Made a post asking for suggestions about a meal replacement I can incorporate into my diet to save time and ensure I’m getting nutrients I need that I’m not getting from my terrible stereotypical college student diet. I just wanted to make one meal a day a meal replacement. As of now my diet looks like a mix of, eating cereal whenever I remember / wake up early enough, eating take out for an easy meal (usually Chipotle or Indian food as one order lasts me 2 meals) eat one full meal a day (usually mash potatoes or instant ramen with added ingredients) then snack the rest of the day or just forget to eat an actual meal and snack throughout the whole day, I don’t really feel hungry I just get stomach rumbles but no urgency to eat or drink unless I consciously think “I should eat or I should drink”. More often I just eat when I’m bored. As you can probably tell, my eating habits are terrible plus I can’t really cook unless I have a recipe to follow but I don’t really have cooking materials. Because of these habits I think I am not getting enough nutrients and believe a meal replacement could help me but people seem to think that’s a really bad idea. So, sharing this information and my last post (check my profile for my other post if you’d like) what do you think now? Still a bad idea? My logic was “well anything would be better nutritiously than the stuff I’m eating now”. I haven’t bought any meal replacement yet because of the fact people have told me it’s not a good solution. All I’ve really been doing lately is making smoothies with frozen mixed berries, a pinch of sugar and milk but seem to have lost 6 pounds in the past month which is not what I’m trying to do. I’m just trying to be a little more healthy so I’m not as tired without carving out from my study time. For background I am 5’4 and a woman, I just spend all my time in school and studying so I’m not getting a ton of exercise except walking around campus. Not sure what else to add but ask anything / suggest anything. I was also planning on getting blood testing done Monday too see how my blood levels are. Maybe I’ll update if I was right about my diet not giving me enough nutrients. 🤷‍♀️

Hey, this is my first post ever but I’ve been watching your channel for a good 5/6 years now and decided to share some stories.
I (18 yo female) have always had some connection to the paranormal. My great grandma was a psychic. She could tell when people were going to die and would speak to relatives not knowing they had recently passed (she was blind), stuff like that. I’ve never had anything that extreme happen to me but there’s definitely been some blur between the paranormal and the normal in my life.
Getting on with my point, I think something is attached to me. The more I think about it, I believe it’s been with me for a while. I’m not sure what it wants but with what’s happening recently, I don’t think it means well.
My first encounter that I remember with it was when I was around 6 or 7. I was up in a room we have in the attic with my brother and my grandma. They both were headed down but me, being the stubborn kid that I was, wanted to continue playing on the carpet. They decided to leave without me after some bickering. As soon as they closed the door, everything went eerily quiet. I was admittedly scared but I decided to stay so I wouldn’t look stupid to my older brother.
I don’t remember what it was since it was so long ago, but something got my attention to this little crawl space we have in that room. I was watching it when it started banging like someone was trying to escape the crawl space. It didn’t take me long to haul ass out of there and in the process falling down the stairs like a tumbleweed.
My life has been filled with little experiences like that sprinkled around but recently I’ve started to feel it manifesting. One day after school, for example, I was walking home with my friend past a heavily wooded empty park. As we were passing it, I shit you not, I felt ice cold chills run down my body as if I had just taken a plunge into an unheated pool. This middle aged man’s voice whisper-yells “hey!” through the trees. It was the kind of “hey” you would assume predators use to lure you in, sounding happy yet sinister. My friend noticed I had stopped and asked what was wrong but I just grabbed her arm and hurried her along. I told her about it later and we’ve been actively avoiding that park like the plague.
I wish I could tell her that it’s not just at the park, though. It’s been following me. At work there’s been numerous occasions around 6 in the morning where I’ve had something ask for me to “come here” from the freezer MIMICKING my coworkers voices. Then as I’m about to open the door, the said coworker walks into the room with no recollection of ever asking for me or being in the freezer at all. It’s even been in my school. Once in my ceramics class, I was washing glaze off of my hand when I felt one of my classmates presence behind me. He usually goes over my shoulder and whispers “what are you doing?” to scare me; so when I heard it ask, I was fully convinced it was my classmate. Imagine my surprise when I turn around and that classmate is sitting on the opposite side of the room, facing away from me. The part that makes my hair stand up the most is that my classmate is taller than me and there was a shadow hovering me as if he was standing behind me.
I’m sorry for making this so long I just needed to get this off my chest. Anyways thank you so much for reading and if you have any advice it would be appreciated <3

