelly Tiller. I didn't kill her during the Silver Shroud missions, as she wasn't a bad person overall. Unfortunately, I killed Sinjin and saved Kent Connolly, thereby completing the Silver Shroud quests. I went looking for Shelly at the National Guard Training Yard to send her to a community, but she wasn't there. Did she go elsewhere, or is she gone after completing the quest line?
Lastly, but not least. Trashcan Carla. That thieving witch stole my power armor. I read that you can pickpocket the fusion core, and she'll jump out, OR she'll show up at Beacon Hill and it'll be sitting next to her, in which case you can just get it back. However, she was taunting me with it, and being her typical nasty self, and WOULD NOT leave Sanctuary. I went to Beacon Hill SEVERAL times looking for her to appear, but she didn't. Just stayed at Sanctuary during the day hours, everyday, in my power armor. My pickpocketing skills were not built up at all. I attempted anyway to try to resolve the issue. She then turned hostile in my power armor, so I really had no choice but to put her down with my Two Shot Assault Rifle right in the road of Sanctuary. I wasn't wearing any power armor myself at the time and my companion, MacCready did nothing to help, not that I needed it, but it's the point. You're companion's supposed to provide support in conflict. I also read that you can shoot the fusion core and Trashcan Carla will jump out of the power armor as well. It's too late now, she's dead in my street with her caravan brahmin walking around while she draws flies. The occasional settler on non used companion will walk by and stop at her body also. Is there a way a way to remove her??? I tried, but it says that she's too heavy because she's lying dead in my old power armor frame. At this point she's an eyesore. I also read that she is/was an Institute "snitch", so I really don't feel bad, except for not having the convenience of a trader in my settlement now.
I'm playing on the remastered quality version of Fallout 4 on PS5. Any help or answers/advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Let me give some backstory. My partner and I have been together for the past just over four years. We are extremely close and have been for the duration of our relationship. For the past 6-8 months, things between us have been really rocky. She would get frustrated at things my friends would say - and then expect me to deal with it. An example of this would be watching the Superbowl. She came over and read her book while my 12 other friends were watching the game. I had no problem with this since she was spending time with me and my friends which I greatly appreciated but one my friends asked her, "Why are you here if you're going to read?" This upset her because she didn't like the sport and wanted to read instead (which again is fine by me). However, that same friend would make rude jokes to her that night like, "He (meaning me) should play the field" or something alluding to dating other people. It upset her that I didn't say something immediately to him but I wasn't paying attention to what he was saying and I was focused on cooking for 12 people so I missed it. I was also running in and out of rooms - this was hard because I felt like I couldn't do anything in that situation other than not spend more time with that friend or I should focus on her when I invite my friends over. If the latter is the case, I'd keep them separate but that isn't healthy and I know that.
Then comes our recent threesome. For the past year and half, my girlfriend has wanted to try a threesome. She is bisexual and wanted to bring in another woman into the bedroom. I was hesitant at first, because I didn't want to. I didn't really have any strong desire to see someone else. She kept asking me and eventually I just gave in thinking I might have a good time. I really hoped this could be a good experience for both of us. She found the person and we set up a date to meet. That night, we were all together in bed. I could not perform (get hard) and I was sitting there trying to get in the mood but it just never happened - my girlfriend got eaten out and vice versa. So they had a good time. I thought okay maybe it was first time jitters - I wanted to try it again to have a good experience. It wasn't till we met up again that everything clicked. The third person we met wasn't interested in me and I picked up on that. She wasn't interested in me the first time either, but I just didn't notice as much until this time. I recognized this and asked to leave. Girlfriend was getting eaten out, so I went to the bathroom. When I came back, I said it again - I was very annoyed, she was still getting eaten out. Not only that I asked to leave but that we agreed we wouldn't do things without the other one there (me being in the bathroom). We finally left after much needed urgency on my part. In the car, she was crying about how we left early without any aftercare for the third and here I was just miserable. I couldn't enjoy either experience but she got to enjoy both. This happened almost a month ago. I know I put myself into the situation twice but I'm just so disappointed how each time went. I'm uncomfortable with being sexual with her now. I am also extremely insecure, more now than I have been in years.
One more issue, we have very different opinions on what to do while sick. I come from a family of doctors who do things when we are sick. I trust these people - not only are they my family - but they are also specialists in their field who can tell me what to do to get healthy. My girlfriend on the other hand, does not trust my family with her health. I understand this - in the sense that you want to have your own doctors' take care of you - cool no problem. She believes my family is "bias" when it comes to treatment. My family aren't psychologists so not sure how that really applies with general treatment of illnesses. Nonetheless, we have a differing view of how to get better. She always tells me that it is her body her choice. 100% respect that. When it comes to my own health, I will, at least going forward, put my health first and not see her if she is sick. We don't live together. It's just stressful and anxiety producing. She claims that I come from a place of superiority and when I talk about health stuff and that I always talk with certainty. I agree with her, and I do because I am able to ask my family - who are medical professionals and specialists what to do. They are specialists who know how to handle illness. I am working on improving my communication and how I can better support her.
With all of these issues in our relationship, I have considered ending things with her. is my relationship salvageable? Greatly appreciate any feedback

I'm not sure how helpful it will be to post here because I think my issue goes far beyond the usual conflicts one might find in a traditional dnd campaign. So before anyone reads this I wants to emphasise that 1. this was my very first dnd campaign and I joined it without any prior knowledge, and 2. this campaign was never intended to be a traditional "we're heroes and trying to save the world while fighting monsters left and right" campaign. I hope this answers any questions along the lines of "Well, why did you create this kind of character in the first place?" and "Why do your characters spend so much time talking about stuff, don't you have some beholders to fight?". I also cannot explain the whole situation without writing a literal 20 page long essay, so I'll try to keep it as short as possible and only give two examples. I'm definitely leaving a lot of details out here, so please let me know if clarifications or futher information is needed.
To preface what this is all about: I was a player in a very roleplay focused campaign and my character basically turned into the problem child of this campaign. I never intended for my character to be the focus, was never interested in him being the focus, but nothing I ever did suceeded in solving the issues at hand and taking the focus away from him. I constantly got accused of "making my character suffer", whereas from my perspective I was constantly trying to keep this character safe from the constant attacks he had to endure. It was like no matter what I did, no matter what I let this character do, it was never right. I think everyone in this group makes an effort to play their characters realistically, I defininitely do. And yet it was never me going "I know exactly what my character has to do to fix this but I'll REFUSE to do it because I don't like it" but me literally having no clue what people wanted from this character. The dm repeatedly said that nothing they tried to fix this character was helping. Whereas from my perspective these things that were supposed to "help" my character were the exact things that my character was struggling with. So it turned into a constant stream of something happening, my character then feeling bad, then everyone focusing on my character feeling bad, then my character trying to fix things, everyone telling him that he's doing it wrong, my character feeling even worse.... and me wondering why my character cannot just exist in peace, why we constantly have to focus on him instead of the "plot". I don't think anyone was interested in constantly discussing my character's mental state, I definitely wasn't interested in doing that, and yet we kept doing it. But I also did not know how to have him react differently to the constant shit getting thrown at him.
