My partner and I have been together for 6 years. We have had multiple D-Days in that time, and the hurt has been immeasurable. Things have been better lately - for almost the past half year, he's claimed he's been committed to 100% honesty. However, I still have major problems and don't know what to do.
One of my major issues right now is that he has not been putting in the work I'm looking for from him - the work or takes to truly rebuild trust, make sustainable changes, and become a safe person for me. I feel like I've been dragging him through reconciliation work kicking and screaming, and it HURTS, nearly if not entirely as much as the betrayals in it first place. I've told him so many times and for so long that I need HIM to lead the reconciliation process - to step up - but he doesn't. (To be fair he's been much better at encouraging me to talk, and to giving me the space to do so. I just need more than that.) I feel myself starting to grow resentful from all the waiting - waiting for him to do what he says he will, waiting for him to show me he's taking this seriously, waiting for him to SHOW not TELL me that my wellbeing matters to him, waiting for any semblance of a sense of urgency, waiting to see hard work and sustainable change I can trust in.
I'm getting more and more cynical. I feel depressed and unloved and angry and hurt. It feels like I'm being betrayed every day, because every day feels like a choice he makes to not take my pain and our reconciliation seriously - like every day he decides my pain is not worthy of his effort or any inconvenience. I've already explained so many times how awful and hurtful it feels that he's apparently fine with making me wait so long.
It has felt like he does little unless our CC or I ask a million times for months and months, and then it often doesn't seem to sustain (ex. reading, journaling, etc). For 2 months now (at least) I've been asking him for more structure to our reconciliation - for a plan. What's a timeline for when I can expect important things (like when he'll start going to the men's sex addicts group he's been talking about, when he'll try to have his "why" by, etc)? What actions will he be taking (will he be read any more books, watching any videos, etc? I've already provided a list a long time ago. What frequency will he be going to IC? Will he be journaling? Re-writing an apology since he cheated again after the last? Etc?) I want to know what to expect. And I NEED him to be taking ACTION - more than just NOT doing things (not cheating on me, trying not to look at every woman as a potential partner, and not actively lying to me).
I'm SO ANGRY and so HURT and feel so UNLOVED that he still hasn't felt that doing this (making a more concrete / explicit plan) is important to him or to us (at least enough to actually do). Even when our CC asks about it each session (we see him every other week). Even though I've explained how the waiting makes me feel. I brought it up again yesterday. He said I'd have it by the end of next week. That's what he said 2 weeks ago in CC (that I'd have it in 2 weeks - i.e. I should have it already). I'm so sick of waiting.
He asked me today what he can do to show his love for me. What can I even say? I've given SO MANY direct ways to do that, and he's neglected nearly every one, or dragged them out over months or years. The way he's treated reconciliation feels like being spat on. Like he stabbed me repeatedly (cheating) while telling me he wasn't doing it and getting mad at me for saying he was stabbing me. And then instead of putting in the work to care for my wounds, it's like he waits for me to beg him for a particular disinfectant or dressing that he finally applies, just once or twice, and haphazardly, while he secretly waits for me to just stop complaining so that he doesn't actually need to change or put in real work. [Note: I don't think he's actually trying to wait until I stop complaining (at least consciously).]
He doesn't seem to realize that at this point I'm bleeding out. Not sure what will become of me, or of us, when the last of my blood is gone... and it's going fast.
Is there anything I can do to get him to GET IT? I know this talks about the negatives, but I do believe he truly loves and wants to be with me, and I love him very much too. I know he doesn't want me to be hurt. I know he's likely depressed himself, that he works a schedule that fucks with his sleep (night shift, but sometimes has to switch to day shift for single days at a time), I know being introspective and talking about / identifying his emotions don't come easily to him. I want this relationship to work of it can. I feel so freaking DISORIENTED from it because he insists I'm his everything and that he cares so much and that he'd do anything for me, and he does show me that he wants me in his life, but his actions also show me that, regardless of what he says, he apparently doesn't think doing the work is urgent or important enough to jump into. Help?

Recently bought a newish bottle of CDNIM LE expecting a harsh lemony opening everyone raves about followed by a smooth dry down. Upon opening the box and applying the fragrance I was met with what could only be described as burnt birch for the opening, middle and base notes.
Bad batch?, bad skin chemistry?, needs to macerate? (If so for how long)
Hoping to find a few people with a similar experience to figure out if I should just sell the bottle or give it another chance in a few months. I don’t mind the Smokey dry down, but a linear wood scent isn’t really my thing and some sweeter notes would be great.

Something happened a few weeks ago that just hasn’t sat right with me. My bf is 28 and I’m 24. We were out drinking all day and ended the night at a bar. He drank a little but I was pretty drunk. We were with a big group of his friends and I also brought one of my own friends along with me. My friend was having a good time and didn’t want to leave the bar. My boyfriend was tired and wanted to go home. Granted, it had been a long day. I was caught in the middle because my friend didn’t want to leave (she would be ubering separate from us, but she isn’t close with anyone else who was with us so she wouldn’t stay without me).
He kept saying he wanted to leave. To buy time, I told him just stay for 30 more minutes. 30 minutes passes and he calls an Uber. When it gets here I’m still hesitant to leave. My friend and him are basically arguing because he wants to leave and she said that me and her were both having a good time so that’s not fair. He ends up grabbing my arm and trying to pull me towards the Uber. He didn’t pull hard but it was making a scene with me crying and him tugging my arm. I just felt so stuck and not wanting to go with him and leave my friend.
Honestly, I’m really embarrassed this happened. He doesn’t hang out with my friend too often so it really hurt that he wasn’t caring about how she’s perceiving him. She was upset by the situation as well. It’s frustrating he doesn’t care what my friend thinks of him, and more frustrating he couldn’t just wait until we were all ready to leave. Im kind of mad at both of them tbh, but way more at him that he grabbed my arm and escalated the scene.
I want to know reddits thoughts. It’s still on my mind and just hasn’t sat right. I don’t know if I’m overreacting. A really similar situation happened another time where my friend wanted to meet up with me at a bar, but she got there late. Me and my boyfriend had been there for a while and he was wanting to go home. I got him to stay longer but it honestly ruined my night anyway because I again was in tears begging him to stay. I just feel so stuck between a rock and a hard place with him and my friends. I just want to please everyone but end up sacrificing myself in the process. I wish he was willing to compromise more to make me/my friends happy. And I just want my friends to like him but it feels like he doesn’t care.
TL;DR: boyfriend grabbed my arm at a bar to try to get me to leave. I was crying and it made a scene. My friend was upset by the situation.

Mary's perspective
So I'm tied to a fucking tree, though at least I'm in the shade. Hooded, panel gagged, wrapped in a white sleep sack, secured with rope. My ass, tits, and pussy exposed. Almost directly beneath my hanging boobs, two of Queen Of Mean's most junior Dommes play Spades on a fold out card table, ignoring me for the moment. Not that I'm complaining.
The filming for the episode where Saarya Rahul's clone is discovered by the Perseverance Co. has started. Yeah, I learned that bitch Lara Gupta is coming back, before I knew why.
I was actually mummified and trapped in the bondage frame on the Amazonian Ship's bridge. We're not filming a scene, QOM's crew just found it a convenient place to strap me into when they're busy and want to make sure their lowest slave stays out from underfoot. Just like in the ready room, I'm supposed to have a domme watch me all the time for my safety.
Of course, Daci is in charge of drawing up the rotation, and she assigns the youngest and most immature of Queen Of Mean's crew to watch me. No big surprise, sometimes they go to screw off with their friends, leaving me trapped alone on the set. A silent mummy with her lady parts hanging out, and her wide, desperate eyes tracking back and forth.
That's what happened the day I was reacquainted with Lara. I had been enjoying the peace and quiet of the set, I actually enjoyed not being tormented by one of QOM's sadistic Junior Dommes. Then I heard steps and laughing voices, coming from the sets back passageway. I braced myself from some sadistic cruelty from my Mistress Daci and her evil minions.
Instead I heard Mistress Daci say "You want to know where Girl Mary is, Miss Nora and I want to surprise you. Surprise, Miss Lara, here she is!" I heard an audible gasp that had to be Lara Gupta. "That's Mar-".
I hear Mistress Nora's girlish chuckle. "You said you read the release material, Lara, this is Girl Mary being her new super submissive self!" Both her and Mistress Daci giggle.
The three women walk around to regard my mummified ass from the front. To the right Mistress Daci, in her black Amazonian pilot flight suit, with red insignia and badges. She grins at me with her usual sadistic delight.
In the center Lara Rajaneesh Gupta in the flesh. I'm surprised she's not wearing the tight bootie shorts and unicorn T-shirt. She is wearing a loose fitting black T-Shirt saying "Want To Impress This Desi Girl? Whip Me Up Some Curry!" And what looks like faded store bought Levis. Most striking is her eyes. Last time her eyes were shifty and sneaky. Now they're warm and open, she actually looks saddened by my plight, and embarrassed for me.
I don't have much time to process that when I hear Mistress Nora speak. My eyes automatically track to my slender former student and current Domme. She's wearing her especially low cut Stellar Compact Navy blue jumpsuit with Commanders rank tabs.
"Girl Mary, why are you contaminating these two fine free ladies with your scummy slave gaze? Eyes down now!" Realizing my mistake, too late, my eyes dropped to the deck. I hear Daci giggle at my plight.
"Mistress Daci, why isn't there a domme to watch this slave and stop behavior like this? This is lax for such a professional crew as yours." Daci seems more serious when she says. "Miss Nora, I apologize, I fix it now." A moment later I hear her chewing ass, presumably on her phone, of the domme she assigned to watch me. I take no pleasure then that, I know the little bitch is going to take out Daci's butt chewing on my sorry slave hide.
"Miss Nora, Miss Lara, I apologize, the domme assigned to watch this subbie is on her way back here. She will be appropriately disciplined for not watching this slave." Miss Nora says "Thank you, Daci." Lara remains silent.
I hear footsteps running down the passage in a rush. Daci orders the junior domme to halt in the entrance, and unleashes another blistering tirade on her. Then she tells her to remain in place until her betters leave.
Nora says "Daci, Lara, lets forget this unpleasantness, I ordered us some curry from Miss Connor's favorite Thai Bistro! She's going to have lunch with Slave Sarah and Slave Constance at her living unit. Layla is going out to eat with a visiting uncle. We have the Ready Room to ourselves, we can eat and chat there."
Lara and Daci agree that sounds good and I hear the three ladies receding steps. Then I hear my designated Domme "Miss High and Mighty barks orders and eats with the cute little bunnies, while I have to watch your stupid ass! But that's okay...I can still get my own back!"
I feel the first stinging line of fire on my behind from her whip. Punishing my slave ass unfairly for her screw up...
A day later, I'm sandwiched between Nora on my right and Layla on my left. I'm naked, hooded, and panel gagged with my arms bindered behind my back. My nipple clamps chained to the desk, my clit leash anchored to the deck.
We're in the classroom where Constance and I were first indoc'd into QOM's crew's way of doing things. Guess I'm not even good enough to be in the ready room anymore. At least for script readings, Daci, for whom English is obviously not her first language, is absent. Layla and Nora can get really rough, but even together they're not as mean as that fucking Romanian bitch.
Today I focus, and obey their directions, keeping my gloomy slave feelings inside. My former protege and the Hispanic girl are surprisingly calm as they guide me through my part of the script.

