Hens party bachelorette party invitation wording

I'm not sure if this is the best thread to post on but I'm still new to this.
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My husband (turning 33) and wants to have 40+ people over to our small home for the 4th year in a row. Every year so far it's been very overwhelming for me since he goes golfing and then I'm just home prepping all the food for the 40+ guests. It's exhausting and I'm more introverted so on top of prepping I'm stressing about hosting that many people at our small house.
This year is a little different too because we had our first baby in 2023 and she will be 9 months by the time of his 33rd birthday party he wants to host and I'm a new SAHM (stay at home mom) so we are living off one paycheck because childcare near us is double our mortgage.
It was my 30th this year and we kept it super lowkey because the prior weekend he was on a golf trip and the weekend after we had an out of state wedding we had to fly for. Idk I'm feeling overwhelmed too because since 2020 we've had weddings, bachelorettes, bachelor parties, bridal and baby showers, our own wedding and the birth of our baby and even this year we have 6 wedding and barely any free weekends and it's only May. I also have hypothyroidism that is stress induced that I've been managing since 2022.
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Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this? Does anyone throw huge birthday parties that aren't milestone birthdays anymore?
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TLDR; my husband wants to host a huge birthday party at our house, that he says I don't have to plan but every year I end doing everything and we had a baby and I'm a new SAHM and don't want to host that many people and I've expressed this to him. I'm overwhelmed.

I don't use Spotify, Netflix, HBO or any other paid subscription service. If I see a trailer for a show I like or hear a song I like, I buy it as a single. For shows either Blue Rays or DVDs and music either in digital download or physical CDs. I like to 'own' my copies. I know the rights don't belong to me but having to rely on a greedy ass company to maintain your media collection feels extremely uncomfortable. If the service goes down, there goes everything I have collected. Same logic can be applied to video games as well. If I have to rely on my games (not counting MMOs / online games) being in some cloud service, it takes away the feeling of actually owning your video games. People have become too lazy and thus fallen prey to mass media orgs that take away your ability to own your media. Same goes for any software like Photoshop. When they go cloud-only, I stop buying, and instead just crack the software if need be lol. More people should do this. It's not hard.
I also use a lot of "third party" streaming sites that host 99% of all shows and movies, we all know what those are. They're built great and don't demand you to download anything in order for them to work. No need to worry about malware either if you have at least half a brain and know how to have protection installed on your PC.
Netflix becoming more and more predatory and pretty much going back on their word in terms of sharing your account with people, gives me the ick. If there is a way to directly support the makers of the media I enjoy, I will try to do it, preferably in way that lets me get my own private copy of said media, be it music, software, games or anything else. I don't like that I have been pushed into piracy, but that is the only option I see for the time being. I remember the days where I would go and just buy the DVD boxes for the shows I liked. No longer is that an option for most media.
Honestly, I don't get it how things like Spotify etc. are able to even exist. Maybe i'm in the minority here.

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Hello reddit. I originally posted this to relationship_advice but it wouldn't let me crosspost.
Me (29F) and my boyfriend, Tom (29M) have been dating for almost 2 years. For context, we are currently long distance because of his job (he lives in LA, I live in Phoenix), but we’re closing the gap in June and he's moving back to PHX due to job opportunities.
Prior to him leaving, and throughout the year we were dating, we would get into fights about the relationship with his female best friend, Ashley (30F). And I’ll explain why:
When we started dating, he told me openly that he has a lot of female friends, and told me that he had a very close relationship with Ashley for about a year. I wasn’t bothered at first with his friendship with Ashley, and in fact, encouraged them to hang out. However, my attitude towards their dynamic changed drastically after spending time with them in group settings. I'll include specific examples below:
—When hanging out with them in group settings, Tom focused ALL his attention on Ashley and made little effort to include me in the group. I would’ve been less upset if his attention flickered between friends but he solely focused on her, which caused me to feel uncomfortable after this happened several times. This happened numerous times before our relationship became distance, and I talked to him several times without an effective resolution.
—He’d share inside jokes with her and didn’t bother to share them with me at all while we were in a group.
—In large party settings, especially with alcohol, his body language would be turned towards her alot. And on several occasions had excessive eye contact during interactions. Sometimes more with her than me. Which led me to feel like I was invisible and didn’t feel like he wanted to share the company of me and his friend equally. He would also sometimes talk over me so that he could talk to Ashley. And didn't apologize for that until I called him out
—The most painful example is when I planned a surprise party for him before he moved to LA. He would talk to me during the party and would stop mid-sentence in order to gravitate towards Ashley alone before our conversation was done.
It didn’t help either that one of my friends warned me that “The way he talks about Ashley is uncomfortable sometimes. Almost could be mistaken for her being HIS girlfriend.” When asked about this, my boyfriend adamantly denies ever having a crush on Ashley, or having a previous sexual relationship with her, and that he “didn’t realize I was doing this.”
Because of all of those examples, and not feeling much better despite talking to him multiple times, I decided that I need to place a boundary to allow a sense of safety in the relationship. I asked him to (1) not sleep over at her place, or her at his (2) not hangout by themselves, but OK in group settings. I made it very clear that these boundaries are NOT permanent, and asked him for these things because what I need is to NOT feel uncomfortable with their dynamic while I'm there. Told him that once I don’t feel uncomfortable with them in a group while I’m around, I will consider removing the boundary.
He agreed to these terms before moving out of PHX. And from there our relationship grew and became stronger.
However, now that he’s moving back to PHX, this topic has come up again. He told me that he feels hurt by the boundary of not hanging out alone (called it a rule) and expressed that this would be difficult to uphold. Keep in mind that he hasn't even moved yet, and he's already asking about this. I reiterated to him that these boundaries are NOT in place for other female friends because their dynamic doesn’t make me uneasy, and told him that the boundary for ASHLEY in particular needs to stay because of previous behavior that he exhibited.
I am feeling extremely hurt because he agreed to those boundaries before leaving, when the boundary was “easier to keep” (his words) since he was in LA. But now that he’s moving back to PHX, he’s already indirectly asking to have it removed, without even trying first, for the sake of my safety in the relationship.
I told him that I’m trying to feel comfortable but need more “exposure therapy” in the form of seeing them interact in a group before I can remove the boundary of hanging out alone. I’m also hurt because I already feel a rift forming between us, and it’s yet another scenario where I feel like his relationship with her is taking priority over ours. And this pattern of feeling secondary to her his is starting to become a big red flag that I can’t ignore.
It didn't help that a couple days ago, I was hanging out in a group setting with Ashley without Tom (we have alot of mutual friends) and she showed me a text between the two of them that broke a boundary (he joked about sleeping over on the dog bed that she has). I knew he was joking, but he blatantly joked about crossing boundary that we talked about (sleeping over at her place) which made me feel hurt/uncomfortable.
In short, I need to trust that his interactions with her won’t be uncomfortable; and until I feel that sense of safety I need the boundary of “not hanging out alone” to stay in place.
Please let me know if I’m being unreasonable, and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: Boyfriend’s dynamic with specific female friend (not all female friends) makes me extremely uncomfortable and asked before we started distance to not hang out with her by himself, which he agreed to. Now that he’s moving back to where me/Ashley is, he’s indirectly asking me to have boundary removed which is making me feel hurt.

