La Fitness Pompano Beach They have a lot of serious issues going on there .
Try and follow this one as it involves, racism, discrimination, anti Semitism,homophobia, slander, defamation, falsifying employment documents
Ok , so LA Fitness Pompano Beach , Florida 1000 north federal highway 33062
The sales manager there for the sake of legalities will only be referred to by her first name which is witch
LA fitness has already fired her once before then they bought her back in September of2021
Reason for termination is unclear but was said to be discrimination against African Americans, Gays/ LGBTQ community and making anti semetic remarks but nobody knows for sure what the reason was for here termination, but it had ti be bad enough for them to hire her , Luis Maio one of her former sales his said “ I heard it was for embezzlement “ if that’s even true , since when did embezzlement become a re- hirable offense???????? ( again no one knows its that’s true except for the higher ups at LA Fitness
On one night in November of 2021 , a disabled employee who just happened to be a part of the LGBTQ community, came into work his regular closing shift 6 pm to 11 pm,
He was immediately summoned to a woman he did not even technically report to
The Witch/ dark haired sales manager who proceeded to tell him
“ oh you know Dante has been missing from the front desk for 10 minutes now, the disabled employee responded “ I’m sure he’s in the gym , maybe just using the restroom, “
Sales Manager the Witch response was:
“ oh come on now James , you know how THEY are ( referring to African American people in general) he’s missing in action by now he’s probably already home counting his welfare and food stamps balance” she continues “ you and I weren’t raised that way , we were bought up differently “ the disabled employee, proceeded to tell her “ I’m sure he’s in the gym and I’ll find him”, however you and I are nothing alike you are a racist and as soon as I find Dante, I’m reporting you ( sales manager ) to Human Resources “
The Witch didn’t care as she was just about to have this young kid fired for in her words “ time fraud”
In reality he was simply in the gym translating another employees COVID results tests from English to Creole!!!!
So the Witch comes running up to the front desk attempting to ask Dante “ where did you go”?
Mind you he was not even gone from the front desk but 6 minutes I checked the video footage!!!
Once I told her he was assisting another employee translating her COVID results test from English to Creole, she went back to her cubicle we warned Dante she had her finger on the phone and about to have you fired!!
And we proceeded to tell him that the witch said; you “ were probably missing in action already home counting his food stamps and welfare checks”!! Imagine how he must have felt extremely awful we proceeded to contact Human Resources and reported her to them snot her racist remarks.
They said “ oh we will look into it”
Did they ??? No, never !!!!
They allow her to behave like this and it’s been going on for years now !!
Mind you a good percentage of the members that pay her paychecks are African American or of Caribbean descent , in addition many of the members are of the LGBTQ community!!!
Obviously they are not aware of the racism there because if I we’re African American/ Cary, I’d cancel my membership and bring my business to any other gym besides LA Fitness but since they don’t know any of this nor do any members of the LGBTQ community which also many of the members there also identify as LGBTQ !!
So the front desk person who also happens to be of LGBTQ community, and identifies as such ,
Sales Manager The Witch decided she was going to send slanderous/ defamatory emails in retaliation for the front desk guy ,James , to Human Resources, all of which his front desk boss Frank went to Sales Manager The Witch on THREE separate times begging her and telling her to “ stop sending slanderous/ defamatory emails about my employee James who happens to be disabled, he additionally told her that Human Resources, copied Operations Manager Frank on her emails he to sales manager The Witch
Look , I reviewed the cameras each time and everything you’re saying in you’re emails are not in synch with my front desk video footage , stop this, it’s illegal”
Her response was:
“ no I’m not stopping until he’s gone “!!!!
Then she refused to speak to James in excess of 60 days!! James notified HR again that this was a very dangerous situation since on July 12, 2022 James was threatened to be “ SHOT “ by s kid Who was banned from the gym for brandishing a gun and threatening some minors to shoot them too!! Including kids in the kids club!!! (?yes if you have children , that gym is not safe , nor is the kids club!!’
James immediately recognized the guy ( Damien) and said can I see you’re I’d or scan in for me. Obviously he knew he was banned so James said you have to leave , that’s when he said “ I k ow what you drive you know how I roll and that I’m packing!!!
Earlier in that same Day ,Area Manager Robert attempted to “ Terminate “ James because he felt Joni and him could not get along!!
James said ok , I have no disciplinary action, and you want to fire me for HER behavior, go ahead. So we are going from a disabled very reliable employee being completely employed to terminated, james apparently told Robert fire me now or I’m going back to the front desk as it looks busy up there . Area Manager Robert said ok so you think you can work with her, his response was yes, but you need to at least attempt to correct her issues or at least make this a non hostile work environment..
He did nothing, James went back to work and that was the end of that , for now .
Later that same week a janitor went to Sakes Manager The Witch who also has a heart condition he asked her “ I need to go home for 10 minutes to get my nitroglycerin pills for my heart, I live close I’ll be right back less than 10 minutes “!!!
Sales Manager the witch told the janitor
“ you’re heart problem is not my problem, no you stay here and mop the floors!!”
Imagine if he had a heart attack after She denied him to go retrieve his medication he so desperately needed!!????
Then on another occasion another Janitor came to James fir some advice, Donna , apparently told James or asked James what should I do , they are asking all of us to lie in our depositions a pot a guy who seriously injured his leg in the gym due to LA Fitness being negligent for not fixing the leak in the basketball court !!!
Donna asked James “ what should I do because they want me to lie for them ( La ft)
James told her just tell the real truth because lying in a deposition could come with some legal problems for you and the others “ like contempt of court !!
On August 11,2022, James had a slip and fall seriously damaging his right shoulder as the members were getting tired of corporate turning off all the lights in the gym including the locker rooms 15 minutes before they even closed the gym!!
Members were very upset , sometimes they had started leaving the showers running, and had the shower curtains closed , leading anyone that closed the gym that there were people still taking showers in there in the dark , but out of retaliation, they just thought they could cause a flood.
I do know, on that night as James was closing the gym he himself had a serious fall on the wet locker room floor , was laying in a pool of water in the dark for over 30 minutes luckily he had his phone , called 911 they eventually got there,
There are no slip proof mats anywhere in that gym!!
When the paramedics got there they had to stabilize james with the neck brace and try to move him so they could treat him somewhere in the gym where there was lights, james said I believe the lobby stays lit until like midnight, but no that was not true either because in the lobby , as they were checking his vitals , the entire lobby goes pitch black, that’s when they realized the lights were being turned off remotely!!
So the paramedics said let’s get him into the ambulance where we can at least treat him . Do paramedics got him in the ambulance, transferred him to Imperial Point Hospital where they did a lot of scans and XRay on his head neck , shoulder and spine.
James was sent home the next day from the emergency hospital with only 3 days of bedrest, and workers comp immediately started physical therapy 4 times a week and had him seeing an orthopedic surgeon, who decided it was ok for James to go back to work on light duty . Provided LA Fitness follow his suggestion of light duty only and get a proper chair . So james was going to all of these physical therapy sessions, and de visits and still going into work! On November , 15, james went into work , and there was the witches boss , Useless was behind the front desk they were instructed by someone to find a way to terminate James because “ we just want him gone” so they enlisted the help of this young African American Girl Briana , and told her “ we need you to say you saw James do something wrong because we have no legal grounds to fire him we just want him gone, so being a young girl that was told she had to do this or lose her job , she had no choice but to go along with them . Mind you this was November 15th 2022 Yet they had already drawn up these falsified documents on November 11, 2022 They never even told the poor girl that what she was doing was illegal, they just used Jett as a scapegoat, then Fired Her the vey next day and Fired James via the telephone while he was still undergoing physical therapy and going to the orthopedic surgeon for his injuries!!!
James contacted the EEOC , which is overseen by the Department Of Justice, they did their own investigation and obviously after months of investigation they found grounds enough to issue James a “ Right to sue” .as Karma always intervenes, he was assigned the Witches favorite color Attorney, a senior Trial attorney who just happened to be a Harvard Educated Black woman!!!
James is now currently being represented by a major law firm for the defamation slander , wrongful Ty. And La Fitness failure to act responsibly when James was emailing HR begging them to at least attempt to fix the situation with Sales Manager aka the witch, as she was refusing to speak to him at all , even leaving out the back door just so she didn’t have to say anything like a simple “ good night” !!’ James was the only one who had access to the keys to the safest room in the building , in the event off an active shooting , yet the witch was not speaking to him, so that made the situation even more dangerous as there are also children in the kids club..
So then since James Workers comp case had nothing to do with all of the slander , defamation and wrongful termination, LA Fitness again attempted to mess up this disabled person’s life even more by offering him some extremely low amount of money and one of the stipulations was “ if James accepts this settlement ( and not for what he went through injury wise it was very low ) he would agree to withdraw his Labor Claim and not sue them for them making racist remaryagainsr blacks ( mind you James is white) and he said
“ no way I’m not accepting any amount and just forget about everything they did to me and the way they treat their employees, their racist remarks against Jews , Blacks, and Gays. ! He refused to accept hush money , told the workers comp lawyer “ well I guess you worked on this case for a year , for nothing , if you can’t have the verbiage removed , then you wasted you’re time hence you won’t get paid”
The very next day the Workers comp Attorney sent an email to his Labor Attorney which james by law had to be copied on , saying “ Dear Attorney ( fill in the blank) please tell me word for word which verbiage you would like carved out of his settlement offer “
The other Attorney responded “ everything pertaining to James’s Labor claim with the EEOC and DOJ)
The very next day .,, the settlement letter was amended and the verbiage that Jane’s and his attorney wanted removed was, funny how it was done so quickly, mind you they told James “ they will not carve out any verbiage for you “ hmmmm well they did.
So. If you’re giving LA Fitness you’re business , and you’re ok with giving them your money if you’re a person of color, gay, Jewish or anyone else they hate , then basically you’re allowing this to continue, because Joni is still there doing the same things
Lastly , like one week before they fired James he was like a hero to them for two reasons, 1 because he stayed at that gym with BSO when a woman was abducted in the Pompano La Fitness parking lot, she was thrown into her trunk and driven to somewhere on Palm Aire like a storage unit. James stayed with BSO until 2:30 am in the gym assisting 12 BSO officers!!Then that same week , on James shift, they did a corporate visit and got extremely high scores for greetings, overall an excellent visit , that his boss brought to his attention, then the very next week they fired him for “ Poor Job performance “ !!!!!!!! Kinda unbelievable, apparently they also didn’t realize that falsification of termination or any employment records was illegal and whoever’s names are on those papers , is facing criminal charges.
James happened to run into the girl they used as their scapegoat and had her lie fir them so they could at least have something on him to terminate him, what they didn’t think about the highly unlikely chances The girl they had lie for them and James would ever cross paths , well they did in a store in Pompano City Place while shopping !
Bottom line , James wants this to go to court in front of a judge trial , jury and MEDIA, he’d rather NOT settle , he wants Everyone to know what happened to him Plus how they treat their employees.
After plenty of discussions with numerous legal entities and Attorneys, they all agree that IF LA Firness consulted with their in house attorneys, , they would have NEVER advised them to convict a story and have another employee or employees to lie and falsify documents . La Fitness has options like for example take the time have a sit down meeting and figure out why the witch hated James, then simply say , ok if you hate him and now he definitely hates you , , Witch you live in Boca, James you live in Oaklsnd Park, would either of you consider the option of transferring??
But they Never employed any type of conflict resolution, which is commonplace in most ethical workplaces , but remember, this is LA Fitness, they have no logic or do not know how to resolve easily resolvable situations.
As consumers you HAVE a right to know what is going on behind the scenes at any business you give you’re hard earned money to, imagine if it was you’re child the Witch accused the young kid wiring the front desk of being on food stamps and welfare, even worse imaging if they had asked you’re son or daughter to lie for them and not even tell you’re child or loved one what the legal consequences were for making falsified statements or signing falsified employment documents which were turned over to the Department of Labor!! That’s an entire different legal situation they put themselves into . They ( La fitness ) thought “ oh what are the chances of them running into each other?” Well they did
Copy of that he text from the girl to James tye one they had lie for them then fired her the next day!!!
12:53 Photo V Brianna Co Worker year ot myn schoorm direduy paying for a lot of things. I have a lot of upcoming in my life I don't want that to mess up. Done But I do remember Frank telling me that have phill there was for you it was a set up cause the wanted you gone. Then I was in the mix and they were watching me as well. I'm not sure what for but. If there's any information you want to know I can try my best to find out for you. When Frank fired me he didn't sign anything. I'm not sure if he did it after. There was a witness My attorney works on a contingency basis meaning you don't pay a penny unless they win Was there a witness when they fired you ?? Yes i don't remember his name It was the other boy who normally closes La

