Home made gum care remidy

Hi, I dont really use reddit like at all, but i need to know if theres a philosophy that matches my current one surrounding the suicide of my friend 5 months ago. Yes wow big start i know🫣but she's been gnawing at my thoughts lately and i would love to hear a variety of takes on it! quick warning tho this will definitely be a huge essay. So, in December my friend (we'll call her Sarah for privacy) took her own life at the age of 15. we had known eachother since we were 2 and it completely shattered me. ontop of her, i had to deal with 3 other losses within the span of 2 weeks before that, AND exams. but, the other 3 people really didnt hit me anywhere near as hard as Sarah's death. you see, the 3 other people were either old or had pedictable deaths from an illness, so i was able to brace myself, but Sarah was unpredictable and so it hit me in the must hurtful ways. i found over TEXT of all things during a revision period and my whole world seemed to crumble around me. im pretty sure i blacked out or something because i dont remember most of that day, but i do remember havinf a massive breakdown when i got home and having to be cradled like a child. then, i stopped answering anyones messages and the close friends i really really needed at the time were suddenly nowhere to be found, so i distanced completely and went down a massive 2 month spiral. i won't bore u any more with a sob story but this is just for some context i swear im getting to the point! i think the reason Sarah's death hit me so hard compared to the others is because i couldnt predict it, but even more because of the fact i didnt recognise that she was temporary. her death made me realise that just because we grew up together, completely intertwined in eachothers lives, didnt mean that we would always stay together. i got used to her permanence which is what led to such a rapid spiral after she left. so, im starting to think that everyone should begin to recognise and accept how temporary everyone else is in their lives, to make it easier for when the time does come that someone they're close to unpredictably dies. in a way, i guess i was able to predict her death because 2 nights before she did it, i had a dream that i should get her number again because she was planning on doing something horrible(i had switched phones and we had drifted a few months prior naturally) so i tried frantically to get her number from anyone who possibly knew her, but still couldn't get it. sometimes i really do wonder if i could've done something if i just had gotten her number that day. maybe theres another philosophy that links into that, im not sure. Congratulations if u got this far in my rambling! if anyone has a philosopher tyat matches anything ive said here, please let me know! or let me know your takes on death etc id love to see different perspectives :)

I’ve been technically disabled since I was 13 which is well over 20 years, I been on disability alone for over 15 years. I never felt like I had a safe space to share this because I don’t want people to label it with internalized ableism (even if some may be). I just never really found happiness in my life because I been disabled for so long and was forced onto disability. I was also misdiagnosed with other mental disorders and put on treatment plans that more than likely worsened my disabilities that I could never get back. I lost every ounce of my identity, drive, passion, career path, and now hobbies. The only thing I got going is just being disabled and disability. That’s my identity and I’m absolutely god damn unhappy and fucking depressed because I did not fucking choose this life. I also lost many friends because of my disabilities and am estranged from family because of that also.
I saw an ask Reddit thread the other day about the things that made disabled people angry the most and every single point made hit home for me. Every single one and I just want to be able to vent about this without outside people giving me toxic positivity about it that life isn’t bad with disabilities, yes that’s true except I been disabled since I was 13 and I’m now in my 30s. I was forced to give up every career path, passion, and financial security I have and risked being dependent on financially abusive people. I have never been able to tell anyone how absolutely fucking god damn missable I am because I have been disabled for so long with abuse from people, financial dependency, forced poverty, and lack of accommodations.
Thank you for reading. Hopefully someone can relate.

tl;dr - My sister moved to another country and had a child with her ex-fiancé. The child isn't a US citizen and courts in both countries have sided with her ex to keep the child in the other country, and will not allow my sister to bring the child to the US. Now my parents and my sister want me to cancel my vacation and give the money to my sister to help with her legal bills, and are furious that I said no.
Background: My older sister did a student exchange program when she was in college. She liked it so much there that she ended up staying there. Eventually later on she met someone. They have a child (who is 8 now) and they were planning on getting married. But their relationship fell apart before the wedding happened. My sister wanted to move back here and bring her child with her.
I always thought that if a baby had a parent with US citizenship, it automatically made the baby a citizen no matter where in the world that baby was born. But that's not true. Since my sister and her child's father aren't married and my sister had not been physically present in the US for years before their child was born, it means their child is not automatically a citizen. Their child could get citizenship but that would require them 1) to be allowed to enter the country legally as an immigrant and 2) for them to be in the physical and legal custody of my sister. This where the problems happen.
Their child is a citizen of her father's country and the court there won't let my sister have custody or bring their child here. All the times my sister has tried and appealed the court say the current country is their home, their child has no ties to the US and has never been here, and my sister has no right to remove them from their home country. They also say the free healthcare and better standard of living means their child should stay and even talk about how much safer it is there vs. here.
Even though the law about an unmarried mother giving citizenship to their child born in another country has changed, it doesn't apply after the fact. My sister's child was born a year before the law changed so it doesn't count in their case. The US has an agreement with the country my sister lives in about custody agreements and child support so the courts here can't do anything. My sister has tried going to court and then appealing decisions both here and in the other country. She has hired lawyers in both countries. She has gone to politicians in both countries. She's had all kinds of consults with experts in international law. And no matter where she turns the law is against her and her ex says their child will not ever come here until they are 18 and can decide for themselves. Her choices are either: to stay to stay the other country where her ex has their version of legal and physical custody and sister would have visitation, not 50% but close. She can also try to meet the requirements for citizenship. Or she can move back to St. Louis and then go back to the other country once or twice a year for a visit.
To help my sister pay for her huge legal bills my parents re-mortgaged their house. It was basically paid off but now they are underwater on it. They gave her their entire savings as well. My mom didn't work after my sister and I were born but she's had to get a job as a cashier because of my parent's financial situation. My dad won't be able to retire now. They are looking if there's any social assistance because of how bad things are. I'm terrified that something will happen that will make their situation worse like an accident or illness because of how bad the situation is. Even after all this they are still hell bent on helping my sister. I'm don't have the money to look after them if anything goes wrong. I'm a phlebotomist, I don't have piles of money lying around to help my parents and even now they are still giving my sister money.
My sister is almost massively in debt. Before now neither her or my parents asked me for money but now that my parents and my sister have found out I'm taking a vacation they want me to cancel it and give the money to my sister. I finished my training in 2020 and the last four years in the healthcare sector have been so stressful. I haven't had more than three days off in a row since I started my job. I'm going on a Viking Cruise and I've been looking forward to it for over a year. I don't want to cancel it. I currently do not have any debt but they are pressuring me to go into debt for my sister. My parents have visited my sister's child, they have visited the other country and regularly do video calls and phone calls but I think my parents and my sister are still in denial about the situation. When I said I'm not cancelling my cruise or going into debt to help my sister all three of them got so angry. My sister lost it on me and my parents backed her up and said they were disappointed in me. Besides my sister's child the three of them are the only family. But my parents and my sister won't talk to me unless it's to tell me how angry they are. It just sucks that they won't talk even though I know I'm right and won't change my mind.