This party was in a state several hundred miles away from my home state, and I had met only a few of the guests previously. There were about 60 people there.
It was interesting, because there was a fairly even mix of liberal and conservative people. Definitely many different points of view on politics and other subjects. But no one was a Harry and Meghan fan. The most positive comment I heard was "I always feel that Meghan doesn't know who she is."
I think H&M are pretty much done.

I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks now. We went on 5 dates and he seemed to be long term material (similar values etc.,). He opened up to me and mentioned a few things that seemed to indicate he was on the introverted side (cannot mingle with new people easily, takes time to warm up in new settings, prefers to spend weekends curled up with books more than socializing etc.,). I was concerned because I am a fairly socially active person and would like my partner to be able to take part in these as well.
I decided to invite him to a birthday party (~25 people) hosted at a close friend’s place to see what we are like in social situations with each other. He came off detached and not as enthusiastic as I would have liked him to be. We asked him a few times if he was uncomfortable at the party and he said he was fine there and that as he had mentioned before he takes time to warm up to new people and also he was tired that day. We also pointed him to employees from his company who were at the party so that he could have something common to talk about.
Overall, what he was telling us was not adding up to the behavior we were seeing so we thought he was hesitant to mention he was uncomfortable being there. Also his being that way was making my friends feel like they were doing something wrong and we were not very happy. I talked to my friends and suggested he should leave the party. He pushed back and insisted he was fine being there and that he liked to listen and observe in large settings as he had told me before. And he continued to stay. We gave up trying.
Next day a huge argument broke out between us. He said the realization that I took him to the party to see what he is like in social situations felt like a covert test to him because there was an “underlying motive” to why I took him there and there was no conversation about it my concerns beforehand. And that he felt his openness about his introversion was used to put him in a situation to “assess” him like that without talking about it with him. I mean, all I was trying to do was understand our social compatibility and I didn’t mean it to be some test. I don’t understand why taking someone to a party is such a big deal. He also says he felt humiliated being asked to leave like that since he was not being harmful to anyone there. I really don’t understand that either - all we were trying to do was spare him some discomfort.
Apparently he shared his version of what happened with some mutual friends and now they are grilling me. Am I am the asshole here? All we thought we were trying to do was make him feel comfortable there and I don’t like how he is spreading negativity in my friend group. What do you all think? Am I the asshole here?

Kanye ‘Ye’ West is—or was—one of the most important artists of the 21st century. His creativity has no limits and he has proven himself successful in every creative endeavor—mainly, music and fashion. He has one of the best discographies in music history, and despite all of the worrisome public controversies and freak-outs, his legacy will probably never be forgotten.

1. Late Registration 10/10 Such a perfect album. LR is his second release, where he worked with Jon Brion to bring together the hip-hop sound with symphonies and movie-score like instrumentals; sonically, way better and more impressive than College Dropout. The themes are personal and heartwarming—Hey Mama, Roses, Diamonds From Sierra Leone—and every single song on here is worth a listen. Highlights: We Major, Drive Slow, Touch The Sky, Heard Em’ Say, Late, Hey Mama, DFSL, & Roses.
   
