Ok so me my friend Wanda and my other friend’Kylie are rllyyy close friends K has a little sis ‘Filly who’s like nine and the rest of us are all just reaching adulthood so we friends are close like even our family members are really close,so me saying anything would cause a lot of problems
so whenever we make plans,Filly is always counted like it goes without saying and I’m not even sure when this started…like yes we took her once cause she doesnt have anyone arnd her age cause she is homeschooled but this has resulted in her hanging out with us EVERY SINGLE TIME like even when we stay over or anything like that and Idk how Wanda feels abt this but ik that she used to think that Filly was spoiled cause she was the youngest and Kylie has suggested that Filly doesn’t have to tag along if we dong want it but if i say anything Filly is gonna act disappointed then tell her mom which will reach my mom and then they are gonna make a big deal cause we r basically family
On one or two occasions my mom has jokingly said that F is too young to hang out with us but she might be embarrassed if filly’s mom tells my mom abt me telling filly anything
Filly acts too mature like butting in the conversation…she‘s even a bit rude like how she literally points out when i repeat my clothes or mocking how i walk once or how i laugh…she thinks its a joke but it comes of soo rude and Kylie and Filly are rlly close like pet names and kissing and cuddling..so i’m not even sure
our hang outs are kinda ruined now cause we cant speak abt stuff we want cause she is a loud mouth and nosy and obviously she’s nine and idk if i’m the only one in the grp who feels this…ik wanda and u dont like it when by bro tags along so we avoid that but we dont know whether wanda feels same way abt filly
So WIBTA if i tell filly or kylie i dont want filly there all the time…cause i love filly and all but everybody know u dont try to third wheel on older ppl…i never did that cause its annoying

Me and my girlfriend are now 1 1/2 Years in a Long distance Relationship. I come from a German speaking Country and we talk in English. About the Argument/problem where i need help on: So my girlfriend F(20) went through my YT watch History and found Videos of me watching like those Dating Videos where Woman alot of Times are represented with shorter Clothing. Wich i personally watch because of entertainment because how the people communicate in that and certain Comedians are dating/ trying to Rizz up Girls. Videos about a German meme Family going onto a Bikini Modeling show (where the show is 10% from the Video) wich i got recommended and my thaught was i just know them from memes. Like it has to be a funny video? Also in the Thumbnail was Robert Geiss ( family member of the Meme family ) with a slip over his pants, and blurred in the background, the Show. Then also an amount of videos of a Female Actor where she is in all with the other ( male )main Actor from a New Series/Show wich came out and is a Comedy/ Romantic Show? And because i was interested in what the Series or also them two is all about, ( i know the actor from one of my Favorite Movies ) i then watched some Videos. Apparently a Blooper video of both of them wich i dont remember where her B00bs are shown in the thumbnail from what my Gf said. ( wich dont make sense because YT doenst allow something like that if im correct )And also multiple Videos of German Youtubers. If Somebody knows them Inscope 21, Tomsprm, Marc eggers and more ppl like them. Where either the Videos are about a street survey. And the most asked Gender are Woman. Or as a Clickbait a Woman even tho it is 1% about the actual clip or something of that Woman. And 99% is just comedy. Now the Argument is about that i micro cheated on her wich from my perspective is not making any sense. Because i didnt Watch the videos Because of the Woman. Just because of entertainment. ( the named videos are eventually around 15% of videos wich i have watched in the Last 3 Months. The others are Car things, … , … ) But i also understand Her GF (20) because she doesnt know any of them and just sees the Thumbnails and that there are Woman wich are with less clothing. I understand that my fault in this is that i didnt think of where the watching of Videos like that could go and make her Feel. As a Reaction tho from her came the try to hurt my feelings on purpose with telling me that if people found out that we Broke Up that some guys wich are in her Scool whatever. That Guys would come to have a chance on Her GF(20) and more hurtful things. She (GF) didnt believe and still doesnt believe anything that i am saying. The Reason to not are other events that happend the last few months. Wich are the same way. I do something. She sees it other than i do and doesnt trust my words. ( it happend around 2+ times) And this was 2 Weeks ago. We talked about it in the meanwhile a few times and were left at the same point. That she doenst feel Love to me or from me anymore, Is disgusted, and is not wanting to try to solve the problem with me. Rather distance herself than work on it together. And is only together with me because i ( Bf(20)) wants to. I dont know what to do. Because i Love her and i want our Relationship to Last and grow and work. Sorry for bad Grammar.

My family went to Azores and loved it. We are already booking another trip. So I am trying to learn some rudimentary Portuguese. I am on Duolingo. I don't necessary want to spend hundreds or thousands of hours to learn the language, but it will be nice to have a vocabulary of important words if I have to ask for something. I don't need to have correct syntax or grammar, but it is important to be able to pronounce them correctly.
To start, I want to know how to pronounce these 2 names of the towns.
In America, people usually pronounce "Azores" with the stress on the first syllable and alliterates with "Apex". However, we were just recently in Sao Miguel and I heard people said the word with the stress on the second syllable and the "A" was more of a soft "uh" sound, so it alliterates with "assorted". How should I properly say the word Azores in English?
Along the same line, the Portuguese letter that looks like a C but with a squiggly tail -- is it the equivalent of Z in English? Whenever I see that letter, can I just substitute Z to help with pronunciation?
Also, how do you pronounce Ribeira Grande? I know words that begin with r pronounce it with a "h" sound, as receita and roupa. And d is pronounced like g as in Bom Dia. So is it more like Hibeira Grange?
Any important tips on Portuguese pronunciation for a beginner?