It seems like compared to the Avengers, who all have justified durability feats and reasons for the most part, the X-Men are just very one note in their powers. Does the mutant gene also make them all Captain America level as a side power?
Cyclops shoots beams and I think he can absorb beams(?) but take a bullet or super human punch and he should be out.
Jubilee and Gambit I assume are in a similar boat to cyclops.
Sunspot seems like he has a Johnny Storm thing going on, so I assume while his sunspot form is flaming on, he has enhanced durability and all sorts of suped up stats. Might be able to survive most conventional weapons.
Beast seems like a sabertooth type, just amped physicals all around albeit at rather low super human levels. Probably still dies to a high powered rifle. Probably should be above Wolverine but isn't.
Rogue seems like she has superman level durability at times, and then at other times she's one shot by a sentinel that everyone else goes toe to toe with. She might also have a ki like thing going on where she needs to concentrate?
Jean has some dbz style power struggles. While her shields are up, I assume she is basically indestructible but has a low power bank. No passive durability I assume, only when she's actively engaging her shield.
Not clear Nightcrawler has any amped physicals at all, but he seems like Spiderman like with his agility so probably slightly amped to maintain the stuff he does.
Storm I would assume doesn't have any durability feats except she changed her clothes magical girl style, so I assume she has similar command of the elements as Magneto but at a lesser level, so she can armor up with electrostatic discharge or something.
Magneto I give the same bump as storm but he only controls one force so he's prob better at it. I would assume he can magical girl he clothes too but chose to remain naked. Probably magical girl's his hair to keep it long and flowing tho.
Forge id assume can do some techno bullshit to have strong physicals.
Cable is Jean + Scott in powers so probably amped durability. Maybe Bishop too?
Morph I assume is a jar of goo and can reform if he melts, t-1000 style. If not, at least mr. Fantastic level / monkey d Luffy rubber bending ability but without the creativity to use it well. Can adjust density of his forms at will.
Wolverine we know is amped to like Captain America levels but frequently comes off more like Spiderman levels due to popularity. Regen basically scales with damage taken, despite lacking the strength and durability to survive most high level attacks.
Charles Xavier I assume can do jean gray stuff but at a lower level and chooses not to go dbz warrior. Can fry everyone's brains instantly but generally just chooses not to because he's a good guy who likes to win with words and watch his X-Men fist fight.
Not sure if there's anyone else I missed, just seems like most of them should be put down with a bullet and when going against superhuman strength or blades they should be splatted or skewered.

I was relieving something I did a while ago. It was on a weekend night, at my usual I’ll be getting high and scrolling while something is playing on the tv. Then I was like fuck it, I’ll just tell this guy I’ve been eyeing that I’m into him and I’d like to take him on a date. Bear in my mind I’ve never met this guy. I just saw his ig profile on a post and thought he was cute. He also goes to my school and regularly DJ at a local club. But when I’m high that’s kinda what happens, impulsive decisions lolol.
Then he replied saying he appreciates the gesture but he has a girlfriend. Now he didn’t say I’m not gay or that I’m straight. Also I can’t help but feel like he lied about having a girlfriend. Usually guys like him with this much social presence will leave hints here and there that they’re currently seeing someone. Yet according to his ig page it’s pretty much like he’s single. Now whether he lied or not, the results remains the same that he’s not into me and that’s fine. But thinking about this made me reflect on the way I use social media in my search for romance.
To even go further in this story, one of the reasons I felt empowered to text him in the first place was that he’ll watch my ig stories quite often. I’m very active on that side of ig. To me if someone regularly sees your stories it’s a hint they at least find you interesting, right? Like for me if I don’t know you irl or I don’t find your content interesting I won’t be looking at your stories daily, hell I won’t even follow you. But he did follow me back too which I forgot to mention which to me was another hint he might be interested. And even after I told him, the logical thing to do would be to unfollow me, right?. Like if I try to put myself in his shoes I’ll be like who is this dude I don’t know that confesses his love for me. I might be freaked out and unfollow the person.
Idk what to make of all this. Does anyone use social media in a similar way in their quest for love? But anywho he’ll be DJingthis weekend so yall think I should go? 👀🙈

(17M)
So I'm in high school and I have bad anxiety, mainly when I'm around people, it's been worse than it's ever been for the past month. Can I talk to someone about this? Tysm

I'm coming to NU in the fall and I'm interested in continuing to play my instrument in college even though I'm not going to be majoring in music. Is philharmonia very selective/competitive/hard to get into? I played for my local youth orchestra and school ensembles in high school but wouldn't necessarily say I'm an exceptional player lol. Just hoping to find some community on campus through music :D

My lil guy eats on Sundays and he has been taking his mice consistently and without much need to tempt him. I just bring it in front of his face with the hemostats and he goes for it almost instantly. I watch to make sure it goes down all the way without any issues. He has been such a good eater for me.
I'm a newer keeper and this makes me feel like I'm doing something right with my husbandry since I feel sometimes I do struggle with maintaining a high enough humidity (I do everything I've been told to but my apartment is just very dry) and a good temp gradient. But now I wonder if he takes it so easily, is he just really hungry and am I feeding him enough? He is a little over 1 year old now and I have been feeding him as the reptile store instructed.
I'm curious if I should increase his feedings or the size of his prey. He takes adult mice once a week, and has just been such a great eater for my first BP. He typically starts acting hungry and restless about 5 days after feeding but I wait the full week as that's how he ate before I got him. Should I consider switching to rats or jumbo mice soon? He is technically still a growing boy so I want to make sure he eats enough.