2. The College Dropout 9/10 His debut album made a great impression. Soulful, funny, and inspiring, TCD touches on various relatable themes: faith (Jesus Walks), hating your lame ass dead-end job (Spaceship), family love (Family Business), materialism (All Falls Down), and ambition (Through The Wire). The only downsides are the skits and some of the songs sounding dated. Highlights: Family Business, Last Call, All Falls Down, Spaceship, Slow Jamz, Two Words, Never Let Me Down, and Jesus Walks.
   
3. My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy 9/10 Late Registration had elements of movie-scores in its songs, but MBDTF feels like an actual big-screen experience. The album is entertaining from start to finish, with its guest appearances, maximal production, and storyline (the “price” of fame and public embarrassment). A great apology album that will never stop being talked about; best first listen ever. I do agree with it being a little overrated; All of the Lights kinda sounds all over the place and the album isn’t as entertaining after Runaway - but Lost in the World is his best closer. Highlights: Dark Fantasy, Gorgeous, Power, Devil in a New Dress, So Appalled, LITW, Monster, and Runaway.
   
4. Graduation 9/10 Most people think this album is overrated, and to be fair it sounds a bit dated. When I re-listen to it though, it still is uplifting and infectious; it’s like that “perfect espresso shot in the morning”. The album contains some of the best music in his catalogue - and in the hip-hop genre in general. (Flashing Lights is a perfect song.) Highlights: Flashing Lights, Good Morning, Champion, I Wonder, Everything I Am, Can’t Tell Me Nothing, Big Brother, & Homecoming.
   
5. The Life of Pablo 8.9/10 Everything about this project—especially the cover—is so Kanye. After his industrial-experimental-yeezus-phase (idk what to call it), Kanye’s music is more “modern” and “trap-based” on this album—he utilizes production from Metro Boomin; for the most part, his rapping and lyrics aren’t taken that seriously. You can also tell that this is where Fashion started to take his attention. Regardless of all the flaws and awkward moments, it keeps your attention and weirds you out—Just like Ye does himself. And just like Ye, its a paradox: we opened with Ultralight Beam (a song that begins with prayers and ends with gospel singing) and went right into FSMH, pt.1 (the song with the bleached-asshole verse). It’s funny, introspective, annoying, childish, and impressive - just like him. Highlights: FSMH, pt.1, ULBM, Freestyle 4, Famous, NMPILA, Saint Pablo, 30 Hours, Waves, FML, I Love Kanye, & Saint Pablo.
   
6. Yeezus 8.9/10 Around this time, breaking into the Fashion industry was a major challenge for Kanye, and naturally, he became more angry in his interviews. For the most part, Yeezus sounds like anger and frustration—the first seconds of On Sight alienates most non-Kanye fans. Thematically, Ye takes on a character—Yeezus—who embodies his most negative traits: arrogance, insensitivity, and hostility. It shows up in some of the lyrics too (“eating Asain pussy..”). After New Slaves, the album gets more tender-sounding and sad—you have classics like Hold My Liquor, BOTL, and Guilt Trip. It reveals that this obnoxious Yeezus character has a sap backstory. By the end, we reach a resolution with Bound 2, the most accessible song on here (greatest music video ever). Just like 808s, it stands out from the rest of his discog, and is a bit annoying, but once you get it, you get it. Highlights: New Slaves, HML, Bound 2, BOTL, Black Skinhead, Guilt Trip, & Im In It.
   
7. 808s & Heartbreak 8/10 Great. Great. Great. After a tumultuous period, Kanye, being the musical pioneer that he is, decided to ditch the hip-hop samples and beats, for 808s and auto-tuned singing, and it was polarizing to the hip-hop audience. I feel like he’s more of a songwriter - in the traditional sense - on here. This album also has an amazing 6-track run (Say You Will —> Paranoid; RoboCop ain’t it). The instrumentals are melancholy, and this is the first time we see collaborations from Kid Cudi—whose sound is definitely present on this album. Imp, Some of the songs—RoboCop, Bad News, & See You in My Nightmares—sound soooooo 2008, they were a little hard to listen to. Yet, there is still is a reason why this album has the impact that it does; along with Cudi, it lead future rap artists to become more versatile with their discographies—look at XXXTENTACION, JuiceWrld, & Lil Uzi Vert.
   
8. Ye 8/10 Ye is his shortest output, and even compared to 808s, one of his most emotional as well. Besides All Mine, there isn’t much wrong with this album; it gets straight to the point. Some problems here though: You can tell this is when he started recorded his vocals on his iPhone, his mumble verses are more present, which gives an unfinished feeling to it. Besides that, its mainly filled with great, strong songs. Sonically, it’s soulful, tender, and oddly peaceful. Theres a heavy sense of vulnerability, regret, and introspection. I think this album needs a lot more attention than it gets. Highlights: ITAKY, No Mistakes, Violent Crimes, Ghost Town (duhh), & Wouldn’t Leave.
   