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So, basically:
Around three years ago a friend of mine told me about this new dnd campaign they were starting and asked me to join. I've known this friend for half my life but we never lived close to each other, maintaining loose contact over Twitter and me visisting them every two or three years. I had never played dnd before, which they didn't think would be a problem, calling the campaign "very beginner friendly". The whole point behind this campaign was that both this friend (the dm) and two of the players from the main campaign they were playing wanted to play more regularly, so my friend/dm came up with this campaign which was basically a prequel to that main campaign. That main campaign was a more "traditional" dnd campaign with a quest to save the world and regular combat. Meanwhile this new campaign was supposed to be focused on roleplay. There was no overarching plot or quest and the setting was an arcane school and our characters were supposed to be students at said school, just starting their first semester.
When creating our characters the dm asked us to include at least one character in the backstory that was important for our character, and also an objective for our character, something they wanted to achieve. The character I came up with was a young half-elf wizard specialising in abjuration. The gist of his story was that his parents had been arrested and executed for high treason when he was very young and that he grew up rather isolated with his older brother in a place they were not allowed to leave before coming off age. When my character was 14 he woke up one morning to find his brother gone. He had left him only a cryptic letter, hinting at wanting to find out what had really happened to their parents, telling my character that he was sorry and that he would come back. When his brother had not come back after several months, my character too ran away and made his way to Candlekeep, which he had visited many times with his parents (who had been scholars) as a child. He tried to find answers in Candlekeep and spent the following three years hiding in the library before something prompted him to leave and travel to the aforementioned arcane school in order to study there. His objective was to find out why his parents had to die, what happened to his brother, and adjusting to normal life after years of isolation.
Personality wise this character was supposed to be very kind, very gentle, quite naive, honest, and at the beginning of the campaign rather anxious. My assumption was that after growing up in isolation he would need some time to get acclimatised and would be anxious and overwhelmed in the beginning but would loosen up with time and become more self-confident. Some bad stuff happened early on in the campaign and he reacted to it in a rather not healthy way (withdrawing, refusing to eat, but also not talking about what was going on because he didn't want to put the focus on himself). I messed up here, I realised that later. I assumed the other characters would sit him down and ask him what was going on, leading to some kind of cathartic conversation, my character then revealing his past, and him becoming more confident and positive through it, completely resolving this issue. I didn't realise that introducing these kind of psychological issues into the story would be an issue, simply because I wasn't planning on making it a big thing. I thought it would be realistic for him to react this way and I thought it was something that could easily be resolved. Nowadays I would approach this completely differently: if I were to play this character now I would make this whole "accepting his past, becoming more self-confident and open" thing part of his backstory and would start him off as being confident and in tune with his emotions, instead of trying to quickly get through this development at the start of the campaign. So I think I know what I SHOULD have done to prevent this from escalating. What I am trying to figure out is what I could have done to fix it AFTER realising my mistake. Because we spent months and months trying to resolve this issue and never really got anywhere. Despite me trying my best to keep the focus away from my character, despite me trying to turn him into someone more confident and happy, despite me NOT WANTING him to be the focus of the story and doing my best to keep him out of the spotlight.
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Here is an example of the things going on in the story, to which my character reacted badly and me not knowing how else I could have had him react that would not have caused further conflict:
Over the course of the campaign L. figured out what his brother was up to after him and his friends getting intro trouble and a mysterious stranger helping them get out of there and that stranger then revealing himself to be A.'s husband (and therefore my character's brother-in-law). L. had a lenghty discussion with this person and after that I basically viewed L.'s conflict as resolved: he now knew why his brother had left, he knew that it had not been his fault, and he knew that his brother had found someone who loved him and was not alone. L. still hoped to be able to see his brother again to get to say goodbye properly. Because in L.'s mind there was no other possibility but this being a goodbye: his brother had a new life now that he, L., was not part of anymore. And L. accepted that. There was no anger, no resentment, only relief knowing that his brother was not alone, had someone by his side who loved him, and that he still cared about L. and that L. had not - as he had feared - done anything that had caused his brother to not want to be near him anymore. He had finally gotten the closure he had needed, he was feeling okay and I viewed this whole conflict as resolved.
Fast forward a few weeks: A. finally suceeded in doing what he had been working on these past few years and returned to L., just like he had promised in the letter he had left him all that time ago. When talking to him, L. realised that A. was not actually planning on leaving, like L. had assumed. Instead A. told him that he and his husband would stay and look for a new home near L.'s school. L. was very surprised by this but of course he was also happy. He hadn't even considered that his brother would stay. His biggest hope had been that his brother would occasionally send him a letter from whereever he was. Him actually wanting to stay was very unexpected for L. but of course he was very happy about it. They also had some good conversations during that time, which not only brought L. further closure but also revealed connections between several past plot points.
About a week after A.'s return L. went to visit him. He just wanted to spend some time with his brother and also ask him for advice. The semester was coming to an end and everyone was busy preparing for the final exams and L. also still needed to find an internship placement for the summer break. L. wanted to do his internship in Candlekeep but was unsure on how to approach this, who to contact, how to phrase his request, so he thought asking his eloquent and knowledgable brother for advice would be a good idea. This conversation quickly went downhill with A. accusing L. of not respecting the people working at Candlekeep enough to do proper research beforehand and L. ending up feeling like he didn't deserve doing an internship there and ending up feeling even more stressed out about the whole thing than he had already been beforehand. They changed the topic and at some point A. started to jokingly fighting L. and putting him in a headlock. L. had no interest in fighting his brother, even as a joke, and reacted by going limp so he could slip away. A. then asked something along the lines of "So that's how you react in a fight? You just give up?" and L. said "Well, I know you would never intentionally hurt me with no good reason". The next second L. was falling. He was up in the sky, the ground many meters below him, and he was falling. L. immediately deduced that this must be some kind of enchantment and tried to fight it, but neither acknowledging that this wasn't real nor trying to shake it off did anything. He did not know any flying or hovering spells, nothing that would help him stop the fall, and ended up crashing into the ground. The next moment he was in some kind of water pool inside a cave that he struggled to get out of. A. was waiting by the cave entrance and offered L. his hand when he got out. L. refused to take it. A. then left and L. eventually followed, finding himself back in the room they had been in before. Either in the cave or shortly afterwards A. asked L. why he hadn't just used a spell to stop his fall, being surprised by L.'s statement that he had not yet learned an appropriate spell. L. eventually sat down at the table and did some exam preparation. A. made some food and put some in front of L. which L. ignored. Eventually L. looked up and asked A. what his biggest fear was. A. had just put L. through several of his biggest fears - falling, drowning, not being able to trust the ones he loves, and getting his control taken away - so he wanted to know what A. was scared of most. A. the told L. that his biggest fear was someone using his abilities to do something bad. And then he explained to L. that he had come to the conclusion that he would not be able to stay after all. That while he was able to defend himself, L. was not, and anyone wanting to get to A. would have an easy time doing so through L. who was evidently not able to defend himself. L. did not take that well and asked A. why he couldn't just train L. so he would get better at defending himself but A. refused. A. then said he would take a walk and allowed L. to come with him. They walked for several hours without talking, ending up in the middle of a forest where some ancient creature appeared that A. had helped several years ago and that was now nearing the end of its life and had called A. there to say goodbye. A. also explained to L. that he did not actually want to stay. That he - A. - had been naive in thinking that he could just live a normal life and that it had been nothing but a dream and that he simply wasn't made for that kind of life. Some time during that conversation A. also told L. that he was convinced that he would end up in the Nine Hells for the things he had done. They spent the night in the woods and the next morning L. realised that all his things had been stolen by some fey creatures, including his spell book. After searching for several hours they were able to find his spellbook, which had been smeared with insults. A. managed to clean it up and they returned back home and L. was reuinted with the rest of the group. Before L. left A. also gifted him an indestructable spellbook. A few days after these events L. went to the temple and addressed Mystra, telling her how lost he was feeling and how worried he was about his brother. He told her that he wanted nothing more than to protect the ones around him but how he was constantly failing in doing so. And how he just wanted his brother to be safe and how he was worried he would really eventually end up in the Nine Hells and how he didn't think A. deserved that but that he didn't know how to prevent that from happening. The next morning L. found some strange piece of cloth on his face which after some examination was revealed to be an item belonging to Mystra which she had used to hide something in the past. The very condensed explanation of what that item does is that when attuned to it one cannot be found through any kind of traditional divination magic, making one basically undetectable. The next time L. saw A. he told him about this item and A. was basically like "Oh cool, well in that case we can actually stay here". L.'s reaction was to start crying and A. asked him why he was so upset and why everything was always the end of the world to him.
