Basically I saw a video of a young girl who had to have her legs amputated and I thought it looked really cute (dont get me wrong i dont wish this upon anyone else i know its bad im sorry for her) And well I remembered how some time ago I wanted to have my legs gone too and other parts now I want it again after remembering it I think I'd be more comfortable without my legs. Im sure of it. I wont try to cut em off actually or get rid of them, just thoughts Im lying now thinking about how nice it would be

Friends, you must’ve seen a lot of porn videos of gangbang. But have you ever heard about gangbang in reality? Yes! You read it right. Because today in this story I am going to tell you about my true incident, My Reverse Gangbang in School. Now, before you judge this post...let me tell you that all characters are 18+ in this post.
Friends, this is about those days when I used to study in 7th class in school. There were only 4 girls in my class, who were my classmates. Those days it was the rainy season and due to the rain, there were only 5–6 children in the whole school because it was raining very heavily.
Our class used to be held on the 2nd floor and only two girls had came to my class. When I went to the class, both of them were shocked to see me and were a little scared too because both of them were French kissing each other.
Hey, what is this? In the process of writing the story, I forgot to tell you the names of those two girls who were doing lesbian in the class, I mean, they were doing French kissing while sitting on each other’s lap. Their names were Anshika Singh and Rihanna Parveen.
At first, I was a little scared, thinking that they might shout but they did not do so. At first, I composed myself and asked if I should tell the teacher what were you two doing a while ago. Both of them got scared and started requesting me, “Please don’t tell anyone anything, we’re ready to do whatever you say, just please don’t tell anyone about this”.
Then a naughty idea came to my mind and I told them, “Okay then if that is the case then whatever you both were doing a while ago, you do the same with me too, all three of us will enjoy together, what fun is there in doing it alone”.
At first, both of them started throwing tantrums but later both of them agreed. By now you must have understood that I took full advantage of this opportunity, the school in which I studied was a government school and you all know the condition of government schools. That day most of the teachers were on leave due to heavy rain and the ones who had come were sitting in the staff room. We used to have recess after the 4th period and the interesting thing is that we spent all four periods free and on top of that we had reached school a little early.
Friends, the most interesting part of the story starts now. So the boys take their cock in their hands and the girls start fingering their vagina.
First Anshika started kissing me on my lips while on the other hand, Rihanna caresses my cock from behind over the pants. I started caressing Anshika’s boobs over her skirt itself and after kissing for about 10 min, Rihanna opened the zip of my pants and started masturbating.
Then after a while, Anshika takes put my cock in her mouth and gives me a nice blowjob. In the midst of all this, we were also looking towards the class gate so that no one would come and see us in that situation. What can I tell you, friends, as much as we were having fun at that time, at the same time we were also feeling scared. But fortunately, no one saw us because the rain was getting so heavy that no teacher could come to the class because the staff room was downstairs and where our class is held, that is on the 2nd floor, except our class, all other classes were completely empty and we three kept having sex like this till lunch.
But we three were not completely naked, yes, I had just pulled my pants down a little and Anshika and Rihanna had pulled down their panties from under their skirts.
In the first period, I ejaculated in Anshika’s mouth and in the second period, Rihanna drank my semen. By the third and fourth periods, I drank the semen of both girls of my class. One thing I forgot to tell you was that both of them weren’t virgins because both of their pussies were a little loose. Their boyfriends might have broken their sheils.
No one in the school knew that there was someone in the upper class because during lunch, we three, that is, me, Anshika and Rihanna, took our bags and went to the toilet.
Now you must be thinking that I am a boy, then how did I go to the girls toilet? Actually, in the name of boys toilet, there is just a drain and a wall at the back which is open from all sides and for No. 2, one has to go to the girls toilet. Till the end, we three stay inside and do a threesome there.
There are a total of 6 rooms inside. We three go to the last one. Now we take off our clothes and put them in our bags. Now all three of us were completely naked in front of each other. Seeing both of them naked, my cock got rock-hard again.
Seeing my erect cock, Anshika says to me:-
Anshika, “Hey Tarun, what is this? Your penis has become erect again”
I, “Then you calm it down again”
Anshika, “Okay then, here you go again!”
Now Anshika sits down and starts sucking my penis and Rihanna starts kissing me while standing and I keep pressing her boobs. Rihanna’s nipples were a little hard and light brown in color and what can I say about Anshika, friends, Anshika’s nipples were soft like cotton and pink in color.
I was sucking and pressing the breasts of both of them one by one. Then after a while, I inserted my penis in her pussy and fucked her hard. After fucking for about half an hour, I don’t know when I ejaculated in her pussy. I was very scared that she might get pregnant. But luckily she had contraceptive pills.
This time I was shocked. When I asked her, she told me that she has a boyfriend. He was the one who broke her seal and Rihanna’s pussy was torn by her boyfriend. After this, without any fear, I kept fucking the pussy and ass of both of them till the end.
We left from there 1 hour after the end so that no one could see us. Now whenever we got a chance, we would play the pussy fucking game every day and give each other full pleasure.
The whole half hour of our lunch break was spent in fucking in the toilet. One day teacher saw me going to the girls toilet. I made an excuse that my stomach was upset and this is an open stage in the name of boys toilet. Either get the boys toilet arranged or let me go inside.
To be honest, I was afraid that she might get my medical test done but this did not happen and I kept having sex fun with Anshika and Rihanna. I studied in that school for at least three years and all these three years were spent having sex fun.
That day we had a farewell party as it was our last year in that school. Our program started at morning 8 am and continued till 12 noon. During the function, Anshika told me that her parents had gone out for a few days and she asked me to come to her place. I went to her house with Anshika after the school function.
I went there and saw that Rihanna was also there and with her were 28 more friends of Anshika and Rihanna. There were a total of 30 girls. I was not able to understand anything and then Rihanna explained to me that all of them also wanted to have sex with me. That was shocking for me. At first, I thought that she was kidding but she wasn’t.
It was my birthday that day. Anshika told me that this was my birthday present. That day I fucked 30 girls together. I called home and informed them that I would be late in coming home. After fucking all of them, we went to the bathroom to take a bath together.
There was a bathtub in Anshika’s house. I don’t know what came into those girls’ minds, they surrounded me from all sides and started fingering their pussies in front of me. I told them that I can’t do it anymore. Then Anshika brought a pill and asked me to eat it.
I don’t know what happened to me as soon as I ate it, I got excited and again those girls started fingering their pussy and I started licking their pussy while masturbating.
After 1 hour, all of them came on me one by one. They completely covered me with their cum as if I was completely immersed in a bathtub full of milk from head to toe and after some time I also came.
Then those girls licked me clean. Then we all took a bath and put on our clothes and after having a French kiss, we went to our homes. Anshika called her boyfriend to her home and both of them remained naked until her parents came.
Next, you all know what those two must’ve done for 2–3 days. Friends, how did you like this story of mine, please tell me by commenting.

So, this week, a video popped up on the UK comedian Russell Howard's Youtube channel, and Clair and James are in it talking to him about the family, the Vlogs and Horror films. Sadly, she's not wearing anything revealing, she's hiding those awesome breasts of hers under a baggy jumper.
What's strange is they've never told us what else they've done (aside from their own stuff or James doing more acting than Clair). Nothing on Clair's twitter about appearances in other Podcasts, magazine-shows (Like Lorraine where they plugged the podcast). In these interviews, it's almost like Clair's not allowed to speak about HER acting career, instead she's only allowed to plug the Podcast she and James do, the Vlogs or James' acting career but not hers.
Does anyone else fear that Clair's getting ignored or left out?

Darling, love, fumpa having mama... I have a real lawyer- I promise you and Pam can as the teens are saying SMD-
FarPresentation7665 11:46 PM Well interesting. I just saw a video Pam posted about the so called naked breast (boob as you so ignorantly state) she put in a child’s face. Not how that happened. So you see what you sent me is apparently false. Defamation ? I’m sure Pam’s lawyer would love to see this.

So I’d been having a really bad few weeks for non-transition-related reasons. Also I’m actually recovering right now from an FFS revision plus BBL and that’s going OK.
But I got misgendered repeatedly by different people @ the doctor’s office yesterday. It’s not my regular doctor or the surgeon’s office - both of those are cool - this wasn’t even for something transition related.
I’m not even holding it against them. They know my tea, I haven’t even changed my legal name yet but my chart has a place for preferred name and pronouns. It was the “honest mistake” form of misgendering - which actually hurts worse because it lets me know I don’t pass. I had taken an extra dose of gabapentin beforehand so I really didn’t care at the time. And anyway *I never say anything* when strangers misgender me. I know I *could* just politely correct them and move on but I don’t even want to do that. I’m naturally rather sweet and nice with people. And I’ve seen the videos of “It’s Ma’am” and Lilytino and I never want to be seen as that so I try to be the opposite.
It only hurts because I know now I *really* don’t pass - even after multiple surgeries - and probably won’t ever. It makes sense, all the sidelong glances and funny looks and unintelligible muttered comments and I know now that most people are just being nice to me when they gender me right. I realized this after I left. I was still pretty high on pills so I wasn’t really upset until later but it was a revelation and I got to thinking. What can I do about this?
To me, transition was never worth it to me if I couldn’t pass because I just want to be seen as a woman by the world and fit in that way. So by that criteria, my transition has failed. I don’t want to detransition. I’m still happier this way. Or I could just present male while still on HRT but I think I’d be miserable that way.
My first option is to make one last effort. I can get breast augmentation and lose a bunch more weight. I’ve lost 50 pounds since starting transition and maybe losing a bit more body mass would help me pass. And anyway I love the way skinny girls look in their skinny girl clothes - plus I’d get to wear skinny girl clothes. And skinny with big boobs is so beauty standards. I was (actually) anorexic in my early 20’s and I looked great. Now I’m 5’7”, [weight redacted], 36C and a 10 or 12 dress size but won’t know where I’ll be at when I’m healed up from the BBL.
I might get a second opinion on my FFS as well but I don’t want to go through such major surgery for another year, getting a boob job would be OK though. Also, I’m very happy with my FFS results so far and love the hips I got from the BBL. Like, to me, I finally look like the female version of me and that's wonderful.
My second option is to just not care. Like if I don’t care if people misgender me it can’t bother me right? I don’t have to pass. And as long as I can accept that most cis people don’t think I’m a real woman - even better. I’m unlucky in that I’m a straight trans woman on top of it. I already accept that my dating pool is severely limited and I’ve had problems with chasers in the past so I’m not dating now anyway. But I’d probably have to give up on ever having a husband and that really sucks. All this seems like a brilliant 4D chess move to me. I’d be sacrificing so much that is important to me but at least I’ll be happy in all other aspects of my life. The downside of course is that I’ll always make cis people uncomfortable and I’ll make many trans people uncomfortable as well, I’ll be an embarrassment to passing trans women and I’m sorry for that.
Anorexia or apathy? I can’t choose. Both, if the first option doesn’t work.
...advice would be appreciated...