9. Donda 6/10 This would be a very-fitting last release (if done correctly): at the time he divorced from Kim Kardashian and became a billionaire in the same year, which naturally attracted more attention to his legacy—this is when I started listening to his music. His life story is inspiring and releasing an album named after his late-Mother (Donda West) would’ve been the perfect closing-album. Irecent memory, I can’t remember being more hyped about a music release. This rollout was legendary—from the Reddit subs, to the instagram posts, to the listening parties. Perfect way to advertise an album. The result is messy, though. Sonically, this is like The Life of Pablo, pt. 2: constant ups-and-downs in quality, yet still delivering amazing songs. Theres also a lot of unneeded material on here too—27 fucking tracks (32 if you include all the part 2’s)—and the mixing really sticks out like a sore-thumb and ruins the experience. Guest appearances were really show-stopping—especially Don Toliver and Kid Cudi on “Moon”. It’s also his most spiritual project (he edited out the curse words); we haven’t seen this much religious faith since The College Dropout imo. Beautiful, yet messy. Highlights: Moon, Praise God, Keep My Spirit Alive, Hurricane, Come to Life, 24, Off the Grid, Pure Souls, and God Breathed.
   

So, before you answer, I need to give some specifics and background.
We were together for a year and half. We live 30 mins from each other, which is relatively close but enough distance that my home environment is a different place than hers, since she lives and studies in the city centre and I live in the outskirts but have to comute pretty much every day to the city centre for our university campus.
We both had met each other’s family, including more distanced relatives and had several future plans, such as summer vacations and even a new years trip.
Regarding uni, I’m on a different year but have several classes with her since I switched courses. While we were still together, we decided to be on several group projects together with two other mutual friends (she was already friends with both and I became friends with them by being “the boyfriend”), also because the rest of the class for some reason doesn’t really embraces us and made us feel like outsiders, specifically me, since I didn’t share many classes with them.
So fast forward to the present, we have broken up, it’s has been 3 weeks, so while it’s very fresh and I still have my ups and downs, I feel time is starting to heal some wounds.
I feel mainly good when I’m distracted with friends and family, when working/studying or doing something I enjoy. When I’m between tasks, just doing nothing or when something triggers a memory, I feel sad, melancholic and all the usual breakup emotions.
But the worse feeling is caused by being with her and the group at the project classes.
The main issue is that she has adopted a strategy which causes me a great deal of pain: she doesn’t interact with me, doesn’t even acknowledges me in group talks, it’s literally like I’m not even there. Recently, even the other two members (which i considered friends), who now have completely taken her side, also stopped interacting with me. The project is completely of the rails, of course ,and it’s no longer possible to change groups or to do the work alone. Also, when doing solo work on that subject or even trying to save the project gives me lots of anxiety and stress The same when taking the theoretical classes, cause I know that's the subject where I'll end up seeing her...
Outside of classes, when we see each other coincidentally, if she’s alone she’ll wave or just say hi with a forced smile but if she’s with both of them or anyone else, she just passes through with a look or a word.
All of that plus talking with both of her friends about her life, what she has done or will do in the week, including details of several plans and parties and expressing interest in meeting new people in front of me is making me feel the sadest I have ever felt.
The nights before the days I know I'll have to see her are awfull and the comutes on those days are even more stressfull, with physical signs of anxiety on my end.
I got support from friends, family and even therapy which I had for other motives have been life saving. But no one can understand how deep my sadness and anxiety before the days I know I’ll meet her.
Mentally, i feel strong enough to endure the situation but those days are the hardest and I don't know how to deal with that...

so to try and make a long story short my wife couldn't find the time to have her bachelorette party before the wedding so we agreed she could have it after with all the same fun.
After we got married, a week later she had it organised by her friends and went to a strippers.
One of her friends payed for her to have a private dance and the guy (come to know as Dan) had her in a private room and went all the way with her.
Now as we were exhausted with the wedding we didn't actually consummate the marriage yet and the first guy she did it with was Dan.
She was open and honest told me everything and I have to get on with it but can't help but think about it a lot and do bring it up time to time.
AITAH

