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2024.05.20 08:52 fellie5 How the hell do you awaken a Zoan?

First of all, I might just be misunderstanding something, so some of my assumptions may just straight up be wrong, feel free to point it out. Second, english is not my native language, so please excuse any spelling/grammar issues.
Okay, so first of all, from what I understanf just mastering your Devil Fruit doesn't mean you can awaken it, you also have to push the limits of what your Devil fruits intended use is by using it in increasingly unique and creative ways until you "break" the limits of your Devil Fruit. Take Doffy for example, he was able to do surgery on himself, fly and create a clone with his strings, witch I'm sirtine wasn't the "intended" use of his fruit, and thus he was able to awaken his Devil Fruit. Now I believe luffy was able to awaken his Devil fruit by creating the gears, as wel as Red Hawk/Roc, as he "stretched" the limits of his rubber body, by increasing blood flow, bone and muscle mass and creating friction. So how did Lucci awaken his Devil Fruit? How did he push the limits of what a leopard is? And how would someone like Kaido or Sengoku push what a Dragon and Budha is?
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2024.05.20 08:40 Delicious_Net_900 Should I have sex with my ex?

Currently he is 37years old & I 32 years old.dorry in advanced it's a long story ,but I think its important to know the past history for the best advice..
We met in 2012 dated 4 years,I broke up with him cause I felt a lack of affection after years together & maybe there was someone else,he promised there was nobody else but,after time my insecurities & instincts said different.as a women we see the signs,there was inconsistencies so I called it...& 2weeks later he texted me asking if I was going to ever tell him about my pregnancy if he didn't ask..šŸ‘€šŸ‘€šŸ‘€Iwas stunned, immediately shot up & I went to the Drs & found out I was 16weeks pregnant with our son.i had irregular periods so a missed period wasn't alarming & I was on birth control.he met me up at the Drs ,we talked it out,we got back together & broke up agin just before Our son being born, he found out he had gotten another woman pregnant during our split & the woman was keeping the child,he wasn't there for our son's birth nor to sign the certificate (his choice)..I got a lawyer & we had all forms ready we just needed him to sign off his rights.he got a lawyer & refused to sign.before court we decided to handle this no lawyers just us raising our son as best as we both could without involvement of the state.
Never the less hes a loving father to our son,not the most active father since he moved 8 hrs away due to work but,he makes it work by having daily communication with our son & financially helping me monthly for my son's expenses we have a shared bank account he adds funds to monthly & anything our son wants or requires sports gears, clothing,shoes etc is all charged into this card.we have a great relationship as friends now.we speak not daily but constantly keep in contact & if we ever need to talk or vent we can normally call each other..it wasn't easy the first few years alot of bickering.
the other women disappeared completely after she found out about my son & I & he never saw or heard of her again,he tried contacting her,but no response all he had was a name & number & eventually the number was disconnected..they had a mutual friend & he's asked for my brothers help since my brother is a private investigator & the woman not long after birthing the bby married & the husband wanted to adopted the child as his own,since he had a motorcycle accident many years ago hurting his man part's causing him to go sterile.. My ex came in contact with them & they wanted to met us & we flew out to meet them in South Carolina & they asked my ex to sign off his rights,which he did after a few days of thinking about it,the boy looks identical to my son,almost like I was looking at my son younger...both the woman & her husband where so sweet & nice people,my ex got to hold his son & I took a picture of them for him to have with both boys..he seemed conflicted & full of regrets after signing,he struggles with this some days,but accepted that maybe this is better for the child.this was in 2018 our son was 3ish 4 years old.
We do family vacations all 3 of us during our sons school breaks & I love them! My son loves them! We have a blast,my son gets to spend time with his parents & see us get along & be friends & all 3 of us just stay partying, sometimes dad & I drink a little bit more than we planned,not waisted just slightly buzzed,we get extra silly & loud & our son says we are more playful when we drink adult grape juice (we are winešŸ·ppl) šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ«£ but never get hung over . we brain storm about our next adventure while on vacation I recently took us to Disneyland & DCA during spring break 1 week of fun,I live near Disney so dad stayed with us..this upcoming late June he wants us to go to him & camp in an RV at the beach..he FT me last night showing me the RV his uncle is letting us barrow..its beautiful! queen bed master room &a garage for the golf cart & 2ATV he's letting us use,a separate room with a twin bed ,an attached patio it's luxurious! Kitchen, bathroom/shower..the works! after our call ended,he texted me if id be ok with sharing a bed with him & our son take the twin bed alone,we normally share a bed while on vacation,but usually our son is with us..I was hesitant for a sec ,but I thought about it & thought it would be nice if I wasnt on the edge for once & wake up to my son on top of me or a foot or hand on my face,so i agreed,he's always been respectful & we have boundaries & both respectful of that..
it's been years since we where together,but then he asked if we could have casual sex too.. He mentioned that every vacation we go on he usually craves me & he's started to grow feelings for me agin.i have noticed he's more touchy,but I assumed we where just comfortable around eachother & he said last time he saw me at Disney he'd lean on in me to smell me & when I'd hold his face as he leaned on me he loved it, that it would do things for him.. he adorably asked me to dance with him,I noticed something when I looked in his eyes,I blushed & said "what!?" & He smiled & said "nothing, you just look nice dancing with the castle behind you." We ended the dance with a very well timed spin & a bow from him & a curtsy from me. My son recorded the whole firework show & us dancing & the video ends with him giggling telling his dad he cought us dancing & his dad giving him a thumbs up..almost like it was planned šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚..
I'm scared! I don't think I can handle casual sex with this man or a relationship there's a lot of history between us & insecurities that will arise...now I'm nervous about our future co parenting,shits gonna be awkward now.
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2024.05.20 08:35 Etherealmama3 Striking the match, and just cannot stop pouring the gas

TW mention of childhood trauma, fertility; ab*rtion and miscarriage
I (26, F) live with my partner (28 M) of two and a half years and our Irish twins (19 months and 5 months old) we have a long and complicated history to say the least. (10+ years) A timeline for some context would be that we met young, freshman and juniors in high school; we went to different schools, made up, broke up a few times and always kept a very tight friendship in between young spouts of infidelity and overall teen bs. In my youth I experienced many pregnancy complications, which led to some emotional trauma for me. (More context here; one miscarriage was my partnerā€™s when we were young and I didnā€™t tell himā€” it wasnā€™t right, but a confusing time for me) Through everything we always came back to each other. I lived a rougher life with minimal support, while his parents fawned over him constantly, and always had a higher quality of life. (Not yucky rich people, people who worked hard and wanted their child to enjoy the benefits). His parents loved me and I kept him far away from my familyā€™s mess. That is, until I got pregnant.
My partner and I, letā€™s call him Drew, were not together at the time I conceived our first child. I told him the truth- he wasnā€™t my only current partner and that I respected him enough to tell him outright immediately; I told him that I love him, and I would chose him, and would consider and ab*rtion even though it would destroy me. I would do it, to earn trust back, and solidify us together again, as Iā€™ve always wanted. He said he could never let me do that, but the fact that I put that out on the table showed how much I valued him in this time. We slowly worked on us, and welcomed our first healthy baby together! It was so beautiful! He meant my family, I slowly realized again why I kept them away, but I put my best foot fwd to build a strong ā€œfamilyā€ foundation.
I felt myself treading on eggshells emotionally because I knew he was taking on a lot- id moved in with him and his parents for us to save money and get secure, he worked full time, and prepared fully for a baby he wasnā€™t sure would be his. (Context: we only found out our first child was his recently through paternity, we did not test @ the hospital as the child arrived premature and emotionally we clung together tho feelings may have been unresolvedā€” Drew secretly got a test recently) Iā€™m sure there was plenty he has not said to me as he worked through his emotions and fell so madly in love with our child so quickly, that everything went to the side. ALTHOUGH we were going out once a week, and were the happiest at this point in my opinion. I had no postpartum issues and things were moving in a positive direction!
We begin to find normal life again when BOOM! Baby #2ā€“ this timeā€” Drew was thrilled! Bouncing around ecstatic! This pregnancy was ALSO very healthy! Very good! Both made me very sick, but I managed better than many women who get it far far worse than I did. This is where some conflict arrises. At this point with baby number 2, I want to move out. Asap. Obviously heā€™s breadwinner but long story short, we move out. Weā€™ve now been here 6 months and things have gotten bad as of recent. My family lives very close by, which has caused some conflict. I start to see ā€œexpectationsā€ being let down. With ourfirst child I was SO SAD that he didnā€™t get me flowers, so Iā€™d assumed (stupid I know) that he would get some for me, and it wouldnā€™t happen, for example.
I feel like Iā€™ve gotten no postpartum care after our second child. He was ā€œexhaustedā€ in the hospital when I was recovering and not paying much attention to me. When we got home, no real physical affection that didnā€™t feel sexually driven. I canā€™t explain it? Like he just didnā€™t care about me anymore? I tried explaining and felt low key bullied out of everything I was feeling, ā€œthatā€™s not what I meant, Iā€™m sorryā€ Iā€™d believe it, we move on. At a point it began feeling too disrespectful. Mind you, now Iā€™m only a few weeks PP, still bl*eding from birth and really needing to feel loved, but in a different way? More emotional. Iā€™ve only had my last child 14 months prior before his one was born, my body and brain are traumatized to say the least- at this point. Things escalate.
We get into heated arguments that I begin SCREAMING. He gets disrespectful and dismissive which sends me spiraling, and we go back and forth for a few weeks. I will explain, in detail, what I need, and still wonā€™t get it. Or may receive a snarky remark on why I didnā€™t get treated the way I asked- after a while of this repeating- I finally snap. I put my hands on him. I disgusted myself. I shook in anger and he laughed in a way Iā€™ve never seen. It terrifies me. Itā€™s happened one other time now, which was worse than the first. This ends up happening as a result of him trying to retreat to sleep, where I feel dismissed, and frankly just gross that he leaves me in tears to sleep, that u stomp into the room and continue the argument. He will say things like ā€œI just canā€™t do this I am too tiredā€ and ā€œI donā€™t care Iā€™m too tired to careā€ and I continue to spiral. I emotionally abuse him when I go in and just cannot let it go, but I cannot sleep from the anxiety of an unresolved issue (especially ones where he is very mean and stomps off to sleep, something in my brain is so abandoned in that moment I almost demand him to love me like he claims he does) it is like my fight or flight like I need him to help me calm down because I love him and want to feel safe with him.
More context; this man has NEVER been mean to me. I believe this is a result of him not being watered/appreciated out loud by me, but always needing to ā€œprovide somethingā€ for me. The issue is the things he does (a lot) donā€™t need to be done. But the few small things I NEED done are never ever done (example, a clean bottle for the 6am feed before bed to help me a little) instead I wake up to a sink full of bottles and starving baby. Etc. so because I am SO LOW I feel unable to provide that nurture for him. When I beg for that nurture he claims to not have it for me. He doesnā€™t listen to me, constantly does things I ask him not to, etc. I love him so much. I just feel so hated. I feel like he has never been sorry for things in our past, nor is he sorry about how I feel now, he just wants me to shut up (he doesnā€™t say that, he doesnā€™t even yell). More context I do work FT as well as care for our children alongside him. I over extend myself to many friends and am very extroverted so he doesnā€™t mind me going out a few days a week for an hour or two to relax. In many ways I am SO lucky to have him!!! In others, his words and actions feel so spiteful and resentful. I feel so overwhelmed and like I am giving my all, but have no safe place to fal. I also believe I provide him that same feeling.
Tonight, I drug him out of bed again, I needed him so badly. He was too tired. He ended it with ā€œmaybe this is just who you are. Maybe I just donā€™t love youā€ then fell asleep. A few minutes later, I woke him quietly after I cried, moved him to th bed where he said ā€œI love youā€. And it just hurts.
I feel like I single handedly destroyed my best friend and the love of my life from postpartum anxiety. Please help me get better (I know I need therapy badly I am looking into it immediately) I am so lost. Please help me.
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2024.05.20 08:22 samurhaj EU servers population survey

Hi everyone, if you are from european english server please take a moment to fill this survey there are only 2 questions and after your answer you can see everyones answers.
1st Q = server name
2nd Q = total number of players in Infernal battleground leaderboards - All classes summed Up together (requires a little bit of scrolling in game to get this data)

Example: Dark Exile Sightless eye Arreat Summit unspoken = 1341

LINK:
https://forms.gle/kwCVkbRTcUidxZzZ7
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2024.05.20 08:12 Ill-Goose79 AITA for wanting to focus on myself?

I (23f) am going through many changes in life recently and all of these things have occurred over the last month and a half. To say Iā€™m drained is an understatement. (Sorry in advance, this post is going to be a little lengthy.)
For example, my father had two strokes at the start of this year, which destroyed me (even though my father and I are not very close), & I am currently seven months pregnant with my second child. This pregnancy has also been VERY tough compared to my first, so Iā€™m really trying to push through as best I can. I have severe pain in my lower back and pelvis, which make it excruciating to do anything. This wasnā€™t something that happened during my first pregnancy either, so Iā€™m trying to take it easy as humanly possible. On top of that, Iā€™m still fighting postpartum depression and itā€™s kicking my butt. However, there are two other major life events Iā€™ve faced on top of this that are absolutely killing me lately.
The first event is me going back to work. I will only be working until I give birth again, but itā€™s very taxing on my body and my mental health. It may sound silly, but I have been a stay at home mom for the last 7-8 months to my firstborn child. I absolutely adore this new role with my whole heart, it brings me so much joy. I just didnā€™t have the intention of going back to work any time soon, so this change caught me off guard. After not working for such a long period of time, itā€™s become very difficult for me to go back for a few reasons. It means having to leave my 9 month old baby during prolonged amounts of time, and Iā€™m not used to that yet. Itā€™s made my heart sad to do it, but weā€™re in a financial crunch in my household, so going back to work was the only suitable option to help take care of bills with my partner. While this change is only temporary, Iā€™m still having a tough time trying to adjust to it. It also means getting used to my line of work again (I cook in a restaurant), the peaks of busy hours, being on my feet for hours at a time, etc. Working in such a demanding industry is hard when youā€™re pregnant, and thatā€™s something Iā€™m trying to get used to again too. For some background info, I worked through the entirety of my first pregnancy and it wasnā€™t easy the first time either.
The other major life change Iā€™m dealing with is that Iā€™ve lost my sister (27f) in a horrific car accident last month. Iā€™m very numb to this whole situation, and Iā€™m in shock. My mom and I are the only two people in our family who have taken charge to give her a proper funeral too. As you could imagine, itā€™s a TON of stress for just two people to handle. From starting a campaign to raise money to pay for the funeral costs, to writing her obituary, Iā€™ve been working my ass off trying to make sure this goes as smoothly as possible. I love my sister dearly, and Iā€™m honored to have such a big role in this. However, itā€™s becoming much harder each day. Our mom is putting a ton of pressure on me by giving me handfuls of tasks while she handles the smaller responsibilities in all of this. Iā€™ve launched the campaign for expenses, I am writing the obituary, Iā€™ve picked out a guest list, made a social media page for guests to RSVP to the service, collected photos, gathered a location for her celebration of life, and Iā€™ve also gone to several meetings at the funeral home to discuss details of the service as well on top of a few other things too. Iā€™m doing all of this while trying to be a happy mother, go to work, being pregnant, and trying to handle my own life stresses. I manage money in my household, so I budget everything. I do the shopping, cleaning, etc. Not to mention, Iā€™ve been playing the part of a support system to my mother and my sisters father during this time. On my days off from work, Iā€™m not relaxing or taking it easy as I should be. Iā€™m taking care of my child while my partner is working, Iā€™m also juggling the funeral responsibilities, and trying to figure out how to keep my household afloat. I barely have had time to take care of myself and Iā€™m drowning.
Hereā€™s where the issue comes into play. My mom wants me to do a handful more things for the service, as itā€™s approaching at the end of the month. I just donā€™t have the heart to tell her that Iā€™m exhausted and would prefer her to do it. I didnā€™t sign up for all of these responsibilities either, it was just given to me when all of this happened. I didnā€™t say no originally either because itā€™s my sister, you know? I love her and want her to have a proper send off, I am just so overwhelmed at this point.. My mom has only handled the songs she would like to hear at the service, sending in the photos Iā€™ve gathered, and attending meetings with the funeral home. Iā€™ve done literally everything else. Now, she wants me to do more. My mother doesnā€™t work, she stays at home a majority of the time. She babysits my son for two days out of the week for two hours max while Iā€™m at work. She has the time to do all of the extra things, whereas I do not. I just want to focus on my own mental well being and my at home life right now. My days off from work have been filled with all of lifeā€™s problems and struggles, and they donā€™t rest on the days that I do work either. I havenā€™t even really begun to process the loss of my sister. I think about her, but it hasnā€™t even really hit me yet.. I havenā€™t had a day to myself to think or even do my laundry.. Iā€™m just so exhausted of life. AITA for wanting her to handle the last bit of responsibilities so I can take a step back and focus on myself and my home life before the funeral?šŸ˜ž
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2024.05.20 08:01 ShaunImSorry Hello ID, Experienced graphics and 3D Instructor wanting to switch to ID. Got some pieces figured out need advice on the rest

