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2024.05.23 11:50 Sudden-Hoe-2578 Scientific Miracles debunked
(I already postet this on exmuslim, this is a repost)
I'm really bored so I'm gonna debunk these "scientifical miracles" in the Quran :3
Table of contents:
According to Muslims, this verse tells us about the Big Bang and because of that, is an evidence for Islam being the true religion.
But the problem is: It is stolen. This saying that "the earth and the sky were once together and than seperated" are found in many religions. As an example, the egyptian mythologie. The egyptian mythologie tells us about the sky and earth being together a block and than being seperated. Another example is the summerian mythologie, which says basically the exact same thing the Quran says. Earth and sky were together, than seperated.
And if you paid attention, you will notice that both of these mythologies (egyptian and summerian) were also located in the middle east. And both of these mythologies were older than Islam. Who can add up 1+1 should now see that Momo just stole from other mythologies around him and put them in Islam.
Thales, an ancient greek scientist, already knew that. No big suprise. Momo just did his thing, he stole it and put it in his own religion.
Now, I take these verses from quran.com and whenever something is in these ˹˺ things, I'm suspicious because the words under them isn't really in the arabic original text, so I'm not sure if these verse really says "reflected" in the original text. But I'm just gonna pretend like it says that but I also heard some people saying that ot doesn't say that so... Idk ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Now, even if the text does say that the moon just reflects light and not produces its own light, this still wouldn't be a big thing. Because again, ancient greek men got our back. Like Anaxagoras, he speculated that the moon reflects light.
Now, if you don't know, iron wasn't on earth always but rather came trough Supernovas (explosion of stars). Now, 'hOw cOuLd a dEseRt mAN 1400 yEarS aGo kNoW tHaT??'. Like the other "miracles", people already knew that. But not in the way we do now. Basically, civilisations like the ancient egyptians, already knew that iron came from heaven through metorites. Like I'm not joking, the literal name for iron in ancient egypt was "metal of heaven".... Great miracle Momo, really, I'm impressed
Now, this verse is allegedly a miracle because it is a good description of how babays are formed. Only problem, again, it is stolen. The original description comes from Gallen, again an ancient greek scientist. It's nearly the exact same thing as he said. And it also includes the mistakes Gallen make: 'clothed the bones with flesh' means that there are bones and the flesh comes afterwards, which is false.
This verse shows that salt and fresh water in don't mix. Well, I've got some problems with that:
How you probably already expect, it was already known. As an example, Aistotle knew that fresh and salt water don't mix. Momo just took it. But the other problem is, that it's false. Well, if you look at salt and fresh water, they may seem like they don't mix. But they do mix. But Aristotle didn't know that and I guess Allah just knows as much as Aristotle knew.
This verse allegedly shows that the sun is in a orbit and moves, which is actually true. For those who didn't know, the sun doesn't stay in one place but moves trough space.
Now, if you read the verse and think rationally, you'll see what is really meant. From the perspectiv of Momo, it seemed like the sun orbits around earth. And that's what he wrote. You can see that because of the referemce with night and day.
According to muslims, this verse shows that the quran knew pain receptors existed and that they are in our skin... I don't think I have to debunk this? I mean, you could have asked a caveman "because of which body part we feel pain" and he would have showed the skin. Not because he knew about pain receptors. It was just what people thought
"This verse is a miracle because it shows us that Momo knew that ants could communicate."
I'm really starting to think that Momo was a big fan of ancient greek men, esspecially Aristotle. Because, again, Aristotle already said before Momo even existed, that ants could communicate.
But besides that, this verse doesn't even make sense, it has some errors:
Yeah, muslims say that this verse knew that the spiders house is the weakest house of all. Sometimes I really think if muslims are serious when they say something like this. Ask a 5 year old child "what animal has the weakest home" and he would guess the spiders home.
Also, just a side fact, spidersilk is stronger than steel. If you would take 1 pound of steel and 1 pount of spidersilk, the silk would be stronger.
At the begining of the universe, there was a "gas state". The universe had a lot of gas in it, which formed than stars and other things.
But first of all, the verse doesn't say gas, it says smoke. And now, some of you may think that this is just a small thing, but gas and smoke actually can be very different. Also, why didn't god just say gas? It would be than correct and us kafirs would have nothing to yap about.
Actually, there is a bigger problem with this verse, and this is the previous verse, i.e. the 10th. Because there, Momo- I mean Allah talks about the creation of mountains on earth. But this 'gas-state' of the universe I just mentioned already had finished long before earth even formed, let alone the mountains.
So, idk why this is a miracle. In some websites I take these miracles from, I see this a lot. So, everything is in pairs? I mean, I'm pretty sure the Mexican Whiptail Lizard doesn't have a male pair. These Lizards are just females and their reproduction also happens without the need of sperm. There are actually more animals which have no sexual conterpart. And also, if everything has a pair, what would be the pair of a phone be? A tablet? A television?
The Quran says that there are 7 heavens and some muslims like to claim that this 7 heavens concept actually represents the 7 atmospheres.
I said "some" muslims because this is a really dumb "miracle" and you wont hear it from someone who has a decent knowledge of Islam, but because I still hear it a lot from muslims, I wanted to include it in here.
You can debunk this verse with another Quran verse, which says that the stars are in the lowest heaven:
"And We adorned the lowest heaven with lamps ˹for beauty˺ and for protection." (Quran 41:12)
("lamps" means stars)
Planes fly at the lowest atnosphere so according to this verse, than planes actially fly next to the stars?
Bonus fact: the concept of 7 heavens is stolen from the summerian mythologie :3
Ypu probably know that if you climb a mountain or are generally in higher places, the oxygen gets less because the gravitational pull isn't as stong.
Basically, you breathe harder on higher places. And this verse "shows that 1400 years before, when no one knew it!!"
That's a lie, people knew that. Also, Momo and his people would also have experienced it themselves, because of the environment there.
Not to forget, it is also wrong. If you were climbing 'up into the sky' your chest doesn't gets tight. It just feels like that.
Mountains have "roots" which are under the earth. And according to muslims, the refference with 'pegs' seems to show that.
And tbh, I don't find a logical way to explain this. I- I think I'm gonna convert back to Islam! Now I understand that not my eyes, but that my heart was blind all along! ALLAH FORGIVE ME! "Aschhadu an la ilaha illa-lah wa-"
Aristotle enters chat
"I knew that" he said with his magnificent eyes and with his 6.5 feet tall body when he enetered the room. His smell immediately filled my head. His body, so attractiv like the sun for Icarus...
(I'm sorry, I only slept like 4 hours, my brain is playing dumb)
Jokes aside, Aristotle already proposed the idea of mountains having roots under the earth. So it was nothing new.
~Aristotle seemed satisfied with the truth out and he left the room. As he closed the door, he looked at me and gave me a little smirk... and he was gone... But I knew that he would come back... Eventually... In another time, another place, another "miracle", I would see him again...~
When water steams from the ocean to the sky and joins into clouds, the bacteria, dust or any other thing gets left behind and it's only water. And the Quran says that the rain is pure. Boom, miracle.
Not really, ancient people already believed that the rain was clean. And I know that the verse means 'pure' and not 'clean'. But the word used for pure actually also translates to clean and by translating to 'clean', I'm actually doing Muslims something good:
Because rain isn't pure. "But you just said and even explained why rain is pure" Yeah, I did, but this was just about the becterias which were already in the water. Because while the clouds are on the sky and driven by the wind, they collect new things. Like bacteria, dust or any other impurity.
The sources, where I find my scientific miracles, says: "Animals live in communities and have their own languages. This was known recently, however this was portrayed in the Quran 1400 years before it was discovered."
And if this islamic website says it, it gotta be true... I think I have to give up, Muslims won, bye atheism, hello Isla-
~With a sudden burst the door was open and he walked in... The one for whom I'd give my life, the one for whom I'd really sacrifice my son Isaak... "Hello again", his voice full of wisdom to advanced for his time... He said nothing, he just had a little smile on his face, that reminded the smile of an alone mother, getting to see her beloved child again after a hard day... He sat besides me, took a deep breath and started "The thought that animals live in communities comes from me. Of course not just from me. I'm sure many civilisations, many great people had that tought."
"Aris? Whither hast thou wandered? By the gods, reveal thyself! Ah, there thou art! What shadows have thou been chasing?" It was Plato, who was searching for his his student, but also his friend. Aristotle seemed rather angry about his appereance and I could see his expressions, telling him to go away. But Plato didn't seem to get it, he was more interested in the vynil.
"Lo, it hath been many moons since mine eyes have beheld such a sight. Behold, within its confines, a disc doth lie, a testament to times long past." He saw the disc in the vinyl, which skipped when I was listening. But I was too tired to care.
"Okay, Plato, I'm coming, could you just give us one more minute?" His eyes shined more anger than the sun light and warmth, so that even Plato understood he wasn't welcomed.
"Very well, very well! I'm going on my path!"
And with Aristotles pulling, he was let out the door. While Aristotle was again on hsi way to me, he also noticed the vinyl and the disc which skipped. He flipped it over... And sat a little closer... (Lovers Rock referece)
We talked some more, but because of Plato, he couldn't stay long, so he made his way. But before that... He pressed his lips to my cheek, and gave me a little kiss. From the point of his kiss, a warmth filled my body... And he was gone...
(If you really read all of that shit, I'm sorry. I'm currently writing this in school... With again, 3 hours of sleep👍, but this is the end of this... Weird shit) (I'm btw also a boy, so you just read a love story of gay Aristotle, yippie)
This is maybe the miracle you will hear the most. And to debunk it, simply use one of their own arguemnts: wrong translation/meaning
Because the meaning of this verse changed, this verse can mean 2 things:
I'm done, this took me days to write, not because it was hard but because I wrote it in school during recess. And I actually enjoyed writing this very much, I also wanna start another project, where I either debunk "prophecies" in Islam OR show things that are just wrong (like scientifically, historically etc). Again, I'm sorry because of this Aristotle love story thing :3
Btw. If there are still some "scientific miracles" which you couldn't find here, you could write them as a comment, so that I or maybe someone else could debunk it ;)
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I'm really bored so I'm gonna debunk these "scientifical miracles" in the Quran :3
Table of contents:
- Big Bang
- Life from water
- Moon refllecting light
- Iron from heaven
- Embryology
- Meeting of seas
- Sun moving in an orbit
- Pain receptors
- Ants
- Spiders house
- Heaven smoke
- Everything in pairs
- Seven atmospheres
- Chest-tightening in hypoxic environments
- Mountains have roots
- Pure rain
- All animals live in communities
- Expansion of the universe
- BIG BANG
According to Muslims, this verse tells us about the Big Bang and because of that, is an evidence for Islam being the true religion.
But the problem is: It is stolen. This saying that "the earth and the sky were once together and than seperated" are found in many religions. As an example, the egyptian mythologie. The egyptian mythologie tells us about the sky and earth being together a block and than being seperated. Another example is the summerian mythologie, which says basically the exact same thing the Quran says. Earth and sky were together, than seperated.
And if you paid attention, you will notice that both of these mythologies (egyptian and summerian) were also located in the middle east. And both of these mythologies were older than Islam. Who can add up 1+1 should now see that Momo just stole from other mythologies around him and put them in Islam.
- LIFE FROM WATER In the same verse as above, it goes on and says: "And We created from water every living thing. Will they not then believe?" (Quran 21:30)
Thales, an ancient greek scientist, already knew that. No big suprise. Momo just did his thing, he stole it and put it in his own religion.
- MOON REFLECTING LIGHT
Now, I take these verses from quran.com and whenever something is in these ˹˺ things, I'm suspicious because the words under them isn't really in the arabic original text, so I'm not sure if these verse really says "reflected" in the original text. But I'm just gonna pretend like it says that but I also heard some people saying that ot doesn't say that so... Idk ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Now, even if the text does say that the moon just reflects light and not produces its own light, this still wouldn't be a big thing. Because again, ancient greek men got our back. Like Anaxagoras, he speculated that the moon reflects light.
- IRON FROM HEAVEN
Now, if you don't know, iron wasn't on earth always but rather came trough Supernovas (explosion of stars). Now, 'hOw cOuLd a dEseRt mAN 1400 yEarS aGo kNoW tHaT??'. Like the other "miracles", people already knew that. But not in the way we do now. Basically, civilisations like the ancient egyptians, already knew that iron came from heaven through metorites. Like I'm not joking, the literal name for iron in ancient egypt was "metal of heaven".... Great miracle Momo, really, I'm impressed
- EMBRYOLOGY
Now, this verse is allegedly a miracle because it is a good description of how babays are formed. Only problem, again, it is stolen. The original description comes from Gallen, again an ancient greek scientist. It's nearly the exact same thing as he said. And it also includes the mistakes Gallen make: 'clothed the bones with flesh' means that there are bones and the flesh comes afterwards, which is false.
- MEETING OF SEAS
This verse shows that salt and fresh water in don't mix. Well, I've got some problems with that:
How you probably already expect, it was already known. As an example, Aistotle knew that fresh and salt water don't mix. Momo just took it. But the other problem is, that it's false. Well, if you look at salt and fresh water, they may seem like they don't mix. But they do mix. But Aristotle didn't know that and I guess Allah just knows as much as Aristotle knew.
- SUN MOVING IN AN ORBIT
This verse allegedly shows that the sun is in a orbit and moves, which is actually true. For those who didn't know, the sun doesn't stay in one place but moves trough space.
Now, if you read the verse and think rationally, you'll see what is really meant. From the perspectiv of Momo, it seemed like the sun orbits around earth. And that's what he wrote. You can see that because of the referemce with night and day.
- PAIN RECEPTORS
According to muslims, this verse shows that the quran knew pain receptors existed and that they are in our skin... I don't think I have to debunk this? I mean, you could have asked a caveman "because of which body part we feel pain" and he would have showed the skin. Not because he knew about pain receptors. It was just what people thought
- ANTS
"This verse is a miracle because it shows us that Momo knew that ants could communicate."
I'm really starting to think that Momo was a big fan of ancient greek men, esspecially Aristotle. Because, again, Aristotle already said before Momo even existed, that ants could communicate.
But besides that, this verse doesn't even make sense, it has some errors:
- Ants can't speak, they can communicate trough chemical smells
- Ants can communicate with eachother, but not like this. Never. Trough these chemical smells, they might give a warning signal, to indicate that everyone should go back to the nest, but they could never say something like it is shown in the verse.
- SPIDERS HOUSE
Yeah, muslims say that this verse knew that the spiders house is the weakest house of all. Sometimes I really think if muslims are serious when they say something like this. Ask a 5 year old child "what animal has the weakest home" and he would guess the spiders home.
Also, just a side fact, spidersilk is stronger than steel. If you would take 1 pound of steel and 1 pount of spidersilk, the silk would be stronger.
- HEAVEN SMOKE
At the begining of the universe, there was a "gas state". The universe had a lot of gas in it, which formed than stars and other things.
But first of all, the verse doesn't say gas, it says smoke. And now, some of you may think that this is just a small thing, but gas and smoke actually can be very different. Also, why didn't god just say gas? It would be than correct and us kafirs would have nothing to yap about.
