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IDK if this belongs here, but help if you can
So what actually happened was, I made a recharge in May for a month plan and as I was not there in May and coming for 2 weeks at end of May to start of June.
I needed internet for the time I was here, hence I asked the support if they could pause my plan for 11 days and they subsequently agreed for the same.
Now comes the time my plan was supposed to end on 28th but due to the pause I had extended validity of 11 days. But somehow my internet stopped working today. I even got ss from the support accepting the pause in plan.
So I contacted support raising my issue. They were just saying one thing that they don't have authority to add extended validity for a deactivated account and asking me to make a recharge. Now I understand but this is a case of negligence from their side why should I pay extra recharge money as I m not available at this place for whole month. Their lowest plan costs 707rs which is not much but I am a student and thus need to spend wisely.
I talked with the support for almost half hour and still no solution. Even I didn't receive any text saying that my plan has ended or is going to end soon. This is case of sheer negligence from their side and they are not even compensating for it.
Totally not satisfied from this service. Might get it uninstalled.
Can I do anything as I direly need internet till 6th June?

Over a year ago, I was going through a particularly stressful time and went to my neurologist concerned that I was possibly having Medication Adaption Headaches (MAH aka Medication Overuse Headaches aka Rebound Headaches) or would develop them.
I was having a migraine or headache almost daily. I had been cycling through pain meds to avoid using too much of the same thing and too many triptans mistakenly thinking that this would keep me safe.
My neurologist didn't take any time to discuss why I thought I might be having MAH or what should be done if I was already having them. He did give me the prescription for Aimovig that I asked for, but also a recommendation and prescription for Panadol migraine (same as Excedrin migraine) which I had never taken before. The prescription wasn’t needed to get the Panadol migraine, but it was needed to have it reimbursed by my insurance. I thought because it is OTC in the US (which is where I'm from) that it would be better (again mistakenly) than taking so many triptans.
The aimovig was like putting a bandaid on a gash that needed stitches. I made it another year before I had an absolutely horrible flare-up about 60 days ago that led me to do my own research because my neurologist had failed me horribly and I decided it was most definitely MAH and I needed to detox.
The Detox
I quit taking all pain OTC pain meds and triptans for 60 days (as is recommended in most treatment guides). It took me roughly 9 days to have a noticeable drop in my migraines back to episodic. My migraines have lessened in severity and length over the last 60 days. Though the first week or so was the most challenging to get through, I also had hormonal migraines that were tough. The few other non-hormonal migraines I had later in the 60 days, I was able to clearly identify triggers for. This hadn’t been the case for me in the past. I've also now been able to abort a hormonal migraine with other methods listed here.
Other Options for Pain Relief
(for any meds or supplements always consult your doctor)
Ginger is a great natural painkiller. There is some BS study that says it is as effective as sumatriptan, it most definitely isn't and I'm not going to try to sell it as that, but I would say it is probably as effective as an NSAID. Unfortunately, I’m unable to get GCRP inhibitors where I am so I didn’t have other migraine abortive options, just this.
Benadryl (note: this is the brand name in US & CA, it’s different in Europe) helps me with migraine pain during an attack (sometimes even helps avoid an attack).
A TENS unit was very helpful with migraine pain, but also with cramps during my 60 day detox and I’ll definitely continue using it going forward.
Migraine Cap was especially helpful after the migraine to help with the residual soreness.
Migraine Relief Nasal Inhaler, hot showers, decongestant meds, and decongestant nasal spray* help me because nasal congestion is a major symptom for me. When the congestion is worse, the pain is worse. If I can relieve some congestion, I can also relieve some pain. So I use these as needed depending on the severity of the congestion.
*It is important to note that decongestant nasal sprays can cause rebound congestion if used frequently, follow dosage and warnings on the label.
Myofascial Release & dry needling - this isn’t so much for migraine pain, but it helps me manage back and neck pain that contributes to my migraines and helps me with pain management overall.
The Pain Relief Options That I Wish I Could Have Used or Tried
Balms and patches that you put on your forehead- personally my skin is too sensitive for it, I have tried in the past and it just makes my skin burn (but so does most sunscreen when applied to my face). I’m mentioning these because I think they are a great option for some people and as I was looking through this sub for more ideas of what I could use, they are something that I saw repeatedly that I wish my skin would allow me to use.
Celafy, Nerivio, and Relivion all looked like interesting devices, but sadly aren’t available where I am.
Heated eye massager also looked very appealing and should have been available, but the wrong item was delivered when I tried ordering it and I didn’t feel like trying my luck again. I will definitely get one when I go to the US.
GCRP-inhibitors - these aren’t available where I am so I didn’t have the option to use these as abortives while detoxing from pain meds. I definitely would like the option to be able to use these as abortives for migraines. One study did note they could cause MAH (this is listed below and linked) but there's no good research regarding this as they are so new. I just feel obligated to mention this.
About MAH
Please educate yourself. I have included links to sources. Consult your doctor if you think you might have MAH and advocate for treatment.
1 You have to add up your pain med use!!!
2 OTC Pain Meds+ Triptans + Rx Pain Meds* = 10 Days Maximum Per Month
*Opioids and butalbital may lead to MAH in about 5 days
3 Approximately 50% of patients with chronic migraine have MAH that may revert to episodic headache after drug withdrawal.
Chronic migraine is classified as 15 or more headache days w/ 8 migraine days a month.
Episodic Migraine is classified as 14 or fewer headache and migraine days a month.
4 The name for MAH changed a few times and the one I chose to use is focused on the mechanism that causes the condition rather than the name that sounds like it is blaming the patient (Medication Overuse Headaches). Here’s an article regarding the name dispute.
5 One article even listed GCRP inhibitors as possibly contributing to MAH. But as these medications are new, the research isn't there yet to say if they really do contribute. I just had found it surprising to see and felt obligated to note it.
6 Risk Factors

