What should i do?
Hey im 16m
and 2.5 years ago I met a girl through snapchat we were just talking for 1 year and then she wanted to meet me I liked her quite a bit so I agreed we met in my city because she was here that weekend and the moment I saw her I was in love we talked all day and a week later she said she was in love too but I wanted to ask her when I saw her in real life again so that stopped us from being in a relationship then I didn't see her for 2 months and we called and talked a lot and one day she said that her mother wanted to meet me I was jumping for joy and didn't know what to say because I was so happy 1 week later I met her family.
it was a great day and everything went well i had bought flowers for her and her mother just before i left we went for a walk and i thought that was my chance to ask her but i didn't dare every time
every time I wanted to say something no sound came out and I became shy then we went back inside and shortly afterwards I went home we kept talking a lot and doing a lot of things together and everything went well a few months later we still hadn't seen each other because we didn't have enough time I missed her a lot but I didn't dare to say that 1 month later was Valentine's Day and I had a I got her a bear of roses that unfortunately I couldn't give to her myself because she had problems so we couldn't meet up, so I sent it to her house, which honestly hurt a lot because I wanted to give it myself and ask her right away for a relationship A few days later she had given me bear and we were talking until I got a lump in my throat and suddenly started missing her very much. I actually never miss people but with her I felt different and I thought maybe I should just say something. I feel and I did I said that I loved her and that I never want to lose her again and even though people say that young people always break up, we stay together and we will make it. I saw that she was in our chat for a while and then she called me and i heard she was crying she said that I was very sweet and that she will never forget that
everything went well until 2 months later I had arranged to meet her twice and she had ghosted me twice, the last time I was very angry because I went to her city and waited 2 hours for her we were not talking until I said I didn't want to talk for a while because I was too angry
after 2 days of not talking I said I was sorry for what I said and that I wanted to talk it out she said she would call me when she had time but after 2 days I still hadn't heard from her so I asked if everything was okay and then she said that she has thought about it and that she doesn't want a relationship right now because she now has to focus on herself, school and her family, which I completely understood, we both had our own problems, that's what brought us together in the first place we just forgot what happened and started talking normally again after that we and we met up one more time or we shouldve met up because she ghosted me again this time one of her problems got in her way and she couldn’t contact me
But i didnt know so i got angry and said if she is gonna do this everytime i dont want to keep going
she explained what happened and then one of my problems came to my mind, which made me react even angrier to everyone, she didn't know and thought I was angry, and thought I was angry which made our argument even worse the next day our argument continued and after that we stopped talking for 1 day then she said she has thought about it and thinks it would be better if we with “us” She said she had no interest anymore after that moment i realized what had happened and i started chasing her for 1 week but it was already too late 4 days after we stopped talking i tried again and i told her how i felt and sent her a message about us for a long time in the hope that it would help She called me again crying and said that i was nice and she really loves me but she doesnt know how we should keep going she said she will come back on it
After couple of days she said “maybe its better if we really stop “ and its hurts me when she said that that day we talked a bit and i felt nothing for her anymore One day later i mist her so much i wanted to go back in time and re-do everything but in an good way 2 weeks after that mist her so much i contacted her and she said “you need to forget me otherwise your gonna hurt yourself” after that i said “okay sorry for bothering you” and that was 1,5 months ago
I really mis her and i think about her everyday even if i dont want to thinking back we had it so perfect with each other and i just want to restart with her And i want to contact het again but she probably gonna me annoyed or smt and she wanted no contact because is will hurt her to so i respect her her choice My best friend said that i need to forget everything because she probably already did
But idk went its late in the day i miss her Im football player and got scouted for a great team And she always believed in me and when i get news from my new team i wanna tell her because i always told her and my mom first but now it just makes me sad
So should i contact her again and say that i miss her and probably annoy her or What should i do?

I don’t want to go into too much detail right now but I have had diagnosed PTSD for 18 years, among other things. I had PTSD dreams that relive every detail for about two years after the first traumatic event, then again for two years after the second. The third and fourth I did not get any dreams and have been relatively dream free for over a decade.
In April I had gotten a psychiatrist who listens to how meds make me feel and agreed that we need to work on my sleep first and foremost. It’s something I’ve wanted to do forever. The first med brought my PTSD dreams back the first night. Every time I would fall asleep, I’d be up an hour later due to them. Three nights later, same issues, so we pulled me off of those. She prescribed another med but I havent been able to take it yet (which we agreed it would wait until mid-June). Even without being on the sleep meds, I sporadically have PTSD dreams again. I hate saying I am used to it, but I am after this many years and can usually get myself calmed down and back to sleep.
Tonight was different. I only managed two hours of sleep and I cannot go back to sleep because I am freaking out. I had a PTSD dream of the second traumatic event, but this time, the perpetrator’s face was not his. It was instead the guy who I have been with for six years, the guy who has never even raised his voice at me nor ever made me feel in danger. I tried and tried to shake it off and go back to sleep to no avail. I’m utterly freaked out by the face change.
Is this normal? If so, why? I’ve tried googling with no help, except a semi-related reddit post which of course reminded me that Redditors sometimes know more than Google (let’s be real) so here I am. Why the face change?
I do not have a therapist due to my insurance only covering one around my area and them being really crappy. My PTSD symptoms make me unemployable so I cannot really change to a better insurance and I cannot afford out of pocket. A program I am in for my psychiatrist and social worker is trying to get therapy for me but having no luck. That’s the long way around saying that I cannot go ask my therapist about it which is why I am here. This one really shook me to my core.