I (31M) am an adult survivor of SA and Munchausen’s-by-proxy at the hands of my (65F) mother. Wee were extremely close when I was under the age of about 8, but I do not recall a time in my life when she was not trying to take me down a peg (e.g. telling 5-year-old me that films were the only important thing in my life, screaming at me worse than the father from the "We're Not Gonna Take It" music video for breaking my diet in public when I was 9, telling BS stories to her trashy friends that I was nonverbal when in fact I had started talking at 9 months and have not slowed down since, sending someone to “fetch” me at my own HS graduation in the most degrading way possible, because I was wading through a bunch of congratulatory friends after my valedictory address, even slipping me gastrointestinal poison (possibly arsenic) on dozens of occasions, starting probably in infancy--will spare you the gory details). My (74M) father has been wrapped around her little finger from day one (the paternity question is another ball of wax, but suffice to say I have reason to believe that either she and her best friend’s husband were messing around, or she used Rohypnol or suchlike on him, and that she used this to baby-trap my dad). From grade six to the middle of junior year of HS, I planned to call CPS if things got too out of hand—I only JUST restrained myself in the middle of junior year after one acrimonious fight, after which I resolved to slug out the remaining year-and-a-half, for my dad’s sake. She was as gross and handsy and deprecating as ever, but I continued to tune her out and to keep hammering away at the diplomas/degrees.
We came to an amicable truce, which we had slowly built over the next 12 or so years. That came to a screeching halt in 2020, when I reconnected with an old friend from kindergarten and I realized that she had abused my classmates in similar ways. My then-fiancee’s nephew was slightly younger than we had been at the time, and so I went no-contact with her immediately, for his sake.
Now, according to more than one family friend, she has stage III breast cancer. My dad will not tell me anything because she refuses to allow him to, though he does vaguely hint that he wishes estrangement “could give way.” (He was resistant to even discussing what I had said about the SA when I first told him what was going on and sent the no-contact letter to my mom. I do not get BS vibes from these family friends, though I have told my dad that I know (he presumably was not allowed to respond and we did not return to the subject over the phone).) I feel immensely sorry for him, but I honestly am not ready to face her. I want to tell her I forgive her, and I miss the better person I thought she had changed into whenever Mother’s Day rolls around. I did bend a little bit by including her in the holiday gifts I sent over, but I couldn't bring myself to do the same for Mother's Day. I have no idea how to approach the subject of her illness if she does not wish me to know, however, and I would want to make it clear that this was a make-our-peace visit, in the event that she ever lets my dad disclose her condition. If she doesn’t, I honestly do not want to proceed with any such plan without that understanding in place. So AITA?

Been watching old episodes and Roger straight up sucks 1.) He told her in Snooki & Jwoww she should be with Tom (the guy who stole money from her, her watch, her hard drive and left her dogs in the house to die) 2.) The episode where he pushed her down by the neck and she fractured ankle and he says she deserved it and never apologized and gaslight her into apologizing 3.) When he made breakfast on their anniversary a few days after Jenni gave birth to Meilani and Jenni was still Postpartum and Jenni wanted to d her makeup and feel nice and Jenni asks if it was his idea and Roger explodes and slams doors at Jenni while he's holding baby Meilani and then he leaves Jenni with Meilani and takes off is truck 4.) He made her drink her own breast milk and put it in her coffee and made her think it was creamer 5.) In Snooki & Jwoww a few weeks after she gave birth to Meilani she says she was taking off her makeup after a long day and Roger comes in and pretty much forced himself on her while she's still Postpartum and wasn't taking no for an answer and Jenni screamed 6.) There's videos on YouTube of him openly admitting to cheating on her with a married woman while she's having a mental break down and she's hysterically crying 7.) There's also a video on YouTube of him slapping her and choke slamming her in the kitchen as their kids screamed 8.) He teamed up with Tom and another abusive ex to try to scare Jenni 9.) He contacted Jenni's ex from her college years who brutally beat her to the point of hospitalization 10.) He gave their son glutten, knowing he couldn't have any.
Just examples of how I think Roger sucks. My opinions, feel free to disagree.

I had a difficult labor and ended up having C section with severe blood loss , transfusions etc etc so even before I could hold my baby they gave a bottle in the OR and fed him while I was helpless. After moving to room I saw nurse explaining my husband about formula and they kept going. As a FTM I had no clue I must ask for breastfeeding orelse they would assume I preferred formula. So I started pumping on day 3 but could only make 5 ml of colostrum. But now baby don’t know how to latch . He tried n tired and settled with bottle as LC at hospital was rushing and was of no help. 2weeks in I booked an LC at home and some how she said for one visit she could only teach for once breast to latch and he did finally latch and oh god the immense satisfaction and pleasure you get and the baby while breastfeeding is beautiful. But now he won’t latch on other side ( difficult side-right) but I trued and landed up with bad latch hurting nipples. So I continued feeding on one side pumping on other. When she came after 3 weeks as only then she was available tried to teach me latch with a different method on right and he was doing great . But doc said he isn’t going weight n I must pump to see how much he is taking Now I just feed for few mins and then give bottle of pumped milk. This went till next two weeks and his weight was normal but I was scared to loose milk supply so kept pumping and also combo feeding . He actually refused bottle many times but dad wanted to feed so we pushed ( HUGE MISTAKE). This went on till 4 months and I realized maybe I should size up nipple and gave size 2 and same time gave a pacifier ( after hospital,this was at home for first time) !! And that’s it He loved the fast flow and has been refusing breast. As I was pumping I thought it was okay for few days as I read it’s normal but no he won’t take breast at all . Unless he is sleeping. Everyday I’m putting him at breast , skin to skin sometimes and showered together twice nothings working. He is now 6 months and I’m very sad and I want to just ebf which was my idea all along and dint even know about pumping coming from a different country. I just dunno why I even introduced bottles or anything.
Anyone who went exclusively breastfeeding after combo feeding like me ? That too at 5-6 months age ?? I’m using nipple shield sometimes but I hate pumping. I’m okay to pump to maintain supply but I want him to nurse with me. I want to see my bub eagerly wanted to nurse and fall asleep. Nurse to sleep. I would do anything to get him to nurse. I also bought haaka sns but haven’t used it. I pump around 40-50 once a day so it’s not about low supply either. I’m raging at bottles and this system which pushed me to pumping over bf. I cry even watching a video of animals happily nursing their babies why do I have to go through this pain? Will sns work ? Btw I switched back to size 1 nipple which he hates but still won’t take breast .he used to accept in sleep but now even in sleep he realizes and refuses.
Sorry for the long post and rant . ADHD mom with no meds since pregnancy so please be kind and gentle with my thoughts and if my post seems messy with thoughts all over.
Kindly help !! Can I go back to nursing ? Anyone did at this stage ?

Bring back sexy armor options in video games.
I love big breasted, tiny tummied, fat ass, computer generated womanly perfection and the more "skin" they show, the better! However, I don't look down on real women who don't have these qualities because that would be delusional. Like why is virtual sexuality a problem but not violence? It's not, they're both fine. Most people are rational and not THAT impressionable...
I'm a chubby, mildly balding, pasty skinned freak and I do not want to see a guy that looks like me as the main character in a video game. I wanna see a dude that's ripped and actually looks like a capable fighter, but don't stop there! Why can't he have an iron banana hammock that somehow protects his bare muscular chest and oiled up washboard abs? Of course that kind of armor wouldn't be viable irl, but it's not real life ffs...
I can't stand people who compare video games to real life. It's about looking cool and sexy. It truly doesn't hurt anyone and it's only misogynistic if they only sexualize women. That would be a problem and I get why people initially had problems with games like that. I just think they settled on the wrong solution by taking away instead of giving more...

Alright so for this story there is a lot of context to know that’s necessary. First of all, me and the girl I’m talking about are both 15. We started talking when we both started high school and eventually got into a talking stage, which was on and off usually just for stupid reasons which we could both laugh about later on. About 1.5 years ago she started opening up to me about her depression. She told me things like harming herself etc. I was always there for her and eventually convinced her to talk to a teacher about it. Later she got into a relationship with a boy, but he treated her terribly and even though she told him about everything going on with her he tried manipulating her into sending pictures and stuff like that and started spreading lies about her. Eventually they broke up and she told her parents about her depression and self-harm. When all of this was happening I was always there for her and tried helping her however I could. Later on she decided that it would be better if me and her wouldn’t have any contact for a while so she could use all of her limited energy on herself an trying to get better. Over the next year me and her were talking sometimes throughout the year and since december of last year we have been talking daily and we started to catch feelings for each other again. She also told me stuff like how she tried to commit suicide multiple times last year. One day, she didn’t respond to my messages and when I asked her what happened she told me that she was in the hospital because she tried to OD. A few days later she got out and me and her hung out a few days later with another friend of her. Then a few days later we hung out again, went bowling, I watched her football/soccer match and we were basically together all day with a few other friends of her. At the end of the day we kissed for the first time and I went home. We decided to see each other again a few days later and it was amazing. We were in her room all day making out the entire time, basically just a cringy teenage relationship. She took her shirt off and we just continued what we were doing and after a while I asked her if she would be comfortable taking off her bra as well, and she said that she didn’t want to do it now, which I responded to that that’s totally okay and that I completely understand it. We continued what we were doing again and eventually she was basically laying on top of me while we were making out and she started pushing my head down to her breasts and I was kissing her body all the way down there. She held my head while I was down there and basically pushed me against them, so one one breast, I slightly pulled down her bra and started kissing her there for a few seconds and then went back up again. She still seemed completely comfortable and I asked her if she made up her mind and she nodded with a big smile on her face. We just continue making out and eventually I had to go to my football training. After I left she told me that she had an absolutely amazing time and that that day was perfect and her best day ever. She also sent me some of those corny tiktoks (that’s something we do often) and some of then where things like “touchy gf + touchy bf >>>” and stuff like that. She didn’t respond for a while and later that night she told me that she tried to kill herself again and that she would be admitted to a mental hospital. This is about the 4th time she tried it but this time she definitely got the closest to actually having it happen. She told me that she wouldn’t be able to keep up a relationship which I completely understood. She promised me that once this is all over that we would go back to what we had. We continued to just talk over the phone while she was there and we were still telling each other “I love you” and sending each other those corny tiktoks. She felt completely miserable in there and I tried being there for her and was sending her sweet texts every day. Some of those cringy tiktoks were things like “I’m craving you so much” which she responded “Soon I’m all yours again” to and “Once I get 1 kiss I need a 100 more” which she responded “Once I’m out there will be a lot of more kissed for you” and one that basically said that we should just marry which she responded “In three years” to. So basically we were still in love with each other and doing what cringy teenagers do. Eventually she told me that she completely lost all hope in life and that she’s only pretending to still have hope so that she’ll get out so she can do something again. I felt terrible hearing this and decided to tell her parents about this and they were very grateful. Of course she was angry at me at first, which is completely understandable but I know that it was for the better. She eventually forgave me but decided that we should have a little bit less contact now and eventually we stopped having contact. I though that this was because she didn’t want people to care about her too much so that it wouldn’t hurt them a lot if she dies, and she confirmed this later. Eventually she told me that we can have contact again but limited because she has to stick all of her energy into getting better, and I respected this of course. This also ended shortly and all of our contact now basically existed with me responding to her reposts on tiktok, assuring her she’s beautiful (because that was the main reason of her depression, basically hating herself and her body) etc. Eventually she reposted a video about that just had some dates in it (dates as in feb. 11 for example) and it included the last day that we were together. I looked in the comments and saw people talking about those days like they were amazing dates, so I thought that that were her intentions for that repost as well, so I responded to her that it was the best day of my life. Of course I didn’t mean the last part of the day, but just the part that me and her were together. She got mad at me because I understood it wrong and she told me that it wouldn’t work out between us and that we should stop having contact. She has already been back home for a few weeks now by the way. Yesterday, I saw a repost of her that was about being SA’d and I responded saying that this is very serious and I asked her who did this to her. Later she told me that it was about us and I was completely shocked. She told me that when I slightly pulled her bra down she just froze and let it happen and I just didn’t understand. She told me that it was the best day of her life, she immediately started making out with me for like an hour after it happened, she told me she loved me, after I left she told her parents that we were dating, she sent me those corny tiktoks, she told me that we’d marry in 3 three years when we’re both 18, she told me that once she’s back she’s all mine again, after I left she was with one of her friends and told her all about what happened and how amazing it was and she promised me that whatever happens, that we’d go back to what we had. Who would do things like that after feeling like she just got SA’d? She now told me that she would leave it at this if I stopped texting her, but I’m still scared to death that she’ll take this any further. She can ruin my life with these accusations. Was I in the wrong? And would should I do now? Is she just remembering it wrong because of everything else going on?