• Having a primary headache disorder such as migraines.
• Having other chronic pain or gastrointestinal issues.
• Being less physical activity (defined as less than 3 hours of hard physical activity per week)
• Smoking
• Mood disorders
• OCD
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Substance-related disorders
• Cutaneous allodynia 7 (Cutaneous allodynia (CA) is defined as pain resulting from application of a non-noxious stimulus to normal skin)

8 Withdrawal treatment does not only reduce the headache attacks, but also improves responsiveness to acute or prophylactic drugs. Withdrawal symptoms normally last between 2 to 10 days, and do not persist longer than 4 weeks.
Going Forward
I have a number of MAH risk factors including migraines, other chronic pain, anxiety, family history of substance-related disorders, being less physical activity (especially during the time that the stressful situation was happening), and cutaneous allodynia. Had I known about all of these risk factors and that alternating meds would not protect me from MAH, I would have done things very differently. I’ll have to be very careful to not develop MAH again, and actually am thinking of extending my detox because of my risk factors and some concerning statistics regarding allodynia in particular. For now I'm going to try to continue managing my pain with other methods while I can comfortably. Actually just last night I had a hormonal migraine that I managed to abort with a combination of things I listed here that just 2 months ago it would have been at least a level 4 with triptans.
When I do start using pain meds again, I’ll definitely be tracking meds more carefully and adhering to a strict 10 day max per month for OTCs plus triptans. I’ve made an annual tracker that you can print with the maximum days noted for reference.
To the Mods - I’ve noticed many posts with discussion related to MAH being removed. I’ve instructed others to consult their doctor thereby trying to adhere to the sub rules, please let me know if there is something else that might need to be adjusted in order to adhere to the rules.

I'm a novice "IT guy" in that I know more about internet/tech things than any of my coworkers and almost as much but sometimes more than my electrician BF (cause he "doesn't do low-voltage"). I don't know the terminology, the best configurations, which CAT cables to get / if that even matters, etc. At home, I have an all-in-one PC with a second monitor connected via DP and USB (touch screen) and an Optimum Gateway 6 router with 1 gig internet. The PC is wifi capable, but my router is like 3 feet away from my desk, so whenever I'm feeling spicy and don't mind the tripping hazard, I connect a CAT 6 cable from my router to my desktop. During these random times of wired connectivity, I never noticed any real difference in speed, and I mostly forgot about the connection anyway (short attention span). I work in an office full-time and bring work home most days without getting paid OT, so obviously I would like to work smarter not harder. Yay for efficiency (I hope). And so, in true ADHD fashion I hyper-focused too hard on this new project, ended up falling down a rabbit hole straight out of satan's shorts, and am both obsessed with figuring out how to get internet that go supa faaaast but also frazzled as fuck and want to give up.
That's all to say that I have no idea how to interpret my internet speeds. The speed test I ran at home vs the one I ran at work show very different numbers, but I think the speeds are honestly the same or at least comparable. I also got drastically different results when running a speed test on Ookla vs through Optimum.
Work wifi connection only: 92.3 download, 49.9 upload. Latency 7ms
Work connection over ethernet: 92.2 download, 50.9 upload. Latency 6ms
Can someone help

In 2022 I wrecked my car on the 17 highway northbound. I broke bones and at the hospital my blood was subpoenad on suspection of being under the influence.
I was homeless at the time and in a walker, then a walking boot. In a rehab, then moved around constantly during recovery. I received no mail, notice to appear in court, any of it and couldn't have even if I'd been out of treatment as I'd no address or phone.
Last month, a psychotic ex roommate tired to lie to cops and get me arrested by calling cops to the house and saying there was a physical fight. So, officers eventually showed up, pushing into my bedroom without warning. I had no idea she even called. I was in my bed on my phone, calm and depressed. They said hello and made me leave since I wasn't on the lease. I was kind, calm, cooperative and asked questions about my rights. The two ladies were kind and informative in return.
As I was leaving, they said "and please, get your warrant taken care of" to which I was shocked and asked what they were talking about. They said the city the warrant was from, they said they were there to take me in on it but I was so cooperative and calm that they didn't feel it was the right thing to do. I thanked them profusely and left.
My question is, what do I do now? How do I handle this? Will I have to go to jail? I had no idea there was any case against me and am referring to the accident because that's the only thing it could be, likely a DUI situation? I of course wasn't notified and now I'm terrified. Is there any way to handle this without me having to go to jail? I want to take care of it, absolutely. I'm just flying blind and scared.
In Phoenix/Glendale AZ. 1st offense.