Hey im 16m
and 2.5 years ago I met a girl through snapchat we were just talking for 1 year and then she wanted to meet me I liked her quite a bit so I agreed we met in my city because she was here that weekend and the moment I saw her I was in love we talked all day and a week later she said she was in love too but I wanted to ask her when I saw her in real life again so that stopped us from being in a relationship then I didn't see her for 2 months and we called and talked a lot and one day she said that her mother wanted to meet me I was jumping for joy and didn't know what to say because I was so happy 1 week later I met her family.
it was a great day and everything went well i had bought flowers for her and her mother just before i left we went for a walk and i thought that was my chance to ask her but i didn't dare every time
every time I wanted to say something no sound came out and I became shy then we went back inside and shortly afterwards I went home we kept talking a lot and doing a lot of things together and everything went well a few months later we still hadn't seen each other because we didn't have enough time I missed her a lot but I didn't dare to say that 1 month later was Valentine's Day and I had a I got her a bear of roses that unfortunately I couldn't give to her myself because she had problems so we couldn't meet up, so I sent it to her house, which honestly hurt a lot because I wanted to give it myself and ask her right away for a relationship A few days later she had given me bear and we were talking until I got a lump in my throat and suddenly started missing her very much. I actually never miss people but with her I felt different and I thought maybe I should just say something. I feel and I did I said that I loved her and that I never want to lose her again and even though people say that young people always break up, we stay together and we will make it. I saw that she was in our chat for a while and then she called me and i heard she was crying she said that I was very sweet and that she will never forget that
everything went well until 2 months later I had arranged to meet her twice and she had ghosted me twice, the last time I was very angry because I went to her city and waited 2 hours for her we were not talking until I said I didn't want to talk for a while because I was too angry
after 2 days of not talking I said I was sorry for what I said and that I wanted to talk it out she said she would call me when she had time but after 2 days I still hadn't heard from her so I asked if everything was okay and then she said that she has thought about it and that she doesn't want a relationship right now because she now has to focus on herself, school and her family, which I completely understood, we both had our own problems, that's what brought us together in the first place we just forgot what happened and started talking normally again after that we and we met up one more time or we shouldve met up because she ghosted me again this time one of her problems got in her way and she couldn’t contact me
But i didnt know so i got angry and said if she is gonna do this everytime i dont want to keep going
she explained what happened and then one of my problems came to my mind, which made me react even angrier to everyone, she didn't know and thought I was angry, and thought I was angry which made our argument even worse the next day our argument continued and after that we stopped talking for 1 day then she said she has thought about it and thinks it would be better if we with “us” She said she had no interest anymore after that moment i realized what had happened and i started chasing her for 1 week but it was already too late 4 days after we stopped talking i tried again and i told her how i felt and sent her a message about us for a long time in the hope that it would help She called me again crying and said that i was nice and she really loves me but she doesnt know how we should keep going she said she will come back on it
After couple of days she said “maybe its better if we really stop “ and its hurts me when she said that that day we talked a bit and i felt nothing for her anymore One day later i mist her so much i wanted to go back in time and re-do everything but in an good way 2 weeks after that mist her so much i contacted her and she said “you need to forget me otherwise your gonna hurt yourself” after that i said “okay sorry for bothering you” and that was 1,5 months ago
I really mis her and i think about her everyday even if i dont want to thinking back we had it so perfect with each other and i just want to restart with her And i want to contact het again but she probably gonna me annoyed or smt and she wanted no contact because is will hurt her to so i respect her her choice My best friend said that i need to forget everything because she probably already did
But idk went its late in the day i miss her Im football player and got scouted for a great team And she always believed in me and when i get news from my new team i wanna tell her because i always told her and my mom first but now it just makes me sad
So should i contact her again and say that i miss her and probably annoy her or What should i do?

Hi there! First post on reddit so please forgive me if i'm not using any fancy text.
I've been DM'ing now on and off for around near 5 years, originally I ran for 2 separate friend groups with Vastly different likes and dislikes. I had to stop one groups campaign due to work schedules and as the such (gotta love adult life ;-;)
So recently my current group consists of close friends so it is quite easy to get things across but it can also be very easy to lose control of the table if we start having jokes and a good laugh.
the above is not the issues I'm having as the DM however the stuff above i'm fine with as long as we are hanging out and having a good time. My issues span from multiple small issues which I will list below Beginning with myself as I know I make plenty of mistakes as I DM but I'm looking for advice to make sure i'm not going crazy and being a C**T with some of my table rules i've implemented
My Issues I need to work on: Note Taking - I lose track of my notes (this has been getting better moved to an app called obsidian which I have stuck with and this seems to be working wonders for me) but still needs work.
World lore - Kinda a addition to the note taking issue I have, I like to chop change some things but I still want it to make canonical sense to the worlds timeline which can be a little messy at times.
Pacing - Oh god I'm awful for pacing sometimes I'm too fast or i'm far too slow my players spend an entire 7 hour session on 1 street corner being my worst example.
Sometimes Retconning Small things - I Don't know if I think its okay to do this, I've only had to do it twice in total I Hate retconning stuff as I feel like if maybe a player that doesn't shine to often finally gets out their shell i'm worried if I retcon something It can really take away from that players motivation.
So above are my issues for sakes of time I'm going to copy paste a recent paragraph I sent to my players parts like player names will be edited of course. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
So shappening dudes and dudets, DnD is going to be on the back burner for me for a Little bit cause personally feeling burnt out for a couple reasons that I'll get to in a little bit. So first things first the main thing I'm going to an induction day so I'm hoping I get this job (I got the Job whoop whoop) and DnD will be moved to every 2nd Saturday if thats gonna be a issue we can discuss that down the line. Now couple of mini Issues I want to get off my chest. So the Number 3 joke died ages ago for me and its just annoying so stopping that would be nice thank you, anyone that says it going forward you'll just take 3 damage. Unfortunately the interrupting and pacing is horrendous I'm gonna do my best to keep my focus on the game and I ask so do you. For the time being kinda a add on to the previous my max player count I can do is 6 no more, "Player Name" please let "His Partner" know I do not mind if she watches but I can't have her play not until I feel like the pacing is better and no ones shouting over each other. The Cards, They are fun but i'm gonna rejig them to be less annoying and alot less OP, (I'm removing that bag of holding card) personal thing - If I ask something to do with in the game could you please just acknowledge you have seen it, cause I've typed in plane text plenty of times before and it just doesn't get listened to it starts with one person then everyone else follows if you get me and it can make some little instructions that make things easier for me alot harder. As the DM I want a bit more control So one of the major ones that I ask is NO ONE calls "Roll a persuasion to persuade me" or anything along that lines, it is unnecessary and tbh I find it a bit rude. NO Rape or Rolling Cock size. (its just weird and its disgusting you'd think of it tbh)
There are a few more other things that personally bother me but those are the main ones, the minor ones just consist of 1. Don't Make up your own lore of my own creation and then treat it as cannon, I didn't ask and I don't care.

