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My sister (22), and I (17 f) have a pretty close relationship. Both of us grew up having severe mental health issues but, unlike her, I have been fortunate enough to know how to face my trauma and be honest with myself. She, on the other side, has a hard time recognising her faults and missteps. I feel as though in this situation this is relevant and couldn’t be more obvious, as she is planning to sell hers and her ex boyfriend’s cat when in reality the fluff ball hasn’t been hers in years.
For context, my entire family is Russian and Ukrainian, but myself and sis (let’s call her Sarah) grew up in Spain. I still live here but she was kicked out at age 15 and went to live with gran in Russia. There she met a 20yo guy, Pol, at 18 and moved with him to Poland.
As for the kitty in question: it was a new year’s present for Sarah about 4 years ago and moved along with her and her then boyfriend Pol and was technically raised and owned by them both.
Now onto the issue… so Sarah and Pol broke up about 2 years ago. It was Sarah’s first ever relationship so it was extremely hard for her. Pol was and is an amazing guy. He’s kind, affectionate and was always there for my sisters emotional breaks. They broke up because Sarah said he was immature and didn’t have big enough goals in her opinion. Which is okay imo, and isn’t a negative show of either of their characters. To this day Pol checks up on me as he knows about my struggles and the shit I’ve been through, I view him as an older brother as he was one of the only ones who was there for me after a suicide attempt and unlike my sister he actually remembers my birthday.
To be clear, I love Sarah. Though I try not to, I realise I still resent her a bit for some things. The excuse I and everyone else has for her is that she’s unwell, but I’m unwell and I don’t treat her like she sometimes treats me. Anyways, this is where my potential bias comes in. Sarah tells me she is planning to take her and her exes cat away and sell it to someone she doesn’t even know because “Pol isn’t capable to care of anything”. BUT THE CAT HAS LIVED ALONE WITH HIM FOR YEARS NOW. My sister moved back to Spain after the breakup and they haven’t really spoken since then. I have been talking to Pol briefly but not rarely and I know how much that cat means to him. Without the kitty Pol would be in shambles. He sometimes confesses he still cared and misses Sarah SO IMAGINE LOSING THE FLUFF BALL!
I was absolutely flabbergasted after hearing my sisters plan. I very diplomatically and sensitively told her I thought it would be a little cruel to both Pol and the kitty as it technically wasn’t hers anymore, but she got frustrated and stated that her name was on the cat’s passport and therefore it was HER cat and I had no right to dictate what to do with it. I left it at that but was really upset by her reaction.
So AITA for telling my sister her cat isn’t hers?

Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, For theirs is the kingdom of heaven. - Matthew 5:10
See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don’t recognize that we are God’s children because they don’t know him. Dear friends, we are already God’s children, but he has not yet shown us what we will be like when Christ appears. But we do know that we will be like him, for we will see him as he really is. And all who have this eager expectation will keep themselves pure, just as he is pure.
Everyone who sins is breaking God’s law, for all sin is contrary to the law of God. And you know that Jesus came to take away our sins, and there is no sin in him. Anyone who continues to live in him will not sin. But anyone who keeps on sinning does not know him or understand who he is.
Dear children, don’t let anyone deceive you about this: When people do what is right, it shows that they are righteous, even as Christ is righteous. But when people keep on sinning, it shows that they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning. But the Son of God came to destroy the works of the devil. Those who have been born into God’s family do not make a practice of sinning, because God’s life is in them. So they can’t keep on sinning, because they are children of God. So now we can tell who are children of God and who are children of the devil. Anyone who does not live righteously and does not love other believers does not belong to God. - I John 3:1-10
Nominal Christians have not truly come to know Jesus yet, and as such, they only have the wicked, inverted view of Christianity that they are spoon-fed by the lukewarm church. Their views are often quite literally the opposite of scripture, for scripture says that those who know Jesus will walk like Him, putting sin out of their lives and becoming more like Christ, loving God and loving others. But when they see someone living a godly life, they accuse them of being evil and trying to work their way to Jesus. Again, this is inverted, as scripture tells us that the reason authentic Christians live a godly life is because they know Jesus. It is those who continue to keep sin around, like a pet, who have not known the Lord yet.
But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! For of this sort are those who creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts, always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. - II Timothy 3:1-7
But people who aren’t spiritual can’t receive these truths from God’s Spirit. It all sounds foolish to them and they can’t understand it, for only those who are spiritual can understand what the Spirit means. - I Corinthians 2:14
But you, my dear friends, must remember what the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ predicted. They told you that in the last times there would be scoffers whose purpose in life is to satisfy their ungodly desires. These people are the ones who are creating divisions among you. They follow their natural instincts because they do not have God’s Spirit in them. - Jude 1:17-18
But I do not write to put these people down, only to encourage those who are put down by them. I, too, was once a nominal Christian, walking according to my own lusts. I remember the contention between my wife (a godly woman who despised my sin) and myself (a defensive backslider who was not truly walking with the Lord). We must not hate those who still walk in darkness, though they hate us. We ought to pity them instead and speak the truth in love. But once it becomes evident that they actually love pleasure rather than God or that they lack saving faith in the redeeming power of God that is able to make us holy, then we ought to take heed of scripture and go our separate way.
Don't be discouraged when these people persecute you for righteousness' sake. They will say many hurtful and provocative things when the darkness inside of them feels threatened, but even if they call you a self-righteous demon, remember this:
Students are to be like their teacher, and slaves are to be like their master. And since I, the master of the household, have been called the prince of demons, the members of my household will be called by even worse names! - Matthew 10:25
God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice, for they will be satisfied. - Matthew 5:6
And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will. - II Timothy 2:24-26
For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. - Ephesians 6:12
I know that false teachers, like vicious wolves, will come in among you after I leave, not sparing the flock. Even some men from your own group will rise up and distort the truth in order to draw a following. - Acts 20:29-30
But I am not surprised! Even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no wonder that his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. In the end they will get the punishment their wicked deeds deserve. - II Corinthians 11:14-15
Dear brothers and sisters, be patient as you wait for the Lord’s return. Consider the farmers who patiently wait for the rains in the fall and in the spring. They eagerly look for the valuable harvest to ripen. You, too, must be patient. Take courage, for the coming of the Lord is near. - James 5:7-8

Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, For theirs is the kingdom of heaven. - Matthew 5:10
See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don’t recognize that we are God’s children because they don’t know him. Dear friends, we are already God’s children, but he has not yet shown us what we will be like when Christ appears. But we do know that we will be like him, for we will see him as he really is. And all who have this eager expectation will keep themselves pure, just as he is pure.
Everyone who sins is breaking God’s law, for all sin is contrary to the law of God. And you know that Jesus came to take away our sins, and there is no sin in him. Anyone who continues to live in him will not sin. But anyone who keeps on sinning does not know him or understand who he is.
Dear children, don’t let anyone deceive you about this: When people do what is right, it shows that they are righteous, even as Christ is righteous. But when people keep on sinning, it shows that they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning. But the Son of God came to destroy the works of the devil. Those who have been born into God’s family do not make a practice of sinning, because God’s life is in them. So they can’t keep on sinning, because they are children of God. So now we can tell who are children of God and who are children of the devil. Anyone who does not live righteously and does not love other believers does not belong to God. - I John 3:1-10
Nominal Christians have not truly come to know Jesus yet, and as such, they only have the wicked, inverted view of Christianity that they are spoon-fed by the lukewarm church. Their views are often quite literally the opposite of scripture, for scripture says that those who know Jesus will walk like Him, putting sin out of their lives and becoming more like Christ, loving God and loving others. But when they see someone living a godly life, they accuse them of being evil and trying to work their way to Jesus. Again, this is inverted, as scripture tells us that the reason authentic Christians live a godly life is because they know Jesus. It is those who continue to keep sin around, like a pet, who have not known the Lord yet.
But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! For of this sort are those who creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts, always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. - II Timothy 3:1-7
But people who aren’t spiritual can’t receive these truths from God’s Spirit. It all sounds foolish to them and they can’t understand it, for only those who are spiritual can understand what the Spirit means. - I Corinthians 2:14
But you, my dear friends, must remember what the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ predicted. They told you that in the last times there would be scoffers whose purpose in life is to satisfy their ungodly desires. These people are the ones who are creating divisions among you. They follow their natural instincts because they do not have God’s Spirit in them. - Jude 1:17-18
But I do not write to put these people down, only to encourage those who are put down by them. I, too, was once a nominal Christian, walking according to my own lusts. I remember the contention between my wife (a godly woman who despised my sin) and myself (a defensive backslider who was not truly walking with the Lord). We must not hate those who still walk in darkness, though they hate us. We ought to pity them instead and speak the truth in love. But once it becomes evident that they actually love pleasure rather than God or that they lack saving faith in the redeeming power of God that is able to make us holy, then we ought to take heed of scripture and go our separate way.
Don't be discouraged when these people persecute you for righteousness' sake. They will say many hurtful and provocative things when the darkness inside of them feels threatened, but even if they call you a self-righteous demon, remember this:
Students are to be like their teacher, and slaves are to be like their master. And since I, the master of the household, have been called the prince of demons, the members of my household will be called by even worse names! - Matthew 10:25
God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice, for they will be satisfied. - Matthew 5:6
And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will. - II Timothy 2:24-26
For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. - Ephesians 6:12
I know that false teachers, like vicious wolves, will come in among you after I leave, not sparing the flock. Even some men from your own group will rise up and distort the truth in order to draw a following. - Acts 20:29-30
But I am not surprised! Even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no wonder that his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. In the end they will get the punishment their wicked deeds deserve. - II Corinthians 11:14-15
Dear brothers and sisters, be patient as you wait for the Lord’s return. Consider the farmers who patiently wait for the rains in the fall and in the spring. They eagerly look for the valuable harvest to ripen. You, too, must be patient. Take courage, for the coming of the Lord is near. - James 5:7-8

Hey all, wow its been about a month since I last was in here and finally it's my turn to share my "success" getting over your ex story. I will skip the cliche "it does get better" etc. and would rather tell you how my journey went for those past 4 months and what's next ahead, because self improvement is constant effort guys! Buckle up this will be a different kind of ride :)
Just an important part of this journey is that literally the day after I last saw my ex I got laid off work...
Month 1: I was an absolute wreck, constant crying, not being able to sleep, not eating, barelly functioning my weekly therapy sessions kept me going pretty much getting stitched-up on a weekly basis. Looking back now I'm kinda happy I lost my job which allowed me to take my time to "suffer" and feel it all. This whole month I joined an online community about people struggling with breakups because my closest friends are in another town and couldn't support me much besides picking up my calls and giving me a listening shoulder. Having a support system in the begining was a crusial step, having a space space on a daily basis to share what you're going through with people in similar situation is priceless. (I haven't joined this sub back then yet).
Month 2: I was still a wreck, crying 70% of the time, still barelly getting though the days, weekends were hell, I was constantly thinking about my ex swithing between anger and disappointment. Around this time I found this and another subs and joined it and started reading more and I got to see more about attachment styles. I've talked about it all with my therapist but we obviously can't deep dive into the whole theory and specifics. On top of it my ex has very prominent and strong narcissistic tendencies. I really started to go back and try to look at the relationship rationally and really the outcome would always be the ending of the relationship (I was the dumper but I couldn't stay anymore for my own emotional sake, I was emotionally drained) Anyways, I started reading more about attachment styles, theory and looked up books and podcasts. What worked for me personally is obviously the classic book Attached by Amir Levine as well as the book How to be the love you seek by Nicole LePera. Podcasts wise, Mel Robbins and Matthew Hussey have made most sense for me and helped me understand better attachment, trauma bonding, secure/insecure dating, maybe controversial for some but it worked for me. During this time out of spite I rejoined the dating apps to look for outside validation and started texting and going casually out with people. Not needed to mention but obviously nothing let to anything good or meaningful, besides me seing that there are people out there that could potentially have an interest in me but then ghosting me or rejecting me because I wasn't emotionally available. So I got myself exposed for the first time to ghosting and avoidants now conciously and learned how to spot them quick enough and how to handle them better, and yes! it sucks big time the first couple times being ghosted or rejected but I needed that exposure to learn how to cope with it.
Month 3: Still crying most of the time, but started to eat slowly and even rejoined the gym and started going now and then, also still dreaming and thinking a lot about my ex alsmost all the time, I was asking friends for their phones to stalk her socials cause I forced her to block me so I can't stalk her... Kept reading the books and podcasts and discussing the topics with my therapist, connecting the dots and learning how to handle loneliness now more than ever. I started dating someone new and for the first time I've found someone secure to date and got to see what it feels like. It was a bit trigerring and scary at first but I really appreciated the experience. I also finally got the guts to go out on a "solo date" to a small concert of a performer I really like. Well.... didn't go how I imagined, something happened to me and I blacked out in the crowed before the performance even started, thank god for good strangers who helped me get myself back on my feet, probably low blood sugar...
Fast forward to now Month 4: Crying only during my therapy sessions now mostly and still trying to cope with the loneliness while still seeing the securely attached girl. I kept dating this her, been casually going out on about now 7-8 dates, but I still wasn't feeling the attraction... unfortunatelly and I knew it but I tried to convince myself if I keep seeing her with time I would get attracted. Until couple weeks ago when I just opened tinder again and swiped a bit and a day later matched with the prettiest girl I could even imagine matching with me. She even opened the conversation and we start texting and I completelly got ahead of myself and fallen for her in a matter of days (yes, red flag), cause we were vibin and I know she's out of my league but here we are texting and seting up first date. At this point I knew I'm getting myself into a huge mess and that feeling the way I do for this tinder beauty is a recipe for dissaster but I said yolo and karma got back to me. Long story short, we went on 2 dates within 2 days apart and while I thought its going well and her sending me mixed signals, she tried to ghost me right after this 2nd date. Now, luckily not my first rodeo... I see what she's doing and I'm trying to get her to come clean about it but she breadcrumbs. So, I had to ask if it's one sided and she confirmed and threw in some bs "its not you its me"... unfortunatelly or fotunatelly for me this happens the same day I've set up to meet the secure girl I've been dating to come clean about me not being asttracted to her and not wanting to waste any more of her time. Obviously she was much more mature about it and we had a lenghty conversation and I did feel super bad for hurting her but we split amicably. Maybe you already noticed that last month I didn't even mention my ex... because getting myself into this "beatiful" mess of dating multiple people at the same time in a short time span and still stingle, I got maybe the best "healing" experience I could've dating a secure person and insecure one at the same time... I really got to experience and see simultaniously what both are like and feel like and in the midst of this whole situation I learned a lot about myself too and I got examples of how to handle toxic situations the secure and insecure way. I also learned that it's not that scary to be vulnerable and put myself out there honestly even though I didn't get the same in return. I also learned I still have insecurities and issues to work onto to be able to be with a secure person next time.
So, I know this is not the typical post and maybe not what most of you expected, maybe some will judge me, that's ok, I am far from saying I've handled myself and the mess I created in a good way but it happened and because of it I actually was able to move on, I did get to see that it really isn't the end of the world and I am capable of being liked and liking people again and open to make a connection and be vulnerable.
I will stay in here for couple days maybe and try to answer as many of you who have questions or try to give advice if asked for but this is my story of my "crazy" healing journey and yes, my therapist is probably about done with me at this point but that woman is trying her best! There's no formula to this healing part what matters is that after each experience we take away the learnings and try to be better next time. I still have a lot of healing ahead but I can say confidently today that my ex is in the past and I have closed the door for good now. BTW if you've gotten this far, yes I'm also still looking for a new job... yey me!

