tl;dr looking for MC1s who are super smitten (bonus: mean->wrapped around MC2's finger). Give me moments that will make me pause to absorb and go, woah/aw. Prefer believable relationship development (instant connection fine, insta-love meh).
I have an 'ardent' shelf for books where something about how an MC's love is portrayed strikes me as being very moving or especially strong/deep, and I'd love to read more of these moments. Some specific things I'd love to see (not all are required), with (possibly too many) representative quotes:

1. Moments that emphasise how smitten MC1 is/how happy MC1 is to be around MC2, e.g., Heat Stroke by Tessa Bailey:

• The loneliness he’d been bogged down in went away. Just like that. (when Marcus talks to Jamie on the radio) and For the next week, Marcus basically went to bed smiling, woke up smiling, and he couldn’t rule out the possibility that he smiled in his sleep. Why the hell wouldn’t he?

1. MC2 goes from mean/cold/emotionally unavailable to completely devoted/wrapped around MC1’s finger, especially if there’s a power imbalance - e.g., Just a Bit Ruthless by Alessandra Hazard, The Alpha Gamble by Eliot Grayson, Confetti Hearts by Lily Morton:

• Just a Bit Ruthless: Roman left his hotel, his muscles tense and his head throbbing with the beginning of a headache … He leaned against the kitchen doorway, feeling the tension in his muscles dissipate. (Because he sees Luke cooking and singing) and (Roman’s secretary) I never thought I’d see a day you’d let some baby-faced English kid plait ropes out of you.
  • Note: I didn’t enjoy Just a Bit Bossy by Alessandra Hazard as much because Raffaele was a bit too much of a dick and there wasn’t enough of a turnabout. I also DNFed The Kidnapping of Roan Sinclair by Ashley Drewek.
• The Alpha Gamble: I almost lost you. I almost—” He broke off in a groan, kissing my shoulder, arm tightening around me. “I almost lost you,” he said quietly, and I felt a minute tremor go through him, as if he’d only in that moment taken the time to think about it. and He lifted his head, gazing at me with eyes so much softer than I usually saw them—than anyone else probably ever saw them. “And I love you, Blake. You seriously don’t even know.”
• Confetti Hearts: (Context: MC2 messed up and MC1 left him) (MC1)“You’ve lost weight.” … (MC2) “I guess.” I stop to clear my throat. “I haven’t been hungry lately.” “Not because of me?” The desire in his eyes is replaced by concern. My eyes get hot. “No of course not,” I lie. “I’ve just been very busy at work.”

As much as I like to read deep feelings, I need to believe these emotions - schmoopiness (if that's a word) doesn't always work for me. Tal Bauer, for example, is sometimes too much for me with how quickly characters fall for each otheplan for the distant future very early on. I don't mind an instant connection/strong chemistry (e.g., {Rough Heat by Marina Vivancos}, and I don't mind if the book starts off with established interest (e.g., {Gary of a Hundred Days by Isabel Murray}).
In case anyone is interested, here are some books on my 'ardent' shelf: {Patience by Lark Taylor}, {Perfect Imperfections by Cardeno C}, {In This Iron Ground by Marina Vivancos}, {Let Me Remind You by Gianni Holmes}, {The Rest of the Story by Tal Bauer}, {Forgotten Vows by Lily Mayne}, {Two Rogues Make a Right by Cat Sebastian}, {Work For It by Talia Hibbert}.
Loves/soft nos/hard nos:
Happy to read pretty much any genre. Love: historical, sci-fi/fantasy, second chance (the feelings are there even though they're not together), power imbalance/difference in backgrounds, fated mates. Fine with dark/taboo.
Soft nos: mpreg (OK in-world, prefer for it not to be a big part of the story), cheating, insta-love IF the romance is not believable (e.g., IMO, Jayda Marx). Also not interested in age play. Hard nos: parental incest.
This ended up being a very long post (I could edit down)! I was originally drafting this for the short request post but realized it was getting too detailed. Thank you to everyone who made it this fafinds any recommendations!

(Only Europe, Please) - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone who wants to be my friend - not the whole world.. which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me advice better block me! I'm an adult woman and I make all decisions on my own.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others every day because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..some people ask me "Why do you want to talk to people from Europe?" Well..Because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I'm not trying to sound rude but conversations once or twice a week wouldn't be enough for me and I don't need them... Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :) It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make more time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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• I'm not into foul language and I definitely don't want to talk to people who swear a lot...
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• I want to meet assertive people who know what they want and always stand up for their friends
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• I want to meet someone willing to call me In the future, someone spontaneously sending me pictures of animals or food, et cetera. I want more than just text conversations.. 🌻
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊

(Only Europe, Please) - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone who wants to be my friend - not the whole world.. which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me advice better block me! I'm an adult woman and I make all decisions on my own.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others every day because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..some people ask me "Why do you want to talk to people from Europe?" Well..Because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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• I'm not into foul language and I definitely don't want to talk to people who swear a lot...
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• I want to meet assertive people who know what they want and always stand up for their friends
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• I want to meet someone willing to call me In the future, someone spontaneously sending me pictures of animals or food, et cetera. I want more than just text conversations.. 🌻
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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No comments please.Only Private messages and chat requests 🌺
I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊

POSITIVES
*Kyle MacLachlan. No matter what role he plays, he commits to it absolutely and is always very engaging to watch.
*I was very happy with how the show handled Bobby, Hawk, the Log Lady, Andy, Lucy, Ed, Nadine, Norma, MIKE and Shelly.
*The atmosphere was very strong, and I liked the idea of reality breaking down around the characters. The visual and audio editing was superb.
*Andy's visit to the Fireman's place (the White Lodge?) was such an amazing moment of the mundane encountering the supernatural. I never expected him of all people to end up there.
*The Log Lady's death was extraordinarily well written.
*I was very impressed with Robert Forster as Frank Truman. Replacing Harry with a random new brother sounds so cheap, yet somehow it worked perfectly.
*I really liked Naomi Watts' performance as Janey-E. Of all the newcomers, she was my favourite.
*The evolution of the arm was so fucking awesome. Way to make lemonade out of lemons.
MIXED
*Although I enjoyed Dougie and Demon Coop as characters, their storylines eventually started to feel like Lynch just wanted to make two extra movies without bothering with studio negotiations, so he just squeezed them into his Twin Peaks show.
*Demon Coop in particular was really oddly utilised. I would have thought the whole point of having a doppelganger is to make use of the fact that he looks like someone else. Him raping Diane is the one thing I would EXPECT Demon Coop to do. To me, it would've worked better if he stayed in Twin Peaks and committed acts of evil against people Cooper has a connection with.
*I really enjoyed the dynamic between Gordon Cole and Albert (my personal interpretation is that Cole has kept him close out of fear of losing the last agent he has a connection with). But nothing they did was very interesting. I wanted to see them actually discover the Black Lodge and maybe share a few more scenes with Demon Coop. It was cool when they brought Tammy into the fold, but then she does absolutely nothing.
*The Audrey Dance was a delight, and I thought Charlie's actor was hilarious. That aside, her storyline was a disgrace.
*I felt the Roadhouse band-of-the-week thing was kinda silly. Nice music, though.
*I didn't necessarily miss Annie's character, but I wish Coop at least asked about her and showed some emotion instead of suddenly being into Diane now.
*Speaking of her, Laura Dern gave a good performance, but I really can't imagine her as Coop's secretary.
*A few of the original characters seemed to just kinda be there, namely Ben, Jerry, Dr Jacoby and James. The actors did fine with what they were given (I especially loved that first scene between Jerry and BROTHER BEN), but the material wasn't there. Jacoby's transformation into an alt-right commentator was mildly funny, but could've gone a lot further than the occasional monologue.
NEGATIVES
*The narrative was very weak, consisting mostly of overconvoluted lore and shameless retconning. Nothing that they introduced here was as compelling or worth exploring as the threat of Bob and the Black Lodge in the original show.
*I was surprised how minimal Bob's involvement was. I know Frank Silva is sadly no longer with us, but Ray Wise proved that the character can be magnificent even without him.
*I no longer understood what our characters were fighting for and why, so it was difficult to care. The show was far too obtuse for my personal tastes. Despite how ambiguous the original could be, they made Bob into a visceral and real threat whom we hated for hurting characters we liked. Judy is barely a concept, and Demon Coop spends most of the show wandering around America killing random one-off characters. It just didn't have the same impact.
*The British guy with the green glove is the single dumbest thing in any Twin Peaks story.
*I did not need to see Dougie have sex.
*As a fan of the Windom Earle character, I didn't appreciate his total erasure from the canon (not even a member of Blue Rose??).
CONCLUSION
Overall, I felt that Twin Peaks: The Return was experimental and intriguing, but not a good Twin Peaks story or a standalone piece of art.
I have to emphasise again that I went in knowing that it would have a different tone, that it would focus on other characters, that Cooper wasn't in it much. All of that I can live with. It can be its own thing whether I like it or not.
But centering the entire story around a minute-long cameo from David Bowie in a spin-off prequel film and pretending that this was what Coop, Briggs and Cole were working on the entire time during the original show confounds me. It's like Lynch and Frost want The Return to be a follow-up to some idealised version of the 1990 Twin Peaks where they had full control. A sequel to a show that doesn't exist. They want people to care about their version of the story, not the story that was aired. And that's just sad.
This dependence on the original lore and characters means it cannot be its own thing. But it's also completely ignoring how that lore and those characters used to function on a fundamental level, preventing it from being a good Twin Peaks story. So to me, it just doesn't come together. You can say "reality is breaking apart" and "who is the dreamer", but as a viewer, I'm not satisfied purely by Lynch's half-sleepy musings. Why bother building up these characters and this world in the first place if that's all that matters?
The only interpretation that makes even halfway sense to me is that both Cooper and Laura are still trapped in the Black Lodge, and all of season 3 is just their demented fever dream as they slowly realise they can never leave. But that's hardly worth a whole season of television.

