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2024.06.01 12:31 jj1709 What should i do?
What should i do?
Hey im 16m
and 2.5 years ago I met a girl through snapchat we were just talking for 1 year and then she wanted to meet me I liked her quite a bit so I agreed we met in my city because she was here that weekend and the moment I saw her I was in love we talked all day and a week later she said she was in love too but I wanted to ask her when I saw her in real life again so that stopped us from being in a relationship then I didn't see her for 2 months and we called and talked a lot and one day she said that her mother wanted to meet me I was jumping for joy and didn't know what to say because I was so happy 1 week later I met her family.
it was a great day and everything went well i had bought flowers for her and her mother just before i left we went for a walk and i thought that was my chance to ask her but i didn't dare every time
every time I wanted to say something no sound came out and I became shy then we went back inside and shortly afterwards I went home we kept talking a lot and doing a lot of things together and everything went well a few months later we still hadn't seen each other because we didn't have enough time I missed her a lot but I didn't dare to say that 1 month later was Valentine's Day and I had a I got her a bear of roses that unfortunately I couldn't give to her myself because she had problems so we couldn't meet up, so I sent it to her house, which honestly hurt a lot because I wanted to give it myself and ask her right away for a relationship A few days later she had given me bear and we were talking until I got a lump in my throat and suddenly started missing her very much. I actually never miss people but with her I felt different and I thought maybe I should just say something. I feel and I did I said that I loved her and that I never want to lose her again and even though people say that young people always break up, we stay together and we will make it. I saw that she was in our chat for a while and then she called me and i heard she was crying she said that I was very sweet and that she will never forget that
everything went well until 2 months later I had arranged to meet her twice and she had ghosted me twice, the last time I was very angry because I went to her city and waited 2 hours for her we were not talking until I said I didn't want to talk for a while because I was too angry
after 2 days of not talking I said I was sorry for what I said and that I wanted to talk it out she said she would call me when she had time but after 2 days I still hadn't heard from her so I asked if everything was okay and then she said that she has thought about it and that she doesn't want a relationship right now because she now has to focus on herself, school and her family, which I completely understood, we both had our own problems, that's what brought us together in the first place we just forgot what happened and started talking normally again after that we and we met up one more time or we shouldve met up because she ghosted me again this time one of her problems got in her way and she couldn’t contact me
But i didnt know so i got angry and said if she is gonna do this everytime i dont want to keep going
she explained what happened and then one of my problems came to my mind, which made me react even angrier to everyone, she didn't know and thought I was angry, and thought I was angry which made our argument even worse the next day our argument continued and after that we stopped talking for 1 day then she said she has thought about it and thinks it would be better if we with “us” She said she had no interest anymore after that moment i realized what had happened and i started chasing her for 1 week but it was already too late 4 days after we stopped talking i tried again and i told her how i felt and sent her a message about us for a long time in the hope that it would help She called me again crying and said that i was nice and she really loves me but she doesnt know how we should keep going she said she will come back on it
After couple of days she said “maybe its better if we really stop “ and its hurts me when she said that that day we talked a bit and i felt nothing for her anymore One day later i mist her so much i wanted to go back in time and re-do everything but in an good way 2 weeks after that mist her so much i contacted her and she said “you need to forget me otherwise your gonna hurt yourself” after that i said “okay sorry for bothering you” and that was 1,5 months ago
I really mis her and i think about her everyday even if i dont want to thinking back we had it so perfect with each other and i just want to restart with her And i want to contact het again but she probably gonna me annoyed or smt and she wanted no contact because is will hurt her to so i respect her her choice My best friend said that i need to forget everything because she probably already did
But idk went its late in the day i miss her Im football player and got scouted for a great team And she always believed in me and when i get news from my new team i wanna tell her because i always told her and my mom first but now it just makes me sad
So should i contact her again and say that i miss her and probably annoy her or What should i do?
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Hey im 16m
and 2.5 years ago I met a girl through snapchat we were just talking for 1 year and then she wanted to meet me I liked her quite a bit so I agreed we met in my city because she was here that weekend and the moment I saw her I was in love we talked all day and a week later she said she was in love too but I wanted to ask her when I saw her in real life again so that stopped us from being in a relationship then I didn't see her for 2 months and we called and talked a lot and one day she said that her mother wanted to meet me I was jumping for joy and didn't know what to say because I was so happy 1 week later I met her family.
it was a great day and everything went well i had bought flowers for her and her mother just before i left we went for a walk and i thought that was my chance to ask her but i didn't dare every time
every time I wanted to say something no sound came out and I became shy then we went back inside and shortly afterwards I went home we kept talking a lot and doing a lot of things together and everything went well a few months later we still hadn't seen each other because we didn't have enough time I missed her a lot but I didn't dare to say that 1 month later was Valentine's Day and I had a I got her a bear of roses that unfortunately I couldn't give to her myself because she had problems so we couldn't meet up, so I sent it to her house, which honestly hurt a lot because I wanted to give it myself and ask her right away for a relationship A few days later she had given me bear and we were talking until I got a lump in my throat and suddenly started missing her very much. I actually never miss people but with her I felt different and I thought maybe I should just say something. I feel and I did I said that I loved her and that I never want to lose her again and even though people say that young people always break up, we stay together and we will make it. I saw that she was in our chat for a while and then she called me and i heard she was crying she said that I was very sweet and that she will never forget that
everything went well until 2 months later I had arranged to meet her twice and she had ghosted me twice, the last time I was very angry because I went to her city and waited 2 hours for her we were not talking until I said I didn't want to talk for a while because I was too angry
after 2 days of not talking I said I was sorry for what I said and that I wanted to talk it out she said she would call me when she had time but after 2 days I still hadn't heard from her so I asked if everything was okay and then she said that she has thought about it and that she doesn't want a relationship right now because she now has to focus on herself, school and her family, which I completely understood, we both had our own problems, that's what brought us together in the first place we just forgot what happened and started talking normally again after that we and we met up one more time or we shouldve met up because she ghosted me again this time one of her problems got in her way and she couldn’t contact me
But i didnt know so i got angry and said if she is gonna do this everytime i dont want to keep going
she explained what happened and then one of my problems came to my mind, which made me react even angrier to everyone, she didn't know and thought I was angry, and thought I was angry which made our argument even worse the next day our argument continued and after that we stopped talking for 1 day then she said she has thought about it and thinks it would be better if we with “us” She said she had no interest anymore after that moment i realized what had happened and i started chasing her for 1 week but it was already too late 4 days after we stopped talking i tried again and i told her how i felt and sent her a message about us for a long time in the hope that it would help She called me again crying and said that i was nice and she really loves me but she doesnt know how we should keep going she said she will come back on it
After couple of days she said “maybe its better if we really stop “ and its hurts me when she said that that day we talked a bit and i felt nothing for her anymore One day later i mist her so much i wanted to go back in time and re-do everything but in an good way 2 weeks after that mist her so much i contacted her and she said “you need to forget me otherwise your gonna hurt yourself” after that i said “okay sorry for bothering you” and that was 1,5 months ago
I really mis her and i think about her everyday even if i dont want to thinking back we had it so perfect with each other and i just want to restart with her And i want to contact het again but she probably gonna me annoyed or smt and she wanted no contact because is will hurt her to so i respect her her choice My best friend said that i need to forget everything because she probably already did
But idk went its late in the day i miss her Im football player and got scouted for a great team And she always believed in me and when i get news from my new team i wanna tell her because i always told her and my mom first but now it just makes me sad
So should i contact her again and say that i miss her and probably annoy her or What should i do?
2024.06.01 12:30 Silent_Doughnut_1864 The last moment together with a life long crush didn't end well. I just wanted to tell her how I feel, maybe she will see and read this.
She probably will never see this, then again I could be wrong. I kind of hope she does so I can say some of what I wanted to say, but instead we ended up arguing over things that are really not important and I wish I could take it all back.
In High School it started and I never told anyone, not even my best friend. You were the one, the girl who was in a relationship, the crush I always wanted, the one I wanted to marry and spend my life with, to treat with the most genuine respect and to love and cherish. The problem was you were taken and I respected that line, most people don't. Yet life just kept moving forward. I come to find years later that your life has been filled with trauma, neglect, abuse, filled with drama and hate, being used and taken advantage of. The things I would never let happen to you or do to you were happening or had happened, and it breaks my heart to see you so different than the one I knew all those years ago. But deep in there it's still you and I hope that I may one day bring you back to happiness and to keep a smile on your face and to show you how much you are loved.
After 20 years we found each other living together albeit briefly after some difficult and unexpected times. I tried to tell you how I felt, you didn't want to hear it. And then we did something together I never thought would ever happen, and it was something I had hoped would happen for so long. I will always remember it and think about it everyday, how incredible it was and how it still could be. Even the first time our lips locked I was in complete ecstacy, the way you kissed me was something passionate and real, not just another kiss. You really are amazing and so beautiful and I wish we could continue to become something more. Something beautiful. Something forever.
I didn't want to leave you but I couldn't stand being thought of as just someone else there to use you. I would never hurt you. I tried to find the words, but you shut me down, you distanced yourself from me, that hurt. I know things are tough and I was willing to do everything I could to help.
Maybe I sound like I am rambling now but just know this. I am sorry for how I left, for leaving you alone, for everything wrong that I may have done. I just want you in my life, by my side. Maybe one day that will happen but it is something you need to figure out. I will continue to wait for you. If you will have me, come to me. You'll be safe and respected, loved and appreciated. For now, I am setting off on the hunt for more money, to give myself a fresh start and that also includes you, as I told you during our time together. My hand and heart will be waiting for you to take.
Find me. Message me. Email me. Call me. Anything. I want to make you happy for the rest of our lives.
I'm sorry J. I miss you. I want you with me. I want to hold you, hold your hand, to love you, to kiss you, to be the one you deserve. Hopefully we will find each other again. For now, just know im there thinking about you, waiting and going to do everything I possibly can.
Me
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In High School it started and I never told anyone, not even my best friend. You were the one, the girl who was in a relationship, the crush I always wanted, the one I wanted to marry and spend my life with, to treat with the most genuine respect and to love and cherish. The problem was you were taken and I respected that line, most people don't. Yet life just kept moving forward. I come to find years later that your life has been filled with trauma, neglect, abuse, filled with drama and hate, being used and taken advantage of. The things I would never let happen to you or do to you were happening or had happened, and it breaks my heart to see you so different than the one I knew all those years ago. But deep in there it's still you and I hope that I may one day bring you back to happiness and to keep a smile on your face and to show you how much you are loved.
After 20 years we found each other living together albeit briefly after some difficult and unexpected times. I tried to tell you how I felt, you didn't want to hear it. And then we did something together I never thought would ever happen, and it was something I had hoped would happen for so long. I will always remember it and think about it everyday, how incredible it was and how it still could be. Even the first time our lips locked I was in complete ecstacy, the way you kissed me was something passionate and real, not just another kiss. You really are amazing and so beautiful and I wish we could continue to become something more. Something beautiful. Something forever.
I didn't want to leave you but I couldn't stand being thought of as just someone else there to use you. I would never hurt you. I tried to find the words, but you shut me down, you distanced yourself from me, that hurt. I know things are tough and I was willing to do everything I could to help.
Maybe I sound like I am rambling now but just know this. I am sorry for how I left, for leaving you alone, for everything wrong that I may have done. I just want you in my life, by my side. Maybe one day that will happen but it is something you need to figure out. I will continue to wait for you. If you will have me, come to me. You'll be safe and respected, loved and appreciated. For now, I am setting off on the hunt for more money, to give myself a fresh start and that also includes you, as I told you during our time together. My hand and heart will be waiting for you to take.
Find me. Message me. Email me. Call me. Anything. I want to make you happy for the rest of our lives.
I'm sorry J. I miss you. I want you with me. I want to hold you, hold your hand, to love you, to kiss you, to be the one you deserve. Hopefully we will find each other again. For now, just know im there thinking about you, waiting and going to do everything I possibly can.
Me
2024.06.01 12:28 jj1709 What should i do?