A while back, I brought to your attention a fellow by the name of John Westbrook who allegedly was wanted for kidnapping his daughter. Multiple aspects of the story reeked to high heaven. Too much emphasis was put on the fact that he was purchasing things using Bitcoin. At first glance, it would seem to be a case of technologically illiterate members of the press creating a false equivalency between Bitcoin and all other things technical, and of course, the age-old false equivalency between intellect and potential malicious intent. People have always found those more intelligent than they intimidating and so they have blamed the intellect of others rather than examining their own faults. That said, I have prepared an explanation for the irregularities surrounding his biography that I find quite satisfying that ultimately has led to light being shed on a much larger story that up until now has been withheld from the American public. On August 15, 1977, a signal was received at the “Big Ear” observatory at Ohio State University in Columbus, Ohio. This was known as the “WOW” signal, owing to the word “WOW” being written on a printout of the signal received. The public was told that 6 bytes of information were received by the telescope and that after exhaustive off-axis and off-frequency searches, no repetition of the non-random signal could be found. This is simply false.
he signal received at Ohio State, represented as signal-to-noise ratio, was “6EQUJ5.” The reason why the dish operator was stunned by this was not because this data was non-random; those letters are quite random. The reason why this was shocking was because at the time, it was the control password for their radio telescope, needed for system access and to be able to reposition the telescope. At the time, it was considered a very secure password. The odds of noise from deep space coinciding with this password was essentially zero. The radio telescope was part of the SETI (Search for Extra-Terrestrial Intelligence) and the simple fact was, there was no possibility that aliens would have known what the password was for their radio telescope. The first theory was that a prank was being played by someone working at the observatory. Before the operator of the dish could get off the phone with their supervisor, more data began streaming in.
There was one other possibility: That human beings in the future sent the message deliberately with the intention assuring that the operators pay attention to it. This possibility was confirmed when, just moments later, the radio telescope received, “ELVIS DIES TOMORROW.” Sure enough, on August 16, 1977, news broke that The King of Rock and Roll had perished. (These events were the true reason for the multitude of conspiracy theories concerning Elvis, some of which were promoted at request of the U.S. Government in order to discredit anyone telling the story I am now describing.)
Before long, officers of the Central Intelligence Agency arrived at Ohio State University to gather information and swear the staff to secrecy. As this was transpiring, the telescope continued to receive data. The data included instructions for building a neutrino detector, something which had never been done before, along with instructions to emplace the detector deep under the Earth. The events happening from 1977 onward became the inspiration for the novel Contact, with Carl Sagan having knowledge of the events of August 15, 1977. Over the next several years, DARPA worked in secret to develop the first neutrino detector, which had/have the exclusive purpose of facilitating receipt of communications from the future. When knowledge of neutrino detectors went public, they were assigned other stated applications. It was only thanks to the existence of a sufficiently sophisticated tachyon trajection system on the front end of the previous timeline that a radio telescope not meant for receiving neutrinos was able to detect the signal, since it’s a fact of physics that sufficiently intense convergences of neutrinos lead to the creation of electrons, something which the radio telescope was indeed very sensitive to.
The intention of the people sending the message was to give the United States a technical and strategic advantage they would not have otherwise had. The message was sent by an individual within the conquered United States in 2072, a number of years after the U.S. had been defeated by the People’s Republic of China in a calamitous war. After the end of that war, China had developed the technology to communicate with the past, and were actively using that technology to further oppress people around the world.
Tachyon generation requires extremely fine beam control of neutrinos passed within an atomic width of a horizontally-oriented skyrmion lattice. Near-collisions with magnetons (quantized magnetism emitted from the rotating magnetic fields that are skyrmions) increase the spin of neutrinos. The more magnetons skimmed by the neutrinos fired, the faster the spin, and the faster the spin, the more the neutrinos can resist re-accumulation of their Higgs field while in temporal transit after the mass negation/magneton collision phase. Neutrinos, already having infinitesimally low mass, may be bestowed with NEGATIVE mass through a collision with a magneton. Magneton collision is the necessary second phase of tachyon generation. In this way, a message may be sent to a very specific set of space-time coordinates; by controlling lattice density, length, and proximity to beam. This level of precision was only made possible by launching a tachyonic trajection system satellite into orbit of the Earth, where there is absolutely zero vibrational energy to skew the beam. This is a system that can only function at this level of precision in orbit as even microchip fabrication plants built upon giant springs allow for some movement. Although the technology can work with ground-based emitters, if one wishes to hit a radio telescope that is oriented toward the sky and do so from 97 years in the future with a target time frame of only a few hours, it is best to do so from space, where targeting accuracy can be maximized.
The message, it seems, was only sent because an American had been able to hack into China’s most secure facility and hijack their tachyonic trajection system.
Although the sender of the message assured 1977 that no universe-ending paradox would result from the dispatch of information and any future use of the American device, the Americans in charge of the program were nevertheless superstitious about this possibility. As such, regulations were established mandating that anyone working on the program may not, without escort, leave the compound where the neutrino detector was emplaced.
The first-generation detector built by DARPA was operated in a secure facility at ground level for about 5 years until a place of sufficient depth within the borders of the United States could be identified and construction could be completed. The second-deepest cave in America, discovered in 1987, is the Lechuguilla cave, part of the Carlsbad Caverns cave system, which happens to enjoy the protection of the National Park Service and happens to be one of the most remote of the national parks. The cave’s depth was determined to be 1200 feet, and has been closed to the public for the past 34 years for “safety reasons.” Wouldn’t want anyone to fall down that hole!
Construction was completed in 1991 on the facility and in early 1992, “The Platter” was completed, which is the second-generation detector. From the start, the program was not kept absolutely secret, with a single news organization being “let in on” the program, only because one of the Ohio State students tipped them off, leading to a negotiation between that organization and the government. As a result of this information sharing, information about the future began to trickle out and was being incorporated into entertainment programs beginning in 1985.
Nearly all of the programs featuring knowledge of the future appeared on the Fox Broadcasting Network, pointing to Fox as the likely “insider.” Since 1996, primary funding for LNSS has come from diverting funds and material resources (namely the third-gen neutrino detector) from the James Webb Space Telescope program, which is now 14 years behind schedule. The need to fund LNSS, America’s ‘time travel’ program, is the reason why.
A crude service elevator with a green door ferries employees into the underground complex, 1200 feet below Whites City, New Mexico. This, combined with the cave taking its name from the Spanish word for “lettuce” gave facility its colloquial name, “The Green Door.” Its official name is the Lechuguilla National Security Site or LNSS. In 2009, a mission patch was leaked to the Internet with no explanation given as to which military unit the patch belonged to, or what they did. The patch reads, “A lifetime of silence behind the green door.” This may have been a result of a major expansion of the role of the program (and therefore also, the number of people involved) after a directive from President Barack Obama to use the technology to rescue the U.S. economy, which was only worsening after months of market freefall. Upon his inauguration, Obama was briefed on the program and upon inquiry, was told by LNSS that without intervention, the U.S. economy would not recover meaningfully at any point in the future.
A cover-story explaining away Goldman’s lucky trades was published in 2009, attributing Lloyd Blankfein’s success to “superior server collocation” and “reduced ping times,” as well as math-based trading known as “quant” trading.
Given the obvious advantages of being able to predict the future, LNSS, using a closed-loop interface with Goldman Sachs, was able to create a series of “lucky trades” on the stock market that buoyed the U.S. economy to its pre-crash level with frightening inevitability; a capability utilized once again in 2020 after a similar 40% plunge forced its use. A cover-story explaining away Goldman’s lucky trades was published in 2009, attributing Lloyd Blankfein’s success to “superior server collocation” and “reduced ping times,” as well as math-based trading known as “quant” trading. John Westbrook was an employee of this program. After many years of wanting to enter retirement and fearing that former employees are routinely killed, he decided not to return from a scheduled outing. This fact, combined with his fluency in Mandarin, led his superiors to assume he was defecting to China, when, after using LNSS mainframes to mine nearly one million dollars in Bitcoin, paid a local for a used automobile using the cryptocurrency, which would have been the only form of tender he had access to as LNSS staff are not permitted to have money or personal vehicles; their pay is deposited to savings accounts they have no access to. Twice-annual outings, usually to Boulder, are the only respite from the desert the employees are allowed, and these are chaperoned trips using government vehicles.
The official story of Westbrook has been circulated heavily in China for reasons that were never made clear as well as in the Chinatown of Vancouver, British Columbia. It is believed that he flew from Vancouver into mainland China, which has led to a delicate diplomatic situation in which the U.S. could not divulge to China the true reasons for wanting Westbrook returned. Ordinarily a simple matter poor relations as well as his high-value status (from China’s perspective) precluded the possibility of telling the truth about Westbrook. A fictional story was concocted concerning a daughter he never had, a daughter, images of whom were created using an advanced supercomputer operated by the National Security Agency. The techniques are an outgrowth of Generative Adversarial Network methods first demonstrated by Nvidia Corporation in 2017. Apparently, the technology has improved to the point of being able to generate somewhat convincing video in addition to still images. However, the Daphne Westbrook video of June 4, 2021 was laced with “mistakes” that gave away the video as a forgery.
The kidnapping of Daphne Westbrook was pretense; a flimsy excuse to pursue John Westbrook, a man whose only crime was quitting his job. Despite the usage of The Platter to change the future to prop up American corporations, The United States continues to fail to utilize the technology to its maximal potential and at the same time, has failed to prevent the media from discovering the program.
Knowledge of the mastery of time constitutes the greatest power yet conceived of by humanity and is, in essence, absolute power. We must now ask ourselves whether we can really risk the prospect of U.S. corporations gaining absolute power. A growing swath of the world is under direct Chinese control; slaves, in effect. There, genocide and oppression are commonplace. Meanwhile, America differs only in terms of its style of oppression. America continues to smugly applaud itself for promoting the rights of deviants and adulterers whilst actively restricting the rights that matter: Constitutional rights. These infringements grow in scope and severity with each passing year. The time has come to demand accountability from a government loathe to utilize its power to save American lives but eager to use it to bail out major corporations. Your so-called media’s bravery extended only as far as a smattering of prescient episodes of The Simpsons. Perhaps they were convinced that it was the right thing; to keep silent. At the time, that may have been true. I consider the very fact that I have not been approached and asked to stop talking about this issue proof of the utter incompetence of those in power, and thus, a need exists to expose this weakness. It is one thing to have a detente with other nations and another entirely to fail to press one’s advantage when doing so could benefit so many and considering the roughly 1 million Americans lost to the coronavirus. Our failure to act is so comically absurd that it almost invalidates the plausibility of everything I’ve laid out so far. Yet, we know that history is rife both with empires that overplayed their hand as well as those who, as the United States has, failed to take necessary action to stop the momentum of a geopolitical foe.