The way I see this whole situation: I simply wanted L. to spend some time with his brother, hopefully get some advice from him regarding that internship and then going back to the rest of the group. Instead what happened was that A. first called him disrespectful for wanting to do an internship at a place and not having done enough research beforehand. Then taking L.'s statement "you wouldn't hurt me with no good reason" to assault L. Then telling L. that he would not stay after all due to L. apparently not being able to defend himself. Then explaining to him that "actually, I didn't want to stay in the first place", and then a few days later telling him he WILL stay after all. So basically, L. had accepted that his brother would not come back to him for good, he had accepted this and had found closure. Then his brother told him he WOULD stay and L. was of course happy about this surprising turn of events. Then his brother told him that due to L. not being able to defend himself he CANNOT stay. Then he tells him he doesn't WANT to stay anyway, confirming the exact reasoning behind L.'s initial assumption that A. would not stay. And then after realising the threat was eliminated, decided to stay afterall, despite having it made very clear that he did not actually WANT to stay... and apparently only staying because he thought that's what L. wants, despite L. repeatedly explaining that his priority is for A. to be happy and that he does not want A. to stay if that's not what makes him happy and A. just completely ignoring that? Am I really the only person who thinks that it's understandable why L. is confused and upset in this situation? Plus the constant "What do you mean, you don't know [this one simple thing]?" when L. is already barely able to get a regular long rest in between trying to keep up with school work and all the stuff that's going on at the side, like a literal war for example, and constantly feeling that no matter what he decides it's always wrong and he never has enough time to do the things he is supposed to do, let alone the things he wants to do? Plus him wanting to spend the afternoon with his brother turning into a 36 hour long event and him having to spend half a day looking for his spellbook, only to find it smeared with insults?
Am I being dense for not understanding what the whole point of this was? Trying to make it clear to L. that his brother is a powerful and dangerous person? He was already very aware of that and did not need a reminder. Proving to L. that he shouldn't trust his brother? Why even associate with him in the first place if you don't want him to trust you? Giving him the indestructable spellbook was nice. But was having some fey creatures steal his original one and smear insults all over it and him having to spend hours searching for it really necessary?
Whatever the hell it is the dm was trying to do here, I think a simple, calm conversation between those two would have been a lot more effective.
But maybe it's clearer from the outside, so if someone else understands what happened here, please help me understand.
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Another situation was that due to his struggles early on in the campaign my character was supposed to see the school's healer once a week so she could make sure that he was okay. My character went there once a week, feeling more or less okay when entering her office, and coming out feeling confused and upset after having his mental state analysed and picked apart. Neither did my character enjoy this nor did I think that any of the players (including myself) had any interest in listening to my character discuss his emotions every week. So eventually I had my character write a letter to the headmistress, explaning that he wanted to stop doing these weekly check-ins. Upon being asked why, he explained that these appointments actively made him feel bad and that he would do a lot better if he didn't constantly feel pressured into talking about things he didn't want to talk about. The reaction was that he was told that if he cannot handle simply being asked how he was doing once a week, then he wasn't stable enough to go to school, and consequently got kicked out. Leading to us spending two sessions trying to resolve this and my character eventually being allowed back into the school. ______
The situations I described are the kind of thing that constantly happened to my character.
We had a calendar where we wrote down short descriptions of what happened each day. I once went through this calendar with a friend (who does not play dnd) and it basically went like this: "So that day this traumatic thing happened to L., and the next day this happened, and two days later this happened, then the next day he almost died, then three days later he discovered this, the next day this other thing happened,....", and my friend just went "Holy shit, it's no surprise that this kid is losing his marmbles."
So I keep alternating between "I messed up this whole campaign by creating a problematic character" and the feeling that the dm had it out for specifically my character and it didn't matter what I did, nothing could have solved this.
Some constructive ideas on what I did wrong and what I could have done to fix things would be appreciated. (And yes, we did talk about this in the group. I eventually got tired of talking about it because it never lead anywhere.

Hi Everyone,
My friend is obviously happy she has a baby, 8 months old. But she won't go out without him for a couple of hours, even when her husband offers to have him so she can enjoy a walk and a coffee and a bit of peace.
I love my friend and I'm glad she's fulfilled her wish of parenthood.
But I am neurodivergent and I really struggle with the screaming noise from the baby, the smell when it poops, my friend doesn't bring food or toys with her for the child so he just screams and screams and my body is automatically repulsed by this.
I can't control it and I go home feeling deflated and exhausted, just a mental burnout. And all she talks about is the baby even when I ask how she is doing it reverts back to the baby.
I feel guilty because I can't deal with it and I've been an auntie since I was 11, I just find babies boring and I held him for a few mins whilst she enjoyed her cake, he dribbled all over my sleeve and hand and I genuinely felt sick, I don't deal well with soggy clothes at the best of times, but when it's cold wet dribble I'm like 🤢 and she asked for my help changing his nappy cause he pooped EVERYWHERE, and it was all on his hands and I was gagging from the sight and the smell and she got upset with me. Suggested I was repulsed by her baby, BUT IT WAS ACTUAL POO.
Is this not a normal reaction to poo?!?!?!?
I don't hate children at all, but I really struggle with dribble and vomit and poo.