La Fitness Pompano Beach They have a lot of serious issues going on there .
Try and follow this one as it involves, racism, discrimination, anti Semitism,homophobia, slander, defamation, falsifying employment documents
Ok , so LA Fitness Pompano Beach , Florida 1000 north federal highway 33062
The sales manager there for the sake of legalities will only be referred to by her first name which is witch
LA fitness has already fired her once before then they bought her back in September of2021
Reason for termination is unclear but was said to be discrimination against African Americans, Gays/ LGBTQ community and making anti semetic remarks but nobody knows for sure what the reason was for here termination, but it had ti be bad enough for them to hire her , Luis Maio one of her former sales his said “ I heard it was for embezzlement “ if that’s even true , since when did embezzlement become a re- hirable offense???????? ( again no one knows its that’s true except for the higher ups at LA Fitness
On one night in November of 2021 , a disabled employee who just happened to be a part of the LGBTQ community, came into work his regular closing shift 6 pm to 11 pm,
He was immediately summoned to a woman he did not even technically report to
The Witch/ dark haired sales manager who proceeded to tell him
“ oh you know Dante has been missing from the front desk for 10 minutes now, the disabled employee responded “ I’m sure he’s in the gym , maybe just using the restroom, “
Sales Manager the Witch response was:
“ oh come on now James , you know how THEY are ( referring to African American people in general) he’s missing in action by now he’s probably already home counting his welfare and food stamps balance” she continues “ you and I weren’t raised that way , we were bought up differently “ the disabled employee, proceeded to tell her “ I’m sure he’s in the gym and I’ll find him”, however you and I are nothing alike you are a racist and as soon as I find Dante, I’m reporting you ( sales manager ) to Human Resources “
The Witch didn’t care as she was just about to have this young kid fired for in her words “ time fraud”
In reality he was simply in the gym translating another employees COVID results tests from English to Creole!!!!
So the Witch comes running up to the front desk attempting to ask Dante “ where did you go”?
Mind you he was not even gone from the front desk but 6 minutes I checked the video footage!!!
Once I told her he was assisting another employee translating her COVID results test from English to Creole, she went back to her cubicle we warned Dante she had her finger on the phone and about to have you fired!!
And we proceeded to tell him that the witch said; you “ were probably missing in action already home counting his food stamps and welfare checks”!! Imagine how he must have felt extremely awful we proceeded to contact Human Resources and reported her to them snot her racist remarks.
They said “ oh we will look into it”
Did they ??? No, never !!!!
They allow her to behave like this and it’s been going on for years now !!
Mind you a good percentage of the members that pay her paychecks are African American or of Caribbean descent , in addition many of the members are of the LGBTQ community!!!
Obviously they are not aware of the racism there because if I we’re African American/ Cary, I’d cancel my membership and bring my business to any other gym besides LA Fitness but since they don’t know any of this nor do any members of the LGBTQ community which also many of the members there also identify as LGBTQ !!
So the front desk person who also happens to be of LGBTQ community, and identifies as such ,
Sales Manager The Witch decided she was going to send slanderous/ defamatory emails in retaliation for the front desk guy ,James , to Human Resources, all of which his front desk boss Frank went to Sales Manager The Witch on THREE separate times begging her and telling her to “ stop sending slanderous/ defamatory emails about my employee James who happens to be disabled, he additionally told her that Human Resources, copied Operations Manager Frank on her emails he to sales manager The Witch
Look , I reviewed the cameras each time and everything you’re saying in you’re emails are not in synch with my front desk video footage , stop this, it’s illegal”
Her response was:
“ no I’m not stopping until he’s gone “!!!!
Then she refused to speak to James in excess of 60 days!! James notified HR again that this was a very dangerous situation since on July 12, 2022 James was threatened to be “ SHOT “ by s kid Who was banned from the gym for brandishing a gun and threatening some minors to shoot them too!! Including kids in the kids club!!! (?yes if you have children , that gym is not safe , nor is the kids club!!’
James immediately recognized the guy ( Damien) and said can I see you’re I’d or scan in for me. Obviously he knew he was banned so James said you have to leave , that’s when he said “ I k ow what you drive you know how I roll and that I’m packing!!!
Earlier in that same Day ,Area Manager Robert attempted to “ Terminate “ James because he felt Joni and him could not get along!!
James said ok , I have no disciplinary action, and you want to fire me for HER behavior, go ahead. So we are going from a disabled very reliable employee being completely employed to terminated, james apparently told Robert fire me now or I’m going back to the front desk as it looks busy up there . Area Manager Robert said ok so you think you can work with her, his response was yes, but you need to at least attempt to correct her issues or at least make this a non hostile work environment..
He did nothing, James went back to work and that was the end of that , for now .
Later that same week a janitor went to Sakes Manager The Witch who also has a heart condition he asked her “ I need to go home for 10 minutes to get my nitroglycerin pills for my heart, I live close I’ll be right back less than 10 minutes “!!!
Sales Manager the witch told the janitor
“ you’re heart problem is not my problem, no you stay here and mop the floors!!”
Imagine if he had a heart attack after She denied him to go retrieve his medication he so desperately needed!!????
Then on another occasion another Janitor came to James fir some advice, Donna , apparently told James or asked James what should I do , they are asking all of us to lie in our depositions a pot a guy who seriously injured his leg in the gym due to LA Fitness being negligent for not fixing the leak in the basketball court !!!
Donna asked James “ what should I do because they want me to lie for them ( La ft)
James told her just tell the real truth because lying in a deposition could come with some legal problems for you and the others “ like contempt of court !!
On August 11,2022, James had a slip and fall seriously damaging his right shoulder as the members were getting tired of corporate turning off all the lights in the gym including the locker rooms 15 minutes before they even closed the gym!!
Members were very upset , sometimes they had started leaving the showers running, and had the shower curtains closed , leading anyone that closed the gym that there were people still taking showers in there in the dark , but out of retaliation, they just thought they could cause a flood.
I do know, on that night as James was closing the gym he himself had a serious fall on the wet locker room floor , was laying in a pool of water in the dark for over 30 minutes luckily he had his phone , called 911 they eventually got there,
There are no slip proof mats anywhere in that gym!!
When the paramedics got there they had to stabilize james with the neck brace and try to move him so they could treat him somewhere in the gym where there was lights, james said I believe the lobby stays lit until like midnight, but no that was not true either because in the lobby , as they were checking his vitals , the entire lobby goes pitch black, that’s when they realized the lights were being turned off remotely!!
So the paramedics said let’s get him into the ambulance where we can at least treat him . Do paramedics got him in the ambulance, transferred him to Imperial Point Hospital where they did a lot of scans and XRay on his head neck , shoulder and spine.
James was sent home the next day from the emergency hospital with only 3 days of bedrest, and workers comp immediately started physical therapy 4 times a week and had him seeing an orthopedic surgeon, who decided it was ok for James to go back to work on light duty . Provided LA Fitness follow his suggestion of light duty only and get a proper chair . So james was going to all of these physical therapy sessions, and de visits and still going into work! On November , 15, james went into work , and there was the witches boss , Useless was behind the front desk they were instructed by someone to find a way to terminate James because “ we just want him gone” so they enlisted the help of this young African American Girl Briana , and told her “ we need you to say you saw James do something wrong because we have no legal grounds to fire him we just want him gone, so being a young girl that was told she had to do this or lose her job , she had no choice but to go along with them . Mind you this was November 15th 2022 Yet they had already drawn up these falsified documents on November 11, 2022 They never even told the poor girl that what she was doing was illegal, they just used Jett as a scapegoat, then Fired Her the vey next day and Fired James via the telephone while he was still undergoing physical therapy and going to the orthopedic surgeon for his injuries!!!
James contacted the EEOC , which is overseen by the Department Of Justice, they did their own investigation and obviously after months of investigation they found grounds enough to issue James a “ Right to sue” .as Karma always intervenes, he was assigned the Witches favorite color Attorney, a senior Trial attorney who just happened to be a Harvard Educated Black woman!!!
James is now currently being represented by a major law firm for the defamation slander , wrongful Ty. And La Fitness failure to act responsibly when James was emailing HR begging them to at least attempt to fix the situation with Sales Manager aka the witch, as she was refusing to speak to him at all , even leaving out the back door just so she didn’t have to say anything like a simple “ good night” !!’ James was the only one who had access to the keys to the safest room in the building , in the event off an active shooting , yet the witch was not speaking to him, so that made the situation even more dangerous as there are also children in the kids club..
So then since James Workers comp case had nothing to do with all of the slander , defamation and wrongful termination, LA Fitness again attempted to mess up this disabled person’s life even more by offering him some extremely low amount of money and one of the stipulations was “ if James accepts this settlement ( and not for what he went through injury wise it was very low ) he would agree to withdraw his Labor Claim and not sue them for them making racist remaryagainsr blacks ( mind you James is white) and he said
“ no way I’m not accepting any amount and just forget about everything they did to me and the way they treat their employees, their racist remarks against Jews , Blacks, and Gays. ! He refused to accept hush money , told the workers comp lawyer “ well I guess you worked on this case for a year , for nothing , if you can’t have the verbiage removed , then you wasted you’re time hence you won’t get paid”
The very next day the Workers comp Attorney sent an email to his Labor Attorney which james by law had to be copied on , saying “ Dear Attorney ( fill in the blank) please tell me word for word which verbiage you would like carved out of his settlement offer “
The other Attorney responded “ everything pertaining to James’s Labor claim with the EEOC and DOJ)
The very next day .,, the settlement letter was amended and the verbiage that Jane’s and his attorney wanted removed was, funny how it was done so quickly, mind you they told James “ they will not carve out any verbiage for you “ hmmmm well they did.
So. If you’re giving LA Fitness you’re business , and you’re ok with giving them your money if you’re a person of color, gay, Jewish or anyone else they hate , then basically you’re allowing this to continue, because Joni is still there doing the same things
Lastly , like one week before they fired James he was like a hero to them for two reasons, 1 because he stayed at that gym with BSO when a woman was abducted in the Pompano La Fitness parking lot, she was thrown into her trunk and driven to somewhere on Palm Aire like a storage unit. James stayed with BSO until 2:30 am in the gym assisting 12 BSO officers!!Then that same week , on James shift, they did a corporate visit and got extremely high scores for greetings, overall an excellent visit , that his boss brought to his attention, then the very next week they fired him for “ Poor Job performance “ !!!!!!!! Kinda unbelievable, apparently they also didn’t realize that falsification of termination or any employment records was illegal and whoever’s names are on those papers , is facing criminal charges.
James happened to run into the girl they used as their scapegoat and had her lie fir them so they could at least have something on him to terminate him, what they didn’t think about the highly unlikely chances The girl they had lie for them and James would ever cross paths , well they did in a store in Pompano City Place while shopping !
Bottom line , James wants this to go to court in front of a judge trial , jury and MEDIA, he’d rather NOT settle , he wants Everyone to know what happened to him Plus how they treat their employees.
After plenty of discussions with numerous legal entities and Attorneys, they all agree that IF LA Firness consulted with their in house attorneys, , they would have NEVER advised them to convict a story and have another employee or employees to lie and falsify documents . La Fitness has options like for example take the time have a sit down meeting and figure out why the witch hated James, then simply say , ok if you hate him and now he definitely hates you , , Witch you live in Boca, James you live in Oaklsnd Park, would either of you consider the option of transferring??
But they Never employed any type of conflict resolution, which is commonplace in most ethical workplaces , but remember, this is LA Fitness, they have no logic or do not know how to resolve easily resolvable situations.
As consumers you HAVE a right to know what is going on behind the scenes at any business you give you’re hard earned money to, imagine if it was you’re child the Witch accused the young kid wiring the front desk of being on food stamps and welfare, even worse imaging if they had asked you’re son or daughter to lie for them and not even tell you’re child or loved one what the legal consequences were for making falsified statements or signing falsified employment documents which were turned over to the Department of Labor!! That’s an entire different legal situation they put themselves into . They ( La fitness ) thought “ oh what are the chances of them running into each other?” Well they did
Copy of that he text from the girl to James tye one they had lie for them then fired her the next day!!!
12:53 Photo V Brianna Co Worker year ot myn schoorm direduy paying for a lot of things. I have a lot of upcoming in my life I don't want that to mess up. Done But I do remember Frank telling me that have phill there was for you it was a set up cause the wanted you gone. Then I was in the mix and they were watching me as well. I'm not sure what for but. If there's any information you want to know I can try my best to find out for you. When Frank fired me he didn't sign anything. I'm not sure if he did it after. There was a witness My attorney works on a contingency basis meaning you don't pay a penny unless they win Was there a witness when they fired you ?? Yes i don't remember his name It was the other boy who normally closes La

Hi. (sorry in advance if you don't understand me, as English is not my first language. I tried to make it grammatically correct) I am 25F, going to be turning 26 in a few months, and my boyfriend is also 25, still quite a few months away from his 26. We have been friends for more than five years, starting our honors in the same department of the university. Now, we are finishing our master’s final exams and have been together for more than 3.5 years. I would like to say we have the best relationship possible, and he is the best boyfriend I could ever ask for. He’s very handsome, masculine, strong, honest, absolutely straightforward, and incredibly gentle towards me. He’s very keen on learning new things and loves it when I try to learn things from him or on my own. He’s really funny and has a dark sense of humor that we both share. He is somewhat quiet and reserved in public, but when we’re together, it’s like he’ll never get tired of being himself. He teaches me how to think like a man and be calm, as I have a bad habit of overthinking in situations, which I am so grateful for.
We have been sure from our second year of the relationship that we would get married after our master’s when both of us secure stable jobs, which hopefully won’t be very hard considering our major. We are from a third-world country and are religious and traditional to some extent, so parents' approval matters a lot to us. Both of us always communicate whenever one of us feels unappreciated or misunderstood. He’s very romantic (though he gets flustered every time I say so) and takes me out on a regular basis, and if not, we end up roaming around our campus area and gossiping. We live on campus in separate dorms for males and females.
The issue is, I feel he’s too good for me, as if I am not yet there where I feel I deserve all the love he gives me, as I feel I can’t reciprocate it properly. He has some money set aside from where he spends on me quite frequently and gets me stuff such as shoes, clothes, and chocolates I like. As I don’t have a job yet, I can’t really spend as much money as he does, but I cook for him from time to time, which he loves, and sometimes he gets emotional as he misses the food from home. He never expects me to give him anything expensive or anything at all, but every time I do something, he’s so happy and keeps on telling me throughout the day how much he likes it. He’s really the best, and I know in my heart someday soon, he’s going to be the best husband and father one can ever be.
I only wanted to post here to understand how I can make him feel more appreciated and more special. What things can I do that’ll make him feel how precious he is to me? He’s a good man, and I want to be a good woman for him.
Thanks in advance!
TLDR: I'm a 25F with an amazing boyfriend of 3.5 years. He's supportive and loving, but I sometimes feel I can't reciprocate enough. I want to know how to make him feel more appreciated and special. Any advice is welcome!