Hey im 16m
and 2.5 years ago I met a girl through snapchat we were just talking for 1 year and then she wanted to meet me I liked her quite a bit so I agreed we met in my city because she was here that weekend and the moment I saw her I was in love we talked all day and a week later she said she was in love too but I wanted to ask her when I saw her in real life again so that stopped us from being in a relationship then I didn't see her for 2 months and we called and talked a lot and one day she said that her mother wanted to meet me I was jumping for joy and didn't know what to say because I was so happy 1 week later I met her family.
it was a great day and everything went well i had bought flowers for her and her mother just before i left we went for a walk and i thought that was my chance to ask her but i didn't dare every time
every time I wanted to say something no sound came out and I became shy then we went back inside and shortly afterwards I went home we kept talking a lot and doing a lot of things together and everything went well a few months later we still hadn't seen each other because we didn't have enough time I missed her a lot but I didn't dare to say that 1 month later was Valentine's Day and I had a I got her a bear of roses that unfortunately I couldn't give to her myself because she had problems so we couldn't meet up, so I sent it to her house, which honestly hurt a lot because I wanted to give it myself and ask her right away for a relationship A few days later she had given me bear and we were talking until I got a lump in my throat and suddenly started missing her very much. I actually never miss people but with her I felt different and I thought maybe I should just say something. I feel and I did I said that I loved her and that I never want to lose her again and even though people say that young people always break up, we stay together and we will make it. I saw that she was in our chat for a while and then she called me and i heard she was crying she said that I was very sweet and that she will never forget that
everything went well until 2 months later I had arranged to meet her twice and she had ghosted me twice, the last time I was very angry because I went to her city and waited 2 hours for her we were not talking until I said I didn't want to talk for a while because I was too angry
after 2 days of not talking I said I was sorry for what I said and that I wanted to talk it out she said she would call me when she had time but after 2 days I still hadn't heard from her so I asked if everything was okay and then she said that she has thought about it and that she doesn't want a relationship right now because she now has to focus on herself, school and her family, which I completely understood, we both had our own problems, that's what brought us together in the first place we just forgot what happened and started talking normally again after that we and we met up one more time or we shouldve met up because she ghosted me again this time one of her problems got in her way and she couldn’t contact me
But i didnt know so i got angry and said if she is gonna do this everytime i dont want to keep going
she explained what happened and then one of my problems came to my mind, which made me react even angrier to everyone, she didn't know and thought I was angry, and thought I was angry which made our argument even worse the next day our argument continued and after that we stopped talking for 1 day then she said she has thought about it and thinks it would be better if we with “us” She said she had no interest anymore after that moment i realized what had happened and i started chasing her for 1 week but it was already too late 4 days after we stopped talking i tried again and i told her how i felt and sent her a message about us for a long time in the hope that it would help She called me again crying and said that i was nice and she really loves me but she doesnt know how we should keep going she said she will come back on it
After couple of days she said “maybe its better if we really stop “ and its hurts me when she said that that day we talked a bit and i felt nothing for her anymore One day later i mist her so much i wanted to go back in time and re-do everything but in an good way 2 weeks after that mist her so much i contacted her and she said “you need to forget me otherwise your gonna hurt yourself” after that i said “okay sorry for bothering you” and that was 1,5 months ago
I really mis her and i think about her everyday even if i dont want to thinking back we had it so perfect with each other and i just want to restart with her And i want to contact het again but she probably gonna me annoyed or smt and she wanted no contact because is will hurt her to so i respect her her choice My best friend said that i need to forget everything because she probably already did
But idk went its late in the day i miss her Im football player and got scouted for a great team And she always believed in me and when i get news from my new team i wanna tell her because i always told her and my mom first but now it just makes me sad
So should i contact her again and say that i miss her and probably annoy her or What should i do?
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and 2.5 years ago I met a girl through snapchat we were just talking for 1 year and then she wanted to meet me I liked her quite a bit so I agreed we met in my city because she was here that weekend and the moment I saw her I was in love we talked all day and a week later she said she was in love too but I wanted to ask her when I saw her in real life again so that stopped us from being in a relationship then I didn't see her for 2 months and we called and talked a lot and one day she said that her mother wanted to meet me I was jumping for joy and didn't know what to say because I was so happy 1 week later I met her family.
it was a great day and everything went well i had bought flowers for her and her mother just before i left we went for a walk and i thought that was my chance to ask her but i didn't dare every time
every time I wanted to say something no sound came out and I became shy then we went back inside and shortly afterwards I went home we kept talking a lot and doing a lot of things together and everything went well a few months later we still hadn't seen each other because we didn't have enough time I missed her a lot but I didn't dare to say that 1 month later was Valentine's Day and I had a I got her a bear of roses that unfortunately I couldn't give to her myself because she had problems so we couldn't meet up, so I sent it to her house, which honestly hurt a lot because I wanted to give it myself and ask her right away for a relationship A few days later she had given me bear and we were talking until I got a lump in my throat and suddenly started missing her very much. I actually never miss people but with her I felt different and I thought maybe I should just say something. I feel and I did I said that I loved her and that I never want to lose her again and even though people say that young people always break up, we stay together and we will make it. I saw that she was in our chat for a while and then she called me and i heard she was crying she said that I was very sweet and that she will never forget that
everything went well until 2 months later I had arranged to meet her twice and she had ghosted me twice, the last time I was very angry because I went to her city and waited 2 hours for her we were not talking until I said I didn't want to talk for a while because I was too angry
after 2 days of not talking I said I was sorry for what I said and that I wanted to talk it out she said she would call me when she had time but after 2 days I still hadn't heard from her so I asked if everything was okay and then she said that she has thought about it and that she doesn't want a relationship right now because she now has to focus on herself, school and her family, which I completely understood, we both had our own problems, that's what brought us together in the first place we just forgot what happened and started talking normally again after that we and we met up one more time or we shouldve met up because she ghosted me again this time one of her problems got in her way and she couldn’t contact me
But i didnt know so i got angry and said if she is gonna do this everytime i dont want to keep going
she explained what happened and then one of my problems came to my mind, which made me react even angrier to everyone, she didn't know and thought I was angry, and thought I was angry which made our argument even worse the next day our argument continued and after that we stopped talking for 1 day then she said she has thought about it and thinks it would be better if we with “us” She said she had no interest anymore after that moment i realized what had happened and i started chasing her for 1 week but it was already too late 4 days after we stopped talking i tried again and i told her how i felt and sent her a message about us for a long time in the hope that it would help She called me again crying and said that i was nice and she really loves me but she doesnt know how we should keep going she said she will come back on it
After couple of days she said “maybe its better if we really stop “ and its hurts me when she said that that day we talked a bit and i felt nothing for her anymore One day later i mist her so much i wanted to go back in time and re-do everything but in an good way 2 weeks after that mist her so much i contacted her and she said “you need to forget me otherwise your gonna hurt yourself” after that i said “okay sorry for bothering you” and that was 1,5 months ago
I really mis her and i think about her everyday even if i dont want to thinking back we had it so perfect with each other and i just want to restart with her And i want to contact het again but she probably gonna me annoyed or smt and she wanted no contact because is will hurt her to so i respect her her choice My best friend said that i need to forget everything because she probably already did
But idk went its late in the day i miss her Im football player and got scouted for a great team And she always believed in me and when i get news from my new team i wanna tell her because i always told her and my mom first but now it just makes me sad
So should i contact her again and say that i miss her and probably annoy her or What should i do?
2024.06.01 12:28 SubtleSerenity Oregon Paid Medical Leave Questions
Not sure if this is the right sub to ask this so apologies.
On 5/30/24 I had to call off work for some gnarly stomach pain. I ended up going to the emergency room where I was told I had appendicitis and would need to have it removed. Surgery went fine and I’m back home recovering, but my doctor gave me a note to give to my employer saying the recovery time could be 10-14 days.
I’m not worried about losing my job as I work for a pretty good local company, but I’m still an hourly worker with bills. Potentially missing all of a pay period is quite concerning to me. I know Oregon has something called Paid Leave Oregon. Looking over the medical leave part of the website it would seem I’m eligible, but I’ve never engaged with a benefit system like this so I’m not 100% sure. Unfortunately their offices are closed till Tuesday otherwise I’d call and have them explain the process to me.
I guess my question(s) are if I’d be eligible or if you can point me to a resource that can better explain things.
Thank you for your time
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On 5/30/24 I had to call off work for some gnarly stomach pain. I ended up going to the emergency room where I was told I had appendicitis and would need to have it removed. Surgery went fine and I’m back home recovering, but my doctor gave me a note to give to my employer saying the recovery time could be 10-14 days.
I’m not worried about losing my job as I work for a pretty good local company, but I’m still an hourly worker with bills. Potentially missing all of a pay period is quite concerning to me. I know Oregon has something called Paid Leave Oregon. Looking over the medical leave part of the website it would seem I’m eligible, but I’ve never engaged with a benefit system like this so I’m not 100% sure. Unfortunately their offices are closed till Tuesday otherwise I’d call and have them explain the process to me.
I guess my question(s) are if I’d be eligible or if you can point me to a resource that can better explain things.
Thank you for your time
2024.06.01 12:28 WiredPeanut Hello Galaxy Tab S9, farewell Apple
 | Galaxy Tab S9 with the GlideX app mirroring my ASUS Zenbook screen submitted by WiredPeanut to GalaxyTab [link] [comments] This post ended up being a lot longer that I intended (it's a product of procrastination from completing a course assignment!) I'll start by saying that Apple make great products and if their ecosystem works for you then it's a great thing to be part of. At one point in time I was an iPhone, iPad and MacBook user but, as of this week, I no longer own an Apple device (well, except for an Apple TV 4K...) I became frustrated by the iPhone and its limitations, and with Android offering better customisation and more choice, I switched to a Google Pixel 2 in 2017 (I'm now using a S24 Ultra). For the most part, this worked out fine. I didn't have the tight integration with my other Apple devices, but this really didn't impact my experience as a user, and I found alternative services to sync data between devices from Google, Microsoft, and others. Earlier this year, it was time to replace my laptop and as much as I still enjoyed using my MacBook, I was keen to look at the competition. I frequently used Windows 11 on my MacBook using Parallels software so was quite comfortable about switching to Windows. I did look at Samsung's laptops but these were over my budget so I bought a 15-inch ASUS Zenbook instead which I'm very impressed with. I continued to use my iPad but was increasingly feeling that I wanted to be able to do more with my tablet (and once I get an idea in my head, it's difficult to put it to rest!) I started to look at what Android tablets were available, and watched numerous reviews. A lot of these reviews lauded the iPad as being the best tablet out there with Android tablets not coming close in terms of their performance and usability so I wasn’t convinced that it was worth switching. YouTube and their algorithms offered up various videos on the matter and I watched reviews about Samsung's tablets which piqued my interest. After all, my last few phones have all been Samsung Galaxy devices - I like their design, features and One UI. Most reviews were positive about Samsung's tablet lineup so I initally considered purchasing the Tab S9 FE but after some research decided I would be happier with the Tab S9. It was proving to be an expensive purchase which I couldn't really justify so I shelved the idea. But, as I said, it's difficult for me to shake off a plan so a couple of weeks later I found myself browsing eBay to see what was available within my budget. Much to my delight I found a listing for a new, unopened Galaxy Tab S9 at a very good price and this arrived a few days ago. I'm very happy with it. It's fast and can do a whole lot more than my iPad Air could. There are a couple of apps that I miss not having and which aren't available on Android (Apple TV, and an app called TV Launcher which integrates apps for TV channels into the one launcher) but I'm sure I'll adapt. Overall, most apps I need and use are available on the Tab S9. In fact, the way Android displays these apps in their tablet form is actually really impressive and far better than on iPad in my opinion. Hopefully the Tab S9 will have the same longevity and reliability that I had with my iPad. |
2024.06.01 12:28 InLawsWantMeGone My (32M) sister in law and her husband told my partner (30F) to consider breaking off our 10 year relationship. We have a meeting later today to discuss this drama. How can I navigate this uncomfortable conversation?
tldr; while my partner was visiting her sister last weekend, my sister in-law and her husband told her to break up with me. Now I don't trust them. We have a meeting today to discuss how to move forward. Help!
Background:
My (32M) partner (30F) and I met in 2011 at university. We kissed for the first time, and started a relationship in 2012. It was beautiful, so so beautiful. We were two inseparable love birds. The amazing memories from those years will last me a lifetime. In 2015 we started facing challenges in our communication. We failed to resolve them and ultimately broke up/reconciled twice between 2015 and 2018.
During the breakup we tried to live our lives, forget each other, meet other people. She even moved to another country and had a great time there. We had minimal communication while broken up: sharing only major milestones like graduation, or the random message when she got a tattoo etc. Eventually she moved back to the same country. We started talking again and agreed that we would fight to make our relationship work. We worked out our issues. Since 2018, we've been learning and growing together. We've had arguments, especially when adjusting to living together. Things are still not PERFECT but I was convinced they are good, until last weekend.....
The issue:
My GF visited her sister (35F), the husband and their 2 daughters. When she came back, she wasn't in a good mood. She started picking a fight with me about dishes, laundry and other small things. I was shocked. We didn't see each other for a weekend, and this is the hello I got. I had actually done 3 loads of laundry that weekend. I cleaned her lunch boxes and pots from the previous week that had started developing mould. The fight was very unreasonable. Ultimately she told me that she was doubting/confused about our relationship. I'm thinking: WTF!!