I know I sound like a miserable turd, she asks me if her son has made me want a child, politely I say no. But my body is screaming NOOOOOO 🤣

Hi, I'm relatively new to bookbinding but I want to make a book for my friends birthday. She really likes three piece covers so I'm wondering if there's a way to do all three pieces with bookcloth without it looking untidy or having any raw edges? I know it's quite common for it to be paper and cloth so any advice would be really appreciated!

We're looking at buying a rural barn conversion in England at the end of a quiet hamlet, my only prior house-buying experience is a new build. The house is being sold off-market, we're friends with the neighbours who are also the estate agents.
There's next to no online information about the property; it's never been listed or sold before. There are two historic approved planning applications, one for the temporary use of a mobile home, and another for changing redundant farm outbuildings into a house workshop garage.
The property comprises the main barn and an attached annexe, connected by an internal door. The annexe is listed separately on the local county council website, suggesting it's a separate dwelling (Previously occupied by the previous owners' parents).
If there are no previous plans for the house, is that something we will have to consider for any future plans? I am concerned about any developments that might have happened without going through an official process. I assume the annexe was built under permitted development rights, so no need to submit planning, and it was built before 2008 at the latest. Luckily the entire plot sits behind the brow of a hill so cannot be seen from the road.
Ideally, we'd like to merge both into one larger dwelling. Are there implications for planning approval and also an updated council tax band? Additionally, we envision adding a second story to the annexe for extra bedrooms. Feasible or a planning nightmare?
As the property has no previous selling history, the price is a bit of a mystery. It comes with land and a lot of outbuildings, the estate agent has suggested £700k. The barn is a 2 bed with an additional 1 bed in the annexe. Nearby a 5 bed sold for £550k 5 years ago. We were thinking of offering £650k as it needs updating, plus we'd like to make the house "flow" more by merging them into one. My friends have suggested starting even lower (£550k) but I think this is entirely unrealistic?
Thanks for any input!

First time poster, don't know the rules or etiquette so please bear with me.
It feels like my world has fallen apart. I found out last night that my (35f) husband (38M) and father of an almost 3 year old and soon to be 2nd (first trimester), has been cheating on my with men throughout almost our entire relationship (9 years together, 5 years married.) I went downstairs and startled him and he hid his phone very quickly. So I took it from him, demanded his password, and found his secret instagram accounts where he's been messaging with men some very explicit things.
I quickly realized he'd hooked up with one of the guys when he was out of the country last year. He further confessed that he's always been Bi and just never felt the courage to tell me before. That almost since the beginning of our relationship, he'd be meeting up with random guys on grindr to get sucked off or fuck. In "respect of me," he only met with guys. Everytime he was out of the country for a bachelor party, or traveling he'd met random guys to hookup. He even hooked up with a guy while on a trip with me and my family before we got married - I went to bed early one night and he found a guy on grindr to fuck at the same resort we were staying at. I sometimes went on work trips and he'd bring a guy back to our house (before we had a kid). Every once in awhile when he went partying with his friends and I didn't hear from him, that was probably the reason.
His hookups are very attractive, younger men. Like early 20s. I looked throughout his instagrams, and after I had him reinstall grindr, looked at his messages there. It was a lot, but not a lot. He said he often deletes messages. He also had a seperate snapchat, which he deleted in the middle of me investigating his phone. He said they mean nothing to him, that he uses protection, that he liked the attention and feeling like he was wanted.
I point blank asked if he was actually gay and he denied it. I believe him, because I once, caught him get hard while looking at photos of women on Instagram. He used to follow and like posts of scantily clothed female instagram models until I told him it bothered me and he stopped. I also saw him getting hard watching videos of girls giving blowjobs. He also has no issue getting hard for me when we have sex. However, no one in his life now, besides me knows he's not straight. He said his attraction is 50/50 between the men and women.
We have though had issues in the bedroom and a very low sex life... because of me. In the beginning I couldn't keep my hands off him and vice versa. I was a very sexual person. I liked to go like 5 times a night before I met him. But he could really only last 1 or maybe twice, due to an issue with his equipment that he was born with. It would physically hurt him to do more. Eventually, it petered off further as my sex drive took a dive after some of my own health issues. It would physically hurt me when we had sex. It started to get really uncomfortable for me which made me not really want to do it anymore unless I was drunk and it didn't hurt as much. I also have an aversion to giving head... so that didn't help. Eventually, we would go on increasingly long stints of not having sex.. like months. I guess that's when he started to find satisfaction elsewhere.
I (then 26) tested for STDs and nothing, so never found out why the sudden change. Retrospectively, i definitely should have pursued it further, but was shamed by my older female doctor- who said it was normal to gain 20lbs in a few months and to have a decrease in sex drive. "It's called getting older"..... but that's another story.
He asked me not to break up our family. He understands if i want to leave, but that he doesn't want me to, that he loves me and wants to make us work. He says he has an addiction. That if we went back to how often we had sex in the beginning, he wouldn't need to find it elsewhere. That he'll stop cold turkey, because we mean more to him. We've already scheduled for couples counseling, and individual counseling for him. We deleted his 2nd snapchat, grindr account, and one of the instagram accounts he used to chat with guys. I may ask him to delete his other snapchat and 3 of his remaining instagram accounts. But I didn't want to completely deprive him, since I wouldn't live with out my socials...
But what kills me is why he didn't just break up with me when i couldn't give him enough of what he needed. Why did he stay with me? Why did he marry me and start a family? He's actually the one that wanted to have kids. And now I feel stuck, because I still love him. He was the sweetest, kindest, funniest guy I ever went out with. He was a caring and considerate husband, and an absolutely amazing father to our toddler.
I love him, but I don't know how I could ever trust him again. I don't know how I could ever let him touch me and not think about all the betrayal, the lies, the gaslighting. If this is a sex addiction, will I and our family ever really be enough? I don't want to give up without trying, but I'm broken. I don't know how to move forward. I'm worried this shock and all the stress will affect my pregnancy. Even though we're hiding it from my toddler, I'm having a tough time not crying in front of them.
I turned to reddit to see if anyone else can relate, can provide advise, can help me see the light.

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Long story short me and her are really close but she has some mental healing to do which she didn’t do and decided to latch onto someone new during us just being friends or something for the starting point of 2024 she strung me along well she moved away and came back to see her family for a couple days over that she made it clear she was trying to see “where it goes” with the new guy while saying she wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. (Sounded like a fling or an attachment. For the sake of the guy) remember I said she had couple mental healing to do well I took note of all this and it seem like she don’t know what she was doing while thinking she was , well anyways she was suppose to come on Thursdays and I called her way before telling her to come chill wich she said yes I know weird right , and well tonight Friday at 1:45 pm I called to assure her I won’t be home till after work and she picked up but suddenly hun up so later on I tried to go to sleep when the phone rang . Long story shorty she said why did I call and blah blah blah the guy kicked her out which I was oblivious she was with him since she said he was in Arkansas , well she ended up coming to my house and talked she was somewhat drunk and said he reminded her of me my past self which was bad it all sounded bad from where telling me he said something about killing her if she did something and that he pointed the gun at her and told her to put it in her mouth and such . This is what she told me from her drunk self she took my whiskey and got more wasted which led me to take away her keys and carry her into the bathroom and helping her out her pee stained clothes mind you she wasn’t unconscious and was consentful well I noticed what appeared to be bruises on her chest which turned out to be hickies of course smh (she can’t let anybodfuck and should create boundaries ) after all that I told her if he hit her and she said that he took advantage of her and she just kind of went blank drunk and I threw her on my bed and she is sleeping at my house next to me while I have to get up to work at in 45 minutes it’s 5:27 and I’m on the verge of bei fired if I don’t show up I’ll get terminated and I haven’t slept all night idk what to feel I feel kinda ashamed since I knew she wasn’t making a right decision with him but did it out of something maybe an attachment or validation she told me what type of guy she wanted but she attracts people like “me” I’m not a bad guy just had bad action in the past which I’m well on moved on since she left while she jumped to quick into something without even working on her self or her mental health

(Note, this is one of those long, loooong “I went to Greece and this is what I did” post)
I've wanted to go to Greece since I was young. I wrote in my diary when I was 17 that I would go one day and exactly 10 years later I would actually go. Took me 4 years to save up. So I'm very happy.
