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2016.08.24 14:42 youssefgym Gym workout chart
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2024.05.19 20:35 the_reifier First time outdoors was a reassuring experience
Yesterday afternoon, I was driving east from Hellsinky and stopped in some town called Lovisa, where I asked if there were any good places nearby to boulder outdoors for a beginner. The locals said I should try a boulder called Biden of Dreams, which seemed like a weird name for a Finnish rock, but maybe he’s really popular here. The locals warned me the problem might be a bit airbagged. Having only climbed indoors before my first thought was, "wow, the chalk marks from previous climbers make it really obvious where the best holds are". My fingers felt fine, and I didn’t need much finger strength because the rock was nice, and the holds were very easy to grab. I had some trouble seeing the footholds, but I was generally surprised by how little I needed them because I was able to easily flash the problem by campusing. I heard that spotting might be useful for other boulders, but I don’t know what that has to do with climbing, maybe I’ll bring a maxi pad next time to deal with the spotting.
All that to say, outdoor climbing feels like a totally different sport. The theory remains the same but the implementation consists of an entirely different set of challenges. I found that this v17 felt like ~v4 in the indoor setting. I understand now why gym grades are different: These outdoor boulders are very welcoming to beginners.
I had few safety concerns. I had no crash pads (which are, of course, aid), the landing zone was level and clear, and generally safe downclimbs meant everything had a minimal element of danger. It makes me really appreciate gym setting and the thrill of higher risk indoors.
This post is meant as a show of appreciation for both types of boulder sports. Outdoors for the ease and forgivingness and as a fallback plan for when the gym is closed, and indoors for the creativity, longevity, and fewer mosquitoes.
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All that to say, outdoor climbing feels like a totally different sport. The theory remains the same but the implementation consists of an entirely different set of challenges. I found that this v17 felt like ~v4 in the indoor setting. I understand now why gym grades are different: These outdoor boulders are very welcoming to beginners.
I had few safety concerns. I had no crash pads (which are, of course, aid), the landing zone was level and clear, and generally safe downclimbs meant everything had a minimal element of danger. It makes me really appreciate gym setting and the thrill of higher risk indoors.
This post is meant as a show of appreciation for both types of boulder sports. Outdoors for the ease and forgivingness and as a fallback plan for when the gym is closed, and indoors for the creativity, longevity, and fewer mosquitoes.
2024.05.19 20:32 Johnnyboi853 How does my profile look? Any advice?
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2024.05.19 20:32 Pharose Do Infrared Saunas "Train" Your Body To Sweat More Than Traditional Saunas?
I'm fairly new to saunas, and I decided to try it out because I wanted to recover faster from my workouts and I had some minor circulation related health concerns. The only affordable sauna near my apartment is an infrared sauna at the local gym.
However, one reservation I had is that I am already a very sweaty person and I knew that saunas could make me even sweatier in general. I was kinda hoping that the sauna would help acclimatize my body to higher temperature so I could regulate my body temperature without sweating so much, but the opposite has happened. I went from being a very sweaty person to being an extremely sweaty person.
This is just me hypothesizing but is it possible that infrared saunas train your body to sweat more than traditional saunas? I understand that infrared radiation penetrates deep into the body, so this means that the heat my body can percieve is less than the actual heat that my body recieves. I can hypothesize that this would "train" my body to produce an abundance of sweat based upon percieved temperature.
Alternatively, would a steam sauna have a different effect? If sweating is innefective at cooling me down would that train my body to rely less upon sweating as a cooling mechanism?
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However, one reservation I had is that I am already a very sweaty person and I knew that saunas could make me even sweatier in general. I was kinda hoping that the sauna would help acclimatize my body to higher temperature so I could regulate my body temperature without sweating so much, but the opposite has happened. I went from being a very sweaty person to being an extremely sweaty person.
This is just me hypothesizing but is it possible that infrared saunas train your body to sweat more than traditional saunas? I understand that infrared radiation penetrates deep into the body, so this means that the heat my body can percieve is less than the actual heat that my body recieves. I can hypothesize that this would "train" my body to produce an abundance of sweat based upon percieved temperature.
Alternatively, would a steam sauna have a different effect? If sweating is innefective at cooling me down would that train my body to rely less upon sweating as a cooling mechanism?
2024.05.19 20:16 Radiant_Security_173 What I take from Shera as a happily married woman
I discovered Shera's videos quite a few years ago, and loved her humour as well as her message to level up. I started noting down all her little gems. They give me motivation, and a giggle too. I am older, in my fifties, and have been happily married for over 15 years, so I don't need her dating, sugaring, or 'get the bag' advice, but I do love her level up advice. I saw another lady share her notes, so I wanted to as well. There are tons, I've realised! I hope you enjoy them!
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How do you become the prize?
If you don’t start as the prize, then you aren’t the prize. If you don’t know if your mind that you are already the prize then you can never be the prize.
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How to be more feminine so I can be spoiled more?
It’s a lifestyle. You have to act, fake it until you make it, and create a lifestyle. The days that you don’t feel very feminine are the days that you have to use more of your masculine energy.
Remember to always have a space to come back to that is feminine, and recharge yourself with feminine energy. Create a more feminine environment, wear more feminine clothes, listen to music that is going to help your femininity instead of diminishing it.
Keep things that you like to do feminine and do feminine things. Going shopping, getting your nails or hair done, buying shoes, picking out décor for our rooms, decorating tables, going on picnics, watching girly movies.
Recharge yourself by doing some of those things. You need to be able to recharge your femininity at least once or twice a week.
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Live the type of life you want already. It may not be on the scale that you want to live it at, but it needs to be a version of it. For example, if you want to live a soft, feminine life make sure your current life reflects that: your current environment, the current way you dress, the current way you walk, talk and act.
The more you receive, the better treatment you receive, if you can get a provider who can let you live a more feminine life, a softer life, then it's just going to get better and better.
But already live the life you want to live, that way they can only improve you and they see how you treat yourself and see what you like and that’s what they are going to be giving you. Your goals will be met just by dating.
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What are some ways to keep him interested in he provides well?
Look good
Make sure you know what his interest are
Talk to him
Make sure he feels like he is the man
Look good when you are out with him
Make sure you are pretty and heads turn ‘ooh who’s he with’
His self-esteem will skyrocket when you go out with him if you look good and he’s not going to want to leave that
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Men like women to switch it up as long as it’s classy.
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Flower attract bees to them by their bright colours and they smell good. Attract men to you:
· Wear bright pretty colours
· Smell good
· Look fresh, dewy and youthful
· Look attractive
Look like the prize. Look like his fantasy. Look through his eyes: what would he like to see?
It’s not that complicated. Bring it back down to simplicity? What do men like?
Heels
Skirts
Dresses
Makeup
Long hair
Red lipstick
Baby voice
Feminine colours
Make them feel good
Give them compliments
Let them talk
Don’t talk about your boring stuff – they don’t care
Use the formula to get success with men.
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If you want to dress casual in jeans and a cute top, still wear heels, hair, full makeup. If you’re going to wear jeans, you’re going to need to wear heels.
Also think about this: what sort of man are you attracting. If you wear jeans when you meet you’re going to get taken to a jeans date. Dress for the life you want.
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When we had a fight I cut my hair short & bangs & went shopping. He was so glad he said “you look like a different person!” The fight was forgotten & he treated me new again & took me shopping again.
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"Life is fun! (...) life is a movie, life is a stage. Get into character... "
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Men don’t care about anything else but what you look like and how you make them feel.
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If you’ve let yourself go, level yourself up to the point that their jaw will drop when they see you.
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The only limitations are the ones you believe in.
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What do rich men’s wives all have in common besides being pretty?
They’re feminine
They’re classy
They’re not loud and obnoxious
They don’t outshine their husband
They hold back and keep it together in public
They are well proportioned
Shera had a friend who was a little rachet, and she ended up marrying wealthy. She had to totally change everything about herself:
The way she dressed
The way she wore her hair
The way she spoke
The kind of shoes she wore
Her makeup
She had to change it all
How she acted around people
How she spoke to men
She had to change everything
It’s not that she changed who she was inside or her personality
It’s that she changed who she was around men
There’s a difference
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Your stock should go up after you get married, not down. If your stock is not rising after marriage you’re doing it backwards. That means still investing into yourself, your beauty, your clothing, into your stash (money, wealth and investments). If you got married and your stock plummeted, that’s your fault.
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Loving yourself means putting yourself first as a priority. Knowing your worth and value and not taking any crap from anybody because you value yourself, you love yourself. That’s all loving yourself means. And not talking down about yourself. And knowing that you deserve what you want in life.
Once you do that other people will as well – men, co- workers, your boss, parents, spouse, brother, sister, cousin, whoever. Whoever is in your life at the moment will recognise that you love yourself and that you don’t have to submit to them or that you’re not desperate for their approval. In fact they may start to be desperate for your approval. So make sure you’re putting yourself first.
Don’t be always talking about the other person and what they want or what they think. Don’t care who they are. Don’t care about other people or their spouse or the person they’re interested in. It’s not about them, it’s about you. If they can’t recognise you and they don’t like you, then you are wasting time.
If you have to sit there and be puzzled about why someone is not responding properly or why they’re not doing this or that, it means they don’t like you so just move on and stop trying to waste time worrying about it. You already know that in the back of your mind; you’re just hoping for a different outcome that there won’t be.
Make sure that when you realise you are putting other people before yourself as a priority then you’re not going to get the type of man or people attracted to you that you need. When you can get somebody in the click of a finger and they’re not used to that it means you are valuable and that they are not necessary. They are very unnecessary and therefore they feel like you have even more value because you don’t need them. You don’t need them, they need you. That’s why they seek you out. That’s why they call you, that’s why they ask you out.