Hey there
I'm a 25-year-old guy with a Bachelor of Medicine and Surgery under my belt, standing tall at 5'11". If you're looking for a friend who shares your passion for the intricacies of the universe and the wonders of fandoms, you're in the right place.
A Bit About Me:
I'm a nerd in the truest sense, forever curious and always exploring new realms—whether they be in comics, novels, TV series, movies, or video games. From the Marvel Universe to the intricate world of Tolkien, I dive deep into multi-verses and fandoms, always eager to discover and discuss the latest theories and plot twists.
I have a particular love for: - Reading Comics and Novels: My bookshelf is a chaotic mix of graphic novels, sci-fi sagas, and fantasy epics. - Binge-Watching TV Series: From "Stranger Things" to "The Expanse," I can discuss plotlines and character arcs for hours. - Enjoying Movies: Whether it's a Marvel marathon or an obscure indie film, I'm always up for a good watch. - Playing Video Games: My consoles are well-loved and well-used. From RPGs to FPS, I enjoy a wide variety of genres.
The Academic Side:
As someone deeply invested in the world of medicine and surgery, I love researching various topics, such as: - Medicine: Always on the lookout for new advancements and innovations. - Science: From the tiniest particles in nuclear physics to the vast expanses of the cosmos. - Marine Biology: The mysteries of the ocean captivate me as much as the mysteries of space. - World History and Geography: Understanding our past and how it shapes our present fascinates me. - NanoTech in Medicine: The future of medicine and surgery is being revolutionized by nanotechnology, and I can't get enough of it.
Languages:
I’m a polyglot of sorts, fluent in English, Hindi, and Urdu, and dabbling in Klingon and Arabic, along with some regional and fictional languages. Whether it's discussing the intricacies of different cultures or just trying to perfect my Klingon, language is a bridge to understanding the world and connecting with others.
Looking for:
I'm on the lookout for a friend who shares similar interests. Whether you're a fellow medical student, a science enthusiast, a fandom nerd, or just someone who loves deep, meaningful conversations, let's connect! If you're studying, we can be study buddies, helping each other out and sharing knowledge.
To give you a glimpse into how I view friendship, here are some of my favorite quotes and lyrics about friendship:

1. "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard
2. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" – C.S. Lewis
3. "I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to pour) / I'll be there for you (Like I've been there before)" – The Rembrandts, I'll Be There for You
4. "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." – Walter Winchell
5. "Lean on me, when you're not strong / And I'll be your friend / I'll help you carry on." – Bill Withers, Lean on Me

Why Connect with Me?
In a world where it's easy to feel disconnected, I'm looking to form genuine connections with like-minded individuals. Whether we're discussing the latest episode of a TV show, diving deep into a scientific topic, or just sharing our thoughts on life, I'm here for it.
If you're interested in exploring the multiverse together, or if you need a study buddy who's as passionate about learning as you are, drop me a message! Let's embark on this journey of friendship and discovery together.
Looking forward to meeting you...

Hey there
I'm a 25-year-old guy with a Bachelor of Medicine and Surgery under my belt, standing tall at 5'11". If you're looking for a friend who shares your passion for the intricacies of the universe and the wonders of fandoms, you're in the right place.
A Bit About Me:
I'm a nerd in the truest sense, forever curious and always exploring new realms—whether they be in comics, novels, TV series, movies, or video games. From the Marvel Universe to the intricate world of Tolkien, I dive deep into multi-verses and fandoms, always eager to discover and discuss the latest theories and plot twists.
I have a particular love for: - Reading Comics and Novels: My bookshelf is a chaotic mix of graphic novels, sci-fi sagas, and fantasy epics. - Binge-Watching TV Series: From "Stranger Things" to "The Expanse," I can discuss plotlines and character arcs for hours. - Enjoying Movies: Whether it's a Marvel marathon or an obscure indie film, I'm always up for a good watch. - Playing Video Games: My consoles are well-loved and well-used. From RPGs to FPS, I enjoy a wide variety of genres.
The Academic Side:
As someone deeply invested in the world of medicine and surgery, I love researching various topics, such as: - Medicine: Always on the lookout for new advancements and innovations. - Science: From the tiniest particles in nuclear physics to the vast expanses of the cosmos. - Marine Biology: The mysteries of the ocean captivate me as much as the mysteries of space. - World History and Geography: Understanding our past and how it shapes our present fascinates me. - NanoTech in Medicine: The future of medicine and surgery is being revolutionized by nanotechnology, and I can't get enough of it.
Languages:
I’m a polyglot of sorts, fluent in English, Hindi, and Urdu, and dabbling in Klingon and Arabic, along with some regional and fictional languages. Whether it's discussing the intricacies of different cultures or just trying to perfect my Klingon, language is a bridge to understanding the world and connecting with others.
Looking for:
I'm on the lookout for a friend who shares similar interests. Whether you're a fellow medical student, a science enthusiast, a fandom nerd, or just someone who loves deep, meaningful conversations, let's connect! If you're studying, we can be study buddies, helping each other out and sharing knowledge.
To give you a glimpse into how I view friendship, here are some of my favorite quotes and lyrics about friendship:

1. "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard
2. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" – C.S. Lewis
3. "I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to pour) / I'll be there for you (Like I've been there before)" – The Rembrandts, I'll Be There for You
4. "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." – Walter Winchell
5. "Lean on me, when you're not strong / And I'll be your friend / I'll help you carry on." – Bill Withers, Lean on Me

Why Connect with Me?
In a world where it's easy to feel disconnected, I'm looking to form genuine connections with like-minded individuals. Whether we're discussing the latest episode of a TV show, diving deep into a scientific topic, or just sharing our thoughts on life, I'm here for it.
If you're interested in exploring the multiverse together, or if you need a study buddy who's as passionate about learning as you are, drop me a message! Let's embark on this journey of friendship and discovery together.
Looking forward to meeting you...

Hey there
I'm a 25-year-old guy with a Bachelor of Medicine and Surgery under my belt, standing tall at 5'11". If you're looking for a friend who shares your passion for the intricacies of the universe and the wonders of fandoms, you're in the right place.
A Bit About Me:
I'm a nerd in the truest sense, forever curious and always exploring new realms—whether they be in comics, novels, TV series, movies, or video games. From the Marvel Universe to the intricate world of Tolkien, I dive deep into multi-verses and fandoms, always eager to discover and discuss the latest theories and plot twists.
I have a particular love for: - Reading Comics and Novels: My bookshelf is a chaotic mix of graphic novels, sci-fi sagas, and fantasy epics. - Binge-Watching TV Series: From "Stranger Things" to "The Expanse," I can discuss plotlines and character arcs for hours. - Enjoying Movies: Whether it's a Marvel marathon or an obscure indie film, I'm always up for a good watch. - Playing Video Games: My consoles are well-loved and well-used. From RPGs to FPS, I enjoy a wide variety of genres.
The Academic Side:
As someone deeply invested in the world of medicine and surgery, I love researching various topics, such as: - Medicine: Always on the lookout for new advancements and innovations. - Science: From the tiniest particles in nuclear physics to the vast expanses of the cosmos. - Marine Biology: The mysteries of the ocean captivate me as much as the mysteries of space. - World History and Geography: Understanding our past and how it shapes our present fascinates me. - NanoTech in Medicine: The future of medicine and surgery is being revolutionized by nanotechnology, and I can't get enough of it.
Languages:
I’m a polyglot of sorts, fluent in English, Hindi, and Urdu, and dabbling in Klingon and Arabic, along with some regional and fictional languages. Whether it's discussing the intricacies of different cultures or just trying to perfect my Klingon, language is a bridge to understanding the world and connecting with others.
Looking for:
I'm on the lookout for a friend who shares similar interests. Whether you're a fellow medical student, a science enthusiast, a fandom nerd, or just someone who loves deep, meaningful conversations, let's connect! If you're studying, we can be study buddies, helping each other out and sharing knowledge.
To give you a glimpse into how I view friendship, here are some of my favorite quotes and lyrics about friendship:

1. "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard
2. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" – C.S. Lewis
3. "I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to pour) / I'll be there for you (Like I've been there before)" – The Rembrandts, I'll Be There for You
4. "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." – Walter Winchell
5. "Lean on me, when you're not strong / And I'll be your friend / I'll help you carry on." – Bill Withers, Lean on Me

Why Connect with Me?
In a world where it's easy to feel disconnected, I'm looking to form genuine connections with like-minded individuals. Whether we're discussing the latest episode of a TV show, diving deep into a scientific topic, or just sharing our thoughts on life, I'm here for it.
If you're interested in exploring the multiverse together, or if you need a study buddy who's as passionate about learning as you are, drop me a message! Let's embark on this journey of friendship and discovery together.
Looking forward to meeting you...

Hey there
I'm a 25-year-old guy with a Bachelor of Medicine and Surgery under my belt, standing tall at 5'11". If you're looking for a friend who shares your passion for the intricacies of the universe and the wonders of fandoms, you're in the right place.
A Bit About Me:
I'm a nerd in the truest sense, forever curious and always exploring new realms—whether they be in comics, novels, TV series, movies, or video games. From the Marvel Universe to the intricate world of Tolkien, I dive deep into multi-verses and fandoms, always eager to discover and discuss the latest theories and plot twists.
I have a particular love for: - Reading Comics and Novels: My bookshelf is a chaotic mix of graphic novels, sci-fi sagas, and fantasy epics. - Binge-Watching TV Series: From "Stranger Things" to "The Expanse," I can discuss plotlines and character arcs for hours. - Enjoying Movies: Whether it's a Marvel marathon or an obscure indie film, I'm always up for a good watch. - Playing Video Games: My consoles are well-loved and well-used. From RPGs to FPS, I enjoy a wide variety of genres.
The Academic Side:
As someone deeply invested in the world of medicine and surgery, I love researching various topics, such as: - Medicine: Always on the lookout for new advancements and innovations. - Science: From the tiniest particles in nuclear physics to the vast expanses of the cosmos. - Marine Biology: The mysteries of the ocean captivate me as much as the mysteries of space. - World History and Geography: Understanding our past and how it shapes our present fascinates me. - NanoTech in Medicine: The future of medicine and surgery is being revolutionized by nanotechnology, and I can't get enough of it.
Languages:
I’m a polyglot of sorts, fluent in English, Hindi, and Urdu, and dabbling in Klingon and Arabic, along with some regional and fictional languages. Whether it's discussing the intricacies of different cultures or just trying to perfect my Klingon, language is a bridge to understanding the world and connecting with others.
Looking for:
I'm on the lookout for a friend who shares similar interests. Whether you're a fellow medical student, a science enthusiast, a fandom nerd, or just someone who loves deep, meaningful conversations, let's connect! If you're studying, we can be study buddies, helping each other out and sharing knowledge.
To give you a glimpse into how I view friendship, here are some of my favorite quotes and lyrics about friendship:

1. "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard
2. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" – C.S. Lewis
3. "I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to pour) / I'll be there for you (Like I've been there before)" – The Rembrandts, I'll Be There for You
4. "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." – Walter Winchell
5. "Lean on me, when you're not strong / And I'll be your friend / I'll help you carry on." – Bill Withers, Lean on Me

Why Connect with Me?
In a world where it's easy to feel disconnected, I'm looking to form genuine connections with like-minded individuals. Whether we're discussing the latest episode of a TV show, diving deep into a scientific topic, or just sharing our thoughts on life, I'm here for it.
If you're interested in exploring the multiverse together, or if you need a study buddy who's as passionate about learning as you are, drop me a message! Let's embark on this journey of friendship and discovery together.
Looking forward to meeting you...