Hi. (sorry in advance if you don't understand me, as English is not my first language. I tried to make it grammatically correct) I am 25F, going to be turning 26 in a few months, and my boyfriend is also 25, still quite a few months away from his 26. We have been friends for more than five years, starting our honors in the same department of the university. Now, we are finishing our master’s final exams and have been together for more than 3.5 years. I would like to say we have the best relationship possible, and he is the best boyfriend I could ever ask for. He’s very handsome, masculine, strong, honest, absolutely straightforward, and incredibly gentle towards me. He’s very keen on learning new things and loves it when I try to learn things from him or on my own. He’s really funny and has a dark sense of humor that we both share. He is somewhat quiet and reserved in public, but when we’re together, it’s like he’ll never get tired of being himself. He teaches me how to think like a man and be calm, as I have a bad habit of overthinking in situations, which I am so grateful for.
We have been sure from our second year of the relationship that we would get married after our master’s when both of us secure stable jobs, which hopefully won’t be very hard considering our major. We are from a third-world country and are religious and traditional to some extent, so parents' approval matters a lot to us. Both of us always communicate whenever one of us feels unappreciated or misunderstood. He’s very romantic (though he gets flustered every time I say so) and takes me out on a regular basis, and if not, we end up roaming around our campus area and gossiping. We live on campus in separate dorms for males and females.
The issue is, I feel he’s too good for me, as if I am not yet there where I feel I deserve all the love he gives me, as I feel I can’t reciprocate it properly. He has some money set aside from where he spends on me quite frequently and gets me stuff such as shoes, clothes, and chocolates I like. As I don’t have a job yet, I can’t really spend as much money as he does, but I cook for him from time to time, which he loves, and sometimes he gets emotional as he misses the food from home. He never expects me to give him anything expensive or anything at all, but every time I do something, he’s so happy and keeps on telling me throughout the day how much he likes it. He’s really the best, and I know in my heart someday soon, he’s going to be the best husband and father one can ever be.
I only wanted to post here to understand how I can make him feel more appreciated and more special. What things can I do that’ll make him feel how precious he is to me? He’s a good man, and I want to be a good woman for him.
Thanks in advance!
TLDR: I'm a 25F with an amazing boyfriend of 3.5 years. He's supportive and loving, but I sometimes feel I can't reciprocate enough. I want to know how to make him feel more appreciated and special. Any advice is welcome!

TW:harsh thoughts (self harm/hate)
I'm 17m and I feel like I'm holding onto stuff thats just too much now. I don't want to go to others in my life for help because I don't want them to see me or just think I'm depressed or something (maybe I am, I don't know). I may be ranting or something I don't know I've never actually done this before. This is going to be a lot.
So to begin, I have pain in my left leg and to be completely honest, its ruining me. With the other factors (I'll explain in a moment), its affecting my mental state horribly, or I think. The pain shoots when I move a certain way and its just limited my mobiltiy. I got the injury or pain when I was wrestling and ignored my body. I always said that I would take care of it later and/or it was just the soreness and tiredness of wrestling. This happened this year by the way. I fought through it, the adrenaline was kicking in everytime, I won through the pain, I lost with it. But everytime I was feeling it. I would have these thoughts, to hurt myself or hurt something like a desk or wall. At times, at night, I would feel the pain and just feel isolated. Like I was on my own to feel this pain. I would even move my body around to not feel it, hit my head on wall. I would tear up because of the pain. It made me feel, I dont' like to think of it this way, but unaliveing essentially. I hated it.
But what made it even worse, was that the girl I talked to just left me on read alot and I hated to say this. But i loved her, I really did. I hate thinking that way because I didn't know all her traits, I suppressed my feelings to not say that I wanted to be friends, I date to marry and dating in my teen years would be pointless. But everytime I saw my friend with his girlfriend (now ex). I missed her, thought of moments where her and I would experience something and how we would react. Asking myself how she would act if she saw me win, lose, lost, hurt, damaged, hungry, or just plain me in this tournaments. Would she help, would she aid in my pain, would she be with me. I never understood why I loved her so much, why I wanted to be with her, but the confusion, greif of 'losing' a friend, and then the pain of the leg, not the best combo.
End of the season, I was in the most pain in my life. (I also forgot to mention how my scoliosis was messing with yhe pain too. It made my hip go far left and made me walk funny. I HATED IT, I still do.) I did and am trying to recover. The pain has gone down and I am more mobile. But not like back then. I can't run normally, nor jump, I do believe I can recover physically, its just. I'm tired as well. I gained so much fat, my eating habits have gone to crap, my room is messy so badly, my brain is filled with ideas, and I just feel lost.
This is getting long and I'm tired (its 2am). I do feel better and thank you for reading. Please say something if you'd like, I'd appreciate it. Thank you, I may come back to add more, but I just need to sleep this off.

He bodied Drake there is no debate but the sentiment 'they not like us' is funny to a fellow Canadian like myself. To clarify... CANADIANS DON'T WANT TO BE LIKE YOU! The youth eats it up in Canada but the general population isn't gangbanging, dishing out racism to the minority groups, hung up on winning wars that happened decades ago despite the country being in shambles as I type this. America isn't the greatest country in the world it is Canada. Entertaining the rest of the world isn't taking care of an entire country. Where does American pride even come from? Is it seriously from the eye candy they create? or is it the culture? Americans come off as ass holes. I don't care if Americans think Canadians are nice I don't have to be nice back I hate your entertainers and everything that goes viral over there. Ice Spice rapping about a fart has people dancing in the street. Donald Trump is the best actor in the world for fooling everybody into thinking he knew what he was doing, Jake Paul is boxing Mike Tyson soon. What a fucking mess. What's going on in Canada some will ask me. Nothing brow raising. Politics, anticipation for a new prime minister and that's about it. May be boring, may suck to not be in the spotlight like the Americans but at least we're humble and "weak" as some might say. Honestly you guys have no right to call yourselves strong. Being a wild ass hole is not strong. Shooting people from your own country is pathetic. The fact health care isn't free shows where their intentions are, they want all the money until earth ends. It's not admirable. It's not "winning" It's biting off more than you can chew with all 7 deadly sins. That is how America is today. Sincerica. I feel bad for the citizens. The good ones. The fact they have to put up with the violence, discrimination and nauseating amount of patriotism, the movements. It's all so bull shit and to be honest I myself miss when America wasn't a joke. America as a Canadian to me back then was a strong brother who took the heat with stride but today It seems like the country is weak, tired and mad at itself. Also we don't talk funny. You do. Half of you sound like Mater from Cars or Honey Boo Boo.

I know you weren't taking it seriously. I wasn't supposed to either but I still miss you. I didn't want to be alone so I got with the first person who gave me a chance. I know you aren't commited. That's what I wanted. But now I'm in to deep. You pretend to be committed when you aren't. I dont even call you out. God I'm pathetic. I know in a month or two you will text me crying about how your 8th boyfriend dumped you. I'll comfort you like always and we'll get back together. It'll be nice for a while but we'll inevitably break up again. I knew you where like this. That's why I started dating you. I was scared of commitment and didn't want to be alone. You where nice, pretty, funny, perfect in every way. But not so much so that you where popular. In other words exactly who I needed. But I hate this. You always act like we could get back together anytime, when i know you're dating someone else. But I'm scared to back out. I've never been in a relationship before and im afraid that if i break it off with you ill never find someone else. You blatantly flirt with me knowing I want to get back together. Then you talk about how hot some other guy is and then kiss me a day later. I've never had a good relationship with anyone, family, friends, classmates, etc; so to have someone act so affectionately feels nice but I know you don't really love me.

Are you looking for a pretty cute girl to message with everyday and look forward to talk to the moment you wake up? A pretty cute girl you can share anything under the sun and have a good laugh and time with each other? And a pretty cute girl you can share what makes you sad and cry?
Well I am looking for platonic friendships. I am currently and recently decided (with my partner) in an “one sided” open relationship but I am still looking for platonic friendships only. My partner knows about this, but we still prefer for me to have discreet conversations. So there will be boundaries and rules between him and I, and you and I.
Things about me: i workout everyday (I only miss out on a workout when I have no sleep, when I am extremely sick, or when I need to travel), i love to cook meals from different types of cuisines (my pantry is so filled with stuff!), i love reading books, shopping and dressing up, and basically making myself pretty. I’m like a “trophy partner”. According to all the men I have dated and slept with that I’m very good in bed (just sharing but do know we will not meet in person), I’m funny, super fun, kind, cheeky, lovable, and just easy to be adored.
You have to be: Caucasian (white), with hair and good teeth, body wise: fit to HEALTHY dad bod. Age ranging from 25-49 years old. Funny, positive and outgoing, romantic, kind, and not full of yourself. Handsome and cute. Again, MUST BE FUNNY. I want to be attracted to the person I’m talking with. Like a harmless crush. 😋
I’m emphasizing again that this a platonic friendship type of thing, but we can of course be sweet with each other. Just please, don’t you ever fall for me. 💖
Please make an amazing intro, I get so much messages all the time. The best intros get my attention. First impressions are so important you know? 😋

Following these "grass was greener" type of posts here I decided to make my own comparisons with current CS2 so I could freshen my memory. I have chosen a Cybershoke Public server for this which is 128 tick and I had 25 ms ping there, so experience is more or less the same as CS2 Faceit/MM. Also more or less okayish players there. This was an interesting experience I must say.
What's good about CS:GO?

1. Obviously performance. I played Mirage and got over 1000 fps in specific place;
2. Sound latency. Spraying feels easier because you hear your own shots earlier;
3. Easier to see you tagging an enemy, bloodsprays are more evident;
4. I felt nostalgic for an old AK sound;
5. I felt nostalgic for viewmodel_recoil 0.

What's NOT good about CS:GO?

1. Loading times;
2. Input latency at the same framerate. This is funny, but here we are, CS2 feels like a more input-responsive game than CSGO (need measurements though);
3. Sound quality. Not only sounds themselves are better in CS2 - binaural engine in CS:GO does a lot of funny sound distortion moments which are not there in CS2;
4. Overall fluidity. I don't know why, but the game doesn't feel fluid - just like I remember it back in the day. It's not framerate-related, it has something to do with animation pacing. CS2 feels more fluid to me (360 hz monitor btw);
5. (Minor) I got used to spraying in CS2 and it's harder to me in CSGO. Maybe it's minor differences in sounds and screen shake, because spray pattern and accuracy modifier are actually the same for all weapons.

What feels the same?

1. Peeker's advantage, getting tagged and all the other netcode-related things that are often discussed;
2. Movement (more or less);
3. Well... Hell, the whole game feels almost the same. I'm not kidding.

To conclude: memories are screwing with you guys. There's no "night and day" difference. CS2 is not a new game. The differences are subtle. BUT. I'm a huge fan of Source games. I love almost every multiplayer Source game. The feeling that engine gave to me was nothing alike. This sound engine that generated that simple, smh distorted but crispy wide sound was just mwah. Super fast Havok physics that instantly responded to your every move. Yeah, this experience was fun to me because I felt like being at home. Otherwise... I don't miss CSGO. CS2 is a worthy successor. And I mean it.
P.S. But please Valve, more content. CS2 is poor on content.