1. Don't ask for any more custom items, if I give you something be happy and let it be a surprise. 3."did we level up?" i know its a joke but tone it down before it gets worse.
2. If you create a backstory please give me the footnotes of the main points that I can work with, don't give me a lore book about how garfunkle the black white man slain a beast. I won't read it. (Edit - I don't mind if they give me a book to read I do like lore I just mean here that I'd prefer notes of the main points in their characters story)
3. I would prefer Game things are sent on discord concerning characters thats a personal thing, I created the discord for me to be organised and have it all in one place so if you please could just send me stuff on that even if its a dnd beyond link I would like it all in one place. I get this is gonna be alot to read but I hope I get my point across. I am the dungeon master and I want to create a game for you guys to enjoy but I have neglected my own joy for the game and have been more lazy with it because of this. I have alot of stuff to fix from last session especially and I'm gonna try to be more focused on the game and create a better experience and all I ask is please listen, pay attention and any question on the world so you can clarify things you may ask me, if there is any issues during the session call for a break if its that major so we may discuss at the table and if its a small issue we discuss it after the session. I may rule things wrong but i'll attempt to rule it in a way that makes sense and then I shall research and let you know afterwards, I'd rather not search rules in the middle of the game and taking half a hour per turn. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

So context for some things the number 3 joke is from shrek "NUMBER 3 MY LORD" and I use magic the gathering cards for little 1 session boons they are a hell of a lot of fun and I'll post under this if anyone else play's DnD and MTG (I'd recommend using the Dungeons and dragons sets for Magic if you wish to try this out)
Revitalize x2 - Add a Medium Potion to Inventory
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Treasure x3 - Add 100 Gold
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Choose Your Weapon - Choose one for the Remainder of the Session
Archery - +2 to Range attacks
or
Two Weapon Fighting - +2 to Melee Attacks
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Curse of Surveillance - You Grow an eyeball onto the palm of your hand, something or someone is watching you (The DM determines who) This curse is passed on
when someone else draws the card or removed with the "Remove curse Spell"
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Improvised weaponry - You feel compelled to use the first random object as your weapon for the session.
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Triumphant Adventurer - Roll a D20,
Even Numbers add 3 Platinum to your Inventory.
Odd Numbers Summons a Gold Plated Cocky knight to gloat how rich he is for 1 minute.
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Hunters Mark - You Gain the Ability Hunters Mark for the Session it does not Require Concentration.
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Contact Other Plane - You ask anything from the DM roll a d100 to discover the outcome.
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Hoard Robber - The best robber in all the land has found you and took every bit of coin you have leaving a single fake gold piece.
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Dawnbringer Cleric - You can Choose One to use throughout the session
Cure Wounds
Dispel Magic
Gentle Repose
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Priest of Ancient lore - A old Dwarf appears in front of you radiating a holy light asking "Would you like to know the lore of this land?"
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Boots of Speed - You Gain Extra 15ft Speed for the Session.
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Silver Raven - A Unknown Vampires Raven Follows you.
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Check for Traps - You becoming Increasingly paranoid of traps for the session the DM at Random will ask you to check for traps at your feet.
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Blessed Defiance - You Summon A white Spirit, it says nothing, it is friendly to only you, it will follow and defend you for this session.
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Chaos Channeler - A wild magic sorcerer Explodes from the multiverse, he looks excited as he transports himself again creating a Minor wild magic effect.

So this is a pretty large post But I am looking for advice on maybe rules I should consider going forward, how to keep proper control of a party of 6 and just anything I should improve as a DM and anything I can further communicate to my players at the table.

Holy moly Nintendo cooked a banquet fit for a monarch and gave us a freaking Warbow with this season in the form of the Wellstring, it’s a jack of all trades, master at ALL.
Paint? Stupid levels at full charge, easy 1.4K turf every match.
Close quarters combat? Incredibly consistent OHKO with level 1, the tap shots can also one shot.
Support/chip/trapping? Floor level twos cover so much area, you are guaranteed to get at least one or two 30 damage pellets in plus the stupid amount of paint and opponents are just a splattershot tap, indirect bomb, splatana slash or even another 2 shot and they’re sent straight to Crusty Shawn’s in an ice box.
Long range threatening/ long range area control? Big Stringer doesn’t want you to know this, but aim a little up, level 2 jump shot and all your bullets clump up together, and the gimmick downside of all your long shots hit every single side of the barn and miss the apple is gone. You threaten a 90-death to everything you see and bring ruin to everything in a 45* angle in front of you. BTW it OHKOs through spawn armour, because why not. And because you output so much paint, your weapon provides so much long range passive control that you get to sit with pencil at the ‘I can stall zones 1v3 by myself club’.
Object damage? + 10% damage to splash wall.
Kit support? Ink efficiency is so good you can toss out location like candy, Wave serves well as a distraction so you can shoot them better and stamp lets you be funny.
Cover shenanigans? Overpeaking works really well with this weapon and arcing your shots turns you into a flyfish artillery that makes nowhere on the map safe.
Playing this weapon feels like Splatoon 1 damage up E-litre 3k. It’s called the Wellstring V because your’re going 5W0L when you bring this to Anarchy. Mister Bear and Dedf1sh themselves modified this weapon with hidden Golden Egg Phials and Colour Chips to allow a Grizzco on the Side in multiplayer to let you be the new Splatoon 2 launch Tri Slosher.
Using this weapon makes you Apollo smiting Achilies in battle, Using this Weapon makes you Death, Destroyer of Worlds.
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So anyways see you all mid season patch and heavy boy gets nerfed into the ground and TriZooka remains unchanged again.