It's not the first time we fight after she talks to her sister. So I dug and she eventually told me that in laws wanted her to reflect on breaking up with me. It went far. They offered her a place to stay if she would need a few months to process the breakup. I became more confused the more details I learned. At family events they are always friendly. When I got the impression that they don't like me, my partner assured me that they all thought I'm a great guy. Well, it's now clear that although I'm a great guy, just not the right guy for their "little sister." I've known this woman much longer than the sister has known her husband. The arguments they made are along the lines of: I'm holding her back from her dreams, I have no direction in life, cultural differences. A suggestion was made (not sure if by my GF or them) that I may be manipulating her. As a result, I find it hard to discuss with her now because, will she just say I'm manipulating her when I share my views? According to my gf, they reiterated that I'm a nice person, just not the person for her. Part of it could be financial. I'm not close to f.e. having enough savings to purchase a house (which I know is her dream, it's mine too, I'm just not there yet).
Anyway, we're meeting later today, all four of us. I don't trust them anymore. I don't feel comfortable with my partner visiting them. I don't want to visit them either. I don't think I even want to talk to them at family events anymore. I feel angry, disgusted, humiliated, and stabbed in the back. I have so many questions. Who else did they talk to? Other siblings, the parents? How long have they been thinking this? Is my girlfriend telling me the full truth or is she protecting her family by withholding certain information? (she's done this in the past) It's a mess.
Some other context:
The truth is, if I could, I would never talk to them again, I miss nothing in my life by avoiding them. But how do I ensure that i don't push my GF from her family and create more resentment either towards me or the sister?
If you read this far, I appreciate it, and happy to hear your thoughts!
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Background:
My (32M) partner (30F) and I met in 2011 at university. We kissed for the first time, and started a relationship in 2012. It was beautiful, so so beautiful. We were two inseparable love birds. The amazing memories from those years will last me a lifetime. In 2015 we started facing challenges in our communication. We failed to resolve them and ultimately broke up/reconciled twice between 2015 and 2018.
During the breakup we tried to live our lives, forget each other, meet other people. She even moved to another country and had a great time there. We had minimal communication while broken up: sharing only major milestones like graduation, or the random message when she got a tattoo etc. Eventually she moved back to the same country. We started talking again and agreed that we would fight to make our relationship work. We worked out our issues. Since 2018, we've been learning and growing together. We've had arguments, especially when adjusting to living together. Things are still not PERFECT but I was convinced they are good, until last weekend.....
The issue:
My GF visited her sister (35F), the husband and their 2 daughters. When she came back, she wasn't in a good mood. She started picking a fight with me about dishes, laundry and other small things. I was shocked. We didn't see each other for a weekend, and this is the hello I got. I had actually done 3 loads of laundry that weekend. I cleaned her lunch boxes and pots from the previous week that had started developing mould. The fight was very unreasonable. Ultimately she told me that she was doubting/confused about our relationship. I'm thinking: WTF!!
It's not the first time we fight after she talks to her sister. So I dug and she eventually told me that in laws wanted her to reflect on breaking up with me. It went far. They offered her a place to stay if she would need a few months to process the breakup. I became more confused the more details I learned. At family events they are always friendly. When I got the impression that they don't like me, my partner assured me that they all thought I'm a great guy. Well, it's now clear that although I'm a great guy, just not the right guy for their "little sister." I've known this woman much longer than the sister has known her husband. The arguments they made are along the lines of: I'm holding her back from her dreams, I have no direction in life, cultural differences. A suggestion was made (not sure if by my GF or them) that I may be manipulating her. As a result, I find it hard to discuss with her now because, will she just say I'm manipulating her when I share my views? According to my gf, they reiterated that I'm a nice person, just not the person for her. Part of it could be financial. I'm not close to f.e. having enough savings to purchase a house (which I know is her dream, it's mine too, I'm just not there yet).
Anyway, we're meeting later today, all four of us. I don't trust them anymore. I don't feel comfortable with my partner visiting them. I don't want to visit them either. I don't think I even want to talk to them at family events anymore. I feel angry, disgusted, humiliated, and stabbed in the back. I have so many questions. Who else did they talk to? Other siblings, the parents? How long have they been thinking this? Is my girlfriend telling me the full truth or is she protecting her family by withholding certain information? (she's done this in the past) It's a mess.
Some other context:
- My partner has been feeling low energy for a while and recently shared with her sister that she sometimes has suicidal thoughts.
- My partner and all her family are white, EU. I am black, non-EU.
- Their native language is my FIFTH language. I speak relatively well, although I am uncomfortable in a family context with fast-paced group conversations. I am usually quiet during family gatherings unless I have a 1-1 conversation.
- I am currently not working, I'm receiving unemployment benefits which isn't much money but enough to cover my basic expenses. GF is doing quite well financially.
- I'm not actively looking for a job but rather completing a 7 month, full-time data science bootcamp, accredited by government, working on real use cases with real companies, career coaching etc so I'm confident in securing a job in the coming months when the training is complete.
- GFs sister recently had kids and has shared her desire for GF to start having kids too so their kids can grow up together (I want to wait with kids until I secure a job after my training and have a better financial circumstances)
- When we got back together after 2018, we decided to move in together and I applied for a family reunion through my gf (better possibilities for me in terms of access to the job market). I live in EU for 18 years but have no nationality.
- My partner says that she's 99% sure about us (i can live with the 1% doubt lol)
- Partner is willing to go low contact with sister but I feel bad because she loves her nieces and actually 3 weeks ago, her and her sister had a heart to heart where they both cried and reaffirmed their sibling love for each other
- we are having a call to discuss how to move forward with our relationship, all four of us.
The truth is, if I could, I would never talk to them again, I miss nothing in my life by avoiding them. But how do I ensure that i don't push my GF from her family and create more resentment either towards me or the sister?
If you read this far, I appreciate it, and happy to hear your thoughts!
2024.06.01 12:27 DrVeigonX .
I'd expect the vast majority of the people who oppose what Israel is doing in Palestine are not loudly chanting at protests.Again, you're entirely ignoring the point. If something is chanted by thousands, it's either a common belief, or at least one propagated by the leaders of the movement. Just because it doesn't fit with your perspective doesn't mean you can dismiss it.
Then why does the article I linked clearly show leaflets advising civilians to evacuate to the area where the strike occurred?Did you look at the map? The leaflet very clearly says The Humanitarian Area, which extends into northern Tal As Sultan. The map pretty clearly shows that.
Do you not think it at all suspicious that Israel have a recording of the event that would very clearly exonerate them, and yet have not released it or even claimed that their recording shows this?Jesus christ my guy, they literally did release the footage. Just because you refuse to look it up doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
They literally did release footage of the strike itself. Footage in which you can see that the aerial map they released is correct, as the buildings surrounding the area in the video are the same as the ones for where they claimed the strike is in the map they released. In the map, btw, you can see that the area of the strike is removed from the tents. All of this is in the articles I linked.
don't think you've quite appreciated the difference between "footage" and "footage that shows X".Just because you refuse to do any sort of personal deliberation and expect to be handed every piece of information on a spoon doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
We do know it was one of those small munitions, as I already said. Another thing we simultaneously know is that those small munitions could start a firAnd another thing we know is that the area where the strike occoured is removed from the tents. In fact both claimed locations of the strike are removed from the tents; both the IDF's and even Hamas' claims for where the strike occoured show them over 100 meters from where we know the fire started. Why do you drop that piece of information?
The IDF's claimed location is even entirely removed from the tents by an open area, and Hamas' claim has the entirety of the UN facility between the strike and the tents- a UN facility which didn't catch fire. So unless the fire somehow managed to spread across 100 meters of open field, or go around an entire aid distribution facility without anyone noticing, it's pretty safe to say that the bomb didn't start the fire.
Again, all of this is in the articles I linked. Just because you refuse to do any deliberation of your own doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
From where those tents were, sure. That doesn't mean there wasn't flammable material lying around that could have triggered a fire that reached those tents. Fuel, for example.For 100 meters straight? And around a UN facility- but without it catching fire? And no one thought to mention it anywhere? That's some amazing fuel!
Then why have you decided that it is true, when the footage from those Palestinians does not show a secondary rocket explosion, and when the Israeli footage would show this if it had happened that way?The footage from the Palestinians only started after the fire. And I'm not claiming it's true, I'm explaining to you why Israel is still investigating the matter, because you claimed that "if they claimed this then they should have all the footage!" When they aren't the ones who made that claim. Just like you and I, they are also investigating the fire.
Also, I brought them up because you were literally just dismissing that information because it came from Israel, even when it literally came from Palestinians.
Not even the Americans trust Israel to deliver aidI'm sorry but you seem to have an entirely incomplete image of how the aid distribution works in Gaza. No, the Americans do trust Israel to coordinate aid. But that's just that, Israel doesn't deliver the aid, it coordinates it. What does that mean? Israel gathers all the aid donations, loads them unto trucks, and brings those trucks to Kerem Shalom or Erez. From there, the trucks are picked up by the UN and NGOs who then distribute them.
The problem with Gazan aid was distribution, as a lot of aid failed to reach its destination, and Israel refused to get involved in distribution. Israel literally had a backlog of hunderds of trucks which they already vetted, but we're waiting to be picked up by the UN.
The pier was opened because the US believed it would make distribution easier. But what happened after it opened? Did you intentionally leave that piece of information out?
I'll tell you.
70% of it was stolen. https://www.gatestoneinstitute.org/20658/gaza-aid-stolen
Because the problem wasn't with Israeli coordination, it was with distribution. Those are two different things.
Yes, the conditions the population of Gaza were forced into for the past eight months were indeed extremely badAgain, are you intentionally ignoring the point or are you just missing it? Yes, the situation of Gazans is dire. You still fail to explain how Rafah having houses for 171k people somehow makes it better for the remaining 1.5 million over a zone specifically designed to house large numbers of displaced people.
A few ideas - instead of bombing absolutely everything, focus attacks on clear military targets.Thank you man! Why didn't they think of that?
I swear that people with no military experience will act like they're the chief of the Pentagon when it comes to this conflict.
I actually was in the military, so let's set a few things straight. when fighting guerilla warfare, there are no clear military targets. That's literally the definition of urban guerilla warfare. Embedding yourself within the urban environment and within civilians to fight against a stronger enemy. It isn't like there's buildings marked as "HAMAS HEADQUARTERS" that Israel can just attack and leave everyone else alone. Hamas very intentionally and very openly hides themselves within the civilian population and areas, hence why to attack them, you have to remove the civilians from the region via evacuation. That's literally how every urban conflict against a guerilla force in history was done. It was how the US fought against the Taliban in the cities of Afghanistan, it's how Iraqi forces fought against ISIS in Mosul, and its how the coalition fought against ISIS in Raqqa.
In fact, Raqqa and Mosul both saw far more destruction than Gaza did; with Gaza's figures suggesting 70% of the buildings were damaged to some capacity, where in Mosul some estimates go up to 80% or even 90%. When an enemy embeds themselves in a civilian population, there's no easy way of fighting them. Urban guerilla warfare is quite literally the ugliest form of combat.
As you mention the bombs, you seem to be under the impression they are just dropped for funsies. Like, "Oh, I feel like dropping a 2000 lbs bomb today! How about we do that here?"
It shows complete ignorance of military doctoring and combat. 2000 lbs bombs are also known as "bunker busters". Can you guess why? Because their impact is powerful enough to burst through the ground and collapse underground bunkers. Which might be useful when, oh, I don't know, your enemy has 500 Kilometers of tunnels weaving under your feet?
Lastly, you bring up the World Kitchen strike as some sort of Gotcha, but it perfectly encapsulates your cognitive dissonance. You're amplifying one incident over thousands of other successful strikes, and an incident even the head of World Kitchen said was a mistake. A mistake for which two of thw IDF's top generals were fired.
You're not the first person I say this to, and sadly, you won't be the last. But if you have no knowledge of military, don't try to act like you do. It just makes it seem like you're under the dunning Kruger effect.
2024.06.01 12:24 SalamanderClassic839 So Tired of The Two-Faced Handling of Sick Days
It's such bullshit how management at literally every employment treats employees being sick. They handle it in the worst way possible in every way possible.
They say "If you're sick, stay home. Don't get everyone else sick." And if you come in anyway and get other people sick they obviously get pissed about it. But how are you supposed to do anything but come in despite being sick? If you call out they guilt trip you or straight up accuse you of faking. As if it's any of their damn business regardless, if you call out you call out. You don't need their permission to call out. They'll give you shit for calling out, but if you come in and you aren't performing ( Ya know, because you're fucking sick ) they treat you like you're trying to get everyone sick and stealing time because you can't work. They literally just want any excuse to put their boot on your throat.