User can summon technology similar to shikigami, specifically things like a cellphone, laptop, cables, speakers, headphones, etc. Most of these tools can gloat alongside the user and also function as their actual Irl counterparts.
Ce trait- the user of this technique has a pixely shaped ce, which gives the user enhanced Ce manipulation and makes their Ce sharper in multiple places.
Extension techniques:
Cellphone- the cellphone can do things like take pictures and "cut" inanimate objects (without cursed energy) in order to later "paste" it back into reality for a variety of affect, these objects can also be "copied" so that it can be re-used, however if its copied and used too much it can glitch which can deconstruct the object and inevitably cause damage to the phone slowing it down indefinitely. The phone can also use the camera to create flashes to disorient the enemy, or compress the flash into a ce blast of energy. The phone floats alongside the user when they want it too. The phone also has an Ai that powers it, its much more advanced than current Ai as it can not only answer most questions easily (having access to the internet) but also has its own emotions and feelings surrounding the user, formulating complex thoughts and emotions on its own and even keeping up conversations like you're best friends would ( this is 100% a coding mistake the user made that cannot be fixed, don't worry though the Ai is funny) the Ai is called sam and bases its self off of people on the internet, it comes off as extremely condescending and sarcastic but can be sweet and caring when the moment presents itself, she is also the basis of all of the technique, since she inhabits all of the technology the user creates.
Tablet- the tablet can take the photos from the phone in order to "edit" them causing their overall shapes, parameters, and even density or points to be completely different, however the more different an object is from its original the more Ce inefficient it is, and it can also cause glitches over time. The tabled floats alongside the user when they want it too.
Laptop- the laptop can create codes for different photos or codes just in general. The coded photos can add effects and change more conceptual things such as weight, density, instability, etc. Raw codes can do a variety of things, like creating new technology based shikigami with varying abilities, changing Irl things such as objects temperatures or how they react to other objects, and if the user miss-codes something it 100% ends in a glitch and eventually implodes on itself. The laptop can sort of float, it more just stays still whe placed somewhere but doesn't move independently.
Cables- the user cam summon different kinds of cables for different thing or to connect his devices to each other or other things. These cables can first conduct Ce and convert it into electrical energy (still cursed) which can charge his devices or be used to attack. Next these cords can connect to inanimate objects to steal their code or manipulate it for different effects, it can also steal somethings base code in order to glitch it. The cables cannot float ok their own, however they can stay suspended when the user needs it.
Headphones- they act as basic headphones, but they can also connect to other people's subconscious as a form of telepathy (has to be consentful on both parties). The headphones cannot float. (because why would they need too?)
Portable projector- the user summons a small speaker sized projector that has the ability to project a barrier that's size is dependent on the amount of cursed energy put into it, the strength of the barrier is also dependent on Ce output. These projections have no shapes other than square but it can still have other stuff projected in order to confuse the opponent. The projector floats alongside the user and can be sent somewhere else or stay put.
Printer- the user summons an average sized printer that has no abilities on its own and is one of the only tools that can't float, however when paired with the computer it can either print out stock images or saved images on paper almost instantly, these images become the real thing after the paper leaves the users hand, theses objects don't stay solid forever and are very size dependent (if its smaller it stays longer and vice versa) and the objects couldn't really pass as the real thing since they'll usually look blocky or can be missing textures or colors.
Portable charger- this is more of a personal tool which the user can store Ce for later use into, however it can also turn that Ce into electricity either for the users combat or to actually charge the tools. This tool can float alongside the user.
Maximum technique:
Complete system- the user summons a computer monitor, keyboard, mouse, pc, and speakers (they are all floating about standing level to the user). After this the user can either stand at the computer and use the technique which gives him minimal control over the surrounding area (think the op op no mi from one piece but less powerful) in this area the user controls all non cursed inanimate objects, he can edit their composition, weight, shape, etc. He doesn't gain 100%control over things and glitches are more common here. For the other maximum he has to put his phone onto the keyboard and say "autopilot" which creates a robotic armor for sam, the armor itself is about 7'0 with a very wide build (almost like a transformer) the robot is comprised 100% of technology such as car parts, computers, speakers, etc which gives sam an extreme array of abilities, however the user is limited to just his Ce and anything sam doesn't use (probably just cables and portable charger).
Domain expansion: World wide web- the domain puts all people in it, within a desktop computer, this includes an interactive background (its random every time) a cursor, apps, and setting on the bottom. The sure hit of this domain is that sam becomes a litteral entity made of pure energy, in this form she has just as much control of the domain as the user of this domain, other than that there is no sure hit, but the cursor can be used to click(attack), drag(throw), and edit(look at/slightly alter stats) while they are still. Apps can also be opened which can lead to an array of even more possibilities (going to YouTube and watching a video to disorient the enemy, going to Twitter to make them immediately upset, or going to reddit to cause a numerous amount of possible affects).
Other info:
Glitches/viruses- if the user messed up/overuses/or gain some sort of penalty via technique, then a glitch or virus is created. A glitch/virus can come in multiple forms either being an error in programming that depending on the amount of error can either just stop something from working or full on implode it, they can also show up as living entities that vary in size but are always a purple electric monster that corrupts whatever it makes contact with (the corruption either continues to spread or stops after a while and it doesn't affect living or cursed objects) the viruses are also extremely hostile and attack any living thing they can find including the user, however they are rarely a real threat as they are usually dealt with similar to curses, but they have been able to become special grade relative before (even developing an anti program of sort that acts as a technique).
Programs- programs in a way can act as binding vows with less rules, they can cause a multitude of effects, like loss or gain in Ce, enhanced attributes, or even entirely different effects, however they also act as litteral programs which means if there is even a slight error in its program it can shut down or stop working entirely (this can come in handy sometimes by freezing objects in place for a short period of time)
Binding vows:
Autopilot- by saying autopilot the user gives sam complete access to their technique, this allows sam to do whatever she wants with any of the technology for about an hour, this vow also enhances the uses Ce output by 50% since he's essentially losing his technique for a given time.
Power off- by turning the power off on all his devices he gains a 100% boost in overall stats and Ce
Combo breaker- the user can activate a video game esk ability by saying "power up" within the 15 minutes time limit the user gains a garunteed black flash, given they can hit the enemy 15 times before they can hit him, this ability can backfire because his enemy gains the same effect, this can either be a make or break situation depending on how you look at it (these black flashed are also about 2X power instead of 2.5X to make it more even.
Extra:

• this ability was made to be overpowered so don't come at me for it.
• i have no OC to go along with this technique (however i did have some Canon thoughts for its eventual user) -if you wanna use it thats fine just ask pls
• if there are any thoughts/ ideas/ queries/ questions/ inquiries/ extra abilities or tidbits/ anything if the such i would live to hear it!!!

So I (F50) am married to my husband (M57) for 23 years. Most of my marriage has been good. Seven years ago I was diagnosed with stage 4 (Terminal) breast cancer. It had already spread to my bones when it was found. I was quoted as maybe 3 years at that time. Obviously I have survived that date but it has been a struggle. We have 3 kids, one from my previous relationship(f28) and two together (m23,m17).
Problem 1. The minute I was diagnosed he stopped touching me. We were very sexually adventurous and experimented with all types of things. His first excuse was the fact that my mastectomy scar was off putting. So I fought my doctors and had reconstructive surgery which consisted of taking the tissue and skin from my stomach to create breasts. I only did the first phase of the surgery so there are no nipples but I appear normal in clothes. Yes this did create more scars. The breasts have a football shaped scars instead of the gagged line it originally was and I have a hip to hip scar on my lower stomach. But I have zero fat on my stomach like it is so flat you can’t pinch an inch or half inch and the breasts have a great shape and firmness. Still he wouldn’t touch me. Now it’s he “is afraid he will hurt me because my bones are fragile”. In his defense he uses the fact that I have had 3 vertebrae collapse and I have one vertebrae that the tumor grew up against the spinal cord so there is a risk of paralysis if it collapses. Sex would be so great but at this point in my life I would settle for just being held and touched. He officially moved to the guest room 4 months ago :( Problem 2. A couple of years ago he started taking some of my pain medication. Originally it was because he needed knee replacement surgery and was putting it off “because it would be a burden on me for him to get surgery”. I finally put my foot down and forced him to see the Dr and get the surgery 2 years ago. During his recovery I got him weaned off my pain medication by backing off the dose by 1/4 each week so he would not suffer from withdrawal. He was doing great for about 4 to 6 months. Then he started taking them again. I figured out that he was and the big hid and seek game began. I have a lot of pain and it’s pretty constant so I take large doses of extended release pain medication and I have high dosage immediate release and they are prescribed in large quantities. Once I figured out he was doing this again I started getting the Dr to lower my dosage by half on the immediate release (he can’t take the extended release because he has a reaction to it and his heart starts beating funny) So instead of taking 30 mg I have it in 15 mg. Even though that can cause me to have a harder time with breakthrough pain at least there is less chance of him overdosing. Unfortunately I can’t even tell my Dr or the therapist what is going on because they would have to stop giving me pain medication based on the paperwork I signed when I went into palliative care. So my next visit I will tell them how much my pain has improved and lower it to 5 mg. Anyway Problem 3 still drug related. He lost his job in April. First time in his life to ever be fired. He has another job lined up but has to drug test and we got in an argument. He admitted to stealing my meds in the amount of up to 6 a day at times. There was a few times over the years that he would take everything I had left with no consideration that I might be in need of them or not. He then looked me in the eyes and said that I had no room to call him an addict because of how much I took! Like am I crazy?? because I actually need the medication, am always looking to reduce what I take so that I am present and awake for my family? I am opioid tolerant so I can take a larger dose and still be fully aware and awake. I do sleep a lot but treatment makes me exhausted for a little over a week and honestly the disease is tiring as well. If I do too much on my good days the next day I can sleep for 18 hours easy. He says that he wanted to be numb is why he took them. That he hated his job, he was depressed and he still hurt. But after this drug test he isn’t going take anymore UNLESS he is just dying with pain. Am I wrong to believe he is going to find a way to be hurting? I told him that I don’t want to live with an addict, he blew up at me all defensive. Right now I feel so discouraged. He has always been a good provider. He has been a decent parent although there have been struggles here and there with him connecting with our youngest and my daughter and he had there fair share of step parent issues although those have resolved in the past 8 years. I don’t want to divorce in what are most likely my last few years of life. Do I give him the opportunity to prove he can stop stealing my medication? Do I just go on as we have knowing that once I am gone there will not be a constant supply available and he will probably stop then? Do I go ahead and leave or wait until he betrays me and use’s again then leave? Or do I tell his family what I have been dealing with and see him embarrassed?
Tl;dr He uses excuses to not have physical contact anymore and has been stealing my very strong and extremely plentiful opiates to numb himself from life. Do I give him the opportunity to prove he can stop stealing my medication? Do I just go on as we have knowing that once I am gone there will not be a constant supply available and he will probably stop then? Do I go ahead and leave or wait until he betrays me and use’s again then leave? Or do I tell his family what I have been dealing with and see him embarrassed?

The day before I turn 16.
It’s funny.
This same time last year, I was begging not to turn 15.
And two years before that, I was so scared of 13.
Of not being a kid anymore.
I don’t remember 14. I think I blacked it out.
But it doesn’t matter now.
I’m 16 tomorrow. It’s currently May 22, 2024, 10:47 PM. Tomorrow, May 23, 2024, 3:58 AM, I will be 16.
That’s 5 hours and 11 minutes from now, and counting down.
Now it’s 10:48 PM.
I’m not ready for this.
I’m not ready at all.
I’m terrified.
I didn’t understand how hard it would be, growing up. I didn’t understand how hard it would be to move on. I think it’s harder because of my past. I have trauma, I have trauma, I have trauma; and how many times should I say it before it feels better? Before I feel better?
When I was six I would play doctor with my cousins and pretend I was dying or in a coma. Did they feel weird? Did they like it? Do they remember?
I never played with dolls as a kid, besides collecting Lalaloopsies. For my first or second Christmas, I got eight dolls, and I never played with any of them. Do you think those people felt disappointed that I never played with the dolls?
It says more about them than me, but still.
Do you think my friends remember me? Does Lance remember me? Do any of them remember me?
It doesn’t matter now, but it still hurts.
Do my old toys miss being played with? I wonder where they are now… in a landfill, probably, or with some kid in Honduras. Does the Honduras kid like my toys? Do they feel lonely not being with their original kid?
I wish I had some sort of cool advice. Truth is, though, I don’t. I’m the one that needs advice. I want to know how to be human. I don’t think I was made to live. I think I was made to live, but never to live. I’m not suicidal, not anymore. But tomorrow I get my license. Tomorrow I can work.
Tomorrow I’m one step closer to being more alone.
I think I figured out why I’m scared.
I’ve always been alone, to a degree. I had friends and family and imaginary ideas and I made do with what I had. If I didn’t have people to play with at recess, I would pace and memorize song lyrics instead. But soon I’ll be more alone. I’ll have to choose whether to keep my parents in my life or leave them behind. I don’t wanna leave my daddy. I want my mommy. I want both of them so bad. I need them.
I want my daddy to stay with me, and I want my mommy to come find me, and are either of those so much to ask? Is it so bothersome to say I want to be a kid again? Is it so hard to understand that I was never a kid, and now I never can be again?
I think I’ll always feel like this. Sad, I mean. And I don’t know what other online forum to go to. I don’t know what else to talk about, or who else to see about it, or what other coping mechanisms I have. I haven’t found a single person like me.
It hurts to be lonely. It hurts to be scared. I think I’ve always been scared, and I always will be. But I guess I’m living because I want to make the world a better place. I want to end the genocide in Palestine. I want to help the people of Ukraine and Sudan and Congo and all the others. I want to see North Korea free. I want to grow flowers and keep the ice caps alive and get married. I want to have a little girl, and maybe a little boy, and I want to show her that love is real. I want her to love the world the same way I love her, the same way I wanted to be loved.
It’s 11:03 PM now, and I have finals tomorrow. Spanish and English finals. I’m not ready, I never will be. But I think that’s the challenge; to do it scared. To go forth in fear. I’m not ready, I never will be, and I don’t know how to be in the first place. It’s my first time living.
But that’s the good thing: I know I’m not doing it wrong.

Just wanted to drop another quote: “The life of folly is empty of gratitude, full of anxiety: it is focused wholly on the future”
Something I recently realized after reading these quotes is that I spend too much of my time OUTSIDE of the present. I’m either wallowing in regret over the past or anxious of the future. Isn’t that funny? The past and the future — BOTH of which are out of my control. Why don’t I use that time to learn from my mistakes? To prepare myself against the things I pessimistically surmise?
This isn’t directly about A2C, BUT I do see the occasional posts resurface on my page, and the rush of negative emotions post-admissions trickle back. So, I thought that some of the more sentimental folks (like me) might appreciate these two quotes that helped me think differently. I can imagine that this is a pivotal time for many of you here. I hope you guys remember that there is quite literally no time like the present. Don’t let your future self regret this exact moment! Move on from your disappointments and devise a plan to make the best out of your experiences. New goals, new motivations, and quite possibly a different outcome than the one we fear.
REDEMPTION ARC!!!!!