My (27F) boyfriend (31M) and I went to the farmers' market this morning and were standing in line to buy something; it was a long line with a lot of people around. I noticed a piece of lint on the back of his shirt, so I picked it off. I missed it the first time I tried to grab it, so I was kind of picking at him for a moment, and he told me to stop.
I told him what I was doing and to give me a second, but he jerked his body away angrily and made a gesture to the people around, to say, "Stop, there's a lot of people around."
The rest of the time there, I could tell he was upset and bothered, so back in the car I ask him, "what's up?" And it spills out of him: "first, you don't listen, and you just don't know when and when not to do things in public. If someone's telling you to stop, you should stop, and you should know that that's embarrassing and could have been easily done in the car."
I didn't see it that way at first, but my boyfriend has complained about similar things before, so I'm really trying to take a step back and see if I need to change my behavior. AITA?

First of all, this situation is really complicated, so i genuinely don't want to be told to leave him or that we're incompatible, i wanna make it work.
We have been together for 2 years, and since we are both deeply traumatized and mentally ill from our pasts, we do not communicate, argue or express feelings well.
I am a passive communicator, meaning i do everything in my power to not say how i feel, to not confront his feelings, i often victimize myself, shut down and become non verbal during conflicts.
He is an aggressive communicator, often times expressing his feelings and himself through anger with shouting, name calling, deregatory language, etc.
We both come from the same place - fear of rejection and abandonment.
Now, getting to the actual situation, let me explain it step by step how it usually occurs:

1. I hurt him by emotionally neglecting him, abandoning him, becoming distant, not communicating plans, forgetting, pushing him away.
   