Don't really know what I am hoping to accomplish with this. Moral support I guess, as I am kind of terrified.
Been with the same company (more or less due to mergers and acquisitions) for my whole career. Due to some restructuring of how we go to business, my workload has changed. I manage a warehouse that recently had a bunch of volume moved to another warehouse one state over. Writing is on the wall that there is more of that to come. My boss (who is currently out on leave due to stress, I think) advocated for finding other work for me to justify keeping me around. I despise the work they found for me. It's a mix of corporate nonsense (filling out forms, etc), garbage work no one else wants, and stuff an intern should be doing. (for example, my skip level boss told me to plan on renting a SUV for an upcoming meeting so I can drive people around.) Lately this whole situation has been really messing with me. Losing sleep, constantly worried about work, etc.
Also as part of these changes we had to let some of my crew go. They weren't offered severance, which really leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I don't know that this has also contributed to me being so unhappy, but it hasn't helped.
As for my financial situation; m47, married, two kids still at home one of them finishes HS in a couple weeks the other is a sophomore. One more already in college. They all either pay their own way or plan to do so. I'm willing to help them if needed, but think it's important for them to stand on their own.
Net worth is just over 2MM counting house (conservative estimate on value) or 1.6MM not including house. No debt. Wife works and makes enough for us to live but we wouldn't be saving much. Last year's expenses were around 65k but that doesn't include anything that's withheld from our checks (taxes, insurance, etc)
I don't have anything lined up, but when I do I don't want to keep doing what I'm doing. I want to have a job that I don't need to take home with me. Just applied for a job maintaining trails for the parks department this morning. Pay would be minimal, but my thinking is it would be enough to keep us building up savings instead of just relying on compounding. I also can't just do nothing and expect the wife to bring in the only income until we hit our number (which I'm thinking is right around 2MM) Honestly, with some expense cutting we could possibly scrape by and call ourselves lean fired even if she didn't work, but that's not really ideal.
I know it makes more sense to wait to quit until I have something lined up, but mentally I just don't have it in me.
Any support anyone cares to offer is greatly appreciated.

Me and my partner have been together for four, almost five years and we are long distance. we have never met.
this will be a very long read but it honestly doesn’t even sum up everything. there’s been so much more stuff with terrible abusive details and so much emotion that I cannot capture in this post. I also could not explain everything to detail and left out a lot about this girl im eventually going to mention in this post and have left out a lot about other stuff my bf has done and said to me.
to preface, me and my bf both are not in therapy. He is going to therapy in a few months. He is in college and has friends, while I have no friends.
I have a lot of jealousy issues and insecurities. my boyfriend has messed up countless times with his friends. he’s broken a million boundaries over and over throughout this whole relationship. he says he can’t get better. he says he needs me to be more appreciative of the good things he does and to stop getting so mad when he hurts me. any time I talk to him about the bad stuff, he victimizes himself, brings up things I did in the past that I no longer do, gaslights me, manipulates me and tries to break up with me. when he breaks boundaries with people, he just breaks up with me and gets super mad. every boundary broken has been with girls.
he’s emotionally cheated, lied a billion times, hid things a billion times, done things I tell him make me uncomfortable with other people, ranted (talked shit) about me to his friends a billion times but left out all the things he’s done to provoke me and abuse me..and through all of that he has yelled at me and cried and blamed me. I am always very up front about my boundaries and try to be stern every single time.
so through all of that, I have horrible trust issues and insecurities. now we are having issues with this girl in his hometown at his work. he did substances with her, hid it, lied about it, and since then he has made her a HUGE deal. I told him one of my boundaries is not hanging out with people nor being their friend if you’ve messed up boundaries with them intentionally. all of the boundaries I have placed are ones that I follow as well by the way.
he told me he can’t get rid of her because she works with him and can’t find another job and doesn’t want to find another job (it’s a summer job). he wanted to hang out and explore abandoned places with her like the last time they hung out for six hours and also did substances and other stuff at her place. he cried and complained and started about 6 different big fights with most of them resulting in him trying to break up with me or breaking up with me for a few hours to a day.
this girl has a boyfriend but I have this gut feeling she likes him but I could be totally wrong! Like I said, I have really bad jealousy and insecurities but with that comes paranoia. I don’t think every girl likes my bf but there has to be signs and I guess my mind has convinced me there are “signs”.
the signs are: she followed him on Facebook, added him on snapchat, has him on discord and instagram.
she only followed my boyfriend despite knowing I exist.
she only follows my boyfriend and three other people (who are famous). she does not follow her boyfriend on that account.
she friended me on Facebook so I asked her why she friended me on facebook and not instagram (where she always talks to my bf) because she knows I exist on instagram but she said she didn’t notice she wasn’t following me which just feels complete lie. I asked then was asking why she only followed him , (a few famous people), and did not have her bf on this account. she said she has multiple accounts but she was snappy and rude when she responded to me saying stuff like “can’t I follow who I want to what’s the problem here lol” and stuff. I asked a simple question, I wasn’t rude or anything. she apologized for being rude a few minutes later and then went to my boyfriend while he was working (she was in to grab some food) and she told him she thinks I hate her because she was rude to me and didn’t want me thinking she’s a “fucking bitch”. her words told from him to me.
Since my boyfriend said he cannot leave or distance since they work together and it would be too awkward he tried breaking up with me multiple times and said this summer would be miserable with him because all ill do is complain and cry about being anxious with what he has caused. I told him to just be distant and he agreed to.
he had ended up telling her im uncomfortable with them hanging out because she kept begging him to hang out again and he didn’t think it was fair to not explain why he keeps saying no to her. he told her he slipped up on a boundary with her and that I don’t allow it. it made me sound so shitty and he refused to explain my side of why im uncomfortable in more details like I begged and then when I tried to explain it to her (I ended up just not sending it) he kept telling me to cut out parts that make him look bad and that she “doesn’t need to know everything about our relationship”. so I know she thinks im a shitty partner now and I know she does not like me but she doesn’t know anything he’s done.
the day before yesterday was his first day back to work for summer break and they only worked together for about an hour and thirty minutes but still managed to talk quite a bit. she also came up to him and said she wishes they could still hang out and that she’s sad or something about it despite knowing im uncomfortable and that we’ve already made it clear that wouldn’t be happening. She also asked him if they were still good (she was definitely asking because there’s tension between me and her even though her and I like don’t really talk, I’ve also tried inviting her to play games with me and my bf online before he messed up with her and she refused every time and wouldn’t reschedule but then she wants to play games alone with him.) then he asked her if he could get his cigarettes back that he gave her. he says he can’t help talking to her at work because he doesn’t want to be rude and that it’s hard to avoid her.
Today they are currently working together and it’s only been a few hours yet so far she’s come up to his register behind him and looked at his phone, talked a bit and told him she could try and get him a free electric guitar, gave him a piece of gum without asking, showed him pictures of her and her boyfriend at a prom event, talked about working out, etc. Doesn’t sound like much maybe but it hurts when you’ve asked him to distance himself and it was barely half of his first shift and all that has already been done. and not to mention she was stocking while my bf was on register so she kept coming out of her way to talk to him.
if I complain, he just wants to break up. I wish she knew why I don’t want them hanging out. he made me sound like im just a toxic girlfriend. I can’t explain anything to her without him threatening to like cut and kill himself and break up with me.
if I break up with him they’re just gonna hang out all summer and he do god knows what and talk shit about me for sure. he would never explain what he’s done. I’ll look even worse. I just want peace but my heart is breaking. I don’t want to victimize myself but I have such a big heart, i believe in and love god, I love with my whole heart, I try to see good in people, I gave him everything I had and im still trying to pull more out of me. it feels like it’ll never be enough. I know he will forget about me because last summer we were on break and he said he let himself “slip” up and looked at a girl who came into the store with lust and full attraction because he was trying to imagine his life without me. he didn’t even tell me because he didn’t think he needed to since we were on break. He recently told me maybe a month ago. the break lasted like two days and it was because our relationship was so bad and he did not love me anymore. there have been multiple times he has not loved me but it was always because of my reactions to his abuse.
I’ve never not once stopped loving him and I’ve never once found anybody else attractive while I’ve been with him, not even celebrities. I’ve tried to warn him a thousand times that if he breaks boundaries again or hurts me some other way, I’ll be done. he just does it like he breathes. he says he feels remorse but he just always does it again. he said he feels better without me because im always hurting him. I “hurt” him by reacting to his abuse, asking him questions about things he’s done, asking him if he’s broke boundaries with his friends when he’s with them, etc. His first day of work this summer I was asking him questions about the girl and he was so defensive. I still feel like something else happened like he ranted about me or she said something about me that he doesn’t wanna tell me. it was not a normal reaction to a simple question.
is there any way I can get over this without having to break up? It feels like my world is ending. he is my only friend. he is doing great in life. he can move on easily and will move on easily when I am gone. he said before he would just put himself more into work, friends and school and would just forget about me. I have nothing really. I do nothing all day as I don’t even have access to a job.
I just need advice on how to go about controlling my emotions when he’s around this girl and other potential friends.