I worked at an Internet Marketing company for 10 years straight out of college. Due to assorted reasons, I got made redundant though I have gotten a good reference and it was made clear it was not due to my work being sub-par.
My issue is, I was one of only two programmers at the company and the atmosphere at the job was pretty carefree. I self-learned Python mostly (other guy was Java and worked with completely different stuff then I did) with a lot of my work being developing pipelines and maintaining stuff on AWS. I also dipped my toes into Django, docker-compose and Flask but I would not consider myself experienced with all of them.
My point being a lot of my experience was self-thought and I felt I was not really connected with the greater programming world, I treated the job like a normal 9-5 and didn't do any studying or such outside of working hours. As such, I'm worried my work would be sub-par compared to programmers who worked in large dev teams who worked in Agile and the like. I do not feel like a programmer with 10 years experience.
I'm starting my job hunt now but I have some concerns moving forward. How can I make myself more presentable to employers when my career was in one job for 10 years?
Some ideas I have:

• Putting simple examples of my work on Github. It isn't ground-breaking work, really just some modular scripts for specific functionality. A lot of the repos I contributed too were private on a shared company repo. my personal github was just for following stuf I used for my work and does not have any projects on it.
• Start studying AI and machine-learning. It feels like every job I apply to is asking for this
• Go all-in on one of the above subjects and become specialized

I would love to hear some advice on how to proceed. Its early days yet so I am hopeful but I am going to start taking steps outside of just firing out C.Vs like confetti.

I'd expect the vast majority of the people who oppose what Israel is doing in Palestine are not loudly chanting at protests.

Again, you're entirely ignoring the point. If something is chanted by thousands, it's either a common belief, or at least one propagated by the leaders of the movement. Just because it doesn't fit with your perspective doesn't mean you can dismiss it.

Then why does the article I linked clearly show leaflets advising civilians to evacuate to the area where the strike occurred?

Did you look at the map? The leaflet very clearly says The Humanitarian Area, which extends into northern Tal As Sultan. The map pretty clearly shows that.

Do you not think it at all suspicious that Israel have a recording of the event that would very clearly exonerate them, and yet have not released it or even claimed that their recording shows this?

Jesus christ my guy, they literally did release the footage. Just because you refuse to look it up doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
They literally did release footage of the strike itself. Footage in which you can see that the aerial map they released is correct, as the buildings surrounding the area in the video are the same as the ones for where they claimed the strike is in the map they released. In the map, btw, you can see that the area of the strike is removed from the tents. All of this is in the articles I linked.

don't think you've quite appreciated the difference between "footage" and "footage that shows X".

Just because you refuse to do any sort of personal deliberation and expect to be handed every piece of information on a spoon doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

We do know it was one of those small munitions, as I already said. Another thing we simultaneously know is that those small munitions could start a fir

And another thing we know is that the area where the strike occoured is removed from the tents. In fact both claimed locations of the strike are removed from the tents; both the IDF's and even Hamas' claims for where the strike occoured show them over 100 meters from where we know the fire started. Why do you drop that piece of information?
The IDF's claimed location is even entirely removed from the tents by an open area, and Hamas' claim has the entirety of the UN facility between the strike and the tents- a UN facility which didn't catch fire. So unless the fire somehow managed to spread across 100 meters of open field, or go around an entire aid distribution facility without anyone noticing, it's pretty safe to say that the bomb didn't start the fire.
Again, all of this is in the articles I linked. Just because you refuse to do any deliberation of your own doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

From where those tents were, sure. That doesn't mean there wasn't flammable material lying around that could have triggered a fire that reached those tents. Fuel, for example.

For 100 meters straight? And around a UN facility- but without it catching fire? And no one thought to mention it anywhere? That's some amazing fuel!

Then why have you decided that it is true, when the footage from those Palestinians does not show a secondary rocket explosion, and when the Israeli footage would show this if it had happened that way?

The footage from the Palestinians only started after the fire. And I'm not claiming it's true, I'm explaining to you why Israel is still investigating the matter, because you claimed that "if they claimed this then they should have all the footage!" When they aren't the ones who made that claim. Just like you and I, they are also investigating the fire.
Also, I brought them up because you were literally just dismissing that information because it came from Israel, even when it literally came from Palestinians.

Not even the Americans trust Israel to deliver aid

I'm sorry but you seem to have an entirely incomplete image of how the aid distribution works in Gaza. No, the Americans do trust Israel to coordinate aid. But that's just that, Israel doesn't deliver the aid, it coordinates it. What does that mean? Israel gathers all the aid donations, loads them unto trucks, and brings those trucks to Kerem Shalom or Erez. From there, the trucks are picked up by the UN and NGOs who then distribute them.
The problem with Gazan aid was distribution, as a lot of aid failed to reach its destination, and Israel refused to get involved in distribution. Israel literally had a backlog of hunderds of trucks which they already vetted, but we're waiting to be picked up by the UN.
The pier was opened because the US believed it would make distribution easier. But what happened after it opened? Did you intentionally leave that piece of information out?
I'll tell you.
70% of it was stolen. https://www.gatestoneinstitute.org/20658/gaza-aid-stolen
Because the problem wasn't with Israeli coordination, it was with distribution. Those are two different things.

Yes, the conditions the population of Gaza were forced into for the past eight months were indeed extremely bad

Again, are you intentionally ignoring the point or are you just missing it? Yes, the situation of Gazans is dire. You still fail to explain how Rafah having houses for 171k people somehow makes it better for the remaining 1.5 million over a zone specifically designed to house large numbers of displaced people.

A few ideas - instead of bombing absolutely everything, focus attacks on clear military targets.