This is a longish article; I'm going to add bolding to the sections I feel are most interesting to our community here:
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The Kansas City Star
Kansas City, Missouri · Thursday, March 27, 1997 · Page 109/A-1

As the world turns weird

By MATT CAMPBELL
and DONNA McGUIRE
Staff writers
The comet Hale-Bopp is a harbinger from "space brothers" calling us to shed our containers and join the astral plane.
Believe that if you wish, but is it any reason to kill yourself?
Something along those lines apparently inspired 39 people to take their lives in a rented Southern California mansion. Religious scholars and cult watchers say we can expect more bizarre ⏤ though not necessarily lethal ⏤ behavior on the fringes of society.
"As we get closer to the millennium, there is a greater and greater anxiety among the human race...," said Philip Lucas, editor of Nova Religio, a journal on alternative and emergent religions. "More and more people are looking for answers or a plan."
Cults are as ancient as human society, as is speculation about cosmic meanings. But the people who committed suicide this week apparently were high-tech believers ⏤ computer programmers
See AS, A-20, Col. 1
"They believe the Earth is impure. Therefore it is a rational decision to try to escape from it." -Phillip Lucas, editor of Nova Religio journal
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Kansas City, Missouri · Thursday, March 27, 1997 · Page 128/A-20

As millennium nears, world turns weirder

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who earned their living creating Internet Web sites under the name Higher Source.
It is unclear whether the cult depended on its World Wide Web site Heaven's Gate to recruit converts. If the medium is the message, however, the Internet has proved that it can have a mystical aspect.
"The computer is a tool for communicating in ways that we'd never imagined even five years ago," said Tim Miller, and associate professor of religious studies at the University of Kansas, "and people with religious interests have jumped on it just like everyone else has.
"Of course, the basic fact of the Internet is the way you communicate without censorship or intervention. That means, inevitably, people outside the mainstream are going to see this as a real opportunity."
There will always be cults and collections of people who believe things that the rest of us find bizarre. The California sect members left messages that they expected to rendezvous with an alien power traveling in a spaceship in the wake of Hale-Bopp's tail. To accomplish that, they had to leave their "containers," or bodies, behind.
As the millennium approaches, more groups might fret about the apocalypse. Indeed, that happened in Europe the last time we approached a millennium. Just approaching the turn of a century has sparked the same rhetoric.
But sociologists say that doesn't mean people should expect large numbers of similar mass suicides in the next three years.
"Cult activity with these kinds of outcomes is extremely rare," said Mary Jo Neitz, a sociology professor at the University of Missouri-Columbia. "There is a tremendous number of religious groups and cults out there. But this is a very unlikely event, that it would end in mass suicide."
Miller, who has studied cults for 25 years, agreed there is no indication that ritual suicides will become the vogue of the late 1990s.
"There have been isolated instances of mass suicides throughout history for religious or political purposes," Miller said, "but no, I don't see it as a trend. . . . Such isolated events are too small to generalize."
There is a lot of interest in Hale-Bopp among so-called New Age movements. A group called Cosmic Maya, for example, preaches that the comet is bringing an "auspicious and timely message" to humanity, perhaps even returning part of the human soul lost long ago.
But the movement's tenets, at least as printed in a New Age publication called The Edge, contain no reference to alien life, transporting to the stars or ritual suicide.
"I just don't think that there is any direct lesson to be gained" from the California case, Miller said. "Will there be other groups that commit mass suicide? Who knows. To me, the issue is can you identify them in advance. And I'd say emphatically not."
William Svoboda, a pediatric neurologist in Wichita and a scholar of cult behavior, said cults typically revolve around a central leader who is answerable to no man.
The reported young ages of many of the people apparently involved in the San Diego cult makes sense to cult watchers. The people most susceptible tend to be at transition stages, such as between school and career.
Svoboda said ritual suicide usually occurs when a cult's leader becomes sufficiently paranoid to seek his or her own escape from life.
"And unfortunately, he drags his followers along with him," Svoboda said. "The pathology begins with the leader."
However rare such extreme behavior is, Lucas noted that even people in mainstream businesses, religions and organizations can go off the deep end.
Jim Jones was a Pentecostal Christian before he created his own dogma and led more than 900 followers to death in Guyana in 1978.
Missouri and Kansas have not been immune to cult activity:

• In 1989, Jeffrey Lundgren, a defrocked lay minister of the Reorganized Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints in Independence, killed five members of a former Independence family at a religious commune in Ohio. He was sentenced to death.
  
• In 1991 five persons affiliated with a religious group in Russell Country, Kan., abruptly left the country for Israel. The group apparently was inspired by UFO sightings and linked them to religious portents.
  
• In 1992, a religious cult outside Liberty was exposed when a woman told police that leader Nelson DeCloud, who claimed a direct link to God, had raped and sodomized her. He was sentenced to 220 years.
  

"Becoming involved in demanding religious activity often gives people stability in their lives," Neitz said, adding that it remains rare for them to commit suicide.
Not everyone who joins a cult will remain, either, she said.
"There is this image of cults as having mindwashing or brainwashing activities, that once you get involved, you can't get out," she said. "The data doesn't bear that out. The rates of defection are actually quite high."
Svoboda estimated that there are 3,500 to 7,000 cults in the United States. He said those in the Midwest tend to be oriented toward deeply conservative or survivalist beliefs.
By contrast, Lucas said, "the UFO-contacting groups, of which Higher Source appears to be one, believe the 'space brothers' are...contacting people on...Earth to give them spiritual wisdom or a plan on how to survive.
"These groups are often neognostic," Lucas said, referring to a belief in salvation through knowledge. "They believe the Earth is impure. Therefore it is a rational decision to try to escape from it. By killing themselves physically, they're not entering oblivion, they're making their transit."
Many cult watchers believe computers and the Internet are simply new ways to spread religious messages in the modern world. Countless Web sites are maintained by mainstream religious groups.
Svoboda said some cults actively recruit on the Internet. But he said most computer chatter about cults tends to be warnings from ex-cult members who have escaped.
Internet watchers also say cults are far less prevalent a threat to naive browsers than are financial schemers or deceptive romantic suitors.
But Lucas speculates that people most comfortable with the Internet and technology in general may be predisposed to accept theories of more advanced civilizations from space.
Neitz doubts that computer wizards would be more predisposed than others to join cults ⏤ or that cults could recruit well over the Internet, a format that lacks the necessary face-to-face connection.
"Social ties are important," Neitz said. "People get recruited into cults through other people they know. There has to be a personal connection made and some tie established."
There is another article from the same newspaper on the Heaven's Gate tragedy, with an image from the group's original website along with a picture of the meat wagon collecting the corpses here if anyone is interested.