Hey there
I'm a 25-year-old guy with a Bachelor of Medicine and Surgery under my belt, standing tall at 5'11". If you're looking for a friend who shares your passion for the intricacies of the universe and the wonders of fandoms, you're in the right place.
A Bit About Me:
I'm a nerd in the truest sense, forever curious and always exploring new realms—whether they be in comics, novels, TV series, movies, or video games. From the Marvel Universe to the intricate world of Tolkien, I dive deep into multi-verses and fandoms, always eager to discover and discuss the latest theories and plot twists.
I have a particular love for: - Reading Comics and Novels: My bookshelf is a chaotic mix of graphic novels, sci-fi sagas, and fantasy epics. - Binge-Watching TV Series: From "Stranger Things" to "The Expanse," I can discuss plotlines and character arcs for hours. - Enjoying Movies: Whether it's a Marvel marathon or an obscure indie film, I'm always up for a good watch. - Playing Video Games: My consoles are well-loved and well-used. From RPGs to FPS, I enjoy a wide variety of genres.
The Academic Side:
As someone deeply invested in the world of medicine and surgery, I love researching various topics, such as: - Medicine: Always on the lookout for new advancements and innovations. - Science: From the tiniest particles in nuclear physics to the vast expanses of the cosmos. - Marine Biology: The mysteries of the ocean captivate me as much as the mysteries of space. - World History and Geography: Understanding our past and how it shapes our present fascinates me. - NanoTech in Medicine: The future of medicine and surgery is being revolutionized by nanotechnology, and I can't get enough of it.
Languages:
I’m a polyglot of sorts, fluent in English, Hindi, and Urdu, and dabbling in Klingon and Arabic, along with some regional and fictional languages. Whether it's discussing the intricacies of different cultures or just trying to perfect my Klingon, language is a bridge to understanding the world and connecting with others.
Looking for:
I'm on the lookout for a friend who shares similar interests. Whether you're a fellow medical student, a science enthusiast, a fandom nerd, or just someone who loves deep, meaningful conversations, let's connect! If you're studying, we can be study buddies, helping each other out and sharing knowledge.
To give you a glimpse into how I view friendship, here are some of my favorite quotes and lyrics about friendship:

1. "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard
2. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" – C.S. Lewis
3. "I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to pour) / I'll be there for you (Like I've been there before)" – The Rembrandts, I'll Be There for You
4. "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." – Walter Winchell
5. "Lean on me, when you're not strong / And I'll be your friend / I'll help you carry on." – Bill Withers, Lean on Me

Why Connect with Me?
In a world where it's easy to feel disconnected, I'm looking to form genuine connections with like-minded individuals. Whether we're discussing the latest episode of a TV show, diving deep into a scientific topic, or just sharing our thoughts on life, I'm here for it.
If you're interested in exploring the multiverse together, or if you need a study buddy who's as passionate about learning as you are, drop me a message! Let's embark on this journey of friendship and discovery together.
Looking forward to meeting you...

Hey there
I'm a 25-year-old guy with a Bachelor of Medicine and Surgery under my belt, standing tall at 5'11". If you're looking for a friend who shares your passion for the intricacies of the universe and the wonders of fandoms, you're in the right place.
A Bit About Me:
I'm a nerd in the truest sense, forever curious and always exploring new realms—whether they be in comics, novels, TV series, movies, or video games. From the Marvel Universe to the intricate world of Tolkien, I dive deep into multi-verses and fandoms, always eager to discover and discuss the latest theories and plot twists.
I have a particular love for: - Reading Comics and Novels: My bookshelf is a chaotic mix of graphic novels, sci-fi sagas, and fantasy epics. - Binge-Watching TV Series: From "Stranger Things" to "The Expanse," I can discuss plotlines and character arcs for hours. - Enjoying Movies: Whether it's a Marvel marathon or an obscure indie film, I'm always up for a good watch. - Playing Video Games: My consoles are well-loved and well-used. From RPGs to FPS, I enjoy a wide variety of genres.
The Academic Side:
As someone deeply invested in the world of medicine and surgery, I love researching various topics, such as: - Medicine: Always on the lookout for new advancements and innovations. - Science: From the tiniest particles in nuclear physics to the vast expanses of the cosmos. - Marine Biology: The mysteries of the ocean captivate me as much as the mysteries of space. - World History and Geography: Understanding our past and how it shapes our present fascinates me. - NanoTech in Medicine: The future of medicine and surgery is being revolutionized by nanotechnology, and I can't get enough of it.
Languages:
I’m a polyglot of sorts, fluent in English, Hindi, and Urdu, and dabbling in Klingon and Arabic, along with some regional and fictional languages. Whether it's discussing the intricacies of different cultures or just trying to perfect my Klingon, language is a bridge to understanding the world and connecting with others.
Looking for:
I'm on the lookout for a friend who shares similar interests. Whether you're a fellow medical student, a science enthusiast, a fandom nerd, or just someone who loves deep, meaningful conversations, let's connect! If you're studying, we can be study buddies, helping each other out and sharing knowledge.
To give you a glimpse into how I view friendship, here are some of my favorite quotes and lyrics about friendship:

1. "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard
2. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" – C.S. Lewis
3. "I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to pour) / I'll be there for you (Like I've been there before)" – The Rembrandts, I'll Be There for You
4. "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." – Walter Winchell
5. "Lean on me, when you're not strong / And I'll be your friend / I'll help you carry on." – Bill Withers, Lean on Me

Why Connect with Me?
In a world where it's easy to feel disconnected, I'm looking to form genuine connections with like-minded individuals. Whether we're discussing the latest episode of a TV show, diving deep into a scientific topic, or just sharing our thoughts on life, I'm here for it.
If you're interested in exploring the multiverse together, or if you need a study buddy who's as passionate about learning as you are, drop me a message! Let's embark on this journey of friendship and discovery together.
Looking forward to meeting you...

What is love? it means accepting something the way it is, not the way you are.
No matter how much you love a fish, you must provide it with water and some bacteria in the aquarium.
If you place it on your soft bed, put on the ac, play jazz music etc after a while it will die after so much struggle and pain. Then you will be the culprit, if that fish had powers, it will fight you.
This is why the men you do so much for resent you. You are loving them the way you want to be loved not the way they deserve.
You cannot love a man properly till you learn his nature. They don't appreciate the flowers you give them because that's what YOU want.
So you are giving them in hopes they do same to you. IT doesn't work that way. A 3 year old kid will appreciate 1000 bob sweet and biscuits more than a 70 million bob land or property.
Learn to accept people as they are and you can only do that if you KNOW them. You only KNOW something by studying about it. Learn male psychology and treat them accordingly.

Review of season 2 : So, Season 1 had a lot of issues with me like overused trope, bad acting and bad writing at some occasions. But season 1 had also it's strenght that works with me. Season 2 for me, fixed a lot of issues that I had with the show on season 1 and turn into a really good show. First of all, Allison and Scott romance was really beautiful and I like how they make them "Romeo and Juliette" of the show with the Argent family. Speaking of the Argent family, I love how they mainly focus on their story especially with the return of Allison's grandfather Gerard who was genuinely scary to me and was a good villain. The Lydia mystery was also compelling and make me care about Lydia, something.. I didn't in the first season. Jackson has finally something to do with the Kanima storyline. I love how the writers play with Allison moral compass in this season. In the first season of the show, Allison was really this nice, kind person bu when she found out about the supernatural world, you can see that she crave for power . In season 2 ep 2, I noticed how Allison just shot someone with an arrow and just smile without feel any sort of compassion like we seen in season 1. In the episode where Lydia make a party and everyone has hallucinations of their worst fear, Allison's one was to be weak and always cry for help. Allison like to be in control and like to have the power of it. When her mom died, Gerard use this as a triger who open the door to the inner dark side of Allison. This last arc with Allison being just ruthless is just brillant and contrast so well with the now gone innocence of Allison. By the end, the break up scene between Allison and Scott was so beautiful and not make in a dumb way like most teen dramas. Stiles also get to have a lot more outside of the comedy relief and I really seen depth in the character, especially with such quote like "I'm not a hero dad" ... this one hurt because for some reasons, Stiles was mostly running everywhere trying to help everyone and for what ? The hero will never be him no matter what. In the hallucination episode, Stiles has the fear that he's responsable for his mother's dead and this scene hurt too. Where in season 1, Stiles has no real character arc and is mostly here to be the sidekick of Scott and be a loser in love with the popular girl, Stiles has a real arc here and we get to see more struggles from him. The scene where he's talking to the therapist is really good and well-handled with Stiles issues and the events of the season overall. The last episode was good but... what was Gerard actual goal ? So like I said, Gerard was scary and good in the villain role but you're gonna tell me that everything Gerard make this season and I mean EVERYTHING because there were a LOT was only to get a werewolf bite... WHAT? The premise of him being here to revenge his girl (Kate) and engaging an official war between werewolf and the hunters was good, and the events of the season helps the character developpement BUT when you get to final conclusion you realize... was it all that necessary like I mean come on now think about it for second. Where season 1 wrap up the storytelling of season 1 pretty good, season 2 finale is good but doesn't make a bunch of sense as a conclusion to all the stuff that happen in this season.
Season 3 now : So I am in the 8th episode fo this season and it's great. Did I mention how brillant I found the episode "Motel California" everything from the direction of the episode, to the writing and the pacing... everything was top notch television. The Alpha pack's story is compelling alongside with the charaters arcs. I love the fact that Allison and Scott are not coming back from each others, not because I don't like them, actually I love them, but mostly because I founded their decision mature and good, so thank you to the wirters. Also did I also mention how hot Stiles become this season, like this is not normal, because he was good looking in season 2 and 1 but season 3 ? nooo this another level. I widely seen that season 3 by a lot of people is seen as not only one of the best of the show but also of television. And for now, I don't see anything that make me disagree with that statement.