I've been getting a lot of tiktok dating women empowerment things so Reddit isn't the best place for advice on that but they basically say "does he ask you questions or do you just share?" "Does he make you laugh or did you say a joke?" Stuff like that. And it's getting to me because yeah, these guys don't ask me questions. The best question I get is "how are you". I don't know what I'm meant to do because conversations usually rest on my shoulders and I usually have to put all the work in.
I was talking to a guy for 2 months and he asked me one question in that time and then changed the subject after I answered it. And actually, I asked him first and he responded with his answer and the same question. Seriously he didn't even ask me what I do for work. That's the question everyone asks eachother and he just didn't care to ask it.
I don't really remember how previous relationships started but yeah, most guys don't ask me shit. So dating advice what the fuxk do I do here? Tiktok has made my dating experience worse by opening my eyes to all the shit I used to just accept and deal with, and now i don't know how I'm meant to date people if I have to just wait around for them to ask me something. And I can and do ask them questions, but then I'm just listening to them talk for 2 months about their interests, with the smallest chance theyll ask me something back.
I don't understand it. I don't know what to do anymore. Dating is so difficult, I don't understand how I'm meant to find a guy. My track record is NOT GOOD so im trying to listen to advice about what behaviour isn't acceptable and its made it a million times harder for me to find someone.

the post looks long, but theres only one paragraph you need to read, just skip to the “STORY OVER” part. the rest is just backstory/what ive found helps me
m normally around 1500ish, and anything above 1520 would be very high for me, but recently the past 2-3 days ive climbed up to my new peak, 1660 (my previous peak was 1610, on the last day of a season so it hardly counts, so this is really new to me)
(skip to “STORY OVER” f you dont care about how i got to this peak)
i was feeling good one night and partied with a random who was playing well, and we climbed to around 1580ish, and it turned out to be a gc3 on an alt, so i doubted my rank a little, but i asked him for some tips and that was that (his tip was to try and read the ball/play more and position for it, which ill touch on later)
decided to solo q, and was still winning which helped my confidence a bit, i ended up around 1620 at the end of the night
solo queued some more the next night, and i guess i was peaking. my plan was to get off after the first loss, lost a game due to tm8 lagging out while we were winning, so i stayed on, and i just went on a winning streak. i ended up peaking at 1661, lost a game bringing me to like 1650 something and got off
—STORY OVER—
what should i be doing to try and maintain this? i feel like im playing way out of my league, despite me winning and holding my own. ive been saving replays to review, trying to take mental notes of what i might be doing better and how the gameplay has changed from 1500 lobbies. ill write my findings below but id like some additional input on things to focus on, or how to maintain this rank, or how to peak harder and keep climbing?
FINDINGS:
i think ive focused on my reads more, not like wall reads, but more reading the play to position better. i put alot more thought into “where is the ball going to end up” and “where can i put myself in the best position when this happens” it sounds like common sense but its something i would always auto pilot on. and if im unsure, or there’s multiple possibilities, position for the worst case. this is pretty much the tip i got from the gc3 (just alot more brief) and id say this was the biggest difference
good vibes/confidence. i felt like i was playing way out of my rank, but i played like i belonged with confidence. i feel like the second i lose confidence in myself and start second guessing, ill start hesitating, making mistakes, etc. this goes kinda hand in hand with good vibes imo, some games id go down 2-0 but shake it off and not let it get in my head. alot of 2-0 comebacks were made
not tilt queuing, i get off (or atleast switch to cas) after 1-2 loses in a row, rarely 3 if im really feeling it after 2.
i feel like playing higher than normal has exposed some of my weaknesses, a tm8 commented that everytime they looked at my boost, it was low/zero. i never felt like i was low boost, but i guess i just used boost as i got it. so i should probably work on my routing over pads
staying disciplined, not going for risky/dumb stuff even if i feel confident in it. obv theres a point where if im 100% confident, ill go for it, but most of the time it ends up in a turnover and me overcommitted. also stuff like not always going for boost right after kickoff, hoping my tm8 has got it, stuff like that
anyways, is there anything i should be doing while im peaking/playing in a way higher rank than im used to? i appreciate any help in advance :)

my boyfriend and i have been together for three months. we had six dates before he even came over to my house where we didn’t kiss or do anything like that. he showed signs of insecurity when we were exploring being in a relationship like when i wouldn’t text back fast enough, he’d say “if you don’t like me anymore you can just tell me straight up” and i always reassured him. we got past that. we started hanging out at my house and have been hanging out every weekend. we haven’t had one good weekend where we didn’t argue. it’s normally over small stuff. for example, yesterday he dropped me off at work and took my keys back to my place so he could get back in. then fell asleep and when i came home i couldn’t get into the house and was standing outside for 30 minutes. i was pissed and we were arguing and he said he was leaving so i said bye. he sat in the car and we argued over text for about an hour. that is always how it goes. he threatens to leave but doesn’t really want to and will just kinda say he’s leaving and expect me to chase him and when i don’t he says that “i don’t care about him or the relationship”. he says i always blame him and never take responsibility for what i do. i genuinely love him and don’t want to end our relationship but our arguments always go that way. pls give me advice😭😭😭