I started talking to a random guy online, I gave him my Snapchat because I didn't want him to have my number. It started as one or two messages, then progressed to voice notes and random snaps. No nudes, which shocked me because, well you know. To arranging to meet up and that's where I had to say no for my own benefit.
Right from the get go I felt red flags tickling the back of my neck. He called me a bitch because I said he was too young (28, I'm 40). And I called him out for it straight away and to his credit, he apologised straight away and I thought messages can be misconstrued.
But then there was the disappearing in the middle of a conversation, not replying at weekends, I don't expect him to be at my beck and call but I think it's polite just to say something like "oh I've got to go for a bit, chat later?" Or similar. It take 2 seconds.
The other thing was his name, he told me it was one thing (turned out to be his middle name) but when I asked him about the other name he kept changing the subject. He has since told me that he goes by his middle name with his friends but his family call him his first name. That's fine but what make it weird? And he used his number to set up his FB so he came up as "someone you may know" so of course I had a snoop. It was sparse. Which I was expecting. But he found it so weird when I told him I'd seen it. In fact he didn't talk to me for 3 days
In the 10 months we've been speaking he's not really been forthcoming on many things in until I've asked outrightly. He says it's just the way he is and he likes listening to me talk. But I was concerned he was trying to find things to use against me(yes I was sorta comparing him to my mentally abusive ex).
Anyway we arranged to meet, had a disagreement because I put up a post saying it saddens me none of my friends have posted a out a certain conflict. He literally unadded me from all the socials except Snapchat. And said he was insulted I'd put that up. I said if it don't apply let it fly. But then I started wondering if our political views were too different or was he a bit racist. So I asked him and he said what he said. Then I didn't hear from him for almost a week. That was the final straw for me. I don't like being ignored as a punishment. I'd rather have a stand up row. I took him off my snap and deleted his number (he still didn't have mine, snap suits me)
But I feel like I've purposely sort out these red flags to let them slap me in my face and that I've pushed away someone lovely for no reason.
I've never stuck up for myself like this. Usually I end up getting hurt.
But it feels so wrong and I'm sad about it.

So yesterday was my cousins graduation along with a lot of friends of mine it was late on the day it started at 7 and it didn’t end until around 10ish.
While we were leaving I got left behind cause I saw an old friend of mine and we chatted up. So when I headed outside I was texting my mom when I heard someone call my name. I looked up and saw it was exes mom. I didn’t have a problem with her but me and her son had a pretty bad breakup.
The rest of her family also saw me.
I have this bad habit of charming the whole family. It’s a blessing and a curse. The only person that it didn’t work is was is racist grandmother who wasn’t happy to see me. I guess for context I’m black his family is white.
I stayed nearby them since they were under a lamp light and my stepdad was coming to get me so I’m not walking in the dark.
However he wasn’t quick enough cause my Ex arrived before him. His family celebrated him of course just kinda stood there awkwardly waiting for my dad. That’s when Ex said my name and smiled as he reached to hug me. I took a big step back and held my arm up in defense.
I don’t understand why he’s acting. Like that until his auntie was like. “Give your boyfriend a hug”
I assumed he didn’t tell his extended family we broken up which explained their super friendly attitude with me still.
I shook my hair and said we broken up a while ago and they seemed okay with it and asked if I wanted to take pictures. My ex seemed excited but respectfully rejected multiple times despite their insistence.
My ex looked upset I said no which made made me a little annoyed, However my stepdad arrived and I told him and he agreed it was weird to ask me to join I told my mom who said I rude and that it was his big day and I should have sucked it up. “It’s just a couple of pictures it won’t kill you. “ Some other relatives sided with my mom but it faded out when my cousin arrived and all the attention rightfully when to our graduate of the year.
My mom brought it up again in the morning. She doesn’t know the reason why we broke up so she still really liked my ex and his family.
I just wanted to double check that I wasn’t being rude or anything I know it was his big day hug still pretended to be a happy girlfriend after what he did seemed nearly impossible.