Actually, there is a bigger problem with this verse, and this is the previous verse, i.e. the 10th. Because there, Momo- I mean Allah talks about the creation of mountains on earth. But this 'gas-state' of the universe I just mentioned already had finished long before earth even formed, let alone the mountains.
- EVERYTHING IN PAIRS
So, idk why this is a miracle. In some websites I take these miracles from, I see this a lot. So, everything is in pairs? I mean, I'm pretty sure the Mexican Whiptail Lizard doesn't have a male pair. These Lizards are just females and their reproduction also happens without the need of sperm. There are actually more animals which have no sexual conterpart. And also, if everything has a pair, what would be the pair of a phone be? A tablet? A television?
- SEVEN ATMOSPHERE
The Quran says that there are 7 heavens and some muslims like to claim that this 7 heavens concept actually represents the 7 atmospheres.
I said "some" muslims because this is a really dumb "miracle" and you wont hear it from someone who has a decent knowledge of Islam, but because I still hear it a lot from muslims, I wanted to include it in here.
You can debunk this verse with another Quran verse, which says that the stars are in the lowest heaven:
"And We adorned the lowest heaven with lamps ˹for beauty˺ and for protection." (Quran 41:12)
("lamps" means stars)
Planes fly at the lowest atnosphere so according to this verse, than planes actially fly next to the stars?
Bonus fact: the concept of 7 heavens is stolen from the summerian mythologie :3
- CHEST-TIGHTENING IN HYPOXIC ENVIRONMENTS
Ypu probably know that if you climb a mountain or are generally in higher places, the oxygen gets less because the gravitational pull isn't as stong.
Basically, you breathe harder on higher places. And this verse "shows that 1400 years before, when no one knew it!!"
That's a lie, people knew that. Also, Momo and his people would also have experienced it themselves, because of the environment there.
Not to forget, it is also wrong. If you were climbing 'up into the sky' your chest doesn't gets tight. It just feels like that.
- MOUNTAINS HAVE ROOTS
Mountains have "roots" which are under the earth. And according to muslims, the refference with 'pegs' seems to show that.
And tbh, I don't find a logical way to explain this. I- I think I'm gonna convert back to Islam! Now I understand that not my eyes, but that my heart was blind all along! ALLAH FORGIVE ME! "Aschhadu an la ilaha illa-lah wa-"
Aristotle enters chat
"I knew that" he said with his magnificent eyes and with his 6.5 feet tall body when he enetered the room. His smell immediately filled my head. His body, so attractiv like the sun for Icarus...
(I'm sorry, I only slept like 4 hours, my brain is playing dumb)
Jokes aside, Aristotle already proposed the idea of mountains having roots under the earth. So it was nothing new.
~Aristotle seemed satisfied with the truth out and he left the room. As he closed the door, he looked at me and gave me a little smirk... and he was gone... But I knew that he would come back... Eventually... In another time, another place, another "miracle", I would see him again...~
- PURE RAIN
When water steams from the ocean to the sky and joins into clouds, the bacteria, dust or any other thing gets left behind and it's only water. And the Quran says that the rain is pure. Boom, miracle.
Not really, ancient people already believed that the rain was clean. And I know that the verse means 'pure' and not 'clean'. But the word used for pure actually also translates to clean and by translating to 'clean', I'm actually doing Muslims something good:
Because rain isn't pure. "But you just said and even explained why rain is pure" Yeah, I did, but this was just about the becterias which were already in the water. Because while the clouds are on the sky and driven by the wind, they collect new things. Like bacteria, dust or any other impurity.
- ALL ANIMALS LIVE IN COMMUNITIES
The sources, where I find my scientific miracles, says: "Animals live in communities and have their own languages. This was known recently, however this was portrayed in the Quran 1400 years before it was discovered."
And if this islamic website says it, it gotta be true... I think I have to give up, Muslims won, bye atheism, hello Isla-
~With a sudden burst the door was open and he walked in... The one for whom I'd give my life, the one for whom I'd really sacrifice my son Isaak... "Hello again", his voice full of wisdom to advanced for his time... He said nothing, he just had a little smile on his face, that reminded the smile of an alone mother, getting to see her beloved child again after a hard day... He sat besides me, took a deep breath and started "The thought that animals live in communities comes from me. Of course not just from me. I'm sure many civilisations, many great people had that tought."
"Aris? Whither hast thou wandered? By the gods, reveal thyself! Ah, there thou art! What shadows have thou been chasing?" It was Plato, who was searching for his his student, but also his friend. Aristotle seemed rather angry about his appereance and I could see his expressions, telling him to go away. But Plato didn't seem to get it, he was more interested in the vynil.
"Lo, it hath been many moons since mine eyes have beheld such a sight. Behold, within its confines, a disc doth lie, a testament to times long past." He saw the disc in the vinyl, which skipped when I was listening. But I was too tired to care.
"Okay, Plato, I'm coming, could you just give us one more minute?" His eyes shined more anger than the sun light and warmth, so that even Plato understood he wasn't welcomed.
"Very well, very well! I'm going on my path!"
And with Aristotles pulling, he was let out the door. While Aristotle was again on hsi way to me, he also noticed the vinyl and the disc which skipped. He flipped it over... And sat a little closer... (Lovers Rock referece)
We talked some more, but because of Plato, he couldn't stay long, so he made his way. But before that... He pressed his lips to my cheek, and gave me a little kiss. From the point of his kiss, a warmth filled my body... And he was gone...
(If you really read all of that shit, I'm sorry. I'm currently writing this in school... With again, 3 hours of sleep👍, but this is the end of this... Weird shit) (I'm btw also a boy, so you just read a love story of gay Aristotle, yippie)
- Expansion of he universe
This is maybe the miracle you will hear the most. And to debunk it, simply use one of their own arguemnts: wrong translation/meaning
Because the meaning of this verse changed, this verse can mean 2 things:
- "We are certainly expanding it"
- "We are able to extend/expand it"
I'm done, this took me days to write, not because it was hard but because I wrote it in school during recess. And I actually enjoyed writing this very much, I also wanna start another project, where I either debunk "prophecies" in Islam OR show things that are just wrong (like scientifically, historically etc). Again, I'm sorry because of this Aristotle love story thing :3
Btw. If there are still some "scientific miracles" which you couldn't find here, you could write them as a comment, so that I or maybe someone else could debunk it ;)
2024.05.23 11:49 Jtowne85 Not Sure How To Turn Things Around
My wife (32 F) and I (31 M) are expecting our first child together this September. It’s something we both had to work on ourselves to get to this point. The current state of the world had my wife scared along with a history depression and other mental health issues in her past had her very cautious to bring another life into the world. As much as I wanted to be a parent I never pressured her into it as it’s not a one way street, we both have to be ready.
We found out in January that we were expecting, then in March found out we were having a son. I was ecstatic. We eventually told our families. My dad was thrilled. We shared a close bond and my dad had been wanting to be a grandfather for years. He used to say “I’ll die before I’m a grandfather” not knowing conversations my wife and I had about what scares us about bringing a baby into the world.
Not even six weeks after finding out that he was going to be a grandfather, my dad died suddenly back in April at 68. My world for the most part was shattered. My pregnant wife has tried to be there as much as someone can when they’re going on 24 weeks pregnant.
I’ve never been open with my mental health but have been trying to figure out how to move forward. I’m in a constant state of exhaustion since my dad died. Emotionally, mentally and physically I can’t get things going. I work an early morning shift and almost immediately want to sleep as soon as I get home until my wife comes home from work. It’s the only time things feel remotely normal. I have no motivation to continue getting things ready for our son’s arrival because the thought that it all is ripped away so suddenly makes life feel pointless.
I obviously don’t want to have of my issues to have an impact on our baby and want to get myself right. I just don’t know who’s.
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We found out in January that we were expecting, then in March found out we were having a son. I was ecstatic. We eventually told our families. My dad was thrilled. We shared a close bond and my dad had been wanting to be a grandfather for years. He used to say “I’ll die before I’m a grandfather” not knowing conversations my wife and I had about what scares us about bringing a baby into the world.
Not even six weeks after finding out that he was going to be a grandfather, my dad died suddenly back in April at 68. My world for the most part was shattered. My pregnant wife has tried to be there as much as someone can when they’re going on 24 weeks pregnant.
I’ve never been open with my mental health but have been trying to figure out how to move forward. I’m in a constant state of exhaustion since my dad died. Emotionally, mentally and physically I can’t get things going. I work an early morning shift and almost immediately want to sleep as soon as I get home until my wife comes home from work. It’s the only time things feel remotely normal. I have no motivation to continue getting things ready for our son’s arrival because the thought that it all is ripped away so suddenly makes life feel pointless.
I obviously don’t want to have of my issues to have an impact on our baby and want to get myself right. I just don’t know who’s.
2024.05.23 11:47 Fearless_Heat_579 AITA for not letting my father watch my graduation?
Hello! This is my first time doing this sort of thing, so I’m sorry if there’s some parts that are worded weirdly. Anyways, I (17F) is graduating from high school tomorrow, I have all my requirments and fees paid such as my tickets, diploma, and my cap/gown. I was really excited about this because this was a one time event for everyone. Now, they gave us five tickets, i knew who to invite so there wasn’t any problem, the school also said anyone can also live stream my graduation, I was excited and told my long distant friends and grandparents. That’s when my father comes in the story.
Before all of this, my father has been cheating on my mom ever since she was pregnant with me. I always thought he was the sweetest father, and defended him when my mom kicked him out. However, the reason she kicked him out wasn’t because he was cheating, he had sexually assaulted my aunt and blamed it on her because of what she was wearing. My mom had enough.
After kicking him out, my mother didn’t keep him away from me, as she saw how much I loved him, I was eight at this time, so she let me go to his apartment, spend the night with him, go to the park, etc. I was having the time of my life, until he moved away to another state and never contacted me again.
Several years go by, and i hadn’t heard anything from him, my mom gave him my number but he rarely contacts me. The only love he was giving me was buying me stuff on Amazon, I didn’t want to sound ungrateful, but my mom said he could put in more effort cause all he’s doing is gift-giving. He didn’t really make the time to call/text me for certain holidays either such as my birthday/christmas/thanksgiving. But acts offended when I don’t wish him a happy birthday???
I also found out he has another wife and two more kids, which make me feel hurt cause I was his first ever daughter and he treated them so well and did all the things I couldn’t do with him.
When I heard about my fathers actions from my mother, I was shocked, disgusted, and guilty, for defending such a man. But she said it was not my fault because I was young at the time. My mom also said she made several mistakes that took a toll on her life, but she grew to be a better person without him.
At first, I didn’t want to let my father go to my graduation because my aunt would be there as well, but my mom said that my aunt is a strong woman and he won’t have anything to say. I still objected into letting him come to my graduation and she respects my wishes.
Two days before my graduation, my father texted me that he won’t be at my graduation because he couldn’t, financially and that he wants the link to watch my graduation. I was mad on the other hand that he had all the time in the world to tell me if he was going or not, and two days before wasn’t it. But, I said yes, but he told me to “Please try” that made me feel angry. So I made a long message, talking about that it’s funny and sad how he wants me to try but he barley puts in the effort to love me himself, that this is embarrassing on his part and I don’t expect him to do better because this is not the first time he has done something like this, but I forgave him over and over again because he was my dad and I loved him. And that my own mother has to remind him to text me, and he “doesn’t want to bother me” which made me mad because I’m not a girlfriend or a fling, I’m his daughter and having to put in the effort to contact him even though that is not my job as a child. I also told him not to blame my mom for this either because I knew what kind of person he was.
After I sent that text, he told me he will leave me alone and that I put my mother on this pedestal. I was angry, not only because he wasn’t begging or at least trying after I sent that message. But because he likes to use the past to blames my moms actions and decisions to make his reasons valid when he can’t have anything to say in the present. I asked him why he was blaming her and that him leaving me alone feels like he was ready to let me go.
He told me he didn’t want to argue and that he’s asking to watch my graduation and that he’s getting shitted on. I told him that was real nice because I’m not a whole doormat to him anymore, he knew I would forgive him if he couldn’t keep his promises so he expected me to be okay with this now. But I’m not.
I told him he won’t be watching my graduation and he just told me good luck and congratulations. I feel hurt that he wasn’t trying or realizing that this wasn’t a game and that I had feelings too. But I couldn’t let myself be hurt over and over again. My mom told me that I’m valid for saying how I feel and being a doormat or a pushover is not a way to go through life. I was trying not to cry but my mom comforted me, and I’m grateful because I have a loving family to watch me achieve my dream and diploma.
But AITA??
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Before all of this, my father has been cheating on my mom ever since she was pregnant with me. I always thought he was the sweetest father, and defended him when my mom kicked him out. However, the reason she kicked him out wasn’t because he was cheating, he had sexually assaulted my aunt and blamed it on her because of what she was wearing. My mom had enough.
After kicking him out, my mother didn’t keep him away from me, as she saw how much I loved him, I was eight at this time, so she let me go to his apartment, spend the night with him, go to the park, etc. I was having the time of my life, until he moved away to another state and never contacted me again.
Several years go by, and i hadn’t heard anything from him, my mom gave him my number but he rarely contacts me. The only love he was giving me was buying me stuff on Amazon, I didn’t want to sound ungrateful, but my mom said he could put in more effort cause all he’s doing is gift-giving. He didn’t really make the time to call/text me for certain holidays either such as my birthday/christmas/thanksgiving. But acts offended when I don’t wish him a happy birthday???
I also found out he has another wife and two more kids, which make me feel hurt cause I was his first ever daughter and he treated them so well and did all the things I couldn’t do with him.
When I heard about my fathers actions from my mother, I was shocked, disgusted, and guilty, for defending such a man. But she said it was not my fault because I was young at the time. My mom also said she made several mistakes that took a toll on her life, but she grew to be a better person without him.
At first, I didn’t want to let my father go to my graduation because my aunt would be there as well, but my mom said that my aunt is a strong woman and he won’t have anything to say. I still objected into letting him come to my graduation and she respects my wishes.
Two days before my graduation, my father texted me that he won’t be at my graduation because he couldn’t, financially and that he wants the link to watch my graduation. I was mad on the other hand that he had all the time in the world to tell me if he was going or not, and two days before wasn’t it. But, I said yes, but he told me to “Please try” that made me feel angry. So I made a long message, talking about that it’s funny and sad how he wants me to try but he barley puts in the effort to love me himself, that this is embarrassing on his part and I don’t expect him to do better because this is not the first time he has done something like this, but I forgave him over and over again because he was my dad and I loved him. And that my own mother has to remind him to text me, and he “doesn’t want to bother me” which made me mad because I’m not a girlfriend or a fling, I’m his daughter and having to put in the effort to contact him even though that is not my job as a child. I also told him not to blame my mom for this either because I knew what kind of person he was.