Alright so for this story there is a lot of context to know that’s necessary. First of all, me and the girl I’m talking about are both 15. We started talking when we both started high school and eventually got into a talking stage, which was on and off usually just for stupid reasons which we could both laugh about later on. About 1.5 years ago she started opening up to me about her depression. She told me things like harming herself etc. I was always there for her and eventually convinced her to talk to a teacher about it. Later she got into a relationship with a boy, but he treated her terribly and even though she told him about everything going on with her he tried manipulating her into sending pictures and stuff like that and started spreading lies about her. Eventually they broke up and she told her parents about her depression and self-harm. When all of this was happening I was always there for her and tried helping her however I could. Later on she decided that it would be better if me and her wouldn’t have any contact for a while so she could use all of her limited energy on herself an trying to get better. Over the next year me and her were talking sometimes throughout the year and since december of last year we have been talking daily and we started to catch feelings for each other again. She also told me stuff like how she tried to commit suicide multiple times last year. One day, she didn’t respond to my messages and when I asked her what happened she told me that she was in the hospital because she tried to OD. A few days later she got out and me and her hung out a few days later with another friend of her. Then a few days later we hung out again, went bowling, I watched her football/soccer match and we were basically together all day with a few other friends of her. At the end of the day we kissed for the first time and I went home. We decided to see each other again a few days later and it was amazing. We were in her room all day making out the entire time, basically just a cringy teenage relationship. She took her shirt off and we just continued what we were doing and after a while I asked her if she would be comfortable taking off her bra as well, and she said that she didn’t want to do it now, which I responded to that that’s totally okay and that I completely understand it. We continued what we were doing again and eventually she was basically laying on top of me while we were making out and she started pushing my head down to her breasts and I was kissing her body all the way down there. She held my head while I was down there and basically pushed me against them, so one one breast, I slightly pulled down her bra and started kissing her there for a few seconds and then went back up again. She still seemed completely comfortable and I asked her if she made up her mind and she nodded with a big smile on her face. We just continue making out and eventually I had to go to my football training. After I left she told me that she had an absolutely amazing time and that that day was perfect and her best day ever. She also sent me some of those corny tiktoks (that’s something we do often) and some of then where things like “touchy gf + touchy bf >>>” and stuff like that. She didn’t respond for a while and later that night she told me that she tried to kill herself again and that she would be admitted to a mental hospital. This is about the 4th time she tried it but this time she definitely got the closest to actually having it happen. She told me that she wouldn’t be able to keep up a relationship which I completely understood. She promised me that once this is all over that we would go back to what we had. We continued to just talk over the phone while she was there and we were still telling each other “I love you” and sending each other those corny tiktoks. She felt completely miserable in there and I tried being there for her and was sending her sweet texts every day. Some of those cringy tiktoks were things like “I’m craving you so much” which she responded “Soon I’m all yours again” to and “Once I get 1 kiss I need a 100 more” which she responded “Once I’m out there will be a lot of more kissed for you” and one that basically said that we should just marry which she responded “In three years” to. So basically we were still in love with each other and doing what cringy teenagers do. Eventually she told me that she completely lost all hope in life and that she’s only pretending to still have hope so that she’ll get out so she can do something again. I felt terrible hearing this and decided to tell her parents about this and they were very grateful. Of course she was angry at me at first, which is completely understandable but I know that it was for the better. She eventually forgave me but decided that we should have a little bit less contact now and eventually we stopped having contact. I though that this was because she didn’t want people to care about her too much so that it wouldn’t hurt them a lot if she dies, and she confirmed this later. Eventually she told me that we can have contact again but limited because she has to stick all of her energy into getting better, and I respected this of course. This also ended shortly and all of our contact now basically existed with me responding to her reposts on tiktok, assuring her she’s beautiful (because that was the main reason of her depression, basically hating herself and her body) etc. Eventually she reposted a video about that just had some dates in it (dates as in feb. 11 for example) and it included the last day that we were together. I looked in the comments and saw people talking about those days like they were amazing dates, so I thought that that were her intentions for that repost as well, so I responded to her that it was the best day of my life. Of course I didn’t mean the last part of the day, but just the part that me and her were together. She got mad at me because I understood it wrong and she told me that it wouldn’t work out between us and that we should stop having contact. She has already been back home for a few weeks now by the way. Yesterday, I saw a repost of her that was about being SA’d and I responded saying that this is very serious and I asked her who did this to her. Later she told me that it was about us and I was completely shocked. She told me that when I slightly pulled her bra down she just froze and let it happen and I just didn’t understand. She told me that it was the best day of her life, she immediately started making out with me for like an hour after it happened, she told me she loved me, after I left she told her parents that we were dating, she sent me those corny tiktoks, she told me that we’d marry in 3 three years when we’re both 18, she told me that once she’s back she’s all mine again, after I left she was with one of her friends and told her all about what happened and how amazing it was and she promised me that whatever happens, that we’d go back to what we had. Who would do things like that after feeling like she just got SA’d? She now told me that she would leave it at this if I stopped texting her, but I’m still scared to death that she’ll take this any further. She can ruin my life with these accusations. Was I in the wrong? And would should I do now? Is she just remembering it wrong because of everything else going on?

Alright so for this story there is a lot of context to know that’s necessary. First of all, me and the girl I’m talking about are both 15. We started talking when we both started high school and eventually got into a talking stage, which was on and off usually just for stupid reasons which we could both laugh about later on. About 1.5 years ago she started opening up to me about her depression. She told me things like harming herself etc. I was always there for her and eventually convinced her to talk to a teacher about it. Later she got into a relationship with a boy, but he treated her terribly and even though she told him about everything going on with her he tried manipulating her into sending pictures and stuff like that and started spreading lies about her. Eventually they broke up and she told her parents about her depression and self-harm. When all of this was happening I was always there for her and tried helping her however I could. Later on she decided that it would be better if me and her wouldn’t have any contact for a while so she could use all of her limited energy on herself an trying to get better. Over the next year me and her were talking sometimes throughout the year and since december of last year we have been talking daily and we started to catch feelings for each other again. She also told me stuff like how she tried to commit suicide multiple times last year. One day, she didn’t respond to my messages and when I asked her what happened she told me that she was in the hospital because she tried to OD. A few days later she got out and me and her hung out a few days later with another friend of her. Then a few days later we hung out again, went bowling, I watched her football/soccer match and we were basically together all day with a few other friends of her. At the end of the day we kissed for the first time and I went home. We decided to see each other again a few days later and it was amazing. We were in her room all day making out the entire time, basically just a cringy teenage relationship. She took her shirt off and we just continued what we were doing and after a while I asked her if she would be comfortable taking off her bra as well, and she said that she didn’t want to do it now, which I responded to that that’s totally okay and that I completely understand it. We continued what we were doing again and eventually she was basically laying on top of me while we were making out and she started pushing my head down to her breasts and I was kissing her body all the way down there. She held my head while I was down there and basically pushed me against them, so one one breast, I slightly pulled down her bra and started kissing her there for a few seconds and then went back up again. She still seemed completely comfortable and I asked her if she made up her mind and she nodded with a big smile on her face. We just continue making out and eventually I had to go to my football training. After I left she told me that she had an absolutely amazing time and that that day was perfect and her best day ever. She also sent me some of those corny tiktoks (that’s something we do often) and some of then where things like “touchy gf + touchy bf >>>” and stuff like that. She didn’t respond for a while and later that night she told me that she tried to kill herself again and that she would be admitted to a mental hospital. This is about the 4th time she tried it but this time she definitely got the closest to actually having it happen. She told me that she wouldn’t be able to keep up a relationship which I completely understood. She promised me that once this is all over that we would go back to what we had. We continued to just talk over the phone while she was there and we were still telling each other “I love you” and sending each other those corny tiktoks. She felt completely miserable in there and I tried being there for her and was sending her sweet texts every day. Some of those cringy tiktoks were things like “I’m craving you so much” which she responded “Soon I’m all yours again” to and “Once I get 1 kiss I need a 100 more” which she responded “Once I’m out there will be a lot of more kissed for you” and one that basically said that we should just marry which she responded “In three years” to. So basically we were still in love with each other and doing what cringy teenagers do. Eventually she told me that she completely lost all hope in life and that she’s only pretending to still have hope so that she’ll get out so she can do something again. I felt terrible hearing this and decided to tell her parents about this and they were very grateful. Of course she was angry at me at first, which is completely understandable but I know that it was for the better. She eventually forgave me but decided that we should have a little bit less contact now and eventually we stopped having contact. I though that this was because she didn’t want people to care about her too much so that it wouldn’t hurt them a lot if she dies, and she confirmed this later. Eventually she told me that we can have contact again but limited because she has to stick all of her energy into getting better, and I respected this of course. This also ended shortly and all of our contact now basically existed with me responding to her reposts on tiktok, assuring her she’s beautiful (because that was the main reason of her depression, basically hating herself and her body) etc. Eventually she reposted a video about that just had some dates in it (dates as in feb. 11 for example) and it included the last day that we were together. I looked in the comments and saw people talking about those days like they were amazing dates, so I thought that that were her intentions for that repost as well, so I responded to her that it was the best day of my life. Of course I didn’t mean the last part of the day, but just the part that me and her were together. She got mad at me because I understood it wrong and she told me that it wouldn’t work out between us and that we should stop having contact. She has already been back home for a few weeks now by the way. Yesterday, I saw a repost of her that was about being SA’d and I responded saying that this is very serious and I asked her who did this to her. Later she told me that it was about us and I was completely shocked. She told me that when I slightly pulled her bra down she just froze and let it happen and I just didn’t understand. She told me that it was the best day of her life, she immediately started making out with me for like an hour after it happened, she told me she loved me, after I left she told her parents that we were dating, she sent me those corny tiktoks, she told me that we’d marry in 3 three years when we’re both 18, she told me that once she’s back she’s all mine again, after I left she was with one of her friends and told her all about what happened and how amazing it was and she promised me that whatever happens, that we’d go back to what we had. Who would do things like that after feeling like she just got SA’d? She now told me that she would leave it at this if I stopped texting her, but I’m still scared to death that she’ll take this any further. She can ruin my life with these accusations. Was I in the wrong? And would should I do now? Is she just remembering it wrong because of everything else going on?

