Recently received a TJO for a non-supervisory GS 15 Step 5 in the DoD world (DC area) but would require reporting to the office 80% of the time. I am currently in the DHS world at a non-supervisory GS14 but work 80% from home (so I round be switching my telework schedule).
Thus, I am conflicted with giving up my telework and being available for my children (3 kids). Has anyone in the last couple of years gone back full time to the office for a promotion? Was it worth it? Did you regret losing the telework? For me commuting 4 days a week (each week) will result in 7 extra hours spent commuting (per week) Thoughts?
Again I have seen the advice of just accepting the TJO and then making the final choice once the FJO is received.
Unfortunately job description stated telework was a potential but the potential was only 1 day per week and this was glossed over during the interview and I didn’t want to disqualify myself for pressing too hard about telework before being selected. The 1 day per week was only stated once the TJO was received.
Thank you for any advice!!!

Hi all! I recently moved medical writing agencies after being with my original agency for ~3 years. I was being underpaid and ngl, money was my main motivator for leaving.
I started with this new agency a few months ago for around a 25% pay raise, but I'm fearing I made a grave mistake. Within getting into too much detail and risking doxxing myself and this agency, just know that it has been utter chaos. Between layoffs impacting my team directly (I haven't had a manager since midway through my first month) and the complete lack of any standardized processes for deliverables, it has been a nightmare. Mind you, during the interview process, I was introduced to and interviewed with a completely different team that more closely fit my experience and interests. When I started, I was placed on a completely different team, so I'm still salty about that as well.
I'm reaching out to see if anyone has experienced something like this, specifically in this industry. What did you do? I really want to find a different job, as this one is causing extreme mental anguish and feels like a certain dead end. Thank you for reading and any thoughts are appreciated.

Hi everyone!
I have the following situation and wanted to ask if there are any recommendations or advice to ensure the fiance visa application is a success.
My partner and I are both Europeans and both currently living in Spain and are employed by Spanish companies (my-self but also combined with my partner we are both covering the financial requirement with the Spanish salary). I have the settled status and will sponsor my partner. We have prepared the paperwork to start the application but there are a couple of things we are feeling unsure about how to manage. Our plan is to formally relocate to the UK once my partner has the FLR Visa confirmed, and upon my partner also getting employment in the UK.
My settled status was acquired while living in Spain due to extraordinary circumstances. I am not yet living in the UK (I have the right to enter and indefinite leave) but I have interviews and may in fact move with my current employer in their UK office (the latter is more likely but I dont have yet a formal answer); We are unsure if the fact that I am not based in the UK will be an issue because the Immigration Rules do say something about the sponsor being based in the UK at the time of the application, but I am sure there are more exceptions out there. Let me know how you may have tackled this or for any advice you can share.
Lastly, does anyone actually have the ceremony of the civil partnership booked ahead of submitting the fiance visa? We feel uncomfortable making arrangements for the ceremony and inviting people without having the outcome of the fiance via, also since for the civil partnership we would need to make arrangements to live with family in the UK for two weeks (plus book flights to the UK) to prove the period ahead of giving the formal intent for the civil partnership to the City Council we intent to do our ceremony?
Thanks a million for reading this and for any advice you may have.

Hello po mga docs, anyone here may alam about update po for the second batch interview sa MSU COM GSC? And for those sa naka tapos napo ng interview, ano po yung mga usually tinatanong nila? Thank you po sa sasagot.

hi! I'm an incoming freshman and i just want to ask if meron po ba here na nakatanggap ng scholarship from Ralph Tulfo and how does it work po? like sa grades lang po ba talaga sila mag b-base or may interview pa or something? And if u could tell me rin po kung kumusta yung benefits from the scholarship. Thank you!

So kind of funny story. I interviewed with a family a few days ago and they really liked me so I'll be meeting them this weekend for a PT nanny position. After our phone call I decided to internet stalk to learn more about them (because don't we all?) LOL- Anyway, I found out the mom works at the same exact hospital as my current MB! They're both resident students but diffrent specialties. I know this isn't an issue at all I just find it so funny if they end up actually knowing eachother and are friends! Has this ever happened to anyone? I'm not going to mention anything to anyone but when we meet, I'm going to ask "Where do you work" and once she tells me, then I'll go from there and give her the "Ohh, my MB works there too!" Lol I feel like I should say something before she calls her for a reference or should I not? Lol NP-How would you feel about having the same nanny as your co worker? Would this be a "No thanks" for you?