Thank you man! Why didn't they think of that?
I swear that people with no military experience will act like they're the chief of the Pentagon when it comes to this conflict.
I actually was in the military, so let's set a few things straight. when fighting guerilla warfare, there are no clear military targets. That's literally the definition of urban guerilla warfare. Embedding yourself within the urban environment and within civilians to fight against a stronger enemy. It isn't like there's buildings marked as "HAMAS HEADQUARTERS" that Israel can just attack and leave everyone else alone. Hamas very intentionally and very openly hides themselves within the civilian population and areas, hence why to attack them, you have to remove the civilians from the region via evacuation. That's literally how every urban conflict against a guerilla force in history was done. It was how the US fought against the Taliban in the cities of Afghanistan, it's how Iraqi forces fought against ISIS in Mosul, and its how the coalition fought against ISIS in Raqqa.
In fact, Raqqa and Mosul both saw far more destruction than Gaza did; with Gaza's figures suggesting 70% of the buildings were damaged to some capacity, where in Mosul some estimates go up to 80% or even 90%. When an enemy embeds themselves in a civilian population, there's no easy way of fighting them. Urban guerilla warfare is quite literally the ugliest form of combat.
As you mention the bombs, you seem to be under the impression they are just dropped for funsies. Like, "Oh, I feel like dropping a 2000 lbs bomb today! How about we do that here?"
It shows complete ignorance of military doctoring and combat. 2000 lbs bombs are also known as "bunker busters". Can you guess why? Because their impact is powerful enough to burst through the ground and collapse underground bunkers. Which might be useful when, oh, I don't know, your enemy has 500 Kilometers of tunnels weaving under your feet?
Lastly, you bring up the World Kitchen strike as some sort of Gotcha, but it perfectly encapsulates your cognitive dissonance. You're amplifying one incident over thousands of other successful strikes, and an incident even the head of World Kitchen said was a mistake. A mistake for which two of thw IDF's top generals were fired.
You're not the first person I say this to, and sadly, you won't be the last. But if you have no knowledge of military, don't try to act like you do. It just makes it seem like you're under the dunning Kruger effect.

So, maybe you'd like to chat with me?! Send me a PM or chat request, I'll get back to you ASAP! Oh, that's not enough to convince you? I guess that's more than fair.
Well, here I am. Martin is the name, 36 laps around the sun have been completed, Sweden is the location, and I'd like to think of myself as relatively easy to talk to, loyal, like an open book, honest, humorous, and... pretty random and awkward at times, which likely comes from my (diagnosed) autism. But hey, I'm sure that has its upsides too... right? Right?!
Got a lot of time to spare, on my hands, so I'd be around quite a lot. For better or for worse. What I spend the time on? Here you go: - Music. This includes collecting records, going to shows, keeping up with releases, making playlists and lists, stuff such as that. What kind of music? Mainly metal, rock, punk, and the likes of that! - Games. This includes both video and board games. Playing on PC, PlayStation 5, and Switch. Quite the variation of games, with an emphasis on indie games. Find those to have the more original stuff. - Sports. This is mainly ice hockey and motorsports. This particular weekend, I'll be spending a fair amount on watching the Nürburgring 24 Hours, for instance. - Watching stuff. Okay, so, this means YouTube, Twitch streams, TV shows, movies... all that kind of stuff, really. Also quite the variety here, so I can let you know what kind of stuff I watch in a conversation! - Misc. stuff. Building LEGO, cooking, occasional reading, going to the gym (just recently went back, after a year hiatus), among other things.
How about now? Do you feel persuaded to send me a message? Suppose there's only one way to find out! See you there, hopefully!
Disclaimer: AT MOST looking for platonic friends! Already in a (long distance) relationship, so no need to look for one here. Thanks for keeping this in mind!

Hi guys, I have a question and just want to see if I’m the only who feels this way or if my thoughts are even accurate. I went on my first solo trip out of the country this year and I loved it !!! I was able to do exactly what I wanted and how I wanted without any complaints or interruptions. I’m planning my next solo trip but I can’t get over the thought that I feel like some people are looking at me like I’m a loser with no friends bc I choose to travel solo. I will love to travel with others but it’s always a money issue, baby sitter issue & other issues that I understand but now try to avoid. I’m also single and not dating right now so I don’t have a boo to travel with lol . I know it takes a lot of courage to travel solo and I should admire that about myself but I just can’t get over the thought of being judged. It sucks because I try to live my life for myself but I just can’t get over the way I’m viewed by others. I also think social media has a lot to do with it because everyone is always posting on trips having a great time with friends and here I am on my trip posting pictures alone.( still having a gd time just alone)
Am I the only one ? Are people really viewing me as a loser ?
Btw I’m a 29f and was also planning on solo traveling for my 30th bday. Is this strange ? Idk maybe I’m overthinking
Thank you in advance for taking time out your day read and reply if you’re able

My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship for the next couple of years in which we meet for 1-2 months a year. Last time we met which was about 4 months ago, I find texts of her flirting with another guy on who she would also meet in group settings. She’s given me a lot of reassurance that nothing physical happened and she never met the guy alone but idk. She met this guy and had all this going during her 1 month trip to me( idk how she was able to do that if she “ loves” me because it’s literally 2 months out of an year she sees me) and to top that off, she’s also been talking to an ex-fling who is a “good” friend of hers but her conversation sounds like she’s been having an emotional affair. She also deleted chats w the ex on Instagram. I found both of these things out by myself. When I talked about this w her she blamed her mental health and that she didn’t realise it was wrong at the time.
After this happened, I tried breaking up multiple time but I’d grow weak because this did blow me away or she would say something. She has tried a lot to make it right over the last couple of months. However I just can’t take relationship seriously anymore, I don’t feel as in love with her anymore and my feelings towards her are very on off where I’ll treat her very good one day but be distant the next. I do still have feelings for her but I’m scared I’ll cheat on her if I stay. The problem is whenever I try and break up it ultimately comes down to her threatening to hurt her self if I leave.
I’d appreciate if y’all can advise me on how to move forward w this?