I posted on here before that my sister Mellissa losing her kids she has 7 in total katelynne is 19 kay din is 13 Lillianna is 11 Miracle is 6 zanders are 8 and Ransom and Rytheme are 2 years old today is their birthday the whole problem started in 2019 when Melissa found her old crush from school his name is Aron.
Aron and Melissa are dating i knew from day one I didn't like him he was controlling in my eyes all he ever did was tell Melissa what to do I noticed this when we all gathered at my sister Jessica's house early for Christmas since she wouldn't be in town
Jessica is married to a Mexican who I adore his name is Andres so normally every other Christmas and summer she would go with her son to Mexico to spend time with his family we were having a good time until he began texting and calling Melissa
he had been living with her that next year in 2020 we found out some disturbing things Melissa didn't want to get pregnant again so she had an IUD inserted in her arm to prevent her from getting pregnant what Aron would do was squeeze her arm to break the IUD so he can get her pregnant
In April of 2020, I moved into my sister's house i was previously living with my mom under her landlord's radar until I got accused of stealing clothes which is ridiculous and then I got banned so I moved into my oldest sister's Jessica house
Just a few days after moving in my sister Jessica came into my room and told me that Aron had beat up Melissa and it was bad she had bruises and gashes all over her from her beating on her and DCFS had gotten involved
DCFS told her that if she did not get rid of Aron she would have no choice but to take her kids away because of what happened his kids also displayed abuse his son was violent and his daughter would sit there and watch as Zander who is Autisic was getting dressed disturbing
Then in May of 2021 Ransom and Rytheme were born Ransom was born with Cleft feet while Rytheme was normal but Aron's control over her got worse during this time we got calls from the kids more and more often asking for Jessica to come to get them because they were scared
Aron and Melissa were fighting again Melissa was also an alcoholic so they would fight when they were mostly drunk is when the fights they both wanted to run the household when it should have been Melissa since it was her house
Then 2022 started we did not hear much of Melissa leading up to this year she came over on Christmas and it seemed she was still under his control she would pick up immediately after he would call this worried us because she was pregnant
January nothing February nothing then March happened Kaydon her 12 year old called us saying Melissa was drinking again and that he found an empty vodka bottle in her trash can we told him to tell his bio dad stevie and Stevie told her case worker
this was March 2nd of 2022 that year was very eventful if you ask me multiple false police calls from her on us threats from Aron stalking us because he didn't like that we had his kids and multiple false reports to DCFS from her about us citing that we were abusing the kids
all reports came back unfounded of the course she also posted on Facebook slandering Jessica saying that she always wanted her to have her kids taken away which wasnt true she had gotten her kids taken away and then we had to immediately find babysitters for the babies
Jessica worked so did Andres and I and Jessica had a deal when I moved in that i didn't have to babysit if I didn't want to as you can tell babysitting 2 infants a 5-year-old and a 7-year-old autistic child was not an easy thing to do
At first, our babysitter Brooklyn just quit babysitting Zander saying his meltdowns were way to much and then she quit watching the babies so i took over it was from April- to October of 2022 in between that time I had given a lot of my time up to babysitting i never got a day off
on top of making sure I fed and changed the babies while making sure the older kids got to bed on time I had to also clean the house and this was proven to be too stressful on me the fact Jessica's son Zion would always contradict me this would lead to fights we had
In August of 2022, they went on vacation for 6 days and this was a saving grace for me since i got 6 whole days to myself in September of 2022 I had gotten into a fight with Zion her husband was supposed to be off that day but he went somewhere with the older kids
so it was just me Zion and the babies Zion wanted to watch tv i said no he tried to snatch the remote from me and a fight happened the fight got so heated because he kept trying to follow me around if i went into the kitchen where he was the livingroom there he was the bathroom there he was
Finally, i went outside and he tried grabbing me until the neighbor came out he then went inside and locked me out of the house twice once back inside I yelled WHAT THE HELL IS THE MATTER WITH YOU, YOU DONT HAVE A RIGHT TO LOCK ME OUT AND THERE ARE BABIES IN THE HOUSE!!!" he then shoved me so I called Jessica
Jessica sped home and she laid it on him thick saying that she was taking his game until he learned to keep his hands off of me Andres came just in time to see him try and put his hands on Jessica and he beat up Zion Jessica had to pull him off of Zion
the next two months he just went on walks until his mom would be home until October I was putting all the same colors of play dough in the same container and my vape was by the tv so I could just grab it and go outside he purposely knocked it to the ground
I asked him about it and he blamed the 5-year-old for it but there were 2 problems to this story 1 -I had it scooted back to where the 5-year-old couldn't reach the vape and 2- the 5-year-old is smarter than most and knows not to touch it
this is when the final fight happened Andres had already left for work and Jessica was already at work I didn't want to fight with him so I told him to stop but he didn't want to be kept it up he started following me around the house but this time I chose to ignore I got hungry
so I went to grab a knife and a potato so I could cut up a potato i can make myself a baked potato and he grabbed a knife of his own this made me feel threatened so I called Jessica no answer i texted Jessica no answer so then I tried his andres I called him no answer I texted him no answer this was after I told the older kids to go to the playroom
after no answer, I called the police the police came Zions Dimbass went outside with the knife to talk to the police I told the officer what happened and he told his side of the story too not long after they left Jessica came home instead of her yelling at Zion for starting a fight she yelled at me
so the next day Jerry told me he wanted me to come to the hills and talk to him and at the same time I felt like she was going to make me move out she said she would pick Melissa's kids over me every time which upset me
so I went and got papers for Indian Hills and signed them she tried to backtrack as soon as DCFS said it was unfounded but I told her I did not want to babysit anymore so she had Stevie and Jen babysit This only lasted a month so November thru December
after they quit it was Ricky Katenynnes boyfriend who babysat Kateynee came now and then to help out but she had her job and Ricky did not follow any rules Jessica had some strict rules when it came to ways to babysit the baby
such as cleaning up the mess and not vaping around the babies if one of the kids is sick keeping them away from the babies and letting the babies sleep whenever they wanted Jessica didn't want them sleeping past 5 pm so they would have a sleep schedule
After Ricky quit due to him accusing Zion of looking up porn on the internet on one of the kid's tablets and being told that maybe he was the one doing it then Jessica tried to pressure me into babysitting again even though in October we sat down in the kitchen and i told her how I felt
then she told me she understood the deal we made and that the only time that she would ask me to babysit was for school stuff and doctor appointments and when she went to the boat that's what she calls the casino so she had to quit her job at the restraint so that she didn't have to worry
January and February we were living off of food pantries and behind on bills then mom mentioned on Addus and working for Travis and so she signed up went to orientation and now she works for Travis
now for the update :
last day of court was today and they told Melissa she will not be getting her kids back She is back on medicine and she is doing her classes but the one thing she was not doing was accepting the fact that it was Aron who got her kids taken
thank you Reddit for joining me on this wild ride

Great American Jobs are gone because of shorties!!!!Company can stomped to the ground! This is our Revolution!
2008-2009 - greedy institutions made billions of synthetic CDOs. The Entire U.S Economy was effed! They got a ball out with our tax dollars! Gave themselves billions in bonuses!
Americans suffered!!!!
2020 - while average Americans suffered and.small businesses closed - lost jobs! Billionaires increased their wealth by 1.7 Trillion dollars!
2022-present day.. Gas prices surged Major Gas companies posted over 50 billion in revenues Home prices surged BlackRock bought millions of residential home and said…you will own nothing and be happy! Food Surged CEO of Kellogg told us to eat cereal for breakfast!!!
Billionaires short American companies and Americans lose jobs!
This is a Revolution….we hurt them where it counts!!!! We are an Army of degenerates who are effen tired.
THIS IS OUR REVOLUTION

I (35F) need help with figuring out if I’m the issue. My boyfriend (42M) and I have been together for 2 years and live together. At the beginning of our relationship I of course felt amazing, sexy, hott, so wanted by him. We would fool around and attempt to have sex but he would always go “soft” on me. I’ve never had this issue with anyone I’ve been intimate with. At first he told be because he has been single for so long he’s “a little rusty” and asked for me to be patient with him. I completely understand and was so willing to do that. I actually really loved it because we were building our connection not based on sex but who we were as a couple. So fast forward and months go by and I noticed there wasn’t even attempts to be intimate. When I would bring it up it would always seem to turn into a fight and I was to blame and the reason for us not having sex. Months keep rolling by and I would do everything to fix whatever the “problem” I was causing. I was getting so sexually frustrated and my self esteem was really taking a hit. A year goes by and we decide to move in together and about 2 months of living together I find this massive amount of porn. Multiple thumb drives full. With the thumb drives I was able to see the dates and even times when the videos were downloaded. Once I confronted him about it, it’s been a ME problem. He claims all guys have this much and watch as much as he does. He tells me it’s just a tool and it means nothing. I’ve even tried sending him pictures of me naked and he tucks them away in the hidden folder. He watches videos and gets pictures of other women (like bloggers or actresses) and uses that. Never does he use my photos again claiming the porn and whatnot is separate from me. Now my self esteem has taken a huge huge hit. He’s lied a bunch to me about it and now is where he sneaks off and I sit in another room knowing what’s going on and he could clearly care less.
The catch with this is he really is a very kind person and does outside of this treat me exactly how I’ve ever wanted to be treated. I was in a crazy abusive marriage that I got out of years ago. But it’s like he become two different people. We never have sex and in the two years of being together, I’ve not once made him orgasm. It’s not because I suck, because he can’t stay hard and then quits after I get off. But even those moments is less than 10. He has now been telling me that I have no self esteem anymore and that I’m not confident. He is so focused on “getting me better” than even addressing his issue. I’m so so frustrated I want to cry because I feel like I’m crazy but I know I’m not.
Looking basically for advice on what I should do here and/or if anyone else experienced anything like this. Thanks guys