Wish Them Well is the eleventh tune on the nineteenth studio album Clockwork Angels (2012). How do you rank this song? The choices range from skippable (You can almost see the circuits blowing) to amazing (The treasure of a life).
Writing credits: Music: Geddy Lee, Alex Lifeson, Lyrics: Neil Peart
Contemporaneous band member quote: "I love the lyrics and I loved the sentiment behind this song and I felt it was really important to the concept of the album. It's about how you look at people in a non-judgmental way and I thought that was important as a part of growing up and achieving adulthood. The first two versions didn't do the lyrics justice. So kept re-writing it with Al and that's the luxury of having two and a half years to work on material for a record. We got it third time lucky." -Geddy to Jerry Ewing of Prog Magazine (June 2012)
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May be a reach...Nomi (Mac Miller's ex-girlfriend) said her favourite show was SpongeBob. Since Mac tried to get her back and not Arianka before he died, I wonder if her bonking Sponge Boy has anything to do with it. Nomi's favourite movie was Jaws and I remember Areola suddenly talking a lot about having a Jaws birthday party when she was a kid - a super random detail to constantly bring up in like every single interview. She also wore the exact same jumpsuit that Nomi had previously worn for her Baby I music video as well as constantly wearing circular sunglasses at the time (and again now) which Nomi was more known for doing. Nomi was a theatre kid on YouTube so I wouldn't be surprised if Aritha basically stalked her and learned how to be her to take Mac. Nomi was always very shy and this when Arthello entered her shy, anxiety era. Nomi has also always been a very vocal women's rights advocate/feminist (which eerily reminds me of Lily Jay - maybe Arvin and her chipmunks are threatened by strong women). Again, around this time, Arfield jumps on the wagon seemingly out of nowhere. It seems like these aren't issues (womens' equality rights) that would be pressing on her mind - considering how she lets men treats hehow she treats other women - so I wouldn't be surprised if she was just saying all the right things and kept at it long-term because it became popular so could benefit her career. Nomi also said Jessica Alba was her girl crush and Arfar's original surgery was very Jessica Alba-esque - she even got a photo with her and they looked practically identical. These girls could just have a bunch of things in common and maybe Mac had a type (Nomi did forgive him for cheating on her with Arianahnahnah, putting the blame on herself and I love Mac but maybe it was easier to go for women with low self-esteem?) yet Nomi seems so genuine and consistent in what she likes whilst King Ari VIII sort of picks up trends like iced coffees from Starbucks. Oh, wait, she stopped going to Starbucks because she now only shops at black-owned businesses that she got a photo at one time before going straight back to Starbucks. I also hate how she's been trying to copy Britney Spears so bad lately. It's giving personality disorder (not to shame people who deal with this but she needs to recognise whatever's going on so she can deal with it). And I don't know if she's on too many drugs or not enough but Arizona is on the wrong amount

(Skip to the end to see the informal poll and avoid the anxious ramble)
My first year of teaching was a disaster from beginning to end. I know most teachers’ first year is the worst and you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing bc you don’t know what you’re doing and there’s so much pressure. Etc.
Even beyond the more typical misery was a lot of personal life tumult and turmoil and trauma and chaos going on, including a debilitating (somewhat unofficial but more or less confirmed based on symptoms) diagnosis I have to live with now without having much insight as to prognosis. And a lot more discomfort involving loved ones.
Reflecting on this year is almost as traumatic as the experience itself. I had next to zero support, with the exception of about 2 weeks under the guidance of an amazing master teacher. But that was it. The morale at the school was beneath rock bottom. Every single day was worse than the day before. I tried to go in positive. But with very few exceptions, everyone was miserable and no one tried to hide it. People were directly rude to me, condescending, sarcastic, openly comtemptful, angry, hated the kids and cursed about them and screamed at them (“shut UP!!!!” “MORON! GET OUT!” “You’re STUPID, I should have LET that student hit you!” “I woulda hit you in the face too if you’d done something like that to me!” Just a few quotes off the top of my head, not to mention one slamming the door on my sped teacher’s face along with our sped students, which the principal did absolutely nothing about despite his friendship with the sped teacher). Discipline/behavior was an absolute JOKE. I think I’ve painted an accurate picture of how awful it was.
I guessed my way through everything but did my absolute best and figured everything out. A bit of productive struggle and hey, by the end of the year I was an expert in a lot of things I knew nothing about months earlier. My rapport with my students was great, to give myself some credit. They loved me. Albeit too much—they thought of my softness as a doormat. They felt free and liberated in my classroom bc I seldom raised my voice. Unfortunately what they’re accustomed to is only listening when yelled at, and as a new teacher, I did not have better tools to manage classroom behavior, beyond building relationships, and my class was a bit out of control. It became all about getting through the curriculum through the 3rd quarter.
My benchmark scores went up, which was pretty amazing considering everything. However at the very beginning of the 4th quarter my principal informed me that he wasn’t renewing my contract and that he would never let me teach 4th grade again, that “I don’t know if I would ever let you teach any grade level, maybe try pre-k—you get nap time and someone is always with you.” So he wrote off my career as an elementary teacher after just a few months of teaching. I could go in about how he had covertly brought in his very own former student (who had only recently began prepping to take the Praxis) as my replacement, unofficially “employed” but “technically not.” But I don’t want to get into that, as furious as it made me. I just stopped writing lesson plans bc no way was I gonna train her for free when they gave me zero support through the year.
I had way more bad days than good—the kids and my para got me through it! I was grateful for that. They were wonderful and I miss them. But I was made to feel incompetent. I slowly started to realize that him booting me was a blessing in disguise, especially after learning how many students I’d have had next year. And some other changes that won’t be helpful.
There’s also a lot of BS going on in our state regarding education. So things are not exactly going to get easier. Alas, I need a paycheck and I went to school and passed praxis to be a teacher. I’m 44 so it’s not like I have many options.
But I did actually finally get an interview at a library last week! I’d applied for 6 years and never got so much as a phone call. Unfortunately it’s part time and drastically less pay (which is honestly pitiful). And it would take me years to make close to what I make now. And I was just getting into certification so as a teacher I’d get a $10k raise. Buuut I really don’t want to miss a rare opportunity to get my foot in the door at the library!
I’ve got dozens of job offers in my district. I had 6 principals call me and email me yesterday alone! I know I could make decent money. But I don’t want to turn down the library job, which absolutely would not cut it financially.
I forgot to mention a key component of this dilemma: Teaching is extremely overstimulating to me. I’m autistic/adhd. This was part of my misery. Between my loud a/c units in my classroom and the kids noises desks constantly clanking and kids constantly talking over me etc etc etc, and the awful attitudes of most coworkers and all the other stuff, I barely made it to the end of the year. I know most of us actually feel that way, but my day to day in the classroom is beyond awful. I cried constantly, I had panic attacks going in every single morning during the 4th quarter after years of reduced panic attacks, most days I felt frustrated, and some days I even had moments where I could not even talk anymore and had to go home (these days where at least one kid told me to “Shut the f- - k up b-tch!” or fought or both plus admin treated me like crap and I had enough). Not to mention spending entire weekends and weeknights writing lesson plans, creating lessons, grading, entering grades, etc etc etc. All I could think about every day was how much I wished I could get a library job!! I even had a student tell me I would make a better librarian than teacher. She was excited when I got the call about the interview lol.
But what if my next school is better? What if I go in knowing expectations and having a better idea of how to do things and how to establish classroom procedures, what if it’s better? What if it’s stupid to give up on a better paying job? I’d love to get my MLIS but realistically, there aren’t very many librarian jobs and moving isn’t an option. The day to day would almost be worth the paycut. I’ve contemplated doing both, just for one year. I know that sounds nuts, and it’s risky, but what’s more important? My paycheck, or my mental health?! I honestly don’t know! I need the money. But I also need a peaceful environment.
Here are my options:
A) Substitute w library for almost the same money as I made uncertified, which was barely enough
B) Library + teaching full time bc you’re insane and unrealistic
C) Library only + MLIS bc it’s your dream & short term paycut is worth long term happiness.
D) Girl, are you insane?! Teaching only bc it’s the smart move!

My first reddit post, hope you guys go easy on me.