After I sent that text, he told me he will leave me alone and that I put my mother on this pedestal. I was angry, not only because he wasn’t begging or at least trying after I sent that message. But because he likes to use the past to blames my moms actions and decisions to make his reasons valid when he can’t have anything to say in the present. I asked him why he was blaming her and that him leaving me alone feels like he was ready to let me go.
He told me he didn’t want to argue and that he’s asking to watch my graduation and that he’s getting shitted on. I told him that was real nice because I’m not a whole doormat to him anymore, he knew I would forgive him if he couldn’t keep his promises so he expected me to be okay with this now. But I’m not.
I told him he won’t be watching my graduation and he just told me good luck and congratulations. I feel hurt that he wasn’t trying or realizing that this wasn’t a game and that I had feelings too. But I couldn’t let myself be hurt over and over again. My mom told me that I’m valid for saying how I feel and being a doormat or a pushover is not a way to go through life. I was trying not to cry but my mom comforted me, and I’m grateful because I have a loving family to watch me achieve my dream and diploma.
But AITA??
2024.05.23 11:47 AdPlastic7988 Complex relationship between my best friend’s little brother (M19) and I (M22), is it worth maintaining?
I (m22) have had a close friend, we’ll call him M, (m19) for about 5-ish years. His older brothers are my best friends. Their family, who I’ve known for almost 15 years, ended up moving away about 7 years ago but I’m still in contact with all of them constantly, and I’ve seen them in person about once or twice a year. So M and I ended up playing Xbox together literally all of the time, this started about six years ago. I always thought there was something off about M, I don’t know if it was the way he just talked with me or what, but I always thought he may have been exploring his sexuality or questioning SOMETHING, because he was so unusually intimate with me, even when he was so young, like always saying sexual things that crossed the boundaries of what you’d say around your friends. He seemed to like having this genuine attachment to me because he just ALWAYS wanted to spend time with me over Xbox; which was really the only way we COULD spend time together, and I always found it to be a bit strange, but I never really questioned it. At the time, I was still questioning my bisexuality.
He’d always tell me how cute I was, he’d say how much he would miss me when we weren’t playing together, and he would just say things in a very intimate manner. I didn’t think anything of it, I just kinda of played along with it, I assumed it was just his weird young kid personality and that maybe he was questioning himself, so I just let him discover that side of him over time cause I know sexuality can be weird and sometimes scary, I understood that.
Starting around March of 2022, we started to grow much closer. He would send good morning and good night texts, we FaceTime a lot, and he’d always call me those nicknames that you would say to your significant other (babe, my love, sugar plum, baby boy, etc.) He told me that I was his favorite person, that I completed him; he wouldn’t know where he’d be without me. He’d say that he would be thinking about me all day. He’d say how I was his priority and that he couldn’t wait to see me in person. At one point, he said it was us against the world, and that he “was so proud to be with me”. He’d always tell me to drive safely if I was going somewhere. If I was acting down, he would check up on me, and every time I told him that I loved him, he’d always say that he loved me more. When I saw him in person at one point, we ended up getting drunk together and he refused to stop laying on top of me.
One night we were talking over FaceTime, and I asked if he truly wanted to give a relationship a shot, and he said it was whatever I wanted. The next day, I finally broke the ice and asked if he was experiencing feelings for me. He told me he didn’t, that he was just being appreciative, that he didn’t actually like me that way, and that he was simply “acting”. He told me he was going to stop being intimate and sexual after that. This took a massive toll on me emotionally and I was so unbelievably close to cutting him out of my life permanently because of what he had done, but deep down I was unable to. Contrary to what he said, he CONTINUED to treat me like I was the love of his life. We even texted each other every single day for over 2 months. I ended up simply forgetting about what he had said because I was simply convinced that he was closeted and scared of who he truly was. I had my sister go through and read some of our texts, and she said that he was 100% not straight and was suffering from internalized homophobia. I shared this story with his brother as well, and he believes that M just does not know how to draw a line and that he puts everyone on a pedestal. He told me that M hooks up with girls a lot and hangs around not-so-decent people his age.
Later on, though, he started to become distant. He would ghost me practically all day on social media, and when I’d confront him about it, he’d say he was just busy. He just didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me anymore. I asked why he got so distant, and he just wouldn’t give me a straight answer, he said he thought of our friendship “differently” when he was always sexual and flirty with me, so he decided to stop. He said he didn’t want me to think it was something it wasn’t, and that he couldn’t “unsee or change that”. He was trying to turn it into an argument- saying how it wasn’t his intention to manipulate me and he didn’t know how I could blame him for that. I decided to remove him from Snapchat, which is the main way that we communicated because I felt so unbelievably disrespected. I needed some time away from him, and he texted me afterward thinking that I was going to kill/hurt myself.
After a couple of months, I decided to reach out and just ask how he was doing. We ended up FaceTiming to catch up a little bit and he CONTINUED to be flirty with me, like calling me handsome and saying that he wished I was in bed with him. I was honestly so fed up with how he just went back to his old self KNOWING that I didn’t like that. The next day, I reached out over text again and just told him how what he did was so disrespectful, and I asked why he treated me like I was the love of his life when I never was. He didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me at all, and he thought I was “attacking” and “belittling” him for trying to get an answer. He got mad that I kept trying to bring the situation up. One thing he said that genuinely infuriated me was “I just don’t know how you think I can look at our friendship the same after what you told me”. I was like, are you kidding me? YOU treated me like I was your lover, what do you think I was gonna say?
There are some days when we will end up playing Xbox or texting, but it isn’t the same as it used to be. Two months ago, we ended up getting a bit close again (I’m stupid and shouldn’t have let it happen, but my feelings and curiosity got the best of me) and he started sending good morning texts and all that. This just sort of diminished after I felt that his communication was incredibly lackluster. He would go days, even weeks without responding to a text, and his excuse would be “I just do my own thing and forget to reach out’, but at the SAME TIME, he’d reach out and say that he’s been thinking about me and he wants to see how I am doing. It’s like two opposites that are completely illogical.
This situation has been very difficult for me to move on from and I feel like I’m just trying to always find an answer on what happened and why it happened, because it’s so illogical. I really did fall for him, I mean we spent so much time together and shared so many things, even to this day I have dreams about him constantly. I went no-contact with him for nearly 5 months and did not feel any better from it. What do you think his intentions were? Is it worth trying to maintain a friendship with him? Am I disrespecting myself for engaging with him at all?
TL;DR I've had a five-year friendship with M, who's younger than me. Despite living apart, we stayed close through Xbox, with M showing unusually intimate behavior. He called me affectionate names and acted like we were in a relationship, only to later claim he was just "acting." This caused me emotional pain, but he continued the intimate behavior. Eventually, M became distant and inconsistent, adding to my confusion and frustration. He occasionally reached out, sometimes flirting, but then pulled back. This rollercoaster has left me struggling to move on, seeking clarity about his true intentions, and questioning if maintaining any friendship with him is worth it.
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He’d always tell me how cute I was, he’d say how much he would miss me when we weren’t playing together, and he would just say things in a very intimate manner. I didn’t think anything of it, I just kinda of played along with it, I assumed it was just his weird young kid personality and that maybe he was questioning himself, so I just let him discover that side of him over time cause I know sexuality can be weird and sometimes scary, I understood that.
Starting around March of 2022, we started to grow much closer. He would send good morning and good night texts, we FaceTime a lot, and he’d always call me those nicknames that you would say to your significant other (babe, my love, sugar plum, baby boy, etc.) He told me that I was his favorite person, that I completed him; he wouldn’t know where he’d be without me. He’d say that he would be thinking about me all day. He’d say how I was his priority and that he couldn’t wait to see me in person. At one point, he said it was us against the world, and that he “was so proud to be with me”. He’d always tell me to drive safely if I was going somewhere. If I was acting down, he would check up on me, and every time I told him that I loved him, he’d always say that he loved me more. When I saw him in person at one point, we ended up getting drunk together and he refused to stop laying on top of me.
One night we were talking over FaceTime, and I asked if he truly wanted to give a relationship a shot, and he said it was whatever I wanted. The next day, I finally broke the ice and asked if he was experiencing feelings for me. He told me he didn’t, that he was just being appreciative, that he didn’t actually like me that way, and that he was simply “acting”. He told me he was going to stop being intimate and sexual after that. This took a massive toll on me emotionally and I was so unbelievably close to cutting him out of my life permanently because of what he had done, but deep down I was unable to. Contrary to what he said, he CONTINUED to treat me like I was the love of his life. We even texted each other every single day for over 2 months. I ended up simply forgetting about what he had said because I was simply convinced that he was closeted and scared of who he truly was. I had my sister go through and read some of our texts, and she said that he was 100% not straight and was suffering from internalized homophobia. I shared this story with his brother as well, and he believes that M just does not know how to draw a line and that he puts everyone on a pedestal. He told me that M hooks up with girls a lot and hangs around not-so-decent people his age.
Later on, though, he started to become distant. He would ghost me practically all day on social media, and when I’d confront him about it, he’d say he was just busy. He just didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me anymore. I asked why he got so distant, and he just wouldn’t give me a straight answer, he said he thought of our friendship “differently” when he was always sexual and flirty with me, so he decided to stop. He said he didn’t want me to think it was something it wasn’t, and that he couldn’t “unsee or change that”. He was trying to turn it into an argument- saying how it wasn’t his intention to manipulate me and he didn’t know how I could blame him for that. I decided to remove him from Snapchat, which is the main way that we communicated because I felt so unbelievably disrespected. I needed some time away from him, and he texted me afterward thinking that I was going to kill/hurt myself.
After a couple of months, I decided to reach out and just ask how he was doing. We ended up FaceTiming to catch up a little bit and he CONTINUED to be flirty with me, like calling me handsome and saying that he wished I was in bed with him. I was honestly so fed up with how he just went back to his old self KNOWING that I didn’t like that. The next day, I reached out over text again and just told him how what he did was so disrespectful, and I asked why he treated me like I was the love of his life when I never was. He didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me at all, and he thought I was “attacking” and “belittling” him for trying to get an answer. He got mad that I kept trying to bring the situation up. One thing he said that genuinely infuriated me was “I just don’t know how you think I can look at our friendship the same after what you told me”. I was like, are you kidding me? YOU treated me like I was your lover, what do you think I was gonna say?
There are some days when we will end up playing Xbox or texting, but it isn’t the same as it used to be. Two months ago, we ended up getting a bit close again (I’m stupid and shouldn’t have let it happen, but my feelings and curiosity got the best of me) and he started sending good morning texts and all that. This just sort of diminished after I felt that his communication was incredibly lackluster. He would go days, even weeks without responding to a text, and his excuse would be “I just do my own thing and forget to reach out’, but at the SAME TIME, he’d reach out and say that he’s been thinking about me and he wants to see how I am doing. It’s like two opposites that are completely illogical.
This situation has been very difficult for me to move on from and I feel like I’m just trying to always find an answer on what happened and why it happened, because it’s so illogical. I really did fall for him, I mean we spent so much time together and shared so many things, even to this day I have dreams about him constantly. I went no-contact with him for nearly 5 months and did not feel any better from it. What do you think his intentions were? Is it worth trying to maintain a friendship with him? Am I disrespecting myself for engaging with him at all?
TL;DR I've had a five-year friendship with M, who's younger than me. Despite living apart, we stayed close through Xbox, with M showing unusually intimate behavior. He called me affectionate names and acted like we were in a relationship, only to later claim he was just "acting." This caused me emotional pain, but he continued the intimate behavior. Eventually, M became distant and inconsistent, adding to my confusion and frustration. He occasionally reached out, sometimes flirting, but then pulled back. This rollercoaster has left me struggling to move on, seeking clarity about his true intentions, and questioning if maintaining any friendship with him is worth it.
2024.05.23 11:46 LtlBeautifulCreature S.D., Time to get going, but the door will always be open to you
S.D
More than anything, I simply wish I could talk to you like once before. Tell you about the anime I'm watching, the manga I want to read, and be made fun of for the characters I like or am like. To whine about the kids while you whine about yours.
I want to tell you about my art and the music I love today and share my heart in the little harmless platonic ways.
I want to hear about your days and work and the dumb things you deal with while gaming with the boys. I want you to brag about your Playstation and PC. I still have the Playstation 3 you gave me. I can't rid myself of it. It's all I have of you, aside from a small rose.
I just wish you were once again a part of my daily, my day to day life. It can't start with me, though. I don't have that right. You don't deserve that if it's not what you want. And you deserve the respect to not bring you the question or request. If you wanted to, you could. And I must assume that if you don't ever message, then you must not want to.
I've messaged, and I've opened the doors. It's time to move on, I guess. Though I know these feelings won't ever fade, I can put them away, I think, hide it once again, bury them in the boxes whence they came. This time, I don't need to hide myself or pretend to be someone else, anything other than me. That will be enough for me.
I wish you happiness. I wish you peace. I wish you contentment if nothing else. And I hope you know, though you'll never read this, that the door will always be open to you.
C.R.
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More than anything, I simply wish I could talk to you like once before. Tell you about the anime I'm watching, the manga I want to read, and be made fun of for the characters I like or am like. To whine about the kids while you whine about yours.
I want to tell you about my art and the music I love today and share my heart in the little harmless platonic ways.
I want to hear about your days and work and the dumb things you deal with while gaming with the boys. I want you to brag about your Playstation and PC. I still have the Playstation 3 you gave me. I can't rid myself of it. It's all I have of you, aside from a small rose.
I just wish you were once again a part of my daily, my day to day life. It can't start with me, though. I don't have that right. You don't deserve that if it's not what you want. And you deserve the respect to not bring you the question or request. If you wanted to, you could. And I must assume that if you don't ever message, then you must not want to.
I've messaged, and I've opened the doors. It's time to move on, I guess. Though I know these feelings won't ever fade, I can put them away, I think, hide it once again, bury them in the boxes whence they came. This time, I don't need to hide myself or pretend to be someone else, anything other than me. That will be enough for me.
I wish you happiness. I wish you peace. I wish you contentment if nothing else. And I hope you know, though you'll never read this, that the door will always be open to you.
C.R.
2024.05.23 11:46 LtlBeautifulCreature S.D., Time to get going, but the door will always be open to you
S.D
More than anything, I simply wish I could talk to you like once before. Tell you about the anime I'm watching, the manga I want to read, and be made fun of for the characters I like or am like. To whine about the kids while you whine about yours.
I want to tell you about my art and the music I love today and share my heart in the little harmless platonic ways.
I want to hear about your days and work and the dumb things you deal with while gaming with the boys. I want you to brag about your Playstation and PC. I still have the Playstation 3 you gave me. I can't rid myself of it. It's all I have of you, aside from a small rose.
I just wish you were once again a part of my daily, my day to day life. It can't start with me, though. I don't have that right. You don't deserve that if it's not what you want. And you deserve the respect to not bring you the question or request. If you wanted to, you could. And I must assume that if you don't ever message, then you must not want to.
I've messaged, and I've opened the doors. It's time to move on, I guess. Though I know these feelings won't ever fade, I can put them away, I think, hide it once again, bury them in the boxes whence they came. This time, I don't need to hide myself or pretend to be someone else, anything other than me. That will be enough for me.