This is a really complicated one for the potatoes.....I honestly think I am a wee bit crazy in my line of thinking so I need to know AITAH?
I, 29 F, have been dating my boyfriend Cereal, 27 M, for almost 2 years now. Like most couples we have had our ups and downs but we usually grow from it and become stronger. I would describe Cereal as someone who is kindhearted, serious, slightly pessimistic, but funny because he is full of dad jokes. He is a real charmer. Practically oozes golden retriever puppy boy vibes. Usually is generally harmless. Usually.........
See me and Cereal play a mobile game together. It's one of those games where you have to work with a bunch of other people to keep progressing. As a couple we've done really well in the game gathering people and making a family in game as well as a bunch of new friends.
Well part of these new friends have now caused issues. My in game best friend, we will call her Wave, she is what I would call pretty. She doesn't seem to think so but do girls like that ever? Well, this is a war game and Wave was more than apt to use herself as leverage to make allies in game. Personally, I think it is a low and raunchy tactic but I had to hand it to her it was brilliant. One by one Wave destroyed alliances I game she was like an unstoppable force like a Tsunami. Like I said, I didn't like her tactic......I guess you could say I'm a bit conservative. Well, Cereal and Wave were really good friends. They met in game and were always texting and laughing. We all had a group chat together. I genuinely thought of Wave like a big sister. That was until I found out she was sending thigh pics to Cereal. Not only that but she was telling him x-rated stuff like where he can sit and put his face. I was mortified.....absolutely destroyed that she had said that to him and that he had let the conversation go that far.
Me and Cereal had a talk about it and he had said he felt like they had went too far with the flirting and he felt very uncomfortable about her sending pics. He had assured me that they were unsolicited that he never had asked for them. A week passes from this, and Wave gets exposed about her in game tactics. She also gets called out for hurting me and trying to ruin my relationship. Everyone turned on her myself included. Well Wave came back like a day Tsunami with the receipts. It turns out that her and Cereal had a thing going on behind my back. They were ERPing together. Sexting each other behind my back. So when Wave showed me the screenshots I asked to see Cereal's messages in his phone. This is when he told me there was another girl, we will call her Mango, would he had ERPed for a week. Kind of like a hit it and quit it situation.
Cereal showed me the messages and he had in fact betrayed my trust......but he had ghosted them as well. So, I asked him why. He said he didn't know honestly. He said he ghosted them around the time we started talking about getting married and planning our wedding. He felt so bad that he cut them off and focus on our relationship and the wedding.
I feel dumb and conflicted. I love Cereal......I think is my other half. And I would love nothing more than to marry him. But, I feel like maybe I did something wrong or am missing something he needs because why else would he cheat?
He says that it's not it. That I am smarter than them, prettier.......but for some reason I don't believe him. He says he made a mistake that it meant nothing to him and that he's an idiot, but idk.....I feel like my security in our relationship is gone.
Is it crazy that I still want to be with him?
Would I be an asshole if I tell him I want a solid commitment to continue with him? Like, an unofficial engagement.