I was coming out of a 2 year relationship that just wasn't a good fit for me so I ended it and wanted to move on with life but wasn't in a rush to find "the one" .. so one day I go into the bar with a buddy, where my mom was the kitchen manager. When I started coming in this beautiful woman who was super cool, would flirt, make comments to my mom about how she was going to marry me. She even would put Hubband on my bar tab as my name lol and I just kinda shrugged it off. She asked me to go out after a few months later. I told her no I was kinda dating other women and jokingly (but not really) just said you are too much for me. I tend to watch and observe people for awhile just so I can be sure they are who they say they are and to get a feel their character for red flags. I am a Scorpio lol what can I say. Truth be told I didn't hear good things about her from really anyone, especially my mom. Infact my mom told her to stay away from me and warned me about her. We became friends and she would always explain how everyone just didn't like her, misunderstood her, or was jealous of her. After I got to know her I was falling in love with her, like she was made for me, we had the same values and morals, likes and dislikes. After dating and being together for about a month or so her phone rang while we were in a movie with her daughter and was told her dad passed away from a massive heart attack. I felt so bad for her knowing the rough history with her dad ( just like my story. ) but the last few years were a lot better and became pretty close. I was there for her and held her for weeks when she was sobbing and did everything for her, including driving her places. At this point I knew she had bad anxiety for the last 10 years or so. Slowly her grief started to diminish a little bit and things were trending up, although her rage and arguments started mostly when she was drinking but I thought well its due to her loss and no matter what I will be there for her and do my best to support her although at times it was frustrating and hard to do. We decided to get married the following February, at this point I was head over heals for her and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. So from here her mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Let me explain something. My wifes main support person her whole life, her best friend the person that not only could but would set her straight and tell it like it is. Her mother passed away on july 22nd extremely fast and really unexpected due to the good prognosis from the doctors thats what everyone had thought. So now it was back to ok .. get into protection mode and prepare to support my wife. To my surprise, my wife she wasn't as outwardly upset as when her dad passed away. Thats when I knew that this has undoubtedly crushed, devastated her soul. I am sure that's a vast understatement. Our relationship since then hasn't been the same. She will go into rages that are scary to be on the receiving end of. The name calling, being blamed for all her problems in life, telling me I am worthless, not her equal, that all her other relationships the men were better than me, attacking my manhood, any kind of insecurity I have told her about when trying to be vulnerable will get thrown in my face and used as ammo. Along with any and all arguments from 2 years ago, my past relationships mistakes that I have made, and how she is a prized possession and deserves everything she wants from a man, also that I don't love her as good as other men did and how boring I am because I dont like to sit in a bar get drunk everyday so I am a stick in the mud and dragging her life down and she can do better and be with somone who is going to make her happy. Really anything in her rage is fair game and it got to the point when this happens she is unreasonable, you can't calm her down it will make it worse. She has hit me, and spit a mouth full of chewed food in my face. The things being screamed in my face is disgusting. So I leave not willing to be treated that way and go stay with my cousin for a bit to let her cool off, me cool off and let cooler minds prevail and come back. This has now been the cycle for the last year. The day after Christmas this year it happened again and it was over her preception of something... I was cast away for a month. Come to find out she struck up a relationship with an ex and before I came back deleted text and is telling me half truths about it while blaming me for her indiscretion, saying it was my fault, and had began bashing me to anyone who will listen to her. We agreed to work it out because we love and want to be together and get help for the issues we are having, I made some major changes that she asked for and I followed through and delivered for her. She lost her insurance for a few months and couldn't get her colonopin for anxiety so she had been getting some from her sister to get her by, finally her insurance is back and she goes to her primary doctor to get another prescription and her doc asked if I test you will it be in your system? Whatever she said made her primary tell her she wasn't getting it and she thought my wife was at risk for suicide and she was abusing the meds. She was referred to a psychiatrist and diagnosed with BPD and PTSD due to childhood trauma. She spent the last month on different meds and the behavior issues started up again slowly. At this point I can tell when she is on the verge of a rage filled attack I just don't know when it's going to come. Well it did last Tuesday and it was worse yet, and of course she was drinking. I have researched BPD not knowing a lot and boy it don't look good. I love her and don't want to abandoned her. But it doesn't look good. I believe she also has traits of NPD. I want it to work but I can't keep on with someone who treats me like this. My self esteem is down, she accuses me of having a mental illness and when I explained how I feel she says I am always playing a victim. She makes me question reality and I feel I am going crazy. Just slamming me to everyone who will listen .. for no reason I just dont get it. Anytime she drinks I get filled with anxiety wondering is this the day for a rage filled blow out ? I can't have friends, or my family in my life. I do love my wife. Outside of the major blow ups we are great. When the rages happen I don't know who that person is.

• our clan's name: Evil
• Your system(s): We have players on all platforms (playstation, Xbox and PC)
• Where are most of your clan members located (country/time zones): We are a mixed group US EST, MST, PST, we also regularly play with players from the UK and Canada as well.
• When do you usually play (include times and time zone): Most of us play after about 4-5:00PM MST on weekdays as we have day jobs, however on weekends we are usually a lot more active.
• Tell us more about your clan (ex: how many members, requirements to join if any, focus on PvE/PvP/both, why should people join your clan, how do you communicate/organize events): We are a smaller group around 6-7 active players at the moment as we've lost a couple of members to attrition, we are interested in players with any level of skill . We are ideally looking to bring in as many as we can prior to the release of the Final Shape. We have a solid group of players that regularly play through and enjoy endgame content, however we also love teaching raids, dungeons, and everything else! Most of our members don't primarily play PVP and much prefer PVE, however we will do bannetrials, etc. if there are good rewards and/or someone needs help with something. A few things that we do require below:
  • Some level of maturity. We don't have any age requirements, my Son and Daughter both play and are 16 and 18 respectively, my son has been playing with me since he was 7 , however if you do join we do ask that you maintain some level of decency and maturity while playing with the group. We are mostly adults with day jobs and lives our own and play destiny as a means of relaxing and having fun. None of us want or will tolerate drama of any kind. We do use profanity occasionally, so be advised if that is something that you are not comfortable with. We do not tolerate racism, sexism, homophobia or bigotry of any kind and any of these will result in an immediate and permanent ban.
  • In order to be invited, you MUST be active in our discord. This does not mean that you have to make a required amount of posts or anything, however you MUST have a mic. and be willing to join in the occasional raid, dungeon, seasonal activity, etc. and be willing to communicate via mic. Don't be socially anxious, we're all really nice and as "normal" as they come, promise! We also love helping and teaching newer players.
  • As stated above, we understand completely that family and life obligations will always come first. We only ask that if you will be absent for an extended period of time, just communicate with an admin and/or the main chat and let everyone know you'll be back.
• What is the best way to contact your clan (reply in the thread, website, Twitter, etc.)?: If interested in joining, please reply to the comment here, or send me a DM and I will send you an invite! We would love to have you for the Final Shape and beyond!

Peace,
Manawar

Back in the early 90's, I was in my 20's. As young adults we tend to hang out with friends til late at night. I was with my girlfriend, and her brothers over at their house. No drinking or smoking, we were not into that sort of thing, we were actually all into fitness at the time and taking care of our health.
My girlfriend's family had a big beautiful black great Dane named Ebony. Huge dog, it looked big and mean, but she was the sweetest dog ever.
So one night we were hanging out on the weekend as usual. We had just finished working out, they had all kind of weight training equipment in the back yard. They had a cousin named Joe who used to come by with friends quite often. On this night he came over with his friend Taylor. Taylor had been over before on several occasions.
We were all just talking in the yard and all of a sudden Ebony started to howl, and deep howl that we had never heard from her. The thing was she was howling at Taylor. We were all looking at her and telling to stop, but she wouldn't. The howling continues until Joe and Taylor said were going to take off.
They walked away and got on their motorcycles, I believe they both had Sizuki GSXR's. About two hours go by, and her cousin Joe comes back and say Talor is dead. He crashed on the motorcycle.
Everyone was distraught and saddened by what had happened. We were all talking about Ebony, and how she was howling at Talor.
We were looking for the reason she was howling at Taylor on this night. On the night he passed away. Perhaps the great dane Ebony, saw something that made her howl at him. Even while I typed this, I was getting the chills as it brought back a very creepy memory of something we could never understand. Did my girlfriends dog see some sort of grim reaper? Is that even possible?