Hello! I'm a surgeon and I'm doing an European formation about the surgical practice for oncologic disease. This formation talk about all cancer (esophagus, colorectal, pancreas, ovaries, breast,...)
I know a little bit about the digestive tract, but I don't have a lot of knowledge about the rest.
Does any one have a little textbook/YouTube video/easy article that could the summarise the Big guidelines for each cancer ? I don't have a lot of time to dive in details...
Thank you !!!

This post is inspired by the reviews of Alex Tilinca's training I've seen on this subreddit. I searched and saw no one has really reviewed Devon's one on one training, so I thought I would just to help people out. This is going to be a long one. As the title says, I'll be providing a review of Devon Spears' one on one personal training.
Before I get into it, I want to make some things clear:

1. I am a current client of Devon, and am reviewing as I am one month into working together with him. He didn't ask me to write this, he doesn't know I'm doing this, I'm not paid to promote him and I'm not an influencer lol. I will explain everything necessary to know about his process, and as such if he sees this he may be able to figure out who I am. I'm fine with that, but I just wanted to have that disclaimer (and if he asks me to remove some information, I will.)
2. I will be explaining how and why I choose Devon, which is just as important as the actual process of working with him. I feel this will be helpful in guiding others who may be looking for a trainer, to have an idea of how one person came to their own decision. During this part, I will also explain other trainers I've interacted with that you all may know. Let me be clear: when mentioning these trainers, I am in no way bashing them, or their services. In fact, in every interaction I'll list, I had a relatively pleasant experience. Any issues I may mention with my experiences is personal, and has nothing to do with these people as persons. They are only there to provide context onto how and why I chose to train with Devon. So forgive me for the rambling lol, I promise it's relevant to the review.
3. Just in case anyone asks or is curious, I have no idea really who Alex Tilinca is, beyond the ads I've seen for his training on IG and the reviews I saw on this subreddit. I don't follow him, know him/his personality, couldn't tell him from a can of paint (respectfully). I say this to be clear that I'm not comparing Devon to Alex (or vice versa) even though I mentioned being inspired by the reviews of Alex. I just thought to review Devon because of the reviews I read of Alex.

Alright, with that out of the way:

How and Why

So first, I just want to explain my background/ my how and why I chose Devon. This is important to what I was looking for in a trainer. I'm athletic and always have been, but never played on a sports team besides ultimate frisbee in high school. I always loved the gym and weightlifting, that was a passion of mine, but being AFAB no one in my area was interested in really helping me learn and develop that so I stuck to a lot of self study and inconsistent gym workouts. I had a NASM textbook I would study from top to bottom in high school, but again, very inconsistent in putting it to practice. Would watch YouTube videos on exercise, bodybuilding, gym culture in general. That's all to say, I had a lot of knowledge but didn't know how to well apply it to myself.
A couple years back (like literally weeks before covid hit), around the time I was figuring out I was trans-something, I bought a workout plan from Sahara Gentry. At that time if I'm remembering correctly, Sahara hadn't publicly come out as trans (and neither had I). I was fresh in college, scrawny (about 130lbs consistently). I only mention this because my mindset was, "I too want to be a buff lesbian", and that's what inspired me to both follow Sahara and purchase the plan. The plan was only about $35 dollars, very affordable, the transaction was done through DMs, and everything (plan and a nutrition guide iirc) was emailed to me. However when I tried to do the plan I felt very overwhelmed. It was a very heavy bodybuilder centric plan, intense and not beginner friendly or tailored to me at all (as expected.) And while Sahara had offered to review my forms, I don't recall ever taking him up on the offer. In fact, I did that workout plan maybe 4 times, and had to modify it for my scrawny weak body.
The pandemic hits and we're all indoors. At some point I realize I want to try another trainer-- this time, I sign up for BodyByDaddy's training. If I remember correctly, it was advertised that there would be community where all of BBD's clients could talk and connect with one another. That's what appealed to me as I hoped that would keep me accountable. However, in actuality, I didn't have any attachment to anyone in the group and as such ignored when messages were sent and rarely followed the plan. I was also severely depressed at this time, so I don't fault anyone for that. But I can only ever remember getting one message from BBD the entire time I was in the training, which I think was 2-3 months long (memory is funky from then lol). BBD was checking in to see why I wasn't working out lol. I quit the next day.
When the pandemic loosens up (and therapy tightens down), I go back to campus and am determined to get my body together. I was serious. I picked up a P/P/L split from AthleanX and followed that program religiously for months. It was a very basic program, but it was free, and from that I built an athletic foundation that allowed me to lift more than 10lbs for lifts lol. This is also when I start microdosing T. But two things: 1) although I did this, I wasn't tracking or taking care of my nutrition. Just fuck it we ball, lol. 2) After 5 months on the program, I was hungry for more. The gains I saw on it were good strength wise, and my body looked nice, but it wasn't what I wanted. I wasn't looking like Jeff Cavalier lol. This is when I stop following a trainer and start figuring things out for myself.
After a while of that, I manage to get my weight up to 150lbs which was a miracle in my eyes. I had no real idea of how to track macros fr, was a struggling college student that ate varying degrees of cooked chicken breast, rice, broccoli everyday, so I became aware as I tried to elevate on my own that there was a limit to my knowledge and that I needed a mentor to guide me. Then I fall off of training for a while (like 7 months). When I graduate college, I know I'm transmasc, I know my body isn't what I want it to be, and I know firmly I want a personal trainer for real. It takes a while for me to get to actually looking for a trainer because of a big move and a lot of other stuff, so in the meanwhile I subscribe to Jeff Logan's playbook. Jeff Logan, if you don't know, is a real beast and warrior -- his workouts are intense**.** The workout I followed was advanced muscle building, which was a bodybuilder split athletic workout where everyday was PAINNNN but muscle development was rapid. But it tired me out so bad I knew I couldn't keep it up. And, while Jeff Logan's body is tea (and he knows it too lol) his body was built as a cis man who played football since he was young, trained intensely, benched 505 lbs twice, almost went to the NFL, then slimmed down. For a transmasc like me following a generic plan with him, I wasn't going to get to his physique. And his physique is damn near my goal.
So by the point of me finally being ready to look for a personal trainer, I know several key things:

• My goal physique, and what I want to look like
• What I like and don't like (I don't like bodybuilder splits. I do like PPL splits)
• That I'm looking for a mentor to help me learn
• That I don't know shit about nutrition
• That I don't really care for a community
• That I don't want a pre-made, generic, one size fits all plan. I want something tailored to me and my goals.
• And, that I'm realizing trans bodybuilding IS different from cis bodybuilding, and that I have to take that into account if I want to get where I want to be efficiently.

(As a side note, that last part made me more aware of biology affects my training results.)
So because of that last point, I decide to look back at trans trainers. I didn't really look far. Didn't consider BBD again tbh (not trans afaik, and I wanted someone who understood transmasc identity and what its like yknow) so my only real option at that point was Sahara. Sahara's a cool dude! I love his content, he's approachable, relatable. Ended up on the phone with him and he offered me a spot in his new one on one training system. It was actually cheap, maybe a $200 for 3 months? I don't remember. His system also had the community feature like BBD's (I think) and he may have mentioned otp using the same company as Alex Tilinca to develop the platform (but don't quote me on this-- remember that I have no idea who this dude is, Sahara said a name then "popular trans bodybuilder", I said idk that guy and now months later I'm doing my best to remember for you all lol.) Mostly due to personal reasons I didn't accept at the time. But also, I looked at his clients' progress as well as his own -- and realized that although Sahara is a cool dude, his results didn't align with my goals. And I want to achieve my goals, not take a detour on the way there.
Couple months pass, and that's when I stumble upon Devon. Devon's body is great, his content is informative, and he had a cool personality. His body being close to my goal physique is what really made me decide to reach out, and I thought to do one month at first to get a feel for who Devon is as a trainer. Also, his clients' progress was DEFINITELY aligned with what I was going for. As such, I reached out to him.
So without further ado, here is the review of the training (finally lol):

Review of Devon's All Inclusive Training

First, you have to apply to his training by filling out a google doc. You tell him your goals, motivations, etc and what you're looking for. He basically decides from that if he wants to work with you and then reaches out to you via email. After I filled out the form, which I honestly didn't expect to hear back about for a week, he had emailed me the next day. I told him my goals (build muscle, reach a certain weight, etc.) and then he and I spent a week corresponding (with me asking questions, clarifying, and him doing the same) before we finalized working with one another (mainly due to time zone differences and my own vacation I took at the time-- Devon bro I'm sorry I would have waited to fill out the form if I knew you would email me so fast lol). (For anyone looking for a trainer, I advise you to ask as many detailed questions as possible before sending over money. I personally want my trainer to fit me like my Jordans -- perfectly, and I should look fly as hell because I got you with me. I questioned him to make sure all the points I laid out above about what I wanted out of my experience weren't just met, but exceeded. Devon was very prompt and detailed in his explanations, which helped me to feel like this was a relationship I wanted.
Devon's training cycles for all inclusive training are offered in 3 packages: 1 month, 3 month, and 6 months. 1 month is $200/month, 3 months is $525/month and 6 months is $765/month. So bundling saves you $75 for 3 months and $135 for 6 months -- 12 - 15% discount for bundling. If you are ever training with him and have to stop for any reason, he does allow you to pause and resume training, so long as you communicate with him. So for example, if you have a 3 month bundle and then say, top surgery falls in the middle of that, he will let you pause during your surgery/recovery and then resume when you're good.
I opted for all inclusive training because as I mentioned before my nutrition was lacking (and I was eating wingstop nearly daily) and I felt like that was the missing piece of my puzzle. Within a week of payment I had my training plan, my meal plan, my supplement guide, a copy of his cookbook that he sells (recipes are fire btw) and a custom check in google form. Unlike the other trainers I used, Devon communicates through WhatsApp one-on-one -- there's no group chat of all of his clients (afaik) or third party training platform like playbook. We use the app Hevy to log training, MyNetDiary for logging macros and that's...pretty much it. I actually really like this set up. It makes me feel as though Devon and I are actually building a relationship, and it feels so simple and less like there's a wall between us. I can message Devon at any time about literally anything -- but I try to keep it related to training lol. And for me, like I mentioned before, I don't really need to feel like I'm in a "community". That doesn't do much for me, at least where I am right now in my life. But that mentor relationship is important for me, to have guidance and a relationship, and this feels perfect in that regard.
My training plan is set up according to my PPL preference. Devon looked up the gym chain I go to and tailored my exercises around the machines commonly at that gym -- he's GOATed for that level of detail. The workouts take me about an hour to complete every day (if I'm not distracted or waiting for machines) and an hour and a half at the latest. There are notes on how to best increase the difficulty or set up the exercises. I feel I leave every workout with a noticeable pump.
My meal plan is a bit simple -- he gave me macros to follow for our current phase of training, I do my best to follow them. Adjusting to this has been a bit of a challenge, but Devon has been there giving advice and guiding me in where I fall short. When I started following his cookbook, I got better at doing this. Still not perfect, but we're making progress.
Both plans have "[My name]'s [Training/Meal] Plan" across the top, which makes it pretty clear that everything is tailored to me.
I can confidently say after one month of following his training plan pretty consistently and getting on the meal plan, I have noticed changes in my body. We're keeping my weight the same right now, and I've been at the same weight for roughly a few weeks now. I have noticed that despite not changing weight at all, I am less fat and more muscle. I look skinner than I did when I was 135, but it's all muscle! Even my friends have noticed, which is typically not usual -- I heard someone say once only you notice your gym changes in a month, your friends at 3 months, and the world at 6 months. So for my friends to notice in a month even though I'm the exact same weight -- yeah Devon really raw.
Every week I have to fill out my check in google form and submit progress photos, form videos, etc. The google form is manually edited by him every week to reflect things we've talked about over the week or just in general ask about how I am. It's very nice and feels personal because it is. Based on my responses to the google form, he'll send me videos discussing my answers, asking to clarify, and giving me more guidance. He's always very extremely chill during this, and he's super understanding. He meets me where I'm at. If I don't respond to something by mistake, he checks in and clarifies. And he's always open to hearing what I have to say. If I have questions he answers and he's modified my plan on the spot based on what I've told him. He really does fulfill that mentor role extremely well. He won't do the work for me, but he does encourage and keep me accountable to what I want to achieve, and that's what's really helped me during this month.
Based on the form videos I send, he'll send me over videos either explaining corrections (with demonstrations) or showing me how to better engage the muscles (with demonstrations). He's very detailed, scientific, and it's just easy to tell that he knows what he's talking about and isn't just trying to make it seem like he does because he has a lot of followers. Also, he's a trainer that calls out the good things. There have been times I fell short, and he'll hold me accountable for that. Then, when I make the changes (or if I make any incremental positive change) he'll call it out even in passing. "Good job, you did this." Even if I didn't realize it myself. That extremely supportive atmosphere is what I'm here for, and it's what pushes me to continue working with him. As a client, he really meshes well with me. If you notice, he checks all the marks I set out to have, and even more.
Honestly, all in all, my experience with Devon so far is a 19/10. He shows up, he shows out, and I don't feel stagnated and frustrated as a result. I'm always learning, still growing, and I feel like every day I incrementally make progress with him. I've never had such an experience with anyone else, and honestly feel as if I'm like Ryan Terry or Brandon Hendrickson with a dedicated coach for me lol. Anyways, if you made it this far thanks for reading. If anyone has any questions, I'll try to answer what I can.