Hi everyone Short into I am an Unreal Engine instructor that runs my own online training center for game engine training.
I also self taught my self how to deploy say Moodle or open edx on an aws instance and author courses on it.
Currently my company uses thinkific for our lms as it provided everything we need.
Q: if you have your own shop,why move to ID
A:Spending on online training for graphics and gaming is trending down, YouTube is where everybody goes so I moved there too. This allowed more folks to learn from me and gets me a little side income.
Ok so on to my missing pieces that I need help with.
A-Since I lack experience in a formal ID role how does one make up for it ? Create samples using articulate ?
B-following from the previous example a folio seems to be vital to landing a role. Is a folio website a website about me as an educator or more a portfolio (artist here so I might be reading the team folio wrong) of learning experiences you have crafted.
C: I keep reading mixed things about certifications, while I am reading up on theories like Addie, would certifications get me much milage considering I know animation / graphics / video editing and lms management ? (Articulate is missing here that I'm working on)
Beyond all this I'm slowly going to spend the next 3/4 months studying and prepping for the switch. Coursera has a course on it that I am thinking of doing.
At any rate Thank you for reading the text wall
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2024.05.20 07:59 7coaching If You Want to Turn YouTube into a Business, Please Read [advice]

Hey dude I'm going to keep this introduction short and to the point.
This is what I learned for youTube success.
These strategies work, no BS, they work, they work very well.
And I write this as I know you may be like I was some time ago (wanting to turn content into a long term business).

Iā€™ve tested these methods on new & existing channels both big and small and even with channels that do not have English as their native language.

These can really make a huge, huge, huge difference in your YouTube success.

1. Audience Understanding Leads To Steering Success.

You hear a loud noise coming from the crew on the deck of your ship.

"CAPTAIN, ARE YOU THERE?"

"WE HAVE A SITUATION".

You make your way to the deck to address the noise.

ā€œCalm down, you blubbering seadogs! Whatā€™s the problem?ā€

ā€œIā€™m sorry, Captain, but we have a dangerous situation. Weā€™ve entered deep seas, and thereā€™s no land in sight. Just miles and miles of ocean in every direction. We canā€™t see anything. We urgently need navigation but we donā€™t have a compass onboardā€

If you find yourself as a captain of a ship without a compass, youā€™re in a very dangerous situation. ~Similarly~, growing a YouTube channel without a deep understanding of your audience is like trying to sail the seas without a clear direction.

Your audience holds a treasure chest full of desires, fears, wants, and needs.

Just like a real treasure chest full of gold, this theoretical chest provides everything you need to reach success, whether thatā€™s financial wealth or success on the platform.

Iā€™m not joking; this is far more important than most people realize.

Why is this so crucial?

If you donā€™t know your audience, you donā€™t know what they truly desire. Those who can deliver on those desires will reap the rewards. During my time auditing and coaching, I found that most creators DID NOT deeply understand their audience.

BUT this information tells you nearly everything you need to know.

Hereā€™s an example: before writing this post, I did extra research on YouTube creators.

I looked at Reddit, YouTube comments, and YouTube growth books on Amazon to see what the comments were saying. Here are the fears I found most YouTubers face:

And thisā€¦ is my treasure chest that allows me to help more people, reach a larger audience, and tailor my content to what people really care about.

What Iā€™m saying is, you can do the same for your audience. This will give you countless new ideas, directions, products, services, and bring true value to the market.

But without knowing these, youā€™re trying to sail the sea without a compass, hoping to find land.

2. If You Have A Channel, You Need A Brand.


Running a YouTube channel without a brand is like serving a Big Mac without any lettuce, onions or picklesā€¦ sure it will fill you up but it's nothing to write home about.

Donā€™t allow your channel to be the plain Big Mac

In terms of YouTube, a brand is a channel that is known to have a certain style or cover topics within the niche which the audience enjoys time & again.

*Short Question*

If we lined up 100 people who watch your videos as well as other creators in your niche, how would they define YOU and YOUR channel?

Would they say ā€¦

"Love how concise the channel isā€”straight to the point!"
"The depth of content is greatā€”I could watch them for hours!"
"It's alright, but I wish they would cut to the chase."
"Incredible! I've always wanted to learn this, and the videos made it so simple."
"It dragged on a bitā€”lost my interest partway through."

There are many ways you can create a brand, such as personality, delivery of content but whatever direction you go into, a unique brand on YouTube is essential because it helps your channel **STAND OUT*\* by creating a distinctive ~look~ and feel.

This attracts viewers and keeps them coming back for more & more. Think about some of the reasons why you love your favourite Youtubers, (the way they speak, the content, the feel, the pacing, the humour, etc) chances are because they have built a solid brand.

3. Entertainment Comes First.


Have you ever come across a YouTuber who's got a big audience and is doing extremely well and you have no idea why?

Yeah, me too! ā€¦ & does it annoy you? Yes, me too.

Why is it frustrating?

Because there are channels out there that are giving CRAP content and yet succeeding.

You know the onesā€¦ Iā€™m not saying anything here, but you know.

In fact, I would guess and say you likely have better content than some other creators in your niche and yet they are raking in the numbers.

But this is not only on YouTube this is also in business, it's not about the best product or having the best information.

Itā€™s a big ~pill~ to swallow.

But instead, let's look at this logicallyā€¦

Why are many channels succeeding that do not have the best content? (the best is subjective but here we will just focus on * the best* = most helpful, most accurate, most information, etc)

Most of the time when you break it down you will find that it's because they are able to entertain, and the simple truth is this.

Entertainment = value

In our modern world more entertainment = more value, which can lead to more viewers even if the content itself is not the best.

So whatever kind of content you are producing (even educational) the fundamentals needs to be around entertainment.

But through thousands of experiments, Its clear to see that entertainment is not always quick clips, funny sound effects and so onā€¦

Entertainment can be as simple as a storyline that you can follow from the beginning to the end that resonates with your key audience.

4. Most Success On YouTube Is a Slow Burn.


You most likely have heard a bunch of successful stories and advice from people who have become successful relatively quickly.

Here are a few videos I found on YouTube.

Ā· How I Got 1 Million Subscribers in 9 Months
Ā· I grew from ZERO TO 100K SUBSCRIBERS in 3 MONTHS (& how you can too)
Ā· My Life Story and How I Got 10 Million Followers in 1 Year
Ā· Making $613,960 My First Year On YouTube

Now these are great videos, but they are also extremely rare cases.

This success can sometimes give youtubers the wrong understanding of success on YouTube.

Last year I hit one of my personal milestones which was $7000 (USD) within 28 days on AdSense alone.

This was accomplished over several years of building content making mistakes and implementing changes.

18 months before that, I was struggling to get 1000 views on a video, 2 months ago I had a few videos that have over 1 million views and Last month? Well, I sold the channel. But hey thatā€™s a new story for a new day ha-ha.

But my point is that success is often over a long period of time...

AND THEREFORE, itā€™s wise to take a step back to reflect on things especially if you feel that you're working too hard or getting too stressed because for many of you who will be successful, it will be a long process over several months or years rather than an instant change.

5. Rabit Hole Content Can Perform Extremely Well.


In my desk next to my bed, I have a big red book of YouTube trade secrets & experiments I conducted.

The rabbit hole content is one of those.

Rabbit hole content is basically content that is made and after somebody watches the video, they go into a rabbit hole of content.

Examples of this include conspiracy. (UFO, ALIENS, ASSASSINATIONS, ETC)

Another example is if there is a series or a very engaging video that has been split into several parts.

What I've noticed more than anything especially speaking to other youtubers is that rabbit hole content seems to perform incredibly well. Almost like YouTube knows that *THIS VIDEO* will lead to people watching 10 more videosā€¦ well I guess they do know that.

With every other point on this list, I have solid data, experiments, and proof. But I aim to always be transparent, and I must confess I donā€™t have all the numbers yet to back this up fully compared to the rest.

Nevertheless - It has worked for many people, and I have not yet seen it not work. But because I donā€™t have the numbers to show (unlike all the others) I believe itā€™s important to mention.

6. Trend Jacking Can Lead To Crazy Numbers.


A moment ago, I mentioned that most success on YouTube is not linear and instead drawn out over a long period of time.

However...

For those who do not fall into this category and have had success relatively quickly they often find their success by taking advantage of trend jacking.

Trend Jacking is a clever tactic that you can use to grow new audiences relatively quickly based on a trending topic, situation, or person.

This could be a trend that is happening within your niche or a trend that is happening globally. Here are some examples that were big stories over the last 24 months.

Ā· Johnny Depp Vs Amber Heard
Ā· Tucker Carson Departs From Fox News
Ā· Ireland Offer $92,000 If You Move & Settle On Their Coastal Island
Ā· Japan Giving Away Homes For Free
Ā· Worldā€™s Largest Wildlife Crossing Is Going Up So Animals Can Walk Safely
Ā· Airlines To Give Refunds For Cancelled Or Delayed Flights And Late Baggage

OK so these ideas are pretty out-of-the-box and are not niche specific.

But letā€™s make it a challenge! (Iā€™m regretting this already)

What about if we had a YouTube channel talking about ~how to live cheaper?~

Here are some video ideas we could create.

Ā· Depp Vs. Heard: Calculating The True Cost Of Lawsuits!
Ā· After Tuckers Exit, How Media Changes Impact Your Wallet?
Ā· Moving To Ireland For $92K Is It A Dream Deal Or Costly Fantasy?"
Ā· Free Homes In Japan: Whatā€™s The Catch?
Ā· Saving Wildlife & Your Taxes!
Ā· How To Get Every Penny Back From Airlines [*year*]

Okay these are not the best type of content for the niche but after typing out about1500 words, my mind is a little fuzzy XD - Please note that these are not the titles but an example of a type of content based on the trend.

But how about niche trends? (~often much easier)~

Jumping on specific trends related to your niche can be really effective. For example, I advised a travel content creator who capitalized on the "passport bros" trend. This trend is where men move overseas to find wives.

This trend was gaining traction on TikTok and other platforms, and by tapping into it, he was able to reach multiple new audiences. His content sparked reactions and discussions, which pushed his growth to a new level.
P.s - As an added point, if you are in the UK, check out *baby reindeer* which is currently trending.

7. Donā€™t Steal, Rebuild.


Pablo Picasso ā€“ ā€œGood artists copy, great artists stealā€

As a creator you are also an artist, it just happens to be that your art is electronic.

The saying highlights the key idea that true innovative artists (aka creators) don't just copy other people (even though I know some do ā€“ naughty naughty)

But instead, they mimic the work of others and transform it / rebuild it into something better.

Perhaps it is a type of content that you've seen very popular in other niches but is not covered in your niche.

Or it could be a topic that other creators have discussed, and you have seen that it has performed very well but it could be improved upon.

One Youtuber I have always found inspirational is Mr Beast. Not because of Jimmy's content but simply because he has worked for many years to perfect his art.

Hereā€™s the thingā€¦

There are so many Mr beast clones.

These creators literally copy his entire format.

This is not good as eventually people see the truth, and this will leave a very sour taste in viewerā€™s mouths.

So, what can you do?

You can rebuild but in your own image and in your own way instead of stealing.

Look in your niche, the style, content, delivery of content, time, pace and think of ways you can rebuild this content to offer you audience something even better.
Hope this helps you out =]
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2024.05.20 07:56 Qubexpro_vizag Donā€™t Relocate. Just Open a Virtual Office space

Virtual Offices ā€“ What are they?

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The concept of virtual offices dates back to the late 20th century, coinciding with advancements in technology and the rise of remote work. Initially, virtual offices were primarily used by freelancers and small businesses. Over time, larger organizations began to recognize the benefits of flexible work environments, leading to widespread adoption. Establishing a office space in Vizag is part of this evolving trend, offering modern solutions to companies looking to expand in this region.

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Virtual offices offer unparalleled flexibility, allowing businesses to scale operations up or down without the constraints of traditional leases. This adaptability is particularly beneficial for startups and seasonal businesses. A business center in Vizag can cater to varying business needs, from local startups to multinational corporations.

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By enabling employees to work from anywhere, virtual offices support a distributed workforce, enhancing productivity and satisfaction. A business center in Vizag provides the necessary infrastructure to support this modern work model effectively.

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Businesses can save on costs associated with office equipment, furniture, and supplies, reallocating resources to core activities.

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Virtual offices empower employees to choose their work hours, promoting a healthier work-life balance and reducing burnout.

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Remote work facilitated by virtual offices removes the need for daily commuting, saving time and reducing stress.