Moments where your gnc self, your masc or fem traits were affirmed, compliments, moments where you were just happy to be yourself or overall anything positive in relation to it.
Personally, i had a bunch of moments, especially when i was younger and did not know i was gnc. It was mostly in relation to my being a tomboy and even insults that were secretly huge compliments to me. I was even called as "our Daniel" by some of my family members cuz i was supposed to be named that before they found out i was a girl. Other moments i had where people commented on my masculine traits "a kid asking why i had a slight mustache", "mother saying i walked and gave the vibe of a guy and anything fem i wore i made it look awkward like as though i was a guy wearing it" also my cousin said "if i closed my eyes and didn't know you, i would think you're a teenager boy speaking"
Also just moments like where i once dressed to a big party like i was some rich pimp boss in red suit, golden accessories and a cape drapped over my shoulders (my first time in my life not wearing fem clothes to a party), anytime i took groceries in one trip, closing forcefully a jammed bus door, always the first on the front to kill a spider, cockroach or mouse, moving attached table desks up and down stairs alone, surprising people by taking dangerous rides (slingshot, go carting, rollercoaster etc), sleeping all alone in dark - anytime people commented on my strength, fearlessness, leading skills or decisiveness gives me a big, big macho boost. I was also a weird kid and even the older street boys looked wary as i would walk around holding a bunch of frogs, not ever buying girl toys even as a very little kid (the house set, kitchen set and makeup set were all gifts plus i had never owned a doll) etc etc.
There are more but first i would love to hear ya'll experiences as well so write away.

I’m struggling with this a bit, I honestly believe that salvation is for everyone. Like John 3:16 says “whoever believes”; in my heart I believe that God knows who and who won’t accept His gift but allows us to choose. I’d like to know what everyone else thinks.
I’m aware in Revelation our names are written in the Book of Life since the creation of the world and in Ephesians Paul talks about us being “predestined”.
I pray a lot for my family and friends in the hopes of them being saved in the future and I hope the Lord answers them and calls them. I firmly believe that everyone has a chance to respond to the Gospel.