I have 9 days there, 27th APR to 5th MAY
I arrived very early on the first day which is the 27th with my one backpack and one daypack, and went to Keramikos right away. Had ice cream on the way because I craved sweets after 17 hours traveling. I really love it there and it, along with Delphi, are my most favorite places I visited. I really like how tranquil it is, and I really like the museum and also the tortoises too. I had a dream about tortoises that night. Then I stopped and ate a Greek salad. I learned how to compliment food in Greek and made the waiter laugh lol. The second place I went to is the Agora and the temple of Hephaestus. The whole area is very beautiful, but I accidentally fell asleep and didn’t realize I was sitting where I shouldn’t be sitting but luckily someone woke me up. Felt bad about it :/ Well, anyway, I looked at the museum in the agora too. I really like the big shield (I didn’t know it’s a shield at first. it’s huge.). I found that I get dehydrated so quickly, so I tried to drink as often as I can. I can see the temple of Hephaestus from the agora! It look like a painting. I walked around the place, I just want to convince myself that I’m actually here first before I go to see the temple of Hephaestus. The people back home’s not gonna believe this, the temple is so pristine, so wonderfully preserved. I get to look at the inside which is not often in the pictures. Then I walked past the Monastiraki square to go to my hotel, then came out to get gyro. I slept at a hotel that night because I accidentally booked it (I intend to stay the rest of the night in Athens in a cheaper apartment).
The next day was the 28th May, initially a day trip to Delphi but as I got there I found out my booking was cancelled due to some problem so I booked a new one on the next available day which is the 30th. Initially, the 30th was the day I intended to climb Acropolis because it’s weekday/less busy, but it’s ok! so, I left my baggage in a baggage store place, and walk to Acropolis! I was very excited, my heart beat very fast all the way up and not because I’m tired or anything. I just can't believe I’m actually here. It’s very slippery, and at one point I look and see a long walk up, so I was busy looking at the path and not looking up because I was afraid of slipping, so I get to look around only once I was at the top, and when I look down I finally saw the Herodion and it is bigger and higher up than I thought, and my hair stand up. The Acropolis was ok, but the Erechtheion have always interest me more, because again, it’s on more thing that’s bigger in real life than in pictures. The path down from Acropolis is even more slippery. There were so many musicians, it’s very lively. Met a really cool guy who dressed as Spartan warrior. I walked through the Acropolis museum. I got sad about the missing karyatid, because there were 5 of them displayed, but the vacant space they left for the 6th made me sad. I hope she will stand in that spot one day (I was already missing my sisters and family too… so it feels a little personal to me.) I got really tired then so I ate another salad but this time an Athenian salad. Then I climbed Philopapou! I noticed a tall monument from the top of the Acropolis and wanted to see what it is. On the way I visited the prison of Sokrates, and then this clearing called Pnyx, and it's windy there and got a lot of shade so I slept a while before going to the top of it. Well the monument is beautiful and tall. I can't believe that, compared to the rest of the places I visited before, this monument is considered new. I got lost a bit on the way down (I didn’t go down the way I came. there is a path from the monument and I wanna see where it goes). and um, something happen on the way down. A man asked me if I want to get a coffee with him. I politely declined but that’s the first time in my hideous person life that someone ‘flirt’ with me. People don’t do that, unless as a joke. So I feel weird I guess but not bad at all. Anyway I was so tired so I call taxi with the app Freenow. it’s decent price, I think. I goes to get my baggage and walk to the apartment I’ll be staying and I found a “super food market” on the way (near Temple of Olympian Zeus) and I got some energy bars there. I watched the Temple of Zeus from behind the gate (I didn’t pay to go inside) and see the statue of Alexander the Great on the way. I wash my cloth at the apartment and ate instant rice porridge I brought from home (I was on budget, I can’t eat out every meal).
On the 29th May I woke early so I can have breakfast and hot tea because I got a little sick last night. It’s usually 35 degree celsius in my country so I’m not used to the cold. The tour office is just a few minutes walk from my apartment. I get to sit in the front of the bus and see in front, not just on the side! I’m excited because the route is ancient route, like there are temples on the way, and pass by Eleusis (I really like the book “The King must Die” by Mary Renault and it’s a location for important part of the story about Theseus) After a brief stop where I get to walk to the bridge across the Corinth canal, I finally got to Epidaurus. The theatre there is so unreal. Climbed to the top and still hear the ‘clink!’ of someone dropping a coin on the orchestra below. Museum is pretty, and the fact that almost all the statues are missing their heads are kinda eerie. there are so many medical tools in the museum too. Really made me realized about the fact that people nowaday come to Epidaurus for the theatre but people long ago come here to be treated for their illness. Very difference purposes. The tour stopped at Nafplio for lunch. Had grilled dish and learned how to squeeze lemon on meats. Also went to pharmacy to get something for a sore throat and a face mask. An hour later I was in Mycenae archeological site! I really looked forward to see the Lion gate and it did not dissappoint. Bigger and taller than I imagined. 2 years ago I painted a picture of the Lion gate, and I tried walking around for an angle that fit the one in my painting. I took one, and when I put the pictures and the painting side by side, it’s almost the same angle, just different lighting! (It was morning in my painting, but mid day when I took the picture) It’s very intimidating and I imagine it must have been very scary to defeated enemies or captives, being brought into this city and looking up from their chains to see the lions. The tomb of Atreus is chilling. Both because it’s cold inside but also because it’s, well, a tomb. A large and important one. Overall, Argolis is a beautiful region, a lot of plains and very windy. Once again very tired when I got back to my apartment, but I get to wash my hair!