Soo..... I ( M24) was in a relationship for about 4 years. We were college sweet hearts, i thought she was the loml.We planned to get married. Met each other's parents. It was all going well. A rough patch of 6 months hit, and we ended up breaking up.
But, after that break up, it just broke me. Broke me really really bad. I was lonley and felt like killing myself. So I tried putting myself out there. I went out on few dates, but I don't get any butterfly feelings I used to have for going on dates anymore. ( It SUCKS!).
BUT, I started seeing people casually.i used go on one date, make out with that person and then that's the end of it. Maybe it led to sex as well sometimes ( but it sucked, cause being intimate with someone you love is better).. I was on this cycle multiple times - just going on one dates with people.
But now, I realised I was doing all that, because I was lonley and needed human company ( once, I asked someone to cuddle and sleep with me, that's it) .
And now I feel like i m ready for a relationship again, I know what I want, I feel like I have healed quite a bit. But now I m scared, whether me hoeing around this past year, will make me look bad for my future partner. What if I met someone amazing... And my past will hold them back!
I have never cheated in my life, nor will I , cause it has happened to me.
It was a desperate time for me. But, I feel ashamed now.
I saw few posts before in this subreddit, that women won't date men like me. Idk, its throwing me down a spiral again.
Any of you been in this situation and come out of it?

So, maybe you'd like to chat with me?! Send me a PM or chat request, I'll get back to you ASAP! Oh, that's not enough to convince you? I guess that's more than fair.
Well, here I am. Martin is the name, 36 laps around the sun have been completed, Sweden is the location, and I'd like to think of myself as relatively easy to talk to, loyal, like an open book, honest, humorous, and... pretty random and awkward at times, which likely comes from my (diagnosed) autism. But hey, I'm sure that has its upsides too... right? Right?!
Got a lot of time to spare, on my hands, so I'd be around quite a lot. For better or for worse. What I spend the time on? Here you go: - Music. This includes collecting records, going to shows, keeping up with releases, making playlists and lists, stuff such as that. What kind of music? Mainly metal, rock, punk, and the likes of that! - Games. This includes both video and board games. Playing on PC, PlayStation 5, and Switch. Quite the variation of games, with an emphasis on indie games. Find those to have the more original stuff. - Sports. This is mainly ice hockey and motorsports. This particular weekend, I'll be spending a fair amount on watching the Nürburgring 24 Hours, for instance. - Watching stuff. Okay, so, this means YouTube, Twitch streams, TV shows, movies... all that kind of stuff, really. Also quite the variety here, so I can let you know what kind of stuff I watch in a conversation! - Misc. stuff. Building LEGO, cooking, occasional reading, going to the gym (just recently went back, after a year hiatus), among other things.
How about now? Do you feel persuaded to send me a message? Suppose there's only one way to find out! See you there, hopefully!
Disclaimer: AT MOST looking for platonic friends! Already in a (long distance) relationship, so no need to look for one here. Thanks for keeping this in mind!

I know this is a no brainer but I have holiday plans with a friend. There's this guy I've known since 2020. I used to have a thing with him. I call it an imaginary relationship/talking stage. We were never official and I get red flags (player type, all this trauma, so manny toxic exes). But overall I think he's a cool, nice funny guy. I never liked any one that much. i think because it was my imagination/fantasy that I'd like him more than guys I've known in person. He would FaceTime and audio call me almost daily. We drifted and stopped talking entirely.
I invited him to my holiday plan in Bali with my friend. So far it's a yes and a maybe. And it makes the trip even more exciting. I might meet him in another state for a few days, then he can stay with us in the condo we're staying in for a beach. He has family there so he offered a place by the beach his uncle owns but I rejected it because stranger danger. I'm excited over the idea of sharing a room with him, spending time with him in that shoer weeks time. Cuddling him. But I already have a sketchy internet dating experience.
despite knowing him for this long and having been in love with the ixea of this guy ... my gut feeling screams stranger danger. I don't actually know him. What if I get rped over and over abducted killed?!
Maybe get separate rooms? Take it slow. And if he seems like a decent person ... ask if he wanted some company? I'm tempted to sleep w him LOL. But I don't I don't know if sharing a room with him straight away if a good idea. but I don't want to make the mistake of on the first few day/date and feeling easy/prostituting myself which has happened once and I wish I hadn't gone for it. Turns out I can't control myself next to boys I like. My reasoable mjnd tells me sus him out first then on the last days ask if he wanted some company.
I don't want to put my self in danger or do something I'll regret. So be, plan B? Get separate rooms and sus him out? Otherwise if we don't get along we could kick him out to stay in his uncles condo. Jokes. I really want him to stay with us and get to knkw the real him, spend time with him. I accepted years back that the odds of this becoming a real long term relationship isn't very realistic lol
We don't even know if this plan is actually going to end up happening. The holiday as well. But I hope it does! I am excited!

So, maybe you'd like to chat with me?! Send me a PM or chat request, I'll get back to you ASAP! Oh, that's not enough to convince you? I guess that's more than fair.
Well, here I am. Martin is the name, 36 laps around the sun have been completed, Sweden is the location, and I'd like to think of myself as relatively easy to talk to, loyal, like an open book, honest, humorous, and... pretty random and awkward at times, which likely comes from my (diagnosed) autism. But hey, I'm sure that has its upsides too... right? Right?!
Got a lot of time to spare, on my hands, so I'd be around quite a lot. For better or for worse. What I spend the time on? Here you go: - Music. This includes collecting records, going to shows, keeping up with releases, making playlists and lists, stuff such as that. What kind of music? Mainly metal, rock, punk, and the likes of that! - Games. This includes both video and board games. Playing on PC, PlayStation 5, and Switch. Quite the variation of games, with an emphasis on indie games. Find those to have the more original stuff. - Sports. This is mainly ice hockey and motorsports. This particular weekend, I'll be spending a fair amount on watching the Nürburgring 24 Hours, for instance. - Watching stuff. Okay, so, this means YouTube, Twitch streams, TV shows, movies... all that kind of stuff, really. Also quite the variety here, so I can let you know what kind of stuff I watch in a conversation! - Misc. stuff. Building LEGO, cooking, occasional reading, going to the gym (just recently went back, after a year hiatus), among other things.
How about now? Do you feel persuaded to send me a message? Suppose there's only one way to find out! See you there, hopefully!
Disclaimer: AT MOST looking for platonic friends! Already in a (long distance) relationship, so no need to look for one here. Thanks for keeping this in mind!