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A virtual office provides a reputable business address, enhancing the company's image and credibility without the cost of a physical location.
For businesses seeking office space in Vizag, a virtual office offers a cost-effective solution to establish a professional presence in a prime location.

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Businesses can hire talent globally, benefiting from diverse skills and perspectives. Utilizing office space in Vizag offers a prestigious address, enhancing flexibility and professional presence without the cost of a physical location.

Manage Documents

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The scalability and adaptability of virtual offices make them an ideal choice for modern enterprises looking to optimize their operations and remain competitive in an ever-evolving market. A business center in Vizag is an excellent example of how businesses can utilize these benefits to establish and grow their presence in a strategic location.
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2024.05.20 07:50 CrinkleDink House Renart, Part 2: The Death of the Fox, and the Birth of the Dragon

House Renart, Part 2: The Death of the Fox, and the Birth of the Dragon
Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/CrusaderKings/comments/1crfhjs/so_i_played_the_box_art_dynasty_house_renart_here/
King Oldrik, King of Poland and Pomerania, had a long and successful reign. With his defeat of the northern pagans, House Renart believed it could conquer the world. However, it would be internal strife that would nearly lead the House to destruction...

King Wielslaw, King of Poland

To every dynasty, there is always a weak link. King Oldrik chose his heir poorly.
King Wielslaw (March 31st, 1139 - 25 of August, 1181) was King of Poland from 1177 until his death in 1181. He had barely any children, as his fatherā€™s inbreeding led him to having infertile loins, having very few children.
In life, he was a stubborn, arrogant man, but was oddly compassionate in his ways. He was known to be handsome in life and was fairly intelligent. He was skilled in theology and the matters of law and land, as well as history. However, he had a heavy drinking problem which would evidently lead to his demise, as well as disease.
As a prince Wielslaw, the youngest of his brothers, was granted the Duchy of Veletia in 1153 as his father was preparing him for rule. There he ruled for some time until his father Oldrick I died. He would ascend to the throne of Poland in 1177 while his brother Wielslaw became King of Pomerania, splitting the realms into two.
The same year, King Wielslaw went to war against Queen Darya of Volhynia, taking the southern provinces. The war lasted for two years, with the queen being defeated in March of 1179.
In 1180, King Wielslaw went around the country to enact justice and enforce taxes on his vassals. This proved to make him unpopular with the people. However, it did allow him to draft a
Wielslaw came to King Mieszko's defense against Stammesherzog Dethard's attempted de jure war of Duchy of Anhalt in 1181. This would lead to a swift victory. However, as he was fighting in Anhalt, a great disease of Bloody Flux spread throughout the land. King Wielslaw, while leading his troops in the camp, caught the disease and grew very ill. He began to drink during this time, and while drunk, he named his younger son, Oldrick, his new heir, while his eldest son, Sulistryj, was disinherited, due to murdering a man during a duel. He died on the 25th of August, 1181. A courier went out to Krakow to declare the young prince Oldrick as the new King of Poland, which shocked the court.

King Oldrick II, King of Poland

Tragedy befell this scaly yet innocent young king! From the drunken lips of his foolish father his fate was unfortunately sealed.
Oldrick II (May 6th, 1177 - January 3rd, 1186) was the King of Poland from 1181 to his death in 1186. A mere child who came upon the throne due to his fatherā€™s drunken final will, Oldrick saw a great civil war overtake his lands. His uncle, King Miezko of Pomerania, though having an alliance, schemed against him, and would ultimately take his life.
Throughout his reign he dealt with a civil war for his throne, led by his vassal Duke Uściech Lewiki in 1182. He had little power, though his most significant act was restoring his brother Sulistryjā€™s inheritance to become next in line for the crown of Poland. This hurt the plans of King Miezko, who was feigning his loyalty to the boy when fighting the civil war.
However, Oldrick II would be assassinated by King Miezko through poisoned candy, leading to his brother, Sulistryj, to take over the throne.

Sulistryj I ā€˜the Beautifulā€™, King of Poland and Pomerania

Vengeance to a brother's honor, and with a tongue as sweet as honey, his reign was unfortunately cut short by the thread of fate.
Sulistryj I (July 20th, 1156 - October 13th, 1214) was the King of Poland in 1186, and King of Pomerania in 1188, until his death in 1214. The eldest son of King Wielslaw, he saw support for his tenure on the throne of Poland after the death of his younger brother and proved to be a very capable diplomat.
Sulistryj would be the last member of the pure House of Renart. When he did, his uncle Dobromir Renart-Glogow would usurp power in the family. In life, he was rumored to be an atheist, and he had murdered a man in a duel. However, he was also known for being a very handsome man and intelligent, and well read and practiced in matters of diplomacy.
Sulistryj, before he was king, was notable for defeating Duke Usciech. During the civil war, he commanded a battle against the duke at the Battle of Gniezno on the 19th of April, 1183. The duke would surrender to King Oldrick II, and would then be beheaded and his lands stripped, delivered to Sulistryj who regained his right to inheritance.
Three years later, in 1186, his brother Oldrick II would die mysteriously. Sulistryj had suspected his uncle Miezko was vying for the throne of Poland and had him killed. And indeed, Miezko had sent a delegation to declare his rivalry with Sulistryj at the beginning of the summer, declaring his claim to Poland was truer. Sulistryj knew what was coming: an invasion.
To act quicker, Sulistryj quickly rallied his hosts and vassals outside the borders of Pomerania, and on the 5th of July, 1186, he declared himself the rightful King of Pomerania just as Miezko was on pilgrimage towards Rome. King Miezko quickly returned, not expecting such a bold decision from his nephew. A series of engagements would take place in the province of Nordmark, leading to a few staggering defeats for Sulistryj, including at the Battle of Ukkria. However, though the Pomeranians won the battle, King Miezko was severely injured. His son, Oldrick, would take over the front of battle.
And yet, from the south, King Otakar of Bohemia, seeing a moment of opportunity, invaded the next summer on the 4th of June, 1187, trying to take the lands of Lubben against King Sulistryj.
King Sulistryj grew nervous of the Bohemian invasion. However, come December, as his troops were making camp in the winter, he received news from a courier: King Miezko was dead. He had died from injuries sustained at the Battle of Ukkria.
The Battle of Strassburg (April 10th, 1188) would be the final engagement between the two kingdoms. King Sulistryj confronted King Oldrick II of Pomerania at the battle. By this point, Pomerania had grown exhausted and morale was terrible, and they were outnumbered. With Oldrick IIā€™s rule being unfavored, the armies of Pomerania found themselves quickly overrun by the Poles. King Oldrick was defeated, and gave his crown over to Sulistryj.
The following year, in January, however, Oldrick II rebelled against, declaring his sister Princess Luitgard of Osterland was the proper queen of Pomerania. A quick skirmish took place in February of that year, leading to a white peace between the rebellious Oldrick and the king. He then began a claim war for the crown of Pomerania once again, the following year in 1190. He was once again defeated, and because of his constant rebellion, had his titles over Pomerania stripped and was beheaded.
In August of 1201, a Grand Tournament was held in Poland, the first of its kind in the land, under King Sulistryj. Here, the king himself won the Melee and Archery contests.
In 1209, Duke Krystyn of Veletia became a rival of King Sulistryj and declared him an illegitimate ruler. In December of that year, he began a rebellion of dethronement against the king. A year of small skirmishes and chasing took place, until the duke was defeated at the Battle of Gottingen on the 18th of December, 1210. The Duke would be imprisoned, his titles revoked, and executed. The king gave his second eldest son Sulistryj the title.
Then, in 1213, King Sulistryj decided to go on pilgrimage to the city of Cologne with his eldest son Oldrick. They began their journey in January of that year. However, a great plague overcame the city of Consumption. When Sulistryj arrived, he and his son grew ill. They finished their pilgrimage at the church of Cologne, and were quickly delivered home by their servants. However, when they arrived in October, the king, nor his son, was recovering from their sickness. King Sulistryj grew worse, and would pass away, leaving his eldest son Otger to inherit the throne of Poland, while his son Sulistryj became King of Pomerania.

King Otger II ā€˜the Sicklyā€™

Alas, many tried to save his reign but it would be the woes of plague that did him in. And thus the House of Renart would die with him.
Otger II (October 25th, 1204 - June 2nd, 1217) was the King of Poland from 1214 until his death from consumption in 1217. His reign saw a great era of instability within the land. Historically, Otger II was the last king of the proper Renart dynasty.
When he became king, the sudden death of his father caused opportunistic vassals to favor his great-uncle and grandfather, Duke Drobomir of Silesia. Though Duke Drobomir swore loyalty to the line of Sulistryj (his nephew) he secretly schemed to take over the throne. Duke Drobomir conspired the vassals of Poland to turn against the young king.
In the second year of Otgerā€™s reign, Count Janusz Halicki of Kalisz led the dukes and counts of Poland in rebellion against Otger, declaring that Duke Drobomir the true King of Poland. They marched out in April, heading toward the capitol. Count Janusz went ahead of the army. Meanwhile, King Otgerā€™s brother, Sulistryj, rounded his armies in support of his brother, as well as the armies of England.
On the 21st of October, Count Janusz entered Krakow and went past the guards. He made an attempt on the life of King Otger, but the loyal and brave Duke Powel of Rzepin saved the life of the king. Janusz was captured from his attempt just as the Polish armies defeated his army outside of the city. Thus the count was captured, and the rebels defeated. The civil war ended there, but things were still growing unstable in the realm.
Alas, the king grew ill further through the winter, his Consumption worsening. His condition grew dire, and his physician was unable to cure him, only ease his woes. Duke Drobomir was expecting to be in line for the throne. Instead, as his last act, Otger declared his brother Sulistryj would become king in his place. Duke Drobomir was insulted by this act, and as the king was dying, he quickly made himself the head of House Renart with his own cadet branch, the House of Glogow.
King Otger died in June of 1217, at the age of 13. Meanwhile, Drobomir began a new faction to install himself as King of Polandā€¦