Make sure you’re not getting caught up in silliness. If they’re not putting you first, you’re gone. Or you put them on ice; that means you let them figure it out and when they start acting right again then you allow them back into your life. If you’re chasing behind someone, if you’re worrying about someone who ghosts you then you’re not putting yourself first.
And that means you don’t love yourself. A lot of people were taught to act a certain way – not cocky etc – if you don’t, all people see you as is a doormat. You can let down your guards later when they are fully invested in you and aren’t going anywhere, but until that happens they are there to impress you.
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How do you fall in love with yourself when you aren’t happy with yourself?
Become happy with yourself:
· Do things that make you happy
· Look the way you need to look
· Continue to do this every day until you are happy
Only you can make you happy
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Don’t go out there lookin’ like Plain Jane. Plain Jane gets passed by with the eye.
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The key is confidence. You can learn all you want, if you don’t have confidence you can’t pull it off. The key is confidence, knowing your value, and not listening to no dusties. That’s the key, that’s the masterclass right there – be confident.
Be main character energy. Stop caring what people think. Have a goal of what you want and go for it and don’t stop until you get it. Speak positive about yourself and stop dealing with dusties. That’s just it. You do all those things and you’re going to have something. You’re going to get what you’re looking for. That’s it.
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It’s not what you look like – it’s how you make them feel.
Are you going to make them feel young again?
Are you going to make life exciting for them?
Do they enjoy being with you?
Do they like being seen out in public with you?
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Shera, on when you talk about all your feelings and prior history:
“You’re being an informant on yourself. You’re telling on yourself. You’re giving out all your secrets and revealing everything. So that’s definitely not feminine energy, because feminine energy is naturally dark. You know, it’s water, it’s the cosmos, it’s that. So when you’re revealing everything, when nothing is unknown and everything is known, now you’re masculine. Because that’s light- everything is known. So the more you say, the more you tell, the more you open up, the more masculine you become in that energy, and the less mystery and femininity and feminine allure you have, because now you’re an open book. And they have all the clues to how the story ends and how to manipulate the character.”
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“Feminine energy is naturally dark, is water, is the cosmos, is that. So, when you are revealing everything, nothing is unknown and everything is known, now you’re more masculine, because that is light, everything is known.
So the more you say, the more you tell, the more you open up, the more masculine you become in that energy, and the less mystery and femininity and feminine allure you have because now you are an open book, you’re predictable.
And they have all the clues to how the story ends and how to manipulate the character.”
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Get them to worry about you, while you worry about you.
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How do you find your purpose? You create it.
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Leveling up is actually a lot of fun when you are present and mindful about it it’s probably be the best gift you could ever give yourself as a woman.
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Stop caring what other people think and live the life you want to live. If you don’t like kissing people’s butts, don’t kiss their butt.
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A lot of women don’t realise that if you just get into your feminine, and you stick with your standards, you can get what you ask for.
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How to become detached and unbothered?
Stop caring. When you care too much, that’s when you can’t detach and be unbothered. Stop caring, become ‘take it or leave it’. That’s your attitude. You will be fine with it or without it.
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Comment:
Three years ago I was getting yelled at a public train station (which we had to take because neither of us had a car) by my dusty disgusting ex. I lived in a cheap apartment with four unsavory roomates and their boyfriends. Now I live in a luxury high rise with a conceirge and valet. All I did today was get a facial, sit by the pool and shop. I don’t have to worry about a SINGLE THING and every man in my life treats me like a queen. I’m truly breaking generational curses; my dad left my mom with four kids alone while she worked at Denny’s waitressing overnight. If it weren’t for Shera’s wisdom I don’t know where I would be today but I just give thanks every day that I saw the light. This is my one and only life so why shouldn’t I be living peacefully and bougie.
It’s crazy how fast life can chance when you realize your worth and act on it. Keep on inching further and further; the more luxurious things you do the more the rest of your life catches up. It literally started with me going to the expensive nail salon instead of the cheap one. Then I felt like I deserved more. I moved into a nicer apartment that was out of my budget at first, then a nicer car, then I started buying designer bags and now I live in an ultra-luxurious place. Small steps and the rest of your life will catch up in time. Of course look your best every day and be healthy. And do not give a second of your time to anyone who does not treat you with respect, remember if they’re not adding to your life they are taking away.
The universe somehow just opened up and rains abundance on me. The more you surround yourself with the vibrations of prosperity the more it will be drawn to you. Ella Ringrose on YouTube helped me a lot to draw in money.
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Shera ever since I started watching you I have levelled up my life completely. I lost 50 pounds and changed my whole look to be more feminine. My husband was so motivated he started making more money and bought me a home and my dream car. He does everything I want now and he feels proud to bring me home his paycheck. I no longer work and just workout every day and focus on my children. A lot of my family members don’t understand this life but I am very happy and comfortable.
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If you give yourself away too easily, your value is low.
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10 Important Habits of a Gold Digger
1)high standards
2)high self-esteem
3)perspective
4)purpose
5)options
6)be unapologetic
7)looks
8)business plan
9) knowledge/value of money
10)stay unbothered
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‘Busy patterns that aren’t classy make you look older’. You can show how classy your clothing is by the cut, colour and pattern, not the brand or designer.
Look to magazines for style inspiration:
O magazine = for older women
Instyle = more youthful
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Men need respect, they don’t want your love.
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Wealthy men like women who are thin, feminine, and classy, or classy/sexy.
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Classic = classy. Dress in a way that you wouldn’t look crazy in a photo in 20 years time.
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‘We’re not trying to fit in, we’re trying to stand out.’
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Looking beautiful, adore your blouse and that classy backdrop. I have earrings very similar. I have to go out now, I’m over 60 and always look stylish heading out the door . Make up and a cute dress today. You never know who is at the coffee shop 😊
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Be cute, be feminine, don’t talk so much. Let him do the hard work.
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‘You’re not his momma stop acting like it’ video
Women will turn into their man's mother without realizing it! Then he will run.
A lot of times when a woman has been in a relationship for a long time or is married, they start acting like a mother to the man without even realising it. To avoid that, do these things:
· Totally change everything – change how you dress, put more makeup on, wear heels.
· Act ten years younger.
· Don’t be concerned about the things you used to be concerned about.
· Let everything be free and fly.
· If you once worried about dishes in the sink don’t worry about it anymore.
· Change it up.
· If he realises that you stop caring and you just put all that extra energy that you were nagging and trying to organise and keep stuff right or that you were frustrated about – if you took all that extra energy and put it back into yourself – and you stopped worrying about the house and the domestic issues and him doing this, this and that. He’s going to think, ‘Well dang, everything is out of order, now she’s dressing like this and putting on makeup and looking this way, and the dishes aren’t clean anymore, or she’s not nagging me about picking up my clothes and the room is a mess’, then either he’ll get up and do it or he’ll start turning into your father.
· You mirror what they do and they’re gonna start seeing what you are doing by you have to act that way with them.
· You stop cleaning dishes, you start leaving your stuff on the floor.
· You start dressing cute, and say you’re going out.
· You forget to do stuff, or you stop helping out because you don’t want to damage your nails or the Real Housewives is on.
· Start doing the same thing to him – he watches sport, you say, ‘Oh Housewives is on, I wanna watch it. I don’t wanna watch it later.’
· You don’t do any of this like it’s revenge, just like you joined him in not being responsible, or joined him with more relaxed rules.
· He might like it. He might be like ‘you’re so laid back, you look happy today’.
· Then he might start cleaning up more because it’s not an order.
· But as long as you’re happy and not nagging him, he’s going to do it voluntarily.
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How you act and how you make him feel will give you more power to get what you want.
· Look good
· Be more feminine
· Speak softly
· Smile
· Laugh at whatever he is saying and make him feel good about who he is
· Let him talk more than you
· Feed his ego
· Act vulnerable and he will want to do things for you, will want to please and impress you
(I added:
· Ladylike, dainty, girlish, delicate, compassionate, considerate, sympathetic, tolerant, warm-hearted, gracious
· Calm, refined and tasteful
· Agreeable, friendly, good-natured,
· Kind, moral, pleasant, delightful)
That’s how you get what you want.
Our power is in our femininity, not in our masculinity, not in being in competition with a man, but making them weak because we are giving them exactly what no-one else does and so they’re not used to it and they yield to it and want more of it and they’re going to do what you want.
Being feminine is the key to getting what you want. There is no magic formula; it’s just ‘being feminine’. Work on that and you will get what you want. Work on your baby voice. Work on asking men for things and help, feeling vulnerable around them and stroking their ego and you can pretty much get what you want, especially if you choose the right target. Don’t go up and choose someone who has a thousand options, go up and choose someone who feels lucky to be with you and who will act accordingly.
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Men don’t like jealous women. You look insecure if you show jealousy. If you feel jealous, act like you don’t care – laugh it off.
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Men don’t like to be told what to do or have someone running their life. They don’t need you to offer them suggestions – this will just make them feel like a child, emasculated and they will rebel.
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Have a hobby and have a life.
Have your own life.
Make yourself number one.
Make sure he likes you more than you like him. If he really likes you he is going to chase you and not let you go, and you don’t even have to do anything to make this happen.
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I am not a people pleaser. I live for myself not others. And that’s how you have to be to be unbothered. Be unbothered always and you will live your best life.
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I live in a fantasy world every day. That’s why I can create the world that I want.
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A dream woman is motivation for a man in every way. If you no longer motivate him, you are no longer his dream woman.
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A good actress will melt into her role.
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Instead of waiting and having regret later, make the decision now to do what’s best for you, not what’s best for the outside world and what they think. Do what’s best for you in the long run, not what’s best for you right now in this one moment which will pass. Think ahead. Right now is gone. As soon as you think about it, it’s gone.
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To be a dream woman and to be worshipped by the man you are with, you have to stay focused on you. Don’t be about him. A man’s dream woman does not mean she is all over him. She has a life. Keep a healthy distance instead of being extra clingy. That way you stay on his level. Make sure you appeal to his friends (in a classy way) too. He will see that others appreciate you and know that he has the prize.