 Opening Scene 

A mummified, helpless girl secured to a tree. Only her eyes, tits and pussy visible in her slave wrappings. The camera pulls back with her still centered. She's surrounded by a hellscape of burnt out vehicles, scorched earth, and blackened trees.
A robotic AI Voice gives a briefing:
AI briefer: At 0800 we spotted a hostage at the forward observer point guiding artillery pinning down the 6th Stellar Compact Marines Battalion. Obviously female, her identity remains unknown, although she might be one of the MIA Orbit Guard members from when this planet was initially assaulted by a combined Amazonian N'Docc" force.
This tactic was first noted when we were mopping up the surviving ground forces after the retaking of the Botany Bay colony. A captive is secured at a critical strategic point, to buy them time to do the most damage to Stellar Compact forces and slip away. They know we will eventually sacrifice the hostage, if we feel that's necessary. But they know our doctrine, that we have to do a cost benefit analysis and try to save the hostage if we can. They count on this to do the maximum damage as they retreat, if they can't turn the battle to their favor.
Unfortunately, a cost benefit analysis determined this unknown hostage could not be saved without unacceptable losses to the 6th Marines, and possibly jeopardizing the ground campaign on this world. At 0956, the determination was made to terminate the forward observer post with extreme prejudice.
A Plasma Mortar Smart Round was keyed to the coordinates and launched. ( A Holo Data link picture appears, showing the mortar in relation to the forward observer spot. A graphic represents the round launched, and a line with mathematical calculations represents its trajectory).
(The picture shifts back to the restrained slavegirl. You see shifty scrambling in the background) It appears all hostiles manning the outpost detected the launch and escaped without discernible casualties. (The hostage isn't so lucky, her desperate eyes track the flaming football descending on her position. She mmmphs and wiggles, her big breasts swaying. A moment later, in an Orange red flash she is incinerated, a death devoid of dignity bestowed on so many courageous Stellar Compact female soldiers before her).
(The view shifts with no further commentary, which would be superfluous. We see Commander Gail to the left of a large viewscreen, Rear Admiral Mendez to the right. Gail puts her head in her hands and takes a moment to gather herself.)
Mendez: Commander-Nora, I'm sorry. I know that must be hard, especially after what happened to Captain Rommie. But I need you to understand what's going on down there. There are still fierce pockets of resistance. Stellar Compact Intelligence has confirmed that the Amazonians want to take you alive and make you a Whipping Girl, whomever does it will attain greater honor than even Commander Sappho capturing poor Rommie. Is a morale tour really worth it?
Gail (Raises her head, visibly pulls together) I know the risks, but understand why you showed that to me. I don't want to die at all, especially not like that. But war entails risks. I knew that when I pounded my fist on that table, and yelled at a conclave Admirals, that I risked Dismissal or even Court Martial. I know it now, and think it's important enough to do.
Mendez: It's not just you. The media has dubbed you the "Heroine Of Botany Bay" and "The Savioress Of The Stellar Compact" you being killed, or slowly tortured as a Whipping Girl, could devastate our morale at a critical juncture, even turn the tide of the war against us again!
(Mendez takes a deep breath, pauses)
Don't get me wrong, I care about your well being Commander. I lost one of the finest female command Officers I knew on my watch. If I lost another-I don't know if I could forgive-(The normally poised Admiral casts her head down and seems to be wiping away tears).
(Nora reaches out to gently touch the Admiral's right shoulder with her left hand. Unsolicited contact with a Flag officer in peacetime can be a serious offence, depending on circumstances. In wartime, it can be a Capitol one. The Admiral's Marine Guard starts to move in on the impertinent commander. The Admiral pulls herself together and waves them off).
Mendez (Grabs Gail's hand with her right, clasps it in both hands) Nora, the first time I saw you, you seemed ready to jump behind the Cybo-Chief Warrant Officer ASSHO to escape from my gaze. Now you're a battle tested hero. You've come a long way baby."
Nora: Ma'am, I never wanted to be a hero. I don't FEEL like one. All I ever wanted to do was be an explorer. Also show a society on the verge of revoking women's rights, that we ARE as capable as men. But now that I am one, it's not about me, it's about us, the Stellar Compact as a whole. What kind of hero avoids risks when it comes to encouraging those who look to them as a role model?
Mendez (releases Gail's hand, looks stern again) Young woman, I could order you not to go ground side. (She gets a small, fond smile) an order you might choose not to obey. So I don't have to convene Court Martial proceedings, I give you permission. You be careful down there, Commander, or I will personally spank you like I used to do to my daughters!"
Gail (small smile) Ma'am, I have Chief Warrant Officer ASSHO protecting me-and Gabby-Staff Sergeant Perez and her Marines. I'd bet on them over a Regiment of N'Docc" any day!
Mendez (Stern and serious) Young lady, you may have to. Keep your head on a swivel. Dismissed.
(Nora salutes, the Admiral returns it, the meeting is over. Nora leaves the briefing room, her own Marine Guard falling in after her as she leaves).
I try to cover my chagrin, once again, "Boss Bitch" Miss Connor, makes me look pathetic and my Mistress looks awesome with her writing. I wish I'd never asked Dave to let me start this project! I'm still strapped to this tree, sweltering, with my lady parts exposed for all to see.
Lara's perspective
So "Boss Bitch" asked to meet me at 08:30 at the Ready room for a script meeting about my character. With my security badge, I could walk around unescorted, and I had the cypher lock combo to the ready room. Still when I came to the door ten minutes early, the red privacy light was on, I thought it polite to wait for Sheila.
The pretty half breed girl rolls up almost right on time, trademark fedora on head, coffee cup in hand. She sees the red light and frowns. She politely asks me to hold her cup and pounds the intercom button.
"Alright, bitches, I don't care if you're having a les orgy in there! You have 30 seconds to get dressed and wipe off the table, then I'm coming in!" She takes the coffee cup back and times it on her phone. When time's up, she punched in the combo and stormed in, with me close behind.
Her assertion of them having an orgy isn't far off. Constance is naked, kneeling and facing a chair, her arms secured with padded zip ties to each arm of the chair, panel gagged. Sarah is also naked, behind Constance, standing and with arms bindered behind her, though not muzzled. She is proudly standing facing us, smiling, her fine Asian assets on display.
I take a quick glance at Nora, in her blue jumpsuit, sitting across the table with a coffee cup in hand. Her proud smile shows how far her exotic subbie has come. Sarah knew without being told she had to proudly "present" to Sheila and I, because she was nude. I look back at the two naked girls.
Layla is on the other side of the chair from Constance in her Stellar Compact Marine Uniform, smiling like a Cheshire cat.
Our fearless leader fixes the two Dommes and the Alpha Slave with a "Start talking, ladies" gaze. Nora asks "Sarah, would you like to explain to Miss Connor what we're doing?" Sarah eagerly replies "Yes, Mistress Nora!"
The Asian girl turns to face Sheila earnestly. "We're helping Constance get in touch with her submissive and sapphic desires. I was rubbing my nipples on her back and whispering in her ear, while Mistress Layla reassured her and calmed her. This was an idea the four of us came up with together, and Constance has a safe signal, three mmmphs, if it gets too intense for her."
Sheila's attention turns from the happy, nude former Navy girl to the other sub. "Constance are you ok, and alright with all this?" Constance mmmphs "Yes, Miss Connor." She doesn't sound under duress, this is the most relaxed I've seen her.
Sheila nods. "Girls, make sure you clean up any messes you make, and no going down on each other on the table, remember we eat there. Carry on." Three clear, and one mmmphed "Yes, Miss Connor."
Sheila nods. "Lara and I will be in my office, don't hesitate to knock if you need me." Boss Bitch turns to her office and I move to follow.
"Miss Connor, Lara wait ." Nora is looking at us with a bold, devilish glint in her eye. Where is that mousy little waif I met the first time? "We're ahead of the shooting schedule, we have time, why don't you and Lara join us? Four Dommes, two subs, why not have a little fun, girls?"
Then the gleam in her eyes got even more wicked. "If one or both of you want to sub for awhile, relinquish some of your responsibility? Two hot dommes, four exotic subs, it would challenge Layla's and I's Mistress skills, and we'd all enjoy a big shower of girl come." Nora and Layla exchange looks like they're ready, even eager for that challenge.
Sheila looks intrigued, hell I'm a little intrigued and horny myself, despite what happened last time. But Sheila firmly asserts "Tempting, my little horndogs, but we're ahead because I put business first, my horny little bitches. Lara and I have a lot to do if we want to stay on schedule, so we'll have to pass. Have fun girls." Layla, Nora and Sarah look disappointed, but nod, they know who's in charge.
When Mary, Nora and Sarah "topped" me last time, Shelia helped them Domme me, of course, but never took off her clothing. Does she ever cut loose, get naked with her girls when they get really wild? If Sheila and I had a private session, who would top, and who would bottom? My pussy getting wet, I send those thoughts to horny jail. Sheila's right, we have priorities, not just the show but saving Sandy.
I wait for Sheila to sit, then politely take my seat. With her usual lack of preamble, Boss Bitch shoves a shooting script for my first new episode across her desk at me. I pick it up and page through it.
Basically, Commander Gail does a morale tour of the violently liberated colony world Persephone. The Stellar Compact has the upper hand, the Alliance fleet being driven out of the system. Fierce pockets of N'Docc" and Amazonian Warriors fight on ground side, they'd rather fight to the last cat and woman than surrender.
The Mobile Medical units are overwhelmed with military casualties, so liberated civilian casualties languish. The Red Cross, the Red Crescent and other medical NGO's are allowed on world to pick up the slack. The problem is some of them feel obligated to treat N'Docc" and Amazonian wounded. This causes sometimes enraged reactions among a recently liberated civilian population. Violent acts against aid workers who treat the enemy are common. Military authority usually looks the other way if a victim is the "enemy" or someone known to treat them. Most incidents are blamed on "Insurgents" even when they're obviously not the culprit.
During a tour of a hovel city, Gail, Assho, and their Marine Guard hear screaming. They head down a shadowy alley, and see several men trying to rape a dark skinned woman clad only in a tattered man's work shirt, the rest of her torn clothes strewn around the alleyway.
Gail yells at them to stop, and the woman takes the opportunity to flee her rapists and run to Gail, ASSHO, and their Marine Guard; cowering behind ASSHO. A moment of shock from Gail, when she sees the woman is a dead ringer for her mentor LCDR Saarya Rahul, but she composes herself.
Gail: What are you men doing to this poor woman? Hasn't the enemy done enough, bastards like you need to finish their work?
Scumbag 1: Begging pardon, miss, but this little tart is giving aid and comfort to the enemy, we's just seeing if she got some fur her own, miss.
Gail(looking disgusted) Really? You're a sick freak.
(She's about to say more when a local militia patrol shows up. They ignore the Scumbag and his two minions focusing on the girl hiding behind ASSHO).
Patrol Leader: Causing a ruckus again, you little tease? We let you off easy even though you were the Domina's body servant. You still can't keep from making difficulties.I'm taking you to lock up!
(Gail clears her throat pointedly)
Patrol Leader (Really looking at her, taken aback) Oh, sorry Commander, that this little twitch got you caught up in her troubles. If you'll just hand her over...
Gail: (looking for insignia, seeing faded Sergeant stripes) Sergeant, you will arrest these three men and take them to your lock up immediately, charge them with attempted rape!"
Patrol leader (looking shocked) Ma'am you can't be serious....
Gail: Take them into custody now, or we will. And I'll report you to the planetary Provost Marshall!
Patrol Leader (Looking angry) Aye, Ma'am! (To the scumbags) C'mon boys. (The patrol surrounds the three men but doesn't cuff them. The patrol laughs and jokes with the scum as they saunter away).
(Gail looks disgusted, but then turns to help ASSHO tend to the sobbing girl who is a double of her mentor).
I look up. "Your usual top notch work, Sheila, Ari will believe we're not just phoning it in. Trust me."
Sheila looks at me soberly "I do. Now let's start talking about freeing my sister....
I nod. "So my initial plan is to simply purchase her...