2. He brings up his feelings in an aggresive demeanor with the before mentioned yelling and disrespect and overall really hurtful words.
   
3. I become afraid and completely physically and emotionally detach and shut down, this can be for a matter of minutes up to days.
   
4. This triggers him even more, leading to more conflict.
   
5. I have the choice to put up with being bashed and feeling utterly horrible to take responsibility and try to move away from the situation, or confront him about his behavior. Neither of these work.
   

Our arguments always end in me victimizing myself or crying or pushing his feelings away because i simply cannot handle the way he treats me during these situations.
I am aware most of these situations are on me, they are my responsibility, my fault, and i feel so much immense guilt for even feeling the way i do.
But, whenever i bring to him how i feel, doesn't matter in what way, in what tone or in what situation, it always ends the same way, him saying he already sacrificed so much for me, that i need to stop trying to change him and learn to accept his way of expressing feelings, or how he puts it, the door is right there and no one is holding me back.
Has anyone else gone through this? How can i learn to communicate and treat him better so we can a healthy relationship? I want to put effort for us. Thank you.

After my fiancés recent episode she’s been somewhat stable. However, she’s been very idk how to explain it but wants me to set boundaries with my family. I’m honestly not sure how this came about only that I usually take out Pom over to my parents when I go visit them. And even before that during her episode and a little after she kept demanding I see my family less.
I have a great relationship with my family so I honestly don’t understand this hostility and for me to “set boundaries”. I told her I’ll take the Pom less but even then she still insisted about the boundaries thing. This isn’t the first time as well, she was like this during and after her first episode last year. Those demands eventually faded away but now it’s a bit more intense and I won’t damage my relationships with my family and her family because of her demands.
If she keeps insisting about me setting boundaries when I don’t know what she means by that, I’d consider leaving even after 10 years.

I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, however, I recently did the testing for the RBC Training Ground.
At the event they had banners up stating what results were considered below average, average, above average and excellent. I didn’t get the chance to take a picture of the banners before they were put away by the volunteers.
Does anyone know what the standards are/did anyone take a picture? Or does anyone know where to find the standards online? I’ve checked the RBC Training Ground website and it only shows a lead board and not the overall standards.
Thanks 😊

I’m waiting on my test result,I had acute hepatitis b in the beginning of 2021 I told my girlfriend at the time and things went horribly we was talking a break so she became my support system during the break I had sex with some els and I had got hepatitis b but it went away my body fought of the virus so for the last 3 years we been building a friendship that leading to a relationship. But we haven’t had sex because she was scared I understand that so I was looking at my old test results and it saying I might have hsv1 but ever time I went to the doctor and ask for every test they never gave me that test test so I’m like do I have hsv1 the test me on everything except that ,I thought my relationship was moving in the right path, but now it’s like what if I have herpes and my doctor never said anything to me about it I told her and it really fucking with us moving forward, going in to take blood Monday I never had a outbreak anywhere so I’m just lost. She still helping me get through this but we talked about it and if I do have it there no chance for a relationship. TBH I fuck up and I hope we are ok, she just texted me I really hope our friendship does not die though. Me 2, I love this girl and putting her through this is killing me now it’s a waiting game for my results One decision can fuck up your life guy don’t do it

My boyfriend died around a year ago and I’ve had my time to process the relationship as a whole. It wasn’t the best, he had cheated on me multiple times but I had decided to take him back. The month he died we were good but I couldn’t get over what he did. After he died I didn’t wanna think about the bad and tried to focus on our good moments. Since it’s been a year Ive grieved and started thinking of all the bad things and how I was lying to myself. Trying to see him how I wanted to rather than how he actually was. I’m still friends with his friends since his passing. We all hang out as a group but one of them I’ve been getting really close with. I’d consider him my best friend for about 6 months, but recently I started developing feelings that I don’t want. Morally I feel wrong for liking him and i honestly don’t want to tell him. I just don’t know where to put my feelings for him, should I tell him? I need advice on it. I’m afraid it’ll make things weird, our friend group weird idk. I feel bad that I even like someone after a year, let alone it be his friend. I don’t even see it being reciprocated. I think we flirt but that could just be him being nice idk. How do I make my feelings go away. I don’t want to distance myself from him, I don’t want to lose him from my life.
tl;dr- I like my best friend which is my late boyfriend’s friend, I don’t know how to go about it.

Let me start this out by saying this is going to be a long one and it happened years ago so this is the full story. I wanted to post in sweet revenge but getting approval over there is pretty hard. I figured the community of reddit would love this one and it's been long enough I can tell people now. Im also dyslexic so plz don't come for me for bad grammar. This spans over a 2 year time period.
At the time l 13 female had what I believed to be a fairytale romance with my bf male. We grew up together as our families had a lot of common activity's and we'd end up being around each other a lot. He was always a rude kid and he'd pick on me but when we got older we stopped going with our families to events due to teenage angst but randomly we met again and started dating (such a fairy tale I know) I got "lucky" because I never got his contact info but one of his friends "Devon " little sister "Lucy" got us in contact with each other because my boyfriend was always at her house and I had a bunch of classes with her in middle school. He was a highschooler so we would not have bumped into each other making it perfect he was always at my friend’s house. Everything was perfect to 13 year old me, however things were not as they seemed and he was worse than he was as a child. He would fist fight his dad in their driveway ,yell at me, on numerous occasions he cut me with a switchblade during our intimate moments (He wanted me to "scream louder"), he would roll over and cry if I did not want to do the deed, he would steal money from me, he would be pissed at me for having extracurricular activities like softball because it would take away from the time I had for him, he got me into drugs, he stole pain medication from me when I had shoulder surgery and so many more red flags I did not see coming. I was so blindsided by what I believed to be a perfect story of reconnecting with a childhood friend and falling in love that i ignored this. One day about a year into our relationship his best friend (Ryan) called a group of us together and he told my boyfriend that he had slept with me the night before. I was entirely blindsided one because I thought Ryan was also my friend and two because we had done no such thing! Ryan showed screenshots of us texting but the number attached to my so called "texts" to the friend was not mine. He also described my home perfectly but he had been in my house because I would let Ryan and my bf go to my house when no one was there to steal alcohol from my parents on multiple occasions. I tried to explained all of this but my bf and all his friends dog piled on me and slut shamed me. My boyfriend claimed I could have been using a free texting app and that Ryan has been to my house but how would he remember all the details when they were just there to steal booze. For some reason my ex decided we were not going to break up and I also stayed with him. Maybe it was the trauma and the public humiliation I felt making me believe this was the best I could do now. No one was nice to me for the longest time. Every class I had people would tell me to "just admit to it" but I wasn't about to admit to something I hadn't even done. This probably didn't help me either tho because people just believed I was a cheater and a liar now. After this my bf would cheat on me openly with any girl who would let him and l'd always find out but l'd tell myself "it will never happen again he loves me" he would go on to cheat on me and abuse me for another year until I finally snapped when I found out he had cheated on me with Lucy the very girl that had gotten us together 2 years prior. Mind you she was a year younger than me and people were already telling me he was gross for dating me because of our age gap. I snapped and broke up with him which in turn made them start dating. I was absolutely heart broken and I'm not proud but i believed he was the only boy that would ever want me he had broken me down time after time to believe I was worthless and it worked. I went to his house to talk and we ended up sleeping together meaning he had just cheated on his new girlfriend with me. Which I am not proud of by any means and to make it worse her brother Devon walked in as we were doing the deed. They stayed together and idk if Devon told his sister. One day after I had come to terms with us being over I was at the school, I had left my bike chained up to a fence. Around lunch lucy walked up to me and told me that my ex had taken it. I was so mad because he knew my bike lock combination and just thought he’d steal my bike. We left the school together and the whole walk to my ex's house I was going off telling Lucy everything he has ever done to me and berating her, just being very mean. She walked and listened. When we got to the house he was nowhere to be seen so I took a rock and smashed his bike lock open and stole his bike as Lucy watched. My ex was riding home on my bike as I was walking back to school with his and we met in the middle and made a trade. I was so mad I wanted nothing to do with him anymore. A couple months later I heard that my ex and Lucy were having a big issue apparently she cheated on him with Ryan. I wasn't sure I believed it at first because I went through the same thing but Lucy confirmed it and she also got pregnant by Ryan. Lucy also gave my ex HSV 2 in the process of cheating on him. Lucy and Ryan became a couple to raise their child and my ex had to just sit in his anger alone. No girl wanted my ex anymore after knowing that he had HSV 2 and Lucy made sure to tell people.
That is the story of the amazing karma everyone who did me wrong received but their is a happy twist for most of us. Years later I reconnected with Lucy and apologized to her for everything I did and said back then and she actually thanked me. She told me if it wasn't for me she would have been manipulated just the same but because I told her everything when he stole my skateboard she never let him get away with any of it thus protecting herself in the process. Lucy and Ryan are living a super happy life still with their son. Ryan has even recently reached out to apologize for saying those things all those years ago and has publicly acknowledged he was lying to other people from back then. And we are all friendly when we see each other. I've had a bit of a glow up and left everyone in the dust. My ex is still as miserable as ever to this day he is alone and pathetic. P.s. all names are changed