Emperor Sulistryj ā€˜the Wendā€™ of West-Slavia

Though the fox dies, rising from the ashes will be a mighty dragon of the east.
Sulistryj II (June 5th, 1206 - September 10th, 1283), known as ā€œthe Youngā€, the ā€œConfessorā€, but most notably ā€œthe Wendā€, was the King of Poland and Pomerania from 1217, and the eventual Emperor of the West Slavs in 1255, until his death in 1283. Inheriting the throne from his older brother at the age of 11, Sulistryj ruled from an astounding 66 years, in which he united the west slavic kingdoms of Pomerania and Bohemia and unified the West Slavs into a single Wendish empire.
He inherited the throne of Poland after the death of his brother Otger. He was beforehand ruling as Duke of Veletia and the King of Pomerania. When he became King of Poland, he had little power over his kingdom, for his uncle, Duke Dobromir ā€˜the Handsomeā€™ of Silesia, became his regent. The Duke had expected to take over the throne from his nephews, but instead, Sulistryj was crowned king, leading to a damper in his schemes.
Duke Dobromir, as the grandfather of the king, became the head of the household and quickly began to take more powers from the king, ruling in his place and becoming head of the House of Renart. With Otger II dead, and Sulistryjā€™s mother being Dobromirā€™s daughter, and the remaining Renarts dead, Dobromir declared the house of Renart extinct.
The Renarts are dead. Long live the House of Glogow!
This went against the will of Sulistryj, who stripped Dobromir of much of his regnal powers. Dobromir threatened rebellion in 1221, seeking to claim the crown of Poland for himself. He schemed to kill his grandson, hoping to put his own direct son, also named Dobromir, onto the throne.
Dobromir proceeded to try and kill the young king when he was studying at the University of Krakow. The attempt was quickly discovered and thwarted by Duke Powel of Rzepin, once again loyal to the king as spymaster and bodyguard.
The following year, Sulistryj was finally coronated as he reached the age of 16. There, King Sulistryj II announced himself as the ā€œfirst of the House of Glogowā€ in spite of his grandfather. He took over the Renart dynasty and disinherited his grandfather, destroying his sonā€™s claims to the Kingdom of Poland. But still he schemed, as he knew it could be restored if he took the throne.
A house divided against itself shall not stand!
To ensure confidence in his rule, Sulistryj pressed his bassal Czciborā€™s claim to the Duchy of Ostfalen in 1222, and then married Maria of Norway. He would win the duchy, taking it from the Emperor of Germany at the time.
However, not all were confident in the rule of King Sulistryj, as Duke Dobromir continued to plot against his grandson. Count Alexander Kujawski rebelled against the king in 1229, but he was swiftly defeated and executed for his crimes. King Sulistryj proved to his grandfather that he was not willing to mess around. Dobromir tried to flee as the remaining rebellious counts were imprisoned, but he was captured.
Dobromir was imprisoned, and by coercion was forced to give up his claims to Poland, and then was disinherited and dethroned from Silesia. Out of compassion, Sulistryj spared his grandfather, as the chronicler wrote in ā€œThe History of the Wendsā€ the following:
ā€œKing Sulistryj declared, ā€˜The Renarts have died, but the blood of Glogow will not be severed. You shall have a place in my house, until the end of your days. As it is, I rule as a son under your blood.ā€™ā€
Thus Dobromir would remain in Krakow as a servant of his grandson, until the end of his days in 1232, where he died from drinking. Thus his legacy, despite his reportedly loving nature (despite his treachery, he did care for his grandsons as they grew up fatherless) he was still viewed as a traitor and usurper. Thus he has become a figure of plays and songs in the West-Slavic culture. His most prominent appearance, and basis of much fiction, was in the ā€œSong of Renartā€ in which he was portrayed as a scheming traitor.
During this time, legend spread that King Sulistryj had slain a dragon. He gave into the story, proclaiming himself a mighty dragon slayer and that he, too, would slay the enemies of the Poles. This brought him great praise throughout the land.
The following year, 1232, Queen Maria would die in childbirth as she gave birth to her daughter Jadwiga. She had three children with Sulistryj. King Sulistryj held a funeral for both her and his grandfather, mourning their loss. The same year, King Sulistryj would remarry Rognfrithr of Denmark. She would birth his eldest son Dalimir in 1234, and Dobrogost in 1237.
Now King Sulistryj was well read in the histories of Poland. Though he knew was of German descent, he began to read of the Wendish tribes of Germany many centuries prior. He remembered that once his family had held titles in Northern Germany. He began to see himself as a great unifier of his houseā€™s ancestral claims, and the claims of the west slavs. He also believed the Holy Roman Emperor was a threat to his power over the region. Therefore, Sulistryj grew a vision of a Wendish Empire, of German and Pole, to secure his realm.
You were useful, Teutonic Knights. However, I have a mighty need to unite the West Slavs!
He declared war against the Teutonic Order in 1240 as he recaptured the Duchy of Pomerania. The Grandmaster was defeated at the Battle of Szczytno in 1241, and King Sulistryj II saw victory a few months later in January of 1242. The same year, King Sulistryj invaded Anhalt and captured it, fighting Kaiser Georgeā€™s for the duchy and ultimately defeating him on November 6th of 1245.
Two years would pass, as Sulistryj began building castles and fortresses across Poland and in particular Krakow. Then in 1247 he invaded the duchy of Pomeralia, held by the Teutonic Knights. He would capture Grandmaster Ekbertā€™s son Warren at the Battle of Gydnia and lead the Teutons to once again losing land to the Poles. The Teutons were driven completely out of the Pomeranian lands.
King Sulistryj would claim himself as the proper Duke of Bohemia and Moravia, as they were once West Slavic holdings, as well as Duke of Meissen. He made an alliance with the King of Hungary, the Emperor of Francia, and the King of England, to take on the much larger and vast Holy Roman Emperor. Kaizer George had conducted diplomacy with King Sulistryj II prior, and so felt betrayed by the king as he invaded central Germany and Bohemia in 1250. King Venceslav of Croatia came to the assistance of the Kaizer. This began what chroniclers called the War of the Wend.
Hopefully the Pope doesn't bother to check the actual historical claims over this... He doesn't need to know what the King may or may not have made up. ;)
Sulistryj led the Polish armies by himself and first attacked northern Bohemia while the emperor tried to attack Francia. The English and Polish armies raided throughout Bohemia. They would be confronted by King Venceslav at Unicov on May 4th of 1252, who attacked the English armies, but the Poles came to the defense of the English and defeated the Croatians, who fled.
Prague was overtaken by the Poles and English as Kaiser George finished defeating a rebellion near his capitol. The German forces marched into central Bohemia, with their army being led by the Kaizer himself. On the 24th of July in 1254, the Germans and Croatians faced the French, Polish, and English forces at the First Battle of Prerov, leading to a very close battle. King Peter IV of England managed to change the fate of the battle with his longbowmen routing the Germany cavalry, allowing the Polish cavalry to break through the German ranks.
There would be a few losses. The Poles lost a battle to the Croatians at Brno, and the English and French lost engagements at Leipzig in the same year.
A second full engagement happened outside of Stribro on the 3rd of November. The Polish forces used the Mze River to fortify their position, routing the Germans once again. The Polish armies wintered there, while the French and English wintered southward of the city. During this time, the Livonian Knights came to the assistance of the German emperor. They moved through the winter towards Prerov to try and retake the city. The defenders fell, and the Livonians moved into the castle.
In February the Polish forces came to the defenses of city of Prerov. initiating the Second Battle of Prerov. They would find themselves suddenly ambushed by a hidden German force, led by the Kaizer, who attacked the outnumbered Poles. However, the French and English troops arrived a week later as the Polish forces held their ground in the castle. With their defense, King Sulistryj managed to push back the Livonians and Germans, forcing them to route, leading to a Polish victory on the 16th of February.
A final battle took place outside of Prague as the Polish forces began besieging the city. The allied forces of Germany, Croatia, and Livonia faced off against the Polish, the French, and the English. The Battle of Prague was close, with King Sulistryj II being injured in the battle. However, as he recovered, he learned that the Germans routed, and that the city of Prague surrendered to his forces. The Polish had won.
And so, a dragon rises from the ashes of the fox.
The Treaty of Prague (July 24th, 1255) led Kaizer George to concede the lands of Bohemia and Messien to King Sulistryj II, and that he would be recognized as the king of those lands. Pope Honorius II came to the city in August to crown King Sulistryj as the Emperor of the Wends.
Peace was not long, as the Emperor went to defeat the King of Galicia-Volhynia in the same year and made him swear fealty to his power as King.
For his act of uniting the Western Slavic kingdoms, Sulistryj began to be known as ā€œThe Wendā€, and legends spread of his great victory. This followed him south toward Jerusalem during the 5th crusade as the Polish armies fought the Ayyubids, but ultimately saw defeat in the crusade.
In 1272, to consolidate his realm, Emperor Sulistryj subjugated Grandmaster Klukis ā€˜the Leperā€™ of the Teutonic Order and forced him to become a vassal.
The emperor in his old age.
The rest of Emperor Sulistryjā€™s reign was relatively peaceful. He was known for his pious works and had his chroniclers write ā€œThe History of the Wendsā€ to solidify his dynastyā€™s power over the region. He also built many castles and hosted a grand tournament. The Duke of Frisia did try to kill the Emperor, as he once was the King of Bohemia before it was invaded. However, this was thwarted. His second eldest son, Dobrogost, would die of Smallpox in 1283. However, with the usage of primogeniture law (put into effect by decree of the emperor), succession remained safe.
Emperor Sulistryj would die in his sleep on the 10th of September, 1283. He had a long and successful reign, and would forever be immortalized as the Wendish King who reclaimed the ancestral lands of the Poles from the Germans.
And so, West-Slavia is born.
We end our chapter with a new house. The Renarts saw their last ruler in Otger II, leaving the dynasty in shambles. And though the new House of Glogow was born in the same treachery of the Fox of Renart, it would find itself becoming ferocious and noble through the reign of Emperor Sulistryj!
Emperor Sulistryj's rebranded CoA: \"As cunning as a fox, as fearsome as a dragon.\"
End of Part 2. The Renart dynasty currently holds many duchies within the HRE, but lost Zaphoriza. It remains it's most powerful in the West-Slavic Empire.
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2024.05.20 07:47 Short_Rough_3529 FMIL is very possessive ā˜ ļø

My future mother in law (FMIL) is in her late 60ā€™s, my fiancĆ© is 26, and I am 24. We were recently engaged and itā€™s really stirred up my anxiety and stress over my relationship with my FMIL.
So imma give you guys some information into my fiancĆ©ā€™s relationship with his mom. He is a only child, he was a twin at birth but his sibling did pass away at birth, and his mom also had one child forcibly adopted by her parents due to her being a young age at the time of birth. All that being said, sheā€™s extremely attached to her son. I understand all of the trauma from all of those events as they are all rightfully crazy traumatic. Also her husband recently in the past few years, passed from Covid. I cannot imagine or fully comprehend myself all of the feelings she must have gone through and I just want to be super clear that I do understand it all and I am sensitive to it all.
With all this being said, fiancĆ© and I have been together for three ish years. His relationship when itā€™s considered in just both of us, no one else involved, itā€™s great! Like the absolute love of my life, treats me like an absolute queen, and takes such care into our relationship and making sure it thrives. Now when we involve my family and my FMIL, it all legitimately goes to hell. My family is a lot, but through a lot of great therapy (Therapy helps yā€™all) Iā€™ve worked hard to make it work and it be healthy relationships only. Now fiancĆ© has never really had good relationships with his family. His dad really just worked his entire life, really had nothing to do with him until his adulthood. He worked nonstop. His mother also worked, legitimately nonstop. My fiancĆ© was very neglected as a child, physically and mentally, and he still doesnā€™t fully understand it. Just as an example, he had never been to a doctor in his entire life. Even with broken bonesšŸ˜. He was to just work through the pain and life with it. It was bad to say the least but what his parents really did get into his brain is that he will take care of his aging parents until the day that they are dead, even though they barely kept him alive. He still believes this, which has been the cause of a lot of fights as it really is starting to interfere with our relationship.
FMIL is struggling pretty bad with her mental health, and physical health. She does not believe in the medical system. She refuses it all. So she is not in the best shape, she lives alone as my fiancĆ© has lived with me for a few years now, and sheā€™s just not doing good mentally.
Now I know, Iā€™m not asking my fiancĆ© to cut communications outright, but in the past year I was made aware by phone records on our jointly phone bill of the amount that she was calling him. Mind you, we both have full time jobs, 40 hour weeks are our minimum and usually towards 50-60 hours. FMIL was calling my fiancĆ© about 5-10 times a day ranging between 3min - 60min calls. Itā€™s really all over the place. But my fiancĆ© always finds the time in his day to answer her, whether at work or at home. This started to really interfere with our relationship, I mean she would almost always call during sex (fucking weird) or she would call every night, right as we were settling into our routine. Like Iā€™m sorry, a text would suffice for bedtime, not a 30 min conversation every night about how her day was, arguing with him, shaming him, crying usually (I understand why she is sad, I am not okay that she refuses to do anything about it), and making a big deal while I lay in bed every night alone waiting. It was absurd and I did make a big deal about it, pointing it all out to him, as it was interfering with us, and it really did get better for a good 6mo or more, but now we are back to it except 1000 times worse. We will be in restaurants, in dinners with family and friends, in shops shopping together, she will call him and he will drop everything for the call and her. She is starting to have a lot more mental breakdowns about everything, that she does make all my fiancĆ©s responsibility to fix. He will never miss a call from her, and will never end a call early. They talk more than I really think as a couple, we do during the day sometimes with our hours. Itā€™s just so hard. I want to spend time with my fiancĆ© and not talk about his ridiculous motherā€™s current problems.
FiancĆ© does always wonder why I donā€™t want any part to do with FMIL, or to go do anything with her. In truth, she never stops complaining when we are together, she is so incredibly negative that it brings my spirit down so hard. She has also in the past made extremely hateful comments about me, sheā€™s convinced Iā€™m stealing him, and that heā€™ll never be hers again (very possessive). I do not feel comfortable being around her and it just sucks. I wanted a good FMIL relationship but I have tried for 3ish years and I just canā€™t. Is this something that I just need to wait it out, fight it, or morbidly just wait until she dies and I donā€™t have to deal with this. I know I accepted an engagement but I did not accept a relationship with his mother like this, and mentally Iā€™m so over it, I donā€™t know what I can do in the situation other than give a choice to my fiancĆ© of which one heā€™s going to prioritize and if itā€™s not me, then Iā€™ve got to leave right? My parents, as narcissistic as they are, have seen all of this and have offered a safe place to live in the case of that.
Please give helpful advice, but please be kind lol Iā€™m not mentally okay after dealing with all this and itā€™s really taking a toll.
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2024.05.20 07:41 foamysoap Pyromancies, and their required INT and FTH

This was a reply I wanted to post to an old posting here: https://www.reddit.com/darksouls3/comments/5li2k1/why_do_chaos_pyromancies_require_0_faith_and/
I could not submit the comment, but I spent a considerable amount of time writing it and referencing that I thought I might share it with those who enjoy combing through the Dark Souls lore.
As a note, I am only a recently new player. I picked up DS3 very recently, and have no experience with the previous titles nor any of the titles since. It's my only Fromsoft game that I've played.
Anyway, the comment.
I know this is an old post, but I'd like to add some ideas.
Without intelligence (which I assume is like knowledge, with added wisdom in same cases), the fires of the chaos flame, as well as along with all fire in general, leads to eventual destruction. Intelligence is what *attempts* to give form and control over the natural power of chaos and fire.
The story is sad but helps reveal this idea. The spell Great Chaos Fire Orb explains:
  • "The Witch of Izalith and her daughters birthed the Flame of Chaos, but it devoured them along with their home."
To emphasize its destructive power further, Chaos Bed Vestiges:
  • "... Demons born from fire bore its smoldering essence and perished soon after. Man shares this rapport with the flames to this day."
Additionally, the spell Floating Chaos deepens the scar and explains the need for wisdom to remember the power of chaos (INT):
  • "Pyromancer Dunnel was fascinated by this ceremonial art employed by the clerics of the Smouldering Lake. Chaos burns away in the blink of an eye, but was the primordial life born in the Bed of Chaos, and a grievous symbol of Izalith's sin."
To control chaos and the power of flame in general requires high intelligence. In fact, if you look at the pyromancy table in Fextra, you'll see that almost all pyromancies demand equal if not higher INT to FTH.
Of the 30 acquirable spells (not including WA Combustion and Parting Flame):
15 spells INT = FTH (even requirements)
8 spells INT > FTH
5 spells FTH > INT
2 spells FTH + INT = 0
The 5 spells which require more faith than intelligence include:
Poison and Toxic Mist. These are the spell arts of Eingyi, who is described as a heretic (defined as: a professed believer who adopts and persistently maintains religious opinions contrary to the accepted standards of his church). These are pure faith spells, fittingly.
Acid Surge, another pure faith spell, coming from Carthus. The reasoning on this one, I have not determined.
The highest faith only spell is Warmth at 25 FTH. The description of this spell points to another true aspect of flame, besides its destructive nature, which is aptly placed as the name of the spell: the warmth it provides. When one is cold and it is dark, warmth provides life, hope, and light. It makes sense that this should be a pure faith spell, also due to the fact that its casted effects are essentially that of Miracles (healing) and is described as a desire to connect to the gods (hope/faith/yearning):
  • "Peculiar pyromancy of the Mound-makers. Creates a gentle flame that restores HP on touch. They feared separation from the gods and sought a familial bond, perhaps leading to the creation of this flame of harmony."
Of these, last is Boulder Heave, a spell acquired from the transposed soul of the Stray Demon. It requires 8 INT and 12 FTH. Naturally a pyromancy spell should come from a demon. But this one is astray, and had been away from the source of its origins far too long, that it had lost its connection to its boiling flame somehow. You'd expect to see in the boulder's place, mostly likely, a spewing surge of magma. Instead, there is only unmolten rock. There is no fire, and thus no chaotic flame to control, so less INT is required:
  • "Art of a stray demon of a stifled flame. Spews a boulder from one's mouth. The boulder is heavy, but shatters easily."
There are only 2 spells that require 0 FTH and 0 INT.
That would be Chaos Storm and Great Chaos Fire Orb - the only two spells from the Izalith Pyromancy Tome, the same Izalith that was destroyed by the chaos flame.
Cornyx explains:
"Heed my words, Unkindled One. Fear the fire. The home of pyromancy, Izalith, was scorched by the very fire it created. Undoubtedly, it was a flame of chaos, tangled by a witch's hand. But who's to say that this Bonfire's flame is any different."
In this case, it seems these two pyromancy spells illustrate the raw devastating power of chaos. No faith or intelligence is needed, because, as described in Chaos Bed Vestiges:
  • "... Demons born from fire bore its smoldering essence and perished soon after. Man shares this rapport with the flames to this day."
Man shares the same relationship to the flames as the demons did/do, who were born from the fire, and of the fire, within. There is no human faculty necessary (no faith or intellect necessary). These are the spell arts that the Witches of Izalith discovered, the deep source within, but at a cost.
I'll include to observe the Quelana Pyromancy Tome, which contains a spell much like Chaos Storm called Firestorm. This spell requires 0 FTH and 18 INT, which is relatively high. The difference is that it does not contain the seedbed, the molten base of each pillar, which denotes to chaotic origins.
  • "Primal pyromancy taught by Quelana, a daughter of the Witch of Izalith. Surrounds the caster with multiple pillars of flame. The raging storm is indiscriminate; such is the intrinsic horror of the flame."
Although the description says "indiscriminate", we as casters are not injured. That's explained by the tome itself:
  • "A pyromancy tome of Quelaana containing her unique spells. These pyromancies can only be taught by a female master. Give to a female pyromancy master to learn Quelana's pyromancies. Quelana, the sole surviving witch of Izalith, once accepted a human pupil, but after the pupil moved on, she never took another."
As the sole surviving witch of Izalith, and a daughter of the very Witch of Izalith, Quelana saw first hand what can happen to those who posses the flame without wisdom. All 3 of her pyromancies require highter INT, with 2 requiring 0 FTH. She is the harbinger of wisdom, and as the tome further explains, she never took on another pupil. The devastation had been too strong, I suppose. Rapport is a spell from her tome, which possesses an enemy's mind and turns them into an ally. This is interesting because Quelana decided to study how to control the flame within others. Who knows when she acquired this skill, either before the chaotic end of Izalith, or because of it.
So these are my ideas as to explain the reasons behind the specific requirements of faith and intelligence to varying pyromancy spells. I did not review in this text spells which required equal faith and intelligence because I believe my overall description explained this. In instances where greater intelligence is needed than faith, I would state that, without getting too specific, is that higher intelligence/wisdom is needed for more technical or devastating pyromancies learned, for example Profaned Flame and Chaos Bed Vestiges, due to the need to contain the spread of destruction (excluding of course the Izalith Tome pyromancies).
As a note, I don't see these as spells, I just happened to write it that way. As opposed to sorcery, the source of pyromancy comes from within one's very own being, with the required skill to manipulate it.
I hope you enjoyed reading this.
So what do you think?
Thanks!
PS. I love this game. ;)
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2024.05.20 07:23 icygus Feeling confused and like I'm dying.