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“Put outfits together in your mind when negative people are talking.”
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How to be unbothered?
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‘Fake it till you make it. That’s what happened with me I started to pretend that it didn’t bother me. Now I’m literally so unbothered and focused on myself.’
‘When you are showing that you’re upset or bothered, you are giving them power to know they affected you. I love everyone but I do not argue. I have trained myself not to get emotional even at my husband or family. Being this way also makes you more respected, it’s part of your charisma.’
‘Being unbothered is a choice.’
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If you're over 35 the best ways to look young is to drink a gallon of water a day....it's good for wrinkles..and helps your makeup glide on like butter.
Eat less and eat as much green as you can (Kale, Broccoli, Spinach) so you can be as slim as possible so that you feel good in your clothes....
Work out to increase your confidence...
Dress your age....nothing worse than a woman who dresses out of her age range...makes you look like you're trying too hard...
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Build confidence by not accepting that you have low self-esteem. Every day improve yourself so your self-esteem gets higher and higher. Don’t wallow in it, don’t accept it. Every day tell yourself what you want:
I look good
I feel good
I’m great
Tell yourself that. Give other people compliments, and they will give you compliments. Before you know it, you’ll have high self-esteem. You have to work on it, it doesn’t come automatically. It took a long time to tear down your self-esteem, and it takes a moment to pull it back up.
Just work on it, keep moving forward. Don’t let anyone put you down again.
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How to keep your husband interested
· Less communication
· Less giving of information
· Spend more time apart
· Don’t get so close that he is going to want to back up
· You have to get close then back up, get close then back up again
· Look your best at all times
· Don’t smother people and they won’t try to escape you
· Have a life
· Have things to do
· Have a to-do list that does not require that person
Go out and do things. He will appreciate you more when you get back. He will wonder what you’ve been doing. He will anticipate your return.
Don’t let him conquer you. When men have conquered a woman, they will move on. If he doesn’t feel like he can ever conquer you, he will try harder. Never let him feel like he totally has you.
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Masculine people (men or women) tend to run to the rescue of others.
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Shera, on uplevelling your looks and being your best every time you step out the front door: Don’t let life pass you by. Life is short. Life is very short.
Comment on Shera’s video: My mom went through a season where she dressed up and it just made our whole family and home come alive. I remember when my mom walked into the living room all fixed up and my little cousin's eyes just lit up. He said be careful don't touch her lol. He literally went from seeing her as a plain ol’ aunt to a princess. He was so young, but he couldn't fake it; that was his instincts.
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· It’s not about looking young, it’s about looking good.
· If you miss an opportunity to be levelling up, you are only cheating yourself.
· Stay ready.
· Every day do something to improve yourself - hair, exercise, mindset, self-esteem
· Enjoy getting ready – be creative
· If you’re wearing makeup, go bold. Men want to see the makeup.
· Men like it when you look your best. When you’re out in public, people are judging a man’s status by the type of wife he has, how she looks. You add status to any man that you are with.
· If you are attractive, you will have a lot of friends inviting you out. They will use you to attract attention because you look good. They are going to gravitate towards you and associate you with success. Your appearance will get you further than almost anything else.
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When you’re trying to lure a man in, dress for that man. Men do pay attention to what you look like.
Broke men pay attention to your silhouette. They look at your body because they just want to have sex with you.
Men with money pay attention to what you wear: your clothes, your shoes, your jewellery, your shoes, your hair, everything. Are you appropriate? If he wants to take it to the next level and take you out and get to know you, start a relationship, introduce you to his friends, he isn’t just looking at your body.
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The better you look, the more successful he looks.
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Men are visual creatures. Everything men do is based on that they see. How they treat you is based on what they see.
If you go without makeup, hair not done, and dressed badly, you won’t get the same treatment even by the people who see you every day. When you look good, the people around you have a little bit more respect for you. They see you looking pulled together and to see you any other way is foreign to them.
When you are levelled up, keep this in mind, don’t backslide. When a man meets you looking good, he wants to see you like that for your entire marriage. He doesn’t want you to let yourself go.
Try hard to keep yourself up during your marriage; how you looked when you met him is how he wants to see you forever more.
Men are very visual creatures, so when they see us looking bad, it upsets them. It literally makes them clench inside a little bit because they are so affected by the visual.
You are like a Christmas tree or a beautiful ornament. It’s a pleasure to look at you and they’ll want to be around you just for that.
People may treat you badly because you didn’t keep up your looks - a man could be speaking to another woman or ignoring you.
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“Just act and dress like a feminine lady. You’re making them feel younger by being in their presence. Watch 1950s Hollywood movie stars to watch how those ladies acted.”
Never help a man level up as they will always put you in a maternal role and look at you as a mother figure.
How to change your mindset:
1. Tell yourself that you are no longer allowing people to make you feel bad about something – that’s your choice.
2. Decide that you want to be better, and each day take action towards being better. Your self-esteem will rise from this.
3. Surround yourself with like-minded people so you can influence and help each other.
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People who talk less are generally more well respected.
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“Look for the positive in every negative comment or situation, and you will find it every time.
Whatever your weakness is, make it your strength, to fuel you to the next level. That’s how you really level up from inside. Face your weakness head on. If someone calls you fat, flaunt it. Say, ‘So what? Yes, I eat, I haven’t seen a rib in many decades, but I’m happy. I got a lovely husband, nice house, nice car.’
Instead of being a victim about it, empower yourself with it. Your flaw can be your power. It can be your power if you take it and embrace it and stop focusing on it as an insecurity. The more you focus on something as an insecurity, the more other people will focus on it because they know it’s your weakness and that’s how you get affected. Whatever your flaw is, turn it into something that can give you more than it can take from you. If people say it’s a flaw, take it and turn it into a power.”
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Don’t listen to what people say; what do you think? Opposition creates interest.
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· Be extra feminine in the way you dress, speak, act.
· Be charming - smile, don't argue (and then do exactly what you were going to do anyway).
· Ask for help from your man - opening a jar, lifting something, reaching up high, anything - they love it. Do this three times a day. Say things like 'It's too heavy for me'. Doing this makes them feel protective of you.
· When you are offered help, accept it.
· Talk to men in a feminine baby-voice.
· Practice being feminine and flirty every day to men everywhere so that it becomes second nature. Things such as asking a man for assistance at the supermarket and smiling and saying thank you in a feminine voice.
· Use your feminine charm on everyone around you.
· Look your best, put on makeup every day, smell good, be well groomed, have nice nails.
· Speak to him as if he's a person and not a child - don't try to control him. Mothers control their children and men don't want to have sex with their mother.
· Ask for what you want, but do it in a feminine way.
· Act like the prize to be the prize.
· Be unpredictable - men will get bored of you if you are too predictable. If you are unpredictable it is exciting to them plus scares them a little too. They will wonder why you are different.
· Don't talk so much.
· Mirror how he acts to bring him closer. Say your man is a bit distant; my natural inclination is to wonder what is wrong, try and talk to him etc. That is clingy, a better way to behave is mirror that - be busy doing your own things, happy but busy and let him come looking for you when he comes out of his cave.
· Be feminine in everything you do - surround yourself with reminders of your femininity - i.e. a pink phone cover.
· Be the receiver not the giver.
· Let him think up ideas, with your subtle input.
· Hardly ever text or call him at work, unless you need him to pick up something.
· Dress up every day for no reason.
· Smile.
· Always be levelling up.
· Have a plan B.
· Don't tell him your plans for the day or where you have been - be a little mysterious and let him wonder what you've been up to.
· Keep the mystery alive with privacy - closet, bathroom etc.
· Don't do everything together.
· Have hobbies and interests of your own.
· Make him feel like a man by asking his advice, seeking help from him, not trying to tell him what to do etc.
· Keep up with new trends and the latest styles. Try new looks, buy new clothes, look cute.
· Make him feel younger by being fresh, new and exciting.
· Be excited by life and easily impressed.
· Go on vacation, go out to places.
· Do new things and turn him on to new things. Do new things in bed.
· Change your looks - look different, be different.
· Listen to the latest music.
· Keep up with the latest trends in things.
· Be an exciting adventure.
· Be happy go lucky, not a care in the world, everything is fun.
· Head up, chin up, look around, smile.
· Get all excited when you talk about little things.
· Light up when you talk to people.
· Bring a high energy.
· Wear your hair long and straight or smooth-wavy.
· Be seasonal - with your look/outfit, eating, décor.
· Reinvent yourself regularly.
· Play different characters for fun.
· Channel someone else when you go out.
· Be constantly changing and improving.
· Be a lively woman - bubbly, happy, exciting, smiling, lifts their spirits, fun to be around.
· Grab his hand and pull him along like a child.
· Be energetic and breathe life into others.
· Mirror his body language about 10-30 seconds later.
· Try new things, new looks.
· Practice your charm on waiters etc.
· Be a people watcher in different environments depending on the lifestyle you desire.
· Look from the outside in - how do people view you? How attractive are you?
· Transform yourself.
· Be his ultimate fantasy girl.
· Look good, do your makeup every day.
· Speak to your him as if he is a person and not a child.
· ‘Can you help me/lift that/get me a blanket?’ in a baby voice. Get him used to looking after you. ‘This is too heavy for me, I can’t reach it’. Do this three times a day minimum.
· Ask for what you want in a feminine way.
· Use the baby voice.
· Be extra feminine.
· Be charming – smile, don’t argue – agree (but do exactly what you want anyway).
· Ask for help from men.
· When you are offered anything, accept it.
· Talk to men in a feminine nature.
· Practice being feminine and flirty every do so that it becomes second nature to you – it will become easier with practice.
· Ask questions and smile.