I wish you happiness. I wish you peace. I wish you contentment if nothing else. And I hope you know, though you'll never read this, that the door will always be open to you.
C.R.
submitted by LtlBeautifulCreature to letters [link] [comments]
More than anything, I simply wish I could talk to you like once before. Tell you about the anime I'm watching, the manga I want to read, and be made fun of for the characters I like or am like. To whine about the kids while you whine about yours.
I want to tell you about my art and the music I love today and share my heart in the little harmless platonic ways.
I want to hear about your days and work and the dumb things you deal with while gaming with the boys. I want you to brag about your Playstation and PC. I still have the Playstation 3 you gave me. I can't rid myself of it. It's all I have of you, aside from a small rose.
I just wish you were once again a part of my daily, my day to day life. It can't start with me, though. I don't have that right. You don't deserve that if it's not what you want. And you deserve the respect to not bring you the question or request. If you wanted to, you could. And I must assume that if you don't ever message, then you must not want to.
I've messaged, and I've opened the doors. It's time to move on, I guess. Though I know these feelings won't ever fade, I can put them away, I think, hide it once again, bury them in the boxes whence they came. This time, I don't need to hide myself or pretend to be someone else, anything other than me. That will be enough for me.
I wish you happiness. I wish you peace. I wish you contentment if nothing else. And I hope you know, though you'll never read this, that the door will always be open to you.
C.R.
2024.05.23 11:45 CreamFur I might be getting lead on but im not sure
My best friend and I are really close, and I always felt like there was this tension between us, where we both liked eachother but didnt know how to tell one another, to explain our dynamic a little were like, platonic best friends, talk everyday, super cool, agree on lots of things
However I feel as though theres also a part thats really confusing about our relationship, and its the affection
its not unusual for best friends to kiss or hug and hold hands, and for it to be purely platonic
I write really long and poetic letters to him about how much he means to me, I asked him to be my valentine on valentines day, we literally call eachother nicknames, the kissing, its all really hard to see if its platonic or romantic
Sometimes we used to listen to songs together, with very specific lyrics about loving someone so deeply but them not knowing, or songs about being in love with one another, and he would tell me that he related to it and so would I, and I always thought that deep down he liked me. But I was wrong.
But it feels really different, everytime it happens i feel really happy and excited, and theres only the barrier of not knowing how to break it to him that im in love with him
I like him, but i think he sees me differently. He sees me as his brother and it breaks my heart, because i dont see him that way
A day ago he broke it to me that its a joke more or less when he does those things, and i felt like my whole world collapsed, i was already hanging by a thin thread asking myself if i even love him anymore or not, because its just so painful. It really is painful to be around him, when im madly in love with him and he doesnt feel the same. I got a little frustrated, we talked and i asked him if hes really joking, because i really like it when we do those things but i dont know if he likes it too, and he said hes half joking. Now i feel really weird because he keeps acting like nothing happened, still doing the kisses and stuff and calling me nicknames but i just dont even reciprocate anymore. Im hurt, it hurts to be around him and i dont want to confess to him because it'll ruin everything
he even posted today, something about if he were to be in a romantic relationship he would hate it and he would throw up - indicating theres no future plan on dating anyone
he told me, hes never had a crush, but at the same time he wishes he was in a relationship.
Hes really sending me mixed signals and I dont know how to take it anymore. At this point i dont react anymore, im even pushing him away a little because i feel if this keeps going itll be worse for the both of us, and especially me. Ill lose a best friend, and so will he. And I will be deeply heartbroken. I dont want our friendship to end, hes really important to me. And I didnt like him before, its only when this began where I really started liking him.
I dont know if its just my fault for interpreting it differently, i thought he had ulterior motives, Because I do
Is it my fault for thinking of something platonic and innocent as romantic? I cant even feel a thing anymore, i just dont know what to do
should i just forget about it? i know that this is not something worth risking losing a good friendship over, so i dont know.
Please be honest with me, I want to see it from everyone elses perspective.
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However I feel as though theres also a part thats really confusing about our relationship, and its the affection
its not unusual for best friends to kiss or hug and hold hands, and for it to be purely platonic
I write really long and poetic letters to him about how much he means to me, I asked him to be my valentine on valentines day, we literally call eachother nicknames, the kissing, its all really hard to see if its platonic or romantic
Sometimes we used to listen to songs together, with very specific lyrics about loving someone so deeply but them not knowing, or songs about being in love with one another, and he would tell me that he related to it and so would I, and I always thought that deep down he liked me. But I was wrong.
But it feels really different, everytime it happens i feel really happy and excited, and theres only the barrier of not knowing how to break it to him that im in love with him
I like him, but i think he sees me differently. He sees me as his brother and it breaks my heart, because i dont see him that way
A day ago he broke it to me that its a joke more or less when he does those things, and i felt like my whole world collapsed, i was already hanging by a thin thread asking myself if i even love him anymore or not, because its just so painful. It really is painful to be around him, when im madly in love with him and he doesnt feel the same. I got a little frustrated, we talked and i asked him if hes really joking, because i really like it when we do those things but i dont know if he likes it too, and he said hes half joking. Now i feel really weird because he keeps acting like nothing happened, still doing the kisses and stuff and calling me nicknames but i just dont even reciprocate anymore. Im hurt, it hurts to be around him and i dont want to confess to him because it'll ruin everything
he even posted today, something about if he were to be in a romantic relationship he would hate it and he would throw up - indicating theres no future plan on dating anyone
he told me, hes never had a crush, but at the same time he wishes he was in a relationship.
Hes really sending me mixed signals and I dont know how to take it anymore. At this point i dont react anymore, im even pushing him away a little because i feel if this keeps going itll be worse for the both of us, and especially me. Ill lose a best friend, and so will he. And I will be deeply heartbroken. I dont want our friendship to end, hes really important to me. And I didnt like him before, its only when this began where I really started liking him.
I dont know if its just my fault for interpreting it differently, i thought he had ulterior motives, Because I do
Is it my fault for thinking of something platonic and innocent as romantic? I cant even feel a thing anymore, i just dont know what to do
should i just forget about it? i know that this is not something worth risking losing a good friendship over, so i dont know.
Please be honest with me, I want to see it from everyone elses perspective.
2024.05.23 11:45 LtlBeautifulCreature S.D., Time to get going, but the door will always be open to you
S.D
More than anything, I simply wish I could talk to you like once before. Tell you about the anime I'm watching, the manga I want to read, and be made fun of for the characters I like or am like. To whine about the kids while you whine about yours.
I want to tell you about my art and the music I love today and share my heart in the little harmless platonic ways.
I want to hear about your days and work and the dumb things you deal with while gaming with the boys. I want you to brag about your Playstation and PC. I still have the Playstation 3 you gave me. I can't rid myself of it. It's all I have of you, aside from a small rose.
I just wish you were once again a part of my daily, my day to day life. It can't start with me, though. I don't have that right. You don't deserve that if it's not what you want. And you deserve the respect to not bring you the question or request. If you wanted to, you could. And I must assume that if you don't ever message, then you must not want to.
I've messaged, and I've opened the doors. It's time to move on, I guess. Though I know these feelings won't ever fade, I can put them away, I think, hide it once again, bury them in the boxes whence they came. This time, I don't need to hide myself or pretend to be someone else, anything other than me. That will be enough for me.
I wish you happiness. I wish you peace. I wish you contentment if nothing else. And I hope you know, though you'll never read this, that the door will always be open to you.
C.R.
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More than anything, I simply wish I could talk to you like once before. Tell you about the anime I'm watching, the manga I want to read, and be made fun of for the characters I like or am like. To whine about the kids while you whine about yours.
I want to tell you about my art and the music I love today and share my heart in the little harmless platonic ways.
I want to hear about your days and work and the dumb things you deal with while gaming with the boys. I want you to brag about your Playstation and PC. I still have the Playstation 3 you gave me. I can't rid myself of it. It's all I have of you, aside from a small rose.
I just wish you were once again a part of my daily, my day to day life. It can't start with me, though. I don't have that right. You don't deserve that if it's not what you want. And you deserve the respect to not bring you the question or request. If you wanted to, you could. And I must assume that if you don't ever message, then you must not want to.
I've messaged, and I've opened the doors. It's time to move on, I guess. Though I know these feelings won't ever fade, I can put them away, I think, hide it once again, bury them in the boxes whence they came. This time, I don't need to hide myself or pretend to be someone else, anything other than me. That will be enough for me.
I wish you happiness. I wish you peace. I wish you contentment if nothing else. And I hope you know, though you'll never read this, that the door will always be open to you.
C.R.
2024.05.23 11:45 AdPlastic7988 Complex relationship between my best friend’s little brother (M19) and I (M22), is it worth maintaining?
TLDR @ Bottom
I (m22) have had a close friend, we’ll call him M, (m19) for about 5-ish years. His older brothers are my best friends. Their family, who I’ve known for almost 15 years, ended up moving away about 7 years ago but I’m still in contact with all of them constantly, and I’ve seen them in person about once or twice a year. So M and I ended up playing Xbox together literally all of the time, this started about six years ago. I always thought there was something off about M, I don’t know if it was the way he just talked with me or what, but I always thought he may have been exploring his sexuality or questioning SOMETHING, because he was so unusually intimate with me, even when he was so young, like always saying sexual things that crossed the boundaries of what you’d say around your friends. He seemed to like having this genuine attachment to me because he just ALWAYS wanted to spend time with me over Xbox; which was really the only way we COULD spend time together, and I always found it to be a bit strange, but I never really questioned it. At the time, I was still questioning my bisexuality.
He’d always tell me how cute I was, he’d say how much he would miss me when we weren’t playing together, and he would just say things in a very intimate manner. I didn’t think anything of it, I just kinda of played along with it, I assumed it was just his weird young kid personality and that maybe he was questioning himself, so I just let him discover that side of him over time cause I know sexuality can be weird and sometimes scary, I understood that.
Starting around March of 2022, we started to grow much closer. He would send good morning and good night texts, we FaceTime a lot, and he’d always call me those nicknames that you would say to your significant other (babe, my love, sugar plum, baby boy, etc.) He told me that I was his favorite person, that I completed him; he wouldn’t know where he’d be without me. He’d say that he would be thinking about me all day. He’d say how I was his priority and that he couldn’t wait to see me in person. At one point, he said it was us against the world, and that he “was so proud to be with me”. He’d always tell me to drive safely if I was going somewhere. If I was acting down, he would check up on me, and every time I told him that I loved him, he’d always say that he loved me more. When I saw him in person at one point, we ended up getting drunk together and he refused to stop laying on top of me.
One night we were talking over FaceTime, and I asked if he truly wanted to give a relationship a shot, and he said it was whatever I wanted. The next day, I finally broke the ice and asked if he was experiencing feelings for me. He told me he didn’t, that he was just being appreciative, that he didn’t actually like me that way, and that he was simply “acting”. He told me he was going to stop being intimate and sexual after that. This took a massive toll on me emotionally and I was so unbelievably close to cutting him out of my life permanently because of what he had done, but deep down I was unable to. Contrary to what he said, he CONTINUED to treat me like I was the love of his life. We even texted each other every single day for over 2 months. I ended up simply forgetting about what he had said because I was simply convinced that he was closeted and scared of who he truly was. I had my sister go through and read some of our texts, and she said that he was 100% not straight and was suffering from internalized homophobia. I shared this story with his brother as well, and he believes that M just does not know how to draw a line and that he puts everyone on a pedestal. He told me that M hooks up with girls a lot and hangs around not-so-decent people his age.
Later on, though, he started to become distant. He would ghost me practically all day on social media, and when I’d confront him about it, he’d say he was just busy. He just didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me anymore. I asked why he got so distant, and he just wouldn’t give me a straight answer, he said he thought of our friendship “differently” when he was always sexual and flirty with me, so he decided to stop. He said he didn’t want me to think it was something it wasn’t, and that he couldn’t “unsee or change that”. He was trying to turn it into an argument- saying how it wasn’t his intention to manipulate me and he didn’t know how I could blame him for that. I decided to remove him from Snapchat, which is the main way that we communicated because I felt so unbelievably disrespected. I needed some time away from him, and he texted me afterward thinking that I was going to kill/hurt myself.
After a couple of months, I decided to reach out and just ask how he was doing. We ended up FaceTiming to catch up a little bit and he CONTINUED to be flirty with me, like calling me handsome and saying that he wished I was in bed with him. I was honestly so fed up with how he just went back to his old self KNOWING that I didn’t like that. The next day, I reached out over text again and just told him how what he did was so disrespectful, and I asked why he treated me like I was the love of his life when I never was. He didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me at all, and he thought I was “attacking” and “belittling” him for trying to get an answer. He got mad that I kept trying to bring the situation up. One thing he said that genuinely infuriated me was “I just don’t know how you think I can look at our friendship the same after what you told me”. I was like, are you kidding me? YOU treated me like I was your lover, what do you think I was gonna say?
There are some days when we will end up playing Xbox or texting, but it isn’t the same as it used to be. Two months ago, we ended up getting a bit close again (I’m stupid and shouldn’t have let it happen, but my feelings and curiosity got the best of me) and he started sending good morning texts and all that. This just sort of diminished after I felt that his communication was incredibly lackluster. He would go days, even weeks without responding to a text, and his excuse would be “I just do my own thing and forget to reach out’, but at the SAME TIME, he’d reach out and say that he’s been thinking about me and he wants to see how I am doing. It’s like two opposites that are completely illogical.
This situation has been very difficult for me to move on from and I feel like I’m just trying to always find an answer on what happened and why it happened, because it’s so illogical. I really did fall for him, I mean we spent so much time together and shared so many things, even to this day I have dreams about him constantly. I went no-contact with him for nearly 5 months and did not feel any better from it. What do you think his intentions were? Is it worth trying to maintain a friendship with him? Am I disrespecting myself for engaging with him at all?
TL;DR I've had a five-year friendship with M, who's younger than me. Despite living apart, we stayed close through Xbox, with M showing unusually intimate behavior. He called me affectionate names and acted like we were in a relationship, only to later claim he was just "acting." This caused me emotional pain, but he continued the intimate behavior. Eventually, M became distant and inconsistent, adding to my confusion and frustration. He occasionally reached out, sometimes flirting, but then pulled back. This rollercoaster has left me struggling to move on, seeking clarity about his true intentions, and questioning if maintaining any friendship with him is worth it.
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I (m22) have had a close friend, we’ll call him M, (m19) for about 5-ish years. His older brothers are my best friends. Their family, who I’ve known for almost 15 years, ended up moving away about 7 years ago but I’m still in contact with all of them constantly, and I’ve seen them in person about once or twice a year. So M and I ended up playing Xbox together literally all of the time, this started about six years ago. I always thought there was something off about M, I don’t know if it was the way he just talked with me or what, but I always thought he may have been exploring his sexuality or questioning SOMETHING, because he was so unusually intimate with me, even when he was so young, like always saying sexual things that crossed the boundaries of what you’d say around your friends. He seemed to like having this genuine attachment to me because he just ALWAYS wanted to spend time with me over Xbox; which was really the only way we COULD spend time together, and I always found it to be a bit strange, but I never really questioned it. At the time, I was still questioning my bisexuality.