I, 30F, am currently two weeks away from my due date. This baby will be my first child and I am looking forward to motherhood and everything that comes with it (and tbh absolutely terrified but in a good way).
In my country baby showers have been a thing for roughly 10-15 years now. I personally have organized 3 - one for my older sister J (33f) in 2018, one for a close friend P (31f) in 2023 and the third one was literally a week ago for another friend N (30f).
For all three baby showers I've made sure there is food (a "salad buffet" where all the ingredients are in separate bowls and guests can create their own plates with stuff they like + other savory stuff as well as dessert) and some activities/entertainment.
For example for my sister I bought over 10 white bodies of different sizes and every guest got to decorate their own. For P we had one shared body, baby predictions, baby food tasting, diapers where people wrote messages etc (her sister organized half of the activities though). For N we had the shared body to decorate, baby predictions, baby food and diaper messages - this baby shower was for her 2nd child since she did not get one for her first due to the child being born over 3 weeks before the due date (and it was being organized by her mom who had not invited me or another closer friend for some reason).
I had my baby shower this Sunday morning. I had guessed it would be this Sunday so I spent some time cleaning our home yesterday, but I still had for example laundry drying all around the apartment etc. Usually the way these go is that the mom-to-be is somehow lured outside for a while so that all the guests can come and then when the mom returns, there is that whole "surprise!!" thing going on. I personally arranged this for P, and made sure N's spouse knew what to do.
Instead for me the doorbell rang and all of the guests simply poured in. At 10am. I am a morning person but I haven't been sleeping well due to pregnancy, so I was simply baffled at the early time. But I figured I'll go with it, but I didn't have a chance to put on any make up, and I was wearing this summer overall thing that is not flattering at all.
People come in, they start preparing a brunch sort of thing, bring out everything to our living/dining room and we eat. No toasts, no nothing. Then they bring out a cake (which was exactly that I wanted because I flat out told my sister a month ago that I would really like one for my shower if they organize one). After the cake P brings out a diaper pack, and they all start writing messages to them - I'm happy but ofc also this activity is something that does not actually give me anything to do. So I am literally sitting there, waiting for them to write them.
Then they have me open my presents, which I am grateful for. After opening them 2 of my other friends and my sister all say they need to leave as they have other stuff today. It is maybe 12-12.30 at this point? So they leave, as do P and N, leaving me and 3 other guests. They stayed for maybe 30-45min more, so by 13.30 the "party" was fully over.
There was no activity that I participated in. My baby shower lasted for max 3h. I was now left with a kitchen full of dirty dishes (they did put one load in the dishwasher, but they used a bunch of stuff to make the brunch, like cutting boards, serving dishes, knives) - everything left for me to clean.
All I can think of is - this is it? This is really all I get for my first (and only) baby shower?
I know I should be grateful for even getting one at all, and that there are people out in the world literally starving and this is such a stupid thing to be upset about, but I cried for over an hour after they left, with my spouse trying to cheer me up. He took me out for a walk and was able to cheer me up but now that it is midnight and I am supposed to be sleeping I can't help but cry. I even looked through photos P sent me and I look horrible in all of them.
So - I don't know what I am even looking for, maybe some kind words either telling me I am wrong and giving me another perspective or some validation for feeling how I feel. All I ask is that people be kind, my hormones are already all over the place. Thank you for reading.

the online fix mentioned in the fitgirl version. issue with that is, you cant matchmake or receive/invite your friends. the friend of mine is on ps4 with psplus. i havent tried it with a person with the same crack as me on pc. i think that should work. if anyone has the fix for partying up with friends in crossplay please help.
Thanks :D
Edit: I've done the online fix properly as it said to do. the psn services work, i can add friend but cant invite or accept party requests.

My brother and his wife have 3 children 8, 5 and 3.
I am his younger sister, childless myself and recently left uni because of my severe depression, living at my parents house until I find a different career path. (But I also provide care for grandma and mother.)
The older two children get ready for the day alone, which the parents are very proud of. Basically they just get dressed in unmatched clothes. They are not washed, dressed for the weather or have brushed hair. (If they do, they forget the back.)
I actually forgot how it became the topic at my father's birthday dinner. But they said their oldest doesn't like to brush his hair. I said then they should do it, because it needs to be done. His decision if he does it or his parents. She told me she didn't want to brush his hair, when she wants to get out of the house to work. (Mind you, she wears make up daily and my brother drives the children.) I stated how wrong I think this is and one should care for their kids after getting them.
She exploded. Told me she will not discuss this with a childless person without a degree. I told her quietly to watch what she sais. "No,you watch what you say."was the answer. Proceeds to tell me she always hated me and I am not to come to her youngest birthday party tomorrow. I said: "Didn't you observe I have not visited you in over a year now?" Then got told she wouldn't visit me either. I said: "I wouldn't invite you. I don't even know why you come here." It's not my decision,because this (parents place) is not my house.
I told her I am proud of her for finally showing her true colours, not communicating by putting my brother between us.
Today on the little one's birthday the oldest let slip "We are not allowed to visit grandparents anymore because of aunt xyz."
This is not the first time they are keeping the kids away from my parents. They regularly extorted my parents and her's. (Until they were desperate for a baby sitter.)
My brother sits through all this and comments "It's statistically proven that childless people comment more on other's parenting."
This was the second time I ever commented on a parenting issue of theirs. My field of study involved child sociology and developmental psychology. And I stand by keeping basic hygiene on a regular basis. We were not talking about arriving once with unkempt hair...
I feel so sad for my mom, who has been through this already and keeps her mouth shut for the sake of seeing her grand children...
So, am I the asshole for not having kept my mouth shut?