Hello, we are facing a dilemma. Me and my soon to be husband are getting married this summer and have booked our honeymoon just a few days after. Our daughter will be freshly one year old at the time. The vaccination will take place in Greece. Now, the dilemma.
We have two options here - either take her with ( we have booked her a spot) and chose a kid friendly hotel or leave her with her grandparents at home for a week. Honestly, my logical brain tells me it makes all the sense to leave her at her home, in care of her loving grandparents. On the other hand, we are so used to doing everything with her…she’s such a huge part of our lives and when we’re not with her for more than couple hours, we miss her intensely. I’m worried if we choose so go without her, the whole stay will feel empty and we’ll just be counting days to see her again. Then again if we do take her, we won’t relax much or enjoy the night life, late romantic dinners etc.
What would you do ?

I’ve only just recently moved out. I love it here, the independence feels amazing, the location is great, etc. I’ve been living here for a little over a month now, not without issues mind you, but nothing crazy or anything.
However, like most posts if seen here, the real problems start with my downstairs neighbor. Normally, I wouldn’t care. I’ve put up with a lot of noise when I lived with my parents, but this is a whole different beast.
My downstairs neighbor isn’t doing anything overtly offense. I’m not hearing any domestic violence down there in the middle of the night or anything like that.
He does the classic heavy stomping that I’ve seen complained about a lot on here. He’s beating the crap out of the floorboards like each one owes him money.
Whatever. It’s irritating as all hell and keeps me up at night, but what can you do? What really drives me up the wall is the fact that he seems to only be interested in doing his laundry at about 7am. On Sunday mornings.
I’ve heard my other neighbors do their laundry and it’s fine. It’s loud and obnoxious, but so’s mine. That’s why we all do it in the middle of the day if we can afford to. Except of course bricks-for-boots downstairs.
It’s made worse by the fact that the washedryer is bedroom adjacent in every apartment. While he’s doing his laundry, I’m trying to get some sleep a few feet above it, and it shakes the whole room and lasts for hours.
I think I’m slowly losing it due to the lack of sleep from this guy. Any advise? Should I try and talk to him about it, or just complain to management?

I am a 58-year-old male - culturally Greek, raised in Australia, migrated to the U.S. and have lived in NYC for over 20 years now. My parents raised my two older sisters – 9.5 years older with 3 children and 4 years older with two daughters, and myself, the only son and youngest of three, Down Under. I left my family in Australia upon moving to NYC in 2004 with my partner. It was tough leaving them behind because as dysfunctional as we were, we all loved each other.
Unfortunately, in the 8 year lead up to the pandemic – first, I lost my father to colon cancer; 2 years later my beautiful mother to vascular dementia; 2 years after that my 14 year marriage dissolved after my partner admitted he had been having an affair with a work colleague for several months; 1.5 years after that my middle sister and dear friend died from a brain aneurysm; followed by my eldest sister who died of lung cancer the following year.
I fell so ill from stress that I developed severe IBS and had to have emergency surgery. I thought I was going to die. If that wasn’t enough, I hadn’t even healed when I caught COVID; lost my job a few weeks later; and, then I managed to survived a home invasion during which I was assaulted and threatened with a knife but, somehow, I managed to get the two criminals out of my space in 7.5 minutes, without a single item stolen. I’ve been through a lot but I’ve always battled through.
My middle sister had two daughters, M1 aged 40, and M2 aged 38. Until my sister passed away in early 2018, I had a great relationship with M1. I was always there to support as she tended toward “unlucky in love” and was also diagnosed with lupus over a decade ago. Her mother and I were always solid support for her, and she would speak to me about any personal problem.
Her younger sister M2 is a very different character and was I was unable to build as strong a relationship – it was not purposeful nor deliberate. I made attempts and managed to get closer to her after she was married but she always tended to be more distant. As hard as I tried, M1 & I sensed that she somewhat resented my relationship with her older sister.
After my sister passed away suddenly aged only 56, we were all devastated. I flew in from NYC and was in Australia for 9 days for the funeral. I spent 7 of the 9 days with my brother-in-law (BIL) - a good man – and my two nieces M1 & M2. It was an emotionally draining stay, with a relentless stream of visitors to pay their respects.
I spent the other 2 days house-sitting for a dear friend which I gladly accepted to secure some peace and solitude. I slept at least 16-18 hours on each day. Upon returning to my BIL’s home for my final two days, M1 approached me and asked to speak to me outside in their back yard. She proceeded to tell me how very disappointed she was in me; that she felt I was an “absent mourner" and not supporting her in her grief in the way she expected; I was also not grieving "appropriately," and that her mother /my sister would be disappointed.
I had travelled 24 hours, in a blur, halfway across the globe to bury my sister and was now receiving bereavement advice from my niece. I told her to quit with the nonsense and that she should mourn her mother any way she likes, but she is not to tell me how I should conduct myself when I’m grieving.
Her voice quickly escalated, and she proceeded to then scream at the top of her voice about how disgusting I was that I wasn’t “there” to respect her mother; and be there for her. I reminded M1 that her mother, was also my sister and I knew her for a whole lot longer than she did. I also reminded her that staying for 7 of 9 days with her, does not constitute “being absent” in anybody’s language.
It was midnight, she continued to scream, yell, abuse me with neighbors being woken up on all sides. I stood up and decided to leave and not put up with her bullshit any longer. I walked inside and caught her sister, M2, ears to the door, listening to everything … and it made me realize they were bothin on this effort to publicly “dress me down”.
M2 proceeded to "stand with her sister" and yell at me, too. I was seriously flabbergasted by their accusations. My BIL certainly did not feel the same way and he told the girls to explain to him what their problem was!?! If there was a real problem – he should be the first to be complaining about me. Their anger and resentment was shocking, inexplicable and totally unfounded. I flew home to NYC two days later devastated not just at losing my beautiful sister - but at my nieces’ disgraceful performance.
In November 2020, I flew back to Australia to visit family for the holiday season as COVID enveloped the globe. I struggled to feel fully comfortable with my nieces, and one thing is for sure: they never apologized to me for their outburst at me less than two years prior. This time it was the festive season and I decided to stay some of the time at BIL's house. Upon arriving, I was shocked - the house was spotlessly clean, as my sister liked to keep it, and everything in the house was unchanged - everything was in the exact same spot, as the day my sister died. I was concerned, M1 was clearly struggling, not dealing with her mother’s death. Even her father, my BIL had started casually dating another woman, and I threw support behind him which he appreciated. M1, on the other hand, was vehemently against this, and refused to give her father’s new relationship her blessing.
Eventually, the inevitable happened – M1 starts to relay a story that I recognized as my own, and after a few erroneous details, I reminded her of the facts that she was actually deviating from. She literally exploded for not allowing her to relay my story… incorrectly.
Yet again, her screams and anger were so loud, that I actually saw neighbors peering over their fencing. She screamed at me to leave "her house" and that I was the devil. (I need to add here that both nieces became born again Evangelical Christians.) I reminded her that the house belonged to my sister & BIL, and she had no authority over whether I stay or not.
Her screams & verbal attack, (the second one now), was so loud, aggressive, and her enraged face so red, that she looked unhinged. I went to grab a mug to make a coffee and get as far away from her as I could. As my hand reached into the cupboard for a mug, she used the cupboard door to p.a. me I saw stars.I stared at her in shock and said: "You just p.a. your mother's brother," at which she just screamed even louder
My BIL arrived shortly after and I told him that I needed to leave. I gave him the facts and then told him: "She doesn't support your new relationship - not because its "too soon" - but because she's miserable and unhappy… and she begrudges anyone their happiness - it eats away at her." She screamed at him to throw me out until he yelled "Shut up!" at her. She then called us both devils and stormed into her room.
Now, a brief focus on M2. It was summer 2017, and M2 was due in November with her second child. Her husband is American and M2 moved here from Australia and were living in the Midwest. I attempted to build a closeness with her since she was living in the US. During a call to her in July 2017, she invited me for Thanksgiving that year to be with her family, as well as see her mothemy sister and BIL who were spending several weeks there to welcome their new grandchild.
I was so excited. I even told M2 that I would stay at a nearby hotel, so as not to burden them with a newborn at home. A few weeks prior to Thanksgiving, I called to confirm my dates, etc., and without missing a beat, she proceeds to tell me that it is now all too much for her and she retracted her invitation …I was dis-invited. I sat there in silence, in shock.
I had discretely asked my sister several weeks prior, whether she would consider visiting NYC with my BIL, even for a weekend, as they were going to be with M2 for over 6 weeks and were so close!
She said to me, "Do you think we haven't thought of that? We'd love to come to come to NYC and see you. But we'll never hear the end of it from ‘you-know-who’."
So, I spent Thanksgiving on my own, with no family in NYC, less than 1.5 hours flying time away from a warm, festive house that contained M2, her family, my BIL and my dear sister.
Less than 3 months later … my sister was dead. And I never got a chance to see her one last time.
That opportunity was taken from me without so much as an "I'm sorry that I did that to you." In fact, I never received an apology from either M1 nor M2 for all the things they did to me.
When I got back to NYC from the disastrous Aussie trip, M2 refused to communicate with me any further, so I knew M1 had been in her ear about our fallout and likely never even mentioned the p.a. I contacted her and mentioned that minimally, I expected her to at least hear me out.
Her response???
"In my experience, I would describe you the same way my sister would, so I tend to believe her, and my role now is to protect my family."
I replied, "What, so your family is in danger now? From me?!"
She curtly wrote: "I wish to focus on my family, my sister, and the Lord." ...or something to that effect.
I can genuinely, authentically state that I still have no idea why they turned so viciously nasty, so vindictive, and without sounding too dramatic – so evil towards me. I have my other nieces, family, friends to back me up wholeheartedly. It was ironic to me that the two evangelicals ended up being so mean-spirited, and emotionally abusive.
I knew I had to make a big decision, so I sought the counsel of some wonderful loved ones in my inner circle, and their guidance was unanimous: walk away from the toxicity. I knew I had no other choice. I have not spoken to my two nieces for four years now.
I posted this to see if others had similar experiences, and to gather feedback as to whether I *am* the a-hole for cutting my two nieces out of my life. AITA?