Hey guys! Recently I felt kinda stuck listening to the same songs over and over again with the Spotify recommendation feature, it can be good sometimes but often I feel stuck in the algorithm bubble. Also I felt like it really lacks the human connection that i always crave to find through music, I've always wanted to build genuine connections with people who share similar music taste as me!
So after I graduated college a while ago, i tried to solve these problems through creating an app called Dila!
Here's the link to the app! Dila: Connect Through Music
this is how a profile looks like! (profile pics will only show after matching)
So every day you get shown 3 profiles (refresh time is different for each timezone) and each profile consist of

• basic information (name, age, location)
• a piece of lyrics which represents them
• a carefully curated mixtape (5 songs playlist) , you get to play others' mixtape directly through Spotify or Apple Music within a click!
• if you both liked each others mixtape you get to further interact and unlock more information of others!(photos and bio)

I released this app a while ago and have been using it religiously myself, the feeling of discovering music and bonding over it just brings so much joy and warmth to me, and I have personally made so many genuine connections through the app!
I've been solo developing this app for a while after college, and don't really have the resource to promote this app. So if you like this app feel free to share it to your friends or on platforms like Twitter or IG. Thank you guys so much!
https://preview.redd.it/0t4yw8y88r4d1.png?width=1242&format=png&auto=webp&s=0d4510b4c8819c4182a910f212e0d2499de1f1df
also feel free to give us suggestions through our discord! https://discord.com/invite/QSSNVjE7bZ

Hi cuhk!
I’m planning to go on exchange with a friend to CUHK next year from January to May. Our academic years start in February to November, so I will be in my third & final year next year.
It’s been a while since our universities (in New Zealand) have sent students to exchange to CUHK, so I was just wondering some stuff!

1. Which colleges are the best to pick? And most importantly, which have good bathrooms!!
   
2. Do exchange students go through interviews to enter a college? (Like domestic & international students)
   
3. I’ve seen on some hall tour videos where usually the laundry rooms they show have 2-3 washers & 2-3 dryers. Is this per floor or the whole hall?
   
4. Anyone here been an exchange student/local student that has shared rooms with exchange students? How was it?
   
5. I’ve seen that a lot of canteens are usually closed on Sundays. Does this mean a lot of students usually go home for the weekends?
   
6. Do exchange students have to do general education courses? If so, would I be doing “upper-year courses” because I’d be in my final year of my studies, or first-year courses because it’d be my first year at that college?
   
7. How do I deal with bedding? Are there any hand-me-down systems where leaving students donate their beddings once they graduate?
   

Thank you so much for reading this post & answering my questions!
I’m posting this on my phone at 1AM so I hope the formatting is ok, I’ll probably not respond to any comments for another 10 hours.
I’m sure I’ll probably have many more questions as I go along finding out more about CUHK. So if I could dm anyone in the future that would be greatly appreciated!

Hi guys, an online video interview invitation was sent to me for the MCMM. can someone share me their experiences with this interview? thank you in advance, i could not find much info online.

Congratulations to everyone who got accepted for this cycle! I got pretty far into the interview process for one school but unfortunately did not get in. For those of you who did, you guys mind dropping some knowledge on your applications/interview that seemed to make you competitive and what you think gave you the extra edge to get accepted? Thanks!