· Play a bit dumb (not stupid; request their knowledge).
· Use your feminine charm on everyone around you – practice on any man to get better.
· Never get too comfortable (don’t let yourself go).
· Keep the illusion going – makeup, hair, lotion, fragrance.
· Look like you did when you first met (me: 66-67kg, long blonde hair, stylish clothes).
· Men are visual creatures and your hair is foremost – long, silky and straight.
· Have your makeup on, look cute.
· Shera’s husband treated her differently when she gained weight and then lost weight.
· Shera’s advice to a lady who gained 40 pounds and now her husband isn’t attracted to her: ‘Lose 40 pounds’.
· Still look sexy even if you’ve been together a while.
· Exfoliate your face and body.
· Have glowing, moisturised skin.
· Use highlighter on your face.
· Wear perfume, body lotion, nicely scented products.
· Wear red lipstick, eye makeup.
· Wear light, modern perfumes.
· Have simple, nice nails.
· Tell him that whatever you want is your ‘ultimate fantasy’.
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If you want to be married to a rich man, dress like a rich man’s wife.
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Be unbothered
It’s so amazing to just not care. You have no idea how much better your life gets when you stop caring. When you stop caring about stuff that’s not beneficial to you, everything blossoms, everything. Because your attention is no longer on anything negative, it’s all on you, and so you blossom.
How to keep your man chasing you? Be busy, don’t call him all the time. Have a hobby or a business and let him have to go looking for you.
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Did you ever feel insecure about your weight?
“No.
At any weight my mental game was tight, it was good. I could get anything I wanted, so it never really held me back. The only thing that would ever make me feel insecure about anything is… I really don’t have a lot of insecurities anymore. I had the normal insecurities of a child. But when I grew up and I understood that you could take your power from any situation, you no longer have insecurities.
If I was insecure about my weight, I wouldn’t be up here on YouTube, and if someone says something about how I look, I don’t care. I say Okay yeah and so what? I’m eating good, I’m living good. It doesn’t bother me, because that’s not what defines me. I’m gonna get paid skinny or fat. I’m gonna be happy at whatever makes me feel happiest. So it’s all about how you feel about yourself and how you value yourself. You don’t base your self-worth on what other people think about you.
And the reason why I teach people you gotta look good if you want to turn heads and make men cross the room is because if you are trying to get a date, yes, you have to be concerned with what other people find attractive. But that should not ever play a role in your own personal self-esteem.
Whatever you need to feel good at the time, tomorrow or today, that’s what you need to be doing.”
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How do you become the prize?
If you don’t start as the prize, then you aren’t the prize. If you don’t know if your mind that you are already the prize then you can never be the prize.
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How to be more feminine so I can be spoiled more?
It’s a lifestyle. You have to act, fake it until you make it, and create a lifestyle. The days that you don’t feel very feminine are the days that you have to use more of your masculine energy.
Remember to always have a space to come back to that is feminine, and recharge yourself with feminine energy. Create a more feminine environment, wear more feminine clothes, listen to music that is going to help your femininity instead of diminishing it.
Keep things that you like to do feminine and do feminine things. Going shopping, getting your nails or hair done, buying shoes, picking out décor for our rooms, decorating tables, going on picnics, watching girly movies.
Recharge yourself by doing some of those things. You need to be able to recharge your femininity at least once or twice a week.
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Live the type of life you want already. It may not be on the scale that you want to live it at, but it needs to be a version of it. For example, if you want to live a soft, feminine life make sure your current life reflects that: your current environment, the current way you dress, the current way you walk, talk and act.
The more you receive, the better treatment you receive, if you can get a provider who can let you live a more feminine life, a softer life, then it's just going to get better and better.
But already live the life you want to live, that way they can only improve you and they see how you treat yourself and see what you like and that’s what they are going to be giving you. Your goals will be met just by dating.
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What are some ways to keep him interested in he provides well?
Look good
Make sure you know what his interest are
Talk to him
Make sure he feels like he is the man
Look good when you are out with him
Make sure you are pretty and heads turn ‘ooh who’s he with’
His self-esteem will skyrocket when you go out with him if you look good and he’s not going to want to leave that
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Men like women to switch it up as long as it’s classy.
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Flower attract bees to them by their bright colours and they smell good. Attract men to you:
· Wear bright pretty colours
· Smell good
· Look fresh, dewy and youthful
· Look attractive
Look like the prize. Look like his fantasy. Look through his eyes: what would he like to see?
It’s not that complicated. Bring it back down to simplicity? What do men like?
Heels
Skirts
Dresses
Makeup
Long hair
Red lipstick
Baby voice
Feminine colours
Make them feel good
Give them compliments
Let them talk
Don’t talk about your boring stuff – they don’t care
Use the formula to get success with men.
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If you want to dress casual in jeans and a cute top, still wear heels, hair, full makeup. If you’re going to wear jeans, you’re going to need to wear heels.
Also think about this: what sort of man are you attracting. If you wear jeans when you meet you’re going to get taken to a jeans date. Dress for the life you want.
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Comment:
When we had a fight I cut my hair short & bangs & went shopping. He was so glad he said “you look like a different person!” The fight was forgotten & he treated me new again & took me shopping again.
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"Life is fun! (...) life is a movie, life is a stage. Get into character... "
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Men don’t care about anything else but what you look like and how you make them feel.
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If you’ve let yourself go, level yourself up to the point that their jaw will drop when they see you.
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The only limitations are the ones you believe in.
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What do rich men’s wives all have in common besides being pretty?
They’re feminine
They’re classy
They’re not loud and obnoxious
They don’t outshine their husband
They hold back and keep it together in public
They are well proportioned
Shera had a friend who was a little rachet, and she ended up marrying wealthy. She had to totally change everything about herself:
The way she dressed
The way she wore her hair
The way she spoke
The kind of shoes she wore
Her makeup
She had to change it all
How she acted around people
How she spoke to men
She had to change everything
It’s not that she changed who she was inside or her personality
It’s that she changed who she was around men
There’s a difference
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Your stock should go up after you get married, not down. If your stock is not rising after marriage you’re doing it backwards. That means still investing into yourself, your beauty, your clothing, into your stash (money, wealth and investments). If you got married and your stock plummeted, that’s your fault.
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Loving yourself means putting yourself first as a priority. Knowing your worth and value and not taking any crap from anybody because you value yourself, you love yourself. That’s all loving yourself means. And not talking down about yourself. And knowing that you deserve what you want in life.
Once you do that other people will as well – men, co- workers, your boss, parents, spouse, brother, sister, cousin, whoever. Whoever is in your life at the moment will recognise that you love yourself and that you don’t have to submit to them or that you’re not desperate for their approval. In fact they may start to be desperate for your approval. So make sure you’re putting yourself first.
Don’t be always talking about the other person and what they want or what they think. Don’t care who they are. Don’t care about other people or their spouse or the person they’re interested in. It’s not about them, it’s about you. If they can’t recognise you and they don’t like you, then you are wasting time.
If you have to sit there and be puzzled about why someone is not responding properly or why they’re not doing this or that, it means they don’t like you so just move on and stop trying to waste time worrying about it. You already know that in the back of your mind; you’re just hoping for a different outcome that there won’t be.
Make sure that when you realise you are putting other people before yourself as a priority then you’re not going to get the type of man or people attracted to you that you need. When you can get somebody in the click of a finger and they’re not used to that it means you are valuable and that they are not necessary. They are very unnecessary and therefore they feel like you have even more value because you don’t need them. You don’t need them, they need you. That’s why they seek you out. That’s why they call you, that’s why they ask you out.
Make sure you’re not getting caught up in silliness. If they’re not putting you first, you’re gone. Or you put them on ice; that means you let them figure it out and when they start acting right again then you allow them back into your life. If you’re chasing behind someone, if you’re worrying about someone who ghosts you then you’re not putting yourself first.
And that means you don’t love yourself. A lot of people were taught to act a certain way – not cocky etc – if you don’t, all people see you as is a doormat. You can let down your guards later when they are fully invested in you and aren’t going anywhere, but until that happens they are there to impress you.
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How do you fall in love with yourself when you aren’t happy with yourself?
Become happy with yourself:
· Do things that make you happy
· Look the way you need to look
· Continue to do this every day until you are happy
Only you can make you happy
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Don’t go out there lookin’ like Plain Jane. Plain Jane gets passed by with the eye.
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The key is confidence. You can learn all you want, if you don’t have confidence you can’t pull it off. The key is confidence, knowing your value, and not listening to no dusties. That’s the key, that’s the masterclass right there – be confident.
Be main character energy. Stop caring what people think. Have a goal of what you want and go for it and don’t stop until you get it. Speak positive about yourself and stop dealing with dusties. That’s just it. You do all those things and you’re going to have something. You’re going to get what you’re looking for. That’s it.
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It’s not what you look like – it’s how you make them feel.
Are you going to make them feel young again?
Are you going to make life exciting for them?
Do they enjoy being with you?
Do they like being seen out in public with you?
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Shera, on when you talk about all your feelings and prior history:
“You’re being an informant on yourself. You’re telling on yourself. You’re giving out all your secrets and revealing everything. So that’s definitely not feminine energy, because feminine energy is naturally dark. You know, it’s water, it’s the cosmos, it’s that. So when you’re revealing everything, when nothing is unknown and everything is known, now you’re masculine. Because that’s light- everything is known. So the more you say, the more you tell, the more you open up, the more masculine you become in that energy, and the less mystery and femininity and feminine allure you have, because now you’re an open book. And they have all the clues to how the story ends and how to manipulate the character.”
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“Feminine energy is naturally dark, is water, is the cosmos, is that. So, when you are revealing everything, nothing is unknown and everything is known, now you’re more masculine, because that is light, everything is known.
So the more you say, the more you tell, the more you open up, the more masculine you become in that energy, and the less mystery and femininity and feminine allure you have because now you are an open book, you’re predictable.