Sorry for the rant, I just had to write this down as I am still feeling kinda depressed because of this interaction.
I just literally made us dinner, the entire dinner she complained about the taste, told me I am a bad cook, threw the entire meal in the sink and after I made us both some tea she asked me "why didn't you hug me today, you have being rude to me the entire day" (note that I just got back from work like 40 min before that) I told her that I literally did nothing wrong to her and she just started to complain about my speech tone and how rude it was. I was emotionally deflated and told her "okay." I got her tea and was about to leave and she actually had the audacity to ask me "where are you going? Are you not going to seat with me?" I got upset and told her "no, I won't, you are not pleasant to be around right now" She literally said to me "you can't blackmail me like that" I just said to her "sorry, you can't act like that and expect me to want to be near you right now" And she finally shut up.
I just can't with her sometimes, she always tries and excuse this mean comments as "making me a better person" but it's just feels like bullying. No one is forcing her to eat my meals, no one is forcing her to be nice to me, but to go out of her way to put the blame of the bad vibe in the house because "I am rude" just feels iffy.
Btw, anyone experienced a situation where you asked your mom if she want something (in my case, I made popcorn and asked her if she want some) and she said "no I want to eat dinner first", fair enough, I make popcorn, take it to my room and she asks me loudly, "where's my popcorn?". I told her I heard her say no, and she argued with me that she said yes and teased me that my hearing may not be that great.
Again, so sorry for the word dump, I just feel depressed I can't even relax at home while she makes these comments 🙁

When it comes to oral hygiene, having the right tools can make all the difference in maintaining a healthy and beautiful smile. Electric toothbrushes have become increasingly popular for their ability to provide a more thorough and effective clean compared to manual toothbrushes. Philips Sonicare is a well-known brand in the electric toothbrush market, offering a range of models to suit different needs and budgets. In this article, we will compare two popular models from the Philips Sonicare range - the Philips Sonicare 6100 and the Philips Sonicare 5100.
The Philips Sonicare 6100 is a premium electric toothbrush that offers a range of advanced features to help users achieve a superior clean. It comes with a sleek and modern design, featuring a slim handle and a built-in pressure sensor that alerts users when they are brushing too hard. This can help prevent damage to the gums and enamel, ensuring a gentle yet effective clean every time. The 6100 also comes with three brushing modes - clean, white, and gum care - allowing users to customize their brushing experience based on their specific oral health needs.
In addition, the Philips Sonicare 6100 comes with a built-in timer that ensures users brush for the recommended two minutes, as well as a quadpacer that alerts users to switch to a different quadrant of the mouth every 30 seconds. This helps ensure that all areas of the mouth receive equal attention and thorough cleaning. The 6100 also comes with a travel case and a rechargeable battery that lasts up to two weeks on a single charge, making it a convenient option for those who are always on the go.
On the other hand, the Philips Sonicare 5100 is a more budget-friendly option that still offers many of the same features as the 6100. It also comes with a pressure sensor, a built-in timer, and a quadpacer to ensure a thorough clean. However, the 5100 only offers two brushing modes - clean and white - and does not come with a gum care mode like the 6100. Additionally, the battery life on the 5100 is slightly shorter, lasting up to two weeks on a single charge.
While the Philips Sonicare 6100 and 5100 are both excellent electric toothbrushes, there are some key differences between the two that may influence which model is the best fit for you. The 6100 is ideal for those who are looking for a more customizable brushing experience with the option of a gum care mode, while the 5100 is a great option for those who are looking for a budget-friendly electric toothbrush that still offers advanced features.
In terms of performance, both the Philips Sonicare 6100 and 5100 are highly effective at removing plaque and improving overall oral health. The patented sonic technology used in both models creates powerful yet gentle vibrations that help to break up plaque and bacteria, leaving teeth feeling clean and fresh. Users of both models have reported noticeable improvements in their oral health, including reduced plaque buildup, whiter teeth, and healthier gums.
When it comes to design and usability, the Philips Sonicare 6100 and 5100 both have sleek and modern designs that are comfortable to hold and easy to use. The built-in pressure sensor on both models is a useful feature that helps prevent overbrushing and potential damage to the gums and enamel. The timers and quadpacers on both models are also helpful tools that ensure users brush for the recommended amount of time and pay equal attention to all areas of the mouth.
In terms of battery life, the Philips Sonicare 6100 and 5100 both offer impressive performance. The rechargeable batteries in both models last up to two weeks on a single charge, making them convenient options for those who travel frequently or have busy schedules. The travel cases that come with both models are also a nice touch, allowing users to easily take their electric toothbrush with them wherever they go.
Overall, the Philips Sonicare 6100 and 5100 are both excellent electric toothbrushes that offer advanced features to help users achieve a superior clean. The 6100 is a premium option with a more customizable brushing experience, while the 5100 is a budget-friendly option that still offers many of the same features. Ultimately, the best choice between the two models will depend on your specific oral health needs and budget. Whichever model you choose, you can rest assured that you are investing in a high-quality electric toothbrush that will help you achieve a healthier and more beautiful smile.