So this is going to be a long story, but a very intriguing one (or so my friends say). Bear with me and if you could offer some advice on what to do please share. I know I'm probably just young and naive but I feel like the pain will never stop. Like I'm going to always be held back by this particular experience.
Also sorry for any grammatical or spelling errors, English isn't my first language.
So all of this begins October of 2022 when I 18M (at the time) moved to a new city to study film. I was lucky enough to have good grades and be so passionate about this art that it kind of felt incredible to have this new beginning. I rented a small house which I decorated with my collections and all my stuff and ended up loving every second spend in it.
I'm Not very social. Thats just a fact. I've always had my school friends and some people from other activities but none of them really felt like they understood me. No sade to them, I really love them, it's just that I know my hobbies and personality are niece and weird so we don't always see eye to eye. So I wanted to overcome my social anxiety and meet new people.
For the first semester I was all alone. Completely. Spent days upon days without leaving my house if I didn't have school and even didn't have any actual human interaction if not necessary. I didn't realise how much I was hurting myself. The Second semester, someone approached me in school and asked if I could help them with the editing for their final movie, let's call him Jacob 18M. I already was searching for a group project to join in order to pass the class so this felt like a sweet deal. The group was Jacob and let's call them Ellie 18F and Hannah 18F.
With time we started talking about more then just the movie. I was really surprised by how many things we had in common. It was the first time someone I met liked musical theatre or (and this is gonna sound sad, please don't judge me) people didn't want me to leave whenever I approached them. They invited me to things, to their homes and after school and to trips at the beach ect. We were together almost every day. Till late at night or through it. Just the 4 of us. Felt like we could rule the world.
One day i thought Ellie was flirting with me. That was a weird feeling. I'm not very good looking and had a lot of extra weight so that was pretty much the first time but my friends told me that was the case from what I was describing. I mentioned it to Jacob and he told me something I didn't expect. He told me him and Ellie were in an open relationship and were hiding it from everyone except Hannah because of his ex who was in school with us. He also confessed he once had a crush on me and that's why he approached me in the first place. He also saw Ellie flirting with me but was ok with it due to the "rules of their relationship".
I was ok with not having a romantic relationship with Ellie. She would actually become one of the closest friends I've ever had. Or so I thought.
I actually started having a crush on Hannah. She loved some of the movies I loved. Had some of my quirks so I didn't feel ashamed around her and she started watching my favourite tv show with me. During our time together everyone (even her sister and Jacob who found out I liked her) told us that when we were together we could only see each other. As if we had a unique way of communication that nobody else could understand.
I confessed my crush and she told me she felt the same way but that there where 2 problems. First that she gets very anxious about relationships, has only ever been to one and had never kissed anyone. I assured her I wasn't going to pressure anything and I only cared for her and wanted to go on a date sometime. She replied she would like that very much. The second problem she confessed was that she was in love with Jacob for months now but nobody knew. Then everything made sense. The things she did for him and all. How she acted around him. I was surprised I didn't notice it before. She told me she wanted to get over it and proceed to ask to kiss me. We kissed a lot but nothing more that night. She went home after a few hours.
The next day Hannah she felt very distant. We wanted to go to the movies with Ellie but she disappeared all day. Late at night she asked my to go for a walk since we lived near each other. Then she told me she wanted to forget everything and last night was a mistake. That her anxiety has gotten into her and although she really wanted a relationship she couldn't be in one. The next few days we talked again and she said she didn't share any of this with Jacob to have someone in the group I could talk to if I needed help. Ellie was that for her.
It was already summer so we all went to our home towns. I missed her a ton. We stilled talked and the other 2 knew something was off with me. About 2 moths later we all went to Hannah's summerhouse for vacation. We were having fun, getting drunk and all that 19-year old stuff. One night me and Hannah were watching my show together and the time felt right so I asked to kiss her. She told me no and finally told me the truth. Turns out she liked that we flirted but after kissing me she realised it wasn't anything more. Also everyone knew except me. But after all this time I had realised I was in love with this girl. I told her if she could keep all of this to herself and she said yes.
We were all still friends. But I couldn't let go. My mental health began to decent and I started feeling like they would leave me out of stuff to go hang out alone and during October I tried talking some time away to see if they would even talk to me if I didn't. They didn't even say good morning once. I tried again and again. Jacob and Ellie said we all need to talk together. They repeated the same words. Like as if it was rehearsed. I went to "the talk".
Jacob did most of the talking. He talked about boundaries and how after everything between me and Hannah the group hasn't been the same. That after I didn't tell him what happened in our vacation they went to her and forced Hannah to do so. They where all attacking me. I heard lie after lie and all followed up with "we just need some time" and that all of this was cause they loved me.
I have discussed what they accused me of with friends, family and therapists. Although I didn't not believe it at first they all confirmed it was finding little details in my day-to-day behaviour (unrelated to all of the above) and using it to kick me out. They didn't intend of even speaking to me again. Lies feed to everyone by Jacob.
I went away. I don't know if it was for the better. But for a few weeks at first and then months later, I went back to my home town. Their lies became actual blame and I got a message from Ellie saying that we are done (just one month after trying to convince me they needed time and confessing she in particular didn't even notice anything until her boyfriend accused me).
Last time I saw any of them was in December when I gave Hannah her Christmas present. I told her I wasn't trying to get her back and I would continue to keep my distance since my first priority is what she wants and I meant that. I really do love her and would do anything for her to be happy. But I miss her a ton.
It's been 5 months since then. I stopped going to school and kept my distance from anyone related to that life. I have depression and cannot think about anything else. I heard that Jacob still talk shut about me to everyone. I have realised what has happened and have discussed this with multiple common friends who have confirmed this. Jacob is Manipulating the other 2 because of the bad relationship with his parents. He knows Ellie won't do anything with anyone else despite the "open" relationship due to her luck of confidence (so it only works for him). She need him to operate in public and to deal with her extreme anxiety so he takes advantage of that and Hannah follows him everywhere with the excuse of just being a good friend.
There are so many things I couldn't include (this is a hugh post already) about more lies and proof that they where bad for me. But I can't move on. I have seeked medical help but I just cant imagine my life in the future without them. Everything is a reminder of what we've been through. Jacob used to call me his family and when I begged him for our friendship back he didn't even care. Not on my birthday, not on new years... never. I lost all of them.
I'm back now. Not sure why, whether I'm back to continue my studies or to see if I could win them back. If I could have Hannah in my life in sime form. But I'll probably see them tomorrow morning (I randomly walked behind them today, don't think they noticed me).
What should I do?
TL,DR: The girl I'm in love with stopped talking to me along with my 2 best friends. I can't move on and I'm supposed to face them again in school after not seeing them for months. They all lied to me and nothing seem to help. I have depression and I dont want to feel like this for the rest of my life.