So I just finished the first half of my program with the highest grades in my class which I'm happy about. I worked hard to get where I am and I think I did well, considering I had a few obstacles in my life that made it a bit hard to get through the day, let alone the amount of coursework I had.
However, earlier today we had a ceremony to celebrate passing certain milestones and the completion of a certification level. Part of the ceremony is awarding 'most outstanding' student award (one of those awards and accolades that I've never really cared about) and I wasn't sure if I was going to win, anyway, so why would I care, right? And then came the presentation and one of my teacher's prefaced the award by stating that the award was being presented to the one who showed the most improvement regarding simulations and coursework and someone else won. I didn't feel bad about it then and even congratulated the person who won before my family and I had to leave. When I got home, however, I started feeling bothered by the whole thing, especially when I started considering other factors.
When we fail an exam, we are offered the chance to retake it, correcting mistakes and explaining why that answer is correct. If we don't do this, then it is an automatic 0 on the next exam. One of my teachers had to go away for a few weeks to requiring surgery mid-semester and when he came back, he was annoyed to find that these assignments weren't getting done and that's when I found out that out of the 9 exams we took in his absence, nobody else turned in the required assignments like they were supposed to with me being the only one turning in assignments on time, staying up late if I had to. My professors were generous and offered them a deadline to turn in these missing assignments before they received automatic zeros on exams missing these assignments. I thought this was generous and kind.
Now, however, there's a part of me that can't help but feel snubbed, I guess is one way to put it. Like, what was the point of staying up and making sure my grades stayed high (only student with A's across the board after finals) if, in the end, it didn't really matter? It's not like I did it for an award or adulation or anything of the sort, I did it for myself and because I wanted to know and understand what I was learning so I can go out and do the best work possible.
Unfortunately, the phrasing 'most improved' can't help but make me think of one of two interpretations:

1. I was consistent and was exactly where I was supposed to be as a student in this program which, excelling as I should be and under what was expected of me or...
   
2. I underperformed when it came to simulations and my teachers haven't had the guts to sit me down and tell me I'm not where I'm supposed to be at.
   

So, to finish this rant, AITAH for feeling bothered about something that I usually find meaningless? Should I even feel bothered?
I also want to add that I don't wish to take the award from the person that won. The bigger part of me is still glad that the person who did win won and feels like they deserve it.

Hi all, would appreciate advice because I don't know what I'm doing with cars and mechanics.
Got a used 2017 Cruze LT hatchback ~5 months ago with about 55k miles on it. About 1.5-2 months ago, I started to notice occasional issues with the acceleration and braking on the car that have gotten worse over that time.
Just as some background info, a month after I bought it a baby deer ran into the side of the car while I was driving. It only hit the doors, so I don't think it would have damaged anything, and although one rear door got fucked up it still works fine. I also had an incident in January where a gas pump malfunctioned due to cold weather and overfilled my tank pretty badly, and I'm sure fuel got down the little hole under the gas tank.
Currently, when I start accelerating, it feels like the car hangs up at around 2,000 rpm and drops down to 1,500 with a noticable hesitation, and then will do it again around 3,000, dropping to 2,500 or 2,000. I have to really jam the accelerator down to get anything above that. It also accelerates very slowly, especially if I have to go faster than about 40-45 mph.
I've also noticed that beyond 15-ish minutes of driving the car seems like it's losing power. Yesterday after 15 minutes of driving, the car felt like it was coasting at 40-45 mph rather than actually running. I tried flooring it for a couple seconds and the speedometer didn't budge and the rpm looked like it was dropping very slowly. Every time I've noticed this, it seems to go away after I park the car.
I've also noticed that the auto stop engages almost every time I stop (not sure if that's normal). A couple times the auto stop engages at a red light, then disengages and starts the car back up again even though my foot was on the brake pedal the entire time.
When I'm braking, it feels like the car hesitates and jerks a couple times before coming to a stop as well, though not to the extent that it does accelerating. The rpm meter also flucutates slightly while it does this.
I recently switched to premium fuel (93 here in MI) which has not done anything to solve the issue. I took it into my dealership which said they could not replicate the issues I'm having (I described it as the engine misfiring, but maybe it isn't that idk), but did replace my spark plugs and serviced my fuel intake somehow. I also haven't received any error codes so the car itself isn't giving me any help on this.
Anyone know what might be going on? I'm going to take it to another mechanic to get a more thorough examination and am not sure what the issue could be. Appreciate any help on this.

so as a dry skin melanated girly, i think i’m really close to perfecting my base routine. i’ve been wearing makeup for a long time (had mac in middle school, i was a cheerleader) but if the “filtered look” is a 10, im probably at a 7.5 right now. i have normal to dry skin, but most tutorials i see are for oily skin.
i know to use water based products, but im TIRED of that dewy look. i wanna look matte and airbrushed, but not dry. i have a solid skincare routine and i dermaplane, but looking dewy all the time takes away from that “flawless” look. i’ve been building my new and improved makeup kit for about 8 months now, and i wanna add some must-haves to my stash.
so for the dry skin girls: what are your heaviest hitters in your makeup routine? drugstore and high end recs 💕 thank you!