Hi everyone!
I have the following situation and wanted to ask if there are any recommendations or advice to ensure the fiance visa application is a success.
My partner and I are both Europeans and both currently living in Spain and are employed by Spanish companies (my-self but also combined with my partner we are both covering the financial requirement with the Spanish salary). I have the settled status and will sponsor my partner. We have prepared the paperwork to start the application but there are a couple of things we are feeling unsure about how to manage. Our plan is to formally relocate to the UK once my partner has the FLR Visa confirmed, and upon my partner also getting employment in the UK.
My settled status was acquired while living in Spain due to extraordinary circumstances. I am not yet living in the UK (I have the right to enter and indefinite leave) but I have interviews and may in fact move with my current employer in their UK office (the latter is more likely but I dont have yet a formal answer); We are unsure if the fact that I am not based in the UK will be an issue because the Immigration Rules do say something about the sponsor being based in the UK at the time of the application, but I am sure there are more exceptions out there. Let me know how you may have tackled this or for any advice you can share.
Lastly, does anyone actually have the ceremony of the civil partnership booked ahead of submitting the fiance visa? We feel uncomfortable making arrangements for the ceremony and inviting people without having the outcome of the fiance via, also since for the civil partnership we would need to make arrangements to live with family in the UK for two weeks (plus book flights to the UK) to prove the period ahead of giving the formal intent for the civil partnership to the City Council we intent to do our ceremony?
Thanks a million for reading this and for any advice you may have.

Applied - 3/4 Completed Assessments - 3/7 Application Closed - 3/8 Referred - 3/26 Email to schedule interview - 4/5 Interview - 4/19 TJO - 5/1 Fingerprints - walk-in 5/14 Background/eApp received - 5/20 Background/eApp submitted - 5/23 FJO! - 6/4 EOD - 7/15!
Posting this for any future recent grad applicants with that particular anxiety between receiving the TJO and FJO, second guessing themselves and wondering if they missed anything, while checking their email every 5 mins.
I’ve learned so much and found a sense of comfort in this sub so thank you!

Applied - 3/4 Completed Assessments - 3/7 Application Closed - 3/8 Referred - 3/26 Email to schedule interview - 4/5 Interview - 4/19 TJO - 5/1 Fingerprints - walk-in 5/14 Background/eApp received - 5/20 Background/eApp submitted - 5/23 FJO! - 6/4 EOD - 7/15!
Posting this for any future recent grad applicants with that particular anxiety between receiving the TJO and FJO, second guessing themselves and wondering if they missed anything, while checking their email every 5 mins.
I’ve learned so much and found a sense of comfort in this sub so thank you!

AITAH for not wanting to invite my sister to my wedding?
Hello Charlotte! Your videos have taught me so much on what not to do for my wedding, that I thought I’d never be here asking this 😂 #PotatoSquad
So, For some context, I (29F) will be marrying my FH (32M) in October. We have sent out invitations and started seating charts and all the fun things. While reviewing seating charts with my moms (I have 2) my bio mom asked where my sister would be seated. I made the comment that I chose not to invite her. My mom did not take that well and we quickly left to go home. It’s important to note here that my other mom (her fiancée is neutral but supportive, which I appreciate)
Some backstory on myself sister and me. We are about 10 years apart with her being older. She has 4 children: 19M, 16M, 13F, and 11M. I currently and for the past 4+ years have been fully raising her 13F, while my mother raises her younger two boys. The oldest is moved out but still relys on my mom for financial support as he refuses to work.
Anyways, I was 10 when my sister had her first child, and we never built a close bond. She also has a long history with drugs and terrible men, that only recently (maybe 6 months-9months) seems to be stopped or slowed. She does not contribute to her kids in any way, and we don’t communicate at all unless it is about her getting permission to do something with the 13F child, IE take her out of school early.
There is a ton more could write, but it is also important to note that my FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves.
Anyways! So I had a sit down with my mother and she expressed her disapproval with my decision and had called several people to discuss my “terrible decision” and how she should handle it. She even insinuated that if I didn’t invite both my sister and her oldest (he has burned his own bridges with my and my FH for the past few years)
After many tears, I relented as the stress was causing problems with my health(I have a mild heart condition that can be debilitating if not managed properly and low stress levels)
I am not asking for advice on what to do/say to my mother, I chose not to push so hard that I ruin the relationship I have with my moms. I simply want to know if I am the asshole for not wanting my sister at my wedding?
Thank you in advance, and I apologize if I don’t respond much. I’m so busy it’s crazy. We are also in the middle of building our own house at the same time 😵‍💫🙃 🥔