And they have all the clues to how the story ends and how to manipulate the character.”
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Get them to worry about you, while you worry about you.
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How do you find your purpose? You create it.
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Leveling up is actually a lot of fun when you are present and mindful about it it’s probably be the best gift you could ever give yourself as a woman.
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Stop caring what other people think and live the life you want to live. If you don’t like kissing people’s butts, don’t kiss their butt.
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A lot of women don’t realise that if you just get into your feminine, and you stick with your standards, you can get what you ask for.
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How to become detached and unbothered?
Stop caring. When you care too much, that’s when you can’t detach and be unbothered. Stop caring, become ‘take it or leave it’. That’s your attitude. You will be fine with it or without it.
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Comment:
Three years ago I was getting yelled at a public train station (which we had to take because neither of us had a car) by my dusty disgusting ex. I lived in a cheap apartment with four unsavory roomates and their boyfriends. Now I live in a luxury high rise with a conceirge and valet. All I did today was get a facial, sit by the pool and shop. I don’t have to worry about a SINGLE THING and every man in my life treats me like a queen. I’m truly breaking generational curses; my dad left my mom with four kids alone while she worked at Denny’s waitressing overnight. If it weren’t for Shera’s wisdom I don’t know where I would be today but I just give thanks every day that I saw the light. This is my one and only life so why shouldn’t I be living peacefully and bougie.
It’s crazy how fast life can chance when you realize your worth and act on it. Keep on inching further and further; the more luxurious things you do the more the rest of your life catches up. It literally started with me going to the expensive nail salon instead of the cheap one. Then I felt like I deserved more. I moved into a nicer apartment that was out of my budget at first, then a nicer car, then I started buying designer bags and now I live in an ultra-luxurious place. Small steps and the rest of your life will catch up in time. Of course look your best every day and be healthy. And do not give a second of your time to anyone who does not treat you with respect, remember if they’re not adding to your life they are taking away.
The universe somehow just opened up and rains abundance on me. The more you surround yourself with the vibrations of prosperity the more it will be drawn to you. Ella Ringrose on YouTube helped me a lot to draw in money.
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Comment:
Shera ever since I started watching you I have levelled up my life completely. I lost 50 pounds and changed my whole look to be more feminine. My husband was so motivated he started making more money and bought me a home and my dream car. He does everything I want now and he feels proud to bring me home his paycheck. I no longer work and just workout every day and focus on my children. A lot of my family members don’t understand this life but I am very happy and comfortable.
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If you give yourself away too easily, your value is low.
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10 Important Habits of a Gold Digger
1)high standards
2)high self-esteem
3)perspective
4)purpose
5)options
6)be unapologetic
7)looks
8)business plan
9) knowledge/value of money
10)stay unbothered
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‘Busy patterns that aren’t classy make you look older’. You can show how classy your clothing is by the cut, colour and pattern, not the brand or designer.
Look to magazines for style inspiration:
O magazine = for older women
Instyle = more youthful
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Comment:
Men need respect, they don’t want your love.
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Wealthy men like women who are thin, feminine, and classy, or classy/sexy.
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Classic = classy. Dress in a way that you wouldn’t look crazy in a photo in 20 years time.
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‘We’re not trying to fit in, we’re trying to stand out.’
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Comment:
Looking beautiful, adore your blouse and that classy backdrop. I have earrings very similar. I have to go out now, I’m over 60 and always look stylish heading out the door . Make up and a cute dress today. You never know who is at the coffee shop 😊
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Be cute, be feminine, don’t talk so much. Let him do the hard work.
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‘You’re not his momma stop acting like it’ video
Women will turn into their man's mother without realizing it! Then he will run.
A lot of times when a woman has been in a relationship for a long time or is married, they start acting like a mother to the man without even realising it. To avoid that, do these things:
· Totally change everything – change how you dress, put more makeup on, wear heels.
· Act ten years younger.
· Don’t be concerned about the things you used to be concerned about.
· Let everything be free and fly.
· If you once worried about dishes in the sink don’t worry about it anymore.
· Change it up.
· If he realises that you stop caring and you just put all that extra energy that you were nagging and trying to organise and keep stuff right or that you were frustrated about – if you took all that extra energy and put it back into yourself – and you stopped worrying about the house and the domestic issues and him doing this, this and that. He’s going to think, ‘Well dang, everything is out of order, now she’s dressing like this and putting on makeup and looking this way, and the dishes aren’t clean anymore, or she’s not nagging me about picking up my clothes and the room is a mess’, then either he’ll get up and do it or he’ll start turning into your father.
· You mirror what they do and they’re gonna start seeing what you are doing by you have to act that way with them.
· You stop cleaning dishes, you start leaving your stuff on the floor.
· You start dressing cute, and say you’re going out.
· You forget to do stuff, or you stop helping out because you don’t want to damage your nails or the Real Housewives is on.
· Start doing the same thing to him – he watches sport, you say, ‘Oh Housewives is on, I wanna watch it. I don’t wanna watch it later.’
· You don’t do any of this like it’s revenge, just like you joined him in not being responsible, or joined him with more relaxed rules.
· He might like it. He might be like ‘you’re so laid back, you look happy today’.
· Then he might start cleaning up more because it’s not an order.
· But as long as you’re happy and not nagging him, he’s going to do it voluntarily.
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How you act and how you make him feel will give you more power to get what you want.
· Look good
· Be more feminine
· Speak softly
· Smile
· Laugh at whatever he is saying and make him feel good about who he is
· Let him talk more than you
· Feed his ego
· Act vulnerable and he will want to do things for you, will want to please and impress you
(I added:
· Ladylike, dainty, girlish, delicate, compassionate, considerate, sympathetic, tolerant, warm-hearted, gracious
· Calm, refined and tasteful
· Agreeable, friendly, good-natured,
· Kind, moral, pleasant, delightful)
That’s how you get what you want.
Our power is in our femininity, not in our masculinity, not in being in competition with a man, but making them weak because we are giving them exactly what no-one else does and so they’re not used to it and they yield to it and want more of it and they’re going to do what you want.
Being feminine is the key to getting what you want. There is no magic formula; it’s just ‘being feminine’. Work on that and you will get what you want. Work on your baby voice. Work on asking men for things and help, feeling vulnerable around them and stroking their ego and you can pretty much get what you want, especially if you choose the right target. Don’t go up and choose someone who has a thousand options, go up and choose someone who feels lucky to be with you and who will act accordingly.
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Men don’t like jealous women. You look insecure if you show jealousy. If you feel jealous, act like you don’t care – laugh it off.
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Men don’t like to be told what to do or have someone running their life. They don’t need you to offer them suggestions – this will just make them feel like a child, emasculated and they will rebel.
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Have a hobby and have a life.
Have your own life.
Make yourself number one.
Make sure he likes you more than you like him. If he really likes you he is going to chase you and not let you go, and you don’t even have to do anything to make this happen.
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I am not a people pleaser. I live for myself not others. And that’s how you have to be to be unbothered. Be unbothered always and you will live your best life.
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I live in a fantasy world every day. That’s why I can create the world that I want.
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A dream woman is motivation for a man in every way. If you no longer motivate him, you are no longer his dream woman.
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A good actress will melt into her role.
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Instead of waiting and having regret later, make the decision now to do what’s best for you, not what’s best for the outside world and what they think. Do what’s best for you in the long run, not what’s best for you right now in this one moment which will pass. Think ahead. Right now is gone. As soon as you think about it, it’s gone.
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To be a dream woman and to be worshipped by the man you are with, you have to stay focused on you. Don’t be about him. A man’s dream woman does not mean she is all over him. She has a life. Keep a healthy distance instead of being extra clingy. That way you stay on his level. Make sure you appeal to his friends (in a classy way) too. He will see that others appreciate you and know that he has the prize.
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“Put outfits together in your mind when negative people are talking.”
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How to be unbothered?
Comments:
‘Fake it till you make it. That’s what happened with me I started to pretend that it didn’t bother me. Now I’m literally so unbothered and focused on myself.’
‘When you are showing that you’re upset or bothered, you are giving them power to know they affected you. I love everyone but I do not argue. I have trained myself not to get emotional even at my husband or family. Being this way also makes you more respected, it’s part of your charisma.’
‘Being unbothered is a choice.’
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Comment:
If you're over 35 the best ways to look young is to drink a gallon of water a day....it's good for wrinkles..and helps your makeup glide on like butter.
Eat less and eat as much green as you can (Kale, Broccoli, Spinach) so you can be as slim as possible so that you feel good in your clothes....
Work out to increase your confidence...
Dress your age....nothing worse than a woman who dresses out of her age range...makes you look like you're trying too hard...
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Build confidence by not accepting that you have low self-esteem. Every day improve yourself so your self-esteem gets higher and higher. Don’t wallow in it, don’t accept it. Every day tell yourself what you want:
I look good
I feel good
I’m great
Tell yourself that. Give other people compliments, and they will give you compliments. Before you know it, you’ll have high self-esteem. You have to work on it, it doesn’t come automatically. It took a long time to tear down your self-esteem, and it takes a moment to pull it back up.
Just work on it, keep moving forward. Don’t let anyone put you down again.
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How to keep your husband interested
· Less communication
· Less giving of information
· Spend more time apart
· Don’t get so close that he is going to want to back up
· You have to get close then back up, get close then back up again
· Look your best at all times
· Don’t smother people and they won’t try to escape you
· Have a life
· Have things to do
· Have a to-do list that does not require that person
Go out and do things. He will appreciate you more when you get back. He will wonder what you’ve been doing. He will anticipate your return.
Don’t let him conquer you. When men have conquered a woman, they will move on. If he doesn’t feel like he can ever conquer you, he will try harder. Never let him feel like he totally has you.
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Masculine people (men or women) tend to run to the rescue of others.