You'd think this would have changed after COVID, but hell no. My wife has it even worse, though. She has a job that can be done remotely, so for the last year if she was too sick to go in, she would email in and let them know she was going to work from home ( her entire job can be done from the computer so its not even like she was limited in what she could do ). Well her company's owner doesn't like WFH for reasons completely unknown, and there's now concern about her losing her job because she's had to miss work being sick or caring for me ( i have a disease that wrecks my health sometimes ) a couple days a month. But she's worked from home every single time so she doesn't fall behind and it doesn't affect her work. She has literally worked through COVID so she wouldn't cause problems at work. And apparently this asshole would just rather NOTHING get done? Fuck them people, nothing short of being a slave is good enough for them.
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They say "If you're sick, stay home. Don't get everyone else sick." And if you come in anyway and get other people sick they obviously get pissed about it. But how are you supposed to do anything but come in despite being sick? If you call out they guilt trip you or straight up accuse you of faking. As if it's any of their damn business regardless, if you call out you call out. You don't need their permission to call out. They'll give you shit for calling out, but if you come in and you aren't performing ( Ya know, because you're fucking sick ) they treat you like you're trying to get everyone sick and stealing time because you can't work. They literally just want any excuse to put their boot on your throat.
You'd think this would have changed after COVID, but hell no. My wife has it even worse, though. She has a job that can be done remotely, so for the last year if she was too sick to go in, she would email in and let them know she was going to work from home ( her entire job can be done from the computer so its not even like she was limited in what she could do ). Well her company's owner doesn't like WFH for reasons completely unknown, and there's now concern about her losing her job because she's had to miss work being sick or caring for me ( i have a disease that wrecks my health sometimes ) a couple days a month. But she's worked from home every single time so she doesn't fall behind and it doesn't affect her work. She has literally worked through COVID so she wouldn't cause problems at work. And apparently this asshole would just rather NOTHING get done? Fuck them people, nothing short of being a slave is good enough for them.
2024.06.01 12:21 CKM415 CA VTL Stop
If anyone can help me it would be much appreciated. Sorry for the long story but I’m trying to include all the info. I have a 01 Dodge Ram 2500 5.9L Diesel which I bought about 4 years ago. I did all the proper paperwork at the dmv and currently have the title in my name. It has been smogged twice since I owned it by the same shop. I later then found out that that shop was doing “hot smogs” and they got caught (after they did my smogs). While owning the truck I moved where I was living which resulted in my mail getting sent to the old address. My car insurance was on auto pay and because the address change it was never paid it and instantly dropped the car after the 1st month. The dmv was sending the missing insurance paperwork and the notice of registration hold to my old address which I wasn’t aware of. When I found out I got new insurance and got the registration reinstated (which it currently has). While living at the old address I tried to get custom plates and used the old address. Then after moving I went and got my new updated license with my new address. Because of that I got a notice in the mail saying the custom plate application was incomplete due to wrong address (which I updated on the dmv) and under other it said “VTL Stop placed on vehicle”. I went to the dmv and they won’t help me or give me any info besides telling me to call a number. Which I have called multiple times and one time I got ahold of someone who then told me I would be placed in a call back list which would take a day or two. Never got a call back and now I can’t even get ahold of anyone when I call. Idk what to do. Sorry this is so long. I was just wanting to make sure I included everything so someone might be able to give me the most accurate info or help they could.
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2024.06.01 12:20 seansnow64 What if for Assassin's Creed's 20th Aniversarry the remade the one that started it all?
Okay so recently i have been going through and replaying a few of my favorite game franchises, ya know relive the good days. The past few days ive been replaying the OG first Assassin's Creed; the one that started it all. And while i gotta say it doesnt hold up great like it did way back when it came out in 2007, its still a very fun game. All this time replaying it tho has got me thinking, what if for AC's 20th Aniversary coming up in a few years they not only remasted the game but also gave it a complete mechanics and gameplay overhaul. Giving us a proper 20th Aniversary edition!
What would you like to see in such a remake that deserves to exist? what features from games that have come out since would you like to see revisted? How could they expand on the game making it feel more fleshed out but all the while still keeping to the core of what the first game was?...
Ill start, personally i would absolutely love if they revisted Assassin's Creeds competitive multiplayer that they had from Brotherhood to Black Flag. Giving us a fresh set of maps set in the Holy Land to have fun in with friends online. They could even monitise such a feature by releasing map packs + plus character bundles for each game in the franchise as DLC. I know id pay for a multiplayer experience in settings from games we never got to experience it in. And frankly ive missed the multiplayer, i have such fond memories from when i was in highschool playing online with my friends.
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What would you like to see in such a remake that deserves to exist? what features from games that have come out since would you like to see revisted? How could they expand on the game making it feel more fleshed out but all the while still keeping to the core of what the first game was?...
Ill start, personally i would absolutely love if they revisted Assassin's Creeds competitive multiplayer that they had from Brotherhood to Black Flag. Giving us a fresh set of maps set in the Holy Land to have fun in with friends online. They could even monitise such a feature by releasing map packs + plus character bundles for each game in the franchise as DLC. I know id pay for a multiplayer experience in settings from games we never got to experience it in. And frankly ive missed the multiplayer, i have such fond memories from when i was in highschool playing online with my friends.
2024.06.01 12:18 Silent_Doughnut_1864 The last moment together with a life long crush didn't end well. I just wanted to tell her how I feel, maybe she will see and read this.
She probably will never see this, then again I could be wrong. I kind of hope she does so I can say some of what I wanted to say, but instead we ended up arguing over things that are really not important and I wish I could take it all back.
In High School it started and I never told anyone, not even my best friend. You were the one, the girl who was in a relationship, the crush I always wanted, the one I wanted to marry and spend my life with, to treat with the most genuine respect and to love and cherish. The problem was you were taken and I respected that line, most people don't. Yet life just kept moving forward. I come to find years later that your life has been filled with trauma, neglect, abuse, filled with drama and hate, being used and taken advantage of. The things I would never let happen to you or do to you were happening or had happened, and it breaks my heart to see you so different than the one I knew all those years ago. But deep in there it's still you and I hope that I may one day bring you back to happiness and to keep a smile on your face and to show you how much you are loved.
After 20 years we found each other living together albeit briefly after some difficult and unexpected times. I tried to tell you how I felt, you didn't want to hear it. And then we did something together I never thought would ever happen, and it was something I had hoped would happen for so long. I will always remember it and think about it everyday, how incredible it was and how it still could be. Even the first time our lips locked I was in complete ecstacy, the way you kissed me was something passionate and real, not just another kiss. You really are amazing and so beautiful and I wish we could continue to become something more. Something beautiful. Something forever.
I didn't want to leave you but I couldn't stand being thought of as just someone else there to use you. I would never hurt you. I tried to find the words, but you shut me down, you distanced yourself from me, that hurt. I know things are tough and I was willing to do everything I could to help.
Maybe I sound like I am rambling now but just know this. I am sorry for how I left, for leaving you alone, for everything wrong that I may have done. I just want you in my life, by my side. Maybe one day that will happen but it is something you need to figure out. I will continue to wait for you. If you will have me, come to me. You'll be safe and respected, loved and appreciated. For now, I am setting off on the hunt for more money, to give myself a fresh start and that also includes you, as I told you during our time together. My hand and heart will be waiting for you to take.
Find me. Message me. Email me. Call me. Anything. I want to make you happy for the rest of our lives.
I'm sorry J. I miss you. I want you with me. I want to hold you, hold your hand, to love you, to kiss you, to be the one you deserve. Hopefully we will find each other again. For now, just know im there thinking about you, waiting and going to do everything I possibly can.
Me.
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In High School it started and I never told anyone, not even my best friend. You were the one, the girl who was in a relationship, the crush I always wanted, the one I wanted to marry and spend my life with, to treat with the most genuine respect and to love and cherish. The problem was you were taken and I respected that line, most people don't. Yet life just kept moving forward. I come to find years later that your life has been filled with trauma, neglect, abuse, filled with drama and hate, being used and taken advantage of. The things I would never let happen to you or do to you were happening or had happened, and it breaks my heart to see you so different than the one I knew all those years ago. But deep in there it's still you and I hope that I may one day bring you back to happiness and to keep a smile on your face and to show you how much you are loved.
After 20 years we found each other living together albeit briefly after some difficult and unexpected times. I tried to tell you how I felt, you didn't want to hear it. And then we did something together I never thought would ever happen, and it was something I had hoped would happen for so long. I will always remember it and think about it everyday, how incredible it was and how it still could be. Even the first time our lips locked I was in complete ecstacy, the way you kissed me was something passionate and real, not just another kiss. You really are amazing and so beautiful and I wish we could continue to become something more. Something beautiful. Something forever.
I didn't want to leave you but I couldn't stand being thought of as just someone else there to use you. I would never hurt you. I tried to find the words, but you shut me down, you distanced yourself from me, that hurt. I know things are tough and I was willing to do everything I could to help.
Maybe I sound like I am rambling now but just know this. I am sorry for how I left, for leaving you alone, for everything wrong that I may have done. I just want you in my life, by my side. Maybe one day that will happen but it is something you need to figure out. I will continue to wait for you. If you will have me, come to me. You'll be safe and respected, loved and appreciated. For now, I am setting off on the hunt for more money, to give myself a fresh start and that also includes you, as I told you during our time together. My hand and heart will be waiting for you to take.
Find me. Message me. Email me. Call me. Anything. I want to make you happy for the rest of our lives.
I'm sorry J. I miss you. I want you with me. I want to hold you, hold your hand, to love you, to kiss you, to be the one you deserve. Hopefully we will find each other again. For now, just know im there thinking about you, waiting and going to do everything I possibly can.
Me.
2024.06.01 12:18 blessed6933 watched it for the animation, stayed for tears
 | I just completed the whole series and all the movies in 3 days , I am somebody who rarely cries or gets emotional, I am numb and disassociated , could relate with violet very much although her case is different, but we both know about emotions but it's something else to fell them, It was in my watchlist since a year but didn't felt like watching it as it was recommended to me to watch If you want to cry, I have tried others in the same category like the silent voice, I want to eat your pancreas, etc but no I didn't cry watching them. So i wasn't expecting much and didn't watch it. Recently re-watched fruit basket and after it ended was missing the fruba universe , so to distract myself I watched this show, submitted by blessed6933 to VioletEvergarden [link] [comments] And damn I was struck at once with the animation quality and style, this was literally the style i was craving to watch from so long, my first anime was garden of words, nd Ghibli movies hence I love such pretty style! So i continued watching without expecting much from the show coz I was already in love with the animation. And ofcourse any normal human would be hooked to the plot too , so was I. and no surprise, (surprise for me tho) I cried twice in the whole story, very hard, once in the series >! When she tried to unalive herself!< Second in the final movie before they were finally gonna meet And I hadn't cried since ages , the only time I have cried in last 5years was when I watched Interstellar. So this was therapeutic to say the least and very intense. I am here to tell anybody who still haven't watched , please do! The only thing I didn't liked about the story was the age gap between Gilbert and her, I mean atleast they could have reduced It to 10 like the prince and the princess, coz that was weird , I get their love was open ended but It was still pretty much implied towards romantic side, and and in the time period of the movie it was normal I get it , but comeon. 🫠. Or else it would have been better >! If They never met again, looking at the age thing and also looking at violet's growth as a person, it would have been so better if we had got clarity on her romantic life ,like if she could have dated somebody like that blue haired starry space guy lol I forgot his name , or somebody similar uk, nd the way she stopped traveling, like she had became so independent nd had so much of growth, that it felt pointless for her to only stay at the island. It was weird and nd in character to probably violet's abandonment issue but destroys the character development but I get it , the eternal love between them , I get that and I'm not complaining!< Also I absolutely love how fatherly hodgins is to violet I was so happy to see somebody care about her that much other than major obv!! It's so cute lol. Nd why tf is gilbert's elder brother so fking hot like damn he looks so good for a douche bag he was, for me he is more good looking than the major! Fin! Thank you for reading nd please rec if you know some other such anime! Also abt this art image, idk if it's AI or not , and idk the creator either , please message or comment for credit , coz I found it on Pinterest! |
2024.06.01 12:17 niemteltsuj Long term fasting isn't for everybody, and that's ok.
This may upset some people. In fact I can count on it.
I only wrote this for 1% of you. For the rest, please disregard it.
A Different Game:
I'm not sure if I can explain this. I don't think that I totally understand it myself, but that's ok.
Long term fasting isn't about food, but you already knew that or you wouldn't be attempting a long fast.
This may not pertain to everyone that does a long fast. Maybe it won't pertain to any of them.
You may not know who I am, or of my situation. That's ok. I'm just some guy in a sub-reddit.
For me the battle is more important than the weightloss. Fasting can tear you down right to the core. It can lay you open and expose vulnerabilities that you didn't know you had.