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Hello everyone, we have some major updates to this coming Petty Revenge story that will involve exposing my ex-husband for who he is and trying to protect the next person from falling into his trap. They will be coming in a separate post once I get everything together.
This is my story for context with the ex-husband. It will be a longer post, to be warned. Trigger warning for those who may be sensitive to stories about abuse and self-harm
Since my original post, the woman who is currently with my ex-husband, (not with as in together, anymore. With as in living with currently until she can find a new place for her and her kids), we have continued to stay in contact, and boy is this the drama intensifying. In short, the ex-husband is still playing his horrible games and turning her life into an ever-living hell.
Some backstory on my side. I will shorten my ex-husband to EH.
I (28F) and EH (36 M) met when I was 18 and he was 26, so there was a bit of an age gap, but that did not matter to either of us. We got engaged roughly 4 or 5 months after we started officially dating and we moved in together at the request of my parents as we could not fit everyone into the same home we were renting at the time. Things of course started off great. He seemed like a decent man who had his life at least somewhat figured out. He loved to cook and usually worked in some form of cooking-related job. However, never really seemed to be able to keep a job for too long but at the time, I didn't think much of it, given I was 19 and wearing rose-tinted glasses.
Since he couldn't hold a job and we usually had to ask his grandmother for money to keep up with the rent (both worked basically minimum wage jobs at the time) so after a year out of the house, we had to move back in with my parents.
Once we got settled back in there, I started a better-paying job and he had started a new job that was at least okay paying as well so for a bit we were doing okay. We made enough that we adopted 2 horses together and boarded them at a nearby facility. One came in late spring, the other in the summer of about 2016. So after 2 years of being together.
We got married that same year in the fall. Everything seemed perfect. Then came the wedding night... What I thought was my monthly woke me in the middle of the night before it was time to get up to leave for our honeymoon because I was suddenly bleeding very heavily, it freaked me out and we silently went to the ER without telling my family to not cause alarm. Come to find out, I was having a miscarriage. I was a little over 6 weeks pregnant and did not know. Needless to say, not exactly the best way to start your marriage, and did not go on our honeymoon. We never told my parents it happened and very few people know.
We held off until the following year, 2017, to go on our honeymoon. While we were on our honeymoon, I got a call that my mare had come down with a fever and the stable owner was calling vets out to see what was wrong. The first vet played it off saying it was just minor, gave her penicillin, and told the stable owner to give her a cool bath to help her cool down and see if it helped. It did not. They called a 2nd vet after that was not working for a second opinion, and my mare was diagnosed with Potomac Fever. Since it had been a few days since she started her fever, giving her the correct medicines at that point as she was getting very poorly was a 50/50 chance of whether they would help or not. We did cut our vacation as short as we could, but we ended up having to wait to come home as our board check removed what we had left to come home on so we had no money until we got paid again, luckily that same week.
The day before we were able to return, my favorite singer, Chester Bennington passed away. I was devasted. When we did get to the stable, we bought some supplies the stable owner advised us to get, mainly wraps and bags of ice to help ice my mare's feet to try to help keep her fever at bay. We were advised by the vet when they stopped by the check on her that the next day they would bring out an x-ray machine to see if the bones in her feet had turned down or not. If they had not, then she had a chance of making a full recovery and staying sound, and everything would be okay. If they had, then she would likely never be able to be ridden again and need a lot of corrective shoeing and therapy which would be very expensive. We were also trying to keep her on her feet as if she went down and we could not get her back up, it would be a death sentence.
The next morning I went to the stable as early as I was able and.. disaster. I was met by the stable owner and he had advised that my mare had been down when he checked on her sometime in the early morning, around 3 or 4 AM. He was able to get her up then but wasn't able to tell how long she had been down before he found her and got her up, however, she had gone down again and had refused to get up. I was so heartbroken and went to her and tried for a good hour or so while my parents showed up. I was in tears telling them we'd probably be putting her down because she was down. We did get her up, but the damage at that point was done. She was down way too long and she has very noticeable nerve damage. Hardly able to walk, went to the bathroom in spurts, and was so unsteady on her feet that she could barely stay up. When the vet came, we let her know what was going on. They looked her over and advised that her fever was gone, but the damage would probably be permanent without very expensive therapy throughout the years and would never be the same again. It was the humane choice to let her go and she crossed the rainbow bridge that day. I only had her a year and 2 weeks on the nose, but she was my best friend, my heart horse, and I miss her terribly to this day, soon to be 7 years later come July.
After this happened, EH and I went through a bit of a rocky patch. For a week or so he was supportive and seemed to care that I was grieving the loss of my mare, but after a little while it turned into arguments about how I could still be upset, time had passed we still had our other horse so I should be fine, all sorts of crazy things. I couldn't understand how he could say those things to me, especially when he knew I was so close with my mare and had many great plans with and for her that were now of course, not possible. He didn't care so I just stopped going to him when I was upset about it.
Fast forward to late fall of 2018, we decided to move out of the home we were living with my brother in and move into a house owned by his grandmother for a work opportunity for my EH. He ended up getting the job which solidified us moving. Moving didn't go so bad, however, I had to leave my job to move so I was without for a bit until I got a job at the same place he was working at, which was a casino. Usually, we worked separately as he was a cook and I was a cashier for the different food areas, but sometimes we worked in the same area. I much preferred to be in a different area than him cause if we worked in the same restaurant that night, it would get exhausting with him trying to joke around and make passes at me in front of people and joke around that it was the husband and wife team and everything was great. The first few times it happened, sure it was actually kind of funny because we had worked through some stuff and were doing okay at that point, but it did get a bit old and repetitive at some point, and never had any personal space. Plus, I was the one driving because he had a suspended license at the time so I was stuck with him most of the time after the new food court opened. We got our first puppy together for my 22nd birthday the day after New Years, 2019.
We moved on to work with a co-worker at a duck farm in the area we lived which was kind of a fun job. He was hired full-time and I was part-time. We took care of thousands of ducks every day doing whatever needed to be done from farm maintenance, giving them vaccines, sorting them, tagging them, etc. I kind of miss that job as it was an interesting one to have. All was well during these times, but we did sometimes have arguments because he felt since I didn't work as much that this somehow meant I was being lazy around the house and could stand to do more cooking and cleaning (which I was already doing a majority of anyway). It turned into a lot of gaslighting arguments that made me feel like maybe I was not doing enough so I took on more than what I was already doing. With the new puppy and at that time 7 fish tanks ranging from 5 gallons to 150 gallons with over 100 total fish and the entire house to clean and outside work to do, I was busy most of the time he was not home. Of course, as soon as he got home, he would find 1 dirty little thing that I didn't get to or something that wasn't to his standards and he'd excuse me for doing nothing or not knowing how to do anything right. We got jobs working for the same place after the duck farm mysteriously let him go for unknown reasons, which I can now only assume were his fault. We met some nice co-workers and got our second puppy from one in late fall of 2019. My dogs could be Irish twins because their birthdays are a little over 9 months apart.
Things started to decline after this, especially during covid, 2020. I got it very early on when they didn't know what it was and was bad enough that I could not work at all because I was struggling to breathe and function most of the time for months afterward. He did help me some but not much more than getting cough medicine and checking on me every once in a while other than that, he wasn't around me much due to having to work or just not coming around me when he was home, which fair, didn't want to bring sickness to the workplace. We were laid off from that job though in the downsizing.
In that time, he started abusing online slot games, and the extra money we had that we had previously discussed was to be saved for either a newer vehicle or even maybe a home of our own down the road he used to get coins or boosts in his games. They were not the ones you could win actual money from so he was just purely wasting hundreds of dollars pretty much every week or every couple of weeks on these games. I also found he had been spending money online on sites such as OF and other smut websites and paying for NSFW stuff online. Also found he was cheating on me with one person on OF when I got a pinged message from his email chats on my laptop. I, of course, wanted to see what was happening and found everything he had been saying to this girl.
He was telling her around times we'd go visit my parents for the weekend that he was going out of town to his family but didn't say with whom. They would ask him how he was single and he would just say "Oh I don't know, just unlucky I guess" and things along these longs. I wasn't even given roommate status, He stated he lived alone. Had the 2 dogs, all the fish, was woah is me with it all. I confronted him about it and of course, he tried to deny everything, tried to say I was probably the one cheating, and was just trying to blame him, you know, totally normal sane reaction... not. We got into it pretty good, nothing physical, but we did not talk to each other for a bit, I had considered leaving to be with my best friend at that time, but ultimately we started talking and wanted to attempt to work things out. He of course promised not to do it again, he'd be better, all that good stuff so I decided to give him another chance. Of course, I realize that was a major mistake now, but you live and learn, unfortunately.
Things smoothed out for a bit and went back to being okay again. We had a chance to expand our animals so we took it, it was kind of an apology gift in all honesty. We gained 4 rabbits from my best friend in the late-ish summer of 2020. I met her for the first time in the at the time 8 years we had been talking (we met online) so that was great. I am coming to realize that gaining all the animals we did in our time together may have been a coping mechanism for me because I had something that was depending on me and loved on me so in some ways I realize I do have a lot of animals due to this, but I am also an animal lover and love all of my animals and they are very much spoiled rotten every day. They still bring me immense joy and are a highlight of my life even if they were gained with EH. We still had our other horse, a gelding, at this time yet as well and he had been moved to a new boarding facility that was close to where we had moved to. So things were great at this time. In 2021 in the summer I gained a leopard gecko, and in the fall I gained a Russian tortoise as well.
Backtracking a little to around the end of August 2020, I gained my current job and I was excited to start a new at-home job so I could work and not have to worry about going out and potentially getting deathly sick again. I do have RA so I do have a compromised immune system. He started back to work where we were working as they had started hiring people back, so I was happy to have a quiet background which was needed for my job. Well, that did not last long. 2 weeks after going back, he didn't go to work for a day or 2 and I asked him if he was going to work. He stated he was using his paid vacation time and had taken the next 2 weeks off because he "needed a break" from work because he was feeling burnt out even though he had only been back 2 weeks and wanted some time to do stuff around the house. I thought this was odd and he never asked if this was okay... I only found out when he stayed home instead of going to work as scheduled.
He did go back after those 2 weeks off but he only stayed about another month and it happened again that he did not go in for a day or 2 when he was supposed to be working so I asked him what was going on. He told me he had quit the job because it was burning him out and he did not enjoy the job anymore. I found this odd yet again because he did not express any of these feelings before doing so and never asked me. I was furious and asked him how he thought this was okay because in our budget I had made up for us (because he wouldn't) there was no way for us to survive on my income alone for long and we would likely have to destroy our savings to stay afloat. He stated he would look for another job right away, he just wanted some time to figure out what he wanted to do. How, when he had only just gone back to work after about 5 months off, I don't know, but it was what it was, I made it clear he had to find work.
At that time, around the beginning of 2021 or so, maybe more coming into spring, he started his online slot spending again, and I had found he never deleted his OF account and was talking to another girl that I didn't know about saying the same things he was before, except he was talking to this girl the ENTIRE TIME he was talking to the other one. I just didn't catch it cause he had deleted messages so I didn't see it apparently when I found the first one. So not only had he lied about going to delete the OF and other smut stuff, but he had actively continued to talk to another girl for the entire year and a half almost that he claimed he was working on us and our relationship.
Needless to say, I exploded internally and waited for him to come home after helping his gram with something. I had a plan. When he got home, I played it cool like any other day. Asked him how his gram was, what he did at her house, and all that, normal. Then, I calmly asked him who the OF girl was. The color of his face went pale. Or paler anyway. At first asked, who? And acted confused. I reiterated my question of who OF girl was, this time, seriously to let him know the jig is up. He stated he didn't know who I was talking about and didn't know anyone by that name. I pulled up his OF account on my computer and was like, oh really? then explain all of this, and scrolled through the months of messages with this girl.
He had the AUDACITY to continue denying it was him and said he probably got hacked. I found a picture of him fully in the nude in the full-length mirror in the bathroom that he had sent her and said, "Oh yeah? Then how do you explain this picture?" and continued to more of his parts he was sending to the girl and continued to ask and this to all them. He had nowhere to hide. I had also already downloaded copies of everything and sent them to my best friend (the one we got the rabbits from) so in case he wanted to delete everything and call me crazy, I had the proof that I was not and he did these things.
Eventually, he admitted to continuing talking to her even though he said he had stopped. His reasoning? Apparently, he didn't feel the same spark in our marriage or relationship that he had originally felt and felt like I was distancing myself from him and it just wasn't the same between us. He also stated that he felt as if his efforts to make our relationship work weren't being seen by me and he didn't feel appreciated in the relationship. I, of course, asked him what he meant because at that point I had been just trusting his word that he wouldn't do anything else and would stop. He hadn't done anything else. No romantic gestures, no help around the house, offering to grab food when we needed it, take care of me while I was sick, offer to take over any form of bills or anything financial that I was solely doing at that point because he didn't want the responsibility of and had stated beforehand he didn't want the responsibility of.. nothing. Absolutely nothing. Everything was always on me, and I was the one burdening myself and driving myself crazy, even when I had another health scare thinking I had a DVT because I had sudden swelling in my left leg around my knee area and would get sudden bouts of breathlessness and was advised to take it easy and remove as much stress as possible for a bit in case I did have one to avoid a possible clot from going into my brain or lungs. Luckily, I did not have it, or any clots. I was under so much mental and physical stress that my body was reacting negatively.
This did not stop him from continuing my stresses at all. I also developed Vocal Cord Dysfunction when I had covid and stress makes it worse so on top of the sudden swelling and breathlessness, the stress was also activating the VCD and constantly making it feel like someone was choking me full force, which would trigger anxiety attacks because of course I felt like someone was choking me full force and like I couldn't breathe and wasn't breathing or at least wasn't breathing normally. It's an awful experience that I wouldn't wish even on my worst enemies.
Despite all the cheating, I never mentioned a word to my parents even up until that point, but they had a feeling something was going on because I was probably being a bit distant with them. I didn't want anyone to know at the time and thought I could fix things. Things only got worse. When he did finally get a job, not until mid-2021, so at that point he'd been out of work almost a year, he again picked up his gambling habits. What made things worse and started to spin more out of control was the pizza shop he had gotten a job at installed slot machines for their customers to play if they wished.
You can only guess what happened from there. While he was making decent money at the time, I saw hardly any of it because he would gamble most of his income at those slot machines. I would tell him what bills needed to go out of our joint account (I had a separate account for myself for my pay, but a portion went into the joint) from his pay, and he would say okay got it won't spend anything over that, won't play this week since we won't have a lot left over, etc etc etc... and magically pretty much all of the money would be gone and I would be forced to dip into our savings to save our bills from going out of date and overdue and gets fees we could not afford.
For context, the joint account was after I paid most of everything else out of my account before seeing what needed to go out of the joint account as well. Usually, the joint account would be needed to cover our rent to his gram, groceries, gas, vet appointments for the animals, medical or dental appointments for myself or him, and pretty much anything other than rent that was a necessity. I took care of the actual main bills out of my pay. As stated above, EH wanted nothing to do with the financial responsibility of ensuring all the bills such as our electricity, water, heat, phones, and internet were paid for on time because "I was better at keeping track of that stuff". I took that on because since I worked from home, I needed to make sure 100% I would have internet and electricity, or else I wouldn't have a job, and I couldn't lose my job over something so stupid as not paying my bills on time. I am not that irresponsible.
In about mid-fall 2021, he was at work and I had requested the day off to take our dogs, then 2 and 3, to the vet for their yearly check-ups and vaccinations so they were good for the coming year. He had just gotten paid the day before and I checked the joint account before I left the house with the dogs and saw that so far, he had not done anything with the money, so all was good and I proceeded to take the dogs to the vet. They did fine. It comes time to check out and pay for the vet visit and... the debit card for the joint account declines and says insufficient funds. Confused, I asked them to try it again before looking because I knew I saw that there was more than enough to cover their bill before I left. Nothing, same thing, it says it's declined due to insufficient funds.
I began to panic because, at this point, we had $0 in our savings because of his antics up until that point, and if I used my bank card, while it would go through, would put me into the negative until payday, which was not until the next week. I checked the joint account and low and behold, within the 2 or 3 hours I was gone, he somehow blew through almost $1,000 in withdrawals to gamble, pretty much his entire pay and I had less than $100 in that account. He had gambled his entire pay when he knew I was out to a vet appointment at that current moment. I paid with my bank card so I could leave, as at that vet clinic, you had to pay for the services before leaving or they would not let you leave, or not let you leave with your animals at the very least until the bill was paid in full. They had no bill me later options.
Needless to say, I was fuming the entire drive home and immediately messaged him about it when I got home and the dogs settled. He messaged me back right away with a BS excuse that he forgot that was what was happening that day even though right above those messages he could see I reminded him I was going to the vet, told him I was leaving for the vet, and was at the vet currently, all of which he replied to.
It of course ended up in an argument when he got home and after a long time arguing he stated he didn't understand what all the fuss was about since I had covered the bill just fine. He was using his pay the way he wanted and that's how it should be. He dared to say my pay went to what I wanted and it wasn't fair I was putting such a tight leash on him and his spending when I spent money on myself all the time, which is not true. I reminded him of this very quickly and showed him my bank account was in the negative because of today due to paying all of the necessary bills we needed, not because I was spending on myself and reminded him if I didn't pay the internet and electricity especially, I wouldn't be able to work which was not in the cards with how his spending was.
I forbade him from spending anything without my okay at this point and in a last-ditch effort, took away and cut up his bank cards and hid mine where he wouldn't find them. This did stop his spending because he didn't have a way to spend. I would only give him my bank card if he asked to get something we needed or he needed, and he was to give it back immediately after use or as soon as he could give it back if he took it to work to get something after work like smokes or something for the house. If any cash withdrawals went out, he wasn't allowed to take it again for a while. This continued into 2022 and it worked, I could relax a little as he was starting to earn trust. Say what you will, but it had to be done. At the end of 2021, 2 days before New Year 2022, we, unfortunately, lost our other horse to a long battle with sickness so we were down to just our dogs, the rabbits, reptiles, and 3 fish tanks because we decided to downgrade on the fish keeping. After all, water was getting expensive to maintain all 7 we had.
The loss of our gelding, unfortunately, turned out to be a good thing, as after we had him euthanized and I had allowed EH to have a bank card of his own again because he had been doing very well, it wasn't long before he was back to his old habits of draining his pays. Only, without the about $400 a month board for our gelding going out anymore, it was much worse. There would have been no way we would have been able to afford to keep him after that. It got to the point I again, took his card away, but then he started finding where I was hiding both of my cards and would drain not only the joint account but also my account. This led to us getting behind in rent especially, on some of my credit card payments which had by that time gotten completely maxed out, and on payments to loans I had taken out to try to get us back on track. Not good.
This continued to no avail throughout 2022. I had many conversations with friends trying to see if there was anything I could do. I was at my wits end with all the constant fighting over finances, continued accusations of cheating, making me feel like I was worthless and not doing enough to try to get him to see reason, wondering why I was not good enough for him to want to change and get his act together, mental and emotional abuse, manipulative actions, almost anything you can think of. I wanted it to stop and I was getting tired of trying. My mental and emotional health declined greatly. My friends of course wanted to support me in whatever I wanted to try to do, but they also didn't like seeing me decline as much as I was.
I had a mental breakdown one night and basically did a 2005 Brittany Spears to my hair. I didn't shave everything off, however, a good 90% of my hair was shaved off and what I did have left was very much chopped and looked horrible. I did get most of it fixed, but needed help with the back, so I asked him to try to fix it up so it didn't look so chopped off. I was already not the best mentally and my anxiety was through the roof. I had simply asked him to just be careful and not accidentally cut or nick me. Pretty simple. As I was anxious, I asked him a few times, and was a bit flinchy when he was close to me. He took this the wrong way and threw the scissors down and started screaming at me that if I wasn't going to calm down and hold still I could do it myself and blew past me out the bathroom door. The door almost hit me when he swung it open and I just completely lost it. I sobbed and was in such a bad state of mind that I ended up scratching my arms to the point I made them bleed and covered with scratches. He didn't care or do anything about it, he had gone outside and taken the car and drove up leaving me there alone. I bandaged up my arms. They stung for weeks and I still have a few light scars. Not a very proud moment, but one that drew me closer to knowing I had to leave. The stress I was under was too much.
My now current boyfriend, whom we'll call BF, (32 M) came into the mix towards the end of summer 2022, introduced to me by my best friend after she found him gaming in Fallout, mixed in with my friends, and took their stance as well that if I wanted to try to make things work, he would try to be as supportive as possible. Over time though, he and my friends slowly cracked and smashed through my rose-tinted glasses to help me see that what was happening was not my fault, and was not an okay situation to be in. My best friend then distanced herself thinking I was choosing BF over her after we started talking more and we were hanging out more playing games together. She decided to end our 11-year friendship amid things even though she knew I needed her and we were not replacing her with each other, we just happened to be growing closer. We attempted to include her in things but she chose to leave and distance herself, stating to me later she regretted ever introducing us.
My BF and other friends became my main support systems, and I decided enough was enough and it was time to let go. I had fallen out of love with my EH for some time but didn't want to admit to it. The marriage was over. I told EH I wanted a divorce but he did not believe me. He said I was being crazy for thinking we should end things, but I knew I was not.
While he was at work one night toward the end of October 2022, I went online and found a service that would assist me in getting the papers we needed to start the divorce process and bought them on the joint account so he could see I was serious.
When he came home, I was on the computer with my friends on Discord, playing a game together. He came in screaming with an anger I had never heard before... He had screamed at me before, but this was different. He was screaming at me to get out of the house, that I needed to get out now, he didn't want to see me in the morning, he didn't care if he wasn't allowed to do that cause he was doing it anyway, he was so angry and my friends and BF heard him through my headset. One of my friends told him to shut up and calm down and EF snapped and screamed at them to shut up and stay out of it.
He then came straight for me and slammed my laptop shut so hard I was afraid he broke it, ripped my headset off my head, and threw me from my chair, continuing to scream at the top of his lungs that he wanted me out right then and there if I wanted to me that way. It all happened so fast, I couldn't stop shaking and looking at him, not expecting this. He had never put his hands on me before. Ripping the headset off my head nearly caught on my industrial earring, which would have been horrible if it caught and ripped out. Luckily it didn't.
Once I got past the initial shock, I stood up and lit into him that he couldn't just kick me out because he was mad I was finally done with him and the relationship, and the audacity he had to lay his hands on me. I needed time to get a place to live because of my work. I needed to get my options figured out, get the animals we had sorted out if I could keep them all or not, everything. I needed to make sure I was sorted out and he would have to deal with the fact that I had to do these things before I could get out of the house.
His anger turned into tears and he began crying and pleading with me not to go and crying he'd do better and be a better person and all the things he promised beforehand. He couldn't believe what he saw when he saw the request for divorce papers, he was sorry for putting his hands on me, the works. It did not work. I assured him I was going and needed to get things sorted out.
The next day I called my parents and told them what had happened and that I needed a place to stay or at least help looking for a place to stay. My parents and brother agreed that they would take me in as they owned and lived in a house, and I could live in the basement of the house so I had a room to myself and had room for my animals as well. I did have to rehome 2 of the 4 rabbits, however, they went to a loving home with a cousin of my brother's girlfriend who was experienced with rabbits and currently had some that 2 could intermingle with. So that worked in my favor.
I didn't think I would have room for both dogs and rabbits remaining, so EH decided he wanted to keep 1 dog and 1 rabbit. He wanted our first dog (the one gotten for my 22nd birthday) and the original rabbit he chose from my now former best friend. I agreed and kept our 2nd dog and the original rabbit I chose from my former best friend. I also was keeping the leopard gecko, tortoise, and fish. However, my parents agreed that if in the future EH ever decided to get rid of or no longer wanted our first dog and the other rabbit, they would allow them to come as well (important in a bit).
I made the move to my parent's house in mid-November 2022 and started the process for divorce. While I was getting the first papers ready to go and sent to EH to start the process, EH would continuously text me and harass me even when I asked him to stop messaging me. He would continuously say he wanted me to stay with him, he would change, ask how I could do this to us as by that time we have been married 6 years and together for 8. Trying to manipulate me into coming back with promises of change.
My response was to send him the first official papers to start the divorce process. In my state, once you initiate the process and request for legal divorce, and the request is approved, you have to wait 90 days before you can then submit the final paperwork to request to make the divorce official because the relationship is not going to work, both parties want the divorce, etc.
I had to send the papers a second time because they were not done properly the first time, but the second try was approved so the 90-day waiting time to submit the final papers began.
He continued to harass and message me multiple times throughout the first month, and then his harassment to try to get me to stay turned into distasteful language and cursing me out, saying he didn't need me he already moved on and had someone else so didn't need me anymore. All ploys were more than likely to see if I would suddenly want him. I did not react other than to say good because I had also already moved on and was with someone, my BF, so I was looking forward to being rid of him so I could be with my BF in peace and not have to worry about him anymore.
At that, he stopped messaging me finally, and I moved all correspondence to email instead of text and messenger for more formal communications only when I had updates regarding our pending divorce.
In about April 2023, I had a bad feeling about the well-being of my first dog and other rabbit so in an update email to let him know we had reached the 90th day so the next day I could start getting the finalization paperwork in, I asked him how both were doing and if I may have a picture of them just to ease my mind that they were doing okay and was maybe just nerves about losing them for good.
He met this simple request with utter anger and venom, stating he didn't have to tell me how they were doing and wasn't going to send any pictures. I was being crazy, they were fine so I shouldn't be asking or worrying about anything. This set alarm bells off in my mind because it was just a simple request to see how they were doing, and so far, legally, still, partly my animals until the divorce was final. I advised him of this and this time demanded proof that both the dog and rabbit were doing well or I would be calling animal welfare as a precaution to ensure their well-being and would want them back ASAP if not met, as I wanted them back if he was not taking care of them.
He again refused stating he didn't have to prove anything and that if I asked again, he'd report me for harassment and false accusations of animal abuse. Not wanting any legal trouble with a pending divorce, I dropped it and didn't ask again.
However, 2 weeks later I got a nasty email saying if I wanted my other dog and rabbit back so badly I could have them, as the dog had been whining so much it was annoying him and he didn't want to deal with it anymore. His sister was getting married in 2 weeks, so I asked if he wanted to have them out before or after the wedding since I was attending the wedding along with my brother and his girlfriend and would be in the area, but could get them earlier if needed. He opted for the week before the wedding because he wanted her especially gone. I asked about the rabbit and he said he changed his mind and wanted to keep the rabbit, but if I wanted her too, I could take her as well. I kindly advised the rabbit would be coming back with me as well as I did not want her alone with him anymore. I told my parents what was up and they agreed they could come home much to my relief.
That weekend in May 2023, my brother and I went to EH's house to pick up my dog and rabbit. The moment I saw them, I was so heartbroken and angry. The rabbit was in a tiny hutch meant just to hold them while we cleaned their big enclosure that obviously had not been cleaned or taken care of in some time and dirty murky brown water to drink. It was obvious she had been couped up there for some time, as her enclosure wall panels were broken down and on the porch. My dog was completely emaciated and in horrible condition. Her nails were overgrown, and she was skin and bones. You could see her ribs, spine, and hip bones, and her face was sunken in. Neglected and not taken care of or fed in some time.
I was so angry I grabbed them and put them in the vehicle and let my brother take care of EH. He talked to him for a bit as I called my parents crying telling them what kind of state my animals were in. They were furious. When we got home, they had the dog I kept outside so he could see his sister come home and they wanted to film their reunion and also show what EH did to her. My mother broke into tears when I carefully got my dog out of the car. She was so excited to see my parents again and her brother. And he was so excited to finally see her again. He had been so depressed without her as he grew up with her of course. It was a beautiful reunion but so depressing and sad because of how deplorable of a condition she was in.
My rabbits immediately went to each other when I put the other into the enclosure with the one I kept. They knew who each other were as well and they started grooming each other and cuddling together like they used to like nothing happened. Both my dogs and my rabbits are inseparable now. They can't stand to be away from each other.
The divorce was finalized in June 2023 and I made sure I had no forms of contact with EH again, blocking him on everything.
I can say I have found a wonderful man in my BF and he has helped me so much and been with me through all of this, we couldn't be happier to be able to be together without people asking how we're together if I'm married to someone else even though I was getting a divorce and no longer with EH. Mainly very religious family members who made a fuss about it, but still was a bit ridiculous.
If you reached the end of this and read every bit, if you have any questions feel free to comment below. An update in a separate post will be coming within the next day or so about what's going on with the woman who is currently with the ex-husband.
This was my story in this, context you may or may not want as not everyone's stories gets told. I am telling mine now as everyone in these situations should.