So, maybe you'd like to chat with me?! Send me a PM or chat request, I'll get back to you ASAP! Oh, that's not enough to convince you? I guess that's more than fair.
Well, here I am. Martin is the name, 36 laps around the sun have been completed, Sweden is the location, and I'd like to think of myself as relatively easy to talk to, loyal, like an open book, honest, humorous, and... pretty random and awkward at times, which likely comes from my (diagnosed) autism. But hey, I'm sure that has its upsides too... right? Right?!
Got a lot of time to spare, on my hands, so I'd be around quite a lot. For better or for worse. What I spend the time on? Here you go: - Music. This includes collecting records, going to shows, keeping up with releases, making playlists and lists, stuff such as that. What kind of music? Mainly metal, rock, punk, and the likes of that! - Games. This includes both video and board games. Playing on PC, PlayStation 5, and Switch. Quite the variation of games, with an emphasis on indie games. Find those to have the more original stuff. - Sports. This is mainly ice hockey and motorsports. This particular weekend, I'll be spending a fair amount on watching the Nürburgring 24 Hours, for instance. - Watching stuff. Okay, so, this means YouTube, Twitch streams, TV shows, movies... all that kind of stuff, really. Also quite the variety here, so I can let you know what kind of stuff I watch in a conversation! - Misc. stuff. Building LEGO, cooking, occasional reading, going to the gym (just recently went back, after a year hiatus), among other things.
How about now? Do you feel persuaded to send me a message? Suppose there's only one way to find out! See you there, hopefully!
Disclaimer: AT MOST looking for platonic friends! Already in a (long distance) relationship, so no need to look for one here. Thanks for keeping this in mind!

Been alternating between rage and weeping for the past 48ish hours. My S.O. basically gave me an ultimatum to quit vaping, which I've been doing for about five years. Prior to that I smoked cigarettes since I was 18. I've been hooked on nicotine for nearly 20 years. I want to believe that the emotions I'm feeling are from withdrawal. I'm scared that I'm going to feel like this forever- maybe these are the emotions good ol’ nicotine has been helping me soothe away. And without nicotine anymore, maybe I'm just going to feel like this always from now on. Please be gentle guys, only the encouraging words. I feel like a total piece of shit for feeling this way. I feel so weak, because of how hard this is. Im mad at myself for being so dramatic but i feel so overwhelmed. I literally can't see one positive or upside. My S.O. will (hopefully) lay off? Nag me less? Part of why am crying is just the realization of how little self-respect I have left, and how little respect he must have for me to put me in this position. Please pray for me.

So basically I've been trying to make a laseplasma rifle build work (preferably laser), but just can't seem to make it good. Here is a link to the build I've been testing with. Included all details in case there is something I am missing: https://nukesdragons.com/fallout-76/character?v=1&s=6c43f5b&d=sg2sb2pg2ph2pi2pp2eh2ee2cu2s12ir2i71im1ic4a12a04lt2l71lu2lg2&lp=x42x72x62xj1&m=12fbac4&wp=w6w6&wm=142532-1g2739&pa=t3t2t4t5t1t6&pm=1a2b-m1-1j2731-mk-1a2a38m7-mk1i
For reference the weapons I am using are: Bloodied/Rapid/Perception laser rifle, and a Quad/Hitman/Nimble Plasma rifle.
It seemed fine in open world solo stuff, but as soon as I did public events even the regular enemies took forever to kill, not even mentioning the bosses.
I was considering swapping the commando perks for rifleman ones and making my two weapons snipers instead, but I feel like I'm either missing something, the perks aren't working right, or these weapons need a buff.
I am not opposed to adding vats into the build, but I am using power armor and from what I understand they don't mesh well.
I do have a functional heavy build to fall back on, so no worries about me digging myself into a hole trying to make this work.

Hello!! Posting here to vent bc I have no one to talk to about my worries (and yapping about my problem could help me cope while waiting for the release of the promo boards)
I'm from that aurora school. Finals are done and Im cant help but feel uneasy about my grades, especially towards a certain subject from the holy trinity. I am doing fairly well on other two subjects, so I am not that worried about them.
As of LE5, my grade fell into the danger zone (73.2) and I got 1-3 points off the MPL for LE6. Most likely, my grade would have maintained or got a bit lower pa.
As for the finals, I want to say i did well bc I was able to answer most of the questions, but I am not so confident of the grade I'll get bc of the super high MPL that they have set. The higher the MPL, the lower the transmusted grade it corresponds to. I need to be at least 30 points above the MPL just to be safe, based on my computation.
Is there any chance they would give a bonus or curve or plus point or anything?? I just need a small stepping stone in the right direction and I can make it to 2nd year safely. It doesnt seem ethical at all to cut us by half, especially since our initial numbers got lesser when a hundred of us either LOA or withdrew their enrollment. (Im sorry huhu the bargaining is strong in me. I have skipped the first two stages of grief and found myself here).
My grade feels so close, yet so far away from passing. It also doesnt help that they wont round off the final grade if ever u get within 74.5 to 74.9%. It really sucks to be in the waiting game. I am bracing myself for the worst already but I am scared of telling my parents the possibility of me failing (as a first gen doctor in a family of businessmen). I cant eat, sleep, or do anything properly.
Overall, its really frustrating and overwhelming, knowing that a certain dept is really hell bent on cutting us by half (its like an open secret among us freshies) and sadly, i am part of the half they want to remove. I've always wanted to be a doctor so much that I didnt even think to have a plan B. If I fail, I dont think i can handle going through another year of this again.