An Analysis of Global Sex Trafficking
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Globalization has caused collective economic devastation that has stripped whole countries of their non-sexual assets forcing young women into prostitution, often on purpose.

1. Globalization’s neoliberal market economy, transnational movement, consumerist agenda, and feminization of poverty have created a breeding ground for sex trafficking. I posit that globalization’s effects on (particularly “developing”) economies, such as Thailand, and the environment has created a supply and easy movement of trafficked women and children; that Western-dominated and patriarchal approaches contribute to a feminization of poverty and gendered division of labor, which includes sexual services; and that the commodification of the female (and child) body through the mass media has increased a demand for sex trafficking.

Sweden’s approach targets the demand and refuses to victim blame having a strictly abolitionist approach.

1. Finally, I argue that Sweden’s approach represents the best practice toward ameliorating sex trafficking by targeting the demand.

Traffickers use violence, threats, coercion and murder to instill fear in victims. Globalization increases violence, threats, coercion and murder in areas that traffick in the most prostitutes globally. Washington state may be one such instance.

1. Sex trafficking victims suffer physical, psychological, and economic abuse in this modern-day slavery; traffickers use violence, threats, coercion, and murder to instill fear in victims. Why have an increasing number of women and children (mostly girls) fallen victims to sex trafficking? This article analyzes sex trafficking and its connections with globalization, and then considers what policy approach best serves to deter this gender-based crime.

The true problem lies with the buyers, the customers, and the 99% purchasers being men

1. “[W]e can see where the true problem lies—it lies with the buyers, the customers, the men” (Torrey, 2004; 74). In short, inclusion of controls on demand for the sex trade is the keystone to drafting improved legislation to combat sex trafficking.

Sex trafficking is a form of violence against women and girls.

1. Primarily victimizing females, sex trafficking is a form of violence against women, and feminist theory calls for an examination of all violence against women and girls

Sex industry has been kept invisible to allow for rationalization of its continuance clearly in the public eye

1. Why has demand for the sex industry been afforded a near invisibility in policy and research (Salter 2003; 4, 76)? Since heteropatriarchy “privileges heterosexual, promiscuous masculinity,” feminist theory can challenge the demand for sexual services of women and children (Kempadoo, 2004; 9).

Colonialization includes a superiority-inferiority narrative used to rationalize rape and human trafficking as something that “doesn’t count” or “is deserved”.

1. Socialist feminism can critique the commodification of the female body that supports this demand; Third World feminism can bring insight into sex trafficking as a continuance of colonial industry that exploits females on the basis of race, class, and nationality.

Women face an imbalance of power which increases as the demand for sexual services increases. This is usually hegemonized through horrific financial gaps.

1. I utilize an abolitionist feminist perspective toward the sex industry, which profits from a demand for sexual services supplied mostly by women, who face an imbalance of power within a patriarchal system. This demand for sexual services fuels sex trafficking

Globalization, through trying to source cheap labor, has fueled human trafficking and normalized it everywhere where labor trafficking and sex trafficking intersect for cheap services.

1. Globalization’s international trade with a neoliberal market economy, its transnational movement through outsourcing and processing zones, its consumerist agenda, and its feminization of poverty (especially in developing nations) and labor (particularly exploiting women of color) 3 have created a breeding ground for sex trafficking.

Traffickers benefit from corrupt authorities and may pay off investigators to keep trafficking. They may even install particularly corrupt investigators to not investigate obvious human trafficking

1. effects on (particularly “developing”) economies and the environment has created a supply of women and children to be trafficked, and an easy movement of people by traffickers, who benefit from corrupt authorities

Commodification of the woman has increased demand by men often fed by powerless exotic women with no capital and no access to schooling that will provide the defenses they need from this predation.

1. commodification of the female (and child) body through the mass media and the Internet has increased a “demand” by men for sexual commodities at the expense of “others,” especially “foreign, exotic” women.

Increasing economic inequality and disadvantaging the poorest of the poor purposefully takes away all money-created assets a person has to force them into selling their bodies.

1. While the feminization of poverty and gender-based violence exist worldwide, environmental injustice and unfair economic policies disproportionately harm poor women and girls in developing nations. A system favoring developed nations in the name of globalization, which promotes “free” trade, contributes to global sex trafficking by increasing economic inequality and disadvantaging the “poorest of the poor.”

Globalization devastated the local land so that Thai people could not rely on the land to survive and had to begin sex trafficking to survive.

1. One may examine Thailand’s environmental destruction to understand globalization’s increase in migration and urbanization, which contribute to sex trafficking. Transnational corporations in need of land for fast-growing trees (like rubber and eucalyptus) or industrial shrimp farms for their own harvesting have been displacing indigenous Thai people (who typically lack land titles) from their homelands, causing deforestation, flooding from soil erosion, and a lack of food and resources (such as mushrooms and fish) to sell for the local people’s income

Loan and debt creation was the primary entry red flag into being a target for human trafficking

1. One elder Thai woman explained how the market economy encroached upon villages, creating a consumer culture, luring the youth to the city, and creating a loan and debt cycle for people who wanted more market economy goods as propelled by the media (Usher, 1994; 16). After the military presence during the Vietnam War and the resulting sex tourism industry, more young women and girls left their villages to sell their bodies (all they had left to sell in the market economy) to support their poor families back home, because they could no longer produce sufficient food from the environmentally damaged lands and they were forcefully removed from other lands,

China trafficks Thai, Myanmar, Macau and Vietnamese peoples to Western nations as “exotic” luxuries. Up to two million people, including children, are being fed to this demand by Western nations

1. In addition to environmental injustice that disadvantages people within developing nations, such as Thailand, globalization’s “opening” of borders for goods and “products” includes people, thereby increasing opportunities for sex trafficking through lax controls and checks. Traffickers easily move victims across borders into and out of Thailand, a supplier and user of sex trafficking victims. In China, for instance, women and children are trafficked across regional borders into Thailand, Myanmar, Macau, and Vietnam, as well as from Thailand to Western nations for the sex trade. Statistics vary on Thailand’s sex industry, but they range from 86,000 to two million women and children prostituting in this global sex market (Usher, 2004; 18).

The Contagion in 1997 forced Thailand to devalue their currency which then couldn’t support their people. They then applied for an IMF loan that imposed policies and debt upon the Thai people that paved the way for human trafficking.

1. some, while harming the interests of many local people. In 1997, the Contagion (part of the Asian financial crisis) first struck Thailand, forcing the Thai government to devalue their currency, causing a rapid decline in salaries, job losses, and setting the scene for an IMF loan, which imposed policies and a debt upon the Thai government.5

IMF used this debt to control their policies

1. This neocolonialism destabilized their economies, made them poorer, devalued their currencies, forced them to borrow and become indebted, thereby allowing the IMF and other lenders to control their national policies. In December 1997, the Contagion reached Korea, which turned to the IMF when it neared default on Japanese and U.S. loans. Due to pressure, the banks rolled over their loans and Korea received the largest loan, $55 billion, in world history from the U.S.

There is definitely a pattern of causing financial crises in a country and then moving in to create a trafficking market there

1. “Countries as diverse as Vietnam, Cuba, and those in Eastern Europe and the former Soviet Union—all beset by acute financial crises while becoming market economies in varying degrees—are witnessing a tremendous increase in trafficking and prostitution”

Thailand attempts to pay off debts imposed through rigid ignorance of the differences between types of countries by prostituting women. Debt and debt servicing starts the machine of human sex trafficking.

1. By not fairly including developing nations in the global economy and essentially closing markets to them in the guise of IMF-World Bank-WTO policies, we fail to ameliorate an economic cause of global sex trafficking. Prostitution through sex tourism has become one of Thailand’s major financial resources as it helps the government pay off debts, which form a part of the cycle of economic abuse in globalization. Indeed, Saskia Sassen states, “Debt and debt servicing problems have become a systemic feature of the developing world since the 1980s” causing the creation of “shadow” or illicit economies of globalization (Saunders, 2004; 94). In order to combat sex trafficking, the global community should eliminate economic policies that create conditions ripe for an illicit sex trade.

Officials are bought off and are disturbing indifferent. In fact in Vietnam, 70% of people caught in sex acts are police. An Australian diplomat was another one.

1. 6 corruption among law enforcement officials and government agencies plays a key role in the successful operation of the criminal networks that traffic in human slave labor (King, 2004; 20). Officials can be bought off, laws against trafficking are weak in many countries, and attitudes7 toward violence against women are indifferent at best in many places. In Vietnam, “70% of those caught in brothels are reported to be state officials” (Enriquez, 2006; 4). Corruption exists within all nations, but rather than placing full blame on local officials, we must also hold non-locals colluding in sex trafficking accountable. For instance, “[f]ormer Australian diplomat Robert Michael Scoble was arrested March 2004 in Thailand in a joint operation conducted by the Royal Thai Police and Australian Federal Police…charged for promoting Thailand for sex tourism, child pornography, and trafficking of boys” (Cullen, 2004).

Young girls are “initiated” into prostitution by their pimp surprise raping them. Seeking help they are returned to their pimps and beat. The pimp convinced the girl of her worthlessness and tried to convince her she deserved her fate.