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1 New member for “The Wayward Wanderers”. 1 of my 3 groups roaming Nexovius.
I am looking for 1 more player so we get the group back to six. Have posted quite recently in LFG where I had found 2 great players. 1 player to fill the gap of 1 party member leaving due to wanting to switch to a different tabletop system. 1 player so the party will be of similar size of 6 players like my other 2 groups roaming Nexovius.
Unfortunately did the second player I had found through LFG run into some serious scheduling problems with his work changing his shift. Disallowing himself from being able to participate on the Wednesday sessions, he left shortly after thanking everyone and saying his goodbyes.
But The Wayward Wanderers of Nexovius still require 1 additional member! Will you heed the call?
The First big arc has concluded and 1 of the new players has already been integrated into the group. The party is currently standing at a crossroads and are about to head deeper into Cardolenor. Giving the new player plenty of room to enter the party.
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Welcome, brave adventurers, to the vast and diverse world of Nexovius. Once united, the races that inhabit this world have been torn apart by conflicts and betrayals, leading to a fracture of trust. As a result, they have chosen to split up and establish their own communities across the realm.
In the era known as the Time of Great Factions, the world witnessed the rise of powerful alliances and the establishment of trade routes that connected the scattered settlements. The prominent factions that emerged during this period include the Exalted Bastion, Mirage, Fynelenor, Bhar'Baduhr, Chi'Lokk, Gur'Rul, and Mïrë. These factions quickly realized that they were interdependent, relying on one another for sustenance and resources.
While civilization thrived and pushed back the forces of darkness, monsters still lurk on the outskirts of civilization, haunting the busy trade routes and taking refuge within the many dungeons and caves scattered throughout Nexovius. To combat this menace, mercenaries are hired to protect the caravans that travel these routes, ensuring the safety of the valuable goods.
However, even as the races sought to coexist and prosper, the world of Nexovius faced new trials. The enigmatic Mïrë, along with the rest of Argentus, retreated into obscurity, their voices lost to the winds of time. A global pandemic cast a shadow of despair for a quarter of a century, testing the resilience and perseverance of all who remained.
From the depths of the ocean emerged Ternion, an ancient force that stirred the waters and disrupted the delicate balance of power.
In the midst of these struggles, the EoS, a collective of powerful wizards and sorcerers, came together to form a place of knowledge and trade—the Eye of Omniscience. This center of learning and commerce became a beacon for those seeking wisdom and an avenue for the exchange of ideas and goods. Knowledge itself became a valuable commodity, sought after by all.
Innovation also thrived within Mirage, giving birth to the invention of the Arcane Caravaans—a revolutionary means of trade and travel. These caravans traversed land and sea, further enhancing the world's interconnectedness and facilitating the exchange of goods and ideas. However, the frequent use of land trade routes attracted the attention of lurking monsters, necessitating the employment of mercenaries to safeguard these valuable caravans even more.
Though the different races can be found scattered throughout the world, each faction has a dominant race that shapes its culture and ideals. Certain races may face discrimination and mistrust
Brave adventurers, the world of Nexovius awaits you, teeming with diverse cultures, ancient secrets, and challenges that demand your valor and cunning. As you traverse its lands, unravel its mysteries, and forge your own destiny, may you find your place amidst the tapestry of races, factions, and the ever-changing tides of fate.
Will you answer the call?
WHO AM I?
My name is Kane (28) and I’ve been a gm for almost 2 years now with my real life group and our 1 year anniversary with the 2 online groups all wandering around in Nexovius is coming up. Having a humble 48 sessions +2 one-shots under my belt in total, but who keeps track am I right... Beside Dming I work several days a week and attend a master of architecture and urbanism at university.
WHAT KIND OF DM AM I?
I like making a lot of maps for my party to immerse them more in the game. I also 3D-print mini’s for my offline group their, NPCS and monsters they encounter. Online I make use of Owlbear Rodeo and make tokens and maps to immerse the players.
I’m the kind of DM who thinks the immersion and fun are the most important aspects of a good game of dungeons and dragons. I’d love to immerse my players in my world and fulfill their wishes and needs in a fitting way in the campaign, through combat and interesting story telling. I try to implement backstories as much as possible within the story. Always trying to make each player feel unique and important within the story. So if you ever got some ideas you would like to discuss with me feel free to do so and we’ll see how we can make it fit within the narrative. Be reasonable with this and don’t start asking for unreasonable requests. The campaign will a good mixture of serious roleplay and humor. I try to roleplay/combat like 60/40 I’d say. Might be the other way around I think it heavily depends on where the party is within the story.
HOW ARE WE PLAYING?
We'll be using owlbear rodeo for the V.T.T. and Discord for voice calling. Using various maps, imagery and theatre of the mind.
CROSS-PLAY HOMEBREW WORLD
I’ve set up a discord server called the Chronicles of Nexovius wherein a lot of information about Nexovius will be displayed for your party. Think about maps you obtain/certain, NPC’s you met, monsters you have encountered, information about the world, cultures, locations and its inhabitants. You can always make your own notes of course. Currently we have 3 groups roaming around in Nexovius. If you would join I would highly suggest checking out as much as you can to read up on what happened so far. Or don’t and be surprised along the way.
The discord server I host functions as a hub for all three the groups to hang out in and discuss the world and whatever pops up.
The idea is to have multiple parties take on an adventure within the world of Nexovius. Wherein together with other parties you slowly fill in this chronicle. Your party saved a king? It will come up in the timeline. Another party went rogue and are now wanted. It will now be displayed on the timeline. A meteor crashed somewhere? It will now be displayed in the timeline. Want to sell this item your party doesn’t use? Sell it on the grand exchange, a place where you can buy and sell goodies to the other parties! This way you experience more from the world you are playing in. Making it feel more alive, interactive and immersive. I also like to come up with one-shots taking place in different regions of the world. So you fully get a feeling of what happens in other parts of the world. It also allows you to play together with party members from different groups.
We’ve had a one-shot where the party had to extract an orc-chieftain from Borealis and it’s legion of warforged. Currently we’re scheduling part 2 (Two-Shot Technically) of a desert-race through The Scorch a mystical desert of sorts.
SETTING?
Experienced and new players are both very welcome.
High fantasy, Gritty realism/middle, Early Steampunk/medieval
Custom crafting/gathering system
Rules are guiding. Changes will be written in the homebrew rules to make it more fun and fitting per group!
WHAT WILL THIS GAME BE LIKE?
It’s an open world like RPG wherein the world map is provided and the party can go wherever it pleases by foot or by caravaan. The map is provided with a lot of Points of interest. During overworld travel there is also a chance of experiencing random encounter like monsters that attack the party on the road or an NPC which approaches the party. Based on where the party goes on the map that’s the adventure they might go on based of certain plot hooks. Once the party arrives at a POI I will try to tell a linear story if the party engages with the plot hooks. But the outcome is truly dependent on the actions, words and deeds of the party.
YOUR ACTIONS MATTER AND WILL IMPACT THE WORLD
STILL READING? NICER!
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Thanks for showing interest and hope to be speaking to you soon!
QUESTIONS?
Feel free to comment down below or send me DM through reddit.
THANKS FOR YOUR TIME!