1. Her

I met her (let's call her missybusy) through a common friend group. My friends from my previous school were still connected to me and I often used to meet them. She was new to that friend group and it was her first time coming for a meetup. My friend has a pretty big place so a lot of us could accommodate at the same time. I am usually quiet and I talk less. I was sitting in the corner on the sofa and then I saw her enter through the door along with one other friend of mine. And oh my god, I was in awe and amazement because truthfully, I had never seen a girl so pretty and radiant. Her eyes were bright like the moon at night, her complexion fair like milk and her smile was just so beautiful I can’t even describe it in words. She was the quiet one as well so we both were seated in the corner having small to no conversation. This was my first meeting with her and then we met on multiple other meetups and it was always a few words of exchange. One of my friends (let's call him Dave) was actually sort of close to her and they both used to talk frequently. However, some problems arrived between Dave and missybusy and so Dave reached out to me for help. So, I tried to solve matters by talking to both Missybusy and Dave and this is how I started talking properly to Missybusy. I tried to solve the matter and, in the process, I became friends with Missybusy. And she was really fun to talk to! all this time I perceived her to be quiet and less talkative but when I started to talk to her, I realized that she has an amazing personality besides being so pretty. And around that time my friendship with her strengthened and we used to talk frequently but not every day. And somewhere among these conversations I developed a liking for her and so did she. We used to flirt a lot and it was so fun and pure. This went on for around 3 to 4 months and we continued to flirt and talk. And it was around the time of January when she had returned from the farewell of her high school and she showed me the pictures and she looked gorgeous. An absolute angel. And that night of constant flirting I always kept mentioning about another her in front Missybusy, I did that so she wouldn’t suspect that I liked her. But then she got serious and she confessed that she liked me and I was in a small shock but then I confessed to her as well. At this point one would think that this is it, this is where you guys get into a relationship. But no, I actually asked her to wait for our final exams to be over and even she wanted this. Around One and a half month later we went on our first date. And it was peaceful but it was a very dull date to be honest I took her from one place to another which I feel was terrible. I screwed up the first date. But she told me it was really peaceful and so I didn’t think much of it back then. We kept talking over WhatsApp and Instagram for almost another 2 months but we were not in a relationship yet because she said she wanted time and I believed I shouldn’t pressure her so I kept waiting thinking we have all the time in the world. She was an introvert and she didn’t go out much she liked staying at home more and I sort of found this trait cute, although it meant we didn’t get to meet a lot. 2. Dates and Love In the month of June, we went for another date and spoiler alert, this is the day I fell in love with her. We went to watch a movie- Spiderman, into the spider-verse, and to be honest the movie was decently funny and every time Missybusy laughed I looked at her and adored her smile. I noticed she was shivering, she felt cold because the cinema hall was actually very cold so I wrapped my arm around her so she wouldn’t feel cold and she just came closer and the annoying armrest was like a wall in between. In that moment, I made my purest and most honest wish to God (I’m very spiritual and religious). I asked God to always keep Missybusy happy no matter what. After the movie we exited the hall and we were standing near the exit of the mall and just talking and laughing. It was a blissful moment I can never forget that moment ever. She just jokingly pushed me and I literally fell down and I’ve got to say it was funny as hell. And while I was on the ground I saw her laughing so loudly and openly that I… I also fell in love. I was madly in love. We laughed and talked for another half an hour more and then the both of us went home. While on my way to home I realized that I had fallen for her and everything around me felt so soothing, so amazing and I was so happy. This was my favorite day with her and my best day yet. It was perfect, it was divine it was full of amazement and I for the first time felt what is it like to love. One problem I’ve always had is expressing my feelings. I end up thinking what the other person is going to think about my feelings and I’m going to be judged. But I still told her I love you but she hadn’t said it back yet. Another date we went on that she considered her favorite day with me was when we went to have pizzas. At first, we just walked around, talked a lot and laughed together. Held hands and roamed the paths. Then we came across a pizza shop and decided to have some pizza. Oh boy did I know what the day was going to unfold. She has two siblings so she always had been a fast eater when it came to pizzas and ice creams and at that time, I didn’t know that she ate pizzas so quickly. She finished her whole pizzas before I could finish two slices and to be fair, I’ve always been a slow eater and I didn’t eat very spicy food at the time. So, she was done with her pizza way before I had. She added chili flakes to my pizza slice which slowed my pace even more and she just sat there watching me eat and laughed at me while I was just trying my best to eat the pizza. I realized how much she was enjoying this so I just prolonged this whole thing, I ate slower, I made faces and I even called her a bully and she was laughing so much and, in my heart, I enjoyed that so much. I usually don’t allow people to mess with my food but seeing her laugh I just wanted this moment to last forever. A couple of time later, when everyone was busy filling applications for college, one of our friends (let’s call her jane) hosted a birthday party. The plan was that she will invite us all to our house and then from there we’ll go to a restaurant. So Missybusy and I went to buy gift for our friend and we bought two identical plushies for Jane. Anyways, that day was so special. Because when we all went back home and when Missybusy and I were talking over WhatsApp she said ‘I love you’. For the first time ever, I heard it from her, although it was still on text, I was jumping around screaming in joy and a few tears of joy appeared. I was beaming with joy. I was so happy. This should mean we were finally together, right? Nope. Our colleges were about to start soon and we both were enrolled in a different college, she said she wanted to see how our college life is going to affect our relationship. I didn’t think of it much since what could’ve gone wrong? College started and one month in and I could feel the distance increasing between us and she seemed busier than usual obviously but somewhere because of this she wasn’t giving me much time either. It was a Sunday afternoon when I confronted her about this and she seemed to have realized this as well and she said she’s really sorry about all this. But in the end, she said a relationship doesn’t seem possible. I was devastated but I didn’t shout or yell at her I tried to convince her in everyway possible. But it was futile. It seemed impossible to convince her. And the call ended with a goodbye.

1. The real end

Another problem that I had this whole time was not knowing when to give up trying and give up trying to keep her happy instead of myself. One day later she texted me and she asked if we could meet because she believed I deserved a proper goodbye. And I eventually went to meet her the very next day. And we talked a lot. She said she felt really sorry and she told me that I deserved the best. She told me she was overwhelmed by college; she saw so many faces together and it was difficult for her. I was just super sad but anyhow I controlled myself and I didn’t cry in front of her. But she did, she started crying and I couldn’t hold back then, I hugged her and patted her head telling it’s alright. After she stopped crying, she said she’s sorry and she told me she changed her mind, she had some expectations from a relationship and one of them was physical touch and since we lived far from each other that seemed less likely but she said one has to sacrifice something for love, and I was just confused. I didn’t know what to say, what to do. I said I’ll let her know. Less than an hour after we went back to our homes, I messaged her saying that I’m ready and I want to be with her. Because I thought God had given us a second chance and I believed that it is very much possible and I shouldn’t take too long to tell her.
Everything was perfect for about a month. It was the month of October; we had a small quarrel over something and the next day I called her to apologize. But something seemed different, something felt off. She said it’s okay but I could feel something was off. The worst day of the year and the worst time of that day. She told me her brother had run away from their house because of something that happened with him and a girl and their family was in a lot of panic, and she was obviously worried and scared. She prayed to God to return her brother and she promised that she will never date someone again. I stood there, without movement, without words and I realized what it had meant. It meant an official goodbye. Breaking up in a way one could never expect. She told me to promise to not tell this reason for breakup to my friends (common friend group). I was the one who was given up. The call ended with both of us saying I love you but for the last time ever. I wasn’t at home; I was outside in a park. I felt as if someone had stabbed me right through the heart. I couldn’t feel the wind anymore. People seemed to have stopped talking. The sky lost its color, the birds stopped chirping. My whole world had come to a pause. I couldn’t think straight. I returned home acting normal. My father had come to visit, he rarely visits the city because him and my mother are separated so I don’t get to see my whole family together often so I didn’t want to spoil it. My mother and sister knew about Missybusy. Later that night I told my mom and sister that we broke up and my mom was worried but I told her to not worry because I was fine and I never told them the actual reason either, I just keep telling them I got bored of her so that they won’t worry about me, besides I had created such a wonderful image of missybusy for them I thought I should let it be that way. I couldn’t tell me friends what had happened, I didn’t tell my mom and sister what actually happened. I just kept it to myself and it hurt. It hurt really bad. I felt as if I had given her my heart and she shattered it and threw it away. I never hated her for it and I always blamed the circumstances.

1. Life goes on

I was broken. And as any person after a breakup felt sad and sorrowful, so did I. But I kept my emotions bottled and never told anyone the actual reason. I did everything possible to keep myself distracted, I played games for many hours in a day, I talked to multiple people at once, I scrolled Instagram for hours and I was even addicted. I was losing control and I was falling in a huge pit. Days went by, I was in a terrible mental state. I attended every meetup possible even the ones I didn’t feel like going to, I was spending money like I was a millionaire or something, and I was running out of it. In the month of December, I went to visit my father and when he went for work I was alone and bored so I re-installed snapchat and just took a snap and sent it to all, I didn’t realize it went to Missybusy as well. She replied to that snap and asked how I am doing and we started a small conversation, we were just catching up and all. I was still in a poor mental state but honestly it just felt good talking to her again. And I asked her one question- “When exactly did you move on” and she replied she hadn’t. I felt bad because I realized it must’ve been difficult for her as well, college was tough for her. She told me she dated someone for two days. I was devastated yet again. So that promise for which we had to break up meant nothing. But for some reason a part of me was relieved anyway because she didn’t deserve all this. But what about me? I felt self-pity at that point honestly. When she was gone, I felt as if a part of me was taken away. I never asked for this and I never thought that I’ll have to go through all this when I first said I love you to her. Although we decided we should keep talking but I just couldn’t, after everything I could not just see her as a friend, I’ll always see her as my first love. I always try my best to smile and fool around my friends because that's who I was before I met her but I didn’t force it back then. When I returned to my city, I knew I couldn’t let these bad habits be my future. I knew what happened with me wasn’t fair but I couldn’t let that destroy my career or life. I started learning new things. I got into the stock market learnt a bit of trading and made good sum of money. I was still playing games and was still somewhat addicted. But slowly but surely, I was recollecting myself. I tried avoiding meetups with my school friends’ group because they always bring up this topic and I just hated that. I wanted peace. No matter how the days went by the night were always difficult, I didn’t hate her but I hated that the thought of her kept coming in my mind. It was always hard to fall asleep.

1. The Present- I’m still not over her completely. A part of me will always have hope for her to come back even though my mind knows otherwise but the heart is just weird. I met my school group friends after a long time and I felt good. There were four of us (Me, Dave and let’s call the other two Bob and Marley). I get along with Marley very well, he has his college in a different city so whenever he comes here, I make sure to meet him separately. When I met Marley, we went to a café just to have food and talk really, he asked me why does no one know the real reason for my and Missybusy's breakup. I just told him that it’s complicated. Then Marley told me that he heard from Bob and Dave that they told him that Missybusy started to like someone else that is why you both broke up. It was unprecedented to me. I felt weird, I felt a weird sting. I went back home and I messaged her to confront about this, I was taken away by my impulses. She assured me that wasn’t it and then we started talking like normal people do, talked about each other’s friends’, each other’s college life and so on. Then she asked if it’s possible to meet because it had been so long! And I was honestly scared to meet her but I just agreed anyway. 30th of may we met at a bowling and pool café. We sat there and talked about each other’s life. And honestly it seemed God did listen to my wish for keeping her happy because she had made good friends at college and obviously, she did have some problems but overall, she did seem happy and I was happy for that. The moment I saw her again after such a long time I realized nothing changed, she was just as pretty, her eyes were glowing just as usual and her fashion game was on the top. We made several eye contacts throughout and I could see a little pain in her eyes. It was the pain of guilt or pain of just losing, I won’t know for sure. When we were talking about our lives and what all had happened in these 7 and a half months, I felt so peaceful inside. But as soon as I mentioned what all I had to go through after out breakup she kept saying sorry and it felt as if I was just there to make her feel sorry. So, I refrained from talking about that. But then what did I have to talk about? Most of these months I had spent in misery and apart from that I told her about the little breakthroughs that I made in the market and I told her how I made some good friends at college. But that was it really. So, she did most of the talking. I was just listening. I didn’t want to talk about what I had to go through all these months because I felt I’ll just pressure her with more guilt. I didn’t come here to meet her and just listen to her saying sorry. I only cared about her smile.