Given the recent discussion of Shut Up And Ruck’s strength programming, I thought it might be appropriate to address a few lingering comments.
First, we’re not immune to criticism. It is perfectly reasonable to criticize whenever and whoever you want, even me. Clearly, the anonymity of the internet provides ample license to do so. I’m not infallible and I make at least one mistake every fiscal year. I get downvoted all the time and I recognize that many things that I say are taken as gospel based on my years of providing accurate information. I don’t take this leniency lightly. I’ve earned this gift and I don’t look gift horses in the mouth. I certainly don’t shy away from criticizing others, but I always seek to do so from a position of best intentions of the outcome. But if you think that it’s appropriate to draw conclusions like “He definitely doesn’t know what he’s talking about”, “It violates basic principles”, or my favorite “It looks like he stole this from X, Y, or Z” and you’re basing that on one tiny screenshot of one sample day of one singular domain absent of context of the entirety of the programming then you must be special. I wish I had that sort of clairvoyance.
Second, our programming is not a mistake. Is it aggressive? Absolutely. Is it wrong? Absolutely not. It is deliberate and intentional. A few points to consider:
-The higher percentages and rep ranges occur at the end of each cycle. You don’t start off at the high end, you finish there. The passage cited is 9 weeks post 1RM testing. At a minimum the higher % come 5 weeks after testing. You get stronger and the programming reflects that.
-Just because you’ve never done anything like this doesn’t mean much. We follow the evidence, and the literature clearly indicates that our recommendations are appropriate. Aggressive, but appropriate. Here are 6 sources, including some meta-analyses that bring the body of knowledge to several hundred; there are many more.
Source 1
Source 2
Source 3
Source 4
Source 5
Source 6
Your experience not withstanding, our programming is entirely valid. This is especially true given the other variables. 1) we prioritize intensity and we manifest that through heavy weights 2) you only lift each exercise 2 times in every 5 day cycle - plenty of time for macro recovery 3) you are resting up to 4 minutes between sets - plenty of time for micro recovery 4) you are only doing 3 lifts in a day and only one for that domain - you aren’t doing 3 sets of barbell bench, then 3 sets of incline, then 3 sets of decline, then some cable cross-overs, then some dumbbell flys, then finishing with some drop sets on the Smith machine. 1 exercise, at maximal intensity. No need to pace yourself. 5) we are seeking to balance strength and endurance. It’s impossible to fully address both simultaneously. There will inevitably be friction. 6) we are seeking to challenge you, not accommodate you. 7) we emphasize self-reflection, data analysis, and agency. If you are struggling to meet the listed criteria then we encourage you to program accordingly. It’s foundational to our approach.
But allow me to let you in on a little secret. Even though we cite no small amount of literature, you can find lots of literature that argues against our programming. In fact, there is so much ‘literature’ out there that you can find supporting information for damn near everything and anything. So, back to my first point, you are welcome to criticize. But you should at least provide some counter-evidence beyond “in my experience”. In the Taxonomy of Information, anecdotal testimony is the least rigorous. We have presented our arguments, you are invited to present yours. Or be a little more graceful in your criticism.
We are well aware of Prilepin’s optimal reps (for powerlifting), and the NASM 5 Phase Optimum Performance Training Model (which we follow) and the NSCA Performance Pyramid (which we follow). We don’t disagree that they are to be well considered. We did a full and complete survey of the information environment. But we stated in our introduction and made available for free our philosophy…we have no interest in preserving the credentialed protectorate of the fitness industry. SFAS is different, so shall the programming be.
Third, we didn’t “steal” another program and stack it on top of our own stuff. That’s not how this works. If you survey all of the programs and methodology out there, you will find a ton of overlap. If you follow established principles and seek consensus, then you end up looking a lot like the other stuff. Did we look at other programs? Yes, dozens of them. Did we steal them? No. The fact that we favor a more intense program that most programs don’t should make this argument moot. This is a serious accusation and should be reserved for the most egregious circumstances. You might not have experience with this type of programming, you might not be familiar with recent literature, and you are only seeing a very minuscule event absent of any of the other programming and ancillary elements.
Fourth, and finally, I want to address the unhinged discussion of cost. We’re particularly sensitive to this topic because we know that our target population skews younger and likely less affluent, so cost matters. And I don’t like calling guys out necessarily, but u/Certain-Exam-2577 and u/Potential_Presence67 ? You two can go fuck yourselves. You anonymous peices of shit decided from your castles on top of Mount Holy that we are looking for a “money grab”? I could have charged hundreds, I could put all of my content behind a paywall, and I could simply pump and dump and walk away to stack cash. But that’s not the case.
What do you two fucking genius economists think would be appropriate for 8 months of daily programming for strength, conditioning, rucking, mental prep, mobility, skills, recovery and much more? We charge 60 dollars. Let’s take a very small survey the prep environment and see where we stack up:
Evoke - 3 months, requires additional programming prerequisites, $65
Performance First - 3 months, $90
18A Fitness - 4 months, $179
Gritty Soldier - 3 months, $30
Mountain Tactical - 12 months, $329
Blue/Green Training - 11 weeks, $129
We’re looking pretty competitive given these numbers. And these are the better programs. We mostly like them (and others) and we have tremendous respect for their creators and coaches. We don’t think they are as good as ours, especially our ruck programming, but they’re in the ballpark. Many guys in this sub have used them and speak highly of them. There are also near endless shit programs out there. AI generated, generic, point-of-sale trash with slick marketing and zero support.
We are a complete program that covers every single domain, and we have well established our expertise for SFAS. But we don’t rely on reputation, we deliver. We research, analyze, synthesize, and present the most comprehensive program out there. For just 60 bucks. Hell, you’ll spend over half that on a blank journal…we’ve recommended this excellent journal many times. But that’s just a cool journal. Zero programming. So we think we’re not “grabbing” too much.
Our resident pricks go on to say that RUSU wasn’t worth $50. Good thing we only charge $40. And perhaps you’d prefer the 15+ year old, lack-luster competition? They’re in the same price range. They even take a cheap shot at our Muster events as just a ‘wAlK iN tHe wOoDs tHaT yOu cOuLd do for FrEe’ or ‘info you could probably find online’. Our “competition” is $750 and one of the programs isn’t even taught by a military guy, much less a Green Beret. You two retarded laureates haven’t even attended an event, so your opinion is irrelevant.
And I should put a pin in all of this money grab, predatory, grifter talk by reminding them that this is all voluntary. You don’t have to spend a single dime if you don’t want to. Lots of guys don’t do anything extra and they get Selected all the time. But if a guy wants to be compensated for his hard work and another guy wants to allocate the cost of a night out drinking, then maybe your keen criticism could be stymied a bit. I offer plenty of free advice and commentary every day. I note that neither of you provide anything of value.
So, that’s my assessment of the situation. You don’t have to be a part of the conversation, but I thought that I should let you know how I see it. I endlessly tell you about the importance of foot care, so it’s only fair that I weigh in on this important topic. I should note that there was also some very reasoned comments and lots of guys understanding the intent of the programming AND of the program. And the OP reached out via DM and we had a very reasonable and productive discussion. He gets it. And the number of guys commenting is <1% of the number of guys reading the actual full program. I like that guys are passionate about this stuff. If you get 10 Green Berets in a room you’ll get 11 different opinions on damn near every topic. You know what they say about opinions…