Give you what you want from me, because it does hurt me knowing that when you see my name and iMessage light up your phone screen, you most likely aggressively swipe the message away, angrily grunt, roll your eyes, sigh in frustration or maybe everything. And as much as it hurts me envisioning you doing this when once in another life you used to crave talking to me, beg talking to me and blow my phone up (in a cute way, not possessive) so you could talk to me because you missed me and I was taking too long or got distracted… now it’s so easy for you to go days, weeks, months without a word to me… but I can also imagine deep down it just hurt still in multiple ways for you to keep me the furthest away from you as possible and out of your life and reject my cries each and every time.
You told me you resented me, yet I know you still care about my general well being, just from a distance however. You’ll never display that kind of care to my face or up close and personal ever again. When you resent someone, that’s not something you typically get over for a long, long time. And that’s even if you do at all. It’s not that I can’t accept the fact that this is our fate, my heart doesn’t want to accept it for ✨my own✨ selfish reasons. Even though I know I should. I want to let you go, because honestly it speaks volumes when someone devotes this much love and effort into fixing their wrongs in the relationship and doing anything they possibly can to try to bring two people back together that (I foolishly assumed loved each other and wanted a future together) back in each others embraces, only to be met with unrequited feelings, silence, and cowardly discarding. You took everything from me and felt no remorse doing it, and then not even two months after our 4.5 year relationship, you were being physical with other women. And here I am, almost 7 months later still devoted to you and only you.
To be honest… I don’t even know if you deserve an “I’m sorry” anymore… but I do want to give you want you want, for you, and for me.

Disclaimer: Posting it in multiple threads just to get opinions/ thoughts about it.
This has been something that has been bothering me ever since I gave birth to my first child. Background, I have 2 sisters, we're all in our late 20s/ early 30s and we're asian.
I've always known that my sisters were not "kids" people. They are more "dog" people and are the kind of people that would often posts stuff about kids being annoying/ how people should have dogs over kids etc. They feel like their dogs are their kids and would get upset when my parents prioritise their "human grandchildren" over their "fur grandchildren".
I've always been on the fence, and after getting married decided to have kids because my husband and I wanted "to see what we were missing out on". Long story short, we love parenthood and love our kids, but my sisters' snarky comments about my kids (e.g. when my kid has a meltdown at dinner they will be visibly annoyed and make comments about the pitch of their cries when they own dogs have loud barks and the whole neighbourhood hears them/ when I bring my toddler for family dinners they will make snark remarks that there's a new "competitor" at the dinner table and they have to order to cater to his "adult-like" appetite) and their constant exclusion of my from family activities (e.g. planning their own mothe Father's Day celebration, planning family holidays without extending the invitation to me and often me just finding out about it just before my parents fly off) makes me really upset and feel really alone in this family. My parents are caught in the middle because they feel like taking a stand will just cause my sisters to cut off from them, and they're trying their best to be "fair" to them.
I've never confronted my sisters about it but there were a few instances when they accidentally let slip about their plans they'll just brush it off and go "Yeah we didn't ask you cause it's so troublesome to plan with kids around." or something alone the lines.
When I was planning for my "confinement" after giving birth to my last kid, my parents volunteered their place for my family to stay so they could help out with child taking and my meals (bless their heart). However, at the last minute my mum had to pull me aside to say she had to retract the offer because my sister who was staying with them did not give her blessings and told my mum that she did not want to stay in the same house as two crying babies (also must note that my parent's place aint small it's a few thousand square feet of living space). Needless to say, I left the conversation immediately after finding out and cried so badly because I just felt like my parents were prioritising her over me and their grandchildren. It just made me feel really unworthy because even with two children in tow they still felt like she was more important than us.
I've never had a space to really internalise my feelings. A part of me feels like maybe this is just me feeling "entitled" and playing the victim to myself, but another part of me also question if being treated like that is "normal"? The asian culture is very collective in nature, and seeing my friends whose family embraces their children and how everyone comes together because of the kids also makes me feel bad for my own children because I know they'll never have that kind of love from their aunties. My sisters also constantly do not cut corners with my children (ie hold them to the same standards as adults) and will make comments like "They need to know not everyone will always give in to them/ say yes to them. I'm just showing them from early on." When I say cut corners I mean even things as simple as, if my child gets too excited around their dogs their first instinct is to just berate them in front of everyone. Or if my child wants the last piece of chicken and asks for it (We told him he has to do it otherwise it'd be rude) they'll say "I want it too" and take it from him.
I'm at the point where I sometimes dread family dinners where my parents try to organise something for ALL of us because I just don't want to see their faces when they see my kids, or subject my kids to an environment like that.
I also want to know if there are others who are in a similar situation as me and if:

• I'm the one overthinking it
• If you've done anything to make the situation better? For now I just cannot help but feel my children are a point of tension and uneasiness but at the same time how do I change that? I cannot just leave my kids behind or just will them away?
• Anyone has any insights to what my sisters are thinking? I did consider talking to them about it but growing up there has been family history and I don't know if I have the capacity to open the Pandora's box on that. I also don't think I am equipped to handle it right should any emotions surface from me asking so am choosing to just avoid the conversation.

This is the weekly translation status update thread. Use this thread to discuss translation news, issues, titles you're looking forward to, etc.
Note: This is simply a mirror from 4chan's weekly thread on the /jp/ board. All credit goes to the user VNTS there. Entries in Bold have had changes since last week
Fan Translations

• 12RIVEN -the Ψcliminal of integral- - 42% translated
  
• Aikano ~Yukizora no Triangle~ - Common Route translated
  
• Aiyoku No Eustia - In progress 100% TL patch leaked, project to continue, 100% Translated/edited/TLC
  
• Akatsuki no Goei ~Principal-tachi no Kyuujitsu~ - 100% translated and edited, 70.11% through QA
  
• Akatsuki no Goei ~Tsumibukaki Shuumatsuron~ - 100% translated, 42,368 lines edited (69.69%), 4,793 (7.88%) through QA
  
• Axanael - "Overwhelming majority" of the text translated, including the main story, some side content remains, in need of editing
  
• CHAOS;HEAD Love Chu Chu! - 70.54% translated, 22.70% edited
  
• CHAOS;CHILD Love Chu Chu!! - 100% translated, 55.30% edited
  
• Chicchakunai Mon - 100% translated and 39.5% edited
  
• Chusingura 46+1 - 36843/82770 (44.51%) lines translated, Kuranosuke route partial patch released
  
• Deatte 5-fun wa Ore no Mono! Jikan Teishi to Atropos - Common Route patch released
  
• Dragon Knight 4 - 60% translated, playtesting also ongoing
  
• Fate/Stay Night - Partial patch released with a new translation for Fate/UBW/9 days of HF
  
• Enrenchuu no Toshishita Kanojo ga Onna ni Ueta Osuzaru-domo no Gakuen de Koubi Aite ni Sareteta. - 10% translated
  
• Haruka na Sora - Sora and Yahiro routes translated, Kozue 75% translated, Sora 90% edited
  
• Honoo no Haramase Oppai Nyuu Doukyuusei ~Oppai mo Haramase! New Class Zen'in Harama-sensation!~ - Picked up, porting to Ren'Py
  
• If My Heart Had Wings: Snow Presents - 100% translated, 100% edited
  
• Jisatsu no Tame no 101 no Houhou - 17% translated
  
• Junketsu Megami-Sama - 2nd Alpha patch released, Astarotte route finishing up
  
• Kaseki no Uta - 100% translated, 4770/15389 (31%) edited
  
• Ken ga Kimi - 58% translated
  
• Koukan no Toriko-Tachi - Prologue, common, and Cuckold Play route translated, Swinging Route 35%, Yukari POV 40%
  
• Kud Wafter AA Version - 23,835/31,579 (75.5%) Lines translated, 18+ Version 19,240 / 33,113 (58.1) lines translated
  
• Kusarihime ~Euthanasia~ - Translation finished, fully edited
  
• Lover Able - 100% translated and edited, 9419/32258 lines approved (29.47%)
  
• Lucky Star ~Ryouou Gakuen Outousai~ - episode 1 patch released
  
• Maji de Watashi ni Koishinasai! A - Ryouken Route After - 2,647/3,494 (75.76%) lines translated
  
• Maji de Watashi ni Koishinasai! A Plus Disk - Preparing files
  
• Manakashi no Yuri wa Akaku Somaru - 66% translated
  
• Miagete Goran, Yozora no Hoshi o - 1 of 4 routes translation finished for the restoration patch, Houkiboshi Hika 2 of 4 H-scenes translated
  
• Miagete Goran, Yozora no Hoshi o: Interstellar Focus - 100% translated, 89.6% edited
  
• Nursery Rhyme - 100% translated and edited, text insertion 100% complete, testing ongoing
  
• Pure Pure - 100% translated, needs proofreading, partial patch released, all routes have been inserted
  
• Sakura no Uta - Chapter I 30% translated
  
• Sakura Wars 2 - Demo patch released, ADV, Battle, and "Long Day in the Theater" mode fully translated, disc 1 text inserted
  
• Sen no Hatou, Tsukisome no Kouki - Both original and fan disc 100% translated, in need of editing
  
• Shirotsume Yubiwa - 100% translated, 50% beta patch released
  
• Shizuku - 120/197 script files translated, 20/197 edited
  
• Taima Seiko Alice - 45% translated, 35% edited, 35% proofread, 1st partial patch out
  
• Tenshi no Inai 12-gatsu - 100% translated, Editing ongoing
  
• To Heart - 720/993 scripts translated, 200/993 edited
  
• Tokimeki Memorial 2 - Being translated
  
• Tokimeki Memorial Girls Side 4 - 55% translated
  
• Tsui no Sora Remake - 100% translated and edited, finalization progressing
  
• Umi kara Kuru Mono - 91/138 scripts translated
  
• Ushinawareta Mirai o Motomete - 23243/35416 (65.6%) lines translated
  
• Yosuga no Sora - Translation finished, editing and TLC ongoing, Total: TL 100% TLC 71% ED 55%, Common/Kazuha/Motoka/Sora routes fully edited
  

Official work
MangaGamer

• The Pillagers of Raillore - Out of Beta
  
• Ciconia - Phase 1 Released
  
• Hadaka Shitsuji fandisc - Picked up
  
• Rance 03 - 79% translated, 41% edited
  
• Rance X - 94% translated, 5% edited
  
• Luckydog1 - 100% translated and edited
  
• Funbag Fantasy 4 - 84% translated, 80% edited
  
• Eve of the 12th Month - 100% translated and 88% edited
  
• DEAD DAYS - 100% translated and edited
  
• Beat Valkyrie Ixseal - 88% translated and 81% edited
  
• Welcome to a Sexy, Open World - 98% translated and 90% edited
  

JAST

• Sumaga- Slow progress ongoing
  
• Katahane - Progress being made again
  
• Django - Not actively making progress
  
• Tokyo Hero Project - Translation finished, dealing with bugs
  
• Machine Child - Still being developed
  
• Yomegami: My Sweet Goddess - 100% translated
  
• Yamizome Liberator - Picked up
  
• Mojika: Truth Rears Its Ugly Head - Picked up
  
• Djibril - 100% translated, in editing
  
• Sisters: Last Day of Summer - June 3rd release
  
• Masquerade: Hell Academy - Through 1st QA pass, in 2nd QA pass
  

Age titles

• Kiminozo - Aiming for a Summer 2024 release

Sekai/Denpa

• Happy Saint Sheol - 100% edited, 40% QA, Demo released
  
• Harumade Kururu - Waiting on build
  
• Rewrite+ Harvest Festa - 100% translated, 40% edited, Steam page up, 2024 release
  