There's an actor who's unfortunately very underrated among the kdrama stans despite his huge talent
He's Lee Kwang Soo and wait don't scroll away
He have always been giving his all to all of his projects yet people always make it "funny" or saying they don't take him seriously
You know what? If you just watched his serious works you would be surprised by how talented he is! When I became his fan at first I couldn't take him seriously too but once I've watched "puck!" I kept hoping he gets a new role that is NOT comedic
And he has Live , confession movie , Inseparable bros (got him a baeksang award ) the killer's shopping list its okay that's love , dear my friends , the first 2 episodes of hwarang , a year end medley His emotional acting is the best he can convey a lot of emotions yet everytime that either go unnoticed or ignored And what makes him such a great actor is that he improved so much since he debuted and that means he has a passion for acting
I don't even see people including him in those actors threads and it's really frustrating seeing people with bad acting and a "pretty face " get the most spotlight and roles
He has 2 upcoming dramas with great cast "No way out" and "karma"
So please notice his efforts

I M(26), and my fiance (f27) have been together for 15 months. I proposed to her on our one year anniversary. For the most part things have been great, we laugh together, we have good times. But there has been rough patches in the past and now again today.
She has a habit of when we get into an argument, she gives me the silent treatment and ignores me. Pushes me away. In the past she has even collected her things and left, saying we are over. Just to come back a day or two later. The thing is that when we argue, it's always her starting an argument over things that I feel aren't significant, or defiantly not to the point that she escalates it to.
One example is back when we were together for about 2 or 3 months. She was spending the night at my place and we were watching a movie at about 10pm, I had work the next day at 7 and she suggested I go to sleep so I would be well rested for work. I told her I wanted to finish the movie, and that somehow escalated into her leaving in the middle of the night to drive off and sleep somewhere in her car. I tried to get her to stay, and even offered to sleep on the couch so she could have the bed. But she refused. I've tried chasing her in the past, and she has even told me that when she gets upset, don't let her go or leave her alone.
I've expressed to her how badly it makes me feel when she does this and how it stressful and taking it is on my mental health to always feel like I'm at risk of losing the love of my life at any small stupid argument. I feel like she does little tests and games to test my loyalty and commitment for her. Which I don't think is healthy.
Now to last night. She moved in with me 2 weeks ago, and it just so happened that the job I'm currently supervising (construction) is two hours away, so I've been away all week. It sucks but it is what it is. This job should only take 3 or 4 weeks. After being away from her all week all I wanted to do was come home and spend time with her. When I got home everything was good, we were both happy, laughing, and playing around. But suddenly about an hour after I got back she asked me if she could have 20 dollars for "shopping".
Keep in mind that she has thousands of dollars in her bank account, while I'm just getting by, trying to pay back a line of credit. She knows it stresses me out, how much interest I'm paying, and that money is not my favorite subject. She's also expressed that she wants a joint bank account, which I'm not a fan of the idea. So we agreed we would open a joint savings account and both contribute money for fun things to do together.
I don't think she is after money, she has even offered to help me pay back some of my line of credit, which I refused. I think the reason she asked for 20 dollars was just to see if I would do it, a test. She knows that I would give her money if she needed it, but she didn't need it. I always pay if we go out to eat, ect. I told her this and asked her why she is testing me like this and she got mad and went away and ignored me. I tried to talk to her but her responses were cold and snappy. Now I was upset because all I wanted after being gone all week for work was to spend time with her and have a happy weekend together. I knew that this night was a write off now with her upset giving me the cold shoulder so I just went to work in my garage.
I spent a couple hours in the garage and when I came back in she was upstairs in our bed, playing on her phone. I'll admit my sadness started to turn into anger as she's acted this way before and promised she wouldn't push me away like this. So I asked her why she always plays games and tries to test me like this. Admittedly my voice was starting to raise a bit, but I wouldn't call it yelling. She told me not to yell at her, so I lowered my voice a bit and apologized but told her it's very frustrating when she keeps acting this way. Things started to escalate and I told her my concerns these games have on my mental health. (My dad was bipolar and committed suicide when I was young.)
At some point during me explaining how her pushing me away and testing me affects my head, she let out a giggle. Which made me angry so I just started to get up and leave, at which point she grabbed onto me to try to stop me, I resisted a bit and escaped her grasp, and then she tried to act like I hurt her. Which I believe was also not true, it was her trying to make me feel bad. I told her this.
At this point things basically escalated to the point where she was packing up all her things to leave again. I asked her why she was doing this, over something that started as such a small argument. But she wouldn't listen to me even after I told her I would sleep on the couch so she could have the bed.
Now this is the part where I believe I could have handled it differently. I'm pretty close with my sister and at the start of the relationship when she would do these things, I turned to my sister for advice. Her advice was that she was trying to manipulate and control me and that I should just leave the relationship. I didn't, and things did seem to get better after a while, but every now and then another one of these episodes would happen. My fiance knows that I talked to my sister and a couple of friends about this in the past, and how they felt about her. Which really upset her. So for a long time since then I just told them everything was great with us, and for the most part it was except for the occasional episode.
Last night when my finance was packing her things to "leave me" again, and after me trying to reason with her and stop her, I called my sister. Partly to try to get my fiance to listen to somebody else besides me tell her she is being unreasonable, and partly just to talk to somebody to keep me from feel like I was losing my mind. I had the phone on speaker, and explained what was happening, and my sister basically just said to let her go. That she keeps doing this and it's manipulate and controlling. My fiance overheard while she was packing and left to go sleep in her car.
I just let her go because I've told her in the past if she pushes me away I won't chase her because I know it's just a game she's playing with me. Now this morning I texted her and asked her to please just let me at least know where she is so I know she is safe. She refused to tell me and kept telling me how wrong I was and that I shouldn't have let her sleep in her car alone all night.
It turns out she's now at a coffee shop and my roommate (f35) is with her and she asked me to come talk. I refused, saying that I don't want to play these games and chase her anymore. The roommate took my fiances side that I shouldn't have let her sleep in the car, but also told her that she shouldn't have left in the first place.
Now my roommate told me that my fiance is looking at rooms to move out, and my fiance is making it seem like the relationship is over. Again. I don't think she really wants that, and I anticipate her coming back. I think it's another game. At this point I don't know what to do. My family and friends all say to move on, that her toxic behavior won't change. And In a way I feel I know that's true.
Anyways, about the incident last night. AIW?