Hi! I am a designer based in the UK but jumping between the UK and Spain.
The industry I work in is fu.. up and most of us have been dealing with unemployment for more than one year now. This + other reasons (ethical, etc.) made me realize after many years that I don't want to do this and that I’ve never enjoyed it.
Well, for a long time I’ve been thinking about a career change. Since my teenage years I’ve been interested in sustainability and I think renewables is a field where I can see myself building a career, but I always thought I wasn't smart enough to pursue a career in science.
I know this is a broad industry and that there are many roles, but I am looking for some initial guidance to decide if this is a feasible move. I already have two degrees unrelated to this, almost 30 and I cannot afford to go to uni again.
Is it possible to get into any role in renewables without getting a degree? Online courses, certifications, etc. I would be working full time on the side. Any advice is welcome :)

I'm one of those people that decided on a career when they were 8 years old and then charged headfirst towards it for the next 10 years (with some delineations). That being, animation.
As I struggled more with my mental health growing up, academia, math, science, reading--it all became intimidating and inaccessible. My grades dropped, I didn't do extracurriculars, depressed teen etcetc. On the other hand, art was always the one thing I excelled at.
I had to go to college right after graduating high school so I thought, sure, I'll study this. Got into a top school, moved across the globe, now I'm nearly done my first year. My mental health has vastly improved since the start of my first year. Which has had the complete opposite effect from what I expected.
Because the more my mental health improves, and I find better connection with myself and others, the more I wonder in the back of my head... is this actually what I want? I spend more of my time these days getting back in touch with literature + fun research rabbit holes, looking at the horizons beyond what I've dedicated my whole life to, rather than, you know, doing my current homework.
This question is also rooted in disinterest towards making art as labor for employers, as opposed to making art for and with community. Which has been where my love of art roots from. I like indie projects and fan works and making things from the ground up just to enjoy with people who like the same thing.
The more I go through college with the understanding I am preparing to somehow simultaneously foster my own artistic growth, and also cater to big monopolies for an entire career span... it's all antithetical to why I like art. Animation college is lowkey a pyramid, industry is always on the fritz, there's poor unionization & worker treatment in my home country and current study country, and after spending all day making art for a company I don't think I'd have energy to make art I want to. It's also a very contract-based sort of career and I'm not too fond of the prospects surrounding that. I know a lot of people who thrive and are excited for this, but idk if it's my lifestyle. I've fallen for the trap that suggests hobbies are only worth pursuing if eventually done for money.
However, I also recognize I am in a privileged position, especially in terms of art school and how I have the financial support to actually try a career like this. I.e., art school expensive. If I set my mind to this and succeed or flop, I have the support web to catch me.
The other hand of this is that I have the safety web to change my mind. Giving up the position where I am is something I can do, but I cannot go back on. I've looked a bit into ecology but not any further than this as this post is honestly the first time I'm seriously considering the possibility of a different direction. I just really don't know much at all about careers in sciences and likely am missing a lot of perspective because of this.
Which brings me to the question, is it worth it? To do all the research on other careers, then leave animation behind and go somewhere else with a lot of catching up to do on poor high school grades and missing math/science credits? Does anyone have experience with switching from arts to sciences? Or choosing careers after recovering from mental health struggles/high school grade struggles? Would I still have time to make art on the side?
Thanks if you read this whole thing and any advice is appreciated! Sorry if I sound over my head at all, I really am years behind on non-art or literature related education :,).