I’m an 18 year old autistic girl who became suicidal at the age of 9 until December of 2023. 9 years of my life, I had little appreciation for life. At 16 years old I developed an eating disorder which became extremely bad at 17 years old as I developed bulimia and became underweight. Since year 12 I’ve relied on dating and my eating disorder to give me dopamine and distraction from real life. I don’t have the best life ever, I was raised in a broken family, I’m homeless and have been in a temporary home for almost a year, I’m really lonely but I have friends, I feel quite a disconnect from people even family members excluding a select “exceptions”. I have a body count of 1 and have made out with around 35+ people (I lost count), nobody perceives me as a whore but I’m always dating someone new. But I’m never the problem, I always want to give people my everything but guys disguise themselves as these great people and then somewhere along the line they treat me awfully. So in February after I dumped a guy who wasn’t treating me how I wanted, I focused on myself and going to gym. When I finish with the gym I end up sleeping for the entire day because I’ve never been an energetic person which led to me quitting during exam season to focus on studying. In general I was happy focusing on myself. Then one day my guy best friend who would constantly objectify me started kissing me and touching me without warning when I was drunk and it’s my biggest regret. I struggle to say no so it’s my fault, I should’ve made the boundary clear. But I had a hatred for him building up overtime so my friend and I dropped him. I was happy alone but I missed having a guy to distract me and give me dopamine so I started talking to a guy who I was extremely attracted to and treated me perfectly, I genuinely believed we were soulmates. Long story short, everything seemed perfect until he revealed that he had been lying to me about his age and was actually (almost) two years younger than me. So I dumped him because he’s literally a kid, I don’t hate him though and I miss talking to my bestfriend but I can never look past that or not feel disgusted with what he’s done even though he feels like I’m his first love. I don’t believe I was in love, knowing he’s 16 going onto 17 changed everything and I’m just glad only dated briefly. I’m currently doing my a levels, I revise everyday, I hope to do well and people expect so much out of me. Everyone has these high expectations of me, I have them for myself too. Achieving an A*AA is a must, anything else and I’ve failed myself and everyone. But since I’ve quit gym and exam season started I’ve been feeling extremely numb, angry, depressed, idk… like I kind of don’t wanna be alive anymore but I don’t actively want to die. I have no excitement. I thought about dating another guy (even though they always disappoint me) but I’d rather focus on my exams for now. I’ll probably start dating again after, but the only thing good about me is my appearance and how well I can fake being put together. My authentic self is so broken. And nobody cares about what’s under the surface, I don’t feel worthy of love but I’m trying to love myself again. Idk this was a huge tangent, part of me is just worried I might off myself since those fantasies have emerged again. Will this all end when exams are finished?

Hi, I just accepted a role as a PS but am currently doing DSP work in a group home setting until my new staff member goes through training.
I have a particular individual who touches staff nonstop. Rubs their back, touches their hair, his main thing is tickling with one hand. He’ll walk up behind staff and tickle them on their anywhere on the back, shoulder, neck, etc. I personally am not a touchy person. I have told him he can ask me for a hug but he cannot touch without asking. He was doing okay with it for about 2 months or so and started back up again. For example just today, I’ve asked him 4 times to please stop touching me and the last time I asked he shot off saying “I will not respect your boundaries” and “I will continue to keep touching you whenever I want”, says he knows he’s breaking rules but doesn’t care, threatened to stab me with a butter knife, so on and so on… how would one go about approaching this? His guardians have been made aware of this situation in the past and essentially told us that they don’t care and that’s why he’s not at home with them.
I have called our On Call PS to document the incident and locked up silverware (sharps are already locked.) Going forward though, how would one teach him to respect boundaries? I only have one staff member in the house who doesn’t mind physical contact, the other 3 and myself dont like it.
Advice within the company is slim because there have been 4 staff members that switched houses or quit because of this individual and his failure to respect other’s boundaries. He does not do this to his housemates, only staff.

IATA ???? Claire and I have been best friends for almost 7 years. we met in college while both being premed. I was able to get into medical school on my first try while she tried over 3 times without success and works in insurance now. She got engaged to her boyfriend as she was trying to apply to medical school for a 4th time. By then I was ending my second year of medical school and about to start my third year of medical school. Unfortunately, also during this time my then serious live in boyfriend(who was also a medical student) of 2 years died unexpectedly in an accident. I was devastated.
Claire was very supportive at first, but very quickly started to pull away from me and only wanted to talk to me about her wedding. She was always busy when I tried to make plans and was away during my Birthday, and even told me she could not be around me while I was grieving because she needed to keep her life going and plan a wedding and I was making her too sad. She spent this entire year preparing her wedding, I was one of the bridesmaids, and she multiple times showed concern that I was not as involved in the wedding preparations or responding to emails as quickly as she would have liked. One time while drunk during her bachelorette she called me a bitch for not responding to emails quickly, later denying she had any recollection of calling me that. I didn’t mean to not respond quickly It was a combinations of multiple things. Her sister was made of honor and I had a pretty busy 80 hrs per week schedule and could not answer 20 emails per week about approving the menu for the bachelorette dinner or if I preferred shorts versus pants Pijamas, or to choose what colors I wanted to wear. Looking back at it now it would have taken only a few seconds to respond but at the time I was so overwhelmed with school, studying for boards and my own personal grieving that responding to an email about choosing between lilac and violet for the bridesmaids dresses felt like a huge task. I made this clear to her and told her look I can’t be as involved in the planning but I would be happy to go along with anything you want or your sister chooses. Despite all of this I helped her picked her dress and went to multiple appointments with her and also Attended and paid my way to Her bachelorette. Even though I was a broke medical student. All the bridesmaids had a plus one for the wedding. I was planning on bringing my sister but she had a last minute work commitment she couldn’t get out off. Claire told me she preferred if I didn’t bring anyone she knew but didn’t invite to her wedding, but I explained to her that I was actually scared of going to her wedding alone, and at this point we had a lot of mutual friends so my options were limited. And she mostly invited other couples so most of our single friends/acquaintances were off limits. I was still grieving and I was afraid I would burst into tears. I made it clear that I was happy for her wedding but it was also very triggering since we both had started dating our respective partners at the same time and moved in together at the same etc, and while she was getting engaged I had to grieve the death of mine. She accused me of being jealous of her. I tried to explain to her it wasn’t jealousy but grief because attending a wedding was very triggering for me. She gave me the option of not attending her wedding if it was that hard. I told her that I felt I could attend if I could bring a plus one for support. Since she did not want me to bring someone she knew but didn’t invited to the wedding, I brought a very old childhood friend of mine that I had become closer with during the last year. He had reached out when he heard the news of my boyfriend passing away and for the last year had been checking on me regularly. We had always been good friends and he had gotten divorce during the same time so we started to talk often and support each other. He offered to fly in and be my plus one if I didn’t have anyone to come with (he lived across the country at that time) Claire made it clear that she was also not not happy with me having a plus one that she didn’t know and told me that I could bring him as long as I should be aware that I could not cater to my date since I had bridesmaid responsibilities that day. I assure her it would not be a problem.
I missed the rehearsal dinner the prior night because I had a medical school test that afternoon and then had to drive 5 hours to the wedding site I told her about this in advance. Didn’t make it until midnight. I woke up bright and early and went to the bridal suite. Had breakfast and hung out with the other bridesmaids for a bit. I then went back to my room to get ready and shower and this took maybe a couple of hours. When I arrive to the bridal suite she was getting her make up done and was clearly upset, she spent the entire rest of the evening upset and giving me the cold shoulder. I thought it was just nerves. The wedding ended and I headed back home and I texted her to thank her for everything etc. And also to apologize for not being as involved with the planning as I would have liked. She responded by accusing me of being jealous of her for getting married and purposely trying to sabotage her wedding. She accused me of making up a fake medical school exam and arriving to her wedding early but refusing to attend the rehearsal dinner, she also accused me of taking too long to get ready purposefully to avoid her and hanging out with my date way too much instead of the bridal party. She then Told me I used her wedding as an excuse to have a fling instead of focusing on her. And she then told me I had a lot of personal work to do and I have fucked up priorities in life.I tried to explain to her than none of those things happened and I have no idea where is getting all those conclusions , to no avail. She is no longer talking to me and blocked me from all social media. Worth to notice I have tried to reach out and nothing. And I heard from a mutual friend she did not get into medical school again and her now husband prohibit her from trying a fifth time since it was a huge financial strain and he wants to focus on having a family. AITA for not being a more involved bridesmaid and bringing a plus one or is she being unreasonable? I had never had this happened before with a friend. One of my other really close medical school friends is getting married next month and I am also a bridesmaid and I have had none of these issues with her.