That can be a good thing if you are ready for it. When you've faced something that stripes you down, you only have two ways to go. You either stay broken or you rebuild a new you.
Fasting isn't a team sport. The rebuilding process is a solo journey. You will face family and friends that mean well. You will face people on reddit that have watched a few videos of someone that thinks they know about fasting.
The fact is that after your first long fast, you have experience, they have hearsay.
Repeating what somebody else said about something that very few people have experienced is easy. There are way to many armchair quarterbacks.
For all intents and purposes they are standing on the sidewalk watching the parade go by.
We need to respect those people. They believe what they are saying. They don't mean to drag you down. They just don't understand that the game we are playing is nothing like the game they are playing.
Respecting them doesn't mean letting their opinions effect you. We leave their words to them. We step outside of their world.
We are outside of the box thinkers. We learn by doing, not by reading, watching, or listening.
In short, we cut our own path.
Long term fasting will cause you to question everything about your past, present, and future.
It will make you question yourself to the point that you lose the belief in your fight.
Don't be mistaken. This is war. You will fight battles every day of your fast.
TV commercials, concerned family members, concerned friends, people in the fasting reddit, all of these and more, are all battles. Each battle takes your energy to fight them.
We all have a limit as to how much unintentional abuse that we can take.
Remember, we are playing a different game. We aren't better than them, it's just a different game.
To succeed we close off there words. We smile and nod without telling them they are wrong. Their rules don't apply. Remember, ours is a different game. We need our energy for other challenges, tougher challenges.
Once we're in a long fast our mind will scream at us. It doesn't Remember why it stored the fat. How could it. We don't live in a world where using fat for energy is part of the equation.
We know the truth. Fat is fuel. Combine that fat with electrolytes and vitamins and your body has a built in smorgasbord.
You will face many days where you question whether it is worth it. Days when the scales aren't moving, and you are constantly thinking about your comfort food, can push you close to your limit. If you aren't confident and forward thinking it can break you.
We play a game that is much like chess. Our move is the result of a strategy that we decided on several moves ago. We don't make in the moment decisions. We know the obstacles but we don't care because we set this strategy in motion days before. Today is temporary. It is here and gone in the blink of an eye.
Tomorrow. That's how we win today's battle. Our mind is already in tomorrow. How can we giving in today if we are already in a tomorrow frame of mind.
Our battle is intense. As with chess, sometimes we have to sacrifice a pawn, maybe even a knight. We do this by skipping a family gathering or a superbowl party if they fall within our fasting plan.
I've missed Easter, Thanksgiving, my birthday, my mom's birthday, mother's day, and 4th of july cookouts.
This game requires sacrifice. The weightloss is great. I've lost 240 pounds, but that is irrelevant.
Our true opponent is our mind. Nothing else can matter. In truth, nothing else exists. We stand alone. Alone against family, friends, and armchair experts.
On one fast, I was on day 56. My mind was done. I didn't think I had anything left in the gas tank, but I've faced things in life that totally wiped me out. I knew there is always just a little more left if we reach deep.
I held on. My mind was screaming. I couldn't hear anything but, "give in, it's over"
I dug deep. I went to my room. I just wanted to go to bed. I climbed on my bed. I couldn't climb under the covers. That would take too much external energy. I knelt on my bed. I rocked back and forth for three hours. I was sobbing uncontrollably. My body was shaking from the depth of those sobbs.
I made it. The tears ended. The rocking ended. I collapsed on my bed and slept for hours.
I faced one of the hardest challenges in my 55 years on this planet.
That victory is mine. Nobody can take it from me. Believe it or not several people from this fasting community tried. They told me that I was lying. They said I got lucky because I didn't die. They said I would cause someone to take their last breath.
I didn't care what they said, and I don't care now. The victory is mine. Any time I struggle I look back on that morning. I remember the intensity. I fought so hard, and I won. What challenge can I face in the future that could compare. The answer is, nothing. Nothing I will face can hold a candle to that day.
I've faced some extreme challenges. My girlfriend passed from cancer while laying in the bed beside of me. My mom went to prison when I was little. Our friend was murdered. One of our friends came over after he had been shot. We were robbed at gunpoint. None of that compared.
Even Marine Corps boot camp paled in comparison to that day.
We face intense situations while fasting. This may sound bad but I hope you can experience that. I can't think of anything that could ever take me down. I look back on that day and it empowers me. With that memory I can tackle any opponent.
We play a different game. Don't forget that.
99% of people on here won't get it. Many will condemn and down vote this.
I'll say it again, we play a different game. They won't get it and thats ok.
After you face your demons. After you make it out the other side, there is nothing left to compare.
Our battle may be different but the final outcome is the same.
We win.
After that challenge,
we win because that's all we know.
submitted by niemteltsuj to fasting [link] [comments]
I only wrote this for 1% of you. For the rest, please disregard it.
A Different Game:
I'm not sure if I can explain this. I don't think that I totally understand it myself, but that's ok.
Long term fasting isn't about food, but you already knew that or you wouldn't be attempting a long fast.
This may not pertain to everyone that does a long fast. Maybe it won't pertain to any of them.
You may not know who I am, or of my situation. That's ok. I'm just some guy in a sub-reddit.
For me the battle is more important than the weightloss. Fasting can tear you down right to the core. It can lay you open and expose vulnerabilities that you didn't know you had.
That can be a good thing if you are ready for it. When you've faced something that stripes you down, you only have two ways to go. You either stay broken or you rebuild a new you.
Fasting isn't a team sport. The rebuilding process is a solo journey. You will face family and friends that mean well. You will face people on reddit that have watched a few videos of someone that thinks they know about fasting.
The fact is that after your first long fast, you have experience, they have hearsay.
Repeating what somebody else said about something that very few people have experienced is easy. There are way to many armchair quarterbacks.
For all intents and purposes they are standing on the sidewalk watching the parade go by.
We need to respect those people. They believe what they are saying. They don't mean to drag you down. They just don't understand that the game we are playing is nothing like the game they are playing.
Respecting them doesn't mean letting their opinions effect you. We leave their words to them. We step outside of their world.
We are outside of the box thinkers. We learn by doing, not by reading, watching, or listening.
In short, we cut our own path.
Long term fasting will cause you to question everything about your past, present, and future.
It will make you question yourself to the point that you lose the belief in your fight.
Don't be mistaken. This is war. You will fight battles every day of your fast.
TV commercials, concerned family members, concerned friends, people in the fasting reddit, all of these and more, are all battles. Each battle takes your energy to fight them.
We all have a limit as to how much unintentional abuse that we can take.
Remember, we are playing a different game. We aren't better than them, it's just a different game.
To succeed we close off there words. We smile and nod without telling them they are wrong. Their rules don't apply. Remember, ours is a different game. We need our energy for other challenges, tougher challenges.
Once we're in a long fast our mind will scream at us. It doesn't Remember why it stored the fat. How could it. We don't live in a world where using fat for energy is part of the equation.
We know the truth. Fat is fuel. Combine that fat with electrolytes and vitamins and your body has a built in smorgasbord.
You will face many days where you question whether it is worth it. Days when the scales aren't moving, and you are constantly thinking about your comfort food, can push you close to your limit. If you aren't confident and forward thinking it can break you.
We play a game that is much like chess. Our move is the result of a strategy that we decided on several moves ago. We don't make in the moment decisions. We know the obstacles but we don't care because we set this strategy in motion days before. Today is temporary. It is here and gone in the blink of an eye.
Tomorrow. That's how we win today's battle. Our mind is already in tomorrow. How can we giving in today if we are already in a tomorrow frame of mind.
Our battle is intense. As with chess, sometimes we have to sacrifice a pawn, maybe even a knight. We do this by skipping a family gathering or a superbowl party if they fall within our fasting plan.
I've missed Easter, Thanksgiving, my birthday, my mom's birthday, mother's day, and 4th of july cookouts.
This game requires sacrifice. The weightloss is great. I've lost 240 pounds, but that is irrelevant.
Our true opponent is our mind. Nothing else can matter. In truth, nothing else exists. We stand alone. Alone against family, friends, and armchair experts.
On one fast, I was on day 56. My mind was done. I didn't think I had anything left in the gas tank, but I've faced things in life that totally wiped me out. I knew there is always just a little more left if we reach deep.
I held on. My mind was screaming. I couldn't hear anything but, "give in, it's over"
I dug deep. I went to my room. I just wanted to go to bed. I climbed on my bed. I couldn't climb under the covers. That would take too much external energy. I knelt on my bed. I rocked back and forth for three hours. I was sobbing uncontrollably. My body was shaking from the depth of those sobbs.
I made it. The tears ended. The rocking ended. I collapsed on my bed and slept for hours.
I faced one of the hardest challenges in my 55 years on this planet.
That victory is mine. Nobody can take it from me. Believe it or not several people from this fasting community tried. They told me that I was lying. They said I got lucky because I didn't die. They said I would cause someone to take their last breath.
I didn't care what they said, and I don't care now. The victory is mine. Any time I struggle I look back on that morning. I remember the intensity. I fought so hard, and I won. What challenge can I face in the future that could compare. The answer is, nothing. Nothing I will face can hold a candle to that day.
I've faced some extreme challenges. My girlfriend passed from cancer while laying in the bed beside of me. My mom went to prison when I was little. Our friend was murdered. One of our friends came over after he had been shot. We were robbed at gunpoint. None of that compared.
Even Marine Corps boot camp paled in comparison to that day.
We face intense situations while fasting. This may sound bad but I hope you can experience that. I can't think of anything that could ever take me down. I look back on that day and it empowers me. With that memory I can tackle any opponent.
We play a different game. Don't forget that.
99% of people on here won't get it. Many will condemn and down vote this.
I'll say it again, we play a different game. They won't get it and thats ok.
After you face your demons. After you make it out the other side, there is nothing left to compare.
Our battle may be different but the final outcome is the same.
We win.
After that challenge,
we win because that's all we know.
2024.06.01 12:13 Visual_Ability_1229 Lord Venkateswara part-3 detailed description contd.
so far, I talked about the main idol, the sanctum, the sunken base, and the outlet for water to drain. also talked about his general posture, feet, and overall dimensions.
note: avoiding puranas, vedas and mantras is intentional on my part. I just want to first establish what is simply seen with our own eyes.
I will talk about the entire scriptural authenticity, as well as his actual Puja method in seperate posts.
from previous discussions , we know he is now standing in a small sunken box in the sanctum.
this is a source for rumors to emerge , that he is a Shaiva Murthy, because it looks like the Panavatta ( the base or somasutra ) of a shiva linga. there are also additional reasons for Shaiva debate, but this is one of them. I urge the reader to take note, as this will come up again later on.
what do the AGAMAS actually say about a devata idol ?
both Vaikhanasa and Pancharatra agamas agree nearly 90% here, with only diferences in terms.
a vishnu idol is of 3 types - standing, sitting and reclining. ( POSTURE BASED )
4 types based on countenance, ornaments, and surrounding structures or other deities ( BHOGA, VIRA, YOGA, AND ABHICHARIKA )
3 types based on surrounding structures ( ADHAMA, MADHYAMA, UTTAMA ) inferior, medium and superior types.
Based on above , we get a total of 36 combinations. all male deities, Pan-india, in every temple fall under one of those categories.
Sri Venkateswara does NOT. the Dhurva Beram cannot be definitively stated to belong to any one category.
he is standing - STHANAKA
he is having royal ornaments, and the crown of an emperor of supreme status - BHOGA ... but wait ?
there are no accompanying deities, and bhoga has one vital requirement. to be in the middle of a human settlement. he is standing alone in a dense mountain-terrain forest. so not completely BHOGA.
A YOGA Murthy would be installed on hills, near water bodies, away from regular family life. a yoga Murthy would have simple ornaments, and would have a matted-hair crown. JATA -makuta.
Sri Venkateswara is NOT HAVING A JATA MAKUTA. the ornaments are all rich and exuberant.
A VIRA Murthy is placed on borders of kingdoms, for destruction of enemies. generally the posture is aggressive and multiple weapons are seen. but here , the lord is very pleasantly smiling, seemingly in a good mood. he has 4 strongly built arms, but no weapons ( seperate topic coming up )
SO NOT BHOGA YOGA OR VIRA.
Abhicharika Murthys have inauspicious features upon them, such as the yagnopaveeta missing or in reverse (apasavya ) and also, upturned eyes and an angry or weakened face. no Vishnu idols are known of this category. its purely theoretical.
there was no temple at all - so not even adhama type .
then what is he ?
scholars have been perplexed. if made by man, no sculptor would wantonly violate the rules and create a strange idol. if a man created the idol, then ti was crafted even before the agamas came into existence. thats taking us back to the vedic age, when idol worship did not exist.
so yes, the idol is unique in the fact that there is no other idol like it on the planet. perhaps its the oldest idol in the world. I know people might disagree.
all other Venkateswara idols came later on, based on this original prototype.