I want to send a message to an ex after 10 years. How would you feel to get one after that amount of time?
I am a female in my earlier thirties and dated this person for maybe a year in my early 20s. We were so young, dumb, crazy and happy. I felt very loved, cared for and seen in a way I was too immature to appreciate. At that age we had chemistry and couldn't keep our hand off each other. He wanted to build a future with me and was in a rush but I wasn't. I wanted to enjoy the last of my youth before growing up and adulting. I felt we really connected on our aspirations and world view and I would have happily continued to date him, I was crazy about him.
However as mentioned he was in a hurry in a way I didn't understand. He had a lot more family, social and financial responsibilities and wanted to start building his life. I was still living at home while he was working multiple jobs to support himself while trying to appease his parents who were encouraging him to marry and settle down. He was a great boyfriend in every way, physically, mentally, emotionally, kind, caring, funny, smart. He did ask me to take steps with him to further our relationship eg moving out together but I just wasn't ready. People always tell you that you have so much time when you are young to figure things out, but when you get older you realize how special it is when you do actually connect with someone deeply.
So he eventually withdrew and I had that feeling something was off. Things fully ended after a wild weekend away where he was with someone else. At the end he also expressed how he no longer felt like he could be who he wanted to be in our relationship and how he had tried to wait for me but I hadn't reciprocated or taken any steps to further our relationship. We had different levels of ambition. He had a job opportunity in another city, moved and I never saw him again. I didn't take any of this well and was very emotional. I asked him to reconsider but he had to go. He wanted to keep in touch and that was a big NO from me.
Well I never heard from him again which was truly unbelievable to me after how he had pursued me and how I thought we felt about each other. So much so I doubted if our relationship was even real or maybe or if i had been had my a narcissist. When I finally picked up jaw up from off the floor, my ego decided I wouldn't reach out either. I am sure I was dramatic during this time as well. I am sure I would have blocked him, changed my number and cursed him out
As far as I know he moved on pretty quick to someone else and that was that.
And then out of nowhere a couple years later he sent me a well wishing short message and said I was he best he ever had. But again, as much as that was a compliment to me I just couldn't take it as face value.
As you can imagine that ripped my heart right out of my chest and I never replied. I told a mutual friend to tell him to pound salt.
Well, him leaving was probably the best thing he ever did for me because I wasn't able to be what he needed. As time has unfolded I realize just how much his presence taught me about life and myself. I am sure we both moved on.
I came across an old message from him recently I felt the desire to send him a message. I am not unhappy in my life and I don't want to reconcile. I have had a partner for many years I am happy with.
I don't want anything from him, I am not after a reply and I don't want to reconnect. After ending on such a bad note where I told him how shitty he was, I just simply wished he knew how powerful his presence was in my life during that time, some of the things/concepts he introduced me to still remain with me today. He touched my life deeply for the better and how thankful I am for things I learned out of that, and I hope he is somewhere out there living his best life.
Maybe this is for me and my story more than it is for him. Should I write the message and never send it?
How would you feel to get a message like this years later?

I dream of a connection that doesn't have to try hard translating each others' souls—one that feels like home and is inhabitable for healthy energies whose goals are aligned. I long for that comfortable silence, rainy day embrace, flooded meme videos on our inboxes, and that warm forehead kiss after a busy day at work. In a world where sincerity is a rare find on an online setting, I'd still like to try.
About me: I graduated last 2023 is currently working as a government employee. I live in North Luzon with my family, and 5 dogs. I stand at 5'2, weighs 53 kgs, normal BMI, and in love with my curls and morena complexion. I like dressing up especially on days when I am extra stressed. My hobbies revolve around watching (films, shows, kdrama, anime), reading (books, manga), listening to music (any genre except rap or edm), and I'm on a constant journey of learning more hobbies because I like keeping myself busy. I think it's also worth mentioning that I have a flexible humor in line with being interested with meaningful discussions.
Hopefully, you're around 23-26 years old, stands 5'7 and up, working, furdad, family-oriented, is nerdy about his hobbies and goals in life, hopefully with the same interests as mine, lifestyle doesn't revolve around smoking/clubbing (non-negotiable), and is a very expressive individual who likes to tell stories and yap about life. (Still, feel free to dm if you're interested)
I haven't been on a physical date as meeting people makes me anxious, so I'd appreciate if we got to know each other online first—slowburn and careful. If you know you have ghosting tendencies or is only in it for a temporary companion, please spare the effort of building any connections.
If this interests you, an introduction that actually highlights you being you will be appreciated. Thanks! = )

I’m currently studying animation since I realized a while back ago that I honestly feel incapable of seeing myself doing anything else except some form of working in the industry. I’ve been animating since I was 10 and always idealized it but never thought it was going to be easy but I was willing to put in the work, even buying my own graphic tablet at 13 (I sold a lot of comic books). A lot of my close friends are in the arts, and I hear how hard those industries are, acting, writing, and forget being a studio arts major. I’ve followed a lot of animators in the industry and have had a couple follow me back and I asked some of them basic questions about how the industry is etc etc. Some were positive but a lot of them were more jaded responses and this is predating Covid (though it didn’t ward me off any and was nice to hear the “bad parts” of the job/industry).
But nowadays it seems like every single person I follow, even people who have 15+ years experience under their belt seem to be struggling to find reliable work. Networks cancel shows after one season and with the rise of A.I. which is all anyone talks about anymore-usually in a joking manner but it doesn’t seem to be so funny anymore. I don’t think A.I. would replace animation entirely obviously but it does make me nervous for what jobs are going to be on the cutting block. In a lot of art circles and even on this subreddit it seems like everyone’s in a panic. Harsh realities I know, but even if I wasn’t to work in animation or film or visual arts at all I’d be terrified for what’s to come, art is so little respected as it is. I’m not anticipating switching majors or anything but it’s making me think of at least think up a good minor maybe? Hah I don’t know! I’m honestly just trying to gauge how really nervous students especially should be at this moment and maybe if it’s even a great idea right now to try and I guess make a living in animation. I know there’s been periods of hardships and corporate America is very unforgiving (not sure about other countries) but I gotta say I’m starting to feel like all ‘tech’ fields are suffering a bit out here especially-someone who considered computer science for a time