I've only started bulletjournalling 6 weeks ago. So far it's going great. I think I understood everything by now and have already kept adapting things to my needs. But I have one more fundamental question.
What should I do with a task when it was done on a different day than the one I put it under?
Let's say I have an entry on Tuesday about clearing the garage. But I only get to do it two days later on Thursday. That means when I cross it off under the Tuesday entry, it doesn't really reflect reality. I can see four ways to solve this, but am not sure what's the best way (or if I'm missing something):

• do a daily migration, so what's a task on Tuesday that wasn't done automatically gets migrated to the Thursday (and Wednesday before that) - I'm not keen on this as I currently don't do a daily migration
• just cross it off on the Tuesday entry and don't worry about it
• cross it off on the Tuesday entry but write the day next to it when you've done it
• cross it off on the Tuesday entry but repeat it as an event under Thursday

The last potential solution raises the question: Is a done task an event? If not, what is the difference? From what I understand, events can be planned but also generally be things that have happened. When I cleared the garage on Thursday, that's something that has happened, as well as a task that I managed to do.

Just venting here, don’t mind little ol’ me.
I’m trying SO HARD to be positive and look on the bright side of things. But I’ve come to realise it’s not MY reaction to things that makes things positive or negative.
I’m at an event with the older kid. Won’t be done until 10pm.
Before I left I ordered Doordash for husband and Youngest, because god forbid my husband have to throw some nuggets in the oven all by himself. He’s been sick and needs to recover! He needs to sit his arse on the couch and scroll Facebook! Duh!
Husband had a swollen chin (he scratched it in his sleep). I’m at kids event and he sends me photos. I text back saying it’s gotten worse. Then I ask how Youngest is.
Husband texts asking why I’m not asking about his chin.
I known where this is heading and call him and jokingly say “What are you complaining about now?”
But he had the phone on speaker and yelled that I’m a bad parent because Youngest heard me say that. Then he hung up.
He’s now refusing to speak to me.
Am I going FUCKING insane???
Is a GROWN MAN really upset and refusing to talk to me over this?
It’s okay, I know it’s not just about ‘this’. He’s in a shitty mood anyway and is taking it out on me. And now he will proceed to ignore me for a few days and then I will get a talk about hurting his feelings and asking me if I truely love him. Not as much as you love yourself, my dude.
This man would be HELL to co-parent with. Pure hell. And he would be pure hell for the kids. Especially my sweet, gentle Youngest. At least now with me around, the guy is so self-involved he has minimal interactions with the kids. Yesterday he was ‘so ill’ he went from work to bed and didnt even say hi to the kids. Didn’t even ask after them.
I’m already kicking myself for not bringing Youngest with me. Sure, he might be bored spending four hours in the car, but it’s better then being stuck with a Man-Baby who has already put himself to bed and is making Youngest watch Netflix on the phone next to him, even though he was happily playing Legos.
I’m trying SO hard to Grey Rock. But it’s so fucking hard to watch everything I say.
Screaming into the Void. Or the Vacuum.

I had a craving yesterday and along with it came the thought: “Am I really NEVER going to use a mood/mind altering substance again???”
My substances of choice were alcohol and THC. I used alcohol much more often, but I always preferred the high of THC.
I know some people on this sub use THC, and if that works for you, that’s great. But for me they are equally destructive. Neither have truly been about relaxing for many, many years. They are about numbing. They are about “zonking out”. Avoiding life. They pull me from living my life into a kind of life support. And when I start, I don’t know how to stop.
That craving voice Is only thinking about all the time I haven’t used up to now when it says “just this one time”. He’s not thinking about what comes after the “one time”. The craving voice is a child who lacks executive function. He wants what he wants when he wants it. I have to be the responsible adult and say, “No. It’s not safe. One time leads to a second time and a third time and a fourth time…”. I have to tell the craving child I love him, but I know best.
I have to be the responsible adult every day…damnit.
I didn’t use yesterday. I knew I could avoid using for one day. I know that forever is made up of “one day”s. I know I CAN do this. I just need to regroup and replenish my strength now and again. Posting here. Journaling. Talking to friends. Recovery Dharma. These things give me strength.
IWNDWYT.