31F, 28w3d pregnant, ~158lbs (prior to pregnancy 130lbs), 5ft2in in height.
Went to L&D at 25w5d with extreme flank pain. After CT found moderate hydronephisis in left kidney, a 12mm stack of stones in my ureter (5mm at base, 4mm above that and 3 mm above that), as well as a small stone in my left kidney. Ultimately urologist decided the safest route was a neph tube because the babys head was next to the ureter and did not believe I would be able to pass the stones due to the stacking.
Neph tube was placed in left kidney and about 24 hours later at the hospital I saw what I think could have been a stone with gravel. I took a photo and shared it with the urologist 2 weeks later at my post op. He believed it was the 5mm stone, I asked him if that could have been a stone in my bladder or urethra vs the 5mm stone and he said unlikely because he would have seen that on the CT.
Plan is to do a tube check with IR in 1.5 weeks. If the stone passed they will attempt to clamp and see if I don’t present with flank pain. Then they would remove the tube. If I do present with pain they will just change the tube out.
Questions: have any IR or Urology docs seen this happen before or have advice on this situation? Any thoughts on how likely it was that I passed that bottom 5mm stone right after neph tube surgery? Can you share how often you see clamping work without flank pain or is there a high chance I won’t pass those stones even if the tube gets clamped?

my 26(m) boyfriend broke up with me a little over two weeks ago, he broke up with me two days before law school finals so I 24(f) sort of spiraled because of the pressure. he talked to me for a few more days, he told me we could get lunch together and maybe try again. He promised he’d call me and that we would talk. Days went by, he made some excuse, and never called/texted again. I went no contact 5 days ago and blocked him. I sent a goodbye message wishing him well and that was it.
we were together for 1.5 years, had talked about getting married, and what we would name our kids. he broke up with me over the phone, refused to see me, and then just stopped responding to me. I really don’t understand why and I’m super lost.
when does it get better? I feel totally paralyzed, I know I need to move apartments and keep going with my life but I planned a future with him and now I just don’t know what to do. He left without explanation or a goodbye and I’m just lost. i don’t know how im supposed to bounce back or when things will feel better again.

How is this possible 😭

Had my commencement this morning. What should have been a joyous celebration was soiled by the student’s speech. Not a Palestinian student but still mentioned the conflict. This isn’t a direct quote but she said something like “18 universities and colleges in Gaza have been destroyed by bombs” and then later quoted Toni Morrison (who was pretty antisemitic). The speaker also wore a stole of the Palestinian flag, and I have no idea how that was allowed since since the only stoles that were supposed to be worn had to be associated with campus organizations (such as Greek life or honor societies). For the most part, the rest of the ceremony was fine and my campus has luckily not had any encampments. But it still sucked to have this be a part of my graduation. I’m glad my best friend and family were there; especially since I’m graduating in three years instead of four. It still took me back. The speech sucked in general. It had very little to do with the graduating class, especially since these kids ended high school and started college during the peak of Covid. But come on, not everything is about MENA. I just needed to rant.

this isn't a super unique or even that wild of an experience but it's really stuck with me over the years as it was just unnerving.
when i was around 15 or 16, my best friend at the time was having a sleepover at my place. because it was in the basement and away from everyone else, the guest room was where we always had them. this is only really relevant because i need to emphasize that the room was empty of any decorations, towels, clothes, etc. my mom is a neat freak and keeps the guest room spotless (almost like no one lives there lol).
that night when my friend and i were going to bed, i saw what looked like a tall figure standing by the door. it totally freaked me out but i just convinced myself it was a trick of the light. nonetheless i didn't want to say anything and freak my friend out so i just scooted closer to them. about 10 seconds later, they got closer to me, practically cuddling. i was absolutely terrified but this was comforting and it wasnt super uncommon for us to cuddle. still though i said nothing and eventually willed myself to sleep. when we woke up in the morning, the first words out of my friends mouth were asking me if i had seen the guy standing by the door last night too. nothing crazy but still gives me the creeps to think about, idk.