He’d always tell me how cute I was, he’d say how much he would miss me when we weren’t playing together, and he would just say things in a very intimate manner. I didn’t think anything of it, I just kinda of played along with it, I assumed it was just his weird young kid personality and that maybe he was questioning himself, so I just let him discover that side of him over time cause I know sexuality can be weird and sometimes scary, I understood that.
Starting around March of 2022, we started to grow much closer. He would send good morning and good night texts, we FaceTime a lot, and he’d always call me those nicknames that you would say to your significant other (babe, my love, sugar plum, baby boy, etc.) He told me that I was his favorite person, that I completed him; he wouldn’t know where he’d be without me. He’d say that he would be thinking about me all day. He’d say how I was his priority and that he couldn’t wait to see me in person. At one point, he said it was us against the world, and that he “was so proud to be with me”. He’d always tell me to drive safely if I was going somewhere. If I was acting down, he would check up on me, and every time I told him that I loved him, he’d always say that he loved me more. When I saw him in person at one point, we ended up getting drunk together and he refused to stop laying on top of me.
One night we were talking over FaceTime, and I asked if he truly wanted to give a relationship a shot, and he said it was whatever I wanted. The next day, I finally broke the ice and asked if he was experiencing feelings for me. He told me he didn’t, that he was just being appreciative, that he didn’t actually like me that way, and that he was simply “acting”. He told me he was going to stop being intimate and sexual after that. This took a massive toll on me emotionally and I was so unbelievably close to cutting him out of my life permanently because of what he had done, but deep down I was unable to. Contrary to what he said, he CONTINUED to treat me like I was the love of his life. We even texted each other every single day for over 2 months. I ended up simply forgetting about what he had said because I was simply convinced that he was closeted and scared of who he truly was. I had my sister go through and read some of our texts, and she said that he was 100% not straight and was suffering from internalized homophobia. I shared this story with his brother as well, and he believes that M just does not know how to draw a line and that he puts everyone on a pedestal. He told me that M hooks up with girls a lot and hangs around not-so-decent people his age.
Later on, though, he started to become distant. He would ghost me practically all day on social media, and when I’d confront him about it, he’d say he was just busy. He just didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me anymore. I asked why he got so distant, and he just wouldn’t give me a straight answer, he said he thought of our friendship “differently” when he was always sexual and flirty with me, so he decided to stop. He said he didn’t want me to think it was something it wasn’t, and that he couldn’t “unsee or change that”. He was trying to turn it into an argument- saying how it wasn’t his intention to manipulate me and he didn’t know how I could blame him for that. I decided to remove him from Snapchat, which is the main way that we communicated because I felt so unbelievably disrespected. I needed some time away from him, and he texted me afterward thinking that I was going to kill/hurt myself.
After a couple of months, I decided to reach out and just ask how he was doing. We ended up FaceTiming to catch up a little bit and he CONTINUED to be flirty with me, like calling me handsome and saying that he wished I was in bed with him. I was honestly so fed up with how he just went back to his old self KNOWING that I didn’t like that. The next day, I reached out over text again and just told him how what he did was so disrespectful, and I asked why he treated me like I was the love of his life when I never was. He didn’t seem like he wanted to talk to me at all, and he thought I was “attacking” and “belittling” him for trying to get an answer. He got mad that I kept trying to bring the situation up. One thing he said that genuinely infuriated me was “I just don’t know how you think I can look at our friendship the same after what you told me”. I was like, are you kidding me? YOU treated me like I was your lover, what do you think I was gonna say?
There are some days when we will end up playing Xbox or texting, but it isn’t the same as it used to be. Two months ago, we ended up getting a bit close again (I’m stupid and shouldn’t have let it happen, but my feelings and curiosity got the best of me) and he started sending good morning texts and all that. This just sort of diminished after I felt that his communication was incredibly lackluster. He would go days, even weeks without responding to a text, and his excuse would be “I just do my own thing and forget to reach out’, but at the SAME TIME, he’d reach out and say that he’s been thinking about me and he wants to see how I am doing. It’s like two opposites that are completely illogical.
This situation has been very difficult for me to move on from and I feel like I’m just trying to always find an answer on what happened and why it happened, because it’s so illogical. I really did fall for him, I mean we spent so much time together and shared so many things, even to this day I have dreams about him constantly. I went no-contact with him for nearly 5 months and did not feel any better from it. What do you think his intentions were? Is it worth trying to maintain a friendship with him? Am I disrespecting myself for engaging with him at all?
TL;DR I've had a five-year friendship with M, who's younger than me. Despite living apart, we stayed close through Xbox, with M showing unusually intimate behavior. He called me affectionate names and acted like we were in a relationship, only to later claim he was just "acting." This caused me emotional pain, but he continued the intimate behavior. Eventually, M became distant and inconsistent, adding to my confusion and frustration. He occasionally reached out, sometimes flirting, but then pulled back. This rollercoaster has left me struggling to move on, seeking clarity about his true intentions, and questioning if maintaining any friendship with him is worth it.
2024.05.23 11:45 SufficientBanana6334 Why did this sub become trash since I left?
Over zealous right wing mods on here keep removing my post because it is not about hating Muslims. I made a post about leaving Islam on here 6 years ago, it was all somewhat of a quick process, I told my parents I did not believe, that upset them, that eventually pushed me to move out of my parents home because it got so bad after that and I went to live with my boyfriend then husband who I married privately shortler afer who is a Christian white man, I went back to college, finished college got a new job, and I am still in touch with my family I claimed I would run away from and never speak to against like people on this sub wanted me to do.
Some of you treat your Reddit accounts and tend to them every day like it is your baby to take care of. Meanwhile I am so greatful I have an actual 5 year old kid that says good morning to me. I feel so bad for a lot of you had done nothing but hate Islam for the past 6 years instead of moving on with your lives. Out of curiosity I came back to check in on this sub and I can barely find any real exMuslims left. The real exMuslims come on here to share their personal family stories then they go to live their lives. The hateful people come on here to just hate Islam which is unhealthy. They show no sympathy for Islam, if you are exMuslim you would not be so harsh on Muslims because you were once one. I do not love Islam too, it was terrible for me but obsessive hate is bad. 6 years of your life waste when I come back and see you changed no ones mind and told them nothing new. Yeah we know Islam is bad, but you didnt contribute anything good to society.
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Some of you treat your Reddit accounts and tend to them every day like it is your baby to take care of. Meanwhile I am so greatful I have an actual 5 year old kid that says good morning to me. I feel so bad for a lot of you had done nothing but hate Islam for the past 6 years instead of moving on with your lives. Out of curiosity I came back to check in on this sub and I can barely find any real exMuslims left. The real exMuslims come on here to share their personal family stories then they go to live their lives. The hateful people come on here to just hate Islam which is unhealthy. They show no sympathy for Islam, if you are exMuslim you would not be so harsh on Muslims because you were once one. I do not love Islam too, it was terrible for me but obsessive hate is bad. 6 years of your life waste when I come back and see you changed no ones mind and told them nothing new. Yeah we know Islam is bad, but you didnt contribute anything good to society.
2024.05.23 11:41 esdfa20 'Primary target!' (American magazine ad for American Railway Car Institute. Calling for new national transportation policy (i.c. lower taxes). Time magazine, 30 April 1951. United States of America, 1951).
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2024.05.23 11:40 Throwrabanana7000 My partner has a terrible corn addiction and has for the last 5+ years of his life and don't know how to help anymore or if I should? Should I break up and stay friends with him? Me 20F and my partner 20M
I'll start by saying that we have been on and off for a bit over 3 years. Our longest break our worst break up happened last year halfway through April 2023. We thought we were finally done, no contact trying to move on the works. He got some perspective from friends and just being on his own, and wrote me a decent sized letter apologizing later that year in august. We started off contact slow, I was extremely apprehensive because I've known for 80% of the relationship he's a serial cheater and a corn addict. I'm talking every app there is he would find corn on it. I cannot list the number of ways this man has cheated on me because frankly I don't feel like writing it all down. So what I'm asking about is what to do about his corn addiction or I guess maybe what should I do?? Is this something that can be worked through?
I would like to give some background, at the beginning of our first relationship at 17 About 6 months in a couple weeks before my birthday I found his first stash of GB on GB of corn. His entire tik tok saved was filled to the brim. I tried to help him after reacting of course. I told him hey ~ think you have a corn addiction buddy, l've been there! a lot of people have been there do you wanna talk about it? It was pretty useless at the time because I didn't fully grasp how deep this went. When I say corn to you guys you imagine real life real people having intercourse. For my darling it's a bit different, I only say this because it hurts worse. My partner likes giantesses, giantess feet, letterbox corn with a picture of feet or giant mommy or armpit in the background, futa, and stills of people's feet with degrading words and some other stuff. Half of these things I will never be or are completely unattainable! Which is the problem, none of these things I cannot emulate I cannot satisfy. Needless to say we've talked about it over and over for the last 3 something years. Things are good now he's completely loyal to me except in the corn aspect. I don't think what I have communicated has helped! He lies about it and hides it because he's embarrassed and claims to want to fix it on his own. I've tried incentivizing soothing suggesting different outlets for stress. But every 3 months about~ I can't help myself and I have to look through and see all the corn, or I guess the truth. Sometimes I haven't found anything but other times... It gets more complicated. This most recent attempt at a relationship I have found pictures of my feet taken without permission while sleeping on him/next to him. Two people who didn't treat me well AT ALL and he was aware of that fact!!! Their feet were sent to himself on Instagram. There was of course the usual amount of corn elsewhere too but this stuff was personal and deeply confusing/broke my trust. He claims he doesn't jerk off to a lot of it or mostly ever, he just looks because he is addicted. He has apologized we had very long conversations and a couple arguments about it. He always apologizes profusely but nothing changes. I've found tumblr DeviantArt instagram Twitter YouTube literally google chrome full of this addiction. He even talked to a sex Al bot at one point. I got him to delete the accounts that don't serve him, that make it too accessible and easy. I thought this was a good fresh start! He does better for a while usually because I'm about to be done/ ready walk away because I'm frankly very tired of it. When we talk about it I know he knows the way he is isn't right and I know he wants to change for me and for himself! But no matter what we do how much we communicate he always goes back to it. I'm writing this post right now at 4am because I am at a loss at what I just found on this very app on his phone. We have been working on this since I packed up and left for 2 weeks after finding the two feet pictures of people who ha wronged me sent to himself, and things have been better. But after what I just saw I'm about ready to pack up and go a final time. Please help I'm at a loss, I'm tired, I'm begging. Thank you.
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I would like to give some background, at the beginning of our first relationship at 17 About 6 months in a couple weeks before my birthday I found his first stash of GB on GB of corn. His entire tik tok saved was filled to the brim. I tried to help him after reacting of course. I told him hey ~ think you have a corn addiction buddy, l've been there! a lot of people have been there do you wanna talk about it? It was pretty useless at the time because I didn't fully grasp how deep this went. When I say corn to you guys you imagine real life real people having intercourse. For my darling it's a bit different, I only say this because it hurts worse. My partner likes giantesses, giantess feet, letterbox corn with a picture of feet or giant mommy or armpit in the background, futa, and stills of people's feet with degrading words and some other stuff. Half of these things I will never be or are completely unattainable! Which is the problem, none of these things I cannot emulate I cannot satisfy. Needless to say we've talked about it over and over for the last 3 something years. Things are good now he's completely loyal to me except in the corn aspect. I don't think what I have communicated has helped! He lies about it and hides it because he's embarrassed and claims to want to fix it on his own. I've tried incentivizing soothing suggesting different outlets for stress. But every 3 months about~ I can't help myself and I have to look through and see all the corn, or I guess the truth. Sometimes I haven't found anything but other times... It gets more complicated. This most recent attempt at a relationship I have found pictures of my feet taken without permission while sleeping on him/next to him. Two people who didn't treat me well AT ALL and he was aware of that fact!!! Their feet were sent to himself on Instagram. There was of course the usual amount of corn elsewhere too but this stuff was personal and deeply confusing/broke my trust. He claims he doesn't jerk off to a lot of it or mostly ever, he just looks because he is addicted. He has apologized we had very long conversations and a couple arguments about it. He always apologizes profusely but nothing changes. I've found tumblr DeviantArt instagram Twitter YouTube literally google chrome full of this addiction. He even talked to a sex Al bot at one point. I got him to delete the accounts that don't serve him, that make it too accessible and easy. I thought this was a good fresh start! He does better for a while usually because I'm about to be done/ ready walk away because I'm frankly very tired of it. When we talk about it I know he knows the way he is isn't right and I know he wants to change for me and for himself! But no matter what we do how much we communicate he always goes back to it. I'm writing this post right now at 4am because I am at a loss at what I just found on this very app on his phone. We have been working on this since I packed up and left for 2 weeks after finding the two feet pictures of people who ha wronged me sent to himself, and things have been better. But after what I just saw I'm about ready to pack up and go a final time. Please help I'm at a loss, I'm tired, I'm begging. Thank you.
2024.05.23 11:39 cdl1996 Not sure what to think in this situation and could use advice
Hi! I’m a 28F from LA and have had a tough time finding a long term relationship here, so I’ve been single since college (not counting situationships). I’ve tried to be a bit more selective when dating rather than settling for someone who I don’t think is my person, but it’s gotten me nowhere, especially because most of the good/mature guys I’d go for in LA are already taken or won’t settle down lol.
Now onto my current situation where I have NO clue what to think…better buckle up for this one!
In February I was in Nashville for a girls trip. One of my friends with me on the trip had a college friend who lived in Atlanta and was also visiting Nashville that weekend with a group of friends all from Atlanta. We met up with them at a bar, and one of them was this guy who caught my eye immediately…so of course I asked my friend about him. She told me that he was single and that we were very similar personalities and very much each other’s type haha.
After that, one thing led to another. We had a blast hanging out together all weekend and ended up hooking up as well. The next morning (Sunday), we hung out for a bit, got Starbucks (lol we were hungover af ok), then he drove me back to my Airbnb and hung out for a little before he had to drive back to Atlanta.
He told me that he had a wedding to go to in LA in July and that he’d love to see me then which was exciting. A little after he left, he texted me and we continued talking for a week or so before I stopped answering. I was nervous that if I kept talking to him I’d start to get the feels and July felt really far away at the time so it didn’t seem super worth it to me. It was basically my way of putting my guard up…
Almost a month later in March, he posted on his IGS in Vegas and I responded joking that he should make a stop in LA after. This led to us talking again via IG over the course of the past two months nonstop and he asked if I would be his +1 at the wedding when he was in LA. Ever since I agreed to be, the convo has progressed more and more and we have gotten to know each other pretty well. Everything with us has flowed sooo easily and our banter never really hits a dead end haha. We’ve even had lighthearted convos about him potentially moving to LA after the trip, he’s joked about meeting my parents aka his “future in-laws”, and he’s made comments about me being his future wife.