Hi everybody, looking for some experiences/stories from non-trad applicants and matriculants here.
For context, just had my second (but really, my first) cycle where I received 2 interviews, had 1 R and 1 WL. My stats are 3.89 cGPA (3.95+ for 2 and 3Y), 518 (128 CARS), respectable ECs but nothing crazy). Will be applying to all eligible schools in Canada.
I prepared for these interviews to the best of my ability and the interview itself felt ok, but at the same time, I know there were some areas I could have improved in. I'm finishing up a thesis-based MSc this summer, and feel like I'm at a crossroads with what to do. I've heard from a lot of people that if you can get an interview, you can get in, and I firmly believe that to be true.
However, I feel as though I want to move forward with my life: get a job and do other adulting stuff, while I wait for another interview invite to come around. To me, It seems like as the years go on, the odds are stacked less in my (and a lot of people's) favour. Doesn't help that Queens is now a lottery, and I'm from the GTA (not Peel region) so literally no preference anywhere! There is no guarentee whatsoever that I will get even 1 interview next year and make it in, despite my best efforts.
On the flip side, part of me also wants to not work, travel, and volunteer. Perhaps volunteer in rural Canada, internationally, or just backpack across Europe lol. I've been grinding in school my entire life, and if I were to get in next year, that would continue.
I recognize that this is a personal decision at the end of the day, so I'm not necessarily looking for people to tell me what to do. I moreso want to hear about what others may have done, or what their thought process may have been for living their lives between finishing undergrad and getting in. I interviewed with a lot of older applicants this past cycle, so I know ya'll are out there!

Hey guys! Recently I felt kinda stuck listening to the same songs over and over again with the Spotify recommendation feature, it can be good sometimes but often I feel stuck in the algorithm bubble. Also I felt like it really lacks the human connection that i always crave to find through music, I've always wanted to build genuine connections with people who share similar music taste as me!
So after I graduated college a while ago, i tried to solve these problems through creating an app called Dila!
Here's the link to the app! Dila: Connect Through Music
this is how a profile looks like! (profile pics will only show after matching)
So every day you get shown 3 profiles (refresh time is different for each timezone) and each profile consist of

• basic information (name, age, location)
• a piece of lyrics which represents them
• a carefully curated mixtape (5 songs playlist) , you get to play others' mixtape directly through Spotify or Apple Music within a click!
• if you both liked each others mixtape you get to further interact and unlock more information of others!(photos and bio)

I released this app a while ago and have been using it religiously myself, the feeling of discovering music and bonding over it just brings so much joy and warmth to me, and I have personally made so many genuine connections through the app!
I've been solo developing this app for a while after college, and don't really have the resource to promote this app. So if you like this app feel free to share it to your friends or on platforms like Twitter or IG. Thank you guys so much!
also feel free to give us suggestions through our discord! https://discord.com/invite/QSSNVjE7bZ