I wanted to avoid mysticism in my post but cant help -
"venkatadri samaasthanam brahmaanse naastikinchana . vemkatesha samo devah na bhuto na bhavishyati. "
there is no place, in the entire cosmos, equal to the sacred Vemgadam hill.
there is no divinity equal to Venkatesha in past present and future. "
submitted by Visual_Ability_1229 to hinduism [link] [comments]
note: avoiding puranas, vedas and mantras is intentional on my part. I just want to first establish what is simply seen with our own eyes.
I will talk about the entire scriptural authenticity, as well as his actual Puja method in seperate posts.
from previous discussions , we know he is now standing in a small sunken box in the sanctum.
this is a source for rumors to emerge , that he is a Shaiva Murthy, because it looks like the Panavatta ( the base or somasutra ) of a shiva linga. there are also additional reasons for Shaiva debate, but this is one of them. I urge the reader to take note, as this will come up again later on.
what do the AGAMAS actually say about a devata idol ?
both Vaikhanasa and Pancharatra agamas agree nearly 90% here, with only diferences in terms.
a vishnu idol is of 3 types - standing, sitting and reclining. ( POSTURE BASED )
4 types based on countenance, ornaments, and surrounding structures or other deities ( BHOGA, VIRA, YOGA, AND ABHICHARIKA )
3 types based on surrounding structures ( ADHAMA, MADHYAMA, UTTAMA ) inferior, medium and superior types.
Based on above , we get a total of 36 combinations. all male deities, Pan-india, in every temple fall under one of those categories.
Sri Venkateswara does NOT. the Dhurva Beram cannot be definitively stated to belong to any one category.
he is standing - STHANAKA
he is having royal ornaments, and the crown of an emperor of supreme status - BHOGA ... but wait ?
there are no accompanying deities, and bhoga has one vital requirement. to be in the middle of a human settlement. he is standing alone in a dense mountain-terrain forest. so not completely BHOGA.
A YOGA Murthy would be installed on hills, near water bodies, away from regular family life. a yoga Murthy would have simple ornaments, and would have a matted-hair crown. JATA -makuta.
Sri Venkateswara is NOT HAVING A JATA MAKUTA. the ornaments are all rich and exuberant.
A VIRA Murthy is placed on borders of kingdoms, for destruction of enemies. generally the posture is aggressive and multiple weapons are seen. but here , the lord is very pleasantly smiling, seemingly in a good mood. he has 4 strongly built arms, but no weapons ( seperate topic coming up )
SO NOT BHOGA YOGA OR VIRA.
Abhicharika Murthys have inauspicious features upon them, such as the yagnopaveeta missing or in reverse (apasavya ) and also, upturned eyes and an angry or weakened face. no Vishnu idols are known of this category. its purely theoretical.
there was no temple at all - so not even adhama type .
then what is he ?
scholars have been perplexed. if made by man, no sculptor would wantonly violate the rules and create a strange idol. if a man created the idol, then ti was crafted even before the agamas came into existence. thats taking us back to the vedic age, when idol worship did not exist.
so yes, the idol is unique in the fact that there is no other idol like it on the planet. perhaps its the oldest idol in the world. I know people might disagree.
all other Venkateswara idols came later on, based on this original prototype.
I wanted to avoid mysticism in my post but cant help -
"venkatadri samaasthanam brahmaanse naastikinchana . vemkatesha samo devah na bhuto na bhavishyati. "
there is no place, in the entire cosmos, equal to the sacred Vemgadam hill.
there is no divinity equal to Venkatesha in past present and future. "
- Varaha, Brahmanda, and Skanda Puranas. ( with slight variations in the exact sanskrit )
2024.06.01 12:11 monotoonz Why do so many people who argue about tipped employees still use the $2.13/hour line?
"If an employee’s tips combined with the employer’s direct (or cash) wages do not equal the minimum hourly wage of $7.25 (federal minimum wage) per hour in each workweek, the employer must make up the difference." - Fair Labor Standards Act
So exactly why do so many people think servers make nothing and deserve to be tipped solely on that?
They're making as much as the guy taking orders at the McDonald's counter. Yet I don't see those same people saying the McDonald's employee should get tipped.
What am I missing here?
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So exactly why do so many people think servers make nothing and deserve to be tipped solely on that?
They're making as much as the guy taking orders at the McDonald's counter. Yet I don't see those same people saying the McDonald's employee should get tipped.
What am I missing here?
2024.06.01 12:09 kymgee Ex friend trying to get back into my life
TLDR: ex friend trying to get back into my life after I stopped talking to him and I need advice on what to do
I’ll try not to make this super long. So I 29F had this friend who now I believe is. 30m. He used to be my best friend and we crossed that line in our friendship which shouldn’t have happened. We had a rocky friend relationship because he would only talk to me whenever he wasn’t in a relationship and would only want to hook up with me so I decided I wanted better than that and stop talking to him and blocked him. Fast forward my dad ended up dying close to two years ago and I unblocked him because he knew my dad and helped him out as well with rides. I had flown into town because I was living out of town at the time and decided to try to talk and patch things up with him. Anyways all he wanted to do was hook up with me even though I was like no but did it anyway get it over with. I blocked him on everything the following day because who hooks up with someone day after their parent dying. So fast forward to recently where I unlocked people on social media including him and he tried to follow me but my accounts are private and he messaged me saying how he missed me and wanted to take me out and he apologize but blamed it on being young and dumb which is a load of crap.
So I just don’t know if I should give him the light of day and tell him how I feel or keep ignoring him. Low key I do miss our friendship because we actually did fun things together but I don’t think I can do that to myself again because it just brought up memories I don’t want to relive
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I’ll try not to make this super long. So I 29F had this friend who now I believe is. 30m. He used to be my best friend and we crossed that line in our friendship which shouldn’t have happened. We had a rocky friend relationship because he would only talk to me whenever he wasn’t in a relationship and would only want to hook up with me so I decided I wanted better than that and stop talking to him and blocked him. Fast forward my dad ended up dying close to two years ago and I unblocked him because he knew my dad and helped him out as well with rides. I had flown into town because I was living out of town at the time and decided to try to talk and patch things up with him. Anyways all he wanted to do was hook up with me even though I was like no but did it anyway get it over with. I blocked him on everything the following day because who hooks up with someone day after their parent dying. So fast forward to recently where I unlocked people on social media including him and he tried to follow me but my accounts are private and he messaged me saying how he missed me and wanted to take me out and he apologize but blamed it on being young and dumb which is a load of crap.
So I just don’t know if I should give him the light of day and tell him how I feel or keep ignoring him. Low key I do miss our friendship because we actually did fun things together but I don’t think I can do that to myself again because it just brought up memories I don’t want to relive
2024.06.01 12:08 keeva_k When did your new sober normal became just normal?
For context, I have been a drinker since my early 20s and some time around 25 it became a daily occurence. I am now in my early 30s and in the last two years I have cut down to 3-4 times a week only to ultimatelly fully stop a month ago! My main motivator (outside of the fact it is just bad for me), was the morning depression and anxiety which ensued after the night of drinking. It ultimately became unbareable and a too costly a price to pay.
I have replaced my bad habit with exercising (mainly running), hobbies, quality time with friends and flatmates, reading and I do have an occasional 0% beer on an odd evening. I cannot say I miss it, as I feel calmer, physically I am in the best shape I have been since I was a teenager, I am finally feeling a full range of emotions I supressed for a decade and so so many more positive things.
However, I guess because so much of my 20s have been just a drunken haze, and so many of my days were spent in anticipation for the evening when I will drink again, I find myself a bit lost and confused that this is not my "normal" any more. I do enjoy my sober lifestyle but I am kind of having a difficult time understanding that this is just what my new lifestyle is.. It kind of feels new, strange, and not "normal", possibly because I learned it is my default to be pissed in the evenings and hungover in the mornings.
I wake up much better rested and ready to seize the day and enjoy it, but it is almost like a surprise for me every morning. Similarly, when I go out with my friends to a bar and get alcohol free beers, I do enjoy it but the thought of "it is strange you are not drinking isn't it?!" keeps on intruding. It feels like I am completely embarking on a new journey, but the journey has not settled as "this is just normal life".
I know it is strange and possibly a bunch of waffle, but I was wondering if any of you ever had that strange feeling of being constantly shocked by your own sobriety and if so, when did you enbrace your sober life as just.. life?
Thank you for your answers and IWDWYT :)
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I have replaced my bad habit with exercising (mainly running), hobbies, quality time with friends and flatmates, reading and I do have an occasional 0% beer on an odd evening. I cannot say I miss it, as I feel calmer, physically I am in the best shape I have been since I was a teenager, I am finally feeling a full range of emotions I supressed for a decade and so so many more positive things.
However, I guess because so much of my 20s have been just a drunken haze, and so many of my days were spent in anticipation for the evening when I will drink again, I find myself a bit lost and confused that this is not my "normal" any more. I do enjoy my sober lifestyle but I am kind of having a difficult time understanding that this is just what my new lifestyle is.. It kind of feels new, strange, and not "normal", possibly because I learned it is my default to be pissed in the evenings and hungover in the mornings.
I wake up much better rested and ready to seize the day and enjoy it, but it is almost like a surprise for me every morning. Similarly, when I go out with my friends to a bar and get alcohol free beers, I do enjoy it but the thought of "it is strange you are not drinking isn't it?!" keeps on intruding. It feels like I am completely embarking on a new journey, but the journey has not settled as "this is just normal life".
I know it is strange and possibly a bunch of waffle, but I was wondering if any of you ever had that strange feeling of being constantly shocked by your own sobriety and if so, when did you enbrace your sober life as just.. life?
Thank you for your answers and IWDWYT :)
2024.06.01 12:08 little-venice-bish How do I stop myself from wanting my partner to be a dad to me?
My dad was never really a dad. He was playful when I was little, but not around much. And that’s about it. That’s as far as his parenting went. Now I have an older bf - dating just over a year, and I keep looking for parental traits in him. Things I missed out on that I didn’t realise I wanted. Both my mother and father have passed and now I’m looking for a parent I suppose?
I want his advise for more serious matters, his opinion. Approval. Praise. I want him to be proud of me and to tell me no when I should be told no. I feel like I’m acting more childlike around him too, misbehaving in a playful way, trying to wind him up. Acting dumb so he’ll do ‘dad’ stuff for me. We both know I have daddy issues but I never realised how bad it was until I met him.
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I want his advise for more serious matters, his opinion. Approval. Praise. I want him to be proud of me and to tell me no when I should be told no. I feel like I’m acting more childlike around him too, misbehaving in a playful way, trying to wind him up. Acting dumb so he’ll do ‘dad’ stuff for me. We both know I have daddy issues but I never realised how bad it was until I met him.