Hello! Like I said on a previous post of mine, during the first week of Easter holidays, I got a second badgie because my first one had sadly passed away. He was 3-4 months young at the time and now I can say he's prbably 4-5 months. I gave him loads of time to adjust, I talk to him whenever I can because I have my finals coming up and I have to focus on studying so I can pass my classes, get a job and then buy my budgie a friend from the same pet store I got him from. Rio, my budgie, is STILL afraid of me. I try many things such as nt looking at him in the eye too much, I don't speak loudly when I talk to him and make very slow and predictable movements so as not to scare him but he still either starts flapping around his cage as soon as I approach him or he jumps to a corner and and stays there. What can I do to reduce his fear and gain his trust? I don't want to scare him too much by shoving my hands inside his cage again. I wanted to give him a break in order to adjust but he is so scared of me still and I try to sooth him by baby-talking to him. Any suggestions?

I was just thinking about how victims families must be feeling, I saw some reels with Awini's family.
She was from Jabalpur which is not really a big city, atleast in terms people's mentality. I am sure when they heard the news a lot of people around her family would have tried to blame her asking these stupid questions like:
Why did you even sent her so far to work? Why was she out so late with a boy? Why was she in a relationship? Why didn't you just got her married instead of letting her work.
They would be demonizing her and her family to let her puruse job away from home, stay out late because she wanted to and what not.
It just hurts me so much because I come from a similar background where girls literally have to fight society to live on their own terms and then incidents like these are weponized against them as arguments to keep them at locked at home where they could be "safe".
I can't imagine her family battling these things and even questioning their descision while they grieve their loved one.
Regardless of Vedant going to jail, I know for sure that so many people will this use this as an example saying "dekho woh ghar se dur ja ke reh rahi thi, raat ko ghum rahi thi, toh uske sath ye sab ho gaya."

(An 8th grader wrote this, with proper writing i just dont know how to change that)

 Oh god no it's hideous ” Those were the last words of the first victim. It is currently 3:30pm. I'm sitting in my room reading about the recent attack, everyone suspects it was the infamous man known only as “Jack the Ripper”, but I think there is more to it than just another kill. The reason was Jack hadn't killed for 2 years, and there were no fingerprints, only a single piece of the woman's skull. It seemed as though the flesh was ripped clean off. All I was thinking was who or maybe even what could have done this without a trace. 1 week later 

another one, I have to figure out how IT is able to get away so quick. luckily this time there was a single drop of a green liquid on the ground. The weirdest thing was it wasn't abnormal other than one thing, it was invincible to a point where not even a diamond was able to cut through it. It was a strange material that acted like slime. It won't stop 27 kills so far, people have claimed they have seen the monster seeing it as a zombie-like giant lizard. It has been shot by guards but the bullet seemed to ricochet off the monster then shoot back at the guards as if the monster was controlling the bullet, then the monster started shooting pieces of its bone at the guards like a rapid-fire shrapnel. The strangest thing was the bones regenerated faster than anything ever seen before, alive or otherwise. The main problem was you couldn't hide from the monster because it seemed to have a form of x-ray vision or at least a really good sense of smell. When people started theorizing about the great sense of smell they tried to stop the attacks by spraying skunks all over their doorstep. The problem was the creature could see through walls and did not in fact have a great sense of smell. 2 months later It's currently December 12th, the monster known only as IT has managed to kill nearly 400 people, some witnesses say it could spout flames out of its mouth or teleport, I think they are crazy. The military is going to try to burn its skin off with “acid guns” while the monster is attacking somebody, the test was a failure and now the monster can spit acid. It seems to be extremely adaptable and able to turn its enemy's weapon into its own weapon.

Idk how to explain but it feels like I need everyday to fight for life, this isn’t natural like people waking up and living their day. It’s like I need to plan everything not too much phone/tv bc I get bored, anxious or dissociated, I need to go at least an hour outside, I need to learn something, reflect on what I’ve learned, absolutely do something constructive because otherwise my day has no sense, drink 2L water, waking up early and go to bed early to get at least 9 hours of sleep ETC the list goes on and on. I know all of this make me less stressed, depressed etc but the thing is I feel like my life is a rigid protocol and if I don’t do this more than one day I am fucking depressed and my life is senseless and everything’s a nightmare I feel like a robot who constantly needs entertainment to prevent him from his mind, traumatic memories or thinking about how he feels empty or bad deep down. it’s like I keep lying to myself that I live a normal life whereas I don’t idk if someone understand what I want to say