My failure of expressing came back to me, I couldn’t tell her that I still loved her, I couldn’t tell her I still miss her. I just listened to her and laughed with her. She asked me once more before we left the park where we were walking at the moment, can we still we be friends? I was hesitant. But I told her we couldn’t. I told her we won’t be able to give time to this friendship and besides I have my competitive exams in December so I need to focus on that. But that’s just a part of it, I can never view her as my friend but always as the person I loved.
When we exited the park, we were standing near her car (oh she drives great by the way!). I told her to go while I wait for my uber. I pushed her away (not physically), I kept telling her to go away. That was it, no hugs just goodbyes. I wanted to hug her but I didn’t want the part of me that still had hope to grow. As she drove away, I realized in the end, I did end up hurting her by telling her to just go away. I came back home, acted normal as usual. Lied to my mom and sister again and told them the 'meeting was fine but it was boring'. The next day when I was home alone. I burst out crying. I never cried this much before. Only I know what I have lost. I didn’t want the part of me that had hope to grow but I also didn’t want it to just die. I cried for hours until eventually I washed my face and waited for my mom and sister to return. Missybusy was gone. I know what I’ve lost. And I blame myself for it. I can physically feel the pain in my heart at this point. It hurts so much. I wish I never met her after she told me a relationship isn’t possible. I wish I was never in love. I wish I never love again. I wish to be never this vulnerable again. I had gone through so much pain in those months and tried to act normal in front of everyone. I can’t tell how many thoughts crossed my mind daily. I just kept it bottled up within me. In the end I think God doesn’t like my heart. When I was in my mother’s womb it was found that I had a very faint heartbeat. As soon as I was born, I was taken into the ICU for surgery. Five years later it was found I have a low BPM. And so many years later my heart was broken into pieces. God doesn’t like my heart.

Quotes About Adventure

1. "Life is an adventure, not a guided tour."

2. "The best journeys in life are those that answer questions you never thought to ask."

3. "Adventure awaits where the pavement ends."

Quotes About Exploration

4. "Exploration is really the essence of the human spirit."

5. "To travel is to discover that everyone is wrong about other countries."

6. "Exploration is curiosity put into action."

Quotes About Nature

7. "In every walk with nature, one receives far more than he seeks."

8. "Nature always wears the colors of the spirit."

9. "The mountains are calling, and I must go."

Quotes About Courage

10. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it."

11. "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are."

12. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."

Quotes About Challenge

13. "The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it."

14. "Challenges are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."

15. "Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations."

Quotes About Freedom

16. "Freedom lies in being bold."

17. "Freedom is the open window through which pours the sunlight of the human spirit."

18. "The secret of happiness is freedom, the secret of freedom is courage."

Quotes About Persistence

19. "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts."

20. "Persistence can change failure into extraordinary achievement."

21. "The only way to do great work is to love what you do."

Quotes About Discovery

22. "The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams."

23. "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all."

24. "The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience."

Quotes About Camaraderie

25. "The joy is in the journey, not the destination."

26. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'"

27. "The only way to have a friend is to be one."

Quotes About Resilience

28. "You are stronger than you think."

29. "Tough times never last, but tough people do."

30. "Fall down seven times, stand up eight."

Quotes About Passion

31. "Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you."

32. "The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself as to why you can't achieve it."

33. "Do what you love, and you'll never have a problem with Monday."

Quotes About Independence

34. "Independence is happiness."

35. "Don't let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning."

36. "The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday."

Quotes About Vision

37. "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

38. "Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions."

39. "Believe you can and you're halfway there."

Quotes About Adversity

40. "Adversity introduces a man to himself."

41. "The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials."

42. "Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths."

Quotes About Empowerment

43. "Empower yourself. You control your destiny."

44. "You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you."

45. "Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle."

Quotes About Gratitude

46. "Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions."

47. "The more you are grateful for, the more you will have to be grateful for."

48. "Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life."

Quotes About Achievement

49. "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."

50. "Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."

51. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."

Quotes About Exploration

52. "The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance."

53. "The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page."

54. "Adventure is worthwhile."

Quotes About Passion

55. "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."

56. "Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls."

57. "Passion is the genesis of genius."

Quotes About Resilience

58. "The only way out is through."

59. "Life doesn't get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient."

60. "Life is tough, but so are you."

Quotes About Freedom

61. "Freedom is the oxygen of the soul."

62. "The secret to happiness is freedom... And the secret to freedom is courage."

63. "Freedom is the will to be responsible to ourselves."

Quotes About Adversity

64. "Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass but learning to dance in the rain."

65. "Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths."

66. "Adversity causes some men to break; others to break records."

Quotes About Courage

67. "Courage is grace under pressure."

68. "What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?"

69. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it."

Quotes About Persistence

70. "Persistence is the twin sister of excellence. One is a matter of quality; the other, a matter of time."

71. "Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."

72. "The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will."

Quotes About Teamwork

73. "Alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much."

74. "Teamwork makes the dream work."

75. "Coming together is a beginning, staying together is progress, and working together is success."

Quotes About Determination

76. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."

77. "The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will."

78. "Determination today leads to success tomorrow."

Quotes About Inspiration

79. "The only way to do great work is to love what you do."

80. "The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step."

81. "Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going."

Quotes About Motivation

82. "It's not about how bad you want it. It's about how hard you're willing to work for it."

83. "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success."

84. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."

Quotes About Success

85. "Success is not in what you have, but who you are."

86. "The only way to do great work is to love what you do."

87. "Success is not the destination, it's the journey."

Quotes About Adventure

88. "Adventure is worthwhile."

89. "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all."

90. "The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams."

Quotes About Nature

91. "In every walk with nature, one receives far more than he seeks."

92. "The earth has music for those who listen."

93. "The mountains are calling, and I must go."

Quotes About Freedom

94. "Freedom lies in being bold."

95. "Freedom is the oxygen of the soul."

96. "The secret to happiness is freedom... And the secret to freedom is courage."

Quotes About Resilience

97. "You are stronger than you think."

98. "The only way out is through."

99. "Life doesn't get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient."

Quotes About Courage

100. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it."

Conclusion

Off-road adventures are more than just physical journeys; they represent the spirit of exploration, courage, and perseverance. These inspiring quotes encapsulate the essence of off-roading, reminding us to embrace challenges, seek adventure, and never lose sight of our dreams.

FAQs About Off-Roading Quotes

1. Are these quotes only for off-road enthusiasts? These quotes can inspire anyone who seeks adventure, challenges, and personal growth, not just off-road enthusiasts.
2. Can I use these quotes for my social media posts? Absolutely! Feel free to share these quotes on your social media platforms to inspire your friends and followers.
3. Are these quotes from famous personalities? Yes, some of these quotes are from renowned authors, adventurers, and thinkers who have embraced the spirit of exploration and adventure.
4. How can I apply these quotes to my everyday life? You can use these quotes as daily affirmations or as reminders to stay motivated, resilient, and adventurous in your pursuits.
5. Do you have any additional resources for off-road enthusiasts? Yes, there are many online communities, forums, and blogs dedicated to off-roading where you can find more inspiration, tips, and information about off-road adventures.Quotes About Adventure

1. "Life is an adventure, not a guided tour."

2. "The best journeys in life are those that answer questions you never thought to ask."

3. "Adventure awaits where the pavement ends."

Quotes About Exploration

4. "Exploration is really the essence of the human spirit."

5. "To travel is to discover that everyone is wrong about other countries."

6. "Exploration is curiosity put into action."

Quotes About Nature

7. "In every walk with nature, one receives far more than he seeks."

8. "Nature always wears the colors of the spirit."

9. "The mountains are calling, and I must go."

Quotes About Courage

10. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it."

11. "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are."

12. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."

Quotes About Challenge

13. "The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it."

14. "Challenges are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."

15. "Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations."

Quotes About Freedom

16. "Freedom lies in being bold."

17. "Freedom is the open window through which pours the sunlight of the human spirit."

18. "The secret of happiness is freedom, the secret of freedom is courage."

Quotes About Persistence

19. "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts."

20. "Persistence can change failure into extraordinary achievement."

21. "The only way to do great work is to love what you do."

Quotes About Discovery

22. "The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams."

23. "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all."

24. "The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience."

Quotes About Camaraderie

25. "The joy is in the journey, not the destination."

26. "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'"

27. "The only way to have a friend is to be one."

Quotes About Resilience

28. "You are stronger than you think."

29. "Tough times never last, but tough people do."

30. "Fall down seven times, stand up eight."

Quotes About Passion

31. "Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you."

32. "The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself as to why you can't achieve it."

33. "Do what you love, and you'll never have a problem with Monday."

Quotes About Independence

34. "Independence is happiness."

35. "Don't let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning."

36. "The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday."

Quotes About Vision

37. "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

38. "Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions."

39. "Believe you can and you're halfway there."

Quotes About Adversity

40. "Adversity introduces a man to himself."

41. "The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials."

42. "Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths."

Quotes About Empowerment

43. "Empower yourself. You control your destiny."

44. "You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you."

45. "Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle."

Quotes About Gratitude

46. "Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions."

47. "The more you are grateful for, the more you will have to be grateful for."

48. "Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life."

Quotes About Achievement

49. "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."

50. "Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."

51. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."

Quotes About Exploration

52. "The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance."

53. "The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page."

54. "Adventure is worthwhile."

Quotes About Passion

55. "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."

56. "Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls."