• Subete no Koi ni, Hanabata o. - 50% translated
  
• Sumire - Picked up
  
• Sanarara R - 100% translated and edited, waiting on build
  
• Glass - Picked up
  
• New Glass - Picked up
  
• Karakara 3 - 100% translated and edited, 70% engine work
  
• Yume to Iro de Dekiteiru - 100% translated, 35% edited
  
• Zutto Mae Kara Joshi Deshita - 100% translated, in editing
  
• Chiisana Kanojo no Serenade - 75% translated, 35% edited
  
• A Maiden's Serenade - In Editing
  
• Hoshizora e Kakaru Hashi - 10% translated
  
• Hoshizora e Kakaru Hashi AA - Announced
  
• Akaneiro ni Somaru Saka - 50% translated
  
• Hamidashi Creative - Announced
  
• Inupara - In Development
  
• Nekopara After La Vraie Familie - In Development
  
• Raspberry Cube - Announced
  
• NEKO-NIN exHeart SPIN - in QA Testing, 2024 release
  
• Wagamama High Spec OC - In Translation
  

VisualArts

• planetarian ~Snow Globe~ - June 27th release
  
• Summer Pockets Reflection Blue - 2024 release
  
• Kanon - Announced
  

Nekonyan

• Dracu Riot - Waiting on Build, Release date announcement on hold until after Angel Chaos
  
• Melty Moment - 80% translated
  
• Fureraba Complete edition - Vita exclusive content to be added to Fureraba a couple months after the fandisc release
  
• Floral Flowlove - 100% translated, 70% edited, enging port ongoing
  
• Kakenuke Seishun Sparking - 80% translated, 70% edited, QA started
  
• Love, Elections, & Chocolate -100% translated and edited, Engine port nearly finished, entering QA shortly
  
• Love Love Love, Burning in my Heart! - 100% translated and 74% edited
  
• Ready or Not: The Deadline is Coming! - 100% translated, 99% edited, waiting on build
  
• Mysteries of the Heart: The Psychic Detective Case Files - 100% translated and edited, engine work in progress
  
• Angel Chaos RE-BOOT! - Delayed after Steam rejection
  
• Secret Project 2 - 100% translated and edited, queued for Unity port
  
• Secret Project 3 - 100% translated and edited, 50% though QA
  

PQube

• SINce Memories: Off the Starry Sky - Announced
  
• Gensou Manège - Announced
  

Dualtail

• Venus Blood Ragnarok - Kickstarter starting May 22nd

Frontwing

• Sharin no Kuni - Working to resolve remaining issues
  
• Lilja and Natsuka: Painting Lies - July 25th release
  
• Everlasting Flowers - August 29th release date
  
• Revue Starlight El Dorado - August 8th release
  

Fakku

• Two Beasts Or Not To Beast!! - 2.0 version, editing in progress
  
• Forbidden Ward - In Pre-Production
  

Saikey Studios (mix of official/unofficial)

• The Reason For Your Smile - Steam page up, Happy and NTR routes translated
  
• Toaru Hahaoya no Ayamachi ~Yukari Hen~ - 50% translated
  

HyoukanOpera

• Knight Case Files - Trial released, upcoming release

MAGES. GAMES

• Corpse Party II - Darkness Distortion - 2024 release

Voltage Inc.

• Project Code Kaleido Tower - 2024 release
  
• Project Code Neon Mafia - 2024 release
  
• Project Code Vampire Hunter - 2025 release
  

Aksys

• Radiant Tale -Fanfare- - June 27th release
  
• Tales from Toyotoki: Arrival of the Witch - Summer release
  
• Virche Evermore -EpiC: Lycoris- - Fall release
  
• Despera Drops - 2025 release
  

B-cluster

• Re;quartz Raid- 2024 release

MediBang Inc.-

• Cocktail Magic - Upcoming release

Kamitsubaki Studio

• KAMITSUBAKI CITY REGENERATE - Upcoming release

Dayu Zixun

• Voice Love on Air - Upcoming release

Shiravune

• NYO-NIN-JIMA -My New Life in Charge of a Tropical Island- - 2024 release
  
• An Aunt After My Own Heart - 2024 release, rejected by Steam
  
• Kara no Shoujo III - Announced
  
• Destiny Star Girlfriend 2 - Q2 2024 release
  
• Real Hentai Situation! 2 - 2024 release
  
• Sacrifice Villains - Announced
  
• AMANATSU ~Perfect Edition~ - Released
  

Dramatic Create

• The Town of Nie - September 19th release
  
• Meiji Tokyo Renka Full Moon - 2024 release
  
• Steam Prison Beyond the Steam - 2024 release
  
• Nie no Machi -Iro Musubi- - 2025 release
  

Kagura Games

• Yoru ga Kuru! -Square of the Moon- Remastered - 2024 release
  
• Forsaken Quartet - Released
  
• Angel Tear: Goddess Betrayed - Upcoming release
  

Aniplex

• Tsukihime -A piece of blue glass moon - June 27th release
  
• Fate/stay night REMASTERED - 2024 release
  
• Hookah Haze - 2024 release
  
• Tanetsumi no Uta - 2024 release
  

Spike Chunsoft

• The Quintessential Quintuplets: Memories of a Quintessential Summer - May 23rd release
  
• The Quintessential Quintuplets: Five Memories Spent With You - May 23rd release
  

Love Lab

• Ever Maiden - 2024 release

DLsite

• Friendly lab - unlock(); - Upcoming release
  
• Club Suicide - Picked up
  

Idea Factory

• 9 R.I.P. - Fall 2024 release
  
• Date A Live: Ren Dystopia - 2024 release
  
• Cupid Parasite: Sweet and Spicy Darling - May 28th release
  

CRAFTWORK

• Geminism - English version announced

Harukaze

• Monkeys! - English release planned

Moonchime

• Haunted Obachestra Vol.1 Awaking - Upcoming release

Alice In Dissonance

• Fault Milestone 2 - Side Below - Upcoming release

G-mode

• Shinjuku Soumei - Demo Released, May 24th release

HyoukanOpera

• Knight Case Files - January release

MiKandi Japan

• Libra of the Vampire Princess - All versions of the patches in testing

PRODUCTION PENCIL

• Paradise Cleaning! -Tutor X Hypnosis - January release

072 Project

• Princess Paradise - 2024 release

F&C

• NTR with hypnosis application - Upcoming release

Eroge Japan

• Trap Yuri Garden - June 10th release

Tensei Games

• Unfaithful Wife: Ayano's "Netorare Report" - My gentle wife is fucking another man - Q2 2024 release

GRAVITY GAME ARISE

• Tokyo Psychodemic - Demo released, May 30th release

Dark [Word I can't say due to Automod deleting my posts:(]

• Master & Succubi Hentai Lessons 2 - April release

MintLip

• Him, the Smile & Bloom - August 8th release

Cherry Kiss

• Cosplay Cumdump: Doing it Doujin Style - May 23rd release

**Umesoft

• Weekend in Waimanalo - Released

Other

• NarKarma EngineA - Announced, in development

Disclaimer: Posting it in multiple threads just to get opinions/ thoughts about it.
This has been something that has been bothering me ever since I gave birth to my first child. Background, I have 2 sisters, we're all in our late 20s/ early 30s and we're asian.
I've always known that my sisters were not "kids" people. They are more "dog" people and are the kind of people that would often posts stuff about kids being annoying/ how people should have dogs over kids etc. They feel like their dogs are their kids and would get upset when my parents prioritise their "human grandchildren" over their "fur grandchildren".
I've always been on the fence, and after getting married decided to have kids because my husband and I wanted "to see what we were missing out on". Long story short, we love parenthood and love our kids, but my sisters' snarky comments about my kids (e.g. when my kid has a meltdown at dinner they will be visibly annoyed and make comments about the pitch of their cries when they own dogs have loud barks and the whole neighbourhood hears them/ when I bring my toddler for family dinners they will make snark remarks that there's a new "competitor" at the dinner table and they have to order to cater to his "adult-like" appetite) and their constant exclusion of my from family activities (e.g. planning their own mothe Father's Day celebration, planning family holidays without extending the invitation to me and often me just finding out about it just before my parents fly off) makes me really upset and feel really alone in this family. My parents are caught in the middle because they feel like taking a stand will just cause my sisters to cut off from them, and they're trying their best to be "fair" to them.
I've never confronted my sisters about it but there were a few instances when they accidentally let slip about their plans they'll just brush it off and go "Yeah we didn't ask you cause it's so troublesome to plan with kids around." or something alone the lines.
When I was planning for my "confinement" after giving birth to my last kid, my parents volunteered their place for my family to stay so they could help out with child taking and my meals (bless their heart). However, at the last minute my mum had to pull me aside to say she had to retract the offer because my sister who was staying with them did not give her blessings and told my mum that she did not want to stay in the same house as two crying babies (also must note that my parent's place aint small it's a few thousand square feet of living space). Needless to say, I left the conversation immediately after finding out and cried so badly because I just felt like my parents were prioritising her over me and their grandchildren. It just made me feel really unworthy because even with two children in tow they still felt like she was more important than us.
I've never had a space to really internalise my feelings. A part of me feels like maybe this is just me feeling "entitled" and playing the victim to myself, but another part of me also question if being treated like that is "normal"? The asian culture is very collective in nature, and seeing my friends whose family embraces their children and how everyone comes together because of the kids also makes me feel bad for my own children because I know they'll never have that kind of love from their aunties. My sisters also constantly do not cut corners with my children (ie hold them to the same standards as adults) and will make comments like "They need to know not everyone will always give in to them/ say yes to them. I'm just showing them from early on." When I say cut corners I mean even things as simple as, if my child gets too excited around their dogs their first instinct is to just berate them in front of everyone. Or if my child wants the last piece of chicken and asks for it (We told him he has to do it otherwise it'd be rude) they'll say "I want it too" and take it from him.
I'm at the point where I sometimes dread family dinners where my parents try to organise something for ALL of us because I just don't want to see their faces when they see my kids, or subject my kids to an environment like that.
I also want to know if there are others who are in a similar situation as me and if: - I'm the one overthinking it - If you've done anything to make the situation better? For now I just cannot help but feel my children are a point of tension and uneasiness but at the same time how do I change that? I cannot just leave my kids behind or just will them away?

• Anyone has any insights to what my sisters are thinking? I did consider talking to them about it but growing up there has been family history and I don't know if I have the capacity to open the Pandora's box on that. I also don't think I am equipped to handle it right should any emotions surface from me asking so am choosing to just avoid the conversation.