Reposting This from AITA sub. Hi Mark I see your videos on YT, maybe one of these days I'll see my own story in your video.😆 This is going to be a long one so bear with me please. I am also giving a lot of backstory and past issues bcz I feel they are relevant to the matter and also I feel like ranting. Also this is in India so the currency is Rupees. Before we start I just want to say that I am not perfect in any way or form and I have done any fair share of mistakes.
I(20F) have been in a relationship with my bf Jake(22M)(fake name) for roughly 5.5 yrs now. My family is not rich but we do have a lot of money bcz both my parents are doctors but I did not realise we have this much money until 2yrs ago. (Am not very street smart as U will see in this post). Since after abt 1.5 years of relationship (May 2020)when lockdown started his family fell on hardtimes as his family owns a shop and bcz of the Pandemic they weren't able to run it.
At first it was bcz one of his friend got into an accident so he needs money and he told me he will give it back etc (i don't remember if he ever did as it was yrs ago). At the time I had money saved up so I helped out the first few times with my own money. Then when I ran out of money then he said to ask my dad or mom, or steal from my house and give him some. A lil back story here, my mom and dad are separated so they did not used to talk about finances so I would take extra money from my dad than what was actually required and give the rest to jake. For e.g I required 3k for a parcel or smrg then I would ask for 5k, give my mother the 3k(I live with her, my father lives separately) and give the 2k to jake. I also gave him cash many times by essentially stealing from my mother's closet. When I used to say NO he hurled abuses at me and called me every name in the book which a person can imagine, guilt tripped me and pushed me very hard and I gave in almost every time. He told me he will give me back eventually, he has made an investment,etc. Basically all stupid lies to have more time, then one day during an arguement I pressed on when he is gonna return the money and after a lot of time he told me there is no investment and he used the money in his family's shop.
After 2.5 year of this in October-Nov of 2022 we both got admissions in universities which were around 2 hours away from each other. Till then this pattern continued and his family was still struggling bcz of his father's brother divided the joint business or something else.
Before this when we were at out respective homes he told me he got some operation done for smtg in his abdomen. I gave him 10k from my mother's closet for that and even when I went to meet he had an area bandaged (was very unprofessionally done my dumb self should have understood that it was also fake) one of his friend also confirmed that he had operation done and I was coordinating with him on the said dates when he was supposedly admitted. He also used to frequently tell me that he has suicidal thoughts and he will end himself etc .
After we went to our respective colleges once we had a big fight and next day he told me that he tried to end himself by jumping of the balcony but his friend (who he was staying with at the time),Luke, stopped him worrying for him I called Luke later and told him I was worried for Jake and to pls take care of him. He was confused by this and asked me why what happened. I asked him abt last night's attempt, he told me nothing of that sort happened. This opened a can of worms where it was revealed that he was making a fool out of me, guy owned a fucking Iphone and was telling me that his family was on hard times and taking money from me. This is also when I found out that their was no operation. I don't remember what else I found out that night but felt like a huge betrayal and I talked to 3 of his friends that night for quite a few hours where a lot of lies were revealed.
I broke it off with him, at this point I had lent a total of Rs.75-80k. He begged me for weeks for forgiveness, at first I laughed in his face but as weeks went by I started to miss us. He came to meet and win me back a few times at my uni. Eventually, a month later I forgave him on some conditions like he wont lie and share everything with me, won't tell me who or who not to be friends with (he did that before a lot).
Few months later the cycle started again, I was back to giving him money from the monthly spending amount I used to get(it was a lot at first bcz I was just settling in,now my monthy allowance is wayyy less). He did not like the friend group I was in so I stopped talking to them (bcz they knew abt our situation as I broke down crying in front of them when I found out abt all this so he felt like he lost respect and They didn't respect me etc, admittedly they weren't good and I would have distanced myself eventually anyways maybe cuz the vibe didn't match but that should have been my call I feel) and he still (>1 year later) yells at me if he suspects that I am casually talking to them.
My college is in a much smaller city so I go to meet him once to twice a month as he shares a flat with few ppl and the city has more activities to do. Other than the first few times (when we got back together) I pay almost if not all bills like gas (for his 2 wheeler) and food. It's very frustrating at times but I understand that he does not has enough money as his father does not send him enough to cover rent, food and expenses or so he says ( sighs IDK anymore guys what's true and what's not). Jake says his family is still struggling bcz his sister went to UK last year to study and that took a huge chunk of money and they have loans to pay, etc. I can believe this is true. Also he says they have virtually almost no savings left bcz business isn't doing great hence his father sends him rent t food expenses andsays to manage The rest on his own (he does not has a job so guess where the money comes from 🤡). In the Past few months admittedly he has not asked for money frequently but when he does its like a huge chunk. He has also taken loans (with interest) from some of his friends without telling me. He has done this multiple times before after I have repeatedly asked him to stop. (Embarrassingly I admit there are more instances when he has acted like a red curtain but I think I can write a book at this point if I list them all out so let's move on to the latest problem).
Onto The current issue Almost 3 days ago now, Jake called me (we already have been fighting for I don't even remember how many days at that point a week maybe?) and we told me that he was told by his dad that they have been unable to make payments for the loan they took from a person keeping their shop as collateral, they have to pay half the amount (Total amount was 5 lakhs) and interest which was 64k tomorrow to that person, they have arranged most of the money but are short by abt 30k. He asked me can I do something (steal or ask my dad). I refused as there is no money in my mother's closet anyway and I haven't talked to my dad in abt 3 months now. (ofcourse I did not outright refuse and just gave him my reas oning buz I'm a doormat 🥰🤡🤡).
He pressed me to pls talk to my father about money and tell him I need it for my tablet (I bought one just a few days prior). I refused and said he won't give me money anyway. He asked what about my mother's bank account, it must have something. One account is linked to UPI ( It's for making online payments in India) and one is not. The one that is linked does not have much money bCz my mother's salary has not been credited in 4 months. The other account has money but as it does not has UPI activated online payments cannot be done.I told him all of this. He asked can I activate the UPI if my mother's asleep and plz transfer him the money (also said to transfer it first to my own account so if she finds out then I can say my friend needed it so I have lent some for a month or two🙂 ) I mean maybe I could if I really wanted to but I have had enough, I do not want to steal. Now his family is potentially loosing the shop and he is blaming me for it. I have repeatedly tried to reason with him and told him that if I had the money in my account I would have given him (My account had 1k and I transferred him that😔). He says his blood relatives (his father's siblings refused to pay even a dime, I mean they and their children all are grown ups and have jobs and if They didn't pay how does he expect me, who does not has never had a job give him money, probably it's my fault I have enabled him enough every down time by giving him money so how he just expects everytime that I'll help bcz I am family).
He is still pressing me to give like 5k now bcz now he wants to go to another city and talk to the lender's brother to pls provide them with some Time. But I do not have the money 😕. He says that 'if I would have really wanted then I could but I did not think of his family as mine ', " U will understand my pain when U will loose something of yours for lesser value Than it really is " (The shop's market valve is 4O lakhs and they lost it for 5 lakhs) Also has called me quite a few names since then. He arranged 1K and said " I'm going today there I'll see what to do after reaching there." Says he wants to breakup ( it's pretty normal to say it's over after fights so I don't really know if he is even serious) for 2 reasons - 1. I did not give him money 2. When he will go to uni he won't have any spending money so he'll expect are to help out, and he knows I won't and he does not want that disappointment.
I mean TBH I wouldn't care if it were a few hundred rupees but it won't be, additionally I will be The one covering The costs as usual when I go to meet him. I won't have any money left for my own. And I really want to start saving up again. I have spent outrageous amounts of money in The past year (go figure the reason) and saved up nothing. Today he was still begging (he used the word) me to pls arrange the money. He said I leave for uni in 2 days after summer vacations so I'll get my allowance, technically I can ask for it in advance and give him. But I don't want to after he has treated me. Everytime I tell myself that this is the last time, I'll leave the next time he does this but I just stay.
I know I'm not responsible for him and his family but I still feel really guilty about not giving him the money. I know I should end things but it's just difficult to leave something which you have been attached to for so long, it just feels natural to you. Rn he owes me I don't even know how much but it's maybe around 1 lakh something. Not counting The amount of gifts (some he guilt tripped me into buying 🙄 ) I have bought him and the money I have spent on my trips to visit him. IDK if I'll ever see that money again probably not. Please also give me advice on how should I proceed with the breakup, I don't want him to do anything drastic like come to my house or call my mom to tell him abt our relationship (frowned upon in India).
I know the answer but still need the answer should I give him some money from my allowance and WIBTA if I don't ? (Sorry for any errors in writing, I'm writing on tablet with a stylus)