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Nervous_Ad8260 posting in AITAH
Ongoing as per OOP
Thanks to u/Separate_Kick3186 for finding this BORU
2 updates - Long
Original - 19th May 2024
Update - 20th May 2024
Update - 21st May 2024
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Aita for losing my shit on my husband on the day of his family reunion?
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I’m a 35 y.o f married to a 38 y.o. Man. We have been together for 10 years and have 2 children 9 and 5. My husband works very hard he has multiple jobs he works throughout the week. Recently we had a discussion about taking time off and spending some time together. It is difficult because of things in his past he accumulated a lot of debt which is why he works so much.
I work 60+hrs a week and take care of the household and childcare things while much of his income goes to paying his debts. I keep up with the household I do the house work, and lawn work, repairs etc and he contributes where he can. With in this year he has taken time off for family and co-worker events. He has scheduled time to take trips with his friends, and when he does so I’m the designated baby sitter.
Many days after he gets home he is responsible for his parents. He takes them grocery shopping fixes things at their household and does some of their housework. I forgot to mention he is one of 5 and all 4 siblings live close to his parental home. His parents assist in child care for his siblings but not for ours.
I’ve told him my frustrations of being consistently placed on the back burner. The other day I lost it, I found out he invited his family to our house for a family reunion last week. I thought he took time off of work and he didn’t. The house was a mess, and most of the mess is his. I was expected to clean the house, get the groceries, run the kids to their weekend events.
Start cooking and get the reunion set up as he set the time for 4pm the time he gets out of work. The kids are helpful in doing their chores and cleaning their rooms. I got the house clean and by the time his family started pouring in I was stewing as he was at work. He asked me why there weren’t any clean towels as he was going to take a shower and I freaked out in front of his whole family.
I ran down the list of how I am always on the back burner for “these people” how I am one person and I’m the one contributing to the household while he works just to pay off his debts, how I have no security or support in this relationship and that he is like having another child and that all I feel like I’m worth is an occasional fuck whenever he is in the mood. I let it all out.
I ended with im done, I packed a bag and I took off. I’m sat in a parking lot hysterical. And no the kids weren’t present they were outside playing. He is a good father to the kids but as a husband I feel like I am better off by myself. I have so much resentment towards him. And no he hasn’t called he texted me “loud and clear” which made me even more angry because THIS IS EXACTLY HOW HE DEALS WITH EVERYTHING! I’m now feeling like an asshole for going off and saying all I did especially in front of his family. Aita?
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VegetableBusiness897
Sooooo
Tell him to move in with his parents while he pays off his debt. That way he can care for them, hang with his friends, take the kids on the weekends and do whatever he wants to do with no consideration of you.
Then you can enjoy your home children and weekends to relax all with and one less giant child to care for.
And then when his debts are paid, you two can sit down and decide if the best course of action is separated lives.
NTA
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Top_Put1541
Seriously, his parents have been fine with exploiting you so they can benefit from the fruit of Sonny Boy’s life, they can have their defective son back.
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**Judgement - NTA*\*
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Update - 1 day later
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Update wow oh wow! Thank you all for all the advice, the kind words and some kick in the pants type of support. I came here to see if I was the asshole and was body slammed with a lot of harsh truths. I’m not going to lie, much of it was cathartic to hear that I’m not the asshole and it hurts to hear that I am being taken advantage of. So, here’s where I’m at.
After the “loud and clear” text I was bombarded with phone calls and texts from his family. I sent a message to my husband to give me some space and if he had any care for me and this relationship to call off his dogs. I put my phone on do not disturb with the exception of my children’s ipad. I had called my mother, sent her some money and she picked them up for a special grandma date/sleep over.
Once they were there I face timed them and told them I was working. I’m not working. I had a secret rainy day fund and splurged on a nice hotel and spa day, had a few drink, cried my eyes out some more and just spent the day unplugged and journaled all my feelings. (I haven’t had time to do any of that in a very long time). After that I mustered up the courage to open Reddit and read my fate and wow was I surprised! I was fully expecting a ton of “you ARE the asshole” comments.
To clear up a few things. I shamefully do not know the lengths of his debts, much of it was from his parents putting bills in his name, others is just mismanagement of money credit cards etc. I took over the finances after I found a letter in the mail saying that we were going to lose the house. I was contributing to the household bills at the time and he was doing the finances. I trusted things were well.
This was after marriage and after kids. We went to counseling because of it and he said he was ashamed and afraid to tell me the truth. I took over about 3 years ago and I told him to focus on clearing his debt and I’d hold the household down while he did. I did not expect it to take this long and with inflation everything has just become more expensive and that much more hard for me.