2024.06.01 12:08 GhoulGriin Best 1911 Magwell
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But for those who have tried it and have found it useful, it's a convenient, reliable way to ensure you're always prepared. The leather construction also adds a tactile touch, making it more than just a mere tool, but a piece of equipment you can feel confident in. 🔗High-Quality 1911 MW Housing for Precision and Performancehttps://preview.redd.it/4sih0bwkpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=536a1303e197b6ebdc802b1c9e0d6d89c3a83c4a Imagine diving into a world of unmatched quality and performance with the Ed Brown 1911 MW Housing. It's like having a trusty sidekick in the form of a superior piece of firearm gear. Just like a trusted friend, this product has been around for a lifetime, honing its craft through a combination of masterful engineering, relentless passion, and decades of practical experience. From the very feel of it to its precision machining, you can see and touch the care that has gone into each and every detail. Pick this up, and you'll instantly feel like you're holding something truly extraordinary. It's not just a firearm component; it's a labor of love and expertise, crafted with an attention to detail that borders on obsession. Of course, like any piece of equipment engineered for such high performance, you might encounter the odd hiccup here and there. But when you're using something as finely-tuned as the Ed Brown 1911 MW Housing, the pros often outweigh the occasional minor inconvenience. Overall, the Ed Brown 1911 MW Housing is a powerhouse. It's precision crafted, top-quality, and is, in short, exactly what you'd expect from a lifetime of experience and expertise in firearm components. It might not be perfect—nothing ever is—but it's as close as you can get. So, if you're looking for a piece of equipment that you can truly rely on, with a rich history of precision machining and exceptional craftsmanship behind it, look no further than the Ed Brown 1911 MW Housing. You won't be disappointed, I promise. 🔗Premium 1911 MW Housing Blankhttps://preview.redd.it/bfs6a9clpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e96202411bf5264d594e31488f860c3b0063de4a The Ed Brown 1911 housing is a fine example of the dedication to precision and quality that makes this brand stand out. As a seasoned gun enthusiast, I've come to appreciate the meticulous attention to detail that goes into crafting these firearms. With this product, I especially noticed the superior components and expert machining that made the gun feel smooth and well-balanced. The mag well housing, in particular, added an element of sophistication to my 1911 replica. While the Ed Brown 1911 housing is an excellent choice for those seeking top-notch performance, there are a few potential downsides to consider. One is the price point, which may be prohibitive for some users. Additionally, while the housing is designed for durability, it's essential to take proper care of it to ensure its longevity. All in all, the Ed Brown 1911 housing is an exceptional product that delivers on promises of quality and craftsmanship. 🔗Universal Single Mag Holder for 1911 Compensatorshttps://preview.redd.it/6eniljmlpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=466d97c1e19c05d404690c0a3e83aa3c9b520347 Imagine this: after a long day at the range or simply enjoying your time at home, you're done with holstering and retrieving your magazines. You reach for your trusty mag holder - a solid, reliable, and convenient accessory that's been your reliable companion for months. But suddenly, it's gone. You need a new one. Fast. Enter C&G's Universal single mag holder. This is the kind of mag holder that makes you say, "I never knew I needed this until now! " It's a game-changer, designed to hold your magazines in place, making your life easier and hassle-free. The C&G's Universal single mag holder is made with high-quality materials, ensuring it lasts long, stays sturdy, and remains a reliable tool in your arsenal. The Universal aspect of this product is a testament to its versatility, as it fits almost all pistols or mags. And let's talk about the fit - it's made for a purpose and designed to ensure that your magazines stay where they should. No more fumbling or worrying about your magazines falling out when you need them most. But what about the looks? Well, let's just say it's not an eyesore. It manages to blend form and function, seamlessly becoming a part of your daily arsenal. The fact that it's made in America by the best professionals in the field is a cherry on top. However, like any other product, it does have a small downside. The clip might take some getting used to, as it's a little bigger and wider than what most users would prefer. But it's a small cost to pay for a product that performs so magnificently. In conclusion, the C&G's Universal single mag holder is a top-notch product that delivers on its promises. It's a reliable and efficient accessory that makes holstering and retrieving your magazines a breeze. It might have a minor issue with the clip size, but overall, it's a must-have for anyone who wants to ensure their magazines stay secure and easily accessible. 🔗ZEV Technologies PRO Mag-well for Gen5 1911 Pistolshttps://preview.redd.it/vnyggy3mpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=385ec628406100d8d79a3fe8e071349ab4ac5f59 I recently added the Zev Magwell Pro Compact to my Glock 19 and was thrilled with the results. The one-piece design made installation a breeze, and the sleek low profile kept my gun looking sharp. The flared base made reloading a breeze, and the improved grip was a game-changer for my accuracy. However, I did need to trim the backstrap a bit to make it fit perfectly, but overall, I'm incredibly happy with this addition to my pistol. 🔗ESD Magwell: Enhancing Glock 17 G5 FDE Reloading Experiencehttps://preview.redd.it/m7gg4ylmpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2f9469d19554098e580fdf40a72be1c0dfc4b85c When I first tried the ESD Magwell for Glock 17 G5 FDE, I was intrigued by its sleek design. Every curve and angle on this magwell seemed to have been carefully crafted with a purpose. The ESD team has put a lot of thought into enhancing a shooter's capabilities using human-centered design. The magwell's symmetrical side cutouts made it incredibly simple to strip magazines, and it effortlessly handled both flush-fitting and extended options. While it might not be necessary for everyone, the ESD Magwell has certainly made my reloading experience more enjoyable and efficient, proving that sometimes, it's the little things that make a big difference. 🔗Walther PPQ Flared Magwell Aluminum Black Mag Accessoryhttps://preview.redd.it/en6s1aumpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dc8804b4d0e3230d159b40cea84715b28c101103 Imagine you're at the shooting range, ready to take on some targets with your trusty Walther PPQ. You reach for your magazine and find that the flared magwell is a game-changer for your aim. Made of strong aluminum, it's a perfect fit for your Walther PPQ, making magazine swaps a breeze. Plus, this magwell works with both steel and polymer frames. While it has its perks, there are a couple of things worth mentioning. First, be aware that this magwell doesn't work with PPQ Sub-Compact or PPQ45 models. Second, it may have fitting issues with some extended magazines. But overall, it's a reliable addition to your shooting setup, and you'll appreciate the extra boost it provides to your aim. 🔗Stainless Steel 188S Magwell for 1911 Pistolshttps://preview.redd.it/vmrj2d7npx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fbe674e85a70cd8301d7d2eb0c38f59df5242c27 I recently had the chance to try out the Wilson Combat Magazine Well Stainless Steel 1911 Magwell, and I have to say, it's been a game-changer in my shooting experience. The magnetic well is incredibly sturdy, and it's made entirely of stainless steel, ensuring its longevity. One thing that really stood out to me is the enhanced magazine compatibility the magwell provides. No more fumbling around to get the right fit - this magwell seamlessly fits most magazine designs, making it a breeze to reload. However, the installation process could be a bit tricky for beginners. It was a learning experience, but with the right tools and a bit of patience, I managed to get it working smoothly. Overall, I'm really happy with the performance of the Wilson Combat Magazine Well Stainless Steel 1911 Magwell. The improved magazine loading speed and enhanced compatibility make it a worthwhile investment for any serious shooter. 🔗Intelligently Engineered Canik TCS Compact Magwellhttps://preview.redd.it/6qllxfonpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2f1e46ec10cee412ddd9bbbc8eee26620714e218 I recently added the Canik TCS Compact Magwell Black to my 1911 handgun, and let me tell you, it has made a significant difference in my daily shooting experience. The sleek, black design not only looks impressive but also provides excellent grip and support while I'm on the range. The ergonomic shape of the extension makes it an absolute game-changer during long shooting sessions, preventing hand fatigue and ensuring a more comfortable hold. However, the TCS Compact Magwell Black isn't without its drawbacks. I've noticed that the weight distribution of the handgun has shifted slightly, making it a bit heavier overall. Additionally, the black color tends to attract dirt and dust more easily than other materials, requiring more frequent cleaning. All in all, the Canik TCS Compact Magwell Black is a high-quality extension that enhances both the aesthetics and functionality of my 1911 firearm. Despite the added weight and maintenance considerations, I would definitely recommend it as a worthwhile addition to any 1911 enthusiast's collection. 🔗Si STRIKE80 Magwell for Strike 80 Compact Frame Kithttps://preview.redd.it/0224z5ynpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2887ababacd1dc1e5cd03ba6e812fed7f0b8b0eb In my quest for the perfect magwell, I stumbled upon the Si STRIKE80 Magwell. With a sleek finish in black, it added an aesthetic charm to my Strike 80 compact frame kit. The fit was impeccable, with the magwell allowing my PMAGs to nestle flush against it, making the gun feel more refined. However, not everything was smooth sailing. On a few occasions, I faced issues with the magwell. Sometimes, I found it hard to seat the base plates of factory mags securely. It seemed like the magwell's design could have been more compatible with the base plates, resulting in a suboptimal user experience. Despite this, the Si STRIKE80 Magwell had some redeeming qualities. For one, it was a reliable magwell that didn't affect the functionality of the gun. Furthermore, it added a certain cool factor that matched well with the Strike 80's compact frame style. Overall, this magwell did its job when it came to accommodating the mag. However, the slight inconsistencies in its compatibility with base plates warranted some consideration. If you can overlook this issue, the Si STRIKE80 Magwell might just be the piece missing from your Strike 80 setup. 🔗Stainless Steel 1911 Magwell for Concealmenthttps://preview.redd.it/7wyiillopx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=62bf7c1bd5f7abd3b3d66bed930e6608b3052a68 I've been using the Wilson Bullet Proof Magwell Full SS for a while now, and I must say that it's quite impressive. This one-piece magwell is crafted from solid billet and CNC-Machined, making it durable and robust. Its stainless steel finish adds a touch of class to any 1911 pistol. What I really love about this magwell is its large internal opening. It ensures a smooth reloading process, making it perfect for competition or carry. The low profile, radiused outside contour is ideal for both. However, it does require some fitting to blend with pre-beveled frames. The variety of grip shapes available, along with precisely machined checkering, allows for a perfect match with your pistol. It's also compatible with most fine custom handguns. The flat mainspring model drops into most guns, while round butt models need frame contouring. Overall, despite the need for some fitting, the Wilson Bullet Proof Magwell Full SS is a top-quality product that enhances the functionality of your 1911. It's definitely a worthwhile investment for those looking to improve their pistol's performance. 🔗Enhanced Magwell for Glock 19/23 Pistolshttps://preview.redd.it/ysfah8vopx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dfd124b1d4d21b66219afadade92b815e125ef28 Recently I added the Reptilia Black Hole Poly Magwell to my trusty GLOCK - a game-changer for my reloading skills. It fits seamlessly with both Generation 3 and 4 frames, a true all-arounder. One of the standout features is the use of impact-modified reinforced nylon, and of course, it's made in the USA. It's compatible with 9mm and. 40-caliber GLOCK pistols but does not work with 10 round factory Glock magazines; however, it's perfect with Magpul 10 round mags. This magwell has made a notable difference in my shooting experience and I find myself reaching for it whenever I grab my GLOCK. It's been a reliable addition to my kit and highly recommended for GLOCK owners. 🔗1911 Magwell For SCT Polymer Glock Gen 3 Framehttps://preview.redd.it/4zaega6ppx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b3c8687e562af23ca27579e7d4b2f11d154ad519 I recently got my hands on the Magwell for SCT19 Polymer Glock Gen 3 Frame. As a gun enthusiast, I was intrigued by this accessory and decided to put it to the test in my daily life. The first thing that caught my eye was its sleek, outdoor green finish. It complemented my Glock perfectly and added a touch of class to my firearm. Using this Magwell, I noticed a significant improvement in the speed of my reloads. The ergonomic design allowed for a smoother movement, saving me precious seconds in critical situations. However, I did encounter a slight snag in the process – the Magwell wasn't quite compatible with my specific model, causing a minor inconvenience. Overall, the Magwell for SCT19 Polymer Glock Gen 3 Frame proved to be a reliable addition to my firearm. The speedy reloads it provided and the stylish finish it came with made it a worthwhile investment. But, I would urge fellow Glock users to double-check the compatibility before making a purchase to avoid any potential issues. 🔗Zev Technologies PRO Mag-well for 1911 - Enhance Shooting Consistency and Speedhttps://preview.redd.it/hwv1vbrppx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2fa1f93e2e1bbbd7a684d5515276d181a2ada917 Zev Magwell Pro has been a game-changer for me in my daily gun training. I love the flared, slightly wider design which aids in a smoother, faster magazine insertion. The lightweight aluminum construction feels sturdy and reliable, yet doesn't add any bulk to the Glock's balance. Installation was straightforward, even for a gun novice like me. The lack of set screws for a flush fit on the backstrap is a minor drawback, but it's not a deal-breaker. The improved reload speed and additional comfort it provides make it worth the small inconvenience. I highly recommend the Zev Magwell Pro to anyone looking to elevate their Glock's performance. Buyer's GuideWhen it comes to optimizing your 1911 handgun, there are a few key features you should be on the lookout for in a magwell. The magwell, or magazine well, is a modification that increases the speed at which you can reload your gun. It also makes it easier to grip and insert the magazine, crucial in high-pressure situations. In this buyer's guide, we will discuss important considerations and general advice when purchasing a 1911 magwell.Importance of Materialhttps://preview.redd.it/pzvp0pbrpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f1b63274990f88c7ff8681a3a3e33343aa5ee166 The magwell is often made from lightweight materials such as aluminum or carbon fiber, but it can also be made from steel. While steel may be more durable, it is heavier and could potentially slow down your draw. Consider the weight and the balance of your handgun when choosing the material for your magwell. Size and ShapeOne of the primary benefits of a magwell is the ease of magazine insertion and retrieval. Therefore, the size and shape of the magwell will impact its efficiency. Some magwells are designed to be larger, accommodating longer magazines or allowing for a quicker reload. Ensure that the magwell you're considering complements the height of your magazine and matches your personal preferred shape for grip comfort.Choke PortsChoke ports or adjustable choke tubes are sometimes integrated with magwells as part of a multi-functional kit. Choke ports provide the ability to alter the angle and tightness of your shotgun barrel, which can be advantageous for various shooting scenarios. Consider if you want these additional features or if you prefer a magwell strictly for the purpose of speeding up your reload time. https://preview.redd.it/4ikw0ajrpx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=852e3c7eb5849f071c61491b4fd57a9e12b6d94a IntegrationAvoid magwells that require extensive modifications or replacement of existing parts of your handgun to mount. The magwell should ideally be compatible with most standard 1911 frames and be easy to install. Check the manufacturer's specifications or consult user guides to ensure compatibility.PriceThere are various price points for 1911 magwells, reflecting differences in materials, functionality, and design. Consider your budget and ensure that the magwell you choose aligns with your expectations and requirements.Reviews and Ratingshttps://preview.redd.it/4v2jtj4spx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c19e7f20a435052fcf9885e24767f768be1e2c8d As with any purchased, it's always a good idea to read reviews and gather insights on the quality of a 1911 magwell before making your decision. Reviews from gun enthusiasts and experts can provide valuable feedback on the durability, efficiency, and overall performance of the magwell. Final ThoughtsA well-designed 1911 magwell can significantly improve the performance and efficiency of your handgun, especially in high-pressure or competitive shooting scenarios. When selecting a magwell, bear in mind the material, size and shape, integration, price, and reviews. With the right magwell, you can elevate your handgun to an optimal level for competitive performance or personal defense. Happy shooting!FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/fg2uapbspx3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2c61e075802b17497b09e7f78260503cacb815b3 What is a 1911 Magwell?A 1911 magwell is a type of aftermarket accessory designed to enhance the performance and functionality of the 1911 handgun. It is typically installed in place of the standard grip panel or attached to the gun's frame, providing an extended magazine well to improve the user's grip and facilitate faster reloads.What are the benefits of using a 1911 Magwell?