I often hear moms leave their jobs to take care of their kids until they start going to school. Other than the bonding reasons, I am interested in the financial and career-related aspect of all that. So, I have some questions for those moms:

1. Do you do this if your salary is almost the amount you would normally give for daycare, so you just decide not to work anymore because it doesn't make any sense to give out so much money? In this case, you would work just to pay for daycare.
   
2. Do you quit working but make some sort of deal with your company for them to try to re-employ you again when you're done with being a stay-at-home mom?
   
3. Are you afraid that you might lose the opportunity to find a good job again due to a gap in work history? How do recruiters look at this?
   
4. Do you prefer to have more kids during that time or that they are more apart?
   
5. What do you do regarding health insurance in you're unemployed and your husband cannot put you on his plan?
   

I would appreciate any valuable advice on financial pros/cons of being a stay-at-home mom.

When it comes to oral hygiene, having a reliable and effective electric toothbrush can make all the difference in achieving a healthy and beautiful smile. Philips Sonicare is a well-known brand in the world of electric toothbrushes, offering a wide range of models to suit different needs and preferences. Two popular options are the Philips Sonicare 6100 and the Philips Sonicare 6500. In this article, we will compare the two models to help you decide which one is the best fit for you.
The Philips Sonicare 6100 is a mid-range electric toothbrush that offers a great balance of features and affordability. It comes with a sleek and modern design, featuring a slim handle and a single button for easy operation. The 6100 is equipped with Sonicare's patented sonic technology, which delivers up to 62,000 brush movements per minute for a powerful and thorough clean. This technology creates gentle microbubbles that reach deep between teeth and along the gumline to remove plaque and bacteria effectively.
The 6100 also features three cleaning modes: Clean, White, and Gum Care. The Clean mode is suitable for everyday cleaning, while the White mode is designed to remove surface stains and brighten your smile. The Gum Care mode provides a gentle massage to improve gum health and reduce inflammation. Additionally, the 6100 has a pressure sensor that alerts you if you are brushing too hard, helping to prevent damage to your teeth and gums.
On the other hand, the Philips Sonicare 6500 is a more advanced electric toothbrush that offers a wider range of features for a comprehensive oral care routine. The 6500 has a similar design to the 6100, with a slim handle and a single button for operation. However, the 6500 comes with additional features such as a tongue cleaner and a UV sanitizer for the brush heads. The tongue cleaner helps to remove bacteria and debris from the surface of your tongue, improving overall oral hygiene. The UV sanitizer kills up to 99% of bacteria on the brush heads, ensuring that they are clean and hygienic for each use.
In terms of cleaning performance, the 6500 also uses Sonicare's patented sonic technology to deliver a powerful and effective clean. It offers three cleaning modes: Clean, White, and Deep Clean. The Clean mode is suitable for everyday cleaning, while the White mode is designed to remove surface stains and brighten your smile. The Deep Clean mode provides an extended cleaning time for a thorough clean that reaches deep between teeth and along the gumline.
One of the key differences between the Philips Sonicare 6100 and the Philips Sonicare 6500 is the battery life. The 6100 has a battery life of up to two weeks on a single charge, while the 6500 has a longer battery life of up to three weeks. This means that the 6500 requires less frequent charging, making it more convenient for those who travel frequently or have a busy lifestyle.
Another difference between the two models is the included accessories. The Philips Sonicare 6500 comes with a travel case and two brush heads, while the 6100 only comes with one brush head. The travel case is convenient for storing and transporting the toothbrush, making it ideal for those who are always on the go. The extra brush heads also provide added value, as they need to be replaced every three months for optimal cleaning performance.
In terms of price, the Philips Sonicare 6100 is more affordable than the Philips Sonicare 6500. The 6100 is a great option for those who are looking for a reliable electric toothbrush with essential features at a budget-friendly price. On the other hand, the 6500 offers more advanced features and accessories for a higher price tag. Ultimately, the best choice between the two models will depend on your personal preferences and budget.
In conclusion, both the Philips Sonicare 6100 and the Philips Sonicare 6500 are excellent electric toothbrushes that offer advanced cleaning technology and features. The 6100 is a great option for those who are looking for a reliable and affordable electric toothbrush with essential features, while the 6500 is ideal for those who want a more advanced oral care routine with additional accessories. Whichever model you choose, you can be confident that you are investing in a high-quality electric toothbrush that will help you achieve a healthy and beautiful smile.

Hello, my uncle is currently in the ICU. He’s had cancer twice in the last two years, and the radiation has done a number on his throat. Last week he was admitted to the hospital because he could no longer swallow anything. Then Friday night he had a stroke and they had to do surgery twice with the second one putting a stent on his brain to prevent further clotting. The doctors say he will most likely be wheelchair bound for sometime after he’s out of the hospital and into rehab. We are still not sure about what the future looks like for him, but he currently has a house that is absolutely not hospitable. We are looking to sell the house and figure out a solution for his dog. He has no children, just me (his niece) and his sister (my aunt) and her husband. He is in his late 60s, and his dog who is currently at his house is 8 I believe. I live in an apartment so I cannot take him no matter how much I want to, and my aunt has told me she cannot handle her brothers affairs and take care of her own stuff on top of a dog. With this brief backstory, I am wondering if anybody at all has experienced a similar situation and would have any advice on what to do about his dog. I am looking for some kind soul to temporarily home this poor dog that has had experience doing so in the past. He is a very regimented and spoiled mix (bulldog, boxer, bully mix) He is very set in his ways since my uncle lets him do whatever he wants. I am afraid at the potential of him being aggressive if he’s left with someone he doesn’t know but I never know what to expect from him. His name is Rux and he is as unique as his name lol. He does not do well around other dogs since he was not socialized around other dogs. My uncle did have an old pitbull when he got Rux as a pup. Rux just doesn’t know when to leave other dogs alone and never seems to learn his lesson. (He expects to get his way always lol) I have more insight into his temperament and typical lazy and sweet demeanor if anyone has more questions. Thank you in advance <3