The 30th is my long-awaited Delphi day tour. Like I said, this was originally on the 28th but due to problem with, I think, the app I used to book it, it got cancelled without me knowing, and the tour company is very helpful and helped me book it for a very fair price, but I’ll just have to buy tickets myself. It’s a longer drive this time, but the sceneries is beautiful. I LOVE mountains, so the views interests me all the way there (even if I didn’t get to sit in the front, and the window is tinted so it’s a little dark) I really admire bus drivers in Greece. The mountain path is narrow in the village on the way, but they’re all very good drivers. It’s quite cold up there. There are caterpillar silk nest on the pine trees that look like cotton candies. Delphi is… um, it’s like it’s not in this world. It’s like it’s from another world, and maybe you could say that it is, it’s from the world in the past, or something. I felt as if I was in a dream. I can’t explain it, but it make the place all quiet and tranquil despite all the wind and the tourists. Like there are tourists, but it also feel as though they don’t exist, but it’s doesn’t feel vacant either, but instead there’s “presence” all around that doesn’t come from the tourists. I understand now why the people in the past believe that this is center of the world, or believe that gods were here. The tour guide said to meet at the museum in an hour and a half, and I really want to go see the small temple to Athena, just beyond the athletes area, but I was afraid I wouldn’t go to the tour guide in time so I didn’t go. Kinda regrets it. Anyway I fell in love at the museum in Delphi. The artifacts inside are gorgeous, I particularly love the sphynx and the charioteer (bought a postcard of it back home) but none as gorgeous as the statue of Antinous. He’s beautiful and I’ve never seen a boy more lovely than him, even the living ones. I seen the stone that contain a ‘sheet music’ and lyrics. I remember that melody, because I played a game called Assassin’s Creed Origin once and the musician NPCs sometimes plays this music. It’s good to finally see the ‘sheet music’ itself! Had a bit of a late lunch and had feta cheese salad, it’s delicious. Another long drive back, where I get to nap a bit.There’s a dessert place nearby where I tried some pastry and then a convenient store where I bought pudding from a freezer. Greece only have 3 Lays flavours that I’ve seen but a lot of bars of grains and cereal to choose from which I really enjoy (especially the ones with honey)
On the May day, I pack my things and checked out, again with my backpack on the back and daypack on the front. I called a taxi this time, before the strike happen, so I can go to the national archeological museum. I know the museum already have place to deposit backpacks. I walked around for about 4 hours. Everything is pretty even if I was still thinking about Antinous. Everything is amazing to me there. I like to be reminded of the fact that it’s really human’s nature to make pretty things. I visited the museum giftshop too. I travelled alone with little space so I know I shouldn’t buy lots of souvenirs, but I did get a lot of postcards because I like them, and allow myself one book. Had a heated gyros outside, just a quick bite, while I wait for a ‘break’ in the strike, then take the taxi to Spata, near the airport, because I have a very early flight tomorrow. I booked a room there that’s really huge (it’s a bit expansive, because there are flight change so I had to find new hotel.) Since I arrived in the early evening, I get to wash my cloths and see it dry before the night. It’s really really cold out here now. I get to rest the whole evening and eat the food I bought earlier. (I took a foldable tupperware with me. I use them to pack lunch for work but this trip I used it to pack leftovers from tavernas). I sleep early and was kinda nervous about the flight, but I woke early too.
on the 2nd of May, I booked a taxi on Freenow since the day before so by the time the taxi arrive, I was already standing outside waiting. Again, I shouldn't have gone out to wait early and should've stayed inside the building until the taxi arrived, because it's so cold, and I think this got me sich later. The flight went well and took me to Herakleion safely. I have a little problem finding which bus goes to the city but I found it and arrived safely to the center too. I took the bus number 2 to Knossos! I got very excited when I see the road sign that indicated that Knossos was just ahead. I ate first though. I had moussaka. I bought an audio guide because I want to try touring using an audio guide, and the direction was confusing, maybe because it's not updated. I ended up walking around and around trying to find the spot the tour was talking about. Knossos is as I expected. It was mostly reconstructed, but I still had a lot of fun imagining what it could look like, and thinking about the people that lived there. It means something to me because I've always been obsessed with the minotaur since I was little, since before knowing what country the story come from. So seeing something related to, or even potentially the origin of the tale, has been super exciting to me, and also because, as I mentioned, I really like Renault's “The King Must Die”. I really love it there. The review said it’s not authentic and I agree, but to me, it matters enough that I’m here, so I’m very happy with that. Unfortunately, I spent so much time in Knossos that I didn’t spent as much as I want in Herakleion musuem! Still feel bad about that. But I get to see the bull leap frescoes, and all the pots and vases and statues with bulls on it. There’s so many thing with bulls, like a statue and a really beautiful bull head vessel and a small statuettes with people grabbing on a bull’s horns. I really love them all. I get to see the real vase with octopus. I have a blanket with Minoan octopus on it, it’s good to see the real thing. I got a tiny bronze bull replica of the one in the museum. It’s small so it doesn’t weight much. Unfortunately, for the rest of my journey, I’d be sick. It start with sore throat that evening, which progress into symptoms of sinusitis. I had to visit the pharmacy again. Hot tea didn’t help this time, my nose was too dry for too long and I think I’ve been cold for too long as well.
The 3rd of May is holiday, I know this, so I pick this as the day to travel to Chania via bus and explore Chania. I woke up when I’m ready because I’m in no rush today. I ate all the supplies I had for dinner and breakfast to make my pack light, so I head out of the hotel and walk to the bus station. I waited a while, feeling myself getting more sick. It was about 3 hours to Chania with no bathroom break so I suffered a bit, but wow, the landscape of Crete is so much different from Attika. It’s less trees and more of large bushes. All the way, the right side is the sea, and the left is the mountain. It’s beautiful. I miss the cypress though, there are less cypress in Crete. On the way though! I saw a goat with a really big horns. I think it’s one of those Cretan wild goat, which I was excited to see at Samaria gorge. I had to use the bathroom real quick after I arrived. The bus stop is near my hotel, but it’s not time to check in yet, so I went and had lunch by the harbour. Look pretty just like in the pictures I’ve seen! I had calamari and sakanagi. It’s so delicious and refreshing. They have rice which is different from the one in my country, the rice is tiny and round and cuter than the white fluffy rice at my home. I was so full. I learned about how, after you asked for the bill, they’ll give you dessert first so I really look forward to it. I got a really good dessert too, and had to sit a while because I’m so full. I walked to the hotel, and there are two identical entrance. Luckily the staff was there and show me the right entrance. My room for the last 3 nights is small and cozy, really love it. I hope to eat out at dinner, but unfortunately, by that time, my sickness got so bad, I can only walk to the nearby supermarket and buy a salad and tea with honey. Tomorrow I was supposed to go hike the Samaria gorge. I’m a regular person, I wasn’t super fit, but I’m not a weakling either, and I have hiked in my country several times but it’s a different climate (hot and wet tropical jungle, not dry and cold) and I got Covid once which got my health down so bad that I had trouble even walking up stair but I bounced back since then. But this hike is a bit longer than my longest hike, so I trained myself for it for about 6 months and got fitter than I’ve ever been. I was so ready, sooooo ready. But that night, I had to emailed them to cancelled the hike because I got a bad fever, and my throat is all red. I just tried making myself feel comfortable all night. It’s a sad 4th of May, but I got better in the evening! When I’m sure I was well, I went out. Tomorrow everything will close again so this is my last chance to buy souvenirs. I got more postcards and, since I couldn’t go to Samaria to see the goats, I bought myself a little goat plushie that have “Love Crete” embroidered on his back. I would love if I could buy plushie from different countries I visited, of an important animals of that place (I got an emu from when I was in Australia) and for dinner, there’s this place called To Xani that I’ve read review of and wanted to try so I went. I have rabbit stifado because I’ve never tried rabbit. It’s like chicken but less fat and more sweet, to me. So far, that’s my favourite dish of all I’ve tried in Greece. That night, I planed to go to church and see how Christian celebrates Easter, but unfortunately, as the night gets late, I got sick again, so I went to sleep.