‼️Note: Names are fake
I (20F) have been friends with Jill (20F) for a while now. We’ve had many ups and downs throughout the years we’ve known one another, but currently we are doing okay. She has always had a habit of taking a mile when you give her an inch. But as of late, I’ve been trying to solidify more boundaries between us.
A few weeks ago, Jill left her home because of some family issues. I’m not comfortable elaborating as it isn’t my business to tell. She had texted me when the issue occurred asking if she could stay at my place for a while. I responded saying yes and didn’t ask any questions. I ended up calling her where she filled me in and said she wasn’t going to stay with me. She told me she had decided she was going to stay at her bf’s place (19M).
Two-ish weeks ago she texts me out of the blue and asks for a favor. She said she was going to get some of her things and wanted to know if she could store a decent amount of it at my home. This clearly signaled to me that she is moving out of her home and will be living with her bf. I said no because my house is pretty crammed with all of my things from moving out of my dorm. When I asked why she couldn’t take her stuff to her bf’s place, I really didn’t get a straight answer. Just that she didn’t want to inconvenience him. I thought to myself “why is it okay to inconvenience me though by making me your personal storage unit?” When I asked how long it would be here, she said until she got her own place. Judging by the fact that she has no job and seems content staying with her bf, I figured that could mean I would have her things indefinitely and I wasn’t down with that.
Around the same time, Jill texted asking if she could stay the night when she went to her home to get her things. I didn’t respond right away because she then tacked on after a few minutes that her bf would need to stay too. Once again, I was not down with this. I live in a two bedroom home with my mother and her bf. It wouldn’t have been impossible to house them both for a night, but I’m not friends with her bf. No ill feelings towards him, but I wasn’t comfortable letting some guy I barely know stay at my house and my mother wasn’t either.
Fast forward to yesterday. She texts me again (keep in mind she has not been texting me at all except to ask for these favors). She asks this time if she can send her mail here. She elaborated saying that she thought if she got her stuff sent to her bf’s house, it would somehow tip off our school and she would be put on out-of-state tuition (???). One thing I haven’t mentioned is Jill has an older brother who literally lives 2 minutes down the road from me. She says she doesn’t want to send it there because she “doesn’t like him right now” (as far as I’m aware, her argument with her brother has nothing to do with the family issue that caused her to move out). I don’t plan on asking why she’s mad at her brother because it’s none of my business. Just like with her belongings, Jill doesn’t seem to plan to come pick up her mail regularly and expects me to hold onto it. From what she’s said, I don’t believe that she has anything super important being sent, she just wants to change her address to my home whilst living with her bf so all her mail will come here. Just personally, I am not comfortable with that at all. I do not want to be responsible for someone’s mail. I think it could lead to issues and I don’t want to accidentally misplace something that didn’t belong to me in the first place.
As of right now, I haven’t responded, but I am planning on saying no. However, I kind of feel like I’m being a jerk? I’ve talked to my mom and my bsf and they both say that I’m justified and it isn’t my problem. But I’m still feeling a little hesitant as I don’t want her to think that I’m not concerned for her or her well-being because I very much am. I just don’t want to become her personal storage unit.
AITAH??

So I started therapy last week and had previously told them my trauma stemmed from my mother and her misandrous attitude towards me generally amongst other things, they somehow decided that the best therapist for me would be an older woman who is roughly my mother's age bracket.
During my session I would mention "women" in a generalised manner but in terms of women in my life, not women as a whole, which I explained at the beginning of the session to her, she was defensive about this, I explained that I don't feel she's going to be able to relate to much of what I say in the same manner a white person can't understand the daily struggle of a black person or a man can't understand the daily struggles of women, the same applies towards men, she seemed to also take offence to this.
When explaining to her how my mother tried to murder me as a newborn baby for crying her immediate response was to defend her and tell me she likely had post natal depression, whilst I agree, it's not the point, I began talking about experiences of unchecked misandry in my life from various sources and how they've affected me, my confidence and my self esteem and was asked why I was putting so much focus and attention on it and that I should just learn to ignore it, which felt dismissive, this made me wonder if she would tell someone experiencing racism to just ignore it or women experiencing extreme misogyny to just stop giving attention to it.
I left the session feeling defeated, silly and like I was just being over dramatic about the trauma in my life both past and present and now I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable for wanting to complain about how this woman has approached the situation or if I should say something to them about how uncomfortable her responses made me feel and will it even make a difference, I know that if I do say something and I stop the sessions then I won't get the opportunity for any others since they're so limited on staff but I feel like in the long run she's just going to amplify my feelings on the subject by being continually dismissive and defending the women in my life that have ultimately been the cause in the first place.
Is it even worth calling them to explain the situation or is it just going to be dismissed in another office full of women who are likely going to side with one another, I really feel like I need help with my mental health in order to get my life back on track and this unit is the only option available to me, I don't want to burn bridges with them entirely and leave me without any option moving forward.

The explanation given about the ability for awakened to exert themselves on the world seems to leave a lot of avenues open about being fateless. Cassie seemed to say that it's widely believed that there was a 7th person in the third nightmare they just can't remember. But this is more then the lower ranked people we have come across like his old subordinates or rain. It's possible that the sovereigns know of lost from light entirely, or at least to a greater extent then Cassie and crew. Resisting the world itself as your rank gets higher as Sunny says does not follow common sense. A shorter way to say this would even be "the world has no record of ever existing" and at a high enough rank you can say "ok, didn't ask". I don't think it's possible to say it works like this one way or another but the whole exerting will thing is a little too omnipotent and vague at the moment.