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/ta-wife-friend
Originally posted to AITAH
AITAH for not telling my wife about an incident with her best friend
Editor’s Note: added paragraph breaks for readability
Trigger Warnings: mentions of domestic violence, manipulation, accusations of infidelity
Original Post: May 15, 2024
I want to be very sensitive when writing it here, but I have been dealing with unbearable guilt and wanted to know if what I am doing is wrong. I really do not want to trigger anyone, but I will be writing about a very sad situation.
I (33M) have been married to my wife (31F) for 6 years and we have a 3-year-old kid. We are very happy together and I am lucky to be married to a very kind and smart woman. My wife's best friend Ana (fake name for anonymity) has been living with us for the last 6 months.
I wanted to talk about Ana to give a full context of why I am making my decision. Ana is my wife's best friend since school days. Ana was living in the city with her boyfriend, and we live in the suburbs of that city. They seemed happy together and were in relationship for 2 years.
However, my wife noticed bruises on Ana's hand last year and asked her about it. Initially, Ana dismissed it as work related injuries. My wife kept on probing, and we learned that Ana was in an extremely toxic and abusive relationship. Her boyfriend lost his job last year and became extremely controlling and abusive towards her. He constantly accused her of cheating (Ana denies it), made her link her phone messenger to his computer and started micromanaging finances. There was an incident of domestic violence that was the final straw and my wife, and I had to rush to the hospital to look after Ana.
Since Ana's parents are mostly absent from her life, my wife asked me if Ana can stay with us for a few days. We are three people living in a 4-bedroom house and have two spare guest rooms. I of course agreed to it and told her that Ana can stay with us as long as she wants. I think the incident completely broke Ana and she would just start crying randomly and completely shut down. It was really sad to see Ana in that state. She had to leave her job due to mental issues and stayed at home in the room all day.
My wife is very kind and took care of Ana like she was family and made sure she felt loved. Ana is also thankful to my wife and I to help her in her worst time, and helps around the house and with our kid (though we never leave him alone with Ana). Ana, now is coming back to normal, smiles sometimes and has started looking for job again.
Now onto the incident. Last Friday, my wife and I went to work as normal and dropped our son at daycare. I had a doctor's appointment at noon and came straight home from there as I did not have a lot of work in office. I made some lunch, and then went to my room to sit in my bed and reply to all the emails. Ana was in her room, and I did not talk to her after I came home.
Around 2pm, I heard Ana's room door open and her walking in the hallway. Suddenly, our bedroom door opened, and Ana walked in topless and just in her underwear. I was shocked and not sure how long I was staring at her. But after a few seconds, I blurted out "I am sorry!", and she quickly covered herself with her hands. She was apologetic and started explaining herself. She said she just wanted to borrow my wife's clothes because her laundry was unwashed. It was super embarrassing to have conversation with her in that state and I looked away. She again apologized and then went out of the bedroom. The incident lasted less than 2 minutes.
After a while, she again came back into our bedroom (fully dressed) and apologized for the incident. She said it was really embarrassing and she did not know anyone will be home. I said it's ok and I should have told her I am back early from office when I came home. She asked me to not mention about the incident to my wife. She said she feels embarrassed she walked around the hallway without clothes and that I saw her in that state. I said it's ok and lets forget about it.
I have not told my wife about the incident and it's been 5 days. It was just a benign incident, but I somehow feel guilty about the whole thing. I feel more guilty that I am lying to my wife by omission of the truth. However, I feel that if my wife takes it the wrong way, it may strain her relationship with Ana, and I really feel bad for Ana what she had to go through. I also do not want to make Ana uncomfortable in our house by telling my wife about her barging into our bedroom in that state.
Am I the AH in this case for not talking about this incident to my wife. I am afraid that if Ana tells it to her first, it will make me look really bad and guilty. However, if I tell her, I do not want her to blame Ana for any of this and not help her in time of her need. Can someone please help me on how I can tell my wife about this?
AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was YTA and was advised to talk with his wife
Comments
OOP on multiple redditors who advised him to talk with his wife and not keep it as a secret from her if the incident was really bothering him

OOP: Thanks. This is really helpful.
May be I am overthinking this, but I have read that in these situations, the victim's trust in men is very fragile. Would it be horrible if I tell my wife after I told Ana I would not mention about this incident? Should I talk about this with Ana first?

Icy-Doctor23: YWBTA if you do not tell your wife. Never keep secrets as a team with your house guest against your wife!
Disastrous-Oven-4465: Ana needs to tell her PDQ. She also needs to stay out of your bedroom.
Do NOT keep the secret. That’s what will destroy your relationship.
I’ll try to give Ana a pass but some small part of me thinks she knows what she’s doing and asking you to keep it a secret is part of that.
(Editor’s note: PDQ = pretty damn quick)
 
Update May 16, 2024
I wrote a post yesterday about an embarrassing situation that happened between my wife's best friend who is currently staying at our house. I was not sure how to bring it up to my wife and you guys really helped me a lot in understanding the urgency of telling my wife. I also got some cool ideas on how to bring up the subject without making it awkward for anyone. For everyone saying Ana was doing it on purpose, I did not agree with it as I am an extremely average looking person and woman don't chase me. However, things since last night have been just crazy and I think I am spiraling a bit. Sorry for the long post.
So, I decided to tell my wife last night as soon as she came home about the incident. I liked the idea of jokingly bringing up casually so that we both can laugh about it and then forget it. Last night, when my wife came home, I made sure I stayed in our bedroom. I asked Ana if she could stay with my kid downstairs.
As my wife was changing, I asked her if Ana still borrow her clothes. Ana had to borrow them regularly when she first moved (long story). My wife told me yes and she has told Ana she can take anything from her closet if she needs it. I asked my wife if Ana told her about the funny incident from Friday. My wife said no, and I told her the whole story about how I came home early, and Ana came in the room almost naked to get her clothes, and how embarrassing it was for both of us.
As my wife was listening to this, she completely froze and turned pale. She started murmuring in Spanish (which is her and Ana's native language). I don't understand Spanish really well, but I understood the words "hombre casado" and "orta vez". I asked her if she is ok, and she sat next to me and asked me to explain everything in detail. I just told her it was nothing and she must have not heard me coming in. I was trying to laugh it off, but my wife had water in her eyes. I kept on telling her it was not a big deal, but she kept on asking me for more details. She asked me how Ana talks to me. I told her that Ana barely talks to me since she moved in except few words here and there.
My wife then asked me about three weeks ago when my wife had gone to visit her parents for four days. Ana did not want to go with her and stayed back. I told her that Ana was just acting normal. She or I would cook dinner after I got home from work while the other took care of the kid. The only thing different was Ana generally spending her evening in her room. However, when I was sitting in the living room watching TV after the kids slept, Ana came and sat on the sofa next to me but did not talk to me. I asked her if she wants me to change the channel or stream something she likes, and she just said she wanted to get out of her room. However, she did not flirt with me or do anything unusual.
I kept on telling my wife that it was just an accident, and I really did not understand why she reacted so emotionally to it. My wife refused to answer and just said ok and agreed with me. However, she told me I should have told her about the incident sooner and should not keep any secrets from her and gave me a big lecture. I told her that I did not think it was a big deal and thought Ana would tell her, but glad I brought it up.
After dinner, my wife messaged Ana to join us, and she came out. While talking, my wife brought up the incident and told Ana that I mentioned about the incident, and she does not need to feel embarrassed. Such things happen when we are all in the same house and is not a big deal. Ana was firstly taken by surprise, but then told my wife she was just scared to tell her because she thought my wife would judge her because of her past. My wife gave her a stare, and she quickly changed the topic.
At night, I asked my wife what the hell was going on. I told her to please not keep any secrets from me, and if she does not tell me, I will directly ask Ana about what her past has got to do with anything. My first guess was Ana might have had a thing for me before we got married or something. But my wife was very reluctant to answer and kept on trying to change the subject and cuddle. However, I kept being persistent, and she finally spilled the beans.
Apparently, when Ana was in her early 20s, she was in relationship with a married coworker who was twice her age. It was a kind of sugar daddy relationship, and he told her that he was in an open relationship (or that's what Ana told my wife) and he would leave his wife in few years once the kids go to college. This makes sense now, because Ana is very pretty (like Miss USA level), and I never understood why she was single for most of the time I knew her. She eventually ended that relationship and started dating her boyfriend Jim, who turned out to be an abusive asshole.
My wife said she suspects Ana was still involved with the older guy while in relationship with Jim, which explains why he kept on accusing her of cheating. That is why my wife became emotional when I told her what Ana did because she was worried Ana has no boundaries regarding married men. My wife said that Ana always looks up to us and praises me for being such a loyal partner and how lucky my wife is.
My wife was a worried initially when she brought Ana home, but her actions from the time when my wife was away clearly show that she respects the boundaries, and it must have been an accident. My wife told me she is grateful I let Ana live in our house and observe what a healthy and happy marriage looks like.
Today morning was even more weird. I got up early as I could not sleep well and went down for a cup of coffee. After 5 minutes Ana walked into the kitchen and told me she was relieved my wife did not overreact to Friday incident. She said I am a good husband and gave me a hug and peck on the cheeks. She has never hugged me in the last 6 months. She seemed to be in a happy mood and was making small talk with me while having coffee.
I cannot believe my wife did not tell me such a huge detail about Ana for all these years. It's completely possible she cheated all through the relationship with Jim, and my wife is just covering for her all along. She even kept it a secret from me (after giving me a lecture about how we should never have secrets), and I don't know what else she is hiding. Everything just seems very confusing at this point. I feel angry at my wife for lying to me all these years for Ana. I also now see Ana differently. I am also worried that me trivializing the incident to my wife might have sent wrong signals to Ana.
Relevant Comments
Tundra-Queen8812: Ana needs to go before her own messed up issues lead her to further mess with your marriage. She was testing OP again with the hug and kiss on the cheek and I didn't see OP writing that he told his wife about that new development. She's gotta go before she pushes to the next level.

OOP: Yes. I am also a bit mad at myself for trying to casually describe the event as some of the redditors advised and not talk about the fact that she was in the room for a lot longer. I was worried that my wife would be pissed at me. Now I wish I told her all the details and did not make it sound trivial. My wife now trusts Ana and I am getting more uncomfortable.