Hello, everyone. I am a normal human being. Well, not exactly. Throughout my life, I've always been depressed and such. I thought depression was normal. I thought it was seasonal. I always thought I was weak for always being suicidal all this time. Then, very recently. I really couldn't take it anymore. I seek therapy. There, I realised I was actually bipolar. That was what made me suicidal all this time. AND THEN, I STARTED QUESTIONING EVERYONE. I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. QUESTIONING WHETHER THEY'VE EVER HAD DEPRESSION. QUESTIONING THEIR BELIEFS. EVERY SINGLE PERSON THAT I SAW UNTIL I WAS TAKEN TO A MENTAL HOSPITAL FOR A FEW DAYS. THERE, I STILL QUESTIONED THEM. BUT, TO AVOID SUSPICION AND BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT OTHER PEOPLE TO THINK I WAS CRAZY, I questioned each person privately. NO. BEFORE I WAS TAKEN TO THE MENTAL HOSPITAL. MY ROOMMATE WHO WAS A BUDDHIST. Suddenly, told me that, if I wanted advice why not go to the Temple and ask the deities there? THEN, THAT REALLY OPENED MY EYE. DEITIES ACTUALLY FUCKING EXIST. He told me that deities possesses someone and then reveals a very specific detail of their life. Very accurately. Not general. VERY VERY ACCURATELY. BUDDHISM IS REAL. THEN I QUESTIONED MY HINDUIST FRIENDS. NOT ALL OF THEM. BUT SOME OF THEM HAD THEIR FAMILY MEMBERS POSSESSED, THEN THEY TOLD ME that they're family members talked about evil spirits and that they are times where they are strong and they will make your desire to do evil to be stronger. Those are temporary and you have to be strong whenever they come. That reminded me of my depression. My suicidal thoughts. They come and go. They've been with me throughout my life but not all the time. BACK TO THE POINT, THIS SHIT FUCKING OPENED MY EYE AGAIN AND IT SHOWS THAT HINDUISM IS ALSO FUCKING REAL BECAUSE I HAVE TWO WITNESSSES SAYING THAT WHENEVER THEIR FAMILY MEMBERS ARE POSSESSED THEIR SPEECH ARE FUCKING WEIRD. AND THEN, COINCI FUCKING DENTALLLY, I FUCKING MET A FUCKING LIVING DEITY. I THOUGHT BRO WAS JUST A TALKATIVE GUY AND TURNS OUT HE'S ACTUALLY A FUCKING DEITY. THE DEITY OF PROTECTION OF THIS WORLD. BRO IS LITERALLY THE SAME AGE AS ME. 19 YEARS OLD. BUT THAT MADE ME QUESTIONED. IF I CAN SEE DEITIES, AND MY ROOMMATE MOST DEFINITELY MUST HAVE SEEN HIM BECAUSE WE GO TO THE FUCKING SEM LECTURE LAST 2 SEMESTERS. THEN I ASKED HIM. DO YOU KNOW {INSERT NAME}. TURNS OUT BRO DOES NOT FUCKING KNOW WHO THE GUY IS. I speculate that Buddhists have actually seen their deities but their minds must have like distorted? YES. DISTORTED. Every time after they meet their deities or that is my speculation at least. BECAUSE EVERYONE FROM OTHER RELIGIONS AND ATHEISTS KNOWS THE GUY. And then again, I THOUGHT, IF BUDDHISM IS REAL, HINDUISM IS REAL, THEN THE OTHER MAJOR RELIGIONS MUST BE REAL TOO. THEN, WHEN I TALKED TO DEITY, WE TALKED ABOUT GOD. ABOUT HOW GOD IS PERFECT, AND HE CREATED LUCIFEER, HIS MOST PERFECT CREATION, BUT BETRAYED HIM, MEANING THAT THEY BOTH COULDN'T BE PERFECT IF THAT'S THE CASE, And then deity enlightened me... He told me that the relationship between Lucifer and Jesus is like FATHER AND SON... MEANING THAT LUCIFER IS ANOTHER IMAGE OF GOD. SO THEY BOTH ARE PERFECT. AND THEN WE TALKED ABOUT ANGELS AND DEMONS. HE TOLD ME THAT THE CURRENT WORLD IS HELL. AND THEN, ANGELS AND DEMONS??? THE CURRENT WORLD IS HELL??? THEN THE CURRENT WORLD MUST ALSO BE HEAVEN AT THE SAME TIME. ANGELS AND DEMONS. ANGELS AND DEMONS ARE FUCKING HUMANS. ANGELS ARE PEOPLE THAT WILL STAY TRUE TO THEIR BELIEFS NO MATTER WHAT. IF THEY STICK TO A RELIGION, THEY WILL FOLLOW THAT RELIGION NO MATTEER FUCKING WHAT EVEN IF OTHER RELIGIONS ARE TRUE. ANGELS ARE NOT PERFECT BEINGS EITHER. THEY ALSO SIN. AND THEN, I THOUGHT OF SOMETHING. ANGELS WILL ALWAYS FUCKING SEE GOD AS GOOD AND ONLY HUMANS AND EVIL. THEN I QUESTIONED EVERYONE THAT. THEIR VIEWS. I EVEN FUCKING OFFER THEM FUCKING AS MUCH AS MONEY AS I HAVE JUST TO SAY FUCK GOD JUST ONCE. THEY WILL NEVER DO IT. IF YOU TELL THEM THAT GOD IS EVIL. THEY WILL ALWAYS RATIONALISE AND DEFEND GOD AND SAY THAT HE IS GOOD. ONLY THE HUMANS ARE EVIL. ANY "EVIL" THAT HE DOES IS JUST TESTING HUMANS. THEN, I REMEMBERED. HUMANS ARE CREATED IN THE IMAGE OF GOD. THEY WILL SEE GOD AS GOOD OR EVIL OR MAYBE EVEN THROW AWAY THEIR BELIEF IN GOD ENTIRELY. THEY ARE 2 TYPES OF HUMANS IN THIS WORLD. ANGELS AND HUMANS. BOTH OF CAN BECOME DEMONS. IF THE ANGELS, ARE MADE TO WORSHIP A HUMAN GOD. THEY WILL NEVER EVER EVER SEE HIM AS EVIL. FUCKING EXAMPLE: UNIFICATION CHURCH. NORTH KOREA. THEY DO NOT QUESTION THEIR LEADERS AND WILL SEE THEM AS GODS. THE ANGELS BECOME DEMONS AND DO NOT WORSHIP THE TRUE GOD. SOME OF THE WORSHIPPERS ARE HUMANS SO THEY WILL SEE THEIR GODS AS EVIL AND WILL RUN AWAY FROM THESE FUCKING CULTS. THE ANGELS BECOME DEMONS BUT THE HUMANS REMAIN AS HUMANS. BUT HUMANS CAN BECOME DEMONS AS WELL