NONE of the metro projects are progressing faster after the support, not even 1 new throne bathroom is added.
Where did all that $900 million black-holed to? All these LA Metro CEOs and LA officials are capable of is blame it onto each other with that $900 million salary raise for both parties!
They probably have dinneparty together behind peoples back, laughing at how good they act on public medias and how people took their words for it.
I can 100% sure mods in this reddit are spies from these corrupted LA Metro officials as well. just watch they kept delating peoples posts! (oh I'm sure they shared 1/100 of that $900 million as well.)

I do not view Jesus as merely an ordinary man. I also do not view him as literally the almighty God as Trinitarians assert. It seems more sensible to see Jesus as something in-between: a divine being, the Son of God, a mediator between God and man.
I think it's logical that he was begotten before the creation of the world by the Father and not some "eternally generated" person of a Triune God. That being said, I am open to arguments against this position, I am posting here to see what are the greatest potential flaws in my understanding of Jesus.
Just to add, in my view, Jesus would in fact have undergone real temptation and really felt forsaken and experienced separation from the Father on the cross in the totality of his person (not just in his "human nature" as Trinitarians assert).
The mention of the Word or Logos in John 1:1 is a key text relevant to this discussion. I have found non-biblical sources from the period that give us clues as to what John meant by the Logos and they point towards it being a name for a divine person, a god of sorts, but not God almighty himself. Surely this is what John's readers would have understood.

Philo (20BC - 40AD): And the father who created the universe has given to his archangel and most ancient Logos a pre-eminent gift, to stand on the confines of both, and separate that which had been created from the Creator. And this same Logos is continually a suppliant to the immortal God on behalf of the mortal race, which is exposed to affliction and misery; and is also the ambassador, sent by the Ruler of all, to the subject race. And the Logos rejoices…. saying “And I stood in the midst, between the Lord and you” (Num. 16:48); neither being uncreated as God, nor yet created as you, but being in the midst between these two extremities, like a hostage, as it were, to both parties (Her. 205-206).

Source: https://iep.utm.edu/philo/#SH11k

Metatron, the greatest of angels in Jewish myths and legends. Metatron is not a figure of the Hebrew Bible, but his name appears briefly in several passages of the Talmud. His legends are predominantly found in mystical Kabbalistic texts. He is variously identified as the Prince (or Angel) of the Presence, as Michael the archangel, or as Enoch after his bodily ascent into heaven. He is commonly described as a celestial scribe recording the sins and merits of men, as a guardian of heavenly secrets, as God’s mediator with men, as the “lesser Yahweh,” as the archetype of man, and as one “whose name is like that of his master.” ... Elisha ben Abuyah (flourished c. 100 ce) is said to have apostasized after having had a vision of Metatron.

Source: https://www.britannica.com/topic/Metatron

Her wedding is coming up in soon and I'm having a lot of anxiety over it. I understand that I said yes and that I have an obligation to show up and support her. I understand that there is nothing more I can do, but I don't support the wedding. I've told her how I felt about her fiancee and what I think she should do, but she didn't listen. When she initially asked me to be maid of honor, I said yes because I fully believed her and her fiance had a better relationship. In previous years, they would argue and argue and at one point, they almost broke up. I watched her cry over him for years. At one point, she even she that she didn't fully trust him anymore, but when she asked, she claimed they were in a much better place.
However, they went back to arguing. She screamed at him during their bachelobachelorette party. She has told me on several occasions that she feels like she could have had a different life without him and that she feels as if she settled. I tried to tell her that she should end things with him, but she doesn't want to and I have accepted that. Now I have to write a speech faking my excitement for them. She's 23 and I can't help but feel like she is making a mistake, but I said my peace. I can only hope that their marriage will be a happy one, but the bride has so much work to do on herself as well as groom. Back in October, the bride had an episode where she mixed her medication with alcohol and attempted to commit suicide by running to traffic in front of me. The next day, the groom left her alone for several hours despite her asking him to stay. That one, I can't forgive. I love my friend so much and I hope he can make her happy, but I'm not so sure.