57. "Passion is the genesis of genius."

Quotes About Resilience

58. "The only way out is through."

59. "Life doesn't get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient."

60. "Life is tough, but so are you."

Quotes About Freedom

61. "Freedom is the oxygen of the soul."

62. "The secret to happiness is freedom... And the secret to freedom is courage."

63. "Freedom is the will to be responsible to ourselves."

Quotes About Adversity

64. "Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass but learning to dance in the rain."

65. "Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths."

66. "Adversity causes some men to break; others to break records."

Quotes About Courage

67. "Courage is grace under pressure."

68. "What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?"

69. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it."

Quotes About Persistence

For context we've been dating for 6 months or so. He moved into my house this month because we decided it would be better for us overall. He has some mental issues that he's been going to therapy for. He had trouble with drinking (not socially) when we first met and in February I told him that has to stop or it's not going to work out (I said it in a way which showed I cared because I do). He's been sober for 3 months which is awesome for him and us. Also he's in the army and is a paramedic. Anyway, recently I started to pick up that he keeps misunderstanding me. I'm a lighthearted person and he's a bit more serious. Examples being: We were having a light hearted text convo and I sent laughing emojis bc I thought he was being cute, but he took that as I was demeaning and laughing at him. I will say that I'm cold (temp), like just voice my thoughts because I do that, and he will say "I'm the biggest complainer" he knows. The other night he asked if i wanted to eat outside and I took a pause to think and said "yeah let me just get a sweater first" and he took that as I never want to do anything with him and that I'm the laziest person he's ever met. I reassured him I was literally just going to get a sweater and then we could eat outside, which we did. Come yesterday, he texts me that he's so excited to see me and I send back the futurama bender gif "Shut up baby I know it" with a "hehehehe", and that gif is literally an inside joke between us so I thought all was good. He comes home, goes to hug me and I see that his shirt says "drugs not hugs" so I laugh, say it, and then slightly push his chest. I go back in for a hug and he goes completely stone face, turns around and leaves the room. I go back out and he starts lashing out that I don't care about this relationship at all. That I never reassure him and I'm joking 100% of the time. I was shocked at this point because I feel like I'm always showing that I care and I do have serious convos with him. He says I don't engage and ask questions when he's talking to me (let's say about work stuff), and I told him I do and just because I don't ask questions doesn't mean I'm not listening. I don't know a whole lot about his work so it's not like I can always put a lot of input it.
We had my family over for Memorial day and he was so excited because he cooked ribs and he's never hosted people before. I kept telling him over and over how happy I am for him, rubbing his back and telling him he did such a good job. I even had my whole family clap for him before he left. But he said he took all of that as me saying "Okay yeah you can cook if you want." And yes I'm a more lighthearted person than he is. When I brought up that if I'm too lighthearted than he's too serious he goes "yeah well you would be too if you had to do what I did at work". And I've never not supported him or consoled him if he was having a bad day. I feel like he can make up excuses for his behavior but mine has to be changed. We got into a fight in the beginning of the relationship because I would ask if he wanted water or if he needed a pillow while we were sitting. i quote "I can get my own f*cking pillow". But now I'm not reassuring enough and I told him how am I supposed to know if I'm being enough or not enough and he said "Find the middle!" He said it's not enough that I go to sit on the couch and wait for him, I should tell him that I want him to sit with me. I told him "I'm reassuring you right now I want you to sit next to me" and he said it's a day by day basis. The whole thing yesterday was not me willing to change but me trying to understand what exactly he wants. He doesn't "want me to change who I am" but that's how I see this? Like I feel like he's only focusing on these small things and not looking at the big picture. He said I should be the one asking him if he's perceiving something wrong and I asked why he can't tell me if he is? Like in the laughing emoji instance I told him I was sorry and that I wasn't laughing AT him and he kept saying that's how he perceived it. Like even though I keep reassuring him the way he's perceiving things are not the actual truth, he says it doesn't matter because that's how he "feels". Kept saying that over and over. Also when we have disagreements he's always trying to make me the bad person. "Oh so you dont care about how I feel" "Oh so you think im this etc etc." I feel like he's in a victims mindset even though I never say. I'm always telling him there's no right or wrong. But the way he's always trying to come back at me to prove his point makes me feel like he wants to always be right. Also I'm always the person who has said sorry in disagreements even if It's not warranted. Yesterday was the second time he's said sorry but it was "sorry for making you cry".
I thought he was confident but now I feel like he's showing a lot of insecurities? Like I thought i was the insecure person (to a point). I don't know really what to do. I'm either too much or I'm too little. Someone help please. There's alot more I want to say. (Like how he always rough handles my cats and I ask him not to and he still does it). Like I would feel shitty kicking him out of my house after not even a month but I don't know what to do. He has no family here so he would have to find an apartment. But at this point I'm like "maybe he wants me to break up with him"?? If I did he would throw it back in my face 100%. I love him but I'm at my wits end. I'm always trying to work on myself and improve from situations and see it from the other person's perspective. Help!