1. Sold at the age of fourteen to a brothel, Siri was “initiated” into the sex industry by a pimp raping her.8 She was now a prostitute—a sex slave. Though she escaped and sought help, a policeman returned Siri to the brothel owner, who beat her; brothel owners pay police to ignore sex trafficking. Physically enslaved and sexually servicing about three hundred men per month, Siri also suffered psychological abuse. “It did not take long for the pimp to convince Siri of her worthlessness, and for Siri to accept the view of herself as a mere female who deserved her fate” (King, 2004; 26). Like Siri, trafficked women and girls are victims of a modern slavery, aided by corrupt authorities, including government workers, and the new global economy’s circuits and movement of money and people.

Men in the military will try to attract women to their barracks; that failing they will actually kidnap them. That failing, they will sexually abuse their own female compatriots.

1. d a push for sex tourism to fulfill the demand of a hypermasculine and market-driven ideology that permeates globalization. Despite an increased supply of women drawn into the sex industry due to economic conditions under globalization, “this ‘supply’ would never be used for sex trafficking purposes without the creation of demand” (Nikolic-Ristanovic, no date; 1). In general, men in armed forces (whether “armies, militias, or groups of bandits”) either “attract commercial sex workers to their barracks, kidnap women [and girls] from villages to provide sexual services in their camps, or harass women serving in their own ranks” (Silliman, 1999; 96). The Balkans, for example, reveals a rise in sex trafficking due to the military presence during and after the ethnic conflicts, and calls attention to the corruption involved in the sex trade, as United Nations and NATO 9 forces committed sex trafficking crimes in the Balkans.

These behaviors lead to an increase in prostitution wherever these militaries are found.

1. The presence of a military base in a region, regardless of war, expands prostitution, thereby creating a larger demand for sex trafficking as evidenced in the Philippines and Korea.

During the Vietnam war this hid under the narrative of rest and relaxation.

1. During the Vietnam War, the U.S. Department of Defense had a contract with the Thai government to provide "Recreation & Relaxation" [R&R or “rest and relaxation”] for U.S. soldiers. With money from the U.S. government, local Thai prostitution organized and expanded into a major industry

Here men are supposed to control others and act like pimps and acts like they are entitled to their bodies in a way they are not.

1. Hypermasculine denotes a sense of entitlement to women, the “Other” (Beauvoir, 1949), and a violent masculinity (like militaries) aimed at controlling others.10 Enriquez (2006) critiques the framework of globalization as masculinist based “on the gender division of labour, with women subsidizing reproductive work, and with neo-liberalism basing itself on the idea of competitiveness and domination” (Enriquez, 2006; 1). Heteropatriarchy encourages a viewpoint of masculinity that endorses men’s domination over and entitlement to women’s bodies, and certain groups of women fare worse due to race or other factors.

Women in both the North and South are purposefully disadvantage economically to make them vulnerable to human sex trafficking

1. While recognizing a greater impoverishment in the global South, Enriquez links patriarchy, capitalism, and economic inequality in the North and South, stressing that in both hemispheres women are disadvantaged economically and are harmed by globalization more than their male counterparts

Extremes of sexual receptivity are enforced on targets of sex trafficking, women and girls being groomed for sex trafficking, or actual human sex trafficking victims

1. “In Western industrialized societies, hegemonic masculinity is characterized by work in the paid labor market, the subordination of women and girls, heterosexism and the driven and uncontrollable sexuality of men” (NikolicRistanovic, no date; 4). Further connecting “hegemonic masculinity” to a demand for women’s sexual services, Robert Connell stresses that “emphasized femininity complements hegemonic masculinity,” which emphasizes the “sexual receptivity” of “younger women” (Nikolic-Ristanovic, no date; 4).

Governments profit from the pimping of women when male demand and economies in crisis coincide

1. Male demand, female inequality, and economies in crisis—among other factors—lie at the nexus of sex trafficking” (Hynes, 2002; 197). Governments, depending on the illicit economy of the sex trade, profit from the pimping of women (Saunders, 2004; 91).

Australia and Netherlands have legalized prostitution which ironically drives a huge market to bring in “exotic” new women whose homes and lives are destroyed to displace them to meet the demand

1. The increasing demand for the global sex industry. The governments of Australia and the Netherlands have benefited from the lucrative sex trafficking economy by legalizing prostitution, which creates a demand for the illegal recruitment of women from the global South.

Japan and Australia are loathe to investigate because their economies make so much money on it. This may lead to unconscionable representation.

1. In Australia, where prostitution has been legalized, the government seeks to maintain its new “taxpaying, profitable sex industry,” by denying sex trafficking and saying they have only a problem with illegal immigration (Torrey, 2004; 71). In 1999, a brothel owner in Australia profited “at least $1.2 million from the services of” 40 trafficked Thai women, and licensed brothels in Victoria, Australia, reportedly “earned around $1 million a week from the sex slave trade” (Cwikel, 2005; 315). Within “Japan, the world’s second largest economy, the sex trade brings in $400 million per year” (King, 2004; 21).

Criminal groups are turning to women as high-profit, low risk commodity. They literally refer to them as a commodity.

1. Yet, sex tourism is incredibly profitable for governments that unofficially accept or legalize prostitution, and “criminal groups are turning to women as a high-profit, low-risk ‘commodity’” (Weiss, 2002; 2).

A horrifying phenomenon has been witnessed where if a woman goes to the police or doesn’t want to be trafficked anymore they may try to make some final money on her in a snuff film.

1. Globalization’s commodification of the female (and child) body through the mass media, pornography, and the Internet has increased a demand for sexual commodities at the expense of the “Other,” especially “foreign, exotic” women. Within a market-driven, masculinist economy, sex trafficking thrives by treating women and girls as cold-cash commodities, which unlike drugs, can be sold for many years at a high profit to criminal networks. Yet, due to a large supply of poor women, trafficking victims are disposable products. If a woman complains too much, she is killed or sold to another brothel, and some women, particularly women of color, are raped and killed in “snuff” videos.

Pornography increased the commodification of women and callousness towards women.It increases the demand to levels that would not be so high without it.

1. “The more the subjects were exposed to pornography, the more they showed callousness towards women, the less they believed in the women’s liberation movement, and the less time they thought rapists should spend in jail” (Torrey, 2004; addendum 4). Some feminists argue that pornography objectifies women and increases the demand for the sex industry, which then uses sex trafficking to satisfy the increased demand (MacKinnon, 2005).

Auctions of men considering a woman and seeing if they want to buy her happen repeatedly and often, horrifyingly enough

1. In a photo by Kimberlee Acquaro for a sex trafficking article (Landesman, 2004; 24-35), a young girl stands outside a hotel in Mexico, surrounded by a circle of men of various occupations, deciding whether or not they want to purchase her body. Such a sex “auction” presents this girl as a commodity to fulfill a heteropatriarchal demand

Johns possess a neo--colonialist mentally that permits sexual violence that viewed women as products to satisfy them

1. Reflecting a sense of entitlement to women’s bodies, this neo-colonialist mentality of johns permits sexual violence similar to that perpetrated by colonial slave owners, who viewed purchased women as promiscuous products to sexually satisfy them (Eisenstein, 2004; 88).

99% of clients in the sex trade are male

1. “Ninety-nine per cent of clients in the sex trade are male. Boys are trained to be offenders and girls to be victims” (Seabrook, 2001; 168).

An article on prostitution saw weaponized fact checking that increased threefold when speaking on a store that included human sex trafficking, and false reasons for eliminating criticizing the demand side, showing extreme rationalization. Clearly trying to squash the story.

1. Many have participated in the sex industry at some point, so examining demand leads many to question their own involvement in or indifference to the sexual exploitation of women and children.12 The resistance to examining the demand side of the sex industry is evident in Peter Landesman’s testimony. At a human trafficking conference at the College of Notre Dame of Maryland, Landesman (2004) stated that his sex trafficking article (published in the The New York Times Magazine in 2004) was greatly criticized by men, including four prominent journalists “whose names most Americans would recognize.” It took three weeks of fact-checking his article rather than the regular one week maximum fact-check typically required. Lastly, he was told by the (male) editors that he could not research and write an article about the “demand side” for their magazine. Demand, of course, would focus on the men who demand sexual services from women and children (mostly girls). This refusal by editors to consider publishing the demand side of sex trafficking exemplifies the lack of questioning regarding the demand that contributes to a profitable, gender-based crime within a masculinist economy

Johns created demand by saying that was the girls’ only way of eating. They showed no intelligence in getting them schooling and jobs that could generate lifetime capital that was mutually healthy for everyone involved, especially the girls. They claim the girls would starve to death if they didn’t do this. Taking away food is a way to force them into sex trafficking.

1. The majority of global sex trafficking victims are from Third World countries, and Western johns create a demand for sex workers during business, military, or tourist trips. One U.S. john says of his trips to Thailand, “These girls gotta eat, don’t they? I’m putting bread on their plate…They’d starve to death unless they whored” (Torrey, 2004; 31).

Women are so disrespected by society that even when prostitutes, they need pimps to be respected whereas men who engage in the exact same prostitute behaviors do not run the same problems.

1. While poverty is certainly part of the supply side, poor men in Third World nations are not trafficked for sexual purposes as women are, and most men who prostitute do not have pimps as opposed to most women prostitutes.

Selling white women as Russian and white eastern European women garner the “highest profit” for traffickers showing that an influx of these types with no safety nets suggest an extremely illegal human trafficking “investment”

1. While Russian “Natashas” and white eastern European women garner the “highest profits” for traffickers, “[g]lobally, prostitution and sex trafficking victims are overwhelmingly female, overwhelmingly women of color, and overwhelmingly poor” (Torrey, 2004; 27). Racism and economic inequality exist between who supplies the majority of “sexual services” and who demands them (Kempadoo, 2007; 138-139). Many johns believe that “what you do to a foreign woman is different, it doesn’t count” (Seabrook, 2001; 89).

Photos of bare-breasted girls were illegally distributed to drive tourism to an area. Truly disgusting.

1. Globalization creates a growing competition within the sex industry that demands an “import” of “younger and younger women from more ‘exotic’ backgrounds, thus victimizing our indigenous or aboriginal girls” (Enriquez, no date; 4). While living and working in Ethiopia (2005), I learned that indigenous girls from a southern Ethiopian tribe had been abducted and found in brothels. Based on my observations, several tourism billboards and posters throughout the capital and large towns seem to sexualize these culturally bare-breasted girls, whose poses or looks at times could appear to men as sexually inviting—yet, I did not see posters of this tribe’s women or males, cultural icons in their own right.14

Slave owners tried to gain total access to slaves and rationalized it with inferiority narratives that were enforced by stripping them of their right to equal justice in the courts as an enforcement of the rationalizations that facilitated their sex trafficking.

1. In the colonization of the Caribbean, white slave owners had the “right to total sexual access to slaves…and concubinage and prostitution were institutionalized”; such sexual arrangements indicated an “inferiority” of “the conquered and colonized non-Western Others” (Kempadoo, 2004; 30-31). Similarly, prostitutes are the sex trade’s inferior “Other.”16

Sweden criminalizes pimps, brothel owners, recruiters and transporters as the ones who demand services.

1. Instead of criminalizing the prostitute, Sweden utilizes a “trafficking paradigm,” in which the johns, “pimps, brothel owners, recruiters, [and] transporters” are criminalized as “the ones who demand services, are enriched by the proceeds of commercial sex, and are the ones who control, and often even enslave, the women providers” (Schauer, 2006; 159).

Sweden has a successful democracy that full cooperates in ending human sex trafficking for the most part.