What types of materials are 1911 Magwells made of?1911 magwells can be made from various materials such as aluminum, steel, polymer, or a combination of these. The choice of material depends on the user's preferences, budget, and desired durability or weight reduction.How do I install a 1911 Magwell?Installing a 1911 magwell typically requires removing the existing grip panel or frame section, cleaning the surface, and applying adhesive or mechanical fasteners to secure the magwell in place. It is recommended to follow the manufacturer's installation instructions carefully to ensure proper fit and function.Are there any compatibility issues with 1911 Magwells?Some 1911 magwells may have compatibility issues with certain handguns, particularly those with modified frames or aftermarket components. It is essential to verify compatibility with the specific firearm before purchasing a magwell to avoid any potential fitting issues.What are the differences between 1911 Magwells from various manufacturers?
How do I maintain and clean my 1911 Magwell?To maintain and clean your 1911 magwell, simply wipe it down with a soft cloth to remove any dirt or debris. If there is any adhesive residue left from installation, use a mild solvent to remove it. Avoid using abrasive cleaners or scrubbers, which may damage the finish or surface.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.06.01 12:05 PickyPickMeUp A Moment of Light, a Lifetime of Darkness
We knew each other since primary school. We grew up together, playing video and board games. We lived on the same street, and would often hang out together after school. He was my best friend's brother.
We grew closer to each other when we became young adults. So close that it was confusing. Confusing because where I come from, same gender relationships are frowned upon. I eventually had to give in to marrying a young woman, but deep in my soul, I had unexplainable feelings for him.
My marriage started breaking down terribly after a few months, to the point where I found myself alone most of the time. Then, out of nowhere, he got in touch again. We met up and our love grew. We explored our feelings for one another. We confessed, we embraced, we celebrated, it was beautiful. For the first time in my life, I felt loved, cared for, and understood. I was with someone who knew every inch of me. I was with someone who protected me from the rest of the world, in a small, Pacific country where everyone else frowned upon couples of the same gender.
Then one evening, we met. I drove over 200 KMs to meet him and his brother - my best friend. We sat down, had some drinks, played board games - just like we did when we were kids. It was beautiful. We had so much fun. He laughed with us. He served us drinks. I wished him well before going back home. He had to travel to another town for work the following day.
I texted him like I was crazy the next day. He replied to a few of them, then his replies never came. I grew worried, but tried convincing myself that he might just be busy with work.
Around midnight, my phone rang. It was my best friend (his brother). I picked up. My heart stopped.
The love of my life hung himself in the day. I didn't know what to do. I was broken. Shattered, like the dreams he and I saw of living our lives together, far away from that country.
Still, I had to hide everything and be a best friend. His brother (and family) needed me, so I drove to his house. The memories of having met there the night before was haunting. Time had stood still.
It's been 4 years. I have relocated to another country and tried starting a new life, but that part of my life is still frozen in time. Not a single day goes by when I think about him. I wish he had called me - just once before he made that decision. I wish I could hold him once and tell him how everything would be alright. I wish I could hear him say my name one more time. I miss him. He has taken a part of me with him, and with me, he has left memories that will last a lifetime.
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We grew closer to each other when we became young adults. So close that it was confusing. Confusing because where I come from, same gender relationships are frowned upon. I eventually had to give in to marrying a young woman, but deep in my soul, I had unexplainable feelings for him.
My marriage started breaking down terribly after a few months, to the point where I found myself alone most of the time. Then, out of nowhere, he got in touch again. We met up and our love grew. We explored our feelings for one another. We confessed, we embraced, we celebrated, it was beautiful. For the first time in my life, I felt loved, cared for, and understood. I was with someone who knew every inch of me. I was with someone who protected me from the rest of the world, in a small, Pacific country where everyone else frowned upon couples of the same gender.
Then one evening, we met. I drove over 200 KMs to meet him and his brother - my best friend. We sat down, had some drinks, played board games - just like we did when we were kids. It was beautiful. We had so much fun. He laughed with us. He served us drinks. I wished him well before going back home. He had to travel to another town for work the following day.
I texted him like I was crazy the next day. He replied to a few of them, then his replies never came. I grew worried, but tried convincing myself that he might just be busy with work.
Around midnight, my phone rang. It was my best friend (his brother). I picked up. My heart stopped.
The love of my life hung himself in the day. I didn't know what to do. I was broken. Shattered, like the dreams he and I saw of living our lives together, far away from that country.
Still, I had to hide everything and be a best friend. His brother (and family) needed me, so I drove to his house. The memories of having met there the night before was haunting. Time had stood still.
It's been 4 years. I have relocated to another country and tried starting a new life, but that part of my life is still frozen in time. Not a single day goes by when I think about him. I wish he had called me - just once before he made that decision. I wish I could hold him once and tell him how everything would be alright. I wish I could hear him say my name one more time. I miss him. He has taken a part of me with him, and with me, he has left memories that will last a lifetime.
2024.06.01 12:05 EmyTheEmu After weeks of self isolation and suicidal thoughts, I planned a party that ruined my friendships
I’m in desperate need of advice and someone to listen. I’m writing this at 5am because I can’t sleep without this off my chest. I’ve been dealing with suicidal thoughts again since I got out of college for the summer. My depression was so crippling that I missed enough classes for me to be dismissed from school. This alone made me feel worthless but on top of that, I don’t have a summer job, I don’t impress my family at all, and I’m so depressed I don’t do much all day anyway. I increased my mental health meds but I only feel worse. I keep telling myself when it gets bad enough I’ll just end it and I think I might be there now. In a last ditch effort to prove that my friends love me and need me here I started planning a party with my bff because her dad is out of town. She asks me to invite a ton of people. So I do, and I know them from all different places too so none of them know each other. My dumb ass doesn’t think of that. Well pretty soon before the party my friend chickens out about having the party at her place and says we need to have it at the beach instead. I understand it and we go to the beach. We all meet up and about 6 people that were supposed to come couldn’t show up. On top of that, pretty much everyone didn’t bring the weed/ alcohol they promised to bring, the alcohol we did have tasted AWFUL, it was way colder than forecasted, there was a cop on our ass all night, AND my friend locked her keys in her car. It was the most awkward event I’ve ever attended and I was the host. I couldn’t keep a good conversation going with anyone and I kept misreading the room leading to weird situations. I gave my friends an awful night and proved to everyone why they don’t need me around. Everything feels like a sign that I need to end it. I just need advice. If you read the whole thing you’ve earned a place in my heart. :) thank you
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2024.06.01 12:05 thenigbigga Why are there so many Batman writers? What does it all mean?
I’m somewhat new to comics, and I’m just looking for some clarification on some of this stuff as im finding it easy to get lost. I understand I might have missed a lot of obvious stuff, I might not have looked in the right spot? I have a few (a lot) questions that may or may not be related so any insight is appreciated, thanks :))
Why are there so many different writers for Batman?? I understand the dc hiring n firing n whatever n ppl moving on to other stuff etc, but where do they all fit in? And are any of them needed for prior reading for others or can I really just read whatever the heck I want? Do I need to read all of Tom king to read chip zdarsky run? What abt James tynion? I enjoyed battle for the cowl (even tho I’ve seen ppl say it sucks?) so do I need to read all of final crisis to understand what’s going on there? Than after I read all that do I need to read everything tony s Daniel has put out? (Ik ofc not EVERYTHING, however what extent do I need to dive into his/others work to get a proper grasp on certain things. I saw he worked on detective comics 900-something, does that have any bearing on anything? Or is that its own thing?) From my understanding, the grant Morrison run mainly takes place after final crisis, as well as battle for the cowl, and has a lot of dickbats (I think that’s what ppl call him?? (Dick GraysonBatman)) which I’m interested in, but his run starts at like 600-something issues? Do I need to read 600+ issues of other stuff before that to understand the grant Morrison stuff? What are all the crisis’?? Crisis on infinite earths was like the 80s, but there’s infinite crisis omnibus in 2020? Does it take that long to make an omnibus? Is that related to final crisis at all? How does any of that relate to Scott Snyder run? How does Scott Snyder run relate to Scott Snyder dark knight metal? How does dark knight metal relate to dark knight DEATH metal? Flashpoint happened in 2011, Ik that flash went to a parallel earth with Thomas Wayne Batman, smt happened, rest the timeline, whatever, how tf is Thomas Wayne Batman in Tom king Batman run in like 2019?? I’m also extremely interested in the morbius chair wally west vs darkest knight, according to google I think it’s in dark nights death metal speed metal? I don’t see that listed in the dark night metal or dark night death metal omnibus’ at all, maybe I’m mistaken? Do those not have anything to do w that? It said somewhere here that frank miller dkr and jeph loeb long Halloween are good to read back to back? Is this in any way confirmed? Surely not every single one of these stories is the same Batman right? Do any of these questions make sense or am I missing something???
Now, all that being said, I understand that “u don’t have to read it chronologically” or whatever, I’m just trying to get a better understanding of the whole timeline(s?) I’m not freaking out over what goes where or anything I’m just a little confused on exactly how anything is connected, if at all, as well as just how convoluted it all is, and as I said, any insight is appreciated. I understand some of these may be stupid questions to yall, thank u for your patience 🫶
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Why are there so many different writers for Batman?? I understand the dc hiring n firing n whatever n ppl moving on to other stuff etc, but where do they all fit in? And are any of them needed for prior reading for others or can I really just read whatever the heck I want? Do I need to read all of Tom king to read chip zdarsky run? What abt James tynion? I enjoyed battle for the cowl (even tho I’ve seen ppl say it sucks?) so do I need to read all of final crisis to understand what’s going on there? Than after I read all that do I need to read everything tony s Daniel has put out? (Ik ofc not EVERYTHING, however what extent do I need to dive into his/others work to get a proper grasp on certain things. I saw he worked on detective comics 900-something, does that have any bearing on anything? Or is that its own thing?) From my understanding, the grant Morrison run mainly takes place after final crisis, as well as battle for the cowl, and has a lot of dickbats (I think that’s what ppl call him?? (Dick GraysonBatman)) which I’m interested in, but his run starts at like 600-something issues? Do I need to read 600+ issues of other stuff before that to understand the grant Morrison stuff? What are all the crisis’?? Crisis on infinite earths was like the 80s, but there’s infinite crisis omnibus in 2020? Does it take that long to make an omnibus? Is that related to final crisis at all? How does any of that relate to Scott Snyder run? How does Scott Snyder run relate to Scott Snyder dark knight metal? How does dark knight metal relate to dark knight DEATH metal? Flashpoint happened in 2011, Ik that flash went to a parallel earth with Thomas Wayne Batman, smt happened, rest the timeline, whatever, how tf is Thomas Wayne Batman in Tom king Batman run in like 2019?? I’m also extremely interested in the morbius chair wally west vs darkest knight, according to google I think it’s in dark nights death metal speed metal? I don’t see that listed in the dark night metal or dark night death metal omnibus’ at all, maybe I’m mistaken? Do those not have anything to do w that? It said somewhere here that frank miller dkr and jeph loeb long Halloween are good to read back to back? Is this in any way confirmed? Surely not every single one of these stories is the same Batman right? Do any of these questions make sense or am I missing something???
Now, all that being said, I understand that “u don’t have to read it chronologically” or whatever, I’m just trying to get a better understanding of the whole timeline(s?) I’m not freaking out over what goes where or anything I’m just a little confused on exactly how anything is connected, if at all, as well as just how convoluted it all is, and as I said, any insight is appreciated. I understand some of these may be stupid questions to yall, thank u for your patience 🫶