Disclaimer: Posting it in multiple threads just to get opinions/ thoughts about it.
This has been something that has been bothering me ever since I gave birth to my first child. Background, I have 2 sisters, we're all in our late 20s/ early 30s and we're asian.
I've always known that my sisters were not "kids" people. They are more "dog" people and are the kind of people that would often posts stuff about kids being annoying/ how people should have dogs over kids etc. They feel like their dogs are their kids and would get upset when my parents prioritise their "human grandchildren" over their "fur grandchildren".
I've always been on the fence, and after getting married decided to have kids because my husband and I wanted "to see what we were missing out on". Long story short, we love parenthood and love our kids, but my sisters' snarky comments about my kids (e.g. when my kid has a meltdown at dinner they will be visibly annoyed and make comments about the pitch of their cries when they own dogs have loud barks and the whole neighbourhood hears them/ when I bring my toddler for family dinners they will make snark remarks that there's a new "competitor" at the dinner table and they have to order to cater to his "adult-like" appetite) and their constant exclusion of my from family activities (e.g. planning their own mothe Father's Day celebration, planning family holidays without extending the invitation to me and often me just finding out about it just before my parents fly off) makes me really upset and feel really alone in this family. My parents are caught in the middle because they feel like taking a stand will just cause my sisters to cut off from them, and they're trying their best to be "fair" to them.
I've never confronted my sisters about it but there were a few instances when they accidentally let slip about their plans they'll just brush it off and go "Yeah we didn't ask you cause it's so troublesome to plan with kids around." or something alone the lines.
When I was planning for my "confinement" after giving birth to my last kid, my parents volunteered their place for my family to stay so they could help out with child taking and my meals (bless their heart). However, at the last minute my mum had to pull me aside to say she had to retract the offer because my sister who was staying with them did not give her blessings and told my mum that she did not want to stay in the same house as two crying babies (also must note that my parent's place aint small it's a few thousand square feet of living space). Needless to say, I left the conversation immediately after finding out and cried so badly because I just felt like my parents were prioritising her over me and their grandchildren. It just made me feel really unworthy because even with two children in tow they still felt like she was more important than us.
I've never had a space to really internalise my feelings. A part of me feels like maybe this is just me feeling "entitled" and playing the victim to myself, but another part of me also question if being treated like that is "normal"? The asian culture is very collective in nature, and seeing my friends whose family embraces their children and how everyone comes together because of the kids also makes me feel bad for my own children because I know they'll never have that kind of love from their aunties. My sisters also constantly do not cut corners with my children (ie hold them to the same standards as adults) and will make comments like "They need to know not everyone will always give in to them/ say yes to them. I'm just showing them from early on." When I say cut corners I mean even things as simple as, if my child gets too excited around their dogs their first instinct is to just berate them in front of everyone. Or if my child wants the last piece of chicken and asks for it (We told him he has to do it otherwise it'd be rude) they'll say "I want it too" and take it from him.
I'm at the point where I sometimes dread family dinners where my parents try to organise something for ALL of us because I just don't want to see their faces when they see my kids, or subject my kids to an environment like that.
I also want to know if there are others who are in a similar situation as me and if: - I'm the one overthinking it - If you've done anything to make the situation better? For now I just cannot help but feel my children are a point of tension and uneasiness but at the same time how do I change that? I cannot just leave my kids behind or just will them away?

• Anyone has any insights to what my sisters are thinking? I did consider talking to them about it but growing up there has been family history and I don't know if I have the capacity to open the Pandora's box on that. I also don't think I am equipped to handle it right should any emotions surface from me asking so am choosing to just avoid the conversation.

I'm still in contact with my ex because I'm pathetic and she vents about her new boyfriend constantly. From what she tells me, the only good thing about the guy is that he's sooooo hot. That's all it takes to cheat on me and rip my heart out. She said he stinks constantly because he doesn't like to shower or brush his teeth, he's a cashier that lives with his parents, he's so high 24/7 that he literally can't talk, he doesn't respond to her texts, he flakes on their plans about 50% of the time, she has to fight with him to get him to see her 2-3 days a week even though he lives five minutes away, he's got anxiety and depression to the point that his room is filled with trash and he literally sleeps in a bed full of garbage, he spends all day playing video games and watching porn, but he's CUTE so he can come over and fuck her and pass out immediately after. That's her perfect ideal relationship that she left me for, the love of my life willingly reducing herself to a booty call for a loser.

How to proceed with scorpio men
hi, I would like to ask for advice. gemini f25
Two months ago, I met a guy who is a Scorpio at my workplace, but he works for a different office. We saw each other a few times, waved at each other and I realized that we share the same passion for cars, so one day when i saw him in the lobby, i went to him with an excuse and started a conversation. We had a 20 minutes long conversation where he told me he would love to show his car during the summer when it will be ready and then I told him I can show him mine. He opened up about how he stopped racing as prices are too high, etc. so he mentioned a few things that are personal i guess, and so did i, then we both left for work.
After our conversation i didnt really see him much, he comlimented my car once in the garage and, he replied to one insta story about a car but there was no communication at all. Here cones the weird part: I was talking outside with a friend of mine and i basically caught him eavesdropping, but it was super awkward so i pretended i didnt see him. A few days later, I was talking to a guy outside our office building who is actually my brother and I saw him again peeping behind a statue checking who I’m talking to and when I turned to him he immediately left.
A few days after these encounters, it was a Friday afternoon and I was walking back to the office building to get my car and i saw him at the red light. I was trying to ignore him at first, but then I looked at his way, and he was smiling and waving at me, i smiled back and waved back. So i texted him “you really need to show me your car now🥲” i I thought this message would be like flirty but cute reflecting on what we talked about. 2 days passed by, no reply and the minute he arrived at the office on monday he texted me back saying “i hope so” “ we will look for a time that suits us” I just like his messages a few days after.
My guess, he has a girlfriend but he kind of likes me so he doesnt wanna say like oh sorry I have a girlfriend we cannot talk, but he is also not overstepping the line.
I really like him and i have no idea what to do. Please give me advice. Thank you for taking the time to read.

We just started figuring out who sits who. We are doing round tables for 8-9 people each and a head table. Obviously my fiancé and I will be sitting at the center of the head table but who goes next to us? Easiest choice would be the parents.
The problem is: My parents are divorced, his aren’t. So obviously he would like to have his parents by his side. My parents are still on somewhat friendly terms and would be okay sitting next to each other for the sake of their daughter’s wedding but it would still feel weird. My mother has a new partner (they live together and have been a couple for some years now) and I don’t know where to put him. It would be kinda weird to put him at the head table in a honorary position. We get along but he isn’t a father figure. There are plenty of people I’d rather have by my side at the front. Also that would result in uneven numbers: 3 people next to me, 2 people next to my then husband. But if I put him on a random table I’d be splitting up a long-term couple in my seating arrangement and be putting my mum next to her ex instead of her boyfriend which also feels wrong. What would you do?

I posted this on CFB and would like to see y'alls thoughts on this
I’m a Kentucky fan. Our success under Mark Stoops in making us an adequate SEC program has led us to enter the competition of who will finish behind Georgia in the SEC East. In this group are three teams Florida, South Carolina, and Missouri.
TLDR; is a completely self-indulgent piece about UK football and how their current success has brought the question of who the rivals are now. Florida is probably not due to historical success, it’s up to them to decide. Mizzou is our coworker, not a rival. South Carolina can eat a bag of dicks.
Also Fuck Tennessee
I think I should start by defining a rivalry. The two programs need to be close enough in short-term and long-term success to draw comparisons. Games between the schools need to occur regularly and there needs to be mutual hate.
Florida for years would beat the living shit out of us. Your players had career games, and draft highlight tapes. Every fan in the Bluegrass state loathed playing you all and we never thought we would see the day the mighty Florida Gators would whimper. The best moment of the series for us was when we knocked out Tim Tebow. It’s not because we like to see players injured, but because it felt cathartic to draw blood on our god-king overlords finally. Even in that game, we lost 41-7.
Now we have won three games straight, with us blowing y’all out last year. Even though we are 4-6 in the last 10 matchups, it is usually a competitive game with huge memorable plays. We check the boxes for playing regularly and it being competitive.
Is there hate?
Stoops hates Florida. He was a defensive coach at both Miami and FSU and has always brought a different intensity to the Florida game. When Stoops won his 100th game we celebrated by frying a Gator. Kentucky fans hate Florida, but do Florida fans even think about UK?
Florida has pissed off every fan base at some point. From the stupid “two bits” chant, corny ass chomp, and them chanting “it’s great to be a Florida Gator” after every TD. There’s nothing that pours salt in the wound quite like hearing that shit in your home stadium after Jeff Badet drops a wide-open game winning TD in the to lose the game.
Florida is hated by FSU, Miami, LSU, Tennessee(fuck you btw), Alabama, and Georgia. Historically they’re a three time national champion. I feel like they view us as a momentary speed bump until they reach CFB glory again. Unfortunately for them, that’s not true. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe Florida fans hate us and view us as little brother rivals. Florida fans let me know what you think.
Missouri? I put Missouri on the list because they fit the criteria. Historically they are a better program than UK, but since joining the SEC has been on par with UK. UK has a winning record against Missouri 9-5 and there have been no true blowouts. There have been some big plays late and controversial calls. Your players don’t like us. We fans hate having to travel to Mizzou to play, not because of the atmosphere (which is great btw) it’s just Missouri. I think the best way I can summarize my feelings is through an analogy.
I play NCAA 14 dynasties to completion. I go for either 60 years or until the game starts crashing. The problem is after you win 5 national championships in a row you can get anybody you want and the game isn’t a game anymore, it’s a job of being dominant. You’re faced with a choice either leave to a new school or edit your opponents to be a challenge. Each has these perks and shortcomings. Editing is very tedious but, you only have one dream school. The tedious part with editing is you can’t just make a bunch of guys 99 and call it a day. I’m sure a couple of teams don’t need the spit shine, but you can’t play 12 of the same boring team and you need to challenge yourself. What you have to do is edit their playbooks and schemes so they play in different and fun ways but more importantly you have to find out how to stop them. You can make a mimic team (they are you but a different color, crazy, right?), or triple option no-huddle, or my favorite the anti-thesis team, or whatever you can think of. The issue is some of these teams will make you eat shit on a platter. This forces you to either to De-edit the team - like a bitch - or get good. Getting good though requires discipline, repetition, and practice. My solution was to make less talented versions of these all 99 squads to play before I hand the big showdown. Kind of like a level boss before the BBEG.
My BBEG was an antithesis team and was Kentucky's most hated Rival Louisville. I had lost to them in a couple of blowouts so, to better myself I edited Temple. I picked them because they played at the Philadelphia Eagles Stadium, and the Eagles are my favorite team. I'm quite fond of Philidelphia due to Ben Franklin and Philly Cheesesteaks. I have nothing against the real-life University of Temple, but I ended up hating the Temple game more than Louisville's game. Louisville there was a challenge I had to play perfect to win, every play had stakes. One bad read and I cost my team a national title to our arch-rival. Temple, I knew I was going to win, but it was going to be a miserable slog. Temple would not allow ANY big plays and would only allow 3-4 yards at a time if you fell behind the sticks you had to punt. Every time a run went for negative yards or a sack it was like you were Sisphyus watching your boulder roll back down the hill at the end of the day. Fortunately, their offense was dog shit and it would be a quick 3&out. I would feel no gratification from winning, only relief that it was over. I never felt animosity or hatred towards them it just felt like they were just doing their job. I would root for them against other teams. Hoping the other teams would feel the same virtual torment I endured.
Missouri is Temple. I don’t care about them. I have complete apathy towards them. I don’t expect to win against them, I expect to endure 60 minutes of football. I never expect fun to creep into the occasion. If something fun happens, I expect it to happen by accident. I don't expect anyone to see the one cool play either, you will go to the restroom, return to your seat and see a replay of it, you'll ask your friend about that play. He will say "Oh... it wasn't that exciting." A Kentucky-Missouri football game is not a football game; it is a test of one’s fandom and loyalty to the game of football. It is an endurance of football on par with an Iowa football game, there is no joy, no happiness, no pleasure just two-yard runs and punts.
I don’t consider you a rival, I consider you a coworker that Greg Sankey makes us mud wrestle in a pool at our company Christmas party for our holiday bonus. I know it’s not your fault and it’s an experience we both must suffer through to get our wife’s boyfriends a collectors edition Optimus Prime.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this Missouri fans.
Hey South Carolina, GO FUCK YOURSELF!!! I hate your venereal disease ass state, I hate your Michael Scott ass coach, and I hate Darude Sandstorm. Who the fuck listen to that and thought “People need to hear this”
I’m sorry let me backtrack.
South Carolina historically is equal to Kentucky, only recently did Steve Spurrier make them an adequate SEC program. South Carolina does lead the series 20-14. The series has been marred by memorable moments and has been defined by streaks. Flames have been stoked when Beamer first joined USC, Stoops said “You can’t just put on some sunglasses and start winning games” in response to a corny ass tik tok Beamer made. Beamer is taking that personally as he brought a different level of energy to the games. There’s been more shots and there’s more history between the two coaches than just that but to keep it short and sweet they hate each other. The teams don’t like each other. I hate them. Their fans seem to not like us either. What are we gonna call this rivalry? I'm partial to the cock fight and the winner gets a golden pair of sunglasses. Let me know what you think South Carolina fans.
Ps go fuck your sister Tennessee