I was supposed to go back to school and that was put on hold so I could catch up on what we were behind, hence the working 60+ hours. Im a nurse and I work 12hr shifts and capitalize on overtime where I can. I agree with the comment saying im burnt out, I realized this today. I realized at work or at home im constantly in critical thinking care giver mode.
My job is to care and problem solve for everyone but myself. To clear up the comment of his family doesn’t watch our kids is because they did so one time and threw it in our faces and I said never again. I see how they use him, I have said something before and he returns with “one day they won’t be here and I’ll wish I could have done more.” I told him that’s fine but you have siblings that are equally responsible, some that don’t have spouses or kids that can contribute.
As far as the house and things go he does really help when he can (don’t jump on me I just want to be truthful) I think it came across that he comes home and does nothing, he just works up to 16 hours 7 days a week so a lot of times it’s me doing the majority of it. As far as the trips goes… yeah…. That’s a sore spot…He tells me about them, he takes the day off, it pisses me off.
I have to BEG for time and if and when we do get it we end up in a fight or I have to plan everything or we can’t get sitters and sit home and he sleeps all day. And to be honest I’m so full of resentment that it’s almost too little too late. Like when I’m around him I’m just so pissed off! He says I always have an attitude and that he’s trying but nothing is ever good enough.
So, I just stopped and accepted my fate, hence the blow up. I haven’t spoken to him yet besides telling him to call off his family, he was part of the dnd on my phone. I’m enjoying the peace, I’m enjoying being by myself, and just being present and aware of my feelings. Knowing my kids are safe and I can truly take some time for myself and my mental health right now is everything.
I know tomorrow I have to go back to reality and deal with everything. I promise to update when I can. I’m sorry to leave you all hanging if this isn’t the update you had hoped for. I just want to enjoy this escape a little while longer while I can before my world implodes. Thank you all and please keep the advice coming, I truly am alone on this one and need all the advice and support I can get.
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recyclopath_
Every single day he is lighting you on fire to keep his parents warm. It's a choice he is making. If he had his way he would have made your children homeless.
He won't even tell you the extent of the debts and you stayed with him. What the fuck are you doing?
How do you know he stopped over spending? How do you know his parents aren't taking out more debt in his name?
How can you trust him?
He won't even tell you the extent of the damage.
You are killing yourself for him. You are not able to be fully present for your children for him. He can't even be honest with you.
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Update - 1 day later
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Update Thank you all again for all the advice. I woke up this morning with a clear head. I’m still upset, and disappointed. I had tons of voicemails from his family, I don’t have the energy to listen through them all. I don’t care, like I said I’m angry but I also feel embarrassed.
I did call my husband this morning. I could tell by his voice he didn’t sleep last night and he confirmed that he in fact did not. He told me after the blow up he asked everyone to leave. He was surprised to see my mother as I sent her to pick up the kids. He said that’s when it really became real.
We had a long conversation. I did apologize for exploding and doing so when I did and not communicating better. He said he understands why I felt like I couldn’t and was actually glad it happened the way it did. His family finally got to see how much they affected his home. According to him, after I left he laid into them and told them that he can no longer be the only one to help his family out and that a lot of the mess he’s in is their fault. He said that after the blow up he told his siblings they need to step up and help with his parents.
His parents were obviously upset with the whole ordeal. I couldn’t care less to be honest. They couldn’t believe that they are “such a burden because they ask for a little help from time to time”. I just rolled my eyes in disgust as he was talking.
My new space along with my feelings of hurt and anger just let me speak all my truths. I had nothing left to give or lose so I told him how I felt about everything. He sat in silence for a while, then finally broke down and said he feels like a failure. He’s ashamed of the debt, and how much he has let us down. He said he was exhausted and has been feeling depressed because he couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel and feels as though he’s ruined our future. That he goes out with his friends to feel “normal and himself” because all he does is work. That he does this because of this black cloud that’s been hanging over him.
I wasn’t my best self in this moment and told him to save me the self pity it’s pathetic. That he got himself into this mess and I’m digging him out. I’m fucking depressed too, there’s a ton of shit I want to do that I can’t do because I’m financially unable to do so. I went off how over the past 3 years his income has gone solely to debt repayment yet there’s no end in sight, because I haven’t even seen the so called debt! I’ve given him my all and as much support as I could gather but I’m angry. This isn’t the life I pictured or set myself up for either. It’s not the life my kids deserve, Ive missed out on so much because I’m working or I’m cleaning or I’m just so tired I can’t even open my eyes. I told him he has no one to blame but himself.