For the last few months I've been feeling extremely disconnected from reality. On top of that my health anxiety is out of control. I feel like there's a constant brain fog, like my writing and speech abilities have gone down the drain, like my vocabulary is reduced and like i've been using way too many filler words. I've also been having trouble drawing, it seems like everything i try to do is never as i pictured in my head and it frustrates me. I also feel like my English has been terrible lately and like i can't use it to the extent i used to before. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow because I believe i have a brain tumor. I've also had my heart checked and everything was ok. I left the meds about a month ago following my psychiatrist's orders...the truth is that for some reason i got worse in the last few months and before she took me off the meds I didn't tell her because since I'm 20 now (i started consulting her when i was 16) she would have me transfered to an adults psychiatrist who would put me on medication for the rest of my life. I don't want that. I just want to live a normal life like everyone else without this feeling of dispair that feels like there's always something wrong with me. I've also been dealing with withdrawl symptoms such as brain snaps for example, do you guys know any way to deal with them. Also sometimes when i'm haviny anxiety crisis at night e hear "voices" in my head, like my thoughts are screaming. I was really proud of the progress i've made in the last 4 years and i thought it was close to beeing over but now here I am again. Was my english too bad?
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2024.05.20 07:12 geopolicraticus J. G. Fichte and a priori Providentialism

Johann Gottlieb Fichte

19 May 1762 ā€“ 29 January 1814
J. G. Fichte and a priori Providentialism
Part of a Series on the Philosophy of History
Sunday 19 May 2024 is the 262nd anniversary of the birth of Johann Gottlieb Fichte (19 May 1762 ā€“ 29 January 1814), who was born in Rammenau, Saxony, then part of the Holy Roman Empire, on this day in 1762.
Fichte is often remembered in histories of philosophy as an immediate successor to Kant in the German idealist tradition. While still a young man Fichte wrote and anonymously published Attempt at a Critique of All Revelation. This was in 1792 when Fichte was 30 years old. Many believed that Kant had written this work, given Kantā€™s earlier critiques of pure reason, practical reason, and judgment, so when Kant denied authorship and identified Fichte as the actual author, Fichte experienced the philosophical equivalent of being an overnight sensation.
But Fichteā€™s life was an unsheltered as Kantā€™s life was sheltered. He was a born trouble-maker and was willing to touch the third rail of Enlightenment politics by writing and speaking openly about matters of religion, as revealed by his work on revelation. Fichte is sometimes called inflexible and rigid, though we could also say (a little more charitably) that he was principled and not inclined to compromise. Partly as a result of this temperament, Fichte became embroiled in a controversy in German intellectual life remembered as the Atheismusstriet, or Atheism Controversy.
During this controversy Friedrich Jacobi published an open letter against Fichte in which Jacobi coined the term ā€œnihilismā€ to describe what he took to be Fichteā€™s position:
ā€œTruly, my dear Fichte, I would not be vexed if you, or anyone else, were to call Chimerism the view I oppose to the Idealism that I chide for Nihilism. I have paraded my not-knowing in all my writings; in my non-knowledge I have prided myself so to be with knowledge, so perfectly and completely, that I am certainly allowed to be contemptuous of the mere doubter.ā€”I have wrestled for truth with zeal and fervour since childhood as few others; as few others have I experienced my powerlessnessā€”and my heart has grown tender for thatā€”yea, very tender, my dear Fichteā€”and my voice so gentle! Just as I have deep compassion for myself, as human being, so I have it for others. I am patient without effort; but that I am truly patient without effort costs me a lot. The earth will be light above meā€”it wonā€™t be long.ā€
Nihilism was to go on to have quite a career as an idea after Jacobiā€™s letter. While for Jacobi, the nihilism he attributed to Fichte was the inevitable outcome of reason, nihilism did not remain centered on Jacobiā€™s critique of Kantian philosophy, but came to signify belief in nothing at all.
Fichteā€™s controversial stance created a problem for the authorities at the University of Jena, where Fichte was employed at the time. Fichte wouldnā€™t budge, and this was one of the episodes responsible for his reputation for inflexibility, so the University of Jena dismissed him in 1799. At this point, with little to his name and few prospects, Fichte walked from Jena to Berlinā€”Google Maps says it takes 55 hours to complete this walkā€”and eventually he became part of the philosophical scene in Berlin.
Fichte attempted, semi-successfully, to support himself with popular books and lectures. For a philosopher coming from a background of Kantian philosophyā€”the most technical philosophy of its dayā€”this was a bold project, but he gamely attempted to bring his interpretation of Kantianism to the masses. One of the outcomes of this effort was Fichteā€™s short book The Vocation of Man (1800). Fichteā€™s academic work was riddled with jargon, but The Vocation of Man is written in plain language and was intended for a popular audience. However, itā€™s still a demanding philosophical argument. In it, Fichte articulated a conception of human destiny that is universalistic, rationalistic, teleological, and even infinitistic:
ā€œLet us not ask of history if man, on the whole, have yet become purely moral. To a more extended, comprehensive, energetic freedom he has certainly attained; but hitherto it has been an almost necessary result of his position, that this freedom has been applied chiefly to evil purposes. Neither let us ask whether the aesthetic and intellectual culture of the ancient world, concentrated on a few points, may not have excelled in degree that of modern times! It might happen that we should receive a humiliating answer, and that in this respect the human race has not advanced, but rather seemed to retrograde, in its riper years. But let us ask of history at what period the existing culture has been most widely diffused, and distributed among the greatest number of individuals; and we shall doubtless find that from the beginning of history down to our own day, the few light-points of Civilization have spread themselves abroad from their centre, that one individual after another, and one nation after another, has been embraced within their circle, and that this wider outspread of culture is proceeding under our own eyes. And this is the first point to be attained in the endless path on which humanity must advance.ā€
Notice that Fichte implies a distinction between two kinds of progress: there is progress toward the highest degree of excellence, and here humanity may have backslid, but there is also progress toward broadly distributed high culture, and here Fichte thinks that his time definitely surpassed previous history. Fichte also says that progress, by which he means moral progress, is an endless path, and we have already seen that it is possible for humanity to experience retrograde moral progress, so the pathway to man becoming purely moral, as Fichte sees it, is endless, it can incorporate reversals, and it can be striving to new heights or to wider diffusion.
This and many other passages point to the infinite perfectibility of man, which shows us the extent to which Fichte had imbibed the ideals of the French Revolutionā€”or, we might say, he had imbibed the ideals of the French philosophers who were instrumental in laying the foundations of the French revolution, and were later arguably co-opted by the revolution, as in the case of Condorcet, who wrote this paean to the infinite perfectibility of man while on the run from the revolutionary gendarme. But the infinite perfectibility of man as Fichte imagines it is a teleology with a real history: things can go wrong, we can get sidetracked, we might pursue one form of moral excellence or another, and so on.
And Fichte also transmuted the French concept of the infinite perfectibility of man in the image of German idealism, producing a kind of philosophical spiritualism. Part of this transmutation of ideals came about because of the direction that Fichte saw the French revolution take as it developed. Many philosophers at the time initially supported the ideals of the French Revolution, but came to see it in a different light after the Terror and the Napoleonic Wars. Fichte as well.
Seeking to rally his countrymen after defeats inflicted by Napoleon, Fichte gave a series of public lectures later published as Addresses to the German Nation. This was more than a half century before the unification of Germany as a nation-state. In the twentieth century this work was savaged by George Santayana in his book Egotism in German Philosophy, which I mentioned in my episode on Wars and Rumors of Wars. Santayana called Fichte ā€œan uncompromising puritanā€ and in Santayanaā€™s fever dream of German expansionism he imagined Fichte as the source of it all:
ā€œā€¦Fichte gives us prophetic glimpses of an idealistic Germany conquering the world. The state does not aim at self-preservation, still less is it concerned to come to the aid of those members of the human family that lag behind the movement of the day. The dominion of unorganised physical force must be abolished by a force obedient to reason and spirit. True life consists in refashioning human relations after a model innate in the mind. The glorious destiny of Germany is to bring forth and establish the world anew. Natural freedom is a disgraceful thing, a mere medley of sensual and intellectual impulses without any principle of order. It is for the Germans to decide whether a providential progress exists by becoming themselves the providence that shall bring progress about, or whether on the contrary every higher thought is folly. If they should fail, history would never blame them, for in that case there would be no more history.ā€
Many others also have seen Fichteā€™s work through the lens of the wars of their time, which were the world wars of the twentieth century, rather than through the lens of the wars of Fichteā€™s time, which were the Napoleonic Wars.
Fichte knew that he was putting his life on the line by publicly speaking out against the French, as he at one time referenced the fate of Johann Philipp Palm. Palm, a book seller, was connected to a pamphlet, Germany in Its Deep Humiliation (Deutschland in seiner tiefsten Erniedrigung), that angered Napoleon. Napoleon ordered his subordinates to try and execute Palm within twenty-four hours. Palm was tried on 26 August 1806 by a French military tribunal, found guilty, and shot within hours of the verdict. Four other book sellers also were tried were not executed. Fichte knew that the same thing could happen to him in publicly speaking out on behalf of the German people. We can see from incidents such as this that Fichte was in the thick of the history of his own time, sometimes riding the wave and sometimes making waves.
Roberta Picardi notes both the derivation and dependence of Fichteā€™s views from Kant, as well as Fichteā€™s divergence from Kant:
ā€œFichte explores the epistemic status and method of history with an aim which is clearly taken from Kant: the purpose of introducing a systematic and scientific method in the infinite field of the empiricism, of which history is a part, together with experimental physics. As we can read in The Characteristics of the Present Age he wants to obtain ā€˜a sure progress according to rule instead of an uncertain groping in the darkā€™ from history, i. e., instead of the ā€˜Herumptappenā€™ (this is the German word for ā€˜gropingā€™) that in the second Preface to the Critique of Pure Reason Kant contrasts with the ā€˜secure path of a scienceā€™.ā€
But the secure path of science isnā€™t always all that secure, given that there are multiple scientific pathways, and not all pathways lead to the same end. This is the distinction within Fichteā€™s philosophy of history noted by Angelica Nuzzo:
ā€œFichte builds his idea of a philosophy of history upon a paradoxical argument. He pushes to the extreme the claim of the bare factual nature of history as a realm of irrational, not-conceptual, and thoroughly contingent reality. Yet he also maintains that philosophical knowledge of history is possibleā€”although neither as deductive, nor conceptual, nor genetic knowledge. Against the fictitious notion of historical Wahrscheinlichkeit (plausibility, probability), Fichte holds on to the notion of ā€˜historical truthā€™ and to its ā€˜logic.ā€™ Despite its radically empirical character, history can be construed a priori.ā€
Some of the flavor of Fichteā€™s a priori approach to history can be gained from his primary work on the philosophy of history Characteristics of the Present Age (Der GrundzĆ¼ge des gegewƤrtigen Zeitalters, 1806), in which he decomposes history into Five Principal Epochs, based not on historical contingencies, but rather upon human destiny and moral development:
ā€œā€¦we endeavoured to pre-figure the whole Earthly Life of Man by a comprehension of its purpose;ā€” to perceive why our Race had to begin its Existence here, and by this means to describe the whole present Life of humankind:ā€”this is what we wished to do,ā€”it was our first task. There are, according to this view, Five Principal Epochs of Earthly Life, each of which, although taking its rise in the life of the individual, must yet, in order to become an Epoch in the Life of the Race, gradually lay hold of and interpenetrate all Men; and to that end must endure throughout long periods of time, so that the great Whole of Life is spread out into Ages, which sometimes seem to cross, sometimes to run parallel with each other:ā€”1st, The Epoch of the unlimited dominion of Reason as Instinct: ā€”the State of Innocence of the Human Race. 2nd, The Epoch in which Reason as Instinct is changed into an external ruling Authority;ā€”the Age of positive Systems of life and doctrine, which never go back to their ultimate foundations, and hence have no power to convince but on the contrary merely desire to compel, and which demand blind faith and unconditional obedience:ā€”the State of progressive Sin. 3rd, The Epoch of Liberation,ā€”directly from the external ruling Authorityā€”indirectly from the power of Reason as Instinct, and generally from Reason in any form;ā€”the Age of absolute indifference towards all truth, and of entire and unrestrained licentiousness:ā€”the State of completed Sinfulness. 4th, The Epoch of Reason as Knowledge;ā€”the Age in which Truth is looked upon as the highest, and loved before all other things:ā€”the State of progressive Justification. 5th, The Epoch of Reason as Art;ā€”the Age in which Humanity with more sure and unerring hand builds itself up into a fitting image and representative of Reason:ā€”the State of completed Justification and Sanctification. Thus, the whole progress which, upon this view, Humanity makes here below, is only a retrogression to the point on which it stood at first, and has nothing in view save that return to its original condition. But Humanity must make this journey on its own feet; by its own strength it must bring itself back to that state in which it was once before without its own coƶperation, and which, for that very purpose, it must first of all leave.ā€
We can call Fichteā€™s Five Principal Epochs a ā€œstadialā€ philosophy of history, since ā€œstadialā€ refers to stages. In this passage we gain an appreciation of the necessity of the five stages of history as a developmental process that cannot be gotten around: there is no royal road to the end of the history.
In the Second Lecture from Fichteā€™s Some Lectures Concerning the Scholarā€™s Vocation, he makes explicit both the a priori developmental history of humanity and the utopian picture of the ultimate end of human development:
ā€œā€¦a very great man has said, life in the state is not one of manā€™s absolute aims. The state is, instead, only a means for establishing a perfect society, a means which exists only under specific circumstances. Like all those human institutions which are mere means, the state aims at abolishing itself. The goal of all government is to make government superfluous. Though the time has certainly not yet come, nor do I know how many myriads or myriads of myriads of years it may take (here we are not at all concerned with applicability in life, but only with justifying a speculative proposition), there will certainly be a point in the a priori foreordained career of the human species when all civic bonds will become superfluous.ā€
The editor says in a footnote that the ā€œgreat manā€ mentioned was probably an allusion to Kantā€™s Idea of History from a Cosmopolitan Point of View. We saw in my episode on Kant how Kant saw the teleology of humanity as establishing the perfect civil constitution, though I also speculated that, if we take Kantā€™s later writings on history in the context of his early pre-critical work on natural history, this Kantian teleology for humanity is nested within a larger cosmological teleology. By my reading, then, Kant is actually the more naturalistic position, while Fichte is the more anthropocentric, and his ideal is a purely spiritual ideal, even an a priori idea. For example, Fichte isnā€™t in the least interested to even give an estimate of the period of time that will be required for humanity to abolish all government, but he only points out that this is the ultimate end.
Marx also predicted the withering away of the state after communism had been achieved, and Marx, too, emphasized definite stages in human development that would lead to this outcome. With Kant, Fichte, and Marx all predicting the end of formal human governments we might take this prediction as a distinctive feature of a certain class of philosophies of history. Toynbee, too, saw not exactly the end of the state, but the end of universal civilizations, which would cede their place to universal churches, which sounds to me a lot like Kant, Fichte, and Marx anticipating the ultimate abolition of government in a perfect society.
This we can understand as a kind of inverse teleology, in which it is not (or not only) the advent of some future eventuality that is foreseen, but the abolition of some present state-of-affairs in the future as the goal of human development. For Kant, Fichte, Marx, and Toynbee, there is a dual teleological movement, in which some novel state-of-affairs is to unfold, while a present state of affairs is to give way and disappear as the new order comes to replace it. We could call this a stadial philosophy of history, but it is as much a substitutional philosophy of history: one social order is substituted for another; familiar institutions are to be replaced by novel institutions that take their place.
As far as the new institutions are expected to be an improvement over the old, this is also a melioristic philosophy of history. All progressivist philosophies of history are also melioristic, but we can distinguish between gradualistic meliorism, in which iterated reform eventually converges on a perfect society, which could be a finite or an infinitistic process, and stadial meliorism, in which there is a replacement rather than reform of a social order, and this replacement is an improvement.
For a non-stadial, non-teleological philosophy of history, we can turn to Leopold von Ranke, who was critical of Fichteā€™s five epochs:
ā€œOne of the ideas with which philosophy again and again confronts history as an irrefutable claim is that mankind is on an uninterrupted road to progress, in a steady development toward perfection. Fichte, one of the foremost philosophers in this field, assumes five epochs, a world plan as he says ā€“ reason ruling through instinct, reason ruling through law, emancipation from the authority of reason, reason as science, and reason as art. If this or a similar scheme were to any extent true, then general history would have to follow the road of progress which the human race followed in the indicated direction from one age to the next. The sole subject matter of history would then be the development of such concepts as they appear and manifest themselves in the world of phenomena. But this is by no means the case. For one thing, the philosophers themselves have extraordinarily varied opinions about the nature and selection of these supposedly ruling ideas. But they very wisely focus only on a few peoples in world history while considering the lives of all the rest as nothing, as a mere supplement. Otherwise it could not be hidden for a moment that from the beginning to this day the peoples of the world have been in the most varied conditions.ā€
We saw earlier that Fichte by no means argued for an uninterrupted road to progress, but we can set that aside as being of secondary importance. The antagonism between Fichte and Ranke runs deeper. Ranke is often associated with the emergence of historicism, and sometimes he is identified as the source of historicism. Ranke even was willing to express his historicism in theological terms when we said that all ages are equidistant from God. With this view of history as consisting of co-equal periods each with their own integrity it would be difficult, though not impossible, to argue for progress. In Characteristics of the Present Age Fichte rejects the view that an age can be assessed on its own terms:
ā€œShould our view of the Present Age prove to have been a view taken from the standing-point of this Age itself, should the eye which has taken this view have been itself a product of the Age which it has surveyed, then has the Age borne witness to itself and such testimony must be set aside.ā€
Fichte, then, needs some criterion for his view of the present age other than the present age itself, and he finds it in religion:
ā€œā€¦what has been the nature of this theory, considered in its essential elements, and to what chief department of human thought it has belonged? I answer:ā€”It was a Religious Theory; all our contemplations were Religious contemplations, and our view of things, and the eye which embraced that view, were Religious.ā€
Fichte goes one better and actually gives a definition of religion in the next paragraph:
ā€œRELIGION consists in regarding and recognising all Earthly Life as a necessary development of the one, original, perfectly good and perfectly blessed Divine Life.ā€
Both Ranke and Fichte, then, invoke theological sanction for their conception of history, though this conception is starkly different, with Ranke taking each age to be sufficient unto itself, and no less related to the divine than any other age, while Fichte took each age to be dependent upon a larger framework for its meaning. While Ranke the historian insists on the individual uniqueness of each age, while Fichte the philosopher sees each age in relation to the whole of which it is a part. It is the task of Fichteā€™s Characteristics of the Present Age to provide for his contemporaries this larger framework so that they can understand their place in history, which for Fichte means understanding their place in the moral development of humanity.
Even Fichteā€™s conception of religion and moral development is strikingly abstract, as we find a little further on in the last chapter of Characteristics of the Present Age: ā€œā€¦Religion is nothing external,ā€”it never clothes itself in any outward manifestation.ā€ And, ā€œā€¦True Religion does not manifest itself outwardly, and does not impel man to any course of external conduct which he would not otherwise have adopted, but that it only completes his true Inward Being and dignity.ā€ This is not necessary an orthodox position, and weā€™ve already seen how Fichte got himself in trouble with authorities with his views on religion.
It would seem strange to call Fichteā€™s philosophy of history a providential philosophy of history, as it seems to have little in common with, say, St. Augustine, but by Fichteā€™s own account, his is a pervasively religious perspective, and his philosophy of history is an account of humanityā€™s progress toward moral perfection. This progress is a purely inward fulfillment, without any observational consequences, again, by Fichteā€™s own account. Iā€™ve run into this view in one other thinker, and that is Simone Weil. In my episode on Weil I quoted her criticism of providentialism of a kind that I called vulgar providentialism:
ā€œDivine Providence is not a disturbing influence, an anomaly in the ordering of the world; it is itself the order of the world; or rather it is the regulating principle of this universe. It is eternal Wisdom, unique, spread across the whole universe in a sovereign network of relations.ā€
I think Fichte would have agreed with this, and with the examples of both Fichte and Weil we can see that there is a place within the conceptual space of philosophy of history for what we could call a pure providential philosophy of history, or, if you like, an a priori providentialism.
Rankeā€™s criticism of Fichte is predicated upon the necessity of a vulgar providentialism that is reflected in the empirical world. But if, as Fichte said, religion is nothing external, and it does not impel man to any course of external conduct, neither should it impel any course of external conduct on the world. This also resolves the paradoxical argument that Angelica Nuzzo found at the heart of Fichteā€™s philosophy of history, since the bare factual nature of history can be distinguished from the providentialism that can be construed a priori.