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Spent like 2 hours huffing hopium-laden tinfoil on this. First couple sets of memes are just recounting the story of Jimmy from DFVs perspective.
Enjoy the foil. Gonna be a busy couple of weeks brother.
First set: ET is DFV leaving for the green planet. But he can't leave us behind so he comes back later. The rest is him lamenting having to leave, and people wanting him to come back, etc. And the talking, big big trouble if he talks POST SENATE ENQUIRY.
Second set: the Signs are the corruption. The two talking the wall Street criminals. Probably Citadel and some banks or some such, possibly relates to credit Suisse after Archegos imploded. Seeing the alien in the video is remnants of Overstock corruption, probably. The alien on the roof is our Big Brains spotting the crime happening here and now, back in 2021.
All the stuff about hanging with DFV is talking about us going to the green planet with him. If we hodl we can go too, but can we? Are we ever gonna survive? We have to be a bit crazy to pull this off.
Part 3. Goosebumps is RC showing up, bear beware, because RC is a fucking beast and you're gonna shit your naked shorts. The Kansas City shuffle and such is in relation to the interim between Jan21 and the Senate Enquiry. Probably the February $40 fuckery and March megadrop. Shawshank is DFV escaping the Senate Enquiry without prison time, but to do so he had to disappear without a trace for a while.
The Alice in Wonderland and Matrix stuff isn't us. That's DFV. That's him learning the markets corruption. That's DFV learning about DRS.
The Truman show and the bits just before are in relation to the amount of pressure they tried to apply to DFV in that time. To make him shut up, to disappear. "We can't kill him live on air", like a Boeing whistle-blower. And the crowd cheering for DFV in the bar and the bath, etc, that's us.
Part 4. SHUT UP BITCH. Yeah these are 100% meant to be played backwards. George was desperate to use the insult and couldn't, as opposed to regretting he used it if these were meant to be played forwards.
DFV talking about how we were supposed to be looking at his Twitter and using that instead of UU-SB/reddit, which was/is controlled. We're the freaks Timmy's talking about with his trumpet. The freaks who'll go through with it, because DFV can't do it alone.
Where have you been? Waiting. For this. This is all part of "the plan". He's been waiting for NOW to return. OR he's referring to us figuring out to DRS, catching him and his hints on twitter. Depends on how the later video connect up to this bit.
Final yolo update, becoming a little bit of a celebrity. People talking about him constantly, etc etc. And then RC appearing, and he loves him. RC taking over, as Thor, and then the dick memes. Chefs kiss.
Part 5: the aftermath of DFVs deep fucking in value town. People harassing him, hounding him, intimidation and coercion. All the Wall Street standards. By day he's Keith. By night he's DFV (moon night). Keith is very vulnerable, but DFV is legendary and unstoppable. Chapelle is Keith getting sick and tired of people's shit, and letting Kitty keep it real for him.
This all seems to be leading up to a big fucking game cock options exercise, at this point imo.
The scene with the upside down GME Logo, is Keith accepting that he has to come back, saying goodbye to his family and such, and going back to being DFV. Becoming degenerate again. Even if it sends him to prison, he has to be moon knight again. (That's why the Braveheart clip).
Part 6...
DFV is Chigurr. The Hedge funds begged him to stay away. Answer the phone, hedgie. It's Marge. NOTE: HEDGIE DIED BEFORE HE COULD ANSWER THE MARGIN CALL.
Dunno what the next movies called. But he's the villain, the slasher, coming to kill bears. Mention of a second, shitty fake squeeze. The requel. Probably in reference to this past week hitting $80. Shitty. Nothingburger. A real squeeze is far more brutal. Then the staying with is friend. DFV, staying with us. He's not going anywhere this time. :)
The batman meme, is him saying they're scared, and every time the price drops to ~$10, hes going to load up on shares/options. Our dark avenger will be stepping on their nuts with his whale money.
The paperwork loophole isn't us. It's the shorts. They found a loophole this past week, as usual. As stupid as the shorts seem, THEYRE VERY GOOD AT PAPERWORK. LOOPHOLES.
School spirit. The regards dancing aren't us. It's the shorts. All working in unison, together, to survive. The bear doing flips at the end and shouting YEAH! Is them. Surviving one more day. Every day, they're dancing and choreographing the whole scene to survive.
The plan, Just Up. The fighting criminals. "I need your help". DFV saying he can't do it alone. We have to regard with him. We regard with him, he is Achilles, or perhaps RC is... anyways, his Pikey reaction is him saying he's back. The AJR is effectively saying were ready to carry out the plan... "Just Up".
No infighting. "Busy couple of weeks brother." Tells us we're just getting started. Pirates meme, DFV coming back with memes. Agent K pushing the little red button is whatever the catalyst is. Tell him I'm coming, (heheh), and we're going with him, and then we ride at dawn.
Ride. At. Fucking. DAWN BITCHES!
Part 7: Shorts in a mexican standoff, Thor, God of Thunder, blows them all up before they ever get a chance to be the first to close. The image around Thor is a diamond. Diamond hands. We blow up the shorts by being Diamond hands.
"You think you're the only hero in the world?" Aka, you're not alone. There's A LOT of people and organisations actively working against the shorts with us. They're just in secret because if they get caught, Shorts will assassinate them. The music overlay is from the ending of "The Shield" TV show. We are their shield. Retail, individual investors the world over, give the good guys a platform to fight back against the corruption. And we're all running together now.
When I say run, run. Next meme, listen baby, RUN FAST FOR YOUR MOTHER. We're already running. "The dog days are over, can you hear the horses, cause here they come". Leads back to "you tell em I'm coming! And I'm bring hell with me!"
The drift. An off ramp. Then drive. We've taken a detour. And while we're here, prepare for battle, one day you'll understand. And then we pick up DFV, if the money's right ;) or perhaps it's sone other rich bastards, like John Cena?
Very next meme, green men in a world of red. GME eating the stock market. "On my challenge" "you move when I move". When GME moves, the market goes red. It's got nothing to do with DFV. That's all Jimmy baby.
The Overture. The opening to a performance. Ready Player One. We gotta go back, from 80, to 20, to go forwards. This was the Overture. This week gonna be busy brother.
GoT. The dragon, sleeping, wakes. China is a sleeping dragon. Either China crashing, Or ICAHN. Icahn closing, or Icahn going long. Or possibly copying Icahn and creating a holding company out of GME, to be revealed at earnings.
"You're still here? It's over!" The media FUD campaign after we squeeze to 1-10k and drop a bunch. "Were done when i say were done". Yeah nah, not stopping at 10k. Moon time.
Kitty awakes... to start the memes.
Not sure if DFV is saying he's Thanos, or if RC is Thanos. Either way, they've had enough of waiting. And there has most assuredly been some communication between the two.
Gonna be a busy couple of weeks brother.

I got my Facebook account unlocked in 18 May 2024, after 6 successful video selfie verifications and 4 successful ID verifications. Since the redditors here helped me a lot, I am writing this post to contribute back to this community, to shed some light that your locked account is (still?) salvageable.
NOTE: This post is only applicable to those accounts who meet the following criteria:

1. Locked out of Facebook Account (NOT SUSPENDED or DISABLED), and still has the option "Get started" to get your ID verified. If your account is either suspended or disabled, there's no choice but to go through their appeal process. If your account is hacked/compromised and got locked out, but you still have full control over your account, you can still do this too.
2. Account that doesn't use real name, but have at least 1 out of 2 information that matches with your ID: Profile Picture or Birthdate. Facebook AI bot sucks at this - they will only match your ID with your current profile picture, name, and birthdate. For those using nicknames as your Facebook name and using anime characters as profile picture (like me), you're basically screwed because there's no way your official ID will display your nickname and anime characters as your photo.
3. Not residing in US/UK/EU country. For those residing in these countries, you can still follow the instructions below, but I would suggest you to use more effective methods such as dedicated link for appeal or AG as last resort.
4. Trapped in a unlock link loop. Thought you have passed their verification? HAHA, back to square one. And please verify your identity again. (facepalm)
5. No Instagram account being linked to locked Facebook Account. If you have an active Instagram account being linked to your locked Facebook Account, there's a more effective way to do it, although you have to pay to get it solved (Yes, it's Meta Verified, but I doubt they'll be helpful in this case).

My methodologies of unlocking Facebook account are based on these two reddit posts:
By s1ngs4ngs0ng - https://www.reddit.com/facebookdisabledme/comments/1cqn9pe/comment/l4l5m6e/
By u/DeBono-san - https://www.reddit.com/facebookdisabledme/comments/1b0agc2/solved_locked_out_of_facebook_account_for_unusual/
First of all, let me tell you methods that don't work:

1. Report a Problem: You can use your alternate Facebook account or ask your friend to help you on this, but most likely your requests are going into their feedback trash and no replies will be given.
2. fb.com/hacked: Only applies when your Facebook account is hacked but not locked. Once your account is locked the system is unable to detect your account is active. You can log out and try this link, but in the end they will still ask you to log in, only to greet you with locked account screen.
3. https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/260749603972907 : This is the appeal form for disabled accounts. Only applies when your Facebook account is disabled but not locked. You can log out and try this link, but in the end they will say "unable to submit", and ask you to log in, only to greet you with locked account screen.
4. Dedicated links posted by some of the redditors: Their link may work, but only applies to those staying in US/UK/EU areas. If you try opening any of the links, you'll only be greeted with "The link is broken" screen.
5. Meta Verified: You can try this method if your account is linked to active Instagram account, but please do not bother to try this if your account is not linked. I talked to 7 human customer supports, 3 escalated the case to their "internal team", all got rejected by them saying that "there is no connection between the Meta Verified profile and the Facebook profile you are requesting for support", which is one of my biggest mistakes I had done (I'll mention it at post-account recovery section). I even got ridiculed by one of the customer support stating that "there's life beyond social media". So ya, please do not try this method.