I just had a dream where I felt the sensation of loosing my sanity and it was pretty damn uncomfortable.
It started normal. It was full of weird unconnected events and odd characters as most dreams are. However the scary part started when, in the dream, I meet up with this friend in his apartment.
He informs me that he has this 'disassociative' condition. He tells me that he can suddenly forget things, and that everything and everyone around him can become unrecognisable and he starts thinking people are out to kill him.
Not too long after mentioning this, the friend then chillingly proceededs to tell me that 'the room has changed shape' and that 'he doesn't know where he is'.
He starts wondering around his dimly lit apartment and I catch glimpses of him staring wildly at me from the corners of my vision. Obviously this is all extremely freaky so I start coming up with excuses to leave, like saying I have "work" or whatever. I manage to get out the apartment but things get worse from here.
As soon as I leave the apartment I begin noticing that nothing around me makes sense. Just like my friend moments ago, I don't really know where I am. Or why Im here. I try to remember what I was even doing before any of this but I can't make sense of any of it. Its as if my friends inability to remember anything triggered the realisation that nothing around me made any sense either. It's a hard feeling to describe but I became sort of self aware in the dream, not fully lucid enough to know I was dreaming, but aware enough to know that nothing makes any sense.
Sure enough I begin believing that the same thing that happened to my friend is now happening to me. Nothing looks right. Nothing is consistent. Nobody's actions seem normal. I try to anchor myself by remembering significant people in my life, but I can't even think of anyone. (my dreams rarely contain real people from my life)
I begin questioning everything and everyone in the dream, feeling as if they somehow are after me, or aware of something I'm not. The worst part is nobody even is. I meet other people I'm the dream doing weird dream stuff, but all this just confirms to me that I must be starting to lose my grasp on reality. Nobody else seems to care that nothing makes sense. Do they know something I don't? Are they apart of all of this? Who even are these people? I suddenly notice how all the things that have happened aren't even remotely connected chronologicaly. I notice that my short term memory doesn't span more than a few minutes at a time. All the things that are normal in dreams suddenly become terrifying.
The dream ends with me noticing more and more things that don't make sense, desperately trying to ground myself in any sense of what's real.
I eventually woke up in my room, still half asleep and with sleep paralysis, attempting to move or speak or do anything to see if what I'm seeing is real. It was one of those waking up experiences where it makes you question breifly everything around you afterwards.
So yeah, I know know what it feels like to go completely insane. Fun stuff

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with", a common saying, take it as you will. If you want to learn a skill, surrounding yourself with others who are highly dedicated to learning that skill would be quite beneficial to you. In the case of lucid dreaming, this is even more so.
I'm creating a small group chat (five people) of such individuals for lucid dreaming. Within this group chat, it is required to be active, and do things such as tracking your progress daily alongside others, conducting daily research on lucid dreaming, sharing your findings, holding yourself accountable towards routines, daily dream journaling, and conversing with others daily. This will last for only 3 months
If you've ever really wanted to become good at lucid dreaming, now could be your chance for some great change in your life. Shoot me a message if you want to join, and I'll talk with you and decide within a few weeks whether to let you in.
Peace.

So me and my gf rn started out nung Nov 2022 and at the time na talking stage kame may kausap din akong iba and mga january 2022 she found out na I slept with someone else habang naguusap nga kami, I know na kapag talking stage syempre may unsaid boundaries na pero wala pa kami napapagusapan kung ano ba kami or label. So ayun, she ghosted me after she found out and April 2023 we talked again, okay naman at the start kaso as the rel progressed (ligawan), I feel like mas nagihing controlling na sya towards sakin. She found out na I still followed my ex on socmeds and got really mad to the point na gusto nya makipag itigil yung rel (understandable) pero I saw that she followed her ex too on spotify and I got upset over it, sabi nya lang "matagal na yan", yada yada yada and feel ko lang yung unfairness kapag when she does the things she gets mad about pag sya gumagawa parang hindi big deal.
So after a few months ang bilis nya mag explode sakin and ambilis nya magalit, kapag nagagalit sya sobrang out of line mga sinasabi nya and on several occasions nagiging physical na sya saken. And inaadmit nya na mali yung ginagawa nya pero paulit ulit padin nangyayare and sinasabi nya na dahil daw nag "cheat" ako sakanya nung talking stage palang kami. Now, loyal and faithful ako sakanya to the point na wala na ako na finofollow na babae sa socmed even friends na babae, I get it na may trust issues sya sakin pero feel ko din minsan masyado syang controlling, I even cut off my female friends for her. And yung mga friends ko naman sinasabihan ako na hiwalayan ko na since nakikita nila gaano ako nasstress or naapektuhan yung mental health ko sa relationship namin.
She is so quick na magalit sa maliliit na bagay and just says na "It's because of the past" and iniintindi ko nalang. And yung pag treat nya sakin na inaaway nya ako palagi and nasasabihan ng masasakit na salita, and nasasaktan physically I feel like nakakaapekto din sa pag treat ko sakanya, at first sobrang sweet ko syempre infatuation stage, up until now naman I can say na nag puput in effort ako sa rel namin and she always mentions yung relationships ng friends nya na "lagi magkasama at sweet" which upsets me kase she compares our rel. She also compares me to her past talking stages and says na "sana si ano nalang" and also took a pic with a guy that liked her na nakaakbay. She also went out to clubs without telling me dahil galit sya sakin.
And one time sinundo ko sya sa bahay (we fought a day ago) tapos sinusungitan nya ko and di kinakausap, student palang ako and she's not that far away naman pero matraffic sa area nya, so of course nagtitipid din ako sa gas. Nakaka walang gana lang sunduin sya kase gaganunin nya lang ako after matraffic and sunduin sya. Tapos sinasabi nya sa friends nya and tinatanong bakit ganon daw yung trato ko sakanya. And tinatanong nya din ako "Why do you treat me so badly" I don't know what she expects pero nag eeffort naman ako to talk, go out, and be sweet with her pero I feel like hindi nya naaapreciate.
Am I a bad boyfriend? ABYG kung binalikan ko pa sya and sa pag tuloy ng relationship