Edit: The downvotes have begun but hopefully that means people are reading till the end too. Will have to try the BridgertonRants sub as that seems more accepting of discussions and debates. : )
Would super appreciate it if everyone reads this long-ass thesis of a post with an open mind and to the end...its me being vulnerable in an anonymous reddit sub because i think these things matter in the larger framework of a uniquely special show and the big, bright, beautiful, multicultural gorgeous world we all as humans live in. My last post in this sub was downvoted to hell which btw totally ok...and i dont depend on reddit currency for my livelihood so its all good. I just care about my posts being read...specially this one.
Some context:
I'm very new to this community and reddit as well. Currently have time off work and going ham on reddit and venturing very scared into the deep dark of world of rabid fandoms and small niche communities. Getting a little burnt along the way but also learning from some super talented fans with their own eye-opening ideas and funny posts. Fans of all kinds, Im peeping into profiles, so white, black, brown multicolored rainbow of the world right here.
I'm also an aspiring writer and well...some of my best ideas have come from reddit lurking on cool and active subs with bridgerton sub being new for me. Jet lagged, anxious and just a tad bit antsy, I'm trying to go down and deep and maybe open some deeper discussions here.
I am Indian and lived primarily in India my whole life and now for the last 10 years between London and Canada (why am I sharing all this like and am I also going to tell you my weight, my height etc too...No but hopefully you'll understand this revelation as you read ahead without me spelling it out)
So I've been trying to figure out why fan wars as they pertain to this show prick so personally, so particularly.
I think fandoms anywhere in every country are full of insane people, obsessive chronically online people who find comfort through living through their faves..your beyonce stans, your rihanna stans, your Taylor Swift stans, your harry styles stans, your k pop stans, etc etc..
This show also has some rabid fans..But there is a conversation I want to open up only because I think it's important...Is fighting extra hard for your poc fave because you know their representation in pop culture is limited, their getting jobs is limited, subconscious biases exist even though we have been making great strides and even eradicated overt biases in employment, in accessibility, in government service etc etc ..and their culture not as dominant, their worlds not as seen or coveted.
Our ideas of beauty are framed by the extensiveness and longevity of colonial rule across the world.
there are shit people across all ethnicities religions and genders and nationalities. Barbarians, conquerors, invaders, pillaging villages raping women destroying livelihoods suppressing the peasant class, mutilating and diluting cultures- exist in Africa, the Indian subcontinent, East asia, middle East etc so not just Britain. Basically being brown, black or East Asian and Middle Eastern doesnt grant you moral superiority over white people and you can be racist and casteist and colorist and bigoted and biased and just all around shitty and criminal as a black, brown, east asian middle eastern etc etc person just as much as white people.
So now that thats settled, lets look at specific issues that POC only face because that eventually streams into the show and its politics and its discussion as well.
But for whatever reason ...the British were able to colonize on a scale that the other countries and ethnicities were not able to.. African and the Indian subcontinent's conquests and invasions were limited in area and time period...their scale of conquest limited to a small radius around their own countries...and not foreign lands travelled via sea etc.
As a result and only as a result and not because and I cannot emphasize enough that black, brown or east asian invaders, rulers etc were morally superior, kinder, less assholes...the culture that became dominant was white british culture..or european culture...if Indians had conquered the world, they would have imposed their culture on the lands and countries they invaded, if different African countries invaded the world to the extent of the british colonists, same thing...the dominant culture that would have been forcibly imposed by the people of african ethnicity would be their culture... Black skin would have been considered beautiful, white fair skin would not have been the standard....thats history....thats something we know to be true even through modern wars...the victor dictates...But that simply didnt happen.
it's not because t Africans or Asians or basically non white people are morally superior, more virtuous, incapable of terrorist acts or colonizing or I don't know were like we don't invade and conquest, we so good. But because that's history. They just didn't manage it. thats simply our current historical reality.
Being that the country or countries that did manage to conquer the world or close to 9/10ths of it were Europeans or more specifically British white nationals..which means as would happen even if another nationality had managed to invade the world, the culture that is dominant across the world is a west/white slanted world..
Colorism as a concept didnt exist until colonization: Why would it? If everyone existed under the same harsh sun, had the same skin color with minor variances...why would they think fair is more beautiful. Its because they wouldnt...the first blond haired blue eyed people would have been introduced to India via early traders of east india company in India and dutch colonists before them...Its like if everyone around you is brown, you assume thats just how everyone else looks like...thats the only reality you know...you simply havent seen anyone look any different..you havent seen blue eyes or anything else....same for africans and within that framework as humans are wont to do you create ideas of beauty.
So yes. POCs across the globe had just as arbitrary ideas of beauty as white people (chiense mutilated young women feet cuz small feet more beautiful, in africa genital mutiliation) because humans are humans and humans mess everything up...and animals are so much better...but color as a construct is a colonial one and one which managed to find deeep deep roots because of the extent of the rule, the sheer longevity, For context, India has been independent for the last 75 years..from over 200 years of colonial british rule...Not even the length of the life of a single human. Not even as long as Britains former queen was alive. It will take some more time for that in fighting and ideas of colorism deeply penetrated from the inheritance of our rulers to get dismanted...and totally thrown own...because you can freee from literall bondage more easily, the mind takes longer to adjust and form independent thought. But it will happen.
White people are not more or less racist than POC. Thats not a thing. There are shit people and you can find shit people anywhere...I have shit people right in my own home country, bigots, destroying the diversity of India by bullshit tactics...
But as it stands...because this cultural superiority of British and white people took over, the framing of beauty, of whats fashionable, of whats cool, of whats civilized is all seen through the lens of white culture...eating with hands which many cultures across the world do uncivilized unhygienic, paris fashions and made in italy...mark of excellence...made in India and China...cheap, low quality, scammers and shit people, (thats not to say shit people and scammers dont exist in India and China and there arent industries of scammers across these poorer nations but there is also denying the equisite craftasmanship across fashion and beauty in both countries-China and India.
Brown skin bad, even darker skin even bad etc etc...We wear clothes that our colonial masters did across the world, you wont find people in china wearing Chinese clothes, same for India, african countries etc...everything from clothing, to beauty, to furniture, to houses everything indigenous was changed to a foreign ideal from our rulers. The same would have happened whoever whichever ethnicity had invaded the world...like i said above..
Now and thanks for reading whoever read till here and I hope a lot of people did-on to to the show...
There is this frequent refrain and accusation of oppression olympics that I read about when it comes to this show, in general online discourse and also this insanely disgusting article fat shaming Nicola Coughlan in The Spectator.
And i really really want to open up this conversation...cuz race gets discussed a lot on this sub and other bridgerton subs and therefore a perfect place to have that conversation...Do Non-POC really believe in the concept of oppression olympics and that all kinds of biases are equally treacherous to navigate?
So I was overweight in my teens...I had a close friend who was wheelchair bound. my life was hard and I was bullied but surely surely I do not think that my plight was the same as my friend in a wheelchair...In class 10th, a close friend's father passed away, the same year my grandmother passed away, surely, surely, I dont think we are experiencing the same pain the same setback to our life...Class 10th in India is akin to A levels in Britain and SAT in the USA..
You know why I didnt think any of this and why if I had i was wrong, because there is a hierarchy to opression, .to loss, to struggles. There simply is. Opression Olympics is rooted in reality.
Pain is pain, loss and bad foundations suck ass...but privilege is a thing and some pains some loads just lighter compared to others. I could lose weight and get over the oppression I was facing because of my weight in school. My wheelchair bound friend didnt have that option..I wouldnt get my grandmother back...but my fathers loss would have a more immediate affect on my life and my friend who lost her father and her loss was just simply deeper. She needed more support, more help, more people crowding around her saying you've got this Niharika..well make sure your life doesnt change permanently cuz youlve lost your dad.
So when show fandom compare Jonathon Baileys struggle to Rege Jean George or say Victor Ali, they are simply pointing out that yes while Jonathon Bailey is gay...there is a difference between being white and gay and being black and gay or simply harder being black. And therefore there is a hierarchy. Why POC are less loath to crticize the average acting of their POC faves because they know the opportunities for them are limited. Lets do an exercise name 5 shows led by a POC in the USA or Britain or Canada-any POC..brown, black i dont care. And im not talking about black or brown actors in a show or film, im talking leads...
Also biases are self perpetuating....When black or brown led films fail, the opportunities immediately dry up because it shows that its just fairness and the numbers dont lie..Except this is not maths.....Maths would be first making equal amount of shows starring black or brown people, and then comparing...Now if the end result is white led shows do better-that would be correct math...but ratios and comparisons and statistics need to first start with an even scale...thats not even me taking about diversity...thats just math formulas...
If lets say there are 500 actors who are white in hollywood and 200 who are Black in hollywood, and lets say all 200 black actors are shit...would you say the statement...god white actors are so much better than black actors...no cuz the maths is not adding up...you compared 500 actors who were white of which 300 were excellent 200 bad and you made that into the conclusion that white actors are better because you were comparing only with 200 black actors to begin with...the actual math formula yieled equal number of bad and good actors..
Why people defend Kanthony harder...or wanted Simone Ashley to be promoted as much as Polin is because (lets go with my Math analogy again) all things being the same) unless Nicola and Luke are really bad actors compared to Simone Ashley, theyll still have it easier in acting...they simply will. they wont have to change their confusingly, long foreign sounding name, they wont have to work at assimilation in other ways, lets say they were muslim they wouldnt have been trying hard to sell themselves as Im just as liberal as you, im not a threat. And I love Luke Newton and Nicola Coughland-both seem like throughly, likable, personable, kind hearted beans..
Now my own experience. I have stated in an earlier post on this sub that I'm a Shonda Rhimes fan...because I have personally benefitted from the diversity she has included so naturally, so elegantly in all her shows. My own ideas of beauty, have been tested and transformed. In fact I know exactly the moment it happened...watching Christina Yang as a 14 year old...and thinking god meredith is so beautiful and I want to see more of HER and Izzie but then seeing christina again and again and again over each episode over hundreds of hours of binging, school, college, masters, big move outside India, my own constant this show..my brain was soft mushy and impressionable and christina yang, korean Sandra Oh became suddenly but actually slowly and then all at once became beautiful to me...I dont know when it happened but like the book Colin telling Penelope I dont know when or how and why others dont see it but you ARE beautiful in the book carriage scene. I found her hot, I found her cool. I cared to learn more about her Korean mother and her Jewish father and it didnt matter that the show never covered that culture..Christina was atheist and could handle her shit..even around racists.. But I still wanted to learn more about HER..a woman I simply didnt think was beautiful comparable to meredith and Izzie..me an impressionable 14 year old..just made that turn because of a show.,..a fluffy...not that deep soapy as hell show.
But it was only possible cuz I saw 24 episodes day in day out,...over many many years....for that to happen. I had many more years of falling asleep to dawsons creek joey and dawson, joey and pacey, gilmore girls rory and jess rory and dean rory and logan..i imagined and dreamt of windswept Mr. Darcy...and of course I luckily had my own countrys pop culture cuz I grew up and lived in a country where I was repped plenty eveywhere... So i found bollwood heroes hot and I found White americans or british people hot...my brain simply didnt have a framework for East Asians hot. And I needed to seem them constantly and frequentlyn and in Hot front and center, desirable covetable-their culture, their families all respected, admired again and again and again over many years for that switch to happen.
So why do we fight for our POV faves.. fight hard (some fight really ugly too which....they are not my people ( as in I dont know them) so sorry for that)....because we know how much more repping they need...we know how much MORE MORE MORE important it is to see POC culture done right...because it simply is not accessible,...cannot be to people outside..
K POP is making waves super..., people love themselves some MANGA and kimchi...so good and progress...but a lot of countries pop culture is in the native tongue...people outside of it cannot access it...in the same way one would English language content-books, podcasts, news, films, shows etc etc. And hollywood does our culture wrong, played up for laughs, stinky curry, stinky indians, scamming Indians, uncivilized heathens, oh so funny that Sofia Vergara and her funny accent (The Ellen Show), niche shows that dont become popular behemoths because it stars all ethnic casts-Fresh Off the Boat.
You simply will not understand how brilliant and gorgeous my country's embroideries, temple art, clothing and fashion, actors and sculptors, museums and writing and authors are...not because YOU are racist..but because you dont speak-my language and my culture isnt dominant or wide spread enough-insert again-my above explanation of colonialism and dominant and suppressed cultures. History made one culture the most widespread...again not because white people = bad and racist...brown and black people = good and not racist and benevolent..but because some people simply were the victors...for centuries...plural.
We want to fight harder for Rege and defend him leaving the show (im not even black but when you live outside of your home country, all POC seem like a united underrepresented group and you find kinship everywhere) because any potential cancellation or quote unquote unlikeability and hes difficult accusations would hurt him far far more than Nicola Coughlan, Luke Thompson, Newton, Phoebe etc. for the same "crimes" And there just arent enough of us to begin with to lose even one. For what is quite honestly a mid Netflix show with seeds of promise but a lack of ambition.

I wasn't big into the Mario games. Kinda dumb baby games, or at least that was what I thought of them. My friend convinced me to play this new one though.... or maybe it was a remake. Either way I booted it up, of course I didn't wanna pay for a game I wouldn't like, and started to play. I got pretty far in it. It was pretty darn good. Odd focus on the world and characters. That was whatever though, not like it actually mattered. I played a bit more into it and got to a new area called the temple of experiences.
Fun gimmicks all around. As Mario you had to do certain tasks as different types of creatures from the world. Stuff like Goombas and Toads to more obscure stuff like a Shadow Siren or Broodal. But oddly, while I was nearing completion I felt more and more tired. But I got to the end... and oddly the boss wasn't a few jumps and you could beat them. It was some weird thing that asked questions. Then there was one of the final questions. "Have you tried all your possibilities?" I answered yes. then they asked "Good, which would you prefer?" A bunch of options appeared, each something from the universe. I selected and slowly fell asleep... guess I was tired.
I woke up in a jolt though, I felt odd... and then when I opened my eyes everything looked weirder... It only got weirder when I looked down to find myself... yet not myself. I was now stuck in the Mario universe as whatever I had picked!
So! You may be asking, "Why did you make this plot?" The answer? Paper Mario. I love the world and characters in that series and thought it would be fun to play out some stuff in the world! So speaking of that world, we should set some ground rules for it. These can be human versions, anthro or even just how they look in the games. All depending on what you're comfortable with. I'm fine with anything really. It could be a bob-omb or cheep cheep for all I care! I'd love to make my new character in there!
As for you? Who do you play? Well, I would like if you played a character who was in the world. No, not someone we already know like Mario or Luigi or Peach or Daisy. No... a background character basically. A toad or a goomba. Again, I am fine with anything. We could be a Yoshi and a Birdo for all I care! I do have a list of the ones I would like to play though! Just ask for that! Aside from being a background character... well... we can make up details about who you are and what you do and where this all is whenever we want! Mario has a pretty big world so we can use a new town we make up or a pre-established town like Toad Town or Petalburg. The sky is the limit... except if we do galaxy stuff and then it's even further!
I would like this to be a kinda chill RP, long term with a lot of slice of life stuff mixed with some fun Mario shenanigans. Like we can jump and run around all we want but really... we're a bit weak so it'd be best if we don't go too far out of town! Anyways... that's the jist of all this. A chill RP in the Mario world with fun elements all over! I would love to see exactly who wants to do this and what will come of this! Please don't hesitate to respond! I'll see ya soon!