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2024.05.20 07:12 James_Readme Why we shouldn't use the word CULT?

Why we shouldn't use the word CULT?
According to Psychologytoday.com:
"The application of this term is prejudice in practice. The vast canyon of meaning that people imagine exists between cults and religions is not there. It is a fabrication of sloppy thinking.
One should not have too much difficulty recognizing "cult" as an unsavory stealth word with an unjust mission. This is verbalized bullying that demeans less popular groups and distances them from more popular groups. Labeling a group a cult is a cowardly way of tolerating, condoning, appeasing, or promoting favored religions while simultaneously rejecting and disparaging a minority religion."
"People argue that some groups deserve the cult insult because of their potential danger to members and/or others. But how does this make "cults" special when the world's most widely respected religions have helped cause and inspire hate, violence, and destruction on a massive scale for centuries and still do today to a significant degree?" https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/about-thinking/201607/why-no-one-should-ever-use-the-word-cult
According to Rappler.com:
"Sociologist of religion Jayeel Cornelio, a professor at Ateneo de Manila University, is one of the many scholars who avoid using the term "cult."
"It's a morally loaded term defined for the rest of us by the majority," Cornelio told Rappler.
He outlined, in a mix of English and Filipino, the implications of the term: "You are a cult because you're a religious minority. You are a cult because you are practicing these strange worship practices. You have these strange, weird, funny beliefs.ā€ He said this mindset is "not very helpful" because "the majority feels that their own beliefs are unassailable, are not strange."
He cites as an example the Catholic belief in "transubstantiation," which means that the bread and wine offered at Mass become the real body and blood of Christ - not symbols, but what Catholics call the "Real Presence." In the early days of Christianity, nonbelievers viewed this as a form of cannibalism, prompting them to persecute Christianity as a "cult."
Cornelio said transubstantiation is "very strange" in the eyes of nonbelievers. "But nobody will question transubstantiation as a cultic belief because everybody believes in it, believes that doctrine," he said in the context of the Philippines, a predominantly Catholic country.
The sociologist also noted how people call the SBSI a cult due to sexual abuses within the organization. "But we're not willing to call the Catholic Church a cult whenever we encounter sexual abuses like this," he said.
Calling a group a cult, added the sociologist, "assumes that people are brainwashed" ā€“ which is a "dangerous" assumption."
"Another sociologist of religion, University of the Philippines professor Gerry Lanuza, also rejects the use of the term "cult."
"In an interview with Rappler, Lanuza said "cult" is one of the "very controversial and contested" terms in the social sciences. This label is "value-loaded or politically explosive,"..."
"You immediately assume that the connotation is negative," he said in a mix of English and Filipino, implying that "there is something dark, hideous" within the organization.
Lanuza said using the term "cult" is akin to using the word "terrorist." He asked, "Who is the terrorist from whose point of view?" https://www.rappler.com/newsbreak/explainers/things-to-know-what-is-cult-decades-debate/
According to Religionlink.com:
"As Northeastern University professor Megan Goodwin pointed out, using "cult" to label religious or social groups that we don't like or that we consider "strange" often marks those communities as "legitimate targets of state surveillance and violence."
"Part of the reason some people use the label is because some of the groups that fall into this category are known for saying and doing things that are problematic, or abusive. So why is it inappropriate to use the word? For one thing, virtually no one who is part of a group labeled as a "cult" sees themselves as a cult member. Rather they are a believer, disciple, or part of a religious community."
"It is common for family members, ex-members, law enforcement and media to use the term "cult" to drum up interest about, discredit or accuse these groups. The label comes with certain stereotypes: a charismatic leader, dangerous rituals, " end times" prophecies or other seemingly strange and reclusive behaviors that don't fit our definition of what a "real religion" should be."
"Even so, most (though not all) religion journalists and scholars agree: The word "cult" should be shelved." https://religionlink.com/reporting-on/reporting-on-new-religious-movements-nrms/
Note: That is why it is WRONG to use the word CULT in minority religions like the Iglesia ni Cristo.
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2024.05.20 07:11 Vegetable_Revenue542 Husband no longer loves me: TL;DR: My husband of almost 3 years has admitted to falling out of love with me but says he wants to still try to work it out and save our marriage, while simultaneously proving unwilling to put any work into salvaging the relationship at the same time.

Husband fell out of love with me
I'm posting anonymously as this is very humiliating and just not something I'm ready to discuss with anyone I know as of yet. I'm sorry if this is really long but I need advise and to just get all of this off of my chest. Will most likely delete later.
I (26f) have known my husband (28m) since we were young children. We grew up together for a while and then separated for over a decade when our families moved. I moved to a different part of town while he and his family moved to another town and hour and a half away. We hadn't spoken or seen each other until he managed to find me on social media when I was 21. I had been in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship at the time and was having a hard time finding my way out of that situation. When he messaged me I initially didn't even recognize him or his name. I was just going to leave him on read. But my curiosity got the better of me and I decided to go back and look at his page and that was when I recognized him. He helped me muster the courage I needed to break out of the turmultuious relationship I had been in and then drove an hour and a half just to see me. That meant a lot to me at the time. Shortly after we began our relationship and I quickly fell pregnant. We kept witnessing strange things that hardly felt like coincidences and had both come to the agreement that they we signs from the universe that we were on the correct path.
Fast forward to now. We have been together for almost 5 years and married for 3 after next week. We have two very young children together and have weathered many hardships as a couple in this time. In the beginning all was well. My husband still tried. He put in effort where he could. He watched me battle post partum depression after a very traumatic birth experience with our first child. Almost two years later we fell pregnant with our second which I was very apprehensive about because of the troubles I had in my first pregnancy. Things started changing with him after I became pregnant again (which I forget to mention he was initially very happy and excited about) his demeanor toward me had subtly started to change.
He stopped being as loving and affectionate. He seemed annoyed or indifferent to when I was upset or struggling internally. If I was crying or having a hard time he would just walk straight by me not even batting an eye. Before I had our second I lost one of my sisters unexpectedly and still am having a hard time handling the grief. When my sister passed away my husband offered me no condolences or emotional support what so ever. I was forced to face my grief alone. I've tried communicating with him about the way I've been feeling but he is completely emotionally closed off. I began to notice that the man I had married was a very emotionally unavailable person and I had tried to suggest seeking help to work through his communication issues and emotional unavailability but he is heavily against seeing a professional. He refuses still to this day to work on himself as a person at all.
Since having our second child we moved back to the town his family is from. We live in a home, my husband found a new job that he has to get up very early for and works very long hours through the week. When I would bring up how neglected I felt by him he would chalk it up to just being "too tired" "too sore" "too stressed". He puts absolutely no effort into our marriage at all. It's not the example of marriage I want set for our children let alone the fact that it eats away at me, makes me wonder if there is something wrong with me, and leaves me feeling unwanted, unloved, and like I don't matter at all. It makes it hard for me to be the mother I want to be. I find myself always overstimulated, and I feel like I'm constantly pouring from an empty cup.
I'm sure a lot of you will say "sounds like he's cheating" but I'm ashamed to admit that I have checked his phone, he never hides it from me. I found absolutely nothing on it and when he's not working he's always home with us. Just off on his own working on our house or only spending time with the kids or sleeping as he has to be up early. So if he is cheating he must be a professional at it cause he covers his tracks very well.
That brings me to recently. I've had this dull feeling in the pit of my stomach that I have found myself in a loveless marriage. I've been changing my appearance and dressing nicer. Doing my hair and make up more. And it doesn't seem to make a difference to him. Everyday I can feel depression quickly consuming me. I'm falling deeper and deeper into a place I've been working very hard to heal from and not fall back into. But now here I am. My husband's been slightly mean to me with some of the comments he's made about my appearance lately. making me feel completely unlovable and worthless. Everyday that passes without any kind of affection from him has built up in me and finally last night I was so upset. That knawing feeling in the pit of my stomach that something was amiss In my marriage I could no longer surpress. I've been having troubles sleeping. I can barely eat. My body dismorphia is coming back as well as eating disorders I used to have.
Last night I just couldnt sleep. I was so restless with the feeling of being trapped in a loveless marriage I couldn't stop my mind from racing. I finally fell asleep on the couch at about 6 am and dreamt that I had confronted my husband about my gut feeling to which he admitted he didn't love me in the dream. I woke up feeling distraught because of it. My husband was already up, tending to the kids acting as though everything was fine when I couldn't hold it in anymore. I finally confronted him. I told him about the gut feeling I had and asked him if he still loved me. He said he did. I rephrased the question and asked if he was IN love with me. That's when he looked down and fell silent. My heart plummeted and I began shaking feeling as though my life was crumbling around me. I then asked him if he wasn't in love with me, then was he in love with someone else to which he replied no and seemed sincere about that. I asked him why he had fallen out of love with me and he said because he sometimes felt like I wasn't pulling enough weight with chores. (Which may I add I may not get everything done in a day while tending to young hyperactive kids but I do make sure everyday that he does come house to all the toys picked up and floors swept and vacuumed if anything. And I try to get as many dishes done as I can with kids pulling on my pant sleeves.) So I'm not sure if I believe that to be the true reason. I asked where he wanted to go from here. Did he want me to take the kids and leave and let him pick up where he had left off from before we ever got together or if he wanted me to stay and try to fix our relationship. He said he wished for me to stay and we work on our marriage. I suggested couples counseling and he immediately shot it down saying we could work it out ourselves to which I asked how and then he shrugged and said, verbatim, " I figured you'd just read a book". That was when I got angry. At that moment I knew he wants me to be the one to figure out how to get him to fall back love with me. which in turn means he will not be willing to put any work into actually fixing our marriage. Even after all of this he still won't hardly communicate, still not being affectionate, hell he still hasn't even apologized or shown any remorse for hurting me so deeply.
I'm now at a loss. I'm so hurt by this. I'm humiliated, I feel betrayed. I have so many doubts about him in this moment. I've let him know that I'm not just going to be able to get over this. I severely dissociated after his revelation of no long being in love with me. I'm so upset because I do love him still and have sacrificed everything for him. Absolutely everything. Almost my life included. I told him I'm having a hard time deciding whether I'm going to stay or go. Frankly I just want to disappear from this world.
Does anyone have any insight? What should I do?
TL;DR: My husband of almost 3 years has admitted to falling out of love with me but says he wants to still try to work it out and save our marriage, while simultaneously proving unwilling to put any work into salvaging the relationship at the same time. I'm very hurt by his admission of no longer being in love with me and don't think I can move past this. What should I do?
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2024.05.20 07:05 LucyAriaRose AITA For being cautious about letting my ex back into our daughter's life after 5 years?