I think my disdain was concerning. He said he will show and prove, that he will print out his credit report and list out all the debt he has along with all his pay stubs and bank records and the receipts of what’s paid off and whatever else I want as far as his finances are concerned. He promised me my hard work was not in vain and that he is almost debt free. Come to find out his parents opened credit cards and bills in his name when he was younger and accrued close to 100k of debt in his name, not including interest, they trashed his credit and that’s why it has taken so long.
According to him, he has been fighting with the collection companies to settle, trying to consolidate or get a lower interest as it was multiple companies and debts. What I didn’t know is some were so bad his wages were being garnished. He was in tears and said he didn’t know how to tell me, that he didn’t even know the extent of what they did. He was basically working all these hours with nothing to take home to us and accruing more debt just to survive. I stayed silent. My blood was boiling. He didn’t even realize he just helped me make my decision.
He jokingly said my outburst took care of the family situation and that is why he texted me “loud and clear” meaning he and they got the message I told him I didn’t find it funny. It’s a shame that it took an outburst from me for everyone to hear what I’ve been saying all along. That he’s an idiot for not filing charges on his parents and just taking it up the ass and allowing it to ruin my life and the children we created lives. I told him he’s apíñeles and I feel so stupid! He said he didn’t call me because he knew how mad I was and was scared he would say the wrong thing and say things just like that.
I thanked him for the honesty and the conversation and told him I am so broken angry and hurt right now that I can’t even pick up my pieces let alone his. Right now I need to clear my head. He said he’s willing to do whatever it takes to turn this around, he even suggested marriage counseling. He told me he used his PTO and took the rest of the week off to work on this. I lost it and sobbed uncontrollably. If it was that easy to take time off, why now and not then? I asked him why didn’t I matter before we got here? Why now? I told him he needs the time off to find counseling both personal and legal. That I won’t be coming home.
He asked me if I was serious, he begged me to rethink my decision. He said all the things I’ve been wanting to hear. He asked me where I was going to go, and what about the kids and the house and the bills. That I couldn’t tear the kids from the only home they know. I simply replied I know this is what needs to be done and I’ve already set the ball in motion. He hung up on me.
I cried then went to get the kids. We are going to have a wonderful week in a somewhat fancy hotel and swim in the pool and order room service and make some memories. I took some of the money I had saved in my rainy day fund and extended my hotel stay to include me and the kids. I have an awful lot to catch up on with them. The look on their faces when I said “no mommy doesn’t have to work tonight was priceless” I also have an appointment with legal consultants tomorrow. Hopefully I can talk to a lawyer and figure out what’s next. Wish me luck everyone and thanks again.
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make sure the lawyer knows what the debt situation is and try to get a credit report, make him send you the log in not just a screenshot so you can see his ENTIRE credit history. Show your lawyer which ones you indicted were fraud. 100k would put your kids through university, that's a house down payment! Not to mention interest!
He decided the family he came from is more important than the family he made with you so you're going to put yourself and your kids first now.
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Hello,
I was working on my naturalizacion paperwork with my lawyer, and we needed to provide some explanation for why I didn't register for selective service when I became a permanent resident. The system didn't let me register since I received my GC on a date close to my 26th birthday. My lawyer advised me to request a Selective Service Information Letter (SLI) to have as a proof for the application and future interview. When I got the SL, I learned that I was registered for selective service a long time ago when I was a fresh international student with a F1 visa. At this point, I didn't even have a social security number. I don't remember doing anything for registering at that time. Why would I have registered for this when I just got to the USA? Super strange. Anyways, this won't affect my naturalizacion application according to my lawyer, but I'm very curious how this happened.
Maybe my home county has a weird agreement with the USA if F1 visas are given?
Has this happened to you?
Thank you for your input!

Claiming that he had no idea that he was transphobic, or who he is. Even though he literally starts his interview asking him about the pronouns controversy and trans people reaction to it. He also had him twice! Like, who are you fooling? Perhaps the new fans who believe anything he says, especially the things he deleted.
Anyway, des anyone have the clip of when he blamed Moses? Thanks! 🙏

Hi guys so I don’t know if some of you saw or remember my post asking for help for my job interview and if you do thank you all for your help I got the job!! I have an onboarding session in about 2 weeks. I really appreciate all the help I received from you guys. So I told them on the phone call interview that my availability was everyday 9am-4pm (big mistake) and yesterday in the interview person interview I said 4 days a week and they asked if 9am to 4pm is still good and I said yeah. After talking with my parents, (I rely on them for transportation) the schedule I can work is Saturday-Tuesday 10am-3pm. I emailed the theatre email and the manager email? But the theatre email that I used was the same one I used to try to reschedule my interview and I had no response so im kind of worried. The email I used is the email he gave me during the interview though so I don’t know what to do. Also do you guys think that because of this schedule I’d have to work that they wouldn’t want me working for them anymore? Thanks for all the help guys I appreciate you all ❤️