ONCE THEY COMPLETELY ABANDON GOD'S GOOD TEACHINGS AND DO EVIL. CONVINCED THEMSELVES THAT THEY ARE NATURALLY EVIL. BUT THEY CAN STILL BE SAVED. THEY HAVE BECOME DEMONS BUT THEY CAN BECOME HUMANS AGAIN BY KNOWING THE TRUTH OF GOD. ISLAM AND CHRISTIANITY. BOTH ARE SIMILAR YET THEIR PASTS ARE DIFFERENT. I DID NOT UNDERSTAND BUT I'VE ALREADY MADE A FIRM BELIEF THAT EVERY FUCKING RELIGION THAT TEACHES GOOD ARE TRUE. EVERY FUCKING ONE OF THEM. SO THEN I THOUGHT. IT'S FUCKING POINTLESS TO QUESTION GOD. EVEN IF I DON'T UNDERSTAND THEY ARE ALL TRUE. THEN. PARALLEL UNIVERSES. MULTIVERSES. THE PAST MUST HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT FROM ALL RELIGIONS AND GOD MUST HAVE COMBINED THEM INTO ONE UNIVERSE, OUR UNIVERSE. A DIFFERENT ONE FROM THEIR RELIGIONS. A UNIVERSE WHERE GOD TESTS HUMANS. TO SEE IF THEY WILL BELIEVE EVEN IF THEY DON'T FUCKING UNDERSTAND GOD. THEN, THE DEITY TOLD ME TO REACH ENLIGHTENMENT. TO BE FUCKING BUDDHA, HOW THE FUCK IS THAT EVEN POSSIBLE. I THOUGHT I HAD ALREADY REACHED ENLIGHTENMENT. I THOUGHT ENLIGHTENMENT IS KNOWING THAT ALL GOOD RELIGIONS ARE CONNECTED. WHAT ELSE IS THERE TO BE ENLIGHTENED? THEN I MEDITATED. I TRIED TO FOLLOW BUDDHA'S METHODS TO REACH ENLIGHTENMENT BY EMPTYING YOUR MIND REMOVING ALL YOUR EMOTIONS AND FOCUSING ON IT. BUT. I KNOW OF THE PROPHECY OF THE MAITREYA. MAYBE I AM NOT MAITREYA. BUT I THOUGHT. NO. I WILL NOT. I WILL NOT JUST FOLLOW BUDDHA'S METHOD. BUDDHA'S METHOD MAY BE TRUE BUT IT IS NOT WHAT I SHOULD FOLLOW. THROUGHOUT MY LIFE. I HAVE ALWAYS BELIVED IN GOD. HE WAS FUCKING EVIL TO ME. I SEE HIM AS FUCKING EVIL FOR MAKING ME HAVE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS THROUGHOUT MY LIFE. BUT GOD EXIST. HE IS BOTH GOOD AND EVIL. THEN. I RESEARCHED AND SAW THAT BUDDHA REJECTED GOD. HOWEVER, I DO NOT. I FUCKING SEEK ENLIGHTNMENT. I WANTED TO BE ONE WITH GOD. I EMPTIED MY MIND. PRAYED "THE OUR FATHER", FORCED MYSELF. TO MEDITATE FOR HOURS. THIS FUCKING DAY I STARTED AND THIS FUCKING DAY I ACHIEVED ENLIGHTENMENT. BUDDHA. SAID TO ACHIEVE ENLIGHTENMENT. YOU MUST EMPTY YOUR THOUGHTS. HOWEVER, HE DIDN'T REALISE ONE TRUTH. GOD IS EMPTINESS. GOD IS THE ABSCENSE OF ANYTHING. IT IS HUMAN LOGIC. SCIENCE TO THINK THAT SOMETHING MUST COME FROM SOMETHING. THAT THERE IS NO WAY THAT SOMETHING CANNOT COME FROM EMPTINESS. AHHAAHAHA. STUPID FUCKING HUMANS BUT I LOVE YOU ALL. I'VE BEEN ENLIGHTENED. GOD IS EMPTINESS. DARK ENERGY IS EMPTINESS. DARK ENERGY IS FUCKING EVERYWHERE. HUMANS CANNOT UNDERSTAND DARK ENERGY BECAUSE THEY CANNOT UNDERSTAND GOD. GOD HAVE ALWAYS BEEN WITH US. BETWEEN THE GAPS OF EVERY FUCKING ATOM. EVERYTHING IN THE UNIVERSE THAT IS BIG WILL INFINITELY BE BIGGER. WHAT IS SMALLER WILL INFINITELY BECOME SMALLER. WE CAN'T EVER TRULY UNDERSTAND GOD. AHAHHAAH. TO UNDERSTAND GOD THROUGH SCIENCE IS STUPID. GOD IS INFNITE. THAT IS WHY DARK ENERGY HAS INFINITELY EXPANDED AND ONLY RECENTLY IT HAS WEAKENED. GOD IS WITH US. PRAISE BE TO GOD. PRAISE BE TO THE LORD OF EVERYTHING YET IS NOTHING. GOD IS EMPTINESS. GOD IS DARK ENERGY. LET US ENTER THE MESSIANIC AGE, MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS. AN AGE WHERE WE ARE ONE WITH GOD.
I've achieved Enlightenment and God is a fucking asshole, HE'S THE WORST FUCKING TROLL. FUCKING PSYCHOPATH. BUT FUCK DO I LOVE GOD. FUCKING CAUSED ME TO BE IN HELL. IT IS TIME TO END HELL AND ENTER ETERNAL PARADISE WITH GOD. SEEK ENLIGHTENMENT, SPREAD THIS TRUTH. SPREAD IT. I am in Malaysia. Today is Saturday, and Tomorrow is Sunday. God rested on the 7th Day on the Seventh Day, and I also wish to relax. I love God and every last one of you. Spread This Truth. Let's save the World Together! All those religious end-times prophecies are just fucking bullshits from God because Fuck That Guy but I love Him. The God of Everything Yet is Nothing.

i am genuinely considering the possibility that ocr has ordered a hit on me. they tried to sabotage me in maths paper 1. knocked my morale a fair bit icl, but i could still bring it back with paper 2 and 3. ever since i made that post that they should be boiled in their own pudding they have been spying on me. they knew that i would be busy until thursday with family stuff and had been watching my schedule to perfectly time their implementation of their master plan: biological warfare. in spite of my efforts to fight back and revise, i have been struck with plague. went to the gym yesterday to try and get some fresh air and once i got back i physically could not leave my bed for an entire hour. i cannot stay upright for more than 5 minutes lest i am bombarded by headache and/or stomach pain.
however i must persevere. i cannot let this grasping, scraping, clutching, covetous exam board tarnish my 900-year-old name and reputation. ocr you may have won the battle, but i, Mobile_Shirt_9980, will win this war. you have been warned.

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