For context, I'm 14 F and my boyfriend is 14 FTM. But to keep our relationship safe, I'm forced to use she/her in front of my parents for him. He's okay with it, so that's all good. My parents don't know about him being trans. We've been dating since December of 2023.
We had a thing in the beginning of our relationship where we would write love letters and poems to each other (which is how i confessed to him and got things started), and recently my mom, while taking my computer out of my bag for me, came across one of them. Last night she confronted me about it and I got scared and lied to her (because I know what's gonna happen if I tell her the truth), telling her it was a joke we do for fun. She fortunately believed me and told me not to do these kinds of jokes again, but she wants to see ALL the letters that we've made for each other. She started making me put stuff on god that I wasn't lying, so I'm really freaked out right now and panicked. I already sent the break up paragraph to my boyfriend on discord and made sure to tell him that its not his fault, never will be, and I asked him if he got a text from me asking about the letters to just say that he threw them all away in spring break.
I'm genuinely terrified because she's gonna read out the letter to me again in front of my dad and I'm going to be forced to say this is all a joke and I don't know what to do, I need advice really bad. If they find out I lied to them, they'll get even angrier and make me cut ties with him. Since that's the last thing I want, because he's also moving to another state. Also, both my boyfriend and his family + me and my family are practicing Hindus. In Indian culture there is a strong stigma around LGBTQ topics which explains their strong reaction. I'm also a Hinduist, but since my religion doesn't say anything against queer relationships, I don't follow their belief. I made a reddit account just for this and I'm probably never using it again, so any advice would be appreciated.
Both of these people are extremely important to me. I don't wanna give up my boyfriend nor do I want to my parents. I really need help.

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now. We met because we go to the same college, but I am from Europe. I am on a scholarship for a sport, which I am very grateful for. While university is very affordable back home, this gives me a new experience, and more of a chance in my sport. I’m not the most intelligent. I’m not stupid, but compared to others around me, I am a bit inferior. I try my best, but no one would ever call me smart. I’m just average. Which does make me feel guilty, because I know how hard some of the people around me have worked to be able to get here, and I just got here because I have natural talent at a sport, and that’s it.
My boyfriend brought that up recently. I had a small injury, just a tweak, and I had ice on it. He asked me what I would do if I couldn’t play anymore. I said I wasn’t sure, and that I’d either try to stay in America, or go back home and study instead. But I hadn’t really thought too much about it. He asked how I would stay in America. I said I didn’t know, maybe I would pay to study instead, I wasn’t sure. He laughed and said that it was a bit ridiculous. I asked him what I meant, and he said that it was so ridiculous that a foreigner who wasn’t even intelligent could just pay her way in, while people like him had to work hard every day to even finish their degree.
I said I knew, but asked if he could not mention my intelligence in the future, because it hurts my feelings and that I know I’m not very smart. He said it wasn’t that big of a deal, and that he isn’t trying to insult me, just saying the truth. I got a bit upset, and said that it sounded a lot like an insult to me, and that I don’t want him deflecting that. He said he was sorry, and I let it go. But then something similar to that happened when I was with him and his family. They were asking me about what back home is like, and they are religious so they were also asking about my church. I am not the same religion as them, I go to the national church of my country. They were asking me about it, and I was really enthusiastic because I really like my church. I love the people there, I love God, and I just love everything about it.
My boyfriend then pulled me aside and told me it was a bad look to be going on about my country, and I should try to acclimatise a little and not to be going about my ‘weird Pagan church’. We’re definitely not Pagan, we’re a type of Christian, and they were asking me about it. I felt it would’ve been rude not to answer their questions. I tried to say that I wasn’t meaning to do anything but he got mad and said that it sounds stupid, and that I sound stupid too. Apparently my accent is so strong, I sound idiotic, and that I’m dressing like a whore. And that I should be making a good impression, but I just look like a slutty foreigner. I definitely wasn't dressing badly, and I was completely covered. My shirt was a little fitted but it wasn't bad at all.
I feel like he doesn't understand how much he hurts me. He says he's sorry, but he keeps doing it, and it's making me feel like he doesn't mean it. My parents have started saying I don't sound very happy, and I feel like he might be partially the reason. But I'm confused. He loves me, but he also says those things. And I'm not sure that you would say something like that to someone you loved.

I (30f) am in a very unhealthy 10+ year relationship with two major barriers to leaving: 1. A beautiful toddler who we both adore. 2. My father living with us as he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.
I need to get out but I'm in one of those relationships where whatever wrong is done, it's not apologised for, it's just swept under the rug and I get branded for being horrible if I try to continue being mad. I just don't have the energy anymore so I just distance myself and focus on the important things, my Dad and my toddler.
In saying that, I need to start planning to leave. I can't keep going as I am slowly cracking under the pressure of everything.
My goal is 2 years, 2 years to leave.
A couple of points: 1. My partner (30m) has mental issues that they won't address and is prone to anger (but has never physically hurt me). 2. My partner has shown lots of signs of using our toddler in "who do you choose" kind of behaviour, so I know co parenting will be hard. 3. I have my own career and earn over 120k plus super. 4. We own a house together (which is where my Dad is living while going through treatment). 5. I don't have the available money to buy my partner out. 6. My partner isn't a bad person, but we just aren't healthy together.