Yesterday we had our first FaceTime which he intiated to start planning for the weekend he’ll be in LA and to chat about wedding festivities. We talked about the trip and ended up planning for him to be in SoCal with me for almost two weeks with trips to San Diego, Joshua Tree, and Newport in the mix.
I’ve had long distance flings before after meeting someone once on a trip and it usually fizzles if I don’t see them again in the near future…but this feels different in many ways. What I’m confused about is if he actually means what he’s been saying hinting about a potential future with me, because I definitely think we’re extremely compatible and I see the potential (I truthfully think he’s a perfect match for me if we lived in the same city🥲) but I don’t want to get hurt if he doesn’t actually mean it. I’d almost rather not go with him to the wedding at this point if he’s just looking for a fun date and for it to not really mean anything to him, after it’s starting to mean something to me and since he’s led me on to think that. I wouldn’t be overthinking this situation this much if I didn’t feel strongly about him…
What should I do? Is there a way to bring this up without it being weird? Any advice is appreciated :)
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Now onto my current situation where I have NO clue what to think…better buckle up for this one!
In February I was in Nashville for a girls trip. One of my friends with me on the trip had a college friend who lived in Atlanta and was also visiting Nashville that weekend with a group of friends all from Atlanta. We met up with them at a bar, and one of them was this guy who caught my eye immediately…so of course I asked my friend about him. She told me that he was single and that we were very similar personalities and very much each other’s type haha.
After that, one thing led to another. We had a blast hanging out together all weekend and ended up hooking up as well. The next morning (Sunday), we hung out for a bit, got Starbucks (lol we were hungover af ok), then he drove me back to my Airbnb and hung out for a little before he had to drive back to Atlanta.
He told me that he had a wedding to go to in LA in July and that he’d love to see me then which was exciting. A little after he left, he texted me and we continued talking for a week or so before I stopped answering. I was nervous that if I kept talking to him I’d start to get the feels and July felt really far away at the time so it didn’t seem super worth it to me. It was basically my way of putting my guard up…
Almost a month later in March, he posted on his IGS in Vegas and I responded joking that he should make a stop in LA after. This led to us talking again via IG over the course of the past two months nonstop and he asked if I would be his +1 at the wedding when he was in LA. Ever since I agreed to be, the convo has progressed more and more and we have gotten to know each other pretty well. Everything with us has flowed sooo easily and our banter never really hits a dead end haha. We’ve even had lighthearted convos about him potentially moving to LA after the trip, he’s joked about meeting my parents aka his “future in-laws”, and he’s made comments about me being his future wife.
Yesterday we had our first FaceTime which he intiated to start planning for the weekend he’ll be in LA and to chat about wedding festivities. We talked about the trip and ended up planning for him to be in SoCal with me for almost two weeks with trips to San Diego, Joshua Tree, and Newport in the mix.
I’ve had long distance flings before after meeting someone once on a trip and it usually fizzles if I don’t see them again in the near future…but this feels different in many ways. What I’m confused about is if he actually means what he’s been saying hinting about a potential future with me, because I definitely think we’re extremely compatible and I see the potential (I truthfully think he’s a perfect match for me if we lived in the same city🥲) but I don’t want to get hurt if he doesn’t actually mean it. I’d almost rather not go with him to the wedding at this point if he’s just looking for a fun date and for it to not really mean anything to him, after it’s starting to mean something to me and since he’s led me on to think that. I wouldn’t be overthinking this situation this much if I didn’t feel strongly about him…
What should I do? Is there a way to bring this up without it being weird? Any advice is appreciated :)
2024.05.23 11:39 justahoustonpervert Megathread 7: days of power's past
If you need to find resources, my previous threads in the megathread series will have it, or someone can't point it out for you.
This will mostly will be geared to lessons learned and how we individually can prepare differently. But please update if you're still in the dark.
Since we all have different situations and resources available, we all need to take into account realistic plans.
No. Moving away doesn't count.
As off 4:30 this morning, 27.6k of our fellow Houstonians are still without power.
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This will mostly will be geared to lessons learned and how we individually can prepare differently. But please update if you're still in the dark.
Since we all have different situations and resources available, we all need to take into account realistic plans.
No. Moving away doesn't count.
As off 4:30 this morning, 27.6k of our fellow Houstonians are still without power.
2024.05.23 11:38 Cleaver97 Fender bender my fault
Ran into the bumper of car ahead of me at a red light. Exchanged info with driver and exchange was pleasant enough. Told him my fault, just zoned out at light. Asked him to get an estimate and send to me. Never called the cops as so minor and I happened to be late for taking my mother to a cardioloigist visit. Past history….past 10 years have about 3-4 no fault claims (hurricane dropped a tree on car, car was t-boned when parked, hit in a parking lot and rear ended) Quote came in at a few thousand dollars but when researching the numbers actually seems fair and the body shop seems squared away. I have the cash and not a problem to pay out myself and would prefer just to take care of this and move on with my life. Spoke to the other driver today about the quote, told him it seemed fair but more than I was expecting and that I may reach out to insurance company. The question I know no one can answer is what the rate increase could be if I filed a claim but can just contacting my agent to discuss affect my insurance? If I decide to pay out myself and we sign some sort of document saying “ Mr. Xxxx paid Mr xxxx the amount of $xxxxx to satisfy damage to car based upon xxxx quote…” does that even mean anything in the big picture? My main concern even though everything is very friendly between me and the guy I hit, if I payout the cash even with signed documentation and he turns into a d**k and makes a claim with injuries down the road. All unknowns I know, just trying to determine Cost/Risk in my head to wrap this issue up next week.
Any advise is appreciated
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2024.05.23 11:37 NaotoOfYlisse Missing him even more 3 weeks later
My soul cat Kevin passed away on May 1st around 3am. The first day was horrible but then I felt like I was handling it well. In hindsight I was just keeping myself too busy to think of anything. For the past few days though I have been looking at pictures of him every night and crying. I can't sleep because he would always jump on me in the middle of the night and my bed feels empty without him.
I have 2 other cats but they aren't as close to me as he was. They are very sweet but neither of them are Kevin. He was bonded to another cat of ours that passed away in 2021 so there's comfort in knowing they're reunited at least.
My family has been telling me to get another cat and I eventually agreed but that adoption fell through last minute because the rescue was disorganized. (We have a dog, but they pre-approved the application, met the cat, loved him and then later found out he was afraid of dogs so were denied.) That just feels like a second gut punch.
I'm now rethinking getting another cat because I don't know if I'll get attached or not. I wish I wasn't in this position in the first place. I would very much rather have Kevin back then have another cat in the house. It just feels so empty and soulless here without 3 cats.
I miss my little guy following me everywhere. I miss taking naps with him. I miss him jumping on my computer. I miss seeing him in the window when I get back home. I just want him back. I feel destroyed and I already had severe depression and OCD which feels like it's becoming much worse. I'm terrified of forgetting him and moving on.
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I have 2 other cats but they aren't as close to me as he was. They are very sweet but neither of them are Kevin. He was bonded to another cat of ours that passed away in 2021 so there's comfort in knowing they're reunited at least.
My family has been telling me to get another cat and I eventually agreed but that adoption fell through last minute because the rescue was disorganized. (We have a dog, but they pre-approved the application, met the cat, loved him and then later found out he was afraid of dogs so were denied.) That just feels like a second gut punch.
I'm now rethinking getting another cat because I don't know if I'll get attached or not. I wish I wasn't in this position in the first place. I would very much rather have Kevin back then have another cat in the house. It just feels so empty and soulless here without 3 cats.
I miss my little guy following me everywhere. I miss taking naps with him. I miss him jumping on my computer. I miss seeing him in the window when I get back home. I just want him back. I feel destroyed and I already had severe depression and OCD which feels like it's becoming much worse. I'm terrified of forgetting him and moving on.
2024.05.23 11:36 ADLJMF Live-in renovation essentials
Backstory, I’ve just bought a property (in Australia if it helps), I’m going to do some small renovations for about 3-5 weeks (DIY), and I’ll be living in the house while I do it. I work away so I’ll be renting it out for about 12 months or so after that before moving back in.
What should I get ready to bring with me for that time? Outside of the obvious clothes/linen. So far all I have written down is a fridge, blow up mattress and my dogs bed/food.
Any suggestions, especially from someone who has done similar would be excellent.
My in-laws live very close and my parents live within half hour, so things like washing machines aren’t necessary.
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What should I get ready to bring with me for that time? Outside of the obvious clothes/linen. So far all I have written down is a fridge, blow up mattress and my dogs bed/food.
Any suggestions, especially from someone who has done similar would be excellent.
My in-laws live very close and my parents live within half hour, so things like washing machines aren’t necessary.
2024.05.23 11:36 GhoulGriin Best Cute Cat Towers
 | submitted by GhoulGriin to u/GhoulGriin [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/jq6bmb2mb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8f1db4240b2eb463b82aa80e2a66b2090937afcd Get ready to purr in delight as we present to you the newest line of cat towers in our Cute Cat Towers roundup. This adorable collection of cozy perches and climbing structures is the perfect addition to your feline friend's play area, providing endless hours of entertainment and engagement. Don't miss out on these stylish and functional cat towers that will make your cat feel like royalty! The Top 18 Best Cute Cat Towers
Reviews🔗Cute and Durable Flower-Shaped Cat Tree for Large Catshttps://preview.redd.it/hrkpl60nb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f53d25db17568f51351a810cdc31f50074f02231 As a cat lover, I was instantly drawn to the Flower Shaped Cat Tree Happy & Polly. Standing tall at 50 inches, this tree is perfect for my large cats who love to climb, jump, and play. The multi-functional design allows them to rest, climb, and exercise according to their wishes. They love to lounge in the cozy flower-shaped cat beds and stretch their legs on the sturdy branches. The high-quality material made of particle board covered with flannel is soft and comfortable for my cats, with the built-in iron pipe pillars providing a durable and stable structure. The spacious room and pumpkin-shaped design create a comfortable sleeping environment, and the built-in scratching pad ensures that my furniture stays scratch-free. One downside I noticed is that it's pretty heavy, making it a bit difficult to move around. However, the installation process was straightforward, and it didn't take long before my cats were enjoying their new playground. Overall, this cat tower offers a fun, cozy, and durable space for my cats to unwind and play. 🔗Uniquely Designed Cat Tree Tower for Relaxing and Playtimehttps://preview.redd.it/7ed6tj5nb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b7653a0d4ea3d0f6fbd43c1145babdc634f2cf59 I recently had the pleasure of using the Skywin Modern Cat Tower, and I must say, it's a purr-fect playtime companion for my feline friends. The sleek, modern design not only enhanced the stylishness of my living space but also provided my cats with a comfortable and stimulating environment to play, scratch, and relax. One of the standout features of this cat tower is the Sisal-branded cat scratch pad. Cats simply couldn't resist the natural textures and scratching capabilities of this material, and it seemed to keep them entertained for hours. The soft felt pads also provided a cozy and safe surface for them to take naps and curl up on. While the Modern Cat Tower was easy to assemble and conveniently sits on the floor, I noticed that the sturdy design could be a bit of a challenge for some older cats to climb on. Additionally, the instructions for hand-washing the padding seemed a bit unusual, but I couldn't think of another way to keep the pads spotless. All in all, the Skywin Modern Cat Tower serves as a stylish and functional addition to any cat lover's home. Its eye-catching design and diverse features make it a unique and enriching playtime experience for cats of all ages. 🔗Chic 4-Level Adjustable Cat Tree with Scratch Post for Modern Homeshttps://preview.redd.it/abgd20knb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9b58f44f181e76cc6f7cb400a9f0640235a70640 Recently, I had the pleasure of trying the Cat Craft 00350 climbing and perch cat tree. This versatile piece of furniture was perfect for my home, easily adjusting to the ceiling for added stability. The expandable rod made it easy to assemble, and the soft, plush fabric provided a cozy space for my furry friends to rest. The velcro sisal mat was an added bonus, encouraging them to scratch and play. However, one downside was the cleaning process - the fabric needed to be hand-washed only. Despite this, the overall experience with the Cat Craft 00350 was a positive one, with my cats enjoying the different levels and perches available. The water-resistant frame added durability, and the inclusion of a scratching pad and claw post made this a well-rounded cat climbing and resting solution. 🔗Bold and Stylish Cat Tower for Kittenshttps://preview.redd.it/xfw0fkznb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=93391e39ff3d7f82cae4a5069357b92af90cfa16 I recall using this 53-inch multi-level cat tree in my own home, and it definitely lived up to the hype! . The three floors provided my curious kitty plenty of space to climb and explore. I even noticed a distinct difference in her activity levels since having this playhouse. The product is made of E1 grade particle board, which offers a stable and secure foundation for cats to rely on, and the sisal-covered scratching posts kept my kitten happy and content. The plush perch was soft and friendly, and the kitten showed great satisfaction with it. My only minor gripe was the need for more frequent cleaning, but overall, I would highly recommend this cat tree to any pet owner looking to provide their kitty an engaging and entertaining environment. 🔗4-Level Solid Wood Cat Tree Condo with Teasing Toyhttps://preview.redd.it/65effi6ob52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ba8dd896cfd713ac1a1bc17bc440a987a3fa2c17 I just got this cat tree for my furry little buddy and I must say, it's a game-changer. The 61-inch solid wood design is not only visually appealing but also sturdy, ensuring my cat's safety while he plays. The multiple tiers, condo, ladder, and hanging toys keep him active and entertained, and as a bonus, the natural sisal ropes are perfect for those scratching sessions. I appreciate how easy it was to assemble, with the included hardware and instructions. Overall, I'm beyond happy with this purchase, and my cat seems to love it just as much. 🔗Comfortable multi-level cat climbing tower with a window viewhttps://preview.redd.it/lte1lzpob52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=56a3ec13b4f9b98d057e2f49e84adb9234586726 PAWZ Road's Modern 5-Level Indoor Cat Tower has been a staple in my cat's life for months now. Not only does it come in a sleek, modern-looking design, but it also comes with a pendant that adds an extra touch of cuteness. The tower is made of a sturdy, durable wood material that has held up well over time. The scratching texture on the tower is a game-changer for my kitty - it's perfect for her scratching needs. It's not too steep nor too low, so my cat feels secure while climbing. The top groove provides a cozy spot for her to nap and feel embraced, which she absolutely loves. Despite the fact that it comes with pieces to assemble, I found it to be a breeze to put together. Plus, it saves space in my house and gives my cat a playful area to climb, nap, and investigate. It's a great alternative to large freestanding cat trees and scratching posts, and it seamlessly fits into my home's decor with its beige and white color. Cleaning the tower is simple - I use a lint roller or give it a good scrub with some soap. Overall, my cat adores her PAWZ Road Tower, and I couldn't be happier with the purchase. 