1. Seeking a “democratic society where full gender equality is the norm,” Sweden has a history of activism “against prostitution and trafficking” (Ekberg, 2004; 1188). Moreover, there is a history of collaboration between the public and private sectors: the government, including the Division for Gender Equality, public authorities, the women’s and shelter movements, and other NGOs (Ekberg, 2004; 1190).

Traffickers still hide in clandestine locations but it has successfully become unattractive to human traffickers, protecting and valuing its own

1. While traffickers may hide women in clandestine locations, “Sweden no longer is an attractive market for traffickers” due to its abolitionist policy against the demand for prostitution, which relies on the sex trade (Ekberg, 2004; 1200).

Neocolonialist policies imposed on developing nations have created debt

1. “Neocolonialist” policies imposed on developing nations have created debt and contributed to the feminization of poverty associated with global sex trafficking. U.S. media “accounts have generally lacked an analysis of the structures that account for women being trafficked into prostitution, namely, the global sex industry, the subordination of women, the gendered labor market, and the multiple economic crises and inequalities that underlie women’s lives” (Hynes, 2002; 200). Further, increased immigration controls in a global economy that demands migration will contribute to a reliance on “traffickers to cross the border,” thereby increasing women’s chances of becoming sexual slaves (Saunders, 2004; 99).

US doesn’t examine itself or other countries like Saudi Arabia for being part of creating demand

1. Western “powers” like the United States rank23 developing nations in a paternalistic, “unilateral” fashion regarding their efforts to reduce sex trafficking. Yet, the U.S. does not fairly rank certain (militarily or economically strategic) nations, such as Saudi Arabia, nor the U.S. itself, for their part in creating and continuing sex trafficking, and until 2005, the U.S. did not significantly address demand, such as whether or not a country “encourag[es] sex tourism” (Tiefenbrun, 2006-2007; 270-271).

Most women don’t have a chance, pimped and put up for sale the second they run away from childhood sex abuse

1. . Lastly, I acknowledge that some women may choose to enter sex work, but based on research, the majority of "consenting" sex workers do so for economic survival and/or based on past abuse (Cwikel, 2005; 307-308). Childhood sexual abuse is common for females in the sex industry. OJJDP (2003) reports that a large percentage of prostitutes ran away from sexual abuse. While many poor and/or abused women do not choose sex work, others may view it as their only or best choice given their circumstances/experiences that socially construct their identities and options within a patriarchal system.

Most prostitutes are extreme victims of DV, abused, threatened and killed if they try to leave. Strippers forced to have sex with their clients are common, and punished if they don’t act enthusiastic. They are broken in through rape and stripping.

1. Many assume that prostitutes choose to prostitute and can leave whenever they want. Based on my experience with Helping Individual Prostitutes Survive (H.I.P.S.) in Washington, D.C. (1996-1997) and other social work (domestic and international), I disagree with that assumption, because many prostitutes are trafficked from their hometowns, coerced/ forced to prostitute, abused, threatened, and killed if they try to leave. Domestic trafficking may include strippers who are forced to have sexual relations with customers/owners, or runaways who enter an abusive relationship with a recruiter, who first "breaks her in" for prostitution through rape and/or stripping. Moreover, since the sex industry is gendered in terms of supply and demand, it presents its exceptions of women who enjoy sex work

Forced slavery is at its greatest when there are weak economies and war in destabilized regions

1. King (2004; 9) writes, "The profit potential of forced slavery is at its greatest when there are weak economies and war in destabilized regions."

Initially, men try to evade new laws on prostitution citing they would be too difficult to enforce. However, when they spend time with the John school material, defending the atrocious becomes pretty much impossible and most of them want to walk back their original defenses of the situation.

1. improve enforcement of prostitution/ trafficking laws. In Sweden, police (mostly men) were "being asked to enforce a [new anti-prostitution] law that seriously threatens traditional male values" (Ekberg, 2004; 1196). Thus, police representatives were initially "critical of the law, suggesting that it would be difficult to enforce" (1196). Yet, after receiving education on prostitution and trafficking, including its violence, their attitudes changed and the "initial criticism of the law as being difficult to enforce has ceased" (1196). In contrast to the norms or attitudes promoted by Sweden's Law, "[i]n countries where prostitution is legalized or tolerated, the idea that women are objects for male sexual pleasure and, therefore, can be sold and bought, is normalized" (1197). Tiefenbrun (2006; 270) agrees that "cultural attitudes" are important and "can be changed."

Raping girls is seen to break the girls, and pimps often deliberately father children with the women not out of interest in a relationship but to have collateral to leverage with them. Initiation rapes are often videotaped to blackmail the girls into servitude and distributed, often under false and unrelated narratives, to keep the girl being groomed/trafficked in line. She is told not to “grow roots” so that she can’t get help in any given city. If she does stay, she is constantly removed to different residences or everyone she talks to is isolated and turned against her.

1. 8 Based on my experience with H.I.P.S., raping girls is a common initiation by pimps and traffickers to "break" the girls, and pimps often deliberately father children, so the children can be used to keep the prostituted mothers in line. Initiation rapes or forced sexual services are often videotaped to blackmail the girl into servitude. She must "work off' her debt through prostitution until the pimp/traffickers are finished with her body; she is often traded from city to city to ensure that she does not become familiar with her surroundings or people who may enable her escape.

NATO forces were seen engaging in prostitution as were UN peacekeepers, trying to keep it from coming to light that the women weren’t trafficked so that they could abide by vague and permissive laws that said they would allow it as long as it wasn’t clear or not whether the girls were being trafficked, incentivizing extremes of court corruption and evidence hiding.

1. UN peacekeepers have "engag[ed] in sexual misconduct while deployed" in Cambodia, East Timor, W. Africa, Bosnia-Herzegovina; NATO's Stabilization Force included soldiers involved in "actually ‘buying' trafficked women and actively participating in the trafficking of women into prostitution by forging documents, recruiting, and selling women to brothel owners" (Alfred, 2006; 6-7). Dismally, the UN "reportedly responded to Bosnian abuses of the late 1990s with something akin to denial... [I]nvestigators experienced an astonishing cover-up attempt...None of the peacekeepers involved in these offenses suffered any punishment greater than repatriation" (7). NATO has since implemented a weak policy that allows troops to buy "prostitutes as long as it is unclear that the prostitutes have been trafficked" (15). In May 2002, U.S. Forces Korea was accused of "protecting" "establishments that employed trafficked women" through "courtesy patrols" (12). Resultant U.S. military "off-limits" policy for sexual services "has been effective in dissuading businesses from engaging in these practices" due to the negative economic impact of policies that forbid soldiers from frequenting such places (13).

Prostituted in Germany are aggressively and horrifically victim blamed in stark contrast to the excellent Swedish model.

1. Prostituted women in Germany are "frequently subjected to immediate detention and deportation, denied health services, and are viewed as illegal immigrants who have committed a crime, rather than individuals in need of support" (1954). Here, legalized prostitution does not adequately provide health benefits to prostituted women.

The internet is a primary way for pimps to prostitute in the Philippines, with many buyers of trafficked Filipino girls from China and Japan only possible to sell them to through the internet

1. In the Philippines, "[t]he Internet is the main recruitment tool for the sex tourist industry to bring in rich western tourists to the impoverished South. It is the advertising arm of this sex industry" (Cullen, 2004).

Capitalism destroys natural resources on purpose so the women are forced to commodify themselves, this is similar to someone destroying someone’s career and taking all their property to try to force them into sex work.

1. Luxemburg argues that capitalism destroys natural resources, so people will become impoverished and will depend on capitalism as workers.

Streetwalker districts lower the price for all the girls favoring only the pimps and expose the women to extreme violence

1. The competition among women in streetwalker districts...leads to low prices for sex services, unprotected sex, violence from the side of the clients, and fights among women" (49)

Pimps will attack the worth of their victims when they are not sexually receptive to the culture or clients as a way to “punch” them and control them as well. They can be witnessed in an aggressive influx of extremely abusive behavior when they refuse to go to someone the person is trying to groom them to go to, disgustingly enough.

[EDIT: Title should read 'Picked up a dude at a bar' I didn't 'pick' him at the bar. He wasn't being auctioned off lmao]
So, this isn't NSFW - nothing like that happened. But it's a moment all the same. (Using the throwaway just in case.) This is a long story, so feel free to click off, unless you like that sort of thing.
So, I am a university student in the UK (originally from New Zealand), and our second semester of the year just wrapped up. I had a week or so before I went home. Usually, this means a free week to read, write and play video games. Buuutttt a friend of mine invited me out for drinks, and I just couldn't say no.
We'd been to our local Pride the week before (my first ever Pride event!! Still emotionally unpacking that), and I've been trying to get better about my self-identity and present more openly about being queer, so I wore my favourite denim jacket with my bisexual and ace pride flag pins on the breast pocket. Now this was pretty stressful, because I live in a fairly traditional and politically conservative area of England, but fuck it - if I can try and accept myself, so can the world.
We met up at a local pub first for a few drinks. My friend is the kind of person who's really popular and has a different group of friends around her every time we go out, so I was doing the usual meet-and-greet thing. I'm not what you'd call a super socially anxious person, but it does take me quite some time to get comfortable with a group until I can suss out the vibe.
Anyway, after the pub, we headed to a local bar which has an upstairs pool lounge. My friend immediately challenged me to a tournament. Now, I'm not great at pool - I'm disabled, and have limited use of my right arm, so balance and precision are pretty tricky for me. But I managed to win the first game, my friend won the second, and I took the tiebreaker all the way down to the black ball before she beat me.
After this, I'm a little tired, so I go to sit down. I'm still sitting vaguely near my friend's friends but, y'know, they're my friend's friends, so they're kind of wrapped up in talking to each other. I don't mind - I'm watching the night go by.
After a while, I notice a guy at one of the pool tables keeps looking at me. It's not for very long, but I seem to catch the edge of his gaze every time I see him. He's not playing pool very well, and after a while the person he's playing with wins.
He sort of walks over to where I'm sat, and does this kind of awkward half look-up, look-down kinda thing. Eventually he just stands near the end of the booth not looking at me. At this point, I'm kind of confused, so I just say hi.
He looks at me, says hi back and says he likes my jacket. I tell him it's my favourite. We make a little small talk before he brings up the elephant in the room - my pins.
"Is that the bisexual pride flag?" he asks me.
"Yeah. I'm bisexual," I tell him (and MAN was that nice to say out loud!) "we're a rare breed around here. I only know three or four other bi guys."
"Well, you're the first person I've met who's...also bisexual."
The weight of the word also has never been so heavy guys, I swear to god. I mean, okay, this guy was objectively a good-looking bloke: a little taller than me, dark blonde, yada yada. Not to mention older. And I'm just your standard nerd - medium-length brown hair, skinny, glasses, a little too obsessed with Hugh Grant for my own good. I didn't think there was a snowball's chance in hell this cool older guy was interested in a skinny little literature geek like me.
I didn't know what to do with myself - I thought, in some dim, recessed chamber of my mind, that he might be coming onto me, but who knew? Maybe he was just a friendly guy. He asks if I want to get a drink. I say sure. Over the course of said drink, I do some terrible slight flirting, because I'm awkward as fuck. And HE. FLIRTS. BACK. Oh boy.
Now it might have been the alcohol (Narrator: it was definitely the alcohol!), but at the end of said drink, I casually propositioned that my flat wasn't far, and would he like to come back with me?
Anonymous subreddit reader: he said YES. AND SMILED. Forget being on cloud nine - I could've rolled up cloud nine and smoked it, and I wouldn't have gotten any higher. At this point, my friend comes over, trying to find me. I introduce her to this guy and say we're heading out. She smirks at me (it was an EVIL smirk) and tells me to text her later.
So, picture the scene: my hopeless romantic, nerd self having just picked up a guy from a bar (FOR REAL!) and we're walking home at 2AM. The streets are silent and it's nearing the end of spring. Of course, the most British thing that could've ever occurred did occur: it started fucking raining.
We're walking back through the streets, absolutely soaked, our hair plastered to our heads, laughing and looking at each other. I'm thinking: what insane series of coincidences in the world led to this moment? Then he turns to me and asks, under the streetlights - do I want to kiss him? Because he would very much like to kiss me.
I kissed a man in the middle of the night, under the streetlight of a deserted street, and it felt like everything. All those sleepless nights, all of the shame and denial and self-hatred, all those years spent in the closet, searching for something I didn't even have the words to find... they all led halfway across the world to that moment, right then and right there.
After that, we went back to my flat, and kissed some more times. We didn't do anything more serious, because he had work in the morning, but at one point we were lying in my bed and he was talking about his experience of growing up bi and not relating to anyone, and I just got every word. Some fucking evil chaos demon possessed me, and I laid my hand on his thigh. Look, I've never done that before, not to ANYONE. I briefly dated a guy at the start of the year, and compared to him I was a real flirt, but I've never been this confident and forward in my life.
We kissed some more, then he had to go. We exchanged Instagrams and he mentioned wanting to see me at the weekend, if I was free - obviously I agreed. I walked him to the door and watched him go - and that was it. Sorry friends, this fairytale little story ends up just like all the other fleeting romantic moments in my life: nowhere. I texted him about meeting up - he never responded to it, never even read them. All I have left of that night is a name in my Instagram followers list and memories.
But they're beautiful memories all the same.