The 5th, my last day, is my relaxing day, which initially I want to use it to stroll around the city and chill. Instead I lay sick almost all day. I haven’t eaten the Cretan dish on my list yet, which is last one left on my list; Cretan pie. So I went out anyway during the evening and ordered a takeaway to eat at my hotel. At least I’m happy with that, especially because I stopped to watch the sun set for the last time before I leave tomorrow.
I pre-booked a taxi which take me to the airport. I flew from Chania to Athens, then I switched to another airline that take me home, with a 4 hours stop at Istanbul. during the longest leg of the flight, which is Istanbul to my home, I got more sick so rapidly (I think the cold and dry cabin air got me) I feel so guilty because I was afraid I might make other people sick too. (I wear mask all the time). 28 hours after I left my hotel in Chania, I got home safe with a new goat friend.
So, that’s my adventure! I’m not sure why I got that sick.It’s not covid though. I noticed that the dry climate made me thirsty very often and I think maybe I was dehydrated? Or is it simply the cold? Or maybe I caught something from Greek people because I noticed a lot of people were sneezing. Is it the season? I noticed some olive trees have flowers when it’s supposed to bloom in summer, so there’s an unusual weather and that make people sick and I caught something from them?
Next time I’ll bring some medicines of my own because medicines are expansive there. Next time, I’ll be better prepared. I want to go back again, because I haven’t seen everything yet. And especially have not hiked Samaria yet. Maybe next time, I’ll go when it’s warmer, but not in the middle of European people’s summer holiday, because I don’t like too many people.
Anyway, the trip may have ended badly, but over all it’s still a wonderful trip. I learned a lot about traveling, I become motivated to start another side hustle so I can make more money to travel, I learned about life outside my country. It’s also worth everything I have been doing to get here too. Overall, I’m very very happy, and can see myself going back there again.
Actually, during the time I prepare for this trip, one of the preparation is learning how to speak Greek. I learned on free online sources, and I’m proud that I get to speak Greek to Greek people (say things like "This food is delicious" "I like it" "the weather is cold" "I'm traveling for ten days")
I think people will ask because somehow some people can tell, so I’ll answer first, yes i have autism. I don’t expect many people to read to the end but thank you if you do. English is not my first language so I'm sorry for grammar mistakes that I made. Feel free to talk about your own experience too because I always love hearing about it. I’m from Thailand by the way.

Hey hammockcamping community,
I'm super excited to share my upcoming adventure with you all! This summer, I’m planning a two-week hammock camping trip across Spain in June and July, and I’ve recently ordered the Onewind Northers Hammock for the journey.
Why Spain?
Spain offers a fantastic mix of vibrant cities, beautiful landscapes, and rich culture. Plus, the weather during this time of year is generally warm and sunny, with temperatures ranging from 15°C at night to 30°C or more during the day. It's perfect for hammock camping and exploring both urban and natural settings.
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Travel Plan
I plan to fly out and will be using the Osprey Daylite® Carry-On Travel Pack 44 as my underseat carry-on backpack. This way, I can avoid the hassle of checked luggage and keep my gear lightweight and portable.
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Gear and Preparation
Here's a quick rundown of my gear and how I’m preparing for the trip:
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1. Hammock Setup: • Onewind Northers Hammock: Just ordered and can’t wait to test it out! It’s a double-layer hammock to fit a sleeping pad inside and comes with an integrated bug net but no tarp. • Sleeping Pad: Considering bringing a Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XLite for added comfort and insulation. • Sleeping Bag: Any recommendations ? • Inflatable Pillow • Tarp: Maybe bringing a separate tarp for extra protection. 2. Clothing and Essentials: • I’ll pack lightweight, breathable clothing suitable for the hot Spanish summer. • A nice outfit for city visits. • Essentials like a hat, sunglasses, and sunscreen are a must. 3. Electronics: • My phone, a portable charger, and wireless earbuds for convenience. • GoPro Hero 6 with extra batteries to capture all the amazing moments. 

Support from My Sister
I’ll be visiting my sister who lives in Madrid. This is a great advantage as I can borrow some items from her or order additional gear from Amazon to her place if needed. It’s reassuring to know that I can resupply or get any last-minute essentials without carrying everything from the start.
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Managing Food and Water
I plan to carry lightweight, non-perishable food and a portable water filter to refill on the go. I’ll also be staying in hostels for about five nights, giving me opportunities to refresh and resupply.
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Itinerary
My itinerary includes a mix of urban exploration and camping in scenic spots. I aim to balance my time between experiencing Spain’s rich cultural cities and relaxing in nature.
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Questions for the Community
Does this setup seem feasible for a two-week trip across Spain? Has anyone had experience hammock camping in hot weather? Any tips or suggestions on gear, especially for dealing with the heat?
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I’m thrilled about this trip and would love to hear any insights or recommendations from those who have done similar adventures.
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Happy hanging!

My GF (34) and I (33) have been together for 4 years. We have a son together. I have to highlight how loyal she has always been. She is a big introvert and I have NEVER been having any doubts about, nor have I ever been jealous... until now!About 2 years ago my GF got a new job in a company that has a lot of branches around in other countries. Due to this, she is travelling from time to time (lets say 3 times a year), and I have never had any reasons to be paranoid of insecure about it because of the way she is, she is not keen on the travelling because of the type of a person she is, she is not good at smalltalks or bonding with colleagues or people in general.
About 5 months ago she came to me telling me that her boss wanted her to go to (lets say) Paris for 3 days for a project that she had been working on since starting that new job. I knew she was working with a male co-worker on the project because that has never been a secret, she has always told me he was a very nice guy, very helpful and good at the job, but always assured that he was married with kids, and very not charming or her type at all. However, about 2 weeks before the trip I started noticing that her private phone became a lot more secret, but I wasnt sure if this was just myself telline me this, or if it was actually true because I would never expect something like this from her at all. She has very little friends, and she is barely ever on the phone (unless its family) and certainly not hiding it from me. I let it go until about 3-4 days before the trip. I was lying in bed reading when she got back home late (fitness class), she took her phone and sat on the couch in the living room and suddenly I could hear that she was texting with someone, like a lot (I know because she is one of those people who has the sound on when typing) for a long time (about an hour - 1,5) before I couldnt bare it anymore so I went out and confronted her asking who it was.