I (19m) am the youngest of four siblings (27F, 22F, 20F), the two older having a different mother, from one of my dad's past marriages. Me and my youmgest sister were born to the same mother, but my parents have been divorced since 2019. My parent's divorce was a result of my dad cheating on my mom.
He ended up dating the woman for 8 years total (the relationship began years before anyone knew about it, so around 2015, and this relationship ended mid 2023). Following this relationship he then dated a woman 1 year older than my oldest sister, to which he then cheated on with his current woman, E (short for entitled).
Regarding my dad's current woman, she has been constantly trying to get involved in all of mine and my sister's lives, one way or another, such as showing uo to our birthday and christmas parties, but the issues being that she was either uninvited, would twist every conversation onto herself or her children, or make a big deal about how she would get really bad headaches and have to be carried to my dad's car to lay down. E constantly tells my dad about how his kids haven't done anything with their lives (I'm the only one not in college/graduated atm, and I'm working a full time job so I can afford to go), meanwhile she has children who dropped out of highschool and have been expelled, multiple times.
Today we had a party celebrating my older two sister's birthday and college graduation respectively. It was us four siblings, 22F's fiancé and 20F's boyfriend, and what we thought would by my dad and E (we don't really invite her, but if my dad is invited she has to go). When those two finally arrived (about 30 minutes late), we were surpised to find out that there was "a few" other people coming. We thought it would be her children, who have shown up for past events such as my birthday, but to our surprise E thought it was a great idea to bring her youngest son, and two people none of my sisters have ever met. One of the two I did recognize as one of my dad's employees at a bar, but the other was also a new face to me. As for the guy, he was just very downright racist and made us all uncomfortable with sexual remarks, and when we asked my dad about it E chimed in and said to 'not take him seriously'.
After we ate our food and played a bit of bags (cornhole), we tried to play a trivia game like we usually do, where we take turns and answer questions on a card, we have a turn system for this game, but none of the random invites nor my dad and E were following it. This combined with the group collectively trying to cause havoc throughout the entire party by looking at the trivia cards and guessing out if turn, and my sisters had enough and wanted to just leave. A couple comments were said by the 'guests', which caused an all out screaming war between my sisters, my dad, and E, where my dad and E were arguing that we had to get used to these people as they were family. I said that they weren't our family so they can leave. (They did end up keaving for a short period) This is where we found out my dad and E had gotten secretly married in March, and they would've announced it sooner (at my birthday party), and had I not been 'selfish' during my party, they would've announced it at the restaurant I chose to eat at (E said it was selfish because she was allergic to cinnamon and I got a cheesecake for dessert that had cinnamon in it so she had to leave). E said that since she was our stepmom now we had to listen and respect her, which is not how that works. She told us we were the ones that were not a part of my dad's family, and we should leave. This is around where I was tokd to leave so I sat in my sister's fiancé's car until my mom came and got me, (my youngest sister and her boyfriend had to leave early so they didn't know about this until I told them).
I don't know much of what was said after I left, but I did see the guests return for a minute, followed by my older sister shoving them right back out the door, to which they did not return.
I feel bad for my sisters. This was their day to celebrate, and not only did it end this badly, but my dad is threatening to cut off all communications with them because of this incident. He said if we return to the building we were celebrating at (which he owns), he will call the cops on us for trespassing. E is threatening to take my oldest sister's dogs because she 'doesn't deserve them', and E is likely now uninvited from my sister's wedding. I don't know what to do.
TL;DR - my sisters' combined graduation and birthday party is cut short because my dad got secretly married to an entitled woman, who now wants us cut off from 'her' family.

Basically I expected this, I can say I'm not actually that upset about it, but just want to complain somewhere lmao
This happened for high school graduation as well- my sister got a $1000+ party with all her friends invited while I got not even a congratulations from them and forced to go to my parent's friend's kid's graduation party literally straight from my ceremony and watch my parents congratulate them when they haven't even done so for me.
I'm not very materialistic tbh my fam had asked me like months ago ''what do you want to do as your graduation celebration'' tbh that put me off because like since when did they care, but I told them I'd like to make a lunch and just go to the park to have a picnic and like we all sketch or I could show them how to crochet or something (I really like nature and the outdoors, it makes me mentally feel well and in my free time I basically only do art related things because again mentally feels nice) and they made a face like sort of like it was annoying or gross. As you'd expect they in the end didn't want to do it now that I've graduated (I had already planned to do something on my own anyway though after their inital reactions, they were uninvited lmfao).
However, I found out this past monday via my sister telling me that they are taking my sister and her bf to an amusement park for her graduation as celebration (we graduated at the same time) on one of only 2 days I work this week. It was clearly on purpose.
Yesterday my mom even made a whole show like ''we can go get breakfast just me and you tomorrow'' and I was like ''uhhh it'd have to be pretty early because I need to be at work by 7am'' and she just like ''gasps! Oh that's right you're working tomorrow! So you're not going with us!'' Mind you I have been working the exact same hours and days every week for a year and my other job is my own business so I can literally shift the schedule anyway I need but they picked specifically one of two days I go to my job I have to physically be there for.
Like again, expected, but still annoying lol