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Ok_Outcome3739. She posted in AITAH

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Mood Spoiler: OOP gets answers
Original Post: May 11, 2024
I 29F have a 5F with my ex 32M. We were engaged but never really planned to have kids before marriage or at least for the next few years. I was on the pill and he used protection sometimes but I ended up pregnant. Since it was unplanned. Abortion was on the table. He was more into making it work so both of us decided to keep the baby. I wasn't emotionally prepared but for him love is all it takes to make everything work. Fast forward 6 months he started to change. He would give me the silent treatment if I do something wrong. He wouldn't engage in any conversation about the baby and would just yell at me if I ask what's wrong. I was almost 8 months pregnant when he told me he's just not ready to be a father and can't do both things. It's either fatherhood or his career. I was scared to be a single mother so I told him it's fine I can take care of our baby and be a SAHM until things get better for him, but he refused and made it clear everything is over. Since the house was his I left and went to live with my mom until I found myself a place.
I gave birth to my baby girl and he never came to see her. His mother and sister were there for me and to this day they're still part of my daughter's life. As for him he gave up his parental rights and granted me full custody (legally) but was willing to contribute financially through child support (He voluntarily provides financial support in an amicable arrangement). I'm not proud of it but there are nights I called him just to ask him why did he do that to us. I wasn't even ready but seeing him happy and excited made me think we could make it work together. He never really answered my calls. We used to communicate through his mother or sister or email. I love my baby and won't ever see her as a mistake. I'm still doing my best to be the best mother she deserves. I have a good paying job now and everything is better than before.
Now here's the thing. After 5 years and when I finally feel my life got better and figured out my shit, he wants to get involved. He's been calling and texting me for a week now. He doesn't regret a thing and he's not asking. He's telling me that he has the right to see his daughter and be there for her. How can I trust him not to wake up one day and decide being in her life is a mistake and disappear again? He can do that to me but I just don't want my daughter to get hurt. I told him he can see her but not this way. He wants more than just to see her. He even threatened me if I don't agree then he has no problem telling her in the future how I'm the reason she grew up without a father.
His mother and even my mother want me to just let him into my daughter's life with no exceptions. And I'm not comfortable doing that because I know him. WIBTA if I decide on what's best for our daughter or just suck it up and let him in?
Edit: just wanted to mention English isn't my first language, so sorry if there are any errors. Also sorry if this is a bit long but I wanted to give you all the details.
Relevant Comments:
What the hell changed:
Exactly, I don't know how. He never answered my calls for two years and never wanted to see her for 5 years and now out of nowhere he's blowing up my phone demanding a relationship with her and expecting me to just let him in. Thank you for the advice šŸ™ŒšŸ»
Downvoted Comment:
Commenter: I take it that you trust your mother, that she knows everything that happened just as much as you do, that you don't think she has any malice towards you or your daughter.
If that is the case then it should at least give you pause to question why it is she does not agree with you on this matter and you should at least speak to her and ask her what her reasons are.
This has nothing to do with what you think he deserves. This is entirely about would it be beneficial for your daughter to have a positive relationship with her father and to have him as a presence in her life. You have no right to deny that to your child and if he does tell her you are the reason she grew up without a father, that will be 100% the truth.
OOP: My mother hates to see her daughter being a single mom. I'll be honest here. my family felt ashamed to have a pregnant daughter outside of marriage. she not only wants him back in my daughter's life but she also wishes to see us back together. As for his mother. It's HIS mother I don't need to say more.
Update Post: May 13
He didn't stop with the calls and texts and I read some of the comments wondering why he suddenly wants to be in my daughter's life so I agreed to meet up with him and discuss everything yesterday. We talked for about 30 mins. 30 mins of me trying to explain to him that he literally gave up his parental rights years ago and there's no need for threatening since he legally has no right to see her if I don't allow him. While he was focused on expressing how I haven't changed and complimenting my body. His comments became too much so I decided to just leave but I noticed he was wearing a ring on his right hand and didn't hesitate to ask him about it. He said he proposed a few weeks ago but he thinks he rushed things. I asked him if she knows about my daughter and if this is why he's here. He said no she still doesn't know and he genuinely wants to be part of his daughter's life. He basically spent 30 mins flirting with no shame that he's engaged and showed no sign of being genuinely interested in getting involved. I told him to just forget about my daughter but if he wants to we can see a judge and they can laugh at him. He threatened to cut financial support and I made it clear I never really needed his help. Sending me $1000 once or twice a year with his sister was already no help and I can give back his money if he wants to.
Now I know what I did wrong but it was the only way to get the answer I needed. On my way home I called his sister and lied about how things went. I said that he told me everything and how his fiancƩe encourages him to be a better person and I think that's why he wants in which is a good thing. His sister told me everything I needed to know. How his fiancƩe has a good heart and how she didn't like it when she discovered that he has a daughter but never saw her before. She basically wouldn't have said yes if he didn't promise to try and fix things. So both his mother and sister knew the reason he wanted to get back into my daughter's life and his mother encouraged me to let him in without even being honest with me.
So all this wasn't about my daughter. It was about him and impressing his fiancƩe who was horrified that he wants nothing to do with his daughter. My mother gets it now but his mother called the same day asking what's the plan now. I told her there's no plan. He could have just given me full custody but he wanted nothing to do with her to the point he decided to sign away his rights. And he seemed already fine with the relationship they have which is none. She tried to make me consider letting him in because at the end it's my daughter's decision. My daughter is 5 years old what decision?? Anyway I made it clear to her that both her and her daughter legally aren't my child's family and from now on there will be no alone time with her. And if they keep pressing me I can easily cut them out.
I will discuss this with a lawyer though. I have everything documented and I'm sure he doesn't have a leg to stand on but still. Just in case he tries something.
And let me show you some of his texts that I'm very tempted to get his fiancƩe's number and send her some screenshots. English isn't our first language so I translated them for you
"Who sees you now would never tell you weren't ready for this. you look happier"
"You know I really didn't know how much I missed you until I saw you today"
"Good night beautiful kiss (my daughter's name) for me"
I don't know if I'm just overreacting but if my fiancƩ texts his ex this way. I for sure won't find it acceptable.
By the way with him back. I realized that I never really dealt with the way he broke my heart. Maybe I cried but I had to figure out my life as soon as I could for the sake of my daughter. When I gave birth all I started thinking about was my daughter. Even the nights I called him it was never to ask about 'me' it was always about 'us'. I was scared and not ready to be a mom. And now that I'm a mother I've never felt this strong. I don't know what I'm trying to say here but I'm glad how my life turned out.
Thank you for the advice. I'm glad I gathered the courage to see him. I feel so much better. At least now I know I don't have to worry about him shaking my baby's life up šŸ™ŒšŸ»šŸ¤šŸ¤
Relevant Comments:
Commenter: Im sorry you have to deal with this jerk op. So many people in your og post called it. Heā€™s only interested in your daughter because of his new woman
Honesty block him and go very lc with his family because they are not looking out for your or your daughters best interest
OOP: Thank you. I'm planning to do that but he's still not done with the threats about telling lies to my daughter. I'm trying to gather everything I can before I block him.
Commenter: Ask the sister for the fiancƩe's number, say he forgot to give it to you.
Something tells me you'll be bonding over his abandoned children in a few years.
OOP: Love the ideašŸ™ŒšŸ» shared trauma makes for great bounding material šŸ˜‚šŸ™ŒšŸ»šŸ¤

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2024.05.20 06:50 kartvee This entrepreneur buys a gas station for his wifeā€™s baby shower

This entrepreneur buys a gas station for his wifeā€™s baby shower
If youā€™re interested in growing your wealth, starting a business, or living a truly rich life, these six tips can help you do it the right way.
He didnā€™t buy a bed until he got married. And when his wife was pregnant, he wondered, ā€œHow much does a baby cost?ā€ Today he owns ten gas stations and even a building that houses the Wells Fargo bank.
https://preview.redd.it/h815a0yvei1d1.jpg?width=1280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b4d65328ee20c0a2a76e2239c535b06006828c5c
The farther down this page you read, youā€™ll understand how you too can buy gas stations and banks.
More importantly, youā€™ll start to feel, think, and act like a wealthy entrepreneur.
A wise man once told me this:
ā€œYou need to think wealthy before you become wealthyā€
I remember these words like it was yesterdayā€¦
And I like what it means. But I had one problem though.
I struggled to understand the specific principles that wealthy people used to think.
So tell me somethingā€¦
How did you buy your first car?
Did you buy it cash down?
Or, did you borrow money? Took an auto loan, perhaps?
Let me tell you a little story.

Buying my first car.

Over twenty years ago, I bought my first car.
And everything happened so quicklyā€¦
A car salesman stopped me at my office lobby. He asked if I was interested in buying a car. And he handed me a pamphlet.
It basically said that based on my salary, I was eligible to take an auto loan.
The promise that I could drive a brand-new car in ten days was too tempting.
So I gave in. I signed up for an auto loan.
And in less than ten days, I had this shiny new gray-color car!
It had power windows, an electronic steering wheel, auto-dimming rearview mirrors, and all the bells and whistles. Smart move, right?

Hold on to your horses!

Smart move or not, Iā€™ll let you decide after youā€™re done reading the rest of this post.
Recently, Iā€™ve been binge-listening to some of the backdated episodes of a podcast I LOVE.
And I bumped into a very familiar name.
Syed Balkhi.

The millionaire teen.

I first heard of Syed long ago in 2006 when I started blogging. But little did I pay attention to what he did. All I knew was that he had a website called WPBeginner.
It was a blog about WordPress for people who built WordPress websites or plugins. I liked his content and spent a lot of time reading his blog posts as I was building WordPress websites too.
Syed is in his thirties today. Which means he mustā€™ve been in his early teens in 2006!
In about eighteen months of starting WPBeginner, he made his first million dollars in annual revenue.
And ever since, heā€™s grown his business, Awesome Motive, big time by acquiring other WordPress companies.
If you arenā€™t familiar with WordPress, itā€™s a CMS software. Content Management System, in short.
Itā€™s a software that supposedly powers 40% of the internet. But thatā€™s not the best part. Hereā€™s what is:
Syedā€™s company today owns ~60% of all WordPress businesses.
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I call this the Balkhi Domination Disc.
Put simply, Syedā€™s businesses power 24% of the internet.
This is HEWGE!
Okay, another storyā€¦

The gas station story.

At some point on the podcast, Syed goesā€¦
ā€œI bought a gas station, the first one, primarily because I wanted to offset expensesā€¦ā€
Offset expenses?
I was on a run while listening to this, and almost tripped when he said that.
Okay. Take a deep breath. I did that tooā€¦
Coz from this point on, itā€™s PURE GOLD.
And here goes the first and biggest lesson in wealth creationā€¦

Tip #1: Every time you need to buy a depreciating asset, invest in an appreciating asset.