To start, I’m looking for criticism and hole poking. So downvote if you must, but at least explain why so I can help my own understanding. Thank you!
This is from a comment I made yesterday. I’m working through my own understanding of this and an interested in feedback and criticism. But part of my view is a critique of the moral/civil/ceremonial division of the law. I understand that a division of the law is seen by both Sts Augustine and Thomas Aquinas (though a bit differently). I’m not debating the patristic tradition, but rather the underlying logic those saints used.
I also recognize there is another tradition which states most of the laws given at Sinai were given because of the golden calf incident and thus were abolished by Christ (this is found in the apocryphal apostolic constitutions If I remember correctly). But again, I question the logic.
The reason I question this logic is this: why would Matthew include the “fulfill not abolish” language in his Gospel if this statement ceased to be of importance after the ascension (when the book was written, assuming the tripartite division, in effect, abolishes 2/3 of the law for the Christian). I also question the natural law methodology for determining what is moral law. I understand a “moral” act as an act that God says is good. Since all goodness is of God, then anything commanded by God would be considered moral to obey. Thus, even minor “ceremonial” laws would be considered moral to obey and immoral to violate. This would effectively render every law of the Torah a “moral law”.
Anyway, on to my proposition. I don’t claim to have patristic evidence for this framework. But this framework does arrive at a very similar effect for the average Christian as the tripartite division does, but it gets there in a very different way, one that makes WAY more sense in my brain. So if y’all can poke holes, please do. If yall can show I’m wildly misunderstanding the tripartite division or natural law or morality, please do.
This particular area I’ve been doing A LOT (last 6-9 months) of soul searching/prayer and study on because I don’t like the “moral/ceremonial/civil” distinction. I don’t think the Torah makes any such distinction and that the distinction only works when read back onto the Torah in light of church teaching. Which is FINE and good for arriving at an answer as a Catholic. But I don’t think it’s the logic the 1st and 2nd generation church would’ve used.
We keep the whole law of the Old Testament; Christ came to fulfill, not abolish. The difference is that it doesn’t quite look the same because

1. ⁠We assume the ancient Israelites enforced the Torah EXACTLY the way it’s read. Break a law? Straight to stoning. But this isn’t how it worked. There were courts and burdens of proof. AND there was a chance for repentance. King David, a man after God’s own heart commits murder AND adultery (and tacitly admits to it when confronted) and yet he repents! By some modern folks reading he should’ve been executed according to the Torah.
   
2. ⁠Christ has come. The thing that the entire OT was building up to happened. So our understanding of things changed. The covenant with Noah didn’t negate the covenant with Abraham, but things certainly look different after Noah. Same with Noah to Abrahamic covenant. Same when the covenant is given through Moses as Mt Sinai. The old is not abrogated, but it is built upon and things after look very different.
   

So, where are all the cleanliness laws, sacrificial laws, feasts, ritual washings etc etc? Well, it’s baked into the new covenant and by extension the church. Some examples:

1. ⁠Sacrificial law: Christ IS most of those sacrifices. He is a sacrifice of thanksgiving (Eucharist literally means thanksgiving), a sacrifice for sin (by his stripes we are healed), a Passover sacrifice (through which we are spared death and brought to life), the day of atonement sacrifice (he is both goats, the goat that takes away the sin and the goat who’s blood purifies the whole camp, now understood to be the whole earth). We still have morning and evening sacrifices (Lauds and Vespers, sacrifices of praise, in the Latin tradition). We still do incense offerings even at Mass and more traditional lauds and vespers celebrations.
   
2. ⁠Cleanliness: this one is entirely wrapped up in the day of atonement. If his blood cleanses the whole world, how can something be called intrinsically unclean? This means that nothing (including food, clothing, or people) are intrinsically unclean. Rather we (and objects) are defiled by what we do (or how it is used). Thus we are still not to have anything to do with unclean things, but what exactly is unclean has changed. You can see this in the fact we purify/cleanse altars that have been desecrated.
   