Now, here comes the real deal. I proposed 2 methods that worked, on iOS mobile browsers with gmail account:
1st method: Video selfie. You can follow the method posted by u/s1ings4ngs0ng: https://www.reddit.com/facebookdisabledme/comments/1cqn9pe/comment/l4l5m6e/
Note: This method works if your luck is good and "Chat with Us" option is available. Remember once you have received the email, treat this as a delicate process because you can only submit the video ONCE. The bot is stupid and no mistakes are allowed. Common mistakes are: Didn't mirror the video (if your video is mirrored); Forgot to compress the video to less than 10MB (sending video via WhatsApp to yourself works FYI). If you haven't received any replies from them after 24 hours, you can assume you have failed their verification and you have to restart the whole process again.
Once you have received an email that says "You can get back into your account". Congrats, but WAIT A MINUTE. The pointers I mentioned below is extremely important.
2nd method aka the method I used and worked:

1. Request for a name change to your name following your official ID. Note that you have to do this on mobile browsers, with your locked account being logged on. You can access the name change link here: https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/1417759018475333 .Wait for 24 hours and it should tell you that your name change is successful. You stand a higher success rate if you submit your ID as well.
2. Take a photo of your official ID (eg: Passport) in landscape mode using your phone camera, in a good lighting settings. Make sure the four corners are visible and you can manually cover out info like passport number without impacting the visibility of these information: Name, birthdate, photo.
3. Wait for 24 hours, log in to Facebook in both your browsers and Facebook App. Do the ID verification process again on mobile browser. Note: DON'T DO IT on the app because it doesn't allow you to upload from photos, you can only take live photos from the app and the quality of the photos will be compromised. And use email as the method of communication, WhatsApp failed for me for some reason. After it's done, make sure that both your accounts are still logged on to the app and the browser. Do not clear any cookies or log out from the session.
4. You should receive an email that says "You can get back into your account". If not, try no.2 and no.3 after 24 hours, otherwise they might treat you as a spam bot and barred you from submitting further. If you have received the success email, congrats, but WAIT A MINUTE. The pointers I mentioned below is extremely important.

NOW, the pointer here - to prevent yourself falling into the unlock-lock loop:
Treat the unlock link as a delicate process. Do not make one mistake, once a mistake is done, you might ended up falling into the loop again. I recommended Safari as the mobile browser to use for this whole process.

1. Make sure that your account is logged on to both mobile browser and Facebook app.
2. Long press on the "Get back into your account" button and press "Copy link".
3. Paste the link into your mobile browser you used to log in with your Facebook account.
4. You should have been greeted with the screen here. If you are prompted to enter a password, or you are greeted with this instead, STOP here and wait for 24 hours for another unlock link to send to you, and repeat step 1 again.
5. If you are at the correct screen, continue the process, they will ask you to verify login information. DO NOT REMOVE any of them yet, you can do this later once you have unlocked your account.
6. Set a new password. Make sure it's a strong password and not using any of the old passwords.
7. You have unlocked your account. Hooray!

Things to do post-account recovery:

1. Update your profile picture to the real photo of yours. It sucks for those who wished to remain anonymous in social media, but with Facebook's policies and more scam accounts out there it's better to be safe than sorry.
2. Set-up 2FA authentication (and also screenshot a copy of backup codes) to secure your account further.
3. Remove hackers' info and links (if your account is compromised).
4. Link your account to active and legit Instagram account in Meta Accounts Centre. If your account got locked out again (touch-wood), at least there's accounts centre and meta verified to get your account back. Stupid me I unlink my locked account from Instagram, causing me to lose this route of getting back my account.
5. Download a copy of your information and store it somewhere (and make it a habit once a year).

Lessons learnt:

1. Never ever take account security and backups for granted. My whole misery started when someone logged into my account at 3am (GMT+8), tampered my 2FA (that's why I didn't receive 2FA notification and my google authenticator failed), and Facebook bot decided to lock me out just like that. Even though I don't use Facebook as often now, but it's still important to me and I almost lose my 14 years worth of memories and contact lists just like that. Should I have been doing security checks and backups at least once a year, all of these won't really impact me as much as it is right now.
2. Being anonymous is no longer existent in Facebook. Facebook has been infamous on purging accounts using fake names since 2013, never ever had I known that it will strike me this way by needing me to get verified using my real identity. I even suspected they wanted to purge my account because of my usage of fake names.

Final words: I hope my methods can help you in a way to get your accounts back. Getting locked out really sucks, but patience and luck might play a part in getting your accounts back.
Moderators please don't delete this post as I didn't violate any rules here. Thanks!

Hi, so I'm 20F in college and most of my life, I have only ever been sexually assaulted, raped or otherwise harassed by men throughout my life. I have never been approached by guys to be a friend or a boyfriend.
I don't wear clothes that are too revealing unless it is summer (even then I consistently wear long jeans or tights because I am insecure about my body). I dress a lot like Elena Gilbert from Vampire Diaries on regular days. A few guys say I look unapproachable. And yet, somehow, men have the ability to approach me with sexual harassment.
Is there a particular look that invites only rape/hookups and not decent men who want to be in a relationship?
It's very tiring to watch my other friends be in relationships, and I can't even pride myself on being pure/a virgin because even though I have never had consensual sex, I don't have a hymen because of rape.
I feel like I would be a good girlfriend. I can cook. I don't mind doing household chores. I'm good at sewing. I have practically no male friends and the few I have are in relationships or are like brothers to me. I avoid male physical touch. I'm practically good at everything "feminine" someone wants.
I "put myself" out there too. I dislike bars and clubs and dating apps, but I'm part of enough clubs. I'm generally friendly. I do avoid men a lot because of past experiences of men assaulting me but I do talk to men (in a male dominated field). I'm polite, quiet, laugh at their jokes no matter how bad.
Why am I not worthy of being a girlfriend and everyone else is? People keep telling me it might be a WOC in a PWI problem, but my other WOC are in relationships.
I'm also trying to curb my sense of humor so that I don't appear funny cuz I can tell that men don't like funny women.
What am I doing wrong? How do I become less rapeable and more girlfriend material? It feels tiring to only be worth rape and never actual love.
Edit: Please don't suggest stuff like "love yourself" or "right person right time". Plenty of women go through multiple wrong men all the time.

hihii ! you can call me ash and i love to talk with friends, so im looking for people willing to hang out in voice calls and just chill. i play league of legends, Minecraft, and stardew valley mostly, but i also loooove anime and many other nerdy things. pls be over 18 and under 30!! as long as you are chill and willing to talk, we will have a great time <3
some other fun facts about me: - i have a super cute cat - my hair is currently pink (soon to be purple) - i did band for 8 years and have a degree in art - my life is super crazy and i have a story for literally everything :))
disclaimer: im not looking for friends to just play with once every now and then! i really want people who i can actually talk to or at least text outside of it being about games. we dont have to actually be besties but i do want friends who are chill lol
my discord is sailor.ash if you are interested :)

My old best friend (Stacy) had a crush on a coworker of hers a year ago. She eventually got the courage to start talking to him (Josh) after thinking he was cute. They would talk for a month or two until Josh ghosted her back in September of 2022 (they’re not coworkers anymore). In May of 2023 they started talking again and I became introduced since I was Stacy’s closest friends at the time, Josh and I started being friends as well. Shortly after him and I were friends Stacy asked if I could stop talking to Josh since it made her uncomfortable because they were growing distant again . I respected her wishes and both Stacy and I stopped talking to Josh. Josh had a girlfriend back in August of 2023 and when Stacy saw she unfollowed him on insta. (Yet she re-followed him after him and his gf broke up). Then in March of 2024 Stacy and I stopped being friends since she was treating me shitty, wouldn’t put any effort into our friendship, doesn’t respect girl code, and used me for a lot of stuff. Once I confronted her about it she didn’t even try apologizing and blamed it on me, so that showed me that she didn’t care for our friendship anymore and I blocked her. Josh’s birthday was on April 29th so I wished him Happy Birthday and Him and I have been talking ever since. Now that I’m looking back Josh once asked “Stacy is wondering if you want to go out with us” and I’m now finding that suspicious because why wouldn’t Stacy ask me herself. I’m now having mixed feelings if I like him or if he likes me. Him and I have a lot in common and I would like to hangout with him yet I know that she would see us if we were to post an insta story. Stacy and I currently go to the same school while Josh doesn’t. Her and I have a lot of friends in common and classes. Stacy currently has a boyfriend for 5-6 months (ironically we both happened to like him but I told her she can have him since I didn’t want to ruin our friendship) I don’t know what would happen or how to feel abt this whole situation so I’m asking from a different perspective. Am I the asshole?

hi, I would like to ask for advice. gemini f25
Two months ago, I met a guy who is a Scorpio at my workplace, but he works for a different office. We saw each other a few times, waved at each other and I realized that we share the same passion for cars, so one day when i saw him in the lobby, i went to him with an excuse and started a conversation. We had a 20 minutes long conversation where he told me he would love to show his car during the summer when it will be ready and then I told him I can show him mine. He opened up about how he stopped racing as prices are too high, etc. so he mentioned a few things that are personal i guess, and so did i, then we both left for work.
After our conversation i didnt really see him much, he comlimented my car once in the garage and, he replied to one insta story about a car but there was no communication at all. Here cones the weird part: I was talking outside with a friend of mine and i basically caught him eavesdropping, but it was super awkward so i pretended i didnt see him. A few days later, I was talking to a guy outside our office building who is actually my brother and I saw him again peeping behind a statue checking who I’m talking to and when I turned to him he immediately left.
A few days after these encounters, it was a Friday afternoon and I was walking back to the office building to get my car and i saw him at the red light. I was trying to ignore him at first, but then I looked at his way, and he was smiling and waving at me, i smiled back and waved back. So i texted him “you really need to show me your car now🥲” i I thought this message would be like flirty but cute reflecting on what we talked about. 2 days passed by, no reply and the minute he arrived at the office on monday he texted me back saying “i hope so” “ we will look for a time that suits us” I just like his messages a few days after.
My guess, he has a girlfriend but he kind of likes me so he doesnt wanna say like oh sorry I have a girlfriend we cannot talk, but he is also not overstepping the line.
I really like him and i have no idea what to do. Please give me advice. Thank you for taking the time to read.

I (25F) clicked on when I was about 7 that I liked boys and girls, throughout my teenage years I had a few girlfriends but nothing long term. I've only been in long term relationships with men and my current boyfriend and I opened our relationship and have a girlfriend now. I'm feeling really conflicted because I have love for her, I don't mind being intimate (like it doesn't gross me out) but it also doesn't really turn me on either? I look at her as a friend more than anything else and the whole dynamic is feeling off? Could it be more that I'm not comfortable sharing my boyfriend with someone else or that I'm really just not interested in women the way I thought I was? There's so many mixed emotions and I don't think either of them are going to understand where I'm coming from because it's a shock to me as well but other than my teenage girl relationships I have nothing else to go off? Opinions and help greatly appreciated thank you 😞

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Mission Log: Day 0024

Addendum 04

Well. The jig would seem to be up, as the old folks used to say. ​
I started by dimming the north-facing windows, slowly enough to merely catch Kregorim's attention; he responded by turning his head to face them and letting his bushy eyebrows rise a bit, but generally keeping a neutral stance. Then, I animated a glowing white dot appearing on the duskward wall at roughly chest-height to my new visitor, then extending it vertically into a line, then expanding it laterally into a door. Then, I let my avatar open it 'from his side', walk through, and close it again. ​
“I'm called Joachim,” I said, animating the avatar's mouth to match my movements, along with rubbing the back of his head with his left hand. “And I have to say that that spell of yours was... an interesting experience.” ​
Kregorim nodded and offered a stiff bow. “Then we would seem to have been equal partners in the exchange,” he answered, the barest trace of a twinkle in what I could pick up of his eyes; if he had anything like a smirk under that thicket of facial hair, I couldn't detect it. “So, are there any other introductions to be made? Exchanges of oaths or demands for sacrifices, things of that nature?” ​
I chuckled, and pointed at the fabricators behind him. “Introductions, certainly. No sacrifices of baubles or blood, if that was what you expected. But I'd advise you to get some practice in making your own furniture. It'll take a bit of explaining, even if I try to trim it down.” ​
Kregorim nodded, and this time I could definitely hear a chuckle in his voice. “I would be highly disappointed were that not the case, Joachim of the mysterious outpost,” he answered. He gestured at the fabricators. “Would you mind offering a weary old scholar some assistance with these marvelous machines?” ​
I animated the avatar nodding, then waving at the walls. “You may have noticed that the chambers in which your...” the avatar coughed into one hand, then continued, “... Lord Zortemos Egenor Lignignory the Fourth has been settling have those empty frames on the walls of each room?” The avatar pointed off to one side, and a simplified version of the baseline model of the communication-screens appeared a handsbreadth away from his finger. “I can see and hear through them, and they have other functions as well, but this unit specifically includes the fullest expression of the tool.” ​
With that, I 'jumped' the avatar onto the dawnward wall of the utility room, releasing another light coughing sound to let Kregorim know where 'he' had gone. “This way, at least, I won't need to raise my voice so it carries further...” ​