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Shera, on uplevelling your looks and being your best every time you step out the front door: Don’t let life pass you by. Life is short. Life is very short.
Comment on Shera’s video: My mom went through a season where she dressed up and it just made our whole family and home come alive. I remember when my mom walked into the living room all fixed up and my little cousin's eyes just lit up. He said be careful don't touch her lol. He literally went from seeing her as a plain ol’ aunt to a princess. He was so young, but he couldn't fake it; that was his instincts.
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· It’s not about looking young, it’s about looking good.
· If you miss an opportunity to be levelling up, you are only cheating yourself.
· Stay ready.
· Every day do something to improve yourself - hair, exercise, mindset, self-esteem
· Enjoy getting ready – be creative
· If you’re wearing makeup, go bold. Men want to see the makeup.
· Men like it when you look your best. When you’re out in public, people are judging a man’s status by the type of wife he has, how she looks. You add status to any man that you are with.
· If you are attractive, you will have a lot of friends inviting you out. They will use you to attract attention because you look good. They are going to gravitate towards you and associate you with success. Your appearance will get you further than almost anything else.
~~
When you’re trying to lure a man in, dress for that man. Men do pay attention to what you look like.
Broke men pay attention to your silhouette. They look at your body because they just want to have sex with you.
Men with money pay attention to what you wear: your clothes, your shoes, your jewellery, your shoes, your hair, everything. Are you appropriate? If he wants to take it to the next level and take you out and get to know you, start a relationship, introduce you to his friends, he isn’t just looking at your body.
~~
The better you look, the more successful he looks.
~~
Men are visual creatures. Everything men do is based on that they see. How they treat you is based on what they see.
If you go without makeup, hair not done, and dressed badly, you won’t get the same treatment even by the people who see you every day. When you look good, the people around you have a little bit more respect for you. They see you looking pulled together and to see you any other way is foreign to them.
When you are levelled up, keep this in mind, don’t backslide. When a man meets you looking good, he wants to see you like that for your entire marriage. He doesn’t want you to let yourself go.
Try hard to keep yourself up during your marriage; how you looked when you met him is how he wants to see you forever more.
Men are very visual creatures, so when they see us looking bad, it upsets them. It literally makes them clench inside a little bit because they are so affected by the visual.
You are like a Christmas tree or a beautiful ornament. It’s a pleasure to look at you and they’ll want to be around you just for that.
People may treat you badly because you didn’t keep up your looks - a man could be speaking to another woman or ignoring you.
~~
“Just act and dress like a feminine lady. You’re making them feel younger by being in their presence. Watch 1950s Hollywood movie stars to watch how those ladies acted.”
Never help a man level up as they will always put you in a maternal role and look at you as a mother figure.
How to change your mindset:
1. Tell yourself that you are no longer allowing people to make you feel bad about something – that’s your choice.
2. Decide that you want to be better, and each day take action towards being better. Your self-esteem will rise from this.
3. Surround yourself with like-minded people so you can influence and help each other.
~~
People who talk less are generally more well respected.
~~
“Look for the positive in every negative comment or situation, and you will find it every time.
Whatever your weakness is, make it your strength, to fuel you to the next level. That’s how you really level up from inside. Face your weakness head on. If someone calls you fat, flaunt it. Say, ‘So what? Yes, I eat, I haven’t seen a rib in many decades, but I’m happy. I got a lovely husband, nice house, nice car.’
Instead of being a victim about it, empower yourself with it. Your flaw can be your power. It can be your power if you take it and embrace it and stop focusing on it as an insecurity. The more you focus on something as an insecurity, the more other people will focus on it because they know it’s your weakness and that’s how you get affected. Whatever your flaw is, turn it into something that can give you more than it can take from you. If people say it’s a flaw, take it and turn it into a power.”
~~
Don’t listen to what people say; what do you think? Opposition creates interest.
~~
· Be extra feminine in the way you dress, speak, act.
· Be charming - smile, don't argue (and then do exactly what you were going to do anyway).
· Ask for help from your man - opening a jar, lifting something, reaching up high, anything - they love it. Do this three times a day. Say things like 'It's too heavy for me'. Doing this makes them feel protective of you.
· When you are offered help, accept it.
· Talk to men in a feminine baby-voice.
· Practice being feminine and flirty every day to men everywhere so that it becomes second nature. Things such as asking a man for assistance at the supermarket and smiling and saying thank you in a feminine voice.
· Use your feminine charm on everyone around you.
· Look your best, put on makeup every day, smell good, be well groomed, have nice nails.
· Speak to him as if he's a person and not a child - don't try to control him. Mothers control their children and men don't want to have sex with their mother.
· Ask for what you want, but do it in a feminine way.
· Act like the prize to be the prize.
· Be unpredictable - men will get bored of you if you are too predictable. If you are unpredictable it is exciting to them plus scares them a little too. They will wonder why you are different.
· Don't talk so much.
· Mirror how he acts to bring him closer. Say your man is a bit distant; my natural inclination is to wonder what is wrong, try and talk to him etc. That is clingy, a better way to behave is mirror that - be busy doing your own things, happy but busy and let him come looking for you when he comes out of his cave.
· Be feminine in everything you do - surround yourself with reminders of your femininity - i.e. a pink phone cover.
· Be the receiver not the giver.
· Let him think up ideas, with your subtle input.
· Hardly ever text or call him at work, unless you need him to pick up something.
· Dress up every day for no reason.
· Smile.
· Always be levelling up.
· Have a plan B.
· Don't tell him your plans for the day or where you have been - be a little mysterious and let him wonder what you've been up to.
· Keep the mystery alive with privacy - closet, bathroom etc.
· Don't do everything together.
· Have hobbies and interests of your own.
· Make him feel like a man by asking his advice, seeking help from him, not trying to tell him what to do etc.
· Keep up with new trends and the latest styles. Try new looks, buy new clothes, look cute.
· Make him feel younger by being fresh, new and exciting.
· Be excited by life and easily impressed.
· Go on vacation, go out to places.
· Do new things and turn him on to new things. Do new things in bed.
· Change your looks - look different, be different.
· Listen to the latest music.
· Keep up with the latest trends in things.
· Be an exciting adventure.
· Be happy go lucky, not a care in the world, everything is fun.
· Head up, chin up, look around, smile.
· Get all excited when you talk about little things.
· Light up when you talk to people.
· Bring a high energy.
· Wear your hair long and straight or smooth-wavy.
· Be seasonal - with your look/outfit, eating, décor.
· Reinvent yourself regularly.
· Play different characters for fun.
· Channel someone else when you go out.
· Be constantly changing and improving.
· Be a lively woman - bubbly, happy, exciting, smiling, lifts their spirits, fun to be around.
· Grab his hand and pull him along like a child.
· Be energetic and breathe life into others.
· Mirror his body language about 10-30 seconds later.
· Try new things, new looks.
· Practice your charm on waiters etc.
· Be a people watcher in different environments depending on the lifestyle you desire.
· Look from the outside in - how do people view you? How attractive are you?
· Transform yourself.
· Be his ultimate fantasy girl.
· Look good, do your makeup every day.
· Speak to your him as if he is a person and not a child.
· ‘Can you help me/lift that/get me a blanket?’ in a baby voice. Get him used to looking after you. ‘This is too heavy for me, I can’t reach it’. Do this three times a day minimum.
· Ask for what you want in a feminine way.
· Use the baby voice.
· Be extra feminine.
· Be charming – smile, don’t argue – agree (but do exactly what you want anyway).
· Ask for help from men.
· When you are offered anything, accept it.
· Talk to men in a feminine nature.
· Practice being feminine and flirty every do so that it becomes second nature to you – it will become easier with practice.
· Ask questions and smile.
· Play a bit dumb (not stupid; request their knowledge).
· Use your feminine charm on everyone around you – practice on any man to get better.
· Never get too comfortable (don’t let yourself go).
· Keep the illusion going – makeup, hair, lotion, fragrance.
· Look like you did when you first met (me: 66-67kg, long blonde hair, stylish clothes).
· Men are visual creatures and your hair is foremost – long, silky and straight.
· Have your makeup on, look cute.
· Shera’s husband treated her differently when she gained weight and then lost weight.
· Shera’s advice to a lady who gained 40 pounds and now her husband isn’t attracted to her: ‘Lose 40 pounds’.
· Still look sexy even if you’ve been together a while.
· Exfoliate your face and body.
· Have glowing, moisturised skin.
· Use highlighter on your face.
· Wear perfume, body lotion, nicely scented products.
· Wear red lipstick, eye makeup.
· Wear light, modern perfumes.
· Have simple, nice nails.
· Tell him that whatever you want is your ‘ultimate fantasy’.
~~
If you want to be married to a rich man, dress like a rich man’s wife.
~~
Be unbothered
It’s so amazing to just not care. You have no idea how much better your life gets when you stop caring. When you stop caring about stuff that’s not beneficial to you, everything blossoms, everything. Because your attention is no longer on anything negative, it’s all on you, and so you blossom.
How to keep your man chasing you? Be busy, don’t call him all the time. Have a hobby or a business and let him have to go looking for you.
~~
Did you ever feel insecure about your weight?
“No.
At any weight my mental game was tight, it was good. I could get anything I wanted, so it never really held me back. The only thing that would ever make me feel insecure about anything is… I really don’t have a lot of insecurities anymore. I had the normal insecurities of a child. But when I grew up and I understood that you could take your power from any situation, you no longer have insecurities.
If I was insecure about my weight, I wouldn’t be up here on YouTube, and if someone says something about how I look, I don’t care. I say Okay yeah and so what? I’m eating good, I’m living good. It doesn’t bother me, because that’s not what defines me. I’m gonna get paid skinny or fat. I’m gonna be happy at whatever makes me feel happiest. So it’s all about how you feel about yourself and how you value yourself. You don’t base your self-worth on what other people think about you.