3. ⁠Ritual washings: baptism, holy water before entering the church, sprinkling over people at high feasts, foot washing
   
4. ⁠Feasts: Pentecost was an Israelite holiday that we still celebrate, Passover is Easter, feast of booths is transfiguration, etc. we just have them renamed for they BECAME to us through the establishment of the new covenant
   
5. ⁠Tabernacle/temple construction: traditional church architecture still abides by the general layout. Holy of Holies: tabernacle and sanctuary. Holy place: knave. Inner court: vestibule. Outer court: the world. Through Christs redemption everyone has moved a step closer to God. Those of relegated to never being in the temple are always in the outer court. But we can all enter the inner court (vestibule). The holy place is not relegated to just priests, but the priesthood of all believers (Catholics in the knave). The priests can all now go into the holy of holies (sanctuary/tabernacle). And instead of one priest once a year going in to God, God comes out to us in the Eucharist.
   
6. ⁠As for the remaining punitive laws, most people only have issue with the penalties assigned. But we’ve already talked about under what circumstances those penalties would be enforced. Basically you had to be unrepentant. So in the Christian understanding, what is consequence of sin? Death. What is death? Well there’s physical death (separation of soul from body) and there’s spiritual death (separation of soul from God). A person who lives in sin without repentance is dying or dead (venial vs mortal sin). And when recognized by the church in a lot of cases an excommunication would be pronounced. This separation from the church, separation of a branch from the true vine. A branch separated is dead. So we don’t execute people as the church, but the church long recognized the civil government’s authority to do so. And even without that, sin is death, and excommunication is death. But it’s important to note that in NO way was the average Israelite running around pronouncing death penalties on people. They had courts and priests that did this. Same as we have tribunals and priests and bishops who do this.
   
7. ⁠Circumcision: this is fulfilled with baptism. It’s the outward sign of entrance into the people of God. Circumcision to become a part of the OT people of God and baptism for the New covenant people of God.
   
8. ⁠A lot of the specifics are alterable with time and circumstance (Jesus gives the apostles this authority with the ability to “bind and loose”). Even in the OT this happened between exodus law in the wilderness vs changes that happen with Leviticus and Deuteronomy since they’re readying to enter the promised land and not be a nomadic people in the wilderness. And even by extra biblical accounts, the specifics had changed a bit in the rituals by the time of the second temple era. Yet Jesus still tells the people to submit to the valid authority of the religious leadership of the day; he notably doesn’t tell them to interpret the Torah for themselves and correct the instructions of priests and rabbis.
   

So practically speaking, yes the triple category can still be laid out. Our ceremonial law is more governed by our liturgical books than Leviticus on a literal front, and our civil law is found in Canon law now, and moral laws (as we have defined the moral life) is still found in the OT among many other places. But all of it is still rooted in what the people of God have been practicing since Mt Sinai though.
Again, my issue with the logic used by fathers in making their determination. I have issue with the practical effect of what they are teaching, and I strongly revere their perspectives. But given there is difference in understanding in tradition, I thought it worth diving in on as something that’s always confused me.