Syed says he learned this lesson from his mentor when he was thirteen or fourteen.
The best way to understand this is to loop back to my opening storyā€¦
When I bought my first car, I paid the monthly installments using my salary.
But when Syedā€™s mentor bought his Mercedes, he didnā€™t spend money from his savings. Instead, he decided to invest money in real estate. And he used the returns from that real estate to finance his shiny new Mercedes.
When Syedā€™s wife was pregnant with their first sonā€¦
He followed the exact blueprint.
He knew the money one would need with a baby birth ā€“ hospital charges, medicines, diapers, toys, and everything else!
So instead of spending money from his savings, Syed used the lesson he learned from his mentor to cover the cost of raising a baby ā€“ he bought a gas station!
It didnā€™t just give him the money to pay for the baby shower and childbirth. The gas station would continue to generate a steady flow of cash every single year.
Darn! Why didnā€™t it ever strike me before?
Mentor, baby! Iā€™m glad to have found one in a podcast!
Okay, letā€™s look at the next oneā€¦

Tip #2: Build a recurring revenue business

In a content business, you turn email subscribers into paying customers. But Syed calls them just re-occurring revenue. The revenue occurs every time someone on your list buys something from you.
A new customer pays once. And unless you sell them something else, you arenā€™t going to make bank. The only way your business is going to see revenue trickle in from that customer is when you sell to them again.
The solution?
Build a recurring revenue business.
Syed regularly invests and acquires other WordPress software and tools businesses. This allows him to cross-sell software and tools to existing info product customers.
Of course, you can build recurring revenue info products too, using memberships and subscriptions ā€“ but Syed didnā€™t get into that on this podcast.
So yes, using revenue to acquire new businesses is a great idea. But how much should you invest?
Syed has stuck to one principle:

Tip #3: Heads I win, tails I donā€™t lose much

Syed learned this principle from his friend Monish Pabrai.
In his book The Dhando Investor, Monish talks about the Patels of India. He describes how this relatively tiny subset of humanity from eastern India went on to own most of the motels in the United States.
According to Monish, one of the biggest reasons why the Patels have been successful in business is because they always have followed this principle ā€“ heads I win, tails I donā€™t lose much. So what does this mean?
Letā€™s look at it with an example.
Assume the intrinsic value of a certain business is $1,000,000, and you buy it for $700,000. What you just did in that transaction is what he describes as a ā€œheads I win, tails I donā€™t lose muchā€.
Because letā€™s say you did a great job with the business and the intrinsic value went up ā€“ you win!
But just in case you didnā€™t do much with the business and the intrinsic value dropped by $400,000, you only lose $100,000.
Heads you win, tails you donā€™t lose much!
This is wild!
At this point, I was fully invested in listening to this conversation. And I was just getting restless thinkingā€¦
ā€œHow can I buy a business on the cheap?ā€
And it just felt like the hosts heard me!
Letā€™s look at the answer to my question.

Tip #4: Identify ā€œmismanaged gemsā€ to compound at high double-digit

Back in the 1990s, my uncle built an empire buying distressed real estate properties. And it wasnā€™t easy. Every time he bought one, there was a lot of work to be done.
From litigation and dispute issues to structural issues, he was usually handed a mess. Thatā€™s why they were called distressed assets ā€“ thankfully, my uncle had the wherewithal to turn them around.
Mismanaged gems are different.
Syed describes mismanaged gems as good (online) businesses with some limitations. These could be in the form of having limited revenue streams, limited target audience, or something else.
Letā€™s look at a couple of examplesā€¦
  • Letā€™s take an online business where the creator isnā€™t aware of the different ways to monetize their business. You can acquire this business for $15,000. You use your Facebook Ads skills to sell $20,000 worth of info products and instantly increase the revenue.
  • If an online business has been running only using word-of-mouth marketing, you can acquire it and use your email list to instantly grow the business by exposing them to a new audience.
Hereā€™s how Syed puts itā€¦
ā€œA business might only be thinking about monetizing from one angle. Theyā€™re not thinking about it from a full perspective. So I can look at it and say well yes this is the current revenue today, and Iā€™m getting a bargain on todayā€™s revenue. But here are my contracts that I have with so many different partners and vendors and such that Iā€™ll be able to unlock extra revenue here, here, and here. So I turned this business that has one revenue stream to having like multiple revenue streams. Thatā€™s how you take something that was doing like no revenue to or very low revenue to having five eight ten million dollars in revenue.ā€ ā€“ Syed Balkhi

Tip #5: Leverage the Ecosystem effect

If youā€™re starting a business, look for an ecosystem. What does that mean?
Syedā€™s entire online business is built around the WordPress ecosystem.
But there are many other software platforms like WordPress that have an ecosystem. Look at software like QuickBooks, Google Chrome, or Xero. These software platforms are built like an ecosystem, allowing developers to build plugins and extensions.
Most of these plugins and extensions are sizeable businesses in and of themselves. So if youā€™re starting a business, youā€™re better off starting one inside an ecosystem.
Starting a business inside an ecosystem exposes you to massive opportunities. You can grow your business through acquisitions, and cross-selling, amongst many other ways. And this also helps you compound over time.
Related Post: Speaking of selling, I think youā€™ll find value in this episode on The Launch Plan podcast about the F-Word that stops clients from buying your products.

Tip #6: Go from creatooperator to capital allocator

This one is an advanced idea. If youā€™ve done well with your business and have some cash in the bank, this oneā€™s for ya!
Essentially what Syed says here is that you have one of two choices:
  1. You can choose to build a business from scratch, or
  2. You can acquire an existing business and multiply it.
Obviously, this is an advanced tip. But great business owners donā€™t master capital allocation overnight. While there are some common traits between the two, itā€™s a skill you need to build.
I havenā€™t bought a business so far. But Iā€™m very interested in this. Youā€™ll likely see me writing more on this topic in future posts.

Bonus ā€˜Rickā€™ Tip: Donā€™t be in a hurry to get wealthy

Have you heard of Rick Guerin?
If you havenā€™t, no worries. Neither did I ā€“ until I listened to this podcast.
Rick Guerin was Warren Buffett and Charlie Mungerā€™s third business partner at Berkshire Hathaway.
Huh? Really?
I couldnā€™t believe it either. A third partner?
So looked up the interwebs for proof.
It turns out to be TRUE!
Hereā€™s how Monish Pabrai describes what happened to Rick:
ā€œIn the ā€™73, ā€™74 downturn, Rick was levered with margin loans. And the stock market went down almost 70% in those two years, and so he got margin calls out the yin-yang, and he sold his Berkshire (Hathaway) stock to Warren. Warren actually said, I bought Rickā€™s Berkshire stock at under $40 apiece, and so Rick was forced to sell shares at ā€¦ $40 apiece because he was levered.ā€
Rick was just as smart as Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger. But he was in a hurry. And thatā€™s the bonus tip!
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2024.05.20 06:47 AmericanCitizen41 Examples of Movies Where You Disagreed With Your Favorite Critic's Opinion

Roger Ebert is my favorite movie critic. I read his reviews and his blog entries regularly before he died in 2013, and I was truly heartbroken by his death. Ebert is a major inspiration to me both as a filmgoer and as a writer. That being said, he had some opinions that I strongly disagreed with. He gave one of my favorite movies, To Kill a Mockingbird, 2.5 stars for the bizarre reason that it was allegedly an unrealistic 1960s liberal fantasy of what race relations should be like. In particular he criticized the scene, which is straight from Harper Lee's book, where Scout discourages a lynch mob from killing Tom Robinson. At the same time, Ebert was happy to give rave 4 star reviews to movies like The Birth of a Nation and Triumph of the Will even though they advocate for racism, race-based violence, and either terrorism or Nazism respectively. Surely those movies represent views on history and race that are more unrealistic than anything in To Kill a Mockingbird, so why does Ebert apply such a stark double standard? I understand that for a long time The Birth of a Nation and Triumph of the Will were sacred cows of cinema that (white) critics appreciated more for their contributions to moviemaking than the actual content of those films, but Ebert had such a self-righteous and condemnatory tone in his review of To Kill a Mockingbird that I couldn't help but view his review as hypocritical.
Ebert also gave A Clockwork Orange and Full Metal Jacket negative reviews, he consistently hated all of David Lynch's movies before The Straight Story (which he gave 4 stars), and he gave The Godfather Part II only 3 stars in his initial review. (In his later 4 star review, he said that he would not change a word of his original review).
I am not saying any of this to make Ebert look bad, I am just saying that I don't agree with these specific opinions by someone who I hold in high regard. What are some examples where you disagreed with your favorite critic's take on a particular movie?
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2024.05.20 06:33 Gloomy-Kale3332 AITAH for not wanting children to come along to visits after I give birth?

When I say children, itā€™s one specific child I donā€™t want at my house after giving birth but I feel like I canā€™t exclude one and not the rest.
I am due to give birth next month and I really have no qualms about visitors, but my one family member has a baby (nearly 1) whose behaviour is absolutely insane and draining and the parents do not ā€˜manage itā€™ for example, they came around for dinner the other day, the mom clearly had a tough day so kept handing me her baby whilst I was trying to cook, the baby constantly pulls your hair or bites in frustration and screams for the sake of screaming, when she was put down she just screams and tries to play with things she wouldnā€™t (wires blabla) and the parents do say ā€˜noā€™ but find it funny when she carries on doing something after they say no, so they laugh and praise her for being cute (so she continues) itā€™s honestly draining and not only that, the one parent has been very weird since Iā€™ve become pregnant and will keep making ā€˜jokesā€™ about how their child will be ā€˜left outā€™ when our baby comes (they thought we wouldnā€™t be having children so thought theirs would be the only baby in the family) so Iā€™m also scared of them coming around and letting her act up more for her to get attention.
I REALLY donā€™t want this baby there when I first give birth (they will want to visit within the first week)
AITAH for this? I feel like Iā€™m just being a bit rude, I feel like in a way that this is just what children are like and I need to get used to it and I canā€™t exactly isolate a baby who doesnā€™t know right from wrong, but this is the most draining baby Iā€™ve ever met and Iā€™ve previously worked in nurseries for years
If Iā€™m not the AH, how do I even begin to go about saying I donā€™t want their baby there?
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2024.05.20 06:24 deepdarksecrets My [F31] long distance partner [M33] of over 2 years got drunk and was terrible to my friends. How do I move past this? Should I?

The background:
This is a long story because there's a lot of important background info that's relevant, but I want to start by saying my partner is a very kind, thoughtful, communicative, intelligent, and passionate man. We are from different countries, with different native languages, and are both currently living in my country (US). We met living in a major city, got very invested in each other very quickly, and after about 3-4 months he dropped a bomb that he'd applied for PhD programs all over the world and gotten into one in Europe. I have a really fantastic job and am pursuing an industry funded PhD in the city we met in, so moving was not an option for me. I had just gotten out of a LDR about a year prior to meeting him, and it really did not work for me because I value physical contact. But I really loved this man, he was so wonderful, treated me like an absolute princess in a way I've never really experienced, and I couldn't bare the thought of ending things, so we tried to make it work.
Fast forward, it's been like 2 more years. He reapplied to schools in the US and left his program in Europe to come back here and be closer to me (the visa issues and cost of the trans Atlantic flight were very difficult to manage). He is still a 2hr plane ride and 3 hour car ride away. This is tough because he doesn't have a car, but we see each other approximately every other month for at least a weekend, and spend summer break in my city.
For a variety of reasons, we are still really struggling. Our communication is off, and we have constant arguments and misunderstandings. I think we often miss each other because things are literally lost in translation (I am taking classes to learn his language, but we still primarily communicate in English). Our lives are now very different - I make a decent amount of money, travel frequently, I have roots in my city, and a good friend group and busy social life. This was how both of our lives were when we met, but he's now making very little money as a student and so he really can't travel even on a budget, a lot of his friendships have fallen off or moved away, and he's living in rural Midwestern US. I care so much but I'm losing track of what we had in common, and it's increasingly difficult for me to just "flip the switch" into relationship mode when he is here.
The conflict:
We had a very healthy but also honest conversation when he arrived for the summer a few weeks ago that neither of us were very happy, our communication is really poor, and decided that we would try to actively improve our relationship this summer and reassess if we wanted to continue in the fall. His program has 4 more years. I live in a big house with several friends because a) the rent in my city is insane for a single person and b) I like the company.
We had a big party yesterday, as we do a few times a year, and my boyfriend had fun all day, but at some point got really drunk and told my roommates' partner that he used to hate her, but he likes her a lot more now. I didn't witness this, and he wouldn't or couldn't tell me what he said, but another roommate approached him to say this really wasn't okay and the person was hurt by his words. He brushed it off saying he didn't mean it. We've talked a lot about how what you mean isn't as important as how it is perceived, and that having a filter is important, and my roommate was echoing these exact things I've said to him (which I have never mentioned to her), so I very much believe it happened. The partner he said this to also lives in our house about 50% of the time. My roommates allow him to live with us rent free over the summers because he has to maintain a residence in the state his uni is in and is pretty much flat broke, but this is really just out of kindness on their part. They could very easily ask for addition rent (our rate was just hiked significantly) and besides that, he's disturbed the peace in my home, which I really do not like.
He then sat down next to me (I was playing video games on the couch with a male friend, who is recently engaged, very kind, and totally platonic) and my boyfriend started muttering under his breath about how I wanted this guy and we were fucking or something. I don't even think my friend understood it was directed at him, but I definitely did. At this point I brought my boyfriend upstairs because I didn't want him to say any more shitty things to my friends. I asked him very calmly what was going on and he could barely make eye contact, would not acknowledge what I was saying, and wouldn't give me any straight answers. He then proceeded to say a bunch of horrible shit about our relationship, how it was already over there was no point trying, I would be happier fucking other people. I cried and hyperventilated all night and sent him to a friend's in the morning. I should mention that I am the child of a really nasty drunk who used to say horrible things and not remember anything in the morning. This experience really really triggered me.
I've had several lesser unpleasant experiences with him while drinking, and one major one where he made a friend's partner cry in front of a huge group of people while drinking at a beer garden. In that situation, what the person was saying was shitty, and it was okay to call her out, but he couldn't exercise the self control to stop himself from hammering her into the ground about it to the point of tears. This woman is now engaged to his best friend and their friendship has never been the same since this happened. For someone who genuinely is a thoughtful and emotionally aware person, I think he really struggles to read the room. He's very proud of his country, generally stubborn, and politically opinionated and this can be really damaging combined with the communication issues I often experience with him. He is fluent in English, but doesn't understand a lot of nuances (how strong the word "hate" is, for example, or when someone is trying to politely change an uncomfortable topic). All of these traits get a lot worse with alcohol and while I don't think he's an addict, I do think he's shown a few times now that he is an angry drunk, which is very scary to me.
In the morning, he was very apologetic and accepted the blame and said he would take steps to fix this problem so he wasn't drunk like this around me again, but I fear he's damaged a relationship with my friends and housemates, and also with me, in a way that's not easily repairable. We were already struggling, and I was very committed to trying to resolve our differences, and work on our relationship, but I am no longer sure it's worth trying. This is something that will take a lot of time for me to get over, and we don't have that much time together, and we also don't have very much space. He is staying with friends for a few days but beyond that if I can't deal with sharing my room he just needs to go back to his state
Am I overreacting to this situation? Would you try and work it out? I recognize that this is a trigger for me, and maybe I could get past it with time. Our relationship was already a little broken, and now feels shattered. I am so sad sitting here without him, but I am so upset I don't know how to move forward. Is it just time to move on from this? I love this guy so much but maybe I am beating a dead horse here.
Tl;Dr Long distance relationship of ~2.5 years between people from very different cultures is constantly encountering obstacles related to communication, despite a lot of very healthy and honest discussions about it. The communication issues overflowed to my friends and roommates during a party, and dealing with my angry drunk boyfriend brought up a lot of trauma from being raised by an angry alcoholic. Unsure if I'm overreacting or if it's just time to cut this off.
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