And the reason why I teach people you gotta look good if you want to turn heads and make men cross the room is because if you are trying to get a date, yes, you have to be concerned with what other people find attractive. But that should not ever play a role in your own personal self-esteem.
Whatever you need to feel good at the time, tomorrow or today, that’s what you need to be doing.”
~~
2024.05.19 20:15 No_Set4296 1 year progress on Wegovy
Hi Everyone, I have been using Wegovy for just over a year now so I thought I would finally make a post here.
47F, 5'6", started at 230 lbs and now 166 lbs. (12 months)
I started in May of 2023. I have had the usual side effects, but have learned to manage them. In the first few months the fatigue was the worst. It eventually got better. I still have occasional nausea which I use zofran for. I also drink prune juice every day now and that seems to keep the constipation away.
I titrated up per the normal schedule, with the exception of 0.5 I stayed on for 2 months. When I made it to 2.4, I tried it for about a month and it was just too strong. I could not eat enough to exercise. I have been a regular gym goer for several years (with varying degrees of intensity). I switched back to 1.7 and I am now able to workout as much as I want to and it feels great. I have not lost weight for about a month, but I am okay with that. I am still about 12 lbs higher than a "healthy" BMI and I am okay with that as long as I can keep lifting.
https://preview.redd.it/o92ksw8wcf1d1.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5241f49558c645c56922573fe4d6be9b515ee9da
https://preview.redd.it/12pq2x8wcf1d1.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=291ee9a8ddbc2f387fb20f9fa63fa7420525e6fe
submitted by No_Set4296 to WegovyWeightLoss [link] [comments]
47F, 5'6", started at 230 lbs and now 166 lbs. (12 months)
I started in May of 2023. I have had the usual side effects, but have learned to manage them. In the first few months the fatigue was the worst. It eventually got better. I still have occasional nausea which I use zofran for. I also drink prune juice every day now and that seems to keep the constipation away.
I titrated up per the normal schedule, with the exception of 0.5 I stayed on for 2 months. When I made it to 2.4, I tried it for about a month and it was just too strong. I could not eat enough to exercise. I have been a regular gym goer for several years (with varying degrees of intensity). I switched back to 1.7 and I am now able to workout as much as I want to and it feels great. I have not lost weight for about a month, but I am okay with that. I am still about 12 lbs higher than a "healthy" BMI and I am okay with that as long as I can keep lifting.
https://preview.redd.it/o92ksw8wcf1d1.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5241f49558c645c56922573fe4d6be9b515ee9da
https://preview.redd.it/12pq2x8wcf1d1.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=291ee9a8ddbc2f387fb20f9fa63fa7420525e6fe
2024.05.19 20:06 Conversation-Chance Finally Beat Classic Mode
(Trigger Warning: There was a lot of reload scumming. A lot.)
I finally beat classic mode. I wanted to share my experience and maybe spark some discussion! : )
The Team I Began With:
Began with a Litten, Frigibax, and a Klefki. Litten has an amazing IV spread and is pretty bulky. I'm sure we all know how strong Incineroar can be so there isn't much to explain there. Frigibax is a pokemon that I have never used since I haven't really played the mainline games since Sun & Moon, but man I fell in love instantly. Dragon Darts singlehandedly saved me money by taking Poketrash out between the main fights. The IV spread for him was decent and with his nature being +Speed -Sp.Atk combined with a Soul Dew I got later in the playthrough he usually just took out everything. Not to mention he is reasonably bulky and has a great ability in Thermal Exchange.The Klefki may be a weird choice when there are options like Tinkatink, but my Tinkatink had a very skewed IV spread and less than desirable nature, so for that reason I took the much bulkier Klefki. I figured its more about the typing's immunity to Dragon than the damage output itself.
Getting to, and past, level 20 wasn't too difficult thanks to having Dragon Darts as an egg move early on. From there I needed to grab some coverage Pokemon.
The Team I Caught:
As the run went on, I realized I had really strong late game mons, but nothing that would make taking out a variety of types easy. So, first I caught a Lotad and covered my grass and water needs. Luckily, he had a good IV spread and helpful moves. Next came a Pikachu, I wasn't sure how I felt about getting a Raichu since regardless of how good the IV spread is, the final stage BST isn't much to write home about and it wasn't crazy fast enough to make 100% use of a decent Attack stat. I ended up needing it more at certain times than I thought I would've. Lastly, came Ursaluna, who I have just now realized...IS A DAWG. Oh my stat spread, and with Payback to capitalize on the slow speed stat. Thanks to helping add some more coverage with Arm Hammer and High Horsepower, and being pretty tanky, it played such a pivotal role. (Before Ursaluna, I had caught a Marowak out of desperation, but that was a no-no since I knew there was no way it was going to do anything for me.)
My Luck, and the Battles:
Now, there are some glaring issues on my team. Namely, one fighting type could likely end my run (assuming I cared more about my "dignity" than the completion of the run and decided not to reload). Gym leaders tended to cater to my strengths as I dealt with multiple Water-type and Grass-type leaders, and the only tough battle as far as type matchups was with Roxy, around 50-70 I believe.
My rival, Ivy, in this case, wasn't too abrasive either. A Primarina that was almost always a Water Tera-type made the Fairy threat less, well, threatening. The rest of her squad was pretty lackluster, but had decent coverage I had to be a bit careful about. The Rayquaza was annoying, but much easier to get around than in my past attempts. Level 55 and 145 were probably the ones that required the most retries.
For the Elite Four, I got dealt the Kanto hand. Which at first I thought, "Yes! I'll have a breeze against Lance, and Agatha shouldn't be so bad either. Not to mention I have a decent type matchup against the Water-types and Ice-types from Lorelei!". This was all true. What I forgot was Bruno. Remember how I said that one Fighting-type could probably wipe my squad. Yeah. Hariyama would always swap on when I would set up for the Onix and was too tanky to be done with quickly, but I needed my Ludicolo (who had Zen Headbutt, crappy move for a special attacker to have by the way) to stay alive to take care of the rock snake. Needless to say, I spent the bulk of the reloads on this fight.
The champion, Blue, wasn't too much of a problem. A bit annoying here, a bit annoying there, but what really did it was his very diverse type pool. With a Mewtwo that would always set up Future Sight attacks, and a Gyarados that would always swap on whenever Incineroar would be present to nullify the Future Sight, I had an aggravating, but in reality not too bad of a time.
The last fight: Eternatus. I haven't played Sword and Shield so I didn't know the move pool going into the fight, but I did know he had a lot of Boss Bars (the segmented health). I reloaded a total of three times against Eternatus. The first three attempts ended in a Dynamax Cannon wiping my Baxcalibur and Flamethrower throwing my Klefki to the side. Then arose the true MVP of my team, Ursaluna. This game has spiked my interest in the newer generations more than anything has before. I haven't played them because: 1. I don't own a switch / 2. I didn't like the fight mechanics from Sun & Moon, and so on (I have since changed my mind, but I still don't like Z-moves). / 3. The art style hasn't been as appealing to my nostalgia-loving self as HG/SS. Anyways, that's irrelevant. The point is: Ursaluna is top-10. This may not be founded in any truths, but the stats people, the stats! It took two major hits from Eternamax Eternatus and dropped a health bar every time it hit a High Horsepower. The impact was most evident pre-Dynamax though. After a Fake Out from Incineroar, I switched in Ursaluna, and one hit was all it took to force the Dynamax. Best part is that I kept swapping in a second Pokemon that either had a weakness to Eternatus or was a threat and so it kept ignoring Ursaluna.
The Reload Scumming:
I know this is a point of contention in the community, as it is in any Souls-like or Rogue-lite game that encourages a challenge. I probably reloaded 50+ times. The game is hard and reloading while having Serebii pulled up in the tab besides PokeRogue helped make sure I learned either what I didn't already know (i.e., everything from the newer generations like moves, pokemon, abilities, etc.) and what I did wrong. In my view, completing the game is a challenge regardless of if you reload, or choose not to. The reload is simply quicker. You don't have to go through 144 levels to try another combination of moves, and swaps. At the end of the day this is a fan-made game that we're all meant to have fun in. Whether one person's definition of fun is different than the other's is perfectly fine. In saying this, I would like to thank the developers and everyone in the community for helping create and sustain such a cool medium of Pokemon that we hadn't seen until now.
Thanks for taking the time to read and share your thoughts! I don't know many Pokemon fans in real life so I figured it would be worth discussing with the community here.
submitted by Conversation-Chance to pokerogue [link] [comments]
I finally beat classic mode. I wanted to share my experience and maybe spark some discussion! : )
The Team I Began With:
Began with a Litten, Frigibax, and a Klefki. Litten has an amazing IV spread and is pretty bulky. I'm sure we all know how strong Incineroar can be so there isn't much to explain there. Frigibax is a pokemon that I have never used since I haven't really played the mainline games since Sun & Moon, but man I fell in love instantly. Dragon Darts singlehandedly saved me money by taking Poketrash out between the main fights. The IV spread for him was decent and with his nature being +Speed -Sp.Atk combined with a Soul Dew I got later in the playthrough he usually just took out everything. Not to mention he is reasonably bulky and has a great ability in Thermal Exchange.The Klefki may be a weird choice when there are options like Tinkatink, but my Tinkatink had a very skewed IV spread and less than desirable nature, so for that reason I took the much bulkier Klefki. I figured its more about the typing's immunity to Dragon than the damage output itself.
Getting to, and past, level 20 wasn't too difficult thanks to having Dragon Darts as an egg move early on. From there I needed to grab some coverage Pokemon.