🔗Premium 76-Inch Cat Tower with Sisal Scratching Posts and Multi-Level Hammocks for All Life Stageshttps://preview.redd.it/ldo47jwob52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=81f608b6978ddae57a0cb01b645788d25529e7e7 As a reviewer, I found the MSmask Cat Tree 76 Inches to be a delightful addition to my indoor cat's playtime routine. It stands tall at 76 inches, offering ample space for my kitty to climb up and down and enjoy the various levels. The multi-layer design is perfect for multi-cat households or for those with a single furry friend who enjoys exploring different levels. I particularly loved the large space at the top, where I placed the perches and the long condo. The cozy spots were a hit with my cat, who happily lounged at the highest point in the morning, basking in the warmth of the first rays of sunshine. The three types of hammocks catered to different cat sizes and preferences, ensuring that my little one found her perfect spot to curl up. One of my favorite features was the sisal scratching posts, which kept my cat's claws in check and provided a natural way for her to maintain healthy nails. With its sturdy and stable design, this cat tower not only kept my cat safe but also made it easy to assemble, providing a hassle-free experience for its users. The MSmask Cat Tree 76 Inches is a charming and functional addition to any cat lover's home, delivering on both style and practicality. 🔗Cute, Sturdy Wooden Cat Tree with Natural Branch and Comfy Percheshttps://preview.redd.it/kbfskv8pb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3fe0187e51fe4c7fc30b734d6b640b4253ea0d39 The COZIWOW cat tree was the ultimate hideaway for my feline friends. Made of natural branch and chipboard, it was a beautiful and durable addition to our home. The soft velboa on each cat perch provided a cozy spot for them to lounge on. However, the stability of the tree left something to be desired. Despite the assembly being straightforward, the product wasn't as solid as I would have hoped. One of my cats enjoyed playing with the scratching balls at the base of the tree, and the different layers of perches allowed for flexibility in their climbing. The design was attractive, but the craftsmanship wasn't of the highest quality, as I ended up having to find a larger bolt to secure the broken piece. Although the tree could be wobbly at times, my cats liked using it and it was a fun addition to our living room. However, I would recommend this product for smaller cats rather than large ones to ensure stability. Overall, the COZIWOW cat tree offered a unique and attractive spot for my cats to play and relax, but it wasn't perfect for every situation. 🔗Versatile and Safe Lulu Cat Towerhttps://preview.redd.it/yihwpgvpb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d2cfc81183edcb07f1bb8036e3fb18cc18ff2a70 As a reviewer who's been using the Naomi Home Lulu Cat Tower, let me tell you that this towering feline haven is a true five-star wonder. With two generously sized levels, it's a haven for large kitties to stretch, climb, and perch in comfort. The house-cats of the world will appreciate the thoughtful design; not only does the rugged household-grade carpet create a cozy resting spot, but the oil-less sisal rope ensures their nails stay sharp and healthy. And, let's not forget the scratching post - a vital necessity for any feline friend. There's no need to fret about assembly either. As one reviewer attested, it's a breeze to put together. However, there's a catch - while the tower can hold over 50 pounds, the top perch might not accommodate larger cats. But this minor drawback doesn't even come close to detracting from the overall satisfaction of the product. Its visual appeal, craftsmanship, and easy assembly all come together to make the Naomi Home Lulu Cat Tower a top choice for large-cat lovers everywhere. 🔗Cute Cats Love Multi-Level Play Towershttps://preview.redd.it/15tbz60qb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=72448f935cb7d3be1862904cba73046b4b84d38e For the past few weeks, I've had the pleasure of introducing our indoor cat to the Monibloom Cat Tree. As a busy family, we've always struggled to keep our feline friend entertained, especially when it comes to playtime. This cat tree has been a game-changer! I was initially drawn to its multi-level design. My cat seems to enjoy having a variety of platforms to explore, lounge, and even nap on. The cat condos are a huge hit, too. It provides a bit of privacy and a comfortable spot for our cat to retreat to, especially during the hustle and bustle of the day. She even enjoys scratching on the sisal rope posts - it's been more entertaining than I expected! What truly impresses me is the sturdy construction. Despite daily playtime, the Monibloom Cat Tree remains stable and secure, offering our cat a dependable structure to play without any worries about tipping over. The soft, plush fabric also adds a touch of luxury, making it a comfortable place for our cat to rest and relax. However, there is one area of improvement: the cat tree is a bit heavy for easy relocation. Other than that, we're thoroughly enjoying our new furry companion's playtime companion. The Monibloom Cat Tree is a must-have for any indoor cat owner looking to provide endless fun and entertainment. 🔗Comfortable Cat Tree with Scratching Post and Jump Platformhttps://preview.redd.it/eam67ylqb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1797a4045f93f0fd0e3c82db8327fc50182132c4 Imagine walking into your living room and seeing a little kitty kingdom sitting pretty in the corner. This is no ordinary kingdom, but rather a cute little feline kingdom housed in a vibrant fish-nap colored cat tower. The first thing that caught my eye was its stylish design that complemented my home's décor, instead of sticking out like a sore thumb. Once assembled, I was impressed by the sturdy structure that made it look stable, making my fuzzy friend feel safe and secure as they went about their playful business. The spacious platform provided a comfortable spot for my kitten to gaze far and wide, looking like a little king or queen surveying their territory from above. The integrated sisal scratching post was a hit, providing a natural and safe way for my kitty to scratch away without harming my furniture. The faux fur used in the cat tower was exceptionally soft and comfortable, ensuring they had a cozy place to rest, sleep, and unwind. If there was one downside, it would be the absence of detailed instructions included with the package. However, I managed to put it together with the help of some online guidance and tools included fortunately. Overall, this fish-nap colored cat tower is an excellent investment for any cat lover, providing a fun, safe, and comfortable space for their feline friends. 🔗Elevated Cat Tree with Adjustable Height and Scratching Posthttps://preview.redd.it/7j1ndxtqb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d57e04cbd3ce988e1bd6e5c5aa72672e2cb480e3 As a cat owner, I was drawn to the Cat Craft 00350 Unisex 4-Level Carpeted, Adjustable Floor to Ceiling Climbing & Perch Cat Tree for its sleek design and versatility. With an expandable rod that secures the tree to the ceiling for added stability, reaching a height of 89.76 inches, it was a perfect fit for my living space. The tree's features were the highlights of my experience, from the Velcro sisal mat that increased interest and allowed for scratching, to the soft, plush fabric that provided a cozy resting spot for my furry friend. The built-in scratching post and perch were a bonus, adding variety to the tree's design. One thing that stood out was the easy-to-clean fabric, making it a hassle-free addition to my home. The easy-to-follow instructions and durable, furniture-style design were pluses for modern cat parents like myself. However, the product's overall weight made assembly a bit challenging, but once set up, it provided a stable and safe climbing experience for my cat. The limited 60-day warranty was also a bit disappointing, but overall, the Cat Craft 00350 Unisex Cat Tree exceeded my expectations in terms of functionality and style. 🔗Adorable Multi-Level Cat Furniture Towerhttps://preview.redd.it/6llykq8rb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=00e5fa135c39517a130a8a31d8b9829c5b869fe7 I recently discovered the Bestpet 33-inch Cat Tree, and I must say, it's been a delightful addition to my indoor cat's life. The cat tower comes with complete instructions and tools, making it a breeze to assemble this little abode. My cat seems to love it, spending hours lounging around and even using the scratching posts. However, there were a few minor drawbacks. Firstly, the cat tree is quite small, which might not be ideal for larger cats. Secondly, the instructions, although provided, were not very clear or helpful. But overall, it's a cute and functional cat tower for smaller cats or kittens. 🔗Luxury Multi-Level Cat Tree for Large Catshttps://preview.redd.it/r098nwprb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6bc939fc7787c863db17c114f90ba35790f09e8d Meet IMUsee, a multi-level cat tower that's perfect for large cats. This 68-inch tower is designed to be both functional and safe for your furry friend. With its sturdy construction made of CARB-certified P2-grade particle board and coiled natural sisal posts, you can rest assured that this cat tree will stand firm and won't tip over. The tower is perfect for a group of cats, providing ample space for them to play and explore. The comfortable condos, plush perches, and sisal rope scratching posts are sure to be a hit with your kitty. Plus, the easy assembly process makes this cat tower a winner for both you and your feline friend. 🔗Prestige Cat Trees Castle - Spacious, Stylish, and Durable Cat Tree Towerhttps://preview.redd.it/k50zga0sb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cfc9c61140fe6acbfb0fb3933b1b2be0497b34bc The Prestige Cat Trees Castle is a modern and functional cat tree designed for large cats with enough space for some furry friends. It's quite roomy, featuring seven staggered perches and multiple cat beds, making it perfect for cats of all sizes. The base is made of high-quality wood, providing stability and sturdiness, while the sisal rope and carpeted posts make it an attractive and practical scratching post. Assembling this cat tree is a breeze, even for those without a toolbox. It comes mostly assembled with hardware already attached, making it a dream to put together. Its easy assembly is definitely a plus, especially for those with limited time or patience. Despite being a sturdy and well-constructed cat tower, some parts of the cat tree do feel a little lightweight. But overall, it holds up nicely, ensuring your feline friend can play, sleep, and scratch without any worries. One drawback, however, is the range of carpet colors and textures, which may not appeal to everyone. But if you can overlook this, the Prestige Cat Trees Castle is an excellent addition to your cat's playtime arsenal, providing all the comfort and functionality a large cat could want. Buyer's GuideCute Cat Towers are vertical multi-level habitats designed specifically for felines. These structures provide a stimulating environment for your feline friend, promoting their physical and mental well-being. They offer a unique way to keep your cat engaged and entertained while also providing them with a comfortable and cozy space to rest. In this buyer's guide, we'll discuss the important features, considerations, and advice to help you choose the perfect Cute Cat Tower for your beloved pet.Size and Space Considerationshttps://preview.redd.it/dzlzwa9ub52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ebda5e7b3b67d09bfef9142553255b634d01e1ce When selecting a Cute Cat Tower, consider the size of the space you have available and the size of your cat. The tower should be large enough for your cat to comfortably move around and between levels without feeling cramped. Make sure it is tall enough for your cat to jump between platforms or shelves, and ensure that it has enough space to accommodate any additional features like scratching posts or hammocks. Materials and DurabilityCute Cat Towers come in various materials, including wood, plastic, and natural fibers. Wooden towers are sturdy and durable, but they may require regular maintenance to prevent warping or damage caused by chewing or scratching. Plastic and natural fiber towers, on the other hand, are lightweight and easy to maintain but may not be as sturdy as wooden towers. Choose a material that suits your pet's needs and your preferences for ease of cleaning and maintenance.Design and FeaturesCute Cat Towers come in a wide range of designs and features. Some popular designs include towers with multiple levels, hidden compartments, and cozy nooks. Look for features that will encourage your cat to engage with the tower, such as scratching posts, hammocks, and dangling toys. Consider the overall aesthetic of the tower and how it will complement your home decor. Additionally, ensure that the tower is easy to assemble and disassemble for relocation or storage purposes. https://preview.redd.it/gpscyllub52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4a23e553cd9b7d339ea999d0c877678ed8e5e720 Maintenance and CleaningRegular maintenance and cleaning are essential for keeping your Cute Cat Tower in good condition and providing a safe and clean environment for your cat. Choose materials that are easy to clean and durable, such as natural fibers or plastic. Make sure to monitor your cat's behavior and address any chewing or scratching issues promptly. Regularly inspect the tower for any signs of wear and tear and replace parts as needed.Safety ConsiderationsSafety is a top priority when selecting a Cute Cat Tower. Choose a tower that has securely fastened shelves and platforms with non-slip surfaces to prevent accidents and falls. Make sure that there are no sharp edges or protruding parts that could harm your cat. Additionally, ensure that any hanging toys or dangling accessories are securely attached and do not pose a choking hazard.Selecting the perfect Cute Cat Tower for your furry friend involves considering various factors, including size, materials, design, and safety. By taking the time to research and choose the right tower, you can create a stimulating and engaging environment for your cat, promoting their overall well-being and happiness. So go ahead, pick the purr-fect Cute Cat Tower that suits your cat and your home! FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/ew1tez7vb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0f00276ffa77cc68d6b2cc931df46215188860e5 What are Cute Cat Towers?Cute Cat Towers are stylish and functional cat furniture designed for cats to climb, jump, and play. They come in various shapes, sizes, and designs, making them a great addition to any home.Why should I choose a Cute Cat Tower over other cat furniture options?Cute Cat Towers are not only visually appealing but also provide multiple benefits for your cat. They offer a stimulating environment for your cat to play, exercise, and feel secure. Additionally, they help reduce behavioral issues, such as scratching furniture or jumping on countertops.https://preview.redd.it/e5xzgchvb52d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f46f2401899da82c07c3fcaa2a778997be0ab004 Are there different types of Cute Cat Towers?Yes, there are various types of Cute Cat Towers. Some popular designs include:
What materials are these Cute Cat Towers made of?Cute Cat Towers are typically made of high-quality materials, such as:
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2024.05.23 11:36 truecrisis I feel like there is so much misinformation about post-op Yeson on Reddit
I had my consult with Yeson yesterday, and my surgery today. I have my followup exam and botox tomorrow.
Now, I'm sure that Yeson has improved their communication skills and also their recommendations over the last 10 years of their practice, but so much information on Reddit is counter to what they have told me. Now, I'm aware a lot of this might be different from patient to patient. But at least for those of us with tremors, a lot of the info I found here was incorrect....
How do we fix this overcorrection? Botox stops the tremors (like diazepam or something) and allows our brain to learn how to produce sound without needing to overcorrect. The MOST IMPORTANT THING is to SPEAK OFTEN while under the effects of botox. This will help the brain to adjust to a vocal fold that doesn't have tremors. This is why those of us with lifelong tremors need a second or third dose of botox, so that we can produce nice clean sounds without the shaking-hand thing going on. If we are vocal-underdoers, like me, its doubly important to make sure to exercise our voice while under the effects of botox. Dr Kim said that in my case, the tremors were caused by scar tissue in the muscle on one side of my throat, that prevented that side from vibrating in sync with the opposite side. He made an incision on that side to release the tension and I should no longer have problems there.
Also, it is my personal belief that those of you who have had this surgery, and had subpar results will likely see benefit from another session of botox and also skype therapy sessions with Yeson. Please reach out to your coordinator!!
Dr Kim said, for best results, it's critical for 2 months of silence, and while 1 or two words are ok, really do not speak even after the first month.
Dr Kim also said, it's generally going to start low, but then if one follows post-op instructions properly, it will exponentially get better as the brain adapts and moves away from old phonetic patterns.
I'll update this post with anything I remember, and any other information I'm told. But I hope this is useful for those searching for threads related to "Yeson" in the future.
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Now, I'm sure that Yeson has improved their communication skills and also their recommendations over the last 10 years of their practice, but so much information on Reddit is counter to what they have told me. Now, I'm aware a lot of this might be different from patient to patient. But at least for those of us with tremors, a lot of the info I found here was incorrect....