OOP responds to multiple redditors on telling his wife about the hug and kiss

OOP: I agree with the hug and kiss part here. It is not uncommon for my wife's friends to kiss me on the cheek when they meet me. I am not from that culture, and initially used to make me uncomfortable. But, something about today morning with Ana waking up so early, coming down in her bed clothes and sitting with me rubbed me the wrong way. I am not able to point out exactly what, but she was acting differently (for a lack of better word, she looked happy for the first time since she moved into our place).
OOP: I have not told my wife yet. Things were a bit icy between us since yesterday as I am still upset at her for keeping secrets from me for all these years. I know its Ana's personal life, but I feel a bit betrayed that for all these years, she knew Ana was with a married man and never even mentioned it to me. We had a talk in the evening, and she apologized, but then we both dropped the subject and took our son to the playground as the weather was finally nice and had an amazing time.
However, I plan to tell her as soon as we both are alone at night. As I said in the comments, I do not think she will mind since it's not uncommon for her friends to give a quick peck on cheeks when saying hello. Infact, I was not comfortable with it at the start, and now am used to it. Her mom, cousins, friends, everyone kisses me. There are also weird rules, where married women like my wife just hug, but non-married friends give a kiss (unless you family). Also, only girls give a kiss, but men don't kiss girls on cheeks (I learned that the hard way). I am not Latino (Columbian to be exact) and may be someone who is familiar can explain the rules here so people who don't know the tradition won't misinterpret it as anything sexual.
Also, I never keep anything from my wife, and hence I felt so guilty about my actions over the last week. I am sure I will mention it to her before the end of the day.

 

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I feel like I remember Will Ferrel in a movie where he is a background character who is blind.
I think a quote is, "Do you know what it feels like, to brush your teeth, with a cactus!?" (Possibly another funny object. )
I feel like he also talks about waking up not knowing where he is. I have no idea, may not even be Will Ferrel.

Hi Reddit, this is my first time posting, so please bear with me.
As the title suggests, I (19NB) want to break up with my partner (20M), but I'm unsure how to go about it. I've been in relationships before, but I've always been the one being broken up with. Kind of throwaway, I'm anxious he will see this. Might delete after getting advice.
My partner and I have been together for 4 years and currently live together on my parent's property. We've been living together for about 7 months, both of us are students, and we share bills. We rarely go on dates or are intimate unless I organise something, which is maybe once a month. Don't get me wrong, we have great days too!! He helps with bills, he makes sure to tidy the house when I work or make me dinner. We go out sometimes on nature walks or to parties to visit friends, and we are intimate if I really need it. He is kind to me and considerate and funny. He makes me laugh and writes me poetry, and we game together and read. He's even learning my native language.
As much as I love and respect him, I feel we're on different paths, and I want more freedom. I miss going out spontaneously, visiting markets, and enjoying nature walks. I enjoy gigs and meeting new people, but he prefers staying at home. I currently work part-time alongside my studies, while he is focused on his studies and looking for work.
We both have mental health issues and are in therapy, but I think it would be better for both of us to focus on ourselves individually. He has been struggling more with his mental health lately, and I get frustrated when his depression gets bad. When I try to help, he often ignores me or tells me to go away, which I don't like doing because I know he is not safe when he is alone. He then gets upset if I do leave. I've been setting more boundaries to protect myself, but it doesn't feel like enough.
I've been struggling a lot too—my work and family-life is stressful, my studies aren't going well, the cost of living is rising, my mental health has plummeted and I deal with alot of suicidal thoughts, and my relationship exhausts me. I'm not sure we were ever as compatible as we thought, but I was too scared to leave because we've been together so long. I also worry that I will seriously freak out if I end up seeing him with someone else.
I am thinking about breaking up with him tomorrow. It's my day off, and he has therapy in the afternoon. I'm planning to ask him to stay at his mum's, as she lives nearby and they have a good relationship. I think I'll go non-contact for a while too.
The thing is, I don't want to hurt him. Which is a silly thing I know because no one can be in a relationship for 4 years and not feel sad when their SO says they don't want relationship anymore. I just don't know how he will react or how to ask him to move out, and I don't think he will expect it. Honestly I'm kind of freaked out about it and I'm already feeling super upset even though I haven't said anything yet.
Any advice on how to approach this would be appreciated. TIA Reddit 🌱
TLDR; How do you break up with someone after being together for 4 years and live together???

I'm watching for the first time so I'm trying to stay out of this sub, but I just wanted to comment how unintentionally funny this show can be. I'm in season 3 and I forgot the episode, but the gist is that there was this journalist that had gone missing, and Donna had just calmed his widow down when they find out he'd been killed by rebels. It was an honestly tragic scene where you couldn't hear a sound from the room other than his, now, widow wailing and screaming. Episode fades to black, created by Aaron Sorkin and then the bubbiliest outro I've heard in any adult drama. I feel like if they really only wanted to use that outro, there could've been times where it was just silence, because the contrast in emotion is about as jarring as a head on collision.

46 Mcc 3: Omegalol unbalanced event, 2 teams with all 4 in top ten! Also some other teams didn't feel very nice, so I have to put it last.

45 Mcc JJ: I honestly have no idea what happened in this event. The teams were odd and the coins weren't coins? I just looked and apparently Spiffing Brit played, which is sick, but otherwise very uninteresting for the first ever Noncanon.

44 Mcc 7: Scoring was awful, 1000 unmultiplied individual coins for just SOT? Battle Box was also crazy scuffed because the scuffed first rounds coins counted for individual but not for teams which makes stats hard. Pretty mid event without BB too, the only memorable thing was Green breaking the team point record.

43 Mcc 5: No idea what happened in this event. Pete and Quig dominated apparently which is I guess kinda cool. Otherwise the 2 broken top 2 teams just dominated which is kinda depressing.

42 Mcc 25: The most average event in Mcc History. If someone was to ask me for the most basic Mcc I would say 25. The top team was crazy broken and easily dominated the whole event. I guess Pete making a comeback in the 2nd half was cool, but that just means he threw in the first half.

41 Mcc 1: First ever event, obviously scuffed, but pretty fun anyway.

40 Mcc 2: Most forgettable event in S1 imo. No idea who played or how they did. Techno Bingo was pretty funny, but the fact you could kill people was kinda just a flaw in the game.

39 Mcc 21: Pretty forgettable event in my opinion. I'm pretty sure Sapnap got his 5th win this event, which is probably the most memorable thing about it. Battle Box map was terrible, only tridents is really boring. Overall pretty mediocre event but not that bad.

38 Mcc Rising 1: 2 broken teams dominated. Games were average at best. At least we got plenty of great players out of it, into the normal event.

37 Mcc 29: Least memorable event of S3. At least balancing was decent. Most Memorable things were Purpled cooking in TGTTOS (Which he usually does anyway), and Pete getting the most kills in SKB (Which didn't matter since they made kills worth very little).

36 Mcc 18: Probably the least interesting event of S2. Broken yellow team Dominated, what a surprise. Dirt Block went Crazy, it's S2 what did you expect. I don't remember a single above average game performance in this event. Also SG points were trash.

35 Mcc 27: Pretty Decent event all things considered. Teams were mostly fine. Cyan Meltdown was kinda sick. The one main problem I have with this event is that FBM was allowed to play. He already had so much event experience with everything from Blockwars to PB. It's just not very fair to put him in an event where the next best player is Hannah, who has only played 2 events.

34 Mcc AS: Kinda a let down for me IMO. The only real memorable things for me are blue rushing in BB, and Red being absolutely broken. 1 thing pulls it up for me though, yellow team. Just a very entertaining team that performed well and had fun, great POV.

33 Mcc 19: Teal was broken and easily won with basically no challenge until Cerulean cooked in SG. Games were pretty mediocre too.

32 Mcc 10: Weird event, basically the first Noncanon-ish event. I don't really know what happened in this event except for Joel winning which is pog. Red and Cyan Were both pretty terrible POVs which doesn't help. Also invisible players In BB, which is sad.

31 Mcc P22: Good teams. Good games. Very Unmemorable event. I think Dream’s team won, but I don't remember who they face or how well they did. Ace race bit on yellow used to be funny but now it leaves a bad taste in the mouth now we know the Relationship between Shubble and Wilbur.

30 Mcc 28: Not bad, not great. Overall pretty fun but some teams were a little broken.

29 Mcc R2: The only event to be very scuffed before it even started. Overall event was fine but nothing too special.

28 Mcc 12: This is a bit of a hot take since I know People love this event, but it's not my favorite. I never really liked Green Team that much, and after recent circumstances I feel even worse about it. Orange team is definitely an all time great POV though. This is probably the last mediocre event, the rest are good.

27 Mcc 30: This is probably my biggest hot take, but I just feel kinda let down by this event. I still think it was great, but not as good as it could have been. Ace race map was cool. So was Green 4 Vaults in SOT. Overall good event but not great.

26 Mcc 20: Team balancing kinda sucked. Games were alright, but a SG in here would have been pretty refreshing. Rocket Spleef return is goated though.

25 Mcc 11: Techno Ace Race was sick. Dream Skybattle was cool. Blue Team was great until dodgebolt. I just didn't really like the game order.

24 Mcc 24: Pretty fun event, but the only real memorable thing was the Ace Race crash. Teams were good, and Orange especially was an absolute vibe. Could have been better, could have been worse. Overall pretty good.

23 Mcc 34: Okay event imo. Games were mediocre. Pack team was great. Jojo Skybattle was epic. I don't really have much to say about It.

22 Mcc 31: The 2 memorable things about this event were Purpled doing very well, and the Spanish team winning. Other than that it was pretty average.

21 Mcc TR: I thought it was pretty fun. Teams could have been more balanced but it was pretty good. It's not that fun to rewatch though as it's so short, so that bumps It down a bit for me.

20 Mcc P23: Very vibe heavy event. Ace race was cool. Buildmart return was fun. Red and orange especially were great POVs. Overall one of my favorite noncanon events.

19 Mcc Party: This is a little lower than that most people would have it, but I still liked it. I feel Scoring was a bit rng, but that was pretty fun. Teams Were fun, and games were great. Overall fun event.

18 Mcc 33: Pretty Average event Imo. Yellow was pretty broken, there's no getting around that. Pink and Green were Great POVs. Overall pretty fun.

17 Mcc 15: Plenty of memorable moments, but teams weren't very balanced. Green is probably my favorite POV for this one as its quirky and funny.

16 Mcc 13: Pretty great ending to Season 1. Teams were very solid, and worked well together. Buildmart played last was pretty hilarious, but was catastrophic for teams like Coral. Overall pretty fun.

15 Mcc 14: A lot higher than most people would put it. Honestly one of my favorite events except for the absolutely disastrous Ace Race. That is probably the deal breaker for most people, but I don't see it that badly. Back In Mcc 14, the most possible points you could get from Ace race was 500, so it wasn't a very high scoring game anyway. Pvpete was epic. So was Fruit Skybattle. Quig pov was also pretty great. Yellow was another good pov. Overall a good event despite the big problem.

14 Mcc 26: Balancing on this event was amazing. Every team had a chance to win. RsR Finale was absolutely epic, and Aqua’s comeback in that game after missing out on SOT was legendary. Overall a very solid event.

13 Mcc 4: Goated because of Technoblade, o7.

12 Mcc 32: Pretty cool event. Fruit Skybattle was epic, but Lime missing out on dodge bolt anyway was pretty Sad. Ranboo winning was great. Purpled also cooked in PKW. Dodgebolt was unexpected which was great.

11 Mcc 23: Pretty epic event. Purple was a hype team, even if they only got 4th. Blue was also a very sick POV. Meltdown finale was epic. Quig getting first after so long was legendary, and was a great send off for him.

10 Mcc 8: Dream and Techno team will always be amazing. As will dodgebolt, as it's my personal favorite with epic plays from both teams. It was the first time Pete won Ace Race, starting a streak of dominance that has yet to end. Overall a great event.

9 Mcc 4ko: Dodgebolt teams were totally unexpected which is always good. All games were great except for RSR. Aqua Bingo was amazing. Pink team was incredible fan service. A great start to Season 4.

8 Mcc 35: Great event to end off season 3. Games were epic, and the teams were decent. Meltdown finale was probably my favorite Meltdown ever. Ace race map was great. Bingo was fun. Sapnap absolutely Cooked in BB. Pete first after over 2 years was also pretty epic. Green Sot was brutal though.

7 Mcc 16: The best ever normal event. Teams were amazing. Games were great. Game order was a cook. Techno support from everyone was heartwarming. There wasn't really anything bad about this event.

6 Mcc Scuffed: Probably the best for fun event. Game changes were funny and led to new strategies. Bingo return was funny if anything, and I think it was great. Skyblockle finale was great, and 9 kills from Joel was amazing. Overall very fun silly goofy event.

5 Mcc P21: Absolutely epic event throughout. Technoblade did great in his last event while raising so much money for charity. All teams were great, and I have a soft spot for Cyan and Orange. Game order Was great, and left us on the edge of our seats. The only thing I wanted after the end of this event was to watch it again.

4 Mcc 22: Captain Sparkles finally won. The event as a whole was great. Ace Race was a lot better than I expected. Meltdown introduction was epic. Even Parkour Tag was pretty great with Orange Team going crazy. Every game was amazing. Nothing bad to say about It.

3 Mcc 6: Probably Best set of newcomers ever. Everyone had a chance to pop off. So many Memorable moments like Pete finally winning Parkour warrior. Quig going godmode in SG. Even things like SOT were memorable with Orange pioneering strategies that are still in use today. The set of teams were absolutely amazing. So many new people got introduced to MCC. Overall a banger event, and a real step up after the general slog of the first 5.

2 Mcc 17: So many memorable moments from this Mcc it's almost hard to count. Grian 1v3 in the final round. Grian getting first in Skybattle. Pete's epic Ace Race. Cyan in Grid Runners. Pink In SG. And Dodgebolt Was an absolute banger to end off a great event. This was probably when Mcc peaked in popularity and they absolutely deserved it.

1 Mcc 9: Probably the event with the most epic game performance ever, with blue in SG. So many amazing moments. Techno's Redemption after not coming top 3 since mcc 4. Grian getting an Epic 1v3 on the overconfident Lime team. Dream sadly getting stuck behind a door in SOT, and not making it out. Skybattle was introduced and was already incredible. And of course Dodgebolt was incredible with the legendary reverse sweep from Blue. In my opinion this is where Mcc peaked in enjoyment.

Anyway, these were just my opinions so don't get too heated in the comments. Feel free to discuss though, I know I have a couple of hot takes.