Lest you think it's not intended, this is intentional on her part. What will get her more views (in her mind at least)? Words like that. She will pander to the base. What will get her the most views? It's not about producing heartfelt content...it's about getting people to "look at her" and if part of those eyes are people searching for "breast" "pee" and "butt" content, so be it...let's give that audience access to her children too.

I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/No-Breadfruit9399
Originally posted to TwoXChromosomes
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[New Update]: Male boss is clueless about pregnancy
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Trigger Warnings: harassment, misogyny, sexism, hostile workplace
Original Post - May 2, 2024
OMG this just now happened at work.
My boss is male. I have a male coworker in the next cube whose wife is pregnant, and is due within the next few weeks. Boss is trying to make coverage plans for this guy to be out of the office when the baby happens.
The boss literally tried to write the guy up because he "wouldn't" tell him exactly what day the delivery would happen.
I wouldn't have believed it if I didn't hear it with my own ears!
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bulldog_blues: I... what... how?!
Has this guy literally never interacted with someone who's pregnant or the partner of someone who's pregnant before? In his entire life?
It doesn't bode well for how he'd treat any other unpredictable circumstance either.
 
Update - May 2, 2024 (same day, 2 hours later)
Holy shit. The idiot dude just did it again.
He finally got it into his head why my coworker can't name the specific date when his wife will go into labor.
Now he's trying to save face by being sympathetic with Mr. Father-to-Be.
Our office breakroom has a private "mother's room" where women can go pump if they need to.
Mr. Boss dude said to the father dude, literally, that he was sorry there wasn't an equivalent father's room. The dude legit thought that the mother's room was for an exhausted new mom to go nap. That one just earned him a march into his (female) boss' office. I'd love to be a fly on that wall.
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ioantha: I realize that not all sex education is created equal, but damn.
Does Boss have kids? A female spouse? Does someone need to buy her a drink and see if she's okay?

OOP: He had an ex-girlfriend. Probably a reason for the "ex".

 
Update #2 - May 3, 2024 (1 day later)
So, several of you asked for further updates about my idiot boss who, in the space of one hour yesterday revealed that he:
thought that pregnant women could predict the exact date their delivery would happen...
revealed his belief that our office's Mother's Room was for napping, not pumping
After #2 was revealed, he was immediately called into the (female) grandboss' office so she could set the record straight. Their meeting took about ten minutes, and then he came back into our work area.
Guys. It got so much worse from there. I had to delay posting this update until I found out what the final result would be.
He starts by admitting to everybody there (mostly male, I and one other person in the room were female) that he had misunderstood the purpose of the mother's room. OK, so far so good.
Then he took out his metaphorical shovel and started digging his hole even deeper. Turns out he also misunderstood the concept of lactation. The dude literally thought that all women are always lactating, all the time. As in: the breasts come in, the milk comes out, regardless of any woman's pregnancy or birthing status.
And then. Oh. My. God. The dude literally POINTS TO MY CHEST and says, "I mean, look at hers! Hers are really big, she should be in that room all the time but she's not!"
One of the men in the room immediately gives him a forceful "shut up!" I follow up with a spontaneous performance of four-letter beat poetry that would melt my phone if I tried to type it out.
One of my coworkers immediately went out to fetch the grandboss again. She got back into the room and escorted him out. We didn't see him the rest of the day.
I got to the office this morning and saw his personal items boxed up on his desk. Grandboss has already informed me that my now-ex boss will be coming to collect his items later today, and she gave me the opportunity to be elsewhere when he arrives.
Nope. I'm going to be here to watch him get fired. This will be glorious.
Relevant/Top Comments
OOP on her company’s policies on if an incident happens at the workplace

OOP: Thanks for the very necessary response.
I should add that my company has a "three strikes" policy when it comes to sexual harassment (only one strike if there's physical contact, which there wasn't in this case). I learned from grandboss that this was his third strike.
I don't know the details of the first two incidents, but he'd displayed a pattern of this behavior before.

Redgrapefruitrage: Just wow!
I spit out my coffee when I read that he thought women lactated 24/7.
Then....to point at your chest!
He didn't just dig a hole. He jumped into the hole and buried himself alive.
queen-of-support: OMFG! He is so clueless. How does he walk and breathe at the same time?
 
Final Update - May 3, 2024 (same day, 4 hours later)
He came through just now to collect his box of stuff. He was escorted into our office by grandboss and our building's security guard. I was looking straight at him all the way through, trying to gauge his state of mind.
He looked appropriately humiliated. At one point he locked eyes with me, noticed my shit-eating grin, and looked like he was about to say something.
Mr. Male Coworker in the next cube (the one with the pregnant wife, whose interaction yesterday started this whole thing) had a video queued up on his desktop. At that exact moment he hit "play".
It's an eight-second clip of my hero George Takei, who said the only words that needed to be said to this guy.
He slumped, defeated, and slithered out of the building with his escort. Once he left the room, all of us just burst out laughing.
It's going to be a great weekend.
 

----NEW UPDATE----

Happy update from a horrible experience at work: May 24, 2024
A few weeks ago I started that thread that took off -- about my (now-ex) boss who used his ignorance of female anatomy to commit sexual harassment, and got fired for it.
The whole adventure started because he tried to write my male coworker up, because the coworker "wouldn't" tell him exactly what day his wife would go into labor.
Today's update: the labor and delivery was successful. My coworker now has a beautiful baby girl.
And I hope she grows up never having a negative story to bring to this sub.
 
DISCLAIMER: OOP HAS MADE AN APPEARANCE ON THE BoRU THREAD.
Editor's Note: I have received OOP's permission to share her comment

OOP: OOP here. I didn't want to gloat before, but I want to gloat now.
I got promoted to replace the dude. Who we now affectionately call our "Lactation Consultant".
It's absolutely true that my breasts got me benefits at work. And I'm proud of it!

 

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THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP

Hey guys, I would love your advice…
I underwent a breast aug in 2013 at age 18 on a whim after coming into a little money and I loved the results. I had very little breast tissue to begin with and the doctor I picked achieved a very natural result.. full Cs. From an aesthetic pov, I was beyond thrilled with my impulsive, poorly thought out decision.
Fast forward 6 years to late 2019, I began seeing videos on Instagram talking about BII. Many of the women I watched talked about how removing their implants was a cureall for various issues they were experiencing. I won’t lie to you all, I got very excited over the idea that taking out my implants might cure my anxiety. Anxiety rules my life and I was willing to sacrifice aesthetics if meant if I could alleviate that.
In February of 2020, just weeks before the world shut down, I underwent an explant and capsulectomy. Lookswise, I felt like I now had Frankentitties. Due to the original BA incision being at the areola, what little breast tissue I had left fused to my chest below the areola due to scar tissue. I had teeny, sad little sacks with no lower pole.
I waited patiently in hopes that my anxiety (among other issues I deal with) would ease and make this surgery worth it. I wanted to be a BII success story SO badly.
Months passed and then years with no relief. Absolutely nothing changed internally, other than self loathing over my new chest. Stupidly I thought that I would return to my pre-BA chest but sadly, I was far from it. I now had multiple scars and my breast tissue looked… mutilated.
In June of last year I FINALLY decided I needed a change. I invested in a breast fat transfer using fat from my inner thighs… and yes, it was as painful as you’re thinking it might be. Let me be clear, I did NOT get the surgery for size. I know that most fat does not stay and people maaaaaybe gain a half cup. All I wanted was to fix the shape and have normal, small looking boobs again.
For 3 months that was exactly what I had. The doctor broke through all the scar tissue and adhesion and gave me back shapely breasts.
I did everything exactly as it was instructed for recovery, but about 4 months later while lying in bed I noticed a hard lump in one breast. Weeks later, I noticed the same exact lump in the other breast. The lumps are now a good portion of each breast and they bother me to no end. I do not know if its scar tissue or hardened fat but either way I had just moved states for work and was not able to return to the doctor who did the fat transfer.
Fast forward to now, I have an appointment with a local, reputable plastic surgeon next Thursday and I am incredibly torn on what to do. I’ve never heard of anyone taking out implants, getting a fat transfer, but ultimately getting implants again.
I know now that I did not have BII. My anxiety, fatigue, brain fog, etc did not lessen in the slightest in the four years since removing my implants.
Has anyone here taken out their implants only to get another augmentation years later?
I feel sick to my stomach thinking about another surgery, but the fat transfer was a mistake. What I have now just does not feel sustainable. I mean, I have hard lumps at the bottom of each breast. I can’t even sleep comfortably at night.
I didn’t make a HUGE deal online when I took my implants out, but I did make a few social media posts about it. I celebrated removing my implants and I thought wholeheartedly that I was the next BII success story. So many people praised me for removing mine and told me that they wanted to follow suit. This is going to sound silly, but a large part of me is afraid that people will think less of me for going back to implants. Even if I opt for small, low profile implants, the fact that I have them again would be obvious.
Anyways, I’ll stop rambling now. If you’ve made it this far, I’d love to hear your opinion on my current dilemma. TIA
TLDR: had breast augmentation at 18, loved the results, but got implants removed in 2020 hoping to cure anxiety, which didn't help. Post-removal, breasts were scarred and misshapen. In 2023, had a fat transfer to improve shape, but developed hard lumps. Now, considering getting implants again, but worried about another surgery and social media backlash. Seeking advice before consulting a new plastic surgeon.