1) Botox
Yeah botox is used to prevent some speaking during recovery, but actually its PRIMARILY used to prevent vocal tremors. What are vocal tremors? Dr Kim put out his hand and showed a slight shake. He said, "When you have tremors, the only way the brain knows how to correct it, is to use A LOT of power." and he clenched his hand hard. So those of us with tremors and get fatigued easily during male baseline everyday speaking or even training, are using WAY TOO MUCH POWER. And it causes, me at least, to over correct with too much power. When we overcorrect with too much power, our brain drops our pitch naturally because that is easier to produce the sound. This is how many (not all) people who train to a higher pitch without surgery are actively damaging their vocal chords.How do we fix this overcorrection? Botox stops the tremors (like diazepam or something) and allows our brain to learn how to produce sound without needing to overcorrect. The MOST IMPORTANT THING is to SPEAK OFTEN while under the effects of botox. This will help the brain to adjust to a vocal fold that doesn't have tremors. This is why those of us with lifelong tremors need a second or third dose of botox, so that we can produce nice clean sounds without the shaking-hand thing going on. If we are vocal-underdoers, like me, its doubly important to make sure to exercise our voice while under the effects of botox. Dr Kim said that in my case, the tremors were caused by scar tissue in the muscle on one side of my throat, that prevented that side from vibrating in sync with the opposite side. He made an incision on that side to release the tension and I should no longer have problems there.
Also, it is my personal belief that those of you who have had this surgery, and had subpar results will likely see benefit from another session of botox and also skype therapy sessions with Yeson. Please reach out to your coordinator!!
2) Post recovery strategy
Many people on here have said "Dont try to speak in a high pitched voice, just speak normally in your baseline voice." And this is contrary to the advice I was given by staff. They said to speak in my target voice, but still within a comfortable range. Like make sure to adjust for resonance, and try to train your brain to a "new normal." If we just target our baseline voice, our brain will try to use old phonetic patterns, and that is entirely against the purpose of the long rest period. The long rest period and botox is to assist us to learn new habits, and we need to start that right out of the gate. We need to learn to use the pitch that we want, without tremors and with a new vocal instrument. Its ALL to break away from old habits.3) Voice starting low, or starting high then dropping over time
This is related to everything above. It IS NOT NECESSARILY ABOUT transvoicelessons.com voice training after being granted new vocal chords. Yes, those who haven't done any voice training at all and know nothing about resonance are going to have a bad time. But likewise, those who have trained really hard to have a passing voice then had this surgery are ALSO going to have a bad time because they have to unlearn everything they know about a nice voice. The goal here is to speak NATURALLY and not with over compensating power, and the only way to do that is lots of practice while not under the influence of tremors. After this surgery the goal is to reprogram the brain and get away from all the old habits we learned, because if we do that, we achieve natural feminization. If we continue to fight the tremors and continue to over-correct, our voice will inevitably drop back to the pre-op sounds we were making.Dr Kim said, for best results, it's critical for 2 months of silence, and while 1 or two words are ok, really do not speak even after the first month.
Dr Kim also said, it's generally going to start low, but then if one follows post-op instructions properly, it will exponentially get better as the brain adapts and moves away from old phonetic patterns.
I'll update this post with anything I remember, and any other information I'm told. But I hope this is useful for those searching for threads related to "Yeson" in the future.
2024.05.23 11:35 MyDogOdin Naki Dental Studio changing hands...and some weirdness
I've been a longtime patient of Dr. Naki, and received great care at his dental office, but a few things have happened in recent years that make me go "hmmm".... I received a letter recently saying that he has sold the practice to a new dentist and is moving to NC for family reasons.
History: First, he owned Babcock Dental Studio by the Co-op (recently razed to make way for a large building). Dr. Ashley Boettger was the main dentist there, and I saw her exactly once before receiving a letter (on Naki letterhead) that said she was no longer practicing at that location and the letter author was "not at liberty to say" where she had gone. (According to the interwebs, she is now practicing in Oklahoma.) My appointment late last year at Naki Dental was cancelled due to one of the longtime hygienists, and my favorite, M, leaving the practice- suddenly and unexpectedly according to Naki's front desk.
Sort of a soap opera. Is anyone else a patient, wondering WTH?
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History: First, he owned Babcock Dental Studio by the Co-op (recently razed to make way for a large building). Dr. Ashley Boettger was the main dentist there, and I saw her exactly once before receiving a letter (on Naki letterhead) that said she was no longer practicing at that location and the letter author was "not at liberty to say" where she had gone. (According to the interwebs, she is now practicing in Oklahoma.) My appointment late last year at Naki Dental was cancelled due to one of the longtime hygienists, and my favorite, M, leaving the practice- suddenly and unexpectedly according to Naki's front desk.
Sort of a soap opera. Is anyone else a patient, wondering WTH?
2024.05.23 11:35 Mrtvejmozek The business epic / ALTCOMIX
 | Hi, submitted by Mrtvejmozek to altcomix [link] [comments] I am an artist from Czech Republic, currently working on a big comic saga "the suitcase epic". I am sending some of the drawings. There is no text directly in them, because the text is gonna be on separate pages.. something like a graphic novel/book with texts and drawings. The whole thing is a bit chaotic. The story revolves around a suitcase that appears in the heart of a city and everyone wants to get it. Its their sole purpose, to obtain the suitcase. Main protagonists are so called businessmen. They chainsmoke, drive old cars, wear shit-fitting suits, carry revolvers, have fried brains, sweat and most importantly kill each other. Corporations are becoming something more than just a profit making machines, they are labyrinths of lost souls, living organisms that feed on people. The stock market is regaining its consciousness and many people believe there has been a second coming of christ, in the form of a stock market. Orthodox overlord from Byzantium comes from a wormhole to gain the power over the stock market and thus control the universe Cheap looking used car salesman gets tangled up in the mess. He is the only one who can destroy the machinery. Someone is calling him on the phone, mysterious voice, which gives him instructions. He has to destroy the stockmarket before the powers from outside get hold of it, before they can control it. To know the secrets of a finance and flows of money, you have to get deep into KABALA and the book of changes I ching. The most powerful bussinesman are the ones who have their brains infested with mystical teachings and selfinduced schizophrenia. Once we die, we are devoured by the cosmic worm. Detective Hutch from Nevada is living peaceful life in a small city in the middle of the desert. He is a retired veteran. Theres been a slaughter on the parking lot, just outside the city. Hitman Frank killed 6 people, who were apparently making some kind of a deal. Frank has a severed head in a plastic bag next to him. He talks with it. He sits in a old ford and drives through the desert. He is slowly losing his mind. He drinks only whisky. His eyes are bleeding from the heat. His ears are ringing. The god of a desert leads him into the void. The appearnce of the suitcase starts positive feedback loop of acceleration and violence. The whole world spirals into selfdestruction. Everyone slowly goes schyzo mode. There is "outside", realm of cosmic horror and its coming to invade our reality.The Sun is frying everyone into a human mush. Muscle man turns into baroque muscle monster and rips everyone apart. Mr Funk, avid listener of soul music, works as a hitman, wears black coat and has two colt single action revolvers. There are no real reasons, only clear goals and its consequences. Thanks! :) I hope you like it. If you have any questions or feedback, I will be happy to answer anything. I wanted to ask fey questions: Where would you recommend me publishing my work? Starting kickstarter, amazon or some publishers? Do you know someone interested in experimental comix, I could send them my pdf of the book. I unfortunately dont know much about the US/western altcomix scene. Some samples from the comix: DATABASE ADMINISTRATOR I am working as a database administrator in a multi billion company running the betting business on a stock market. I normally wake up at 6am. I make myself some coffee and scrambled eggs. I read the morning newspaper and then, at 7:30, I head out. It takes me 20 mins to get to the job. I am locked in the server room below the ground with a pack of cheap cigarettes and some unidentifiable colorless liquor. It tastes like nothing, good to quench the thirst. There is no light, only the illumination from the monitors. I can feel my eyes slowly bleeding from the source code. I hear them, the machines and their stomachs growling. Five monitors surround me like an executioner squad. Waiting to shoot me. Millions of digits are flashing on the screens and then suddenly disappearing in the chasm of the stock market. Gore oozing from its walls. The putrid smelling pit. This is the violence of market in its purest form visualized before my eyes and I am watching it like some fucking sesame street. The lighter clicks and I can finally smoke. Fortunately I don't really care.. The ember burns the table, leaving black spots. I go through a pack and two bottles. My lungs are in pain. I smoke more. Barely conscious I drown two more. At the end of my shift I walk to the elevator. Hardly maintaining balance. Stumbling like a sack of shit I crash into the elevator wall. Mash some buttons and wait. It gets me to the ground level. Doors open. I walk out. Smiling and keeping my cool. It's fine, no one gives a shit. No one notices you. You are just another shadow etched into the stone. I call a taxi and try not to vomit. There are many potholes. The driver helps me out and I navigate myself to the apartment. I lie on the couch and order pizza… I breathe in the tar and sip the liquor. I like my job. I like the scenery. I go through the cigarette in one go. All the businessmen work above in the skyscraper. Walking in their suits, cups of coffee and stacks of papers in their hands. Luxurious watches shining in artificial light. Smoking cigarettes and throwing the buds on the carpet. Ceaselessly roaming through the corporation. Without a clear task. Reaching doom. Generating profit. There is no ghost operating the system behind the curtains. Just a void. The void in all of us is the real ghost. ROBERT Robert T. Lion is standing in the bathroom with a hammer. His phone rings. Whispering. Blood on the ceiling. It's mumbling something. Robert turns around. “Fuck, hes still breathing” Goes for the hammer “nnonoo, noot tdde hamemer” Hammer does its job. Robert has a contract. Kill a man and get out. Simple task and a lot of money. He works as a private hitman. His company: Robert T lion, everyday cleaning. Robert fucked the job. The phone interrupted him and he lost concentration. Someone walks in. He pulls his gun. Robert pulls faster. Bang resonates through the apartment. Head blown to pieces. Room covered in human mush. Robert is smoking and leaning on the sink. He is thinking about his next move. “Well, I gotta do it. The dirty way” He throws the cigarette on the corpse and it sizzles in the brain residue. Takes his revolver and goes out of the bathroom and starts killing He forces his way to the living room. After taking 20 of them out, the whole building swarms the apartment. It's him vs hundreds. He is in the living room. Fifty, sixty, eighty five. a lot of them. They are waiting for his turn. He lights another cigarette. He is empty. Throws the revolver on the ground. His body is bruised and cut up. His wounds are bleeding crazy bad. Smoking, he enjoys the calm before the storm. “You really fucked up. You thought you would kill our boss in the bathroom and then run away like a fucking rat?” He doesn't respond. No need to talk to them. Saves energy. Knows they will need to do some real negotiating in hell. He picks up the chainsaw in the closet. Runs it. Clean and shiny. He carves his way out. BOB He wakes up in an empty room. Sudden headache makes him feel dizzy. Closes his eyes and waits it out. He searches his pockets. Lighter and a pack of cigarettes in a cellophane. He looks at them. Chunghwa, a Chinese brand. Opens the pack and puts one in his mouth. Feels great. Lights it. The pain is gone. Nothing comes to his mind. He has severe amnesia. It's raining outside and the phone starts ringing. He looks at the table and picks it up. Listening to the voice on the line, he hears the static noise in the background. “You have to destroy the file x-20548s. It's located in the drawer. Take it and go straight across the corridor. There is an elevator. Push the button and ride to the lowest floor of the parking garage and find room R4. There will be a shredder, gasoline,empty bottle and rags. Shred the file and throw it to the bin outside the room. Make a molotov. Burn the room R4 and the bin. There is a backdoor exit, you can use to get out. Don't trust Lawrence, he is going to tell you to call Jack. Don't trust Jack. Don't trust any of them. Discard the file immediately. The boss has to remain clueless. This is not a drill. The fate of our corporation lies on your back. You have one hour. The time starts now. Go” He picks up the file from the drawer. He has an urge to open it, but something makes him stop. Database administrator going to work Bob waking up in a room Bob calling Bob smoking cigarette Somethings behind him Robert T lion in a bathroom when someone walks in and his operations is fucked Detective Rags riding in North dakota to crime scene The DAO killer and his victim If you have read everything, thank you so much for your time! :)) |
2024.05.23 11:33 17171717_17 Are characters in movies/TV series allowed to be more direct and break (social) rules without repercussions?
It seems to me, that it isn't unusual that there are characters that point out things without too much consideration for how they come across, make snarky comments and don't beat around the bush as much as it is usually expected in real life. And often they are applauded (by the viewer) and rewarded (by the outcome within the story) for that.
It's something I've thought about for a while know. Like even if they ruffle some feathers in the beginning and get sometimes negative reactions from other characters, often they win most of them over after a while and are accepted and even valued. They break a lot of social rules and even other, more severe rules and because they get good results in the end, it's accepted or they at least don't get ostracised. Or if they really do screw up, they get second chances.
They are often being applauded for speaking their mind and not cowering before authority and standing up for their values and principles. Now I wonder why a lot of people seem to celebrate such characters and the display of these traits, when in real life it would most likely not be accepted like this and especially autistic people are criticised quite harshly if they act in this manner.
It's just something I thought about because I sometimes get the impulse to look for information on how social interactions work in how it is portrayed in movies and TV series but then I think it is just fiction anyway. But on the other hand there has to be something that is portrayed correctly otherwise no one could relate to stuff like this, right? Or is most of what's shown more like a sort of wish fulfilment and people wanting to imagine they could act more unbothered and less restricted? Those characters also are often quite charismatic so I guess that is also a reason for why they get away with acting like this on a regular basis.
What is your impression/thoughts on this? To me it seems that in general conversations in movies and shows do often appear to be more direct and less sugarcoated than in real life (apart from particular situations where it seems to be a plot device for characters to be more vague and is often used to create tension and drama and even misunderstandings and to move the story in a specific direction).
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It's something I've thought about for a while know. Like even if they ruffle some feathers in the beginning and get sometimes negative reactions from other characters, often they win most of them over after a while and are accepted and even valued. They break a lot of social rules and even other, more severe rules and because they get good results in the end, it's accepted or they at least don't get ostracised. Or if they really do screw up, they get second chances.
They are often being applauded for speaking their mind and not cowering before authority and standing up for their values and principles. Now I wonder why a lot of people seem to celebrate such characters and the display of these traits, when in real life it would most likely not be accepted like this and especially autistic people are criticised quite harshly if they act in this manner.
It's just something I thought about because I sometimes get the impulse to look for information on how social interactions work in how it is portrayed in movies and TV series but then I think it is just fiction anyway. But on the other hand there has to be something that is portrayed correctly otherwise no one could relate to stuff like this, right? Or is most of what's shown more like a sort of wish fulfilment and people wanting to imagine they could act more unbothered and less restricted? Those characters also are often quite charismatic so I guess that is also a reason for why they get away with acting like this on a regular basis.
What is your impression/thoughts on this? To me it seems that in general conversations in movies and shows do often appear to be more direct and less sugarcoated than in real life (apart from particular situations where it seems to be a plot device for characters to be more vague and is often used to create tension and drama and even misunderstandings and to move the story in a specific direction).