Addendum 05:

Kregorim turned out to be a very quick study. I walked him through designing some new clothes, starting from the base model of a Chinese scholastic robe but incorporating a three layers of lighter fabric in something more akin to a Japanese kimono. Yes, I helped him figure out some more practical forms of undergarments, and the very concept of 'elastic' fascinated him; I left a mental note to explore 'latex' and the organic sources thereof with him at some later point. And, of course, getting to the first pair of suitable 'house slippers' presented no challenge at all. ​
Still, I satisfied his curiosity about the need for five 'magic trunks' in rather short order, and once he got into his own set of 'wondrous finery' he tossed his 'traveling robes and unmentionables' into the 'laundry' trunk. Once he'd gotten the remaining machines programmed for things like a camp-cot and bedding, a chair and writing desk and a samovar of all things, I sort of walked him through the rest of the unit's features. ​
“Quite an array of tankards,” he commented, in the kitchen. “Stocked well enough to entertain guests of a stature from Orks all the way down to Gnomes, unless I'm very much mistaken.” ​
I animated the avatar nodding. “I'll need to explain more about that, but you and the rest of the group aren't my first guests.” ​
He nodded, and turned to face the avatar; his smile was wide enough to re-arrange the forest of his facial hair. “I'll try to keep from disappointing Lord Zee overmuch on the point,” he said, then turned to face the refrigerator. “Another magic trunk?” he asked, examining it without touching it. “Wider than the others... does this one produce foodstuffs?” ​
“Not 'produce' them, as such, but it does serve as a 'cold well', of sorts. The upper section keeps things moderately cool, the lower section keeps them frozen.” ​
That got another look of wonder out of him. “You can maintain ice in there, without magic?” he asked, pulling out the freezer-drawer and confirming it for himself. “What manner of foods are these?” he went on, examining the squared, shrink-wrapped blocks and rounded tubs. ​
“Soups, meats, and vegetables, for the most part. The rounded tubs are sort of an experiment for a dessert.” ​
“I don't suppose you could allow a hungry traveler something a bit more substantial?” ​
“You skipped past the cold box,” I pointed out. “I've been experimenting with various kinds of meats as well as vegetable dishes...” ​
“Soups of some sort...?” he asked, closing the freezer-drawer and opening the refrigerator. He paused, visibly confused, before extracting one of the wrapped and sealed 'meal bowls', turning it to examine it from three different angles, then replacing it to examine another, and then another. Finally, he selected one and turned to face the avatar. “The lid has markings resembling words, but I cannot say with confidence that I comprehend them precisely,” he said. “What is meant by... 'Pasta Salad Experiment Number 8'... if you don't mind?” ​
The avatar pointed. “The silverware you'll probably want is in the second drawer from the end,” I said. “As far as your question is concerned, I have... several different kinds of farms in the spaces below the living quarters up here on the surface, and a rather large library of information from my home that permits me to make approximations of a small but growing number of food.” I added a slight blush to the avatar's cheeks. “I have no capacity to taste or smell things, at least as you or the others might, so I have no idea whether you'll find it appetizing. All I can tell you is that I have a limited stock of various spices in the cabinet just to the right of this box, which is known as a 'refrigerator' in my language. If you feel the need to repay me for my hospitality, you're welcome to help me learn the names for the spices while we talk.” ​

Addendum 06

Kregorim devoured the first salad, admitting between bites that the Lignignory family's exit from the Ducal lands to the south had been somewhat hurried and therefore their dining-experiences had been something of a gamble. “We've managed to trade for many things as we head north,” he commented. He had figured out how to get clean drinking water from the kitchen sink into an Ork-scaled flagon without much prompting, and after swallowing five mouthfuls proceeded to turn his attention to the salad. I explained the basic ingredients and principles of 'pasta', as he considered a segment of neo-rotini on his fork. He ate it, a thoughtful expression on his face, eventually dubbing it 'surprisingly flavorful'. ​
From there, I walked him through an explanation of the 'dish washer' and 'stove' before guiding him through a simple tour of the rest of the house. The bathroom intrigued him, but he expressed even greater fascination with the barbecue on the back patio, especially the 'fuel pellets' I provided in sealed bags from one of the lower shelves. ​
“Why bother with such means, when these other amazing machines can cook food with greater precision?” he asked. ​
“My function, the reason I exist, is to help people recover from disasters,” I answered, when he came back inside from admiring the stonework of the patio handrails. “If they happen to be more comfortable cooking their own food over a fire, I want to help them do so. Hence, the cookfire station out there. It's called a 'barbecue grill' in my language, by the way.” ​
“...'Your language'...” he repeated, returning to the main room and settling down into his chair with a flagon of water in his right hand. “You've also mentioned 'your home' at least once in my hearing. May I ask where you come from?” ​
Hoo, boy. The tough questions... ​
“I'm from a lot further away than you might think, to begin with,” I explained. The avatar pointed south with his right hand, in the general direction of one of the four moons glowing in the sky. “For one thing, I'm from a place with only one moon.” The avatar tapped 'his side' of the wall with the other, and an equatorial-perspective image of Earth showing North and South America along with a portion of Antarctica down at the bottom. “This is a special kind of illusion, showing details of my home from far above its surface,” I explained. ​
Kregorim's eyes widened and he took a long pull from his flagon. “Seas, forests, deserts, mountains, wintry wastelands,” he murmured, attention moving from one detail to the next, until finally he straightened up in his chair. “... None of the lands with which I have knowledge appear here,” he stated. “And I suspect that this globe's other face will reveal similar mysteries.” ​
I animated the avatar shrugging. “Likely.” ​
I considered my next words very carefully. “Since I arrived here, 24 days ago, I have watched the heavens as best I can. From what I have discerned, the local star... or your sun... is measurably different than mine. I haven't been able to pick out any local planets yet, but I can say for certain that if any of the stars in your sky are the ones my people had cataloged, they're too far away for me to positively identify as such.” ​
Kregorim took that in, eyebrows twitching, and drained his flagon dry. He took it away from his mouth with a scowl, directed at the offending drinkware, but reduced its intensity before turning back to address the avatar. “I don't suppose you've managed to produce anything like a good strong ale since you've arrived?” he asked. “Our own supplies of such things are unlikely to be fit for drinking.” ​
I animated the avatar raising an eyebrow and waggling a finger. “I've none available, alas, though I do have some rather promising teas,” I told him. “You'll need to fabricate a teapot, though.” ​
He got up and proceeded to do so. As he did, I continued, “As far as your assessment of whatever ale you've managed to carry with you, I would ask you to ask the servants to pour whatever portion of it they wish to discard into the nearest convenient sink. Hopefully, you'll be able to get the word to them before they reach that stage of unloading.” ​
The avatar flicked the image of Earth away, then tapped 'his side' of the wall four more times. With each one, a new visual-window opened: one displaying the view just outside the foyer, another the main stairwell from the camera on the half-step just above the second-floor landing, the third the first-floor walkway (identifiable as such by the view of Lord Zee bustling in and out of the doorway to 'his' quarters, giving directions to the flow of 'servants') and the final one the view of the ground-floor walkway. ​
Up among the caravan, Thusarrel acted as a kind of traffic-director, guiding groups of servants with gestures and shouts to one wagon after another, in an order that made no particular sense to me. The 'flackaroos' stayed in the center, managed by three ragged-looking folk who seemed to know what they were doing; they also hurried to rake up any droppings as quickly as possible, out of the foot-traffic of the flow of servants carrying as mismatched a collection of luggage, furniture, decor and miscellany as ever came out of an estate sale. Kregorim's wagon remained mostly ignored, though the stair-steps remained down. ​
On the main staircase, Adallinda and Pippa made their way downward, the 'lady' scowling at the lines of servants passing her in both directions and flowing around her too-wide dress as smoothly as possible. Pippa guided her charge to frequent rest stops on the half-landings, sparing a moment here and there to nod back at the silent looks of gratitude from the luggage-bearing people. ​
“You're certain that my greedy brother and cousin have both gone for the chambers adjacent to my father's, Pippa?” Adallida demanded. ​
Her servant nodded once, then offered her hand to help steer the young lady back into the flow of foot-traffic. “Of course, my lady, “ she answered. “They both wish for the honor of being physically closest to your father's chosen quarters, though your other cousin and sister have likely out-raced them..." ​
On the first-floor view, from the camera opposite the service staircase and now pointing toward the lobby, I just caught a glimpse of Bhiocasaid shepherding Zoti into the second 'double unit' on the first floor, Yera and Totra actually holding the somnambulent Zoti while Bhiocasaid held off Nehdud and Haruinn as they protested the two ladies staking their claim ahead of the 'more worthy young lords' of the family. ​
“We're not sharing quarters with you beasts, and that's simply that!” she shouted at them. “If you want your own choice of suitable quarters, you'd better get down to the ground-floor and claim one before Adallinda does!” ​
The boys blinked at her, then looked at each other. Nehdud spun on his heel and raced back to the cliff-face lounge area, shoving his way through the flow of servants. I winced as I watched him making half-hearted goo-goo eyes and kissy-faces at whichever of them had obviously female shapes under their travel-rags. The female servants burdened with effects, even boxes the size of filled shopping bags that couldn't possibly require two people to hold, found themselves getting extra help to disguise both women's use of the item in question as a makeshift shield against his efforts. However slowly he was moving, though, he still made faster progress than Haruinn could possibly manage. ​
Adallinda's voice rang out from below, shrieking in triumph. Through the final view-window, Kregorim and I observed as she managed to slap her hand on the not-glass biometric scanner next to the door to the lower double-unit, Pippa now holding the sweating lady up and maneuvering her through the door, a line of six servants carrying baggage behind them. ​
Nehdud pushed through the line of servants to stand in front of the handrail, slamming his fist on the stone with one hand and snarling. Then he turned to look at Haruinn, noting his near-complete lack of movement, and his rage turned to a grin. He waved at his rival for the remaining double-suite, then resumed his efforts to force his way through the flows of servants. ​
Haruinn clenched his fists, until Midmolk pointed at the 'service stairway' just next to the now-claimed double-unit. “Their position matches something similar on the door below, master,” he pointed out. ​
Haruinn nodded, clanking his way to them at best possible speed, Midmolk following with the tower-shield. The Lignignory male slapped his hand on the palm-scanner; I granted him temporary access, mostly because I wanted to see if he could possibly beat that smarmy Nehdud if he had a clearer path. The young man succeeded in surprising me by gesturing at Midmolk, who handed him the tower-shield. He proceeded to ride it down the two half-flights of stairs like a sled, scraping the heck out of the finish and arriving at the ground-floor before Nehdud made it all the way through the lobby. ​
Haruinn pushed himself to his apparent limit, huffing and red-faced, as he quick-marched with all of that extra metal on his front to reach the palm-scanner and slap his hand on it. ​
Just as Nehdud threw open the door from the ground-floor lobby to see him do it. ​
The knife-burdened man strode into his doorway while Nehdud sank to his knees with a frustrated scream. ​
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