She almost jumped out of the couch almost as if I had just busted her in the middle of a murder, confessing that it was him, but that he was just a friend, saying he was not her type, he was married etc etc etc. basically defending herself. I was in shock and kinda blacked out so I dont remember much of that talk / discussion, but shortly after she "had" to urgently go for a shower, funny as she had been home texting with him for more than an hour, but suddenly shower couldnt wait. I was paranoid, insecure and afraid of what was actually going on. I couldnt believe it. next morning during work she wrote to me not to be worried and that it was just nice to have a "friend". I asked her if he was flirting with her, and she told me she did not feel like he was. I did not talk to her for 2 days after that before she came to me one evening saying that she missed me and that she was ready to have a second child with me (Something I have wanted for a very long time so that was a big thing for me) and suddenly everything had changed.
Monday morning she left for Paris and I didnt hear from her ALL day despite the fact that she knew exactly how worried I was. That evening around 8h00!!! pm ish she sent me a text saying she would call in 20 min. More of an "in 20 min, I have a bit of time so be ready!" in a very stressful way. We had a video call for about 20 min and I could sense immediately that she was tipsy if not drunk! and she told me they had just gotten back from work, and that they (according to her, another female colleague, the guy and herself). however, we spoke for about 20 min, she told me she missed me and loved me and it made me feel very good. I slept okay that night.
Next day (last full day in Paris) I didnt hear from her at all again. In fact I texted her during the afternoon that I felt a bit ignored, but again she told me they were busy and that I had nothing to worry about. That evening it was same story. around 8 pm she calls me, I didnt pick up because I was driving, and she asked me when I would be available for a call, again in a very stressful way, so I texted her asking why it was so urgent to which she answered and I quote "We worked so much all day, and I just want to see you because Im so tired I might fall asleep any minute".. AT 8 PM!!! on a business trip... I knew that was bullshit, but I chose to believe it. We had the call as I got home, and after 20 min she says the same, that she had to go to bed because she was so tired, lying on the bed in clothes.!
Next day she had to travel all day back home, this was on valentines day (very ironically), and again I barely heard from her all day. We had agreed long in advance that she would pick up our son and take him home before going to a fitness class (very expensive one that she had paid for in advance). Before arriving home I went for roses since it was valentines day. I got home just in time to see her before her class. She told me she had missed me and that she would never go back to that place, and that she would most probably dump that entire project. She went to her class, but left both her private and her work phone at home. I have never done anything like this before in my life because I had never had reason to do so. But my gut and my intuition told me that something was wrong. I opened the screen on her private phone and could see that she ofcourse had messages from him. I didnt manage to guess her pin code and instead I took her work phone, guessed the code first time and saw the very first message in their chat on Zoom. It was from the night she had told me about the second baby (only 2 nights before the trip) and I quote "Peace has been reinstated at home by a miracle, I will see you Monday"......... My heart pumped harder than ever before and ofcourse it caught my curiosity and I HAD to see more. For weeks, maybe months they had texted nonstop, all day during work via Zoom and evenings and weekends via whatsapp. Now, again my GF is not flirtatious at all so to her defence I would say most of her messages was simple answers which can be interpreted in both ways whereas he was very offensive, at one point very shortly before the trip she even asks him if he is flirting with her to what he is answering "I will let you decide that" and to which she replied "it doesnt bother me at all". I also found out that the night we had a video call when she told me she was too tired, while I was on her screen she had sent him a text sayin "ready to go"
She came home, I confronted her, she begged me to give her another chance assuring me nothing happened physically at all, and that they just had drinks. Next morning we both took off from work. I was exhausted and still in shock. That morning she called in sick, told him that she needed to talk to him in person and they had a call. She told him to stop texting her, and that what they have been doing was wrong and crazy and he agreed, but it didnt stick for long. Only a few days later he sent her messages saying that he missed talking to her and that it was all a misunderstanding, that nothing happened that can be considered cheating etc etc. I know that because she showed it all to me. She didnt reply to his messages.
Its been 4 months now, and I have had some really difficult days with bad thoughts and worries because they still work together which is really hard on me. We still talk about it from time to time when I need to share my worries. She keeps assuring me that they are strictly professional, and that they do not talk about anything but work. They have stopped communicated on whatsapp during evenings or weekends, that I know for sure, but about 1 months ago I felt so insecure that it got me to take her work phone again, and as I wanted to snoop I found that she had changed her pincode again which ofcourse sends me a signal that something is going on (at least in my head). What I CAN see are only the zoom messages on the start screen that he is sending to her (the notifications she is not removing from the start screen), but I cant read the messages she is sending back to him. I check the phone almost every evening since then, and funny enough she ALWAYS without exception has messages from him and it is very rarely something about work, it is not flirtatious either, but it is personal stuff that is not related to work which she promised me they wouldnt. For example her work requires her to work one weekend every 3 months and even saturday 10 pm he asks her if she needs any help and I know that he only does so to start a conversation with her, I mean 10 pm at night on a saturday you sit with your work phone in hand asking your colleagues if they need help?
I almost feel stupid for asking because, especially now that I have been writing it all down and read it through, it seems very obvious to me that I cant trust her, but I would like to hear your take on this. Should I be worried still? Can I trust her, should I leave her?
Should I confront her about the snooping ?

yesterday after a relapse i decided no more hiding this summer. I wanna enjoy and wear the clothes I want without worrying about fresh wounds. I'm gonna try to stay clean the entire summer until at least september ❤️ <3 it'll be hard

Wart showed up on my forehead a while ago and before I knew what it was I picked at it subconsciously and made it worse. It grew to about 5mm high and almost a centimetre in diameter with a spiky, scaly surface sitting proud.
Already had a lot of potassium hydroxide lying around and a quick Google turned up some papers suggesting it was effective so I gave it a try.
Started with 5% KOH applied nightly with a cotton bud. First applications were obviously effective with a soapy feeling as it dissolved the outer layer and debris coming with it. As the outer layer hardened it stopped doing so much and required soaking in warm water first, then drying with tissue before application. I did cause some minor skin damage near it which scabbed by being too liberal with the application and trying to attack the base with the cotton bud rather than just applying to the top. So best avoid that. Wash any KOH off the skin immediately if you miss the target.
I increased the concentration to 10% since papers mentioned both 5 and 10 being used. This was more effective though I still had a situation where sometimes it would do a lot and other times nothing. I stopped using the cotton bud and started just applying a tiny drop to the surface with a fine syringe though without the mechanical action of rubbing with the cotton bud I think this was less effective at removing tissue. This still had some noticeable effect and proved less risky in terms of avoiding damage to nearby skin. A drop of top and then covering to keep it there would probably be good but wasn't practical with where it was.
I did not debride the surface as useless information online told me not to try cutting it and I hadn't looked here before to see that debriding was common. I did burn it a few times with the red hot tip of a scalpel though and this similarly destroyed the outer layer allowing the KOH to penetrate. It was this burning and KOH application that finally seemed to finish off the last of it. Took about a month or maybe 6 weeks total I think but I'm now left with a smooth area that has shown no sign of regrowth. Not sure if they'll be any scarring but don't really care about that as it's on the hairline anyway.