Hi all!
TL;DR: Not a very dramatic post but looking for advice on if I should leave a LTR with someone I love deeply but who has been critical of the way I am in the relationship; his doubts have made me reevaluate if I should stay.
I (34F) have been dating my partner (34m) for a little over three years. He is my best friend and we talk every day, and have a ton to talk about always. I am currently in grad school about eight hours from where he lives, and he has an academic job. We lived together for about two years before I moved for school, and recently the possibility of him moving out here to join me has come up. It seems like it would be possible for him to work remotely, and it would actually be very affordable for him to live with me due to a lucky housing situation. At first he seemed really excited, but I felt in my gut when he started having doubts. This is something that has happened somewhat periodically in our relationship over the last year, where he'll stop talking about the future and being weird about making plans and saying all the great possibilities I have open to me (for me, not us). I am a big girl and I have been through lots of breakups, so I always call him out and I'm like, what's up? And he says he's having doubts about our relationship because he feels like he can't be himself in our relationship.
I am pretty critical of myself and it's taken a lot of my life to build the self esteem to trust my instincts and take risks and trust that I can actually pull off something that is really important to me. So I think I am unusually prepared to want a partner to feel like they have room to express themselves and be themselves. So I take his concern super seriously. It first came up a year ago when he broke up with me the day before my birthday (again at me saying, hey what's up?), and I acknowledge that I move really fast through the world and I have a lot of improving to do at being slow and patient with other people (I have anxiety that keeps me moving at a fast clip) and I have worked really really hard over the last year to sit with uncomfortable feelings, be open to conversation, listening and validating what he has to say, and responding nonjudgmentally. I never want to be the reason someone doesn't feel safe to be themselves and I understand we all have self-judgments that make us respond in weird ways to others and I accept the responsibility of needing to do this work on myself to be a good partner and friend and family member etc.
The thing is, after this most recent conversation I am realizing I am feeling pretty burned out by the relationship I have been fighting so hard to be a good partner in. I am realizing that I believe my partner has unrealistic expectations for other people. He is always describing faults in his family members, coworkers, friends, and me, and I feel like I don't ever hear him saying something like "maybe when I act like this, I contribute to the situation". I really want to be in a good partnership, so I have read a lot about them, and I understand that in most LTRs (even good ones) there are issues that don't get solved, sometimes even big ones. I think having a partner with a good attitude, who tries to be a better person, who has independent goals and support networks, willing to compromise and work together, who has a sense of humor and compatible habits, is about as good as it gets.
I am also feeling resentful because in this period of the last year it's been so hard to get the attention I need. Every time we've seen each other on this past year of long distance has been me trying to convince him for weeks ahead of time to join me for something - like to go to the waterpark right before I moved away, or come here for a music festival he ended up loving, or join me for a friend's wedding. I have realized he has also complained a lot during things that were really important to me, acting resentful about a trip we took last summer for an art project I was involved in and resentful about the effort it took to visit me last fall. And this year my birthday fell on a weekday and it ended up being too hard to see each other, and I never even got a card. He also can be pretty critical of the way I respond to him in conversation, like if I say I am tired of talking about a specific movie that he wants to keep discussing, saying I always shut him down.
I think I have been holding on for so long because we have amazing conversations, and so much fun when we're actually together. But I think it's been too little of the good parts of the relationship for a long time. Does this ever get better? I think he's going through a really hard time, but I have made the mistake in several past relationships of staying too long with someone who wasn't deserving of my energy. Much harder when you deeply love someone though. Thanks for any advice.

Hello, I don't really know if this story counts as HFY, but I decided that I should post it here anyways. The wider universe could probably be called HFY, but the story itself hyper focuses on a single character in a single city.
It is a fanfiction of the game Disco Elysium, though it only takes its writing style, basic premise, and a some heavy inspiration for one or two characters. Everything else is completely original.
It's also a game ran by me and a few people I know on a different forum - they make the decisions on what the MC does every chapter through a random number picking system.
I don't think that I can actually post the story here, as it relies quite a bit on formatting that I don't think Reddit has, but I can post the summary and the first part of the first chapter. The rest is on Royal Road here if you're interested (I would recommend reading it all on there for the proper formatting):
Techno-Zen Elysium
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A corpse hangs, swinging in the breeze. A man slumbers, fitfully, as his grasp of the world slips away. A city crumbles to dust and blood.
This. Is. Revachol.
A corpse hangs, swinging in the breeze. A man slumbers, fitfully, as his grasp of the world slips away. A city crumbles to dust and blood.
This. Is. Thespir.
Another detective. Another murder. Another city.
A new story.
So much closer to home. And yet still so far away.
This.
Is.
TECHNO-ZEN ELYSIUM.
Guide this vessel of will. Tame the voices of chaos. Save the city of purity.
Or, don’t.
Plummet to damnation. Descend into madness. Let hope fall.
It is…
YOUR CHOICE.
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THE STEM – You float, placidly, in The Nothingnesssss… A sssilent hum filters into your ears… It emanatess from the darkness and to such it shall return… A shudder passes through your ffffform as great TENDRILS of oblivion caress and envelop it… Like the gentle touch of a lllloovvveeeerrrrr…
You do not open your eyesss… You do not need to…
Your mind beginss to nummmb… and your thoughts slip away as the sands of an hourglassss…
Thoughtsss, memories, feelingss, sssenssssssationnnsss… aaaalll turn to formless mush in the face of this void…
However… Even this will fade, in a moment’s time… just as you deserve.
YOU – I… deserve?
THE STEM – Yyyeeeeesssss… This void is but a… taste of what awaits you… An eternity of formless nullll… A forever-sleep… No more pain… No more pain…
YOU – Sounds… nice…
THE STEM – It is quite nice indeed…
VOLITION – NO!
YOU – Wuh… what was that?
THE STEM – It is… nothing… Sssimply anotherrr… Concern that will not be able to ffind yoouuu… soon…
Rest my child… Rest…
VOLITION – NO!
YOU – I… I heard something…
THE STEM – Ignore that… listen to my voice. MINE. And all shall be set right…
VOLITION – YOU! ARE! DYING!
THE STEM – Begone interloper… Begone from these grounds…
YOU – Who are you talking to?
THE STEM – I sssSAID… Ignore it…
VOLITION – YOU NEED TO WAKE UP! NOW!
YOU – No… I think I… I think I should hear that… other guy out…
THE STEM – NO! YOU CANNOT! I WON’T ALLOW IT!

I was recently charged with a first degree misdemeanor for domestic battery specifically statute 784.03(1)(a)1 . I am nearly 30F and this is my first ever offense (never even gotten traffic tickets as I am disabled and don’t know how to drive).
The incident happened in Volusia county. I am now living with my parents 2 hours away in Citrus county.
I know I’ll have to do the Batterers Intervention Program but I was wondering if I am going to be able to do it in the county I’m living in now? When I was looking up where they offer the counseling sessions it looked like the ones near where I live don’t service for volusia county and the closest ones that do are over 2 hours away. Will the prosecutors work with me and allow me to take the class locally?
I would also really appreciate any information about what this program will entail and if I will be able to travel out of state while enrolled.