The Team I Caught:
As the run went on, I realized I had really strong late game mons, but nothing that would make taking out a variety of types easy. So, first I caught a Lotad and covered my grass and water needs. Luckily, he had a good IV spread and helpful moves. Next came a Pikachu, I wasn't sure how I felt about getting a Raichu since regardless of how good the IV spread is, the final stage BST isn't much to write home about and it wasn't crazy fast enough to make 100% use of a decent Attack stat. I ended up needing it more at certain times than I thought I would've. Lastly, came Ursaluna, who I have just now realized...IS A DAWG. Oh my stat spread, and with Payback to capitalize on the slow speed stat. Thanks to helping add some more coverage with Arm Hammer and High Horsepower, and being pretty tanky, it played such a pivotal role. (Before Ursaluna, I had caught a Marowak out of desperation, but that was a no-no since I knew there was no way it was going to do anything for me.)
My Luck, and the Battles:
Now, there are some glaring issues on my team. Namely, one fighting type could likely end my run (assuming I cared more about my "dignity" than the completion of the run and decided not to reload). Gym leaders tended to cater to my strengths as I dealt with multiple Water-type and Grass-type leaders, and the only tough battle as far as type matchups was with Roxy, around 50-70 I believe.
My rival, Ivy, in this case, wasn't too abrasive either. A Primarina that was almost always a Water Tera-type made the Fairy threat less, well, threatening. The rest of her squad was pretty lackluster, but had decent coverage I had to be a bit careful about. The Rayquaza was annoying, but much easier to get around than in my past attempts. Level 55 and 145 were probably the ones that required the most retries.
For the Elite Four, I got dealt the Kanto hand. Which at first I thought, "Yes! I'll have a breeze against Lance, and Agatha shouldn't be so bad either. Not to mention I have a decent type matchup against the Water-types and Ice-types from Lorelei!". This was all true. What I forgot was Bruno. Remember how I said that one Fighting-type could probably wipe my squad. Yeah. Hariyama would always swap on when I would set up for the Onix and was too tanky to be done with quickly, but I needed my Ludicolo (who had Zen Headbutt, crappy move for a special attacker to have by the way) to stay alive to take care of the rock snake. Needless to say, I spent the bulk of the reloads on this fight.
The champion, Blue, wasn't too much of a problem. A bit annoying here, a bit annoying there, but what really did it was his very diverse type pool. With a Mewtwo that would always set up Future Sight attacks, and a Gyarados that would always swap on whenever Incineroar would be present to nullify the Future Sight, I had an aggravating, but in reality not too bad of a time.
The last fight: Eternatus. I haven't played Sword and Shield so I didn't know the move pool going into the fight, but I did know he had a lot of Boss Bars (the segmented health). I reloaded a total of three times against Eternatus. The first three attempts ended in a Dynamax Cannon wiping my Baxcalibur and Flamethrower throwing my Klefki to the side. Then arose the true MVP of my team, Ursaluna. This game has spiked my interest in the newer generations more than anything has before. I haven't played them because: 1. I don't own a switch / 2. I didn't like the fight mechanics from Sun & Moon, and so on (I have since changed my mind, but I still don't like Z-moves). / 3. The art style hasn't been as appealing to my nostalgia-loving self as HG/SS. Anyways, that's irrelevant. The point is: Ursaluna is top-10. This may not be founded in any truths, but the stats people, the stats! It took two major hits from Eternamax Eternatus and dropped a health bar every time it hit a High Horsepower. The impact was most evident pre-Dynamax though. After a Fake Out from Incineroar, I switched in Ursaluna, and one hit was all it took to force the Dynamax. Best part is that I kept swapping in a second Pokemon that either had a weakness to Eternatus or was a threat and so it kept ignoring Ursaluna.
The Reload Scumming:
I know this is a point of contention in the community, as it is in any Souls-like or Rogue-lite game that encourages a challenge. I probably reloaded 50+ times. The game is hard and reloading while having Serebii pulled up in the tab besides PokeRogue helped make sure I learned either what I didn't already know (i.e., everything from the newer generations like moves, pokemon, abilities, etc.) and what I did wrong. In my view, completing the game is a challenge regardless of if you reload, or choose not to. The reload is simply quicker. You don't have to go through 144 levels to try another combination of moves, and swaps. At the end of the day this is a fan-made game that we're all meant to have fun in. Whether one person's definition of fun is different than the other's is perfectly fine. In saying this, I would like to thank the developers and everyone in the community for helping create and sustain such a cool medium of Pokemon that we hadn't seen until now.
Thanks for taking the time to read and share your thoughts! I don't know many Pokemon fans in real life so I figured it would be worth discussing with the community here.
2024.05.19 19:59 Life-Ambition1432 Getting into a bodybuilding routine changed my life
Hi guys,
I just wanted to share a success story which might help others. I have been suffering with anxiety for years mainly due to a highly stressful job, which I have recently quit and found something much less stressful which could have also contributed. I also spiralled into deep depression from June last year to January this year.
Changing jobs aside I think the main factor I believe in my recovery was focusing on the gym and really throwing myself into it. When you go to the gym and start lifting weights, you have both long term gratification and instant gratification. You feel good when you’ve worked out but also you have an idea of what you want to look like in the future. I have become so focused on these short and long term goals it has taken over my negative thoughts and I am feeling so much better.
It starts to take over small parts of your life, instead of skipping meals you focus on eating more food and eating healthily. You cut out all the things which could stop you achieving your goals such as alcohol and drugs which we all know are bad for your mental health in the long run.
It actually got me off taking benzodiazepines because I had another way of getting the stress out of my body. I am basically off my SSRI now, only on the smallest dose available and I eventually plan on coming off altogether - I feel ready for it.
You get tired from pushing yourself so it helps with the insomnia. It becomes somewhat of a lifestyle and I wake up looking forward to working out.
I find it best to do it in the morning because my anxiety was always worse in the morning than the evening. When i go, I feel 10x better when I get home. Instead of googling about anxiety and sitting on Reddit talking about how awful the world is, you find yourself googling best exercises for chest, legs, shoulders, different types of workout styles etc.
I would 100% anyone suffering with mental health to incorporate going to the gym and lifting weights 6 times per week. Put yourself and your body first. It might not cure you but it sure as well won’t hurt. I am much more confident now, enthusiastic and energetic.
If you feel as though you don’t have the energy push yourself to spend 45 mins in the gym. What else are you going to spend that 45 mins doing? Sat watching Netflix, scrolling on tik tok, feeling worse about yourself? Go sit in your car for 5 minutes and if you still don’t have the energy to go, then don’t, but I guarantee once you’re in your gym gear and sat in your car and you will go. Spend some money on gym clothes, supplements etc. and then you will feel guilty for not going - it will encourage you.
Just 5 months ago I was so low, no energy, not eating, and I gradually forced myself into this routine and I’ve never felt better. I hope this post brings some inspiration to others and sorry for the long paragraph. If anyone would like to chat about workout routines or how to get motivated just message me.
submitted by Life-Ambition1432 to mentalhealth [link] [comments]
I just wanted to share a success story which might help others. I have been suffering with anxiety for years mainly due to a highly stressful job, which I have recently quit and found something much less stressful which could have also contributed. I also spiralled into deep depression from June last year to January this year.
Changing jobs aside I think the main factor I believe in my recovery was focusing on the gym and really throwing myself into it. When you go to the gym and start lifting weights, you have both long term gratification and instant gratification. You feel good when you’ve worked out but also you have an idea of what you want to look like in the future. I have become so focused on these short and long term goals it has taken over my negative thoughts and I am feeling so much better.
It starts to take over small parts of your life, instead of skipping meals you focus on eating more food and eating healthily. You cut out all the things which could stop you achieving your goals such as alcohol and drugs which we all know are bad for your mental health in the long run.
It actually got me off taking benzodiazepines because I had another way of getting the stress out of my body. I am basically off my SSRI now, only on the smallest dose available and I eventually plan on coming off altogether - I feel ready for it.
You get tired from pushing yourself so it helps with the insomnia. It becomes somewhat of a lifestyle and I wake up looking forward to working out.
I find it best to do it in the morning because my anxiety was always worse in the morning than the evening. When i go, I feel 10x better when I get home. Instead of googling about anxiety and sitting on Reddit talking about how awful the world is, you find yourself googling best exercises for chest, legs, shoulders, different types of workout styles etc.
I would 100% anyone suffering with mental health to incorporate going to the gym and lifting weights 6 times per week. Put yourself and your body first. It might not cure you but it sure as well won’t hurt. I am much more confident now, enthusiastic and energetic.
If you feel as though you don’t have the energy push yourself to spend 45 mins in the gym. What else are you going to spend that 45 mins doing? Sat watching Netflix, scrolling on tik tok, feeling worse about yourself? Go sit in your car for 5 minutes and if you still don’t have the energy to go, then don’t, but I guarantee once you’re in your gym gear and sat in your car and you will go. Spend some money on gym clothes, supplements etc. and then you will feel guilty for not going - it will encourage you.
Just 5 months ago I was so low, no energy, not eating, and I gradually forced myself into this routine and I’ve never felt better. I hope this post brings some inspiration to others and sorry for the long paragraph. If anyone would like to chat about workout routines or how to get motivated just message me.
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2024.05.19 19:49 mikestro1 Smallest class size
There are often questions on this sub on how large a class size is. My question is how small does a class size have to be to be cancelled at your gym? Do you like to be the only one in class why? Why not?
For mine, a class will only be cancelled if there are 0 people signed up. I have been the only person in class and it is still held. Being in a college town we usually see a drop in members this time of year as the kids go home for summer. So class size takes a big hit. When I am the only one in class I effectively get personal training. Often times the coach will do the workout with me which is motivating.
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For mine, a class will only be cancelled if there are 0 people signed up. I have been the only person in class and it is still held. Being in a college town we usually see a drop in members this time of year as the kids go home for summer. So class size takes a big hit. When I am the only one in class I effectively get personal training. Often times the coach will do the workout with me which is motivating.
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