I moved to a new state with my husband about two months before he deployed. It has been very difficult making friends as I work from home. Even before deactivating my social media, it was very difficult making friends using social media group pages. He has been gone several months and while it hasn’t been easy, because I’m constantly alone, I thought it was going okay.
He emailed me last week, after going radio silent, telling me how much he is struggling and how unhappy he is. Shared that a lot of it is my fault. He doesn’t feel comfortable opening up to me and never will. To preface this, this happened after 5 days of no talking after a “fight”. I put it in quotes because I was genuinely trying to avoid a fight. We were talking on messenger. He was giving me one or two word answers to everything and I started getting frustrated. So I told him I was gonna let him go and to have a good night and I love him. He asked me what he did wrong and I told him nothing. He said I love you too and immediately logged off. I messaged him back explaining that it felt like I was trying to pull teeth talking to him and I know he is exhausted and stressed so instead of hurting my own feelings I would rather get offline. He never opened the message. I also sent him a screen shot about something funny his brother shared with me so he could get context about what I was asking and knew it wasn’t a big deal. But again, he never opened the message.
Five days later is when I received the aforementioned email; he was purposely ignoring me. He had promised me multiple times before that he wouldn’t do that sort of thing again (this was now the fourth time) and this one was by far the longest. I sometimes struggle knowing how to respond because when he shares that I’m upset about something, he gets the context completely wrong. For example, he thinks I get mad at him for talking to his family. That’s not true at all. I get upset that we get to talk for what seems to be a few hours online, and he’s not really participating in sharing anything. I have to ask questions, I get one or two word answers back and that’s it. I try not to push but sometimes I need the communication to feel connected. He doesn’t tell me he misses me, he doesn’t call me babe or honey (he used to) I know he is struggling, and I’m by no means saying I have it worse, but on the boat, he has explicitly told me that he doesn’t like anyone, he doesn’t trust anyone and he absolutely hates this command. I don’t really have any friends but my isolation is not quite self induced.
I responded to his email explaining my side of things, and apologizing for not creating a space for him to feel comfortable to talk to me. That’s literally all I’ve tried to do but he just seems to feel pressure when talking to me. I genuinely believe his stress, anxiety and lack of sleep are highly contributing to his emotional and mental distress. Add that he is in a combat zone and I’m sure its worse. He won’t tell me that though, usually just says he’s not at all worried or makes a really dumb joke about it.
I all but begged him to please let me know if all he needs is space, that I want to support him but the silence is torture to me. I have an anxious attachment style (he is avoidant) so I tend to think worst case scenario. So I requested that he please put my mind at ease that he’s not considering ending our marriage.
Three days later he sends me a very long email talking about how he is not looking forward to coming home, and isnt because we couldn’t get thru a deployment without fighting; that he wants to go to his childhood home to see his family. That we don’t want the same things. That I’m happy where we moved to and he is not. He only chose these orders and the last orders to be close to his family. He hates that I don’t get along with his family and that I don’t really want to move there when he retires.
Let me explain that he lives in a very tiny town where there isn’t even a grocery store. I literally would not have a career within an hour of his town. We had agreed that we could live an hour away, like one of his brothers does and it would still be close enough to his family. Also, his family has been quite rude to me. I have been mending fences with them for the sake of my husband. I don’t care where we live in the grand scheme of things, but I still need to have a job and his father and that side of the family very much abuse alcohol. They are also very ignorant and racist. My husband already struggles with over drinking. That’s not something I want to raise a family around as they can be verbally abusive when drunk, and you never know what’s going to trigger them. They have no goals nor aspirations in life, and that’s okay, but I do/ we did… I thought. My husbands goal is to retire from the service and go home. I was willing to go close (1-2 hours which he had agreed) to his home because I have a while before I can retire.
He proceeded to talk about how he was miserable with his ex wife and doesn’t want to spend six year with me, like he did with her, thinking marriage was supposed to be an unhappy union. That he stayed with her that long because he didn’t want it to fail; also because she convinced him things would get better. They never did, in fact I believe there was some infidelity on her side. He continued on about nonsense, like how he wants the mirrors in our house to stay but I wanted to change them and he has completely given up on having a say on how to update the house we bought. For the record, I left the mirrros the way he wanted. I picked paint colors I knew he would like.
Next, he mentioned how we had gotten in a fight right before moving and in haste, I told him to leave me there. he considered that we do end it then but we agreed to keep going because even though we struggle with communication, we do love each other and want to continue our marriage as overall we are pretty happy.
He ended the email explaining that he has not been happy for a while, has been struggling and while we work good together, he doesn’t believe we are right for each other. That I need to look within and figure out if I am happy in the relationship. That he doesn’t care about my answer but he is not at all happy.That he will never be able to communicate the way I want and he has made more changes for me, like attend couples counseling and anger management, than he ever would have for anyone else.
There are still a few months left to this deployment. I literally have no idea where that leaves me. I’m hurt as shit. I’m angry. I’m confused and frustrated. Not once on this deployment have I even mentioned splitting. Month two was the first time he mentioned divorce. We got past that hurdle and month three he mentioned that we should consider getting pregnant when he gets back. Then some stupid issue comes up and the cycle of being angry and fine continues. In fact, I all but beg him to not leave me when he has these outbursts. I feel stupid.
He is not one to ask for help. He clearly needs help but I have no idea what to do. It’s clear he doesn’t want anything to do with me.

I’m a black woman. I’m 19.
In my final year of high school, I was very attracted (squealing in the hallways type attracted) to a 1/2 black 1/2 white boy who looked something like this: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7KQAa9PmSA/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
I had a crush on another 1/2 black 1/2 white boy (dark brown eyes, very light - almost white - skin, though I actually don’t think that was a factor in the attraction) from 9th-10th grade who was a little above average. But I was no longer attracted to him by 11th grade after he became average looking. He was also an atrocious person, which of course was a factor in the attraction fading.
My 11th grade boyfriend (December 2021-March 2022) looked something like this: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7KQAa9PmSA/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== and https://www.instagram.com/p/C7KQ9ttPLl0/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
I am no longer attracted to my 11th grade boyfriend, although I recall that when he first pulled down his mask I was certainly attracted to him. Beforehand, I wasn’t sure. He also proved to be a bad person (disrespected my sexual boundaries multiple times.)
The darker skinned black boy in the middle is someone I would go out with if I liked his personality/if he approached me, I like his hair: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7KQ9ttPLl0/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
I also subjectively find the guy in The Beach Boys music videos to be very cute, like “oh that’s my dream guy” type of cute: https://www.reddit.com/VindictaRateCelebs/s/BwVR18np6S
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